That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding
Hoarding disorder is stigmatised and people who hoard feel vast amounts of shame. This podcast began life as an audio diary, an anonymous outlet for somebody with this weird condition. That Hoarder speaks about her experiences living with compulsive hoarding, she interviews therapists, academics, researchers, children of hoarders, professional organisers and influencers, and she shares insight and tips for others with the problem. Listened to by people who hoard as well as those who love them and those who work with them, Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder aims to shatter the stigma, share the truth and speak openly and...
Fri, April 11, 2025
#183 ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I chat with Carrie Lagerstedt, a professional home organiser specialising in working with neurodivergent people in New Zealand. Carrie, diagnosed with ADHD herself, shares insights on managing clutter and executive dysfunction by creating home systems that work for us. We challenge the very idea of laziness and explore the potential of “may as well”. Buy your copy at cambridge.org/EverythingHoarding , and get 20% off with the discount code HOARDING20. #ad Carrie's background and transition from teaching to organising Neurodivergence and Clutter Common issues linking neurodivergence with clutter Out of sight, out of mind Sensory overwhelm and its effect on executive functioning Challenges faced by those with executive dysfunction Carrie's Experience with ADHD Benefits of having ADHD when working with clients with similar challenges Building trust through lived experiences and understanding Moral neutrality and Organising KC Davis' influence on Carrie's philosophy Moral neutrality and functionality in organising Debunking the concept of laziness Challenges of living up to capitalist expectations Systems for Neurodivergent Individuals Making the home work for individuals Difference between aspirational thinking and functional changes Importance of practical systems over willpower Executive Functioning and Organisational Strategies Tools used to aid working memory and organisation (e.g., Post-its) Cognitive flexibility and overcoming 'all or nothing' thinking Understanding blocks and identifying actionable solutions Personal Experiences and Adjustments Personal stories and realisations regarding household tasks Impact of habituation and changing perspectives on tasks Tools and Hacks for Developing Systems Categorising as key to organisation Using visual reminders and structured systems
Bonus · Fri, April 04, 2025
REMIX: The emotional impact of emergency dehoarding
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Fri, March 28, 2025
#182 What are "towards and away moves" and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to unpack "towards moves" and "away moves" in the context of hoarding. These terms might sound unusual, but they're crucial for understanding behaviour in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and how they relate to our values. It's all about recognising whether our actions are leading us closer to what matters or pulling us further away, and we'll be exploring how to identify and pivot those choices. Introduction to Towards Moves and Away Moves Definition and explanation of the concept. The relevance of these moves in dealing with hoarding disorder. Initial thoughts on the impact of small actions. Examples in a Hoarding Context Away moves (e.g., keeping craft supplies, avoiding recognising chaos). Towards moves (e.g., donating supplies, acknowledging home environment issues). Explanation of how values influence these moves. Role of Values in Decision Making Importance of determining personal values. How values affect choices and provide motivation. Impact of materialism and societal pressures on values. Cognitive Fusion Explanation and examples of cognitive fusion. The effect of tightly held beliefs on reality and actions. Discussion of accuracy vs. helpfulness of thoughts. Flexibility vs. Rigidity and Perfectionism Psychological inflexibility and societal expectations. The struggle between personal values and societal pressures. The concept of emotional flexibility and its importance. Recognising Towards and Away Moves Strategies for acknowledging and reflecting on these moves. Importance of awareness in decision-making processes. Dopamine and Pleasure vs. Meaning The role of dopamine in pleasure and motivation. Discussion on short-term pleasure vs. long-term meaning. How these insights influence approach and avoidance behaviours. Making Changes and Addressing Moves Creating “if-then” plans to anticipate moves. Reflecting on decisions and their outcomes. Recognising patterns and using past experiences to guide future actions. Role of Helpers in Towards and Away Moves Identification and importance of helpers like goal setting and values clarification. Challenges faced by individuals with attentional defici
Fri, March 21, 2025
#181 Past influences and future possibilities: cause and effect and hoarding disorder (plus Podcasthon)
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Podcasthon Mind, the mental health charity Support Mind During a recent drive with a perfectly curated playlist, I had a revelation about cause and effect, particularly how our past behaviours and experiences contribute to both our challenges and our successes. I talk about having a compassionate understanding of how we've arrived at our current situation and how small, mindful actions today can shape a more positive future. The episode also features a discussion on Podcasthon and highlights the UK mental health charity Mind. Explanation of Podcasthon: A week where podcasts highlight a charity. Mind Charity: Focus on the mental health charity Mind in the UK. Audio Clip: Sharing a video of Mind's work, with a translation of a Welsh sentence. Cause and Effect Discussion Insight through Music: Personal anecdote about creating a playlist for a long drive. The role of personal actions in positive outcomes. Life and Hoarding: Exploring causes of both positive and negative outcomes in life. Factors influencing hoarding: Trauma, scarcity, and mental health challenges. Behaviour evolution: Hoarding behaviours becoming normal over time. Impact of Life Experiences Examining past experiences and their contributions to current behaviours. Considering past without judgment as a way to understand hoarding. Facing Reality Objective Assessment: Evaluating the current state of living conditions. Navigating feelings like anger, sadness, and bitterness. Future Implications Positive Actions: How they can shape a better future. Accountability and Responsibility: Recognising the impact of present actions.
Fri, March 14, 2025
#180 Arts and crafts and pretty, pretty things: artists, aesthetics and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to explore a fascinating angle on hoarding: its artistic side. We'll tackle the connection between creativity and hoarding, including why so many people who hoard are into arts and crafts, and diving into how people who hoard might view their possessions in an unusually aesthetic light. Jan shares insights from both clinical experience and research, offering a fresh perspective on the parallels between art and accumulation. Whether you're a creative type or just curious about the psychology behind collecting, this conversation will give you plenty to think about. Curiosity: Example of using curiosity to cope with pain. Gratitude: Using the Finch app to practice gratitude daily. Journaling: Imperfect journaling as a new approach to managing emotions. Arty, Crafty Side of Hoarding Trends seen in clients regarding art and hoarding The challenge of managing craft supplies in people who hoard Analysing Creativity and Hoarding Comparison to detectives and acute perception Consideration of feeling overlooked Struggles with Crafting and Perfectionism Challenges in starting and completing craft projects Study on Artists and Hoarding Traits shared by studio artists and people who hoard ADHD and executive dysfunction parallels Art and Beauty in Hoarding Tendency to keep beautiful things Struggles with displaying or appreciating collected items Analysis of Andy Warhol's Accumulation Discussion of Warhol’s collection as art vs. hoarding Socioeconomic and behavioural aspects of collecting vs. hoarding Aesthetics and Inclusion in Hoarding Discussion of under-inclusiveness in categorising objects Exploration of seeing beauty in ordinary objects Potential Neurodevelopmental Aspects of Hoarding Insights from MRI study Brain regions potentially linked to hoarding behaviours Using Art to Represent Hoarding Space Artists using clutter and hoarding as themes in art Questioning the nature of representing hoarding through art Fear of Sterile and Soulless Homes Addressing the fear that tidiness equals lack of personality Discussing clutter core and maximising aesthetic displays
Fri, March 07, 2025
#179 How hoarding behaviours develop and early intervention for hoarding disorder, with Dr Victoria Ruby-Granger
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm chatting with Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger, a psychologist at De Montfort University who has researched how hoarding behaviours develop and the potential for early intervention. We explore the importance of looking beyond physical clutter to understand what possessions mean for those with hoarding tendencies and discuss the role of trauma, loss and life transitions. Plus, we touch on the challenges and potential pathways for early intervention in children and young people. Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger's Path to Studying Hoarding Influence of TV programmes about hoarding. Curiosity about the development of hoarding behaviours. Research on Hoarding Behaviours and Childhood Discussion on hoarding behaviours beginning in childhood or adolescence. Experiences shared by research participants. Understanding 'Struggling to Manage' Explanation of the concept derived from research. Methods used by Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger in her research. Qualitative study and grounded theory methodology. Patterns of Hoarding Development Managing possessions and life. Emotional attachments and meanings of possessions. Impact of life transitions on hoarding behaviour. Overcoming Hoarding Challenges Importance of support beyond possessions Identity and functioning challenges for individuals with hoarding disorder. Early Intervention in Hoarding Difficulty in identifying people who need early intervention. Importance of awareness and understanding childhood behaviours. Diagnostic Criteria and Support Challenges Discussion on current diagnostic criteria for hoarding disorder. Difficulties in accessing support without a diagnosis. Potential Patterns and Findings in Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger's Research Emotional attachments and decision-making reluctance. Preferences for discarding possessions through certain methods. Advice for Parents about children showing hoarding behaviours Recommendations for parents of children displaying hoarding-related behaviours. Importance of communication and understanding the emotional meanings attached to items. Emphasis on trauma and loss in hoarding behaviours. Importance of understanding personal experiences in hoarding
Fri, February 28, 2025
#178 Growing up in a hoarded home: Sam’s story as the child of a Mum who hoards
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode I chat with Sam, who speaks movingly about growing up with a mother who hoards. Now 28, Sam reflects on the claustrophobic environment, the impact on their self-esteem and organisation, and the ongoing journey to rebuild a relationship with food, space, and self-worth. Whether you're a hoarder, the child of somebody who hoards, or you know someone who is, Sam's story offers a vital perspective on living through - and beyond - the hoard. Sam’s experience growing up in a hoarded home Importance of understanding perspectives of those affected by hoarding Sam’s Childhood Experience Description of upbringing in a hoarded home Emotional impact and feelings of claustrophobia and anxiety Lack of emotional and physical space Experiences of shame and comparison with peers Coping Mechanisms and Effects on Daily Life Sam's view of their home as an obstacle course Impact of hoarding on family relationships Lack of privacy and its influence on personal development Impact on Self-Esteem and Mental Health Struggle with self-esteem and self-care Connection between environment and depression Feelings of negativity and isolation School and Social Interactions Effect on academic performance and organisational skills Challenges in completing schoolwork Experiences with friends visiting the home and related anxieties Adolescence and Growing Awareness Anger and frustration during teenage years Lack of external intervention and support Missed opportunities for professional help External Perception and Professional Insight Outside family and societal perceptions of hoarding Drip-feeding experiences to others and feeling of overwhelming others Relationship with Food and Nutrition Negative perceptions of food due to spoiling and smells Ongoing struggle with eating certain foods, particularly fruit Rebuilding a relationship with food as an adult Leaving the Home and Independence Sam’s experience and decision to move out at 20 Challenges and processes involved in leaving the parental hoarded home Continued responsibilities in a second hoarded home Long-term Effects on Sam’s Adult Life Influence on career choice and support work with young care
Fri, February 21, 2025
#177 11 unexpected things this podcast has taught me about mistakes, life, perfectionism and progress
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I'm reflecting on 11 unexpected lessons I've picked up since starting this podcast, which go beyond just understanding hoarding disorder. From learning the power of showing progress rather than perfection, to discovering the benefits of stepping out of my comfort zone, I'll share insights that have influenced not just my journey with hoarding, but life as a whole. Let's see how the themes of mistakes, progress, and learning can apply to anyone seeking positive change. Importance of showing progress instead of aiming for perfection Personal struggle with early episodes and progression over time Decision to keep early episodes live as a reflection of journey and growth Examining Contradictions Realisation of contradictions in personal life versus podcasting Applying podcast editing philosophy to home tidying Capabilities and Achievements Realisation of being able to do things previously thought impossible Learning from incremental progress and its application to life Comfort Zones Exploring stepping outside of comfort zones The rewards of nudging the edges and expanding comfort zones slowly Learning and Growth Starting from minimal knowledge and continuously learning Academic engagement and gaining comprehensive understanding Sticking to a Routine Maintaining a consistent schedule and routine with the podcast Role of accountability and motivation in sticking to a routine Adaptability and Change Ability to learn, adapt, and tweak processes over time Application of flexibility learned from podcasting to personal life Community and Accountability Impact of accountability and community support on podcasting and life Building mutual support through interactions and feedback Facing Mistakes and Reality Embracing mistakes and authenticity rather than striving for flawlessness Shifting perspective on self-perceived failures Respect and Compassion from Others Receiving respect from guests and listeners despite personal doubts Impact on self-compassion and self-respect Transferability of Learning Applying lessons learned in podcasting to other areas of life Recognising that growth in one area can benefit others Reflections on the transformative i
Fri, February 14, 2025
#176 What to do with clothes when we lose or gain weight (with absolutely NO diet-culture talk!): practical tips for dealing with size fluctuations without clutter
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I talk about the practical challenges of handling clothes when losing or gaining weight, without promoting or criticising body size changes – this is a diet-culture free zone! I look at the emotional, nostalgic, and practical hurdles in letting go of clothes that no longer fit and offer advice on maintaining a well-balanced wardrobe while managing current size transitions. Like, what do we buy in our new size?! Plus, I'll provide practical tips on selling or donating old clothes and how to avoid over-accumulating in your new size. Handling Clothes When Gaining or Losing Weight Experience with Weight Fluctuation Emotional and Practical Challenges of Clothes That No Longer Fit Challenges of Discarding Clothes Emotional Attachment to Clothes Difficulty in Letting Go of Clothes with Memories or Associations Factors Influencing the Decision to Keep or Discard Clothes Potential Future Weight Fluctuations Emotional Attachments The Sunk Cost Fallacy Guilt About Waste Strategies for Managing Clothes When Weight Changes Building the Dehoarding Muscle Selling vs. Donating Clothes Setting Parameters for Clothing Storage Practical Solutions for Current Clothing Needs Shopping Your Own Stuff Gradual Replacement Strategy Mindful Purchasing Decisions The Liberating Aspects of Letting Go of Clothes
Fri, February 07, 2025
#175 Taking the scary first steps: the courage to call a professional organiser, with Jasmine Sleigh
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm joined by Jasmine Sleigh, professional declutterer, as we discuss the daunting first steps of reaching out for professional help in tackling hoarding. Jasmine shares insights into what prompts individuals to make that initial call and the courage it takes, alongside practical strategies for working with organisers. Tune in for a thoughtful conversation on overcoming fears and building trust for positive change in managing clutter. Inviting Professional Help Jasmine explains common motivators for people to seek help Specific incidents or realisations prompting action Example scenarios like misplaced items or repairs The Initial Call to a Professional Organiser What typically prompts the call for professional help Jasmine's perspective on admiration for those who reach out The importance of taking calls seriously and with empathy Engaging with Potential Clients Approach to initial conversations with potential clients Building trust and understanding the client's situation Establishing client needs and potential outcomes Assessing the Client’s Home How Jasmine gathers information about the client's home Importance of assessing without judgment Considering client interaction with their items and living space Professional Organiser-Client Dynamics Respecting clients’ preferences and leading decisions Balancing professional insight with client autonomy Working towards the client's goals and priorities Process from Inquiry to Working Together Steps from initial inquiry to in-home visit Managing client expectations and realities Ensuring client comfort and readiness In-Home Visit Experience Jasmine’s mindset and approach during a home visit Avoiding overwhelm and maintaining professionalism Logistical and emotional assessments of the client’s environment Judgment and Perception in the Decluttering Process Being conscious of non-verbal cues and judgments perceived by clients Strategies for maintaining client comfort and trust Determining Fit and Referrals Assessing fit between client and professional organiser Referring clients to other professionals when appropriate Dealing with Client Motivations and External Pressures <
Fri, January 31, 2025
#174 How to feel grounded when we're overwhelmed or dysregulated using ventral vagal spaces and touchstones, with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, Dr Jan Eppingstall and I explore how to create a ventral vagal space or touchstone to help us regulate our emotions, drawing inspiration from the work of Deb Dana and polyvagal theory. We look at how we can find or create areas within our home, and objects we can use on the go, that provide safety and connection, allowing us to feel grounded and manage overwhelming moments. We'll look at the emotional significance of objects, avoiding those that glower at us, and instead creating spaces filled with comfort and warmth. Creating Your Own Ventral Vagal Space Permission Slip segment Discussion about photographic portraits Emotions associated with the portraits Objects as Memories Significant memories vs. happy memories Harriet Impey's notion of "glowering" objects Emotional Impact of Objects Portraits as a reminder of insecurity Ventral Vagal Space Concept Use of Deb Dana's work in polyvagal theory Connection between emotional safety and physical space Explanation of Polyvagal Theory Breakdown of the nervous system's stages: ventral vagal, sympathetic, and dorsal vagal Relevance of Polyvagal Theory to Hoarding Trauma and its relation to object attachment Challenges of decision-making in a cluttered environment Deb Dana's Home Analogy - Comparison of home systems to body's autonomic systems Integration needed for a "full life" and connection Practical Application of Ventral Vagal Spaces Creating nourishing home spaces Abundance Importance of Touchstones Explanation and significance of touchstones Examples of personal or portable calming items Creating a Ventral Vagal Space or Touchstone Starting small by identifying objects that bring safety and contentment Using childhood memories to influence current safe spaces Applications and Benefits Using the space for emotional regulation Touchstones as portable reminders of safety Recognising objects that already serve as touchstones Importance of awareness and observation in identifying touchstones Utilising Resources for Grounding Examples of resources: lava lamps, messages, certain sounds Strategies for implementing these resources in daily life
Fri, January 24, 2025
#173 9 things that are working for me when tackling hoarding and over-acquiring right now
Sign up for the newsletter: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/newsletter Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I'm sharing nine strategies that are making a real difference in managing my hoarding behaviour and curbing over-acquiring right now. From tricks to overcome perfectionism and opening a daunting pile of letters to finding support in unexpected places and even leveraging a cute app, these tactics are moving me forward. Join me as I lay out what's working, in the hope it sparks a few ideas for you too. Opening 100 unopened letters Overcoming fear and procrastination Sorting coins and dealing with obsolete items Decision-making process in letting go Recognising dehoarding as self-kindness, not punishment Benefits of having a friend who knows the hoarding situation Managing perfectionism and doing things imperfectly Using the "hummingbird method" for tasks Introduction and use of the Finch app for self-care Using virtual assistants for task reminders Success with excessive mug collection and food cupboards Impact of the documentary "Buy Now" on purchasing habits Changing relationship with the inner critic Overcoming Mail Anxiety Milestone Kindness, Not Chore Embrace Imperfection for Future Growth Hands-Free Task Management Best-before dates at the start of the year Consumerism Documentary Curbing Instant Gratification
Fri, January 17, 2025
#172 Harriet Impey on clearing out her parents’ very full home, through family belongings and personal growth, in the film Where Dragons Live
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I chat with Harriet Impey about the complex process of clearing out her parents' cluttered house after their deaths. From unusual family rules to emotional ties with objects, we cover how Harriet navigated the challenges of sorting belongings, her family dynamics, and the personal growth she experienced along the way navigating emotional landscapes. We also talk about whether her parents hoarded and how their relationship with their stuff has affected her relationship with her stuff. Plus, we discuss the importance of letting go, embracing mindfulness, and the transformative power of therapy. Trailer: Where Dragons Live : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ARgzYZei8 Growing up in a cluttered house and realisation later in life Harriet's mother's attachment to objects and possible hoarding Influence of family habits on personal behaviour Relationships and Emotional Awareness Harriet's journey towards emotional awareness and accepting imperfections Importance of recognising complex feelings Managing fear of arguments and expressing anger Using Objects Instead of Saving Them Harriet's family preference for keeping items "too special to use" Transition to using these items with joy Family Dynamics and Emotional Suppression Differences in attitudes towards possessions among Harriet and her siblings Parents' contrasting approaches to objects Impact of her mother's anxiety on household rules and behavior Clearing Out Parents' Home Harriet's responsibility in sorting through parental belongings Emotional impact of dealing with deceased person's possessions Reference to "Swedish Death Cleaning" Importance of considerate item management Therapy and Self-Reflection Harriet's 20 years of therapy and its impact The influence of therapy on personal happiness and self-awareness Learning to be less rigid in life Managing and Letting Go of Belongings Evaluating the necessity of keeping certain belongings Mindfulness and Mental Health Mindful self-compassion and ACT The filming of "Where Dragons Live" The dual charm and burden of the family home Persona
Fri, January 10, 2025
#171 Hi Ren: How a song dramatically changed my approach to my inner critic
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-171-hi-ren-the-song-that-dramatically-changed-my-approach-to-my-inner-critic/ In this episode, I discuss Ren's song "Hi Ren," a mind-blowing exploration of inner conflict that blows apart ideas about the balance between darkness and light within us all. We'll unpack Ren's introspective lyrics, which explore themes like mental illness and creativity, and consider his take on life and what we can learn from it. I share how this song's impact has resonated with my own journey in dealing with grief and the inner critic. Watch the original song by Ren here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_nc1IVoMxc&pp=ygUGaGkgcmVu Impact of "Hi Ren" by Ren Gill on my life Relation to grief and managing the inner critic Themes of Strength and Hope Inner strength and resilience amidst challenges Inner Conflict Illness and psychological battles The pendulum metaphor, advocating acceptance Universal evil and inner conflict Dark side as defensive rather than malevolent Chaos and division as intrinsic parts of self Identification with 'hope' indicating a shift towards optimism Life as a Dance Complexity and humanity over supernatural perfection Episode contains sensitive topics including swearing, suicide, and mental distress Song Analysis Exploration of mental illness and creativity struggles Connection to personal inner critic experiences Dialogue between Ren's dark and light personas Discussion of inner conflict and personal growth Internal struggle about personal achievements Dark side's criticism of Ren’s insecurities Ren’s music achieving 43 million YouTube views Dark side as a symbol of temptation and negativity Host's parallel with personal inner critics Steve Chapman's TED talk on inner critics Emotional impact of "Hi Ren" song on the host Dark Ren attacks out of fear and insecurity. Inner critic misconstrues protection as help. Inner critic always undermines self-confidence, futile. Ren's song conveys hope's profound impact. Embrace change; it's an evolving balance. Struggling makes us human, imperfect
Bonus · Fri, January 03, 2025
REMIX: The Art of Letting Go: Navigating emotional clutter blocks with Tracy McCubbin
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Bonus · Fri, December 27, 2024
REMIX: ADHD, depression, autism, OCD, OCPD and more: Things that look like hoarding but aren't, with Dr Jan Eppingstall
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Fri, December 20, 2024
#170 Impermanence: radical acceptance in a world of change with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Get your 2025 decluttering inspo calendar: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Exploring impermanence, this episode highlights how these concepts can help us understand hoarding behaviours and the illusion of control. Looking at impermanence also includes addressing mindfulness, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, coping with change, ambiguity and uncertainty. Yikes! Embracing Impermanence Psychological benefits of impermanence Concept of "glimmers" Interplay between mindfulness and impermanence Fernández-Campos paper on non-judgmental attention Critique of commercial distortion of mindfulness Jon Kabat-Zinn’s definition of mindfulness Practical mindfulness exercises Mindfulness in Hoarding Context Psychological dimensions and security from possessions Environmental Responsibility vs. Hoarding Personal insights on waste and possessions Uncertainty, Ambiguity, and Impermanence in Hoarding Tolerance of uncertainty and ambiguity Embracing impermanence to reduce distress Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Hoarding Psychological flexibility and acceptance of constant change ACT's promotion of resilience Use of ACT and Compassion Focused Therapy Radical Acceptance Steps to practice radical acceptance Awareness and curiosity toward challenges Vocalising Thoughts and Journaling Benefits of speaking thoughts aloud Buddhist Concepts and Impermanence Awareness and acceptance in Buddhism Tara Brach’s qualities of awareness Personal Reflections on Change and Relationships Resisting and coming to terms with change "Permission Slip" Segment Concept of Control and Suffering in Hoarding Desire for permanence leading to hoarding behaviour Justifications for Keeping Items Avoiding unnecessary consumption Ethical decision-making when buying Increasing Awareness and Understanding Personal Motivations Promoting curiosity through being without something
Fri, December 13, 2024
#169 Compassion-focused therapy for grief and hoarding with Dr Chia-Ying Chou
Get your 2025 decluttering inspiration calendar: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I ask Dr Chia-Ying Chou about the complex interplay between grief and hoarding. We'll explore how emotions like grief can trigger hoarding behaviour, the role an inner critic plays, and learn all about compassion-focused therapy – including why it’s so much easier to offer compassion than to receive it. The timing is perfect, coinciding with National Grief Awareness Week in the UK. Grief and Hoarding Discussion Chia-Ying Chou discusses the non-direct link between grief and hoarding based on clinical experience. Factors such as resistance to grieving and avoiding vulnerability exacerbate hoarding. Grief can trigger hoarding behaviour to maintain a sense of control and avoid confronting loss. Host shares personal experiences of how grief intensified their hoarding behaviour. Grief and Possessions People keep deceased loved ones' belongings as a way to preserve their existence. Chou mentions the ambiguous preservation of loved ones through items. Anxiety and resistance to facing grief make organising or discarding possessions difficult. Complex Emotions in Grief Host reflects on the unexpected emotions in grief, like anger or impatience. Therapeutic Strategies for Grief and Hoarding Chou compares addressing resistance to grief to preparing for a challenging hike. Emphasis on resourcing, preparing mentally, and gathering support. Suggestions for a "baby-step" approach to facing fears and emotions. Inner Critic and Grief Host discusses journey with their inner critic and finding new approaches to handle it. Chou highlights how internal criticism is often related to grief and missed opportunities. Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) Integration of Western psychotherapy and Buddhist philosophy for addressing psychological challenges. Difficulty in receiving or directing compassion towards oneself. Connections Between Hoarding, Trauma, and Grief Patterns of loss, either tangible or intangible, among those who hoard. Episode ties with National Grief Awareness Week in the UK. Cultivating Compassionate Companions Idea of cultivating an imaginary
Fri, December 06, 2024
#168 Hoarding, healing, and the art of kintsugi with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
Get your 2025 decluttering inspiration calendar: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-168-hoarding-healing-and-the-art-of-kintsugi-with-dr-jan-eppingstall-of-stuffology/ Today, I'm with Dr Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor, about the fascinating art of kintsugi and how it connects with hoarding and trauma recovery. We explore how this Japanese tradition of mending broken pottery with gold has lessons for us about the therapeutic journey and the beauty in imperfection. We also discuss how these concepts apply to overcoming perfectionism in hoarding and highlight the empowering process of creating, destroying, and rebuilding. Introduction to Kintsugi and Dr. Jan Eppingstall Explanation of kintsugi as a Japanese art form of repairing objects with gold. Kintsugi and the connection to recovery from trauma. Kintsugi as a Metaphor for Healing Importance of acknowledging the process of healing without oversimplification. Reference to Amy Price's article about kintsugi symbolising care and time. Discussion of Tomas Navarro's book and the importance of action in healing. Psychological and Therapeutic Implications Metaphor in therapy for expressing complex emotions. Application of kintsugi philosophy in mental health contexts, including trauma recovery. Relation to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), acceptance, and resilience. The real-life application of acceptance and self-compassion. Creation, Destruction, and Rebuilding Create, destroy and recreate art as part of personal healing. Parallel with kintsugi in wabi sabi / finding beauty in imperfection. Personal Empowerment and Resilience Empowerment through courage and resilience using scars as a metaphor. Resonance with Leonard Cohen Idea of imperfection as a means for transformation. Contrasts with Modern Consumerism Kintsugi and wabi sabi's focus on the beauty of imperfection and impermanence. Reference to Beth Kempton's book on creating serene, beautiful spaces. Addressing Perfectionism and Hoarding Application of kintsugi principles to address perfectionism in hoarding. Explor
Fri, November 29, 2024
#167 10 experiments to customise your dehoarding habits so they suit YOU
Get your 2025 decluttering inspiration calendar: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I propose ten experiments to help customise your decluttering journey, focusing on individual preferences to uncover what strategies work best in your home. These experiments encourage a flexible approach to dehoarding. It's all about tailoring your methods to fit your style and your personality, ensuring that decluttering becomes a more intuitive and effective process. Approaching Tasks as Experiments Tasks viewed as experiments inspired by CBT Reduction of perfectionist pressure Emphasis on personal differences and no right or wrong answers Testing different time slots for tasks Effectiveness of beginning the day with decluttering "Swallowing the frog" concept Long-term goals vs. short-term goals for motivation Experimentation and Adjusting Over Time Periodic repetition of experiments to adapt to changes Use of structured time frames and spontaneous urges to declutter Experimenting with personal preferences for initiating action Options such as music, TV, silence, social interaction, or media consumption Use of podcast as motivational tool Upbeat music playlist Group accountability sessions via Zoom for shared motivation Productivity based on to-do list specificity Decluttering strategies: by space, type of item, or item within a space Handling Difficult Categories Approach to emotionally challenging items Tailoring strategy based on personal readiness Consistency in Dehoarding Short daily durations vs. longer weekly sessions Finding the best fit based on routine Time Constraints Setting strict vs. flexible schedules Combination of structured and spontaneous efforts Personalising Decluttering and Productivity Methods Focus on individual preferences and method effectiveness
Fri, November 22, 2024
#166 "Just-in-time shopping": Overcome fear-driven purchases, save money and space, and spend mindfully
Get your 2025 decluttering inspiration calendar http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I talk about the strategies I've been trying to address over-acquisition and manage my finances, from savings pots to practising 'just-in-time' shopping. I explain how these methods, alongside mindfully resisting impulse buys and more, are helping me reduce clutter. Personal Financial Management Dedicated accounts with savings pots for various expenses like glasses, car repairs, and gifts. Spending limits. Evaluating the necessity of purchases. Reflecting on past financial struggles. The tendency to overprepare due to fear of scarcity. The impact of hoarding on life, such as emotional pain from bereavements. The challenge of trusting that resources will be available when needed. Shopping Habits and Strategies Emphasising rationality in shopping. The "just in time" shopping approach to combat over-acquiring. Mindful shopping techniques Checking existing supplies before shopping. Using shopping lists with flexible categories. Resisting urge-driven purchases like discounts. Mindful Financial Practices Exploring alternative uses for money beyond impulse buys. Prioritising spending on quality experiences. Past Financial Hardship and Emotional Impact Past experiences of financial hardship leading to anxiety and hoarding. Reflecting on the emotional impact from periods like the COVID-19 pandemic. Personal Growth and Overcoming Beliefs Encouragement to try despite potential failures.
Fri, November 15, 2024
#165 Distraction-free idea capture: Transforming chaotic thought streams into actionable to-do lists
Get your 2025 decluttering calendar: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025 Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Avoiding the chaos of complex idea capture systems is vital for preventing distraction and overwhelm. Today, I'm sharing practical strategies for transitioning from idea capture to action, breaking down large tasks into manageable subtasks and exploring tools like Google Tasks and voice assistants for prioritisation and organisation. Plus, I reflect on my own long-term struggle with to-do lists and how to experiment with different approaches to find a system that suits your needs. Simplifying Idea Capture Avoid complex systems to prevent distraction and overwhelm. Focus on simple, streamlined methods for capturing ideas. Set dedicated idea capture times to minimise distractions. Organising Idea Capture Materials Ensure materials and tools are easily accessible. Utilise technology for effortless idea capture using voice assistants. Transitioning from Idea Capture to Action Prioritise tasks based on urgency, impact, or personal goals. Structure and prioritise tasks. Break down large tasks into smaller, manageable subtasks. Combining Digital and Non-Digital Methods Use written to-do lists to complement digital systems for immediate tasks. Essential Elements for an Effective System Thinker's Notebook's five elements: omnipresence, efficiency, organisation, security, and offline thinking. Exploring Digital and Non-Digital Tools Popular digital tools: Evernote, OneNote, ToodleDo, Todoist, Trello, Taiga.io, Google Calendar, Outlook Calendar, Google Tasks. Non-digital methods: scraps of paper, notebooks, preprinted planners, bullet journals, mind maps. Personalising the Capture Method Importance of selecting a method suited to personal preferences and technical comfort level. Experimentation with different approaches. Two-Step Strategy for Idea Capture Combine digital or portable capture methods with comprehensive home organisation tools. Mind Mapping for Subtasks Use mind maps to break down tasks, providing a visual representation. Realistic Time Management Decide on timings based on deadlines and personal flexibility. Visual Task Management Tra
Fri, November 08, 2024
#164 Digital hoarding and digital clutter with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall, a counsellor with a PhD in hoarding, to discuss the phenomenon of digital hoarding, where people accumulate excessive digital items. We'll explore the emotional responses to losing digital content, the organisational and environmental implications of digital clutter, and strategies for managing our ever-growing digital lives. From the nostalgic pull of old photos to the overwhelming influx of emails, this conversation reveals the surprising similarities between physical and digital hoarding. Introduction to Digital Hoarding Definition of digital hoarding Comparison with physical hoarding, highlighting similar stress, anxiety, and attachment. Emotional Responses to Digital Loss Non-hoarders experiencing emotions like anger and anxiety over losing digital items. Technological Advancements and Digital Storage The proliferation of digital content creation, especially digital photos. Impact of technology on creating and storing digital content. Historical context of storage limitations versus current capabilities. Broader Implications of Digital Hoarding Extending beyond photos and videos to emails, subscriptions, and digital accounts. Cybersecurity risks and financial costs associated with digital hoarding. Reasons we retain digital content. Emotional Attachment and Digital Data Emotional ties to digital items like photos and documents. Reflecting identity and memory triggers in digital possessions. Digital Organisation Strategies Host's impeccably organised digital life contrasted with a cluttered home. Tiago Forte's PARA method for prioritising digital items. Inbox Zero and maintaining an organised email setup. Challenges of Digital Clutter Volume over efficiency: issues accessing necessary information despite organised files. Parallels between digital and physical hoarding behaviours. Digital Inefficiency and Environmental Impact Wasted time, reduced focus, and productivity issues due to digital clutter. Significant carbon footprint of data centres and environmental concerns. Strategies for Managing Digital Clutter Reducing digital intake by unsubscribing from unnecessary emails and content. Advice on stopping excessive bookmarking
Fri, November 01, 2024
#163 The Lazy Genius approach to planning, productivity and prioritising, with Kendra Adachi
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode of That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding podcast, I'm joined by Kendra Adachi, author of "The Plan, Manage Your Time Like a Lazy Genius," as we explore self-compassion and realistic productivity. We'll discuss cultural differences in self-trust, the pitfalls of traditional planning, and how small, manageable steps can lead to meaningful progress. Kendra's insights challenge societal expectations and underscore the importance of kindness and contentment in our daily lives. Self-Trust and Societal Influences Cultural differences in self-trust between men and women Women's challenges with self-trust Understanding systemic influences Encouragement of kindness and acceptance towards oneself Societal Expectations and Productivity Pressure Critique of the "hustle" culture and pressure for excellence Contentment as opposed to constant optimisation Kindness to oneself as an alternative to relentless improvement Resistance to the idea of contentment Contentment and Self-Compassion Contentment not the same as giving up Defining contentment as awareness and appreciation of the present Self-compassion as a holistic life perspective Contentment and making mistakes Hoarding and Mindset Shifts Problem with future-focused thinking Importance of prioritising what matters to us Shifting mindset towards valuing fewer things and creating space Kinder approach to oneself and questioning what we have lose by trying contentment Integration vs. Greatness Embracing integration over achieving greatness Honouring emotions and practicing self-kindness Goal setting challenges and adopting flexible approaches Shrinking priorities to manage overwhelm Planning and Productivity Challenges Discussion on why many struggle with planning and productivity Unrealistic expectations from productivity experts Internalisation of failure for unmet expectations Disparity in authorship vs. readership of time management books The Lazy Genius Way and Practical Strategies Introduction to concepts from "The Lazy Genius Way" Principles of "going in the right order" (naming what matters, calming the chaos, trusting oneself) Encouragement of smaller, manageable steps Pote
Fri, October 25, 2024
#162 From Fibble to Focus: Defibble your executive dysfunction with Jo Cavalot
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I chat with Jo Cavalot, a compassionate inquiry practitioner and coach, about tackling executive dysfunction through a unique concept called "fibble", designed to help those struggling with focus and organisation. Jo shares her insights into treating internal parts with kindness, her own journey of recovery, and how she co-created Fibble as a tool to understand and manage executive function challenges. We explore the importance of personalised support in overcoming obstacles, and Jo offers a special discount for listeners interested in her work. Importance of a compassionate approach Internal family systems and parts work. Viewing internal parts as friends with individual needs. Differentiating exploratory sessions from physical organisation tasks. Executive Dysfunction and 'Fibble' Concept Challenges of executive dysfunction, specifically among people who hoard. Use of the 'fibble' acronym: Frustrated, Inadequate, Baffled, Befuddled, Lacking, and Exhausted. Fibble as a practical tool Jo Cavalot's experience with alcoholism Parallel between Jo's alcohol experience and hoarding. Emotional challenges and non-linear nature of recovery. Emphasis on self-awareness and self-compassion. Jo's significant life changes, like moving to Spain and involvement in the Camino de Santiago. Motivation through personal recovery and organisational skills. Involvement and motivation in Hoarding Disorders UK. Compassionate Inquiry, Based on Dr. Gabor Mate's work, focusing on trauma's impact. Positive impacts on clients with hoarding behaviours and related trauma. Key Challenges and Strengths in Addressing Organisation Common challenges: sustained attention, organisation, self-activation, planning, and prioritising. Creative problem-solving as a strength. Flexible thinking and stress tolerance. Use of a questionnaire assessing executive functioning across environments. Understanding and leveraging diverse personal strengths. Varying self-activation for personal vs. others' tasks. Goal Setting and Personalisation Personalised tools over generic advice. Introduction of the Ikigai concept in goal setting. Use of the fibble questionnaire for personal assessment and support. Understanding and Addressin
Fri, October 18, 2024
#161 Addressing shame with creativity: dancing with your inner critic with artist Steve Chapman
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I’m joined by Steve Chapman, an artist and coach, to talk about working creatively with your inner critic. We talk about understanding this inner voice as a misguided protector rather than an enemy and explore creative approaches like drawing or dancing with your critic to better engage with it. However sceptical you may be about it, listen to us talk about finding compassion for that voice in your head and how art can be a therapeutic ally in your journey. Even if, like me, you cannot draw! Steve Chapman: artist, writer, speaker, coach, with a background in Gestalt psychology, improv theatre, coaching, and art therapy. Discussion on creativity, imperfection, being stuck, shame, and the inner critic. Struggles with a harsh inner critic for years. Perspective shift influenced by the song "Hi Ren" Insights on the Inner Critic Inner critics act as misguided protectors from early childhood. An approach to understand inner critics rather than fight them. Creative Approach to the Inner Critic Drawing or creative engagement to externalise and personify the inner critic. Small creative experiments to better understand the inner critic. The therapeutic nature of experimenting with art. Inner Critic & Self-Compassion Developing a compassionate relationship with the inner critic. Thich Nhat Hanh on nurturing inner energy. Dealing with worry through acceptance and self-compassion. Art as a method to engage with emotions and inner critic Resonates with others and serves as a therapeutic tool. Shame & Vulnerability Shame thrives in secrecy; exposing it diminishes its power. Importance of bringing shame to light as discussed by Brene Brown. Comfort and Discomfort Finding a balance between comfort and distress. Advocates for taking small steps toward addressing discomfort. Discussing mental health openly demonstrates personal growth and reduced stigma. Working with different materials for creative exploration. Workshops begin without set goals to allow creativity to flourish. Dealing with Inner Critics Awareness of inner critics as part of being human and lifelong process. Engaging with the inner critic in a playful rather than adversarial way. Therapeutic Work and Community Support</
Fri, October 11, 2024
#160 Dehoarding with the seasons: get inspired by nature when everything is overwhelming
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I explore how the change of seasons can inspire and motivate dehoarding efforts, with autumn in the northern hemisphere and spring in the southern hemisphere being upon us. Drawing on traditions like harvest festivals and spring cleaning, we'll discuss how nature’s rhythms can support our journey toward a more organised home. Plus, personal insights on managing the emotional challenges of letting go and tips for embracing seasonal transitions as opportunities for growth. Seasonal Influence on Dehoarding Autumn Motivation Mixed feelings: beauty vs. precursor to winter Harvest festivals: gratitude and inspiration for giving and decluttering Nesting instincts as a motivational tool for organizing Spring Motivation Symbolism of renewal and hope Growth and change as motivators for overcoming hoarding disorder Spring cleaning tradition as an opportunity for new beginnings Emotional Aspects of Decluttering Acknowledge and understand feelings like overwhelm, anxiety, confusion, and fear Use emotions to gain self-insight and understand attachment to items Seek support from therapists, friends, family, or professional organisers Practical Steps for Dehoarding Assess possessions when transitioning between seasons Evaluate practical use of items like blankets and coats Decluttering inspired by seasonal changes Focus on small areas to avoid overwhelm Small, consistent changes over dramatic ones Set realistic goals for home improvements by New Year Community and Support Engage in dehoarding accountability sessions for communal support Donating items to reduce unnecessary storage Assess what you want for your home as the year end approaches Aiming for improvement, maintenance, or worsened state? Set intentions Walking, observing nature, and journaling Creating Rituals and Redefining Comfort Suggest creating rituals in tune with seasonal changes to aid decluttering Redefine comfort by reducing clutter rather than accumulating more Highlight the importance of a comfortable, decluttered space for winter
Fri, October 04, 2024
#159 Just because we want it doesn't mean we have to have it
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ On this episode, I share my experience from being a guest on Death, Sex & Money with Anna Sale. Then I dig into the idea of wanting things but still choosing not to have them and how it applies to various aspects of life, especially for those of us dealing with hoarding disorder. I’ll discuss how the disorder can distort our perception of items, leading to irrational attachments. I look at how desires often change over time, the unhealthy attachments formed for identity, comfort, or security, and how fear of regret can hinder the decluttering process. Choosing Not to Have Desired Items Distortion of item perception in hoarding disorder Temporary nature of desires Safety and clutter concerns Emotional and Irrational Attachments Understanding and challenging emotional attachments Exploring reasons for keeping or acquiring items Addressing “irrational” beliefs Dealing with fear of regret Joy from finding things often surpasses regret (Jasmine Sleigh's insight) Managing regret is possible Decision-making with clutter in mind Not Retaining Items for Others It's not our responsibility to keep items for others Prioritising personal and familial well-being Setting boundaries regarding others' potential desires Feeling loss, fear, sadness, and nostalgia Acknowledgment and validation of these feelings Communicating fears and emotions Recognising and challenging irrational thoughts and feelings Celebrating small victories without adding more clutter Liberation and freedom from letting go Misinterpreting laziness as anxiety Anxious sloth and decreased productivity
Fri, September 27, 2024
#158 What does "trauma-informed" mean when it comes to hoarding? With Dr Jan Eppingstall
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today’s episode, I’m chatting with Dr. Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor, about what it means to take a trauma-informed approach to hoarding disorder. Stick around as we break down why understanding trauma is crucial for effective support and treatment. Trauma-informed approaches to understanding and treating hoarding Importance of understanding trauma's impact Concerns about wellbeing inquiries without adequate support preparation Collaboration in Trauma-Informed Care Practical Implementation for Non-Therapy Roles** Incorporate trauma-informed principles Sensitivity to potential triggers Misconceptions and Communication Fear factor surrounding trauma and its treatment Detailed trauma disclosure unnecessary for effective support Client Autonomy and Professional Boundaries Respecting clients' communication preferences Retraumatisation in Hoarding Harm of forced clearances and strangers touching possessions Negative impact of language and actions on hoarders Respectful Support Practices Building Trust Importance of building trust before intervening in a hoarder's space Ensuring professionals genuinely practice trauma-informed care Over-explaining as a stress response Broad approach of trauma-informed care Factors influencing trauma perception Trauma Definition Trauma and Hoarding Commonality of trauma in hoarding histories A supportive framework rather than a treatment model Five Pillars of Trauma-Informed Care Assuming trauma backgrounds in hoarding behaviour clients Loss of Control in Trauma Trauma involves loss of control; care pillars help restore it Tracking and managing nervous system responses Importance of recognising client-specific signs Term misuse by minimally trauma-informed trained professionals Dangers of Misleading Trauma Informed Claims Proper understanding of trauma to avoid harm Non-therapists adopting trauma-informed principles Importance of feeling present and calm during therapy Teaching clients to feel safe and grounded Clear Boundaries in Therapy Trauma Types and Responses** Variability of trauma Explanation of retraumatisation Managing Retraumatisat
Fri, September 20, 2024
#157 Dehoarding dilemmas: Swallow the frog or save the worst til last?
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I look at two major – and opposing – strategies for dehoarding: "swallow the frog," where you handle the toughest task first, and "save the worst till last," which focuses on building confidence with easier tasks. I'll discuss the benefits and drawbacks of each approach and offer tips for blending them to fit your unique needs. Join to learn how to break down the overwhelming task of dehoarding into manageable steps. Swallowing the Frog Best when preventing access to essential areas (e.g., cooker, bath). Tackling tough tasks first can improve home functionality and reduce stress. Saving the Worst Till the Last Building confidence in dehoarding. Tasks that are emotionally charged but less visibly impactful (e.g., old photos). Utilising both approaches based on emotional resilience and situational needs. Experimentation with both strategies. Reflect on personality and typical approaches to difficult tasks. Planning strategies based on task suitability and personal motivation. Curiosity and trying different methods. Observing outcomes and refining methods. Balancing approaches for optimal dehoarding progress. Embracing flexible planning and adjusting as needed. Breaking Down Tasks Breaking tasks into smaller, manageable steps. Working for shorter, focused periods with breaks to prevent burnout. Building Confidence Addressing easier tasks first to build capability for more challenging tasks. Sorting manageable items before tackling emotionally difficult possessions. Mixing both "Swallow the Frog" and "Save the Worst Till Last" strategies. Examination of the psychological impact of task management. Discussing mental barriers, procrastination, and overwhelm. Emphasis on efficiency and making progress to avoid demoralisation. Strategies to manage overwhelming dehoarding tasks Identifying the "frog." Two opposite strategies for handling hard tasks. Resolve tasks early to minimise stress and discomfort. Breaking tasks into smaller chunks mitigates overwhelming discouragement. Starting with easier tasks provides steady motivation. Procrastination perpetuates stress from avoiding major tasks. Ease into dehoarding with manageable tasks first. Try both ap
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#156 Identifying the shopping triggers that create our urge to impulse buy
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-156-identifying-the-shopping-triggers-that-create-our-urge-to-impulse-buy/ In today's episode, I’ll help you identify the triggers that make us want to acquire stuff and how to use that knowledge to combat the urges to buy impulsively. We’ll explore practical strategies like observing urges, delaying reactions, and using distractions to curb impulsive buying. Plus, we’ll uncover the deeper emotional and environmental triggers that drive compulsive shopping and how to address them. Emotional Triggers Identifying emotional triggers like stress, sadness, boredom, and anxiety. Understanding the role of dopamine in shopping behaviours. Recognising the temporary distraction of shopping from negative emotions. Environmental Triggers Discussing how shopping environments stimulate purchases through strategic design. Marketing tactics designed to exploit spending prompts. Ecommerce Optimisation Strategies ecommerce websites use to maximise purchases. Seamless and tempting buying experiences. Ease of Access The convenience and immediacy of online shopping. Encouraging impulsive purchases through immediate gratification. Social Triggers The influence of peer pressure, FOMO, and social validation. Buying to fit in or earn social approval. Self-Reflection and Values Evaluating whether purchases align with personal values. Seeking meaningful praise beyond materialistic validation. Journaling as a Tool Identifying and understanding personal triggers through journaling. Noting emotions, activities, and feelings before and after purchases. Pattern Identification Analysing journal entries to identify shopping patterns and triggers. Behaviour Change and Avoidance Adjusting behaviour to avoid known triggers. Implementing stress management techniques to handle stress-induced shopping. Mindfulness for Identifying Triggers Encouraging presence and consciousness in the moment. Observing sensations, thoughts, and feelings without judgment. Enhancing self-awareness for deliberate actions. Observing Urges Acknowledgment of the urge to buy and sitting with it. Comparing urges to waves – they rise a
Fri, September 06, 2024
#155 Self-stigma and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, Dr. Jan Eppingstall and I are exploring the impact of self-stigma and societal responsibility in hoarding. We look in depth at stigma and how it affects individuals with mental health conditions, especially hoarding disorder, and how self-stigma can damage us and prevent us from seeking help. Plus, we introduce a new segment — "permission slip". Stay tuned for some outtakes at the end! Impact of Public Stigma and Self-Stigma Dr. Jan Eppingstall explains public stigma, including stereotypes, prejudice, and discrimination Key facets of public stigma: difference, disdain, and blame Understanding Self-Stigma and Public Stigma How stereotypes can affect self-stigma, using people's reactions to TV shows as an example The implications of self-stigma, including low self-esteem, hopelessness, and reluctance to seek treatment The interlinking of public stigma, self-stigma, shame, and self-consciousness, as well as self-blame and the impact of self-stigma on seeking help Variation in mental illness stereotypes by disorder Introduction of the "permission slip" segment Discussion on the compulsion to keep things and the completionist mindset Influence of Socioeconomic Status on Mental Illness Stigma Conversation about the perception of hoarding based on socioeconomic status and the value of items being kept Comparison of hoarding in different contexts: ample space and financial means versus living in a cramped environment Impact of space and wealth on hoarding, highlighted through a documentary about Celine Dion and her extensive costume collection Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) in Addressing Self-Stigma Dr. Eppingstall outlines the ACT approach, focusing on personal values and psychoeducation on relational frame theory to address self-stigma Cognitive behavioural therapy techniques like reframing and peer support groups to combat self-stigma, as well as radical acceptance through a 10-step process Influence of Cultural Beliefs and Social Factors on Stigma Discussion of the influence of cultural beliefs on mental illness stigma, including the impact of social factors on self-stigmatisation Protective factors against self-stigmatisation: quality of life, social relationships, and cultural acceptance of mental illness The impact of societal influences on self-stigma and
Fri, August 30, 2024
#154 We don't need to love it. We just need to do it.
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-154-we-dont-need-to-love-it-we-just-need-to-do-it/ Today, I explore the reality of dehoarding. From the thrilling sense of accomplishment to the mundane, hard, and sometimes emotionally difficult aspects, I cover it all. Join me as I discuss the ups and downs of the journey and why loving the process isn't a requirement - getting it done is what counts. The Importance of Persistence and Commitment in Dehoarding The need to keep going even when it's not thrilling or empowering Embracing the mundane and boring aspects of dehoarding Understanding that progress is more important than loving every moment of the process Recognising that dehoarding can include both rewarding and difficult experiences Using reminders of the end goal to cope with the challenging days Compassion and Self-Care in the Dehoarding Process Embracing self-compassion during difficult dehoarding days Utilising self-care practices as a way to cope with the process Understanding the importance of acknowledging and validating difficult experiences Acknowledging the necessity of perseverance and consistent effort in dehoarding Coping with Mundane and Monotonous Aspects of Dehoarding Recognising the importance of routine in the dehoarding process Strategies and techniques to cope with monotony and boring tasks Understanding the difference between emotional highs and lows, and coping with routine tasks Utilising rewards and mindful strategies to cope with tedious dehoarding tasks Redefining Success in Dehoarding Understanding that success is measured by effort, home improvement, and personal pride Acknowledging that dehoarding progress is not always thrilling or enjoyable Embracing that progress is still progress, regardless of its size or level of excitement Challenging unrealistic expectations set by influencers and social media about dehoarding Action and Commitment Despite Feelings Towards Dehoarding Encouragement to take at least one step in the right direction, regardless of loving the process Embracing the idea that it's okay not to love dehoarding every minute Recognising that commitment to dehoarding is a significant achievement in itself Affirming the capability to create a space one feels at ho
Fri, August 23, 2024
#153 Making a noticeable difference: Master the 80/20 rule to tame your hoarding habits
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I look at how the Pareto Principle, also known as the 80/20 rule, can revolutionise our approach to decluttering. I discuss how focusing on the 20% of our possessions that cause 80% of our problems can lead to more impactful change with less effort, and how identifying the 20% of tasks that show the biggest results can help us to manage our energy and make visible progress. Join me as I break down this principle and explore how it can transform our mindset and approach to dehoarding. Introduction to the Pareto Principle Explanation of the Pareto Principle or the 80/20 rule Relevance of the Pareto Principle to hoarding and home management Impact of focusing on the 20% causing the most problems Identifying Impactful Tasks and Items The impact of expending energy on low-level tasks Importance of prioritising impactful tasks for noticeable change Making a dent in belongings by focusing on impactful items Brief history of Vilfredo Pareto and his observation Various contexts where the Pareto Principle is seen to apply Validation of the principle in different areas Applying the Pareto Principle to Your Home Strategic thinking in identifying items causing disruption Identifying 20% of belongings used most often Energy expenditure and impact of dehoarding actions Emotional Attachment & Rational Decision Making Emotional connection to belongings Encouraging rational assessment of belongings' value The role of emotions in retaining or discarding items Reassessing and Ongoing Vigilance Need for ongoing reassessment as space is cleared Importance of reassessing the 20% causing problems Frequency of reassessment and calibrating belongings Reflecting on the impact of the 80/20 rule in home management Pareto principle for hoarders. Pareto principle: 20% effort, 80% results. Reframe, prioritise, and declutter for efficient living. Identify essential items, discard unnecessary possessions strategically. Identify unnecessary items to make life easier. Reevaluate possessions and focus energy efficiently. Use the Pareto principle to focus on tasks with high impact. Identify and declutter items for a noticeable ease in daily life; use the 80/20 rule for organising and resolving space i
Fri, August 16, 2024
#152 Unpacking Aesop: Misunderstood lessons from The Tortoise and the Hare on hoarding
I look at an old fable from when I was little and how I’ve changed my view on it completely. And, of course, how it relates to hoarding – and dehoarding. Acknowledging reaching 250,000 downloads for the podcast Dehoarding fast vs. slow and steady approach The benefits of dehoarding fast Getting a lot done in a short time Responding to emergency situations Harnessing sudden bursts of motivation The risks of dehoarding fast Burnout Impracticality of sustaining a fast pace in the long term Emphasising the importance of finding a balance between fast and slow dehoarding Acknowledging the benefits and drawbacks of both approaches The significance of Aesop's fable "The Hare and the Tortoise" Initial scepticism about the fable Understanding the importance of perseverance and consistency over speed Drawing parallels between the fable and dehoarding Primary Topic: Slow and steady work for dehoarding Sustained approach for dehoarding the entire home Making habits or new behaviours stick and become habitual Enhancing slow progress with focus and documentation Achieving objective progress through slow and steady work Suitability for long-term planning and sustainable change in behaviours and beliefs Riding the wave when the urge to throw into action arises Recognising when to work fast Potential drawbacks leading to complacency or exhaustion Balancing fast and slow dehoarding approaches Finding a balance for effective and sustainable progress Avoiding the pitfalls of extremes in dehoarding approaches Fast action can be encouraging and valuable. Sustainable pace fosters effective dehoarding. Slow, steady progress towards a liveable home.
Fri, August 09, 2024
#151 An amnesty on discarding guilt - is it possible? With Dr Jan Eppingstall
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Dr Jan Eppingstall has had an idea, and it is as revolutionary as it is terrifying. We talk about it! Shifting focus from individual items to the bigger picture Creating a guilt-free zone for a limited time to honour values and experience more joy and fun in the future Putting aside certain values temporarily to create better conditions for the future Introduction of the concept of "household equilibrium" Understanding the emotional attachment to possessions based on lived experiences Behavioural and Emotional Aspects of Discarding Items Reluctance to discard out-of-date food due to guilt and fear of waste Emotional connection to possessions and the importance of using them Encouraging the usage and enjoyment of possessions Trauma-focused approach to discarding clutter Coping with the guilt and shame around wastefulness Making difficult decisions about discarding items Exposure to letting go and small, less risky decluttering tasks Letting go of controlling outcomes and focusing on wellbeing over perfect disposal Starting with low-risk categories when decluttering, such as wrapping paper Prove that terrible things do not happen when decluttering The importance of proportionality in the decluttering process Children's Belongings and Autonomy in Decluttering Clear guidelines for disposing of belongings that are not yours Contacting owners to collect items, especially for children's belongings Revisiting keepsakes periodically to reassess their importance Respecting children's decisions about their belongings Navigating the decluttering process with understanding and sensitivity Creating a Safe and Comfortable Living Environment Implementing an amnesty on existing rules and guidelines Suspending the acquisition of new items to keep the space in equilibrium Allowing space for new interests and hobbies to enter one's life without guilt Desire for perfection leads to unnecessary clutter. Temporary pause for a more balanced life. Stay safe and open to new experiences. Encouraging use of gorgeous clothes in daily life. Helping people cope with guilt and clutter to prioritise their well-being. Desire for perfection in decision making and finding balance. Some people value fr
Fri, August 02, 2024
#150 13 pieces of terrible hoarding advice you're sick of hearing
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ It’s the 150th episode, and I’ve got a special one for you. I’m tackling the 13 pieces of hoarding advice that you're really tired of hearing, and I’m hitting them head on! We've all been on the receiving end of well-meaning but utterly unhelpful advice when it comes to hoarding. From "just get rid of it" to "you're being lazy"… the list goes on. They may seem harmless, but they often overlook the emotional complexities and serious mental health challenges faced by people who hoard. Most importantly, I explain why these pieces of advice do more harm than good. Oversimplified solutions just won't cut it when it comes to overcoming hoarding disorder. Terrible Hoarding Advice "Just get rid of it" underestimates the emotional attachment Emotional attachment to possessions Overwhelming nature of such advice "It's just stuff" overlooks the significance of possessions The significance of possessions to hoarders Dismissal of the emotional connection to items "Get rid of things that don't spark joy" oversimplified and doesn't consider complexities Oversimplification of the decluttering process Failure to recognise the complexities of hoarding disorder Blaming hoarders for being lazy, weak, or selfish is not helpful Stress and shame reinforcement The impact of negative reinforcement on mental health Telling hoarders to be embarrassed or ashamed is counterproductive Exacerbation of hoarding tendencies Implications for mental health and stigma "Just get a skip" advice may create time pressure, anxiety, and public display Pressure and anxiety for hoarders Public display of possessions and potential distress Cleaning up a hoarder's space without consent creates mistrust and anxiety Impact on trust and mental well-being Reinforcement of trauma responses Suggesting to sell or have a yard/car boot sale oversimplifies things Complexity of hoarding disorder Dismissal of mental health issues Decluttering advice of doing one room a day or week underestimates the difficulty Emotional challenges of decision-making Complexity of hoarding disorder Three piles for keep, give away, and throw away is not effective as stand-alone advice Emotional attachment and decision-making Complexity of decluttering for hoarders
Fri, July 26, 2024
#149 ADHD, hoarding and clutter with Susie Boutal, ADHD and Declutter Coach
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Susie Boutal is a qualified ADHD coach and decluttering expert. She joins me to talk about the intersection of ADHD, hoarding, and clutter. Susie shares valuable insights for anyone dealing with ADHD and hoarding. We cover the myth of laziness, the importance of open communication in relationships, managing hoarding behaviour, the impact of self-talk, and the influence of past experiences on self-perception and the responsibility to yourself and others in managing living spaces. Join us as we navigate the complexities of decluttering and hoarding with compassion and empathy, and gain valuable advice from Susie on nurturing a kinder inner dialogue. Negotiations and Agreements in Relationships Compassionate Expression of Needs Impact of Self-Talk and Past Experiences on Self-Perception Nurturing a Kinder Inner Dialogue Offering Yourself Compassion and Empathy ADHD and Clutter Impulsivity Compassionate Approach to Motivate Decluttering Guilt and Shame Breaking Tasks into Microtasks Tips for People Dealing with ADHD and Hoarding Self-Compassion Establishing Daily Non-negotiable Routines Breaking Down Tasks into Small Goals Approaching Uncertainty as a Space of Possibilities Overcoming Procrastination Identifying Procrastination Triggers Breaking Tasks into Achievable Goals Maximise Productivity and Time Management Reassessing Productivity in Small Time Periods Using Small Time Intervals for Decluttering Addressing Impulsivity in Acquiring Items Finding Long-Term Purpose Managing Living Spaces in Relationships Open Communication Setting Non-Negotiable Priorities Overcoming decluttering barriers with 5-minute tasks. Find purpose by identifying goals, prioritise passions. Setting rules, responsibility, and personal growth awareness. Establishing boundaries and agreements in relationships. Recognising patterns Impact of words can last a lifetime. Establish routines, question resistance, break tasks down. Embrace uncertainty as a challenge, not a threat. Clutter linked to ADHD, trauma, mental health, impulsivity, and seeking new things. Focusing on microtasks for motivation and habit building. Decluttering seems overwhelming, but starting with smal
Fri, July 19, 2024
#148 The woman who sold every item of clothing she owned
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I talk about a woman who sold every single thing in her wardrobe and explore the lessons that can be learned from this drastic approach, discussing both the positive and less than ideal aspects of the woman's actions. Highlighting the importance of taking small actions and steering away from all-or-nothing thinking, I look at what we who have difficult home surroundings can learn from this Acknowledging annoyance and taking action against it. Overcoming scarcity mindset and emotional attachments to possessions. Liberating to sell clothes, or all-or-nothing thinking? Gradual progress leads to lasting change and adaptation. Exploring actions and habits to address annoyances. Don't have to do extreme decluttering. Small actions are valuable. Incorporate new behaviours consistently. Slow progress is more effective than dramatic change for long-term success. Accepting and embracing feelings as a human reaction. Taking Action on Annoyances Acknowledging ongoing annoyances Taking decisive action to address the problem Decisiveness Being inspired by the woman's decisiveness Overcoming overthinking and indecisiveness Finding fulfillment and reward in making a dramatic change Feeling liberated by having considerably less stuff Living with Considerably Less Realising that living with less is not a threat The protective nature of hoarding behaviour Less Ideal Aspects of Extreme Action All-or-Nothing Thinking Recognising the danger of extremes in decision making Embracing the value of moderation and balanced action Small Actions versus Grand Gestures The importance of small, consistent actions over grand gestures Building lasting change through gradual progress Overcompensating The dangers of drastically clearing out possessions Gradual adaptation and adjustment to change Accepting Feelings and Reactions Understanding that feelings of overwhelm are a normal human experience No Secondary Shame Rejecting the idea that feeling hard emotions is a source of shame Overcoming internalised beliefs about the negativity of emotions
Fri, July 12, 2024
#147 Habituation, "clutter blindness", and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ With Dr Jan Eppingstall, today I delve into the fascinating world of habituation – which you might be familiar with as clutter blindness, but it’s so much more than that! – and its impact on our daily lives. We look at the role of habituation in hoarding, and offer practical techniques to revitalise our perspectives. Join us as we unravel the complexity of habituation and its relationship to hoarding, with valuable insights into improving our quality of life. Habituation and its Impact Definition of habituation Evolutionary and innate nature of habituation Habituation as a form of non-associative learning Role of habituation in daily life Individual experiences with habituation Positive, neutral, and negative aspects of habituation Habituation in hoarding behaviour Habituation and autistic people Effects of habituation on daily tasks and decision-making Habituation in relation to clutter blindness and hoarding Overcoming Habituation Techniques for combatting habituation Changing daily routines and habits Using different modes of transport Performing everyday tasks in different ways Looking at space through a different perspective The need for a variety of approaches to combat habituation Techniques to break habitual patterns The importance of stepping out of your comfort zone The importance of mixing up approaches and embracing what works Habituation in Mental Health and Therapy Deliberate use of habituation in mental health treatment Exposure therapy and fear ladder approach in treating fears and phobias Gradual exposure therapy for specific fears Maintenance of progress in overcoming fears and phobias Implications of habituation for individuals with autism spectrum disorders in relation to hoarding Insight into habituation and its impact on hoarding behaviour Techniques and advice for combating habituation Examples of habituation in daily life Experience of habituation in hoarding behaviour and clutter blindness The impact of habituation on decision-making and compensating for clutter Connection between habituation, working memory, and people-pleasing behaviour Understanding the impact of habituation on decision-making and perceptions Strategies for break
Bonus · Fri, July 05, 2024
Remix: How to dehoard when you're drowning with KC Davis of Struggle Care and Domestic Blisters
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Incredible conversation with the ever-insightful KC Davis of Struggle Care. From discussing the impact of accumulating unused items to exploring the mental and emotional barriers people face in decluttering and tidying up, this episode covers a wide range of strategies and insights to help you on your dehoarding journey. We look at the shame and stigma associated with struggling with care tasks, including dehoarding, and the impact on individuals' self-worth and ability to seek help, and replace the shame with an approach rooted in self-compassion and moral neutrality towards care tasks. So if you're looking for practical tips, empathy, and support on your dehoarding journey, you won't want to miss this episode! Understanding Care Tasks and Struggles Definition of "care tasks" Stigma and shame surrounding struggles with care tasks Impact on self-worth and ability to seek help Overcoming Shame and Stigma Fear and self-criticism Importance of self-compassion and supportive community Motivation and the limitations of shame Individualised solutions rooted in self-compassion Thriftiness and environmental concerns Strategies for Task Initiation and Motivation Challenges for hoarders and those with ADHD Differentiating motivation and task initiation Small steps, transitions, and tools for task initiation Starting the Decluttering Process No one right way to start Making small decisions and using timers Involving friends in parting with items Overcoming Emotional Barriers to Decluttering Impact of accumulated items and their eventual outcome "5 things theory" to overcome resistance Adjusting the tidying process and taking small steps consistently Strategies for Organising and Tidying Up Breaking tasks into smaller steps Visual storage ideas and creating rituals Setting priorities and challenging societal norms Judgments based on work, race, and appearance Many people feel therapy isn't addressing their needs. Shame doesn't lead to lasting behaviour change. Self-help methods are not one-size-fits-all. Permission to accommodate leads to lasting change. Challenges of ADHD and executive functioning explained. Declutter by what I need, love, keep. Motivation lead
S1 E146 · Fri, June 28, 2024
#146 Where Dragons Live and what we leave behind
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ I watched a film, "Where Dragons Live," which struck a chord with themes of belongings, families, the meaning of our stuff, and the complexities of dealing with a loved one's stuff after they pass away. I talk about the deeper implications of what we leave behind. Join me as I reflect on the emotional impact of material possessions and the significance of our connections with others. Film Review: Where Dragons Live Review and discussion of the film "Where Dragons Live" Exploration of themes relevant to hoarding, family dynamics and privilege Reflection on the concept of treasuring and maintaining possessions Analysis of the film’s portrayal of mixed, nuanced emotions and reactions Examination of the anxiety surrounding what we leave behind for others Emphasis on the impact of hoarding on one's own life and grieving process Personal reflection on the burden and worry of leaving behind a hoarding home Consideration of the challenges faced by those sorting through a hoarded space Insight into the complexities of emotions and decision-making related to hoarding Impact Beyond Possessions Reflection on the value of relationships and connections beyond physical possessions Examination of the meaningful impact individuals can leave on others Emphasis on the significance of emotional and personal legacies Discussion of minimising physical clutter to alleviate stress for others Personal experiences related to friendships and legacies Reflection on the meaningful contributions individuals can make in others’ lives Recommendations for listeners to consider the impact they leave on others Encouragement to prioritise meaningful connections over material possessions Mixed emotions lead to decision-making challenges. Grieving and hoarding Overwhelm Leave behind meaningful and powerful positive impact. Film subjects reflect on sentimental items. Grief and clearing out a hoarded home, finding value in the midst of overwhelming belongings. Leaving meaningful impact beyond material possessions. The film's focus on balancing material possessions with emotional value Minimising belongings for others' sake.
S1 E145 · Fri, June 21, 2024
#145 Understanding stigma and hoarding using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and compassion, with Dr Jennifer Krafft
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Dr. Jennifer Krafft, director of the Mindfulness and Acceptance Lab at Mississippi State University and her expertise in hoarding disorder, OCD, anxiety, and mindfulness and acceptance processes for treatment brings a fresh perspective to the prevalent issues surrounding hoarding. We’re talking particularly about stigma and hoarding disorder, the impact of cultural and societal attitudes, and the potential for self-help interventions to reduce stigma. We look at the roles of psychological flexibility, self-compassion, and the need for societal change in addressing hoarding stigma. Stigma and Misconceptions Surrounding Hoarding Disorder Lack of public awareness and understanding Sensationalism in reality TV shows and its impact on stigmatisation Impact of hoarding stigma on seeking help and social lives Mindfulness and Acceptance in Managing Hoarding Disorder Dr. Jennifer Krafft's personal experiences and curiosity leading to interest in hoarding disorder Lack of effective treatments and trained providers for hoarding disorder Study on self-help interventions reducing stigmatisation for people with hoarding disorder Combating perfectionism through flexibility and managing cognitive reactions Seeking Help and Self-Stigma Dr. Jennifer Krafft's study on individuals' preferences for seeking help for mental health problems Public stigma and self-stigma, leading to shame, embarrassment, and hiding behaviour Psychological inflexibility linked to stigma and rigid behaviour patterns Acceptance and commitment therapy promoting psychological flexibility Addressing Stigma and Shame Impact of intersecting stigmas on individuals, such as hoarding and racism Addressing self-criticism, shame, and seeking support Mindfulness exercises and self-compassion in managing stigma and shame Cultural and Identity Perspectives in Hoarding Disorder Lack of research on culture, identity, and hoarding, particularly in diverse populations Additional challenges faced by individuals with multiple forms of discrimination Acknowledging the impact of intersecting stigmas on individuals Evolutionary Perspective of Hoarding Behaviour Dr. Jennifer Krafft discussing hoarding behaviour in the context of human evolution Mismatch between human adaptation and the current society's abundanc
S1 E144 · Fri, June 14, 2024
#144 Breaking through analysis paralysis: 13 tools and techniques for making progress when you have hoarding disorder
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I focus on the dreaded "analysis paralysis" and how it affects individuals with hoarding disorder. I discuss practical strategies for making decisions easier and breaking through the overwhelming feeling of being stuck in the decision-making process. From setting time limits to reframing fear, I will talk you through the steps to overcoming paralysis and perfectionism. Analysis Paralysis and Hoarding Disorder Definition of analysis paralysis Overwhelmed by options and freezing due to overanalysing Negative impact of perfectionism and fear of uncertainty on decision-making Feeling overwhelmed by choices Getting stuck in overanalysing Impact of perfectionism on decision-making Fear of uncertainty hindering progress Strategies to Overcome Analysis Paralysis Using systems or rules to make decisions easier Setting time limits to create focus and reduce overwhelm Practicing with small decisions to build confidence Grounding oneself in the present and breaking tasks into smaller chunks Having a decision-making framework or process to aid in breaking through analysis paralysis Techniques such as pros and cons lists, cost benefit analysis, and setting rules to make decisions easier Importance of setting criteria to aid decision-making Making use of time limits to create focus Building confidence through practicing with small decisions Breaking tasks into smaller, more manageable chunks Prioritising Progress Over Perfection Encouragement to start small, even if something seems impossible or too difficult Strategic questions, setting a timer, joining an accountability group, and focusing on the present moment to overcome paralysis and perfectionism Emphasising the importance of progress over perfection Starting with small, achievable goals Using strategic questions and setting timers for focus Utilising support systems like accountability groups The emphasis on progress over perfection Overcoming analysis paralysis through implementing systems. Overcome perfectionism and fear by taking action. Refocus on positive possibilities to overcome fear. Focus on 20-minute tasks to avoid overwhelm. Start with small decisions to build confidence. Focus on the present, break tasks down.</li
S1 E143 · Fri, June 07, 2024
#143 Letting go of coping mechanisms that no longer serve us
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ I have a bit of an emotional moment in this one! In this episode, I talk about how we can spot those things that may have been useful at one point but are limiting us now. And look at how we can start to even entertain the idea of moving away from them without getting overwhelmed by the things that we're running away from in the first place. Identifying coping mechanisms that have become detrimental How once-helpful behaviours or thoughts can now cause stress, annoyance, or interfere with work and relationships Acknowledging the negative impact of these coping mechanisms Letting Go of Detrimental Coping Mechanisms Symbolism of finding freedom after letting go of detrimental habits Thanking coping mechanisms for past usefulness while acknowledging their current negative impact The process of letting go described as taking small steps Emphasising gradual change rather than extreme transformation My experience of letting go of self-harm as a coping mechanism Therapist's advice to apply the same principle to hoarding Reflecting on past coping mechanisms and their evolution Reassessing the need for detailed to-do lists as a coping mechanism for insecurity and fear Overcoming Adversity and Achieving Small Victories The power of achieving small victories Using every bit of progress to fuel the next step, even if it feels impossible Identifying the benefits derived from hoarding and finding alternative positive coping mechanisms Adopting Positive Behaviours and Embracing Change Importance of trial and error and gradual change in adopting positive behaviours Encouraging curiosity and open-mindedness Acknowledging that change doesn't have to happen all at once Our lives can be better without the distress-causing coping mechanisms Support and Community Invitation to hoarders for an event for support and discussion Acknowledging past coping mechanisms, embracing self-acceptance. Struggling with past coping mechanisms; learning to let go. Identify harmful coping mechanisms to improve well-being. Understanding underlying emotional needs. Reflect on coping mechanisms, assess their effectiveness. Identify and let go of problematic coping mechanisms, consider letting go of hoarding behaviours. Reflect on positive mome
S1 E142 · Fri, May 31, 2024
#142 Physical disability, chronic illness, chronic pain and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ We need to talk about hoarding and physical disabilities, chronic illness, and chronic pain. With the inimitable Dr. Jan Eppingstall, I look at the unique challenges faced by individuals with disabilities, chronic health conditions who hoard. From the impact of aging on hoarding tendencies to the struggles of navigating a hoarded space while managing chronic pain, we offer insights and practical strategies for those dealing with hoarding and physical limitations. Join us as we delve into the complexities of hoarding and its intersection with physical health challenges in a compassionate and informative discussion. The Impact of Disabilities on Hoarding Behaviours Complex relationship between hoarding and disabilities Chronic pain, mental health issues, and aging The prevalence and severity of hoarding in correlation with aging and physical limitations The challenges of categorising people and their impairments Gender Disparities and Disabilities in Hoarding research The association between physical disabilities, chronic illness, and chronic pain with hoarding, particularly among women The link between autoimmune diseases, common in women, and hoarding The impact of poverty on disabilities and hoarding Advocacy challenges for women with disabilities and hoarding behaviours The need for women to better acknowledge their achievements without feeling like boasting The significance of functional impairment in the discussion The importance of persistently seeking medical help despite the gender pain gap and lack of specificity in symptoms Strategies for individuals to lead a more independent and fulfilling life despite chronic issues The effects of giving up on seeking medical help on documenting conditions and receiving appropriate care Managing Hoarding and Disabilities Balancing function over appearance for hoarders with chronic health problems The individuals' strong attachment to certain aesthetics and struggles in decluttering due to sentimental attachment Practical ways to seek help and simplify tasks for people with hoarding tendencies, particularly for those living alone Strategies for managing household tasks despite limited mobility The importance of pacing oneself and not pushing beyond physical limits The impact of spending time outdoors on mental and physical heal
S1 E141 · Fri, May 24, 2024
#141 Micro trends are ruining our lives. Here's what to do
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I look at the impact of micro trends on our lives and how they are contributing to clutter and excessive consumption and the additional challenges hoarders face in this ever-evolving landscape of trends. I look at identifying our true style beyond societal pressures and resisting the temptation of constantly changing trendy items. Join me to explore the consequences of indulging in micro trends, the environmental impact of fast fashion, and strategies to make mindful purchasing decisions in a world dominated by fleeting trends. Impact of Microtrends on Hoarding Behaviour Hoarders facing unique challenges with microtrends Consequences of indulging in microtrends such as financial strain and accumulation of belongings Resisting the Temptation of Microtrends Avoiding constantly changing trendy items Thought exercise to identify personal style beyond external influences Understanding individual style versus succumbing to marketing influences Questioning motivations behind purchasing new trends Mindful Purchasing and Consumption "One in, one out" approach to purchases Delaying purchases to assess genuine interest Identifying if existing items can serve the same purpose Evolution of Trends and Impact of Social Media Trends in fashion and design propelled by personal expression and corporate marketing Acceleration of trends through social media platforms Accumulation of items due to shorter trend cycles and excessive consumption Environmental and Social Impact Production and consumption of fast, low-quality products contributing to waste Struggle of charity shops to sell items from past micro trends Encouraging individuals to opt out of supporting fleeting trends By addressing these topics, the podcast provides a comprehensive exploration of how microtrends impact hoarding behaviour, strategies for resisting trends, and insights into the broader societal and environmental implications of excessive consumption. FOMO in micro trends: dopamine, immediate reward. Consider the real reasons for wanting something. Consider delaying purchases to avoid micro trends. Hoarders face challenges with microtrends, self-control. Desire for personalization and expression; trends and fashions driven by corporations to fuel spending. Accumulation
S1 E140 · Fri, May 17, 2024
#140 How to cope with - or help - a partner who hoards, with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-140-how-to-cope-with-or-help-a-partner-who-hoards-with-laura-silverstein-certified-gottman-couples-therapist/ This week, I’m with Laura Silverstein, a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, who is a genius on how couples can improve their communication and the way they take each other’s needs into account. So we explore the complexities of living with a hoarding partner and the impact it has on relationships. Laura provides anecdotes and advice on setting healthy boundaries, initiating difficult conversations, and the role of a therapist in couples therapy. We also discuss the value of authentic communication, empathy, and the idea that love requires continuous effort. We look at the difficulties non-hoarding partners face in understanding their hoarding significant other, the impact of unresolved conflicts, and the evolving perception of quirks in a relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of open and honest communication, emphasising the need for both partners to be involved in decluttering decisions. Join us as we talk about coping with – and helping – a hoarding partner in a relationship. Living with a Hoarding Partner Challenges for the non-hoarding partner Understanding hoarding behaviour Impact of conflict in relationships Approaching hoarding issues as a couple Communication and Decision Making Importance of open and honest communication Involving the hoarding partner in decluttering decisions Examples of different approaches to decluttering Setting Boundaries and Deal Breakers Clear communication and healthy boundary setting Communicating core needs with a partner A therapist's role in helping couples set boundaries Couples Therapy and Relationship Dynamics Role of a Therapist in Couples Therapy Encouraging honest and respectful communication The goal of therapy in relationships Valuing the time spent in a relationship Initiating and Navigating Difficult Conversations Approaching conversations in a positive and constructive way The "I like, I wish, I wonder" framework for expressing emotions and requests The importance of clear communication and avoiding misunderstandings Building and Susta
S1 E139 · Fri, May 10, 2024
#139 Chronic disorganisation with Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK
Sign up for the Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, chronic disorganisation with our special guest, Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK. Chronic disorganisation impacts day-to-day living, from time management to project completion, and is closely connected to hoarding behaviours. Jo’s written a whole book on the topic, so join us as we look into the overlap between chronic disorganisation and hoarding, executive dysfunction, and the impact of grief, trauma, and loss on these issues. Chronic Disorganisation Definition and impact on day-to-day living Connection between chronic disorganisation and hoarding Executive dysfunction and its effect on chronic disorganisation Understanding and managing energy levels using the "spoon theory" Physical self-care and its impact on organisation and management Grief, Trauma, and Menopause The role of grief, trauma, and loss in chronic disorganisation and hoarding Societal shift in openly discussing menopause and its impact on daily life Importance of self-compassion and understanding that disorganisation does not equate to laziness or lack of intelligence Impact of Covid and Societal Factors How Covid has impacted people's experiences, including loneliness, anxiety, and chronic overwhelm Contribution of technology, fast-paced living, and societal expectations to difficulty in focusing and staying on task Strategies for Managing Chronic Disorganisation Body doubling as a method to have someone quietly cheerleading alongside on tasks Importance of sustained attention, goal perseverance, and finding the right motivation and goal-setting approach tailored to individual preferences Achieving and maintaining focus on tasks through setting achievable goals, tailored to individual needs, and utilising the PACE approach (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy) Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation Importance of seeking help, defining what help looks like, and joining support groups to combat shame and self-blame The release of Jo Cooke's book "Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation" for pre-order and her online presence at hoardingdisordersuk.org Recognising trends in client needs, including bereavement, ADHD, and menopause, and challenges in organisation. Chronic disorganisation impacts daily living with system struggles, time management, and tasks. Hoarding and chroni
S1 E138 · Fri, May 03, 2024
#138 The Accountability Effect: Accountability, encouragement and mutual support when tackling hoarding and dehoarding
Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-138-the-accountability-effect-accountability-encouragement-and-mutual-support-when-tackling-hoarding-and-dehoarding/ In today's episode, I talk about holding yourself accountable by yourself. Then I talk about holding yourself accountable if you've got an accountability buddy. And then I'm going to talk about holding yourself accountable if you don't have anybody that you can talk about hoarding with. Because those are 3 really different situations with really different pros and cons and approaches and benefits as well. Accountability and Dehoarding An accountability buddy who is also working on dehoarding Mutual support and encouragement Honest and constructive feedback Using before and after photos for accountability and motivation Setting up times to donate or recycle items together with an accountability buddy Shared encouragement and sense of accomplishment Solo Accountability in Dehoarding Challenges of holding oneself accountable when nobody knows about the hoarding Joining clutter groups on Facebook or posting on social media for accountability A group Zoom session for hoarders to hold themselves accountable Setting external deadlines for accountability Using inspirational visuals and quotes Having regular check-ins and task schedules Tools for Accountability in Dehoarding Using productivity apps or reminder apps to track progress Finding features that work best for individual performance Rewarding oneself with non-material rewards The Concept of Accountability Reluctance to commit to accountability Acknowledgment of its effectiveness in achieving goals Personal experiences and strategies for self-accountability Tracking progress and setting deadlines Holding yourself accountable is crucial for productivity. Accountability involves planning and setting goals. Regular check-ins help achieve and motivate goals. Encourage and support each other for success. Accountability buddy supports, encourages, and holds responsible. Setting deadlines and visual, shared encouragement motivates. Seek accountability through social media and groups. Accountability involves self-discipline and planning to achieve goals. Regular self-check-ins help stay on track, providing motivation and a sense of accomplishment. Encourage support, set same
S1 E137 · Fri, April 26, 2024
#137 How to tackle a laundry backlog - or how to summit Mount Washmore
Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-137-how-to-tackle-a-laundry-backlog-or-how-to-summit-mount-washmore/ Today, the daunting task of tackling a laundry backlog. In this episode, I discuss practical strategies to conquer Mount Washmore and take control of the laundry chaos. From decluttering to creating a laundry system, I look at ways to streamline the process and prevent clothes from piling up. I also touch on the environmental impact of overwashing and share experiences of managing overwhelming laundry situations. So if you're ready to conquer that laundry mountain and reclaim some peace, hit play for some valuable tips and insights. Addressing the Extreme Laundry Circumstances Using a laundrette to catch up Don’t berate yourself for the laundry backlog Practical Solutions for Managing Laundry Backlog Declutter to reduce laundry load Establishing a designated place for dirty clothes and towels Involving others in the household in the laundry process Creating a personalised system for ongoing laundry management Minimizing Overwashing and Unnecessary Clothing Purchases Advising against overwashing clothes to minimize environmental impact The environmental impact of overwashing, especially in relation to microplastics and microfibres Minimising new clothing purchases to reduce laundry load and simplify life Liberating Feeling of throwing away items in bad condition Identifying and removing barriers to doing laundry Streamlining the Washing Process Sorting laundry into darks, lights, and colours Containing laundry in bags or containers to streamline the washing process Disregarding special care instructions and putting items in the washing machine, finding that they come out fine The gruelling but necessary process of dedicating days to washing laundry, especially without a tumble dryer Challenge of managing limited drying space Doing laundry less demanding than cleaning or decluttering Gratitude for the invention of washing machines Consideration of organizing a Zoom accountability session for listeners and encouraging them to express interest Strategies for Tackling Laundry Pile Prioritising cleaning a few days' worth of clothes before addressing the entire pile Gathering all dirty laundry in one place and discarding items in bad condition without guilt Managing laundry by organizing tasks around the workday, not allowing the volume of laundry to overwhelm
S1 E136 · Fri, April 19, 2024
#136 The lies, contradictions and justifications we tell ourselves about our stuff - I dissect and debunk 19 of them!
Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode I talk about 19 lies we tell ourselves about our stuff that help us to remain hoarders rather than break free from drowning in stuff. Acknowledging the Difficulty in Addressing Hoarding Behaviour Emphasising the possibility of change and the necessity of taking action. Challenging Justifications for Hoarding Negative impact on social interactions, emotional well-being, and emergency situations. The impact of hoarding on children's well-being and long-term trauma. The inefficiency and laborious nature of selling items from a hoard. The impracticality of holding onto items because we believe they could be fixed or upcycled. Setting deadlines for projects to address items awaiting repair or upcycling. Recognising Lies and Contradictions in Hoarding Behaviour Separating self-identity from possessions. Questioning the necessity of holding rare or one-of-a-kind items. Challenging the belief that items might be needed in the future. Holding onto clothing that no longer fits. Challenging the idea of holding onto items in anticipation of them coming back into fashion. Taking Immediate Action to Address Hoarding Behaviour Not postponing decluttering and organising efforts. Challenging the rationale for holding onto items for sentimental reasons. Considering hosting a virtual accountability group for dehoarding together via Zoom call. Identifying and Challenging Lies About Belongings Encouraging listeners to recognise and challenge lies about their belongings. Addressing beliefs about the necessity of more storage items and the significance of keeping just one item. Challenging justifications for keeping items, such as receiving them as gifts or having spent money on them. Emphasising that love and respect for others are not dependent on holding onto objects. Encouraging letting go of unused items, despite their perceived value or sentimental attachment. Torn between hoarding and avoiding waste. Recognise lies, challenge ourselves, become more accountable. Dehoarding reveals need for less storage. Overcoming sense of futility, one small effort at a time. Love doesn't depend on holding onto belongings. Letting go of excess stuff is liberating. Don't keep stuff for future fashion trends. Clutter affects every aspect of your life. Recognisin
S1 E135 · Fri, April 12, 2024
#135 Don't know where to start? 31 things you can dehoard today
Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-135-dont-know-where-to-start-31-things-you-can-dehoard-today/ Sometimes you want to get something done, but you just need somebody to tell you where to start, right? You need a nudge. Because if we have too much choice in front of us, it can become overwhelming. Benefits of becoming a Dehoarding Darling supporter for the podcast New feature on top of monthly update with recommendations, extra podcast episodes, a song, and a top tip Feedback on the idea of a monthly Zoom call for accountability and task completion 31 tasks to tackle hoarding, including specific items and areas Clearing out old magazines and newspapers Sorting and discarding empty boxes Evaluating and recycling outdated electronic devices Matching and storing Tupperware without lids or vice versa Disposing of expired medication Discarding old cosmetics and sunscreens Evaluating old greeting cards for sentimental value Getting rid of out-of-date food in fridges, kitchen cupboards, and freezers Donating unread books Testing and discarding non-functional pens Releasing unused notebooks for others to use Discarding single socks without a pair, old calendars, dead batteries, and promotional items Unsubscribing from promotional emails Discarding duplicate kitchen utensils Decluttering clothing, jewellery, kitchen appliances, old receipts and bills, excess mugs and glasses, old towels and bedding, holiday decorations, unused hobby-related items, expired coupons and promotional flyers, and shoes Asking serious questions about the usability of items Downsizing items related to former hobbies Expired coupons and promotional flyers Being ruthless with old towels Dispassionately evaluating holiday decorations Decluttering shoes that are no longer worn Creating space for necessary items Getting rid of old shopping bags Donating usable bags to charity shops or food banks Encouragement to consider the 31 suggested decluttering tasks and taking action Motivating listeners to initiate decluttering and organizing Offering practical and achievable starting points for decluttering efforts Engaging the audience in taking positive steps towards decluttering their spaces Limiting clutter can lead to clarity. Declutter chargers, cables, and old devices responsibly. Keep meaningful greeting cards, discard the rest. You deserve
S1 E134 · Fri, April 05, 2024
#134 What therapists and mental health professionals need to know about working with hoarders, with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today with Dr Jan Eppingstall, I look at the nuanced approaches needed for effectively supporting people with hoarding disorder. Jan provides valuable insights for therapists, emphasising the importance of curiosity, collaboration, and empathy in therapeutic sessions. The episode explores evidence-based interventions, the significance of exposure therapy, and the challenges counsellors may face when working with hoarding clients. Additionally, practical tips for building trust and understanding the unique needs of hoarders are shared. Listen for the tools you need to make a meaningful difference in the lives of your clients. Therapeutic Approach to Hoarding Disorder Importance of Collaboration in Therapy Hands-On Support and In-Home Visits Exposure Therapy Patience, Empathy, and Understanding in Therapy Different Modes of Therapy (CBT, ACT, Person-Centred Therapy) Education and Support for Mental Health Professionals Minimal Education on Hoarding Disorder in Clinical Psychology Programs Building Expertise in Hoarding Disorder Seeking Supervision Need for an Eclectic Approach in Therapy Values Clarification, Problem Solving Challenges for Therapists Generalist vs. Specialist Counsellors Addressing Co-Occurring Mental Health Issues Impact of Hoarding on Other Mental Health Issues Preparedness of Therapists to Deal with Hoarding Effective Therapies (Exposure Therapy, Cognitive Techniques) Collaboration with Professional Organizers Building Trust with Clients Generalist counsellors deal with common mental health issues. Open dialogue and willingness to share knowledge. Understanding clients holistically Struggles with hoarding and perfectionism in therapy. Assisting clients with letting go of possessions. Exposure technique for easing attachment to possessions. Tiny habits Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E133 · Fri, March 29, 2024
#133 What to prioritise when you can only do the absolute basics
Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-133-what-to-prioritise-when-you-can-only-do-the-absolute-basics/ Today, I talk about prioritising when you're facing a hoarding situation and can only manage the absolute basics, with guidance for people struggling with motivation, energy, and overwhelming emotions like depression or grief. Tackling the challenges of hoarding when feeling depleted, the episode explores practical ways to approach the situation. Tune in for strategies to navigate hoarding with compassion and practicality, understanding that even the smallest progress is a step forward. Prioritising tasks and setting realistic goals Identifying the most effective tasks with limited time and energy Being objective and evaluating what can be done with available energy Avoiding busywork and focusing on tasks that push the needle Adjusting high standards and expectations to avoid disappointment Finding motivation in something you care slightly about Identifying and prioritising safety concerns Setting tiny, achievable goals to avoid feeling like a failure Using the hummingbird method to set yourself up for success Opting for tasks that require less emotional energy and decision-making Making tasks easier and setting up for success Incorporating comfort TV or music to make tasks more manageable Establishing a single daily task Seeking help to understand the reasons behind challenges Exploring available options for support and improvement Setting up a reward system without resorting to purchasing items Practicing gentleness and self-compassion Overcoming obstacles and taking small steps Recognising that small progress is still progress Implementing tasks that take only a few minutes to accomplish Understanding that self-care can involve both urging yourself to do things and allowing yourself to rest Consider effective use of limited time and energy. Find one thing you care about. Being kind to your future self. Consider options for small impactful actions when lacking energy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E132 · Fri, March 22, 2024
#132 How to dehoard when you’re really, really busy: tackling clutter in tiny time slots
Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I talk about trying to dehoard when life is jam-packed with commitments. I share practical tips for making the most of those precious spare moments, tackling small areas at a time, and procrastination. I discuss productive procrastination, setting achievable goals, and seeking help, as well as valuable insights on time management, priorities and self-compassion. Strategies for Dehoarding When You're Really Really Busy Utilising small pockets of time for dehoarding Waiting for a call, boiling the kettle, or other short intervals Making a list of tasks for different time durations Focusing on small areas and celebrating small victories Seeing visible progress and maintaining motivation Productive procrastination and not making things worse Harnessing time spent on other useful tasks Saying no to new items and time commitments Gamifying decluttering and being consistent Setting daily goals for items to get rid of Seeking help from others with time-consuming tasks Tracking time to save time and prioritise Tracking time for analysis and identifying areas for saving time Using data to approach work about schedule changes Prioritising and understanding personal motivations for decluttering The importance of rest and downtime while working on decluttering Declutter efficiently using small pockets of time. Small victories lead to progress. Productive procrastination: using time for useful tasks. Learn to say no to new commitments. Consistency is key for successful project completion. Delegate tasks, track time for better efficiency. Balancing work and leisure is essential for well-being. Forgive yourself, prioritise and seek self-compassion. Reframe busyness as even more reason to simplify and declutter Small victories help to spur further progress Making the most of odd bits of time. Commitments and requests you don’t want to do Consistency over time is more productive than sporadic bursts. Delegating tasks Rest and downtime are essential for mental and physical health. It's not about suffering, but finding balance. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E131 · Fri, March 15, 2024
#131 Compassionate productivity with Meg Kissack of the Daily Pep: Challenging the Cult of Productivity, Rethinking Self-Care and Embracing Vulnerability
Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast transcript: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-131-compassionate-productivity-with-meg-kissack-of-the-daily-pep-challenging-the-cult-of-productivity-rethinking-self-care-and-embracing-vulnerability/ Today I welcome Meg Kissack to talk about compassionate productivity. We discuss the importance of showing up for yourself, taking imperfect action, and acknowledging the value of rest. We gently challenge traditional productivity advice, emphasising the emotional aspect of getting things done and the need to deprogramme the idea that rest must be earned. The conversation also addresses misconceptions about self-care, the impact of advertising on self-worth, and the necessity of embracing vulnerability and rewriting the narrative of success. Tune in as we advocate for embracing personal quirks, fostering genuine connections, and initiating more honest discussions beyond the façade of social media perfection. Compassionate Productivity and Personal Growth The importance of showing up for oneself Taking imperfect action The value of rest as a productive element Deprogramming the idea that rest must be earned Making friends with our future selves Small actions can make a big difference Replacing inner critic with inner wisdom Making tasks fun and easier Redefining Self-Care Redefining self-preservation Recognising and resisting marketing tactics and old narratives The impact of advertising targeting women and playing into insecurities Embracing Vulnerability and Self-Worth Rewriting the narrative of success Overcoming the fear of starting something before feeling completely ready Finding wisdom in people who are open about failures and the process of success Recognising self-worth without achieving goals or milestones Practicing self-compassion and acceptance Self-worth and embracing personal quirks Disparity between ideal productivity routines and reality Complexity of mental health issues, financial struggles, and relationships Unrealistic and patronising nature of one-size-fits-all approach to productivity Ddisconnect between privilege and reality Struggle with pushing through, compassion for self. Shame cycle of productivity and self-judgment. Transactional mindset, cruel self-treatment, need for imperfection. Self-worth leads to better decisions and boundaries
S1 E130 · Fri, March 08, 2024
#130 Loneliness and hoarding with Vassia Sarantopoulou: build human connections and combat hoarding-related shame
Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Episode transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I look at the link between loneliness and hoarding behaviour with special guest Vassia Sarantopoulou, an expert psychologist and relationship counsellor. Come on a thought-provoking journey as Vassia and I discuss the complexities of loneliness, and practical steps for combating the shame associated with hoarding. There's the deep impact of societal expectations on emotional expression and emphasise the importance of forming genuine human connections for those affected by hoarding. From identifying warning signs of loneliness to exploring the link between trauma, grief, and hoarding, this episode offers insights into the struggles faced by individuals dealing with compulsive hoarding and the loneliness that often accompanies it. Vassia shares effective strategies for overcoming loneliness, reaching out for support, and finding ways to rebuild connections when you hoard. This episode is a candid and compassionate exploration of the intersection between loneliness and hoarding, offering support for those seeking to break the cycle. Loneliness and Its Impact Stigma and Misconceptions Surrounding Loneliness Two Layers of Loneliness: Normal Feeling vs. Deeper Sense of Loneliness Common Causes of Loneliness Overcoming the Fear of Rejection and Making New Friends Difficulties in Discussing Personal Struggles with Friends Importance of Creating Safe Spaces for Discussing Grief and Negative Emotions Combatting Shame and Overcoming Self-Judgment Steps to Combat Shame Associated with Hoarding Behaviour Impact of Societal Expectations on Emotional Expression Building Human Connections and Combatting Feelings of Shame Associated with Hoarding Behaviour Practical Steps to Build Human Connections and Combat Feelings of Shame Associated with Hoarding Behaviour Addressing Shame and Overcoming Self-Imposed Judgment Related to Hoarding Gradual Approach to Disclosing Hoarding in Relationships Practical Advice and Resources Purpose of Social Activities: Engaging in Activities to Reduce Pressure and Stress Building Relationships and Disclosing Hoarding: Choosing the Right Moment and Managing Expectations Taking a Gradual Approach to Disclosing Hoarding in Relationships Impact of Hoarding Symptoms on Loneliness Warning Signs of Loneliness and Isolation Mental and Physical Health Effects of Loneliness Seeking Harmful or Unhealthy Relationships Due to Loneliness The Contribution of Trauma, Grief, and Loss to Hoarding B
S1 E129 · Fri, March 01, 2024
#129 Is this the hill you want to die on? Psychological flexibility, rigidity and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Today, I'm looking at psychological flexibility and rigidity with Dr. Jan Eppingstall. Join us as we explore the impact of changing hoarding behaviours and learn about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a powerful tool in addressing psychological inflexibility. Discover the six core processes of psychological flexibility and inflexibility, and gain insights into challenging rigid beliefs. We'll also discuss the role of curiosity and acceptance in fostering adaptability and open-mindedness. So, grab your headphones and get ready for an enlightening conversation on embracing change and overcoming psychological rigidity. Importance of Psychological Flexibility in Hoarding Psychology inflexibility's role in hoarding behaviour Impact on life satisfaction Application to all humans, not just clinical pathologies Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a Model for Psychological Adaptability and Health The 6 core processes of psychological flexibility and inflexibility Acceptance vs. experiential avoidance Diffusion vs. cognitive fusion Flexible attention to the present moment vs. inflexible attention Self as context vs. attachment to conceptualised self Committed action vs. inactivity or impulsivity Hexaflex and its origin Changing Behaviours Trying new things, compromising, and risk-taking Change in one area affecting various aspects of life Techniques for Managing Panic Attacks Addressing panic attacks through curiosity and acceptance Healing experience of being understood and accepted Macro and Micro Perspectives Techniques such as meditation or mindfulness "Yes, And" Technique and Promoting Open-Mindedness Role in promoting compromise and open-mindedness Importance of considering alternatives with a curious and open mindHoarding, rigidity, and psychological inflexibility Experiential avoidance and rumination Inflexible actions Adapt to different situations while staying true to your values Taking action towards values, maintaining psychological flexibility. Practice observing your thoughts through thought listing Working on being less rigid, more flexible. Mediation in statistical analysis. Consider alternatives, embrace curiosity. Finding flexibility in perspective improves relationships Values to guide actions. Acceptance, understanding, and support from trusted individuals. Discussion on rigidity and inflexibility in hoarding, its correlation with various mental health issues. ACT academics aimed to create unified therapy model
Bonus · Fri, February 23, 2024
REMIX: Couples and hoarding: An interview with relationship therapist Laura Silverstein
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S1 E128 · Fri, February 16, 2024
#128 Time management and hoarding: How living in a hoard impacts your time, stress and productivity
Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe I take a look at the time-consuming nature of living in a hoard, including the impact of clutter on daily life. I cover the stress, procrastination, and decision fatigue that come with hoarding to shed light on the ways in which hoarding not only affects our living spaces but also consumes valuable time. Tune in for a candid conversation that challenges perceptions and offers a fresh perspective on the journey to overcome compulsive hoarding. Questioning time for tidying in a cluttered life. Gradual realisation about time consumption. Tidying takes time, hoarding takes longer. Organising the kitchen, decluttering, and categorising food items. Knowing where things are saves time. Reducing possessions saves time and effort. Hoarding makes cleaning harder and time-consuming. Rethink hoarding, liberate yourself, save future time. American society invented the concept of human failure. Organising saves time and reduces clutter. Having too much stuff makes cleaning difficult and time-consuming. The burden of hoarding and time wasted Reframing thoughts to improve decluttering. The concept of human failure was an American invention due to a capitalist society. The misconception of tidy people spending all their time cleaning and tidying. The realisation that living in hoarding is time-consuming due to the difficulties caused by clutter. The Impact of Hoarding on Daily Life The stress and time wasted in finding everyday items in a hoarded home. Decision-making process and procrastination caused by overwhelming clutter. Cleaning Challenges and Time Management The additional time required for cleaning and maintenance in a hoarded home. The difficulty of keeping a hoarded home clean compared to a neat and tidy home. The liberating aspect of dehoarding by freeing up time for the future. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E127 · Fri, February 09, 2024
#127 Overcoming overspending with Paige Pritchard, Money Coach
Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Today, I am joined by the insightful Paige Pritchard, a money coach and the owner of the Overcoming Overspending community. Together, we dig into the complexities of overspending, addressing its emotional roots and psychological impact on individuals' lives. Paige offers invaluable insights into understanding the deeper motivations behind spending habits and emphasises the need to reclaim control and satisfaction in life. We discuss practical strategies, such as the "urge jar" to create distance from impulsive buying and find fulfilment without overspending. Join us as we explore the psychological effects of spending habits and discover empowering approaches to overcome overspending. Overspending defined Impact of shopping on time, relationships, confidence. Men face stigma for impulse spending, too. Striving for perfection Products tied to identity and feelings Resist urge to splurge Anticipation brings more pleasure than actual events. Recognise brain's response Individual approach: abstainer vs moderator. YNAB for budget transparency. Budgeting software provides helpful transparency for planning. Impact of shopping on time, relationships, and financial confidence. Perfectionism and spending habits Consumerism links products to identities and emotions Delay impulse buying Baseline awareness of brain's response to threats No spend challenges Personal spending behaviour Signs of overspending Financial implications Time spent on shopping and acquiring Impact on relationships Financial self-confidence Impact on environment and clutter Understanding Motivations and Emotional Experiences Behind Spending Aspirational spending Consumer culture Deeper motivations behind spending habits Impact of spending habits on psychological wellbeing Deeper reasons behind excessive spending Regaining a sense of control Escaping life Managing Impulse Buying Scarcity Spending The "urge jar" as a tool Form a new habit loop Dopamine without spending money. Fear of missing out Managing Regret Decision Making Inevitability of emotions Implications of extreme approaches. Budgeting software Managing annual expenses Psychological perspective behind impulsive buying Creating distance before making a purchase. Impact of social media on contributing to overconsumption Downplaying shopping addiction. The seriousness of shopping addiction and its effect on people's l
S1 E126 · Fri, February 02, 2024
#126 Insight and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall: Unravelling anosognosia, clutter blindness, denial, psychological reactance and overvalued ideation
Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Today with Dr Jan Eppingstall I explore the nuanced concept of insight in hoarding. From defining overvalued ideation to understanding the levels of insight, we unravel the challenges individuals face in recognising and addressing their hoarding behaviours. Through personal experiences, expert advice, and valuable research insights, this episode sheds light on personalised treatment approaches, effective communication strategies, and the importance of empathy and compassion. Get ready to gain a deeper understanding of hoarding disorder and discover practical ways to support individuals on their journey to overcoming compulsive hoarding. Insight into Hoarding Levels and Types of Insight Insight Variability Among Individuals Factors Influencing Insight (e.g. Comorbidity, Trauma, Life Experiences) Insight Study by Helena Drury and Colleagues Insight in Diagnosis of Hoarding Disorder Relationship Between Hoarding Severity, Self-Criticism, Shame, and Preservation of Self-Concept Overcoming Clutter Blindness Getting Rid of Things and Challenging Thoughts Taking Photographs of Living Spaces Vulnerability in Showing Spaces to Someone Else Exposing Oneself to Getting Rid of Things and Challenging Thoughts Identifying and Addressing Lack of Insight Anosognosia and Overvalued Ideation Reflecting Feelings and Thoughts The LEAP Technique for Support People, Coaches, and Therapists Understanding Hoarding Behaviour Motivations Behind Hoarding Tendencies Defensive Denial and Psychological Reactance Demographics and Characteristics of Hoarders in Research Settings and Community Services Neurocognitive Damage and Insight into Hoarding Behavior Communication and Approach in Supporting Hoarders Validating Concerns and Correcting Misunderstandings Empathetic and Compassionate Approach Using "Yes, And" Technique in Conversations Tailoring Therapy Approach for Hoarding Clients Treating things as an Experiment Importance of Curiosity and Playfulness in Therapy Approach Limitations of Manualised Treatments Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E125 · Fri, January 26, 2024
#125 Clearing hoarding hurdles: Anticipating and overcoming roadblocks in the dehoarding process
Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe By acknowledging potential roadblocks ahead, we can prepare emotionally and practically for upcoming challenges and even get more efficient when we’re dehoarding. I talk about the importance of being proactive, realistic, creative and adaptable when facing obstacles, while also seeking professional support when needed. I look at the need for planning, prioritising, and breaking down tasks into smaller chunks to overcome difficulties. Anticipating obstacles improves efficiency and motivation. Anticipating challenges leads to proactive decision-making. Anticipate obstacles, reflect, and evaluate for success. Stay open to possibilities, prepare for obstacles. Planning can overcome mental obstacles for success. Preparing for challenges in dehoarding process. Anticipate challenges and plan preventive measures. Allow yourself rest, plan ahead, ask for help. Anticipating obstacles while working. Subconscious problem-solving. Anticipating obstacles improves efficiency and reduces discouragement. Anticipating challenges improves decision-making, reduces panic. Being proactive is key. Planning to deal with nostalgic stuff eventually, while focusing on current tasks and building up decluttering skills. Anticipate and adapt to obstacles, focus on progress rather than completion. Reflection and objective evaluation are key. Stay open to possibilities, prepare with needed supplies, seek advice on overcoming obstacles from others. Address decision fatigue, burnout, and overwhelm to avoid stops and starts and make consistent progress. Prepare for challenges, gain confidence from past experiences. Anticipate and prevent burnout by pacing work, taking breaks. Take days off even if it feels wrong. Plan ahead and seek help. Tip for calming mind Importance of Anticipating Obstacles Benefits of problem-solving and emotional preparedness Improving efficiency and momentum in the decluttering process Assisting in planning, prioritising, and decision-making Overcoming Challenges Difficulty of anticipating obstacles, particularly for novices Leveraging experience to anticipate and surmount obstacles Adaptability, creativity, and flexibility in addressing anticipated obstacles The value of trust, resourcefulness, and forward planning Nostalgic items as potential distractions and triggers The importance of realistic goal setting and objective evaluation Anticipating Logistical Challenges Ensuring necessary supplies are available Learning from others' experiences with obstacles and their solutio
S1 E124 · Fri, January 19, 2024
#124 How the little-known Hummingbird Method can help you to dehoard the areas you’ve been avoiding
Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Today I delve into my experiences of overcoming avoidant behaviours when it comes to decluttering. I share how the Hummingbird Method has been instrumental in breaking down the fear and anxiety associated with tackling daunting hoarded areas. Join me as I explore the power of gentle, gradual progress and the freedom that comes from challenging rigid beliefs and behaviours. New method for managing tasks: hummingbird method. Overcoming fears Use the hummingbird method to beat procrastination. Versatile method adaptable for different tasks and problems. Challenging rigid beliefs to overcome hoarding habits. Experiment, try new things, open new doors. Gentle approach to tasks. Change is necessary for progress. Trying new things, starting small. Understanding the Difficulties of Letting Go The fear and difficulty involved in letting go of hoarded items The sense of freedom and positive change that can result from letting go Exploring hummingbirding Overcoming inflexible behavior and thinking through the hummingbird method The daunting piles were not as intimidating as imagined Challenging limiting rules and stepping into avoided areas to confront tasks Embracing a New Approach Encouragement to experiment and try new ways of approaching difficult tasks Starting with small steps, such as opening the cellar door The passive nature of the "Hummingbird method" in breaking down avoidance barriers Comparison to a kitten gradually expanding boundaries to become more comfortable Applying the Hummingbird Method Using the method to tackle fears and avoidance behaviours Gradually familiarising yourself with daunting tasks or situations Illustrative examples of avoiding tasks and gradually confronting them Comparing the method to a child overcoming a fear of balloons at a party The importance of flexibility and openness in challenging rigid beliefs and behaviours One tool in a range of strategies Recognising that there is no one-size-fits-all solution for overcoming hoarding and avoidance behaviours Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E123 · Fri, January 12, 2024
#123 The emotional impact of emergency dehoarding: confronting paralysis, shame, terror, panic and exhaustion
Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe In today's episode, I delve into the emotional impact of emergency dehoarding. Over the last few weeks, I've faced the daunting task of decluttering my home in preparation for an impending electrical testing. I explore the rollercoaster of emotions, from terror and shame to motivation and determination, as I grapple with the challenges of addressing my hoarding situation. Join me as I uncover the journey of navigating through the paralysis and panic to making progress, all while acknowledging the emotional and physical toll of the process. Stay tuned for practical insights, personal revelations, and a determined commitment to moving forward and not slipping back. Overcoming fear and making progress step-by-step. Planned time off and charity donation preparation. Anticipated shame, ensuring access, fluctuating emotions. Continual progress and proactive cleanup mindset. Therapist support pivotal. Overcoming challenges with tools and focus. Cannot sustain that intensity, but need to keep moving. Making rooms accessible. Overcoming challenges one step at a time, managing panic and making progress amid fear. Took time off, arranged charity collection. Struggling with hoarding shame, balancing pragmatism and terror. Focus on forward movement and addressing small tasks promptly. Realising the value of decluttering and talking to therapist. Facing challenges, equipped with tools and deadline. Unable to sustain pace, seeking balance and progress. Despite challenges, maintaining progress is beneficial in the long run. The emotional impact of emergency dehoarding Paralysis and panic when faced with the task of dehoarding the house Overcoming initial resistance and taking gradual action to prepare for impending electrical testing Managing emotions of terror, shame, and exhaustion during the process Finding motivation in focusing on progress and benefits of a cleaner home Coping with difficult tasks by reminding myself that it all had to be done Creating a loose daily plan to guide efforts Booking a charity collection for excess belongings providing practical assistance and motivation Acknowledging the imperfect nature of the donation process but recognising its necessity The role of support from a therapist and knowledge gained from a podcast about hoarding in managing the process Developing a "toolbox" of knowledge and strategies through podcast, interviews, research, and listener stories The benefits of having a deadline to stay focused and make progress in the hoarding situation Reflecting on the improved h
S1 E122 · Fri, January 05, 2024
#122 From ’it’ll do’ to ’make do’
Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe After a year where my subverted phrase of the year was "it'll do", I talk about how I'm hoping to continue shedding perfectionism and learn to be more resourceful and adaptable. Tune in to hear all about it. 2023 phrase "it will do" calms my perfectionist anxiety Striving for tidiness, resisting hoarding tendencies Retiring items when its purpose has been fulfilled Embracing "it'll do" mentality for 2023 led to less stress and overthinking, allowing for more focus on important things. Hoarders struggle with using what they have, but I'm seeking to become more adaptable and resourceful. Facing challenges in decluttering, balancing desire for tidiness and fear of letting go. Desire to reduce waste, finding satisfaction in finishing products. Examples of how "it'll do" helped me make decisions and reduce stress. Introduction of the new phrase for 2024, "make do," which emphasises resourcefulness and adaptability. The influence of financial awareness in choosing the new phrase. Desire to engage more with possessions. Exploring the contradiction in hoarders' tendencies to find multiple uses for items to justify keeping them but not being resourceful in other ways. The impact of perfectionism on the desire for the "perfect" item and the challenge to accept what is adequate. The potential risk of using "make do" as an excuse to keep everything and the need for balance. The acknowledgement of challenges in embracing "make do" and the importance of trusting the process. Finding pleasure in finishing and using up items as a result of a shift in perspective. Personal examples of feeling a sense of achievement in using items fully. Comparing the emotional attachment to well-used items versus unused items. The aim of "make do" to encourage thoughtful use of possessions and sustainable engagement with them. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Bonus · Fri, December 29, 2023
Remix: When you need to declutter urgently
Another really popular episode that a lot of you enjoyed. See you in 2024! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Bonus · Fri, December 22, 2023
Remix: Dehoarding: where to start
A replay of one of my most popular episodes, which I made in response to one of the listener questions I hear the most. Enjoy! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E121 · Fri, December 15, 2023
#121 Can virtual reality help to treat hoarding disorder? With Dr Hannah Raila
Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe In today's episode, I look at the intriguing use of virtual reality in treating hoarding disorder with our guest, Dr. Hannah Raila. Dr. Raila, a psychology researcher at UC Santa Cruz, shares her insights on how virtual reality can help individuals desensitise to distress and practice discarding virtual possessions. She discusses the immersive nature of the VR experience, the potential for the technology to attract more male research participants, and so much more. Join us as we explore the innovative possibilities of virtual reality in the treatment of hoarding disorder. Novel treatment for hoarding using virtual reality VR sessions focus on virtual discarding practice Virtual reality to create distress for phobia treatment Practice desensitization to discard and declutter effectively Novel approach due to existing treatments not working for everyone Study methodology including recruiting participants with hoarding disorder for buried in treasures group and virtual reality sessions Creating a virtual world of participants' rooms and practicing discarding items in a psychologically immersive environment New treatments for hoarding needed, virtual reality tested for hoarding, based on successful use in anxiety and PTSD In-home visits helpful for reducing clutter but often not feasible In VR therapy, practice discarding virtual objects to desensitise to distress Virtual exposure therapy principle: Desensitise to distress by simulating real experiences There is a debate about hoarding disorder prevalence and gender participation in research and treatment. More women seek treatment, but the disorder may be even across genders The Stanford lab's community presence may influence gender participation Testing novel intervention with existing treatments, attracting more patients, need for RCT before nationwide administration Practice desensitisation by rating distress, discarding and tracking feelings to tolerate and declutter home Preparing new study on contamination fears for OCD at UC Santa Cruz lab Description of the virtual donation box, recycling, and trash bin in VR sessions Facilitating repeated rehearsal of discarding virtual possessions for real-life application Reported improvement in hoarding symptoms due to VR treatment Time and technology challenges in programming and designing virtual worlds for the intervention Practical Applications and Takeaways Monitoring and tracking distress levels when discarding items Applying desensitisation without a virtual space Starting with easy-to-discard items and gradually progressing to more difficult ones
S1 E120 · Fri, December 08, 2023
#120 What a crooked church spire can tell us about failure and flaws and weirdness
Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe In this episode, I delve into the weird world of imperfections, flaws, and uniqueness. Drawing inspiration from the Crooked Spire of Chesterfield, I share personal struggles with self-criticism and acceptance. It's a round-about look at authenticity and self-acceptance, via imperfections and community. I also share a hoarding secret from a listener and a top tip. Join me! Chesterfield's Crooked Spire Folklore and reality behind the Crooked Spire's twist We often judge ourselves harshly Old churches, old books, imperfections, universal struggles Authenticity and honesty in safe spaces Embracing self-acceptance and confidence Challenging societal expectations leads to self-acceptance Embracing imperfection, finding strength in community Folklore and history intertwine at Chesterfield's Crooked Spire church We tend to see flaws in ourselves, not in loved ones Impact on self-esteem varies with mental health and stress Struggling with self-judgment Need spaces for self-expression, honesty, and mental health to avoid internal conflict and damage Often start with difficulty, but ultimately reach a point of empowerment Not conforming to societal expectations Changing Faces charity for people with visible differences Personal struggles with hoarding behaviour Encourages self-acceptance and appreciation Resilience and community embrace of imperfections Personal growth and acceptance related to societal norms Struggles with conforming to expectations The beauty of imperfections Old books with folded corners and underlined passages The podcast as a place of honesty and authenticity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E119 · Fri, December 01, 2023
#119 Homelessness and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe In today's episode, Dr Jan Eppingstall and I will be diving into a topic that is rarely discussed - homelessness and hoarding. We will explore the limited research available on the connection between these two issues and the complex factors that contribute to both. We uncover the connections between trauma, loss, and mental health issues that can lead to both homelessness and hoarding behaviours as well as the instincts associated with hoarding and the difficulties in interrupting these instincts. Homelessness and hoarding: connections and similarities Lack of hoarding-related academic articles Homelessness can be caused by hoarding Lack of support, finger pointing, no understanding Excessive stuff brings hope for normal future A sense of safety motivates us to accumulate possessions The physical barrier between us and the chaotic outside world is important Excess stuff can be seen as hope for a better future Society pressures us to make a perfect home Epigenetics, trauma, and genes influence hoarding behaviour Poverty pushes some to become hoarders Humans want to share during crises Neurodivergence, brain injuries, schizophrenia Homelessness and hoarding have similarities, including trauma, mental health issues, and fear of scarcity Possessions may be portable but excessive saving behaviour persists Homelessness caused by hoarding; trauma leads to hoarding in new home Need to ask "What do you need?" The comfort of material possessions Possible evidence of neurodivergence or organic brain injuries, schizophrenia, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, complex post-traumatic stress disorder The importance of asking the right questions and providing appropriate support Approach problems from various angles and keep iterating to find what works Short-term focus of government hinders this Homeless individuals trading stuff and the instinct to hoard when they find secure housing Difficulty in interrupting the primal hoarding instinct Strategies for interrupting the instinct, such as calculations and sharing with others in need Need for a holistic approach and joined-up thinking to address hoarding and homelessness effectively Lack of resources and understanding to support hoarders once they are housed Treating hoarders with dignity and respect Importance of appropriate questions and support due to the complexity of hoarding behaviours Lack of support and assistance in addressing the root causes of homelessness Sense of control and safety that possessions offer Importance of addressing the additional traumas faced by homeless individuals Study fi
S1 E118 · Fri, November 24, 2023
#118 Can we use AI to help us dehoard? Is it just hype or a promising solution?
Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe In today's episode, I dive into the topic of using AI to help us dehoard. I have some skepticism about AI and its ability to assist with decluttering. However, after exploring various AI options I share my findings and experiences with these tools. From providing tips and schedules to even taking on personas like Dolly Parton, AI can offer some assistance in the decluttering process. I also discuss the use of AI voice assistants and AI-driven coaching, discussing their potential benefits and my concerns. Join me as I explore the strengths and weaknesses of using AI as a tool in decluttering and dehoarding. Mixed results with AI AI voice assistance for dehoarding tasks. Privacy concerns, limited effectiveness of chatbots. Fact-checking is better done personally. AI decluttering apps listed by Bard didn't exist Bard provided good breakdown of timings in real-world context ChatGPT and Bard can expand on previous answers. Streamline decluttering, prioritise tasks, and explore personas with Chat GPT and Bard. I used an AI tool to mimic Dolly Parton's style for a video. AI voice assistants like Siri, Google, and Alexa can help with tasks like playing music and organizing, allowing users to have conversations and make requests AI chatbots cannot provide the same support as humans Privacy concerns and lack of trust. Not ruling them out completely,but cautious about therapy-oriented bots Asking specific questions can yield better results. Skepticism about using AI for dehoarding Not wanting to just repeat what others have said Description of AI bot Conversation with the AI bot Critique of the AI bot's advice Description of ChatGPT and Bard as AI tools Tips for using ChatGPT and Bard effectively Comparison of their capabilities with decluttering Limitations and challenges with specificity and relevance to hoarding Benefits of using voice assistants for organizing and task management Examples of tasks voice assistants can help with AI-driven coaching and therapy Potential benefits and use cases Concerns about privacy, emotional support, and effectiveness Strengths and weaknesses of using AI for dehoarding Personal observations on specific tasks AI is good at, such as scheduling Mention of AI's limitations, imaginary recommendations, and the need for skepticism Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Bonus · Fri, November 17, 2023
REMIX: Perfectionism and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
Subscribe to the podcast The topic for today is perfectionism and its connection to hoarding. I talk with Dr Jan Eppingstall about perfectionism and its impact on hoarding behaviour. We share personal experiences and struggles with perfectionism, discussing the fear of failure and the tendency to give up if something cannot be done perfectly. We also touch upon the importance of psychological flexibility, being present in the moment, and living by our values. Dr. Eppingstall enlightens us with insights on challenging rigid thought patterns, breaking free from the demands of perfection, and embracing personal growth. Perfectionism and fear of failure drive hoarding. Perfectionism linked to hoarding and obsessive personalities. Rigid thinking Surprised by others' flexibility Children with insecure attachment blame themselves for parents' problems. Curiosity, experimentation, and flexibility lead to growth. Encouraging exploration leads to personal growth. Regretting inaction is a bigger regret. Relax, do it wrong, get more done. Perfectionism and fear of failure relate to hoarding. Concerns over mistakes and parental criticism are prominent. Being creative with limited resources to find solutions and not being rigid in following rules or plans. Turtle mode hinders logic, self-criticism hampers progress. Children with insecure attachment due to a parent's mental illness or preoccupation tend to believe they cause their parents' problems They feel pressured to help their parents and seek validation through achievements and obedience to alleviate their parents' sadness or anger. Perfectionism linked to trauma response, family expectations. Fear of negative emotions, regret of not pursuing dreams. People are adaptable and inventive Give yourself permission to make mistakes, relax, and get more done The reluctance to start or complete tasks to avoid an imperfect outcome Self-criticism and lack of confidence as common problems with perfectionism Overcoming perfectionism and embracing flexibility Psychological flexibility: being present, taking action guided by values The importance of curiosity and challenging behaviours Living by values rather than solely focusing on goals The role of a support system in venturing outside the comfort zone Taking small, cautious steps outside the comfort zone Opening up slowly leads to personal growth and a sense of accomplishment Breaking rigid thought patterns through repeated challenging Recognising triggers and behaviours associated with perfectionism Cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) as
S1 E117 · Fri, November 10, 2023
#117 The dark side of conscious consumerism: when shopping feels like activism, can you save the world and promote your values by acquiring stuff?
Subscribe to the podcast I've always believed in making positive change through my purchases. Recycling, supporting local businesses, and buying eco-friendly products have been my way of feeling like I'm making a difference, saving the world one shopping trip at a time. But I had a revelation. In today's episode, I'll explore the common belief that shopping can be a form of activism, that it is positive to support or promote whatever values are important to us. The struggles of aligning hoarding tendencies with ethical and environmental values are not lost on me. I'll delve into the difficulties of ethical purchasing and provide some insights to help you navigate through the clutter. Expressing beliefs through items can lead to clutter False advertising misleads consumers with "natural" claims Some environmentally friendly products are more toxic Resource extraction required for "ethical" consumption too Choose green options but be mindful of unnecessary consumption Individual actions won't save world; collective action needed Systemic change Believing we've done our part hinders change Hoarders struggle with ethical purchasing decisions; advice appreciated Although we can make ethical shopping choices, society convinces us that spending money on stuff is a form of activism Supporting local businesses is beneficial, but it doesn't negate the negative consequences of buying something Supporting recycling and shopping in charity shops can lead to excessive clutter and prevent others from purchasing Buying items to display or share beliefs/values can lead to clutter; shopping won't save the world Companies can mislead consumers by labelling products as "natural" or eco-friendly, leading us to believe we are making a positive impact Electric car batteries release significant amounts of CO2 before being purchased It's important to strive for better socially, environmentally, and personally, and to make informed choices when purchasing necessary items Stocking up on unnecessary items is problematic Collective action and societal change are needed for significant global change, not individual shopping habits Boycotts may not be effective in changing company practices if they are still profitable Changing to unleaded petrol required a law change Believing shopping solves problems hinders impactful change; focus on reducing consumption, reusing, and finding real solutions The hoarder's perspective on making positive change through purchases Recognising flawed thinking and greenwashing People believing they are saving the Earth through shopping Greenwashing and misleading consumers with eco-friendly claims Ethics of shopping an
S1 E116 · Fri, November 03, 2023
#116 Hoarding vs squalor vs Diogenes Syndrome with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Subscribe to the podcast In this episode, we're diving into the topic of squalor. Is it the same as hoarding? Can you have a squalid environment without hoarding being present? Compulsive hoarding and living in unsanitary conditions can have a profound impact on us. We'll explore the key factors and distinctions between hoarding and squalor, as well as the underlying causes that contribute to these behaviours. From acquired brain injuries and cognitive impairments to mental health disorders, we'll delve into the intricate web of reasons why people find themselves in these challenging situations. We'll also touch on the impact of substance misuse, the role of physical disabilities, and the link between hoarding and conditions such as dementia, schizophrenia, and OCD. Join us as we explore the different characteristics, challenges, and possible solutions for hoarding and squalor. Whether you're facing hoarding tendencies yourself or seeking to understand these behaviours better, this episode is for you. Differentiating Hoarding, Squalor, Clutter, and Collecting Hygiene practices determined by culture. Unsanitary living caused by physical disability, dementia, illness, brain injuries, psychiatric disorders Long-term substance abuse damages brain's command centre Hoarding and squalor pose health risks Seek help for environmental neglect without shame The definition of unsanitary is determined by cultural hygiene practices, varying across cultures It relates to the reasonable person's judgment of cleanliness based on cultural norms. Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and contamination fears Substance abuse impairs decision making and damages the prefrontal cortex Hoarding and squalor pose health risks due to unhygienic living conditions and food safety issues. Prefrontal cortex damage explains dementia-related hoarding Unsanitary environments can result from socioeconomic factors such as poverty and limited access to sanitation services Lack of access to rubbish removal and funds for disposal Hoarding behaviours can lead to unsanitary living conditions due to hoarding severity, clutter volume, and difficulty discarding items. This attracts vermin and causes shame Living alone can lead to higher risk of unsanitary conditions Seek professional help, consider NDIS support for disabilities Clutter makes cleaning difficult Impairment in decision-making due to substance abuse Acquired brain injuries and neglect of personal and environmental hygiene Impairment of the command centre of the brain Deteriorating eyesight and its effect on recognising unsanitary areas Isolation and lack of support for seniors Loss and depression leadin
S1 E115 · Fri, October 27, 2023
#115 Is selling your stuff worth it? The pros and cons of selling your clutter: a hoarder’s perspective
Subscribe to the podcast Today’s episode is all about the pros and cons of selling your stuff. If you've been following my journey, you know that I have been apprehensive about selling items in the past. But I've taken a tentative step into the world of selling my clutter. Today I'm going to share the lessons I've learned and explore whether selling is truly worth it. So, grab your headphones and get ready for an insightful discussion on the potential benefits and drawbacks of selling your stuff. Selling stuff slows you down, hampers decluttering Holding on to things instead of selling Potential and creativity don't guarantee objective value Saves money, extends life cycle, reduces waste, helps environment, satisfies hoarder brain Time, effort, selling, selling process Selling stuff may hinder hoarder's progress - delay, excuses No guarantee of sales or payments; uncertain and time-consuming process Setting parameters saves energy. Selling slows down decluttering, creates excuses to keep items. If we don't want to get rid of something, we might pretend we'll sell it without actually doing so We use excuses to avoid throwing it away because we have a tendency to hoard We believe someone else will want it. Realistic value check. We overestimate the value of our possessions. Selling stuff can make money during tough times Varies depending on what you sell. Someone else can use them Reusing is better than recycling or throwing away. It's environmentally beneficial Selling can be both a motivator and an excuse for delaying getting rid of things There is no guarantee of selling or payment for listed items. Unpredictable Listing and selling items require time and energy that could be used more productively. Charity shops save time and effort compared to eBay Not advocating selling everything Previous stance on selling items and recent change in perspective Importance of finding a balance and considering what is best for oneself and the items being sold Making money while in debt or struggling with bills Benefiting from the extra money, especially in a tough economy Extending the life cycle of items by reusing them Supporting the idea of reducing consumption Sense of satisfaction in knowing that items will be put to good use by someone else Uncertainty involved in the selling process Difficulty in determining the right price for items Frustration of receiving offers below desired price or dealing with non-paying buyers Feeling demoralised if treasured items don't sell Potential dissatisfaction with the final amount received after all the effort eBay fees and the impact on the final selling price Potentia
S1 E114 · Fri, October 20, 2023
#114 What if I regret dehoarding? Overcoming the fear of regret and letting go
Subscribe to the podcast In this episode, I look at the topic of regret when it comes to dehoarding. Drawing from my own experiences, I delve into the fear of regret that often plagues individuals who hoard. She discusses the negative impact this anticipation of regret can have on the state of our homes and our lives, as well as the importance of reframing our mindset. Through personal anecdotes and valuable reflections, That Hoarder shares how considering the potential regrets of not dehoarding and the potential benefits of letting go can help overcome this fear. She provides practical tips and strategies for navigating the journey towards a clutter-free life. Let's confront and conquer our fear of regret in the dehoarding process. Regretting hoarding, but also regretting not changing. Focus on potential regret or potential benefits Regrets and fears may hinder decluttering items. Starting slowly can prevent future regret. Making decisions without regret is nearly impossible Setting time limits and asking for help can be helpful in making difficult decisions. Occasional painful regret can be transformative. Step towards personal growth and home improvement. Importance of considering both regret and lack of regret in decision-making. Focus on potential benefits, not regret or fear Reframe questions to consider gains or missed opportunities Identify core fears to address them. Examining fears of regretting and loss of objects, emphasising a realistic perspective. Weigh the pros and cons and take measured actions Holding onto everything restricts opportunities and can lead to a limited life. Making decisions without regret is difficult, but setting time limits and seeking advice can help Sharing fears with others can quiet them. Making decisions, big or small, can bring about regrets. Others may not have experience with hoarding but can offer perspectives on overcoming regrets. Personal growth and improving coping skills can enhance our lives and homes. Anticipation of regret in hoarding Negative impact on homes and lives Insurance policy approach to dehoarding Battle with fear of regret We forget to anticipate regret of not taking action Potential future regret from not making homes easier to live in Considering what might be missed out on if not taking action Reframing questions to include potential benefits Personal experience of not regretting donating to charity shops Focusing on potential benefits instead of potential regret Identifying the core fear beyond the fear of regret Addressing and assessing the fear Examples of fears related to specific objects or ite
S1 E113 · Fri, October 13, 2023
#113 Batching: the pathway to tangible results and motivation for hoarders
Subscribe to the podcast Today's episode is all about batching and hoarding. Have you ever started a task only to get sidetracked and end up feeling disheartened and unproductive? Well, you're not alone. In this episode, I explore the concept of batching tasks together and how it can help you overcome the distractions and actually get things done. Join me as we delve into the world of productivity strategies, context switching, and the positive benefits of batching tasks. Get ready to declutter your mind and your home and find the encouragement you need to keep going. Stay tuned for some practical tips and insights on how to make batching work for you. Let's get started! For people who easily get sidetracked and lose focus quickly Using technique to focus on tasks efficiently More focus leads to increased productivity and visible results Batch tasks for efficiency and effectiveness Batching tasks simplifies decision-making and improves efficiency Batching tasks helps with transitions and procrastination Create a schedule for regular batched tasks Batch based on area, category, or activity Feeling unaccomplished by distractions when trying to complete tasks Focus on one task at a time to accomplish more and see noticeable results, providing motivation and encouragement Allows for a fresh perspective on completed work and saving time and energy Batching tasks simplifies decision-making, reduces analysis paralysis, and allows for forward planning, increasing productivity Helps with transitions and initiating task Beneficial for dehoarding, depending on progress. Establishing a schedule for regular batched tasks may be helpfu Batch items based on area, category, or activity. Stay focused and redirect distractions by saying "No, I'm working on this for now." Explanation of context switching and its impact on focus and productivity More noticeable results at the end of a decluttering session Boost in motivation and encouragement Importance of visible progress in overcoming feelings of disheartenment Comparison between concentrated progress in one area vs. scattered progress throughout the space Difference between visible and hidden progress Encouragement to apply batching techniques to stay focused and improve effectiveness in organising efforts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E112 · Fri, October 06, 2023
#112 Executive function, executive dysfunction and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Subscribe to the podcast Today, Dr. Jan Eppingstall is here to shed light on the connection between executive function, executive dysfunction, and hoarding behaviour. We explore how executive function impacts our ability to organise and declutter our living spaces and uncover the challenges individuals face when it comes to decision-making, mental flexibility, and working memory. We'll also discuss strategies for improving executive function and overcoming the obstacles that hoarding behaviour presents. Depression and health conditions can impair focus Nervous shutdown and self-compassion during stress Trick yourself into starting Network atrophies when not engaged Issue with sticking to tasks due to desire for novelty Reducing food shops, using what's in cupboards Procrastination hinders progress, but changing behaviours helps Mental flexibility essential Flexible thinking in shopping, problem solving, creativity Executive dysfunction hinders organisation; hoarding makes it harder Lack of experience in decision-making, cutting corners Perspective and help are important when organising Lack of space hinders planning Executive functions affects losing things Fear of loss worsens clutter See-through boxes and labels Mindset affects executive function, self-care is crucial Many conditions cause brain fog and difficulty focusing Understanding our executive functions helps us manage stress, improve awareness, and leverage strengths Reflection can inform future behaviour Nervous system shuts down, could be triggered by dissociation Engaging in tasks helps people focus and enter a flow state Perfectionism = rigid thinking, efforts towards being more flexible Trying to organise a hoard is destined to fail Can we reassure ourselves when we put things away? Minimise visual distractions, motivation to improve surroundings Take care of your mind, believe in yourself, and prioritie self-care for better executive function Is difficulty organising due to executive function issues or the sheer quantity of items? Difficulty getting rid of things once they are brought into the home due to the endowment effect Suggestions for improving working memory through mental maths and storytelling memory games Identifying triggers and strategies for preventing or dealing with shutdowns Practicing self-compassion and reducing stress for better action-taking Introduction of the task positive network (TPN) and flow state during tasks Downsides of hyperfocus and its impact on cognitive attention Weakening or atrophy of the TPN due to lack of exercise How depress
S1 E111 · Fri, September 29, 2023
#111 Do you have spares of your spares? Do you have backups of your backups?
Subscribe to the podcast Today, I'm delving into the world of excess and overstocked items. I have some insights on how to navigate the clutter of spares and backups that can often accumulate in our lives and explore the challenges of hoarding spares, the fear of running out, and the art of letting go. It's time to take action and make space for what truly matters. Let's dive in! Too many backups, no space for essentials Too many spares hinder finding things Hoarders stock up, but it's problematic Keeping spares, especially when on sale Overbuying and hoarding wastes time and money Allocating space reduces overstocking, prompts evaluation Consider cost, availability, and ease of replacement. Assess necessity based on these factors Evaluate spare items for necessary maintenance Risk and fear limit our daily lives Consider reasonable quantity and necessity, not excess We accumulate unnecessary backups, making it difficult to organize and discard unused items Keeping too many unnecessary items makes it hard to find what we really want Letting go takes faith but leads to easier access Buying in bulk is cheaper Overbuying and hoarding leads to an unmanageable situation, preventing you from enjoying life Fear of running out is understandable but excessive stockpiling is not helpful or cost-effective Dispose of obsolete tech and excess items, donate or discard thoughtfully Allocating a specific space for overstock might help control it Consider limiting the number of spares and keeping track of inventory Consider the cost and availability of replacing items. If easy and affordable, no spares may be needed. If costly or hard to find, consider quantity and storage Check if your spare items need maintenance. Don't keep duplicates if they don't work. Consider safety and cost when replacing items Balancing risk and spares in daily life, reassess as needed The waste feels horrible, but you can learn from it and make more conscious decisions about buying Don't beat yourself up, instead turn discomfort into determination to avoid future waste Think before buying unnecessary items Assess the importance and potential consequences of running out Balance the need for preparedness with space and cost Proportionality is key The concept of overstocking and hoarding spares Keeping a record of the quantity of spare items to alleviate anxiety about running out Difficulty of finding desired items among a clutter of unused items Taking Action to Get Out of Clutter Importance of taking action to declutter and organise Acknowledge fear of being without certain items, but encou
S1 E110 · Fri, September 22, 2023
#110 Do you own your stuff or does it own you? Freeing yourself and your home with Jasmine Sleigh, author of Being Owned
For the transcript for this episode, visit http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk Subscribe to the podcast Jasmine Sleigh is a professional declutterer and has spent the past decade helping people to free up space. She focuses not only on physical belongings but also on the emotional and psychological aspects of decluttering. In today's episode, Jasmine likens her role to a dance, where she carefully navigates through uncertainties and potential triggers for her clients and stresses the importance of providing support and encouragement throughout the decluttering process. We also discuss Jasmine's book, Being Owned: A Decade in Professional Decluttering , where she expands on the concepts discussed in this episode. Let's dive into the world of decluttering with Jasmine Sleigh. Facilitating crafts and donating unused items. Professional decluttering: a personal and people-centric approach Handling belongings requires adaptability and improvisation Sort out space, prioritise essentials, declutter Understanding lives through belongings; an intimate job Stuff has power, can be moved Keep belongings accessible for ease of use Helping people achieve their goals is the key Positive actions in a cost of living crisis Jasmine wanted to write a book about her experiences as a professional declutterer, focusing on the poignant stories of her clients and celebrating her achievements She also felt frustrated by people's misconceptions about the job The importance of using and sharing possessions, especially in the context of crafting and hobbies. Jasmine can only go as far as clients are willing to let her Training others has further shaped her understanding Emotional attachments and recent purchases may require more distance The power of belongings and the impact they can have Ensuring easy access and a comfortable living environment for individuals is the main priority Goal is to make people happier in their homes Using resources for good and the availability of second-hand items in a crisis Sorting through belongings and determining their importance in one's life narrative The Unpredictability of the Job Need for adaptability in dealing with unexpected situations Describing the job as a "dance" due to uncertainties and triggers Being present and flexible in the moment, avoiding over-preparation Ineffectiveness of threats and negative consequences The Process of Decluttering Recognising that there is no quick fix or magic solution Examples of finding forgotten items Belongings becomin
S1 E109 · Fri, September 15, 2023
#109 When you feel like giving up: dehoarding when it’s really hard
In today's episode, we're diving into the topic of when you feel like giving up. We'll be exploring the struggles, frustrations, and moments of doubt that can arise during the journey of overcoming compulsive hoarding. We'll uncover strategies to stay motivated and find the strength to keep going. Join me as we navigate the highs and lows of this challenging process and discover the power of perseverance. So, grab a cup of tea and press play! For the transcript for this episode, visit http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk Subscribe to the podcast Reminder: Why was change important? Self-examine motivation for new things. Stay present, take care of yourself, embrace failure. Challenges and triumphs in a long journey and a big project. Setting expectations based on order rather than timings is preferable for someone who finds it difficult to predict. Learn from experience and set realistic expectations. Consider the burden of letting others down if you communicate expectations to them. Setting milestones helps celebrate small wins. Clearing the kitchen table can be a goal, leading to a sense of accomplishment and motivation. Having compassion for oneself is crucial. A Facebook comment inspired compassion from children of hoarders, encouraging someone to not give up and be a hero for their kids. Change up your habits, shift timing, remember why you started. Remember why decluttering was important to you. Reflect on your motivation and discover new reasons, like enjoying extra space, treating yourself, or flexibility while working from home. Taking breaks and finding inspiration from others helps prevent burnout during long-term projects. Look to successful people for motivation, even outside of your specific field. Applying mindset to various areas of life, replacing unproductive habits, assessing and making adjustments, and the potential benefits of visualizing success. Acknowledging slow progress is better than no progress Feelings of frustration and impatience with the current situation Be patient and work with circumstances Mindful Approach to Avoid Feeling Overwhelmed Being present in the moment instead of rushing to the next thing Appreciating and being present in small tasks Practicing mindfulness and avoiding constant engagement with everything Importance of physical, mental, and emotional self-care Maintaining motivation through scheduled and unscheduled breaks Viewing failure as a learning experience, not a reason to give up Importance of setting specific goals and milestones in decluttering Celebrating accomplishments as motivation Breaking tasks into manageable chunks to reduce overwhelm Replacing rigi
S1 E108 · Fri, September 08, 2023
#108 From indecisiveness to empowered choices: 27 practical tips for overcoming decision-making challenges in hoarding
In this episode, we explore decision making and its connection to hoarding. I dive into neuroscience research, exploring the neural mechanisms of decision making in hoarding disorder, discover how individuals categorise their own possessions versus those of others, and how this impacts their ability to make decisions. I talk ways to improve decision making skills. From flipping a coin to considering our values, setting priorities, and seeking advice, I explore practical techniques that can help anyone struggling with indecisiveness. Along the way, I tackle the fear of uncertainty and how it can hinder decision making. I delve into the different decision making styles that researchers have identified and how understanding these styles can help. For the transcript for this episode, visit http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk Subscribe to the podcast Hoarding OCD patients struggle with decision making. Differences in decision making for hoarders. Anticipating regret Test small decisions Gather information, set time limits for decisions Accepting uncertainty Toss a coin, keep perspective, ask advice. Consider long-term consequences, stick to decisions. Start small; gain confidence in decision-making. Learning from past decisions improves future choices. Hoarders report anxiety and procrastination in decision making. Lack of self-trust skews decision-making Hoarding disorder linked to impulsive decisions and self-reliance. Differences in categorising own items compared to others' Writing down thoughts can clarify complexity and solve problems Fear of mistakes leads to decision avoidance. Hoarders anticipate regret Ask more than "what if" Perspective, flexibility, seek advice. Stick to decisions and avoid second-guessing or agonising over them. Psychology Today: 35,000 choices made daily Decisions can be overwhelming The butterfly effect and the impact of seemingly insignificant decisions Strategies for Decision Making in Hoarding Imaginary Person Technique Aligning decisions with values to prioritise what is truly important How values can guide decision-making in hoarding situations Neural Mechanisms of Decision Making in Hoarding Study involving brain scans and paper items Tossing a coin to make decisions and considering feelings about the result Setting priorities, asking "what if" questions Being open to different perspectives Tolerating uncertainty Understanding Decision Making Styles No definitive set of decision making styles Cultivating Compassion and Makin
S1 E107 · Fri, September 01, 2023
#107 Things that look like hoarding but aren’t: ADHD, depression, autism, OCD, OCPD and more
In today's episode, we'll be delving into things that look like hoarding but aren't. Joining me is the incredible Dr. Jan Eppingstall, a specialist in hoarding disorder. For the transcript for this episode, visit http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk Subscribe to the podcast We explore the how to determine if someone has hoarding tendencies, shedding light on hoarding and its connections to other mental health conditions, such as OCD and OCPD. We'll discuss the criteria for these disorders and how they relate to hoarding behaviors. But hoarding is just the tip of the iceberg. We'll also explore the relationship between hoarding, autism, ADHD, and depression, uncovering the common symptoms and challenges in these overlapping conditions. So, join us as we discuss things that may look like hoarding but aren't. Understanding the cause of hoarding behaviours OCD and OCPD are mental disorders characterized by anxiety and rigid personality traits. Hoarding was associated with OCPD Overlap of symptoms Depression makes daily tasks exhausting and meaningless Autism and ADHD: understanding and terminology Often mask to fit in Recognise sensory needs, respect neurodivergence, ask questions Rejection sensitive dysphoria, impulsiveness, and addiction in ADHD Understanding the causes of hoarding behaviours is important OCD and OCPD are mental disorders. OCD causes anxiety and impairs functioning. OCPD is a personality disorder with rigid traits Hoarding was considered a subtype of OCPD People with OCPD may not see their behaviours as problematic and may exhaust themselves trying to meet unrealistic standards Do individuals feel responsible for the welfare of objects, are they emotionally attached to them, do they experience distress from clutter or the act of saving? A potential opposite extreme of compulsive minimalism Feeling exhausted and worthless, maintaining a tidy house becomes unimportant. A depression nest forms Hoarding often starts at a young age. Time and untreated depression can worsen it Bipolar disorder Increased understanding and awareness leading to more assessments. Women are often overlooked Understanding and accommodating individuals with neurodivergence is important Sensory needs and routines may vary ADHD is highly heritable but can also be influenced by environmental stressors and trauma Variable attention stimulus trait Creating your own options and not being afraid of failure in self-help ADHD, depression, and hoarding often co-occur Other conditions like OCD, anxiety, bipolar disorder, social anxiety, bulimia, binge eating, gambling, and persona
S1 E106 · Fri, August 25, 2023
#106 The Art of Letting Go: Navigating emotional clutter blocks with Tracy McCubbin
I speak to Tracy McCubbin, an expert in decluttering, organising, and overcoming the emotional attachment to our belongings. With years of hands-on experience and a deep understanding of clutter, Tracy helps people reclaim their spaces. Tracy shares invaluable insights into the psychology behind stuff and the challenges that arise when inherited items become emotional burdens. She challenges the notion that objects hold inherent meaning and encourages listeners to question the attachment they have to their possessions. Tracy also provides practical advice on how to approach decluttering and organising. She dispels the myth of overnight transformations often portrayed on social media, reminding us that real progress takes time and effort. She shares anecdotes, including the story of the infamous painting of dogs playing poker and its unexpected journey to a new home. Join us as we explore clutter blocks through six items of mine, For the transcript for this episode, visit http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk Subscribe to the podcast Introduction to the clutter blocks and their origin Birthed from hands-on work with people and their experiences with hoarding disorder The struggle of inheriting items from deceased family members Difficulty in letting go of things due to sentimental attachment or financial value Objects hold no inherent meaning, we assign meaning to them Example of the speaker's wedding dress and societal pressure to hold onto sentimental items The changing importance of objects over time Acquisition of things becoming easier, questioning the need to hold onto them Tackling decluttering and organizing separately Not expecting immediate results Unrealistic expectations created by social media Working at your own pace Time and energy limitations due to work and family The initial chaos before improvement during the decluttering process Hiring professionals for cleaning services if deep cleaning is not enjoyable Selling or giving away unwanted items to avoid clutter Celebrating progress by hiring a cleaning company and taking a break Resisting pressure to do things one doesn't enjoy Letting go of items and finding them in the hands of those who need them Separating decluttering, organizing, and cleaning as separate tasks Avoiding overwhelm and making the process more manageable Replacing reminders of painful memories with positive ones Not feeling obligated to keep crafts made by others A client with a collection of birdhouses made by their father Reflecting on the concept of regret and the things that are never thought about again Choosing cash over a sale purse Declutter, organize, and cle
S1 E105 · Fri, August 18, 2023
#105 Embracing the path of least resistance: finding ease in the journey when overcoming hoarding
For the transcript for this episode, visit http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk Subscribe to the podcast Today, I dive into the importance of setting up systems to make dehoarding easier and less resistant. We'll discuss how examining the structure of our lives can help us determine what can be done to make the decluttering process more manageable. Plus, we'll explore the concept of choosing realistic timings that fit with our individual lifestyles for successful decluttering. We'll also explore the idea that the path of least resistance is often seen as negative, implying that someone isn't trying hard enough. In the realm of dealing with hoarding, however, the path of least resistance can be a gift. I'll explain how taking this approach doesn't mean avoiding challenges altogether, but rather making the overwhelming task of decluttering more manageable. Join me as I navigate the intricate world of compulsive hoarding, exploring the strategies and mindsets that can help us overcome this challenge. Get ready to uncover the path of least resistance. Choosing the simplest option to overcome challenges Uncertainty, struggle, progress in dealing with tasks Create a system to enable donating items Overcome barriers and get things out Simplify decisions, prioritise, and start somewhere Guidelines and formulas Confidence and small steps Choose the easiest option to start moving. Dealing with difficult challenges can be overwhelming. No shame in taking the simplest path Uncertainty improved by experience and research Need to be intentional to prevent worsening Think about what stops you and create a system to enable change Have a bag ready for charity donations Start somewhere, any room or item, and adjust approach as needed. Examining the structure of your life to facilitate decluttering The negative perception of the path of least resistance Acknowledgment of the importance of embracing challenges, but hoarding is already a significant one Importance of making progress and having mental energy Being more selective in future donation choices Prioritising getting rid of items over ensuring they leave the house perfectly Practical examples of following the path of least resistance in donating items The challenge of determining where to start decluttering Importance of thinking about structures that hinder decluttering The value of creating systems or structures for ease of decluttering The importance of following the path of least resistance to overcome difficult challenges Barriers to getting rid of items, such as the need for perfection Considering the e
S1 E104 · Fri, August 11, 2023
#104 From sticky substances to mouldy messes: tackling the really gross bits when dehoarding
In this episode, we will be tackling the really gross and icky bits of dehoarding. It's not the most glamorous topic, but it's an essential part of the journey to a clutter-free life. We'll be discussing everything from dealing with unpleasant smells to handling sticky or disgusting substances that can accumulate over time. I've got some practical tips and strategies to help you navigate these challenges. Dealing with gross things is important, but don't beat yourself up about it Take responsibility, not blame, use it to motivate improvement Presence of mould or goo in home is harmful physically, mentally, emotionally. Use gloves and a face mask to protect against anything gross or moldy. Use a grabber if needed Adding essential oil drops to a face mask or using Vick's VapoRub improves smell. Learn from experience, tackle issues one by one, prevent future problems: avoid bulk buying, store properly The importance of addressing the "gross and icky" bits of dehoarding Learning from unpleasant experiences and taking pride in overcoming them Tackling issues or challenges one by one in a methodical manner Taking proactive measures to prevent similar situations from arising again Practical tips for dealing with sticky or gross substances Addressing them individually until the whole house is clean Being cautious with bulk food purchases and storing perishable items properly Using bags for cleaning purposes is a logical use, not a waste Spraying antibacterial spray after cleaning to ensure cleanliness The importance of not avoiding unpleasant tasks Facing the situation head-on because it won't go away on its own Being realistic about what needs to be addressed Quick resolution of tasks that have been avoided for a long time The importance of ventilation to prevent mould and fungus spores from spreading The need for Personal Protective Equipment (PPE) when dealing with harmful substances Taking responsibility without blaming oneself Using experiences as motivation to improve hoarding habits Promoting a proactive attitude towards personal growth and improvement Overcoming the fear and worries associated with gross or unpleasant tasks Using gloves, face masks, and grabber tools to avoid touching or inhaling harmful substances Prioritising health and wellbeing when removing gross or unidentifiable items The consequences of failure to clean up grossness, including contamination and more waste Accepting that some things may not be savable and may need to be discarded Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E103 · Fri, August 04, 2023
#103 Scarcity and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall
With therapist Dr Jan Eppingstall, I look at the scarcity dilemma, uncovering the complex relationship between fear, control, and hoarding. We explore the link between scarcity and compulsive hoarding behaviours and how marketing tactics manipulate our emotions and behaviorus, leading us to accumulate more than we need. We look at strategies and discuss the psychological reasons behind the urge to hoard and the challenging process of letting go. For the transcript for this episode, visit http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk Subscribe to the podcast Help out: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Importance of being aware of marketing tactics and their influence on emotions and behaviors. Creating a space between stimulus and response to choose how to react. Consideration of how a purchase will fit into our lives and finite home space. Advising against in-store hoarding and hiding behaviors. The urge to buy when something is believed to be scarce. Charity shops as challenging for those triggered by scarcity. Reactant theory and limited availability triggering increased attention and attraction. Psychological factors contributing to hoarding behaviour. Anxiety disorder and fear of making mistakes or being unprepared. Preference for acquiring goods now rather than having more cash later. Using possessions for control and anticipation of future needs. Anticipated regret and comparison of acquisition and non-acquisition outcomes. Scarcity perception, reactance, and fear of missing out (FOMO). Limited availability as a threat to personal freedom. Sense of urgency to buy and hoard when perceiving a shortage. FOMO as a prevalent fear of not being able to purchase. Mindset shifts and gratitude Recognising and expressing gratitude for abundance in one's life. Hoarding as compensatory behavior for insecure attachment. Filling the void of missing connections. Providing hedonistic pleasure and dopamine hit. Compensating for lacking or not acknowledging something. Finding fulfillment beyond material possessions. Importance of recognising and being grateful for small moments and human interactions. Random joy and emotional fulfillment over material things. Ethical concerns with therapists receiving constant marketing offers. Overwhelming amount of emails for online courses and discounts. Feeling uncomfortable and "icky" about this type of marketing. Effectiveness of different types of scarcity. Limited quantity
S1 E102 · Fri, July 28, 2023
#102 Turn your chair around: beginner’s mind and the power of perspective in hoarding
In today's episode, we're exploring the power of turning your chair round and embracing different perspectives. For the transcript for this episode, visit http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk Subscribe to the podcast Imagining advice from different perspectives Gaining new insights and advice Showing compassion towards yourself Questioning how things are done Exploring different ways to frame situations Beginner's Mind from Zen Buddhism: Dropping expectations and preconceived ideas Stepping out of comfort zone Initial discomfort leading to eventual comfort Trying new things can be scary but rewarding Questioning and reevaluating rules: Determining if rules are still useful and relevant Challenging yourself to break established patterns Confirmation bias: Seeking information that aligns with existing beliefs Perfectionism in organizing possessions: Energizing and motivating the organising process Believing in different possibilities Challenging the belief that things have to be a certain way forever Exploring new ways of thinking and doing things Challenging fears: Proving fears are not necessarily true Gentle self-reflection: Encouraging personal growth and understanding Turning the chair around Seeing possibilities and solutions with a fresh outlook Practicing beginner's mind and mindfulness Looking for something unrelated to existing interests Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E101 · Fri, July 21, 2023
#101 Wishcycling, the 5 Rs, and hoarding - what you need to know
For the transcript for this episode, visit http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk Subscribe to the podcast Join me as I delve into wishcycling and the connection between hoarding and sustainable practices. On this episode of Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder, I dive into the topic of wishcycling and how it relates to hoarding. I explore the concept of repairing and upcycling as effective ways to extend the lifespan of items, discussing the difference between repairing and intending to repair. I learn about the importance of following through with repair plans and setting deadlines. Wishcycling, the act of putting non-recyclable items in recycling bins, is the main topic of discussion. I explore common items that are often wishcycled, such as plastic bags and crisp/chip packets, and the negative impact it can have I highlight the recycling initiative TerraCycle, which offers recycling programs for difficult-to-recycle items. I emphasise the 5 Rs and how hoarders can focus on reducing consumption to tackle overwhelm in their homes. I also discuss the potential distractions these can pose for hoarders and the importance of prioritising oneself, the home, and the people we live with over broken or damaged items. I also look at the uncertainty surrounding recyclable items and the complexities of the recycling process, emphasising the need to question if we really need something before acquiring it. Topics: Definition of wishcycling and its negative effects Commonly wishcycled items and misconceptions The impact of wishcycling on recycling machines and materials Extending the lifespan of items through repair and upcycling Examples of effective repair and upcycling techniques The difference between repairing and intending to repair Overview of TerraCycle and its recycling programs Personal Experience with Repairing Setting a strict deadline to avoid procrastination Applying Principles of Reuse and Repair: How reducing consumption can help tackle overwhelm in hoarded homes Balancing Repair and Hoarding: Repairing as a potential distraction or excuse for hoarding Prioritising oneself and loved ones over broken or damaged items Tendency to reuse unsafe items in hoarded homes An overview of the five R's (reduce, reuse, repair, rot, recycle) The question of need and waste reduction Personal Motivation and the Environment: Survivors of trauma as environmentally motivated individuals Hoarding as a barrier to caring for the environment The personal and global benefits of reducing consumption Acknowledging uncertainties in recyclin
S1 E100 · Fri, July 14, 2023
#100 19 things I’ve learned about hoarding - and the gas man came
'If you had told me on March 30, 2021, when I put up two episodes of me rambling into my phone, that two-and a-bit years later, I would have 100 episodes live, I would have over 100,000 downloads, I would have had an array of amazing guests, I would never have believed you.' - Celebration of the podcast's 100th episode and over 100,000 downloads - Gas man visit as an opportunity to assess progress - Importance of talking about difficult topics and dismantling stigmas - Power of experimentation, curiosity, and strategic questioning - Recognizing the negative impact of self-criticism - Understanding that beating yourself up prevents action - Importance of addressing underlying patterns and reasons behind hoarding behaviors - Creativity and unconventional strategies may be necessary in overcoming hoarding tendencies. - Importance of asking strategic questions in decision-making For the transcript for this episode, visit http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk Subscribe to the podcast - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling - https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions - Twitter: @ThatHoarder - Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 - Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder - YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g - Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ - Help out: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E99 · Fri, July 07, 2023
#99 Why stuff? From Blankies to Belongings: understanding the connections between hoarding, attachment styles and excessive attachment to possessions with...
For the transcript for this episode, visit the website at http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk Subscribe to the podcast Support the show On this episode, I dive into why hoarders are so fixated on stuff. Joining me is Dr Jan Eppingstall, who looks into the theory of transitional objects developed by Winnicott and how they shape our attachment styles. We explore how these objects serve as a source of comfort and self-soothing, representing our primary caregiver. Jan discusses how uncertainty can lead to people-pleasing and masking of emotions. We also learn about the impact of insecure attachment on hoarding behaviours and the role of belongings in forging connections and fulfilling our emotional needs. We also discuss the complex interaction between genetics and environment in hoarding tendencies. Tune in for a deep dive into the psychological factors behind our attachment to our possessions. - Transitional object theory by Winnicott - The role of transitional objects in comforting children, representing the primary caregiver - How transitional objects help children become independent and manage separation anxiety - Uncertainty and people-pleasing behaviours - Excessive attachment to belongings stemming from childhood experiences - Attachment styles and secure and insecure attachment - Using possessions to gain power, impress others, make connections - Attachment theory and its impact on hoarding behaviours - The use of possessions to forge connections - Possessions as non-confrontational and not disappointing compared to people - Attachment insecurity linked to negative thoughts about self-worth, shame, and unstable identity - Growing up in a hoard leading to disorganised attachment and attachment trauma - Understanding why people attach meaning to possessions - Possessions reflecting aspects of personality, intelligence, or past achievements - Ambivalent sense of self in hoarding and its relation to identity struggles - Common themes for hoarding: avoiding negative emotions, holding onto past happiness, validating past pain - Factors contributing to hoarding: instinctual nature of stockpiling and inability to avoid engaging with possessions - Coping mechanisms, their classifications as acceptable or unacceptable, and the tipping point to excessive behaviours - John Bowlby's attachment theory and its focus on distress and anxiety in babies when separated from primary caregiver - Influence of early separation on psychological well-being, based on experimental studies during the Blitz - The role of transitional object attachment - Mary Ainsworth's extension of Bowlby's research t
S1 E98 · Fri, June 30, 2023
#98 The power and potential of curiosity in hoarding
Topics covered: - The power and potential of curiosity in hoarding - The benefits of changing beliefs and embracing new perspectives - Admitting mistakes and apologising as a less stressful alternative - The importance of admitting when you don’t know something - Using curiosity to understand why tasks or environments seem impossible - How therapy can increase curiosity and explore hoarding thoughts and patterns - Accepting uncertainty and unanswered questions - Being open to new experiences - The positive impact of curiosity on mental health and personal growth - Seeking out new information, different perspectives, and asking questions - Examples of curiosity, such as exploring fears or understanding others' experiences - Embracing creativity as a way to foster curiosity - Engaging with people from different backgrounds and life stories - Encouraging open communication, learning, and challenging assumptions - The importance of trying new things multiple times before forming an opinion - Deepening connections through a curious outlook - Strategies to encourage curiosity, like treating tasks as experiments - Framing dehoarding tasks as an experiment - The effectiveness of the curious and experimental mindset in dehoarding - Thinking outside the box for a more creative and innovative outlook - Acceptance of different people and ideas through curiosity - Adding depth to life through trying new things and learning - Being present and engaged through attention to details - Learning from mistakes and cultivating personal growth through curiosity - Feeling safe to make mistakes and explore for curiosity to thrive - The numerous benefits of developing a curious outlook - Opening up communication and expanding one's world through exploration - The ripple effect of bravery and curiosity on other aspects of life For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Subscribe to the podcast Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E97 · Fri, June 23, 2023
#97 What to do with bits and bobs - how to organise miscellaneous items when dehoarding your home
"Don't fall into the temptation of having a box for any old miscellaneous thing that doesn't have an obvious home, because I think that leads to the same problem you've already got, just in boxes instead of spread around the house or instead of on the floor or instead of where things currently are." Dealing with miscellaneous items without an obvious home or purpose Host's personal success and weird dilemma Listener secret Top tip For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Subscribe to the podcast Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E96 · Fri, June 16, 2023
#96 15 common (and annoying) myths and misconceptions about hoarding disorder
There are a lot of myths and misconceptions about hoarding and hoarding disorder and hoarders and how much people misunderstand this weird condition. And so I started jotting down some of them as I thought of them and I also asked on various different social channels what myths and misconceptions you heard a lot and which ones annoyed you the most and wow, you feel as strongly as I do about there being a lot of them around. So I have narrowed it down to 15 and I'm going to talk you through them and how they manifest and why they are wrong. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darlinghttps://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E95 · Fri, June 09, 2023
#95 Shame and hoarding with Professor Luna Dolezal
"Shame is called a pro-social emotion insofar as it's pro-social because it facilitates us having harmonious social relationships. "The problem is that sometimes the norms and standards of our group can be unjust or unfair. "And so you might start to feel shame when there's no reason for you to feel shame." - Professor Luna Dolezal For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E94 · Fri, June 02, 2023
#94 Sunk Cost Fallacy and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
The Sunk Cost Fallacy is a cognitive bias that sees us continuing a behaviour despite evidence that it's not effective because we have previously invested significant resources, time, money and / or effort. And if we step away from our investment, it will become a loss. For hoarders, we see this manifest as ' I've kept it this long, I'd better keep hold of it. Or I paid so much for it, I’d better keep it.' For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E93 · Fri, May 26, 2023
#93 Animal hoarding with Dr Mary Dozier
"They very much do in their mind feel like they're saving the animal. And many times they are the person who truly did save that animal that they found on a highway. That they took an animal from a place that was objectively unsafe for the animal and brought them into their home. And I think where the disconnect happens is the person's insight into whether or not their home is the right home for that animal." - Dr Mary Dozier For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E92 · Fri, May 19, 2023
#92 How to resist freebies (and why we love them) as people who hoard
Just because something looks free doesn't mean it is. Because it's not all about the money you hand over for something. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E91 · Fri, May 12, 2023
#91 National Hoarding Awareness Week with Heather Matuozzo of Clouds End
"You are in a state of panic. They're in a state of panic. They need their stuff. You need it gone. And if you don't know that equation, then all sorts of things go wrong. But if you do know it, you can make it work for everybody concerned." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E90 · Fri, May 05, 2023
#90 23 dehoarding tasks you can achieve in a weekend
Small-ish but significant things you can achieve and give yourself a huge pat on the back by Monday morning. And if for you weekend means something different, then maybe these are tasks you can do on a Tuesday. None of it is set in stone. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E89 · Fri, April 28, 2023
#89 Trauma, empathy, environmentalism and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Saving the world one object at a time will not save you. Your experiences have shaped how you perceive the world and those in it. You can't rescue everything. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E88 · Fri, April 21, 2023
#88 The myth of tough love: why self-hate isn’t a sustainable motivator for hoarders
We think we deserve it, first of all. Of course I call myself useless because I'm clearly useless. And we also think it will motivate us. We think we can't give ourselves an easy time because if we just keep giving ourselves a hard time, it will push us to do the thing we have been trying and failing to do, or the thing that we've not even tried to do, but we feel we should do. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E87 · Fri, April 14, 2023
#87 Papering over the cracks - when short-term fixes get in the way of long-term progress
Build better systems as well as better lifeboats. This is not inevitable. This is not our destiny. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E86 · Sat, April 08, 2023
#86 14 hoarders from history from a US president to a multitude of artists
14 hoarders from history, including a US president, numerous artists, film director, fashion designer. It's really interesting to look back at how this isn't exclusively a modern malady. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E85 · Fri, March 31, 2023
#85 How to ask for help - professional organisers and hoarding with Declutter Hub’s Lesley Spellman
"What do I want, the space or the stuff? What's more important to me, the progress or the barrier?" - Declutter Hub's Lesley Spellman asks the important questions. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E84 · Fri, March 24, 2023
#84 Cognitive dissonance and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
" We are built for seeking out that order and putting evidence together that fits with our beliefs; without it, not much would have been achieved by humans. It's like we build our understanding of the world through a collection of knowledge blocks. And it's the way we make sense of our surroundings." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E83 · Fri, March 17, 2023
#83 Instant gratification vs delayed gratification and hoarding
Find out the unlikely story of how novelist Victor Hugo learned to delay gratification in order to write The Hunchback of Notre Dame. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E82 · Fri, March 10, 2023
#82 Dehoarding when you’re drowning with KC Davis of Struggle Care
"If you're going, I wish this was different. I understand why laundry is important. I would really like to be wearing clean clothes. I would really like to be able to walk in my closet and know where my things are and not feel overwhelmed. "Like, congratulations, you're motivated." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E81 · Fri, March 03, 2023
#81 14 things to never, ever do when dehoarding
"Sometimes plans work for a bit and then they stop suiting us or they stop suiting the circumstances. Sometimes they were never quite right in the first place. And if you get stubborn and dig your heels in because you said you'd do it this way even when that's not working, all that does is disadvantage you and the progress you could be making if you weren't setting yourself up to fail" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E80 · Fri, February 24, 2023
#80 4 teeny tiny things that actually help with dehoarding
This week, I am going to talk about four teeny tiny things that are making a bigger difference to my dehoarding efforts than, in all fairness, they should. They are punching above their weight, as ideas go. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E79 · Fri, February 17, 2023
#79 Parents who hoard, how hoarding affects children with Dr Jan Eppingstall
"We need to be the one to break the cycle before the thing you've inherited passes down to the next generation. You might think that your inheritance is cash or a house, but it could actually just be trauma. So be the one to break the cycle." - Dr Jan Eppingstall For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E78 · Fri, February 10, 2023
#78 From child of a hoarder to professional organiser - an interview with Tracy McCubbin
"Really early on, I was like, this isn't about the stuff. This just isn't about the stuff." - Tracy McCubbin, professional organiser and child of a hoarder. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Tracy McCubbin Tracy on Instagram Tracy on TikTok Making Space, Clutter Free by Tracy McCubbin Make Space for Happiness by Tracy McCubbin Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E77 · Fri, February 03, 2023
#77 Stop demonising hoarders for clicks and views
The portrayal of hoarders is really damaging. It contributes to stigma. It's very othering, people talk about like we’re some separate species to look at in a zoo. And I think dramatising what is a mental illness i s... well, it's unhelpful, but I think it goes beyond unhelpful, into actively destructive. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E76 · Fri, January 27, 2023
#76 Vicious cycles, virtuous cycles and hoarding
Each step in each of those cycles just perpetuates the other steps. And so we spiral downwards, because we feel we can't get out of the cycle. And the thing with vicious cycles, by definition is that you're setting yourself up to fail. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ jMYBSEiDcsULd5Ss3h87 Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E75 · Fri, January 20, 2023
#75 Anthropomorphism and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
"We're wired to connect, we need others to co-regulate our emotions and in order to feel a sense of belonging, we'll do anything to achieve this." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E74 · Fri, January 13, 2023
#74 Couples and hoarding: An interview with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist
"The work is how do you get out of defensiveness and into generosity?" - Couples therapist Laura Silverstein, on couples and hoarding. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E73 · Fri, January 06, 2023
#73 Subverting the word of the year
"Big and bold can be quite performative. But it's not necessarily that useful. It might look good briefly. But you don't often get the long-term change you're looking for. " For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Bonus · Fri, December 30, 2022
Remix: Trauma and hoarding: an interview with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
So I haven't missed an episode of this podcast since October 2021 including publishing on Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve last year. Every week, brand new content. And I think I deserve a couple of weeks off. But fear not! For two weeks, I am republishing some previous episodes that I know you valued before. I am a big believer in re-listening to things you've already heard, because you can pick up all kinds of new things that you missed the first time around. Also, I know that some podcasts stopped releasing content altogether over the break. But not everybody celebrates Christmas and New Year, not everybody is part of a culture that values those traditions. And also not everybody enjoys this time of year (including me, that's a secret). So, for you, enjoy! For the full transcript, click here . For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / <a href='http:
Bonus · Fri, December 23, 2022
Remix 2-in-1: Giving gifts, getting gifts, and what to do with unwanted gifts
So I haven't missed an episode of this podcast since October 2021 including publishing on Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve last year. Every week, brand new content. And I think I deserve a couple of weeks off. But fear not! For two weeks, I am republishing some previous episodes that I know you valued before. I am a big believer in re-listening to things you've already heard, because you can pick up all kinds of new things that you missed the first time around. Also, I know that some podcasts stopped releasing content altogether over the break. But not everybody celebrates Christmas and New Year, not everybody is part of a culture that values those traditions. And also not everybody enjoys this time of year (including me, that's a secret). So, for you, enjoy! For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ <a href='https://ko-fi.c
S1 E72 · Sat, December 17, 2022
#72 A deeper kind of end-of-year review
"If we want to make more progress, I think the best way of doing that is to look not just at what we achieved and didn't achieve, but what worked and what didn't. Because then we can do more of what worked and less of what didn't work." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E71 · Fri, December 09, 2022
#71 Dehoarding: where to start
Where to start when dehoarding your home? I'm asked it a lot and it's a huge question, and not one with a simple answer. In this episode, I take you through both the physical and psychological places to start with addressing your hoard. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E70 · Fri, December 02, 2022
#70 Resilience and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
The research into resilience in the sphere of positive psychology does indicate that we can practice and develop our resilience. And that starts with awareness, then acceptance of where we are right now and a plan to build on our strengths and weaknesses. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E69 · Fri, November 25, 2022
#69 Negative self-talk, cognitive restructuring and hoarding
Whenever anything goes wrong, whether it's something terrible I've done, all the way to just being in a traffic jam, I find a way to yell at myself in my own head about what a terrible person I am and how awful I am and why everything in the world that's bad is my fault. It's a really exhausting way to live and yet it is pretty constant in my head. And I know when I hear from you that it's not just me, we all I think give ourselves a really hard time, we are our own worst critic. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E68 · Fri, November 18, 2022
#68 Money and hoarding and money hoarding
"One extreme is that a hoarder can shop compulsively, spend a lot of money, get into debt because of buying so many things and get into real financial trouble because of the hoarding. "But the other extreme is people who hoard money. And I'm not talking particularly about the billionaires, although obviously they hoard money. That's not really what I'm talking about. I'm talking about everyday people who you hear about it don't you? Somebody dies and then it turns out, they had millions of pounds in the bank. And often they lived a really frugal life. "They wanted to save money the whole time. And yet, unbeknownst to everybody, they had a lot of money in the bank, often refusing to spend even when they really really needed to." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E67 · Fri, November 11, 2022
#67 What a trip away from home taught me about hoarding
Everything in a hoarded home is so much more difficult. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E66 · Fri, November 04, 2022
#66 Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and hoarding - a deep dive with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
"ACT promotes accepting what is outside of your personal control, and committing to action that improves and enriches your life. That's kind of in a nutshell. But to understand ACT, and how it works, there is a need to touch on the theory that underpins it." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E65 · Fri, October 28, 2022
#65 Breaking bad habits in hoarding and acquiring
" There's something within us that feels like it's a solution, even if it's, in reality, a massively maladaptive one that has destructive consequences." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E64 · Fri, October 21, 2022
#64 What you can do for Future You
"If you want to be the kind of person who goes running every day, you have to start running. If you want to be the kind of person who cooks from scratch every day, you have to learn to cook. If you want to be the kind of person who reads a lot of books, you have to start reading books. And if you want to live in a dehoarded home, you need to dehoard your home." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E63 · Fri, October 14, 2022
#63 Grief and loss and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
Bereavement or loss can act as one of the types of trauma that could spark or intensify hoarding disorder. And there's a phenomenon called Grief Hoarding, where somebody dies and a loved one takes in all of their stuff. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E62 · Fri, October 07, 2022
#62 Poverty, minimalism and hoarding
Why do I find those empty spaces so anxiety provoking? And why do I find them so devoid of personality? And so why do I associate stuff with soul and personality? For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E61 · Sat, October 01, 2022
#61 Embracing imperfect solutions and partial remedies when dealing with hoarding
"So think of embracing imperfect solutions as a counter to perfectionism." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E60 · Fri, September 23, 2022
#60 Cognitive behavioural therapy and hoarding with Sarah Rees, CBT therapist
"So you'd be wanting to think about which emotion it’s soothing, and helping people put in place other strategies. Because if you're going to take away one behaviour, which would be the hoarding, you have to, if that's meeting a need, you need to be replacing that with something so you're not leaving people without useful tools." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E59 · Fri, September 16, 2022
#59 What OHIO and DOOM have to do with hoarding
"So today I am going to talk about DOOM. And I'm going to talk about OHIO. And I'm going to talk about how DOOM and OHIO relate to hoarding, as well as executive dysfunction, and some other stuff." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E58 · Fri, September 09, 2022
#58 Self-sabotage and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall
"We don't do things for no reason. So what is the need? If we recognise that we're doing this behaviour, what's the need that that self-sabotage fulfils?" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E57 · Fri, September 02, 2022
#57 Are hoarders lazy? I think you’d be surprised...
Lazy people don't lie awake at night thinking about whether they're a terrible person because they threw away a scribbled shopping list from 2014. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E56 · Fri, August 26, 2022
#56 OCD and hoarding with Jenna Overbaugh, OCD therapist (who also has OCD)
"We all have the same thoughts, there are other moms out there who had all the same types of thoughts that I had. But where people with OCD go a little bit different is that they tend to think that those thoughts are significant somehow. They interpret those thoughts as being significant." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Jenna on Instagram All The Hard Things podcast https://www.treatmyocd.com/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E55 · Fri, August 19, 2022
#55 My experience of hiring a hoarding clearance firm - the good, the bad and the terrifyingly ugly
"So that lack of control over each and every decision was both terrifying and liberating at the same time. I liked somebody taking that out of my hands. And I hated somebody taking that out of my hands." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E54 · Fri, August 12, 2022
#54 Compulsive acquiring and hoarding: how to stop with Dr Jan Eppingstall
"I know that people feel sick with regret when they go out on a binge and come back, they've had that almost dissociative episode where they rushed off to the shops and bought all this stuff and come home and see it all together and have this overwhelming feeling of regret." "Or when all the Amazon boxes arrive and you're just like, 'Oh, what have I done?'" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E53 · Fri, August 05, 2022
#53 The Endowment Effect and hoarding
"Why do we endow extra value on things we own compared to things we don't own?" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 Pinterest: That Hoarder / https://www.pinterest.com/ThatHoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E52 · Fri, July 29, 2022
#52 When you need to declutter urgently
"It might be that your landlord is doing an inspection, it might be that you've had a leak and it's going through to the flat below so you need to let somebody in to fix it. It might be that your electricity has blown. But for some reason, that has become unavoidable, you have to let somebody in and you are panicking." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E51 · Fri, July 22, 2022
#51 6 dehoarding facts that aren’t discussed enough
"Dehoarding is hard. But it's a means to an end and it can get you somewhere good. Not dehoarding… sure, you're not having the stress of dehoarding, but you're having the immense stress of living knowing that if there's a fire, firefighters might not be able to get to you. That's also hard." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E50 · Fri, July 15, 2022
#50 Compulsive acquiring and hoarding: why we acquire with Dr Jan Eppingstall
"We seek out behaviours that release the largest dopamine hit we can, we feel so good, we do it again. And soon it becomes a habit." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E49 · Fri, July 08, 2022
#49 Sitting with discomfort: distress tolerance and hoarding
"The idea of avoiding distress might initially sound positive or helpful, so that reinforces that suppressing it or avoiding it is a helpful skill when it really, really isn't." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E48 · Fri, July 01, 2022
#48 Routines: oppressive limitations or helpful structures?
"It's about how I hated routines, how I resisted them, how I was scared of them. And how I tentatively, tentatively, slowly, slowly started to successfully incorporate some into my life." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E47 · Fri, June 24, 2022
#47 Shopping your own stuff: what does it mean and how can it help people who hoard?
"You will probably, if not certainly, find things you knew you owned, but thought were long lost. There are things that I know I have but I couldn't tell you what room they were in, never mind what part of the room or what drawer or what cupboard or what pile, let's face it. Things that I really want to find and that, as yet, I haven't." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E46 · Fri, June 17, 2022
#46 Tiny habits and micro-movements with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
"The goal is to wire in these habits, so they happen on autopilot every time when prompted. And how do we do that? We work in a specific way." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E45 · Fri, June 10, 2022
#45 The gas man came AGAIN plus did CBT have a long-term impact?
"So I think the biggest change I see in myself is that I just approach things a bit differently. I am not as defeatist. I don't just say I can't, or it's too much, or I don't know how." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E44 · Fri, June 03, 2022
#44 How hoarders can use the Fear Ladder to approach dehoarding with more confidence and trust
But the thing is the more you do something, the better you get at it. And the more you do something, the easier it gets. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E43 · Fri, May 27, 2022
#43 Questions to ask yourself when making decluttering and dehoarding decisions
I think we often look at an item and get completely stuck and having a series of questions that we can just methodically go through can be a really helpful thing. I think when we get too in our own heads about it, we get caught up in maybe the nostalgia of an item, or maybe the potential uses of an item. We lose the ability to be objective. And having a series of questions can just help us get back into that zone of being a bit more objective and, dare I say it, a bit more reasonable about what we keep and what we get rid of. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E42 · Fri, May 20, 2022
#42 Motivation and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall
"So if we're highly motivated, we can do hard things. If we've got zero motivation, the thing needs to be very easy to do." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSxMqB_fGckbGOQZpkl6l9g Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.reddit.com/r/overcomehoarding/ Help out: Support this project / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/support-this-project/ Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E41 · Fri, May 13, 2022
#41 Q&A: I answer listeners’ burning questions about hoarding, dehoarding and my own experiences
We see so much potential in things that others do not. We see so much potential in things that others do not. Most people see an empty crisp packet that should go in the bin, a hoarder will see something they can melt down and sew into a shopping bag. So you're not throwing away trash, you're throwing away a potential creative project that would be good for the environment, and look super cool and unique. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E40 · Fri, May 06, 2022
#40 ADHD and hoarding with Dr Sharon Morein
"The real world is messy, people are messy, they don't come with like nice little squares and nice labels. The world doesn't work that way. But the way we make sense of the world works that way." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E39 · Fri, April 29, 2022
#39 Fear of making mistakes and its impact on hoarding
"You don't dare ever throw anything out or sort anything out or give anything away in case it turns out to be a mistake. That fear takes over everything in a way that is just not proportionate to the consequences." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E38 · Fri, April 22, 2022
#38 Procrastination and hoarding, with Dr Jan Eppingstall
"This is really important for everyone, and I bang on about it all the time with my kids. And my clients. If you don't write the task down in a list, those tasks lurk at the edge of the four or so slots of your working memory - I'm sounding very teacherish now - so this is valuable mental real estate. And it impacts your ability to do other focused work. So you always have these random to dos floating around as you're attempting to pay attention to your project that you're currently working on. If it's on a list, it's out of working memory." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E37 · Fri, April 15, 2022
#37 What to do with clothes that don’t fit when dehoarding your home
"You put your stuff in bags, you drop it off with a warm fuzzy feeling inside, because they are going to earn some money because of you. So your excess clothes are going to help fund cancer research or arthritis research, or a children's hospice. And you can feel great about that. And you can also feel reassured that those clothes are going to someone else who really wants them. And so it's not wasteful." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E36 · Fri, April 08, 2022
#36 Sometimes it’s ok to be wasteful. Sometimes it even helps
"This paradox of such high standards leading to such low standards is a real one. And it's something we each need to examine for ourselves and come to our own conclusions." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E35 · Fri, April 01, 2022
#35 The power of the quick win when dehoarding your home
If you tackle a smaller task, your sense of achievement will power you on to the next task. And your enthusiasm for the project is likely to last longer. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E34 · Fri, March 25, 2022
#34 On giving your stuff to people who don’t want it
"If you give it to your brother, and he puts it in the bin, then it's in the bin. If you give it to an animal shelter and they put it in the bin, then it's in the bin. If you give it to Oxfam, and they put it in the bin, then it's in the bin. So the key is to put it in the bin yourself and not force other people to be part of this dysfunctional chain. Because you're creating work and costing people money." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E33 · Fri, March 18, 2022
#33 Different types of therapy for hoarding disorder with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Most hoarders need some degree of professional help if they're going to get through this problem. But the number of therapies available is overwhelming and bewildering. So today, we're going to talk about some of the types of therapy on offer for hoarding disorder. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E32 · Fri, March 11, 2022
#32 How to stop getting distracted when dehoarding your home
If you can work out exactly what's tripping you up, exactly what is making you need to get distracted, that's immensely helpful. Because if you can address those worries in yourself, you may find that you're just more capable of staying on the task at hand when you don't have whatever fear or worry it is hanging around For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E31 · Fri, March 04, 2022
#31 You can’t save everything
Your home does not exist to hold on to the ghosts of everybody you've ever met, or every dream you've ever had, or every purchase you ever made. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E30 · Fri, February 25, 2022
#30 Create new habits and make them stick
"If we are to continuously dehoard and if, should we achieve a normal home, we want to maintain it, then we need to have habits rather than just one-off actions. And creating habits is something that I think about a lot. And I've tried lots of things, and some of them have worked, and a lot haven't." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E29 · Fri, February 18, 2022
#29 Perfectionism and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
"I think that the differences in presentation and behaviour has to do with what is at the heart of perfectionism, which is fear of failure" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E28 · Fri, February 11, 2022
#28 Avoid analysis paralysis by having ’systems’
"The benefit of these systems or processes is it removes one barrier. And that barrier is having to make decisions, and making decisions is tiring and it's difficult and it ties me up in knots." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E27 · Fri, February 04, 2022
#27 Make it easy for yourself by eliminating barriers
"I thought, Gosh, this is easy. I wonder if this is how people who aren't hoarders just go about cleaning and tidying, they just see something that needs doing and do it" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E26 · Fri, January 28, 2022
#26 Putting like with like
You will find that you say “okay, I might be anxious at the prospect of running out of carrier bags. But now I'm putting every carrier bag I find in the same place, I realise I'm seriously not going to run out of carrier bags for at least six years.” For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder podcast Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E25 · Fri, January 21, 2022
#25 Trauma and hoarding: an interview with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
The important thing to remember about it, I tell my clients this, is it's not a defect. It's not something that is wrong with you. You are not lazy. You are not unable to change. It is a survival state that in your life experience was what you used in order to survive the environment, whatever it might be that has occurred in your life, and it's become the default. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E24 · Fri, January 14, 2022
#24 We’re looking but we don’t see
We have to be honest, even if it's just with ourselves, that the way we're living is damaging us For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E23 · Fri, January 07, 2022
#23 Shame is toxic
"I have never been able to say to a mental health professional or to anybody. I am a hoarder, I need some help. Because of the shame." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E22 · Fri, December 31, 2021
#22 What if I need it? Defeating objections to dehoarding
"I can't throw away these scissors. What if I need them? I can't throw away this notebook. What if I need it? I can't throw away this out-of-date food, what if I need it?" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E21 · Fri, December 24, 2021
#21 The arguments AGAINST setting goals for your new year’s resolutions
Who do you know who is still going to the gym today, or walking 10,000 steps a day today who vowed to do those on January 1st this year? Who do you know who went on a diet on January 1st this year, and is still on that same diet today? For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E20 · Fri, December 17, 2021
#20 What to do with unwanted gifts
"People don't give you gifts to burden you. And if keeping hold of something will burden you, then that's the opposite of the point of a gift. "It's not disrespectful to get something and to quietly think, “Somebody else could get better use out of this than me” and pass it on to that person. There's nothing wrong with that. " For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
S1 E19 · Fri, December 10, 2021
#19 Giving gifts, getting gifts: hoarders at Christmastime
A big issue for Christmas for hoarders is gifts: both giving and receiving gifts can be fraught. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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