Manned Up Conversations
Manned Up Conversations is a dynamic platform committed to fostering open, honest, and transformative discussions among men from all walks of life. Our mission is to challenge outdated notions of masculinity and provide a safe space where men can freely explore their emotions, experiences, and struggles without fear of judgment.Through insightful content and interactive dialogue, Manned Up Conversations encourages personal growth, emotional intelligence, and meaningful change in the lives of men across Africa and beyond.We envision a world where men break free from societal expectations, embracing vulnerability and emotional well-being as strengths rather than weaknesses. By promoting open...
S5 E5 · Wed, April 16, 2025
Exploring Positive Masculinity for Gender Equity with Chelepe Mocwana
Send us a text In this episode Kgaugelo Habyane engages in an insightful discussion with Chelepe Mocwana. We explore the complexities of positive masculinities as a vital tool for achieving gender equity . Chelepe shares his experiences and perspectives on redefining masculinity beyond patriarchal norms, emphasising the importance of empathy, self-awareness, and accountability for men . Our conversation tackles challenging issues such as gender-based violence, consent, the impact of societal expectations on men and boys, and the need for a community-wide approach to foster healthier relationships and a more equitable society. This episode offers a refreshing and crucial perspective on evolving manhood in the pursuit of gender equality. Chelepe Mocwana is a qualified lawyer and Senior Officer at the University of the Free State’s Gender Equality and Anti-Discrimination Office, within the Unit for Institutional Change and Social Justice. With a strong foundation in human rights and labour law, he focuses on feminist strategies to combat gender-based violence, promote gender equity, and challenge heteronormative and patriarchal norms. Chelepe has collaborated with grassroots organisations across South Africa, advocating for inclusive health and social justice programmes. His work also involves queering feminist approaches to address homophobia and gender discrimination, aiming to foster healthier masculinities and more equitable communities. Mentioned in the episode Engaging Men and Boys in Violence Prevention HRSC GBV Report Employment Equity Act Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicula
S5 E4 · Sun, March 30, 2025
Designing Meaningful Moments of Pause with Charles Achampong
Send us a text Join Kgaugelo Habyane in this insightful conversation with Charles Achampong as they explore the importance of family time, the transformative power of travel, and the necessity of creating moments of pause in our busy lives. Charles shares his experiences from taking a year-long trip around the world with his family and the profound lessons he learned about presence, intentionality, and redefining success beyond traditional societal norms. Discover practical steps towards designing a more meaningful life and why pausing is not a reward but a crucial necessity for well-being. Charles Achampong is a speaker, author, and leadership expert with over two decades of experience across multiple industries. He is the author of Around the World in Family Days: What We Learned When We Left It All Behind and Travelled the Globe , a powerful memoir about the lessons gained from stepping away from routine and embracing adventure, connection, and self-discovery. Charles’ work inspires individuals and families to rethink their priorities, challenge societal norms, and design a life of meaning. Key Points Discussed: The significance of family time and shared experiences. How exploring different cultures expands worldviews. Pushing beyond comfort zones and embracing uncertainty. Charles's inspiration for the family trip. Strategic planning for long-term travel and financial considerations. The impact of cultural immersion on children. Redefining success beyond career milestones and financial compensation. The societal pressures on men to constantly be productive. The importance of pausing, reflecting, and realigning. Practical ways to incorporate moments of pause into daily life. The need to balance focus on the outer and inner self. Financial independence as the freedom to make choices. The biggest takeaway from the round-the-world trip: You don't need a passport to pause. Reach out to Charles Achampong here: Website: https://www.charlesachampong.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/charlesachampong Buy: Around The World in Family Days Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. <a rel="payment" href="https://www.bu
S5 E3 · Thu, March 20, 2025
Shifting From Debate To Dialogue with Rooken Podesta
Send us a text "What are you trying to take care of?" – a simple yet powerful question that shifts the way we engage in conversations. In a world where men are often told to suppress emotions, solve problems alone, and dominate rather than dialog, how do we create space for deeper, more meaningful connections? Rooken Podesta is the perfect man to explore this question. A facilitator and expert in generative dialog , Rooken helps individuals and organizations transform the way they communicate. His work centers on psychological safety, emotional literacy, and relational intelligence —all crucial for navigating leadership, relationships, and personal growth. In this episode, we unpack: Why men struggle with emotional expression and connection The impact of rugged individualism and how it isolates us How Ubuntu and the I-Thou relationship can heal divides The power of language, nature, and safe dialogic spaces in reshaping how men relate to themselves and others Now, more than ever, men need to listen, not just react . This episode is a call to step beyond surface-level conversations and into a new way of being, listening, and leading . Tune in for a conversation that challenges the way we think, speak, and engage with the world . Follow Rooken Podesta's work: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rookenpodesta/ Substack: https://rooken.substack.com/ website: https://thrivewiththefield.com/ Articles mentioned: Building bridges of understanding: embracing the power of the legitimate other, i-thou and positive regard for transformative relationships From control to connection: The leadership connection we need to thrive together Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love You
S5 E2 · Thu, February 20, 2025
Reclaiming Communal Love Among Men
Send us a text In a world where violence, disconnection, and individualism seem to overshadow compassion, we ask: Where’s the love? In this episode of Manned Up Conversations , we explore the concept of communal love a love that affirms, nurtures, and holds space for men to express care, support, and connection. We dive into African philosophies like Botho / Ubuntu , insights from thought leaders like Prof. Mogobe Ramose, Nyasha Mboti, and Kopano Ratele, and the realities that shape men’s ability to give and receive love. Why do so many men struggle with affection? How do societal norms shape how men express or suppress love? And most importantly, how do we rebuild a culture of love and belonging? This is a conversation about healing, interconnectedness, and embracing love as a radical act of transformation. Tune in and let’s explore how we can lead with love. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S5 E1 · Mon, February 03, 2025
The Road To Hell Is Paved With Good Intentions
Send us a text Shoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated. The first episode for 2025 is inspired by Ms Lauryn Hill's Motives and Thoughts, The Trial of Socrates and some of Carl Jung's shadow work. As we go into this transition period (our last pefect square year was 89 years ago in 1939) with a sense of newness about ourselves and the world around us, it's important to check in with ourselves and explore through personal reflection and conversation with others whether our ways of being are still relevant and aligned to the people we are becoming. Socrates once said "the unexamined life is not worth living" which to me also translates to the well known saying "the road to hell is paved with good intentions" while i'm not encouraging anyone to abandon their comfortable life or spend days on end analysing every detail of their life, I do however share this as a call to action to remind myself and those on the journey that as we grow and our work and influence in the world grows we have to be mindful of our motives and live an authentic, generative and undivided life. Peace and love... If you enjoyed this conversation, please subscribe and share with someone who might need to hear it. Mentioned in this episode: The Trial of Socrates Ms Lauryn Hill - Motives and Thoughts The Essential Guide To Shadow Work Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S4 E15 · Sat, November 23, 2024
Fighting The Good Fight with Cassius "Hitman" Baloyi
Send us a text Shoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated. In this episode, I speak former 6x boxing champ Cassius Hitman Baloyi about his glory days in the ring. The name named after Muhammad Ali by his father after the classic, Rumble in Jumgle fight between George Foreman and Muhammad Ali shares stories of his upbringing in Manamulele, Limpopo in South Africa. We talk about his father's influence on his life, the passing of his mother and struggles of growing up with her sister. We talk about the many setbacks he endured during and after his fighting career and how believing in God and being faithful are the reasons he rose to the level of world champion and lives a happy life surrounded by caring friends who cook for him and he can reach out to in times of need. He talks about the difficulty of not being with his two daughters after his wife left him and some financial irregularities with Boxing South Africa, Cassius also talks about how running, training people and punching a bag in the gym helps him copes with the loneliness of living lonely. If you enjoyed this conversation, please subscribe and share. Peace and Love. Connect: Boxing Classes Cassius Baloyi Boxing Academy - 147 Webber Street, Sandown, Sandton. Socials: Facebook: Cassius "The Hitman" Baloyi Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S4 E14 · Thu, November 07, 2024
Exploring Talents and Learning From Experiences with Batsile "BOY Wonder" Ramasodi
Send us a text Shoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated. In this episode, I speak with artist extraordinaire Batsile "BOY Wonder" Ramasodi on his artistic path and growth as a man. We talk about growing up in Atteridgeville, Pretoria, and how he pursued his creative talents and developed them into numerous careers. As a father of four, we also discuss his perspectives on fatherhood. and the complexities of co-parenting. Batsile also discusses the impact of shifting social attitudes on boys and reflects on the void left by his father's passing on. We close by exploring his mental health, experiencing with impostor syndrome, writing for his recent album Omega, and some thoughts about what guys could try for themselves to be well. If you enjoyed this conversation, please subscribe and share. Peace and Love. Connect: Website: www.boywonder.co.za Socials: Insta: @B.O.YWonder Facebook: Batsile Ramasodi Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S4 E13 · Fri, October 11, 2024
Becoming Mentally Healthy with Tshegofatso Sephula
Send us a text Shoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated. In this episode we expand on a conversation we had with Tshegofatso Sephula on a mental health awareness campaign we did with John Craig to discuss some highlights from his book, Mental Decay. Tshegofatso talks about identity issues, navigating family dynamics with mental health challenges, the inspiration behind sharing his story and letting go of expectations. We also talk about the impact of family secrets and his openly honest relationship with his mother and details meeting his father for the first time which led to him accepting that he can no longer make excuses for his absent father. Tshegofatso Sephula is the author of Mental Decay, a true story of a hidden battle and a life nearly lost. After a decade of failure and a suicide attempt, he feels the pull of God, and with it the chance to finally find peace, purpose and redemption. If you enjoyed this conversation, please subscribe and share. Peace and Love. Connect: Buy on Amazon: Mental Decay Instagram: @ TshegofatsoTiyani Related Episodes: SAFMH - Ready to share my story John Craig - Mind Matter Series: EP1 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVTioqU4M2Q&t=1838s EP2 - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jFERWd1hK2o&t=138s Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S4 E12 · Fri, September 13, 2024
Reflections On Black Male Privilege
Send us a text Shoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated. We've covered many conversations over the last three years, while going through some books, research and conversations with friends and listening to the online community, I've been reflecting on the idea of male privilege or to be more specific, black male privilege. I know this is an extremely contentious topic in the gender discourse but I want to offer an alternative argument against black male privilege leveraging the work of Dr Tommy J Curry and some research from South African gender experts to show some similarity in the lived experiences of black men in the United States of America and South Africa based on colonization and apartheid and Jim Crow laws in the respective countries. The idea is not to defend privilege, but this episode questions our idea of privilege and share some insights on what I believe (and other researchers have shown) is a fundemental problem with how we perceive the distribution of power and privilege among men. Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S4 E11 · Tue, September 03, 2024
Reflections On The Gender Empathy Gap
Send us a text Shoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated. I was intrigued by an article shared by Ground Up and the Daily Maverick titled, “Battered woman syndrome”: law to be challenged." The Centre for Applied Legal Studies has laid out a strong argument for women who kill in self defence arguing that the courts don't empathise or consider the psychological effects of abuse when sentencing "battered women." CALS argued that “This case demonstrates that the current approach of providing courts with wide unfettered discretion when considering mitigation in relation to women who kill their intimate partners as a result of prolonged violence is insufficient in dealing with femicide in this country.” I realized that there was no mention of men or the "battered man syndrome" exepct the abusive husband but I was not surprised considering the prevailing narrative around men and reality of many women in South Africa. In this short episode, I question whether this attempt to justify the husband's killing as self defence adds to the gender empathy gap men experience in the legal system? If you enjoyed this conversation, please subscribe and share. Peace and Love. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S4 E10 · Thu, July 18, 2024
Exploring The Journey of a Conscientious Objector with Kyle Toon
Send us a text Shoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated. In this episode we explore an uncommon but interesting story of a US Army conscientious objector and social work graduate student, Kyle Toon to talk about his decision to leave the army after serving for 10 years where he enrolled at 17 years old. Kyle shares how going against family lineage caused an internal conflict and mental heath issues resulting from the dissonance he experienced when comparing what he was learning from African centered education versus the life he was leading including his work in the army. We also highlight issues around African identity, family health and ideas for connecting with the global African community. Through work on Embrace Perfection Kyle Toon is striving and seeking to inculcate, promote, and provide access to MENTAL HEALTHINESS , wellness, and growth-inducing knowledge and resources for the Black parent, caregiver, every day survivor, and those aspiring to begin their own family. He is based in the United States and If you enjoyed this conversation, please subscribe and share. Peace and Love. Reach out to the South African Federation of Mental Health: Website: Embrace Perfection Instagram: always_gracefullyimperfect Podcast: Gracefully Imperfect Other podcasts and articles featuring Kyle Toon: I'm requesting discharge not non combat status The deliacy and frigility of life hit me Center on Conscience Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother -
S4 E9 · Thu, July 04, 2024
Why Silence Isn't Always Golden with Leon De Beer
Send us a text Shoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated. We talk about men's coping mechanisms and how seeking help—or not—can lead to mental health issues and suicidal thoughts in this courageous interview with Leon De Beer, the deputy director of the South African Federation of Mental Health. After his divorce, Leon experienced suicide ideation. By sharing his story, he emphasizes the value of reaching out and surrounding yourself with people who can support and understand you during difficult times. We additionally acknowledge the courage required to speak up in the face of adversity and the negative effects of substance abuse on our health. We also speak about generational trauma and the impact of apartheid and close off by sharing details of where men can go for help. Leon De Beer's work is underpinned by a deep passion for human rights. He holds an Honours Degree in Psychology and a Masters Degree in Social Policy and Development. If you enjoyed this conversation, please subscribe and share. Peace and Love. Reach out to the South African Federation of Mental Health: Website: South African Federation for Mental Health Facebook: SA Mental Health Twitter (X): @safmh LinkedIn: SA Federation for Mental Health Instagram: SAFMH South Africa Other links and books mentioned in the conversation: BIG BOYS DO IN FACT ALSO CRY: MEN AND SUICIDE Cultural Silence Wounded Souls with Mark Tuggle Understanding Male Psychology with Angelo De Boni The Stigma Around Mental Health and Male Suicide with Nkini Phasha Support the Show. Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversation
S4 E8 · Thu, June 20, 2024
Unlocking The Keys To Self Mastery with Met_a_morphosis
Send us a text Shoutout to you if you're joining us for the first time, and thank you for coming back to listen; your support is greatly appreciated. In this exciting talk with the quantum leaping physicist, we discuss knowing thyself from several of viewpoints, including history, education, and tools to aid you on your own journey. We also discuss some challenging issues regarding the representation of African culture and its impact on identity. Met_a_morphosis also discusses how he balances his four careers while giving back to underserved communities through mathematics education and public speaking coaching. Thando Motumi aka Met_A_Morphosis is an artist, writer, scientist and educator. Using fusions of visual art, philosophy and science he weaves tales that delve deep into the intricacies of the mind. Showcasing a medley of poetry, images and music. Met_A_Morphosis will take you on a journey through the realm of abstract art, consciousness and notions of self. He delivers intricate freestyles with a conscious flow. Based in Pretoria, South Africa he has performed at festivals, delivered showcases at the Jhb theatre and won multiple awards. With an extensive repertoire his style is one which brings remnants to the early years of Hip Hop. If you enjoyed this conversation, please subscribe and share. Peace and Love. Connect with Met_a_morphosis: https://linktr.ee/met_a_morphosis Other links and books mentioned in the conversation: YFM #Unlockedchats: Met_a_morphosis They Came Before Columbus Adams Calendar Pedagogy of The Oppressed Support the Show. Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Broth
S4 E7 · Thu, May 23, 2024
Creating Care Uptake Points For Men with Dr Vuyo Yokwe
Send us a text Thanks for listening if you are joining for the first time, hope you enjoy the conversation and peace and love to you for coming back to listen. Although the term "safe spaces" is frequently used in casual conversations, what does it actually mean? We explore the impportance and quality of conversations held in such spaces and highlight some essential elements of designing safe spaces, we then question if our own and others efforts in reaching and working with men are effective in addressing their issues. Dr Vuyo also shares some interesting tools he recommends as alternative ways to provide men's services in spaces that they are already familiar with. Dr Vuyo Yokwe is a medical doctor and a Mens mental health advocate. Dr Yokwe hopes to increase awareness of mental health issues and to decrease mental health stigma related to men. Dr Yokwe started a community called Man Vitality Conversation to talk frankly about men's mental health matters. Be sure to subscribe and share if you enjoy the conversation. Connect with Dr Vuyo Yokwe: Instagram: @drvuyo_manvitality Twitter: @VuyoYokwe Facebook: Dr Vuyo Yokwe Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube. Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the Show. Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that
S4 E6 · Thu, May 09, 2024
Protect Your Critical Thinking From Patriarchy with Kneo Mokgopa
Send us a text Thanks for listening if you are joining for the first time, hope you enjoy the conversation and peace and love to you for coming back to listen. Many males avoid using the word patriarchy because they perceive it as an attack on their gender. Some activists have even asserted that men of African origin are not entitled to privilege or patriarchy. Despite this, many people are still unaware of the influence of patriarchal structures. During a conference in November 2023, my guest Kneo Mokgopa gave a fascinating presentation titled "Protecting Your Critical Thinking From Patriarchy." The presentation discussed how patriarchal thinking prevents men from fully experiencing their humanity, putting us in boxes and creating conflicting notions of what is possible for us as men in a society that is constantly changing. We dissect this and examine the ways in which families, schools, and even the way we phrase certain arguments in social interactions uphold patriarchy. Kneo Mokgopa (they/he), LLB. is the Narrative Development Manager at the Nelson Mandela Foundation. Kneo holds a law degree from the University of Cape Town and is a Thought Fellow at the Centre for Creative & Critical Thought at the University of Stellenbosch. Kneo serves on Section 11 Committee on the National Question and Anti-Racism, hosted by the South African Human Rights Commission, and they are a widely published writer with a regular column in the Daily Maverick, titled Unthere where they explore the nature of the boundaries between human and object in post-Apartheid South Africa. Be sure to subscribe and share if you enjoy the conversation. Connect with Kneo Mokgopa: Instagram: @Bloody_kneo Listen to Freedom After Podcast Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the Show. Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember
S4 E5 · Thu, April 25, 2024
Exploring Men's Emotional Language with Matthew Steele
Send us a text Thanks for listening if you are joining for the first time, hope you enjoy the conversation and peace and love to you for coming back to listen. On episode 60 we explore men's emotional language with Clinical Psychologist, Matthew Steele. We discuss the impact of testosterone and men’s emotions. Looking at family as a space for teaching emotional literacy, we also discuss how parents play a part in helping boys develop emotional awareness. Matthew share some tips on creating male friendly therapy spaces and encourages men to not wait until they have a metal illness or serve mental health challenges, prioritize your mental health and speak to speak to a professional. While these are the main talking points in this conversation, we also touch on depression, coping strategies and things one can do to give back to themselves. Be sure to subscribe and share if you enjoy the conversation. Connect with Matthew Steele: email: practice@msdsteele.com Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S4 E4 · Fri, April 19, 2024
Father Wounds & Black Male Stereotypes with Malose Langa
Send us a text Thanks for listening if you are joining for the first time, hope you enjoy the conversation and peace and love to you for coming back to listen. On episode 59 I met with Malose Langa at The University of the Witwatersrand, Johannesburg to discuss his insights and reflections on working with men and boys. We discuss the impact of father wounds, why many men and boys feel the pressure to perform a certain type of masculinity to either fit in or protect their masciline identity and the perception of black men and boys in society. Connect with Malose Langa via mail : email: malose.langa@wits.ac.za Resources mentioned: Becoming Men Black Masculinities in a South African Township. State of South African Fathers Report 2021 State of the World's Fathers 2023 Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S4 E3 · Thu, April 11, 2024
Reflections on Faith, Leadership & Relationships with Ratiba Mohale
Send us a text Thanks for listening if you are joining for the first time, hope you enjoy the conversation and peace and love to you for coming back to listen. On episode 58 I speak to Marketing Executive, Podcast and Radio host Ratiba Mohale about his views on faith and being a man of value, he also shares why he views family as a cornerstone of leadership and the changing role of men in family and society. We also speak about the decline in marriage and the destruction of the family. While speaking on male ego and competition, Ratiba shares a kind reminder to men to appreciate what they have because comparison often leads many to resort to illegal or unethical means to keep up with appearances. We close off with some book recommendations on leadership. Follow Ratiba Mohale and chek out his on the socials : Facebook: Ratiba Mohale Twitter: Ratiba Mohale Podcast: Empowerment Podcast Radio show: Hope Alive Radio Authors & Books mentioned: Myles Munroe Bonang Mohale Mpho Mokwana Thami Nkadimeng - Finding Purpose Lincoln Mali - Blazing A Trail Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S4 E2 · Fri, February 16, 2024
Why Men Keep Their Emotional Pain Invisible
Send us a text Through reading his books, articles and watching Tom Golden on his YouTube channel, Men Are Good , his work opened my eyes to the misconceptions and subtle signs that go unnoticed in men’s emotional domain. I’ve reflected on how his work relates to me as a South African man and how some of the observations he shared in his books and talks still hold true, though there are some changes in society’s attitudes towards men’s emotional experiences. In this episode I share How and Why Men Keep Their Emotional Pain Invisible based on Tom’s findings using some of my own examples and others that have made it to mainstream media. Purchase Tom Golden’s books on the links below: The Way Men Heal Swallowed By A Snake: The Gift of The Masculine Side Of Healing #mannedupconvos #menandemotions Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S4 E1 · Fri, February 02, 2024
The Healing Power of Music with Graeme Sacks
Send us a text Welcome to Season 4 of Manned Up Conversations. If you are new to the platform, thank you for tuning in. I invite you to listen in with an open mind, our stories and conversations give you a refreshing perspective on manhood, reflections on issues affecting men and some suggestions on what we can do to enjoy a wholistic life experience. We do not claim to have all the answers, we share out of compassion for others and pay our stories forward so they can inspire the next man to own his story and pass on his learnings. In this episode we highlight the healing power of music with Graeme Sacks, a music therapist based in Johannesburg, South Africa. With a primary focus on children and young adults, he operates a private practice and also contributes his expertise to the Johannesburg Children's Home. With over three decades of experience as a professional musician and music educator, Graeme 's accomplishments include winning a South African music Award for one of his children's CDs. Get in touch with Greame Sacks: Website: Graeme Sacks Music Therapy LinkedIn: Graeme Sacks Facebook: Graeme Sacks Instagram: @GraemeSacks More on creative therapies: SANATA Graeme's cancer story - Sitting with dissonance . Children's music produced by Graeme : https://youtu.be/7nFnd_02234?si=9p4hqQo4KLtPFdV2 Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S3 E23 · Thu, December 21, 2023
Starting Over with Anele Ndlovu
Send us a text In our latest episode, we close off with a conversation with Anele Ndlovu, a women's leadership and mental health advocate who also runs an engaging platform "The Tea with Anele Ndlovu." We catch up after several interactions since her first men's mental health event in November 2022 to learn about her journey with mental health resulting from a job loss which led to alcohol abuse and a suicide attempt. We also discuss her family's role in her recovery, raising a son and having those awkward sex and sexual health conversations and her perspective on present and engaged fathers. Anele Ndlovu is the Founder of the initiative “The Tea with Anele Ndlovu.” The initiative is focused on women empowerment and women leadership. The aim of the initiative is to encourage women to inspire themselves and other women to use their voices to change their environments through critical conversations. A big part of the initiative is now focused on mental health advocacy. Anele has gone through quite a journey with her mental health. This has encouraged and inspired her to use her journey to help women and people in general to accept their struggle and suffering with mental illness so that they can get the help they need to start their healing and recovery process and journey. Anele intends to use her journey and initiative to remove the stigma around mental illness. Get in touch with Anele Ndlovu: Twitter: @AneleNdlovu Instagram: @AneleNdlovu LinkedIn: Anele Ndlovu Join The Tea Anele Ndlovu: Instagram: The Tea With Anele Ndlovu Support the show Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise <a href='https://www.givengain.com/project/kgaugelo-habyane-raising
S3 E22 · Thu, December 07, 2023
Engaging Men and Boys in Violence Prevention with Michael Flood
Send us a text The theme for the 16 Days of Activism Campaign for 2023 is: “Accelerating actions to end gender-based violence & femicide: leaving no one behind” it is in this light that we share our first episode highlighting men's violence against women and children with Australian Professor, Michael Flood. We explore the framing of violence against women and how men interpret these messages in episode 54, as we explore his work in Engaging Men and Boys in Violence. We also look at how males who have been abused by women react to violence against women, as well as the significance of men and boys supporting women who are victims of violence. Michael discusses many methods for preventing violence and emphasizes why people assume that because there seems to be a rise in violence, anti-violence programs are ineffective. In order to effectively support violence prevention, he also encourages men and men's organizations interested in women's concerns to work together and partner with women's organizations. We wrap up by discussing men's perspectives on feminism and what each of them can do on their own to prevent violence. Michael Flood is a Professor at the Queensland University of Technology School of Justice. He is an internationally recognized researcher on men, masculinities, and gender, violence against women, and violence prevention. Professor Flood has made significant contributions to scholarly and public understanding of men’s involvements in preventing violence against women and building gender equality, and to scholarship and programming regarding violence and violence prevention. He is the author of Engaging Men and Boys in Violence Prevention (2019), the co-author of Masculinity and Violent Extremism (2022), and the lead editor of Engaging Men in Building Gender Equality (2015) and The International Encyclopedia of Men and Masculinities (2007). He is also an advocate and educator. Get in touch with Professor Michael Flood: Twitter: @MichaelGLFlood Website: https://xyonline.net/ Other resources mentioned in the episode: Sonke Gender Justice One man Can The Men's Bibliography Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations
S3 E21 · Fri, November 17, 2023
Dads In The Picture with Mesh Kekana
Send us a text In episode 53, we connect with Mesh Kekana to talk about the journey of his organization Dads In The Picture. We also explore how boys are being raised differently from girls in the home and the importance of teaching boys skills that enable them to take care of their own home and families. Mesh also questions some of the statements made about fathers involvement in their child life and how the systemic, social and cultural obstacles fathers face make it difficult for those relationships to flourish. Mesh Kekana is the founder of Dads in the Picture (DITP), an organization of like-minded fathers, who saw a need for fathers to play an active role in the lives of children. A few like-minded fathers shared ideas around the current role of men and what was needed to improve it. The vision of Dads in the Picture is to Encourage every dad to take responsibility in the upbringing of children in a safe environment. A platform for all fathers, Grandfathers, Uncles, Big-Brothers who want to make a positive impact in our children's lives. Follow and Explore Mesh Kekana and Dads In The Picture's work: Twitter: @MeshTheDad Website: Dads In The Picture Twitter: @dadsinthepic Facebook: Dads In The Picture Instagram: @DadsInThePicture Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S3 E20 · Thu, November 02, 2023
The Bond Between Black Fathers and Daughters with David Miller
Send us a text In episode 52, we connect with David Miller to explore his work on the relationship between black fathers and daughters. Some of the key talking points in this conversation include the marginalization of black fathers, creating opportunities and space for bonding through various activities for fathers to get to know their daughters likes and dislikes, the impact of absent fathers on girls and women, having courageous and age appropriate conversations around topics like sex, education, dating and media literacy and managing emotions and dealing with conflict. Baltimore native David C. Miller uses his academic training and innate street skills to lead healing circles with men and boys, focusing on decision-making, impulse control, mental health awareness, and managing anger. Miller's work with Black men and boys has appeared in the BBC Magazine (Canada) and on CNN, MSNBC, Huffington Post, USA Today, PBS, Baltimore Sun, Washington Post, Washington Parent Magazine, Afro-American Newspaper, and other media outlets. Miller is also the author and architect of Dare To Be King: What If the Prince Lives? a unique curriculum designed to engage young males of color around three domains: anger, decision-making, and impulse control. Miller completed his Ph.D. in the School of Social Work at Morgan State University. Miller’s dissertation research focused on the emotional connections between Black fathers and daughters. Explore David Miller's work: Website: Dare To Be King - What if The Price Lives? Articles: The Sacred Bond Between Black Fathers and Daughters Fatherly Advice – Safety Tips: Sending Our Daughters to College Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S3 E19 · Thu, October 19, 2023
Exploring The Masculine Archetype Challenge with Ruwan Meepagala
Send us a text In episode 51, we take a deep dive into the world of the masculine archetypes with Ruwan Meepagala. We unpack his journey into coaching, navigating the seemingly saturated coaching space, his learnings as a new father and how that impacts on his coaching conversations. Ruwan also shares how he ended up in a cult and highlights the good and potential dangers of heading down that path. Then we narrow in on his 21 day masculine archetype challenge where he unpacks the benefits of grounding, introspection and material accomplishment for men. Ruwan Meepagala describes himself as someone who spent two enlightening (and dark) years in a matriarchal cult. A bit of his story has been covered by various outlets. But the really good stuff is in his book, which he is serializing. Ruwan is also a father to a baby girl, husband to beautiful wife, plays way too much chess. (Challenge me on chess.com @RUWANDO). He holds a BJJ blue belt, a MMA & Muay Thai enthusiast and a (very) amateur furniture-maker. Listen to Ruwan's podcasts: History of Man Ruwan Podcast: Psychology For Men with Brain and Balls Connect with Ruwan Meepagala: Website: https://www.ruwando.com/ Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S3 E18 · Thu, October 05, 2023
Lessons from 50 Years of Hip Hop with Nyambz
Send us a text In episode 50, we celebrate another milestone episode in line with 50 years of Hip Hop. Joining me to reflect on lessons, experiences and how Hip Hop impacts it's participants and followers, I'm joined by legendary producer Nyambz. We discuss the collaborative approach to creating music, his decision to not partake in the drugs and supporting for a friend who is dealing with addiction and the dual nature of Hip Hop and much more. After winning the African Hip-Hop producer of the year, in 2004, at the tender age of 19, Nyambz influence in the South African Hip-Hop industry escalated to great heights, crafting classic material for some of South Africa’s top acts. He’s worked with the likes of Zubz, Tumi, Optical Illusion, Proverb, Prokid and Tumi & the Volume just to name a few. He’s also produced tracks for acts across the African Continent, and a host of international acts, including Main Flow from the legendary Cincinnati Hip Hop group “MOOD”. His strength lies in his ability to delve from genre to genre without losing the quality in music that he strongly stands for. Connect with Nyambz on social media: Instagram: @Nyambino Facebook: Inyambo Imenda Visit: The Studio Next Door Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S3 E17 · Thu, September 14, 2023
Doing The Work Required To Get Better with Melusi Tshabalala
Send us a text In episode 49, we reconnect with Melusi Tshabalala for a follow up episode since we covered his book Magenge, We Need To Talk . In this episode we learn about his entrepreneurial journey with Gogo Magic Family Eatery and his vision creating culturally appropriate spaces for African people to enjoy food while gathering with family, fixing yourself before fixing others, being raised by his mother, views on co-parenting, writing children's books, mentoring the youth and more... Melusi Tshabalala is a seasoned advertising creative with a career spanning 20 years, he's also an author of Magenge, We Need To Talk plus several other children's books and a social entrepreneur. Melusi also appears on: Listen To Your Footsteps - Breaking Down The Facades Espresso - Gogo Magic and her Magic Food Truck Buy: Magenge, We Need To Talk Visit: Gogo Magic Family Eatery Connect with Melusi on social media: Twitter: @EverydayZulu Instagram: @Mshengumel Facebook: Melusi Tshabalala Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S3 E16 · Thu, September 07, 2023
Living The Imperfect Life with Nekisha Lupke
Send us a text In episode 48, we explore a life of imperfection with Mrs South Africa 2023 finalist, Nekisha Lupke. Nekisha takes us through her childhood in Durban where she witnessed violence, abuse in different forms and how this experience impacted her mental health. We talk about pretty privilege and being bullied in school because of the dark colour in comparison to the children in her neighbourhood. Then we move on to discuss her relationship with her father and how his passing led to her sister dying by suicide, her own suicide ideation and overdosing on the feel good pills. We close off by discussing how motherhood and marriage impacted her views on provision and working together as a couple to raise a respectful and loving family. Nekisha Lupke is a Mrs South Africa 2023 finalist, she's an Educator, online ESL specialist coach and Entrepreneur. In my spare time, I enjoy creating inspirational YouTube videos, hosting woman empowerment events, spending time with my family and reading. I am #EveryWoman because I have imperfections that I have chose to accept and grow through. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. Thank you for your support . Connect with Nekisha Lupke: YouTube: @nekishalupke4808 TikTok: @nekishalupke Instagram: @iamnekishalupke Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S3 E15 · Thu, August 17, 2023
Cultivating Empowering Morning Thoughts with Zibuse L Kunene
Send us a text In episode 47 we touch base and connect with author of Monring Thoughts By Zibuse Kunene . Zibuse describes how sharing empowering words on WhatsApp and social media grew into a huge community of people who looked forward to starting their day. We talk about the value of having a morning ritual and setting your intention for the day before you get to your daily have-to's. Given his work's impact on people, we talk about how having a presence or following may affect the ego and the need to keep it in check and accountable. He also discusses the importance of having an ally, whom he refers to as a "running mate," to support and challenge us to be our best. Zibuse wears many hats when he's not writing or performing corporate work. He's a brother, uncle, author, mentor, and coach, as well as the chairman of Dads in The Picture, an organization of like-minded fathers who identified a need for fathers to play an active role in the lives of children. Buy Zibuse's latest work ebook on Amazon: Morning Thoughts by Zibuse L Kunene Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. Thank you for your support . Zibuse Kunene also appears on: Dads in The Picture on Cliff Central Morning Thoughts on PowerFM Connect with Zibuse L. Kunene: Twitter: @Zibuse Instagram: @ZibuseK Facebook: Morning Thoughts by Zibuse L. Kunene Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men
S3 E14 · Thu, August 03, 2023
Cultural Silence & Wounded Souls with Mark Tuggle
Send us a text In episode 46 of Manned Up Conversations we broaddcast from Atteridgeville, Pretoria to Harlem, New York with co-author and editor of Cultural Silence and Wounded Souls: Black Men Speak About Mental Health , Mark Tuggle. We explore various topics in this conversation including the importance of black men developing a language around how they feel, the culture of silence and state of mental health in black communities. We also highlight the cost of speaking the truth and the courage it takes to be vulnerable. Then we unpack the reasons for lack of trust among men and close off by discussing the benefit of leaning into your intuition and learning to trust ourselves as a black men. Mark Tuggle is a contemporary descendant of enslaved Africans in America. He is a same-gender-loving spiritual being with a strong sense of justice. He also is an activist, brother, educator, friend, humanitarian, mentor, son and writer. Buy Mark Tuggle's latest work on Amazon: Cultural Silence and Wounded Souls: Black Men Speak About Mental Health Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. Thank you for your support . Connect with Mark Tuggle: Website: Cultural Silence Wounded Souls LinkedIn: Mark Tuggle Twitter: @MarkTuggle4 Instagram: @MarkTuggle Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with
S3 E13 · Thu, July 20, 2023
Learning From The Artistic Expression of African Cultures with Nsamu Moonga
Send us a text In this episode I connect with music psychotherapist Nsamu Moonga to explore how we can use artistic expression to create a society we know in our heart is possible. We discuss how moving from person centered to monetary centered economies have affected our understanding of hospitality and our ability connect with others. We then highlight why it is difficult to have healthy conversations about men in the current name and shame approach that makes men feel defensive about their actions and hide their true opinions. Nsamu also challenges the limiting nature of the cognitive approach to men's interventions and suggests that we tap into African practices that we can draw upon such as gathering, storytelling, dancing in circles. Making a connection to older cultures and practices, we talk about how moving from an introspective and self conscious idea of who I am to a more creative, expressive and participatory nature of who we are, moves us from the idea of a separate self into a shared identity. Nsamu Moonga, is a music psychotherapist, who uses music to access, work through, and resolve therapeutic issues by creating or listening to music with verbal discourse to guide, interpret, or enhance the music experience and its relevance to the client and therapeutic process. The therapeutic issue is accessed, worked through, and resolved through both musical and verbal experiences, occurring alternately or simultaneously. Music is used for its specific and unique qualities and is germane to the therapeutic issue and its treatment; words are used to identify and consolidate insights gained during the process. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. Thank you for your support . Connect with Nsamu Moonga: LinedIn: Nsamu Moonga Twitter: @NsamuMoonga Instagram: @NsamuMoonga Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support th
S3 E12 · Mon, July 10, 2023
2 Years of Following My Bliss
Send us a text This is a bonus episode where I share how the journey of Manned Up Conversations has helped me over the past 2 years since 9 July 2021. Lots of lessons learned, people lost but most importantly has helped me find my voice and express myself without that negative self talk holding me back from sharing my story. More of these to come but I just want to thank you for all your support, encouragement and comments since I embarked on the journey of following my bliss. I hope these episodes are adding to your conversations, your self reflection and your own journey into manhood. Stay true and do you. Peace & Love family. Connect with me on social media: Kgaugelo Habyane Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S3 E11 · Thu, July 06, 2023
A Holistic Approach To Healing with Oscar Motswage
Send us a text In this episode we take a holistic approach to mental wellbeing by discussing the developments made in understanding how mental health affects us emotionally, behaviourally, cognitively including the important but often overlooked spiritual or belief system particularly in African cultures. We explore how black psychologists are becoming more aware of the different African cultural aspects that impact mental health. We also talk about the need to educate each other to build a language around mental wellbeing and some of the social ills caused by untreated traumas in communities and families around South Africa. Oscar Motswage is a registered and licensed Clinical Psychologist with HPCSA and BHF. He's also an associate member of the South African Clinical Neuropsychological Association (SACNA). He's currently a PhD Candidate in Psychology at University of South Africa. Obtained Master of Science (MSc.) degree in Clinical Psychology from Sefako Makgatho Health Sciences University (SMU), Bachelor of Science (BSc. Honours) degree in Psychology (cum laude) and Bachelor of Science (BSc.Molecular Sciences) degree from UL(MEDUNSA campus). Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. Clinical Psychological Services: Nkamogeleng Wellness Inc. Connect with Oscar Motswage: Facebook: Oscar Motswage Instagram: @nkamogeleng_motswage Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S3 E10 · Thu, June 15, 2023
Maturing Through Faith & Family with Redmond Louw
Send us a text In this episode we discuss being baptized and reborn into a faith-based life, we unpack transitioning from working in corporate to the NGO space. My guests also shares how his view on marriage and raising his sons after a living a life caught up "in-the-world" before being saved. We also explore discipleship and mentoring young men and close off with the importance of fitness, exercise and connecting with nature and creating men’s communities within or outside of the church. Redmond Louw is from Johannesburg South. In 2015, he was baptized and reborn, and hasn't looked back on his previous life since. He is deeply committed to God and to serving others. He worked in the telecommunications (ICT) industry for over ten years. He, recently left the corporate world to take a full-time position with the Character Company as a business development consultant. He also runs a men's fellowship group where he connects with men to help them find their place in Christ. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. Long Term Mentoring with The Character Company : The Character Company Donate to The Character Company Connect with Redmond Louw: Twitter: @RedmondLouw Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S3 E9 · Fri, June 02, 2023
Understanding Male Psychology with Angelo De Boni
Send us a text In this episode we get to grips with men's psychology by highlighting how men respond to scarcity and lack of opportunities in an unbalanced society like South Africa. We discuss how the female dominated counselling and therapy industry has somehow overlooked and misunderstood the male lived experience and how we can create space for men to connect with each other, Angelo shares an interesting idea on what leads men to go rogue and choose to isolate themselves because of the backlash and negative language associated with male behaviour. We close off by unpacking the perceived gender gap between teenage boys and girls in South Africa. Vincent is a South African independent registered professional counselor with HPCSA and now based in Sweden. He is a passionate creative, who has chosen psychology to find expression for his view of the post-Aparthied South Africa and the problems faced by men in a post-conflict era. For three decades he has reflected his ideas through his art and is now finding a voice through the useful constructs of modern psychology. Vincent is married with no children by choice but is conscientious of the world that adolescents are seeing. You can engage with Vincent on twitter . Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. Read Angelo's Articles: Will Men Survive the new South Africa? The Rogue Male Default South Africa is a CRT State Connect with Angelo Vincenzo De Boni: Twitter: @VincentPsychSA Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com<
S3 E8 · Thu, May 18, 2023
Coping With Grief and Loss with Tichaona Chitsinde
Send us a text In this deeply moving and insightful episode of Manned Up Conversations, Kgaugelo Habyane sits down with his close friend Tichaona Chitsinde for a powerful discussion on coping with profound grief and loss. Tichaona bravely shares his personal journey after becoming a widower, offering raw honesty and valuable lessons on navigating life after immense loss. This isn't just a story of sorrow, but a testament to resilience , the importance of community support and the ongoing process of healing . Tichaona reflects on the initial shock, the necessity of extending grace to oneself , and how his faith has provided a foundation. The conversation delves into the complexities of men and emotions , challenging societal expectations and exploring how men truly process their feelings. We discuss the vital role of friendship and the different ways support can manifest, as well as the challenges of navigating relationships during difficult times. Tichaona shares his perspective on focusing on "what next" rather than "why" and the significance of finding joy in small things . He offers poignant advice for those currently experiencing loss and touches upon the difficulties men face in asking for and accepting help . Ultimately, this episode is a call for men to create safe spaces for genuine connection and honest vulnerability. Key takeaways from this episode include: Honest reflections on navigating the intense pain of loss The critical role of community, therapy, and professional support in coping Challenging traditional views on men and emotional processing The power of self-compassion and extending grace during difficult times Practical insights on how to be a supportive friend and how to ask for help Finding strength and hope through faith and a focus on the present moment Join us for this powerful and moving conversation that offers valuable insights for anyone who has experienced loss or wants to better understand and support the men in their lives. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. Other Interviews: Networking and Rebelling with Tichaona Chitsinde Connect with Tichaona Chitsinde: Twitter: @TiChitsinde Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own ti
S3 E7 · Thu, May 04, 2023
The Secret That Saved My Life with Ntimbwe Mpamba
Send us a text In this episode we explore the lived experience of Ntimbwe Mpamba who's survived multiple medical procedures and still lives with HIV for 40 years. He shares the story of how a family secret about a condition that could've possibly ruined his life ended up saving him. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . News Stories: Article - The longest surviving person with HIV in Africa: Defying the odds and fighting the stigma eNCA Feature - The man who dared to live Connect with Ntimbe Mpamba: LinkedIn: Ntimbe Mpamba email: ntimbem@gmail.com Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S3 E6 · Thu, April 06, 2023
Unpacking Modern Relationships with Linda Yende
Send us a text In this episode we highlight some topics covered the best selling book Wake Up Woman with the author who is affectionately known as Uncle L by scores of radio and television audiences who tune in for his insights on relationships. We begin by discussing the influences that led to the book, then unpack friendships between men and women before delving into the big question of why men cheat and why he believes it is often due to male ego. We also investigate why women avoid friendly guys. In his book, he discusses an intriguing concept about reachers and settlers, as well as how both partners can have an ideal relationship if they both identify as reachers. The discussion then shifts to open relationships, sex consequences, and the dangers of reckless sexual behavior. Then we'll talk about how to deal with breakups and divorces caused by what he refers to as "surrender marriages." Linda is an author, actor, radio personality, musical artist, events facilitator, brand influencer, voice artist, entrepreneur and sought after MC and inspirational speaker, not only in literary circles, but as a relationship expert, since the release (and the overwhelming response to) his 10x bestselling self-published book, the widely discussed “Wakeup Woman”. Most recently, Linda has been the Relationships & Lead on EmpowaYouth, a programme which uses events to bring industry to township and peri-urban youth. The aim is to help young people to beat the triple challenges of unemployment, poverty and inequality. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Connect with Linda Yende: Buy Wake Up Woman on Amazon: Wake Up Woman Twitter: @LindaYende Facebook: Linda Ande Yende Instagram: @LindaYende F ollow us & share you comments on our work: Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share
S3 E5 · Thu, March 23, 2023
Becoming A Universal Man with WarriorRic
Send us a text In this episode I connect with Oakland, CA native WarriorRic to detail his journey of starting life over in South Africa more than 20 years ago and unpack his experience of the country, culture and people. We discuss the importance of greeting in African culture and how he experienced Ubuntu and was embraced by South Africans upon his arrival. Then we unpack the effects of xenophobia, highlighting the difference in treatment towards Africans foreigners and international foreigners. Taking aim at men's wellness, we talk about the deep introspective work men need to do on themselves but often shy away from and miss out on the opportunity to tackle responsibilities from a healthy and mature perspective instead of neglecting ourselves for the sake of money and provision. In closing we look into how we can use nutrition, movement, sleep, prayer and meditation to find balance and have the energy to lead a healthy and more intentional life. WarriorRic lives by his personal mantra, ”I’d rather be a Warrior who faces challenges, than a worrier who misses opportunities.” Through this ethos accordingly, he has inspired, motivated and transformed so many lives. He is an Activist, international Speaker, media Presenter , life and wellness Coach , conference Facilitator and an events MC and Sports Commentator. A spokesperson of choice by notable world class brands, such as Toyota, Jeep, Reebok and SPAR. His vast international experience, local knowledge, charisma and commanding presence serves up the perfect combination for desired change. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Inspire, Motivate & Transform with WarriorRic: Website: www.warriorric.co.za Twitter: @WarriorRic Facebook: WarriorRic Instagram: @WarriorRic Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. <a r
S3 E4 · Thu, March 09, 2023
Changing The Narrative Through Fine Arts with Lekgetho Makola
Send us a text In this episode we head to Javett-UP to explore how artists are using their expression to change the narrative around how men and black people are depicted in media and fine arts. To help unpack this topic I'm joined by the exceptionally talented and experienced CEO, Lekgetho Makola. We discuss his journey in fine arts and learn how his exposure to international markets sparked a growing interest in shifting the colonial culture in artistic establishments. We also look into how social media is used to highlight the negative aspects of our culture and dehumanize people struggling with depression, drugs and other addictions. He describes his father as a hard person who taught him all about resilience, responsibility and the will to persevere by doing things by himself. We then talk about the link between the arts and a spiritual journey which leads many untrained artists to depression. We end off by discussing the latest works happening at Javett-UP and how you can enjoy some of their latest showing in the coming months. Lekgetho Makola was appointed the new CEO of the Javett-UP Arts Centre . Lekgetho joins Javett-UP from the Market Photo Workshop and has many years’ experience in arts administration. Lekgetho was the first African in over 60 years to chair the World Press Photo Awards General Jury in2020 and served on the Art Bank of South Africa Acquisition Committee in 2018 and 2019. His artistic philosophy is embedded in social justice and advocacy as an International Ford Foundation Fellow – Social Justice. Under his leadership, the Market Photo Workshop won the Principal Prince Claus Award in 2018. He was born in GaSekhukhune, Limpopo in 1974. He studied fi ne arts at the Durban Institute of Technology and completed an MFA degree at Howard University in Washington, DC. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Visit The Javett Art Centre At University of Pretoria: Latest Exhibitions Website: Javett UP Facebook: Javett Art At UP Instagram: @Javett-UP Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note
S3 E3 · Fri, February 24, 2023
Overcoming Limiting Beliefs with Michael Unbroken
Send us a text Do you find yourself putting off thing that you know deep down in your heart you really want to do? Well if you are like me and you keep getting in your own way when it comes to doing the things that really matter to you then this episode is for you. To explore how these so called limiting beliefs stops us from expanding and stepping into the best version of ourselves I'm joined by Michael Unbroken . Michael share his traumatic upbringing and how that led him to help people deal with the trauma in their personal lives. We discuss the difference between trauma responses and limiting beliefs, and unpack how to build a relationship with failure by accepting and learning from it. We then talk about how to develop a mindset that will allow you to keep moving despite circumstances and obstacles in your way. To end off our discussion we highlight the importance of knowing yourself and why that is crucial to being able to be kind to yourself. Michael is the founder of Think Unbroken and his mission is to empower individuals around the world to move through fear, overcome trauma, set and reach massive goals, embrace the power of their voice, create social change, impact their communities, be powerful leaders, and lead unbroken lives. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Connect with Michael Unbroken : Website: Think Unbroken Facebook: Michael Unbroken Instagram: @MichaelUnbroken Twitter: @MichaelUnbroken YouTube: Think Unbroken Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with <a href='https:
S3 E2 · Thu, January 26, 2023
The Power of Support Groups with Krystle Kemp
Send us a text "We all exist in so many different communities and that's empowering. Because if I'm not getting what I need in the communities I have, I might need to look elsewhere" Support groups are a great source of help for many people struggling with mental illnesses or anyone looking for a place to connect with people with similar life experiences. During SADAG's annual support group awareness week, we highlight some of the important information around support groups and unpack what types of groups are available to join, who can join the groups and how you can start a support group in your community with the help of SADAG. We also speak about the importance of privacy and a sworn secrecy around discussions among group members and the difference between group therapy and SADAG support groups. To help me unpack this topic I'm joined by Krystle Kemp who is SADAG Support Group coordinator who's involved with the training of support group leaders and supporting them on their journey to starting and maintaining their groups. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Connect with The South African Anxiety and Depression Group: Website: The South African Anxiety and Depression Group Facebook: The SADAG Instagram: @SADAG_Official Twitter: @TheSADAG YouTube: @SADAG_Official Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise <a href='https://www.givengain.com/project/kgaugelo-habyane-raising-funds-for-love-your-nut
S3 E1 · Thu, January 19, 2023
Sexual Discipline and Spiritual Alignment with Jakal El-Malik
Send us a text Welcome back to season 3. We highlight the importance of protecting your sexual energy and how using or misusing it can affect your spiritual wellbeing. My guest shares how going down the wrong path can lead to struggle and a hard time trying to undo the bondage you've attached to yourself through casual sexual encounters, aggressive media and having the wrong people and partners in your life. We also delve into the positive side of being disciplined from a young age and how that can attract more positivity, clarity and a richer life experience. Tap in with us to learn how you can practice sexual discipline in your own life. My guest Jakal El-Malik (aka J. Malik) is an American spiritual teacher, author, and speaker who emphasizes the importance of spiritual alignment in our careers, our relationships, and our finances. His personal journey of spiritual development inspired him to share his insights as a mystic and he would eventually begin teaching others the 'science and math' of spirituality that is often lost in modern religion. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Follow J. Malik: Website: www.jmalikteachings.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jmaliktaughtme Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jmaliktaughtme/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JMalikTaughtMe Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website:
S2 E26 · Thu, December 15, 2022
Let's Get Real About Prostate Cancer with Dr Viola Morolo
Send us a text According to studies 1 in 15 men in South Africa will develop prostate cancer in their lifetime. This affects between 1 in 4 to 1 in 6 black men compared to 1 in 8 to 1 in 9 white men in South Africa. To help us Get Real About Prostate Cancer and wrap up our series on Men's Health, my guest shares her experience in assisting men with their urological conditions. We define what exactly is the prostate, how it functions and gets infected. Known to spread through the body if not detected early on, we highlight the importance of screening and options available for treatment. We end our conversation by encouraging men and their partners to not only get informed but to incorporate annual checkups into their lifestyle and reduce their aversion to this invasive but life-saving method. Dr. Viola Morolo is a specialist Urologist, a fellow of the college of Urologists of South Africa who completed her FC Urol (SA) and MMed (Urol) with the University of Pretoria. She is the first female Urologist to graduate at the University of Pretoria. It was while practising in the field of occupational health that her interest in Urology was intensified, due to the significant number of patients she assessed that presented with urological conditions, in particular possible urological cancers. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Connect with Dr Viola Morolo: Website: Africa Urology Contact: Dr MV Morolo Facebook: Viola Morolo Instagram: @Dr_V_the.female.urologist Other resources: Anatomy and function of the prostate - How common is prostate cancer in South Africa Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S2 E25 · Thu, December 01, 2022
How To Take Care Of Your Nuts with Torsten Koehler
Send us a text In his thirties, Torsten Koehler, the founder of Love Your Nuts Foundation, was diagnosed with testicular cancer in 1995 ironically whilst educating young teenagers about sex education at a school where he was employed as a teacher. He joins me to talk about “the shy cancer which is the most common cancer in the age group 15 to 45". We discuss his work they in educating young and older men about testicular cancer and explain why it's important for men to regularly check their nuts. Testicular cancer is known to get aggressive, he also highlights the impact of not seeking professional help before the cancer spreads further into the body. Torsten reveals how cancer patients tend to get depressed and how writing essays which turned into a published book called, you guessed it "Love Your Nuts" helped him overcome this phase and offers some words of encouragement and support for those dealing with mental health issues. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts and follow us on social media to share your comments on our work. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Connect with Love Your Nuts: Website: www.loveyournuts.org Facebook: Love Your Nuts Twitter: @ LoveYourNuts Instagram: @LoveYourNuts Other resources: How can I recognise testicular cancer? - How To Check Any fantesticle amount helps us to change a man’s behaviour one nut at a time. - Donate Testicular Cancer Education in a Nutshell - Educational Cancer Smart App Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S2 E24 · Thu, November 17, 2022
Making Mental Health A Community Conversation with Peter Teixeira
Send us a text To continue our series on Men's Month, we travel to Midvaal to meet with the Executive Mayor Peter Teixeira to have an informal but insightful chat about him fathering 3 amazing children and married to his beautiful wife whom he married at a young age. We discuss his upbringing and venture into how the pressure of his career affect his mental health and how he can utilize his position as a leader and servant of society. to create more awareness and implement strategies to improve mental health in rural communities. We also talk about the impact of GBV on society, party and drinking culture as we approach the festive season and how the youth should be more vigilant and discipline to make a success of themselves. Peter Teixeira joined the Democratic Alliance in 2014. During his time as a ward councillor, he served in three mayoral committee (MMC) posts and became the DA’s constituency leader in Midvaal. He started his schooling at Meyerton Primary School in Meyerton, thereafter he moved to Riverside School. He later went to varsity where he graduated in sport management science. In September 2021 Teixeira was elected as the mayoral candidate for DA and won the local government elections with an increased majority of 63%. He was sworn in as the mayor of Midvaal Local Municipality on 15 November 2021. Connect with #ThePeoplesMayor: Executive Mayor's Profile Website: Midvaal.gov Facebook: EMPeterTeixeira/ Twitter: @ PeterTeixeiraEM Other resources: Midvaal Programmes - Sebenza Mbokodo A confidential service and a safe place - FAMSA Vaal Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S2 E23 · Thu, November 03, 2022
Understanding Men's Health with Dr Kabo Ijane
Send us a text To kick off Men's Health Month we took The Urology Hospital in Hatfield, Pretoria to talk to Dr K Ijane about some of the issues surrounding how men are dealing with the issues of prostate cancer and the process involved when seeking help. He explains the relationship between GPs and other doctors who are part their network in providing help and referrals to professionals who can offer specialized help when needed. We also speak about the need to spread information about men's health issues and make it accessible for people to know when, where and how they can seek help for their ailments before the problem becomes uncontainable. Dr Ijane unpacks the need to know your family's health history and why regular testing and checkups are better than waiting too long before finding out you might have a chronic issue that runs in the family. We end off by discussing sexual performances enhancers and it might be better idea to live a healthier life, eat well and exercise to improve your sexual health. Dr Kabo Ijane, Urologist and board member of The Urology Hospital, is the first African robotic surgeon who trained both locally and in Europe, he has encouraged his peers to embrace robotic surgery which is experiencing dramatic global growth due to the success of its minimally invasive technology. For help with : Website: The Urology Hospital Facebook: The Urology Hospital, Pretoria Instagram: The Urology Hospital Twitter: Urology Hospital Other resources: Urologists - https://urology.co.za/health-professionals/urologists/ Support Services - https://urology.co.za/services/ Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer A
S2 E22 · Thu, October 20, 2022
Breaking The Silence On Male Sexual Abuse with Martin Pelders
Send us a text "44% of all boys in South Africa has suffered some form of sexual abuse by age 18." We talk to Martin Pelders to discuss his work in empowering survivors of sexual abuse. We unpack the foundations of his company MatrixMen and tackle myths surrounding sexual abuse victims. He shares insights on how abuse affects the victims outlook on life, how they deal with the trauma and some of the causes of boys and men being silent victims of this often talked about but very hidden side of abuse. Martin Pelders launched Matrixmen , a peer support group for male survivors in Johannesburg. He continues his work and his healing, and he hopes to support the formation of support groups across his country. For help with sexual trauma and abuse visit Matrix Men: Website: MatrixMen Facebook: MatrixMen Instagram: @MatrixMenSA Twitter: @MatrixMenSA Other resources: Martin Pelders experience with abuse Daily Maverick: Sexual Violence In South Africa: where are the victims? News24 article on abuse: Nearly half of South African boys raped Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S2 E21 · Thu, October 06, 2022
Confronting Your Shadow Self with Mervin Canham
Send us a text The voice(s) in our head often work against us and limit our ability to live in our truth and reach our fullest potential. We hide, deny and suppress certain parts of ourselves in order to appear perfect and well put together to the world around us. My guest Mervin Canham pulled up to share how The Mankind Project South Africa helped him on his journey in healing and overcoming personal challenges by providing a space for fellowship and support among brothers so he can use his story to inspire and help others in need. We unpack his experience with experiences since joining the MKP team, what Mervin Canham is an addictions specialist and co-leader at The Mankind Project which is an organisation aimed at changing the world one man at a time, allowing men to touch a piece of their shadow by being vulnerable with other men. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Join our WhatsApp group : Manned Up_Conversations Connect with Mervin Canham: Instagram: Brother Shabazz Facebook: Mervin Canham (Brother Shabazz) LinkedIn: Mervin Canham The Mankind Project South Africa: Website: The Mankind Project South Africa Facebook: @MKPSouthAfrica Sign up: New Warrior Training Adventure NWTA Weekend Articles: Ex-addict now helps others Interviews: Street Talk Tv Big Boys Don't Cry: Part 1 - Season 11 Episode 49 Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebo Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out t
S2 E20 · Thu, September 22, 2022
I Am My Brother's Keeper with Buntu Magqibelo
Send us a text In this episode I talk to Buntu Magqibelo and we highlight Doda Ndoda - I Am My Brother's Keeper's work which started out as men's departments within the church and eventually became a secular organization to embrace and work with men from different walks of life . We talk about men losing interest in the church, tradition including symbolic meaning of circumcision. We also discuss family planning and why men should care about getting a vasectomy . We end off by discussing the attitude towards people who rape, abusive and commit GBV without making excuses for the perpetrators we highlight the tendency to isolate people who need our support after serving their time or punishment for such crimes. Buntu Magqibelo is the founder of Doda Ndoda - I Am My Brothers Keeper who are a Men’s Organization that seeks to create a platform for MEN to talk about issues affecting men. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Connect with DodaBrotherSA : Twitter: Doda Ndoda YouTube: Doda Ndoda Programs: The Uncles Club Men Fighting Against GBV Mentors Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Join our WhatsApp group: Manned Up_Conversations Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebook: @MannedUpConvos Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : <br/
S2 E19 · Thu, September 08, 2022
How Fathers Show Up For Their Child with Thabang Mokoena
Send us a text " Physical separation should not stop you from meaningfully taking part in your little one’s life. It’s much easier for mothers to build a bond with their child during pregnancy and in the early days, especially if they are breastfeeding. With dads, you have to form this bond more intentionally in other ways." In one of our previous episodes we spoke about Why Do Fathers Matter? To follow up on that conversation I'm joined by Thabang Mokoena to discuss how the Fatherhood Friday movement started and unpack the importance of fathers providing foundational lessons to children before they head out to face the real world. As a combat sport enthusiast, we look into how this form of training can be beneficial for a child's confidence, self-defense and mental health. We also explore the impact of video games and how curating those experiences for your child affects their socialization. Then end off by highlighting how men need to empower and educate themselves before committing to relationships, marriage and children. Thabang also shares some books and mentors who've helped him in his journey of self improvement. Thabang Mokoena is the founder and creator Fatherhood Friday . Fatherhood Friday is a movement committed to celebrating positive fatherhood and seeks to Inspire, Motivate and Celebrate fathers. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Fatherhood Connect : Facebook: Fatherhood Friday Twitter: FatherhoodFive Instagram: Fatherhood Friday Book Mentioned: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People The Courage To Be Disliked Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebook: @MannedUpConvos Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com .
S2 E18 · Thu, August 18, 2022
Healing Through Drama Therapy with Sibusiso "Vonder" Fihlani
Send us a text Drama therapy is a form of psychotherapy . It involves using drama and theatre techniques to help people resolve conflicts and problems. It may also allow individuals to develop self-awareness, express emotions, and improve relationships. To help unpack this topic I'm joined by Wits University Drama Therapist, Sibusiso Vonder Fihlani who started out in the theatre world and transitioned into psychology to explore how these two seemingly separate worlds can help men find their range of emotions and build emotional literacy. We discuss the origins of this practice by highlighting some of the benefits, drawbacks and discuss how this can be an effective tool to rid our bodies of the traumas held over the years. Though effective, he states that some people find other forms like talk therapy to be limiting but the communal nature of drama therapy allows you to work through your issues in a way that goes beyond the just the physical, it touches on spiritual aspects as well. Sibusiso "Vonder" Fihlani is a member of the Atlantic Fellows, his advocacy project focuses on comprehensive sexual education where he uses storytelling to help parents talk to their children about sex. He's currently working on a play called Omunye Phezu Komunye, which addresses the land and mapping issues affecting black, indian and coloured communities and how that links to their identity. Please get the free tickets on the link below; Get free tickets: Art That Matters: Inherited Histories and the Politics of Mapping: Venue: Wits Art Museum, University Corner, 19 floor, Emakhaya Theatre . Time: 16:00 Date: 01/09/2022 Ticket are free on this link : https://www.quicket.co.za/events/181896-art-matters-inherited-histories-and-the-politics-of-mapping/ Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Connect with Sbu "Vonder" Fihlani : Facebook: S ibusiso Vonder Fihlani Twitter: @vonde_r Instagram: Sbu.Fihlani Book Tickets: Art That M Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that
S2 E17 · Thu, August 04, 2022
The Culture of Addiction with Ootz Tha Afronaut
Send us a text On this episode we discuss the culture of addiction. To help me unpack this topic i'm joined by legendary Hip Hop Producer, Ootz The Afronaut who was once considered and nominated Hip Hop producer of the year by South African publication Hype magazine. Ootz share his battles with alcohol and drug addiction highlighting some key moments that led to the realization that he's addicted. We discuss the relationship between the drug and the user focusing on how addiction affects family and close relationships. Now 5 years sober, we also look into the stigma around addiction with users often labelled as bewitched, and how his journey brought him closer to God who ultimately proved crucial to his recovery. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Connect with Ootz : Facebook: Ootz85 Instagram: Ootzbeats 17 Live ID: @Ootzbeats Resources: Changes Addiction Rehab SANCA 12 Step recovery SADAG Substance Abuse Brochures Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebook: @MannedUpConvos Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our
S2 E16 · Thu, July 21, 2022
Why do Fathers Matter? with Lereko Mfono
Send us a text In recent years organizations have been at the forefront of addressing fathers' absence and involvement in South African families. One of the organizations leading this cause is Heartlines through their vital and wide-reaching initiative #FathersMatterZA. Lereko Mfono joins me to discuss the impact of their work with men in various communities around the country. We discuss the importance of knowing your father's story pointing out the need for affirmation and upholding the father's voice in the family. With finances or lack thereof causing a lot of conflicts and breakdowns in relationships, we unpack the barriers fathers face in providing for their children including how fathers can provide beyond finances. Lereko highlights the magical experience of becoming a father and shares some insights into "attachment theory" and how bonding with your child from an early age can benefit them and positively impact on men's mental health. We end our discussion with an overview of the six-part series launching on Sunday 17 September at 20:00 on SABC2. My guest, Lereko Mfono started acting when he was in primary school at a drama society situated in the Vaal, called the Vereeniging Operatic and Dramatic Society. He holds an advanced diploma in applied drama from the University of the Witwatersrand, specialises in writing and acting in plays designed for children. He is now the Project Coordinator for Fathers Matter . He is a multifaceted creative, with a background in drama, writing and facilitation. He is passionate about the transformation of mindsets through story and media. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Connect with Heartlines : Website: Fathers Matter Facebook: FathersMatterZA Fathers Matter Film Series: https://www.heartlines.org.za/fathers-matter/films Resources for fathers: https://www.heartlines.org.za/fathers-matter/resources Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that sta
S2 E15 · Thu, July 07, 2022
Strategies for Navigating The World of Work with Siphiwe Moyo
Send us a text The world of work has changed and its becoming increasingly important for us to adopt strategies to help us develop skills that will help us advance in our career. On today's episode we discuss careers, side hustles and strategies to consider as you prepare the path to conquer your chosen career or business. We also unpack how gender transformation affects men's career choices and the importance educating and encouraging young men on both doing good work and being a good person despite their income or position in society. My guest also shares how he supports and empowers his daughter to take up space and not let past narratives stunt her growth. My guest, Siphiwe Moyo is a sought-after and highly-rated International Keynote Speaker, Facilitator & Author based in South Africa. He is an Adjunct Faculty member at GIBS, Wits Business School, Henley Business School and the Johannesburg Business School. He is a doctoral student in Leadership and Organisational Behaviour. A seasoned HR practitioner and Organisational Behaviour specialist, he studies and teaches human behaviour within a workplace context. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Connect with my guest : Website: Siphiwe Moyo Twitter: @SiphiweMoyo Facebook: Siphiwe Moyo Instagram: @SiphiweMoyo Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebook: @MannedUpConvos Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't
S2 E14 · Thu, June 23, 2022
Bullying And Overcoming A Victim Mindset with Shakes Dlutu
Send us a text Bullying has been part of our lives from a young age, whether we were the one being bullied or witnessed someone else being bullied, and we simply wrote it off as boys being boys or kids playful nature. But rarely do we stop and think about how the person being bullied is affected, My guest Shakes Dlutu runs impactful workshops on spreading awareness about bullying in the education, government and corporate industries. Mzwethemba Dlutu, better known as “Shakes”, is a motivational speaker, founder & chairman of MSM Training and Development , facilitator of group effectiveness processes, energetic emcee for all your activation events and conferences and also designs and runs innovative youth development solutions for both schools and the South African youth market. Shakes also facilitates weekend teacher development workshops to assist teachers to reignite their passion for their profession. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Connect with my guest : Website: ShakesDlutu.com Twitter: @ShakesDlutu Facebook: Shakes Dlutu Instagram: @ShakesDlutu Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebook: @MannedUpConvos Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness Visit our site to explore our work : website: www.mannedupconvos.com
S2 E13 · Thu, June 09, 2022
Unlocking The Power A Sustained Thought with KC Dinoke
Send us a text What is it about those thoughts that never seem to leave us? Good or bad, we all have hundreds if not thousands of thoughts running through our minds at the same time, so we need to be mindful of the thoughts that we entertain. My guests KC Dinoke considers himself a student of the mind and believes that if we can sustain thought long enough our mind has the power to turn the invisible into the visible, therefore affecting our reality. We highlight some themes from his book "The power of a sustained thought" along with how the media reports over the COVID lockdown period caused men to develop an unhealthy mental diet. KC Dinoke is an author, motivational speaker and recording artist who has spent years researching and writing books on self improvement through the power of the mind. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Connect with my guest : Instagram: @KCDinoke Facebook: King KC Dinoke Motivations Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebook: @MannedUpConvos Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Connect with my guest : Instagram: @KCDinoke Facebook: King KC Dinoke Motivations Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebook: @MannedUpConvos Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.
S2 E12 · Thu, May 26, 2022
Triumph Over Adversity with Arabile Gumede
Send us a text Adversity has a strange way of awakening our resilient spirit, giving us the ability to turn some of worst tragedies into triumphs, my guests Arabile Gumede joins me to talk about his journey into financial journalism, the challenges of growing up in a single parent home and we highlight the importance of surrounding yourself with the right environment and people to help you elevate and advance in life. We also discuss the quality of our friendships, being a good friend and becoming better at knowing, supporting and encouraging people in our circle in their craft, business or whatever it is they may need in life. Then we close off by questioning how men view money as a status symbol and some key lessons in balancing a highly public job with day to day life pressures. ArabileG is a financial journalist with a career glowing from remarkable feats and interrogative work. The world of money, markets, finance and economics are where he has garnered a lot of his reputation as a leading commentator, reporter, anchor and writer. ArabileG is also a firm believer and advocate for financial literacy, leading the path in education small business owners, students and entrepreneurs alike, in getting the best out of the country’s economic standing. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Connect with my guest : Website: Arabile Gumede Instagram: @ArabileG Facebook: Arabile Gumede Twitter: @ArabileG Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebook: @MannedUpConvos Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can als
S2 E11 · Thu, May 12, 2022
Marrying Black Girls For Guys Who Aren't Black with Hagen Engler
Send us a text Interracial couples are not as uncommon as they were before South Africa became the so called "rainbow nation" and even when we see these couples we chuckle and wonder about the complexities their relationship might deal with on a daily basis. From culture shock, lobola negotiations and just a general difference in the way of life between black and white people are sure to cause some discomfort and adjustment to one's views and beliefs. My guest Hagen Engler, joins me to discuss his article turned book titled " Marrying Black Girls for Guys who Aren't Black ". In this episode we explore Hagen Engler's writing career starting with his days as editor of FHM and how the media's portrayal of men and women has changed over the years. We unpack some of the complexities of his interracial relationship and how he navigates raising a multiracial daughter who he identifies as black and highlight some of the challenges in she faces in society. Hagen Engler is an author of fiction and non-fiction books, a co-writer, a ghost-writer, a scriptwriter, a copywriter, a hustler in the media hood. He self-published half a dozen books before an established publisher finally risked it all on the cumbersomely titled Marrying Black Girls For Guys Who Aren’t Black . He has also edited a doomed consumer mag, surfed Hawaii, climbed Kilimanjaro, run the Comrades and eaten a half chicken and chips at the original Nando’s in Rosettenville. His latest novel, the satirical farce In The Maid’s Room , is about the slow, ignominious death of white entitlement. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Hagen Engler's music, books and articles: Download Free e-book: The Trustees Music videos: A concert movie with Jedi Rollers A Glimmer Of Light Latest E.P: The Feel So Strongs E.P Connect with my guest : Website: Hagen's House Instagram: Hagen Engler Facebook: Hagen Engler Twitter: <a href='https://twitter.com/HagenEngler?ref_src=tw
S2 E10 · Thu, April 28, 2022
The Black Man's Identity Crisis in Society with Ron Derby
Send us a text Do you think South African men are experiencing an identity crisis? Are black men in South Africa experiencing an identity crisis? Considering our long history with apartheid and the developments post this shameful period, black people and black men in particular have risen to positions of power. But even at the height of their success you find the same men involved in crimes against the state, struggling with mental health issues and/or perpetrators of violence against women, children and other men. Joining me in discussion about how black men are depicted in media and the perceived identity crisis black men facing in post aprtheid South Africa is @mailandguardian editor in chief @derbyr. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Ron Derby's articles: Mail&Guardian News 24 PowerFM Connect with my guest : Instagram: Derbyr Twitter: RonDerby Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebook: @MannedUpConvos Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise Testicular Cancer Awareness
S2 E9 · Thu, April 14, 2022
The Stigma Around Mental Health and Male Suicide with Nkini Phasha
Send us a text Ever wonder why there's so much secrecy around mental health in the black community? Well, in this episode we unpack and discuss some of the stigma around mental health and male suicide by highlighting some of the common causes and preventative measures we can take in helping ourselves or our loved ones who might be struggling with one or more of these mental health issues. To inform and educate us on this topic, I'm joined by South Anxiety and Depression Group board member Nkini Phasha who has been working with the organization and communities over the past 20 years to educate people about the importance of taking care of our mental wellbeing. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Additional info mentioned in the episode: Website: South African Depression and Anxiety Group SADAG Facebook Fridays SADAG Toolkits SADAG Infographics Teen Suicide Connect with my guest : Instagram: Nkini Pasha Twitter: Nkini Mokone Pasha Website: South African Depression and Anxiety Group Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebook: @MannedUpConvos Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comment
S2 E8 · Thu, March 17, 2022
The Importance Of Telling Your Story with Dan Moyane (Part 2)
Send us a text In this episode I connect with media elder Dan Moyane to discuss the importance of telling your story in his memoir “ I Don't Want To Die Unknown ”. We unpack why our stories need to be documented instead of being only told through oral tradition. Dan Moyane shares lessons that were taught by his late parents, we discuss the influence his father had on his life growing up in Soweto and his advice to young fathers. Then end off by discussing his views on how the older generation of men have failed to educate young South African's about the liberation struggle and how we can help our foreign brothers and sisters who came to our country for a better life and opportunities. “ I Don't Want To Die Unknown ” . . Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Purchase the book: Exclusive Books: I Don't Want To Die Unknown eBook: I Don't Want To Die Unknown Connect : Instagram: Dan Moyane Facebook: Dan Moyane Linked In: Dan Moyane YouTube: #ConnectAfricaMoyane Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebook: @MannedUpConvos Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love
S2 E7 · Thu, March 03, 2022
The Importance Of Telling Your Story with Dan Moyane (Part 1)
Send us a text In this episode I connect with media elder Dan Moyane to discuss the importance of telling your story in his memior “ I Don't Want To Die Unknown ”. We unpack why our stories need to be documented instead of being only told through oral tradition. Dan Moyane shares lessons that were taught by his late parents, we discuss the influence his father had on his life growing up in Soweto and his advice to young fathers. Then end off by discussing his views on how the older generation of men have failed to educate young South African's about the liberation struggle and how we can help our foreign brothers and sisters who came to our country for a better life and opportunities. “ I Don't Want To Die Unknown ” , . Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Purchase the book: Exclusive Books: I Don't Want To Die Unknown eBook: I Don't Want To Die Unknown Connect : Instagram: Dan Moyane Facebook: Dan Moyane Linked In: Dan Moyane YouTube: #ConnectAfricaMoyane Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Manned Up Conversations Facebook: @MannedUpConvos Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subsc
S2 E6 · Thu, February 17, 2022
How Fatherless Men Negotiate Their Masculinity with Patrick Neo Mabiletsa
Send us a text In this episode I connect with Neo Patrick Mabiletsa about his journey as an author, we unpack his book “ Chronicles of Fatherless Son ”, how he dealt with the loss of his wife after the birth of his first daughter & the challenges of being a single father. We also highlight his passion for coaching and helping others deal with their grief and how he has gone from an author to entrepreneur in the wine industry. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Topics we cover on the show : 01:30 - How Chronicles Of A Fatherless son is being received by the public 02:57 - different forms of fatherless and how Neo Patrick Mabiletsa shared his experiences in the book, 05:17 - What happens when uncles and other family members who support you start their own families and that support fades away, 09:30 - The importance of taking calculated risks and not being afraid of mistakes but also reaching out to mentors to help with situations we might not be familiar with, 13:20 - learning to express yourself instead of bottling things up which may lead to violent outbursts because you were never taught to speak or defend yourself, 19:00 - losing his wife after the birth of his first daughter and the challenges of being a single father, 25:10 - describing how he needed his father when his wife passed away and when he needed money for studies as some of the most challenging part of writing the book, making noise through publishing a book and doing interviews so that his long lost father would come and find him but eventually giving up because he wouldn't be happy with the reasons why he chose not to be present in his life, 31:00 - forgiving our fathers and realizing that no matter how bad they are their love and embrace would make a huge difference in ones life, 34:50 - churches can be crucial in changing young men's lives but there's also a dangerous element where pastors can take advantage of their confused state of being, 40:00 - father's tendency to lose themselves after a divorce or bad break up and which starves their children of the love and support they need from a father, 44:00 - finding joy coaching others through grief counseling and making moves as an entrepreneur in the wine industry. Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things th
S2 E5 · Thu, February 03, 2022
Magenge, We Need To Talk with Melusi Tshabalala
Send us a text In this episode we connect unpack the hilarious but inspiring book Magenge, We Need To Talk authored by Melusi Tshabalala. We explore his open and honest approach in his writing style and why he felt the need to reach out to men by sharing some of his struggles and observations throughout his life. Melusi also shares some of his upcoming projects outside of Magenge and how he plans to leave a lasting legacy for generations to come. Melusi Tshabalala is an author, speaker, social and creative entrepreneur with a career spanning over 20 years in the advertising industry. Please don't forget to S ubscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family to help us grow and be part of our brother's evolution as men . T hank you for your support . Topics we cover on the show : 01:32 - Melusi's passion for writing sparked by background and specializing in advertising and copywriting, 02:32 - The language & feel of Magenge, We Need To Talk & inspiration from personal experience and conversations with friends, 05:34 - The consequences of living life without a plan or consideration for your actions and how they affect other people, 11:03 - joking around and taking jabs at our friends but also creating the "safe space" for them to be honest about their feelings towards some of the things we take lightly in circles, 12:53 - working towards success but also being preparing for the worst, what's your plan? 15:00 - helping our friends in times of need and adding value beyond beers, parties and sports chats, 17:00 - men spending time in large groups without really connecting on a personal level and getting to know each other, 19:20 - Sometimes we need our friends to laugh at our pain and help us soften the blow when dealing with some difficult situations in our lives, 21:15 - understanding that our traumas and burdens are not the same and knowing when to seek professional help, 25:40 - who are you without the external things you rely on to define yourself? 28:30 - the value of speaking to elders and people who raised you but also realizing they might have limited experience in giving advise about other issues, 34:45 - encouraging young boys to befriend girls from an early age so they can see them as human beings and not just people you need something from, 41:37 - the importance of identifying you own issues, insecurities and issues, 43:50 - the perception t Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things th
S2 E4 · Thu, November 25, 2021
Dealing with Shame with Julia Kerr Henkel
Send us a text In this episode, I speak to Julia Kerr Henkel about Dealing With Shame. Shame is one of the biggest contributors to suicide, depression, and sometimes abuse. We aim to explore how we can use empathy, connect with others, and learn to express ourselves emotionally to defeat this silent killer that thrives on not being spoken about or discussed. Julia brings her expertise and insights into this discussion to give us tools to help us build our shame resilience instead of responding with our shame shields. Julia Kerr Henkelthe is MD of Lumminos Coaching and Change Consulting . She is an executive coach, seasoned change and organizational development consultant, facilitator, and speaker. In March 2019, Julia studied directly with Dr. Brené Brown in Texas and is one of her Certified Dare to Lead™ Facilitators commissioned to teach the skillsets of courage, connection, vulnerability, shame, empathy, and emotional literacy. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Topics we cover on the show : 03:25 - How do we define shame, 05:30 - exploring the difference between shame and guilt, and looking at the 4 self-conscious emotions shame, guilt, humiliation, and embarrassment, 11:40 - we cannot resist or avoid shame, but we can work on cultivating our shame resilience, 13:50 - men working hard to be the ideal man but never share the back story and struggles they go through, 19:37 - men and women being pit against each other and how we can find a balance and integrate, 23:00 - why so many men are out of sync with their emotions and don't have the language to express their hard emotions, 27:00 - the 3 common shame shields we use to not feel shame. We move against, move towards, or move away, 29:41 - comparing how men and women express their emotions and learning our own emotional language, 32:36 - naming our emotions to help take away the negative power they can have over us, 37:00 - 5 steps to shame resilience, 44:33 - can anything good or positive come from shame? Recommended links : Contact: julia@lumminos.co.za Website: www.lumminos.co.za Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: https://www.thenetworkingcompany.co.za Facebook: thenetworkingco Instagram: <a href='https://www.
S2 E3 · Thu, November 04, 2021
Owning Your Truth with Benedict Phiri
Send us a text In this episode, we connect in conversation with Benedict Phiri to get his insights on life, philosophy, and enjoying life as a driven man with great vision. We start off by unpacking Ben's journey into the law profession including some hilarious but honest and humble stories from his childhood. We unpack the events that led to another failed marriage while dealing with being named as a benefactor of the McKinsey & Co and Gupta scandal . We highlight how he found balance in co-parenting and maintained a relationship with his son despite differences with his ex-wife. Talking about the role of our parents, we discuss how debates and lack of acknowledgment for his achievements affected his relationship with his parents and his father's influence on his outlook on life. We end off by getting into some of Ben's favorite books, mentors and experiences, and lessons he takes away from conversations with friends and everyday people. Benedict Phiri is the Founder and Managing Director of IusPrudentia Specialist Counse l, a 100% Black-owned law firm and member of the Nextlaw Referral Network. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Topics we cover on the show : 00:35 - Falling in love with reading and writing at an early age and signing up to study philosophy before being stimulated and challenged by law studies, 08:40 - deconstructing our experiences and acknowledging how we engage with the world and how it impacts our relationships with people, 12:07 - men being told to man up without understanding what men really go through and why we do the things we do, 15:07 - men feel they need to always act and not take enough time to sit in our pain and learn from it, 16:28 - getting married for the wrong reasons at 29 years old and learning to let people fight their own battle, 21:50 - Spending time and giving your all in relationships and not having a relationship with yourself, 23:21 - Life after getting caught up in the McKinsey and Company and Gupta scandal, moving on and starting a business, 25:55 - the importance of finding freedom and being free to explore as a man, 26:40 - co-parenting while dealing with the guilt and shame of a failed marriage, 32:54 - relationship with an absent but intellectual father & the lack of acknowledgment for achievements and little to no affection in black families, 38:25 - Making therapy cool and relatable for men and changing our language and learning to express our emotions without embarras
S2 E2 · Thu, October 21, 2021
Connecting With Our Fathers & Dealing with Trauma with Hakeem Anderson Lesolang
Send us a text On Part:2, We discuss the need for men to form a relationship with God. We unpack the need to forgive our fathers and mend our relationships to help us understand their role in our life. We discuss the unfair expectations we have for our parents and how the trauma of not dealing with the lack of connection with our fathers can cause. We share some personal stories about the negative perception of coaching/therapy among men and Hakeem gives some insights on the importance of getting the right coach to help deal with the trauma in your life. We end off by highlighting Batho Batsho Therapy and how their programs and toolkits can help you heal your wounds and help you reach your true and untapped potential. To help me unpack this topic, I'm joined by the Founder of Batho Batsho Therapy , Hakeem Anderson Lesolang. He is an experienced Quantum Mind Coach, Transformational Therapy Specialist, Cognitive Behavioural Analyst & Certified NLP Practitioner who believes, “Every cell in your body is eavesdropping on your internal dialogue & every part of personal mastery, is the ability to control & rapidly change your state & thoughts...” Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Topics we cover on the show : 00:35 - Men spending time on God's word and learning His plan and purpose for men, 02:00 - understanding your father's failures and forming a relationship with him, 05:00 - internalizing the pain of not confronting our hurt and having unfair expectations for our parents, 10:55 - the importance of therapy and if men fair better with male coaches, 19:04 - figuring out what you want from a woman and views on polygamy, 21:30 - learning from other polygamous men and what it takes to be in a polygamous relationship, 30:00 - understanding our relationship with women and the importance of their role in our lives, 32:05 - Batho Batsho therapy toolkits and how their sessions can be beneficial for you, 41:41 - closing statements, Recommended links : Instagram: Hakeem Anderson Lesolang Linktree: https://t.co/C3j5aqosgl?amp=1 Website: Batho Batsho Therapy Free connect session: Free Discovery Call Follow us & share your thoughts on the topic: Website: Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. <b
S2 E1 · Thu, October 07, 2021
Unmasking The Alpha Male with Hakeem Anderson Lesolang
Send us a text On Part:1 of Unmasking the Alpha male, we take a deep dive and look into the reasons why men are defining themselves by terms and titles they don't truly understand. We explore the origins and discuss some of the traits of being an Alpha male. We highlight some of the toxic also discuss the toxic and hidden world of the bro-code and how it perpetuates stereotypes about male groups. We question if competition amongst men is healthy and discuss how we can build a much better network with our male tribe instead if we stop competing. We talk unpack the discipline needed for men to be virtuous and successful men without relying on unfounded titles. and we wrap this segment up by unpacking the quality of our friendships and the impact they have on our relationship with other men. To help me unpack this topic, I'm joined by the Founder of Batho Batsho Therapy , Hakeem Anderson Lesolang. He is an experienced Quantum Mind Coach, Transformational Therapy Specialist, Cognitive Behavioural Analyst & Certified NLP Practitioner who believes, “Every cell in your body is eavesdropping on your internal dialogue & every part of personal mastery, is the ability to control & rapidly change your state & thoughts...” Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Topics we cover on the show : 02:37 - The meaning behind the name Hakeem and influence of his grandfather, 04:32 - Men defining themselves with words and titles without an understanding of its the origins, 08:26 - The bro-code, money and the hoes, 11:38 - Red-pill/blue-pill community, 12:35 - How society and the older generation normalized the Alpha male, 06:12 - Life and challenges test you and force you to introspect and change, 10:07 - An unfortunate incident that led to the formation of Father A Nation, 13:30 - Selfish and dominant behavior of the Alpha male on social media , 15:36 - Getting lost in nature and connecting with good men as a great source of re-energizing and relaxing, 17:04 - Can any good come out of being an Alpha male (the grootmaan and iceboy analogy) 24:30 - Is the competition between men healthy and can men benefit from competing or collaborating, 30:14 - Similarities between black men's experience in townships, 33:26 - Are the so called financially successful men disciplined enough to support and encourage each other, 40:41 - Importance of having a plan in life Recommended links : Ins Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that sta
S1 E6 · Thu, September 16, 2021
How To Lead For Change with Craig Wilkinson
Send us a text On our final episode of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we take this opportunity to honor and highlight Craig Wilkinson as a leader and advocate for change and role model in, Leading For Change. Craig shares his early childhood memories growing up in Johannesburg, travelling around various countries with his family and schooling in Botswana. We unpack some unfortunate incidents that led to suicide in his family, inspiration for his work through Father A Nation and how much his faith has helped him through some of life's most challenging moments. An avid mountain biker and all round great guy, we discuss how he spends his time when relaxing and find out where he draws some inspiration to keep moving in his purpose and while doing his highly important but selfless work. My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be brave, fearless role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse. . Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Topics we cover on the show : 01:40 -Early life in Johannesburg, Durban, Botswana and New Zealand, 03:00 - difficult upbringing , studies and building a career in commerce, 03:50 - Details surrounding suicide in the family caused by lack of approval, 05:04 - Faith and becoming a father inspired change, 06:12 - Life and challenges test you and force you to introspect and change, 10:07 - An unfortunate incident that led to the formation of Father A Nation, 13:30 - Worst examples of masculinity, 15:36 - Getting lost in nature and connecting with good men as a great source of re-energizing and relaxing, 17:25 - Utilizing your potential and impacting others to achieve success, 18:42 - Overcoming setbacks and navigating through the failures, 20:30 - impact of Wild At Heart by John Aldridge on Craig's life, 22:35 - Why have men left the church and stopped following faith, 26:07 - How to deal with the unpopular opinion of speaking of masculinity in a positive light, 28:03 - Learning and forming an opinion before spreading the wrong message about masculinity or feminism, 28:48 - Leaving a legacy and Craig would like to be remembered, 30:49 - Six Pack Of Champion Virtues course details Recommended links : Dad Coach Father A Nation <a href='https://aca
S1 E5 · Thu, September 02, 2021
6 Pack of Champion Virtues: How To Mentor The Next Generation
Send us a text On our fifth episode of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we combine the last two virtues, How To Mentor The Next Generation & How To Make The World A Better Place. We look at the role older men play in equipping young boys with the right tools to help them navigate life and live in harmony with others. Looking into the state of masculinity, we discuss how demonizing traditional men has led to older men not sharing their story and experiences to the youth. We also look the language around masculinity and point out how it can lead to negative stereotypes. We highlight the difference between teaching and making men. We end off our conversation by reminding men that in order for us to leave the world in a better state than we found it, we need to give more than we take and we need to find and live our purpose. My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be brave, fearless role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse. . Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Topics we cover on the show : 02:32 -Defining what mentoring, 06:00 - When unlikely people mentor and support their community, 09:05 - Toxic women on social media adopting false values of masculinity, 10:11 - How the traditional man has been demonized in modern society and how the story of men is being forgotten, 12:17 - Young boys turn to the streets for guidance when fathers are not leading and teaching them, 13:30 - The language around masculinity being too modernized and confusing to men and women, 16:33 - The problems caused when uninitiated men initiate young boys, 20:50 - The difference between teaching and making a man, 25:32 - How peers and people men meet in life enhance or detract from a man's masculinity, 28:46 - Men being ashamed to come out and stand behind their manhood to teach and mentor others, 33:30 - Finding our purpose and living it out to affect positive change in the world, 35:33 - The portrayal of men in the media and how we can elevate the simple and real everyday people who serve their community, 40:42 - Where can men find solace and a place to connect with men like them to help them elevate, Recommended links : Dad Coach Father A Nation Six Pack of
S1 E4 · Thu, August 19, 2021
6 Pack of Champion Virtues: How To Build Your Band of Brothers
Send us a text On our fourth segment of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we discuss How To Build Your Band of Brothers. Research shows that men are lonely. They have company, but they lack connection. We easily share a beer with other men but struggle to share our hearts. We start off by discussing how men need to embrace brotherhood and build strong, healthy and accountable relationships with each other. We unpack the 4 keys for Building a Band of Brothers. The first key focuses on how men honour each other by speaking positively into other men's lives. The second key highlights how men need to sharpen each other by having difficult conversations and creating a space for correcting each other and pointing out blind spots. The third and probably most difficult of them all, we look at vulnerability as a strength and not a weakness, and we discuss how men need to create safe spaces to share each others vulnerabilities . Lastly we look at how men stand for each other as true friends who serve each other. My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be brave, fearless role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse. . Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Topics we cover on the show : 01:50 - What is a band of brothers, 03:19 - The superficial nature of men's groups, 04:57 - The changing role of men in society, 05:53 - Having a band of brothers through tough times helps men avoid loneliness and suicidal thoughts, 07:44 - How men and women bond, 10:06 - Honoring each other as men, 13:20 - Sharpening your brother by highlighting his blind spots, 14:54 - Speaking your truth at the expense of losing negative friends, 17:18 - Men avoid being vulnerable, open and honest with each other, 20:31 - The journey of man being reminiscent of Jesus Christ's journey to the mountain, 21:40 - Society making it hard for men to stand up for each other and how men can support each other, 24:23 - Effects of social media on men and how we portray ourselves with our friends, 25:50 - Allowing for redemption and forgiveness for men who did wrong, 26:37 - Expressing love to each other as men, 28:25 - Reminding men that you are enough as you are and there's no need to pretend, 29:19 - The importance of m Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things th
S1 E3 · Thu, August 05, 2021
6 Pack of Champion Virtues: How Men Define Themselves By Character
Send us a text On our third segment of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we discuss How Men Define Themselves By Character. We start off by defining what character means to men and how we can build strong and positive characteristics on our journey to becoming great. We then unpack the 5 keys to being a man of character and take a deep dive into the 4 biggest lies men grow up with. My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be brave, fearless role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse. . Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Topics we cover on the show : 03:05 - What it means to define yourself by character, 05:38 - Being dangerous but good and nice guys finish last, 06:40 - Why men make up stories to make them feel validated and part of "the boys" 08:10 - Great men and celebrities that fell from "grace" because of lack of self control, 09:20 - Big boys don't cry and men shutting of their emotions, 11:48 - Men growing up with abuse and hiding behind the shame they feel, 13:53 - Building strong character from the inside out, men need to stop posing and profiling each other, 15:02 - Keeping our word and fulfilling our commitments, 16:26 - Keep doing the work to improve yourself and those around you, 17:33 - Virtue signaling and effects of social media on men and relationships, 19:21 - Speaking and relying on each other as ordinary men to get life lessons, 20:17 - Exercising self control and taking control over your attitude and actions, 25:10 - Walking away from difficult situations and putting self control into practice, 26:43 - Highlighting the next segment where we discuss how to build our Band Of Brothers. 29:06 - Closing statements, sign up for Six Pack of Champions Virtues Free Course . Recommended links : Dad Coach Father A Nation Six Pack of Champions Virtues Free Course Follow us : Website: https://www.thenetworkingcompany.co.za Facebook: thenetworkingco Instagram: <a href='https://www.instagram.com/man
S1 E2 · Thu, July 22, 2021
6 Pack of Champion Virtues: How Men Nurture Their Fields
Send us a text On our second segment of the Six Pack Of Champion Virtues series we take a more introspective look into How Men Nurture Their Fields. My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be great men, role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Topics we cover on the show : 02:23 - Every man has a territory and the 4 most important things every man needs to tend to, 04:07 - Taking care of the people in your field and around you, 06:17 - How are we impacting the life of others around us, 08:51 - Take responsibility for the life you brought into this world and form a relationship with your child, 10:39 - Things that stop men from fulfilling their responsibilities, 12:48 - Stop blaming, being humble and being aware for your privilege, 15:47 - Why complaining never brings solutions, 17:02 - Every man needs a reason to wake up in the morning and wants their life to count, 18:54 - How fear paralyzes men, 19:42 - Getting over laziness as a man, 22:01 - How validation from a father guides and shapes a mans self worth, 24:24 - We need people and mentors who can give us feedback and help shape our knowledge of self, 26:44 - How a man's sense of entitlement can lead to a disempowered and weak man full of blaming and complaints. 31:47 - Closing statements, do the research and put in the work to better yourself as a man. Recommended links : Dad Coach Father A Nation Follow us : Website: https://www.thenetworkingcompany.co.za Facebook: thenetworkingco Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Support the show Sign up for Ain't Heavy, My Brother - A Workshop in Support of Grieving Men on rituals4men@gmail.com . Donate To Our Campaign with Love Your Nuts Foundation To Raise <a href='https://www.givengain.com/project/kgaugelo-habyane-raising-funds-for-love-your
S1 E1 · Thu, July 08, 2021
6 Pack of Champion Virtues: How Men Use Their Strength
Send us a text We kick off our Six Pack Of Champion Virtues with a deep dive into How Men Use Their Strength to help us harness the power of positive masculinity. My guest Craig Wilkinson is the Founder and CEO of Father A Nation which focuses on equipping men to be great men, role models and fathers who use their strength to love, protect and stand against abuse. Please don't forget to subscribe to gain access to all our podcasts. If you enjoy the show please share it with friends and family. T hank you for your support . Topics we cover on the show : 01:26 - The foundation of Father A Nation all about and the work they do with men in communities, 04:10 - How single fatherhood has shaped and influenced Craig's life and relationship with his children, 06:53 - How pain affects men and the need for men to be heroes for their family, 09:10 - Craig share what being a strong brother means in the context of men being strong, 11:28 - The language men use among each other and how we need to honor instead of rip each other apart, 12:48 - Being a hero and standing up against unfair treatment of women and holding men accountable, 16:36 - How men fail to use their strength, 22:05 - Examples of how men can use their strength for good, 24:08 - Man's internal compass and what men value, 25:18 - How men show up and prioritize, 27:43 - Being a man of conviction and setting boundaries, 29:15 - The pressure that men feel, 31:47 - Closing statements, know your strength and being present. Recommended links : Dad Coach Father A Nation Follow us : Website: https://www.thenetworkingcompany.co.za Facebook: thenetworkingco Instagram: @MannedUp_Convos Twitter: @MannedUp_Convos Hope you are enjoying the conversation so far. Remember to take note of things that stand out to you while listening and take a moment to reflect in your own time or discuss this with some friends over some drinks, a meal or relaxing activity of your choice. Thank you for tuning into Manned Up Conversations. Please subscribe to help grow the platform, you can also find us on YouTube if you prefer video and don't forget to share your comments, insights or questions. <a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/
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