Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self-Love Podcast for Women
Welcome to Self-Love. We cover topics surrounding self-love including body-image, confidence, self-worth, body positivity, mindset, mental health, feminism, relationships, and so much more. Along the way, your host Mary lets you in on her personal life, never shying away from the messy, raw, and real conversations that we all crave. So grab a cup of tea, slide in your headphones, and get ready for some self-lovin!
Thu, April 17, 2025
Ep. 247: Understanding Hidden Layers of Bulimia and Binge Eating with ED Psychologist Dr. Anita Johnston
If you want to stop binge eating or recover from bulimia, then we must address the deeper emotional roots of disordered eating. Mary sits down for a Part 2 with eating disorder psychologist, Dr. Anita Johnston, author of Eating in the Light of the Moon. In Part 1, we talked about the spiritual side of eating disorder recovery. Now in part 2, we zoom into the emotional layer beneath bulimia and binge eating. Dr. Johnston sheds light on the deeper emotional roots of disordered eating, especially the often-overlooked role of repressed anger and how learning to process it can be the key to lasting recovery. You will learn about... - common personality traits of those who struggle with disordered eating - the role of ANGER in eating disorder recovery - the ONE skill you need to effectively process anger - how storytelling and metaphors can help us heal from an eating disorder - how to address emotional patterns that lie beneath bulimia and binge eating Dr. Johnston also shares how her very first psychology professor—THE Viktor Frankl, the author of Man’s Search for Meaning —inspired her approach to eating disorder recovery. Remember: Eating disorders are not about food. So to recover, we must explore the deeper layers of our struggle. Get Dr. Anita’s free Food Metaphor Guide here. Anita Johnston, Ph.D., is a Depth Psychologist, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist, and author of Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationships with Food Through Myth, Metaphor, and Storytelling, which has been published in seven languages. A pioneer in the field, Dr. Johnston has been treating eating difficulties and body image distress for over 35 years. She has developed eating disorder programs nationally and internationally and currently serves as Founder & Executive Director of ‘ Ai Pono Hawaii Eating Disorders Programs which has a Residential Program in Maui. She is the co-creator of the Light of the Moon Café , an online resource with interactive and self- study courses for women around the world. As a recognized international workshop presenter, Dr. Johnston lectures globally to professional organizations, conferences, universities, medical institutions, and the community at large and provides virtual consultations. She is best known for integrating metaphor and storytelling into her training as a clinical psychologist to explain the complex issues that underlie disordered eating behavior and other struggles with eating and body image. You can find Dr. Anita at https://dranitajohnston.com/ and follow Dr. Anita on Instagram: <a href="/94fabcdd6ef547e1821184
Thu, April 10, 2025
Ep. 246: The Breakup That Paved My Self-Love Journey
This episode is my honest reflection on a breakup that happened 7 years ago —long before I met my husband. It was a relationship that was equal parts toxic and transformative for my self-love journey. It ended up breaking my heart and somehow healing it, too. I’ve shared bits and pieces over the years, but today I’m telling you my full breakup story—not just for the sake of storytelling, but to offer you insights into what healing really looks like, especially after a hard breakup. Tune in for a vulnerable chat + breakup advice. You will learn how to... - reclaim your identity after a toxic or codependent relationship - navigate the grey areas in relationships: where healing and hurt coexist - find strength in letting go of relationships that no longer serve you - embrace self-love through the pain of a breakup Remember: Healing is not about erasing the past—it’s about choosing how to carry it forward. And—hint hint—this episode gives you a big clue about the location of my next self-love retreat… Join the retreat priority list to get early access to all the details! Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast Mentioned In This Episode... Martha Beck on The Mel Robbins Podcast
Thu, April 03, 2025
Ep. 245: What to Say When a Kid Asks, “Am I Fat?” (And Other Tough Questions) with Zoë Bisbing, LCSW
Let’s talk about how to help kids build a healthy relationship with food and their bodies. Whether they’re your own kids or perhaps your siblings/ nieces/ nephews/ students, then I’m sure you want to create a body positive environment for them. Psychotherapist Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is here to teach you HOW. You will learn... - what to say if a child asks, “Am I fat?” - how to approach conversations about healthy eating and weight loss in developmentally-appropriated ways - what if your kid has a real health condition? how should parents approach their child’s food and weight then? - what to say to stop family members from commenting on your child’s weight Remember: building a body positive home starts with your own mindset first. As a parent, it’s important to heal your own beliefs about food, fat, weight, and health. Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is a licensed eating disorders therapist as well as a wonderful content creator. Zoë holds a Master of Social Work from New York University, a Bachelor of Arts from Smith College, and a certification in Family-Based Treatment from the Institute for Child and Adolescent Eating Disorders. She is the director of Body-Positive Therapy NYC and Body-Positive Home (formerly The Full Bloom Project), an educational resource offering workshops and body image workouts for the whole family. She loves teaching parents and professionals how to creatively build spaces where children of all ages, sizes, and gender expressions can naturally boost immunity to our appearance-obsessed culture and decrease risk for disordered eating and body image injury. Follow Zoë on Instagram: @mybodypositivehome Subscribe to her Substack for more body positive parenting advice. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @mybodypositivehome
Thu, March 27, 2025
Ep. 244: The Gift of Self-Love Turns 4! Here’s a Free Chapter
Four years ago, The Gift of Self-Love was officially published—a journey that started with a little ebook and the sweetest surprise from someone who believed in me. In this episode, I’m sharing the full-circle story of how this book came to be, plus two big life lessons on support and long-term growth. And as a special treat, you’ll get to hear the first part of the audiobook! If it resonates, consider getting your own copy—because self-love is a gift that keeps on giving. The Gift of Self-Love: a workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast
Thu, March 20, 2025
Ep. 243: How to stay hopeful, soulful, and joyful with Victoria Hutchins
A special in-person conversation with Victoria Hutchins, a beloved poet, yoga teacher, and now author. CW: eating disorders and brief allusion to suicidal feelings. Victoria and Mary talk about… - A Little Life, a novel by Hanya Yanagihara - privilege, hustle culture, and mental health - mutual struggles with bulimia - thoughts on weight loss, Ozempic, and bariatric surgery - how nuance is disappearing from our culture - how to hold onto hope and harness joy Remember: make believe… make yourself believe in whatever makes you happy and hopefully, at the very least, believe in yourself. Victoria Hutchins, known as @thedailyvictorian on social media, is a beloved poet and yoga teacher with an online community of over 1.5 million followers. Prior to her current career, Victoria was an attorney at one of the largest law firms in the world and then at a publicly traded tech company. She holds a bachelor of arts from Columbia University and a juris doctorate from Vanderbilt University. Victoria is always seeking beauty, hope, and truth in the mess of life. Her debut poetry book, Make Believe, is an invitation for readers to join her in the search featuring nostalgic prose on returning to childlike joy, reconnecting with your body, and reclaiming a sense of optimism. Follow Victoria on Instagram: @thedailyvictorian Get Victoria’s new poetry book, Make Believe Listen to Victoria’s podcast, Soul Gum . And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryscupofteaa and @thedailyvictorian Mentioned In This Episode... A Little Life, a novel by Hanya Yanagihara
Thu, March 13, 2025
Ep. 242: 10 Things ED Recovery Taught Me (Encore)
This episode is for my ED warriors. Let’s reflect on lessons learned in eating disorder recovery and how this journey is a gateway to spiritual awakenings and deeper self-awareness. You will learn... - Mary’s favorite mantras for getting through recovery and any hard times - Why chasing happiness is futile (and what to do instead) - How to stop beating yourself up and practice self-compassion Remember: This too, shall pass. Both the bad and the good. If you enjoyed this episode, share it with your friends to spread the gift of self-love! Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books: 1. The Gift of Self-Love , an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 2. 100 Days of Self-Love , a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. #2: How to Fall in Love with Yourself
Thu, March 06, 2025
Ep. 241: How To Stop Comparing Your Current Self To Your Past Self
Have you ever looked back at an old photo or memory and suddenly felt a pang of jealousy for your past self? Maybe you used to be more motivated, more social, more confident—or at least, that’s the story your brain is telling you. In this episode, we’re unpacking why we romanticize the past and compare ourselves to who we used to be. You will learn... - the different ways we compare our current selves to our past selves - the psychological reason behind this self-comparison - how sociocultural conditioning promotes competition and comparison - how to stop comparing yourself and embrace who you are now Remember: Your past self isn’t better than you—she’s just different. She has wisdom to offer you, just as you have wisdom to offer her. Allow all parts of yourself to sit at the table. Mentioned In This Episode... TED Talk: The Riddle of Experience vs. Memory by Daniel Kahneman The Myth of Meritocracy Runs Deep in American History TED Talk: How to talk to the worst parts of yourself by Karen Faith Movie Recommendation: Midnight in Paris If you enjoyed this episode, share it with your friends to spread the gift of self-love! Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books: 1. The Gift of Self-Love , an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 2. 100 Days of Self-Love , a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, February 27, 2025
Ep. 240: The Spiritual Side of Eating Disorder Recovery with Dr. Anita Johnston (Encore)
WOW!!! This episode is a must-listen, especially for those in eating disorder recovery or dealing with any kind of disordered eating. In just one hour, Dr. Anita will enlighten you with her wisdom, humor, and helpful tools for healing your relationship with food. You will learn... - how disordered eating can be healed through spiritual stories and metaphors - why an eating disorder is a unique type of addiction - the role of “power” in one’s struggle with food - how to uncover symbolic meanings in food - why recovery is FUN! - how to find your hunger and fullness cues - and so. much. more. Remember: full recovery is possible (this is coming from a renowned psychologist who runs a residential treatment center and has helped thousands of people recover for good). Anita Johnston, Ph.D., is a Depth Psychologist, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist, and author of Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationships with Food Through Myth, Metaphor, and Storytelling, which has been published in seven languages. A pioneer in the field, Dr. Johnston has been treating eating difficulties and body image distress for over 35 years. She has developed eating disorder programs nationally and internationally and currently serves as Founder & Executive Director of ‘ Ai Pono Hawaii Eating Disorders Programs which has a Residential Program in Maui. She is the co-creator of the Light of the Moon Café , an online resource with interactive and self- study courses for women around the world. Get Dr. Anita’s free Food Metaphor Guide here. And sign up for her Feminine Psyche course here . As a recognized international workshop presenter, Dr. Johnston lectures globally to professional organizations, conferences, universities, medical institutions, and the community at large and provides virtual consultations. She is best known for integrating metaphor and storytelling into her training as a clinical psychologist to explain the complex issues that underlie disordered eating behavior and other struggles with eating and body image. You can find Dr. Anita at https://dranitajohnston.com/ and follow Dr. Anita on Instagram: @dranitajohnston
Thu, February 20, 2025
Ep. 239: My Unfiltered Opinions on Marriage, Dating, and Love
Mary shares her candid thoughts on modern dating, relationships, marriage and how to approach romantic love with self-love. From the age-old debate about who should pay for the first date to the importance of embodying the qualities you seek in a partner, this episode is filled with honest reflections and thought-provoking insights. Mary challenges traditional relationship narratives, encourages self-reflection, and reminds us that love is not the only path to a fulfilling life. You will hear about... who should pay on the first date?!?!? the unseen emotional and energetic labor women contribute to relationships the importance of becoming the person you want to be with rethinking the idea that relationships must be hard work why love alone is not always enough Remember: You teach people how to treat you by how you treat yourself. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or a rating on Spotify. Your feedback helps Mary’s Cup of Tea reach more people who need these self-love reminders! Get Mary’s self-love books: The Gift of Self-Love , an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love , a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 231 talking neurodivergence and 2025 goals with my bestie Dahli Durley Ep. 219 of Mary’s Cup of Tea : Should Your Partner Be Your Best Friend? with Rhaina Cohen Ep. 234: Reflecting on my trip to Cuba
Sat, February 15, 2025
Ep. 238: The Art of Moving On… Breakup Advice with Kendra Allen
If you’ve gone through a break-up recently, this episode is for you. We're talking with breakup coach Kendra Allen to learn... how to cope with a situationship ending why going “no contact” is beneficial to a break-up ways that break-ups are similar to addiction recovery Kendra Allen is a breakup coach, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast, author of The Breakup Workbook, and founder of Break Up Bestie. After going through a series of painful breakups, Kendra realized there was a huge gap online for practical and healthy heartbreak advice and she set out to fill it. She first launched the @yourbreakupbestie Instagram account in 2017. Since then, Kendra has helped hundreds of thousands of people recover from heartbreak through her blog, social media, coaching, and podcast. Kendra has been featured in Cosmopolitan, On Air with Ryan Seacrest, ABC News, and more. Follow Kendra on Instagram: @yourbreakupbestie Learn more about Kendra’s breakup courses And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @yourbreakupbestie
S2 E238 · Thu, February 13, 2025
#238: The Art of Moving On… Breakup Advice with Kendra Allen
If you’ve gone through a break-up recently, this episode is for you. And what better time to heal your heart post break-up than around Valentine’s Day?Tune into this episode with breakup coach Kendra Allen to learn...- how to cope with a situationship ending-why going “no contact” is beneficial to a break-up- ways that break-ups are similar to addiction recoveryKendra Allen is a breakup coach, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast, author of The Breakup Workbook, and founder of Break Up Bestie. After going through a series of painful breakups, Kendra realized there was a huge gap online for practical and healthy heartbreak advice and she set out to fill it. She first launched the @yourbreakupbestie Instagram account in 2017. Since then, Kendra has helped hundreds of thousands of people recover from heartbreak through her blog, social media, coaching, and podcast. Kendra has been featured in Cosmopolitan, On Air with Ryan Seacrest, ABC News, and more. Follow Kendra on Instagram: @yourbreakupbestie Learn more about Kendra’s breakup courses And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @yourbreakupbestie
Thu, February 06, 2025
#237: 7 Self-Love Lessons I’m Taking Into My 27th Birthday
For her 27th birthday episode, Mary shares 7 lessons she’s taking into her late-20s. Tune in for learnings on self-acceptance, self-awareness, confidence, joy and self-love as a whole. Hopefully these lessons will change your perspective on what it means to love yourself. You will learn about... the dual nature of self-love the surprising secret to discovering your strengths a powerful mindset shift that will help you embrace joy—even in the midst of struggle Remember: Self-love comes not from overcoming our insecurities, but rather from embracing them. We must be-friend our demons and invite all parts of ourselves to sit at the table. If you want to make Mary’s birthday extra special, please consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or a rating on Spotify. Your positive feedback is the best gift ever! Get Mary’s self-love books: The Gift of Self-Love , an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love , a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 150 of Mary’s Cup of Tea: Hidden Meanings in Disordered Eating with Dr. Anita Johnston No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz
Thu, January 30, 2025
#236: How To Make Adult Friendships Easier with Kat Vellos
If making friends feels hard, then this episode is for you. You will learn... why making friends as an adult feels hard exactly WHERE you’ll find your people how to make friends who live close to you actionable tips to help you find, keep, and strengthen your friendships Our guest, Kat Vellos , is a trusted expert on the power of cultivating meaningful friendships. She’s a speaker and author of the book, We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships . She’s also the creator of the Better than Small Talk conversation cards and the Better Conversations Calendar . Her work helps people transform disconnection and platonic longing into authentic connection and belonging. In her former career as a user experience designer at Slack and Pandora, she helped millions of people find music they love and enjoy work a lot more. While working full-time at both of those iconic companies, Kat spent her free time researching and writing her debut book We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships . She couldn’t stop herself from writing this book because the thirty-something friendship desert is real and she refused to take “how about we meet up in six weeks?” for an answer. So she used her UX research-n-design superpowers to explore the question “how might we design a better experience of adult friendship and simultaneously put a sizable dent in the loneliness epidemic?” Thousands of readers use her book to improve their friendships every day and her writing is read in over 100 countries. She’s been interviewed by The New York Times, NPR, Communication Arts, The Good Life Project, and many more. Sign up for Kat’s newsletter here and check out her course, Platonic Action Lab . And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast Mentioned In This Episode... How Long Til’ Black Future Month? by N.K. Jemisin Ep. 195 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: The Most Underrated Emotion <a href="https://weshouldgettogeth
Thu, January 23, 2025
#235: Dear Mary, how do I deal with a fatphobic friend?
(Trigger Warning: Talk of EDs & Fatphobia) Dear Mary, How do I navigate friendship with a very fatphobic and generally-judgmental friend? She is someone I met when I had anorexia. A lot of what we bonded over was the understanding of restrictive eating, because she had struggled with that as well. She is former military and has a lot of military influences to the way she views health and fitness, as well as having parents who engrained fatphobia into her. They would literally sit in the car outside grocery stores and make fun of fat people leaving(not to their faces). Her views and the vocalization of them hurt my soul, they are not an outlook on other people I have ever had, nor would want to have. She talks about these things pretty frequently. A lot of the things she says I would never want my younger sister hearing because I don't want those hurtful views in her head. I know you wonder, this person sounds awful, why do you have this friend? She is in many ways a wonderful person and a good friend. She is thoughtful, she and I just click in many ways, she is giving and loving to the people close to her, I could go on about qualities I love. But lately my feelings toward her are not good. I don't want to be around her because inevitably she will end up saying some things that really bum me out. I want her to be a lifelong friend, I want to be there for her for anything, I want to babysit her kids...but I would never want her views to be shared with mine. How do I talk to her about this? Though we challenge each other's views pretty often and are used to confrontation, she is not looking to change her mind on this. For months now I have been avoiding spending as much time around her. Neither of us have many other friends...she is a treasured person for me. What's your advice on keeping or losing a friend because of this? If you enjoyed this Dear Mary episode, share and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Get Mary’s self-love books: The Gift of Self-Love , an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love , a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Fri, January 17, 2025
#234: Finding Myself in the Unlikeliest of Places
I went to Cuba knowing it wouldn’t be a typical vacation, but I wasn’t prepared for just how profoundly it would move me. To every question I asked my tour guide, the answer was almost always, “It’s complicated.” They say you will leave Cuba with less answers and more questions— here are some of mine: How can something be equal parts heartbreaking and heartwarming? Where is the boundary between suffering and resilience? How does history encapsulate both truth and fabrications? Why do we cling to binary thinking when life is a spectrum of endless complexities? How can humans be simultaneously broken and whole, like mosaics made of shattered multitudes? Cuba was a lesson in coexistence—where beauty and struggle, joy and pain live side by side. It reminded me that we, too, are complex and layered, yet capable of holding contradictions within us. I hope you get to experience this beautiful island one day too. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 126: Travel That Makes You a Better Person with Chelsea Glass, Founder of Heart of Travel Chen Lizra’s TEDx talk: “The power of seduction in our everyday lives” Check out Heart of Travel, an ethical travel company that does tours all over Latin America and use code MARY150 for $150 off your next trip.
Thu, January 09, 2025
#233: Motivating Yourself with Self-Love (Encore)
Self-criticism is NOT a good long-term motivation strategy. Let’s talk about how to motivate yourself with self-compassion instead. Tune in to learn... Why you might be feeling de-motivated A technique called “10 WHYs” to find intrinsic motivators How to employ self-discipline (but not in the way that you think…) Tools to find and create motivation through a lens of SELF-LOVE Remember: You don’t need to wait until you’re perfectly motivated to start taking action. Imperfect, messy, reluctant action will often be enough to prove to yourself that you CAN do it, that you DO have it in you which creates a positive feedback loop. Micro steps matter. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Mentioned In This Episode... Self-Compassion Researcher Dr. Kristin Neff on Mary's Cup of Tea The Mere Presence of One’s Own Smartphone Reduces Available Cognitive Capacity Research Study
Thu, January 02, 2025
#232: The Energy We’re Bringing to 2025
“My new years resolution is to get louder, more annoying, bitchier, and overall a bigger problem that previously thought.” ~@julesandthevibe on TikTok This is not a soft self-love episode. This is an audacious one. Because 2025 is the year of audacity. It’s time to stop apologizing for taking up space, to say the weird thing, and to bet on yourself—even when it feels clunky, messy, or downright scary. From trying new things to dressing a little less “perfect” and a lot more “you,” this episode is all about stepping into bold, unapologetic self-expression. You’ll feel inspired to: Take risks, no matter how small or unconventional. Lean into tension and embrace your own contradictions. Make moves that make you squeal with delight (even if no one else gets it). Let’s kick off 2025 with more audacity, more weirdness, and a whole lot more FAFO energy. You in? Grab my Feeling Lost Guide to turn uncertainty into SELFISH SELF-DISCOVERY. If you enjoyed this episode, share and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Buy Mary’s books: The Gift of Self-Love , an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love , a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... “My New Years resolution is to get louder” Viral TikTok video Ep. 231 with my bestie Dahli Architectural Digest video with David Netto: Ep. 201: Tips for Thrifting and Vintage Shopping with Virginia Chamlee
Thu, December 19, 2024
#231: Meet My Bestie! Neurodivergence, Retreat Reflections, and 2025 Goals
A special in-person recording where Mary has a heart-to-heart with her best friend Dahli! You can watch the video version on Spotify or YouTube. Tune in to hear… retreat reflections from Sedona to Portugal Dahli’s mental health journey exploring ADHD and autism our goals for 2025 Remember: live, laugh, love!!! Connect with Dahli on IG: @imdahlidurley Hire Dahli as a photographer or web designer: dahlidurley.com If you enjoyed this episode, share and tag @maryscupofteaa and @imdahlidurley on social media! Get Mary’s self-love books: The Gift of Self-Love , an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love , a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, December 12, 2024
#230: Bestie Break-Ups and Why Female Friendships Feel So Fragile with Danielle Bayard Jackson
In some ways, women are known as being the connectors, the party hosts, the drivers of relationships. A byproduct of spending centuries constrained to child-rearing and home-making is that many of us have this bio-cultural skill of building community. Why is it then that many of us feel intimidated by other women, lacking in our female friendships, and worrying if our friends truly like us? And as soon as we get over that, finally let someone close to us, they sometimes end up breaking our heart and with it, the friendship. Best friend break-ups involve as much grief as romantic break-ups and yet, we don’t have as many tools to deal with them. Luckily, Danielle Bayard Jackson is here to help us build strong friendships, especially those with fellow women. Danielle Bayard Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator who speaks nationally about the science of women’s platonic connections. She is also the author of the book Fighting for Our Friendships (May 2024). Danielle’s coaching business, Friend Forward, is dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain better female friendships, and her expertise has been featured in The New York Times, NBC News, Psychology Today, Wall Street Journal, Oprah Magazine, Good Morning America, and a host of other media outlets. A former high school teacher, Danielle now uses her teaching skills and leverages her background to study what the latest research has to say about women’s cooperation, communication, and conflict. You will learn about... the role jealousy plays in our female friendships what we should/ should not expect from people in our social circle the 3 key components to good friendships how to cope with friendship break-ups Remember: self-love begs us to have a balance between independence and dependence. Follow Danielle on Instagram Learn more about Danielle’s book, podcast, and workshops here: https://www.betterfemalefriendships.com Danielle shares her insight weekly on The Friend Forward Podcast And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @daniellebayardjackson
Thu, December 05, 2024
Ep. 229: Deepening Self-Trust
In this week’s episode, Mary discusses the importance of self-trust and how it plays a role in developing a deeper, more authentic relationship with yourself. She shares how trusting yourself means letting go of control over outcomes and embracing the process, especially when things don’t go as planned. Remember: Trust the process, release the result. If you enjoyed this episode, share and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Get Mary’s self-love books: The Gift of Self-Love , an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love , a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 221: How to Trust Yourself Ep. 212: How to Be Honest with Yourself Ep. 81: How to Follow Your Heart
Thu, November 28, 2024
#228: Dear Mary, should I stay friends with my ex?
Dear Mary, I would love some of your wisdom in relation to my ex. Things fell apart for reasons that are complicated and awful. But we tried to remain friends. I feel I made an effort, I kept messaging, I asked him about his life, I organized a catch up. I still had lots of feelings to process but I put them aside because I wanted to maintain a friendship. I backed off a bit while he was on holidays and when he came back and messaged me, I was in a bad place mentally. It took a week or so for me to respond and I told him the truth - that I wasn’t doing well. His response had no empathy. He didn’t ask what was going on or if I wanted to catch up. Do I tell him how I’m feeling or do I accept he can’t meet my emotional needs and let the friendship go? Love from, Anonymous If you enjoyed this episode, share and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Get Mary’s self-love books: *The Gift of Self-Love ,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. *100 Days of Self-Love ,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 203 Coping with Getting Ghosted & Family Estrangement with Minaa B.: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marys-cup-of-tea-the-self-love-podcast-for-women/id1495128359?i=1000653572865
Thu, November 21, 2024
#227: The Messiness of Human-ness with Carissa Potter
This was supposed to be a well-thought-out, polished interview with artist and author Carissa Potter, better known as @peopleiveloved on Instagram. Instead, this turned out to be a vulnerable conversation about parents, religion, narcissism, and overall, our human-ness. Our guest today, or perhaps more accurately our co-host Carissa has over 800,000 followers on social media but the first sentence on her website says that “Carissa Potter is a human longing for connection.” She writes books, makes art & public commissions, and hosts the series Bad At Keeping Secrets (one of Substack’s featured newsletter of 2022) where she talks to other humans doing really interesting things. Carissa is the founder of People I’ve Loved, her platform and stationary line that bridges the gaps between people by helping them have authentic and sometimes difficult conversations. She was named one of Cosmopolitan’s 24 People (Genuinely) Making the World a Better Place and I couldn’t agree more. This is an extraordinarily raw and real conversation about... why Carissa wishes she had kids earlier in life the nuances of both of our religious beliefs what Mary’s father is like how being chronically late might be a sign of intimacy issues Remember: humans are complex creatures but at our core, all we want is connection with other humans. Follow Carissa on Instagram: @peopleiveloved Subscribe to Carissa’s newsletter, Bad At Keeping Secrets: https://peopleiveloved.substack.com And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @peopleiveloved Mentioned In This Episode... Narcissistic Abuse: https://www.stopthespincycle.com/narcissistic-abuse
Mon, November 11, 2024
#226: 5 Mantras to Get You Through Tough Times
If you’re going through a difficult time, here are 5 reminders to ground you in self-love. You will learn... Where mantras originate from and why they’re helpful How to work with your mindset to gain greater perspective What to tell yourself when you’re going through a hard time Which one of these affirmations resonated with you the most? Or do you have your own mantra that you love? Let me know by tagging @maryspodcast in your IG stories! Get Mary’s self-love book + journal: The Gift of Self-Love : a workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself *100 Days of Self-Love :* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are Mentioned In This Episode... 240 votes TikTok by @imdaven: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTFwo3So6/
Thu, November 07, 2024
#225: Can Food Freedom Coexist with Chronic Conditions (PCOS, Celiacs, Crohns, IBS, etc)? with Abbie Attwood
f you have a chronic health condition, then you know how extra difficult it is to navigate food and body-image struggles. Between wellness culture telling you to cut out this or that food and lose weight for “health reasons,” it can be triggering to manage your symptoms without slipping back into a restrictive mindset. And the worst part is, even medical professionals prescribe dietary restrictions without screening patients for a history of disordered eating. So is food freedom possible even while living with chronic illness? Nutritionist Abbie Attwood is here to help. You will learn... how to challenge diet and weight-centric medical advice practical tips for finding p eace with your body amidst chronic pain and symptoms how to approach food with conditions like PCOS, Celiacs, Chrons, IBS, diabetes, and autoimmune illnesses Remember: Your body deserves COMPASSION even and especially in the face of chronic health challenges. Abbie Attwood (she/her) is an anti-diet, weight-inclusive nutritionist with a master’s degree in clinical nutrition. She runs Abbie Attwood Wellness, offering virtual nutrition therapy and body image coaching through both individual sessions and group programs. Abbie is also the host of the Full Plate Podcast and writes a companion newsletter. Abbie’s personal journey with an eating disorder emerged at the intersection of competitive running, neurodivergence, and chronic illnesses. These experiences fuel her passion for working with individuals who don’t always fit the traditional image of disordered eating, offering them a space to feel seen and supported. Her approach is rooted in self-compassion, social justice, and body liberation. Abbie helps clients worldwide heal from disordered eating, chronic dieting, body shame, and compulsive exercise, guiding them towards a more peaceful and respectful relationship with their bodies. She splits her time between Maine and the Bay Area, where she lives with her husband and their two quirky rescue dogs. Abbie is a lover of breakfast foods, good books, the ocean, and a scoop of ice cream any time of day. Follow Abbie on Instagram @abbieattwoodwellness Learn more about Abbie’s group coaching: https://www.abbieattwoodwellness.com/group-coaching And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @abbieattwoodwellness Mentioned In This Episode... The Full Plate Podcast Episode: No, You Can’t ”Eat Your Way” To Diabetes With Erin Phillips, RD & Diabetes Specialist
Thu, October 31, 2024
#224: How To Process Feelings Effectively
The common misconception is that feeling your feelings means sitting, sulking, and staying where you are until you feel good enough to move forward. But there’s a much more effective way to process your feelings. Tune in to learn how + hear how Mary is applying this technique to her own life. Remember: emotions need motion! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... When God Was a Woman by Merlin Stone
Thu, October 24, 2024
#223: Dear Mary, how do I know if I’m on the right path?
I feel two paths diverging in my life and I feel drawn to one, but it’s more practical and potentially easier and less expensive to do the other, yet, my heart years for more. How do I know if I’m on the right path? Tune in to hear Mary’s advice on choosing the right path for you. Submit your questions: pod@maryscupoftea.com Get Mary’s self-love books: The Gift of Self-Love , an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love , a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman
Thu, October 17, 2024
#222: Stop Being a “Good Girl” with Elise Loehen
My whole life I have strived to be a “good girl.” But after this conversation with Elise Loehnen, I no longer want to be. You will learn... the history behind the 7 deadly sins and how they’ve been weaponized by the patriarchy who Mary Magdalene really was and how she got mislabeled as a prostitute why thinness is the dominant beauty ideal in our current culture the connection between PRIDE and ENVY subtle ways women undermine each other Elise Loehnen is a writer, editor, and podcast host who lives in Los Angeles with her husband, Rob, and their two sons, Max and Sam. She is the host of Pulling the Thread, a podcast focused on pulling apart the stories we tell about who we are—and then putting those threads back together. Ultimately Elise is a seeker and synthesizer, braiding together wisdom traditions, cultural history, and a deep knowledge of healing modalities to unlock new ways to contextualize who we are and why we’re here. She’s also the author of the instant New York Times bestseller On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good (Dial Press/PRH). The book weaves together history, memoir, and cultural criticism to explore the ways patriarchy lands in the bodies of women and embeds itself in our consciousness—and what we then police in ourselves and in each other. Regardless of our religious provenance, the self-denial implicit in each of the Seven Deadly Sins—Sloth, Envy, Pride, Gluttony, Greed, Lust, Anger—reads like a checklist of what it means to be a “good” woman. With awareness, we can begin to recognize these patterns of self-restriction, break the story, and move ourselves and each other toward freedom and balance. Follow Elise on Instagram: @eliseloehnen Get Elise’s book, On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to Be Good And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @eliseloehnen Mentioned In This Episode... Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Thu, October 10, 2024
#221: How to Trust Yourself
Let’s explore what it really means to trust yourself, why it’s essential for your well-being, and how it impacts your decisions and relationships. I also share a personal story about my past relationships and how a lack of self-trust played a role. You will learn... 3 big ways to think about self-trust How to discern between fear and intuition 3 small ways to build self-trust daily Plus, I give you 2 powerful book recommendations to help you strengthen your self-trust. “Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.” ~Rumi If you enjoyed this episode, share and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Get Mary’s self-love books: *The Gift of Self-Love ,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. *100 Days of Self-Love ,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 177: The Power of Slowing Down on Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast The Gift of Fear by Gavin De Becker The Listening Path by Julia Cameron
Thu, October 03, 2024
#220: Staying Active without Slipping Back into Toxic Thoughts
After burning out on exercise during my ED days, 7 years later, I’ve been able to find a much better balance with movement. So let’s talk about HOW I’ve been able to maintain this healthy relationship with exercise– what might help you, what might hurt you, and mindset shifts to make. You will learn... how to stay active in a way that’s sustainable, enjoyable, and free of toxic thoughts. what toxic thoughts or behaviors around exercise can look like (and how to spot them in yourself) the 3 phases of healing your relationship with movement mindset shifts to make if you want to stay active without slipping back Remember: Your mental well-being is as important as your physical, and if your priorities were convoluted for so long during those eating disorder days, it’ll take time to come back to a sense of balance. You have time. Take it. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, September 26, 2024
#219: Should Your Partner Be Your Best Friend? with Rhaina Cohen
It’s common for wedding vows to mention how one’s partner is their “best friend.” But what does that say about our best friends who we’re not married to? And does this put too much pressure on one person to be everything for you? Back in 2020, journalist Rhaina Cohen wrote an article for the Atlantic titled “What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life?” Not only did this piece go viral, it also paved the way Rhaina Cohen’s book, the Other Significant Others about reimagining the role of friendships in our lives. Today Rhaina joins us to discuss… how/ why prioritizing platonic friendships actually makes your romantic relationship better the historical role that friends and marriages used to play and how that’s changed over time tips for taking your friendships from surface-level to depth Relationships come in many different forms. Some are platonic, some are romantic, some blur the lines of both. As we grapple with what’s been declared as a loneliness epidemic, we must revere all types of relationships and give them the attention they deserve. Follow Rhaina on Instagram: @rhainacohen Get Rhaina’s book, The Other Significant Others: Rhaina Cohen is a long-form journalist, author of the bestselling book The Other Significant Others, and producer and editor for NPR’s Embedded. Outside of NPR, she’s written for various publications, including The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, and The New Republic. Rhaina Cohen has a B.A. in American Studies from Northwestern University and an MPhil in Comparative Social Policy from Oxford, where she was a Marshall Scholar and did research in Denmark and Iceland on paternity leave policies. She has given talks at NASA and at universities in the U.S., U.K., and Ireland and lucky for you, on the Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @rhainacohen JOIN THE PORTUGAL SELF-LOVE RETREAT: https://maryscupoftea.com/portugal-retreat Mentioned In This Episode... The Moth conversation cards: Atlantic article “What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life?”
Thu, September 19, 2024
#218: Introducing Dear Mary: "How do I get my confidence back?”
We are starting a new series on Mary’s Cup of Tea! “Dear Mary” is your new self-love advice column where Mary answers YOUR questions. Question: “I’ve been second guessing myself so much and feeling my confidence and self-belief waver. How do I come back to feeling in my full power?” Answer: tune in to hear Mary’s advice on how to get your confidence back. Submit your questions: pod@maryscupoftea.com If you like “Dear Mary,” please let us know by leaving a comment or review! Mentioned In This Episode... Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
Thu, August 08, 2024
#217: The Mistake We Make with Self-Love
The biggest mistake people make with self-love is explained this episode. We talk about how a scarcity mindset is emblematic of low self-worth and why we must be PROACTIVE when it comes to self-love. You will learn how to... Identify scarcity thinking in your daily life Understand the societal roots of scarcity mentality Practice proactive self-care to avoid burnout Remember: Take care of yourself in small ways before you burn out in a big way. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And please consider leaving a review/ rating of the show! Links to Mary’s self-love book and journal: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 150 with Dr. Anita Johnston: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marys-cup-of-tea-the-self-love-podcast-for-women/id1495128359?i=1000597710471
Thu, July 25, 2024
#216: You Are Extraordinary (A Pep Talk)
You are extraordinary– here’s why. Mary talks about… the dual meaning behind the world “extraordinary” why we should stop trying to be extraordinary how to be a more interesting person If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Sign up for Mary’s newsletter for more self-love musings: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/emails And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, July 18, 2024
#215: Stop Trying to Be Happy (and Do This Instead) (Encore)
Mary’s hot take on why “being happy” is not that great of a goal. Chasing happiness can leave you feeling empty because happiness is a fleeting state. You will learn about... why searching for happiness is NOT good for body-image how hedonic adaptation gets in the way of our happiness, no matter how much we achieve or accomplish in life what to focus on instead of “being happy” Remember: Happiness is fleeting. Meaning is fulfilling. Ditch the happiness treadmill and start creating more meaning in your everyday life. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: https://amzn.to/3gdszZN The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson: https://amzn.to/3uH7fzO
Thu, July 11, 2024
#214: How to Make a Vision Board, Set Goals, and Create Lasting Behavior Change w/ Jessi Jean
This is a wide-ranging conversation with my friend Jessi Jean, a binge eating and mindset coach. You will hear about... how to navigate health concerns without diet culture what to do if you want kids, but feel anxious about pregnancy/ birth how motherhood can change you for the better tips for creating a vision board and setting intentions the key to creating lasting behavior change and achieving your goals advice for feeling lost, paving your own way, and getting unstuck Remember: don’t get caught in the trap of constantly contemplating. No one has life completely figured out, but doing the best you can with what you have is better than waiting for the answers to appear out of nowhere. Follow Jessi on Instagram: @jessijeannn Learn more about Jessi’s Food Freedom Online Program here: https://jessijean.com/foodfreedomonlineprogram And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @jessijeannn Mentioned In This Episode... Pure by Anne Geddes (coffee table book with mothers and newborns): https://amzn.to/4eM1hW5 4 Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman: https://amzn.to/3Wa1TxA The War of Art by Steven Pressfield: https://amzn.to/3xA8FmO
Thu, July 04, 2024
#213: Sick of People-Pleasing? Here’s How to Stop
People-pleasing is engrained into so many of us. In attempts to be nice, we neglect our own needs, trading authenticity for approval. You will learn how to... be honest with other people how people-pleasing relates to self-trust tips for aligning with your authentic self before making decisions Remember: don’t trade short-term approval for long-term authenticity. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Getting Real by Susan Campbell: https://amzn.to/4cqguuo Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton, PhD: https://amzn.to/3W4EDRk
Thu, June 27, 2024
#212: How To Be Honest with Yourself
Negative self-talk is a form of lying to yourself. Let’s explore the power of honesty as a gateway to self-love. You will learn how to... embody a mindset of radical honesty conquer fears by being truthful stop absorbing other people’s opinions as facts Remember: You must be real with how you feel so that you can heal. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, June 20, 2024
#211: The Disease that Plagues Women, Beauty Sickness w/ Dr. Renee Engeln
Our culture is OBSESSED with female bodies and their appearance making us all “beauty sick.” From constricting clothes to anti-aging skincare products, beauty culture eats up our precious time, money, and energy. This is an eye-opening and deeply-relatable discussion with Dr. Renee Engeln about “beauty sickness,” the disease that plagues so many women (to no fault of their own). You will learn about... what the research shows about beauty culture and objectification of women the performative aspects of femininity the psychological effects of aging in a beauty-obsessed society how we can fight off beauty sickness both individually and collectively Renee Engeln, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at Northwestern University, is the author of Beauty Sick: How the Cultural Obsession with Appearance Hurts Girls and Women. Her lab (The Body and Media Lab, a.k.a. “BAM”) conducts research exploring issues surrounding women’s body images, with a particular emphasis on cultural practices that create or enforce the frequently contentious relationship women have with their bodies. The research, which has appeared in numerous academic journals, focuses on Objectification Theory, Fat Talk, and Idealized Media Images. She is regularly interviewed by the New York Times, the Chicago Tribune, BBC, the Huffington Post, and other national media. Her TEDx talk has over 800,000 views on YouTube. Remember: Though we won’t heal from beauty sickness overnight, we have the power to minimize how much we participate in it. Get Dr. Renee’s book, Beauty Sick: https://amzn.to/4c67da9 Learn more about Dr. Renee’s Body and Media Lab: http://bodyandmedia.com Watch Dr. Renee’s TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63XsokRPV_Y And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @beauty_sick Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 18, Mary’s first interview with Dr. Renee: https://open.spotify.com/episode/155JFBTBxSGCCA2UMK12qk?si=gWFYNVAjQxu2S2J8j69Z-w
Thu, June 13, 2024
Ep. 210: Process > Result
What would you pursue regardless of the result? Let’s reflect on how being results-oriented removes the joy of the process. Though sometimes results do come, maybe we’d be happier if we were more immersed in the process itself. You will learn how to... Trust your unique process and let go of the need for immediate results Embrace activities that bring joy without a focus on outcome Shift your mindset to find peace in the present moment Remember: ”Trust your process, release the result.” If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Sign up for Mary’s monthly newsletter: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/emails Learn more about upcoming retreats: https://maryscupoftea.com/retreats Get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://amzn.to/3yJKYII
Thu, June 06, 2024
#209: The Cure for Burnout is NOT Self-Care w/ Amelia Nagoski, D.M.A.
When you find yourself hitting the wall of EXHAUSTION, you could be experiencing burnout. What most people don’t know is that our biological stress cycle is not equipped to deal with our modern-day demands. Luckily, there is a cure for burnout and Amelia Nagoski is here to share it with us. You will learn... what causes burnout (and the only CURE for it) how to actually “listen to your body” how the stress cycle works the difference between burnout, depression, and self-sabotage Remember: When you think you need more grit, what you actually need is help. Amelia Nagoski, D.M.A. (it stands for Doctorate of Musical Arts) is the co-author, with her sister Emily, of the New York Times bestselling Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle and the Burnout workbook. Her job is to run around waving her arms and making funny noises and generally doing whatever it takes to help singers get in touch with their internal experience. Get Amelia and Emily Nagoski’s book, Burnout: https://amzn.to/449tPUC And the Burnout Workbook Audiobook with original songs by Amelia: https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Workbook-Advice-Exercises-Unlock/dp/B0CD2S9CBF And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast Mentioned In This Episode... 5-part series on how to listen to your body: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-58-how-to-listen-to-your-body
Thu, May 30, 2024
#208: Feeling Conflicted? Listen to this.
Feeling conflicted can be overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to hold you back. Let’s explore how to cope with conflicting thoughts and emotions across different areas of life, from body image to career decisions, and even current events. You will learn how to... navigate conflicting thoughts and feelings make decisions more confidently make peace with all the different parts of you Remember: ”The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.” ~ Aristotle Interested in Mary’s next self-love retreat? Go to maryscupoftea.com/retreats to be the first to get all the details! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media so we can see who’s listening!
Thu, May 23, 2024
#207: The Virgin/Mother/Whore Paradigm & How to Stop Giving a Shit w/ Kara Loewentheil, J.D.
Women are put into all sorts of boxes i.e. sexist roles and expectations on who we “should” be. Life coach Kara Loewentheil is back to talk some sense into us and teach us how to break these internalized thought patterns. You will learn... what “thought work” is and how it can help your mindset how to break out of the “virgin/whore” + “maiden/mother/crone” paradigms why “positive thinking” usually doesn’t work long-term (and what helps instead) how our sexist socializations project onto the women around us Toward the end, Kara coaches Mary on some of the conflicting thoughts she’s having about her career. Remember: the only way to stop caring about what other people think about you is to start caring more about what YOU think about you. Kara Loewentheil, J.D. is a Master Certified Life Coach, founder of The School of New Feminist Thought , and host of the internationally top-ranked podcast UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone (50 million downloads and counting!). Her first book, Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets in Your Head – and How to Get It Out (Penguin Life May 2024) has been called a “galvanizing debut” by Publisher’s Weekly, chosen as a “must-read” by the Next Big Ideas Book Club for May 2024, and praised by NYT-bestselling authors including Mel Robbins, Elise Loehnen, Dr. Marisa Franco, and Tori Dunlap. A graduate of Yale College and Harvard Law School, Kara did what every Ivy League lawyer should do: Quit a prestigious academic career to become a life coach! Eight years after she stepped down as director of a think tank at Columbia Law School, she has created a multiple-7-figure business, taught millions of women how to identify the ways that sexist socialization impacts their brains, and helped women all over the world rewire their thought patterns to liberate themselves from the inside out. Follow Kara on Instagram: @karaloewentheil Get Kara’s book, Take Back Your Brain here: https://amzn.to/3Wo3W1g And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @karaloewentheil Mentioned in this episode… Ep. 36: Feminism, Body-Image, and Unfcking Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0mi1O4iimYDJ2oT6PlY0nG?si=6a093c1379304c30
Thu, May 16, 2024
#206: The Easiest Journaling Prompt Ever
Mary shares a 3-part journaling prompt that can help you gain deeper self-awareness regarding your true needs and desires. Use this simple, practical prompt anytime to connect with different aspects of yourself. You will learn how to... Tap into a reliable source of personal insight Clear your mental chatter to understand what you really want Access your heartfelt, soul-centered intuitive guidance Remember: ”To hear your heart, you need time, stillness, silence, play, and surrender.” Make sure to get Mary’s books 2 on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 150 with Dr. Anita Johnston: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/marys-cup-of-tea-the-self-love-podcast-for-women/id1495128359?i=1000597710471
Thu, May 09, 2024
#205: Overcoming Mom-Shame + Postpartum Anxiety w/ Cameron Rogers
May is mental health month and MOMS need more mental health support. Today we’re joined by Cameron Rogers, a content creator who openly shares about the ins and outs of motherhood. In this episode, Cameron shares… why she doesn’t share her kids names and faces online what postpartum anxiety feels like how motherhood gave her a new level of self-confidence advice for new moms Remember: if you’re anxious about becoming a mom, you’re definitely not alone. But just like everything in life, each phase of motherhood is temporary. Founder and Host of the Freckled Foodie & Friends podcast, Cameron Rogers (@cameronoaksrogers) utilizes her unfiltered voice and humor to carve out a safe space on the internet for mothers. Her podcast, produced by Dear Media, has amassed over 2 Million downloads and features genuine sit-down conversations discussing wellness, mental health, motherhood, and pop culture. She passionately sheds light on her experiences with pregnancy, postpartum depression, and the often unspoken or overlooked trials and tribulations of navigating the journey of motherhood. Recently, Cameron has extended her community to a Substack titled Fill Your Cup about how she’s keeping her cup full amidst motherhood. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @cameronoaksrogers
Thu, May 02, 2024
#204: Feeling Lonely? Listen to this.
Loneliness is the #1 contributing factor to the mental health crisis we’re currently experiencing so we MUST talk about it for Mental Health Awareness Month. If or when you feel lonely, remember that it’s not a personal deficiency. It’s a systemic issue in our modern-day, industrialized world. The cure for loneliness is not to become a social butterfly, but rather to re-shape the way you interact with people. In this episode, you will learn... why more and more people, especially Americans, are feeling lonely how to create a culture of connection with your friends and family the missing KEY to feeling less lonely If you’re interested in Mary’s next online retreat, sign up to get Mary’s emails here: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/emails If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media!
Thu, April 25, 2024
#203: Coping with Getting Ghosted and Family Estrangement w/ Minaa B., LMSW
It’s been almost 3 years since Mary has talked to my father. Now she’s processing that familial estrangement in real time with the help of Minaa B, a licensed social worker and proponent for psychological safety. The conversation also leads into the phenomenon of ghosting; why people do it and how to cope with the lack of closure. You will learn... what constitutes estranged family and how surprisingly common it is why people GHOST and how to cope with ghosting in relationships the important difference between rules vs. boundaries ways to grieve and find closure for abrupt endings Remember: closure is akin to forgiveness in that it can only come from within. Minaa B. is a licensed social worker, mental health educator, and author of Owning Our Struggles . She is also the founder of a mental health consulting practice where she collaborates with organizations to help them develop psychological safety. Additionally, Minaa is the host of the Verywell Mind podcast, runs an advice column for Cosmopolitan magazine called Free Therapy, and is also a member of the Mental Health Advisory Committee for Wondermind, a mental fitness company co-founded by Selena Gomez. An expert in her field, Minaa has been featured in various media outlets, including Red Table Talk, Peace of Mind with Taraji, Oprah Daily, Katie Couric Media, and more. Minaa currently resides in New York City. Follow Minaa on Instagram: @minaa_b Get Minaa’s new book Owning Our Struggles: https://amzn.to/4b1GDOU And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @minaa_b
Thu, April 18, 2024
#202: Dealing with Criticism
If you’re human, then you’ve probably received criticism. Though it can be quite unpleasant, your ability to encounter criticism and not let it affect you is directly proportionate to both your self-esteem and self-worth. In this episode, you will learn... the 2 different types of criticisms what makes certain criticism hurt so badly (and how to not let it affect you) 3 questions to ask yourself before listening to other people’s opinions Remember: don’t choose a stranger’s criticism over your intuition, your values, and your heart. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Mary’s Body-Image TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybg?si=P3kfRMBBdFgTMOAI Mary’s IG reel that went viral and got criticized: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5l6-_fvZCS/?igsh=ZDJrYjA0aXpzM2ww The 4 Agreements book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1878424319/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_AJC459ZTT9B1T36FX5ZR?linkCode=ml2&tag=maryscupoft0b-20
Thu, April 11, 2024
#201: Tips for Thrifting and Vintage Shopping w/ Virginia Chamlee
Today we’re talking THRIFTING! If you’re anything like Mary, you love secondhand stuff and the unique joy it brings to your home. Artist and collector Virginia Chamlee joins us to share her tips, tricks, and secrets to scoring vintage furniture. You will learn... how thrifting builds confidence tips for finding valuable vintage furniture and decor mistakes people make when they shop secondhand Virginia Chamlee is a writer, artist, entrepreneur, and avid collector of vintage. She is the author of Big Thrift Energy, a manual for finding beautiful (often valuable) pieces of design for pennies on the dollar, and a source of inspiration for those looking to collect or style vintage in their own homes. A lifelong collector of vintage design, Virginia has spent years scouring thrift stores, estate sales, antique malls and flea markets for truly incredible, museum-worthy finds (like that Goyard trunk she found for $90, or the floor-length Christian Dior cape scored at Goodwill for $9). She believes even the most high-quality design should be accessible for everyone, and that the antiques industry is long overdue for a shakeup (and maybe a little more, well... energy). An accomplished artist, her paintings and prints are available via exclusive partnerships with Chairish, Artfully Walls and Anthropologie. Virginia is also a professional writer with bylines at PEOPLE, Buzzfeed, Eater, Bustle, and others. Follow Virginia on Instagram: @vchamlee Get Virginia’s book, Big Thrift Energy here: https://amzn.to/3V7zAPY And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @vchamlee Mentioned In This Episode... estatesales.net
Thu, April 04, 2024
#200: A Self-Love Gift for YOU!
Celebrating 200 episodes with sips of tea and a heart full of gratitude. Thank you, my self-lover, for listening to this podcast and giving yourself the gift of self-love. Get my list of 200 Reasons to Choose Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/200 From my heart to yours, Mary Mentioned in this episode: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Hibiscus Heart Tea: maryscupoftea.com/tea
Thu, March 28, 2024
#199: Celebrating 1 Year Married w/ Husband!
My husband and I are celebrating 5 years together and 1 year married! To commemorate, we thought we’d answer your burning relationship-related questions while reflecting on the half decade we’ve spent together. We talk about… how being married feels different adult friendships and how they’ve changed since our wedding our age gap advice for dating and finding “the one” tips for repairing after a fight how to decorate your home together, even if you have different styles new things we’ve learned about each other post-marriage Tune in for hot takes, relationship advice, and just a sweet conversation about couplehood. And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @maryscupofteaa Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 157 about Our Wedding Reflections: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0UGsNzalIhBmXyVogGFKFp?si=ylcqFLbIRgGIVZElssJDCQ 101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged: https://amzn.to/3ISBSew
Thu, March 21, 2024
#198: Secrets to an Organized Home with Nikki Boyd
Would you consider yourself an organized person? What about those with whom you live with? In the hustle and bustle of life, households frequently face daily stress, financial hiccups, and time crunches which are often aggravated by a lack of organization in the home. Professional organizer Nikki Boyd joins us to talk about communication as the ultimate organizing tool for households and well as hacks for keeping your home beautifully organized. You will learn... ways to communicate with those you live with to ensure a more harmonious household flow 2 places in one’s home that tend to cause stress hacks for organizing your house and making it feel like a sanctuary Remember: your home should feel like a vacation from the outside world. Why wouldn’t you make it into a place that feels rejuvenating? Nikki Boyd is a professional organizer and founder of athomewithnikki.com where she helps bring beautiful order in homes around the world with her business, blog and YouTube channel. What began as a hobby is now a successful home organizing business, a popular blog, and YouTube channel, with thousands of readers coming to her site for creative and straightforward ways to beautifully organize their homes. She lives in Charleston, South Carolina with her husband and two puppies. Follow Nikki Boyd on Instagram: @athomewithnikki Watch Nikki’s helpful YouTube videos: https://www.youtube.com/@AtHomeWithNikki/ Check out Nikki’s organizing services: https://athomewithnikki.com Get Nikki’s book, Beautifully Organized here: https://amzn.to/3PmyWKS And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @athomewithnikki Mentioned In This Episode... Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst by Robert Sapolsky: https://amzn.to/49VkEcl
Thu, March 14, 2024
#197: The Only Way to Conquer Insecurities
Get ready for a pep talk on how to overcome your insecurities and cultivate authentic, true confidence. You will learn... the difference between true confidence vs. pseudo-confidence a counterintuitive approach to conquering your insecurities Remember: the only way to conquer your insecurities is by making them a glorious part of you. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... TEDx talk on “how to talk to the worst parts of yourself”: https://youtu.be/gUV5DJb6KGs?si=PolNO_jAa1ElBpbg
Thu, February 29, 2024
#196: Giving Up Fitness and Influencing (a Reverse Interview by Christy Harrison)
Last year, Mary did an interview with Christy Harrison on her podcast, Rethinking Wellness. We are resurfacing that episode here, so you can listen to this “reverse interview” where Mary and Christy talk about how wellness culture coupled with social media algorithms creates a toxic environment for both consumers and creators. Tune into this deeply personal conversation about... Mary’s history as a bikini fitness competitor starting at age 16, and how it both triggered and exacerbated an ED how social media algorithms drive us into more extreme diet and wellness content why Mary thinking of quitting influencing despite finding much success on social media (and why Christy Harrison has already left Instagram) Though this episode was recorded 10 months prior, everything Mary said still holds true. Social media seems to be doing more harm than good and with every passing day, Mary is more and more tempted to call it quits. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @chr1styharrison Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 162: When Wellness Becomes BS with Christy Harrison on Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1fhy0aQwPZlgUQ4xANrxwq?si=b1b1cf5962894c9a Sign up for Christy Harrison’s newsletter: rethinkingwellness.substack.com Get Christy Harrison’s new book, The Wellness Trap: https://amzn.to/3ST99uD The Social Dilemma movie: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224 Rabbit Hole Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/rabbit-hole/id1507423923 “Is There Life After Influencing?” NYT article: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/04/11/style/lee-tilghman-influencer.html
Thu, February 22, 2024
#195: The Most Underrated Emotion
A solo episode where Mary talks about an emotion that’s underrated yet magnetic in other people + how you can channel this emotion to lead a more fulfilling life. Mary talks about... what’s different about this emotion vs. other positive feelings how experiencing this feeling is also an act of feminism ways to get out of a funk how the show Love on the Spectrum is inspiring her If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Love on the Spectrum: https://www.netflix.com/title/81338328 The Emotion’s Thesaurus: https://amzn.to/3SQfnvA
Thu, February 15, 2024
#194: How to Love Someone Without Losing Yourself with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
There’s often a disparity between how men and women make sacrifices for their relationship. In a long-term partnership, it’s normal and necessary to compromise, but how do we ensure that said compromises don’t make us lose important parts of ourselves in the process? Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to talk about how to identify, communicate, and retain independent parts of ourselves as we embark on a life journey with someone we love. We talk about… how to keep the “me” within the “we” is dating objectively harder now than it was in the past? why or why not? should we go through our partner’s phones as a way to ensure honesty? Remember: when two individuals form a unit, there are parts of their individuality that may be pushed aside. It’s not always a bad thing as long as we acknowledge each other’s individualities within. Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, phD, is internationally-recognized as one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her framework of Relational Self-Awarness has resonated with millions. A couples therapist, speaker, author, and professor, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tool people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and is a licensed clinical pscychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern. Her hit podcast, Reimagining Love, features high-profile guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop culture. She is the award-winning author of now 3 books: Taking Sexy Back, Loving Bravely, and Love Every Day. Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon Get Dr. Alexandra’s new book, Love Every Day here: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/book/ And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dr.alexandra.solomon Mentioned In This Episode... Lizzo’s NPR Tiny Desk Concert: https://youtu.be/DFiLdByWIDY?si=KAXcDxpW1aVmA9v2
Thu, February 08, 2024
Ep. 193: I Cry Every Year on My Birthday
Do you ever cry on your birthday? Because I DO. Every year without fail. Turns out, birthday blues are a real thing. It’s quite normal to feel a mix of emotions as you reflect on the year that’s passed and look forward to the year ahead. Tune in to learn why “birthday blues” are so common + how to cope with feeling behind in life. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Fri, February 02, 2024
Ep. 192: Debunking Menstruation Misinformation with Dr. Jen Gunter
Dr. Jen Gunter is an OBGYN with 30+ years of experience as a vulvar and vaginal diseases expert. She joins us today to debunk menstruation myths! Mary asks Dr. Jen questions like... is menstruating the body’s way of detoxing? what causes menstrual cramps and period poops? why/ how is “alternative medicine” harmful? do chiropractors really work? what’s the purpose and process of menstruating? Remember: don’t believe baseless claims you see on the internet! Dr. Jen Gunter is an internationally bestselling author, obstetrician, and gynecologist with more than three decades of experience as a vulvar and vaginal diseases expert. Considered “the world’s most famous—and outspoken—gynecologist,” (The Guardian), her New York Times and USA Today bestselling books, The Vagina Bible and The Menopause Manifesto, have been translated into 25 languages. And her new book Blood is all about the science, medicine, and mythology of menstruation which you’ll get a taste of in this podcast episode. Dr. Jen is the host of Jensplaining, a CBC/Amazon Prime video series that highlights the impact of medical misinformation on women, and the recipient of the 2020 NAMS Media Award from The North American Menopause Society. Her 2020 TED Talk, “Why Can’t We Talk About Periods?” received more than two million views in its first six months, leading to the launch of her popular podcast on the TED Audio Collective, “Body Stuff with Dr. Jen Gunter.” Originally from Winnipeg, Canada, she lives with her sons in San Francisco, CA. Follow Dr. Jen on Instagram: @drjengunter Get Dr. Jen’s new book Blood here: https://amzn.to/3RPBDVS And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @drjengunter Mentioned In This Episode... Dr. Jen’s TED talk “Why Can’t We Talk About Periods?”: https://www.ted.com/talks/jen_gunter_why_can_t_we_talk_about_periods?language=en
Thu, January 25, 2024
Ep. 191: Learning the Difference AKA Discernment (Encore)
I’m out of town for 2 weeks hosting another self-love retreat; this time in southern Portugal with 20 women coming from all over. So in attempts to preserve my energy while still keeping the pod going, I thought it’d be fun to revisit an older episode called “Learning the Difference.” This episode is about DISCERNMENT: the ability to perceive, judge, and understand things in an empathetic, rational, conscientious way. I believe that many things in life lie on a spectrum with nothing being inherently good or inherently bad in all contexts. That’s why it’s important that we have discernment not to judge others, but rather to know the difference for OURSELVES. Discernment is the act of choosing what’s serving you and releasing what’s not, and doing so with self-compassion. Tune in to learn how to discern! You will learn… how to find balance with food, exercise, work, and other things in your life an important question to ask yourself to determine if something is serving you or not advice to help you feel more at peace and content Remember: life is about learning YOUR difference. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, January 18, 2024
#190: How to Ask for & Receive HELP without Feeling Guilty
Hyper-independence could be holding you back. Speaking for myself, I am reluctant to ask for and subsequently RECEIVE help which leads to stress, resentment, and basically me running myself in circles. You will learn how to... ask for help in small and big ways convince your brain that you’re not being a burden harness this healthy receiving energy to feel more at peace Remember: self-worth is directly proportional to your willingness to receive. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, January 04, 2024
#189: 5 Thought Patterns Keeping You Stuck
Jumping on the fresh New Year energy, we’re discussing 5 thought patterns that are keeping you stuck + new mindsets to embrace instead. You will learn how to... stop overthinking cease comparing yourself to others quickly get out of negative self-talk Remember: there is a survival-based need behind everything we do, no matter how self-destructive. Luckily, there are more empowering ways to motivate yourself with self-compassion and self-love at the core. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 165: People-Pleasing Thought Patterns & How to Break Them with Maria-Victoria Albina- https://open.spotify.com/episode/5zXXHgPJgzC9HVtVMJuZmS?si=DueamaQJRZugQw6Ru_EZxw Ep. 32: Tools for Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff- https://open.spotify.com/episode/6rHAFkK3zikk9FFZURAZMm Ep. 183: The Best Book on Communication- https://open.spotify.com/episode/3l23N2zAkMk4EVzJlSnooy?si=1_R_GfxtSbuSm5OnLrKLaw Mary’s 2024 Vision Board- https://www.instagram.com/p/C1ngjVMP7Ll/?hl=en
Thu, December 28, 2023
#188: 12 Lessons Learned in 2023 (on Marriage, Family, and Friendships)
A personal solo episode where Mary reflects on the highs, lows, and lessons learned of 2023. We invite you to think of your own lessons learned from each month of the year as you’re listening. We hope you had a happy holiday season and a refreshing start to your New Year. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s self-love workbook + journal: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 145: My Super Simple New Years Intention Setting Process- https://open.spotify.com/episode/4udZhbOPwKrEJTdBrtX8ZD?si=bbbcbaceed9a43a9 Ep. 176: Our Safari Honeymoon Recap- https://open.spotify.com/episode/1pnmL4XYObfGtkeADPCZWy?si=1b03e98e7f9e4667
Thu, December 21, 2023
#187: Clean Up Your Digital Space(s) Before the New Year
In this episode, Mary shares 6 ways to declutter your digital spaces. You will learn how to… declutter your phone, computer and social media better manage your email organize important information Remember: Self-love demands that we properly shift from one role to another, acknowledging that digital decluttering is not just about organizing our spaces but reclaiming our focus, reducing stress, and embracing a more intentional and organized use of technology. It’s a journey towards improved well-being in a world filled with constant digital noise. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... How to Remember Your Life: https://youtu.be/GLy4VKeYxD4?si=JcMxOl_qkeSrxedr Sign up for Notion: https://notion.grsm.io/zb63msx9ep0n
Thu, December 14, 2023
#186: 5 Habits that Have Made Me a Better Person (Encore)
In this solo encore episode, Mary shares 5 habits that are good for mental health and personal development AKA habits that might make you a better person! Remember: take what you need and leave what you don‘t! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, December 07, 2023
#185: Feeling Behind in Life? Listen to This.
The reason you feel behind in life is because you’re comparing yourself to others who seem to be ahead of you. When you compare yourself to people who graduated, got jobs, got married, reproduced, bought cars and houses and vacations, not only are you doing a disservice to yourself, but you’re also contributing to the narrative that “success” is measured by external achievements rather than inner fulfillment. Here’s how to stop comparing yourself to others and start accepting that you are exactly where you need to be. Let this episode be a refreshing, encouraging reminder that feeling lost, directionless, or behind in life just means that you are taking the necessary time to pave your own way. Mentioned In This Episode... Get Your Self-Love TEA: https://maryscupoftea.com/tea Ep. #163: Feeling Lost? Listen to this: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6yFlPHOd6psTmAu1iJh97L?si=eUtcRPv3S-CwNULANGmiEw Ep. #180 on Detaching Self-Worth from Productivity: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tXIGoj9RLZMjob3xbjqsN?si=LwWaB-3STWCe7tl18fPoUQ If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Cheers to self-love!
Thu, November 30, 2023
#184: How to Find Yourself When You Feel Lost with Dr. Sara Kuburic
“Some of us knew who we were and then we lost our way. Some of us never became our Self in the first place. We grew older, we aged, our roles and functions changed, but we never grasped our essence. We became many things- a professional, a partner, a mentor, a parent, a friend- but we never truly became our Self.” ~ pg. 22 in Dr. Sara Kuburic’s book, It’s On Me. If you’ve ever felt this way– lost, like you don’t know who you really are– then this conversation is for you. Dr. Sara is a psychotherapist who focuses on existential psychology after a long journey of experiencing, studying, and explaining the concept of “self-loss.” You will learn... how to answer the question “who am I?” why hearing advice like “go find yourself” and “figure out who you are” is unhelpful the first step for how to create an AUTHENTIC sense of self Remember: who you are evolves over time, but if we are stuck checking boxes and pleasing others, then we will always feel inauthentic, disconnected, and lost in life. Follow Dr. Sara on Instagram: @millennial.therapist Learn more about Dr. Sara’s book here: https://amzn.to/3Rata05 And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @millennial.therapist
Thu, November 23, 2023
#183: The Best Book on Communication
I thought I was a good communicator until I read this book. It has challenged me (in a good way) and I wanted to share some of my takeaways with you. You will learn... the book Mary’s been reading, bringing to therapy, and trying to learn from how most people communicate and why it causes conflict the 4 levels of communication Remember: there’s a difference between communicating clearly and communicating compassionately. I always thought the goal was the former, but now I’m realizing that it’s the latter. Hope you enjoy my unofficial book club, where we talk about books that have helped me heal, grow, and evolve. If you liked this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Get the book Nonviolent Communication: https://amzn.to/3GaGriU
Thu, November 16, 2023
#182: Sober-Curious? This one’s for you. Therapist Amanda E. White on ALCOHOL
Most of us know that alcohol is poison, it makes us feel shitty, and rarely leads to much good. Despite knowing this, it’s easy to get pressured into drinking even if you don’t want to. This episode is for all my sober-curious friends, who want a fun-filled life without being dependent on alcohol (or any substance for that matter). You will learn about... the benefits of quitting, or at least reducing, your consumption of alcohol how to set boundaries around alcohol around friends, family, and your partner the link between adderall and alcohol why alcohol makes us more turned on + ideas for sober dating how to regulate your emotions before turning to your substance of choice (whether that’s drinking, smoking, or scrolling) Regardless if quitting drinking is right for you or not, you can be less dependent on substances and thus, more emotionally aware, connected, and present in your life. Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the host of the podcast, “Recovered-ish.” She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight” and its corresponding workbook. She is the founder of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Shape, Women’s Health Magazine, and more. To learn more visit amandaewhite.com Follow Amanda on Instagram: @therapyforwomen Get Amanda’s Not Drinking Tonight book here: https://amzn.to/400T5KM And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @therapyforwomen Mentioned In This Episode... Dan Carlin’s Hardcore History Podcast: https://www.dancarlin.com/hardcore-history-series/
Thu, November 09, 2023
#181: Stress Eating? Listen to this.
The holiday season tends to be full of stress: family drama, financial strain, end-of-year work obligations, etc. If you find yourself turning to food to cope with stress, this episode is for you. You will learn... why stress eating isn’t always bad and when it becomes a problem what to tell yourself if you feel like you overate how to mitigate stress eating and feel less guilty about it Remember: Food can be complicated, but it can also be a solid source of comfort, pleasure, and joy. Stress eating is nothing to be ashamed of. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Episodes That’ll Help Your Relationship with Food... Ep. 14: How to Stop Dieting, Restricting, & Binge Eating for Good: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3tylfVI2XscEZb5g5cHnKE?si=9a84338d304a4203 Ep. 17: The Science of Food Freedom w/ Jessi Jean: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3mR0cbZYCNg5amrw4H6zlJ?si=57a51d956c484812 Ep. 29: My Entire ED Story: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6QpXQN0TT8wjEIaL0F1rHK?si=5cf3d47ab2214475 Ep. 150: Hidden Meanings in Disordered Eating with Dr. Anita Johnston: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4ANZQbzkEMXrGtZiLT07cL?si=6b9ebb060b1c4800 Ep. 161: What Helped Me Finally Stop Binge Eating: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3bup5DXcRX6ELsFI3OBdlD?si=170248b972ff44ea
Thu, November 02, 2023
#180: Detaching Self-Worth from Productivity
Mary is trying to undo decades of attaching her self-worth to her productivity. Which is HARD to say the least. This episode explores our limiting beliefs about productivity, while helping you detach your worth from your output. You will learn... why productivity is a trap how to embrace doing nothing and let yourself rest 2 book recommendations that’ll help you form a better relationship with time practical tips for decoupling your sense of self-worth from how productive you feel Remember: Who you are is not what you do. Your work is not your worth. Nothing you do will make you more valuable than you already are. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... 4,000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman: https://amzn.to/495x815 How To Do Nothing by Jenny Odell: https://amzn.to/498y0lp Ep. 177 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: The Power of Slowing Down: https://spotify.link/LJFrTQgccEb Ep. 125 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: Productivity for Self-Lovers: https://spotify.link/NNhFH7dccEb Ep. 79 on Mary’s Cup of Tea: Dealing with Overwhelm via Self-Talk: https://spotify.link/q13zpNiccEb
Thu, October 26, 2023
#179: Feeling Like Your Body Betrayed You with Grief Expert Ashley Lemieux
CONTENT WARNING: this is an episode about pregnancy loss, chronic pain, and the grief that comes with feeling like your body has betrayed you. Ashley Lemieux joins us to share her personal experience with pregnancy loss, a near death health emergency, and crawling her way through grief. This episode is a giant permission slip to let yourself feel your pain, to acknowledge your grief for what it is: maybe the worst thing that’s ever happened to you. You will also receive encouragement and tools for finding your light in the dark. You will learn... how men and women grieve differently and the toll it can take on a marriage why so many of us feel GUILT in the grieving process how to begin to heal after a tragic loss ways to feel safe in your body after chronic pain Ashley Lemieux is a best-selling author, speaker, and content creator whose mission is to help you triumph through challenging times. She holds a Masters in Mental Wellness and Grief, has written 2 books including Born to Shine and I Am Here, and hosts a podcast called Healing Her. Everything Ashley shares will help you feel less alone and more empowered, especially during life’s inevitable lows. Remember: your pain is as bad as it feels. Follow Ashley on Instagram: @ashleyklemeiux Get Ashley’s book, I Am Here: And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @ashleyklemieux
Wed, October 18, 2023
#178: Coping with Crisis in an Emotionally-Intelligent Way
In an age of information overload and devastating crises unfolding before our eyes, the importance of critical thinking and emotional regulation can not be understated. We must remain grounded and informed in the face of overwhelming news, opinions, and emotions. Tune in to learn Mary’s 5-step process for coping with crisis. Note: This episode is not about political commentary. Rather, its focus is on sharing tools for processing horrific information on the internet so that you can remain physically and emotionally healthy even in the midst of intense crisis. While acknowledging the importance of humanitarian issues and social justice, this podcast is focused on self-love as a means to maintain personal well-being during challenging times. Remember: it’s good to care about global, humanitarian issues but don’t let it come at the expense of your own humanity and well-being. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Why Has Social Media Made It Impossible to Follow the Israel-Hamas War? on the Offline Podcast with Jon Favreau: https://crooked.com/podcast/why-has-social-media-made-it-impossible-to-follow-the-israel-hamas-war/#:~:text=As fighting intensifies between Israel,content moderation and fact checking. TikTok on how it takes 90 seconds to metabolize an emotion: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8haExJG/ The Lemon Tree book: https://amzn.to/3QwIcxb Byron Katie’s 4 Liberating Questions: https://thework.com/2017/10/four-liberating-questions/ Dan Carlin’s Hardcore History Podcast: https://www.dancarlin.com/hardcore-history-series/
Thu, October 12, 2023
#177: The Power of Slowing Down
Have you ever lost something and spent hours frantically looking for it everywhere and then the item shows up when you’re not searching for it? And better yet, it shows up in the place you swear you’ve looked? When you’re rushing, you’re stuck in your own anxious headspace, not actually connected to yourself and your surroundings. Tune in to learn about the power of slowing down, and how it can help you harness your intuition. Plus, Mary shares 5 simple ways to practice slowing down in your daily life. Remember: When you pause, you breathe, and when you breathe, you harness your power. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, October 05, 2023
Ep. 176: Safari Honeymoon Recap, Reflections, & Recommendations
After an epic safari honeymoon, Mary and her husband recap their trip to Tanzania + Zanzibar. They talk about… why they chose to do Tanzania safari + Zanzibar island for their honeymoon funny moments shared, memorable people met, and wild animals encountered their top hotel recommendations for Tanzania and Zanzibar what the trip itinerary + budget looked like We hope this inspires you to add Tanzania to your bucket list (perhaps as a honeymoon destination)! Hotel recs are linked in the episode description. :) If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast Hotels We Stayed At... Amazing B&B in Arusha: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/haradali-39-s-home.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2 Best lodge with elephants near the pool: https://www.tripadvisor.com/Hotel_Review-g608450-d8467687-Reviews-Tarangire_Simba_Lodge-Tarangire_National_Park_Arusha_Region.html Favorite luxury accommodation at Lake Manyara: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/escarpment-luxury-lodge.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2 Four Seasons in Serengeti: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/four-seasons-safari-lodge-serengeti.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2 Budget lodge in Ngorongoro Crater: https://www.tripadvisor.com/Hotel_Review-g317085-d1024831-Reviews-Ngorongoro_Rhino_Lodge-Ngorongoro_Conservation_Area_Arusha_Region.html Cute hotel in the middle of Stone Town, Zanzibar: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/upendo-house-zanzibar-zanzibar.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2 Gorgeous resort in Kendwa, Zanzibar: https://www.booking.com/hotel/tz/zuri-zanzibar.en.html?aid=7918557&no_rooms=1&group_adults=2 Other Experiences Mentioned… Paddleboarding in Zanzibar: https://www.paddlesportszanzibar.com Daraja Foundation: https://www.darajafoundation.com
Thu, August 17, 2023
#175: When It Feels “Too Good To Be True”
If you’ve ever felt like something or someone is “too good to be true” then this episode is for you. Mary talks about a model for strengthening your sense of self-worth, so that you finally feel worthy of things that are good AND true. Remember: when what you WANT does not align with what you BELIEVE, you will experience an inner battle filled with doubt, fear, and self-sabotage. As you’re figuring out what you want, do not neglect the power of your beliefs. Join the retreat priority list to get first dibs on our next self-love retreat! https://maryscupoftea.com/retreats
Thu, August 10, 2023
#174: Leaving the Church, Getting a Divorce, & Healing Religious Trauma w/ Morgan Tyler Haley
If you were raised in a restrictive, religious environment, this episode is for you. Morgan Haley joins us for a relatable and validating conversation about unsubscribing from beliefs that don’t serve you and discovering your own identity. FYI, we challenge and reject religious dogma that’s rooted in fear, shame, and hate. You will learn... ⛪️ why Morgan decided to leave the evangelical Christian community and divorce her first marriage 💔 how that’s impacted her relationship with her family ❤️🩹 what’s helped Morgan heal from a lifetime of religious trauma 🏳️🌈 how her new relationship changed her view of love Remember: there is no timeline for the healing process. Morgan, or @findingmorgantyler on IG, is a queer fitness and yoga instructor whose goal is to bring you approachable workouts that you feel confident doing from the comfort of your home. She speaks openly about leaving religious dogma, discovering her sexuality, and healing from shame through movement. You can find the links to her app as well as her programs via the link in her IG bio. Follow Morgan on Instagram: @findingmorgantyler Learn more about Morgan’s approachable yoga + fitness programs: https://linktr.ee/Morgantyler?utm_source=linktree_profile_share And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @findingmorgantyler
Thu, August 03, 2023
#173: The Beauty of “Failure”
Have you ever thought to yourself, “I feel like a failure”? As a Type A, self-motivated, achievement-driven kind of person, failure is something you might feel often… even when you haven’t actually failed. The worst kind of failure is when you don’t meet your OWN expectation of success (which is more often than not) and find yourself stuck in a never-ending cycle of “feeling like a failure.” In this episode, you will learn... why feeling like a failure is a THOUGHT, not an emotion (and how to talk yourself out of that BS) how to deal with common feelings of failure like when your body changes, a relationship ends, or a job opportunity doesn’t work out quite the way you expected 3 mindset shifts to help you feel better about potential failures Remember: Anything that feels like failure right now is pushing you, preparing you, and pointing you toward the path you’re actually meant to be on. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. This episode is sponsored by Ritual — made for skeptical people like us that care about our health in a non-diet-culture-y kind of way. I researched a ton of multivitamins and thankfully landed on Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ multivitamin. Let me tell you, this vitamin is an ✨experience✨. It has a minty-essence that makes taking your multis actually enjoyable. The bottle is transparent as are the capsules which have 9 key nutrients in 2, relatively small, capsules per day. And thanks to their commitment to traceable ingredients, you can trust what you’re putting in your body. Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ is a multivitamin you can actually trust. Ritual is offering my listeners 20% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/MARY20 to start Ritual or add Essential for Women 18+ to your subscription today.
Thu, July 27, 2023
#172: The Missing Pieces of the Body-Image Puzzle with Lindsay Kite
Have you ever thought that you were happier when you were thinner/ prettier/ younger/ etc? In a culture that values thinness and beauty, it’s hard not to believe that your value lies in your appearance. We buy into arbitrary beauty ideals and false promises, killing ourselves to look a certain way. In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Lindsay Kite, co-author of the book More Than a Body and co-director of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined, to talk about healing body-image struggles. You will learn... the missing piece of the puzzle when we talk about body-image how the male gaze affects body-image why losing weight and changing your appearance never solves the problem ways to combat toxic beauty ideals and build body -image resilience Remember: keeping up with beauty ideals is a losing game. Adhering to society’s definition of beauty does NOT buy love, confidence, health, or happiness. Usually, it only exacerbates body-image struggles. Dr. Lindsay Kite is co-author of the book More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament (2020, HarperCollins) and co-director of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined, alongside her identical twin sister Lexie Kite. Both received PhDs from the University of Utah in the study of female body image and have become leading experts in body image resilience and media literacy. Lindsay and Lexie help girls and women recognize and reject the harmful effects of objectification in their lives through their social media activism (IG @beauty_redefined), online course (morethanabody.org), and regular speaking engagements for people of all ages. Lindsay lives in New York City. Follow Lindsay on Instagram: @beauty_redefined Get Lindsay and Lexie Kite’s book, More Than a Body: https://www.morethanabody.org/more-than-a-body-book/ And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @beauty_redefined Mentioned In This Episode... Lindsay’s TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/uDowwh0EU4w
Thu, July 20, 2023
#171: New Environment, New Mindset
Mary shares her lessons learned from traveling and talks about how putting yourself in a new environment is the best way to heal. You will learn... 2 ways to get unstuck how Mary healed her relationship with exercise creative ways to shake up your environment Remember: you cannot heal in the same environment that you got sick. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, July 13, 2023
#170: Intentional Wedding Planning and Artful Gathering with Priya Parker
Self-love is relational. We NEED people in our lives and gathering is how we build and nurture community. Today Priya Parker is on the show to teach us about the art of gathering, specifically as it pertains to weddings. You will learn... why weddings are important for a couple and their families how Mary & Husband approached their wedding in a conscientious and feminist way the #1 thing to consider BEFORE planning a wedding (i.e. MUCH-NEEDED advice for engaged couples) how to set boundaries with friends and family as you’re planning a wedding and resolve any conflict that may come up Remember: Weddings are symbolic, ritualistic, and a rite of passage for everyone involved. If done in an artful way, weddings can be a beautiful way to begin a marriage… tune in to learn how. Priya Parker is a facilitator, strategic advisor, acclaimed author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why it Matters, and executive producer and host of the New York Times podcast, Together Apart. Trained in the field of conflict resolution, Parker has spent 20 years guiding leaders and groups through complicated conversations about community, identity, and vision at moments of transition. She lives in Brooklyn, NY, with her husband and two children. Follow Priya on Instagram: @priyaparker Learn more about Priya’s Wedding Course here: https://course.priyaparker.com/aog-wedding-planning Get Priya’s book, The Art of Gathering: https://www.priyaparker.com/book-art-of-gathering If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @priyaparker Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. #157: Wedding Reflections w/ My HUSBAND: https://spotify.link/ivI8sz5NYAb 10 Wedding Planning Questions for the Artful Gathering Couple: https://www.priyaparker.com/wedding-planning-guide
Thu, July 06, 2023
#169: Do You Think You’re Boring or Uninteresting? Here’s Why You’re WRONG.
If you believe you’re boring, you’re more likely to silence your voice, not share your story, not express your gifts. If you want to put yourself out there whether it’s while dating, at work, trying to start a new business, become a content creator, make new friends, etc, you have to STOP thinking that you’re boring… because you’re not!! Here’s a 10-minute pep-talk for anyone who feels like they’re boring or not interesting enough. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Quora article: https://www.quora.com/I-am-boring-and-uninteresting-I’m-not-very-talkative-I’m-stoic-and-I-have-no-energy-or-passion-I-read-and-play-video-games-and-I’m-in-a-club-but-don’t-meet-new-people-I-do-well-in-school-and-make-people-laugh-What-can-I-do-to-make-friends
Thu, June 29, 2023
#168: Imbalances in Relationships & How to Fix Them with Eve Rodsky
WOW!!! This one is going down in history as one of our favorite episodes. Get ready to feel seen, heard, and understood thanks to this conversation with Eve Rodsky about the INVISIBLE and UNPAID labor of women. Note: though we speak in heteronormative terms, this conversation is for anyone who feels like they’re taking on more responsibility in their relationship than their partner. And if you’re single/ dating and see yourself in a long-term partnership in the future, NOW is the time to start thinking about what “fair play” looks like. You will learn... the 3 words that RUIN all relationships why women do more unpaid labor + some shocking statistics the secret formula for rebalancing the responsibilities in your household how to challenge cultural assumptions that say you must “do it all” and create a more equitable dynamic in your relationship Remember: these gender imbalances are NOT YOUR FAULT nor are they your partner’s. There are a lot of cultural assumptions at play here and it’s time to dismantle them to create “fair play” between men and women. Eve Rodsky transformed her “blueberries breakdown” into a catalyst for social change when she applied her Harvard-trained background in organizational management to ask the simple yet profound question: What would happen if we treated our homes as our most important organizations? Her New York Times bestselling book and Reese’s Book Club Pick, Fair Play, a gamified life-management system that helps partners rebalance their domestic workload and reimagine their relationship, has elevated the cultural conversation about the value of unpaid labor and care. In her highly anticipated follow-up, Find Your Unicorn Space: Reclaim Your Creative Life in a Too-Busy World, Rodsky explores the cross-section between the science of creativity, productivity, and resilience. Described as the ‘antidote to physical, mental, and emotional burnout,’ Rodsky aims to inspire a new narrative around the equality of time and the individual right to personal time choice that influences sustainable and lasting change on a policy level. Rodsky’s work is backed by Hello Sunshine—Reese Witherspoon’s media company whose mission is to change the narrative for women through storytelling. Rodsky was born and raised by a single mom in New York City and now lives in Los Angeles with her husband Seth and their three children. Learn more about Fair Play and Unicorn Space at fairplaylife.com Get the book, Fair Play: https://amzn.to/3N3Bxax And the Fair Play card deck: https://amzn.to/43CKvmi If you enjoyed this episode, share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @fairplay so we can see! Mentioned In This Episode... Extreme Ownership book: https://amzn.to/45TZNVc TED Talk Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness: https://youtu.be/8KkKuTCFvzI
Thu, June 22, 2023
#167: 5 Signs You’re Struggling with Self-Confidence
A lack of self-confidence shows up in small and big ways. Here are 5 not-so-obvious signs that you’re struggling with self-confidence, things that Mary is personally working on as well. You will learn how to... stop trying to fill inner voids with external things start trusting yourself more get out of a victim mindset Remember: No shiny new thing is going to give you the confidence, happiness, and positive feelings you’re looking for. You’re the only one who can change your mindset and it has to come from within. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, June 15, 2023
#166: Perfectionism and Nervous System Regulation (Pt.2 with María-Victoria Albina)
This one is for our fellow perfectionists. Those of us who were raised as girls and women, know how easy it is to fall into perfectionism, constantly equating our worth with how “perfect” we can appear to be. This is Part 2 of our conversation with Somatic Life Coach María-Victoria Albina who will help us break through these perfectionistic thinking and reclaim our authenticity. You will learn... what happens in the nervous system of a perfectionist why women, eldest daughters especially, often exhibit signs of people-pleasing, codependency, and perfectionism and how it gets passed down through generations how perfectionism might be related to IBS and other digestion issues?!?!?!? tools to help you snap out of perfectionistic thinking We hope this episode inspires you to choose PRESENCE ＞ PERFECTION. María-Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women realize that they are their own best healers by reconnecting with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York’s Hudson Valley. Follow María-Victoria on Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness Learn more about María-Victoria’s 6-month coaching program here: https://victoriaalbina.com/anchored And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @victoriaalbinawellness
Thu, June 08, 2023
#165: People-Pleasing Thought Patterns & How to Break Them (Pt.1 with María-Victoria Albina)
Have you ever said “yes” when you really meant “no”? If so, then you might be a PEOPLE-PLEASER. For those of us who were raised as girls and women, people-pleasing is an all too familiar way of relating to those around us. Today we are joined by Somatic Life Coach María-Victoria Albina who will help us break through these people-pleasing thought patterns and reclaim our authenticity. This conversation is equal parts entertaining and educational, thanks to María-Victoria’s joyful spirit. You will learn about... what really happens in your nervous-system when you prioritize other people’s needs above your own non-obvious signs of people-pleasing and codependency ways to stop yourself from people-pleasing and start being more truthful, direct, and authentic Remember: sourcing your feelings from the outside world is a sign of codependency. Contrary to what you might’ve been taught, your value does not depend on what others think of you. María-Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women realize that they are their own best healers by reconnecting with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York’s Hudson Valley. She’s also the creator of Anchored, a 6-month coaching program and a loving, supportive community for women and afab non-binary folks, where you’ll learn new ways to respond to stress and trauma, ditch codependent, perfectionist and people pleasing habits as you learn to relate to your body, mind and emotions in healthier ways. Follow María-Victoria on Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness Learn more about María-Victoria’s 6-month coaching program here: https://victoriaalbina.com/anchored And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @victoriaalbinawellness
Thu, June 01, 2023
#164: Conquering Summer Body-Image Struggles
As the weather gets warmer, body-image can get harder. You might be thinking, “I’m nervous to be in a swimsuit around all of my friends, showing so much skin makes me feel insecure…” That’s why Mary is sharing 3 reminders for conquering summer body-image struggles: so that you can wear that bikini with less shame and more confidence. Remember: do not let your body-IMAGE influence your life EXPERIENCE, especially this summer. This episode is supported by Big Heart Tea, my favorite certified-organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don’t want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, May 25, 2023
#163: Feeling Lost? Listen to this.
Being lost is not just necessary. It’s inevitable. Everyone feels lost at times, most of us feel slightly lost all of the time. Whether you’re going through a transition in your career, questioning your purpose or feeling confused about your next steps, this episode will give you glimmers of hope amidst uncertainty. You will learn... the 2 manifestations of feeling lost and where they stem from how to feel less agitated and more excited mindset shifts and ways to deal with your un-lived potentials how to surrender and trust that you are exactly where you need to be Remember: You can look for yourself in people, places, careers, hobbies, experiences, and things, but the core of who you are is already within you. Clarity will come when you try new things and put yourself in positions to meet new opportunities. This episode is supported by Big Heart Tea, my favorite certified-organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don’t want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Cheryl Strayed’s book, Tiny Beautiful Things: https://amzn.to/43ebyUt Oliver Burkeman’s book, Four Thousand Weeks: https://amzn.to/439aT6F
Thu, May 18, 2023
#162: When Wellness Becomes BS w/ Christy Harrison, MPH, Registered Dietitian and Intuitive Eating Counselor
Christy Harrison, a pioneer in the anti-diet movement, has transformed the way I see food, weight, and health. Now she’s coming on the show to talk about THE WELLNESS TRAP, a hodgepodge of diet culture, disinformation, and dubious diagnoses. Many wellness solutions that promise “health and healing” are really just promoting a standard of health that’s unattainable, problematic, and harmful to your health. You will learn... why diets and weight loss are NOT the solution to most all health concerns how the wellness world tricks us into dubious diagnoses and harmful approaches to “healing” who often falls into the wellness trap (and why YOU might have at times too…) how to think critically and employ scientific literacy Remember: a healthy amount of skepticism will keep you from falling into the wellness trap. Not everything needs to be cured or healed, especially if the methods are scientifically unsound. Christy Harrison, MPH, RD, is a registered dietitian nutritionist, certified intuitive eating counselor, and journalist who has been covering food, nutrition, and health for more than 20 years. She is the author of two books, The Wellness Trap and Anti-Diet , and the producer and host of the podcasts Rethinking Wellness and Food Psych , which have helped tens of thousands of people around the world think critically about diet and wellness culture and develop more peaceful relationships with food. Her writing has appeared in the New York Times, SELF, BuzzFeed, Refinery29, Gourmet, Slate, the Food Network, and many other publications, and her work is regularly featured in national print and broadcast media. Learn more about Christy and her work at christyharrison.com Follow Christy on Instagram: @chr1styharrison Learn more about Christy’s new book, The Wellness Trap: https://christyharrison.com/the-wellness-trap And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @christyharrison Mentioned in This Episode: Fears About Food Additives (article written by Christy): https://christyharrison.ck.page/posts/fears-about-food-additives Is Red Food Dye Dangerous? https://www.parentdata.org/p/is-red-food-dye-dangerous?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email
Thu, May 11, 2023
#161: What Helped Me Finally Stop Binge Eating
If you’ve ever struggled with binge eating, you know how difficult it is to stop. You might have tried everything from strict dieting to intuitive eating, wishing that something would help stop your battle with food for good. Mary has been on this journey herself after nearly a decade of struggling with bulimia and binge eating. In this episode, she shares the mindset that helped her FINALLY stop binge eating… forever. Tune in for some refreshing encouragement + a mindset shift for overcoming binge eating. Remember: binge eating is symbolic of how we function overall. That frantic, compulsive energy around food translates into other areas too. Where else does this binge/ restrict/ self-hate pattern show up in your life? If you’re interested in Mary’s 4-week program for conquering body-image struggles, breaking the diet cycle, and learning to love yourself, get it Beyond Body here for 75% off: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body
Thu, May 04, 2023
#160: Dating in ED Recovery + Life as a Content Creator w/ Brittani Lancaster
ED recovery and body acceptance influencer Brittani Lancaster joins us for an honest conversation about online dating, working a 9-5 AND being a TikTok influencer, and what life is like as a content creator. Remember: it’s okay to keep your personal passion separate from your intellectual passion. You are a multi-faceted human being. Follow Britt on IG/ TikTok: @brittanilancaster And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @brittanilancaster On that note, I’m going to take a dramatic sip of tea... Big Heart Tea, that is! My favorite certified organic tea, wrapped in sustainable packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded and mission-driven. Their Farmers Collection is a growing line of intentionally-sourced, direct trade teas, which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their signature Cup of Sunshine herbal blend which is great for the afternoon when you don’t want caffeine. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!
Thu, April 27, 2023
#159: How to Make Your Friendships Stronger
You might have friends that you think you’re close to, but are you really? Most people say they don’t want surface-level friendships, but I think because of capitalism, hustle culture, and the individualistic way in which we live, our friendships have inevitably become surface level even if both people are actually rather deep! It’s just hard to translate that depth to another person unless you know how to intentionally take it there. In this episode, Mary talks about how to make your existing friendships stronger. You will learn about... the importance of having fulfilling friendships and how to foster them some friend date ideas that are much more fun that your typical lunch date tips for getting your friends together in a wholesome way Remember: it takes a village for you to thrive. We are not meant to walk through life alone. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... We’re Not Really Strangers card game: Priya Parker’s, The Art of Gathering:
Thu, April 20, 2023
#158: Talking to Kids About Food, Fat, and Health w/ Psychotherapist Zoë Bisbing
If you have children in your life, whether they’re your own kids or perhaps your siblings/ nieces/ nephews/ students, then hopefully you want to create a body positive environment for them. Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is here to teach you HOW. You will learn... what to say if a child asks, “Am I fat?” how to approach a conversation about “healthy eating” with kids what if your kid has a real health condition? how should parents approach their child’s food and weight then? what to say to stop family members from commenting on your child’s weight Remember: building a body positive home starts with your own mindset first. As a parent, it’s important to heal your own beliefs about food, fat, weight, and health. Zoë Bisbing, MSW, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist, speaker, and content creator. Zoë holds a Master of Social Work from New York University, a Bachelor of Arts from Smith College, and a certification in Family-Based Treatment from the Institute for Child and Adolescent Eating Disorders. She is the director of Body-Positive Therapy NYC and Body-Positive Home (formerly The Full Bloom Project), an educational resource offering workshops and body image workouts for the whole family. She loves teaching parents and professionals how to creatively build spaces where children of all ages, sizes, and gender expressions can naturally boost immunity to our appearance-obsessed culture and decrease risk for disordered eating and body image injury. Follow Zoë on Instagram: @mybodypositivehome And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @mybodypositivehome This episode is sponsored by Big Heart Tea! My favorite certified organic tea with direct-trade ingredients, wrapped in packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded, intentionally-sourced, and mission-driven which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their Cup of Love tea and I also love their herbal blends for the afternoons. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!
Thu, April 13, 2023
#157: Wedding Reflections w/ my HUSBAND!
Mary’s HUSBAND is joining us for a special podcast episode sharing aaalllll the details of their wedding + how it feels to be married! You’ll hear about… a fight they had during the early stages of wedding planning feelings before, during, and after the big day their favorite and funniest moments of the wedding how they approached friends, family, and finances what their backyard wedding looked like advice to couples considering having a wedding thoughts on pre-nups and what it means to be married Remember: most people want to have a wedding, but aren’t clear on what marriage looks like. Make sure you and your partner are on the same page before going into a life-long commitment. And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast Mentioned In This Episode... The Art of Gathering (Book): https://amzn.to/3MCKHfE 101 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged (Book): https://amzn.to/3mn2IUG Mary’s Wedding Planning Notion Template: https://www.notion.so/maryscupoftea/Wedding-Planning-Template-f5c3e7b8d4d746ccabac42babc334669?pvs=4
Thu, April 06, 2023
#156: Compassionate Self-Talk
Mary is practicing compassionate self-talk- here’s how. You will learn how to... be more conscious of the stories you’re telling yourself separate your struggles from your identity use word choice that’s more supportive and self-compassionate Remember: your thoughts create your (internal) reality. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Wed, March 08, 2023
#155: Stop Self-Sabotaging with This Quick Tip
Mary has been struggling with self-sabotage so she’s talking about it! Tune in to hear a quick way to stop self-sabotage in its tracks. Remember: self-sabotage’s close cousin is perfectionism… If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 50: How to Let Go of Control & Perfectionism: https://maryscupoftea.com/50-how-to-let-go-of-control-perfectionism/
Thu, March 02, 2023
#154: How to Manifest Opportunities in 3 Simple Steps
A short episode about how manifestation can be used in a practical way, since a lot of rhetoric on manifesting and the Law of Attraction can be a bit tone deaf… Tune in for Mary’s 3 simple steps for manifesting opportunities into your life. Remember: the Law of Attraction is essentially a cognitive bias! You can use this brain hack to seek out positivity and goodness in your life, and thus, invite more of that in. Where your attention goes, energy flows and what you focus on grows. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, February 23, 2023
#153: Eating Disorders Amongst Men with Bobby Kasmire
Eating disorders amongst is not talked about enough so in this episode, Mary is joined by fellow content creator Bobby Kasmire who vulnerably shares about his struggles with disordered eating. You will learn... what it’s like struggling with Ed as a guy Bobby’s brilliant “2-week” rule which has helped him ease food anxiety how our Ed recovery is shaped and impacted by the internet Remember: you are more than your Ed! There is a whole beautiful life waiting for you beyond recovery. A recent college graduate who is currently creating content for over 300k+ followers across TikTok and Instagram, Bobby Kasmire shares his past and ongoing experiences in eating disorder recovery on social media in order to help break the stigma amongst men and eating disorders. He shares helpful tactics, tools, and thoughts that have helped him on his own journey to finding a better relationship with food. Follow Bobby on Instagram and TikTok: @bobbykazz And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @bobbykazz Listen to Mary on the Bobby PodKazz Podcast here: Get Mary’s Self-Love Playlist: https://maryscupoftea.com/playlist
Thu, February 16, 2023
#152: Listen to This to Get Smarter with Blair Imani on Racism, Religion, Marriage, and Mental Health
The most wide-ranging conversation on this podcast! Activist and educator Blair Imani talks to us about topics spanning racism, religion, mental health, marriage, and so much more. You will learn... how subtle racism can show up and what to do about it why Blair chose to convert to Islam how to feel your feelings AND move forward - ways to intentionally approach marriage with feminism at the forefront If you made an anti-racist promise in 2020, this is your reminder that there is still tons of work to be done in 2023 and beyond. Blair Imani (she/her) is the creator of the viral web series Smarter in Seconds. She is the LA Times Bestselling author of Read This to Get Smarter and Head of Education at Feminist for All. She is also the author of Making Our Way Home and Modern HERstory. Her scholarship spans intersectionality, gender studies, race and racism, sociology, and United States history. As a public speaker, Blair Imani has presented at universities including Oxford and Harvard. She serves on the Board of Directors for the Tegan and Sara Foundation. The New York Times praises Blair Imani’s unique ability to create “progressive lessons with vibrant visuals and a perky, quirky delivery.” Her work centers women and girls, global Black communities, and the LGBTQ+ community. As an educator, influencer, and semi-retired organizer, Blair Imani is dedicated to making the world less terrible and amplifying the voices and work of those fighting the good fight. Learn more about Blair Imani by visiting blairimani.com. Follow Blair on Instagram: @blairimani Get Blair’s book, Read This to Get Smarter: https://blairimani.com/read-this-to-get-smarter And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @blairimani Mentioned In This Episode... Reclaiming Our Space by Feminista Jones: http://reclaimingourspace.com
Wed, February 08, 2023
#151: 25 Things I’m Learning as I Make 25 Trips Around the Sun
Happy birthday to our host Mary Jelkovsky! In this solo episode, Mary shares 25 things she’s learning (key word!) about people, life, and self-love. The best birthday gift is your listenership and being on this self-love journey together! If you enjoyed this episode, please consider taking 60 seconds to rate the show on Spotify or leave a review on Apple. Your feedback means the world and helps the show grow. And make sure to get Mary’s books on self-love and if you already have them, please leave a review on Amazon or wherever you bought them from! The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. This episode is sponsored by Big Heart Tea! My favorite certified organic tea with direct-trade ingredients, wrapped in packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded, intentionally-sourced, and mission-driven which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their Cup of Love tea and I also love their herbal blends for the afternoons. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!
Thu, February 02, 2023
#150: Hidden Meanings in Disordered Eating with Dr. Anita Johnston
WOW!!! This episode is a must-listen, especially for those in eating disorder recovery or dealing with any kind of disordered eating. In just one hour, Dr. Anita will enlighten you with her wisdom, humor, and helpful tools for healing your relationship with food. You will learn... how disordered eating can be healed through spiritual stories and metaphors why an eating disorder is a unique type of addiction the role of “power” in one’s struggle with food how to uncover symbolic meanings in food why recovery is FUN! how to find your hunger and fullness cues and so. much. more. Remember: full recovery is possible (this is coming from a renowned psychologist who runs a residential treatment center and has helped thousands of people recover for good). Follow Dr. Anita on Instagram: @dranitajohnston Learn more about Dr. Anita’s Feminine Psyche course here: https://lightofthemooncafe.com/the-four-faces-of-the-feminine-psyche/ FREE Food & Metaphor Guide: www.lightofthemooncafe.com/cot Anita Johnston, Ph.D., is a Depth Psychologist, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist, and author of Eating in the Light of the Moon: How Women Can Transform Their Relationships with Food Through Myth, Metaphor, and Storytelling, which has been published in seven languages. A pioneer in the field, Dr. Johnston has been treating eating difficulties and body image distress for over 35 years. She has developed eating disorder programs nationally and internationally and currently serves as Founder & Executive Director of ‘Ai Pono Hawaii Eating Disorders Programs which has a Residential Program in Maui. She is the co-creator of the Light of the Moon Café , an online resource with interactive and self- study courses for women around the world. As a recognized international workshop presenter, Dr. Johnston lectures globally to professional organizations, conferences, universities, medical institutions, and the community at large and provides virtual consultations. She is best known for integrating metaphor and storytelling into her training as a clinical psychologist to explain the complex issues that underlie disordered eating behavior and other struggles with eating and body image. You can find Dr. Anita at https://dranitajohnston.com/ This episode is sponsored by Big Heart Tea! My favorite certified organic tea with direct-trade ingredients, wrapped in packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded, intentionally-sourced, and mission-driven which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their Cup of Love tea and I also love their herbal blends for the afternoons. Stock up on your
Thu, January 26, 2023
#149: Letting Out Your Creative Power with Katie Dalebout
If you are a creative person, this conversation with Katie Dalebout will make you feel seen, heard, and understood. You will learn about... how Katie’s orthorexia led her to create an extremely popular wellness podcast the mindset (and fears) of a creative person helpful tools and resources for writers and artists Remember: creativity comes a lot easier when your nervous system is regulated. Follow Katie on Instagram: @katiedalebout Learn more about Katie’s Creative Clinic here: https://www.katiedalebout.com/creative-clinic Katie Dalebout is a writer who produces and hosts podcasts. Her weekly interview show Let It Out began in 2013 and now has over 400 episodes with nearly 9 million downloads. In 2019 she started producing Spiraling, a mental health show she co-hosts with Serena Wolf. In 2016, she published her first book Let It Out, an interactive book about using writing for emotional wellness. She now teaches writing workshops, consults with individuals and brands on creative strategy, and writes a weekly newsletter. She lives in Los Angeles where she walks like she still lives in New York. And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @katiedalebout Get Mary’s self-love playlist: https://maryscupoftea.com/playlist
Thu, January 19, 2023
#148: Add THIS Gratitude Practice to Your Morning Routine
You’ll feel the enthusiasm in Mary’s voice as she shares with you this 5-second gratitude practice you can do anytime, anywhere! This episode is for you if you want an easy way to integrate a gratitude practice into your life. Try it and let us know what you think over on @maryspodcast! And make sure to get Mary’s new self-love journal: https://maryscupoftea.com/100-days-of-self-love Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 121 with Another Gratitude Tip: https://maryscupoftea.com/121-a-quick-gratitude-practice/ Ep. 115 about Learning the Difference: https://maryscupoftea.com/115-learning-the-difference-mindset/ This episode is sponsored by Big Heart Tea! My favorite certified organic tea with direct-trade ingredients, wrapped in packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded, intentionally-sourced, and mission-driven which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their Cup of Love tea and I also love their herbal blends for the afternoons. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount!
Thu, January 12, 2023
Ep. 147: Make Your Relationship(s) Better with These 2 Tips
Mary shares 2 green flags of a good relationship or 2 things you can practice with your partner. She also talks about her own relationship, lessons learned from couples therapy, and ways to foster a healthy dynamic with those around you. Remember: there are ways to communicate with each other beyond using words… If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love workbook: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love and 100 Days of Self-Love journal: https://maryscupoftea.com/100-days-of-self-love This episode is sponsored by Beducated, a platform with educational courses by real sex educators about anything sex/ relationship related. From dating to desire, Beducated has helped thousands of people enjoy better and more frequent sex, including moi! And what’s nice about the platform is that the videos are explicit for educational purposes, but not pornographic. Plus they’re inclusive of all races, genders, and orientations!. There’s so much I could share about Beducated, but you just have to take a peep you＜a href=”https://beducate.me/pd2302-maryscupoftea”＞Go to this Beducated link＜/a＞ and use code MARYSCUPOFTEA to get 40% off the yearly pass where you will get access to 100+ online courses on sexual health & intimacy, led by the world’s top experts. Let’s step into sexual health and happiness with ＜a href=”https://beducate.me/pd2302-maryscupoftea”＞Beducated＜/a＞.
Thu, January 05, 2023
#146: Overcoming Rejection and People Not Liking You
This was a HARD topic to talk about… no one likes feeling rejected because it threatens our #1 desire as human beings: the need to be accepted for who we are. Here is how to deal with rejection in a self-aware and self-loving way so that hopefully, other people’s opinions don’t stop you from living YOUR life. You will learn about... how to cope with feeling rejected what to do if you’re the one rejecting YOURSELF why people might not like you Remember: REJECTION IS REDIRECTION. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media and feel free to send us a DM!
Thu, December 22, 2022
#145: My Super Simple New Years Intention-Setting Process
Mary shares her 3-step process for setting intentions for the New Year + tips/ tools for organizing your 2023 goals. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media so we can see your New Years intentions! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... My Vision Board in Notion: https://www.notion.so/maryscupoftea/Intentions-f4a527b20f844b219f91cbdfb709a41b
Thu, December 15, 2022
#144: Mistakes Vagina-Owners Are Making with Dr. Tanaya
We are joined by the sex positive Dr. Tanaya who talks to us about common mistakes/ misconceptions that vagina-owners often have in regards to their reproductive health. Here are the topics/ questions we dive into: What causes your uterus and cervix to change over time Do menstrual cups cause prolapse? Do vaginas stretch or get loose if you have a lot of sex? Tips for calming medical anxiety What are common misconceptions about orgasms, specifically for vulva owners? Does penis size matter? Is hair removal dangerous? What’s better: Shaving? Waxing? Laser Does not wearing a bra really make your boobs saggy? Do vibrators de-sensitize your clitoris? Tips for prime sexual health!! Remember: learning about and understanding your body is a form of SELF-LOVE. Dr. Tanaya is a medic who is passionate about sexual and reproductive health, and likes to put the ‘fun’ in fundamental sex ed! Having amassed almost a million followers, she focuses on busting sexual health myths, and creating candid, engaging, & informative conversations around these “shushed” topics. After studying medicine in India, Dr. Tanaya then got a masters in assisted reproductive technologies at the University of Oxford, where she was surprised to see the many many medical myths amongst her highly educated peers! This inspired her to start her Instagram channel, @Dr_Cuterus, where she uses fairytales, mannequins, fun GIFs, and hilariously relatable examples to talk about complex medical & sexual education topics, all wrapped up with an inclusive and gender-neutral bow — a safe place where no topic is too taboo to discuss! Follow Dr. Tanaya on Instagram: @dr_cuterus Get Dr. Tanaya’s book: https://www.amazon.in/dp/0143455702?ref_=cm_sw_r_mwn_dp_DKPTASVP98X1D2DKPKXV And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dr_cuterus This episode is sponsored by Big Heart Tea! My favorite certified organic tea with direct-trade ingredients, wrapped in packaging made from plants (not plastics), and produced with the utmost regard for the farmers who grow it. I love Big Heart Tea because their company is female-founded, intentionally-sourced, and mission-driven which you can really taste with every sip. I’m currently drinking their Cup of Love tea and I also love their herbal blends for the afternoons. Stock up on your own tea by going to bighearttea.com and use code MARY20 for a discount! Mentioned In This Episode... Cardi B’s words of wisdom: https://www.instagram.com/p/CD7ii2FAPqb/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
Thu, December 08, 2022
#143: Food Freedom During the Holidays w/ Sarah Simpson
If you’re stressed about food during the holiday season, this episode is for you. Mary is joined by Sarah Simpson to talk about how to embody food freedom and self-trust during a time of year when it’s easy to fall back into old habits. You will learn about... what life is actually like after recovery the 4 types of hunger how to trust your body and yourself around food Remember: healing isn’t linear, sometimes it’s a cha-cha: a couple steps back is part of the dance! The holidays can help you learn, grow, and heal in a new way. Sarah is a body image and food freedom coach whose passion for self love and whole-body wellness emerged from her own experiences in the hamster wheel of dieting and weight loss culture. After recovering from her eating disorder and finding her inner confidence, she became a coach. She understands that our relationships with our bodies and food impact every area of our lives, and not enough is done to help us through that. Follow Sarah on Instagram: @sarahinyellow Learn more about Sarah’s holiday masterclass here: https://fabulous-leader-1123.ck.page/8b805bff35 Get Sarah’s Food Mindset e-course: https://sarah-simpson-s-school.teachable.com/p/freedom-university And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @sarahinyellow
Thu, December 01, 2022
#142: Making Friends as an Adult - Where, How, and Why
Have you ever felt like making friends as an adult nearly impossible?! Like WHERE do you find like-minded people and HOW do you go from strangers to besties? In this episode, Mary shares her advice for making new friendships and strengthening your existing ones. You will learn... the mindset and energy you MUST embody to make new friends WHERE to find potential friends (the answer might surprise you!) how to talk to people without being awkward Remember: people can and will surprise you once you open your heart to genuine connection. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s two books on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal . This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.
Thu, November 24, 2022
#141: How to Deal with Difficult Family Members
I’m convinced that everyone has at least ONE difficult family member (if not, it might be you 🤪). Family can bring up a lot for us emotionally which is why today we’re talking about how to deal those triggers in a healthy way. You will learn… 5 questions to ask yourself BEFORE setting boundaries how to use self-awareness and emotional intelligence with your family my 5-step process for approaching difficult conversations Remember: people often project their own insecurities not because they’re malicious, but because it’s easier to direct energy outward than it is to reflect inward. 🎤 If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books on self-love: The Gift of Self-Love : https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love, a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal , a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Mentioned In This Episode... Ep. 35: How to Set Boundaries with Diet Culture: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/35-how-to-set-boundaries-with-diet-culture/id1495128359?i=1000493293855 Blog post on setting boundaries: https://maryscupoftea.com/how-to-set-boundaries-with-diet-culture/ Boundary Coach, Kami Orange, on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kami_orange
Thu, November 17, 2022
#140: Journaling Tips + Prompts (Because My New Self-Love Journal is Here!)
Mary shares what’s helped her start journaling, stay consistent, and go on to create her own self-love journal! Tune in for journaling tips + techniques + prompts. You will learn how to... how to start journaling and stay consistent what to write about when you’re journaling (plus, the ONE main question you must ask yourself every single time) 3 different approaches to journaling and which one might be best for you Remember: My new book, 100 Days of Self-Love, is a guided journal with daily musings + thought-provoking prompts followed by space to write. Not only is it BEAUTIFUL, but it’s also something that will help keep you going (read: growing) on your self-love journey. Get yourself a copy of 100 Days of Self-Love by going to maryscupoftea.com/journal or pick it up at your favorite book retailer! Mentioned In This Episode... The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron: https://amzn.to/3hLo4Ik Mary’s new guided journal: https://amzn.to/3UXzI1o
Thu, November 10, 2022
#139: Creating a Career You Love with My Book Publishing Team: Lindsay & Brenna
Mary talks to Lindsay and Brenna from Blue Star press about book writing, paving your own path, and building a company. They talk about how their career didn’t follow a straight path, but rather, were carved out through curiosity, preparation, and a bit of luck. You will learn about... how to stay open-minded as you seek career opportunities what to do if you don’t know what you want to do how Mary’s publisher, Blue Star Press, started their company We hope you enjoy this unique conversation with 2 people who helped bring both of Mary’s books to life! Get your copy of Mary’s new self-love book: 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Pre-order it today and get the audiobook for free by visiting maryscupoftea.com/journal . Mentioned In This Episode... “You Don’t Actually Know What Your Future Self Wants” TEDx Talk: https://youtu.be/dtfaccGmCCs
Thu, November 03, 2022
#138: Healing from Heartbreak
This one if for those who are going through a breakup or healing from heartbreak of any sort. You will hear from Mary and a few of her friends on what’s helped them heal their hearts after a break-up. Tune in for heartfelt advice, words of encouragement, and a dose of poetry. You will hear from… Mary (@maryscupofteaa) on leaving someone after experiencing trauma together and heavily relying on each other Kelly (@_kellyu) on finding your own identity after leaving a toxic relationship Julia (@fitfatandallthat) on letting yourself grieve the loss of a future Whitney (@whitneyhansonpoetry) who shares a spoken poem for those who are afraid to love again… Remember: breakups suck, but they’re something to celebrate, too. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Pre-order Mary’s NEW BOOK: 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Pre-order it today to get the audiobook for free by visiting maryscupoftea.com/journal . Mentioned In This Episode... Excerpt from pg. 94 of 100 Days of Self-Love titled “Celebrate Breakups” Excerpt from pg. 170 of 100 Days of Self-Love titled “Breakups Are Mirrors” ”home” poetry book by Whitney Hanson: https://amzn.to/3UfIAif
Thu, October 27, 2022
#137: Motivating Yourself with Compassion
Want to know how to motivate yourself in a self-loving way? Tune into this episode to learn practical tools for finding and creating motivation through a lens of SELF-LOVE, of course! You will learn how to... Why you might be feeling de-motivated Use a technique called “10 WHYs” to find intrinsic motivators Employ self-discipline (but not in the way that you think…) Remember: You don’t need to wait until you’re perfectly motivated to start taking action. Imperfect, messy, reluctant action will often be enough to prove to yourself that you CAN do it, that you DO have it in you which creates a positive feedback loop. Micro steps over everything. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mary also has a NEW BOOK coming out on November 15th: 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Pre-order it today to get the audiobook for free by visiting maryscupoftea.com/journal . Mentioned In This Episode... Dr. Kristin Neff on the Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast Episode #32: https://youtu.be/SIN48AbUi-A The Mere Presence of One’s Own Smartphone Reduces Available Cognitive Capacity Research Study: https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/full/10.1086/691462
Thu, October 20, 2022
#136: How to Be Body Positive AND Pursue Health
Mary talks about 3 ways to balance body positivity with the pursuit of health. She hopes you will see that contrary to misconceptions on the internet, body positivity and health are actually one and the same. You will learn how to... approach food with a non-diety, yet health-focused, mindset think about movement in a way that isn’t body or weight loss focused trust your body after years of trying to control it Remember: accepting, loving, and caring for your body is the healthiest thing for you. Don’t let diet culture tell you otherwise! Mary has a NEW BOOK coming out on November 15th: 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. Pre-order it today to get the audiobook for free by visiting maryscupoftea.com/journal . We are also celebrating over 1 million podcast downloads thanks to all of you self-lovers!!! Thank you so much for supporting this small show over the years. If you have 60 seconds to tell us what you love about the show, we would greatly appreciate a review on Apple or a rating on Spotify. Always love hearing from you!
Thu, October 13, 2022
#135: On Being Multi-Passionate with Arielle Estoria
Arielle Estoria is back on the show to talk to us being a multi-passionate creator. Arielle Estoria is a Spoken Word Poet, a Writer and Author, as well as an Emcee, Speaker and Actor. You will learn about... how yoga can be incredibly healing to your relationship with your body what it means to be multi-passionate and how to embrace it as a GIFT how Arielle practices rest and boundaries as a soulfilled creator Remember: the real work is rest. Follow Arielle on Instagram: @arielleestoria Arielle’s new book The Unfolding is coming spring 2023. Pre-order it here: https://amzn.to/3S7ne6m And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @arielleestoria Mentioned In This Episode... Listen to Mary’s previous conversation with Arielle (Episode #21) Why Some of Us Don’t Have One True Calling TEDx Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/emilie_wapnick_why_some_of_us_don_t_have_one_true_calling?language=en
Thu, October 06, 2022
#134: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living
In this episode, Mary talks about her struggles with... struggle. You will learn about... finding or having more meaning in our lives enjoying life without trying to fix everything that is ”wrong with you” lack of connection making us want to fill a void Remember: You are enough, your life is enough and who you are at your core is totally okay. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Mary is so excited to announce that her NEW BOOK, 100 Days of Self-Love, is now available for you to pre-order at maryscupoftea.com/journal Make sure you pre-order the journal by November 1st so that you can get the audiobook for freeeee! Mentioned In This Episode... Episode #61: Stop Trying to Be Happy (and Do This Instead)
Thu, September 29, 2022
#133: Self Love in a Post-Pandemic World with Poet Melody Godfred
Mary is joined by Melody Godfred to talk about how self-love shows up in our lives, especially post pandemic. You will learn... how self-love shows up in motherhood and parenting why achievements don’t always bring joy the intrinsic power women hold and how to embrace it Remember: the goal is not to check the boxes for the sake of “success”; it’s to get closer to YOUR aligned center and be able to live authentically. Melody Godfred is the Self Love Philosopher. As a poet, author and speaker, she is devoted to empowering people to love themselves and transform their lives. Her poetry has been featured by Oprah Magazine and T o day with Hoda and Jenna , among others, for its wisdom and ability to deeply resonate and uplift. Her bestselling debut poetry collection, Self Love Poetry: for Thinkers & Feelers , was recognized as one of the best poetry books of 2021 by Woman’s Day , and her self love guided journal, The ABCs of Self Love , was recently featured by Hudson Booksellers at over 300 airports across the United States. Melody’s new poetry collection, The Shift: Poetry for a New Perspective , is set to be published on September 27, 2022 by Andrews McMeel Publishing and is designed to reframe how we see and move through this brave new, post-pandemic world. Follow Melody on Instagram: @fredandfar Learn more about Melody’s self-love poetry books here: https://www.melodygodfred.com And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @fredandfar
Wed, September 21, 2022
100 Days of Self-Love
Mary shares the details about her new book, 100 Days of Self Love! It’s a journal that complements her first book, The Gift of Self Love, to help you continue to grow on your self love journey! There are 100 journal prompts accompanied by little musings by Mary to help guide you. 100 Days of Self Love is now available for pre-order! And if you pre-order now, Mary will send you a copy of the audiobook version for free as a special thank you gift! Go to maryscupoftea.com/journal to pre-order and fill out the form by October 31 to receive your audiobook!
Wed, September 14, 2022
#132: What I’ve Learned After Writing 2 Self-Love Books
Mary is so excited to announce that her NEW BOOK, 100 Days of Self-Love, is now available for you to pre-order at maryscupoftea.com/journal After publishing my first book, The Gift of Self-Love , many of you asked for a tool that would help you build a daily practice of self-love into your life. I wrote 100 Days of Self-Love you do just that. It’s got 100 journaling prompts that cover ALL areas of life—body, identity, purpose, relationships, and more—so you can really think of it as a metaphorical multivitamin for self-love, something to keep you going or GROWING on your self-love journey. Go to maryscupoftea.com/journal to learn more about this new self-love journal! Make sure you pre-order the journal by November 1st so that you can get the audiobook for freeeee! This solo episode is about what I’ve learned after writing and publishing 2 self-love books. I talk about… My writing process including how I deal with challenges Tips for overcoming self-criticism as a creator Why you MUST share your gifts with the world Remember: do. the damn. thing. I believe in you and I will keep reminding you of that until you start believing in yourself.
Thu, September 08, 2022
#131: Having a Bad Day? Listen to this.
In today’s episode, Mary gives a little pep talk around what to do when you’re having a bad day. You will learn how to... shift your mood when you have a bad moment in your day define what a bad day means to you and what is contributing to those feelings define what a good day looks like for you Remember: We need to work on untying and detaching our mood on external factors. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, September 01, 2022
#130: Surrendering & Shattering the Ego with Jake Sasseville
Our first ever male guest on the show (aside from Boyfriend, of course!) is Jake Sasseville!! Jake is a dear friend of Mary’s who vulnerably shares his life story including struggles with weight/ body-image, career successes and failures, and what he’s learned along the way. This is a conversation about… surrendering to life’s highs and lows overcoming codependent and addictive behaviors creating true, unimaginable success in your life how your weight does not have to hold you back Remember: NEXT. RIGHT. ACTION. Jake Sasseville is a serial entrepreneur, author, podcaster and TV producer. He is the CEO of Imiloa Institute in Costa Rica, he was the youngest host in late-night TV history on ABC, and the White House, and Kauffman Foundation named him one of the most “innovative entrepreneurs.” He has built a wide-ranging and impactful career at the intersection of culture and consciousness. At 17, he learned early on about life’s private struggles: his thirteen-year brother died of leukemia and his father was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease in the same year. As a result, Sasseville has been known to be a sensitive, steadfast and resilient leader, often choosing pioneering paths instead of roads frequently traveled. Follow Jake on Instagram: @jakesasseville Learn more about retreats at Imiloa Institute here: https://imiloainstitute.com/retreats/ (and use code TEA to get $250 off an Imiloa Signature Retreat!) And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @jakesasseville
Thu, August 25, 2022
#129: Dating with Confidence
A short solo episode where Mary shares her #1 tip for feeling confident in yourself while dating. Whether you’re seeing someone or just casually dating, this is the mindset you must adopt to attract good, healthy people in your life. Remember: you are worthy of stable, healthy love. Get Beyond Body for 75% off: https://maryscupoftea.com/bb
Thu, August 18, 2022
#128: Making Your Relationship Last with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Since Mary is getting married soon, it’s only fitting that she talks to renowned relationship psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon. You will learn... which green flags to look out for in your relationship how to navigate feeling like you’re carrying the “emotional burden” of your relationship what it means when you say “I love you but I’m not in love with you” the key to making a relationship last long-term Follow Alexandra on Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon Learn more about Alexandra here: www.dralexandrasolomon.com And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @dr.alexandra.solomon Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a regular contributor at Psychology Today , the creator and host of the Reimagining Love podcast, and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; New Harbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show. Mentioned In This Episode... Dr. Alexandra’s podcast episode with her husband Todd: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/love-stories-toddcast/
Thu, August 11, 2022
#127: Nervous About Your Purpose? Listen to this.
Last week, Mary almost applied for a job at Trader Joe’s because she was feeling nervous about her purpose. If you’ve ever questioned your path in life, then this episode is for you. You will learn... the 2 scenarios that lead to questioning everything how to create your purpose in a sea of possibilities 3 questions to ask yourself to gain clarity around your purpose Perhaps it’s unwise to think about the future when there is so much for us to learn in the present… If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Blog post on Japanese concept of “ikigai”: https://www.brightspacecoaching.com/blog/find-your-purpose
Thu, August 04, 2022
#126: Travel That Makes You a Better Person with Chelsea Glass
An incredibly rich conversation about how travel transforms your character. Mary interviews Chelsea Glass, owner of Heart of Travel, an organization that helps you learn about Latin American culture through Spanish classes and small group trips. You will learn about… how to travel ethically and truly support the country you’re visiting the hardships of interracial and intercultural relationships how to find your “home,” whether it’s the place you were born or somewhere abroad Remember: travel can teach us so much about ourselves and the world around us. If done intentionally, travel transforms you. Chelsea Glass was born and raised in California and first began studying Spanish at the age of 19. After more than a decade immersed in the language, along with her post-graduate studies in Spanish at CSU Sacramento, Chelsea is a fluent Spanish speaker and experienced language instructor. From 2012 to 2016, Chelsea worked in both tourism and language education (Spanish and ESL) while pursuing her M.A. in Spanish before moving back full time to Guatemala in 2017 to start Heart of Travel. Chelsea has a deep passion for authentic travel and aims to dispel preconceived ideas and notions about Latin American cultures through small group trips. She currently resides in Antigua, Guatemala with her partner and two daughters. Follow Heart of Travel on Instagram: @heartoftravel__ Heart of Travel’s Spanish courses: https://heartoftravelspanish.teachable.com/?affcode=1054958_iujaf4rj Heart of Travel’s small group trips: https://heartoftravel.org/pages/travel-with-us And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @heartoftravel__ Mentioned In This Episode... Basic level Spanish class Mary is taking: https://heartoftravelspanish.teachable.com/p/basic-travel-spanish-i2?affcode=1054958_iujaf4rj
Thu, July 28, 2022
#125: Productivity for Self-Lovers
In order to go after our goals and make our dreams come true, we must prioritize stuff that’s important over tasks that feel urgent. Mary will teach you how to use self-love to decipher between urgency and importance. You will learn... why it’s so hard to motivate yourself the difference between urgency and importance, and why you must prioritize the latter) how to replace FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) with JOMO (Joy of Missing Out) Remember: accepting that we are finite creatures with infinite possibilities liberates us to do what we really want to. Love yourself enough to choose the important over the urgent. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... How to Master Your Priorities Medium Article: https://medium.com/swlh/how-to-master-your-priorities-with-the-urgent-important-matrix-a7904de55266 Productivity for Mortals on the Making Sense Podcast: https://www.samharris.org/podcasts/making-sense-episodes/289-time-management-for-mortals
Thu, July 21, 2022
#124: How to Overcome the Fear of Failure
The fear of failure is closely related to the fear of success. Even though it seems like they’re opposite, both are a self-worth struggle. In this episode you will learn how to... self-talk your way through the fear of failure believe in yourself take small risks that lead to big results Remember: Believing in yourself is harder to do than not believing in yourself. It takes courage. It takes willpower. It takes support. It takes stamina and stubbornness and it’s really uncomfortable but boy is it worth it. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, July 14, 2022
#123: The Sex Ed You Didn’t Get with Erica Smith
An interview with Erica Smith (@ericasmith.sex.ed), a sexuality educator who talk to us about abortion, purity culture, and how to talk to people about sex. You will learn... why sexual education is so important and how to talk to young people about sex how to talk to people in your life who might not understand the severity of the abortion issue, specifically your partner what purity culture is and how deeply it affects us Erica Smith (she/her) is an award winning sexuality educator and consultant with over 20 years of experience. She has provided comprehensive sex education and advocacy to young women and LGBTQ+ youth in Philadelphia’s juvenile justice system, worked in abortion care, and supported HIV+ and transgender adolescents and their families. She received her Master of Education from Widener University’s Center for Human Sexuality Studies. In 2019, she developed the Purity Culture Dropout™️ Program to help people learn all of the sex education that they missed growing up in purity culture- sex ed that is accurate, queer inclusive, trauma informed, compassionate, and comprehensive. Erica lives in Philadelphia with her partner and house full of rescue animals and you can find her on Instagram at @ericasmith.sex.ed Follow Erica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericasmith.sex.ed/ Learn more about the Purity Culture Dropout Program here: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/the-purity-culture-dropout-program And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @ericasmith.sex.ed Mentioned In This Episode... Sex Education- show on Netflix
Thu, June 30, 2022
#122: Your Self-Love Survival Guide for When Everything Sucks
Mary shares her best advice for practicing self-love during difficult times. You will learn... the 3 components of self-compassion how to know the difference between avoiding and coping ways to process and move through heavy emotions Remember: we must be protective and intentional with our energy. Self-care is important now more than ever. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Episode #115: Learning the Difference Episode #32: Tools for Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff Well + Good Article: https://www.wellandgood.com/manage-stress-roe-v-wade/
Thu, June 23, 2022
#121: A Quick Gratitude Practice
Mary shares an easy, yet effective technique for tapping into more gratitude. You can do this anytime to instantly feel a little more motivated, happy, and grateful… (although you might find it annoying at first ha!). Remember: changing your word choice can change your life. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, June 16, 2022
#120: Uncomfortable Realities and the Dark Side of Insta-Therapy with Seerut Chawla
Psychotherapist Seerut Chawla (@seerutkchawla) joins us for a hot take on the dangers of Insta-therapy. Warning: this conversation will challenge you to keep an open mind, think critically, and evaluate what you’ve been taught. You will learn... what ideas about mental health that have been popularized on social media are actually unethical and harmful how cultural differences impact our view of mental health what trauma actually is and what it is NOT Remember: take what resonates with you and leave the rest. This conversation is meant to challenge us to maybe see things a little differently... Seerut Chawla is a psychotherapist and cultural commentator based in London. Follow Seerut on Instagram: @seerutkchawla Sign up for Seerut’s Substack here: https://seerutkchawla.substack.com/ And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @seerutkchawla
Thu, June 09, 2022
#119: 5 Signs of Emotional Intelligence
In today’s episode, Mary takes a deep dive into emotional intelligence! You will learn how to... Understand emotional intelligence How it can be supportive in your self-love journey Find harmony in the world through your emotions Remember: Self-love does not exist in a vacuum, so consciously work on yourself AND your relationships. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, June 02, 2022
Ep 118: Financial Confidence and Investing with Tori Dunlap
Tori Dunlap (@herfirst100k) joins us to talk about INVESTING, building WEALTH, and financial CONFIDENCE. You will learn... the best way to invest your money (the how & where) why women are less financially educated than men (and how to change that) how to ditch the shame around money and become financially confident Remember: building wealth as a woman is an act of resistance to the patriarchy. Tori Dunlap is an internationally-recognized money and career expert, and podcast host. After saving $100,000 at age 25, Tori quit her corporate job in marketing and founded Her First $100K to fight financial inequality by giving women actionable resources to better their money. She has helped over three million women negotiate salary, pay off debt, build savings, and invest. Host of the #1 Business Podcast, Financial Feminist ; author of the upcoming book “Financial Feminist” (Harper Collins); and Adweek’s ”Finance Creator of the Year”, Tori’s work has been featured on Good Morning America, the Today Show, the New York Times, TIME, PEOPLE, New York Magazine, Forbes, BuzzFeed, CNN, CNBC, and more. Tori now travels the world writing, speaking, and coaching about personal finance, online businesses, side hustles, and confidence for women. Follow Tori Dunlap on Instagram: @herfirst100k Learn more about Tori’s investing app here: https://treasury.app And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @herfirst100k
Thu, May 26, 2022
#117: Your Summer Body (A Pep Talk)
Mary gives you a body-image pep talk for embracing your summer body, knowing that it is perfect exactly the way it is. She talks about how to challenge negative body thoughts, deal with other people’s opinions, and find your personal clothing style for the summer. Remember: Your job is not to look a certain way in a bikini or to impress people with your body. Your only job is to exist and hopefully, HAVE FUN. Make this the summer that goes beyond your body. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Sign-up for the retreat priority list: https://maryscupoftea.com/retreats The Four Agreements book: https://amzn.to/37Uptb7
Thu, May 19, 2022
#116: Sexual Communication with Dr. Tara
Dr. Tara from @lovebites.co talks to us about S-E-X! Dr. Tara is a professor of relational and sexual communication at CSU Fullerton. Her goal is to normalize sex talks and help people feel more sexually fulfilled through confidence and communication coaching. You will learn... how to talk to your partner about sex with confidence 3 practices for enhancing your sexual self-esteem how your earliest sexual experience influences your desires Remember: sexual communication is not easy but it’s important to be courageous and speak your mind! Follow Dr. Tara on Instagram and TikTok: @luvbites.co Dr. Tara’s 5-minutes sexual meditation: https://youtu.be/nek1luHl5d4 10-minute sexual meditation: https://youtu.be/zYyhs3Whjqo And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @luvbites.co
Thu, May 05, 2022
#115: Learning the Difference (Mindset)
Here’s a mindset to adopt for ultimate personal growth and inner peace: learning the difference. Listen to this episode to find out what this means and how to apply it to your life! You will learn... how to find balance with food, exercise, work, and other things in your life an important question to ask yourself to determine if something is serving you or not advice to help you feel more at peace and content Remember: life is about learning YOUR difference. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, April 28, 2022
#114: Embodied Healing with Ruthie Lindsey
Ruthie Lindsey speaks to us about grief, chronic pain, reparenting yourself, processing trauma, embodiment practices, religious upbringings, self-love and so much more. Not to mention, Ruthie’s heart shines through her voice and reminds us all that there is so much beauty amidst the broken. You will learn about... how Ruthie came back to life after dying (both literally and later, metaphorically) loving your body amidst chronic pain embodiment practices for processing emotions - healing from religious trauma and the process of finding God in your own way Remember: the greatest gift you can give someone, including yourself, is your PRESENCE. Follow Ruthie on Instagram: @ruthielindsey Learn more about Ruthie’s upcoming workshop: http://www.ruthielindsey.com/how-to-like-yourself-101 And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @ruthielindsey Mentioned In This Episode... Video of toddler throwing a tantrum: https://fb.watch/cDWNynQyEa/
Thu, April 21, 2022
#113: Conquering Body Shame in the Bedroom
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, you’ll want to listen to this episode for advice on conquering body shame in the bedroom. You will learn how to... be more confident in your body sexually vet people and be protective of your space foster more intimacy and trust in your relationships Remember: Be protective of the people you allow inside, whether that’s inside your emotional space or inside of you. Click here https://bit.ly/CHEEX-maryscupoftea to get a 14-day free trial on CHEEX with code CUPOFTEA. Promo valid for new customers when selecting the yearly subscription option. Cancel anytime during the trial period. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor: https://amzn.to/3jIUZeB The Orgasm Gap: How Body Shaming Affects Women’s Sexual Experiences: https://feminisminindia.com/2020/11/12/orgasm-gap-body-shaming/ Episode #38 with Emily Nagoski: https://maryscupoftea.com/sex-orgasms-masturbation-with-emily-nagoski/ Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://amzn.to/3vj2Rca
Thu, April 14, 2022
#112: I said YES! + Thoughts on Marriage & Feminism
Boyfriend has officially upgraded to fiancé! Mary shares the behind-the-scenes of how he proposed and what her thoughts are on engagements, weddings, and marriages. She also talks about how she’s approaching everything with a feminist mindset. Remember: The most empowering thing you can do for yourself as a feminist is to clearly communicate what is/ isn’t important to you. And as feminists, I don’t think we have any right to judge another woman for her personal choices. Do you agree? Let me know what you think by screenshotting this episode and tagging @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get my book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Episode #77: Therapy Update + Thoughts on Marriage: https://maryscupoftea.com/77-therapy-update-thoughts-on-marriage/
Thu, April 07, 2022
#111: How Sexuality Can Heal Binge Eating with Jessi Jean
Mary is joined by her dear friend Jessi Jean, Food Freedom Coach who helps women overcome binge eating. They talk about best friend breakups, breast implants, beauty standards, cosmetic procedures, and the link between binge eating and sexuality. You will learn... how to create and nurture meaningful adult friendships why Jessi got her breast implants taken out and her thoughts on other cosmetic procedures how connecting to your sexuality can help heal binge eating - tips for exploring sexual pleasure both solo and with a partner - advice for building a healthy romantic relationship Remember: where attention goes, energy flows, and what you focus on grows. Follow Jessi on Instagram and TikTok: @jessijeannn Learn more about Jessi’s Food Freedom Online Program here: https://www.foodfreedomonlineprogram.com/ffm And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @jessijeannn Mentioned In This Episode... Mariana van Zeller’s documentary series, Trafficked: https://www.nationalgeographic.com/tv/shows/trafficked-with-mariana-van-zeller
Thu, March 31, 2022
#110: A Powerful Question to Ask Yourself
In this super-short solo episode Mary shares a powerful question to ask yourself while you’re journaling or find yourself resorting to old coping mechanisms. She also recommends a great book for exploring your emotions and shares some personal things going on in her life (as per usual!). Sign up for the online retreat on April 13th: https://maryscupoftea.com/onlineretreat If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Brene Brown’s Atlas of the Heart: https://amzn.to/3wBVz5k
Thu, March 24, 2022
#109: Steps to Becoming a Writer
We are celebrating the 1-year birthday of The Gift of Self-Love! Today I thought I’d talk about how to become a writer because pursuing this craft has not only forwarded my career, but also helped me grow as a person. You will learn... the 5 steps for becoming a writer different ways to make money as a writer how Mary got this book deal and stuff to think about if you’re an aspiring author too! Remember: there are no prerequisites for being a writer. To be a writer, all you have to do is... write! (But I promise I share more than that in this episode ;) If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Join Mary’s online retreat on April 13th: maryscupoftea.com/onlineretreat Mary’s TEDx Talk about body-image: https://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybg
Thu, March 17, 2022
#108: Showing Up Consciously in the Digital Space with Jenny Jay
Today Mary is joined by Jenny Jay, a storyteller and creator and her experiences and education over the last 7 years has become integral to the content that she writes, creates, and shares. Add that to her lived experiences as a South Asian woman with experiences with in/visible disability, living unhoused and without financial security, and existing in her other identities. She recognizes the difference it makes when stories are shared in a way that recognizes your community and validates their experiences. Together, Jenny truly believes that we can make spaces — online, in our media, in our conversations, and in our businesses, spaces for change. You will learn how to... think critically about what you see on social media what digital cultural appropriation is and how to avoid it set boundaries in your digital space, whether you are a creator or consumer of online content If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @justaskjenny Mentioned In This Episode... Jenny’s Inclusive Content Calendar link: https://www.theethicalstoryteller.com/calendar Jenny’s land acknowledgment from her email signature: The Double Jay Collective Inc., was founded on the traditional territory of many nations including the Mississaugas of the Credit, the Anishnabeg, the Chippewa, the Haudenosaunee and the Wendat peoples. More specifically, this land is covered by a historic treaty, the Ajetance Treaty [Treaty 19] signed in October of 1818, where the Mississauga Nation of the River Credit and Sixteen Mile Creeks surrendered their land and is the only treaty [known of] named after an Indigenous community member. It is important to recognize the layers & circumstances that lead to this signing, and that this land is still home to many diverse First Nations, Inuit and Métis peoples. While land acknowledgements allow us to engage in ongoing reconciliation by reflecting on the physical space we are on, as a company, our work now takes place in a combination of physical and virtual spaces. To continue to prioritize and centre reconciliation we will always encourage our team, clients, and community to take the time to learn about the lands they are currently on. You can do so, here .
Thu, March 10, 2022
#107: An Intuitive Eating Mindset “Hack”
In this episode Mary shares a new way to think about intuitive eating that will hopefully help you find a sense of freedom and peace with food. The words we use MATTER and if you start using this one word, your mindset around food will definitely change for the better. Remember: your relationship with food and your body is a reflection of how you lead your life. Do you want everything to be structured, rigid, and obsessive OR would you prefer a little more freedom, flow, and inner peace? If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, March 03, 2022
#106: The Power of Mindless Activities
In today’s episode, Mary shares about the power of mindless activities and how they can help you achieve a state of mindfulness. You will learn how to... Let go and allow ideas and new perspectives to come to you Use your five sense to ground yourself Do activities that give your mind a break Remember: The priority at this moment is learning to find ease in your body and breath. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, February 24, 2022
#105: Tips for Self-Discovery (+ My Personal Identity Crisis)
When you’ve been told who you ”should” be your whole life, sometimes it’s hard to figure out who you really are. Tune in for some advice on self-discovery and musings from Mary about what it’s like to go through an identity crisis. Maybe life is just one big long identity crisis, so how can you enjoy that journey? If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Sign up for Mary’s emails: https://maryjelkovsky.activehosted.com/f/3 Episode #81: How to Follow Your Heart: https://maryscupoftea.com/81-how-to-follow-your-heart/ Episode #67: Advice for Finding Your Passion + Book Recommendations: https://maryscupoftea.com/67-advice-for-finding-your-passion-book-recommendations/ Link to BetterHelp online therapy: BetterHelp.com/mcot
Thu, February 17, 2022
#104: 5 Disordered Habits You’re Probably Still Doing
In this episode Mary addresses 5 disordered habits you’re probably still doing (despite knowing better) and how to stop doing them. These are things that we’ve been conditioned to do since childhood, so they won’t go away overnight. However, it’s important to become aware of them so that you can continue healing from diet culture and unsubscribing from beauty standards. Which one of these 5 habits do you catch yourself doing? Take a moment to reflect and be honest with yourself because that’s always the first step. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, February 10, 2022
#103: An Astrology Deep Dive with Blyss Veer because it’s my birthday!
In honor of my birthday and Aquarius season, I interviewed my retreat sister, dear friend, and amazing astrologer Blyss Veer on how we can use astrology to gain insight into ourselves and harness it for self-love. We also touch on big philosophical topics like grief and the human condition because it’s all related! Although I’ve always felt very connected to my zodiac sign, I was still a bit skeptical because it felt overwhelming and I didn’t really know the science behind it. Blyss changed all of that for me and she’s about to do the same for you. In this episode, Blyss teaches us about… The difference between your sun, moon, and rising signs (and why you may feel more like your moon and rising sign than your sun sign) Where EXACTLY to look in your chart if you’re looking to tap into more self-love What it means to be in your “Venus Return” or “Saturn Return” (which especially applies to you if you’re 24 or 27-29 years old!) ... And truly so much more because astrology is philosophical and can go as deep as you want to explore it! If you’ve been enjoying the podcast and being a part of this community, the best birthday gift EVER would be some positive feedback on the show. If you have just 60 seconds, please review the show on Apple or rate us on Spotify! It helps future self-lovers find this podcast and gives me all the encouragement I need to keep creating for you. ＜3 And make sure to get a copy of my book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode: Blyss’s favorite coffee is the “Sweetheart Roast” from this shop: https://www.olympiacoffee.com/collections/coffee/products/sweetheart-espresso Blyss’s favorite coffee shop near Seattle: https://narrative.coffee Link to book a 1:1 personalized astrology reading with Blyss: https://blyssmoonastrology.as.me and use code GIFTOFSELFLOVE for 33% off
Thu, February 03, 2022
#102: When Positivity Becomes Toxic with Whitney Goodman
In this episode, Mary talks with Whitney Goodman, a licensed psychotherapist, about the harmful effects of toxic positivity. We’ve all heard it, seen it, and experienced it! You know, when someone totally invalidates your feelings and tells you to “just think positive!” It’s so not helpful! Whitney shares with us about... what toxic positivity is and the different areas it shows up in (specifically how it appears in religion, workplace, health, grief, etc) the antidote to toxic positivity how to talk to your loved ones when they are experiencing pain Remember: “Happiness and positivity have become both a goal and an obligation.” But you don’t have to feed into that... Follow Whitney on Instagram: @sitwithwhit Get Whitney’s book, Toxic Positivity here: https://amzn.to/3zMbptG And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @sitwithwhit
Thu, January 27, 2022
#101: Stop Judging Yourself
In today’s episode, Mary takes a moment to chat about self-judgment. Has judging yourself really brought you any good? You will learn... How to notice the ways you are judging yourself. What’s really going on when you’re judging others. Self-compassion is more productive than blaming, shaming or judging yourself. Remember: The litmus test for self-judgment: would you judge someone else, like your sister or daughter or friend, for this same exact thing as harshly? You are doing the best you can. Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Episode #32 with Dr. Kristin Neff: https://maryscupoftea.com/tools-for-self-compassion-with-dr-kristin-neff/ Dr. Kristin Neff’s article, “The Motivational Power of Self-Compassion”: https://self-compassion.org/the-motivational-power-of-self-compassion/
Thu, January 20, 2022
#100: 100 Ways to Love Yourself (Habits for Self-Love)
We are celebrating our 2-year anniversary and 100th podcast episode today!! In this solo episode, Mary shares 100 tips for self-love, a list of things big and small that you can do to really take care of yourself and love up on yourself! The list touches on all 5 love language: physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, and acts of service. What’s your self-love language? If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... 2-weeks free therapy on BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/mcot Mary’s self-love playlist on Spotify: https://maryscupoftea.clickfunnels.com/self-love-playlist
Thu, January 13, 2022
#99: 10 Purchases Under $10 That Have Made My Life Better
This is probably the most influencer-ish episode Mary’s ever released! She shares 10 items that were inexpensive, but made a huge difference in her health, happiness, and overall well-being. Visit the show notes for all the links! Here’s a sneak peek of what she shares: a movie that’s changed her perspective on consciousness a book that Mary’s read 5 times (and assigns at her retreats) a lightbulb that Boyfriend got for the bedroom ;) more! Remember: small investments can make a big difference! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Tongue scraper: https://amzn.to/3r2B0uJ Arrival movie: https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/arrival_2016 Plant watering can: https://amzn.to/3FaTOwG Hydro flask cup holder: https://amzn.to/3r2Bjpn My bonnet Bio Oil Gel Cream: https://amzn.to/3zAeJbk The Four Agreements: https://amzn.to/3zAeJbk My ear plugs (not fully sound proof): https://amzn.to/33dg9MO Ear plugs recommended to me: https://amzn.to/33fg3UN Silk sleep mask: https://amzn.to/3q6mAKP Gel pens: https://amzn.to/3t48MlT Fire place lightbulb: https://amzn.to/3GcA5xZ
Thu, January 06, 2022
#98: Predictions for 2022, Courageous Living, and Spiritual Success with Rha Goddess
In this episode, Mary speaks to Rha Goddess about standing in your values and being in alignment with your soul’s calling. Her name says it all: this woman is a GODDESS. From the way she speaks to the wisdom she so generously gives, Rha will change the way you think about yourself and relate to the world around you. You will learn... a practice for reflecting on 2021 and stepping into the new year with more intention Rha’s message and predictions for what 2022 has in store for us what things distract us from living in alignment with our soul’s calling how to make mental peace with capitalism, money, and success Remember: the Universe is constantly winking at you. Are you paying attention? 😉 Rha Goddess is the entrepreneurial soul coach behind hundreds of breakthrough changemakers, cultural visionaries and social entrepreneurs. From multiple NY Times Bestsellers to multi-million dollar social enterprises, Rha’s unique methodology has empowered a new generation of conscious entrepreneurs to stay true, get paid, and do good. From the onset of her more than 30-year career as a cultural innovator, social impact strategist and creative change agent, Rha has drawn on the power of creativity, culture and community to move hearts, minds and policy. Rha’s book, The Calling (St. Martin’s Press) leverages her unique methodology into a step by step blueprint for finding your purpose and making your most profitable contribution. Follow Rha on Instagram: @rhagoddess Get Rha’s book, The Calling: https://courses.movethecrowd.me/the-calling And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @rhagoddess
Thu, December 30, 2021
#97: Setting New Years Intentions
In this episode, Mary will share with you a journaling exercise that is great for setting New Years intentions! This is actually a repost from last year because it’s a practice that is good to revisit so we hope you enjoy it going into 2022! You will learn... how to find your Word of the Year a visualization/ meditation exercise to help you feel more aligned to your purpose how to create a new belief system for yourself going into the new year If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary’s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, December 23, 2021
#96: How To Connect Deeper with Your Sibling(s)
In this solo episode, Mary shares her advice for connecting with others, specifically your younger siblings. If you‘re getting together for the holidays or simply craving a little deeper connection with those around you, listen to this episode to learn... 3 tips for connecting more deeply with others what Mary‘s therapist said that helped her create a healthier relationship with her little sister how vulnerability, in the simplest of ways, will inevitably foster connection. Remember: vulnerability breeds connection. If you want someone to open up to you, you have to open your heart to them, too. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Brene Brown‘s book, The Gifts of Imperfection: https://amzn.to/3EZjInP
Thu, December 16, 2021
#95: My Cultural Identity (Being Russian & Jewish)
In this personal episode, Mary talks about where her ancestors are from and how her cultural identity continues to evolve over time. She also touches on what being Jewish means to her and why she identifies more as Russian than Jewish (even though both are a big part of her). Although this episode has little to do with body-image or self-love, hopefully, this episode inspires you to embrace your life story too. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, December 09, 2021
#94: Being REAL on Social Media with Victoria Garrick
Mary is so excited for this podcast episode with Victoria Garrick, former Division I Volleyball Player, TED Talk Speaker, Social Media Influencer, and Mental Health Advocate. Victoria shares all the behind the scenes of building her social media empire, including the mental health side of it. Since delivering her TED Talk in 2017, Victoria has become a leader in the mental health and body-image advocacy space. After graduating from the University of Southern California in 2019, Victoria has traveled the country speaking on college campuses, hosts her hit podcast Real Pod, and creates daily content for her army of over 1.5M+ people who follow her message of authenticity and self-care on social media. In this episode, you will learn... how to recognize signs of burn out and know when you need to take a break tips and strategies for creating content and building an authentic social media following what is means to be REAL, both on and offline Remember: When you express yourself authentically, you will feel more connected to yourself and those around you. Whether you‘re work is on social media or not, being real will always pay off in the long-run. Follow @victoriagarrick on Instagram and listen to her podcast, The Real Pod ! And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @victoriagarrick
Thu, November 25, 2021
#93: How to Give Better Compliments
Giving compliments is the easiest way to make someone‘s day and connect. But I‘ve noticed that the types of compliments we give are often not conducive to women‘s empowerment. In this episode, you will learn... the 5 steps to giving empowering compliments why body-related comments are not okay the difference between compliments and ACKNOWLEDGMENTS As Lindsay and Lexie Kite from @beauty_redefined said in their book, ”If you give looks-based comments the power to build people up, you reinforce their power to tear people down. Continuing to focus on someone‘s looks, even in positive ways, uses the same framework and logic that makes apperance-based insults so lethal.” If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... More Than a Body by Lindsay and Lexie Kite: https://amzn.to/3n7roxT
Thu, November 18, 2021
#92: Dealing with Holiday Meals
In this solo episode, Mary talks about how to deal with food/ body-image fears that may come up during holiday meals. If you’re nervous about Thanksgiving dinner with your family, this episode is for you!! You will learn… self-talk for getting yourself through holiday meals what to say to your aunt/ grandma/ whoever if they comment on your eating tips for intuitive eating and making peace with food This is one of Mary’s FAVORITE solo episodes so it’s definitely worth a listen! And feel free to save it or send it to a friend who might need to hear it too! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Mary‘s Cup of Tea Episode #30: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/30-tips-for-bad-body-image-days/id1495128359?i=1000489270133 Mary‘s Cup of Tea Episode #35: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/35-how-to-set-boundaries-with-diet-culture/id1495128359?i=1000493293855 Mary‘s Cup of Tea Episode #46: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/46-dealing-with-holiday-weight-gain/id1495128359?i=1000503362374 Jessi Jean‘s Food Freedom Online Program: https://www.foodfreedomonlineprogram.com/ffm
Thu, November 11, 2021
#91: Becoming a Writer with Aija Mayrock
In this heartfelt conversation, Mary interviews Aija Mayrock, a writer and spoken word poet whose work will send chills down your spine and tears down your cheeks (the good kind!). Aija shares with us... how she published her first book at 19 years old tips for becoming a writer or pursuing your creative passion what the writing process can look like and where to draw inspiration from Plus, Aija opens up about her experience with bullying and tools that have helped her heal. Aija Mayrock is a bestselling author, poet, and performer. She started writing her first book “The Survival Guide to Bullying” when she was 16 years old, after having been bullied for many years. She self published her book before it was acquired by Scholastic and published around the world. Aija has spoken to over four million people nationwide on bullying and mental health. Aija also joined the ABC and Disney Channel “Choose Kindness” campaign alongside of Hailee Steinfeld and Alessia Cara. Recently, Aija released a poetry book called Dear Girl which is about the journey from girlhood to womanhood as well as a love letter to the sisterhood. You can read a sample and get your own copy of Dear Girl here: https://www.aijamayrock.com/deargirl Follow Aija on Instagram: @aijamayrock And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @aijamayrock
Thu, November 04, 2021
#90: To My Perfectionists
This short solo episode is a message to my fellow perfectionists. If you‘ve ever felt like perfectionism is holding you back, listen to this to break free from that. You will learn a language trick that will help reframe your mindset about being ”perfect” so that you can finally let go of all those toxic pressures and expectations. Remember: perfect doesn‘t exist, so don‘t strive to be perfect. Instead, allow others to be INSPIRED by the way you embrace your imperfections. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, October 28, 2021
#89: Intentional Productivity with Jules Acree
Today Mary chats with Jules Acree (@julesacree) about intentional productivity, slow living, and decluttering your digital and physical space. You will learn about... the BEST (free) tool for organizing your life mindful and intentional productivity why clutter is associated with anxiety and ways to de-clutter your space Our guest, Jules Acree (@julesacree) is a writer, YouTuber, and entrepreneur based in Austin, TX. Through the lens of mindfulness, self-care, and intentional productivity, Jules creates content that helps people slow down, simplify, and create more space in this digital age. She is the founder of the low-waste concept shop The Homebodies (@thehomebodiesco) and is a certified yoga + mindfulness teacher. Jules’ work has been featured in Southern Living Magazine, Well + Good, Shape Magazine, Thrive Global, and was named Wanderlust‘s ‘35 Under 35 in Wellness’. Outside of this corner of the Internet, Jules is a matcha drinkin‘, outfit repeatin‘, professional homebody doing life alongside her husband + two rescue pups. Learn more about Jules‘s course, Simplify & Thrive, here: https://www.omandthecityblog.com/simplifyandthrive And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @julesacree YouTube Videos Mentioned In This Episode... How to Organize Your Life Using Notion: https://youtu.be/G8Q1g4skPoU How to Organize and Discuss Finances w/ Your Partner: https://youtu.be/R2_1smcssvI
Thu, October 21, 2021
#88: Asking for Support
A lot of people (wrongly) believe that asking for help means that you‘ve somehow failed... Like if you can‘t do everything on your own then you‘re somehow not good enough. But the truth is, you don‘t have to do everything yourself. It is strong and brave and worthwhile to ask people to support you. In this episode, will Mary talks about... how asking for help creates opportunities for both you and others why asking for help strengthens relationships mindset shifts to make that will help you feel more empowered Remember: A strong independent woman is not someone who never asks for help. Strong people are those who are brave enough to know that just because they can do it themselves doesn‘t mean they should. If you enjoyed this episode, please send it to a friend! And we would greatly appreciate it if you could take 60 seconds to review the show on Apple Podcasts. My way of asking you for help. :-) And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, October 14, 2021
#87: Habits That Have Made Me a Better Person
In this solo episode Mary shares 6 habits that are good for mental health and personal development AKA habits that might make you a better person! Remember: take what you need and leave what you don‘t! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, October 07, 2021
#86: Using Human Design for More Self-Love with Erin Claire Jones
Mary is joined by Human Design expert Erin Claire Jones to talk about how we can use this powerful spiritual tool to cultivate more self-love. Human Design is a synthesis of ancient wisdom and modern science that sheds light on a person’s energetic makeup, as well as specific tools they can use to live at their happiest, healthiest, highest potential. It offers insight into what’s possible, and highlights the significance of understanding and living as the fullest expression of themselves. In this episode, you will learn... what Human Design is and how it can be used to embrace your uniqueness the 5 different Human Design types (and how to find out which one you are!) how Human Design can be applied to anything including relationships, work, and mental health Erin Claire Jones uses Human Design to help thousands of individuals step into their truest selves and to their highest potential. Her work as a guide, coach, and speaker has attracted a growing community of over 120,000 people who turn to her teachings for practical tools, digestible tips, and deeper self-knowledge they can access to live with greater ease and authenticity every single day. Remember: Human Design is a tool that can give you greater insights into your highest potential. If something doesn‘t resonate with you, that‘s okay! Take what you need and let go of the rest. ＜3 Follow Erin on Instagram: @erinclairejones Learn more about Erin here: erinclairejones.com Look up your Human Design: erinclairejones.com/lookup And here‘s the link to get your Human Design Blueprint, a personalized guide to your unique design: erinclairejones.com/blueprint (Code MARY will get you 10% off your Blueprint or a spot in Erin‘s next Flow workshop :) And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @erinclairejones
Thu, September 30, 2021
#85: Thoughts vs. Feelings vs. Emotions
Today Mary is talking about the difference between thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Once you know the distinctions, it becomes easier to manage your mind because you know exactly what you‘re thinking, feeling, or experiencing. You will learn how to... redirect your thoughts using positive self-talk interrupt negative thought spirals and stop feeling like shit all the time address emotions that stemmed from childhood in a self-compassionate way P.S. If you are ready to talk to a licensed counselor or therapist, check out BetterHelp, an online therapy platform I‘ve been using for years. I have an affiliate link that will get you a 2-week free trial: BetterHelp.com/mcot If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, September 23, 2021
#84: Entrepreneurship & Mental Health with Nadya Okamoto
In this episode, Mary chats with Nadya Okamoto, co-Founder of August, a lifestyle period brand working to reimagine periods to be powerful. They chat about period poverty, mental health, relationships and what it‘s like living as a social media influencer and entrepreneur. You will learn... How does period poverty affect people who have their periods What is Nadya and her company, August, are doing to help create change around period poverty Managing mental health as an entrepreneur Follow Nadya on Instagram: @nadyaokamoto And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @nadyaokamoto
Thu, September 16, 2021
#83: 5 Mantras to Get You Through Hard Times
In this episode, Mary shares with you 5 mantras that have helped to support her through hard times. She also shares some tips to apply these mantras into your own life! You will learn... What are mantras? And where do they come from How to work with your mindset to reframe your circumstances How to manage your energy through choice Remember: Everything is happening for you, not to you. I‘m curious, which one of these affirmations resonated with you the most? Or do you have your own mantra that you love? Let me know by tagging @maryspodcast in your IG stories! And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... David and Goliath by Malcolm Gladwell: https://amzn.to/3n3luya
Thu, September 09, 2021
#82: Managing PCOS without Dieting with Kirsten Mellott, RD
Today we are joined by Kirsten Mellott, a registered dietitian who specializes in Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and eating disorders. She herself has overcome Binge Eating Disorder and has learned to manage PCOS through intuitive eating and gentle nutrition. You will learn... what PCOS is (the signs and symptoms to look for) how to manage PCOS without dieting tips for advocating for yourself at the doctor‘s office Follow Kirsten on Instagram: @pcos.positivity Work with Kirsten: https://www.pcospositivity.com And if you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @pcos.positivity
Thu, September 02, 2021
#81: How to Follow Your Heart
At our previous retreat, there was 1 retreat sister who couldn‘t figure out what she wanted when it came to her relationship. Without sharing details, she was at a crossroad in her life. Usually in this situation, everyone says ”follow your heart! do what makes you happy!” But nobody tells you exactly HOW to do that. Like what is the difference between a gut instinct and irrational fear? How do you know when you‘re listening to your own heart when you‘ve been listening to your parents, your partner, your friends for so long? How is it that some people are so in touch with their heart and soul and higher selves and others are so disconnected and struggle to make decisions, let alone be confident in them? You will learn... Exactly what‘s getting in the way of you following your heart 3 questions to ask yourself when you‘re at a crossroad in life The # 1 thing you MUST do if you want to reconnect to yourself Remember: Following your heart is not equivalent to making perfect decisions all the time. It‘s about what opportunities and adventures and lessons can come from your heart-centered decisions. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide! Mentioned In This Episode... Episode #64: Struggling to Make Decisions? Listen to this. Episode #67: Advice for Finding Your Passion + Book Recommendations The Artist‘s Way by Julia Cameron: https://amzn.to/3DpHpoP
Thu, August 26, 2021
#80: Controversial Conversations with Kenzie Brenna
Okay, this episode is a MUST-LISTEN and we're not just saying that! Today's guest is Kenzie Brenna, fellow self-love advocate, mental health educator, speaker, and podcaster who is AMAZING at talking about taboo topics with the sensitivity and care they deserve. You will learn how to... deal with people who disagree with you embrace the paradoxes in life be okay with not knowing everything approach political topics with the nuance, knowledge, and due dilligence they deserve (instead of believing every infographic you see on Instagram) Kenzie also shares controversial perspectives about things like... trigger warnings (and why they're not always helpful) liberal and left-leaning politics the body positivity community Warning: you may disagree with a lot of what we say and that's okay! We are all here to listen to each other, invite in different perspectives, and see what we can learn along the way. Thank you for being open to unpopular opinions and uncomfortable (yet important!) conversations. 🙏 Follow Kenzie on social media: @kenziebrenna Listen to her podcast: [Conversations with Kenzie](
Thu, August 19, 2021
#79: Dealing with Overwhelm via Self-Talk
If you Google this topic, you'll find plenty of articles telling you how to check more things off your to-do list or organizing your planner for more productivity, and all types of advice which sure, could be helpful. BUT, they don't address the mindset behind overwhelm and the fact that your long to-do list is not necessarily the source of your overwhelm. Overwhelm is a MINDSET. And if you're stuck in that mindset for too long, then it can be detrimental to your mental health and well-being. In this episode, Mary shares self-talk tools for getting through overwhelm. These are things you can say to yourself when you catch yourself getting overwhelmed. You will learn... What a mindset of overwhelm is The difference between thoughts and feelings (and how to use your thoughts to manage your feelings) Ways to deal with overwhelm from a mindset perspective Remember: a long to-do list can trigger a mindset of overwhelm, but ultimately, you have the power to get out of that mindset by practicing better self-talk. Let us know how you liked this episode by screenshotting and tagging @maryspodcast in your IG stories! If it was helpful to you, maybe it'll be helpful to someone else too! Thank you in advance for listening, sharing, and supporting the show! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, August 12, 2021
#78: Self-Love Retreats: An Inside Look from Our Retreat Sister, Liana
I have a little bit of a different episode for you this week because what you’re about to hear is a conversation with one of my retreat sisters, Liana, who recently attended my Costa Rica Self-Love Retreat. I thought it would be cool to give you an inside look into what self-love retreats are actually like coming from someone who’s experienced one recently. Even if you’re not thinking about joining a self-love retreat, I still invite you to listen to this episode because Liana and I talk about sexuality, trusting yourself, dealing with toxic family members, connecting with like-minded women, vulnerably sharing your heart, and so much more. Liana herself is incredibly inspiring because she embodies what it means to be so full of self-love and letting that love overflow to others. Whether you want to come to a retreat or not, Liana will help you see what is truly possible for you. You can connect with Liana by following her on Instagram or TikTok @lovewithliana and inquire to work with her through her website lovewithliana.com . As an Adult Chair® Certified Coach, Liana will guide you through your own self-love practice so that you build healthy relationships and become more present in your life. And if a self-love retreat sounds interesting to you, our next one will also be in Costa Rica over New Years! At the time of this recording, the New Years Self-Love Retreat is 50% full so if you’re interested, go to maryscupoftea.com/retreats, check out all the information, and if it’s calling you, feel free to fill out an application.
Thu, August 05, 2021
#77: Therapy Update + Thoughts on Marriage
In this personal episode, Mary shares some things she's learned in therapy and how it's helped her overcome childhood traumas. Part of why she started therapy in the first place was to conquer her fear of commitment, especially when it comes to marriage. Mary talks about... why marriage used to terrify her how her therapist helped her overcome those fears other lessons learned in therapy including self-talk, self-trust, and self-empowerment If you want an accessible and affordable way to see a therapist, check out BetterHelp! Full disclosure: I'm an affiliate because I LOVE their platform and have had an incredible experience with my therapist. I wouldn't have been able to do therapy without BetterHelp (especially during the pandemic)! Here's a link to a 2-week free therapy trial: [betterhelp.com/mcot](
Thu, July 29, 2021
#76: Confidence Comes From Clarity
In this episode, Mary explains how confidence comes from CLARITY and how you can gain more clarity in your life. You will learn... A trick to help you stop comparing yourself to others 3 questions to ask yourself to gain more clarity (and therefore, more confidence) How to figure out what you really, really want in life Remember: you don't need certainty in your life; you need clarity. Clarity is the root of self-confidence. If you found this episode inspiring, make sure to take a screenshot and share it on your Instagram stories so we can see! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, July 22, 2021
#75: The Origins of Intuitive Eating with Elyse Resch
In this episode Mary interviews the co-author of the origina Intuitive Eating book!! She is so beyond honored to be able to speak with Elyse about how Intuitive Eating (IE), the concept and book, came to be starting in the early 1990s. This episode is for anyone who's (re)learning how to eat intuitively and wants deeper insight into the practice. You will learn about... How IE has evolved over the past 26 years and why it's gained popularity in recent years The 10 Principles of Intuitive Eating (and which one is the most challenging) The biggest criticisms of IE (and why they're plain WRONG) How to instill IE into teenagers using adolescent psychology Remember: your body has an innate wisdom that goes far beyond diet culture and beauty standards. Intuitive eating is about tapping into that wisdom, and learning to trust your body again. Elyse Resch, MS, RDN, CEDRD-S, Fiaedp, FADA, FAND, is a nutrition therapist in private practice in Beverly Hills, California, with thirty-nine years of experience, specializing in eating disorders, Intuitive Eating, and Health at Every Size. She is the co-author of Intuitive Eating, now in its 4th edition, the Intuitive Eating Workbook, and The Intuitive Eating Card Deck—50 Bite-Sized Ways to Make Peace with Food (upcoming, 2021). Elyse is also the author of The Intuitive Eating Workbook for Teens and The Intuitive Eating Journal—Your Guided Journey for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food (upcoming, 2021), and a chapter contributor to The Handbook of Positive Body Image and Embodiment. She has published journal articles, print articles, and blog posts. Elyse does regular speaking engagements, podcasts, and extensive media interviews. Her work has been profiled on NPR, CNN, KABC, NBC, KTTV, Los Angeles Times, AP Press, KFI Radio, The New York Times, USA Today, and the Huffington Post, among others. Elyse is nationally known for her work in helping patients break free from diet culture through the Intuitive Eating process. She supervises and trains health professionals, is a Certified Eating Disorder Registered Dietitian and Supervisor, a Fellow of the International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals, and a Fellow of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. Her philosophy embraces the goal of developing body liberation, with the belief that all bodies deserve dignity, and reconnecting with one’s internal wisdom about eating. Mentioned in This Episode... Intuitive Eating by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Intuitive-Eating-Workbook-Teens-Relationship/dp/1684031443/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3J3L4OKVQ3P97&dchild=1&keywords=intuitive+eating+workbook+for+teen
Thu, July 15, 2021
#74: Afraid of Gaining Weight? Listen to this.
In this solo episode Mary addresses 3 common fears (or myths) surrounding weight gain inlcuding: "Gaining weight is unhealthy, and losing weight will make you healthier." "If I gain weight, then I won't be attractive (and no one will like me and I'll die alone)." "Gaining weight means you've 'given up on yourself,' 'let yourself go,' or 'gotten lazy.'" These are not true and in this episode, Mary explains why. Note: in this episode, Mary reads to you directly from her book, The Gift of Self-Love. If you want more tools for body-image healing and confidence building, you can get this self-love workbook on her website or anywhere books are sold.
Thu, July 08, 2021
#73: Healing from Toxic Relationships, Embracing Sobriety, and Growing Up Asian-American with Kelly U
In this interview Mary is joined by her friend Kelly Uchima (@kellyu) to have a deep conversation about recovering from anorexia, addiction, binge eating, codependency, and toxic relationships. Kelly is also Asian American, so she shares the nuances of growing up with body-image struggles while being a person of color. You will learn... the warning signs and red flags of toxic relationships (we're talking like, narcisstic abuse) why you can get addicted to pretty much anything (and how to break free) what perfectionism, eating disorders, addiction, and toxic relationships all have in common... This is a rich, raw, and real conversation filled with true vulnerability and authentic storytelling. Please make sure to let us know how you like it by tagging @maryspodcast and @kellyu in your IG stories! Kelly U (@kellyu) is incredibly passionate about breaking the stigma on mental health. She created and coined the Instagram and Youtube series, Therapy Thursday, to share just how beautiful and meaningful connecting with the most raw, vulnerable parts of yourself can be. Kelly aspires to inspire those who struggle with their relationship with their bodies, food, trauma and recovery. She has overcome eating disorders, anxiety and depression and is grateful to share her journey and help others to help themselves. Follow Kelly on the Gram: https://www.instagram.com/ kellyu/ https://www.instagram.com/therapythursday / Listen to Kelly's new podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/68zImlmerxtNeVN0XUHoeE
Thu, July 01, 2021
#72: Stop Trying to Lose Weight (A Pep Talk)
In this solo episode, I talk about the impacts of trying to lose weight and how dieting affects our bodies. You will learn... What is the "rebound effect" that happens when you diet The impact of our intention to lose weight How your body responds to restriction Remember: :No matter what, no matter how I feel today, I will not starve myself." Get my new book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s now available in stores and online, worldwide! Lastly, if you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!
Thu, June 24, 2021
#71: 6 Signs of Self-Confidence
Confidence is about owning who you are, whether you like how you look or not. Being pretty is not a prerequisite for confidence. Being accomplished is not a prerequisite for confidence. Being perfect is not a prerequisite for confidence. Confidence is a mindset. In this episode Mary explains what a mindset of self-confidence is and 6 traits that can build, strengthen, and display confidence. Here's a sneak peek into the 6 signs of self-confidence: You do not let your _____ ruin your _____ experience. You approach any struggle with ______. You ______ yourself and others. Other people's success ______ you. You don't take things _______. You use your ______. Can you fill in these blanks?? Let us know!! And make sure to get a copy of The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, June 17, 2021
#70: Interviewing My Sister!
This is an episode that's been a long time coming! Mary interviews her 13-year-old sister Ilana! In this heartfelt conversation, Mary and Ilana talk about... Ilana's top 3 styling tips how they maintain such a close relationship despite their 10-year age gap how adults can support middle schoolers' mental health their thoughts on Gen Zers ... and so much more! If you are a sibling, auntie, parent, or gaurdian, we hope this conversation warms your heart and helps you remember what it was like to be 13! And feel free to take a screenshot of the episode and tag @maryspodcast in your IG stories! Mentioned in This Episode... Mary's TEDx Talk: https://youtu.bhttps://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybge/DoDzwM0gybg Katie Chock's TEDx Talk on Battling the Toxic Male Nerd Culture: https://www.ted.com/talks/katie_chock_battling_the_toxic_male_nerd_culture Ilana's favorite anime: Jibaku Shounen Hanako-kun
Thu, June 10, 2021
#69: Is Diet Culture a Cult? with Amanda Montell
I couldn't wait to release this episode with Amanda Montell, a feminist sociolinguist, author of 2 books, and all-out empowering human! This educational episode explores the dynamics between feminism, cults, and the language we use. You will learn... the major warning signs of a cult (and why it's so easy to fall into one) how modern-day language oppresses women and marginalized people why sociolinguistics is important to feminism (and why you should care too!) Amanda Montell is a writer, linguist, former beauty editor, and author of two books: Wordslut: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language (Harper Wave, 2019), which she is currently developing for television with FX, and Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism (forthcoming June 15, 2021). Amanda's other writing has appeared in Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Nylon, and The Rumpus, among others, and she currently resides in Los Angeles. Get Worldslut here: https://amzn.to/3cIziZg Get Amanda's new book, Cultish, here: https://amzn.to/3cIy0O3 And take a screenshot of this podcast episode to share on your IG stories! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @amanda_montell so that we can see that you're enjoying this conversation!
Thu, June 03, 2021
#68: Overcome Negative Thoughts with This 2-Minute Meditation
In this 10-minute episode, Mary shares a mini meditation that will help you break any negative thought patterns. This evidence-based technique is especially helpful when it comes to bad body-image thoughts because it incorporates mindfulness, breathing and self-compassion. Try this 2-minute meditation and let us know how it worked for you by tagging @maryspodcast in your IG stories! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s available in stores and online, worldwide!
Thu, May 27, 2021
#67: Advice for Finding Your Passion + Book Recommendations
Lately there's been a lot of pressure on young people to find their "passion" which can be overwhelming, daunting, and discouraging to us. In this episode, Mary shares her unconventional advice for finding your passion by actually NOT focusing on passion... You will learn: what to focus on instead of "passion" (hint: it's not what you think) 5 tips for tapping into your creativity a journal exercise that will help you discover your interests book recommendations for self-discovery (these are books that changed Mary's life) Remember: clarity comes from ACTION. Don’t spend all your time sitting and thinking about what you’re passionate about. Instead, start taking action on the things that set your soul on fire. Books Recommended: The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl The Alchemist by Paulo Coehlo Make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s now available in stores and online, worldwide! Once you have the book, we'd love to hear your thoughts in the form of a review on Amazon (or wherever you ordered from). Make sure to screenshot your review and fill out this form so that Mary can send you a sticker in the mail!
Thu, May 20, 2021
#66: Dealing with Uncertainty, Fear, and Doubt
Uncertainty, fear, and doubt can show up in every area of our lives... our jobs/ businesses, weight fluctuations, body changes, relationships... literally everywhere. In this episode, Mary gives her in-depth advice for managing the fear of uncertainty and learning to embrace it as a part of life. You will learn... mindset tools for calming stress and anxiety ways to see uncertainty as your friend and actually learn to embrace it how to tell the difference between important intuition and unwarranted worry Remember: uncertainty, doubt, and anxiety are there to protect you. We don't need to get rid of these emotions, we just need to learn to dance with them. Get Mary's new book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book . It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s available in stores and online, worldwide! Once you have the book, we'd love to hear your thoughts in the form of a review on Amazon (or wherever you ordered from). Make sure to screenshot your review and fill out this form so that Mary can send you a sticker in the mail!
Thu, May 13, 2021
#65: Orthorexia: When Healthy Eating is Not Healthy with Victoria Myers, RD
In this episode we talk to Victoria Myers (@victoriamyers) about ORTHOREXIA, the unhealthy obsession with healthy eating. You will learn... what orthorexia is and why it's arguably the most common eating disorder a simple tip for making sure your healthy habits aren't becoming disordered how to approach health challenges using gentle nutrition ways to practice wellness without obsession with kids Victoria Myers is the dietitian and owner of the virtual private practice and online education center Nourishing Minds Nutrition. Victoria and her staff specialize in empowering women to ditch diets, regulate hormones, heal digestion and learn to practice wellness without obsession. She is also the host of the popular intuitive eating and wellness podcast, the Nourishing Women Podcast. Her mission for her community is to help women let go of the unhealthy obsession with eating healthy, make peace with their body and live their lives to the fullest. Find Victoria and her practice online: Nourishing Minds Nutrition Nourishing Women Podcast Victoria Myers Instagram [Nourishing Minds Nutrition Instagram](
Thu, May 06, 2021
#64: Do You Struggle to Make Decisions? Listen to this.
In this solo episode, I talk about making decisions from a more empowered place of self worth. You will learn... 8 steps for overcoming decision making fatigue How to set an intention to make quicker decisions (vs. faster) How to make quicker AND better decisions while learning to forgive yourself for the "bad" ones and learn from them How to put decision making into perspective Remember: "More options, more choices, doesn't necessarily make us happier..." Get my new book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book . It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s now available in stores and online, worldwide! To leave a review and receive a personalized signed sticker for my book, The Gift of Self-Love, go to this form: https://form.typeform.com/to/zDO3QcXs This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books . Lastly, if you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!
Thu, April 29, 2021
#63: Should You Be Doing Therapy, Coaching or Self-Healing?
In this solo episode, I talk about my personal experiences with therapy, coaching and self-healing and discuss which path or paths might be right for you! All 3 are amazing. Whatever you have the resources and willingness to do, is what’s right for you. Many people, myself included, employ a combination of all 3 depending on the time of their life and what they feel they need. You will learn… What therapy is all about and how it can help you When to decide whether coaching is the right path for you When is self-healing a useful tool in your personal journey Remember: All 3 resources are amazing. You have to decide what's right for you now in your own journey. Links/ Resources Mentioned: To find a therapist for you, go to: better help.com/mcot Get my new book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book . It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s now available in stores and online, worldwide! This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books . Lastly, if you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!
Thu, April 22, 2021
#62: How to Support Someone with an Eating Disorder: Warning Signs, What To Say, and How to Help
Something I get asked all the time is "How do I support a loved one who's showing signs of an eating disorder?" In this episode, I answer that question by talking about the major warning signs of an eating disorder and how to address them. If you're a parent, caregiver, teacher, or someone who is close to someone who's exhibiting these signs, please talk to them and encourage them to reach out for help. You will learn... The major warning signs, symptoms, and personality traits of someone with an eating disorder How to talk to them about it What you can do to help (and what you should NOT do) Remember: supporting your loved ones is important, but you can’t help anyone who doesn’t want to be helped nor is it your job to “fix” anyone. Make sure you are setting an example by taking care of yourself, too. Links/ Resources Mentioned: NEDA Hotline: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline Warning signs of an ED article: https://centerforchange.com/think-your-friend-may-have-an-eating-disorder-heres-what-you-can-do/ 2-weeks free therapy on BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/mcot Get Mary’s new book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/book. This is a workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s now available in stores and online, worldwide! Lastly, if you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!
Thu, April 15, 2021
#61: Stop Trying to Be Happy (and Do This Instead)
In this solo episode I talk about why “being happy” is not that great of a goal. Chasing happiness might leave you feeling empty because happiness is a fleeting feeling. Instead, I invite you to let go of the expectation that you must be happy all the time, and instead, focus on creating MEANING in your life. You will learn... How hedonic adaptation gets in the way of our happiness, no matter how much we achieve or accomplish in life Why searching for happiness is NOT good for body-image Tips for creating more meaning in your everyday life Remember: Happiness is fleeting. Meaning is fulfilling. Ditch the happiness treadmill and start creating more meaning in your everyday life. Links/ Resources Mentioned: Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: https://amzn.to/3gdszZN The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson: https://amzn.to/3uH7fzO Get Mary’s new book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/book. This is a workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. It’s now available in stores and online, worldwide! And if you’re looking for more book recommendations, check out some of my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are self-help books every woman MUST read, and you can check them out at https://maryscupoftea.com/books/ Lastly, if you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!
Thu, April 08, 2021
#60: Diet Culture in Your Romantic Relationships
In this solo episode, Mary shares with you her tips on how to navigate diet culture within your romantic relationships. You will learn valuable communication tools to express to your partner how to be less "diety." Mary also shares how her boyfriend has learned to have a better relationship with body image and how to do a "safety check" before embarking on a serious conversation about body image in your own relationships! Pre-order The Gift of Self-Love by Mary Jelkovsky here: maryscupoftea.com/book If you enjoy the Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast, could you please leave a review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It helps support the show so much!
Thu, March 25, 2021
#59: My Best Friend Interviews Me! On Book Writing, Marriage, Adult Friendships, and Boob Sweat?!
The tables have turned and this time, Mary is the one being interviewed by her best friend, Dahli Durley (@hellodahlibaby). Mary and Dahli met back in 2018 and have been really close friends ever since (although much of their friendship has been long distance!). In this insightful and entertaining conversation, Mary and Dahli talk about... What it's really like to write and publish a book How to make friends as an adult Navigating dating, ghosting, marriage, and divorce Boob sweat, foot fetishes, skittles and more! If you haven't already, make sure to order Mary's new book, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/book. Also available everywhere books are sold! And if you enjoy the Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast, could you please leave a review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than 60 seconds and helps support the show so much!
Thu, March 18, 2021
#58: Reminders for Recovery with Imogen Barnes
In this episode, Mary is joined by Imogen Barnes, an Eating Disorder Recovery Advocate. Imogen shares an honest recount of her journey with her own eating disorder and what has helped her in the recovery process. In this episode, you will learn: How living with an eating disorder creates anxiety around food and other areas of your life. Imogen's journey with OCD and how it contributed to her eating disorder. Tips to help with recovery. Things Mentioned: Imogen's IG post: What if I miss my eating disorder? Follow Imogen on Instagram: @im_powering If you enjoy the Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast, could you please leave a review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It helps support the show so much!
Thu, March 11, 2021
#57: Why Affirmations Don't Work (and What To Do Instead)
Have you ever Googled "self-love affirmations" hoping that they'll help you with self-love, but almost feeling like they... didn't work? Affirmations sounds nice as an Instagram caption or on a Pinterest quote, but they can often leave us feeling like we're soooo far away from our goal. In this episode, Mary explains the psychology behind why affirmations don't work and what you can do instead that will really help you in your self-love journey. Note: if affirmations work for you, then that's great! Do what's best for you. But try this other practice too and see how you feel. :) Episodes Mentioned: Episode #36 with Kara Loewentheil Pre-order The Gift of Self-Love by Mary Jelkovsky here: maryscupoftea.com/book If you enjoy the Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast, could you please leave a review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It helps support the show so much!
Thu, March 04, 2021
#56: Financial Literacy for Womxn with Dasha Kennedy AKA The Broke Black Girl
In this episode we talk to Dasha Kennedy (@thebrokeblackgirl) about how our financial well-being impacts our lives as womxn. In this empowering yet practical episode, you will learn... how the gender gap hurts women (basically, we are paid less for doing more!!) ways to think about your finances in an empowering way (no money shame here!) how to remain financially alert in your relationship (and why you should be!) what to plan for when it comes to marriage Dasha Kennedy, better known as The Broke Black Girl, is a millennial financial coach whose no-B.S coaching strategies are helping women of color get ahead. After a tough life event, Dasha realized how financially unprepared she was, so she began sharing her journey towards financial success on Facebook. The Broke Black Girl (BBG) Facebook group focuses on the financial struggles facing young women of color who have often been overlooked in the traditional conversations around personal finance. Within a year the BBG group has skyrocketed to over 70,000 women. Dasha has more than a decade of experience working as an accountant and default counselor. She is leading women through discussions around different aspects of financial wellbeing. Remember: "The ultimate display of love is securing the person you love financially." ~ Dasha Kennedy on Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast Follow Dasha on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebrokeblackgirl Get Dasha's Budget Bestie Bundle for only $18 [https://tbbgdigital.com/pages/budget-bestie-bundle-1 ](
Thu, February 25, 2021
#55: 10 Things My Eating Disorder Taught Me
In this solo episode Mary shares life lessons she learned from her eating disorder recovery journey. Although Mary's life lessons are a byproduct of recovery, you'll love this episode even if you don't relate to having an eating disorder. You will learn... Mary's mantra for getting through difficult times Why "being happy" is not a good goal (and what to strive for instead) How to stop beating yourself up and practice self-compassion Things Mentioned: Episode #2: How To Fall in Love with Yourself Episode # 52: The F*ck It Diet with Caroline Dooner PRE-ORDER MARY'S BOOK, The Gift of Self-Love: maryscuptea.com/book If you enjoy the Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast, could you please leave a review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It helps support the show so much!
Thu, February 18, 2021
#54: 5 Questions to Ask Yourself for More Self-Love
In this episode, Mary shares 5 questions to ask yourself for more self-love. These are questions that you can either journal about or simply ponder in your head. They are proven to help you create more peace, joy, and (self) love in your life. Here's a little sneak peek of the 5 questions: Who would I be if didn't ? What is the ___ that could happen if I _? How can I create more _ in my life? (This one is arguably THE most important question to ask yourself!!) If this was __, what would it ___? What do I ____ right now? If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, could you leave a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow! Make sure to pre-order my new book The Gift of Self-Love and get FREE acess to my next online self-love retreat!! maryscupoftea.com/book FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary
Thu, February 11, 2021
#53: Money, Abundance, and Alignment with Melyssa Griffin
Today Mary is interviewing her business coach Melyssa Griffin! The past 6 months, Mary was in Melyssa’s business mastermind called the Aligned Abundance Mastermind which you can learn more about at alignedabundancemastermind.com. Melyssa Griffin is a former school teacher turned entrepreneur who believes that the best way to grow a thriving business is to heal the leader behind the scenes. She coaches entrepreneurs back to their inner truth so that they can create abundance without self-abandonment. Together, we’ll reprogram the limiting beliefs and patterns that are keeping you stuck so that you can create unapologetic success and abundance. In this episode you will learn… How Melyssa went from being a school teacher to being a 7-figure online business owner The mindset you need to adopt to make more money What alignment means and how it will help you in all areas of your life If you’re interested in joining Melyssa’s mastermind, you can learn more about it and apply here: alignedabundancemastermind.com. And you can connect with Melyssa on IG as @melyssa_griffin and learn more at melyssagriffin.com.
Thu, February 04, 2021
#52: The F*ck It Diet with Caroline Dooner
Eight years ago, Caroline Dooner started a blog called The Fuck It Diet. She was trying to heal her relationship with food, and she needed a place to share everything she was learning about the dark side of dieting. What she learned about food and weight changed my life, and now you can read the book The F ck It Diet. If you struggle with your relationship with food, the Fuck It Diet is for you. In this episode, Caroline and Mary talk about... - What the Fuck It Diet is and how it's different from intuitive eating - Why rest is highly underrated and incredibly necessary for our healing - The difference between food addiction and diet addiction - The difference between overeating, emotional eating, and binge eating (it's not what you think!!) - Why eating should be easy and how you can do it too Follow Caroline on Instagram: @thefuckitdiet Get Caroline's book: The F ck It Diet: Eating Should Be Easy Things mentioned: The Artist's Way by Julia CameronFat!So? by Marilyn Wann Lastly, if you haven't already, make sure to pre-order your copy of Mary's new book, The Gift of Self-Love: A Workbook to Help You Build Confidence, Recognize Your Worth, and Learn to Finally Love Yourself! By pre-ordering The Gift of Self-Love, you'll get FREE access to Mary's next online self-love retreat. Just go to maryscupoftea.com/book for more info + the links to pre-order the book!
Thu, January 28, 2021
#51: I Wrote a Book!!!
The secret is finally out!! I wrote a book!! It's called The Gift of Self-Love: A Workbook to Help You Build Confidence, Recognize Your Worth, and Learn to Finally Love Yourself (Blue Star Press, 2021). Build confidence, boost your self-esteem, and overcome body image issues using this inspiring and interactive self-help workbook for women. I've been working on it for over a year and I can't wait for you to finally hold it, read it, and write in it! Check it out and pre-order it by going to maryscupoftea.com/book Once you pre-order the book, send an email to book@maryscupoftea.com with a screenshot of your receipt and you will get FREE access to my next online self-love retreat! I hope you give yourself The Gift of Self-Love! I am forever grateful for your support and I can't wait to see you at our online retreat!
Thu, January 21, 2021
#50: How To Let Go of Control & Perfectionism
Perfectionism shows up in many areas of our lives, but especially when it comes to food and our bodies (i.e. trying to control what we eat and/or what we look like). In this solo episode Mary talks about ways to let go of control and perfectionism and embody surrender and flow instead. In this episode you will learn... Where perfectionism really comes from, how it operates, and why it leaves us feeling bad 4 practical ways to practice letting go of control Self-talk to practice when you feel perfectionism creeping in Remember: anything you can't control is teaching you how to let go. If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, could you leave a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow! This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books. FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary
Thu, January 14, 2021
#49: Eating Disorder Recovery with Jessica Flint
In this episode, Mary is joined by Jessica Flint who shares her personal journey with eating disorder recovery and how spirituality has helped her in the healing process. Mary and Jessica also chat about: Perfectionism The importance of finding support during recovery Resilience and courage Fear of gaining weight Learning to surrender/ trust the process The differences between fate and destiny Jessica Flint is the founder of Recovery Warriors and CEO of True Warrior. Both platforms exist to educate, inspire, and empower people to make transformational changes in their life. Forbes recognized her work as a technology innovating mental health and it's reached millions worldwide. She's a popular speaker and teacher in the areas of self-compassion, resilience, archetypes, and personal narratives. You can find Jessica on either of her websites recoverywarriors.com or schoolofrecovery.comOr check out her app Rise Up + Recover If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!
Thu, January 07, 2021
#48: How To Have a Healthy Relationship with Exercise
In this solo episode Mary talks about how to have a healthy relationship with exercise. You will learn how to use movement as a natural part of your life and redefine the way you see exercise. She also shares some tips that will help you:Find a way of moving your body that you enjoyAsk yourself, “Is this activity going to energize me?”Lower your threshold of what you consider a good workoutExpand your awareness of what a fit body really is If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow! This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books. FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM:@maryscupofteaa@maryspodcast@retreatsbymary COME TO A SELF LOVE RETREAT:maryscupoftea.com/self-love-retreats/
Thu, December 31, 2020
#47: A Journal Exercise for Self Love
In this solo episode Mary talks shares her approach to setting intentions for the New Year. Many of us find that we set resolutions only to find ourselves back to where we started by February. Mary uses journaling and digging deep within yourself to create gentler, long lasting habits that you can carry with you through the whole year. In this episode, you will learn… a journal activity to help you establish your “Word of the Year” how to visualize a time when you embodied your word the tools to help you shift your mindset how to create a belief system that supports your “Word of the Year” If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow! This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books. FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary COME TO A SELF LOVE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/self-love-retreats/
Thu, December 24, 2020
#46: Dealing with Holiday Weight Gain
In this solo episode, Mary shares how to reframe how you think, see, and feel about weight gain. Most of us gain some weight during the holidays, whether that's due to a decrease in activity levels or an increase in food- and that's all fine and dandy! But we shouldn't be so worried about our weight that it ruins our mood. In this episode, you will learn... - a journal activity that will help you reframe how you feel about weight gain - tips that will help you approach weight gain with self-compassion - how to improve your body-image with mindset exercises Let Mary know how you liked this episode by taking a screenshot and posting it on your Instagram stories! FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!
Thu, December 17, 2020
#45: Sierra Schultzzie on Body Confidence, Finding Balance, & Being an Influencer
In this episode Mary is joined by Sierra Schultzzie who asks the question where do you draw your value — your power, your confidence and your worth? Sierra and Mary dive deep into what it means to full embrace who you are and what it means to be authentic. In this episode, Sierra explains how to: Look at the influences in your life Understand how valuable you are in spite of how you look Understand the influence diet culture has on growing up See what a gift pregnancy is from the body Find balance with productivity and so much more! Sierra Schultzzie is a social media influencer creating fashion and lifestyle content across multiple digital platforms, with a focus on Youtube and Instagram. She has YouTube Channel with over 1.3 million followers called Sierra Schultzzie and she also has a vlog channel with her husband called “Sierra & Stephen IRL” all of which focus on body positivity, midsize and plus size fashion, try on hauls, brutally honest reviews, recreating celebrity photos, style swaps, relationships, and more! You can find Sierraon Instragram: @schultzzieand on Tik Tok: @schultzzie Things Mentioned: Sierra's video on Styling a Curvy Body: https://youtu.be/C1Rdl30fjOg Sierra Schultzzie, Carrie Dayton, & Skylar's video on body-image: https://youtu.be/6k9sEglV010 Tiffany Ferg's video on Hustle Culture, Workaholicism, and Toxic Productivity: https://youtu.be/UAwCJAU2tjk Body Positive Pregnant People to follow: @thebirdspapaya @gracefvictory How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy by Jenny Odell If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!
Thu, December 10, 2020
#44: Navigating Holiday Eating & Change in Routine
The holidays and a change in routine can often bring up various struggles like food guilt, stress eating, and binge eating. In this episode, Mary shares her advice for navigating holiday eating and letting go of food anxiety. You will learn... - how to prevent a binge especially during holiday parties - how to challenge diet culture when faced with negative thought patterns - how to embrace changes in routine and not let them stress you out Let Mary know how you liked this episode by taking a screenshot and posting it on your Instagram stories! FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM:@maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!
Thu, November 26, 2020
#43: Radical Belonging with Lindo Bacon
In this episode, Mary is joined by Dr. Lindo Bacon who discusses finding their true self to gain a better sense of belonging and creating a safe space for others to feel fully accepted as they are. Dr. Bacon also talks about what it means to challenge ideas around social identities. In this episode, you will learn about: How everything we’re taught in mainstream culture with regards to our bodies and image is predicated on a lie, not science. Owning our personal stories and finding out what makes us unique. How to open up to other people’s uniqueness. Cultivate radical belonging in our day to day lives. and so much more! Dr. Lindo Bacon’s mission is to create a more just world, where all bodies are valued, respected, and supported. Best known for their paradigm-shifting research and advocacy upending the weight discourse, Bacon’s inspiring message takes us beyond size, to shaping a culture of empathy, equity and true belonging. Dr. Bacon has mined their deep academic proficiency, wide-ranging clinical expertise and own personal experience to write two best-selling books, Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight, and the co-authored Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, or Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight. Both are credited with transforming the weight discourse and inspiring the course of the body positivity movement. Bacon’s next manifesto, Radical Belonging: How to Survive and Thrive in an Unjust World (while Transforming it For the Better), will be released by BenBella Books in November 10th, 2020, and Bacon is currently spreading this message through public speaking. You can find Dr. Lindo Bacon on Facebook or Twitter: LindoBaconX or on Instagram @Lindobacon. Or you can find Lindo on their website www.lindobacon.com. If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!
Thu, November 19, 2020
#42: Communicating with Confidence
In this solo episode, Mary shares her tips for communicating with CONFIDENCE. As a TEDx talk speaker and someone who's life revolves around communicating to spread a message, Mary has learned a lot about speaking in a way that inspires people. In this episode you will learn... which words to STOP using in order to come across more self-assured mindset tips for feeling more calm, connected, and confident while speaking the secret to looking and feeling more confident while speaking, whether it's to a friend, to your partner, or in a public setting Let Mary know how you liked this episode by taking a screenshot and posting it on your Instagram stories! WATCH MARY'S TEDX TALK: https://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybg FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary COME TO A SELF LOVE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/self-love-retreats/ If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow! This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books.
Thu, November 12, 2020
#41: Why Self-Love is Not Selfish with Shannon Kaiser
In this episode, Mary is joined by Shannon Kaiser. Shannon is an author, life coach, speaker and retreat leader. Shannon gives an honest recount of her own journey with anxiety, depression, addiction and eating disorders and what led her to learn how to truly love herself. In this episode, Shannon discusses… Approaching self-love as an experiment. Making the choice to love yourself. The importance of gratitude and self-care. Being enough as you are. Loving yourself as the greatest act to help the world. Shannon Kaiser is the bestselling author of five books on the psychology of happiness and fulfillment, including the #1 bestseller, The Self-Love Experiment and Adventures for Your Soul and Joy Seeker. As an international life coach, speaker and retreat leader, she helps people trust and believe in themselves so they can live their highest potential. She's been named a top 100 Women to Watch in wellness by mindbodygreen and "your-go-to happiness booster" by Health magazine. She has also been recognized as a Must-Follow Instagram Account for Inspiration by Entrepreneur magazine and a Top Facebook Account for Daily Motivation by mindbodygreen. Visit her website at playwiththeworld.com and follow on social media @ShannonKaiserWrites. If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!
Thu, November 05, 2020
#40: Diversity, Equity, & Inclusion with Beth Ruffin
In this episode Mary is joined by Beth Ruffin. Beth is an author, speaker and coach that works with organizational consulting and one on one coaching focusing on inclusion in the workspace. In this episode you will learn how to... explore your own biases be more inclusive in your day to day life use language that embodies inclusivity build a brand/business that is focuses on diversity, equity, and inclusion and so much more! Beth spent 20 years in Corporate America before realizing her dream of entrepreneurship, opening her own boutique consulting firm, The Everyday Inclusionist. Beth is committed to making our world more inclusive through consulting, coaching and speaking. She is also the host of “At the Table,” a weekly podcast about elevating the voices of the underrepresented. Beth’s first book, Get Up, details her journey to self-acceptance. Her second book, You Belong Here, explores the topic of Self Inclusion. Beth believes that everyone has a purpose and has the power within them to impact lives. She is mom to one daughter and in her spare time blogs and travels. Links mentioned: Beth's 10 Tips for Building an Inclusive Business You can find Beth on Instagram as @thebethruffin and on her website bethruffin.com If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow!
Thu, October 29, 2020
#39: How To Stop Caring What Others Think of You
In this solo episode Mary talks about how to stop caring about OPO (other people’s opinions), OPE (other people’s expectations) and OPA (other people’s agendas). You will learn how to truly live for yourself, not other people, and what it means when you’re feeling “stuck” in life. She also shares some tips that will help you learn what your core values are, find the right support system and recognize negative projections. Books and Links Mentioned: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie betterhelp.com/mcot If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow! This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books. FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary COME TO A SELF LOVE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/self-love-retreats/
Thu, October 22, 2020
#38: Sex, Orgasms, & Masturbation with Emily Nagoski
Ok, this interview is a juicy one!! We are talking with Emily Nagoski about all things SEX like... how to increase your chances of feeling a climax or orgam - how to talk to your partner about your sexual desires - how to release sexual shame during sex or while masturbating - different ways to masturbate and feel pleasure - how to feel more accepting of how you look "down there" - what sexuality is and what it's not - and so. much. more Emily Nagoski is a writer, sex educator, researcher, activist, and self proclaimed nerd. Emily went to Indiana University for a M.S. in Counseling Psychology and she continued on to earn a Ph.D. in Health Behavior with a concentration in human sexuality. Now, she is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life. Her new book, Burnout, was released in 2019 which she co-authored with her sister Amelia to help women end the cycle of feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and feeling not enough. I have been dreaming of this interview with Emily ever since I read Come As You Are 4 years ago! It's a book I recommend to anyone who wants to get to know their body better and feel more informed, educated, and empowered by their sexuality. It truly will transform your sex life and how you see your sexuality in general! Let us know how you liked this interview by tagging @maryscupofteaa and @enagoski in your IG stories!!
Thu, October 15, 2020
#37: How To Deepen Your Self-Worth
In this episode, Mary talks about the difference between self-worth and self-confidence. She also gives you 3 ways to strengthen your sense of self-worth in a way that's helpful and long-lasting in your self-love journey. Beyond Body Online Retreat Waitlist: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body-waitlist
Thu, October 08, 2020
#36: Feminism, Body-Image, & Unf*cking Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil
This episode is going down as one of our favorites! In this episode Mary is joined by Kara Loewentheil who talks about how we can use thought work to retrain our brains and ultimately change our reality. Kara uses a very unique approach that combines life coaching and feminism to empower women to think, see, and feel better about themselves. In this episode Kara explains how to... think better thoughts about your body - recognize the link between the patriarchy and our negative thoughts - use feminism and thought work to combat the pressures of beauty standards - apply thought work to social justice issues and create positive change in this world - manage our mind to feel less stressed, anxious, and negative - and so much more! Kara is a Master Certified Coach with a B.A. from Yale and J.D. from Harvard Law. Kara is the host of the iTunes top-rated self-help podcast Unf ck Your Brain which has been downloaded 10M times, and she has been featured in outlets like Marie Claire, Mind Body Green, MSN.com, and The Huffington Post. This episode goes deep in many different directions so we recommend taking notes as you're listening and letting the message sink in. You can find Kara on her podcast: UnF ck Your Brain or her website: unfuckyourbrain.com Let us know how you liked this episode by screenshotting and tagging us in your IG stories! @maryscupofteaa and @karaloewentheil
Thu, October 01, 2020
#35: How to Set Boundaries with Diet Culture
In this solo episode, Mary shares her 5-step process for setting boundaries with diet culture. These 5 steps will help you speak up to that friend who keeps talking about diets or your family who keeps commenting on your body. Setting boundaries is important in ANY relationship, but especially when it comes to those people who are triggering you back into diet culture. You MUST tell them that certain things are not okay and Mary's here to help you do that. Happy boundary-setting! If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, could you leave a review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow! This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books. FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary COME TO A SELF LOVE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/self-love-retreats/ JOIN MARY’S ONLINE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body/
Thu, September 24, 2020
#34: Living with Chronic and Mental Illness with Esmé Wang
In this interview Mary speaks with the beautiful and talented writer Esmé Wang about what it's like living with chronic and mental illness. Esmé shares her most helpful tools for dealing with depression and anxiety, especially during this difficult time where everything is uncertain. She also gives advice on how we should approach people with disability and how social justice must coexist in our conversations about mental health. In February 2019, Graywolf Press published Esmé's essay collection, The Collected Schizophrenias, which became a New York Times bestseller and the Los Angeles Review of Books stated that “Esmé Weijun Wang is poised to become a major writer, and this is her origin story.” Her debut novel, The Border of Paradise, has received accolades and kind words from places such as LitHub, NPR Books, and the Chicago Review of Books. She was selected by Granta for their once-a-decade Best of Young American Novelists list of 21 authors under 40, and she received the prestigious Whiting Award in 2018. Things Mentioned: Andrew Scott's performance in Sea Wall: https://www.seawallandrewscott.com Fiona Apple's Fetch The Bolt Cutters Album: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9tY0BWXOZFthbMAh1WrMDEho_wKVSM_1 The Cut article: https://www.thecut.com/2019/02/esme-weijun-wang-on-her-book-the-collected-schizophrenias.html Connect with Esmé online: https://esmewang.com https://www.instagram.com/esmewwang/ Tag us in your Instagram stories to let us know how you liked this episode: @maryscupofteaa and @esmewwang
Thu, September 17, 2020
#33: Interviewing My Boyfriend!!
The episode we've all been waiting for! The one where Mary interviews her boyfriend! Mary and her boyfriend talk about their relationship by answering some of YOUR questions! Here are the questions Mary and her boyfriend answer in this episode: How have you grown since being in a relationship with Mary? Why do you think your relationship worked out so well even though it seemed to move very quickly? What's your favorite thing about each other? What was the moment you both "knew" you were each other's person? What's different about this relationship than past relationships? How does your boyfriend cope with your posts with minimal or no clothing? Is it hard living together? What are the challenging parts and what are the best parts? Did he deal with body confidence issues as well? How do you plan to teach your kids body confidence? Tag Mary @maryscupofteaa in your Instagram stories to let her know how you liked this very personal episode!
Thu, September 10, 2020
#32: Tools for Self-Compassion with Dr. Kristin Neff
In this episode, Mary interviews the pioneer of self-compassion research: Dr. Kristin Neff. Although our society puts much focus on building self-esteem, Dr. Kristin explains why self-compassion is a much more useful and impactful place to focus on. From soothing symptoms of depression and anxiety to helping us be kinder to others, self-compassion is key to greater well-being, especially for women. Dr. Kristin generously shares tips and tools that will help you be kinder to yourself during difficult times. In addition to writing numerous academic articles and book chapters on self-compassion, Dr. Kristin is author of the book Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. She received her doctorate from UC Berkeley, studying moral development and then did 2 years of postdoctoral study at the University of Denver studying self-concept development. During Kristin’s last year of graduate school she became interested in Buddhism and has been practicing meditation ever since. While doing her post-doctoral work she decided to conduct research on self-compassion – a central construct in Buddhist psychology and one that had not yet been examined empirically until Dr. Kristin created a scale to measure the concept. Dr. Kristin is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. In conjunction with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, she has developed a training program called Mindful Self-Compassion, which is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. They co-authored The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook as well as Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals. If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping bring on more amazing guests like Dr. Kristin to the show! This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books. FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary COME TO A SELF LOVE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/self-love-retreats/ JOIN MARY’S ONLINE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body/
Thu, September 03, 2020
#31: Introducing Mary's Cup of Tea Podcast 2.0!
Introducing Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast 2.0! We are relaunching the podcast which means it’ll be better than ever! We’ll be introducing more diverse guests, a fresh look and feel of the show, and our new Instagram account @maryspodcast. In this episode, Mary talks about her vision for the podcast moving forward and what we’re doing to make this show the most supportive place for your self-love journey. If you enjoy Mary’s Cup of Tea Podcast, would you please consider leaving a short review on Apple Podcasts/iTunes? It takes less than a minute, and it really makes a difference in helping the show grow! This episode is brought to you by my favorite books! I would not be the person I am today without the books I’ve read. These are books every woman MUST read so check them out at maryscupoftea.com/books. FOLLOW MARY ON INSTAGRAM: @maryscupofteaa @maryspodcast @retreatsbymary COME TO A SELF LOVE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/self-love-retreats/ JOIN MARY’S ONLINE RETREAT: maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body/
Thu, August 27, 2020
#30: Tips for Bad Body-Image Days
No matter how long you've been on this self-love journey, bad body-image days happen to all of us. But it's how we deal with those tough days that make a huge difference in our overall confidence. In this episode, Mary shares her best tips for those negative body-image days. Whether you woke up feeling bloated or not feeling super confident in your skin, there are ways that you can shift your mindset and not let those negative thoughts affect you. This episode is a mix of mindset advice and practical tips, so we hope they help heal body-image struggles and love yourself unconditionally. Remember, you are so much more than a body. Your body is the least interesting thing about you. And you don't deserve to spend your life obsessing over your body. You deserve so much more self-love. Links mentioned: BEYOND BODY ONLINE RETREAT WAITLIST: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body-waitlist If you liked this episode, please leave us a review on Apple podcasts! It really helps the show grow!
Thu, August 20, 2020
#29: My Entire Eating Disorder Story: Bulimia, Binge Eating, & Bikini Competitions
{TRIGGER WARNING: eating disorders} In this video I come clean about my lifelong eating disorder and how bikini competitions made it that much worse. I also talk about my bulimia and binge eating disorder and what helped me finally recover. My intention is that this podcast warns people against dieting because of the harmful physical and mental health consequences it can lead to. And to all my recovery warriors, you are not alone. Recovery is possible and worth it. And I am sending you so much love. Phew, what a weight lifted off my chest!! I've been wanting to tell this full story for a while, but it brings up a lot of old feelings. Thank you for being with me as I share my vulnerabilities. Please send this podcast to anyone who may need it and let us know how you liked this episode by screenshotting it and sharing in your Instagram stories! Tag us @maryspodcast (yes, we have our own IG account now too!).
Thu, August 13, 2020
#28: Why I'm Off Social Media
Mary is currently taking a break from Instagram and here's why. She shares all her thoughts and feelings about social media and when/how she is planning to come back. Mary has a few BIG projects coming up that she's been keeping a secret, and we can't wait to share them with you! Make sure to follow us on Instagram @maryspodcast to be a part of this podcast community and stay updated on new episodes. And if you want to support this podcast, leave us a review on iTunes! Just scroll to the bottom and let us know how you're liking the show. Your support means the WORLD especially as Mary is working on making this podcast bigger and better than ever. We love and appreciate you so much and hope this podcast adds a little bit of self-lovin' energy to your day!
Thu, July 30, 2020
#27: How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
The title says it all! In this episode Mary shares tips for overcoming comparison whether you're comparing yourself to someone on social media or someone you know in real life. It can be quite exhausting to constantly feel like you're not enough because you see other people doing more than you. But there is soooo much you don't know about other people's lives! So don't compare your behind the scenes to someone else's highlight reel. We apologize for the poor audio quality on this episode. Mary's microphone wasn't working but the message is still there! Thank you for being here for the imperfect parts of this podcast.
Thu, July 23, 2020
#26: Changing Your Career with Bethany Goldszer
In this epsiode, Mary interviews Bethany Goldszer from Stand Out College Prep. A teacher turned college admissions consultant, Bethany advises parents and students on proven strategies for getting admitted into their top-choice colleges and finding the money to pay for it. She launched Stand Out College Prep in 2012 as a successful side hustle while working at a nonprofit, Urban Upbound, where she has been since 2009. Bethany talks about how to get noticed in a college application, why so many high school students lack access to a college education, and how to use your unique story to get noticed. Personality test Bethany recommends: True Colors for pre-college students and Meyer's Briggs for post-college students. You can find and work with Bethany at standoutcollegeprep.com
Thu, July 16, 2020
#25: Beauty Standards, Self-Talk, and Social Media
This episode is a turning of the tables where Mary was interviewed on the Rawring Twenties Podcast! This is a wide-ranging and relatable conversation that you don't want to miss! Be sure to check out the Rawring Twenties Podcast and their hosts Brenda (@balancewithbrenda) and Julia (@jbtolch). And if you're interested in joining Mary's program, Beyond Body, here is the link to sign up: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body-sign-up Beyond Body is an online retreat for healing body-image struggles, building confidence, and learning to love yourself. It will start on July 26th so make sure to register and save your spot before they sell out!
Thu, July 09, 2020
#24: Self-Worth in Relationships
In this solo episode, Mary shares her personal journey of finding self-worth in her romantic relationships. As someone who has been in many tumultous, toxic relationships, Mary wants you to know that you are worthy of healthy, romantic love. She shares some tips that will help you realize your worth and stop settling for less than you deserve. If you're interested in joining Mary's program, Beyond Body, here is the link to sign up: https://maryscupoftea.com/beyond-body-sign-up Beyond Body is an online retreat for healing body-image struggles, building confidence, and learning to love yourself. It will start on July 26th so make sure to register and save your spot before they sell out!
Thu, July 02, 2020
#23: Ego Death, Marriage, & Motherhood with Jasmin Steiner
In this episode Mary is joined by Jasmin Steiner (@marriedmomandmantras) to talk about everything from ego death to marriage and motherhood. Jasmin shares with us how she's dealt with severe PPD, a failing and now healing marriage, a loss of identity and self through motherhood and having had to redefine herself on social media platforms from a body-building fitness girl with low self esteem to the mother of twins that shameless showcases her perfectly imperfect mom-bod. Some takeaways from Jasmin include... how to experience an ego death and find self-love how to heal a marriage even when you feel like it's not making you happy how to be in a good mindset during pregnancy and birth This is a well-ranging conversation that you don't want to miss! Follow Jasmin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriedmomandmantras/
Thu, June 25, 2020
#22: Why I'm In Therapy
A solo, personal episode with Mary where she shares her reasons for going to therapy. Unfortunately, there is a big stigma around getting mental health support unless there's something "wrong" with you. Mary talks about why she was afraid to start therapy in the first place and what made her finally commit to it for the past 2 months. Getting support for your mental health shouldn't be something that's shameful- it shoud be a natural part of preventative mental health! Like taking your vitamins, eating veggies, and getting enough sleep- things we do to support our health BEFORE we are sick. Thank you for listening as Mary shares some really personal things! Links mentioned: betterhelp.com/mcot for 2 weeks free therapy
Thu, June 18, 2020
#21: Give Yourself Permission with Arielle Estoria
Today we are joined by Arielle Estoria (@arielleestoria), a Spoken Word Poet, Author, Dance Party Enthusiast Emcee and Event Host Speaker, Model and Actress. Arielle is the epitome of a multi-faceted, magical woman who is a bridge between intellect and creativity, the mind and the heart. Through various aspects of storytelling: poetry, keynote speaking, event host/emcee emcee, acting and voice overs, Arielle orchestrates her art out of an, “Words not for the ears but for the soul” motto. The heartbeat behind her work, is a diligent pursuit of instilling and reminding individuals of their value through words. In this wholesome interview, Arielle gives us permission to BE anything and everything we want to be by channeling our creative selves and sharing our gifts with the world. She also shares how her experience as a black woman in America helped shape her creative work and how being an empath, or a feeler, is actually the greatest gift. Books mentioned: The Artist's Way, A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativy by Julia Cameron Make sure to listen to Arielle's song called "Magic In Your Bones" on iTunes or Spotify! Connect with Arielle on Instagram: @arielleestoria And her website: arielleestoria.com
Thu, June 04, 2020
#20: A Meditation for Self-Love
In this episode, Mary shares a Buddhist self-love meditation that will help you feel more at peace with yourself. This practice is especially helpful to those who identify as empaths because us empaths pick up on other people's emotions and often try to help them at the expense of ourselves. Instead, Mary wants you to focus on stepping into a higher frequency of self-love so that you can help others without sacrificing yourself. Do this meditation anytime you're feeling sad, overwhelmed, or when you need a self-love pick-me-up. Mary also touches on anti-racism and the importance of fighting for human rights. This self-love meditation will help you fight for causes you believe in and help the communities in need from a place of unconditional love.
Thu, May 28, 2020
#19: How to Have a Healthy Mindset About Health and Recovery
This episode is a turning of the tables where Mary gets interviewed by Gabby Male (@gabbymale on IG). Gabby asks Mary questions like… How do you have a healthy mindset with exercise? What is health at every size? How to deal with friends/ family who don’t understand your self-love journey? What are some tips for recreating your identity during recovery? Gabby is a non-diet health coach who helps women find balance and feel more empowered in their bodies. She has her own show called the Evolve Your Life Podcast where she talks about everything from fitness to food freedom to personal growth. Follow Gabby on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/gabbymale/ Listen to her podcast here: https://www.gabbymale.com/evolveyourlifepodcast
Thu, May 21, 2020
#18: Beauty Sickness with Dr. Renee Engeln
Okay I am seriously freaking out (in a good way) about this episode because you know that book I keep recommending to you called “Beauty Sick”??? Well, the author of that very book is joining us today on the podcast to talk about beauty sickness- what it is and how we can combat it. Our culture is OBSESSED with appearance, more particularly, women’s appearance. So many of us feel like we are not good enough unless we look a certain way, whether that be a certain weight, body size/shape, or simply our makeup and outfit choices. It’s EXHAUSTING to constantly feel like that. Dr. Renee teaches us how we can stop being so focused on our appearance so that we can finally live free. Renee Engeln is a psychology professor and director of the “Body and Media Lab” at Northwestern University. Her research and writing focus on issues surrounding women’s body images, with an emphasis on how cultural forces shape the relationship women have with their bodies. Her work has appeared in numerous academic journals and at academic conferences. She is regularly interviewed by media outlets, including the New York Times, Chicago Tribune, The Atlantic, Vox, and HuffPost. Her TEDx talk has garnered over half a million views. Get Dr. Renee’s book! It’s called Beauty Sick and it has CHANGED. MY. LIFE. You can also find her on Instagram as @beauty_sick and her research can be found at bodyandmedia.com
Thu, May 14, 2020
#17: The Science of Food Freedom with Jessi Jean
In this episode, Mary is joined by her dear friend Jessi (@jessijeannn on Instagram) who talks about food freedom, intuitive eating, and healing from body-image struggles. Jessi’s story starts in high school when like many young women, she started restrictive dieting. She went on to compete in bikini fitness competitions thinking that it would make her have more “self-control” around food, but it only made it worse. The exhaustion of dieting, over exercising, and depriving her body nearly killed her. After being on a healing journey of 10 years, Jessi became a Certified Eating Psychology coach and created the Food Freedom Online Program which helps women heal their relationship with food and their body. In this podcast, Jessi talks about her daily morning routine which has helped her and hundreds of women stop binge eating by reprogramming the neural pathways in their brain and forming new habits around eating. She also gives tactical advice for conquering binge eating, eating intuitively, and building positive body-image. Get more info on Jessi’s program here: https://www.conquerbingeeating.com/ffm And listen to her podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-dear-body-podcast/id1460137502 You can also find her on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/jessijeannn/ Tag us on Instagram and let us know you’re listening! @jessijeannn and @maryscupofteaa
Thu, May 07, 2020
#16: How to Support a Friend with Self-Love and Body-Image
In this episode, Mary shares tips for talking to your friends about ANYTHING they’re struggling with- including body-image issues, food struggles, or self-love in general. She shares practical and tactical communication tools that she uses in all her relationships to make the other person feel seen, heard, and understood. She also gives tips for being an empath and not absorbing other people’s energy. Remember: you are not supposed to “fix” anyone because they were never broken. Your only job is to be there for them. Get a list of Mary’s favorite books here: https://maryscupoftea.com/books/
Thu, April 30, 2020
#15: BTS of Being a Social Media Influencer with Chelsea Culbertson
In this episode we talk with Chelsea Culbertson (@choosingchelsea on Instagram) about what it’s like being a social media influencer. Chelsea shares how she uses her social media platform for good and creates healthy boundaries between consuming and creating on Instagram. We also talk about the pros and cons of TikTok and remind you that social media is not real life! No matter how “perfect” someone seems on their highlight reel, there is always SO much you don’t know about their behind-the-scenes.
Thu, April 23, 2020
#14: How to Stop Dieting, Restricting, and Binge Eating for Good
Diet culture is a vicious enemy that makes you believe that something is wrong with YOU if you don’t successfully lose weight. Being stuck in the diet cycle makes you spend every second of every day thinking about food and your body, which is no way to live your one precious life. Mary explains how dieting, restricting, and binge eating are all different sides of the same coin, so once you stop dieting and restricting, you will stop binge eating too. In this episode, Mary shares how to end the diet-restrict-binge by reframing your mindset around food and your body. Mary also talks about the metaphysics of food (a term that’ll change your relationship with food forever) as well as the #1 mindset tool that helped her stop binge eating, forever. Our bodies are wise, so let’s learn to stop fighting them and trust that your body got your back. Get ready to walk away feeling empowered, inspired, and ready to say f*ck you to diet culture.
Thu, April 16, 2020
#13: Recovery & Relationships with Julia Parzyck
In this episode Mary talks with Julia Parzyck (@fitfatandallthat on Instagram) about how to nurture healthy relationships while working through eating disorder recovery, body-image issues, or normal daily life. Julia is passionate about educating girls and women to live a life outside of the diet culture, be aware of media manipulation, and embrace their true selves. Mary and Julia bond over how they’re both sensitive, empathic women who often feel like they’re “too much” in their romantic relationships and how the roots of their eating disorders lie in sexual trauma. Julia also offers a practical approach to creating a healthy relationship with food and body by not letting your thoughts dictate your actions. As an ED recovery coach, Julia is amazing at giving practical advice while also making you feel seen, heard, and understood as a woman in this world. This episode is relatable AF; just 2 women talking about their own struggles while hopefully helping you navigate yours. Let us know how you like this episode by tagging @maryscupofteaa and @fitfatandallthat in your IG stories Books mentioned: Attached by Amir Levine The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Beauty Sick by Renee Engeln The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf
Thu, April 09, 2020
#12: Making Money Online
In this episode Mary shares the different ways she makes money online including social media work, retreats, and online programs. Mary also talks about the importance of having a positive money mindset and treating money as an exchange of energy. We all deserve to make good money doing something we love because each of us have unique gifts, skills and passions that could be of value to others. If you’ve always wanted to have a successful online business that allows for freedom and flexibility, this episode is for you!
Thu, April 02, 2020
#11: Self Love During Crisis
The world is in crisis right now and we are all feeling it. In this episode, Mary gives you tips and tools to handle this tough time with self-compassion. If you use the tools Mary gives, this 15-minute episode will help you feel more positively during this time of uncertainty. Remember: you don't have to do anything right now unless it feels aligned to YOU. It doesn't matter what home workout that girl on social media is "recommending"; what does YOUR body, mind, and spirit need right now? Sending you all so much love! Hang in there xx
Thu, March 26, 2020
#10: Healing Sexual Trauma with Ailey Jolie
Ailey is Registered Clinical Counsellor with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors. She holds a Masters of Counselling Psychology and is a student in the Global Mental Health: Trauma and Recovery Certificate Program at Harvard Medical School. In this episode, Ailey shares with us how eating disorders can often come after sexual violence, whether that’s a microaggression or a macro one. She gives us permission to feel, tips to heal, and ways we can begin to reconnect to our bodies after trauma. Ailey emphasizes that she is not only a therapist, but a human like you, so she shares a lot of her personal journey of struggling with an eating disorder, being in the modeling/pageant industry, rejecting her sexuality, and healing from her own sexual violence. “Deep” doesn’t even begin to describe the true depth of what Ailey shares so when you listen, make sure to give yourself the time, space, and grace to process everything she says and think about ways to apply it to your own self love and healing journey. IG posts mentioned: What Type of Sex Serves You? https://www.instagram.com/p/B8hBhEeJwsC/
Thu, March 12, 2020
#9: Q&A with Mary
Q&A with Mary- ED Recovery, Social Media Business, Life Goals, & More! Mary answers YOUR questions about everything from starting a business on social media, recovering from an eating disorder, and overcoming codependency. Here are the questions Mary answers: Has being so open on social media affected your own eating disorder recovery? If so, how? Your life goals! Career? Kids? Marriage? How did you know you were ready to speak up and share your journey online? How did you deal with your codependency? Was one of your goals of ED recovery to stop thinking about food and weight all the time? If so, how do you deal with it now that your life is still about those topics? Do you feel like it’s inappropriate to compliment someone’s physical features if they’ve suffered from an eating disorder? How do you give compliments about someone’s appearance without triggering someone? How do you deal with others around you who are constantly negative about their own weight and self image? What do you think about BMI? Does BMI show state of health in some way? How do you create such consistent and relatable content all the time? How do you get more engagement on social media? Did you ever lose your period during your eating disorder years? If so, how did you get your period back in recovery? How did you start up your self love retreats? I’m finally feeling really confident in my body after gaining a significant amount of weight. However, my mom invalidates that I’ve ever struggled with disordered eating and she constantly violates my boundaries by suggesting that I need to lose weight. I can handle criticism from random trolls, but my self love journey feels incomplete without my mom on-board. How do you handle pushback from people you love?
Thu, March 05, 2020
#8: Stop Overthinking, Embrace Perfectionism, & Let Creativity Heal You with Meg Rosko
This week Mary interviews her dear friend Meg Rosko (@nutmegandhoneybee). Over the past two years, Meg has dedicated her life to cultivating purpose and joy through the healing nature of art and community. Meg vulnerably shares how she started tapping into her creativity by baking cookies after her the death of her older brother. That pivotal moment in her life became a catalyst for expressing her grief through art, and more specifically, learning how to transform pain into sweetness. A few years later, Meg realized that she does not need to define herself as just one thing. Meg hopes to inspire YOU to find the comfort in the unknown of your life, the beauty in all of your experiences, and the courage to create a life rooted in love. Mary and Meg also bond over their struggles with overthinking, perfectionism and people-pleasing and share some tools on how to work through them. This interviews goes many different directions so grab a cup of tea and enjoy the ride! Books mentioned: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
Thu, February 27, 2020
#7: Mary Gets Interviewed! How to be Healthy without Dieting
Today’s episode is a little different, a turning of the tables where Mary gets interviewed on someone else’s podcast! Mary talks about her experience with binge eating, how she went viral on Instagram, and how to balance health with self love. Mary also shares how she changed her mindset and started accepting her body, weight gain and all! You’ll probably want something to take notes with while you listen! This episode was originally for the Positively Selfish Podcast by Robyn Lee so go check it out when you get a chance! Let us know how you like this episode by taking a screenshot for your Instagram stories and tagging Mary @maryscupofteaa and Robyn @itsrobynlee!
Thu, February 20, 2020
#6: From ED Recovery to Multi 6-Figure CEO with Rachel Spencer
In this episode, Mary is joined by Rachel Spencer to talk about how building your own business and investing in yourself can help you build confidence and realize how incredibly powerful you are, BEYOND your struggles. Rachel Spencer is a Business Coach and self-love influencer living in New York City. Her passion is helping boss babes all over the world to master their message, stand out, and become an authority in their niche so that they can stop feeling invisible and sell with ease! Rachel struggled with self-confidence and self-esteem issues spurned by unrealistic images in the media during her teenage years, and in her 20s, her issues began to affect every area of her life. In this episode, Rachel talks about how having a business helped her not only heal from her eating disorder, but also build her own confidence and self worth. She shares her tips for starting your own business and how to stop feeling guilty when it comes to money, whether that’s making money or spending money.
Thu, February 13, 2020
#5: How to Feel Sexy and Confident in the Bedroom
When you feel good in your body and embrace your sexual side, you show up in a more empowered, confident way. Welcome to this special “V-Day” edition of Tea Time with Mary. In this episode, Mary discusses ways that have personally helped her to be more confident in the bedroom. What happens when you use sex to seek validation? And what can you do to show yourself a little more love? As Mary states, your body is for YOU and feeling pleasure in your body is not shameful, it’s natural and needs to be embraced more by women everywhere. So, let’s celebrate this V-Day by celebrating ourselves, our bodies and our sexuality a little bit more! Books mentioned: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski and Pussy: A Reclamation by Regina Thomashauer. Products mentioned: plusOne makes affordable, high-quality sex toys that you can get at WalMart, Amazon, or Target all under $35! plusOne is breaking down barriers and disrupting outdated taboos regarding self-pleasure with their line of beautiful, affordable and approachable vibrators and sexual wellness products. P.S. If you’re not in a relationship right now, please don’t let this be a day where you beat yourself up about it. At the end of the day, V-Day is a highly-commercialized holiday and literally means nothing. Take this as a day to show extra love for yourself, just because.
Thu, February 06, 2020
#4: 22 Things I Learned in 22 Years
This is the birthday episode!! Mary shares with you life lessons she had to learn the hard way in her past 22 years on this earth. She talks about everything from sex, hair removal, and yeast infections, to divorce and relationships, to self love and body image. Here are a few of her favorite lessons… You’re not everyone’s cup of tea, nor should you strive to be. There’ll always be people who won’t like you no matter what you do. Hating yourself will not make you happy. Criticizing your body will not make you look better. Shame will not make you feel worthy. Self-love is the way. Hair removal is overrated. Your body’s only purpose is to keep you alive. Be kind to it. This episode is very personal so please let Mary know how you like it by screenshotting and tagging her in your Instagram stories!
Thu, January 30, 2020
#3: Dealing with Weight Gain, Addressing Trauma, and Feminism with Jessica Demasi
This week Mary talks with Jessica Demasi, a Certified Eating Psychology Coach specializing in Functional Endocrinology and creator of whollyhealed.com. Jessica started whollyhealed.com due to a lack of integrative care when it comes to healing eating disorders. In this conversation, we hear about how early traumas can result in dysfunctional habits around food and body image. We also learn about ways to take a deeper look at our own traumas and how we can begin to heal from them. Mary and Jessica also take a deep dive into the topic of feminism and how it has helped Jessica empower herself on her own mission. So sit back, grab a cup of tea and enjoy this week’s episode!
Thu, January 23, 2020
#2: How to Fall in Love with Yourself
“We often think of self love as a noun…” a thing we want more of. “In reality, love is a verb…” something inside of us and something that we do; not something we possess. In this episode, Mary talks about the paradox of thinking that if we only have more things to do what we want to do then we can achieve self love. “If you want to have self love, start with the be.” We also hear more about Mary’s personal journey with body image and take a look at how it has affected her relationships in the past, from judging others to how it affected her sex life. Mary also discusses the importance of romanticizing your own life and what that could possibly look like for you. Take a moment to brew a warm cup of tea and enjoy the show!
Thu, January 16, 2020
#1: Get to Know Mary!
Welcome to Tea Time with Mary. Our host, Mary Jelkovsky, is a bikini fitness model turned self love advocate. In this episode, Mary gives us a bit of background on her struggles with eating disorders and body image. From a young age, Mary felt the pressures to "be smart, be pretty and be thin." We also learn about what initially sparked her to make a change and begin the journey to heal herself and learn what self love is all about. It's a new year and Mary's word of the year is CREATIVE. And podcasting will be one of the many paths Mary will be using to infuse more creativity in her life! So sit back, grab a cup of tea and enjoy this very special episode!
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