Beyond the Self with Africa Brooke
Welcome to our unfiltered corner. The voicescapes you'll be taking in are created by myself, Africa Brooke.In a worldly sense, I am a globally acclaimed consultant, mentor, writer, and artist. My deepest desire with this podcast is to remind us ALL of the power inherent in taking simple, consistent, and often uncomfortable steps towards personal integrity.I'm all too aware that overwhelm and societal pressures make it easy to become fixated on external influences, tiptoe around potentially sensitive issues and cross our own boundaries in the process. And this kind of environment often leads to self-sabotage.That's where Beyond...
Mon, March 24, 2025
#091 - are you 'protecting your peace' or is it just avoidance in disguise?
I’ve been thinking a lot about the ways we convince ourselves we’re doing something noble - spiritual, even - when really, we’re just avoiding the thing that actually wants to set us free. Like last week, this conversation is personal. It’s present. And it’s pulled straight from the patterns I’ve had to face in my own life, in real time. If you’re someone who’s ever thought or said “I’m just protecting my peace” while secretly knowing that something deeper is going unaddressed, this episode is for you. I asked a confronting question: Are you protecting your peace, or is it just avoidance in disguise? And I take you through the 8 shadowy, often socially-acceptable ways avoidance hides in plain sight. I go into how we cloak it as boundaries, empowerment, self-care, independence, or emotional intelligence. I speak about: The silent treatment as a form of self-sabotage, masked as boundary-setting. How we wear solitude like a badge of honour, when it’s actually isolation . The self-betrayal of over-compromising and calling it “keeping the peace.” The seductive nature of numbing through productivity, fitness, or “wellness.” Avoiding commitment and calling it “empowered detachment.” LOL How refusing accountability is often disguised as “not engaging in drama.” Dodging difficult feedback under the guise of “protecting your energy.” And the ultimate intimacy-killer: withdrawing emotionally and calling it space . I loveddddd this one because I shared stories from my own life, including my past relationships, addiction, healing, and even the deeply internal narratives that still challenge me today. This episode is an invitation to look closely at the ways you might be calling something peace when it’s really just another way to avoid yourself, others, or 'the work'. If you've been telling yourself, "I’m just protecting my peace" , but it doesn’t feel peaceful in your body… this one is for you. Let me know what lands. Resources Mentioned: BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery. Request it at your libraries too!) If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also
Mon, March 10, 2025
#090 - I let myself down, this breakup was my most brutal lesson in self-integrity, pain of duality, & MORE
WOW! I really went there with you for this one. March is here, Spring is upon us, which means my 2025 begins. I return here with fresh thoughts and an open heart. I'm learning to allow myself to share the truth of what's happening in REAL TIME, instead of only sharing retrospectively, and as a very reflective but also private person - this feels exposing, yet insanely liberating. I am practicing what I preach. I am practicing courage. I am practicing brave expression. And it's making me trust my self-leadership at another level. Privately and publicly. In this episode, I decided to take you deep into the raw, painful, and necessary truth of my recent breakup. A relationship that was both my greatest teacher and my biggest test. I share what it’s like to grieve someone who is still alive (AGAIN) , the profound heartbreak of loving someone deeply but knowing you cannot stay , and the brutal self-reckoning that followed. I wanted to be completely fucking open about how this experience has forced me to confront my own self-betrayal , how I shrunk myself in ways I didn’t even realise, and why I'm, having to become my own student to find my way back to integrity. Thank you for letting me go there Resources Mentioned: Your UNCENSORED Year: A 2.5HR masterclass with me (available now!) africabrooke.com/your-uncensored-year This masterclass is a call to the audacious, the curious, and the brave—to those who know they’ve been hiding in plain sight, censoring their thoughts, suppressing their greatness, and settling for “safe.” This masterclass will prepare you for the year ahead (whenever you decide your 12 months will begin) by provoking you to think bigger, become braver, and step fully into the life you’ve been avoiding . I'm excited to support you with this. BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery. Request it at your libraries too!) If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me (inclu
Mon, September 23, 2024
#089 - The cost of belonging, identity, and being okay with being the unconventional one - w/ Caro Gomez
What does belonging look like for you? Can you think of a time when you navigated the space between two cultures, and how did it shape your identity? These are themes I'm exploring today with my guest, Caro Gomez. Caro opens up about her journey of figuring out her identity and finding her place, sharing the ups and downs of blending cultures and the hurdles she jumped over. We also explore the idea of privilege, cultural pride, and the emotional rollercoaster of staying true to her roots while soaking up new freedoms. Caro's story is not just about her journey but also the universal quest for connection and being okay with being the unconventional one. Whether you’re an immigrant, someone interested in cultural dynamics, or simply a lover of inspiring stories, this episode has something for you. GET IN TOUCH WITH CARO: Instagram: @carogomez_joywitch Email: hello@carogomez.com Resources Mentioned: BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery) Join the waitlist for Dine with Your Ancestors here Get your Mayan horoscope sign here Be the first to know when Joy Witch's Cacao from El Salvador lands! Caro Gomez is a visionary shaman’s apprentice of the MayaQ’eqchi’ lineage, an award-winning fashion designer, and founder of the Mayan School of Embodiment. With an ICF-accredited diploma in body-oriented coaching, she has guided hundreds of creative women to embrace their true selves. Proud of her Mayan and Spanish roots, Caro blends ancient wisdom with modern artistry, offering transformational experiences in self-discovery and expression. Her accolades include "Ones to Watch" by the Sustainable Lifestyle Awards, Fashion Designer of the Year at the 2019 LUKAS Awards, and Best Sustainable Luxury Womenswear Label in 2022 and 2023 at the LuxLife Awards. Caro is also a published author and regular speaker, with appearances at the University of the Arts, Wilderness Festival, and Tate Modern. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. <
Mon, September 09, 2024
#088 - Be brave enough to ask for help!
I know there's a sense of hopelessness in the world right now, and to be very honest, there always will be. And something that I want to do here is I don't want us to deny reality. That is not what we do. And at the same time, I want you to look at the areas of your life where you are in the driver's seat. In this episode, I want to impart my wisdom, experiences, and intellectual property and share anything I'm learning that I think could be useful for you. So tune in to hear me riff aloud about letting people fucking help you. P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless! Resources Mentioned: BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery) If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, July 29, 2024
#087 - Put an end to sex & intimacy related SELF-SABOTAGE
Tired of feeling like you're constantly tripping over your own feet when it comes to sex and intimacy? You're not alone. Let's get real about the sneaky ways self-sabotage creeps into our bedrooms. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the dirty little secrets that might be holding you back. From the mind-bending effects of porn to the pressure cooker of societal expectations, I dive into the stuff that really matters. Tune in to hear how you can break free from the shackles of shame and unlock your true sexual potential. Get ready for a no-holds-barred conversation about pleasure, power, and personal liberation. P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless! Resources Mentioned: BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery) Women’s Anatomy of Arousal - Sheri Winston Tantric Orgasm for Women - Diana Richardson Tantric Orgasm for Men - Diana Richardson Practices mentioned: Pussy Gazing Tantric / Yoni massage If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, July 08, 2024
#086 - Being brutally honest about my relationship with identity & money - w/ Sharmadean Reid
Feeling like the system's rigged against you? Join us as Sharmadean Reid MBE, founder of The Stack and author of "New Methods for Women," dismantles that narrative. In this episode, we explore Sharmadean's journey of overcoming societal barriers, navigating limited resources, and redefining success on her own terms. Discover how she balanced creative and spiritual growth with financial empowerment, all while building wealth and escaping a scarcity mindset. This is an episode packed with practical tools to challenge limitations and create a richer, more fulfilling life. Connect with Sharmadean: Sharmadean Reid MBE is a founder, writer and creative consultant who in her 20 year career has launched an innovation led salon, a beauty tech start up and now a media company. Her work explores women’s power, equity and ownership. She is currently working a series of essays on the theme of EQUITY and a scripted TV show about female founders. In 2015 Sharmadean was awarded an MBE from HRH Queen Elizabeth. Her first book, New Methods For Women is published in June 2024 by Penguin Random House. BUY SHARMADEAN'S BOOK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/New-Methods-Women-Perspective-Relationships/dp/0241461758 Sharmadean's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sharmadeanreid/ BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery) If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, July 01, 2024
#085 - It's time to face the conflict you're avoiding
Do you find yourself avoiding conflict at all costs? In this episode, I explore the surprising impact conflict avoidance can have on our ability to build strong, intimate relationships. I also discuss the reasons behind this behaviour, examining the potential influence of our upbringing on conflict styles. The episode will challenge your perception of conflict as purely negative, as I believe it has the potential to foster deeper connections. I also share some strategies for navigating difficult conversations and effectively seeking help will be provided. Let's take this opportunity to reflect on where conflict avoidance might be hindering intimacy in our own lives and develop the skills necessary to build stronger, more meaningful relationships. P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless! Resources Mentioned: BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery) If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, June 24, 2024
#084 - Why every woman should try an erotic massage
Ready to explore a whole new side of yourself? Tantric massages have been incredible for me. It's not just about being touched (though, let's be honest, that's part of it!). It's a safe, professional space to embrace your sexuality fully. There is no pressure, just open and grounded pleasure. It's sensual, spiritual, and refreshingly real. This journey has been eye-opening. I've learned so much about my body, my desires, and the amazing ways I can experience pleasure. Intrigued? Hit play to hear about my tantric massage experience – it might be exactly what you've been missing! P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless! Resources Mentioned: BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery) If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, June 17, 2024
#083 - What your discomfort is trying to teach you
Discomfort. It's that feeling that makes you want to crawl back under the covers. But what if I told you it could be the key to unlocking your full potential? In this episode, we'll DITCH the dictionary definitions and dive deep into the world of discomfort. I explore why stepping outside your comfort zone might be the best thing you can do for yourself (even if it doesn't feel like it at first!). Plus, I talk about the science behind discomfort and growth, share tips for shifting your mindset, and even sneak in some inspiring advice on becoming a morning person! Ready to ditch the fear and step into your power? Tune in and join the conversation! P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless! Resources Mentioned: #006 - How to release perfectionism BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery) If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, June 10, 2024
#082 - What if your 'imposter syndrome' is correct?
Ever feel like a fraud despite your accomplishments? That nagging voice whispering "you're not good enough". What if that discomfort isn't a sign you're a 'fraud', but a nudge in the right direction? We often slap the "imposter" label on any flicker of unease, but sometimes it's a learning curve, not a character flaw. In this episode, I'm reflecting on a change I made in my business and a full-blown imposter alert went off in my head! But upon reflection, the truth smacked me upside down: it was a skills gap, not a mindset issue. Join me as we explore the idea that discomfort might be your guide, not your enemy. We'll delve into intellectual humility, the importance of honest self-assessment, and how to ditch the over-labelling that keeps you stuck. Tune in and discover how to transform that discomfort into growth! P.S. This episode's audio is a reupload from our archives, but the insights are timeless! Resources Mentioned: BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery) #008 - How to move through imposter syndrome https://www.mindtools.com/ If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, June 03, 2024
#081 - You need to initiate sex, avoiding conflict in relationships, desire, & MORE
Are you ready to unravel the mysteries of modern love and intimacy? Today I'm joined by renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist, Todd Baratz. Together, we're peeling back the layers of how our personal histories shape the way we handle conflict and connect intimately with others. We're tackling the tough questions: How do self-awareness and open communication empower us to defy societal pressures and those pesky, unrealistic expectations in our romantic lives? What impact do past traumas have on our adult relationships? And let's get real about emotional intimacy – why is it so crucial, and why do so many of us struggle with it? Get ready for a candid exploration of the complexity between love and intimacy in the modern age. It's an episode you won't want to miss! RESOURCES MENTIONED: Buy Todd's book How To Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind Buy my book,The Third Perspective (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery) Connect with Todd: @ yourdiagnonsense https://www.toddsbaratz.com If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, May 27, 2024
#080 - An update: my book IS OUT, signing to Steven Bartlett, success on my terms, & MORE
What a whirlwind this past week since my book has been published and has been in your hands! It's been a crazy but amazing past few years writing my book, The Third Perspective and I appreciate every single one of you who has purchased it, supported and shared with me what you think. This episode is more of an update of what's been going on in my life, as well as some reflections on my book launch and how I've been feeling in the days since it's been out. Plus I'm sharing with a little insight into my upcoming projects that I know lots of you are excited about! Resources Mentioned: BUY THE THIRD PERSPECTIVE NOW (also available at Waterstones, Barnes & Nobles and all major bookstores and independents - check for international delivery) Youtube Podcast episode w/ Rangan Chatterjee Audio Podcast Episode w/ Rangan Chatterjee Read The Guardian Article If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, April 15, 2024
#079 - Releasing cult-like thinking & rigid identities - w/ Mark Vicente
Get ready for an engaging conversation as I sit down with my dear friend, Mark Vicente. Many of you might recognise him as the whistle-blower for the cult NXIVM, but there's so much more to him than that. Mark is not just a public figure; he's an author, a speaker, and the cinematographer behind the iconic film Sarafina! Together, we explore the intense demands placed upon us by social media, our battles with how the public sees us, and being honest in our self-expression. Mark shares with us his experience of having a cult-like following, and we examine how historical patterns of coercion and censorship are repeating in our modern society. If you're ready to explore the nuances of authenticity, the role of vulnerability in connection, and the importance of critical thinking in personal growth, tune in to this episode. Connect with Mark: Mark Vicente is an author, speaker, and filmmaker who played a key role in the creation of the sleeper hit "What The Bleep Do We Know?!” Born in Johannesburg - South Africa in 1965, he discovered his passion for cinematography early and made his mark as a Director of Photography in Hollywood with films like “SARAFINA” and “FATHERHOOD.” Mark transitioned to directing with a focus on challenging and thought-provoking themes. His work includes “Encender el Corazon,” a film addressing Mexico's kidnapping crisis. Despite it touching many people deeply, he withdrew the film to expose the criminal activities of the NXIVM cult, detailed in the HBO series “THE VOW.” Today he continues to explore human stories through film, with the goal of shining a light on both the beauty and complexity of the human condition. You can follow Mark Vicente on: Instagram: @ markvicente Twitter: https://twitter.com/markvicente Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/markvicente/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/MarkVicente Website: https://www.markvicente.com "WTF is on my Mind?!" Podcast available on all podcast platforms. Also on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@markvicente7 His Next Film (2024 Release) www.empathynotincluded.com Course with Richard Grannon DECODING CULTS & NARCISSISTS https://www.richardgrannon.com/narcissistic-cults-decoded-course Don't forget to pre-order my book , The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , an
Mon, April 01, 2024
#078 - How to deal with rejection (I'm facing it in real time!)
This is something I'm experiencing firsthand. It's tender, and while some of me still feels low, I'm driven to share my insights with you from my recent experience of rejection. From viewing rejection as feedback to cultivating resilience and prompting deep self-reflection, in this episode I share 5 learnings that have reshaped my perspective. So, if you're facing rejection, remember—it's not defeat but a chance for growth and transformation. Don't forget to pre-order my book , The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance Download The Third Perspective companion guide: https://hachettebookgroup.formstack.com/forms/the_third_perspective_preorder_bonus https://www.hodder.co.uk/books/2024/03/01/pre-order-the-third-persepctive-and-receive-an-exclusive-companion-workbook/ If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, March 25, 2024
#077 - Rejecting urgency culture
Today I want to revisit an episode I did that focused on the importance of rejecting urgency culture. I share some things I'm doing personally and riff out loud with you as well. From honouring my own timeline and why it seems like we are all in such a rush, why I'm dedicated to simplifying and going deeper, to how I'm learning to set realistic expectations without compromising my standards. Don't forget to pre-order my book , The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance Download The Third Perspective companion guide: https://hachettebookgroup.formstack.com/forms/the_third_perspective_preorder_bonus https://www.hodder.co.uk/books/2024/03/01/pre-order-the-third-persepctive-and-receive-an-exclusive-companion-workbook/ If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, March 18, 2024
#076 - Dark side of dating apps, heartbreak, raw attachment style truths - w/ Rebecca Archer
I have my thoughts about what it means to love and be loved in the modern world. What's the real cost of swiping right? Is there truth to attachment styles or has it become a (Western) collective obsession? Is the dating scene really as demotivating and disturbing as people say? In this special episode, I'm joined by someone I've wanted to speak to for a while; the ever-insightful Rebecca Archer. Rebecca, a poet whose words bleed raw emotion, shares her battlefield stories from the front lines of dating apps. She talks about the art of setting boundaries, the seismic shifts caused by heartbreak, and how she channels her experiences into her poetry. Listen in and hear how we don't shy away from the gritty realities of "situation ships" and the relentless pursuit of a connection that's not just skin deep. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Pre-order my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance Connect with Rebecca: Rebecca Archer (Instagram @wandering_in_heels), recently published her first poetry book, Heartbreak, which explores themes in modern day dating. The book documents a decade of being single and is themed around the seven deadly sins of the human heart, such as lust and envy. Taking some artistic licence, Rebecca repositioned the sin of “pride” in a positive way in the final chapter of the book, interpreting it as the “dignity” she eventually found. By exploring negative romantic experiences and dysfunctional relationship-forming patterns, Rebecca has been able to approach the search for love with more accountability and self-respect. Rebecca says, " I do hope that by candidly sharing my experiences of modern dating, I will help others feel less lost and alone. I firmly believe that we attract the love we believe we deserve. For years, I thought I only deserved “scraps”, and so that is what I settled for. Once I learnt to stop being turned on by romantic ambiguity, and started to see stability and security as sexy, everything changed. Never forget: you are worthy of love." You can follow Rebecca Archer on Instagram: @wandering_in_heels Heartbreak is available to buy now at: wordsbyrebeccaarcher.com Heartbreak was written by Rebecca Archer. Designed and published by Couper Street Books. Edited by Susannah Saary. Hand-finished in London by Book Works UK. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts , and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com</
Mon, March 04, 2024
#075 - Let people f*cking help you!
Do you keep avoiding help from others? I'm guilty as charged. In this episode, I'm exploring the obstacles of seeking help and the profound challenge of accepting it. I've battled with this myself, particularly when I was neck-deep in writing my book. I had this mind-blowing psychedelic trip, coupled with deep meditation, and it hit me like a ton of bricks—the lesson of opening up, of not letting this hyper-independence trap me in a "golden cage." It's about the give-and-take, the law of reciprocity, and smashing through the fear of being vulnerable. So hit play and let's break down those barriers of allowing people to help together. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Pre-order my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, February 26, 2024
#074 - How to refuse living in shame
Have you ever wondered what it's like to confront your deepest struggles head-on? Today, I'm revisiting a past episode where I talk about my letter addressing my battle with alcoholism, a letter I wrote in 2017. This letter is a testament to my growth and the crucial role of self-acceptance in my life. I've learned that honesty isn't just a policy; it's the foundation of who I am and who I've become. Join me as I honour the resilience of my past self and dive deep into a conversation about identity, integrity, and the transformative power of embracing personal change. This episode isn't just my story—it's a mirror reflecting the universal challenge of staying true to oneself. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, February 19, 2024
#073 - Be okay with disappointing people
As we journey through life, clashes in values and beliefs are inevitable, often leading to the discomfort of disappointing others. Especially in the realm of online interactions, where diverse perspectives collide, staying true to our integrity can sometimes mean disappointing those around us. In this episode I explore how the pervasive influence of cancel culture amplifies the fear of disappointing others, stifling our authenticity and forcing conformity. But here's the truth: embracing the liberation of disappointing others is not only inevitable but essential for our growth and happiness. Tune in as we navigate the art of setting boundaries and reclaiming your authenticity in a world obsessed with approval. It's time to prioritise your happiness over pleasing everyone else. Let's dare to disappoint together! RESOURCES MENTIONED: PRE-ORDER MY BOOK HERE (thank you in advance!) #060 - Self-reputation: who are you at the mercy of? #024 - Why you don't have to speak up on every social issue If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, February 12, 2024
#072 - It’s time to manage who has access to you
I am so, so deeply grateful for everybody who has pre-ordered my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance . Your support means so much to me! In this episode, I'm discussing something that over the past 8 years, I've grappled with and have refined as time has gone by - this notion of managing who has access to you. Be it friends, romantic partners, family, clients, audience, colleagues, even internet strangers…I covered it all! It’s easy to think that when I speak of ‘access’ I’m defaulting into talking about the physical, but we're transcending the physical and exploring the realms of emotional, mental, and spiritual accessibility. By becoming intentional gatekeepers of our personal space, I want us to know that we can unlock pathways to greater peace, happiness, and personal evolution. RESOURCES MENTIONED: PRE-ORDER MY BOOK HERE (thank you in advance!) #060 - Self-reputation: who are you at the mercy of? #069 - Your circle determines your success If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, January 29, 2024
#071 - How to seduce people socially
Ever walked into a room and felt an INSTANT connection with someone without a single word exchanged? That magnetic energy, that unspoken charisma – that's the power of seduction beyond the obvious. In this episode, I'm stripping away the sexual connotations of the term 'seduction' to explore how it applies to our everyday lives. It's not about manipulation - it's about authentically refining who you are. From feeling something after watching an ad to leaving a memorable impression on everyone you encounter, I'm uncovering the secrets to genuine influence. Make sure to listen because this episode might just change your view on the subtle magic of true social seduction. RESOURCES MENTIONED: #036 - Is it confidence, or an inflated sense of self? If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Tue, January 23, 2024
#070 - Don't be afraid to be seen trying
In this mini-sode I give you an update on all things book, love, life, and VOICE. Although you might not think it, there’s an area where I still experience STRONG RESISTANCE when it comes to activating my voice. Singing. Yes, SINGING. I didn’t expect I would be sharing this in today’s episode but here we are. If you sometimes find it difficult to put effort into things you're passionate about too, and fear is holding you back, this episode is also for you. I’ll be encouraging you to embrace those risks because trust me, you will feel liberated once you let yourself be seen! REALLY seen. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, January 08, 2024
#069 - Your circle determines your success
WE ARE BACK! As we step into the new year, join me as I riff out loud and explore how our social circles influence our personal success; whether we realise it or not. And whether we LIKE it or not. In this episode, I remind you to reflect on the relationships you keep close to you and get honest about how they are helping you expand, or how they might be keeping you stagnant. I had a lot of fun with this one! And some truths were brought to the table, but what’s new…😉 RESOURCES MENTIONED: #018 - Do you know what you stand for? #026 - What happens when the 'toxic person' is you? #034 - Signs you’ve outgrown people, places, and things #068 - What happens when you outgrow YOURSELF? Episodes on Success: #043 - Thinking deeply again, living slowly, redefining success #062 - Tough lessons: owning your toxicity, using your voice confidently, the truth about success Sarah Ann Macklin - Live Well Be Well If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, December 25, 2023
#068 - What happens when you outgrow YOURSELF?
Ever wondered how each new experience moulds the person you're evolving into? Join me in a powerful exploration of self-awareness and transformation. As decisions about who we are in this world unfold, fundamental changes ripple through our beings, shaping our growth. In this episode, I invite you to witness the beauty of conscious evolution, unravel the language of outgrowing, and reflect honestly on who and what we've outgrown. It's also the perfect time to reflect, grow, and reject the pressure of instant success. Tune into this episode and learn that you're not entitled to anything – it's about proving yourself and earning the respect you deserve. RESOURCES MENTIONED: #034 - Signs you’ve outgrown people, places, and things #040 - Rejecting urgency culture & the pressure to do it ALL If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, December 18, 2023
#067 - The trap of attachment style labels
What happens when you start defining yourself, and your way of being by your attachment style? Do they confine us, creating a trap we unwittingly fall into? In this episode I'm exploring if placing a label on ourselves does us any justice. I share my journey, navigating the nuances of Dismissive Avoidant and Fearful Avoidant styles, exploring solitude and the rollercoaster of ambivalence in relationships. It's a journey that questions the very essence of attachment style labels. So if you're curious about this topic and want to hear my experience navigating different attachment styles, then press play! If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, December 11, 2023
#066 - REVISITED: Should the outrage of others stop you from speaking?
Join me in exploring the impactful journey of H, a listener navigating entitlement during pivotal life moments. H shares her experience with entitlement during pregnancy and childbirth. This episode explores the broader theme of politicizing intimate aspects of our lives and why it's important to stand firm in your experience and not allow others to dictate or deny it. I also opened up about my challenges in maintaining authenticity within my sexual wellness company, Cherry Revolution. Sharing with you the pressure to incorporate experiences different from my own. Tune into this episode and explore how has entitlement shaped your narrative, and how you navigate the complexities of staying authentic in your experiences. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, December 04, 2023
#065 - Painful but necessary changes
These past few months have felt heavy. After writing my book for what seemed to be going on for 3 years, I had to rewrite it as I realised I was writing the wrong book. So that's where I've been, rewriting my book which is now in the safe hands of my publishers. I also want to update you on the on-and-off relationship with my ex, the person I love the deepest and share my insights in real-time. So tune in and let's catch up. Resources Mentioned: #048 - Grieving someone who’s still alive (dealing w/ a breakup) If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, October 02, 2023
#064 - Refuse to play the game
No matter what we say or do, there's always someone ready to dissect, criticise, or just plain misinterpret us. But should we let that silence us? Absolutely not. In this episode I ask you some important questions to help you see where you are holding back, censoring your thoughts, or watering down your message because you fear being misunderstood. It's something many of us grapple with, especially in today's climate where even everyday conversations can feel like minefields. So, join me as I explore the uncharted territory of speaking our truth, embracing the chance of being misunderstood, and discovering the profound beauty that lies in genuine conversations. It's time to let our unfiltered selves shine. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, September 18, 2023
#063 - The fear of being left behind
Lately, I've been thinking about the labels society places on us. You might know me as a content creator or influencer, but that's just scratching the surface. My work delves deep, involving research and mentorship. I'm all about exploring self-sabotage and self-censorship and understanding the human experience. For fellow creatives and entrepreneurs, here's a friendly tip: Ditch the "content" label. Take breaks from social media, hone your craft, and live your ideas. Don't rush or mimic others without understanding and don't let algorithms or others' expectations dictate your path. Remember, your worth is not defined by societal labels or external validation, but by your authenticity and commitment to your craft. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, September 11, 2023
#062 - Tough lessons: owning your toxicity, using your voice confidently, the truth about success
Prepare yourself for a thought-provoking exploration of three profound life lessons that shaped my path. Last year Steven Bartlett created a Self Development Coaching project, and I was one of the selected coaches. I led the segment on mental health and different elements of spirituality, but through the lens of very grounded, realistic, sustainable self-improvement. I recently found many of the notes and lessons I did within that program. There were around 12 lessons, so today I'm sharing three of my favourite ones. I share what sparked my path to becoming a confident speaker, why feeling victimised is stopping you from moving forward and how you view success (and not just in the entrepreneurial sense). So tune into this episode and hear me share these lessons, see how some of them have changed for me along the way, and let's create a conversation. Resources Mentioned: The Diary by Steven Bartlett: https://thediary.com/pages/the-diary Book: Say What You Mean by Jay Oren Sofer Courage over Conformity Course - This two-day course is a masterclass in communication. It's a comprehensive, engaging, practical, and completely UNCENSORED exploration of what it will take for you to liberate your mind and your voice - personally and professionally. Buy the course here: https://africabrooke.com/courage-over-conformity-course If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, September 04, 2023
#061 - Confession: I've been writing timidly
Ever wondered what it feels like to get feedback that challenges you to truly be yourself? Well, I've had that experience recently when I received feedback on the first draft of my book. My editors were quick to point out that I was holding back in my writing. Sure, it stung a bit, but I've come to realise the value of their honesty. Let's be real, sharing openly about this is important. As a writer, I've come to understand the power of seeking feedback. Although I'll admit, at first, it felt like a blow, I've come to embrace feedback as a chance for my personal growth. Striking that balance between staying true to myself and considering outside perspectives is a journey I'm fully engaged in. I also share how hitting the milestone of turning 31 has sparked some deep reflections for me. This journey towards sobriety and self-improvement has been a wild ride. Not all smooth sailing, for sure, but each experience has played a part in shaping the person I am today. Resources Mentioned: Courage over Conformity Course - This two-day course is a masterclass in communication. It's a comprehensive, engaging, practical, and completely UNCENSORED exploration of what it will take for you to liberate your mind and your voice - personally and professionally. Buy the course here: https://africabrooke.com/courage-over-conformity-course Wendy / The Completion Coach - And What Else? Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/and-what-else/id1677586535 Sunday Silent Focus Sessions 5-8pm GMT (to register for free, make sure you have a Zoom account and are logged in): https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZMrfu6grjsqHd3r7BgsEpk5mkMJ_7lOQCTr#/registration If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, August 21, 2023
#060 - Self-reputation: who are you at the mercy of?
Who really holds the strings to who you are? Join me as we dive deep into the captivating concept of self-reputation. I'll unravel the risks tied to seeking external validation and instead, offer a path to nurturing a self-reputation that echoes your values and authenticity. In a world where surveillance is the norm, we can't ignore the hurdles. Think of this episode as your compass, guiding you towards fortifying your self-reputation through self-awareness and introspection. Get ready to trust your instincts, embrace your beliefs, and rise above the noise of criticism. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion that might reshape how you view yourself and the power you hold over your identity. Resources Mentioned: Courage over Conformity. This two-day course is a masterclass in communication. It's a comprehensive, engaging, practical, and completely UNCENSORED exploration of what it will take for you to liberate your mind and your voice - personally and professionally. Buy the course here - https://africabrooke.com/courage-over-conformity-course Episode 18 - Do you know what you stand for? If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, August 07, 2023
#059: After Dark: How erotic massages changed my life!
I'm excited to share that I've just submitted my 30,000-word manuscript to my agent, and when I hand in my manuscript to my editor in a few days, my gift to myself is going to be a three hour tantric massage. Yes, it's an erotic massage - but it truly is so much more! Many people find solace and empowerment in these practices, allowing them to rediscover intimacy and heal deep wounds. Join me as I share my personal experiences of the intense effects of these massages. I can't emphasize enough how life-changing it can be. Remember, you deserve to feel whole and free in your own skin. By exploring my own liberation, I share how embracing your sensuality can ripple positively through all areas of your existence. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, July 31, 2023
#058: Do you have high standards, or unrealistic expectations?
I’ve been very excited to sit down and record this episode, GIDDY even! I wanted to have a conversation that has been on my heart and mind for a while. Are our standards getting mixed up with unrealistic expectations? And how is this likely sabotaging all areas of our lives? Let’s talk about it. Join me as I share personal experiences and lessons, emphasising the importance of well-defined, grounded standards in relationships and in life. I discuss the thin line between healthy expectations and disappointment and how setting realistic standards can empower us to create meaningful connections and avoid unnecessary heartache. It’s time to find some balance. If you’ve been eager to work with me, you can take the courageous step towards liberating your voice and your self-expression by joining the Courage over Conformity Virtual Weekender with me in August! It’s all virtual so hopefully that should mean less excuses, and if you cannot make it LIVE - the replay will be sent to you. Discover the art of brave expression, effective communication, self-leadership, and learn how to navigate crucial conversations in a private and supportive space. Don't miss this golden opportunity to challenge limiting cultures and embrace your true voice. Secure your spot here (signing up also puts you in the running to be chosen for a private 1:1 session with me): https://africabrooke.com/courage-virtual-weekender If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, July 24, 2023
#057: The freedom of choicelessness with Light Watkins
In this episode, I had the opportunity to interview Light Watkins about his book 'Travel Light' and the fascinating concept of spiritual minimalism. We delved into the idea of choicelessness and Light explained how it can lead to greater freedom, peace, and contentment. True minimalism starts from within, decluttering not just physical spaces but also minds and beliefs. I wholeheartedly recommend listening to this remarkable conversation, as it offers profound insights that will leave you feeling enlightened. The power of choicelessness and inner work that Light discusses can be truly transformative, guiding you toward genuine fulfillment and genuine self-discovery. Prepare to be inspired and uplifted by the wisdom shared in this episode! Connect with Light Watkins: Order his new book 'Travel light' - https://www.lightwatkins.com/travel Listen to Light's podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-light-watkins-show/id1515614913 Learn more about Light Watkins: Light Watkins is a 20+ year meditation practitioner and teacher who grew up in Montgomery, Alabama. He's written three best-sellers, including Bliss More: How to Succeed in Meditation Without Really Trying, which Book Authority called "The Best Meditation Book of All Time." Light has personally taught meditation to Meghan Markle, Ava DuVernay, Rosario Dawson, and many other celebs and athletes. He's taught thousands of people over the years. And in 2018, Light got rid of all of his belongings and started living from a backpack. This experience inspired his fourth book, Travel Light, which is about what he calls "Spiritual Minimalism," which is the practice of minimalism, but from the inside out. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, July 17, 2023
#056: A message for you: I know you’re exhausted
Have you ever stopped to think about all the challenges and struggles we face in our lives? From financial difficulties to relationship issues and personal growth, it can feel like we're constantly navigating through a storm. But here's the thing - it's okay not to have it all figured out. In fact, it's important to be honest with ourselves and give ourselves the grace to take things one step at a time. I want you to know that you're not alone in your struggles. We all have our battles, and it's okay to ask for help when we need it. So, let's give ourselves some grace and remember that we're all in this together. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, July 10, 2023
#055: Why are you hiding in plain sight?
This question has been on my mind lately as I reflect on the concept of visibility and authenticity. I've noticed that even those who are already famous or in the public eye can struggle with truly being seen. It's as if there's a disconnect between external recognition and internal discomfort. Drawing from my experiences with clients who grapple with visibility, I see the profound impact of self-sabotage and self-censorship on our lives. In this episode, I explore the reasons behind hiding and invite you to break free from fear-driven self-censorship. Let's embrace our visibility and embark on a journey of honest self-reflection. Courage over Conformity: The Virtual Weekender : https://africabrooke.com/courage-virtual-weekender If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, June 19, 2023
#054 - Getting sober, facing shame & taking responsibility - w/ Sarah Ann Macklin
I had a wonderful conversation with my friend Sarah on her podcast 'Live Well Be Well' and I just HAD to share it over here because I know it's going to be a useful resource for many of you. Navigating the road to sobriety might be challenging, but it's also a ticket to greater self-understanding, more meaningful connections, and a significant drop in shame. In this lively episode, I dive into my personal evolution story like never before, and I generously share valuable tools for personal growth and self-awareness. Tune in for an invigorating ride towards self-discovery! Connect with Sarah: Sarah's podcast: https://link.chtbl.com/tmjIGiUd?at=1000l3apm Sarah's Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@livewellbewellsarah?sub_confirmation=1 If you found this episode valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, June 05, 2023
#053: Are you self-censoring? Understanding communication styles in today's culture
Communication breakdown is a major issue today, and learning how to communicate better with ourselves and others is essential. This is where assertive communication comes in. I discuss different communication styles in this episode, including passive, aggressive, and passive-aggressive. Identifying your communication style is crucial to navigating self-censorship, cultural conflicts, and personal relationships effectively. So, the next time you find yourself in a cultural conflict or difficult conversation, remember the power of assertive communication. It may just be the key to finding common ground and understanding. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, May 29, 2023
#052: Are you killing intimacy by avoiding conflict?
Join me on a personal journey exploring conflict avoidance and intimacy. Discover how avoiding discomfort can hinder genuine connections and carry hidden costs. In today's episode (which is one of my favourites!), I share my experiences and how my attachment style shaped my relationships. Hear a poignant story of how conflict avoidance inhibited intimacy in one of my relationships, for seven years. A story which highlights the power of taking emotional risks and having open conversations. I also discuss my struggle with asking for help and steps to change. Let's reflect on areas where conflict avoidance blocks intimacy in our own lives. Let's uncover strategies for authentic connections and growth through the discomfort. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, May 15, 2023
#051 - For those that can no longer delay making THAT decision…
Does it feel like you're being forced to choose between two worlds, and you can no longer straddle them anymore? Today I wanted to give you permission to choose, to let go of past versions of yourself and the ideologies that are not working. I know the struggle of holding onto versions of ourselves that no longer work, but I want to share in this episode the importance of making a decision and reintroducing ourselves to ourselves. I also share where I've been, from celebrating my friend's wedding in the South of France to soaking up the sun in Lisbon, focusing on writing my book and enjoying the culture surrounding me here. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, May 08, 2023
#050 - Can you be fulfilled in life and still participate in cancel culture?
Have you ever questioned if it's possible for someone to participate in cancel culture and still feel fulfilled in life? I dive deep into this topic with empathy and understanding, exploring the emotional dysregulation that may drive people to take part in these rituals and discussing the idea that cancel culture is a form of collective sabotage. Later in the episode, Veronica joins us to share her wisdom and shed light on the importance of forgiveness and meaningful conversations. She speaks candidly about her personal experience of silence and neutrality over the past two years, revealing how it allowed her to make choices without judgment and anger. You won't want to miss this dynamic and enlightening episode that will leave you rethinking your approach to cancel culture. So tune in and get ready to be moved, challenged, and inspired! Veronica's Instagram @iloveisola If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, April 24, 2023
#049 - Why 'faking it till you make it' doesn't work, and what you can do instead
Today we're revisiting Ep 12 and the concept of 'faking it till you make it'. As a coach, I do a lot of work around identity and helping people discover who they truly are. And in this episode, I explore why faking it can be damaging because it takes away from the journey of discovering our true selves. In this episode, I share my insights from my own life on the topic of sex and relationships, as well as lessons I have learned from my work as a coach. I hope that by sharing my experiences, you can gain a better understanding of why "faking it till you make it" is not the best approach. So grab your notes app and get ready to hear my practical tips for self-improvement and the importance of building strong foundations for success. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, April 17, 2023
#048 - Grieving someone who’s still alive (dealing w/ a breakup)
I’ve never shared anything like this publicly… Have you ever experienced the pain of grieving a difficult breakup? Today I'm sharing my current journey through the stages of grief; from denial to acceptance. I’ll be offering my insights through real-time sharing - which is new to me in many ways. Join me as I explore the lessons learned from past relationships, the role of timing, and individual growth in building strong partnerships. If you're looking for guidance on how to move through grieving someone who is alive, this episode is for you. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, April 10, 2023
#047 - It's time to re-introduce yourself, no more hiding!
Have you ever felt like you needed to reintroduce yourself to the world? In this episode, I discuss the power of reintroduction and how it can be a transformative process for changing oneself and being honest with others. I talk about how reintroduction is an invitation to meet the person you are becoming, and it's important to reintroduce yourself to yourself and not worry about other people's opinions. I also give tips in this episode on reintroducing yourself to others and encourage you to make it a conscious practice. An open letter: why I'm leaving the cult of wokeness: https://ckarchive.com/b/d0ueh0h67mpd Episodes I recommend: Episode 18 - Do you know what you stand for? Episode 30 - Why cancel culture thrives on you being a terrible communicator (let's talk solutions!) If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, April 03, 2023
#046 - My deep desire to be led by a man
Staying in integrity with oneself is a non-negotiable for me, and I share my personal experience of accepting my deep desire to be led by a man and doing personal work to understand my fractured relationship with masculinity. I talk about the difference between being controlled and being led in a healthy way and the importance of polarity in relationships. This episode is a must-listen if you want to embrace your desires and honour yourself, even if it means going against what society expects of you. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, March 27, 2023
#045 - Do your public opinions match your private (and most honest) views?
In November, I went on Instagram Live to pose this thought provoking question to my community: Do your public opinions match your private (and most honest) views? Today I'm sharing that live with you so you can hear my views on this question and how different people answer it. Are you being effective with how you communicate or not? Are you willing to die on the hill for every opinion you give? Or are you staying silent in the public eye and showcasing your PR opinion? These are just some of the questions I ask you throughout this episode. I also explore how timing, delivery, tone, and body language play a huge role in how our opinions come across to others. It's easy to have a brave voice online, but when it comes to being confident in person, we need to pay attention to these elements to see how we're coming off to people. So if you're curious about this topic and want to hear different people's answers to this question, then press play! If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, March 20, 2023
#044 - What if your 'imposter syndrome' is pointing to an uncomfortable truth?
This episode is a MUST LISTEN. It's easy to believe you're not worthy, that you shouldn't be where you are, and that you lack the skills for your position. And maybe you're right, but is this really imposter syndrome? Today I'm exploring imposter syndrome in a new light, so when you're listening to this episode, make sure you stay open to what I'm saying! I also share my story of dealing with imposter syndrome and how my lack of experience was right; I wasn't ready, I was overestimating my capabilities. Listen to episode 8 if you want to hear more on Imposter Syndrome. Resources mentioned: https://www.mindtools.com/ If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, March 13, 2023
#043 - Thinking deeply again, living slowly, redefining success
Well, well, well….it’s been a while since we've talked, but good news is in store! In this episode, I wanted to give you a general update (strained voice in tow) and a look into my journey of fighting to get my attention span back! I also share some thoughts on the benefits of choosing slow living, getting curious about what success means to me, and landing on a BOOK TITLE. Dive on in. Book mentioned: Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention - Johann Hari If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with the subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, January 23, 2023
#042 - Are you sabotaging your sex life: porn, intimacy, drugs & alcohol
No option but to get honest...let's talk! Books mentioned: Women’s Anatomy of Arousal - Sheri Winston Tantric Orgasm for Women - Diana Richardson Tantric Orgasm for Men - Diana Richardson Practices mentioned: Pussy Gazing Tantric / Yoni massage If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, January 09, 2023
#041 - Using envy as a motivator (instead of self-sabotaging)
Oh man...something tells me more than a few of us need this one. Let's talk about it. To join the private group I'll be mentoring later this month (January 2023) , head to the below link: https://africabrooke.com/private-group-experience-2023 OH…also, my 12am brain thought this was episode 41 - but it is indeed EPISODE 40😉 If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Tue, January 03, 2023
#040 - Rejecting urgency culture & the pressure to do it ALL
WHEW! If there was ever a more timely episode...THIS IS IT! To join the private group I'll be mentoring later this month (January 2023) , head to the below link: https://africabrooke.com/private-group-experience-2023 OH…also, my 12am brain thought this was episode 41 - but it is indeed EPISODE 40😉 If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, December 19, 2022
#039 - How to have difficult conversations (the ones you’re avoiding)
Our natural instinct as human beings is to avoid things that will likely cause discomfort or pain - navigating difficult conversations is no different. The issue with avoidance though, is that it tends to make things worse - and it amplifies the feelings of anxiety and stress you might have around the conversation. Let's talk about it! To join the private group I'll be mentoring in January, head to the below link: https://africabrooke.com/private-group-experience-2023 If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, December 12, 2022
#038 - Refuse to accept your own bullsh*t
Look what the cat dragged in....ME! With a whole lot of updates and musings for you. Strap in. To join the private group I'll be mentoring in January, head to the below link: https://africabrooke.com/private-group-experience-2023 If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, September 26, 2022
#037 - An URGENT call for independent thinking - w/ Kyle Creek
This audio is from an IG LIVE I had with the brilliant author and creative director - Kyle Creek, who is widely known for his writing under the alias 'The Captain'. *Please excuse the audio quality for this one, I hope the content of our exchange will make up for it, I'm certain it will* WE COVERED: a call for independent thinking, creating personas that become prisons, “NOT A FUCKING ‘CONTENT CREATOR’”, the rewards of victimhood, personal courage, rejecting the division trap, practical ways to undo self-censorship…AND MORE!🤯 If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue! Keep in touch with Kyle: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sgrstk/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/sgrstk Buy his new book: Speech Therapy
Mon, August 15, 2022
#036 - Is it confidence, or an inflated sense of self?
Are you ready to ruffle your own feathers? Do you have an unrealistic view of yourself and others? Are you self-centred, pretentious, or boastful? Do you get aggressive or defensive in the face of criticism? Do you deny that you have areas of weakness that could be worked on? Let me guess...none of these are you, HA! Well, whether you see yourself in these or not. This episode is going to be GOLD in shining a light on unsavoury behaviours that might indicate an inflated sense of self in you, or it might help you identify it in others - then we'll dive into what healthy CONFIDENCE can look like. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, August 08, 2022
#035 - Courage in the face of censorship, courage in the face of your own BS - w/ Salomé Sibonex
This conversation was a wild f*cking ride. So much so, that nearly a week later I am STILL processing all that took place! We covered it all, and I mean ALL: courage in the face of censorship, courage in the face of your own BS, life beyond cancel culture, the sneaky workings of self-sabotage, refusing to dehumanise other people...& SO MUCH MORE. I mean...words alone cannot convey how important this conversation is. See for yourself! If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue! Keep in touch with Salomé: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/salomesibonex/ Podcast: Silver Eye Society (find it on all platforms, inc. YouTube) Twitter: https://twitter.com/SalomeSibonex
Mon, August 01, 2022
#034 - Signs you’ve outgrown people, places, and things
Let's get honest! What happens when you can no longer relate to the people around you, to your surroundings, and to the old versions of yourself? This one's another instant favourite, you'll hear why. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Wed, June 08, 2022
LIVE SHOW announcement: No more outrage
FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER, I’ll be hosting a very special & intimate LIVE recording of my podcast Beyond the Self. On Saturday 18th of June you’ll be able to find me at the International Women’s Podcast festival (Kings Place, London, Kings Cross - 6:45pm) where I’ll be joined on stage by author, educator, historian, creator of Smarter in Seconds- Blair Imani ( @blairimani ). We’ll be having a free flowing conversation exploring the importance of Choosing integrity & humility over outrage on demand, moving away from self-sabotage, and thinking about how we can encourage empathy and understanding when having difficult conversations. JOIN ME IN-PERSON! If you know me well, you’ll know that I don’t, and refuse to, mince my words. But I also believe that respect, humility, and a willingness to learn- are not only the bare minimum but they are a necessary foundation for effective communication. This is what shapes everything I do, and my podcast is no exception. I’m also really excited to have us both serve as a reminder of why viewpoint diversity matters. If you’re looking for an unfiltered approach to personal development and the philosophy of life - you’ll be in the right place. BOOK YOUR TICKET HERE! - I can't wait to finally meet you!
Mon, May 16, 2022
#033 - Are you lying to yourself?
In this final episode of the season, we take the opportunity to call our own BS out and shine a light on where we're not being entirely honest with ourselves, and delve into what we can do to get ourselves whole. Let's get into it! You won't want to miss this one. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, May 09, 2022
#032 - Dare to do things differently
SUBSCRIBE to my new YouTube channel! If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, May 02, 2022
#031 - How to avoid losing your sh*t in a divided world - w/ Mark Groves
Last week I went LIVE with a man I've come to know and truly adore - Human Connection Specialist, friend, and fellow advocate for free expression, Mark Groves - who is also known for being the man behind Create the love and for being the co-founder of the world's first social emotional network - Mined . We left no stone unturned in this fantastic conversation which you can also watch over on Instagram by clicking here . We covered the different layers of self-censorship, censorship on a wider scale (government overreach - and the psychology behind it), the importance of focusing on what you can control, how the past two years has revealed so much about human nature and our need to belong, the division we're seeing run rife in the West, the hope that exists amongst the f*ckery, & MORE. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, April 25, 2022
#030 - Why cancel culture thrives on you being a terrible communicator (let's talk solutions!)
In this episode (originally recorded LIVE on IG) , I covered: are you a more passive-aggressive communicator than you think?, why ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATORS are needed now more than ever, why communication is a missing piece in the cancel culture conversation, why labelling everything as self-censorship isn’t helpful, how to know when you’re self-censoring vs using your social filter (good thing)… …why risking peoples perception of you has to become non-negotiable, what happens when people start to behave exactly like those they claim to oppose… …why a solutions focused approach to our collective disconnect is the way forward, why sharing online shouldn’t be the main point of undoing self-censorship, the gifts of being misunderstood… & SO MUCH MORE. Books mentioned: Non-violent communication by Marshall Rosenberg Say what you mean by Oren Sofer If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, April 18, 2022
#029 - The gifts of being misunderstood
If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, April 11, 2022
#028 - What are you willing to risk?
Playing it safe won't cut it. Let's talk about it.... If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, RATE, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, March 28, 2022
#027 - A personal note: when life humbles you
Subscribe to my new YouTube channel: CLICK HERE NEW EVENT: Book your ticket for the private virtual masterclass I'm hosting (April 9th) on 'How to stop self-censoring in the age of cancel culture': https://africabrooke.com/events If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, March 14, 2022
#026 - What happens when the 'toxic person' is you?
We can all agree that removing people who consistently exhibit toxic behaviours from our life is almost always a good idea. But what happens when that toxic person is you? NEW EVENT: Book your ticket for the private virtual event (April 9th) on 'How to stop self-censoring in the age of cancel culture': https://africabrooke.com/events If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, March 07, 2022
#025 - 5 reasons why I self-censor
NEW EVENT: Book your ticket for the private virtual event (April 9th) on 'How to stop self-censoring in the age of cancel culture': https://africabrooke.com/events If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, February 28, 2022
#024 - Why you don't have to speak up on every social issue
No mincing of words with this one. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, February 21, 2022
#023 - How to stop being rigid in your thinking
(Previously titled: How to exist in a complex world with a binary brain ). Black and white (either or) thinking is great if you need to cross the road or if you’re foraging and need to know whether a mushroom you're about to pick is poisonous or not...but when thinking in extremes (with us or against us, right or left, pro or anti, woke vs anti-woke, right or wrong) becomes the default in every situation - it can become cause for concern. This episode is already a TOP 3 of mine and I know it's one that will resonate with many of you listening. I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to follow, subscribe, leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, February 14, 2022
#022 - What to do when change feels f*cking scary (LIVE Oct 2020)
An audience member reminded me of this fantastic LIVE I did nearly two years ago. It was relevant then, but it feels even more relevant now - for reasons you'll discover as you listen. Be it a romantic breakup, friendship breakup, job transition, career change, displacement, moving home, letting go of an old identity, entering a new relationship, discomfort caused by experiencing success, a shift in your health, or if you're feeling as though change is coming- but you can't quite put your finger on the details...this ep might give you some much needed clarity. As always, I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, February 07, 2022
#021 - Are other people entitled to decide how you use your voice?
" Those who have accepted self-censorship as a part of themselves tend to work overtime to justify the punishment of those who choose to express themselves openly, and without fear. Often their outrage and calls for punishment won’t be based on the contents of what that person is saying, but the fury will be because that person is even DARING to say anything at all." - Africa Brooke I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, January 31, 2022
#020 - The true cost of entitled behaviour
This is one you won't want to miss! I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, January 24, 2022
#019 - The truth shouldn't be controversial
Some juicy answers to some fantastic questions! I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, January 17, 2022
#018 - Do you know what you stand for?
Are you really who you say you are? Let's find out... I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Mon, January 10, 2022
#017 - Why discomfort is good for you
Discomfort gets a bad rep despite it being a crucial component if you want ever to want to exist beyond the confines of your 'comfort zone'. In this episode I make an argument for why we need to embrace it, instead of making an enemy of it. Let's talk about it! I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Fri, December 31, 2021
#016 - Do I need to apologise? And other thoughts
No words of seduction needed - this was a good'un! I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were. It also lights me up when you tag me in the screenshots of you listening, do continue!
Fri, October 22, 2021
#015 - What you're not changing, you're choosing
This was a very personal episode and it's one I think will resonate with many of you listening. Those many layers of identity, huh? I'll let it speak for itself. I appreciate your time and attention, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were!
Fri, October 08, 2021
#014 - How to focus on what you can control
Book your ticket for the private virtual event (October 23rd) on 'How to stop self-censoring in the age of cancel culture': https://africabrooke.com/events _________________________________________________________________ This one was a lot of fun to record! Especially because this is a topic I think about often and love discussing. The idea that we are in full control of our thoughts and feelings is not entirely accurate nor is it something we should buy into without questioning... BUT, when you convince yourself that EVERYTHING is out of your control, and then go through life on autopilot - it’ll be very difficult for you to cultivate emotional intelligence and emotional maturity. So what does the middle ground look like? We explored it in this episode. I appreciate your time and attention, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your pals, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were!
Fri, October 01, 2021
#013 - How to stop self-censoring
Book your ticket for the private virtual event (October 23rd) on 'How to stop self-censoring in the age of cancel culture': https://africabrooke.com/events Read my open letter: Why I'm leaving the cult of wokeness _________________________________________________________________ Are we truly free if we’re constantly afraid of exploring and intentionally expressing our own thoughts and ideas? Let's find out. I appreciate your time and attention, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your loved ones, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were!
Fri, September 24, 2021
#012 - Why 'faking it till you make it' doesn't work, and what you can do instead
'Fake it till you make it' has to be one of the worst widely accepted mantras I've heard in my adult life. This approach to life messes with our sense of self (identity) more than we might realise. It even perpetuates things like imposter syndrome. Perhaps you think it's just semantics, but I believe there's more to it...lets find out! I appreciate your time and attention, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your loved ones, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were!
Fri, September 17, 2021
#011 - Why you might be having an identity crisis
Who am I? What do I believe in? What do I want to do? Do I even agree with this anymore? Those are just a few of the common questions that pull at us when we're questioning our identity and the roles we play in the world. In this gem-filled episode we'll be exploring what identity is, what an identity CRISIS is, how it presents itself in your life, why I believe we're ALL experiencing it as a collective, how you can identify whether this is something you're actually going through- and what you can do about it. This one was F**KING GOOD! I appreciate your time and attention, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your loved ones, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear your feedback and know what your lightbulb moments or breakthroughs were! Episode is Live Published: Oct. 30, 2020 @12PM Edit Unpublish Add a Transcript Get episode better indexed by search engines. Add Chapter Markers Listeners can tap through & see what’s coming up. Create a Visual Soundbite Best way to share to social media for engagement. Share Episode On Facebook Twitter LinkedIn More Options Email Link to Episode Copy Direct Link to MP3Copy Download MP3 Emb
S2 E10 · Fri, September 10, 2021
#010 - Everything about you has changed
What a pleasure it is to be back with you. In this minisode I reintroduce myself and tell you what you can expect in the upcoming series which will tackle all things IDENTITY. As you know, I appreciate your time and attention. If you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your loved ones, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you!. PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear what your lightbulb moments and breakthroughs were!
Fri, October 30, 2020
#009 - How to be f*****g patient! (& 2 other thoughts)
In this episode, I decided to unpack 3 THEMES that have been coming up as of late, and something tells me more than a few of us need to hear it. Let's talk PATIENCE, FEAR, AND ASKING BETTER QUESTIONS! I appreciate your time and attention, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your loved ones, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE : I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear what your lightbulb moments and breakthroughs were!
Fri, October 16, 2020
#008 - How to move through imposter syndrome
I HOPE YOU (and your ego) ARE READY FOR THIS ONE! In this juicy episode we talk all things imposter syndrome. What is it? Where the f**k does it comes from? Can you get rid of it completely? Is there some truth to it? Are you really a fraud? Did you get where you are because of 'luck'?, Do I (Africa Brooke) experience it? How can you navigate imposter syndrome, on a practical level? This topic is one of the most highly requested, for obvious reasons - and it's something I speak about quite a lot in my work. In this episode I introduced you to some ways you can start to approach your experience with it. As always; 'll let the episode speak for itself! I appreciate your time and attention, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your loved ones, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear what your lightbulb moments and breakthroughs were!
Fri, October 02, 2020
#007 - How to break self-sabotaging patterns
Self-sabotage is a F**KER!!!!! This we know...but we don't always do it because we hate ourselves. It's usually out of self-preservation...self-protection... This has to be one of my favourite conversations with you yet. I got honest about some things that I haven't shared in such depth before. We're talking ABOUT BREAKING SELF-SABOTAGING PATTERNS... I'll let the episode speak for itself!!! IT'S THAT GOOD. I appreciate your time and attention, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your loved ones, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear what your lightbulb moments and breakthroughs were!
Fri, August 28, 2020
#006 - How to release perfectionism
Perfectionism is something a lot of us experience. It's something many of us OVER-IDENTIFY with. It's something we sometimes see as a 'positive' thing despite it causing a lot of stress, procrastination, unfinished projects, self-criticism, over-analysing, personal/professional dissatisfaction. In this episode I break down what perfectionism is, where it stems from, how to move away from it, what you can start to cultivate instead - and I also give you some practical steps you can start to integrate into your daily life. I appreciate your time and attention, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share this podcast with your loved ones, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke or you can email me at hello@africabrooke.com with subject line 'Beyond the Self'. I can't wait to hear from you! PLEASE NOTE: I do not give advice in DM's, emails, or comments, but I'd love to hear what your lightbulb moments and breakthroughs were!
Fri, August 14, 2020
#005 - How to identify your own toxic behaviours
Is this REAL!? Is Africa really back with another podcast episode. YES SHE F**KING IS! In this deliciously expansive comeback episode we are diving into all things TOXIC BEHAVIOURS. I must stress that finding out you have ‘toxic’ tendencies that are affecting you and those around you doesn’t mean you’re damaged or lesser, it just means there’s some SERIOUS inner work to do on your part... Have you ever had to accept that you were the toxic potato at any point in life? Or is that where you’re at right now? Listen to this wisdom, soak it in, take what resonates, and decide the next steps step you'll take to make shifts in your life. I appreciate your time and attention, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share it with your loved ones, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke
Fri, May 22, 2020
#004 - How to manage negative thoughts
Pesky negative thoughts! Something we ALL experience, but how we do actually manage them and stop being slaves to each mindset gremlin that decides to pop up? In this episode I shared with you my personal approach to negative thoughts and as Mental Health Awareness Week comes to a close, this conversation is nothing short of timely. Thank you so much for listening, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share it with your loved ones, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke
Fri, May 15, 2020
#003 - Why choosing yourself won't always feel empowering
WHEW! That's best way to describe Episode 3 of the podcast. I explored why 'choosing ourselves' doesn't always feel great and addressed how this happens. When it comes to asserting and exercising our boundaries, owning our worth, liberating ourselves openly - it can feel very unsafe. But why is this, and what can we do about it? This episode explores of all that and more. Thank you so much for listening, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share it with your loved ones, family, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you - @africabrooke
Fri, May 08, 2020
#002 - How to Release Limiting Beliefs
In this episode (recorded in my closet under the Full Flower Moon) I explored all things BELIEFS, and we went beyond the surface. What is a belief? What are LIMITING beliefs? How are beliefs formed? How can you release them? Do limiting beliefs mean there's something wrong with you? Will you always have them? I answered all of these questions, and more. I also offered a practical 4 step process which I use in my personal practice, and with my clients. Carve out some time and soak in the wisdom! Thank you so much for listening, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share it with your loved ones, friends, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you! - @africabrooke
Sat, May 02, 2020
#001 - Why it seems impossible to change
In this introductory episode, I delved into the reason why we find it difficult to make long-lasting changes in our habits and behaviour - it turns out we've been focusing on the wrong thing! You'll love this one, and it will give you an idea of what you can expect from me in this glorious space. Get comfortable, and be sure to bring your ego along. Thank you so much for listening, if you found this valuable - be sure to leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and share it with your loved ones, friends, and community - let's not withhold transformation from each other. You can also connect with me directly over on Instagram, I'd love to continue the conversation with you! - @africabrooke
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