Healthy + Thriving Relationships
Hey Friends! Our greatest passion is helping people experience healthy and thriving relationships. From marriage to faith to yourself, we want all of your relationships to flourish. Meet with us every week, as we discuss how to be successful in all your relationships. Pull up a chair at our virtual table and join the conversation.See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, April 15, 2025
SEX: Surprising Tips & Tricks
SERIES: Sex "Let's talk about sex baby. Let's talk about you and me." That's right. Today we're discussing 4 Surprising Tips & Tricks that will enhance your sex life long-term. Did you catch that? Long-term? We don't want to give you any short term fixes here. No, we want to see you have a long lasting, satisfying sex life with your spouse. So, click play to join the conversation and (later) get your boogie on. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, April 08, 2025
SEX: The Big O
SERIES: Sex "Let's talk about sex baby. Let's talk about you and me." Ooooooh man, yes, we're going there. Ladies this one is for you, well mostly. Guy's we know you long to satisfy your woman and how disappointing it is if you seemly "can't." Today's topic: How in the heck do you get a woman to orgasm? Not only is not being able to reach orgasm for a woman incredibly frustrating, when we don't understand how to make this happen, it leads to a lot of other sex problems like: Fake Orgasms The Minute Man (quickies every time) Just, not having sex. Sexual frustration for both parties. Insecurity We want to see your sex life thrive! So let's talk about getting her there. You're welcome. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, April 01, 2025
SEX: Frequency Fights
SERIES: Sex "Let's talk about sex baby. Let's talk about you and me." Actually, let's talk about frequency - how do you get on the same page about this in marriage without fighting about it all the time? The problem is that men generally want more sex in marriage while women generally wish he wanted it less, right? This causes a lot of fights as well as hurt feelings. And it’s more than a schedule problem, it leads both parties to feeling unloved. So in today's discussion we are going to peel back the layers of what's going on underneath. He's not just a sex craved monster and she really does desire you. Could the solution be as simple as seeing the beautiful dynamics God created in each of us when it comes to sex and sexuality? We think so! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, March 25, 2025
SEX: The Things We Bring to Bed
SERIES: Sex "Let's talk about sex baby. Let's talk about you and me." We all want to have good sex, right? But do you want to know what is perhaps one of the #1 barriers to getting in the way? Our past history! So many of us haven’t processed our pasts. And our past influences our sex life more than we could imagine. How you think about sex is an indication of your background. And until we (and our spouse) is aware of 1) how our past effects us, 2) confront it, and 3) find healing—we'll be unable to experience the sex we long for. So where do we start? And how do you do it together? Press play to join the discussion :) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, March 18, 2025
SEX: The Top 3 Myths
SERIES: Sex "Let's talk about sex baby. Let's talk about you and me." We all want good sex. But the problem is that SO much misinformation is causing bad sex. So where is this misinformation coming from? The usual culprit, current culture! We see the messages in movies & tv shows; we read them in books and listen to them in music. We even hear bad info through family, friends, or other social influencers. But these myths about sex are putting so much pressure on us. Can you feel it? It’s a weight causing stress, confusion, frustration, anxiety, depression and insecurity. Here's the good news, learning the truth about God's design for sex and that He actually desires for us to have great sex in marriage, free’s us to experience the pleasure and joy God always intended for us. What could be better than that?! And that’s what we’re going to do today - bring truth! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, March 11, 2025
Can a Man and Woman be Just Friends?
This idea of a man and woman being just friends is a controversial debate - everyone has their own stance. You either believe it can happen or it’s not possible. But considering Tarah was "friend zoned" by Gordon for years, what do we think? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, March 04, 2025
RoMANces (Ep. 5): How a Man Defines Loyalty
SERIES: RoMANces How to Romance Your Man. This series has been all about men and how to love them well. Because they really are more complicated than we give them credit for. Even if complicated is just another word for different. Men and Women are different and how we give and receive love will look different too. And that's the same for the idea of loyalty. For most women when we think of disloyalty, particularly in marriage, we typically think of infidelity. I know I do. But to a man, loyalty means so much more! In fact, to him, loyalty is the ultimate test of love. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, February 25, 2025
RoMANces (Ep 4): What Every Man Desires From a Woman
SERIES: RoMANces How to Romance Your Man. That's right! This series is for all the men. Over the last 30 years or so, culture has told men that they aren't needed or wanted and they've been pushed to the side. We think this needs to be remedied. And one of the easiest ways - just like all things in relationships - is to understand him. Let's talk about ego's. Let's be honest, most of us women tend to put down our men or tell them how stupid they are for the sake of their "big ego." We think we know best. But ladies, maybe he doesn't have as big of ego as we think he does? Could it be a front? And also, don't we want him to draw close to you? To see the depth of his heart? Then we must do one thing ever man desires — and it might surprise you. But to love him well it's critical we understand this. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, February 18, 2025
RoMANces (Ep 3): How to Make a Man Feel Proud
SERIES: RoMANces How to Romance Your Man. That's right! This series is for all the men. Ladies, as women, do you ever long to spend more time together but feel like there is not enough time or do you ever feel like he doesn't open up? What we don't realize is that the solution to finding the time, feeling more connected, and even getting him to open up, might be simpler than we think (hurray!). And in the process, we will help our men feel incredibly loved. So, what's the solution? Click play to find out! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, February 11, 2025
RoMANces (Ep 2): How Men Feel About What Women Say
SERIES: RoMANces How to Romance Your Man. That's right! This series is for all the men. Over the last 30 years or so, culture has told men that they aren't needed or wanted and they've been pushed to the side. We think this needs to be remedied. And one of the easiest ways - just like all things in relationships - is to understand him. Ladies, we hold a lot of power in our words. And although the above statement of "men not being needed or wanted" may not be true, oftentimes what we're trying to convey through words doesn’t impact our men the way we hope it will. If you want to express your feelings, thoughts, and desires in a way that motivates him and makes him feel loved, you need to use your words carefully. So, today we'll discuss what words to say, how to say them, and when. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, February 04, 2025
RoMANces (Ep 1): How a Man Defines Love
SERIES: RoMANces How to Romance Your Man. That's right! This series is for all the men. Have you ever heard the phrase, "women brains are like a plate of spaghetti?" As women, we can be so complicated which makes men seem simple (their brains are like waffles right?). But this can and has become a problem. Could it be that we’re not taking the time to really understand our men and their needs? Over the last 30 years or so, culture has told men that they aren't needed or wanted and they've been pushed to the side. We think this needs to be remedied. And one of the easiest ways - just like all things in relationships - is to understand him. Today we'll discuss what love means to him, because feeling loved in his mind — is probably not what you, ladies, would expect. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, January 28, 2025
Life Myths: “It’s My Life”
SERIES: Life Myth's There are a lot of things we say that sound really good, so good in fact, that we've come to believe them! Can you hear every teenager in North America? Well, today it's not only teens making this statement, sadly it's adults too. We've all said it at some point or another - maybe multiple times! So what's the deal? Where did this idea come from and is it legit? Join Gordon and Tarah as they discuss. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, January 21, 2025
Life Myths: "Divorce is Fine if You’re Not Happy"
SERIES: Life Myth's There are a lot of things we say that sound really good, so good in fact, that we've come to believe them! In today's episode we'll discuss if our ultimate happiness is the most important, see where this idea comes from, and look over the actual studied results for people who divorce for this reason alone. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, January 14, 2025
Life Myths: "You Must Date Someone To Get to Know Them"
SERIES: Life Myth's There are a lot of things we say that sound really good, so good in fact, that we've come to believe them! But is the only way to get to know someone (especially someone of the opposite sex), to date them? Today we'll discuss why jumping into dating right away could be detrimental and shed some truth on the current dating scene. Also, our thoughts on the best way to get to know someone and how it could save you friendships in the long run. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, January 07, 2025
Life Myths: "People are Basically Good"
SERIES: Life Myth's There are a lot of things we say that sound really good, so good in fact, that we've come to believe them! But are we actually good? Today we'll talk about where this idea came from, why it's not helpful to us, how we can re-think this idea and embrace the truth of our humanity. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, December 17, 2024
Online Dating (Ep 2): The Do’s and Don’ts
MINI SERIES: Online Dating Online Dating used to be kind of weird, now it’s the norm. But our question is, is it working? We wonder, What are the results? Is the experience for Men and for Women, similar? And most importantly, is there a way to go about online dating that works better or should we burn it to the ground? In this mini-series, we’ll share interesting results that are being studied, our thoughts and options on the topic, and then some helpful tips. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, December 10, 2024
Online Dating (Ep. 1): Interesting Results, Thoughts & Opinions
MINI SERIES: Online Dating Online Dating used to be kind of weird, now it’s the norm. But our question is, is it working? We wonder, What are the results? Is the experience for Men and for Women, similar? And most importantly, is there a way to go about online dating that works better or should we burn it to the ground? In this mini-series, we’ll share interesting results that are being studied, our thoughts and options on the topic, and then some helpful tips. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 Enull · Tue, December 03, 2024
Dating Today: How to Transition from “Me” to “We”
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. We struggle with transitioning into the final stage of “seriousness” - marriage. Maybe you're unsure about how to prepare for the transition from “me” to “we," or you don’t know that you can have a great marriage right from the start. Did you know that most people’s first year is really hard? I'm sure you've heard. But did you know that the majority of divorces occur within the first 5 years? We don't want that for you. So let's discuss how to transition well from "me" to "we." See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 E12 · Tue, November 19, 2024
Dating Today: When Should We Move in Together?
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. Today's topic, moving in together, has an array of conflicting ideas. Maybe you think waiting until marriage is "old-fashioned -- you have to live together to know if you're compatible, right?" Or maybe you're one of the "traditional" ones and want to hold on to the ideals that you were raised in. So which is it? When should you move in together? Click play to join the conversation! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 E11 · Tue, November 12, 2024
Dating Today: Is Pre-Marital Counseling Worth it?
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. Especially around pre-marital counseling. If there is one thing we are passionate about it's to intentionally prepare for your marriage. So, in today's episode we discuss things like, is pre-marital counseling worth it? What is it? What prevents us from doing it and when should you start. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 E10 · Tue, November 05, 2024
Dating Today: When Should it Get Serious?
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. We all have a different idea of what “serious” means. And let's be honest, sometimes we aren’t very intentional to begin with which makes this Q, when do we get serious? even more confusing, right? We understand that we all move at different paces and sometimes a couple will "advance" sooner than another. So in this episode we talk about 4 stages of seriousness, what they mean and when to intentionally move from one to another. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 E9 · Tue, October 29, 2024
Dating Today: Does the Past Matter?
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. Don't we all long to be accepted and loved despite our past choices, mistakes, and histories? Due to this, we might say, “The past doesn’t matter. It’s about who we are now.” Later we start to have problems, fights, and misunderstandings. The irony is this: To give ourselves a future we must step into the past. So, does the past matter? *spoiler alert* YES! But how do we talk about it? How to we share while not oversharing? And when is it too soon or too late? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 E8 · Tue, October 22, 2024
Dating Today: When to Break Up. When to Start Dating Again
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. Today's topic is chalk-full of questions! When should I break up with someone? What should I do if someone breaks up with me? How do I heal from a breakup? When should I start dating again? All legit and important to know. So, let's discuss! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 E7 · Tue, October 15, 2024
Dating Today: When Should I Introduce Family and Friends?
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. When do you introduce the person you’re dating to your friends and family? When is it too soon? When is too late? The cultural “consensus” is usually that it’s private. You start alone and eventually (once it gets serious) you introduce first to friends and then if that goes well to family. But what if this path is causing a lot of unnecessary pain and frustration? What if there’s a better way? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 E6 · Tue, October 08, 2024
Dating Today: How Much Time Should We Spend Together?
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. When we start dating there is a tendency to push current relationships and commitments aside for this new exciting person. This causes lots of problems! From losing the the benefit of hearing what your trusted friends & family think early on to trying to get “back to real life” and return to your other relational responsibilities and commitments, time can be tricky to juggle. So, join us as we discuss all the in's and out's of making time for each other. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 E5 · Tue, October 01, 2024
Dating Today: How to Build Your Physical Intimacy While Dating
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. Today we'll discuss when and how to build up physical intimacy while dating because culture's done a great job at overemphasizing this dynamic. Could it be that we have a lot of misunderstandings around what physical intimacy means and how it works? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 E4 · Tue, September 24, 2024
Dating Today: How to Build Your Emotional Intimacy While Dating
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. While dating it can be really easy to fool ourselves into thinking we’re emotionally close because we have such strong feelings. But the reality is that emotional intimacy is not the same as feelings. Feelings come and go, but true emotional intimacy creates lasting bonds. So, how do we build a deep emotional intimacy that’s not swayed by our feelings or external circumstances? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 E3 · Tue, September 17, 2024
Dating Today: How to Build Your Friendship While Dating
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. There is one thing however that most experts can agree on - the base of a great marriage is friendship. But here's the rub. Most dating relationships are romance focused (emotional & physical), not friendship focused. Which doesn’t prepare us well for marriage. So the question is: How do you build your friendship foundation while dating? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 E2 · Tue, September 10, 2024
Dating Today: Is Physical Attraction Important?
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. And could we be making even harder on ourselves to find good people? Is our misunderstanding or overemphasis on physical attraction actually sabotaging our changes at finding quality people? Let's discuss! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S4 E1 · Tue, September 03, 2024
Dating Today: How to Find Someone Worth Dating
SERIES: Dating Today Dating today can be tough. Especially when we often have different ideas about dating (how to go about it, who to date, who's serious and who's not, etc.), and not to mention the wide range of bad advice floating around out there. Throughout this series we'll be talking how to go about dating for the purpose of preparing us for marriage. Because we believe that we must have marriage in mind. We don’t date just to have a good time — that’s using people, right? SO, today, let's start from the beginning and discuss how in the world do you even find someone worth dating? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E36 · Tue, May 28, 2024
Toxic Things We Say: "Sex Positive"
SERIES: Toxic Things We Say There are a lot of popular phrases accepted in culture right now in the name of things like mental health, freedom and love. However, could these claims that are supposedly helpful actually be extremely toxic to us? Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death.” In this episode we’ll talk about a popular belief, discuss why it appears to be right and shed light on how it could actually lead us towards toxic ideas about ourselves, and our relationships. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E35 · Tue, May 21, 2024
Toxic Things We Say: "Be True to Yourself"
SERIES: Toxic Things We Say There are a lot of popular phrases accepted in culture right now in the name of things like mental health, freedom and love. However, could these claims that are supposedly helpful actually be extremely toxic to us? Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death.” In this episode we’ll talk about a popular belief, discuss why it appears to be right and shed light on how it could actually lead us towards toxic ideas about ourselves, and our relationships. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E34 · Tue, May 14, 2024
Toxic Things We Say: "You Only Live Once"
SERIES: Toxic Things We Say There are a lot of popular phrases accepted in culture right now in the name of things like mental health, freedom and love. However, could these claims that are supposedly helpful actually be extremely toxic to us? Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death.” In this episode we’ll talk about a popular belief, discuss why it appears to be right and shed light on how it could actually lead us towards toxic ideas about ourselves, and our relationships. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E33 · Tue, May 07, 2024
Toxic Things We Say: "Whatever Makes You Happy"
SERIES: Toxic Things We Say There are a lot of popular phrases accepted in culture right now in the name of things like mental health, freedom and love. However, could these claims that are supposedly helpful actually be extremely toxic to us? Proverbs 14:12 says, “There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death.” In this episode we’ll talk about a popular belief, discuss why it appears to be right and shed light on how it could actually lead us towards toxic ideas about ourselves, and our relationships. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E32 · Tue, April 30, 2024
Healthy Communication: Communication That Hurts
SERIES: Healthy Communication There are ways we communicate and things we do or say that are hurtful to our relationships. So, today we're going to talk about the things NOT to do when communicating. Because until we can recognize what these are the more we'll be able to embrace healthy communication principles and techniques that will bring flourishing to our loved ones. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E31 · Tue, April 23, 2024
Healthy Communication: How to Talk Through the Tough Stuff
SERIES: Healthy Communication One of the biggest problems in communication is talking about the tough stuff. We oftentimes either make it worse, or we just avoid the tough stuff altogether. But the thing is, if you want to have rich, meaningful, long-lasting relationships, then you have to practice talking through the hard things well. So, we've created a few healthy guidelines or "rules" to follow when confronting the ones you love. And the great news? If you keep practicing these guidelines, your relationships will come out stronger and deeper than you thought possible! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E30 · Tue, April 16, 2024
Healthy Communication: Staying Connected
SERIES: Healthy Communication This series has been all about how to communicate well in your relationships. Because when our relationships are filled with miscommunication that often leads us to disconnection. Do you feel disconnected in your relationships? Or maybe you feel connected but want to learn how to keep it that way? Today we'll talk about how to keep the connection alive once it's established. Because surprisingly, there are actual habits you an incorporate to keep the connection alive and thriving. And that's what we all long for :) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E29 · Tue, April 09, 2024
Healthy Communication: Different Folks, Different Strokes
SERIES: Healthy Communication If you've ever played Charades you know how difficult it can be to communicate. Now imagine you can only communicate that way. Oy. But doesn't it feel like that's the truth at times? Like you’re trying to get your point across but they never understand? It's as if you each speak a different language. It's probably because you are. And until you can learn their languages or see the world through their “lenses,” all communication techniques will fail. There are 3 major lenses that will shape the way we experience the world. And if we can understand them, our communication will automatically become better. So, let’s dive in! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E28 · Tue, April 02, 2024
Healthy Communication: Texting Rules for Relationships
SERIES: Healthy Communication Remember passing notes? This was pre-cell phone era for those of you non-millenials. We loved passing notes! There was an element of danger because your teacher could catch you at any moment, but sometime what you had to say was just too worth it. Texting has been the adult form of passing notes since cell phones became popular but it's never been quite as simple. What are the rules? Are there any? When we communicate over text there are all sorts of possibilities for miscommunication. So, to make it easier, in this episode we'll share a few of our "ground rules" for communicating via text. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E27 · Tue, March 26, 2024
Healthy Communication: The Biggest Reason We Miscommunicate
SERIES: Healthy Communication Most problems in Relationships come down to miscommunication. Because lack of clarification = frustration. We want you to have thriving relationships, but that means you must do the work to communicate well. This episode in particular, we'll take a look at how our family culture and our family background play a huge part in our communication with others. Which may leave you wondering, "how in the world does understanding our family culture help us with communication?" Well, click play to find out ;) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E25 · Tue, March 19, 2024
Porn: How to Win the Battle - Ep. 3
SERIES: How to Support Your Porn Addicted Husband The last few weeks we've discussed why he struggles with pornography and how we, as women and wives, can partner with our husband in the path to recovery. Today, we'll switch from a defensive stance to an offensive. Because so often we wait until pornography becomes a problem before being his refuge. Which means we must be proactive to stop the enemy before he even get's to our front door. We want to see our men to never stumble again, right? But is this future even possible? We think it is! That's why we'd love for you to click 'play' and join the conversation :) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E24 · Tue, March 12, 2024
Porn: What’s Her Role in This? - Ep. 2
SERIES: How to Support Your Porn Addicted Husband Many of us have faced the difficulties and heartbreaks that surround sexual addiction. Gordon and I have had the unfortunate experience of this in our own life. Ladies, oftentimes your natural response to this betrayal is: “I hurt too much to help.” “Why should I help? It’s not my problem” “Why can’t you just get over it? I don’t ever feel tempted with this…” However, in saying these things, we leave our men to fight alone. And this often leads them towards feelings of shame and guilt, so, he hides the problem. But hiding is where sin thrives. The Devil isolates, so that he can assassinate. Ladies, we must help our husbands fight. But what does that role look like exactly? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E23 · Tue, March 05, 2024
Porn: Why Does He Struggle? - Ep. 1
SERIES: How to Support Your Porn-Addicted Husband Porneia . It is the root word of Pornography. And it’s the Greek word Paul uses in 1 Corinthians 6:13, translated as “sexual immorality.” In the next couple of weeks, we’re going to focus on the issue of pornography because it's deeply personal to us both and something we protect ourselves against daily. The reality is that most men struggle with this addiction. But they love their wives and children and want to be faithful to them. And most men do believe women are valuable and don't want to objectify them. So why is it such a struggle, for all men, even the good ones? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E22 · Tue, February 27, 2024
Strange Things Happy Marriages Do
Do you long for one of those marriages that always seem really happy? Isn’t this why we get married, why we don’t want to be single? But then Roommate Syndrome kicks in. Things don’t feel the same… You look at those happy couples and think: How do they have that and we don't? They must have just found “the One” But the truth is, no matter where you are in your marriage -- whether you’ve been married for years or your newlywed; whether you’re doing well or struggling -- there are practical things you can do that will almost instantly make your marriage better. But beware… they’re kind of strange! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E20 · Tue, February 20, 2024
Step 4: Feel the Rhythm! Feel the Rhyme! (Crushin' Anxiety)
SERIES: Crushin' Anxiety Definition of Anxiety: anxiety is what we feel when we are worried, tense, or afraid. Particularly about things that are about to happen, or which we think could happen in the future. We all feel anxious sometimes. But it's about how we respond that will determine if we "suffer" from it. This whole series we've talked through what to do when Anxiety attacks. But is there anything we can do that’s preventative? To attack anxiety before it even gets to us? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
Tue, February 13, 2024
Valentines Day Tips
Gordon is the king of celebrations and making a girl feel special. Ever since we began dating all those years ago he has done something to make the day special. Does it always have to be a BIG event? No. Should he just do nothing? Well, no ;) It's just about doing something - ya man's gotta put in some work! Ok, Ladies too...sometimes ;) Maybe you want to do something you just have no idea what to get her/him for valentines day. Well my friend, we've got you! Listen in for some great tips to make your day special and separate from the rest. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E19 · Tue, February 06, 2024
Step 3: Can’t take my eyes off of You (Crushin' Anxiety)
SERIES: Crushin' Anxiety We all feel anxious sometimes. But it's about how we respond that will determine if we "suffer" from it. Because God is good, He gives us step-by-step instructions on how to handle our anxieties (so good!). Paul says the first thing we need to do when we start feeling anxious is to remember where we place our hope, which is in Jesus and the future He's promising. The second step is to involve Jesus in every area of our life. And we do that by telling Him our needs and thanking him daily through prayer. But that isn't all. There is something vital we must also do. And that's what we're going to unpack today. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E18 · Tue, January 30, 2024
Step 2: Throw ya hands in the air! (Crushin' Anxiety)
SERIES: Crushin’ Anxiety We all feel anxious sometimes. But it's about how we respond that will determine if we "suffer" from it. Because God is good, He gives us step-by-step instructions on how to handle our anxieties (so good!). Paul says the first thing we need to do when we start feeling anxious is to remember where we place our hope. But there's a second thing we also need to do and that's what we're going to dive into today. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E17 · Tue, January 23, 2024
Step 1: So Fresh & So Clean (Crushin' Anxiety)
SERIES: Crushin’ Anxiety Do you ever feel anxious? Or fearful? Well, you're not alone. One study revealed that 40 Million Americans currently have an Anxiety Disorder. We get it! Statistics can be overwhelming, but they prove where our culture is at right now. And our "go-to" response to ease our worries isn't helping. Cures like numbing out on XYZ, just aren't working. So, how do we crush anxiety when it rears its ugly head? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E16 · Tue, January 16, 2024
How to Set Goals that Actually Work (Goals Getaway - Pt 2)
SERIES: Goals Getaway Most Resolutions, Dreams, and Goals fail . Simply because most of us go about it all wrong. Today we discuss how to set up goals that actually work and set you up for success. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E15 · Tue, January 09, 2024
What Our Yearly Retreat Looks Like (Goals Getaway - Pt 1)
SERIES: Goals Getaway Married Friends: Do you ever feel disconnected in your marriage? Your family? Do you ever notice that you’re not on the same page? Are you constantly fighting about how you should spend your time, your money, or even how to raise your kids? Single Friends: Does your life ever feel like a treadmill? You’re active and busy and working really hard, but you aren’t really going anywhere? Or maybe you DO know what you want or where you want to go but you’re not getting any closer? It may be time to add this yearly retreat to your calendar ;) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E13 · Tue, December 12, 2023
Boundaries with Technology
SERIES: Boundaries Uncovering Your “Yes” in a World of Opportunity The rise in technology over the last 30 years has led to tons of change, but not all for the better. Our social and communication skills have both decreased, not to mention an increase in miscommunication. We are addicted to overstimulation and overspending (Have to buy the latest ____). And don't get us started on what it's done to kids in schools with bullying and lowering self-esteem. HOWEVER, surprisingly technology isn't the problem. It's how we use technology that makes all the difference. In fact, the difference between technology being a blessing instead of a curse is the boundaries we put in place. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E12 · Tue, December 05, 2023
Boundaries with Money
SERIES: Boundaries Uncovering Your “Yes” in a World of Opportunity Studies show that money is one of the #1 causes of extreme stress & anxiety in our country. We are in severe debt, not to mention the rising cost of living. OY. Here's the good news! The difference between surviving vs. thriving or anxiety vs. peace in relation to money doesn't necessarily have to do with how much you make but with your money habits. So, how do we set healthy boundaries around money so that we can get to a place of peace & thriving? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
Tue, November 28, 2023
Boundaries for Holidays (Pt. 2)
SERIES: Boundaries Uncovering Your “Yes” in a World of Opportunity See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
Tue, November 21, 2023
Boundaries for Holidays (Pt. 1)
SERIES: Boundaries Uncovering Your “Yes” in a World of Opportunity See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E11 · Tue, November 14, 2023
Boundaries Between Work + Rest
SERIES: Boundaries Uncovering Your “Yes” in a World of Opportunity Our culture is exhausted. Emotionally, physically, mentally & spiritually. We don’t know how to rest. We don’t know how to work. We have no "balance" between work & rest. So, what do we do? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E10 · Tue, November 07, 2023
Boundaries with Friends
SERIES: Boundaries Uncovering Your “Yes” in a World of Opportunity F.R.I.E.N.D.S We want the ideal from this 90's sitcom, but just don't know how to get the real thing. Many of our friendships these days are non-committal and disloyal. We have difficult conversations via text rather than in person. And let's not even touch on how much gossip and slander are considered normal. And oftentimes we have different ideas of the kind of friendship we’re looking for (a long-term BFF or just buddies). Today we'll tackle friendship questions like, how do you know which friends are toxic and which aren’t? When is it time to let go and when to fight for a friendship? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E9 · Tue, October 31, 2023
Boundaries with Parents
SERIES: Boundaries Uncovering Your “Yes” in a World of Opportunity Maneuvering an adult relationship with parents can be difficult - from unsolicited advice and enabling to a complete absence of their presence. There's often a lack of boundaries somewhere in the relationship that leads to conflict and tension. So, how do we set boundaries around this relationship that help make it thrive? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E8 · Tue, October 24, 2023
Boundaries for Marriage
SERIES: Boundaries Uncovering Your “Yes” in a World of Opportunity Have you ever felt disconnected from your spouse? Maybe sometimes you feel like you're in it alone? Many married people go about life living like roommates or even experienced the hurt of unfaithfulness in the marriage. Oftentimes the extreme feelings of bitterness, resentment, or contempt that result lead us or even others to believe that marriage is the problem. But there's hope! We are confident that if couples can learn to create healthy boundaries in their marriages they can transform from a union of simply surviving to one of thriving. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E7 · Tue, October 17, 2023
Boundaries: Uncovering Your “Yes”
SERIES: Boundaries Uncovering Your “Yes” in a World of Opportunity We are surrounded possibly more than ever by toxic/unhealthy relationships. The results aren't good: 1) we're lonely and stressed, 2) our mental, physical, and emotional health is deteriorating, and 3) anxiety and depression have spiked! These are personal results from relationships gone wrong. So, how do we protect what's important from deterioration? What is something that we can apply to each of our relationships that would improve the state of our hearts? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E6 · Tue, October 10, 2023
Pt. 6 Deep Pleasures (Men + Women)
SERIES: Men + Women How to Come Together as Male and Female Over the course of this series, we've discussed our core differences, the intrinsic value that each of us brings to the table, and how each of us is wired uniquely. The big question we've been asking (and answering) has been, how do we love each other better as men and women? What is it that men really want? And what do women really want? Today we're going to lay it out for you in very actionable steps. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E5 · Tue, October 03, 2023
Pt. 5 Why Would You Think That!? (Men + Women)
SERIES: Men + Women How to Come Together as Male and Female This series has 2 Arcs. The 1st Arc, which we've been in this whole series, is all about the principles. The 2nd Arc, which we'll jump into today, is about practicalities. Why are women so complicated? Why do men just not get it? It may seem there is no logic or reasoning behind the madness of why communication can be so difficult. But it all comes down to a few insights about each other that are surprisingly not too complicated ;) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E4 · Tue, September 26, 2023
Pt. 4 Sins, Curses, and Who Started it? (Men + Women)
SERIES: Men + Women How to Come Together as Male and Female God desired for us to love each other well but…It feels like Men + Women are at War with each other. Where did this war begin? We blame each other for the bad things we do as men + women. Who’s fault is it anyway? Who started this eternal fight? And why do we do the horrible things we do as men, and as women? All questions, we hope to bring clarity about in today's episode. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E3 · Tue, September 19, 2023
Pt. 3 Women: Our Core Questions, Fears, and Longings (Men + Women)
SERIES: Men + Women How to Come Together as Male and Female The first step in loving each other well as men + women is accepting that we are different, but equally valued by God (Pt. 1 in this series). The next step is to understand what those core differences are. Ladies: What do you long for deeply? What question do you hope to find an answer to in the fight for "equality?" Join the conversation! They may not be what you’d expect... See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E2 · Tue, September 12, 2023
Pt 2. Men: Our Core Questions, Fears, and Longings (Men + Women)
SERIES: Men + Women How to Come Together as Male and Female The first step in loving each other well as men + women is accepting that we are different, but equally valued by God (Pt. 1 in this series). The next step is to understand what those core differences are. Men, we're coming at you first! We'll tackle topics like what's a man's core fear? What do they intrinsically long for? What is the root question of the masculine heart? Join the conversation! The answers will surprise you and they may not be what you’d expect... See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S3 E1 · Tue, September 05, 2023
Pt 1. Is Equality the Goal? (Men + Women)
SERIES: Men + Women How to Come Together as Male and Female God desired for us to love each other well but…it feels like Men and Women are at war with each other. So, how do we love each other better as men and women? This series has 2 Arcs. The 1st Arc is about the core principles of who we are as Men + Women. While the 2nd Arc is about practical things like how we see the world and what love means from those different lenses. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E36 · Tue, May 30, 2023
How to Enjoy Every Season of Life
How to Enjoy Every Season of Life Our Secret to Finding Contentment in Every Stage of Life When I (Tarah) started this online business, I didn’t know that it would take me 3+ years to even get it barely off the ground. It's changed a lot since those days. Now it's the 2 of us and we are still in the early stages of our business. You could say we are a “micro startup.” And the waiting isn’t fun. Gordon and I are what most people would call “starving artists.” While we are not actually starving, we are living at a bare minimum. But it’s a good season. It’s a growing season. It’s a learning season. It’s a season where we can understand how to manage what we do have in a healthy way so that hopefully one day we can learn to manage more. There are days, though, when this season of life seems to drag on and I wonder when it will change. When will our season of barely scraping by, pass? Did I mention patience is really challenging for me? It’s hard to feel content and happy when the world ( and sometimes those closest to us ) tells us where we need to be in life. We need to have this career, that husband, this many babies…we need to look like that, have a house that’s “Fixer Upper” perfect, make this much money, and on and on and on. So how do we find contentment in a world of comparison? Join the convo by clicking play :) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E35 · Tue, May 23, 2023
Save Dating for Marriage. (Healthy + Thriving Dating - Pt 6)
SERIES: Healthy + Thriving Dating Ancient Wisdom in a Modern Context. Isn't if funny how dating can sometimes go down the drain after marriage? We get it. Life gets busy, especially when you add kids to the mix. But to set yourself up for long term happiness and connection, we have to spend time together. Maybe we have dating all backwards? Could it be that it's more important to focus on dating once you're married? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E34 · Tue, May 16, 2023
God is a Fan of Sex. (Healthy + Thriving Dating - Pt 5)
SERIES: Healthy + Thriving Dating Ancient Wisdom in a Modern Context. Healthy and thriving dating is all about setting yourselves up for great success in marriage. Because for most of us, marriage is the ultimate goal. But when is comes to sex and dating, we couldn't be farther away from marital success. Cultures way of preparing us is setting us up for hurt, disappointment, and lack of sexual connection in marriage. God wants you to experience something greater! What does that look like? Hit play to join the conversation :) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E33 · Tue, May 09, 2023
Modern Courtship. (Healthy + Thriving Dating - Pt 4)
SERIES: Healthy + Thriving Dating Ancient Wisdom in a Modern Context. It's time! Your relationship has officially entered the "serious stage." Gordon and I are big believers in preparing for marriage sooner rather than later. Marriage is the most underprepared for major life event, can you believe that!? Once you think you have found someone worth spending the rest of your life with, start preparing your heart, your mind, your attitude and habits for marriage. There's tons to talk about and prepare for! We lay out the exact steps we took to prepare for marriage in this episode. Thus, modern courtship! I don't want to give too much away here because well...I always do that! Just click play and let's go! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E32 · Tue, May 02, 2023
“I Think We Should Breakup.” (Healthy + Thriving Dating - Pt 3)
SERIES: Healthy + Thriving Dating Ancient Wisdom in a Modern Context. OH breakups. They're the worst aren't they?! I've seen too many people I love extend their relationship to "try and make it work" with someone they just aren't compatible with. They spend so much time and energy in making something work when in the end, it will only lead to further heartbreak and frustration. Wouldn't it be so much easier if we had an idea of when it was a good time to end a relationship? Also, quick NOTE: we want to make it clear here that we are taking about dating. We aren't talking to those of you who have committed to marriage. Because in marriage you already chose, so you find a way make it work (you'd be surprised at how possible this is if you already have the commitment). So, single people, in order to make your future marriage a little easier long term, we think it is in your best interest to find someone you're truly compatible with. Because this one thing will help bring you clarity to know when it's time to cut ties. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E31 · Tue, April 25, 2023
When to Introduce to Family & Friends? (Healthy + Thriving Dating - Pt 2)
SERIES: Healthy + Thriving Dating Ancient Wisdom in a Modern Context. This episode is one of our favorites because it's vastly different from what most of us believe - especially when it comes to our families. You know us, we loooove to go about things in an "off the beaten path" sort of way, because well, isn't that how Jesus did it? We believe that when it comes to dating, culture is leading you astray. Which is why we decided to do this series in the first place! We want to see you thriving in your dating life, but to get there, you have to go against the grain a little bit. Especially when it comes to today's topic! Today, we'll cover when is the best time to allow your 2 worlds (the people that mean the most to you w/ this person who has piqued your interest) to collide. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E30 · Tue, April 18, 2023
Why Dating Today Doesn’t Work. (Healthy + Thriving Dating - Pt 1)
SERIES: Healthy + Thriving Dating Ancient Wisdom in a Modern Context. We think it’s important to note that while this statement (dating doesn’t work today) is certainly true, there are exceptions to the rule. So yes, common dating tactics do work for some people, but the majority would maybe say otherwise. We have countless single friends who are fed up with online dating. Rather than feeling hopeful about who they’ll find interested the next moment they log in, they’re more anxious, self-conscious, and defeated. And while dating, in general, is about taking leaps of faith to put yourself out there, we don’t think there has ever been a time in history when singles have felt more pressure and anxiety about dating than today. Why is that? Why does it seem that single people are under more pressure and anxious than before? Click play, and join the discussion :) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E29 · Tue, April 11, 2023
The AWESOME Benefits of Being Single!
The AWESOME Benefits of Being Single. Dispelling the Stigma of Singleness and Embracing it as an Incredible Gift. Do you ever long for the day when you’ll find yourself no longer single? Or maybe you struggle with just not knowing how to be single? Oy, I think we've all been there. In this episode we want to encourage those of you who find yourself single, to know that it’s OK. It doesn’t mean you are less important, less attractive, less able, or not enough. Look at it this way: maybe you are in a season where God wants to shape and mold you into His best. He sees you perfectly when all you can see are your imperfections. He sees you're achievements and encourages you towards hard things when all you can see are your failures. Remember, this is the season of your life where you will have the fewest distractions and responsibilities. God has amazing adventures planned for you as a single! He desires you right here, right now. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E28 · Tue, April 04, 2023
Fourth, Increase Your Data Plan. (How to Hear God’s Voice)
SERIES: How to Hear God’s Voice. Building a relationship with God is paramount to being able to discern His voice from others. But we don't treat our relationship with Him the same as we do our other relationships. My best friend is a great example. We have been friends for over 30 years. I could pick her voice out of a crowd, know it's her by the way she walks or knocks on my door. The same could be said of my husband. The more time we spend with those we care about the more our ears are attuned to who they are. It's the same with our Father, God. The more time we spend together the easier it is to hear Him. Are you taking the time to get to know His voice? Do you talk with Him on a regular basis or just when it's convenient or when you need something? No relationship will be long-lasting that way - especially no healthy one. God wants a healthy relationship with you. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E27 · Tue, March 28, 2023
Third, Zap the Gap! (How to Hear God’s Voice)
SERIES: How to Hear God’s Voice. Erwin Mcmanus once said, true maturity is shown by the time it takes us to respond in obedience to the voice of God. Are we waiting around forever.... or are we taking action? This episode is a fun one because it helps show us some practical steps we can take to be able to discern God's voice. Spoiler: It includes taking obedient action when we think He's speaking, no matter how silly or crazy it may sound. It is a practice in obedience. What does that look like? Listen in for more! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E26 · Tue, March 21, 2023
Secondly, Check Your Voicemail. (How to Hear God’s Voice)
SERIES: How to Hear God’s Voice. Have you ever asked the question "How do I knoooow it's God speaking to me?" Friend, you are not in this alone! We usually ask this question when trying to find confirmation or direction in our lives. Gordon and I have practiced the habit of seeking God for most things but there are still times of doubt, confusion, and sometimes anxiety. And oftentimes these feelings lead us to a standstill. We don't want to make a move without clarity and assurance, but "waiting on God" or "praying about it" for too long isn't good either. Oy, doesn't it always comes back to balance? Sometimes when we're at a standstill it's good for us to think back to the last thing we know, that we know, that we know, God said to us. Maybe we aren't finding clarity now, because we haven't been obedient to the last thing He told us to do. We talk more about this in today's Podcast - Check Your Voicemail ;) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E25 · Tue, March 14, 2023
First, Are You Sure You Want To? (How to Hear God’s Voice)
SERIES: How to Hear God’s Voice. I remember really struggling for a long time about hearing God's voice. When I would reach out and ask Him questions or seek guidance I felt unsure if I was hearing Him. Is that you God? Or is that just me? I know I'm not alone in this. I still struggle with this today, but not as I once did. Nowadays His voice is a little more clear. His tone and pitch have become familiar. So how do we get to that place of feeling unsure to feeling confident it's Him? That's what this series is all about and we start with the biggest question of all - Are you sure you want to hear what He has to say? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E24 · Tue, March 07, 2023
Myth #13: Half of all Marriages End in Divorce (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. First, a shoutout to researcher Shaunti Feldhahn! We absolutely love Shaunti's books (which are all researched based), and actually based today's myth off of her wonderful book "the good news about marriage." Because don't we need good news in the area of relationships? If the 50% divorce rate is accurate, then why in the world do so many of us have the pull to get married in the first place? Could culture and old research be wrong about this number? The answer is *Spoiler*, heck yes! And this is a beautiful thing! Culture has told some of us that you have a 50:50 chance of marital success, but we've got another perspective. So click play and let's re-engage with reality! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E23 · Tue, February 28, 2023
Myth #12: Marriage Will Fix Things (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. A.K.A. getting married will fix our relationship problems, fix my problems, fix my loneliness, give me purpose, make me happy, etc. Have you ever thought these things? Maybe subconsciously? I get it, we've been there! It's easy to put people in our life (even imaginary ones) up on a pedestal. But can I tell you an honest truth? No one person will make you happy or fix things and truthfully, that's a lot for someone to carry! Culture has told us some of us that getting married will fix our problems, but we've got another perspective. So click play and let's re-engage with reality! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E22 · Tue, February 21, 2023
Myth #11: Compromise is the Key (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. Compromise. It's THE thing that most of us hear is the most important aspect to a healthy relationship and more importantly a healthy marriage, right? But maybe compromise has lead us to something more damaging below the surface? Keeping score. So if "compromise is key," how do we do this in a way that doesn't lead to keeping score? Culture has told some of us that compromise is the key, but we've got another perspective. So click play and let's re-engage with reality! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E21 · Tue, February 14, 2023
Myth #10: Everyday Should be Valentines Day (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. "Everyday should be Valentines Day!" C'mon, friends. I get where the idea is coming from, but it's seriously setting a bar that no one can reach. Do I tell my husband "I love you," everyday? I sure hope so. Do I go out of my way to make Peanut Butter Kiss Cookies everyday? No I don't. Why? Because that's too much. Holidays are special because they're a day out of the ordinary. And that's what Valentines Day is also all about - celebrating love in an extra special way... Like with a Peanut Butter Kiss Cookie :) Culture has told some of us that every day should be valentines day thus ruling out this Holiday as unimportant or over-the-top, but we've got another perspective. So click play and let's re-engage with reality! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E20 · Tue, February 07, 2023
Valentines Day Tips
Gordon is the king of celebrations and making a girl feel special. Ever since we began dating all those years ago he has done something to make the day special. Does it always have to be a BIG event? No. Should he just do nothing? Well, no ;) It's just about doing something - ya man's gotta put in some work! Ok, Ladies too...sometimes ;) Maybe you want to do something you just have no idea what to get her/him for valentines day. Well my friend, we've got you! Listen in for some great tips to make your day special and separate from the rest. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E19 · Tue, January 31, 2023
Myth #9: We Should…Because We’re in Love (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. The idea of L.O.V.E as we know it today is all about feelings. And the message of today is, if I feel it then it must be true - or - feelings are a legitimate reason for making foolish choices (only fools rush in, right? #Elvis). But what happens when those feelings ultimately change? When the emotional high isn't there anymore? If we rely on our feelings as the ultimate decider of our choices, you may live with lots of regrets. And, my friend, that's the last thing we want for you and your relationships. Culture has told some of us that love is the end-all-be-all excuse to do whatever the heck you want, but we've got another perspective. So click play and let's re-engage with reality! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E18 · Tue, January 24, 2023
Myth #8: He’ll Change. She Never Will (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. This myth isn't as obvious because most of us probably don't even realize we're thinking this way. However, if this mindset is carried into your future marriage it could be lead to feelings of bitterness and resentment for your spouse. So what do we mean exactly? Culture has told some of us that our spouse may or may not change, but we've got another perspective. So click play and let's re-engage with reality! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E17 · Tue, January 17, 2023
Myth #7: I’ll Lose Myself In Marriage (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. The beautiful thing about a marriage partnership - if it truly is a partnership - is that your spouse knows everything about you. The in's and out's of who you are, including your past, present, and future dreams goals, and aspirations. When you have a spouse that accepts you with love and has demonstrated they've got your back no matter what - that is when you truly can be yourself. So the idea that I'll lose my identity in marriage could only be false if our idea of marriage is skewed. The way God designed marriage to work is a partnership between 2 people who work towards oneness (one mind, one vision, one team) to create something great and lasting in this world. Culture's view of marriage has told us to hold on to our individuality and independence in marriage, that autonomy is number one. But we've got another perspective. So click play and let's re-engage with marriage from its original design! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E16 · Tue, January 10, 2023
Myth #6: More Experience = Better Advice (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. It seems that the older a person is, or the longer they've been at that job, or in that marriage, means they're the people we want to seek advice from. It sounds logical, right? Yes, and no. There are people who have been married 20+ years and are thriving in their marriages, yes listen to them. There are also people who have been married 20+ years and are living as roommates, those are probably not the people you want to listen to on how to sustain a marriage. Here's the thing, if we want great advice (especially on dating and marriage) it's important that we seek the people out who have what we want so to say. But we'll get into that more in today's episode ;) Culture has told some of us that we should listen to those with the most experience, but we've got another perspective. So click play and let's re-engage with reality! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 Enull · Tue, December 13, 2022
Myth #5: You Complete Me (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. It's common to hear people talk about "completing each other." It sounds beautiful and cohesive and lovely, but if we really pull back the layers of what that means it might not be as beautiful as it sounds. For someone to complete me I'd have to be not whole. And half-a-person + half-a-person doesn't equal a whole person; it equals one relationship on shaky ground. It might be beautiful for the short term but that foundation won't last. Culture has told some of us that you are incomplete without a spouse/partner, but we've got another perspective. So click play and let's re-engage with reality! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E14 · Tue, December 06, 2022
Myth #4: Life Starts or Ends At The Wedding (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. Culture has told us some of us that life starts at the wedding and others that life ends , but we've got another perspective. So click play and let's re-engage with reality! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E13 · Tue, November 29, 2022
Healthy Holiday Boundaries
Healthy Holiday Boundaries How to Find More Love, Joy, and Meaning This Christmas Season. Between family visiting from out of town, buying gifts for everyone, holiday parties, and all the other festivities that tag along with these celebrations, it can be CRAZY! What if we told you there was a way to skip the crazy this year? Check out today's episode where we discuss how to find more love, joy, and meaning this Christmas season :) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E12 · Tue, November 22, 2022
Less Stressed More Blessed This Thanksgiving
Holidays...During a season that's supposed to be filled with joy, love, and laughter, oftentimes we are faced with overwhelm, anxiety, and discontentment. This episode is all about how to let go of our stress to receive God's best for us during this season. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E11 · Tue, November 15, 2022
Myth #3: You Need to Date A lot of People (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. The way we go about dating today is tough. What was once more of a success for a smaller pool of people has now become the primary way we meet - online. Remember the days when that seemed "creepy." Oh, how times have changed (and not necessarily for the better)! Online dating culture has worked for a lot of people and that's wonderful! But for many, it has caused more harm than good. It is the epitome of "You need to date a lot of people." It's a system that's overcrowded and oftentimes leads to unhealthy behaviors in relationships. But we could talk forever on this so let us refrain. Culture has told us you need to date around a lot but we've got another perspective. So click play and let's re-engage with reality! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E10 · Tue, November 08, 2022
Myth #2: You Can’t Prepare for Marriage (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. Do You believe you can prepare for marriage? Relationship expert Ed Wheat says, " As a family physician for almost four decades, I have observed that marriage with its tremendous significance often turns out to be the least prepared for event of life. " Marriage is a covenant relationship with one another for life. We need to expect that life means for as long as we both shall live until death do us part. Right? That is usually a pretty long time! And so often we rush our relationships to get married without adequate preparation. Like it isn’t the biggest decision you'll ever make. Oy. Culture has told us we can't prepare for marriage, but we've got another perspective. So click play and let's re-engage with reality! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E9 · Tue, November 01, 2022
Myth #1: “The One” (Dating + Marriage Myths)
SERIES: Dating + Marriage Myths: Rethinking Cultures Ideas and Reengaging With Reality. We just wrapped up a series all about "How to Find the One," so it's pretty ironic that we are launching a new series about Dating + Marriage myths and we are kicking it off with -*surprise* - the myth of "The One." We promise it's not as counterintuitive as it looks. Ok, so what do we really mean when we say "myths"? What we call Marriage and Dating Myths are cultural ideas that many of us have come to believe as truths. We might say we don't believe these myths but you might find yourself surprised as we dive deeper into each one. Some of the myths in this series are more obvious than others, but we want to dig up the roots of these misconceptions so that we can re-engage with what really makes up a healthy + thriving relationship. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E8 · Tue, October 25, 2022
Step 4: Become An Environmentalist. (How to Find “The One”)
SERIES: How to Find "The One" Step 4: Where's your hangout spot? The main question for this series so far has been: how do find quality people to date. Think about it this way-- where would your ideal spouse be hanging out? What are their interests, likes & dislikes? One of our favorite quotes is, "you become who you surround yourself with." So...who are you surrounding yourself with? What you seek is what you'll find ;) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E7 · Tue, October 18, 2022
Step 3: Reverse the Focus. (How to Find “The One”)
SERIES: How to Find "The One" Step 3: Look in the Mirror. Is that as cryptic as "Reverse the Focus?" So often we're focusing so much on what we want, that we forget to focus on what our future spouse deserves: someone great! And in order to become someone great, we must stop and look at ourselves in the mirror. Are we the type of person that you'd want to date? Are you "husband" or "wife" material, now? OK, I know that was a major spoiler alert, but there is so. much. more. to talk about. So grab that coffee, find a comfy spot, and press play :) See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E6 · Tue, October 11, 2022
Step 2: Start Gardening. (How to Find “The One”)
SERIES: How to Find "The One" Step 2: Start Gardening You might be asking what gardening has anything to do with dating... and that would be a fair concern. Gardening in the typical sense has absolutely nothing to do with dating, but gardening in the metaphorical sense? It's everything. Check out what we mean by listening in on today's episode :) OH, and shoutout to @JohnMarkComer for the inspiration. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E5 · Tue, October 04, 2022
Step 1: Give It Up. (How to Find “The One”)
SERIES: How to Find "The One" If there is one thing we learned in our years of "dating" is that it requires lots of intentionality. Finding a great mate also requires patience, endurance, and lots of faith. We say faith because there is one thing that helped us above all else, a patient waiting on God to write our love story. And let us tell you - He loves a great love story ;) Step 1: Giving Your Romance to God. We talk more about what that looks like in this episode (woo!). See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E4 · Tue, September 27, 2022
Step 0: But First, Let Me Ask You This... (How to Find “The One”)
SERIES: How to Find "The One" The question is: how do I find quality people? Where do I actually meet people who would be “Husband” or “Wife” material? How to find someone that is compatible and complementary to who you are is something that most of us long for. But sometimes our eyes are focused too much on the long-term goal (finding a mate) that we forget to look at what we're doing to get there. So, what are most of us doing? Easy! We are going on dates. But could the very thing we're all doing be the very thing that's causing the problem? Could it be that looking for a great date is not the answer? So what is? We talk more about dating in this FUN series, but today's episode is all about what to look for when finding the ever ominous "One." See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E3 · Tue, September 20, 2022
How to do it in Real Life (Craving Community? Pt 3)
SERIES: Craving Community? The Real Secret to the True Community You Long For. We need BOTH Loyalty + Vulnerability to move our relationships from the shallow to the deep end. But how do we move our relationships into that space? What are some practical steps? Join the conversation with us today all about putting these 2 important pieces into actionable steps. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E2 · Tue, September 13, 2022
Loyalty + Vulnerability (Craving Community? Pt 2)
SERIES: Craving Community? The Real Secret to the True Community You Long For. Oh community. It's all around us, but still outside of our grasp. Why is that? How can one be in a community but still feel alone? If the story culture is telling us isn't working out, then how do we get back to God's original design? Today we discuss the 2 "elements" we see in every healthy relationship. We hope that through the understanding and practice of these 2 things you too can experience TRUE community the way God intended. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S2 E1 · Tue, September 06, 2022
The One Time God Said, “Not Good” (Craving Community? Pt 1)
SERIES: Craving Community? The Real Secret to the True Community You Long For. We are more connected than ever before. But ironically, we are also more lonely and isolated than ever. What has our culture been teaching us about community that we've believed to be true? What about what God say's about community? Take a dive into this episode all about what we truly crave and why we've been missing out. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E17 · Tue, May 31, 2022
How to Sabbath: Tips to Get You Started (Sabbath - Pt 2)
SERIES: The Sabbath The Festival We Forget to Celebrate. Maybe you’re interested in Sabbath but you’re not quite sure where to start. Years ago we were in the same boat! Luckily we had some mentors that showed us where to start and reminded us that Sabbath is a journey that should be explored until you find what works for you! In today's episode, we'll share some tips to get you started practicing Sabbath and start your exciting journey! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E16 · Tue, May 24, 2022
The Pinnacle of Creation (The Sabbath - Pt 1)
SERIES: The Sabbath The Festival We Forget to Celebrate. Before there was sin there was Sabbath. Incredible! But what is Sabbath really? What was it created for? If you’re asking those questions, then click play, because this is a good one! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E15 · Tue, May 17, 2022
Resources That Will Rock Your World! (Pt 4, How to Read the Bible...and like it!)
SERIES: How to Read the Bible (and like it!) Rethinking Your Approach to Reading the Bible. When reading the Bible sometimes it can be confusing; so much so that oftentimes we put it to the side and stop reading it altogether. So how do we get past that tendency to want to walk away? Today's episode is all about resources to consider when reading the Bible. There are tons of great and helpful tools out there to understand the Bible better! Here are some of our favs! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E14 · Tue, May 10, 2022
The Reading Plan That Fit’s Your Personality (Pt 3, How to Read the Bible...and like it!)
SERIES: How to Read the Bible (and like it!) Rethinking Your Approach to Reading the Bible. Most reading plans have a similar vibe. “Read this much of the Bible in this amount of time.” The focus is on achieving a goal. There is nothing wrong with those plans. But from our experience, unless you’ve already committed to daily one-on-one time with Jesus, achievement goals teach the wrong habits. In this episode, we're going to talk more in-depth about our approach to a Bible plan that will help you create the lifelong habit of reading the Scriptures in a consistent and meaningful way. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E13 · Tue, May 03, 2022
“Wait...These Guys Had Personalities!?” (Pt 2, How to Read the Bible...and like it!)
SERIES: How to Read the Bible (and like it!) Rethinking Your Approach to Reading the Bible. We don’t know about you, but it’s not easy to treat the authors of Scripture as real people. When it was first brought to our attention that these guys are, in fact, real people, we were shocked. The biggest epiphany came when we realized: “Wait. . .these guys had personalities ?!” Yes! They did! In today's episode, we take a closer look at the 3 most basic personality types and get to know the Jesus biographers through each lens. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E12 · Tue, April 26, 2022
What is this Bible Thing, Really? (Pt 1, How to Read the Bible...and like it!)
SERIES: How to Read the Bible (and like it!) Rethinking Your Approach to Reading the Bible. We know the Bible can seem overwhelming and confusing at times. But here’s the good news: the Scriptures have one purpose only— to help you build a relationship with Jesus. In this week's episode, we'll take a look at the history of the Bible and how it always comes back to Jesus. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E11 · Tue, April 19, 2022
Goals Getaway (Refreshing Rhythms #6)
Series 2: Refreshing Rhythms - Rhythms to help you flourish! We were each created with a purpose. Sometimes it takes a time to figure out what that means for you; but it’s there, waiting to be discovered! This yearly rhythm will help direct your steps each year as you intentionally get away and get clarity on where you’re headed. God created us intentionally and so why not live intentional lives? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E10 · Tue, April 12, 2022
“The SuperDate” (Refreshing Rhythms #5)
Series 2: Refreshing Rhythms - Rhythms to help you flourish! Turn your relationships upside down with this quarterly rhythm that gets you out of the house and out on an adventure! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E9 · Tue, April 05, 2022
“Celebrate Good Times, C'mon!” (Refreshing Rhythms #4)
Series: Refreshing Rhythms - Rhythms to help you flourish! This weekly rhythm is one that God gave us before sin even entered the world. This means in a perfect world God deemed this Rhythm vital. And we can still experience it now! Incredible! Get ready to discover one of the most life-changing rhythms you could embrace for a healthier you! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E8 · Tue, March 29, 2022
The Community We Crave (Refreshing Rhythms #3)
Series: Refreshing Rhythms - Rhythms to help you flourish! We are lonelier now than we’ve ever been probably in history. Our culture has the ability to isolate ourselves for weeks sometimes months at a time. Let’s take a closer look at this weekly rhythm that will help us resist what culture’s deemed acceptable and fight for what we truly crave. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E7 · Tue, March 22, 2022
Romance, ManDates, and Girl Business (Refreshing Rhythms #2)
Series: Refreshing Rhythms - Rhythms to help you flourish! What you care about is what’s scheduled on your calendar. Being spontaneous just won’t work all the time. Prioritizing those closest to you on a weekly basis is the best thing we can do for ourselves and those people we love. To truly embrace this Rhythm we need to first think of this as lego pieces. We each have a different amount of connections. Jesus has his 3, what about you? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E6 · Tue, March 15, 2022
“But First, Coffee and Jesus” (Refreshing Rhythms #1)
Series: Refreshing Rhythms - Rhythms to help you flourish! This weekly rhythm takes us back to the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke & John) which are full of stories about Jesus escaping those around him to get alone and pray; He made sure to make one-on-one time with his Father a priority. *Hint, Hint* See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E5 · Tue, March 08, 2022
The One that Matters Most PT 2 (Best Marriage Ever - Element 4)
Series: Best Marriage Ever - The 4 Elements in Every Great Marriage Forgiveness. Without it, no marriage, no relationship at all, can stand. If you do all the steps we’ve talked about in this series and hit every level of intimacy regularly, but don’t have forgiveness, it will mean nothing. So whether your marriage has just started or you’ve been on the journey for decades, the process of preventing contempt or finding healing from it is the same. Let’s take a look at Pt 2 of Element 4 in the Best Marriage Ever! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E4 · Tue, March 01, 2022
The One that Matters Most PT 1 (Best Marriage Ever - Element 4)
Series: Best Marriage Ever - The 4 Elements in Every Great Marriage We know that every building (or Pyramid) must have a firm foundation and every level must fit together nicely. But there is still something it needs. And if it doesn’t have this one thing, even the strongest of structures will collapse. We’re talking, of course, about mortar. This week we discover essentially the MOST important element in a great marriage, Element #4, The Mortar. But what is this mortar that holds our marriages together? See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E3 · Tue, February 22, 2022
Every Great Marriage Needs a Climax (Best Marriage Ever - Element 3)
Series: Best Marriage Ever - The 4 Elements in Every Great Marriage Now for the exciting part! Element 3 is the peak of the pyramid (and it's the peak for a reason!). A pyramid can't stand on its tip. So what is Element #3? Click play and let's dig into this week's episode of the Best Marriage Ever! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E2 · Tue, February 15, 2022
How’s Your Heart? (Best Marriage Ever - Element 2)
Series: Best Marriage Ever - The 4 Elements in Every Great Marriage Let's uncover the second element of the relationship pyramid. It’s easy to only focus on the kisses and cuddles and miss an even greater intimacy. Kisses and cuddles are great! But they don’t sustain you over the long run. You need a deeper emotional connection. So, what is Element #2 and what does it look like? Let's find out in today's episode of The Best Marriage Ever! See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
S1 E1 · Sat, January 29, 2022
It’s All About That Base (Best Marriage Ever - Element 1)
Series: Best Marriage Ever - The 4 Elements in Every Great Marriage Do you ever feel disconnected from each other? Have you ever thought, “This isn’t what I expected” and wonder where things went wrong? Good news! In this new Podcast Series, we share the 4 elements that make up every great marriage! We do that by taking a look at something called...The Relationship Pyramid. Within the relationship pyramid, there are 3 levels of intimacy. And the first level, or first Element as we're calling it, is the foundation of all great relationships. In this episode, we'll discuss what Element #1 (the base) is and what the steps are to help build it. See MORE resources @ TarahandGordon.com
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