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The Mating Grounds Podcast

The Mating Grounds Podcast is a collaboration between #1 bestselling author, Tucker Max, and renowned evolutionary psychologist, Professor Geoffrey Miller, to teach men how to be successful with women, dating and relationships. Through discussions and interviews with the worlds leading experts in human sexuality, psychology, animal behavior, genetics and behavioral studies, they explain in clear and actionable terms precisely what men need to know about sex, dating, relationships, and women, and how to improve yourself in all of those areas. Plainly put: this is the advice that men wish they had heard when they were 16, that teaches them all the important...

Tue, March 29, 2016
What To Do After You're Done With The Mating Grounds Episodes
If you're a big fan of The Mating Grounds, the best place for you to go is The Art Of Charm and listen to Jordan's archived podcast episodes.
Tue, February 09, 2016
Helping Joe, The Last Episode
Tucker Max, Nils Parker, and Charlie Hoehn talk about the end of the beginning for Joe and what he needs to do moving forward to improve his life, including how to find a good therapist.
Thu, January 28, 2016
Helping Joe, Episode 48
On this episode of Helping Joe, Nils and Charlie help Joe develop more empathy for the women he is seeing, explain to him why Tinder is not the best place for to spend his time finding dates, and give him examples of how to test and execute good ideas at his job. This episode was sponsored by Athletic Greens, the best whole foods green supplement out there. Go to athleticgreens.com/mate to get 50% off your first order.
Thu, January 21, 2016
Helping Joe, Episode 47
This week on Helping Joe, Nils and Charlie talk with Joe about his health, why his energy is so low and what to do to get better. They also talk about gratitude & gratefulness (Joe doesn't have any) and the first week of his new job. This episode was sponsored by Athletic Greens, the best whole foods green supplement out there. Go to athleticgreens.com/mate to get 50% off your first order.
Tue, January 12, 2016
Helping Joe, Episode 46
In this episode, Nils and Charlie talk with Joe about his new job and the improvements he made (with Charlie's help) to his interviews that resulted in job offers.
Wed, January 06, 2016
Helping Joe, Episode 45
This week on Helping Joe, Charlie and Nils continue to help Joe on his job hunt and go over five of his recent interviews, including what he did right and wrong and how to make big improvements in talking to potential future employers. They also talk about common interview questions and having good body language. Towards the end of this episode they talk about the end of his last medium term relationship. This episode was sponsored by Athletic Greens, the best whole foods green supplement out there. Go to athleticgreens.com/mate to get 50% off your first order.
Wed, December 30, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 44: The Airing Of Grievances
This is a special holiday episode of Helping Joe. The guys celebrate Festivus, a festival for the rest of us, with the Airing Of Grievances. In this episode, Joe goes through a list of grievances he has with Tucker, Nils, and Charlie over the past year. It's his turn to flip the script on them. This episode was sponsored by Criquet Shirts, a high quality clothing company that designs simple, comfortable, old-school polo shirts made from 100% organic cotton. They hooked Joe up with their polo shirts which are now the best shirts he owns. Go to criquetshirts.com and use the promo code MATE to get 20% off your order.
Mon, December 14, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 43
This week on Helping Joe, everyone is frustrated with Joe’s continued list making and inaction. Joe went on a few interviews but his lack of effort is still woefully inadequate, and Tucker has finally had enough. Charlie & Nils regroup and help Joe get over his irrational thoughts and fears about getting a new job. This episode was sponsored by Criquet Shirts, a high quality clothing company that designs simple, comfortable, old-school polo shirts made from 100% organic cotton. They hooked Joe up with their polo shirts which are now the best shirts he owns. Go to criquetshirts.com and use the promo code MATE to get 20% off your order. This episode was also sponsored by Thrive Market , is a membership-based online shopping club that is making healthy living easy and affordable for everyone. For less than $5 a month, Thrive Market members can buy the best-selling healthy foods and products, always 25-50% off. Go to thrivemarket.com/mate for 1 month free membership + 20% off your first purchase.
Mon, December 07, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 42
In this episode of Helping Joe, Tucker and Nils help Joe get less dumb and talk about job interviews he did last week. But before they can go into their critiques and advice on how to interview better, they first wipe out his ideas about sales (which jobs involve sales) and his larger black & white views (provincial ideas) that are wrong. This episode was sponsored by Criquet Shirts, a high quality clothing company that designs simple, comfortable, old-school polo shirts made from 100% organic cotton. They hooked Joe up with their polo shirts which are now the best shirts he owns. Go to criquetshirts.com and use the promo code MATE to get 20% off your order. This episode was also sponsored by Thrive Market , is a membership-based online shopping club that is making healthy living easy and affordable for everyone. For less than $5 a month, Thrive Market members can buy the best-selling healthy foods and products, always 25-50% off. Go to thrivemarket.com/mate for 1 month free membership + 20% off your first purchase.
Mon, November 30, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 41
Tucker, Nils, and Charlie spend 2+ hours (Ep. 41 is Part 2) digging into Joe’s emotional issues and work habits. In this part, they show him why making 1,000+ pages of lists is a way to avoid action and how he can end his unproductive habits, go on job interviews (just like dates), find a good job, and live a better life. This episode was sponsored by Criquet Shirts, a high quality clothing company that designs simple, comfortable, old-school polo shirts made from 100% organic cotton. They hooked Joe up with their polo shirts which are now the best shirts he owns. Go to criquetshirts.com and use the promo code MATE to get 20% off your order.
Mon, November 23, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 40
Tucker is back on the podcast this week, and he is angry. He, Charlie, and Nils dig into Joe's emotional issues and work habits. There is a big reason why he doesn't get anything done, and they help him realize that he has this anchor holding him down which he is emotionally attached to. Joe also goes on a date with a girl who has heard the podcast. This episode was sponsored by Criquet Shirts, a high quality clothing company that designs simple, comfortable, old-school polo shirts made from 100% organic cotton. They hooked Joe up with their polo shirts which are now the best shirts he owns. Go to criquetshirts.com and use the promo code MATE to get 20% off your order. This episode was also sponsored by Athletic Greens, the best whole foods green supplement out there. Go to athleticgreens.com/mate to get 50% off your first order.
Mon, November 16, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 39
This week on Helping Joe, Nils and Charlie continue to help Joe fix his faulty mental models. They talk about miserable people from the Midwest (Joe's from Ohio), pursuing a job that makes you happy, and the book Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by their friend Kamal Ravikant. They also go through another list of companies Joe wants to work for, but he still didn't get this right. This episode was sponsored by Peter Manning NYC , the best designed clothes for men 5'8'' and under. Use the discount code "Mate20" to get 20% off your order.
Mon, November 09, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 38
In this episode of Helping Joe, Charlie and Nils dive back into Joe’s list of companies he thinks that he could work for. He used the Target part of Charlie's Land A Job You Love course to do this. They tell him how to fix his messed up mindset, including how to measure his own economic value to companies that are hiring, so he can get out of his own way and land a great job. They end the episode talking about a new girl that he met at improv. This episode was sponsored by Athletic Greens, the best whole foods green supplement out there. Go to athleticgreens.com/mate to get 50% off your first order.
Mon, November 02, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 37
This week on Helping Joe, Nils and Charlie talk about Joe's latest speed dating adventure and Charlie hilariously reads Joe's very bro journal entry from that night. Later they review what Joe wrote about his last relationship and how to apply those lessons to his future mating efforts. They also go over his mindset practice and his list of target companies to work at. This episode was sponsored by Peter Manning NYC , the best designed clothes for men 5'8'' and under. Use the discount code "Mate20" to get 20% off your order.
Mon, October 26, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 36
In this episode of Helping Joe, Charlie and Nils put a hold on the career stuff to go back to Joe's dating issues and dig deeper into his messed up mindset and beliefs. They give him advice on changing his mindset and taking control of his thoughts so he doesn't get so down on himself and can live a better life. They also talk about life contentedness, female friendships, takeaways after a relationship ends, and why it's important to write things down. This episode was sponsored by Athletic Greens, the best whole foods green supplement out there. Go to athleticgreens.com/mate to get 50% off your first order.
Mon, October 19, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 35
This week on Helping Joe, Nils and Charlie go over Joe’s personal website that he made on Strikingly and they dig deeper into his career issues, why he holds on to the memory of old jobs, what skills he wants to be known for and build a career from, and which jobs might be great for him to do. Charlie gives Joe more exercises from his Land A Job You Love course. They also get updates from him on his dating and social activities over the last few weeks. This episode was sponsored by Peter Manning NYC , the best designed clothes for men 5'8'' and under. Use the discount code "Mate20" to get 20% off your order.
Mon, October 12, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 34
In this episode of Helping Joe, Charlie and Nils break down Joe’s work history up to now, and not only find the beginnings of his story, but also find out things they never knew about him because he doesn’t talk about them at all. They talk about how to ask for testimonials and LinkedIn reviews, which website is best to use to show off your work and what you’ve done, and how early jobs are important to build upon and shouldn’t be diminished. This episode was sponsored by Athletic Greens, the best whole foods green supplement out there. Go to athleticgreens.com/mate to get 50% off your first order.
Mon, October 05, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 33
Tucker and Charlie begin this episode of Helping Joe by talking with Joe about a college girl he had been dating who suddenly ended the relationship when he was honest with her about his mating goals. They talk about what happened and how to handle a situation like this in the future. After that they dive back into Joe’s career issues where they help him recognize his fantasies and delusions and give him a reality check so he can move forward in his life. Charlie takes a more active role in this by giving Joe some homework from his Land A Job You Love course. This episode was sponsored by Peter Manning NYC , the best designed clothes for men 5'8'' and under. Use the discount code "Mate20" to get 20% off your order.
Mon, September 28, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 32
This week is the first episode in the new direction of the Helping Joe podcast where Tucker, Nils, and Charlie help Joe get his life together by finding and building skills and a career. In this episode Tucker & Nils map out Joe's end goal and what success looks like for him. They try to figure out what Joe really wants, what he likes to do, and what skills he has right now that he can work with. Also, they bring up the difference between internal (intellectual) work and external (physical) work and which one Joe should explore work if he wants to be successful.
Thu, September 17, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 23: Putting it all together with a Mating Plan
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 23 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Nils, and Dr. Miller talk about how to put everything in the book together to create a specifc mating plan for your life and then to go take action. When you inevitably screw up or fail, come back to the book, reread the chapters, adjust your plan or actions, and keep going.
Wed, September 16, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 22: Having Sex
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 22 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Nils, and Dr. Miller talk about how to look at sex as a means to an end, not an end in itself. It is just another part, the most intense part, of courtship or mating. They also go over why penis size isn't as important as you think. Women care about many other traits first, which they explain here. And because Mate did not include a lot about sex, they point you to the right resources to learn what you need to know about sex.
Mon, September 14, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 31
In this special episode of Helping Joe, Tucker and Charlie talk with Joe about changing the direction of this podcast series. They go over Joe’s recent successes (ex. Joe made a female friend) and his increased emotional health and happiness over the last 6 months. And because he is now dating multiple women, they have to set a new goal for him or fix another important part of his life.
Thu, September 10, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 30 Part 2
In Part 2 of Episode 30, Joe talks about the dates he had last week and updates Tucker and Nils on the three women he has been seeing. They give him advice on how to directly and maturely end a short romantic relationship and why he needs to give the women he is dating more respect as adults that can make their own decisions.
Wed, September 09, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 21: How To Go Out On First Dates
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 21 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Nils, and Dr. Miller explain what a date actually is, what the most important parts of a first date are, and why the checklist details don't matter that much. They also go over what makes a great date place, spending money, and displaying your strengths.
Tue, September 08, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 20: How To Talk To Women
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 20 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Nils, and Dr. Miller talk about the #1 question that they get from guys ("How do I talk to girls?" or "What do I say to her?"), and why it's not the most important thing to focus on. Your traits and proofs (see past episodes) are fundamental to your mating success. Talking to women is just a way to reveal or signal those attractive traits and proofs. They go over the different levels of communication and how to be a great conversationalist in this episode.
Mon, September 07, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 30 Part 1
This week on Helping Joe, Joe talks about what he thinks are his 5 biggest issues and patterns on this podcast and in his life. Tucker and Nils tell him what the best, most fundamental thing he can do right now to work with all of these at the same time. They also give him new goals to work on each week alongside dating women.
Wed, September 02, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 19: How & Where To Meet The Women You Want
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 19 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Nils, and Dr. Miller explain why for most guys volunteering is a better activity to meet women than going to bars and clubs. Make your mating life an extension of your social life. They also go over more ways to meet women that fit your personality.
Tue, September 01, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 18: Mate Preferences And How To Pick Women
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 18 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Nils, and Dr. Miller explain that when you improve your mate value and have more options, you need to develop your mate preferences. Which women do you want? They go over the 3 stages of choice in the human mating world and how men and women have different options and bargaining power at each stage.
Mon, August 31, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 29 Part 2
This week in Part 2 of Episode 29, Joe talks about an interaction he had with two cute girls who wanted to take a picture with him. Tucker & Nils try to figure out why he was afraid and how to get over his fear of women and social anxiety. They also talk about how he doesn't need to be great or even try that hard to meet women and go out on dates. And they end with Joe's fixation on "trying to look cool" and how that screws him up in a lot of ways.
Wed, August 26, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 17: Where To Meet Women (Mating Markets)
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 17 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Nils, and Dr. Miller explain what a mating market is and how to adjust your mating market to meet a lot more women. In short, it's the supply & demand of dating. They go over the different levels of picking a mating market from your country down to your neighborhood and even your job, giving many specific examples.
Tue, August 25, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 16: Romantic Proof And Showing Interest
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 16 of The Mate Preview, Tucker & Dr. Miller explain how being romantic is not what you think (you don't need rose petals and candles) and how to pull it off by showing women your interest and intentions the right way.
Mon, August 24, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 29 Part 1
This week in Part 1 of Episode 29, Joe talks about 3 dates he went on, including the worst date he’s had in Austin and one that started poorly but ended wonderfully. Tucker and Nils talk to Joe about how to save a bad date, give him diet and sleep advice, and continue to dig into his emotional issues and how they relate to his dates.
Wed, August 19, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 15: Aesthetic Proof And Sense Of Style
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 15 of The Mate Preview, Tucker and Dr. Miller explain how men evolved to show off to women and what most guys don't understand about how women look at your aesthetics and cleanliness. They then go over the attractive skills you can build and how to invest in good style without getting into awful fads.
Tue, August 18, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 14: Material Proof (Money)
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 14 of The Mate Preview, Tucker and Dr. Miller, explain how women don't care about how much money you have, but they do care about what your financial resources signal about the attractive traits you have. And it's not about what you have. It's how you use it. For example, fun experiences are more attractive to most women than expensive material goods. "Most women would rather have an interesting, fun, kind husband with a middle-class income than a dull, disconnected, workaholic millionaire husband." - Tucker
Mon, August 17, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 28 Part 2
In Part 2, Joe talks about another bedroom issue he had with a different woman. Charlie & Nils tell him what can do to avoid this in the future, the two emotional needs women have as clothes start to come off, and why life is easier and more fulfilling when you see women as good friends first.
Thu, August 13, 2015
How Do I Test A Woman To Learn Who She Really Is?
In this Q&A, Tucker, Nils, and Dr. Miller explain how to learn more about a potential long-term girlfriend (or anyone really). They give many ideas for how to force people to show you who they really are so that you can decide if you want to move forward in that relationship or not.
Wed, August 12, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 13: Social Proof And Prestige (Social Status)
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 13 of The Mate Preview, Tucker and Dr. Miller explain why women in general are more attracted to your prestige in a group than they are to your fame, money, or an alpha male attitude. That is what most guys get wrong about social status. Having good social skills not only makes you more attractive to women, but also introduces you to more women. They also go over short-term and long-term ways to improve your social proof and how to be an introvert but still have good social skills. For more on social proof , listen to our previous podcast episodes .
Tue, August 11, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 12: How To Signal Your Attractive Traits To Women
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 12 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain that just developing attractive traits is not enough. You must also signal (show, not tell) to women that you have these traits. They go over signals that are visual (what you look like, what you wear, etc.) and behavioral (your activities, what you say & do, etc.) and how to signal your attractive traits. For more on the signaling theory , listen to our previous podcast episodes .
Mon, August 10, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 28 Part 1
In Part 1, Joe goes on two dates in one night and makes a big mistake in how he set these up. Charlie & Nils give him advice on giving himself the space and time to have better dates and when it’s okay to cancel dates. They also talk about bad advice Joe read from a guy who “hacked” online dating. 0 0 1 55 318 Enstitute 2 1 372 14.0 Normal 0 false false false EN-US JA X-NONE <w:LsdException Locked="false" Priority="9" QFormat="true" Name="hea
Thu, August 06, 2015
Why Do My Friends Have "High Standards" But No Women Around?
In this Q&A Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain the many possible things going on when men who are not successful with women at all say that they have "high standards" when looking for women to date. What's most likely is that these guys are either very young or afraid to get rejected and fail.
Wed, August 05, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 11: The Agreeableness & Assertiveness Traits (Nice Guys Vs. Assholes)
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 11 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how women don't want only assholes or just nice guys, but they do want men who are tough and assertive to the world but kind and caring to them; a tender defender. They go over how to improve and display both agreeable and assertiveness. For more on the tender defender , listen to our previous podcast episodes .
Tue, August 04, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 10: The Willpower Trait
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 10 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how willpower is the key to being an effective man, which ultimately is what women want ( listen to The Mate Preview, Pt. 6: What Women Want ) They go over how to build willpower, including the first key mindset that you need to adopt, the 5 steps to setting & accomplishing goals, and the multiple ways to display your willpower to women. For more on the willpower trait , listen to our previous podcast episodes.
Mon, August 03, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 27
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Thu, July 30, 2015
I Get Depressed When I See Friends With Hot Girls. What Should I Do?
The answer to this question may seem obvious (and part of it is obvious), but Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain the deeper emotional issues going on with this guy, the many problems with his mindset, and ways to avoid this pessimism.
Wed, July 29, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 9: The Intelligence Trait
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 9 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain the 6 types of intelligence and why women care about them. They also go over a few ways you can improve and display your intelligence to women. For more on the intelligence trait and how to display your intelligence , listen to our previous podcast episodes.
Tue, July 28, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 8: The Mental Health Trait
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 8 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain why women care about your mental health (happiness, openness, and playfulness). It is a way for women to see that you are not a threat and that your brain is effective. They go over what you can do today to become more brain healthy and display that to women. For more on the mental health trait , listen to our previous podcast episodes.
Mon, July 27, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 26
In this episode of Helping Joe, Joe gives updates on the women that he went out with over the last two weeks. Charlie & Tucker give him high level and specific advice on how to avoid social isolation (find a tribe) and where best to spend his money. They also dive deeper into Joe’s emotional issues and tools he can use to solve these problems so he can better connect with women and friends. This episode is sponsored by Land A Job You Love , a course from our own Charlie Hoehn.
Thu, July 23, 2015
What Skills Should All Men Have?
In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how there is no checklist of skills that a real man should have. In general, women care much more about your personality traits and behaviors than any specific skill.
Wed, July 22, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 7: The Physical Health Trait
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 7, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils go over why your health is so important to women and why it's not just about looking good. If you have a good body and are in shape, it signals you have deeper underlying traits of effectiveness. (Remember, women care about effectiveness in men, see The Mate Preview, Pt.6 ) They also explain how you don't need to be a bodybuilder or an athlete. In fact, you don't need even need to work out that much. They tell you empirically what most women are actually attracted to in terms of body shape and the most effectives things you can do today to become more healthy. For more on the physical health trait , listen to our previous podcast episodes.
Tue, July 21, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 6: What Women Want & Why They Want It
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 6, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils go over what women want on a deep biological level and why they evolved to want these things in men. Dr. Miller is one of the world's leading experts on female mate choice. To sum up all the research, women evolved to want effective men. For more on understanding what women want , listen to our previous podcast episodes.
Mon, July 20, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 25
This week on Helping Joe, Charlie Hoehn and Nils Parker give Joe feedback on OkCupid (see the blog notes) and Tinder after Joe gets frustrated with interactions on the dating app. They also dive into his sleep habits and ask him what a perfect day looks like. Joe does not have a specific answer. They explain why this is a big problem in his life and with his mating goals. “Right now, you have no fucking clue where you are going... You are letting life happen to you and wandering around as a result. This exercise if it does nothing else will give you a destination to point yourself to and work towards.” - Nils Parker This episode is sponsored by Land A Job You Love , a course from our own Charlie Hoehn.
Wed, July 15, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 5: How To Figure Out What You Want
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 5, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how to figure out exactly what it is you want so you can direct your mating efforts to honestly getting that with women or a woman who wants the same thing. You not only deserve to ask yourself "What do I want," but you need to. For more on understanding yourself and what you want , listen to our previous podcast episodes.
Tue, July 14, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 4: What You Need To Understand About Women
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 4, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils go over the multiple ways women experience the world and dating that are different than how men do, including major female fears, worries, concerns, and thought patterns in mating. These are not opinions or moralizing lessons but based on the best current research on women's psychology and sex differences. For more on understanding what it's like to be a woman who dates men , listen to our previous podcast episodes.
Mon, July 13, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 24
This week is our second episode of Helping Joe with four people on the mics (Tucker Max, Charlie Hoehn, Nils Parker, & Joe). This episode picks up where the guys left off in Episode 23 . Joe starts by reading his crazy (but hilarious) inner thoughts that he kept track of during the past week. The guys figure out why Joe has these thoughts and emotional reactions by exploring his relationship with his mom. Joe shares stories from his childhood and learns that every one is dealt a different hand of cards at birth and in life. His job here is to figure out what his cards are so that he can live a good life with lots of great women in it.
Wed, July 08, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 3: What Confidence Is & How To Build Confidence
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 3, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils go over confidence, competence, and the sociometer theory. They explain why there are no shortcuts to building true confidence.
Tue, July 07, 2015
How Do I Get Out Of The Friend Zone?
In this Q&A, Tucker Max and Nils Parker explain how to understand women and why they put guys in the friend zone so you don't get stuck there in the first place or can get out of it. Also, it's okay to just be friends with attractive women.
Mon, July 06, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 23
In this special episode of Helping Joe, everybody (Tucker, Charlie, Nils, & Joe) is in the same room to talk about Joe’s progress and problems over the last few weeks. They talk about how women test men to get honest signals, what building real confidence looks like, and how to interpret some dreams. They also dive deeper into Joe's trust issues and perfectionist tendencies and how to get over them so he can be more attractive to women.
Thu, July 02, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 2: Why This Book Is Different
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 2, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how Mate is different and talk about the five fundamental principles that need to govern all your mating decisions.
Wed, July 01, 2015
Girls Think I'm Gay. What do I do?
In this Q&A, Tucker and Nils explain how it's best to take this problem head-on, be honest about it, make a joke (they give some ideas), and be clear there that you are heterosexual.
Tue, June 30, 2015
How Do I Deal With Trust Issues?
Don't date women that lie to you! In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils talk about what this caller's deeper issues are and why he put up with a bad girlfriend for so long.
Mon, June 29, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 22
In this episode of Helping Joe, Charlie and Tucker break down Joe's recent first date and why it was awkward for him. They go deeper into why Joe doesn't like playful teasing and can't bond with male friends. Joe and Charlie open up with stories about past awful experiences where they were attacked (not teased) by their friends. Tucker gives Joe 2 key takeaways to recognize his ineffective thought patterns and behaviors. Joe also gives an update on a talk he had with the girl he is dating.
Thu, June 25, 2015
The Mate Preview, Pt. 1: Why We Wrote This Book
This episode is the beginning of a preview of our upcoming book, Mate: Become The Man Women Want . In this series, we go over each chapter in the book, explaining what's in it and what to expect. In the first part of this series, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how this book came about, why they decided to write it, and why men need to read it.
Wed, June 24, 2015
How Can I Be A Minimalist And Still Attract Women?
In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how being a minimalist or financially independent and spending money on experiences are attractive to women but being cheap is NOT attractive. What matters is being generous with what you do have, which doesn't just have to be money or possessions.
Tue, June 23, 2015
How Can I Be Vulnerable Without Being Needy Or Whiny?
In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how most men misunderstand vulnerability, why your emotional needs as a man are valid ("We're not just walking penises."), and why women actually love emotionally open (but not emotionally unstable) men. They also give small steps you can take to start practicing vulnerability in your everyday life. For more on vulnerability, start by reading Daring Greatly by Dr. Brene Brown , the best book out there on the empirical research. And go listen to the Helping Joe series where Joe is vulnerable in a non-needy way about problems in his life that many men have but few ever talk.
Mon, June 22, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 21
This week on Helping Joe, Tucker and Nils call Joe out on his bull***t and question what his mating goals really are when his actions and priorities do not line up with what he says he wants. They go on to explain how to have a relationship talk, why people self-sabotage, and why it’s difficult to actually do the work and change to have the life you want and the women you want.
Thu, June 18, 2015
How Do I Stop Dating Crazy Women?
If you date the same type of crazy woman over and over again, the problem is not them, it's you. In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how to recognize crazy or bipolar women and avoid them. They also talk about why this caller has a pattern of beign attracted to them and if therapy is needed.
Wed, June 17, 2015
I'm 18, In High School, And Failing With Girls. What Do I Do?
In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain why high school, ages 15-18, are the worst years for men and dealing with women. It's important to keep this in perspective: it's normal to feel frustrated and your best years are ahead of you. We cover this in more in depth in our What Men Need To Know episode.
Tue, June 16, 2015
Should I Go For Personality Over Looks In A Longterm Mate?
In this Q&A Tucker Max, Dr. Geoffrey Miller, and Nils Parker poke fun at a caller who is looking for a way to absolve himself of his absurd narcissism and ridiculous lack of self-awareness. The words he uses signal problems in his mating life that start with him. They explain where and how to start fixing them (similar to our other narcissism Q&A ). On a more serious note, they answer his question of how to balance competing factors (ex. looks, intelligence, personality, etc.) when seeking a longterm mate.
Mon, June 15, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 20
In this week of Helping Joe, Tucker and Charlie talk about Joe's awful room. They dig into why he was sleeping in a closet, how his favela of a room is a reflection of how he thinks about himself, and why this is so unattractive to women. They go on to talk about having basic self-respect, why men have trouble connecting with their emotions, and how society doesn’t teach men how to express their emotions and discourages them doing so. Tucker also tells a funny story about how the Queer Eye For The Straight Guy dudes tried to makeover James Gandolfini. *The woman in the opening clip is Charlie’s girlfriend’s reaction when she went over to Joe’s place to evaluate his room and help him improve it.
Thu, June 11, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: Get Over Your Fear & Build Confidence By Getting Rejected
In this episode of Bad Advice, Tucker explains how repeated failure, getting rejected over and over again, actually destroys your confidence. This is absolutely NOT how confidence works. You build true confidence only through success and demonstrated performance. We have talked over and over again about the research on confidence and how this works on past episodes .
Wed, June 10, 2015
How Do I Set Boundaries With My Girlfriend?
In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils strongly advise that this caller break up with his girlfriend if he already has not because there are so many red flags in his call. Her behavior is not normal girlfriend behavior. They also explain how to set normal boundaries with a girlfiriend in a relationship, including ways to bring this up and talk about it.
Tue, June 09, 2015
If I Have Health Problems, How Do I Meet & Date Women?
In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Dr. Perilloux explain the benefits of dealing with a low-level health problem and why women would be attracted to a guy who overcame that problem and changed his life for the better. They've said this in past episodes : Having a serious disability can be an advantage in mating if you get everything else right and are honest about it upfront. You can become an effective hero or resilient survivor which are very attractive.
Mon, June 08, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 19
On this episode of Helping Joe, Joe talks about his funny improv show and dives deeper into why he has trouble taking genuine compliments from others. He gives the guys updates on the girl he likes from improv (It didn't go well) and the girl he has been dating and having sex with (This was better). Charlie Hoehn and Tucker Max give Joe advice on how to recover and get a girl interested in you again, how to last longer in bed, and how to have the medium-term / casual relationship talk.
Thu, June 04, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 18 Part 2
This week on Helping Joe we split a longer episode into two parts. In Part 2, Tucker and Charlie talk to Joe about how humiliating rejections from women can get stored in the brain as war trauma. They repeat Joe’s Two Rules for going out and the right way to tease girls to have fun. Joe gives an update with the girl from improv (see Episode 17 ), and he plays an awful audio message that he left her. Tucker also talks about how Joe can get over situations Joe he is afraid of.
Wed, June 03, 2015
How Do I Prevent Premature Ejaculation?
In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how every guy at some point in this life has had trouble with premature ejaculation. It is nothing to be ashamed about because all men have been through this, especially at younger ages. They also give many techniques and exercises to avoid coming too quickly and have better sex. Dr. Miller recommends She Comes First .
Tue, June 02, 2015
How Do I Figure Out And Fix My Emotional Issues?
In this Q&A episode, Tucker Max and Dr. Geoffrey Miller explain why this is the wrong question to ask and give a better question (“What are my goals?”) to ask yourself so you can figure out where you want to go and what obstacles are in your way. Tucker gives an example from his own life about how he achieved his mating goal through psychotherapy, and Dr. Miller talks about how to reach out to your family for help uncovering your emotional blind spots. They also share advice on finding a good therapist if you really need therapy.
Mon, June 01, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 18 Part 1
This week on Helping Joe we split this long episode into two parts. In Part 1, Joe talks about updates from past dates, Tucker Max and Charlie Hoehn comment on his progress since beginning the podcast, and they dig deeper into his sex shame issues. Joe finally has sex but comes too quick (premature ejaculation), which is the opposite physical problem of his previous issue with getting hard. Tucker explains how this is even possible and gives Joe a few short-term fixes to help with this, including how to find out what she likes in bed. They also talk about one big difference between guys who improve and get better with women and those who don't.
Thu, May 28, 2015
I'm Like Joe But Older And Desperate. What Do I Do?
There are no do-overs in life. In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how this older caller needs to be honest with himself about who he is and where he is in his life to still attract and date great women. Lowering standards a bit and expanding criteria for a mate can greatly increase your dating pool. What matters is finding happiness with someone you are suited for, not someone you wish you had found when you were 28. They also explain where and how to meet women that are a better fit for an older guy. And see our past podcast episode on what older men should do to attract younger women .">what older men should do to attract younger women .
Wed, May 27, 2015
What Are The Best Cities For Men?
In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils list cities that are great mating markets for men and explain how a mating market is much more than just a city's male:female ratio. It depends on many other factors like your mating goal, your interests, what type of woman you are looking for, her interests, and more.
Tue, May 26, 2015
How Do I Tell A New Girlfriend I'm Friends With My Ex?
In this Q&A episode, Tucker Max, Dr. Geoffrey Miller, and Dr. Carin Perilloux talk about how it’s unusual to be best friends with an ex and that future girlfriends will be worried about this. It’s best to be upfront with why you are friends because the research says most men want to have sex with their female friends. They explain how to move forward with a new relationship while still being friends with an ex and how to talk about this with your next girlfriend.
Mon, May 25, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 17
In this week of Helping Joe, Joe continues to have the same ED issues and performance anxiety that he talked about in Episode 16 . Nils Parker and Charlie Hoehn help him figure out what he can do to get hard again, how to talk to the girl he is having sex with about these problems, and why to work on enjoying sex together instead of just struggling by himself. They also talk about another awful shirt Joe wore (pics on the blog below), an update with a girl from his improv class, why sleep is so important, and how to get better sleep.
Thu, May 21, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: “Just Believe In Yourself And Go Talk To Her.”
In this episode of Bad Advice, Tucker Max explains how "just believe in yourself" is toxic advice that encourages delusional self-confidence, which doesn’t work for 90% of guys. It makes them feel worse because they can’t just believe in themselves. The empirical evidence shows that is not how confidence works. Confidence comes from preparation, practice, and action (doing things). Start small with simple tasks, low stakes. We talked about this in our social anxiety episode . This is also how athletes build foundational skills and get better at their sport.
Wed, May 20, 2015
Why Do I Like This Type Of Porn?
First, it's important to mention that nearly all guys watch porn. In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain why men are into so many different types of porn (US map of top genres by state) and the many reasons why watching porn is good, from emotional self-improvement to decreasing crime . This caller may be using porn as a way to heal the trauma of a bad breakup. Tucker also tells a story about Dr. Miller's funny Amazon recommendations.
Tue, May 19, 2015
Why Do Women Suddenly Break Up With Me?
When you see a pattern in your life (something happens to you over and over again) it’s likely your fault, not that of those around you. In this Q&A, Tucker Max, Dr. Geoffrey Miller, and Dr. Carin Perilloux lay out many possible issues in your life that could be causing a pattern of women getting to know you and then prematurely breaking up with you. And some women make big dating decisions based on small things that most men don’t even notice.
Mon, May 18, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 16
In this episode of Helping Joe, Joe goes on two great dates with the girl he met from Tinder (see Episode 14 ), and he follows Tucker’s advice by going back to her place because his has no furniture. However, things quickly go downhill when Joe has problems in the bedroom. Tucker and Nils talk him through what happened, why he has shame around sex, and what to do going forward to fix these issues. They also share sad but funny stories of their own experiences with these problems.
Thu, May 14, 2015
Is This Girl Just Using Me?
This is an odd call because it’s a classic problem that women usually have. In this Q&A episode, Tucker Max, Nils Parker, and Dr. Geoffrey Miller explain how this is a normal issue because both the caller and the girl he is sleeping with are young, inexperienced, and exploring. She just might not want to date him. They talk about how to figure this out and what to do if that’s the case.
Wed, May 13, 2015
How Do I Bring My Girlfriend Home If My Family Doesn't Accept Me?
In this Q&A episode, Tucker Max, Nils Parker, and Dr. Geoffrey Miller explain how your family can impact a woman’s judgement of you and your mate value, but it’s not a major factor that women evaluate you on. If your family doesn’t accept you, it’s usually due to a family mistake or general toxicity and not your fault. Tucker came from an awful family but was still able to marry a fantastic woman. They talk about when and how to tell your girlfriend about these issues so she doesn't assume the worst. And remember, she's on your side.
Tue, May 12, 2015
How Do I Go From Conversation To Sex?
In this Q&A episode, Tucker Max, Dr. Geoffrey Miller, and Dr. Carin Perilloux explain how genuinely connecting and NOT thinking about women as objects or thinking about sex as a separate thing or on a different level will actually lead to more sex with women. There are no right words or moves that work every time, but there are signs to look for if a woman is into you and wants to move foreward. For a good example of this, see Helping Joe, Episode 14 @ minute 55:00.
Mon, May 11, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 15
In this week of Helping Joe, Charlie and Tucker talk to Joe about his second go at speed dating. This time Charlie went with him and some strange and hilarious things happened leading up to and during the event. Joe showed major improvements in confidence by owning his oddness, but his fashion choices are still atrocious. They dig into why this idea of trying to impress women by what you wear is ineffective for most guys and what you should focus on instead to make a good first impression and attract great women.
Thu, May 07, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: "Sleep With A Lot Of Women To Get Good In Bed."
In this episode of Bad Advice From The Internet, Tucker Max explains how sleeping with a lot of women to get good sexually is the opposite of the truth. Having sex with different women is great, but if you want to get better in bed it's much easier to do that by connecting with one woman and having sex with her over and over. The way you get good at any skill is by practicing and getting good at the skill of sex is about being comfortable and getting reps. That practice with one will help with all because women are more alike than different.
Wed, May 06, 2015
How Do I Hook Up With 10s? By The Way I Am A 10
In this special Q&A episode, Tucker Max, Nils Parker, and Dr. Geoffrey Miller have fun with a narcissistic caller who is upset that he isn’t dating women who he thinks are on his level. This is a case study of problems that come with being over-confident or arrogant. They give a funny reality check and explain why w omen are better at evaluating your mate value than you are, how high quality women can be very picky, and why it’s important to be honest with her about what you want. If you have these problems with narcissism and overconfidence , see our past podcast episodes .
Tue, May 05, 2015
I’ve Never Had A Girlfriend. How Do I Tell Her This?
This simple answer is to just be honest and tell her because it is NOT a red flag to never have had a serious girlfriend at 25. In this Q&A, Tucker Max and Dr. Geoffrey Miller explain why this is not a big deal and how to be honest and tell her this effectively, including conversation scripts if you are totally lost. Also see past podcasts we’ve done on big changes in mate value former fat guy , Impostor Syndrome , and what to do if you have little experience .
Mon, May 04, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 14
In this episode of Helping Joe, Tucker, Charlie, and Nils help Joe figure out what to do after he blows it with another great girl. They explain how to improve his texting and communication to avoid this problem in the future. And while Joe continues to cripple himself by not opening up, he made big improvements by being a little bit vulnerable and connecting with a cute, smart girl he met on Tinder. They explain what Joe did right and why this was a fantastic date.
Thu, April 30, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: Be Unavailable or Distant To Signal You Are High Status
In this episode of Bad Advice, Tucker explains how being unavailable, distant, or hard to get to signal that you are high status or high mate value is in general a terrible way to attract women. It works for a certain small % of women, but is a huge turn off to most. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Wed, April 29, 2015
How Do I Meet Fit, Athletic Women If I Have A Disability?
If a guy with cerebral palsy is going out and dating women, you have no excuse to not get out there yourself. In this Q&A episode, Tucker Max, Nils Parker, and Dr. Geoffrey Miller give many pieces of advice for meeting and dating fit, athletic women if you have a physical disability. One important point to think about is that overcoming a disability is a huge positive signal of effectiveness to women. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Tue, April 28, 2015
How Do I Tell If The Problem Is Me Or My Mating Market?
We’ve done past episodes on mating markets in the past. This caller is from Charlotte, and in this Q&A episode Tucker, Nils and Dr. Miller dive into why Charlotte is a tough mating market for men. They explain how census data can be misleading (ex. Chicago), what Operational Sex Ratio is and why it matters, and how to test the market to see if the problem is you or your mating market. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Mon, April 27, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 13
In this episode of Helping Joe, Joe finishes Level 1 of improv but has insecurities about moving on to Level 2 with his class. Tucker Max and Charlie Hoehn help him put his progress in perspective and convince him to keep going. They refer back to how meditation and journaling can change ineffective thought patterns and explain how with more demonstrated performance, real evidence of increasing success, Joe will build real confidence in his social life and with women. They also dive a little deeper into Joe’s personal history, friendships, and why he has no female friends. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Thu, April 23, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: “Wear This To Stand Out And Be Attractive”
In this episode of Bad Advice From The Internet, Tucker breaks down the idea of "peacocking" or "dressing like you're somebody" and related ideas about male fashion and style. Very few women decide to date or sleep with you based on what you are wearing. If you dress in a way that isn’t who you are to attract women, you are sending dishonest signals (lying). Women will inevitably figure out who you are (from of everything else about you) and lose any good first impression they had of you. Your first goal is to not exclude yourself through your clothes. This is why Tucker and Nils got so mad at Joe in Episode 9 . Being plain is okay if you have other things going for you. Figure out your strengths and what you’ve got going for you, develop those strengths, and display or compete on those strong traits to genuinely attract women. You are better off being who you really are and going to places where people will value you for who you are. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Wed, April 22, 2015
I Broke Up With My Girlfriend. Am I Missing Out On Something Special?
This is a great question for Tucker to answer because he has been through this exact issue multiple times in his life. In this Q&A episode, he, Dr. Miller, and Nils, explain how if you are still dating someone because you think you should , that’s a bad sign. Be honest with yourself about what you want in life and in a woman. If you’re not ready for a long-term relationship, the perfect woman is still wrong for you. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Tue, April 21, 2015
Is It Okay To Be Shallow About My Girlfriend’s Weight?
This is a bullshit question that we get a lot from guys: “Is it okay for me to feel [insert any desire or subjective emotion]?” In this Q&A, Tucker Max, Dr. Geoffrey Miller, and Nils Parker talk about how whatever you feel and want is cool. Your emotions, what you are feeling, are always valid. If your girlfriend changes, you are not obligated to be attracted to her and those changes. In this case, his girlfriend is trying to shame him into ignoring what he feels. This is ridiculous for many reasons that the guys explain in detail here. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Mon, April 20, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 12
In this episode of Helping Joe, Tucker and Nils finally get a look at Joe’s deeper emotions after he reads Daring Greatly . They talk about how the book affected him, what he learned, and how to apply the lessons to his dating life. Connecting with friends and girlfriends is essential to living a happy, fulfilling life. Making real connections requires vulnerability, opening yourself up, letting people in, and showing them who you really are. Romantic chemistry is exposing one element (you) to another element (her) to see if there’s a reaction. Being vulnerable and exposing emotion are very difficult for Joe and many other men. It is one reason why Tucker spent so much time in therapy. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Thu, April 16, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: Be 100% Honest 100% Of The Time, Radical Honesty
In this episode of Bad Advice From The Internet, Tucker explains how pushing your honesty onto other people who are not directly asking for it signals a lack of social intelligence, which makes you less likable and less attractive to women. For example, if a woman asks, “What are you looking for?” and you blurt out, “I just want to have sex and not date you,” it’s an immediate turnoff for her. Women look for physical safety, social safety, and emotional safety before dating or sleeping with you. If you are radically honest like this, she worries that you will tell all her friends that you two are just having sex, ruining her reputation. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Wed, April 15, 2015
What Is Love?
This is a big question that could take 5 hours to answer. In this short Q&A episode, Tucker Max, Nils Parker, and Dr. Geoffrey Miller broadly explain love, why we evolved to feel love, what love is not, and how to think about love and the relationship you are in. Watch out for desire, lust, obsession, and analyzing resume traits, which are all NOT love. Also, love takes time to figure out. Tucker developed slowly and didn't figure it out until he was 34. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Tue, April 14, 2015
I Lost My Virginity At 26, What Should I Do To Catch Up?
This call is from a man who was sexually shamed most of his life and is transitioning out of that. In this Q&A episode, Tucker Max, Dr. Geoffrey Miller, and Nils Parker knock down one big assumption with his question by advising him to ask, "What do I want?" Not "What should I do?" Explore who you are to figure out what you really want (your mating goal). They give many suggestions for how to do this. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Mon, April 13, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 11
This week of Helping Joe is a continuation of Episode 10 where Joe talks about recent dates with girls from episodes 7, 8, and 9 and new girls he is seeing. Tucker and Charlie break down his irrational, ineffective thoughts and how to replace them to get better with women. They also get into advice on texting, going back to her place, being honest and funny about your insecurities, and why you don’t need to have all your shit together before a woman will be very into you. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Thu, April 09, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: "Just Tell Her How You Feel."
Tucker Max explains how this is some of the worst advice that women give men. Being too open with your feelings too early in the relationship signals desperation and low mate value to a woman. Only crazy people over-share with those they first meet or don't know well. When telling her how you feel, it's best to emotionally follow her lead in disclosing more. This happens piece by piece. She gives a little and you give a little, escalating vulnerability and honesty until there is a high level of trust in the relationship. Then you can talk more about your feelings. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Wed, April 08, 2015
How Do I Get Over Impostor Syndrome?
This caller has the mating equivalent of a white people problem . He has a great girlfriend but doesn't believe he's good enough. Many guys have this issue of Imposter Syndrome when they are improving in dating and other areas of life. Tucker and Charlie have talked about this on Helping Joe when he loses confidence on dates. In this Q&A episode, Tucker, Nils, and Dr. Miller explain exactly what Imposter Syndrome is, why it's common with rapid improvement, and how it can be ridiculously arrogant. They talk about mental frameworks for overcoming this ineffective thinking, recognizing your high and realistic mate value, and building true confidence when more women are attracted to you. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Tue, April 07, 2015
What Do I Do If I'm Poor?
After making a few jokes and explaining the obvious, which is to learn skills and get a better job, Tucker Max, Nils Parker, and Dr. Geoffrey Miller talk about how to be more attractive while poor. Getting in shape with body weight only exercises ( Convict Conditioning ), wearing simple & clean clothes that fit you, and having a great attitude (fun, kind, smart, or interesting), will put you in the top 25% of men out there. They also give some great free date ideas. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Mon, April 06, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 10
In this episode of Helping Joe, Tucker Max and Charlie Hoehn catch up with Joe on all the dates he has had in the last 2 weeks. They recognize and celebrate these wins to reinforce that Joe is on the right path and making progress. A huge part of building confidence is realizing the strides you’ve made since starting and internalizing positive feedback, from both the women you are dating and your friends (or coaches here). Later they get into mistakes Joe made on these dates, including his funny but self-crippling texts. They also talk about why accepting who you are and being the best version of yourself is more effective than following a successful model that doesn’t fit who you are. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Thu, April 02, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 9
In this episode of Helping Joe, Joe went speed dating for the first time and Tucker Max and Nils Parker break down his mini-dates. They give Joe much needed fashion advice (Joe makes big mistakes here. Jokes follow.), feedback on his first date (and first meeting) conversations, and more ways to reframe his dating mindset and goal so that he has more fun and better results. They revisit Joe’s critical issues like cursing under his breath, not internalizing positive feedback, and changing his ineffective mindsets and irrational thoughts. At the end, Tucker gets very honest and open about his own issues, why he blew up in Episode 7 , and why he had to talk to his analyst about Joe. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Wed, April 01, 2015
How Do I Relax And Have Fun On First Dates?
In this Q&A episode, Tucker Max, Nils Parker, and Dr. Geoff Miller explain the internal worries (How am I doing? Does she like me?) that many guys have on first dates and how to replace those thoughts with more effective ones (How can I have fun? What is interesting about her?). Also, check out the psychology of choking in our Choke Book Notes or buy the book here. Also, Tucker, Charlie, and Nils have spent the last two months answering this question on the Helping Joe series. It’s one of Joe’s biggest problems. Listen to Episode 4 and Episode 5 especially. This episode is sponsored by Dude Wipes , the first flushable wipes for men. Check them out on Amazon for free shipping and sales this month.
Tue, March 31, 2015
How Can I Be Funny And Hookup When Sober?
In this Q&A episode, Tucker Max, Nils Parker, and Dr. Geoff Miller explain that alcohol lowers your inhibitions and the worries about what others will think or how you will look, which all get in the way of being funny. There may be a deeper problem with your social skills, confidence, or shame. These can all be fixed (check out our other podcasts for more in depth advice).
Mon, March 30, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 8
This episode is a continuation of Episode 7 . Tucker Max, Charlie Hoehn, and Joe try to regroup and talk about Joe's other dates that he went on, but they get right back to emotional issues that caused him to completely lose confidence in himself on a different date. The reason for this is absolutely ridiculous. You will laugh when listening to it. Joe thought this girl was out of his league and rejected himself even though she was into him. There are a lot of lessons to be learned from his mistake about attraction, understanding women, and giving yourself the chance to succeed.
Thu, March 26, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: "If You Don't Call To Setup A Date, You Are A Coward."
This Bad Advice is from old people who are angry about new technology like texting. 20 years ago when calling was the default, this advice would have been valid. Now the default is texting, especially for young people. The data shows that many women under 30 think calling is an intrusion of privacy and inconvenient or rude. To them, you are not more manly, courageous, or gentlmanly. You are just weird. This is why understanding social groups is so important. Everything you do is contingent on that. Whatever is normal to do in that group is what you should be doing: If you are in your 40s asking out a woman in her 30s or 40s, call her . If you are in your 20s asking out a woman in her 20s, text her .
Wed, March 25, 2015
Why Are So Many Men Pussy Whipped Or Afraid Of Their Wives?
In this Q&A episode, Tucker Max, Nils Parker, and Dr. Geoff Miller break apart this question, the details he gave, and the assumptions he is making. They explain how if you see a guy who is to be subservient to or "pussy whipped" by his girlfriend or wife, you are only looking at a small part of their relationship and making assumptions based just on that. It's unlikely that you know their entire relationship history and all the dynamics going on. Sometimes, a woman is just awful or the man has given up too much control and dominance in a relationship (No More Mr. Nice guy is a great analysis of this problem). But ask yourself, "Why is this happening in the first place and why is he still with her?" Staying in that relationship is a choice that as a man you have to take responsibility for.
Tue, March 24, 2015
What Do I Do If My Mating Market Is Racist?
If you live in a very racist state (Arizona) or city (Boston) move! In this Q&A Tucker Max, Dr. Geoff Miller, and Nils Parker explain how sometimes the problem is 100% your mating market and not you. If that’s the case and you want to be successful with women, you need to leave.
Mon, March 23, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 7
In week 7 of Helping Joe, Tucker Max and Charlie Hoehn dig into Joe's mess of emotional issues after he has a great date, but ruins it by blowing off the girl he liked. What starts off as a small celebration with good tactical advice gets heated (Tucker gets angry) after they learn what Joe texted after. They rummage through some of his emotional baggage and explain how his fears are crippling his mating opportunities. As Tucker put it, “Joe is a wantrepreneur with women."
Fri, March 20, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: "The Best Way To Get Over A Breakup Is To Sleep With Other Women"
This is the idea that the right way to get over a bad breakup, when you feel like shit, is to just sleep with other girls. It's actually only half wrong. For more long-term relationships, where you loved your girlfriend and were together for a while, it's awful advice. In this episode, we talk about how sleeping around in response to a sad breakup pushes off pain that you need to feel. These emotions are inevitable. It’s better to address them upfront. We talk about how to do this and how humans heal in groups.
Thu, March 19, 2015
I Lost 100 Lbs But Still Not Confident With Women
Both men and woman can have difficulty realizing they are more attractive after a big positive change like losing weight. In this Q&A Tucker Max, Dr. Geoff Miller, and Nils Parker talk about how to accept and believe you that you are more attractive by getting feedback from women, starting small with exposure therapy, and testing your mating market.
Tue, March 17, 2015
How Do I Be A Defender In The Tender Defender Model?
In modern society, there is little threat of violence day-to-day. So how you do you display the Defender part of the Tender Defender model to women? In this Q&A Tucker Max, Dr. Geoff Miller, and Nils Parker break down a big assumption of being a Defender (It’s not all about violence.) and explain the many ways you can be a Defender without fighting. A better way to look at it is being an Effective Provider can solve her problems.
Mon, March 16, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 6
In week 6 of Helping Joe, Charlie brings in one of his female friends to show Joe first hand what she experiences when dating online or through Tinder. She also gives him feedback on his profile and advice* on what to do and not to do when messaging women. Tucker makes a lot of jokes and draws out great feedback from her. He is also a case study here for one way to tease and have fun with a woman. *She was good at knowing what she wanted but bad at extrapolating this across women in general. Most of what she said was specific to her. It's better to ask a woman what she personally wants and listen, not ask her what all women want because she will project her preferences onto all women and give you bad advice.
Thu, March 12, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: "What To Do If She Says She Has A Boyfriend."
What's The Bad Advice? A lot of creepy pickup websites gives lines to use or tactics to ignore, isolate, keep pushing, and "attract" a woman when she says she has a boyfriend. This applies to short-term mating situations. Why This Is Bad Advice? You are wasting your time talking to someone who is not into you. Creepy dudes give this creepy advice because many of the guys they are marketing to who follow pickup crap get this response a lot, "Sorry I have a boyfriend." because the women they are talking to are weirded out. This is a polite way of saying "please, leave me alone." The Better Advice Is Short And Simple If a girl tells you that she has a boyfriend in the first 30 minutes or so of talking to her, she's not into you. Go talk to other girls who are. There are exceptions to the rule (like everything in life), which Tucker talks about in the rest of this episode, but 95% of the time you are just bothering her and better off talking to girls who don't tell you that they have boyfriends.
Wed, March 11, 2015
Are There Any Benefits Of Delaying Masturbation?
There are a lot of anecdotes from Reddit's NoFap and YourBrainOnPorn of guys who have issues with masturbation. Unfortunately, there's not much good science and virtually no studies on how much should you masturbate or what is optimal. In this short Q&A episode, Dr. Miller, Tucker, and Nils advise you to experiment, track how you feel, and do what's best for yourself until better science comes out. If you are married, it's better to just have sex with your wife. They also try to figure out why the hell a married guy asked this question.
Tue, March 10, 2015
How Do I Handle Another Guy Trying To Cock Block Me At A Bar?
This listener called in from Boston, which is a terrible city full of awful people. We've had multiple questions about how to handle assholes from there. We decided to answer one of them and rip on Boston in general. In this Q&A, Tucker Max, Dr. Geoff Miller, and Nils Parker explain how male cockblockers are usually not trying to stop you from getting the girl. They are instead asserting their status or dominance by making fun of you. If your friends are doing this, you have shitty friends and need to make new ones. They also give exact comebacks and conversation scripts you can use to deal with these douchebags.
Mon, March 09, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 5
In week 5 of Helping Joe, Nils Parker steps in via Skype while Charlie is playing it away . Nils brings a different set of questions (and jokes) for dealing with Joe’s issues. He and Tucker Max dive a little deeper into why Joe gets nervous on first dates and how to reframe one’s mindset when going into a date to have more fun and be more relaxed, which ultimately will lead to those dates going better. They also talk about understanding women on Tinder and setting better expectations for date.
Fri, March 06, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: "Just Be Yourself"
Women give this advice to guys a lot, but it's useless. A better way for you to "just be yourself" is to first figure out what about you is attractive to women. Then accentuate these strengths by putting yourself in places where those best parts of you will shine and your weaknesses will not show.
Thu, March 05, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 4
In week 4 of Helping Joe, Tucker and Charlie begin by talking about Joe's first improv class, going out to a bar with Charlie, and feedback from girls at that bar. They then dive into having better and more fun conversations, giving a ton of tips, tricks, and ways to re-frame how you look at making small talk or talking with women at bars or on dates. Also, Joe recorded his last date so Charlie and Tucker could listen to it (not on the podcast). They give specific and sometimes hilarious feedback on what Joe did right and wrong in this date. It was better than his last date Helping Joe, Part 3 , but there is still a lot of room for improvement. They wrap up by talking about how being in the moment and being a little vulnerable is how people really connect with each other.
Wed, March 04, 2015
How Do I Tell Her I Don't Want A Long-Term Relationship?
When a woman you are sleeping with wants an exclusive long-term relationship (boyfriend), but you are not ready to give that to her, it's best to be upfront and honest about it. Tucker Max was terrible at this when he was younger, and it led to relationship disasters. In this Q&A episode, Tucker Max, Nils Parker, and Dr. Geoff Miller explain how it's totally cool not to want to commit long-term to a woman you are having sex with, but it's important to have a clear conversation with her about that. They include how to bring this up and a few conversation scripts to use.
Tue, March 03, 2015
Women Keep Flaking On Dates, What Do I Do?
This is a great question, but the way this young caller asks it and the background he gives us, which is great by the way because it helps us figure out what's really going on, shows that there are fundamental problems with his mindset, strategy, tactics, etc. He has gotten a ton of terrible advice and ideas from pickup artist nonsense. Tucker Max, Dr. Geoff Miller, and Nils Parker explain the four most common reasons why girls flake, cancel, or don't show up to a date; why this will (and should) happen a certain percentage of times, and why looking at it as "flaking" and blaming the woman is the wrong mindset. They also give some harsh but much needed advice on throwing out your pickup ebooks and bootcamp binders. For more on how pua scams work and why their tactics are terrible for long-term success, listen to this episode about the pua scene .
Fri, February 27, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: "Women Love Assholes"
Getting drunk, yelling, and/or being rude with women is not an effective strategy. However, there are traits of an 'asshole' that women do find attractive. This was Tucker's mating strategy for almost 10 years. He wrote 3 books about his stories of being an asshole. It is difficult to pull off and works best with a small percentage of emotionally damaged women. We also have a whole podcast on this in our How To Be Attractive Series .
Thu, February 26, 2015
How Do I Deal With Jealousy?
Jealousy is the emotion of mate guarding, paying attention to the behavior of our mates around others. There are many evolutionary reasons for this, and Dr. Geoffrey Miller explains why a little jealousy can be good. Also, be honest with yourself about why you are in a relationship. Tucker Max and Nils Parker give advice on mate value in different life stages. And Tucker runs through 5 quick questions to ask yourself to understand if a relationship is going to last or if she will eventually look for and find someone else.
Wed, February 25, 2015
How Do I Regain Confidence After A Breakup Or Dry Spell?
This is normal and something every guy goes through. Two effective ways to start getting back out there and regaining confidence are small wins and great friends. Dr. Geoffrey Miller begins this Q&A episode talking about making small steps to be more outgoing, with women and with friends. Tucker Max brings up social relationships and how a great thing to do is engage with good friends in positive, uplifting ways. Many problems start with not having friends. This is something that most dating advice never focuses on. Social relationships are so important to mental health, confidence, and even hormones like testosterone. As humans we need strong relationships, especially during tough times. And as men most of our friendships are made in structured social groups with a common set of goals and values. Sports clubs, the military, and startup culture are good examples but there are 100s. Start with finding those groups. You can listen to the Jack Donovan ( The Way of Men ) episode for a more in depth talk on this.
Tue, February 24, 2015
What Should I Do If I'm Balding Or Graying?
This Q&A is for men who are are worried about going bald or gray and losing hair. There are two key takeaways: great hair doesn't matter as much as you think and the simple solution to be more attractive it to shave your head. Tucker Max, Dr. Geoff Miller, and Nils Parker talk about how there's not much you can do to prevent hair loss, but that's OK because women don't really care. Dr. Miller mentions it's not even in the top 30 most important things that women want. However, awful hair like a comb-over or bad hair piece can lower your mate value. And think about it from an evolutionary perspective: If women were turned off by baldness, we would have evolved not to get bald because those men would not have mated. The fact that we evolved this way means baldness doesn't matter much to women. Your bald ancestors still got laid.
Mon, February 23, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 3
In week 3 of Helping Joe, Tucker Max and Charlie Hoehn talk about two of Joe's Tinder dates and break down what went wrong and why. They go over his mistakes, including one critical first date mistake that blew any chance he had with a cute Mexican girl. They also talk about improv classes, why they are awesome, and how most guys don't get enough "reps" in real life. They wrap up with a bit about testosterone test results, the importance of social relationships, and how they have a huge impact on your health and hormones.
Fri, February 20, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: "Fake It 'Til You Make It."
The idea that just believing in yourself, going out there, and faking it will lead to real confidence and long-term success. Confidence is the realistic expectation that you have of being successful at something given your competence at this thing and the risk involved in doing it. Humans developed confidence as a way to track our competencies so that we make the right decisions about various risks. This is not feeling good about yourself. This is not believing in yourself no matter what. That is self-esteem. You build competence through preparation, practice, and demonstrated performance. You can't fake competence, you actually have to work to get good at a skill. If you aren't good at skiing, you can't fake going down the Black Diamond run. It's the same with talking to women. If you have low social competence (trouble talking to people), you can't fake talking to women. In fact, faking confidence here will make you look even worse because people can tell that nothing is behind it. Faking it is good advice to follow when you are already competent and you have the skills, but subjectively you don't believe that you are any good. Your confidence is much lower than your competence. Here "fake it 'til you make it" can help you become confident when your skills are already there. A better strategy is to get objective feedback. To figure out if you should focus on either building skills to get better or faking it and acting as if, ask people around you, a good friend, who can be honest about whether or not you already have these skills.
Thu, February 19, 2015
How Do I Take Myself Less Seriously And Be Less Shy Around People?
Taking yourself too seriously can mean many things like you may have no sense of humor or you're too into yourself. In this episode, Dr. Miller, Tucker, and Nils explain how self-deprecating humor, making fun of yourself, is the best first step you can take to being less serious. Research shows many positives associated with this type of humor. Sometimes, being shy and reserved is a result of your social group. If that is true for you, find people or places where you are more comfortable to open up. Even having one great friend who is more playful to go out with is great. And as a last resort, ask people about themselves. Take a genuine interest in what they know that you don't know and build from there. They also mentioned a past podcast on communication that you can to listen in order to solve this problem.
Wed, February 18, 2015
How Do I Ask A Girl Out Who Is At Work And May Be Flirting With Me?
Women who work are usually paid to be nice to you, especially bartenders and waitresses. If you like her, there are low risk ways to see if she's interested. In this episode, Tucker Max, Nils Parker, and Dr. Geoff Miller talk about how to gather information ( Does she have a boyfriend? ), talk to her like a friend, and ask her out in an easy way (think social, not 1:1) so you don't creep out a woman who is 'trapped' at work. Nils, who was a bartender in his 20s, also gives advice on how to tell when a bartender or waitress is into you. Hint: 90% of the time, she's flirting with your wallet, not you. That's her job, dude.
Tue, February 17, 2015
How Do I Use Humor And Teasing With Women At Bars?
Humor is very attractive and displays many traits like intelligence, social proof, mental health. Not everyone can be a comedian, but you can go out with good friends, make fun of eachother, and bring women into the fun. In this Q&A, Nils Parker, Tucker Max, and Dr. Geoff Miller explain the basics and low risk ways to use humor, be funny, and tease: Making fun of yourself and your friends is attractive Even having just one hilarious good friend is enough to make you better. How to tease women without going too far. Why punching up is better than punching down. How to make funny observations of other odd people around you. And why joke quality is better than joke quantity.
Mon, February 16, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 2
In the second week of Helping Joe, Tucker Max and Charlie Hoehn talk about Joe's Tinder profile (what he did right and wrong), his first Tinder date, why small talk is so important and easy it is to do, why making a woman feel comfortable on the first date is critical to it going well (Joe fails at this in later episodes), and how to message or followup with a woman who "goes dark." Also, Tucker and Charlie make fun of Joe and the odd things he says.
Fri, February 13, 2015
Bad Advice From The Internet: "It's Just a Numbers Game"
The Numbers Game ( the more girls you talk to, the more sex you have ) is bad and ineffective advice, even for short-term mating. There are some big assumptions that pua guys make with this that are just wrong. More effective strategies are to optimize your mating market and change your goal when you go out. If you have trouble talking to women or getting a date, playing the numbers game is almost the worst thing you can do.
Thu, February 12, 2015
How To Figure Out What Happened After A Bad Breakup
Getting over a breakup is tough. This is the other side of a past Q&A we did on breaking up without being a dick . It's fucked up when a serious girlfriend dumps you by text, but it's likely there were signs of this coming. In this Q&A episode, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils talk about the best ways to get closure, what to look for and reflect on, and how to talk to friends (mutual, hers, and yours) to figure out what went wrong.
Wed, February 11, 2015
When Do You Know It's Time To Settle Down For A Long-Term Relationship?
The short answer is that there's is no right time. Every guy is different. But there are ways to know when to switch from short-term mating to a long-term relationship. Getting tired of sleeping with women that you don't care about is one of them. This decision is best made by emotion, not logic and reason. Listen to your gut. And remember you can always go back to short-term relationships if you want. Tucker starts this episode talking about how he knew it was time to make the switch in his 30s when he felt lonely having sex with a ton of women. Nils and Dr. Miller give more cues to look for and bad situations to avoid. They also suggest looking at medium-term relationships as training for a long-term relationship. It takes time to transition from short to medium to long.
Tue, February 10, 2015
If I Don't Know What I'm Doing With My Life, Can I Still Date And Have A Relationship?
Career or life anxieties can feel overwhelming, but you don't have to know where you're going in life or have a great career before finding a girlfriend. Women don't date a job. They date a person. In this Q&A, Tucker and Dr. Miller explain how your career is only one factor in your overall attractiveness and not a very important one, especially if you are younger. Research on this indicates that women can find a man's potential for success much more attractive than his actual success. This works well for you if you're 25, not so much if you're 35. They also go into some life and career advice not related to dating.
Mon, February 09, 2015
Helping Joe, Episode 1
This is a new podcast segment called "Helping Joe." We take a regular Mating Grounds listener and work through his problems with meeting and dating women. In the first episode of this series, Tucker and Charlie learn about Joe's problems and why he's not doing well with women. They dive into how and where to meet women, understanding attractive women, and how to set up a great Tinder profile, including ideas for funny photos and an interesting bio.
Wed, February 04, 2015
How Do I End A Short Term Relationship Without Hurting Her?
Hooking up is awesome but ending a short-term relationship by disappearing or being a dick is harmful to both you and her. Tucker has learned a lot from ending relationships in a myriad of horrible ways. Read any of his 3 books if you want to learn how NOT to do this well. In this Q&A, Tucker, Nils, and Dr. Miller show you exactly how to breakup a short or medium term relationship so you are both better off. They give breakup conversation scripts and examples you can copy verbatim. Be kind but firm. Don't be a coward and disappear.
Tue, February 03, 2015
How Can I Overcome Severe Social Anxiety?
The strategies you need to get over severe social anxiety are different than past answers we've given on social anxiety and being nervous. Dr. Miller, Tucker, and Nils dive into extinction theory and how to use exposure therapy to take small steps and build on them. They give many short-term and long-term strategies to effectively manage social fear so it won't stop you from meeting women and talking to women.
Mon, February 02, 2015
How Do I Go From Classmate To A Potential Mate?
If you are a classmate, friend, or acquaintance of a woman, you are already a potential mate. Talking is a way to figure out if there is a connection or chemistry. Having anything in common is a great way to talk to her and start a conversation. You can then transition into other conversation topics. You don't have to re-introduce yourself as a sexual being. You already are.
Wed, December 31, 2014
How Long Do I Wait To Text A Girl?
The idea that you should wait a long time before texting or calling a girl after getting her number is wrong; you should text a girl when you feel like texting her. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain why it's dumb to play games, and tell you what you need to do and what you need to avoid when first texting a girl.
Tue, December 30, 2014
How Do I Stop Being So Sensitive About Perceived Rejection?
Sometimes a woman may do something that you perceive as rejection, but it's not actually a rejection. If you have a negative mindset and always assume the worst, you're going to have trouble with dating and relationships. In this episode, Tucker, Nils, and Charlie why a woman might try to reschedule a date or otherwise change plans, what the correct way to response is, and how to improve a negative mindset so that you will be more successful with women.
Mon, December 29, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt. 13: How To Move Your Body (Physical Movement)
How you move is a key indicator of your sexual fitness, and by developing and displaying physical skills in ways that matter to women, you will become significantly more attractive. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff explain why women find physical skills attractive, how to find skills that interest you, and how to display your physical skills to attract women.
Fri, December 26, 2014
How Do I Show My Girlfriend That My Female Friends Aren't A Threat?
If your girlfriend is intimidated by your female friends, it's something you need to address. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain how to bring up the topic with your girlfriend, find out what aspects of your friendships she's intimidated by, and what to do to make her comfortable.
Tue, December 23, 2014
I Have Excessive Body Hair, How Should I Groom It?
While some women like hairy guys, others don't. If you're trying to tailor your look to get the most interest, the less hair the better. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin tell you how to determine what your partner likes, and give you some simple grooming tips to maximize how attractive you are to women.
Mon, December 22, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt. 12: Get In Shape (Physical Health)
Improving your physical health is one of the easiest things you can do to become more attractive to women, all it takes is some simple diet changes and a little exercise. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff explain some misconceptions about health and fitness, what type of body women find most attractive, and what you need to do to get that body.
Fri, December 19, 2014
How Do I Talk To Girls At The Gym?
There are ways to meet women at the gym, but you need to pick the right situations. In this episode, Tucker, Nils, and Charlie tell you which women to talk to and which to avoid, how to make women feel safe, and the best ways to meet women at the gym.
Thu, December 18, 2014
How Can I Fix My Narcissism?
If you're narcissistic and you want to have good relationships, you need to constantly be aware of your behavior. It's hard to change your attitudes, but you can change how you express them. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain how to figure out what specific problems you have, how to fix those problems, the importance of therapy, and Tucker and Geoff share how they have dealt with their own narcissism.
Wed, December 17, 2014
How Do I Keep Things Interesting In A Long Term Relationship?
The problem with monogamous relationships is that the instinctive male desire for sexual variety isn't fulfilled, but there are things you can do to fulfill it to some degree. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin tell you what you can do to make your sex life more interesting, keep your relationship exciting, and some deeper questions to consider if you're getting bored in a relationship.
Tue, December 16, 2014
Girls Assume I'm A Player Because Of My Appearance, What Do I Do?
If women assume you're a player because of how attractive you are, you can have lots of success with both short-term and long-term relationships. For long-term relationships, you just need to signal romantic interest, and for short-term relationships, you're already in the perfect position. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain how to signal interest for long-term relationships and how to be more confident and effective in short-term mating.
Mon, December 15, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt. 11: Showing Interest In Women (Romantic Proof)
To have relationships with women, it's important to show that you're interested, and there's a right way to do this and a wrong way. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff tell you how to display romantic proof to attract women, how to avoid being creepy, and how being honest will help you get laid.
Fri, December 12, 2014
How Do I Use Tinder to Meet Women?
Most guys use Tinder completely wrong. In this episode, Charlie Hoehn joins Tucker and Nils to explain what most guys do wrong on Tinder, how to optimize your profile, and how to easily meet up with your matches.
Thu, December 11, 2014
Why Did This Girl Suddenly Stop Talking To Me?
Sometimes a girl will lose interest, it happens to everybody. When this happens, the first thing you need to do is evaluate your behavior to see if you did anything wrong, and if you can't find a reason, you need to move on. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils tell you some potential reasons why a girl will lose interest, how to learn from your mistakes, and when to move on and find a different girl.
Wed, December 10, 2014
I'm Bitter Towards Women Because of Past Rejection, How Can I Get Over This?
If you've been rejected by lots of women, it's natural to feel bitter. But ultimately, bitterness will only hurt you, no one else. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils explain how to reframe your experiences in a way that will help you feel more positive about yourself, and give you tips on how you can better evaluate where you are and what you need to do to attract the women you want.
Tue, December 09, 2014
How Can I Attract Older Women?
As a younger guy, you have a lot to offer to older women. They may be skeptical about you being younger, but there are things you can do to reduce that skepticism. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils explain what you have to offer older women, what you need to do to reduce any skepticism about dating a younger guy, how to have short-term and long term relationships with older women, and some things you need to be careful about.
Mon, December 08, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt. 10 Being Popular Matters (Social Proof)
Everyone knows that women are attracted to men with high social status, but what most guys don't understand is that it's possible to display high social status in many different ways, namely through what psychologists call "social proof." Social proof is what people think of you, and your social proof is a key part of your ability to attract women. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff explain why social proof is important, how to raise your social proof by improving your social skills, making friends, adding value to those friendships, and how to utilize those friendships to meet women.
Fri, December 05, 2014
Dr. Nicole Prause Interview (Part 2)
In part two of her interview, Dr. Nicole Prause, Tucker, and Geoff tell you what you need to know about orgasms, the g-spot, the clitoris, the current state of sex research, and what we don't know about sexual physiology.
Tue, December 02, 2014
Why Are Women Upset By The Street Harassment Video?
The street harassment video has caused a lot of controversy, and it's important to understand why. In this video, a woman is recorded walking through New York, and is shown being approached by random men. Why are women offended by how the men in this video act? Is it ever okay to talk to a woman you don't know on the street? If so, how do you do it? In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin answer all of these questions and more, and Carin gives a valuable perspective of what it's like to be constantly approached by men as an attractive woman.
Mon, December 01, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt. 9: Get Your Life Together (Willpower & Conscientiousness)
Increasing your willpower and conscientiousness is one of the best ways to become more attractive to women. This means being ambitious, reliable, a hard worker, planning ahead, having self-control, and being able to get things done. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff explain why willpower and conscientiousness are so attractive, how to increase them, and how to display them in ways that attract women.
Fri, November 28, 2014
Dr. Nicole Prause Interview (Part 1)
Our guest today is Dr. Nicole Prause, a sex researcher from UCLA. In this episode, Dr. Prause, Tucker, and Geoff discuss penis size preferences, what traits are more important than penis size, what traits are less important, and female orgasms.
Thu, November 27, 2014
What Advice Do You Have For Guys With Asperger's Or Autism?
Having Asperger's or autism can be hard as a teenager, but it does get better. It won't cripple your social life, you just need to address it. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain how get better at communication and find women that will appreciate you, and Geoff gives some tips that helped him deal with his own Asperger's and have successful relationships.
Wed, November 26, 2014
I'm Seeing A Woman I Like, But I Haven't Been Able To Get Hard. What Do I Do?
A huge percentage of erectile dysfunction is psychological, and if you deal with the underlying issues, you'll be fine. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils tell you how to deal with the underlying issues of erectile dysfunction, and give some general tips for fixing the problem.
Tue, November 25, 2014
Is It Normal To Be Narcissistic At 19 Years Old?
If you're a narcissist, it's still possible to have quality relationships--you just need to think about other people. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils tell you how to minimize the negatives that come with narcissism, how to go from narcissism to true self confidence, and how to connect with people to have quality relationships.
Mon, November 24, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt. 8: Show That You're Smart (Signaling Intelligence)
Women find intelligence attractive, but the only way they know about your intelligence is if you show them in ways they appreciate. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff discuss education credentials, signaling intelligence, and how to use your intelligence in ways that women find attractive.
Fri, November 21, 2014
How Can An Older Guy Be Attractive To Younger Women?
If you're an older guy, you have qualities that younger guys lack, and by displaying those qualities, you can attract younger women. You need to understand what a younger woman wants when she dates an older guy, and act accordingly -- this doesn't mean you need to act younger, but you also don't want to remind her of her father. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain the importance of style and being in shape, where to meet younger women, how to approach them, and how to show them what you offer that younger guys can't.
Thu, November 20, 2014
How Can I Accept My Girlfriends Sexual Past?
If you're bothered by your girlfriends sexual past, relax. It's a normal reaction, and to deal with it you first need to examine why it bothers you, and then either change the way you think about it, or break up with her. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin tell you how to know if you should break up with her or not, how to find out why her sexual past bothers you, and how to reframe it and feel better.
Wed, November 19, 2014
If I Failed With Women in College, Am I Hopeless?
If you failed with women in college, don't get down on yourself; most guys don't actually have much success with women until after college. In college, mating success is mostly determined by social popularity, whereas after college it's determined by other things, like your ability to be a good partner, how motivated you are, and what you're doing with your life. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin tell you how to increase your mate value, find women who are a good match for you, and have successful relationships after college.
Tue, November 18, 2014
I've Made Progress But Still Lack Self-Esteem, What Do I Do?
Lots of guys have issues with self-esteem, and there are many ways to improve. The best way to feel better about yourself is to do things that make your life better. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff cover most of the major ways to improve your self-esteem, like building relationships, improving your health, doing work you're proud of, and overcoming negative thoughts.
Mon, November 17, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt. 7: Smart Is Sexy (Intelligence)
One of the traits that women find most attractive in men is intelligence. There's a huge amount of untapped intelligence potential in almost every guy, and unlocking this potential will make you significantly more attractive. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff tell you some myths about intelligence, why intelligence is attractive, and how you can become more intelligent.
Fri, November 14, 2014
Charlie Hoehn Interview #2
All guys can become more successful with women, they just need to focus on the right things. Charlie Hoehn had some very limiting beliefs early in life that didn't help him with women. In this episode, Charlie tells us about his limiting beliefs and his failures and successes in dating, and through that, Tucker and Charlie explain how to be funny, how to develop confidence, and how to become the most attractive version of yourself.
Thu, November 13, 2014
What Do I Do If The Women I Find Attractive Aren't Into Me?
If the women you find most attractive aren't into you, then the likely explanation is that your mate value is too low for them, or you aren't properly displaying your mate value to them. The good news for guys is that we can raise our mate value pretty easily. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils tell you how and when to initiate contact with attractive women, and how to raise your mate value so that you can attract the women that you want.
Wed, November 12, 2014
What Do I Do If A Woman Seems Interested, But Then Flakes On Plans?
Is she busy, or not interested? It's important to be able to tell the difference, and the way to do this is by looking at things from her perspective. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils give you some tips on understanding how women think, explain how to know if a woman's attracted to you, and tell you the next steps to take if she isn't.
Tue, November 11, 2014
I'm In Grad School In A New City, How Do I Meet Women
It may seem hard to meet women in a new city, but even if you're a busy grad student, there are plenty of opportunities. You need to take advantage of being in school and find ways to be around other students, including undergrads. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin tell you how to build a social circle, find new mating markets, and meet more women.
Mon, November 10, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt. 6: Crazy Is Not Sexy (Mental & Emotional Health)
One of the least attractive things a guy can be is crazy. While most guys are not crazy, very few guys pay much attention to their mental health, and they should. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff discuss why mental health matters, what the indicators of mental health are, and how you can improve in these areas to display the traits that women find attractive.
Fri, November 07, 2014
Rachael Grazioplene Interview
This week, we talk to Rachael Grazioplene, a PhD student at the University of Minnesota who's research focuses on individual differences, primarily openness traits related to creativity and intelligence, and the effects of environmental and genetic factors on this. In this episode we discuss what guys do wrong in dating, what guys do right, what traits women find attractive, and how you can develop those traits.
Thu, November 06, 2014
How Do I Stop Talking To Women As Friends And Start Flirting With Them?
Friendly conversation with a woman is not that different than flirting with her; flirting is just a subtle extension of normal conversation to gauge sexual interest. Once you have the right perspective, you can start flirting with any woman you are interested in. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain how to flirt with a woman, and give lots of tips for how you can improve at flirting.
Wed, November 05, 2014
I Have A Weak Feminine Face, How Do I Compensate?
Guys often have the wrong idea about what's attractive to women. Women aren't exclusively attracted to masculine traits, and are generally attracted to more feminine faces than guys think they are, especially for longer term relationships. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain how psychology research is often misunderstood by journalists, bloggers, and the manosphere, leading to incorrect views about what women what, and also give some advice on dealing with whatever physical flaws you think you have.
Tue, November 04, 2014
How Can I Be More Comfortable In Social Situations?
Shame can be crippling, and if you want to form relationships, you need to be comfortable with who you are. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils tell you what you need to know to deal with shame, transform the way you view yourself, and become more comfortable in social situations.
Mon, November 03, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt.5: Style is Sexy(Aesthetic Proof)
Women care a lot about style and aesthetics because it signals other important traits such as intelligence, social ability, and resources. It's very easy to become better than most guys in this area, and in this episode Tucker and Geoff tell you some simple things you can do to improve your aesthetic sense and become more attractive to women.
Fri, October 31, 2014
Jake Seliger Interview
Our guest today is Jake Seliger, novelist and writer. Jake has gone from being very unsuccessful with women to very successful, and has lots of actionable advice. In this episode, Tucker and Jake discuss where to find women, how to ask them out, how to know when a girl likes you, and what you can do to make yourself more attractive to women.
Thu, October 30, 2014
Can I Have A Successful Relationship With My Co-Worker
Relationships with co-workers can succeed, you just need to approach it correctly. The key thing is to avoid reputational damage and legal disaster. In this episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils tell you everything you need to know to intelligently and effectively pursue a relationship with a co-worker.
Wed, October 29, 2014
What To Do On A First Date From Tinder
Tinder is a great way to match up with interested girls, but what do you do after the match? You meet the woman in person, and the best first date is meeting is a social situation that is low stress with a short time commitment. Tucker, Geoff, and Nils explain the best way to go about this, and also tell you how to find girls who are looking for the same thing you are on Tinder.
Tue, October 28, 2014
I Fall For Girls Too Fast, What Is My Problem?
Falling in love too fast is a common issue guys have, but if you have this problem and don't fix it, eventually you'll end up in a toxic relationship. In today's episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils explain the exact steps you need to take to have healthy relationships, starting with recognizing you have a problem, managing your emotions, and building intimate non-romantic relationships.
Mon, October 27, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt. 4: How Rich Do You Need To Be? (Material Proof)
How much money do you need to be attractive to women? This is a question lots of guys ask, because they think having money is what women want, and for a good reason: consumerist culture has taught you that your value, your identity as a person, and your sexual ability is tied to the things you buy. The problem is that all of the actual empirical data says the opposite--women don't actually care that much about wealth (and when they do, it's in only specific situations). In today's episode, Tucker and Geoff discuss how much money you really need, and what actually matters to women.
Fri, October 24, 2014
Dr. Heather Berlin Interview
Today’s guest is Dr. Heather Berlin, acclaimed researcher and neuroscientist, and Dr. Berlin and Tucker discuss exactly how guys can develop and retain good habits both in dating and in life. Dr. Berlin also talks about what it’s like to be an intelligent, beautiful, successful woman dating in New York City and the things she sees that guys do right and wrong.
Thu, October 23, 2014
I'm In A Long Term Relationship, But Still Want To Flirt With Other Women
A lot of guys think that once they have a girlfriend, all other women must immediately become unattractive to them, or they're morally bankrupt. That's not only silly, it's unnatural and unhealthy--for both partners. But on the other hand, if you have an intense desire to actually be with other women, you should examine whether your relationship is right for you. In this Q&A, Geoff, Nils & Tucker unpack all the issues that surround the "flirting with other women while in a relationship" question.
Wed, October 22, 2014
What Is The Difference Between Assertive And Aggressive
What's the difference between being assertive and aggressive? Assertiveness is attractive to women, aggressiveness is repellent to them, and it's extremely important to understand where the line is. In today’s Q&A, Tucker, Nils, and Carin explain what the difference is and what you need to know to find the right assertiveness balance to be attractive to girls.
Tue, October 21, 2014
Why Is Small Talk Important
Guys often think "small talk" is a meaningless waste of their time and don't understand why women want to engage in it. Small talk is not meaningless; like many things in mating, the real purpose is not what the surface meaning appears to be. Small talk is actually a critical part of a woman's assessment of a man, and in today’s Q&A, Tucker, Nils, and Carin explain why small talk is important, and give some tips to get better at it.
Mon, October 20, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt. 3: The Tender Defender (The Nice Guy vs. The Asshole)
Should you be a nice guy or an asshole? This is the eternal question, and not only does the conventional wisdom (be the nice guy) get it wrong, but so does the contrarian position (just be an asshole). In this episode, Tucker and Geoff explain the science behind nice guy vs. asshole, what you should do, what women actually respond to, and how to do it in your life.
Fri, October 17, 2014
Jack Donovan Interview
Our guest today is one of the manosphere's most influential and prominent thinkers: Jack Donovan, author of "The Way of Men." Most of our interviews are about how men can do better with women; this one is not like that at all. In this episode, we talk about his (excellent) book, about masculinity, and about other male-centered issues. If you’re interested in that stuff, you’ll love this discussion, but if you just want actionable information relating to women, you probably want to skip this one.
Thu, October 16, 2014
How Do I Turn A Casual Relationship Into Something More?
This is a question lots of young guys have: how do you turn a casual relationship into something more? Tucker, Nils, and Carin walk you through the steps to take a girl from casual to serious relationship.
Wed, October 15, 2014
Can I Change A Girl Into What I Want?
You cannot change anyone, and trying to do that is a recipe for disaster. In this Q&A, a guy asks for advice on a specific situation, but instead, Tucker, Nils & Carin identify the larger issue--a guy trying to change a girl--and explain why this doesn't work, and how to avoid it, and what you should do if you find yourself trying to do this.
Tue, October 14, 2014
How Do I Tell Girls I'm Bisexual?
Male bisexuality is hard to deal with; both for men, and women. In this episode, a Mating Grounds listener asks how and when to be open about being bisexual, and Tucker, Geoff, and Carin talk through what options he has for addressing this fact with women.
Mon, October 13, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt.2: Signalling Attractive Traits
Signalling is one of the most important things you need to understand about communication, and in fact, it is the foundation that everything else is built upon. Almost everything that we’re going to tell you about sex and dating is about the signals you’re sending out or how you should interpret signals other people are sending out, and this episode tells you what you need to know.
Fri, October 10, 2014
Jordan Harbinger Interview
This week we interview Jordan Harbinger, the co-founder of the Art of Charm, a podcast (and coaching company) that helps guys be better with women. In this episode, Tucker and Jordan discuss where the PUA industry is going wrong, and the correct way to approach dating and relationships.
Thu, October 09, 2014
I'm Scared A Girl Actually Likes Me What Do I Do?
One of the defining emotions in all types of relationships is fear. In this Q&A, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils address this issue, spurred by a high school kid who likes a girl, but is scared she may not feel the same way. This is a great question, and this episode begins by explaining why the question is so good, then teaches you everything you need to know about how to deal with fear in cases like this, including what the signs are that a girl is interested, how to ask her out, what the best first date is, and what to do if things don’t work out.
Wed, October 08, 2014
Asian Guy Struggling With Non-Asian Women
In America, it can be very hard for Asian guys to have success with non-Asian women. In this Q&A, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils discuss what to do if you’re an Asian guy struggling with non-Asian women, and what you need to do in order to solve this problem.
Tue, October 07, 2014
Advice For High Energy Guys
Many guys think they have to play it cool and act aloof around women. But what about high energy guys? Do they have to reign in their impulses, or is there a way to use their energy to their benefit when talking to women? In this Q&A, Tucker, Geoff, and Nils discuss the downsides and upsides that come along with being a high-energy guy, and how to turn it to your advantage.
Mon, October 06, 2014
How To Be Attractive To Women, Pt. 1: Our Embarrassing Stories
This week’s episode is part one of a thirteen-part series explaining everything you need to know to become attractive to women. In the first part of this series, Tucker and Geoff discuss their embarrassing stories from when they were younger, sharing all the mistakes they made and what they learned from them. This is the funniest episode yet, and Tucker shares the discovery that quintupled his success.
Fri, October 03, 2014
Dr. Diana Fleischman Interview
This week’s guest is Dr. Diana Fleischman, an Evolutionary Psychologist at the University of Portsmouth. In this episode, Dr. Fleischman, Tucker, and Geoff discuss a wide range of topics including how nerdy guys can be attractive, men’s desire for sexual novelty, the importance of hygiene, ethics and attraction, and the importance of finding someone who fits with your personality.
Thu, October 02, 2014
How Do I Get Better In Bed?
In this Q&A, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin discuss how to get better in bed. The first step is understanding what it even means to be "good in bed," which entails figuring out why you want to get better and what your specific goals are. Once you've done that, the best path forward is experimentation--because there is no such thing as one way to be "good in bed." Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain exactly how to do this.
Wed, October 01, 2014
How To Answer When A Girl Asks How Many Women You've Slept With
In this Q&A episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin discuss what to say when a woman asks how many women you've slept with. There are several ways to approach this, and each situation is different. When a woman asks this question, she has a reason for asking it, and this episode explains how to find out that reason and address it.
Tue, September 30, 2014
How Does Living With My Mom Affect My Mate Value
In this Q&A episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin discuss how living with your mom affects your mate value, and what you can do to frame it in the best way possible.
Mon, September 29, 2014
Why & How To Use Online Dating
Online dating is one of the most important and best developments over the past hundred years in dating. There is no reason not to be using it. In this episode, Tucker and Geoff teach you everything you need to know to succeed using online dating. After listening to this podcast, you'll know how to build a profile to show your best qualities, you’ll know what kinds of messages women do and don’t respond to, and you’ll know how to set up the perfect first date. Online dating is one of the best ways to meet women, and the information in this episode is invaluable for helping you learn how to utilize it.
Fri, September 26, 2014
Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman
Tucker interviews Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, the Scientific Director of The Imagination Institute, and author of books such as Mating Intelligence Unleashed:The Role of the Mind in Sex, Dating, and Love, and Ungifted: Intelligence Redefined. In this episode Tucker and Dr. Kaufman discuss, the false dichotomy between alpha and beta males, how to become more attractive, and how to develop true confidence.
Thu, September 25, 2014
I'm Nervous About My Small Penis
In this Q&A episode, Tucker, Geoff, and Carin discuss how to deal with the fear of sexual humiliation that can come with having a small penis. This is a common hangup that lots of guys have, and Tucker, Geoff, and Carin explain why having a small penis isn't (usually) something to worry about, and how to please a woman with whatever you have.
Wed, September 24, 2014
Why Do Men Have to Approach Women?
It may seem unequal and unfair that guys always approach women. Why can't women come after men, right? It's not that simple. There are plenty of very good evolutionary, psychological and social reasons why men tend to do the approaching, and not the other way around. In this episode Tucker, Geoff and Carin Perilloux explain the biological and social factors behind why men approach women, and Carin also explains the risks women face in mating situations, which are every bit as daunting as the risks guys take (they are just different). We also cover the way to flip the situation and have women come to you: be famous. Tucker can tell you first-hand what that's like, and the risks that brings with it as well (it can be great, but it's not all great). Finally, if you want to meet women in lower-risk situations without being judged, then we'll tell you how to do that too.
Tue, September 23, 2014
Women Think My Job Is Stupid
In this Q&A episode, Tucker, Nils and Geoff tackle the problems of a professional magician. When you have a dumb-sounding or weird job that turns people off, then you have to change how you're framing it. You need to describe the job in a way that sounds less geeky, and also find women who are into the type of job you do. After this episode you'll know how to frame your job in a much more attractive light. As a bonus, the guys also detail exactly where this caller is going wrong in his conversations with women, and how to fix it.
Mon, September 22, 2014
Where To Meet Women In Real Life
Contrary to what you might think, bars and clubs are not the best places to meet women. In fact, they're probably the worst possible place you can imagine. Instead, you should make your dating life an extension of your social life. We'll tell you exactly what this means and how to do it, giving you specific examples of things you should try so you can expand your social life and meet plenty of great women without ever having to talk to a stranger in a bar. Most importantly, we'll explain to you how to think about finding activities, so that you don't just have to repeat our suggestions, but can think of your own.
Fri, September 19, 2014
Scott Britton Interview
Today's guest is author, entrepreneur, blogger and semi-professional football player Scott Britton. Scott is a guy who was popular in high school and college because he played football, but once he left college, lost all those advantages and had to learn from the ground up how to be really good with women. In this interview Scott reveals his best answers to the most common questions she'll ask, how to escalate touch with a girl in a non-creepy that makes her feel comfortable, and the right questions to ask her make sure you have a great conversation. After this podcast, you'll know exactly what to do for the first 20 minutes of an interaction with any woman.
Thu, September 18, 2014
How Do You Deal With Women If You Don't Want Kids?
In this Q&A Tucker, Nils and Geoff deal with the issue of how to tell a woman that you don't want children. A lot of women might say they're OK with this at first, but then change their mind later, causing problems down the line. Luckily, there's an easy solution to this. Tucker, Geoff and Nils tell you exactly what to say to avoid this problem ever arising (hint: this is the only time it's OK to lie to a woman).
Wed, September 17, 2014
I'm A 37 Year Old Virgin, Help Me
If you're uncomfortable that you still haven't lost your virginity, then don't despair. The first thing is that you've owned up to it, admitted to yourself that you're not happy, and that you want to do something about it. Good for you. And thankfully, there is light at the end of the tunnel. You actually have a couple of options when it comes to solving this problem. In this Q&A Tucker, Geoff and Nils set out the different paths you can take, and what your next steps should be.
Tue, September 16, 2014
Can You Change A Girl Into What You Want Her To Be?
This is understandably a pretty common question. If you're with a girl who has some qualities that you really like, and a few that you don't, then it's natural to want to just change those few bad qualities about her. If you think this way about the person you're with, then you need to listen to this episode. Tucker, Carin and Geoff get straight to the point and tell you exactly how to deal with this situation, and what your next steps should be. Once you understand the issue properly, it's actually a simple solution.
Mon, September 15, 2014
Mating Markets - What They Are & How They Determine Your Success With Women
Making sure you pick a good mating market is probably the single most important choice you make in terms of its impact on your dating success. So it's crucial that you get it right. Luckily Tucker and Geoff are here to walk you through the whole process. After listening to this podcast, you'll understand why a good mating market is so important, how to choose a city to live in (we'll recommend a few) and where to live in that city, and how to pick specific mating markets that match up with the qualities that you have to offer.
Fri, September 12, 2014
Dr. Kristina Durante Interview (Part 2)
In part two of her interview, Dr. Kristina Durante shares more great, actionable insights from her research and her own dating experiences. Over the remainder of the discussion Tucker and Dr. Durante will tell you how men's (and women's) mating preferences shift over time, what that means for guys in terms of mating strategy, and why Dr. Durante is turned on when her husband takes the trash out.
Thu, September 11, 2014
Met A Great Girl But She Has A Boyfriend
If a girl is already in a relationship when you meet her, but she engages you and you want to keep seeing her, then the first thing to do is to be honest with yourself about what you want from her. Do you just want to have sex with her, or do you want a longer-term relationship? Depending on your answer to that question, there are a few different ways this scenario can play out. In this episode Tucker, Geoff and Nils walk you through what you need to be thinking about in each different scenario in order to make the best decisions and get what you want from your relationship with her, whatever that may be.
Wed, September 10, 2014
How Do I Maintain A Long Distance Relationship?
Long distance relationships are incredibly difficult. As a general rule, they don't work. If you want your relationship to succeed, there are a few key things you need to do to maximize your chances of making it work. Tucker, Geoff and Nils tell you what you need to know, as well as some insights from their own experiences.
Tue, September 09, 2014
What To Do If You're Ashamed Of Your Sexuality
A lot of guys are ashamed of some aspect of their sexuality, and this affects their interactions with women. If you are one of them, it's OK, you're not alone. This is common, and there are solutions. In this episode, we talk through some of the major issues surrounding shame and sexuality, and we'll help you understand some ways to possibly fix the problem.
Mon, September 08, 2014
The Women You Should Pick To Date (And Which Ones to Avoid)
For sex, men compete for women, but when it comes to dating, women are actually competing for the best guys. If you've implemented our advice so far and have stepped your game up and become one of those "best" guys, then you could be in a position where you have a choice of women to date. In this episode Tucker, Nils and Geoff tell you what traits to look for in a good long-term partner, why certain traits are important, and how they'll play out in the course of a relationship. Armed with this knowledge you'll be able to choose great women to date.
Fri, September 05, 2014
Dr. Kristina Durante Interview (Part 1)
This interview with Dr. Kristina Durante is your chance to listen to a beautiful, intelligent woman's honest insights into what you can learn not only from her research, but also from her own personal experiences. After listening to this podcast you'll understand why women like bad boys, which qualities of your own you should highlight to compete with these guys, and why women spend so much time and money buying shoes.
Thu, September 04, 2014
How To Find Great Women Through Online Dating
Hooking up at a bar is a numbers game. You just keep trying until you find a girl you like who likes you. But online dating is NOTHING like that, and if you adopt that mindset, you will fail. To succeed with online dating, whether on Tinder, Hinge, eHarmony or the hundreds of other sites out there, you need to get specific about what makes you attractive, and make sure you display those traits to women who will like them. With help from previous guest Dr. Carin Perilloux, Tucker and Dr. Miller will help you to crack the code of online dating profiles, and create a page that demonstrates your best traits and attracts the right kind of women for you.
Wed, September 03, 2014
Girls I Meet Always Want To Smoke Pot
Some girls just want to get high, and are looking for a co-conspirator, but if that's not your thing then it can get awkward between the two of you. In this Q&A we'll tell you exactly how to handle the situation so that you can defuse the tension and both enjoy yourselves without making her feel judged.
Tue, September 02, 2014
How Can Big Guys Make People Feel Safe Around Them?
Being very tall presents a couple of challenges. If you're a lot taller than average, you may be good on the basketball court but it can lead to certain challenges when interacting with women. But if you handle it right, then your height can actually be an advantage. Luckily this is an issue that our own Nils Parker has dealt with. Nils can tell you exactly what he does to make women feel safe around him, and along with Tucker and Dr. Miller's input, you'll learn exactly what to do and how to act in order to signal your softer side while also maximizing the benefits of your height.
Mon, September 01, 2014
The Women You Should Pick For Hook-ups (And Which Ones to Avoid)
If you've been listening to these podcasts and applying our advice, then you'll eventually reach a stage where you actually have a choice in the women you can hook up with (or you may already be there, if so, good for you). When that happens, there are certain types of women you should look for and hook-up with, and others you need to avoid (or pay the price). Luckily, you can benefit from our experience, because we've been with all types. By the end of this episode you'll know what to look out for in order to find great women who are open to hooking up, and you'll also know what the big negative warning signs are - and the potential costs of ignoring them.
Fri, August 29, 2014
John Romaniello Interview
John Romaniello is an entrepreneur, fitness trainer and best-selling author. In this interview Roman opens up about his transformation from skinny, dorky high school kid to becoming a bodybuilder, a model and a guy who's friends with Arnold Schwarzenegger. No one goes through that kind of change without learning a few things. Specifically, Roman will tell you how to develop confidence, the small change that dramatically improved his interactions with women, and how to highlight your good qualities in an authentic, organic way.
Thu, August 28, 2014
How Do You Show You Want Hook Up and Not Date?
A lot of guys just want short-term hook-ups, but they have problems both accepting this for themselves, and communicating it to women. In answer to a listener question, Tucker, Nils and Dr. Miller tell you how to solve both of these problems, and explain how to be honest with yourself about what you want, and how to find women who want the same thing as you do.
Wed, August 27, 2014
How Do I Get a Woman's Phone Number When I'm Talking To Her?
If you're focusing on the getting a girl's number, you're missing the point. In this Q&A, Tucker and Dr. Miller are joined by our previous guest, Dr. Carin Perilloux, to explain you exactly how you're missing the point and what to do to fix it. After this episode, you'll be able to not only get her number in a natural, organic, anxiety-free way, you won't even focus on numbers at all.
Tue, August 26, 2014
How Short Guys Can Hook-up Better
Being short is a disadvantage in mating, particularly in short-term mating situations (and reaching the top shelf). That's life, and it's not always fair. But there are things you can do, and there are ways to compensate for your lack of height. In this episode you'll learn what to focus on instead, as well as some important tactical things you can do to minimize the disadvantage.
Mon, August 25, 2014
How To Figure Out Which Relationship Is Right For You
All relationship types are valid; from one night stands to a forever marriage, and everything in between, and most guys are going to experience all of them through the course of their lives. The question is not what kind of relationship you are allowed to have, it's which one is right for you at this point in your life? That’s what this episode is about–explaining all the different types of relationships you can have with women, and helping you understand which ones can be right at what times in your life. By the end of this episode you’ll know everything you need to know about the different types of relationship and you’ll be able to decide what it is that you really want and pursue it.
Fri, August 22, 2014
Dr. Carin Perilloux Interview
This is your chance to hear a smart, attractive women talk about where you're going wrong with women, and how you can fix it. Dr. Carin Perilloux has a PhD in Evolutionary Psychology and has worked with some of the biggest names in the field. She also happens to be incredibly attractive - so she speaks from a place of both academic and practical knowledge and can translate that into actionable advice. She'll tell you how to interpret what a woman is wearing, what guys ignore that is important to women, and how to tell if a woman is attracted to you.
Thu, August 21, 2014
How To Be Open With Women About Your Problems
Every guy has issues--that doesn't make you weak, it makes you human. Facing and dealing with your shit is what makes you a man. There's a right way and a wrong way to do it. If you're too open about it, you'll come off as desperate, weird and very unattractive to a girl. But if you do it right, you show that you're a man who can both admit that you have problems (like everyone) and deal with them yourself. In this Q&A Tucker, Nils and Dr. Miller tell you how to find the right balance, so you can build trust with women while still being attractive.
Wed, August 20, 2014
How Do I Go From Hookups To Happy Relationships?
If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always got. To meet new kinds of women, you have to change your actions. Luckily, you can learn from someone who has walked this path. In this episode, Tucker, Nils and Dr. Miller outline what steps you need to take to meet new kinds of women. And this isn't just theory - Tucker himself is the perfect case study. No one has (or, rather, had) more of a reputation for being a player than Tucker Max, but he's now happily in a long-term relationship with a fantastic woman. He'll tell you exactly how he did it, and how you can make that change yourself.
Mon, August 18, 2014
Friends and the Friendzone
Have you ever been put in the friendzone by a girl you really like? Of course you have. Everyone has. And once that happens, there are a few different things you can do. Tucker, Nils and Dr. Miller tell you exactly what your options are, and what you need to ask yourself before deciding what to do next. Once you've listened to this podcast you'll realize it's actually a very simple decision to make.
Fri, August 15, 2014
Charlie Hoehn Interview
If ever you want an example of someone who went from awful to fantastic with women, then Charlie Hoehn is your guy. He went from being an embarrassed, ashamed, ignorant teenager to a star, who surrounds himself with smart, beautiful women and lives an incredible life. In this episode, Charlie reveals, very openly and honestly, how he did it and what mistakes he made along the way. He also tells some hilarious stories about his earlier failings with women and his journey to overcome those and become the man he is today.
Thu, August 14, 2014
How Do You Not Act Nervous Around A Hot Girl?
Being nervous is not attractive. A lot of guys get nervous around attractive women, and there are actually evolutionary reasons for this. But if you want to get over it, then there are a couple of things you have to do. Firstly, you need to focus on the process, not the result. And secondly, you need to own your sexuality. Tucker, Nils and Dr. Miller tell you exactly how to do that in this Q&A session.
Wed, August 13, 2014
How Do You Build Confidence?
How do you build confidence? The key is simple: demonstrated performance. In this short Q&A episode Tucker, Nils and Dr. Miller tell you exactly what that means, and how you can put it into practice for yourself and reframe your goals to build confidence even in situations where you would otherwise feel uneasy.
Tue, August 12, 2014
Why Do Women Like Assholes?
You asked for it, so here it is. By popular request, Tucker, Nils and Dr. Miller break down exactly why assholes do well with women in certain situations, and why some women, at specific points in their lives, are attracted to assholes. They also explain why being an asshole isn't an optimal mating strategy for the vast majority of guys. Tucker also tells an incredible story about Britney Spears and Kevin Federline's relationship, including some shocking detail about her history that you haven't heard before anywhere else.
Mon, August 11, 2014
What Men Need To Know About Young Adult Life (Ages 18-29)
When you leave school, your mate value drops through the floor. You're suddenly competing with guys older, more experienced and more attractive than you are, and at the same time, all the girls your age are realizing how high their own mate value is. This is not a good situation to be in. But there are ways to level the playing field. Tucker and Dr. Miller talk you through the steps you need to take, including where to live (or travel), where you should meet women, and how to make your social life an extension of your mating life.
Wed, August 06, 2014
Carl White Interview
If you've ever wondered what women think and say about you when you aren’t around, this is your podcast. Today Tucker interviews Carl White, a Tony award-winning Broadway producer. Carl is the "gay best friend" to legions of attractive, single women, and he has spent his life listening to them talk about men, while treating him as "one of the girls." He pulls this curtain back and reveals dozens of actionable insights, including how to make women feel safe, how to get them to want to open up sexually to you, and where to go to meet great women. Carl will also tell you some of the most common mistakes you are making with women – and how to fix them.
Mon, August 04, 2014
What Men Need To Know About College (Ages 18-22)
College is when the world starts to open up for most men, and there's a lot you can do there to make yourself more attractive and increase your ability to have relationships with women. The main thing that you can change is your relative social status, and it's not hard to do. Tucker and Dr. Miller tell you exactly how to do that, along with explaining how to pick your classes to increase your mating opportunities, and how to find women that you'll have things in common with. The pair also share some of their funnier stories about their own mistakes with women from their college days.
Wed, July 30, 2014
Dr. Christopher Ryan Interview
Tucker interviews Dr. Christopher Ryan, the bestselling author of Sex at Dawn, the seminal text on the evolution of monogamy in human mating. Over the course of the hour, Tucker and Dr. Ryan touch on a number of fascinating subjects, but none more so than trust. Specifically, the idea that if a woman trusts you, she is more likely to feel comfortable exploring the limits of her sexuality with you. What does this mean in plain English? Provide a safe, comfortable space where she can trust you, and she'll let her freak flag fly. Normal 0 false false false EN-US JA X-NONE <w:LsdException Locked="false" Priority="39" Name="to
Mon, July 28, 2014
What Men Need To Know About High School (ages 14 -18)
High school sucks for everyone. That's just the way it is. It wasn't great for Tucker and Geoff either. But there are things you can do to make high school better. Tucker and Geoff tell you what you need to do to get the most out of those four years, including what type of jobs you should get and how to meet girls from outside of your high school. They also share their fantastic stories about how they "discovered" masturbation.
Sat, July 26, 2014
Pickup Artists
In response to continual listener curiosity, Tucker and Dr. Miller discuss their opinions of the PUA/seduction community. Not just what it gets right and wrong, but how its systematic assumptions about women, men and relationships prevent its 'gurus' from providing effective long-term guidance to young and struggling guys. Tucker and Dr. Miller also talk about howThe Mating Grounds takes a very different approach to women and dating that solves these issues and engages many others the PUA community doesn't realize even exist.
Wed, July 23, 2014
Isabel Behncke Interview
If you want actionable insights from a brilliant, accomplished, beautiful woman, this will be your favorite Mating Grounds interview so far. Isabel Behncke is a Primatologist at Oxford University. She begins by explaining her research with bonobos and lays out exactly what this means for guys: basically, she says to "feed the woman." Trust me, it'll make perfect sense the way she explains it. Isabel also tells you how to be vulnerable (which is very attractive) without coming off as needy (which girls don't like), what to do when you're taking a girl to dinner, and exactly how to correct the most common mistakes she sees guys making all the time. **Make sure to leave an honest review when you're done listening, we listen to your feedback.**
Mon, July 21, 2014
How To Stop Being Awkward And Creepy With Women
Most guys come off as awkward and creepy to girls, and they don't even realize they are doing it, or how to stop. This episode describes what initial social interactions are like from a woman's perspective, specifically details how guys go wrong in these interactions, describes the quick and easy things guys can do to solve this problem, and ultimately be more confident and effective in approaching women. Tucker also outlines the fundamental shift in mindset that led to a dramatic increase in his success with women (as well as making his life much more fun at the same time).
Wed, July 16, 2014
John Durant Interview
In this episode Tucker interviews John Durant, author of The Paleo Manifesto. John openly and honestly talks about his failings with women, and goes through the steps he took to become more confident and charismatic (with the help of paleo principles). John and Tucker also talk about the big problems that hold a lot of guys back, and how to fix them, as well as how to meet women in a big city like New York.
Mon, July 14, 2014
How Do Women Evaluate Men?
In this episode Tucker and Dr. Miller go through the different ways that women evaluate men: size, body shape, clothing, jewelry, smell and initial contact, and help guys understand what they are doing wrong, and how to fix it.
Tue, July 08, 2014
What Is Dating Like For Women (and why does it matter to you)?
Tucker and Dr. Miller examine what dating is really like for women, by discussing a thought-provoking hypothetical for guys, Tucker's experience in a gay bar, the varying consequences to sex for men and women, how men and women react differently in certain mating scenarios, and what it's like to be an attractive woman who gets hit on constantly.
Tue, July 08, 2014
Why Do Women Want These Things In Men?
Tucker and Dr. Miller talk about the evolutionary psychology behind what women find attractive, i.e., why women pick the traits they pick. Dr. Miller explains what sexual selection is and how it impacts female mating choices, the dating issues of a 17-year old hunter gatherer, and intra-gender competition.
Tue, July 08, 2014
What Do Women Want In Men?
In their first full-length episode, Tucker and Dr. Miller discuss the traits that women find attractive in men, the preferences that vary between women (and why), and the reasons that both men and women often don't give good advice to other men.
Tue, July 08, 2014
The Mating Grounds Introductory Podcast
In the introductory podcast with both Tucker Max and Dr. Geoffrey Miller, they talk about their goals with the Mating Grounds Podcast, and the upcoming book, Mate. Tucker and Dr. Miller also discuss what they plan to teach guys, and how the Mating Grounds is different than the advice that guys get from other sources.
Wed, July 02, 2014
Dr. Carin Bondar Interview
Dr. Carin Bondar is a biologist with a PhD from the University of British Columbia. She's also the presenter of Brave New World With Stephen Hawking on Discovery World, Outrageous Acts of Science on Science Channel and Daily Planet on Discovery Canada. In this episode Dr. Bondar and Tucker discuss the relationship between animal mating behavior and human mating behavior, why being honest and up-front works with women and the difference between confidence and arrogance.
Mon, June 30, 2014
Dr. Catherine Salmon Interview
Dr. Catherine Salmon is a Professor of Psychology at University of Redlands. In this episode Tucker and Dr. Salmon discuss the differences between male and female pornography, how romance novels represent and portray female sexual preferences, how men and women express their sexuality, the line between treating a girl like a princess and being a doormat, and how guys can develop social currency and status. Dr. Salmon's research focuses on evolutionary psychology, particularly how it relates to female sexuality, pornography, and birth order of children.
Mon, June 30, 2014
Robert Greene Interview
Robert Greene is the #1 best-selling author of The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law (co-written with 50 Cent) and Mastery. In this episode Robert and Tucker discuss the subconscious signals that your attitude sends to women, the most common complaints that women have about men, the difference between deception and manipulation, and what you can learn about seduction from Bill Clinton.
Mon, June 30, 2014
Matt Ridley Interview
In the first episode of the Mating Grounds Podcast, Tucker interviews best-selling author and world-famous zoologist Matt Ridley, author The Red Queen, The Origins of Virtue and The Rational Optimist. Matt's books have sold over a million copies and been translated into 30 languages. In this episode Tucker and Matt discuss pheasant mating and "peacocking", the characteristics that women value in men, what guys need to focus on, and how guys can cultivate certain traits to become more attractive to women.

The Mating Grounds Podcast

What To Do After You're Done With The Mating Grounds Episodes

Helping Joe, The Last Episode

Helping Joe, Episode 48

Helping Joe, Episode 47

Helping Joe, Episode 46

Helping Joe, Episode 45

Helping Joe, Episode 44: The Airing Of Grievances

Helping Joe, Episode 43

Helping Joe, Episode 42

Helping Joe, Episode 41

Helping Joe, Episode 40

Helping Joe, Episode 39

Helping Joe, Episode 38

Helping Joe, Episode 37

Helping Joe, Episode 36

Helping Joe, Episode 35

Helping Joe, Episode 34

Helping Joe, Episode 33

Helping Joe, Episode 32

The Mate Preview, Pt. 23: Putting it all together with a Mating Plan

The Mate Preview, Pt. 22: Having Sex

Helping Joe, Episode 31

Helping Joe, Episode 30 Part 2

The Mate Preview, Pt. 21: How To Go Out On First Dates

The Mate Preview, Pt. 20: How To Talk To Women

Helping Joe, Episode 30 Part 1

The Mate Preview, Pt. 19: How & Where To Meet The Women You Want

The Mate Preview, Pt. 18: Mate Preferences And How To Pick Women

Helping Joe, Episode 29 Part 2

The Mate Preview, Pt. 17: Where To Meet Women (Mating Markets)

The Mate Preview, Pt. 16: Romantic Proof And Showing Interest

Helping Joe, Episode 29 Part 1

The Mate Preview, Pt. 15: Aesthetic Proof And Sense Of Style

The Mate Preview, Pt. 14: Material Proof (Money)

Helping Joe, Episode 28 Part 2

How Do I Test A Woman To Learn Who She Really Is?

The Mate Preview, Pt. 13: Social Proof And Prestige (Social Status)

The Mate Preview, Pt. 12: How To Signal Your Attractive Traits To Women

Helping Joe, Episode 28 Part 1

Why Do My Friends Have "High Standards" But No Women Around?

The Mate Preview, Pt. 11: The Agreeableness & Assertiveness Traits (Nice Guys Vs. Assholes)

The Mate Preview, Pt. 10: The Willpower Trait

Helping Joe, Episode 27

I Get Depressed When I See Friends With Hot Girls. What Should I Do?

The Mate Preview, Pt. 9: The Intelligence Trait

The Mate Preview, Pt. 8: The Mental Health Trait

Helping Joe, Episode 26

What Skills Should All Men Have?

The Mate Preview, Pt. 7: The Physical Health Trait

The Mate Preview, Pt. 6: What Women Want & Why They Want It

Helping Joe, Episode 25

The Mate Preview, Pt. 5: How To Figure Out What You Want

The Mate Preview, Pt. 4: What You Need To Understand About Women

Helping Joe, Episode 24

The Mate Preview, Pt. 3: What Confidence Is & How To Build Confidence

How Do I Get Out Of The Friend Zone?

Helping Joe, Episode 23

The Mate Preview, Pt. 2: Why This Book Is Different

Girls Think I'm Gay. What do I do?

How Do I Deal With Trust Issues?

Helping Joe, Episode 22

The Mate Preview, Pt. 1: Why We Wrote This Book

How Can I Be A Minimalist And Still Attract Women?

How Can I Be Vulnerable Without Being Needy Or Whiny?

Helping Joe, Episode 21

How Do I Stop Dating Crazy Women?

I'm 18, In High School, And Failing With Girls. What Do I Do?

Should I Go For Personality Over Looks In A Longterm Mate?

Helping Joe, Episode 20

Bad Advice From The Internet: Get Over Your Fear & Build Confidence By Getting Rejected

How Do I Set Boundaries With My Girlfriend?

If I Have Health Problems, How Do I Meet & Date Women?

Helping Joe, Episode 19

Helping Joe, Episode 18 Part 2

How Do I Prevent Premature Ejaculation?

How Do I Figure Out And Fix My Emotional Issues?

Helping Joe, Episode 18 Part 1

I'm Like Joe But Older And Desperate. What Do I Do?

What Are The Best Cities For Men?