Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt - Friendship Tools
A podcast about friendship (the art of making and keeping lasting friendships, the remembering of it, the making of it, and the nurturing of it). Welcome to "Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt," the podcast on the art of friendship that takes you on a heartwarming journey through diverse cultures, inspiring stories, and fascinating conversations, reminding each other of our total connection. Join your hosts, Fawn and Matt, as they explore the beauty of our global community, spreading positivity, empathy, and understanding. Immerse yourself in engaging discussions with guests from around the world, sharing their unique experiences and perspectives...
Mon, April 28, 2025
Timeless: Surfing the Swirl of a Rapid Reality
Is time speeding up, or are we just busier than ever? In this short but deep episode of Our Friendly World , Fawn and Matt explore the mysterious sensation that time is slipping through our fingers. From conversations that fly by in an instant to childhood memories that feel strangely recent, Fawn shares her intuitive sense that something much bigger might be happening—a spiritual or quantum shift in how we experience time. Matt offers a more grounded perspective, diving into how multitasking and modern life might be contributing to our sense of time distortion. The result is a heartfelt, funny, and slightly philosophical conversation about aging, staying flexible (in body and mind!), and learning to go with the flow—even when life feels like a fast-moving current. Whether you're a Trekkie, a time skeptic, or just someone who wonders where the week went, this episode invites you to reflect, stay chill, and ride the wave of now. time perception why time feels faster time is speeding up quantum time shift spiritual shift in time go with the flow mindset how to stay flexible with age mindfulness and time time distortion phenomenon Fawn and Matt podcast #TimeIsWeird #GoWithTheFlow #Timeless #QuantumTime #SpiritualShift #Mindfulness #StayFlexible #FawnAndMatt #OurFriendlyWorld #PodcastWisdom #TimePerception #TimeShift
Mon, April 21, 2025
“Revisiting Friendship: Core Values, Disappointments, and Growth”
This week, we explore the evolving nature of friendship—especially during times of uncertainty and change. Fawn opens up about feeling emotionally stuck and questioning the effort it takes to maintain friendships, while Matt reflects on the foundational values that sustain meaningful relationships. Together, they revisit a list of core friendship values like trust, honesty, empathy, and growth. The conversation unpacks the complexities of setting expectations, the sting of misunderstanding, and how contrast in relationships can offer clarity. Whether you're navigating a friend breakup, redefining your boundaries, or just feeling disheartened, this episode offers a compassionate space to reflect on what we truly want from our connections. #FriendshipValues #EmotionalGrowth #NavigatingFriendship #HonestConversations #CoreValues #FriendshipBreakup #PersonalGrowthJourney #RelationshipBoundaries #TrustAndEmpathy #FriendshipPodcast #OurFriendlyWorld #FawnAndMatt #HealingThroughConnection #FriendshipStruggles #BuildingMeaningfulConnections "Sometimes the contrast is what shows you what matters most in a friendship—what you're willing to grow for, and what you're not willing to accept anymore." — Fawn, Our Friendly World Have you ever felt disheartened in a friendship? This week, Fawn and Matt revisit what really matters in relationships—from trust and empathy to the courage it takes to let go. Join us for a raw, compassionate conversation about friendship, growth, and clarity. Listen now to Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt #FriendshipValues #HealingThroughConnection #OurFriendlyWorld
Mon, April 14, 2025
"What Is Cool, Really?"
"What Is Cool, Really?" In this candid and fiery episode of Our Friendly World , Fawn and Matt deconstruct the elusive concept of “cool” — from childhood memories of Snoopy’s Joe Cool to painful moments of judgment in adulthood. Fawn opens up about a recent voiceover experience that triggered old wounds from the photography world, where she was dismissed for not being “cool enough.” The conversation dives into how perceptions of coolness limit friendships, fuel imposter syndrome, and distort how we see ourselves and others. Matt shares his own vulnerable moment of thinking Fawn was "too cool" for him — and how love, presence, and humanity break through those false beliefs. This is a raw, empowering episode that challenges societal norms, reclaims identity, and reminds us all that cool can't be defined — because authenticity is the real power. what is cool defining coolness authenticity vs image voiceover industry stories art world rejection imposter syndrome personal growth podcast breaking stereotypes emotional resilience friendship and identity podcast about belonging redefining beauty and worth our friendly world podcast #WhatIsCool #AuthenticityMatters #OurFriendlyWorld #PodcastCommunity #VoiceoverLife #RedefineCool #InnerStrength #ArtWorldStories #ImposterSyndrome #BeYourself #HealingThroughConversation #RealTalkPodcast #BreakingStereotypes #FriendshipGoals #CoolnessIsSubjective #PodcastAboutLife #EmpathyAndGrowth
Mon, April 07, 2025
Through the Lens: How We See Ourselves and Each Other
Through the Lens: How We See Ourselves and Each Other Why do we cringe at the sound of our own voice or shy away from being photographed? In this episode, Fawn and Matt explore the emotional and psychological layers behind self-perception and how we interpret one another. From the science of hearing your voice through bone and muscle to the deeply spiritual experience of being seen—truly seen—through a camera lens, this episode invites listeners to question the filters we all carry. Fawn shares vulnerable stories from her journey as a photographer and voice actor, revealing how intention, empathy, and awareness can shift how we show up in the world and connect with others. Join the conversation on how perception shapes reality—and friendship. Fawn and Matt unpack the emotional complexity behind how we perceive ourselves—through voice, photographs, and the often-invisible space in between. From the discomfort of hearing your own voice to the shock of seeing yourself in a photo, Fawn shares deeply personal experiences as a professional photographer and communicator. The conversation explores how filters—emotional, cultural, and even spiritual—affect not just how we see others, but how we interpret what they project. Together, Fawn and Matt dive into the unseen universes between people, shedding light on empathy, identity, and the art of truly seeing. A powerful reflection on presence, authenticity, and how being mindful of the “in-between” can reshape our relationships and the world around us. self-perception, sound of your voice, why we hate our voice, being photographed, voice actor insight, photography and emotion, how others see us, friendship and self-image, perception and reality, emotional awareness, storytelling through photography, authenticity, vulnerability, ego and identity, mindful communication #SelfPerception #Authenticity #VoiceAwareness #PhotographyWithHeart #MindfulCommunication #PerceptionVsReality #EmotionalIntelligence #BeSeenBeHeard #FriendshipMatters #VulnerabilityIsStrength #ThroughTheLens #ConsciousCreativity #OurFriendlyWorld #PodcastWisdom #VoiceActorLife perception and identity why we hate our voice fear of being photographed authenticity and self-awareness voice perception psychology photography and emotional truth mindful communication seeing others clearly empathy and human connection how we perceive ourselves Fawn and Matt podcast friendship and presence artistic interpretation in photography self-image vs. external image
Mon, March 31, 2025
The University Vibe: Why Some Communities Thrive More Than Others
Title: The University Vibe: Why Some Communities Thrive More Than Others Why do cities with universities feel more vibrant, open, and thriving? In this episode, Fawn and Matt explore how constant learning, new connections, and fresh energy shape these communities—and why we should embrace this mindset everywhere. They also dive into the lost art of in-person communication, the impact of talking on the phone versus texting, and how small changes in how we interact can create a richer, more connected world. Tune in for a lively discussion on friendships, business, and building thriving communities—no degree required! #CommunityBuilding #LifelongLearning #UniversityVibes #ThrivingCommunities #FriendshipMatters #OpenMindedLiving #TalkingOnThePhone #HumanConnection #KeepLearning #SocialConnection #Networking #CollegeTownEnergy
Mon, March 24, 2025
Authentically YOU
✨ #AuthenticallyYOU ️ This week on Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , we dive into the importance of authenticity in a world overflowing with voices—both online and in personal relationships. Matt explores the world of Cameo, where personalized celebrity messages range from deeply touching to painfully insincere, leading to a larger discussion on how we instinctively recognize genuine connection. Fawn shares a personal story of navigating a challenging friendship, reflecting on how people are becoming increasingly sensitive and attuned to each other’s energy—sometimes uncomfortably so. The episode delves into the power of sincerity, the necessity of setting boundaries, and why true authenticity is more valuable than ever in life and even in professional spaces like the corporate office and voice acting. #Authenticity #GenuineConnection #TheArtOfFriendship #TrustYourIntuition #Empathy #SincerityMatters #RealTalk #VoiceActing #Relationships #Boundaries #EnergySensitivity #AuthenticallyYou
Mon, March 17, 2025
Super Friend Power...ACTIVATE!
Fawn shares her deep appreciation for her friend Wendy, and reflects on the importance of meaningful friendships. She opens up about a challenging day filled with emotional overwhelm and how Wendy’s support helped her navigate through it. Matt and Fawn also discuss intuition, energy, and the fascinating connection between love and telepathic understanding. Their conversation explores the ways we connect with others, how we perceive people, and the role love plays in truly understanding someone. Friendship, emotional support, intuition, telepathy, deep connections, empathy, energy, vegan recipes, meaningful relationships, personal growth, mindfulness, self-awareness, love and connection #FriendshipMatters #EmotionalSupport #DeepConnections #Intuition #Empathy #Mindfulness #PersonalGrowth #LoveAndConnection #VeganRecipes #Telepathy #UnderstandingPeople #SelfAwareness #Compassion #HealingThroughFriendship #happyapplevegan
Mon, March 10, 2025
Navigating the Bog: How to Set Emotional Boundaries Without Sinking
Navigating the Bog: How to Set Emotional Boundaries Without Sinking Just like a bog, relationships can be rich, complex, and even a little murky at times. Without strong emotional boundaries, we risk sinking into the weight of other people’s emotions, losing sight of our own needs and energy. In this episode, we explore how to navigate emotional landscapes with self-awareness and balance, ensuring that we stay grounded while still fostering deep, meaningful connections. We discuss the role of humility, self-reflection, and mindful communication in setting boundaries that protect our well-being without shutting others out. Join us as we uncover the secrets to maintaining strong, healthy relationships without getting emotionally stuck. In this episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , Fawn and Matt explore the intricate balance between humility, emotional energy, and boundaries in relationships. They discuss how unspoken emotions can create distance, the importance of acknowledging our own needs, and how setting boundaries fosters deeper connections. Through personal stories and reflections, they highlight the transformative power of self-awareness and mindful communication in building healthier, more authentic relationships. Emotional boundaries in relationships Healthy communication strategies Self-awareness and relationships How to set boundaries with loved ones Emotional energy and connection Mindful communication tips The power of self-awareness in relationships How to strengthen friendships through boundaries Balancing humility and emotional well-being Deepening connections through mindfulness #EmotionalBoundaries #HealthyRelationships #MindfulCommunication #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipAdvice #SettingBoundaries #AuthenticConnections #FriendshipMatters #CommunicationSkills
Mon, March 03, 2025
“The Scorpion, the Frog, and the Art of Stoic Friendship”
In this episode, Fawn and Matt explore the fable of The Frog and the Scorpion as a metaphor for friendships with those whose nature may be inherently harmful. We can be kind without allowing toxic people into their inner circle. The episode ends with a reminder to live according to one's virtue, embrace self-awareness, and find balance in all relationships. Through Stoic wisdom, personal stories, and ancient lessons, they discuss the challenge of helping others without being repeatedly hurt. Fawn shares a friendship that mirrored the fable, realizing that some people, like the scorpion, act according to their nature. Matt offers a mindful approach—engaging with awareness while setting boundaries. They conclude that wisdom lies in knowing when to help, when to walk away, and how to protect one’s own virtue. The Frog and the Scorpion fable Toxic friendships and boundaries Protecting yourself in friendships Stoic wisdom on relationships Knowing when to walk away Recognizing harmful behavior Lessons from ancient fables Friendship and self-preservation Mindful relationships and trust Choosing the right friendships #FriendshipWisdom #ToxicRelationships #KnowYourWorth #BoundariesMatter #SelfPreservation #LifeLessons #StoicPhilosophy #FrogAndScorpion #MindfulLiving #PersonalGrowth #ChooseWisely #ProtectYourPeace #AncientWisdom #PodcastEpisode #Storytelling
Mon, February 24, 2025
"Resentment Repels, Friendship Attracts: The Secret to Abundance"
In this episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , Fawn and Matt explore how lingering resentment—even in small amounts—can block success in all areas of life, including career, relationships, and financial abundance. Fawn reflects on how unresolved negative feelings create an invisible energy that repels opportunities, comparing it to an unnoticed but growing mold. She emphasizes the importance of consciously clearing resentment, just like daily maintenance for a refrigerator or brushing one’s teeth. Matt shares his perspective on directly addressing conflicts by speaking truth, while Fawn challenges him to approach forgiveness with a mindset of energetic cleansing. They discuss a simple practice of asking for divine help in forgiving and being forgiven, reinforcing that true success is built on emotional clarity. The episode closes with heartfelt shoutouts to fellow podcasters and creators, encouraging listeners to embrace daily self-reflection and energetic hygiene to attract the life they desire. How to attract success Clearing resentment for abundance Forgiveness and success Emotional energy and manifestation How to remove negative energy Spiritual self-care for success The power of letting go Daily mindset practices for abundance How emotions affect success Energetic cleansing techniques #SuccessMindset #EmotionalWellness #LetGoAndGrow #ManifestationTips #ForgivenessIsFreedom #EnergyClearing #AbundanceMindset #SelfGrowthJourney #PersonalDevelopment #SpiritualSuccess
Sun, February 16, 2025
Walking Into Friendship: The Power of Shared Steps
This week, Fawn and Matt explore the simple yet profound act of walking and how it strengthens relationships. From hiking with their kids to daily neighborhood strolls, they discuss how shared experiences—especially ones that involve movement—foster connection, deepen conversations, and even boost creativity. They dive into the science behind walking, its impact on mental well-being, and why it’s a natural reset for the mind and soul. Whether it’s a quiet stroll with a friend or a daily ritual, walking might just be the key to building stronger, more meaningful bonds. ✔ Walking and friendship ✔ Shared experiences and connection ✔ How walking improves mental health ✔ Building relationships through movement ✔ Walking as a bonding ritual ✔ The power of physical activity for emotional connection ✔ How nature and movement boost creativity ✔ Simple ways to deepen friendships ✔ Daily habits for stronger relationships walking and shared experiences connection, emotional bonding, and mental clarity mood, creativity, and well-being simple ritual of walking with a friend or loved one #Friendship #WalkingTogether #MindfulMovement #ConnectionMatters #SharedExperiences #WalkingForHealth #StrongerTogether #MentalClarity #CreativityBoost #DailyRituals #WalkingMeditation #HealthyRelationships #BondingTime
Mon, February 10, 2025
Making Friends in Today's World
Fawn shares an interaction with a friend. We discuss present-day friendships and our future as a humanity. #makingfriendstoday
Mon, February 03, 2025
Confirmation Bias and Friendship
This week's episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt explores the concept of confirmation bias —how our preconceived notions shape the way we perceive others and the world around us. Fawn and Matt reflect on how societal expectations and biases affect relationships, including their own marriage. With humor and insight, they uncover how deeply ingrained assumptions influence our interactions and challenge friends to rethink the way they judge and interpret the world. Confirmation bias, Perception vs. reality, Overcoming judgment, Challenging assumptions, Unconscious bias in relationships, Breaking stereotypes, Psychology of perception #ConfirmationBias #PerceptionMatters #BreakingStereotypes #ChallengeAssumptions #UnconsciousBias #MindsetShift #FriendshipPodcast
Mon, January 27, 2025
"Empathy Overload: Navigating Connection, Loneliness, and Social Media's Hidden Traps"
In this week's episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , we dive into the complexities of human connection in our hyper-connected world. Despite billions of people on the planet, our capacity for empathy is limited by our natural design to thrive in small communities. Fawn shares personal experiences that highlight the challenges of modern-day compassion, including the overwhelming influence of social media. The discussion explores how the emotional manipulation of algorithms, echo chambers, and the loneliness epidemic are shaping our sense of self-worth and relationships. Join us as we uncover ways to navigate these challenges, protect our empathy, and reconnect with our true humanity. #EmpathyInAction #SocialMediaImpact #LonelinessEpidemic #EchoChamberEffect #DigitalCompassion #ReclaimConnection #ModernEmpathy empathy overload, social media algorithms, loneliness epidemic, digital influence, echo chambers, protecting compassion, human connection challenges
Mon, January 20, 2025
"How to Walk Away: Exploring the Loud Quitting Phenomenon"
In this week’s episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , we explore the intriguing concept of "loud quitting" and how it applies to friendships. Inspired by a viral story of a marching band resignation, Fawn and Matt reflect on the impact of how we choose to leave relationships—whether professional or personal. They examine the ripple effects of toxic dynamics, the importance of grace when ending connections, and the lessons we carry forward into new chapters. With a mix of humor and heartfelt insights, this episode dives deep into how we can part ways with dignity while preserving our own well-being. loud quitting, friendship dynamics, toxic relationships, leaving with grace, personal growth, Our Friendly World, healthy connections, self-worth, podcast on relationships #LoudQuitting #FriendshipMatters #ToxicRelationships #HealthyConnections #PersonalGrowth #SelfWorth #PodcastLife #OurFriendlyWorld #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalHealth
Mon, January 13, 2025
"Abundance Through Time: How Connection and Community Shape Our Well-Being"
In this episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , we delve into the profound relationship between abundance, time, and the human instinct to protect and connect. We discuss how our innate benevolence as a species drives us to help one another and how community and shared experiences create a sense of safety and well-being. From the barriers to education to the complexities of modern survival, this episode explores the challenges and opportunities we face in cultivating abundance—both in resources and in time. Join the conversation as we uncover how friendships and collective effort can transform scarcity into abundance, one connection at a time. Humanity, Connection, Benevolence, Survival instinct, Community, Belonging, Abundance, Time management, Friendship, Well-being #HumanConnection #Benevolence #CommunityMatters #InstinctiveKindness #FeelSafeTogether #BelongingAndAbundance #OurFriendlyWorld #AbundanceMindset #TimeIsWealth #HumanConnection #CommunityMatters #FriendshipGoals #WellBeingJourney #CollectivePower
Mon, January 06, 2025
You, I Love
This week's episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt explores the subtle dynamics of relationships, from marriage to friendship. Fawn and Matt discuss how selflessness, true empathy, and focusing on the needs and desires of others can transform connections. Inspired by a profound conversation with a friend, they delve into shifting perspectives in love—rethinking "I love you" to "you I love"—and the art of giving authentically. With humor, vulnerability, and insight, Fawn and Matt reflect on how these principles apply to their marriage, friendships, and everyday life. The conversation dives deep into the nuances of love, relationships, and selflessness. Fawn and Matt explore the differences between friendship and marriage, reflecting on how selfless acts and genuine thoughtfulness can strengthen bonds. Inspired by a recent conversation with a friend, they discuss shifting perspectives from “I love you” to “You I love,” emphasizing the importance of focusing on the needs and happiness of others in meaningful ways. Through humor and heartfelt insights, they share personal anecdotes about learning to listen, compromise, and approach relationships with intention and care. #RelationshipGoals, #MarriageWisdom, #FriendshipMatters, #EmpathyInAction, #AuthenticConnections, #Selflessness, #LoveAndRelationships Relationships, Selflessness, Friendship, Marriage dynamics, Empathy, Authentic love, Connection transformation
Mon, December 30, 2024
"A New Era - The Philosophy of Friendship: Wisdom on Building Meaningful Connections"
This Week’s Episode Description: "A New Era" In this reflective episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , we embark on a journey into a new chapter, revisiting the essence of friendship through the lens of Aristotle's teachings. Fawn and Matt discuss the three types of friendships—transactional, pleasure-based, and virtuous—and how recognizing these distinctions can deepen our connections. Drawing from four and a half years of exploration, they emphasize the transformative power of true friendships in shaping not only our personal lives but also society at large. This episode invites listeners to reflect, reevaluate, and move forward with a clearer understanding of the vital role friendship plays in fostering a more connected and compassionate world. Friendship philosophy, Aristotle on friendship, Three types of friendships, Virtue in relationships, Importance of connection, Transforming friendships, Friendship dynamics #FriendshipMatters, #ConnectionIsKey, #AristotleWisdom, #VirtuousLiving, #RelationshipGoals, #BuildingFriendship, #MeaningfulConnections
Mon, December 23, 2024
Advice from a Friend
This week on Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , we dive into the complexities of seeking support and advice in a fast-paced, isolating world. Through candid conversations, Fawn and Matt explore the challenges of fostering emotional connections, finding accountability in community, and navigating the loneliness epidemic. With heartfelt reflections on vulnerability, humility, and the power of collaboration, they highlight the importance of interdependence and small moments of recognition in building stronger, more empathetic relationships. Tune in for an honest and relatable discussion on the courage it takes to grow through life's challenges together. Emotional connections, Accountability in community, Navigating loneliness, Interdependence in relationships, Vulnerability and humility, Building empathy, Overcoming isolation #EmotionalConnection #CommunityAccountability #EndLoneliness #InterdependenceMatters #VulnerabilityIsStrength #EmpathyInAction #OvercomingIsolation
Mon, December 16, 2024
Unlocking the Power of Giving Love, Gratitude, and Connection in Relationships
"Unlocking the Power of Giving: Love, Gratitude, and Connection in Relationships" In this week’s episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt: explore the art of giving and receiving, self-reflection, and the power of gratitude in our relationships and personal lives. Fawn shares affirmations to help listeners feel safe and loved, while Matt emphasizes the importance of appreciating and connecting with our physical bodies. Together, they discuss the joy and challenges of sharing with others, how to embrace our unique roles in life, and why focusing on what we want can transform our reality. Tune in for heartfelt insights and a reminder that we’re all interconnected, growing stronger together. Gratitude, Relationships, Love and connection, Giving and receiving, Self-reflection, Personal growth, Interconnectedness #GratitudeJourney, #LoveAndConnection, #GivingAndReceiving, #SelfReflection, #PersonalGrowth, #Interconnectedness, #FriendshipGoals
Mon, December 09, 2024
"Friendly Encouragement"
This Week's Episode: "Friendly Encouragement" In this uplifting mini-episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , we share reminders to boost your spirits and rekindle your belief in limitless possibilities. From the affirmations adorning our home walls to insights on the power of clear thinking and manifestation, we explore how your mindset shapes your experience. Whether you're navigating life's challenges or savoring moments of solitude, you'll find encouragement to embrace your sacred space and trust that you have everything you need. Tune in for a gentle yet powerful nudge toward emotional balance, self-assurance, and the art of meaningful connection. #FriendlyEncouragement #MindsetMatters #ManifestYourDreams #SacredSpace #LimitlessPossibilities
Mon, December 02, 2024
“Redefining Connection, Accountability, and Everyday Compassion”
“ Redefining Connection, Accountability, and Everyday Compassion” Fawn and Matt explore the interplay between societal norms, personal accountability, and human connection. They reflect on the nuances of behavior—distinguishing between evil and poor conduct—while emphasizing the ripple effect of familial and societal influence. Fawn shares personal stories, from witnessing unchecked behavior in children to navigating feelings of invisibility and cultural assumptions in various towns. These experiences highlight how small acts of kindness—or neglect—can leave lasting impressions. Meanwhile, Matt sheds light on the evolving gig economy, urging compassion and recognition for the people contributing behind the scenes. The episode concludes on a hopeful note: a call to action for kindness, gratitude, and fostering connections, with Fawn and Matt advocating for meaningful gestures that uplift others and create positive change. Kindness, Accountability, Human Connection, Gig Economy, Cultural Awareness, Random Acts of Kindness, Compassion #KindnessMatters, #SpreadLove, #HumanConnection, #GigEconomyLife, #CompassionOverJudgment, #ActsOfKindness, #CulturalAwareness Small Acts, Big Impact: How Kindness and Accountability Shape Our World From Invisible to Empowered: Embracing Compassion in Everyday Life Redefining Human Values: The Role of Kindness and Responsibility in Modern Society Why Compassion Matters: Reclaiming Accountability in a Changing World
Mon, November 25, 2024
AI and the Seven Deadly Sins
In this week's episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , the hosts delve into the duality of automation and AI—balancing efficiency with authenticity. From homemade meals to AI-generated music, they discuss how human touch influences the quality and depth of our experiences. The conversation explores themes of creativity, human connection, and the potential for AI to free us for deeper relationships or, conversely, encourage isolation. Fawn argues for embracing evolving consciousness and compassion to guide technology toward utopian outcomes, while Matt examines societal tendencies toward laziness and over-reliance. They reflect on how exposure to real-world challenges fosters emotional resilience and adaptability. Ultimately, the episode inspires hope for a harmonious coexistence between humanity and technology while recognizing the need for responsible AI use. Key Themes: The importance of human connection in a tech-driven world Balancing convenience with preserving creativity and craftsmanship Fostering resilience through real-world experiences AI as both a tool for growth and a potential isolating force #HumanConnection, #MindfulLiving, #CompassionInAction, #AuthenticRelationships, #BuildingCommunity, #FriendshipMatters, #EmpathyFirst a key to moving towards a Utopian society
Mon, November 18, 2024
"Behind the Words: Exploring Communication, Context, and Connection"
In this episode, Fawn and Matt dive into the complexities of communication and the importance of understanding tone, context, and intent in conversations. They discuss the concept of "rubber ducking," a method of processing thoughts by talking them out, and reflect on how emotions often influence what is said—and unsaid—in relationships. Drawing parallels to acting techniques, they explore how examining motivations and circumstances can reduce misunderstandings and help navigate conflicts with empathy. Fawn shares a personal story about unintentionally offending a friend, emphasizing the importance of not taking things personally and recognizing others' emotional states. With humor and insight, they highlight the need for mutual respect in relationships, reminding listeners of the value of setting boundaries to protect their energy and well-being. #CommunicationSkills, #EmotionalIntelligence, #HealthyBoundaries, #RelationshipTips, #ActiveListening, #ConflictResolution, #UnderstandingEmotions Communication, Boundaries, Emotional awareness, Conflict management, Rubber ducking, Context in relationships, Empathy
Mon, November 11, 2024
Eye of the Storm
This week's episode, Eye of the Storm , delves into the sense of "stuckness" many feel amid today's relentless pace and societal pressures. Fawn reflects on moments of self-doubt and the weight of overthinking, while Matt shares his recent eye-opening experiences in a high-stress work environment. Together, they discuss the importance of stepping back and re-evaluating priorities, especially when life's pressures make us feel like we're in the "eye of a hurricane." In a culture that demands constant productivity, Fawn and Matt explore the need to protect personal space, avoid burnout, and carve out time for genuine connection and self-reflection. #EyeOfTheStorm, #MindfulLiving, #OvercomingFear, #PersonalGrowth, #WorkLifeBalance, #SelfReflection, #CreateWithoutLimits self-doubt, mindfulness, stoicism, work culture, resilience, creating without fear, introspection
Sun, November 03, 2024
Rules for Radicals - Mind the Gap
In this episode, Fawn and Matt revisit the purpose behind their podcast, reflecting on how friendship and societal relationships have been affected by division and disconnection. Fawn shares personal experiences, starting with childhood memories of observing cultural differences and strained family interactions. She recounts how, as a young child, she sought comfort and guidance from her family’s old photo albums, feeling a connection with ancestors through their portraits, which helped her understand and cope with the negativity around her. The conversation shifts to broader societal issues, with Fawn expressing concerns about forces that seem to undermine genuine relationships and community connections. She mentions her recent discovery of Saul Alinsky's controversial book, Rules for Radicals , which outlines tactics to destabilize systems. The tactics, Fawn suggests, mirror the divisive strategies she's observed over her lifetime. The couple plans to explore these tactics one by one, highlighting how they can prevent unity and affect friendships and communities. Matt and Fawn emphasize that their mission remains to foster healthy relationships, not just by identifying these tactics but by discussing ways to counteract them through awareness and positive action. #OurFriendlyWorldPodcast #FawnAndMatt #RelationshipBoundaries #SocialTactics #Resilience #EmpathyInFriendship #UnityInDiversity #SelfAwareness #UnderstandingCulture Relationship boundaries, Social influence tactics, Empathy in friendships, Personal resilience, Cultural dynamics, Collective mindset, Self-awareness and unity
Mon, October 28, 2024
Connoisseuring Something Awful, finding beauty and humor in the unexpected and unappealing
This week's episode, Connoisseuring Something Awful, explores finding beauty and humor in the unexpected and unappealing. Fawn shares an excerpt from The Art of Noticing and reflects on Timothy "Speed" Levitch’s philosophy of "cruising" through life, savoring even the most mundane or annoying experiences. Matt and Fawn then discuss their own experiences with embracing "awful" things—like watching bad movies for the joy of laughing at them. The conversation dives into reframing negativity, with Fawn recalling her college professor's poetic perspective on crowded spaces and her own tendency to "connoisseur" life's little annoyances. Together, they examine how adopting a playful mindset allows us to handle life’s frustrations with greater grace and humor. Mindful Observation, Urban Life Humor, Appreciating Imperfection, Commuter Consciousness, Timothy Levitch Insights, Finding Joy in Chaos, Urban Mindfulness #MindfulLiving, #UrbanMindfulness, #FindBeautyInEverything, #LifeIsArt, #CreativityEveryday, #EmbraceImperfection, #CommuterLife
Mon, October 21, 2024
Resistance and Isolation
In this episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , Fawn and Matt explore the need for isolation amidst a busy, fast-paced world, while reflecting on the balance between personal time and community connection. They discuss the importance of carving out even just 10 minutes a day for self-reflection, allowing space for deeper understanding and awareness. The episode also touches on the pressures of modern life, how it hampers our ability to nurture friendships and community, and the significance of creating intentional time to slow down. Through lighthearted anecdotes, like tackling a challenging puzzle, they emphasize the importance of both fun and mindfulness in our daily lives. Fawn and Matt dive into the art of finding balance between personal solitude and meaningful connections with others. They explore how, in a world filled with endless distractions, carving out time for yourself is key to deepening friendships and creating more authentic relationships. By sharing practical tips and personal stories, they reveal how just a few minutes of daily reflection can bring clarity, strengthen bonds, and make room for more joy in life. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to build stronger, more intentional friendships while staying grounded in their own self-care. #HealthyBoundaries, #FriendshipGoals, #AuthenticRelationships, #SelfWorthMatters, #PersonalGrowth, #NavigatingFriendships, #EmotionalWellness Boundaries in friendships, Setting healthy limits, Authentic communication, Self-worth and relationships, Navigating emotional challenges, Conflict resolution in friendships, Friendship and personal growth
Mon, October 14, 2024
The War on Art and Friendship
This week's episode offers a vulnerable look at how self-doubt can creep in, even during moments of triumph, and the importance of recognizing, naming, and overcoming these inner barriers. Fawn offers her recent personal experience and the duo illustrate how these lessons extend beyond career into relationships and personal growth. Fawn and Matt delve into the intricate dynamics of boundaries in relationships and the importance of self-worth. They share personal stories and insights about overcoming feelings of unworthiness, navigating vulnerability, and claiming one’s identity. Fawn reflects on a transformative experience in a crowded city, revealing how external pressures prompted an internal dialogue about self-acceptance and self-empowerment. Matt emphasizes the value of recognizing one's worth, despite challenges and past struggles, and the duo discusses how grounding techniques and a strong sense of self can lead to healthier relationships. The conversation is both enlightening and relatable, offering listeners practical tools for building resilience and authenticity in their own lives. The War on Art, Dealing with negative forces, Boundaries, Self-worth, Vulnerability, Resilience, Identity, Empowerment, Relationships #WarOnArt, #DealingWithNegativeForces, #Boundaries, #SelfWorth, #Vulnerability, #Resilience, #Identity, #Empowerment, #HealthyRelationships
Mon, October 07, 2024
The Expert Syndrome Paradox
In this week's episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , we explore the transformative power of perspective and how it shapes our lives, friendships, and communities. Fawn reflects on her time in Santa Monica, drawing parallels between personal growth and unexpected lessons from the show Emily in Paris . Matt dives into the surprising connections between architecture, software development, and life design, highlighting how everything is interconnected. Together, they unravel the importance of being the expert of your own life, trusting your instincts, and avoiding the influence of false prophets. Tune in for thought-provoking insights, heartwarming stories, and a reminder that the way you focus can change everything. #PerspectiveShift, #PersonalGrowth, #ExpertOfYourLife, #FriendshipMatters, #LifeLessons, #TransformYourWorld, #Interconnectedness Perspective in life, Personal growth journey, Being your own expert, Friendship and transformation, Changing your focus, Avoiding false prophets, Architecture and life design connection
Mon, September 30, 2024
You Were Right and I Was Wrong
Fawn reflects on a powerful lesson in empathy and self-awareness. Titled "You Were Right and I Was Wrong," the discussion dives into how emotional connections can cloud judgment, leading to misunderstandings in friendships. Matt offers a logical perspective on handling relationships, helping Fawn see that sometimes stepping back can bring clarity. Together, they explore the dynamics of friendship, vulnerability, and trust, offering listeners insightful takeaways on how to salvage connections and maintain meaningful relationships. Fawn confronts her fears of judgment and insecurity in friendships, while Matt sheds light on the balance between logic and emotion. Together, they explore how emotional triggers from past experiences can cloud our perception of relationships, leading to unnecessary conflict. Fawn shares a vulnerable moment of nearly losing a friendship due to misunderstanding, while Matt provides insights on how to remain objective and empathetic in navigating relationships. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to strengthen their connections and learn the art of emotional intelligence in friendships. #FriendshipGoals, #EmotionalIntelligence, #RelationshipAdvice, #OvercomingInsecurities, #PersonalGrowth, #HealingConnections, #SelfAwarenessJourney, #FriendshipGoals, #EmotionalIntelligence, #RelationshipAdvice, #EmpathyMatters, #PersonalGrowthJourney, #PodcastLife, #MentalHealthAwareness
Mon, September 23, 2024
Be Yourself
In this week’s episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt , titled "Be Yourself" , Fawn and Matt discuss the challenges of staying authentic when misunderstood by others. Fawn shares a personal story about a strained friendship, where her genuine intentions were questioned, leading to feelings of sadness and doubt. The episode highlights the importance of maintaining kindness, open-heartedness, and happiness, even when others may misinterpret these qualities. Ultimately, the message is clear: continue being yourself, no matter how others react. #BeYourself, #Authenticity, #EmotionalResilience, #PersonalGrowth, #FriendshipMatters, #OpenHearted, #TrueSelf
Mon, September 16, 2024
Meetups and Coolers
This week's episode of Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt explores the sometimes awkward but ultimately rewarding experience of stepping out of your comfort zone to meet new people. From being the "new guy" to making connections in an unfamiliar environment, Matt shares insights on how approaching social situations can help ease nerves and foster meaningful interactions. Fawn and Matt discuss the parallels between shifting landscapes in the tech world and broader societal changes, reminding us that uncertainty can create opportunities for growth and connection. #MeetupsAndConnections, #BuildingFriendships, #SocialAnxietyTips, #CommunityNetworking, #Meetups, #NewConnections, #FriendshipJourney Meetup group experiences, Navigating social anxiety, Building new connections, Co-working space meetups, Overcoming awkward social situations, Networking tips for beginners, Finding like-minded people
Mon, September 09, 2024
"Kintsugi and Friendship: How to Heal After Heartbreak and Strengthen Bonds"
"In this episode, Fawn and Matt discuss the universal experience of heartbreak and how to rebuild after emotional setbacks. Drawing inspiration from the Japanese art of kintsugi, they explore how the cracks left by heartbreak can be filled with new strength, much like how broken ceramics are mended with gold. The conversation touches on vulnerability, resilience, and the importance of allowing others into your life after loss, whether in friendships or romantic relationships. Tune in for insights on embracing imperfections and finding beauty in healing." #HealingHeartbreak, #MendFriendships, #KintsugiLife, #EmbraceImperfections, #FriendshipHealing, #EmotionalResilience, #NewBeginnings Heartbreak, Kintsugi, Friendship healing, Emotional resilience, Vulnerability, Rebuilding relationships, Embracing imperfections
Mon, September 02, 2024
"Like Hearted vs Like Minded: The Key to Meaningful Friendships"
"Like Hearted vs Like Minded: The Key to Meaningful Friendships" Episode Summary: In this episode, Fawn and Matt discuss the difference between like-minded and like-hearted individuals. The conversation delves into the challenges of forming deep connections in a world where people often cluster with those who share similar views, leading to echo chambers. Fawn reflects on personal experiences where like-hearted connections were complicated by differing religious, political, or cultural views. Matt shares his approach to connecting with people beyond surface-level affiliations. They both explore the importance of openness and genuine interaction in discovering true like-heartedness in friendships and relationships. #LikeHearted, #GenuineConnections, #DeepConversations, #FriendshipMatters, #Openness, #BreakingBarriers, #AuthenticLiving Keywords: Like-Hearted, Connection, Openness, Prejudice, Relationships, Authenticity, Communication
Mon, August 26, 2024
"Chaz Ebert on the Power of FECK: Transforming Lives with Forgiveness, Empathy, Compassion, and Kindness"
In this compelling episode, Fawn and Matt are joined by the remarkable Chaz Ebert, who shares insights from her powerful new book, "It's Time to Give a FECK: Elevating Humanity Through Forgiveness, Empathy, Compassion, and Kindness." Through deeply personal stories, including the telepathic connection she shared with her late husband, Roger Ebert, Chaz delves into how FECK can transform lives and communities. Together, they explore the profound impact of authentic communication, the contagious power of positivity, and the vital role of empathy in creating a more compassionate world. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to infuse their life with meaning and heart. https://www.rogerebert.com/ #ChazEbert, #FECKPrinciples, #EmpathyInAction, #ForgivenessJourney, #KindnessMatters, #CompassionateLiving, #InspireChange
Mon, August 19, 2024
"When Boundaries Break: Navigating Friendship Challenges and Personal Growth"
"When Boundaries Break: Navigating Friendship Challenges and Personal Growth" In this episode of Our Friendly World , we dive deep into the complex world of boundaries and how they impact our friendships and self-worth. Fawn shares personal stories of navigating difficult situations, where her boundaries were tested, leading to heartbreak and valuable life lessons. With insights from close friends, the discussion explores how to establish and maintain boundaries, the importance of self-respect, and the courage it takes to stand up for oneself, even when it means risking being seen as the "bad person." Tune in for an honest conversation on the challenges of protecting your emotional well-being while nurturing healthy relationships. This episode revolves around the theme of boundaries in relationships and personal interactions. Fawn and Matt discuss their experiences and insights regarding how boundaries are tested, the challenges of maintaining them, and the importance of asserting oneself without feeling guilty or being labeled negatively. They share personal anecdotes and draw parallels to broader philosophical and practical implications, emphasizing the need for clear communication and self-advocacy in navigating various social dynamics. #HealthyBoundaries, #FriendshipChallenges, #SelfRespect, #EmotionalWellbeing, #PersonalGrowth, #LifeLessons, #PodcastCommunity Boundaries, Friendships, Self-Worth, Emotional Health, Personal Growth, Conflict Resolution, Relationship Dynamics
Mon, August 12, 2024
The Art of Being INTERESTED, not Interesting
This week's episode dives into the heart of what makes true connections flourish—genuine interest in others. Join us as we explore the power of curiosity and the importance of being interested, rather than just trying to be interesting. Through personal stories and relatable struggles, we uncover how asking the right questions and embracing vulnerability can lead to deeper, more meaningful friendships. Whether you're navigating new social situations or rekindling old relationships, this episode is a reminder that the strongest bonds are built not on what you say, but on how much you care about what others have to share. #BuildingConnections, #TrueFriendship, #MeaningfulConversations, #GenuineConnections, #CuriosityMatters, #FriendshipGoals, #BeInterested Genuine Connections - Emphasizes the focus on authentic relationships. Power of Curiosity - Highlights the importance of curiosity in building friendships. Be Interested, Not Interesting - A key phrase that encapsulates the episode’s main advice for forming meaningful bonds. Asking the Right Questions - Points to the value of inquiry in deepening friendships. Embracing Vulnerability - Appeals to those who understand that openness is crucial to close relationships. Deeper, Meaningful Friendships - Directly speaks to the kind of relationships the audience is seeking. Relatable Struggles - Ensures listeners feel understood and connects to shared human experiences.
Mon, August 05, 2024
"Connecting Across Differences: The Art of Making New Friends"
"In this episode of 'Friends Unfiltered,' Fawn and Matt delve into the art of making friends with people who are vastly different from oneself. From humorous anecdotes about awkward outings to deeper insights into human curiosity and connection, they explore how stepping outside comfort zones can lead to meaningful friendships. Join them as they discuss the psychology behind curiosity, vulnerability, and positive interactions in forging bonds with those who may hold opposing views." Friendship, Curiosity, Comfort zone, Opposite personalities, Human connection, Psychology of relationships, Step outside comfort #MakingFriends, #OppositesAttract, #NewFriendships, #StepOutOfComfortZone, #SocialConnections, #PodcastEpisode, #FriendshipGoals
Mon, July 29, 2024
"Breaking the Filter Bubble: Tech Tips for a Diverse Perspective"
In this week's episode of Tech Unfiltered, Fawn and Matt dive into the realm of unfiltered technology, exploring how to break free from algorithm-driven content that limits our perspectives. They discuss practical steps to diversify your online experience, from using alternative browsers like Firefox to seeking news from different global perspectives. Learn why it's crucial to see beyond the usual digital feed to become more multidimensional, aware, and connected in our tech habits. Join them for tips on how to expand your worldview and engage with content outside your comfort zone. #TechUnfiltered, #DigitalAwareness, #InternetPrivacy, #AlgorithmInsights, #DiversePerspective, #OnlineExperience, #TechTips
Mon, July 22, 2024
Lalochezia and the Filtered World
In this week's episode, Fawn and Matt explore the importance of having friends with different beliefs and lifestyles. They delve into personal stories, including Fawn’s memorable encounter with a childhood classmate and the lessons learned from it. The episode takes a humorous turn as Fawn discusses her unique approach to relieving stress, and the couple reflect on communication challenges in relationships. Tune in for a lively discussion on the value of diverse friendships and finding common ground amidst differences. Diverse Friendships, Relationship Communication, Stress Relief Techniques, Embracing Differences, Unique Stress Relief, Finding Common Ground, Opposites Attract #DiverseFriendships, #RelationshipGoals, #StressRelief, #CommunicationMatters, #EmbraceDifferences, #UniqueApproach
Mon, July 15, 2024
Mental Fitness for a New World
Join Matt and Fawn as they delve into the concept of mental fitness through the lens of negative visualization. Exploring ancient Stoic practices, they discuss how contemplating potential setbacks can build resilience and gratitude. From the origins of Stoicism to practical applications in modern life, they explore how acknowledging adversity can enhance psychological strength. Tune in for insights on balancing positive thinking with preparing for challenges in this thought-provoking episode on mental resilience and gratitude. In this episode, Matt and Fawn dive deep into the concept of "negative visualization," an ancient Stoic practice. Matt shares his recent Google Fu journey, leading him to explore how contemplating worst-case scenarios can actually foster resilience and gratitude. The discussion uncovers the surprising benefits of occasionally focusing on negative outcomes and how it contrasts with the modern emphasis on positive visualization. Tune in to discover how ancient philosophies can help us manage our minds in today's fast-paced world and enhance our psychological fitness. #Friendship, #Resilience, #Stoicism, #Mindfulness, #Mental Fitness, #Gratitude, #Connection
Mon, July 08, 2024
The Art of the Party - "Making Memories: Planning Parties That Honor Friendship"
In this week's episode, "The Party," Fawn and Matt discuss an eventful weekend involving their next-door neighbors' lively party. While Matt was asleep, Fawn found herself alone and feeling both inspired and lonely by the festivities next door. She braved the night, sitting outside on their deck, and reflected on her feelings about parties and social gatherings. This led to an introspective conversation between the two about what makes a party enjoyable and the art of hosting. Fawn shared her thoughts on the key elements of a successful party, and they reminisced about memorable gatherings from their past. The episode dives into the nuances of social connection, hospitality, and the significance of creating a warm and welcoming environment for friends and family. #PartyPlanning, #HostingTips, #SocialGatherings, #HospitalityIdeas, #MemorableEvents, #NeighborStories, #IntrospectiveConversations
Mon, July 01, 2024
The World's Fair
This week's episode dives deep into the concept of hope and community through the lens of historical and modern perspectives on World's Fairs. Join Matt and Fawn as they explore the legacy of World's Fairs, from their origins showcasing futuristic visions to today's societal challenges and the role of media and technology in shaping our perceptions. Reflecting on the power of optimism amidst contemporary fears, they discuss how understanding our past can inspire a brighter future, fostering connections and resilience in an uncertain world. #WorldsFair, #FutureOfHope, #ScienceFiction, #PositivityMatters, #AIAndCreativity, #CommunityBuilding, #OvercomingFear
Mon, June 24, 2024
How to Voice a Community with Rachael Naylor
Fawn and Matt are joined by special guest Rachael Naylor, founder of the VoiceOver Network, as they explore how to build a community from the ground up using your voice and the transformative power of vulnerability and generosity. They discuss how openness fosters deep connections and creates supportive communities, drawing from personal experiences within the VoiceOver Network. Rachael shares insights on voice acting and the impact of authenticity in communication, while Fawn reflects on her journey of growth and success. The conversation underscores the importance of embracing authenticity, practicing generosity, and cultivating positive energy to navigate challenges and foster meaningful relationships. Vulnerability, Generosity, Voiceover, Community, Authenticity, Connection, Growth #VulnerabilityMatters, #VoiceOverCommunity, #GenerosityInAction, #AuthenticConnections, #VoiceActing, #CommunitySupport, #PersonalGrowth Rachael Naylor https://www.instagram.com/rachael.naylor/ https://www.instagram.com/the_voiceover_network/ https://www.thevoiceovernetwork.org discount code: VONFRIENDS
Mon, June 17, 2024
"Travel, Friendship, and Rediscovering Passions: Through Mark Twain's Lens"
In this heartwarming episode, Fawn and Matt kick off with a thought-provoking quote from Mark Twain, sparking a lively discussion on travel, self-awareness, and the complexities of friendship. They share personal anecdotes about visiting Mark Twain's house in Connecticut and delve into how travel shapes our perceptions and exposes us to a multitude of experiences. Fawn reflects on a recent encounter with a generous photographer that reignited her passion for photography and highlighted the importance of stepping outside comfort zones. The couple also discuss the emotional ups and downs of making new friends and the vulnerability involved. Their candid conversation is peppered with humor and insights, making for a relatable and inspiring episode. #MarkTwain #TravelDiaries #FriendshipJourney #PersonalGrowth #PhotographyPassion #SelfAwareness #PodcastLife
Mon, June 10, 2024
"Friendship and the Wisdom of Muhammad Ali: Navigating Life's Pebbles"
We delve into the wisdom of Muhammad Ali, exploring his quote, "It isn't the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out; it's the pebble in your shoe." We reflect on how this profound message applies to friendship and personal growth. Join us as we discuss the importance of addressing the small irritants in our relationships, the necessity of true companionship, and how tending to the 'pebbles' in our lives can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. Whether you're a fan of Muhammad Ali or seeking to nurture your friendships, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. #Friendship, #MuhammadAli, #LifeWisdom, #PersonalGrowth, #ConflictResolution, #SelfCare, #EmotionalHealth, #Respect, #Communication, #Relationships, #PodcastEpisode, #Inspiration
Mon, June 03, 2024
How to Heal After a Friendship Breakup Lessons in Emotional Detox and Self-Discovery
In this week's episode, Fawn and Matt delve into the complexities of friendship, particularly the challenging experience of friend breakups, n avigating breakups, and embracing authenticity . They discuss the emotional aftermath, comparing it to a dog's instinctive shake to detox from trauma. Fawn shares her personal journey of questioning and self-blame, eventually realizing the importance of addressing issues directly. The conversation highlights the dynamics of relationships, including the subtle signs of discomfort and the need for honest communication. The episode emphasizes the value of authenticity in friendships and the courage to let go of toxic connections while staying true to oneself. #FriendshipDynamics, #EffectiveCommunication, #SettingBoundaries, #PersonalGrowth, #NavigatingChange, #SocialSkills, #ConflictResolution #FriendshipDynamics, #CommunicationSkills, #NavigatingChange, #HealthyBoundaries
Mon, May 27, 2024
The Authentic Friend
Fawn and Matt's conversation spans various topics, all tied to the central theme of authenticity and perception. They discuss how life patterns repeat until addressed, the changing nature of sensory experiences, and the subjective nature of perception. They emphasize the importance of being genuine in friendships and relationships, drawing on personal experiences and philosophical insights. Ultimately, they advocate for openness and authenticity as keys to meaningful connections and personal growth. Authenticity, Friendship, Personal Growth, Perception, Sensory Experiences, Life Patterns, Vulnerability #Authenticity, #TrueFriendship, #PersonalGrowth, #SelfAwareness, #MindfulLiving, #EmbraceChange, #GenuineConnections
Mon, May 20, 2024
The Guest House
In this episode of "Our Friendly World," Fawn and Matt delve into Rumi’s timeless poem, “The Guest House,” exploring how it relates to the ebb and flow of human emotions and experiences. Join us as we discuss the importance of welcoming every emotion and experience, even the challenging ones, and how they shape our journey in friendship and life. Fawn shares personal reflections on recent struggles, and the couple reflects on the lessons learned from their wedding chaos, emphasizing the value of steady, reliable friendships. Tune in for an insightful conversation on navigating negativity, finding gratitude in hardship, and honoring every experience as a guide towards personal growth. We cover Rumi The Guest House, embracing emotions, dealing with negativity, friendship podcast, personal growth, gratitude in hardship, wedding chaos, Our Friendly World podcast, emotional resilience, steady friendships, and life challenges. #PodcastEpisode, #NewEpisode, #Friendship, #Rumi, #TheGuestHouse, #HumanExperience, #LifeLessons, #EmotionalWellness, #PersonalGrowth, #MentalHealth, #Mindfulness, #PositiveThinking, #LifeJourney, #SelfCare, #InspirationalQuotes, #PodcastRecommendations, #PodcastCommunity, #PodcastLovers, #PodcastLife, #PodcastAddict, #PodcastsOfInstagram, #Motivation, #Inspiration, #Healing, #WellBeing, #LifeAdvice, #InnerPeace, #SelfImprovement, #EmotionalHealth
Mon, May 13, 2024
Embracing Uncertainty - Nurturing Friendship and Peace in Troubled Times
In this week's conversation, we delve into the complexities of navigating turbulent times, both internally and externally. We use experiences with intuition and guidance, emphasizing the importance of patience, retreating to a safe place inside us, and maintaining faith in the face of uncertainty. We cover the challenges of maintaining friendships amidst conflicts and the value of surrounding ourselves with beauty to find solace. We're quite candid in our exchange and hope it offers a reminder how great it is to cultivate inner peace and resilience amidst life's storms. Our goal is to keep on weathering the waves of change with grace and compassion. So, if you're looking for some inspiration on how to navigate turbulent times with grace and compassion, hopefully, we can help. Tune in for insights on finding peace amidst life's storms. And remember, folks, be well, take care of yourselves, and keep finding beauty in the world around you. We'll catch you in the next episode! Please leave a kind review and or subscribe to our podcast to listen weekly to thoughts on the art of friendship. #FriendshipChallenges, #InnerPeace, #Self-Care, #Patience, #Faith, #Guidance, #Resilience #Friendship, #Companionship, #SocialConnections, #BuildingRelationships, #SupportiveNetworks, #Bonding, #Camaraderie
Mon, May 06, 2024
"Sacred Commerce, Sacred Friend: Navigating Friendship and Business for Lasting Success"
In our latest episode, we're diving deep into the beautiful dance between friendship and business, all through the lens of Sacred Commerce. It starts with Fawn's chance meeting with Gabe Fletcher, the mastermind behind “The Talkin' Paint Podcast.” From there, we're on a journey celebrating the magic of real connections. We explore eye-opening moments about salesmanship, software development, integrity in what we create, our passions, and life philosophies. We discuss the importance of humility, teamwork, and the bravery to ask for help. And as we soak up the love from supportive communities like podcasting and voice acting, we'll raise a toast to integrity, empathy, and resilience—the backbone of lasting friendships and meaningful ventures. Join us for an uplifting ride as we embrace the endless possibilities of human connection, shaping a kinder, brighter world in both our personal and professional circles. Please sign up for our podcast to support or show: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ #SacredCommerce, #Friendship, #BusinessSuccess, #AuthenticRelationships, #CommunityBuilding, #HumanConnection, #ImpactfulEndeavors Info about our friend Gabe: Reach out at https://talkinpaint.com/ Serving the Auto Detailing & Auto Film Industry - Gabe Fletcher, Founder of Detailing Growth Marketing Agency https://detailinggrowth.com brings first-hand industry knowledge in business development, marketing strategies and growth concepts to the Auto Detailing, Ceramic Coating, Window Tinting & Paint Protection Film Industry. <span style="font-family:'SF Pro Text', 'SF Pro Icons', 'Apple WebEx
Mon, April 29, 2024
Manifestation Dealer
Please don't judge us too harshly for this episode. We hope this is not the first time you're listening to us, BECAUSE we were exhausted during this conversation and quite frankly, we don't even know if we got our point across, or if we make any sense. Please forgive us. But anyway, this week on "Manifestation Dealer," Fawn and Matt explore the pitfalls of modern spirituality and the quest for happiness. They discuss the influence of self-help gurus, the difference between manifestation and visualization, and the importance of genuine connections. Join them as they navigate the complexities of positivity, resilience, and the pursuit of authentic joy in a world filled with mixed messages. Tune in for insightful discussions and practical advice on embracing a mindset of abundance and true friendship. # Friendship, #Authenticity, #Positivity, #Resilience, #Self-help, #Joyful, #GenuineConnections
Mon, April 22, 2024
Navigating Friendship - The Frog and the Scorpion: Resilience and Perseverance in the Face of Adversity
Title: Navigating Friendship - The Frog and the Scorpion: Resilience and Perseverance in the Face of Adversity Discover how to navigate the complexities of friendship with resilience and perseverance. Join Fawn and Matt as they explore the challenges of human relationships, including moments of self-doubt and introspection. Learn valuable insights on maintaining perspective amidst life's ups and downs, and understand the concept of projection in interpersonal dynamics. Dive into candid conversations and reflections to enhance your understanding of friendship and self-esteem preservation. #Friendship, #Resilience, #Perseverance, #HumanRelationships, #Self-doubt, #Introspection, #Projection
Mon, April 15, 2024
"Questioning Conversations and Authentic Connections: Navigating Friendship in an Ever-Changing World"
Dive into a candid conversation about the challenges of modern friendship with Fawn and Matt on this week's episode of "Questioning Conversation." As they reflect on the ongoing loneliness epidemic and their own journey in addressing it, Fawn and Matt explore the intricacies of human connection amidst pain and change. Rejecting superficiality, they share personal anecdotes and insights into fostering genuine relationships based on empathy, vulnerability, and compassionate communication. Join them as they navigate through thought-provoking questions, from the impact of loneliness to the essence of successful interpersonal connections. Discover how embracing authenticity and understanding can lead to meaningful friendships in an ever-changing world. Tune in for a refreshing perspective on friendship and connection, filled with humor, honesty, and heartfelt wisdom. Fawn and Matt navigate through a spectrum of topics, demonstrating how simple yet profound conversations can deepen bonds and enrich lives. Tune in for insightful conversations and practical tips on nurturing authentic connections in an increasingly disconnected world. Because, as they say, every question holds the potential to spark a meaningful connection. #CandidConversation, #ChallengesOfModernFriendship, #LonelinessEpidemic, #HumanConnection, #RejectingSuperficiality, #Empathy, #Vulnerability, #CompassionateCommunication, #Thought-provokingQuestions, #MeaningfulFriendships, #Authenticity, #Understanding, #NurturingConnections, #Ever-changingWorld, #RefreshingPerspective, #Humor, #Honesty, #HeartfeltWisdom, #DeepeningBonds, #EnrichingLives
Mon, April 08, 2024
Understanding Pain in Friendship
In this week's episode, Fawn and Matt delve into the intricacies of friendship amidst pain. Fawn opens up about her recent struggles, highlighting how pain, whether physical, emotional, or spiritual, can deeply influence our interactions with others. Drawing parallels between pain and behavior, they explore how pain manifests in subtle cues like body language and tone of voice, affecting our relationships. Reflecting on personal experiences, they emphasize the importance of empathy and vulnerability in fostering meaningful connections. Offering practical insights, they discuss strategies for navigating friendships with grace and understanding, encouraging viewers to adopt a perspective of compassionate detachment. Through candid dialogue and heartfelt anecdotes, Fawn and Matt illuminate the complexities of human connection, inviting listeners to embrace empathy and kindness in their interactions. Key Themes: Understanding pain's impact on behavior Practicing empathy and vulnerability in friendships Strategies for fostering meaningful connections Importance of compassionate detachment #Friendship, # Pain, #Empathy, #Vulnerability, #HumanConnection, #Relationships, #CompassionateDetachment, #Emotional Resilience, #MeaningfulConnections, #Understanding Behavior, #FriendshipDynamics, #InterpersonalCommunication, #SupportiveRelationships, #NavigatingFriendshipChallenges, #BuildingTrust
Mon, April 01, 2024
"Finding Happiness and Deepening Friendships: Embracing Rituals for Everyday Joy"
In this week's episode of "Perfect Days," Fawn and Matt dive into the importance of rituals and routines in finding happiness and deepening friendships. Inspired by a Japanese film titled "Perfect Days," the hosts explore how the protagonist's daily routines bring him peace and fulfillment, despite the mundanity of his tasks. They discuss how too many choices can lead to analysis paralysis, emphasizing the value of simplicity and shared experiences in fostering intimacy and connection with others. Through anecdotes and personal reflections, they highlight the significance of finding rituals that bring joy and meaning to everyday life. Tune in to discover the beauty in embracing rituals and the impact they can have on your happiness and relationships. #FriendshipGoals #RitualsOfFriendship #DeepeningConnections #HappinessThroughRituals #SimpleJoys #IntimateMoments #EmbracingRituals #MeaningfulConnections #EverydayHappiness #FindingJoy
Mon, March 25, 2024
"Embracing the Enchanted Stranger"
In this week's podcast episode, Fawn and Matt explore the concept of the "Enchanted Stranger" and how every encounter in life, no matter how brief, has the power to influence and shape us. Reflecting on a recent encounter with a lost stranger, Fawn shares her journey of moving past past trauma to approach interactions with love and appreciation. They discuss the importance of self-love as the foundation for extending kindness and understanding to others, even in challenging situations. Join them as they delve into the power of embracing each encounter with an open heart and the transformative impact it can have on our lives. #EnchantedStranger, #EmbracingEachEncounter, #TransformativeImpact, #PowerOfEmbracing, #ImportanceOfSelf-Love, #HonoringAndAppreciatingOurselves, #MovingPastTrauma
Mon, March 18, 2024
The Hostage Friend?
This week's episode of "Our Friendly World" delves into the concept of "hostage friends" - those relationships that may feel forced or obligatory due to shared circumstances, such as working together or attending the same school. Fawn and Matt reflect on their experiences living on an isolated island and forming friendships primarily with people they interacted with at the local grocery store. They explore the dynamics of these relationships, questioning whether they were genuine friendships or merely a result of convenience and circumstance. They discuss the importance of seeking out true friendships based on mutual connection and genuine interest rather than settling for relationships that feel obligatory or one-sided. They emphasize the significance of being objective and neutral in assessing friendships, avoiding the pitfalls of emotional attachment and desire for validation. Overall, the episode encourages listeners to examine the nature of their friendships and pursue authentic connections that bring joy and fulfillment. #FriendshipMovement, #IslandLiving, #PlatonicFriendships, #TrueFriendship, #NegativeThinking, #FriendshipEtymology, #ClassIssues, #SpiritualityOfFriendship, #ManifestingFriendship, #CaptiveFriendships, #ObjectiveFriendship, #FindingTrueFriends, #FriendshipJourney, #MomentumInFriendship, #WorkFriends, #SchoolFriends, #FriendshipTips, #EtymologyExploration, #ConsciousFriendship, #DesireForTrueFriends Title: The Hostage Friend Introduction A. Fawn and Matt discuss their experience living on an island in Washington state B. Feeling isolated and the origins of their friendship movement Movie Night Plot Holes A. Fawn and Matt's discussion about watching "The Grand Tour" and finding plot holes B. Suspend disbelief and the challenges of ignoring plot inconsistencies Island Life and Limited Interactions A. Living on the island and limited social interactions B. Main interactions with the town and country market and the Blackbird Coffee Shop C. Development of friendships with people working at the grocery store The Concept of Hostage Friends A. Fawn's realization that their main friends were from the grocery store B. Exploring the idea of "hostage friends" and the obligation to be friendly C. Fawn's experiences of racial tension during Obama's election Etymology of "Hostage" and "Host" A. Exploring the etymology of the word "hostage" and its connection to "host" B. Discussion on the meaning of hospitality and ties of friendship
Mon, March 11, 2024
"Processing Emotions Daily: A Guide to Compartmentalization and Friendship"
This episode explores the concept of compartmentalization and its effects on daily life, relationships, and emotional well-being. Fawn and Matt discuss the importance of daily cleaning, both literal and metaphorical, to prevent emotional clutter from accumulating and impacting mental health. They share personal experiences, including traumatic events and coping mechanisms, to illustrate the significance of addressing emotions as they arise rather than storing them away. The conversation emphasizes the value of vulnerability, communication, and self-care in maintaining healthy relationships and fostering personal growth. Overall, the episode offers insights into navigating life's challenges while striving for emotional balance and connection. #Compartmentalization, #Emotional Well-Being, #DailyCleaning, #RelationshipMaintenance, #CopingMechanisms, #Vulnerability, #Self-Care, #EmotionalSpringCleaning, #NavigatingFriendships, #TraumaAndRelationships, #VulnerabilityInFriendships, #Self-CareForEmotionalWell-Being, #DailyCleaningForMental Health, #CompartmentalizationAndRelationships, #HealthyRelationshipMaintenance, #PersonalGrowthThroughEmotionalBalance I. Introduction A. Opening conversation about cleaning and its significance in various contexts B. Reference to martial arts school tradition and religious practices II. Personal Experiences with Cleaning A. Fawn's daily cleaning routine and its connection to managing clutter B. Discussion on the importance of addressing emotions as they arise C. Matt's perspective on compartmentalization and the need for in-the-moment coping III. Compartmentalization and Cleaning Metaphor A. Definition and explanation of compartmentalization B. Comparison of emotional storage to physical clutter in the home C. Analogy of emotions as "toddlers" seeking attention IV. Impact of Compartmentalization on Relationships A. Personal stories of dealing with trauma and the subsequent emotional challenges B. Discussion on the concep
Mon, March 04, 2024
An O.C.E.A.N of Friends - Understanding Personality Dynamics: OCEAN Test Exploration
In this week's podcast episode, Fawn and Matt discuss their experience taking the Big Five Personality Test, also known as the OCEAN test, which assesses openness, conscientiousness, extroversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Fawn expresses her disdain for tests, while Matt explains the significance of understanding these personality dimensions in the context of friendships and relationships. They analyze their own test results and discuss how these traits manifest in their interactions with each other and with friends. The conversation delves into the complexities of personality dynamics and the importance of empathy and understanding in fostering meaningful connections. Overall, they emphasize the value of recognizing and respecting differences in personality while navigating friendships.
Mon, February 26, 2024
The Orange Peel Test
In this week's episode, Fawn and Matt discuss the concept of the "Orange Peel Theory" as a way to gauge the strength of relationships. They delve into the importance of small gestures, genuine empathy, and maintaining balance in friendships. Through anecdotes and reflections, they explore the dynamics of emotional intelligence and the value of authenticity in interactions. Ultimately, they emphasize the significance of understanding and nurturing relationships with care and sincerity. Join us in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace #OrangePeelTheory, # FriendshipStrength, #RelationshipGauge, #EmotionalIntelligenceTest, #MicroGestures, #FavorsInRelationships, #AuthenticityInFriendships, #TheOrangePeelTest, #TheArtOfFriendship, #FriendshipPodcast
Mon, February 19, 2024
"The 'Popular Friend' - Navigating Authenticity: The Pitfalls of the Popularity Game"
In this week's episode, Fawn delves into the complexities of popularity and authenticity. She reflects on the societal pressure to conform to popular standards, observing how some individuals prioritize appearing popular over genuine connection and well-being. Drawing from personal experiences and societal observations, Fawn highlights the dangers of sacrificing authenticity for popularity, emphasizing the importance of being true to oneself and respecting others' boundaries. Fawn and Matt, navigate through discussions on societal norms, labeling, and the power of words, advocating for presence, respect, and authenticity in all interactions. As they explore the nuances of friendship and societal expectations, Fawn's impassioned reflections offer insights into fostering meaningful connections and embracing individuality in a world often consumed by the pursuit of popularity. #AuthenticLiving, #FriendshipMatters, #RealTalk, #SocietyReflections, #PopularVsAuthentic, #ConsciousCommunication, #ParentingChallenges
Mon, February 12, 2024
The Art of Joy
This week's episode delves into the importance of joy in life, especially during challenging times, exploring the significance of creating art or engaging in creative activities every day to maintain balance and counteracting negative thoughts. The episode emphasizes the transformative power of joy, even in the face of hardship, and encourages listeners to embrace and prioritize joy in their lives. Fawn and Matt, share personal experiences and discuss a seven-day program called "Big Joy" based on a citizen science project at UC Berkeley, designed to increase emotional well-being and cultivating joy. The big reminder: JOY, especially in times of hardship, when times are hard, guy, when there's so much sorrow, when things are scary, you need joy. Joy is our life force. Do not feel guilty about experiencing joy. You need to. It is a necessity. It is a life force. #TheArtOfFriendship, #OurFriendlyWorld, #TheArtOfJoy, #JoyChallenge, #BigJoy, #GreaterGoodScience, #UCBerkeleyJoyProject, #DailyJoyCreation, #EmbracingJoy, #WellBeingJourney, #ShiftYourPerspective, #GratitudePractice
Mon, February 05, 2024
OKAY
This week on Our Friendly World, Fawn and Matt explore the theme of overcoming the judgments and opinions of others, with a focus on the importance of letting go and not trying to prove oneself to everyone. Fawn reflects on a play she created with a single word, "okay," as a response to critics. The episode emphasizes the message of finding peace in being true to oneself and not seeking validation from others. This week's podcast episode delves into Fawn's experiences studying in England with American professors, particularly in a literature and creative writing course. Faced with challenges and criticism from professors and an art editor, Fawn shares the story of how she overcame judgments and negative perceptions. The episode explores the theme of not letting others' opinions define you, featuring a play Fawn wrote with just one word: "Okay." The narrative highlights the importance of finding peace within oneself and not constantly seeking validation from others. #CreativeWriting, #Photography, #ArtCritics, #OvercomingChallenges, #SelfValidation, #Okay, #LifeLessons, #LetItGo, #PeerSupport, #OK, #Friendship, #LifeLessons Join us in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, January 29, 2024
Unraveling the Art of Asking Questions: Engaging in Meaningful Conversations with Our Friend Barry Lane
Fawn and Matt are joined by Barry Lane as they delve into the challenges of asking questions, sharing personal experiences and insights. They discuss the impact of questions on relationships, the nuances of questioning, and the power of open-ended inquiries. Barry Lane emphasizes the importance of finding questions that help people discover themselves and shares anecdotes about the effectiveness of such questions. The episode also touches on the media's role in framing questions and the potential for more meaningful conversations by focusing on problem-solving rather than conflict. Join us in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace #storytelling, #ConversationalSkills, #AskingQuestions #CommunicationTechniques, #authenticity, #MindfulnessInCommunication, #DeepListening, #UnderstandingOthers To reach Barry Lane: https://forcefieldforgood.com/
Mon, January 22, 2024
The Humanitarian Clown – Ali Cheff
In this thought-provoking episode, Fawn and Matt engage in a deep conversation with their guest, Ali Cheff. They delve into the meaning of 'clown' - not just in the traditional sense of humor and entertainment, but also as a metaphor for letting go of ego, embracing vulnerability, and the power of really seeing and hearing others. They also discuss the concept of being 'Down to Clown', essentially being open to laugh at oneself, acknowledging one's strengths and weaknesses and to not take oneself too seriously. Through instances of personal experiences and introspection, they explore the importance of community, connection, and conversation. #clown, #HumanitarianClowning, #community, #friendship, #connection, #compassion, #conversation #DownToClown #TheArtOfFriendship Join us in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, January 15, 2024
The Transient Friend
In this week's podcast episode, Fawn and Matt explore the concept of transient friendships. They debate the impact of a digital footprint on personal growth and societal expectations. What are the potential benefits of getting lost in life and the value of constantly making new friends? Overall, the episode delves into the balance between the permanence and transience of friendships in today's society. The episode concludes with a reflection on the transient nature of life and the benefits of embracing new experiences and friendships. #TranscendExperience #MakeNewFriends #EmbraceTransience #LifeIsTransient #FriendshipJourney #GetLostAndFound #SmallWorldStories #AuthenticLiving #ForgetInternetJudgment #LiveInTheMoment
Mon, January 08, 2024
“The Miraculous Friend – Unveiling Miracles: The Transformative Power of Unexpected Friendships"
Whether it's a lifelong friend or a stranger with a momentary message, miraculous friends can appear in our lives to offer support, love, or guidance when we least expect it. Openness to these moments and an awareness of the potential for miracles can enrich our lives and connections with others. #MiraculousFriend #FriendshipMagic #UnexpectedConnections #OpenToMiracles #EverydayMiracles #GratitudeJourney #RandomActsofKindness #UnveilingMiracles #FriendshipEncounters #LifeSurprises
Sun, December 31, 2023
The Other Weird Friend - Cultural Diversity's Impact on Society
Fawn and Matt explore the dichotomy between individualism and collectivism, discussing cultural influences, and how media shapes our thoughts. They touch on examples like rice farmers vs. wheat farmers, geographic mindsets, and the importance of understanding diverse perspectives in friendships. The conversation reflects on personal biases and the need for open-mindedness in navigating societal divisions. #IndividualismVsCollectivism #CulturalInfluences #MediaBias #PerspectiveShift #OpenMindedness #SocietalDivisions #MindsetMatters #DiversePerspectives #PodcastDiscussion #SocialThoughts #BiasAwareness
Mon, December 25, 2023
Slow vs Fast Communication
Fast vs Slow - The art of friendship involves understanding and working with various rhythms. This week, Fawn and Matt are unraveling the intricate art of relationships, and the kaleidoscope-like complexity of humanity. Their conversation touches on the intricacies of processing information, the dynamics of communication in friendships, the balance between individuality and collective success, and the ever-evolving nature of human relationships.
Mon, December 18, 2023
Navigating Awkward Conversations - Unveiling the Pitfalls of Clichés and Finding True Dialogue
In this week's podcast episode, Fawn and Matt delve into the pitfalls of relying on clichéd responses in conversations. Fawn shares a personal experience at a museum that left her feeling regretful. The hosts explore the notion of missed opportunities for meaningful dialogue when social norms and clichés take precedence over authentic communication. They discuss the importance of moving past initial awkward moments to maintain a genuine connection and understanding. The episode serves as a reflection on the art of friendship and the impact of sincere conversations. #SafetyNetConversations, #FriendshipHarm, #MeaningfulDialogues, #PureConnections, #Misunderstandings, #BreakALegMoments, #AuthenticConversations, #ArtOfFriendship, #GraciousNature, #ThankYouForYourService, #OpportunitiesForDialogue, #ClichedResponses, #InsecurityIssues, #SocialAwkwardness, #PureFriendship
Mon, December 11, 2023
"Fright Bonds: Exploring the Fascination with Horror Movies and Human Connections"
In this podcast episode, Fawn, Matt, and their kids discuss the allure of horror movies. Fawn expresses her lack of interest in horror due to the world's existing stress and prefers romantic comedies. The conversation delves into why people, especially the younger generation, find enjoyment in horror. They debate if horror serves as a distraction or a reflection of inner emotions, discussing the psychology behind the attraction to frightening films. The hosts explore how horror movies create shared experiences, fostering camaraderie and stimulating discussions about decision-making within these films. They draw parallels between classic literature and fairy tales, often cautionary in nature, and analyze the societal impact of these narratives. Ultimately, they contemplate whether horror movies, despite their unsettling nature, foster connections and discussions among viewers, similar to other shared experiences in life. #HorrorDiscussion, #SharedExperiences, #HorrorBonding, #CamaraderieThroughFear, #HorrorAndFriendship, #HorrorMovieLovers, #PsychologicalHorror, #FrightPerspective, #HorrorCommunity, #HorrorTherapy, #HorrorClassics, #HorrorFandom, #HorrorDebate, #HorrorGenre, #FearAndFun, #HorrorAndSociety, #HorrorExperience, #MovieTalk, #AdrenalineRush Join us in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, December 04, 2023
Niceness vs Kindness
This week, we explore the difference between being nice and being kind and why there seems to be a disparity. In relation, Fawn points out and explains her theory of what she calls “The Introductory Phase” within our relationships and how this is the reason for the divide and the lack of connection our society is experiencing. Join us in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, November 27, 2023
Friendship and Emotional Support, Lessons Learned from Prejudice
This podcast episode delves into personal experiences with prejudice and discrimination, discussing the emotional impact and strategies for coping. Fawn recounts encountering prejudice in a new group, reflecting on the pain, shame, and feelings of being disregarded or unseen due to racism. The episode outlines steps to address such emotions, emphasizing acknowledging pain, accepting grief, seeking support, and nurturing oneself physically and emotionally. Fawn shares a transformative shift in perspective by communicating her desires to the universe, leading to a change in how she perceives the situation, ultimately aiming for a harmonious experience. Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, November 20, 2023
Very Superstitious
In this episode of “Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt,” hosts Fawn and Matt explore the concept of superstitions and how they can be traced back to ancient practices for protection. They dive into the whimsical world of superstitions and friendships. Fawn and Matt reflect on childhood beliefs, from knocking on wood to saying "bless you," intertwining these practices with the essence of friendship. As chaos swirls around, they unravel how friendships often evolve from shared anxieties and grow into something deeper, emphasizing the need to uplift each other and embrace the quirks that make friendships beautiful. In a conversation peppered with laughter and insights, they encourage listeners to lead with joy and be unapologetically themselves, being “down to clown” as they navigate life's adventures together. #Superstitions, #Friendship, #Chaos, #Anxiety, #Quirks, #Upliftment, #Joy, #Podcast, #ChildhoodBeliefs, #Laughter, #Insights, #Adventure, #Embrace, #Reflection, #Whimsical, #SharedExperiences, #OurFriendlyWorld, #Authenticity Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, November 13, 2023
Urban Mobility Behavior - How the Way We Move Affects Our Friendships
Fawn and Matt discuss an article titled "Orientation Towards the Common Good in Cities: The Role of Individual Urban Mobility Behavior." They touch on the idea that cyclists, due to their vulnerability on the road, may have a stronger emotional bond to their neighborhoods and exhibit less individualistic behavior compared to drivers. They explore the impact of urban mobility on social interactions, highlighting how the pace of modern life, particularly in cities like Los Angeles, may contribute to a lack of community connection and increased individualism. The conversation also delves into the broader theme of slowing down, finding balance, and the potential benefits of reducing the reliance on cars for a happier and friendlier society. #NeedForSpeed, #UrbanMobilityBehavior, #ArtOfFriendship, #Community, #friendshipChangesTheWorld, #SlowDown!
Mon, November 06, 2023
Quantum Entanglement and the Schumann Resonance
The universe has this nasty habit of expanding and contracting. And so at some point, the universe, everything that we know, everything that we live in, it'll all be in this giant mass of stuff. Well, what if that's a heartbeat, or a breath, or a, of something else? In this episode, we define Quantum Entanglement and talk about the Schumann Resonance and how it all relates to what we're all going through on the planet right now. #SantaMonica, #QuantumEntanglement, #SchumannResonance, #FalseIdols, #artoffriendship Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, October 30, 2023
The Art of Joy – How to Marry Joy with Hard Times
Like friends that are totally different from one another, coexisting through their different personalities and creating a healthy relationship with different perspectives, so too can joy and grief be friends in the same way. This week we ask how we marry joy with hard times, what happiness versus joy really is. We may feel there isn't a tie between joy and grief. The definition of JOY is: Rejoice, to rejoice, comes from rejoice, to come together, What does rejoice really mean? To rejoice in something. To come together. You're not separate. So why should we separate joy from the rest of life? We also discuss the pendulum effect, where things should have been balanced all along but because it wasn't, we need, or society then provides, zeitgeist maybe just provides this kind of hard lesson one way and then a swing back and then a swing the other way and a swing back until it eventually lands somewhere in the middle.
Sun, October 22, 2023
We Are a Murmur
A murmur is when hundreds or thousands of starlings flock together and create swooping swirling patterns in the sky. We've all seen it, you know, like all of a sudden, you look up because you hear something in the sky. You see just so many of them flying and they're in unison. They're in perfect harmony and synchronicity. You can see them flying and roosting together. And each roost has a few thousand to several million birds. They may fly over, a 12-mile area, looking for their home. And then other birds can sometimes join them, like join the ride. Ha ha. And then, when they arrive, it's like, they announce themselves through a murmur, those shapes that they create as they fly together. And when you look at it, they create shapes that we know. Like, I've seen some videos of them, over an ocean, and they're flying in the sky, and they're going from here to there, they're swirling, they separate, they come back together. Like water and then they turn into something that looks like a whale for a second or two seconds sometimes they come together and they look like one massive bird with wings and a beak and everything. It's outrageous It's amazing that the collective works together like that and aren't we the same? We're all a part of that. So what are we doing together? What are we creating? There's a message to learn from the starling and the murmur: while things look dark, hold tight and keep the faith. You have the support of outstanding people who will get you through.
Mon, October 16, 2023
Mama vs MOMA - The Feeling of ARTRAGE and How Our Presence Creates Ripples in the World
Every person is like a work of art. Fawn has a not-so-friendly trip to a museum and experiences #artrage and goes to a totally different museum and experiences LOVE and INSPIRATION. Whatever we do in life can be a way to help one another, it's about helping one another. It's about human connection. It's about love. It's about supporting one another. It's about community. Bringing it back to the art of friendship, institutions, businesses, people, animals, everything creates a ripple effect and creates a whole new world. Let's look at the people, and the institutions, and see how they contribute to the ripple. #MoMA #EricCarleMuseum #artrage, #rippleeffects, #artodfriendship Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, October 09, 2023
The Art of Hearing with Dr. Cathia Walters
Dr. Cathia Walters joins us again to discuss how we hear each other. What happens when individuals or groups of people observe different experiences, and realities, even just hearing things or seeing things? How can we communicate with each other when we all have different perspectives? Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace #MandelaEffect, #RealityBubbles, #Dr.CathiaWalters, #Communication
Mon, October 02, 2023
Transitioning from Point A to Point B
Dealing with change can make us all anxious. During a time of transition, everyone is experiencing a little bit of trepidation, a little bit of wondering what's going to happen. This is the perfect time to remind each other that it's going to be okay. Appreciate this time. Don't fret about anything. Appreciate what's in front of you right now. If there's a problem, know that it's happening for the best, and listen to these ten things that may help. #Anxious, #anxiousness, #theArtOfFriendship, #transitioningThroughLife Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, September 25, 2023
The Art of Integrity
When we think of integrity, we think of the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles, blah, blah, blah. But it also tends to go towards the division; “I have integrity. You don't, I believe in such and such, and you don't. Therefore you don't have integrity.” This week we look at the deeper meaning of integrity and how the art of friendship plays a role in shaping our society. The other meaning, the etymology of integrity is a state of being whole, undivided, a state of being whole and undivided, the condition of being unified, unimpaired. The The adjective form of integrity is integer, integral, complete, perfect, intact, untouched. We ask who benefits from a divided community and who benefits from this kind of thing. Let's look at how we can be whole and undivided as people. Thoughts? Click the microphone icon on https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ and leave us a kind voice message. Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, September 18, 2023
The Art of Stillness
Within you, there is a stillness and sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself. - Herman Hess Even in stillness, there is movement. Sometimes it takes time for the molecules of change to shift form. Even when it feels like nothing is happening, transformation is taking place. -Anonymous To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders. - LAO TZU There is an art of being still that totally lets the person know you are here with them, you are present, you're loving them, you're embracing them without physically touching them. There's an art to that, and it's quite simple. You just have to be still hold your own and look at the person and see them and listen to them, and I think people are so afraid of what happens to the in-between that they'll just keep running; running their mouths or running away one thing after another. It runs the gamut. And there are points in time where it's good to be still and there are points in time where it isn't. And that's just it. We can literally pick and choose those moments and we should pick and choose those moments and to take us all the way back to being still as being a good thing. Not only does it help rechannel our energy and give us more connectedness to ourselves, but it also allows us to better connect to others. Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace #ZenKoan, #Thomas Merton, #MountBaldyZenCenterSouthernCalifornia,
Mon, September 11, 2023
Wasted Time - How Do We Enjoy Our Time Together?
You are the 100% owner of your life ie: your time. This is your time. Spend it, invest it, bend it, enjoy it how you wish, with whom you wish. I'm purposely using the word invest because people are so freaked out about wasting time and I think that it's wrong. I think we should through caution to the wind and waste some time. Let's be so stupid rich with time that we can waste some time. And what does it mean to waste time? This week we discuss the guilt that we feel when we're not being “PRODUCTIVE”. What does productive really mean, and who made up the definition of what “productive” is in life? You can go anywhere you choose, you can reroute your whole life. Think about your time. It's your life and as long as you are breathing, you have the currency. How generous are we with our lives? Being fully present is a big deal. Devoting ourselves, i e, our time to one another, our attention, being in a state of stillness can create a moment where you feel more powerful. And in that moment, time expands for you. Let's harness that and let's live richly. Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace #ContextShifting #WastingTime #BeingProductive #LiveRichly
Mon, September 04, 2023
Living Your True Life: 5 Ways to Embrace Happiness and Fulfillment
Let's shift towards authenticity, meaningful connections, self-expression, and finding joy in both personal and professional aspects of life! Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, August 28, 2023
"Unlocking Your Potential: How to Improve Your Luck and Manifest Success"
Did you know that people who consider themselves lucky are more likely to be extroverted? As we look to emphasize personal growth and empowerment while also touching on themes of luck and manifestation, we explore how we can look at luck in our lives and explore ways to attract positive outcomes. How can we unlock good fortune? How can a positive or in some cases a neutral mindset and social connections impact luck? Fawn and Matt explore h ow a positive attitude, new connections, and genuine smiles shape success. Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, August 21, 2023
Building a Positive Circle: 5 Kinds of People for a Healthy Friendship & Thriving Community
As we start thinking about friends, teams, and teammates we should strive for a team/community/friendships that espouse the whole concept of a rising tide lifts all ships. A rising tide lifts all ships. We look at the kinds of people that we should surround ourselves with and look at 5 kinds of people in particular. Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, August 14, 2023
Living For the Soul's Benefit, While Living Large - How Not to Stress Out About Money and Life W/ Barry Lane
This is a time when it's extra important to stay optimistic and filled with faith. Enjoy and appreciate the small successes and recognize that they add up to the big ones. So the successes add up to the big ones. The more you stay centered in gratitude, the more positive opportunities will come your way. But most importantly, this is a time when it's extra important to stay optimistic. Barry Lane joins us and teaches us how not to stress out about money and talks about living for the soul's benefit while living large. He tells us about a philosopher called Émile Durkheim, how capitalism atomizes people, how people can be little atoms that can't connect with each other, how they're separated by their own little pursuits for their own private lives and nests they try to build and competing against all the other nests and how this makes people suicidal. All this stems from a lack of community. Barry gives us tools to thrive through all of this and teaches us how to create community with two words! https://barrylane.com/ #BarryLane, #HowtoNotStressAboutMoney, #ÉmileDurkheim, #community, #theartoffriendship, #theartofcommunity Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, August 07, 2023
Relationships and the 5 Rules of Improv
Have you ever found that you thought you were just kind of bebopping through and just doing your own thing, and then all of a sudden you discover that one of the frameworks that you have, even for communication, you're totally stealing from somewhere else? If you really think about it, how is a conversation, not improv? How is hanging out with your friends not dissimilar from an improv show? In this episode, we go through the rules that exist in improv and relate them specifically to having good friendships. We also discuss the seven deadly sins of improv and what not to do inside our friendships. Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website:https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, July 31, 2023
"Breaking the Silence: The Art of Friendship and Fearless Storytelling"
This episode takes us on the journey of discovering why we don't talk about certain things, why we don't talk, period, why we don't expose what we're going through, and why we don't share what we've been through. How did we reach this point in our culture that there is no village, that there is not a space where we can hold one another and hear each other's stories? Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, July 24, 2023
Desiderata - The Things Most Wanted or Needed
The word and the topic of this week's episode are desiderata , a plural noun with a singular form. Desideratum means things wanted or needed. Desiderata is a famous poem written by an American poet, and lawyer Max Ehrmann in 1927. There's such an immediacy to this poem even though it was written back in the 1920s. Even though it was written hundred years ago, it still feels fresh and it is what we all need to hear RIGHT NOW. Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY! And if you are able, please donate (what you can) by buying us a cup of coffee at https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace
Mon, July 17, 2023
Don't Take the Bait! - Seven Strategies for Tough Situations with Friends, Family, and People in General
Don't take the bait. What bait is and how to handle bait is our topic for this week. Fawn shares advice from her wonderful friend Kathy and finds more information along the same subject from an article written by Lauren Sanders “ Don't Take the Bait. Seven Strategies for Dealing With Toxic People.” Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY!
Mon, July 10, 2023
Changing Our Narratives for A kinder, Friendlier World with Dr. Cathia Walters
Truth is relative and it's based on our experience. The story we tell ourselves is based on what is happening. We all have a history. We have our family of origins, there's the family interjects, what we learn from those around us, including society, etc. Dr Cathia Walters walks us through schemas (the way we frame the world based on core beliefs) and how to shift our narrative. This is how life feels better and our relationships improve. LOVE THESE SESSIONS with our Dr. C!!!!!!! #ChangingOurNarratives, #DrCathiaWalters, #Phsychology, #TransformingOurStories, #ChangingOurStories, #Schemas Socials and Web for Walters Wellness Group / Dr. Cathia Walters: https://www.instagram.com/walterswellnessgroup_/ https://www.facebook.com/WaltersWellnessGroup https://www.linkedin.com Dr. Cathia Walters (Dr. C) is an educator, psychologist, relationship coach, and the founder of the Walters Wellness Group in California's San Francisco Bay area. Through the Walters Wellness Group, Dr. C provides support groups, courses (online and in-person), workshops and community events on a variety of healing-related topics. Her courses like Managing Life Challenges course, Black Women's Support Group, and Healing Trauma program have served hundreds of individuals in healing and personal growth. Dr. C's work focuses on compassion in healing and incorporates movement into the healing journey. Dr. C designs and hosts annual retreats for Black women in Runaway Bay, Jamaica, a biannual retreat for Black couples in Lake Tahoe, California, and a retreat for managing trauma in Costa Rica. Dr. C also provides training and hosts webinars and workshops on a variety of h
Mon, July 03, 2023
Don't Worry, Be Happy - A How-To Guide on Friendship and Wellbeing
For today's topic, we wanted to pass along something to you that was passed onto us; something wise from the mentor, the original mentor of friendship, Santa Monica. We have found that one of those humongous things that hurt people is that at some point they forget how to play. And you know what? Playing is creativity. It's experimentation, it's screwing up, it's finding something awesome in the middle of chaos. It's a brave thing to do (to play) also because you're using your imagination. You're laughing in the face of fear. You're laughing in the face of some major constraints in front of you and you're basically saying, haha, I'm going to defy gravity. But that also gets us back to the whole topic today: worrying. This topic is twofold. One is worrying, but one is also what we do for each other as friends. We get into the etymology of worry (you will not believe the original meaning of this word!!!!). Our point is that together, one by one, create what we do want, create a sense of security, and create security period! We can help each other out, and create our own utopias! it's very much possible in an instant. Because we're not alone. We're here together and we are all talented in so many ways. And when we pull our friendship together, meaning we pull our resources together, we have a beautiful society. So, don't worry, be happy. Because you have a friend in me. Please tell everyone you can about our efforts in bringing back the art of friendship and transforming our society for the better. Click the subscribe button on our website: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ AND...Have a BEAUTIFUL EVERY DAY!
Mon, June 26, 2023
Why We Yell at Each Other and The Art of the Empty Jacket
When we're talking or when we're not talking, why do we yell at each other? What is the point of yelling? What does it really mean when we resort to yelling? Why do we yell when we're upset and what is really behind it all? This is what we explore this week as well as the art of the empty jacket. #Aikido, #Judo Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friendshttps://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/CALL TO ACTION: SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS DISCLAIMER: This Podcast and all related content [published or distributed by or on behalf of Fawn Anderson and Matthew Anderson or Ourfriendlyworld.com ] is for informational purposes only and may include information that is general in nature and that is not specific to you. Any information or opinions expressed or contained herein are not intended to serve as or replace medical advice, nor to diagnose, prescribe or treat any disease, condition, illness or injury, and you should consult the health care professional of your choice regarding all matters concerning your health, including before beginning any exercise, weight loss, or health care program. If you have, or suspect you may have, a health-care emergency, please contact a qualified health care professional for treatment. Any information or opinions provided by guest experts or hosts featured within website or on Company’s Podcast are their own; not those of Fawn Anderson and Matthew Anderson or the Company. Accordingly, Fawn Anderson and Matthew Anderson and the Company cannot be responsible for any results or consequences or actions you may take based on such information or opinions.
Mon, June 19, 2023
Radical Acceptance for Friendships, Careers, and Life with Dr. Cathia Walters
Dr. Walters is back to teach us about Radical Acceptance - how does it play into our life choices, finances, career, and relationships? We discuss how to separate our thoughts from our feelings, how to cultivate self-worth, how to deal with rejection, and soooooooo much more! Socials and Web for Walters Wellness Group / Dr. Cathia Walters: https://www.instagram.com/walterswellnessgroup_/ https://www.facebook.com/WaltersWellnessGroup https://www.linkedin.com Dr. Cathia Walters (Dr. C) is an educator, psychologist, relationship coach, and the founder of the Walters Wellness Group in California's San Francisco Bay area. Through the Walters Wellness Group, Dr. C provides support groups, courses (online and in-person), workshops and community events on a variety of healing-related topics. Her courses like Managing Life Challenges course, Black Women's Support Group, and Healing Trauma program have served hundreds of individuals in healing and personal growth. Dr. C's work focuses on compassion in healing and incorporates movement into the healing journey. Dr. C designs and hosts annual retreats for Black women in Runaway Bay, Jamaica, a biannual retreat for Black couples in Lake Tahoe, California, and a retreat for managing trauma in Costa Rica. Dr. C also provides training and hosts webinars and workshops on a variety of healing and health-related topics for companies and organizations. As a Black woman, Dr. Walters considers self-care a radical act that begins with the relationship one forms with oneself. DISCLAIMER: This Podcast and all related content [published or distributed by or on behalf of Fawn Anderson and Matthew Anderson or Ourfriendlyworld.com] is for informational purposes only and may include informat
Mon, June 12, 2023
Tao Te Ching of Friendship Finding the exceptional in the seemingly unexceptional
The simple things are the most profound - things that go unnoticed. To notice the spectacular takes a special eye, a special awareness, a special sense of wisdom and appreciation. Someone who has the ability to spot something that's a diamond that may not be polished at Tiffany's who says Wow! Look at that spectacular jewel. Let's be the people who can see the extraordinary in the ordinary. And that goes in finding friendships. Thank you to the people who are so wildly perceptive that they can recognize in you the magic that you are. That we are. Thank you. You are the best friends. And thank you to all the people who we come across who remind us of this stuff. #HankWessel, #GeorgiaO'Keefe, #F.ScottFitzgerald, #TaoTeChingOfFriendship, ParentsTaoTeChing, #TheMarvelousMrsMaisel, #signsthathelpus Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friends https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ CALL TO ACTION: SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS
Mon, June 05, 2023
þetta reddast of Friendship - It Will All Work Itself Out
There are messages everywhere you guys! It's funny how messages will come to you. They come in the wildest ways and they come just right when you need them. So the message today is, don't worry, it's going to be okay. It will all work out okay. This week, we get the message from a few sources and one of them is from our friends in Iceland. No matter how big the problem, no matter how big the problem a solution, a solution will always present itself. It will fix itself. Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friends https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ CALL TO ACTION: SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS #BobbyMcFaren, #Yo-YoMa, #MichaelSandlerInspireNation, #Iceland, #Icelandicphrase “þetta reddast” - Saying of Iceland (Icland's Motto to Live By) TRANSCRIPT
Sun, May 28, 2023
How to Argue Well in A Friendship - and Still Keep the Friendship
Step-by-step guide on how to argue well in a friendship, to keep the friendship alive - and also how the turning point comes to be a deal breaker and ends the friendship. Thank you to our BEAUTIFUL and TALENTED friend, Michelle Sillence (an awesome Voice Actor) who brought up this very important topic. Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friends https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ CALL TO ACTION: PLEASE SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS #HowToKnowIfAFriendshipIsHopeless, #respect, #Apologia.
Sun, May 21, 2023
Away with the Hard Times! We're Done with YOU!
If I can reiterate the whole reason why we're here, it is to prove, to show, that we are not alone. You are not alone. Sometimes life is an absurdity, that's when you cross over into the realm of absurdity, and all you can do is just laugh at it and that's it. Sometimes everything can suck, BUT it won't always suck. YOU CAN MOVE THROUGH IT! The “sucky” times wil not last! Things will get better. Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friends https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ CALL TO ACTION: PLEASE SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS
Mon, May 15, 2023
Moving Through Trauma, with Dr. Cathia Walters
Today we welcome our most honored guest, Dr. Cathia Walters who shows us how we see ourselves, how we see others, how we see the world, what makes something traumatic, how to have self-compassion, how trauma shows up in our lives, how trauma shows up in society, and how to navigate through it all. What is trauma anyway? How can our various traumas be breaking or making our relationships with ourselves, with the people in our lives, and with the world around us? You will love your new friend, Dr. C, and will feel the beauty and calm of her teachings. We love this episode. #TraumaticExperiences, #SelfCompassion, #Acceptance #compassion, #PaulGilbert, #BigT, #LittleT, #TheArtOfSelfLove, #triad, #RelationshipsBeginWithYou. Socials and Web for Walters Wellness Group / Dr. Cathia Walters: Instagram Facebook LinkedIn Website Psychology Today Profile Dr. Cathia Walters (Dr. C) is an educator, psychologist, relationship coach, and the founder of the Walters Wellness Group in California's San Francisco Bay area. Through the Walters Wellness Group, Dr. C provides support groups, courses (online and in-person), workshops and community events on a variety of healing-related topics. Her courses like Managing Life Challenges course, Black Women's Support Group, and Healing Trauma program have served hundreds of individuals in
Mon, May 08, 2023
Unleashing and Untethering Self-Identity within Friendships/Relationships for Survival
As life happens, everybody fights, everybody argues everybody has a bad day. It's like people don't allow each other to flex and expand and contract. Oftentimes we get so focused and like we draw so much strength from things we've done in the past that have made sense for us that we can't conceive of a world where that doesn't make sense anymore. When you have misunderstandings, people misunderstand and they think it's the end of the friendship or the end of the relationship, but in reality, there's so much to unpack because everybody is experiencing their own life, their own interpretation of things, their own stresses, and everybody looks circumstances through the lens of their own past experiences. It's like you're not allowed to have three dimensions. You're only allowed to have two. And then some cases, one dimension. You have to be flexible. You have to go with the flow. It's the only way to thrive. Neither one of us can say anything with certainty's. That's the fun part. That's the challenging part, that's the wonder of it. That's life. It's a good idea to be strong in your convictions and beliefs but only to the point where if they start getting challenged, you need to really take a good hard look and figure out whether or not it makes sense or doesn't make sense. We see this within famalies, where people don't want to hear or look at the change, they won't accept it. They don't, they don't accept you because you are not their way; how parents don't want to understand their children because they're doing things in a way that's not done, that they didn't do it “right”. When things aren't done their way, when thoughts and ideas don't match their way, it threatens their self-identity. And that's where the friction comes in. That's where the separation comes in. That's why, families don't get along. I mean, HELLO, politics anyone in the United States?! How can we deal with this? I think we really need to back to the self-identity thing, number one, should we just examine, Hey, is my identity wrapped up in this? Maybe it shouldn't be. Think of different ways where we're so tied. We're so leashed and tethered to self-identity that we refuse to grow because we just need to hold on to something. Sometimes you have to have the mindset of I'm ready to head out on the highway for them to start to listen to you. Sometimes people only come to recognition that things aren't the way they perceive it. #ChangeAndAdapt, #transform, #BlockbusterVideo, #Netflix, #Redbox, #RedboxKiosk, #9/11, #SantaMonica, #Se
Mon, May 01, 2023
Believe!
We may not know every single one of you listening, but you matter to us. You matter. You are of great value. You're amazing. This episode is about believing that things can get better, that I can get better, that we will get better... to believe in yourself, to believe in one another... (quote from Ted Lasso. You matter regardless of what you do, what you achieve, what you don't do, what you don't achieve. It doesn't matter. When you are centered, even if you weigh 80 pounds, no one can throw you. Sometimes there seems to be a lot of people who want to throw you; spiritually, physically and metaphorically. The worst is when YOU throw you, and even worst is when you help them throw you. We talk about creating your best life. It's important to feel joy. It's nice to have someone take a look at and remind you of who you are, have friends to remind you of who you are, that you're not maybe seeing fully in that moment for someone to remind you, and that's the beauty of friendship. Don't be afraid of hearing some lovely people maybe express to you what they see around you that you may not know is happening around you to remind you of you, what you're about, like how wonderful you are, how amazing you are, how talented you are. #TedLasso #TheBeliefOfHope, #ImposterSyndrome, #momentum, #Aikido, #martialArts, Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friends https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ CALL TO ACTION: PLEASE SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS
Mon, April 24, 2023
What To Do When Your Friends Break Up
What do you do when your friends break up with one another? Is this a sunset or sunrise? Is it the end or the beginning of a new path? We give advice based on our personal experiences. We also discuss what to do and how to navigate a group dynamic. When you add new friends into a friend group, it changes the dynamics. Sometimes when you really need someone and the attention from that person is no longer there (it could just even be temporarily, but you need it right at that moment), it is a terrible feeling. People have a habit of not doing the same things over and over again. So just because it was okay at moment A to say something very hurtful to somebody doesn't mean it's okay in moment B or C or D. People believe by and large that they are moral, kind and a million other really positive words. And it's hard on people when they get a mirror shown up to them to show them exactly how they're not kind, how they're not giving, how they're not good friends. When friends break up, it's tricky; when you break up with a friend, when a friend breaks up with you and when two friends that you're friends with, have their breakups; it's just a sticky situation. #comission, #Omission, #BlockbusterVideo, #FriendBreakUp, #WhenFriendshipsBreak Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friends https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ CALL TO ACTION: PLEASE SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS
Mon, April 17, 2023
Allowing People to Expose Their True Ways for Healthy Friendships
This is for anyone who's ever felt less than. It's not you. You are not less than. We should concentrate on taking care of our space and realizing in what ways we are showing our true selves; the good, the bad, and the ugly, all of it, and being conscious of it all. And I think that's a great step to realizing how we're showing up for friendship, how we're showing up in the world, how we are creating our worlds We're not alone guys. and remember what I told you about the shame. I think that's when people who treat you as less than, succeed when you start feeling shame. They are exposing themselves. Do not allow shame to take over you. You are valuable. You are of great value. You're amazing and beautiful, and you're a friend of ours. This episode is about allowing and letting people expose their true selves. These are the people who think you don't count. When people don't count you as a real human being, people who discard you, your presence, your culture, and/or your appearance, as acceptable. Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friends: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ CALL TO ACTION: PLEASE SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS
Mon, April 10, 2023
Of Sound Body and Mind Friendships with Jacqueline Fusari
This episode is about the communication with our own life force. It sounds kind of woo woo, I know, BUT we're talking about creating balance, having understanding, developing compassion for ourselves and being grounded so that we're better able to present in the world for ourselves and for others. We are joined by friend and acupuncturist Jacqueline Fusari as we discuss being centered on all levels from the physical to the emotional, to the spiritual level. Jacqueline teaches us that when it comes to communicating with ourselves and our bodies clearly, we can present ourselves authentically to others so that we're in the best place to make friends and communicate clearly. #Chi, #acupuncturist, #Acupressure, #Aikido, #martial art, #emotions, #life-force, #balance To reach Jacqueline: https://www.fusariacupuncture.com/ Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friends: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ CALL TO ACTION: PLEASE SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS
Mon, April 03, 2023
We Are Each Other's Messages in Water- Veda Austin
We are speaking with water researcher, Veda Austin from New Zealand, to explore communication with something that connects all of us. This is truly getting into the art of communication. There is so much magic here that this episode reaches almost 2 hours, and there is so much more to explore! There are connections, mysteries, and signs all around us. And so today, one of those signs, one of those amazing marvels, one of the truly profound noble entities beings in our world is water. We're gonna explore it, as one of the elements that connects us all. It's normal to become overwhelmed sometimes, get bewildered, and feel fragmented, separate, and alone. Sometimes life can even seem frightening. It can feel like it's just us against the world that we've been left behind, sometimes in some way, sometimes awashed by uncertainty in life. so we're here with the Art of Friendship and all of us here today, especially with Veda, in life in general, we're here together to support one another. We're here to remind each other, to snap each other out of this kind of falsehood that we're separate, not connected; to show each other the marvel, the nobleness that holds everything, connecting us, and holding all of existence together with perfect artistry. O ne of the truly profound noble entities beings in our world is water. https://www.vedaaustin.com/ #Veda Austin, #New Zealand, #water conference #The Story of Ushela, #Veda Karan, #The Bhagavad Gita, #Masaru Emoto, #life force energy, #sonic signature, ##messages in water, #Hinduism, #Buddhism, #Christianity, #Islam, #Judaism, #the Bahai, #Shinto, #Zoroastrian, #First Nation People, # spiritual truths, #Dr. Masar
Mon, March 27, 2023
The War of Art and Clearing Self-Hatred - Peeling the Onion to Love
We're joined by our friend Marianne. We're joined by our friend Marianne and discuss the strange occurrence that happens when we do something creative when we start to feel a passion as you feel like, oh my God, I want to do this, or I want to say this, I want to experience this, there's a kind of inertia pulling us to the opposite extreme. It's this opposing kind of dynamic that's happening. I feel like when we pursue our dreams and our dreams could be pursuing our voice, pursuing speaking the truth in the world, we are met with this kind of resistance. Steven Pressfield calls it "The War of Art". I t's a force that can stop you from doing what you're supposed to be doing. If you don't value yourself, you'll always sell yourself short. In this episode, we explore a way to clear these things, these horrible, heavy, negative thoughts that keep us from our greatness, for striving for what we need. We strive for unlimitedness and feeling free. Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friends: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ CALL TO ACTION: PLEASE SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS #Steven Pressfield the War of Art, # "Afterlife", #Ricky Jervais, #cutting costs, #growth mode, #Business, #cost-cutting mode,
Mon, March 20, 2023
The Art of Self Awareness
The whole platform for our podcast is the art of friendship, and at the root is the art of communication. In discussing self-awareness, taking a look at ourselves and how we operate. Getting to know who we truly are, how we react to things, what our history is, why we think a certain way, why we act a certain way, what makes us introverted? What makes us like an outgoing person? What makes us want to do what we're doing? Like, where does all that come from? Understanding that will help us to understand others. SELF: (noun) a person's essential being that distinguishes them from others, especially considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action. A person's particular nature or personality, the quality that makes a person individual or unique. One's own interests or pleasure used ironically to refer to oneself as someone else. Like for example, "The only side worth supporting is your own sweet self. "Okay, SELF (verb): Self Pollinate Self-fertilize. Here's an example. " A variety that selfs itself loses lots of vigor in the progeny". SELF: (adjective) of a trimming or cover of the same material and color as the rest of the item. "A dress with self belt". link in the show notes https://www.estherperel.com/. do you feel like growing up you had protection more or did you have connection more like a sense of togetherness? Did you feel more protection from the family or did you feel a sense of connection and togetherness? what are your expectations of a friendship? Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friends: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ CALL TO ACTION: PLEASE SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS
Mon, March 13, 2023
The Art of Vulnerability
Defining friendship, we can see it as a combination of generosity and intimacy. How do we show up? How do we think we show up in every relationship and what value do we offer? On our podcast, we always tell you about the number one friend, number two friend and number three friend based on Aristotle's Nichomachian Ethics. Should we always be the kind of person people like to hang out with? That's one of our goals, being thoughtful about how we make another person feel. If someone is seeking those first two Nichomachin ways out in you, and that's it, that's not the true friend. However, they are important. So if a person is only hanging out with you because of how you make them feel and/or they're hanging out with you because of what they're getting from you, that is not true friendship. But they are valid qualities. Sometimes on your way to the true friend, you pass through these other levels. You're friends with somebody because they can get you something or, and then that gradually develops into something deeper. There are transition friends. There are friends who meet you when you first come to a place. They're not necessarily going to be your forever friends, but they welcome you in, and that's their job. and then they let you go in some manner, you go in different directions, We're talking about the level one, level two friends. And don't discredit that. Don't say that that's not necessarily a friendship. Because sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't. But sometimes it is. #EstablishedHierarchy, #TheArtOfKnowingYourWeakness, #TheArtOfVulnerability, #TheArtOfMakingFriends, #TransitionFriends Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook on making friends: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ CALL TO ACTION: PLEASE SHARE OUR PODCAST WITH OTHERS
Mon, March 06, 2023
Don't Blame It On The Pandemic
I want to talk about the loneliness epidemic. People are talking about it like it's something that the pandemic brought about, but it's not. It has been here for a long time. The loneliness epidemic was here long before the 2019 pandemic, but people were more likely to speak about it, speak about the fact that they were at home alone, or they felt loneliness, that they felt like, wow, I don't have anyone near me. I don't have someone to turn to. I want to say, don't blame the pandemic. This is something that's been here long before. It's been happening decade after decade. It came to a point where I think , and I've said this before, I think that people felt ashamed, that it was their fault that they didn't have any friends, which meant that there was something wrong with them. But what we noticed was throughout the decades, it was getting worse and worse, and that you are not at fault. People are not at fault. It's the way society has been moving towards is that, "let me do it on my own, you should do everything on your own. You should be self-sufficient. You should do everything by yourself. You should live by yourself."
Mon, February 27, 2023
The Auger
Today's topic is having anxiety about the future. Let's fix our mental and physical posture. Are we looking at the future that's not good but we're forced to pursue? This brings us to the one word for the podcast episode today, which is Auger. What does it mean and how can it help shape our fate? Are we truly hopeful about the future? Are we OK with the direction that life is taking? It's about where are we going or not going. Is something happening too fast? Is something changing in your life that doesn't feel right? How many of us are feeling these things, and what can we do about it? Sometimes the future doesn't seem so great, especially when we rely on mass behavior, mass consciousness behavior, and the pack mentality. It seems to go towards a fearful area, which never bodes well. So what can we do? Have you noticed that in history, things could be really, really rough, but there are people who can find ways to laugh, find ways to appreciate and find ways to enjoy life? That's where friendship comes in. Even going to a coffee shop or going somewhere that is peaceful and nourishing where people congregate and ask for the nourishment in that. Living and enjoying within the precise moment being completely in the now completely. Thought Exercise: At this moment are you warm enough? At the moment are you not safe? In this precise moment are you not surrounded by love? No matter how dire the situation, if you can bring it to that moment, you're still alive and you're still breathing. There is still hope, there is still peace with you. So, Thinking about that and if you can get yourself a cup of coffee or a cup of tea, that calms and soothes you. Can you relish in that and with the company of someone else? Can you try to think of things that are funny? Let's look at the future in a positive way, because we're going to create it to be that way. We're not going to listen to the doom that's been prognosticated. We're gonna create a better future. We're gonna hang out with some cool people. We're gonna find them if we don't have them, we're gonna seek them out and find them, because trust me, they're out there looking for us. And we're going to laugh in the face of doom and gloom and create a better future together. And that is true art right there, friends! Inside of all of us, there are two wolves. There is the Wolf of Hope and the Wolf of Fear. Which one are you gonna feed? Find people out there. You are always surrounded by people that are your friends. They're also looking for you, and all you have to do is just say hello or look at them longer than you normally would, and when they notice you looking at them, share your heart with a genuine smile. I emphasize the word genuine. Let it come from your hea
Mon, February 20, 2023
Me, We - The Shortest Poem in History and Muhammad Ali on Friendship
"Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school, but if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you haven't learned anything"- Muhammad Ali. " Friendship is a priceless gift that cannot be bought nor sold, but its value is far greater than a mountain made of gold. For gold is cold and lifeless. It can neither see nor hear. In times of trouble, it's powerless cheer. It has no ears to listen, no heart to understand. It cannot bring you comfort or reach out a helping hand. So when you ask God for a gift, be thankful if sends not diamonds, pearls, or riches but the love of real, true friends."- Muhammad Ali on friendship. Be honest and open about how you're feeling, and sometimes you need to express things that you know, that certain things that come outta your mouth sound terrible, but you need to unwrap it and understand why you're having these feelings. It doesn't mean that they're true, but there are so many things to unwrap. There are so many things to understand. It feels complicated, "Me, We" back to our community, back to the world is a small town and everyone is your friend. It sounds like everybody's your friend...weeeeee! No. Some friends are nasty, but they still guide you to where you need to be. Everyone says, oh, that's where friendships are made, is in school. That it's so much harder to make friends when you're older that the kids are so lucky because that's the opportunity and it's really not. It's like you're forced to be in a situation and these are acquaintances. You're not really thinking about true friendship and what is true friendship, and you're not taught relationships. We're not taught in school the most vital thing to learn to do anything in your life. We need to relearn how to relate to one another. How we can understand one another. How can we be heard? How can we be good listeners? How? There are so many “hows,” and we're not taught any of that. It's straight to reading, writing, and arithmetic. And maybe if you're lucky enough, if the school's gifted enough, some art; which is so backward. What do we do when the world/life looks and feels like it's beyond repair? Some examples are global warming, disasters, climate change...you know what I'm saying? It's such a mammoth thing to take on as opposed to realizing that we are infinite beings. We are powerful beyond measure. We are supernatural. By mere imagination, we can create so much beauty and transformation within a second, a split second. Fawn has been on overload the past few days and she breaks down on this episode. And although she can't talk about exactly what the issue is at this point, perhaps you can relate to the
Mon, February 13, 2023
Love and Hate - How to Heal a Broken Heart with Barry Lane
Barry Lane, the ambassador of love and kindness, troubadour for loving-kindness is with us again, this time from Uvalde, Texas. Barry travels all over the place and he not only teaches kindness, but he spreads kindness everywhere. He goes to schools. He works with children, he's given TED Talks. In this episode, we discuss what is stronger love or hate? How do you mend a broken heart? Where to find love when it seems all we see is a "prickly cactus"? Everybody is operating from some sort of trauma. Everyone has pain. Everyone's doing their best going through whatever they're going through. EVERYONE is literally operating at their highest capacity. Now, that may not mean that they're operating to your standards, to your standards, they're just operating from the best way that they can live. And that goes with friendship. Barry is visiting with the children and teachers who were inside the massacre at Uvalde and we take some time to discuss how we can heal, and how we can be there for each other to create a loving world despite what we are experiencing that is far from kind. We find out where love lives. We take a love pledge. This episode will soothe and nourish you. Barry sings to us. Make sure to listen to the very last song at the end of the episode. It will help. #WhatIsStrongerLoveOrHate #Uvalde #LoveIsEternal #HealingABrokenHeart https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/a-kind-world-with-special-guest-barry-lane/ https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/a-kind-world-finding-freedom-and-truth-during-a-tumultuous-time-with-barry-lane/ To Reach Barry: https://www.barrylane.com/ https://www.forcefieldforgood.com/ h
Mon, February 06, 2023
Get Yourself Together!
We continue the subject we talk about frequently, which is emotional currency and the ability to pick how we choose to spend this. How much do we want to invest? Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in an emotion that we forget that we're investing in all this life-sucking stuff. But when we do, and we say "zero," it's FABULOUS because we feel free, because we are free. We're energized. the fact that when we spend emotional currency like this, not only does it leave room for beauty in our lives, but in that moment and that realization of," I passed through it and that's kind of saying it's over. I refuse to invest anymore,"our life force comes back because we've gathered ourselves. The different parts of ourselves that were scattered in different directions outside of ourselves because we leaked our vital life force are now restored. We have pulled ourselves back together. Now we have the capacity that is able to make good friends and to BE a good friend. #GetYourselfTogether #HowToBounceBackFromABreakup #RealizeYourOwnPower When we're upset, we're leaking "currency." When we pull ourselves together, we pull all of humanity together, with compassion and peaceful understanding. Support our podcast by telling others and leaving a review. Pick up a free copy of Fawn's workbook "The Ikigai of Friendship" here: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ THANK YOU with LOVE! Get it Together, Get a Hold of Yourself ,Capacity Revisited Podcast - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Welcome back everybody. Hello? [00:00:02] Matt: Hello. [00:00:03] Fawn: Hello, world. [00:00:04] Matt: Oh dear. <span style="font-
Mon, January 30, 2023
Official or Superficial Friendships
I have an objection! I mean, they constantly say when people don't have friends when they're lonely, it's going to cause cancer. It's going to cause heart problems. It's like smoking 10 packs a day of cigarettes. It's like all they do is scare people. Thanks. Thanks for grabbing a headline and then dropping us off a cliff and saying, okay, bye-bye. I wish we had the audience the massive audience that all these “experts” have because instead of fear, we are actually creating a friendly world. In today's episode, we're talking about official or superficial friendships. How do you know if you actually have a friend, why do you depend on something else or somebody else to include you in a friend group, like these people that are parents who are like, oh, don't worry, you'll make friends when your kids make friends, like through their friends. That is so backward. It should be the other way around. . It should be your friends or your children looking at you as an example of how you treat a friendship and how you create a friendship or when you get into a conflict, how you resolve that conflict, or how you walk away from a friendship to maintain your life and your integrity. Your friends or people who may be watching you that you aren't even aware of. You are a walking role model in society. You are your own brand ambassador. Everybody is. We also talk about the Greek word PHILOI, a word that roughly translates to "friend". This type of friendship is based on the characteristically Greek value for reciprocity as opposed to a friend that exists as an end to itself. We also explore the word friend in old English. . It's spelled F R E O N D and guess what it means? To love. To favor. Isn't that nice? That leads me to another objection I have. There are more and more articles, which is great; talking about friendship and seem to love rules for friendship and I have an objection to that. Familiar rather than fellowship. Official or Superficial - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello? [00:00:01] Matt: Hello. </
Mon, January 23, 2023
7 Ways of Rest Your Body and Mind Need So That You Can Be a Good Friend
Let's talk about rest. R e s t. We're always going, going, going! Doesn't the world to you seem like everything is speeding up faster and faster, and that time is going by incredibly fast, like a rollercoaster fast? Today's episode is on the value of rest and all the different types of rest we need to look at. There are 7 different ways of rest that our bodies need. And when we rest, we are better friends. We have a free gift for you. Go to https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ and pick up a free copy of Fawn's “Ikigai of Friendship” companion book And to gift us, tell others about our podcast and leave a kind review. Seven Ways of Rest - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Woo wee guys, how are you? Hello. Welcome back. [00:00:06] Matt: I feel like, uh, deer Cotton headlights. I don't know what you wanna talk about. . [00:00:11] Fawn: I wanna talk about rest. R e s t. We're always going, going, going, doesn't the world to you seem like everything is speeding up faster and faster, and that time is going by. incredibly fast, like a rollercoaster, fast. [00:00:32] Matt: There's a dichotomy for me because if I'm doing a lot of stuff, my individual days go by really fast. But then when I look back what I did a week ago, it seems like a long time ago, it's like a Twilight Zone. So it's a weird thing. [00:00:49] Matt: So yes, it has sped up and yet has slowed down at the same time. [00:00:54] Fawn:</strong
Mon, January 16, 2023
The Gift
Everything is a gift, but it's not your responsibility to accept every gift that's given to you. Just because someone offers you something, does not mean you have to accept it. The word "gift" has been around for a long, long time, and when you get into German and you break it down, it basically means to give or receive, or natural talent. But if you keep looking further into the etymology and other aspects of the gift, it's also meaning "poison". Let's look at the word poison: deadly potion or substance, also figuratively, spiritually corrupting ideas, evil intentions. Be choosy and pick the loveliest gifts. That's with friendships, that's with everything in your life; what you surround yourself with. When do you know how to let go of the gift (the good gift)? When a gift has already served you, perhaps it's time to share that gift. That gift could be something like, you'll learn how to do something, so then you become someone's mentor. You're gifting them your experience and helping them out. We have a free gift for you. Go to https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ and pick up a free copy of Fawn's “Ikigai of Friendship” companion book And to gift us, tell others about our podcast, and leave a kind review. Thank you! The Gift – TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Welcome back guys. [00:00:02] Matt: Hello. [00:00:03] Fawn: Hello. Lovies loves. Hello friends. . Hello. Welcome back, . You know, welcome back. I learned from a swami that everything is a gift, but it's not your responsibility to accept every gift that's given to you. And. That came to me at a point where I was feeling, the weight of everything. [00:00:28]
Mon, January 09, 2023
Understanding Nate from Ted Lasso
Someone you help out that you love, who also loves you may turn on you. We've all heard the term “hurt people hurt.” The people who have hurt in them, who've experienced some sort of abuse (emotional pain or even physical pain) tend to lash out. Not everybody does that, but it's kind of like having a wound and you have to let the puss or whatever is in there come out. We live in a world where we're all interconnected. So how do we handle that kind of outburst or conflict? How do we handle that when that's us or someone we see who's needing to vent or who's needing to clear all that stuff out? How can we get rid of all that stuff from the inside, release it, and how do we deal with it when we have to deal with other people in our community? The world is our community. What one person experiences, we all experience. How do we release this hurt safe way? In today's episode, we use the character Nate from the TV series Ted Lasso to explore who we pay attention to and how to create a loving way to release hurt and pain. https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ Understanding Nate from Ted Lasso TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Okay. Are we ready? Yeah. No, , come [00:00:03] Matt: on. It's early or it's late or it's [00:00:06] Fawn: something. Hi everybody. Hello. How are you doing? What are you doing out there? Where are you? Hmm. [00:00:14] Matt: We [00:00:14] Fawn: had a power outage yesterday. We still kind of do. Now we have no internet, but I'm, we're [00:00:19] Matt: very tha
Mon, January 02, 2023
IRL - Friends In Real Life
Friends In Real Life. We've spent so long sequestered where the relationships that we had had were primarily virtual. They were over the phone, they were on video chat, but they weren't tactile, they weren't "I'm right in front of you." So things like when I'm texting, I can curate. When I'm Facebook posting again, I can curate. I can choose to write out a paragraph and then delete it and then write something else. Right. So there's a filter there. And in real life, there is still that filter but it's trickier because somebody can see when you're thinking you should say one thing, but you say something else. There are micro gestures that will tell you everything if you are open to it. If you're present enough, you can pick up everything from a split-second movement that happens. We were sequestered even before the pandemic; as a society, we really didn't hang out together that much. Everybody has this magical number in their head that if they have one friend or seven friends or 21 friends, that's enough and they don't want anymore. What kind of friend is it? , is it really a friendship, or is it an acquaintance? People are constantly evolving. And so it's like you need to see their authentic selves in order to connect with that. Listen here: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ Friends IRL (In Real Life) TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] MATT: . [00:00:00] MATT: Hello. [00:00:06] FAWN: Good morning. Do you have your morning juice? Which is coffee? You feel better? [00:00:14] MATT: I always feel [00:00:14] FAWN: better after coffee or [00:00:16] <span style="
Mon, December 26, 2022
Lesson from the Blue Jay on Authentic Communication and Revealing Authenticity
Revealing authenticity is one of the major things that keep us from having true friendships and good relationships. This week, we explore the reason for when we expose our feelings, it feels like we create even more problems and we're oftentimes left to be misunderstood. And it just creates more of a situation where you have to talk about it and we don't talk about things. So things are left unsaid. Things are left undone, and if you carry on a friendship, a relationship, over a course of years, it really builds disconnection. The wires of our connections get crossed and become incomprehensible. In this conversation, we include white lies (any kind of lie) and reveal why it is dangerous. We also turn to nature for signs. The significant sign that was revealed before our podcast was the BLUE JAY! What's the spiritual meaning of Blue Jays? We find that the blue jay is associated with authentic interpersonal and creative self-expression. What's at stake here? We could be erasing parts of ourselves, over time, chipping away at our authenticity and communication skills, at our confidence, and then everything of importance gets destroyed. But if we can remember that person who judges us (creating a barrier for us to be authentic) even if it's our own self-judgment, our own thoughts, our own mind about ourselves, like “who am I to go and pursue this? I looked terrible today. Oh, I'm too fat. I'm too skinny, I'm too old, I'm too young,” all those judgments; we have to be aware of that and know that that's coming from a place of insecurity. But why do we feel the need to keep going like this? It's because we don't have enough friendships out there. When we have our crew (even if it's just one person) with us that has our back, we are stronger. The world would be so much better if we could express our thoughts and know that someone was backing us up. If we see an injustice happening and it's just us standing up for something, chances are we may not say anything, because we'll be outnumbered and destroyed in some way. But if there's someone else saying it with us, there's great power in numbers. Blue Jay - Authentic Communication TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] FAWN: Hi everyone. . [00:00:01] MATT: What was that? <span s
Mon, December 19, 2022
Hypergrowth Mode Within Friendships and Relationships
What is Hypergrowth Mode in Friendship? What happens if someone's not growing and you've grown or you are not growing and the other person has grown; if you have an open mind about it, you can still connect and be together. But that's where you can't be so locked into certain belief systems. So if, let's say you've grown so much and you come back. . I'm like, what happened? And you tell me your experience, then if I'm totally open to also acquiring that growth at that precise moment because of your growth, if I'm totally openhearted about it, I think that that's what keeps a true friendship going. Have you noticed it's gotten easier or harder as time goes by to actually keep in touch with these people who are on either side of it? In this episode, we discuss what happens when people you know who are going through hypergrowth, or if you're going through hypergrowth, these people who are not, can lead to a breakup; which may lead us back to another topic from last week (we did talk about), which was social comparison theory, where somebody's leaving your peer group. https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ Hypergrowth Mode TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] FAWN: Hi everybody. Welcome back. We have no idea what we're gonna talk about. Oh, we don't do we? Aww. What is going on? Hi everybody. Hope you're well. Love you. Thanks for listening. Thanks for tuning in. What's going on Matt? [00:00:15] MATT: What's on your mind? Okay, here we go. So, back in college I noticed a phenomenon, phenomenon, [00:00:23] MATT: Anyways, uh, it was the most fascinating thing. There would be a girl, woman just starting college. She left her boyfriend back at home, wherever home was, and like clockwork, you could watch this happen. And I watched this happen six or seven times, actually over the course of my four years at university. [00:00:45] MATT: You know, they would tell you how in love they were and how they'd been together for however long it
Mon, December 12, 2022
Social Comparison Theory
Matt explores the findings of Leon Festinger who was trying to figure out how people like to arrange themselves into groups, peer groups, social groups, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. And so he started really trying to get an understanding of what that means. It's hard to measure yourself against other people in your peer group because peer groups are now infinitely huge and you make certain assumptions about who is and isn't in your peer group. People used to watch the Kardashians. How in the world can we relate to these people even though we live vastly different lives? What are the consequences of comparing ourselves to others? George Bush buys socks from Walmart and that look at how he's one of us makes him relatable. It was such an opportunistic, and it depends on which side of the political spectrum you live on, and how you react to that. But that was publicity. It was great publicity. Exactly. But that makes him relatable. And so what we're seeing in this day and age of the influencer, et cetera, et cetera, these people want to be relatable to the maximum number of people possible. And so they can afford and can curate the experience of seeing them, of, quote-unquote being with them in a very relatable way. And so you start to, we can't help it. It's kind of like we're wired to compare ourselves to these people and you can't compare yourselves to them. But we do, but we can't help it. And so this is why sometimes we get excited when we view one of these like pop celebrities as being bad. But that makes us quote-unquote "feel better about ourselves" because we can't help but compare ourselves to others in our peer groups. And also, and this is a really messed up part, is, once we've decided who's in our peer group, we will literally go out of our way to keep them in our peer group to keep them down. The Social Comparison Theory [00:00:00] FAWN: Welcome back everybody. Hello. Hello. How are you? [00:00:04] MATT: Hello everyone. [00:00:05] <st
Mon, December 05, 2022
The Worst Friend - The Noble Friend
Have you ever had that person, that friend that was the worst? Like, you wish you had never, ever met this person? There may be people out there that are your enemy, that could do things to you that will disrupt and destroy what seems like everything including your sense of hope. Because of their actions and because of the situation that you were interlaced with, they could also be the spark and the motivation needed to get to the next level to get us to where our (the hero's) destiny lives, finding the motivation to go back to our true, powerful self. Today, we discuss a key perspective needed to recover from the betrayal of a very, very bad friend. When the worst friend happens, it may feel like our entire life is shaken, even our physical body can shake like we're going through an ice storm. Have you ever gone through a breakup and it just, feels gross? You feel so exposed and downright shaky on all levels even physically I shake remembering some instances. It feels like all is lost and everything, quote unquote metaphorically speaking is burned down; everything is gone. Everything. We're stripped. Our life surroundings feel stripped. I think when this happens, it allows for a certain sparseness in order for us to find something that was buried, that was actually us; our sparkling us, that somehow got completely lost and buried. And because that “us” started to fade away, perhaps that's why the very, very, very, very bad friends came along. So in a way, these people were actually our friends who decided to step in and act so ugly for us to be, for it to be the catalyst situation for us to get back to finding who we were at our greatest original form. It's like spiritual house cleaning. And when everything is gone, we're going to find our true self that was there all along, and that's why this very, very, very, very bad friend is our great friend. I'm not saying we're gonna hang out with them and go to tea with them and have pajama parties. I'm saying that it was a good thing. It was a good thing. They acted so ugly. They were selfless enough to come in and be such an ugly force, for us to get back on track. Beyond devastation, beyond the level of betrayal, we can and will find our way back to perfect selves. https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ The Best Worst Friend [00:00:00] FAWN: Hi everyb
Mon, November 28, 2022
Kindness Rules - The Top 5 Ways of Showing Kindness
This week we go over the top 5 types of kindness and the top 5 places kindness can be displayed. It's said that one of the reasons why people stop and aren't kind is because kindness takes time (either they have no time or they perceive that they have no time). We think that kindness does not take time. Kindness has many ways. One way could be in the way you look at someone. Smiling, for example, has an art to it (the art of smiling is a thing that Fawn talks about all the time). We can all absolutely feel and see people smile. We can sense a genuine smile. When we are being completely in the moment, even if we're rushed, allows for some gentleness to occur for ourselves (within our little bubble). That feeling ripples out. That's a form of kindness. Matt shows how kindness is interpreted; how people see expressions of kindness, through a study that was done in the UK by the University of Sussex. As Fawn and Matt discuss how people view kindness and add to it the perception of how time and opportunity as well as preconceived ideas play a role in kindness, Fawn makes the point that we all have our talents, that we all have our ways to provide kindness, and argues that there should not be a blanket way to be kind; that there are many, many infinite possibilities where kindness can show itself. We should never ever underestimate the power of a genuine smile. It's a brave act to be kind, because yes if you are expected kindness to be understood and reciprocated immediately, you may get your feelings hurt. Being kind should be like lending someone money. Don't lend someone money and expect to get it back. If you lend it, just give it with the expectation that you'll never see it again. You're not being kind to get something in response. You're being kind to help somebody. When someone is hurting, they may lash out at you. They're in so much pain and that pain is just ricocheting off everywhere. And you may get hit by it. You have to kind of expect that and not let that injure you and keep going with your kindness and do your good deed. So why bother being kind? Why not just concentrate on me in mine? Humanity is one body. When one person is in pain, we all feel the pain. And if that person is ignored (their pain is ignored, their pain will spread out to the rest of society. So being kind is really being kind to others, is being kind to yourself. In our own house, if someone is in a bad mood and someone is crying and someone's upset, it affects the whole home. I
Mon, November 21, 2022
It's Elementary
We can think of each person and ourselves as a different kind of element (earth, fire, water, air and space), and explore how these elements work together. Some elements love each other; they support and nurture each other while some elements like fire and water are enemies; destroy each other and they need to remain separate. What does all this mean in accordance to our relationships? How can we coexist? What is the right balance to have (because we all have each and all of the elements within us) in order to have a beautiful friendship? Keep in mind that IMBALANCE is necessary also. If you think about walking, You couldn't walk if you were not imbalanced. If you were always balanced, you would not be able to walk because you would be so centered the whole time. The fact that you have to take one step and put all your weight onto another leg. To go to that next step is a free fall if you think about it. And it requires imbalance. You have to have faith that you are going to transition through that imbalance and wind up in a steady spot. These are the things to keep in mind in the art of friendship. Enjoy this episode and tell others about our podcast, subscribe, and leave us a kind review. AND keep friendship alive. Get a free copy of our book by clicking here: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ It's Elementary - TRANSCRIPT When [00:00:00] FAWN: I went to the hardware store, Yeah, when I went, when I went to the hardware store, when I went to Home Depot, I had a culture, not a culture shock. I don't know what to call it. It wasn't a shock, but a, when you go to different areas and you don't realize how different you are, and then all of a sudden you experience a shift in culture? Mm-hmm. ? Yes. That happened to me at the store , and then it happened after the store also, like I was talking to our neighbor, Kathy, and she started laughing at one word I said, and the conversation continued, but she definitely laughed at me saying, our friend's name Barry.
Mon, November 14, 2022
The Ugly Truth - Harsh but Truthful
We're talking about telling it like it is, not being worried about looking ugly, and not allowing ourselves to get so offended. Everyone goes through moments where they get offended in a friendship. But have you noticed that in our current culture, as soon as someone gets offended, it's the end of the friendship? Relationships have become disposable because it's so easy to just avoid a person or a certain problem forever, and never want to talk about it again. This takes us back to the saying “How you start something is how you end”. We can't end on a bad note and think that we can go into this other thing and start all over, with a clean slate. The same issues will inevitably come up again. So if we get offended by someone and we end that relationship because we never want to talk to this person again, whatever issue was a charge is going to happen again. That same issue in some other form is going to come up again. Further discussion leads us to explore when being polite at all costs is ruining our humanity and our relationships/friendships. We explore the delicate balance of telling it like it is, perhaps appearing harsh, but needing to be truthful in order to be good friends. Sometimes being unafraid to look foolish or ugly can save our lives. TRANSCRIPT Hi [00:00:01] FAWN: everybody. Hello. Welcome. I told you, what did I tell you about the Hello . [00:00:07] MATT: Hello everyone. [00:00:08] FAWN: Thank you. Hello. Love you. Love is winning. [00:00:15] FAWN: oh dear. This week, today we're talking about giving it to you straight, telling it like it is, right? So I'll tell you how it is, honest. I have to get things off my chest. This week was hard, This week was hard. Uh, Allegra had a meltdown. I'm like, Okay, let's change the perspective. The meltdown happened because of math, which, you
Mon, November 07, 2022
How to Make New Friends When You Move to A New Place
How to make friends when life has changed? How do we make friends when our life has completely changed? And that change could be a move, it could be being in a completely different situation, a new job, people we love passing away, or we give birth, become parents, etc, etc. Things open and close. Things happen, and life changes. That's when we start looking around to see if we have friends for real around us; someone to call, to be with us, to hold our hand; someone we can just walk down the street with, someone to be our witness in life. How can we make friends when life has completely changed or changed a little bit? How do we make friends when we're going through a transformation? It's like jumping into a beautiful lake, but you don't want to because it's gonna be a shocking cold temperature or something. Whatever it is, it's going to be uncomfortable for a few seconds. But Once we're in there, the water's fine and we can open our arms, glide, and enjoy life. In this episode, we discuss steps to take to make new friends in a new place. How to move to make friends moving to a new place - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Okay. Hello. We are back. Here we are. [00:00:03] Matt: Hello everybody. How are you [00:00:04] Fawn: doing? Good job, Matt. . I was just telling Matt every time we start the show, hello? He just says hello. I'm like, it just sounds like I spliced your voice in saying hello like a puppet. No. Good. So here he is, everybody. Matt. Hello. Oh my God. [00:00:24] Fawn: So. I made a new podcast friend last week. Actually we met weeks ago, but mm-hmm. . I was on his podcast. His name is Adam, [00:00:35] Fawn: and [00:00:35] Fawn: his podcast is podcasting Business school. So check that out. I think, it's good even if you're not a podcaster, to listen to him because he makes
Mon, October 31, 2022
The Invisible Lines We Must Cross to Live a Fulfilled Life and Be Able to Create Great Friendships/Relationships
The invisible line, the invisible barriers that we need to be aware of that will set us free. So the invisible barriers we are dealing with that hold us to certain places in situations, the invisible barriers invisible lines that keep us from connecting to each other. They're all over the place and they come in so many different forms. We discuss some invisible acts of power when once we realize and are aware of them, allow us to break free from the chains that bind us and keep us from living a free life and enable us to create beautiful friendships/relationships. The Invisible Line - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello everybody. Welcome back. Hello. So the invisible line, the invisible barriers that we need to be aware of that will set us free. So the invisible barriers we are dealing with that hold us to certain places in situations, the invisible barriers invisible lines that keep us from connecting to each other. [00:00:24] Fawn: They're all over the place and they come in so many different forms. But first of all, what are some invisible acts of power? We already did a show, remember with Rachel Chevalier from France, and we talked about grid lines, power lines, right? That are deep in the earth that you can't see. But your body definitely feels, and it changes your health, it changes everything. [00:00:51] Fawn: Lay lines. [00:00:52] Fawn: Remember that? [00:00:52] Matt: Yes. Absolutely. Is it red blood cells? They're affected by magnetism. It's one of those weird things. It's one of the reasons why, No, it's something in the blood. It's not the red blood cells, but it's something in the blood. [00:01:03] Matt: We have this in our bodies, determine which way north is, which is a bizarre [00:01:08] Fawn:
Mon, October 24, 2022
The Confidante - The Art of Confession
we all need someone that has our back. We all need someone to confide in. Today we explore the meaning of CONFESSION and realize that it is something more than a religious act; that it is a way to release negativity from our hearts. But how do we know which person or people in our lives we can trust to do this with? The Confidante - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: There is a reason why so many songs can bring us such comfort. Like there's a song that says, Have little faith in me, and that's what we all need is to have someone that has our back. That's one of the parts of the art of Friendship, We have each other's backs, right? That you know you're not alone, That when you're going through something that someone is there with you. Maybe they've gone through it already, or they can see better than you in certain circumstances. Today's show, I wanna talk about the confidant, and that came from confess. I was listening to Carolyn Myss. She brought up the whole point of, you know, everything's changing and so many religions and everything, and once you leave Earth, it's not about the religion. It's not, and that, but so many things have been thrown out. What's the saying, Matt? Like, thrown out with the bath water, [00:01:04] Matt: throw the baby out with the bath water. [00:01:06] Fawn: And one of the things that has been thrown out has been confession. And it made me think, And then we actually talk about, it's, it's so weird because on a parallel level we talk about the same stuff carolyn May talks about, you probably don't even know who she is. Uh, sort of, okay. So. The whole idea of confession. I started looking into it. I'm like, Well, I, from my perspective, I understand, I don't really understand the religious, religious aspect of confession. Like what is it really there for? Do you know, Matt, did you have confession growing up in the religion you were raised in? Oh my [00:01:44] Matt
Mon, October 17, 2022
Feeling Under the Weather
A reminder from Goethe: For five minutes a day, look at something beautiful, listen to something beautiful, and think of something beautiful, especially so when you're not feeling so well. This week we focus on what to do when we don't feel well, and what to do when friends don't feel well. TRANSCRIPT - Checking in on A Friend Feeling Under the Weather [00:00:00] Fawn: Welcome back everybody. A reminder from Goethe. Yes, for five minutes a day, look at something beautiful. Listen to something beautiful. Think of something beautiful, especially so when you're not feeling so well . So, hi folks. We caught something. We're two chicken to take a k. So we're just quarantining. We're just hunkering down the whole family. We don't know what we have, but it seems like all the other things we've had before. Honestly, like the kids get sick, It starts with, a sore throat and then their eyes get glassy and then it's, uh oh, [00:00:42] Matt: and then it's really low energy. [00:00:44] Fawn: Mm. It's just quiet. They get quiet. Exactly. Low energy, and then you're like, Oh, I'm tired. I'm gonna go. And then it's me staying up all night, cleaning up after everything that gets expelled from these kids all night long. Thank you very much. Matt . Why are you looking away? Like there's somebody else I'm talking to in this room. Oh my God. Matt, why do you do that? ? [00:01:11] Matt: Because I don't wanna accept. Yeah. Anyways. [00:01:15] Fawn: All right. I love you. [00:01:16] <span st
Mon, October 10, 2022
The Notebook - A Happy Story
This is not a sad or any kind of sad love story. No, this is a happy thing. This is another baby step (what we can all do to improve our friendships and our zhuzhiness out in the world, and how we can get to the point where we're creating beautiful bonds). The notebook is one way. It is a beautiful tool to pay attention to the people we meet to get a good understanding of who they are, what they value, and you know, what cool stuff they like. So it's kind of like doing a portrait of someone; a drawing. So you're really paying attention. And later when you look back on it, it's like a portrait of each person. And let's say it's been 20, 30 years, or a long, you know, so many years or you've moved away, wouldn't it be cool to just look back on it and reflect on the different kinds of personalities you met or you remember what you learned from this person back then? It gives you a sense of comfort. In a way, it's kind of like a security blanket to have a little notebook. The notebook is an easy key we can all use to help us as we venture off and explore growing our friendship circle. Fawn and Matt give examples of how precisely the notebook is accomplished. Reach out to us: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ The Notebook – TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: The notebook. This is not going to be a sad or any kind of sad love story. No, this is a happy thing. We're gonna tell you about the notebook. It'll be like when we did the baby steps; we did a few episodes of baby steps of what we can all do to improve our friendships and our zhuzhiness out in the world, and how we can get to the point where we're creating beautiful bonds. The notebook is one way. So here it is, guys. Hello. Welcome back. I'm Fawn. [00:00:35] Matt: Hello? I'm still [00:00:37] Fawn: here. This is Matt. One of the other things that I've been turning to lately, because we are in a completely new environment and we've been meeting so many people, really making an effort to not be lazy. Now we're out there and we're making sure that we're not lazy with our SEL skills. Social emotional learning, a
Mon, October 03, 2022
The FedEx Delivery
Case of the missing couch, FedEx, and the opportunity to meet friends; the opportunity to make friends in almost every situation, even situations where it seems like, things are awry. Proof that friendship exists everywhere. Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: Welcome back everybody. [00:00:01] Matt: Hello, [00:00:02] Fawn: this is Fawn and Matt. Case of the missing couch and FedEx and the opportunity to meet friends, the opportunity to make friends in almost every situation, even situations where it seems like, things are awry. You all know we moved and we have had so many deliveries. We had no furniture, we bought furniture and a lot of it was being delivered through FedEx and one very heavy package was lost out in the world. No idea where; nobody knew where it was. Lots of calls to the company we bought it from , lots of calls to FedEx. Nobody knew. Ultimately it was this FedEx delivery that landed us to this new friendship, friendship that we're telling you about. So what happened was the couch was missing. It was declared, lost. FedEx said, oh, it was delivered to the wrong address . But we don't know where it is now. I'm like, well, what, what address was it delivered to? [00:01:11] Matt: Right. Nice and simple. [00:01:12] Fawn: They wouldn't tell me anyway, one morning I go to bed at 4:30 in the morning because I was unpacking and doing whatever work that needs to be done in this house. And I went to bed at 4:30 and around seven o'clock, seven 30. Was it seven o'clock Matt? [00:01:31]</s
Sun, September 25, 2022
Earth Is A Small Town and Everyone Is Your Friend
This is our very first episode in a public place with in-person live conversations at the local coffee shop!!!!!!!!!!!! Wanting to lead by example, Fawn and Matt share their meet-cute moment on their friendships with Marianne, Danielle, and Hillary. This conversation is all about how to notice the magic, being brave enough to see people, say "Hello" and go further by sparking conversation, creating friendship, and continuing friendship when you come to points of disagreement, learning from those disagreements, and developing the art of a strong friendship. Fawn, Matt, Marianne, Danielle, and Hillary share how they all met and prove how the world is a small town and you are surrounded by friendship. To reach out to us, please go to: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ TRANSCRIPT: The Earth Is A Small Town [00:00:00] Fawn: The earth is a small town and everybody's your friend. And I dare say, even now with everything that's going around in the world, Uhhuh what's, what's going on in the world. It is still as true as ever that the earth is a small town. And everybody's your friend. Seriously. [00:00:20] Matt: Yeah, but what's this racket and I keep hearing around us. [00:00:23] Fawn: Okay. Hi everybody. We are back. This is our first time out in the wild unmasked, even and we are out, we are at a coffee shop in the most, one of the most beautiful places on the planet. We moved Matt and I moved here we are. And this is what happens. The show is more about the art of the start and throughout the last two and a half years, talking to you all, I kind of deep down felt like a hypocrite, talking about friendship and going out there and creating bonds and meeting friends and developing and nurturing friendships when we were sitting all by our lone sums in our kitchen, talking about it. Hey, so here we are. And we're gonna tell you how we did. So here's what happened. It was the power of a coupon. Matt had a coupon for a coffee shop. I had <span style="font-size:large
Mon, September 19, 2022
How You End Is How You Begin
Why it's so important to end things on a proper note so that you can have a great new beginning; from friendships to jobs, to moving to a new place. How You End is How You Begin [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello? [00:00:01] Matt: Hello? [00:00:02] Fawn: Hi. Oh, so bears trucks, neighbors, wire transfers, bears documents. It has been [00:00:12] Matt: nuts. What a long, strange trip it's been [00:00:15] Fawn: This talk today is inspired by one of our friends. Who reminded us a couple years ago, really like to really think about it. Something we've always thought about. Like, I, I never, for this very reason, I'm just about to explain. I never, did the normal thing for like new year's Eve and stuff like that because how you end is how you begin. So I never, I. Well, sometimes I did but like sometimes I did, but like I never cursed the year before and said nuts to you, 2020 yay. For 2020, you know, 20, 21 or whatever the [00:00:56] Matt: right. You know? Yeah. Yeah. Why do you blasting the old while praising this completely unknown new? [00:01:02] Fawn: So Heather who was on our show a while, while back. Heather the advisor, she brought up this phrase of how you end is how you begin. So how you begin is connected directly linked to how you ended something. So folks, we finally did it.. We moved, we moved, we moved far away to another part of the planet.
Mon, September 12, 2022
The Party Pooper and the Expert
A toast: "Here's to those who wish us well, and those who don't can go to hell." Don't let those turkeys get you down. I love turkeys. You know, when we talk about people we don't like and we compare them to pigs or cows or turkeys, it makes me sad because I love all these animals. What's a good word to describe people who just get you down, the ones who take you away from your good path? I'm not talking about your good friends. This episode is dedicated to our loving people that go around, go about their lives, walk their walk, and are in some ways, accosted by people who totally try to throw you off. Sometimes it comes in the form of random chatter and if you hear enough of this chatter, it can really mess you up. This is a fix for all that stuff. Party Poopers Good [00:00:01] Fawn: morning. [00:00:02] Matt: Hello. [00:00:02] Fawn: Good afternoon. Good evening. Hello to the world. Hello, our beautiful friends. Don't let the turkeys get you down. Don't let those turkeys get you down. I love turkeys. You know, when you talk about people and you compare them to pigs or cows or turkeys, it makes me sad because I love all these animals. What's a good word to describe people who just get you down. Who take you away from your good path? I'm not talking about your good friends. I'm and I'm talking to all of our goodhearted people, right? I'm talking about our loving people that go around, go about their lives, walking their walk, and you're in some ways, accosted by people who totally try to, throw you off. I don't know if it's intentional. Sometimes it is. Sometimes it's not, sometimes it's just the way they are. And if you hear enough of this chatter, it can really mess you up. [00:01:04] <span style="colo
Mon, September 05, 2022
Ethics part 4 "he who cannot draw on 3000 years is living hand to mouth."
Goethe said "he who cannot draw on 3000 years is living hand to mouth." We explore our history and think about this quote by Goethe as we wrap our ethics series. We explore so much, including Goethe, the four ideals, prosperity, the satisfaction of desires, moral duty, spiritual perfection, Lao Tzu, "Tao te Ching," living simply and honestly, the idea of reciprocity and much more. TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Yuhoo hello? Hello? Are [00:00:04] Matt: we ready? Oh my goodness. Yes. So here we are. We're back to talk about ethics. Oh my God. Again, um, we're gonna try to wrap it up though, which, which of course, you know, seeing is how we're literally at, uh, one CE or one common era. Ad for you folks who didn't grow up with it. There is an awful lot going on. In point of fact, Goethe said "he who cannot draw on 3000 years is living hand to mouth." [00:00:32] Fawn: Okay. Goethe man or woman, [00:00:35] Matt: man. German man German. He is the man in German, literature. [00:00:42] Fawn: I always get a little scared with anything Germans. [00:00:46] Matt: He does. What's his background. We certainly need to touch a little bit on NCHE today. So that's gonna be really scary. [00:00:51] Fawn:</str
Mon, August 29, 2022
The Origins of Ethics and Its Influence on Friendship part 3
ethics and the origins of it, understand ethics, bringing it back to how it is affecting our friendships, how it is affecting our society, and basically ultimately our lives. E thics is philosophical and it deals, it concerns itself with conduct in questions of good and evil in right and wrong. The definition- Ethical; derived from the Greek word ethos, which means character, and from the word, Mores, which means customs. Together they combine to define how individuals choose to interact with one another. So let's make things better, create a better world, and try to understand the shenanigans that took place that created the whole basis for ethics. We also explore Greek and Roman influence on us to this day. What do we do with this information? Understanding how we got where we are now and where we are now is the key. There are a lot of weirdness, differences, and change we need to look at. Ethics 3 TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello, everybody. Welcome back. [00:00:01] Matt: Hello [00:00:02] Fawn: okay. Guess what? We're gonna continue on talking about ethics. [00:00:06] Matt: Oh dear [00:00:06] Fawn: ethics and
Mon, August 22, 2022
Ethics and the world of Good and Evil, and Right and Wrong
Ethics is that weird branch of philosophy that concerns itself with conduct and questions of good and evil and right and wrong. And those four words good and evil, and right and wrong sound like they should be like, oh yes, good is right. And evil is wrong, but there are always shades of gray in between. You can do an evil act in the cause of right. You can do a good act in the cause of wrong. Welcome to the weird world of ethics and how it touches our friendships. This episode explores how we can help each other, and how remembering the art of friendship can help you in the midst of the turmoil of ethics, evil, and kindness. How can you prevail with kindness and not have anything else come into your circle? And just have it be a kind happy world. Ethics 2 TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Welcome back everybody. [00:00:01] Matt: Hello [00:00:02] Fawn: hi, good morning. And good evening. Good afternoon. Good all. Good all. All is well. All is well. [00:00:12] Matt: So we gonna put our, [00:00:13] Fawn: no matter what, [00:00:14] Matt: we're gonna put our college caps on today and talk about ethics. [00:00:16] Fawn: Yeah, we started a, w
Mon, August 15, 2022
The Ethical Dilemma
In philosophy, ethical dilemmas, also called ethical paradoxes or moral dilemmas, are situations in which an agent stands under two conflicting moral requirements, none of which overrides the other. A closely related definition characterizes ethical dilemmas as situations in which every available choice is wrong. We explore ethics and friendship and how ethics have shaped our society. Connect with Fawn and Matt: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/befriendlyworld/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FriendlyWorldPodcast Twitter: https://twitter.com/FriendleeBe LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fawn-anderson-5139431a6/ Website: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1529286185?mt=2&ls=1
Mon, August 08, 2022
The True Meaning of 'Martyr' and how it Affects Our Relationships
Fawn and Matt get into the etymology of the word MARTYR and figure out what it means within our various relationships within our culture and society. Martyr the original sense of it, which means feeling torn between two conflicting impulses. We explore that sense of conflict within our relationships: work friend vs your own private life friend. Can you truly be friends with someone that you work with within a total corporate environment? For example, another example of that without being corporate would be, that most cops are not friends with normal citizens. And then now that we have the world in so much upheaval, we have politics coming into it. Can we be friends with someone who is so politically agitated or so politically distraught or not even distraught, but just so political, as opposed to back in the day, we used just to be friends with everyone. There is the religious friend as opposed to the friend who is not of a particular religion. because there's that division and it very much centers around core beliefs. Another conflicting impulse would be people of the opposite sex. Can men and women truly be friends? And what if you're not of a particular identity? What if you're in a relationship as opposed to being single? Can people who are single truly be friends with someone who is in a committed relationship or a marriage? Can people who have children truly be friends completely with people who don't have children? When we became parents, this was such When you're dealing with such polarized sensitivities in our culture, right now, it is an issue. It is an issue because people have different sensibilities for different situations and you can't always gel, especially when the world seems like everything is a trigger. At the root of feeling and being a martyr is the feeling of being torn between two conflicting impulses. What's the whole idea of a martyr and how are we being martyrs these days within our relationships, within our society? How can we transform out of this state? Transcript - Martyr [00:00:00] Fawn: Welcome back. Are you guys there? Hello? Hello. Happy every day, no matter what's going on in the world, guys, [00:00:08] Matt: are we recording</sp
Mon, August 01, 2022
The Power of Music: How Gray Baldwin Uses Sound to Transform Lives
Music connects and touches us in ways we never thought possible. In this episode, you will learn: 1. How sound affects us physically and emotionally 2. The different ways music can be used as therapy 3. How our bodies react to different types of music When a music therapist specializing in LGBTQAI+ issues is asked about their work, they reveal the many ways music can be used to transform us, from the personal to the physical. "Music is simply a vibration. All sound is vibrations created by whatever and they vibrate at different rates and depending on how high or low the note is." Gray Baldwin is a music therapist with over 25 years of clinical experience working with children, teens, adults, and older adults in behavioral health, medical, and hospital settings, as well as in schools and community music therapy settings. They specialize in queer issues, identity development, acute and chronic pain, trauma, and stress, and teach courses on research, music therapy, medical settings, practicum, supervision, mindfulness, ethics, and culturally responsive practices at several universities and colleges. Resources: Resources: www.mainstreetmusictherapy.com gray.baldwin.mt@gmail.com https://www.thetrevorproject.org https://pflag.org https://gsanetwork.org https://www.glsen.org <span style
Mon, July 25, 2022
The Art of Identity and Understanding and Our LGBTQAI2S+ Family
We are joined by Gray Baldwin, MA, MT-BC as we discuss the importance of identity in our society. Gray explains the definitions of LGBTQAI2+ and we have a heart-to-heart talk about healing. If you are going through stuff, this episode is for you to know you are loved and that you are not alone. We are cosmic beings, we are infinite, complex, and simple at the same time, we have infinite possibilities within us, we are the universe kind of beings. We are of the light. We are divine. There's no way you can pinpoint a living being into one thing. We are complex and ever-evolving. And at the same time, I wonder just how important is identity? For me, I feel it's very important to identify my culture, who I am, my skin color, everything, and embrace that and embrace the beauty of that. I have to do that because I feel so discriminated against, that I have to fully embody what I identify with. In another world, in another kind of situation, I would say, why should I? I'm a human being. But at the same, the way I feel is “No, I'm a human being who is of this culture who is of this background.”And it's really important to stick up for where I come from and for who I am and to fully embody that. Resources: www.mainstreetmusictherapy.com gray.baldwin.mt@gmail.com https://www.thetrevorproject.org https://pflag.org <span style="color: #1155cc
Mon, July 18, 2022
Respect vs Kindness - The difference between the two and how to use both in friendship
Understanding what kindness actually is, as opposed to respect, means learning how we can use both of these things. And when we can use both of these things in our relationships. The word respect comes from the middle English from Latin respectus which means to look at, to regard. from R E, which means back. And then to that, you add S P E C E R E, which means to look at, so to look back on. The definition of respect is a relation or reference to a particular thing or a situation and an act of giving particular attention, consideration, like high or special regard, esteem, the quality or state of being esteemed; a positive feeling or action shown towards someone or something considered important or held in high esteem or regard. It conveys a sense of admiration for good or valuable qualities. Is respect earned or given? Respect is earned, not given suggests that if you want to be respected, you cannot force people to respect you just because you want them to. We aren't obliged to love or respect anyone just because they exist. It's like, You have to go through a series of things to, in a way earn that respect. Whereas kindness is not about earning it. Sometimes you have to be kind to the most hideous person, the most hideous acting person because that's what they need, because we all know that hurt people hurt. People that are in pain want to inflict pain on others. That's all they know. And maybe that's their way of being understood and being heard; when you feel my pain is when you're gonna feel what I'm going through. You will understand me better. It's really messed up, but I think that is unfortunately the way of things in our society. Let's really look at where it actually stems from this whole disrespect thing really starts the way we are raised as babies, the way that as soon as we're born, we have to be put into daycare the way that we just have to fend for ourselves the way we're told you're out by 18, 18, you're out, you better make your own money. You better be out of here. It's saying that you don't belong to the family, that you have to get the heck out. And I understand having a sense of responsibility and becoming independent, but that's a different issue from saying you need to get out. It's disrespectful. And we do it with the elders too. We, we put them in daycare. They're no longer part of the family. They're no longer under the same roof for different reasons. One is, you know, because the, the respect from generation to generation is not really considered, and there's no kindness in there, but there's really no respect. And so, yeah, even when we're not dealing with elders, we barely wa
Mon, July 11, 2022
True North - How to Find Deeper Connections
We all have a compass needle within us knowing the true north.The direction that points directly toward the geographic north pole. This is a fixed point on the Earth's globe. That is the definition of true north. Like a compass points toward a magnetic field, your personal true north directs your path and pulls you forward to your personal place of perfection. True north is an awareness of direction. It's a guidance, your orienting point, your fixed point in a spinning world that helps you stay on track. It's your internal compass unique to you and only you, representing who you are at your deepest level. True north is a sense of being at home within yourself. What feels good to you at your core is your true north. Are we guided by logic? Are we guided by reason? Are we guided by math; by some rationale that makes perfect sense on paper or are we guided by intuition and feeling? What if the logic and math don't make sense? What if intuition and spiritual guidance that you are asking for is silent? Like, you know, you could be spiritual, you could be religious, you could be whatever. Everyone asks, where am I supposed to go? What is happening? Do I turn right? Or do I turn left? Do I make this decision? Or this decision? What should I do? When you ask, you get that inner knowing of what to do, but what happens when you don't hear anything? It's like a deafening silence. It's a horrible feeling when you can't feel that guidance, when you don't hear or reply to your request. It leaves you with a feeling of being deeply alone. You can be surrounded by people. You can be in the midst of crowds, you know, and feel like you have friends and still feel this way. As we travel in various directions, we use discernment and knowing at our core to actualize our path in life, by tuning to this true north, we feel our power. We feel centered. And we are attuned to our surroundings and to our global cosmic family, which brings us to the art of friendship and true north. Physically being where you're supposed to be is just as important as being somewhere spiritually, being somewhere emotionally as you're true north. So finding the true north and the quest for deeper connection; connection with people, connection with where you're stepping, where you're walking on the earth, connection with the planet, connection with the universe; where are you in it?? How can we reconnect with that? How can we get to that place? For me also, going back to the art of friendship, true north is truly the connection to our global family. It's even more important right now to find your inner true north and connect with your true, true Norths, which are your, your family members that bring you comfort and bring you strength. And so this is the quest today; to find that deeper connection. <span style="fo
Mon, July 04, 2022
The Art of Comfort
The whole sense of comfort and having a friend who is your witness in life is that there is a treasure in when you and a friend are not on equal footing when they are not in the thick of things that you're in the midst of. There's a balance. This is a balancing gift. This is one of the many ways the action of comfort can really be felt. Sometimes when friends are not equal, one tends to assume, especially in the beginning when one friend may assume that you're weak or you don't know how to do something because you may not be in that exact state of mind to be showing your expertise. So then they take the role of “I know better” and they assume the role of mentor. And so these roles get established. As time goes on, you develop ways in which you can unfold in front of one another, and you can see your gifts and you can see as time goes on, that one person is strong one moment, the other person is weak and then it flips. It's the turning of the world. It's the rising and setting of the sun. It's the same way with our lives and our experiences and our friendships. Our relationships are like that. Oftentimes you get put in a situation where you're emotionally connected and you're not thinking through things clearly and logically and the other person, your friend can see more clearly, and while they're emotionally connected to you personally, they're not emotionally connected to your problem at the moment. So they can see things more objectively and you're more apt to listen to them because you do have the emotional connection to them so they can help dig you out of your hole. It's one of the few cases where logic can't get you out of a place that emotion has gotten you into. Sometimes it's enough to hit the pause button on your life for 15 minutes. And then jump back into it with a renewed sense and an understanding that the earth is still spinning around the sun. It's still spinning around the universe and everything. It's good to actually get back to that sense of perspective because sometimes it is just that the dishwasher broke where that seems like such an enormous ginormous unsolvable problem, but really, it's good to have somebody remind you that everything has a solution. This is where comfort comes in; how our friendships are a source of comfort. So let's get into the definition of comfort: from the 13th century, the meaning is to cheer up, console, soothe, to soothe when in grief or trouble; to help, to strengthen. The noun, which originated if you look at the etymology of it, circa 1200 is the feeling of relief in affliction or sorrow, solace, pleasure, and enjoyment. To solace is to help; to strengthen. And isn't that what we do for each other? From old English word in th
Mon, June 27, 2022
How to Tell What Kind of Friendship You have
There are three types of friends. There are those people who are friends with you because they get stuff from you. There are those people who are friends with you because of the way you make them feel. And there are the people who just love you. Okay. Those would be the three types of friends and obviously, we would love and if every single one of our friends was quote-unquote type three, who loves us, just cuz. So how do we figure this out? https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ https://www.facebook.com/FriendlyWorldPodcast https://www.instagram.com/befriendlyworld/ https://twitter.com/FriendleeBe https://www.linkedin.com/in/fawn-anderson-5139431a6/ How to Tell What Kind of Friend You Have - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Enjoying your coffee? [00:00:06] Matt: Maybe a little. [00:00:07] Fawn: Hi, good morning. Good morning over here, where we are right now. Good evening. Good afternoon. And hello everyone. How are you? What are you doing? What are you doing? What are you doing? Ah, welcome back everybody. So, how do you know, how do you know, what kind of friend you have, Matt?? [00:00:26] Matt: How do you know? Well, first, [00:00:28] Fawn: well, first of all, Matt always has a way to spot things out immediately. And then when you ask and then he'll like tell you the most messed up stuff about someone that you think, well, I think is okay, cause I have this Disney or Pollyanna version of the world. And then he'll whisper to me later. How this person is <s
Mon, June 20, 2022
The Art of Authenticity in Friendship - 4 Key Things to Notice
Did you know that our cells, (the cells in our bodies) create light? Science today is telling us that even our cells emit light when they perform their functions. Neurons in the brain and spinal nerves have been found to produce photons. Photons are tiny particles of light that influence our very atomic structure when they send impulses to each other. They're communicating through light! "The Energy Codes" by Dr. Sue Morter. A little quote that actually blends into what we're talking about today, about authenticity. A quote from the book: "The key to a fully empowered experience of life is embodying the energy that you are." When I read that to me, I get, to live fully, you have to be fully yourself. Don't hide. Don't try to edit yourself because you're afraid, afraid of not having this friend, or afraid of not having the job. Also, what is the difference between authentic and genuine? We discuss 4 keys to noticing the authenticity in yourself and others. https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ https://www.facebook.com/FriendlyWorldPodcast https://www.instagram.com/befriendlyworld/ https://twitter.com/FriendleeBe https://www.linkedin.com/in/fawn-anderson-5139431a6/ TRANSCRIPT The Art of Authenticity [00:00:00] Fawn: Welcome back. [00:00:01] Matt: Hello? [00:00:01] Fawn: Hello. How can I thank you for listening and come across in the way that I really feel in my heart. How do I do that? Would that not sounding authentic? How do I do that? <span style="font-size:larg
Mon, June 13, 2022
The Wabi-Sabi Friend, How to Appreciate Every Connection and Situation in Life
The Japanese aesthetic principle embraces the imperfect and impermanent nature of all things; recognizing beauty in the flawed, the incomplete, and the broken. Beauty can be found beneath the imperfect surface. (I repeat) Beauty can be found beneath the imperfect surface. Wabi-Sabi W A B I - S A B I Wabi-Sabi is the Japanese aesthetic principle that embraces the imperfect and impermanent nature of all things. Recognizing beauty in the flawed, the incomplete, and the broken; the beauty of imperfection, the beauty of quote-unquote imperfection, the understanding and appreciation, and respect for, or of the transience, the imperfection, as we see it and recognizing the beauty of it all. That's Wabi-Sabi. Wabi-sabi stems from the Buddhist understanding of three life principles. One is impermanence. Two is, suffering. Three is emptiness or absence, but the meaning over time has transformed into finding joy in solitude, appreciating nature, lauding, old-age wisdom, accepting that things come and go, and loving them honestly, and deeply while they last. Wabi-Sabi recognizes that nothing lasts forever. And so it is rare and beautiful. Some of the traits include modesty, subtle grace, acceptance, earthiness and peacefulness. We can find wabi-sabi and everything. We can find it in aesthetics like when things are not symmetrical when there's asymmetry happening, that's wabi-sabi. You can find wabi-sabi in poetry. Every word is chosen after careful consideration and carries multiple meanings and intentions. You can find wabi-sabi in pop culture when you are seeking the not so perfect. As we, take in wabi-sabi and friendship, let's first look at how to ground ourselves and appreciate our lives as they are; as is; the big dreams, the big plans for the future, and every worry. Appreciate where you are right now. How can we do that? How can you appreciate where you are. That's part of wabi-sabi. Stop worrying about being so perfect. It can block you. It can block you if you're trying to write a book. It blocks you in the art that you create. It blocks you from starting a brand new, beautiful journal when you are afraid to make one mark because you are seeking that perfection and you will end up not making any marks at all. And then if you do make all the perfect marks, does that really show your personality? Does that really show the feeling, the emotion of basically all the things that you need when you're creating art? Stop boring about being so perfect. It blocks you. Highlighting the importance of every moment, even the hardships. Accept things as they are, and as they come. Appreciate your life where it is now and work to
Mon, June 06, 2022
The Not So United States and the Voice of the Middle Ground - with guest Ruth Jefferson
The etymology of "Voice" is explored, plus...why we're so divided as a society, as a country, as a dot dot dot... (fill in the blank). Matt, talks about the techie side of things, how tech is responsible, how it contributed to the division that we're experiencing, and something he found out that is very interesting about the structure of our government that's led to this division, and Fawn's thoughts on why the division exists and how she thinks it's a tool to keep people disempowered. We turn to Ruth Jefferson from Voice of the Middle Ground and speak with her about the state of our society and discuss the art of building community and connections to build a better way. Transcript The Middle Ground [00:00:00] Fawn: Hi, welcome back everybody. Welcome to our friendly world. Hello? [00:00:04] Matt: Hello hello!. [00:00:06] Fawn: We're here. We have a new friend to introduce you to today. Yeah, we do. Before we get into introducing you to this beautiful new friend in your life, I was looking at etymology of certain words again, and I looked up the word voice; The sound made by the human mouth with, see, I don't like it when people or definitions always go to the human being. They don't think that other creatures on the planet have voice. [00:00:37] Matt: Right, right, right. Like my buddy growing up, they had a, they had a parrot that could mimic the mother's voice. [00:00:43] Fawn: Is this the racist parrot or the racist duck? There was a racist duck, [00:00:46] Matt: racist duck. And actually, uh, actually the parrot was racist too. <span style="color:#
Mon, May 30, 2022
Filling Your Cup by Allowing for Emptiness
This episode is on the art of the empty cup in many ways. We begin with the breath. So many times we're told to BREATHE! This may be advice that may be causing you more distress. The true way is to NOT TAKE the breath, but ALLOW the breath. This "allowing" works not only with the art of breath, but the art of friendship, and the art of life and creating a happy and fulfilling life. Baby Step - Allowing for Emptiness to Fill the Cup [00:00:00] Fawn: Welcome back to our friendly world. Hi everyone. Welcome back. Bonjour! Hello. Good morning. Good afternoon. Good evening. Remember we used to go through the whole spiel when we first started recording. Anyway. Hi everyone. Welcome back. We have a baby-step for you today, a short, quick one. You ready? A baby step towards a better friendship, a better society. Are you ready? Okay, it's funny. How, um, I'm just going to get into it. All right. Here it is. Are you ready? Ready? Ready? Here it is. Don't take the breath. Allow the breath. It's interesting. How things come? I was so turned off by the whole yoga world. I was teaching it. I was teaching yoga. I was so done with the environment and the white fragility, I saw that I just, I had to be away from that group, but yoga has been so coming back into my life and I know that I'm going to be teaching again on a massive scale. I've been getting these messages, this one, guess where the message came from. I'll just tell you. You'll never guess it. Well, first of all, I want to, okay. I'll tell you for us where it came from, it came from The Society of Children's Book Authors. They're called SC BWI society of children's book authors. There was an author that was speaking. Her name is Meg Fleming, so lovely. So she was saying that someone was telling her this. It was beautifully woven into the lesson of the day, talking about writing children's books, but that was the message. Don't take the breath, allow the breath. I'm going to get into that in just a second, but I want to say it's really interesting how artists and artists and by artists, I mean, I include the whole family painters, writers, singers musicians, photographers, you know, the whole crew. [00:02:10] Matt:
Mon, May 30, 2022
Filling Your Cup by Allowing for Emptiness -How to let go and feel good
This episode is on the art of the empty cup in many ways. We begin with the breath. So many times we're told to BREATHE! This may be advice that may be causing you more distress. The true way is to NOT TAKE the breath, but ALLOW the breath. This "allowing" works not only with the art of breath, but the art of friendship, and the art of life and creating a happy and fulfilling life. Baby Step - Allowing for Emptiness to Fill the Cup [00:00:00] Fawn: Welcome back to our friendly world. Hi everyone. Welcome back. Bonjour! Hello. Good morning. Good afternoon. Good evening. Remember we used to go through the whole spiel when we first started recording. Anyway. Hi everyone. Welcome back. We have a baby-step for you today, a short, quick one. You ready? A baby step towards a better friendship, a better society. Are you ready? Okay, it's funny. How, um, I'm just going to get into it. All right. Here it is. Are you ready? Ready? Ready? Here it is. Don't take the breath. Allow the breath. It's interesting. How things come? I was so turned off by the whole yoga world. I was teaching it. I was teaching yoga. I was so done with the environment and the white fragility, I saw that I just, I had to be away from that group, but yoga has been so coming back into my life and I know that I'm going to be teaching again on a massive scale. I've been getting these messages, this one, guess where the message came from. I'll just tell you. You'll never guess it. Well, first of all, I want to, okay. I'll tell you for us where it came from, it came from The Society of Children's Book Authors. They're called SC BWI society of children's book authors. There was an author that was speaking. Her name is Meg Fleming, so lovely. So she was saying that someone was telling her this. It was beautifully woven into the lesson of the day, talking about writing children's books, but that was the message. Don't take the breath, allow the breath. I'm going to get into that in just a second, but I want to say it's really interesting how artists and artists and by artists, I mean, I include the whole family painters, writers, singers musicians, photographers, you know, the whole crew. [00:02:10] Matt: Right. </s
Mon, May 23, 2022
The Art of Travel and Communication in Another Country - The French Connection, with Ray and Vanessa Brantley-Newton
We're all encoded with spectacular gifts, your fabulousness, your greatness translates wherever you go. The BEAUTIFUL Vanessa Brantley-Newton is back, this time with her BRILLIANT husband Ray! They join us from their vacation in Paris, France, and share their adventures, experiences, wisdom, and advice for life, travel, food, love, art, and how to respectfully and lovingly travel the earth. We love connecting with Vanessa and Ray. Join us as we discuss ways our fabulousness translates wherever we go. The world is a small town and it is so good to connect! How is it that even though we may not speak the same language, we can completely understand each other? Is it possible that we all have encoded something in our hearts that can translate for us and enable us to communicate, transcending words? Are there codes that we can access through sacred geometry in our bodies that when we assume a specific posture, can change the way we communicate and the way others are able to understand our inner nature? Vanessa Brantley-Newton on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessabrantleynewton/?hl=en https://www.vanessabrantleynewton.com/ Vanessa's Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SuMBHSZf32c Magasin Sennelier, the art store, the Louvre; store in New York called Pearl Paint, the original store on Canal Street, Maison Bossier https://www.magasinsennelier.art/en/ the Les Frenchies https://lesfrenchiestravel.com/ the power pose TRANSCRIPT – The French Connection With Vanessa and Ray [00:00:00]
Mon, May 16, 2022
The Gossipy Friend, how Twitter has destroyed our bond with one button; why friendship is so important and can save our society, especially right at this moment in time.
Sharing stories is the key to bonding. We explain the difference between sharing and telling a story. Then we get to the bad sharing which is another kind of storytelling/sharing (gossip) that destroys our bond, and we use Twitter as an example of how our society has lost the ability to connect. In this episode, we have a solution to bring us back together again. There is a way out of this. There is a way to have a better life, to have a beautiful society. And it's not as hard as you think. You don't have to figure out how to move mountains. You just have to sit in simplicity #Twitter, #gossip, #bonding, #connection, #storytelling, #misinformation, #crazy, #stupid, #the art of friendship, #land of Shinar, #The story of Babel, #Tower of Babel, #fragmentation, #confirmation bias, TRANSCRIPT The Gossipy Friend [00:00:00] Fawn: Yay for us. Hi everybody. Yay for us, meaning all of us together listening right now. Hi everyone. Guess what? I was partaking in a very boring conversation yesterday [00:00:15] Matt: was [00:00:15] Fawn: that with me? You were there, but you were not the reason for the boredom, but you were. I think we were all contributing to the boredom because neither side wanted to talk about anything. Because one side lives and believes radically different than ours. All this [00:00:32] Matt: would be yes, yes. The call [00:00:34] Fawn: with family [00:00:35] Matt: family. [00:00:36] Fawn: So as the conversation was being had on speakerphone and the whole family's at the table, I must admit that I was zoning out ( Matt exclaims sarcastically) and we are surrounded by boxes in our kitchen, at the moment, there was one box that was in front of me and it had in big, big letters "BELONG", like belong B E L O N G. And I started to play like, oh, what other words can I make out of belong? And so I realized with belong, you can create "ONE GLOBE". We all belong to one globe. So I was tripping out on that, the whole conversation; one global. Am I the only one tripping out on that? Isn't that great?!?! Anyway, [00:01:20] Matt: you know, actually, nevermind. [00:01:21] Fawn: No, go ahead. [00:01:22] Matt: Well, I wrote a computer program because that's what I do. And I programmed peoples, I programmed all of the house names of the house into it. And as it turns out, if I scramble up the letters in ALLEGRA, it actually spells like a genus of birds or something random. I mean, it's weird. Yeah, nobody else's full names came out to anything, but, [00:01:43] Fawn: but collectively our names come to "FAME". [00:01:46] Matt: Well, that's the first letter of each [00:01:48] Fawn: that's as complex as I can get. [00:01:50] Matt: I understand. Oh my God. I should get all the letters together. Scramble them up. [00:01:56] Fawn: Okay. Stop. So we digress. We have digressed even before we h
Mon, May 09, 2022
The Ikigai of Friendship - Moving to Everyday Meaning and Joy in Life
Let's look at the word, the concept, and the root of Ikigai, which is about giving everyday meaning and joy. Let's look at the Ikigai. The word Ikigai comes from Iki meaning, life and gai, meaning, value. Ikigai can be interpreted as the values in your life that make it worth living. We're going to talk about how that relates to work, in the corporate world, in the business world, and most importantly, how that works in our lives; with our friendships with our families, with the joy in life. This episode is about Ikigai, joy, happiness, life purpose, how we see the world, Who and What we love, how we make a difference, where we excel, passion, values, possibilities, gifts, the value in life, the art of finding true friendship, the art of friendship, and moving towards a meaningful life.
Mon, May 02, 2022
The Art of Ceremony and the Value of Ritual
Ceremony, what does it really mean? What is it? What is a daily ceremony? It's an intentional routine that's connected with how you start, how you move through, or how you end your day, the goal of ceremony is to be aware of time passing, but not to stress out about it;to observe it and notice that it counts. The little things in life, count. Why do we have ceremony? They make life's, essential moments. They may reflect our beliefs, hopes, our traditions, culture, and spirituality. It's a way to bring people together and provide a sense of belonging. A ritual is defined by psychologists as a predefined sequence of symbolic actions. Rituals make us less anxious. Ritualistic practices can help to bring a degree of predictability to an uncertain future. They convince our brains of constancy. It brings about a sense of predictability. TRANSCRIPT The Art of Ceremony [00:00:00] Fawn: Hi, welcome back. We've got a good one for you today. Folks. We've got a great one for you today. Folks. Welcome back everybody to our friendly world. Today we're talking ceremony and I have a whole thing I'm going to go through and Matt's probably going to get mad at me because that's what he does. He has his notes. I guarantee you I've become divergent. So I'm going to start first. And then Matt, you're just going to have to like flow with it. Here we go. The art of ceremony, ceremony as a work of art, I'm here to comfort you. We're here to comfort you, the opposite of people saying; I'm going to challenge you to something. So today I'm going to comfort you with something it's the opposite of, I'm going to challenge you to do something because we all have enough that we're challenged by. Thank you very much. We're challenged enough, taxed enough, overworked, overtired, overdone, We need comfort. There's so much out there that could seem so out of control. Like you have the feeling the sense that there's no rhyme or reason to anything that the world is crazy, if you look at it through the news, or if you listen to certain people. Life can seem out of control, like there's no sense to anything. For us, we just went through a ceremony of the end of life ceremony. Matt's mother passed away. And so I'm looking at Matt's dad and I got an email from your brother, basically saying, you know, this is what dad's been going through. Over the
Mon, April 25, 2022
The Ceremonies of Life and the Disappointed Friend
It was about the ceremony. It was about the experience. It was about the grief. It was about the, it was about my mom. It wasn't about these random people. I don't care really don't care. And honestly, don't care. So that's me, but just be careful with your words out there folks. Cause the problem is, is my dad said you are a disappointment, not that very disappointing or I'm disappointed that you're not coming. He said you are a disappointment. Because that's his attempt to define my entire being versus defining an action. So just be careful, be careful at work. I was told very early on by somebody who wasn't particularly wise, but God, he nailed this one. You never say, you know, Bad. You say the work you did today was bad because it's inherently different. You're not ascribing value to the person you're ascribing value to the work the person produces. It's entirely different. This episode is about the friends who are disappointed; the people you can't please, and how to follow your own guidance in life. TRANSCRIPT Fawn: I have things on my mind, and I don't want to lose it because yesterday I said, let's talk about this on the show with, with, with the outbursts that I have been having that I was holding in for a few days. So let's get going before I lose my nerve or just lose it, like whatever. I don't know. Um, all right. If you're about a quick, hello, you're bound to disappoint everybody at some point. So don't worry about. When people say they're disappointed in you, that disappointed friend, not only that today is not about the disappointing friend or, um, well, maybe disappointing friend that could be you. We're going to use ourselves as an example to talk about what we're talking about today to really convey the message out there that you're bound to disappoint others in life. Okay. It has very little to do with you is, is my understanding, because I'll tell you the whole thing and we're going to use ourselves as the example. Matt is leaning back and kind of bracing himself because it's mostly about him today. Um, bear with me. So it's not just the disappointed friend. It is the self-absorbed friends, the distraught friend, the born. Okay. I'm going to put this in quotes, "born of an older generation" friend, the "stuck in the old way" friend. Here we go. So, like I said, living life, living your authentic life, living, what you think is right for you and your immediate surroundings from your perspective, no one else can see your perspective, but you, so when you make decisions based on that, and it's not to say that you don't you're, uh, you're not <span style="f
Mon, April 18, 2022
The Art of the Compliment - Compliment vs Complement
How can a compliment open the doors to friendship or even save someone's life? We discuss in this episode of "The Art of the Compliment" as we understand the ways to establish joy, kindness, and sincerity and see how a compliment is an invitation to a beautiful friendship. What is the difference between COMPLIMENT and COMPLEMENT? We discuss this question and much more. TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: you complete me Hello? Hello. Hello. Welcome back. Are you ready for a very intense, not intense in a negative way, but an in depth topic, a topic I'm actually going to teach a course on [00:00:14] Matt: super serious. [00:00:16] Fawn: It's not super serious, but it has a lot of moving parts and it's quite deep actually. [00:00:22] Matt: Would you it more nuanced?. [00:00:23] Fawn: I don't like that word, but it's the art of the compliment. [00:00:32] Matt: Oh, dear. [00:00:32] Fawn: Much like when you come into our home and all of the different homes we've had since the big house we used to own that, you know, through the pitfalls of society, went to hell and ever since then, we've been so gunshy. Ugh, gunshy. We've been so resistant on owning property ever again because of what happened in the financial crisis some years ago, that is, seems to be happening again. But whatever, we've moved a lot since then, and it's never been a place that's been ours, it's been some rentals and some of them have been ugly, depressing, just ugly , gray. It started with the first apartment we had after we lost the house.<
Mon, April 11, 2022
The Art of Conversation and SEL (Social Emotional Learning)
We discuss the art of conversation as the basis for the art of friendship, as we share three main components for conversing (Invite Insight Incite). We explore social-emotional learning and how we can feel and dance together no matter how difficult the topic of conversation or the particular life situation we may be in. #conversation, #Invite, #Invitation, #Insight, #Incite, #TheArtofConversation, #Social-emotionalLearning, #Theartoffriendship, #ESL https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: Welcome back to our friendly world, everyone. [00:00:03] Matt: Hello [00:00:04] Fawn: Reflecting on the art of friendship, we are starting a conversation on the art of conversation. I'm gonna start with some definitions. First, obviously conversation. Let's look at that. It's a noun the use of speech for informal exchange of views, ideas or information simple. Right? [00:00:25] Matt: Sounds like it. [00:00:26] Fawn: Well, you know, I always try to have conversation, but you really have to get a feel for what's going on and you have to get a feel for what the person is going through and where they stand in life. Do they have a very strong core, a strong sense of self. I wanna say that previous generations didn't have that, or they didn't have that once they started experiencing a lot of other stresses, a lot of other things that would cause them to stretch, for example, having children or just, you know, Obviously with having children, it causes you to be thinking of other people and having your lives have this inter dance back and forth. I'm just talking about this be
Mon, April 04, 2022
A Kind World - Finding Freedom and Truth During a Tumultuous Time, with Barry Lane
Our Kindness expert, Barry Lane is back to remind us that "Kindness is Truth, Kindness is Freedom." Barry soothes our nerves with his sweet songs (two new songs as we record live in Barry's studio - the second song is way at the end, so make sure you catch it) and words of wisdom as we navigate a possible WWIII, Civil War, life... and shows us HOPE and reminds us that everything is going to be OK. There are two new songs as we record live in Barry's studio - the second song is way at the end, so make sure you catch it. Barry: https://forcefieldforgood.com/ Barry's book: https://www.amazon.com/Force-Field-Barry-Colleen-Mestdagh/dp/1931492298/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1491102856&sr=8-1&keywords=force+field+for+good+barry+lane Transcript [00:00:00] Matt: Um, yeah. So how am I doing well? Um, yeah, um, challenging, um, to be honest, uh, [00:00:08] Barry: what's going on? [00:00:09] Matt: Yeah... So my mom right now is in hospice, so she's transitioning and I'm not dealing with it. Well, So an episode on kindness is going to be especially kind of challenging for me. Um, one of my favorite shows, which shouldn't be one of my favorite shows, but it is; it's "After Life" with Ricky Gervais , which is about a man who loses his wife and is falling over the whole time. And the only time he cries um, in the show, cause he's, he's, he's a, he's just an ass to everyone. Like he has so much hate and so much rage and so much, and he just doesn't care anymore. And he's like, and he starts crying and they're like, oh, don't cry. He's like, it's not the world I have a problem with it's kindness I can't handle. [00:00:56] Barry: That's interesting. [00:00:57]</spa
Mon, March 28, 2022
Colors - How We Perceive Colors in Life and Color Translates In Our Connections with Each Other
Flowers evolve to be attractive to bees so that they can pollinate and they can reproduce themselves, which is if there's a lot of competition in the flower world, this is why you have such stunning orchids. It's because there's so much competition for bees because they can only pollinate so much in a day; the brighter and more colorful flowers attract the bees. But where did the perception of color come from and why is there such angst about color in our conversation and our lives? https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: Color is a wild thing. It comes up a lot. It's very complicated. Yes. We're recording, honey. I I've always been confused by it in photography terms because each color has a certain temperature and it's so scientific. Why are I have so many questions? And we have so many topics I wanted to discuss today, but I'll try to stick it to one. Stick to one thing, not stick sticking to one thing, but I don't know, is this what started our color conversation? I was telling you about this person that I really like his artwork. I really like on Instagram and I usually don't follow or want to buy paintings. You know, I don't even hang up our own artwork because be cause I feel like there's so much information and there's so much loudness happening, not loudness as in aesthetics, but loudness as an information and talking that's happening. I feel like the furniture talks to me. I feel like when there's art or a photograph, well, photograph is art, but when there's something on the wall, it's constantly communicating with you and I need some quiet, right. Because I'm already; bear with me folks, but I already feel like even just sitting, I feel like I'm hearing and understanding, or at least taking part in whatever is happening in the world, I'm hearing it. You know what I mean? Does that sound totally off the wall? I don't want to sound too. Woo. [00:01:40] Matt: You know, for me as a individual, I don't like wearing logos. I don't like wearing logos on my shirts. I don't like wearing logos on my jackets. I don't like wearing, you know, let alone a band name on it. <span
Mon, March 21, 2022
Social Penetration Theory - Outlining the Stages and Layers of Friendship
Social penetration was theorized in the seventies by two sociologists trying to figure out how people become friends and attempting to categorize different kinds of classifications of friends. We break down five stages of friendship today to better understand our relationships. #ErwinAltman, #universityofUtah, #DolmasTaylor, #universityofDelaware, #socialpenetrationtheory, #sociology, #orientationphase, #affectversuseffect, #deepfriendships, #relationships, #stablestage, #de-penetrationstage, #conceptofself, #society, #friendship, #spiritualconnection, #socialmedia, #zoom, #exploratoryaffective, #socialexchangetheory, #successproposition, #costsandrewardsofrelationships, #Aristotle'sNicomacheanethics, #cottoncandyfriends Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: Here we go. Here we go. Here we go. Hi everybody. Welcome back. Hello. Welcome to our friendly world. Have a beautiful every day. Are you having a beautiful day, a beautiful evening. Beautiful afternoon. Um, do it. Hi everyone. So Matt, Matt's going to kick it off today with a horrible, horrible, nasty title. [00:00:26] Matt: Thanks for that [00:00:27] Fawn: I mean, you didn't make it up, but go figure the patriarchy did, right? From the what? 1950s, seventies, 1970s. Same difference. [00:00:37] Matt: Seventies was a very different time than the fifties. [00:00:39] Fawn: So who are these guys? Erwin Altman of the university of Utah. And Dolmas Taylor of the university of Delaware. We have no idea how these guys knew each other. Were they friends? I don't know. Do you know? Absolutely. [00:00:53] Matt: But they were researchers. Yes. </
Mon, March 14, 2022
The Quiet Friend - Speaking Up in Defense of Others or Having Our heads in the Sand?
When is it OK to be quiet? When someone is hurting, is it OK to be quiet? When you know there is injustice, do you go about your day and just focus on yourself? If you lived in Europe before WWII and you noticed your friends and neighbors disappearing, would you go about your business and think, "Oh well, I am going to focus on my own breath and well-being and that is the outside world I have no control of"????? In our previous episode, our guest kept saying that we are not responsible for the world and that we are only responsible for ourselves. I TOTALLY DISAGREE. Although I know it is essential for a person to be well centered and strong in order to help others, I feel that we are interconnected and that we are here in life, together, and even if it is through some unseen force, I am here to help and provide comfort and support for all of life. Our talk today comes out of the last episode we did with Sharon Caren. I got really quiet. for those of you who know me, well, I usually will just state my opinion, and stand up for stuff. But out of respect for Sharon, I got quiet because I also felt like maybe I was being misunderstood and as I was feeling more and more upset, I got quieter because I did not want to fight with our guest. I respect her and I think she is a wonderful healer. I just did not like that I got quiet and that I did not speak up (although I did try). This episode is my chance to discuss the ramifications of quiet as well as the good ways of quiet as we use the beautiful children's picture book by Deborah Underwood (Author), Renata Liwska (Illustrator), to steer our conversation about this topic. I introduce you to The Quiet Friend". Please email me and let me know your point of view. https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/contact/ Transcript [00:00:00] Matt: It was running the whole time, this little stopwatch, that we keep track of how long the show runs. And I had it on yesterday cause I was on the exercise bike and but it was running. And so when I took a look at it this morning, it was still
Mon, March 07, 2022
The Inside Job with guest Sharen Caren
What would you love in life? What would you love? Isn't that a beautiful question to ask yourself, to ask your friends to ask people out there, what would you love? how do we raise our sense of wellbeing? How can we go from a fearful thought to, a blissful thought? When there's some crap in front of you, how can you switch that situation around? How can we do that? How can we go from fear-based to total bliss? How do you do that? Today we're going to get into how to have clarity and power in life, by first asking the question: "What would you love?" things that you can't see, just because you can't see them doesn't mean they don't exist. In this episode with spiritual coach, Sharen Caren, we discuss the importance of the inside job and the unseen force we focus on today is the Akashic records. We're going to talk about Meridian systems within our bodies that are not just within our bodies. To reach out to Sharon and receive a free chart: https://www.sharoncaren.com/ To support our show and hear about get-togethers with friends (sign up to email and support our show with coffee: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: What would you love? What would you love? Hi, everybody. Welcome. Welcome back. Welcome to our friendly world. There's a special treat for you today. There's a special treat for you every day, let me just say this phrase that came from our friend, Sharon, who you're going to meet in just a couple minutes. One of the first things I remember her saying to me was this question that she posed to me and the way she asked it with such caring was "What would you love?" What would you love? Matt? What would you love in life? What would you love? Isn't that a beautiful question t
Mon, March 07, 2022
The Inside Job with guest Sharon Caren
What would you love in life? What would you love? Isn't that a beautiful question to ask yourself, to ask your friends to ask people out there, what would you love? how do we raise our sense of wellbeing? How can we go from a fearful thought to, a blissful thought? When there's some crap in front of you, how can you switch that situation around? How can we do that? How can we go from fear-based to total bliss? How do you do that? Today we're going to get into how to have clarity and power in life, by first asking the question: "What would you love?" things that you can't see, just because you can't see them doesn't mean they don't exist. In this episode with spiritual coach, Sharen Caren, we discuss the importance of the inside job and the unseen force we focus on today is the Akashic records. We're going to talk about Meridian systems within our bodies that are not just within our bodies. To reach out to Sharon and receive a free chart: https://www.sharoncaren.com/ To support our show and hear about get-togethers with friends (sign up to email and support our show with coffee: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: What would you love? What would you love? Hi, everybody. Welcome. Welcome back. Welcome to our friendly world. There's a special treat for you today. There's a special treat for you every day, let me just say this phrase that came from our friend, Sharon, who you're going to meet in just a couple minutes. One of the first things I remember her saying to me was this question that she posed to me and the way she asked it with such caring was "What would you love?" What would you love? Matt? What would you love in life? What would you love? Isn't that a beautiful question to ask yourself, to ask your friends to ask people out
Sun, February 27, 2022
Galvanized - How Our Friendships and Thoughts Change the World
This is an URGENT message for today! Let's change what is happening right now! The world is a safe place, you guys (I KNOW, I KNOW... lately it feels and looks like it's the end of days. It's scary), but there's more to it. The world is also a loving, friendly place. The world is a small town and everyone is your friend. And there are all kinds of friends, each one with various amounts of capacities and areas of focused abilities and ways about them. In this episode, we provide a key to changing the world. We talk about how one man can create chaos and make millions of people experience terror. We talk about how one person also has the power to make everything GREAT! That one person is you. That one person is us. We talk about Nikola Tesla and remind each other of how truly powerful we are and how we can TOTALLY change the world in the midst of terrible things happening. We've been doing different episodes, "The Quiet Friend", "The Weird Friend", all the different types of friends. Right. And they weave in and out in all directions. If you step away (or up) far away enough in your awareness of the world, you may notice how it's interwoven everything really is. #Galvanized, #Electric, #powerful, #light, #spark, #change, #electromagnetic, #hotstuff, #ignition, #theworldisasafeplace, #akindworld, #afriendlyworld, #ourfriendlyworldwithfawnandmatt, #betterstrongertogether Tune in to this episode and also to a previous episode when you are done, and you can hear a great reminder from our friend Rachel Chevalier. to contact Fawn and Matt: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/contact/ to support our show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace previous episode from last March: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/unseen-forces-w-special-guest-rachel-chevalier/ Galvanized Transcript <span st
Mon, February 21, 2022
Friendly Step #3 - Maintaining the Friendship
Step three! DON'T WAIT! A quick 15-minute talk on what to do to maintain a friendship. Remember to go to https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ to let us know about your progress and support our show with a cup of coffee: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/support/ Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello, everybody. Welcome to our friendly world. Hello. Good morning. We haven't done this in a long time. Remember we used to actually introduce ourselves. Hello. Good morning. Good evening. Good afternoon. Good day. Good. Every day. I am Fawn [00:00:15] Matt: and Matt. [00:00:16] Fawn: Hello? [00:00:17] Matt: Hello. It's kind of strange. We're actually not recording from our kitchen today. [00:00:21] Fawn: Why didn't you have to say that? [00:00:24] Matt: I can tell the vibe is [00:00:25] Fawn: different, so maybe we should go back to the kitchen. So we're on the couch right now, because for some reason I have been so beyond tired and before we went into the kitchen to record, I was just joking. I'm like, let's just do it right here on the couch. And then I walk away for a few seconds and then, viola! . The setup is on the couch. And then you got mad at me when I said, no, you said, how, how am I supposed to know? You said the couch. So I set up the couch,
Mon, February 14, 2022
Gaslighting in America - That No-Good Friend with special guest Emily Powell Gilliam
This episode came about as our friend Emily was "Goodwill Hunting" and our conversation that began on Gaslighting in America. We laugh and we get scared and we ultimately feel empowered to live a good life, one in which we support each other and are mentally, physically, and socially healthy and good and we laugh again. Join this conversation about gaslighting, existential guilt crisis, how to deal with gaslighting at work and with friends and family, and also poop emojis. You will LOVE your new friend Emily Powell Gilliam! Emily Powell Gilliam is a designer of play objects and founder of Why & Wiser , creating artful games and gifts for clever kiddos and their grownups. To reach Emily: http://www.epgdesign.co/ http://www.whyandwiser.com/ https://www.instagram.com/epgdesignco/ Transcript [00:00:00] Emily: I had lots of ways of dealing with her. And for four years that was enough. And then, you know, I S I just like, it wore me down and my own, like physical, well, mental first health, and then physical health, just like, you know, went over a cliff, like, and told that if I wanted to be considered for promotion, I needed to work on being softer, use shorter words, be less aggressive. And that I intimidated the owner basically like be more female. [00:00:47] Matt: See that that's weird because , when you were describing it, I was like, oh my God, where are you coming across as, too passive? And that's why they didn't consider you for a manager because they didn't see you as a manager type, but they just saw you as a rabble rouser, and a troublemaker, but then why not just, can you, I mean, it's, it's a weird thing. [00:01:04] Emily: Well, if they canned me, they would have to pay unemployement. and my twin, is far less straightforward as a person because I'm not, [00:01:14] Matt:</
Mon, February 07, 2022
Friendly Steps Towards a Friendly Society - Wings of Desire
Here is a quick episode of another fun technique to make the world better! Contact us! Let's talk! We want to talk! https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/contact/ Also, COFFEE for Fawn and Matt??? https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace TRANSCRIPT _ Friendly Steps 2 Wings of Desire [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello. Hello. Again, welcome to our friendly world, everybody. So you know how we're now doing little sprinkles here and there of baby steps I just wanted to add something new to our show. Sprinkled in between the long shows, I want to do these baby steps I'm calling them friendly steps. I may change the name. If you have something better, let me know. But if you put them all together, we're going to take baby steps together. And if you put them all together, I believe this is my version. Now I'm not a big PhD person. These are all my own thoughts as a photographer when I've had time alone, when I've been noticing throughout my life, things that happen. People's behaviors. I'm not affected by the Brenee Browns out there, which I respect, but these are all my thoughts. And so I want to introduce you to all the ways I think we can create a utopian type of society; one, where it's truly a friendly world and things that I tried, things that I have, that I would tell you about that we would call nuggets of wisdom from Santa Monica, from my mentor, from. From the friends in the neighborhood. These are all the lessons. So now what I want to do is do the steps, friendly steps. They're like little baby steps and don't worry. They're all fun. They're all meant to give you a spark of joy, inspired by a divine spark in you and the universe. There's no way that you can miss a step. It's just fun, little things to do. You don't have to do any of them in order. They're just little sparks of inspiration that will give you a chuckle and hopefully make other people feel good. So today's baby step today's friendly step is this. The first part of it is I want you to, do something, That I think came out of the 1980s. I don't remember. It's one of my favorite movies. I haven't watched it in a very long time. I've
Mon, January 31, 2022
The Surrogate Friend
What are we substituting in place of real friendship? How is this changing our society? Are we able to notice the spells that are cast in our lives and how they change our friendships? What are these spells? This is our conversation today. Your experience matters to us. Please contact us and talk to us... https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ and perhaps donate a cup of coffee to support our show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace The Surrogate Friend – TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: I don't know if I ever showed you this, but there was a vegan cooking show done. Uh, very, I don't know. Is there such a thing as a goth heavy metal guy, [00:00:10] Matt: that there was no goth heavy metal, oh dear. [00:00:13] Fawn: He was very underground, scary sounding. He sounded like a demond, [00:00:17] Matt: right. But that's not goth. That's like when you start getting. into like, I don't know, extreme death or [00:00:23] Fawn: he was like that [00:00:24] Matt: or all the stuff I don't listen to. Cause folks, I love clean vocals makes me a bad person. Then that makes me a bad person. [00:00:31] Fawn: Did
Mon, January 24, 2022
Friendly Steps Towards A Better Society - 1 Brand New Day
We're going to try something new and once in a while, there will be these short bursts of episodes, each one a task we'll complete to make our world better. Please reach out to us and talk to us: https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/contact/ Coffee for Fawn and Matt: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcripts - Friendly Steps 1 Brand New Day [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello. Welcome. Welcome, welcome to our friendly world everybody. I have something new. We're going to try something new and once in a while these will be like short bursts of episodes, but there'll be a really powerful, are you ready for my idea? No, don't be scared. They're like, so I wouldn't call them, we know we had, before we had friendly reminders, we'll still have them sprinkled around but friendly reminders came from Santa Monica. They were, we called them nuggets of wisdom. They came from the friends in the neighborhood. So I want to try something, I'm going to call friendly steps. We may change the name. I'm not sure, but they're like baby steps and it's not like, step one, step two, step three., You have to go in order, anything like that. They're just baby steps to get our society going to that beautiful little utopia that we envision. Do you know what I mean? Anyway, baby steps. And today I want to start with a brand new day because it just, this is something that's bothered me ever since I can remember. How people completely go wild on new year's Eve midnight, the stroke of midnight. They start cursing the year that is about to end and saying, Ooh, brand new year. Welcome. Love you and cursing the one that's just leaving. Right? Inevitably, it just feels like every party I've gone to, every show I've seen late at night, midnight watching our society ring in the new year. They do that. And it always horrifies me that, oh my God. Just, if you can think of it as a second ago, like a year ago, just a second ago, you were saying the same thing about this year that you're now cursing goodbye, right? Like it was horrible. I hate you. Bye. Get outta here, you know, in fact not, and not respecting it
Mon, January 17, 2022
Making, Baking, and Breaking Bread Together - The Gata, with Joseph Krikorian
This is a longer show for a reason. We begin before Joey shows up by expressing some emotional stress and turmoil that happened to us this past week from fires to blizzards, to another case of Fawn experiencing some more racism, yet another mass shooting in Colorado, to all the other stuff. We talk about how important it is to clear the air before we meet our friends, before a ceremonial time together. So we do this before Joey shows up. When Joey shows up, we discuss the importance of ceremony, the importance of learning and respecting each other's cultures and history, Star Wars, why pronunciation is such a trigger, and then we continue talking as we make, bake, and break the Gata Bread. Just press pause when you need to and come back and make sure you hear all of this episode (where you'll learn to make the most amazing ancient dessert) and make sure you are present for the last 30 minutes as we come to a very special understanding about get-togethers in life. Some Links: If you would like to support our show by buying us a coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace To reach Joey: Kryptontoalderaan@gmail.com. https://www.instagram.com/kryptontoalderaan/ https://linktr.ee/kryptontoalderaan https://twitter.com/kryptonalderaan To reach Andrew Janjigian Pictures and recipe for Gata – Thank you, Andrew Janjigian https://www.seriouseats.com/gata-5185123 Preshow therapy Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: Our sweet friend, Joey is coming here soon in like a few minutes. And one of the things we always talk about is the art of being a good host. I feel like I needed to talk with you all before Joey comes. So before a friend comes, have you ever experienced this? When you've had a hard time with something, it could be anything, but you're having a hard time meaning that maybe you're not in the best mood and that you need to process something first before you open up the doors and go, hi. Yay. Our friend is here. Right. [00:00:38] Matt: So no, and I get that, but you know, being raised in a more Germanic household, we just compartmentalize, <span style="font-size:la
Bonus · Mon, January 10, 2022
After the Show Conversation with Joey Krikorian
Join us for more conversation with our friend Joey as we get more relaxed and talk about Star Wars, pasta, geology, music, Armenia, and our next episode together and all the things we did not get a chance to talk about (about the root of why things happen the way they do). To contribute to our podcast, you can buy us "a cup of coffee" by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) here: buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcript [00:00:00] Matt: And just because this could be interesting, but yes, I want to talk about man and his sense of smell, but that's going to be handled in the next show, which is great. I also wanted to talk about, you know, there is a tradition, an Italian tradition as far as like, um, you know, pasta comes from the far east and the Italians have quote-unquote made it their own so that the, and during the Roman empire, they grabbed spices from everywhere they could grab it from the spice road, for instance, I mean, God, that that's a culture addicted to spice, right? Yeah. Also Joey. I wanted to mention something very interesting. There is a book it's actually two books, the graphic novels it's called "Maus", M A U S [00:00:43] Joey: a hundred percent. [00:00:44] Matt: He actually talks about how his father didn't want to tell his stories. And he actually gets an explanation from his father and then his father completely changes his tune, but very, very powerful series of books. [00:00:57] Joey: I think I want to say something to the first point you've made, which is that I should've said this one thing my Armenian grandfather always did as much as we didn't talk about anything else related to Armenia, anything, anything in the world he would point to and say, Armenians invented that, or that was Armenian pasta, grape leaves. I don't know any, anything, anywhere. That was his go-to thing. And it's like something, it was just part of my.
Mon, January 03, 2022
The Root of the Matter with Joseph Krikorian
to contribute to our podcast, you can buy us "a cup of coffee" by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) here: buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace We welcome our friend Joseph Krikorian as we explore the Armenian culture and history. We're going to begin the root of the matter as we delve into coming from somewhere else and the ways of having to make our way in the world, all the while, carrying with us, all the emotions, the history, our stories, and our mapping out and figuring out a brave new one, a brave new world that is. Sometimes this is hard to do, especially with the trail of the people who came before us. Like our ancestors, grandparents, great-grandparents sometimes even parents, who may not have the stories or they do have the stories, but they're not passed down to us; all the why's, the how's and when's like, why did this happen? Not even knowing that we should be asking these questions because we have no idea, what happened in the past. What makes someone behave the way they do? What makes our household our home, have a certain vibe, or like a certain history? to reach Joey: https://kryptontoalderaan.podbean.com/ Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: Are we ever going to get a new table? I feel like I got this table for us and I said, we'll have it forever, honey. But we're sitting, we got forever tables in the other room. Well, times were really tough and every dollar counted. And once we started to start to begin to get back on our feet, I saw it as a toddler picnic table. I'm like, honey, we have to get it with an umbrella with an umbrella and chairs. And it was like under a hundred dollars, but that was like to us a thousand dollars. And we got it. And to this day we're still sitting and the kids are now taller than I am. And we're still sitting at the [00:00:41] Joey: yeah, no, I'm looking at the perspective of Matt sitting at my knee. Right? <span style="color
Mon, December 27, 2021
The Art of the Map with the Magical Cartographers
Today's topic is turning to friends for direction as we introduce you to 4 new friends-The Magical Cartographers (Ish, KJ, Jocelyn, and Mel). Today's art of friendship is the art of the map. Inside of each person is a map. It is there even before we are born, a way to get the full picture of the full landscape is to share what is contained in our hearts because it is our hearts that hold the latent image. Side note: If you would like to support our show: buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello, everybody. Welcome to our friendly world. Today's topic is turning to friends for direction. Today's art of friendship is the art of the map. Inside of each person is a map. It is there even before we are born, a way to get the full picture of the full landscape is to share what is contained in our hearts, because it is our hearts that hold the latent image. Now latent image. That's my photography term. It's the image held within the silver emulsion that comes to light during the process. So to get that latent image to come to life, we share our stories and our ways. How do we course and navigate the geography and terrain of our lives during a time of change, turbulence, shakeups, and movement, while looking for our original family members? The art of the map is mapping out ways to have lasting friendships; the friendship that has existed in an out of time. Imagine if you will a map you could only feel -a blueprint. What if, while we are here, we actually are surrounded by our spirit family and to find them, we would have to unravel all the signs and the coincidences to realize the hidden codes that are there. That have always been there that reveal our friendship, our family alliance. And to do that, we have to have gumption; the bravery to stop everything when you notice a spark and say, hold it right there; asking an opening question, saying, I want to connect with you. It's about asking and opening ourselves up to the mystery of us. So we were talking about maps, Matt and I have always had a love of maps. Matt, you were saying maps are very psychic, right? You were saying that a map gives you direction. It shows where you are and where you want to go. It's very comforting to kno
Mon, December 20, 2021
The Art of the Story -
We're talking about the art of the story and how stories shape our lives. Does every story really come down to the two basic plotlines of a stranger comes to rides into town and/or someone goes on a journey? Bottom line is that we are the directors of our own stories (our own lives) and we can create any story we wish. if you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcript - The Art of the Story [00:00:00] Fawn: Stop it. Are you serious? Hello? No. So you're saying no. What about Legally Blonde? [00:00:06] Matt: She takes trip. [00:00:08] Fawn: Damn she does. She does. She does. Ah, all right. How about Love Actually? [00:00:15] Matt: See, that's too many stories. You got to pick a story. [00:00:17] Fawn: All right. [00:00:20] Matt: I don't know. Trying to grade a novel. Right dude, one guy does take a trip. He goes to Portugal. [00:00:29] Fawn: I hate that. You're right. Okay guys. So what we're talking about, uh, Matt and I have been talking about stories and how every story comes to. One, one thing, like one, what do you call it? What even call it? [00:00:45] Matt: Two basic plots. <
Mon, December 13, 2021
Perceiving Together and Overcoming Adversity with our Friend Vanessa Brantley-Newton
With our friend and author/illustrator/singer/all-around artist extraordinaire, Vanessa Brantley-Newton, we discuss Perceiving together (also the meaning of Synesthesia), and overcoming adversity is the topic. We discuss thriving in life and building a toolbox for overcoming anything in life. We get into the concept of HOW WE ARE SEEN vs SHOWING PEOPLE WHO WE ARE. And of course, we get into the etymology of today's topic: OVERCOME . If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace To reach Vanessa or learn more about her work: https://www.vanessabrantleynewton.com/ https://www.instagram.com/vanessabrantleynewton/ Transcript:Perceiving Together and Overcoming Adversity with Our Friend Vanessa Brantley-Newton [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello everyone. Welcome. Hello? Hello. Hi. We are here today with our beautiful friend, Vanessa Brantley Newton. She's here with us.Hi Vanessa. Thank you for coming back. [00:00:16] Vanessa: Thank you for having me back Excited to be here with you. All [00:00:20] Fawn: today's topic is perceiving together and overcoming adversity, and there's so much to say there's so many ways we can go with this. I just wanted to talk about my tantrum that I had a few days ago. So Vanessa, I either have major tantrums by myself in the bathroom or the greatest epiphany's in the bathroom. I don't know what it is. It's my conference room. It's my place of worship in a way, like I just get messages in the bathroom or I send messages And a few days ago, I was so, um, I don't even know the word for it. I was just having a tantrum. I was so frustrated. And afterwards I was so embarrassed. Cause I was, I was yelling all kinds of profanity to myself and I come out of the shower and you all were quiet.</sp
Mon, December 06, 2021
The Art of Creating a Loving and Beautiful World with Vanessa Brantley-Newton
the art of friendship; we've talked about the different kinds of friends, the art of friendship, people along the way who changed the direction of our path, our understanding of life, the trajectory of our heart. It happens in different ways. It could be good or bad. I'm really mostly talking about the good. We've talked about this on other episodes. For example, one of my favorite episodes that we did was the one on "The Weird Friend". remember Matt. That's where through the etymology and from our own personal experience, we understood the original and true meaning of the word weird, which meant, or means fate chance, fortune destiny, like totally magical. There are so many different kinds of friends. Some friends are people who meet us on the path for a few seconds. I think all meetings, the chance ones, the split-second ones, the long relationship ones, the quick glance ones are all pre-planned meetings. Have you ever had a friend or been in the presence of a person who weaves magic all around? Have you ever had that friend with mountain-moving words; with such elegance and style, with great command, with powerful ways of seeing, with the kind of insight that seems to wave a magic wand, and you feel immediately transformed, gifted, alive, and fully embodied by love. Have you ever had that enlightened friend, the great friend, the friend who makes you cry with joy and inspiration and hope, maybe it's been eons since you felt this way or met this kind of friend? Maybe you've been hurt by foolish people, foolish people, and it hurt you so bad that you told yourself. I will never let myself be exposed to that kind of hurt ever again. So you told yourself that such a friend, such a great friend doesn't even exist. So you close yourself off and you just live a certain way; not even looking for that. Maybe you haven't met this kind of great friend yet. Well, now you will or will again. Matt and I have the best friend to introduce you to (Vanessa Brantley-Newton). https://www.vanessabrantleynewton.com/ https://www.instagram.com/vanessabrantleynewton/ If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcript <span style="
Mon, November 29, 2021
Eudaimonia
Eudaimonia is a Greek word, literally translating to the state or condition of good spirit which is commonly translated as happiness or welfare. The closest English word is probably flourish; the word flourishing. Aristotle used it as a broad concept to describe the highest good humans could strive toward or having a life of flourishment. What does it mean to have a virtuous life? How does genius and creativity come into this topic? If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: Hi everybody. Hello? Eudaimonia it sounds like, let me say it again. Eudaimonia, [00:00:09] Matt: but it's one word. [00:00:10] Fawn: It's one word. Eudaimonia it sounds like you'd a man. You da man [00:00:15] Matt: or the money [00:00:16] Fawn: or, there's another pronunciation. Eudaimonia so we have another Greek word for you today, guys. It's eudaimonia. And Aristotle is joining us today. Again, as much as we can channel Aristotle, our friend to the art of friendship. All right. Eudaimonia is a Greek word, literally translating to the state or condition of good spirit which is commonly translated as happiness or welfare. Okay. The closest English word is probably flourish; the word flourishing. Aristotle used it as a broad concept to describe the highest good humans could strive [00:01:00] toward or having a life of flourishment; a state of wellbeing is what it is. An example of eudaimonia was like it was achieved through being virtuous; living a virtuous life, [00:01:16] <span style=
Mon, November 22, 2021
The Awkward Friend
We analyze the true definition of awkward and Fawn explains her own awkwardness, then Matt does also, and then we talk about the geniuses in history who were considered to be awkward and discuss the brilliance and sadness of Turing and how our society can be so cruel to such brilliant people. If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace [00:00:00] Fawn: Awkward awkward, awkward, awkward. Hello. Good morning everybody. Good afternoon. Good evening. Hello everyone around the world our beautiful friends. We're talking about awkward today, looking at awkward old Norse, it means turn the wrong way. Middle English, means, backwards perverse clumsy prefers. Yeah. So you add the old Norris with the English to the middle English and you have awkward meaning the wrong way round the wrong way round, upside down. And so let's look at the suffix. Ward W A R D, the English suffix, denoting, spatial, or temporal direction as specified by the initial element. So the elements like toward, seaward, seaward, yes, afterward, [00:01:00] backward. So again, the definition of awkward: in the wrong direction,turned the wrong way. In the 1530s, that's when it started to mean the wrong way. Here are some definitions: perverse; the archaic means, unfavorable, adverse, adverse. Um, how do you say that adverse or adverse? I think there are two different meanings lacking dexterity or skill as in the use of the hands; lacking social grace and assurance. For example, there's a newcomer, right? They don't know, [00:01:36] Matt: they don't know your mores, your social mores. [00:01:38] Fawn: Right. And that's where I want to talk about it. Cause that's usually me. Lacking ease or grace as a moment or expression lacking the right proportions size or harmony of parts. Not easy to handle or deal with requiring great skill ingenuity or care. And then [00:02:00] looking in the definition of ward, W A R D; cause we were fighting about this I'm like, I don't think it means what you think it means. And we were actually looking at the noun definition and the verb. So the noun and the verb, th
Mon, November 15, 2021
The Weird Friend
Weird is not what you think it is. The word "weird" is normally defined as strange peculiar disturbingly, different, or odd, right? No, this is not what this is. This episode is about the real meaning of "weird" and the power to control destiny, and the people that are our destiny and what becomes a magical fate. We get into history and mythology and discuss "Weird Sisters", The NORNS, the three fates, the goddesses who controlled human destiny. Who is in your life? who are these people? And are they an external force? Are they an internal force? Are they people that you meet along the way? Are they your friends? How does, how is your fate tied up in friendship? How does destiny work in this realm? If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace The Weird Friend - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: hello. Hi everybody. Welcome. Welcome, welcome. And hello. Once again, the weird friend today's topic, the weird friend. Now don't freak out. I'm not disrespecting anybody, we're looking at the word weird and looking at the weird friends in our lives. Now it's not what you think. We're going to look at the adjective and at the etymology of weird Weird is not what you think it is. Or maybe you do strange peculiar disturbingly, different odd, right? No, this is not what this is. What you're looking for, this is not the droids. What are, what is it I'm looking [00:00:51] Matt: for? Yeah, this is not your father's. [00:00:56] Fawn: So the adjective comes from late middle English it [00:01:00] originally meant having the power to control destiny. Then it became this, an earthy thing. It was a late millet. I can't talk today, late middle English originally meant having the power to control destiny. And it was used, especially in the " Weird Sisters" originally referring, to the fates late
Mon, November 08, 2021
The Art of Paying Attention w/ Maya Holland of Tools for Teens - Working with Energy Medicine
This episode continues our series for teens with our friend Maya Holland, founder of Tools for Teens, a meditation-based healing service that provides teenagers with ways to navigate personal and social matters through the use of energy medicine. To sign up for privates, group classes and read her blog about attending University in London, visit mayasimone.com Website: mayasimone.com Email: maya@mayasimone.com Instagram: @maya.holland If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Welcome. Welcome. Welcome! [00:00:04] Matt: Hello! [00:00:04] Fawn: Bienvenue. . Thank you very much, everybody for listening. Welcome to our table. We are here with Maya Holland. Again, we're talking about tools for teens. Maya is the founder of tools for teens, a meditation based healing service that provides teenagers with ways to navigate personal and social matters through the use of energy medicine. We have her links here in the show. If you need to get ahold of her, which you should, everyone, she is brilliant. You can go to Maya, simone.com, M a Y a S I M O N e.com. Maya simone.com. She has a course tools for teens. Today we're going to talk about. Paying attention even to trifles. Now, Matt, you and I did a show on this a few months ago, we did pay attention. It was what is, what was the title of [00:01:00] it? Right? Back then we were doing nuggets of wisdom from Santa Monica. Now we're really, I'm obsessed with etymology. So I thought I talked to you about before we get in, before Maya comes on, I wanted to talk about the word "attention." What I'm going to describe is derived from the Greek. Yea, of course our whole foundation of this friendship movement is based on the Greek and the Nicomachean ethics, but you all know that. Okay. So the meaning derived from the Greek means true sense; a sense of truth. The suffix "logia". Obviously is the study of, it means the study of, and then, so the meaning of it is giving heed, active direction of the mind upon so
Mon, November 01, 2021
The Strong Inner Compass with Maya Holland of Tools for Teens, Using Energy Medicine
What is an inner compass and how do we have strength in that? This episode continues our series for teens with our friend Maya Holland, founder of Tools for Teens, a meditation-based healing service that provides teenagers with ways to navigate personal and social matters through the use of energy medicine. To sign up for privates, group classes and read her blog about attending University in London, visit mayasimone.com Website: mayasimone.com Email: maya@mayasimone.com Instagram: @maya.holland If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace The Inner Compass – TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello, everybody. We are back we're back. [00:00:04] Matt: Hello? Hello. Good morning. Good evening. [00:00:07] Fawn: All of it. Hello at all times in all places. Yeah. And all dimensions. Hey everybody. Guess who's here. Maya Holland is here. Hi Maya. Hi. Good morning. Good evening. Good afternoon. All over again. Here we go again. Um, you know, when I say goodbye, we've done this for years, the kids grew up like this. We never say have a nice day because when I was working, I was in the foothills of the Himalayas and this beautiful person who was a swami at the end of our, our Workday, I was like, okay, have a nice day when we were going towards separate areas and he's like Fawn, no, like I got so scolded, spiritually. Um, he was so wonderful, but [00:01:00] he was like, don't ever say that to someone you're condemning someone to just having one day of good. Don't you ever say that? I'm like, never again. So he taught me to say, and this is how our girls talk. Whenever we say, see you later, or bye. They say have a beautiful every day, have a good every day. Oh, that's so cute. We never say it. We never say it. And just the, um, the opposite of the plural, you know, in the, just the one thing, SINGULAR is what I was looking for. Okay. So I digress. The <span style="color:#80
Mon, October 25, 2021
The Art of Balance - with Maya Holland of Tools for Teens - Energy Medicine
Today we are talking about energy balances and imbalances; how energy imbalances can result in physical things, how energy creates things, how thoughts create things. This episode continues our series for teens with our friend Maya Holland, founder of Tools for Teens, a meditation-based healing service that provides teenagers with ways to navigate personal and social matters through the use of energy medicine. To sign up for privates, group classes and read her blog about attending University in London, visit mayasimone.com Website: mayasimone.com Email: maya@mayasimone.com Instagram: @maya.holland If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace BALANCE - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello? Hello. Welcome. Welcome guests who we have today again with us, everyone. Maya Holland is here, everybody. Yay. Welcome Maya. Welcome back. [00:00:12] Maya: Thank you. I'm happy to be back [00:00:15] Fawn: Today we are talking about energy balances and imbalances; how energy imbalances can result in physical things, how energy creates things, how thoughts create things. We talk about this all the time, mind over matter. Right. Thought comes first and then you voice it and then you get physical manifestation. Boom. [00:00:43] Maya: Your thoughts, not only do they control, like you said, your words and things that you say out loud, but that is what is attracted in the universe. So if you're always, you know, speaking negatively, then it's pretty likely you're going to have sort of a negative. [00:01:00] [00:01:00] Fawn: So here's what, like, whenever it was that I first heard this a long time ago was energy follows thought. Okay. But I feel like my thoughts are energetic. Do you know what I mean? So that for me, confuses me especially when I talk to Matt, because I'm sitting there minding my own business. Minding my own business, qui
Fri, October 22, 2021
Miyamoto Musashi's Rules
Rules to live by! If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: Okay. You guys. So we were talking about the book of the five rings by Miyamoto Musashi Musashi. Yes exactly. I always get that wrong. Okay. So these are the nine rules. And so this is a major warrior. Forgive me, like, correct me if I'm wrong, Matt, major warriors, samurai, [00:00:23] Matt: the samurai [00:00:24] Fawn: he's the samurai. And so he had nine rules of the way. [00:00:33] Matt: Right grant that he felt would help guide you down the path. Yes. [00:00:36] Fawn: So these were his nine rules and this is why we're going to discuss, and we took intuition, out of one of these rules, two of these rules, right? So... Rule 1: Do not think dishonestly. Rule 2: The way is in training. And we've gone over this on our previous episodes guys, it's just, uh, [00:01:00] we're just, uh, re reflection. Rule 3: Become acquainted with every art. Rule 4: Know the ways of all professions. Rule 5: Distinguish between gain and loss in worldly matters. [00:01:24] Matt: And the one we focused on today, intuition will know that's the next role I was hoping.</s
Mon, October 18, 2021
Intuition - The Art of the Start with Maya Holland - Tools for Teens
This episode begins a series for teens with our friend Maya Holland, founder of Tools for Teens, a meditation-based healing service that provides teenagers with ways to navigate personal and social matters through the use of energy medicine. To sign up for privates, group classes and read her blog about attending University in London, visit mayasimone.com Website: mayasimone.com https://mayasimone.com/home Email: maya@mayasimone.com Instagram: @maya.holland If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Intuition – The Art of the Start with Maya Holland – Tools for Teens TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Matt: Maya Modo Musashi, regarded as the sword Saint, the Kensei the folklorish hero, historical figure samurai in feudal Japan. Story from his life: he was visiting a Lord, one of the various daimyo's of the land, at his invitation. He was sitting in a room. The Lord took him and said, okay, come with me to this other room, They got slightly separated and [00:00:23] Fawn: hold on one second. So, uh, Damon is [00:00:26] Matt: A Damio [00:00:27] Fawn: A damio. So that's the boss. [00:00:29] Matt: Think of him as like a Lord or a Baron or a, [00:00:32] Fawn: the samurais work for [00:00:34] Matt: yes. Samurais
Sun, October 10, 2021
The Break-Up - How to Deal
Friend breakups are just as painful as romantic break-ups. We have some strategies and stories to share that will have you feeling better. If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace The Break-Up [00:00:00] Fawn: Good morning. Good afternoon. Good evening. Good. All everything. Hi everybody. Hey, I don't know if it's the subject matter today, but I'm in a mood right now. [00:00:13] Matt: Sounds like I'm going to be tapping today. You know [00:00:17] Fawn: what? I don't think. I think no matter what you do right now, it's going to get all my last nerves. [00:00:23] Matt: So if I'm quiet, I'm in trouble. If I talk in trouble. Oh yeah. [00:00:27] Fawn: Everything. Everything is bothering me right now. Um, love LOVE IS WINNING. Um, it's the inner fight within that says I am done. And the other side of you you that is used to this situation or person to the point that stopping is like cutting off a vital part of life. This makes no sense to you cause you have no idea what I'm about to discuss today, right, Matt? [00:00:59] Matt: Well, [00:01:00] I, I guess we'll see, [00:01:02] Fawn: it's kind of like, what I'm about to talk about is kind of. And not kind of, but to me, what I've noticed is actually like a chemical addiction. Uh, today's topic is, are you ready? Matt has no idea. The breakup. <spa
Sun, October 03, 2021
Sawubona - Hello, We See you!
Sawubono is the South African Zulu word for "Hello, WE see you, and by seeing you, we bring you into being." Each person you meet, you're actually meeting their family and their ancestry, which means each one person is never alone. You are never alone. Not only are we meeting an individual, an individual person, but we are also meeting a lineage and we're giving respect to all of them. You can walk around the world. And it's not about you, depending on people's luggage and their experience; everyone sees you differently. So to be hung up on "how am I seen by this person or this culture," it's ridiculous because everyone has a different lens on it. This episode is about seeing. If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: Speaking of giving credit where it's due, I give credit and acknowledge the ancient ISA Zulu greeting. And that's what we're going to talk about today. Sawubona Sawubona is a greeting in South Africa. Sawubona is the Zulu word for how we say hello or in India, how we say "Namaste" Namaste is way deeper than "hello" because it's essentially saying I see the light in you, [00:00:31] Matt: but two people use it just as a hello, like a, Hey yeah know, [00:00:36] Fawn: I don't know, but everywhere we went. People of all ages will greet you with Namaste. I didn't know what it was when I was first there. And I was used to mean kids in the United States. So when all these kids were like laughing and smiling and say Namaste I thought they were making fun of me. Do you know what I mean? I had no idea what it meant. [00:01:00] And then when
Mon, September 27, 2021
1 Year Celebration
We are celebrating one year of talking about the art of friendship around the world. And today we have with us what I promised on the very first show "The Mentor" that explains this whole podcast; that our girls would be in on the episodes. They have been working behind the scenes and the past year have become introverts (can you blame them, with all that's happened in the world the past 2 years? If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Birthday episode - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Here we are everyone. Hello? Hello. Hi everybody. Welcome to our friendly world. We are celebrating one year of talking about goodness, one year of talking on the air around the world. And today we have with us what I promised on my very first show. I say my, because that shows just me talking our very first episode called the mentor that explains this whole podcast. That's what I meant by my show, but I had promised that it would be the family and the girls would be in on the episodes. And what turned out was they were behind the scenes. They didn't want to talk. They became quite antisocial is not the word for it, but they what's a, what's a, what's the word for it? Introvert. Yeah, but everybody here they are Martine. I promised here they are. Martina has been wanting to hear you guys. So here we are everybody. I'd like to [00:01:00] introduce you all to our lovely littles little ladies. We haveElle: [00:01:06] Elle: hello [00:01:08] Fawn: and Alegra: [00:01:10] Allegra: Whats up? [00:01:11] Fawn: Fabulous. Oh my God. You guys come on. We need to speak. You guys have been very quiet. We've all been very still this , past year. Quite still. We've
Mon, September 20, 2021
The Favor
This episode came about as we had a guest that was so hateful and wrongly accused Matt of "manipulation" because he likes to present people with favors. Wanting to clear things up from that conversation, Fawn wanted to make sure Matt explained (before he was so rudely cut off), one of the many ways to really connect with people. This one act is something that you can do, to kindly, respectfully, and compassionately relate to people. And it's a simple thing; one that is really important for everyone to know about. This is also to correct a wrong that was done to Matt (referring to a rude guest we had). We're talking about a favor. Do you know what "favor" actually means? the etymology, the origin, the Latin which is spelled FAVERE. The etymology, the background, the root of favor originally means: show kindness. Isn't that beautiful? If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace The Favor - TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Matt: Doin' a favor? [00:00:01] Fawn: What'd you say [00:00:04] Matt: doing a favor? [00:00:06] Fawn: This is another followup show. I feel like too, um, a conversation that we had that I feel like I need to fix, , sometimes you talk to people and it really messes you up, [00:00:19] Matt: indeed. [00:00:20]
Mon, September 13, 2021
Apologia
We begin with Socrates and the history and meaning of "APOLOGIA". How we should defend what we believe is true. We use Socrates as an example of the result of what happens when we go against the status quo. How can we stay safe and sane? And when mistakes happen, how do we apologize? How should we apologize? When is it ok not to apologize? We discuss the reasons why we fight and how we can reach a loving point. If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Here we go, here we go. Do you even know, do you even understand when you come up behind me and you scare the heck out of me when I'm in the kitchen and I'm deep in thought and I jump, am holding my heart and I feel traumatized because all of a sudden you're like you just come up from out of nowhere. It seems from my perspective, And it scares the hell out of me. And then you get mad. Then we get into a fight because really all I need is an apology. Like, oh my God, I'm so sorry. [00:00:37] Matt: Oh, timeout, timeout, timeout. I'm just walking up to you. I'm not trying to scare you. I'm [00:00:43] Fawn: just walking up. Here we go again, link. You know what? I don't even remember all of our fights. Like we have so many fights that miraculously, I don't even remember the fights. I just remember the general sense of annoyance and, [00:01:00] and like rage, but honey, all you have to say once you realize I have calmed down is I'm sorry. Oh my God. Are you all right? Oh, no. Look at you. You, I totally startled you... like admit it, but you don't, you immediately go into a state of you're on trial and you're fighting for your, your, your perspective, your proving that you're right. Even though [00:01:31] Matt: I didn't do anything. See, [00:01:33] Fawn: that's the that's you did. Do... you scared me!!!!. Okay. [00:01:39] Matt: There's intent. Oh my God, your honor. [00:01:42] Fawn: All right, so good morning, everybody. Good evening. Good afternoon. Can I just say thank you, France. France is awesome. France has been such a loyal listener country like outside of the United S
Mon, September 06, 2021
The Bonsai Tree - On Nature and How We Grow
Bonsai trees are intended to bring the core aspects of nature: balance harmony, and simplicity. It's said that when we consider the natural flow of the environment, these three characteristics, should anything occur to disrupt it (nature) will always restore itself. There is always a natural harmonic balance to things. In looking at the trees and their scale, on so many levels we can realized how much bigger the trees are than manmade structures. And if you look at it, a tree (nature), is way, way, more massive than anything that we make. The act of caring for bonsai trees is nurturing in its profound sense. And when giving from the heart, the giver benefits as much as the receiver. By bonding through nature, the Bonzai plant's meaning is enriched and it becomes our teacher. I thought that was beautiful. And it calls to friendship too; all relationships, by bonding, by bonds, things are enriched and it's a teaching moment. We teach each other. The more we provide and nurture for one, the other also reciprocate, not always in the sense that we expect, but it is going back to that circle. When you care, you are cared for. What you seek is seeking you. If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: Hello, we are here. So are the birds. Can you hear him? [00:00:05] Matt: That's like a Yodel bird. [00:00:06] Fawn: I know there are all kinds of wildlife outside [00:00:12] Matt: and, but we actually have our windows open because it's actually not [00:00:14] Fawn: boiling hot out. Right. I want to say there has been a moving a migration , if you will, of all kinds of wildlife coming to the tree right outside our window, because. The food, the bird seeds, we have chosen. It's a whole new community out there. It's wild. [00:00:34] Matt: And it's waking you up first thing in the morning, isn't it? [00:00:37] Fawn: Well, yeah, I've been having insomnia again, so like right when I go to sleep, then it feels like the birds are like, hello, all kinds. And I don't know what they're saying. They're shouting all kinds of stuff. Speaking of nature, are you ready for today's episode? I'm never ready. Hello friends. Hello everybody. Today, we are talking about how we [00:01:00] grow and the bonsai tree. Are you ready? All right, here we go. So bonsai trees are intended to bring the core aspects of nature and there's three. We have balance harmony. And simplicity. It's said that when we consider the natural flow of the environment, these three characteristics; balance, harmony and simplicity are always present. And if anything occurs to disrupt nature, it will always restore itself. You can take that however way. You kno
Mon, August 30, 2021
Ego Amo Te
The English word ego is the Latin word for, “I”. Literally translated, ego means "I". If you were to write, "I love you" in Latin, you would write "ego amo te" It's interesting how people feel the need of having that triumph over you. Why does that happen? It probably comes from some trauma where the person did not feel as important. So they have to really hold up that part of themselves to say, “I am important.” Perhaps what we need is rituals in our society where when you do something (you accomplish something) that you have a party about it, like a ceremonial "yay. I did it!” If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] You who can help you? It's you and me, baby. Oh, yay. It's been awhile since goodness. Matt: [00:00:08] Wait, wait. We've actually started. I thought we were doing another Fawn: [00:00:12] . Oh dear. You ready? Do you have any idea what I'm going to bring up today? I think it could be ego. It could be it's ego, ego. Okay. Brought to you by our lovely sponsors. We don't have any sponsors, but brought to you by some experience we had the last week. Matt: [00:00:35] Oh dear. So I take it. We're just going to go for it then. Right. Well Fawn: [00:00:38] kind of going to go for it without naming any names. All right. So today is people and their ego. All right. And you've had to deal with that because of your work situation. Right? Matt: [00:00:52] Okay. So it's my fundamental belief. I mean, as a, as a computer programmer, you know, we sit at a keyboard, we [00:01:00] type some random gibberish in and things happen and we build things that people use and people say, wow, this is great. Thank you so much. And people find bugs and make us feel bad. And then we fix the bugs and that makes us feel good. Computer programmers are incredibly credible egomaniacs because we do this. We build for a living and we get all these strokes and we get all this other stuff. Fawn: [00:01:23] You know what everybody, every industry has that every industry has the ego everywhere you go. There is ego. And I have a theory about that. My theory is when people are not heard and they don't feel seen that's when things get out of hand with the ego. Okay. Here's the atomology of ego that will actually bring some light to this. What I'm talking about? Ego. The English word ego is the Latin word for, I literally translated ego means "I", if you were to write, "I [00:02:00] love you" in Latin, you would write "ego amo te" Matt: </stro
Mon, August 23, 2021
Revolution vs Evolution and the Art of A Coherent Community During Turbulent Times
This episode we focus onRevolution vs Evolution and the Art of A Coherent Community During Turbulent Times and we begin with the etymology of revolution : to turn; to roll back. The definition is really revolt, which originally meant to renounce allegiance, which is really interesting since we're always talking about friendship and community and family; the family that we create, but to renounce allegiance that's revolution. Revolution is also a change in paradigm. Evolution is an opening of what was a rolled up and opening of what was rolled up. We discuss the cause of fear and division. Fawn gives the example of Santa Monica and how the utopia bubble was getting thin, when things became more (here's the four letter word - "busy"), where people began becoming more and more busy, didn't play as often, didn't have happy hour meals as often and began to get quiet in conversation. The family began to dwindle. The free, wild, uncontrollable laughter didn't happen as much. Things felt more and more serious and soon began that new normal. So what's the lesson here and this tiny bit of time in this tiny bit of community is the basis for our conversation today? How does revolution ignite in a peaceful heart? How can we turn it around? Here at our friendly world, we always say that friendship is the key to what ails our society. It is the key to social economic and racial conflict. Because when we see how supported we are, that we are better, stronger together, as we say, we help each other with all aspects of life, we are wealthy, we are not alone and we value each other. TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello, everyone. Hi, again, I'm so excited I picked up this book just a little bit ago. Right. And, um, the way I came across this book was really crazy because I was researching something that has nothing to do with anything, but somehow, I mean, whoa, wait a second. Matt: [00:00:21] I would say it's kind of central to Fawn: [00:00:23] everything. Okay. What was happening was I was doing research for something that kind of had something to do with the podcast, but anyway, in a universal roundabout way, I was guided to this book and I got it right away. I'm like, I can't believe that, that title. Okay. I've actually talked about this book on the last episode we totally got into it. This person is here today. I will introduce him in just a second, but you know, I like to give you nuggets of wisdom. I'm obsessed with etymology of words and everything and trying to figure out how in the heck did this happen. I looked up revolution and I promised like, [00:01:00] I wouldn
Mon, August 23, 2021
Revolution vs Evolution and the Art of a Coherent Community During Turbulent Times
This episode we focus on Revolution vs Evolution and the Art of A Coherent Community During Turbulent Times and we begin with the etymology of revolution : to turn; to roll back. The definition is really revolt, which originally meant to renounce allegiance, which is really interesting since we're always talking about friendship and community and family; the family that we create, but to renounce allegiance that's revolution. Revolution is also a change in paradigm. Evolution is an opening of what was a rolled up and opening of what was rolled up. We discuss the cause of fear and division. Fawn gives the example of Santa Monica and how the utopia bubble was getting thin, when things became more (here's the four letter word - "busy"), where people began becoming more and more busy, didn't play as often, didn't have happy hour meals as often and began to get quiet in conversation. The family began to dwindle. The free, wild, uncontrollable laughter didn't happen as much. Things felt more and more serious and soon began that new normal. So what's the lesson here and this tiny bit of time in this tiny bit of community is the basis for our conversation today? How does revolution ignite in a peaceful heart? How can we turn it around? Here at our friendly world, we always say that friendship is the key to what ails our society. It is the key to social economic and racial conflict. Because when we see how supported we are, that we are better, stronger together, as we say, we help each other with all aspects of life, we are wealthy, we are not alone and we value each other. TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello, everyone. Hi, again, I'm so excited I picked up this book just a little bit ago. Right. And, um, the way I came across this book was really crazy because I was researching something that has nothing to do with anything, but somehow, I mean, whoa, wait a second. Matt: [00:00:21] I would say it's kind of central to Fawn: [00:00:23] everything. Okay. What was happening was I was doing research for something that kind of had something to do with the podcast, but anyway, in a universal roundabout way, I was guided to this book and I got it right away. I'm like, I can't believe that, that title. Okay. I've actually talked about this book on the last episode we totally got into it. This person is here today. I will introduce him in just a second, but you know, I like to give you nuggets of wisdom. I'm obsessed with etymology of words and everything and trying to figure out how in the heck did this happen. I looked up revolution and I promised like, [00:01:00] I wouldn't use words like that on this podcast, but here I go. Okay. The etymology of
Sun, August 15, 2021
The Art of the Plan with Guest Heather Lawrence
Heather Lawrence joins us as we discuss the art of the plan and what it is. What's the plan? How do you know it's your plan? Is there a higher plan? Is there truly free will? What is the purpose of each person? How can we decipher between our purpose as apposed to someone else's thing; how do we know it's your deal or if it's feeling FOMO. Is there, is there a grand scheme? Is there a divine plan? How do we become a vibrational match to the plan that we have been wanting? Can we plan? Should we be planning? You always hear that phrase. You know, if you want to hear God laugh, make a plan. Aren't we working as a team here? Heather explains how the universe wants to get us to accept things the way they are not reject the way they are. How can we get through it all???? How to be an authentic match to your dreams. How to be in alignment This episode we ask the questions and ponder the answers. To reach Heather: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_advizer/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theadvizerr/videos/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_advizer111?lang=en Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Welcome to our friendly world. Hello? Hello? Hello. What is the plan, Matt? What's the plan. If I take a nugget of wisdom. Okay. You just asked me what nugget would you use today? Yes. So today's episode, everyone is called the art of the plan and we have a special friend with us that I'll introduce you to in just a second, but the art of a plan. I mean, I never wanted to go back to LA. That was not my plan. When do you know, it's your plan? Is there a higher plan? Is there free will. I mean, you know, sometimes most of my life I feel like, okay, I know, I feel that the right thing, I feel the answer. I know the universe, you know, I feel like I'm part of it. So of course I know what's up, but sometimes I'm like, well, what, what is it like what's happening? What is, is there a plan? Because [00:01:00] I don't know. Sometimes I just don't know. What is the purpose of each person? How can we decipher between our purpose? You know, your true purpose from something. You you're drawn to, it could be someone else's thing. Right. And you're looking at them and you're feeling FOMO. So you think their plan is your plan. Do you know what I'm saying? Matt: [00:01:25] Yeah, no, no, no, no, absolutely. You can get totally sucked into somebody's reality in many ways that if somebody is really into something and like you hang out with them, then all of a sudden you're like, wow, that's super cool.</p
Sun, August 08, 2021
The Art of Community with Maya Breuer
One of our favorite friends is back! Maya Breuer joins us again as we further explore the art of community. We begin with a quote from the movie, "Your Name": "They assemble and take shape. They twist, tangle, unravel now and then, break and reconnect. That's what a union is; what time is." We've been really delving into the art of community here and really trying to hone in on exactly what community is and how we can have it, how we can create it, how we can continue with it, with the changing times and everything. Community is society, it's a fellowship, it's a kind of public spirit and to an embrace, a place of connection, a place where we are not alone, a place of enrichment. It is a home of safety and protection. It is about being stronger and happier and having the sense of wellbeing. It is about being heard and getting acknowledged and VALUED. It is about feeling supported, respected, cared for and having this feeling of love for each other. It is about compassion and love. TRANSCRIPT: Transcript-285 [00:00:00] Maya: [00:00:00] Her mother taught me the way she taught her. Nice. But I w as I got as my mother and I reconnected years later, she taught me special things because she was a terrific cook, but it was my grandmother who led the way. Nice. Yeah. Fawn: [00:00:16] Not you Matt, right. Those ladies did not like anything to do with like the home, Matt: [00:00:24] the day, every single meal. Put it in the oven for 350 for an hour Maya: [00:00:30] now. Oh, was it? Uh, oh no, they just Fawn: [00:00:36] to this day, like Matt has been Matt and I have been together longer than he's been with his family. And to this day he's still traumatized and we can't eat certain things because it makes him remember childhood. So, you know, I'm middle Eastern. So of course there's fresh beets and garlic and onions. And. And, you know, like raw veggies and all kinds of stuff. And he's like, I [00:01:00] can't do that. I can't have the watermelon, I can't have this. I can't have watermelon, Matt: [00:01:04] had nothing to do with my family, but it had to do with your childhood and your stuff stuck on it. But Maya: [00:01:10] you know, it, it really takes a while to get over childhood stuff. I mean, how much longer is it going to take? How much longer is it going to take? Sometimes you never get over it. You know, when I was kid. I grew up with my grandparents and my aunt. And they would do this thing where all the, if, if other people came every other fancy stuff got shared and then like, like I re I like today I can not eat a broken cookie because we, they would go to the market and buy bags of broke. </
Mon, August 02, 2021
Dissatisfaction
A rant on dissatisfaction and the desire to really live life! Fawn needs your support on this one. Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] We weren't supposed to record today. We weren't. No, because, not because of the show, but I've been experiencing burnout, major burnout, not because of the show. This show gives me life, but check it out. So the book I'm reading burnout . Um, Matt: [00:00:19] hi, this is a hi this is Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt Fawn: [00:00:24] welcome to our friendly world. It doesn't feel so friendly for me right now. I woke up dissatisfied , Matt: [00:00:30] but the world is opening back up. Fawn: [00:00:31] It is, I went to bed mad at you. I woke up even more mad at you. And then we got into a little fight. And during our fight, I said, you know what? Let's record our fight. Let's just record what we're talking about. Cause it's not a fight the way you think of a fight. The way we fight is we fight the way we do. Just our, whatever, here, here it goes, guys. So emotional exhaustion as defined by, these two ladies who wrote the book "Burnout, The [00:01:00] secret of Unlocking the Stress C ycle, Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski DMA. What, what do you want to see? The clever they're twins. Okay. Let's rock. All right. So there are three components of emotional exhaustion , which is what burnout is. Okay. Okay. So number one, emotional exhaustion, the fatigue that comes from caring too much for too long. So when you're worried about someone you love it, doesn't go away. You're a parent. You're worried. You're frickin worried all the time, never ending. Personalization is number two, the depletion of empathy, caring and compassion. Number three is decreased sense of accomplishment and unconquerable sense of futility, feeling that nothing you do makes any difference. I feel number one and number [00:02:00] three, I don't feel number two because empathy is totally there. Compassion is totally there. I feel a decreased sense of accomplishment and I want to cry just saying that, and I feel emotionally exhausted and the way we start our morning together, cause you wake up so much earlier than I do, but then I go to bed at 3 30, 4 o'clock, five o'clock in the morning sometimes. And then I wake up early. So I just woke up just upset. And I, the, the way we started our day together was you came in and we started talking and I said, Matt, I am done. I'm done waiting. I want to live my life. We've been waiting for 16 years. Sure, we've done things. We've had different moves. We've had children, you know, we've made things happen, but it feels like we are waiting. You're waiting on [00:03:00] the p
Mon, July 26, 2021
CONNECTED Roundtable #9 PHYLOTIMO, Love, Friendship, Honor, and Giving to Each Other
This is an episode dedicated to our favorite word: PHYLOTIMO. Philotimo is an all encompassing concept that gives meaning to life that stretches well beyond ourselves, as that deep seated awareness in the heart that motivates the good that a person does. Philotimo is a sense of duty to your fellow human being. It is about love and friendship. It's about giving and it's about honor. And when you break it down in Greek, Philo means friend timo means honor. We talk about the geography of where Phylotimo was born in history and how that very same spot is paying it forward in modern times. We ask individual questions from our expert friends at the table, like: Of Matt we ask what tech or programs help us to be of service to our fellow human beings? We ask Paul to give us some meditation tools to provide us all with philotimo. We ask Katy how food can help us with phylotimo. Of Beth we ask for visualization tools to bring about this way of honor. I (Fawn) talks about communication and language in relation to phylotimo. We tie the episode with KJ’s expertise and her wisdom of observation to teach us they ways in which we can encourage phylotimo. TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Here we go. Hello? Hello. Hello. I always forget to say you're here because obviously you're here with me. Hi Matt. Okay. So we are here with Matt cohart. We have Katy, Katy LoSasso. Hi Katy!. We have KJ KJ. Nasrul is here, everyone. And we have our beautiful Paul Martin Lotus. Hello everybody. So my favorite thing is filo dough. Oh dear. I love it. It's it's probably one of the only things that I'll actually get, because I like to make everything from scratch and having dissected this word dissect. Having broken this word down that I'm about to say, I [00:01:00] was like, wow. It's I feel like Homer Simpson filo dough, because, okay. Okay. So the word today's subject is Philotimo and my beautiful Greek friends, please, can you call me, I'm sure I'm mispronouncing it. philotimo philotimo Philo Timo phyllo, Timo. There is an island it's the third largest island in Greece. It's called Lesvos. I think it was around 1922 with all the strife that was happening; the Ottoman empire, everything was breaking down in that area. You know, world war one was just, there was such devastation. So, this group of people from they call it Asia minor, went to this island Lesbos. And it's actually where Aristotle had been many, many, many, many, many years before. And the greatest inspiration throughout history of all the [00:02:00] scholars and everything came from Aristotle. And Aristotle's, apifany of this beautiful land, this beautiful island of Lesvos, everything originates from this place. So going back to the word, Philotimo I'm telling you about this because these people sought refuge to this island and the island embraced them. And so the entire population pretty much t
Sun, July 18, 2021
Acceptance of Where You Are; Compassion, Community, Consciousness, Yoga Pants, and Being Popeye with Maya Breuer
"There is geometry in the humming of the strings. There is music in the spacing of the spheres." - Pythagoras We are graced by the lovely Maya Breuer, host of The Unity in Yoga podcast. She is, also the co-founder of the black yoga teachers Alliance, an Emeritus trustee of Kripalu and the creator of the yoga retreat for women of color. Maya is a recipient of the YWCA's Women of Achievement Award. This our beautiful friend, is Maya Breuer. Maya Breuer continues to demonstrate commitment to educating the black and indigenous and people of color community B I P O C about health and wellbeing through yoga. She enthusiastically promotes equity and continues to influence the changing landscape of yoga. We speak of acceptance of you who we are and where we are. And when you get grounded in that acceptance of self, it doesn't matter what anyone says. We get into how we’re reared in the United States to always compare ourselves and each other. “ I love that I have self-acceptance. I mean, I can be neat. I can be sloppy. I can, I can be soft and gentle. I can cuss you out. You know, I live my life out loud and I think yoga gives, you know, contrary to what many people think, you know; yoga is gonna make you this, this quiet, sweet person. Yoga enables you to be who you really are. And then the more you practice, the more you delve into yoga, you let go of that thing, which I call comparison; comparing yourself with others. It's like, Oh, that's the model. I should look that way. And I'll never look that way. You know, looking at many of the models, although today there's models of every color and every shape and size, but I had to, you know, I had to accept myself and it was the yoga that really taught me how to accept myself. “ Hall of Fame Quote from the episode: -“I've learned by learning to love myself, I can love others.” -“Breath combined with the movement helps move good and bad, some samskara and those are impressions. Yoga, breath, consciousness, awareness, relaxation; those are the tools we get to help us find ourselves; the true self.” -“The more you develop that inner Popeye, that's connected to the divine, that's connected to your deep inner self, the more you can accept others, but the more you're free to have all of your self available for life.” -“Yoga is like a smart computer chip. You simply inject like, you take it in and it can come through your skin, your tissues, all your breath. And then it goes to where it needs to go. If you need it in your hip, you need it in your belly, you need it in your chest area, and it’ll find its way there if you take up the practice. The same, if you have challenges with your health, with addiction, with dullness, yoga will help you. It's such a smart computer chip.” Maya Breuer: https://www.yogaall
Mon, July 12, 2021
CONNECTED - Roundtable #8 BREATH
Do you think it's a bad thing to be so interconnected? We are living in a time where we see, hear, and feel everything we are all (as a collective and individually) feeling and experiencing all at the same time. This experience of “oneness” can be devastating and hard to manage. What can we do? We turn to a simple cure, one that is thousands of years old – The breath. In this episode, we explore breath and the way it can not only heal the body and the mind, but transform reality and change the outcome of realty as we see it. Breath is also called prana and it means the vital energy of the universe. Swami Rama, according to, his book, "The Science of Breath, A Practical Guide". Swami Rama: "According to one of the schools of Indian philosophy, the whole universe was projected out of Akasha Which means space, space through the energy of prana. Akasha is the infinite all-encompassing material of the universe. And prana is the infinite all-pervading energy of the universe, cosmic energy. All the diverse forms of the universe are sustained by it. Pranayama is a science, which imparts knowledge related to the control of Parana. One who has learned to control prana has learned to control all the energies of this universe, physical and mental. He is also learned to control his body and mind." "In short, emotions are tunnels. If you go all the way through them, you got to the light at the end. Exhaustion happens when you get stuck in an emotion." (excerpt from the book “Burnout” - by Emily Nagoski & Amelia Nagoski if you're in a stuck emotion, if you are able to come into that space and breathe life into it, you're able to access a part of the universe that is transformative; that you can recreate, that you can go in there and Recode. . Does that make sense? Like if you get into the Akashic records, right, you go into a level where everything has history, in the universe and all the universes in that empty space is where you can create. What you focus on grows right? In that empty space is where you can rewrite things. So if you can harness that vital energy of the universe, and then infuse; channel the energy of that universe, that breath, into wherever you are. I think you can change in an instant what is happening in and around you. TRANSCRIPT Fawn: [00:00:00] [00:00:00] Hello. Welcome to our table. Welcome to the table. Welcome to your table. Our house is your house. Technically, this is Mark Beran's and Kelly Beran's house, but you know what I mean? Our house is your house. mi casa es tu casa Our home is your home. Our table is your table. This is all of our table. Is that right? The English and my grammar proper. Anyway, welcome everyone to the table. Our round table. Welcome to our friendly world today. We have Katie. We have, Paul, we
Mon, July 05, 2021
Blockchain and the Kingdom of Bling - Dirty Big Secrets Talk with Lisa Calkins
Lisa Calkins of Halfblast Studios joins our blockchain talk, but we get very human with it and talk about such things as fraud and the fact that it doesn't always just happen the way that you think it happens . Lisa explains credit card fraud and fraud in general. Also, why you will never forget your password again… Why taking a small step toward responsibility of your password management is good for you and good for other people. Lisa gets very real and you will feel empowered. Here are some nuggets from the episode: NUGGET OF WISDOM FROM LISA: -And one of the things that was so exciting to me and, valuable to me about blockchain was that I didn't understand it at all. I had to learn it and the whole team had to learn it. And those early entire year, every day I would learn something. And then the next day I would realize whatever I learned wasn't really right or true.And then I would learn again and then I wouldn't understand it. And then some would ask me a question. I have no idea how to answer it, and I would have to learn it again. And what an exciting time that is, professionally and personally. NUGGET OF WISDOM FROM LISA: …adoption is always hard because actually most people don't like a lot of change. It's one of the misnomers in technology that people who aren't in technology think technologists are so innovative and creative and constantly like building new things and thinking very innovatively. NUGGET OF WISDOM FROM LISA: … in any industry in teaching, there's only a subset of people who are really doing innovative work. Most of the other people, like the fact that everything stays in their framework that they're comfortable in. So blockchain is not that. And blockchain is really extremely different from a technology perspective. NUGGET OF WISDOM FROM LISA: … blockchain is a piece of this big solution. It's not taking over the world. It's taking over a big piece of what was [00:12:00] not being done very well or solved. NUGGET OF WISDOM FROM LISA: … the dirty, big secrets. They're not dirty little secrets. They're dirty, big secrets. In systems today and in business today, there is an amazing amount of fraud. Unbelievable. In fact, I am the optimist quite, probably like Fawn. And when I was exposed to how much fraud there was, it made me so disheartened and sad and crazy. Like if we could help reduce fraud by a very small percentage, the amount of money that could be in the economy is insane. fraud doesn't always just happen the way that you think it happens . Lisa explains credit card fraud: “So do you realize who actually paid for that fraud. It's the flower company, the credit card company takes the money back out of that small business transaction. They go take the money out of, even up to six months later, some credit
Mon, June 28, 2021
Roundtable - CONNECTED- The Concept of Self-Principles and How to Use Them as Tools
Today we have our fantastic, amazing friend, Paul, who is leading this session today on the concept of self-principle as a whole, being an action. It's the actions we take on our thoughts that come up. The conversation further travels to the concept intelligence of multiple intelligence theory and how all these ways of thinking and being transforms us and society. We also talk about school, all kinds of different forms of intelligence, finding other ways, other paths in our lives that don’t go with the status quo but reveal our true selves and our true gifts. Hall of Fame quotes from the episode: the more we practice it, the more it becomes us, I am not defined by how other people choose to see me. I'm defined by who I am. -Not the perception, not the looking through the lens of someone else's experience. if everyone likes you, you're doing something wrong. Winston Churchill - If you find yourself traveling through hell for God's sake, keep going. Paul: say like, if another addict came into the rehab and they were, they were crying about that life being so down and terrible, you know, Beforehand, he would have just been like, Oh, it's just another addict. That my, my life's bad. I'm not going to care about your life, but now he's like, I understand you. I feel you, when you go, when you go into their shoes and feel them, and then you, you feel sad for them and then you love them when they can't love themselves. That's empathy. Katy: We have to we have to forgive, we have to give people encouragement for the good job like our children, like, Oh, you're doing such a good job. You have to have empathy for people with they're going through every day in certain stressful situations. Love is like everybody love is everything, you know, it's just, it has to be everywhere. everything is love. the multiple intelligences theory, Gardner introduced the idea that every single thing that we can do is a arena of intelligence. Beth: there are definitely different definitions behind behind these values and principles. What might be a principle for my mother or for my logically minded family members, I didn't hold the same. I didn't hold it in the same light. Beth: I think that the curriculum should be built around what KJ is talking about. You know, if you built it around the different intelligences than you would allow everybody to be who they are in one of those themes and the world would be a better place because you'd be starting much younger, believing in yourself, believing in what you have as gifts for the world are true and rightful and should be, should be used in the world.Instead of trying to fit into this almost just academic route that we, we tend to place on people. So the whole curriculums need to change. Maybe it will. That's my hope. <strong
Mon, June 21, 2021
Life Lessons - You Hear me? You Feel Me? Do You Smell What I'm Steppin' In? With Lyrics and Lattes
We welcome Jason Wallace and Trevor DeSaussure from the podcast, Lyrics and Lattes. And these guys are so lovely, inspiring, upbeat, positive, and so deep. They gift their listeners with wisdom, so many life lessons; provide perfect self-development though breaking down lyrics of hip hop. https://www.lyricsandlattes.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lyricsandlattes/ Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello? Hello. Hello everyone. Welcome to our friendly world. Very special guests today. I am really excited. Listen to this. " The art of a people is a true mirror to the minds."- Jawaharlal Nehru. Here's another one by Georgia. O'Keeffe: "I found, I could say things with color and shapes that I couldn't say any other way -things I had no words for." And then Leonardo da Vinci: " Painting is poetry that is seen rather than felt. And poetry is painting. That is felt rather than seen. " Today we have two amazing, amazing men here. And their podcast is just, I think the best podcast I've ever heard. Matt: [00:00:55] It's a great name. Isn't it? The podcast is called Lyrics and [00:01:00] Lattes. And these guys are so lovely and so inspiring and so upbeat and so positive and so deep. They have so much wisdom, so many life lessons to help us with, so much self-development, tips from your favorite hip hop songs, they break lyrics down. And it's like, for me, it's like going back to school when I had the most amazing teachers break down Hemingway and, you know, things that kind of like I would read, but they would go over my head and then the, the, the professor would break it down and say, what do you think this person meant by this sentence or this one word? Or, you know, and, and we would spend hours talking about one sentence and it transformed my entire life. This is what Jason and Trevor do, [00:02:00] Jason Wallace and Trevor DeSaussure Trevor, am I pronouncing your last name? Right? The Trevor: [00:02:06] first person to ever get that right on the first try. Fawn: [00:02:11] So everyone friends out there, please help us welcome Jason and Trevor from the podcast Lyrics and Lattes. Ah, it is, I, I am so glad I met you guys. We met at Podfest. They did a presentation and, uh, I, I was flying. I was so I'm still so excited. And this was what? A week ago? Two weeks ago. When was it? I don't even remember, but I am forever transformed and so uplifted. I'm just so excited by these people. Right. Let's get to all right. All right. So today's subject is going to sound like it's not upbeat at all, but Trevor and Jason have a really great [00:03:00] pulse. Like they have, what do you call what's the term when they have a pulse o
Mon, June 14, 2021
Blockchain - Philotimo and Getting Along from Historical Fights to Modern-day Slights Tech Can Empower and Change Human Beings with Mostafa Purmehdi
This episode is on Blockchain, Philotimo and getting along from historical fights to modern day slights: Without thinking of all these cultures and all these different languages, all these different ideas that live right there in that tiny area, they just were crammed in without any kind of regard to a sense of honor, a sense of history. What happens when you centralized a bunch of decentralized platforms? Like every culture is a platform for its own people. And then what happened was that they tried to centralize it and then they divided arbitrarily and the platforms just clashed. This episode concludes by saying that trying to connect it to what we started talking about; a language that everybody understands and everybody communicates through the word Esperanto in that language means hope. So the idea was to stay hopeful; that people can come together and understand each other. Fawn’s thoughts on the problems that began in the middle east: What happens when you don't pay attention? It's basically racism. You don't have regard for life and you don't have respect. You're not really looking and listening. In my own heart, this is how I break things down to myself to make sense of humanity. Like why, why things happen; so basically it feels like everyone was just put into a box. All these people that have very strong opinions and strong culture, strong languages, strong art, strong, everything like there, we’re just lumping all of you into this one arbitrary area (speaking of the governments that took charge after World War I). And many, many centuries old cultures and societies like the Ottoman empire, disintegrated because of the lack of respect for the people in the area who were put into a teeny tiny little areas and they all had to live together, but there was no commonality. In this tiny area with all these different languages, there was no communication. And so we have more strife. Mostafa: the backlash that we've seen has been just because of what you explained going against the forces of culture that have been running through that land and those people for hundreds and thousands of years… today you might know the country of Iran as an Islamic country, but the Persian culture goes back thousands of years at least 2,500 years is documented. And so people are familiar with Alexander the Great. He got the word "GREAT" attached to his name because he conquered the Persians and he set Persepolis on fire which was the capital of Persia. Now I want to go and talk about when the Arabs invaded Persia and brought Islam a new software for the mind, a new way, a new set of relationships that define the Arab people and they brought it to the Persians. There was a backlash for 200 years there was turmoil. And then when the Persians gradually foun
Fri, June 04, 2021
The Family We Create - Families of All Kinds - Interview w/ Jenn Cleary and Dorje Dolma
The Family We Create – Families of All Kinds: this episode is the perfect example of family, the family that we create and showing that it really entails families of all kinds. And interestingly enough, it's also the song title (“Families of All Kinds”) of one of the songs on Jen Cleary's new album “All Together Now!” written and produced for children and families and celebrating environmental and social consciousness (which, by the way, our baby girl did the album cover art of!). Jen Cleary is a folk, rock, and blues singer-songwriter, and one of her amazing family members, her daughter, Dorje Dolma, the author of "Yak Girl: Growing Up in the Remote Dolpo Region of Nepal" is here! We discuss the double layered meanings of Jenn’s music, the stories that led to the songs, the meaning of family, and get immersed in the fantastic story of how Jenn and Dorje met on this tiny yet immense and perfectly synchronized blue dot and created a blossoming family that is now many arms outstretched around the world. Their beautiful family story brings love and hope! Hall of fame quote from the show: “ You just have to trust in yourself and trust in the others... when those right people come in your life. And even if it's a little bit uncertain, you kind of have to keep moving forward. So even if I get scared, I just believe that it's going to be okay.” – Dorje Dolma
Wed, June 02, 2021
CONNECTED – Roundtable # 6 – “Currency and Our Value of Life”
We have been taught to think that when something is scarce, then the value goes up, but should it? Because I'm looking at human beings and I'm thinking about the 99% not being valued. And the 1% that are valued, the 1% that have the majority of the currency, the majority of the money in our society, how come they are in that state and how come the 99% are so undervalued?! But if you really think about it, we are more valuable than the 1%. And I think that we're not treated as valuable because we are so disconnected from one another. That's my personal theory that if we were truly to connect with one another energetically and physically, that if we shared our ideas and we helped each other out, the 1% would have no power. Does that make any sense to anybody? And then I'm thinking about money and the value of a person. And what is money? Is it a tool? Of course it is. But is it a tool for manipulation? Has some piece of paper, coin, or ethereal coin crossed the line over to manipulation and how we make money? How does that all work? Is it done with integrity or greed or desperation? How does self-esteem play a factor? I would like to use the Socratic method by asking questions for us to get somewhere in our conversations where we can figure things out. I really believe we can figure out a way. Socrates often asked questions that went against the traditions and reflections of Athens. And so we may ask, I may ask certain questions, but I mean, no disrespect. I'm trying to understand things and I'm trying to understand a way for us all to come together again. This roundtable takes us through politics, the economy, self-worth, ethics and a bit of history as we ask questions and define some important terms in order to create change. TRANSCRIPT: [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello, everyone. Welcome to our round table. Connected. Matt: [00:00:04] Hello? Hi everybody. Today we have Paul. We have Katie. Katy: [00:00:11] Hi, Fawn: [00:00:11] we have Beth. Beth: [00:00:13] Hi, everybody. Fawn: [00:00:14] And we have KJ. Okay. KJ is on the road you guys, she is driving. Uh, well, she's in the passenger seat, but she's in a car. All right. Today's show is currency. What is it? Matt: [00:00:29] What is it? Fawn: [00:00:30] All right. I'll give you some definitions. Currency is a medium of exchange. By the way our round- table is about connected. We're all connected. We are interconnected and our conversations revolve around how we are truly interconnected. And one of the ways in which we are connected is through currency. So I want to talk about that and it's not just money either. And you'll see we'll get into it. So currency is a medium of [00:01:00] exchange for goods and services
Tue, June 01, 2021
Blockchain - How Tech Can Empower and Change Human Beings with Mostafa Purmehdi - Social Responsibility continues
Tech #4 We continue with social responsibility and how the omelette caused discourse in the neighborhood and changes business. We talk about Toyota and emotions being a driving factor in purchasing power. Mostafa: That reminds us that business is something that transcends beyond just exchange of products in return for money or some value. It is multidimensional. And it's a long-term relationship that the business needs to create with the customers. And the more we are advancing through , time, the more businesses are realizing this. Fawn brings up the issue of access – access to internet/cable/health protecting refugee identity rights. Monero is the Esperanto word for money. Esperanto, if you are into that kind of thing is a language that was designed to bring Liberty and freedom to the world in the 18 hundreds, 19 hundreds. The companies who are not acting responsibly they're usually taking advantage of the loopholes for example Apple, Amazon, and all these companies that are not paying their federal taxes. Either, they're using tax havens or they're putting their financial operations in different countries and other countries they're doing this because there is a loophole that allows them to do so. happy apple vegan on Instagram. This was her question from the first show we did she, she goes Mostafa and Matt is crypto going to be the death of paper currency? Crypto currency and homeless population Did you know that gold was outlawed in the 1930s in the United States? Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Oh, my goodness. Matt: [00:00:02] Hello. Fawn: [00:00:02] We are back. Hello? Hello. Hi friends. We are back. We are back with our beautiful professor Mostafa Purmehdi and. Mostafa: [00:00:12] Hello everyone. Fawn: [00:00:14] Hi, everybody. We are going to continue where we left off with social responsibility. And if you go back there is a link in the show notes to the previous shows. So, or this is a series we're doing with our professor here and we're getting into blockchain and how that's changing our humanity, changing our entire lives. How we get a leg up on this thing, especially if you're someone like me, who is non-techie non beetle, beep boop (Fawn makes robot sounds) people. And so last week we were talking about social responsibility and the conversation got so deep. I feel like even for me, I'm like this wasn't techie enough. So now we're going to get really [00:01:00] into the tech of it regarding social responsibility. Why are you giving me that weird look, Matt: [00:01:06] I always give you that weird look, Fawn: [00:01:07] God, it throws me off. Matt: [00:01:09] Well then don't look at me. <
Sun, May 30, 2021
The Yard Stick – How we measure up and what is the measure of a human?
Hall of fame quote from this episode - Matt: Everybody has like one yard stick and that's a big problem because it allows us to measure everyone against this one yard stick. Fawn talks about Ancient Greece, Sparta, and the similarities to the government style of rule in the United States, in a way, asking if we are treated as the same way these ancient governments treated people in their society. How can we have equilibrium? How does currency and war factor in the society? What is the price for a country like the United States (a country that has always been at war of some kind)? What kind of society has that created? What kind of feelings is now embedded within our bodies and our spirit from the generational violence that we don’t fully understand we take part in (that we have been part of)? We also talk about how we measure time. Why is it that time seems to stand still sometimes? Why do we settle for situations that are not life affirming? Can you distinguish between your true desire, and desiring something out of envy? Why does it seem like we always want more? Fawn has an answer. When can we throw out and get rid of the yard stick? Matt has the answer. Matt: “Let the world surprise you.” At the end of the episode (around min 58), Fawn has a very cool share that may help those of you frustrated with waiting for something big in your life to happen. TRANSCRIPT: [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Here we go. Here we are. Here we go. Matt: [00:00:05] Good evening. Good night. Fawn: [00:00:06] Hello everybody. I just recently learned what GMT was. Cause I couldn't figure out when our show airs and I was telling everyone midnight, one minute past midnight folks! And my friends over in Seattle, they're like, we're hearing you at 6:00 PM at dinner time is when we listen. I'm like, no, it comes out at one minute past midnight for those of you in the UK. That's when it comes out. Good morning. Good evening. Good afternoon. Hi everybody. Matt: [00:00:33] Hello. See, I always knew what Greenwich Mean was because yeah, I had to book, I read and they said Greenwich effing Mean it was just funny. Fawn: [00:00:43] So why is everything revolving around the UK and not everything? Okay. Well, all right. Let's not Matt: [00:00:49] forget that once upon a time, the sun never set on the British empire and that was like a thing. What do you mean? Well, they had so much territory all around the world that. Anywhere, [00:01:00] like anywhere, like the sun was always up over one section of it because they own flipping everything right. From India to Australia, to South Africa to, Fawn: [00:01:11] yeah, it's funny because when I would travel all t
Wed, May 26, 2021
CONNECTED – Roundtable #5 – The Art of Creativity and Compassion
What are the guiding emotions of our society are right now? What did we do when we had no parameters of time when we were children; when there were no instructions other than to go and do? Who is the real you? What does it mean to feel like YOU? When did you feel most like YOU? What are some examples of “Happy Places”? What are the words, sounds, colors, scents, movements associated with your place of honor and happiness? What is the true definition of art? What are some ways to express what is in our realm of life and can we get key insights that are right before our eyes that we may have been oblivious to? This roundtable comes from a gathering session (one of KJ’s wonderful online courses) led by our brilliant KJ Nasrul where she guided us through our emotions using art. What transpired was this roundtable discussing in depth the art of creativity and compassion. KJ provides guidance and support for this very healing episode. TRANSCRIPT: [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello, everybody. Welcome to connected where we are all interconnected and we're finding out ways in which we are. Today we have our beautiful friends. We have Paul ,Beth, Katy, and KJ today. Matt: [00:00:17] AND Matt! Fawn: [00:00:18] I'm sorry, babe. I'm sorry. Matt is here too. Everybody .Love is winning. Today we are focusing on compassion, expression, emotion, creativity, in celebration of our friend KJ who's a psychotherapist and this amazing healer. Most of us just came off of one of her sessions she did with us a gathering. We had a gathering of creativity and compassion. So with that, I looked up the word art. And it's weird because I've been an artist most of my life, but everyone always freaks out on the [00:01:00] definition of it. I'm a photographer and a lot of people don't consider that art. I found that very bizarre, but here's what it is. It's a noun, the expression or application of human, creative skill and imagination, typically in a visual form such as painting or a sculpture producing works to be appreciated primarily for their beauty or emotional power. Do you see that it doesn't even put music in there or poetry? Matt: [00:01:30] I was going to call that out right away. Yeah. Um, or dance, I mean, or literature, which is poetry too. I mean, definitions are very weird. And also how we define ourselves, how we define our societies, how we define our self-worth how we define everything. I mean, my goodness, there's so much, there's so much. And so let's start off with KJ KJ. [00:02:00] Please tell everyone out there what we just went through like our, about our gathering. That didn't sound right. Tell everyone about our session with you because I went through a lot. I really went through a lot. I'm still trying to understand what the heck happened with my head. <
Tue, May 25, 2021
Blockchain - How Tech Can Empower and Change Human Beings -#3 Social Responsibility
Blockchain #3 - Social Responsibility. Our series on Blockchain and how it will empower people, with Prodessor Mostafa Purmehdi continues. This episode defines social responsibility and talks about how companies and countries have behaved (the good, the bad, and the really horrifying like King Leopold II of Belgium). From Greenwashing to individual responsibility, to how beneficial it is to depend on entities like humanitarian and ecological groups to keep companies honest and if that even makes a difference. How can we start now to have true social responsibility? We discuss ways in which blockchain is the key to ending human and enironmental suffering and injustice.
Sun, May 23, 2021
Hope
In this episode: To hope is to intend with some possibility of fulfillment, to be optimistic, to expect a wish. The noun form of it is a general feeling that some desire will be fulfilled. All this is in anticipation that something will happen. We're waiting on something. Faith and hope are complimentary. Faith is the substance of things hoped for. Faith is grounded in the reality of the past. Hope is looking to the reality of the future. While everybody is really trying to live their best lives, you can't, you don't always, you can try, you can strive. But the world has a nasty habit of giving you the yin and the yang, the good and the bad, the male and the female in equal portions in your life. Sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down We also talk about being vulnerable and how that is seen as weakness. We don't talk about any of this. And I wonder why. Is it seen as weakness? What is it? Is that we don't have time to even talk? Is it because there is no one around that's listening? We talk about the work of Dr. Mario Martinez and how culture affects your health and one’s aging process. And it's all about belief; the belief system. If we come together, we can create something that we thought was impossible. We can create a society that is peaceful. Matt says there's a number of different switches we need to flip as an entire society. Uh, I think one of the switches we need to flip this, this concept of scarcity that I can't have something because somebody else already has it, or because, or thinking that there's such a limited pool of resources that I have to somehow or another, get it from someone else. I have to steal it. I have to grab an opportunity away from someone. So this is a whole kind of thought of scarcity. And I think we also need to stay very conscious of understanding exactly what success is. Success is not a $50 million home with 10 exotic cars and et cetera, et cetera, and children in Harvard, you know, I think that that's certainly a measure, but it's not the only measure of what success really looks like. Can we feel rich without the big mansion? Can we feel rich without the stuff? Remember that pain loss longing that you go through has a beginning, a middle and an end, and you should respect all three, especially, hopefully the end, if it's something bad. Transcript: [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello? Fawn and Matt: [00:00:01] Hello? Hello. Fawn: [00:00:02] I like how you smile when you say hello .Lately, I'm just like, hello. Matt: [00:00:08] Good morning. Good aftern
Wed, May 19, 2021
CONNECTED – Roundtable #4 , The Reemergence
This roundtable is about the physiological feat that’s necessary for survival; hibernation, and the various forms we go within and “slumber” to regain not only life, but understanding. And then we discuss the ways in which we reemerge and blossom. How do we come out of our slumber spiritually, emotionally and physically after the time we have just lived through? We share all the different ways in nature we go within (from all the different periods of time animals hibernate, to being an introvert, a society going through dark times, to living inside of a pandemic) and all the different ways we can reemerge and come out better and more powerful. We talk about the meaning of renaissance (rebirth from Latin) and how throughout history we have come out of the darkness, and reemerged with art and imagination and created societies with greater knowledge of spirituality, ingenuity, creativity, ambition, scholarly feats, and awakening to a beautiful world. We are entering a new world that we are building together. This roundtable is about the physiological feat that’s necessary for survival; hibernation, and the various forms we go within and “slumber” to regain not only life, but understanding. And then we discuss the ways in which we reemerge and blossom. How do we come out of our slumber spiritually, emotionally and physically after the time we have just lived through? We share all the different ways in nature we go within (from all the different periods of time animals hibernate, to being an introvert, a society going through dark times, to living inside of a pandemic) and all the different ways we can reemerge and come out better and more powerful. We talk about the meaning of renaissance (rebirth from Latin) and how throughout history we have come out of the darkness, and reemerged with art and imagination and created societies with greater knowledge of spirituality, ingenuity, creativity, ambition, scholarly feats, and awakening to a beautiful world. We are entering a new world that we are building together. TRANSCRIPT: [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] All right, everyone. Welcome to connected our round table of friends showing how truly interconnected we all are. Today's topic is reemergence reemergence. A sperm whale can spend around 90 minutes hunting underwater before coming back to surface to breathe .Different types of whales, spend different amounts of time underwater and some go deeper than others. What's interesting about whales is they exhale first, getting rid of all the stale air in their lungs before taking in fresh clean air, a fresh, clean breath. As humans, we tend to breathe in first and then exhale, leaving a lot of stale air in our lungs. So as humans, we absorb only 5% of the oxygen in a single breath. [00:01:00] A whale can absorb as much as 90% of oxygen in each
Tue, May 18, 2021
Blockchain - How Tech Can Empower and Change Human Beings - Blockchain, ART, MUSIC, and NFTs with Mostafa Purmehdi
Notes from this episode: ART and NFT Have you all noticed how change seems to be occurring more and more often and happening faster and bigger than ever before? The thing about change is that it is never comfortable; there is a period of growth and adjustment. What we may forget is that we can’t be complacent and say to ourselves “I’ve made it through this change and now I can relax “. It's stressful when you see change coming. And when it comes, it's really stressful to adapt to the change. And then what gets us into trouble is when we think this change we’ve adapted to is it. The thing about it is it's ever evolving. So you can't say, okay, I can be comfortable now that we’ve made it into this new phase and think this will be it forever. And it's not. As soon as you get the hang of things, things change again. We have to be comfortable in the ongoing movement of life that is ever changing. We are on the precipice of a huge revolutionary shift that we’re about to experience with technology. Mostafa: “We are going to experience huge shifts. The good news is this is not the first time human race; our civilized society has been going through this. We've done this a few in the history, but every time seems, kind of new because, we are going through a new phenomenon.” Some questions we ask: The art world: What’s Fawn’s beef with that industry? How is art going to be transformed creatively and financially by blockchain and the NFT? How do we gain power over our intellectual properties? Are we just going to have an NFT for everything? How do we acquire NFTs? How does music come into this and musicians and making money from their art? All these different facets of art and our different definitions of art; how does that work with NFTs? Can a musician who's just starting out or even if they're not, like, let's say you're a Taylor Swift or something; how does the NFT change music? How could NFTs benefit musicians and terms of use? Mostafa : “ I think with NFT, artists are gonna make their art more accessible. They're gonna rethink how much they charge different content creators for using their art. And it's gonna facilitate a replication of their art, which eventually will be of benefit to them.” Digital image with an NFT: can I make copies for all my friends? MOSTAFA: HEADLINER OPTION Suzanne vega. That's great. Some body did an I dream of Jeannie version of it. So I heard this tune and when I was a kids didn't know who she was, certainly, but it really, you know, sat into my memory and I, and I would hum it all the time, never knowing who sang it at first time. Certainly didn't know the story behind it until very recently. The way it works is that she made this song out of a real-life experience she had; this Tom's Diner is where she used
Sun, May 16, 2021
Keep the Faith
Fawn and Matt open this show with the admission that it’s hard to feel inspired to talk about a friendly world when the world sometimes appears anything but friendly. All countries and cultures have been experiencing so much hardship and with the rise in violence in the United States, Fawn finds it hard to keep a positive outlook. But they try, and they recall all the kindness they have experienced in their lives. They keep telling and recalling stories until they begin to feel more hope. TRANSCRIPT: Keep the Faith – episode 41 Fawn and Matt open this show with the admission that it’s hard to feel inspired to talk about a friendly world when the world sometimes appears anything but friendly. All countries and cultures have been experiencing so much hardship and with the rise in violence in the United States, Fawn finds it hard to keep a positive outlook. But they try, and they recall all the kindness they have experienced in their lives. They keep telling and recalling stories until they begin to feel more hope. Nugget of wisdom from Santa Monica – The rollerblading knight in shining armor who told Fawn to stop crying and to have Faith. Hall of Fame Quotes from this episode: On feeling bad or having a bad day: Matt: …everybody has those moments and those days. And I think it's so important during those days to take us back that we really take a look at and really hopefully try and remember those moments of kindness from the past and hold ourselves open to those moments of kindness coming to us in the future. On being open to kindness: Matt: “…it seems like I refused to make myself vulnerable to anything and anyone. And so nobody could really give me an act of kindness because I didn't even allow them the opportunity to even understand what that may look like, because I was so like guarded and angry.” Matt: “…it can be interesting the way an act of kindness can get magnified; Just the tiniest little thing.” Matt: “You never know where your kindness is going and you never know if your kindness will rebound on you, which is why you should be kind.” Matt : “kindness is one of those things that grows. And sometimes you don't even know why things are going well, but we'd like to say like attracts, like, and what you focus on grows. So if you focus on kindness, if you focus on helping people, if you focus on, in those moments, hopefully, and we've experienced it in those moments where you need people to be kind, when you're in that situation, as I like to say, Battlestar Galactica, quote out there for you, sometimes you gotta roll the hard six. When you're in those situations, if you have been kind in the past and you're drawing in kindness, then you know, hopefully you will receive it. Bec
Wed, May 12, 2021
CONNECTED - Roundtable #3 Visualize This
Roundtable #3 Today we celebrate our friend, Beth Hewitt’s book “The Power of Scripting” which teaches exactly how to go about having the life we dream of. We speak of visualization and the utter joy and delight of a moment. We also come together to create a vision for a better world. QUOTE HALL OF FAME FROM THIS EPISODE: KJ quote: “…things are pretty, pretty wonky and bananas right now on many levels, but also on so many levels and intimate levels in the kitchen of our homes are these miracles that are happening.” Paul: “…in the past three years of my life, when I got clean and sober off drugs and alcohol, my life has just flourished into my dreams coming true. You know, my mind just forgets that so quickly, so I just have to challenge that mind every day… KJ: …the grace to ask; the grace to pause and notice (as Beth had mentioned, and we've mentioned in the conversation before) the grace and space to notice that you have within your five, six senses, everything you need to manifest and bring, forth. So my hope and holding for us, each other, and the world, is the permission and the kindness and the grace and the space to ask for it. We learn Katy overcame MS at an early age with the help of visualization. Learn how Katy and Nii came to the point where they could call the shots of how they work and when they work and how that has been an extremely powerful thing for them in their careers. Find out a visualization technique Paul used to become sober and get clarity. Nii explains the importance of understanding that you can create money without you having to trade time for dollars, and that money is just a tool that has nothing to do with accumulating money, but it really is about the experience of a quality of life. TRANSCRIPT: [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello, everyone. Hello friends. This is connected. We have a round table show called connected. Here we are. This is it. Here we are. We are with a group of friends here to discuss how truly interconnected we all are. Today's subject is the power of visualization. What we are creating for each other, what we are creating in our lives, the power of the word, the power of visualization. Basically. Matt, did I miss something? Matt: [00:00:36] No, you didn't miss a darn thing, Fawn: [00:00:38] are you sure? Matt: [00:00:38] Pretty sure. Fawn: [00:00:39] Okay. So for example, years ago, Matt and I, it was one I was born. Was Allegra born back then, do you know what I'm going to talk about? The coffee, the coffee. Where are we with Allegra? That it doesn't matter. Anyway, I digress. So we're, we're getting coffee. We're on Bainbridge Island and we were [00:01:00] par
Tue, May 11, 2021
Blockchain - How Tech Can Empower and Change Human Beings - Blockchain: Utopia or Dystopia with Mostafa Purmehdi
How Tech Can Empower and Change Human Beings - Blockchain: Utopia or Dystopia with Mostafa Purmehdi This begins a block series of our talks about tech. If you are a techie like Matt, this is for you. If you’re not a techie like Fawn, this is for you also, because we are talking about the future and how to get a handle on it and get in on the pioneering wave. Don’t you wish you knew more before the dotcom era so you could have made decisions that set you up better for success? This is the podcast series for you! We have Matt and a professor of economics, social scientist, and researcher of advanced tech to guide and explain from the basics to the hard core stuff. This is a free, valuable, and rare education! In this episode, we begin with the NFT, what it is, and we get into what Blockchain is and what it does and what it will be capable of in the future. We talk about DEMOCRATIZATION of money, tech, education, and more. First: A non-fungible token (NFT) is a unit of data stored on a digital ledger, called a blockchain, that certifies a digital asset to be unique and therefore not interchangeable. NFTs can be used to represent items such as photos, videos, audio and other types of digital files. This immediately peaks Fawn’s interest (as a photographer), knowing that recently one single digital photograph sold for $69 MILLION DALLARS!!!! We learn how people are making money like this. Foremost: This is a conversation between friends, the kind that nourishes, and changes our understanding so that we can thrive. TRANSCRIPT: [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello, everybody. Matt: [00:00:01] Hello. Fawn: [00:00:02] I'm very excited about today. This is your neck of the woods, honey. Matt: [00:00:06] Well, getting close. Fawn: [00:00:07] We're talking tech today, guys. We're talking how technology changes human beings with our very dear friend Mostafa Purmehdi. He is this amazing professor. And I know this from personal experience. He was one of my mentors the past year. He still is actually. He is a social scientist with a PhD in marketing. He's a brilliant professor, such a compassionate, lovely human being. He's a marketing faculty member at the university of the Fraser Valley. He is a consultant for various businesses on new product development, consumer behavior and advanced technologies. You can reach him here: N E X three dot X, Y, Z. That's [00:01:00] his website: NEX3.xyz. It's N E X three dot X, Y, Z. And trust me, you want to learn from Mostafa. He has all the secrets of our future, and he is so generous about sharing it. So if you don't want to be left behind, if you want to understand what the heck is happening in the world with business, with our financial futures with pretty much everythi
Sun, May 09, 2021
Laughter is Medicine with Maz Jobrani, Tehran, and Mostafa Purmehdi
Two brilliant comics and a wise professor join our talk. Comics (and fellow hanvatans) Maz Jobrani and Tehran help us to explore the healing that happens in our society when we have levity. The principle function of laughter is the creation and the deepening of our social bonds. Laughter is a social tool, a form of communication conversations, if you've noticed that have laughter in them are the most long lasting. Laughter is a signal that says I'm wanting to engage with you further. It's a way to test the boundaries of our relationships and it's medicine. https://www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com/ Maz Jobrani and Tehran: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/back-to-school-with-maz-jobrani/id1459194552 TRANSCRIPT: [00:00:00] Matt: [00:00:00] Hello, and welcome to a special edition of our friendly world with laundry mat. Fawn: [00:00:05] Yes, we have three amazing people. We have, a university professor Mostafa Purmehdi. We have two amazing comics, TV, personalities, movie personalities. It's Matt: [00:00:17] a slash slash slash slash so many things. Fawn: [00:00:20] Maz Jobrani and Tehran. And they could only be with us for like 40 minutes. and Matt: [00:00:27] We start the conversation with Mostafa they come in, they come, we continue the conversation with Mostafa. Fawn: [00:00:33] Yeah. They come in about the 10 minute point. I think of our show and then they leave and we kept the conversation going. We just kept talking, couldn't stop ourselves. Their time is very tight and they had to go onto their podcast, which is "Back to School with Maz Jobrani". We hope you enjoy have fun. Here it is… Laughter is Medicine with Maz Jobrani and Tehran and University Professor, Mostafa Purmehdi [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Hello friends. Hello. Hello. Welcome to our friendly world. Today, we have three very special guests. I'm going to get right into it. Two of them will show up in about, 10 minutes, but, right now we have a very dear friend Mostafa Purmehdi. Mostafa: [00:00:17] Hey. Fawn: [00:00:19] Hello. Mostafa: [00:00:21] Hi Matt. It's so nice to be on the show. Fawn: [00:00:24] A little background on our friend Mostafa,Mostafa is this brilliance university professor. He is a social scientist with a PhD in marketing. His website is NEX3.xyz it's spelled N E X three dot X, Y, Z. If you want to get ahold of him, please do he, Mostafa is my mentor. over the summer or during the pandemic of 1920, 19, 20, 20, 20. Um, Mostafa: [00:00:53] That was a while back. We go way back way back. <
Wed, May 05, 2021
CONNECTED - Roundtable #2 - Greetings From Around the World - How we connect and see each other
This Roundtable we discuss all the beautiful and the variety of greetings from around the world. We ask the questions we normally ask in our culture like “How are you” and go deep into the answers we tend to get like “Fine”, which in some circles actually means Freaked-out Insecure Neurotic and Emotional. Why do we ask blank questions and expect a blank response? Do we really care? Is it just noise? Are we truly aware of how we are feeling and how others are feeling? Are we ignoring clues and signs that someone really needs us? How can we be better? How can we be authentically open and kind? How can we change the cultural norms that have become so automatic and without insight and create a more present relationship with those around us? TRANSCRIPT: [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Welcome dear friend welcome to our round table. This is connected. We are interconnected. Thank you for joining us. We are a table of friends and we're all interconnected. We are connected here to create an awareness of the family that we truly are. KJ: [00:00:18] Hi everybody. , I'm KJ. I've met some of you before. I've hung out with Fawn and Matt on a couple of occasions and it was probably the most fun of my life. And so I'm so pleased to be here today. I'm chatting with our friends at this round table. , the discussions that we can come up with when we're not hitting record are fantastic. So it's pretty wonderful that we're hitting record and letting folks in to the fun that we're having. So a little about me, I'm a licensed psychotherapist and I have had a lifelong obsession with a couple of things. One of them being words and definitions and another [00:01:00] being cheese. And so we could talk about cheese and words at length at another time. possibly cheesy words (KJ's podcast: Stories of Astonishing Light with KJ Nasrul), Fawn: [00:01:06], grilled, grilled cheese sandwiches. KJ: [00:01:10] That's right. That's right. I have. Perfect. Well, I'll be so bold to say that I've gotten very, very good at making grilled cheese sandwiches. And so we can definitely chat about that. Fawn: [00:01:21] comfort food, KJ: [00:01:22] yeah. So in my, in my, in my spare time, Fawn: [00:01:26] spare KJ: [00:01:27] time. Okay. So in my spare time, I , I do a podcast called stories of astonishing light and that. Is a space a lot like this in which I exchanged stories with healers and artists and musicians and, , visionaries about the stories that we know, the stories that are about us, the stories that we see. Fawn: [00:01:52] We're so happy to have you all of you. And I think it's going to be, like musical chairs because there's a group of us, a group [00:02:00] of friends, and we're here as family, your family, our friends listen
Sun, May 02, 2021
Conflict Resolution with our friend Rock (Rockwell Felder of SquadCast)
Our friend Rock is here!!!!!!!! We met recently and it feels like a family reunion! This week on Our Friendly World with Fawn and Matt, we veer away from what most people in the podcast world normally talk to Rock (Rockwell Felder) about. Rock is not only the co-founder and CFO of SquadCast, co-host of the podcast “Between Two Mics”. He’s a martial artist, a beautiful and kind human being, and a sweet friend! How do we deal with conflict in life (friendships, work, life…) We discuss martial arts as a means of communication, harmony, connection, and peace. Our talk is more than it seems. We discuss conflict resolution in today’s world; physically, spiritually, as well as emotionally. We start with a quote from Rickson Gracie (“Sometimes, you don’t have to win, you cannot win. But that has nothing to do with losing.”) and share thoughts on winning, losing, learning, and growing in life; at work and in relationships. Rock shares his experience with Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, on and off the mat. Matt shares his philosophy on learning Aikido and living his practice at work. Fawn shares how she got out of a hairy situation at a Hollywood club and how she got out of a bad situation. We share different ways to flow with conflict. Thank you, Rock! You are such a lovely guest!!!!!!!!!!!!! Rock’s info: Twitter: https://twitter.com/rockwellfelder?lang=en LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rockwell-felder-cpa/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rockwellfelder/ Podcast: https://squadcast.fm/between-2-mics/ Website: https://squadcast.fm/ #Squadcast.fm #podcast #between2mics #CFO #Nuggetofwisdom, #SantaMonica, #Aikido, #crosstraining, #martialarts, #BrazilianJiu-Jitsu #RicksonGracie #wrestling, #respect, #honor, #losing, #winning, #beingagoodstudent, #communication, #family, #goodteammate, #kindness, #conflictresolution, TRANSCRIPT [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Okay. Hello. Welcome to our friendly world. Nugget of wisdom from Santa Monica. And thank you, Matt, for reminding me, because I totally forgot about this. I had a completely different nugget today. nugget of wisdom. I cross-trained, for a while, Matt was a pure heart, strict Aikido but I cross-trained. And I went through so many different schools at the same time. Matt: [00:00:28] You did wing Chun. You did the same time. Fawn: [00:00:33] You did keep some of it away from some of the teachers because they would punish me. Matt: [00:00:3
Wed, April 28, 2021
CONNECTED - Roundtable #1 - A Kind World
Sometimes the world can seem unbearable. Today, beyond introducing you to new friends, I want to focus on one thing we have witnessed on earth, to hopefully give light and encouragement for all of us to look towards the beauty and magic out there. This is our first roundtable with great friends to introduce you to from around the world. Transcript [00:00:00] music Fawn, and Matt: [00:00:00] Hello friends. Welcome to our friendly world. This is, this is Fawn and Matt, we are starting something new today. It's a series that we're calling connected. It's all about how we are all interconnected. We have a round table here. We're going to do this every week. We're going to have amazing friends. And we're all from different walks of life. We're all quite different. We all have different jobs on this planet. And the whole point is to make our circle grow, to make our friendship circle grow. Most of us here have never, ever met one another in person and we all have different takes on life. Today we're starting this whole thing. This is our very, very first episode. And when you scroll through every episode will be called "CONNECTED", followed by [00:01:00] or word, and today's word is kindness. To start off, I want to talk about our connections to one another. What we're starting here with this round table is much bigger than this little episode. What we're doing is we're going to start conversations, having to do with everything in life, from money to you, name it. And everyone here at this round table has their particular expertise. And if you're out there listening and you want to join us, please send me an email. And we'll, we'll gladly, gladly accept you into the round table. We're sitting here right now at our kitchen table, and we're surrounded by some amazing friends. We have Beth Hewitt, Dr. Nii Darko. We have KJ Nasrul. [00:02:00] We have our beautiful friend, Katie, our beautiful friend, Paul, and some of them you've heard on our episodes before there are other people coming next week. Kindness. What is that? That's our theme today and I'm here to bring all the aspects of life together. We're all touched by money. We're all touched by health, where we all have our rituals. We have life and we share a life together. The truth is that we are all connected. And that is this whole topic. This whole topic of connection is that it's to have a get together. Are interconnected family. We're going to converse about it as friends. We all have different perspectives. I'm sure if we really got into this deep, I'm sure whoever's at the table. We all have different political beliefs. We have different ideas. We've all seen different things [00:03:00] walking on the earth. And the point is to practice conversation. Sometimes it may become uncomfortable, but we're in the comfort of our home. All of us right now. And you're home. Y
Sun, April 25, 2021
Thank Goodness We Saw It Coming, Visualization with special Guest Beth Hewiit
This week we talk about our dreams, our deepest hopes, visualizing them and having the faith that we will succeed (through all the ups and downs of life). We not only discuss holding these dreams for ourselves, but how to hold dreams for others. We are joined by our friend Beth Hewitt who is sharing her insights on visualization as we celebrate her book, “The Power of Scripting.” Some takeaway quotes: Matt: “It seems like the old saying when the student is ready, the master will come. It seems like sometimes in those moments that there are people or whatever that reach out to you, because we're all kind of interconnected in a way that science can't quite explain.” Fawn: “When bad things happen, it’s your opportunity to say, I don't choose that. I want this instead.” Beth: “And it's about taking those reins and getting clear on what you do want to do, because I think , when you know what you don't want, when you know that you don't want a horrible things happening to you, you know, the flip side of that, which is, you know, what you do want, you know, what that different reality looks like, and that gives you a clue as to what you might be able to create and gives you something to cling on to”. “…whenever something bad happens to you, you just got to find that little sliver of hope and light of how you can view this in a different way. And there's always something, whatever the challenge, there’s always opportunity”. QUOTE HALL OF FAME FROM THIS EPISODE: “There's always people there who are willing to help you and support you”. “You have to find the lightness in the darkness”. Quote from Beth’s book: “"You should know that you will have some ups and downs along the way. It wouldn't be life if you didn't, but when quote unquote horrible things happen to us, we have a choice. In fact, in any moment or circumstance, we have the option to view things from a different perspective, and we can decide to pick ourselves up and move on. And that when things are going wrong, you will forever have a tool that helps you to take back control to imagine and describe through your own words, the life you'd rather be living. And before, you know it, you will." Beth’s book: "The Power of Scripting" To buy Beth’s book: www.thepowerofscripting.com Contact Beth Hewitt: https://visualiseyou.com/ Beth’s podcast: https://visualise-you.captivate.fm/ #SantaMonica #champagneSundays #rituals #visualization #celebration #wish #makeawish #livingthelife #fieldofdreams #findingthelightinthedarkness, #abrahamhicks, #CarolineMyss, #thecoffeebean, #Wishbaker, #OurFriendlyWorldwithFawnandMatt Transcript Episode # 38 “Thank
Sun, April 25, 2021
Thank Goodness We Saw It Coming, Visualization with special Guest Beth Hewitt
This week we talk about our dreams, our deepest hopes, visualizing them and having the faith that we will succeed (through all the ups and downs of life). We not only discuss holding these dreams for ourselves, but how to hold dreams for others. We are joined by our friend Beth Hewitt who is sharing her insights on visualization as we celebrate her book, “The Power of Scripting.” Some takeaway quotes: Matt: “It seems like the old saying when the student is ready, the master will come. It seems like sometimes in those moments that there are people or whatever that reach out to you, because we're all kind of interconnected in a way that science can't quite explain.” Fawn: “When bad things happen, it’s your opportunity to say, I don't choose that. I want this instead.” Beth: “And it's about taking those reins and getting clear on what you do want to do, because I think , when you know what you don't want, when you know that you don't want a horrible things happening to you, you know, the flip side of that, which is, you know, what you do want, you know, what that different reality looks like, and that gives you a clue as to what you might be able to create and gives you something to cling on to”. “…whenever something bad happens to you, you just got to find that little sliver of hope and light of how you can view this in a different way. And there's always something, whatever the challenge, there’s always opportunity”. QUOTE HALL OF FAME FROM THIS EPISODE: “There's always people there who are willing to help you and support you”. “You have to find the lightness in the darkness”. Quote from Beth’s book: “"You should know that you will have some ups and downs along the way. It wouldn't be life if you didn't, but when quote unquote horrible things happen to us, we have a choice. In fact, in any moment or circumstance, we have the option to view things from a different perspective, and we can decide to pick ourselves up and move on. And that when things are going wrong, you will forever have a tool that helps you to take back control to imagine and describe through your own words, the life you'd rather be living. And before, you know it, you will." Beth’s book: "The Power of Scripting" To buy Beth’s book: www.powerofscripting.com Contact Beth Hewitt: https://visualiseyou.com/ Beth’s podcast: https://visualise-you.captivate.fm/ #SantaMonica #champagneSundays #rituals #visualization #celebration #wish #makeawish #livingthelife #fieldofdreams #findingthelightinthedarkness, #abrahamhicks, #CarolineMyss, #thecoffeebean, #Wishbaker, #OurFriendlyWorldwithFawnandMatt Transcript Episode # 38 “Thank Goodness! with Beth Hewitt” [00:00:00] Matt: [00:00:00] We're an interracial couple with two kids wanting to do something that highlights the power of friendship and what
Mon, April 19, 2021
Breaking the Sound Barrier with Michael Joly
Breaking the Sound Barrier with Michael Joly On this episode we explore sound and how it changes and connects us; how to hear, listen and distinguish the truth in our hearts and souls. We also have a three minute Tone Therapy session with the use of Michael’s invention: the N.O.W. sound device which when you listen for 3 minutes and 20 seconds has the similar outcome of a long meditation. Wise words from this podcast: Michael Joly: “All forms arise from no form.” “Having a fog experience like that, can kind of bring us back to this primordial pre-formed time. And I think that's part of what we're recognizing in a fog experience; is it's not quite in form yet.” “…the Holy Spirit doesn't speak first nor the loudest. “ “…sitting in stillness and allowing stillness and allowing spaciousness allows thus, still small, very quiet, inspired thoughts to arise.” “I realized that when I followed sound so intensely like that in the context of my job as an audio engineer, in the context of, of, you know, designing products and, uh, and listening to them, , that I found, I found I could not be thinking at the same time as I, as listening, if I was truly bringing and intentional attention to listening, right. I could not be thinking at the same time. And then only years later, did I say, Whoa, wait a minute. That sort of matches up with some of the check boxes of what meditation is and intentional unintentional, unintentional nonjudgmental focus on the present moment.” “Let’s bundle up all the lies and turn our backs to them. Turn our backs to that profanity and inhabit truth and see how that feels.” “…this is another type of mindfulness practice that you have to have an intention. You have to willfully use your attention…combining the word attention with an, a, an intention. You have to have an intention to listen attentively and to direct your attention.” “A shift in focus as an aid; these are aids; to give the mind another form object to alight upon, and doing that intentionally.” Fawn: “Where the magic happens is in the space of the unknown… everything manifests within that space of nothingness where it's not formed yet.” Transcript: Breaking the Sound Barrier Episode 37 with Michael Joly [00:00:00] Track 1: [00:00:00] We're an interracial couple with two kids wanting to do something that highlights the power of friendship and what it means to be in the company of true friends. We're going to move our society away and out of the loneliness epidemic and into a friendlier, happier world. Welcome to our friendly world. Better, stronger, together. fawn: [00:00:42] Good morning. Good afternoon. Hello. Hello. You know the sound of the ocean, the sound of ocean waves. I'm getting right into at first negative wisdom from Santa Monica. Th
Mon, April 12, 2021
The Imprint - We Are Creating Each Other
Episode 36 The Imprint - We Are Creating Each Other Side note: At the end of this show, Matt grapples with something he caught himself saying about friendship that really bothered him. So we will have to explore a second half of this topic by bringing an expert on, for another show to remedy things. Pearl of wisdom from Bruno’s in Santa Monica – an entity/ parental/protective figure that helps raise the children. This episode is about leadership. Matt explains the concept of servant/leader. We discuss true leadership and what that truly is. We discuss tantrums. In all aspects of life and culture, we are here to take care of each other. We are creating each other. Creativity - creative energies are brewing and are very strong. I always think about collaboration and creativity; the way we influence each other in conversation, our experience with one another and how they create an imprint; I can be imprinted by your behavior. My behavior could be imprinted on you. Your behavior towards me can create and impression of you that will be forever imprinted. It happens in relationships, in business, with leadership, with friendship; all of the ships. #leader #ittakesavillage #parenthood #friendship #leadership, #business #tantrums #servant #servantleader #despit #compassion #undercoverboss #tedlasso #ellewoods #legallyblonde #aikido Transcript [00:00:00] Fawn: [00:00:00] Good morning. Hello? Oh, Matt: [00:00:05] you're gonna have to cut out that first one second. I said evening Fawn: [00:00:08] and now I'm not cutting anything. Oh, dear. How are you guys? Welcome to our friendly world. This is fun. How are you doing? What do you love to, Matt: [00:00:19] what'd you doing? Oh man. I'm feeling energized today. You're in trouble. Fawn: [00:00:23] I, I was, I know, you know what? I, I woke up feeling like I was in trouble. My mind is really preoccupied. I feel not so light in the head, like too many thoughts, too many. Responsibilities too many wants and desires and too many frustrations in my head right now. Matt: [00:00:44] I've been there, but feeling like laser-focused, I'm Fawn: [00:00:48] glad. Okay. I will start with a Pearl of wisdom, Pearl of wisdom, because I usually start by saying it's a nugget of wisdom from Santa Monica. This one is a [00:01:00] Pearl because it has to do with. Transcending time and being a parent, being a grandparent or not that you're a grandparent or parent per se, but it's the feeling, it's the responsibility aspect of it. It's the aspect of taking care of someone regardless of your age and taking care of them as far as emotional goes. , if you guys have listened to the very, very first it's called the mentor,
Mon, April 05, 2021
A Kind World with special guest Barry Lane
This episode, we are visiting with our lovely and talented friend who travels around the country teaching kindness to school children (and people of all ages, really). He is a phenomenally kind, beautiful human being, writer, publisher, musician, husband, father, great friend, Barry Lane! This episode will calm your senses and make you feel way better about the world! Barry even sings to us! And we discuss the way of kindness. Enjoy this very important episode. to contact us: www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com or www.ourfriendlyworld.com To contact Barry: www.forcefieldforgood.com If you enjoy our show, please contribute by leaving us a little something, or a big something ;) buymeacoffee.com/friendlyspace Transcript: Episode 36 - A Kind World with Barry Lane [00:00:00] Track 1: [00:00:00] And Matt, we're an interracial couple with two kids wanting to do something that highlights the power of friendship and what it means to be in the company of true friends. We're going to move our society away and out of the loneliness epidemic and into a friendlier, happier world. Welcome to our friendly world. Better, stronger together, guys, listen to this. Barry Barry, will you lead us in please? Sure. [00:01:00] no worries. No more fears, something new between the years someone hits you. Turn your cheek. The word peak is the day. The new day now is you can judge me by my skin kick in time to look within treat you the truth is on the track, but no one talks behind your back is now is the new day. Now is the day, both are weak [00:02:00] is a verdict. So there's the burden sings, but more love and much less much the world go up. Hurry. Cause now is. Now is any day now is the mixed fleet of one tree live in peace and unity at the old embrace a new you, you. Now is your day. How is the day now is a new day hungry people, scared. They don't know how much we can feast the sun soak up. It's raised it's time to find a [00:03:00] better week because. Now is the new game that the day now is done. That is the perfect introduction for today. Everyone I'd like to introduce you. To our new friend Barry lane, you can find barryLane@forcefieldforgood.com where he sings and teaches kindness. And that is the subject for today. Barry is an amazing writer, musician. Publisher. Amazing human being were so fortunate to become friends with him. Welcome to our friendly world, Barry. Welcome. Oh, thank you. It's so great to be here. I feel [00:04:00] really at home. You are at home. You're literally in our home, in our kitchen virtually, ironically, you're in your home. Thank you so much for being here. I'm so happy. You're here. I wanted to talk about kindness today and I looked up the roots o
Mon, March 29, 2021
Sit Still!
Episode Sit Still! Nugget of wisdom from Santa Monica: Petite Sensei (Francoise Petite)– make yourself at home in the uncomfortableness. We talk about being comfortable in the many forms being comfortable and uncomfortableness exists. Fawn brings up her friend Eowyn and the subject of being comfortable with money no matter where you sit in the financial realm. How does being still and not being still; multitasking contribute to loneliness? How can the alarm clock help you? Capacity is a big factor in the loneliness epidemic or in people having their relationships fractured. We don't have enough capacity to be able to offer anything to anyone else. When you have so many things vying for your attention, you end up with a piece of over here, a piece of you over there, and you're not there. You’re not present. You're scattered throughout all these other places and tasks. And that's where you are fragmented all over the place. So you're not able to totally be with your kids a hundred percent and not to be there for your friends. So you can't notice that one look that you need to notice that would quite possibly save someone’s life, or a look someone will give in a split second that gives you information. You'll miss out on stuff like that. And that's being distracted. We are distracted from each other.
Mon, March 22, 2021
Capacity - moving to expansiveness – neuroscience, neurobiology and the social engagement system
Show notes Episode 33 “Capacity - moving to expansiveness – neuroscience, neurobiology and the social engagement system” with our guest Pamela Stokes There is a connection far beyond our bodies. There is a part of the neuroscience and the neurobiology that is called the social engagement system. And it's a grouping of five different things in our physiology that allows us to connect with ourselves. But also to connect with each other This week we get into the neuroscience of our connections with one another and we figure out how to begin the healing process for our society. Some topics include: the science of brain and body, trauma based therapeutic movement and brain training, movement and neuroplasticity, mindful motion, the insula cortex and how it is the key that allows us to connect with others. This episode is really big on more than one level. It’s a little over 90 minutes, but it’s packed with techniques that will help our world. Trust me when I say, you don’t want to miss a minute of it. We begin with the question of how to get out of operating from full capacity mode (meaning we all have so much on our “plate” from responsibilities, to worries and thoughts, to trauma, fear, and pain) and unable to be open to others, to getting to an embracing, loving, giving state; getting back to social engagements and selfless constructs, after so much we have been through. Also, can trauma actually be beneficial? How can we be there for each other (as a society) when we are all in pain? Who gets to go first in being heard and cared for, when we all need comforting and help? Today, we have some answers that will begin this process. Guys, everything is going to be OK! - more than OK, actually! to connect with Pamela https://www.linkedin.com/in/moveintoresilience/ https://www.moveintoresilience.com/about-pamela/ Let's connect! Email us through: www.ourfriendlyworld.com and also: www.ourfriendlyworldpodcast.com Please leave us a review on iTunes to help our podcast reach more people. Thank you, Fawn and Matt
Mon, March 15, 2021
Capacity
We talk about rituals in life from big rituals to small rituals. We can develop connections with people when there's a ritual, and it can be the ritual having a cup of coffee, taking a walk, going to the farmer's market or sharing a table is a beautiful ritual. And that's one of the things I would like to say is, we can benefit from getting in the habit of sharing what we're not comfortable sharing until we're comfortable at it; for example, sharing a table with a stranger. This brings us to this episode’s nugget of wisdom from our mentor, Santa Monica. Today’s topic stems from Musashi Miyamoto and the “A Book of Five Rings” as we discuss the fifth rule: “Distinguish between gain and loss in worldly matters.” Capacity. We define it. We analyze it and we come to the conclusion that love has infinite capacity.
Mon, March 08, 2021
Unseen Forces w/ special guest Rachel Chevalier
Episode 31 “Unseen Forces” Perceive those things, which cannot be seen. Understand what cannot be seen by the eye. How do we access this information undetectable to the human eye? How do we access information beyond the five senses? That's because we have a six tenths and everybody, every human on the planet has a sixth sense. “Be patient with everything that remains unsolved in your heart. Try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books written in a foreign language. Do not now look for answers. It cannot now be given to you because you could not live them. It is a question of experiencing everything. At present, you need to live the question. Perhaps you will gradually, without even noticing it, find yourself experiencing the answer some distant day. - Rainer Maria Rilke Letters to a Young Poet. Rachel: “Science is huge. It's a big world, science. Everything about being human; of frequency, frequencies, you know, there's hundreds of thousands, if not, who knows, maybe unlimited numbers of frequencies and all of those frequencies are part of this creation that we belong to.” Rachel: “Being able to share freely our different human experiences, this is how we all grow and evolve together into communities that care about each other's health.” To reach Rachel Chevalier: https://rachelchevalier.com/
Mon, March 01, 2021
Behave Yourself!
2 nuggets of wisdom from Santa Monica: Calmly and reverently carrying on, holding your center in love, no matter what is going on around you in the outside world. It is an honor to be invited to someone’s home. Treat it as such. We also talk about “entitlement” and what that means. What are we entitled to in life? This leads us to the topic of appreciation. This week we travel to different countries (via a book and our kitchen table) to discuss how we’re supposed to behave in different countries. If we are in quarantine and can’t travel for now, might as well brush up on etiquette from different countries. Which countries do you greet with a handshake? Who kisses once on one cheek and twice on the other cheek, hold hands, not hold hands, late or punctual, to gift or not to gift when visiting someone’s house, where to not use your hands for gestures as you speak, eye contact or no eye contact, to say yes or no thank you when you are offered something, to use a fork or spoon, to compliment or not to compliment…every culture is different. We need to behave ourselves, understand each other’s customs, marvel in each other’s beauty and enjoy each other’s company when we get together again. Snippets from our talk: To take one step towards the next step; to go from left foot to right foot, is all about imbalance. It's a leap of faith because in between the steps, you don't have any balance at all; no connection to the earth. You're basically mid-flight. We work with that imbalance and get to a point where it becomes a beautiful, graceful step. Walking is really kind of this controlled fall. Everything is always in a state of imbalance. Just make the world more beautiful, and in a reverent way, hold that beauty until that beauty, that love, transcends everything. Even if you have misunderstandings and conflict, if it is coming from a place of love, it will be understood. “If you have no peace in is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.” - Mother Theresa “Your words have power. Use them wisely.” - anonymous. “Raise your word, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.” - Rumi. Reach out to us: www.ourfriendlyworld.com Insta: @befriendlyworld Twitter: FriendleeBe
Mon, February 22, 2021
Friends with Money with Farnoosh Torabi
Show notes #29 Friends with Money with Farnoosh Torabi We have Farnoosh Torabi, an honored friend, American journalist, author, television personality, and personal finance expert, as our guest this week. With Farnoosh’s wisdom, things are illuminated! As Matt, Fawn, and Farnoosh converse together, Fawn realizes that some of us (she and some of her friends) live in a state of purgatory with money. We are trapped and confined to a memory or experience with money that unless we switch our thinking and snap out of, we’ll stay in hell instead of moving on, thriving, having fun, enjoying life, and creating the lives we want to be living. We explore the concept of friends with money, by not only talking about how friendships affect economy, but also how to make friends with money as an entity in Fawn’s case, because she feels mad at money (like money is this friend that has shut her out and she wants to be in that inner circle again), longs to be friends with it and get over a world of pain she experienced with it. Farnoosh creates a path to a major transformation for Fawn and Matt (listen to the very end after Farnoosh signs off) as they talk about what transpired after the show because of their time together with Farnoosh. There was not only a major money shift, but a miraculous friend connection with someone they were talking about on the show. Tune in! Some memorable and noteworthy quotes from this episode: “Oh shit, the universe was listening. I was like; I told the universe I was going to marry this guy eight years ago. It didn't forget.” “Listen, you're putting too much on money. Money is not anything. It's a rock. It's air. It's nothing, you know? It doesn't have opinions. It doesn't judge. It doesn't!” “It's not about you versus money or money versus you. It's like; who do I want to be? What is the impact that I want to make in the world? What is it that I love about myself that I want to amplify, and what I want to really contribute in a bigger way, and how can money be the tool for me to that end? And that is it. Money is YOUR servant. You don't serve money. Can you guess who said them? (It’s Farnoosh Torabi) Minute 40:53 Farnoosh tells an inspiring story about overcoming money adversity. To support Our FriendlyWorld with Fawn and Matt podcast, please leave us a review on iTunes! Keep in touch: www.ourfriendlyworld.com
Mon, February 15, 2021
Trifle
Fawn shares her experience on one of her photoshoots in India and explains the correlation to the beginning of moving back to Santa Monica and a very unusual message she received (a tiny little message that normally may have gone unnoticed) that was the first of many from this city that became her mentor. This pearl of wisdom leads us to this episode’s topic of paying attention to TRIFLES. Trifle definition: noun, 1: something of little value, substance, or importance 2: A small quantity or amount of anything. 3: Pewter of medium hardness. 4: a dessert typically consisting of plain or sponge cake often soaked with wine or spirits (such as brandy or rum) and topped with layers of preserves, custard, and cream Verb, 5: to deal lightly or without due seriousness or respect. 6: to amuse oneself daily 7: to play or toy with 8: to act or talk in an idle or frivolous way. 9: Nine to waste time to idol, 10: to pass or spend time idly or frivolously Fawn and Matt discuss A Book of Five Rings and the philosophy of Musashi Miyamoto, a Japanese samurai, from whom the lesson “pay attention to trifles” comes from. Teaching from Fawn’s college professor, Hank Wessel: pay attention to what seems boring or normal. And in that, you'll find immense beauty and profound, mysterious qualities. Pay attention to things that everyone ignores. That is where the genius is. Fawn’s thought: This also goes for paying attention to ideas and people that often go ignored. Pay attention to the aspects that the main stream is not looking at. The qualities and details that most people do not look at, recognize, or see, is really the thing that is the most interesting and soon to be followed by these same masses that have to be shown by other “trend setters” as what is cool or beautiful. The masses are just stragglers on the wave of profound thought. They are piggy backers. Matt: If you stay alert and aware, even when everything seems so ordinary, you can spot the extraordinary. That's, when sometimes you'll see $20 on the street or, you know, you'll be paying attention and somebody will say something that'll key something. One of those interesting moments, and it's a way to become closer to people. People love to tell you about the things they feel passionate or interested in, but sometimes they only hint at it or they give you a whisper… They'll say one word and you can choose to follow them down the rabbit hole or not. Fawn: Sometimes it's not a word (that exists as a trifle). Sometimes it's the disappearing of the lips that will happen in a split second. There are micro movements people make that will tell you everything in a tiny split second of a shrug of a shoulder will tell you everything. If someone's in pain and they're hiding somet
Mon, February 08, 2021
I Need a Friend
This episode features our friend Paul Martin. He songs to us and IT IS AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!! He IS AMAZING! First: Santa Monica pearl of wisdom from 5 th floor quiet painter neighbor. You never truly know what someone’s life experience is until you are invited in, or you invite THEM in.Sometimes you may look at a person you think, “Oh my God, I am probably not their cup of tea. They will probably hate me”, or you can see major differences between you, and that “there's no way that this person will like me”. Give it a chance. You never know! Fawn and Matt share their difficult weekend as Fawn pushes back the tears of her sadness and anxiety, and tells how she had to type the words “I NEED A FRIEND” to her friend Beth Hewitt (of the podcast “Visualize You w/ Beth Hewitt). Fawn describes how that changed everything and reads what Beth wrote back to her, out loud for any of you to receive Beth’s words to help you feel better as they helped Fawn. All the tears and emotions happen before Fawn and Matt introduce their honored guest Paul Martin, who wisely and kindly says: “It's really nice to hear you embracing your sadness… what I've learned, especially over the past few years of, you know, I used to be, um, an alcoholic and an addict or thing that pushed away me embracing all of those certain feelings and now that I'm clean, I get to fully embrace them. And even sadness has like a true kind of beauty with that. In a weird way, it has its own yeah sacred, special place. Um, but to truly feel it and like engage and embrace it like you did. It's just like, it works wonders. And in a weird way, like if you have the, like the perception of the it's there for a reason, you can actually sometimes like, enjoy it whilst it's happening as well; not just the benefits after”. Fawn, Matt, and Paul discuss how different cultures handle emotions and drugs. We discuss embracing each other’s emotions and what we should do when we see someone crying. Paul’s music is an embrace from an old, caring, loving, entity: And as Paul says: “…getting in touch with that vulnerability of letting go and staying in that safe space” is what it’s about. “…so there's feelings can come up and they can just feel that beauty of light. Like that's a kind of, that's like a happy sadness, and it's very important, I think, to get in touch with that side of your emotions.” We also talk MEDITATION, as Paul is not only a super talented Musician, but also a meditation coach who studied in Thailand. Paul: “…we're put here is to understand life and experience life and to understand the difference between yin and yang, what we perceive as good and bad.” Paul: “all anger derives really from the sadness.” We get into the discussion of social media… <strong
Mon, February 01, 2021
Prosperare (Prosperity)
Show notes #26 Prosperare Nugget of wisdom from Santa Monica – receiving a treat through your window, just exactly when you need it. Prosperity – PRO= towards Spera=hope spera. sperare Verb = hope for, hope. Looking at prosperity. Pro pro means towards. Sparity Comes from Spera it's Latin, Spera means hope. Prosperity, if we break it down means towards hope. My question is how can we look towards hope? What is prosperity? Fawn: “Prosperity is a universe inside of you. Do not look outside at other people. When you find yourself looking at your friends and feeling like you're left out, that right there is the opposite of prosperity. That is scarcity.” ???: How can we go from hopeless to hopeful? How can we go from feeling left out, shut out and uncared for to realizing a muffin flying through your window? Fawn: “You can use scarcity as a tool. You can use it as anger for fuel, enough to get you to a point where you're realizing you're not where you want to be. That's okay. When you feel that, instead of continuing on with that feeling of jealousy or hopelessness, we can use that feeling to get to our own core and find what we need. If I find myself feeling left out like that, that left out feeling, I'll go in the bed under the blankets and maybe have a good cry, go inside and think about my own universe; the universe inside of me. That's where my genius is. That is where it is for all of us. It’s at that center where it all gets activated. Some people call that place “the unknown” “the void”; a place where the focus is not on anything or anyone else but it is where genius is. The universe at your core will begin to magnify. From there, anything you focus on becomes activated becomes a magnet for your greatest desires, guaranteed. That's how I get my mind into the mode of prosperity. I either bake cupcakes or have a good cry. I rebuild my universe inside of myself.” Matt: “Now you see, the way I come to it is I like to surround myself with wonderful people and I've been very blessed knock on wood that I've been able to do this with both my friends and my family. And for me, when I hear about one of my friends doing something awesome, I'm very stoked for them. I'm extremely stoked for them. And typically I want to find out, well, how did it happen? Because maybe there's a template in it that I could follow, or at least it gives me a better understanding of them as a person. Now, when I feel down and everybody does it, it depends on the type of down obviously. But, if it's specifically related to work, I find one of the easiest ways for me to feel better is for me to go through my list of past accomplishments. And I've done some (in my mind at least) pretty amazing things as a software developer, as you all know. I build things from nothing. So it's just kind of like, it's almost li
Mon, January 25, 2021
Peculiar
Show notes #25 “Peculiar” Nugget of Wisdom: Jesus and the Bread Guy – Fawn recalls “… two things, two, if you pick two things in the neighborhood, within the community that are a constant, you never thought about together at the same time; in the neighborhood, you never thought had a connection. If you take two things or two people that are consistent in the neighborhood that you never connected; like they are not going to cross, or it didn't even cross your mind, but when you see it, it makes total sense. Have you ever had an epiphany like that?” This story is about two main fixtures in the Santa Monica/ Venice neighborhood that one early morning Fawn became aware had a divine, spiritual connection to one another that brought her a deeper understanding of our connections within our community. PECULIAR - pe·cu·liar /pəˈkyo͞olyər/ adjective strange or odd; unusual. Similar words: Strange, unusual, odd, funny, curious, bizarre, weird, uncanny, queer, unexpected, unfamiliar, abnormal, atypical, anomalous, untypical, different, out of the ordinary, out of the way, exceptional, rare, extraordinary, remarkable, puzzling, mystifying, mysterious, perplexing, baffling, unaccountable, incongruous, uncommon, irregular, singular, deviant, aberrant, freak, freakish, suspicious, dubious, questionable, eerie, unnatural, bizarre, backasswards, eccentric, idiosyncratic, unconventional, outlandish, offbeat, quirky, quaint, droll, zany, off-center, wacky, freaky, kooky, screwy, oddball, off the wall Opposite: normal, ordinary Particular; special. Similar words: distinctive, characteristic, distinct, different, individual BUT ALSO: Peculiar comes from Latin peculiaris, an adjective meaning "privately owned" or "special" that is derived from the word for "property," peculium. ... Peculiar borrowed the Latin meanings of peculiaris, but it eventually came to refer to qualities possessed only by a particular individual, group, or thing. An article by Jess Zafarris: The Etymoooology of “Peculiar” “Peculiar” comes from the Latin peculium, literally “property in cattle,” a meaning that lingers in “peculiar to,” meaning “belonging solely to.” Its “odd” sense arose after the term evolved to mean “distinguished, special,” describing a person or thing of great wealth or renown. Peculium was used to describe property in general, for cattle were considered the most important form of property, and wealth was often measured in livestock. Cows were especially considered a mark of wealth and social standing because they were used to expand the scale of crop production, to haul goods and weapons in trade and war, and were also (obviously) a rich source of protein. Owning, purchasing, and breeding cattle was consider
Mon, January 18, 2021
US/THEM/SYNTHESIS
Episode #24 – US/THEM/SYNTHESIS - Is it possible to have synthesis? How can we have Synthesis in society when there is so much of “us” versus “them”? Pearl of wisdom from Santa Monica: the light within can really touch someone out there that you may not know. What you do in your own home can seriously affect someone on the outside. SYNTHESIS: 1) the combination of ideas to form a theory or a system. 2) The production of chemical compounds, by reaction from simpler materials. Fawn: I have an issue with “simpler materials” for so many reasons. If you're going to take it outside the science scope (I'm going to talk about synthesis), like communication with people and culture, using the word “simple” is a mistake. If you look at something through a microscope, you can get more powerful microscopes and keep going and going and going and going as you look at any given thing. Does anything ever stop being or existing? Like numbers, is everything infinite? You look at something through a microscope, you see the smaller particles. You magnify it even more, you see even more. A flower is complex. If you look at the design of anytihing in life, if you really look at things, everything is incredibly complex. Another thing about synthesis; another definition is to combine a number of different pieces into a hole. And it made me think of the term “melting pot”. The description of a culture or society being a Melting pot always bothered me. It never sat right with me growing up. I heard that a lot, but I never really thought about why it bothered me. I was always asked (it was actually demanded of me) to erase my culture; to erase my identity, not only growing up in the United States, like to become Americanized, but also within my family who was very terrified of having to escape from a country that was in turmoil, to erase who I was. And even though my family loved their culture and wanted to keep their culture, they had to flee the country that they were originally from, come to a new place and where they had to deal with a whole new set of problems and persecution in so many ways. There was this confusion of, do we assimilate? Do we keep our traditions or get rid of them? Do we teach our traditions and culture to the next generation? How do we do that, when the culture you live in despises you and the next generation is caught in between these two worlds? I noticed this peril not just with the family I was raised in, but with so many different families across so many different cultures other than mine. I watched the struggle with: do we keep the traditions, do we do a dare speak together, out in public in this other language? I just don’t like the analogy of a “melting pot”. Instead of a melting pot, I think it should be a dish that holds the integrity of every ingredient not something that melts and becomes somethin
Mon, January 11, 2021
The Frog and the Scorpion with Special Guest KJ Nasrul
Show notes #23 The Frog and the Scorpion Nugget of wisdom from Fawn’s neighbor in Santa Monica, upstairs Joey – the lesson of the hot stove. Today’s episode revolves around the fable, “The Frog and the Scorpion” “The Scorpion and the Frog” “A scorpion and a frog meet on the bank of a stream and the scorpion asks the frog to carry him across on its back. The frog asks, "How do I know you won't sting me?" The scorpion says, "Because if I do, I will die too." The frog is satisfied, and they set out, but in midstream, the scorpion stings the frog. The frog feels the onset of paralysis and starts to sink, knowing they both will drown, but has just enough time to gasp "Why?" Replies the scorpion: "It’s my nature...".” Our super friend, psychotherapist KJ Nasrul joins us to discuss: the changing of minds; our belief systems, specially in times of argument. Can a person fundamentally change? How do you know when to reenter a friendship? How do you know when to end a friendship? THEN… Fawn: I have lots of people I had to totally cut off like the scorpion, right? The end from the very beginning, I knew their nature. I knew how they were, they were showing it to me, but I assumed, Oh, they'll never do that to me. You know, the last ones were some of the yoga crew around where we live. I saw how they treated each other, their family members. And I assumed they wouldn't do that with me. And we had the established where we're family, men were sisters. And then all of a sudden they treated me like family, which is how they treated themselves, which was not good. And I had to cut it off, and I knew they wouldn't change. They were the scorpion. And they already stung me and boy, did it take a long time to heal from that. So never again, because they tried to apologize. They tried to come back and I'm like, “Nope!”. Matt: But if you take a look at that, you just take a look at, let's say the yoga people, they get continual reinforcement to act the way that they do. They get continual positive reinforcement to act the way that they do because they have blood family, if you will daughters, et cetera. And they act that way towards them, but there's still that relationship. And so they've had continual reinforcement that they can act like an a-hole and it's going to be okay. You know, the way that, oftentimes families will fight and they will just lay it all out. They will just devastate one another and then they'll figure out how to get back together without talking about it. So there's no impetus for them to change other than the fact that they they've lost your friendship, but they can, they can find an excuse. They can excuse that away and make it your problem or your fault. Question: Have you been friends
Mon, January 04, 2021
Emotion Motion - The Good, The Bad, The Ugly
Episode 22 - Emotion Motion – the Good, the Bad, the Ugly Nugget of wisdom from Santa Monica: Moses and the Ten Commandments – Why hearing a crowd chant your name is important. It is a healing. It is validation. We need that. My friend hearing his name chanted - that's a good thing. It gives you that strength and that validation, that power that says "I exist. I am powerful. I am loved". What is it about words? I always say words have vibration, words have power. There's so much energy associated with sound. The internal emotion logic works between two people. Two people are arguing and one person takes the emotional argument. The other person takes logical argument. We're working in a whole different system. We're working against imposter syndrome. We're working against everybody tells me whatever it is I want to hear, except for there's one person who says that hurtful comment. That's the only person (maybe I feel because I'm an imposter walking through the world because we all feel this way at some time where, you know, I don't belong. I'm not worthy. I'm not, I'm not, I'm not), so this is the only person who is telling me the truth and you start to become emotionally connected to the one person who tells you the truth. And it also can be because you are, you do feel like you're wearing this. It's like you're wearing a coat. This is your body. You're wearing it like a coat. And you’re you. You go through life sometimes worried that somebody is going to call you out on your BS. And so if somebody calls you out on anything, you feel like this is the one person who is being honest with me. This is why we are so emotionally attached to that ONE ugly comment. Anecdote: this company called Despair: they do these demotivational motivational posters. There’s one for dysfunctional. The only thing in common between all of your unsatisfying relationships is you. So it's really hard to shuck that off or understand that. More on criticism: (the unkind mean things people throw at you): …and then we have being a youth or being an unexperienced; un-fully formed kind of a person who's still trying to figure out who they are. And people love to tell you who you are. Why do they do that? Because they want you to be just like them. This concept takes you into a brand new completely other world of "the way I live is the best way to live. So you should live just like me, because then you living that way validates me". Matt: …”and that's a lot of what I grew up in was, I lived this way, my parents lived a certain way and the people who they associated with lived basically the exact same way. And if you didn't kind of live that way, you were a little, either a little off, if it was only a little bit different or you were nuts, if it was completely different or they couldn't even fathom how you would, but by the same token, because you're their child and they are tutoring you an
Mon, December 28, 2020
Being a Good Guest
Your responsibility to party – How to be a good guest Nugget- The blind date – How to be gracious “To Be a Good Guest” When I was little, my immediate family quite honestly, was pretty stressed all the time and angry and kind of hateful. I was always surprised by how the relatives put up with. I actually had to cut them off. It's not something I did lightly. It took many, many therapists to get me out of that situation. As a whole though, my family and its dynamics was very much the movie, “My Big Fat Greek Wedding”. It was exactly like that but Persian. The relatives would get together every week; parties all the time, get-togethers all the time; always in each other's business and very loud and the dinners are not just like quiet dinners with seven people. As a child, every time I had to go to one of these parties, (I mean, other people would call them parties for us, it was just a Friday night), the amount of stuff that would happen in our home that I grew up in was just not happy. There was screaming, yelling, criticism, body shaming, all kinds of shaming, you name it. It was heavy. And this was right before going to see the relatives. As a kid, you can't just switch that off and go to a party and be the life of the party as a guest in someone’s home (at least, I couldn’t). Every time I was at a party, I would be in a corner sulking. At parties, I just wanted to be alone. I didn't want to be around anyone. My feelings were hurt and no one else really understood that. My relatives would try to force me to dance and grab my arms, drag me to get up out of the chair, to get me away from the corner. And it just hurt my feelings even more. I didn't understand the concept of a party or being a guest, even being a host. To this day, when I have to go to a party I have inner turmoil because I feel less than, ugly, body morph issues galore stemming from those times as a child. It took years, many, many years to realize the responsibility I have as a guest and how important that is. It took being away from all that drama, moving away and hosting my own parties, attending all kinds of parties, to realize the art of being a good guest. What is it to be a good guest? As much as I have empathy for my childhood self, I realized the act of sitting in a corner, sulking and not being a participant is giving the haters all the power, it’s such a downer for the whole place and a waste of time. We are here to live and to enjoy life. And just like that, I realized all of a sudden, like a flip of a coin, that I was the life of the party. Here’s what I do: I interview people at parties like they’re major celebrities. I asked them questions about their lives. I marvel at what they are wearing, about how great they are, how great they look, and how interesting they are. I will give people the red carpet treatment. I enjoy the food and drink and express gratitude for the amazing feast. I dance lik
Mon, December 21, 2020
Friends, Not Friends, and Secret Friend?
Fawn and Matt break out all their dictionaries and read all the definitions of friendship and have a good laugh. Then THEY break it down for real. Fawn feels a kinship, like a family type feeling about certain people, to which Matt says they are not friends because they don’t even know you! Fawn says we're all connected, at the risk of sounding way too woo woo. So yeah, this person doesn't know I exist perhaps, but they've touched my life profoundly. And because they touched my life, I shared how they touched my life with my close friends and so they also get touched and changed because of this person. Do they (the person that hasn’t met us) know how they changed lives? When I tell other people about this person and it changes their life, it's a ripple effect. My idea of friendship is getting a little bit more fluid, especially in the time of 2020, and the fact that we can't be together. Before 2020, our criteria was that to have a substantial friendship, you had to be together within a close proximity and not on social media, but in real life. What are we going to do? How can we define it? Are we growing as friends? Are we growing together towards something? Matt: I'm still gonna take the hard line and say, there's a mystical connection that happens when you're physically present; physically adjacent to one another. Fawn talks about how sometimes all she has is a tree to lean on… “I'm just saying, I'm trying to get it (the support of a friendly force) wherever I can find it. And if you think about it spiritually, you're never alone. There's always, you're a part of everything. Everything is a part of you. You have to broaden your scope.” Fawn and Matt totally disagree about what a friendship is. Fawns point: it is about connection. You have to recognize the connection. So when you are in a physical friendship situation, you can say, yeah, this is the connection. You have to look for it, even though you're locked down. Well, if you want to talk about it, as far as it feeling like you have to exercise those muscles, you have to exercise attention to the feelings. You need to have those feelings to live. It's like water and air. You need those feelings. And I'm saying to you sometimes you're in solitary mode and you need to have those feelings, first of all, within yourself. You have to be your own friend. You have to recognize happiness within yourself and not from the outside world. And that's key to friendship. You have to have that knowledge. You have to have that expertise about the feeling of friendship when you meet other people. It will enhance everything because you know that feeling, you know that dance, and you can pick it out from the ether. THEN A MIRACLE HAPPENS! Fawn convinces Matt to shift his view! Matt: Friendship has to have a component of effort. T
Mon, December 14, 2020
Asimov, the Foundation, and the Atomic Knife
Today's Pearl has to do with fine lines and the path that we walk on. We discuss having the intention, awareness, and the wherewithal of knowing how we walk in the world. One of those paths we referred to as “A.W.O.L.” which in Santa Monica, California, stood for “Always West of Lincoln”. Then there’s the Camino de Santiago (the Way of St. James) which is a large network of ancient pilgrim routes stretching across Europe and coming together at the tomb of St. James (Santiago in Spanish) in Santiago de Compostela in north-west Spain. We talk about this path and Fawn talks about listening to Caroline Myss and her experience as she walked part of this path and the insight she (Caroline Myss) shared. There's a fine line to everything. We can walk on a path and if we veer even one step to the left or the right, we’ll have a completely different experience. As a photographer, Fawn is especially true in her field of art and how looking at the same thing, we will all have a completely different perspective. Matt: “I think generally speaking, when you're walking the path, you're meant to walk, it feels easy. It feels comfortable. It feels right…and so it's about trying to find where that spot is or where that path is.” Fawn: “I felt like a needle in an acupuncture session (there are some paths and places that I feel perfectly in tune with and others I pop out of and just don’t belong in)…it's just taking into consideration everything that's involved; even the forces that you may not be aware of, that you can't see, you have to feel for it.” On today's episode, we are talking about foundation - Isaac Asimov's “Foundation”. Matt explains the story and explains how Asimov is one of the great classic science fiction writers (science fiction writers of the 1940 and 50s were the seers of our society). Fawn’s take on Asimov and the questions that arise for her are: what are we fighting for? What is it that we're striving for? What are we going to create as far as a society in which there's balance, truth, and something symbiotic. How are we going to create that? Once again, we bring in Aristotle and his Nicomachean Ethics (the three kinds of friendship) and bring it into focus as it relates to Asimov’s “Foundation” story. Aristotle pointed out the three forms of friendship as 1), there are those who love you because you are useful to them. 2), there are those who love you because your company provides them with pleasure. 3), is what Aristotle says is when you know, you have true friendship, like lifelong friendship that will withstand: those who love you because you're a good person. In relation to the Nichomachean ethics and relating Aristotle’s ethics to Asimov’s Foundation: it's all about knowing who we are, knowing how we are useful, knowing how we are of service, and knowing how we make other people feel. Matt shares a painful lesson about a work relationship. Matt’s advic
Mon, December 07, 2020
Alpha Beta...
Jennifer Lopez, (aka Jenny from the block, JLO) visits and shoots a movie in the neighborhood and comments about our little village by asking: “Does anyone work?” when filming the movie “Monster In-Law”. She was noticing our way of being in our community. The truth is we all worked but we didn’t all have traditional “9-5” jobs. We also knew how to luxuriate and enjoy every single day and to someone looking in from the outside, it appeared that we just hung and played all day. The Pearl of wisdom is to enjoy your life for God's sake. Just enjoy. Notice the trifles. There is really no need to rush. Put on your roller blades, roller skates, flip-flops, sit, sit at a coffee shop holding on to a cup of your favorite coffee, play, eat, watch the light change, drink a great delicious drink, ride a bicycle, feel the sand between your toes, feel the sun on your body, take a stroll, do a little dance down the sidewalk…you get the idea, right? The focus of this week’s podcast is on the alpha, beta, omega, gamma, sigma… definitions of personalities that seem so rigid and outdated according to Fawn and Matt, as they break down the meaning of each stereotype and discuss who and how people really are away from these limited beliefs that society tries to impose. Fawn and Matt share their experiences. Fawn shares her own limited beliefs about herself and how she realized that her friendship with one of her greatest friends got weird for her at one point, without her friend even realizing it, all because of her (Fawn’s) own insecurities about herself and her professional qualifications/identities where she felt “less than” or subordinate and not the alpha dog she perhaps wanted to be. The DEFINITIONS: (We DISLIKE most of THESE DEFINITIONS! They are awful! One of the sources for these definitions came from themindsjournal.com Alpha is generally considered the strongest of the group. They're very, very competitive. They're aggressive, very domineering. They're like the influencer. They're the ones that take charge. They're very bossy and often they're considered uncaring. They're just kind of like a bull. They just go and go for it. They take over. Beta is the supportive person, who is sensitive, modest, easygoing, and reliable. They're collaborative. They tend to be more reserved. They're more responsible and they're often seen as insecure. Omega is the type of person that will be seen as neurotic, laid back, eccentric, and least likely to take initiative. They're considered, the lowest on the chain of command. They tend to have low self-esteem. They are seen as having dismal lives, and yet they're creative. They're, unambitious and unsuccessful in their careers. Gamma are seen as restless, adventurous, and fun. They like to do their own thing and create their own rules witho
Mon, November 30, 2020
The Alliance
Nugget and pearl of wisdom from Santa Monica Days: Iraq and Iran – the adventures of turtle/babysitting. Fawn’s Santa Monica friends (Anders and Liz), named their turtles Iran and Iraq to bring peace to the Middle East. The reasoning for the choice of their names was that every time they called their turtles lovingly by their names, they not only sent their turtles love but they held loving kindness for the Middle East at the same time. Words have power. Fawn and Matt begin relating words, numbers, zeros, ones and computer coding. Matt corrects Fawn and says as a programmer, he thinks “all things are code, code is not necessarily math. It’s Boolean logic and saying it’s a bunch of zeros and ones fails to convey the true majesty that is.” This week’s topic is about the first time you felt the power of friendship and what it did for you and your life. The alliance that we talk about this week is all about the sense that together, you’re able to do ANYTHING. You can overcome racial injustice, you can overcome economic injustice. You're able to overcome any obstacle or any hurt in front of you, TOGETHER. This is why we began this friendly movement, because we’ve found that our society has really deteriorated as far as people really being together in neighborhoods, offices and at home, and how in-person friendships, walking arm in arm is now rare. Friendship and the alliance that is created within that sanctuary are incredibly powerful and we wonder why it has disappeared and why we've become so disconnected. Together, we can create great beauty, peace and strength and have a kinder, healthier, richer, more compassionate world, and a stronger, more balanced society. Do you have a first Alliance story? When was the first time that you felt the kind of friendship where you felt the power of a union, the power of a bond that made you feel invincible? What was it that drew you together? What was the common thread? Feeling the great life pressures, not feeling supported and feeling upset and overwhelmed (and maybe not even realizing you have been feeling all of this), can wreak havoc on us, our lives, our health, and our relationships, and as a result, bad things can happen. When you’re in the thick of it, you don't understand that you're in pain because it feels normal until you get a break from it (if you get a break from it). So we need to support each other. People do communicate their deepest pains. It may be subtly. It may be slyly. And if you're paying attention, you can pick up on it and you can ask the questions. A friendship is a cocoon where you can grow into what you're supposed to be, within a safe environment. You're protected within this friendship, within this circle. We've all been disconnected. Come back and don't judge so much. Everybody's in pain. Don't judge it. Let's just be together and offer comfort. Let's provide a safe space for our f
Mon, November 23, 2020
Agree to Disagree w/ Psychotherapist KJ Nasrul
Our nugget AKA pearls of wisdom for this episode involves Dr. Bradley Nelson, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Gregg Braden, the Heart Math Institute, Electromagnetic field, Heart math, heart brain, heart wall, intellectual humility, social intelligence, IQ, emotional intelligence, shared reality, Magneto cardiogram and it measures the magnetic field of the heart. These machines record this field to be about 12 feet in diameter, but they're all saying that the machines are actually limited. That in fact they believe the, the field to be infinite, which makes sense. How do we “Agree to Disagree”, especially now with so much charged emotion within our divided nation in the United States? How can we maneuver the misconstrued tones, the arguments that grow, the unexpressed resentments, the unheard voices, the differences of psyche, culture, sex, race, social/economic, generational points of view, the mess under the rug? How should we step away when both sides are deeply emotional? Can we find a shared reality? Do we have a shared reality? How can we acquire humility and be open to being wrong – can we commit of the possibility of being wrong? The topic is super big, so big we are going to do many shows on this subject and we invite our special guest (our super-friend), Psychotherapist KJ Nasrul. We begin the conversation today.
Mon, November 16, 2020
Emotional Currency
This week’s nugget is a 16th century Norwegian term, meaning to comfort or to console - related to the English word “hug”. You need HYGGE in your life, especially these days, guys, this is how we can feel better! Here are some words words associated with HYGGE – comfort, cozy, relaxation, indulgence, and gratitude. This is about taking pleasure in the presence of a gentle thing, soothing things like a freshly brewed cup of coffee, cozy socks, food, drink, pastries, whatever your favorite things are, you partake in them and have them all around you. There’s even a HYGGE manifesto containing 10 things that will get you to a HYGGE state! We share them with you! There's a book that's called the book of” HYGGE - the Danish art of contentment, comfort and connection”. There's a quote from it: “a practical way of creating sanctuary in the middle of a very real life and a cure for S a D” a cure for sad, which stands for seasonal affective disorder. In this episode, we learn about the unfortunate engagement Fawn had long before she met Matt, her fiancé’s very racist mother and the ultimatum she was given before her departure of her photography project to Ethiopia, how she came to being in the same room as Caroline Myss, and learning first-hand the meaning and significance of EMOTIONAL CURRENCY. Then of course, Matt has his take on the subject and the hilarity ensues over who came up with the concept. They both agree however that this form of currency is a major factor to consider in any relationship and discuss how to develop a healthy account.
Mon, November 09, 2020
BUSY!
First, Santa Monica’s pearl of wisdom: This week’s pearl of Wisdom from Santa Monica comes via Fawn’s Santa Monica Bathroom conversation delivery and what was shared with her that was a game changer. There are three words that have to this day been chanted by Fawn and those close to her. We talk about a couple of things here regarding the pearl of wisdom. Number one is what you focus on grows. So focusing on money coming, it's going to make that grow and happen. When Fawn was first learning to drive, her point of focus would have her not able to drive straight because she focused on a short, short distance (because she was fixated on the hood of the car) instead on the road ahead. You need to look way down the road where you want to go. Don't focus on that spot so close to you. Look to where you want to go. Look really far out, look way ahead of you. Your vision always has to be shifting. It’s about knowing what the next step is, and knowing where you’re going. If I have both of those things, things will feel pretty darn good on any particular aspect of your life. Look to where you want to go. Look really far out. When you're riding a mountain bike down a trail, if you focus on the pothole in the middle of the trail, you're going to hit it. If you focus on the clean line around it, you're going to do that. So it's all about where you draw your attention. If you keep your attention focused on the negative, well then guess what the negative is more, more likely to happen. And if you focus on the positive, it's the positive. Show topic: “Busy” Have we become shackled by an invisible force? Fawn argues YES! Matt has his take on the subject that is more optimistic than Fawn’s. Fawn believes this is the four letter word that has contributed to the loneliness epidemic. From business, the corporate world, to standing in your kitchen, feeling overwhelmed, to feeling if you're not busy you’re are missing something, that you’re not doing enough, to the feeling of guilt that is all over everything, we discuss what it all means and go with Matt’s sage advice: “on a day to day, focusing at least for a minute, a while, on the things that are truly important and realizing what those things are that you need to completely break yourself away from wherever you are. That's key.” Bottom line- everyone is operating at their highest capacity and we need to relax and appreciate each other.
Mon, November 02, 2020
The Critic - Who's to Judge?
Critic: A person who expresses and unfavorable opinion of something a person who judges the merits of literary artistic or musical works, especially one who does so professionally Criticism: The practice of judging the merits and faults of something. Fawn thinks they're the downfall of our culture, of our society. She can't stand them. ARE THEY VITAL TO OUR SOCIETY????What kind of critics are there? Art, business, coding, neighborhood people, friends, family, randoms, yoga women…Is there a semblance of a constructive opinion, constructive criticism????? We talk about the HATERS (thank you Katt Williams and Busy Philipps).Then there is the silent critic: complicitness This episode almost didn't get aired. Fawn ended up in tears towards the end and Matt stepped away from the mic. The issue was resolved. If only we could have more conversations like this one (that got uncomfortable for a minute), we would all end up feeling good.
Mon, October 26, 2020
New World Mentor
What happened to the village? We always heard that “it takes a village”, but Fawn points out that most of the time; we’re left on our own. This leads us to mentors. Where are the mentors? Does anyone truly have the knowledge to guide us? From Fawn’s point of view, the world is changing so rapidly and radically that we’re all trying to figure things out and the role of the mentor, apprentice, journeyman...etc, is no longer really there…EXCEPT, Fawn believes that friendships, the friend, babies, and THE COW (tune in to hear Fawn’s story and inspiration from the cows in New Delhi, India) are the new mentors as we guide each other through life. Matt has a totally different take on things (of course).
Mon, October 19, 2020
When People Are Against You
How do you handle criticism when it is beyond the simple critique? How to hear the good voices telling you, that you’re great, and why do we get stuck on the attacks and become unable to hear the good? Fawn shares her personal experience with her career, being a woman of color in an unkind, white dominated art world, how she was treated, resulting in her fighting back and making a radicle turn in her work , how she does business, as well as how she relates to people. Listen to the funny and revealing stories of the art photography world and her experience out in the bush on the border of Kenya and Ethiopia, how Matt’s code blends in to this issue and how to move forward while staying true to yourself. “Emotion builds Taj Mahals. Logic says F you and walks away. There is a certain element of compartmentalization. There's a certain element of looking holistically at your life and saying, does my life suck or does my life rule? If your life in general rules, one tiny little piece of one tiny little piece of gray sky, isn't going to affect it.” Everybody has moments that they suck, and everybody has moments that they rule. It's a question of what you focus on grows; where you want to spend your emotional currency.
Mon, October 12, 2020
Play
PLAY – We begin to find out why Fawn’s nick name is “The Wookie” and why she struggles with playing all the great games: Pictionary, Scrabble, cards, music… We know all the great things friendship does for us spiritually, physically, emotionally, and the same, same is true about play. Play is a source of relaxation. It feels our imagination, our creativity, helps with problem solving skills, and helps our emotional wellbeing. It takes our mind off of stuff. It helps with brain function, changes our perspective and even helps generate optimism. And most importantly, it builds relationships and connections. Play is a basic need. In this episode Fawn and Matt talk about the science and emotional component to this very important and basic need and relate it to our lives, friendships as well as the power plays in corporations.
Mon, October 05, 2020
Survival of the Fittest and the Unlikely Friendship
We begin with Rumi as food for thought and get right into it. Fawn challenges Darwin’s theory and uses the unlikely friendships as an example of how wrong Darwin’s theory is. Nature relies on cooperation and mutual aid, not competition. It's not about competing for survival. We're here to help each other. As the conversation gets even deeper, we talk about how compassion has a life force, that it's the glue and the foundation for love. Love doesn't last without compassion, which leads us to explore the role our jobs have in shaping our lives and how we can turn that around. We also have the 90 second rule to allow your to fully experience and feel, after which brings you freedom from negative emotions. Stay tuned for the last half of the episode as Matt really goes for it and lays down some fabulous wisdom.
Mon, September 28, 2020
The Unresolved Emotion
We begin this week with 3 nuggets of gold information and carry on to the unresolved emotion that is at the root of it all. We talk about the Heart Math Institute research, Gregg Braden, the brilliant work of neuroscientist, Dr. Candace Pert, “Molecules of Emotion”, Mr. José Mujica, the former president of Uruguay, the 90 second feeling, the question of why we have a 40 plus hour work week and how that runs our lives and friendships. Pay close attention to the end of the show to hear how it all ties together.
Mon, September 21, 2020
Logic vs Emotion
Logic can’t get you out of something that emotion has gotten you into. Fawn and Matt discuss the difference between logic and emotion, the importance of speaking, being heard, the state of the world, how to hear what is really going on and how respect plays the role in all of it. From mixed martial arts to Aikido to Nascar, to Nicomachean Ethics, Matt’s super-secret formula for pick’em survivor league (NFL), to becoming like bamboo, the art of friendship is further unpacked and by the end of the episode things really go deep with one of the big reasons for how our society has become touched by the loneliness epidemic. Make sure you lean in towards the end of the episode for the revelations of imposter syndrome.
Mon, September 14, 2020
Effort
Why don't we follow through (regarding friendship, our dreams in life, our goals, our health, all the things that need some action, some movement)? What is the thing that stops us from doing and creating? This week's episode, Fawn and Matt bring up Sumo Wrestling, Herman Hesse, Dr. Mario Martinez, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Carolyn Myss, Aikido, dinner parties, being honest, misunderstandings, and how effort is involved and the one key to make it all effortless.
Mon, September 07, 2020
Full Circle - Aikido Method of Friendship
Fawn and Matt discuss the philosophy of Aikido (the Japanese martial art founded by Morihei Ueshiba that operates using the art of peace). They describe the one purpose, which is to better the lives of people, especially those who attack you physically and emotionally and being able to bring harmony to each situation (as your job is to protect your attacker: "If your opponent strikes with fire, counter with water, becoming completely fluid and free-flowing. Water by its nature, never collides with or breaks against anything. On the contrary, it swallows up any attack harmlessly." - Morihei Ueshiba (translated by John Stevens) This episode further explores our interactions with one another at the office and in our personal lives and is about applying the Art of Peace to the Art of Friendship.
Mon, August 31, 2020
All In the Family
Could the loneliness epidemic have been rooted initially from the family unit, where we learned how to treat each other? As the family dynamic has changed over the last few generations, so now have friendships. Fawn and Matt also discuss the role of the corporate/job world and how that has influenced our relationships and where we go from here.
Mon, August 31, 2020
Being A Good Host In the World
Fawn and Matt talk about treating the outer world (and your inner world) as your home and everyone in it as your special guest.Treating strangers, people you know, to people you work with and even advisaries as if they are your guests and assuming the role of a party host and creating a space to have people feel at home (no matter where we are).
Mon, August 31, 2020
People Along the Way
Fawn and Matt share stories of friends along the way that shifted everything in their lives for the better. Fawn gets emotional about her friend "Subculture Joe" (Jason) and how he made a profound impact on her and on the city of Seattle. Fawn and Matt also debate free will as Fawn shares her thoughts on destined meetings and how even the people you pass by on the sidewalk could be special preplanned connections.
Bonus · Wed, August 26, 2020
The Mentor
Fawn describes how "Be Friendly World" and this podcast began and the mentor who was the catalyst. She describes Santa Monica, the kind of utopia that existed within a community in Los Angeles and how after traveling around the world as a documentary photographer she noticed the growing disconnect in our society, a loneliness epidemic that exists, and how to resolve it.
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