Han and Matt Know It All
Advice column aficionados Han and Matt re-answer the greatest questions from other advice columns and podcasts as well as fielding new questions with a little help from their cats.
Sun, December 22, 2019
#120: The Han and Matt Know It All Finale
After 10,000 years, Han and Matt have finally wrapped the show. To watch the episode with our lovely mugs and our disruptive kitties (which was recorded live on Facebook!), check it out here if you're able: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hanandmattknowitall/permalink/585309755619000/ Here's loosely what we discussed: Reminiscing about the history of the show! 2019 personal/life updates for us and the cats Updates on questions and things from listeners like you! A summary of our various Facebook spin-off groups (join them!) 10 Tips for a Successful Marriage What's next From the Facebook Event: "Hello, lovely Hamkittens of the world! Han and I have decided that our long-awaited final episode of Han and Matt Know It All will be a LIVE Facebook event so that we can collectively and symbolically hand-off the spirit of the show to its new rightful owners: ALL OF YOU AMAZING PEOPLE! ♥ Seriously, y'all never cease to amaze me with your dedication to kindness and the work you've done fostering (so many!) safe communities. I'm a proud cat dad(dy) indeed. It's so immeasurably gratifying to see what y'all have done with the place since Han and I ghosted—err, since we've unexpectedly parted ways with you." From the bottom of our hearts: thank you so much for being a part of this with us. Given the chance, we would do it all again in heartbeat. Love, Han & Matt
Wed, June 19, 2019
#119: Han and Matt Carpool to Sea
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 9th, 2019, and beyond, including: NOTE : We're changing the $20 Patron Hangout Perk to be a 1-Time Hangout Effective Immediately Ask Ellie : " Wife's request for quiet time 'mindless' TV watching confounds husband " " Harry Potter Totally Sucks " Ask Ellie : " My true love might walk away because of my ex's meddling " Carolyn Hax : " My pregnant friend's husband needs to shut up already about her weight gain " Ask a Manager : " I ran into my new boss in the apartment of my one-night stand " Ask Dr. NerdLove : " What Do I Do About My Irresponsible Boyfriend? " SPONSOR : Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! r/AITA : " AITA for flirting with 19 year old girls and defending myself when being called a predator. " Listener N : "My Wife's Crush and Mine" Shoutout to Zoya AKA Zoe Fenson on APW : " I'm A Feminist Killjoy—And My Husband Loves it " Shoutout to Ask Real Estate : " Can a Building Charge You for Bedbugs? " Shoutout to Miss Manners : " Let’s all shake hands instead " Shoutout to Ask a Manager : " what tools help you focus on work when you’re in a loud or distracting environment? " Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have
Wed, June 12, 2019
#118: Han and Matt Need Climate Advice (ft. Sara Peach)
Han and Matt are joined by climate change journalist and senior editor of Yale Climate Connections Sara Peach, columnist of the one-of-a-kind and invaluable Ask Sara! We interview Sara and discuss listener questions and topical questions from around the web on the topic of climate change: Sara Peach: Columbia Journalism Review: " Reporter explains local effects of climate change through advice column " Ask Sara on Yale Climate Connections #88 Han and Matt Sweat It Out Discussion on Ask Sara: " Should I tell my Republican friend that her Florida mansion is doomed by sea-level rise? " Sara Peach on Twitter Peach Report Listener Zayime, Herald of Despair: "If Our Doom Is Indeed Imminent, How Do I Go On?" Listener Berylglow, Estival Sprite: "What are some practical ways to lower our carbon footprints in our daily lives?" Listener The Feral Lamprey: "How Do I Overcome My Fears of the Stigma of Climate Change Activism?" SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Ask Umbra: " Should climate change be my new career calling? " Captain Awkward: " My husband's extreme environmental beliefs are a problem. How can I get him to give up this obsession? " Ask a Manager: " I'm in trouble for re-sorting a coworker's trash — and I’m enraged " Ask a Manager: " our new manager is pressuring the women on our team to use menstrual cups " #111: Han and Matt Hail Brandy Jensen SPONSOR: care/of : A monthly subscription vitamin service that delivers completely personalized vitamin and supplement packs right to your door! Care and Feeding: "<a href= "https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/10/pare
Bonus · Sat, May 18, 2019
BONUS: West Coast Meetup Details
Greetings, Hamkittens! Long time no see. But soon, we will be on the West Coast for our two-week vacation and coming to a bar near you! Check out all the details below, RSVP on Facebook, and we might even wow you by knowing your name before you even introduce yourself. Whoooaaaa! HAMKIA Bay Area Meetup Sunday, May 19, 5-7 PM The Golden Squirrel in Oakland, California HAMKIA Portland Meetup! Monday, May 27, 6-8 PM Bye & Bye in Portland, Oregon HAMKIA Seattle Meetup! Thursday, May 30, 6-8 PM <a class="_5inl" href= "https://www.facebook.com/OptimismBrewing/?eid=ARCRAaphpZmraTj7zZUxIT9eoeuJW-Bmqgk3R0fbzY9OeM3UmsqoIlg5R0ZxVXpQ-ueE0Bv37UQNK37F" data-hovercard= "/ajax/hovercard/page.php?id=670956739591675&extragetparams=%7B%22eid%22%3A%22ARCRAaphpZmraTj7zZUxIT9eoeuJW-Bmqgk3R0fbzY9
Wed, May 08, 2019
#117: Han and Matt Embrace Cryptid Romance
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 28th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup: May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup: May 30th, time/location tbd [CW: Self-Harm] Ask a Manager: " What to say if a coworker asks about my self harm scars " Ask a Manager: " Should I say something about my coworker’s old self-harm scars? " Dear Prudence: " I'm in a Happy Relationship With My Boyfriend but I Still Want to Date Women " SPONSOR: care/of : A monthly subscription vitamin service that delivers completely personalized vitamin and supplement packs right to your door! Ask Dr. NerdLove: " Do I Have To Agree to An Open Relationship? " How to Do It: " A Nice Guy Suddenly Said Awful Things to Me During Sex " SPONSOR: LOLA : The female-founded company offering a line of organic cotton tampons, pads, liners, and now: sex products Carolyn Hax: " Bigfoot, the yeti, the Loch Ness Monster — and the soul mate " Listener The Dauntless Badger: "Should I Get Back in Touch With My Mother Who Abandoned Me When I Was Three?" SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Zerrek, Peacekeeper of Otopo Update: "Should I Get a Cat?" " The Easiest Question We Could Find in the Inbox | Opinion Overflow #39 " Shoutout to Ask a Manager: " why can't I wear shorts to work? " Expanding Your Religious Holiday Knowledge 2019 Calendar PDF <a href= "https://calendar.google.com/calendar/r/settings/browsecalendars" targ
Wed, May 01, 2019
#116: Han and Matt Charge a Cover
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 21st, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup : May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup : May 30th, time/location tbd Miss Conduct : " This children's birthday party has a cover charge " Ask Natalie : " Found out your engagement ring is a fake? " Care and Feeding : " Who the Heck Is Patrick? " Carolyn Hax : " Teacher frets that white Christian parents will whine about helping Muslim kids " Ask a Manager : " my office wants us to celebrate by wearing pink and blue by gender " Judge John Hodgman : " On Taco Bell Pilgrimages " " How to Eat Vegan at Taco Bell " Listener Lephra, Master Manipulator : "My Partner and I Are Exploring Ethical Nonmonogamy for the First Time and I Feel... Fine?" SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! r/AmItheAsshole : " WIBTA if I were to dump my boyfriend for being a snobby movie critic? " r/AmItheAsshole : " UPDATE: WIBTA if I were to dump my boyfriend for being a snobby movie critic? " Shoutout to Dear Urban Diplomat : " Help! My neighbour's kid has some serious Fortnite rage " Shoutout to Dear Ally : " How do I improve compensation fairness at my company? " Shoutout to Ask a Manager : " how much money do you make? " Shoutout to Ask a Manager : " updates: the managers peeing dog " Shoutout to Interesting Engineering : " Bearded Men Harbour Significantly More Microbes Than Dogs " Shoutout to Ask a Queer Chick : "<a href= "http://bit.ly/
Wed, April 17, 2019
#115: Han and Matt Accept Your Wine
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 7th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup : May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup : May 30th, time/location tbd Ask The Salty Waitress : " I took home the unopened bottle of wine I brought to the dinner party " Ask a Manager : " I wet my pants at my new job " [CW: Weight Loss] Ask Amy : " Wife's extreme weight loss tilts marriage " [CW: Domestic Abuse] Dear Abby : " Mom Takes Action Against Daughter's Abusive Boyfriend " Carolyn Hax : " Boyfriend wants him to tell off grandma after a chat with her " Key & Peele : " Gay Wedding Advice " NPR : " The End of Empathy " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! r/AmItheAsshole : " WIBTA if I were to dump my boyfriend for being a snobby movie critic? " r/AmItheAsshole : " UPDATE: WIBTA if I were to dump my boyfriend for being a snobby movie critic? " Shoutout to Autostraddle : " How to Overcome Being an Aries " Shoutout to Beast Mode : " My Hungry Cat Is Ruining My Mornings " Shoutout to Asking for a Friend : " These Parents Are Making Little League Miserable for Their Son and for Me " Shoutout to Ask Amy : " Artist's Instagram request is insta-ignored " Advice Column Alert : " Dear Ally " Advice Column Alert : " Ask Croz " on Rolling Stones Advice Column Alert : " Fishing for Answers " on Harper's Bazaar Advice Column Alert : "<a hre
Wed, April 10, 2019
#114: Han and Matt Petition Parental Perspectives
Han and Matt and their most special guest yet tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 31st, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup : May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup : May 30th, time/location tbd Ask a Manager : " my boss brings her dog to work and he pees by my desk " Dear Annie : " Already at a good weight " Captain Awkward Guest Post : " When Woke Becomes A Fetish " Ask Ann Cannon : " Pet influencers make me feel inferior as a doggy parent " Sense & Sensitivity : " College application scandal worries parent " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener The Fiendish Salamander : "Employer Is Making Me Remove My Pronouns in Company Signature" Bustle : " Should You Put Your Pronouns In Your Email Signature? This Inclusive Workplace Trend Is Showing Up More And More " Shoutout to ¡Hola Papi! : " I’m in a Heterosexual Marriage. Do I Need to Come Out as Queer? " Shoutout to Dear Wendy : " In the News: Bride is Furious Over Guests Cheap Gift " Shoutout to Captain Awkward : " Personal Updates & Introducing This Week’s Guest Blogger " Shoutout to Dan Savage : " I Rise to Speak on Behalf of the Unhappily Single or Miserably Partnered... " Notes from White British People on People of Color in Britain Reni Eddo-Lodge : " Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race " Nikesh Shukla : " The Good Immigrant " Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to <
Wed, April 03, 2019
#113: Han and Matt Disinvite Fascist Relatives
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 24th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup : May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup : May 30th, time/location tbd Captain Awkward : " Fox News, Immigrant Family, and the F******* Wedding Invite List " Ask APW : " Why Didn't My MOH Invite Me To Her Wedding? " Dear Prudence : " Help! I Found Out My Boyfriend Cheated the Same Week He Found Out He Has Cancer. " Vice : " Mussolini’s granddaughter would like everyone, including Jim Carrey, to be nice about her fascist grandpa " Miss Manners : " Family Dinners Call for a 'No Preaching at the Table' Rule " Ask a Manager : " My coworker keeps mocking another coworker's accent " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Calliope : "Is This a Close Friend?" Shoutout to APW : " Do I Need A Good Reason To Skip A Wedding? " Shoutout to Ask a Manager : " working with anti-vaxxers " Shoutout to Dear Wendy : " Women Discuss: Deciding to Never Have Children " Washington Post : " It’s not just you: New data shows more than half of young people in America don’t have a romantic partner " CNBC : " World population to peak by 2055: report " Shoutout to Ask the Strategist : " Please Queer-Eye My Boyfriend " S
Wed, March 27, 2019
#112: Han and Matt Shame the Shamers
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 17th, 2019, and beyond, including: WEST-COAST MAY MEETUPS: San Francisco Meetup: May 19th, time/location tbd Portland Meetup : May 27th, time/location tbd Seattle Meetup : May 30th, time/location tbd Work Friend : " After Servicing a Home Can I Get Paid to Service My Clients Other Needs? " Ask a Manager : " my team got matching tattoos ... and other lack of boundaries at my start-up " [CW: Fat-Shaming] Sense and Sensibility : " It's OK to talk to friend about weight gain " [CW: Fat-Shaming] Dear Prudence : " Help! I Think My Co-Worker's Weight Is Impeding Her Career. Should I Say Something? " Dear Pepper : " Doggedly Pursuing Someone " Ask Amy : " Erotic fiction turns into catfishing reality " The Cut : " This Female Twitter Comic Was Actually a Man Pretending to Be His Own Wife " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Telreshi, Domesticator of Demons : "I Need Help With Micro-Transphobia!" Shoutout to Ask Amy : " Parent worries about son's Michael Jackson fandom " Shoutout to Blair Braverman for Being the Second Jewish Woman Ever to Finish the Iditarod Shoutout to Judge John Hodgman on " Unsanctioned Cat Nicknames " Shoutout to Carolyn Hax : " It's a special therapists-behaving-badly edition " Shoutout to Ask A Native New Yorker : " Why Do New Yorkers Complain So Much? " Shoutout to Dear Abby : " He Dumped Me and Now Wants to Cheat with Me " Listener The Fiendish Salamander Has Some Kind Words For Us Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to <a href= "m
Wed, March 20, 2019
#111: Han and Matt Hail Brandy Jensen
Han and Matt were so excited to be joined by the one and only Brandy " Ask a Fuck-Up " Jensen! You may have seen her Tweets cited on every single topic on every single news outlet , and you'll be relieved to know that Brandy's brilliance is actually and rightfully rewarded monetarily on The Outline where she answers questions every week on one of the only good things to come out of 2018. Here's what we discussed: Ask a Fuck-Up Brand Jensen on Twitter The Outline: " I Can't Tweet for One Week and It's Killing Me " Brandy Tweeting About Advice Columns 9 Nov 2015: Someone publish a piece on how the advice column has become the home of some of our generation's best writers 2 Jan 2016: I feel like if I wrote an advice column every answer would be "we're all hurtling toward death, I'm sure it will work out" 6 Apr 2016: Wanna start an advice column called Go Fuck Yourself where I just tell you to masturbate and see if that helps 12 Apr 2017: someone give me an advice column, I love telling other people what they should do 9 Mar 2018: I want to write an advice column called "Ask a Fuck Up" the premise of which is since I adamantly refuse to learn from my own mistakes perhaps other people can AAFU: " With special guest Neko Case " AAFU: " I'm not as smart as everyone said I was " AAFU: " Can people change? " AAFU: " I'm still in therapy. Should I be dating? " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener The Cyan Satyr: "How Do I Get Back into the Groove After a Traumatic Health Setback?" Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "<a href=
Wed, March 13, 2019
#110: Han and Matt Kiss and Tell
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 3rd, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP : Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event [CW: Fat-Shaming] r/relationship_advice : " Boyfriend [25M] told me he used to ask out "fat girls" for fun. Am I [22F] right to be disgusted by him? " Dear Prudence : " Help! I Caught My Day Care Provider Breastfeeding My Baby. " Carolyn Hax : " Should a single try to burst her friend's couple bubble? " Dear Wendy : " I Kissed My Friend And My Boyfriend Called It Cheating! " Ask a Manager : " my boss sent my client a flirty message from my email account " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! SPONSOR: care/of : A monthly subscription vitamin service that delivers completely personalized vitamin and supplement packs right to your door! [CW: Self-Harm, Disordered Eating] Listener Kalvarin Ashmore, Renowned Euphomancer : "How Do I Teach Myself That a Relapse in My Mental Health Isn't an Indication of Failure?" Suicide Prevention Hotline FAQ : 1-800-273-8255 Shoutout to Hola Papi! : " I'm Straight-Acting and I Don’t Know Where I Fit In " Shoutout to Alison Green on Slate : " The Guy Who Hid Tacos in His Desk Drawer " or "Why do people go so nuts over free food at work?" Shoutout to Ask Polly : " Is My Absence From Social Media a Red Flag? " Shoutout to Ask Ann Cannon : " How can I dial back on digital life? " Shoutout to 'Cat Person' Author Kristen Roupenian Who " Discusses New Book at Harvard Book Store " Shoutout to Ask The Salty Waitress : " Ou
Wed, March 06, 2019
#109: Han and Matt Talk Reddit Relationships (Ft. Moderator ResidentBlackGuy)
Han and Matt write a love letter to Reddit Relationships and have the honor of interviewing moderator Alex "ResidentBlackGuy" Spruiell! During the interview portion of the show, they discuss how Alex became a moderator, what makes r/relationships the best subreddit for advice, the worst partner so far of 2019, and much more! ResidentBlackGuy Alex Spruiell on Twitter Podcast: Black & Yellow SPONSOR: LOLA : The female-founded company offering a line of organic cotton tampons, pads, liners, and now: sex products! [BONUS Discussion for $5 and up patrons] #100: The Best & Worst Advice Column Humans of 2018 (Ft. Ask a Manager and Captain Awkward) : Partners Category Worst Partner: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' " I[30] am having a mastectomy due to breast cancer and my boyfriend [29] of 4 years is having a hard time with my decision. " Dishonorable Mention: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' " I'm [24F] on vacation without my boyfriend [33 M] because he missed his flight. Would it be wrong to live it up and ignore him for a few weeks? " [BONUS Discussion for $5 and up patrons] r/relationships: " My [22F] boyfriend [24M] cut the tip of his finger OFF as a "joke" for my Valentine’s Day gift. " Reddit Relationships in Three Nutshells Should I key her car? Is this a dealbreaker? Is it mean if I ask him to stop? Listener The Tireless Mind Flayer: "My [46F] girlfriend of 3 months won't invite me [49M] over to her house" SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Advice Column Alert: " Who's the Asshole Here? " on Lifehacker Shoutout to John Paul Brammer on Columbia Journalism Review: "<a href= "https://www.cjr.org/special_report/the-advice-column-renaissance.php/?fbclid=IwAR3rk9ZdLtPk0NT8metiHg_Y5dehpzybUFPx_uzlqpp
Wed, February 27, 2019
#108: Han and Matt Practice Safe Smooching
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 17th, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP : Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event Miss Lonelyhearts : " Does new girlfriend have eyes for hers or hims? " Listener Wants to be Supportive, but Doesn't Want to Offend : "How to respect someone's gender if you're not sure they're transgender" Listener Mary, Veiled Reckoner : "How Do You Keep the Germs From Spreading Around Your Polycule?" Listener Sabrina : "Can I Wear an Unethically Produced Shirt That Advocates for Equality Without Being a Hypocrite?" " Hannah and Matt Seek Legal Counsel " " How Do I Deal With a Sadistic Work Bully? " H&M : " Recycle Your Clothes " Listener The Raging Wendigo : "How Do I Get Past the Bitterness of My Abusive Ex Now That He's Suddenly Trying to Reconnect?" Humans of New York : " Cheating McCheaterface " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Dabrius the Decapitator : "My Depressed Dad Keeps Withdrawing From Everyone's Lives and I Don't Know What More I Can Do" Update Reference : " #103: Han and Matt Pursue Their Dreams " Shoutout to Dear Wendy : " Women Discuss: Polyamory and Open Relationships " Shoutout to Gigi Engle on Men's Health : " The Ultimate Guide to Making an Open Relationship Work " Shoutout to Baggage Check : " How do I tell my sister that her beloved MLM is a scam?? " Shoutout to Ask Dr. NerdLove : " How Can I Tell If Someone's Flirting With Me? " Shoutout to Ask a Manager : "<a href= "https://www.askamanager.org/2019/02/update-we-have-twice-daily-mandatory-grou
Wed, February 20, 2019
#107: Han and Matt Upgrade Their Metaphors
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 10th, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP : Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event Ask a Manager : " we have twice-daily mandatory group therapy at work " " my office has a mandatory feelings chart " " my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs – at every meeting " Ask Amy : " Offensive remarks too close for comfort " Carolyn Hax : " Angry comments on news sites and Facebook? Thats my husband. " Dear Abby : " Second Wife-To-Be Wants Man's Name All To Herself " Dear Prudence : " Should I move in with my hoarder boyfriend? " Miss Manners : " Business class welcomes all who can pay for the seat " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Lygeia, Cunning Mesmerist : "How Do I Support a Friend Going Through a Breakup?" + An Update! Reference : " #50: Hannah and Matt Condemn Name Thieves " Shoutout to Entertainment Weekly : " Dumplin' author Julie Murphy previews delectable new novel Dear Sweet Pea " Shoutout to Beast Mode : " My Cats Won't Stop Jumping Onto the Counters " Shoutout to r/dndnext/ : " A min-maxer is destroying my group. " Advice Podcast Alert : Nick Viall's " The Viall Files " Ted Talks
Wed, February 13, 2019
#106: Han and Matt Eat Candy Hearts
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 3rd, 2019, and beyond, including: WINTER MEETUP: Washington, DC, Busboys and Poets on K Street March 16th, 6 PM - 10 PM Facebook Event Ask Amy: " Boyfriend disappears into dark web " There are, thankfully, a handful of games where you play as a black female protagonist, though that list does not include "Far Cry: New Dawn" ( Source ) Ask a Manager: " my boyfriend thinks only bad candidates prepare for interviews " Ask The Salty Waitress: " I accidentally called my female customer sir " " Yinz " is actually short of "You Ones" Baggage Check: " My boyfriend is making me choose between him and my cats " Ask APW: " My Friend Bought Me A Used Wedding Gift That Cost $15 " Dear Prudence: " Help! Our Millionaire Relatives Only Gave $30 as Wedding Gifts. " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Laura: "Should I Have Waited Longer For My Late Date to Show Up?" Shoutout to The Texanist: " Has PC Culture Tamed the Texanists Tongue? " Shoutout to Slate's Dear Mother Goose: " An Advice Column for Children's Books Characters " Shoutout to Vice ft. Lola Phoenix of the Advice Column Nonmonogamy Help: " The Truth About Jealousy in Polyamorous Relationships " Shoutout to Dear Wendy (Who Just Turned EIGHT!): " I'm in a Polyamorous Marriage and I'm Anxious About My Boyfriends Abusive Ex " Shoutout to Savage Love: " Where Can a Bisexual Woman Find a Bisexual Woman? Bisexual Twitter Is Here to Help! " Shoutout to Getting in Bed With Kristin: " Religion & Queerness Slowly Transitioning and a New Kitten! " Shoutout to LA Magazine: " How Heather Havrilesky Became the Advice Guru Behind 'Ask Polly' " Shoutout to Dan Savage in the New York Times: "<a href= "http
Wed, February 06, 2019
#105: Han and Matt Entreat Queer Abby
Han and Matt make their return with a full batch of queer queeries and are joined by special guestpert, Nicole J. Georges AKA Queer Abby! We discuss queer impostor syndrome, being closeted for fear of bigoted parents, normalizing volunteering your pronouns, and more! Queer Abby Nicole J. Georges on Twitter & Instagram Graphic Memoir : Calling Dr. Laura Podcast : Sagittarian Matters [CW: Bi-Erasure, Queer Gatekeeping until 25 minute mark] Queer Abby : " I’m A Queer Snob " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Closet Conundrum : "One Foot in the Closet" Listener Confused Queer : "Does My Bisexuality Count If I'm Not Having Same-Sex Sex?" Listener The Pestilent Drake : "Why is it so easy to tell others they're valid but feel yourself like you're an impostor in the community?" Listener The Marauding Wendigo : "Should I, a Cis-Gendered Person, Display My Pronouns In Support of the Queer Community?" Listener Angry Latin Queer : "We Had a Secret Gay Wedding Because Our Parents Are Homophobic and Now What Do We Do?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Wed, January 23, 2019
#104: Han and Matt Ruin Your Surprise
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of January 13th, 2019, and beyond, including: BONUS : New P.O. Box! Han Malyn & Matt Albrecht P.O. Box 75532 Washington, DC 20013 [The Other] Asking For a Friend : " I Only Have Two Friends. Is There Anything Wrong With That? " Ask a Manager : " my coworker is a blood drive bully " Ask a Manager : " my office is requiring us to disclose all medications we take " Ask APW : " My Family Told Me About My Boyfriend's Proposal Surprise " Ask APW : " Who Do I Invite From A Poly Squad? " Captain Awkward : " My mom kidnapped my kid for 30 minutes. How fired is she? " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Shoutout to AAFU : " I'm still in therapy. Should I be dating? " [Content Warning: sexual assault] Listener Thunder Gryff : "Should I Just Go Ahead and Disclose My CPTSD?" Listener Not a Hugger : "Question! Letting a Friend Know Their Scene is not my Scene" Listener Zaphrus Sabresong, Stalwart Mystic Update : "Is It Okay to Lie to My Grandmother About Having Reported Her to the DMV?" Reference : #85: Han and Matt Report Your Grandmother Listener Ursial the Cyclone, Prizefighter of Faerûn Has Tips for Listener Winner Winner Chicken Dinner Reference : #103: Han and Matt Pursue Their Dreams Shoutout to Buzzfeed : " Here's What It's Really Like To Be An Internet Advice Columnist " Shoutout to Ask The Salty Waitress : " Why won't restaurants seat incomplete parties? " Shoutout to Savage Love : " Arts Patron Seeks to Donate Dildos for Trump Massive Likeness " Advice Column Alert : " Ask Annalisa " in The Guardian Sub
Wed, January 16, 2019
#103: Han and Matt Pursue Their Dreams
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of January 6th, 2019, and beyond, including: r/amitheasshole : " AITA for very rarely/almost never wanting to go to restaurants because my girlfriend makes food that's just as good, if not better, than restaurant food ?" [Content Warning: cancer] Ask a Manager : " my coworkers complained that the look of my breasts post-mastectomy is making them uncomfortable " Dear Abby : " Mom Confesses To Undermining Scholar's Dream Of Art School " [Content Warning: body shaming] Damage Control : " Can I tell my overweight friend I’m worried about his health? " Listener Winner Winner Chicken Dinner : "Am I Ruining Game Night by Winning Every Game?" [Content Warning: sexual assault] Listener The Mellow Medusa : "Should I Say Something About My Friend's Husband Having Groped Me at a Party?" Listener Dabrius the Decapitator : "My Depressed Dad Keeps Withdrawing From Everyone's Lives and I Don't Know What More I Can Do" Update from Listener Hillary : "How Do You Set Yourself Up for Success When Starting a New Job?" Reference: " Opinion Overflow #33 Tips for Adjusting to a New & Functional Workplace " Shoutout to Ask The Salty Waitress : " My favorite restaurant won’t allow kids after 5 p.m. " Shoutout to Ask a Manager : " my office mate asks me 75 questions a day — literally " Shoutout to Carolyn Hax : " Hubby’s unilateral decisions should have unilateral consequences " Submit your favorite questions or questions you may h
Wed, January 09, 2019
#102: Han and Matt Spotlight Jessica Weisberg
Han and Matt are joined by Jessica Weisberg, author of "Asking for a Friend: Three Centuries of Advice on Life, Love, Money, and Other Burning Questions from a Nation Obsessed" to discuss this amazing gift to advice column lovers plus some bonus historical moments: Jessica Weisberg "Asking for a Friend" on Amazon 10 Superb Questions on the History of Advice Columns Much love to the many listeners of ours on Facebook who helped contribute to these questions! John Dunton : "But REALLY Though, Should Women Legally Be Allowed to Use Beauty Products?" (1704) "Pray give your judgement, whether 'tis lawful for Women to use any Beautifying Washes or things of that kind to meliorate Nature, which some Persons are so very much against, and think 'em utterly unlawful?" SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Benjamin Franklin : " Advice to a Young Man on the Choice of a Mistress " (1745) Ann Landers : " The Great Toilet Paper Orientation Debate " (1986) r/legaladviceofftopic : " I trained an AI to generate /r/legaladvice post titles, and it asks "Is it legal for me to get in legal trouble?" " (2019) Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Wed, January 02, 2019
#101: Han and Matt Appreciate Their Gifts
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of December 23rd, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask Dr. NerdLove : " Am I Just Being Jealous? " Dear Miss Lonelyhearts : " 'Confirmed bachelor' should enjoy his freedom " Miss Manners : " Two Breakfast Items? How Dare You " Social Q's : " What's Wrong With Books for Christmas? " Dear Prudence : " Help! My Mom Made an Epic Reply-All Blunder, and Oh What a Mess. " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Sad Sister : "How Can I Support My Suffering Sister?" WSJ : " How Can You Help Someone Who Is Depressed? " Shoutout to Ask Amy : " Ready to give? Here's annual charity roundup " Shoutout to Ask a Manager : " My Favorite Posts of 2018 " Shoutout to Dear Sugars : " The Art of Giving Advice (and Saying Goodbye) " Shoutout to Sense & Sensitivity : " Mom's nipple rings embarrass daughters " Shoutout to Dear Ebun : " How Reaction GIFs Perpetuate Racial Stereotypes " Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a
Wed, December 26, 2018
#100: The Best & Worst Advice Column Humans of 2018 (Ft. Ask a Manager and Captain Awkward)
Join hosts Han and Matt and advice guest hosts Alison Green ( Ask a Manager ) and Jennifer Peepas ( Captain Awkward ) rage / reminisce about the worst advice column humans of 2018 as voted on by the listeners. SPONSOR: A Head Canon Productions Ruins Christmas (Soundcloud) A Head Canon Productions on YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Patreon Worst Coworker: "The Boss" in Ask a Manager's " My Dad Is Dating My Boss, and They Want Me to Go to Couples Therapy with Them " Dishonorable Mention: "The Coworker" in Dear Prudence's " Help! A Senior Colleague Asked Me, the Intern, to Help Translate His animated Porn. " Worst Family Member: "The Father" in Dear Prudence's " My Husband Won't Stop Exposing Himself to Our Teenage Daughter " Dishonorable Mention: "The Mother" in Dear Prudence's " Help! My Daughter Got Some Quack to Diagnose Her with ADHD, but I Think She's Just Lazy. " Worst Partner: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' " I[30] am having a mastectomy due to breast cancer and my boyfriend [29] of 4 years is having a hard time with my decision. " Dishonorable Mention: "The Boyfriend" in r/relationships' " I'm [24F] on vacation without my boyfriend [33 M] because he missed his flight. Would it be wrong to live it up and ignore him for a few weeks? " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Worst Friend or Roommate: "The Best Friend" in Dear Prudence's "<a href= "https://slate.com/human-interest/2
Wed, December 19, 2018
#99: Han and Matt Unfollow Their Exes
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of December 9th, 2018, and beyond, including: SPONSOR: A Head Canon Productions Ruins Christmas (Soundcloud) A Head Canon Productions on YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Patreon Ask a Manager : " An employee’s spouse emailed about his holiday bonus " Miss Manners : " No need to tip for a tweet " Social Q's : " If You Can’t Stop Name-Dropping, You’re Not Coming Skiing This Year " Dear Abby : " Man Retiring From The Military Deploys New Rules In Marriage " Swipe This! : " My ex is thriving on Instagram—and its making me miserable " Dear Prudence : (CW: Sexual Assualt) " Sleeping Pills and Consent " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Nicole : "When Is It Appropriate to Disclose Mental Health Diagnoses With Your Boss?" Update to Listener Uldrek the Resilient : "Should My Partner and I Open Our Relationship to Date Our Best Friends (Who Are Also Partners)?" Reference : #61: Han and Matt Teach Polyamory 102 (& Rebrand!) Listener The Bronze Leviathan Has Thoughts on Extramarital Affairs Reference : #97 Han and Matt Revisit Extramarital Affairs Shoutout to Ask APW : " Can I Fire My Bridesmaid for Not Making Me Hers? " Shoutout to PR Newswire : "<a href= "https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/acclaimed-ask-am
Wed, December 12, 2018
#98: Han and Matt Cry Over Everything
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of December 2nd, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask The Salty Waitress : " How do I tell a friend to keep their kids away from my party? " Dear Prudence : " Help! A Distant Friend Asked Me to Describe My Genitals Over Text " Tough Love : " Only You Can Prevent Single-People Problems " Asking for a Friend : " Your Ex Sucks but Capitalism Sucks More " Carolyn Hax : " An abusive ex is terminally ill. Should you help with his care? " Dear Mishu : " I want to cry but no tears will come. What do I do? Rose asks Mishu answers " Doctor Who Great British Baking Show Ralph Breaks the Internet Maggie Stiefvater's "The Raven Cycle" Jhene Aiko's "Trip" Reddit Round-Up r/relationship_advice : " What do I (25 F) do about my boyfriend (28M) misusing adult diapers, which causes me humiliation? " r/legaladvice : " Neighbors stole our rock. " r/relationship_advice : " I (20m) am scared of telling me parents about my older gf (43) " r/relationship_advice : " Accidentally peed on my boss’s dick " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Update from Listener Mara the Raven Mistress "How Do We Open Up Our Marriage for Casual Sex and Remain Totally Discreet About It?" from Episode 93 Feedback from Listener Hannah on Episode 97's Talk of Sick Days Shoutout to Savage Love : "<a href= "h
Wed, December 05, 2018
#97: Han and Matt Revisit Extramarital Affairs
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 25th, 2018, and beyond, including: Dear Dana : " How Do I Convince My Girlfriend That I Want to Marry Her, Just Now Now? " Ask a Manager : " What do I say when I’m calling in sick for a mental health day? " Miss Conduct : " My sister has become a stranger " I Know Nothing Ask Me Anything : " How do I not get caught having an affair? " Savage Love : " His Wife of Thirty Years Now Identifies as Asexual and Won't Agree to an Open Relationship " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Stormclaw the Fierce : "All of My Friends Are Flaky" Shoutout to Dear Urban Diplomat : " How do I skip my office Christmas party without looking like a total Grinch? " Shoutout to Hello Giggles : " A doctor answered every single one of our questions about IUDs so you can make an informed decision " Shoutout to Kitty Corner : " 'Dear Prudence' provides an amusing snapshot of the human condition " Shoutout to AskMen : " How To Be A Better Husband " Shoutout to Ask Jareesa on APW : " How Do You Throw An Afrofuturism Wedding? " Shoutout to Social Q's : " Why Do None of These Women Care About My Opinion? " The Globe and Mail Correction Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Wed, November 28, 2018
#96: Han and Matt Buy Blackout Curtains
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 18th, 2018, and beyond, including: Carolyn Hax : " By using fake online profiles to dig up dirt, mother shows her true face " Dear Abby : " Women's Opposing Viewpoints Could Doom Couple's Future " Miss Conduct : " How to say 'No presents please' " Savage Love : " New Next Door Neighbors Force Woman to Watch Them Fight, Fuck, Shit, Trim Pubes " Ask a Manager : " parents in my office are sticking non-parents with all the holiday coverage " Baggage Check : " My sister-in-law won't stop trying to rope me into her cosmetics-sales scheme " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Light : Listener Machete Alice: "I'm Back! And Looking for Advice On the Upcoming Major Steps In My Life" Reference : Opinion Overflow #9: "My Boyfriend and I Are About to Move In Together And I'm Looking for Advice to Head Off Co-Habitation Troubles" Shoutout to Mother Jones : " A Question About All Those Angry Uncles " Shoutout to GQ : " This Thanksgiving Just Do The Dishes " Shoutout to Dear Prudence : " Help! I'm in a Happy Hetero Marriage but I'm Also Bisexual. Can I Stay in the Closet? " Shoutout to Ask a Manager : " Can I Read Erotica On Work Breaks? " Shoutout to Damage Control : " My husband’s support for Trump is poisoning our marriage. Should I get a divorce? " Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Lo
Thu, November 22, 2018
#95: Han and Matt Give Seasonal Thanks
In a special Thanksgiving Holiday episode, Han and Matt discuss ways to survive the holiday and seasonally-relevant questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 11th, 2018, and beyond, including: Thank you and acknowledgement that we’re entering a Problematic Time of Year Holiday Advice Letter Categories I don’t celebrate; how do I shut down people who won’t leave it alone? Extremely extra relatives Food shame Office holiday parties Trump supporting relations Worst of 2018 Year In Review (Voting runs on Facebook Fan Group from Nov 23rd to Dec 14th) || http://bit.ly/2018WorstHumans Worst Coworker || http://bit.ly/2018coworker Worst Family Member || http://bit.ly/2018familymember Worst Partner || http://bit.ly/2018worstpartner Worst Friend or Roommate || <a href= "https://bit.ly/2018f
Wed, November 21, 2018
#94: Han and Matt Return at Last
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 4th, 2018, and beyond, including: SPONSOR : Sudio : Maker of high quality, stylish earbuds and headphones (use promo code "HANANDMATT" at checkout for 15% off your order!) Carolyn Hax : " Family doesn't support a single woman’s desire to adopt " Ask a Manager : " I overshared with my office about a Tinder date and it didn't work out " Dear Prudence : " Help! My Cousin Is Taking Advantage of My Mom to Get Free Child Care. " [SLATE PLUS] Work Friend : " How to Ask Someone Out at Work " Sense & Sensitivity : " Parent worries son wearing nail polish is gay " Jonathan Van Ness on Instagram Travis McElroy on Twitter Miss Manners : " Next time, treat contagious clerk with compassion " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Light : "How Do I Confront My Datefriend Who Started Ghosting Me and Secretly Seeing Someone Else?" Update from Awful Anaconda on Church Abuser Reference: #82: Han and Matt Proceed With Caution Shoutout to Queer Abby : " How Do I Encourage My Partner To Start Therapy? " Shoutout to the Old Debunked Myth : " Does wedding rice really hurt birds? " Smithsonian Mag : " Where Did the Fear of Poisoned Halloween Candy Come From? " Shoutout to " Dear Abby's grandson, Dean Phillips, wins seat in Congress " Shoutout to Captain Awkward : " How to get through USA election night? #BELATED " Shoutout t
Tue, November 06, 2018
#93: Han and Matt Cast Their Vote
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of October 28th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask a Manager : " my coworker signed me up for a racist organization as a joke " Dear Prudence : " Help! My Daughter Got Some Quack to Diagnose Her With ADHD, but I Think She’s Just Lazy. " Queer Abby : " My Friend Keeps Saying #NotAllMen Type Crap " Miss Lonelyhearts : " No need to stick around for annual ghost visit " College Humor : " I Hate Scary Movies " Dear Wendy : " He Says He Wants to Break Up in A Year. Should I Do it Sooner? " Carolyn Hax : " She says it hurt when I broke up with her. How crazy is that? " Dear Abby : " Tattoo Lover Gets Birthday Criticism From Grandparents " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Mara the Raven Mistress : "How Do We Open Up Our Marriage for Casual Sex and Remain Totally Discreet About It?" The Daily Dot : " 5 online hookup sites that actually work " Shoutout to Sarah Cooper's New Book " How to Be Successful Without Hurting Men's Feelings " Preview on Ask a Manager Shoutout to Listener Zoya Answering a Question on Ask APW Shoutout to Ask a Teacher : " Should My Son's Teacher Support His Love of Unicorns? " Shoutout to Ask Amy : " Intrusive cat causes fur to fly " Atlas Obscura : " A Parthenon of Banned Books, Built at a Former Book-Burning Site " Shoutout to Care and Feeding : " When Can I Confront a Stranger Over How They Treat a Child? " Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to a
Wed, October 31, 2018
#92: Han and Matt Haunt Your Balls
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of October 21st, 2018, and beyond, including: Carolyn Hax: " Your husband may be cranking the hostility to 11 " Ask a Manager: " my employee keeps adjusting himself while were talking " Ask Dr. NerdLove: " When Do I Disclose My Mental Illness? " Ask APW: " Is The Sexism Of The Wedding Industry Mirrored In My Relationship? " A Practical Wedding: " This Is How I've Learned To Deal With Emotional Labor " Queer Abby: " I Think I'm A Lesbian But I Don't Fit The Stereotypes " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Anxious Ace Asking After Amorous Advice: "What's An Asexual Panromantic To Do?" Opinion Overflow Live! on Facebook #3 Coming soon to a Facebook Fan Page near you! Spooky Patron Names: Aephe, Gout Batty-Rage Heldraga the Undead Akinma, Burial Hell-a-Mentalist Cynthea Moth-Man-Flurry E, Eerie Sin-Sturgeon Dhergo, Sordid Strangler The "She Who Shall Not Be Named" One Taphre, Renewed Cultist Riecka the Executioner The Phantom of Milkbay Aurora, Even Darker Huntress Xantar, Feared Aero-Not-Going-With-the-Obvious-Pun Alana, Mutant Entrailblazer Dr. Wrenwood, Rabid Feminist Kavura, Killustrious Murderer Lygeia, Conniving Basilisk Tamisril, Drop Bear of The Land Down Under Zelda Ambershine, Satan's Cerberus Kahlmera, Revenant of The Milkbay DMV Silnia Fearfangs Azuriel, Golem of the Devil's Shank-Tuary Musa the "Shirt That Needs Badly Ironed" Hearted Ethemera of the Shade Massacre Lady Margella III, Ghost Commander of Davy Jones' Pirate Ship Kroval Zidarose, Unpaid Intern of Davy Jones' Pirate Ship Orlahv, Wicked Witch Kalvarin Ashmor, Hellhound Dirty Dancer Nyori the Too Familiar Spirit Feldaius, Plaguesmith of Hysteria Frights Kaimura Coldplum, Whose Crimes Will Be Named, Finally, In Alphabetical Order: Blocking the exit of the elevator at the end of the work day because you were too busy looking at your phone to
Wed, October 24, 2018
#91: Han and Matt Arrange Your Makeover
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of October 14th, 2018, and beyond, including: Dear Abby: " Make Life Easy " (AKA The One In Which Abby Advocates White-Washing Your Future Offspring's Names) The Twitter thread that kicked off this conversation Vogue: " Actually, 'Dear Abby,' I Like My 'Foreign Name' Just Fine, Thanks " NY Times: " No 'Foreign' Names for Children, Dear Abby Advised. Furious Parents Replied. " Huffington Post: " Dear Abby, Here's What It's Really Like To Have A 'Foreign' Name In America " Ask Amy: " Moms say teen girls are 'asking for it' " Ask a Manager: " how do I tell an interviewer about my hobbies when my hobbies are kind of boring? " Carolyn Hax: " Hanging the No Boys Allowed sign at a public playground " Dear Wendy: " I Got Drunk and Made Vulgar Remarks About a Coworker and Now I'm Afraid to Go Back to Work " Dear Mariella: " My boyfriend lost his virginity to a sex worker then lied about it " BONUS KNOWLEDGE: Numerous studies and analyses, though lacking in reliable population-level data due to the necessary underground nature of the work in the US, actually do put the rates of STIs anywhere between " 5 to 60 times higher among sex workers [in the US] than in general populations ." Meanwhile, where sex work is legal and sex workers are required to be screened for STIs quarterly, the rate of STIs is overall lower for Australian sex workers than the general population . SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Arkyn the Enduring: "Practical polyamory tips for dealing with jealousy and dating despair" Listener Dina Explains ABC in Australia Shoutout to NPR's Fresh Air: " What Would Eleanor Do? 'If You Ask Me' Revisits Roosevelt's Advice Columns " Shoutout to Allison Green on Savage Love: "<a hr
Wed, October 17, 2018
#90: Han and Matt Live Their Truth
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of October 7th, 2018, and beyond, including: SPONSOR : Sudio : Maker of high quality, stylish earbuds and headphones (use promo code "HANANDMATT" at checkout for 15% off your order!) Dear Prudence : " I Told My Partner About My Sexual Assault. He Told Me to 'Get Over It.' " Ask a Manager : " my office does Fat Friday — and I have an eating disorder " Social Q's : " Dating After #MeToo " Ask APW : " Am I Overcomplicating The Hell Out Of My Bridal Shower? " Miss Lonelyhearts : " Hubby has a sex buddy — and it's a man " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Not Really Envious : "I don't get NRE and now it's a problem" Shoutout to Washington Post : " Self-proclaimed 'Old Coots' offer life advice at farmers market. Their slogan: 'It's Probably Bad Advice, But It's Free.' " Shoutout to Captain Awkward : " We decided to leave our abusive ex and move to another state, only she came with us and is living on our couch? " Shoutout to Savage Love : " Everything Gives You Cancer " Shoutout to Consequence of Sound : " Speedy Ortiz share new track DTMFA: Stream " Adult Swim Singles Program : " DTMFA " Listener Update from Differently Gymtimidated Reference: From Ep 89: "My Girlfriend Wants to Work Out Together; I Would Rather Keep Working Out Separately" Shoutout to ABC.net Australia : " Polyamory, unicorns, demisexuality: Five takes on monogamy and its alternatives " The "WOMP It Up!" Podcast Now Has an Advice Section at the End <a href= "https://itunes.ap
Wed, October 10, 2018
#89: Han and Matt Escape from Reality
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 30th, 2018, and beyond, including: BONUS: Han's Tattoo on Their Tattoo Artist's Instagram (and Han's Instagram ) Listener Skyler Elmridge, Ingenious Blacksmith: "Should We Put a Spot for Pronouns On Our Wedding Place Cards?" Listener Insert Name Here: "Am I a Bad Queer?" Listener Quarrius, Nimble Geomancer: "What More Can I Do to Help My Friend Who Keeps Facing Abusive Jobs Everywhere He Goes?" Listener Aephe, Stout Battlemage: "Should I Talk to My Dad Again?" Listener Yolanda, Cynosure of the Net: "Where Do I Find My Motivation Now That I'm No Longer Being Terrorized By a Cat?" SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Lady Lazor, Hufflepuff: "A Question of Bodies and Their Wonderful Variety!" Learning About Disabilities and Chronic Pain A Listener on teeth brushing and chronic pain on our Facebook Group Lithub: " My Disease Is not a Metaphor " Sonya Huber's " Pain Woman and Other Essays From a Nervous System " Shoutout to my girlfriend Emile Listeners Weigh In On Gender Reveal Parties CNN: " Border patrol agent's gender reveal party ignited a 47,000-acre wildfire " Elle: " What To Expect When Your Child's Gender Is Fire " Pokemon's Gender Binary (and also WTF did I just watch?!? ) Children's Books Eschewing Gender Norms Suggestions from listeners on in our Facebook Group The Ocean Is Coming For You Advice Column Question Round-Up Ask the Strategist: " What Is the Best Lounge Chair With Back Support? " Fatherly Advice: " The News is Terrible. Don't Let Your Kid Watch it. " Y'all Need Help: "<a
Wed, October 03, 2018
#88: Han and Matt Sweat It Out
CW: Skip to the 6:15 mark of the podcast if you want to avoid conversation about sexual assault. Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 23rd, 2018, and beyond, including: Climate Advice : " Should I tell my Republican friend that her Florida mansion is doomed by sea-level rise? " Sense & Sensitivity : " Teenage daughter apathetic about going to polls " Slate : " Help! Is My Couchsurfing Sister Using Us to Make a Fortune on Airbnb? " The Ethicist : " Should I Go to a Gender-Reveal Party? " Ask a Manager : " my boss talks to me like I'm a baby " #82: Han and Matt Proceed With Caution Ask the Salty Waitress : " Should I expect the food-delivery person to schlep up my stairs? " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Differently Gymtimidated : "My Girlfriend Wants to Work Out Together; I Would Rather Keep Working Out Separately" BONUS : " Opinion Overflow Live! | 02 " on our Facebook Group, took place this Saturday, 9/29, at 3 PM EST Content Warning : Advice Columnists Discussing Sexual Assault This Week Baggage Check Live : " A revolving sprinkler of lies " Dear Prudence: " My Husband Won't Stop Exposing Himself to Our Teenage Daughter " Dear Wendy : " Kavanaugh Vs. Women " Carolyn Hax Live : " Rage and anguish " Friendshipping! : " Friends Push Each Other on Swing Sets " Dear Fuck-Up : " Should I apologize to the women I hurt? " Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on h
Wed, September 26, 2018
#87: Han and Matt Burst Into Flames
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 16th, 2018, and beyond, including: Dear Prudence : " My Boyfriend Thinks I'm Not Trying Hard Enough to Orgasm From Vaginal Penetration Alone " Ask a Manager : " my coworker gives everyone the silent treatment for weeks " Ask Polly : " Should I Quit My Day Job to Write a Book? " Tough Love : " Help! I Hate My Girlfriend's Armpit Hair " r/relationships : " I[30] am having a mastectomy due to breast cancer but am choosing no reconstruction and my boyfriend [29] of 4 years is having a hard time with my decision. " Erika Lust Ask Dr. NerdLove : " Help, I Have Too Many Men In My Life " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Migraineur : "How Do I Convey to My Loved Ones that My Chronic Migraines Aren't Curable?" BONUS : " Opinion Overflow Live! | 02 " on our Facebook Group, taking place this Saturday, 9/29, at 3 PM EST Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Wed, September 19, 2018
#86: Han and Matt Brush Their Teeth
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 9th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask a Manager: " my office has a mandatory feelings chart " Ask a Manager: " my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs – at every meeting " The Ethicist: " What Should I Do With Old Racist Memorabilia? " Dear Prudence: " My Boyfriend Tricked Me Into Becoming Friends With His Other Girlfriend " r/relationships: " My [41/F] husband [41M] does not brush his teeth, and I'm at my wits end. " GQ: " Men, Please Brush Your Teeth " Jezebel: " Men Going to Lose All Their Damn Teeth, Probably! " Daily Mail: " Men aren't brushing their teeth every day and their wives are grossed out " Ask The Salty Waitress: " I need an exemption from this restaurant's cell-phone ban " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Colenka the Saucy Rogue: "My Friend Keeps Bringing Her Boyfriend As a Plus One When He's Not Invited and How Do I Stop This?" Shoutout to Washington Post: " Brides are too afraid of being 'bridezilla' to ask for what they want " Shoutout to Slate: " I Gave Advice on a Hugely Popular Reddit Forum for a Week. If Only People Wanted My Answers. " Shoutout to TV Guide: " Facebook Watch Tries to Go Legit with Sorry for Your Loss " Shoutout to The Guardian: " Think it feels like the end of the world? Try reading a self-help column " Shoutout to Well and Good: " Miss you already Dear Sugars: 5 life-changing lessons I learned from my favorite advice podcast " Shoutout to Care and Feeding: " I'm the white parent of a biracial child. How should I deal with his pote
Wed, September 12, 2018
#85: Han and Matt Report Your Grandmother
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 2nd, 2018, and beyond, including: BONUS: Opinion Overflow LIVE! Ask a Manager: " HR wants our personal cell numbers in our out-of-office messages so we can always be contacted " Ask a Manager: my manager shows up while I’m having chemotherapy to talk about work Ask a Manager: my boss made me leave a work note at a grave, company won’t tell us when someone is fired, and more Dear Mariella: " My boyfriend called me a slut now I dread seeing him " Julia Clare: "Straight Women Need to Unionize" Tweet Asking For a Friend: " I Want to Explore Polyamory, My Partner Doesn't. What Should I Do? " Dear Abby: " Fiancee Wants Her Intended To Halt 'boys' Club' Culture " Baggage Check: " My girlfriend complains that I am 'no fun' after losing weight " Savage Love: " I'm Turned On When I Force My Boyfriend to Eat, but Am I Forcing Him to Eat Too Much? " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Zaphrus Sabersong, Stalwart Mystic: "Is It Okay to Lie to My Grandmother About Having Reported Her to the DMV?" Update to the Nameless One's Question: "On Bodies, Weddings, and Chronic Illness (The POWER TRIO) Reference: " #71: Han and Matt Hoard Their Apps " Listener Rachel the Librarian Knows a Thing or Two About Attaining US Citizenship Reference: " #82: Han and Matt Proceed With Caution "; Listener Sorrowfang: "Should I Get Married Quicker Than I'm Comfortable with so My Partner Can Get a Visa?" Shoutout to Care and Feeding: "<a href= "https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/09/parenting-advice-on-coming-out-and-gay-siblings.
Wed, September 05, 2018
#84: Han and Matt Kill the Mood
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of August 26th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask a Manager : " our CEO challenged someone to eat dead bugs " Ask a Manager : " my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs – at every meeting " Ask a Queer Chick : " How Do I Stop Accidentally Misgendering My Co-Worker? " Ask APW : " My Sister Just Came Out As Trans And Wants To Be My Bridesmaid " Dear Abby : " Teen's Flannel Shirts Become Focus Of Fight With Stepmom " Savage Love : " Swinger doesn't want to inadvertently fuck any Trump supporters. " Captain Awkward : " Mom, you've had two weddings, let me have one! " The Ethicist : " If Two People Claim a Lost Cat Who Should Get It? " Dear Prudence : " The "Schrödinger’s Stolen Cat" Edition " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! The Raging Mist Vine : "How Can I Avoid Guys on Dating Apps Who Seem to Only Be Looking For Sex?" Anonymous Listener on Boomer Stereotyping Reference: #83: Han and Matt Commune with Miri New York Times : " Five Essential 'Dear Sugars' Episodes " (The End of Dear Sugars) New York Times : " Introducing 'Dear Sugars,' Our Radically Empathic Advice Podcast " Advice Column Alert : Dear Mishu Advice Column Alert : Sex Gets Real With Dawn Serra Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at <a hr
Bonus · Thu, August 30, 2018
What Would Miri Do? | Opinion Overflow #40
In part 2 of 2 this week's episodes, Han and Matt continue their conversation with Miri Mogilevsky! SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Miri Mogilevsky Brute Reason : Polyamory 201: "Monogamous for the Right Person" Miri on Twitter (as Sondosia) Miri's Homepage Miri on Patreon Listener C : "I'm Moving in with All Male Roommates and Acquaintances Keep Bringing up Rape" Listener Zovoq, Lamia Ravager : "Is everyone too overwhelmed for e-mail now? (Alternate clickbait-y title: are millennials ruining communication?)" [Content Warning: Racism / 22:40 to 25:00] Listener Holly Hellhunter on Laura Ingalls Wilder Listener Krista on Last Podcast on the Left Advice Column Alert: " Ask Pajiba " on Pajiba " Your Well-Being Is More Important Than Your Mom's " Shoutout to Savage Love : " Creepy Couple Creeps Out Budding New Unicorn " Shoutout to Captain Awkward : " Don't go on vacation with Nazis. " Shoutout to Dear Sugars : " Talking About Privilege With Catrice M. Jackson " Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Wed, August 29, 2018
#83: Han and Matt Commune with Miri
Han and Matt are joined by fellow Know-It-All-therapist-and-blogger-and-cancer-survivor-and-fiction-writer-and-gardener-and-total-cutie Miri Mogilevsky for a 2-parter and discussed recent advice column questions as well as listener questions! SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Miri Mogilevsky Brute Reason : Polyamory 201: "Monogamous for the Right Person" Miri on Twitter (as Sondosia) Miri's Homepage Miri on Patreon Non-Monogamy Help : " Ultimatums and Polyamory " Miss Conduct : " Advice: Is it OK to publicly mock my mansplaining colleagues? " [Content Warning: Rape / 34:03 to 45:20] Dear Abby : " Man Is Unconvinced That His Girlfriend Has No Sex Drive " #48: Hannah and Matt Scrutinize Sexual Imbalances " Come As You Are " by Emily Nagoski Ph.D. Baby Boomer Memes Ask a Manager : " My coworker likes to trash-talk Millennials " To be continued on the next episode, Opinion Overflow #40! Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Wed, August 22, 2018
#82: Han and Matt Proceed With Caution
Han and Matt tackle questions entirely from listeners in this special episode, including: Listener The Blissful Nether Lich : "Where Do We Draw the Line for Throwing Out the Whole Historical Figure?" New York Times : " Prestigious Laura Ingalls Wilder Award Renamed Over Racial Insensitivity " Slate : " The Far Right’s Pedophilia Smear Campaign Is Working " Ravishly : " How To Love Something And Also Hold It Accountable, From My Favorite Murder's Biggest Fan " Wil Williams on Parasocial Relationships Listener The Awful Anaconda : "I Work With a Known Predator and No One Will Kick the Motherfucker Out" New York Times : " Catholic Priests Abused 1,000 Children in Pennsylvania, Report Says " Listener Sorrowfang : "Should I Get Married Quicker Than I'm Comfortable with so My Partner Can Get a Visa?" Listener The Electric Bone Scorpion : "My Sister Won't Tell Me Whether or Not She's Coming to my Wedding" SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener The Bronze Leviathan : "How Do I Deflect Getting Asked How Old I Am All the Dang Time?" Wedding Pronoun Advice from Lephra, Master Manipulator Reference : #81: Han and Matt Double the Fury : " How Do We Make Our Non-Binary Guests Comfortable? " Killing Kittens Business Insider : " £5 million sex party company Killing Kittens is crowdfunding, raised over £500,000 " Killing Kittens Your Safe Date Shoutout to AutoStraddle : " Getting In Bed With Kristin: AMA for Everyone! " <a href= "https://www.autostraddle.com/join-autostraddle-plus
Bonus · Tue, August 21, 2018
Kitty-Cats Know It All (Bonus Episode!)
When Han and Matt are away, the kitties are at play! Seven INCREDIBLE listeners banded together and recorded a parody episode of the show from the perspective of our cats, Mad-Eye Moody and Shadowcat, and the results are spot-on and utterly delightful. Here it is for all to share in our delight! Credit to: Marenthius, Reanimator of Flora Xantar, Fearless Aeronaut Quarrius, Nimble Geomancer Maewyn the Lacerator Princess Silentstrike Amelia Oric, Progress Seeker Ezavul, Angel of Mending They even put together a Playbill with credits and cat pics ! 10/10, would be parodied again.
Wed, August 08, 2018
#81: Han and Matt Double the Fury
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 29th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask APW : " How Do We Make Our Non-Binary Guests Comfortable? " Queer Eye : " Sky's the Limit " Captain Awkward : " 'When I told you my marriage is over, it wasn’t an invitation for advice on how to fix it.' + Summer Pledge Drive continues " Dear Prudence : " Is This Abuse or Just Lack of Sleep? " Ask a Manager : " my coworker brings her five kids to our work meetings " Baggage Check : " How do I get my sister to stop sharing my life story on her podcast? " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Talvir, Woodland Acrobat : "So, Is Gender Just a Measure of How Closely One Aligns With Gendered Stereotypes or What Exactly?" Listener Update and Question from Sonnet : "My Friend's Fiance is a Bit of a Jeffrey and I Don't Know How to Politely Explain Why I Can't Hang Out With Them Anymore" Reference : #61: Han and Matt Teach Polyamory 102 : "How Much Should I Tell My Partner About My Romantic Status With My Secondary Partner?" Listener Update from Kalvarin Ashmor, Renowned Euphomancer Reference: #73: Han and Matt Slay the Demons : "Our Friends Need Serious Help, But What More Can We Do For Them?" Listener Kavura, Illustrious Mariner : "What Are the Ethical Considerations for Donating Blood?" Red Cross : " LGBTQ Donors " Future of Personal Health : " The Far-Reaching Benefits of Donating Platelets " Shoutout to Dear Fifi : " Is my genera
Wed, August 01, 2018
#80: Han and Matt Curb Their Gloating
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 22nd, 2018, and beyond, including: Matt Notes (Skip 5 minutes ahead if the below is not interesting to you!) Fantastical names: Are a Patron-Only perk going forward Leader Board: Will be retired on August 31st Emails: Can no longer all be responded to due to volume Asking for a Friend: " My Houseguest Was a Brocialist Jerk. How Should I Respond? " Dear Wendy: " My New Boyfriend is Mad That My Male Roommates See Me Naked " Carolyn Hax: " When a friend talks down to you, should you speak up to her? " Baggage Check: " A friendship on the critical list? " Miss Manners: " In-laws can't seem to leave the camo at home " Dear Prudence: " My Best Friend’s Son Is Stalking My Daughter—and My Friend Calls It Puppy Love " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Norgowyn, Doomsayer of The Night's Fall: "How Do I Let My Friends and Family Know That My Moving Away Has Nothing to do With Them?" Shoutout to MBMBaM 416: " How Do I Respond to People Who Ask 'Is This a Sex Thing' About my Polyamorous Relationships? " Shoutout to Dear Harriette: " I'm Tired of People Telling Me How Much Better I Look Now That I've Lost Weight " Shoutout to Vice: " Labeling People Video Game 'Addicts' Could Be a Massive Mistake " Shoutout to Captain Awkward: " Guest Post by Leah Chibe: Talking To Your Kids About Scary Things In The News " Hollywood: " Natalie Portman in talks to play warring twin sisters in advice columnist biopic " Advice Column Alert: " Queer Abby " on INTO Queer Abby: " Am I Bi
Wed, July 25, 2018
#79: Han and Matt Mull Monogamish Mysteries
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 15th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask Dr. NerdLove: " Do I Need To Fire My Friend? " Susan Fowler: " Reflecting On One Very, Very Strange Year At Uber " Refinery29: " Feminist Apparel CEO Fires Entire Staff After They Learn He's An Admitted Sexual Abuser " Daily Beast: " Ousted Billboard CEO John Amato Being Probed for Sexual Misconduct " The Cut: " Thinx Ex-Employee Accuses Miki Agrawal of Sexual Harassment " NY Mag: " Vice Media Was Built on a Bluff " Savage Love: " Her Husband Demanded a Monogamous Commitment but Describes Their Marriage As Open " Jhumpa Lahiri: A Temporary Matter (from Interpreter of Maladies) Savage Love: " Learning To Trust Again After a Monogamish Relationship Blows Up " Ask a Manager: " my child-free coworkers constantly complain about people with children " Dear Fuck-Up: " My boyfriend can't manage his 'anxiety' " Dear Abby: " Hurt Turns To Anger As Video Games Consume Boyfriend " Ask Ellie: " Video games are taking over my son's life " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Update from "When to Throw Out the Whole Sister?" Reference: When to Throw out the Whole Sister | Opinion Overflow #37 Shoutout to Baggage Check: " I'm not happy with the way I look, so please stop asking me to be in your selfies " Shoutout to Captain Awkward: "<a h
Wed, July 18, 2018
#78: Han and Matt Plan a Tattoo
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 8th, 2018, and beyond, including: Listener Meetup in DC Saturday, July 21 at 6 PM - 10 PM Penn Social 801 E St NW, Washington, District of Columbia 20004 Han and Matt on the Ask a Manager Podcast Ask Amy : " Family friend is shocked by woman's film career " Ask APW : " What Do You Do When Your Husband Isn't Your Biggest Fan? " Dear Dharma : " Are We Sending Mixed Messages on Equality? " Dear Abby : " Crush On Married Boss Causes Heartache Every Day For Worker " Dear Wendy : " My Boyfriend Wants to Open Our Relationship But I Don't Want To " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Shoutout to Captain Awkward: " #1123: Blanket statement: DONT FUCK YOUR STUDENTS " Shoutout to Carolyn Hax : " Parents offer racist undermining advice about her dream to adopt " Shoutout to Ask a Manager : " should I give my boss a heads-up about my half-sleeve tattoo " Karen Glass Instagram Shoutout to Ask Amy : " Woman's #MeToo moments lead to despair " Listener Victoria Recommends Door Guardian for Home Security Reference: #64 : Han and Matt Yield the Floor L istener Melanie's Thoughts About Pinning Toddler's Ears Back Reference: #64 : Han and Matt Yield the Floor Listener Meghan Relates Strongly to the Ethicist Letter Writer from Last Episode Reference: #77: Han and Matt Agree to Disagree Listener Alexis Has Thoughts On Friend Hugging#7
Tue, July 10, 2018
#77: Han and Matt Agree to Disagree
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 1st, 2018, and beyond, including: Sense & Sensitivity : " A Very Talkative Friend Now Rides the Same Morning Train As Me And I Just Want My Quiet Time Back " Judge John Hodgman : " Singing Along to 'Hamilton' — at 'Hamilton' " Ask E. Jean : " How Do I Keep My Wedding Off Social Media? " Ask APW : " I Want My Friends To Be More Excited About My Polyamorous Engagement " Ask Amy : " Expectant parents want to avoid gender stereotypes " Take Gender Forward The Ethicist : " Must I Honor My Dad's Gifts to Political Groups? " Ask a Queer Chick : " Should I Shave My Legs So My Husband Is Attracted to Me? " SPONSOR: Podigy : The podcast editing service we partner proudly with! Listener Mortified : "My Very Conservative Roommates Caught Me Sexting and I Don't Know What To Do" Shoutout to Savage Love : " The World Is on Fire but He Has a Question About Porn " Shoutout to Carolyn Hax : " Want to make sexism obsolete? Start with the kids. " Shoutout to RadioWest : " Asking For A Friend " Shoutout to Chicago Tribune's Write-Up of the New Play About Ann Landers, 'The Lady with All the Answers' Shoutout to Social Q's : " Let’s Not Talk About That " Advice Column Alert : "Transplaining" on Mic Advice Column Alert : <a href= "http://www.kamloop
Fri, June 29, 2018
#76: Han and Matt Pack Their Bags
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 17th, 2018, and beyond, including: Carolyn Hax : " You have PTSD because you were abused. Don't beat yourself up. " Ask a Manager : " my boss wants us to all share our mental health needs at every meeting " Dear Fuck-Up : " How do you live when everything sucks? " Savage Love : " His Wife Has Two Boyfriends and He's Got Squat " Politico : " Young Trumpies Hit D.C. " Care and Feeding : " My Kid Doesn't Want to Volunteer. Is She Hopelessly Selfish? " #FellowKnowItAll Question: What do you think? Listener Lori : "Red Cross Is Guilt Tripping Me and I May Have Crossed a Line" Shoutout to You Need Help : " You’re Not Sure If You're a Boy and Gender Is Hard " The Nib : "Am I Queer Enough?" Shout-out to Ask Amy : " Jogger wonders how to respond to street harassment " Advice Column Alert : " Advice From A Nice Gir l" on Refinery29 Happy Story About Polyamorous Relationship in the News Remira, Trouble Seeker's Thought on Friends' Mental Health Reference: #73 : Han and Matt Slay the Demons Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Thu, June 21, 2018
#75: Han and Matt Respect Bodily Autonomy
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 11th, 2018, and beyond, including: On Bodily Autonomy: Dear Jennifer: " My perfect girlfriend insists on getting breast implants " Sense & Sensitivity: " I'm concerned about teenage daughters posting model shots on Instagram " Ask Amy: " Girl pressed for nude photo should wear T-shirt instead " Ask Ellie: " I don't feel bad enough to end the affair I'm having " Savage Love: " Guy Alarmed, Yeah, By Younger Boyfriend's Interest " Ask a Manager: " my coworker interrupts my work to ask why I look so serious " r/relationships: " I'm [24 F] on vacation without my boyfriend [33 M] because he missed his flight. Would it be wrong to live it up and ignore him for a few weeks? " Listener Apin'eht, Thorny Duelist: Sadistic Work Bully Update and How to Leave a Job Review Without Burning Bridges Reference: Opinion Overflow #24: "How Do I Deal with a Sadistic Work Bully?" Kairluma, the Wonder of Haraka: Pink Bridesmaid Wedding Dress Update Reference: #71 : Han and Matt Hoard Their Apps Advice Column Alert: " Baggage Check " on Washington Post Baggage Check: " Is My Therapist Slut-Shaming Me? " Shoutout to Carolyn Hax & Ask Amy: " How to show solidarity with a recovering
Thu, June 14, 2018
#74: Han and Matt Believe Your Illness
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 3rd, 2018, and beyond, including: Captain Awkward: " Dudebro won't stop bugging me about another dudebro. I JUST WANNA DO MY JOB. " Ask APW: " What Can I Do About A Partner Who Isn't Excited To Marry Me? " Carolyn Hax: " Mocking Yourself Isn't an Invitation for Others to Pile On " Dear Fuck-Up: " I Don't Think My Friend's Chronic Illness Is Real " Washington Post: " Dangerous unproven treatments for 'chronic Lyme disease' are on the rise " Shout-Out to Ask a Manager: " My Coworkers Keep Trying to Find out What My Chronic Illness Is " Ask a Manager: " Someone Spends an Hour a Day Putting on Makeup in Our Shared Bathroom " NOTE: Content Warning (Suicide and Domestic Abuse) from 37.01 through 54.04) Listener The Anonymous One: "My Online Friend Might Need Mental Health Intervention And I Don't Know What To Do" Listener Machete Alice Has Additional Advice About Group Therapy Confidentially Breach Reference: Han and Matt Know It All - Episode 73 Listener Ila Seledria, Adrenaline Seeker: "Should I Address My Friend Who Might Be Violating Therapy Confidentiality on Social Media?" Listener Desdemona & Another Reminder That Your Partner Threatening Suicide If You Leave Them Is Unconscionable and Not Your Fault Reference: Han and Matt Know It All - Episode 73 Listener Kalvarin Ashmor, Renowned Euphomancer: "Our Friends Need Serious Help, But What More Can We Do For Them?" Listener Clogger Has Words and Resources for LGBTQ Survivors in Abusive Relationships <a href= "https://drive.google.com/open?id=1QH44o
Tue, June 05, 2018
#73: Han and Matt Slay the Demons
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 27th, 2018, and beyond, including: Dear Abby: " Hard Work in Gym Pays Off With Arm-Wrestling Triumph " Ask a Manager : " My Coworker Has Started Faking a British Accent " " Bust a Nut " Clip from My Brother, My Brother and Me Dear Mariella: " My Boyfriend Wants Me to See Other People for Romance and Sex " Dear Prudence: " Help! a Senior Colleague Asked Me, the Intern, to Help Translate His Animated Porn. " Friendshipping!: " Please Respect My Bedtime " Listener Ila Seledria, Adrenaline Seeker: "Should I Address My Friend Who Might Be Violating Therapy Confidentiality on Social Media?" Listener Kalvarin Ashmor, Renowned Euphomancer: "Our Friends Need Serious Help, But What More Can We Do For Them?" Domestic Abuse Hotline : 1-800-799-7233 Correction: Lice Not a Cleanliness Issue Reference: #72: Han and Matt Air Their Grievances Head Lice Facts New Advice Column Alert: CNBC's " Work It out " Jenna Goudreau Shoutout to Ask Dr. NerdLove: " Why Shouldn't I Take The Red Pill? " Shoutout to Nicole Cliffe on Reddit Open Relationships Inevitability Nicole's Tweet Shoutout to Ask a Fuck-Up: " With Special Guest Neko Case " Vice: " Queer Women and the Rise of Passive Online Flirting " Shoutout to Ask a Manager: "
Wed, May 30, 2018
#72: Han and Matt Air Their Grievances
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 20th, 2018, and beyond, including: This Episode's Sponsor: Sudio Use discount code "KnowItAll" at checkout for 15% off any order! Ask Amy : " Gay Couple Wonders How to Respond to Neighbors' Petty Harassment " Carolyn Hax : " Don’t Throw Out the Baby with the Bedbugs " Ask a Manager : " My Boss's Dog Keeps Attacking My Co-Workers " Dear Wendy : " My New Girlfriend Told Me She's Bisexual and I Am Not Ok With It " Y'all Need Help : " Your Potential Throuple Turned Into a Couple and Someone's Feeling Left Behind " The Totally Super True Origin Story of This Week's Sponsor, Sudio Okay, maybe a teensy bit embellished Listener Kelly : "Can I Politely Decline My Stepmother's Tacky Gifts?" Listener Tygora the Unstoppable : "How Do I Get My Coworker to Stop Oversharing?" Update to Step It Up From Marenthius, Reanimator of Flora Reference: #65: Han and Matt Step It Up Shreddies "Anti-Fart" Underwear Also: Subtle Butt (lol) Poo-Pourri (this pun does not stink and neither will your poops!) Shoutout to Ask a Manager : " Can I ask a new hire to use a nickname since we share the same first name? " Massive Badges Update on the Listener Leader Board <a href= "https://hanandmat
Mon, May 21, 2018
#71: Han and Matt Hoard Their Apps
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 13th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask a Manager : " My Boss Gave All the Women Flowers for Mother's Day " Interpersonal Skills : " How to enforce a "No Shoes" policy in my apartment? " Swipe This! : " How do I get away with refollowing a friend I unfollowed when I was upset? " Sense & Sensitivity : " Friend Might Be Gay " College Humor : " Honest Interracial Date " Let Us Sex-plain : " My Boyfriend Still Has Dating Apps " Listener Kairluma, the Wonder of Haraka : "I'm Wearing a Bridal Party Dress That I Don't Like; Can I Change Into a Different One For the Reception?" Listener The Nameless One : "On Bodies, Weddings, and Chronic Illness (The POWER TRIO)" BONUS: Shoutout to Social Q's : " 'It's Not My Fault I'm White.' Sure, but That's Not the Point. " BONUS: Shoutout to Alison Green on Dear Wendy : " Five Questions with Alison Green of 'Ask a Manager' " BONUS: Shoutout to Ask a Manager : " The 18-Month Coffee Debate, and Other Stories of Office Coffee Wars " BONUS: Imagine Dragons : " Blank Space/Stand By Me " Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can <a href= "https
Bonus · Wed, May 16, 2018
The Easiest Question We Could Find in the Inbox | Opinion Overflow #39
In this week's Overflow episode, we apologize for several missteps, gush over some of the wildest advice column questions this year so far from Ask a Manager and Dan Savage, and much more! Begin your journey here: New Fan Subreddit and Two Fan Spin-Off Facebook Group HaMKIA Has a Subreddit (listener-created) Learn to Know it All: Makeup and Fashion (Facebook, listener-created) Learn to Know All the Self-care: HAMkittens Taking Care of Themselves (Facebook, listener-created) Several Listeners Got the Hated Musical Guess Right Before the Episode Aired Well done! Badges have been awarded. Apology: It's "Indigenous Children" and Not "Native Children" Reference: #70: Han and Matt Hang Provocative Artwork , Asking for a Friend: "We’re White. Can We Adopt a Black Child?" Reference: #70: Han and Matt Hang Provocative Artwork , Ask Dr. NerdLove: "My Boyfriend Is Spying On Other Women" Apology: We Implied that Porn Performers Aren't Real People, Too Apology: Rubius Rascal's Additional Thoughts on Creeper Boyfriend from Dr. NerdLove Reference: #70: Han and Matt Hang Provocative Artwork , Ask Dr. NerdLove: "My Boyfriend Is Spying On Other Women" Apology: Insensitivity on Topic of Menstruation and Maxi Pads and Transwomen Reference: #68: Han and Matt and Alison Know It All , Ask a Manager: "I got written up because my coworker saw maxi pads in my car" Ask a Manager: " My Dad Is Dating My Boss, and They Want Me to Go to Couples Therapy with Them " Captain Awkward's Take This Question Got Answered on FOUR Advice Columns Dear Prudence (April 12th)
Mon, May 14, 2018
#70: Han and Matt Hang Provocative Artwork
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 6th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask a Manager : " My Coworker Has a Podcast About Sex " Ask Dr. NerdLove : " My Boyfriend Is Spying On Other Women " Asking for a Friend : " We’re White. Can We Adopt a Black Child? " NPR : " Incentives And Cultural Bias Fuel Foster System " Dear Abby : " Couple Disagrees On Etiquette Of Curating Their Bathroom Art " Time : " Immersions (Piss Christ) " My Brother, My Brother and Me (fan video): " play with me! " r/relationships : " I (28f) found out my husband (28m) is getting 3 expensive, sugary coffee drinks a day. Me approaching him caused an angry tirade about how I ruined his life. How to recover from this? " Parks and Recreation (Complex list): " Entertainment 720 " Ask APW : " Is It Un-Feminist to Want to Lose Weight for My Wedding? " Listener Heather : "Help! Is Being Polyamorous Making Me Attractive to Creeps?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Fri, May 11, 2018
The Critically Acclaimed Musical That We Hate | Opinion Overflow #38
In this week's Overflow episode, we FINALLY reveal the critically acclaimed musical that we hate, one year later after this bit has overstayed its welcome at least 10-times over. But! To make up for our (Matt's) shenanigans, we're also covering three listener questions! Let's do the thing: The Top Five Incorrect Guesses #5. Les Mis #4. Wicked #3. Rent Lindsay Ellis : " RENT - Look Pretty and Do As Little as Possible: A Video Essay " #2. Avenue Q #1. Dear Evan Hansen The Musical That We Hate... Book of Mormon! Some good reading about it in the comments of this AAM question Final Correct Musical Guesses This Week Listener Heldraga the Unseen Listener Lady Margella III, Commander of the Thunderpearl Airship Lady Margella Recommends Head Over Heels Arkyn the Enduring : "How Do I Suggest to My Mom That Her Diet-Resistant Gut Issues Might Be Anxiety?" Thessafre Goldwing, Nature’s Fury : "Was I Wrong to Call Out My Upstairs Neighbor For Their Noisiness?" Stuck : "How Do I Stop Feeling Like a Failure and a Burden?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, May 07, 2018
#69: Han and Matt Talk About Sex
Han and Matt take a trip down sexy memory lane for episode #69 and replay the top 5 sexiest hits, including: #5) Listener Uldrek the Resilient : "Should My Partner and I Open Our Relationship to Date Our Best Friends (Who Are Also Partners)?" Reference : #61: Han and Matt Teach Polyamory 102 (& Rebrand!) #4) Captain Awkward : "Should two bisexual, polyamorous sisters date the same guy?" Reference : #1: Hannah and Matt Set Some Boundaries #3) Dear Prudence : "42 Pearls and Counting" Reference : Opinion Overflow #2: Opinion Overflow #2: "Are Hannah and Matt Too Obsessed with Dear Prudence?" #2) Ask E. Jean : "How Do I Get My Fiancé to Stop Catcalling Me?" Reference : #25: Hannah and Matt Fight Rape Culture #1) Dear Sugars : "Is There Such a Thing as Wanting Too Much Sex?" Reference : #48: Hannah and Matt Scrutinize Sexual Imbalances Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, May 02, 2018
When to Throw out the Whole Sister | Opinion Overflow #37
In this week's Overflow episode, we talk about Broadway musicals, Daniel Mallory Ortberg's new look, new advice columns, trans-antagonistic family members, and more! Here we go: Final Week to Guess the Critically Acclaimed Musical We Hate! Correct Musical Guesses This Week Listener The Quantum Feline Listener Raal'tuc, Vexing Archfiend BroadwayADay App For alerts on entering Broadway lotteries Facebook topics now have tags! Daniel Mallory Ortberg's Dear Prudence Photo Update Advice Column Alert: Stack Overflow's 'Interpersonal Skills' Stack Overflow: " Can we be game master as a couple? " Dame Magazine Advice Column Ft. Ashley Nicole Black Help choose a name on Twitter Miss Manners' Take on ' Must jilted bride pay for guests’ expenses? ' Reference: Han and Matt Yield the Floor "Strength-Based Thinking" Tips From Listener Xantar, Fearless Aeronaut Reference: Han and Matt Step It Up More Advice for Friends Who Want to Hug Reference: Hannah and Matt Podcast With PodcastPodcast Update on Walking In on the Masturbating Teenage Boy Reference: Hannah and Matt Podcast With PodcastPodcast Listener Druvaali, The Great Deity of Melodies: "Should I Confront My Trans Antagonistic Sister?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on
Mon, April 30, 2018
#68: Han and Matt and Alison Know It All
Han and Matt are joined again by Alison Green of Ask a Manager fame on the Monday episode to talk about Alison's upcoming book (out TOMORROW!), re-discuss some recent Ask a Manager questions, and tackle questions of various topics from around the web: Sponsor : Sudio , maker of stylish headphones! Use discount code "KNOWITALL" at checkout for 15% off your order. Alison Green Ask a Manager Book Direct Report on Slate Ask a Manager on Twitter Alison's previous Han and Matt guest spots: #13: Hannah and Matt Ask a Manager #23: Hannah and Matt Summon Alison Green #60: Hannah and Matt Ask a Manager II: The Speakquel Ask a Manager : " I got written up because my coworker saw maxi pads in my car " Ask a Manager : " I'm required to take two weeks off and I don't want to " Dear Prudence : " How Do I Prevent My Coworker From Pranking Me Again? " (AKA 'Confused') r/relationships : " Girlfriend of 2 years (28f) replaced all my (28m) old books with new copies, angry doesn't begin to describe how I feel " Ask APW : " Will My Bachelorette Party Be Awkward Since I Have No Friends? " Listener Christine : "My neighbor’s dog's toy is LOUD. Is it petty to complain?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on
Mon, April 23, 2018
#67: Han and Matt Answer Queer Queries (Ft. Kristin Russo)
Han and Matt interviewed the extremely qualified Kristin Russo for the Monday episode and tackled listener queeries on bisexuality, asexuality, presenting queer, and more!: Kristin Russo My Kid Is Gay Everyone Is Gay Kristin on Autostraddle Buffering the Vampire Slayer Kristin on Twitter We Exist Beyond the Binary Listener Simon, Leaver of Expensive Thermoses on Public Transit : "How Do I Respond to People Who Are Hellbent on Erasing My Bi Identity?" Listener The Invisible Bi : "How Do I Dress Queer So That My Bisexuality Isn't Invisible?" Listener Decidedly Anonymous : "Who Should I Come Out to In My Family, and How?" Listener Ursial the Cyclone : "How Do I Come Out as Asexual and Aromantic to My Mother, Who Wants Grandkids?" PBS' First Person on Asexuality Listener Pissed Off Trans Lesbian : "Should I Invite My Probably Transphobic Uncle to My Wedding?" Listener Mary, Veiled Reckoner : "What's the Best Non-Gendered Honorific to Use When Addressing Strangers?" BONUS : 'Assigned Male ' Comic: A Trans Resource BONUS 2 : ' Questionable Content ' Comic Additionally: there will be a Patreon-only bonus question featuring Kristin Russo that was sent to us by Listener Ezavul, Angel of Mending : "How Do I Explain What Nonbinary Gender Is to My Very Catholic Parents?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, April 18, 2018
How to Manage an Always Worried Roommate | Opinion Overflow #36
In this week's Overflow episode, we talk about highlights from the Facebook group, updates from listeners, managing worrying roommates, and remember all of the advice column questions that got away. Let's get to it: Han and Matt Spring Meetup: Matt's Birthday Weekend Edition Saturday, April 21 at 6 PM - 10 PM The Library Bar in Manhattan 7 Avenue A New York, New York 10009 Han and Matt Know It All Facebook Group Nobody Guessed The Critically Acclaimed Musical We Hate Correctly This Week We're revealing the answer on the podcast on May 11th! Matt's Billion Second Birthday Billion Birthday Calculator Thoughts on Reading More How to Win at Feminism by Feministing Asking for a Friend by Jessica Weisberg The Merry Spinster by Mallory Ortberg Word Crossy Is a Rip-Off of Wordscapes Get the original here: iTunes & Google Play Islam & Judaism Q&As in the Facebook Group Han and Matt Know It All on Facebook This Week's Pun Listener Zelphyr, Saltborn Sovereign Update Reference: " #61: Han and Matt Teach Polyamory 102 (& Rebrand!) " "How Do My Partner and I Harmonize Our Different Styles of Non-Monogamy?" Listener Arunyra, Healer of the Silkland Wealds: "How Can I Better Manage My Conversations With My Ever-Worried Roommate?" "The Requests That Got Away" In Memoriam Ask a Manager: " Is voluminous, curly hair unprofessional? " Ask a Manager: " What are the rules for talking about social gatherings around people who weren’t invited? " Ask Amy: " My Husband's Family Contacts Me About Gifts and Get-Togethers. Why Won't They Ask Him? " Ask Amy: "<a href= "https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/ask-amy-should-grandkids-without-vaccinations-come-to-holiday-party/2017/12/18/f0e34930-dc73-11e7-a841-2066faf731ef_story.html?utm_term=.250
Mon, April 16, 2018
#66: Han and Matt Watch Relaxation Videos
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 8th, 2018, and beyond, including: Dear Money Mom : " My Degree Is Worthless and I Can’t Make Enough Money " Dear Prudence : " Disgraced Professor " College Humor : " Did You Know We Work with a Sex Demon? | Hardly Working " Ask Erin : " Should I Stop Giving Unsolicited Advice? Please Advise. " Captain Awkward : " Oops, just figured out I’m polyamorous, 18 months into a serious monogamous relationship with the father of my child. " Carolyn Hax : " Sabotaging your brother’s relationship — what would Dr. Lecter say? " Listener Ludatha, the Fancy Knifer : "How Do I Confront My Friend About Her Evil Stepmother Tendencies?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, April 11, 2018
Tips for Adjusting to a New & Functional Workplace | Opinion Overflow #35
In this week's Overflow episode, we share so much news about the advice column world, talk follow-ups and updates from fellow know-it-alls, and get into getting yourself ready for a new, (ostensibly) less abusive workplace. Let's do the thing: Han and Matt Spring Meetup: Matt's Birthday Weekend Edition Saturday, April 21 at 6 PM - 10 PM The Library Bar in Manhattan 7 Avenue A New York, New York 10009 Han and Matt Know It All Facebook Group More Listeners Guessed the Musical We Hate In One Try We're revealing the answer on the podcast on May 11th! Thank you for all the P.O. Box love Pictures on Twitter! Advice Column World News New Advice Column: Dear Therapist New Subreddit: r/malementalhealth Digg is Rounding Up the Best Advice Column Questions Each Week Ask a Manager: " What Are the Strangest Things You've Ever Seen on a Resume? " Ask a Manager: " I talked with Captain Awkward on the Ask a Manager podcast " Brackify: Ultimate Hate Read Bracket for Advice Columns Asking for a Friend Book by Jessica Weisberg Child Protective Services Follow-Ups Reference: #64: Han and Matt Yield the Floor The New Yorker: " When Should a Child Be Taken from His Parents? " The Nation: " Has Child Protective Services Gone Too Far " The Atlantic: " Working Mom Arrested for Letting Her 9-Year-Old Play Alone at Park " ABC News: " Utah passes 'free-range parenting' law, allowing kids to do some things without parental supervision " (<a href=
Mon, April 09, 2018
#65: Han and Matt Step It Up
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 1st, 2018, and beyond, including: Captain Awkward : " When people want you to do complicated & unethical things, it’s okay to say no! " Fast Five Vault Switch Scene Ask a Fuck Up : " Can People Change? " Ask Polly : " I Love My Boyfriend, But I Can’t Stop Cheating! " How to Win at Feminism by Reductress Dear Prudence : " How Do I Talk to a Loud Co-Worker? " Ask a Manager : " A Co-worker Left Me an Anonymous Note … and a Pacifier " Ask a Manager : " I interviewed Gretchen Rubin about happiness and work " Zack Toscani on Twitter : Shrimp Lunch Thread Ask Amy : " Cat Has First Dibs on the Buffet " #43: Hannah and Matt Commemorate October's Gems Opinion Overflow #27: “My Mother-In-Law Is Trying to Kill Me and My Child Maybe?” Listener Marenthius, Reanimator of Flora : "How Do I Ask My Partner to Step It Up When Their Depression Is Worse Than Mine Right Now But I'm Still Majorly Struggling?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelping
Bonus · Wed, April 04, 2018
Overcoming Tabletop RPG Anxiety Revisited | Opinion Overflow #34
In this week's Overflow episode, we share listener tips on overcoming tabletop RPG anxiety in a follow-up to Opinion Overflow #33: "How Do I Get Over My Anxiety About Role Playing?" : Listener Lady Margella III, Commander of the Thunderpearl Airship's Update Listener Rhianna's Tips Listener Empusaria the Devourer's Tips Listener Ursial the Cyclone's Tips Listener Athamus, Satanic Harvester's Tips Listener Solyara, Queen of the Mist Wants to Help Listener Keldira, Arboreal Raider's Many Thoughts Listener Amariel, Scheming Orator's Game Recommendation Hanabi Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, March 26, 2018
#64: Han and Matt Yield the Floor
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 18th, 2018, and beyond, including: Bonus: Vitamin D Deficiency Discussion DocASAP : Consider getting an annual physical or check-up with a doctor ASAP if you haven't yet this year Sense and Sensitivity : " My Daughter Has Big Ears " Use #FellowKnowItAll to weigh in on this on social media! r/parenting : " 12 year old daughter forces 17 year old son out of the closet. " Care and Feeding : " My Stepsons Won't Stop Trolling Me " Ask a Manager : " Someone I've Known for Years Lied to Get Me to Hire Someone Terrible She Wanted to Get Rid Of " Carolyn Hax : " Carolyn Hax: Fiance Ran off with Another Woman; Wedding Invitees Demand Refunds " Dear Prudence : " Good Fences Make Good Neighbors " Listener KittenSunshineBubble : "What Do I Tell People Who Keep Wrongly Assuming I'm Pregnant?" Listener Not Okay : "How Do I Safely Stop My Building's Super From Sexually Harassing Me?" NY Employment Lawyer Blog : " Sexual Harassment by Building Superintendent leads to Multi-Million Dollar Settlement " HUD : " Fair Housing-It's Your Right " U.S. Department of Justice : " Sexual Harassment in Housing Initiative " Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknow
Bonus · Wed, March 21, 2018
"How Do I Get Over My Anxiety About Role Playing?" | Opinion Overflow #33
In this week's Overflow episode, we announce our Spring meetup, we make some corrections, we share some resources and laughs, update an old Reddit question, and SO MUCH MORE (seriously, look at all of those links)! Come play with us: Han and Matt Spring Meetup: Matt's Birthday Weekend Edition Saturday, April 21 at 6 PM - 10 PM The Library Bar in Manhattan 7 Avenue A New York, New York 10009 Han and Matt Know It All Facebook Group More Listeners Guessed the Musical We Hate In One Try Pomodoro Technique For Productiveness Lifehacker: " Productivity 101: A Primer to The Pomodoro Technique " Correction and Resources for White Allies Medium: " White people, stop asking us to educate you about racism " Medium: " The Other Side of Diversity " Upworthy: " What people of color feel when you say their anger isn't justified. " Dear Prudence's Daniel Mallory Ortberg's New Book and Digital Press Tour " The Merry Spinster " The Cut: " 'Mallory Is Not Gone': Daniel Mallory Ortberg on Coming Out As Trans " Literary Hub: " Mallory Ortberg: 'Experiencing the Joy of Transitioning Feels Really Powerful' " Tor: " Help! I Can’t Let Firefly Go! And Other Advice for Nerd Problems " New Advice Column: Ask a Fuck Up on The Outline New-Ish Advice Column: Ask the Salty Waitress on The Takeout Listener Muzrona, Chieftain of the Garnet Clan Warns About Religious Discrimination Reference: " Han and Matt Fire Their Assistant " Another Reason to Do Your Taxes RIGHT NOW IRS: "<a hr
Mon, March 19, 2018
#63: Han and Matt Lose Their Mind
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 11th, 2018, and beyond, including: Dear Harriette : " Reader Wants to Report Neighbors " CNN : " Why Undocumented Immigrants Pay Taxes " Carolyn Hax : " My Sister Can Date Whomever She Likes. Except Him. or Him. or Him. " Dear Jane : " My Old Boss Sent Me a Douche and I Don't Know How I Feel About It " Ask APW : " Is It Sexist That My In-Laws Expect MY Parents to Bankroll Our Wedding? " Ask E. Jean : " How Do I Get My Boyfriend to Spend Less Time With His Mom? " Ask a Manager : " Our Employee Is Taking Nude Photos in Our Office and Posting Them to Facebook " Listener Kitty : "How Do I Ghost on My Broken Record Friend?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, March 14, 2018
"How Do I Stop Procrastinating Doing My Taxes?" | Opinion Overflow #32
In this week's Overflow episode, we introduce new badges, make an exception on catfishing, help you do your taxes (sort of!), and much more! Let's begin: We Have a 5 New Badges! Listener Leader Board Fellowship The Artiste A Helping Hand Heart & Parcel 100% Royalty Listener Chaniko Who Lights the Way Is a Badge-Earning Machine The Peace of Wild Things Listener Solyara, Queen of the Mists Catfished Her Husband Reference: Opinion Overflow #30: "Should You Hijack a Friend’s Baby Shower to Campaign Against Circumcision?" Listener Tamisril, Desolater of the Bezirh Highlands Has Lawyerly Thoughts Reference: #52: Hannah and Matt Seek Legal Counsel "When the lawyer has not regularly represented the client, the basis or rate of the fee shall be communicated to the client, in writing, before or within a reasonable time after commencing the representation." Pa. RPC 1.5(b) Two Listeners Guessed the Musical We Hate Listener Zerrek, Peacekeeper of Otopo Listener Remira Trouble Seeker Listener Ursial the Cyclone Made a D&D Character Sheet for His Fantastical Name Listener Tavi, Heart of the Stars Gives Us the Source on ' Hatpin Panic ' Reference: #59: Hannah and Matt Crush on You Listener Saphra, Conjurer of Feasts Has Thoughts On Apologies (Patron Bonus Clip Only!) Listener Rubius Rascal, the Amaretto Tastemaker of Keystone Monastery Gets Points Listener Amelia Oric, Progress Seeker Shares Insights About ADHD Reference: #62: Han and Matt Fire Their Assistant Dear Prudence : " I'm Tired of Being My Boyfriend's Mother. Help! " Listene
Mon, March 12, 2018
#62: Han and Matt Fire Their Assistant
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 4th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask APW: " My Best Friend Just Un-Invited My Husband to Her Destination Wedding " Dear Prudence : " I'm Tired of Being My Boyfriend's Mother. Help! " Ask Amy : " Cat at Root of Couple's Issues " Ask A Manager : " Was I Wrong to Call Out My Coworker for Using the Word 'Fight' In Her Cancer Struggle? " 1st Comment, from 'suspension retention' Ask Annalisa Barbieri : " My Boyfriend Kissed Another Man: Does That Mean He's Gay? " Sexual Healing : " My Girlfriend Masturbates After We Have Sex. Why? " Carolyn Hax : " A Poisoned Relationship " Listener Tamisril, Desolater of the Bezirh Highlands : "My Assistant Stopped Talking to Me as Soon as She Realized I’m Hella Queer!" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, March 07, 2018
"#FellowKnowItAll, What Do YOU Think?" | Opinion Overflow #31
In this week's Overflow episode, we continue spreading the love of Monday's episode by announcing the launch of our P.O. box, announcing a new place online for y'all to hang out and get together, and reading so many beautiful emails from our fellow Know-It-Alls. Your journey through the tunnel of love begins here: We have a P.O. Box now! Han Malyn & Matt Albrecht P.O. Box 730 New York, NY 10116 (Note: We're both vegetarian, Han is allergic to eggs, and Matt is allergic to almonds.) We have a Facebook group now! Han and Matt Know It All Facebook Group Listener The Heinous One: "Dogs Aren't Racist" Maxim: " This Is the Scientific Reason Why Some Dogs Are 'Racist' " Listener Talvir, Woodland Acrobat: "Give Yourselves More Credit" Listener Chaniko, Who Lights the Way on Parenting Even More Non-Cards Against Humanity Game Recommendations Codenames Duet Harry Potter: Hogwarts Battle Sentinels of the Multiverse Bang: The Dice Game AttrAction Spyfall Junk Art Mysterium Judge John Hodgman: " Judge John Hodgman on Window Squirrels " Listener Empusaria the Devourer Has an Update and Follow-Up Questions "So I was wondering if you have any advice or scripts for any of the following, about this manuscript in particular, but also unwanted 'gifts' in general." 1) Turning down the thing if asked 2) How to avoid accepting the thing when someone is trying to just hand it to you 3) How to refuse/give the thing back if they've opted for just placing it somewhere in your home, then stating they've done so and that they really hope you'll like it, or if you've already failed at step 2 4) Failing all that, how to not feel bad about never reading the manuscript/using the thing, and what to say when asked about it later Use #FellowKnowItAll on Twitter to answer these questions! We'll retweet your answers for Empusaria. Preferred Way of Asking About Pronou
Mon, March 05, 2018
#61: Han and Matt Teach Polyamory 102 (& Rebrand!)
As a sequel to Han and Matt Teach Poly 101 , the Know-It-Alls answer six listener questions on the topics of open relationships, ethical nonmonogamy, and polyamory. This time, we're joined by Han's girlfriend Liz as our special guest to help us with this fresh set of tricky relationship questions: Listener Kema, Emissary of the Void : "How Do I Experiment with Dating People Without Feeling Like I'm Misleading Them?" Listener Sonnet : "How Much Should I Tell My Primary Partner About My Romantic Status With My Secondary Partner?" Listener Sarah : "How Do I Find Polyamorous Friends That I Don't Necessarily Want to Date?" Listener Zelphyr, Saltborn Sovereign : "How Do My Partner and I Harmonize Our Different Styles of Non-Monogamy?" Listener Aurora, Dark Huntress : "My Husband Depends on Me and My Boyfriend Financially, but I've Been Contemplating Divorce. What Do I Do?" Listener Uldrek the Resilient : "Should My Partner and I Open Our Relationship to Date Our Best Friends (Who Are Also Partners)?" Bonus: Chris Fleming: " Polyamorous " Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, February 28, 2018
"Should You Hijack a Friend's Baby Shower to Campaign Against Circumcision?" | Opinion Overflow #30
In this week's Overflow episode, we talk depression, the new leader board achievement badge system, and more! Let's do it! BONUS: Depression! New Listener Leader Board Now featuring achievement badges! Accepting: D&D Character Sheets of Your Fantastical Characters (To Be Added to the Leader Board Example: Zerrek, Peacekeeper of Otopo D&D Character Sheet Creator: Orcpub Dear Prudence : " Help! Is It Ever OK to Catfish Mom? " Radiolab : " Darkode " More Advice for Your Queer AF Wedding Reference: #59: Hannah and Matt Crush on You Other Places to Find Writers from The Toast Nicole Cliffe on Shondaland : " So, Your Kid Found Out About Death " Mallory Ortberg on Vulture : " Star Trek Discovery Recaps " Vulture : " The Bachelor Recap: The Heartless Bachelor " Listener Chaniko, Who Lights the Way : "Should You Hijack a Friend's Baby Shower to Campaign Against Circumcision?" Carolyn Hax : "<a href= "In%20this%20week's%20Overflow%20episode,%20we%20talk%20depression,%20the%20new%20leader%20board%20achievement%20badge%20system,%20and%20more!%20Let's%20do%20it!%20BONUS:%20Depression!%20New%20Listener%20Leader%20Board%20Now%20featuring%20achievement%20badges!%20Accepting:%20D&D%20Character%20Sheet's%20of%20Your%20Fantastical%20Characters%20(To%20Be%20Added%20to%20the%20Leader%20Board%20Example:%20Zerrek,%20Peacekeeper%20of%20Otopo%20D&D%20Character%20Sheet%20Creator:%20Orcpub%20Dear%20Prudence:%20"Help!%20Is%20It%20Ever%20OK%20to%20Catfish%20Mom?"%20Radiolab:%20"Darkode"%20More%20Advice%20for%20Your%20Queer%20AF%20Wedding%20Reference:%C2%A0#59:%20Hannah%20and%20Matt%20Crush%20on%20You%20Other%20Places%20to%20Find%20Writers%20from%20The%20Toast%20Nicole%20Cliffe%20on%20Shondaland:%20"So,%20Your%20Kid%20Found%20Out%20About%20Death"%20Mallory%20Ortberg%20on%20Vulture:%20"Star%20Trek%20Discovery%20Recaps"%20Vulture:%20"The%20Bachelor%20Recap:%20The%20Heartless%20Bachelor"%20Li
Mon, February 26, 2018
#60: Hannah and Matt Ask a Manager II: The Speakquel
Nearly a year later after she was Han and Matt's first ever guest, Alison Green of " Ask a Manager " fame joins the Know-It-Alls again for a Monday episode that's all-work-related questions! Ask a Manager Ask a Manager : " Listen to Episode 1 of the Ask a Manager Podcast " Ask a Manager Podcast on iTunes Ask a Manager on Twitter Hannah and Matt Know It All : " #51: 2017’s Best & Worst Advice Questions (Ft. The Bad Advisor) " Ask a Manager : " I Ghosted My Ex, and She's About to Be My New Boss " Ask a Manager : " Update: I Ghosted My Ex, and She’s About to Be My New Boss " Ask A Manager : "How Do I Handle My Boss's Toxic Girlfriend?" Ask A Manager : " My Coworker Is Crowdfunding for IVF and Keeps Asking Everyone for Money " Ask a Manager : " Our Boss Will Fire Us If We Don’t Sign up to Be a Liver Donor for His Brother " Ask A Manager : " Should Employees Have to Ask for a Raise? " Ask A Manager : " My Coworker Had an Affair with a Colleague’s Husband, and Now Is Treating Her Badly at Work " Listener alyTemporalAnom : "What Should I Do About Having Mistakenly Gotten a Message From a Coworker Who Was Trash-Talking Me?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandma
Mon, February 19, 2018
#59: Hannah and Matt Crush on You
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 11th, 2018, and beyond, including: Ask a Manager : " A Job Application Asked Me to Rank If Torturing a Person Was Worse Than Prostitution " Ask Polly : " Should I Have a Baby? " Ask APW : " Should I Drop My Friend Who Didn’t Bring a Wedding Gift? " Dear Prudence : " Am I a Sociopath for Wanting to Have an Affair Even though Everything Is Great in My Marriage? " Carolyn Hax : " A Two-Time Cancer Survivor Now Must Face Her Malignancy-In-Law " Dear Abby : " Unwilling Husband and Father Just Wants a Life to Himself " The Establishment : " Bad Advice On The Etiquette Of Boning Your Daughter’s Best Friend " Listener Hetha, Zealous Inquisitor : "How Do I Handle the Queer Aspects of My Wedding With Extended Family Not in the Know?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to <a href= "mailto:hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com"
Bonus · Wed, February 14, 2018
"Why Are There Bar Codes on Ships in Norway?" | Opinion Overflow #29
In this week's Overflow episode, Matt once again flies solo to deliver EVEN MORE THAN EVER inbox gems, including: Hannah and Matt Fan Appreciation Day February 17th, Saturday, 6 PM to 9 PM EST Seawitch (South Slope, Brooklyn) 703 5th Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11215 P.O. Box : Coming Soon? Podcast Problems (Review): " 'Hannah and Matt Know It All' A Second Opinion for Advice Columns " Survey Note & Apology Listener Demographics survey for Hannah and Matt Know It All Podcast Listener Katie: "How Do I Cope With My Delusional Boss Who Is Hellbent on Destroying Everything That Is Good in the World?" Mom & Dad Are Fighting Slate advice podcast on parenting Machete Alice Update The Marsh Devil Has a Better Weather Website Plus an Important Reminder Weather Underground Ask a Manager Is Launching a Podcast!!! Submit questions here Listener Chaniko, Who Lights the Way on Friend Touching Reference: Hannah and Matt Podcast With PodcastPodcast "A Lesbian's Positive Experience With Tinder" Gender Neutral Pronoun & Futurama Fantastical Name Pronunciations Since the ASMR Bonus Episode & Shout-Out to Newest Patrons Amelia Grizzlebriar, Ambitious Pupil Amelia Oric, Progress Seeker Basila, Darling Champion Berylglow, Estival Sprite Ezavul, Angel of Mending Jixa, Odious Germinator Kahlmera, Ringleader of The Silkbay Arena Roldizal, Bestiary Curator Selavyn the Bruiser Ursial the Cyclone "Is There Something Better Than Saying 'I'm Sorry' After Others Share Bad News With You?" Rapid Fire Roundup Women With PhDs Solyara's Tweets Ask a Manager Animals Taking
Mon, February 12, 2018
#58: Hannah and Matt Reunite at Last
Han and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 4th, 2018, and beyond, including: Miss Manners : " Looking for a Singular, Gender-Neutral Pronoun " The Bad Advisor : " Bad Advice on Grammar-Policing Gender Neutral Pronouns " Ask a Manager : " My Coworker Responds to All Problems with 'At Least You Don’t Have Cancer or an Eating Disorder' " Dear Prudence : " Helping After Harvey " Tough Love : " Can I Keep My Bed Bug-Infested Friend From Coming Over? " Ask Amy : " Sister Struggles with Brother's Demands " r/relationships (Ceddit Link, proceed with caution): " My Table's Dungeon Master [20/30?M] Thinks That I'm [20f] Being Too Sensitive to His Jokes " r/lfg (Looking for Group) Roll 20 Listener Riecka the Aeonian : "What Word Should I Use In Place of 'Female'?" Jezebel : "The Problem With Calling Women 'Females' " BONUS: Hannah and Matt Fan Appreciation Day February 17th, Saturday, 6 PM to 9 PM EST Seawitch (South Slope, Brooklyn) 703 5th Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11215 Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in ne
Bonus · Wed, February 07, 2018
"Han Goes Solo: A Podcast Story" | Opinion Overflow #28
In this week's Overflow episode, Han goes solo to offer their advice on Monday's questions ( Hannah and Matt Podcast With PodcastPodcast )! As a reminder, our first fan meetup event is taking place soon! Details below: February 17th, Saturday, 6 PM to 9 PM EST Seawitch (South Slope, Brooklyn) 703 5th Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11215 Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, February 05, 2018
#57: Hannah and Matt Podcast With PodcastPodcast
While Han's business trip continued, Matt brought in friends of the pod Lauren Passell and Eric Emch of " PodcastPodcast " fame ("The podcast that talks about how great other podcasts are!") for the Monday episode and tackled entirely advice podcast questions! Lauren and Eric from "PodcastPodcast" PodcastPodcast: " Ep 33 THE Hannah and Matt Are Here! " " Hannah and Matt Adjudicate Bridal Quandaries " Anna Faris is Unqualified : " How Much Should I Share About My Personal Life on My New Podcast " Dear Sugars : " Cutting the Financial Cord " Friendshipping! : " How Do I Ask My Friends for Permission to Platonically Touch Them? " Listener Jane Doe : "I Do Housework for a Family Friend and Don't Want to Walk in on Their Son Masturbating Again. Help?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, January 31, 2018
"My Mother-In-Law Is Trying to Kill Me and My Child Maybe?" | Opinion Overflow #27
In this week's Overflow episode, Matt once again flies solo to deliver all (err, quite a few!) of the listener inbox items, including: Patron-Only Minecraft Server! Instructions on how to join All Patrons are welcome to join in on weekly (Wednesday night) Minecraft 101 play sessions with 1 or more of the Know-It-Alls but can play in the server any time Hannah and Matt Fan Appreciation Day February 17th, Saturday, 6 PM to 9 PM EST Seawitch (South Slope, Brooklyn) 703 5th Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11215 Opinion Overflow #27: Listener Feedback for Apin'eht's Workplace Bully Nightmare Ask a Manager: " My Company Won’t Fire a Bad Employee! " The Balance: " Learn the Different Types of Harassment in the Workplace " Listener Katie: "How Do I Cope With My Delusional Boss Who Is Hellbent on Destroying Everything That Is Good in the World?" Captain Awkward Is Awesome It Came From The Search Terms: "I Can See The Sun In Late December" New Advice Column Care and Feeding : " What Do I Say to a 13-Year-Old Friend of the Family Who’s Madly in Love … With Me? " Finnish Language's Gender Neutral Wonders Listener Zovoq, Lamia Ravager Has Some Tips For You Captain Awkward's Unwritten Rules Ask Culture vs. Guess Culture Reference: " Hannah and Matt Work From Home " Reference: " Hannah and Matt Condemn Name Thieves " From Away: " Irish Car Bomb Cupcakes Recipe " More Listener Advice for Mother-In-Law's Party Manners Listener Nononono: "How Do I Manage My Mother-in-Law's Bad Food Safety Habits?" Listener Email Roundup Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the pod
Mon, January 29, 2018
#56: Hannah and Matt Romance Dr. NerdLove
Hannah and Matt interviewed Harris O'Malley of " Dr. NerdLove " fame for the Monday episode and tackled listener questions all about dating! Dr. NerdLove Why Hannah and Matt Love Reading Harris' Advice Dr. NerdLove on Kotaku Dr. NerdLove's Homepage Kotaku : " Help, I've Got A Crush On A Twitch Streamer " Listener The16thReasonImSingle : "I'm 26 and Have Never Had a Good Relationship. Help!" Listener Aedalyn, Diviner of Roses : "How Do I Present My Lolita Fashion Sense On Dating Sites Without Coming Off as Defensive or Embarrassed?" Listener Kirin, the Unmaker : " Should I Be Upfront About My Ball-Jointed Dolls Hobby With People I’ve Just Started Dating? " (Final Question) Listener Zovoq, Lamia Ravager : "How Can I Balance Making Peace With Being Single While Also Wanting a Romantic Partner?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Thu, January 25, 2018
17 More Party Games to Play Instead of Cards Against Humanity | Opinion Overflow #26
After we aired our episode titled Opinion Overflow #23: "How Do I Get My Friends to Stop Playing Cards Against Humanity?" , fellow know-it-alls sent in a treasure trove of superior alternatives to Cards Against Humanity to bring to your next game night: Exploding Kittens Weed! Drinking Fluxx Bards Dispense Profanity The Wiki Game The Game of Things Stinker Stipulations Bring Your Own Book Snake Oil Say Anything Word Whimsy Slash Dixit Once Upon a Time The Awkward Family Photos Movie Line Caption Game One Night Ultimate Werewolf Game Plus the aforementioned by Han and Matt: Jackbox Party Pack The Meta Game Monikers <a href= "http://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fboardgamegeek.com%2Fboardgame%2F74%2Fapples-apples&t=
Mon, January 22, 2018
#55: Hannah and Matt Take the Wheel
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of January 18th, 2018, and beyond, including: BONUS: Hannah and Matt Fan Appreciation Day February 17th, Saturday, 6 PM to 9 PM EST Seawitch (South Slope, Brooklyn) 703 5th Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11215 Ask a Manager: " My Coworker Got Drunk on a Business Trip and His Hangover Was a Problem the Next Day " Y'All Need Help : " I'm Graduating Soon and Uncertain How to Balance My Recent Nonbinary Expression with My Family's Expectations " Ask Amy: " Cat Lovers Prefer Cats to Family Members " The Ethicist: " My Wife Found My Sexy Phone Pics and Won’t Let It Go " Dear Prudence: " I Want an All Vegetarian Wedding but My Husband Doesn't. Help! " Listener In Confidence Please: "My Cousin 'Jokingly' Called Me a Slut and Now No Longer Wants to Speak to Me When I Told Her I Was Upset About It" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, January 17, 2018
"Who Better Than Lindsay King-Miller?" | Opinion Overflow #25
We hosted Lindsay King-Miller of " Ask a Queer Chick " for the Monday episode and set the stage by answering "What is gender?" The follow-up builds off of that foundation with four Listener Questions on the topic of assigned gender, gender identity, and gender presentation: Listener Ekril, Esteemed Warden : "My Daughter Identifies as Queer. What does that mean?" Listener Jethra, Ethereal Shapeshifter : "How Do I Know For Sure Whether or Not I'm Gender Non-Binary?" Listener Kamila, Ascetic Seer : "Can I Identify as Gender Nonconforming if I Present Super Feminine?" Listener Minika, Tranquil Knight : "How Do I Come Out to My Family When I'm Ready and Not Because I'm Pressured During the Holidays?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, January 15, 2018
#54: Hannah and Matt Decipher Gender Identities (Ft. Ask a Queer Chick)
Hannah and Matt interviewed Lindsay King-Miller of " Ask a Queer Chick " for the Monday episode and tackle the complicated listener question: "What even is gender?" Ask a Queer Chick Why Hannah and Matt Love Reading Her Advice "Ask a Queer Chick" on Rewire "Ask a Queer Chick" on The Hairpin "Ask a Queer Chick" on Splinter "Ask a Queer Chick" on Twitter "Ask a Queer Chick": The Book! Listener Medabita Frostwind : "What Even Is Gender???" HRC : " Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity Definitions " Gender Spectrum : " Understanding Gender " Planned Parenthood : " Sexual Orientation and Gender " Gender Jabber Gender Forward Everyone Is Gay : " Gender Advice " My Kid Is Gay : " Gender " Additional Notes Medabita's first appearance: Opinion Overflow #17: "Why Are Men?" College Humor : " I Don't See Race " Hannah and Matt Know It All Listener Hub Pet Pictures Buzzfeed : " What Underrated Podcasts Are You Really Getting Into In 2018? " Part 2 of our time with Lindsay is posting this Wednesday, in which we discuss four questions that build off of the foundation of this episode after establishing a shared understanding of "gender." Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowi
Bonus · Wed, January 10, 2018
"How Do I Deal with a Sadistic Work Bully?" | Opinion Overflow #24
In this week's Overflow episode, we learn of a new (but possibly defunct?) advice column, relay several listener emails adding help to past questions, and attempt yet another question that may have no good answers. Shall we begin? Ask Code Switch On Halloween, Insensitivity Goes Beyond Kimonos And Black Face Melody Heartfinder's Libido Stereotype Thoughts Reference: " Hannah and Matt Scrutinize Sexual Imbalances " Sense & Sensitivity : " Adult Sister Still Swipes Scarves " Opinion Overflow #24 : Listener Advice on Shopping Ethically for Social Justice Attire Reference: " Hannah and Matt Seek Legal Counsel " Vice's Broadly: " Was Your Feminist T-Shirt Made by Factory Workers in Exploitative Conditions? " Dignidad Rebelde Charline Bataille Alok's Chapbook Otherwild The Unapologetically Brown Series CAIR Sylvia Rivera Law Project Merchandise Google Image Search Reverse Lookup Holly Hellhunter: " Should I Expect My Partner to Handle All of the Chores While I’m on a Trip? ” Update Listener Talvir, Woodland Acrobat Shares Her Parenting Wisdom Reference: " Hannah and Matt Hit on You " Listener Advice for Mother-In
Mon, January 08, 2018
#53: Hannah and Matt Work From Home
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of December 31st, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask Dr. NerdLove: " Second Place, First Loser " Ask a Manager: " Coworker Hasn't Touched His Work in Months " Ask APW : " Is My Boyfriend Cheap, or Is He Controlling Me with Money? " Dear Prudence : " Our Friends Never Reciprocate Meal Invites " Dear Abby : " Other Woman Cheats on Man Who's Cheating on His Wife " Ask Amy : " Man Leaves His Cheating Wife, Starts Dating Her Twin Sister " Listener None of that High Fantasy Nonsense : "How Do I Talk My Partner Out of Quitting Her Job and Starting Her Own Business?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Thu, January 04, 2018
"How Do I Get My Friends to Stop Playing Cards Against Humanity?" | Opinion Overflow #23
In this week's Overflow episode, we have a lot of ground to cover! Corrections, listener opinions, listener updates, and an important question whose answer is often taken for granted in advice columns. Let's do the thing! Additional Tips for Finding a Therapist Musa the Ironhearted and Kamila, Ascetic Seer have advice for Kethri, Merciful Reclaimer in Opinion Overflow #22 Psychology Today : " Find a Therapist " Mary, Veiled Reckoner Has an Update and Advice for Lygeia, Cunning Mesmerist Mary: " Hannah and Matt Adjudicate Bridal Quandaries " Lygeia : " Hannah and Matt Condemn Name Thieves " A Listener Has Words of Solidarity for Arcaehl, Lost Spellweaver Listener Pets! Fearful for Frida Update and Point Adjustment Update: "Opinion Overflow #18: What Should I Consider Before Getting a Cat?" Late point for also requesting "I Can't Comfort the Neighbor Who Killed My Cat" from " Hannah and Matt Hit on You " Holly Hellhunter: " Should I Expect My Partner to Handle All of the Chores While I’m on a Trip? ” Update Holly Hellhunter Brings FiveThirtyEight's Advice Column to Our Attention FiveThirtyEight : "Survey Says " Holly Hellhunter : "How Do I Get Out of Playing Cards Against Humanity With My Friends?" Shut Up & Sit Down: " Review: Cards Against Humanity " Daily Beast: " The Case Against Cards Against Humanity: Is Max Temkin a Horrible Person? "
Mon, January 01, 2018
#52: Hannah and Matt Seek Legal Counsel
In the second episode of its kind, Hannah and Matt attempt to make a dent in their backlog or listener questions to kick off 2018 with an all-listener-question episode! BONUS: Announcing ' Ask a Helping Han ' Weekly written answers to listener questions direct from Han! Listener Empusaria the Devourer : "How Do I Criticize My Dad's Terrible Manuscript?" Rick and Morty : " Look Who's Purging Now? " Milo Gets Scorched by Editor (Twitter Thread) Listener Athamus, Satanic Harvester : "When Buying Social Justice Attire, How Do I Ensure My Money Is Going to the Right Place?" Slate : " Homophobia Allegations From the Daughter of Bulleit Bourbon’s Founder Are Rocking the Beverage Industry " Listener Mixing Business With Art : "My Hustle Worlds Are Colliding; How Can I Prevent One From Affecting the Other If Things Don't Go Well?" Listener Edra Dark, the Cavalry : "Should I Confront My Mother-In-Law About Her Terrible Party Manners?" Listener Karen : "Am I Wasting My Time Dating Someone Who Doesn't Seem to Want Others to Know We're Dating" Listener F : "How Do I Deter Terrible Elderly People From Assuming They're Allowed to Talk To Me?" Listener Kim : "Should I Give Up on Trying to Get My Neighbor to Pay Me for Professional Services I Performed for Him?" Featuring: Legal counsel from Matt's dad! Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Fri, December 29, 2017
"How Do I Find the Right Therapist?" | Opinion Overflow #22
In this week's Overflow episode, we have a lot of ground to cover! Corrections, listener opinions, listener updates, and an important question whose answer is often taken for granted in advice columns. Let's do the thing! Magic Cards Patreon Reward Update The Holiday Suicide Spike Myth The Atlantic : " No, Suicides Don't Rise During the Holidays " Future Themed Episodes Dating, Gender Identity, Polyamory 102 Chaos Sunrise Weighs In On Whether To Let Cats Into Your Room at Night Listener Weary and Wary Update 2017’s Best & Worst Advice Questions (Ft. The Bad Advisor) Opinion Overflow #8: "How Can I Become As Cool As Captain Awkward?" "I Don't Identify With Christianity, So How Do I Get Out of Celebrating Christmas With My Family?" Update Hannah and Matt Conjure Pamela Merritt Listener Kethri, Merciful Reclaimer : "How Does One Go About Finding the Right Therapist?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, December 25, 2017
#51: 2017's Best & Worst Advice Questions (Ft. The Bad Advisor)
In a very special 2017 Year in Review episode, Hannah and Matt welcome Andrea Grimes of The Establishment's " Bad Advice " fame to reminisce about the questions that most warmed our hearts and those that most made us want to burn everything to the ground. It was a very fiery year, to put it lightly. Enjoy?? Andrea's "Warmed My Heart" Award pick Captain Awkward and Friends of Captain Awkward: " When Spouses Don't Agree About Birth Control " Andrea's "Set It on Fire" Award pick Misc.: Please May I Keep Boning This Racist? (Carolyn Hax December 2nd , Dear Abby February 13 , Savage Love August 23 ) Han's "Warmed My Heart" Award pick (*SEE BELOW) Listener Weary and Wary: "How Lenient Should I Be of My Friends With Depression and Anxiety Who Are Repeatedly Undependable With Plans?" Han's "Set It on Fire" Award pick Ask a Manager: I ghosted my ex, and she's about to be my new boss Matt's "Warmed My Heart" Award pick Ask Dr. NerdLove: Why Do Women Have All The Advantages In Dating? Matt's "Set It on Fire" Award pick Ask APW: The Garter Toss Reminds Me of My Sexual Assault, but My Fiancé Wants to Do It "Set It on Fire" Runner-Ups: Ask a Manager: my boss enlists me in hiding his multiple affairs from his wife Ask a Manager: I ghosted my ex, and she's about to be my new boss Ask a Manager: is the work environment I've created on my team too exclusive? r/relationships: <a href= "https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/6pd3bp/my_33f_selfabsorbed_sister_
Bonus · Thu, December 21, 2017
"How Do I Cope With My Siblings Rejecting Me?" | Opinion Overflow #21
In this week's episode, we finally admit that we get so many requests for Dear Prudence and Ask a Manager commentary that we could easily host three separate podcasts! I mean... Patreon bonus content, maybe? Like, jokingly! But kind of serious? Anywho, let's do this thing! Listener Machete Alice Wants to Recruit a Friend to Listen to the Podcast ; Ask a Manager: "I Didn’t Get a Job Because I Was a Bully in High School" + Update; Original ; Update ; Ask a Manager: "A Colleague Is Hitting on Me and I Don’t Know How to Respond" Update ; From " Hannah and Matt Hit on You "; Original from AaM ; Dear Prudence: " I Left My Daughter off of the Christmas Card "; Dear Prudence: Ethical Nonmonogamy 101 & a "Stolen Cat" Requests ; Listener NoNoNoNo Has Advice for TransSlytherin; From " Opinion Overflow #20: “Am I a Scrooge?” "; Listener Arcaehl, Lost Spellweaver: "How Can I Move Past Being Rejected by Family Members?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, December 18, 2017
#50: Hannah and Matt Condemn Name Thieves
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of December 10th, 2017, and beyond, including: Dear Prudence : " Name (AKA The Evil Name Thief Who Delights In the Tears of 6 Year Olds What the Actual Fuck) "; Dear Annie : " Hatred and Disgust for Stepson "; Ask Minda Honey : " How to Bow out of a Party "; Dear Abby : " Boyfriend Shows No Interest in Expanding Family of Three "; Listener Lygeia, Cunning Mesmerist : "How Do I Convince My Mom Once and For All That I'm Never Going to Want My Brother Back In My Life?"; Listener Hub Pet Pictures ; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, December 13, 2017
"Am I a Scrooge?" | Opinion Overflow #20
This week's Overflow is itself overflowing! Y'all send us so many wonderful things, it's impossible for us not to share them all. Let's dive in! ScarleTeen Advice ; Another advice column that's new to us!; Mo Ranyart's work ; So Much Love and Support for our Last Overflow ; Opinion Overflow #19: “Do I Have To Keep White Supremacists In My Life?” l Ask a Manager Bummer Update ; Original: " employee dressed up as coworker for Halloween to mock her, fending off a colleague’s dinner invitations, and more "; Update ; Listener Spencer Retakes the Listener Leader Board Throne! ; And becomes the second person to find all the Listener Hub secrets; Lephra, Master Manipulator Has Cat Tips ; Dear Prudence: " Stuck (AKA The Evil Stepmother Question) "; Requested by THREE listeners, a first ever; Listener Trans Slytherin : "Am I a Scrooge?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, December 11, 2017
#49: Hannah and Matt Hit on You
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of December 3rd, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask Team Practical : "My Cousin’s Boyfriend Groped Me—Why Is Keeping Him off My Guest List My Problem?" ; Dear Prudence : " I Can't Comfort the Teen Who Killed My Cat "; Ask a Manager : " A Colleague Is Hitting on Me and I Don’t Know How to Respond "; r/relationships : " My (29f) sister (23f) ruined her credit and blames me "; Tough Love : " How to Craft Your Life's Purpose and Stop Wasting Your Precious Time Here on Earth "; Listener Rage Wanderlust : "How Can I Politely Tell Friends and Family To Stop Asking Me For Updates About My Job Search?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, December 06, 2017
"Do I Have To Keep White Supremacists In My Life?" | Opinion Overflow #19
This week's Overflow includes some excellent responses from listeners, a reminder not to date nazis, and an even more in-depth reminder that you don't have to keep Trump supporters in your life. Even if they're your grandparents and they're on their death beds. Enjoy! Listener Hetha, Zealous Inquisitor Has Some Intuitive Eating Advice; Everybody L.A. ; The Fat Nutritionist ; Listener Delisa on Twitter Locks Out Her Cats at Night Too ; In reference to our Opinion Overflow #18: "What Should I Consider Before Getting a Cat?" Episode; Don't Date Nazis (Still) ; Carolyn Hax : She thinks her fiance's racism 'seems like a pretty trivial thing' ; Listener Leemra, Adept Aeromancer : "My Trump Supporting Grandparents's Health is Declining; Do I Have to Make Nice With Them?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, December 04, 2017
#48: Hannah and Matt Scrutinize Sexual Imbalances
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 26th, 2017, and beyond, including: Dear Sugars : " Is There Such a Thing as Wanting Too Much Sex? "; The Ethicist : " My Wife Is Done With Sex. Can I Turn Elsewhere? "; Y'all Need Help : " Relearning Sex with Chronic Pain "; Listener Alouicious Leatrix : "What Do I Do About My Sexless Marriage? And Before You Say 'Ethical Nonmonogamy,' That's Not on the Table Here."; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, November 29, 2017
"What Should I Consider Before Getting a Cat?" | Opinion Overflow #18
This week's Overflow features THREE new (to us) advice columns that we recommend checking out, a very special Magic card, a lovely listener letter, and a question about cats. Let's do this thing! Ask Bear is Back; S. Bear Bergman's Homepage ; Friendshipping! Podcast Is Great ; Social Q's Kids Section Is a Thing; It's Print Only , though; I Made a Magic card for My Mom; She donated and offered up the name "Cynthea Motherfury"; You can support us on Patreon and get a card, too!; Listener Aephe, Stout Battlemage Relates to a Recent Question ; Dear Jane's "Is It Unreasonable for Me to Ask My Boyfriend to Move to Canada with Me?" from Hannah and Matt Commemorate October's Gems ; Listener Fearful for Frida : "What Things Should I Consider Before Deciding Whether Or Not I Want to Get a Cat With My Roommates?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, November 27, 2017
#47: Hannah and Matt Herald Sarah Knight
For the Monday episode, Hannah and Matt interviewed New York Times Best Selling author Sarah Knight , the anti-guru author of self-help instant classics The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck , Get Your Sh*t Together , and the recently released You Do You , the third in the "No F*cks Given Guide." We discuss three listener questions that speak to fellow-Know-It-All-Sarah's expertise: BONUS: The Magic of Not Giving a F*** | Sarah Knight | TEDxCoconutGrove ; Listener Uratron, Ragecaster : "How Do I Manage My Increasing Discomfort of Working With an Intuitive Eating Coach Who Is Built Like a Runway Model?"; New York Times : " After 'The Biggest Loser,' Their Bodies Fought to Regain Weight "; Listener Zelda : "How Do I Manage My Anxieties Around Performance Reviews in Light of Experiencing a Past Trauma?"; Listener Kirin, the Unmaker : "Should I Be Upfront About My Ball-Jointed Dolls Hobby With People I've Just Started Dating?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, November 22, 2017
Hannah and Matt Are on Patreon (Bonus Episode!)
Dear Listeners, We've gone and done the thing! We're now on Patreon , where you can pledge monthly donations to help support the work that we do on the podcast, which can get you so many exclusive rewards, including (but not limited to): A Matt-generated Magic the Gathering card of your badass alter-ego (Common Tier) Exclusive bonus content recorded just for Uncommon and higher patrons (extra questions, dramatic readings, cat videos... WHO KNOWS) (Uncommon Tier) A monthly exclusive Google hangout invite to ask us anything and just hang out (Rare Tier) If you're ever in NYC, we'll take you out for a drink! (Mythic Tier) Because of the delightful support via donations that we've already received, we thought that now was the right time. For the holidays, we're running a limited time promotion: Anyone who donates at the Common Tier of $1 between NOW and December 31st, 2017 will get access to 8 holiday-themed questions we've pulled from advice columns over many years with our fresh takes, each one released to patrons each day of Hanukkah (between December 12th to the 20th). We put a dorky video, so you should go check that out and laugh at our expenses ever if you don't plan on being a patron. We love y'all so much! Donation or not, the sheer enthusiasm you've shown us on Twitter and in our ever-filling inbox makes our hearts sing. Catch ya'll next week after the break! P.S. Listener M is your new leader, having found all of the Listener Hub secrets and vaulting into first! Hot diggity dang!
Mon, November 20, 2017
#46: Hannah and Matt Read the Comments
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 12th, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask a Manager : " My Husband Doesn’t Want Me to Go on a Business Trip to Vegas " + Update; Dear Prudence : " My Sister Lied to Me About Why She Needed to Borrow $1000 and I'm Not Sure I Can Forgive Her "; Captain Awkward : " Boyfriend Is Overly Concerned About Who I Hang out With. "; Private Lives : " My Girlfriend Had a One-Night Stand and It Has Destroyed My Life "; Ask APW : " My Smug Married Friends Refuse to Get Excited about My Wedding "; Listener E : "How Do I Rekindle an Old Friendship With Someone Whose Dad Secretly Molested Me?"; RAINN : National Sexual Assault Hotline; 1-800-656-HOPE; The Cut : " Your Reckoning. And Mine. As stories about abuse, assault, and complicity come flooding out, how do we think about the culprits in our lives? Including, sometimes, ourselves. " BONUS: Second " Comrade Femme " Question Shoutout; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, November 15, 2017
"Why Are Men?" | Opinion Overflow #17
This week's Overflow is bursting with love! Seriously, y'all sent us a tremendous amount of emails the prior week, and we're blown away by it. You're wonderful! Here's some of what you sent us: Stinky Couch Guesses; In response to Holly Hellhunter's question in Hannah and Matt Value Alone Time , titled, "Should I Expect My Partner to Handle All of the Chores While I'm on a Trip?" ; Hated Critically Acclaimed Musical Correct Guess; A point for Orlahv, Wicked Savant on the Leader Board! ; The Journey of Listener Spencer's Cat, Winston; You can see Winston on the Pet Pics portion of the Listener Hub; Miss Manners on RSVP Cards; Listener Maewyn the Lacerator: "Should I Call Out My Coworker Who Sends Problematic 'Joke' Newsletters to the Entire Company?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, November 13, 2017
#45: Hannah and Matt Heighten the Difficulty
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of November 5th, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask a Manager : " My Employee Dressed up as a Coworker for Halloween to Mock Her "; "I Don't Like Thing" Comic ; Ask Amy : " Wife Wonders About Siblings' Bathroom Habits "; Dear Prudence : " Is It Wrong to Want to Redo My Wedding Since the First Ceremony Was Rushed to Accommodate my Dying Father-In-Law? "; Captain Awkward : " Ethical Non-Monogamy & a Difficult Conversation. "; Listener Naedros, Reckless Aeronaut : "Is It Unfair for Me to Want My Boyfriend to Work on His Anxiety?"; Listener First Last : "How Can I Trust My Husband Again After He Was Caught Harassing a Woman Online?"; Listener Couple In a Bad Position : "How Do We Tell Our Friend That His Girlfriend Is No Longer Welcome To Hang Out With Us?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, November 08, 2017
"Where Do I Draw the Line on Which Terrible People to Punch in the Face?" | Opinion Overflow #16
This week's Overflow asks: who can I punch? But also: what happens when Han edits the podcast for a second time, but misinterprets one of Matt's tips and turns us into breathless vampires? Well, the answer to that second one is "more editing," but the first one? Listen and find out! Laura II Gets a New Name and a New Point!; Solyara, Queen of the Mists' Cats ; Listener Lephra, Master Manipulator : "Why I Need Advice Columns"; Listener Pampora, Void Cartographer : "Why I Read Advice Columns"; Dear Prudence : " Judge Judy (How Do I Apologize For Punching My Sister and Breaking Her Nose?) "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, November 06, 2017
#44: Hannah and Matt Value Alone Time
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of October 29th, 2017, and beyond, including: Miss Manners : " Do I Include Who Isn't Attending In This Confusingly-Worded RSVP Card? "; Dear Prudence : " Will My Husband's Alcoholism Ever Improve Enough For Me To Feel Good About Our Relationship? "; Ask Polly : " I Hate Men "; Savage Love : Episode #574 thoughts on " I Have Sensual Encounters with My Masseur "; Listener Holly Hellhunter : "Should I Expect My Partner to Handle All of the Chores While I'm on a Trip?"; Listener I Vant to Be Alone : "How Do I Set Up Emotional Boundaries With My Roommate?"; BONUS : Dear Prudence : " Nobody's Mother " Trans Lifeline ; Trevor Project ; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, November 01, 2017
"Can I Enjoy Reading Advice Columns Knowing That There Are Bigger Problems in the World?" | Opinion Overflow #15
This week's normally-scheduled Overflow asks a big question: why are we here?!? It also asks: what happens when Han edits the podcast? Stick around to find out: Advice Column Alert: Bad Advice ; Every Tuesday, the Bad Advisor (Andrea Grimes) gives "terrible guidance based on actual letters"; Personality (Mis)fit Thoughts ; A listener commenting on “Is This Just Some Weird Gender Thing???” on Hannah and Matt Consult Dear Businesslady ; Dear Prudence : " Who Really Has a Problem? "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, October 30, 2017
#43: Hannah and Matt Commemorate October's Gems
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the MONTH of October 2017, including: Ask A Manager : " I Could Delete My Former Employer’s Website — Should I? "; Dear Prudence : " Pets Are Not Family, Are They? "; Ask Amy : " Gun-Toting Brother-In-Law Wants to Open-Carry Around Kids "; Social Q's : " Should I Share a Traumatic Story? "; Dear Jane : " Is It Unreasonable for Me to Ask My Boyfriend to Move to Canada with Me? "; Captain Awkward : " My Newly Nudist/Naturist Friend and Unwanted Naked Photos "; Listener ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged : "Should I Say Something About My Uncle's Body Negative Comments Towards My Cousins?"; BONUS : Donate to us via the link in our site's navigation! ; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Fri, October 27, 2017
"How Can I Make Time for More Hannah and Matt Know It All?" | Opinion Overflow #14
This week's SECOND Overflow is entirely updates! We've got an upcoming guest who we need questions for, the official launch of the Listener Hub, and so much more. Stick around: Sarah Knight, Upcoming Guestpert ; Upcoming advice book, " You Do You "; YouTube : " The Magic of Not Giving a F*** | Sarah Knight | TEDxCoconutGrove "; Send us questions for Sarah Knight!! ; Women & Gender Nonconforming (an apology) ; We are no longer using "female-bodied" as a catch-all to express the idea of not "being raised female" or "not experiencing male-privilege"; Listener Rihanna Question Update ; Original Question from Hannah and Matt Divvy Expenses Equitably , "Should I Warn Away Employees Who Are Interviewing at My Problematic Workplace?"; Ask a Manager's " Chocolate Teapots Ltd. "; Women Who Feel Entitled to Sex With Their Partners ; Listener Kate on Twitter & Listener Kal'eht, Dusty Anarchist get points for finding us the requested terrible women; The ' Listener Hub ' Is Live!! ; Can we use your pet pics?; Have you not yet sent us your pet pics??; Setting Boundaries for Listener Friends ; If we're friends or have become friends, email us anonymously at bit.ly/hannahandmatt ; Introduction Episode Request ; Tell us what your all-time favorite quotes or clips are from the show for the 1-minute intro video we're making for new listeners!; Ask a Manager : " update: is the work environment I’ve created on my team too exclusive? "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can <a href= "ht
Bonus · Wed, October 25, 2017
"Will Courtney C.W. Guerra Smash the Patriarchy With Me If I Ask Politely?" | Opinion Overflow #13
We hosted Courtney C.W. Guerra of " Dear Businesslady " for the Monday episode and had so much to talk about that we couldn't fit it all into one episode. Thus: Opinion Overflow #13! This Overflow contains two questions that were recently published from other advice columns as well as a new Listener Question: Ask A Manager : " My Male Colleagues Expect Me to Do the Department’s Admin Work "; MBMBaM (22:21): " What Should I Do About My Boss Who Jokes About My Having Been Mugged? "; Listener Eva, Abyssal Awakener : "How Do I Report Sexual Harassment in the Service Industry Knowing that So Many Women Have Been Punished for Speaking Out?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, October 23, 2017
#42: Hannah and Matt Consult Dear Businesslady
Hannah and Matt interviewed Courtney C.W. Guerra of " Dear Businesslady " for the Monday episode and delved super extra deep into two questions from her columns that have stuck with her as well as taking on a thematically similar question from her most recent column: Dear Businesslady (November 9th, 2016): " How Do I Say the Thing? "; Trample the Patriarchy Sweater ; I've Got Anxiety Sweater ; Dear Businesslady (December 15th, 2015): " Is This Just Some Weird Gender Thing??? " Dear Businesslady : " Can I Reform My Incompetent Managers? "; Part 2 of our time with Courtney is posting this Wednesday, in which we discuss questions from Ask a Manager, My Brother, My Brother and Me, and a new Listener Question! Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, October 18, 2017
"Is There Any Compromising With My Partner Who Wants Way More Sex Than I Do?" | Opinion Overflow #12
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! There's a new advice column for us to love, Listener Hub ideas a-brewin', and so many unwanted boners! Stick around: Bonus 1 : Another New Feminist Advice Column: " #AskCam "; " Navigating Emotional Labor and Anti-Blackness in Relationships "; Bonus 2 : Listener Hub Thoughts for hannahandmattknowitall.com; Listener Leaderboard for questions and requests we use; Listener Magic Card renderings; Listener Cat (and occasional dog) pictures; What would you like to see in a Listener Hub? Let us know! Bonus 3 : Let Us Sex-Plain : " How Do I Stop My Partner from Waking Me up at 5 Am Every Morning for Sex? "; And finally, Listener Ruby Bloodstorm asks: "Is There Any Compromising With My Spouse Who Wants Sex at a Very Different Frequency Than I Do?"; I'm a cis hetero female married to a cis hetero male. We've been married for two years, together for three. Our sex life is great, except for the frequency. We have the same kinks, we have a rich fantasy life, and we both enjoy exploring the same 'new stuff.' When we have sex it's awesome and we're both satisfied. The problem is that I would be fine with having sex around once a week (sometimes less), while my husband would prefer sex 1-2 times per day. The past couple of months have thrown this discrepancy into a harsh light. My father was sick with cancer for two years before finally passing away in the Spring and I was one of his primary caregivers. I also started a new job with crazy hours (upwards of 80-90 hours), and only one day off per week. My husband owns his own business and has always had a crazy schedule. So we're lacking an abundance of available sexy time. As an anxious person, it can be extremely difficult for me to get out of my own head enough to enjoy and be an active participant, especially in the past four months. For my husband, sex is a great stress reliever. In his weaker moments, he says that he's worried I don't find him attractive anymore or don't love him as much as I used to (not true). In my weaker moments, I tell him that he's only interested in me for sex and doesn't care about me as a person (also not true). I encourage him to masturbate and use porn as he desires, we've always watched porn in our sex life and we both watch it individually. He does that, and it helps, but he would obviously rather have sex with me. We're both happily monogamous, except for this current issue, and truly the rest of our marriage is g
Mon, October 16, 2017
#41: Hannah and Matt Conjure Pamela Merritt
In a very special episode, Hannah and Matt tackle EIGHT questions entirely from their listeners—with an exclusive HaMKIA recorded response to a cat-related question from Way of Cat 's Pamela Merritt!!—including: Listener Confused Sister : "My Teenage Brother Is Sending Nudes Via Text; Should I In Any Way Intervene?"; Listener Large Marge : "Am I, An Aspiring Cop, Being Too Harsh About My Boyfriend's Marijuana Use?"; Listener Confused in California : "I Don't Identify With Christianity, So How Do I Get Out of Celebrating Christmas With My Family?"; MBMBaM : Candlenights ; Listener Nancy : "My Mother Has Been Living With Me and My Husband for 10 Years and I Want Her To Move Out"; Listener Meg, Herald of Storms : "What Can I Do About My Roommates Who Won't Clean Up After Themselves?"; Listener Chaos Sunrise : "How Do I Handle the Jealousy of My Cats Possibly Liking My Roommate More Than Me?"; Dear Pammy ; Listener Zelda : "What Do I Do About My Intense Crush For Someone Who Doesn't Like Me Back?"; Listener Fearful for Frida : "As a White Person, Is There a Respectful Way for Me to Dress Up as Frida Kahlo for Halloween?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, October 09, 2017
#40: Hannah and Matt Hide Their Phones
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of October 1st, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask Amy : " Height Isn't This Dating Misfit's Only Challenge "; NY Post : Why I won’t date hot Women Anymore ; r/relationships : " Me [26F] with my BF [almost 31M]. We split all bills but I'm stressing out about how far the 'equality' thing carries over. "; Dear Prudence : " Breast Job Getting in the Way of Wedding! "; Ask APW : " How Do I Address My Invites for Our Polyamorous Wedding Guests? "; Listener Miri Sondosia : "What's a Good Smartphone Policy To Ensure That My Partner and I Spend More Quality Time Together?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, October 04, 2017
"Who's Right About Masturbating at Work: Savage Love or Ask A Manager?" | Opinion Overflow #11
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! Questions and updates and praises (oh my!), so we have no choice but to Opinion Overflow you. Brace yourselves: Bonus 1 : "Ask A Manager: I Ghosted My Ex, and She’s About to Be My New Boss "; This is an update to the world's most notorious ghoster as introduced by Ask A Manager, whom we talked about in Hannah and Matt Patronize Their Friends ; Bonus 2 : A very lovely shout-Out to us from Ask a Manager Commentor "advicelover" ; Bonus 3 : New Feminist Advice Column: " Dear Comrade Femme "; Email raechelannejolie@gmail.com and put "Dear Comrade Femme" in the title; And finally, Listener Vivian Starmonger asks: "Who's Right About Masturbating at Work: Savage Love or Ask A Manager?"; Dan Savage : " With Eli Finkel, Author of "the All-Or-Nothing Marriage." " (28:25); Ask A Manager : " I Keep Finding My Coworker in a Compromising Position … with Himself " (letter No. 3); Ask A Manager : " I Keep Finding My Coworker in a Compromising Position … with Himself "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, October 02, 2017
#39: Hannah and Matt Exile Their Cats
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 24th, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask A Manager : " The Men in My Office Keep Having All-Male Outings! "; Miss Manners : " How Do I Politely Cut Ties with My Hairdresser? "; Dear Prudence : " Bull in a China Cupboard "; Social Q's : " Broke a Glass, Got an Invoice "; Sense and Sensitivity : " Parents Doubt Son's Talent "; HuffPo : " Liberal Arts Is the Foundation for Professional Success in the 21st Century "; Listener Mist Wanderer : "How Do I Respond to People Who Share Personal Tragedies After I Tell Them I'm Pregnant?"; Garfunkel and Oates : " Pregnant Women are Smug: The Official Video "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, September 27, 2017
"What's the Right Compromise in Wedding Ring Etiquette When You've Got Non-Traditional Aspirations?" | Opinion Overflow #10
In today's overflowing of opinions, we cover three wedding-related questions that didn't quite fit into Monday's bridal party-themed episode: Ask APW : " My Future MIL Is Calling Me a "Practice Wife" "; Dear Prudence : " Fiancé Worried My Genes Will Affect His Son's "Package" "; And finally, Listener Grumpy asks: I gave my fiancée a non-traditional custom designed Hawaiian Wedding Ring (aka: Hawaiian Heirloom Jewelry) as an engagement ring earlier this year. It is basically a fancy scroll design on a metal band without a gemstone. I've been designing and having my Jeweler create a unique Three-stone Diamond Ring with a diamond cushion around the main stone, and channel diamonds in the band. My intention was to give her the new diamond ring on the day of our wedding; and let her be able to chose which ring she wants to wear depending on her activities (as each is to be worn by itself). She claims the "diamond ring should be given to her now since it is usually a diamond engagement ring. She said I don't understand engagement etiquette. I think since neither ring is the traditional two-piece engagement/wedding set; I prefer to wait until the day of our wedding to put this very fancy diamond ring on her finger. I want to follow etiquette for non-traditional rings; but I'll be rammed if I can find anything on the subject! What would you say the proper etiquette is in this situation? Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, September 25, 2017
#38: Hannah and Matt Adjudicate Bridal Quandaries
In a special wedding-themed episode, Hannah and Matt tackle bridal party-related questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 17th, 2017, and beyond, including: BONUS: Teen Vogue : " Chili's Is Giving Out Helpful Advice on Twitter, and the Internet Loves It "; Dear Prudence : " Daughter's Friend Being in Wedding "; Ask APW : " My Cousin Just Fat Shamed Me over a Bridesmaid Dress "; r/relationships : " I just found out I'm [28F] pregnant. I am due 4 weeks before my friends [26F] wedding. Not sure when/how to tell her I need to drop. "; Ask A Manager : " My Friend Wants to List Maid of Honor on Her Résumé "; Listener Mary, Veiled Reckoner : "How Do I Ensure That My Family Doesn't Invite My Abusive Ex To My Wedding?"; BONUS 2 : PodcastPodcast : " Ep 33 THE Hannah and Matt Are Here! | "She has gas, it's disgusting." | Revisiting Tapas Bullshit "; On Wednesday's episode, three more wedding-related questions that didn't quite fit in with the bridal party theme are discussed! Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, September 20, 2017
"My Boyfriend and I Are About to Move In Together And I'm Looking for Advice to Head Off Co-Habitation Troubles" | Opinion Overflow #9
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Bonus 1: 'Ask the Sexpert,' a documentary about Dr. Mahinder Watsa, is screening at Bertha DocHouse on Saturday, September 23rd in London. Watch the trailer and get tickets for the screening here !; HuffPost: " What India Is Asking Its Most Popular Sexpert, Dr Mahinder Watsa "; Bonus 2: Reminder: we're unable to interact with you to ask for more details if you send us a question through our bitly link! If you're uncertain whether you've provided enough details, it's best to email us directly at hannahandmattknowitall@gmail.com .; Bonus 3: A very lovely listener, Melody Heartfinder, offered to send some noise-canceling headphones to Listener Paige who you may remember from Overflows #5 and #7. This is wonderful! But we don't have Paige's contact information, since she reached out to us anonymously. Alas.; And finally, Listener Machete Alice asks: My boyfriend (28) of eight months and I (24) are an amazing fit for each other in every way, and we comment frequently on how neither of us realized it was even possible to find someone out there who would be such a perfect partner and make relationships feel so easy. We communicate so well, we intentionally "have disagreements" rather than "arguments," and the only two things we've ever fought over are politics (I'm far left/pro-Hillary; he's FARRR left/pro-Bernie* [note: he voted for Hillary in the general!]) and UFOs. So we've decided to move in together in January. I currently live with my mom (ugh) since I moved back home after graduation, and he lives in a small(ish) city 45 minutes away with dirt-cheap rent (so cheap that offends me as a former Boston and DC renter), where he does stand-up comedy. We're both poor af, but that situation will gradually improve after I get a job in The New City and he saves up money from his shows. Here's what I want to know: What tips/tricks/advice do you have - whether financial, emotional, mental, spiritual, physical, or otherwise - to give us the best shot at making this big step in our relationship work? For more context: we're monogamous; he's a sensitive introvert and I'm a very talkative, unfiltered extrovert; he has a lot of close friends in the city but I left most of my friends behind in Boston (I get along with his friends, though); I'm taking out a small personal loan (size TBD) to cover initial rent/food/transportation costs before I get a job; we both have depression, anxiety, and ADHD, he has had a bit of an anger problem in the past, and
Mon, September 18, 2017
#37: Hannah and Matt Optimize for Search
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of September 10th, 2017, and beyond, including: Captain Awkward : " Is this relationship doomed or do I just need to put in more work? "; Asking for a Friend : " I'm a Marxist-Feminist Slut—How Do I Find an Open Relationship? "; Ask A Manager : " How Can I Balance Kids, Marriage, and a Job, When I Sometimes Have to Work in the Evening? "; Dear Kiki : " Should I Become a Prostitute? "; Jezebel : " Some Things to Consider When You Think You Want to be a Prostitute "; Clients From Hell ; Listener Kacy : "I Told My Supervisor I'm Looking to Leave, And Now I'm Getting Nudged Out of the Office Without a Backup Plan. Now What?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, September 11, 2017
#36: Hannah and Matt Call Amy Dickinson
Hannah and Matt interviewed the legendary Amy Dickinson of " Ask Amy " for the Monday episode and delved super extra deep into two questions from her columns that have stuck with her as well as taking on an exclusive sneak peak of a soon-to-be-published question: Ask Amy (November 18th, 2013): " Parent Pressures Gay Son to Change "; Bonus 1 : " Washington Post: Someone hoaxed Ask Amy using an old 'Seinfeld' plot "; Bonus 2 : " AV Club: Someone trolled "Ask Amy" by pretending to be Johnny from The Room "; Go Pride : " Asking Amy: an interview with advice columnist Amy Dickinson "; Ask Amy (May 8th, 2014): " Sisterly Exclusion Makes One Sis a Horrible Person "; Bonus 3 : " Today: After backlash, Dear Abby changes stance on gun safety etiquette for parents "; Bonus 4 : " Feministing: Ask Amy Gives "Advice" to a Rape Victim "; Bonus 5 : " Cosmopolitan: A New Kind of Date Rape "; Bonus 6: " Dear Prudence: The "Open It Up" Edition "; Ask Amy : "Dogless Drama in the Making"; Bonus 7 : " Strangers Tend to Tell Me Things "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on
Bonus · Wed, September 06, 2017
"How Can I Become As Cool As Captain Awkward?" | Opinion Overflow #8
We hosted Jennifer Peepas of " Captain Awkward " for the Monday episode and had so much to talk about that we couldn't fit it all into one episode. Thus: Opinion Overflow #8! This Overflow contains two questions from the previous week plus a new Listener Question and a special announcement: BONUS 1 : A writer who goes by Miri penned an EXCELLENT " Polyamory 201 " post on the-orbit with in-depth musings about the "monogamous for the right person" question from our Poly 101 episode; BONUS 2 : We'll be guests on the next episode of the PodcastPodcast t! Like our show, it's a fancast of a sort, but all about discovering and gushing about podcasts. It's so good and we're thrilled to have been invited!; Dear Prudence : " Dinner Time Etiquette "; Ask APW : " The Garter Toss Reminds Me of My Sexual Assault, but My Fiancé Wants to Do It "; Listener Weary and Wary : "How Lenient Should I Be of My Friends With Depression and Anxiety Who Are Repeatedly Undependable With Plans?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, September 04, 2017
#35: Hannah and Matt Revere Captain Awkward
Hannah and Matt interviewed Jennifer Peepas of " Captain Awkward " for the Monday episode and delved super extra deep into two questions from her columns that have stuck with her as well as taking on an exclusive sneak peak of a soon-to-be-published question: Captain Awkward (July 20th, 2017): " “My Very First Dick Pic:” A horrible coming-of-age story "; Captain Awkward (May 11th, 2017): " Our Friend Hits Women. "; Captain Awkward : "Scared of Spending"; Part 2 of our time with Captain Awkward is posting this Wednesday, in which we discuss questions from Dear Prudence, Ask APW, and a new Listener Question! Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, August 30, 2017
"Would It Be Irresponsible of Me to Move Someplace New With No Job or Living Arrangement Waiting For Me?" | Opinion Overflow #7
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Bonus 1 : Listener Sara recommends " Here's the Plan " by Allyson Downey for new or expecting working mothers (in response to Listener Laura in this Monday's episode). Bonus 2 : Listener Paige (from Overflow #5) has an update for us! And finally, Listener Lacey asks : I’m sort of at the point in my life where I’ve been questioning if there’s more out there for me or not. I have lived in North Dakota my whole life and all of my close family is here. I’m going to school online and working full time at a job I don’t love. However, I love all of my coworkers and that’s kind of a big deal. I’ve never been married nor do I have kids but I do have a dog. Would it be irresponsible of me to pack up and move a few states away without a job or place to live? I’m finding it hard to get a job and apartment where I don’t currently live. I’ve always been a big nature girl and would love to live by the mountains or ocean. I would hate to move and end up homeless or blow all of my savings. I guess I’m at a crossroads with this! Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, August 28, 2017
#34: Hannah and Matt Patronize Their Friends
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of August 20th, 2017, and beyond, including: Dear Prudence : " Do I Have to Be a Patron to Be a Friend? "; Dear Jane : " How Do I Talk to My Husband About Our Erratic Sex Life? "; Ask a Manager : " I Ghosted My Ex, and She’s About to Be My New Boss "; Dear Sugars : " Uneducated and Confused "; Listener Laura : "Will My Being Pregnant at a New Job Be Considered Too Soon?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, August 21, 2017
#33: Hannah and Matt Teach Poly 101
Hannah and Matt take a vacation from the usual format to bring you the hotly-anticipated Poly 101 episode featuring Matt's girlfriend Laurel Lathrop ! We're covering more questions than ever before, so strap yourselves in for the long journey to Ethicalnonmonogamyville: Listener V : "How Do I Navigate Exploring My Bisexuality While In an Ostensibly Heterosexual Primary Relationship?"; Listener Sarah Manning : "I'm In My First Poly Relationship. Now What?"; Listener Open Imbalance : "I'm a Bisexual Woman in an Open Relationship and Getting Way More Dates than My Straight Male Partner"; Listener Laura : "How Do I Tell My Poly Friends to Stop Judging Monogamous Relationships and Erasing My Asexuality?"; Raven Goldblood : "How Do You Go From an 'Open Relationship' to a Poly One?"; Listener Magpie : "At What Point Should I Come Out to My Friends and Family as Poly?"; BONUS: r/relationships : "My (24f) 5 year boyfriend (27m) opened up our relationship a year ago and now I'm confused about my feelings for him and just in general."; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, August 14, 2017
#32: Hannah and Matt Fund Your Honeymoon
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of August 6th, 2017, and beyond, including: Dear Prudence : " Twin Q-and-A "; Let Us Sex-plain : " How Do I Get My Boyfriend to Stop Playing a Certain Podcast During Foreplay? "; horizontal with lila ; The Ethicist : " Is It O.K. to Protest Trump by Withholding Taxes? "; Ask Dr. NerdLove : " I'm Nonmonogamous and Having Trouble Finding Dates, So How Long Can I Withhold This Info? "; Listener Ann : "How Can I Nudge My Friend Towards Being More Vulnerable With Me?"; Listener Mary : "Is It Okay to Ask for Only Money Instead of Wedding Gifts?"; A Practical Wedding ; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, August 09, 2017
"How Do I Stop Coworkers From Asking Me Details About My Upcoming Major Surgery?" | Opinion Overflow #6
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Listener Zelda asks: I am being urged by a couple of physicians to have a mastectomy/reconstruction even though I do not have cancer because my mother had breast cancer very young and is no longer with us. I carry the BRCA2 mutation so my odds are pretty good for getting it. Also, my younger sister just got the news that her most recent mammogram is showing something that is "most likely cancer" and is going to have a biopsy. I have looked into the surgery and found a doctor that a friend went to and I feel comfortable with him. I've seen his before/after photos and that set my mind so at ease. I'm thinking of doing this within the calendar year, but my question is how to address this at work. I will need to take about four weeks off. I work in a school and I will have the sick time that I need for recovery. I'm talking with my union rep about the rules about sick time and FMLA. But the basic question is this: I do not want to tell people what kind of surgery I am having. I don't want to get into it. I don't want to disclose to coworkers why I'll be out. I know that if I say that I'm having surgery and will be out for a few weeks, people will invariably say, "Oh, what kind of surgery?" To me this is very personal and I know that any discussion of it will result in me talking about my body, my breasts (I hate talking about my body at all...), my mother's illness and death, people wondering if it's the right/necessary measure to take, etc. I just don't want to talk about it and it's nobody's business. If it adds any perspective, a few years ago I lost 75 pounds and people in my workplace (not the same one) were well-meaning and would not STFU about how much weight I lost and I felt like people were staring at me all the time, whether they were or not. So any attention on my body makes my skin crawl. I already know that I will have to talk about this with my boyfriend's family (all very kind and lovely people but I still cringe at the thought of telling anyone at all) and my close circle of friends. My own family lived through my mom's trauma and will be possibly also dealing with it in my sister now so I won't get any shock or push-back there. So how do I shut it down so only the people who need to know what I'm doing know? If it comes down to it I will be blunt and say, "I won't discuss it," but I don't want to be cold. I just want to convey that this is a matter I don't want to get into. Is there a polite way to do it? Also obviously I'm not planning to say anything on social media and will ask close friends/family that if they want to check in with me to see how things are going, they do it in only private messages. Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to <a href=
Mon, August 07, 2017
#31: Hannah and Matt Leave You Hanging
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 30th, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask A Manager : " Is the Work Environment I’ve Created on My Team Too Exclusive? " (Part 1 of 2); Dear Jane : " How Do I Get My Grandpa to Realize He’s Acting Like a Creep? "; Dear Prudence : " Introvert Boyfriend Ignores Friends "; Ask a Manager : " Is the Work Environment I’ve Created on My Team Too Exclusive? " (Part 2 of 2); Listener Kate : "Can I Intervene On My Good Friend's Bad Relationship?"; Talkspace : " How to Recognize Emotional Abuse in Intimate Relationships "; BONUS: We're going to do a Poly 101 episode in a few weeks, so please send us your polyamory and nonmonogamy questions!; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, August 02, 2017
"How Do I Shut Down Unwanted Conversation from Hospital Roommates?" | Opinion Overflow #5
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Listener Paige asks: A few years ago I was diagnosed with a serious heart condition. Part of treating this condition means spending ample amounts of time in the hospital. In the last year I've spent over two hundred days there, and that is not likely to change for the foreseeable future, at least until I get a new heart. The hospital near me is small, and the rooms are usually shared. Because I have a cardiac problem, most of my roommates with similar issues are significantly older than me. I am only 23, and often the youngest person on the unit. I would like some advice on how to deal with hospital roommates who want to get too involved in my life. I am pretty introverted, and while I don't mind the occasional small talk, it is frustrating to have a person I don't know not only sharing my space when I feel horrible (not their fault, but it still sucks), but also pestering me incessantly with questions about my life, my plans, my prognosis, etc. I know that they mean well, and they are trapped in the hospital just like I am and often very lonely, so I don't want to be rude, but I also feel like absoltue shit AND wouldn't particularly want to talk to these people in any other circumstance anyway. It makes me really uncomfortable to get questions about my future or my plans, since there's a good chance that I won't have any future to plan, and even if I do survive, many of the things that I wanted (marriage, children, grad school, not necessarily in that order) have had to be put on hold indefinitely while I deal with this seemingly unending health crisis. They often also feel compelled to ask questions about why I don't have any visitors. My father died of the same heart condition I have when he was in his twenties and I was a baby, and my mother passed away a few years ago in a car accident. Part of the reason I spend so much time in the hospital is because I cannot take care of myself at home, and I have no one else to rely on in that way. While I know my roommates mean well and are just trying to make conversation, these things are difficult to discuss, and I am physically and emotionally exhausted. Since I am a hospital regular, and most of these people come and go fairly quickly, I feel like I have to ""break in"" a new roommate once or twice a week, since this problem comes up about half of the time. I feel like shared hospital rooms are like subways and trains, and everyone there should pretend that everyone else isn't actually there at all, but that does not seem to be the common consensus. But I also don't feel good about the idea of being rude to little old ladies in their eighties who are sick, scared, and lonely, which is usually what happens when I've gritted my teeth and dealt with it until I snap. I do
Mon, July 31, 2017
#30: Hannah and Matt Don't Date Nazis
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 23rd, 2017, and beyond, including: BONUS SEGMENT : "Mostly Positive"; Positive 1: The Toast Updated on July 26th!! ; Not So Positive 1: Andrew W.K. is extremely tone deaf (and needs to take a look at this political cartoon about centrists ); Positive 2: Captain Awkward has answered 1000 questions!! ; r/relationships : " My (33F) self-absorbed sister (22F) is holding an "auction" for all her potential bridesmaids to compete in for a place in her wedding "; Ask APW : " Am I a Bad Friend If I Can’t Afford a $15,000 Bridesmaid Dress? "; Dear Prudence : " Uneven Salaries "; Captain Awkward : " Let’s open up our marriage so I can sleep with this really untrustworthy person! "; Miss Conduct : " My Friend Is Dating a Nazi "; Captain Awkward : " Don't Date Nazis! "; Listener Patrick : "How Do I Handle My Partner Referring to Herself as a Lesbian Even Though I'm a Trans Man?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately
Mon, July 24, 2017
#29: Hannah and Matt Expand Their Horizons
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 16th, 2017, and beyond, including: Captain Awkward: " The Palette Wife "; Ask A Manager : " My Employee Set up a False Fraud Investigation … Because She Was Being Abused and Wanted the Police "; Dear Prudence : " No Embryos for You "; Dear Jane : " How Do I Break Up With My Long-Term Partner, Logistically Speaking? "; Listener BerthaBessie : "How Do I Get Used to My Newly Open Relationship that My Partner Wants to Keep a Secret?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, July 19, 2017
"How Do I Get More Hannah and Matt in My Life?" | Opinion Overflow #4
Having hosted Heather Havrilesky of " Ask Polly " for the Monday episode, we ran out of time and had some additional opinions we couldn't keep to ourselves. Thus: you're getting another Overflow, yaaay! This Overflow contains two questions from the previous week: Dear Businesslady : " How Do I Respect My Coworker’s Gender (and My Own)? "; New York Times : " Real Men Might Get Made Fun Of "; Captain Awkward : " My Husband is Dating My Mom "; r/relationship_advice : " My mother (54/f) and my husband (39/m) "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, July 17, 2017
#28: Hannah and Matt Relay Ask Polly
Hannah and Matt interviewed Heather Havrilesky of " Ask Polly " for the Monday episode and—in true Polly fashion—delved super extra deep into questions from her columns that have stuck with her as well as taking on her most recent question: Ask Polly (June 28, 2017): " Do People Ever Really Escape Their Dysfunctional Families? "; Invisibilia : " The Problem With the Solution "; Ask Polly (July 5th, 2017): " I Moved for My Job, and It Was a Huge Mistake! "; Ask Polly : " I’m Terrified of Having Kids! "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, July 10, 2017
#27: Hannah and Matt Divvy Expenses Equitably
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 2nd, 2017, and beyond, including: Auntie SparkNotes : " My Friend Doesn't Like '13 Reasons Why "; Today : " Netflix should remove '13 Reasons Why' immediately "; Thought Catalog : " Other People Aren’t Responsible For Your Mental Health: Why ’13 Reasons Why’ Is Pretty Much Bullshit "; r/relationships " Renting summer house with friends (20s m/f). Couples get bedrooms; singles have to sleep on air mattresses in living room. Splitting costs? "; Carolyn Hax : " Between a Male Rock and White Hard Place "; Complex : " Casual Reminder: There's No Such Thing As Reverse Racism "; " Resources for White People and Non-Black People of Color "; Dear Abby : " Party's Surprise Comes When Guests Are Asked to Pay "; Listener Rihanna : "Should I Warn Away Employees Who Are Interviewing at My Problematic Workplace?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, July 03, 2017
#26: Hannah and Matt Confront Their Friends
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 25th, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask APW : " Can I Keep Closed-Minded Family from Judging Our Drag Extravaganza? " Ask Polly : " He Wanted an Open Relationship. Why Wasn’t I Enough? "; Captain Awkward : " I think my friend told me he loved me a few years ago, and I’m just figuring it out now. "; r/relationships : " Me [30F] with my fiancé [31 M] 11 years, he doesn't take no for an answer when it comes to family obligations. "; Listener Thomas : "How Do I Confront My Friend Whose Liberalism Is Outdated?"; Bonus : We now have merchandise!! ; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, June 26, 2017
#25: Hannah and Matt Fight Rape Culture
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 18th, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask A Manager : " Employee Drew Genitalia on an Intern’s Cast "; The Cut : " Sexual-Harassment Claims Against a ‘She-E.O.’ "; Ask E. Jean : " How Do I Get My Fiancé to Stop Catcalling Me? "; After Hannah reached out to Elle to point out how problematic E. Jean’s answer was, Elle silently took down the page. It nevertheless did not escape Archive.org preserving the question forever ; Swipe This! : " My Friend’s Faux #Feminist Persona Makes Me Bonkers "; Dear Mariella : " My Ex-Best Friend Is Threatening to Expose My Private Messages "; Listener Redacted for Privacy : "How Can I Tell a Non-Profit Blog To Respect My Need for Anonymity?""; Caroline Sinders : Homepage ; Boing Boing : " That Time the Internet Sent a Swat Team to My Mom's House "; New York Times : " Anonymity Online Serves Us All "; The Coral Project: " The Real Name Fallacy "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only writte
Mon, June 19, 2017
#24: Hannah and Matt Flirt With Guests
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 11th, 2017, and beyond—and are joined this week by special guests Gigi Engle and Mike Fishbein of the relationship advice podcast ' Dirty Sexy Monogamy '—including: Dirty Sexy Monogamy (March 1, 2017): " Would You Ask Your Mom for Sex Advice? "; Dirty Sexy Monogamy (March 15, 2017): " How Do You Know If a Guy Is Actually into You? "; Dirty Sexy Monogamy (February 22, 2017): " Can I Be Sexually Empowered Without Having Sex? "; Saturday Night Live : " Girl at a Bar "; Huffington Post : " 12 Moms Share Gross Stories Of Getting Catcalled While With Their Kids "; Ask Dr. NerdLove : " What Does My Boyfriend’s Porn Say About Us? "; r/relationship s: " Me (25F), the inadvertant cause of dramas at the wedding of my boyfriend’s sister (23F) tearing his family apart." ; Listener Procrastinator : "Is It Too Late to Thank My Friends for Their Wedding Gifts?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, June 14, 2017
"Should I Address Someone's Unsanitary Behavior at a Salad Bar?" | Opinion Overflow #3
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Listener J asks: "This feels like kind of a silly question to ask, but as I saw the following events unfold today, I knew I had to submit this question. Today I was at Whole Foods having lunch with my daughter. I was standing at the (large, communal) salad bar looking at the "Build Your Own Thai Noodle Salad" section they had and was about to build my own salad when a man walked up with his plate, stuck his finger in the container of salad dressing, tasted it, and walked to another section of the salad bar. Maybe I'm just a germophobe, but I was really grossed out (at this point I opted out of getting anything from the salad bar) and honestly pretty surprised that he did this. This is a communal salad bar. Who knows what he had touched before he put his finger in the salad dressing? I stood there for a minute trying to decide if I should say or do something, but honestly I couldn't come up with what to say and I was trying to wrangle a hungry 6 year old in a busy Whole Foods. I have a few questions: Is it just me or is this gross? Should I have said something to the guy who did this? If so, what and how should I have said something? Right after the man walked away from the salad dressing, a Whole Foods employee came up to the salad bar to bring more lettuce or something to another section of the salad bar. I contemplated saying something to the employee but didn't want to sound weird and was worried about the man overhearing me say something to the employee (its probably obvious here that I don't enjoy confrontation of any kind). Should I have said something to the employee? If so, what could I have said?" Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, June 12, 2017
#23: Hannah and Matt Summon Alison Green
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 4th, 2017 and beyond—with an HaMKIA exclusive recorded response to a Reddit question from Ask A Manager's Alison Green!!—including: Captain Awkward : " Messy Housemate Blues with a Side of Bugs. "; Dear Mariella : " I Love My Partner but He Says He Doesn’t Love Me Back "; Rose Buddies: " Horse Poop Censorship "; Ask A Manager : " My Coworker Jokes About Suicide "; r/relationships : " My [29F] former coworker [50F] left a position that I just got promoted to. She is now asking that I step down so she can have it back when she comes back in October. "; Ask A Manager 's Recorded Response; Listener Rachel : "Should I Tell My Monogamous Friend That We Saw Her Boyfriend Trying to Cheat on Her?"; Ask Polly : " My Married Friends Are Driving Me Crazy! "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, June 05, 2017
#22: Hannah and Matt Share Emotional Labor
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 28th, 2017 and beyond, including: Dear Prudence : " My Husband’s Best Friend Proposed to His Girlfriend During Our Wedding Ceremony "; Buzzfeed : " This Couple Got Upstaged At Their Wedding And People Have Their Back "; Auntie Sparknotes : " I'm Interested in Dead Things "; Social Q's : " When Is It O.K. to Date a Friend’s Ex? "; Ask Amy : " Husband Needs to Step up at Home "; Emma : " You Should Have Asked "; Listener Rebecca : "How Do I Get Others to Stop Mis-Gendering My Partner?"; Dirty Sexy Monogamy : " Would You Date Someone in an Open Marriage? "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Wed, May 31, 2017
"Are Hannah and Matt Too Obsessed with Dear Prudence?" | Opinion Overflow #2
Hannah and Matt hosted Mallory Ortberg of " Dear Prudence " for the Monday episode and had so much to discuss that we split the conversation in two! This overflow is FOUR questions from DP, including two old favorites and one from a recent week: Dear Prudence (April 13 2017): " Baby Name Blow-Up "; Dear Prudence (July 19, 2016): " 42 Pearls and Counting "; Dear Prudence (December 8, 2016) : " Don’t Let It Burn "; Dear Prudence : " Pops, I'm Poly "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, May 29, 2017
#21: Hannah and Matt Interview Mallory Ortberg
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 21st, 2017, and beyond—and are joined this week by special guest Mallory Ortberg of the eclectic column ' Dear Prudence ' of Slate!!—including: The Ethicist : " I Accidentally Killed a Child. May I Get in Touch With the Family? "; Carolyn Hax : " A Few Tips on Gratuities and Special Orders "; Listener : "Transition Trouble"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, May 22, 2017
#20: Hannah and Matt Discuss Young Love
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 14th, 2017 and beyond, including: Asking for a Friend : " I Have a Fancy Law Degree, But No One Will Hire Me to Do Good! "; Carolyn Hax : " This Wedding Plus-One Kerfuffle Just Doesn’t Add Up "; Ask Gigi : " Can I Meet Someone IRL Anymore? "; Ask Dr. NerdLove : " Help, My Drunk Friend Is Hitting On Me "; Ask Bear : " Be Glad in Love "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, May 15, 2017
#19: Hannah and Matt Keep Their Seat
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 7th, 2017 and beyond, including: Social Q's : " In-Flight Etiquette "; Dear Prudence (via listener Mia Wallace): " Big Love "; Dear Mariella (via listener Kelsey): " I Cured My Husband’s Depression, so Why Can’t I Now Forgive Him? "; Listener Alison : "Racism in Retail"; Captain Awkward : " How much fighting in a new relationship is too much? "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Thu, May 11, 2017
"Am I Too Critical of My Friends' Favorite Media?" | Opinion Overflow #1
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Listener Esmerelda asks: "This was inspired by your February episode where you discussed the problem of people foisting books upon you, and in particular, Hannah's very particular taste and the etiquette issues that arise when they don't care for something their friend or acquaintance loves. My problem: sometimes, when I don't enjoy a piece of media, or it's just not working for me, I tweet about it, sort of thinking aloud about why it's not working. I try to steer clear of blanket statements like, "Well, it's just OBVIOUSLY bad!" but sometimes that is my conclusion. That part's fine. The problem arises when my real life friends behave as if I'm disliking media AT THEM. For example, "Jane" very much enjoyed Superhero Show X, but I thought it was kind of lazy in its writing, and spent a few weeks tweeting about the issues I was having. (I was pretty far behind everyone else, I wasn't giving away big spoilers.) "Jane" made some remarks about how I was spoiling her fun, and that I should stop. I wanted to argue -- I wasn't tweeting at her, or anyone else in particular, just recording my thoughts -- but I did so. Something similar happened with another friend, "Daria", when I didn't enjoy her favorite Acclaimed Animated Series. I was puzzled as to why I wasn't into Acclaimed Animated Series, when it was so very Acclaimed, and started tweeting about the tropes it used which I didn't much care for. Daria got very angry, accused me of spoiling her fun, and ... well, it blew up from there. (You guys may be amused to learn that Jane and Daria were also very unhappy when I didn't like A Certain Blockbuster Musical on my first listen, and said so. I did come around on a second listen, but mostly because I just love history, hip hop and wordplay. Jane and Daria for some reason see this as a sign that they swayed me into liking A Certain Blockbuster Musical, but actually I'm just very impressed by rhyme.) These days, I try to keep my negative opinions to myself, or at least, to talk about them in other places, where people are less likely to see them. But I find that frustrating, because, as much as I love blogging and journaling, I really value that initial "thinking out loud" phase where I tease my issues out. Talking to my cat is less helpful. I guess my question is this: is this a point of friendship etiquette that I've failed, or do my friends have the problem? Or, more likely, do we all have different but related problems? I never do this with media my friends have directly recommended to me, whereas they have been quite open about dissing stuff I've liked or loved that just doesn't work for them. Do we need to separate our taste in media from our ego and personal identities?" Submit y
Mon, May 08, 2017
#18: Hannah and Matt Admire Jillian Anthony
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 30th, 2017, and beyond—and are joined this week by special guest Jillian Anthony of the ever-sexy column ' Let Us Sex-Plain ' of Time Out New York!!—including: Let Us Sex-Plain (April 5, 2016): " How Do I Introduce My Straight Boyfriend to Butt Stuff? "; Let Us Sex-Plain (June 1, 2016): " How Can I Explore the Polyamorous / Swinger / Sex-Party Scene in New York City? "; Let Us Sex-Plain : " Is My Boyfriend Crossing a Line with His Female Friendships? "; Dear Prudence : " Should I Tell My Siblings Why They’re Not Invited on My Group Vacation? "; Ask E. Jean : " I Don't Want Kids. How Can I Get People to Stop Pressuring Me Once and For All? "; Listener Rose: "How Do I Make Myself Believe That I'm Lovable?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, May 01, 2017
#17: Hannah and Matt Defy Wedding Conventions
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 23rd, 2017 and beyond, including: Ask Polly : " Now That We’re in Our 30s, My Friends Are Abandoning Me! "; Dear Prudence : " Coming Out of the Poly Closet "; Ask Amy : " Temporary Breakup Prompts Friend's Nasty Text "; Ask A Manager : " My Boss Got Drunk and Was Angry That I Couldn’t Drive Him Back to the Office "; Listener Vicki : "Dealing with the Anxiety of a 2nd Marriage"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, April 24, 2017
#16: Hannah and Matt Pervade Your Fantasies
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 16th, 2017 and beyond, including: Dear Prudence : " Is My Friend Really Queer? "; S-Town ; Savage Love : " Dick Monsters "; Dear Kiki : " I Can’t Get My Mind off of the Speaker of the House "; Little Village Mag ; Daily Mail : " Revealed at last: The picture of shirtless Paul Ryan that proves Romney's running mate really IS an action man "; r/relationship_advice : " My wife's (28/f) boyfriend (20/m) just told me he thinks buying videogames is stupid, as you can always pirate them. "; r/polyamory ; Listener Not Helen Lovejoy : "Should I Intervene on a Panhandler Exploiting Their Child?" Helen Lovejoy ; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, April 17, 2017
#15: Hannah and Matt Feel the Love
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 9th, 2017 and beyond, including: Ask APW : " How Do I Tell My Partner He Needs to Make More Money? " Ask a Manager : " A Coworker Objects to My Using Gender-Neutral Pronouns to Refer to Her (And to Everyone) "; Ask Polly : " What Does Love Feel Like? "; Social Q's : " Hold Your Bark "; Listener : "How Do You Maintain a Healthy Optimism Balance When Applying for Jobs?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, April 10, 2017
#14: Hannah and Matt Befriend Liza Featherstone
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 2nd, 2017, and beyond—and are joined this week by special guest Liza Featherstone of the quintessential leftist advice column ' Asking for a Friend ' on The Nation!!—including: Asking for a Friend (May 5, 2016): " How Do I Stop Harassment Without Involving the Police in a Gentrifying Neighborhood? "; Asking for a Friend (April 7, 2016): " I’m Putting My Kids Through College With an Evil Job—Should I Quit? "; Asking for a Friend : " This Divorce Reeks of Class Privilege "; The Ethicist : " Should a Family Member Expose Their Niece’s Fake Food Allergy? "; r/relationships : " My wife [30F] is upset because the "baby" [5 months] didn't get her a birthday gift. I [30M] don't know whether to play along or call her out on the crazyness. "; Listener : "Competing for Attention"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, April 03, 2017
#13: Hannah and Matt Ask a Manager
(Note: This is with new and improved audio as of April 6th!) Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 26th, 2017, and beyond—and are joined this week by special guest Alison Green of the ESSENTIAL advice blog ' Ask a Manager '!!—including: Ask a Manager (June 2, 2016): " I Accidentally Hugged the CEO "; Ask a Manager (July 26, 2013): " An Employee Is Putting Magic Curses on Her Coworkers "; Ask a Manager : " I Was Rejected for a Job Because of My Romantic History "; Ask E. Jean : " How Do I Get My Nightmare Coworker to Leave Me Alone? "; Dear Prudence : " Renting to Family "; Listener : "Nervous About My Neighbor"; Chicago Tribune : " What to do with threatening neighbors displaying mental illness? "; Nolo : " Scared of Your Neighbor? "; Nolo : " When selling my home, is it fraud to tell my neighbors to be on their best behavior? "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, March 27, 2017
#12: Hannah and Matt Come to Conclusions
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 19th, 2017, including: Carolyn Hax : " Her Dreamboat Is a Ship She Shouldn’t Go Down With "; Ask APW : " Are Our Friends Judging Our Cheap Wedding? "; Dear Sugar : " Baby Or Bust "; Find Your Pleasure : " When The Idea Of Having Kids Feels ‘meh’ "; Dear Prudence : " Toying With Time "; The Cut : " You’ll Never Guess Who Has the Most Orgasms "; Women's Day : " 10 Things You Didn't Know About Orgasms "; Vice : " Men Want You to Orgasm Because It Makes Them Feel Manly, Study Says "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, March 20, 2017
#11: Hannah and Matt Ghost On You
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 12th, 2017, including: Ask a Manager : " My coworker won’t stop talking about how stressed she is, and it makes me stressed out too "; Ask E. Jean : " How Do I Stop My Habit of Over-Texting Guys I'm Into? "; Dear Sugars : " Haunted By Ghosting "; Carolyn Hax : " How a married couple can tell who is and isn’t pulling their weight "; Dirty Sexy Monogamy : " Are You Ready To Move In With Your SO ?"; Listener : "Questionable Makeup Brand and Name Choices"; Bonus 1 : " Book Match " is a new literature advice column coming in April to the NYT; Bonus 2 : Here is a list of the 17 advice columnists Hannah and Matt love most ; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, March 13, 2017
#10: Hannah and Matt Walk You Home
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of March 5th, 2017, including: Miss Conduct : " How do I avoid coming across like a stalker on Facebook? "; Dear Prudence : " Walking-home woes "; Ask Amy : " Transgender man's pregnancy roils family members "; Rebecca Jeanne Vipond-Brink : " I'm Catholic, Trans, and Pregnant: This Is What My Journey's Been Like "; Ask Team Practical : " Should I Use My Savings for My Friend’s Destination Wedding? "; Listener : "Is a Stranger's Sexism My Problem?"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, March 06, 2017
#9: Hannah and Matt Foist Giving Advice
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 26th, 2017, including: Ask A Manager : " Employer wants me to agree not to support any other charity "; Miss Conduct : " How do I stop friends from foisting books on me? "; Dear Prudence : " When to Give "; Asking for a Friend : " Can I Explain Feminism to My Girlfriend Without Mansplaining? "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, February 27, 2017
#8: Hannah and Matt Open Pandora's Box
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 19th, 2017, including: Dear Prudence : " Pandora's Box "; r/relationships : " I [23 f] tried to do something nice for my boyfriend [25 m] 1 yr. in a video game. I failed to do it and feel completely miserable. I don't know why I feel like this and really need help processing my emotions. "; Social Q's : " Broke a Glass, Got an Invoice "; Carolyn Hax : " Politely pushing back at a chronic advice-pusher "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, February 20, 2017
#7: Hannah and Matt Play Shell Games
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 12th, 2017, including: Carolyn Hax : " Hoping to Rekindle a Long Dormant Flame "; Captain Awkward : “ A coworker invited herself along on my vacation. ”; r/relationships : " Question about porn habits. My bf [M25] thinks I'm [F23] overreacting. Possibly NSFW. "; Social Q's : " Strangers on a Train "; Listener Question From 'Gestalt' : How much should my boundaries be negotiable when I'm looking for a partner?; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, February 13, 2017
#6: Hannah and Matt Direct Your Rage
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of February 5th, 2017, including: Dear Prudence : " Hate the house rules "; MBMBaM : Didn't get invited to an orgy I don't want to go to ; A Practical Wedding : " Can I Trust My Fiancée’s Relationship with Her Close (Male) Friend? "; Savage Love : Girlfriend wants to try nonmonagamy but wants "heterosexual exclusivity" from me ; Listener Question From 'Andre': How not to squander leftist political rage? Find local activist groups (search in Facebook groups, look on indivisibleguide.com ) Call your representatives (state your position on policies and goings on, demand town halls and attend them) Stay informed (read the New York Times and other reputable news sites, avoid hyper-partisan clickbait sources) Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Tue, February 07, 2017
#5: Hannah and Matt Owe You Nothing
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of January 29th, 2017, including: Captain Awkward : "My husband is dying and does not want to tell his parents. Should I intervene?" ; r/relationships : Boyfriend doesn't want wedding, but I do ; Ask A Manager : "My boss enlists me in hiding his multiple affairs from his wife" ; Carolyn Hax: "Friends frequent schedule changes" ; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, January 30, 2017
#4: Hannah and Matt Judge Your Resume
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of January 22nd, 2017, including: Ask Amy : Friend's partner suffering from Princess Syndrome? ; Ask A Manager : Can I have a two-page resume while I’m still in school? ; Social Qs : Judgy friends can't accept my new job? ; What can I do to become more involved with activism?; Consider joining and/or donating to the ACLU , SPLC , Amnesty , or SURJ . There are also those doing more urgent work around immigration and refugees, including CAIR , MPower Change , National Partnership for New Americans , United We Dream , and NY Immigration Coalition . With any of these, on your own, and/or by finding activist groups in your community, you can call, email, write, visit your representatives, and get involved in local and state politics. Political and social change starts from the ground up and takes all of us. Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, January 23, 2017
#3: Hannah and Matt Support Good Journalism
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of January 15th, 2017, including: Social Q : Patriotism in Passing ; Dear Prudence : Is My Boss Trying To Kill Me? ; r/relationships : I'm a girl who likes sex too much? ; Team Practical : How Do I Tell My Sister I Hate Her Fiancé? ; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Tue, January 17, 2017
#2: Hannah and Matt Cope With Bronchitis
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of January 8th, 2017, including: Dear Prudence: " Is My Wife A Lesbian? "; MBMBaM: Same exact date with different people ; Team Practical: Partner has debt ; Carolyn Hax : " When someone's odious behind a screen but a gem IRL. "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Mon, January 09, 2017
#1: Hannah and Matt Set Some Boundaries
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of January 1st, 2017, including: Captain Awkward: " Should two bisexual, polyamorous sisters date the same guy? " Ask Amy: " Perhaps people should try weaning themselves from social media? " Dear Prudence: Overstepping boundaries in friendship r/relationships: I (29/F) just found a childhood friend's (27/F) husband (29/M) on Bumble Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to hanandmattknowitall@gmail.com , anonymously at bit.ly/askhanandmatt , or to askahelpinghan@gmail.com for a Han-only written answer on hanandmattknowitall.com . Looking to support us? Desperately in need of a fantastical alter-ego? You can become a Patreon supporter and donate to us monthly for all kinds of sweet perks!
Bonus · Sun, January 01, 2017
#0: Introducing Hannah and Matt Know It All!
Hannah and Matt Know it All is a (sometimes twice) weekly podcast where Han and Matt (that's us!), a married, polyamorous, queer-as-hell couple discuss their favorite advice columns from around the internet, as well as questions from listeners. We take on issues from relationships to jobs to roommates to mental health, from columnists like Alison Green ( Ask A Manager ), Mallory Ortberg ( Dear Prudence ), Jennifer Peepas ( Captain Awkward ), Amy Dickinson ( Ask Amy ), and so many more , and we invite columnists on to talk about their work, themselves, and their most interesting questions. We also like to yell about toxic masculinity/the patriarchy and threaten to set things on fire. If that sounds like a treat to your ears, become a subscriber and rave (and rage) alongside us!
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