The Purposeful Career Podcast
The Purposeful Career is the go-to podcast for women at mid career who want to elevate or reinvent all or part of their work or life. We do this by first getting clear about what they want and then about the next level person they need to become in order to have it. This is about deep mindset and self-image work. And when you mater it, you'll not only up-level your career, you'll have the power to completely transform your life. Join brand strategist, founder and coach, Carla Hudson, as she shares strategies, tips and tools for helping you create...
Sat, March 22, 2025
Ep 224: From Stuck to Unstoppable: Transforming Your Perspective in Midlife
Are you feeling trapped in a situation you can't seem to escape? Whether it's a dysfunctional workplace, a relationship pattern, or a personal habit, the psychological phenomenon of learned helplessness might be the invisible force holding you back. Drawing from Dr. Seligman's groundbreaking research at the University of Pennsylvania, this episode explores how we develop mental frameworks that convince us negative situations are permanent, pervasive, and personal. These three psychological components create powerful thought prisons that keep us stuck in suboptimal circumstances despite having the ability to change them. From my 30 years of corporate experience, I've witnessed how learned helplessness manifests in organizations through broken processes, dysfunctional relationships, and resistance to change. As a leader, recognizing these patterns is your responsibility—especially in today's rapidly evolving business landscape where organizations clinging to outdated ways of working will inevitably fall behind. But this concept extends far beyond our careers. Through coaching examples, I share how personal narratives like "I'm always the girl in the bad relationship" or "I can never manage money" become self-fulfilling prophecies that limit our lives. The good news? These narratives can be rewritten at any age. The antidote, "learned optimism," begins not by blowing up your external circumstances but by changing your self-concept from the inside out. By focusing on who you want to be rather than who you've always been, you create micro-changes that ripple outward, gradually transforming both your internal landscape and external reality. Ready to break free from learned helplessness and cultivate a more optimistic, possibility-filled perspective? Join my Next Level coaching program at thepurposefulcareer.com/next-level, where we'll apply these concepts to transform your career and life. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 16, 2025
Ep 223: The Voice in Your Head is Wrong: Moving Past Imposter Syndrome
Have you ever achieved something incredible, only to feel like you don't deserve it? That gnawing sense that you're a fraud who's just moments away from being "found out" has a name – imposter syndrome – and it affects a staggering 75% of high-performing women executives. For more than two decades of my career, I thought I was the only one suffering from this torturous internal conflict. Despite regular promotions and expanding responsibilities, a voice inside constantly whispered that I was a fraud. It wasn't until attending a writers' conference in 2015 that I discovered this condition had a name, and that millions of others – particularly women – experience it too. What makes imposter syndrome so destructive is the cognitive dissonance it creates: you're ambitious and capable enough to achieve great things, yet simultaneously convinced you don't deserve them. This disconnect between your capabilities and self-perception creates a pattern of self-sabotage that can manifest as workaholic tendencies, avoiding opportunities, and numbing behaviors like overeating, overdrinking, or excessive screen time. Drawing from both personal experience and professional expertise, I share the origins of imposter syndrome in early childhood programming, gender stereotypes, and family dynamics. More importantly, I offer two powerful solutions: the "Three C's" technique for immediate relief from impostery thoughts (Catch, Cancel, Correct), and the deeper work of evolving your self-concept to permanently eliminate the root cause. Ready to stop feeling like a fraud and start owning your success? Listen now, and discover how to transform your relationship with yourself at any age. Your future self will thank you for not spending decades in self-doubt like I did. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 09, 2025
Ep 222: Intentionally Direct Your Day (So The Situations that Arise, Don’t)
Do you feel at the mercy of your thoughts when faced with life's challenges? We're unveiling the transformative power of intentional thought direction in this illuminating episode about taming what "the mental mess" that happens in our brain every day. When overwhelming events occur—whether political turmoil, job loss, or illness of a loved one—most people believe their emotional responses are inevitable consequences of these circumstances. Hudson challenges this assumption, revealing that our 60,000 daily thoughts typically operate below our conscious awareness, yet dramatically influence how we experience life. The game-changing insight? You don't have to accept what your brain initially serves up. Through personal stories and practical wisdom, Hudson demonstrates how shifting perspectives during difficult times isn't about denying reality or practicing toxic positivity. Rather, it's about consciously choosing thoughts that allow you to show up as your best self despite challenging circumstances. She shares how, when faced with a loved one's illness amid career changes, she redirected her thinking from helplessness to gratitude for their time together—a choice that transformed her ability to be present and supportive. The cornerstone of this mental self-command is a simple yet powerful 20-minute morning practice called the "thought download." By transferring your unfiltered thoughts to paper, examining them without judgment, and intentionally selecting which ones to keep or replace, you establish yourself as the driver of your mental life rather than a passenger. Ready to take the steering wheel of your thought life? This practice doesn't just change how you feel—it transforms how you respond to everything life throws your way, putting you back in control when the world feels anything but controllable. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 02, 2025
Ep 221: Embracing Discomfort for a Purposeful Career (and Life)
Are you setting for being comfortable or are you allowing yourself to experience the discomfort of going for what you want? In this episode, we delve deep into the concept of discomfort and why it’s essential to living your best life (especially at midlife when there so much going on). I discuss how many individuals inadvertently create lives filled with avoidance, seeking comfort while missing out on opportunities for growth and fulfillment. Through the story of a private coaching client, I showcase how we can identify patterns of behavior that stem from discomfort, which often leads to stagnation in both personal and professional realms. By confronting our fears and taking on challenges, we enable ourselves to grow. I introduce the "Four-Week Challenge"—a compelling invitation to step beyond the confines of comfort. This show emphasizes that discomfort, though daunting, is a crucial part of the journey toward achieving our true desires. With practical strategies and engaging insights, the episode encourages listeners to embrace discomfort, prompting meaningful change in their lives. Whether you're stuck in a corporate job or unsure about social engagements, it’s time to challenge your comfort zone. Join me as we explore how leaning into discomfort can lead to tremendous growth and fulfillment. Don’t miss this transformative conversation—let's seek discomfort together! Subscribe, share with a friend, and let's ignite this journey. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, February 23, 2025
Ep 220: Five Things You Can Do to Have More Fulfillment and Meaning Everyday
Unlock the secret to a fulfilling career and life as we explore the transformative power of an inward journey. Ever wondered why you feel stuck in midlife despite all your achievements? This episode promises to guide you through five actionable strategies to reignite your sense of purpose and satisfaction, proving that true change starts from within and not just by switching jobs or relationships. Our discussion takes a deep dive into the pivotal role of self-image in shaping our success. We challenge the notion of self-perception as a fixed truth and reveal how you can actively reshape your identity to align with your aspirations. By adopting a more empowering perspective, and possibly seeking professional guidance, you can forge new neural pathways that not only enhance your career but also enrich your personal relationships. Balance is key, and nurturing passions outside of work is a crucial step toward holistic well-being. We emphasize the undeniable benefits of engaging in hobbies, from boosting happiness to staving off burnout. Hear personal stories and practical advice on overcoming the fear of judgment, so you can confidently pursue your dreams and passions alongside even the most demanding careers. Embark on this journey with us to achieve a more balanced and satisfying life. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sat, February 15, 2025
Ep 219: Mastering Mindset: How to Mentally Prepare for (and Conquer) a Difficult Day
Transform your workweek mindset and conquer the dreaded "Sunday blues" with powerful mental strategies inspired by professional athletes like Michael Phelps. Imagine starting each day with the same focus and resilience that champions use to achieve peak performance. Through intentional mindset shifts, you'll learn how to tackle tough workdays with newfound energy, turning anxiety into empowerment. Our conversation reveals the art of visualizing success, helping you navigate even the most challenging professional obstacles. Hear a personal story about presenting a daunting brand repositioning to senior executives, where visualization turned anxiety into a triumph. By preparing mentally and shifting perspectives, discover how you too can transform fear into opportunity, delivering for your team and advancing your career. As a special offer, consider joining our Next Level virtual coaching program. This opportunity allows you to apply these mindset techniques to not only elevate your professional life but also bring about meaningful changes in your personal journey. Embrace the chance to unlock your full potential and make your career aspirations a reality. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sat, February 08, 2025
Ep: 218 How to Reignite Your Passion: Navigating Mid-Career Transformation at Any Age
Can you truly reignite your passion and redefine your career at any age? We're here to explore the possibility and offer a roadmap for those ready to take that leap. This episode is packed with stories and strategies for overcoming stagnation mid-career, especially between the ages of 40 and 54, where the desire for change is often met with fear and uncertainty. We share the inspiring journey of a teacher who successfully transitioned into a legal career, proving that with self-belief and strategic planning, it's never too late to pursue your dreams. We tackle the internal battles faced by high-income earners contemplating a career shift. Financial security and the fear of the unknown are powerful barriers, yet nearly 60% of workers earning over $75,000 annually wish for a change. Understand the importance of listening to your inner voice and rejecting the misconceptions about qualifications. Through compelling narratives and statistics, we highlight the transformative power of honoring your passions and exploring new opportunities without needing all the answers upfront. Embrace the fear of change and step into empowerment with our structured five-step process for career transformation. We discuss how reshaping your self-concept and overcoming perceived barriers, like skill gaps and financial concerns, can pave the way for a successful career transition. Our upcoming Mid-Career Edit program launching in June is designed to guide you through these steps, offering support and community as you pursue your next level of success. Join us to reflect on your professional journey and explore what's calling you next, fostering a space where we all aim to make our careers and lives everything we dream of. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, February 02, 2025
Ep 217: Unlocking Happiness in Your Career and Life Through Inner Leadership
What if the key to workplace happiness isn't found in a paycheck, but within ourselves? Today, we're tackling the startling reality of workplace dissatisfaction, with a focus on inner leadership as the remedy. Armed with eye-opening Gallup survey data, we reveal how a staggering 60% of us feel emotionally detached at work. Instead of relying on external factors for contentment, we highlight the transformative power of self-leadership, encouraging you to cultivate happiness from the inside out. Imagine facing workplace challenges with confidence and resilience, no matter how turbulent the environment. Drawing from cognitive-based coaching, positive psychology, and neuroscience, we explore how to establish a mindset unshaken by external chaos. By strengthening your self-concept, you can advocate for yourself and foster meaningful connections at work. We dive into the critical role of managers and how both they and employees can use inner leadership to enhance job satisfaction through fairness, transparency, and respect. For those contemplating a mid-career shift, we're here to support your journey. Nearly 60% of professionals are considering a change, and we introduce a structured program to guide you through it. This isn't about escaping current problems but rather mapping out a fulfilling future rooted in resilience and self-leadership. Whether you're eyeing a complete career change, a side hustle, or further education, our insights and resources will help you navigate the transition confidently. Plus, discover the Next Level Inside Membership Program—a chance to work together and turn your career aspirations into reality. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 26, 2025
Ep 216: 4 Steps to Overcoming Your Time Scarcity Beliefs
What if the stress and panic you feel about time were all based on a self-imposed illusion? Join me, as we unravel the intricate web of stories and perceptions we build around time, especially when the clock seems to tick louder with the dawn of a new year. By examining our beliefs and narratives, we'll explore personal experiences and share a four-step exercise to redefine these thoughts, potentially transforming your approach to achieving your goals. Together, we'll tackle the anxiety of time pressure and learn how to use our perceptions to fuel productivity, not hinder it. Despite technological advancements and a decline in average working hours, why does time still feel so scarce? This episode delves into the "time pressure paradox," dissecting how our fast-paced world and mindset contribute to this perception. We discuss the rapid pace of technological and social change, and challenge the conventional view of time as a series of arbitrary deadlines. By questioning these self-imposed constraints, we can adopt a more flexible and empowering perspective on time and goal management. Let's shift from feeling trapped by time to feeling empowered by it. Learn how to identify and transform unconscious beliefs that hold you back. Through practical strategies like journaling and mindful evaluation of daily habits, we'll ensure that the way we spend our time aligns with our true priorities. Plus, discover how my virtual coaching program, Next Level, can help you apply these insights to your life and career, paving the way for a more intentional and fulfilled existence by 2025. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 19, 2025
Ep 215: How to Make Strategic Mindset Shifts So You Achieve Your Goals
Unlock the secret to achieving your dreams by transforming your mindset into a powerful tool for success. Have you ever wondered what stands between you and the life you've always envisioned? This episode of the Purposeful Career Podcast will lead you through an enlightening journey where we'll tackle the crucial mental shifts necessary to align your thoughts, emotions, and actions with your goals. Discover how the thoughts you harbor today might be the very obstacles in your path to success. Join me, Carla Hudson, as I guide you through a fun and interactive exercise designed to assess the gap between your current state and your aspirational goals. Consider the future you, the version of yourself that has already achieved your dreams, and learn to recognize the thoughts and emotions that embody that state. By understanding and shifting your current mindset, you can bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be, setting yourself on a sustainable journey to success. Inspired by elite athletes like Patrick Mahomes, we explore the transformative power of becoming the person required to achieve new heights. This episode emphasizes the importance of genuine transformation through belief and commitment. Elevate both your life and career with my virtual coaching program, Next Level, where the insights from our podcast will be transformed into actionable strategies. Together, we'll make remarkable strides toward turning your dreams into reality. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 12, 2025
Ep 214: The Power of Making Changes from the Outside In
Ready to revolutionize your mindset and accelerate your journey toward success? Discover the transformative power of making changes from the outside in. In this episode of the Purposeful Career Podcast, we unlock the secrets of aligning your external world to ignite an immediate shift in mindset and self-belief. Imagine how a simple adjustment in your daily habits, a refreshed wardrobe, or an organized workspace can trigger motivation and action that supports your long-term internal transformation. As we step into a new year brimming with possibilities, explore a holistic strategy that leverages external changes to complement inner growth and help you achieve your boldest goals. Join me as I delve into personal experiences and client stories that highlight the profound impact of external tweaks on personal and professional growth. You'll hear about a moment of hesitation before committing to a life-changing trip, and learn how it mirrors the journey of a coaching client striving for a promotion. These tales illustrate that while inner transformation is essential, the catalyst often lies in altering the tangible aspects of our lives. Experience how these changes not only reshape our self-perception but also influence how others perceive and respond to us, breaking unproductive patterns and paving the way for new achievements. Tune in to embrace change, step out of your comfort zone, and harness the power of external transformation to elevate your career and life. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 05, 2025
Ep 213: Redefining Success by Setting Expansive Goals in 2025
Ever felt the thrill of aiming for the impossible? On the Purposeful Career Podcast, we challenge the norm and redefine what goal-setting can be. Inspired by the revolutionary ideas in "10X is Better Than 2X," we're swapping out the safety nets of SMART goals for the adrenaline rush of "mission impossible" objectives. Imagine setting goals so expansive that they ignite a passion you didn't know you had, pushing you to achieve what once seemed out of reach. This episode is your invitation to abandon the conventional and embrace a mindset that truly elevates your potential. Traditional wisdom tells us to play it safe, but does that really serve us in the long run? By pursuing the unattainable, we open doors to quantum growth, both personally and professionally. It's not about recklessly chasing dreams; it's about strategically stepping outside our comfort zones to explore new possibilities. Yes, fear of failure and self-doubt are real, but they're also the catalysts for growth. By sharing my own journey and those pivotal moments of self-realization, we explore how facing these fears head-on can lead to transformative success. As we embark on this journey, it's crucial to remember that success is a byproduct of intentional action. Through my virtual coaching program, Next Level, I offer guidance to help you navigate this uncharted territory. Together, we'll implement what you've heard in this episode to craft a life and career that reflect your highest aspirations. This isn't just about dreaming big; it's about equipping you with the tools to make those dreams a reality. Let's make this week the start of something extraordinary because you deserve nothing less. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, December 29, 2024
Ep 212: Embracing Possibility in 2025
This episode explores the transformative power of possibility at midlife, encouraging listeners to reconnect with their dreams and aspirations. Through personal experiences and the insights from several thought leaders, we'll talk about the importance of letting go of past mistakes, cultivating an empowered mindset, and daring to dream big. • Reflecting on the new year as a blank slate • Embracing the gift of possibility at any age • Importance of letting go of past mistakes • Overcoming difficulties in pursuing dreams • Building dreams beyond current limitations • Cultivating a powerful and positive mindset • Allowing yourself to dream big and without judgment • Significance of self-belief in pursuing new endeavors As we head into 2025, let's do it embracing possibility in the broadest sense. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, December 22, 2024
Ep 211: Edit Your Life: Transformative Decluttering for a Meaningful New Year
Have you ever considered becoming the editor of your own life? Join me on this episode as we explore this transformative concept. You're invited to rethink the traditional approach of accumulating more during the holiday season and instead focus on the art of subtraction. We'll discuss how to prune life's unnecessary elements, just like an editor refines a novel, to prepare for a year of meaningful growth and clarity. We'll tackle the clutter in our physical spaces and emotional lives by examining overlooked strategies for conscious decluttering. From digitizing your beloved book collection to reassessing the significance of your possessions, we’ll provide a step-by-step guide to creating a harmonious living space. This episode also encourages a reevaluation of relationships and time management, ensuring your personal connections and daily activities are in alignment with your aspirations and values. Mindset is key to success, and we’ll delve into editing our perspectives to eliminate fear-based habits. Just as our brains store countless experiences, they also shape our thoughts and actions—prompting us to adopt more constructive habits. Discover how to replace limiting beliefs with positive routines and, for those seeking further transformation, explore my virtual coaching program, Next Level. Let's embark on a journey together to lighten your load and enter the new year with intention and joy. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, December 15, 2024
Ep210: Leading Lady (or Leading Man) Energy: How to Stop Playing Small and Step Into Center Stage in Your Life
Do you often find yourself in supporting roles rather than taking center stage? Discover how to channel "leading lady energy" to become the star in your own story. Drawing wisdom from "The Holiday" and the charming interaction between Iris, played by Kate Winslet, and the insightful Arthur, we'll explore the transformative power of gumption and self-assurance. Whether you're an introvert hesitant to step into the spotlight or simply seeking more confidence in personal and professional settings, this episode offers practical insights into assessing your comfort zones and making necessary changes to truly shine. In your career journey, resilience and self-worth are crucial to thriving amidst setbacks, much like the strong leading ladies of classic cinema. Learn how to demand the roles and opportunities you deserve by commanding presence and negotiating effectively. We'll discuss parallels between the entertainment industry and corporate life, encouraging you to know your worth and pursue paths aligned with your true value. Channel your inner leading lady to confidently overcome obstacles and seize the opportunities that come your way, ensuring you are always the protagonist of your own story, without tipping into self-centeredness. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, December 08, 2024
Ep 209: How to Rewrite the Narrative of Past Negative Experiences (and Why it Matters)
What if you could view your past not as a series of fixed events, but as a canvas that can be repainted to better serve your present and future? Join me as we challenge the conventional belief that our past narratives are set in stone. Inspired by Dr. Dan McAdams' theory of narrative identity, we explore how intentionally reconstructing our past experiences can shape a more meaningful and fulfilling life. Through engaging exercises and insightful discussions, we'll guide you in distinguishing the bare facts from the stories we've woven around them, ultimately empowering you to rewrite these narratives for personal growth and happiness. In this episode, we delve into practical techniques for deconstructing and reframing the stories that continue to influence your life. Whether you're wrestling with a layoff, a divorce, or any other challenging situation, learn how to transform negative emotions like anger and fear into excitement and hope. By examining past experiences through a lens of gratitude and learning, you can uncover the hidden opportunities for growth they offer. Embrace the notion that life's ups and downs are not just obstacles but essential lessons that shape who you are and how you approach future decisions. Let’s embark on this transformative journey together, reshaping your past for a brighter tomorrow. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, December 01, 2024
Ep 208: Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone: Embracing Transformation and Unlocking Your Potential at Midlife
Have you ever wondered why so many of us cling to our comfort zones despite knowing that growth lies beyond them? Join me as we embark on a journey to uncover the allure of this safe space and why, especially at midlife, it's crucial to push past its boundaries. With a staggering 98% of people reportedly staying within their comfort zone, we'll explore how the familiar can often become a trap that stifles our true potential. I share my personal reflections and experiences to highlight the transformative power of embracing discomfort and the new opportunities it brings. Let's reignite the spark of curiosity and passion in our lives. Together, we'll delve into ways of discovering new interests, proving it's never too late for self-discovery and growth. By taking risks and engaging with our curiosities, we not only enrich our lives but also build resilience and adaptability—key skills for navigating life's complexities. We'll discuss how these micro actions of stepping out of comfort zones are not just about personal growth but also about strengthening our ability to cope with change and transitions throughout life. Confidence and self-image are not static; they evolve as we do. We'll explore how stepping out of our comfort zones can reshape our self-perception and enhance self-confidence. True self-assurance is often forged in the fires of unfamiliar situations, where failure is a stepping stone to success. Envision your future self and embrace small, incremental steps towards transformation. This journey is about empowerment, hope, and the realization that it's never too late to reinvent oneself. Join me in this episode to break free from the confines of comfort and step into a path of continuous evolution and fulfillment. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, November 24, 2024
Ep 207: How to Get Going Again When Life Feels Stalled
Feeling stuck in the middle of life's journey? You're not alone. In today's episode of The Purposeful Career Podcast, we explore the complex world of life's plateaus, especially in midlife. This episode promises to equip you with practical strategies to break free from stagnation in your career, relationships, and personal growth, helping you reignite your passion and drive. We'll uncover the mindset shifts needed to unlock your potential and move past those limiting beliefs that keep you from reaching new heights. Embrace the power of stepping out of your routine and challenge yourself with a fresh perspective. I'll share my personal experiences, including a transformative getaway to San Diego, that served as a catalyst for reassessment and redirection. Discover how a change in environment can illuminate ingrained habits and mindsets that keep you tethered to the mundane. This isn't about filling time with distractions; it's about intentional reflection and realignment with your true purpose, helping you to present your best self even amidst life's headwinds. Midlife isn't the end; it's an opportunity for reinvention. Reflect on your life's journey with appreciation, and consider the achievements your younger self would celebrate. With personal anecdotes and a structured five-step approach, I'll guide you through overcoming career and life plateaus. By setting specific goals and aligning your daily actions with a positive mindset, you can transform your life significantly. Tune in to discover how to shift your perspective, break free from routine, and move toward a fulfilling and purpose-driven future. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, November 17, 2024
Ep 206: 6 Perspectives to Help You Embrace the Peaks and Valleys of Midlife: Redefining Growth and Renewal
Are you ready to redefine how you view midlife? Join me as I challenge the conventional wisdom that often limits our aspirations after 40. Imagine midlife as a game where you have the freedom to choose what truly excites you. We'll explore why it's crucial to embrace both successes and challenges, using my journey as a Kansas City Chiefs fan to illustrate how the anticipation and the journey can be just as rewarding as the destination. This episode promises to shift your perspective on life's highs and lows and inspire you to stay engaged with life's dynamic nature. We'll unlock six powerful perspectives to help you master the inevitable peaks and valleys of life. Learn how to separate emotions from events and how your perspective can dramatically shape your feelings. Discover how wise decisions made during low points can pave the way for future triumphs, and why being present in both highs and lows adds meaning to our lives. This conversation is packed with practical insights aimed at helping you build resilience and appreciate every season of life, even the unexpected setbacks. Embrace midlife not as a time to slow down but as a period ripe with potential for growth and renewal. We’ll challenge societal norms and encourage you to set aside limiting beliefs. Whether it's starting a new business, pursuing a hobby, or learning new skills, staying curious and ambitious can keep you vibrant and excited about the potential peaks you can reach. Together, we'll reflect on the importance of being present in both the highs and lows, understanding each adds significance to the other, and how you can continue to pursue new dreams despite inevitable failures. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, November 10, 2024
Ep 205: Boosting Your Productivity So You Get More Done
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the sheer volume of tasks yet frustrated by an unyielding sense of stagnation? Discover how structured time management can be your guiding light, especially when facing new challenges that bring on self-doubt and inefficiency. I'll share my personal journey of shifting from a corporate mindset to an entrepreneurial one, and how this transition revealed the hidden barriers of fear and perfectionism affecting productivity. Picture this: a simple Word document as your ultimate productivity tool. Sounds too good to be true? Let me introduce you to the high-impact activity method that transformed my life. By prioritizing tasks weekly without the heavy reliance on calendar management, I found a way to significantly reduce stress while maintaining focus on high-priority activities. This approach not only helped balance my corporate duties and side business but also offered a refreshing take on tackling new challenges and maintaining a harmonious work-life balance. Learn how breaking down complex projects into manageable subtasks can be your secret weapon against procrastination, boosting both motivation and efficiency. Finally, discover how to take control of your time with my virtual coaching program, Next Level. It's all about making each week not just productive, but fulfilling. Join our community at thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel, where together, we'll transform aspirations into reality. Whether you're navigating the complexities of a side hustle or managing increased responsibilities, these strategies will empower you to shape your career and life, turning dreams into tangible achievements. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, November 03, 2024
Ep 204: Unlocking Success - The Transformative Power of Daily Habits
Ever wondered why some people effortlessly reach their goals while others struggle despite high motivation? Discover the secret sauce to success as we unpack the transformative power of habits. Our journey begins with understanding how small, consistent actions shape our lives and why motivation alone falls short without strong habitual foundations. By using relatable examples like fitness, we'll reveal how becoming the person whose habits align with your aspirations is key to unlocking your potential. Next, we venture into the art of personal style, a topic close to my heart. Hear my story of overcoming impulsive shopping habits and transforming a chaotic wardrobe into a collection that truly represents who I am today. We'll explore how intentional wardrobe redesign can reflect your evolving identity, and why understanding what looks good on your body can be as empowering as achieving any other personal goal. Learn the steps I took to transform into the stylish woman I've always envisioned, and how you can do the same. Lastly, we offer an exciting opportunity to elevate both your personal and professional life through coaching. Introducing my virtual coaching program, Next Level, where you can apply these principles to make your dreams a reality. Whether you're seeking guidance in your career or personal journey, I invite you to take this transformative step with me. Together, we can turn aspirations into achievements and create the life you've always wanted. Join us, and let's take your growth to the next level. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 27, 2024
Ep 203: Finding Fulfillment and Purpose at Mid Career
Midlife can often feel like a crossroads where career progression shifts from exciting endeavors to navigating office politics and mundane tasks. But what if you could transform this phase into one of profound fulfillment and purpose? Join me, Carla Hudson, as I share insights and personal anecdotes on the Purposeful Career Podcast about how shifting our perspectives can breathe life back into our careers. Discover how societal pressures push us into ticking off life milestones without truly shaping the latter half of our lives. We’ll explore how to identify and overcome the four common perspective traps that can hinder our satisfaction and fulfillment, and learn to realign our focus towards what truly matters. As mid-career leaders, we often grapple with feelings of regret and gratitude, wondering about roads not taken. Let’s turn that reflection into appreciation for the richness of our current journey. I’ll share my own story of transitioning from a blue-collar background to a fulfilling career, highlighting the importance of finding lessons in our experiences. We’ll discuss practical strategies to maintain boundaries so that career demands don’t overtake personal life, no matter how passionate we are about our work. Together, we’ll navigate these complex emotions and discover how to weave seemingly trivial tasks into a meaningful tapestry that contributes to a greater purpose. Tune in to transform midlife challenges into opportunities for personal and professional growth. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 20, 2024
Ep 202: Reinventing Your Personal Brand at Midlife
Can you transform your life's narrative with the same strategic prowess as Apple or Starbucks? Discover how crafting your personal brand, just like these corporate giants, can redefine how you present yourself to the world. Join me, Carla Hudson, as we unravel the intricacies of building a personal brand narrative that mirrors the strategies of these iconic companies. By understanding the interplay of vision, mission, promise, positioning, and values, you can unlock the core identity that guides your personal and professional journey. This episode promises not only inspiration but also a sneak peek into upcoming masterclasses that will provide you with practical tools to shape your personal brand and propel your personal growth. Imagine the possibilities when you truly embrace self-awareness and reflection to define your personal brand identity. This episode challenges you to consider what sets you apart in your professional and personal circles, urging you to reflect on your values and the experiences you create for others. As we explore the art of articulating your unique positioning, envision not just the person you are today but who you aspire to become over the decades. It's not just about recognizing where you stand but redefining where you want to go, beyond past narratives and societal expectations. Embrace the transformative power of intentional self-reinvention and design your ideal personal identity. Many of us find ourselves on autopilot, but by pausing and crafting a new brand narrative, you can embark on a journey filled with purpose and authenticity. Weigh the comfort of the familiar against the possibilities of an intentional life path, and consider the profound impact this can have on your life and those around you. With the Next Level Coaching Program, you'll have the opportunity to deepen these insights and apply them to both your career and personal life, taking decisive steps towards your aspirations. Ready to redefine your life's mission? Let's take that courageous step together. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 13, 2024
Ep 201: Finding the Lessons in Failure to Empower Your Future
Life throws curveballs, especially in midlife when societal expectations and personal challenges intertwine. I, Carla Hudson, share my personal journey from a high school student with limited discipline to a successful hairstylist to corporate brand strategy executive and beyond, highlighting the resilience needed to transition into a flourishing career with major companies. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of how we can redefine failure, not as a dead-end, but as a choice and an opportunity to learn and grow. By analyzing typical paths people take after a setback, we can discover how to shift from a mindset of self-doubt to one of empowerment. As we navigate through the complexities of life’s unexpected challenges, it becomes evident that failures are rarely from a single source. Reflecting on my own experiences, like a marriage that ended in divorce, I discuss how embracing the lessons from these experiences can lead to immense personal growth. By viewing life as a deck of cards with unknown outcomes, we find strength in choosing not to be defined by failures but by the wisdom gained through them. It’s about reframing our narratives and redefining personal checklists to better handle the hurdles that come our way. To close, I extend an invitation to join our community through a life coaching program, Next Level, designed to transform aspirations into tangible realities. This program builds on the empowering concepts discussed, offering a structured approach to applying them in both personal and professional spheres. Let’s embark on this journey together, where setbacks become stepping stones to a more fulfilling and resilient life. Join us at thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel and start redefining your path with renewed purpose and motivation. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 06, 2024
Ep200: Self-Care and the Journey to Empowerment and Self-Worth
Ever feel like you're on autopilot, juggling countless responsibilities while your own needs fall by the wayside? Meet Rebecca, a coaching client who bravely decided to hit the brakes and rewrite her own story. We explore her journey from senior director to vice president in a healthcare organization, all while keeping her passion for music alive. Rebecca’s story is a testament to how pursuing personal interests and integrating self-care can lead to career success and personal fulfillment. Inspired by Rebecca's candid reflections, we dig deep into the emotional realization that traditional roles and expectations can obscure our own needs. Despite being the primary breadwinner, Rebecca found herself slipping into conventional gender roles within her relationship, a dynamic that was far from fulfilling. This chapter of her life is a compelling narrative about breaking free from societal expectations and prioritizing self-care, even as I share my own battle of self-neglect during a family crisis. Together, we unravel the painful yet transformative epiphany of valuing oneself—an awakening that many of us face in our journey. Boosting your mental health and embracing self-care isn’t just a luxury; it’s a necessity. We discuss practical strategies for crafting a consistent self-care routine that respects your mental and physical health. Whether it's scheduling time for exercise or simply acknowledging your self-worth through daily self-coaching, these empowering practices can have a profound impact on your life. For those ready to take this journey further, consider exploring my virtual coaching program, Next Level, and take the first step towards making your career and personal life everything you dream it could be. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, September 29, 2024
Ep 199: Mastering Inner Control when Life Feels Out of Control
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the chaos of the world around you? Today, I share my personal journey through the stormy seas of life's uncontrollable events, from the political landscape to the relentless flow of social media and the global pandemic. What if the key to stability and peace lies not in taming the external world, but in mastering our internal responses? Join me as I recount my own challenges, including the heart-wrenching loss of both parents in a short span, and how these experiences revealed the profound importance of focusing on what we can control—our actions, thoughts, and responses. This episode isn't just about personal anecdotes; it's a guide to navigating life's chaos with clarity and purpose. We'll explore how centering ourselves on our core values and goals can transform our productivity and presence, even in the most unpredictable times. Additionally, discover the transformative potential of the Next Level program, a virtual coaching membership designed to apply these principles to elevate your career and life. Together, let's embark on a journey toward becoming our most powerful, centered selves. Visit the purposefulcareer.com/nextlevel to join this empowering community and start making your dreams a reality. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, September 22, 2024
Ep 198: Five Steps to Take When You're in the Middle of (or Thinking About Making ) a Career Change
What if your mid-career crisis is actually the key to unlocking your true potential? In this episode, we tackle the emotional and practical hurdles of significant career changes, with a spotlight on the tech industry's current upheavals. We'll guide you through understanding your feelings, regaining control, and proactively steering your career in a direction that aligns with your evolving passions and goals. Whether you're facing layoffs, relocations, or just dealing with a sense of personal dissatisfaction, we provide five actionable steps to help you navigate your transition confidently. We'll delve into the complex reality of embracing change in mid-career stages, where the stakes are higher due to responsibilities like mortgages and children. Ignoring your evolving desires can keep you stuck in a seemingly safe but ultimately unfulfilling job. We outline a five-phase sequence of thoughts and actions to help you recognize when it’s time to open a new door, even if it feels daunting. Honesty about the need for change and continuous forward movement are emphasized as key to breaking free from your comfort zone. Finally, we explore the profound importance of letting go of past ideals to move forward in your career. Using the metaphor of a trapeze artist, we illustrate the necessity of releasing your grip on old paths to embrace new opportunities. By recognizing the need for change, letting go of the past, exploring new possibilities, committing to a new path, and adjusting your self-image, you can navigate your career transition with confidence. If you're ready to find success and fulfillment in your evolving career journey, this episode is your roadmap. For personalized coaching support, don’t hesitate to reach out via email or Instagram. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, September 15, 2024
Ep 197: What's Keeping You Stuck in a Life or Career You Don't Want (And How to Get Unstuck)
Feeling stuck in midlife? Discover the keys to breaking free from stagnation and reigniting your personal and professional passions. Join me, Carla Hudson, as we explore the often-overlooked internal issues that keep us trapped. We’ll unpack why a staggering 69% of mid-career individuals feel stagnant, and how neglecting our true desires plays a pivotal role. This episode will guide you towards focusing on inner clarity and addressing core issues rather than seeking superficial changes. Ever wondered how much time you could reclaim by rethinking everyday tasks? Together, we'll explore how rethinking your time and getting help from other services can free up valuable time each week for more meaningful pursuits. Learn how to better allocate your time and resources to foster productivity and well-being. Additionally, we'll dive into the complex relationship between time management, fear, and personal growth, revealing how busy schedules often hide deeper fears of change and failure. By redefining our self-image and confronting these fears head-on, you'll gain the tools to create a balanced, fulfilling life. Don't miss this chance to transform your midlife journey! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, September 08, 2024
Ep196: Five Steps to Reigniting at Mid Career
Is your mid-career enthusiasm starting to fizzle out? Carla Hudson unpacks the essential steps to "refire" your career between the ages of 39 and 54. Navigate the challenges of the so-called "saggy middle" and discover how to rekindle your professional passion amidst life's increasing responsibilities. Learn how shifting your mindset to actively create opportunities, rather than waiting for them to come your way, can transform your career trajectory. Carla discusses the importance of listening to your inner voice, recognizing when you're plateauing, and taking actionable steps to maintain motivation and growth. In another segment, we explore why over half of US workers are seeking a career change and the barriers holding them back, such as financial security and the belief that it's too late to learn new skills. Carla encourages listeners to honor their inner voice and explore new opportunities, dispelling the myth that reinvention is not an option mid-career. Through practical examples and insights, you're guided on how to re-evaluate your career path, work on your self-concept, and make choices that truly align with your passions. Tune in to empower yourself to overcome fear, pursue your aspirations, and keep the spark alive in your career journey. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, September 01, 2024
Ep 195: How to Thrive When You Work with People You Don't Trust
What if you could navigate a workplace fraught with distrust and still stay true to your own values and integrity? In this episode of the Purposeful Career Podcast, we're discussing practical strategies to thrive in environments where honesty and transparency are often missing. Drawing from my personal experiences and recent coaching sessions, I provide insights into dealing with untrustworthy colleagues and superiors, and handling a company culture that lacks integrity. Through actionable advice and compelling personal stories, you will learn how to address trust concerns without jeopardizing your long-term career goals. We’ll focus on how to identify and confront feelings of distrust or discomfort in your professional surroundings. By paying attention to specific incidents and patterns, you can discern whether these issues violate company policies or clash with your personal values. Learn how to maintain professionalism and emotional boundaries while navigating unethical behavior, and discover the power of staying true to your ethical standards. By focusing on personal excellence and letting your work speak for itself, you'll be equipped to neutralize negative influences and uphold your high standards in any workplace setting. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, August 25, 2024
Ep 194: How to be Happier at Midlife and Beyond
Ever wondered why happiness dips in your 40s and early 50s before rising again into your 70s? This episode of The Purposeful Career Podcast unpacks the intriguing U-shaped happiness curve, offering a deep dive into the pivotal midlife years. Drawing on the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the longest-running studies on happiness, we reveal five key principles that could transform your approach to finding fulfillment. These insights are not just theoretical; they're practical tools that can help you make impactful changes, even if they're small. Reflecting on my own experiences, I share a poignant story of balancing a demanding new job in a different city while caring for my parents in their final months. This challenging period underscored the need to evaluate how we spend our time and the importance of our relationships. By assessing the people in our lives, we can ensure that our time is spent in ways that genuinely bring us joy and meaning. This episode is a heartfelt invitation to realign your priorities and cherish the relationships that matter most. As we age, our social needs and relationships evolve, shifting from the bustling activities of youth to more intimate connections. We discuss how contributing to the broader community and finding purpose beyond personal achievements can add layers of meaning to your life. Additionally, we tackle the impact of digital distractions and the power of gratitude, both in expressing it and recognizing it within ourselves. Tune in to discover how being reflective and intentional with your time and relationships can cultivate a life rich with meaning and happiness. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, August 18, 2024
Ep 193: How to Stop "I Don't Knowing" Yourself When it Comes to Big Decisions
Ever wonder why you often say "I don't know" in response to pivotal life questions, even when deep down you do? Join us on an enlightening journey as we uncover the five common reasons behind this self-imposed uncertainty, drawing from personal experiences and a transformative cognitive-based coaching approach. You'll also discover a powerful question that can shatter the cycle of indecision and bring clarity to your true desires. Plus, stay tuned for exciting updates, including potential guest interviews and the introduction of video content to enhance your podcast experience. Reflecting on personal and career challenges, we explore how the fear of making decisions is rooted in past failures and anxieties about the future. For new college graduates facing career choices, the phrase "I don't know" often acts as a safe harbor to avoid risks. Together, we'll dive into strategies to overcome this mindset and embrace confident decision-making, empowering you to move forward in life with assurance. We also tackle the fear of truly knowing oneself and the societal pressures that cloud our judgment. Through a simple yet revealing exercise, you'll learn how to identify your hidden truths and explore your options without immediate commitment. Finally, we introduce the Next Level virtual coaching program, designed to help you apply these insights to your career and personal life. Elevate your aspirations and join a community dedicated to achieving new heights. Don’t miss out on this opportunity to turn your dreams into reality! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, August 18, 2024
Ep 193: How to Step Telling Yourself "I Don't Know" When it Comes to Your Career and Life
What if the key to transforming your life lies within you, waiting to be unlocked through self-awareness and coaching? Join me as we talk about how to stop defaulting to saying "I don't know" when it comes to the things you want in your career and life. Discover how the pervasive "I don't know" response can be a major roadblock, and learn powerful techniques to reveal the answers that already reside within you. In this episode, we tackle the common defense mechanism of saying "I don't know" when faced with significant life decisions. Uncover the fears and uncertainties that lead to this response and understand how they can mask your true desires. I share five reasons why people often claim ignorance and reflect on my own experiences of avoiding difficult choices. By distinguishing between mastering technical skills and navigating deeper personal decisions, we illuminate the path to internal clarity and growth. Finally, we embrace the unknown journey by recognizing and acknowledging your inner desires and passions. Learn the importance of giving yourself permission to explore these callings and how they can eventually shape your future. Through introspective exercises and self-reflection, identify patterns of behavior holding you back and take the first step towards a more authentic and fulfilling life. Allow yourself to unlock your potential and make informed, courageous decisions that lead to happiness and fulfillment. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, August 11, 2024
Ep 192: Leaving the Comfort Zone and Finding Meaning at Midlife and Beyond
Feeling stuck in a rut or craving a deeper sense of fulfillment? Discover why stepping out of your comfort zone is the key to living a richer, more meaningful life. Reflecting on a staggering statistic—that 98% of people remain within their comfort zones—we explore how embracing discomfort can lead to profound self-discovery and personal growth. From the pivotal transitions of early life to the stakes of midlife, learn why continuously pushing your boundaries is essential for ongoing development. We'll break down the importance of taking risks to uncover hidden passions and reignite inspiration, especially as we navigate midlife. Fear of failure is a common roadblock, but we’ll reframe it as an invaluable learning opportunity. By confronting new challenges, you can unearth hidden talents and skills without abandoning your current life—providing continuous forward momentum that enriches your experiences and broadens your horizons. Finally, we'll discuss the transformative power of reshaping your self-image and rejecting the notion that it’s too late for change. Small, incremental steps out of your comfort zone can lead to significant personal growth over time. Plus, I introduce you to Next Level, a monthly membership program designed to support your journey toward purposeful change and a more empowered life. Join us for daily inspiration and support as you take those first steps toward a more fulfilling, enriched existence. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, August 04, 2024
Ep 191: How to Stay Calm in Stressful Situations
Have you ever found yourself in a stressful situation where simply being told to "calm down" felt impossible? In this episode, we promise to equip you with neuroscience-based strategies for emotional self-regulation, going beyond mere platitudes. We break down how different parts of your brain react under stress and offer practical techniques to regain control during triggering moments. Imagine being able to handle difficult coworkers or major life challenges with a newfound sense of composure and effectiveness. Emotional self-awareness is the cornerstone of managing our reactions and responses. By introducing methods such as pausing before reacting and performing thought downloads, we guide you on how to assess situations more objectively and avoid letting biases drive your actions. Learn how to differentiate between true thoughts and emotional reactions, and discover how these insights can prevent conflicts from escalating, providing you with a more grounded approach to problem-solving. Balancing caregiving duties with a demanding professional life can seem like an impossible task. Through personal stories and practical advice, we'll show you how to anchor yourself to core values and use empowering thoughts to navigate these overwhelming periods. Whether you’re dealing with canceled flights and long drives or high-pressure meetings, you'll gain valuable tools for maintaining emotional control. From sensory toolkits to simple hacks, this episode is packed with actionable strategies to help you stay composed and confident, no matter what life throws at you. Tune in and transform the way you handle stress for a more balanced and fulfilling life. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, July 28, 2024
Ep 190: Seven Strategic Questions to Reshape Your Life
What if you approached your life with the same strategic precision as a CEO manages a company? In this episode of the Purposeful Career Podcast, I, Carla Hudson, invite you to embrace the role of the 'chief creative officer' of your life. Drawing insights from a Harvard Business Review article, we explore eye-opening statistics that reveal how few of us actually take the time to map out a vision for a great life. Together, we'll challenge the notion of leaving life to chance and delve into the transformative power of having a comprehensive life strategy. Ever wondered what truly defines a great life? We break down the seven pivotal steps to achieving fulfillment, starting with understanding your personal values, strengths, and priorities. With tools like StrengthsFinder and the Enneagram test, I'll guide you through a fun and engaging self-discovery journey. By asking one profound question each day, you'll gain clearer insights into your unique vision of a great life, making the process more of a game than a chore. Finally, unleash your creativity as we build a life strategy plan. Envision where you want to be in five or ten years without the constraints of money or responsibilities, using mood boards or vision boards to map out your future. Evaluate your life portfolio just as a corporation assesses its business units, identifying areas that thrive and those that need reinvention. To elevate your journey, discover the benefits of joining my Next Level virtual coaching program, where personalized guidance turns aspirations into reality. Tune in for an empowering discussion that will inspire you to strategize your life with purpose. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, July 21, 2024
Ep 189: How to Deal with People Who Have a Problem With You (Midlife Drama #3 of 3)
Ever wondered why some relationships leave you feeling emotionally exhausted? Discover the keys to navigating midlife relationship drama without losing your peace. In this final part of our three-part series, we address the tricky terrain of dealing with individuals who harbor negative feelings toward you, even if you don’t share those sentiments. From family members to colleagues, we delve into the impact of these strained interactions on your well-being and offer practical strategies to handle the passive-aggressive behavior that often accompanies them. Tune in to learn how to manage difficult social interactions by mastering the art of maintaining emotional distance. We'll introduce the concept of an "energetic force field" to protect your emotional health and share the importance of recognizing and neutralizing negative thoughts about others. Curiosity and empathy are your best allies in understanding why people act the way they do, and we’ll guide you on when it’s best to avoid initiating conflict resolution. Equip yourself with the tools to remain neutral and emotionally detached, ensuring that you emerge from these complex situations with your sanity intact. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, July 14, 2024
Ep 188: How to Overcome Money Drama (Midlife Drama #2 of 3)
Feeling the pressure of time as you strive to accomplish your money goals? This week on the Purposeful Career Podcast, I share personal insights on conquering "money drama". As retirement approaches, financial stress can become overwhelming, especially with concerns about social security and savings. We'll delve into the unique financial challenges faced by those in their mid-50s, particularly women who often have less savings than men. I discuss the mental health impact of financial stress and the importance of transforming your financial mindset. By recognizing how early beliefs about money shape our current relationship with finances, we can foster a healthier and more secure financial future. Are negative thoughts about money holding you back? Learn strategies to transform your relationship with money by identifying and challenging limiting beliefs. By setting both realistic and stretch goals, you can think bigger and overcome the narratives around age and earning potential. Expand your money mindset and cultivate greater financial confidence, paving the way for a more abundant life. Plus, reconnect with the Purposeful Career community on Instagram and discover my virtual coaching program, Next Level, designed to help you apply these concepts to your career and life. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, July 07, 2024
Ep 187: How to Overcome Time Drama (Midlife Drama #1 of 3)
Feeling overwhelmed by the relentless march of time? Ever wondered if you're truly making the most of your midlife years? This episode dives deep into the "time drama" that often grips us during midlife or mid-career stages, exploring how thoughts of panic, regret, and being stuck can create a paralyzing cycle. We unravel the complex emotions surrounding time management, and provide insights on how to break free from these mental traps, reclaim control, and reconnect with what truly matters. As we gear up for the second half of the year, it's time to turn those New Year's resolutions into reality. We'll share practical strategies for achieving significant goals—whether it's losing weight, advancing your career, or finding that special someone. Learn how to embody the mindset and behaviors of your future successful self today. Plus, discover the power of taking concrete steps to align your actions with your aspirations. Tune in to transform your midlife experience and set yourself on the path to success! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, June 30, 2024
Ep 186: Transforming Your Self-Image for Personal and Professional Growth
Is your self-image holding you back from achieving your full potential? Discover how transforming your self-perception can revolutionize both your personal and professional life. Join me, Carla Hudson, as we challenge the myth that self-perception is fixed and explore how our self-image, shaped by external labels and experiences, can be redefined to unlock hidden potentials. Through compelling stories, such as a midlife client who broke free from outdated beliefs, we'll examine the profound impact of reexamining and reshaping our self-image. Ever wondered how your childhood experiences continue to influence your adult relationships? We delve into the origins of our self-image, particularly focusing on the lasting patterns created by early family dynamics and labels. By sharing a poignant client story, we highlight how understanding and recognizing these influences is the first step towards breaking free from negative cycles. Reflect on your own self-perception and consider whether it's time to redefine yourself and your future. Ready to take actionable steps towards a healthier self-image? This episode introduces practical strategies, emphasizing the "thought ladder" approach that goes beyond positive affirmations. Learn how using neutral, universally true statements can help neutralize self-critical voices, paving the way for healthier self-beliefs. Plus, discover how our virtual coaching program, Next Level, can provide personalized guidance to help you achieve your career and life goals. Take the first step toward a more empowered and fulfilling life by tuning in. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, June 23, 2024
Ep 185: Small Changes, Big Growth: The Power of External Shifts
What if small, visible tweaks in your external world could unlock profound internal transformation? Join me as we explore this intriguing concept, flipping the focus from inner mindset shifts to actionable outer changes. In this episode, I share the compelling story of a client who found herself stuck at an executive plateau. Discover how simple adjustments to her appearance and workspace ignited newfound confidence and motivation, proving that external changes can serve as powerful catalysts for internal growth. You’ll also hear about another client who experienced a significant boost in self-perception and confidence after hiring a stylist for a wardrobe makeover. By aligning her external appearance with her aspirations, she began to embody the person she aimed to become, impacting how others perceived and interacted with her. Whether it's updating your wardrobe or organizing your workspace, these small, tangible changes can serve as undeniable proof of your ability to grow and succeed. Tune in to learn how these actionable adjustments can reinforce your belief in your potential and set you on a path to achieving your goals. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, June 16, 2024
Ep 184: Turning Regret into Career and Life Growth: A Five-Step Process for Moving Forward
Regret can be a powerful force in our lives, especially when it comes to career decisions. Imagine accepting a job during the pandemic, only to find out it doesn't meet your expectations. That’s the story of Michaela, a client who faced unforeseen dissatisfaction despite being recruited for a promising high-growth field job. Through Michaela's journey, we explore how unchecked regret can erode self-belief and create a destructive mental cycle. You’ll learn how to manage regret productively to prevent it from overshadowing your sense of self-worth and future decision-making. We go beyond just identifying the problem; this episode offers actionable solutions. Discover a structured five-step process for managing regret, which includes accepting reality, understanding the specific factors influencing your decisions, and learning valuable lessons for future choices. This journey isn't just about Michaela; it's about you too. By addressing how over-dramatizing mistakes and comparing ourselves to others can lead to self-blame, you’ll find ways to process regret in a healthier manner and look forward to a more positive future. Embrace the wisdom that comes from life's ups and downs by shifting from self-blame to curiosity. Michaela’s story highlights the importance of focusing your job search on opportunities that align with your true values and preferences. This episode emphasizes breaking free from negative thought loops and learning to ask, "Now what?" to move forward. By the end of this episode, you'll see how every decision, even the ones that seem like mistakes, can provide crucial lessons and opportunities for growth. Join me, Carla Hudson, and harness regret for a more purposeful career and life. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, June 09, 2024
Ep 183: Getting Unstuck at Mid-Career and Mid-Life (Mastering MidLife #4 of 4)
Is your career or personal life stuck on autopilot? Learn how to get unstuck by breaking free from the chains of "learned helplessness", a concept of Positive Psychology. In this episode, we'll discover how Dr. Seligman's groundbreaking research can be the key to getting unstuck and transforming your life. I share my own career journey and some examples from my clients, showing you the power of taking proactive control and how refusing to remain passive in unsatisfactory situations can lead to a fulfilling and successful path. We also explore the detrimental effects of learned helplessness on leadership and teams. By questioning established norms and power structures, I reveal how leaders can foster a culture of empowerment and drive positive change within their organizations. Sharing personal stories and real-world case studies, we address the three components of learned helplessness—permanence, pervasiveness, and personalization—and demonstrate how to overcome these barriers to improve team performance and morale. Finally, we tackle the transformative power of changing perspectives, especially in midlife. Many believe their identities are fixed, but I show you how to challenge these ingrained narratives and make more fulfilling choices. Through practical examples and inspiring stories, learn how to align your current actions with a vision of your desired future self. Whether you're looking to improve your career, relationships, or personal health, this episode offers valuable insights into fostering an optimistic outlook and initiating meaningful transformations at any stage of life. Tune in and start optimizing your life and potential today! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, June 02, 2024
Ep 182: Six Ways to Reignite Your Ambition at Mid Career (Mastering Midlife #3 of 4)
Can ambition evolve as we age, or does it remain a relentless pursuit of success? Join me in an eye-opening episode where we dissect the changing nature of ambition at mid-career. Drawing from my own experiences as a brand strategist, entrepreneur, and life coach, I share the journey of a client who, despite being at the peak of his career, faces the challenge of aligning his passions with his professional life. We navigate the complex emotions that arise when we come face-to-face with the finite nature of time, and I offer strategies for steering through mid-career malaise to harmonize professional and personal aspirations. Discontentment at work can be bewildering—what if it's not your job, but something deeper? Listen in as we break down six essential steps to tackle feelings of dissatisfaction and a lack of purpose in your career. We'll dive into the importance of introspection to identify the root cause of your discontent and discuss why it's crucial to understand whether your dissatisfaction stems from the job itself, the organization, or your personal perspective. By focusing on the most significant factors impacting your work life, you can make informed decisions about potential career changes without hastily writing off your entire career. Ever thought of transforming a corporate career into a fulfilling entrepreneurial journey? I recount my transition from a traditional career path to teaching through my business and share insightful strategies for reigniting your motivation. Discover the power of continuous learning, the significance of finding meaning in daily tasks, and the rejuvenating potential of changing careers. Whether you’re exploring a new industry or starting a side hustle, you'll gain practical advice on maintaining cognitive sharpness and fulfillment by rebalancing your professional and personal life. Tune in to enrich your mid-career journey with actionable insights and personal growth strategies. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, May 26, 2024
Ep 181: Crafting Your Future Self: Six Steps to Reinvention at MidLife (Mastering MidLife #2 of 4)
Embarking on a journey through 14 cities taught me that true transformation isn't about your zip code; it's about what's happening on the inside. This week, I pull back the curtain on my own reinvention adventure, guiding you through the art of internal change. We're not just talking about swapping out your daily grind for a new one – it's about overhauling how you see yourself, and, more importantly, how you respond to that persistent inner voice nudging you towards something different. With six actionable steps, we'll navigate the terrain of personal growth together, aiming to craft lives that resonate with who we truly are. Let's face it, a decade can slip by in an instant—so where do you see yourself? This episode is your invitation to dream without limits, as we assess every slice of the life pie, from career trajectory to the joy in your daily routine. Rate your current satisfaction and imagine your ideal scenario, free from the chains of self-doubt. I'll share how reshaping your identity is the linchpin in this grand design for fulfillment. Self-reinvention is a bold move, but with a clear-eyed view of who you want to become, we can start chipping away at the barriers between you and your ideal future self. Tiny steps can lead to monumental shifts, and that's the spirited heart behind micro actions. Think of untangling a knotted necklace – it's all about patience, focus, and the gentle unraveling of one small tangle at a time. As we wrap up, I'm thrilled to extend an exclusive invitation to my Next Level virtual coaching program. It's a space where we'll apply these insights to your unique journey, ensuring the path you're on is one you've chosen deliberately. Ready to redefine success on your own terms? Let's take those micro actions hand in hand, propelling you towards the life and career you've always imagined. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, May 19, 2024
Ep 180: Mastering Midlife Transition: Five Ways to Build Resilience (Mastering Midlife #1 of 4)
Have you ever considered midlife to be a battleground of transition, laden with the promise of growth? Join me on a candid journey as we traverse the terrain of midlife – that span between 39 and the mid-50s where the intensity of peak career pressures, family dynamics, and self-discovery coalesce. Through my lens, you'll uncover the bittersweet symphony of life's halftime show, where the joyous fruits of labor intertwine with the profound challenges of supporting both the generation before us and the one that follows. Resilience isn't just a buzzword; it's the life raft that keeps us afloat amidst the stormy seas of change. I'm here to guide you through cognitive strategies that fortify the mind and spirit, inspired by my holistic career coaching approach which transcends beyond the resume and into the heart of lifelong fulfillment. Together, we'll master the resilience skillset—including self-awareness and self-regulation—to navigate the unpredictable waves of midlife with unwavering focus and intentionality, bolstering your ability to lead with empathy and agility. And for those ready to take the plunge into deeper waters, I'll introduce you to my virtual coaching program, Next Level. Imagine transforming the philosophical to the practical, where the pearls of wisdom gathered from our discussions become the actionable steps you take on the path to your career zenith. Embark with me at thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel, where your midlife renaissance awaits, just beyond the horizon of what you once thought possible. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, May 12, 2024
Ep 179: Unlocking Mid-Career Fulfillment: Four Strategies for Finding Meaning and Joy in Your Professional Journey
Ever feel like you're trudging through your career, searching for that elusive spark? Join me as we tackle the mid-career quest for meaning, and discover how even the most mundane tasks can be transformed into fulfilling endeavors. Together, we'll unearth the strategies that can reignite passion in your professional life, ensuring a satisfying balance with your personal world. The key might just be a shift in perspective, and I'm here to guide you through it. This episode is a treasure trove for leaders and team players alike, delving into the art of problem-solving and the joy of everyday leadership. We'll chat about the satisfaction that comes from strategic thinking and managing the finer details that keep our teams thriving. More importantly, I'll share how to weave personal significance into the fabric of our day-to-day work lives, blending career aspirations with family, hobbies, or passion projects to create a tapestry of fulfillment. As we reflect on the impact of regret and the shadow it casts over our contentment, I offer ways to steer clear of the 'what-ifs' and focus on the paths we've chosen. We'll tackle how to set boundaries and combat imposter syndrome, essential tools for navigating the demanding mid-career stage. Join me on this journey as we explore how to remain inspired and intentional, and turn your mid-career into a beacon of purpose and joy. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, May 05, 2024
Ep 178: Five Steps to Overcoming Personal and Professional Setbacks
Ever found yourself stuck in a rut, whether through a twist of fate or a series of questionable decisions? I'm Carla Hudson, and in my latest podcast episode, I draw from the deep wells of personal experience to guide you out of life's darkest holes. Prepare to climb out with me, as we navigate the treacherous terrains of financial mishaps, career nosedives, and health setbacks, embarking on a journey of self-recovery that's as meticulous as a climber's ascent to the summit. This episode is a heartfelt conversation about the real struggles we all face, paired with the transformative steps necessary to emerge victorious. I delve into the importance of acknowledging where we stand, halting any harmful behaviors, and strategically planning our way out. Just like a mountaineer, we'll focus on preparation, agility, and determination. I open up about my own challenges, from the housing market crisis to professional dilemmas, to illuminate how visualizing your summit of success can be a beacon through the clouds of adversity. Ending on an empowering note, I extend an invitation to join my virtual coaching program, Next Level. It's more than just overcoming current obstacles; it's about gearing up for the journey ahead. By transforming the lessons discussed into actionable stepping stones, we can ensure that your path leads to both a purposeful career and a fulfilling life. So, let's take these insights and make every week phenomenal together. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, April 28, 2024
Ep 177: Breaking Free from the 'Shoulds': Aligning Actions with Authentic Goals
Have you ever caught yourself trapped in a cycle of "shoulds," feeling chained to expectations that don't truly resonate with who you are or what you want? In this episode, we explore the importance of breaking free from this mindset and discover the keys to realigning our actions with our authentic goals. Through a candid conversation about personal experiences and the transformative story of a client who battled career setbacks, we unpack how this 'should' mentality often intensifies in midlife but can grip us at any age. We'll walk through practical steps to dismantle early programming that leaves us chasing shadows instead of embracing our own aspirations. In our eye-opening discussion on self-reflection and personal growth, we dissect the illusion that staying put in a career equals adaptability and the hidden dangers of comfort zones. I'll guide you through the process of filtering out the deafening noise of societal expectations and tuning into your inner voice. Discover how to appreciate what's truly valuable in your professional journey and learn techniques like "thought downloads" to help identify genuine desires. Shed the weight of the 'shoulds' and step into a space where fulfillment and motivation meet, crafting a purposeful path that's uniquely yours. This episode isn't just about change; it's about transformation. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, April 21, 2024
Ep 176: Charting a New Course: The Art of Mid-Career Reinvention
Ever feel like you're standing at a crossroads in your career, unsure of which path to take next? You're not alone. Join me as we traverse the landscape of mid-career reinvention, where the real transformation isn't about a new job title, but about a seismic shift in self-perception. Throughout this episode, I share my own journey and the invaluable lessons learned from changing cities and jobs, revealing that the most profound consistency comes from within. We'll unravel the process of recognizing the need for change and how to tune in to that subtle inner voice nudging us toward a new horizon. Embarking on the road to reinvention, we discuss the necessity of self-evaluation across six pivotal life domains. I guide you through a reflective process that begins with painting a vivid picture of your future self, free from the constraints of your inner critic. Together, we explore the essential groundwork for any noteworthy transformation—aligning your self-image with the future you desire. This identity work is far more than just navel-gazing; it's the cornerstone of your next chapter, one where you emerge as the protagonist in a life you've consciously authored. As we close, I underscore the mindset shift required to make these dreams a reality. Change, especially in midlife, isn't just about wishful thinking—it requires belief, persistence, and the willingness to engage in micro actions. These incremental steps might seem small, but their compound effect can steer your life in an entirely new direction. So, if you're ready to untangle the complex knot of your current trajectory and chart a course toward a career and life you've always envisioned, this episode holds the map. Let's set the compass of our lives together, step by manageable step. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, April 14, 2024
Ep 175: Breaking Free from Negative Thought Loops
When life throws a curveball, it's not the event itself that knocks us down, but the relentless negative thought loops that follow. I'm Carla Hudson, and I've battled through the grief of losing both my parents in quick succession. By sharing my personal journey and those of my coaching clients, this episode guides you through the murky waters of negativity bias and demonstrates how to reclaim the steering wheel of your mind. We all face moments when fear and anxiety take the driver's seat, leading us down a path of panic and overwhelm. It's a cycle that's as common as it is crippling. But what if I told you that the key to breaking free lies within your own perceptions? Throughout the episode, we dissect the way our perceptions shape our reality and explore strategies to shift our mindset from negative to neutral—or even positive. I open up about navigating my personal losses and how I chose gratitude over despair, providing a beacon of hope for anyone caught in the throes of sorrow. Finally, we confront the dread of the coming day—a symptom of a mind caught in the clutches of negativity. This episode offers a lifeline, a reminder that it's never too late to hit the reset button on your thought patterns. For those who feel ensnared in the quicksand of their own thoughts, I extend an invitation: reach out for a one-on-one coaching session or join my virtual coaching program, Next Level. Together, we'll break the chains of negative thinking and lay the foundations for a life brimming with fulfillment and purpose. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, April 07, 2024
Ep 174: Four Ways to Overcome Perfectionism
Have you ever held yourself to a standard so high that anything less than perfect felt like a failure? That's a question I pondered deeply after reading a Harvard Business Review article on the three types of perfectionism. I know...who knew there were three types? In this episode we discuss the three types of perfectionism identified by psychologists Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett. We'll uncover the sources of pressure, from internal drivers to societal expectations, and the often-unspoken connection between perfectionism and procrastination—a revelation that hit close to home. This episode isn't just for those who label themselves perfectionists; it's a mirror for anyone who's felt the weight of relentless standards, including leaders and caregivers of the high-achievers among us. Embarking on this journey of self-discovery is more than just an intellectual exercise; it's about transforming the way we live and interact with the world. Awareness is the first step, and we'll navigate the tricky terrain of negative thoughts and feelings of inadequacy that frequently accompany perfectionist tendencies. Finally, I'll share four game-changing perspectives to help shift your mindset, from embracing failure as a stepping stone to setting achievable goals. Whether you're wrestling with self-oriented perfectionism or find yourself imposing these expectations on others, this episode promises to shed light on strategies that will empower you to break free from the shackles of perfection and celebrate the beauty of being perfectly imperfect. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 31, 2024
Ep 173: Ten Ways to Have a Purposeful Career (and Life)
Sailing through the midcareer and midlife waters can be stormy, but imagine harnessing that energy to propel you towards a career that's truly aligned with who you are. I'm Carla Hudson, and I've navigated the sometimes rough seas of midlife, transforming my own career into the vision I had for myself. This episode is intended to give you perspective on your own professional journey, especially during those transformative midlife years. We'll do this by exploring 10 ways to have a purposeful career. In it, I'll share the insights that have helped me to not just meet but surpass my own career and life dreams. It's a tale of continual growth and the beauty of aligning one's career with their core essence which is exactly what I teach in my business. The courage to take on new professional horizons can be as daunting as the open sea, yet it's the very thing that can lead to the discovery of new lands. This episode explores the importance of mindset, confidence balance, inner leadership, career pivots and the art of nurturing self-belief. Let's unravel how knowing yourself and the strength of your convictions can power you through promotions, career changes, and the fears that threaten to capsize your journey. Together, we'll examine the indispensable role of a growth mindset and self-confidence in ensuring your professional life reflects your true worth and potential. At the core, we'll discuss the importance of evolving your self-image and the impact it has on achieving success. I'll share my personal tangles with impostor syndrome and how evolve beyond that. This episode is not just about learning to have a purposeful career, it's about a purposeful life. In it, we'll discuss the harmony of career and personal life, the importance of recognizing your intrinsic value, and how strategic changes can align your professional path with your deepest values. So join me in this episode and let's start your purposeful journey together. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 24, 2024
Ep 172: Learning to Appreciate Yourself and Your Journey
Come with us as we unlock the secret to magnifying your self worth and appreciation. In a world where accomplishments are often overshadowed by the next big goal, I invite you to pause and savor the things you've mastered so far. The things that have helped to make you who you are. Our conversation turns the spotlight on the pivotal yet often neglected practice of self-appreciation—where no comparisons are allowed. And no, this is not about self-centeredness; it’s about recognizing everything it's taken to get you to where are you today. Listen as I share stories of my high achieving clients who, despite their enviable successes, grapple with acknowledging their own brilliance. Through these enlightening tales, we learn to view our accomplishments from the perspective of our former selves - the one who set the goal. Learning to marvel at the milestones we once only dreamed of that we've now mastered. This episode is more than just a pat on the back for the big wins—it's an ode to the everyday victories and the exceptional part of each of us who works at carving out our own path in the world. Tune in and learn how to connect to a strong and deep sense of pride so you're ready to chase down the next dream with an invigorated and self-appreciative point of view. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 17, 2024
Ep 171: Mastering Inner Leadership: Transform Your Life with Self-Command and Purposeful Thinking
Unlock the leader within you as we walk through a transformative exploration of self-command and its indisputable impact on both your professional and personal life. Imagine the empowerment that comes from mastering your internal world. By fostering a steadfast approach to inner leadership, you'll learn to navigate life's challenges with unmatched clarity and intention, leading to a profound shift in how you perceive and act upon the things going on around you. This discussion isn't just about introspection; we also examine the art of purposeful thinking and the dramatic influence it has on steering our life's direction. Witness the power of choosing your thoughts through the story of a client's ascent to success in her newfound role, an inspiring testament to the strength of aligning actions with core values. Furthermore, I unravel the intricacies of building trust and productive relationships in today's digital workspace, revealing strategic moves from reactive to proactive engagement that reshape interactions with peers. Prepare to become the architect of your own destiny as I share a wealth of strategies that will empower your journey to achieving the success and happiness you envision, starting from within. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 10, 2024
Ep 170: Rising Above the Storm: Six Strategies for Navigating Through a Crisis at Midlife
Midlife is a time when issues tend to converge and we can find ourselves in a period when it feels like a bomb went off in our life. This is exactly where I found myself in June of 2022 and it culminated in me losing both of my aging parents within six months of each other. In this episode, I'm sharing the six strategies that became my lifeline during that difficult chapter which included balancing the demands of a new corporate role, my own business, and the intricate web of family care responsibilities. This episode isn't just my story—it's a beacon for anyone feeling adrift in the tumultuous seas of life's unforeseen trials. Caring for aging parents is a dance between love, duty, and the stark reality of the ticking clock we all face. I take you through the emotional odyssey of my parents' final months, from the chaotic onset of my mother's health decline to the painstaking decision to transition my father into a care facility as dementia tightened its grip. The six strategies I employed became the framework for preserving my well-being while honoring the needs of my parents. This chapter of life is a profound testament to resilience, and I hope my journey offers comfort and guidance to those walking a similar path. As we navigate the waters of midlife challenges, I introduce a tool that can be a lifeline in times of overwhelming emotion: the thought download technique. This episode peels back the layers on how writing down your thoughts can bring clarity and peace amidst the storm. Alongside this, I explore the undeniable power of gratitude and self-care practices in the healing process. My invitation extends beyond sharing my story, as I present Next Level, a virtual life coaching program designed to transform your career and life. Join me, and let's harness the strength within to rise above the waves and sail towards a horizon of growth and fulfillment. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 03, 2024
Ep 169: The Power of Listening to Yourself: Reconnecting to Your Inner Wisdom
Have you ever caught yourself tuning out your own voice to accommodate everyone else's needs? This episode embarks on a journey with me, Carla Hudson, as we examine the transformative art of self-listening. Anchored in personal anecdotes and enriched by coaching experiences, we navigate the common habit of sidelining our desires for others, especially during the riveting demands of midlife. Join us to discover how reclaiming the neglected art of tuning into our inner dialogue can reshape our lives, confront our fears, and stir the waters of self-discovery. Emotions have a way of sneaking up on us, often at the most inconvenient times. Together, we explore the essential skills of self-awareness and emotional intelligence, unearthing how to be truly present with our feelings during daily interactions. By pinpointing and articulating emotions in just one word, we not only connect with our inner experiences but also learn to decipher the physical sensations they trigger. The upcoming week poses a challenge: to become more attuned to our emotional landscape, paving the way for healthier coping strategies and a more authentic existence. As we round out this conversation, we delve into the courage it takes to listen to our inner wisdom and pursue personal authenticity. I delve into the challenges of making significant life changes, from career shifts to personal endeavors. We uncover the imperative of self-inquiry and the permission we must grant ourselves to dream. For those poised to elevate their life's work, the virtual coaching program, Next Level, awaits. It’s an invitation to apply these insights and join me at thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel, as we journey towards a more purposeful and fulfilling life. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, February 25, 2024
Ep 168: Breaking Free from the Cycle of 'Shoulds': Embracing Authenticity and Intention in Your Life and Career
Ever find yourself caught in the relentless cycle of "shoulding" your way through life and career? I'm Carla Hudson, and today's podcast peels back the layers on why that inner monologue of shoulds could be sabotaging your happiness and growth. We kick things off with the gripping tale of a client who, after facing an unexpected career crossroads, wrestled with self-doubt and the haunting idea that she should be further along. But as we navigate her story, you'll see that we all have the power to rewrite the script, exchange those shoulds for coulds, and embrace self-compassion as our new guiding light. This episode isn't just about the struggle; it's about seizing control and charting a course that resonates with our deepest desires. We'll tackle the thorny concept of societal expectations—like the myth that career stability equals personal development—and replace it with a renewed trust in our instincts. Learn how to sift through the noise of external demands with a simple yet transformative 'thought download,' a technique that will have you questioning the true source of your goals. By the end of our candid conversation, you'll have some new ways of thinking about what it means to redefine success on your terms and perhaps realize that what you've been searching for has been within you all along. Join me as we step away from the pervasive shadows of shoulds and lean into a life crafted by intention and authenticity. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, February 18, 2024
Ep 167: The Importance of Prioritizing Yourself (and How to Do That)
Have you ever caught yourself constantly running on empty, pouring every ounce of energy into everything but yourself? This isn't just a chat about the merits of self-care; this is an awakening for those who've tucked their own needs away. Join me as we explore the art of self-prioritization in the intricate dance of career and life. It's particularly poignant for women, as we've historically been the caretakers, the nurturers, the put-everyone-else-firsters. But what if we dared to flip the script? Today, we dissect the societal norms and generational conditioning that often lead us to sideline our own dreams and discuss actionable steps you can take to carve out the space you deserve in your own life. This journey of self-reflection brings us face-to-face with the often overlooked yet critical concept of self-care. Not the fleeting indulgences, but the deep, sustaining acts that fuel us to be better partners, parents, professionals—better humans. We hold up a mirror to the paradox of self-neglect, realizing that in our quest to be all things to all people, we risk burning out before we can shine. I challenge you to recalibrate your self-care compass, to shift the perspective of it being a luxury to recognizing it as a fundamental building block for a life well-lived. And in this quest for personal growth, we're not just scratching the surface; we're digging deep into the roots of self-worth and identity. No sugarcoating here—we address the internalized beliefs of inadequacy that plague many of us and the transformative power of embracing our inherent value. Tune in as we talk through the strategies that can reshape our self-image, and learn about the support available through my monthly membership program, guiding you toward becoming the most empowered, actualized version of yourself. It's about thriving, not just surviving, and it starts with saying yes to putting yourself at the top of your own list. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, February 11, 2024
Ep 166: Creating Success Through Reinvention: What Taylor Swift Can Teach Us About Self Image and Identity
Have you ever wondered about the ripple effects of a celebrity romance within the world of sports? Join me, Carla Hudson, as we explore the unexpected impact Taylor Swift's relationship with Travis Kelsey has had on the Kansas City Chiefs. This episode uncovers how the influx of Swiftie fans has not just amplified the Chiefs' brand value but also intertwined the vibrancy of pop culture with the adrenaline of sports. We'll analyze the team's performance, their challenging season, and the road to the Super Bowl, all while contemplating the significance of celebrity power in reshaping the media landscape of professional teams. Life is an ever-changing canvas, and sometimes we hold the brush without even knowing it. In this narrative, I'll recount my own evolution from a hairstylist to a corporate professional and how it exemplifies the profound nature of personal reinvention. It's about more than switching careers; it's a metamorphosis of self, a daring leap into the unknown that demands we constantly evolve. We'll discuss how to embrace new identities, seize opportunities, and muster the courage to leave comfort zones behind, drawing inspiration from both my journey and Taylor Swift's celebrated ability to evolve while remaining unmistakably herself. To cap off our time together, I'll guide you through the bold steps and mental shifts that are crucial for growth, as I share my transition from a corporate brand strategist to creating my own entrepreneurial venture. This episode is designed to ignite the spark for anyone yearning to redefine their path, blending practical advice with the emotional aspects of self-reinvention. Finally, I extend a warm invitation to my virtual coaching program, Next Level, where I will help you harness these insights to craft a career and life rich with authenticity and success. Let's celebrate new beginnings, cheer for our favorite icons, and courageously chart our course toward the fulfillment we all deserve. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, February 04, 2024
Ep 165: The Role of Regret and How It Can Empower Your Future
Have you ever felt the sting of decisions past, that persistent whisper of 'what if'? I'm Carla Hudson, and in this heartfelt journey, I invite you to look at regret not as a shadow, but as a beacon guiding you to growth and self-improvement. We'll traverse my personal narratives, uncovering how to turn the echoes of 'should have' into a symphony of self-reflection and strategic action. Regret doesn't have to be the end of the story; it can be the compelling prologue to a chapter of transformation. Throughout the episode, I lay bare the steps that have allowed me to shift my own perspective—from accepting the unchangeable to seeking the hidden gems of wisdom within my experiences. Together, we discuss how to elevate our self-image, and in doing so, fully embrace the potential to shape who we are and who we aspire to become. The moments that once seemed like our deepest downfalls can become our most profound teachers, and I'm here to show you how. As your guide, I'm not just sharing a narrative; I'm extending a hand to pull you up to the next level. Picture a future where setbacks become the fuel for your goals, where every misstep is a stepping stone toward a purposeful path. I reveal the essence of my virtual coaching program, Next Level, and invite you to join me in turning aspirations into achievements. Together, we'll chart a course to a life where intent and success are not just destinations but the very ground we walk on. Join me at thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel, and let's start building that purposeful future today. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 28, 2024
Ep 164: Creating Success Through the Power of Daily Habits
Ever wondered why some people seem to effortlessly climb the ladder of success while others struggle to take the first step? That's a question I, Carla Hudson, tackle head-on, as we traverse the landscape of daily habits and their monumental impact on achieving our dreams. As someone who once found themselves amidst the clutter of abandoned resolutions, I've come to realize that true change doesn't come from fleeting bursts of motivation but from the intentional, everyday choices we make. Join me on this journey of self-discovery, where we'll explore what it means to live purposefully and how adopting habits that resonate with our identity can lay the groundwork for enduring progress. This episode is more than just a call to action—it's a blueprint for reinventing oneself. By sharing my personal tale of style evolution and the transformative power of a simple yet profound 'word of the year', I aim to inspire a shift in your mindset. We'll delve into the nuances of habit formation and the art of aligning those habits with who you aspire to be, be it fit, financially savvy, or a style icon. Let's embark on this path together, where each step—illustrated by my recent enlightening experiences in Houston—leads us closer to our elevated selves, in both personal and professional realms. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 21, 2024
Ep 163: The Life-Changing Magic of a Chosen Word
Have you ever wondered if embracing a single, powerful word could redefine your entire year? That's exactly what I've done by adopting "elevated" as my guiding beacon, transforming every decision and action I take, from refining my personal style to making strategic professional moves. This episode is not just a revisit to the concept of a "word of the year"; it's a testament to the profound impact it can have on one's life trajectory. I'm not just talking the talk; I'm walking the walk, and in doing so, I invite you to join me on this journey of self-improvement. Whether it's a word you need to choose or a resolution you're striving to uphold, discover how a single term can anchor you to your deepest aspirations and guide your course throughout the year. This isn't just about a word; it's about crafting the narrative of your life with intentionality and precision. Imagine the empowerment of aligning your habits, your self-perception, and the way others view you with a concept that drives you towards your personal pinnacle. Friends of mine have embraced words like 'wealthy', 'powerhouse', and 'captivating', and it's reshaped their approach to everything from finances to relationships. So, let's explore how a consistent, focused word can elevate routine to purpose and set in motion the evolution of your life and relationships. As your host, I'm here not only to share my journey but to inspire and facilitate yours, offering insights and strategies to harness the power of a single, life-altering word. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 14, 2024
Ep 162: How to Know if You're Making Progress
Have you ever found yourself on a treadmill of ambition, running tirelessly after each new goal without taking a moment to breathe and appreciate the present? Join me, Carla Hudson, as we unpack the often-ignored splendor of the journey towards our life's aims and the art of self-appreciation. As we navigate the push-and-pull of personal drive and satisfaction, I'll share stories and professional insights to help us all find peace in the present while keeping an eye on the future. This episode takes a page from Dan Sullivan's "The Gap and the Gain," co-authored with Dr. Benjamin Hardy, to explore the shift in mindset from always chasing the horizon to turning around and marveling at the ground we've covered. Through conversations and excerpts from the audiobook, I'll guide you through the transformative process of measuring success by the strides we've made rather than the daunting distance ahead. By refocusing our perspective, we learn to sidestep the pitfalls of perpetual dissatisfaction and foster a healthier view of our achievements and worth. The climb up the corporate ladder, the relentless pursuit of personal milestones—these are paths fraught with the peril of overlooking the now. In this episode, we dissect the fleeting euphoria of promotions and the importance of recognizing our intrinsic value beyond professional accomplishments. I invite you to savor the present moment with me and discover the joy that's rooted not in future achievements but in the rich tapestry of life as it unfolds. Together, we'll redefine what it means to be successful and perhaps, in the process, alter the way we measure success for good. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 07, 2024
Ep 161: How to Choose Your Word of the Year (And Why It Matters)
As we turn the page on another year, I, Carla Hudson, invite you to join me in a celebration of growth, purpose, and the power of intention. Picture this: a single word that can encapsulate all your goals and become the guiding light for your actions throughout the year. That's what we're exploring today, a tradition that's far more potent than any New Year's resolution. My own ascent to senior executive status has taught me that success isn't just about what we do, but also about who we become in the process. This episode is all about finding that one word that captures the essence of who you need to be to live your dream. Ready to create a list of words that resonate with your deepest aspirations? Let's embark on a journey together, crafting a vocabulary of empowerment, whether you're aiming to write that long-dreamt-about novel, launch a new venture, or simply infuse more joy into your everyday life. I’ll walk you through a playful yet profound method for selecting your personal 'word of the year' that aligns with cherished values like family, creativity, or resilience. And for those who find narrowing it down to just one word a daunting task, fear not! I've got a fun technique that will add a twist of serendipity to your selection process. Imagine a mood board filled with images that reflect your chosen word, a visual anchor for your daily intentions and a compass for your actions. If your word is 'elevated,' for example, how might that influence your wardrobe choices, your professional demeanor, or even your leisure plans? Wrapping up the episode, I extend an open invitation to you, offering a partnering hand through my virtual coaching program, Next Level. Together, we'll transform insights into impactful actions, ensuring that your year is as remarkable as the ambitions that fuel it. So, are you ready to step into a thriving 2024 with clarity and purpose? Let’s make this year truly unforgettable. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Mon, January 01, 2024
Ep 160: Unlocking Possibility at Midlife
As we enter the new year, I find myself thinking about the untapped potential that lies within all of us, especially as we reach midlife. It's the season when those long-forgotten dreams nudge us gently, reminding us of what could be. Today, I want to take you on a journey of the possible, exploring the six transformative considerations that can help you reimagine not just the year ahead, but your entire future. We'll draw from Dale Carnegie's wisdom and recognize that our abilities often stretch far beyond our current aspirations. My story is one of academic underachievement turned blue-collar grit, morphing into corporate success—a testament to the fact that it's never too late to redefine success and pursue dreams on our own terms. In this very special New Year's edition, I recount the pivotal moments and the crucial advice that propelled me from a hairdresser to a brand strategist with a side hustle in real estate. We'll reflect on how the choices we make, particularly in the face of societal and familial expectations, can dramatically alter the trajectory of our lives. And I'll share how this personal evolution is proof that previous thoughts and actions lay the groundwork for where we stand today. Lastly, we'll tap into the essence of creating an unlimited future. Your current situation is not your final destination, and I'm here to remind you of that. We'll invoke the insights of thought leaders like John Scully and Buddha to illustrate how a positive mindset is the cornerstone of achieving our ambitions. The invitation is open: step beyond past experiences, embrace change, and shatter those self-imposed barriers. This episode isn't just about dreaming—it's about living those dreams out loud, serving as a beacon of possibility for everyone around us. So let's kick off the New Year with an open heart, ready to unlock the boundless possibilities that await. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, December 31, 2023
Ep 159: Using Life Scripting to Get Unstuck and Stop Recurring Patterns In Your Life
Have you ever felt like you're running on a treadmill, exerting a lot of energy but going nowhere? This episode might just be the catalyst for change you've been searching for. As the year winds down, join me in a powerful reflection on life's sticking points—those recurring patterns that have us feeling like we're reliving the same story over and over again. We uncover the roots of these life scripts, born from our childhood experiences and beliefs, and how they've been secretly directing our life's play without us even realizing it. Breaking free from these deeply ingrained scripts requires more than just knowledge; it demands action. That's why we're not just talking about identifying patterns—we're crafting an escape plan. I share personal anecdotes and insights into how stepping out of our comfort zones can rewrite the roles we play in our own lives. We'll discuss the uncomfortable, yet exhilarating process of trying on new behaviors and the profound impact this can have on personal and professional growth. It's about seizing control and becoming the playwright of your own journey. As we wrap up, you'll discover that rewriting your life script isn't a solo adventure. I'm thrilled to introduce the Next Level virtual coaching program, designed to take the revelations from our podcast and mold them into tangible, life-altering strategies. Whether you're stuck in a loop with a loved one or trapped in a toxic work environment, we'll tackle these challenges together. This is about stepping into the new year empowered, with a fresh script in hand and a cast of characters ready to support you. Let's turn the page and start a new chapter, shall we? Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, December 24, 2023
Ep 158: Cultivating a New Perspective for a New Year
Today, we're delving into the transformative power of perspective on our lives, especially during the more difficult seasons of our life. Amidst sharing my own story of loss, we unravel the strength that comes from intentional thought, guided by the wisdom of Henry David Thoreau and the neuroscience insights from David Eagleman. Our brains are powerful interpreters, and by understanding this, we can learn to foster joy and resilience, even when adversity looms large on the horizon. Navigating the professional landscape can be daunting, particularly when confronted with age bias. I offer advice on how to not only combat this challenge but thrive despite it. We discuss the shifting societal attitudes towards aging and the vitality that comes with harnessing an energetic approach to job searches. Additionally, I share my journey of juggling passion projects alongside a full-fledged career and extend a helping hand to those at a midlife crossroad, emphasizing how perspective can be the key to a fulfilling professional life. Lastly, we celebrate the boundless potential for growth at any age, inspired by individuals who redefine the essence of growing older with purpose and drive. Drawing upon scientific advancements in neuroplasticity, I highlight how intentional thinking can reshape not just our beliefs, but our entire life's trajectory. Together, we examine how to create a life that resonates with our aspirations, encouraging a positive mindset that propels us towards our goals. Join me in this conversation that's designed not just to shift your outlook but to uplift your spirit in profound ways. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, December 17, 2023
Ep 157: The December Edit: Prepping for a Clutter-Free New Year
Your December will never be the same after you listen to this power-packed episode! Uncover the art of decluttering your life - from possessions to relationships - and step into the new year with a refreshed mindset. I, Carla Hudson, invite you on this transformative journey, as we edit our lives in preparation for the year ahead. Like a book editor, we'll take a magnifying glass to our lives, taking stock of our possessions, relationships, and habits, to prune what no longer serves us. Kicking off with the simplest items, I guide you on the six categories - I call it the 6 P's - that will help you methodically declutter your life. We venture into the depths of closets and drawers, underlining the vitality of being intentional about what stays and what goes. You'll learn how a tidy home can mirror a tidy mind, as we unveil tips on digitizing books and preserving sentimental items without the bulk. Let go of the notion that material items equate to memories, and open your mind to the ease and freedom of a decluttered space. We then take a deeper dive into our lives, examining the people we interact with, the pastimes we indulge in, and the places we frequent. I provide practical strategies to help you edit your life, not only in terms of physical clutter but also in terms of mental and emotional clutter. This episode is all about paving the way for new experiences, opportunities, and growth, and I can’t wait to help you embark on this journey. So come, let's edit our lives together, making room for an exciting and fulfilling new year. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, December 10, 2023
Ep 156: Rewriting the Narrative of Your Past Experiences
Ever wondered if your past is a stumbling block to your future? How about turning that narrative around and exploring the power of your past? I'm Carla Hudson, your podcast host, and today we're journeying together to rewrite our past narratives, guided by the insightful theory of narrative identity by Dr. Dan McAdams. We'll challenge the norm, perceive our past, present, and future as intertwined, and discover the hidden gems in our past experiences that can fuel our growth. We won't stop there! We'll dive into the deep end, and I'll take you through an exercise to help you deconstruct your negative stories and discover how these narratives might be holding you back. By separating facts from story, we'll reveal the emotions intertwined with our past narratives and learn to reframe them to fuel our progress. Together, we'll learn to see our past experiences, not as a hindrance, but as a stepping stone towards a more fulfilling future. Ready to embark on this transformative journey? Let's rewrite your past narrative to illuminate your future. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, December 03, 2023
Ep 155: How to Channel Leading Lady (or Leading Man) Energy in your Career or Life
Are you ready to step into the spotlight of your life? Learning how to channel Leading Lady Energy can transform your career and your life. Drawing inspiration from the charming holiday movie, "The Holiday", we dive headfirst into the captivating concept of Leading Lady Energy. We'll unpack its essence in detail, providing you 5 ways you can embody this powerful persona. And drawing from a key message from that movie, we'll talk about what it means to have gumption and how to use that initiative, assertiveness, grit and determination to become the star of your own life. Ever wondered what it feels like to confidently own the stage? We all have a leading lady within us, and it's time to let her shine! We'll dissect the key attributes of a leading lady - the comfort in the spotlight, the unmistakable confidence, and the articulate speech. As we navigate tricky situations at work or deliver a high-stakes presentation, our inner leading lady can guide us. We'll help you evaluate your comfort levels in these areas and provide tips to align better with your inner star. In the grand finale, we bring leading lady energy to your career. We'll discuss how embracing the spotlight, commanding the room, understanding your strengths and weaknesses, and handling rejection with grace can catapult you to new heights. Regardless of your industry, career path or the stage you're at in your journey, these traits are universally applicable. We also take a moment to appreciate the delightful movie "The Holiday", and its lessons on stepping into our power. Finally, we introduce our "Next Level" coaching program - a unique platform designed to help you live the life you've always dreamt of. So, step in, let's start the journey to your personal and professional transformation! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, November 26, 2023
Ep 154: 7 Reasons to Leave the Comfort Zone & Unleash Personal Growth and Self-Discovery at Mid-Life
Can you believe that only 2% of people dare to venture beyond their comfort zones, while a whopping 98% prefer the familiarity of their safe havens? It's true! And as we age, the need to consciously step out of our comfort zones becomes even more critical. Welcome to a transformative journey where we'll brave the unknown, inviting discomfort and new challenges into our lives. Through this bold step, we unlock unlimited avenues for personal growth and a life brimming with purpose and meaning. Are you ready to unearth the magic that lies beyond your comfort zone, especially at midlife? We’ll not only tackle the accepted norm but also reveal the refreshing vistas that await us when we embrace risk. You'll learn how these daring leaps can incite self-growth and unravel more about you, even when life seems pretty okay. We emphasize the pleasure of discovering new passions and the intriguing mysteries that await us in the realms unexplored. By courting new paths, we enrich our existence and keep the spark of self-discovery alive. In the concluding part of our discussion, we’ll delve into how proactively stepping out of your comfort zone can foster resilience, strengthen coping skills, and pave the way for self-discovery. Regaining control and being the pilot of our lives is within reach when we intentionally push ourselves beyond what's familiar and comfortable. We appreciate our dedicated listeners, and as a token of our gratitude, we extend an invitation to join our virtual coaching program, Next Level. Let’s collaborate in creating careers and lives that resonate with our dreams. After all, life begins at the end of your comfort zone. Join us at thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, November 19, 2023
Ep 153: Five Steps to Breaking Through a Plateau
Ever find yourself stuck in the monotonous routine of life, feeling like you're just coasting along with no real direction or purpose? That's what we're addressing today. And we're going to shatter the illusion that we should settle for a plateau in midlife. Today we'll talk about the importance of steering your own life and the detrimental role a complacent mindset can play. And we'll discuss five key strategies you can use to break the plateau cycle and start to next level your career and life. In this episode we explore the significance of being deliberate with our daily habits and how our attitude can dramatically shape our progression in life. Ready for a shift in mindset and a fresh perspective on the second half of your life? Check out these five tangible, actionable steps to overcome these life plateaus, from setting specific goals to creating new habits that move you closer to what you envision for your life. This episode is a must for those ready to stop coasting and start living a life that looks the way they want it to. And to believe that anything is possible at midlife and beyond. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sat, November 11, 2023
Ep 152: Managing Through Peaks and Valleys at Midlife
As life's rollercoaster takes us through highs and lows, our reactions become the dictating factor of our experience. The lens through which we view our peaks and valleys is more than just a perspective, it's a potent tool that shapes our journey. This potent tool can transform the way we navigate through our situations, making the ride smoother and more enlightening. Parenthood. Career. Health. We often see life as a checklist, ticking off milestones as we go along. When we reach midlife, it's as if the checklist is complete and that's it. But is it really? Why should we allow society to dictate what our life should look like at any stage? Life is brimming with possibilities waiting to be explored, and age is just a number that should never limit us. The ups and downs of life can sometimes leave us feeling stuck, dreams fading into oblivion as we settle into a routine of coasting. This is where the power of life coaching comes in. Imagine breaking free from the cycle of coasting, chasing your dreams, and living them. My virtual coaching program, Next Level, is designed to help you do just that. Together, we can decode and unravel the lessons each situation presents, helping you reach your next level of success in both your career and life. Time to start living your dreams, so hop on! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, November 05, 2023
Ep 151: The Five Ways Imposter Syndrome Shows Up & What to Do About It
Ever felt like a fraud despite your accomplishments? Do you tend to attribute your success to luck rather than your abilities? This episode is for you. We're diving deep into the intriguing world of imposter syndrome, guided by the remarkable work of Dr. Valerie Young - the world's foremost expert on this topic. By shedding light on the five distinct types of imposter syndrome - Natural Genius, Superhero, Soloist, Perfectionist, and Expert - we aim to help you recognize its presence in your life and equip you with the tools to break the cycle. The superhero and soloist types are particularly fascinating. Superheroes are workaholics who derive their sense of self-worth from their productivity. Soloists, on the other hand, feel they must accomplish tasks independently, fearing that seeking help would expose them as a fraud. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries, fostering self-validation, and finding joy in pursuits outside work, providing practical strategies for both types to overcome these self-imposed limitations. Lastly, we take a hard look at perfectionism, a trait common to many grappling with imposter syndrome. Perfectionists set impossibly high standards and view any failure as a personal failing, which in turn fuels their sense of fraudulence. However, identifying triggers, embracing imperfection, and adopting self-kindness can make a significant difference. We close the episode with a thoughtful discussion on these strategies, aiming to inspire you to approach your personal and professional life with more grace and less guilt. Tune in, let's talk about embracing our imperfections and owning our success. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 29, 2023
Ep 150: From Self-Doubt to Self-Assured: Tackling Impostor Syndrome Head-On
Ever felt like a fraud, even while standing amidst your hard-earned accomplishments? You're not alone. Welcome to a deep-dive discussion about Imposter Syndrome, that sneaky mental pattern that undermines your self-confidence and convinces you that you don't belong, even when evidence suggests otherwise. Join me, Carla Hudson, as we unpack the impact of this insidious phenomenon and reveal its roots often tethered to our early years. From cognitive dissonance to feeling like an outsider to an irrational fear of taking risks, Impostor Syndrome is more than just self-doubt; it's a mental boat anchor that can hold you back from reaching your full potential. But fear not, as we journey through this topic, we'll also explore powerful strategies for recognizing and challenging these debilitating thought patterns. We'll examine how childhood experiences and societal norms shape our relationship with Impostor Syndrome and how we can redefine our self-image to align with our accomplishments and ambitions. Finally, we'll discuss the Next Level Virtual Coaching Program, specifically designed to help you break free from the constraints of Impostor Syndrome. We'll share tips on how to identify its telltale signs, manage its effects, and ultimately, reclaim your true identity and self-confidence. It's time to strip away the mask of inadequacy and embrace your genuine self. So, sit back, tune in, and prepare to reshape your perspective on your accomplishments and potential. It's an enlightening conversation you won't want to miss. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 22, 2023
Ep 149: Five Steps to Overcoming Adversity
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a proverbial dark hole, unable to see a way out? Be it a financial crisis, a health scare, or an unexpected career shift — we've all been there. But, how do we climb out? Join me as I share my personal journey of triumph over adversity and the five-step plan that guided me out of my own dark hole, offering a beacon of hope for those seeking to regain control. I'll guide you through the gritty reality of these disheartening situations, the importance of acknowledging when we are in such a predicament, and the healing power this realization brings. Drawing upon a particularly challenging time in my life, I share how I confronted a financial abyss of my own making. We discuss the crucial first step: the stop. Stopping the digging, acknowledging the hole, and only then, commencing the climb. Climbing out doesn't happen overnight, and that's okay. Together, we'll explore the strategies to navigate these tricky terrains. I'll share with you some key visualization exercises that helped me imagine a future outside of my hole, giving me the momentum to push through. We'll harness the transformative power of imagination, drawing on the energy of our future selves to fuel our resilience and ambition. So, get ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing, as we convert these dark holes into stepping stones toward success and resilience. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 15, 2023
Ep 148: Fulfillment and Balance at Midlife
Ever felt that sense of emptiness in mid-career or mid-life, despite ticking off all the 'life checklist' boxes? You're not alone. This episode is an exploration of how societal programming sets our expectations and how it can feel as if the script runs out at mid-life. We bring to light how the rest of our life is ours to shape and fill with meaningful pursuits. Our discussion also ventures into the realm of day-to-day work and how to carve out purpose and satisfaction from it. We share insights on valuing the choices we make, even when they divert us from our desired destination. Together, we navigate our way through the importance of perspective, avoiding the trap of becoming a workaholic, and upholding a balance in life. Tune in and let us journey together through these twists and turns, learning and growing to live a purposeful life. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 08, 2023
Ep 147: Unleashing Creativity and Passion by Befriending Your Inner Critic
Are you at that midlife stage, feeling stuck in a corporate rut or mulling over a complete reinvention? Let me, Carla Hudson, guide you through reigniting your passion and creativity, and help you tackle the internal barriers that are holding you back. We will confront and conquer our inner critics, not by fighting them, but by truly understanding them. As someone juggling a corporate career and a business, I can tell you that it's not easy. The fear and self-doubt can be overwhelming. But what if we could befriend our inner critique? What if we could find its origin, empathise with it and quieten it down? Together, we will explore this often neglected part of ourselves and learn how to manage it. To assist us, I will provide an arsenal of questions that will help us understand our inner critique and give it peace. Lastly, we will delve into the significance of embracing our inner critic. We will discover that it's not an enemy, but rather a misguided friend that just wants the best for us. By empathising and understanding our inner critic, we can find peace and pursue our dreams without fear. So, are you ready to quieten your inner critic and reignite your career? Join me as we step into the life we desire. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 01, 2023
Ep 146: Navigating Trust Issues at Work (or in Life)
Can you imagine working in a place where trust is as elusive as a unicorn? Sounds like a nightmare, right? Well, stay with us as we walk through the shadowy corridors of such workplaces, revealing my personal experiences and insights. This episode is a deep dive into the murky waters of trust issues, where we unravel the invisible threads that bind us - or break us - in our professional lives. We map out the maze of larger companies with their structured policies, and contrast them with the freedom - and the pitfalls - of smaller, private enterprises. But, wait, there's more. In this journey to the heart of the trust issue, we offer you a compass to navigate the choppy waters. We arm you with strategies to identify trust issues like a seasoned detective, draw boundaries like a skilled architect, and keep your performance at its peak. We're talking about handling violations of company policies, reconciling differences in personal values, and taking action in extreme situations. All while reminding you that it's okay to stumble - life is a series of challenges, after all. The critical thing is how you rise after the fall. So, tune in, and let's take control of our professional lives together! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, September 24, 2023
Ep 145: Finding More Meaning at Mid Life: 5 Lessons from The World's Longest Research Study on Happiness
Can you imagine hitting the peak of your happiness curve in your early forties? Imagine no longer, as we explore the U-shaped curve of happiness that suggests that's precisely when it happens. Today, we're talking about lessons learned from The Good Life, a new book that summarizes the insights coming out of the world's longest longitudinal study on happiness. We unveil the pivotal role of meaningful relationships in our happiness. Forget the old-age adage of physical and financial well-being being the key to a long, happy life - we're showing you why investing time and energy in nurturing meaningful relationships can tip the scales of fulfillment and happiness in your favor. Happiness isn't a solo journey, and the companionship we choose can make all the difference. We'll delve into the top five findings from a recent study about enhancing relationships and their contribution to our happiness. We'll also provide you with a roadmap to reflect on your own relationships, evaluating the significance of each individual that orbits your life. Together, we'll learn how to adapt and evolve these relationships as we navigate through different life phases, offering you a fresh perspective on how to make the most out of these connections. We wrap up by dwelling on the transformative power of relationships in our overall happiness. Highlighting the significance of being present in shared moments, fostering gratitude within these relationships, and the fulfillment derived from them. We also touch upon our Life Coaching Program at Thepurposefulcareer.com, where we can continue this transformative conversation. So, tune in now, and let's embark on a happiness journey, driven by the power of meaningful relationships. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, September 17, 2023
Ep 144: Transforming Midlife Crises into Opportunities: Reinventing Life on Your Own Terms
Have you ever found yourself questioning, 'Is this all there is to life?' after seemingly checking all the societal boxes? If so, you're not alone. In our insightful conversation, we're unravelling the challenging reality of mid-career and mid-life crises. We share personal experiences and provide constructive advice on how to reinvent and embrace a new path, even when you're feeling stuck or plagued with feelings of discontent or anxiety. We delve into the intricacies of how our thoughts and emotions shape our actions, and consequently our lives, especially how they can lead us into a crisis. The episode is rich with insights on how to manage imposter syndrome, fear, uncertainty, perfectionism and self-doubt. We explore ways to change the thought patterns that drive these feelings, and the actions that stem from them, thereby transforming crises into opportunities. The conversation takes a deep dive into societal norms and how they often lead to midlife crises. We discuss how to break free from societal expectations and the fear of aging, and how to embrace the future and its endless possibilities. This episode is not just an exploration of the challenges and possibilities of midlife, but also offers tools for owning and reinventing your life on your own terms. So, if you're yearning for a change, feeling stuck in a rut, or simply curious about the mysteries of midlife, this episode is for you. Tune in for an empowering conversation on transforming crises into opportunities. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, September 10, 2023
Ep 143: The Art of Acceptance: Managing Disappointments in our Relationships
What if the person you admired the most did something unthinkable? Imagine having a mentor whose actions disappoint you so profoundly that it shakes your belief in your own judgment. That's precisely what happened when an influential figure in my life, a person I deeply respected, made a series of unfortunate, (in my estimation), decisions. As we traverse this challenging journey, we'll explore how to manage and reconcile with disappointment stemming from unfulfilled expectations in relationships. I'll share the six lessons I learned from my own experience - how it resulted in a whirlwind of emotions and compelled me to self-coach, re-evaluate my expectations, and navigate towards acceptance. Remember, expecting perfection from others is a recipe for perpetual disappointment. The sooner we realize this, the more liberating our relationships become. In the final analysis, it's about accepting imperfections in others and most importantly, in ourselves. It's about setting boundaries and understanding that ending a relationship doesn't mean the other person is wrong; it merely signifies the culmination of our journey with them. This episode will challenge you to reflect upon your own relationships, adjust your expectations, and ultimately find freedom in acceptance. So why not join me on this heartfelt exploration of managing expectations, acknowledging imperfections, and finding personal liberation. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, September 03, 2023
Ep 142: Taking Back Control When Life Feels Out of Control
There are times in our life when it feels like everything is out of control. And when that happens, for most of us, the natural reaction is to kick into high gear by trying to exercise some control. The problem is, we frequently try to control or change the situation or a person. And the truth is, we can't control other people and we can't control everything that happens to us. So on today's episode, we're talking about how to connect to the things that trigger us and most importantly, what to do about it. So we discuss what the optimal response is to feeling out of control. And that is to focus not on what's happening, but to focus on yourself. How you respond. What you think. What you do in those situations where you feel life is a little out of control. This is the key to moving past overwhelm, uncertainty and anxiety no matter what is happening. So you can feel empowered and at your best. It might sound impossible. But I can promise that no matter what is going on around you, you always have a point of power. And that is about controlling your responses to what's going on and being very purposeful in what you choose to put out into the world around you. Bottom line: Control yourself and you control your world. Give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, August 27, 2023
Ep 141: Conquering the 'I Don't Know' Mindset: A Journey of Self-Discovery
Why do we so often lean on the phrase "I don't know" even when deep down, we do know? That's the enigma we're unpacking today. I'm Carla Hudson, your host and guide on this self-discovery expedition. We'll brave the jungles of self-doubt, cross the deserts of denial, and scale the mountains of fear to explore why we often hide behind "I don't know." My own journey of self-coaching has opened my eyes to how this phrase impacts multiple life facets, and I'm eager to share these revelations with you. Through our adventure, we'll begin to comprehend the five key reasons behind our frequent use of "I don't know." From evading uncomfortable truths to overvaluing others' opinions, we'll dissect these factors and explore how recognizing them can set us on the path to growth. Whether it's a career junction or a personal dilemma, acknowledging the genuine reasons behind our "I don't knows" can switch the game. Our final destination? Breaking free from the "I don't know" cycle. Armed with my experience as a brand strategist and life coach, I'll introduce you to a revolutionary question: "If I did know, what might the answer be?" This could be your key to unlocking the truth within you, opening doors to unexplored possibilities. By the end of our expedition, you'll be transforming your "I don't knows" into stepping stones for personal growth. Plus, I have an exciting opportunity for those who wish to dive deeper into self-discovery: join my virtual coaching program and monthly membership. Let's conquer the "I don't knows" and embrace the power of self-knowledge! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, August 20, 2023
Ep 140: How Not to Get Stuck When Making Big Decisions
Discover how to unlock your decision-making prowess and navigate mid-life with confidence and purpose. As we explore the art of decision-making in this episode, we promise to offer insights that will help you move forward rather than stay rooted in one place. We all face choices every day, some minor, some life-changing. As daunting as they may seem, these decisions shape our lives, our growth, and our progress. Ever wondered if all paths might lead to the same destination? We’ll challenge this concept and show you how the choices we make can influence our unique journey and experiences along the way. The potential of making a mistake or a wrong decision can carry a heavy emotional load, particularly as we reach mid-life and the pace of change accelerates. Embracing this uncertainty, we'll discuss how to make decisions based on information and feelings, even when it’s hard to predict the outcome. Are you prepared to make decisions from a place of understanding rather than fear? In the final segment of this episode, we encourage you to trust in your ability to make the best decision with the information you have, even if it may not always work out. We wrap up by inviting you to join our virtual coaching program, Next Level, to apply the knowledge you've gained from this podcast and move towards cultivating decisiveness in this pivotal stage of your life. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, August 13, 2023
Ep 139: The Three Paths After Failure
Are you sailing through midlife like a ship lost at sea? In this episode of the Purposeful Career Podcast, I, Carla Hudson, tackle the topic of navigating failure. Drawing inspiration from a listener's raw and heartfelt email, I delve deep into the quagmire of feeling stuck and incapable of moving forward. We discuss society's checklist for us and why it's crucial to create an individualized list that aligns with our aspirations and desires. Failure defines us only if we allow it to. Instead, we can choose to learn and grow from the experience so it powers us forward instead of holding us back. It's about realizing that every situation, no matter how dire, carries a valuable lesson waiting to be discovered. The episode moves from being introspective to instructional, as I dissect the three paths one can take when faced with failure and the unique implications each carries. How you handle failure can be a defining moment. Will you make it about yourself, leading to self-doubt? Or will you make it about someone else, resulting in victimhood, bitterness and anger? Or will you choose the empowered path of transforming failure into a springboard for positive personal and professional change? The path we choose following failure determines whether we get stuck or whether we move forward with purpose. Let's explore these paths together and learn how we can turn failures into stepping stones towards success. Tune in for a journey filled with powerful insights, personal stories, and practical tips that will change your perspective on failure forever. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, August 06, 2023
Ep 138: Making Reinvention Stick: The Power of Self-Image
Ever wondered why reinventing yourself feels like moving mountains? Let me, Carla Hudson, guide you through this journey of transformation. Drawing from my extensive experience in both corporate and entrepreneurial worlds, we'll take a deep dive into the intriguing challenges of personal reinvention. We'll delve into why it's hard for yourself and others to see you in a new light and why personal growth is tricky, particularly when you're battling Imposter Syndrome or grappling with identity shifts. In this episode, we'll explore how the labels we've acquired and the opinions of others can heavily influence our self-perception and how others perceive us. We'll uncover how these factors can make us feel like an imposter when we're trying to advance in our careers or make positive changes in our lives. Additionally, we'll explore the power of self-image as a catalyst for change and how subconscious thought patterns dictate our actions and emotions. Remember, the goal isn't instant transformation. It's about creating a more empowering narrative for ourselves through small, consistent changes. So let's embark on this transformation journey together, and remember, you're not alone in this. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, July 30, 2023
Ep 137: Repositioning You: Reinvention Lessons from the World of Brand Strategy
What if you could take a step back from your life, examine it from a fresh perspective, and identify what's working and what's not, just like a brand strategist assesses a brand? Join me, Carla Hudson, as we navigate these interesting waters. The magic starts when we begin to view our lives from a less emotional, more pragmatic viewpoint, just as those managing a corporate brand would do. By doing this, we can effectively reposition ourselves for success. Together, we'll explore the fascinating world of brand repositioning, using real-life examples from Domino's, Cadillac, and Kia. Let's see how these big names changed their game by altering their brand positioning and, in doing so, achieved great success. We'll then take these business principles and apply them to our personal lives. Yes, it's time to view ourselves as a brand so we can pinpoint what's working and what's not. Then, using these insights, we'll create a new positioning that aligns with our goals. But that's not all! What could be more exciting than learning how to reposition your life? Applying what you've learned, of course! To help you do just that, we'll explore the value of having a life coach and how my virtual coaching program can assist you in applying these insights. Let's make your career and life everything you dream of! So, are you ready to reposition your life? Let's make it happen together! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, July 23, 2023
Ep 136: Staying Centered and Focused In Stressful, Chaotic Situations
Are you familiar with that all-too-common feeling of being overwhelmed in a chaotic work (or life) environment? I'm Carla Hudson, and in this episode, we tackle that struggle head-on. I share some strategies for how to stay grounded and in control of your energy in tough corporate settings. You'll hear about the rollercoaster ride of dealing with post-merger organizational changes, the often daunting reality of being an influencer within your company, and day-to-day challenges that can shake even the strongest resolve. We then move onto the power of maintaining intentionality in our interactions, a game-changer in controlling our energy amidst potential obstacles. I'll share how starting the day with a clear purpose and holding onto that energy can make all the difference. Plus, you'll get practical tips on how to manage your energy and stay centered when interacting with others. And how you can increase self-awareness in stressful situations. Learn how to maintain your equilibrium and not let your day be dictated by external circumstances. Finally, imagine the calm and focused state of an NFL quarterback under intense pressure. Now, what if I told you that there's a mindfulness technique that can help you maintain that same calm, authoritative, and confident demeanor even when your brain feels like it's being overwhelmed by outside chaos? We'll explore this technique, and also discuss the benefits of virtual coaching and mentoring for maintaining balance and clarity amid daily uncertainty. Whether you're dealing with corporate stress or personal challenges, this episode promises to equip you with valuable insights and practical advice on how to stay centered and focused. Tune in and empower yourself to navigate even the most turbulent waters with grace and composure. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, July 16, 2023
Ep 135: Embracing Discomfort: The Path to Personal Growth
What if the key to success and growth lies in the discomfort we often avoid? Buckle up as we challenge the notion of a 'good life' and explore the powerful impact discomfort can have on personal development. With my background as a brand strategist, entrepreneur, and life coach, I break down the two types of discomfort: the one stemming from challenging ourselves and the one from avoiding tough decisions. Interestingly, we may perceive our life as good while remaining in our comfort zone, but a closer look might reveal that we're stuck in a rut. Drawing from my journey of relocating to 14 cities for my career, I shed light on the consumption behaviors we often use as coping mechanisms, such as overeating or drinking. The truth is, hiding from the pain of creating a new life can seem enticing, but it's not necessarily the path to fulfillment. Shifting gears, we discuss how actually embracing discomfort can lead to personal growth. I serve up practical tips for widening your social circle and introduce a six-week challenge to break the status quo and try something new every week. So, are you ready to break free of the comfort zone and embrace discomfort on the road to personal growth? Let's start this journey together! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, July 09, 2023
Ep 134: How to Know if Your Brand Narrative is Empowering You or Holding You Back
Do you ever ponder over the person you present to the world? Ever wondered how your family, birth order, and even gender roles have subliminally crafted your personal brand? Prepare for an insightful discussion that will lead you into the labyrinth of your self-image and demonstrate how to seize control of your narrative, no matter your age. We'll journey into the depths of our inner dialogue, a narrative often built and reinforced over time by our surroundings. This narrative holds a potent influence over us, from the choices we make to the opportunities we perceive as within our reach. However, this self-talk, a double-edged sword, can be manipulated to our advantage. As we dissect the construction of our self-image, we'll see ways to turn the words we tell ourselves into a tool for empowerment, particularly when faced with significant opportunities. Lastly, we'll confront the elephant in the room - fear. This emotion often underpins our personal narrative, dictating our decisions and our actions. However, with understanding and knowledge, we can use fear as a catalyst for change. This episode will outline how fear can drive us to question our narratives, reassess our choices, and ultimately, forge a more empowering personal brand. If you're yearning to redefine your brand narrative and design a more fulfilling life, tune in and transform your perspective. For an even deeper dive, I invite you to join me for a masterclass later this month. Head over to my Instagram page, the purposeful career, for more details! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, July 02, 2023
Ep 133: Building a New Personal Brand at Mid-Life
Ready to redefine your brand narrative and craft your story, one that resonates deeply with your employees and customers? Tune in and unravel the strategic elements of a compelling brand narrative that stretches from your vision, mission, promise, positioning, all the way to values. We'll dissect how competition, company, and consumer - the 3Cs - can illuminate the path to your narrative, and by extension, inspire your product and experience strategy. Ever paused to consider the narrative you're creating for yourself? Let's shift that focus and re-conceptualize your personal brand narrative based on your unique values, aspirations, and future goals. We’ll tackle how to be deliberate in your presentation to the world and how this can shape the experiences of those you interact with. You'll gain fresh perspectives on translating this unique narrative into your daily life. We round off by exploring intentional living. It's all about designing a life pulsating with purpose and meaning. We'll empower you to craft a new narrative for your life, guiding you to live on purpose and not on autopilot. We'll delve into the power of learning from past experiences to propel you forward and paint a grander vision for your life. Also, we'll go on a tour through the realm of life coaching and how to forge a purposeful career. So, if you're ready to seize control of your life and career, this episode is your launchpad! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, June 25, 2023
Ep 132: Four Things to Do When You're Dreading Something
Do you ever find yourself consumed by dread when facing certain situations, people, or experiences? Fear not, as we're about to reveal how you can neutralize this powerful emotional drag and stop it from holding you back. Discover how the anticipation of pain can often be worse than the actual experience, and learn how to challenge your thoughts to conquer this crippling emotion. In the second half of the episode, we'll share some effective strategies for coping with dread and transforming it from a negative emotion into a state of neutrality. Learn how to shift your focus to the present moment and how to make yourself bulletproof in the face of criticism. To further enhance your personal and professional growth, join us in our virtual coaching program and monthly membership, Next Level, where we can take the material you hear on this podcast, study it, and apply it to your career and life. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, June 18, 2023
Ep 131: When You're Not Where You Think You "Should Be" In Your Career or Life
Do you ever catch yourself stuck in a pattern of "shoulding" yourself, constantly comparing your achievements to others? Let me share my experience coaching a client who struggled with the pressure of feeling like she should be in a certain place in her life. Together, we'll explore the negative impact of this mindset and discuss strategies for breaking free from the cycle of self-doubt and dissatisfaction. We'll also uncover the dangers of "shoulding" yourself and how it can lead to feelings of guilt, shame, and fear. This cycle of negative thoughts can hold you back from reaching your true potential. Learn how to recognize and let go of these harmful patterns, and start honoring your own path and desires. Say goodbye to the pressure of "shoulds" and hello to a life of clarity and self-confidence. Finally, discover the benefits of joining a next-level coaching program to help you reach your goals and build self-confidence. Learn why having a mentor and creating an environment conducive to success and positive growth is so important. Don't let the pressure of "shoulds" hold you back any longer – join us on this journey and unlock your full potential. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, June 11, 2023
Ep 130: Who Do You Think You Are?
What if I told you that the way you perceive yourself has a profound impact on every aspect of your life? Join me as we dive into the fascinating world of self-image and its far-reaching effects on our personal and professional lives. In this episode, we'll explore the power of labels we give ourselves, how our self-image is formed, and most importantly, how we can reshape it to create the life we truly desire. We start by examining the story of a highly accomplished woman at midlife who has faced self-worth issues due to her past relationships. We discuss how our self-image is formed through the labels we give ourselves and how they can affect multiple aspects of our lives, including career, relationships, and self-care. Discover the process of changing our self-image, starting with neutralizing our thoughts and using a stair step ladder approach to reach our desired state. Don't miss this opportunity to learn about the power of self-image work and how it can help you create the life you desire. By the end of our time together, you'll understand the importance of a strong self-image in leading to more meaningful relationships and better dating experiences. Plus, I'll share information about my virtual coaching program and monthly membership, Next Level, for those who are ready to take control of their self-image and make their career and life everything they dream of. So, who do you think you are? Let's find out together! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, June 04, 2023
Ep 129: Investing Your Time at Mid Life
Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, May 28, 2023
Ep 128: Decision Fatigue
Do you ever feel like your day is just crammed with hard things and you just can't make one more decision? Like you've reached your daily limit for hard decisions and just don't have the energy or capacity to make one more? If so, I get it. I never really heard of decision fatigue as a "thing" until a few weeks ago, but the second I did, I heard that inner ding. And I realized the very real way this has played out for me over the years. I didn't want to pick up the phone after work because I felt like it had rung nonstop during my work day. I didn't want to decide what to do on the weekend or for vacation because it felt too hard to decide. Sure, I took care of the things I had to take care of in my life. The necessities. But for many years, I let some of the more enjoyable parts of life go unaddressed - like keeping up with friends via phone or email or making plans for vacays - because I was just too tired to have one more conversation. Too tired to make one more decision or do one more thing, even if it was for something fun. Depending on the content of your workday and the complexity or weight of the decisions you make everyday, it's perfectly normal to feel like your brain battery is depleted. To feel like you need to recharge. And when that happens, what you really need is to give yourself some time and space to recuperate and reenergize. That'll the equivalent of plugging in your cellphone. But avoiding things or telling yourself things are too hard or that you just can't (or won't) make any other decisions, probably isn't an approach that'll serve you well. It just means you're letting important things go. The truth is, life comes for us all. We've got work. We've got family. We've got friends. We've got hard things to deal with. So on this week's podcast episode, we're talking decision fatigue. How it shows up and what to do about it. Give it a listen. Then share it with a friend. And then go plan that vacay, even if you're a little tired. Two months from now you will thank you for it. ;). Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, May 21, 2023
Ep 127: How to Find the Value in Challenges
Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, May 14, 2023
Ep 126: How to Stop a Negative Thought Loop
Do you ever find yourself stuck in a negative thought loop? Where you find yourself ruminating endlessly on the negative things that have either happened in your past or are happening now? If so, you're not alone. It's how our human brain works. Our brains are wired to detect threats. That's the primitive part of our brain. It wants to protect us. It wants us to survive. And so, when something happens that our brain interprets as negative or potentially dangerous, it's going to trigger an instinctive response. That response might be to run from the danger. Or it might be to play out potential outcomes endlessly, each scenario maybe more catastrophic than the last. Or it might be to endlessly ruminate on why it happened in the first place. Why us? There's nothing about that endlessly running negative thought loop that's going to serve you. It's not empowering. It's only going to keep you stuck. Right where you are. Focused on what's wrong with your life. The truth is that in life, things are going to happen that we don't like. And when that happens, the answer is not to let our default way of thinking take over. The answer is to decide, proactively, how you want to deal with it. In a way that is the most optimistic, the most powerful, the most productive. And no matter what is happening for you right now, I can promise you that this is possible. You can get yourself out of a negative thought spiral and into a place of mental and emotional neutrality so you can move forward. So that you're creating the future you want from the broadest perspective of what's possible for you. You can't do that when you're spinning in negativity. You have to do an emotional reset. And that's what we're talking on this episode. It's an incredibly important and powerful practice. Give it a listen. Then share it with a friend. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, May 07, 2023
Ep 125: Changing Your Perspective at Mid Career
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Sun, April 30, 2023
Ep 124: Ambition at Mid-Career
Ambition is a phrase typically reserved for people closer to the start of their career. But today we're talking about what ambition actually looks like at mid-life. Because while we might still enjoy what we do, the truth is at mid-career we have a more complicated life. That are many things vying for our attention. And most of us have to figure out a way to balance the demands of our life with the demands of a career that is at or approaching it's peak. At the same time, mid-career is also a time when our perspective is starting to shift. We realize that the road in front of us is finite. And we become more aware of wanting to spend our remaining time doing things that matter to us. Things that might look very different from what we're doing right now. So today we're talking about how to think about what you want now. How you're feeling everyday in your current role. And we're discussing the benefit of exploring possibilities for your future that might look very different from your life today. I offer questions to ask yourself as it relates to where you are and where you want to go. So you ensure the time remaining in your career is time you'll spend doing something you love. Ambition is not a topic reserved for the young. Mid-life is a time to reignite that fire in your belly so you recalibrate and re-fire into a very meaningful next act. Give the episode a listen. Then share it with a friend. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sat, April 22, 2023
Ep 123: Reinvention at Mid Career
Today we're talking about reinvention. Not through the lens of just changing the outer façade of our life. But through the lens of true transformation, which is, changing how we see ourselves. Because when we change how we see ourselves, we change what's possible for us. We start to show up in the world in a new way. We address the challenges we encounter in a new way. We see new possibilities for ourselves. Reinvention is something many of us fantasize about when we get to mid-life. We long for it and yet, we wonder if it's possible to re-imagine our life. We wonder if we're just too set in the way we've always been. We fear blowing up our existing ways of being to step into a new world that's unfamiliar. It's exciting to think about. But a little scary too. So in today's episode, we're talking reinvention at mid-career and mid-life. And I'm sharing six ways to go about it. Whether it's something you wonder about casually, or whether it's something you feel compelled to try because you're just not willing to settle for the life you have any longer, this episode is worth checking out. It's worth it to at least consider reinvention. To try on that change you're dreaming of like as you would a designer suit you've been admiring. To see how it fits. To see if it's something you want. Reinvention can be a fun exercise that's about exploring possibilities. And you're never too old, too set in your ways and it's never too late to give something entirely new a try. So, give the episode a listen. Then share it with a friend. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sat, April 15, 2023
Ep 122: Resilience at Mid Career
Resilience is the ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficulties. It's about being mentally tough. That's something we need at any age. But particularly at midlife. Because midlife is when we're kind of getting it from all sides. We're at the peak of our career. We might still have our children at home. Or we might be dealing with children leaving the nest. We might also be dealing with aging parents. It's also the time of life when we can have more pressing financial problems. Or health problems. Bottom line, midlife is probably the time when we'll most need to be resilient. Many of us think that we're either resilient or we're not. But the truth is, resilience is a muscle. It's a learned way of being. Some of us acquire resilience skills in our youth by weathering challenging experiences. Or perhaps by participating in team sports. But resilience can be learned at any age. It's a way of thinking, feeling and behaving that helps you to cope. And bounce back. Believing that you're better for having had the (difficult) experience. And confident in the knowledge you have what it takes now to face that situation next time. This is important. Not just at midlife but at any age. And this is what we're talking about on this week's podcast. Give it a listen. Then share it with a friend. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, April 09, 2023
Ep 121: The Change Curve: Learning to Roll with Life's Changes
If change is inevitable and continual, how come most of us find it so challenging? Since it's something we all deal with everyday from the day we're born, you'd think we'd all be Masters in rolling with change - especially by the time we get to mid career or mid life. But we're not. Actually it's the opposite. Most of us have an adversarial relationship with change. We deny it's happening (for as long as we can). We resist and vilify it (as if that's going to "change" anything that's going on). Until finally we realize it's inevitable, at which point we (begrudgingly) accept it. This paradigm shows up everywhere in our life - career, home, relationships, culture, technology, the economy...you name it. But it doesn't have to be that way. There's actually a thing called The Change Curve. I was lucky enough to learn this early in my career from a very wise boss and mentor. And it's helped me not only with the leadership roles I've held in business. But it's also helped me roll with some of the tougher work and life hands I've been dealt over the years (to put it in poker terms). When we let our brains run the show on autopilot, we humans will do all kinds of crazy things to try to deny or stop the changes that are happening (at least the ones we don't like). But the truth is, denial and resistance never work because the changes that are going to happen are, well, going to happen. There's a better way. Instead of denial or resistance... What if you learned how to deal with change proactively? What if you learned to accept it more quickly? What if you learned to instantly look for the possibilities something new might present, instead of wasting time denying or resisting it? What if you could proactively find the best ways to deal with it in your own life? The great news is, you can. You can become a master at dealing with change. And it's an invaluable thing to know when you're responsible for leading a team, organization or business. The change curve. Give it a listen. Then share it with a friend. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, April 02, 2023
Ep 120: The Value of Wanting (Loving) What You Have Even When You're Pursuing More
It's so easy to get caught up in wanting something more or different. More success. More money. A better relationship. A better job. It's natural. It's how our human brains are wired. Especially American human brains. But it's probably a global thing. And there's nothing wrong with wanting more out of life. After all, that's kinda what my business and podcast are all about. The problem though is when the pursuit of something more or different causes you to discount where you are. To devalue what you've achieved. To diminish who you've become. To discount the things you already have. And this happens when you dismiss the things you have and see them as imperfect because you're focusing on the value or perfection of the new dream you're pursuing. Wanting to be the best version of you, to see what you're capable of doing is a beautiful thing. But the key is to do that from a place of fully appreciating and valuing and being grateful for what you already have. To actually love the things you've achieved and acquired and possess while at the same time allowing yourself to passionately pursue something more. When you love what you have while going after what you want next, it takes the desperation out of the pursuit. The pursuit becomes about actualization. The pursuit isn't about fixing something that's wrong or broken or less than it should be. And it isn't about filling yourself up or making yourself happy by getting the new thing. The pursuit of the new thing just becomes about seeing what's possible for yourself. To see what you're capable of. And doing that from a place where you're already happy and content with where you're at and what you already have. Even if where you're at is less than perfect. When we learn to appreciate *here* and the lessons we learned that got us here, we get to feel that sense of satisfaction and actualization right now. Right where we are. With all the things in our life we already have. And that's beautiful way to live. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 26, 2023
Ep 119: Dealing with Other People's Opinions (#2 of 2)
People are going to have opinions about us. About who we are. About what we're doing. About what they think and feel about that. And in our career or business, this can become a distraction. Certainly we need to present ourselves to our stakeholders and communities in a way that isn't off-putting or offensive. In a way that is sensitive to others. But if we're not careful, we can become too fixated on what other people think about us. And when we do that, it holds us back. It keeps us from putting ourselves out there. It keep us from speaking up in the meeting. It keep us from saying what we really think or from doing what we really want to do. And here's the real truth of it. When we modify our behavior to try to influence how or what people think of us, it never works. People are going to have their opinions no matter what. So my advice is to shift your focus from other people's opinions to yourself. On what you think. On what you want to do. And go do that. Let other people think what they will. Let them be wrong (or right) about you. And let it not matter which way it goes. That's what we're talking on the podcast. Give the episode a listen. Then share it with a friend. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 19, 2023
Ep 118: Dealing with Other People's Actions (#1 of 2)
Sometimes people don't make sense. They can commit to something and then not follow through. They can say they want one thing and then do something completely opposite. I think we're all guilty of this at times. It's about our human brain and the reality of what happens if it goes unmanaged. Sometimes we'll do things that don't make sense. Which means the other people in that scenario are left trying to figure it out. And it can be confounding. This is something that can happen in any part of our life. In the business we run. In our corporate life. Or in our relationships. So on today's episode, we're talking about what to do if you find yourself in a place where other people aren't following through in some way with something you agreed to do. And how to avoid getting stuck in an unhelpful dynamic where you're trying to control or negotiate or influence the other person into "seeing the light" or changing their behavior. Because that never works. We all know this intellectually, but I know from very painful, personal experience that it's very easy to forget. So today I'm sharing six steps to follow when you find yourself in a situation like that so you can get unstuck and moving forward again. This will help with any situations in your career or your life. Give the episode a listen. Then share it with a friend. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 12, 2023
Ep 117: Six Ways to Manage Through a Crisis
I recently lost both of my parents within a matter of months. This happened after nearly a year where I (and my siblings) provided long-term care to my parents. Which required me to be halfway across the country one week of each month. Which started just after I began a new job. In a new Industry. In a hybrid work situation, requiring me to be in the office 3 days a week. Which was happening while I was also trying to grow a business. It was a lot. We can all find ourselves in times like this. Where it's like one thing happens, then another, then another. Until it all feels like too much. So today, I'm sharing the six things I did to manage through that crisis with my parents. It will work no matter what you're dealing with. A job loss. An illness. A death. These are six powerful ways to take back control over the emotions that pile up during times like this. So you can show up in those times in the way you want to. And do that in the healthiest, most powerful and productive way you can. Give it a listen. And then share it with a friend who might be struggling. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 05, 2023
Ep 116: The Five Types of Impostor Syndrome & the Cycle (#2 of 2)
There are five types of Imposter Syndrome. This is important to know because the first part of changing your Impostor ways is recognizing when it's happening. So today we're building off last week's episode and we're exploring the different ways it can show up. You might experience it one way. Or (like me) you might experience many (or even all). Bottom line, you need to know the way it shows up for you so you can recognize it and shift it. And lastly we discuss the six-part Impostor Cycle. Because that's what it is. A recurring pattern of thinking, feeling and acting that starts with a trigger (typically something new that raises your profile a bit). This is important work. And while my coaching practice and the CBT-based method I teach are the ultimate long-term fix for this recurring cycle, in this episode I share some very helpful 'short term fixes' that you can put into practice today. Give the episode a listen. And then (please) share it with a friend you think might be experiencing this. Impostor Syndrome will steal your joy and suck all the life out of your self-belief and your relationships. It's my mission to help alleviate this faulty thinking pattern from the planet. Give it a listen. And join us next week for the webinar, where we'll go a little deeper. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, February 26, 2023
Ep 115: The Origins and Impacts of Impostor Syndrome (#1 of 2)
According to statistics more than 80% of us experience Impostor Syndrome. And for women that number is upwards of 90%. It disproportionately affects high achievers. Given the fact that it's something most of us will contend with to some extent, I wanted to explore it. So, on today's episode we're discussing what Impostor Syndrome is, where it comes from, how it shows up and how it impacts us. I know from personal experience the very real effect it can have on our life, our achievements and our wellbeing as I struggled with it for most of my career. And it wasn't until the past five years that I really learned how to quiet the voice of that inner critic. So join me on today's episode to learn a bit more about it and what you can do about it. Give the episode a listen. Then share it with a friend. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, February 19, 2023
Ep 114: How to Find Meaning at Mid-Career
When we're just starting our career, we can look at the leaders around us and fantasize about what it will be like when we have what they have. The big title. The big salary. The big team. We think it's going to be amazing. We think our career (and our life) will have all this meaning because we'll have accomplished what we set out to do. But the truth is by the time most of us get there, the reality of living that achievement is quite different from the fantasy. And while we might have many of the trapping of success, we can find ourselves living a life without much meaning. When this happens it's important to understand *why* we feel this way. What is getting in the way of feeling proud, fulfilled and amazing. So on today's episode, we're talking about four of the ways our perspective about things gets in the way of feeling great about our career or life. And most importantly, what you can do about it. Give it a listen. Then share it with a friend. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, February 12, 2023
Ep 113: The Benefits of Seeing Yourself as a Free Agent (or CEO of your Career)
Today is Super Bowl Sunday in the U.S. and in honor of my Chiefs being in the Super Bowl (woo hoo!), I wanted to share a concept that I borrowed from the NFL. This is the way I think of my own career and the way I advise my clients, friends and team members to do. It's about thinking of yourself as a Free Agent. In the NFL that means being free to solicit offers from or sign with other NFL teams. And the reason thinking that way benefits you in your own career is a Free Agent has some very special ways of being: - They go all in to have their best year ever (so they can command the highest price in the open market) - They keep themselves in peak condition (the analogy for you is keeping your skills sharp) - They're always exploring the possibilities in the market Basically, they're taking 100% control of their career. They know they're the agent, the manager and the marquee talent and they own the responsibility for managing all of that. It's an interesting way to stay inspired and motivated no matter what is happening in your career right now. Give the episode a listen and then share it with a friend. And GO CHIEFS! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sat, February 04, 2023
Ep 112: Dealing with Tribalism at Work (and in Life)
In life, it's a fundamental human need to feel like you belong. To feel a part of the group. That's true in our personal and our work life. In our career, we get much of our work identity from what we do for a living. The company we work at. The team we're a part of. But there can be a downside to tribalism at work. And it happens when we use it to separate or exclude people from the group. When we refuse to collaborate or work with others. When we adopt an us vs. them philosophy. When we have a circle the wagons and shoot out mentality. When we use our work tribes to tear down others, that's when organizational politics and gamesmanship gets in the way of corporate productivity and the wellbeing of the employees who work there. On today's episode, we explore how the underbelly of tribalism can show up, how it hurts companies and what you can do to make a positive difference. Give the episode a listen. Then share it with a friend. And join us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer and tell us what you think about the topic. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 29, 2023
Ep 111: Five Steps to Take When You've Been Pushed Off Your Path
Sometimes we get pushed off our path. By a job loss or an unexpected situation. And sometimes we feel that subtle but persistent internal nudge that tells us the path we're on is no longer for us. When we find ourselves at a crossroads, it's easy to get stuck. So on today's episode we're talking about transitions. Big transitions. That can happen at anytime but which happen for many of us at midlife. And we talk about five steps you can take to proactively navigate that change to keep you moving forward with possibility instead of staying stuck in fear or uncertainty. Give it a listen. Then, share it with a friend. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 22, 2023
Ep 110: The Secret to Finding Your Motivation
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Sun, January 15, 2023
Ep 109: The Power of Making External Changes
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Sun, January 08, 2023
Ep 108: Three Things to Do When You're Telling Yourself "It's Too Late"
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Sun, January 01, 2023
Ep 107: A Game-Changing Way to Look at Your 2023 Goals
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Sun, December 18, 2022
Ep 106: What to Do When You're Experiencing a Mid-Career (or a Mid Life) Crisis
Have you ever found yourself questioning, 'Is this all there is to life?' after seemingly checking all the societal boxes? If so, you're not alone. In our insightful conversation, we're unravelling the challenging reality of mid-career and mid-life crises. We share personal experiences and provide constructive advice on how to reinvent and embrace a new path, even when you're feeling stuck or plagued with feelings of discontent or anxiety. We delve into the intricacies of how our thoughts and emotions shape our actions, and consequently our lives, especially how they can lead us into a crisis. The episode is rich with insights on how to manage imposter syndrome, fear, uncertainty, perfectionism and self-doubt. We explore ways to change the thought patterns that drive these feelings, and the actions that stem from them, thereby transforming crises into opportunities. The conversation takes a deep dive into societal norms and how they often lead to midlife crises. We discuss how to break free from societal expectations and the fear of aging, and how to embrace the future and its endless possibilities. This episode is not just an exploration of the challenges and possibilities of midlife, but also offers tools for owning and reinventing your life on your own terms. So, if you're yearning for a change, feeling stuck in a rut, or simply curious about the mysteries of midlife, this episode is for you. Tune in for an empowering conversation on transforming crises into opportunities. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, December 11, 2022
Ep 105: How to Climb Out of a Hole at Mid Career (or Mid Life)
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Sun, December 04, 2022
Ep 104: The Problem with Wanting Life to Be Easy
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Sun, November 27, 2022
Ep 103: Why We Sometimes Don't Pursue Our Goals
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Sun, November 20, 2022
Ep 102: How to Get Unstuck
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Sun, November 13, 2022
Ep 101: How to Move Past Regret
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Sat, November 05, 2022
Ep 100: How to Re-Fire at Mid Career
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Sun, October 30, 2022
Ep 099: Inner Leadership & Your Career
The pace of change in technology and the world is increasing. Which means businesses and employees must be agile and adaptable. And yet, the trends on workplace engagement and satisfaction aren't great. In fact, they've been trending down for two decades. Almost it seems as a direct correlation to the pace of change increasing. And with the introduction of social media and shifts in the global economy and politics and general unrest across the world, the general happiness of our society is in a similar state. All of this introduces a level of uncertainty and angst in our career and life. And if we don't have a strong leader or boss who can help us navigate the change at work, we can find ourselves struggling, dissatisfied, maybe even miserable. So what's the solution? Well, it won't be found outside of you. You can job hop your way into the perfect work situation. It might help you find a temporary measure of fulfillment but it's guaranteed it won't stay that way. There's only one way guaranteed to help you deal with the constant state of change today and that is Inner Leadership. In today's episode, I'm going to share four ways you can put it into practice. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 23, 2022
Ep 098: Prioritizing Self-Care in Your Busy Life
Self-Care can be a loaded phrase. But it's important. Because how we take care of ourselves drives how we show up in our life. How we feel about ourselves. How we tackle our job. How we care for our families. The truth is though, so many of us don't practice good self care. We put ourselves last. We tell ourselves that we'll get to it when we have more time. We'll take care of ourselves once we've taken care of our other responsibilities. We do this because we think everything else matters more than we do. And when we think this, we've got it all wrong. We matter. And in order to be there for everything and everyone else, we have to first be there for ourselves. We have to believe that by caring for ourselves, we're laying the foundation for everything else we're here in this life to do. It starts with how we think about ourselves. Believing that we're worth our own time, money and attention. And it becomes a habit when we schedule it in and make it a priority. Once you start caring for yourself like you're worth it, you'll be amazed by how other things in your life will fall into place. It's truly the key to unlocking the career and the life that YOU want and deserve. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 16, 2022
Ep 097: Building Self-Belief (Self-Belief #2 of 2)
In today's episode, we're talking about building self-belief. This is the second part of a two-part series on self-belief. And it's important. Because we all have limited beliefs in some areas of our life. If those beliefs go unchecked, they can get in our way. Hold us back from the things we really want to do with our life. In today's episode, we explore: - Where the limiting self-beliefs come from - How they can hold us back And we talk about how what we believe about ourselves is a choice. A choice we can make any time, no matter how long we've held a particular belief. Our human brain has something called neuroplasticity, which basically means it has the ability to change. And this is true for any age. So if there's a belief in your life that's holding you back in some way, give this episode a listen. And follow the step by step plan to start your own daily self coaching practice. Choose to believe something new about what's possible for you. It's never too late. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 09, 2022
Ep 096: Protecting Your Self-Belief (Self-Belief #1 of 2)
When unwanted things happen in our life, we can make them mean things about us that chip away at our self belief. This happens without us realizing it. It's just how the brain works when it's running on auto pilot. But it's important to protect our self belief. To not let things erode that. So in this episode, I'm talking about: - Where negative self belief comes from - How it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy - What to do about it We talk about how to guard against making faulty interpretations about the unwelcome things that happen. And the importance of choosing to think of those things in ways that will serve you going forward. When we have a positive self belief in any area of our life, we have to protect it at all costs. This episode talks about how and why. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, October 02, 2022
Ep 095: How to Not Get Stuck on Why Something Happened
We all have things that happen in our career or lives that are unwanted. They're either unfair. Or unjust. Or in some way, they're just not welcome. And when that happens, we have two choices. We can either get stuck in why, ruminating on the unfairness or all the ways it doesn't make sense. Or, we can simply move on and focus on the things we want to do next. Getting stuck in why can seem important. We can tell ourselves we have to understand it before we can move on. But here's what I want you to know. Why it happened doesn't matter. It happened. The only thing that matters now is what you want to do about it. What you want to do NOW or NEXT. THAT is your point of power. So in this episode, I share a case study from what one of my clients is experiencing right now in corporate America, how she's gotten a bit stuck and what I'm coaching her to do now so she can move forward with purpose into her next act. This is something I believe we all struggle with on occasion in work and life. And if that's you right now I want you to know that I empathize. I feel for you. And if you're someone who has a curious mind and finds themselves stuck in overthinking on why it happened or why if happened to you or why they did that or whatever...I encourage you to just stop. Follow the advice in this podcast and ask yourself the two most empowering words available to you. Now what? For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, September 25, 2022
Ep 094: How to Avoid Emotional Triggers At Work (Or in Life)
Have you ever been triggered? Most of us have and it's not pleasant. When we're triggered emotionally, we tend to respond in ways that don't serve us. Plus, it just feels like crap. In today's episode, I share some insight on why we get triggered, how the triggers develop and why it's the default way our brain tends to run. And more importantly, I talk about what you can do about it. How you can get in touch with all the ways that you're triggered. How to go into those potentially triggering situations feeling prepared. So you stay strong and in command of your thought life, your emotional state and in how you're responding to whatever is going on. This is an important part of what it means to show up as your best regardless of your circumstances. And it not only helps you deal with potentially difficult situations in the best possible way - a way that serves you, it also helps you feel better. More in control. More at your best. So give the episode a listen and say goodbye to the things that trigger you. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, September 18, 2022
Ep 093: What To Do When You're Bored
In today's episode, we're talking about boredom. This is important because learning how to shift out of boredom is a bit part of being able to have the fulfilling career and life we all want. Most of us think that when we're bored, it's caused by what's going on around us. By things outside us. But it's not. Boredom is an emotion we feel because of what we're thinking about what's going on (or not) around us. Getting clear on that is important. Because we never want to try top solve the boredom by taking some sort of action, like changing jobs or partners or our circumstances. We want to first change how we're thinking about our job or partner or circumstances (or whatever else is going on that you think is causing your boredom). We feel bored because of what we're thinking. And this is something we can change. It's 100% in our power. We have the ability to identify things about our circumstances that we can connect to or engage in or be interested in, thereby shifting us our of boredom and into either a more neutral or even positive emotion. And then from there we can take more productive actions that will bring us to a different place in our career or life or relationship or whatever. We never want to take action when we're feeling a negative emotion. Because that action (or inaction) is probably not going to serve us or take us somewhere we want to go. In this episode, we'll talk about the five types of boredom, what causes them and what you can do to shift out of that. This is a great episode full of insight and practical advice that you might want to come back to again and again. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Mon, September 12, 2022
Ep 092: Three Things to Do When You're Unhappy at Work
We all have times when we feel unhappy with our work. Whether it's about feeling bored or discontent with our career path or unhappy with the boss or culture, the truth is, our career (and life) is made up of peaks and valleys. The key is finding your way through it in a way that serves you. But most of us try to solve our unhappiness problem by looking outside of us. By focusing on changing the situation. I know I certainly did that for most of my career. I truly believed that there was this magical right place out there and if I could just find the perfect combination of industry, geographical location, company size, etc., I would find the key to career bliss. But the truth is, it's never the things outside us that are making us unhappy. It's always what we're thinking about those things outside us that's the source of the issue. What we're choosing to focus on. The filter we're using to determine how we feel about the content of our job or our day. And that's 100% within our ability to control. In this episode, I give you three things you can do - starting today - to shift out of unhappiness, boredom or whatever negative emotion you're feeling. And how to intentionally choose a perspective or way of thinking about your job that can generate feelings of satisfaction or fulfillment. Or at least generate a sense of neutrality. From this more positive emotional place, you'll be better able to make the important decisions we all have to make from time to time and that is, what to do next. You want to be making important decisions like that from an emotional place that serves you. Because running away from problems will rarely get us to the place of career fulfillment that we're longing for. We want to make those big important changes from a place of feeling empowered and good and from a place of possibility and clarity. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Mon, September 05, 2022
Ep 091: Reframing What Failure Means
Most of us have a healthy fear of failure. At least in some area of our life. And the thing about that is that it can hold us back. It keeps us from pursuing our goals. It's the driving force behind procrastination, perfectionism, stagnation and so much more. This all came up for me because I've been working on some huge, audacious goals for my business in 2023. And as I was doing some thought work with my own life coach, she asked me a question that blew my mind. She said, "What if failure isn't even real?" I immediately went into tilt. And I pushed back. Because I kept thinking, "Of course failure is real!" But as I really explored that idea over the next few weeks, I realized that what she was saying was true. Failure is an idea. It's a concept. And most of us - through the course of our lives and experiences - have formed this idea of what failure means and what it will say about us if we try something and don't succeed at it initially. But the truth is, it's NOT a real thing. It's not one of the laws of the universe, like say, gravity. It's an idea that varies in meaning for each of us. We don't all have a shared idea of what it means or even whether it's important or not. What it means to use depends on our own set of experiences, what people have told us and our own perceptions of things we've observed. All of that has gotten stored away in our mind. And it can and does, hold most of us back. At least in some areas of our life. But it doesn't have to. Give the episode a listen and see how you might decide to reframe failure in your own life. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, August 28, 2022
Ep 090: How to Do Daily Self Coaching (How to Self Coach #2 of 2)
In last week's episode, I shared the coaching methodology I use in my practice. It's based on the Cognitive Behavior approach to psychology and it helps uncover hidden patterns of thought which might be holding you back or keeping you from realizing your goals and fullest potential. And in this week's episode, I'm going to walk you through how to use that methodology in a daily self-coaching practice. I'll walk you through the process step by step so you can start your self coaching today. As you start doing this practice daily, you'll begin to gain a deeper awareness into your own patterns of thinking and you'll start to see how those patterns are actually creating everything in your life. All of the challenges and triumphs ultimately start from how you're thinking about the people and challenges around you, how you think about yourself and your possibilities. And as you gain in awareness, you'll get to decide whether those recurring patterns of thought are serving you and if not, you'll be able to select new thoughts you want to think instead. Thoughts that will power an entirely new future for yourself. Give it a try. Commit to three months and experience all the shifts that are possible for you. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Mon, August 22, 2022
Ep 089: The Five Parts of Any Problem (How to Self Coach #1 of 2)
This is the first in a two-part series on how to change your career and life through the power of self-coaching. In this episode, I introduce you to the cognitive-approach to coaching that I use in my practice. It's based on the Cognitive Behavior Therapy (called CBT) approach, a method of psychological treatment that helps you uncover hidden patterns of thought and the role they're playing in your life. It helps you identify the thoughts that are the source of your problems and replacing those with new, more helpful thoughts that will lead to better outcomes in your life. We talk about the five interrelated parts of any problem. And the role that your thoughts have in either contributing to or diminishing the challenges that come your way. This is really important. It's foundational really when it comes to having the career or life you want. And yet, we aren't taught this. We don't usually learn this unless we find a therapist or coach who teaches this CBT approach. I'm going to share the foundation of the methodology in this episode. And next week, I'll walk you through how to set up a daily self-coaching practice so you can put it into practice. This is life changing stuff. And it applies equally well to your career or any aspect of your life. It's so important, it's one you might want to listen to more than once. And be sure you join me next week to learn how to use it on a daily basis. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Mon, August 15, 2022
Ep 088: How to Get More Done Every Day
In today's demanding, always-on world, most of us are telling ourselves stories around time. We're too busy. We don't have enough time. There's not enough hours in the day. It's easy to believe that story. Because in truth, most of us are legitimately, quite busy. With emails and IM's and days packed with meetings and a personal life filled with loved ones and houses and other obligations, it's all to easy to believe that there's no cure for the busyness. And that there's no way to get it all done. But here's the thing. When life gets busy, we have to next level our approach to time management. And today I want to share a simple approach to doing just that. It's super easy to do and yet it takes your level of focus and work output to the next level. And it'll help undo learned patterns of behavior like perfectionism, procrastination and so much more. You'll actually find more time in your day while significantly increasing the volume of work. And even up-leveling the quality of your work. For the details, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Mon, August 08, 2022
Ep 087: How to Stop Comparing
Well hello friends. I hope you had an amazing week. Today we're going to talk about how to stop comparing yourself to others. And I don't think that's an accident in today's social media-driven world. But what originally inspired the episode was a quote I saw from Teddy Roosevelt, which said that “comparison is the thief of joy.” And that made me want to talk about it in this episode because our careers (and our lives for that matter) are full of opportunities to compare ourselves with others. So, let’s look at where this need to compare comes from. According to psychologists, it gets programmed into us from a very young age. It might start when we’re young with a parent saying something like, “why can’t you be more like your sister.” It continues through our school years, with teachers comparing student performance or behavior, like keeping a chart with names and gold stars. Or my personal favorite…my algebra teacher in freshman year who seated us according to how we did on the last test. Low scores in front and high performers in the back row. Math was never my thing so needless to say; I wasn’t sitting in the back row. It continues throughout our school years as we look to others as a way to measure how WE’RE doing. And of course, it continues throughout our lives. Relationships. Families. Possessions. Our careers are also a place where we look to others to measure how WE’RE doing. Basically, we’ve learned to measure our own performance or value by comparing ourselves to those around us. While some of us rely on comparison more than others, it’s something we all do on occasion. In psychology, it’s called “social comparison theory.” The theory says that as humans, we’re driven to define ourselves and our value. And one of the ways we do this is by comparing our abilities and achievements to those of other people. The theory goes on to say that we’re prone to “ upward social comparison” when it comes to looking at our own abilities. Which basically means that we compare ourselves to others who are ahead of us, and we use that as a way to measure how we stack up to them. There’s also something called “ downward social comparison” which is when we look to others who are behind us or perhaps in more challenging circumstances. In this case, we look to them because it helps us feel better about ourselves because we think “well, at least I’m better off than that person.” So, is the habit of comparing ourselves to others a good thing or a bad thing? Well…the answer is, it depends on our motives for the comparison. And of course, like everything else we talk about on this podcast, I believe the answer is that it can be a VERY good and helpful thing if we use it with purpose and good intention. But it can also be a tool we use to make ourselves wrong or bad or not good enough. For more, give the episode a listen.
Sat, July 30, 2022
Ep 086: How To Mentally Deal With Things You Don’t Want
Last week I re-shared one of my Most Valued Podcast episodes called Soothing Your Inner Critic. It was originally episode 6 and now I shared it again as episode 85. I did that because I have new listeners joining the podcast all the time and now that there’s more than 80 episodes, I know you guys don’t always have time to go back that far to listen. So, I thought I’d share again because most of us have at least occasional flare-ups of our inner critic in whatever form it takes. And it’s good to be aware of it and to understand how to calm or soothe it. Because if we don’t learn how to do that, it can hold us back from the things we want most in life. So, if you haven’t had a chance yet, you might want to go back and give that episode a listen. But today I want to build on last week’s episode. And I want to talk about how to bring your brain back to neutral no matter what challenges are going on in your work or life. How to practice self-command when it comes to what you CHOOSE to think about you, your possibilities, your work, your challenges. All of it. Because when it comes to making the most of life, I think most of us would agree that life is what we make of it. I mean we know that we’re all going to have challenges and most of us intuitively get that our attitude determines our altitude. Or that we need to make lemonade from the lemons. Or whatever cliché you want to use. The clichés are there because in general, they’re universally agreed upon truths. But guess what? Very few of us know how to direct our thought life. How to think ON PURPOSE. Why? Because we’re not taught this. When you really stop to think about it, it’s kind of interesting that literally no part of our education – unless you study mental health or psychology – teaches us how to manage that super powerful computer processor that is our brain. We have zero idea of how to consistently make it work for us. And because of that, even the most disciplined personal development devotees will experience hit or miss results. And your average person doesn’t even know that their brain is theirs to direct. And that the way they feel doesn’t just HAPPEN. It’s not random. It happens because of a thought we’re thinking. It might be a thought in our subconscious…so one we’re not aware of. But it’s that thought that’s causing us to feel crappy. Not the situation that’s going on. And here is where people who are new to this concept sometimes jump in and talk about all the “bad” things that happen in life. Sickness. Death. Financial Troubles. Job Loss. And they say, those things are bad, and I can’t just tell myself they’re good. So let me set the record straight. Yes. Bad things happen. And the answer isn’t to try to tell yourself they’re really a good thing. But the key is to adopt a view of life that says, hey…the human experience is going to be part good and part bad. Sometimes we have the abi
Mon, July 25, 2022
Ep 085: How to Soothe Your Inner Critic
I like to say that my business sits at the intersection of brain science and your career aspirations. Because our brain is what gets in the way of what we really want. It’s usually less about the things that happen to us or our lack of opportunity or the mistakes we make or the skills we have or don’t have and more about what we make those things mean or what we believe it possible for ourselves. And one of the most important aspects of this is developing an awareness and self-command over what, for many of us, is an overactive inner critic. That negative internal talk track that for many of us runs on overdrive. It’s important to gain awareness over it, understand where it’s coming from and learn how to soothe it, so it doesn’t hold you back from the things you want the most. This is one of the very first episodes of the podcast from back in February 2021, which was Super Bowl Sunday in the United States, where my team – the KC Chiefs were defending their Super Bowl title from 2020. They lost. And it was far from their best showing. But the lessons from the episode endure. So I hope you enjoy listening or re-listening, to Soothing Your Inner Critic. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sat, July 16, 2022
Ep 084: What Your Work Means to You
Today we’re going to explore what work means to you. Because I think that’s an interesting way to think about it, don’t you? Looking at what you do every day in terms of meaningfulness or fulfillment vs. viewing it as a means to an end? Because based on my clients and the stats I’ve read on all the job satisfaction surveys and even if you just look at the volume of resignations over the past year or so, I think it’s safe to say that FEELING GOOD about how we spend our work life is something we would all love to find. Meaningful work. For me, those two words are beautiful. Think about it for a moment. What would it be like to feel like what you do everyday matters? First and foremost, to you. But also, to the company you work for. To the people you work with. The idea that your 8 to 5 is about more than just collecting a paycheck. I think most of us tend to think about our work in terms of the sum of its parts. Like we evaluate all the different things – the boss, the culture, the benefits, the industry, the colleagues, the actual work or job, the flexibility, money, work life balance. All of it. And we’re left with this complicated equation of different things that, to some extent, is outside our control. And of course, all those things DO affect us, and they influence how we feel about our job. But I believe those different things like the boss, the culture, the money, the title…those are symptoms that show you how things are going for you. But today, I want to get to the heart of the issue. I want to talk about something much deeper, which is about how you THINK about your career, absent any of the outside influences or symptoms. I want to talk about YOUR perspective on what you do for a living. How you THINK and FEEL about it. And allow yourself to spend a little time thinking about what’s meaningful to YOU when it comes to work. Like everything else we talk about on this podcast and in my business, I want to help you have MORE of everything you want when it comes to work. I think this is going to be an interesting one for all of us. So, let’s dive in! Most people view work in one of three ways. 1. As a job. Meaning it’s all about financial necessity with very little personal meaning. 2. As a career. Which is more about status and occupational advancement. 3. As a calling. Meaning it’s mostly about fulfillment vs. money or title or how it looks to others. And of course, this is your life, so you get to decide how you want to look at the time you spend between 8 and 5 Monday through Friday. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click her
Sun, July 10, 2022
Ep 083: How to Survive (and Thrive) Despite a Toxic Environment
Sometimes we find ourselves in environments (or relationships) that aren't aligned with what we want. Those instances can range from mildly upsetting to incredibly toxic. When that happens, it's easy to let our subconscious patterns of thought kick in and make that situation or environment mean something about us. Usually something not very good. This episode shares five steps to staying clear and strong when you're in a place that isn't serving you. When you follow these steps you'll be able to stay clear about what's happening and what you want to do about it from a place of personal empowerment. This is an important one. Because the more risks we take and the more we put ourselves out there, the more likely we're going to encounter situations or people that don't serve us. So it's important to know what to do when you find yourself in a job or relationship that isn’t good for you. How to get yourself through that time in a purposeful way and one that will propel you forward even faster. I think you'll find this episode helpful. Thanks for giving it a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Mon, July 04, 2022
Ep 082: Getting Clear on What You Want From Your Career
So today, I want to talk about the choices we make when it comes to our career. Specifically, how to get (or maybe STAY) clear on what we want. There are a few reasons I wanted to discuss this today. First, in my experience as a coach and as a leader of people in my career, most of us spend a good amount of our career “not knowing” what we really want. Sometimes it’s because we’re not in touch with what we’re good at. Sometimes it’s because we’ve never taken the time to really get clear on the type of work that makes us happy or fulfilled. And even if you think you know what that is when you start out, as we move through our career, for most of us, our interests, wants and needs will change at different life stages. So, it’s good to do a reflection like this from time to time to make sure that what you’re currently doing for a living is consistent with what you WANT at this point in your life. Second, it’s graduation season and for those with newly minted bachelor’s or graduate degrees, it’s important to get clear on what lights you up BEFORE you dive into a job search. Or if you’ve already accepted a job, this type of reflection can help ensure you get the most from it or get clear on what you DO want before you think about spinning up the search for a new job. Third and last, despite the overheated economy, it’s impossible to deny that this is also a time when people are being laid off. In the U.S., the rapidly rising interest rates have led many VC-backed start-ups to rethink their staffing plans and that has spurred many layoffs in the tech sector. And while the job market is still hot and those folks will likely land new opportunities quickly, this is a good time to do some reflection to get clear on what you really want from your career going forward BEFORE you accept another position. This kind of Career Discovery Reflection can serve you at any stage of your life. It’s a great exercise to go through annually. Because even if you like your current company or job, this type of reflection can help you stay in touch with how you’d like your current position or responsibilities to evolve or grow or maybe even how some investment in outside courses or study can add to your skills in a meaningful way to prepare you for next level growth. I’m going to approach this as an exercise, so be sure to have a pen and paper handy. Or you might want to open a Google doc so you can take note of the questions as we go through. I think this is going to be super helpful, so let’s dive in. Before we get into the questions, I want to talk first about the choices we make when it comes to our career. Because I’ve found that too many of us take a passive approach, meaning we sort of let life and opportunity (or the jobs we’re offered) dictate where our career goes. Versus, intentionally choosing. But the truth is, according to statistics, you’re going to spend about 92,000 hours working (based on a 40-hour work w
Sun, June 26, 2022
Ep 081: How to Deal When Things Don't Work Out as Planned
As happens many times with this podcast, today I want to talk about something that’s coming up for a lot of my clients right now. And that is, what to do when something does not work out as planned. I think this is topic is relevant for most working people because for the past few years, we’ve been in an exceptionally strong job market. And you know what THAT has meant. They called it the Great Resignation because so many people – more than 47 million in the U.S. alone – have changed jobs. For whatever reason – money, location, flexibility, title, career change, more responsibility – there are so many reasons we do this. But guess what? According to two surveys conducted earlier this year, up to 20% of people who changed their job during the Great Resignation, now REGRET it. That’s 1 in 5 people. So, in the U.S., where an estimated 47 MM people changed jobs, that’s just shy of 10 MM people who now regret that decision. And this idea of disappointing outcomes isn’t confined to our careers. In 2022, it’s estimated that a little over 44% of marriages will end in divorce. So, for every 6 people who get married this year? 2.6 will get divorced. Same thing with relocation. Because that was another big shift during the pandemic. Millions of people picked up and moved. And according to statistics, about 30% of them regret at least a few things about their move – whether it’s about moving away from friends or family, dislike of the new location or whatever. Basically, the important thing to know about making big, life changing decisions is that when we do, there’s a decent chance that it won’t go as planned. And there are so many reasons for this. So many things we could talk about related to big decisions. About whether we put the proper thought into it. Or paid attention to all the variables. Or did our research. Or listened to our gut. Or whatever. But today, I don’t want to focus on how to make strong decisions or aligned decisions upfront. Today I want to talk to those of you who are currenting DEALING with the aftermath or unfortunately outcome of a big decision. Because dealing with regret or disappointment or unfortunate outcomes is part of the human experience. it’s going to happen. For all of us. In one or maybe many areas of our life. And for that reason, it’s important to be clear about what to do when maybe you did all the upfront analytics, when you weighed the pros and the cons, and things STILL didn’t turn out the way you hoped. Whether you’re feeling a little disillusioned or swimming in massive regret, it’s important to know that there are things you can do to turn it around. I think this is going to be an important episode and a relevant and timely one for so many of you, so, let’s dive in. When we make a big decision, we’re essentially taking a chance. We’re leaping into the unknown and counting on the outcome to be what we expected it to be. But as the stats t
Sun, June 19, 2022
Ep 080: The Power of Taking Small Steps
We’re almost at midyear. So, this is a time when people tend to look back at the year so far and evaluate – whether formal or informally – what they’ve managed to get done this year. And that’s especially true for people who are looking for change in some part of their career or life. Whether that’s about changing jobs, making more money, starting a business, losing weight, finding a relationship or anything else that’s calling to you. Mid-year is a natural time to evaluate how we’re doing against those goals. A few episodes ago, in Episode 78, we talked about “How to Transform Your Career and Life.” And the focus in that episode was about how you can make big transformational shifts by looking to your FUTURE vs. what we typically do, which is trying to build from where we’re currently at. So that’s all about channeling the thoughts, feelings and actions that are consistent with that FUTURE version of you. And learning how to BE that future version of you that already HAS that big new thing so that it eventually comes about. So, if you’re dreaming of something big and new and you haven’t listened to that episode yet, you might want to go back and give that a listen because I think you’ll find it a very helpful perspective and one we don’t usually think about when it comes to achievement. Today, we’re going to talk about that same thing – how to make changes in your career and life – but from a different perspective. I want to talk about what to do if you’re someone who might dream of making big changes in some part of your life but maybe finds it tough to get started. Or maybe you get started but you find it hard to stay with it. Now if you’re a regular listener to this podcast you know that our actions – whether we start or don’t start, or whether we quit or stay with it – it’s all driven by what you’re thinking. And if you’re thinking things like “it’s too hard” or “it’s impossible” or that “it’ll take too long” or “you’re not disciplined enough to stay with it,” then that’s going to cause emotions like defeat or procrastination or whatever. And you’re going to either not start or quit. It's so easy to let our brain talk us out of the big things we want to go do. And in my experience, it’s far too easy to believe whatever lie our brain is telling us. Because when we want something that’s far from where we are right now, the new thing we’re dreaming of seems like it’s just out of our reach. And when we look at it through that lens, from where we are vs. where we want to end up, it’s easy to believe that the journey is just going to be too hard. That it’s too big a shift. That we won’t stick with it long enough to make it happen. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to
Sun, June 12, 2022
Ep 079: How to Have Your Own Back
So today we’re going to talk about something important and that is, how we handle it when things don’t work out as planned. Because that’s a big part of life, right? It’s always fun to talk about goals and possibilities. But the truth is, as important as it is to know how to go after and get the things you want in life, it’s equally important to get good at dealing with it when things don’t work out. Because as we all know, no matter how much we plan and no matter how hard we work at things, sometimes life doesn’t go our way. Whether that’s in business or some aspect of our personal life. Life isn’t guaranteed. The truth is disappointment, setbacks, and failure are part of the experience. And the more you push for personal growth and achievement, the more you put yourself out there, the more likely it is that you’ll experience the kinds of setbacks that can really take a toll if you don’t learn how to roll with them. To learn to process through the loss or the disappointment or the failure, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep moving forward. That’s not always an easy thing to do. In fact, it can be super hard at times. Hard to let go of the thing we were so invested in. And so easy to fall into the negative cycle of overthinking and regret and self-blame. And when we do that, you know what happens? We get stuck. It erodes our self-confidence. It keeps us from getting out there and doing all the things we want to do. So today, we’re going to talk about “Having Your Own Back.” And if you’re someone who has an overactive inner critic, I think you’ll find this episode especially helpful. So, let’s dive in. And let’s start with the definition of what it means to ‘have someone’s back.’ I checked both the Cambridge and the Urban Dictionary (since it’s kind of a newer phrase) and for both, having someone’s back means to be ready to protect or defend someone. To watch out for, take care of, and protect that person. So, when we talk about having your OWN back, it means doing that same thing but for yourself. And that’s the first point I wanted to make. While it’s very nice to have loved ones who want to have our back, the truth is, as nice as it is to have supportive friends and family, this is something we don’t need anyone else for. We can learn how to have our own back. And I think it’s even more powerful and helpful when it comes from ourselves. I think having your own back is the key to finding the grit and resilience to keep going when you have a setback instead of quitting. I think it’s the key to staying passionate and excited about your career and life instead of just giving up and going with the flow. It’s the key to really BELIEVING in yourself instead of falling into the habit of tearing yourself apart when things don’t go as planned. And this is not
Sun, June 05, 2022
Ep 078: How to Transform your Career and Life
We're almost at mid year and it's the perfect time reflect. To look back on the year so far and evaluate whether you’ve made progress on the things we wanted to get done this year. And even better, it’s a chance to look at the year ahead and make any adjustments needed so you can either stay the course if things are going well or maybe get things back on track if you don’t feel you’ve made the progress you wanted to make up to now. When most of us think about goal setting and personal development, we focus on the WHAT and the HOW. So, what we want to accomplish and how we plan to do it. That approach can work of course. But WHAT and HOW will only get you so far. So that’s a good approach to use when you’re going for career or life tweaks. Small shifts. Today, I wanted to talk about those times in life when you want BIG TRANSFORMATION. When you want to significantly change one - or maybe several – areas of your life. When that’s what you’re going for, focusing on the HOW is not going to work. You’ll need to focus on the WHO. Specifically, WHO you’ve been in your work and life so far this year. And WHO you NEED to be going forward so you create the results you’re looking for in your career and life. Transformative results. Unexpected results. WOW results. This is a very different – and I think a far more impactful – way of thinking about goal setting and achievement. It’s a helpful perspective to consider using during times in your life where small and incremental change just isn’t going to cut it. And I think it’s going to be super interesting. So, let’s dive in. Like I said earlier, this is not how we’re taught to approach goal setting or any other aspect of our life for that matter. Typically, when we think about where we want to go it’s ALWAYS from the perspective of where we are today. That seems logical, right? It seems logical because it’s linear. And there’s no denying that each of us are where we are in our life. We have a very specific role in the current world. A level of income. A job title. A set of skills to offer. A set of people, possessions and things that make up our life. Where we live, who we associate with, our daily routines and habits, our interests, activities. All of it. So, when we think about what we WANT to achieve or do NEXT, most of us think about our possibilities from that perspective. We think about building our future from where we are today. And you can certainly do that. There are times in life where that makes perfect sense. And like I said, it’s what most of us do. BUT what I want to offer today is a very different perspective. I want to come at personal development from the OPPOSITE point of view. I want to think about personal development and goal achievement in a way that’s completely divorced from your current identity
Mon, May 30, 2022
Ep 077: I'm a Fraud (Lies We Tell Ourselves #5 of 5)
So, today is the last episode on our series, “Lies We Tell Ourselves.” This series is foundational to everything we teach in my business. Because we’re never really taught in our career that our ability to achieve our goals doesn’t come from good breaks or great bosses or networking or even being great at what you do. Sure, those things are important. But you can HAVE those things and STILL find yourself stuck and miserable. Why? Because you can work as hard as you’d like but if you don’t learn how to manage your mind you can easily find yourself living in uncertainty, fear, self-doubt no matter how success you LOOK on the outside. If you don’t purposefully direct your brain, what’s going on INSIDE can make you miserable. And when you’re not connected to the real source of the issue, it’s easy to spend your time chasing opportunity. Looking for the perfect boss. Or the “right” title or salary. Or a better culture. Or whatever. And I’m not saying those things aren’t important. But what I AM saying is that you can have all the great things. You can have everything you always said you ever wanted. And still be miserable. And you might not even know why if you don’t connect into what’s going on inside. In your brain. And that concept is especially relevant today because we’re going to talk about the last “lie” in this series which is “I’m a fraud.” This is a hallmark of Imposter Syndrome, a pattern of thought that causes you to doubt your abilities, hence the thought “I’m a fraud.” And it disproportionately affects high achievers, especially those who find it difficult to accept their accomplishments. In fact, researchers say up to 80 percent of people report having Imposter-like thoughts at some point in their career. I’m very well acquainted with this one so I’ve got a lot of perspective to share here that I think will be super helpful for so many of you. So, let’s dive in. Now you might hear a statistic like 80% and wonder, how can that be true? Well, apparently it is, because according to the National Institute of Health, in 2019, there was a review of 62 studies on Imposter Syndrome and according to THAT, up to 82% of people report having thoughts along these lines at some point. And it’s also important to note that most of them are women, though it does affect men too. And as I said earlier, it disproportionately affects high achievers. It can impact anyone in any profession at any stage of their life – from college up to the most senior level corporate executives or entrepreneurs. And the problem with this Imposter thought pattern is that you end up working harder than you need to because you’re holding yourself to impossibly high standards. And it will eventually take a toll on your emotional wellbeing (and maybe physical too). And even though you’re literally KILLING yourself to deliver top caliber – maybe unachievable – standard of work, the thought patte
Mon, May 23, 2022
Ep 076: I'm Too Busy (Lies We Tell Ourselves #4 of 5)
In the last three episodes, we’ve focused on the “Lies We Tell Ourselves.” Specifically, how negative, or false thoughts get stored away in our brain without us knowing it. Then we think those things over and over again until they become beliefs. And then, without us realizing it, we’ll find ourselves in a situation that triggers that old belief. And we’ll find ourselves thinking that same, familiar, and somewhat negative thought. And because that thought is so familiar, we’ll just accept it as “the truth.” When really, it’s just an old thought that got stored away and that no longer serves you. As we’ve also discussed, these negative thoughts can come from what people have said to us. Or what you made things people said to you or things you experienced MEAN about you and your possibilities. This inner interpretation happens, many times, without us even realizing it. And I’ve found that those negative self-beliefs will typically come up when we’re contemplating taking on something big and new. Something that’s maybe outside our comfort zone. So, at the heart of these “Lies we tell ourselves” is fear. Fear of judgment. Fear of failure. Maybe even fear of success. Right? So, the idea of trying the new thing causes those subconscious negative thought patterns to appear. And their job is to cause us to shrink back. To stay right where we are. That’s just our brain trying to keep us safe. But really, the danger is that it gets us stuck. That it keeps us playing small and keeps us from pursuing the things we really want in our life. The first three episodes of this series focused on some of the most common lies we tell ourselves, which are: “It’s too late” “I don’t know how”, and… “I’m not good enough.” So, if you haven’t done so yet, I encourage you to go back and give those episodes a listen. Because if we’re not aware of what we’re thinking OR that those thoughts aren’t actually TRUE but instead, are just old, programmed ways of thinking – ways that probably NEVER served you and most certainly aren’t serving you today - any of those lies could get you stuck. It’s very important to know that. But TODAY, we’re going to talk about another lie we tell ourselves. And I think it’s the most common one, which is “I’m too busy.” Because this is such a common thought, this episode is going to be super helpful to so many. So, let’s dive in. Now before we go any further, I want to first acknowledge that in today’s always-on world, most of us ARE, in fact, quite busy. We have jobs. We have families. We have homes and lives and loved ones to care for. We have our own self-care. We have interests and hobbies. And in today’s connected, high-tech world, it’s the rare person that would say their lives are leisurely or calm or that their time is their own. Most of us feel this ever-present intense p
Mon, May 16, 2022
Ep 075: I'm Not Good Enough (Lies We Tell Ourselves #3 of 5)
For the last few weeks, we’ve been focused on a series called “The Lies We Tell Ourselves.” This is a relevant topic when it comes to our career because it’s important to understand all the ways that unconscious thinking can hold us back if we’re not careful. Specifically, how the things we tell ourselves – things we may or may not always be thinking at a conscious level – get in the way of what we want to do with our career and life. The first two episodes in the series explored a few of the most common ‘lies’ we tell ourselves, which are “It’s too late” and “I don’t know how.” If you haven’t done so already, you might want to check out episodes 73 and 74 because they offer up an interesting perspective about how programmed patterns of thought can get us stuck and some helpful ways to break that cycle. So, you might want to go back and give that a listen. This week we’re going to talk about another common lie that we tell ourselves. It’s one that so many people struggle with at one time or another in some aspect of their life. And that is the lie, “I’m not good enough.” To clarify, what we’re going to talk about isn’t about trying something and just not feeling like you were very good at it. That happens. And when it’s something new, it’s usually true that we’re not very good at it. Most of the time, it takes practice and repetition before we master something new or feel like we’re good at it. And that’s not what I’m talking about here. This episode pertains to a persistent recurring pattern of thought around ‘not being good enough.’ So today, we’re going to explore the impact this thought can have if it’s something you think on a regular basis. And then I’ll offer up a few ways you can start to shift out of this negative thought pattern. This is going to be an interesting and I think very helpful episode for so many of us. So, let’s dive in. Now, as we’ve talked about before on this podcast, we’re not always aware of that inner dialogue we all have. Sometimes we’re tuned in to our thoughts. But many times, we’re not. So, if that’s you, you might be thinking, “Well, I don’t know if I think I’m not good enough.” The important thing to know is that our brain works fast. According to neuroscientists we have around 60,000 thoughts a day. Whatever the actual number, it’s a lot of thoughts. So of course, we’re not aware of each one. Many times, that internal monologue is just running below the surface, kind of like that ticker at the bottom of the 24-hour news channel. They’re just there, always running, always scrolling by. And sometimes we tune into them and sometimes we don’t. But even if we don’t consciously tune in, those thoughts are still having an impact on us. They affect our mood. They’re the source of our emotions. And since we know that everything we do or don’t do is caused by how we’re feeling, it’s important to start tuning into or gaining some level of awarenes
Mon, May 09, 2022
Ep 074: I Don't Know How (Lies We Tell Ourselves #2 of 5)
Last week we started a new series called Lies We Tell Ourselves. And I know that’s a provocative title. You might see that title and think “I don’t tell myself lies.” And listen, I get it. But I chose that title because I think it’s important to acknowledge the ways that our thoughts affect our lives. And how the things we tell ourselves – things we may or may not always be *consciously thinking* – get in the way of the things we really want in our life. The truth is that we all lie to ourselves at times. And not because we want to or consciously choose to. It’s not on purpose. It’s because of how our human brain works. It’s about the primitive brain, the oldest part of our brain that’s in the back just above the brainstem. The primitive brain has been around since the dawn of man and it’s the part responsible for fight or flight. Its job is to sense danger and keep us safe. This is what kept our caveman ancestors alive instead of getting eaten by the lion. So, that part of your brain doesn’t like change. It categorizes change or “new” as dangerous. What it *really likes* is for everything to stay the same. It wants you to be safe. So, in order to be safe, it needs to convince you to stay away from high risk activities. And when it comes to your career, when we let the primitive brain be in charge, it will try to convince you to keep things the way they are. It’ll convince you to not make any big changes or put yourself out into the world in new ways. Ways that have the potential for failure. So, as we talked about last week, typically these “Lies We Tell Ourselves” happen when there’s something big and new that we want to do in our career or life. Like a new job. A promotion. Starting a side hustle or business. Or in our personal life, may it’s about losing weight. Or starting or leaving an important relationship. Because what we’re thinking of doing is new. Or maybe because you’ve tried the thing before and failed, your brain classifies those things as too risky or dangerous, so it serves up a thought designed to create fear or uncertainty. It does that because it knows that if you’re feeling uncertain, you’re less likely to follow-through and actually DO that scary thing you’re thinking of doing. Instead, if you believe whatever lie your brain serves up about the danger of the thing, you instead might choose to just stay where you’re at. To maintain the status quo in your career or life. And that decision makes the primitive brain incredibly happy. It got what it wanted. It kept you safe. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulc
Sat, April 30, 2022
Ep 073: It's Too Late (Lies We Tell Ourselves #1 of 5)
Before we get started on today’s topic, I want to officially welcome you to May. Can you believe we’re already a third of the way through 2022? I really can’t. But I will say that for me, 2022 has been amazing so far and I hope it’s been that way for you too. I’ve never been more productive – at work, in my business or at home. I think I’ve told you guys before, but I discovered this cognitive-based coaching approach back in 2018 and since then, I’ve been doing the daily self-coaching that’s at the center of it, I’ve invested in my own coaches, and I’ve discovered things – beliefs and limiting thoughts – that I honestly never knew that I had. Thoughts around time and age and relationships and reinvention and MONEY. I had no idea until I started to unwind my mind that those were in there. I had to get in touch with what I’m thinking. To get curious about the role those thoughts were playing in my life and to begin to believe new thoughts. Thoughts that served me. This coaching approach has given me the courage to make very purposeful but unconventional choices in my corporate career. Choices that three or four years ago would have seemed unthinkable, but which have not only served me, they’ve also helped me to fully realize so many dreams. And have made this business possible. It’s helped me tackle some of my biggest personal challenges with being consistent around fitness goals and some personal relationship goals. I’ve started to write again. For those who don’t know, I published a few romantic comedies in 2012 and 2015 under a pen name. They were fun, lighthearted stories that are just intended to offer and escape and a smile. I stopped doing that in 2015 because I told myself I didn’t have time and that my job was too demanding. But now, I’ve started again. About halfway through book three. And it really feeds my spirit. And last but certainly not least, I’ve now got a successful business – THIS business, The Purposeful Career – and I’m getting ready to launch another that will serve a different segment. More on that later. My point in telling you this is not to brag or not because I want this podcast to be about me, because I don’t. I want it to be about YOU. What YOU want. But I tell you this because the only way these things have become possible for me is through becoming aware of the thoughts that I had that I just thought were TRUE, but which were holding me back from fully realizing my potential and honestly, from what I truly wanted. This coaching approach has opened my world. It’s changed my life. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at
Mon, April 25, 2022
Ep 072: Your Brand Image (Personal Branding #3 of 3)
This episode is the last of our three-part series on personal branding. So as a reminder, two weeks ago in the first episode in this series, we talked about how to create your brand reputation *on purpose*. That one was all about being intentional about what kind of brand experience you create when you work with others. Meaning, what it’s like for your colleagues and boss to work with you. This is about the things you do day in and day out which, over time, creates the reputation you develop within your career. And *last* week, we talked about how to create your personal brand positioning statement. This is all about getting clear on who you are, what matters to you and what you uniquely offer that is different from others. It’s about defining your unique strengths and attributes – the things that set you apart from everyone else – and aligning them with what your employer or clients are looking for from you. Its typically one sentence the succinctly and powerfully sums up who you are and what you have to offer. There are so many ways this comes in handy. I encourage my clients to use this sentence as the lead headline on their resume. I teach them how to story tell around the statement during interviews. And it's also a very helpful filter for evaluating all kinds of things – from potential jobs to the types of companies, cultures or bosses best align with who you are – and ultimately it helps to direct the thing we’re going to talk about today which if your brand image. So, if you haven’t listened to those two episodes yet, you might want to go back and give them a listen. Because they’re going to offer you so many practical tips on how to get clear on who you are and what you have to offer. But today I want to talk about a third important aspect of personal branding which is, how to cultivate an intentional brand image. Which means, how to define and curate the image you project to the world. Not because you’re trying to get anyone else’s approval or conform to anyone’s narrow standard of how you should look. Just the opposite. When you cultivate a brand image that truly reflects who you are, it creates feelings of confidence. Pride. Empowerment. And as we’ve shared before on this podcast, when you feel positive emotions, that leads you to take positive actions and you’ll get positive results. So, when you feel proud of the image you’re projecting in the world – when you truly feel that how you’re presenting yourself is a reflection of YOU – everything you feel and do will be about delivering the kinds of results you want in your life. So, before we get into the episode, I want to go a little deeper on what I shared a second ago. What we’re going to discuss about your personal brand image is NOT about pleasing anyone else or conforming to anyone else’s view of how you should look. It’s not intended to be any sort of statement about what’s
Mon, April 18, 2022
Ep 071: Your Brand Positioning (Personal Branding #2 of 3)
In last week’s episode, we talked about how to intentionally shape your personal brand experience or what it’s like to interact or work with you. This is part of strategic brand development that works the same whether it’s about developing a company’s brand OR your own personal brand. Anyway, that episode was so popular, and I heard from so many of you, that I decided to turn it into a three-part personal branding series. This is important for every stage of your career – whether you’re just getting started or whether you’ve reached the most senior levels because it ensures that you’re showing up as the person you’re intending to be. This is also the first thing we work on in my monthly membership, Next Level. Because before we start working on all the *external things* you want to change – your job, your boss, your career path – we start *first* with working on YOU. We define who you are, what you want, what you’re good at, what’s important to you, how you want to show up, how you present yourself, what it’s like to interact with you. How you see yourself. What you’re telling yourself about you. And we do this BEFORE we start making any external changes to your career or life. Why? Because no matter how many times you change jobs, bosses, or career paths – no matter how many businesses you start – you’re never going to get the things you want until you change YOURSELF. Until you define exactly what you want and what you’re great at and how you want to spend your time and what you value in a boss, culture or company, you’re always going to be chasing happiness. And you’ll always believe that it’s somewhere else. And while it very well *might* be somewhere else, sometimes – many times, actually – you can find the happiness and fulfillment you’re looking for right where you’re standing. If I could tell you how very long and how very many job changes and city changes, I had to go through before I realized that…Holy Moly. So, think of this three-part series as an inner exploration that makes all the outer success that you’re looking for possible. And trust me when I tell you it can save you time, money, heartache, frustration. All of it. Anyway, last week’s episode was all about how you conduct yourself in the work environment. The personal brand experience you create when others work with you which goes a long way toward shaping your brand reputation, or the things you’re known for. But today, we’re going to talk about a different aspect of personal branding and that is your personal brand positioning. Now in marketing terms, a brand positioning is defined as how a brand is *different from* its competition. Or another way to think about it is what its known for in the minds of customers. A lot of things go into this include what a brand is good at, known for and uniquely delivers. And this is equally important when it comes to you. To *your* personal brand. Because in my experienc
Mon, April 11, 2022
Ep 070: Your Brand Reputation (Personal Branding #1 of 3)
Today I want to talk about creating and managing your personal brand reputation. This is a super interesting topic for me because for most of my corporate career, I’ve been a brand strategist. That means that I’ve spent my career creating and reinventing the brand image of the companies I’ve worked for. It’s a fun and creative field and there are a lot of things that go into doing this, but one of the most important things is to create a meaningful brand experience for customers. That is, to intentionally shape valuable and memorable experiences that customers will have with your brand. These things can create trust and loyalty and passion. This is important because more than the things a company says through its advertising or marketing, the actual experience customers have with the brand will do more to shape its image and reputation than almost anything else a brand can do. That’s where hardcore brand loyalty comes from. And, once that image is established in the minds of customers – whether good OR bad – it can be hard to change. And they can do all the strategy work and spend millions and millions of dollars in advertising trying to reposition, but if a certain image or reputation exists, it can be really hard to shift out of that. Meaning, if a brand is beloved by customers they’ll put up with mistakes and stumbles, unfortunate decisions, price increases, lack of inventory and more before they’ll stop buying. It’s like a well of trust has been built and it can take quite awhile before that goodwill starts to erode. Anyone remember the see-through yoga pants scandal from Lululemon a few years ago? For a more fledgling brand, this could have shut them down for good but for Lululemon’s customer base, it was barely a blip on the radar. Or how about the diehard loyalty of Apple enthusiasts. I know I’m one of them. So much so that I’d never even consider a phone from another manufacturer, and I don’t even look at their attributes or price compare. For me, it’s just always going to be an Apple iPhone and that’s that. Conversely, for a brand that hasn’t built up a lot of customer goodwill, it only takes one or two significant bumps before its reputation or sales can take a nosedive. That’s because there’s a lack of brand reputation and trust so whatever goodwill they might have built up is shallower and it doesn’t take long for it to erode. But what I wanted to ask you today is whether you’ve thought about this same paradigm when it comes to YOUR personal brand reputation within your career? Because it’s the same for you as it is for the companies I just described. Within the businesses we work in, each of us are ‘known’ for a set of things. And every time we do something or interact with people – our boss, our teammates, or colleagues – whether it’s in a formal setting, around the watercooler or on Zoom, the things we say and do combine and build to become how we’re perceived by others. Most
Sun, April 03, 2022
Ep 069: Getting & Staying Motivated
In today's episode, we’re going to talk about what’s behind motivation. Meaning, what galvanizes us to do or not do the things we want in our lives. Because I’ve always wondered that, haven’t you? Like how come sometimes we can feel an unstoppable drive to go after or tackle something new or hard. And other times we just ignore the big things we want to achieve and instead of going after them, we camp out on the sofa binge-watching Netflix. Do you look for motivation within yourself or do you expect it to come from something outside of you – like a reward or inspiration or maybe for you it’s about an impending deadline. How many times have you told yourself “I’m just not motivated right now.”? And how has that affected your life or career? For example, let’s say you want to lose the 30 pounds you gained during Covid. But you keep putting off the healthier eating protocol and the trips to the gym because you tell yourself you’ll do it later. Either tomorrow or next week or next year. I think the idea of later has stolen more dreams from more people than almost anything else. Because when we tell ourselves we’ll do it “later” we feel better in the moment because we’ve told ourselves that we’re still going to do it…just not right now. So, we take the pressure off ourselves because we don’t have to endure the discomfort of starting something hard and we keep the dream alive by telling us we’re going to do it someday. But then what usually happens? For most of us, later ultimately turns into never. Or let’s say you really want a new job or maybe you want to start that side hustle or business you’ve been dreaming about. You know the market is hot right now but for some reason, you just can’t get yourself motivated. You tell yourself you want to get ahead, you want to make more money, but you keep putting off the networking, the searching for new opportunities. You don’t dust off the resume or start working on the business plan because it feels too hard. You just don’t feel motivated to do it. So many of us make the idea of motivation mean that it’s something outside our control. That it’s something we will feel only after the right thing is said to us or there’s an important enough deadline or consequence looming to finally get us off the couch and doing something. We think motivation is a magical thing that comes from somewhere else, and we’re sort of waiting for it to, metaphorically speaking, fly through an open window and whip us into action. But that idea of motivation never works over the long term. The idea that something outside us can make us motivated just doesn’t work. Like a looming deadline or the promise of a big reward might galvanize us ahead for a short time, but it won’t be sustainable. In today’s episode, I want to offer up a psychology-based theory on where motivation comes from and how to cultivate it in yourself. It’s called the Sel
Sun, March 27, 2022
Ep 068: How to Be Kinder to Yourself
Today we’re going to discuss how you talk to or treat yourself when you’ve made a mistake, or maybe when you’ve not shown up as your best. And specifically, what to do when we have a habit of beating ourselves up for that. For example… Let’s say you lose your patience with a friend or co-worker and say some things you wish you hadn’t. Or maybe you take on new responsibilities at work and give it your absolute best but in your view (or maybe your boss’s) you come up short. When you do something that you regret or show up as less than your best, how do you handle it? Do you roll with it and vow to do better next time? Or do you obsess and overthink and beat yourself up? How many mistakes and regrets from your past are you still punishing yourself for – either in your personal or professional life? This is important to know because how we talk to and treat ourselves matters. We all know that none of us are perfect. We all make mistakes. We all show up sometimes as less than we know we can be. But some of us find it easier to accept that while others spend their entire lives punishing themselves for every way they believe they’ve stumbled a little. Being self-aware that you’ve fallen a little short of expectations – your own or others – is a good thing. We can learn from those situations and ideally vow to show up better next time we’re in that situation. But too often, instead of using that self-awareness of the mistake or failure or regretful thing to improve how we show up going forward, many of us will instead compound that thing we regret by lashing out at ourselves. Because for some, the self-awareness and feelings of regret can trigger an overactive Inner Critic who might make the problem even worse by beating ourselves up. And instead of looking for the lessons to fuel a better performance in the future, we can erode our self esteem and confidence by bullying and berating ourselves endlessly for what we did wrong. And that can really hold us back in our career. It can keep us stuck in fear and uncertainty and regret and make our life less joyful than it could be. For so many of us it’s too easy to be tough on ourselves and it’s a regular habit. And the problem with that is that instead of realizing that the problem is coming from habitual negative patterns of thought, we can make the mistake of thinking that nasty voice in our head just knows the truth about us. So, for all you perfectionists and overthinkers and self-doubters, this is for you. Even if beating up on yourself has become a life- long habit that’s deeply ingrained. The important thing to know is that you can shift out of that habit by learning how to practice self-compassion. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to
Sun, March 20, 2022
Ep 067: The Luck Adjustment (#2 of 2)
So last week I introduced you to the work of Dr. Richard Wiseman who did a ten-year study on Luck. And we talked about the four principles he says that all lucky people share that he developed based on that study. So, if you haven’t listened to that, go back, and give Episode 66 a listen. It’s a great perspective. But that episode might’ve left you wondering what you do if you’re at the opposite end of the spectrum. If you feel like you’re Unlucky. Or maybe that, no matter what you do or what you try, you just can’t seem to catch a break. Well, this episode is for you because I’m going to share some wisdom from Max Gunther, a British American journalist who, like Richard Wiseman, also wrote a book called The Luck Factor. And in that book, he shared five rules for changing your luck. If all this talk about luck, has you feeling like you need a little Luck Adjustment, this episode is for you. So, let’s dive in. As a journalist exploring the idea of Luck, Max Gunther claims to have spoken to and interviewed close to a thousand people from all walks of life. Gamblers, business leaders, psychiatrists, and everyday people. These people ran the gamut from extraordinarily lucky to incredibly unlucky. And from those conversations, he learned that of course, the ideas about what makes people lucky varies widely. But when he looked deeper, he found that there are five outstanding characteristics that distinguish lucky people from Unlucky people. These five characteristics are their ways of being. And they reflect everything from attitudes about themselves and others and an inner talk track that serves them. So first, I’ll share the five characteristics and then we’ll take them one by one. 1. Lucky people use a spiderweb structure. 2. Lucky people have a very strong hunching skill. 3. Lucky people live boldly. 4. Lucky people move quickly to mitigate the downside. 5. Lucky people have a healthy pessimism. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 13, 2022
Ep 066: The Luck Factor (#1 of 2)
So, in just a few days, we’ll be celebrating St. Patrick’s Day. And in honor of that day when we tend to celebrate Irish culture and all things Irish, I wanted to talk today about “Luck.” That might seem a little ‘out there’ when talking about career but hang with me because I’m going to talk about what it means to have “The Luck Factor” and four principles you can use to apply this to your own career and life. You’ve probably heard the term “Luck of the Irish.” I did a little research on that term because I always thought it referred to the good fortune of the people of Ireland. But, according to Edward T. O’Donnell, a profession of history at Holy Cross College and author of 1001 Things Everyone Should know about Irish American History , the phrase *isn’t* about that. The phrase Luck of the Irish was coined in the late 19th century during the gold and silver rush years in the U.S. Apparently, some of the most famous and successful miners were of Irish and Irish American birth. Mining – especially in those days – was highly speculative and of course, many speculators flamed out. But many of those of Irish descent seemed to have an intuitive knack for it. And over time, the association between success and Irish became known as “Luck of the Irish.” But we’re not going to talk about mining or celebrating Irish Culture on today’s episode. Instead, we’re going to talk about how to be luckier as it relates to your career and life. And how anyone can follow four principles to learn *how* to be luckier. So, pour yourself an Irish Coffee or a glass of green beer, and let’s dive in. Now, I want to begin by asking you a few questions when it comes to luck in your career or life. · Have you ever wondered why opportunity seems to chase some people down while others struggle to get ahead? · Have you ever wondered why some people seem to race up the corporate ladder while others, just as talented or maybe even more talented, struggle? · Have you ever wondered why some people go from miserable job to miserable job (or relationship to relationship) while others find themselves making decisions that better serve them? · Is luck random? Or do you believe anyone can learn to be luckier? Well, according to Richard Wiseman, a professor of psychology in Britain, who wrote a book called The Luck Factor, there are indeed people who are luckier in life but it’s not a random thing. He says that lucky people tend to take advantage of life’s good breaks while minimizing the effects of bad breaks. And he should know because his observation came from a study of hundreds of people – both lucky and unlucky – that he did over a decade. From that study, he developed four psychological principles used by lucky people to create their good fortune. And these are principles any of us can learn and put into practice. From that study he hypothesized that l
Sun, March 06, 2022
Ep 065: The Three Types of Perfectionism and What to Do About It
A few weeks ago, I came across a Harvard Business Review article from back in 2018 related to Perfectionism. And it changed the way I think about it. So, I did a lot more research and reading on the topic and I wanted to share it with you. Because it really opened my eyes. Not only to the realities of perfectionism and the fact that it’s not only a growing problem – no big surprise in the age of social media, right? – but that it can show up in more ways that you probably realize. I know it was news to me. So, in this episode I’m going to walk you through the three types of Perfectionism – I know…who knew there were three? – the impact each type has on the person (and maybe others) and, what to do about it. I thought this would be a great episode even if you *don’t* feel like you’ve got Perfectionist tendencies. Because once you learn a little more about it, I think you might recognize some of these behaviors in those around you. People you love. Maybe people you lead. And so, I wanted to share this information and give you some tips and insights that might help. So, let’s dive in. Let’s start with what for me was the big news. And that is that Perfectionism is not a one size fits all thing. To be honest, I’ve never thought a lot about Perfectionism probably because I didn’t consider it to be a big issue for me. I thought Perfectionists were just people with a super high bar who were never satisfied with themselves and always criticizing themselves. So, while I’ve had friends and colleagues who I might put in this bucket, I never considered myself anywhere close to that. I mean, I have high standards and sometimes I have a little voice inside – my Inner Critic – that whispers that something I’m trying to do isn’t good enough, but I considered it a minor annoyance. It certainly hasn’t stopped me from doing anything I wanted to do, though I realize that at times my minor little perfectionist qualities did occasionally cause me to Procrastinate. But to be honest, I always thought of Perfectionists as being far more exacting. Some shade of grey just shy of well, being Perfect. And so, I never identified with it. But as I dove into the article on Perfectionism, it was a real revelation for me. Turns out, two Canadian psychologists – Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett – have led a decades-long research study (that went from the late 80’s to like 2016). And they used the insights from this study to create something called the Multidimensional Perfectionism Scale. And the scale they developed reveals that there’s a range of Perfectionism. It’s categorized into three types based on where the Perfectionist lens is placed, which I’ll explain more in a minute. The three types are: · Self-Oriented Perfectionism · Other-Oriented Perfectionism · Socially Prescribed Perfectionism For more on each and what you can do about it, give the episode a listen.
Sun, February 27, 2022
Ep 064: How to Drive Change and Influence People
Today we’re going to talk about how to drive change at work. Now this isn’t about the actual development of the idea of the change you want to drive because that’s something you already know how to do. You already know how to come up with ideas. Today we’re going to talk about what happens when you share your idea with others. You can also think of this as being about how to influence others. And the model I’m going to share today will help you understand the human behavior behind adopting something new. Because while some people are very adaptable to change and some are highly resistant to change, the truth is, everyone goes through four phases of the model I’m about to share. Some just do that more quickly than others. As a person who’s introducing a new idea into your organization – no matter how big or small the impact might be – it’s helpful to know. Whether you want to introduce a new strategy, recommend changing outside partners, streamlining internal processes, shifting an organizational model or team structure or pretty much anything else you think of that’s about moving someone else’s cheese, this approach will help you. This was a hot topic recently for one of my private coaching clients. She’s in a CMO role inside a Fortune 500 organization. She’s still kind of new, having taken the role six months ago. And given the C in her title and the fact that she’s new, pretty much everything she does it about change. All day, every day. In the short time she’s been there, she’s repositioned the brand, introduced a new advertising company and now she’s starting to look at some bigger disruptors like changing a long-time agency relationship, streamlining her organizational model, and shifting some of how the work gets done inside her team. And those changes in and of themselves are easy for her. Innovating and finding new and better ways to do things is her superpower. But for her, doing this inside a big, established, set-in-it’s-ways Fortune 500 is very different from doing so inside a startup. And that’s where she’s spent most of her career. Startups by nature are still being formed so they’re naturally more nimble and agile. So, as she’s recently taken on this role inside a large decades old – and maybe slightly stuck corporation she’s found that driving change – honestly, even sharing new ideas – inside that type of environment is a very different thing. Instead of finding numerous allies who see her vision and readily expand on it, she finds herself endlessly explaining the ideas again and again. And in general, just being met with this ‘wall of resistance’ (that’s what she calls it) whenever anything new is even proposed. She’s frustrated. Irritated. And feels more than a little defeated. As a result, just six months into the role, she’s dubbed most of her peers and many of her direct reports ‘the no people’ and lately has been fantasizing about greener pastures
Sat, February 19, 2022
Ep 063: Self-Image and Your Career
Today I wanted to talk about something foundational to having the career or life you want. And that is your self-image. You’ve heard me say it many times on this podcast, but it’s impossible to say it too often because it’s just not something we hear about much. And yet it’s so incredibly important. So, I’ll say it again. Everything that you want in your career, your business OR your life starts on the inside. Today we’re going to dive deeper into what that means because it is critically important when it comes to creating the life you want. And once you understand the concept of self-image *and* learn how to create a positive one, your career and really every other part of your life as well, is going to change for the better. I know that self-image isn’t usually what comes up when we talk about career. Most of us are taught to pay more attention to influencing what *others* think about us – our boss, our colleagues, our partner, our customers. And of course, it is important. But there’s something even more important that needs to come *first*. And that is, what we think about ourselves . Here’s why. We can only create a career or life to the edge of our self-image. To the edge of what we believe is possible for ourselves. That’s why we sometimes say we really want one thing but then we do the opposite. So, we may say we want to lose 20 pounds but instead of staying on our health eating protocol, we binge on chips or cookies when we’re stressed. That’s where the behaviors we have that confound us come from. And it’s where those feelings of self-doubt or worry or fear come from as well. So, we must believe in our ability to have, do, and be the things we want BEFORE we can actually have, do, and be them. Here’s how it works in practical terms. If we don’t believe we can get the promotion, we won’t. If we don’t think we can be successful in that new career path, we won’t. If we don’t believe we can have that level of income or savings, we won’t. If we don’t believe we can have good relationships, we won’t. If we don’t believe we’ll be successful in the new business, we won’t. Or let’s to take it to your health, if you don’t believe you can lose the weight, you won’t. And it’s important to say also that this isn’t spiritual woo woo. This is about cold, hard practicality. This is about as real as it gets. After all, I’m a Midwest girl through and through so practicality is my thing. And this inside out approach is just the way the universe works. Once you know this, it explains so many things that never seemed to go our way, but we could never figure out why. Because the truth is if we don’t believe in our ability to have, do or be something FIRST, we will either not make it happen or if we do, we won’t be able to hang onto it. It’s that simple. So inside is where it all starts. And once you do that
Sun, February 13, 2022
Ep 062: Five Steps for Staying Calm When Getting Feedback
Today I want to talk about something that most of us dread but that everyone in business contends with on occasion – whether you’re in a corporate job or you run your own business – and that is getting feedback on our performance. Because for those of us in corporate America, it’s high season, right? While it varies, in general most American companies have an annual performance review cycle that runs through the calendar year. So, employees set goals at the beginning of the year that outline what we want to do in the year ahead and, when we finish the year, we note our achievements, measure progress against the goals we set, and we’re given a rating based on that. Sometimes we’re even stack ranked with our peers, a practice I still don’t think should happen but it’s how many companies differentiate between good and amazing performances in that year. I get why they do it – to award standout performance – but there’s something so inhuman about it. But I digress…because that’s not what we’re here to explore. So, our boss will then assign a rating to our performance based on whatever system of measurement they use, and the process usually concludes with a meeting with our manager. In that meeting, they’ll give their feedback, usually sharing both strengths and opportunity areas. This process varies a bit from company to company. Some have a more frequent and less formal feedback process, and for some it’s annually and very formal. But any way you do it, the experience for most people is the same. Whether you had a challenging year or a great year full of accomplishment, there’s something unsettling about having your performance reviewed. Even more, for most, the process is important to our livelihood because the feedback is tied to bonus percentage, maybe merit raise percentage, promotions or whatever. So, we’ve usually got a lot riding on the quality of the rating. And once concluded, both the rating and feedback are entered into a database, so they stay with you for the life of your tenure. So, the stakes are high. This isn’t a one or done process. As long as you’re with that employer, anyone who manages you will be able see the feedback and the rating. It’s on your ‘permanent record’ so to speak. And as any business owner will tell you, for them, *every* day is like annual performance review day. Especially in the age of social media. Customer’s rate and provide reviews based on their experience with a brand and over time, all those ratings and reviews combine to create a holistic view of that company or brand. And that view can significantly influence the likelihood that other people will either buy or not buy that brand. And once that general customer view is entrenched, it becomes part of their reputation which can be *very* hard to undo. And then there’s the internet trolls who’ve never even done business with you but that tra
Sun, February 06, 2022
Ep 061: How to Go All In on Your Career and Life
It’s hard to believe that it’s already February. Right? So now that we’re one month in, I wanted to ask you how you’re doing on your goals. Are you looking at 2022 with intention? Do you know the results you want to create in your career and life this year? I don’t know about you, but with the pandemic limiting so much of our possibilities over the past few years, the idea of setting and pursuing specific goals this year is more important than ever for me. So let me ask you… Do you have specific goals you’re going after this year? If so, how’s it going? Have you stayed with them over the past month? Or did you abandon them a few weeks in? And if you haven’t set goals for 2022, why not? I mean, have you really thought about that? Is it because you don’t know what you want? Or is it because you don’t believe in your ability to achieve them? I think these are some of the most important questions we’ll ever ask ourselves. Because the career and life we want isn’t going to happen by accident. We have to know what we want. Then we must decide to commit to it. Take consistent action. And stay with it. No matter what. That’s what it takes to make big things happen in our lives. And I ask these questions not to guilt or shame you. I ask because I want you to answer those questions for yourself. Not for anyone else. And then hopefully to deliberately choose and commit to what you want to create in 2022. After all, that’s the entire purpose of my business. I’m here to help people just like you live into the career and life YOU want. And the truth is, you’ll never get there if you don’t know where “there” is. You won’t get there by just going with the flow. Or waiting to see what happens. Or hoping that by some miracle the perfect life will fall in your lap. Maybe it will. But for most of us, we only get what we want when we know exactly that is and then fully commit to making it happen. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 30, 2022
Ep 060: How to Stop Making Decisions from Fear
Today I want to talk about two things that should never go together, and that is Decisions and Fear. Now, I’m usually not big on “should-ing yourself” so, when I say those two words decision and fear should never be used together, I mean it. It’s one of the most important rules for living a life free of regret. Making fear-based decisions will never serve you. And I think we can all look at that statement and agree that it’s true. But still, when I reflect on my life and my experiences – friends, colleagues, myself, my coaching clients – it does feel like something we all do. I mean, think about your own life experiences. How many times have you made a certain decision so you could avoid an outcome you don’t want instead of making a choice based only on what you DO want? As humans, this is kind of how we roll. So, if this sounds like you, you’re not alone. In fact, according to a recent study, more than 80% of our choices are fear-based. That study defines fear-based decisions as ‘being afraid of what will happen if we don’t make a certain choice as opposed to making decisions based on what we really DO want in our life.’ So basically, making the safe choice instead of the choice we really want is a good way to think about it. Fear is part of life. And as humans our primitive brain is wired to keep us safe. So, it’s natural that when we’re faced with a big and potentially scary decision, our primitive brain will kick into high gear and try to influence our decision-making so we avoid the potential downsides of that decision. But we can overcome that part of our brain. And doing so requires conscious decision-making. So in this episode, we’re going to explore this issue and how to make decisions in a way that serves you. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 23, 2022
Ep 059: Five Steps to Knowing and Getting What You Want
Ever since I aired episode #56 on “Your One Big Crazy Goal”, I’ve received so many DMs and emails from you guys. So. Many. And they all say some version of the same thing, which is “But I just don’t know what I really want.” If that’s you, I want you to know that you’re not alone. “I don’t know what I want” is absolutely one of the most common things my clients say. And if you think about it, that’s not particularly surprising. After all, we’re talking career and business on this podcast. So, knowing what you want is ideally guiding you along your path. I mean…who wants to get 10, 20, 30 years into your career, only to find yourself miserable and going through the motions. Living for Fridays and dreading Monday mornings. It happens to too many of us. To reinforce this theme, episode #3 of this podcast which talks about “Knowing what you really want” is a different way into that same topic and it just happens to be the most listened to of the podcast even though it’s a year old now. And I’m sure you’ve heard friends, family (or maybe even yourself) say something like, “Well I know what I don't want but I have no idea what I do want.” This is a human challenge. It’s not unique to you. So, I share all of that because I want you to know that if you haven’t figured out your thing yet – even if you’re well into your career at this point – you’re not alone. And the sad truth is, some people NEVER do. Because it takes a little work. And I REALLY don’t want that to be you. Because I believe that knowing what you want is related to your purpose. To the reason you’re here. Without getting too into the woo here, I believe we all came into this world with our unique set of strengths. And those strengths are strongly related to what we’re meant to contribute to the world during our time here. I deeply believe this. So, because this theme of not knowing what you want is so widespread, I wanted to do an episode dedicated to anyone who hasn’t yet connected to their heart’s desire. And I wanted to give you five steps to doing that. Notice I didn’t say ‘easy’ steps. Because while it’s very important that we do connect to what we really want and these five steps will get you there, it’s kinda complicated. And here’s why. Because to really connect to it, you’ll have to get past the voices of others and your own inner fears so you can listen to the part of you that knows the truth. And while I know it might not feel that way right now, you DO know the truth. Some part of you DOES know what you want. There’s just been a lot of distraction and noise and outside influences that have gotten in the way. And it’s made it really hard to hear what that part of you is trying to tell you. I did a worksheet for this episode to help you do the exploratory. So, you might want to hit pause while you go out to thepurposefulcareer.com/whatyouwant and download it. You can also get there by
Sun, January 16, 2022
Ep 058: How to Stop the Chronic Overworking
Today I want to talk about the issue of chronic overworking. It’s a widespread in corporate America but for entrepreneurs as well. A few decades ago, laptops and cellphones blurred the lines between work and home. And for many, it took away clear boundaries. It made it harder to be clear around when work for the day stops, and for many people, quite simply, it doesn’t. And now, with the rise of remote work during the pandemic, the boundaries are even blurrier because now our home IS the workplace. And if THAT’S true, can we EVER stop working? And it’s not just the corporate types that struggle with this. It’s long been an issue for entrepreneurs as well. While in theory, business owners can set their hours and work when they choose, the truth is, it’s not that simple for many. And this is getting to the heart of the issue. Chronic overworking is about so much more than choosing the hours you work or having a lot to get done or whatever. It’s about something much deeper. And that’s what we’re going to explore in this episode. Now it’s important to know, when I talk about overworking here, I’m not referring to short periods of intense work when you’re trying to hit a specific deadline. I’m talking here about when overworking has become ingrained. It’s a habit. It’s part of our life. And for some that’ll happen periodically. For others, it’s just the way they live, permanently. This is going to be an interesting one, so let’s dive in. When you look at the issue logically, overworking can seem super easy to solve. Just set clear boundaries and live within those. But the truth is, chronic overworking is complicated. It’s about far more than the work that needs to get done. It’s primarily caused by what we THINK and how we FEEL about the work that needs to get done AND by our assessment of our ability to be successful at it. So, while other well-meaning family and friends might tell you “Just shut it off at 5”, the issue runs much deeper than that. Chronic overworking is typically caused by feelings of stress or anxiety that can get triggered in two ways: 1. They can be triggered by external forces. So, through the expectations or culture of our employer or boss. 2. Or two, and I think even more commonly, the feelings of stress and anxiety get triggered INTERNALLY, because of something we either want to do and fear we can’t. OR, because of something that’s happening around us that we interpret in a way that triggers our stress and anxiety. So, we overwork to self-soothe ourselves. To make it easier to cope with these unpleasant feelings of self-doubt, anxiety, fear, not feeling good enough or whatever. Whether the feelings of anxiety or stress are coming from external or internal forces, our default response to those negative feelings is the same. We work longer and harder to give ourselves a false sense of control and to ease the anxiety and stress we feel. So, w
Sat, January 08, 2022
Ep 057: How to Take Control of Your Emotions
Today I was originally going to talk about something else, but in the past week I had several coaching clients that were all struggling with how they feel about their job or career. Apparently, there was something about being off for a week or two around the holiday and then suddenly being back to work on January 3rd that triggered it. For some, the abrupt shift from days of leisure to the 9-5 structure that caused them to feel unfocused and overwhelmed. For others, being back in the routine was a harsh reminder that they don’t like their job or their career path or their business much anymore. (And yes, much as many corporate types might fantasize about it, even successful entrepreneurs sometimes struggle with not liking or being into what they do anymore). And because this was such a pervasive theme AND because I keep seeing all the headlines around record job resignations, I wanted to talk today about ‘taking charge of your feelings.’ Now before we get into it, I have a little disclaimer. This is not about pretending to feel positive when you really feel crappy. That isn’t true and it doesn’t work. This is learning how to take control of your emotional health. And it’s super helpful whether you’re someone who struggles with impatience (like I used to), if you tend toward pessimism or self-doubt or judgement or defensiveness or insecurity. And by the way, we all do at times. So, I think this is going to be super helpful for everyone in both their career and life, so let’s dive in. Before we get into what’s behind our emotions or mood, let’s talk about the impact our emotions have on well everything. Our life, our relationships, our performance, our health. All of it. And for this, a super helpful tool is called The Mood Elevator. It was developed by Larry Senn, a leading organizational development consultant. And he’s written a book by the same name, so if you find this concept of interest you might want to check it out. As an overview, this is a visual tool that looks at our emotional state like an elevator with different floors. On the lower floors are things like impatience, pessimism, irritation, worry, anxiety, burnout, stress, defensiveness, insecurity. And on the upper floors are things like gratitude, creativity, resourcefulness, hopefulness, optimism, humor, patience, understanding. The idea with the Mood Elevator is to first understand the relationship between the “level” of your mood and your behavior or performance. And then to learn how to elevate your mood to a ‘higher’ floor if needed. Because if you’re on the lower floors of that elevator and feeling things like anxiety, stress, insecurity or irritation you can see how that will impact what you do and how you show up around others. It might affect the things you say, how you interact with others, how you treat yourself maybe by overeating or not sleeping or whatever. It might also be the catalyst be
Sat, January 01, 2022
Ep 056: Setting a Big Crazy Goal for the New Year
Well hello Friends! I hope you guys had an amazing week! A few days ago, I shared a bonus episode called Starting Strong. And in that, I shared three filters to keep in mind when choosing your goals for the year. So, if you haven’t had a chance to check it out, do go back and give the episode a listen. Because it’ll be super helpful context for what we’re discussing today which is “One Big Impossible Goal.” A few years ago, my thinking around goals changed. You see, in the past, I mostly based my annual goals on where I was in that moment. And mostly, if I’m being honest, they were about fixing or next leveling something about myself or my life that I wasn’t entirely satisfied with. So, it was the usual stuff like eating healthier or making more money or finding the next level job or whatever. On the one hand, that made sense because it was kind of like giving myself an annual tune-up. I mean, nothing wrong with doing a little course correction, right? And that’s probably true so long as that’s not ALL you’re doing. If those little course corrections are just part of the goals picture for the year, then using some of your effort to make strategic adjustments to certain aspects of your career or life makes total sense. But here’s the thing. If you approach ALL your annual goals like that, it’s limiting. Because that means you’re basing everything on your present self. On results you already have that you now want to tweak. That’s why I say it’s limiting. Because it’s only focused on the parameters of where your life is right now. If you base your future goals solely on where you are…then that means your future can only be a slightly better version of where or who you currently are. And while that sounds fine at first glance, the downside is that it means that everything that isn’t in your life right now – anything completely new or transformative – is off the table. And since this is the start of a brand-new year, I think it’s worth asking yourself an important question: Why settle for a tweak when you can transform? I know transform sounds like a big scary word. But it doesn’t have to be. We’ve all transformed a lot throughout our lives. We’ve learned new, life changing things like how to walk when we were a toddler. Or how to read and write in elementary school. How to drive a car when we turned 16. How to be a parent when we have kids. How to master a new job skill. But somewhere along the line as we get past early adulthood things change. At least for most of us. It’s like once we’re out of school and we settle on a path – the job, the relationship, the kids, the city, the friends – we start to settle into those boundaries. I think most of the time we don’t even think about it. Or realize it. It just happens. For more, give the episode a listen. <a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_mess
Fri, December 31, 2021
Ep 055: How to Start the Year Strong
In the last episode, we talked about the value of looking back on the year that was so we can harvest all the lessons you learned this past year. What you learned from your successes, your failures, your wins, your losses. Because all of it has something valuable to teach us, right? And this is the ideal time of year to do that. So, if you haven’t listened to last week’s episode called “My Learnings List”, I invite you to go back and do that. In it, I share some thoughts on how to think about those lessons and I walk you through a super helpful exercise. This is a great way to make sure that you capture all that hard-earned wisdom and bring it with you going forward. But today, I want to shift your focus to the future. Because it’s New Year’s Eve. The last day of 2021! And that means that we’re just a few short hours from a bright shiny new year. I just love the whole clean slate thing. The idea that there’s 365 blank pages in the book of 2022. And YOU get to decide what you want to fill those pages with. What you’ll invest your time in. Who you want to be. What you want to learn. What you want to experience. But today we’re not going to talk setting goals. We’ll do that on Sunday (in the next episode). TODAY we’re going to talk about how to get yourself READY to set big life changing goals. Because that’s what I want to invite you to do this year. Allow yourself to dream big. Allow yourself to imagine that 2022 is the year you don’t just make small steps forward, but you make a giant leap forward. Maybe a leap that even scares you a little because it feels so big and impossible. And if that’s the kind of life changing year we want to have, it’s not as simple as jotting down some goals in like 15 minutes. Big dreams require big mindset preparation. You need to be very purposeful in how you’re thinking about the goals you select. I think of these as filters or the lens that you view the goal through. And there are three of them. They are: #1. Be future focused #2. No limits or boundaries #3. Believe it is possible for you So, let’s explore each of these filters in a bit more depth. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, December 26, 2021
Ep 054: How to Harvest the Lessons Learned This Year (and Every Year)
Well hello Friends! I hope you had a wonderful Christmas celebration filled with everything and everyone you love . I visited family earlier this month, so this year I stayed in Dallas. And my day was super relaxing. Filled with a little football, a little Netflix-ing and some good food. It was a sunny 80-degree day here in Dallas and for a Midwest girl, it’s kinda hard to get used to that at the end of December. Even after 7 years, it just feels…not right. I think next year, I’m gonna have to spend it somewhere wintry. Just so I can have the fireplace going and the snow outside and get to wear all the sweaters and the outerwear. You know? BTW if you would’ve told me in the winter of 2014 that I would miss snowy weather, I never would’ve believed you. That year in Chicago it snowed 100 inches from November to April. I thought I’d never be warm again. And when I got the job in Dallas, I gave away all my sweaters and coats and got here as fast as I could. So…just goes to show what a little distance and perspective will do for you, right? lol And that’s what we’re going to talk about today. Perspective on your 2021. Because it’s the last week of the year. Can you even believe it? Crazy. And when we get to this point in the year, most of us naturally spend a little time looking back and reflecting on the year that was. At all the experiences, the achievements, the failures, the losses, the disappointments. All of it. But the question is, what do we do with that information? Are we just reflecting on our experiences in a passive way? Or, are we taking everything we learned from those experiences and using that to make 2022 even better? In my experience, most of us just reflect and move on. We kind of summarize the year into a big generalization that captures our experience overall – the combination of all the good, the bad, the challenging – as either being ‘a good year’ or ‘a bad year’ or ‘a challenging year’ or whatever. If you doubt this, just go back to 2020. Looking back. How do you think about that year? Most of us would say it was tough. Transitional. Isolating. Worrying. Uncertain. And that was true for most of us around the world. But those who look deeper, who took the time to mine their experiences for lessons learned might say it was transformational. Life changing. Clarifying. Because they took the time to look at the experiences – the good and the bad – to identify the lessons. Because the truth is, the value of the experiences we have is not just the having of them. It’s what they can teach us if we take the time to look at them. The point I want to make is that, as humans, most of us tend to reflect on our year in a more general way or maybe not at all. And as part of that, we lump all the experiences of the year together and come away with a generalization, a vib
Fri, December 24, 2021
Ep 053: Five Lessons I Learned From My First Year of Podcasting
Well hello Friends. I hope you had an amazing week! In Episode 51, I promised to share a bonus episode with you on the Five Lessons I Learned from My First Year of Podcasting. I’m ten days late in releasing it so I appreciate your patience and understanding. While I had the outline ready to record, I actually got a debilitating tooth issue the next day and it took a good week, a round of amoxicillin and an incredibly painful trip to the dentist for me to start feeling good enough to record it. But that’s all a story for another time. The important thing is that I wanted to share these lessons because I think they will help you. I know they have me. This podcasting journey began for me on January 1st of 2021. That’s when I had the idea. I knew it was the right next step in my business but I gotta be honest. I wasn’t 100% sure I would a)., actually do it and b). keep doing it once I started. The whole idea of putting out content into the podcasting universe with my name on it seemed scary and dangerous. And as a coach, I knew that uncertainty, self-doubt, and fear was coming from my primitive brain. The part of our brain that tries to keep us safe from danger. But still, it felt like something important. Something I needed to at least try. So, I had the idea on January 1st and then actually published the first episode on January 3rd. AND, I was going to do it all myself. Research, write, record, edit, and produce. And on January 1st, I didn’t know how to do any of that. I decided not to overthink it like I typically would do. Instead, I just made a promise to myself. I promised myself that I would commit to at least one year and that I would publish a new episode every Sunday. I chose Sunday even though it’s the lightest listening day for podcasts because most people who are unhappy in their career DREAD Sunday. I know there were many periods in my life when I felt the same. So, I wanted to do something that would give people encouraging, motivational or insightful approaches that they could use to hopefully have a better, happier, more productive work (and life) week ahead. So, I knew this would be a growth journey for myself. Just learning how to produce a podcast and to do it consistently with quality content was going to be a challenge and I knew I’d learn a lot. But as I began mining my podcasting journey for lessons, I realized it did so much more for myself than I realized. And I think that’s the beautiful thing about goals. We make the goal or set the intention because it’s something we care about or want for ourselves. And when we fully commit to doing what it takes to have that new goal, to master it, it always does so much more for ourselves than we expect it to. And this journey for me is no different. So, I hope you get some insights from these five lessons that you can apply to your own life. For more, g
Sun, December 19, 2021
Ep 052: How to Leave the Comfort Zone and Why You'd Want To (#2 of 2)
In last week’s episode, we talked about the four zones of growth. And for that, I referred to a super helpful infographic that shows how the four zones relate to each other. It’s posted on my Instagram, and we’ll be referring to that again in today’s episode, so be sure to go check that out @thepurposefulcareer. Last episode, we also talked about the things we think and feel in each zone, how the zones relate to the other and how, over the course of our lives, we go through these four zones again and again. Basically, whenever we pursue a big new goal or go after something new and big, we go through these four zones of growth. And each time we try something new, go through these four zones, we become more confident in our ability to try and master new things. The fear zone basically becomes less of a ‘thing’ for us because as we get comfortable working our way through the uncertainty and awkwardness of trying something new, most of us find a way to reframe the fear. Which is mostly a fear of failure, right? We’ve never done the thing before so that fear zone is all about what we’re making failure mean. We’ll talk more about this in a minute, but it’s important to remember. We also talked a lot about the Comfort Zone. It’s the great seducer. Because the truth is, this is where most people stay. It’s why we quit on our new year’s resolutions. It’s why we don’t stick with the diet or workout routine. It’s why we stay in that job or career path we hate or the relationship we don’t want instead of going after something new. The comfort zone seduces us because it’s the warm and cozy place where we feel safe and in control. Where we know what to expect. Where we know how to do all the things. And it’s the place where we never have to feel the discomfort or awkwardness we inevitably feel when we attempt something new. We don’t have to deal with failure in the comfort zone. So many times, we can make the mistake of believing that this means we “should” stay in the comfort zone. And most people do. But as I shared last week, the comfort zone is the place where passion goes to die. Stay too long in a job you hate and see where that gets you. You might be comfortable but you’re probably miserable too. Because somewhere inside, you know you really want to do something different or next level. The comfort zone holds us back because it keeps us from trying new things. Which prevents us from growing and learning. Our world stays small and familiar which in a way can be soothing. But at the same time, we also know that it’s preventing us from living up to our full potential. So today we’re going to talk about Leaving the Comfort Zone. Because leaving the comfort zone and heading into the fear zone takes a strong and compelling reason that’ll make the effort worth it. And it’ll take even more personal commitment to stay in the fear zone until you get through it into learning and growth. I’m also g
Sun, December 12, 2021
Ep 051: From the Comfort Zone to the Growth Zone (#1 of 2)
In January, most of us will set a bunch of goals. And when we do, a lot of us go all in. We allow ourselves to get super excited about what it will mean to have the goal. How it can change our life. All the things. But soon after, many of us will quit. Research says it’s like 27% quit by end of week one. 31% by end of week two. And finally, by the end of the first month, more than 50% of us have quit. Not just quit on our goals but quit on ourselves. I don’t know if you can relate to this, but I certainly can. I’ve quit on a lot of my goals over the years. A LOT. But not all of them. Take this podcast for example. I started it on January 3rd, 2021, and when I started, I promised myself I’d do a new episode every Sunday. And I’ve done it. In just two weeks, I’ll have achieved that goal. But it wasn’t easy. I wanted to quit. So. Many. Times. I kept telling myself I didn’t have the time. That it was too hard. That it was taking too long to build my audience. That there were other things I “should” be doing with the time I spend on the business. And there’s a lot more excuses where that came from. Believe me. I could fill this podcast with my excuses. But I didn’t quit. I kept going. Every week. And what I learned is that – no matter what the goal is – the biggest hurdle is mindset. It’s about not letting yourself talk yourself out of the goal, out of doing the work, just because it feels a little uncomfortable on occasion. If we want to achieve a new goal, we must overcome the urge to quit. To keep going when we feel scared or uncertain or uncomfortable. To practice the self-command that it takes to stay consistent. Even when it’s not fun. Even when you don’t have time. Even when there’s an unplanned emergency or whatever else is going on. And now, we’ll get into today’s topic which is The Four Zones of Growth. This series was inspired by an infographic I as I was doing some study on positive psychology, which is one of the key methodologies I use in my coaching practice. This infographic illustrates that the path to growth is divided into four zones. First is the Comfort Zone. Next is the Fear Zone. Following Fear is the Learning Zone. And last is the destination, the Growth Zone. And if you want to see the graphic visual, check out my Instagram or Facebook page today. And by the way, if you’re not already doing so, please follow me over there. In all honesty, my social presence has left a lot to be desired this year but THAT just means that it’s at the top of the list on my big goals for 2022. So, let’s connect because there will be a lot of new goodness coming. Anyway, the Four Zones of Growth is a cool infographic. It instantly changed how I thought about fear and the very real struggle most of us feel when we try new things. And when I viewed growth in this new wa
Sun, December 05, 2021
Ep 050: From Inner Critic to Inner Coach
Now that we’re into December, most of us are racing to wrap up the year at work. And this is the time of year when most companies ask us to start capturing our accomplishments as part of the annual performance review most companies follow. It usually begins – at least in the U.S. – with entering your accomplishments into the system to see how you tracked against the goals you set earlier in the year. This then becomes the basis for a performance discussion, usually in the very early part of the following year. So, this was the topic of one of my sessions with a newer private coaching client earlier this week. My client was promoted into an executive role this past Spring and since then, in her words, she’s struggled a bit. In fact, that’s why she came to me in the first place. In the early days of her new role, she felt like she had stumbled – both in her relationships with some of her new colleagues and on one of her first big assignments. So, she wasn’t happy, and she’d spent a lot of time beating herself up. And when she got tired of that, she reached out and we started a coaching series aimed at quieting her Inner Critic. And while she feels she’s recovered a bit and worked her way into some recent wins, this end of the year accomplishment exercise brought up all the memories of her earlier struggles. All she could think about was her struggles and stumbles and that, in her mind, she wasn’t performing as perfectly as she would’ve liked. And she was worried about what the new boss was going to say. Now this is one of my clients who’s a super high achiever but who also has a super active inner critic. And so, as she recollected all the earlier struggles, her Inner Critic kicked into high gear, telling her things like “you’re not up to the task” and “you’re going to fail” and her general feelings of “not being good enough.” For her, this thought pattern is deeply entrenched. And at earlier stages of her career, she found that her Inner Critic kind of spurred her on. It generated feelings of anxiety and self-doubt, but she found it easier to push past those and keep going when she had a more junior or less visible role. Now that she’s an executive, that same inner critic is still there, alive, and well. But NOW, the feelings of anxiety and self-doubt it produces are much more disruptive. She’s not sleeping. She’s over thinking and obsessing. She’s isolating from friends. She’s procrastinating on important initiatives. All so she can stew about those earlier-in-the-year mistakes which she is making mean that she’s already been exposed as the fraud her Inner Critic keeps telling her that she is. And since she’s now an executive, she fears everyone is about to learn “the truth” about her…that she’s a fraud. So, the work we’ll be doing over the next several weeks is working on how to turn down the volume on the Inner Critic and turn up the Inner
Sun, November 28, 2021
Ep 049: Finding More Time in Your Day and Week When You Think There's Not Enough
But yesterday, I looked at the calendar and realized it’s almost December! I say it every year, but I honestly don’t know where the time went. And I felt that familiar panic when I realized there’s only a month left in the year. And it’s a super busy month. Which means I won’t have much TIME to finish the things I wanted to get done this year. Before I go any further, I want to point out that all those things I’m telling myself about time are just stories I’m telling myself. They’re not true. They’re just things my brain makes time mean. It’s how I tend to think about time as it relates to defined periods of time and my goals. This made me think about the things we tell ourselves about time. Specifically, why so many of us today believe we don’t have “enough time” or why we’re constantly feeling “pressed for time.” And that’s what we’re going to talk about today. So let’s dive in. We all have a different relationship with time. For me, the time issue came up for me because of where we’re at in the year. I like to be goal-oriented and there are certain points in the year when I naturally look back and evaluate how I’m doing with my goals. I do this to evaluate whether “I’ve used my time wisely.” And for me July and December are the two times of the year when I do this. But my outcome is usually completely different for me in July than it is in December. And it has to do with how I look at time. In July when I look back to see how I’m doing against my goals, I feel motivated. Even if I have mixed results or even if I haven’t even started on them yet. That’s because I’ll tell myself things like “Well, I may not have gotten to that yet, but I still have six months left in the year.” And I’m making that mean that I still have plenty of time left in the year to get things done. This makes me feel motivated. And I’m usually inspired to dive back in with renewed focus and energy. But in early December, it’s a completely different experience for me. Now we’re at the end of the year. So, when I look back to see how I’m doing against my goals, I tend to feel panicked because I don’t have ‘a lot of time left’ to go after that goal. I tell myself that the ‘year is basically behind me and it’s too late’ to do get anything accomplished. This makes me feel demotivated. And that usually means I don’t do a thing about my goals. I just try to sweep them under my mental rug, so I don’t have to think about them and I tell myself “I’ll add those to the list next year.” So, I’ve got this container view of time. Instead of viewing time as a continuum that’s ongoing, at least when it comes to my goals, I view time in buckets and tell myself that my goals need to be accomplished in that amount of time. Of course, none of that is true. But it sure sounds true. At least to me. The truth is we can start our goals anytime. And what difference does it honestly make if we accomplish them within the calendar ye
Sun, November 21, 2021
Ep 048: Gratitude and Your Career
Well hello Friends! I hope you had an amazing week! This coming Thursday is Thanksgiving in the U.S. and it’s always been one of my favorite times of the year. I love everything about it. The traditions. The time with family and friends. The food. The football. The Hallmark Christmas movies. Who’s with me?! But more than all of that, I love the reminder to be thankful. To just choose to be grateful for ALL OF IT. Because with our busy lives and careers and families, it’s so easy to forget to do that. To either take for granted everything we have or maybe even failing to see how there’s ALWAYS something to be grateful for even when we’re in the middle of really dark times. And that’s the part I wanted to talk about today. The importance of being grateful ON PURPOSE. Even when things in your life might not be going exactly as planned. Because being grateful is a choice. It’s a decision we make. It’s about deciding to view the circumstances of our lives through a lens that actively seeks out the good. And then allowing yourself to really see it and appreciate it . Especially important after the past year. I mean, come on. 2020? Hot mess express, right? That’s probably a descriptor most of us would agree with, even in this divided culture we live in right now. The great toilet paper shortage of 2020? The endless months of isolation. The not seeing family or friends. The not going to restaurants of movies. People getting sick. Losing jobs. All of it. So today, I want to talk about gratitude as a choice. I know it’s a little trite to talk gratitude in November. But I want to talk about gratitude as a daily practice. A tool that will help you see your life and the world that will serve you in ways you can’t even imagine right now. I call it The Gratitude Game. It’s a practice I started doing several years ago when I was going through a time in my career that I didn’t love. I had a great job and I loved WHAT I did every day and many of the people I worked with, but I DIDN’T love or even like really, the culture of the company I worked for. And on top of that, I had a super long commute – like one hour each way on a GOOD day – and I didn’t love that either. Sure, the podcasts helped (Thanks Brooke Castillo and Amy Porterfield) but many days it wasn’t enough to stop my mind from fixating on the dread of the day to come. The nonstop politics. The bad decisions. The relentless news of more layoffs. And so many other things that aren’t worth mentioning now but that I know many of you can relate to. We all have experienced times like this. So, suffice it to say that when the alarm clock went off every morning at 5:30, it took everything I had to drag myself out of bed and get ready to face the day I knew I had ahead o
Sun, November 14, 2021
Ep 047: Why We Sometimes Hide Our Successes
So…in last week’s episode, we talked about visibility. Specifically, why it’s important and how to get more of it in your career. Because as we all know, if we want to get ahead, it’s not enough to just do great work. Other people need to recognize our contributions and our potential. But today I want to talk about the opposite problem. Which is…what happens when we get the visibility and recognition that we worked so hard for and then find ourselves intentionally shrinking back from it, either diminishing what we did or maybe hiding that accomplishment altogether. I mean, it’s not logical right? Why would we nearly kill ourselves to achieve something, only to get it and then either make light of it or hide it altogether? Well, it may not make sense, but the truth is it happens all the time. In fact, according to a study by the University of Chicago, 82% of respondents said they’ve hidden their accomplishments from someone else at least once in their lives. 82%? Wow. But maybe that number shouldn’t have surprised me because I’m in the 82%. I’ve done it more times than I care to count. And if I’m being honest, it wasn’t even a conscious thing and it wasn’t even just with one person in particular. It was kind of most people in general. I’ve just kept lots of accomplishments to myself over the course of my life. And I never really stopped to think about what it was costing me until it came up for one of my clients this week. My client took over his family’s business a few years ago. The business hadn’t been doing well when he stepped into the role, but he’s been working hard to turn it around and now, all those efforts are paying off. He’s got a flood of new clients. Revenue is up by like 3x in just a year. And now, he’s won a few national awards. He knows that’s important in attracting new clients, so he’s featured them in some of his advertising. But in our last session, he mentioned that he’d gotten several more and was planning to keep them a secret. And because he seemed less than enthused about that, I asked how he felt about it. His answer was “embarrassed.” When I asked why he felt embarrassed he responded, “It’s too much. What are people going to say?” To which I responded, “What do YOU think people are going to say?” And he responded, “People are going to think I’m arrogant and that I think everything is about me.” To hear more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel. <b
Sun, November 07, 2021
Ep 046: Visibility & Your Personal Brand
Today I want to talk about visibility within your career. Specifically, why it matters, why we need to proactively manage our visibility within our job and our company and what to do when you feel like it’s become an issue for you. As I researched the topic this week, I noticed that there’s a lot of different definitions out there. But in my business, I define visibility within your career as the need to be “broadly recognized for your skills, ideas and accomplishments.” Now, you might be thinking “why do I need to be broadly recognized? Isn’t it enough that my boss sees my value?” And the short answer is, no. Regardless of the size of the company you work in it takes more than one person – your boss – to see your value. And this also affects entrepreneurs. For them it’s about how they show up with their employees, clients and even within the business communities they’re part of. It’s really about proactively managing your personal brand. How you want others to view you. And that’s not something you want to leave to chance. The truth is if you want to keep moving forward in your career, if you want to be the first one, they think of with new assignments or next level opportunities, it’s going to take more than your direct manager to recognize and see your worth. It’s the same for entrepreneurs. If you want your employees to follow you, if you want to be at the top of the list for the next great speaking engagement within your community, if you want to be a leader within your niche, you can’t just leave it to change. You have to be visible. The way I see it, visibility in business comes down to two things – both of which are tied to your personal brand or how you want to be thought of. The first is something I call leading out loud. This is about having the confidence and self-belief to speak up. To believe in yourself and in your ideas so much that you lean in. You share your ideas and concerns, you’re not afraid to express an opposing opinion. You volunteer for hard or high-profile assignments. Basically, you put yourself out there. The second, is about what I like to call 360-degree personal brand management. This is about being smart about managing your brand with the important stakeholders who need to have a positive opinion of you so that you can get the things you want. And this isn’t about being a shameless self-promoter, but it is about taking smart, proactive steps to ensure that the people who you want and need to be aware of you, are. And that you’re controlling your own narrative and not relying on others to do that for you. An important part of it. So, you might be thinking that professional visibility is just a problem for introverts. I can assure you, it’s not. I know many natural introverts who are amazing at both leading out loud and 360-degree brand management . The truth is having a visibility problem can
Sun, October 31, 2021
Ep 045: How to Stop the Self-Sabotage
Well hello Friends! I hope you guys had an amazing week. Today I want to talk about something that I think we’ve all struggled with at one point or another in some part of our lives, and that is Self-Sabotage. It’s something I see my clients do on occasion. I’ve seen it play out with people at work and I’ve done it myself on occasion. As I said, we all have at some point. So, this episode is going to be super helpful for all of us, I think. In this episode, we’re going to learn the definition of self-sabotage, how it shows up, WHY we engage in it and how we can stop. So, let’s start with the definition. For this I decided to go straight to the source. I googled Websters. Interestingly, Webster’s didn’t have self-sabotage in their online dictionary, which I thought was odd. But they DID supply the definition of Sabotage, which they listed as “an act or process intended to hamper or hurt.” So, that’s a very good definition. And we can make it work for Self-Sabotage by just adding “ourselves” at the end. Which would make the definition: “an act or process intended to hamper or hurt ourselves.” There’s just one thing about that which is the word “intended.” Because when it comes to SELF sabotage, it’s important to know that it’s not always a conscious choice. In fact, according to psychologists there are two types of self-sabotage: Conscious and Unconscious. Conscious self-sabotage happens when you’re aware (in the moment) that what you’re doing is actively undermining yourself and your goals - that you’re working counter to what you really want – but you do it anyway. An example of this could be when you KNOW you need to finish that presentation for work but instead of doing that, you binge watch Netflix or meet friends for drinks. Does that one sound familiar? Probably shows up as procrastination, right? I know I can relate to this one. And then there’s UNconscious self-sabotage. And that’s when you do something that undermines yourself and your goals, but you don’t realize it until later. Sometimes MUCH later, like when you’re dealing with the consequences of it. An example of this might be habitually showing up late for work or turning in sub-par work. You know you shouldn’t be doing that but you’re not consciously connecting to what’s REALLY driving that behavior which is probably some sort of underlying fear of failure or maybe self-doubt or feeling not good enough. At first, you might chalk it up to being disorganized or maybe to poor planning. But when it keeps happening over and over and over again, at some point you realize, “Oh, it’s a thing. I’m doing it on purpose.” For some Self-Sabotage is an occasional or point-in-time thing. So, it’s not as harmful. But for others, it’s a deeply embedded chronic pattern of behavior that eventually leads to major issues in their career or some other aspect of their life like their relationships, their financial healt
Sun, October 24, 2021
Ep 044: The Importance of Self Appreciation & How to Do It
This morning, I changed my mind about what I wanted to talk about today. Hey, I’m a Libra. That’s what we do. It’s about the whole scale thing. lol But seriously, it’s kind of a big deal for me to do that and it’s not something I usually do because I spend a lot of time preparing for each episode. I do research, I prepare a script and then record and edit. I invest a lot into each episode. It’s something I enjoy but when I choose to scrap a topic at the last minute that means I can’t just record and edit. I need to take the time to get immersed into a NEW topic, then prepare a NEW script and THEN record. So, it’s kind of a thing. But I think it’s important to be flexible. To listen to what my intuition is telling me about what would be best to share with all of you. So, when that inner voice pipes up, I listen. Many times, a last-minute shift will be inspired by work I’m doing with my clients. And this week is no different. This week something unusual happened. And that is, the same issue cropped up for three of my private coaching clients. The same issue. In the same week. Now granted, the specific situation or the way each client experienced the issue was different but, in each instance, the root issue they were dealing with was the same. And their self-coaching and homework in between coaching sessions was the same. But as I sent the last client their follow-up recap and homework, it made me think about how many people I’ve managed who’ve struggled with the same thing. How many friends or colleagues? And honestly, how often I struggled with it. As I considered that, I realized how pervasive the issue actually is and how fundamental it is to helping enable the goals we have, the success we want and honestly, who we want to be in the world. So, I knew it was the thing I needed to talk about today. Because I intuitively believe it’s something most of us need to hear and consider how to put it into practice in our own lives. So, in this episode, we’re going to talk about Self Appreciation. What it is. Why it’s important. And how to put it into practice. So, let’s dive in. First let’s look at a simple definition. Self-Appreciation is about consciously acknowledging the things about yourself that you like or appreciate. These can be traits, accomplishments, contributions, whatever. Doesn’t really matter WHAT it is. The important thing is that YOU see it and appreciate it. AND, that you view it solely through the lens of YOU, meaning you don’t compare YOU with the things we appreciate and observe about others. Self-Appreciation is about you and you alone. There are lots of reasons this is important. First and foremost because most of us aren’t taught to do this. We’re taught to notice what’s special are amazing about others and the importance of acknowledging that. But very few
Sun, October 17, 2021
Ep 043: Ask the Coach: "My co-worker won't stay in their own lane"
Well hello Friends! Welcome to this bonus episode of “Ask the Coach.” This is something I started a couple of month ago and I promised I’d do it every month or two. And it’s been a few months since the first one, so I thought we’d do another one. If you recall, for these episodes, I do some specific coaching based on questions you submit. So, for future episodes, if you’re struggling with something at work or if you have a question about anything else related to your career or life, send me a DM on Instagram or email me at carla@thepurposefulcareer.com . It’s always anonymous. I just use the initials of the person who submitted the question. So, today’s question comes from TJ. And she says: Dear Carla, I’ve got this colleague who just won’t stay in his lane. We have to work together on big projects and initiatives and that shouldn’t be a problem. We each have our own role (supposedly). But the truth is, when we work together, he just won’t stay in his own lane. He often doesn’t deliver on his own area’s responsibilities on time and instead, he’s all up in MY business. He’s always wanting to work on my things together or giving me his ideas or talking over me in meetings. I’ve even heard him overtly take credit for the work I’ve done. It’s not just me. Others tell me they see what’s going on and honestly, I’m at my wit’s end. I can’t deal with him anymore. I’m so angry with him that I’m afraid of what I might say. And I’m also afraid that while I’ve got my head down trying to get my work done, he’s out there taking credit for it all. And I’m afraid of the implications that’s going to have on my future at this company. Plus, it’s just not fair. So, my question to you is this. How can I get my colleague to stay in his own lane? Thanks a lot. TJ Well TJ, before we get into the coaching, I just want to say…I FEEL you. YEARS ago, like 13 years ago, I had almost the exact same issue. So, I know the very real and very negative impact this type of thing can have on you. And I’ll say that at the time, I didn’t handle it as well as I would’ve liked. At the time I felt like I’d tried everything, talking to him, talking to our mutual boss, ignoring it. And it drove me so insane, I ended up quitting a job I really loved and taking one I didn’t love so much. So, when you’re in a situation like this, it’s important to be clear about what’s going on and what you can and can’t control in this situation. That’s when you can be sure you’re operating from the best place…the place that’s going to serve you. So, let’s get into it. First , based on what you shared; the situation is that there are role clarity issues between the two of you. Whether they’re happening because those roles aren’t well-defined or whether it’s because your colleague
Sun, October 10, 2021
Ep 042: Fitting In vs. Belonging
Today I want to talk about belonging. And specifically, we’re going to explore the difference between Fitting In vs. Belonging. And how to create a Sense of Belonging during times when you might feel a bit like you’re in a situation or a workplace or whatever where you’re on the outside looking in. This is a super interesting topic and a relevant one, because it affects every person on the planet, regardless of age, gender, education level, culture, country, income or whatever. This is an issue that affects all of us because the need to belong is deep-seated and universal. Because humans are tribal by nature. For our caveman ancestors, belonging to the tribe allowed us to travel with a pack which gave us access to shelter, food, and protection. It helped us survive the dangers of weather or animals or other outside threats. And honestly, things haven’t changed much. In today’s world, this need to belong is just as necessary. And today we have many tribes. Our family, friend group, cultural community, religious group, neighborhood, school, club, and of course, because this is a podcast about your career or business, it’s just as relevant when it comes to work groups. Today it’s about more than survival. It’s about feeling connected. And it’s through that connection that we get the deeper feelings of purpose, inclusion, and meaning we all want and need. Belonging is about natural affiliation or familiarity. It’s about gravitating to or connecting into groups or people who share the same qualities, or goals or whatever that we share. And this natural affiliation is an important part of belonging because while it’s about feeling connected to others, it’s about doing that in a way that’s authentic. That’s about letting yourself be seen and known as who you really are. But ‘FITTING IN’ is an entirely different thing. According to Brene Brown, who’s done some amazing work on this topic, “fitting in” is about assessing situations and groups and then twisting ourselves into a human pretzel so THEY will like us or accept us or whatever. So, no natural affiliation there. Fitting in is about modifying or changing who we present ourselves to be so that we can feel accepted by or connected to those around us. And while on the surface that may seem fine, the truth is that presenting ourselves as something we are not takes energy. It takes real effort to consistently hide who you really are. And honestly, it’s soul sucking and exhausting. Think back over your career or life when you joined a company or club or team or whatever and you instantly felt like you belonged. You just knew that these were your people. Think about how that felt. How effortless. How energizing. Amazing, right? And then I want you to think about a time when you felt like you didn’t ‘fit.’ When you didn’t feel welcome or included. Was it something overt? Like not being invited to lunch or happy hour. Or
Sun, October 03, 2021
Ep 041: How to Be a Great Leader to Yourself
So, LAST week, we talked about How to Stay Strong During Challenging Times . And in that, I introduced a concept called Inner Leadership which is central to what I teach in my business. So THIS week, I want to take the concept a little deeper and discuss How to Be a Great Leader to YOURSELF. There’s no denying that leadership is a popular topic today. We hear about it in business, politics, sports, religion. In fact, according to Forbes Magazine, it’s a $400 Billion a year industry. And growing. That’s great because the whole concept of leadership is important. But the thing is, most of what we read about or discuss when it comes to leadership, is one dimensional, usually focused on things like: How to influence others How to motivate others How to manage others How to inspire others How to get others to trust you or follow you or whatever. And notice what these have in common. First, they’re about the affect you want to have on OTHERS. Influencing others, motivating others, inspiring others, etc. And SECOND, they’re about how-to strategies. Which means, the focus is almost exclusively EXTERNAL. The impact you have on others or what actions you should take to respond to something going on. But what’s missing is the most IMPORTANT part of leadership. It’s what comes BEFORE all of that, which is how effective we are at leading OURSELVES. Because whether you’re trying to manage something going on around you or whether you’re trying to manage where your career is going, if you want to get the best results, it all starts inside, right? BEFORE we can develop the best response to something or lead others through it, we must have a clear perspective on what’s going on. That we’re not just responding automatically based on whatever unconscious thought loop might be going on in your head. But that we’re doing it from a place that’s free from unconscious judgments, self-limiting beliefs, biases. Whatever. And for the most part, we’re not taught this right? That’s why we developed the concept of Inner Leadership. So we can develop what I like to call “SELF-COMMAND.” That’s when we learn how to stop responding to the things and happen and instead, learn how to be the master of our inner world – specifically, our thoughts and emotions. Because it’s from those things that our actions and ultimately our results, come from. So long before we come up with the answer to what we SHOULD DO about the things that happen to us, we must FIRST work on LEADING OUR MIND as it relates to that thing that happened. This means first becoming aware of how we feel about the thing that happened and then exploring the thoughts that caused you to feel that emotion. Once you do that, you know you’ve landed on your truth. And then you can decide whether that thought will inspire the kinds of emotions and actions that will lead to the results you want
Sun, September 26, 2021
Ep 040: Staying Strong During Challenging Times
Today we’re going to talk about something we all deal with from time to time, which is how to stay strong during challenging times. Like most people, I know a thing or two about this. And I wanted to talk about this today because it gets right to the heart of what my business is all about. And my own struggles in this area – coping with personal catastrophes – is really the biggest reason I started this business. So, let’s start there on my WHY. Then we’ll get into the meat of this episode. For me this business started as a natural outgrowth of the leadership and mentoring I’ve done over the years. I’ve been lucky enough to lead many teams and people and I’ve loved every second of it. Over the years, people I’ve led in the past – sometimes from a few decades ago – would regularly reach out to me for advice or to bounce ideas around. And I’ve always really loved that. So, it was a natural next step for me to figure out a way to do that on a more broad-based scale. But I didn’t want to do the regular career coach thing where we just talk about resumes and job search and getting promoted and stuff. I mean, that’s important and I help my clients with those things too. But the REAL purpose of this business is to help people understand that true and lasting success comes from the inside out. Here’s what I mean by that. In 2018, I discovered an approach to coaching that’s based on cognitive behavioral therapy. If you don’t know, CBT is a type of mental health treatment that helps people find and change underlying thought patterns that have a negative influence on behavior and emotions. It focuses on changing the automatic negative thoughts that can contribute to or worsen emotional challenges and have a negative influence on mood. Through this approach, thoughts are found, challenged, and replaced with more objective, realistic – or dare I say…POSITIVE – thoughts. So, you might be thinking…what does a mental health coaching approach have to do with my career? And the answer is EVERYTHING . After nearly 3o years in corporate America where I climbed the ladder from entry level to multi-six figure a year income earner, I’ve seen and experienced a lot. I’ve struggled with and achieved a lot. And what I know for sure is that the things people struggle with in their career is about something much deeper than “how” to do something. Sure, sometimes we need to skill up and learn something new but that’s kind of easy, right? The truth is the thing we struggle with the most in our career is how to effectively handle the challenges careers throw our way. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. </
Sun, September 19, 2021
Ep 039: How to Avoid Doing Something You'll Regret
Today I want to talk about something that I believe we can all relate to whether it’s in our career or life. And that’s Doing Something We Later Regret . And specifically, today we’re going to talk about how to AVOID that going forward. So first, can you relate to this? I know I CERTAINLY can. Most everyone can. I mean, there are so many ways this can come up for us in our career and in our personal lives too. First, we live in an intaworld right now. So, there’s this expectation that if we send out an email or IM with a question or a request that we’re going to get an INSTANT response. And many times, there’s an expectation that this is a 24 x 7 thing. Either we have that expectation for ourselves or maybe we have a boss or colleagues that expect it. So, evenings, middle of the night, weekends. Maybe we’re always on. So, in this case, all it takes is an email that hits us wrong when we’re tired or even worse, maybe out with friends…maybe we’ve had a cocktail or two and suddenly BOOM! we’re throwing caution to the wind and dashing off an email that might reflect what we feel in that specific moment but may not be the BEST thing we could do for our career or relationship. Or maybe you’re someone that HIDES what you’re really thinking or feeling. You keep things to yourself and so you simmer and stew and ruminate about it instead of finding a way to raise the issue at the right time and place or in the best, most constructive way. You can only do this for so long until eventually, all those bottled-up thoughts and emotions are going to come exploding out – usually at a less than ideal time or in a way that doesn’t serve you. Or maybe you’re someone who’s very in-the-moment. So, you express every thought and feeling you have in the moment you have it – because it makes you feel better. Instead of considering the best way to express yourself or raise the issue. That sets you up for feeling regret later because once things are said they can’t be unsaid. They might be forgiven or not…but they can’t be taken back. And there are so many other ways this might come up for us. In our career. In our life. In our relationships. Whatever. But what I want to do now is focus on what all these things have in common. Because whether you shoot off an in-the-moment response, bottle things up until you explode or express every thought you have in the moment you have it, they all have ONE thing in common. And that is it’s about how our human brain works. Because when we do things we regret, it’s about brain science. Not personal flaws. And that’s why I wanted to talk about this today. Because so many times, we really DO think we have a fatal flaw. That there’s just something wrong with us. That we can’t HELP ourselves. That have a fiery temper. Or we’re just an impatient person. Or we’re just direct. Or confrontational. Or what
Sun, September 12, 2021
Ep 38: How to be Purposeful in What You’re Telling Yourself About Life, Situations and Career
Today I want to talk about “ What You’re Telling Yourself .” This topic was inspired by one of my coaching clients and something she’s been wrestling with for the past few weeks. And as we explored the issue, it brought up so many similar situations that I’ve personally experienced myself or saw others deal with during my career that I just knew I needed to share it with you. I’ve asked her permission and while I won’t divulge the company or her name, she’s excited for what it can do to help others. As we go through this, I think you’ll be able to recognize similar situations that you’ve seen or experienced and hopefully this will give you some fresh perspective on how you might choose to handle it differently the next time. So, for the last few weeks, one of my clients was dealing with a challenge. For context, she’s a newly promoted senior executive at a mid-sized technology company. And she’s been driving an important new initiative which was her first big priority. As part of her strategy development, she ran all the traps, talked to all the right leaders, got their input and factored it in where she could. In doing so, she thought she’d warmed things up and that her discussions would help pave the way for easy buy-in and a seamless rollout. But that’s not what happened. Instead, she found herself publicly challenged in a meeting with their mutual boss. And she was left feeling undermined and diminished by two different senior leaders. She’d talked to both as she was working on her strategy. She’d factored in their input to the extent she could and was confident she’d developed an approach. But it wasn’t until she unveiled the plan at the executive leadership meeting that these same two executives raised issues with the initiative. Publicly. In front of their mutual boss. Issues they hadn’t raised when meeting privately with her. So instead of celebrating her first big win in her new position, she found herself defending her approach both in that meeting – as the two continued to volley questions and protests at her – and then privately later with her boss, who she felt compelled to reassure that she had spoken to them and factored in their opinions. The issue swirled for a few weeks until she finally changed the strategy enough to get agreement from everyone. But because of the way the process went, instead of celebrating her first big win, she came away feeling defeated. Undermined. And honestly, kind of manipulated by her two new peers – both of whom she’d interacted with before her promoted and with whom she thought she had a decent relationship. As we talked through what happened, and the swirl of thoughts and feelings she was trying to process, it was clear she was focused on telling herself two different things. First, she was blaming her two new peers for undermining her. She’d judged their behavior and had come to the conclusion that they’d undermined her on purpos
Sun, September 05, 2021
Ep 037: How to Know When It's Time to Leave
Today we’re going to talk about When It’s Time to Leave. This episode was inspired by a phrase I keep seeing in the media. The Great Resignation. This is the name that’s been given to the wave of mass resignations supposedly taking place inside companies across America. And the typical explanation for this great resignation is the pandemic. We all know it’s upended our lives and careers and everyday norms. And the narrative out there says that because of this, people have started to rethink what’s important to them. And supposedly, this trend is spanning all age ranges. Meaning it’s not JUST the younger generations like Millennials or Gen Z, who you might think would more naturally gravitate to big moves in a desire to continue to climb the ladder. It’s supposedly something the older worker – Gen X and the Baby Boomer – is doing as well. Most of the articles I’ve read point to remote working policies as the culprit. And while I’m sure that’s it for at least some – maybe even most – of the people, it made me wonder…you know? Is this “mass resignation” really just about remote working? Or is there more here? Because while I’m sure there’s a lot of truth to remote working policies and maybe even vaccination policies as being a catalyst. But I believe these two things are just skimming the surface of what’s really going on. I believe this Great Resignation is a symptom of something much deeper, much more important, and much more PERMANENT than the pandemic. AND I think it’s about something that’s been shifting in our culture for a very long time. So, what IS going on? I believe the power dynamic between employee and employer is shifting. At a very rapid pace. Further, I believe it’s been building for a decade or two. And for me, this belief is rooted in a meeting I attended more than 20 years ago. Let me explain. As I’ve said before on this podcast, my corporate career was spent as a brand marketer. And in brand marketing, we rely on data and insights to develop our promotional and creative strategies. So we’d watch general market and cultural trends and we’d field special studies, all to gain insight into how people think and what they care about. So, when I saw the headline on the Great Resignation and I read a few dozen articles, I immediately thought of a meeting I attended about twenty years ago. At the time, it was the year 2000. I was early in my career in brand strategy and I was working inside a wireless company just a few years after they launched their nationwide service. The meeting I was attending was a read out from a market trends study from Yankelovich, a market research firm. It’s been too long for me to remember ALL the details of that study, but at a top level, it was talking about the “Age of Personalization.” And it said it would be coming about in the next twenty to thirty years, driven not only by a shift in
Sun, August 29, 2021
Ep 036: How to Stop Comparing
Today I want to talk about How to Stop Comparing. I thought about this topic because I saw a quote from Teddy Roosevelt this week that said, “comparison is the thief of joy.” And that made me want to talk about it in this episode because our careers (and our lives for that matter) are full of opportunities to compare ourselves with others. So, let’s look at where this need to compare comes from. According to psychologists, it gets programmed into us from a very young age. It might start when we’re young with a parent saying something like, “why can’t you be more like your sister.” It continues through our school years, with teachers comparing student performance or behavior, like keeping a chart with names and gold stars. Or my personal favorite…my algebra teacher in freshman year who seated us according to how we did on the last test. Low scores in front and high performers in the back row. Math was never my thing so needless to say; I wasn’t sitting in the back row. It continues throughout our school years as we look to others as a way to measure how WE’RE doing. And of course, it continues throughout our lives. Relationships. Families. Possessions. Our careers are also a place where we look to others to measure how WE’RE doing. Basically, we’ve learned to measure our own performance or value by comparing ourselves to those around us. While some of us rely on comparison more than others, it’s something we all do on occasion. In psychology, it’s called “social comparison theory.” The theory says that as humans, we’re driven to define ourselves and our value. And one of the ways we do this is by comparing our abilities and achievements to those of other people. The theory goes on to say that we’re prone to “ upward social comparison” when it comes to looking at our own abilities. Which basically means that we compare ourselves to others who are ahead of us, and we use that as a way to measure how we stack up to them. There’s also something called “ downward social comparison” which is when we look to others who are behind us or perhaps in more challenging circumstances. In this case, we look to them because it helps us feel better about ourselves because we think “well, at least I’m better off than that person.” So, is the habit of comparing ourselves to others a good thing or a bad thing? Well…the answer is, it depends on our motives for the comparison. And of course, like everything else we talk about on this podcast, I believe the answer is that it can be a VERY good and helpful thing if we use it with purpose and good intention. But it can also be a tool we use to make ourselves wrong or bad or not good enough. For more, give the episode a listen. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on
Sat, August 21, 2021
Ep 035: How to Make Decisions in Uncertain Times
Today I want to talk about how Decisions in Uncertainty. As we all know, life is a constant lesson in uncertainty. And we kind of get used to it, right? We’re all aware that we never know what’s around the corner. What tomorrow will bring. Or even if we WILL be here tomorrow. But as we grow up or grow into situations, we get used to what I call “the uncertainty we know.” We’re all pretty resilient when you think about it. We get used to kind of not being in control of what might happen to us. I mean, if we didn’t, we literally wouldn’t be able to leave the house. Because what might happen if we step off the sidewalk? That speeding car might run the red light. Or merge our car onto the highway at 70 miles per hour. Or take the new job that we’re a little scared we might not be able to excel at. Or move to the new city where we don’t know anyone. We don’t REALLY know how the NEW things we try are going to work out. We HOPE for a specific outcome, but inside, we KNOW it might not turn out the way we want. And yet, we get used to facing these ‘familiar’ unknowns. I call them the KNOWN unknowns. And this helps us to get on with the business of our life. It helps us make decisions about our future, both big and small, while not being sure if it’s all going to turn out okay. We get comfortable playing the hand we’re dealt. And even when we didn’t know what card we might be dealt next, we’ve learned to place bets and make decisions so we could keep moving forward. But what happens when we face NEW Unknowns? Like Covid. That just might be the biggest UNKNOWN of the last several decades. I mean, it’s been surreal. Think back just two years ago, to September of 2019. Who could’ve predicted that just six months later, the entire WORLD would shut down in like…two weeks? Restaurants closed. Grocery shelves emptied. Sports seasons cancelled. Kids in virtual school. No proms, graduation ceremonies or any of the other rites of passage we could always count on. We were all living in a dystopian Hollywood pandemic movie. Except it was real. The entire world entered a period of an EXTREME NEW UNKNOWN. And it kind of sucked. Covid snatched all our BAU playing cards and flung them up in the air. We could no longer count on ANYTHING we’d previously taken for granted. But what’s interesting is the different ways people handled it. A huge segment of the population kind of hit the PAUSE button on their life. They stopped making decisions about the future – no vacation planning, no weekend activity planning, new job searches, no nothing. Instead, and I’ll include myself in this for a good part of that time, we kind of hunkered down and WAITED. Waited for a vaccine. Waited for mask mandates to be lifted. Waited for companies to start hiring again. W
Sat, August 14, 2021
Ep 034: How Others Label Us (#2 of 2)
Today is the second in our two-part series on Labeling. Last week, we looked at “why we label others, how it impacts us (and others)…and how to stop doing it.” In that, we explored the origins of labeling as it relates to our human brain. We learned that our instinct to label comes from the primitive part of our brain and that in ancient times, this ability to “INSTANTLY categorize” people and situations actually served a purpose. It helped our caveman ancestors recognize danger so they could make decisions to keep themselves safe. This tendency to ‘instantly label’ for modern man is counterproductive except for maybe those situations things like our brain labeling it a “super bad idea” to walk down the dark alley alone. But other than those types of situational things, labeling doesn’t serve us in the modern world we live in. And in fact, when we label others, it keeps us apart from others because we’re standing in judgment instead of looking for opportunities to connect or learn more about someone. And for the person BEING labeled, it’s even worse. Labels hold people back and isolate them from opportunity and relationships. Bottom line, we don’t want to be the person who assigns instant and unfair labels to others. And yet, the impulse to do that comes from the part of our brain that is ALL ABOUT instinct. The fight or flight part. The part of your brain that just instantly REACTS, without you even realizing it, because it wants to avoid danger or things that are unfamiliar. So, if it’s instinctive, how do we stop it? We stop it by becoming aware of the fact that you’re doing it. And by deciding to consciously NOT do that by taking steps to counteract that instinctive part of your brain. We talked about how to do that in our last episode. So, if you haven’t listened to episode 33 yet, please go back and do that because I think you’ll find the self-exploratory questions and tips on how to fight that urge to label super helpful. Now in TODAY’S episode, we’re going to look at what happens when WE get labeled. And there’s two ways that happen. First, we label ourselves. And second, we get labeled by others (just like WE label THEM). As you know, my business is all about helping people understand that having the career and life you want comes FROM YOU. We create our success FROM THE INSIDE OUT. This is not how we think it works. We think our success comes from finding that elusive combination of ideal circumstances. I know that’s what I thought for a long time. But it’s not true. If we want to achieve our goals or have the success working for others or for ourselves, it requires us to be STRONG from the inside out. The reason this is important is that it takes real awareness and practiced effort to overcome our brain’s primal instinct to be overly critical of ourselves. Or, to stay strong when we’re around people or in an
Sun, August 08, 2021
Ep 033: How and Why We Label Others (and how to stop) #1 of 2
Today, I want to talk about LABELS because it holds so many of us back in our careers and lives. So let’s start by discussing the definition of labeling. For psychologists, labeling is defined as a way of compartmentalizing people based on attributes, situations, or behaviors. This happens in families, groups and society as a whole. As humans, our need to label runs deep. It goes back to our primitive or reptilian brain, the part of our brain that’s evolved over the Millenia. The part that’s responsible for self-preservation. So, for our caveman ancestors, this ability to quickly sort people and situations into categories was super helpful. Lion equals danger. Member of opposing tribe equals caution. It helped them avoid danger and gave them a sense of control because the instantaneous labeling of a person or situation gave them a way to predict what MIGHT HAPPEN and specifically, whether or not it could cause them harm. And once they assigned that label, it helped them categorize similar future things in the same way. Thereby preserving their safety and ensuring survival of the species. Psychologists say that our tendency to label begins in infancy and continues as we grow and develop. So, it’s programmed in. A product of our environment, family, friends, schooling, socio-economic status, societal views and more. But unlike our caveman ancestors, this primal need to ‘label’ is not so helpful to modern man because it causes us to make SNAP JUDGMENTS that don’t always serve us or others. Yet we do it all the time. That driver who cut you off in traffic on the way to work, you might label a ‘bad driver.’ That colleague who’s always up on and sharing the latest rumors, you might label ‘toxic.’ That boss who’s constantly changing their mind, you might label a ‘bad manager.’ Labeling is an extreme form of all or nothing thinking. Because when we assign labels, we’re over simplifying. That person or experience is either THIS or THAT. When in reality, it’s usually BOTH or MANY things. And when we try to oversimplify people or situations, we limit them. This can have harmful side effects for ourself AND for the person we’re judging. When we label others, we close ourselves off to ALL that someone ACTUALLY IS by narrowing in on only ONE aspect of who they are based on a specific situation we’ve experienced or behavior we’ve seen them do. And the risk is that once we label that person, we DO NOT ALLOW ourselves to see anything else about them, when in fact there is ALWAYS MUCH MORE, we could discover about them if we were open to it. There’s ALWAYS MUCH MORE COMMON GROUND we could find if we looked for it. If we avoided assigning the limiting label to that person and instead allowed ourselves to discover who they are in the FULLEST context. So, when we label, we close ourselves off to other possibilities. Because we c
Sun, August 01, 2021
Ep 032: How to Create Self Confidence
Today I want to talk to you about something that’s foundational to having the career or business you want. And that is self-confidence. Because you aren’t going to get very far if you don’t believe you can. Most of us believe that people are either CONFIDENT or they’re NOT. That SELF-CONFIDENCE is an attribute we’re born with. But it’s not. Self-confidence is a skill we develop if we choose. And it’s definitely a skill WORTH developing because being self-confident is linked to having greater success, making more money and overall having a happier and more satisfying life and career. I’ve got a lot to share on this topic and it’s something that affects so many people, so let’s dive in. The first thing I want to share is that there’s a difference between CONFIDENCE and SELF CONFIDENCE. And it’s very possible to have ONE without the OTHER. But before I share the difference, I want to first share what both words have in common and that is, that confidence comes from the Latin word meaning TRUST. So, confidence is about having TRUST in yourself and your abilities. But where they differ is that CONFIDENCE is backward-looking, and SELF-CONFIDENCE is forward-looking. You gain confidence through experience. You learn to trust or have confidence in your ability to DO SOMETHING when you’ve already successfully done or achieved it before. Self-Confidence on the other hand, IS FORWARD-LOOKING. It’s about having belief or trust in yourself and your ability to do things even though you’ve never done them before . So, confidence is based on having tangible proof. That’s where KNOWING you can do it comes from. Whereas, self-confidence is about a having faith or TRUST in your ABILITY to do something; to figure it out. So, if your boss asks you to lead an initiative and you’ve successfully done dozens just like it before, you are very confident in your ability to be successful at that thing. You’re probably not going to worry whether you can do it, wonder whether others will judge or criticize you or get stuck in indecision or overwhelm. No, you’ve done it. So, you know you’re going to rock it. But if your boss asks you to go do something new that you HAVEN’T done before and you’re NOT a self-confident person, you might feel the instant flare-up of self-doubt. And you’ll wonder things like “what if I can’t do it?” “what if I look foolish?” And even when you dive in, you’ll likely continue to torture yourself a bit with those doubt. Whereas if you ARE self-confident and your boss asks you to go do something new you haven’t done before, you immediately start thinking about how to go do it. You’ll plan it out, chunk down the actions, pull other people in who’s skills or experience you need, put it on a timeline and then go do it. Look at the difference between the NOT self-confident you and the Self-confident you in these examples. The NOT sel
Bonus · Wed, July 28, 2021
Ep 031: Ask the Coach: "I don't know what to do with my career"
Welcome to this bonus episode of the podcast, which I’m calling Ask the Coach. Like I've said, we’re experimenting with this new segment, which I’ll plan to do the last Wednesday of the next few months. If you like it, we’ll keep doing it. You guys submit your questions to me and I’ll answer them. They can be about anything related to your career from job searching and purpose to getting promoted, getting laid off or changing career paths. Even starting a side hustle or business. Whatever you want to know more about or get a different perspective on, fire away. I’m here for ya. SO, TODAY’s question is definitely the one I get asked most frequently so, I wasn’t surprised when several came in that were sort of similar. They all centered around the theme “I don’t know what to do with my career.” Now there were several versions of this questions. “I don’t know what I’m good at.” “I don’t know what I SHOULD be doing.” “I don’t know my purpose.” They’re all dancing around the same question of how to know what to do with the time you spend working. So, let’s dive into the answer. Because there are three parts of this that I want to address. The first part is the “I don’t know” part of the question. Because this is something most of us do at one point or another and most of us aren’t connected to the issues it causes. Now I know when we’re trying to figure out something important and we think “I don’t know”, it certainly feels true. I’ve been there many times myself, believe me. Not just as it relates to career but also to relationships and other things. But the issue is “I don’t knowing” yourself is a very good way to get stuck. That’s because when you tell yourself “I don’t know” you’re turning off or ignoring the part of you that DOES know. The intuition part. After all, YOU are the one who knows YOU best. So, the answer to what you’re great at or what you want to do with your work life HAS to come from you. That’s the only way to be sure that you’re doing something that’s aligned with your unique gifts, wants, desires. I mean, none of us want to spend 30-40 years doing what someone ELSE wants us to do with our life, right? What we do with our life gets to be about us. Never forget that. The other thing about this is, I believe we all KNOW what we’re good at and what we’re interested in. Sometimes we just don’t allow ourselves to KNOW it. Now that doesn’t mean you’re doing it on purpose. You’re not. ”I don’t knowing” yourself is usually an automatic thought our brain will serve up as a way to protect you from the implications of what would happen or what scary things you’d need to do, learn, master or try if you DID KNOW. Think about it for a minute. If you “don’t know” you don’t have to do anything hard or scary or where you might fail. But if you DID know, you’d have to put yourself out there and try or live with the fact that
Sun, July 25, 2021
Ep 030: How to Be Okay During Times of Uncertainty
Today I want to talk about Being in Uncertainty. I was originally going to talk about something different but with the news of the virus being on the upswing in almost every state (and around the world) and with that, delays in returning to the office and putting a return to the classrooms in question, I know this is something that would be helpful for everyone. It’s been quite the year of uncertainty for everyone with Covid. We weren’t sure if our family or friends would stay healthy. We dealt with shortages of goods, services, HOMES! Parents learned to do double duty as teachers. Kids gave up sporting events. And we all sequestered in our homes feeling isolated and UNCERTAIN. And in the work context, many of us were thrown into virtual work. In person meetings turned into Zoom. Some people lost their jobs altogether leaving them in uncertainty as to when hiring would even restart. It’s been a year of over-the-top uncertainty. But the truth is, our lives and our careers are ALWAYS uncertain. No matter how hard we plan or how faithfully we follow that plan or how hard we work or whatever, we are not always in control of what happens to us. And while we all know that the future is uncertain. That we can’t know what it waiting for us up ahead, we’re always surprised and unsettled when the unexpected happens. And that’s when uncertainty flares up, right? When we are suddenly forced to deal with the unexpected. And I would say that most of the time it’s not only when the unexpected happens but more specifically, the unwelcome thing happens. Covid. The layoff. The reorg. The new boss. And when it happens, we feel uncertain. But what IS uncertainty exactly? I looked up the Webster's definition and it wasn’t helpful. It described it as a “state of being uncertain.” Wikipedia’s was right on point though. It described it as a ‘Measurement of risk. A state of limited knowledge where it is impossible to exactly describe the existing state or a future outcome; where some possible outcomes have an undesired effect or could represent a significant loss.’ Interesting right? So, when we’re uncertain, it’s really because we’re looking at the thing that just happened and not able to know, with certainty, what our future will bring. That’s because right behind the uncertain is a feeling of being out of control. We no longer feel that the things we used to be able to count on – our routines, our plans, our daily habits. Now we’re living in a different reality. One we didn’t create. One where we’re not in charge of everything that might unfold. And one that might not turn out the way we want. Uncertainty creates a feeling of being out of control which makes us uncomfortable and at worst, fearful. When we experience uncertainty, most of us try to reduce this feeling of discomfort by trying to take control. For example, one of my clients, when faced with nonstop rumors of a major reor
Sun, July 18, 2021
Ep 029: How to Learn to Doubt Your Self-Doubt
If you’re a regular listener, you know I’m all about helping people build a career or business they love. And while I do share strategies and approaches that address your career or business broadly, I go deep in the one area that I KNOW holds most of us back in some way. And that’s about overcoming self-doubt and building strong self-confidence. The reason I focus on this is because self-doubt is an issue that affects most of us at some point in our lives. In fact, research shows more than 85% of us contend with self-doubt. Some of us might experience self-doubt occasionally – like when we experience a big change like a new position or a promotion or whatever. But for many of us, self-doubt is our constant wing man. And when that happens, it can really do a number not only on your career or business potential, but on your self-esteem. Even if it’s only in a specific area right now, if it goes unaddressed, that self-doubt can creep into all areas of your life. That’s because our Inner Critic is INSIDE our head. So, the things it whispers to us feel TRUE. If you want to know a bit more about the ways to quiet your Inner Critic, check out episode #6 – Soothing your Inner Critic. When you listen to that episode, you’ll learn that silencing or banishing your Inner Critic isn’t really possible. In fact, it’s really best to try to understand your Inner Critic and soothe it a bit so it calms down. Because all it’s really trying to do it keep you safe. So you can’t banish it. Those neural pathways are already established. If you want to know more how THAT works, check out episode #25 on Thought Pathways. That’ll help you understand how recurring patterns of thought – in this case, your self-doubt – happen and how they get stronger and stronger through repetitive use. But today I want to talk about Self Doubt from another perspective. And that is how you can Learn to Doubt Your Self Doubt. So, let’s dive in. Most of contend with our Inner Critic at times. Usually when we try something new. Or experience a next level growth spurt. Or perhaps when we’re in a situation where we are thrust to the forefront in some way – like a speaking opportunity or a big meeting where we have a chance to share our ideas (or not). This is when self-doubt kicks in. And we find ourselves wondering: What if I mess up? What if they think my idea is dumb? What if I’m wrong? Who am I to [fill in the blank]? And you know if you’re asking yourself those questions, it’s because your Inner Critic has started its monologue inside your head, saying things like: You’re not smart enough. You’re not talented enough. You’re not GOOD enough. So, what do you do? You stay silent. You DON’T try the new thing. Or speak up at the meeting. Or disagree with the opinion of others. Or apply for the new job. Or whatever. And then what happens? You stay r
Sun, July 11, 2021
Ep 028: How to Bounce Back from Tough Things
Last week we talked about Managing Disappointment. This is a super important skill to cultivate in your career and life. Because we all face ups and downs. And it’s how we manage the downs that make the difference between staying hopeful and possibility oriented or sinking into disbelief and low self-confidence. If you haven’t listened to episode 27 on Managing Disappointment, you might want to give that a listen first. In that, we share that the key to managing disappointment is to shift your focus from the disappointment to a learning experience. And we offer some ways to do that. It’s worth a listen because if there’s one thing a career is chock full of, it’s opportunities to manage disappointment. And I thought an important follow-on to last week’s episode was to discuss Resilience, which is a fancy way of saying being great at bouncing back. So, let’s dive in. In the simplest of terms, Resilience is the ability to overcome negative events. According to a study at Ohio State University, more than 80% of us believe we have high levels of emotional and mental resilience, but when tested, less than 60% of us score high for resilience. After the year we’ve all had with Covid, people getting sick and dying, all of us getting thrown into remote work, some of us losing our jobs, children out of school, parents in the role of teacher, all of us feeling isolated from family, friends, and social situations. Well, it’s been a little much, right? And while the world is still facing the headwinds of the virus, we’re starting to get back to the business of life. We’re returning to work. Kids are returning to the classrooms. People out of work are finding jobs. It’s great to see. The world is bouncing back. So, have you stopped to think about how well you managed through Covid and its aftermath? Or think about other things – big and small – that have happened in your career or life. How well do you bounce back? Does it take you awhile? Do you stay stuck in defeat and disappointment, or do you spring back in short order? Many of us believe that people are either resilient or we’re not. But that’s not true. Resilience isn’t something we’re born with. It’s something we cultivate. Something we can build. So let’s look at what’s underneath resilience. Resilient people are good at regulating their emotions and staying calm under pressure. This helps to keep their head clear which leads to better problem-solving. So how do you get good at regulating your emotions? By mastering the art of self-control. This means, the ability to manage impulses, emotions, and behaviors so they work to your advantage vs. hold you back. As humans, our ability to do that is found in the pre-frontal cortex. This is the part of the brain that’s highly developed in humans. It lets people plan and evaluate vs. just respond to impulse (which is caused by the Reptilian Brain. S
Sun, July 04, 2021
Ep 027: How to Manage Disappointment & Not Get Stuck
This week, I’m LOVING the breakthrough one of my clients had. You know, that’s one of my favorite things about being a coach. And it’s why I’ve always loved leading and mentoring people in my corporate career. You get to experience people’s growth and evolution and personal victories up close. Watching people turn a goal or dream into reality is so inspiring for me. I love movies and shows and books about people who try to do something big, go all out to make it happen and when it DOES…it’s such an incredible high. There’s always something you can learn by watching people as they strive for new things and go through the inevitable ups and downs on their way to that goal. And this client’s journey was even more inspiring because it wasn’t about her achieving the big thing she was going for. It was about how she processed through NOT achieving it. How she handled the disappointment she felt not only with grace and ease but maybe more importantly, the way she worked to find the lessons that could help her in the future. Life doesn’t always turn out as planned. We all know that. But it’s how we HANDLE THAT REALITY and what we DO with that, that determines whether we keep moving forward, keep showing up, keep a good attitude, keep our drive and motivation… Or, whether we just kind of give up. Tell ourselves things never work out for us. Or we just don’t have what it takes. Or that it’s all somebody else’s fault. We all know somebody who’s stuck in Disappointment. They WANTED (very much) something specific to happen and it DIDN’T. Now, it’s all they can think about and talk about. They’re blaming their boss. Or their colleagues. Or their partner. Or whatever. And it’s sad and exhausting to watch, right? Maybe it’s even happened with you. I know it has with me at times in my past. You can just get stuck in the spinning, the anger, the blame, the victimhood. And I don’t know if there’s anything more tragic. It’s a waste of energy and frankly, our time on this planet. It keeps us from realizing our true potential. It holds us back because we’re so focused on what DIDN’T happen that we stop thinking about our future possibilities because we’re stuck in our past. That’s why today, I want to talk to you about Accepting Disappointment. Because when you learn how to get good at this, when you learn how to effectively manage through things when they DON’T go your way, it will make all the difference in what your future life looks like. So, let’s dive in. I think the first clue about what’s difficult about disappointment is found in the Webster’s definition of it. According to Webster's, disappointment is ‘unhappiness stemming from the failure of something hoped for or expected to happen’.” But in my opinion, the psychologist’s definition lands right on the mark. Psy
Sun, June 27, 2021
Ep 026: Thought Alignment (How Our Thoughts Work #4 of 4)
Over the last three episodes, we’ve been exploring the role our thoughts play in moving us forward or holding us back. So, if you haven’t listened to those yet, I encourage you to go back to Episode 23 as that’s the beginning of our Thought Series. And as we’ve discussed all through this series, our career and life will go in the direction of our consistent patterns of thought. We’re not taught this. We don’t think life works that way. We’re taught that the way we feel and our ability to be successful come mostly from EXTERNAL things. Like our boss liking us. Or our company being healthy. Or sometimes we attribute it to ourselves in the actions we take or don’t take. But what if I told you there was something that comes BEFORE those things. Something INTERNAL. Something that you ALONE control. Interesting huh? The idea that you can truly chart your own destiny. That it isn’t dependent on a specific person or being in the right place at the right time or whatever. Sure, those things don’t hurt, but that’s not the key. And that’s good news because if it WAS, it would mean our ability to have the success we want would be completely outside our control. The key is HOW WE THINK about our career, our possibilities, our capabilities. And trust me when I say that this is the key to unlocking not only your TRUE POTENTIAL but it’s also the key to being able to achieve everything you dream of. This week, we’re closing out the Thought Series by talking about Thought Alignment. So, let’s dive in. This is one of my favorite topics when it comes to how our thinking affects our lives. Because the simple truth is, and this whole episode comes down to one simple thought, WHAT YOU SAY TO YOURSELF MATTERS . And, HOW OFTEN YOU SAY IT MATTERS. Because as we discussed in the last episode, the repetition and consistency of our thoughts become deeply entrenched Thought Pathways in our brain. We know from neuroscience that this biology. Quite simply, it’s how our brains work. So Thought Navigation, this week’s topic, is about the importance of aligning our thoughts with the direction we want to go so we ensure we actually GET THERE. Let’s look at how high-performing athletes or successful businesspeople achieve top tier levels of success. When we look at them from our perspective, we tend to look at the actions they take or things they do. And then we say, “Well, there’s lots of different ways to go about being successful. Everyone does it differently.” To some extent it’s true in that we all have unique strengths to bring to that thing. But if you look deeper at the inner life – the MINDS – of the most successful or accomplished athletes or businesspeople, you’d find one common thread. The key to their success is about the way they USE or DIRECT their mind. They don’t leave their thoughts o
Sun, June 20, 2021
Ep 025: Thought Pathways (How Our Thoughts Work #3 of 4)
Managing your mind. It is THE key to not only a more rewarding and meaningful career. It’s the secret to living your best life. Sounds a little woo woo if it’s the first time you’re hearing this. But it’s true. I promise. Given the interest, I decided to go a little deeper into the topic with a concept I call Thought Pathways. And this one is relevant to every human on the planet because it’s about repetitive thoughts, which is where all thinking, feeling and behavioral habits come from. Hate your job? I can guarantee there’s a thought pathway there. Hard time sticking to a diet? I can guarantee there’s a thought pathway there. Difficult relationship with your boss or anyone else? I can guarantee there’s a thought pathway there. Over spending. Over drinking. Chronic job hopping. Indecisiveness. I can guarantee there’s a thought pathway (or several) there. This is super interesting, and I think you’ll find it relevant. Now as you know, I’m not a neuroscientist, but because the certifications I have are based on principles of cognitive psychology, positive psychology and neuroscience, I study this stuff and it’s the foundation of what I teach my clients. So I’m going to take fancy words and put them into everyday language so you understand exactly how that brain of yours works. So, let’s dive in. The best place to start is by talking about our brain cells. They’re called neurons. Scientists say we all have about 100 billion or so. And their job is to send and receive information in your brain by connecting with other neurons. A Thought Pathway happens when connections form between NEURONs in your brain, because of a recurring pattern of thought. Scientists call this a neural pathway, but I like to call it a Thought Pathway because that’s the part we control – our thoughts. The neurons just do what they do when we have a recurring thought. But we’re the ones who can CONTROL or CHOOSE the thought we have. Thought Pathways are the science behind learning. Like always associating the word apple with the visual of the fruit. It’s the science behind your feelings about people, jobs, yourself. Here’s how it works. You have a thought about something or someone and your neurons light up and form a connection. Now, if that thought happens once and not again no pathway is formed. But if the thought repeats itself over and over again, it forms a pattern. A Thought Pathway. For example, let’s say you have a challenging meeting and there’s one colleague in particular that (at least in your mind) contributed to the challenge. Let’s say you had a thought (or perhaps a series of thoughts) about that colleague that ranged from judgmental to angry. Now if it happens once and not again, the thought is likely to be dismissed. But if you have a series of interactions with that person and your brain serves up a similar thought, the pathway is f
Sun, June 13, 2021
Ep 024: Thought Clusters (How Our Thoughts Work #2 of 4)
Well hello friends. I hope you guys had a good week! Mine has been amazing! June has been a month of big important (and I believe life-changing) decisions in my career and life. That has inspired and motivated me. And as a result, I’ve probably gotten more done in the past week than I have in the past three months combined. Though my own daily self-coaching, it’s been fun to dive in and explore the reasons for this sudden burst of motivation. You see, the past few years have DEFINITELY been interesting and good for me - a time of preparing and exploring and testing. But that’s now turned into a time when I start making ALL those things come true. Talking has turned into consistent doing. But why? Well, it really comes down to something I call Thought Clusters. I thought it was important to cover this today because it builds off last week’s episode around Thought Maintenance. So, if you haven’t listened to that yet, I encourage you to listen to episode 23. In that, we explore the importance of doing regular self-coaching, using the approach we teach in our practice. This helps you gain awareness in your regular patterns of thinking. And once you do, you gain awareness into the ones that SERVE you vs. the ones that DON’T. A SUPER important thing to do on a regular basis and especially in your career as it helps you uncover your blind spots, eliminate thinking and behavioral patterns that hold you back and allow you to CHOOSE new, empowering ones that move you forward. Honestly, I SO wish I’d known this stuff earlier in my career. And I had so many DM’s and emails from you guys this past week that I thought it would be good to dig a little deeper into the role thoughts play in our fulfillment and our level of achievement or success. So, this week, I wanted to talk about Thought Clusters. This concept was inspired by the principles behind cognitive behavior therapy, a form of psychology that is based on the belief that: · Problems are based, in part, on faulty or unhelpful ways of thinking. · And in part on learned patterns of unhelpful behavior. · And that you can learn to change or cope with these things through self-awareness and learning to recognize your own distortions in thinking that created the problems in the first place. And how to change it going forward. This type of psychology was the inspiration for the coaching method I became certified in. Which teaches you how to gain awareness of your thoughts and proactively CHOOSE to think NEW ones that empower you. So, the idea behind Thought Clusters was to illustrate how ONE thought becomes a CLUSTER of similar thoughts, many times each escalates or builds on the one before. This can work towards either the positive or the negative side. When it comes to the negative or downside, psychologists call this “catastrophizing” whic
Sun, June 06, 2021
Ep 023: Thought Maintenance (How Our Thoughts Work #1 of 4)
Before we dive into today’s episode, I wanted to share a few thoughts. First, I just want to say a heartfelt thank you to my regular listeners and if you’re new here, I want to welcome you and thank you for giving us a listen. We’re growing and I appreciate each one of you. I wanted to share a bit more about the upcoming Workshop we’re planning for June 12th. It’s called Train Your Brain. It’s going to be so great. It’s going to be a one-hour video conference via Zoom with a workbook. It’ll be recorded so if you can’t attend live, you’ll have the recording to view later. It’s going to be a great introduction to our approach. You can register by going to www.thepurposefulcareer.com/trainyourbrain . I hope we see you there. And if you have a friend, you think would be interested, please share with them. If you’re new to this podcast, you might be wondering what “training your brain” has to do with your career. That’s why today, I wanted to talk about Thought Maintenance. And the role it plays in your career. So, let’s dive in. So…train your brain…. thought maintenance. Not your typical career topics, I know. But the truth is, there is NOTHING more critical to your success or your ability to continue to next level your career than learning how to master your mind. Regular listeners of this podcast know that at The Purposeful Career, we use a cognitive based approach to helping people build self-confidence, drop the self-doubt, and learn how to create a career AND life they love. Our method uses the latest in neuroscience and a mash-up of cognitive and positive psychology. It’s a kind of Jedi Mind Trick that can give you the clarity, motivation, and steely resolve to go after HUGE dreams and bring them to life. How does it do this? Well, what no one tells us Because everything we achieve (or don’t), every obstacle we overcome (or don’t), every success, every disappointment, every struggle, every relationship, EVERY SINGLE THING all comes back to how we’re thinking about that thing. It’s not what happens to us that decides our ability to do the things we want to do or our ability to be happy or satisfied with our career or life. It’s not about luck. Or a good boss. Or a HUGE salary. Or the perfect company culture. Or getting the promotion. Or liking your colleagues. Though of course those things don’t hurt. Those are just circumstances. And sure, we LIKE IT when they go in our favor. It feels easier. But as we all know, in our career and life, MANY THINGS WON’T. And it’s WHAT YOU DO WITH THE THINGS THAT HAPPEN TO YOU that will ultimately determine not only your level of success. But your level of happiness or fulfillment with your life. How we THINK about the things that happen to us ultimately determines whether we muster the courage to try. Or the grit to keep going when it gets toug
Sun, May 30, 2021
Ep 022: How to Create Any Result You Want in Your Life
I don’t know about you but I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that it’s already end of May. We’re almost HALFWAY through the year. What? I’m always amazed at how fast time moves. And for me, this is the time of year that I love to look back and reflect on where I was six months, 12 months ago and decide if I’m where I wanted or hoped I’d be at this point. It’s an important question because we’re never going to get what we want from our career and life if we’re not intentional bout creating it. And that’s why today, I want to talk about How to Create Any Result You Want. So, let’s dive in. Now sometimes when I ask my clients if they’re where they wanted or hoped to be at this point, they’ll say something like “I don’t know where I want to be” or “I don’t know what I want.” That’s actually really common. Most of us have a long list of what we DON’T want but no idea of what we DO want. I’m not going to talk about that today but if “I don’t know” is a thing for you, check back on this podcast next week because I’m going to announce a workshop coming up on June 12th that’ll help you move past I don’t know so you can create the success you’re looking for. But like I said earlier, the looking back exercise is helpful. And when I do it, I like to start by asking my clients (or myself) three questions. - Are you where you hoped to be at this point? - Are you more fulfilled in your career or life then you were 6 / 12 months ago? - What new skills, experiences or successes have you created in the past 6/12 months? Now, if you didn’t like your answers to those questions, it’s important to not judge yourself. Don’t make yourself bad or wrong. Don’t shame or blame yourself for being lazy or undisciplined or unfocused. Because that’s what so many of us do when we look back and reflect on where we’ve been. And that’s not helpful. What IS helpful is answering those questions and then allowing yourself to be curious about your answers. Instead of shaming or blaming yourself, be curious about why you responded the way you did. To learn more, check out the full episode. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, May 23, 2021
Ep 021: Understanding Why You Quit Things (and How to Stop)
Today I want to talk about Why We Quit at Things. Or maybe more specifically, Why We Quit on Ourselves. Most of us do this in one way or another. And it’s never a great thing. But for many it becomes a pattern that holds them back. You know what I mean. We start the diet determined to head into swimsuit season at our ideal weight. So, we start the diet determined and motivated. And then a few weeks or a month in, we give up. We decide this is the year to find the ideal job. So, we dive into the job search with gusto, land some interviews and when the rejections start rolling in, we give up. We start the direct sales business or other side hustle and go all in. At first. But when it gets challenging finding clients or managing the calendar, we decide it’s not meant for us; it’s too hard, so we give up. And there’s lots more where that came from in every area of our life – with relationships, paying off debt, working out, starting the business, changing career paths. Too often, we give up. I wanted to talk about this today because I see it all the time in my practices. I’ve done it too often in my own life. The diets I’ve started and stopped. My passion for writing romantic fiction which I just gave up after finishing a few books. Even my efforts at getting this business going. I’ve started and stopped many times. So, are you quitting on anything? If so, what? It’s important to remember when we quit something we really want, we’re not just quitting that thing. We’re quitting ourselves. And that’s why I wanted to talk about this topic today. Your goals and dreams and YOU are too important to quit on. Today we’re going to explore the whys and learn what we can do about it. So, let’s dive in. When we set a big goal or have a burning desire to do something, it feels AMAZING. We see the vision, imagine how amazing it will be to HAVE the new thing. This DESIRE gives us the motivation and excitement to get going. To START the thing believing that we can HAVE it. So, we fix our eyes firmly on the horizon and start moving forward. Then we get into it. And as we go, the days and months and sometimes years tick by and we start to encounter challenges. Obstacles. Rejection. Challenges. Setbacks. And that’s when a shift starts to happen. Suddenly we don’t FEEL motivated or excited. And maybe we can’t even connect with our DESIRE for the thing anymore. We just know we suddenly feel discouraged. Uncomfortable. Bored. Defeated. Because it no longer FEELS good, our discipline or pursuit of the DREAM starts to slip. After all, who wants to throw all their energy and effort into something that DOESN’T FEEL GOOD? And if these negative emotions PERSIST, we quit. For most of us, when we quit, we’re rewarded – at least for a li
Sun, May 16, 2021
Ep 020: How to Reframe a Bad Experience So It Doesn't Derail You
Today I want to talk about something most of us don’t like to talk about. I want to talk about bad experiences. Now you might be wondering WHY we’d want to talk about bad experiences. The truth is most of us will go to any length to avoid focusing on them. We’ll engage in all sorts of numbing behaviors like overeating, overdrinking, overspending, over-whatevering, just to avoid having to think about them. But today I want to serve up a different perspective because if you’re going to have any sort of career – whether as a corporate employee or a business owner – you’re going to experience things that you categorize as bad. There are so many challenging experiences our corporate career can serve up. · Getting passed over for promotion. · Toxic culture. · Backstabbing co-workers. · Bad bosses. · Failing at a key project. · Being laid off or fired. Or as a business owner… · Losing customers · Declining revenue · Problem employees And even for all of us around the world this past year… · Covid…need I say more? The truth is bad things happen. And we’re left to deal with those things. But the problem is, most of us DON’T. And that’s why today I wanted to offer you an approach that will help you flip the script on the bad experience. It’s going to rock your world. So, let’s dive in. A bad experience is anything that is not what we hoped of. Something that’s undesired, unpleasant, or unwelcome. While of course the experience can be disappointing. But at its worst, that thing can make us feel like our life is completely OUT of our control. And so many things in our career and life ARE out of the control. I mean, we know we can’t change a toxic work culture. We can’t make a bad or untrustworthy boss a good one. We can’t prevent being put on the list for a layoff. So, that inability to control something we don’t like can make us feel like a victim. Being a victim doesn’t feel good. After all, the definition of victim is “a person who is cheated or fooled by someone else; someone that is harmed by an unpleasant event.” None of us want to feel cheated or fooled or harmed. And when we feel that way, it doesn’t tend to bring out the best in ourselves as it relates to how we handle it. We might yell or scream at someone. We might cry. We might plot to do harm ourselves – gossiping, spreading untruths, blaming – to get back at the person we think caused the bad thing. Or we retreat into ourselves, trying to soothe the pain through indulgent or false pleasures that make feel better in the moment but in actuality, cause us even greater harm. Most of us do this because we believe that focusing on the bad thing that happened will make u
Sun, May 09, 2021
Ep 019: How to Be Fulfilled in Your Career
Today I want to talk to you about a trend that’s been growing steadily for the last several decades. And that is the degree to which we’re fulfilled at work. Or to be more specific, the degree to which we’re UNfulfilled. According to a Gallup poll conducted a few years ago, more than two thirds of workers say they’re NOT ENGAGED in their job. Think about that for a minute. Only one in three of us say we’re ENGAGED in the work we do? Wow. No wonder so many of us LIVE for Friday nights and despise Sundays, right? Honestly, that’s why I decided to release my new podcasts on Sunday. I want to give workers a little lift and some helpful perspective to add positive fuel to their workweek. This is something that’s universal and there’s a lot to talk about here, so let’s dive in. Back to the poll, I don’t think it’s an accident, that Gallup measured “engaged” vs. “fulfilled.” “Engaged” is a MUCH lower bar than “fulfilled” but by anyone’s standards, 33% is a really low number. And if they’d asked how many workers were “fulfilled” they might’ve come back with a number like 10%. Maybe even less. According to Webster’s dictionary, “engaged” means “involved in activity; occupied or busy.” Whereas the definition of “fulfilled” is “feeling satisfied or happy because of fully developing one’s abilities or character.” See the difference? And the problem? We’re not even hitting a good percentage of people who feel INVOLVED IN their job. Let alone feeling satisfied or happy. Obviously, that’s a huge issue for companies, because it translates into lower productivity, lackluster business results, employee turnover. And it’s also responsible for delivering the things so many of us complain about including bad bosses (who are probably ALSO not engaged or not engaged enough to bother to be inspiring or helpful). It creates toxic cultures. Hyper political colleagues. And all the other stuff that drains us of our energy and satisfaction. I GET IT. Trust me. Anyone who’s been in their career for more than a handful of years has stories to tell. And I could share many. But I want to shift our focus from what’s wrong with the workplaces of today to what we can do about it. And there’s plenty. But first a word of caution. When you find yourself in a situation where you feel “Unengaged” for a long period of time – when it’s about having more than just a bad or challenging week - it’s easy to assume you’re just in the wrong place. That it’s all about the bad boss or the toxic culture or the hyper political colleagues. Or whatever. Now I’m not telling you those things don’t exist. They do. And I know how they can affect how you feel in your job and even how effectively you perform your job. But here’s the problem with assuming that those things must be fixed BEFORE you can feel engage
Sun, May 02, 2021
Ep 018: How to Create a Significantly Up-leveled Future You
In last week’s episode we explored Fear of Success, a topic I think we don’t hear enough about because I know it holds so many of us back. Deeply rooted in this concept is the fear of letting go of who were used to be in favor of who we want to become. And that gap between past us and future us can be huge and I think too many of us leave it up to chance. This week, we’re going to talk about how to create future you. On purpose. So, let’s dive in. As humans, we’re trained to look at our past for answers and for a mirror to reflect who we are or how we see ourselves in our present. So, in our career, we tend to examine our past mistakes and celebrate our past successes. And it’s the combination of those two things that, for most of us, shapes our self-concept. Most of us are actively involved with our past selves. But we view the future differently. And I believe, much more passively. For some of us, the future is something to look forward to with excitement or anticipation. For others, the future is something to be feared because it involves the UNKNOWN (which we talked about in Episode 14, so check that out if you haven’t already). One of the things most of us have in common is that when it comes to the FUTURE, we will set goals or have dreams or mark plans for things we want to do have or experience. But very few of us will ever take the time to think about WHO WE WANT TO BE or who we will need to be to LIVE IT. Right now, I’m coaching an executive in corporate America who’s experiencing significant vertical growth. She’s proud of what she’s achieved but is trying to reconcile this amazing new level of success – the big title, salary, and prestige - she just achieved with her concept of herself. She often finds herself feeling uncomfortable. She finds feeling awkward or inauthentic. It doesn’t make sense on the surface because she’s got all the skills. She earned that level of success. So, what’s the problem for her? Well, for starters., she’s always used her past experiences and successes as a mirror for who she is. And that worked okay up till now because her progression followed a linear path. She moved forward one step or progressed one natural level at a time. So the growth and shifts she made were more natural or gradual and so relying on the past as a mirror for herself was believable. But now she finds herself in a new company in a role where she’s running the whole function. Where her team is a few hundred people and growing. Where success or failure – not just of the team but of the entire department and perhaps the company – is on her shoulders. She’s just experience quantum growth. There’s nothing to look back to in order to reflect who she is now. She’s creating it REAL TIME. So, we’re working on creating Next Level Her. Which I’ll tell you more about in a minute. I created this exerci
Sun, April 25, 2021
Ep 017: How to Move Past Fear of Success (Conquering Fear #5 of 5)
Let’s start with a definition. In the simplest of terms, Fear of Success involves the fear of GETTING the very things that you want. What?!!? I know. I know. It makes no sense logically. But as you dig into it, there are actually three big themes that come up around Fear of Success. 1. Fear of Isolation that comes from the success. This is about the fear of what it means to be “different” from friends and family. It’s our primitive fear of being cast out of the tribe. It can also be in part concern around what it would mean to surpass someone that you admire. This is all about the fear of how your success will change your relationships with others that you know and love. And maybe a little about the guilt associated with WANTING a level of success that moves you away from people you love. a. Will I still have friends, or will I be all alone? b. Why can’t I just settle for what everyone else has and is? 2. Fears around the consequences of having the success . This is about the new situations you’ll be in that you might not be equipped to deal with. And it can also be about the fact that being more successful makes you more of a target. So, with that comes concerns over what other people will think about you and/or say about you. And it’s about your own concerns about whether you’ll be ‘good enough.’ a. Will I be able to handle it? b. What if I’m not good enough? 3. Fears around your ability to keep the success . Many times, we know we can be successful in getting the thing we want, but we worry that if we DO achieve the success, we’ll be a one hit wonder. That we won’t be able to duplicate it. And then we catastrophize (which we talked about last week) and worry we’ll end up homeless and living under a bridge. a. What if I can’t KEEP being successful? b. Will I lose everything? (my job, my money, my business, my family, and friends)? Bottom line, when you strive to become and do more than maybe the family you were raised in or the friends you have, the stakes get raised. The success you want will always comes more responsibility. And with more responsibility there comes more pressure. More work. More demands. More expectations. More things to learn. More obstacles. Another way the stakes get raised is that more success means doing more things you’ve never done before and that brings an increased possibility of…you guessed it…failure. But not regular failure that you might fear now, but failure with higher stakes. Next level failure. Failing when you’re more visible. When you have more to lose. The problem with Fear of Success is that many times we don’t understand that’s what is really happening. Check out the full episode to learn more. Do you
Sun, April 18, 2021
Ep 016: How to Reframe Fear of Failure (Conquering Fear #4 of 5)
Fear of Failure is the irrational fear that we won’t succeed at doing something that’s important to us. This fear happens when we have thoughts that overestimate the risks that we associate with attempting to DO the new thing. These irrational risk-based thoughts create feelings of fear, which cause us to engage in avoiding behaviors like procrastination, hiding, playing small and a host of other self-limiting actions. So first, let’s look at what we mean by ‘overestimating the risks’ we associate with trying something new. This tends to crop up when we’re trying something we don’t yet have experience in doing. I mean think about it. If we feel competent at something because we’ve done it before, we have every reason to believe we can do it again. This is where confidence comes from. It comes from looking at our past and knowing what we ‘for sure’ have successfully done. If the new thing we want to go do is similar or the same as things we’ve already done before, we’re confident in our competence at doing the thing. So, `we likely won’t sink into Fear of Failure. But when we DON’T have experience with the new thing we want to try or go do, that’s when we tend to overestimate the risks of doing the thing. Psychologists refer to this as Catastrophizing. There are two types. Catastrophizing about current or future situations. Catastrophizing is when we imagine the worst thing that could happen, or we exaggerate the difficulties we’ll face in doing the thing. The problem with catastrophizing is that we tend to enlarge the challenge. This is because we’ll start with an observation of a potentially difficult thing. Then this leads to a cascade of follow-on thoughts, each getting potentially larger. For more, check out the full episode. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, April 11, 2021
Ep 015: How to Overcome Fear of Judgment (Conquering Fear #3 of 5)
In episode #1 in our Getting Unstuck series, we're exploring Fear of Judgment. Or as I like to call it, Fear of What THEY Will Think. This is where we avoid taking a risk or trying something new because we fear what OTHERS will think of us if we do. For so many of us – especially in the age of the internet and social media where, to some extent, it’s about portraying the ideal external image to others – it’s even more prevalent than maybe ever before in history. We worry how we’ll look – literally and figuratively. We worry about our image, about falling short of our peer group or being less than or different from the “tribes” we associate with or relate to. Given that humans are tribal by nature, it’s no wonder we are so concerned with fitting in. For our caveman ancestors, being part of the TRIBE or saying with the tribe equated to safety. Being different from might get us cast out, which for our caveman ancestor might have meant death. That instinct is part of our primitive brain, the part that is about keeping us safe from danger. So, while humans have come a long way from our caveman days, there are not lions roaming our streets, we still have the deep desire to belong. To be accepted. To be part of the tribe. It’s part of how we’re socialized. So when we’re growing up, some of us were taught it was important to look respectable to others. “What will the neighbors think?” That’s what middle school is all about right? Fitting in. Wearing the right brands. Going to the right parties. Fitting in. Now with social media, people use photo filters or other apps to make themselves look better. They curate their image so they portray a certain image to the world. It’s about managing our image; another form of caring what THEY will think. And, we carry this into our professional lives by focusing a lot on fitting in with our work culture and conforming to other others in your work tribe present themselves. All of these can become reasons we hold ourselves to a certain standard. And why we fear so deeply what moving on from or evolving our career or life can mean. We worry what “THEY” will think about us if we change. How we will be judged – whether we success OR fail. And what will happen as a result. Could we lose our job? Our friends? Will we hurt our relationship with our family? That’s why so many of us don’t pursue those big dreams if they differ too much from the tribe we identify with – whether family or friend or company you work in. We worry THEY’LL think we’re foolish. Or that they’ll talk about us behind our back. Or whatever. But I would submit that it’s really about something much deeper. When we concern ourselves with what THEY will think, there’s a much deeper reason that we’re probably not connected to. It’s less about what O
Sun, April 04, 2021
Ep 014: How to Get Past Fear of the Unknown (Conquering Fear #2 of 5)
Last week, we kicked off a new series on Being Stuck. In last week’s episode, we looked at it at a high level and from the perspective of how ‘staying stuck’ is soothing you or making you feel better. I thought that was an interesting way to look at it because most of the time when we talk about being stuck or getting unstuck, we look at “how” to do it. I started this series by talking about how staying stuck might be serving you. And not serving you in that staying stuck is going to get you where we need to go. It’s not. But instead, how staying stuck is a technique we use to avoid discomfort. Staying stuck makes us feel better. Calmer. In control. And given the pace of change today, I think more and more people are living stuck. It’s a choice we make. Sometimes it doesn’t FEEL like a choice. But it IS a choice. A choice we make so we can FEEL better. We’re going to be talking about it all through April. But in each of the next four episodes, we’re going to take one reason we get stuck and we’re going to go deep. We’re going to examine stuck-ness and look at how we get there. Because it’s about how our BRAIN works. As you know, on this podcast and in my business, we look at how to build a meaningful career from the inside out. And I know this is different from a lot of other business and career coaches. But what I know for sure is that having an amazing career. One that is meaningful and aligned with what you REALLY want. And one that plays well with and complements your life, is about mastering the art of how you think. It’s about overcoming our insecurities and irrational fears and false or limiting beliefs and training our brain to instead think powerful, confident thoughts that serve you and are aligned with where you want to go. And this will transform everything about your career and life – relationships, achievements, satisfaction, skills, possibilities – and so much more. But today, we’re going to tackle something that affects so many of us and that is the Fear of the Unknown. Because this is one of the big reasons people choose to stay stuck. Choose to put their dreams aside. For me, this is a topic that’s near and dear to my heart because I’ve experienced it first-hand. I know that when people who know me look at my journey from the outside, hearing me say that I’ve struggled with Fear of the Unknown kind of doesn’t make sense. After all, the golden thread that runs through my life is CHANGE. I claim to LOVE change. And I do. But the truth is, I like change on MY terms. When I can control it. When I believe I’m in charge of whatever change is happening and can vet what’s coming and DECIDE that I feel comfortable with it. And my life is proof of that. I started as a hairstylist paying my own way through a private college and over the next twenty
Sun, March 28, 2021
Ep 013: Four Ways Staying Stuck is Soothing You (Conquering Fear #1 of 5)
In this episode, we explore how we get stuck. Specifically, we look at the Four Ways Staying Stuck Is Soothing You . Notice I didn’t say “serving you”. I said SOOTHING YOU. Because being stuck never serves us. But you might be really surprised to learn ALL the ways it might actually be making you FEEL better. This episode is going to give you a different perspective of stuckness. Usually, when someone discusses the topic, they share tips on how to get UNSTUCK. And we’ll get there because all through April we’re going to dive deep into the subject to look at all the ways we stay stuck and what to do about it. But first, I want to explore the topic from the perspective of the fact that being stuck actually CAN make us feel better, or soothe us, from an emotional perspective. Even though it never serves us in reality. But staying stuck CAN make us feel better. And today, we’re going to look at all the way that happens. So, let’s dive in. This is going to be an interesting topic. Let’s start by looking at people who AREN’T stuck. Meaning those who are putting themselves out there, pursuing the things they want and go for it. What’s their secret? At the heart of it, it’s about them not allowing fear – in all its various forms – stand in their way. People who don’t get stuck have mastered the ability to TRUST THEIR DESIRES and to work through any negative emotions – LIKE FEAR – that might come up for them. They don’t let FEAR stand in their way. They trust themselves and their ability to go after and GET that new thing. On the other hand, those who stay stuck do that because their fear of change is stronger than their desire to have that new thing. They might dream of something new. But as they consider what it will take to go after it, they find themselves facing the various ways that fear can come up for us. And so, they resist the fear by choosing to stay stuck instead of putting themselves out there and facing it. They SOOTHE themselves by NOT pursuing that new dream. Because even though NOT pursuing the dream can feel disappointing or frustrating, those emotions are still preferred by some over the fears they’ll need to face if they pursue it. Here are the four reasons we choose to stay stuck: 1. Fear of the unknown 2. Fear of being judged or what "they" will think 3. Fear of failure 4. Fear of success Give this episode a listen to learn how one of these ways might be showing up for you. This is the start of a new four part series on how to get unstuck, using the latest in cognitive behavior and neuroscience. Join us. And see just how much you can accomplish when you let yourself go after it. Do you have a question you'd
Sun, March 21, 2021
Ep 012: How to Stop Procrastinating
This week we're talking about procrastination. Most of us procrastinate in certain areas of our life. But if you do it on the regular in your career, it’s likely holding you back and that’s why I wanted to explore why we procrastinate, how it affects us and, more importantly, what we can do about it. So, let’s dive in. We all know that procrastination means “to put off doing something.” But it’s also interesting to know that procrastination comes from the ancient Greek word “akrasia” which means “doing something against our better judgment.” When we procrastinate in doing something, we know we’re not only avoiding the task, but that it’s probably not a great idea. But we do it anyway. And that's why procrastination does such a number on us, right? Because when we do it, we not ONLY deal with the pain of not doing the thing we know we need to do, but we ALSO know that we procrastinated even though we KNEW it wasn’t a good idea. That by doing so, it might cost us in some way. So, if we know something might hurt us…why do we do it anyway? Doing something we KNOW is going to have negative consequences isn’t logical. So that means there must be a powerful hidden driver BEHIND the procrastination that’s making us do it. So, what is that? Well, in the simplest of terms, we procrastinate because of how we feel about doing the task we need to do. As we’ve discussed in earlier episodes, everything we do (or don’t do in this case) comes from how we feel. The emotions we experience motivate our actions. So, when we procrastinate, we’re likely feeling something like boredom, anxiety, insecurity, frustration, resentment, overwhelm or self-doubt. Things like that. And most of us believe that we feel that way BECAUSE of that thing you need to do. But that’s NOT the reason. The reason you have those feelings like boredom, anxiety or overwhelm is because of what you’re THINKING about that thing you need to do. And those emotions are what is causing you to take the IN-action of procrastination. So, you are choosing to NOT do the task you think is causing you to feel those negative emotions because you are trying to DELAY having to experience those emotions. And notice what you are probably doing INSTEAD of doing that thing. Because usually It’s something SUPER indulgent. Like maybe scrolling your social feed, bingeing on Netflix, browsing Amazon, going out with friends or whatever. In my practice, we call this buffering. Because it’s about doing things to soothe yourself or to avoid having to experience emotions that we don’t want to experience. Listen to hear more. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? C
Sat, March 13, 2021
Ep 011: How to Learn to Love (or at Least Roll With) Change
This week, I've been thinking about our careers and how we adapt to the unexpected things that happen to us. Because the pace of change is only increasing and for the most part, learning to adapt to it is a journey we take on our own. You know how it works. Things are going along great. Everything’s clicking. We like our job. We’ve got our fun work colleagues. We love our boss. The company. Our benefits. And then boom. Out of the blue, something happens and suddenly, everything changes. Maybe our boss leaves. Or we get re-orged. Or laid off. Suddenly, what was great is now uncertain. We can feel out of control. Or victimized. Or angry. Or scared. And for the most part, navigating through that change is something we must do on our own. Sure, some bosses may try to help. You might have some supportive colleagues or friends or a spouse who will lend an ear. But coming to grips with change that you didn’t want or expect is up to you. And I can show you how to work your way through it faster. So you go from dreading change to actually…love it. So, let’s dive in. As someone who’s long managed people in my career, I can recall other leaders talking about their employees and saying things like “so and so is just not that flexible” or “so and so is such a no person.” I’ve never felt that way. Because early on in my career, I got exposed to a management consultant view of the philosophy behind how people process through change. And it’s always fascinated me and once I understood it, I made the decision to always embrace it. I might not like it. I might initially feel the stab of uncertainty or panic if I sense it might impact me in a way I wasn’t expecting. But my expectation of myself is that I am always proactive in exploring the possibility that change presents. Check out the full episode now. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, March 07, 2021
Ep 010: How to Flip On the Confidence Switch
Today we're going to talk about how to instantly shift from fear and self-doubt to unstoppable confidence. Kind of like flipping on a light switch. Most of us don’t think about it that way. We think we just feel the way we feel about something – like a scary new opportunity that’s in front of us or like a job we’ve kind of lost interest in – and we think that thing is causing us to feel the way we feel. That there’s nothing we can do about it. That it just is what it is . But that’s not true. And that’s what I want to talk about today. Because Spring is coming and it’s a time of growth and renewal. A time of possibilities for trying fresh new things. But I’ve noticed that for many of my coaching clients, trying new things – thing they might not have tried before, might be fearful of or whatever – is really scary. And many of them will do whatever it takes to avoid them. But it doesn’t have to be that way. We can summon the courage or the confidence in an instant when we need to. I can show you how. So, in honor of my dog Umbro and the new things that Spring might bring, I want to share with you a powerful tool I use in my coaching practice called “The Confidence Switch.” Let’s dive in. As we go through our careers, we’re going to be presented with new opportunities. Promotions. New jobs. Starting a business. And those new things will mean we have to show up in a way that’s new. We must put ourselves out there in a new way. Channel a part of ourselves that maybe we haven’t used before. Or maybe we’ve tried in the past and it didn’t work so well. So, when we’re faced with those things, some will muster the courage to try it. But most of us will struggle. We might be excited about it. But dread it too. We might obsess about it. Worry about it. Many of us might even decide to avoid it. To NOT do that new thing because it’s just too scary . Have you ever said no to opportunity? Have you ever had a burning desire to do something – maybe start a new business or go for that big new job – and then talked yourself out of it? If so, why? Have you ever really considered the reason you might say no to new things? For most of us, it’s about fear of some kind. Fear of judgment. Fear of failure. Even fear of success. Notice how all those types of fear have one thing in common. It’s about what others might think about you. Probably also a bit about how YOU’LL think about you. The issue here is that you’re letting your own fear, insecurity, self-doubt convince you that you’ll be judged. That you might fail. So, you tell yourself it’s too dangerous a thing to try. That you’re not up to the task. That you should stay in the cave where it’s safe. And listen, I get it. As I’ve talke
Sun, February 28, 2021
Ep 009: The Dark Side of Wanting to Stay Safe (Inner Critic Series #4 of 4)
In the context of our personal lives, security is important to most of us. We want to know that our families and our loved ones are safe and free from danger. But very often, the need to be safe has the exact opposite effect when it comes to our careers – whether we’re on the corporate or entrepreneurial track or somewhere in between. There’s a dark side of safety when it comes to our professional lives. Why? Because in the context of our careers, safety usually means we’re holding ourselves back. We’re playing small. Not living up to our fullest potential and likely, not allowing ourselves to realize our dreams and ambitions. I know this has been true in my own life. Especially as it comes to starting this business. But it also played a smaller role in my corporate career when it came to one specific thing, which we’ll talk about in a minute. This need for security is something I’ve seen so many of my colleagues and clients contend with. And that’s why today, we’re going to talk about THE DARK SIDE OF SAFETY . So, let’s dive in. As you know, all month we’ve been talking about our Inner Critic – that persistent negative internal talk track that runs on a continual loop for most of us. We learned in earlier episodes how our Inner Critic is not our enemy, but our misguided friend. So, it’s important to soothe it instead of fighting it or whatever. And we learned that our critic uses negative motivation and false control to try to get us to do what it can to keep us protected. Today we’re going to talk about the last – and I think the most problematic or pervasive – technique the Inner Critic uses, which is all about convincing us that if we put ourselves out there or go after a big new thing, it’ll BE…A…DISASTER. For me, this played out in one prominent way throughout my corporate career, which was around speaking in front of large groups. I just wouldn’t do it. Period. So, whenever an invitation came, I invented a grand excuse to get out of it. And I did it so often and for so long that honestly, I didn’t think anything about it. I certainly never thought about how it might be holding me back. It was quite the opposite. Actually, it felt like a GREAT IDEA to say no. It felt smart. And on the rare occasion when I DID accept an invitation, I would ALMOST IMMEDIATELY be overwhelmed with fear and self-doubt. Why? Because my Inner Critic had flipped on a talk track that told me I’d screw up. That I would freeze or stumble over my words. That I didn’t KNOW ENOUGH to be up on that stage, sharing my knowledge and experience. Basically, that I just wasn’t GOOD ENOUGH. So, when my Inner Critic told me those things, I believed it. After all, that voice in our head feels wise, right? And listening to it feels like something we should do.</
Sun, February 21, 2021
Ep 008: Having a False Sense of Control (Inner Critic Series #3 of 4)
Today we're going to talk about something I call False Control. This happens when we mistakenly believe that if we do THIS then we’ll prevent or get THAT. And it happens to be one of our inner critic’s favorite ways to torture us. As you know, all through February we’re looking at the various ways our Inner Critic tries to “help us” but of course, doesn’t REALLY help us. And on this one, our critic is trying to convince us that if we just try a little harder or do a specific thing , we can make the situation turn out the way we want. This is a good one because it comes up for so many of us in our career or life. So, let’s dive in. Control is a loaded word, right? On the one hand, we all want to have control over our life – at least wherever we can, right? I mean, like I was saying with my other Dallas friends from the North. They knew what sub-zero weather and ice meant. And they took every precaution to take the smart actions to protect themselves and their families. And guess what? The thing they didn’t want to happen, happened. And a week later, they STILL don’t have water. So, when it comes to our career, this plays out all the time. For those of us in corporate America, we’ll do everything we can to prepare for that meeting and still end up with an outcome we didn’t want. Or we’ll go above and beyond all year, fully expecting to be first in line for that promotion, only to get passed over. Again. And when this happens, our Inner Critic swings into high gear as our negative internal talk track starts tearing us apart, blaming our actions or lack of preparation or foresight for the reason the thing didn’t turn out. As if we could have somehow gotten a completely different outcome if we had done things differently. As if life or our career is EVER that predictable. Now here, I’m not saying we shouldn’t look ahead and prepare and take actions we think will best position us for the outcome we want. We should. What I AM saying is that we’re not in control of everything that happens. And it’s important to remember that SOMETIMES we can see around all the corners and identify all the smart actions and perform them with absolute perfection and STILL not get the outcome we want. And listen, the “trying to take smart control” over our life and career makes sense. It positions us to get the things we want from our life. To achieve our goals. The problem comes into play when things DON’T work out as we hoped – which, let’s face it, many times they don’t – and then we fall victim to this false narrative from our Inner Critic that somehow, it’s all our fault. · We weren’t smart enough. · We weren’t prepared enough. · We weren’t good enough. And so, it’s all our fault that we didn’t get the thing we wanted. The problem with this is
Mon, February 15, 2021
Ep 007: Understanding Negative Motivation (Inner Critic Series #2 of 4)
In last week’s episode, we talked about Soothing Your Inner Critic and I promised that all month, we’d explore the various ways our inner critic shows up and tries to stop us from stepping into the fullest version of ourselves. So today, we’re going to talk about our Inner Critic from the perspective of motivation. Specifically, we’re going to explore one of the inner critic’s favorite approaches, called Negative Motivation. So, let’s dive in. The word MOTIVATION is typically seen as a good thing. But, like everything in life, there’s both a light and dark side of motivation. There’s positive motivation which is all about moving TOWARDS PLEASURE. Surprisingly, the anticipation of pleasure or reward is not as strong a motivator as the other side, which is NEGATIVE MOTIVATION. This is all about the desire to AVOID PAIN. And for most of us, this type of motivation is very compelling. Few of us like to fail or experience pain or the negative consequences of NOT doing something we were supposed to do, so we will literally do almost anything to avoid that. This is called negative motivation. The desire to avoid experiencing pain or failure. We all experience this regularly in our job. For example, if our boss sets a deadline for that report. Or you have a monthly sales quota or whatever. Most of us will pull out all the stops to do that thing. And there’s nothing with that. This type of negative motivation spurs us on. It keeps us on task. There’s nothing berating or nasty about it. We simply apply ourselves and get the job done so we can avoid the pain of NOT doing the thing. But there’s a second version of negative motivation – one that is typically delivered by our inner critic. This is negative motivation with a twist. It has all the components of negative emotion – a compelling thing we must do, a sense of urgency, and a sense of consequences if we DON’T do it. But when the inner critic gets involved, the negative emotion comes with a twist. And this is when negative motivation moves from a simple and natural desire to accomplish something, so we avoid pain, to an internal tyrant that sucks the life force from us. When I say it comes with a twist, here’s how it works. The inner critic might say things like: “You better get busy, or else.” “If you make another mistake, it’ll be your last.” “You shouldn’t have waited so long.” “If you don’t hurry, it’ll be too late.” Part of the inner critic’s negative motivation is helpful. It’s trying to get you to do something. To move. To act. The problem is that it adds a threat or an accusation to the sentence. It’s the brain’s way of trying to get your attention. To let you know that there’s a lot at stake and to make it happen, it’s going to take everything you’ve got. And that part is fine. It’s the t
Sun, February 07, 2021
Ep 006: How to Sooth Your Inner Critic (Inner Critic Series #1 of 4)
In my practice, I work with clients looking to either up-level their corporate career OR make the transition into entrepreneurship. But a specialty area for me is helping people overcome feelings of self-doubt and uncertainty so they can do the things they want from a place of ease and confidence. So, quieting the inner critic is key to that. The inner critic is that negative internal voice that accuses and demeans and says super nasty things to us. And that keeps us playing small or shrinking back from our dreams because our inner critic has convinced us we’re not enough. So, in this episode, I wanted to talk about where the inner critic comes from. And why it does what it does. Because I believe we can learn to sooth our inner critic by first understanding why it’s doing the things it does. After all, it’s an inner critic. It’s not external. It’s PART of you. So there has to be a good reason it keeps doing what it’s doing. Let’s work to understand it. To learn why it flares up. And what we can do about it. Sound good? Let’s dive in. Let’s start with what triggers our inner critic. Usually, it’s triggered by an event or an interaction that our brain classifies as disappointing, painful, or threatening. And that makes our brain serve up a thought about that event or interaction that basically blames YOU. It tries to convince you that this threatening thing is happening or about to happen because of some defect you have: - Lack of motivation - Lack of intelligence - Lack of skills - Lack of likeability - And the list goes on. It’s our biggest accuser. Your inner critic might say things like: “I can’t believe you did that.” “You’re so stupid / irresponsible / fill in the blank.” “You can’t do it.” “You are SUCH a loser.” “It’s all your fault.” “You just didn’t try hard enough.” Most of us are well acquainted with that voice. I know I am. For sure. So we know it’s triggered by a potentially disappointing or threatening situation. But why? Well, it’s kind of like those scary movies I used to love in junior high. The enemy is coming from INSIDE the house. Your inner critic isn’t coming from outside. You can’t shut down contact. You can’t label it as toxic and stay away. It’s there inside your brain. It’s ALWAYS there. So, if it’s going to be your constant companion, best to try to understand it. Maybe even make friends with it. And most certainly, to learn how to soothe it. So it can calm down. And stop trying to scare you to death. But more on that later. First, let’s look at WHY your inner critic does its thing. Because once you know that, you might actually start to feel a little compassion for it.
Sun, January 31, 2021
Ep 005: How to Stay Calm and In Control During Times of Chaos
Well, hello friends. I hope you had an AMAZING week. Mine was SUPER productive. And I LOVE it when that happens. And I’m not just talking about being productive in my business or work. I was. But even better, I got a TON of stuff done around the house. You know, the kind of stuff that lingers. Things like going through boxes or closets and drawers. And deciding what to keep, toss or donate. It always makes me feel amazing. What’s interesting though is WHY I had that amazing burst of activity this week. And that’s what we’re going to talk about today, which is Control in Chaos . So, let’s dive in. That burst of productivity that I experienced this week is a bit unusual. Well, THAT type of productivity anyway. Cleaning closets and organizing things isn’t really my favorite past time. But what’s interesting is what inspired that particular burst of productivity. Basically, you can blame cable news and 2021. Let me explain. I’ve been a news junkie for like the past 20 years. I’ve always loved having it on in the background. I have my favorite news anchors and all of that. I just liked staying up on things and I liked hearing different angles and opinions on the stories of the day. But for me, that’s changed. Granted there are a lot of reasons for that, most of which I won’t go into on this podcast because there’s not time for it all. But the main thing for me is the unrelenting news on the pandemic. I’ve noticed that when I watch the news, my anxiety increases. I start to feel helpless and hopeless. And I go from being able to deal with the isolation and the uncertainty that this virus has brought into all of our lives, to barely hanging on. Why? Some folks would say, “well, it’s because of the circumstances. There’s a pandemic going on.” Others might say, “the news is just toxic and always negative.” And I get that these explanations FEEL true. But they’re NOT true. The truth is that what was causing me to feel helpless and hopeless is the thoughts I’m having about the coverage. Not the actual coverage itself. So now, when I leave the news on too long, I start thinking: “Will my family be okay?” or “When will this virus EVER end?” and “What happens now that there are more contagious strains appearing? Will the vaccine work?” When I’m thinking those thoughts, they cause me to feel “anxiety”, “uncertainty” and “sadness.” And when I’m feeling anxious, uncertain, or sad, what do I do? Nothing productive. That’s for sure. They make me want to numb out by binge watching Netflix or Hulu. Or having a brownie. Or a glass of wine. Can you relate? Let's dive in and explore how to help you get control even during chaos. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed
Sun, January 24, 2021
Ep 004: How to Choose Your Self Concept vs. Accepting One That's Formed By Default
In this episode, we talk about one of my favorite things, which is how we see ourselves. Specifically, we discuss the importance of proactive choosing your self concept vs. just accepting how others view you . And, how to go about doing that. Have you ever really spent time thinking about how you think about yourself. Your self-concept? So many of us don’t. Yet it's SO important when it comes to getting everything you want from your career and life. Personally, I think that’s why we’re all on this never-ending quest for what’s next. Why so few of us relish where we are or appreciate WHO we are in the moment – no matter the job we have, the partner we have, the things we have. And why, no matter what we achieve or get, for too many of us, it’s never enough. Or never quite right. If you can relate to this even a little, this episode is for you. Because we’re going to explore why most of us accept the self-concept that is either assigned by others or shaped automatically by our brain as a response to what happens to us. AND, we’re going to talk about self-concept as something that you can choose and how and why you should do that. I call it the Self Blueprint. And here's how to think about this concept. Most of us think about ourselves in the context of where we are in the moment. In our life. In our career. So, if things are going well, we tend to feel good – or at least more positive - about ourselves and our prospects. But if circumstances are more challenging, most times we feel less positive or optimist about who we are and what is possible for us. And this is the challenge when our self-concept is shaped by factors outside of vs. one that we choose and believe because we know who we are NO. MATTER. WHAT. We don't have to look outside ourselves to define who we are. We can proactively shape it through this Self Blueprint technique. Take a listen and then visit us at thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel. Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Mon, January 18, 2021
Ep 003: How to Know What you Want From Your Career and Life
In this episode we look at Knowing What You Want. Or more specifically, why so many of us don't. We take a look at how to identify that thing you want - ideally something that sits at the intersection of what you're good at, what you're passionate about and what you can make a living doing. And we discuss why, even when we know what that thing is, we don't do it. In my experience it typically comes down to three reasons: - Fear - Self Doubt - Judgement And if we're not connected to it, we can let one or all of those things stop us from having a meaningful career. Too many of us default into not allowing ourselves to know what we want. Or if we know, not allowing ourselves to do it. This is not the path that leads to a meaningful career. It's a path that leads to drudgery, disappointment and resentment. Listen to the episode to learn how you can avoid having those things get in your way. And how you can step into not only knowing what you want, but going after it with everything you've got. I hope you enjoy this episode and get out there and make it happen for yourself in 2021! Until next week... Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Sun, January 10, 2021
Ep 002: How to Set Goals with Conviction (So You Follow-Through)
In this episode, we talk about how to goal set with conviction. Or, as I like to call it, your Mission Impossible. Because believe it or not, it's that time of year again. The time for setting goals. For thinking of all the things we'd like to achieve this year. The truth is, we NEED goals. We NEED a compelling vision to drive us forward. Even when circumstances might make those goals more difficult to achieve. Having that vision, that passion, inspires us. And motivates us to do more, to keep going even when it might be challenging. Even if we fall short of our desired goal, we'll have grown stronger because of it. We'll become a different person. In this podcast, we cover: - Why we call it Mission Impossible instead of goal-setting - Why we give up on goals and how not to do that this year - The advantage of having your one BIG Mission Impossible for the year - Where your feelings of self-doubt, fear and desire to quit come from - How to choose a thought that generates a feeling of fierce commitment - And so much more I hope you enjoy it. If you do, hit SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode. And, please leave us a review. We'd be so grateful. See you next week! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
Mon, January 04, 2021
Ep 001: The Five Interrelated Parts of Any Problem
In this episode, I introduce you to the one of the foundational aspects of what I teach at The Purposeful Career. We introduce you to "The Five Interrelated Parts of Any Problem." This construct helps you understand how to dissect any issues you're having in your career, business or life. By using this tool, you can gain deep insight into what's going on and most importantly, what you can do to change it. This podcast is intended for those in corporate careers or those wishing to transition from corporate to entrepreneur. We will be discussing the unique situations you might encounter on those journeys and how to build an unstoppable confidence and self belief that will power the path in front of you. We will publish a new episode every Sunday. And for those who want to take it further, join our mailing list at www.thepurposefulcareer.com, on Facebook @purposefulcareer, on Twitter @purposeflcareer or on YouTube @thepurposefulcareer. Join us each Sunday for the latest podcast and I hope we see you on one of our channels. You deserve everything you dream of and then some. Let's make it happen together! Do you have a question you'd like to have addressed on the podcast? Want to give us some feedback or suggestions? Click here to send us a text. Follow us on Instagram @thepurposefulcareer. Learn more about Next Level, our monthly membership at https://www.thepurposefulcareer.com/nextlevel.
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