Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens
Welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast - a place where parents of tweens and teens come to find inspiration, information and encouragement in the messy terrain of adolescenceThis season of parenting is no joke - and while the details of what we are all moving through might be slightly different, we are having a collective experience.This is a space where we center building relationship, nurturing life skills, and leaning into our own personal growth.My name is Casey O’Roarty, I am a parent coach, Positive Discipline LEad Trainer, and captain of the adolescent ship over at Sproutable. I am...
Thu, April 17, 2025
Eps 565: Parenting Teens with the End in Mind
In this episode, we explore long-term parenting goals and how to parent teens with clarity, compassion, and confidence. Instead of getting stuck in daily power struggles, we’ll zoom out and focus on raising emotionally healthy, self-sufficient young adults. Learn how to let go of control, build connection, and trust your teen’s growth process. This is the episode for you if you’re looking for parenting strategies that nurture resilience, independence, and a strong lifelong relationship. Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-565-parenting-teens-with-the-end-in-mind Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 14, 2025
Positive Discipline for Teens Part One - Transitioning into adolescence
In this episode, I’m sharing my thoughts and insights on the first three chapters of Positive Discipline for Teens by Dr. Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott. We are focusing on the transition into adolescence - It’s not about rebellion or bad behavior; it’s brain development, identity, and change. I’ll share real stories and insights to help you recognize the signs and feel more confident parenting your teen. If you’re wondering, “Is my child becoming a teen?”—this episode is for you. Tune in and feel more connected, informed, and supported. Find more show notes and info about sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-564-positive-discipline-for-teens-part-one-transitioning-into-adolescence/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 10, 2025
Eps 563: Active Acceptance vs resistance while parenting teens
So much is calling for acceptance right now — in our lives and in parenting — and it can feel really hard. In this episode, I explore the difference between resistance, passive acceptance, and active acceptance — the powerful, grounded path that helps us stay connected, calm, and intentional with our kids. I’ll walk you through six practical steps to shift out of emotional reactivity and into compassionate presence. If you're feeling overwhelmed or stuck in power struggles, this episode is for you. Let’s grow our capacity to meet life as it is — with strength, clarity, and love. Find show notes and information about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-563-active-acceptance-vs-resistance-while-parenting-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 07, 2025
Adolescence on Netflix and raising good men
As parents, we must stay engaged in our teens' world—especially when it comes to online influences. In this episode, I dive into the powerful Netflix series Adolescence , exploring themes of teen isolation, cyberbullying, and the dangerous pull of toxic masculinity. We'll discuss how to help our boys navigate these challenges with curiosity, open conversations, and Positive Discipline. Join me as we unpack the "manosphere" and its impact while offering tools to foster emotional intelligence and resilience in our sons. Let’s raise thoughtful, empathetic young men—together. Tune in now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 03, 2025
Advice we would give ourselves about parenting teens
If you're navigating the challenges of parenting a teen (aren't we all??), this episode is for you. I share powerful insights from parents who have faced tough moments and come out stronger, reminding us that our kids are resilient, and so are we. Through real stories and practical tools like the "Three Bs" (Breath, Body, Balcony), I explore how to stay present, regulate emotions, and support our teens through uncertainty. Parenting is a long road, but connection, patience, and trust make all the difference. Tune in for encouragement and strategies to keep showing up for your child! Find more show notes, info about our offers and sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 31, 2025
The 10 year anniversary show!
In this anniversary episode, I celebrate 10 years of the Joyful Courage Podcast , a show that has been dedicated to inspiring and encouraging parents as they navigate the parenting journey. As a positive discipline trainer and conscious parenting advocate, I reflect on the podcast's evolution and highlight key moments and episodes that have made an impact. From interviews with experts like Dr. Tina Bryson and Dr. Shefali Tsabary to heartfelt solo episodes on topics like navigating depression and anxiety, I revisit some of the most memorable conversations and themes. I share personal stories, the importance of radical acceptance, and insights into fostering strong, supportive relationships with our children. This episode serves as both a reflection on a decade of meaningful work and a hopeful outlook for the future, encouraging listeners to continue growing and learning alongside their kids. For more show notes and info about our sponsors: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-560-the-10-years-of-joyful-courage/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 27, 2025
Eps 559: The tension of Positive Discipline and our teens risky behaviors
Hey parents—this episode is a must-listen. I share a powerful conversation that reminded me of the real work of parenting teens: not making it worse. Our kids are going through huge growth, and we often react to just the "tip of the iceberg." I unpack what’s really going on underneath, how to handle big mistakes with kindness and firmness, and how to stay connected without falling into control or fear. It’s messy, real, and full of tools to support you. Let’s navigate this ride together. Find more show notes and information about our offers and sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-559-the-tension-of-positive-discipline-and-our-teens-risky-behaviors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 24, 2025
Neuroscience of adolescent behavior with Patrick Ney
My guest today is Patrick Ney, here to explain the neuroscience behind some adolescent behaviors. Patrick shares about self-determination theory and our 3 universal psychological needs. We dig into the personal growth and rewriting the narratives we’ve told ourselves about the way we were parented. Lastly, Patrick shares actionable steps & advice for helpful communication with your unregulated teen. Takeaways from the show Wanting to parent differently than you were parented Self-determination theory 3 psychological needs: relatedness, competence, & autonomy People feel better & work better with others when those needs are met; we see more negative behavior when those needs are not met Parenting is an invitation for personal growth “There’s no getting around teen brain development” Neuroscience of the teen brain The more you understand the connection between teen behavior, their needs, and brain development, the easier it becomes to stay grounded & helpful - most parents don’t know a lot of neuroscience, but it helps! Teens are hypersensitive to the opinions of other teens You are the world’s best expert on your child Getting curious instead of cutting off behavior immediately Having a narrative understanding of who you are and where you came from can help you know where you’re going as a caregiver Reflecting on your own behavior & actions as a teenager “A teenage brain has higher highs and lower lows “ Steps for staying helpful & communicative with unregulated adolescents For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 20, 2025
Positive Discipline and the Teen Years
Raising teens is messy—and that's okay! In this episode, I dive into the book Positive Discipline for Teenagers by Jane Nelsen, sharing how you can stay connected, set boundaries, and foster independence during these challenging years. I talk about how brain development, social-emotional growth, and individuation shape your teen’s behavior—and why nurturing a strong relationship is key. Whether you're new to Positive Discipline or just need a refresher, tune in for insights, real-life stories, and practical tips to support your teen’s journey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 17, 2025
Helping teens discover their life purpose with Will Kirsop
My guest today is Will Kirsop, and he’s here to talk about helping teens discover their purpose, uncover their gifts, and support them in cultivating lives they will look forward to. Will shares the four stages of life crafting he goes through with adolescents and shares his “best friend trick” and bowling alley analogy. We touch on encouraging goal setting and personal responsibility, uncovering purpose, and emotionally untangling from our teens. Takeaways from the show How to uncover our teen’s gifts - everyone has a unique gift; how do we bring it into the world? Supporting adolescents in cultivating lives they will look forward to The traditional “ladders of success” are outdated - there is no “one right path” anymore Therapy versus coaching The four stages of life crafting What is appreciative inquiry? Will’s “best friend trick” and bowling alley analogy Encouraging goal setting & personal responsibility Working towards our purpose - what are we doing right now? What’s the next stepping stone or springboard on your path? Emotionally untangling from our teens “There’s no getting around teen brain development” Helping teens realize they can dream big(ger) For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 13, 2025
7 Power tools for your parenting toolbox
Feeling overwhelmed by parenting teens? Tune into this episode for insights that help you navigate challenges with grace. Discover strategies like cleaning up your side of the dynamic, listening more and judging less, and allowing your teen to take responsibility for their choices. Learn how to build supportive routines, embrace your teen as they are, and let natural consequences teach valuable life lessons. Most importantly, take care of yourself so you can show up fully. This episode blends compassion with practical advice to foster authentic connections and empower your family to thrive. Listen now! Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 10, 2025
High achieving middle schoolers with Julietta Skoog
My guest today is Julietta Skoog, my co-founder and the Early Years Lead here at Sproutable. We’re talking about perfectionism and pressure on high achieving middle schoolers. Julietta and I discuss high achieving kids and the connection between extracurriculars and academics. We compare overachieving and being an efficient student and how much pressure some middle schoolers are under. Julietta shares about growth mindset and the antidote for perfectionism. We wrap up chatting about our modeling and “living out loud.” Takeaways from the show High achieving middle school students We can’t always help our kids tune out distractions or pressure, but we can help our kids reframe Extracurriculars and academics Being an efficient student versus being an overachieving student The high pressure (and even burn out) on middle schoolers The fear of “what if I never figure it out?” Reconciling parental expectations with school expectations and what their own expectations are for themselves Studying for a test versus studying to learn & retain knowledge Things can still be hard and uncomfortable even when we’re using our Positive Discipline parenting tools and doing it “right” - sometimes we just have to sit with the discomfort and the challenge The importance of a growth mindset “The antidote for perfectionism is I love you no matter what” When kids stop trying because of pressure from perfectionism Modeling and “living out loud” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 06, 2025
Conflict to Connection - Parenting Teens with Empathy & Understanding
Struggling to connect with your teen? This episode dives deep into the dynamics of parent-teen relationships, exploring how our beliefs and reactions shape the way our kids see us. Learn how to shift from control to connection, create a space of openness, and build trust so your teen feels seen, heard, and understood. If you’ve ever wondered how to maintain influence without pushing your child away, this conversation is for you. Tune in to discover practical strategies for fostering a relationship where your teen feels safe to share—and you can truly support their journey. Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-554-conflict-to-connection-parenting-teens-with-empathy-amp-understanding/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 03, 2025
Mental wellness in girls sports with Jenn Ireland
My guest today is Jenn Ireland, and we’re talking about the mental health in youth sports, particularly for teen girls. Jenn shares what youth sports culture looks like today and we discuss teens tying their self-worth to athletic performance. Jenn talks about some of the skills she mentors young female athletes about, like countering your inner-critic voice with your inner-coach. We get into the similarities between parent coaching and coaching young athletes, and we wrap up touching on when to (gently) push your adolescent and effective coaching. Takeaways from the show: The focus on winning & success in youth sports culture today Being disappointed with a loss versus associating losses with your self-worth Self-worth can’t be tied to performance Being good at a sport takes many life-skills in addition to the necessary athletic skills How to help kids who are stuck in their head or beating themselves up about performance Teens need mentors aside from parents & coaches Countering your inner-critic with your inner-coach Similarities between parent coaching and coaching young athletes - we’re all working on the same skills Parents encouraging/pushing their children into elite sports versus kids who are intrinsically motivated How do you know when to push your athlete? When do you hand the decision to play to your adolescent? Telling a teen you love them unconditionally versus making sure they know and believe that you love them unconditionally Building relationships Effective coaching & being connected to your coaches For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 27, 2025
Influence through connection while dealing with our teen's partner's family
Parenting teens is a wild ride, and in this episode, we’re diving into how we can stay connected, even when it feels like they’re slipping away. I’ll be sharing insights from the community, including a real question from a parent struggling with their teen’s choices and independence. We’ll explore how to reframe challenges, strengthen communication, and shift our own mindset to create deeper, more meaningful relationships. You can’t control your teen, but you can control how you show up—and that changes everything. Join me for a conversation full of insight, validation, and practical tools to support you on this journey! For more show notes and information about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-552-influence-through-connection-while-dealing-with-our-teens-partners-family/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 24, 2025
Helping teens cope with grief with Clarissa Moll
My guest today is Clarissa Moll, and she’s here today to talk about helping teens cope with grief. Clarissa shares her story and what led her to griefwork. We discuss how teens grieve and what your child(ren) want and need to know during loss. Clarissa offers us tips around relationship building and starting tough conversations with our adolescents. We end our conversation talking about spirituality in grief. Takeaways from the show Teens don’t have a lot of resources around grief Adolescents don’t grieve like children or adults, and everyone grieves differently Asking your child what it’s like to be a grieving teenager Needing our teen’s guidance into what they need from us When, what, and how much to share with your child Being the gatekeeper for your family The importance of one trusted adult and building a community of support Wanting to say the “right thing” while not layering on additional sadness “Be a good question asker, not a good advice giver” Spirituality in grief For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 20, 2025
Revisiting Your kids are not manipulating you
As parents, we often feel stuck when communicating with our teenagers, convinced they're being manipulative or just trying to get their way. This podcast challenges that mindset by exploring how kids—at any age—are driven by a deep need for belonging and significance. It encourages us to shift from commands to curiosity, creating an environment where our kids feel safe, heard, and empowered. By understanding their "private logic" and using questions instead of demands, we foster real connection. If you're ready to transform your parenting approach, this episode is a must-listen! Find more show notes and info about sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-183-your-kids-are-not-manipulating-you/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 17, 2025
Online gaming safety tips for teens with Ron Kerbs
My guest today is Ron Kerbs, and he’s here to talk about online gaming safety tips & gaming toxicity for our teens. We get into the biggest threats to kids who play online multiplayer games and why gaming is so toxic. Ron shares advice for parents and some positives about gaming. We finish by talking about Ron’s company, Kidas, which monitors kids’ gaming and offers parents concrete resources and tips for how to talk to your child about what happened. Takeaways from the show What are the threats to kids who play online, multiplayer games? Spoiler: privacy issues & sharing personal information The big feelings & frustrations that come with gaming Why is online multiplayer gaming so toxic? Are there “safe” games for kids? How do parents know? Getting interested & involved in your adolescent’s games What’s “too much” gaming? Around 60% of kids under 18 who play video games will be bullied, harassed or scammed Benefits of gaming include making friends, getting scholarships, and even making a living Kids offers monitoring AND help with how to communicate and have those tough conversations with your child after an incident Collaborating with other parents in your child’s friend group to get on the same page about gaming For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 13, 2025
When our teens need more support than what we can give
Parenting a struggling teen is an incredibly tough journey, and if you’ve ever felt alone in it, this episode is for you. A fellow parent bravely shares their experience of admitting their 13-year-old into residential mental health care—how they got there, the doubts, and the hope. We’re diving into when to seek help, how to find it, and how to support our kids while also taking care of ourselves. If you’re navigating the impossible, know that you’re not alone. Tune in for insight, encouragement, and a reminder that healing—for both you and your teen—is possible. Find more show notes and resources about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-549-when-our-teens-need-more-support-than-what-we-can-give/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 10, 2025
Oppositional teens with Dr Paul Sunseri
My guest today is Dr. Paul Sunseri. We’re talking about gentle parenting and oppositional teens. We get into how to get your teen on board with the limits & expectations you’ve set. Dr. Sunseri and I do several role plays as an oppositional teen & father to share specific strategies & language. We discuss threatening and physically aggressive or self-harming behaviors and finish on the importance of modeling emotional regulation. Takeaways from the show Dr. Sunseri’s new book - Gentle Parenting Reimagined: How to Make it Work with Oppositional Kids What is intensive family-focused therapy? Defining gentle parenting Gentle parenting “harder kids” Staying firm without being punitive or shaming What is oppositional defiance disorder? Your kids will be angry with you at times - part of parenting is telling your children “no” Getting your resistant teen on board with limits & expectations Handling threatening and physically aggressive behavior or self-harming behaviors What to do/say in the moment when your teen is raging Modeling emotional regulation - if you’re modeling explosiveness, they learn to be explosive Creating a positive, self-sustaining feedback loop with your teen What should parents look for when finding a great therapist for their adolescent For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 03, 2025
Dr. Daniel Siegel Discussing the Science of Being Present
Today’s guest is Doctor Dan Siegel. Dan is a clinical professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA school of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Centre at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of Mindsight, teaches insight, empathy and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for the professional and lay audiences. We are discussing his new book: Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. Takeaways from the show The wheel of awareness: what it is and how it helps How awareness impacts your body and health How being present impacts the speed of the aging process Wellbeing and how it is enhanced by being present Relationships with your kids and how being present improves it Cultivating awareness Role modeling resilience How awareness feeds connection vs control Impacts of a lack of structure on the brain and future of children Authoritative parenting vs Authoritarian parenting Why we need the village and how that creates stress for contemporary parents Finding joy, tranquility and connection through expanding awareness Flipping our lid, learning from our body’s signals and how awareness can help Monitoring and modifying for self-regulation and to improve responses to stress The 3 O’s what they mean For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 30, 2025
Energetic encouragement for emotional teens and tweens
Parenting through the teen years is a wild ride—full of highs, lows, and everything in between. We get tangled up in our kids' struggles, feeling responsible for fixing things, worried about their future, and desperate to help. But what if the real work is about stepping back, seeing them fully, and trusting their journey? In this episode, we explore the power of encouragement—not as empty praise, but as a way to build resilience, connection, and confidence. If you're deep in the muck with your teen, this is for you. Take a breath and listen in. For full show notes and info about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/547-energetic-encouragement-for-emotional-teens-and-tweens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 27, 2025
Being empty nesters with Vibha Arora
My guest today is Vibha Arora, and we’re discussing being empty nesters. Vibha and I both share stories and feelings from our own kids launching and discuss how our relationship with our partners change. We get into how to rediscover yourself as someone besides Mom or Dad. Vibha and I finish our conversation, chatting about checking-in with our recently launched baby adults and the importance of tending to ourselves. Takeaways from the show The phrase “empty nest” versus “freedom nest” Our adult children leaving is our goal There’s a wide range of feelings and emotions that come when our children leave the house, and those are all okay Our relationship with our partners changing during this phase of life Relaunching yourself as an empty nester & identity shifts Letting go of control and trusting our newly-launched adults When we jump in and fix things, we rob them of experiences and learning We have to be okay with it when our kids don’t take our suggestions or advice Clarifying expectations and making a plan about checking-in with each other 5 Minute Journal Prompt: “I am…” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 23, 2025
Secret browsers hiding tiktok, middle school screen challenges
This week’s podcast is a must-listen for parents navigating the challenges of raising teens in the digital age! I dive into a relatable post from our Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens Facebook group about a mom’s discovery of her 12-year-old’s creative use of tech to bypass school filters. We discuss the struggles of setting screen boundaries, the importance of co-creating agreements, and how to handle these conversations with curiosity and connection rather than confrontation. If you’re dealing with tech-related parenting hurdles, this episode is packed with insights and actionable tips. Don’t miss it! For more show notes and information about our sponsors go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-545-secret-browsers-hiding-tiktok-middle-school-screen-challenges/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 20, 2025
Middle school friendships with Julietta Skoog
My guest today is Julietta Skoog, my co-founder and the Early Years Lead here at Sproutable. We’re talking about middle school friendships today. We discuss established elementary school friendships changing in middle school. Julietta shares a recent story about her own middle schooler and when it’s appropriate for parents to get involved in friendship drama. We talk about the difference between belonging & fitting in, coaching your kid(s) through discomfort, and how important it is to acknowledge and validate how hard our middle schoolers are working. We end by getting into how we can encourage new friendships & nurture good friendships. Takeaways from the show Middle school is messy! Your sweet, innocent child being exposed to new things Middle school is a great, lower-stakes time to make mistakes Reflecting on your own middle school experiences & memories to find compassion for your adolescent Kids need at least one or two good friends they can count on Coaching our kids through discomfort When is the time for parents to get involved in middle school drama? Listen, acknowledge, validate, believe, and encourage your middle schooler Middle schoolers need to practice decision making before high school Encouraging new friendships and nurturing good friendships For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 16, 2025
Revisiting the art of surrender while parenting teens
This show is a replay, and I think you will love it! I've been reflecting on surrender in parenting and life. Inspired by my morning routines, coaching, and my daughter's journey to thriving independence, I've learned that surrender isn't defeat but trust—letting go of control and embracing what is. Parenting my teens, navigating challenges like mental health struggles and my husband's cancer, taught me to release attachments to outcomes, timelines, and "why" questions. Instead, I focus on being present, curious, and supportive. I've found peace in trusting my kids' paths, holding space for them to grow authentically. This surrender brings freedom and deeper connection in parenting and beyond. Find more show notes and information about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-380-art-surrender-parenting-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 13, 2025
Building a parent community with Melissa Esposito
My guest today is Melissa Esposito, and we’re talking about the power of nature & the power of building a parent community. We discuss expanding the relationships that our adolescents have and the benefits of other adults in your children’s lives. Melissa shares about how and where to find a parent and family community so our youth have other adults in their life to support them. We talk about when you just don’t understand your kid. We wrap up this episode with some suggestions for places & opportunities to volunteer & connect with youth. Melissa Esposito is cofounder and lead mentor of Feather and Frond forest school, an outdoor wilderness school in Bellingham, WA. Takeaways: BUILD a village for your kid and BE the village for other kids in your community What is wilderness school? The overlap between toddler & adolescent years The auntie revolution We’re not meant to parent alone There’s capacity for community everywhere Showing up for kids that aren’t yours There are many opportunities and places are available to volunteer & connect with children in your community We’ve got to be in it for all of us and not just ourselves The connection between nature & community For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 09, 2025
Communicating beyond "I don't know" with our teens
This week's solo show addresses a parent’s question about engaging a teen who resists meaningful conversations. The parent felt stuck, balancing curiosity and respect with their teen’s avoidance, and wondered how to foster responsibility without resorting to punitive measures. I emphasized the importance of understanding what’s holding teens back, shifting from “won’t” to “can’t,” and focusing on respectful, patient communication. Teens often need space to process emotions and build trust. I encouraged reframing expectations, staying kind and firm, and prioritizing long-term connection. Parenting teens is messy but rewarding, and the key lies in intentionality, patience, and self-awareness. You’re not alone in this journey! Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-542-communicating-beyond-i-dont-know-with-our-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 07, 2025
New Years Rituals with Karen Collins
My guest today is Karen Collins, and we’re talking about creating rituals, especially at the new year. We discuss what rituals are and how to use the near year’s energy as a reset. Karen shares some practices from a recent retreat, including an embodiment exercise, then shares her own new year’s ritual. We talk about setting intention for the year with anchoring words and wrap up on sustaining the work of ritual in chaotic, day-to-day life. Takeaways from the show What are rituals? What’s the difference between a ritual versus something you just do sometimes? Using the new year as a reset The human experience versus the spiritual experience Setting intention with anchor words Falling off is part of the practice Rejuvenation days Keeping your non-negotiables simple Make 2025 a year of self compassion For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 02, 2025
Building trust without shame when our teens lie
Happy New Year! I’m embracing the energy of being a deliberate creator, focusing on growth and learning. A listener shared a challenge about their 13-year-old son lying about screen time. While the lie was minor, the parents were troubled by how easily it was told. I encouraged them to approach this with curiosity and love, not punishment. Share disappointment without shaming, revisit agreements, and emphasize that mistakes are opportunities to learn. Trust and honesty grow through connection and communication, not fear or control. Parenting is messy, but every challenge is a chance to grow together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 30, 2024
Talking about screens (again) with Julietta Skoog
My guest today is our early childhood lead, Julietta Skoog, and we’re wrapping up the year talking about screentime & tech. Julietta shares the screen agreements she’s created with her children. We discuss how to help our teens develop a sense of self-awareness around their screen use & why they need opportunities to practice. We talk about how to know when screentime is getting problematic & building trust with your adolescent around screen usage. See more show notes, resources and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/539-talking-about-screens-again-with-julietta-skoog/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, December 26, 2024
Decoding the 'know-it-all' teen - connection, compassion, curiosity
This week I dig into a parent's struggle with their 16-year-old son's "know-it-all" behavior, which disrupts communication and creates tension. I encourage the parent to reframe their challenge, offer tools and strategies for generating more compassion, curiosity, and emotional honesty and remind them that building connection, using humor, and fostering mutual respect can improve the relationship while navigating this challenging developmental phase. Listen in and let me know what you think! Find more show notes and more about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/ eps-538-decoding-the-know-it-all-teen-connection-compassion-curiosity/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 23, 2024
Unlocking youth mental health with Lori Baudino
My guest today is Dr. Lori Baudino and we’re talking about youth mental health. We chat about teaming up with your child - it’s you & your teen against a challenge, not each other. Dr. Baudino shares ways to find predictability in the bumpy teen years and her “Person, Place, Plan” strategy. We talk about toddler/teen parallels and share some ways to connect with your adolescent. Takeaways from the show The interconnectedness of the mind, body, and spirit Observing how your adolescent moves through the world and knowing their coping mechanisms & sensory profile DANCE = differentiate, attach, narrate, consciousness, empathic engagement Thoughtfully bringing lightness to your relationship “Person, Place, & Plan” strategy Your teen wants to be in relationship with you When coping skills are (or seem) destructive Teen years are messy for all families - it’s the terrain Introducing some gray to an adolescent stuck in a black & white mindset Dr. Baudino’s new book: Moving Moments in Childhood For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, December 19, 2024
Self care tips for the season you're in
In this solo episode, I talk about how this season, whether it’s the holidays, parenting, or midlife, comes with challenges. It’s crucial to prioritize self-care: schedule health check-ups, move your body, and eat nourishing food. Reflect on habits—are they helping or harming? Tune into your body, notice sensations, and create grounding rituals. Embrace community, therapy, or coaching for support. Life ebbs and flows, but intentional care allows you to navigate challenges better. Your well-being matters—for you and those you love. Show up fully; you’re worth it. Find full show notes and information about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-536-self-care-tips-for-the-season-youre-in/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 16, 2024
Holiday Presence and Connection with Dr. Shefali and Julietta Skoog
My guests today are Julietta Skoog and Dr. Shefali, and we’re talking about presence and connection during the holiday season. My focus is on identifying the feelings & emotions that come up during the holidays, and I share several breathing & grounding exercises. Julietta shares how she stays connected to & involves her children during the holidays, modeling life skills, & tips around play and pre-teaching. Dr. Shefali speaks on why she doesn’t add the traditional “holiday season” to her plate and why to choose simplicity & minimalism. Takeaways from the show Presence and connection with ourselves, our kids, and other relationships this holiday season Identifying the feelings, emotions, & physical sensations that come up for you during the holidays Identifying the qualities you want during the holidays E (events & experiences) + R (responses & reactions) = O (affect the outcome) Reframing the intensity of the season as opportunities to model & connect - “I have to” versus “we get to” 3 P’s of the holiday season = play, practice, & pre-teaching Leaning on routines during the holidays The good & bad of holiday traditions and creating new traditions “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelou Holidays are optional; you have choices around what you do “It’s about the moment, not about the holiday” Choosing simplicity, calmness, & mindfulness over traditions & extras For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, December 13, 2024
Creating special time with our teenagers
In this episode, I address a common frustration among parents: feeling disconnected from teens who seem unwilling to engage. I guide listeners to reframe their approach, shifting from “Why won’t my teen connect?” to “What’s blocking our connection?” By owning our actions, reflecting on how we show up, and dismantling barriers, we open new possibilities for nurturing relationships. I suggest tools like vulnerability, authentic apologies, and building proximity to our teens’ lives. Letting go of hurt and resentment, while embracing personal growth, fosters patience and trust. Connection takes time, but showing up consistently with curiosity and compassion makes a difference. For more show notes and to get more info about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-534-creating-special-time-with-our-teenagers/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 09, 2024
Eps 533: Restoring our girls with Cathy Cassani Adams
My guest today is Cathy Adams. We’re talking about engaging in those hard, honest conversations with our teen girls. Cathy and I dig into the messiness of the teen years. We discuss the importance of focusing on resiliency, not happiness, what is happening to Gen Z girls today, and why we need to appreciate the girls we have. Guest Description Cathy Cassani Adams, LCSW, co-hosts the long-running Zen Parenting Radio podcast and founded the Zen Parenting Conference in Chicago. She is the author of Zen Parenting and Living What You Want Your Kids to Learn (both Nautilus Award and International Book Award winners) and her upcoming 2025 release, Restoring Our Girls. Cathy is a clinical social worker, certified parent coach, former elementary school educator, and yoga teacher. She was a blogger for The Huffington Post and a former columnist for Chicago Parent Magazine. She previously worked as a Child and Family Therapist and Clinical Educator at Lurie Children’s Hospital of Chicago and now teaches in the Sociology and Criminology Department at Dominican University. She lives outside Chicago with her husband, Todd, and their three daughters. Takeaways from the show Cathy’s new book “Restoring Our Girls” Adolescent girls’ mental health Expectations & contradictions young women face The messiness of the teen years doesn’t make them bad years Your teenage experience is NOT the experience that teens today are having Engaging in conversations instead of lecturing The importance of teaching critical thinking Why we need adolescent girls to take risks The meaning and joy of mother & daughter relationships Adolescents developing their unique inner dialogue For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, December 05, 2024
Moving through existential crisis and adolescence
On this week’s pod, I reflected on the inspiring work of Dr. Baxley and Dani Ferrigno. Their mission aligns with Sproutable’s core values: fostering dignity, respect, and compassion while equipping parents with tools grounded in Positive Discipline. I also addressed a parent’s concern about their discouraged teen grappling with school and existential doubts about capitalism. Teens often feel overwhelmed by systemic flaws, but this can be an opportunity to connect and explore solutions together. I encouraged parents to validate their kids’ feelings, stay curious, and model engagement with societal challenges while fostering empowerment. Ultimately, parenting is messy, and there are no perfect answers. But by staying compassionate, curious, and open, we can guide our kids through challenges and learn from their fresh perspectives. You’ve got this! Let’s keep showing up for our teens and ourselves. Find all the show notes and info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-532-moving-through-existential-crisis-and-adolescence/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 02, 2024
Action and advocacy for our youth with Traci Baxley and Dani Ferrigno
My guests today are Dr. Traci Baxley and Dani Ferrigno. We’re talking about Blue Mom+ Group, their response to the recent elections. Dr. Baxley and Dani give suggestions about small, tangible actions people can take. We discuss talking to our teenagers about the election results, leaning into local & personal causes, and staying hopeful. For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, November 28, 2024
Empowering our teenagers with friendship drama
In this solo episode, I dive into the challenges of supporting teens as they navigate friendships, especially when setting boundaries with friends who aren’t treating them well. A parent shared their struggle with wanting to help but being perceived as distrusting, sparking today’s discussion. I explore reframing the question to focus on how parents can show up supportively and empower their teens without overstepping. Key strategies include active listening, emotional honesty, affirming strengths, and trusting teens to learn through their experiences. It’s about fostering connection and faith in their growth while managing our own discomfort with their struggles. You’ve got this! For more detailed show notes and info about our sponsors go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/ eps-530-empowering-our-teenagers-with-friendship-drama/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 25, 2024
Teen sexual health with Dena Moes
My guest today is Dena Moes and we’re talking about our teen’s sexual and reproductive health. We discuss methods & access to birth control and parental consent around reproductive health decisions. Both Dena and I share about the current political climate impacting access to health services, how to react when your teenage daughter is pregnant, and what the most crucial things to talk to your adolescents about sex are. Takeaways from the show Dena’s new book, for teen’s , “It’s Your Body: The Young Woman’s Guide to Empowered Sexual Health” Current stats for teen sexual health & birth rates Condom & birth control use Explicit text messages Reducing barriers for care Reproductive rights & access to abortion vary substantially from state to state - consider what services your teen daughter may need in the next few years Empowering our sons that are in heterosexual relationships to be supportive partners Outdated beliefs & anxiety around birth control Teens are the most fertile they’ll be in their entire lives “Party ready” birth control Getting your teen in to speak with a doc about birth control options before January 2025 and letting your teen speak independently to their doctor - “Get out of the room!” Pulling in the extended family & village during the teen years Finding out your daughter is pregnant “It’s hard to hear no; it’s harder to say no.” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, November 21, 2024
Boundaries and Language for Building Consideration in our Teenagers
This week's solo show is about empowering your parenting journey by leaning into clarity, communication, and self-awareness. We get to shift focus from controlling teen behavior to creating a supportive environment with clear boundaries. Remember, teens learn through experience, not manipulation. Be explicit about expectations while fostering independence through responsibility (like budgeting). Manage emotional triggers by recognizing personal stories and responding with curiosity and respect. Create connections by acknowledging their growth and practicing calm communication. When frustration arises, pause and ask: What do I want to create? Your actions inspire change, shaping a positive dynamic. Parenting isn’t perfect, but intentionality builds trust, resilience, and lifelong connections. You’ve got this! For more show notes and more about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-528-boundaries-and-language-for-building-consideration-in-our-teenagers/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 18, 2024
Helping teenagers make better decisions with Dain Heer
My guest today is Dain Heer and we’re talking about helping teenagers make better decisions through judgment, communication, & choices. We discuss how to react when we know our teenagers are making decisions that (we believe) aren’t in their best interest. Dain shares tools & strategies for communicating with others, including our youth, when they have different points of view. We talk about the difference between teaching right and wrong versus the power of choices. We get into the feeling of urgency & reactivity that comes with raising our kids. Takeaways from the show Access Consciousness The importance of feeling seen What gets in the way of being seen without judgment? Finding compassion instead of dismissing teens “Just because it’s messy doesn’t mean it’s wrong” “Your choice creates” language Teens haven’t developed their filters Awareness comes from experiences The urgency & reactivity that comes from raising adolescents For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Thu, November 14, 2024
Teenagers, driving and safety
This was such a fun episode to create! A parent in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens opened up about their concerns for their 15-year-old daughter, who’s beginning to ride with friends who are new drivers. As her peers gain driving experience, this parent is feeling understandably anxious about safety and how to guide their teen through this phase. I acknowledged these valid concerns and suggested a reframing approach, focusing on building trust in teens’ growth through their experiences. While emphasizing the importance of safety, I encouraged open, ongoing conversations about responsible driving to help build awareness and accountability. I also recommended that parents engage their teens with questions about friends’ driving behaviors and reinforce family rules constructively. To help manage parental anxiety, I shared practical tools like deep breathing, recognizing fears, and reframing thoughts to foster trust in the learning process. Allowing teens to make mistakes within safe boundaries, I explained, helps build their decision-making skills and strengthens the parent-teen relationship. Watching teens gain independence is challenging, but it’s a crucial step in their development. Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-527-Managing-our-fears-about-teenagers-and-driving/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 11, 2024
School avoidance and school refusal with Jenell Kheriaty
My guest today is Jenell Kheriaty, and we’re talking about school avoidance & school refusal. We discuss what school refusal is and if there’s certain “types” of kids who are predisposed to school avoidance or school refusal. Both Jenell and I share how we support families who are struggling with their teens not going to school, some specific questions you can ask your teen about school, and how and why parents need to stay curious about their teen’s school experience., We talk about how to handle our own feelings when changes are not happening as fast as we want. We get into figuring out if your child’s school is a good fit, finding alternative options to your neighborhood high school, and checking our own assumptions about our teen’s journey in school. Takeaways from the show School refusal is typically not a case of defiance, it’s an act of protection All kids, even successful high-achievers, can struggle with school avoidance School refusal is a symptom of something else going on “Be curious, not judgmental” When our timeline doesn’t line up with their timeline When your teen has a different temperament and stress tolerance than you do Alternative schooling options Trusting the process, trusting the journey Maintaining relationship during the bumpy times For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, November 07, 2024
Support for parents with unmotivated teens
In today’s episode, I respond to a parent in the Facebook community who is seeking support for an “unmotivated” 14-year-old, wanting a coach for help with goals, motivation, executive functioning, and self-care, ideally within budget and virtual. I explore the difference between being “unmotivated” and “uninspired,” suggesting that teens may seem unmotivated due to broader issues like discouragement or lack of inspiration. Instead of trying to “fix” teens, I encourage listeners to reframe the situation by asking, “What is getting in my child’s way?” I emphasize curiosity, encouragement, and a connection-based approach, allowing teens to express their needs and experiences without judgment. I also remind parents to avoid labeling, stay present, and focus on personal growth, trusting that their child will ultimately find their way. Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-525-support-for-parents-with-unmotivated-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 04, 2024
Insights on being a young adult with Rowan O’Roarty
I am really excited about my guest today, and I have a feeling you will be, too! My amazing daughter, Rowan, is back to give us an update on her life. She talk about everything from teen mental health, navigating ADHD as a teen and young adult, the college journey, and more! I ask Rowan what she’s learned in her first few years of adulthood while juggling working, living on her own, and going to school. We talk about motivation versus discipline, lessons learned through experience, changing perspectives, and boundaries. Rowan wraps us up by sharing what she wishes Gen X knows about the young adults of today. Takeaways from the show Describing and revisiting tough times & emotions Returning to (and loving) college Changing your mindset to achieve your goal Learning how to be a college student Navigating ADHD diagnosis & medications The pressure of early adulthood Takeaways from the first few years of being on your own Motivation versus discipline Lessons are learned through experience How we respond to our kids when they are having a hard time influences the relationships we have with them later Perspectives changing as you age and get out of the thick of it Finding the humor, joy, and not taking life too seriously For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 31, 2024
Exploring the layers of our teens experience and inviting them into their higher selves
Inspired by my conversation with Annie Donaldson this week, I explore the layered experience of being a teen and offer some ideas around how to invite them to consider their higher selves. Our teens are deep and thoughtful. Listen in for tips and strategies around communication and connection. See all show notes and information about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-523-exploring-the-layers-of-our-teens-experience-and-inviting-them-into-their-higher-selves Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 28, 2024
Encouraging spirituality to support mental health for teens with Annie Donaldson
This episode is an interview with Annie Donaldson, coach for teens. We spend our time talking about how spirituality and considering a higher power and bigger picture can be helpful to our teens as they move through adolescence and navigate the beginning of realizing that change in life is the only constant. This conversation isn't about religion, but it is about deeply considering, sharing and normalizing conversations about our spiritual selves. Check it out and let me know what you think! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 24, 2024
Teenagers and lying
Getting into the nitty-gritty of how to navigate the lies we may be hearing from our kids. Why is it so triggering? Why do they do it? What is the most useful way to respond? And how can we keep in mind that mistakes (like lying) are opportunities to learn and grow? Listen in and we can dive into all of these questions together! Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-521-Teenagers-and-lying/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 21, 2024
ADHD in the adolescent years with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
My guest today is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart. Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart & Casey dig into ADHD in the adolescent years. Parents of teens with ADHD may see dysregulation looking like compulsiveness, messiness, impulsivity, & a lack of motivation. Parents may think that their kids are lazy or lacking willpower, when in reality, their executive functioning skills are truly off balance. Dr. Lockhart & Casey talk about discussing long-term goals with teens, moving backwards from there, baby steps, as well as figuring out what feels hard so we can best support them. They discuss how to support adolescents with ADHD and how that may differ from what neurotypical teen brains need. Dr. Lockhart explains what rejection sensitive dysphoria is & how to talk to teens about their ADHD. Casey asks how to get buy-in from a teen to work with an ADHD coach or other outside support or services. They finish by talking about what teens with ADHD need most. Takeaways from the show Keeping your focus on teaching life skills, not compliance What does ADHD look like in an adolescent? Misconceptions about teens with ADHD Asking “what’s hard about it?” Scaffolding & strategies like body doubling and creating a false sense of urgency Do teens with ADHD need different things to support brain development than a neurotypical adolescent? Rejection sensitive dysphoria Talking to teens about their ADHD Getting your teen to utilize an ADHD coach or other outside support What do teens with ADHD need most? For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 17, 2024
Disrespect and relationship with our teenagers
I see and field a lot of questions from parents about disrespect and kids who seem to have no desire to connect or be with the family. We talk so much about relationship here, but what happens when there seems to be no desire for a relationship on the side of the kids? This is where we head this week on the show… Big shout out to a member of the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group member who gave permission to me to tease apart a post she shared there here on the podcast! For full show notes and info about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-520-disrespect-and-relationship-with-our-teenagers/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 14, 2024
Setting boundaries around teen substance use with Brenda Zane
Brenda Zane is back this week! She was on the podcast before (spring 2023) talking about how to be with teen substance abuse . We had SUCH an amazing response to that conversation that Brenda and I thought it would be helpful to have her back to talk about “what do you do” for specific scenarios around our teens and substances that leave us feeling in the dark. Today we discuss how to set healthy boundaries around teen substance abuse while still maintaining a connected relationship with our teens. Takeaways from the show Creating conditions for positive change in children, and the plant analogy. Why young people turn to substance use, including a desire to cope with emotional pain and shame. Setting boundaries around drug use The challenge of enforcing consequences The importance of addition over subtraction in facilitating change Have open and curious conversations with their teenagers about substance use, rather than resorting to shame or judgment The importance of building a positive relationship with children, focusing on mutual respect and influence rather than control or manipulation The "information sandwich" technique to discuss sensitive topics with teenagers How humor and modeling positive behavior are useful tools Focusing on boundaries and natural consequences, rather than reactive measures like drug testing and phone confiscation For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 10, 2024
Finding flow in the current of parenting teens
This week's solo show teases apart the difference between being in resistance and being in flow when it comes to the ride we are on while parenting teenagers. The middle school and high school years are a current that is ever changing, and we have choices in how we lean into the ebb and flow. This week I share a post from a parent in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group that resonated deeply with me, and bring my own learning from a meditation practice I was invited into. For more show notes and news about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-519-finding-flow-in-the-current-of-parenting-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 07, 2024
Motivational Interviewing with Dr. Emily Kline
My guest today is Dr. Emily Kline. Dr. Kline shares all kinds of useful information this week around why and how we can communicate with our adolescents with the best results. This episode is all about motivational interviewing. We touch on relinquishing control and asking curiosity questions, then we dig in deep into what motivational interviewing is and why it’s so helpful. I ask Dr. Kline what motivational interviewing might look like when a teenager is using marijuana, and we agree that the best tool we have to influence our adolescents is relationship. Dr. Kline shares tips on how to start tricky conversations and what you can learn in the first 10 seconds. She tells me what limits, consequences, boundaries, etc. look like to her, what we do when teens disregard those limits, and listening for motivation to change. Takeaways from the show Relinquishing control Motivational interviewing Teens trying marijuana The best tool for influence is relationship Staying respectful & curious How to deliver advice & why we listen first Staying neutral & consistent around hard conversations Expectations & limits without punishments Avoiding socially isolating consequences Listening for motivation for change For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 03, 2024
Living in the tension of our teen's efforts during college application season
Inspired by Monday's interview with college admission coach, Janae Young, this week's solo show is all about how to let go of control and allow our teens to move through their own process. This is HARD! I get into WHY it's so hard and WHY it's so important to let this process be theirs. Not all kids are headed straight for college, and the ones who want to may not be showing up to the work in a way that aligns with what they say they want... It can be crazy-making!! Listen in and let me know what you think. For more show notes and information about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-518-living-in-the-tension-of-our-teens-efforts-during-college-application-season/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 30, 2024
Best practices in the college application process with Janae Young
My guest this week is Janae Young, and I’m so excited that she’s here to share her wisdom as a college admissions coach with us. Janae shares why she’s so passionate about college admissions, and we talk about what the admissions process looks like now, including what the common application system is. Janae shares what’s challenging about college application essays for adolescents, tips to help, and her two archetype essay writers. I ask Janae what best practices are for parents who are helping their kids through the college application process, and she shares where we can support and when we need to back off. We hit on missed deadlines & natural consequences and how to best list awards & activities. I ask Janae what kids can be doing in 9th, 10th, and 11th grade to help prepare for college applications, and we briefly touch on ACTs and SATs. Takeaways from the show What’s the college application process look like now? Common application system College application essays “Perfectionist Polly” and “Rushed Ryan” How can parents best support their teen during this process? Week-by-Week college application calendar College applications are their job, not yours Missed deadlines & learning through mistakes What teens can do in 9th, 10th, and 11th grades to help the college admissions process Best time to take SATs For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 26, 2024
When our teens are vaping nicotine
Today I am digging into a challenge that is plaguing way too many parents of teens - vaping nicotine. It is something I worked through with my kids, and something that shows up for so many of the parents I work with. One parent came forward asking for resources in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens group - their daughter had recently come clean about their use and needed help. Listen in and let me know what you think! Find all the show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-517-when-our-teens-are-vaping-nicotine/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 23, 2024
Motivating teens with Dr. Melanie McNally
My returning guest today is Dr. Melanie McNally the author of “Helping Your Unmotivated Teen: A Parent’s Guide to Unlock Your Child’s Potential”. Dr. McNally explains what inspired her to write her new book and a bit about what parents misunderstand about teens, motivation, and laziness. I ask Dr. McNally to tell us more about the difference between external and internal motivation and how we know when we can use external motivators while growing their internal drive. We tease apart the difference between autonomy and independence, and she helps clarify some differences between teens who are feeling unmotivated, depressed, or dealing with screen addiction. This is such a juicy one - we also get into why and how our teens can grow grit, becoming versus being, and for tips on how to start conversations around motivation. We end on tips for finding your own motivation & purpose. Takeaways from the show Check out Dr. McNally’s new book - “Helping Your Unmotivated Teen: A Parent’s Guide to Unlock Your Child’s Potential” Are teenagers really just lazy? Internal versus external motivation High achieving parents with “average” kids Autonomy versus independence Collaborating with our adolescent on expectations Low motivation versus depression versus screen addiction Handing energetic responsibility over to our teens & growing grit Becoming rather than being For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 19, 2024
Revisiting to the dance of flexibility while parenting adolescents
Join me this week revisiting this solo episode as we play with the concept of flexibility while parenting through the teen years. Where are you finding flexibility? How might flexibility serve your relationship with your teen? What is getting in the way of flexibility? Find full show notes and news about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-452-dance-flexibility-while-parenting-adolescents/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sun, September 15, 2024
Back to middle school with Julietta Skoog
I am SO excited about today’s interview. You’ll recognize my guest today - Julietta Skoog my co-founder and the Early Years Lead here at Sproutable! She’s here today to talk about back-to-school season with middle schoolers. Julietta and I cover so much this week - balancing caring for our kids & our aging parents, the jarring differences between elementary & middle school, and watching their decision-making and mistakes. We talk about why kids come home so upset & frustrated from school and how to create routines & systems that work for your family. We really dig into the difference between scaffolding and witnessing, how to support middle schoolers with their homework, the friend drama (especially when it’s new friends/families that you don’t know), and how screens & texting affect those friendships. Takeways from the show “Sandwich season” - taking care of your young children & aging parents at the same time What do summers look like when your kids aren’t little anymore? Navigating phones & screens with middle schoolers Fears & concerns around safety - “what if?” energy The after-school release & attitude “September is a month of grace” - it won’t always be back-to-school season! Creating systems & routines that work for your family Friend drama in Middle School (high highs & low lows) Self-reflection as a growing skill For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 11, 2024
A messy conversation about screens, limits and life skill development
Screens!! I know - will we ever get to a place of NOT needing to talk about screens?? Today's episode is a messy exploration of the subtle ways kids are pulled into their relationship with screens, and the importance of developing life skills WHILE providing guardrails for keeping our kids safe. Plus, an invitation to take an honest look at how OUR use is adding to the messaging our kids are getting... Did I mention this is messy? It is. Listen in and let me know what you think. See all show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-514-a-messy-conversation-about-screens-limits-and-life-skill-development/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 09, 2024
Growing our teen’s awareness around sexism with Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein
My guest today is Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein and we’re talking about sexism and our daughters. Dr. Finkelstein kicks us off by sharing how a pink hockey stick impacted her childhood and inspired her to speak about sexism & gender bias. I ask what intergenerational transmission of sexism is, and Dr. Finkelstein helps me deconstruct an incident I had with Ronan about how she was dressing in 8th grade. We ponder on how we can raise strong women in a patriarchal society that can be violent towards women without victimizing our girls or instilling fear and how to navigate bodily autonomy in a world where their bodies sometimes are not safe and don’t feel like their own. It’s you and your daughter against the unfairness of the patriarchy & the culture, not each other! I ask Dr. Finkelstein what messaging young girls are receiving from media & pop culture right now, how we can teach & encourage young women to stand up for themselves & feel empowered without putting themselves in danger, and how we can have meaningful conversations with them men & boys in our life about sexism & patriarchy. Takeaways from the show The intergenerational transmission of sexism The “battle” between moms & daughters about clothing How do we raise strong women in a patriarchal society that can be violent towards women without victimizing our girls? People get harassed (and worse) regardless of what they wear Fostering a healthy sense of entitlement in young women What messages are girls and young women receiving from pop culture and media right now? Raising boys who are sensitive to sexism and male privilege For more show notes, including transcripts, please visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 05, 2024
Trusting our teen's development
I am back with a brand new solo show! I loved my convo with Dr. Tina Bryson (Eps 511) and was inspired to go deeper into trusting our teen’s development. This show goes into what is happening in the teen brain and how to work WITH our kids to promote relationship and autonomy over time. Enjoy! Find full show notes and information about our sponsors at: www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-512-trusting-our-teens-development Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 02, 2024
Avoiding fear-based parenting with Dr. Tina Bryson
Dr. Tina Bryson is BACK today! I love her work, and I’m so excited she’s here to talk about launching our teens, which is incredibly timely after I dropped my youngest child off at college yesterday! Dr. Bryson shares her wisdom on avoiding fear-based parenting & reminds us that development & maturation happens no matter what - maybe we don’t need to worry quite so much. She explains what the “right” amount of support is and why kids need to make mistakes & take risks to become wiser and more responsible. Dr. Bryson shares her own personal stories about launching two of her teens to college and how & why they were so different. Dr. Bryson wraps us up by giving dos & don'ts for when your adolescent is in distress. We want to problem solve, criticize, or minimize, but instead, we can respond in a way that invites them to keep sharing things with us: by offering empathy & letting them solve their own problem. Takeaways from the show How do you know when & what you need to really worry about regarding your child(ren)? When are you wasting energy? Avoiding fear-based parenting Kids have to make mistakes & take risks in service of becoming wiser and more responsible “The way our children build resilience is through adversity with the right amount of support from us” Not burdening our teens with our feelings The excitement & hopes we have for our adolescents and the grief & anxiety we have when they leave How to respond (and how not to respond) when your adolescent reaches out to you in distress We’re not launching full formed adults - we’re launching baby adults who will keep learning & developing For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, August 29, 2024
Summer throwback - Eps 460: Get past resistance and focus on relationship with your teen
This show was a no-brainer to reshare with you all. When I recorded it, I was so fired up, and had our boys on the brain. So many of my clients and people in the community struggle with their boys. Not only struggling with their boys, but struggling to soften to the idea that the hard time the family is moving through is really a call for deeper relationship. Listen in to hear more – and don’t worry, no matter the gender your child identifies as, you will still find value in this conversation. For more info on our sponsors and show notes, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-460-get-past-your-resistance-and-focus-on-relationship-with-your-teen/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 26, 2024
Somatic tools for our nervous system with Katie Connolly
Katie Connolly, a Somatic Parenting Coach, teaches me a whole lot about our nervous system and somatic tools when she drops by this week. Katie explains how our nervous system and birthing experiences tie-in to our personal growth, who highly-sensitive people are & indicators, and why we’re able to better navigate experiences and stay connected in our bodies when we nourish our nervous system. We hit on so much this week: breathing exercises, meditation, scheduling-in time for ourselves, overstimulation, trauma, adoption, boundaries, co-regulation, and more. Katie ends by sharing specific tools and breathing patterns to try out at home. Takeaways from the show Understanding & supporting our nervous system and how that fits in with self-growth Traumatic birthing experiences Sympathetic nervous system versus parasympathetic nervous system Each parent-child relationship is completely unique Highly-sensitive people & indicators Everyone has trauma in their lineage Different breathing exercises & patterns Short meditations Nourishing & making time for yourself realistically Co-regulation & the family nervous system For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, August 22, 2024
Summer throwback - Navigating challenges while also having faith in our teens
This summer throwback revisits how parenting teens keeps coming back to owning our own sh@t. This is the juicy spot. This is where the real transformational space of parenting exists. This is where we get to nurture AN ENVIRONMENT that is safe for our kids to step into. This is where we can start to dismantle the walls that have been built over time and make room for connection. Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-434-navigating-challenges-while-having-faith-in-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 19, 2024
Eps 509: How to discuss fake news with teens with Alex Edmans
My guest today is Alex Edmans, and we’re hitting a super important topic this week: how to discuss fake news and social media with our teens. Alex starts by explaining the difference between Level 1 and Level 2 of Fake News, and I ask what to do (and why) our teens bring up conspiracy theories. I ask Alex how we can nurture adolescents to fine tune their questioning, look for expertise, and teach them to look for peoples’ incentives while they’re consuming social media without making them feel defensive. Later we talk about sextortion. How can we keep our teens from falling for scams, when their teenage brains are certain they’d never fall for one? Alex ends on a happy, hopeful note and shares an easy strategy to challenge your own confirmation biases. Takeaways from the show Level 1 fake news (provably false statements) versus Level 2 fake news (factually correct but misleading) What to say when our teens bring up conspiracy theories Why do people share fake news? Teaching teens to be discerning & leverage their own knowledge Asking yourself: What is the incentive this person has to post this? Are they an expert? Sextortion - anyone can be scammed online Teens absolutely must believe they can come to you in an “oh shit” moment How discerning are you on your social media? For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, August 15, 2024
Summer throwback - When it feels like your teen is holding you hostage
A powerful relisten!!! You have a great relationship with your teen and they are STILL getting into ALL the mischief? You aren't alone. In this episode, I tease this apart and remind you what the most important thing to consider is. See all the show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-424-when-it-feels-like-your-teen-is-holding-you-hostage/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 12, 2024
Raising neurodivergent teens with Dr. Matt Zakreski
My guest today is Dr. Matt Zakreski, an expert on neurodivergency with an eclectic approach. Dr. Matt tells me about growing up as a twice-exceptional kid himself and what he’s seeing with the teens he works with now. I ask Dr. Matt what parents can do about the emotional intensity that comes with raising teens, especially neurodivergent teens. He reminds us that “emotions can’t be wrong,” and you know I loved it when Dr. Matt reminds us to get curious about our teen’s feelings. Dr. Matt brings up perfectionism and why we might see more rigidity & anxiety spike during stressful times. We dig into trapdoor perfectionism, how we can invite kids to accept coaching, help, & practice when they’re resistant, and handing over energetic responsibility. Takeaways from the show The Performance Cliff Asynchronous development & high emotional intensity Raising neurodivergent kids with neurotypical siblings Neurodivergent behavior versus typical teen behavior “Emotions can’t be wrong” You don’t have to understand to show up well 3 directions of perfectionism Should = could + shame Trapdoor perfectionism Validating our teens gives them permission to show up authentically as themselves Kids do as well as they can with the tools they have in that moment For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, August 08, 2024
Summer throwback - Eps 386: Limiting beliefs and our two selves
Today's summer throwback is another intimate exploration of what it means to be human WHILE raising teenagers. We are deep diving (yet again) into our own stuff. This week focusing on the limiting beliefs we may be holding that keeps our kids small, and the war between our two selves. Join me for some personal growth and discovery! Find all the shownotes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-386-limiting-beliefs-our-two-selves/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 05, 2024
Understanding “failure to launch” with Dr. Bianca Busch
My guest today is Dr. Bianca Busch, and we’re getting into the “failure to launch” or the stalling we see from some young adults. Dr. Busch shares what drew her to working with college students, and we talk about getting “cut off” from your child’s medical, mental health, and grade information once they turn 18. Dr. Busch shares the benefits of psychiatrists working with adolescents and parents in conjunction. I ask Dr. Busch what she sees when young adults and their parents feel stuck - anxiety, depression, mismatched expectations - there’s a lot playing in here, and it’s messy. Dr. Busch shares some tools, boundaries, & motivators, and I play with the idea of mismatched timelines. I ask what parents can do when they feel scared and what we can do when we recognize that our behaviors and beliefs are the problem and for signs that our adolescent might need more substantial help & support. We end on a happy note - celebrating our hard work in parenting, even when it doesn’t look exactly how we expected it to turn out. Takeaways from the show Getting cut off from medical & mental health information once your child turns 18 The acceleration & benefits of when psychiatrists are able to work with adolescents and their parents Is “failure to launch” a fair expression? Why are young adults stalled out? Mismatched expectations & goals between young adults & parents There’s no young adults who don’t want to launch; we have to discover what’s in their way When you know your child needs support, but they’re resistant The difference between “get your shit together” and a child whose safety is at risk Motivational interviewing & coming from a place of compassion Digging in and challenging our own beliefs and being open-minded to hearing our adolescents goals, ideas, & plans Signs your young adult might need additional outside support Give yourself grace! Celebrate the parenting work you have done! For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, August 01, 2024
Summer throwback - Finding the courage to parent our teens differently
This throwback solo show takes a closer look at how parenting with Positive Discipline does NOT equal avoiding the hard stuff, instead, it is about leaning into relationship WHEN the hard stuff shows up. Being brave is something we are invited into over and over again as we parent through the seasons of adolescence. Listen in as I explore what that looks like internally, as well as externally. Find more show notes and info about sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-361-finding-courage-parent-teens-differently/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 29, 2024
Navigating grief that can show up during the teen years with Sascha Demerjian
It’s a tough topic this week - parental grief. Sascha Demerjian is here from The Grief House and beautifully intertwines personal stories with information. We don’t only grieve for people that we’ve lost. Sascha explains that we also grieve for expectations, narratives, & ideas - sometimes beliefs we didn’t even realize we were holding. We talk about how meaningful it is to have somewhere safe for the messiness of grieving and how we can resist wanting to jump in and fix things when others are hurting. It comes back to trusting the process. Remember that when our adolescents “launch,” they aren’t done growing & learning - they keep growing all through adulthood, just like we do. Grief doesn’t end, but bringing it to light & sharing with a community makes a big difference. Takeaways from the show We get to witness our teens’ stories & narratives, not create them Letting go of some beliefs in favor of a better relationship We grieve for ideas & expectations, not just people we lose Holding deep faith & trust that our adolescent’s lives are going to unfold just the way they are supposed to “Don’t make it worse” Working through your grief & worries with a therapist Enabling vs. empowering Grief doesn’t end Bringing things out to the light & the power of community For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, July 25, 2024
Summer throwback - Radical Moves for Parenting Gen Z
Today's Throwback episode highlights shifting our thinking about how we are showing up for Gen Z and why this is crucial as we move through the adolescent years with our kids. I share three essential tools for making this shift in a way that strengthens relationship and provides space for our kids to discover who they’re meant to be. Find all the show notes and info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-357-radical-moves-for-parenting-gen-z/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 22, 2024
Parenting with Empathy vs Codependency with Susie Pettit
My guest today is Susie Pettit. Grab some popcorn for this one! Susie helps people with boundaries, codependency, emotional intelligence, and people-pleasing using a lifetime of experience, and today she’s here to talk about her awesome parenting tool. You know one of my favorite mantras is “Fiercely committed, lovingly detached.” We’re good at the fiercely committed part of parenting, but the detachment part is hard! It’s hard to be with our kids when tough things are happening to them, and the urge to rescue doesn’t go away, but we have to let them make mistakes & learn. I ask Susie when we cross the line from empathy to codependency, and we agree on how important it is to trust the process & believe that everything’s going to be alright. Takeaways from the show “Fiercely committed, lovingly detached” Responding with empathy instead of codependency Mom guilt is a waste of brain power Detached means we respond differently, not that we don’t respond at all Doing things for our kids sends the message that we don’t think they can do it Empathy versus codependency “Popcorn parenting” Trusting the process Follow the “what if” all the way For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, July 18, 2024
Summer throwback - Eps 329: Being with what's coming up for your teen
This week's throwback is a reminder that we get to show up for our teens in a way that is helpful, not hurtful. They are navigating all the things and they need to know that we see them, they need to be believed and to experience validation around what is real for them. For more show notes go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-329-being-with-whats-coming-up-for-your-teen/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 15, 2024
Teaching teens self-regulation with screens with Devorah Heitner
Devorah Heitner is a new friend from The Zen Parenting Conference. I really appreciated what she had to say about doing more mentoring and less monitoring with our kids and their screens. This feels like a really hard time to be raising teens and dealing with all the tech. Cutting off access to technology isn’t reasonable, so how can we engage with our teens about how they use tech? How can we resist over-monitoring with school portals and Find my iPhone at our disposal? How can we teach teens self-regulation with their own screen time? Devorah shares ways we can help our adolescents notice how tech makes them feel so they can better self-regulate. She shares thoughts on the difference between a mistake and a chronic problem, seeing our kid’s posts, and what she’s hearing from teens about their experience right now. We discuss how we can make sure our kids know we’re really there for them when things go wrong, when kids want to be influencers, and how to manage it if we find our teens are doing harm online. Takeaways from the show Devorah’s New Book: “Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World” Technology is how teens connect with their friends and peers Sharing your own experiences online Tracking your teen’s location via their phone - more or less stress? Having conversations, not lectures Even though we know technology, our teens grew up with it in an entirely different way & they think we’re clueless It’s good that adolescents do brave, scary, & hard things (even when they scare us) - otherwise they’d never try anything Kids who want to be influencers, YouTubers, & go viral What to do if your kid is being harmed or harming others online Being open & curious about your teen’s world & resisting assumptions For more details, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, July 11, 2024
Eps 309: Paradox, Parenting, Pot Smoking
Back for another relisten - this is one I send to people regularly! Appreciating you tuning back in. And even if pot smoking isn't a challenge that is currently in your household, be sure that there are tons of nuggets in this episode for you to be taking away and integrate into your parenting. For full show notes and info about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-309-solo-show-paradox-parenting-pot-smoking/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 08, 2024
Examining Whiteness in Parent Education with Yolanda Williams
My guest today is my returning friend, Yolanda Williams! We’re getting a little meta this week as we focus on what white parent educators can be doing better, but believe me, this episode is full of great content for all parents. After catching-up on how Yolanda, Parenting Decolonized, and her daughter are doing, Yolanda jumps in and explains who takes on the emotional, physical, and spiritual labor of what’s going on in our world and why it’s such a huge deal for white parent educators to choose silence in order to not offend their clients. The labor, racism, and speaking out about hot topics that parent educators who are people of color are doing take so much time and effort that white parent educators may not even think of. I get vulnerable with Yolanda and ask about what I can do when I feel uninformed and uncomfortable about topics that I know are important to call out (spoiler: you don’t need to have all the answers to start speaking out). I ask Yolanda specifically what I can do to make Joyful Courage a more equitable podcast & platform and what I can be teaching new, fresh parent educators. Takeaways from the show The roots of traditional parenting in our country is uncomfortable and rooted in racism, sexism, & capitalism What’s the responsibility of white parent educators around race? Where can we grow? What’s completely missing? Who is taking on the spiritual, physical, and emotional labor of what’s going on in the world right now? How can we weigh in and stand-up for people when we don’t know or understand enough information to feel confident about doing so? Asking yourself what you’re scared of that’s keeping you from speaking out? Sit with it, and do it anyway Centering what our most marginalized children need - everything that they need to be liberated will liberate us, too Using media as a starting point for these conversations For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, July 04, 2024
How Does Firmness Show Up For You?
Firmness tends to be challenging when we are focused on centering relationship with our kids... AND it is super important that we flex into connected firmness as we raise teens. Critical thinking, setting boundaries, health and well-being - these are all dependent on a certain level of firmness in our homes... Find all the show notes and info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-275-solo-show-how-does-firmness-show-up-for-you/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 01, 2024
Growing a family through foster care with Mark Daley
My guest today is Mark Daley, and he’s here today to talk about all-things foster care. Mark shares the path that led to him writing his new book, “Safe,” gives us ideas on ways that people can help support foster kids, and explains what foster kids need. I bring up how scary it can be thinking about opening your home to a stranger and ask what upstream interventions are in place to improve the foster care system. Mark leaves us on a happy note when he brings up the amazing people he works with and a first step if you’re interested in learning more about fostering children. Takeaways from the show Hear about Mark’s new book, “Safe: A Memoir of Fatherhood, Foster Care, and the Risks We Take for Family” Why do people choose to foster? There’s a critical shortage of foster parents There are many ways to help foster children besides fostering “These aren’t bad kids; these are kids in a bad situation.” How and where can foster kids pick up the life skills they need to be successful? What’s a starting point if you’re interested in fostering or learning more about fostering? For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 26, 2024
Finding common ground during the summertime with your teen
Join me this week as we get into how to tighten things up and find the same page with our teens during the long days of summer. I talk about being explicit with our communication, agreements, and the power of collaboration. Check it out! Find more show notes and information about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-500-Finding-common-ground-during-the-summertime-with-your-teen/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 24, 2024
Making the world safe for all kids with Ed Center
My guest today is our returning friend, Ed Center. I kick off our conversation asking Ed what Pride month means to him, and he shares his thoughts: we want to celebrate our families, the history of our community, and acknowledge that we weren't always able to have these rights & privileges. It’s a celebration of family. I ask what we can do to get out of our bubble, and Ed shares simple, do-able ideas around how to talk to your kids and how to grow as a better advocate, while giving yourself grace. We dig into how not letting discomfort or not knowing the exactly right thing to do can stop us from helping others and why we have to lean into that discomfort. Takeaways from the show Pride month is an opportunity to share with our kids that they live in a family with a different arrangement than other families There are many family-friendly Pride events How do you talk to your kids? What’s your default language around family, class, race? Pushing assumptions and changing your language to expand your and your kids’ perspectives We have to stand up for all kids, not just our kids Pride month challenge: Find and reach out to or donate to small LGBTQIA+ communities & resources in a red state Be nice and stay grounded in love For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, June 20, 2024
Building the house of Positive Discipline as parents of teens
Join me this week as I share about the layers of scaffolding that come with building a home environment steeped in Positive Discipline. Starting with a foundation of parental personal growth and development, and building on top of that by focusing on relationships, creating systems and routines so that everyone is on the same page, and finally, mutually respectful, in-the-moment tools. Join me and consider how you can bring your takeaways into YOUR home and YOUR relationship with YOUR adolescents. Find all show notes and information about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-498-building-the-house-of-positive-discipline-as-parents-of-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 17, 2024
Inclusivity through fashion with Elizabeth Brunner
My guest today is Elizabeth Brunner, the founder of StereoType Kids, a gender-inclusive fashion brand inspired by her boy/girl twins. Elizabeth shares her story, what gender-inclusivity means to her, and what blended fashion is. We talk on unlearning social norms & gender stereotypes, and I share a surprising story of a time this came up for me personally when Ian was young. Elizabeth shares the difference between how people react when her daughter dresses more traditionally-masculine versus when her son dresses in more traditionally-feminine clothes and how she coached her son to reply when someone tells him what he “can’t wear.” I bring up the dance between encouraging our daughters to express and wear whatever they want while still keeping them safe from dangerous people. Takeways from the show Get to know StereoType Kids, a gender-inclusive fashion brand What is gender-inclusivity? What is blended fashion? “We try to fit into society and society norms, and that’s not actually normal. We’re meant to be expressive.” Unlearning social norms We don’t realize all of our conditioning until we have to confront it Being curious about our responses to our child(ren) “Me is all I want to be.” Keep growing, keep being curious, & keep discovering new parts of yourself For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, June 13, 2024
Fortune telling and considering that our teens lives are unfolding FOR them
What if everything is going to be fine? What if we decide to live in the uncertainty of parenting teens from a place of faith and possibility? How would that change right now for you? Join me this week as we explore the qualities that are driving us crazy as we parent our kids WHILE ALSO knowing these exact same qualities are going to serve them one day... Stretch your mind, grow your perspective, listen in. Check out all the show notes and more info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-496-fortune-telling-and-considering-that-our-teens-lives-are-unfolding-for-them/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 10, 2024
Showing up for our LGBTQIA+ kids with Ed Center and Jaimie Kelton
My guests today are Ed Center and Jaimie Kelton, and they’re answering questions from YOU! This is a juicy one - we get into how to react when your LGBTQIA+ teen comes out, whose news that is to share with others, and what to do when people who don’t treat our adolescent(s) the way we’d like (cue Mama Bear). The latter half of the episode gets into online safety & pornography, the importance of knowing queer role models in real life, using TV & books as teaching tools, and talking about sex with our queer kids. Takeaways from the show What’s the preferred and most up-to-date language and acronym? Do we say queer? What can straight parents do to best support their questioning or queer teen? Coming out stories and reactions - whose news is this to share? Coming out is an ongoing process. It is hard & scary! We all hold internalized homophobia How do we handle family or friends who don’t support our queer teen? “Choose love, choose love, choose love.” Online safety The importance of knowing real-life queer role models Sex-ed & sex talks with our queer kids Consent versus enthusiastic consent For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, June 06, 2024
Having faith when we feel out of control
Join me today and consider how we can better be with the unfolding. So many in the Joyful Courage community are moving through big things with their adolescents right now - end of school year, transition into summer, teen risk taking, having a tough time with relationship - it is all real and relevent. AND, what if the contrast and discomfort we're feeling is an indicator that we can expand our mindset and try and see things in a new way? For show notes and info about sponsors, go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-494-having-faith-when-we-feel-out-of-control/ Join the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/jcforparentsofteens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 03, 2024
The gender journey with Alanna Beebe
My guest today is my dear friend and the cofounder & managing director at Sproutable, Alanna Beebe! You’ll recognize Alanna from the Art of Connected Parenting series we did earlier this year. I’m so excited that Alanna is here to kick off Pride! Alanna is an amazing parent, and she’s here to share some of her child’s gender journey with us. Alanna’s child, was born male, transitioned to female around age 3, and more recently has transitioned to nonbinary. I have so many questions for Alanna, and although her child is still an elementary-schooler, we can still learn from so much Alanna does and how she holds space for her own child. I ask how a 3 or 4 year old knows their gender, what going through this process was like for her as a mother, and where her fears & hopes are. We hit on a lot this week: inclusive conversations & language, the political aspects that play in, how to best support your kiddo when unkind or unsafe things happen, how to make sure your message of love is getting through, using gender-neutral language, and how it looks differently supporting transgender teens versus transgender children. Takeaways from the show Alanna shares her child’s gender journey with us “Our kids can’t be in the world what they can’t see.” What age do kids start to notice and identify with a gender? What comes up for us as adults when we see our child(ren) questioning or transitioning their gender? How do we have those constant, hard conversations around gender? Making home a safe, loving place to come back to - as a parent, you are their safe space How to stop yourself from future tripping (spoiler: it comes back to teaching those life skills!) “All you have to do is love and accept the kid that’s in front of you.” Transitioning is not rebelling! What happens when we pushback? What happens when we give them space? Supporting transgender teens & adolescents (even when we’re feeling fearful & unsure) For more details, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 30, 2024
Exploring inspiration on the journey of parenting teens
Alright... We are going a bit sideways today. Or are we? Maybe we are going in the perfect direction... You'll have to let me know. I am sharing about our personal practice of dropping in with what is real and relevant for me as I work to drop into the present moment and be who I need to be for myself and others. Having a practice is what keeps me focused in on what matters most to me, it helps me to keep my inner compass pointed in the direction I live towards... We get a bit woo woo this week but I trust you to hear the takeaways you need. Find more about the episode and sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-492-exploring-inspiration-and-soul-care-on-the-journey-of-parenting-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 27, 2024
Motivating homeschooled teens with Maren Goerss and Angela Sizer
My guests today are Maren Goerss and Angela Sizer - two former school teachers who both chose homeschooling for their families (and created an awesome podcast & book about it!). We get right into it today, jumping into collaborating with your teen around their learning, lasting effects to the homeschool community post-Covid, and what to do if you don’t mesh well with the homeschool community in your area. We hit on a lot during this episode: school refusal, “optimally” scheduled days, trusting our children to know what’s best for them, disinterested (discouraged) learners, who teens are earning their grades for, leaning into your strengths as a parent and home educator, and saying no to things that don’t matter to your family. We wrap up this week on homeschooling our kids with learning differences or who are neurodivergent. Check out Maren and Angela’s new book, “Think Differently about Learning,” to dig in even further to Homeschool Unrefined! Takeaways from the show Collaborating with your child on their education Finding community for homeschooled teens Asking kids for their opinion Homeschooling shifts post-Covid What can you do when you don’t mesh well with the homeschooling community in your area? “Think Differently about Learning” book Children deserve to be trusted & deserve authority over their choices What can we do with our disinterested (discouraged) teens? Grades - who & what are they for? Leaning into your strengths as a teacher Homeschooling kids with neurodivergence or learning differences Accepting our teens (and making sure they know it) For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 23, 2024
Endurance, personal growth, and intersecting with our adolescents' experience
Drop in with me to explore what it takes to be with the ebb and flow of the season of parenting teens and tweens. It isn't for the faint of heart and it absolutely requires our development of self awareness, reflection and endurance. We have the power to shift how we are experiencing the challenges that are showing up with our young people if we are willing to go there. Listen to this episode for inspiration on the HOW. Find show notes and info about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-490-endurance-personal-growth-and-intersecting-with-our-adolescents-experience Join the discussion in the Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/jcforparentsofteens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 20, 2024
Identity development for mixed race teens with Dr. Jenn Noble
My guest today is Dr. Jenn Noble, and she’s here to talk about adolescent identity development and support us all in broadening our lens around the experience of mixed race kids and families. Dr. Jenn helps parents to see who their kids really are and helps teens express who they are to their parents. We all know teen identity development is a total rollercoaster! On one hand, we know our adolescents are growing up, but we sure like to hang onto who they were as children. Their experiences and perspectives are real , but they’re often dismissed. As we dig into adolescent identity development, and Dr. Jenn reminds us that part of a teen’s job is to explore things, try things out, and push back with a safe place to land. I ask Dr. Jenn what parents can do to invite your teens to talk to you, how adolescents can read our agendas (even when we think we’re being open-minded!), and how this plays out differently in mixed race households. Takeaways from the show What should parents know about adolescent identity development? Broadening our lens around the experience of mixed race kids and families Seeing your kid for who they are - how do we really get to know & see them? Negative stereotypes around teens Teens need to try & explore new things with a safe place to land What makes adolescents feel open to talking and sharing more with parents Code switching (cognitive flexibility) Teens are seeking groups and are very sensitive to rejection How can we best show up for mixed race teens? Authentically affirming & complimenting teens’ experiences For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 16, 2024
Thoughts about parenting our older teens and baby adults
As our teens continue to get older, our role in relationship with them changes. It is hard to know where to lean in and where to let go. The good news is there is no "right way" to parent through the second half of the teen years and beyond - instead, we get to become ever better at intuiting what it is our young people need. During this episode, I go through the different eras of later adolescence and offer my thoughts on useful ways of showing up. Can't wait to hear what you think! Find all the show notes at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-488-thoughts-about-parenting-our-older-teens-and-baby-adults/ Join the Joyful Courage Parents of Teens FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/jcforparentsofteens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 13, 2024
Expert guidance on the college admissions process with Alyse Levine
I am so excited about my guest today - Alyse Levine! We have one of the foremost college counseling experts in the country here today sharing her wisdom and tips to help adolescents fulfill their college goals & dreams. Alyse shares why she’s so passionate about college admissions & working with young people, and I ask what was surprising for her when going through the college admissions process with her own kiddo recently. We dig into all-things admissions related: testing, grades, college essays, rescinded offers, and virtual opportunities & internships. I ask Alyse what teens should be doing during the summer and how to discern good opportunities & programs, and we wrap up this week talking about setting expectations for our adolescents and how motivating it is when people are learning something they’re excited about. Key Takeaways from the show Why work with a college admissions specialist or counselor? FAFSA, Merit Money, & scholarships How has grading changed since we were in school? Colleges rescinding offers College is a safe place to make some mistakes & grow resiliency What should teens be doing during summer breaks? Virtual internships & experiences What to look for in good summer programs & offerings Authenticity during the college admissions process The motivation that comes when we are learning things we’re excited about “There is a home and a college for everyone” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 09, 2024
The beauty of parenting in community with Julietta Skoog
Surprise!!! My girl and podcast fave, Julietta Skoog, joins me today on a special Thursday show where we come down off of our high from leading our first ever Sproutable Retreat on the gorgeous California Coast. We talk about the highlights from the weekend as well as the power of parenting in community, creating time and structure for our own self-care, and shared a few funny stories... Listen in and let me know what you think. Find all the show notes and info about our sponsors here: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-486-The-beauty-of-parenting-in-community-with-Julietta-Skoog Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 06, 2024
Parenting neurodiverse kids of color with Jaya Ramesh and Priya Saaral
My guests today are Jaya Ramesh and Priya Saaral. Jaya and Priya have a lot in common, including being the co-authors of their new book, “Parenting at the Intersections.” This is a deeply emotional topic for them, both personally and professionally. Many people are discussing the experience of neurodivergence, and many people are discussing being a person of color, but where are the resources for neurodivergent people of color? Jaya and Priya have so much wisdom to share, from asking for what your child needs until they get it, what people who aren’t raising neurodivergent children of color need to know, and why & how to be there for all kids, not just your kid. We dig deep into how we can expand our definition of what’s “normal,” so that we can be less judgmental, especially when there are systems in place working against that, and how hard it can be for adolescents to find their strengths when we are so focused on deficits. Takeaways from the show How do you hold the feedback about your child from their school? How do you make it work when public school is the only option? Asking for what you or your child(ren) needs until you get it Checking your biases What do people who aren’t raising neurodivergent children of color need to know? Being curious, empathetic, & compassionate Being in it for all kids, not just your kid Expanding our definition of “normal” so we can be less judgmental Moving away from neurotypical expectations, narratives, & timelines Holding that space for our child(ren) when they show up differently For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 02, 2024
The real work of parenting during the middle school years
Ooh, I have some fun during this week's solo show... If I could go back to parenting my kids through middle school I would take my own advice and do it differently. The beauty of hindsight. Lucky for YOU I am sharing all of my thoughts around parenting during middle school years today on the show! Find the full show notes and info about sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-484-the-real-work-of-parenting-during-the-middle-school-years Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 29, 2024
Douglas Haddad teaches us about creating encouragement for middle schoolers
My friend Douglas Haddad is here this week to chat about all things middle school, with a focus on encouraging discouraged learners. Douglas has been teaching for over 24 years (at ONE school!), and I love his commitment to his students. Douglas shares what he’s seen changing during that period, like higher anxiety & social media misuse, and what’s stayed the same, like a child’s need to feel loved, heard, and understood. Douglas shares his wisdom on keeping middle schoolers encouraged & engaged: making sure they understand the systems in place around them, how we can help when our kid isn’t connecting with a teacher, collaborating on family agreements, and helping our tweens grow their tolerance for discomfort. Takeaways from the show What’s different between middle school today & when you were a tween? “Loved, heard, and understood” What does discouragement look like in the classroom? Wait Until 8th Pledge Does your child know & understand the systems in place around them? How to help foster connection between your child & their teachers Family contracts, charters, agreements, & meetings Being available without an agenda or judgment Setting & celebrating small goals Scaffolding for our kiddos to grow their tolerance for discomfort For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 24, 2024
Shifting from worst case scenarios to trusting the process with our teens
It is so easy, when we aren't paying attention, to let our minds slide into all the worst-case scenarios, the worst possible outcomes, "dead in a ditch." I know, I've been there, and it ISN'T USEFUL. It isn't an empowered or encouraged parenting mindset during the teen years. So how do we shift?? Listen to this episode and find out! Get more show notes and info about sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-482-Shifting-from-worst-case-scenarios-to-trusting-process-teens/ Join the FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/jcforparentsofteens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 22, 2024
Let’s talk about porn with Amy Lang and Christy Keating
Amy & Christy are back for part 2 of our conversation, and we’re talking about pornography. Please believe us: your kid is going to see porn. Some families are more aware & ready for this moment than others, so what can you do and say to prepare? You can’t prevent the exposure or know how your child will react, but we can get ready for it and start the conversation now. Pornography is all over the place and often hidden, and unfortunately kids view that as Sex Ed & think that pornography is what sex with a partner will be like for them - they assume that hardcore porn is real life. Seeing these images train their brain; watching porn today is very different from running into an issue of Playboy when we were kids, and it’s impossible to avoid. So what do we say to our kids? What’s the magic word? Christy shares the way she uses values to talk to her teen, and Amy explains how to keep the conversation around other kids to break through to your own teen. We touch on monitoring software & sugar dating. The good news here is that there are many resources available for families to use, and it can get better. Takeaways from the show Your kids will see pornography Pornography is different than when you were a kid Kids often keep it a secret if they see pornographic material. Let them know they won’t be in trouble! Pornography is often in hidden, unexpected spaces Kids see pornography as Sex Ed Pornography trains their growing brain - including the themes of misogyny, racism, & shame around their bodies Don’t tell yourself, “it won’t happen to my kid” Porn is harder to avoid today than it was to find in the ‘80s What do we say to our kids about this? Conversations about pornography need to start early - earlier than you think! Keep them short & frequent Using monitoring software For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 18, 2024
The power of examining the beliefs we hold about our teens and tweens
This week we are going deep into examining the beliefs we hold about our kids and how they might actually be what is getting in the way and creating the suffering we are experiencing. I know, seems like an easy fix, right? We may not be able to control our kids (truly, we can't) but what we BELIEVE about them is for sure a part of our influence AND for SURE impacts how we EXPERIENCE them. Listen in and let me know what you think. Find more about our sponsors and full show notes at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-480-power-of-examining-beliefs-we-hold-about-our-teens-and-tweens/ Jump into the FB group discussion at https://www.facebook.com/groups/jcforparentsofteens/posts/1604661457038309/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 15, 2024
Cindy Palmer helps us set our neurodivergent kids up for success
My guest today is my good, local friend - Cindy Palmer. Cindy’s here to talk about executive functioning in kids with neurodivergence, especially during the transition to college. High School is a time that is typically incredibly structured, down to the minute, and the transition to college is tricky for all adolescents. What do we do when it feels like our kids aren’t ready? How can parents help scaffold that transition? Especially for kids with neurodivergence? Cindy shares lots of strategies and ideas around supporting our adolescents during this tricky time - getting curious & compassionate, not holding a certain view on what things “should” look like, and what kind of bumps slow down (or stop) our kiddos from getting their work done. I ask Cindy what we can be doing in the middle & high school years to help with the transition (spoiler: it’s lots of practice & baby steps) and we talk about how important grades actually are. We get into what we can hand over to our kids right now (how about waking themselves up in the morning?) and why we want to practice these life skills in middle school, not the first week of college. We wrap up touching on adjusting our expectations for how older kiddos contribute to the family (and how we can use these as opportunities to teach life skills). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 11, 2024
Meeting misbehavior with enthusiastic curiosity
You and me and enthusiastic curiosity - WOOHOO! It may sound crazy but when we can really connect with the experience we are having while navigating our kids' mischief, regulate, and shift into curiosity, there is space for much deeper connection and learning for all. Truly. Listen to this show for tips on all the things - and let me know what you think! For show notes and more info on our sponsors, head to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-478-Meeting-misbehavior-with-enthusiastic-curiosity/ To chime in on your take-aways, join the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/jcforparentsofteens/posts/1600103267494128/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 08, 2024
Tackling screen challenges intentionally with Emily Cherkin
I am SO glad you’re here this week for my second chat with Emily Cherkin, AKA The Screentime Consultant. We start by talking about what Emily’s been seeing & dealing with lately: managing screentime at home, reigning screentime in after Covid struggles, and kids having more access to tech at younger ages than ever before. It’s obvious that parents are really trying to figure out how to set screentime limits that actually work without isolating our kids from their social network or hindering their schoolwork. We also get into screens & tech in the bedroom & our hypocrisy on expectations around screentime. After catching up on all of that, we dig into AI - what AI is, how quickly it’s changing, & the lack of transparency and understanding around AI. Emily shares her TLDR around all tech: “less is more, later is better, & relationships first.” Emily and I ponder on what parents can do when they want their kids to have a phone for emergencies, and she shares what her two questions for parents are around screentime. Key Takeaways How do we set screentime limits that actually work and are helpful?! Tech use is all about balance Managing screentime at home Reigning in screentime after Covid Screens & electronics in bedrooms What is AI? “Less is more, later is better, & relationships first” How adolescents having phones helps & exacerbates parental stressors Do you know what your kid is doing on their device? You have the tools you need to manage this! For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 04, 2024
Being right and the downside of comparing our experience to others
Hey there - back again with thoughts on Monday's episode and prompting us all to have a broader perspective than just the one that lives in our heads. Our relationships depend on our willingness to consider how where we are coming from is getting in the way of what we ultimately want to create. I can't wait to hear your thoughts on this! For more show notes and info on our sponsors go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-476-Being-right-downside-comparing-our-experience-others/ To share your takeaways to the prompts in the FB Group, go to: https://www.facebook.com/groups/jcforparentsofteens/posts/1596414907862964/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 01, 2024
Nurturing partner relationships and parenting with Aaron Steinberg
My guest today is Aaron Steinberg. Aaron is super passionate about equipping couples with the tools they need for the challenges of parenthood. The good news is that these challenges are universal, and we can make changes in our relationships. Aaron and I get into a whole lot in our conversation: family meetings, offering & receiving feedback from a spouse, and how to talk to your spouse when you’re the one with the new tools & ideas to try. I love Aaron’s framing of being “somewhat right” and why the objective truth doesn’t really matter in a relationship. I ask Aaron what he thinks about ambivalence showing up in a long-term relationship and what realistic expectations are in a long marriage. Takeaways from the show: Parenting brings up all kinds of things from our past & can make us feel incompatible with our partner Sometimes our needs are seemingly incompatible with our partner’s needs Relationships are constant practice Family meetings Offering feedback kindly & receiving feedback openly Separating feelings problems from action problems Erasing competitiveness from problems Being “somewhat right” Ambivalence in a long relationship Checking your vision of marriage For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 28, 2024
When we don't align with our partner's parenting style
Inspired by Monday's show and a post for the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group, today is an exploration of the experience and considerations when you find yourself parenting with someone who doesn't align with your style of parenting. Share your takeaways in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group by clicking here . Check out the full show notes and links about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-474-when-we-dont-align-with-our-partners-parenting-style/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 25, 2024
Co-parenting with a narcissist with Carol Szuky
My guest today is Carol Szuky. Carol is on the show today because she feels called to talk about the narcissistic abuse she navigated with her children for most of their lives. Carol shares the story of meeting and marrying her narcissistic husband and the two big indicators that let her know the relationship was no longer healthy or working. I ask Carol to define narcissism from her experience and how/when she planned to leave, then she shares the conversation & surprising twist that opened her husband up to listening, feeling, and changing. Takeways from the show What is narcissism? What does it look like? Where does narcissism come from? Indicators that your relationship is not healthy Tools & therapies that can help narcissists and victims How people react to the narcissism diagnosis Co-parenting with a narcissist Holding integrity, knowing your worth, & keeping your boundaries For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 21, 2024
The wobble of centering relationship and curiosity with our teens
I'm back with a brand new solo show, channeling wisdom and empowerment. Today I am reflecting on a workplace training experience and will emphasize the importance of nurturing relationships with teenagers amidst their complexities and challenges. I share insights on fostering understanding, transparency, and connection with teens, urging you all to navigate the wonkiness of adolescence with curiosity and presence. See more show notes and info about sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-472-The-wobble-of-centering-relationship-and-curiosity-with-our-teens/ Share your takeaways in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group - click here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 18, 2024
Resetting unhealthy screen time habits with Michael Jacobus
My guest today is Michael Jacobus, and we’re talking about unhealthy screen time, social media overuse, gaming addiction, and his Reset Summer Camp program. Michael shares how his own son becoming addicted to video games and the lack of help & programs available inspired him to create Reset Summer Camp. We, as parents, did not know the Pandora’s Box we were opening when we first brought technology and social media into our homes. We end up feeling guilty and don’t know what to do. How and why would we? None of this was available when we were teens! Michael posits that over half of the teens in the US have an issue with screen time, and he shares some recommendations for screen time at home (including when you get big, emotional reactions to new limits). I ask Michael how to first open up this conversation with your teen, how to best roll out social media to younger teens, and we wrap up agreeing that screen time usage is an issue that is truly universal and in every home. Takeaways from the show Gaming disorder is a real, diagnosable condition Parents typically don’t know what to do about gaming disorder and other screen time addictions Technology addiction or screen time addiction is a family problem How do you differentiate between typical teen behavior and serious overuse of technology? Checking your own screen time usage Recommendations for screen time at home The importance of good sleep How to roll out social media to a young teen Screen time is an issue in every household For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 14, 2024
Positive Discipline concepts for the adolescent years
This week I am taking us back to the core concepts of PD. For some of you, it will be a review, for others, it will be no - no matter, this show is sure to take EVERYONE deeper in their thinking about how we be in relationships with our kids as they move through the season of adolescence. For more show notes and sponsor info click here . To jump into the FB Group and share your takeaways, click here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 11, 2024
Endurance and evolution - The Art of Connected Parenting, part 6
Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This is the last episode of this limited series, and we’re excited to talk about leaning into perseverance. Parenting is messy! We’ve got to keep our growth mindset and get into the thick of it to build grit, resilience, and to evolve as parents. Get in the ring with these kiddos. Engage! We’re not going to get it exactly right; it’s going to be messy, and that’s part of the work. So often, we just want to get back to comfort, and we use our easiest tools without a pause to see what the situation really called for. Kids need for us to be in discomfort with them, not fix it for them! Alanna explains what mirror neurons are, where our empathy comes from, and why it’s so hard for us when our child(ren) are losing it. Casey digs into how our own history and inner-child affects our parenting, and Julietta shares what signals we need to keep our eyes open for. We often talk about fostering a growth mindset in our children, but how do we lean into a grown mindset when it comes to our parenting style? This is real neuroscience, and everyone can grow and change. What do you do when something doesn’t work? What can you learn in those tough moments and the parenting mistakes? You are capable of this ! We wrap the Founders Series with a metaphor that we started with - how do we set our kids up for adulthood with a U-Haul full of tools instead of a U-Haul full of trauma? Kids don’t have to learn from painful experiences. We can teach life skills in a way that sets our child(ren) up with a loving, encouraging inner voice. We can be grateful for what we learned from our parents and still choose to parent differently. Takeaways from the show: Leaning into perseverance Fine tuning our inner listening What does this moment actually need? Being uncomfortable with your child Truly accepting your kids starts with acceptance of yourself Mirror neurons & empathy Growth mindset Staying hopeful “We choose the challenge.” Assuming positive intent, explaining intention, and collaborating with your child “You get to choose what’s hard.” Setting our kids up with a U-Haul of tools, not a U-Haul of trauma Gratitude for the lessons your parents taught you (and choosing to parent differently) There’s never been a better time for a parenting revolution, and we’re gaining momentum & resources Dignity & respect for all Sproutable’s mission statement For more show notes, including transcripts, <a href="https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-469-endurance-and-evolution-the-art-of-connected-parenting-p
Thu, March 07, 2024
Teens, tweens and screens
Today I am attempting to have a conversation with listeners about the messiness being in relationship with our adolescents relationship with their screens. I know. It's so much - so annoying and not going anywhere and impossible and all the things. Or maybe you have it handled, if so shoot me a message and teach me your wisdom. If you have a tween or a teen, my guess is that you have some opinions on this whole thing - listen in to today's show to hear my take. For more shownotes and info about sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-468-Teens-tweens-and-screens To check out the Teens and Screens mini summit, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/teens/positive-discipline-course-online/teens-screens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 04, 2024
Dropping into the practice - The Art of Connected Parenting, part 5
Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This week, we’re talking about when we’re doing all “the right” parenting moves, but we’re STILL having challenges. Spoiler alert: the challenges will change, but there will always be challenges. What we can change is how we handle, experience, & grow through those challenges. ALL families and ALL children bring challenges - it’s typical, it’s normal, it’s developmental. Julietta explains what the Continuum of Change is and why conscious parenting takes so much time, effort, & intention. It’s not easy! Julietta shares a detailed recounting of helping one of her children through a serious phobia and why she always has a dog treat in her pocket! We get into the importance of family meetings, helping children through anxiety, and how and when to hand the reins over to children to solve their problems. Casey shares a story about her son, and how we get to keep practicing these skills with our older children. We wrap today with a lovely quote from Maya Angelou and an invitation to envision showing up in a different way. The only thing you can control is how you show up. Join us next week for the last episode in the Founder Series and a deep dive into perseverance for the long term. Takeaways from the show Challenges change, but they will always be there “Magic 8” What is useful? What is helpful? Understanding where your child is developmentally Being firm without being harmful The Continuum of Change Family Meetings When and how to know when to let your child lead Slice it thinner: What do you want? What’s your plan? Trusting your child(ren)’s gifts & skills Intrinsic motivation & practicing skills in the safety of home They’ve got it! And if they don’t, they will figure it out! “Fiercely committed, lovingly detached” “This is a wonderful day, I have never seen this one before.” - Maya Angelou For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 29, 2024
Consciously practicing connection, curiosity, and presence with ourselves and others
Back again on the ride of the messiness of humaning. This week I am all of the place and talk about all the things that are showing up with parents who are just stepping into this work of parenting teens differently, about the ever evolving relationships we have with ourselves and the people in our life, and even a little bit of Buddhism woven in... Check it out! You can find all the show notes and information about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-466-Consciously-practicing-connection-curiosity-and-presence-with-ourselves-and-others/ Join the FB Group conversation by clicking here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 26, 2024
Being intentional - The Art of Connected Parenting, part 4
Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This week, we’re talking about goals & intentionality. Now that we’ve had a chance in the series to talk about our own parenting stories, touched on what’s going on with the fear, shame, & guilt that we all feel, and shared some tips for being okay with the messiness of parenting, now we can dig into being intentional and defining our parenting goals. There’s lots we can do to control kids - yes, punishment can work short term. But we want to do better than that - we want to be intentional, conscious parents. We have to step back and ask, “Why are we doing this? What’s my goal here? What’s my long-term intention? What do I want to bring to life in this interaction?” It all comes back to teaching and skill-building. Takeaways from the show Clarifying what your goal is Discipline means to teach We can’t control outcomes, but we can be intentional in our actions & what we bring to the dynamic “What does this moment need?” Sometimes we’re the ones in the way of what needs to be taught Willingness lives inside of intentionality Creating a family charter This is a long-term game - no quick fixes in parenting What about when our parenting partner or village have different goals than we do? You’re not the only person who will teach your child Experiences are how kids grow For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 22, 2024
Crushes, dating and developing critical thinking
Back again with another solo show inspired by a member of the Living Joyful Courage membership group and her request for something about adolescents and dating. 😳 It's one of the many exciting and terrifying age appropriate areas of exploration and discovery for our kiddos - and we get to show up in a way that encourages their critical thinking and growth. This show gets into that. Mentioned during the show was the Sex Ed for Parents of Teens mini summit. Click here for info . Share your thoughts in the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB Group . Find more show notes and info about our sponsors here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 19, 2024
Perspective and imperfection - The Art of Connected Parenting, part 3
Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This week, we’re talking about shifting our perspective & embracing imperfection so we can learn and grow as parents and humans. Embracing the challenges is hard! When we have our compass of understanding development & trusting connection, we can move away from the shame & guilt we talked about last week. Find all the show notes and links mentioned, as well as info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-463-perspective-and-imperfection-the-art-of-connected-parenting-part-3/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 15, 2024
Being explicit with finding and naming our teen’s strengths
Join me this week on a journey to discovering our teens strengths. This is the glue that will keep your teen's team together. What they need most from us is to be seen and celebrated for who they are. They need their adults to recognize and mirror their strengths. Listen in for more! Find more show notes and info from our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-462-Being-explicit-with-finding-and-naming-our-teens-strengths/ Join the FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/jcforparentsofteens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 12, 2024
Guilt and shame - The Art of Connected Parenting, part 2
Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. This week, we’re talking about guilt, shame, and self-doubt. All parents feel guilt, shame, and self-doubt about aspects of their parenting, even us as ‘experts’ - especially us! Today, all three of us are sharing stories of times we’ve felt (or still feel) guilt, shame, and self-doubt around our parenting. Parenting is a place where those hard feelings often pop up. There are a lot of layers to this, and the power of hindsight can leave us feeling regretful about things we did or didn’t do. What do we do with these crappy feelings? What can we do in the moment when we feel shame creeping up on us? Takeaways from the show All parents feel guilt, shame, and self-doubt sometimes The power of hindsight Digging deeper to examine your values Society’s “supposed to’s” “It’s much easier for me to see my child be different and make waves, but it’s much harder for me to be different and make waves.” Parenting is a journey with lots of opportunities to keep practicing The way our kid’s behavior reflects on us Accepting and advocating for our children for who they are Why we like getting calls from school Leaving room for kids to have their own perspective “Tell me more” Why we avoid labeling our kids Doubting your parenting intuition Finding the answers for your self-doubt Moving from stopping behaviors to building missing skills Worthiness & value are innate For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 08, 2024
Get past your resistance and focus on relationship with your teen
So I am fired up this week and I have our boys on the brain. So many of my clients and people in the community are struggling with their boys. Not only struggling with their boys, but struggling to soften to the idea that their boys are having a hard time and really need a deeper relationship with their parents most. Listen in to hear more - and don't worry, if you have a daughter you will still find value in this conversation! For complete show notes and info about our sponsors, go to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-460-Get-past-your-resistance-and-focus-on-relationship-with-your-teen/ To share your thoughts in the FB Group, click here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 05, 2024
Exploring the Art of Connected Parenting, Part 1
Join Alanna Beebe, Julietta Skoog, & Casey O’Roarty, the three founders of Sproutable, as we dig deeper into finding the why of the work we do. Why do we show up, even when it’s hard & stressful? We dig deeper into the meaning behind the connected parenting movement (aka conscious parenting, positive discipline, gentle parenting, positive parenting). When we are intentional about our parenting, it’s an opportunity for personal evolution as well as a cultural revolution. In this first episode of the series, we share stores from our own childhood experiences. We all have residual effects of the ways we were parented. How can we show up differently as parents? We’re not going for picture perfect Instagram parenting here - we’re getting real and digging into the messy moments. The second half of this episode is all about reparenting. What is reparenting? Is it just another buzzword? We find that all 3 of us have different definitions but end up at the same place: healing your inner child & showing up differently for your own kids. We’re all growing and evolving. We’re here to help people! We change the lives of children & families for the better, and that’s what drives us. Join us next week when we’re back to talk about guilt, shame, & self-doubt. Takeaways from the show Introducing the founders of Sproutable Exploring positive parenting, gentle parenting, conscious parenting, positive discipline The ways your childhood could affect how you show-up in relationships as an adult Being the parent you want to be Acknowledging our privilege & blindspots We all make mistakes & lose it sometimes - it’s how you repair that matters What “reparenting” means to each of us Healing your inner child There’s always room & time to change your trajectory Trusting your inner wisdom For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 01, 2024
Distinguishing between our teens and their behavior
This week's solo show celebrates Brene Brown's invitation to have a strong back, a soft front and a wild heart as we move through the season of parenting adolescents. It is so important that we send the message of care, concern and acceptance to our teens, even as we don't love their behavior. It supports our teens to kow that we see them, and we value them, even as they are stumbling through this time of their life. Find full shownotes and info on our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-458-Distinguishing-between-our-teens-and-their-behavior Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 29, 2024
Healthy rites of passage for teen boys with Luke Entrup
Luke Entrup is here today to talk about healthy rites-of-passage for our teen boys. Luke explains what rites-of-passage are, why they’re important for our teens, and what adolescents get out of these rites-of-passage: a healthy connection to themselves and to their community. We dig into how gender affects these rites-of-passage and how we can create spaces where all genders are celebrated. We touch on toxic masculinity and how we can redefine what masculinity is and means today. I ask Luke if he thinks teenage boys are as hesitant to open up as we think, and he shares what they do at his Father-Son Connection Experiences. We finish today talking about accepting and trusting the kid that you have. Takeaways from the show What are rites-of-passage? Rites-of-passage can be uncomfortable What do we get from these rites-of-passage? Does gender play into this? How can we expand those boxes? What is male identity today? In the future? Is masculinity toxic? How do we define what masculinity is today? “One eye in, one eye out” What to do if you’re feeling disconnected from your teen son Who can teens open up to, besides their parents? Accepting and trusting the kid that you have For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 25, 2024
Being with our teens’ experiences
When does positivity and optimism get in the way of what our teens need? How can we be with what they are moving through in a way that is helpful and builds connection and trust in our relationship with them? Listen in to this weeks solo show and hear all about this topic! Find show notes and more info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-456-being-with-our-teens-experiences Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 22, 2024
Kristen Duke helps us build more trust with our teens
Talking with Kristen Duke, mentor to parents of teens, and full of enthusiasm for what we can create when we work on building a relationship founded on trust. Kristen guides us through some blind spots parents have that get int the way of a connection, and how to be the person our adolescents need. Find more show notes and information about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-455-kristen-duke-helps-us-build-more-trust-with-our-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 18, 2024
Expanding how we are relating to our teenagers
Join me this week as we get ever more focused on the interpersonal nature of raising teens. Where are we focusing our attention? What are we centering in our relationships? What might happen if we keep in mind our kids strengths even when things are going sideways? See all the show notes and more about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-454-Expanding-how-we-are-relating-to-our-teenagers/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 15, 2024
Helping our kids avoid sexual exploitation with Alexandra Ford
My guest today is Alexandra Ford, and we’re tackling a scary subject today. January is human trafficking prevention month, so I want to grow everyone’s awareness with Alexandra, and we’ll share ways to keep your kids safe. Alexandra kicks us off by explaining what human trafficking looks like in 2024 and how her own story inspires her to do this work. We try to articulate the difference between being sexually empowered and sexually exploited and the reality of the commercial sex industry. I ask Alexandra what she needed from her parents during her trafficking experience which spurs us to touch on teaching autonomy, consent, accessing help, & listening to your gut. We get into online safety and what to share and not share online (and what if you’ve already shared it?!) and how to safely introduce a device to your teen. Alexandra generously stays on a bit longer to share her wisdom on how we can make sure our teens really know they can come to us when they have a problem. Takeaways from the show What does domestic human trafficking look like in 2024? How do I make sure this never happens to my child(ren)? What’s the difference between being sexually empowered versus sexually exploited? Commercial sex industry Tangible online safety tips Creating an environment in which your kids know they can truly come to you & share anything “If your child has any online presence . . . it is not a matter of if a predator sees them, it’s a matter of when.” How to safely introduce a new device to an older child or adolescent - engage, engage, engage! Conversations in the car “When you make a mistake, which you will , I will walk with you through it and love you through it. We will find a way to the other side, whatever it is . . . I am here.” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 11, 2024
The dance of flexibility while parenting adolescents
Join me this week during this solo episode as we play with the concept of flexibility while parenting through the teen years. Where are you finding flexibility? How might flexibility serve your relationhip with your teen? What is getting in the way of flexibility? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 08, 2024
From power struggles to connection with Ed Center
My guest today is Ed Center, and today we’re talking about how power shows up while parenting teens. Ed kicks off our conversation sharing how his childhood and parenting experience led him to finding Positive Discipline, and how & where cultural wisdom and cultural trauma affect our parenting. Ed and I talk about how hard it is to pause and access our Positive Discipline tools in the moment when you are pissed, and why those moments & gaps are so important. Ed brings it back to Alfred Adler’s belonging & significance, shares a reminder that teens are craving additional autonomy, power, & significance, and explains that negative attention is significance, too. We talk about Ed’s blog post & metaphor, “Your attention is the sun,” and we agree on the effectiveness of the “when, then, walk” strategy. Ed and I dig into what can stop positive parenting strategies from working and what threatens our connection with our kids (spoiler: screens aren’t helping!). Takeaways from the show Passing on cultural wisdom Not passing on cultural trauma How do we access our Positive Discipline strategies when we are pissed off!? Your kids can build new skills when they are feeling secure in their belonging & significance Teens who are secure in their belonging with you start seeking belonging from other sources Adolescents are craving additional autonomy, power, significance without accountability or repercussions “Negative attention is significance” “Your attention is the sun” metaphor & mantra When, then, & walk “Wisdom and love are slow” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 04, 2024
"Warming up" for the twists and turns of parenting teens
You never know what is going to unfold while parenting teenagers... Listen to this podcast and consider how you can practice "warming up" to be ready to be your best self for the challenges that show up! Find show notes and more info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-450-Warming-up-for-the-twists-turns-parenting-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 01, 2024
Motivating teens with Nataly Kogan
My guest today is Nataly Kogan, and she’s here to talk about simple practices that can help us move from struggling to thriving. Nataly starts off today sharing her amazing story as a child immigrant and refugee and how that led her to the work she does today. Nataly and I discuss how we can juggle motivating our teens to be achievers without pushing themselves to burnout. We talk about Nataly’s “Awesome Human Journal,” her TEDx Talk, and how our inner-critics help, or don’t help, our parenting. Nataly shares her wisdom about self-talk, why we are so much kinder when we speak to others, and how self-compassion makes us better parents. Finally, I ask Nataly to introduce her five emotional fitness skills: acceptance, gratitude, self-care, intentional kindness & compassion, and finding the “bigger why.” Takeaways from the show How do we teach teens to be achievers without pushing themselves to burnout? Nataly’s “Awesome Human Journal” Quieting your self-criticism “Self-talk is not free” Self-compassion improves your ability to show-up at your best Making the decision to shift from struggling to thriving We are not here to suffer “Treating yourself like a friend” Emotional fitness skills “Earning” or “deserving” self-care & how much time self-care takes For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, December 28, 2023
Practices for tending to ourselves in the new year
Join me in the final solo show of 2023 in an exploration of how to calibrate ourselves to be with life unfolding. We can't know what lies ahead, but we CAN tend to ourselves in a way that warms us up for the unexpected twists and turns of life, Listen in to learn how. Find full show notes and information about our sponsors at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-448-Practices-for-tending-to-ourselves-new-year/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 25, 2023
Viewing parenting challenges as invitations with Andrea Owen
My guest today is Andrea Owen. Andrea and I connect over our love of coaching and keeping things real and authentic ( and our matching ‘surrender’ tattoos!). Andrea shares what she’s working on with her own two teenagers right now, and I ask how we can shift our perspective to view parenting challenges as invitations instead of just focusing on problems. We talk about how we can trust that things will work out okay, and Andrea shares what questions she asks people to help them discover their values and why value work is important. We dig into how we don’t know the impacts of our parenting, how our kids experience it, or how we will all remember what happened. Lastly, I ask Andrea how she coaches parents to move into a more present way of being in their relationship. Takeaways from the show How our own teenage years impact our parenting Viewing challenges as invitations Trusting that things are going to be okay Defining your values: What’s important to you? What’s important about the way you live your life? Values change over time “Sending our kids to therapy with a carry-on bag, not a U-haul truck” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, December 21, 2023
Bringing boundaries and expectations to life while parenting teens
Join me this week in an exploration of how we have been holding boundaries and expectations and how we can get ever more explicit while communicating the boundaries and expectations with our kids. It's good. And messy. It's all the things and I invite you to jump into the arena with me! You can find more about the show, show notes and information about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-446-Bringing-boundaries-expectations-to-life-while-parenting-teens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 18, 2023
Finding the firmness sweet spot with Julietta Skoog
My guest today is Julietta Skoog! My sister from another mister, Julietta, is my colleague at Sproutable, and she’s here today to talk about firmness. Julietta starts by defining what firmness means (hint: it’s follow through, not being mean!), and we talk about how tone and confidence play into firmness. We get into “being strict,” taking time for training & giving kids independence, and supporting our teens who need new social experiences. Julietta shares her wisdom on leaning on relationship, connection, firmness when things get bigger with your kids and how to stay curious & collaborative. I ask Julietta what we can do if our relationship is feeling frayed, and share the power in saying, “I love you, and the answer is no.” I ask what we can do when our teenagers physically leave against our wishes and what to do when they return. Julietta and I talk about how messy & relentless being firm can be, then Jules shares an “aha” moment about the teen years, and we wrap up with some thoughts on how our own teen years influence us. Takeways from the show What is firmness? What does it look like? Sound like? Is firmness being mean? Firmness is the foundation for mutual respect Being a consistent parent “Mean what you say and say what you mean” Teens need new social experiences - how can we set them up for success? “I love you, and the answer is no.” What to do when your teen physically leaves (against your wishes) and what to do when they return The similarities between the toddler years & teen years Moving from regulation to relationship to reason Firmness takes practice! It can be uncomfortable. “Fiercely committed, lovingly detached” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, December 14, 2023
Enhancing Parent-Teen Communication as the Year Ends
Join me this week as we get into how communication is looking with our teens and how to be better at listening and creating opportunities for win/wins. Communication is key for nurturing strong relationships - no doubt there are powerful nuggets to take away from this show! Go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-444-Enhancing-Parent-Teen-Communication-as-Year-Ends/ for full show notes and information about our sponsors. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 11, 2023
Enjoying the holiday season AND our families with Chad Lassiter
My guest today is Chad Dion Lassiter, and he’s here today to talk with me about how the holiday season can be a great time for parents to model the practice of tolerance, empathy and understanding their kids will need to be successful in our multicultural world. I ask Chad how we can prepare our kids emotionally for messiness with extended family during the holiday season, and he shares ideas on how we handle heavy conversations and how we set the tone of our home. I bring up the trickiness of when your core family unit feels one way, but the extended family feels differently, and good practices for parents who are advocating for their child. We talk about the hard conversations that arise during family get-togethers, how to “host like a diplomat,” being present, & seeing the beauty in all people. Takeaways from the show Families are cultural carriers The holidays as an opportunity to visit & connect with your adult children Winter holidays come with spoken & unspoken expectations How can we prepare our kids for the messiness of extended family gatherings? Encouraging our kids to participate in intergenerational conversations Advocating for your child when extended family has different beliefs How to “host like a diplomat” Families socialize us into being who we are What kids need “in their back pocket” for a holiday get-together Families can have a heated conversations while still holding truth, love, & kindness at the core Seeing the beauty in all people For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, December 07, 2023
Developing emotional intelligence, parenting, and teens
This week is the first episode of an end of year wrap up. We are doing an inventory of past, present and future in the context of emotional intelligence development. EQ is EVERYTHING and this week I am not only defining what it is, but also sharing strategies for STRENGTHENING EQ, and how to encourage our teens to do the same. Listen in! Get full show notes and info on sponsors by heading to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/442-Developing-emotional-intelligence-parenting-teens/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 04, 2023
Exploring "sugar dating" with Amy Lang and Christy Keating
Join me and my good friends Amy Lang and Christy Keating as we dig into the trend of "sugar dating." Why do we care? Well, this is a growing trend on college campuses and it's important for parents to be informed and able to have conversations with their young adult children. Find more show notes and ad info at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/exploring-sugar-dating-amy-lang-christy-keating/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, November 30, 2023
Doing our work of self-regulation
Join me for this week's solo show as we dig into the importance and power of doing our own work around self regulation. The teen years are NO JOKE and if you are parenting an adolescent you KNOW how hard it is to keep yourself calm and centered. I see you! Tune in for this conversation. Find more show notes and learn about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 27, 2023
Parenting ADHD and ODD with Dr. Tasha Brown
My guest this week is Dr. Tasha Brown, and it is a good one for anyone loving and supporting dysregulated teens! Dr. Brown starts off today explaining how she found her way to working with children with significant behavioral problems, and I ask about accommodations and if people ever view accommodations as enabling. We get into how to handle low distress tolerance, high reactivity, big emotions, and oppositional defiant disorder in adolescents. I bring up why some kids are more emotional than others, and Dr. Brown explains how we can dig deeper into what’s going on. We talk about global trauma & creating safety in our relationship. Dr. Brown reminds us how hard it is to be a teenager and why we need to come in with patience & empathy. She also shares her advice on starting conversations in neutral, collaborating with your teen, discussing coping strategies, and paying attention to positive behaviors. We end with a broad strokes chat on understanding neurodiversity in your teen, especially ADHD, and if we should share our children’s diagnoses with them. Takeaways from the show What are accommodations? Are accommodations just enabling? Teaching teens to advocate for themselves Distress tolerance and reactivity Typical child development challenges versus oppositional defiant disorder Patience & empathy for our teens! Modeling regulation Prioritizing special time & connection Starting conversations neutrally & staying collaborative Discussing coping strategies with teens The more attention given to a behavior, the more the behavior will increase Understanding neurodiversity, especially ADHD in your teen Should we tell children about their diagnoses? For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, November 23, 2023
The power of presence while navigating relationships
Join me this week in an exploration of what it means to be present, and what becomes available in relationships when we choose into that practice. See more show notes at: http://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-438-power-presence-while-navigating-relationship Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 20, 2023
Valerie Tih shares how the Enneagram can make us better parents
I am so excited to talk to my guest, Valerie Tih, today. Valerie starts by explaining what Enneagram types are, how Enneagram complements Positive Discipline, & why Enneagram types are useful when it comes to parenting. Valerie shares a bit about practicing presence and balancing your body, heart, & head. I ask how we can connect deeper with the teens we have and what to do when your Enneagram type is different from your child’s. We get into how to expand our relationship with our teen, how our ego plays in, and how & why we need to have faith in our adolescents. Takeaways from the show What is an Enneagram? Why & how does Enneagram complement Positive Discipline philosophy? “Stuff is going to happen; are we going to react or are we going to respond?” Practicing presence in your body, heart, & head Connecting deeper with the teen you have How to use presence to open a space for your teen to share Expanding your relationship with your teen Trusting that your teen will make it through adolescence For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, November 16, 2023
Creating a safe space for our teens to individuate
Join me this week as we dive deeper into what "individuation" really means, and how parents can provide an optimal environment for their teens to move through this very developmentally appropriate process. Get full show notes at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-436-Creating-a-safe-space-for-our-teens-individuate Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 13, 2023
Wilderness therapy and teen treatment with Ciara Fanlo
My guest today is Ciara Fanlo, and I loved every minute of our conversation! Ciara shares a detailed recounting of her own troubled teenage years and personal experiences with wilderness therapy and therapeutic boarding school. We talk about what does work well with wilderness therapy and the challenges of integrating back to real life after treatment. Ciara explains the difference between just functioning versus being emotionally well and resilient. I ask Ciara how she transitioned from these challenging teen years to now being a parenting coach & adolescent mentor, then Ciara shares her thoughts on how parents can get reluctant teens on board when they need help. We end by discussing self-harm as a coping skill, how parents can best broach the topic when their child is self-harming, and what teens wish their parents understood about it. Takeaways from the show Ciara’s journey from troubled teen to parenting coach & adolescent mentor Nature as a part of therapy & connection to mental health The pros & cons of wilderness therapy Integrating back to “real life” after treatment Being functional versus being emotionally well How to get resistant teens on board when they need help Teenage individuation & autonomy versus being who your parents want you to be Self-harm as a (poor) coping skill The importance of self-forgiveness For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, November 09, 2023
Navigating challenges while also having faith in our teens
This week's solo show is OUT - take some time to listen. I talk about a lot - including my thoughts about my interview with Ian from Monday - and what is on my mind based on the convos I am having with clients. It all keeps coming back to owning our own sh@t. This is the juicy spot. This is where the real transformational space of parenting exists. This is where we get to nurture AND ENVIRONMENT that is safe for our kids to step into. This is where we can start to dismantle the walls that have been built over time and make room for connection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 06, 2023
Being what our 18 year olds need with Ian O’Roarty
My guest today is my son, Ian O’Roarty, and he’s back to chat with me and dig into all the things happening as he moves through the fall of his senior year and looks ahead at the future. Ian shares his honest thoughts about turning 18, feeling like he’s wasting time at high school, and applying for college with a coach instead of with a parent. We discuss giving freedom & space to older teens so they can get some practice before they are off on their own. Ian shares what he does & doesn’t like about family meetings. We touch on tardies & missed classes, the collective teen brain & experience, and I ask Ian what older teens need from their parents (spoiler: it’s space to make their own mistakes). Takeaways from the show Ian’s thoughts on turning 18 and being a high school senior College applications & essays How a college admission coach helps Giving space to our almost-adult children Parenting “a year ahead” The difficulty of letting go Family Meetings with teens Navigating tardies & missed classes Giving older teens space to learn from mistakes Collective teen brain “Learn to let go and forgive and you’ll pass that trait on to your children” For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, November 02, 2023
Self abandonment, embodiment, and being with life unfolding
Join me this week as I dig deeper into the experience of transition - specifically a reflection of how we HAVE been moving through the transitions of life and ways to do it more intentionally. Find all of the show notes and links mentioned at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-432-Self-abandonment-embodiment-life-unfolding/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 30, 2023
Finding yourself in the empty nest with Lisa Boate
My guest today is Lisa Boate. Such a great conversation with Lisa Boate on the podcast this week! We get into all the things that come up during empty nest season and the time time leading up to it. I know we have feels about this, friends. Lisa and I go there - AND we cover what it means to come back to ourselves so as to embrace what lies ahead from a place of empowerment and possibility. Check it out! Takeaways from the show Finding purpose and passion after children leave home Parenting, identity, and letting go Self-reflection and embodiment Self-abandonment and its impact on mental health Parenting, uncertainty, and boundaries Embracing change and finding joy in midlife For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 26, 2023
Reframing the pain points of raising teens
Join me this week and explore shifting our focus from our teens behavior to what the actual pain points are for us (parents) as we witness them moving through hard things. Find the full show notes at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-430-reframing-the-pain-points-of-raising-teens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 23, 2023
Finding joy and courage in parenting with Holly Swenson
My guest today is Holly Swenson. Holly shares with us the framework from her book Stop, Drop, Grow, and Glow, helping parents assess their current state, drop any negative influences, and grow into their best selves. She encourages parents to take a deeper dive into their personal wellness journey by assessing their priorities, reflecting on their experiences, and dropping any trauma or drama that may be holding them back. Finally, she offers tips for parents struggling with losing themselves in their children's challenges and emphasizes the importance of finding joy and courage in parenting. Takeaways from the show Conscious parenting, wellness, and self-care Prioritizing self-care for busy parents Personal growth as a parent Parenting strategies for maintaining self-care during challenging times Finding joy in parenting For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 19, 2023
Considering the power of perception
Excited to be sharing this week's solo show all about the POWER OF PERCEPTION. This is HUGE when we are trying to make sense of what is happening with our teens. I take the listeners into some thoughts around our kids beliefs and decision making in the context of school and academics. I am so excited to hear about what you think! Find the full show notes at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-428-Considering-the-power-of-perception Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 16, 2023
Understanding sensory processing & neurodiversity with Natasha Nelsen
My guest today is Natasha Nelsen and I am so honored to be in conversation with her today. Natasha breaks down sensory processing disorder, ADHD and other neurodiversity in adolescents and adults. She talks about how parents can support teens during this time of sensory overload, sensory seeking behavior, and executive function challenges. Natasha’s support & educational opportunities for black neurodiverse families and her deep understanding of sensory needs offers insights and understanding for all parents, caregivers and teachers who love and work with neurodiverse youth. If you aren’t already following SuperNova Momma, you should do so now. Natasha Nelsen is a gem and I am so honored to have her on my podcast this week. Takeaways from the show Parenting and education for black and neurodiverse families Sensory processing disorder in teenagers Sensory processing disorder and it’s impact on behavior and teen perception Sensory processing disorder and its relationship with other diagnoses. Teenage years and sensory overload Childhood trauma, sensory seeking, and excessive masturbation Sensory seeking behaviors in adolescents Parenting children with ADHD and autism with a focus on sensory issues and executive functioning challenges For more show notes, including trascripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sat, October 14, 2023
Cultivating Your Observer: Navigating Tough Conversations with Teens
The art of parenting is a constantly evolving journey filled with challenges, and one of the most important aspects is maintaining open and honest communication with your children. Recently, I stumbled upon a thought-provoking discussion on a podcast that delved into this very subject. Dax Shepard was interviewing Kerry Washington, and their conversation veered into the realm of parenting, children, and a profound question: "What if your teen came to you and confessed to trying a substance last night?" This question made me pause and reflect on the significance of fostering an environment where our children feel comfortable sharing their experiences and struggles. In thispodcast, we'll explore the concept of cultivating your observer and the art of responding thoughtfully to challenging situations with your teenagers. Find more show notes and info about our sponsors at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-426-cultivating-your-observer-navigating-tough-conversations-with-teens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 09, 2023
Setting boundaries around teen substance abuse with Brenda Zane
Brenda Zane is back this week! She was on this spring talking about how to be with teen substance abuse . We had SUCH an amazing response to that conversation that Brenda and I thought it would be helpful to have her back to talk about “what do you do” for specific scenarios around our teens and substances that leave us feeling in the dark. Today we discuss how to set healthy boundaries around teen substance abuse while still maintaining a connected relationship with our teens. Takeaways from the show Creating conditions for positive change in children, and the plant analogy. Why young people turn to substance use, including a desire to cope with emotional pain and shame. Setting boundaries around drug use The challenge of enforcing consequences The importance of addition over subtraction in facilitating change Have open and curious conversations with their teenagers about substance use, rather than resorting to shame or judgment The importance of building a positive relationship with children, focusing on mutual respect and influence rather than control or manipulation The "information sandwich" technique to discuss sensitive topics with teenagers How humor and modeling positive behavior are useful tools Focusing on boundaries and natural consequences, rather than reactive measures like drug testing and phone confiscation For more show notes including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 05, 2023
When it feels like your teen is holding you hostage
You have a great relationship with your teen and they are STILL getting into ALL the mischeif? You aren't alone. This episode I am going to tease this apart and remind you what the most important thing to consider is. Find full show notes at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-424-when-it-feels-like-your-teen-is-holding-you-hostage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 02, 2023
Understanding and processing our teens emotions with Alyssa Campbell
Alyssa Campbell is back this week! I am thrilled to have Alyssa here to chat about her new book, “Little People, Big Emotions” and her Collaborative Emotion Processing method. Alyssa explains what “safe to feel” means, how we can figure out which emotions in our kids make us uncomfortable & why, and explains that our adolescents have completely different tools & experiences than we did. I ask Alyssa how considering long-term goals for our teens can help our relationship, and we dig into why having a toolbox to get through the tough times is more important than just “being happy.” We discuss how important failure is for growth, enabling vs. empowering, and when we can reduce task demand when our teens are overwhelmed. Alyssa and I get into enabling versus collaborating, interdependence, and the importance of daily self-care. As we wrap up, I ask for tips for parents who are practicing their own emotional safety, keeping ownership over our own emotions, and normalizing the self-regulation journey. Takeaways from the show Emotional safety in your relationship with your teen Providing a safe space for children to express themselves without fear, judgment, or rejection Your adolescents have completely different experiences than you did Defining your long-term goals for your teen (is happiness the goal, or is having tools for hard times more important)? Keeping long-term goals top of mind Rescuing our kids versus letting them fail Age bias, expectations, and “you should know better” Reducing task demands when adolescents are overwhelmed Enabling versus collaborating; interdependence Daily, consistent self-care adds up Being mad, frustrated, and/or scared is not dysregulation Taking ownership of our own emotions For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 28, 2023
Making Sense of our Teens Behavior
Join me for this solo episode where I reflect on how our teens behavior is the response to how they are experiencing belonging and significance, as well as the ways OUR reaction to their brain development matters. You can find full show notes at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-422-making-sense-teens-behavior/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 25, 2023
Best practices in the college application process with Janae Young
My guest this week is Janae Young, and I’m so excited that she’s here to share her wisdom as a college admissions coach with us. Janae shares why she’s so passionate about college admissions, and we talk about what the admissions process looks like now, including what the common application system is. Janae shares what’s challenging about college application essays for adolescents, tips to help, and her two archetype essay writers. I ask Janae what best practices are for parents who are helping their kids through the college application process, and she shares where we can support and when we need to back off. We hit on missed deadlines & natural consequences and how to best list awards & activities. I ask Janae what kids can be doing in 9th, 10th, and 11th grade to help prepare for college applications, and we briefly touch on ACTs and SATs. Takeaways from the show What’s the college application process look like now? Common application system College application essays “Perfectionist Polly” and “Rushed Ryan” How can parents best support their teen during this process? Week-by-Week college application calendar College applications are their job, not yours Missed deadlines & learning through mistakes What teens can do in 9th, 10th, and 11th grades to help the college admissions process Best time to take SATs For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 21, 2023
Encouragement, Motivation and our Teens Armor
Join me today as I explore what motivates our teens, parenting that gets in the way, and how to dismantle the armor they create over time. It's a brand new solos show! See full show notes at https:// www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-420:-Encouragement-Motivation-Teens-Armor/ Find info about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/teens/sponsors/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 18, 2023
Turning Teens “Failures” into Character-Building Moments with Michelle Icard
I’m so excited that Michelle Icard is back today to chat about her newest book: 8 Setbacks That Can Make a Child a Success. Michelle shares with me how parents can best support their adolescents through setbacks and why we can’t swoop in to fix everything for them. She explains her three steps to take when dealing with a problem: contain, resolve, & evolve, and we touch on where consequences show up. Kids are always going to make more mistakes, and it’s critical that we allow children to learn from those mistakes. Michelle and I tease apart how much credit we take for our kids’ behavior - good and bad, and we talk about how hard it can be to balance staying “fiercely committed & lovingly detached” to our teens. Michelle has an awesome analogy about how toughening up our teens & encouraging grit is like a greenhouse keeper hardening their plants. We agree that we don’t need to create a tough environment for our kids though - that already exists, and we end sharing a few successes & outcomes that can follow the hard times. Takeaways from the show Setbacks and failures make us smarter and better How to best support your adolescent through setbacks Mistakes are opportunities to learn 3 steps to take while dealing with failure Kids & teens must learn through their own experiences Kids are going to continue to make mistakes - that doesn’t mean they aren’t learning Your kids aren’t part of your brand “Fiercely committed, lovingly detached” Children shouldn’t be burdened by our emotions How can teens toughen up & build resiliency For more show notes, including transcripts, see our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 14, 2023
Joyful Courage Book Club - Chapter Nine
Join me in chapter NINE of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Get the full show notes and find out more about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-418-joyful-courage-book-chapter-nine/. Get the book and the companion guide at https://www.besproutable.com/joyful-courage-calming-the-drama-and-taking-control-of-your-parenting-journey-book/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 11, 2023
Back-to-school conscious parenting with Sapna Rad
My guest today is Sapna Rad, and we’re getting into back-to-school season with teens. First, Sapna shares about herself & what kicked off her path to conscious parenting. We talk about the shift from our small kiddos wanting to be attached to us 24/7 to the teen years when they start individuating and lean away. Sapna helps me define what conscious parenting is and we discuss how that complements Positive Discipline. I ask Sapna what parents need to remember as kids head back to the classroom, then I bring up teens who don’t want to talk & share with their parents and ask what behaviors might manifest when teens are feeling anxious. Sapna shares what “getting hooked” looks like and how we can start noticing our triggers. We get into how routines look different with teens and how getting routines dialed in can help reduce stress all around. We wrap talking about how parents can practice mindfulness. Takeaways from the show Anxiety in children Individuation happens in all teens What is conscious parenting? How does that fit with Positive Discipline? What to remember as kids head back to school When your teen doesn’t want to talk to you Behaviors that manifest when teens are feeling anxious When to use silence as a tool with adolescents Tools to notice your triggers Redefining what routines look like for teens Clues you might be missing a routine Practicing mindfulness For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 07, 2023
Joyful Courage Book Club - Chapter Eight
Join me in chapter eight of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 04, 2023
Navigating sibling dynamics with Erica Whitfield
My guest today is Erica Whitfield. I don’t have many episodes about sibling dynamics, so I’m very excited to have Erica here to dig into scapegoated siblings. Erica explains what exactly a scapegoated sibling is and why some kiddos may feel disconnected from their parents. We get into other roles that siblings may fall into and how we, as parents, can make sure we’re there to hold & support all of our kids. Erica talks about how past trauma can affect our parentings and how we can recognize if we’re starting to scapegoat. I ask Erica what to do if we notice that we’re in that dynamic, and we touch on how neurodivergence, birth order, & your own relationships and history can affect these roles. Erica explains what to do to start repair - asking for feedback, negotiating, and finding balance, & justice, and we explore a few different ways to ask for that feedback. Takeaways from the show What is a scapegoated sibling? Nurturing communication between siblings Resentment between siblings Other roles that kids can fall into How to communicate to your child that you can handle their challenges & journey Signs you may be scapegoating one child How to correct when you see yourself in this dynamic Neurodivergence, birth order, & your own relationships playing into these roles “Dynamics play out until they get healed” Inviting & preparing for feedback from your teens about their experience For more details, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, August 31, 2023
Joyful Courage Book Club - Chapter Seven
Join me in chapter seven of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 28, 2023
Nonviolent communication with Dr. Matthew Lederman
My guest today is Dr. Matthew Lederman, and he’s here today to talk about connection and nonviolent communication. Dr. Lederman explains what nonviolent communication really means and what being resourced looks like. We talk about how so much plays into communication, including your intention & tone. He shares common unmet needs in children: autonomy, wanting to be heard, and knowing that their needs matter. Dr. Lederman shares his tip for staying connected with his kids when he’s triggered and how to involve kiddos in problem solving. We get into how to rebuild trust, how to find empathy, welcoming feedback, identifying underlying needs, and meeting our own needs for health & safety. We wrap up with some baby steps that you can bring into practice today. Takeaways from the show What is nonviolent communication? Being resourced Communicating with adolescents Common unmet needs in children Staying connected when you’re triggered Rebuilding trust Welcoming feedback from our kids Why teens pull away from their parents Meeting our own needs for health & safety For more details, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, August 24, 2023
Joyful Courage Book Club - Chapter Six
Join me in chapter six of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 21, 2023
Adulting update with my girl Rowan
I’m so excited about my guest today, Rowan O’Roarty, my daughter! Rowan is back and shares updates on what’s been going on since last time she was on, like working as an esthetician and moving out & living on her own. We talk about how often we check-in with each other, how Rowan’s anxiety & depression are showing up recently, and how she manages them. She shares her thoughts on how parents can best support their adolescents and young adults when they’re struggling with depression. Rowan ends by sharing a poem about motherhood that resonated with her recently. Takeaways from the show Job interviews Moving out How frequently should we check-in with each other? Managing anxiety & depression Supporting adolescents & young adults with depression What emerging adults need/want from their parents For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, August 17, 2023
Joyful Courage Book Club - Chapter Five
Join me in chapter five of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. For more show notes and info on our advertisers, go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-five Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 14, 2023
Reimagining the school experience with Dr. Kristan Rodriguez
My guest today is Dr. Kristan Rodriguez. Dr. Rodriguez shares a bit about her background in education & parenting and how that drives her to work on transforming education. We touch on many different methodologies: world schooling, homeschooling, unschooling, and IB & AP programs. Dr. Rodriguez shares some things that need to be taught aside from academics like financial literacy, art & music, and entrepreneurial skills. I ask if she sees that schools are willing to make changes and try less traditional methodologies - do kids need to know and regurgitate “The Canterbury Tales” more than they need authentic real-life learning experiences? I also ask what parents can do to help sway their administrators to make changes (spoiler: get involved & participate!). We agree that checking-in and setting goals with your teen before a new school year starts is a good plan, as well as empowering our kids to see where they have control. We touch on how to scaffold and facilitate hard conversations for your adolescent (while not having those tricky conversations for them). Dr. Rodriguez and I end by discussing how schools are supporting mental health for their students. Takeaways from the show Meeting individual needs in a school setting AP & IB programs, world schooling, homeschooling, & unschooling What should be taught in addition to traditional academics? Are we adequately preparing adolescents for careers? Schools are more willing to try less traditional methodologies What life-skills actually need to be taught in 2023? How can parents encourage their administrators to make changes? Checking-in and goal-setting with teens before a new school year Facilitating hard conversations for your adolescent How are schools supporting mental health? Engaging students outside of academia For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, August 10, 2023
Joyful Courage Book Club - Chapter Four
Join me in Chapter Four of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Get the full show notes and find out more about our sponsors by visiting our website: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-four/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 07, 2023
Raising strong-willed children with Wendy Snyder
My guest today is Wendy Snyder. I’m so excited to have her here because our stories are so similar, especially the “early-years overwhelm,” leading us to find something that does work. Wendy shares her background and what “raising strong-willed children with integrity” means to her. We agree on so much around kids being our teachers and the importance of childrens’ dignity. Wendy and I talk about what happens when we can start letting go of expectations and focus on creating the best environment for our kids instead while still being the leader of our home. I ask Wendy what’s been surprising to her about navigating the teen years with her own kiddos, and that leads us to identifying missing life skills, modeling sobriety, and harm reduction. Wendy shares her thoughts on some starter steps to mend and nurture our relationships with older kids, how to establish firm boundaries, and how to respond when those boundaries are crossed. Takeaways from the show Raising strong-willed children with integrity Firm kindness Creating the best environment for your child Inviting collaboration, cooperation, and contribution Teens experimenting with drugs & alcohol Identifying missing skills Starter steps to mend and nurture relationship with older kids Moving away from punishment Viewing mistakes as opportunities to learn Establishing boundaries (and what happens when they do not adhere to those boundaries) For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, August 03, 2023
Joyful Courage Book Club - Chapter Three
Join me in Chapter Three of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Find out more and learn about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-three/ Learn more about your ad choices - visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 31, 2023
The Parallel Parenting Process with Krissy Pozatek
My guest today is Krissy Pozatek, and she’s here to teach us all about her parallel process method of parenting. Krissy starts by sharing how she found herself working with teens in the woods. I ask Krissy how parents decide on wilderness therapy and what it’s really like there. Next, we get into what Krissy’s four foundational principles of parallel process are, including what the adults’ roles are, valuing emotions, keeping & holding boundaries for safety, and how much struggle we allow for our adolescents to experience. I ask Krissy where in her process parents can discover their teen’s belief behind their behavior. We discuss accountability & teaching skills, why we don’t use punishment, and how hard it can be to resist rescuing our adolescents. We wrap up circling back to enmeshment patterns and how it can backfire when you’re fixing everything for your child. Takeaways from the show: What is parallel process? What is wilderness therapy? Enmeshment between teens & their parents The four foundational principles of parallel process Emotional attunement (connection) Uncovering the feeling (belief) behind the behavior The differences between accountability, teaching skills, & punishments The skills learned & benefits that come from safe struggles Resisting the urge to rescue our adolescents Grounding & awareness For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, July 27, 2023
Joyful Courage Book Club - Chapter Two
Join me in Chapter Two of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Find out more and learn about our sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-two/ Learn more about your ad choices - visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 24, 2023
Hunter Clarke Fields and the daily practice of raising good humans
My guest this week is friend of the podcast, Hunter Clarke Fields. Hunter and I discuss her new book, raising teens, and how to lean into more presence and less action. This is a simple yet profound shift and makes such a profound impact on our relationships with our teens. Read the show notes and get the resources mentioned at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Eps-403-Hunter-Clarke-Fields-practice-raising-good-humans/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, July 20, 2023
Joyful Courage Book Club - Chapter One
Join me in Chapter One of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out. Find more info and links to sponsors at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/joyful-courage-book-chapter-one/ . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 17, 2023
When therapy isn’t working for your child with Dianne Kosto
My guest today is Dianne Kosto. Dianne starts off by introducing herself and explaining what neurofeedback is, who it’s for, and what benefits people see. We dig into when talk therapy isn’t working for your kid, finding the right fit, and the benefits of measurable results. I ask Dianne how personality, temperament, environment, and buy-in play roles in neurofeedback, and we wrap up with some of Dianne’s biggest success stories. Takeaways from the show What is neurofeedback? Benefits of neurofeedback Who’s neurofeedback for? When therapy isn’t working for your child or adolescent The value of measurable results For more show notes, including transcripts, visit out website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, July 13, 2023
Joyful Courage Book Club - The Intro
Join me in reading Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I've learned during the wild years since it came out. Full show notes and sponsor info at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/Joyful-Courage-Book-Club-Intro . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 10, 2023
Making small changes for your health with Jeremy Grater and Zack Tucker
My guests today are Jeremy Grater and Zach Tucker, and they’re sharing tons of info and tips for making small changes for our health and well-being. First, Jeremy & Zach share how they kicked off their podcast, The Fit Mess, then offer tips on how to successfully make changes as well as their insight about what mindsets get in people’s way. We get into moving from negative thoughts about ourselves towards self-love and self-acceptance. I ask about diet culture and how to talk about bodies and food with tweens and teens. We talk about how we can reframe and find more time in the day by questioning our beliefs, then Jeremy explains the difference between transformation and evolution. Takeaways from the show To make change, start today and start small What mindsets get in people’s way Questioning our own beliefs & underselling ourselves Self-love & self-acceptance Diet culture and talking about bodies & food Reframing our time by questioning our beliefs Establishing a morning routine & ritual The power of evolution Celebrating along the way For more episode information, including show notes, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, July 06, 2023
The difference between enabling vs empowering our teens
This week my solo show teases apart empowering vs enabling parenting and really asks listeners to sit with the question of which type of parenting they have been stepping into. To see all the show notes go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/398-difference-between-enabling-vs-empowering-teens . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 03, 2023
Parenting teens while staying connected with Andee Martineau
My guest today is Andee Martineau. We kick our conversation off today with Andee sharing how a “baby powder blizzard” completely shifted her parenting style from correction to connection. Andee and I talk about how cool it is to watch your teens carve out their own path and how we show up for our kids. Andee shares her STEAR framework for compassionate & kind self-reflection as well as tips for broadening your emotional vocabulary. We connect over how hard & relentless it can feel when you’re trying to change your parenting style, how to start with curiosity, celebrating the journey, and getting buy-in from your adolescent. Andee and I agree that the teen years are hard , even when you’re doing all the things, and she reminds me that our childrens’ behavior does not validate our parenting. We end our conversation touching on natural consequences, screen time, parenting for the year ahead, & how much control we actually have over our older kids. Takeaways from the show: Andee’s Connect Method Parenting & STEAR framework Positive Discipline & connection-based parenting is a daily choice & effort Kind and compassionate self-reflection Broadening your emotional vocabulary Changing your parenting style can feel hard & relentless “Sometimes things get worse before they get better” - Dr. Jane Nelsen The teen years are hard for everyone (even when you’re doing all the things!) Childrens’ behavior does not validate your parenting Watching your teen or young adult make decisions & choices Teens need room for natural consequences Parenting for the year ahead For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, June 29, 2023
10 Tips for Parenting Teens in 2023
Join me today as I play with AI and tease apart the top 10 tips for parenting teens according to Chat GPT. Crazy thing is... the tips are pretty spot on!! It's a good time and useful info - check it out! Find the full show notes at: www.besproutable.com/podcasts/10-Tips-Parenting-Teens-2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 26, 2023
Gender magic with Rae McDaniel
My guest today is Rae McDaniel. Rae is back to share about their new book, Gender Magic. They share what hurdles they see in advocacy for trans & non-binary people like vocal habits and making assumptions. We talk about how transitioning isn’t the point, but living authentically, shamelessly, and joyfully is. I ask Rae to share more about their personal experience as a nonbinary person, and they tell me about dismantling the idea that being transgender is a burden to others. We get into gender norms, exploring gender in a lighter way, intimacy, and freedom for trans folks. I ask Rae what parents should know and for best practices in supporting their teens while they define their gender and discover their sexuality. We wrap up our chat talking on advocacy and supporting the trans community. Key Takeaways Rae’s new book: Gender Magic: Live Shamelessly, Reclaim Your Joy, & Step into Your Most Authentic Self Hurdles for advocacy like vocal habits & not making assumptions Transitioning isn’t the point: living authentically, shamelessly, & joyfully is Mental health and messaging for transgender teens and the importance of supportive family environment The barrier of gender looking one particular way Dismantling the idea that being transgender is a burden to others Everybody has some fluidity and feminine & masculine energy Gender norms don’t always fit cis people either Play, pleasure, and possibilities for trans folks Best practices and tips for parents of teens discovering more about their gender and sexuality Finding your people and community Being a partner to and advocate for your teen For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, June 22, 2023
SOLO SHOW Making room for our older teens to practice independence
Showing up today to tease apart an email from a mama of an older teen. How do we maintain relationship, AND expectations, AND room for independence and practice with our older teens? I dig into all of it in this week's solo show. Check it out! Full show notes here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 19, 2023
College financial planning with Ann Garcia
My guest today is Ann Garcia, and this episode is full of resources & advice you can use right now. Ann is an expert on paying for college and has two kids in college right now, so she really gets it. Ann starts with an explanation of why some college educations are so expensive, what other options are available, and why you need to define your budget for college. Ann shares tips for staying focused on goals & how to talk to your teen about college. Ann tells me when it could be right to take student loans and gives lots of info on how to get scholarships. We also touch on financial aid, FAFSA, CSS Profile, & institutional merit aid. Takeaways from the show Not all kids are college bound Why is college so expensive? Finding college at every price point Figuring out your college budget How and when to talk to your teen about your college budget Focusing on goals, not constraints Scholarships for every student Student loans FAFSA, CSS Profile, & institutional merit aid Financial planning & parenting For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 14, 2023
SOLO - The importance of holding our teens as capable
Join me this week as I dig into the ways that our human-ness can get the better of us, even when we are the parenting coach!! I share about a recent interaction that I didn't love with. my own son, why it is hard to hold our teens in their light, and how to do better. See full show notes at: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-392-SOLO -importance-holding-teens-capable Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 12, 2023
Navigating school boards with AJ Crabill
My guest today is AJ Crabill. AJ and I have a great conversation this week about school boards and the education system. AJ explains why adults are hesitant & sometimes resistant to changing the way schools operate and why we need to teach resilience (not just make things easier for our kids). AJ shares exactly what student-led restorative practices are and the benefits that come with them. I love hearing all the overlap between AJ’s work and Positive Discipline: the sense of belonging, classroom meetings, a focus on repair, and teaching life skills. We dig into why student behavior will not and cannot change until adult behavior changes. I ask AJ exactly what school boards do, how members get elected, and how parents can get involved effectively and usefully with the board. AJ finishes up by inviting parents to stand up and be the difference maker at their children’s schools. Takeaways from the show Student-led restorative practices Why adults are resistant to changing the way schools operate The importance of students feeling of belonging Teaching & parenting in a way that builds resiliency The overlap between student-led restorative practice & Positive Discipline Student outcomes don’t change until adult behavior changes How can parents get involved usefully with the school board & school leadership? What exactly does the school board do ? For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, June 08, 2023
SOLO SHOW - 3 myths of tough love and what teens actually need
Parents are often drawn to "do something" when their kids are making mistakes - but tough love (and by tough love I mean punitive consequences and punishment - taking things away, grounding our kids, isolation, yelling, blaming, silent treatments) doesn't typically deliver what you may intend for it to deliver. There is another way to frame it, another way to think about what our teens need to thrive into young adulthood. Listen in as I tease it apart during today's solo show! Find out more at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts//3-myths-tough-love-what-teens-need Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 05, 2023
Motivational Interviewing with Dr. Emily Kline
My guest today is Dr. Emily Kline. Dr. Kline shares all kinds of useful information this week around why and how we can communicate with our adolescents with the best results. We touch on relinquishing control and asking curiosity questions, then we dig in deep into what motivational interviewing is and why it’s so helpful. I ask Dr. Kline what motivational interviewing might look like when a teenager is using marijuana, and we agree that the best tool we have to influence our adolescents is relationship. Dr. Kline shares tips on how to start tricky conversations and what you can learn in the first 10 seconds. She tells me what limits, consequences, boundaries, etc. look like to her, what we do when teens disregard those limits, and listening for motivation to change. Takeaways from the show Relinquishing control Motivational interviewing Teens trying marijuana The best tool for influence is relationship Staying respectful & curious How to deliver advice & why we listen first Staying neutral & consistent around hard conversations Expectations & limits without punishments Avoiding socially isolating consequences Listening for motivation for change For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, June 01, 2023
Solo Show - 4 steps for being the support your teen needs
This week's solo shows explores the iceberg and the belief behind our teens behavior in a new way. We have been here before and I am bringing you back to get ever better and teasing apart what it is your teen needs, and how you a can meet them there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, May 26, 2023
Supporting atypical teens with Dr. Norrine Russell
I’m really excited to introduce Dr. Norrine Russell to you all. Dr. Russell has truly walked the walk with her own complex children which has changed her parenting & professional paths. Dr. Russell shares what she loves about her work, what hurdles complex kids face in traditional schooling, and what parents can do to help support their atypical kids as learners. She talks on why teens need to figure out what they’re good at and how important it is to tell your teens how much you love them and the strengths you see (empowering encouragement, anyone?). I ask Dr. Russell how families can scaffold to support their complex kids, and we discuss how important it is to listen and observe your own teen, as well as how much individualizing you can do in your home to support your adolescent. We talk about how to reframe it when your kids look like “they don’t care” and whether or not “trying their best” is a reasonable and helpful expectation. Dr. Russell also shares her thoughts on motivation, laziness, ADHD, rewards, & consequences. We finish up talking about how to get teens to buy-in to coaching and what Dr. Russell wishes parents knew about complex teens. Takeways from the show: School angst & school struggles for complex kids Lack of flexibility, training, & resources in schools Helping teens figure out what they are good at The importance of “I love you” & encouraging atypical kids Listening to & observing your teen Individualizing things at home Watch & wait before jumping in to help Are “doing their best” and “trying their hardest” helpful & reasonable expectations? When teens “don’t care” & what teens do care about Appearing lazy, ADHD, & motivation Getting adolescents to buy-in to coaching For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 23, 2023
Limiting beliefs and our two selves
Another intimate exploration of what it means to be human WHILE raising teenagers. We are deep diving (yet again) into our own stuff. This week focusing on the limiting beliefs we may be holding that keeps our kids small, and the war between our two selves. Join me for some personal growth and discovery! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 22, 2023
School avoidance with Jayne Demsky
I am so glad that you are back with me and my amazing guest, Jayne Demsky. So many of you have talked to me about school avoidance and how to navigate this, and we’re digging in deep this week! The good thing - there is hope! Jayne shares her story & why she’s so passionate about school avoidance, and why we can’t just “make them go.” Jayne talks about different therapy options like CBT & exposure therapy, the school’s role, underlying causes, & advocating for your child. We discuss how hard school refusal is on the parents & adults and why punitive consequences do not help. I ask Jayne what parents should do first when they start seeing school avoidance or refusal, and we finish by chatting about education reform & improving schools for kids and how parents can self-care during challenging times. Takeaways from the show What is school avoidance & school refusal? What are the signs? CBT & exposure therapy The school’s role Underlying causes Advocating for your child Why punitive consequences don’t work When to intervene & what to do first Self-care for parents For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 18, 2023
Solo Show - Communication and Staying OFF the Emotional Freight Train
The Emotional Freight Train is REAL and can take us on wild rides - especially during the teen years, There is no better way to shut down communication with a young person than to come at them with all the emotion of the EFT. Listen to this week's solo show for solidarity, communication skills, and tips for staying off that train! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sun, May 14, 2023
A Radical Awakening with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
My guest this week is Dr. Shefali Tsabary, and we’re having a special conversation to celebrate Mother’s Day! Dr. Shefali tells me all about writing her book, “A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free” and how her divorce freed her up for a phenomenal, liberating transformation. Dr. Shefali shares about how we’re conditioned and indoctrinated from childhood and how women can lead the way away from that. We dig into owning your part of the dynamic in different relationships and how much work & courage accountability actually takes. I share a story about my marriage and my expectations, and we compare the difference between letting go and giving up. Dr. Shefali shares her wisdom on how we can challenge our obedience to culture and belief systems. Takeaways from the show Dr. Shefali’s book: “A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free” Pain & grief from divorce Seeing the life experiences that interrupt your plan as opportunities Conditioning & indoctrination from childhood Accountability & owning your part in relationship dynamics Letting go of expectations for others you’re in relationship with Giving up versus letting go Obedience to cultural standards Challenging your belief systems For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 11, 2023
Solo Show - Meeting and creating life as it unfolds
Today is a solo show! Coming out you with a deep dive into the practice of being with what the universe throws your way. I share my own experience of this work and offer listeners tools and tips for personal growth and you move through what's hard. For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 08, 2023
Self-care to Empower with Nikita Burks-Hale
My guest today is Nikita Burks-Hale. Listen in on this fascinating conversation with Nikita! She tells me a bit about her company, Headphones and Crayons, and how she integrates voice and color. We talk about how voice isn’t just what you’re saying, but your vibe and energy, too. Nikita shares about how she uses coloring to amplify voice & calm at home, and how we need home to be a safe-space for kids to express themselves. Nikita shares a dark moment that and how that sparked her path to Headphones and Crayons. We dig into how coloring can be contemplative, meditative, and a great conversation starter, especially with teens. We wrap up our conversation talking about coloring as a family and/or during a family meeting, and Nikita tells us where we can get some of her coloring sheets and audio. Takeaways from the show Hearing & seeing voice Voice isn’t just what you say The power of using your voice Home as a safe-space Using coloring to amplify voice & calm at home Positive Discipline, connection, & accepting self-expression at home Coloring as meditation Creating and holding the space your child needs Coloring as a family and/or during a family meeting For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 04, 2023
The art of surrender while parenting teens
Today is a solo show. I explore the practice of surrender, what it means to me, and how it fosters more room for our teens to show up as their fullest selves. Takeaways include: Gratitude for the journey Surrender as being with life as it unfolds What it means to let go of our narrative Trusting our teens are growing through what they're going through Letting our kids take the lead For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 01, 2023
Holistic ADHD tools for kids with Dana Kay
My guest today is Dana Kay, a board-certified holistic health and nutrition practitioner, best-selling author, and the CEO & founder of the ADHD Thrive Institute. Dana shares about her son’s ADHD diagnosis and how it launched her business & book, “Thriving with ADHD.” Dana talks about her ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids & reducing inflammation (which is beneficial for everyone, not just those with ADHD). She touches on the gut-brain connection, antibiotics, & your immune system. Dana suggests foods families should consider cutting out, time-saving tips for cooking, and how to pace these changes. Takeaways from the show Pros, cons, & side-effects of ADHD meds Dana’s “Thriving with ADHD” book & her ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids Reducing inflammation in the body The gut-brain connection, antibiotics, & your immune system ADHD diet suggestions Time-saving cooking tips Making gradual changes For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 25, 2023
Alternatives to Punishment Part 6
This week’s show is a solo show- the fifth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. Takeaways include: Navigating big behavior Searching for support The process of getting help for Rowan Holding energy of confident authority Novelty seeking Brain science behind risk taking Staying curious, connected, and calm Prioritizing taking care of yourself For more notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 24, 2023
Talking to Brenda Zane About How to Be with Teen Substance Use
My guest today is Brenda Zane, and we are digging deep into teen substance abuse. Brenda shares about her son’s drug misuse & what got her started in this work. We talk about teens who are exploring risky behavior and teens who are using drugs regularly/daily. Brenda shares tips for having uncomfortable (and ongoing) conversations about drug use with your adolescent and how to come from a place of curiosity (not judgment). We talk about why the confrontational, punitive approach does not work & to consider drug use as a solution for a problem you don’t know about. Brenda and I also dig into how to share information about drugs with your kids & how to stay calm when you’re freaked out. Brenda finishes up teaching me about fentanyl & when overdoses don’t look like what you’d expect. Takeaways from the show Novelty seeking as part of teenage brain development Substance use & responding as a parent Alcohol & marijuana use Covid, anxiety, isolation, & devices affecting drug use Experimenting vs. problematic use Uncomfortable conversations & coming from a place of curiosity Drug use as a solution for a problem you don’t know about Confrontational, punitive approach does not work Information as harm reduction Information about fentanyl & overdoses For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 20, 2023
Alternatives to Punishment Part 5
This week’s show is a solo show- the fifth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. Creating space for your teens Raising capable kids Baggage from relationship with your parents Working towards doing better for your kids Being curious and neutral Unconditional love does not equal being permissive Power struggle when saying no Treating teens with dignity and respect Holding an encouraging container For more notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 17, 2023
Deepening our Curiosity with Nancy Albright
My guest this week is Nancy Albright, a friend and fellow Positive Discipline Parent Educator. Nancy and I go way back, and I’m thrilled to chat with her today about deepening our curiosity with our teens. She tells me about her new book, “My Teen and me: 20 meaningful questions to ease your frustration, build trust, communicate, and connect with your teen.” We talk about how to stay curious with love & presence, and how to pull back on your fear & worries. We cover the importance of pausing & explicitly asking your teen what they need - advice, help problem solving, or just someone to listen, as well as what to do when you’re met with irritation or withdrawal. We wrap up touching on giving yourself love, compassion, & grace in your parenting and the power of presence. Takeaways from the show Deepening our curiosity with our teens Curiosity with love and presence Pulling back on your fear and worries Pausing & asking our teens what they need - advice, help problem solving, or just someone to listen Your needs vs. your teen’s needs Staying curious when your teen is withdrawn or irritated Creating a safe space for your kids Giving yourself love, compassion, & grace The power of presence Your story is not your child’s story For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 13, 2023
Alternatives to Punishment Part 4
This week’s show is a solo show- the fourth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. Takeaways from the show Teen years are messy Reframing trust Mistakes as opportunities to learn Reviewing kind and firm parenting Brain development in adolescence Exploring feelings from when you were a teen Unwanted results of punishment Showing up with curiosity Opportunities to learn important life skills For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 10, 2023
The legalities of co-parenting teens with Sabrina Shaheen Cronin
My guest today is Sabrina Shaheen Cronin, and we’re digging deep into co-parenting teens. Sabrina shares her wisdom and expertise on all-things related to divorce, custody, co-parenting, & step families. We get into the legalities of co-parenting & custody agreements and how to move forward while keeping the well-being of your child(ren) at the forefront. Sabrina and I talk about looking at divorce as an opportunity for personal growth (which can be so hard) and how co-parenting is not a one-size-fits-all thing. We discuss how to navigate your teens preferences and rights when it comes to custody, and I ask Sabrina for tips on getting on the same page with an ex partner. Takeaways from the show What does healthy co-parenting look like? Divorce as an offering for personal growth Legalities of co-parenting & custody arrangements The rights & preferences of teens during divorce & regarding custody Family therapy How to get on the same page with an ex partner New partners & step families “Remember you love your child more than you hate your ex” Co-parenting with difficult & toxic exes For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 06, 2023
Alternatives to Punishment Part 3
This week’s show is a solo show- the third of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. We get into kindness and firmness and explore an experiential activity that invites listeners into their teen's shoes. See more shownotes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/alternatives-to-punishment-part-3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 03, 2023
Intentional communication with Cynthia Kane
My guest today is Cynthia Kane. This week is all about communication! Cynthia shares all kinds of advice and help for intentional communication including: the four pillars of right speech and accessing the space (or the pause) to choose how to engage. We pull out some metaphors - why the teen years are a river & behavior as an iceberg. Cynthia and I talk on the importance of authenticity with your teen, what authenticity means, & how to get better at it. Cynthia ends by sharing two concrete strategies for sitting with sensation. Takeaways from the show The four pillars of right speech The pause/the space The teen years as a river Choosing & getting better at authenticity Sitting with sensation For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 30, 2023
ALTERNATIVES TO PUNISHMENT PART 2
This week’s show is a solo show- the second of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. Takeaways from the show Reviewing the “why” of this series Natural consequences Personal awareness Nurturing relationship Becoming your most conscious self Getting curious around what’s behind behavior Powerful opportunities to grow relationship Having no agenda but curiosity Punishment is a short term tool For show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 27, 2023
Parental anxiety with Dr. Dana Dorfman
Dr. Dana Dorfman is here today, and we’re talking all about parental anxiety. We talk on how it’s ingrained in us that education, achievement, and productivity are so important, which makes us anxious parents. We talk about how adolescents are dealing with a lot of stuff we didn’t - active shooter drills, the pandemic, constant social media & news. The pressure on our teens is real and accelerated, but there’s also some hope & inspiration there. Dr. Dorfman shares about her 8 parent anxiety reaction types and how we can use that info to do better. Takeaways from the show Dr. Dana Dorfman’s new book: When Worry Works Parental anxiety Generational divides & what adolescents are dealing with today Not letting our narrative get in the way of our teen’s path Achievement pressure 8 parent anxiety reaction types When & how our anxiety can be helpful Defining your values For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 23, 2023
Revisiting Eps 318: Alternatives to Punishment Part 1
Excited to be revisiting this limited series on alternatives to punishment! Part one explores allow for things to unfold for our teens, validating feelings and offering support if needed/asked for. See full show notes at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/alternatives-to-punishment-part-1/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 20, 2023
Eps 373: The Parent Compass through the teen years with Cindy Muchnick
My guest today is Cindy Muchnick. Listen in this week as Cindy and I talk about “The Parent Compass” book & movement, a guide for parents on how to pull back & let go through the teen years. Moving from managing everything for your little kids to pulling back & giving your teens the reins can be really hard, but we have to do it. Cindy shares some tips for inviting feedback from your adolescent and why, sometimes, we do want our kids to struggle. I ask Cindy about how to talk to teens and stay solution-focused when they don’t seem to be a good fit or interested in a typical, four-year college path. We end by sharing thoughts on over-tutoring, letter grades, monitoring your teen’s grades, & picking colleges. Takeaways from the show “The Parent Compass” book & movement Moving from manager to consultant during the teen years Inviting feedback from your teen Staying “fiercely committed & lovingly detached” Building resiliency by doing hard things Gap years & options outside of four-year colleges Conversations when your teen is struggling with academics What does “do your best” really mean? Over-tutoring, letter grades, & choosing colleges For full show notes, including transcriptions, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 16, 2023
EPS 372: SOLO What it means to pass on the energetic responsibility to our teens
Today the content comes straight from the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens FB group. I talk a lot with my clients and here on the pod about "energetic responsibility" and a mama posted a question asking me to go deeper. The result is this podcast!
Thu, March 16, 2023
EPS 372: SOLO What it means to pass on the energetic responsibility to our teens
Today's podcast is a solo show with your host, Casey O'Roarty. Today the content comes straight from the Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens Facebook group. I talk a lot with my clients and here on the pod about "energetic responsibility" and a mama posted a question asking me to go deeper. The result is this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 13, 2023
EPS 371: Mutual respect with DJ Johnson
My guest today is someone who is a friend to the JC pod, DeAntwann “DJ” Johnson. This episode is all about mutual respect. Casey and DJ start by talking about how the idea of respect has changed from the 1950’s to today, and how kids & teens today are asking to & expecting to be respected. We teach respect by being respectful. They dig into whether or not kids need to earn their dignity, our respect, and our love (spoiler: they don’t). DJ points out that the way we treat our children at home is the basis for what they expect from other adults outside of the home, and Casey explains how kids being disrespected in their home can show up as defiance & disconnection. DJ shares stepping stones you can use when young people are disrespectful, a bit about how teenage brain development plays in, and how to be a leader from a place of service for your teen. Casey finishes up by touching on the power of “and” - teaching & expecting kids to respect themselves AND the person in front of them. Takeaways from the show: Showing up respectfully and modeling respect for our teens The difference between respect and being nice Cultivating and teaching respect by being respectful, not by demanding it Kids deserve respect, dignity, & love - they don’t need to earn it Disrespect in the home showing up as defiance and disconnect Softening, respecting, and loving your kids regardless of how they’re showing up Leading from a place of service Teaching teens to respect themselves AND the person in front of them For full show notes including transcriptions, visit our website here .
Mon, March 13, 2023
Eps 371: Mutual respect with DJ Johnson
My guest today is someone who is a friend to the JC pod, DeAntwann “DJ” Johnson. This episode is all about mutual respect. Casey and DJ start by talking about how the idea of respect has changed from the 1950’s to today, and how kids & teens today are asking to & expecting to be respected. We teach respect by being respectful. They dig into whether or not kids need to earn their dignity, our respect, and our love (spoiler: they don’t). DJ points out that the way we treat our children at home is the basis for what they expect from other adults outside of the home, and Casey explains how kids being disrespected in their home can show up as defiance & disconnection. DJ shares stepping stones you can use when young people are disrespectful, a bit about how teenage brain development plays in, and how to be a leader from a place of service for your teen. Casey finishes up by touching on the power of “and” - teaching & expecting kids to respect themselves AND the person in front of them. Takeaways from the show: Showing up respectfully and modeling respect for our teens The difference between respect and being nice Cultivating and teaching respect by being respectful, not by demanding it Kids deserve respect, dignity, & love - they don’t need to earn it Disrespect in the home showing up as defiance and disconnect Softening, respecting, and loving your kids regardless of how they’re showing up Leading from a place of service Teaching teens to respect themselves AND the person in front of them For full show notes including transcriptions, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 09, 2023
Eps 370: SOLO SHOW Deep diving into encouragement
It's you and me, babe! You. And. Me. Another solo show for diving into work of parenting teens and rolling around in it together. Today I am talking about how encouragement can be a tool for relationship, skill building and showing up as our best. I share language and thoughts about how to uplevel the encouragement in YOUR home so that your teens are more likely to step into cooperation and collaboration.
Thu, March 09, 2023
SOLO SHOW: Holding the container for our teens to practice life skills
This week's episode is a solo show with your host, Casey O'Roarty. Join me during this solo show as I talk about "holding the container" for our teens to move through their experiences and practice life skills. Easier said than done. I walk us thought what this looks like in the context of sibling relationships, substance experimenting, school, chores and more - check it out and let me know what you think! Get more show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-367-solo-holding-container-teens-life-skills Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Thu, March 09, 2023
Eps 370: SOLO SHOW Deep diving into encouragement
This week's show is a solo show with your host, Casey O'Roarty. It's you and me, babe! You. And. Me. Another solo show for diving into work of parenting teens and rolling around in it together. Today I am talking about how encouragement can be a tool for relationship, skill building and showing up as our best. I share language and thoughts about how to uplevel the encouragement in YOUR home so that your teens are more likely to step into cooperation and collaboration. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 06, 2023
Eps 369: Rachel Macy Stafford teaches us how to Soul Shift
My guest today is Rachel Macy Stafford. Rachel joins Casey today to share about her new book, “Soul Shift,” and how to find joy and get back to yourself. Rachel shares the painful truth that started her journey. Casey and Rachel connect over the challenges that raising teens can bring, and how we can be present, relationship-focused, and connected with them during the tough times. Rachel shares a beautiful story about how being human and vulnerable with your teens allows them to be authentic with you, too. They touch on the messiness of teens and how we need to deeply know our children so we can best support them. Rachel shares some of her best practices to find self-worth & growth, like speaking to yourself compassionately and taking time for yourself. Takeaways from the show Cultivating the practice of presence Asking yourself and owning why you do what you do Finding time to nurture yourself Uncovering and responding to one’s deepest truths Connecting with your teen through presence Being real, authentic, & vulnerable with your teen Presence as a door opener for your teen Letting go of distractions and prioritizing connection Finding your self-worth Being in your experience vs. observing the experience For more show notes including full transcripts, visit our website here .
Mon, March 06, 2023
Eps 369: Rachel Macy Stafford teaches us how to Soul Shift
My guest today is Rachel Macy Stafford. Rachel joins Casey today to share about her new book, “Soul Shift,” and how to find joy and get back to yourself. Rachel shares the painful truth that started her journey. Casey and Rachel connect over the challenges that raising teens can bring, and how we can be present, relationship-focused, and connected with them during the tough times. Rachel shares a beautiful story about how being human and vulnerable with your teens allows them to be authentic with you, too. They touch on the messiness of teens and how we need to deeply know our children so we can best support them. Rachel shares some of her best practices to find self-worth & growth, like speaking to yourself compassionately and taking time for yourself. Takeaways from the show Cultivating the practice of presence Asking yourself and owning why you do what you do Finding time to nurture yourself Uncovering and responding to one’s deepest truths Connecting with your teen through presence Being real, authentic, & vulnerable with your teen Presence as a door opener for your teen Letting go of distractions and prioritizing connection Finding your self-worth Being in your experience vs. observing the experience For more show notes including full transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, March 03, 2023
Eps 342: Conscious Parenting with Domari Dickinson
My guest today is Domari Dickenson. Domari shares how she got started on her Conscious Parenting & Positive Discipline journey. They discuss what Conscious Parenting, Positive Parenting, & Gentle Parenting mean and if those are helpful labels. Domari shares her tips for those of us who are transitioning to a different parenting style, including identifying & digging into your own triggers, leading with love & grace, and feeling all of your feelings. Domari Dickinson is an unschooling mom of four, a certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, and a liberation partner. She provides specialized programs and coaching services that invite parents to identify their oppressive parenting practices while co-creating spaces where they can discuss how to implement more liberatory, love-centered practices that are focused on freedom, respect, and autonomy. Domari is also an educational consultant and serves on the board for the Alliance of Self-Directed Education. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 02, 2023
TBT Revisiting Eps 259 SOLO SHOW "Is this Positive Discipline?"
Bringing this show back from the vault to remember how we can get clear if we are responding to our kids in a way that is helpful and guiding them towards life skill building. Listen in as I break down the five criteria for Positive Discipline and how it looks in real life with our kids. See all the show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/TBT-259-SOLO-Is-this-positive-discipline
Thu, March 02, 2023
Revisiting Eps 259 SOLO SHOW "Is this Positive Discipline?"
Bringing this show back from the vault to remember how we can get clear if we are responding to our kids in a way that is helpful and guiding them towards life skill building. Listen in as I break down the five criteria for Positive Discipline and how it looks in real life with our kids. See all the show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/TBT-259-SOLO-Is-this-positive-discipline Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 27, 2023
Eps 368: Growing through what we’re going through with Chris Willard
My guest today is Dr. Chris Willard. Dr. Willard explains how trying to teach mindfulness to teens ended up being a learning opportunity for himself and why he wrote his new book, “How we Grow Through What We Go Through.” He explains the three types of trauma, then Casey & Chris connect on how much self-work needs to be done to parent teens. Casey asks what the first steps are for moving through triggers, and Dr. Willard shares how children & teens can be the catalyst for us to do that work. They dig into why we don’t punish adolescents and what tools to use when things do go sideways with your teen like pausing, responding vs. reacting, mindfulness, anticipating, co-regulating, building trust, & asking “what are both learning?” Dr. Willard and Casey wrap-up today by sharing some specific breathing strategies for all ages. Key takeaways from the show Post-traumatic growth The three types of trauma Doing the self-work to parent our teens First steps for moving through triggers The benefits of making amends & repair with children Why we don’t punish adolescents “Draw out their best, don’t punish out their worst” Tools for a dysregulated parent to stay connected & supportive Asking “what are both learning?” Starting early to build co-regulation strategies Breathing strategies for all-ages For full show notes including transcripts, visit our website here .
Mon, February 27, 2023
EPS 368: Growing through what we’re going through with Chris Willard
My guest today is Dr. Chris Willard. Dr. Willard explains how trying to teach mindfulness to teens ended up being a learning opportunity for himself and why he wrote his new book, “How we Grow Through What We Go Through.” He explains the three types of trauma, then Casey & Chris connect on how much self-work needs to be done to parent teens. Casey asks what the first steps are for moving through triggers, and Dr. Willard shares how children & teens can be the catalyst for us to do that work. They dig into why we don’t punish adolescents and what tools to use when things do go sideways with your teen like pausing, responding vs. reacting, mindfulness, anticipating, co-regulating, building trust, & asking “what are both learning?” Dr. Willard and Casey wrap-up today by sharing some specific breathing strategies for all ages. Key takeaways from the show Post-traumatic growth The three types of trauma Doing the self-work to parent our teens First steps for moving through triggers The benefits of making amends & repair with children Why we don’t punish adolescents “Draw out their best, don’t punish out their worst” Tools for a dysregulated parent to stay connected & supportive Asking “what are both learning?” Starting early to build co-regulation strategies Breathing strategies for all-ages For full show notes including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 23, 2023
Eps 367: SOLO SHOW Holding the container for our teens to practice life skills
Join me during this solo show as I talk about "holding the container" for our teens to move through their experiences and practice life skills. Easier said than done. I walk us thought what this looks like in the context of sibling relationships, substance experimenting, school, chores and more - check it out and let me know what you think! Get more show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-367-solo-holding-container-teens-life-skills
Thu, February 23, 2023
Eps 367: SOLO SHOW Holding the container for our teens to practice life skills
Join me during this solo show as I talk about "holding the container" for our teens to move through their experiences and practice life skills. Easier said than done. I walk us thought what this looks like in the context of sibling relationships, substance experimenting, school, chores and more - check it out and let me know what you think! Get more show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-367-solo-holding-container-teens-life-skills Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 20, 2023
EPS 366: The Parenting Map with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
My guest today is Dr. Shefali Tsabary. Dr. Shefali begins by sharing her journey into motherhood & discovering conscious parenting. She shares a bit about what her new book, “The Parenting Map” covers. Casey and Dr. Shefali talk about how challenging it is to look inward and how we work towards growth, not perfection. They dig into challenging any narratives you may have for your own children and finding your flow. Casey asks how we can get past the “smoke screen” and dig in deeper into what’s going on with misbehavior. They talk about teens practicing regulation and about how individuation & defiance are not only developmentally appropriate but necessary. Dr. Shefali shares her five F’s of parents: fighter, fixer, feigner, freezer, fleer and how to acknowledge and calm your ego. They wrap up talking on being in partnership with your child, how & why negotiating with your kids can actually be a good thing, and why we don’t use punishment. Takeaways from the show What is conscious parenting? Dr. Shefali’s new book: “The Parenting Map” The challenges of looking inward Parenting is about growth, not perfection Challenging & deconstructing your narratives The “iceberg” and “smoke screen” behind behaviors Defiance is developmentally healthy Dr. Shefali’s five F’s of parents: fighter, fixer, feigner, freezer, & fleer Acknowledging and calming your ego Why & how negotiating with your kids can be positive For complete show notes including transcripts, visit our website here .
Mon, February 20, 2023
EPS 366: The Parenting Map with Dr. Shefali Tsabary
My guest today is Dr. Shefali Tsabary. Dr. Shefali begins by sharing her journey into motherhood & discovering conscious parenting. She shares a bit about what her new book, “The Parenting Map” covers. Casey and Dr. Shefali talk about how challenging it is to look inward and how we work towards growth, not perfection. They dig into challenging any narratives you may have for your own children and finding your flow. Casey asks how we can get past the “smoke screen” and dig in deeper into what’s going on with misbehavior. They talk about teens practicing regulation and about how individuation & defiance are not only developmentally appropriate but necessary. Dr. Shefali shares her five F’s of parents: fighter, fixer, feigner, freezer, fleer and how to acknowledge and calm your ego. They wrap up talking on being in partnership with your child, how & why negotiating with your kids can actually be a good thing, and why we don’t use punishment. Takeaways from the show What is conscious parenting? Dr. Shefali’s new book: “The Parenting Map” The challenges of looking inward Parenting is about growth, not perfection Challenging & deconstructing your narratives The “iceberg” and “smoke screen” behind behaviors Defiance is developmentally healthy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 16, 2023
Eps 365: SOLO SHOW Unconditionally Loving Our Teens
This week I am exploring unconditional love and how./if this is what our teens experience from us. We may SAY that we love them no matter what, but is that the message they are getting? And what does creating a home where love is unconditional offer to our kids? Listen in and let me know what you think! See full show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-365-solo-unconditional-love-teens
Thu, February 16, 2023
EPS 356: Navigating phones and apps for teens with Titania Jordan
My guest today is Titania Jordan. Casey and Titania share an engaging, relatable conversation about kids, tweens, teens, and their access to technology & apps. Kids & teens having access to screens can be really convenient, and many of us have brought these tools into our lives. At the same time, they also bring a lot of struggles. Titania shares the importance of modeling healthy use with your own phone. They dig into how to talk to your kids about sexting, nudes, & consent. Casey asks how to know which apps are okay and how to keep up with new apps. Titania shares her thoughts on parental controls, screen time limits, & filters. They also talk about resources like Bark & Skyward, and how much parents really need to know. Takeaways from the show Struggles with teens & their screens Conversations to have with your teen about tech Modeling a healthy relationship with your phone & other screens Prioritizing face-to-face connections Sexting, nudes, & consent Knowing which apps are okay - old & new Using parental controls, screen time limits, & filters Can parents over-monitor? For more episode information including full show transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 16, 2023
Eps 365: SOLO SHOW Unconditionally Loving Our Teens
This week I am exploring unconditional love and how./if this is what our teens experience from us. We may SAY that we love them no matter what, but is that the message they are getting? And what does creating a home where love is unconditional offer to our kids? Listen in and let me know what you think! See full show notes at www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-365-solo-unconditional-love-teens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 13, 2023
EPS 364: Online mental health support with Olivia Thompson
My guest today is Olivia Thompson. Olivia shares her path to Sesh, a mental health platform for online support groups led by licensed therapists. Olivia shares what she loves about Sesh and tells Casey her thoughts on support groups and connecting with other people who are going through the same things you are. Casey & Olivia talk about the benefits of telehealth. Olivia explains how she was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, her own mental health journey, & strategies that work well for her. Casey connects Olivia’s story to how we can support and scaffold for teens & young adults with ADHD. They also touch on addiction, recovery, identifying triggers, and the stigmas & barriers around mental healthcare. Takeaways from the show Using online & telehealth resources for mental health Support groups & connecting with a community ADHD diagnosis as an adult Sesh platform & offerings Stigmas around & barriers to mental healthcare For full transcripts and more show notesm, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 09, 2023
SOLO Breaking down growth mindset, optimism, motivation and teens
This week I am thrilled to be expanding on a conversation happening in the Living Joyful Courage community around how to support a growth mindset and optimism in our teens. They have a lot going on and are coming of age in a messy world - listen in to this show to hear my take on it all. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 06, 2023
Global parenting with Hunter Clarke-Fields
My guest today is Hunter Clarke-Fields. Back from Abu Dhabi, Casey and Hunter reflect on Parenthood: The Unconference. Hunter shares how she got involved with the conference, and they remember what it was like to visit the UAE (including a trip to a camel festival and being anointed with oils)! They discuss the universality of parenting challenges despite other cultural differences. Casey and Hunter finish by sharing what tools they used to stay confident on a global stage like mindfulness, self-compassion, & preparing beforehand. Takeaways from the show Reflections on Parenthood: The Unconference Universality of parenting challenges Tools that helped Hunter & Casey feel confident and happy presenting on a global stage The power of community For full show transcripts and other details visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 02, 2023
SOLO Finding our courage to parent our teens differently
This solo show takes a closer look at how parenting with Positive Discipline does NOT equal avoiding the hard stuff, instead it is about leaning into relationship WHEN the hard stuff shows up. Being brave is something we are invited into over and over again as we parent through the seasons of adolescence. Listen in as I explore what that looks like internally, as well as externally. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 30, 2023
Being in relationship with a narcissist with Stephanie Kriesberg
My guest today is Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg. Stephanie starts by explaining what a narcissist is, what they’re driven by, & what that may look like. Stephanie shares what it’s like to be in relationship with a narcissist, how you might feel growing up with a narcissistic parent, and how that ripples out into other relationships. Casey asks for indicators that someone may be a narcissistic parent and what that relationship looks like as an adult. They talk about setting limits & boundaries that work versus cutting a parent out. Stephanie shares her wisdom on radical acceptance & letting go. Casey & Stephanie dig into how people can start dismantling their negative thinking. Takeaways from the show What is narcissism? What’s the experience of someone who’s in relationship with a narcissist? Indicators that someone might be a narcissist Role-reversal & daughters comforting mothers Relationships with narcissistic mothers as an adult Setting limits & boundaries that work Radical acceptance Dismantling negative thinking For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 26, 2023
Eps 359: Encouragement for inviting our teens to contribute
A solo show all about how to shift into the "roommate mentality" when inviting our teens to contribute and help out around the house. I know, I know, it can feel really tough to get them up and moving... But I am confident there are some nuggets here in this pod that will help you turn things around. Enjoy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 23, 2023
EPS 358: Helping teens find their own creative hustle with Olatunde Sobomehin
My guest today is Olatunde Sobomehin. Olatunde Sobomehin shares about his life-changing sabbatical and how that led to him co-authoring the book, “Creative Hustle: Blaze Your Own Path and Make Work That Matters.” Olatunde shares how to name and know your and your teen’s gifts & goals and how principles, people, & practice can help you move from gifts to goals. He shares specific questions to reflect on to discover your gifts and what he sees getting in the way for young people. They dig into how to help young adults choose work that matters while still needing to make money. Casey shares some of her story about finding and choosing work that matters to her. Sobomehin wraps up by sharing more about his book, who is profiled inside, and practical tips for encouraging your teen to stretch & find their own ‘creative hustle.’ Takeaways from the show Knowing and naming your and your teen’s gifts & goals Principles, people, and practice Questions to ask to discover your gifts What gets in the way for young people? Choosing work that matters and balancing that with finances Encouraging teens to stretch into their “creative hustle” For more episode info, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 19, 2023
Eps 357: Radical Moves for Parenting Gen Z
Today is a solo show that highlights shifting our thinking about how we are showing up for Gen Z and why this is crucial as we move through the adolescent years with our kids. I share three essential tools for making this shift in a way that strengthens relationship and provides space for our kids to discover who they're meant to be. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 09, 2023
ADHD in the adolescent years with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
My guest today is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart. Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart & Casey dig into ADHD in the adolescent years. Parents of teens with ADHD may see dysregulation looking like compulsiveness, messiness, impulsivity, & a lack of motivation. Parents may think that their kids are lazy or lacking willpower, when in reality, their executive functioning skills are truly off balance. Dr. Lockhart & Casey talk about discussing long-term goals with teens, moving backwards from there, baby steps, as well as figuring out what feels hard so we can best support them. They discuss how to support adolescents with ADHD and how that may differ from what neurotypical teen brains need. Dr. Lockhart explains what rejection sensitive dysphoria is & how to talk to teens about their ADHD. Casey asks how to get buy-in from a teen to work with an ADHD coach or other outside support or services. They finish by talking about what teens with ADHD need most. Takeaways from the show Keeping your focus on teaching life skills, not compliance What does ADHD look like in an adolescent? Misconceptions about teens with ADHD Asking “what’s hard about it?” Scaffolding & strategies like body doubling and creating a false sense of urgency Do teens with ADHD need different things to support brain development than a neurotypical adolescent? Rejection sensitive dysphoria Talking to teens about their ADHD Getting your teen to utilize an ADHD coach or other outside support What do teens with ADHD need most? For more episode details including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 05, 2023
Eps 354: SOLO - The Power of Community
Today I am on solo to talk about moving into a new year and how community supports us in growing through what we are going through. I am here to speak directly to you, the listener, and hopeful that you feel seen and heard in what I share. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 03, 2023
EPS 353: Sobriety with Casey Davidson
My guest today is Casey Davidson. Casey Davidson shares her path to sobriety and becoming a sober coach. Davidson explains what Dry January is - one of five adults in the US did Dry January last year! Davidson shares which demographics are drinking more & less and how the pandemic ramped up consumption. Casey Davidson shares the effects of alcohol on the body, even for light and moderate drinkers, and some benefits that come with not drinking. They discuss what obstacles can pop up for people who are not drinking. Casey Davidson shares about the “sober curious” movement - experimenting with not drinking without the pressure of giving up alcohol completely. They dig into the highs and lows of the first 30 days of sobriety and the best “quit lit.” Takeaways from the show Experimenting with sobriety Dry January Normalization of drinking in our culture Impacts of using alcohol to “take the edge off” Benefits of not drinking Obstacles of not drinking The “sober curious” movement The first 30 days of sobriety Finding the approach that resonates with you The best “Quit Lit” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 26, 2022
EPS 352: SOLO - Wrapping up 2022
Join Casey for the final show of 2022! Casey’s solo this episode, recapping and reflecting on the year and welcoming 2023. She revisits her 2022 vision board and some of her favorite episodes & guests from the year. Casey ends the show by leading an end-of-year manifestation ritual. Takeaways from the show: Themes & challenges during the holiday season Releasing 2022 & welcoming 2023 Favorite Joyful Courage episodes this year Make a list of the things you did this year Letting go of & releasing the things you’re done with For complete transcripts and complete show info, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 19, 2022
EPS 351: Intergenerational trauma and reparenting with Ivy Kwong
My guest today is Ivy Kwong. Ivy shares about her journey to become a psychotherapist and how she’s healing her relationship and connecting with her parents. Ivy talks about increasing your capacity for discomfort and staying regulated during conversations. Casey and Ivy dig into genetic & experiential intergenerational trauma and how to start healing by expanding your awareness and reparenting yourself. They talk about knowing your inner-selves at different ages and what brings them out. Casey asks what clues we can look for that we have trauma to heal and if we need apologies from parents to move forward. Ivy explains setting boundaries with our parents. Casey and Ivy wrap up by talking about finding compassion for ourselves on our journey. Key takeaways from the podcast: Creating safe spaces for conversations Increasing your capacity for discomfort Healing intergenerational trauma Reparenting ourselves Knowing your inner-selves at different ages Clues that you have trauma to heal The desire to change our parents Setting boundaries with our parents Finding compassion for ourselves For more details including complete transcripts visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, December 15, 2022
Revisiting Eps 302: Creating tradition and connection with Ericka Souter
Happy to have this episode to lean back on as we find ourselves in yet another holiday season! Ericka came on last year and talk to me about expectations, flexibility, and communication with our teens during this somewhat-stressful-but-we-want-everyone-to-be-happy time of year. The struggle is real, right!? Ericka provides thoughtful ideas around tradition, gratitude and prioritizing OUR happiness during this season. You can find the full show notes for this episode by going to: https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-302-creating-tradition-and-connection-with-ericka-souter/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 12, 2022
EPS 350: Self-care while raising teens with Elise Knox
My guest today is Elise Knox. Casey and Elise share thoughts and advice on taking care of ourselves while connecting with our teens. How do we keep it together during the turbulent teenage years? Elise shares how she stays grounded, then Casey and Elise explore what a parent’s role is during the teen years & how parents can define and get their needs met. They discuss how to show up helpfully, not hurtfully, in the most challenging moments, how to build relationship before the teen years, and how to show up when your teen isn’t feeling connected to you. Elise touches on how we can have empathy and compassion for teenage troubles without projecting our experiences as adolescents. Casey and Elise close by talking about what teens want & need from their parents. Takeaways from the show Keeping it together during the turbulent teen years Staying grounded & calm while holding boundaries Controlling your nervous system A parent’s role & needs during the teen years How to show up in challenging moments to be helpful and not hurtful Phases, behaviors, and challenges won’t last forever Showing up for your teen when they aren’t feeling connected with you Building relationship before the teen years Having compassion for teen troubles without projecting What teens want & need from us For more podcast details including transcription, visit our website . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 05, 2022
EPS 349: Teaching financial literacy with Jean Chatzky and Kathryn Tuggle
Today's guests are Jean Chatzky and Kathryn Tuggle. Casey, Jean and Kathryn discuss their new book, "How to Money". Key takeaways from the show: How do young people learn financial literacy like short-term spending and long-term planning? What are families missing when they teach their children about money? Tracking spending, budgeting, & apps What resources can parents use to educate themselves to better educate their kids about finances? When to start teaching kids/teens about money Teens working & earning their own money Why or why not connect allowance/payment to chores How to help your teen set-up an IRA Tips for teens regarding choosing majors & schools, student loans, and first jobs Find more details about the show on our website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 28, 2022
EPS 348: How to be an adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims
My guest today is Julie Lythcott-Haims. Casey and Julie chat about Julie’s newest book, “Your Turn: How to Be an Adult,” including what topics are covered, reactions from young adults & parents, and what Julie was hoping for while she wrote this book. They talk on how young adults learn to “fend for themselves” and find self-acceptance. Casey and Julie dig into how and when young adults claim their own narratives and the challenges of when that’s different from your vision for them. They get into the unknown and lifelong effects of Gen Z and the pandemic and wrap-up by touching on how great self-agency and problem-solving feels for everyone, especially these young adults. Takeaways from the show How young people learn to “fend for themselves” What surprises young adults when they move away from home Using Julie’s new book “Your Turn: How to Be an Adult” as a roadmap for adulthood Young adults claiming their own narratives (and when that’s different from your own vision for them) Young adults finding self-acceptance COVID-19 impacting Gen Z Self-agency & problem-solving Looking for more? Check out our website for more + transcripts of the episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 21, 2022
EPS 347: Supporting kids through divorce with Alicia Robertson
My guest today is Alicia Robertson. Casey and Alicia discuss how to keep and grow your self-worth, healthy boundaries, communication, and confidence during and after divorce. Alicia advises on what to share with kids about your divorce and how to give them (and yourself) safety, security, and stability during this complex, emotional time. Casey and Alicia talk custody agreements, single parenting, co-parenting challenges, and tweens and teens having a parental preference. They wrap up by digging into dating after divorce. Takeaways from the show: Creating a new family dynamic after divorce What kids need to know about divorce and why you’re separating Boundaries, communication, follow-through, and safety with your previous partner Responding instead of reacting Typical custody agreements Single parenting & co-parenting Tweens and teens having strong opinions & parental preferences Dating after divorce See full show details including transcription here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 16, 2022
Revisiting Eps 183: Your kids are not manipulating you
Another throwback!! Love going into the vault to revisit some of the Joyful Courage solo shows of the past. This one is especialy sweet. Our teens are doing the best they can with the tools they have in the moment. They are responding to the external events and experineces around them. Listen in as I guide listeners through an experiential activity that highlights how the WAY we communicate influences how our kids are feeling, thinking and deciding to do. You're kids are not manipulating you. Get the full show notes for this show on our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 14, 2022
EPS 346: Raising Emotionally Healthy Men with Todd Adams
My guest today is Todd Adams. Todd and Casey talk about raising young, straight, cis-gendered, white men and how to balance teaching them about the responsibility that comes with their privilege without over-burdening them. They discuss what it means to “be a man” and how to nurture a young man’s emotional intelligence & the importance of modeling. Todd shares how important it is for parents to be self-aware, curious, and willing to learn. He gives strategies for connecting with and calling-in teenagers and why to connect when they’re ready. Casey and Todd remind us that there’s not a perfect script, but an ongoing conversation, when it comes to tough topics like consent, substance use, & being advocates. Todd wraps up by talking about what healthy masculinity and “mature masculinity” look like to him. Takeaways from the show Raising teenagers is messy- especially right now. What is privilege? What does it mean to “be a man?” What are the men in your home modeling for your teens? What do boys need from their parents? What are ways to call-in & connect with teens? It’s natural for kids to pull away from us in their teen years. There’s no script for tough topics with teens like consent & being advocates - it’s an ongoing conversation. What is healthy masculinity? For more see our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 07, 2022
EPS 345: Tough Conversations about Elections with Dr. Anjali Ferguson
My guest today is Dr. Anjali Ferguson. Dr. Anjali Ferguson and Casey dig deep in this episode on how to be in conversation with teens about social-political issues, including abortion. Dr. Ferguson weighs in on if we should bring up tricky topics or wait for children to ask questions and gives tips on how to be ready for emotionally-charged topics. They share advice on when and how to take a moment during challenging conversations and the work that’s needed to parent differently than we were parented. Dr. Ferguson explains how to validate and hear what your teen is sharing, even when you have a difference of opinion. Casey asks Dr. Ferguson about best practices for being open with tweens and teens, especially regarding reproductive rights. They talk about the pros and cons of teenagers getting news and information from social media like TikTok. Dr. Ferguson shares how Parenting Culture provides resources for and supports families of different races, faiths, and cultures to address tough topics and difficult questions. She wraps up by speaking on openness, racial socialization, and cultural identity. Key takeaways from the show All kids and teens will ask you hard questions and want answers - expect it & prepare to be open Inviting open dialogue, staying non-judgmental, & communicating around emotionally-charged topics How to handle your child or teen having different opinions than you do Kids will stop coming to us if they don’t feel heard, seen, & validated, especially when we have differing opinions Knowing when to be open with tweens & teens, especially regarding reproductive rights and when to fall back on facts Destigmatizing why people choose abortion How do we handle teens getting their news and information from social media like TikTok? Asking questions to model & foster critical thinking Resources for families of different races, faiths, and cultures to address difficult questions and tough topics like reproductive rights, Covid-19, healthcare, & more What’s racial socialization? What’s your cultural identity? Looking for more? Find all the show details on our website here: www.besproutable.com/podcasts/tough-conversations-election-anjali-ferguson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, November 03, 2022
Revisiting Eps 185: Being fiercely committed and lovingly detached
So glad to be highlighting this show again - wowzer. This is such a profound invitation, every day, to be who our teens need then to be. Yes, love them with all of you, stand by them, AND give them space to discover all there is to learn from mistakes and risks, triumphs and failures - these are THEIRS to experience. Doesn't mean we abandon them, it DOES mean that we love them through it all regardless of how it looks. This is what all kids need, even those adult ones! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 31, 2022
EPS 344: Boundaries & consequences with Aly Pain
Aly shares about her own tough teen years and how she started working with parents of teens. Casey & Aly dig into what misguided ideas parents of teens have and what new brain science is showing us, like behavior-based parenting (ie: punishments and rewards) leading to acting-out & defiance and how much brains grow & change during puberty. Aly explains what a boundary truly is, and why children & teens should not and cannot be responsible for parent’s feelings. She shares how common co-dependence is for Gen X and Gen Y and how that can lead to controlling or catering to your teen along with a sense of responsibility for others feelings and behaviors. Casey breaks down being kind & firm at the same time. Aly defines boundaries and expectations with examples as well as how & why to stay compassionate and curious with your teen. Aly wraps up by explaining what teens need to show their best effort, including in an antiquated school system. Takeaways from the show: Misguided ideas about the teen years We parent the way we were parented The strategies that worked well with your young child will not work with that same child in the teen years 100% of behavior is driven by emotion; we must learn relationship-skills and how to connect Gen X and Gen Y were raised with a heavy responsibility for their parent’s feelings, leading to co-dependence Everyone, including parents and teens, are worthy and deserving of respect You are responsible for your own feelings and behaviors and not anyone else’s (including your teens) What really is a boundary? What’s the difference between a boundary and an expectation? Staying compassionate and curious with your teen Effort = belief in self + belief in a probable success + understanding the risk of failure Parenting is a process that starts with you: be gracious, let it be messy, & it’s never too late to change a relationship For more information + transcripts go to our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 27, 2022
Eps 343: SHORT Solo Show Leaving on a jet plane....
I'm outta here!! For real. I am on a plane with Julietta Skoog, my partner at Sproutable headed out on a WORLD TOUR!! We land later today in the UAE and will be speaking at the Parenthood Unconference next week, alongside so many amazing speakers. Listen to this SHORT solo show to hear all about it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 24, 2022
Conscious Parenting with Domari Dickinson
My guest today is Domari Dickinson. Domari shares how she got started on her Conscious Parenting & Positive Discipline journey. They discuss what Conscious Parenting, Positive Parenting, & Gentle Parenting mean and if those are helpful labels. Domari shares her tips for those of us who are transitioning to a different parenting style, including identifying & digging into your own triggers, leading with love & grace, and feeling all of your feelings. Takeaways from the show: What does being a conscious parent mean? Doing the work ourselves & focusing on personal growth Unpacking your bags and identifying your triggers Leading with love & grace Get comfortable asking yourself “why?” Being okay with not having “the right answer” Feeling & accepting all of your feelings For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 20, 2022
Mothers Quest Crossover Episode: Different is NOT Deficient with Normal Sucks author, Jonathan Mooney
Listeners - you are in for a TREAT!! This Thursday the Joyful Courage podcast feed is being taken over by my good friend, Julie Neale, host and brilliance over at Mothers Quest Podcast . Julie has powerful conversations with incredible guests and I am honored to be sharing one of those convos here with the Joyful Courage community. Julie's guest is Jonathan Mooney , father, writer, speaker, activist, and self-described “do-gooder.” He is the author of Normal Sucks, How to Live, Learn and Thrive Outside the Lines . Jonathan forged his own path to Brown University where he co-founded an organization and co-wrote a book to help neurodivergent students like himself succeed in college. He has been a champion for neurological and physical diversity for more than two decades, and goes deep and wide with Julie about the pervasive impact of institutionalized and cultural ableism and his quest to help himself and others with differences understand they are not deficient. You are IN FOR A TREAT MY FRIENDS!! While you're at it, be sure to check out MothersQuest episode 93 where Julie's son, a freshman at UCLA, interviews Jonathan about neurodivergent activism and more! Appreciating you all so much! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 17, 2022
EPS 341: Exploring our Intimate Partnerships with Marriage Helper Kimberly Holmes
My guest today is Kimberly Holmes. Kimberly and Casey talk about their family backgrounds and what common challenges long-term, committed couples are facing. They discuss couples therapy and intentionally supporting both spouses & a safe environment during Marriage Helpers workshops. Casey and Kimberly talk similarities and differences between problem solving, using curiosity questions, and compromising with a teen versus with a spouse. Kimberly shares advice on how to listen to and take feedback from a partner and tips on how parents can find common ground when it comes to their teens. Casey and Kimberly wrap up digging into the importance of consistency, relationships ending, and the challenges of co-parenting. Takeaways: How do the teen years affect your partnership with your spouse? Pushing or pulling out of a marriage How do you show up in your relationship? Genuinely asking your spouse questions with curiosity Receiving feedback from a spouse without getting defensive Finding common ground, empathy, & being teammates with your spouse Do parents need to have the same parenting style? Can every marriage be saved? When is it time to call it quits? Having peace in your decisions Co-parenting challenges, disappointments, & tips Find full show notes here: http://www.besproutable.com/eps-341-exploring-intimate-partnerships-kimberly-holmes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 13, 2022
Revisiting Eps 115: Exploring Trust and Surrender as I Navigate all there is to Learn While Raising a Teen
I am so grateful to be bringing back this show. It was a powerful re-listen for me, and I remembered the tension of the early teen years, the mistakes my daughter was telling me she was making, and how challenging it was to hold it all and still feel like I knew what I was doing. If you are committed to relationship centered parenting AND struggling with your teens risky behavior or less than ideal decision making, this show will help you feel seen, no doubt. If you are interested in the waitlist for my membership program, head to www.besproutable.com/ljc . For more complete shownotes for this show go to https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-115-solo-show-exploring-trust-and-surrender-as-i-navigate-all-there-is-to-learn-while-raising-a-teen/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 10, 2022
EPS 340: Raising Anti-Racist Children with Britt Hawthorne
My guest today is Britt Hawthorne. Casey and Britt dig into what being anti-biased and anti-racist mean. Britt shares strategies from her new book, “Raising Anti-Racist Children: A Practical Parenting Guide,” for talking about racism with children and teens including embracing getting uncomfortable & admitting what you don’t know. Britt shares her wisdom on how to tackle tough topics like police brutality with your kids and family. Guest Description Britt Hawthorne is a black, bi-racial mama, teacher, author, and anti-bias & anti-racist facilitator. Britt partners with caregivers, educators, and families to raise the next generation of anti-racist children. Together with her beloved partner, they are raising their kids to be empathetic, critical thinkers embracing justice and activism. Her days are filled with coffee, teaching, and joy. You can find out more about Britt at www.britthawthorne.com . See full show notes here: http://www.besproutable.com/raising-anti-racist-children-with-britt-hawthorne/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 06, 2022
Eps 339: Solo show Having the Courage to Let Go
Raising teenagers is HARD. This solo show explores the dynamic we create when we work to hold on to control and what come alive when we are willing to let go and give our kids the space they need to develop the skills that will serve them in the long term. Get the full show notes at: www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-339-solo-having-the-courage-to-let-go Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 03, 2022
EPS 338: Birds & Bees for Teens with Amy Lang
My guest today is Amy Lang. Amy and Casey discuss the importance of and how to talk about sex and sexuality with your tweens and teens. This conversation covers sex, sexuality, consent, sex positivity, pornography, safe spaces for sex, gender. They also share resources and tips for these sometimes-awkward conversations with growing kids. Amy Lang has been a sexual health educator for over 25 years. In 2006, she started Birds & Bees & Kids. With her lively, engaging, and down-to-earth style she helps parents become comfortable and confident talking with their kids. Amy’s books, online solutions center , and podcast show parents they really can become their kids' go-to birds and bees source. Amy is still married to her first husband, and they are getting the hang of parenting their recently launched man-child. She lives in Seattle, WA, and you can learn more about her work at BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com and BBKPros.com . Find out more here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 29, 2022
Revisiting Eps 171: Being the Calm Inside the Storm
Throwing it back this week to episode 171, a solo show were I explore the work of keeping it together when things fall apart. I would argue this is THE work. If you are someone who find youself getting on the emotional freight train with your kids, this show is for you. I share ideas and practices that will support you with staying in the present moment and being who your kids need you to be when they are having a hard time. Find all the show notes on the original show page - https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-171-solo-show-being-the-calm-inside-the-storm/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 26, 2022
Eps 337: Creating Community for Moms of Bigs with Esther Goetz
Today I am interviewing Esther Goetz. Esther is the mama behind the wildly popular instagram account, Moms of Bigs. We spent time in this interview talking about the power of community during this season of parenting, and how authenticity and transparency about our experiences creates deeper connections with each other, and supports us in moving through the hard times. See the full show notes at: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 22, 2022
Eps 336: Solo show Helping Our Teens Feel Seen
Today I am back with a FRESH solo show for you! I dig into the phrase "I believe you" as I understand it from Dr. Becky Kennedy's work. What would have happened if our parents had said that to us as teens? What could it open up in our relationship with our OWN teens if we are willing to say it to them? Enjoy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 19, 2022
EPS 335: Positive Discipline with Fernanda Lee
My guest today is Fernanda Lee. Fernanda Lee, M.A.Ed, holds a degree in business administration and worked for Accenture, Bank of America and other investment brokers, until she became a mother, and decided to learn more about child development. Fernanda now holds a Master Degree in Education, with a Pupil Personnel Services credential, and has served as a school counselor in elementary and middle public schools. She is a lead trainer in Positive Discipline, serving parents, health professionals, teachers, early childhood educators, couples, and professionals in the workplace in the United States, Brazil, Portugal and Luxembourg. Fernanda was featured in two national magazines “Escola” and “English as a Foreign Language” discussing the practical application of Positive Discipline in the classroom. She is very thankful to be raising her two teenagers with Positive Discipline, as without it she would have pulled out all her hair. Takeaways from the show: How Fernanda first got involved with Positive Discipline Changes in your relationship as your kids grow older Using Positive Discipline with older adolescents and teens Some of the biggest challenges that come with parenting teens Listening to and having open discussions with your teen Being understanding and respectful with your kids Saying no in a productive way to teens Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 15, 2022
"Is this Positive Discipline?"
I am revisiting Eps 259, exploring the question, "is this Positive Discipline?" Parents in the trenches of naviagating challenging behavior often wonder if what they are doing fits under the PD umbrella. I tease this apart for you with the intention of offering listeners a deeper understanding and encouragement to support them in the Positive Discipline practice. Find the show notes for this show at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/eps-259-solo-show-exploring-is-this-positive-discipline/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 12, 2022
EPS 334: LISA LEWIS TEENS AND SLEEP
My guest today is Lisa L. Lewis. We discuss... How Lisa first got involved with teens sleep needs and changing school start times Why teens can struggle to get the sleep they need The issues that can come with teens not getting enough sleep How to help your teens move into a rhythm that allows them to get the sleep they need The ways technology affects sleep How to push for a change in school start times in your community And more! Lisa is the author of The Sleep-Deprived Teen: Why Our Teenagers Are So Tired, And How Parents And Schools Can Help Them Thrive, described as “a call to action” by Arianna Huffington and “an urgent and timely read” by Daniel H. Pink. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 05, 2022
EPS 333: SOLO SHOW BACK-TO-SCHOOL PREP FOR ADOLESCENTS
This week is a solo show where your host Casey O’Roarty discusses back-to-school strategies for talking with your tweens and teens about expectations in the new school year. Takeaways from the show Working through feelings for the upcoming school year with your teens Talking through goals and expectations with your teenagers Staying calm when talking to your teen about the school year Letting your kids take their own responsibility with their grades Trusting your children to decide what opportunities are important to them Allowing your kids to find their own motivation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 29, 2022
Making Things Right with Kristin Hovious
Hi Listeners! Welcome to the Joyful courage 2022 Summer Throwback series! We are wrapping up these throwbacks and are super excited to be offering up BRAND NEW SHOWS to you beginning next week! Today I am going way back to share a raw and vulnerable conversation with my friend and colleague, Kristin Hovious. You have heard me say before that part of our work as parents is to clean things up when WE have made a mistake or contributed to a dynamic that is hurtful in our home. Kristin and I tease this apart, tell our own stories of making amends to our kids, and offer tools to support you in this powerful work. Listen to it on the website at besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 22, 2022
Summer Throwback: Eps 242 Encouraging Self-Drive with Ned Johnson
Hi Listeners! Welcome to the Joyful courage 2022 Summer Throwback series! We are all busy enjoying the long days of sunshine, and I wanted to be sure that you have some useful listening material to enjoy - so I will be sharing some of my favorite shows from the past with you weekly through July and August. Today I am sharing an episode that I send to parents all.the.time. It is my conversation with Ned Johnson about HOW to encourage our kids to be self-driven. Ned is awesome - super easy to talk to, with practical, real world advice on being in conversation. We all want our kids to live up to their potential - AND its really on THEM to get there - so, yeah, this show is the bomb. Listen to it on the website at besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 15, 2022
Summer Throwback: Eps 293 Doing It Differently With DJ Johnson
Hi Listeners! Welcome to the Joyful courage 2022 Summer Throwback series! We are all busy enjoying the long days of sunshine, and I wanted to be sure that you have some useful listening material to enjoy - so I will be sharing some of my favorite shows from the past with you weekly through July and August. I am bringing back my interview with DJ Johnson today because… Well, because i just loved this interview. I loved this interview, I love DJs energy and I love his message. Dj shows us that we all have the choice to parent better, no matter the background we come from. He is a fierce advocate for kids and invites us all to rise to our best selves FOR THEM. It's such a treat to revisit this conversation. Listen to it on the website at besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 08, 2022
Summer Throwback: Eps 264 Talking Middle Schoolers with Michelle Icard
Hi Listeners! Welcome to the Joyful courage 2022 Summer Throwback series! We are all busy enjoying the long days of sunshine, and I wanted to be sure that you have some useful listening material to enjoy - so I will be sharing some of my favorite shows from the past with you weekly through July and August. I am really excited to revisit this interview I did with Michelle Icard. We dig into the middle school years, and the WHAT and HOW of crucial conversations you should be having with them. Michelle is brilliant and I know you will be taking away a ton from our convo. Listen to it on the website at besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 01, 2022
Summer Throwback: Eps 230 Kids and Food with Bracha Kopstick
Hi Listeners! Welcome to the Joyful courage 2022 Summer Throwback series! We are all busy enjoying the long days of sunshine, and I wanted to be sure that you have some useful listening material to enjoy - so I will be sharing some of my favorite shows from the past with you weekly through July and August. This week on the show I am offering up my conversation with Bracha Kopstick, adolescent nutritionist and grounded voice in the conversation of our kids and food. I have so many clients who are worried about their child's diet, their weight, their body image. This conversation with Bracha breaks it all down and will leave you feeling confident in having empowering conversations with your kids about how they are feeding themselves. Find it on the website at besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 25, 2022
Summer Throwback: PDTV with Aisha Pope Positive Discipline for Social Justice
Hi Listeners! Welcome to the Joyful courage 2022 Summer Throwback series! We are all busy enjoying the long days of sunshine, and I wanted to be sure that you have some useful listening material to enjoy - so I will be sharing some of my favorite shows from the past with you weekly through July and August. This week on the show is super special because it isn’t a podcast that I am sharing, but a PDTV episode. January - June of 2022, my partner, Julietta Skoog and I did a monthly event that we called PDTV where we interviewed some outstanding Positive Discipline Educators and Trainers about the work they are doing in the communities they serve. The resulting conversations were fascinating! Today I am sharing our conversation with Aisha Pope and we go deep into the team that put together PD Tools for kids and how Positive Discipline and Adlerian theory(I the foundation that PD stands on) are the way to world peace . Aisha is candid and brilliant and I know you are going to love this interview! Find it on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QxuJg18JCdc Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 18, 2022
Summer Throwback: Eps 143 making mistakes with Mary Nelsen Tamborski
Hi Listeners! Welcome to the Joyful courage 2022 Summer Throwback series! We are all busy enjoying the long days of sunshine, and I wanted to be sure that you have some useful listening material to enjoy - so I will be sharing some of my favorite shows from the past with you weekly through July and August. This week on the show I am sharing a conversation with one of my favorite PD colleagues - Mary Nelsen Taborski. There is SO MUCH PD goodness packed into this episode, including what it was like for Mary to grow up with a mom who was seen as a parenting guru. I know you will fall love her - just like I do! Find it on the website at besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 11, 2022
Summer Throwback: Eps 178 beyond the birds and bees with Bonnie Rough
Hi Listeners! Welcome to the Joyful courage 2022 Summer Throwback series! We are all busy enjoying the long days of sunshine, and I wanted to be sure that you have some useful listening material to enjoy - so I will be sharing some of my favorite shows from the past with you weekly through July and August. This week on the show you are in for it - Bonnie Rough is on and we are talking about our tweens and teens and their sexual development - cue the emoji with the big eyes - we gotta talk about it people. Believe me, you think you know how you are going to handle things and then your kids enter into intimate relationships and wowzer - thighs get real. I love this conversation with Bonnie, it’s helpful! Find it on the website at besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 04, 2022
Summer Throwback: Eps 215 on Showing Up with Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson
Hi Listeners! Welcome to the Joyful courage 2022 Summer Throwback series! We are all busy enjoying the long days of sunshine, and I wanted to be sure that you have some useful listening material to enjoy - so I will be sharing some of my favorite shows from the past with you weekly through July and August. I am kicking things off by returning to a show that had me fan girling all over the place… Not one, but TWO of my fave voices in parent education made time to talk with me - it was amazing. Episode 215 with Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson. We talk all about the book they co-authored, The Power of Showing up. Find it on the website at besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 27, 2022
Eps 332: Solo Show- The Challenges of Giving Up Control with Our Teens
In this episode, Casey breaks down what “getting out of your kid’s way” looks like and the challenges of giving up control. For access to the show notes, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, June 23, 2022
THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 276 with Rae McDaniel
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Mon, June 20, 2022
Eps 331: Raising Allies with Traci Baxley
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Thu, June 16, 2022
THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 248 with Maureen Muldoon
Thursday Throwback! This week we are revisiting Episode 248. This show originally came out in November of 2020. Offers and products mentioned during the show are likely outdated. Enjoy! Maureen Muldoon is a a spiritual Pied Piper, shameless storyteller and speaker who is transforming the way people think of church, sex, spirituality, and creativity. Actress, author, activist, she celebrates the miracles that live beneath the mundane and is devoted to helping others to CREATE their most engaged and unapologetic life. Today we are going to talk about her experience of mothering a transgender son. For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 13, 2022
Eps 330: Learning about the Parenting Identity Development Model with Mercedes Samudio
My guest this week is Mercedes Samudio. Mercedes is a parent coach, LCSW, bestselling author, and speaker who helps parents and children communicate with each other, manage emotional trauma, navigate social media and technology together, and develop healthy parent-child relationships. Over the course of her career, Mercedes has worked with adoptive families, foster families, teen parents, parents navigating the child protective services system, and children living with mental illness. Mercedes started the #EndParentShaming movement as well as coined the term Shame-Proof Parenting – using both to bring awareness to ending parent shame. She published the book, Shame Proof Parenting: Find Your Unique Parenting Voice, Feel Empowered, and Raise Whole, Healthy Children . For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, June 09, 2022
Revisiting Eps 35: How to Support LGBTQ+ Youth with Dr. Jen O'Ryan
Thursday Throwback! This week we are revisiting Episode 35. This show originally came out in March of 2016. Offers and products mentioned during the show are likely outdated. Enjoy! Dr. Jen O’Ryan provides guidance for parents to help them navigate their child’s coming out process, as well as questions about sexuality and gender. She completed her doctorate in Human Behavior with a focus on environmental factors during childhood and adolescence for sexual minorities. Dr. Jen also works closely with other caring adults on developing more inclusive, safe spaces for LGBTQ individuals in the workplace and community. Through years of research and advocacy, Jen brings an extensive background on factors contributing to healthy development during childhood and adolescence for LGBTQ youth. Jen and I talk about the experience kids are having as they come to understand gender and sexual orientation. We discuss the biggest challenges for the kids and their parents, and how we can all be a part in supporting all kids, in celebration of differences, being advocates and allies. For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 06, 2022
Eps 329: Being With What's Coming Up for Your Teen
This week's episode is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Difference between controlling our teens vs being with them Punishments are not the only tool for navigating behavior Trust your teens want to learn and evolve Remembering life is unfolding FOR us Ask yourself if your fear for your teen is valid Look for openings to offer curiosity Feel seen- when our kids are struggling it’s hard Leaning into an energy of comfort Keep showing up for your teen Surrender to what is now while also holding onto the fact that nothing stays the same Be curious and supportive about what your kids want Get out of the way and trust your kids For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 01, 2022
Eps 328: Kirsten Cobabe Teaches Us How to Deepen Our Relationships With Teens
My guest this week is Kirsten Cobabe. Kirsten has worked with families for over twenty years, supporting parents and young people navigating the waves of adolescence by becoming authentically curious and truly present. During her time as a social worker, she was coined the Teen Whisperer . Her ability to meet young people where they are and invite parents into this world offers a new space for connection; a modern lens of radical acceptance. Kirsten guides families into an empowered, joyful and connected life during some of the most transformative years. She has coached countless parents and caregivers, helping them to recalibrate and strengthen their relationship with their teens. She supports families in fostering rapport, cultivating conscious connections, transforming obstacles and restoring harmony in the home. While recognizing the unique struggles of this generation, Kirsten also sees the need to nourish the creative force behind each person she is fortunate to encounter. As we raise our consciousness, we can raise the next generation. For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 26, 2022
THURSDAY THROWBACK: Eps 266 with Dr. Jud Brewer
Thursday Throwback! This week we are revisiting Episode 266. This show originally came out in March of 2021. Offers and products mentioned during the show are likely outdated. Enjoy! My guest is Jud Brewer. Dr. Jud is a thought leader in the field of habit change and the “science of self-mastery”, having combined over 20 years of experience with mindfulness training with his scientific research therein. He is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in Behavioral and Social Sciences and Psychiatry at the Schools of Public Health & Medicine at Brown University. He is also the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare Inc. and a research affiliate at MIT. A psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for addictions, Brewer has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including both in-person and app-based treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety. For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 23, 2022
Eps 327: Revisiting Fiercely Committed, Lovingly Detached
This week's show is a solo show. Takeaways from the show Personal growth of life Reflecting on self reflection Seeing life as a spiral Growing as a mom and woman through experiences The mantra of fiercely committed, lovingly detached Breaking down being lovingly detached Making space for our kids to take responsibility for their life Breathing exercise For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 19, 2022
THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 270 with Dr. Aprile Andelle
Thursday Throwback! This week we are revisiting Episode 270. This show originally came out in April of 2021. Offers and products mentioned during the show are likely outdated. Enjoy! My guest is Dr. Aprile Andelle. Dr. Andelle is a black woman licensed psychotherapist with over 9 years and 10,000+ hours of experience in “deep dive healing” work with amazing clients all around the world. She hosts the ‘Do I Need Therapy™? Podcast Show available on Apple and Google Podcasts, Spotify, and Stitcher, and speaks to her community openly, loudly, and proudly about mental health, love and life, PLUS the process of therapy, and the strength found in asking for help. She teaches amazing, highly ambitious women, and women of color, the skills of *long-lasting* positive mental health in overcoming stress, overwhelm, anxiety, depression, and trauma, including her “Every April” psychological spring cleaning course offered every springtime, in April to support the fierce, yet sensitive woman achieve positive mental health all year long. She specializes in online and virtual therapy and offers mental wellness support for all through her mental health masterclasses, courses, and meditations. She is a world traveler currently based in Miami, loves all things declutter and minimal lifestyle—except plants… She says, “you can never have too many plants and green stuff” — is described as “that unique kind of person who makes lifelong friends in 24 hours or less”, and can often be found on Instagram watching endless reels of laugh-out-loud, therapy memes and reenactments or enjoying a “deep, campfire-style” conversation on Clubhouse. For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 16, 2022
Eps 326: Zen Parenting with Cathy Adams
My guest today is Cathy Cassani Adams. She co-hosts the Zen Parenting Radio podcast and is author of Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World , which came out this year in February. She also wrote Living What You Want Your Kids to Learn: The Power of Self-Aware Parenting (2014) which won a Nautilus Award, National Indie Excellence Award, and an International Book Award. She is a clinical social worker, certified parent coach, former elementary school educator, and yoga teacher. Cathy teaches in the Sociology/Criminology Department at Dominican University, and she lives outside of Chicago with her husband Todd and their three daughters. For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 12, 2022
THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 43 with Jiovann Carrasco
Thursday Throwback! This week we are revisiting Episode 43. This show originally came out in May of 2016. Offers and products mentioned during the show are likely outdated. Enjoy! Welcome! My guest is Jiovann Carrasco, a psychotherapist in Austin, TX. Jiovann is the owner of the Austin Mindfulness Center , a meditator, and the author of an online mindfulness program called Follow your Breath. He is an engaged and connected father to two young kids and worked as a stay-at-home dad for two years! Let’s jump into this topic of mindfulness with Jiovann! For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 09, 2022
Eps 325: SOLO SHOW Parenting for Mental Wellness
This week’s episode is a SOLO show! Trigger Warning: depression, talk of suicide. Takeaways from the show Normalizing mental health conversations The most powerful tool you have is relationship Connection is key No shame in getting help Therapy is for everyone Our teens need invitation to possibility Stand in confident authority At the end of the day, our kids need to lean into helping themselves Show up but let go of the outcome For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 05, 2022
THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 170: Exploring the Energy of Emotion with Sara Harvey Yao
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Mon, May 02, 2022
Eps 324: Mental Health for Moms with Charlotte Avery
Charlotte Avery is an author, speaker, and entrepreneur who is fiercely committed to helping women go from overwhelmed to overjoyed in their roles as wives and moms. As The Family Strategist™, she draws upon her experiences as the wife of 1, mother of 7, and owner of no pets, to give moms the tools they need to define for themselves what it means to have it all. As a mom of seven, Charlotte became consumed by her children’s needs and lost touch with her identity, but when she learned how to blend instead of balance her life, Charlotte was able to make time for herself, which helped her reconnect with who she was. Now, as The Family Strategist™, Charlotte helps all moms do the same, teaching them how to love themselves, strengthen their families, live authentically, and do it in style. You can find more about her at her website; beingcharlotteavery.com For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 28, 2022
THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 98 with Kerry Foreman
Meet Kerry Foreman, psychotherapist, mother, wife and mindfulness guide. Kerry’s practice and blog, Grounded, settles around mindfulness awareness and the practice to live a life you’ll truly love. After a tough childhood, Kerry recognized that the tools she had to cope with life were unhealthy. Life her threw her some tough lessons, but by surrounding herself with healthy people she began to open the gifts of healthy practices, which began her healing journey. One by one she was able to acknowledge the unhelpful coping mechanisms and could then change and design how she wanted to live. Kerry lives in Colorado with her family. Her blog, Grounded , is a place for those who find strength in uplifting words and real, raw stories. It’s for those who love the idea of Mindfulness but maybe have no idea what that even looks like in real life. Kerry’s passion is to help people learn to live with a clearer lens. For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 25, 2022
Eps 323: Alternatives to Punishment Part 6
Takeaways from the show: Navigating big behavior Searching for support The process of getting help for Rowan Holding energy of confident authority Novelty seeking Brain science behind risk taking Staying curious, connected, and calm Prioritizing taking care of yourself For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 21, 2022
THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 262 with Dr. Pamela Ellis
My guest today is Pamela Ellis. In her more than 20 years working in education research and as a financial executive in the private sector, Pamela Ellis—The Education Doctor® has emerged as a leading authority on what it takes for students to thrive in education and, thereby, in life. Her work supports parents find the school where their children can thrive—the one that feels like home. For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 18, 2022
Eps 322: Alternatives to Punishment Part 5
This week’s show is a solo show- the fifth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 14, 2022
THROWBACK THURSDAY: Eps 174 with Oren Jay Sofer
Today’s guest is Oren Jay Sofer, the author of Say What You Mean – A Mindful Approach to Non-Violent Communication. He leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication at meditation centres and education settings around the US. Oren is a graduate of the IMS Spirit Rock teacher training program. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University, teaches in the Insight Meditation community and is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and a certified trainer of non-violent communication. Oren creates mindfulness training programs for a number of organizations including Mindful Schools, Kaiser Permanente, and 10% Happier. He lives in Richmond, California. Join us! For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 11, 2022
Eps 321: Alternatives to Punishment Part 4
This week’s show is a solo show- the fourth of six in a series where Casey will dive deep into alternatives to punishment. For access to the show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 07, 2022
Revisiting Eps 106: Finding your calm with Alexandra Hughes
World traveler, calm seeker, mom coach, multi-lingual speaker, Alexander Hughes, brings us her methods for supporting mamas in the chaos that is parenthood. The trials and tribulations of her own experience in motherhood would eventually fuel the passion of support she gives to other moms navigating the same road. Alex has created a soft space for mamas feeling out of control to find their rhythm and calm. At her website inneressencecoaching.com one has access to her workshops, authentic words of wisdom and that much needed place to connect with someone who gets it. With three kids and a handful of international moves Alex knows what it means to feel out of control in the mama chaos – which is why she has turned over every rock to find that much needed calm. We really should just make her wear a cape. For access to show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 04, 2022
Alternatives to Punishment Part 3
Takeaways from the show: The foundation of Positive Discipline Kindness and firmness Navigating misbehavior while you’re dysregulated Asking questions to get curious and understand Roleplay exercise Teens need a healthy sense of belonging and significance Teasing apart kind and firm statements Looking for a win-win Decide what you will do and follow through For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 31, 2022
Handsfree Mama with Rachel Macy Stafford
This week’s throwback guest is Rachel Macy Stafford, founder of Handsfree Mama, best selling author and special education teacher. We are discussing letting go of distractions so you can focus on what really matters. Join us! “There is no space for perfection in parenting and living boldly. I want to live bravely, boldly, flawed and full of hope.” For access to the show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 28, 2022
Eps 319: Alternatives to Punishment Part 2
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Mon, March 21, 2022
Alternatives to Punishment Part 1
Takeaways from the show Casey’s why to alternatives to punishment Putting relationship as a priority Supporting teens as they find their identity Adolescent narcissism Behavior behind belonging and significance Slide into the passenger seat Teenage autonomy Trust your teens will learn through their experiences Natural consequences Focusing on growing your kid’s life skills Learning from mistakes For access to the show notes and more, go to besproutable.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 14, 2022
Eps 317: Teen Relationships with Christy Keating
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Sun, March 13, 2022
Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster with Andy Smithson
It was my great honor to spend over and hour on the phone with Andy Smithson of TRU Parenting recently. We spent our time really digging into the way emotional triggers show up while navigating the challenges of raising kids, and Andy shared some of what he offers parents in the way of finding their calm. Enjoy!! "Not knowing is one of the most powerful tools and skills that we have as parents... It keeps us curious makes us let our children guide the process..." - Andy Smithson Resources mentioned during the podcast: Childbirth: My Journey from Fear to Peace The Quick Calm Toolkit How to Stop Yelling in 21 Days Get Off That Train! TRU Calm: Parent Relaxation and Self-Renewal Series * Be sure to listen at the end of the podcast for a special discount offer from Andy to be used towards this product! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 07, 2022
Eps 316: Teens, Therapy, and Mental Health with Dr. Melanie McNally
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Thu, March 03, 2022
Becoming Sproutable Eps 6: Encouragement
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Mon, February 28, 2022
Eps 315: Ian's Back Sharing Truths About His Screen Time
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Thu, February 24, 2022
Becoming Sproutable Eps 5: Focusing on Solutions
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Mon, February 21, 2022
Eps 314: Becoming Tech Intentional with Emily Cherkin
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Thu, February 17, 2022
Becoming Sproutable Eps 4: Discipline that Teaches
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Mon, February 14, 2022
Eps 313: Solo Show- The Basics of Family Meetings
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Thu, February 10, 2022
Becoming Sproutable Eps 3: Effective Communication
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Mon, February 07, 2022
Eps 312: Teen Skin Health with Dr. Mona Gohara
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Thu, February 03, 2022
Becoming Sproutable Eps 2: Belief Behind Behavior
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Mon, January 31, 2022
Eps 311: Solo Show- 2 Assumptions That Support Parenting Teens
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Thu, January 27, 2022
Becoming Sproutable Eps 1: Mutual Respect
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Tue, January 25, 2022
Eps 310: Live Coaching - Food, Eating, Body Image, Teens
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Mon, January 24, 2022
Eps 310: Live Coaching - Food, Eating, Body Image, Teens
This week’s episode is a live coaching session with the Joyful Courage host, Casey O’Roarty. Takeaways from the show: What ARFID looks like, coming off ADHD meds, navigating body image and body health, growing body positivity, unintentionally projecting childhood trauma onto teens, having open and honest conversations; every talk is worth it, tending to your inner child, sitting inside of curiosity without judgment; becoming vulnerable with your teen; tuning into bodily cues. Resources Eps 230 : BRACHA KOPSTICK ON RAISING KIDS TO HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH FOOD See you next week!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 20, 2022
5 Criteria Of Positive Discipline
Welcome to the BECOMING SPROUTABLE limited podcast series, where your hosts, Julietta Skoog and Casey O’Roarty, parent coaches and Positive Discipline Trainers take you through the biggest tools and concepts of parenting with positive discipline – no matter your kids age. Takeaways from the show Introducing the show Casey’s Positive Discipline story Julietta’s story The creation of Sproutable Navigating what Positive Discipline looks like in adolescence The merge of Joyful Courage and Sproutable The 5 criteria for Positive Discipline Get the show notes at https://www.besproutable.com/podcasts/becoming-sproutable-5-criteria-Positive-Discipline Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 17, 2022
Eps 309: Solo Show- Paradox, Parenting, Pot Smoking
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Mon, January 10, 2022
Eps 308: Finding Our Optimism With Summers McKay
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Mon, January 03, 2022
Eps 307: 3 Steps for Creating What You Want In 2022
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Mon, December 27, 2021
Eps 306: Rowan's Year In Review, Tattoos, and Tinder
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Mon, December 20, 2021
Eps 305: Unpacking Violence in Schools with Lisa Sabey
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Mon, December 13, 2021
Eps 304: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Diana Hill
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Mon, December 06, 2021
Eps 303: Solo Show- Minimizing Phone Drama
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Mon, November 29, 2021
Creating Tradition and Connection with Ericka Sóuter
My guest this week is Ericka Sóuter. Ericka is a nationally recognized voice in parenting news and parenting advice. She has over 20 years of journalism experience and is a frequent contributor on Good Morning America and other national broadcast outlets, where it’s her job to speak to parents across the country about the issues, controversies, and trends most affecting families today. Her new book is How to Have a Kid and a Life: A Survival Guide . Ericka’s work appears on the Bump , What to Expect , CafeMom , and Mom.com , all high-traffic parenting sites that reach millions of moms each month. Her writing has also been featured in People magazine, Us Weekly , Essence , Cosmopolitan , Self and WebMD . She received her bachelor’s degree from Georgetown University and master’s degree from the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism. For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 22, 2021
Eps 301: Setting Expectations for the Holidays
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Mon, November 15, 2021
Eps 300: Becoming Aware with Dr. Dan Siegel
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Mon, November 08, 2021
Eps 299: SOLO Show- Tips on Validation
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Mon, November 01, 2021
Eps 298: LIVE COACHING Routines and Transitions
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Mon, October 25, 2021
Eps 297: Solo Show- Thoughts On Motivating Adolescents
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Tue, October 19, 2021
Eps 296: The Work of Romantic Partnership with Jayson Gaddis
My guest today is Jayson Gaddis. Jayson is an author, a relationship coach, a relationship expert who teaches people the one class they didn’t get in school, which is how to do relationships. Jayson leads one of the most in-depth and comprehensive relationship education programs and trains relationship coaches all over the world. He has thousands of fans and followers across multiple channels and is the host of the Relationship School podcast with over 5 million downloads and over 330 episodes. He is the visionary behind The Relationship School . His first book, Getting to Zero , will be out in October. Takeaways from the show: Jayson’s story The inspiration for Getting to Zero High stakes relationships 4 categories conflicts that come up in relationships “Standing for 3” Having control over your expectations Being willing vs willful Becoming a deeper human What “getting to zero” means The relational blueprint Broadening your perspective Making a safe space at home What does Joyful Courage mean to you? I picture myself being more upright and expanding my chest to meet all the challenges of my life. That feels like a really good feeling in my body right now and a good inspiration for me Where to find Jayson: Book: Getting to zero | Instagram | Podcast | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 11, 2021
Eps 295: Avoiding Codependency with Alana Carvalho
COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING! Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups: Live and Love with Joyful Courage Joyful Courage for Parents of Teens :::: My guest today is Alana Carvalho. Alana is a licensed mental health counselor who focuses on helping parents, couples and individuals build balanced relationships by releasing old patterns and becoming more authentic. She is especially passionate about helping individuals see how healing codependency and perfectionism can lead to a more joy filled life. Alana has lectured on child development at The College of Staten Island . Her first book Raising Empowered Children: The Codependent Perfectionist’s Guide to Parenting i s now available on amazon.com . Alana maintains her private practice in Midtown Manhattan and is currently seeing clients virtually. You can connect with her through her website , Instagram , podcast or you can email her at alana@alanacarvalho.com Takeaways from the show: Alana’s story Codependency in the context of parenting Developing community outside of family members Being supportive vs controlling Creating a safe space for your kids Validation and support coming into play Empowering your children by asking if they want your help Being in relationship with kids who are in resistance Example moving through hard things for your child How you respond is where your influence lies Building resilience What does Joyful Courage mean to you? For me it’s exactly what we’re talking about. It’s pushing yourself to grow in these uncomfortable ways and doing it knowing that’s what brings joy into life and relationships, by pushing out of your comfort zone and taking a look at yourself. Where to find Alana: Instagram | <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Empowered-Children-Codependent-Perfectionists/dp/173453480X/ref=sr_1_3?adgrpid=1338106215583431&dchild=1&hvadid=83631709535737&hvbmt=bp&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=67732&hvnetw=o&hvqmt=p&hvtargid=kwd-83631984804845%3Aloc-190&hydadcr=8898_10782397&keywords=the+empowered+child&qid=1
Mon, October 04, 2021
Eps 294: LIVE COACHING Influencing Sibling Dynamics
This week’s episode is a live coaching session! Takeaways from the show: Challenges in the sibling dynamic Owning your peace Learning about relationships Remembering our kids are still developing their skills Flexing resiliency muscles during conflict Belonging and significance Becoming more secure in relationships = more easy going Practice asking if your kids need help Highlight tools your kids use in the heat of the moment What does Joyful Courage mean to you? ( Giselle ) Joyful courage is riding out the journey, being open to the ups and downs and understanding that there is a meaning to everything that happens to us. Only when we show up and we lean into those challenges is where we become courageous. See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 27, 2021
New School Parenting with DJ Johnson
This week’s guest is DJ Johnson. DeAntwann “DJ” Johnson is a husband, father, author, mentor, coach, counselor, and sports statistician. He grew up in the Indiana foster care system and yet despite that, has gone on to lead a successful, and fulfilling life. Before spending nine years in the foster care system, DJ suffered child abuse, domestic abuse, and emotional trauma. At one point, he wanted to end his life, but he realized that he was on this earth for a purpose. DJ fulfills that purpose by using his experiences not only to help establish relationships with the students he serves, but he helps parents better connect with their teenagers. DJ specializes in helping parents bridge the communication gap between them and their child to ensure that their child has room to be the best versions of themselves. Takeaways from the show DJ’s story Adverse childhood experience Using your experience to help others Old school parenting way going out the window Getting the hang of the new school parenting Balancing being kind and firm Different parenting styles fit different children Foundation of respect and dignity with your kids Conditioning coming to the surface Let teens learn through experiences Repairing relationships For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 20, 2021
Eps 292: SOLO Show- Being Present With Your Teen's School Discouragement
This week’s episode is a SOLO show!! Takeaways from the show: Parenting group School trouble The uncertainty of COVID Feeling powerless Questioning traditional school system Emotional honesty Getting to the root of your fears Getting curious with your kids Notice when you become dysregulated You get to set boundaries Letting your kids feel the tension of life Love, accept, and be available Eps 242 with Ned Johnson | Eps 21 with Jessica Lahey See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 13, 2021
Eps 291: Getting Optimal Sleep with Julia Glowinski
My guest this week is Julia Glowinski. Julia is a registered social worker, a certified sleep consultant, and a cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia clinician. She’s an expert in all things related to sleep and how to achieve optimal sleep. Julia is passionate about working with individuals and families experiencing sleep difficulties. Her focus is on building a strong foundation for healthy sleep to promote long lasting sleep improvements. Julia uses an integrative approach to uncovering the many factors that affect sleep quality. This includes paying close attention to emotional well being, diet, physical activity, sleep hygiene, stress and overall mental health. As the relationship between mental health and sleep is significant, Julia’s strategies incorporate mindfulness and relaxation techniques to help quiet the mind. Takeaways from the show: Julia’s journey of becoming a sleep specialist Sleep quality affecting mental health Healthy sleep analytics Sleep science in the adolescent brain Circadian rhythms Challenges of getting good sleep The root of sleep deprivation Routines before bed Strategies for getting optimal sleep Healthy screen habits during the pandemic Resources from Julia: Website | Clinic | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 06, 2021
Eps 290: SOLO SHOW-Validation, Mutual Respect, Back to School
Parenting for The Season You’re In Parenting for The Season You’re In is a program for parents who are looking for deeper understanding of the challenges they are facing, how they may be contributing to the challenges, and tools and strategies for not only problem solving, but also experiencing more joy on the parenting journey. It’s a funky season of parenting. You may be still anticipating the change you know is coming in your child, or perhaps you are witnessing it, and at a loss for how to be there in a way that is helpful and forwarding. Screen time drama takes on a new intensity, peer influence increases, the mood swings that show up when our kids are trying to figure out who it is they are…. Everything is SUCH A BIG DEAL. And we are on the sidelines, unsure of what boundaries to hold - when to be flexible, when to be firm…. Feeling so connected and confident one minute, only to spiral into worries and “what ifs” the next. Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons The six sessions start Thursday, September 23rd and run Thursdays for 6 weeks from 5:30-7:30pm PDT ::::: The Book, The Coaching Joyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey. READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/book CONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching ::::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 30, 2021
Eps 289: Parenting for Social Justice with Dr. Traci Baxley
This week I am revisiting my conversation with Dr. Traci Baxley from the Parenting for a Brave New World Mini Summit that went live January of 2021. Dr. Baxley is a mother, cultural coach for parents, she’s a speaker, an educator, and a diversity inclusion and equity consultant. She is passionate about supporting families with intentional parenting. Traci is the founder of Social Justice Parenting , a philosophy that is rooted in radical love and activism. In her work with parents, Dr. Baxley discusses new ideas in parenting for our current social climate that moves families away from fear-based parenting styles. Social Justice Parenting guides parents in raising independent, compassionate, and socially conscious children. Takeaways from the show: Belonging advocate Social justice parenting Breaking down anti-racism Performative social justice vs. active social justice ROCKS acronym Sitting with being uncomfortable Start at home Normalize black excellence Looking at privilege from multiple identities Radical love Seeing humanness in others Resources from Traci: Social Justice Parenting TedX | Instagram | Website | LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 23, 2021
Eps 288: Understanding Screens and Setting Limits with Dr. Elizabeth Milovidov
This week I am revisiting my conversation with Dr. Elizabeth Milovidov from the Teens and Screens Mini Summit that went live in the fall of 2020. Dr. Milovidov is an internationally known digital parenting coach, author, lawyer, and law professor. She is the founder of DigitalParentingCoach.com and provides information and support to caregivers, parents, and anyone who is looking for the best practices when it comes to social media, internet laws, and the internet at large. Elizabeth’s publications include: The Parent’s Guide to Parenting in the Digital Age , The Parent’s Guide to Youtube and Youtube Kids , and The Parent’s Guide to Digital Detox and Disconnect . Takeaways from the show: Elizabeth’s story Recommendations for screen time App limits Mistakes parents make with phones Children’s right to privacy Parenting common sense Curiosity is natural Handling uncomfortable conversations Family media agreements Privilege without responsibility is entitlement Cyberbullying Resources from Elizabeth: CyberBully Research Center | FaceBook Group | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 16, 2021
Eps 287: Exploring Risky Behavior and Teens with Alyson Schafer
This week I am revisiting my conversation with Alyson Schafer from the Risky Behavior and Teens Mini Summit that went live in the summer of 2020. Alyson is one of Canada’s most notable parenting experts. She’s a family counselor with a private practice in Toronto and has presented to audiences all around the world. She has regular media sports, is the author of three best selling books; Breaking the Good Mom Myth , Honey I Wrecked the Kids , and Ain’t Misbehavin’ . All three of these books have been translated to multiple languages. Alyson recently launched a podcast called Parenting the Adlerian Way , which you can find on most major podcast platforms. Takeaways from the show: Fear around risky behaviors Framework for the teen years Children’s behavior doesn’t reflect how you’re doing as a parent Holding a safe place for mistakes Non-attachment to outcome Allowing teens to have compassion for our experience Acknowledge your kids might need space from you How risky behavior looks in boys vs girls Letting go of the reins Winning cooperation vs forcing compliance Motivational interviewing Resources from Alyson: Brainstorm by Dan Siegel | Website | Podcast | Instagram | FaceBook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 09, 2021
Leveling Up our Sex Education with Amy Lang
This week I am revisiting my conversation with Amy Lang from the Sex Ed for Parents of Teens Mini Summit in the spring of 2020. Amy has been a guest on the podcast and is a super great friend of mine. She is my go to person when I have questions about my teen’s sexual development. Amy has been a sex health educator for over 20 years and helps parents of all beliefs talk with their kids of any age about the birds and bees. She is the author of an award-winning book, Birds and Bees and your kids - a guide to sharing your beliefs about sexuality, love, and relationship. As well as Dating Smarts - what every teen needs to know to date, relate, or wait . Takeaways from the show Family values Your kids are going to have sex The importance of communication with your teens Sex safety Stop filtering for your kids Broader ways of looking at sexuality Have conversations about values Don’t be afraid to prepare before a conversation For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 02, 2021
Revisiting ADHD with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart
This week’s guest is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart. Dr. Lockhart is a pediatric psychologist and board-certified in clinical child and adolescent psychology. You may know her from her amazing content and reels she puts out daily on Instagram. Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is passionate about serving families in her local community in the state of Texas and beyond. Takeaways from the show: How ADHD shows up in the teen years ADHD in boys vs. girls Rejection sensitive dysphoria Diagnosis of ADHD Task initiation Choose the relationship with your teen Openings for talking about tools and strategies For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 26, 2021
Positive Discipline and the Teen Years
This week’s episode is a SOLO show! Takeaways from the show The adventure of parenting teens Brain development in teen years Private logic Nurturing teen relationships Influence around how we show up for our kids Fiercely committed, lovingly detached Looking for solutions Communicate with your child Privilege and responsibility The importance of individuation For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 19, 2021
Parenting Through Chronic Illness with Liza Blas
My guest today is Liza Blas. Lisa is the host of the Very Happy Stories podcast . She brings hope, empowerment, and inspiration to her audience by shining light on complex topics impacting many families today. Liza’s stories are inspired by her own experiences raising two kids, both suffering from conditions like depression, anxiety, ADHD, OCD and even Lyme disease. Takeaways from the show: Liza’s family story of Lyme disease Struggles of your kids get you where you need to be Being in difficult times with peace and acceptance Speaking to acceptance Ways to use gratitude Forgiveness Self care as a non-negotiable For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 12, 2021
Letting the Heart Lead with Sarah Maclaughlin
My guest today is Sarah MacLaughlin. Sarah is a social worker, parent educator, and author of the award winning best-selling book: What Not to Say: Tools for Talking with Young Children . She is a writer, trainer, and content expert for Zero to Three , a national nonprofit dedicated to ensuring that all babies and toddlers have a strong start in life. Sarah maintains a blog , writes the parenting toolbox column for Portland Main’s Parent and Family, and has been featured many places online including the Huffington Post and this podcast: eps 30 & eps 52 Her latest book is called Raising Humans with Heart and is an invaluable resource for moms, dads, and caregivers everywhere. Takeaways from the show: Sarah’s new book Getting curious about behavior Parenting manual we all have Trusting maturity will come around Mistakes are the primary learning tool for humans Stay current with your own emotional process Fiercely committed and lovingly detached Being supportive without being suffocating Separating our regrets from our kid’s lives You have control over the narrative Willingness vs. willfulness Conflict is a relationship builder For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 05, 2021
4 Questions For Bringing More Ease and Less Urgency To Right Now
This week’s episode is a SOLO show! Takeaways from the show: PNW heatwave Moving into July Unsettled energy Feelings around covid regulations being lifted Stress with going back to normal 4 questions to support in creating the experience you want Creating ease For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 28, 2021
Reparenting Ourselves with Leslie Priscilla
My guest today is Leslie Priscilla. Leslie is a first generation non-Black Chicana mother to three biracial children ages 8, 3, and 2. She is a descendant of Indigenous Tarahumara Rarámuri and Spanish lineages who has resided on occupied Tongva (ton-va) and Acjachemen (hash-i-men) land, also known as Orange County, CA, all of her life. Leslie shares her medicine by offering coaching, workshops, support and advocacy for Latinx/Chicanx families locally, nationally, and internationally both in-person and online via the Latinx Parenting organization. Formerly an early childhood teacher and 1:1 behavioral coach, Leslie has worked with children and families for over 13 years. She has a dual degree in Child Development & Family Studies as well as Family Life Education from CSULB, and attended the Masters in Social Work program at Cal State Fullerton before pausing to focus on her babies and the Latinx Parenting movement. Leslie is trained as a facilitator in various parent education curricula including Trauma-Informed Nonviolent Parenting, Positive Discipline, Supporting Fatherhood Involvement (SFI), Community Parent Education (C.O.P.E) and others. She has facilitated groups in both Spanish and English for hundreds of parents in schools, transitional homes, teen shelters, drug rehabilitation centers, and family resource centers throughout Orange County, CA. Over the years, Leslie has long worked within mental health agencies in positions serving as Interim Director of Parent Education for the Child Abuse Prevention Center in Orange County, Youth & Professional Programs Manager for NAMI Orange County, and as a Consultant for the Dads Matter Program of Children's Bureau. Takeaways from the show: La chancla culture History of oppression showing up in parenting Treating children with the same respect as adults How conditioning shows up in parenting Parenting for the long term Awareness in your relationship with your children Decolonization Patriarchal value in latinx culture Dealing with negative opinions on Instagram Respect is valuable You cannot parent your children without reparenting yourself For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 21, 2021
Solo Show- Breaking Down the Process of Making Agreements
Today’s episode is a SOLO show! Takeaways from the show Making agreements with your kids Creating a win win Brainstorming solutions that are related, reasonable, respectful, and HELPFUL Keeping things simple and concise Iceberg metaphor Handling peer pressure Letting go of your kids having the same priorities as you Reign in your criticism Take a break when things get heated For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 14, 2021
Addiction Inoculation with Jessica Lahey
My guest today is Jessica Lahey. Jessica is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence . Over twenty years, Jess has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools, and spent five years teaching in a drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents in Vermont. She writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Washington Post , New York Times , and The Atlantic , is a book critic for Air Mail , and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ award-winning The Stinky and Dirty Show . She co-hosts the #AmWriting podcast with bestselling authors K.J. Dell’Antonia and Sarina Bowen from her house in Vermont, where she lives with her husband, two sons and a lot of dogs. Takeaways from the show Secrecy and shame around substance abuse Jessica’s story The process of recovery The normalization of adult drinking Pluralistic ignorance Authoritative parenting Knowledge about raising kids and substances Teaching kids why they shouldn’t be using substances Knowing risk factors of substance abuse can help you protect your kids Understanding the teen brain Scripts to give your kids to get out of situations Relationship matters For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 07, 2021
Eps 277: Solo Show- Getting Out of Our Teen's Way
This week’s podcast is a SOLO show!! Takeaways from the show: Life updates The power of the tension of life Getting out of the way so your kids can feel the tension of life Pushback against traditional education Get curious about what’s important to your kids Being an unconditional parent Kids who have the opportunity to decide for themselves are the kids that thrive Teens need to have space to feel out what they want Resources: Dr. Hina Talib | Brave New World Summit See you next week!! :) :::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 31, 2021
Understanding Gender Expression with Rae McDaniels
My guest today is Rae McDaniel. Rae is a non-binary gender and sex therapist-turned-coach who works with transgender/non-binary/questioning folks feeling lost while transitioning their gender identity. They are the creator of GenderFck: The Club , a one-of-a-kind, research-based online group coaching community of transgender/non-binary/questioning folks who are on a mission to transition with less suffering and more ease. Rae is the founder of Practical Audacity , a gender and sex therapy practice in Chicago. They also provide training for medical and mental health professionals wishing to uplevel their knowledge in trans-affirming care. Rae holds a Master's of Education in community counseling. Takeaways from the show: Ray’s story Gender spectrum Expanding and exploring gender Deep dive into pronouns Gender shakes people’s fundamental ideas of the world How parents can support their kids coming out Gender dysphoria Tips for parents to support and accept their child in a scary world Safety within the trans/non binary world Celebrating gender expression The world needs people who are their most authentic selves For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 17, 2021
Eps 274: Raising Thrivers with Dr. Michele Borba
My guest today is Dr. Michele Borba. Dr. Borba is the author of Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All About Me World , and is an internationally renowned educational psychologist and an expert in parenting, bullying, and character development. She is a regular NBC contributor who appears regularly on Today, and has been a featured expert on Dateline, the View, Dr Phil, NBC Nightly News, Fox and Friends, Dr. Oz, and the Early Show , among many others. She lives in Palm Springs California with her husband and is the mother of three growns sons. Dr. Borba was a guest wayyyy back in 2016 on the podcast, eps 46 , and I am thrilled to have her back to talk about her NEW book: Thrivers: the surprising Reasons why some kids struggle and others shine. Takeaways from the show: Nature vs nurture Addressing parenting guilt Helping your teens find coping skills Resilience skills Mental health always comes first Using the “too” phrase to check in on your kids Hitting the covid wall Kids need hobbies Reengaging with your teens What does Joyful Courage mean to you? It means having that brave, brave inner sense to go for it. As soon as I do it I get so excited with myself because it’s like as soon as I get to the other side, there is joy. I love that term. Where to find Dr. Michele Borba: Thrivers the book | Twitter | Instagram See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 10, 2021
Eps 273: Casey Interviewed On the Adventure of Raising Teens with Mindy Duff
Today’s show should have been a solo show BUT I had the amazing opportunity to be a part of a book launch event last week, and was interviewed by Mindy Duff - one of the authors of the new book, Motherhood diaries . We had such a good time during the interview that I asked Mindy if she would share it with me so that I could turn it into a podcast! Mindy Duff is a certified holistic health and nutrition coach, speaker and published author. Her mission is to help individuals uncover their best selves through the power of nutrition, self care and self love. Takeaways from the show: Evolution is endless The gifts of hard situations Practicing not taking it personal Navigating the teen world Holding space for self-expression How we are holding learning and public education What self care looks like Your kids are NOT a projection of you Important things to remember when parenting teens Relationship is always first See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 03, 2021
Eps 272: The Many Faces of Motherhood with Alyssa "Twist" Light
Alyssa “Twist” Light is a professional speaker who helps businesses grow by utilizing the power of storytelling in every aspect of their operations, especially marketing. Twist believes it’s her responsibility to make event planners look like superheroes and the attendees feel like rockstars. Despite not having her own children, Twist happens to have fostered children, loves to be a field trip “mom” for local schools, and was the executive director of a camp that supported more than 400 underprivileged / at-risk kids. She believes that the toughest moments are the biggest learning opportunities, especially for teens. Takeaways from the show: Fostering and mentoring teens Being open to the foster system Love doesn’t cure everything Having difficult, deep conversations can be impactful Support systems Tip of the iceberg Asking for help How kids change in the environment they’re in Reminding your partner you’re on the same team Meet kids where they’re at, not where you want them to be Being a parent Having healthy adults for kids to open up to Being unconditional and non judgemental Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 26, 2021
Eps 271: Grounding, Current Events & Being a Daring Parent
:::: This week’s episode is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Grounding meditation Awareness of what’s happening in the world Ways to support dismantling systemic racism Support your kids on how to make a difference Living in an anti-racist society Armoured vs. daring parenting Parenting from the heart See you next week!! :) :::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 19, 2021
Mental Spring Cleaning with Dr. Aprile Andelle
My guest today is Dr. Aprile Andelle! Dr. Andelle is a black woman licensed psychotherapist with over 9 years and 10,000+ hours of experience in "deep dive healing" work with amazing clients all around the world. She hosts the ‘Do I Need Therapy™? Podcast Show available on Apple and Google Podcasts, Spotify, and Stitcher, and speaks to her community openly, loudly, and proudly about mental health, love and life, PLUS the process of therapy, and the strength found in asking for help. She teaches amazing, highly ambitious women, and women of color, the skills of *long-lasting* positive mental health in overcoming stress, overwhelm, anxiety, depression, and trauma, including her "Every April" psychological spring cleaning course offered every springtime, in April to support the fierce, yet sensitive woman achieve positive mental health all year long. She specializes in online and virtual therapy and offers mental wellness support for all through her mental health masterclasses, courses, and meditations. She is a world traveler currently based in Miami, loves all things declutter and minimal lifestyle---except plants… She says, "you can never have too many plants and green stuff" --- is described as "that unique kind of person who makes lifelong friends in 24 hours or less", and can often be found on Instagram watching endless reels of laugh-out-loud, therapy memes and reenactments or enjoying a "deep, campfire-style" conversation on Clubhouse. Takeaways from the show: Aprile’s journey to becoming a therapist Psychological cleaning program Maintaining a positive, steady state of mental health Feelings are temporary Think before you speak Responsive vs. reactive Inner voice Being inside of possibility vs. drowning in uncertainty 3 steps of psychological spring cleaning Vulnerability is what makes you brave Marie Kondo your mind Recommit to your goals For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 12, 2021
Eps 269: Solo Show Dissecting Beliefs Behind Behavior Part 4- Assumed Inadequacy
This week is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Mistaken goals Belonging and significance feelings live under the surface Learn to pay attention to your inner experience Review of undue attention, misguided power, and revenge Assumed inadequacy Belief behind inadequacy Teens long for connection Ways to restore your child’s adequacy Being vulnerable pays off Take time to own your behavior with your child Previous shows about mistaken goals: Eps 261 | Eps 263 | Eps 265 | Eps 267 | Mistaken Goal Chart See you next week!! :) :::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 05, 2021
Eps 268: Ted Bunch and Anna Marie Johnson Teague talk powerful DARES for boys
My guests today are Ted Bunch and Anna Marie Johnson Teague. Ted and Anna Marie are friends, parents, and anti-violence educators. They work for A Call to Men, helping men and boys promote healthy manhood and prevent violence and discrimination. Ted works with professional athletes, business leaders, activists, and boys just like the ones you have. Anna Marie is a storyteller at heart and a devoted boy mom. She is nationally recognized for creating and executing award-winning, multi-platform campaigns to advance critical social issues like improving education and ending violence against women. Takeaways from the show: Prevention of violence and discrimination against women and girls How the book of dares are changing people’s lives Making an effort to talk about emotions with your boys Socialization of masculinity Being vulnerable is a strength How to support the men and boys in your life Messages men are getting from society Peer influence in middle school Developing a critical lens on how women are treated What healthy manhood looks like The danger women/people are in because of the ways we are raising our boys Treat your kids like an adult Having conversations with your boys that aren’t always in your face Raise boys to value girl’s experiences just as much as they value their own Where to find Ted and Anna Marie: The Book of Dares | Website | FaceBook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 29, 2021
Eps 267: Solo Show- Dissecting Beliefs Behind Behavior Part 3: Revenge
Today’s episode is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Beliefs about belonging and significance Overview of mistaken goals Third mistaken goal: Revenge Tune into your experience as a parent Signs your child’s mistaken goal is revenge How adults contribute to our child’s belief of not belonging The coded message behind revenge Uncertainty of the world right now playing a part in our kid’s lives Revenge isn’t lashing out, it's passing on the hurt Tools to support you and your child in their mistaken goals Your job as parents to make your kids feel like they belong Let your child know you see them Eps 263 | Eps 265 | Mistaken Goal Chart See you next week!! :) :::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 22, 2021
Unraveling Anxiety with Dr. Jud Brewer
My guest today is Jud Brewer. Dr. Jud is a thought leader in the field of habit change and the “science of self-mastery”, having combined over 20 years of experience with mindfulness training with his scientific research therein. He is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in Behavioral and Social Sciences and Psychiatry at the Schools of Public Health & Medicine at Brown University. He is also the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare Inc. and a research affiliate at MIT. A psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for addictions, Brewer has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including both in-person and app-based treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety. Takeaways from the show: Jud’s journey with anxiety Number needed to treat Where anxiety comes from Why anxiety has increased in the past year Tools to help parents stay calm The benefits of mapping habit loops How our brains are wired for reward value The power of fear and worry in parents Becoming disenchanted by your behaviors Bigger better offer The reward value of worrying vs. being curious Mindfulness of emotions Cause and effect relationship For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 15, 2021
Eps 265: Solo Show- Belief Behind Behavior Deep Dive Part 2: Misguided Power
This week’s episode is a SOLO show!! Takeaways from the show: Adlerian theory Our perception of belonging and significance colors the lens we see the world out of Undue attention review Honor your kids beliefs Second mistaken goal: Misguided power Notice how your child’s behavior makes you feel Power struggles Ways adults add to this behavior The importance of teaching your kids to contribute in ways for them to use their power You are not in control of your kids Teens want the acknowledgement of how capable they are Acknowledge your part in the stuff that’s gone down with your teens House rules audit The importance of practicing follow through How to make your child feel a greater sense of belonging and significance Coaching Page | Eps 261 | Eps 129 | Eps 177 | Eps 218 | Eps 261 | Eps 263 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 08, 2021
Michelle Icard Shares about the Crucial Conversations to Have With Our Middle Schoolers
My guest today is Michelle Icard. Michelle is a member of the Today show parenting team and NBC News Learn. The author of Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen and Middle School Makeover, her work has been featured in the Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, The Christian Science Monitor, Redbook, Time, and People. Her leadership curriculum for middle schoolers, Athena's Path and Hero's Pursuit, have been implemented at schools across the U.S., and her summer camp curriculum is offered at more than twenty camps each summer. She lives with her family in Charlotte, North Carolina. Takeaways from the show: Being the leader and designer of your life Michelle’s new book: 14 talks by age Fourteen How lots of little conversations are more helpful than one big conversation BRIEF acronym Conversation crashers Be specific with your kids Isolation is a part of exploring independence Sitting inside of having tough conversations with your child Having trust in your kids that they will learn from their mistakes Having a neutral expression while talking to your kids For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, March 01, 2021
Eps 263: Solo Show- Belief Behind Behavior Deep Dive Part 1
This week’s episode is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Perception matters The goal of behavior is to find and feel a sense of belonging and significance Iceberg metaphor Mistaken goals: Undue attention Connection vs. attention Tune into how your kid’s behavior makes you feel Parents contribute to beliefs kids have about connection The coded message behind annoying behavior is notice me and involve me usefully Redirect by involving your kids in a useful task Say what you will do Avoid special services Plan 1 on 1 time with your kids Involve your kids in creating routines Eps 261 | Downloadable Mistaken Goal Chart See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 22, 2021
Supporting Our Teen's Pathway to Higher Education with Dr. Pamela Ellis
My guest today is Pamela Ellis. In her more than 20 years working in education research and as a financial executive in the private sector, Pamela Ellis—The Education Doctor® has emerged as a leading authority on what it takes for students to thrive in education and, thereby, in life. Her work supports parents find the school where their children can thrive—the one that feels like home. Takeaways from the show Struggles parents are going through with supporting kids for college Myths about getting into college ACT and SAT myths Looking for a college that fits with you How soon parents of college bound kids should be making moves for their future Benefits of taking a gap year Breaking down what to think about as your kids move through each year of high school Reading for pleasure Understanding scholarships For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 15, 2021
Solo Show- Getting Curious About the Belief Behind Behaviors
This week’s podcast is a solo show! Takeaways from the show: Concepts and theories of Positive Discipline Belief behind behavior Iceberg metaphor Positive discipline 101 Behaviorist vs. Positive Discipline The concept of belonging and significance School drama You must start with self reflection if you want to create lasting change Pay attention to how it feels when school drama comes up with your child The first reason for our kids to misbehave is that they desire attention and connection If kids don’t get the connection, they move on to seeking power Eps 259 | Alison Smith interview For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 08, 2021
Eps 260: Nurturing a Growth Mindset with Alexandra Eidens
My guest today is Alexandra Eidens. Alexandra is the founder of Big Life Journal, a growth mindset company for children and teens. Alexandra’s company specializes in creating practical tools to help parents and teachers integrate growth mindset into their everyday lives. Their guided journals are now used by over 500,000 children world wide. When not creating journals, Alexandra is reading the latest research on brain science and the mind-body connection. Takeaways from the show: The foundations of Big Life Journal Nurturing a growth mindset Personal development in parenting Growth vs. fixed mindset Model the human experience to your children Be process oriented vs. outcome oriented Teach your children to set learning goals Rejection is an indication that you are putting yourself out there How to deliver feedback to your child Make a habit of learning new things Embrace struggle and adversity Compare yourself to yourself only Engage in deliberate practice Comfort vs. stretch zone Model being vulnerable in your own experiences The best thing you can do as a parent is love your kids unconditionally Where to find Alexandra: Ebook | Big Life Journal | FaceBook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 01, 2021
Solo Show- Exploring "Is This Positive Discipline?"
Today’s podcast is a solo show! Takeaways from the show Teen Counseling The 5 Criteria of Positive Discipline Questions to ask yourself to see if the response your giving in a situation meets the criteria for Positive Discipline Come into it expecting your kids to follow through Your kids behavior lets you know what kind of experience they’re having Invite your kids into more expression of what’s going on for them Most of our mischief comes from the perception that we don’t feel like we matter Everyone has their own unique lenses they see out of Whatever we do, we want our kids to feel more connected, seen, and like they matter Trust the process Our kids learn through experience over time Celebrate mistakes, focus on solutions Model your own self-regulation Help your children discover how capable they are Recognize this isn’t a formula or a gimmick Healthy human beings are expressive Resources mentioned: Jane Nelsen Positive Discipline Website For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 25, 2021
Eps 258: Teasing Apart Emotional Labor with Gemma Hartley
My guest today is Gemma Hartley. Gemma is a freelance journalist and the author of Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward. She’s a mom of 3 kids, 5, 7 and 10 Takeaways from the show: Gemma’s journey of being a writer The article that started her career Not wanting to ask your family to do something, just wanting them to know to do it Teasing apart emotional labor The pressure that lays on moms’ shoulders What are shared standards Acknowledge your standards exist for a reason Holding resentment when your significant other feels like they should get praise for things you do on a daily basis Being in conversation with our family in a way that supports everyone Make it normal to talk about emotional labor Vulnerability with your partner is scary but necessary When going into emotional labor conversations, be clear on your intentions The process of re-evaluating the life you share should include everyone being involved Tools that help make everyone feel supported in emotional labor Asking your kids to “help” you with household chores implies it is your job, which it isn’t Recognize the subtle messaging you’re giving your kids Where to find Gemma: Book | Website | Facebook | Instagram | Women Aren’t Nags Article | Emotional Labor Article Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 18, 2021
Solo Show- Opening Up to Your Resistance
This week’s episode is a solo show! Takeaways from the show Birth story of my first child How resistance and tension can affect your relationship with your kids Recognizing your own resistance will open up a deep personal inquiry Your teen has their own experience and mistakes to make on their path of life Journal about resistance Broaden your relationships by looking into yourself to where you hold resistance Your teens emotional development is still in the process even if they look like full-grown humans Parenting for a Brave New World Summit Click here to listen to the interview with my daughter Rowan For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 11, 2021
Untigering Our Parenting with Iris Chen
This week my guest is Iris Chen. Iris is a writer, unschooler, and founder of the Untigering movement. After starting out as a hardcore tiger mother, she began to untiger when she saw all the negative effects of her authoritarian parenting. Now she’s on a mission to empower others families by promoting mental health, peaceful parenting, and educational freedom for children. She recently moved back to California with her husband and two sons after 16 years of living in China. Takeaways from the show Tiger parenting and its cultural meaning Iris’ experience growing up and how that played into her parenting How patterns of how you were parented can show up into the subconscious Shifting to a different way of parenting Doing the inner work so your relationships with your kids can improve Holding space for your emotions Learning to filter assumptions about children and parenting through a lens of love and respect and anti-oppression The swing from demanding parenting to permissive parenting Leaning into trust and connection Having a positive way to manage dysregulation Taking apart the baggage around making mistakes in parenting Making mistakes is an opportunity to model ownership, responsibility and humility Holding mutual respect in the relationships with your children Bringing awareness to the fact that children are worthy of honor and dignity and certain rights For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 05, 2021
Solo Show Exploring the Possibilities of a New Year
This week’s podcast is a SOLO show!! Takeaways from the show: The refreshing new start of 2021 Relationships strengthening Choosing into feeling grateful for things that exist in your life Possibilities of the present moment Practice returning to the present moment again and again Feelings about the new year What are you willing to surrender to this year What Joyful Courage stands for Growth is the purpose of everything in life Tending to relationships that matter in our life The importance of taking an opportunity to grow New mini summit with an opportunity of a VIP pass Think about what you want to create this year For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 21, 2020
Real Talk with a 15 Year Old
My guest today is Ian O’Roarty. Ian is my youngest child, he turned 15 October 30th, and is a freshman in high school. He is the baby in the house, and taller than us all. He is passionate about basketball, loves his friends, and has melted my mama heart since day one. I say that Ian is my “positive discipline” kid because he was the one who was always game to create a routine, or role play a situation, he was willing. I’d say that Ian and I are very close, I will let him share his experience during the interview… He has always been really open with me, and it doesn’t seem like that is really anything that we haven’t talked about… He loves family time, when we are all together, and is super stoked to have his drivers permit. I am honored that he is willing to come share candidly with all of you on the podcast. Takeaways from the show: Coping with covid Challenges in the last year Being a close relationship with your parents Having a sibling who is going through mental health issues Messaging on swearing in our house Reading agreements Screen time Thoughts from a teen about watching the Social Dilemma Video games and limits Managing screen time with online school What it means to Ian to “be a man” Toxic masculinity Goals for the future Advice to parents raising sons For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 14, 2020
Solo Show- Three Ways to Connect to Yourself
This week’s podcast is a SOLO show!!! Takeaways from the show: Beta group Introducing the next mini summit Discovering your most authentic way of being Being responsible for yourself and how you show up Connection to self, family, and community Surrender to being imperfect Teens teach us that flexibility is imperative Trust that things are temporary Create a safe environment so your teen can share what they want from an authentic and open place Caregiving is always in motion Owning discovery around money Trusting the unfolding of life Be with what comes up, feel your feels For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 07, 2020
An Honest Conversation with Rowan About Her Journey of Mental Health and Self Discovery
My guest today is Rowan O’Roarty. Rowan is my oldest child, she will be 18 in January, and one of my biggest teachers of personal growth. As we all do, we learn who we are as parents, through our relationships with our children. Rowan made me a mom, and continues to influence who I am in the world as I navigate what it means to mother her. Rowan has been through her own journey of personal discovery over the past few years, maneuvering mental health challenges, dropping out of school, completing her GED, and stepping in to big responsibility while her dad and I were gone for 2 months going through my husband's cancer treatment. I am honored that she is willing to come share herself and her journey so candidly with you all today. Takeaways from the show: Where the anxiety started When Rowan became aware of her anxiety Things we did that helped Rowan cope with depression and anxiety Panic attacks Navigating anxiety attacks and how parents can be supportive What depression feels like Things parents can do that are helpful to their teen’s mental health Dialectical behavioral therapy Realizing only YOU can change your experience What Rowan has learned about herself these past few years Mental health and high school Rowan’s freshman year Opting into online school Dropping out of school and gaining parent’s support The GED test Plans for the future For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 01, 2020
Solo Show on Gratitude and Finding Acceptance
This week is a SOLO show! Takeaways from the show: Gratitude Grow through what you go through Shifting to be grateful for the experiences you’re put through Working on self regulation Model for your kids what effective problem solving looks like Embodying the life you’re living Allowing fear or resentfulness to change into gratitude and strength Doing the work to be in a different headspace when the same problems show up Personal growth isn’t linear Practicing being mindful For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 23, 2020
How to Navigate Parenting In the Shadow Of the Coronavirus with Dr. Jennifer Variste
Dr. Jennifer Variste’s desire for pediatrics began at a very young age because her visits to her pediatrician were usually positive experiences. Later she fulfilled her dream and obtained her medical degree from the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center. She went on to complete a pediatric residency at UT Houston Health Science Center. After residency, she returned to practice in her hometown of College Station, Texas. Dr. Variste is grateful for the five years she spent treating families there and for the relationships and connections she made. She now practices in Spring, Texas at Family First Pediatrics. As a board-certified pediatrician her passion is to empower moms and dads to raise their kids to lead happy, healthy lives full of precious memories and discovery. She desires to create the same positive experiences for her patients that she had with her pediatrician as a young child. For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 16, 2020
Solo Show: Hope, Trust, Gratitude
This week’s episode was a solo show!! Takeaways from the show: The emotional experience of this past week Hope trust and gratitude Willingness to try something different Choosing to be your best self What it means to have hope Believing you can have what you want Embodying your beliefs Being intentional with your thoughts Manifesting what you want in life Right now is the time to feel connected Changing your inner dialogue so it aligns with what you want Our kids always long for belonging and significance Trusting the process Keeping the faith Being grateful for the challenges in 2020 Focusing on the good coming out of your struggles There is more than one path and narrative your teens will go on For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, November 09, 2020
Maureen Muldoon on Raising a Transgender Child
I am so excited to welcome my guest, Maureen Muldoon. Maureen is a a spiritual Pied Piper, shameless storyteller and speaker who is transforming the way people think of church, sex, spirituality, and creativity. Actress, author, activist, she celebrates the miracles that live beneath the mundane and is devoted to helping others to CREATE their most engaged and unapologetic life. Today we are going to talk about her experience of mothering a transgender son. Takeaways from the show: Raising a transgender child Coping with society’s opinions A parent’s role in understanding How acceptance changes your child Kids wanting to be acknowledged for how they seem themselves Self expression Sitting with the suicide rate as a mom of a transgender son Finding a greater peace of mind Letting go of deciding what identifiers you bring forth in your children Becoming aware of the ways you tell your narrative Things parents without transgender kids don’t understand Being gentle to parents who don’t understand so they can be gentle to your child out in the world Keeping an open mind and an open space to listen to your child How you can be more supportive of families with transgender kids See you next week! :) Find Maureen: Website | SpeakEasy Community What does joyful courage mean to you? Joyful courage means innocence, where everyone's innocent. No one's guilty. Everyone's allowed to take up as much space as possible. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, October 30, 2020
Solo Show About Dealing With Our Triggers
Today’s podcast is a solo show!! Takeaways from the show: What is a trigger How our histories determine different triggers Dealing with situations that trigger you Making it right after you get upset Breaking down what it feels like to get triggered Willingness to reflect on your own emotions Being a good role model for handling emotions to your kids Teen’s moods affecting our own How our teens trigger us like no other Recognizing your experience The importance of connecting with your kids Having compassion and curiosity while in conversation How crucial it is to stay nonjudgemental See you next week! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 26, 2020
Eps 246: Bellamy Shoffner On Being a Single Mom and A Revolutionary Human
Bellamy Shoffner is a single parent, writer, and equity advocate specializing in fostering thoughtful connection and conversation among communities. Shoffner’s Revolutionary Humans produces a magazine, retreats, and free community events. All for parents and educators committed to social justice. This past summer the Joyful Courage community raised $800 in support of Bellamy and her work – I am so honored for the chance to connect with her here on the podcast. Takeaways from the show Social justice Passive reading vs. retaining the information Hold the Line magazine Teaching our kids to be accepting of each other's differences Creating a world where kids can are out of harm’s way based on any part of their identity Acceptance vs tolerance Challenges of being a single parent How outside help isn’t always appreciated Teasing apart tokenization Putting in the work to understand social justice Key things parents can do to fold racial awareness into parenting their kids Taking people as they are and see what happens Having relationship with vulnerability Dealing with people who have opposing views Find Bellamy: Website | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 19, 2020
Solo Show- Teasing Apart Vulnerability In the Present Moment
Today is a solo show!! Takeaways from the show Self care matters Surrendering to the things you can’t control How letting go can change your experience The healing of meditation Being in the present moment Anchoring yourself while also being on the edge of your vulnerability Facing the unknown and creating a sense of security Human tendencies getting in the way of being okay with fear Possibilities of the unknown How narratives can be confining Control is an illusion Being with the fact that the future is uncertain The present moment is the only place where change happens Creating a practice of returning to presence Unconsciousness vs. consciousness See you next week! :) For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 12, 2020
Connie Feutz Teaches Us How To Be Mindful With Our Partners
Connie Fuetz is a clinician with over 35 years of clinical experience who specializes in working with couples and is one of the six original Master Clinicians invited into the Gottman Institute in 2000, John Gottman has called Connie "an extraordinarily-gifted couples counselor" to whom he would send his own family. After leading the two-day Art and Science of Love workshops in Chicago for years, Connie created her own one-day workshop for couples called the Mindful Couples Workshop, which she led for years in Bellingham WA and Victoria BC. She has expanded that course into a 5-week online course for couples, called A Mindful Love Course. A couple's workshop you can do from the comfort of your own home. Connie feels blessed and honoured in her work alongside couples. A resident of the Northwest for 35 years, she lives in gorgeous Bellingham WA with her family. Takeaways from the show: The depth of couples therapy can be challenging and profound Both parties are responsible for change in therapy Focusing on your relationship with your partner will help your teen Why mindfulness is so important in our intimate relationships Tools to help you choose in to your partner How marathon intensive therapy is helpful Not engaging when flooding Naming the negative interactive cycle that happens when we’re in distress Prompting a healing conversation Having humility and vulnerability in conversations with your partner Making sure the message of love gets through How the pandemic has been causing stress in households Dealing with perpetual issues in a different way because of COVID Setting the context for the spirit of intention How dedicating little bits of time to your relationship will keep it alive Switching from a business type of relationship to a romantic one Using persuasion in a safe way The importance of being on equal ground with your partner Learning your partner’s love language For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 05, 2020
Solo show about The Social Dilemma, and the general dilemmas of life right now
Today is a solo show! Takeaways from the show Thoughts about the Social Dilemma movie How big social media platforms are using the users Our attention is the product online Conversation starters around screen use Creating an environment where checking in is a normal thing What to expect from the screens and teens summit The mixed feelings around social media Juggling the things life throws at us How do we make room to fall apart Crying releases stress The trauma of the pandemic Having compassion for your teens All problems are relative, no matter how “small” Giving yourself space to grieve and release energy Taking time to care for yourself In order to change your experience, you have to recognize what’s happening The normality of struggle right now Recognize your wallowing Being in the practice of moving forward See you next week! For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 28, 2020
Nurturing a Self-Driven Child With Author, Ned Johnson
Ned Johnson is president & founder PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation. A battle-tested veteran in the fields of test preparation, anxiety management, and student performance, Ned has been a professional “tutor-geek” since 1993, with more than 40,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests and reach their full potential. In 2018, Ned co-authored, With Dr. William Stixrude, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Their book explores how fostering children’s autonomy can help solve two challenges endemic to kids today: facing anxiety and developing intrinsic motivation. Ned is a sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others. Takeaways from the show Supporting our kids in stepping into their autonomy How to let go of control and have faith our teens know what to do Teaching your kids to be resilient and able to tolerate stress Leading your kids to intrinsic motivation What is a healthy sense of control The brain’s experience with stress Releasing the expectation of competency all the time How autonomy looks in a pandemic Alternate routes of education How passionately pursuing pastimes is most major contributor to intrinsic motivation Being sympathetic to our kids and ourselves The time it takes teen’s brains to fully develop varys Going through hard things gives us strength The teenage experience overlapping with the pandemic Teens crave relatedness Connect with your kids through what they love Reminding yourself as a parent, your job isn’t to make your kids care Having sympathetic conversations with your kids Being able to just be with our kids when they’re having a hard time For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 21, 2020
Solo Show - Musings on Parenting as Transformation
Today is a solo show straight from my journal! Thank you to the patrons who were watching the livestream with me - I love speaking to a live audience! Takeaways from the show: Our experiences with the state of the world Thoughts from Casey’s journal Personal transformations through the world’s disarray Choosing self time when you’re moody What you’re feeling now is valid and you have a choice to how you show up with it Being worried about the future because kids don’t have as much motivation for school Shifting your mindset when worry shows up How traditional schooling can change False illusions that you can plan your child’s future Conversations around nurturing motivation How we respond to events and experiences in our life is the only thing we have control over The divine nature of the parent-child relationship Spirituality fitting into the parenting conversation Life is happening for you Considering the human you are continuing to become Internal experiences can influence the outside experience Our soul is calling for growth Trying on the lens of self-reflection For more shownotes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 14, 2020
Exploring the divine purpose of the parenting journey with Michelle Bowen
Michelle Bowen is a parent empowerment coach, entrepreneur and mother to a child who she gave birth to at the early stages of her awakening. The only way for Michelle to continue to further expand in her awakening was to utilize her relationship with her child. Your Child is Your Guide was birthed from her own process with her child that brought about an enormous transformation in her own life. In her practice, she specializes in guiding you to the realization of the divinity of your child and your relationship with them which initiates a level of accountability that aids in the acceleration of both your healing and actualization. Michelle learned that her child was her guide and provides you with guidance and applicable practices that allow you to see the same. The courses created by Michelle along with her other offerings show you how to achieve the actualization of the unconditionally loving relationship you want with your children. Michelle's story of coming into motherhood Spiritual teachers that influenced Michelle How her baby brought up places for Michelle to grow Michelle explains what “being awakened” means to her Learning how to unconditionally love ourselves as we parent our children How our relationships with our children are divine “co-creations” How parenthood highlights our conditioning The difference between resistance vs being open to learning about yourself on the parenting journey The messiness of the practice Trying something new can feel uncomfortable and awkward Shifting from our children’s behavior triggering us to our children’s behavior triggers our CONDITIONING and places we still have yet to heal Michelle talks a bit about current racial unrest and her experience of being raised by immigrant parents The message of unity Speaking up speaking out even when it is uncomfortable For more shownotes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, September 07, 2020
The podcast is BACK and it's a brave new world...
TODAY IS A SOLO SHOW! I am so excited to be back here with you all… What a summer. I am so excited to reconnect and reset for the coming months, and to let you know what to expect for me, the community and the podcast Before I get into it… Patreon patreon/com/joyfulcourage Livestreaming Monthly group calls Join us!! The Risky Behavior and Teens summit was AMAZING – thank you to my guests and everyone who registered – If you missed it, go to www.joyfulcourage.com/summit-shop and check it out – you can also see and purchase past summits that you may have missed. For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 24, 2020
Solo show - a personal share about what's next for Joyful Courage
Today is a solo show from me… And I am sharing some personal thoughts and plans for Joyful Courage and what to expect through the summer and into the fall. What a wild first half of 2020 Covid 19 Quarantine School from home Personal struggles Racial uprising…. Stay tuned for a way that you can support a powerful black woman owned biz in the coming weeks Timid opening up of the country and approaching summer I am taking a break from the podcast Revisit my mission Yes parenting, but how can it look so that I am also acknowledging/uplifting non-white voices? There are a LOT of white parenting educators – talk about Leslie’s post calling out white parent educators Really get clear on what I want to bring you next fall Tighten up my vision for Joyful Courage Working on the Risky Behavior Mini Summit Recording the interviews – AMAZING Creating the systems Working on the marketing Putting together another 6 week class Actually LOVING teaching through zoom, the current class has parents from all over the US Focusing on my clients One on one coaching Find out more at www.joyfulcourage.com/coaching Focusing on my family As you know…. Cancer Teenagers Hard to step away Don’t want to let anyone down Don’t want you to forget about me Don’t want to lose this communication tool…. AND FB groups IG Newsletter (biweekly) joyfulcourage.com/join Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 17, 2020
Eps 237: Nurturing an Anti-Racist Home Environment (and so much more) with Vivek Patel
Today’s guest is Vivek Patel. Vivek is a conscious parenting educator who works with families to help create more harmony and connection in their homes. He has dedicated his life to spreading awareness and supporting change in schools. He's worked with youth organizations teaching conflict resolution anti bullying and leadership through movement martial arts and dance. As a conscious parenting educator, he has written hundreds of articles and has 60 parenting videos, you can find his writing on Facebook, the meaningful ideas website and YouTube. We are discussing how to take current events and bring the learning into the home. Join us! " Being anti-racist...It's a mindset that we look at the world through that we analyze the systems that we engage in with, that we listen to language with, and, and everything from media and advertising to government systems to educational systems, the correction system, the legal system, the financial system, the housing system, everything.” “ From the micro to the macro, being willing to look at those things and see look for look at and look for the inequities, to be willing to see them inside yourself and and other people and the systems and the anti racist part of it is to be doing something to actively change it.” “When we lift up the people that are oppressed, all of us benefit from it.” “Conscious parenting is cycle breaking” What you’ll hear in this episode: Why conscious parenting? Vivek’s activism journey What it means to be anti-racist From micro to macro, reflecting on self and systems The role of self-love and compassion The power of coming together Celebrating the discomfort Opening ourselves up for better relationships and interactions Our parenting relationship and our influence around topics of race Moving away from perfectionism and embracing the practice of becoming anti-racist Conscious parenting as cycle breaking Should we shield our kids from the pain of the world? Kids and fairness: leveraging their intuition towards acts of changemaking Why you need to do your own work, face our own fears and where to start Six relationships that drive change Modelling anti-racism for our kids Zooming in, zooming out, and condoning bad behavior Modelling our use of power, how we engage with power and why it’s important Control and consent in parenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 10, 2020
Solo Show - Chores and Allowance
Solo show – last minute decision to wait on the conversation that I was going to air today…. Today I am going to talk about chores and allowance There was a post from a mom in on of the Joyful Courage FB groups a few weeks ago reflecting on how it was time for her 11 and 5 year old to begin chores and allowance. The comments were a range of advice, with many parents speaking into separating chores from allowance. I promised the group that I would speak into this on the podcast. Before I do though, I want to say that you get to take this information and make it your own, right? You get to decide what is best for YOUR family when it comes to chores and allowance. I also acknowledge that being able to give our children and allowance isn’t something that everyone can do. Please listen for the underlying spirit instead of listening thinking there is a “right” way to do this. Also, I want you to notice if you are listening though the filter of “my kids won/t…” or “what happens if they don’t…” or you will miss the message. There is a level of significance and mattering that shows up when our kids are expected to be in contribution. Trust that. Trust them. So chores – contributions/family work So much online for age appropriate chores They are enthusiastic when young although it may be a challenge for us Less enthusiastic when older which is also challenging Have a plan, be explicit Co-creating routines Daily Weekly Family house cleaning party Check in on how it’s working (family meeting) Tweak as necessary Inside the plan be explicit about what is a “completed job” and when it needs to be done by Take time to train: You do the task while child watches You do the task together Child does task while you watch Child does the task independently Fold this into the fabric of your family Don’t be rigid Ask for their ideas Allowance – we don’t pay for chores…. Story about rowan and ian “yeah but” – typically don’t need to threat or reward – and will be explicit “your jobs need to be done before you leave the house/jump on a screen/lunchtime/etc” We don’t pay for chores. We started giving the kids a small allowance when they were young so that they had money to learn to manage. Save Give Spend As they got older, their allowance increased and what we would pay for decreased Time out in the world with friends Haricuts Cosmetics Shoes (Ian is obsessed) Resources: Amy McCreedy on Joyful Courage Eps 62 – Teaching our Kids Money Sense <a href="http://ronlieber.com/books/the-opposite-of-spoiled
Wed, June 03, 2020
Solo Show- Educating ourselves to be better for people of color
Today I am solo. I have a heavy heart this week, and a short show. I know I promised something on chores and allowance but you will have to wait a few weeks for that. This week I want to highlight a few shows that I have done in the past and offer up some resources to keep learning and growing as humans – because that is what my work si about – Joyful Courage is about embracing opportunities to grow, even when it’s messy and wobbly. As someone with an audience that is largely white women, I am going to step into THIS opportunity to share some thoughts and steps to be better. I am heartsick over here as I reach out to my friends who are also people of color, letting thme know that I see them and I stand with them. I am heartsick all the time when I think about the conversations that they need to have with their children that I will never need to have with mine, because of the color of their skin. I am heartsick when I consider the fear they hold every time their partner or child leaves the house. Enough. And white women… we have power. We have so much power. My intention here is to invite you in to your own learning about your power, about your implicit bias, about the conditioning that continues to lead us all through a system that is designed to lift only some of us. And I get it, where do we start? What do we do? It is uncomfortable, we don’t want to say the wrong thing, we don’t want to add to the hurt and the micro aggressions with our unintentional ignorance. But doing nothing and continuing to say nothing is not ok. Time to speak up. To stand up. To learn, to be corrected when we get it wrong and take it with humility. To be uncomfortable. Because guess what? The black people in this country have been uncomfortable since the beginning. They have been beaten down, silenced, abused, ridiculed, traumatized and more – since the beginning. We can be in the growing pain of learning to be better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 27, 2020
Examining Female Sexuality with Leah Carey
Today’s guest is Leah Carrie, a sex and intimacy coach who helps women shed shame about their sexuality and communicate about what they really want in the bedroom rather than just tolerating what they're given. Her clients learn to embrace their sexuality no matter what it looks like. She is the host of the podcast Good Girls Talk About Sex. Sexual freedom is a subject that is deeply personal to Leah because she spent most of her life being a very good girl. Most of the sex she had was either boring or painful, but she endured it because she didn't know she was allowed to ask for anything different. Having taken her own journey to sexual freedom, she is now passionate about breaking the silence, fear and shame around women's sexuality and pleasure and redefining what it means to be a good girl. Join us! " I discovered, not only is it okay to be as interested in sex as I've always been, but it's okay for sex to be pleasurable. And it's really, really okay for me to ask for what I want.” “I had spent my whole life thinking that I was giving consent for all of the sex I had been having, because I wasn't saying no. It turns out that's not what consent means at all. Consent is active and enthusiastic.” “We're all so afraid of being judged.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The role of tantric massage The meaning of consent Sexual healing and sex work The criminalization of sex work How sex ed is approached in other countries How to say and accept “no” Postpartum sex and expectations Sex positive parenting Quarantine touch deprivation What does Joyful Courage mean to you? To me, it means figuring out what we really really want and asking for it. Courage is, I think, figuring out what we want. And being willing to admit that maybe somebody else is interested in giving to us and the joyful part of that is sharing it and believing that maybe we could get it. And I really don't want people to be walking around like I was for the first 42 years of my life, believing that I was just supposed to accept whatever I was given and I wasn't allowed to ask for anything more. And since I have learned a new way of being, my life has changed dramatically in the best possible ways. And so I want that for everyone. Resources: Good Girls Talk About Sex The Three Minute Game Where to find: Youtube | @goodgirlstalk on FB | @goodgirlstalk on Insta | FB Group | Website | <a href="https://twitter.com/goodgirlstal
Wed, May 20, 2020
Eps 233: Solo with Casey exploring awareness and learning to let go of the beat up
Ahhh, hello. Today I want to talk about beat up. There tends to be two extreme ends of the spectrum…. Thre are those of us who have a crazy ideal that we are trying to live up to – typically one where we don’t make any mistakes and show up perfect in all the roles we play. None of us can ever really get there, but we are striving for it. The self talk may sound like: “I have to be more present with the kids.” “I need to make more homecooked meals.” “I’ve got to catch up on housecleaning/laundry/yardwork….” “I’ve GOT to loose some weight…” We are AWARE that there are steps we can take to move in the direction of the life we want to create, AND, when we aren’t taking the steps, or aren’t creating this perfect life, we collapse into defeat. Awareness is high, beat up is high. It’s a tough place to find ourselves. Or there is the opposite extreme. There are those of us that are shooting from the hip all the time and if everyone else can’t get with the program, that is there problem. We don’t see why anyone needs to be in a parenting class, or read a book, or doing any of the self help stuff, because we see the world clearly through our lens and know what to do in any given situation. We are the people who don’t take any ownership of our kids behavior. The question when our kids get into mischief is often “what do I have to do to you to get you to behave?” Personal awareness is low. Beat up is low, unless you count the beat up we do to others who make life hard for us. Now, I don’t imagine that there are a lot of people in the second group listening to my podcast, because you all know how invested I am in personal growth and how passionately I believe in the ways parents influence the behavior they see from their kids. But I think it is valuable to consider those two extremes. I think MOST of us fall in the middle. We might have an ideal when it comes to parenting and how we shoe up in the world, but it is more of a compass for the direction we want to be headed, not necessarily a destination that we can ever arrive at. We get that life is uncertain and unpredictable, and how we respond to what shows up matters and influences the unfolding. We see our kids as their own separate entities, yes, and when things start going sideways we take a step back to consider what we may be doing to contribute to how they are behaving. We try to remember that our children are on their own journey, that they belong to themselves, first and foremost, and we get to caretake for the first part. We do the best we can, AND, we get that the house isn’t going to always be clean (and oh man it is so nice when it is), meals aren’t always perfect (yeah for take-out and meal kits), AND it is impossible to be present for our family 24/7. Lets keep our awareness high, friends, and the beat up low. Lets strive to be better, and embrace our imperfection. Let’s be ok with two step
Wed, May 13, 2020
Eps 232: Exploring Consciousness with Dr. Habib Sadeghi
I am so excited to welcome my guest, Dr. Habib Sadeghi. Dr. Habib Sadeghi is the founder of Be Hive of Healing , an integrative medical center based in Los Angeles. He specializes in multi-disciplinary treatment for chronic illnesses that include osteopathic, anthroposophical, environmental, psychosomatic, family, and German new medicine, as well as clinical pharmacology. He served as an attending Physician and Clinical Facilitator at UCLA-Santa Monica Medical Center and is currently a Clinical Instructor of Family Medicine at Western University of Health Sciences. Dr. Sadeghi is a regular contributor to Goop, CNN, BBC News and the Huffington Post, and is the publisher of the health and well-being journal, MegaZEN. Dr. Sadeghi believes that most problems between parents and children (or indeed, between any two people) are a problem of CONNECTION. By building stronger connections with our children, we are able to move beyond the fighting, yelling, nagging, or other struggles, and into a place of mutual respect and understanding, where real problem-solving can occur. In turn, when we care for our own and our children's mental and emotional health and healing, we drastically reduce the potential for physical diseases, as the mind-body connection is so deep. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 05, 2020
Eps 231: SOLO SHOW - Moving from Right/Wrong to Effective and Remembering that Self Regulation is Learned Over Time with PRACTICE
Hi! Welcome back…. Those of you that are new to the podcast I want to give you a warm welcome, I am so glad you are here. As the longtime listeners know, this show is part informative and educational, part deeply personal, and always authentic and, I hope, relatable. That is always my goal. We are on a collective journey. Good/ bad, right/wrong, winning/failing at how about effective/ ineffective? Takes the judgment out Allows us to know be in this role where we SHOULD know exactly what to do Shifts us out of the idea that there IS a right thing to do It’s all a grand experiment. This is about being effective and helpful. Meltdowns are not a character flaw, they are an indication that something has happened that we, or our kids, don’t have the tools to navigate in the moment. It’s not about you. So, this week, when you have a meltdown and are an asshole to your kids, model what it looks like to own it, “Wow, I really lost it and treated you badly. My emotions got the better of me.” And make it right, “I am so sorry, and I am going to pay more attention to when I am getting close to flipping out, and take care of me when I feel that tightness in my body happening.” Then bring it back to the message of love, “I love you so much.” And when THEY have a meltdown and are assholes to you, show a little grace. The uncertainty of the world is IN OUR FACE right now and they only have so much capacity for keeping it together. Remember that it’s not about you. Support them in calming down, and then LATER, have a conversation about the experience of the meltdown – guiding them to connect to themselves and to you, and ultimately giving them the tools they need to repair. Love you. We’ve got this. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 28, 2020
Ep 230: Bracha Kopstick On Raising Kids to Have a Good Relationship with Food
Today’s guest is Bracha Kopstick . She is a registered dietician specializing in adolescent nutrition. She helps parents feel calm and confident with raising adolescence to have a positive relationship with food and their body. There's a lot of contradictory information about feeding kids but she clarifies and educates parents so that they can raise adolescents with a positive food relationship without the shame and guilt. Join us! "Kids are starting to gain weight in their journey to adulthood. And not only is it not something to be afraid of, but this is necessary weight gain. And I really wish that parents would recognize that this is something that is so necessary and can accept that weight as not something negative, but as something that’s part of just growing and development.” “Nourishing ourselves with food that is enjoyable and tastes good is something I think is really important.” “Kids really thrive on predictability and knowing when they can expect to have food.” “Food is so much more than just nutrition. It's about relationship.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Where kids encounter diet culture Weight gain as part of puberty How the concerns of parents can amplify the insecurities of their growing teens What a balanced meal looks like Nourishment and food as more than fuel Balancing structure and freedom in guiding food choices Meal scheduling - why it’s important How often your teen should be eating How to approach snacking Cooking with kids How parental body image impacts kids Breaking through your body image issues Parents’ roles in helping kids find peace with their food Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 21, 2020
A quick check in :)
Hello Joyful Courage family – how are you today? I hope that your quarantine isn’t too overwhelming and that you are finding opportunity to choose into peace and connection amidst the chaos and uncertainty…. I wanted to show up here and let you know that I am taking this week off from recoding a podcast. For those of you who have been following, you know that my family is going through a new challenge that continues to unfold. I am choosing to use my energy to hold space for my family and the tasks that come with health challenges. I know you understand… Many of you continue to reach out and send me love and well wishes – thank you! I have also had a lot of you ask what you can do, how you can help. With my husband out of work, I am looking for more ways to serve you while also supporting my family. At the end of the month, I am running two 6 week Positive Discipline Parenting classes. They will both run April 30th through June 2nd. I am going to follow the format I use when facilitating a live class, but adapt it for zoom. I have chosen two times with the hope that one of them will work for you. There is an 8-10 PACIFIC class, as well as an 8-10 EASTERN class. This workshop is for parents with school aged kids – 5-12. We will dig deep into PD theory, tools and strategies, as well as the practice of navigating the triggers that show up for each of us so that the tools and strategies are AVAILABLE to us when we need it the most. If you are interested in learning more – go to www.joyfulcourage.com/6weekpd - my daughter and I created a funny video there, and you will find some FAQs, as well as buttons for registering. There is limited space, so get your registration in asap. Again, we start April 30th! Much love to each of you – I will be back next week with an interview for you! Big love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 14, 2020
Eps 229: Parenting through a crisis with Dona Bumgarner
I am so excited to welcome my guest, Dona Bumgarner! Dona is a life coach for frustrated moms who are exhausted living in a culture that doesn’t support them well, which can lead to feeling very out of control of their own time and energy. In her work, Dona helps mothers re-engage with their own desires and design a mothering style and family life that feels authentic to their personal values and goals. She believes that when parents have their needs met, they have more energy and patience to engage with their children in healthy and productive ways. Today we are going to discuss how to recover space for ourselves after our family has weathered a crisis that may have caused us to put everything on hold. Where to find Dona: Website | Facebook | Instagram | Pinterest Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 07, 2020
Eps 228: SOLO SHOW Living Inside of Uncertainty
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Tue, March 31, 2020
Eps 227: Problem Solving with Cynthia Klein
SUPER FAM My guest today is Cynthia Klein. Cynthia is an Educator, Coach, Speaker, and Author. Through her work, Cynthia helped parents of children from age five to 30. Through a strong desire to create a great relationship with her own child, Cynthia’s journey to developing herself as a parent began early on. By building Bridges 2 Understanding and cooperation rooted in mutual respect, she was able to achieve the connection she longed for with her teenage daughter. Cynthia understands the challenges of parenting and provides solutions that are unique, effective, individualized, and enduring. You can achieve results that will change the course of your relationship with your children and your family’s dynamic now and for generations to come. Cynthia’s education includes a B.A. in Psychology, Training and Human Resource Development Certificate, California and New Mexico teaching credentials, numerous parent education certificates, and life lessons gained from raising a successful daughter who values her mom’s opinion. Her book is titled, Ally Parenting: A Non-Adversarial Approach to Transform Conflict Into Cooperation. "It's all about still having your authority in your power, doing it in a way that is respectful.” “What do I feel, think or do differently to get a different response?” “You can’t control your children. You can only influence.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The difference between hard and soft power and leadership and control Building a foundation to prepare for challenges ahead. When kids complain about limits Why it starts with changing yourself first Why you need to ask yourself who owns the problem Problem solving roles: director, collaborator, or supporter Building emotional connection first Some of the ways that parents show up as adversaries in their relationship with their kids The think/feel/do cycle Moving past the victim mindset What being a collaborator means Timing your conversations How to stop blocking communication The power of writing things down What happens when we make assumptions vs approach with curiosity Helping your kids feel heard Soliciting ideas in problem solving Making a plan together and instituting a trial phase What to do when your plan doesn’t roll out the way you expected Using empathy to redirect Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 24, 2020
Eps 226: SOLO SHOW Parenting in the age of Covid-19
Hey listeners!! I am recording this Sunday, it will go live on Tuesday – and I can’t not talk about Covid 19, the coronavirus – because it is absolutely right here, right now, and the reality for the world right now. I want to start with whoa. I mean, whoa right? This is a weird and wild time. We are facing something that few of us have ever experienced before – the news, the leadership, the unknown – it is all right there. Dr. Shefali, author and conscious parenting guru called this time a chiropractic spiritual realignment. I have been listening a lot to Dr. Shefali, she has been live streaming so much goodness through her FB page and her group, “ Superpowered: Transform Anxiety into Resilience .” I love her take on the world because she speaks so much into being with impermanence, being with uncertainty. Because ---- impermanence and uncertainty aren’t new – you all have been listening to me talk about this for the last six months and beyond as I navigate all the fun with my teens. I know you are in your own practices, because you let me know! I get emails nearly every day from listeners that reach out to let me k now that my story is their story, that they are in the muck with their kids and they feel so good to know they are not alone…. You aren’t alone. ALL OF US live in daily uncertainty. We never know how things are going to turn out, although MANY of us live under the illusion that we do, under the illusion that we can control the events of our lives…. Now, we have influence, of course, but control? Yeah, no. We ALL have the unexpected show up in our lives – good, bad and ugly – we make plans, we cross our finders, we do our do, and what happens happens, right? I have been fascinated by listening to people share about how there isn’t any MORE uncertainty because of the corona virus – it just feels that way because we have been under the impression that we know what is going to happen, we had our routines, we had our rhythm, we knew what to expect each day. But this pandemic has yanked that comfy security blanket away and we have no choice but to stare down uncertainty – and oh man, ITS SO FLIPPING UNCOMFORTABLE!!!! Sigh. Ok, so I am here to help. Yes, it’s uncertain, and yes, we have kids to raise and jobs to try and do fro home and bills to pay and oh man they all eat so much!!! I reached out to the members of my patreon group and asked them what their biggest challenges are in this new normal. Here is some of what they shared: Audrey, mama to 4 year old shared: Challenges: keeping my fear and anxiety under wraps. They can show up as irritability and impatience. Also, never having a break because there’s no adult to relieve me. My 4 year old complaining anytime I take time for myself or the meals I’m making (they’re lacking creativity). Gratitude: extra time to do art with her
Tue, March 17, 2020
Eps 225: Kristina Kuzmic is sharing her story of staying grounded on the wild ride of life
What you’ll hear in this episode: Why you shouldn’t wait How Oprah discovered Kristina Why we need to get uncomfortable with self-criticism Why you need to write Ta-da lists instead of To Do lists Maintaining perspective about things that didn’t get done Making a habit of personal growth Empowering our kids to do things for themselves without taking over Having compassion for our kids Creating space for sharing and connection in your relationship with your kids Searching for love in your marriage Love as a daily choice Why asking for help is important Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 10, 2020
Eps 224: SOLO - Creating mindfulness in our romantic partnerships
Today is a solo show – woop woop! Being in a mindful relationship… What is mindfulness? Why is it important on the parenting journey? Why is this important in life? I went to a mindful couples workshop with my husband this weekend Why did we go? Morning of… How I did my work when it was hard to do Modeling setting intention Letting go of being attached to the experience of my husband Why this is relevant to our kids and parenting and life Setting the context with how I showed up and what I was willing to own Offering lots of loving support, acknowledgement, options While also leaning in and inviting vulnerability – speaking into the elephants in the room, making things explicit Learning processes for deeper listening and communication SO MUCH like PD Connect before correct/redirect Positive Intent Looking for solutions not blame The iceberg Process over product – Relationship is everything!!! Took the trainer aside to share…. One of the processes reminded me so much of the Family Meeting, but instead of using the model for the family, you use it as a couple. Safe space for venting about a few things that rubbed you wrong A useful place for problem solving I would add time to celebrate each other before getting into it…. One of our “issues” is talking about money – ben makes most of it, I budget and try to save it. This is a hard one for us to discuss without having clear goals that are the boss. Come together to have a vision What is this going to take Weekly check ins on how we are doing I also have some amazing clients that are such an inspiration to me. Super intentional with checking in on relationship Super articulate in how they are celebrating each other 20 years later…. It takes work Awareness that we are in an ebb Willingness to do something about it Kristen Bell – “I will be with Dax on the porch at 80” – we can get through anything So yeah, tend to your relationships – we talk so much about our relationship with our teens and younger kids here – equally if not more important is our relationship with our partners. Hope you are feeling inspired!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 03, 2020
Eps 223: Decolonizing Parenting With Yolanda Williams
Today’s guest is Yolanda Williams. Conscious parenting is really close to her heart, and she knows what it feels like to grow up without a voice and with violence as a consequence. Raising a black child in a world filled with white supremacy can seem insurmountable at times but she firmly believes that conscious parenting is activism against racism. Yolanda is raising a carefree child to be her authentic self, unafraid to use her voice to stand up to oppression with unshakable confidence and self love. Yolanda wants to help teach other parents to do the same. She's the co founder of Conscious Parenting Time, whose mission it is to decolonize minds by teaching the art of conscious parenting to raise intellectually spiritually and socially free black children. She's also the host of Parenting Decolonized, a podcast on a mission to shine the light on how colonization has impacted the black family structure and what to do about it. Join us! "I'm not here to make anybody else feel comfortable with the truth of racism, but it's supposed to make you uncomfortable.” “If I feel like you are genuinely asking a question and I don't feel like you're trying to center yourself when you ask this question, I will politely answer it. But my job is not to educate white people on racism. That's not the job of any person of color.“ “Being White and Whiteness are two separate things. I don't think people really realize that because whiteness is a construct, just like race is.” “Our culture does judge black parents more harshly. Period.” “Our kids may already be targeted just because of their race, nothing that you can do is going to stop a bad police officer or a bad teacher or someone who is just a racist from being that person.” “I'm not going to change who I am to make white people comfortable.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The difference between being White and Whiteness How the Black parenting experience is different The subtle and not so subtle ways that parenting has been colonized Post-Traumatic Slave Syndrome The risks and challenges that come with parenting from a place of fear Parenting a Black child as a Black person vs as a White person Authoritarian parenting attitudes and dignity double-binds Belonging and significance in the face of racism Internalized racism - what it is and what it looks like How early unconscious biases show up in education Cultural pride as a way to insulate against racism Curating an environment that centres cultural pride The importance of Black history Being intentional about decolonization The Black Panther and their policy What does Joyful Courage mean to you? You know, when I think of joyful courage it makes me think of this quote by Audrey Lord
Tue, February 25, 2020
Eps 222: SOLO SHOW - how's the connection at your house?
Hey all! Today is a solo show… I am so honored to be here with you. Today is all about connection and relationship (again, I know, but really, it’s what’s up). Broken record in the conversations I am having in the teen group as well as the super fam Relationship relationship relationship Not as a “strategy” When relationship is offer, disconnection si present, its like we are on unstable ground Belonging and significance Being seen and heard Feeling valued/ Feeling safe– routines/agreements/family meetings At their heart they are a connection activity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 18, 2020
Eps 221: Sarah Rosensweet talks Positive Parenting and letting go during the teen years
My guest today is Sarah Rosensweet. Sarah is a Peaceful Parenting leader and coach. Peaceful parenting is an approach that uses kind, firm limits with lots of empathy. Parents are in charge but give their kids the support they need to meet their expectations. She emphasizes connection and supports parents in prioritizing relationship with our kids. Sarah knows that our relationship is the most effective way we can influence our kids. Sarah and I spend time today discussing some of the biggest take-aways from The Self Driven Child – a powerful resource written by William Stixrud and Ned Johnson. What you’ll here on this episode: What has changed for Sarah as a coach as her kids have entered the teen years The Self Driven Child There can only be one driver on the train – that is your child We need to manage our own parental anxiety We get to trust that our children know what they need Sarah shares a personal story about her son and his report card and how she used what she learned from the Self Driven Child Our response matters Allowing our kids to make decisions about their own life Letting our own limited yet intense beliefs about all the possibilities get in the way “We care so much that they don’t have to.” We have to trust our kids to learn from all of their choices It’s hard to give up the drivers seat Resiliency comes from surviving difficult things Our teens are moving with a limited bank of experiences Using curiosity is powerful and ask our teens if they want to hear our opinion We can be involved, without controlling their every move The sweet spot Middle ground for encouraging teens to nurture relationship Stay Connected to Your Teenager by Michael Riera Loosening up the limits “It’s your call…” Casey shares her story about her teen daughter dropping out of school The number one thing teens need from their parents…. Where to find Sarah: Website | Facebook | Peaceful Parenting with Teenagers Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 11, 2020
Eps 220: SOLO SHOW digging into strategies for creating space for emotional safety for your teens
Today is a solos show - YAY! Coming off of the mental health mini summit… I am reminded time and time again about the importance of creating an environment that support our kids-teens in being who they are. A space that feels emotionally safe. We hold the container, we set the tone, right? Before we can do that we really need to decide what it is that we want to create? Speaking with clients about this, before a big conversation or event, I will aks them, well, what is it you want to create? What is most important for you that your child receives? Strategies for creating a home environment that nurtures safety Routines/Consistency/dependable structure Asking permission/Being curious Being available/Non judgmental Validate their experience Own your stuff Trust that your kids ARE thinking about what is best for them Power of perspective - 3 bs and the outside observer, remembering the iceberg Therapy - One of the things that has been really useful for me lately that I am digging into through therapy is identifying key times in my life where I felt lost, isolated, and really pulled away from my parents…. And if I could go back that that girl to tell her what she needs to hear…. Some of what has come up has been: This must be really hard, it must feel really confusingYou are ok just as you are, you are enough and worthy of loveI am here for you Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 04, 2020
Eps 219: Being a Shameless Mom with Sara Dean
I am so excited to welcome Sara Dean to the Joyful Courage Podcast. Sara is the creator and host of the Shameless Mom Academy Podcast, a top rated podcast with over 2 million downloads. Her biggest passion is helping women own their space. After enduring a long infertility journey, and then a full blown identity crises following the birth of her son, Sara took her background in psychology/health/ wellness and rebuilt her identity – one step at a time. Today, Sara motivates and inspires women to stop shrinking and start growing in every aspect of their lives. She is on a mission to inspire women and moms, in particular, to live bigger, bolder, braver #everydamnday. "I realized over time that I wanted to be having conversations about helping women take up space, rather than always trying to shrink in the space they existed in.” “Perfect is paralyzing.” “If you're in perfectionism, there's no momentum.” “We need to give ourselves permission to feel in big ways and to be vulnerable with those feelings.” “It's okay to cry, but suffering in silence is the most surefire way to destroy yourself.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The role of mindset Outcome versus process goals Moms and worthiness Why perfect sucks Perfectionism, procrastination and high achieving women How perfectionism robs you of momentum Doing B- work The role of routine and structure Creating mental freedom Giving ourselves permission to feel Intuition and finding the lessons in the chaos Learning to sit in discomfort Finding gratitude in hard moments and hard phases The universality of challenges and trauma Why women suffer in silence Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 28, 2020
Eps 218: SOLO SHOW Revisiting the power of the 3Bs
SOLO SHOW Interviewed for the positive parenting conference by Sumitha Bhandarkar from afineparent.com and she wanted to interview me about my book – fun to remember that I wrote a book! Deep dove into the three Bs. Then last night I had my first of 6 live parenting classes here in Bellingham. Being vs doing Theory, belonging and significance Power of perceptions Humans are social beings – everything in the context of relationship Iceberg why is it important to keep in mind? HALT Problem we see is a solution/response to a problem we don’t know about Mistaken beliefs about self/others/world Why is it hard to remember to consider the iceberg? BECAUSE WE ARE USUALLY PISSED ABOUT WHAT IS HAPPENING AT THE TIP!! WE HAVE OUR OWN ICEBERGS!! At the tip of our iceberg is our emotional/instinctive response to the behavior we are seeing right? And what is under the surface????? HALT!! Feelings of defeat and beat up about mistakes we made… Conditioning/baggage from our own experiences Ahhhhh – so many icebergs!! So we are wired to connect…. And remember what Dan and Tina shared in EPS 215 --- the four s’s – seen, safe, soothed, secure. THIS IS WHAT OUR KIDS NEED, and isn’t it what we need too? We get to learn to offer this up to ourselves Back to the three Bs – this is one tool to support us in creating the four S’s for ourselves, so that we can then offer them up for our kids – show up better, attuned, connected, loving. Lets play with the 3 Bs…. I am going to guide you through them, while also explaining deeper the purpose and power of each B…. Breath The breath is an tool that directly effects the nervous system – and when we are in fight or flight, you can bet our nervous system is working overtime -rapid heart beat, tension, we are full of adrenaline… Attending to breath allows for a settling in…. a slowing down… an opening…. Body Riding the breath into the body in search of any leftover tension…. Allow the breath to soften the body, the small muscles in the face, the neck, the shoulders…. We want to soften the body, open the body so that we can soften and open the mind…. Balcony Once you feel yourself soften, find your balcony seat, imagine that you can lift up and out of your body and look down at your experience, as if you are watching a show from a balcony seat – you are accessing your outside observer. The part of yourself that is separate from your experience, knowing that you are having an experience… From this place, this outside observer place, look at yourself through the lens of compassion, through the lens of love…. What is happening under your iceberg? Can you be a nonjudgment
Tue, January 21, 2020
Eps 217: Exploring Collaborative Emotion Processing with Alyssa Blask Campbell
Today’s guest is Alyssa Blask Campbell. Alyssa has her Master's of Education in Early Childhood. She is a leading expert in emotional development speaking to people around the world. She is a podcast host for Voices of Your Village and the CEO of Seed and Sew. Alyssa has been featured As an emotional development expert and publications such as the Washington Post, Kids VT and Family Education. After co creating the CEP method, which she's going to tell us all about, she researched it across the US and co authored a book on it scheduled for publication next year. Alyssa is deeply passionate about building emotional intelligence in children, stating that it's never too early or too late to start, thank goodness. Alyssa shows up as approachable and welcomes people into her village to get support at all ages and stages shame free. Join us! "In order to be able to do that social piece, the kindness, the respect the empathy, the social awareness components, we have to know how to navigate the self awareness and self regulation first.” “Sometimes times it's really just getting down to what is our feeling about what they're feeling or experiencing.” “I believe that it's our job to find the calm, not their job to get calm for us.” “It's safe for me to feel this because it's not going to last forever.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The difference between social and emotional development The role of self awareness and self regulation Coping mechanisms versus coping strategies The five phases of emotion processing Coping mechanisms as numbing agents Fine motor activities as processing tools Changing habits one at a time Reflective Practice - what it is and how it works Finding the calm for your kids Mirror Neurons and the neurology of calm Addressing bias as a step in the parenting education journey Taking care of your physical health so you can self-regulate Allowing yourself to feel Recognizing feelings Empathizing and connecting vs noticing Helping your kids feel felt Finding security in your feeling Yale research on anxiety in kids The relationship between anxiety and fear Problem solving and conflict resolution Identifying when you’re ready for problem solving What makes Voices of Your Village Podcast awesome Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 14, 2020
Eps 216: Solo Show - Transformation starts with us
Today is a solo show! I am sharing about what is happening in the Joyful Courage community these next few weeks: Adolescent Mental Health Mini Summit www.joyfulcourage.com/mhminisummit Podcast Recap LIVES added to the Patreon community www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage Other topics that I am speaking into: Resentment on the journey Making self care happen Being in choice And making choices that allow us to let go Being a model Transformation starts with us How are you showing up for your family?? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 07, 2020
Eps 215: The Power of Showing up With Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson
Today’s guests are Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson. Dan is an internationally acclaimed author, award winning educator and child psychiatrist. He is currently a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine, where he also serves as a co investigator at the Center For Culture, Brain And Development, and co director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center. Dan co authored some of our favorite parenting books, including The Whole Brain Child, No Drama Discipline, and The Yes Brain. With the other guest joining us today, he also wrote Brainstorm: The Bible for Parents of Teens, Parenting From The Inside Out and Aware, which came out the summer of 2018 and he came on to discuss that book with me. Dr. Tina Bryson is the other guest that we get to hear from today. She is the co author with Dan Segal of three New York Times bestsellers soon to be four and is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, California. Tina is also a pediatric and adolescent, psychotherapist, she keynotes conferences, and conducts workshops for parents, educators and clinicians all over the world. There is so much more I could add to the bios of both of these guests I could truly go on and on. They're here today to share about their latest book, The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become, and How Their Brains get Wired. Join us! Resources: The Whole Brain Child No Drama Discipline The Yes Brain The Baby Book Eps 154: Dr. Dan Siegel Discussing the Science of Being Present The Power of Showing Up Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence Eps 100: Dr. Tina Bryson Supports Us With Brain Informed Parenting Eps 126: Tina Bryson is BACK teaching us about nurturing a YES BRAIN Brainstorm Parenting From The Inside Out Where to find Dr. Siegel and Dr. Bryson: Dr. Tina Bryson Dr. Dan Siegel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 31, 2019
Eps 214: Solo show - Celebrating and reflecting on 2019
Today is a solo show, reflecting on 2019 – the celebrations, the lessons, all of it. I am so grateful for the community and the love you send me and each other on the daily!! See you in the new year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 17, 2019
Eps 213: Deep Diving into Self Care with Aparna Venkataraman
Today’s guest is Aparna Venkataraman. Aparna is a parent coach, meditation teacher, motivational speaker and global wellness advocate for doTERRA essential oils. Her approachable nature, strong intuition and problem solving skills guide her in supporting parents of babies, toddlers and teens to empower themselves and build healthy relationships with one another through effective communication, confidence building and light hearted mindfulness techniques. She values authenticity, which you all know is one of my favorites, a kind nature, motivation, love, compassion, gratitude and humor as key components of a beautiful life. She’s here to share ways that families can relieve stress through self care, mindfulness and effective communication. Join us! "Self care means to me to find ways to connect back to what is lighting me up, what is helping me to find peace and stay connected to my authentic self.” “There are simple things you can do each day that can help you to create a routine where you're feeling connected to yourself and not just waiting until the weekend until you have much more time” “We can put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be a certain way and to show up in the world as somebody who has it all together. When we're really actually stressed, really, really stressed on the inside.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Self-care beyond manicures and exercise Why self care doesn’t have to wait for the weekend The pressure to keep up appearances How to tell when you’re connecting to your authentic self What is intrinsic self care The power behind finding our why How spirituality can be helpful The role of breath in self care Stress, parenting and mindfulness Tips for learning mindfulness Ways to start small in your mindfulness Laughter as stress relief Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 10, 2019
Eps 212: SOLO SHOW about becoming a more explicit and less resentful parent
SOLO SHOW! I have shared about going to therapy – and quite a few of you have reached out and shared that this has prompted YOU to find this kind of support in your community – SO HAPPY! I told you how I shopped around and chose on that I thought was the right fit. I had actually had some one I trust and worked with suggest that somatic therapy was really the fit I wanted, so that is what I looked for. Even after shopping around, after a few sessions, I felt unsatisfied with the experience. IT felt slow and directionless. Now, this could ABSOLUTELY say something about me, right? Have I spoken before about my need to get things moving and FIX problems??? I have another friend that told me that I would LOVE who she was seeing – it’s a man, interestingly enough I thought I wanted to work with women but I LOVE THIS GUY. And while he isn’t solving my problems and going into “fix it” mode – the masculine energy is what I am noticing is supporting the work. But it also feels balanced because there does seem to be spaciousness, but my experience of the time spent with him feel directional. So, all that to say that you all have permission to change up your mental health team if something feels off. Unapologetically. Today I want to talk about something that has been coming up for me, AND with some of my clients. I have a feeling you are all going to relate with this as well. So let me set this up and you can decide if you can relate…. You are looking ahead to the weekend. Everyone is going to be home on Sunday and you would really like to have a family day, time together doing something…. Maybe you’ll all decide to go to a movie or do a project, but you know that time together is something you all need and Sunday is the perfect time…. Sunday rolls around and your partner gets busy with a home improvement project that looks like it is going to last all day, one of you kids has made plans with friends and gets irritated when you tell him nope, you have to be home. And maybe the other child is looking for “alone time” rather than “together time.” We are all in this together, friends!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 03, 2019
Eps 211: Finding the joy in missing out with Tonya Dalton
Today’s guest is Tonya Dalton. Tonya is a productivity expert, writer, speaker and founder of Inkwell Press Productivity Company, a company centered around productivity tools and training. she released her book The Joy of Missing Out on October 1, she's going to share a little bit about her book with us. Tanya is also the mother of two teenagers and really knows what it means to be the leader of a family. Join us! " I love that it feels like a permission slip. Like I feel like I have permission to just stop chasing my tail.” “We're filling our calendars, but we're not really filling our souls.” “it's really about mindful living. It's really about living with intention.” “Productivity is not about doing more. It's about doing what is most important.” “Life is meant to be enjoyed, not just endured.” “None of us truly have it all together all of the time.” “Balance is a myth.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The glorification of busy The obligation and pressure to be busy How not being busy makes us feel about ourselves How being busy keeps us from nurturing ourselves and others Quality over quantity Embracing imperfection Releasing the need to be busy “Shoulding” on ourselves and why that’s not helpful Living mindfully with intention Prioritizing activities instead of trying to do all the things Letting go of “Some Day” Syndrome The stories we tell ourselves and unreasonably high expectations Getting curious about our responses to life Examining our comfort zones and if they are serving us How releasing perfectionism supports connection Letting people lift you up as a gift to them Family as a team Sunday planning as a ritual Division of labor based on team member needs and supporting each other Belonging and significance and filling each other’s buckets Encouraging ownership and buy in with your kids Letting go of balance Finding flexibility in the mess Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 26, 2019
Eps 210: SOLO SHOW Navigating fear and trusting our gut
Today is a solo show. I missed you all last week…. As you know, I am in the throes of navigating my own parenting journey and sometimes that means stepping away from my professional work to focus on my family. For all of you out there who are feeling like you are the only one struggling on this path, it simply IS NOT TRUE. We all have our own way of sharing with the world, and many people just don’t. They keep the hard stuff to themselves, leaving the rest of us thinking that their lives are easy-breezy. This podcast, and this episode, is my way of pulling back the curtain and sharing from am deeply authentic place. The Joyful Courage community is a place for all of us to bring our whole, vulnerable selves. There is plenty to worry about on the parenting path, especially as our kids transform into teens and beyond. When is the fear useful, and when is it getting in the way of hearing our own wise, intuition? I explore that today. I hope you enjoy it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 12, 2019
Mindful Mama Mentor, Hunter Clarke Fields, supporting us in raising good humans
My guest today is Hunter Clarke-Fields. Hunter is a yoga and mindfulness coach, the host of the Mindful Mama Podcast, and supporter of moms near and far. She is also a mama herself and walks her talk with her two daughters. I had the great pleasure of being a guest on Hunter’s podcast and am thrilled to host here on the Joyful Courage Podcast. Hunter’s book, Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids is available now, and I am super honored to share her wisdom with you all today. Where to find Hunter Raising Good Humans Book Page: Raising Good Humans Book.com Facebook Page: Hunter Clarke-Fields, Mindful Mama Mentor Instagram: Mindful Mama Mentor Twitter: HClarkeFields LinkedIn: Hunter Clarke-Fields Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 05, 2019
Eps 208: Solo Show - keeping things real while navigating a tough season of parenting
This week is a solo show and I am totally going free style. There aren’t much for show notes, I hope you listen and that what is shared resonates with you. We are all in this together! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 29, 2019
Eps 207: Talking Gen Z and Screens with Jaynay C. Johnson
Today’s guest is Jaynay C. Johnson. Jaynay is a therapist, speaker and author, dedicating much of her time and energy to serving adolescent girls and their families. From suffering from teen depression to being written off from family and teachers as being just another troubled teen, Jaynay has always been a firm believer that at any given moment you have the power to say "This is not how the story is going to end." Jennay chose to take control of her story, choosing to dedicate her life to uplifting and empowering the leaders of tomorrow. Jaynay's body of work includes published books, magazine features, radio interviews and multiple guest appearances. A lady of elegance, poise, motivation and hope for tomorrow's leaders Jennay embodies an uplifting message and presentation style that she believes the ones coming behind her will need in order to reach their greatest potential. Join us! "I think the space where parents miss a great opportunity is to empathize.” “The reality is phones are not bad. Internet is not bad. It's a tool.” “If as the parent, you're constantly making the choices for them, you're almost telling them that you don't think that they can make good decision.” “It is important for us all to just take a proactive approach and have conversations around the best practices of social media, the best practices of having a phone. And I think we just need to be doing that more frequently than we are.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The evolution of the concept of adolescence The audacity of “I know, because I was a teenager.” Empathy and raising teens Giving teens enough information to make informed decisions The value of appropriate openness Intergenerational differences The role of mobile phones and when they tend to be introduced to Gen Z Important conversations to have about phones with your kids Big issues facing teens and their parents Emotional intelligence and how it factors into the decision of which paths to pursue Timing of college and the need to be open minded Teaching your kids to trust themselves Challenges facing teens and families of color Being cognizant of cultural differences What does Joyful Courage mean to you? So joyful courage means to me that, although it can be rough to have certain conversations and to pull out some of the, you know, darker sides of life, I find joy knowing that once we pull them out, they get a chance to see the light. And from there, everything goes up and up. So that's what it means to me, that I had the courage to pull it out. But then you're happy because it's out and once it's out, it can breathe. Where to find Jaynay: Instagram | Facebook | <a hre
Wed, October 23, 2019
Eps 206: The path to radical acceptance
Hey friends… thank you for meeting me here. Thank you for seeing me and for sharing the ways that this podcast resonates with you and supports you. I have received feedback from so many of you talking about how this show is a lifeline for you, and a place where the experience you are having on the parenting journey is validating. Radical Acceptance Have you heard of this? DBT (which I haven’t ever done and know really nothing about accepting something with all of your soul opening yourself to fully experience the reality of the moment Fighting reality continues suffering Being in acceptance allow “radically accept that you want something you don’t have and it’s not a catastrophe” – Marsha Lineham The moment your in and the past – but you can change from there Reality is what it is https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OTG7YEWkJFI Past and future fucks us up How many of us feel guilty and rack our brains looking for where we screwed up? If we did it differently we wouldn’t be in the situation we are in…. But but but…. Shouldn’t we think about the future? And how can we not??? I have hopes and dreams for my kids, of course. THEY ARE THE DESIGNERS OF THEIRL IFE AND HOW CAN I GET OUT OF THE WAY???????? Creating a space that is pure enough for them to trust themselves. Popular conversations Would have us believe that there is a five step process for getting the outcome we want with our kids Popular conversations would have us believe that parenting is about them and not us Popular conversations would have us believe that if things go sideways it is about something that we are doing wrong, that there is something to fix Popular conversation blames the world today, technology, and teens themselves for what we are seeing What if popular conversation is wrong What if parenting is all about us? What if no matter WHAT we do, our kids are going to experience the path they are meant to experience? What if right here, right now, is exactly as it is meant to be? Radical acceptance. If this is exactly where we are meant to be, with all fo the challenges that exist – and I see you out there. Those of you with kids who are navigating mental health challenges, drug use and abuse, risky behavior – I see you out there who FROM THE BEGINNING were invited into radical acceptance due to your childs different abilities – whether they be physical, mental or emotional. You are the ones that all of us can learn from. This is old news, this idea of accepting reality AS IT IS. Thank you for being models for the rest of us and modeling what this looks like…. If this is exactly where we are meant to be, if we accept rather than resist the reality that we are findin
Tue, October 15, 2019
Eps 205: Wendy Bertagnole breaks down the sensory system in a way that makes PERFECT SENSE!
My guest today is Wendy Bertagnole. Wendy Bertagnole , is a lover of chocolate, lifter of heavy weights, believer in wearing yoga clothes most every day, and a mother of three kids. She works with moms who are frustrated with their children’s behavior, helping them to once again enjoy motherhood and their children. With an undergrad degree in child development and a masters in special education, Wendy has taken what she’s learned, while also raising her three kids, to serve others Wendy knows that not every child shows up 100% happy and willing to cooperate every moment of every day, which can be frustrating. She believe every behavior is a form of communication and her mission is to help every parent understand what their child is communicating through their behavior. Wendy’s work is aligned with the mission of Joyful Courage and I am thrilled to have some time to talk with her today. Find Wendy: Website | Podcast | Facebook | Instagram | Pinterest Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 08, 2019
Eps 204: SOLO SHOW Time for therapy
Today is a solo show – woohoo! I am having a really hard time prepping a solo show…. Part of the problem is that I feel like I am really in my own work of finding some space inside of my fears and worries about my parenting. Am I too permissive? Am I avoiding conflict? Or am I meeting my kids where they are at? Am I being pragmatic, or is this confusing? Am I enabling or am I meeting my children where they are at? What is going to happen to them? Will they be able to cope in the future? Will they ever feel passionate about anything? Do they feel worthy of showing up, standing up, giving back? I literally have been waking up in the middle of the night gripped with tension in my body and mind, spinning through all of these questions, coupling this with “what if…” Well – I made an appointment to see my fave energy worker to see if I could get some help with removing these blocks, letting go so I could release these fears. And you know what came up – it is time for me to get some therapy. Yup. See, I am super aware of what is happening when it is happening. I can see the way I am in the middle of my family, grasping for strings to bring me a sense of control and safety – what is really happening is that I am becoming so entangled in their experience, that I may actually be making things worse… Or maybe not, but the dynamics in my relationships are not what I want them to be. Shift into love. Shift into connection. Surrender, let go. But what happened, what I learned or was reminded of from my energy worker, is that the “shift” I want to have happen, that I actually want to have happen, is bypassing the very real need that my inner girl has to be seen and heard and felt. Between the messages I received growing up, and the persona that I try to fill in my career, there is this mistaken idea that to belong, or to matter, or to be “doing my work” I need to not fall apart. That falling apart is somehow weak, or a crutch, or I don’t know…. Not enlightened? I can pinpoint times in my life where my experience was being dismissed, where I was told that there wasn’t space for me to breakdown and I have internalized that to the point where I can’t move through my pain. And right now, the pain is fear and self doubt and worry…. My system wants to take the short cut to just breathing, finding neutral with my body and taking the balcony seat (doesn’t that sound familiar?) And I am not here to say that the breath body balcony tool isn’t helpful, I do believe it is, AND there are times when the work that is being called for goes deeper than mindfulness with breath and journaling. Working out what I am being shown as a place to get messy and dig in is actually going to support me in using mindfulness/the 3 Bs as tools for daily practice of being in relationship with my teens, WITHOUT bringing in the baggage of what I am holding from my own past…
Tue, October 01, 2019
Eps 203: Dr.Rob Reiher digs into parenting above the noise
My guest today is DR. ROB REIHER. Rob is a highly respected developmental and educational psychologist. He is a media expert who studies the escalating impact of tech, media and consumerism and it’s accompanying “noise” on children, families and society. Also, Rob has extensive experience as a researcher, counselor, speaker, consultant, and educator. As an adjunct professor of Psychology at Woodbury University in Burbank California, Rob created and taught the first INNERTAINMENT course in the country. Rob has written two books and is the co-author (with Daniel Acuff Ph.D.) of Kidnapped: How Irresponsible Marketers Are Stealing the Minds of Your Children . He is also the co-host of the Live Above the Noise podcast. I am thrilled to have Dr. Reiher on to support us in developing tools for this landscape of parenting. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 24, 2019
Natha Campanella on using astrology to support our parenting
Today’s guest is Natha Campanella. She is a professional writer, a mother, a teacher, an astrologer and intuitive guide. Natha is also a certified master life coach and she uses a unique blend of modalities and her approach with an emphasis on traditional coaching and astrology. She often supplements with knowledge from the enneagram. We will be discussing astrology. Join us! "There's something that is very objective about astrology and also very validating.” “The beautiful thing about astrology it is that it is so similar to the way that we as humans just navigate the world.” “Meeting them where they're at is understanding who they are, and then working with them from that place.” What you’ll hear in this episode: How natal charts are created and what they mean What archetypes are and what they do How a chart is laid out and what each section symbolizes Ways your sign can influence your approach to life How you can use your astrological information to shape your choices Astrological insights as additional, objective, non-judgmental information for self-exploration Why charting your family can be helpful Astrology as a means to meet your kids where they are at How astrology can interface with or be complementary to positive or peaceful parenting Using astrological information to navigate parenting challenges Astrology and the iceberg metaphor Resources for understanding astrology Ways to work with Natha What does Joyful Courage mean to you? I think joyful courage means to me that, you know, even when stuff feels really hard, which it does a lot. Especially, I don't know for the rest of you, but for me, that there's always this sort of invitation to be courageous and keep moving forward and to really look for what is joyful within the context of what's happening. And I always find really amazing things even when I'm, you know, having a dark night of the soul. It's like "Oh, you know, look at how beautiful that bumblebee looks on that flower right now" and so you know, it's like always just seeking out, always knowing that there is something beautiful happening and that can bring joy. Resources: Caroline Myss - Sacred Contracts Astro.com The Inner Sky Jan Spiller Where to find: Website | Facebook | Instagram | YouTube <
Tue, September 17, 2019
EPS 201: SOLO SHOW What it means to meet our kids where they're at
Yay! I’m back! I’ve missed you all!!! It isn’t often that I take time off of this podcast, and I am really grateful to have taken the past few weeks off. Some of the things that went down included: Working with three elementary schools here in Bellingham! Supporting the staff members with implementing Positive Discipline in the classroom Shout out to teachers – they are on the font lines of making the world a better place, and just like all of us, doing the best they can with the tools they have. I have worked with many teachers doing the PD trainer, and I have come across some that are deeply discouraged, and others that are super encouraged and what they all have in common is that they show up each day for the kids in their class. And I just want to say that the ways that parents treat their children’s teacher makes all the difference. Build that relationship – it will benefit not only your child, but all the children in your child’s class because a teacher that feels connected to the families he or she serves is going to show up better – belonging and significance are not only what our kids need, it is what all humans need. I launched the Parenting Teens with Positive Discipline Audio Summit Encore Offer ! I just couldn’t put these conversations to rest – they were so rich. I know that the whole online summit formula is to give you way more than you can consume in a short period of time and then sell you the whole thing so that you can actually get what you need at your own pace. I followed that formula last time and it felt weird…. I do need to make a living people, and the content I create does have significant value, and…. This felt weird to me. So what I did was I distilled down the content so that it is in bite sized pieces. And omg, going through these audios again was so amazing – I am in a different place than when I recorded these interviews and it really speaks into how our lenses, or our listening, changes over time…. Anyways, I had over 200 people tune into the summit and the feedback was so great!!! If you missed it, I *am* selling the package, with all the interviews in full, for a limited time on my website. $49. Another significant thing that went down in the last few weeks is that MY SON HAS STARTED AT HIS NEW SCHOOL!!! Remember, we moved? Do you remember that my son was not so excited? Actually, he was pretty pissed about the whole thing and had a pretty low key summer up here, worrying about what his new school and life was going ot look like. He did make one friend prior to school starting here in the neighborhood. Shout out to Leona who saw my post in the neighborhood moms FB group about looking for another 8th grader who likes basketball to hand out with my son and got in touch. They hit it off and it made a world of difference for Ian to have a friend walk
Tue, August 20, 2019
A Super Short Announcement from Casey
HEYYYY!! This isn't a full episode - just a quick announcement letting listeners know that the show is going to take a month off and come back strong September 17th - woop woop. Listen in and find out how to stay connected. Big love, Casey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 14, 2019
Eps 200: SOLO SHOW Navigating my open, honest relationship with my teens
Today is a SOLO SHOW! First, how about a community celebration for the 200TH EPISODE of the Joyful Courage Podcast!!! WOOP WOOP!! It is so exciting to reach this milestone with you all... Along with the fact that the podcast has been downloaded over 550,000 times!! I am so deeply grateful and honored that I get to show up for you each week and that what I create is useful to you.... In honor of the 200th show, I actually have a BRAND NEW SOLO SHOW to share this week. I got some pretty powerful feedback from my teen daughter about my parenting style and the messages she is getting through how I show up and talk to her. Granted, we are navigating some new territory, and have recently been in some tricky discussions. And at the end of the day, I don't always know what the right thing to do is... You out there with teens may know what I mean, the conversation may sound like this: Teenager: "But, why can't I ___?" Parent ( racking brain for the perfect , logical answer): "I'm not sure, mostly ___ just feels like it should be a hard no...." And then you are left feeling like maybe you are holding on to old beliefs, or perhaps it is what other people will think that is getting in the way, or maybe you are having one of those "can you just not tell me and get a little sneaky " moments (yes, these thoughts exist for me too). While we all want open, honest relationships with our kids - the open honesty brings with it a BUNCH of challenges that catch you off guard. And honestly, I don't always know the right answer, it's not always neat and tidy over here, AND, it turns out, sometimes my daughter feels like a a giving permission, when really, I am just unsure of what to say do. You guys. It is so messy. And this is what I am sharing on the podcast this week. I hope you love it. ::::: Parenting Teens with Positive Discipline Audio Summit ENCORE OFFER The Parenting Teens with Positive Discipline Audio Summit first went live in January of 2019. I gave participants each interview in its entirety, for a week of learning. It was a LOT of content for busy overwhelmed parents, so I built a curated navigation system, to help guide and support and I am sharing with you. I have organized some of the many powerful messages from the interviews and complied them around the themes that are important to get us started. Those themes include: Hot topics like screens, sex, body image, risky behavior Deepening our understanding of this time of life, for both your teen and you, as a parent Strategies for maintaining and nurturing your relationship Settling in when it gets messy Doing our work to get out of their way The Encore Offer is my gift - free to you. I think this wisdom is so important, I wanted to share with as many parents as possible. And I encourage you to share with
Mon, August 05, 2019
REVISITING THE BRILLIANCE OF DR. DAN SIEGEL
This week I am replaying a conversation that I had one year ago, almost to THE DAY, with one of my DREAM GUESTs, Dr. Dan Siegel. I am so glad that when I record, there is only audio going on, because I was grinning like a fool while talking to Dr. Siegel. Anyone who knows his work, KNOWS, he is the real deal. Super brilliant. Super dedicated to supporting parents in a way that MATTERS. His books, which he co-authored with another Joyful Courage fave guest, Dr. Tina Bryson, include the whole brain child, no drama discipline, and the yes brain. He also wrote, Brainstorm, the power and purpose of the teen brain – a guide for every parent and teen to understand more fully the special, unique brain development that happens during adolescents. Dr. Seigel came on last summer to discuss his book, Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. I love LOVED this discussion, and I think you will too!! Takeaways from the show How being present impacts the speed of the aging process Wellbeing and how it is enhanced by being present Relationships with your kids and how being present improves it Cultivating awareness Role modeling resilience How awareness feeds connection vs control Impacts of a lack of structure on the brain and future of children Authoritative parenting vs Authoritarian parenting Why we need the village and how that creates stress for contemporary parents Finding joy, tranquility and connection through expanding awareness Flipping our lid, learning from our body’s signals and how awareness can help Monitoring and modifying for self-regulation and to improve responses to stress The 3 O’s what they mean Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, July 30, 2019
Summer Series: Eps 198, Grounding Ourselves with Kerry Foreman
Hey friends! Welcome back to Joyful Courage – a conscious parenting podcast, where we get real and raw about the parenting journey. You have tuned in to another SUMMER SERIES EPISODE!! This week I am super excited to bring back my conversation from TWO YEARS AGO, Episode 98, with Kerry Foreman. I am THRILLED to be sharing this conversation with you. Kerry is someone that I follow on Instagram and am continuously inspired by how she shows up in the world. Kerry has an online program for teens that is based in mindfulness. It is a 4 week research based course will allow your teen to develop beginning mindfulness skills and cultivate a mindfulness practice that will reduce stress and improve their mental health. Your teen will become empowered to take control of their well being, become more aware of thoughts and behaviors leading to higher accountability, increase their self esteem, and find an inner happiness not attached to anything external. Kerry Foreman is a Registered Psychotherapist, with her Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. She is passionate about Mindfulness and has been practicing and teaching for 4 years. Kerry lives in Monument, Colorado with her patient husband, a teenager, a tween and two rescue dogs, Norman and Fern. Through using Mindfulness to increase her self awareness, she realized that during her childhood she had learned and practiced faulty coping skills. She targeted them one by one, and slowly changed the cycles of her family, learned new behaviors, and worked to create new, positive habits for life. She did this in order to have a successful marriage and to be the kind of Mom she wanted to be. She is passionate about her ability to create change. Change your thinking and it changes your life. What you’ll hear in this episode: Recognition of FOO (Family of Origin) patterns and the call to make changes Psychological/verbal/emotional abuse trains us react rather than respond Noticing patterns such as shame, guilt and anger – where do they originate? Becoming a parent can bring these to the surface. How do we recognize where we need to change? Learning to respond instead if react Understand and reflect on our own parents’ experience Creating change and becoming aware of our own inner state of being Mindfulness practice influences the shift into better relationships How do we become grounded in order to stay balanced and present in mind no matter what is happening around us? Where control plays a role in mindfulness and the contrast in anxiety What do we chose to believe – what is the story we play in our minds? Self talk of being a victim – recognizing the language Expectations of others and how to stay mindful and in control while at the same time releasing what we are not in control of. What does Joyful Courage mean to me? “Joyful Courage is
Tue, July 23, 2019
Summer Series: Eps 197, Walking the Tightrope of Raising Teens with Kim Muench
Hey friends! Welcome back to Joyful Courage – a conscious parenting podcast, where we get real and raw about the parenting journey. You have tuned in to another SUMMER SERIES EPISODE!! This week I am bringing back my conversation with Kim Muench. Kim has been on the show a couple of times, but this episode we dig into how the parenting teens experience can really feel like a tight rope walk. Consider the content of LAST WEEK’s show, I thought it would be helpful to share this conversation. Kim is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: - When children arrive at adolescence - The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens - Choosing your battles - Defining your family values - Setting an example for your kids - Defining non-negotiables - Ways to offer choices to your teenager - Detaching from the outcome - Prioritizing personal care and personal development - The illusion of control - Individuation and what that can look like - Supporting our kids in making better choices with alcohol - Being okay with kids failing or things taking longer - Trusting vs hovering - learning to detach - Taking a long view to your relationship with your kids What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Joyful Courage means to me enthusiastically embracing and supporting the journey of our sons and daughters that have come into the world to live out their journey. Supporting and encouraging them with enthusiasm. And I love the two words together, I think it’s fantastic. Resources: Episode 82: Tweens and Smart Phones Where to find: Website | Facebook | Twitter | Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, July 16, 2019
Summer Series: Eps 196, Kids, Drugs and my Conversation with Liz Blackwell-Moore
Today I am bringing back my conversation with Liz Blackwell-Moore from episode 128. Liz and I go deep into the conversation of substance use and abuse and how to be in relationship with our kids while also navigating the very real decisions they may or may not decide to make. I know, this topic is tough. We all want our kid to be safe and healthy…. And we all feel the fear around the very real risks some of them take. This conversation is powerful and left me feeling more grounded about this super intense part of the parenting teens journey. Check it out. I am so excited to have Liz on today to talk about an incredibly relevant topic – kids and drugs. GAH. I know. No one really WANTS to talk about this, but we have to. Liz has been working in the field of substance use since 2000. Her current work involves working with community coalitions and organizations to provide training on prevention strategies as well as technical assistance to translate public health research into practice and implement a restorative trauma-informed approach to addressing public health problems. So basically, Liz is going to break it all down for us in a way that is helpful. She lives in Portland, Maine with her wife, two happy kids, and a puppy. Resources: https://the20minuteguide.com/ http://www.drugfree.org/ Good reading on the teen brain: Dan Siegel Brainstorm Francis Jensen The Teenage Brain Links for young people: http://www.teen.drugabuse.gov/ *This is National Institute of Drug Abuse website for teens http://www.protectwhatsnext.com/ *This is a website out of Colorado for young people specifically about marijuana use Where to find Liz: Birchlanestrategies.com (under-construction) Linked in Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, July 09, 2019
Summer Series: Eps 195, Jessica Lahey Talks About the Gift of Failure
Today we are going wayyyyy back to revisit Episode 21, my conversation with Jessica Lahey about what it means to be an “autonomy supportive” parents. This was such a powerful revisit for me, four years later, as my kids settle into the teen years and all the challenges and celebrations they get to navigate. I would love to take away the pain and confusion that comes with this time – AND I know that my kids will have their deepest learning through experience… Such a great conversation! Jessica Lahey is smart and funny and real when it comes to talking straight up about how we rob our kids of their future when we protect the from failure... It doesn't matter if they are in the sandbox or a high school classroom, our kids only learn the tools for relationship, empathy and resiliency when we (parents) allow them the gift of discomfort, making mistakes and yes, failure. Listen in to this candid conversation and consider where you could pull back a bit, where you could allow your kids a little bit more room to learn from their missteps, to own when they've hurt someone, to problem solve it when they've left their homework or lunch at home (again!)... We all love our kids, we want them to grow into the fullest, best versions of themselves, sometimes that requires us to back off and let them figure some things out... You may be surprised by just how capable they are! Mentions: The book: The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey The article in the Atlantic that started it all: Why Parents Need to Let Their Children Fail Why Back to School Night Made Me Feel Like a Bad Mom Glennon Doyle Melton on momastry.com How to Raise and Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims The Price of Privilege by Madeline Levine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 03, 2019
Summer Series: Eps 194, Genevieve Simperingham on Peaceful Parenting and Teens
Today we are going to revisit Episode 138, my conversation with Genevieve Simperingham about what peaceful parenting during the teen years looks like. Genevieve Simperingham is a counsellor, an AWARE parenting educator, a writer, a group facilitator, meditation teacher and founder of the Peaceful Parent Institute in New Zealand. Over the last 24 years, Genevieve has presented hundreds of workshops and courses. She has parented her own kids using attachment principles and she seeks to empower parents with the tools that result in increased harmony, trust and cooperation in the family unit. We are discussing peaceful parenting our teenagers. Join us! “It’s about bringing into your parenting not just how you should respond in this situation or in that situation and our different approaches and techniques (which are really, really important) but it’s all about who we are as a person and who our child is as a person and the dynamic and the energy between us.” “We shouldn’t be in fighter stance simply because we have teenagers.” What you’ll hear in this episode: What is peaceful parenting and how it is different than some of the more mainstream behaviorist parenting approaches. The Centre, Connect, Communicate approach Stress management, self care and healing trauma and how they relate to parenting The need for authenticity in empathy and curiosity The biggest hang-ups for parents around peaceful parenting teenagers Having tough conversations with your teens without shorting out the connection at the outset Setting and holding limits within the peaceful parenting framework Sex, drugs and alcohol use in teens - is it better to allow at home or to restrict? Reducing power struggles and rebellion Educating and empowering teens to make their own choices Reconnecting to move past conflict What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Joyful courage to me, it connects me with that last bit that we were just talking about, to me it’s about joy we feel in the heart and it takes a lot of courage to reconnect. So to me it’s about opening the heart and allowing the joy, the enjoyment of the relationship, of the connection to come back in and that takes courage. It takes courage to be vulnerable again. It’s easier to be hard and defensive and stern and it takes courage to open the heart come back to the joy of that beautiful connection again. Resources: Aware parenting Where to find Genevieve: The way of the Peaceful Parent Facebook Group Facebook Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.c
Tue, June 25, 2019
Eps 193: Revisiting my conversation about teens with Sharon Ballentine
Today’s show is a revisit of Episode 57, my conversation with Sharon Ballantine. With 3 children to parent, Sharon turned to books for help with parenting, but she never had the time to read and process the information in the books. So, with no other options available to her, she decided to rely on her own intuition and her own Internal Guidance System for parenting. She began using this technique and the law of attraction to manifest exactly what she wanted as a parent. In this episode, Sharon shares exactly how she made it all happen! Sharon Ballantine is a Parenting and Life Coach and Founder of the Ballantine Parenting Institute. Her book, The Art of Blissful Parenting, guides parents with practical as well as spiritual advice in raising their children. It also guides parents on how to get into alignment, discover and use their own IGS before they can teach their children. In this episode Sharon also discusses: How to find answers within yourself You have an internal guidance system that begins with your feelings Why leaving the room can help you get “in alignment” to parent Physical movement can be a tool to help bring you into a centered place of alignment Changing the subject that is causing stress and bad energy can cause a shift in energy The teenage years are the years of “personal discovery” Parents spend the teen years in fear mode and resort to using control Whoever a teenager is today is not their final destination. Be patient; they will change. Why we want to avoid making our children feel bad at all costs Staying centered will give you the coping skills to deal with any kind of crazy you have to deal with “This too shall pass” - it is true especially for teens Ways to deal with teen behavior that is harmful Focusing on the future and consequences of actions can allow a teen to take responsibility and look at the big picture How to support your child’s development of their Internal Guidance System Ways her failures as a parent contributed to finding her Internal Guidance System What joyful courage means to her and how it contributes to bliss Resources Mentioned on the Show: The Secret - Rhonda Byrne The Art of Blissful Parenting - Sharon Ballantine Connect with Sharon: Website - sharonballantine.com Facebook/sharonballantine Twitter/LifeCoachSB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, June 18, 2019
Eps 192: Talking About Sensory Sensitive Kids with Shelley Francis
Today’s guest is Shelley Francis. Shelly is an audiologist specializing in auditory processing disorder, and has been working with children for over 25 years. Over the years she has noticed a trend where more and more children are being seen as extra sensitive, not only with their physical senses but with their inner senses as well. By using her own sensitivities, she looks past a child's diagnosis and connects with their heart. Today Shelly remains motivated by both her passion to help children and her unique perspective in childhood development, which she has described in her book, No Child Left Unwrapped: Understanding and Honoring the Gifts Every Child is Born With . It's her hope that her book and her teachings will help create the needed paradigm shifts within our education system and within our society that will better support our beautiful sensory sensitive children of today. Join us! “Often we pigeonhole these children thinking that they need to be a certain way to be successful and then they can't be successful because that's not their nature. ” “There's so much more information out there to receive than just information through our five senses.” “Everybody needs to know that they're awesome.” “These children then just feel like there's, there's so much wrong with them, but they're never really getting what's right with them, what's good with them, what's awesome about them.” “Often the problem we see is a solution to a problem that we don't know about” “We are always looking at the external for the answer. What if the answer is someplace else?” “Nobody can deny the fact that we need more people that are empathic or empathetic and compassionate. And that's what we're getting.” “Let's help our kids when they're young or as early as possible so they don't have to go through as much of these challenges that we've had to go through, that other sensitive people have had to go through in the past.” “Entangled trauma for a sensitive soul is a recipe for disaster.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The difference between differences and disorder The need to recognize and honor differences Sensory differences - what are they and how do you recognize them? Sensory information, behavior and how they intersect The challenges of living heart wide open for kids who haven’t learned how to release the energy of others Baby steps for supporting sensitive kids The role of meditation as a tool Resilience: what it means and how we develop it Trauma, sensitivity and visualization to create filters for energy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adc
Tue, June 11, 2019
Eps 191: Back to the Basics of Positive Discipline
Hey friends! Can’t believe that it is nearly halfway through June! - Book launch – IG Giveaway - JCA Teens program - NASAP and TP - Looking ahead at the summer - Planning for next fall o More JCA Teens o Possible JCA Tweens/Preteens o Live workshops/classes Today I want to get back to basics. I am a Positive Discipline Trainer. My recent time in Tucson at NASAP and co-facilitating the TP has brought me back to the building blocks of positive discipline…. I am also finding myself on exploratory calls with new clients who are eager to do one on one work and looking for resources to share what the philosophy of PD is all about, with the Joyful Courage spin, or course. So, I decided I would do a show about it. I am excited to share, and if you are someone who feels like you know all about PD, I invite you to listen from a place of curiosity and wonder – to catch yourself when you think “I know all of this” and shift into “what is here for me to learn?” Because that is one of my favorite things about this work – there are so many layers. Right when I think “oh yeah, NOW I get it” life throws me something new, or my kids step into a new place of development, or I just simply find myself back in my old ways of thinking (because it is so darn familiar ) and I realize, yet again, that there is more to learn…. Excited? Me too. A lot of people hear the words, Positive Discipline and assume that it is all about being nice while we dole out consequences to our kids. Or they get really stuck on the word “positive “ and think it is all about being permissive and letting our kids run the show. Some people mistakenly believe that PD parents don’t ever want their kids to feel bad, and perhaps lump PD with helicoptering, coddling or enabling our kids. This is totally NOT what PD is all about. To start, one thing I really appreciate about Positive Discipline is that it is a program that has it’s roots in Adlerian Psychology. Alfred Adler was one of the first social psychologists. He worked with individuals and families and found, time and time again, that human behavior was motivated by a sense of belonging and significance. He found that we are always moving towards, or moving from, our sense of connection and knowing that we matter. And when behavior starts to look like mischief, it can be linked back to the individuals perception of belonging and significance. Jane Nelsen, the author and co-author of the library of Positive Discipline books, talks about belonging and significance as our longing for love and responsibility. - Kind and firm - Belonging and significance - Mutual respect/dignity for all - Encouragement - Social interest - Take time for training - The courage to be imperfect/mistakes as opportunities to learn - We always
Tue, June 04, 2019
Eps 190: Getting our nutrition on with Lahana Vigliano
Today’s guest is Lahana Vigliano. Lahana is a certified clinical nutritionist and CEO of Thrival Nutrition. She has her Bachelor's degree in Nutrition Science and currently is pursuing her Master's degree in Nutrition Science. Lahana and her team help support women who struggle with weight loss, hormone imbalances, digestive issues, chronic fatigue, and many other lingering issues that leaves women not feeling their best. She uses food as medicine as well as herbs and supplements when needed to support her clients. She looks at the whole body holistically, making sure women are understanding how nutrition, sleep, stress, and their environment impact their health. She creates tons of free resources on her blog, www.thrivalnutrition.com . We’re going to be discussing nutrition and stress. Join us! “In the question of “Am I doing enough?” We often are actually doing too much..” “Everybody's going to be okay if their schedule isn't completely jam-packed.” “We miss self-care opportunities just because we aren't in the mindset of recognizing that we're having a self-care opportunity” “Change isn't going to happen just because you want it to happen, but it will happen when we step into action.” What you’ll hear in this episode: What is cortisol and what does it do? How cortisol impacts brain growth in kids Most common stressors among parents How sleep interacts with cortisol Cortisol, appetite, and cravings Self-care and reframing what that looks like How much sleep we should be getting to maintain optimal health Finding time for sleep and self-care The stories we tell ourselves about food Making food prep easier Creating barriers around foods that don’t serve us Easy protein sources Ways to make vegetables more accessible Self-limiting beliefs around the scarcity of time and resources Learning to give yourself grace The power of doing something you love Prioritizing self-care to be able to care for others What does Joyful Courage mean to you? So I think just, as my life as a mom, a business owner, a wife, I think it just means to really live life to the fullest, you know, having no fear and just being filled with joy with everything that you do, no matter what season, no matter what time in your life because it's meant to be because it's building me up to be the person God created me to be. So I'm just kind of going through life with that mantra. Resources: Under Pressure by Lisa Damour Recipes on Lahana’s website Where to find Lahana:</
Tue, May 28, 2019
Eps 189: Part Two of Using the Law of Attraction on the Parenting Journey
Hey everybody!!!! So happy to be back with you for another solo show – SO MUCH HAPPENING RIGHT NOW!!! When I work with clients, I always start the hour with a grounding meditation, because I think we should ALL be dropping into the present moment more often, and then I ask, “What are you celebrating?” I love this question because it reminds my clients that there is always something to celebrate, something to look at as a gift. I know that sometimes if feels like a stretch, but when we challenge ourselves to find some gratitude, it shifts the energy, and opens up more possibilities. I am going to start this show with my own celebrations: First, I am celebrating all of the LOVE that the community has showered me with throughout this book launch – you people are AMAZING – thank you for the reviews you have written, the SM shout outs, the sweet comments you are sending my way. I do this work for all of us and I am so honored when you let me know that it makes a difference in your life! Another celebration is that I am getting the opportunity to practice NOT TAKING THINGS PERSONALLY with my kids lately. Like, a lot. Wrapping up the school year, the upcoming move, and a few other life experiences have upped the level of stress at our house, and the kids are navigating it the best they can. I experience them being irritated, withdrawn, annoyed, not wanting to talk to me, like, AT ALL….. Often this type of behavior is very easy to translate into, “why are you TREATING ME LIKE THIS??” or, “It hurts y feelings when you shut me out” which is actually what I said out loud…. And guess what? They are doing the best they can with the tools they have. They are navigating their life right now and the behavior is simply an INDICATOR that they are in it. It’s not about me. It’s not about me. It’s not about me…. Back to the celebration, I am in the fire of this! I am in the fire of this and THIS is my opportunity to walk my talk. THIS is when it matters that I CHOOSE to tell the story of “it’s not about me” – the goal is to NOT be in a co-dependent relationship with our children, right? So here it is. That chance to separate myself from my child’s experience/behavior and generate the emotions that I WANT to be feeling, regardless of what is happening for her. Fiercely committed, yes, lovingly detached, always a work in progress. Ok, are you ready for me to get on with it??? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 21, 2019
Eps 188: Julie Neale Shares about Motherhood, Activism, and the Power of Voice
Today’s guest is Mother's Quest founder, Julie Neale. Julie honors both the meaning and the mess of life and parenthood and believes our children and youth challenge us to grow into our best selves. She is on a mission to live a truly epic life and through her example inspire her children to do the same her for purpose. Her for-purpose venture Mother's Quest provides inspiration, coaching, and community so that mothers and those who work with young people can connect to support and resources, fulfill their unique purpose and live their epic lives. After a 20 year career as a leader in youth-serving nonprofit organizations, Julie turned her focus to coaching training at the Coaches Training Institute and facilitating a process known as Reflection for youth development professionals. Through this and her parenting experience, she realized that mothers and those who mother need an opportunity to reflect on their own growth, dreams, and plans, and created Mother's Quest to champion them with common care . She masterfully taps into her own curiosity and intuition to help her clients slow down from the business of life and work, reflect on what matters, clarify a future vision and move into action. In the fall of 2017, she founded the Women Podcasters in Solidarity initiative to raise awareness and dollars for social justice issues through the power of podcasting. The first season focused on anti-racism and police accountability. We're going to talk more about that initiative on today's show. When she's not wrestling with her kindergartner or driving her team to basketball practice, you can find her squeezing in 10 minutes of yoga and meditation, believing something is better than nothing and staying up way too late to watch a double hitter of Handmaid's Tale and Super Soul Sunday. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: The importance of the modeling of continuing to grow and evolve as a human when that's the expectation we have of young people The value of holding a growth mindset around conversations about race Resources to learn about having conversations about race with our kids What is the Women Podcasters In Solidarity Initiative Giving our boys permission to cry and have emotion The power of conversation to create change Lessons learned from social justice activism How ego gets in the way of relationships Moving from transactional relationships to authentic connection Resources: Slay Like a Mother book The Mask of Motherhood Ted Talk Nicole Lee episode on Mother’s Quest podcast So You Want to Talk About Race - Ij
Tue, May 14, 2019
Eps 187: Solo show about the law of attraction and parenting
Heyyyyyy you! So much excitement – we got out house, kids are on board, book is getting attention, work is good…. Having the experience of seeing all that is abundant in my life has got me to thinking about how I have in the past seen abundance in the lives of others and thought “that will never be me” “I can’t do that” blah blah blah – and I’ve realized that in changing the story, I have changed what has unfolded in my life….. Its amazing. Our story keeps us where we are Listening to a lot of law of attraction – familiar? IF not, let me read what it is from the lawofattraction.com - Simply put, the Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. It is believed that regardless of age, nationality or religious belief, we are all susceptible to the laws which govern the Universe, including the Law of Attraction. It is the Law of Attraction which uses the power of the mind to translate whatever is in our thoughts and materialize them into reality. In basic terms, all thoughts turn into things eventually. If you focus on negative doom and gloom you will remain under that cloud. If you focus on positive thoughts and have goals that you aim to achieve you will find a way to achieve them with massive action. We live our stories, we tell the stories we live, we live the story, we tell the story…. Sometimes that can keep us stuck. It isn’t the “stuck” that is bad, it is whether or not we WANT to be stuck where we are that we get to be aware of…. For example – When the life you are experiencing feels really hard and you see your kids as out of control…. And you talk about it with your partner and maybe your friends, and then you experience more of it, and you share with your mom or your therapist, and then there it is again, the hard, the heavy, someone asks you how you are, you give a big sigh and you respond with “I’m ok, things are hard” and the cycle continues to spin over and over and over. Where is there space for something new? Where is there room to BELIEVE that there is another possibility?? That is where you are. You are resigned. Done and done. A contrasting picture is one where things are going really well…. Kids are thriving, relationship is good, business is booming, there are so many possibilities opening up for you, and you talk about it with your partner and maybe your friends, and then you experience more of it, and you share with your mom or your therapist, and then there it is again, the trust, the excitement, someone asks you how you are, you give a big smile and you respond with “I’m amazing, things are so good” and the cycle continues to spin over and over and over. This space feels expansive, it feels like there is an expectancy of more goodness, you believe in possibility, you are open and hopeful. We get to stay in our lane. Learn more about y
Tue, May 07, 2019
Eps 186: Teasing apart Emotional Regulation with Anna Seewald
My guest today is Anna Seewald. Anna is a Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author and Host of The Authentic Parenting Podcast. With background in psychology and education, having worked with children for 18 years, today she helps conscious moms and dads to become calm and connected to themselves and their children through trauma-informed education. She believes in helping children by helping parents. She has a private practice that specializes in parent education, where she provides one-on-one parent coaching, parenting, court ordered, and co-parenting classes. www.authenticparenting.com What you’ll hear in this episode: What is emotional regulation? Gaining perspective on what it means when our child is emotionally dysregulated Why toddlers struggle with emotional regulation How emotional dysregulation of kids triggers parents How stress contributes to emotional dysregulation in parents How emotional regulation supports conflict resolution, jobs, relationships, academics What is co-regulation? How parents can stay regulated The Four-Step Calm Formula Coaching your child’s emotional regulation The role of compassion in emotional regulation Assessing the level of urgency in an emotionally dysregulated situation Language and emotional dysregulation Mindfulness and emotional dysregulation Validating our children’s feelings in a way that matches the intensity of their distress The impact of dysregulation on the verbal centers of the brain Dealing with emotional dysregulation under time constraints Post-dysregulation problem solving and how to nurture it What to do when your child won’t talk about their feelings The power of relationship in bringing emotional regulation Tips for listeners who are looking to get better at helping their children grow their self-regulation skills or themselves Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 30, 2019
Eps 185: How to be fiercely committed and lovingly detached
Today is solo show – woohoo!! I’ve been missing you all. I am so excited to have been interviewed by some amazing gals out there in the Podcast world. Anna Seewald of the Authentic Parenting Podcast – www.authenticparenting.com/podcast had me on and we talked about building trust – both in ourselves and our kids. Loved every minute of it and can’t WAIT to meet Anna in person at her conference in May, the Authentic Parenting Conference – www.authenticparenting.com/conference . Today I want to talk about a mantra that I have found useful time and time again. I learned it from a friend and mentor of mine – shout out to Denise Yost! – we saw each other for the first time in a while and when I asked her how she was, she responded with “fiercely committed, and lovingly detached” Fiercely committed, lovingly detached. What it means to be fiercely committed? Creating the environment Meeting their needs Advocating for them Being kind and firm Encouraging them What does it mean to be lovingly detached? Allowing them to be who they are Allowing for them to build resiliency through navigating natural consequences Allowing them to be uncomfortable Trusting that they are on THEIR journey Letting go Giving them responsibility over their lives What gets in the way? Our dreams/vision for them Our past/failures/mistakes Our assumptions Our addiction to what other people think Our insecurity about “doing it wrong” Our emotional regulation (or lack of) Our lens of the “right/wrong” way What will help us move towards “fiercely committed, lovingly detached”? Two list exercise. Challenges Everyone probably has a really similar list – YAY! Gifts Doubt that you have any particular job description… What about “happy”? Can we hope for content? Can we hope for healthy coping skills and resiliency? Can we hope for grounded and empowered? Remember the challenges are at the tip of the iceberg – and anything we “do” with the challenges should somehow, someway, teach/model/or allow our kids to PRACTICE the life skills we want them to embody. A bit about DO. So often parents want to know WHAT DO I DO?? In the moment tools This is a narrow mindset PD is a broader lens than in the moment. TRSUT in developing relationship TRUST that kids do better
Tue, April 23, 2019
Eps 184: The Montessori Toddler with Simone Davies
Today’s guest is Simone Davis. Simone is the author of the new book, The Montessori Toddler. Simone is an AMI Association Montessori International Montessori Educator. She lives in Amsterdam where she runs parent-child Montessori classes at Jacaranda Tree Montessori. Simone is the author of a popular blog, The Montessori Notebook. She is also mother to two young adults. We will be discussing toddlers. Join us! "In Montessori it's an alternative education system where we're actually following each unique child on their own unique individual development.” “We start to think that toddlers are giving us a hard time when actually it's them having a hard time.” “We help them as much as necessary and as little as possible.” “Montessori is somewhere in between, we call it freedom within limits.” “It's really just how to communicate in an effective, respectful way.” “it's really about trusting your child that they're on their own unique timeline and that they're different to everybody else.” “I think of us as planting that seed as well and nurturing it so that we really recognize that each child's individual, how can I support and help them become the best version of themselves?” What you’ll hear in this episode: What the Montessori philosophy is all about The role of multi-age modeling in a Montessori environment The importance of taking time for training Preparing the environment and what that looks like How Montessori builds community and independence Teaching kids to care for things and each other: values-based learning How breaking down steps reduces assumptions and frustration The benefits of the Montessori approach Applying Montessori principles to your home What gets in the way of parents for seeing the gifts of the toddler years Practicing neutral observation without assumption like a scientist How the quest for Independence is similar in the teen and toddler years Setting kind and clear limits The value of a rich language environment with the space to try new things Getting comfortable with repeating yourself The role of making amends and modeling doing so yourself The most important thing for parents of young children to know in order to shift into the Montessori mindset Resources: Dan Siegel hand model of the brain video “The Montessori Toddler” book Where to find Simone: Website Facebook Instagram
Tue, April 16, 2019
Eps 183: Your kids are not manipulating you.
Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves... :::: Winging it in the closet! Thank you for the review, Lauren! Listening to my clients and group participants…. Amazing the expansive way we can see/here for the other person. The idea that kids get into mischief, make mistakes, AND well meaning, loving parents get stuck into thinking “they are manipulating me/trying to get what they want/playng me” Foundation of Adlerian theory – behavior being movement in the direction of belonging and significance As young children – always perceiving/interpreting/beliefs/action (private logic) Do I belong? Do I matter? Do I have influence? Am I safe? We are asking and answering those questions through our own lens, which has been developed over time, through experience and relationships we have lived through Kids are cut and dry, their private logic is experienced as “truth” Perception of emotional safety matters “I’m curious… I notice you don’t want to talk about problems after the fact…. Can you tell me about that?” Goal is to help them observe themselves Having a conversation about the conversation Curiosity has no agenda, it’s not a “method” Curiosity is non-judgmental and open THIS TAKES PRACTICE PEOPLE! Call it out when the space feels judge-y and own what we have brought in the past Asking VS Telling Experiential activity Play with this!! Remember there are layers!! ::::: Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey This book is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Presale is April 10th – as many of you as possible buying presale would be FABULOUS. Go to www.joyfulcourage.com/book Official launch date is May 20th – OMG – so so exciting!!! The best way to stay up to date on the book news is to join my newsletter list, if you haven’t already. Sign up at www.joyfulcourage.com/join Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!! I appreciate you and we are ALMOST THERE!!!! :::: Authentic Parenting Conference Anna Seewald, host of the Authentic Parenting Podcast, and parent coach, has put together a steller day of learning and growing togethe
Tue, April 09, 2019
Eps 182: Finding Your Family's Rhythm with Meagan Wilson
My guest today is Meagan Wilson. Meagan is the founder of Whole Family Rhythms and living out her mission of helping other mothers, caregivers, and educators to create more clarity and balance within the home. Meagan’s website and seasonal Guides provide support, information, and resources on conscious parenting inspired by the earth, the seasons, and each family’s own unique values. Together, a community of over 25 thousand like-minded Mothers and educators gather each day on her Instagram feed to discuss parenting with love, connection and rhythm. "Connecting with your family values is this parenting partner exercise.” “Visual cues, no matter what, they are always very helpful.” What you’ll hear in this episode: What living with the rhythms of the earth and the seasons means What it means to align your life with your values How to document your family values in a meaningful way Discussing your values as co-parents with extended family and caregivers Routine vs rhythm, in-breath vs out-breath times and what it all means Using visuals to create daily habits What it means to be a loving authority Being the author of the boundaries that you're holding Natural consequences - what they are Connecting to something higher than yourself - not necessarily religion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 02, 2019
Eps 181: A Solo Show Exploring The Myths and Realities of Positive Parenting
Hey there!!! Myths of Positive Parenting That everything is peaceful all the time PD activity that shows the continuum between kindness and firmness parenting styles Kind AND firm can feel elusive We are all human beings having a human experience Kids and teens are perceiving what is happening around them, and making meaning out of what they are perceiving. They filter the world through their individual, developing lens – it makes sense that they get it wrong and response in a way that seems…. well…. Inconvenient. Our kids and teens are in the process of DEVELOPING and LEARNING life skills. They’ve had limited experience. They are doing the best they can with the tools they have. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 26, 2019
Eps 180: Dr. Sarah Bergman Lewis Discusses Navigating Trauma on the Parenting Journey
Today’s guest is Dr. Sarah Bergman Lewis. Before attending medical school ,Sarah helped to found a middle school called the Seattle Girls' School. As part of her 5 years with the Seattle girls' school she did admission and taught 6th grade Sarah attended University of Washington Medical School. She completed her pediatric residency at Seattle Children's, has worked in urgent care at Seattle Children's Hospital, then as a primary care physician. She and her family later travelled to Guatemala for 3 months where she worked in a local hospital and her kids attended school. Her family will return again this year for a visit and to help launch a partnership between a group of Seattle pediatricians and the Guatemalan hospital. Outside of works there is pursuing her yoga teaching training certificate and enjoys learning about sharing Integrative Medicine tools with her patients as part of a collaboration between Odessa Brown Children's Clinic and Arc of King County. She is helping devise the curriculum for a mindful self compassion course for Spanish speaking parents which she will co-facilitate in the spring. Her husband Steve is a nonprofit executive director. She is a mom of two delightful children. Today we are talking about navigating our own self-healing. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Parenting from wholeness, not fear Adverse childhood events and how they affect parents and parenting Adverse childhood events study explained The dose response effect to adverse childhood events How ACE scores impact health (physical and mental) risks The shadow side of resilience Behavior as a solution to a problem we don’t know about Epigenetics, what is it and what does it have to do with behavior? Being aware of what drives our internal “shark music” Exercising self-compassion around when you’re going to work on your issues How the way we talk to ourselves impacts how we talk to people in our family What embodiment means Encouraging embodiment in our kids Guiding conversations about embodiment Discussing screen time with our kids Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 19, 2019
SOLO show about trusting relationship and encouragement
First – let me tell you how much I love the show, Parenthood, on Netflix.... Casey is on solo with you today digging into what it means to trust the process in the context of parenting, Positive Discipline, and leaning on our relationship as the most powerful way to influence our kids behavior. What does this mean? Hitting stage Homework stage The relationships/ life skill development journey When we are stuck in a place with our kids it is easy to believe that it will “always be like this” Change happens over time If we want something to be different we have to BE different The dance we do with our kids has explicit steps, well choreographed over time All it take is one person to change the dance (YOU) What it means to be in an honest open relationship with your children What can feel like the dark side Curiosity and stalling when you don’t know what to do Notice your fear and let it guide you to pausing Gather your resources Listen to your gut How to voice concerns without blaming or condemning (thermometer activity) Encouraging vs discouraging out kids When they are discouraged by OUR behavior they shift OUT OF taking responsibility or even thinking about their own behavior Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 12, 2019
Beyond Birds and Bees with Bonnie J Rough
Today’s guest is Bonnie J. Rough, who is an author, journalist, and speaker focusing on families, health, education, parenting and sexuality. Her latest book is Beyond Birds & Bees: Bringing Home a New Message to Our Kids about Sex, Love, and Equality. has written recently for the New York Times on t eaching young children about boundaries and consent and the value of childhood crushes , The Atlantic on both the link between sex ed and gender equality and improving school sex ed , the Washington Post on why it’s important to teach sex ed in mixed-gender groups , and New York Magazine on raising kids without sexual shame . Join us! "What I learned is that the focus on helping kids wait longer is really not and should not be the end all. It’s really more about how can we prepare them to have a positive experience.” “The Dutch parents who I met and the American ones too who have inspired me on this really are prioritizing their relationship with their kids over their ideals about what and when their kids will do things.” “If we have those open lines of communication we actually have more control than if we forbid.” “The more open and transparent we can be with our kids the better.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Cultural differences between the US and Amsterdam around gender equality, nudity, and sexuality Normalizing conversations about sexuality Separating nudity from eroticism Differences in sexual health outcomes between US and Dutch teenagers Ways to keep lines of communication open with your kids Double standards applied to boys and girls Why helping your child maintain cross-gender friendships The importance of knowing your kids’ friends What the research says about teenage sex What to do when you feel you’re late to the party in talking to your kids about sex The importance of not having an agenda when having those curious conversations with kids Owning when we feel awkward or uncomfortable Navigating fear and baggage to become available for conversations with our kids Expan
Tue, March 05, 2019
Casey is Solo talking about how we influence the iceberg
How we influence the iceberg Clients come to me to talk about kids behavior Battles over homework Power struggles Screen time addiction Getting out the door We are mega focused on fixing those problems The iceberg- behavior we see is a solution to a problem that we may or may not know about Example that we played with a few weeks ago in parenting class: Child won’t get ready to go in the morning and family is late getting out the door Two options for response: What do I have to do to this kid to get her to cooperate? Bribes, threats, punishments What is happening for this child that is getting in the way? Go to the source Tell me about the mornings…. I notice that…. How are you feeling….. With new information you can make a plan together to support the child (and you)n in doing better Transparency Rowan talking about the future Agitated, closed off, defensive Often my response is irritated that she cant “have” the convo We both are discouraged and the convo is over Maybe I am engaging the wrong conversation Helpful to know what shows up for her when the invitation is to talk about future What is the experience? IS it only with me or others? Might there be a benefit to talking with someone else if not me? What would be useful about having a vision of the future? Deeper even still I notice when this is the conversation you….. I am curious about that? How does it feel when…..? Sometimes our kids refuse to go there…. How do we let go? What do they need? Recognizing/acknowledging our tendency to hold on/get rigid/ let fear or our agenda drive us…. Mutual respect – respect for child and for self and the situation Honor who they are and their temperament I am ALL IN, lets go deep and swirl around and grow and learn and be super transparent and get it all out – don’t hold back. I process out loud and in the moment…. This is not the way of everyone, def not my daughter. Summing it up: Recognize how we are contributing to challenges Own it, and get curious about your child’s experience. Identify the ACTUAL problem Be an open, nonjudgmental listener Look for solutions (related respectful reasonable helpful) Be respectful Honor who you child is in word and action Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices
Tue, February 26, 2019
Sid Garza-Hillman talking about small steps to a thriving family
Today’s guest is Sid Garza-Hillman, who is a podcaster and youtuber. He's the author of Approaching the Natural: A Health Manifesto and Raising Healthy Parents, Small Steps, Less Stress and a Thriving Family. Sid graduated from UCLA with a BA in philosophy and is a public speaker, certified nutritionist and Small Steps Coach. He teaches people around the world his unique small steps approach to healthy living at www.smallsteppers.com. His latest podcast, What Sid Thinks is currently available on iTunes. Sid is the Wellness Programs Director at the Stanford Inn Eco Resort. He's an ultra runner and race director for the Mendocino coast 50k trail ultra marathon. Join us! "However you want to parent, you can't pull that off unless you're feeling good in your life” “If we can sort of tip the scales in our favor most of the time, then we win the day” “We are not robots. Our kids aren't robots. We're humans with human emotions and experiences and lenses and it's just so messy.” “If we can really focus on how we be and how we show up, that's going to inspire, inform, empower and influence what we do.” “Maybe the perfect version of the human being is one that that is about self care and compassion and has a core of ethic that informs their actions most of the time. ” “Who am I at my best?” “You've been defining yourself by how you've been in the external world, when that's been in complete conflict with actually what you stand for and what you value.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Breaking old patterns and habits - managing expectations The knowledge and implementation gap Small Stepping - what is it and what does Are poor choices your problem or your solution? Finding ways to manage stress and making choices to increase the likelihood of success Dissipating stress - making healthier choices to do so Setting the stage for actual change vs relying on willpower Identifying who you are as a parent Reminding yourself of who you are Change as a process of coming into alignment with who you really are Mistakes as a way to model the human experience Dealing with making mistakes with your kids What is a small step? The Goldilocks effect of stress - what is it and how do you find it?? The value of outside interests in parenting and relationships The role of joy in how you show up as a parent Finding 10 minute pockets of joy and what to fill it with The role of self care in our attitude towards parenting Resources: Raising Healthy Parents: Small Steps, Less Stress and a Thriving Family <a
Tue, February 19, 2019
A candid conversation with my kids about screen time
Screens Why? It is coming up in the Joyful Courage Parents of Teens community, it is coming up in calls with clients, it is coming up in my own life and practice with my kids FOR CERTAIN: it is a big pain in the ass Today I am going to share and inquiry from my own experience – not because I know the way, or I have it all figured out, but because I am IN IT with you. Remember last April when I had Dr. Delaney Runston on and we talked about her documentary, Screenagers? There are so many pearls of wisdom and research in my convo with her – be sure to listen or relisten - http://www.joyfulcourage.com/podcast/140 I also had a powerful conversation with one of my colleagues, a positive discipline Lead trainer, about this during the teen summit, which is available to invest in through the end of this month at joyfulcourage.com/teensummit I spoke with Kim Muench about this back in episode 82 – Parenting in the Age of Smart phones… Plus, it has come up in loads of other conversations IT’S NOT GOING AWAY Here are some of the pain points I am hearing from the community AND experiencing myself: Limits and boundaries How much to monitor Broken agreements The arguing The internet is forever How will they develop real relationship skills when everything is over text/IM/Snaps Online/SM bullying Sexting/nudes How much time is too much time to be on their phones How to be the lone parents who waits to get their child a phone How to support kids with friends when they don’t have SM/phones Restricting what they do/see on their devices Begin real and honest about our OWN (parents) phone use Using devices as avoidance/escape Let’s check in with the kids: How did you feel about making agreements about screens? What is your experience with social media? What do you not like about the phone and SM? What kinds of things do you see happening? Where do you feel like it gets in the way of life? Or do you? What do you like about it? How do you feel about me when I am on your case about your phone use? What do you see me modeling with my phone use? You have some restrictions on your phone – is that helpful? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 12, 2019
Learning to be a more mindful communicator with Oren Jay Sofer
Today’s guest is Oren Jay Sofer, the author of Say What You Mean - A Mindful Approach to Non-Violent Communication. He leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication at meditation centres and education settings around the US. Oren is a graduate of the IMS Spirit Rock teacher training program. He holds a degree in comparative religion from Columbia University, teaches in the Insight Meditation community and is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and a certified trainer of non-violent communication. Oren creates mindfulness training programs for a number of organizations including Mindful Schools, Kaiser Permanente, and 10% Happier. He lives in Richmond, California. Join us! "If we can’t actually listen to each other and have a meaningful conversation when we disagree, it’s impossible to work together to address the challenges that we’re facing” “We can’t wait for the opportunities where presence is needed to practice presence.” “Even when we can't meet our child's needs we can help them to know and recognize that their needs matter to us.” “Our feelings are a reflection of our needs.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Being in response vs reaction Communication as a way of navigating conflict mindfully 3 foundations for successful conversations and effective communication The role of presence in communication The ambient stress of raising a child Owning our responses in times of stress Exercising self-compassion in relation to parenting-related stress Integrating moments of awareness into your day Creating daily rituals into mindfulness Mindfulness as a way to mitigate cumulative stress Mindfulness as a way to be present in our relationships Mindfulness as awareness and a way to raise our baseline kindness and presence Preparing for parenting with mindfulness through practicing Practice as a way of creating a new way of being Creating awareness of the impact of our actions on others Discussing our needs instead of blame Being realistic about our ability to meet all of our child’s needs Intention in communication and mindfulness Approaching communication from a place of curiosity and care Curiosity as a way of being The need for intention to be genuine Feelings of a reflection of needs Increasing emotional literacy to enhance communication Helping children to problem solve as an alternative to “consequences” Connecting before correcting Conflict as an opportunity for learning Where to start when you realize you need to improve your communication Learning to pause, be curious and consider the needs of others Connection through perspective shift Resources:<
Tue, February 05, 2019
Solo Show about the power of encouragement
Recap of the summit What happens when we start having real conversations? Community/support Seeing participants in real life Recognizing our attachments and course correcting Gratitude to guests Gratitude to participants $109 and it is your for eva Saw Brene Brown Seen before Appreciate her realness Familiar stories Story of daughter swimming and conversation around being brave IS winning Are these the conversations we are having with our kids? Are we explicit? What we notice and what we speak Life skills/qualities Negativity bias How often they ARE using tools/skills – it’s just when they don’t if feels so PAINFUL Our expectation of mastery Layers going on under the surface (meaning of behavior with Alison Smith 110 , Iceberg Metaphor solo show 129 ) What it takes to stay focused under the surface Vulnerability and humility – it may not be about you Faith Trust/surrender – let go of your attachment to how you think it should be, and also the idea that you KNOW what’s happening for your child when they haven’t expressed it The idea that all humans ultimately want connecting and to know they matter. All of them. We are hard wired to connect Our language and messages: Week three at MMS we dug into encouragement vs praise Process oriented Really seeing the child Naming qualities with evidence My story this morning with the waffles and “what do I do with the mix?” I notice, I appreciate, I trust/know/have faith Not for the short term/immediate – but for the long term, internal voice ( ep 136 with Kelly Bos about how NOT to become the voice of your child’s inner critic) it is about below the surface, about supporting our kids in changing what they believe about themselves I am going to do a webinar this month in the Patreon community to diver deeper into encouragement and I hope you join in! The Joyful Courage Super Fam is a group of parents who are giving $10/month to the podcast to support in the sustainability and create a win/win. Members of the community enjoy monthly webinars and online support through our closed facebook page. Check it out at www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage Have a beautiful week my friends!! I am going to be watching my tone this week and really working on the sometimes unspoken messages I am sending to my kids when I am less than mindful of
Tue, January 29, 2019
Unlearning Supermom with Rachel Butler
Today’s guest is Rachel Butler. She is an executive and professional coach, an organizational health expert, a wife and mother of 2 boys she is one of those unique women who is both powerhouse and presence. She's a master in organizational systems and she's worked with over 325 organizations. Rachel embodies what it means to be an empowered woman and a conscious mom. Rachel and her mama business partner Gillian Rowinski are the voices behind Unlearning SuperMom a feminist website that supports equal rights and opportunities for women and empowering all of us. We will be discussing Unlearning SuperMom. Join us! "Our culture has clearly defined what being a good mom should look like and it is oppressive. The martyrdom of being busy, being agreeable, putting everyone else first, running yourself ragged. If super mom is who we become when we are in this world with our eyes closed then unlearning her is a deeply courageous feminist act.” “Are we doing it because it's a “should” or are we doing it because it’s something that brings us joy?” “It’s really hard not to get into comparison-itis.” “I sort of reject that idea that the major measure of success in parenting is enjoying it” What you’ll hear in this episode: -The impact of childcare costs on returning to work for moms -The emotional conflict about returning to work -Keeping it real as a mom -Who is super mom and where does she come from? -Re-learning our inherent self-worth that is not based in accomplishment -Motherhood and martyrdom: when we put ourselves last -Motherhood messaging and where it comes from -History of motherhood and women’s work -The perceived value of women based on their relationship with their children -Child centred social media messages and guilt -The value of the messy middle -Being aware of social media messaging and how it impacts us -Where do you start unlearning super mom? -Ways to dip your toe in to shifting towards unlearning super mom -Stages of learning from awareness -The mental load we carry -Checking in with your body Resources: Women Who Run With The Wolves 16 Second Meditation Unlearning Supermom Retreat Where to find Sara: Unlearning Supermom Instagram Facebook Learn more about your ad choices
Tue, January 22, 2019
Solo Show - Being the CALM inside the storm
Today is a solo show all about being the calm inside the storm. That is the dream, isn’t it?? Listen in as I tease apart what this means and offer ideas and strategies around hwo to get there more often. · Parenting class · Summit · Podcast conversations · E+R=O · Events and experiences…. 3 Bs · What if nothing changes? · What if all we have is how we feel inside of the experience? · What do we want to BE/FEEL/CREATE?? · Feedback matters – internal vs external validation · Parenting is a PART of our life that can feel like our WHOLE life · Energy of emotion · Personal work, small steps with Sid, ACES with Sarah – unlearning supermom · Stuck in what it should look like · What about acceptance of what is? What about surrender to not knowing the outcome? · Influence yes. Hard work and practice, yes. · AND you decide how to respond from life --- worry fear, that is the present moment experience you create. Openness, love, that is the present moment experience you create. · Think about, bring about – energetically we are always influencing our life, our experience Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 15, 2019
Exploring the Energy of Emotion with Sara Harvey Yao
Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::: Join Patreon Sign up to be a part of the Patreon community today!! You will enjoy monthly webinars, online coaching and support from a caring community of like minded parents. Click here for more information. ::: Today’s guest is Sara Harvey Yao. Sara is a leadership consultant who has developed more than 4,000 leaders across the globe. She specializes in helping leaders navigate pressure and stress by staying present in the moment. Sara is the author of two books, Get Present and Drop In. She’s the mother of two teen boys and can speak firsthand to how the power of presence can transform the parenting experience. We will be discussing. Join us! "Naming feelings opens the doorways for the energy of emotion to metabolize.” “When we’re in emotion, we’re in a different part of our brain than the language center so it’s often hard to articulate what we’re feeling.” “Anger...is a signal fire. Something is going on here. It’s a sign your boundaries have been crossed.” What you’ll hear in this episode: -How naming emotions helps us process them -Facilitating our movement through emotions in the parenting journey -The power of acknowledging, even to ourselves, when we are struggling -Feeling vs thinking -Attitudes and beliefs about feelings that contribute to feeling “stuck” -Helping our kids name and process feelings and the role of modeling -Normalizing emotions for our kids -Anger as a secondary emotion -What’s really under anger -Exploring our triggers and where our feelings are coming from -Establishing a common language with your kids to discuss feelings -How to support ourselves and our kids to regulate emotions What does Joyful Courage mean to you? The courage to try something new and if that’s new to, I’m going to try a new parenting technique, if that means I’m going to sit with a feeling instead of stuffing it, I’m actually going to say something instead of not saying something, any new behavior to me takes deep, deep, deep courage and when we take those leaps into courage, for me it always ends up being really joyful. There’s such an empowered, a sense of empowerment and it leads to new opportunities or new directions that I might not have known about if I hadn’t been courageous. So those two words fit so beautifully together, it’s just joyful courageousness when we try something new. Resources: Get Present Drop In <a href="https://heartmindonline.org/resources/daniel-siegel
Tue, January 08, 2019
Solo Show, Compassion, Integrity and Bringing in 2019
Happy New Year!! Hope everyone had an easy breezy holiday. Grateful to friends and family and all the ways we were supported to enjoy the season. So much to be excited about. Compassion and integrity. Today, I am going to share a bit about a book I am reading that is really blowing my mind, it is called The Path is Everywhere; uncovering the jewels hidden within you , by Matt Lacata. If you’ve listened to the show for very long, you know that I love my energy worker/reiki master friend (shout out to Jessica) and she has turned me on to the work of Matt. I am using this book as part of my soul care time, reading a few pages in the morning to gather inspiration. I am not very far into the book, and what I read this morning gave me pause and I decided that now would be the perfect time to bring it here to discuss with all of you. The first part of the book is about what the author calls our “shadow” – this is the part of ourselves that lays dormant until it is jostled into wakefulness. Another way to make sense of it is the way that we feel when we are triggered. Our shadow is who takes over when we are riding the emotional freight train. The parts of ourselves that we may cloak in shame or guilt – the parts that we keep hidden. Most of us have a tendency to want to hide our shadow, keep it deep inside of ourselves, not let it see the light of day. Many of us may think we are pretty successful with this – until we aren’t. A lot of the clients I see come to me because their shadow is making appearances in the parenting journey and they want to fix it, they want to make it go away. I have a shadow as well – she wants control and order, she wants to know the outcome, and she wants everyone to be on her agenda. My shadow takes the behavior of others deeply personally, quickly manifesting fear, rejection and disrespect whenever I experience criticism and ridicule. My shadow, your shadow – our shadows are a part of who we are. And if, like me, you subscribe to life being purposeful, then perhaps our shadow isn’t something that we should turn away from, or get rid of. Perhaps our shadow is something we can turn towards and get curious about. You all know that I love the personal growth and development conversation. You know that I see parenting as one long personal growth and development workshop. And if you have been listening for any length of time, you know that I am deeply invested in supporting others in doing this work along with me. This is why I am talking about shadow work today. On a personal note – I want to share solidarity to all of you that deal with partners overseas and single parents. Ben has left us to do some big work in California on the electrical grid.
Tue, November 27, 2018
A solo show reviewing 2018 and getting clear on what we want MOST
Today’s content: Parenting through the self doubt and worry Parenting teens – why have a separate group? What is missing from the resources? The continuum of behavior Attachment and getting a life Intuition and trusting your gut It gets ugly Feeling isolated/shame/ Lisa Fuller episode 87 Why meditation/yoga/journaling matters What it really means to be aware The tight rope Kimberly Muench eps 158 Pendulum swing Trust and surrender over and over again It’s a crap shoot – the myth of “good parenting” It’s their journey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 20, 2018
Stacy Davison is on talking about the power of personal pep talks
Today’s guest is Stacy Davison. Stacy is an instructional coach, entrepreneur, new mom to a rainbow baby boy. Last year Stacy and her husband started the company Personal Peptalk, a line of motivational and uplifting products which they design, illustrate, and self-publish. In her weekly motivational email on her podcast Stacy candidly shares how she dominates life challenges more mindfully. We will be discussing positivity in parenting and life. Join us! "It’s easy to meditate up on the mountain top but eventually you have to come down and buy groceries.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Finding zen where we are - preparing for the Super Bowl moments The challenges of motherhood and the importance of being real about that Shifting perspective on suffering Choosing love, joy and compassion in moments of difficulty How hanging onto suffering hurts us Letting go of people pleasing to ask for what you need Positivity in times of sorrow Supporting friends in times of loss Love bombs - what they are, how they help Shifting to empowerment and choosing what you want to cultivate Being a joy detective Choosing not to be defined by the things that have happened Resources: Pep Talk Decks Where to find: Personal Pep Talk website - sign up for her Monday Morning Motivation Personal Pep Talk podcast | Personal Pep Talk Instagram | Personal Pep Talk Tattoos | Personal Pep Talk Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 13, 2018
Solo show connecting the dots between how building relationship leads us to more effective parenting
Solo show! News: No shows in December, Happy Holidays! January Parenting Teens Audio Summit, YAY!! Launching the first of January – stay tuned to register Summit is live January 21st – 25th Validation, inspiration, nuggets to PRACTICE Patreon Woop woop Alternative to membership program Opportunity to be in exchange of energy patreon.com/joyfulcourage $1, $5, $10/month options $10 private FB group, Chaos to Calm Ecourse, monthly Webinar based on the questions that are coming up in the group This week’s content: Positive parenting is easy when there isn’t a lot of challenge – more challenging when our kids are rubbing up against our triggers Toolbox metaphor Higher our emotion, more likely we use desperate tools (rewards and punishment) The more tools we put in to toolbox, the more likely it is that the ineffective tools of rewards and punishment slide to the bottom We can always do better Relationship matters!!!!!! When our relationships are disconnected, navigating behavior in a harsh way isn’t useful for anyone Fear takes us towards harsh punishment Mistakes are opportunities to learn There are always consequences Inviting out kids into relationship Can feel uncomfortable Taking accountability for how the relationship currently is and get vulnerable Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean we stop being curious with our kids Start paying attention to the body Support ourselves by noticing what is happening inside We get more access to our toolbox when we are grounded and neutral At the end of the day what is most useful is your relationship NOT permission for being a permissive parent – still hold boundaries Stronger relationship the more likely your child will open up and talk to you Creating an environment where our kids can thrive and be a soft landing when they get it wrong Shame/blame does not promote accountability and personal responsibility Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 06, 2018
Tammy Keces, Head of Irvine Hebrew Day School, is on talking about turning hate into love
Today’s guest is Tammy Keeces, Head of School at Irvine Hebrew Day School, a former teacher, a positive discipline trainer and mama to three teenagers. She has a Bachelor of Psychology from UCLA, a Masters from Columbia University’s Teacher College in Curriculum and Instruction. She’s currently working on her doctorate. We will be discussing responding to tragic events like the Tree of Life Synagogue tragedy, as well as Judaism, positive discipline and how we can all support each other better. Join us! "None of us should feel alone.” “People are children and they just want to belong.” “God gives us many opportunities for goodness and kindness and this is another way for us to remind ourselves that we need to have hope and we need to have love.” “We have to come together now, more than ever.” What you’ll hear in this episode: How Irvine Hebrew Day School handled the tragedy in Pittsburgh Developmental appropriate levels of information about tragic events Balancing the feelings of parents and children in the wake of tragedy Meeting hate with love - finding inner resources in the face of fear Ways to encourage our kids to accept others The freeing power of compassion Parallels between the Torah and positive discipline How non-Jewish people can support the Jewish community Teaching our kids about leadership and civic responsibility What does Joyful Courage mean to you? It’s being brave every day, to make the right decisions for ourselves and those that love us and inviting joy despite the challenges, despite the heartache, we have to choose joy and that’s what you’re doing every day with joyful courage and I think that there’s no other way to live our lives at this point. Resources: We’re All Wonders book Where to find Irvine Hebrew Day School: Facebook Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 30, 2018
Jeremy Schneider, MFT Talks About Navigating our Partners Parenting Journey
Today’s guest is Jeremy Schneider. Jeremy is a Marriage and Family Therapist whose career spans more than 15 years of working with individuals and families focussing on parenting, relationships and mental health. He is the author of Fatherhood in 40 Minute Snapshots and has been featured on the New York Times, The Today Show and CNN. We will be discussing co-parenting and alignment with our partners. Join us! "Every step that I take in my personal growth is one less step that they have to take.” “A lot of parenting is about experimentation.” “You just get better the more you do it. Just keep trying.” “We don’t want to be the same parent. We just want to be parenting in the same direction.” What you’ll hear in this episode: -Journaling as a way to maintain perspective -Examining our principles of parenting -Deciding what kind of people we want to raise -Personal growth and parenting - how they relate -Co-parenting and being in alignment with our parents -Fatherhood and parental involvement of dads -Finding balance as co-parents in agreeing on a parenting approach -The importance of parenting education -Navigating parenting as a dad when you feel uncertain -How Dads can model emotional expression for their kids -Approaching our partners with curiosity about their parenting approach -Parenting as a practice -Finding harmony in parenting styles What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Having survived a fairly traumatic childhood, I think about courage a lot. I don’t normally think about it in terms of myself and that’s something that I’ve been working on to give myself credit for how far I’ve come and what I’ve been able to do and the kind of relationships I’ve been able to build within my family. I think Joyful courage is being able to enjoy, not the success, I’m trying to think of the word, being able to bask in this life I’ve built. It took a lot of work to get where I am and my wife and I have worked very hard to get where we are together. And we’ve worked very hard to survive as long as we have with our kids and get this far and I think, to me, one of the phrases that I play a lot in my head is happy chaos. I think of our life as happy chaos. Chaos doesn’t have to be bad and that’s kind of the way we think about it. My life is chaos, it’s just straight chaotic, because having teenagers and wanting to be there for them and wanting to be there for my wife and build this business and so and so forth; it’s chaos. But it’s a happy chaos because it all involves things that I love. And to me Joyful Courage has that same kind of feel, right? It’s the freedom, the sort of joyfulness of doing something that takes an enormous effort and overcoming anxiety and fear to be able to do it but that doesn’t mean that it’s bad. It can still be joyful in that experience of it. Resources:
Tue, October 23, 2018
Solo show about raising boys, healthy masculinity, and growing emotional intelligence
Solo Show this week! First – continues thanks for all of the feedback around the last solo show, where I shared about navigating my daughters mental health issues. It means the world to me to know that the content of the show is landing for you, and making a difference in your life. This week I am talking about our boys. Toxic Masculinity We have to do better for our boys Partners – emotional intelligence is for everyone Posturing Fragile Egos Curiosity Routine of talking about how we feel It’s not coddling – if we keep toughening them up and having them suppress how they feel we will continue to see cultures where war and violence exist Not blaming Not from a place of fear We all get to be full humans Boys and their fear of labels Build Skills More than just “walk away” Saving face w/o being a dick Being a champion People like him. He can take criticism, doesn’t make people choose friends, and doesn’t blow off someone for a better offer. When people are harassed or demeaned, he intervenes. He’s comfortable hanging out with guys who are both inside and outside the box. He holds his own opinion, but still listens to others. TALK ABOUT IT BEING HARD VALIDATE THEIR EXPEREINCE SUPPORT THEM IN RESPONSES TO LIFE This isn’t helicoptering Belonging significance influence Aren’t feeling it, they will take it where they can Posturing Insecure OR entitled All boys fall into a role where they feel safe Talk to your boys Keep talking Talk about emotions Check your “should/shouldn’t’ at the door Be open, own your mistakes, encourage them when you see life skills on display Love them up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 16, 2018
Exploring our Energetic Connection With our Children with Jennifer Griffin
Today’s guest is Jennifer Griffin. Jennifer is the mother of four, has her masters in counseling psychology with 30 years of experience guiding children and adults on their relationship journeys. Jennifer is a DIY maven, specializing in leading individuals to uncover the messages in their chronic health conditions and their children’s challenging behaviors. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: -Simple, yet powerful techniques to heal at home -Taking back your power after trauma -What is EMDR and how can it help you heal? - How our kids behaviors can mirror our own unexpressed feelings and frustrations -How acting out can relate to our own inner struggles - The iceberg of behavior and how that relates to our children’s behavior and the way they channel their parents frustrations - Resisting the urge to “fix” - Understanding generational patterns - The role of balancing chakras in your child’s behavior -How claiming our authenticity and expressing our emotions can change how our kids express themselves through their behavior Resources: Channeling Questionnaire Embracing your child’s tantrums as a gift - Elephant Journal article Where to find: Understanding Morning Sickness as a Gift Understanding Your Child as a Spiritual Gift Facebook | Twitter | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 09, 2018
Solo Show About Navigating Depression and Anxiety
Solo show – sharing from personal experience Recap what is happening with my teenager If you listened last year, you heard the struggle Online school Clients I’ve worked with Friends confiding in their experience What the stats say My experience of finding information What my gut tells me The ways the world has changed Why it’s so hard Weight of fear/possible outcomes Lack of control Our own stories PD is belonging and significance Power of perception What do we do when something feels “wrong” without giving message that they need to be fixed The challenge of meeting them where they’re at My experience with this…. Not knowing what this means The dance of acting/fixing vs validating/being The iceberg Tip of the iceberg They won’t talk, can’t identify what’s “wrong”, tears, withdrawal, aggression/defiance/anger, shut us out Grades/friends/activities Bad after school special Under the surface Hopelessness/fear/not know what or how they are feeling Feelings of disconnection Out of control Anxiety/depression The range…. Not all or nothing Grey areas Our own beliefs about mental health My experience, looking back I was afraid to call it what it was because it made it true My upbringing of not using things (family drama) as a “crutch” messaging Enmeshment/codependency I am going to get really vulnerable and highlight something that I see showing up because of the dynamics that are currently alive in my family My experience with needing approval – give me the gold star, tell me how great I am Wanting it from my family, especially my dad and step mom Now noticing that I am searching for it from my daughter NO BUENO Getting spiritual Carolyn Myss My experience of energy work in the context of my relationship with Rowan Life happens for us, so…. This is an experience that is happening for me? For Rowie? Acknowledging my controlling tendencies and the message it sends Letting go/backing off Having a plan (with school) about what I will and won’t do with a request Treatment Counseling, naturopath, energy work – this is what WE are doing You do you. Make choices for your kids. Listen to your kids. Listen deeply. Hear without fixing Ask permission Give th
Tue, October 02, 2018
Debrena Jackson Gandy supports moms in living their JUICIEST lives!
Today’s guest is Debrena Jackson Gandy, a best-selling author of three books, a keynote speaker, a world traveler, a transformational coach, a thought-leader, a sacred self care expert, relationship coach, founder of Juicy Woman University and The Love Academy. We are discussing creating juicy lives for ourselves. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: -Pampering the mind, body and the spirit -The nourishment of the spirit and why it matters -Why the first 9 years of life are so important to our beliefs -Getting past our own default mode -The guilt that comes from tending to self and martyrdom -When you feel bad about being good to self -The Sacred Self-Caring lifestyle vs. the lifestyle we inherit through default -Satisfaction, joy, ease, peace and flow: how to find it -Finding a new default for sacred self-care -The difference between the being and the doing - and the exhaustion that comes from all the doing -Division of responsibility for children within the home between parents - joint responsibility -How mothering behavior can block fathering and shared parenting -Being the architect of our own lives -When your “thought ware” isn’t aligned with being the architect of your own life -Baby steps to getting back into alignment -Debugging our programming -How beliefs impact attraction -The path to transformation -Getting curious about beliefs to make changes -Morning rituals for prayer and meditation -Discerning God’s voice from your inner self talk -The importance of asking in prayer -Understanding our own greatness and how that impacts our ability to live our birthright Resources: Free Gifts from Debrena’s website Debrena’s books, courses and more Where to find: Website | Facebook | Twitter | Youtube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 25, 2018
Solo show exploring the power and messiness of Positive Discipline
Returning to the practice What Positive Discipline is to me…. Belong significance Iceberg Encouragement Kind and firm Presence/seeing/listening What I have learned over time My own beliefs get in the way Fear manifests as control and rigidity Trust is the theme of my life What it means to have a practice Taking care of me Exploring worthiness Developing intention Modeling what I want Returning to the basics Check assumptions Read and learn about development! What speaks to you??? So many people and programs…. What/who makes sense to you? Where do you feel seen? Things to keep in mind There is no perfect Spirituality/energetics matter – this is bigger than me Its messy, not formulaic Blame serves no one There is no end point Finding a sense of peace inside of the chaos is life goals Comparing is not useful – ever You are the parent your child picked, not because you are perfect, but because you are you. Parenting is an opportunity to heal old wounds, to mend relationships, and grow as an individual, if you let it be Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 18, 2018
Kimberly Muench talks about the tight rope walk of raising teens
Today’s guest is Kim Muench. She is a JAI Institute for Parenting certified parenting coach who works with moms of preteens and teenagers. She is the mother of 5 kids ages 13-31. She writes about conscious parenting, provides one on one coaching and workshops to help support moms towards intentional parenting. We are discussing detaching from the outcome. Join us! "I want to help shift the consciousness of the way that we’re parenting, especially our teenagers.” “We want to give them opportunities and choices. But you absolutely have to have some boundaries and structure in place.” “What do we stand for? What do we value? What do we try to instill in our kids?” “You cannot give what you do not have.” “These bumps is where we grow character.” “You can be right or you can be in relationship." What you’ll hear in this episode: -When children arrive at adolescence - The balance of boundaries and relationship building with our teens - Choosing your battles - Defining your family values - Setting an example for your kids - Defining non-negotiables - Ways to offer choices to your teenager - Detaching from the outcome - Prioritizing personal care and personal development - The illusion of control - Individuation and what that can look like - Supporting our kids in making better choices with alcohol - Being okay with kids failing or things taking longer - Trusting vs hovering - learning to detach - Taking a long view to your relationship with your kids Resources: Episode 82: Tweens and Smart Phones Where to find: Website Facebook Twitter Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 11, 2018
SOLO SHOW - Back to school musings with Casey - stress, routines and being more aware
SOLO SHOW!! Woohoo – how is YOUR back to school? This episode acknowledges what we are all going through as we support our kids and ourselves in coming back to a back to school routine. I know, it is hard to shake off the summer. But that is what is happening. I share about my own experience with sending off two kids to two very different school settings, and what is coming up for me as they navigate the transition. And the navigation is still VERY MUCH ALIVE!! I mention tools and strategies for finding peace and flow, or at least dull the roar of making this shift, and I am so happy you are listening in!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 04, 2018
Heather Chauvin Finds Herself Through Teaching her Children Meditation and Returning to Health
Today’s guest is Heather Chauvin. Heather Chauvin has been named the next generation’s thought leader in parenting and women’s leadership. Her mission is to crack women open to their deep potential. Heather is a TEDx speaker and the creator of the Mom Is In Control podcast and has been featured on the OWN network, Huffington Post, TV outlets and others. With wit and wisdom, Heather inspires a global community of women to take back control of their lives and evolve how they want to lead, work, play and parent. We are discussing mindful meditation. Join us! "There was always this contrast of who I wanted to be in the world versus who everyone else thought I should be." “We can’t get our children’s respect unless we respect our children and deeper than that, we need to learn to respect ourselves.” “Mindful meditation to me means awareness. Simple awareness.” “Really, it’s about doing less.” What you’ll hear in this episode: - The importance of mindfulness for parents and kids - Sustainable ambition theory - Survival Mode, Momentum, Thrival Mode - Learning to live outside of survival mode - Meditation as a tool in parenting and life - Why it’s easier to teach a child to meditate than an adult - Co-creation as mindfulness - Mindfulness for older kids - Parenting as emotional growth on steroids - The value of quiet - Listening to your child without trying to fix them as mindfulness - Giving yourself permission to let go of how things look - The responsibility of personal growth and the intergenerational impacts What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Being yourself, simply put. Being yourself and having the courage to figure out who that is and what that feels like and just keep going after the things that light you up, because that’s joy and it’s going to be uncomfortable to do that. Resources: Heather’s TEDx talk Teach Your Kid To Meditate Where to find Heather: Website Mom is in Control Podcast Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, August 28, 2018
SOLO SHOW! Casey is on Deep Diving into Intuition
SOLO SHOW – woohoo Let’s talk about intuition today…. Well, I am going to J Connecting dots with Eps 154 Dan Siegel interview The ability to sift through the experience you’re having and everything that is calling inside of you – and create space to show up as our best selves We all have an inner knowing, inner voice – where we can tap into deep wisdom Making sense of our spiritual experience Finding intuition while navigating my parenting How conditioning supports/gets in the way How do we tease apart intuition from fear/conditioning/doubt “What if the first hit is true?” “What if our stories and experiences are offered to us to develop our intuition?” Growing our “hub of awareness” requires practice PRACTICE MATTERS Becoming an outside observer takes practice We move towards what is familiar Sacred Contracts Caroline Myss Trust What happens when we choose in to the practice of developing space for our intuition? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, August 14, 2018
Dr. Dan Siegel Discussing the Science of Being Present
Today’s guest is Doctor Dan Siegel. Dan is a clinical professor of Psychiatry at the UCLA school of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Centre at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute which focuses on the development of Mindsight, teaches insight, empathy and integration in individuals, families and communities. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for the professional and lay audiences. We are discussing his new book: Aware: The Science and Practice of Presence. Join us! "The most important gift we can give our kids is showing up with our mental presence, not just physically being present but to have the state of awareness and open to who they actually are." "Presence is a state of perceptive awareness." "Information is transformation." "You have the ability to cultivate the presence of mind through these very simple and accessible practices that are going to bring health to your body, slow the aging process, reduce stress, all these positive things and the same exact process, developing your hub of your wheel of awareness, presence, can actually deeply enrich the way your child is soaking in his or her relationship with you and developing this experience of being seen, of being soothed, of being safe, of being secure that research shows is exactly what your child needs to optimize how they go out into life, and that's something you're empowered to create." What you’ll hear in this episode: -The wheel of awareness - what it is and how it helps -How awareness impacts your body and health -How being present impacts the speed of the aging process -Wellbeing and how it is enhanced by being present -Relationships with your kids and how being present improves it -Cultivating awareness -Role modelling resilience -How awareness feeds connection vs control -Impacts of a lack of structure on the brain and future of children -Authoritative parenting vs Authoritarian parenting -Why we need the village and how that creates stress for contemporary parents -Finding joy, tranquility and connection through expanding awareness -Flipping our lid, learning from our body's signals and how awareness can help -Monitoring and modifying for self-regulation and to improve responses to stress -The 3 O's what they mean Resources: Mind, A Journey To The Heart of Being Human Brainstorm, The Power and purpose of the teenage brain The Whole Brain Child No Drama Discipline The Yes Brain <a href="
Tue, July 31, 2018
Yoga as a Parenting Tool With Naomi Gottlieb-Miller
Today’s guest is Naomi Gottlieb-Miller. She is a mom, yoga teacher, self-care advocate, Air Force spouse and Star Trek nerd. She is passionate about working with busy moms and empowering them to take better care of themselves so they can re-write the story of what healthy motherhood feels like. She loves to make yoga fun and accessible for everyone she works with. Naomi is passionate about helping people find space for their daily yoga practice. We are discussing yoga, self care and parenting. Join us! "Yoga is not just what you do on your mat but it's how you live your life." What you’ll hear in this episode: Parallels between yoga and parenting Self exploration in yoga and parenting How what we read influences our perception of how we parent Making decisions about what matters to us vs what we "should" do Yoga on social media and competition The five second rule and how it relates to self-care Habit change personality types Yoga as a practice and how it relates to ego The difference between simple and easy Feeling into action and engaging - in yoga and parenting Being with the discomfort in parenting and yoga Therapeutic irritation and holding space and identifying appropriate times for release Creating conscious conversations with our kids Baby steps for starting yoga Starting small as a way to inspire more future What is a mantra and why is it helpful? Resources: Naomi’s introductory Yoga videos on her Youtube channel NaomiGottliebMiller Where to find: Website | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube: NaomiGottliebMiller Transform Chaos To Calm Program Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, July 17, 2018
No More Mean Girls With Katie Hurley
Today’s guest is Katie Hurley. She is a child and adolescent psychotherapist specializing in anxiety disorders and stress and learning differences and author. She is the author of The Happy Kid Handbook and No More Mean Girls. She runs empowerment groups for girls. We are discussing girls and their relationships. Join us! "We have to load them with coping skills because life is hard." "Teach them coping skills. Teach them how to be kindness warriors. Teach them how to engage in a positive way on social media so that other girls start to follow suit...." "We owe it to our girls to stop labelling them and let them grow into themselves." "The more we fail and the more we fail out loud and accept it and acknowledge it and talk about it with other people, the more we grow as humans." "We have to stop this cult of perfectionism among our girls and the best way to do that is to really open up to them and tell them what we go through." What you’ll hear in this episode: -The changing landscape in the world of girls and bullying -Why these relationship challenges are starting earlier than ever -Toxic competition and how it impacts relationships between girls -How conditioning for high achievement can impact girls -Shifts in educational expectations and how that affects children -How attitudes towards sports have changed and what that has meant for girls -Social emotional learning and the expectation it should happen at home vs. at school -Belonging and significance in relationships between girls -How building empathy can be helpful -The Iceberg Metaphor and how it relates to conflict between girls - Protective instincts and how they impact coaching empathy and understanding -Clique behaviors and how they can impact girls -Modelling those behaviors as parents and exercising compassion in moments of frustration -Social media culture and how it removes safe spaces at home from interpersonal conflict between kids -Checking off the boxes and how it can create overwhelm -How not letting kids make choices can create stress and cause problems later in life -The importance of coping skills and raising kindness warriors -The impact of how we talk about school shooters and how that impacts their in-school relationships -How social engineering by parents can impact our girls -Understanding where parental interference in interests and social relationships can affect them -Peer pressure among parents to "check the boxes" for our kids in terms of their extracurricular activities -How labels affect and limit our girls What does Joyful Courage mean to you? To me, it just means being joyful about taking great leaps. It's okay wherever you land. Know that you're okay wherever you land and you can always make adjustments and giv
Tue, July 03, 2018
Bias, Privilege and How White Women Can Do Better With Danielle Slaughter
My guest today is Danielle Slaughter. Danielle is an Academic turned mommy. She has Bachelors of Arts from the University of Michigan-Ann Arbor and a Masters of Arts in English from Georgia State University. With a doctoral background in English, focusing on Rhetoric and Composition, Danielle likes to call herself and mothers like her “Mamademics”. Mamademics is a merging of her two “careers”–motherhood and academia. She lives in Atlanta with her husband and two sons were she runs both of her businesses Mamademics and Raising an Advocate. Danielle has an award-winning blog as well as composition work. She is a 2015 recipient of the Type-A Parent’s We Still Blog Award. A 2016 recipient of the Conference on College Composition and Communications Scholar for the Dream Award. A BlogHer Voices of the Year Winner for 2016 and 2017. As well as a two-time nominee for an Iris Award for Most Engaging Content (2017 and 2018). I found Danielle this past spring when I was searching for the voices of POC in the parenting world. If you listened to episode 142 you know that I made a pledge to search out a variety of voices and personalities to come and be on the show. Danielle does really important work, and I recently completed a course she offers called “Raising an Advocate” – Danielle has written a lot about the role white women play in raising social justice advocates, as well as the power white women also have to get in the way of social justice…. Where to find Danielle: Facebook | Mamademics Website Check out Mamedemics Website to get to the Raising an Advocate course Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, June 26, 2018
Solo Show! Getting Real About Transitioning Into Summer
SOLO SHOW!! I am on speaking directly from the tranches…. Feeling the stretch and pull of raising adolescent kids. Kind and firm, yes, and IT’S HARD!! Moving into summer and thinking about routines and agreements. Enjoy! Eps 96: Melissa Benaroya talks Summer Routines and Structures Eps 129: Solo Show - Using the Iceberg Metaphor to Understand Behavior ::: Become a Joyful Courage PATRON! You can now find Joyful Courage at http://www.patreon.com/joyfulcourage and make a contribution to the show that you love! This is a opportunity for you to sign up to make a monthly financial commitment and support the sustainability of the podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, June 19, 2018
Lindsay McCarthy Teaches Us How to Bring Miracle Mornings to our Families
Today’s guest is Lindsay McCarthy, author of The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families. Lindsay is a homeschooling mama with two children, a writer and the founder of GratefulParent.com. We are discussing how you can integrate The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families into your day. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: -How The Miracle Morning For Parents And Families came to be -What the Miracle Morning includes -How to involve your kids in your Miracle Morning -The power of waking on your own terms -How waking up early adds capacity for parents to expand their emotional resources -The value of unstructured play and creating as a practice for kids -Creativity, Health, Affirmations, Reading, Meditation and Service, and how they can help kids start their day off right -Habit stacking as a way to build a Miracle Morning -How a Miracle Morning can help you look at bedtime routine -Building flexibility into your Miracle Morning -Starting small with habit changes -How to encourage older kids to participate -Combining components of the Miracle Morning to save time -Trying a Miracle Evening as an alternative What does Joyful Courage mean to you? To me, courage it means being afraid but doing it anyways. Like, writing a book, for example. And then the joyful part of that is just allowing it to really fill you up and spread light to the world. Stepping into your own light and your own power and doing the things you're afraid to do anyway. Resources: The Miracle Morning For Parents and Families The Miracle Morning for College Students The Miracle Morning Where to find Lindsay: GratefulParent.com Facebook Group - Miracle Morning For Parents And Families Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, June 12, 2018
Solo Show - Teasing Apart the External Parenting Experience from the Internal Experience
Solo Show – woop woop! It is all me today people, and I am so excited to be sharing some powerful thoughts and experiences with you today. Wading through our experience to support out children The writing process Going deeper into what parents can uncover/discover for themselves We have an external experience of raising kids – everything that happens outside of us We also are having an internal experience – the ways that our physical body feels, sensations, also the emotional experience that we are having, what gets brought up by the external stimuli External and internal are both happening at the same time Based on what our experiences have been in life, our relationships in life, we have a lens that we see the world out of Sometimes the internal response “works” for us We have a well wired survival system – amygdala – but our survival system isn’t always what is needed in our daily life The pendulum swing of raising/living with teens – everything is great until it is not, parents are the anchor that witness/hold space and it’s hard to remember that the behavior is a pendulum swing. Connect /loving vs dysregulation/discouragement We (parents) go into “fix it” mode Alternative – recognizing what is happening physically in my body, seeing what is happening for me, what is the lens I am looking out of? Fear – tension in the body – belly/jaw When kids feel discouraged, they tend to want to share the feeling with others Looking below the surface - the iceberg metaphor Episode 129 Episode 103 Episode 110 Today is a reminder that there is so much going on under the surface…. Curiosity as a guide AND it’s ok and important to recognize where you are at physically/emotionally and taking a pause to get yourself together Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, June 05, 2018
Empowered Stepmothering (and mothering in general...) wth Nathalie Savell
Today’s guest is Nathalie Savell of the Empowering Stepmoms Summit. Natalie is a holistic psychotherapist, a certified holistic health coach and a certified stepmom coach. She sees psychotherapy clients dealing with anxiety and life transition challenges, relationship issues and spiritual disease in person, via video chat and through walk and talk sessions in Baltimore, Maryland and coaches stepmoms virtually to help them go from overwhelm, confusion, stress and resentment to confidence, clarity and connection. We are discussing thriving in step parenting. Join us! “People have more power than they think. I hear a lot of stepmoms feel so out of control and so disempowered by the ex, the kids, whatever their partner is doing and there is support out there." "It doesn't take as m u ch as yo u think to get on a path that's a lot more helpful that makes you feel a lot more empowered." "Get the support that you need and deserve. Reach out and get it." What you’ll hear in this episode: -The mind body connection -Flexibility and how that relates to kindness and firmness -The Think Tree exercise and how that facilitates flexibility with boundaries -Building connection in step-parenting -Control and step-parenting - finding balance -Adjusting from step-parenting to raising one's own child -Parenting and commitment -Co- parenting as a stepmom when the child's other parent doesn't want them to participate -Establishing boundaries for self care -Giving yourself permission to have feelings about your stepkids and not feeling pressured to feel loving all the time -The value of couple work in being a united front -Finding bottom line things you agree on and where your boundaries are What does Joyful Courage mean to you? I love the term Joyful Courage so much. It's like the courage to keep doing the work. The courage to keep going and you know, I call the stepmoms in my group "stepmom warriors" some times because I'm like "You're a warrior, keep fighting, keep going, fighting the good fight to be a loving person." For me, it's like a spiritual warrior for being on a path of love. It takes a lot of courage because it's not easy and a lot of people are going to judge you. And a lot of people are going to naysay you. And to add in that joy in there, so not only are you being brave and courageous, and like keep putting one foot in front of the other but how can you have fun while doing it and why not? So why not peel back the layers and see how you can be childlike in your battles, in your love battles. I think we all need to be that way, to have fun, so it's important to take things lightly at the same time that you work hard at them. Resources: Interview series on NathalieSavell.com Where to find Nathalie: <a href="https://nathaliesavell.co
Tue, May 29, 2018
Solo Show - Supporting the Village
Solo show: Here we are – a new week, another school shooting Expanding from the family unit and into the community Choices we have when we see people who need help We are all in this together – in this life It takes a village and we have to look out for each other All kids deserve advocates, not just our kids What can I do to support connection, feeling felt, feeling understood, inside of my community? Political conflict in the family…. My story and how my brother saved the day Conscious parenting is really conscious living Understanding is not the same as accepting or valuing what others value Belonging and significance matters for children AND adults Listening to understand We get to look out for each other “I see you” Declaring to inquire about mentorship at the local HS What is the action you will take? Resources mentioned: Eps 133 – Politics and Parenting Take the Next Step – Community resource organization Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 22, 2018
Deborah Reber is on Talking About Raising Differently Wired Kids
Today’s guest is Deborah Reber, mother of an autistic son, founder of Tilt Parenting to help parents find more peace, joy and support along the way while parenting an atypical child in a conventional world. We are discussing her new book. Join us! “It's hard to know what to do when you realize your kid is atypical." "Kids who are exceptional really just means the exception" "We have to battle our insecurities maybe a little bit more because what we are doing isn't necessarily working." "Behavior is all information. It isn't personal." "Judgment is where we create separation." What you’ll hear in this episode: The loneliness of raising a differently wired kid Accommodating kids with invisible differences Introversion vs extroversion and how they are perceived in the classroom Applying positive discipline parenting philosophies to differently wired kids Managing expectations in problem solving when raising neuro atypical kids Becoming aware of our own judgements of other people's children How to be a support when you see a child acting out in public Approaching neuro differences as parents and discussing them with our kids Educators and parents of neuro-typical kids as allies to parents of neuro atypical kids What does Joyful Courage mean to you? I just keep thinking bravery. I think the parents who are raising kids who are moving through the world a little differently have to be brave even when they don't feel brave and so I would say, "Keep going back in, when we have a bad day and showing up and being present with bravery. Presence and bravery. Presence has been the thing that has changed my experience with Asher more than any other tool and it's in the presence that I've been able to find joy in our parenting together. Resources: Differently Wired Where to find Deborah: Tilt Parenting l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 15, 2018
Solo Show - is Positive Discipline permissive? No.
SOLO SHOW!! Teacher posted about a difficult class… Response about “parenting style” naming “gentle parenting” and followed up with a post about “helicopter parenting, mom and dad are friends, no discipline or consequences….” Lets talk about this: The swing from authoritarian to permissive What is kind and firm Authoritative – structure and freedom The most important tool we have for influencing behavior is the relationship we build with our children – that is what this week in the Academy is all about. No boundaries/limits – not a solid relationship No voice/ freedom – not a solid relationship Mutual respect? Problem solving? Dignity in tact? – Dignity, the state or quality of being worthy of honor or respect. Helicopter/lawn mower/permissive parenting ROBs children of the discomfort of learning from their mistakes. It robs them of the opportunity of making things right and fixing their mistakes. Robs them of the opportunity for problem solving, accountability, ownership. Authoritarian parenting ALSO robs kids of opportunity. When we parent from a place that threatens punishment for making mistakes, kids no longer have the luxury of learning how to really think through the decision making process, instead, they learn the “better not do it cuz I don’t want to get into trouble” or “better not get caught” Authoritarian parenting can often lead to a lack of respect in the relationship. Guidelines and boundaries INSIDE OF a solid, respectful relationship will increase the likelihood of cooperative, contributing children. KIND AND FIRM – listen to your body, are you in alignment with your values and what the kid need. There is WISDOM IN THE BODY, PAY ATTENTION. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 08, 2018
Mary Nelsen-Tamborski Talks About Making Mistakes and Being Raised with PD
Today’s guest is Mary Nelsen-Tamborski, a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Diego and also a certified positive discipline trainer and parent coach. Mary’s formal training is secondary to the life training she got from her mother, Dr. Jane Nelsen, a marriage and family therapist and author of all the positive discipline books. Mary is a popular keynote speaker, and workshop presenter. We are discussing mistakes as opportunities to learn. Join us! “I find that these principles are universal so they are great, obviously for parents and children but it's also just human beings in general.” "The lens that we see our kids out of is everyone being equally worthy of dignity and respect it's no wonder that how we treat our kids , it should be a mirror of how we treat our friends and how we treat our coworkers and the checkers at the grocery store. It's about human to human relationships." "You have to break down to break through." ` What you’ll hear in this episode: How positive discipline impacts other relationships in our lives Positive discipline as a theory and the reality of implementation Mistakes as opportunities to learn and navigating shame Solutions oriented problem solving versus consequences Dealing with your own emotional stuff when encountering challenging behaviour The role of regular family meetings The importance of apologies Making amends after we make mistakes What to do when you "lose it" Post-conflict communication and rebuilding closeness Managing triggers and being called out on your stuff Learning and growing as a family in positive discipline Assumptions & consequences - 3 R's & 1 H Brain development and consequences Genuine curiosity and asking curious questions to improve communication Curiosity as a way of being Shedding ego to engage in a meaningful way Connecting early to keep the lines of communication open for adolescence Treating your children as friends - a positive discipline perspective Resources: Jane Nelsen’s book Serenity Where to find Mary: Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 01, 2018
Collective impact and moving past my whitness
Thank you community! You are all so amazing. TOGETHER we are making an impact on the world. Today is a solo show…. I am getting vulnerable once again and shedding light on an area that I am not so proud of AND see as an opportunity for us all to grow as humans in relationship with each other. The white bubble. I know I am not the only person that lives a really homogenous life when it comes to diversity. AND, I know that many of you can celebrate LOTS of diversity in your life and relationships. Today I just wanted to call myself and anyone else in the community out in an effort to DO BETTER. The world is made up of a variety of people, from a diverse pool of cultures, experiences, and backgrounds. When I look out into the “positive parenting” world, I see lots of white faces. When I think about the people that listen to my show and participate in my community, I see a lot of white faces. I love all those white faces AND, I am recognizing that I could do more to bring more diverse voices onto the show and into our community – and into MY personal life as well. AND, because I get to speak from the platform of Joyful Courage, I get to be transparent and invite you all to join me. Whew! I am excited! We all get to take steps to shift the way the world is currently operating, and those of us with privilege, even if it is simply the color of our skin, have a part to play in that shift. I hope you will join me. And for those of you in the community who ARE people of color, please feel free to reach out and let me know how I can do better! I value your voice. Help me find guests that can tell stories and give support from a POV that is different from my middle class white woman lens. I love you all! Thank you for listening!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 24, 2018
Local Teen and her Mom on to Talk About Making A DIFFERENCE in the World
So thrilled to have Aubrey and Becky Springer on today to talk about how to take small steps to make a big difference. We all hope that our children will be in service to the world, that they will WANT to make a difference, to make the world a better place. Today’s show highlights what it can look like when being in contribution to the community is the default for a family – and how the way we impact our kids, through the experiences we invite them into, can impact the world. “We all belong to each other.” – Mama Becky Links mentioned: Support Aubrey’s Project Glennon Doyle Together Rising Union Gospel Mission Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 17, 2018
Documentary Filmmaker, Delaney Ruston, is on Talking About Screens and Our Kids
Today’s guest is Delaney Ruston, a documentary filmmaker. She believes in helping kids find balance in our tech filled world. She loves engaging audiences in solution centered discussions. We are discussing her work making the film Screenagers and how to support our kids with finding balance. Join us! “Just start with one simple change that you want to make and the real growth is when you talk about that with your kids and you show them your journey in trying to make that change.” “Maybe just pick one thing that you could decide to do that you’re not using tech as you normally would.” “The key, the most absolute important thing about it is starting with something positive about technology.” “The brain has a really hard time holding two opposite truths at the same time and it’s particularly hard for kids and teens.” “To find sustainable solutions for tech balance and the child and teen brain we’re going to have to work together.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The neuroscience of technology use and over-use The individual child and technology use - micro impacts vs metadata Setting attainable goals for technology use reduction The power of changing just one thing Recognizing the difficulty of cognitive dissonance in conversations about technology Reducing defensiveness in technology conversations Why 30% of families are struggling with daily fights about technology What studies say about parent device use Distracted parenting and interactions with our kids Learning new skills: how this changes as kids grow Self-regulation and parenting involvement in creating limits Setting aside screen free time as a family Technology and sleep - setting boundaries for wellness Guidelines for young kids to set the stage for later technology use Sleep time, Study time and Family time - technology boundaries Digital etiquette ideas When you’ve given up and need to reign things in Taking stock of how we use our time How to bring Screenagers into your community School policies: prevalence of device use in middle and high schools Impact of device use on academics in middle and high schools Resources: Tech Talk Tuesdays Where to find Delaney: Screenagersmovie.com l Delaneyruston.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 10, 2018
Solo Show About Authenticity, Choosing In and Being Awesome
Today’s podcast was created in honor of the 159 parents who enrolled and engaged in the #joyfulcourage10. Today we complete the program, and begin the practice of sustaining the magic and community that was created there, because of the people who showed up vulnerably, authentically, and courageously. I love what I get to do. Thank you to each of you that spent the last 10 days building relationship with me and each other. YOU ARE AMAZING!!! Alright – today’s theme for the show is authenticity and transparency. Parenting as a journey Not a secret No hidden agenda About being in human relationship Modeling Life skills are learned through modeling Vulnerability and authenticity is learned through modeling Kicking it up a notch is lifting up and OUT of the modeling and being transparent Human relationships are messy. Parenting is messy. Life-iing is messy. When we actively, intentionally, decide to SHIFT the way we parent, we set ourselves up to be exposed as flawed humans. Hello vulnerability Hello humility Hello contrary to the “adults are always right” While the whole Positive Discipline/Positive Parenting approach is SIMPLE – I mean, choose relationship and trust that your children will lean life skills – WHAT IS THE BIG DEAL??? Right, and then we are in life and it is a shit show. Defeat Self talk Comparison-itis Giving up Be transparent! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 03, 2018
Peaceful Parenting our Teens with Genevieve Simperingham
Today’s guest is Genevieve Simperingham, a counsellor, an AWARE parenting educator, a writer, a group facilitator, meditation teacher and founder of the Peaceful Parent Institute in New Zealand. Over the last 24 years, Genevieve has presented hundreds of workshops and courses. She has parented her own kids using attachment principles and she seeks to empower parents with the tools that result in increased harmony, trust and cooperation in the family unit. We are discussing peaceful parenting our teenagers. Join us! “It’s about bringing into your parenting not just how you should respond in this situation or in that situation and our different approaches and techniques (which are really, really important) but it’s all about who we are as a person and who our child is as a person and the dynamic and the energy between us.” “We shouldn’t be in fighter stance simply because we have teenagers.” What you’ll hear in this episode: What is peaceful parenting and how it is different than some of the more mainstream behaviorist parenting approaches. The Centre, Connect, Communicate approach Stress management, self care and healing trauma and how they relate to parenting The need for authenticity in empathy and curiosity The biggest hangups for parents around peaceful parenting teenagers Having tough conversations with your teens without shorting out the connection at the outset Setting and holding limits within the peaceful parenting framework Sex, drugs and alcohol use in teens - is it better to allow at home or to restrict? Reducing power struggles and rebellion Educating and empowering teens to make their own choices Reconnecting to move past conflict What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Joyful courage to me, it connects me with that last bit that we were just talking about, to me it’s about joy we feel in the heart and it takes a lot of courage to reconnect. So to me it’s about opening the heart and allowing the joy, the enjoyment of the relationship, of the connection to come back in and that takes courage. It takes courage to be vulnerable again. It’s easier to be hard and defensive and stern and it takes courage to open the heart come back to the joy of that beautiful connection again. Resources: Aware parenting Where to find Genevieve: The way of the Peaceful Parent Facebook Group Facebook Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 27, 2018
A solo show to inspire you into ACTION to create the LIFE you want!!
Gratitude to the community, specifically my one on one clients and the membership. Themes Collective experience My own filter Always in the learning, growing, developing Humaning is simple, not easy Knowing what we want, not taking action to get there Identifying what we want Reading/learning tools/strategies Sitting on the outside of it Procrastination Self talk Sneak messages Fear/worthiness/perfectionism Finding Nemo Working so hard to get to his goal Dealing with the monkey mind of dory (is there a metaphor here?) Perseverance despite fear Turtle Come into the current, dude Less effort Less resistance More results Bigger possibilities The Secret/ Law of Attraction / FLOW What is this all about? The Law of attraction is the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts people can bring positive or negative experiences into their life. The belief is based on the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from "pure energy", and that through the process of "like energy attracting like energy" a person can improve their own health, wealth and personal relationships. What you think about you bring about Yes thought AND actively taking steps that move you in that direction NEMO HAD TO SAY YES AND ENTER THE FLOW TO BE A PART OF THE FLOW What the heck does this have to do with parenting? Paying attention to the flow What makes it easy to be easy going, even when things are challenging? What do you notice about when your family is more easy going? Under the surface/foundation Routines Common language Needs are met Connected Belonging and significance Have you defined where you want to flow to take you? More of a way of being than a destination, unless you are setting specific goals It is an ACTIVE process – we must be in action FLOW state shows up because it all becomes easier the more we choose in Choosing in I say this a lot Being a yes Seizing the opportunities to “practice” the tools TAKING ACTION If you want things to BE different then you need to BE different Interrupting the patters Discover what your patterns are Pay a
Tue, March 20, 2018
Kelly Bos talks about how NOT to become your child's inner critic
Today’s guest is Kelly Flannigan Bos, MSW. Kelly is a clinical therapist focusing on individual, marriage, and family relationships. She helps people find meaning and joy in their relationships - with themselves and others. As a well-known relationship expert, she has appeared in a professional capacity in countless media markets as a guest and writer. Today we are discussing an article she wrote in November called, “I don’t want to write the script for my child’s inner critic.” Join us! “We’re not always going to have the perfect reactions and we can certainly apologize when we haven’t kept our cool or done the right thing. There’s ways to model other things like resolution or forgiveness.” “Does a good brow beating make us feel better, more able to face the challenges ahead of us? Usually not. We often shame ourselves into inertia. Would we ever say these words to a friend? There is a better way. We can be kind to ourselves and get better results and I definitely want kind self talk for my kids." “It’s a constant journey but it’s one I know I want to be on so I just keep starting again and if I can be self-compassionate to myself, then I have something to give outside as well.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The role of self-compassion in parenting The three tenets of self-compassion Moving past the isolation of the shame of not meeting our own expectations Over-identification with our problems and how mindfulness can make a difference Worry and the reality of the lack of accuracy of our future prediction Phases of parenting and worry Brain development and parenting – developmental challenges Getting out of the emotional whirlwind The role of self-comfort, recognizing and acknowledging our own suffering Self-compassion as a way to build capacity for parenting challenges Self-compassion and it’s relationship to compassion we can extend to others Self-compassion for avoiding depletion Making self-compassion part of common language in the family Family meetings as a vehicle for communicating self-compassion Separating the child from the behavior Problem solving to avoid over identification with problems Fear as a barrier to positive parenting Self care as self-compassion What to do when you have no room for self-care Resources: I don’t want to write the script for my child’s inner critic Where to find Kelly: Facebook Twitter Instagram
Tue, March 13, 2018
Solo Show - Follow up of the Politics Show and Letting go of Attachment
Not a lot of show notes today… I am sharing the feedback and follow through of the Parents and Politics show and talking about letting go of attachment and fear. Enjoy!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 06, 2018
Featuring Rebecca Eanes and the Positive Parenting Movement
Today’s guest is Rebecca Eanes, the author of two books for parents: Positive Parenting The Essential Guide and The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting. She is back to talk to us about her newest resource for parents: The Positive Parenting Workbook. Rebecca leads a community of over a million on her Facebook page, Positive Parenting Toddlers and Beyond. Join us! “I see and speak about parenting as a journey… and the journey is a continuous invitation to continue to practice being the parent we want to be as often as possible.” “Parenting is one long personal development workshop.” “My kids are the best mirrors because in them I have seen my own negative attitudes and bad moods and emotional reactions in really every area that I needed to improve upon.” “I think we definitely grow ourselves up in the process of helping our kids grow up.” “Our kids are going to make mistakes every day. If they had perfect parents, they would not know how to get through this world.” “Be as gentle and respectful with yourself as you are trying to be with your kids. You are not perfect either and you don’t have to be. We are all growing, we are all learning, we are all flawed, and we all need grace. This is a journey and there’s not a destination yet that I’ve seen. It’s an ever going thing so be good to yourself along the way.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Dealing with swearing and supporting kids in navigating different rules in different situations Positive parenting and what it really means The role of mutual respect in positive parenting Identifying underlying issues under disrespect Shifting focus: from disrespectful behavior itself to supporting learning that leads to respectful behavior. Leadership in positive parenting Non-negotiables and positive parenting The value in personal development and parenting Moving from behavior patrol to positive parenting The origins of the Positive Parenting Workbook Discipline as part of the parenting pie 7 Pillars of family culture as part of positive parenting Words of wisdom for parents working towards positive parenting Resources: Positive Parents website The Positive Parenting Workbook The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Positive-Parenting-Action-How-Principles/dp/1490413
Tue, February 27, 2018
Politics and Parenting
Politics and Parenting - can we keep them separate? Do we want to? I don’t imagine that everyone who follows Joyful Courage share all of my views. I am guessing that you all realize that I am a flaming liberal – and if you didn’t, well, cats out of the bag. I support dignity and respect for all humans. Black lives matter to me. Immigrant lives matter to me. Woman having equal rights, including rights over their body matters to me. I believe that people have the right to gather and worship in a way that works for them. I believe in climate change and the duty we ALL have to honor the earth. I believe that people who are raised to feel connected, loved and as though they matter don’t show up at public or private events with the intent to kill. I do not believe that private citizens have the right to own weapons of war. I believe our schools should be safe and secure. I do not believe that teachers should have guns. I believe in a health care system that is proactive in supporting the mentally ill. I believe in compassion. I believe in civic action. Some of what I just shared may turn you off to my work and my message. I hope it doesn’t, because at the most foundational level, I believe in love – living it, spreading it, being it. And that is what will save the world. “Love thy neighbor as thyself” is a message of all major religions – and when THIS is our come-from, when THIS message is what we start to live, the world will be healed. And I acknowledge that it isn’t easy. It isn’t easy to put ourselves out there and speak our truths we don’t want to offend we don’t want to argue we worry about what people think we want everyone to be comfortable And right now the environment is so TOXIC! It is so challenging to talk about the issues that matter the most to us. It is scary to get vulnerable and say what we need to say, to lead from the front. Today I declare that I am no longer going to worry about ruffling feathers. I will continue to share the content that you have come to love, and I will elevate it by pushing my fear aside. I will bring more of myself. I will bring more of my authenticity and truth. I will leave behind wanting everyone to like me. I am done with school shootings, and my guess is you are too. It is time to have hard conversations. It is time to look for solutions. It is time to get involved, ask questions, reach out and trust that your voice is valued. Humans are hurting. Weapons of war are too available. Schools aren’t secure. So lets do something about it. Today is about action. Thank you. Thank you for listening. I feel as though it is my responsibility to speak these truth, it is my responsibility to not pr
Tue, February 20, 2018
A conversation with Liz Haske about letting go of worry
Today’s guest is Liz Haske, a mother, an international teacher and instructional coach and children’s book author. She has over 15 years elementary classroom experience in six different countries and is super passionate about empowering children to be their most courageous selves. Her first book, When Worry Takes Hold, was released in November 2017 and aims to help young children cope with worry by using mindful breathing. Join us! “It’s about a young girl who’s afraid to do different things and she realizes that she has the power inside her and if she puts her hands on her belly, she can be brave.” “Stories help us be better people if we are reading the right books” “We want to empower these little people to realize they can do it. They can develop the tools and they can be confident and they can face what is presented to them in healthy and positive ways.” “Worry gets bigger and bigger the more that we do it.” “We can be brave, and everyone has worries … whether it’s helping our kids be brave or us being brave to face whatever parenting challenge it may be.” “Courage is just a deep breath away.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The basis & inspiration for When Worry Takes Hold Worry as a visitor and the power to ask it to leave Acknowledging & expecting worry Externalizing worry and setting limits Following the why – getting to the root of big feelings Manifestations and signs of worry Addressing underlying worry vs. addressing the behaviors Taking a wide view to problem solving worry How not to take worry related behaviors personally Why trying to talk kids out of their worries doesn’t work Managing worry as a practice Tools for managing worry and how they can be applied to other situations Mindful breathing vs. “Let’s take some deep breaths” The power of mindful breathing How to know when to get professional help (duration, intensity, impact, age appropriateness) Journaling worries to find patterns and icebergs Liz’s upcoming projects on the horizon The importance of exercising self-compassion Resources: When Worry Takes Hold Where to find Liz: Facebook Instagram Website Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adcho
Tue, February 13, 2018
How to use routines to shift the dynamics in your home
A solo show all about routines There are a couple tools, that when put into place, make the whole parenting journey easier. You have heard me talk about special time, that one on one time that is so important for building relationship and a solid foundation of belonging and significance for our kids. Challenges coming up in the LLWJC group mornings, bedtimes, defiance, meltdowns, sibling issues We find ourselves putting out fires We find ourselves being overtaxed We find ourselves slipping OUT of who we want to be and INTO crazy parent This is also where we loose sight of the way that we are contributing to the chaos at hand…. We blame out kids We fall into the trap of “it is always so difficult” We forget that there is always a flow that comes after the ebb…. Yes, special time helps with the challenges mentioned about. The relationship we nurture with our kids is what has the biggest impact on their behavior, absolutely. AND, another tool that is super helpful to come back to, again and again, is co-creating routines. Now, if you are someone with challenges in the morning, or after school, you may be thinking, but we have a routine, and it isn’t working!!! GREAT. Not all routines are created equal. Routines are made to be modified and changed up Routines designed to be HELPFUL for everyone will be the most USEFUL Mindset matters This is not about getting your kids to do what you want them to do This is about helping your children feel like capable, contributing members of the family This is about the process, the opportunity that exists inside the challenge that is currently at the surface Take a deeper look… Co creating routines means that you are CO CREATING Find a time of day when everyone is feeling good, connected Opening up the conversation to child about how they experience the challenging time of day, validate their feelings, listen and let them know you are taking their sharing to heart – this is not time to talk them out of what they are experiencing or getting them to “see your side” Clear out the space through taking accountability for your behavior. This is really important. Ask for their help to make that time of day easier/better for everyone Brainstorm ideas/tasks Offer/counter offer if you need to Be open to their ideas Be firm/not rigid around your non-negotiables “This is what is important to me, how could we make that work?” “What is your idea for that?” Cross off anything that isn’t related/reasonable/respectful/helpful on the
Tue, February 06, 2018
Ending the Food Battle with Julie Miller
Julie Miller is on with us! Julie is on a mission to live a delicious life and bring joy back to the family dinner table. She is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist and Certified Positive Discipline Parenting Educator who holds a Master’s Degree in Human Nutrition from Bastyr University. She has over 16 years’ experience sharing food and nutrition philosophy with diverse communities throughout the Seattle area. Julie currently specializes in helping families find their own positive feeding dynamic so that food is less of a parenting chore and more of a nourishing experience. She believes that connection between adults, children and food sets the stage for a lifetime of personal wellness, including healthy eating. Julie knows, as a Mom, that the constant demand to prepare and serve food can get just a wee bit tiring and tricky. She emphasizes reducing the drama and eating minimally processed foods, while ensuring that children and adults meet their nutritional needs to support growth, development and wellbeing. Content: Got into nutrition for personal reasons Had kids and discovered PD So much judgment in parenting – especially fierce around food Helps parents to make parenting around food a nourishing experience for everyone Most typical complaint? “I don’t like it” Second biggest? Picky eating Parental Fatigue – parents DON’T want to cook but DO want to feel kids good food PD says – “Eating, sleeping, pottying, you can’t make them do it!” You CAN work on belonging, significance and influence They need to be guided, not forced Division of responsibility – defining roles (Ellen Satter’s work) Parent responsible for what, when, where AND maintaining connection Child responsible for what they eat and how much Story about Rowan drinking caffeine Over 12 100mg isn’t terrible Under 12 no caffeine Guide THEM in using the information to make informed choices Until it is personally meaningful for them to feel the effects of their choices, behavior won’t change AND they learn what they live Before bed snacks…. Timing Thank you bites?? What about suggesting ….. Serve food family style. Parents can mentioned all the items that are available, then the parents job is done…. What about the salad?? Short term vs long term goals Let go of judgement Invite kids into planning/cooking to bulk up their belonging/significance/influence Your job is to provide food, provide some structure and love them unconditionally Let go of self judgement/what others think/fear Find Julie: www.harmonious
Tue, January 30, 2018
Solo Show - Using the Iceberg Metaphor to Understand Behavior
Content: Solo show today – from the car…. Thank you for having grace for my audio quality this week!! Feeling inspired to share with you on my way to yoga class. All about the Iceberg Metaphor Shout out to all the parents of teens out there who are showing up and sharing and willing to be vulnerable Connecting seeing an iceberg as a metaphor for children’s behavior Unwanted behavior is the “tip” of the iceberg The behavior that we see Under the surface - What’s opening the door to the behavior? Perception of connection Perception of influence Perception of mattering Trauma/adversity Kids are ALWAYS making meaning with their underdeveloped brain – and forming beliefs from that place Lacking skills for navigating the challenges/emotions that show up Moving from a place of strengthening relationship as a way to understand what is below the surface, to help us influence the behavior at the tip Episode 104 on Making Amends Always be moving towards nurturing relationship What are some of the things YOU do to look under the surface? Head over to Live and Love with Joyful Courage and share! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 23, 2018
Liz Blackwell-Moore is on Breaking Down how to Navigate Adolescents and Drug Use (YIKES!)
Alright - My guest today is Liz Blackwell-Moore. I connected with Liz through my friend, and one of your fave podcast guests, Julietta Skoog from besproutable.com. I am so excited to have Liz on today to talk about an incredibly relevant topic – kids and drugs. GAH. I know. No one really WANTS to talk about this, but we have to. Liz has been working in the field of substance use since 2000. Her current work involves working with community coalitions and organizations to provide training on prevention strategies as well as technical assistance to translate public health research into practice and implement a restorative trauma-informed approach to addressing public health problems. So basically, Liz is going to break it all down for us in a way that is helpful. She lives in Portland, Maine with her wife, two happy kids, and a puppy. Content: Liz shares about her early work with people involved with substance abuse and was drawn to exploring prevention work How can we make “systems” (including the family) better for young people, with more support in their lives? What the “risk taking years” feels like, according to Casey Liz shares her moms’ analogy of the two boats Adolescent brain development It’s like a house being build bottom up Built through interactions and the environment kids experience Reward center develops first – ready to go, “volume turned up” Front, logical part of brain not fully developed, and not integrated W/o the desire to try new things, how would they ever leave home?? The perception and science of marijuana and adolescence National Academy of Sciences – research on the research Young people using Impacts learning and memory Significant effects on mental health “Regular use” – once every 30 days 2xs more likely to become depressed 3xs more likely to have suicidal thoughts Kids with MH issues are more likely to use/self-medicate Initially make people feel calm/relaxed Brain likes to do what’s easy so eventually wants more What about vaping Tobacco companies are SO LAME – trying to suck in kids Some kids just the flavoring Not regulated – we don’t know what is in it Lots of kids ARE putting nicotine and weed into the vape All drugs impact the reward center of the brain – putting young people at a greater risk of addiction later in life Rewires/primes the brain for addiction How do we get them to wait???? Relationship is the m
Tue, January 16, 2018
A solo show about WHY our job is to hold space for our kids and HOW to do it
This is a solo show. Today I talk about holding space for having a 15 YEAR OLD!! WHOA!! It's intense. What does this container look like? What does it mean to be present, available and confident. How to “hold the container” Our response matters What to do becomes more clear when we practice being in the moment, vs in our emo/fear Practice being with our overwhelm without letting it takes us over (observers) Our kids make mistakes BUT WHAT DO WE DO??? Kids do better when they feel better. – Jane Nelsen Kids want to succeed, they don't always know how. – Ross Greene A Misbehaving child is a discouraged child. – Rudolf Dreikurs Humans are always moving towards a sense of belonging and significance, am I connected? Do I matter? – from Aderian Theory The most powerful tool you have for influencing behavior is the relationship that you nurture with your child. Choosing into the work of Joyful Courage, which really means being willing to grow and practice awareness, being present to your child and your experience, and hold space for your kids, no matter how they are showing up, THIS will nurture and preserve relationship. Thank you so much for listening today – super DUPER appreciate all you moms and dads out there doing the work of making the world a better place through showing up well for your children!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 09, 2018
Tina Bryson is BACK teaching us about nurturing a YES BRAIN
Welcome, thank you for showing up! Tina Bryson is BACK ON the podcast today!! You all remember Tina from Eps 100 – which happens to be THE most downloaded show to date of this podcast. Tina co-authored two of MY fave parenting books, the whole brain child and no drama discipline with Dan Siegel and she is BACK on the podcast today to talk about her NEW book, the yes brain. I am THRILLED she is back on…. Content: The Yes Brain is available NOW Tina is a mama to 17, 14, and 11 year boys Yes brain and no brain approaches A “yes brain” is a mindset of saying yes to the world, open – neurological state, our brain is integrated and linked up… Over time it becomes hardwired A “no brain” is fearful, reactive Prompted by “what are the skills my child needs to be successful?” – Tina and Dan Siegel wanted to go beyond academics and gold stars They need an integrated brain that has a strong/functioning prefrontal cortex Yes Brain has 4 Components: Balance Resilience Insight Empathy Developmental brain/age/temperament matters Tina shares a story about her own son who seemed to be lacking empathy at a young age Brain develops through experience - What we emphasize (as parents) in our interactions create new linking connection in the brain. Use books, shows, and real world experiences to model and draw forth empathy in our kids Trust development, trust that what you are doing will pay off Supporting our children in feeling their feelings – support them as they practice tolerating difficult feelings Normalize difficult feelings… 2-3 tools to put into practice: Sleep!!! When we sleep the brain LITERALLY freshens up Survive emotional dysregulation When kids are at their worst is when they need us the most Co-regulaton – a soothing presence to communicate “you’re safe, I’m here” Build/teach skills to help them regulate themselves – GREEN ZONE Check out Eps 100 to hear Tina dig deeper into this Teach them to understand themselves Rethinking success Our children having an authentic self that they can trust It’s about the journey and not JUST the destination BIGGER than gold stars and academics <li class="ql-indent-1
Tue, January 02, 2018
Solo Show About Goals, Practice and Living Committed
Welcome, thank you for showing up! Todays topic – what it means to hold the container and get the results you WANT My experience of big goals and daily intentions/practices – a bit from my conversation with Edna – areas of growth for me around supporting my clients in declaring and creating results in their lives. Overarching goals “What do you want at the end of our work? How will you measure success?” This can be anything from potty trained toddlers (Katie’s reflection)/easier bedtime/deeper relationship with teens (Lorrianes feedback)/less yelling and more loving… Some is easy to measure, some, not so much…. PLUS it is a pendulum swing Many. Small. Steps. It is so important to set goals – that way you know where you are going. Cruise control vs being intentional Being intentional DOES require you to face some hard truths sometimes, to bump up against thoughts/ beliefs / emotions that maybe you have become really skilled at avoiding AND to live the fullest, most authentic life, we must make room for ALL of it – even the stuff that is hard Setting goals I have weekly, monthly, quarterly and annual goals They all feed into each other The baby steps I take during the week set up my for the monthly goals,etc The ANNUAL GOALS are the container (remember, I mentioned that earlier?) Living the practice It’s not even really about the goals, it is about the journey TO the goals. It is about going 100% Reference Krista’s blog post about 100% is easy https://boldlyembodylife.com/bold-notes/. It’s every moment of saying yes to the practice we have decided to commit to. “To be responsible, keep your promises to others, to be successful, keep your promises to yourself.” – Marie Forleo what this means to me…. Yes to myself for myself GRATITUDE Get yours at https://boldlyembodylife.com/word-of-the-year-2018/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 26, 2017
Conscious Communication with Lori Petro
Welcome, thank you for showing up! Content: My guest today is Lori Petro. Lori is passionate about conscious parenting and was a guest on Episode 62 . She is an advocate for children and families, a parent educator, mama and founder of Teach Through Love. Lori’s journey began as being a misunderstood kid… Followed by HAVING a child and wanting to provide her with something different than what she experienced Lori is a creator/artist at heart wanting to created compassion and understanding in our communication with each other Inspired to create a better world for her kid and everyone else to live in Conscious communication cards Conscious communication – supporting parents in taking their understanding of conscious parenting into the language and way of being they bring to their relationships Staying present and leaving the blame, shame, judgment and guilt behind Communication includes messages we deliver with what we SAY, as well as what we DON’T say, our tone, our body language – we are always sending messages Parents do TO the children to get them to be what we want them to be…. It’s about allowing our kids HAVE THE EXPERIENCE and learning from there SEEING our children in their emotion/experience They are there to provoke us in our own self awareness Listening to understand…. Lean in to understanding our children’s experience and what it is like to BE them… (Lori shares lip gloss story) Otherwise we miss the fullness of what is their life (Casey shares crop top story) Not about saying the perfect right thing, it’s about continuing the conversation with our kids around the places where we want a deeper understanding Tell me more about that… It’s bigger than the make-up and the crop top Opens up conversation Conversations to understand vs conversation that are ultimately begun to convince our kids that we are right and they are wrong 20:40 Aware of when our agenda of fear is clouding their experience of growing into their own maturity Conscious parenting is not one long negotiation Being firm is a piece of it Be ok when kids don’t like the boundary Conscious communication cards Came from ideas that Lori posted on line every week Developed into a model for her parenting program Stress/skills/support Am I looking to help my child regulate? (stress) Am I trying to help my child build and emerging skill? (skills) Am I trying to mend/repair relation
Tue, December 19, 2017
Solo Show - Navigating Big Emotions From Grownups and Kids
SOLO SHOW Context – we all have the power and the skills to be the parent we want to be A recent post from the Live and Love with Joyful Courage community: Can we talk about sharing our big feelings with our kids? My kids are 2.5 and 4.5yo, and I don't know how to share my big feelings in front of them without freaking them out. I want to be able to be my full and authentic self with them, in an age appropriate way. And I realize, the fact that they are upset when I am upset means that they are afraid of my big feelings and may be afraid of their own big feelings. We try to welcome their big feelings (tantrums, disappointment, etc.) but I think we do a miserable job at it. Compounding this, I am someone with explosive emotions. I tend to feel things very deeply and it takes me time to calm down. I have worked hard to make sure I don't express those emotions in a negative or scary way. But instead I most often bottle them up, which isn't good either. Celebrating awareness. Celebrating emotional intelligence. Celebrating authenticity. Celebrating personal responsibility. Misconceptions (in general): not ok for our children to see us upset not ok for our children to FEEL upset they’re being naughty they’re manipulating they’re learning “bad behavior” welcoming big feelings is the same as condoning hurtful behavior This is a POWERFUL example of what I think is the PURPOSE of parenting: to grow into our best selves Children are mirrors not mimics instead, provide a reflection of how we effect the world, what our impact is, what we are inviting Children/parenting journey is an invitation recognizing conditioning recognizing what our “driver” is recognize commitment vs attachment Committed to being a connected parent vs attachment to what that looks like (slippery, perfectionism, comparison) Children/parenting journey is unrelenting The lessons come every day, moment to moment The growth is like peeling an onion There is no where to ARRIVE Child/parenting journey is an opportunity to grow I can’t say this enough Where are your hard edges? Where is there room for self growth? Where can flexibility show up inside of rigidity “I am someone with explosive emotions.” We are ALWAYS evolving What can we learn about ourselves? What can we practice that will be more helpful and less hurtful? How can we deliver our experiences
Tue, December 12, 2017
Shameproof Parenting with Mercedes Samudio
Welcome Mercedes Samudio. For almost a decade, Mercedes has been working with families to help them develop healthy communication skills, manage severe emotional issues, develop coping skills to manage behaviors, create dynamic parent-child relationships, and navigate social media & technology as a family. Throughout the course of her career she has worked with adoptive families, foster families, teen parents, parents navigating the child protective services system, and children living with mental illness. In 2014, Mercedes began to transition into her private practice where she focuses on parent coaching and guiding families to reducing unwanted behaviors, developing effective parenting strategies, creating healthy communication habits, and designing social media/tech plans for their household. Content: Mercedes talks about her background experience with teen parents Supporting parents in being confident in their ever evolving parenting identity Where #endparentshaming came from Others/media offering mixed judgments – no one changes when they feel shame/unsafe Movement to get people to see that even when others are doing things you don’t agree with, how to step into empathy to see where they need support People doing the best they can with the tools they have Shame as a defense to our own discomfort “Raising a human while trying to be authentically human yourself” You are bigger than your parent role Take time to focus on self and partner as a tool for surrendering to what your child’s current challenge is When we focus solely on our child’s mistakes, all we see are their mistakes Bring the skills/areas of other parts of our life into the parts that feel a bit shakey 10,000 feet view We have our own shame conversations…. Reframe the expectations you have of yourself Example: how do you deal with things when you are angry? What do I need, what can I do for myself? How can I use my support system to help me? The misperception that conscious parenting shouldn’t be hard Conscious parenting requires us to be conscious parenting 18:30 quote People are attached to their shame – the stories feel familiar Figure out what your stories are that take you to shame People grow and change in space that is free from shame and judgement Considering FOO – Family Of Origin Write down why these relationships matter to you Still want connection… Let them know WHY you want to stay connected (be specific) Then, share what it is that you are going to be practicing and invite the family member into supporting you</l
Tue, December 05, 2017
Solo show about Intention, Listening, and Courageous Parenting
Content: What it means to be intentional Bringing qualities to OUR body and OUR experience Present moment is key Awareness is grown through practice Getting hooked Our kids behavior as bids The lob Passing on the uncomfortable energy to someone else that can hold it Development Listening, Acceptance and Courage Others – what is being said, isn’t being said, body, etc Self – get still and listen to our inner voice, NOT THE EGO, but the voice that is deeper What is your current story about yourself and your family? Is it true? Byron Katie – turn it around Is it true Finding evidence Accept that this is where you are at. Noticing urgency/frantic energy Unless there is an emergency, this is not helpful BBB Breath Body Balcony Courage to trust Follow your intuition Let it go/surrender Trust the people in your life Trust the process Trust that the people in your life want to live their best life too Making decisions for ourselves VS against the other person/expectation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 28, 2017
Dr. Robin McEvoy is on Talking About Decoding our Children with Complex Issues
Guest Intro: Dr. Robin McEvoy is a developmental neuropsychologist practicing in Denver, Colorado. She evaluates and diagnoses a wide range of learning disabilities and learning needs in children, adolescents and adults. This includes the identification of reading disabilities such as dyslexia. She then works with the family to develop a treatment plan to remediate the weaknesses and accentuate strengths. In addition to her private practice, Dr. McEvoy is an assistant professor at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center. Dr. McEvoy has authored a children’s book, Buddy: A Story for Dyslexia (illustrated by her daughter). She is the co-author/editor of the recently published book, Child Decoded: Unlocking Complex Issues in Your Child’s Learning, Behavior, and Attention. Content: Child Decoded – inspired by the tough expectations and increase in labeling/diagnoses of academic/social development. Using a master checklist as a guide for finding what it is they need Checklist is a triage Looking under the surface – physical/biomedical limitations Diet and gut and neurons Parents navigating all the services for their children with complex issues – and feeling as though no one else can “see” their child the way that they can Gather evidence with video and photo to share information about your child Child Decoded fills that gap for parents to go from “I have worries” to restarting when parents feeling stuck in the treatment/not sure what to do or where to go next Modify the environment vs supporting our kids in living in the “real world” Paradigm shift – we can be seeing every child in a more holistic way, look at every child as an individual… Mind AND body Current lens – we tend to treat at the symptom level with the “quickest” approach (lots of times with meds) Sometimes the answer is really simple Complimentary/Alternative medicine Both/and mindset… so many solutions in both western and eastern medicine Putting together the team – who is needed? How do you support parents with overwhelm and loneliness as they advocate for their kids…? Find support on the internet/social media – be proactive in seeking out support Breathe – complex issues or not, you are in this for the long haul What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Know that you have more experience with your child than anyone else… You know your child the best. Have faith in your child, have faith in yourself.” Robinmcevoy.com l Childdecoded.com Blog l FB – Dr. Robin McEvoy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 21, 2017
Solo Show - Deconstructing Natural Consequences and Personal Responsibility
Intro Sharing: Thank you, listeners!! Honored to serve you… Mother’s Journey recap – Seattle, Portland, Boise Orange County, East Hampton, St. Paul – 2018 Mother’s Journey locations Boldly Embody Life – Krista Petty Raimer, Grace, Elevate When I am a yes to trusting, surrender and presence is already there Visioning for 2018 ::::: Sponsor: Thank you, Lovepop! Enjoy a discount when you buy 5 or more cards and free shipping on all orders when you go to www.lovepop.com/joyful ::::: Content: Personal Responsibility and Natural Consequences Natural consequences are what happens when we stay out of the way – they occur when we let things unfold What do we want most for our kids? What are our desired outcomes for this whole process of parenting? Reference to a poll on my personal FB page Who lets their 14 year old daughter hang out in her room with her boyfriend? Two lists activity from Positive Discipline class The only place that our kids can develop life skills is inside of experience… and in relationship with a healthy adults supports that as well… Their experiences inspire and inform future decisions There is a lot learning that we are robbing our children of because we are getting in the way Parents internal experience takes over Mindfulness matters when we are supporting our kids in developing personal responsibility Natural consequences happens when adults don’t get in the way This is a dance – boundaries are respectful kids need them, we need them Kids need to feel the tension Mistakes allow natural consequences – when we let them feel the consequences that show up, that we aren’t IMPOSING there is lots of room to learn Example – homework Help them to expand their perspective of what THEY want Check your assumptions… and check in with your child Humans LONG to be listened to, seen Kids learn personal responsibility through experiencing having the opportunity to BE personally responsible What matters is the relationship – bonded in unconditional love and mutual respect Allow the natural consequence the power that they have Our kids want to feel connected, as though they matter and that they have influence Tools: co-creating routines and agreements, loosen up, ask questions, check your unspoken messaging, family meetings joyfulcourage.com/family-meeting-ecourse We all want our kids to grow into cooperative, contributing adult living good lives What already exists when they make mistakes is powerf
Tue, November 14, 2017
Tosha Schore talks about how we can parent our boys for a more PEACEFUL world
My guest today is Tosha Schore, M.A. Tosha brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and will lift your parenting confidence! She is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems. A sought after coach, author and speaker, Tosha is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. Through her online and in-person offerings, she supports parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. Tosha is a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author with the organization's founder, Patty Wipfler, of "Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges." She is also creator of the wildly popular "Parenting Boys Peacefully! A FREE 10-Day Reconnect," and the new online course, "Out With Aggression!" You can find Tosha on her website, www.toshaschore.com , and on FB at Tosha Schore, Your Partner In Parenting Boys. Content: Raising boys in these days of toxic masculinity Taking a hard look at the ways that men are conditioned Creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time The question of how to help our boys grow into emotionally intelligent men who don’t see women as objects is worldwide How to help our boys grow up to be peaceful – Huff Post article Move beyond the anger and the fear to what we can DO Opportunity shows up in raising our boys We need to teach our boys that there are lots of ways to be close that aren’t sexual It’s ok to talk, cuddle, hold hands – lots of ways of being intimate Documentary of The Mask You Live In Not giving permission to boys for having intimate friendships with other boys Navigating the jockeying for power among boys Redefining what it means to be masculine What is being modeled in the homes for our boys? Increase our own emotional intelligence and pay attention to how we navigate and model our own upset Boys being encouraged to stuff their emotions Not comfortable with allowing our boys the time and space to have feelings Help them feel comfortable with their full array of emotions – not just anger Popular culture isn’t helpful Advocate/ Fight for the right of our boys to have feelings
Tue, November 07, 2017
Solo show - A Bit About Choosing in, Being Kind and Firm, Making Agreements and Following Through
Content: I am on the journey with you, I am with you! Highs and lows, you are my peeps! The teen saga continues…. Having a teen is like birth, you think you’re so prepared and then…. Reality hits! Teen brain experiences everything so intensely Eps 115 was all about trust and surrender Celebrate the relationship Using and developing breath as a tool 4:45 Our children are our teachers – they picked us! We don’t know what we don’t know and our children highlight that for us Their way of being invites our “stuff” to the surface We then choose how to respond End of the day – they are operating from their developmental place, limited skills, brain development 7:50 Parenting is a never-ending growth and development workshop – we can choose to resist or to grow/evolve 9:15 There is a purpose to this journey Let’s live a life where we are paying attention Our children show us stepping stones to our own growth When we choose into growth and learning we can influence the experience we are having You can only change yourself, you can’t change others Positive Discipline for Teenagers Mistakes our kids make can rock our foundation and philosophy around parenting Being kind and firm at the same time is one of the pillars Peeling back layers of what that ^^ means Kindness only = permissive Firmness only = authoritarian Kind isn’t NICE, it’s connected, firm is respecting ourselves and the situation It’s about progress not perfection, and becoming ever more AWARE of what is happening for us Making agreements is a kind and firm PD parenting tool Get into our child’s world, here what their needs are, share what we need, make a plan together, declare a deadline, follow through (parents) “What was our agreement?” It’s not about being nice while we deliver a consequence… The invitation is to make agreements with YOUR children Not necessarily about the problem we solve, instead it is more about the life skills the kids are practicing inside of the agreement-making Not about finding a solution that lasts forever – every solution has a shelf life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 31, 2017
Mindful Mamas, Shannon and Ashley are on Talking About the Power of Community
My guests today are Shannon Kinney-Duh, creator of A Free Spirit Life, and Ashley Walburn, owner of Home Holistic, and the founders of The Mindful Mama Movement – a podcast, community that empowers mamas, encourages authentic living and celebrates what it means to live an inspired life. Shannon and Ashley bring women from around the world, in all stages of motherhood, on a journey of learning how to trust ourselves, how to listen to their intuition, how to let go and forgive, and how to embrace imperfection in the mess of life. They inspire others to practice mothering from a place of presence, creativity, humor and wisdom. ----- Content: How Ashley and Shannon met The birth of the Mindful Mama Movement Podcast The power of trusting our gut is the work of parenting Popular opinion vs turning inward towards our intuition Inspiring women to trust themselves and reconnect to their own intuition Moving from survival to space in our life to enjoy it We are good at the head stuff by dropping into our heart is a powerful way to shift into being with our family HAHA!! Interrupted by the birth of a baby J ((real life people)) Woohooo – Ashley shares the birth story that interrupted our show Creating communities for mamas Going to yoga class and staying for connection with other mamas Who are you? How are you? Inviting community to be together and real Being part of community allows us to discover our own value and wisdom Online communities can be places of powerful discovery, allowing for thought time and the possibility of going deeper Themes that show up in groups – “Am I doing it right?” “Am I okay?” “Is this normal?” “What am I outside of mom?” “How do I find balance and flow while being a good mom?” Exploring our roles People are seeking to be real We are better mamas when we nurture all parts of us Theme that shows up with mamas is desire for simplicity – declutter, let go, surrender Jaws theme music is not helpful!! Where to find Ashley and Shannon: Mindful Mama Movement podcast FB Page l FB Group l IG Ashley: Home Holistic FB Page Shannon: A Free Spirit Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 24, 2017
Solo show - Exploring trust and surrender as I navigate all there is to learn while raising a teen
Content: The tension of being a parent educator WHILE IN THE EXPERIENCE of parenting Parenting for the long term… Keeping in mind brain development Mistakes are opportunities for learning Everyone should have a voice Relationship matters Kindness, firmness and trust Bumps up against the mainstream idea of reward/punishment model My own experience of punishment/consequences as a teen Noticing the societal pressure of “she should pay for her mistakes” while also noticing that we have a really good relationship and are exploring her choices together All we can do is increase the likelihood that our children will grow to be responsible, respectful members of society In the process of learning to make choices, our children will make bad choices I know I am not alone in this rub We want our children to feel as though we are our safe harbor Surrender is so complex… or maybe just the depth is profound GRACE: workshop for women through boldlyembodylife.com If trust is our intention, then we have to start with trusting ourselves We then can evoke trust in our relationships Then our teens can lean into trusting themselves (and getting it wrong sometimes) The design of the universe is bigger than me, bigger than my child, and we are all going to be okay – might as well trust that God has our back Trusting what I don’t know, what I can’t know, what I am still on the path to understanding Fear grips the inside of my body, my energy tightens up – shorter breath, tight belly “When fear is present, the teacher is in the room.” – Krista Petty Raimer Events/ experiences are an invitation for me to evoke what I want more of in my relationship with my daughter Neutral/ Think Tree – feeling our feet, grounding into our body, top of our body is open, flexible, available Finding neutral is not about the absence of anything, but about the availability of everything (thank you Mary Jo!) Neutral allows space for relationship with our children The most powerful tool we have for influencing the behavior is the relationship we cultivate and nurture with them. Lisa Damour – swimming pool analogy There is flow and impermanence to the cycles of connection/disconnection that show up Find your people that are going through similar experience and hold a similar parenting style to share raw and vulnerably We are practicing all the time – either our auto pilot OR something new and different Being intentional allows us to GENERATE more of what we want into our life! L
Tue, October 17, 2017
Support for the New Sibling Transition with Sarah Rosensweet
Sarah Rosensweet is my guest today!! Sarah is a peaceful parenting coach– and a mama to 3 big kids (16, 13 and 10). She teaches parents a non-punitive, connection based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah helps parents of toddlers-to-tweens turn philosophy into practice with solutions for real-life struggles such as bedtime battles, picky eaters, sibling rivalry, tantrums and meltdowns, and power struggles. Sarah has had over 20 years experience working with families and children in early childhood education and schools. She’s an API certified parenting educator and a certified Aha! Peaceful Parenting Coach with Dr. Laura Markham. What you will hear: Toddlerhood experience allowed for Sarah to begin her journey towards parenting peacefully Turning away from the advice of “don’t let them manipulate you” Navigating fear The transition of the new sibling can catch us off guard Perspective of the older child is, not such a great thing Our olders have mixed feelings The mama bear instincts kick in and we often find ourselves pushing our older children away. Recognizing the feelings - awareness of what is happening internally for us What shows up with our older children? Regression and aggression What to do? Nurture them, love on them, connect with them, baby them as much as possible Aggression comes from fear – they are acting out their bad feelings Cure – more connection, more empathy “My child is not giving me a problem, my child is having a problem” Emotional backpacks are all of the emotions that show up throughout our experience that we put away for “later” Meltdowns and tantrums are how our children release their emotional backpacks Processing through laughter – get them laughing every day! Rough housing as a proactive energy/emotional release Pete’s a Pizza – William Steig Welcome mixed feelings, schedule one on one time “I wonder…….. “ opens the door for them to express mixed feelings Lack of understanding and empathy can lead a child to feel as though there is something wrong with them Sometimes challenges show up when baby is a newborn, and sometimes it is when the babe gets a bit older Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings by Dr. Laura Markham ^^ supports children in helping them find solutions that work for both sibs, rather than leaving it to them to figure out how to work things out <li
Tue, October 10, 2017
Solo show! Teachers, behavior charts, and how to keep mama bear in check...
Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Welcome to this week’s solo show! Sorry about the clogged nose! Totally dedicated to keeping up with the podcast and showing up to all of you – thank you for listening in! What you will hear this episode: The topic this week, as we have moved into the school year here in North America. Many of us are finding ourselves in the rub of having tough conversations with our children’s teacher. One of my listeners, who is both a parent and a teacher, reached out and requested that I touch on how parents can be approaching their children’s teachers when things are tough. Classroom management is slippery Teachers are doing the best they can with the tools they have Navigating student’s needs with the academic requirements passed on to teachers Pendulum swings from social/emo learning to academics Pressure to teach kids what they “need to know” Teachers ALWAYS name the social/emotional skills as their desire for students There is an assumption that children are learning life skills in the home Teachers fall back on behavior systems “Charting” children’s behavior Assumption that students have what they need to be cooperative, contributing members of the classroom Temperament matters So how do we talk to teachers about our children’s need? You, the teacher, counselor, after school people, you are all the child’s support team When communication fails amongst adults, child suffers Coming from fear, we show up offensive, invites defense from others Teachers have a tricky job Connect before correct is a powerful tool to take advantage of in all the relationships of our life – teachers/school staff included Use curiosity How can you educate the teacher about your child in a way that enlightens them about your child and all children It is useful when a parent comes to the teacher and says “I see you and the tough job you have, and I want to educate you about my child” Pay attention to your physical response/mama bear mode, and PAUSE before emailing/calling the teacher Get in touch with your child’s teacher BEFORE there is an issue – build relationship Make amends when you need to – repair matters AND you are modeling really important behavior for others The person that benefits the most is your child! ::::: Mother’s Journey to Joyful Courage PNW FALL TOUR!! Registration remains open for my Portland and Boise events and SPACE IS LIMITED so you are going to want to sign up NOW and reserve your spot. www.joyfulcourage.com/mot
Tue, October 03, 2017
Following Our Kids Lead with Homeschool Unrefined Hosts, Angela and Maren
Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Maren and Angela are college friends, turned public school teachers, turned homeschooling mamas, turned podcast hosts. They are on today talking about how to follow our children’s lead when it comes to learning and growing. Their show, Homeschool Unrefined, is a place where they keep homeschool simple, real and fun. What you will hear in during the show: College friends turned podcast co-hosts Public school teachers that became homeschooling mamas Sensed the need for encouragement and empowerment amongst homeschool parents SM gives a false impression for what homeschool looks like Inspired to show the “real” homeschool experience Deciding to homeschool, desire for more connection and less schedule Freedom to travel Maren and Angela want parents to feel good about what they are already doing Easy to look at what others are doing then seeing deficit in what you are doing Your kids need you as a parent, and all of your particular skills Vastness of homeschooling Biggest challenges in the community: parents lacking confidence, letting go of perfectionism Being conscious about what your main goal is Letting your children take the lead – focus on connection, follow their interest Paradigm shift - kids are going to learn when they are ready Early entry into extra-curricular activities Simplicity Parenting John Paine Supporting kids through their changes of heart It is a skill to know when to walk away – Angela’s roller blading story The process of navigating waning interest is rich Casey and Rowan’s guitar lesson story, letting go of the dream Stay connected, no matter your schooling decisions – make it authentically yours What does Joyful Courage mean to you? From Angela - “Having the courage to trust yourself and yoru child. You know your child and they are going to learn the most e when they feel connected to you. It takes a cot of courage to let go of all the noise around you and be able to trust you.” From Maren - “Being confident in who you are – that takes work, takes work to understand and realize who I am is good. That’s the courageous parent – the joyful part is finding joy in the processes of everything. This is a process, it isn’t perfect – if you can find joy in that you will find joy in so many things.” *** Where to find Angela and Maren: Website l Facebook l Instagram :
Tue, September 26, 2017
Fear, Belonging, Self Acceptance.... It's all here.
Today is a solo show – thank you for tuning in this week! Sit back and take in the thoughts and ideas that are currently showing up for me and in our community. A Free Spirit Life A new show hosted by Shannon Kinney-Duh. Find out more at http://www.afreespiritlife.com/ or search for A Free Spirit Life on iTunes or wherever you get your podcast. Todays Content Together Live event with Glennon Doyle and friends Belonging and significance as an underlying principle of PD Humans are great perceivers, not great interpreters Growing relationship while guiding them to learn from mistakes is what Positive Parenting is all about Shopping cart analogy My child is going to learn what they need through mistakes and experiences Our conditioning gets in our way when we choose to parent this way Fear shows up – controlling and rigid, what is the right thing to do? The space between authoritarian and permissive styles Brene Brown – check her out Braving the Wilderness True belonging is something inside of us, requires trust Conscious parenting requires us to trust our children, their foundation and relationship Our declaration of using PD can make others uncomfortable My vision is to have confident, capable kids who can navigate the world with kindness and assertive – interruptions to the ugly in the world You have to be who you are So easy as the parent to get up in their (our children’s) grill Children get to DESIGN themselves Taking a look at our own modeling, self acceptance, recognizing fear My children can only hear their soul’s voice is to release my fear and trust What are your thoughts?? Share in the Live and Love with Joyful Courage FB Group GIVEAWAY!! Win a copy of Love Warrior by writing a review of the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes Thank You! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 19, 2017
Finding the Need Beneath the Behavior with Alison Smith
Meet Alison Smith, mother to two adorable kids, proud wife, former elementary school teacher and now teacher coach, advocate and revolutionary in win/win parenting. Like many of us Alison had visions of being the best, doing the best and really being that one adult that impacted her students lives powerfully. As a self identified recovering perfectionist, Alison entered the teaching world and become a mother. It did not take long to identify that something in the work with children had to change. Fueled by her passion and her journey, Aliso identified a need for teachers to feel supported in their work. In her coaching, teachers are inspired and supported to be the most authentic, joyful and wholehearted teacher they can be. IN THIS EPISODE: Alison shares Bonnie Harris ’ iceberg analogy and how it guides parents to identify the underlying root of a child’s behavior. Like a medical issue, we often treat the symptom until the symptoms persist then we are forced to find the root cause. Realizing that the child’s behavior that triggers us is the root cause of our reaction and inability to connect and show up best for the child. Only when we dig into our roots and what is underneath our icebergs can we better guide our children through their own experiences. Triggers can cause us to panic and ‘future trip’ into fear about our child’s behavior, enabling us into unhelpful methods. Using our curiosity to dig to the root - is my child hungry, tired, overstimulated, cold, hot, uncomfortable, lonely?. Once we identify our triggers we can move into the practice of showing up the way our kids need us to. We chose connection and enforcement that they matter. Often we misjudge our kids motivation and intention leading to disconnection and an increase in the child’s mischief. Once a parent gets it and truly understands the process begins within the parent first then the practice strengthens and the child, family and parent begin to thrive. There is no one perfect general response to situations with your child. Practicing prevention, in-the-moment and then repair strategies alleviate and get to the root of the issue. An open conversation on how parenting is shifting from authoritarian to permissive. Why parents today need something to change and are willing to find the courage to revolutionize how the adult/child relationship evolves. Where to find Alison: Website l Facebook l Instagram l You Tube Change the World in A Generation (video) ***<
Tue, September 12, 2017
Learning How to be a More Conscious Parent by Tuning in to Our Body
Parenting from within takes practice practice practice. What are the significant tools we need to really delve within? Inside of us exists what we need to connect to the way we want to parent. Using these tools at our disposal will allow us to open up, connect, reset and navigate the challenges that come with development. Just like we are in constant practice it’s key to continue the conversation! Our children are not the only humans in development. What you will hear The emotional journey of choosing Positive Parenting Is your inner voice helping or hindering your practice Our old stories can create blocks when we practice PD What shows up when our children touch on those old stories (triggers) How we talk to ourselves when it seems everyone around us has it together Where do we chose to sit when we are in anger, resentment and “stuckness” Why are you choosing PD and/or Conscious Parenting? What are the themes that drive us to want to parent this way? What themes to we use to keep us on a pendulum Once we choose into the practice we can create habits that navigate through these themes and stories Awareness is the first step to helping us acknowledge the triggers so we can create a connection into this parenting journey This is a collective journey Mindfulness with ground us into the practice and what we need Using mindfulness will bring you into your biggest tool- your body, senses, feelings and emotions Listening to your body is accepting the messages and signals you are sending to your conscious What do you notice in challenging situations? Where do your signals sit? Belly? Shoulders? Chest? Follow the wisdom your body is sending. Fears cloud our vision and takes us into the “what ifs” Getting curious allows us to approach our children without getting stuck in the fog How to use the neutrality of your body to shift into a better experience Shifting can open us up the possibility that we are the best parent for our kids and we can make repairs ::::: Podcast Highlight: In Her Voice , By Kelly Covers website l itunes l FB l IG ::::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 05, 2017
Meredith Masony is on Sharing Her Story of Humor and Growing Community
Meredith Masony is on the podcast today!! She blogs at That’s Inappropriate and loves to share her stories about, life, marriage, motherhood, and her quest to be the best person she can be. Meredith has three kids ages 10, 7, 5. Her motto is “I’ll say it, so you don’t have to.” Life is messy, and it’s OK to talk about it. She invites all parents to join her on her search for sanity and hopefully you can have a few laughs along the way. What you’ll hear in this episode: The parenting struggle is real Meredith opens up about the first few years with little ones Feeling stuck, alone and eventually facing a difficult life event moved her to speak out We are not alone, we all feel lost at some point Sharing the hard parts of the journey is the first step in thriving though it You deserve more than to survive Parents deserve to thrive Creating a like-experiencing community can support us through even the most mundane events, potty training anyone? Humor is key! Sometimes the truth and humor are all you need to feel connected How to handle overnight success and sticking with your purpose The importance of modeling purpose Why having our own goals outside of our kids is important Balance is tough Letting go of ‘mom-guilt’ Where to find Meredith: Website l Facebook I Instagram l Twitter l You Tube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, August 29, 2017
Casey is Solo and Homework is on Fire
Skills, skills skills! Mama Tanya shares with our community an incredible example of how meeting your child where they are at can shift the outcome of your experience. It is easy for us as parents to become presumptive about misguided behavior Remember how curiosity is key? By becoming curious with our kids, we are able to recognize the skills they still need to develop, as well as see the reasons for certain choices, which are not always what they seem. Mama Tanya shares: “Sorry for the long post but I need some advice. “ school, and they gave him homework to do over the weekend. He said he didn't think it was fair to have homework on the weekends (which I agree), but on Saturday he set his homework on fire! Took the lighter when no one was watching, went outside like he was going to go play, and set it on fire burning half the page and dunking it in the pool. When I found the half burned sheet of paper in the pool, I kept my cool but was obviously shocked that he would react that way to homework. I let him know that I thought it was a poor decision to 1. light something on fire (safety!) and 2. refuse to do his homework in such a permanent way. Internally I felt helpless and frantic to solve the problem, externally I let him know that I get it, homework sucks, and I reminded him that he could ask for help. I asked him what made him set it on fire, was he feeling overwhelmed? Or angry? Or both? He was visibly upset both about being caught and about homework so I didn't preach or press the issue until later that day. When he was calm I talked to him about how sometimes we have to do things we don't like (like washing dishes) but we can learn to do it anyway, it doesn't have to be perfect, and we can ask for help. I also explained that between two extremes (setting homework on fire and staying up till midnight doing homework- neither which are healthy) he could find a happy medium. He said he had not done his best and that he would try to do his best this week. - I felt like it was handled positively all in all. But, when he told his father and co-parent (who lives elsewhere) over the phone, his dad immediately started saying that he wasn't going to send him something previously promised, that he would take his computer and phone away if he ever did it again, and went into punishment mode. So, what would you do? I thought about saying he couldn't do his electronic time until he completed his homework. Or I would give him extra electronic time every time he completed his homework. But I am super conflicted. I feel like homework issues should be dealt with by the teacher. Natural consequences. Of course I want to help the teacher, but not sure how...” Bullet Point: How to approach the reasoning behind the behavior Kids do more in response with how they feel Getting off the emotion
Tue, August 22, 2017
Becoming Calm Responders with Alexandra Hughes
World traveler, calm seeker, mom coach, multi-lingual speaker, Alexander Hughes, brings us her methods for supporting mamas in the chaos that is parenthood. The trials and tribulations of her own experience in motherhood would eventually fuel the passion of support she gives to other moms navigating the same road. Alex has created a soft space for mamas feeling out of control to find their rhythm and calm. At her website inneressencecoaching.com one has access to her workshops, authentic words of wisdom and that much needed place to connect with someone who gets it. With three kids and a handful of international moves Alex knows what it means to feel out of control in the mama chaos – which is why she has turned over every rock to find that much needed calm. We really should just make her wear a cape. What you will hear in this episode: Alex’s journey into and out of chaos An experience of transitions from a working professional to working mom to stay at home mom and back to working mom Our vision vs. our reality Why finding calm is so important as a mother The importance of mother’s nurturing a relationship with self Identifying patterns and models in current parenting Understanding where patterns and models come from Understanding the internal work necessary to tackle patterns & models How we set ourselves up and why this can ultimately lead to chaos Changing how we see the road – going from linear to cyclical Understanding the cycles through life Awareness of what we model for our kids Access to tools 1) manage stress 2) manage anger 3) creating a life for yourself that are aligned with values and self loving How our words create expectations for the inner child Where courage lies Summary of how Alex helps mamas on the road to calm - #1 Internal Work #2 External Work Self Care – is about “doing stuff that lights you up” Calm responding wisdom & tools Quotes: “When you have kids and you're a stay-at-home mom and you have stay-at-home parents, checking those boxes and feeling that sense of achievement doesn’t always happen”. 6:34 “Models and patterns live deep inside of me based on my own childhood and my own experiences”. 11:16 “Create a new best friend voice that is going to support us in the choices we are going to make”. 12:06 “If we can switch from that and seeing these mistakes, those blowups as opportunities to reconnect with your kid, teach your kid, learn yourself”. 20:28 “It’s your job to love yourself and to practice self care and self love because your children are watching you. AND you are a better everything when you do”. 43:04 What does Joyful Courage mean to you: “I think that you need to be courageous to be a conscious mom, to practice positive parenting, or to take that journey toward calm responding. I
Tue, August 15, 2017
Solo Show, A Visit with my 11 Year Old, Shifting our Lens
Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Practice, practice, practice. There is no other way to really move into how we want to BE. Practice is the key. The beauty of choosing and moving through practice is we discover new ideas, concepts and understandings that make our practice more enjoyable AND dare I say magical. In this episode we dig a little deeper into the idea of using our lens to take us to where we want to go. When toddling through different lenses we can shift this practice even deeper. We are joined by Ian O’Roarty, tween extraordinaire, into the lens of his practice through making amends. Listen and see how many fruitful lenses you discover. What you will hear: iTunes reviews – yay!! Thank you!! Ian is my guest to talk about what making amends looks and feels like from an 11 year old perspective Power of perception Moving into the perception of being a new sibling What might that look like to a toddler? How we collect evidence to support our perception What will we choose in the practice of collecting evidence? Is our evidence creating our fears? OR is our evidence helping us move through how we want to be? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, August 08, 2017
Kristin Hovious is on talking about making amends and repairing relationships
Kristin Hovious is a committed teacher with over a decade of experience in vocational, adult education, serving Chicago’s Cortiva Institute as both Education Director (2007-2008) and Adjunct Faculty Member (2006-2017.) Her training as a massage therapist and yoga teacher provides a foundation and love for anatomy and science of human development. As a Positive Discipline Certified Trainer, Kristin, combines a career of teaching and serving with her passion for creating mutually respectful environments for families, children, classrooms and schools. In her collaboration with teachers, administrations and families, Kristin’s goal is to help facilitate opportunities for adults and students to become compassionate leaders, with the hope that doing so will help build more peaceful communities. Kristin has served on the Positive Discipline Association Board of Directors as a Consultant since 2016. What you will hear in this episode: Kristin’s journey into Positive Discipline (PD) How PD grew in the Hovious’ Home and the challenges that came with learning a new way How teaching anatomy in her career paved the way for curiosity in neuroscience Understanding how emotions and behaviors influence connection Discussion on ‘kind and firm’ rephrasing as ‘connection and accountability’ and why Why shifting society’s idea of mistakes and punishments lacks ability to repair Understanding mistakes as opportunities to learn How repairing is a practice and it has the power to transform our relationships Mistakes lead to repairing opportunities Kristin walks us through four steps in healthy repair Relatable examples from Kristin’s own life help us empathize and feel supported in our own challenges Modeling is key Sticking to our agendas is a way we move away from connection When we repair relationships we have the power to heal connections Diving into our parenting pain so we can make amends Discomfort is a place to get curious, not a place to get stuck “I don’t think repairing relationships comes naturally or easy to us. It is practice”. What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “What Joyful courage means to me is that there is a consistent opportunity to practice repair. That is always worth it - it’s so important in the whole trajectory in our lives together as human beings. If we can be joyful in repair then maybe we can also turn the corner and be joyful about mistakes”. Where to find Kristin: Selchicago.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, August 01, 2017
Solo Show Digging Under the Surface of Bedtime Challenges
Who needs sleep? If you think about your best parenting moments vs. your more challenging ones I think we could venture to say that sleep OR lack of sleep would be a BIG contender. We have all been there. We move fluidly through that familiar bedtime routine, finish that last Llama Llama page, kisses, lights out….. We are no further from the kitchen when we hear “Mooooooooooom”!!! or Daaaaaaadddddeeeeeeeeeeee”! Sigh. Mama Christine posted this week about her daughter’s sleep struggles “oh, tribe, apologies for the long post, but I'm in dire need of some help. bedtime. dear lord, my daughter is 5, and it. is. brutal. her bedroom is on the first floor, mine is upstairs. she's often hungry before bedtime, so we usually do a snack like high fat yogurt and fruit. after bedtime jobs are done, i read to her, we sing, and say our goodnights...generally 20ish minutes. nearly every night, she's out of bed for any number of 'reasons': need to say goodnight to the dog, still hungry, thirsty, needs to say something to me, needs to ask me a question, needs another hug, says she can't sleep (within minutes of me leaving her bedroom) and the list goes on”. Christine is not alone here, otherwise there would not be a book called Go the F@ck to Sleep . Let’s break this struggle down, so Christine can get some sleep and her little one can feel peaceful slumber. What you will hear: · Iceberg view – top of the iceberg; requests, getting our of bed, one last… Under the surface; belonging and significance, influence, connection · Mischief showing up when we have misguided ideas about belonging and significance · Getting curious, noticing lack of skills to complete task (ie going to sleep) · Getting curious so we can be solution minded, see where child has influence · Children long for connection, they settle for attention · Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence · Making agreements to help kids create boundaries · What is my child’s perspective? · Asking how am I feeding this problem? Link to Deborah MacNamara Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, July 25, 2017
Learning How Tears Heal with Kate Orson, Hand in Hand Parenting Instructor
Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Kate Orson is a Hand in Hand parenting instructor, and author of Tears Heal: How To Listen To Children is on the podcast today! Originally from the UK she now lives in Basel, Switzerland, with her husband, author Toni Davidson, and their four year old daughter Ruby. You can find her work in parenting magazines including The Green Parent, Juno and Smallish. What you’ll hear in this episode: An introduction to Hand in Hand Parenting Children’s natural healing abilities Helping to attune to a child in a calm manner The benefits of crying Need for cortisol to be released from a stressful event It’s crucial children have safe space to release stress How to find ways to connect, special time Learn to listen to your children’s emotions Signs to look for in distressed children Getting out of our need to “fix it” or “stop it” response Children will release on their own terms Be available and take an interest in them Quotes: “I think our entire culture has this mental block when it comes to crying”. “I came across this different way of listening to the emotions. It’s reframing the way we view tears. It’s about listening and allowing the feelings”. “Children need safety to let go of feelings”. What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “I would say parenting is really really hard work. Sometimes we make mistakes and it may seem really hard to get up the next day and embrace it as a fresh day. We should have the Joyful Courage to embrace the challenges of parenting”. Where to find Kate: website I Facebook I Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, July 18, 2017
Casey is Solo with Wisdom from an 8 Year Old on the Power of Offers/Counter Offers
Casey is solo! One of the most effective and accessible tools in Positive Discipline, which fully connects our kids to significance and belonging, is the offer and the counter-offer. Casey and her very special guest, Melany, discuss the best way to use offers and counter-offers. What you’ll hear in this episode: · My eight year old niece chimes in on why having the option to counter offer helps her feel happy · Imagine aligning your vision of boundaries and expectations with that of your child’s · Building life long skills in processing, communicating and self confidence · An effective tool that helps build feelings of belonging and significance · What are non-negotiables vs.negotiables · How opening up the opportunity for your child to have a voice will help them ease into non-negotiables with healthy cooperation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, July 11, 2017
Dr. Tina Bryson Supports Us With Brain Informed Parenting
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two New York Times bestsellers: The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline. She is the Executive Director of the Center for Connection in Pasadena, CA and a pediatric and adolescent psychotherapist. She keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world. Dr. Bryson earned her Ph.D. from the University of Southern California, where her research explored attachment science, childrearing theory, and the emerging field of interpersonal neurobiology. You can learn more about her at TinaBryson.com, where you can subscribe to her blog and read her articles about kids and parenting. ::::: What you will hear in this episode: How Dr. Dan Siegal and Tina collaborated on THE WHOLE-BRAINED CHILD How science can help guide parents in really profound ways Programs, communities and in which Dr. Bryson’s work is taught The importance of HOW are parent shows up to the nervous system of a developing child How getting CURIOUS with your child creates gateways into building important life skills and self regulation How making ASSUMPTIONS delays or stops tool building; ie, taking behavior personal, over explaining behavior, making character assumptions, if they did it once they should be able to consistently complete task/request Paying attention to a developing nervous system If the nervous system is not regulated the child cannot have choice over behavior How to influence the nervous system in both self and child Identification of Dr. Bryson and Dr. Siegals emotional “ZONES”; Red Zone, Blue Zone, Green Zone The Frontal Cortex is not developed yet Children do not have the architecture to control “reptilian brain” / “fight or flight” in red or blue zones – difficulty paying attention, learning, regulating Tools/techniques to get in “green zone” – regulated, calm, empathetic, attune Behavior is communicating child’s lack of skills When to seek out professional help Self regulation – be gentle and kind with ourselves (reference Kristin Neff, of self-compassion.org ) New techniques require time and PRACTICE Calming strategy when child is disregulated- get BELOW eye level and use soothing words including “I’m right here with you” Brain associates with physical state – floppy noodle technique Body shift can help shift emotions How discipline is teaching We need to give children tools not take them away Thoughts on consequences Key actions of soothing, connection, problem-solving, playfulness and being pro-active build a “whole-brained” child How to recognize our own “zones” and practice getting/staying into “green zone” Where to find Dr. Tina Bryson: <a hre
Tue, July 04, 2017
Casey is Solo Exploring Boundaries, Agreements and Screen Time
Welcome back to the show! Let me share my own story from the trenches… You aren’t the only one who has kids who act like you are ruining their lives when you ask them to help our around the house… AND, it is a beautiful thing when your kids turn it around and own their behavior, right? It is a good thing, yes, but I am getting curious about if I am inadvertently raising a people pleaser….?? A question from the community Mama Denise shares “Literally losing my mind on first day of summer vacation over iPads. I don't have an ounce of energy for a single tool. I'm the worst mom ever, according to my daughter (5y 10mos). And my 7 1/2 yo son "needs this mower" on a farm simulator game. Literally feel like pitching these machines in the dumpster. Thank you for listening.” These are the struggles where we can release most of the load and pull our kids into co-creation. Casey takes Denise’s familiar scenario and leads us through the practice of intention, presence and solution. Showing up intentionally, rather than reactively Creating intention and applying it to our lens and presence Noticing the ease of intention when the ride is smooth and the rockiness when things fall apart Creating routines that help kids know what is happening and allowing them to have influence Making agreements to help kids create boundaries Identifying needs vs. privileges. ex. Screen time – it is a privilege Privilege comes after contributions Difference between contribution vs. chores A privilege differs from a reward It’s not about “earning”, it’s about “management” Guiding kids to have a voice in solutions when they feel an agreement or routine is not working Seeing the tip of the iceberg and KNOW that beneath the surface is a request for boundaries Allowing children a voice means we hold them as contributors to the cause Children are more likely to follow through when they have a voice in the creation of the agreement Introducing offer and counter offer tool – teaches parent how to let go of agenda, control and rigidity Sharing power when stakes are low Resources: Routine Handout Agreement Handout Quotes: “There are ways of being that support us in the journey.” “Everything is an opportunity to grow, to be better, and to be curious.” “Underneath all of the behavior all of the challenges and mischief that shows up is the underlying need for belonging, significance and influence. Our children only have so many years of life to filter and make sense of it.” “In the co-creation of routines and agreements the underlying message is that the child’s voice matters.” Learn more about your ad choices.
Tue, June 27, 2017
Kerry Foreman is on Supporting us in What it Means to be Grounded
Meet Kerry Foreman, psychotherapist, mother, wife and mindfulness guide. Kerry’s practice and blog, Grounded, settles around mindfulness awareness and the practice to live a life you’ll truly love. After a tough childhood, Kerry recognized that the tools she had to cope with life were unhealthy. Life her threw her some tough lessons, but by surrounding herself with healthy people she began to open the gifts of healthy practices, which began her healing journey. One by one she was able to acknowledge the unhelpful coping mechanisms and could then change and design how she wanted to live. Kerry lives in Colorado with her family. Her blog, Grounded , is a place for those who find strength in uplifting words and real, raw stories. It’s for those who love the idea of Mindfulness but maybe have no idea what that even looks like in real life. Kerry’s passion is to help people learn to live with a clearer lens. ::::: What you’ll hear in this episode: Recognition of FOO (Family of Origin) patterns and the call to make changes Psychological/verbal/emotional abuse trains us react rather than respond Noticing patterns such as shame, guilt and anger – where do they originate? Becoming a parent can bring these to the surface. How do we recognize where we need to change? Learning to respond instead if react Understand and reflect on our own parents’ experience Creating change and becoming aware of our own inner state of being Mindfulness practice influences the shift into better relationships How do we become grounded in order to stay balanced and present in mind no matter what is happening around us? Where control plays a role in mindfulness and the contrast in anxiety What do we chose to believe – what is the story we play in our minds? Self talk of being a victim – recognizing the language Expectations of others and how to stay mindful and in control while at the same time releasing what we are not in control of. What does Joyful Courage mean to me? “Joyful Courage is finding the joy in being brave enough to parent differently. Finding a new path in order to allow our kids to be who they were meant to be.” Where to find Kerry: YouTube l Facebook l Twitter l BLOG Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, June 20, 2017
Casey is solo! Connecting before Correcting, Problem Solving and Empowering our Kids
Casey takes listeners through real scenarios shared by our parenting community. She takes us through the process of connecting before correcting, so that we can create solutions with our kids. She invites listeners to recognize the tools we are using that aren't helpful, and shares how to replace them with tools that help us connect. while also guiding them to work together and find solutions that empower them. What you’ll hear in this episode: How to show up and hold space for problem solving with your kids Becoming aware of the rigidity and resistance when disciplining their kids Recognize that often the best solutions come directly from our kids Becoming aware of non-judgment and non-attachment and understand how this can positively influence the parent/child relationships What does it look like to surrender and how this can become a practice of modeling Understanding their developmentally appropriate behavior is not against parents – it’s their developmental phase. Brain development plays a major role in behaviors. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sat, June 17, 2017
Father's Day Bonus - The O'Roarty Family is on the Show :)
Yup. I interviewed my family. Really it was all in celebration of my husband for Father's Day. Listen in as we talk about a range of things from our birth story, to how AWESOME it is to be married to a parent educator, and advice for moms on how to talk to dads about parenting. Also, special guests appearances by my kids, who talk about what they love about their dad - from the early years to now. Let me know what you think!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, June 13, 2017
Melissa Benaroya talks Summer Routines and Structures
Casey invites fellow Positive Discipline Coach, Melissa Benaroya, to discuss surviving Summer Break. In this episode they offer practical tools and solutions to set you and your family up for a successful summer. Two to three months is a long time to keep your kids occupied and stimulated. Get an insight into the importance of boredom and why you don’t have to plan every single second of your children’s vacation. Tune in and learn how routine and summer coexist to help you have fun too! Melissa is a neighbor here in the Pacific Northwest. In addition to being a mother of two, Melissa has a Masters degree in Social Work, is a Credentialed School Counselor and a Certified Gottman Educator. You can find more about Melissa at melissabenaroya.com . What you’ll hear in this episode: The value in creating a summer consistency so your family knows what to expect. Why routines are not confining but an invitation to freedom. How consistency helps encourages children to manage themselves. Why moments of boredom are necessary and the benefits it offers growing kids! How to use mindfulness when creating a summer schedule. Tools are discussed to set up family agreements on everything from daily schedules to screen time use! You’ll learn how to involve your kids in creating a fun summer everyone will enjoy! What does Joyful Courage mean to you? I think when I hear those two words side by side I think of having the courage to take risks and the joy that can result. Take some risks this summer and encourage your kids to do the same! Where to find Melissa: Facebook l Twitter Her book, “The Childproof Parent” is available on Amazon MELISSA'S WRITING HAS BEEN FEATURED IN: HUFFINGTON POST, PARENTMAP MAGAZINE, & NORTH STATE PARENT MAGAZINE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, June 06, 2017
Jeanne-Marie Paynel talks Montessori and Positive Discipline
The first thing that stuck out about our next guest, Jeanne-Marie Paynel is her passion for lifelong learning. In addition to raising two beautiful children, Jeanne-Marie holds a Masters in Education, is the founder and CEO of Voila Montessori and is a Positive Discipline trainer. After reading Dr. Montessori’s work “The Secret of Childhood” she discovered a passion for guiding children and families in healthy parenting approaches. She wanted parents to appreciate the true importance of their role – not as servants or teachers, but as supporters and guides of their children’s natural development. This need in the global community prompted her to launch Voila Montessori, an accessible resources to guide parents in the Montesorri tradition and the Positive Discipline approach. What you’ll hear in this episode: It’s important to empower our children not enable them Setting up a prepared environment for your children’s learning The Montessori philosophy and how it helps children and families today Ways Positive Discipline and the Montessori method merge to provide support The benefits of a child’s freedom of movement and choice in their own environment Tools to help families nurture their child’s potential How to access Montessori methods and find an appropriate educational environment for your child. What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Joyful Courage – to me for one what comes to mind is being aware of how lucky we are – the practice of gratitude is what brings me great joy. In the context of Montessori, being in awe of what your children are going through, their evolution, their adaptation to the world. Courage is speaking up for what is, and accepting at times that we might be wrong. That we might of not interacted with our child the way that would’ve felt better and to be okay with going to your child and saying “I didn’t like the way I did that” “I’m going to better next time”- It’s courageous for adults to say to a child that “I did something wrong”. Being aware that we are not perfect and we are learning next to them. Quotes: “We are not our children’s servants. We are here to empower them to do things for themselves”. “My child was going to be my guide in my parenting journey”. (a realization) “A child is an adult in the making”. Where to find Jeanne-Marie: Voila Montessori - http://www.voilamontessori.com/en/ Pinterest l Facebook l YouTube l Vimeo Ebooks and Resources from Jeanne-Marie Learn more about y
Tue, May 30, 2017
Julie Stubblefield and I Explore How to Shift to LOVING Our Bodies (and Teaching our Kids to do the Same)
Meet Julie Stubblefield, founder of Fit Mom Revolution. She’s a mother, wife, fitness professional and all around inspiration of strength and confidence in how we care for our bodies. After years of struggling through the all too common yoyo game, Julie found that changing her attitude and perception around nourishing and moving her body she realized her body was whole, not broken. She’s bringing this “aha moment” and sharing it with moms everywhere inspiring a Fit Mom Revolution ! What you’ll hear in this episode: The importance of stepping away from the diet cycle How changing the perception of our bodies will change how we approach the care we give our whole self Having a life you enjoy in a body you love Nourishment and movement are a family practice Giving gratitude around nourishment There is no “one size fits all”, must work for your family Instilling healthy meal time habits for all family members A healthy attitude towards nutrition does not have to be complicated Giving our kids space to share their perception of their body image, and let them explore these feelings What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Joyful courage means taking the approach of curiosity and hope to create a beautiful experience for you and your family. It’s worth going out on a limb for. Where to find Julie: – Love Your Bodcast Podcast - subscribe on iTunes and Stitcher Radio http://www.fitmomrevolution.com/ Pinterest l Facebook l Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 23, 2017
Carly Mentlik Talks About Support our Tween Girls
Meet Carly Mentlik, tween whisperer. Carly’s vast education and experiences have led her to craft The Inner Rainbow Project. She coaches parents and caregivers “to help our tween daughters grow up to be the confident, emotionally healthy, self-aware women that they deserve to be”. Nine through pre-teen can be a very challenging time for parents and tweens to navigate. Carly’s passion and guiding light gives parents and caregivers the tools to help navigate this extremely important development phase with ample support. The world is changing faster and faster every day. We need our girls to have the confidence to speak their truth and live in their authenticity! Carly holds a Masters in Clinical Counseling, dual Bachelors in Special and Elementary Education all from NYU. She is a single mom, Yoga instructor and all around inspiration. What you’ll hear in this episode: Challenges tween girls navigate Elementary to Middle School transition. Importance of cultivating a strong foundation for girls at this developmental stage. How feelings and emotions are changing and affect your tween and their experience. Tools for helping your tween find self-awareness, acceptance and discovery in a safe and healthy environment. How to address body image and help tweens feel confidence and compassion in/for themselves. The importance of your tweens voice and how to support their expression. How to use creativity and have fun to build connection with your tween. Practical lessons and rituals that help both you and your tween put tools into daily practice. What you can expect from working with Carly. Special introduction to The Chakra Girls ! What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Being a mom and being blessed to follow my passion, it is gratitude. It’s terrifying to embark on these things and you need that courage, but it’s with such joy because I am so grateful to have this opportunity to do this work. Where to find Carly: https://www.betterhelp.com/carly-mentlik/ https://www.innerrainbowproject.com/ Facebook l Instagram l Pinterest Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 16, 2017
Jenna Phillips Ballard Talks Fear, and Worth and Shifting to Possibility
Today’s guest is Jenna Phillips Ballard, a certified personal trainer and life coach for celebrities, previously featured on Dr. Phil and The Doctors. She is on a mission to motivate and inspire leaders to make the world a better place through self-love. After waking up from a coma in the year 2000, she recovered from brain damage and learned about the power of self-love. Her commitment to recovery depended on how she felt about herself and she realized her purpose was to inspire others to break through their limiting beliefs and create an unforgettable life. She cofounded Ascension Leadership Academy with her husband and together they have coached hundreds of people into their greatness. She’s also the founder of Unicorn University, an online membership community where women never spend another day of being beige, broken or behaved. We are discussing emotional intelligence – reframing the stories we tell about the experiences in our life and engaging with our children. Join us! “I believe that being a parent, being a mom or a dad or a parental figure is the most important job in the entire world because of our world, our planet depends upon how our children today are going to take on that responsibility when they become adults. It’s incredibly important that people get the opportunity to look at their life through a different lens. You can’t change the past, but you can absolutely change the story you tell about your past and that’s how you can re-write history” What you’ll hear in this episode: · Compassion as a mindset · Finding the lesson, learning and opportunity in parenting struggles · How Fear limits mindset and fulfillment · Managing Fear and operating in its presence · Finding our worthiness beneath all the preconceptions we have about ourselves · Selfishness and setting examples for self care – modeling and cycle breaking · How to shift your mindset around time, busyness and abundance – reframing how we see time and capacityRef · Being an interruption to your own thought patterns that don’t move you forward · How to be a “meaning making machine” · Reframing typical mom complaints as invitations to conversation · Reframing as a practice, shifting your mindset around abundance and asking for support to stretch your plate · How to get out of your own way Resources: The Power of Now Where to find Jenna: Website l Ascension Leadership Academy l ( Ascension Facebook , Ascension instagram ) Jenna’s FB Live every Thursday night at 7 PST <a href="https://www.fac
Thu, May 11, 2017
Mother's Day Bonus! Alicia Ybarbo and Mary Ann Zoellner are on Encouraging us to Embrace our Shitty Mom Moments
SO EXCITED ABOUT THIS BONUS EPISODE!! Omg. I have been bugging my guests to come and talk to me since meeting them LAST May at the Mom 2.0 conference. Alicia Ybarbo and Mary Ann Zoellner are both producers at the Today Show, bestselling authors, and mamas to two kids. Their life is BUSY, and they find humor, compassion and forgiveness around every corner. They came on the show to talk about their book, Shitty Moms , and the sequel, Shitty Moms for All Seasons. Alicia and Mary Ann keep it real. Their honesty, insights, and willingness to laugh and say what so many of us only dare to think will hook you right from the start. Please listen in. Where to find Alicia and Maryann's books: Today's Moms: Essentials for Surviving Baby's First Year Shitty Mom: The Parenting Guide for the Rest of Us Shitty Mom For All Seasons: Half Assing it All Year Long Where to find Shitty Mom: Shitty Mom on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 09, 2017
Janet Allison, From Boys Alive! is on Supporting us in Raising Our Boys
Today’s guest is Janet Allison, a Waldorf teacher and family coach. We are discussing boys and how they learn. Join us! “Be aware of his need to move his body. It’s absolutely critical that he have some time before school to move his body.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Gender-based differences in learning styles – the value of kinetic learning when teaching boys How modern teaching methods set our boys up to fail Maturity and developmental differences between genders Expulsion rates of boys vs girls in pre-k Impacts of the learning environment on boys’ self-esteem Optimal learning environments for boys Best age for starting school and the disconnect between intellectual and emotional development Managing expectations of practice vs. mastery Releasing physical energy to support emotional regulation Finding ways to accommodate “wriggly kids” in the classroom Building relationships with your son’s teacher – what questions to ask How to encourage independence and service to others Supporting your child in remembering things Relevance/meaning and learning by doing: educational approaches that work for boys The value of trades education The benefits of mentorship – how to find a mentor for your child and be intentional in your relationship building What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Joyful courage means being willing to step out of complacency, out of the box, and follow that inner voice that you have saying “Yes!” even when you are in doubt or fear say “Yes!” anyways and I strive to do this in everything I do is bring joy to it. Go to the grocery store and find some joy. I have a friend who buys flowers every Tuesday during her grocery shopping and her goal is to give those flowers away by the time she gets back to her house….Stepping out of our boxes and our little narrow lanes and our busy-ness or overwhelm in our own life but just stepping out a little bit to see there’s this world out there and what can I do to bring joy into the world – and we need it. For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 02, 2017
Larissa Dann is on Talking About How to Let Go of Consequences and Rewards
Today’s guest is Larissa Dann, a Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) trainer. We are discussing parenting without rewards and punishments. Join us! “Children don’t misbehave, they behave to meet a need.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Being assertive without alienating our children Using “I messages” to communicate needs Trusting our child’s desire to be helpful vs. presenting requests in a way that is prescriptive Using active listening to gain cooperation The limitations of contingent rewards The impact of rewards on motivation for cooperation – who are they cooperating for Omitting rewards to foster self-discipline and an inner locus of control Preparing children for adulthood by making them less dependent on the judgment of others Using relationship skills to help your child develop a moral compass The power of natural consequences in building resilience and developing internal judgments about right and wrong Trusting children to care and problem solve to find mutual solutions How children’s behavior is impacted by unmet needs Avoiding the temptation to attribute intent or take behavior personally The gift of imperfection and modeling accountability The benefit of modeling alternate skills to teach solutions instead of using punishments The impact we have on the world through our own parenting practices in the way we raise our kids Parenting as imparting soft skills Brainstorming solutions to discomfort when the activity is non-negotiable Creating routines and agreements, doing with vs doing to and communicating expectations in a way that is an invitation to relationship Conflict as competing needs Shifting language around what “works” to what is “helpful” – moving from control to partnership What does Joyful Courage mean to you? This is what it takes to be a child growing up in an adult’s world and it’s something we so often forget. Children so often are powerless and it takes courage for them to say no when we are the huge person in their life and when they think they might get into trouble and yet they are the most joyful beings on the planet. In the face of the most dire situations, children can somehow find that spark of joy that they can bring out from terrible situations. As a parent, it takes the courage of conviction, to parent against the flow of accepted parenting opinion and practice and the joy comes when you see your children flower and grow sometimes despite your many mistakes. Resources: Parent Effectiveness Training Where to find Larissa: Website l Facebook</
Thu, April 27, 2017
April Bonus: Rebecca Gallagher and I Discuss 13 Reasons Why
** This podcast is marked explicit for a reason!** So happy to have my friend Rebecca Gallagher, from frugalistablog.com on this bonus episode to dig into the popular and controversial Netflix series 13 Reasons Why . Rebecca is raising teens, and like me, watched the show and had powerful discussions about the themes that show up with her daughter. Rowan and I actually watched the show together. The themes that show up in 13 Reasons Why, created by Brian Yorkey and based on a book of the same name by Jay Ashor, are heavy, and intense. Some parents are unsure about whether it is something they want their kids to see. Rebecca and I don't claim to have answers, but we do discuss our own opinions and experiences we had with sharing the show with our kids and the conversation that showed up because of it. Topics include sexual assault, bullying, sexual harassment, rape and suicide. Like I said, intense. AND important to be talking about with the young people in our life. Let me know what you think! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 25, 2017
Noha Alshugairi Shares About Teaching Positive Discipline and Being a Muslim
Today’s guest, Noha Alshugairi, is a “citizen of the world,” a licensed marriage and family therapist who practices in Newport Beach, California and positive discipline trainer. We are discussing positive discipline in the Muslim home. Join us! “I don’t need to be preaching what Islam says to us in order to be teaching Positive Discipline.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Diversity within the Muslim community (80 groups, with differing faith) How Muslim teachings align with Positive Discipline principles (building social interest, fostering belonging and contribution, understanding the belief behind the behavior, encouragement, mutual respect, kindness and firmness at the same time, short-term vs long-term and focus on solutions) How does Islam promote mutual respect? The concept of obedience as it relates to both Islam and Positive Discipline Doing the best you can with the tools you have – how excellence at 3 or 4 looks difference than excellence in adolescence The impacts of hanging onto childhood hurt in adulthood What non-Muslims are most surprised to learn about Muslim families Concerns of Muslim parents – how to protect children from Islamophobia & how to build a cultural identity they can be proud of? Finding peace through focus on your circle of influence and stepping away from victimhood How to broaden your understanding and support for the Muslim community Connecting with larger groups as minority group members to move past stereotypes What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Having joy while you are facing life. It’s difficult because life is not smooth sailing. Resources: Positive Parenting in the Muslim Home 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Where to find Nosha: Website – Sakina Counselling Website – Positive Parenting in the Muslim Home Facebook l Youtube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 18, 2017
Angela Pruess Supports Gentle Parents with Special Needs Kids
Today’s guest is Angela Pruess, a child and family therapist and special needs mom of 3 on a mission to support and empower parents of behaviorally challenging and special needs kids. We are discussing parenting without rewards and punishments. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Gentle parenting defined – intentionality, connection Attachment theory and gentle parenting Avoiding slipping into extremes with gentle parenting Optimal attachment parenting – responsive and nurturing while setting limits and boundaries How to get perspective when you feel “stuck” in parenting patterns that aren’t working Focussing on the long view of what values you are wanting to raise your child with Understanding the “why” behind your child’s behavior – physiologically speaking particularly for special needs kids Interventions that focus on the root of behavior versus the surface level behaviors Backing up and zooming out as a practice to respond more effectively to challenging behaviors Intentionality and mindfulness as parenting techniques to reduce overwhelm in parenting special needs kids Moving from victimhood and blame to becoming influencers of parenting experiences Grief in special needs parenting and unpacking those complicated feelings Techniques for working through tough feelings and heavy thoughts to create space for something different The need for self-care in special needs parenting, and being mindful about what activities are most helpful The freedom of self-compassion and intentionality of gratitude Asking for help: not a sign of weakness, an invitation to community Lagging skills vs undesirable behavior – learning to focus on the right area to improve outcomes What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Through a parenting with confidence lens, having the courage to boldly walk this path that’s challenging and unexpected, to move forward feeling confident and feeling like you’re giving your child your best self. Also, being able to do so with joy and having this genuine acceptance of our story – who our child is and who we are. They were given to us and we were woven together for a reason. Having courage and finding joy through the struggles and unexpected challenges. Resources: Aha parenting website The Explosive Child – Ross Greene Positive Discipline for Children With Special Needs Where to find Angela: Website Facebook <a href="https://t
Thu, April 13, 2017
World Changer Episode: Leanne Kabat, Head Mama of Mamacon
Leanne Kabat is on the show today talking about her vision of a world where mamas come together to love, support and CELEBRATE all parts of themselves!! Leanne is the Head Mama of Mamacon , an annual conference for moms in the Pacific Northwest. She shares her story, her inspiration, and her desire to connect mamas not only to themselves, but also to each other. Join us at Mamacon , April 29th from 2-10pm. Get your tickets here!! BOGO sale is happening through midnight, Friday, April 14. GET ON IT - bring a friend, TREAT yourself!! Where to follow Leanne and Mamacon: Website l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 11, 2017
Lisa Fuller is on Supporting us With Shame Resilience
Today’s guest is Lisa Fuller. Lisa Fuller, M.S.W., Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, Certified Professional Coach and a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator, has been working with parents since 2005 to help them find joy and moment of peace even in the midst of chaos. Lisa’s a compassionate listener whose committed to empowering parents through Positive Discipline’s common sense principles. Having three children ages 21, 17 and 10, Lisa’s steeped in the challenges and joys of parenting. Lisa also offers one on one coaching for parenting and life! She believes the world is a better place when we—adults and children—strive to treat each other with respect and love. Today we are talking about developing shame resilience. “Shame is something that we all have. It’s universal. Every human being experiences shame – those who don’t usually have some significant problems. It’s not a bad thing. That’s one good thing about shame – it means you are a caring human being.” What you’ll hear in this episode: What is shame and why should we talk about it? How positive discipline relates to shame Shame and guilt – what’s the difference? How do they connect to humiliation and embarrassment? The physical sensations of shame The individual personal nature of shame Practicing critical awareness – how to reality check the messages that are driving your shame The value of having someone to talk through shame with What makes a good person to talk shame with How to encourage shame resilience in children Reducing shame by normalizing experiences Creating opportunities for belonging What it means to lead with the message with love How to connect without trying to fix Empathy and shame – how to support when you can’t relate to the experience Cultivating relationships that allow us to speak to our shame How to show up in your relationships that shows you are a safe place to talk shame Doing vs Being – their roles in building shame resilience Personal practices for finding joy within instead of looking to our children to complete us What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Taking risks with heart. The courage is taking the risks and moving ahead and doing it but doing it with your full being. The last couple years I’ve had some very significant deaths in my life and I think in so many ways it’s been a gift – it does highlight joy, the simple joy of being alive and how I’m able to be more grateful that I have this gift of life which isn’t going to last forever. Losing people who are close to us that’s the upside is that we go “Wow, this is temporary, this life, it really is.” I think when we get caught in the swirl of parenting we can ‘beam in’ – these other, bigger issues help us beam out. Joy helps with shame and
Tue, April 04, 2017
Cheryl Erwin Discusses the Challenges and Joy of Single Parenting with Positive Discipline
Today’s guest is Cheryl Erwin, a therapist and parenting educator who began teaching parenting after her marriage broke down. We are discussing single parenting today. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: The biggest challenges facing single parenting – finances, housing, misconceptions/stereotypes Asking for help as a single parent Making time for special time and relationship building when you’re outnumbered Using connection to build resilience Self-care and self-compassion after divorce and separation Finding joy vs creating joy – finding happy after separation The blessings and gifts of being a single parent The two kinds of special time The power of routine in single parenthood The value of spontaneity and choosing into lightness Lessons in delayed gratification, hard work and problem solving Learning to grow from mistakes Positive discipline as a single parenting tool Learning to let go after raising kids as a single parent Strength that comes from adversity – a gift of single parenthood Choosing to go high when others go low – child-centered co-parenting Being honest about co-parenting challenge while still being respectful and giving space for relationships to be maintained Single parenting by numbers – 70% of American kids spend some of their time in a single parent household Step parents as blessings to your children The importance of facilitating communication between parents and children during the other parent’s parenting times What does Joyful Courage mean to you? To take each day as it comes and look for what’s right about it not what’s wrong with it and to not be afraid of risk – I’ve never been a good risk taker but as a single mom I learned I have to take some. As someone who now travels the world teaching positive discipline I’ve gotten comfortable with getting on planes and flying off to Egypt by myself when I don’t know anybody there and some of the greatest joy and blessings of my life have been when I found the joy and courage to take an appropriate risk. You don’t have to fly to China or Egypt to do that. You can do it right in your own backyard. Certainly the single parents who are listening know that life can be risky on a pretty regular basis and being able to embrace that and learn the skills you need to be able to do that well will bring you joy in your kids, joy in your grandparents and joy in your own life. At the end of it, my son goes off into the horizon and I’m left with my life and what I make of it and I’m trying to do something with my life that I can be proud of and that’s what joyful courage means to me. It’s taken me all of these 60 years to figure that out. Resources: Positi
Fri, March 31, 2017
0-5 Mini Summit with Julietta Skoog: The Importance of Self Care
Yipee - one more day of the 0-5 Mini Summit with Julietta!! Today Julie and I dig into questions from the community surrounding self care. We KNOW it is important, and yet so many of us struggle to get it in! Listen in as Jules and I discuss chores, having the courage to seek out mental health, and how self care tips that help us keep calm during those epic meltdowns. Julietta is the cofounder of Sproutable , an online learning experience for parents, focused on development and years 0-5. She has a Masters Degree in School Counseling and Ed.S Degree in School Psychology from Seattle University. As a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, she teaches Positive Discipline parenting classes and provides Positive Discipline trainings for teachers and parent educators. Julietta led the Seattle Public Schools Childfind preschool assessment screening team from 2007-2014. She is currently the school counselor at Queen Anne Elementary. She is the proud mother of two daughters ages 7 and 4. She understands the parenting challenges as well as the importance of early intervention and child development. Find more about Sproutable at: http://www.besproutable.com/ Facebook l Twitter l Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 30, 2017
0-5 Mini Summit with Julietta Skoog: Questions from the community
Julietta is BACK ON to dig into the challenges brought to us by the Joyful Courage community. Julietta is the cofounder of Sproutable , an online learning experience for parents, focused on development and years 0-5. Julietta has a Masters Degree in School Counseling and Ed.S Degree in School Psychology from Seattle University. As a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, she teaches Positive Discipline parenting classes and provides Positive Discipline trainings for teachers and parent educators. Julietta led the Seattle Public Schools Childfind preschool assessment screening team from 2007-2014. She is currently the school counselor at Queen Anne Elementary. She is the proud mother of two daughters ages 7 and 4. She understands the parenting challenges as well as the importance of early intervention and child development. Find Sproutable at: http://www.besproutable.com/ Facebook l Twitter l Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 29, 2017
0-5 Mini Summit with Julietta Skoog: Development
You all know that I love me some Julietta Skoog! She is a dear friend and a WEALTH of information. Julietta is the cofounder of Sproutable , an online learning experience for parents, focused on development and years 0-5. Julietta has a Masters Degree in School Counseling and Ed.S Degree in School Psychology from Seattle University. As a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, she teaches Positive Discipline parenting classes and provides Positive Discipline trainings for teachers and parent educators. Julietta led the Seattle Public Schools Childfind preschool assessment screening team from 2007-2014. She is currently the school counselor at Queen Anne Elementary. She is the proud mother of two daughters ages 7 and 4. She understands the parenting challenges as well as the importance of early intervention and child development. Yup. She's amazing. Listen in to todays show as we break down Eric Ericksons model of psychosocial development and what WE as parents can do to ensure that our children are developing trust, autonomy, initiative and industry during their early years. Join us tomorrow as Julie and I dig into challenges sent in from the Joyful Courage community. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 28, 2017
Free Range Parenting with Kim Estes
Today’s guest is Kim Estes, a speaker and coach who talks to parents of kids from pre-school to adolescents about safety concerns. We are discussing free-range parenting. Join us! “Our kids are wanting to explore their world and it’s our job to teach them to do it safely.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Misconceptions about free-range parenting Boundaries in free-range parenting: subject to change based on individual children and age-level Assessing age and individual capacity specific boundaries – the value of checking in for safety Free-range parenting as giving kids space to practice intuition Fear of judgment and free-range parenting Risk assessment and safety – likelihood of concerns relating to traffic safety and abduction Assessing risk tolerance as parents Stranger safety vs Stranger danger Free-range parenting as freedom within structure Finding the happy medium: learning new skills with appropriate boundaries Being consistent about expectations and boundaries Mistakes as learning experiences – handling situations where things don’t go as planned Being available and non-judgmental when negotiating boundaries – dropping into curiosity to keep communication lines open No questions asked, do-overs on both sides and owning failure Exercising self-compassion and forgiveness when you don’t realize you’re being called to “the big show” What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Joyful courage means to me to be able to parent courageously even if it’s uncomfortable, but at the end of the day, having something that feels good for everybody even if it’s the smallest success. Where to find Kim: Website l Facebook l Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 21, 2017
Oh Crap Potty Trainer, Jamie Glowacki
Today’s guest is Jamie Glowacki, a social worker who worked with dual diagnosis moms, transitioned to owning a children’s store and then became a potty trainer. We are discussing potty training. Join us! “I don’t really have a method. You have to take off the diapers.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The elimination communication movement Timing of potty training readiness “Pull-ups” and potty training – mixing old and new behaviors. Potty training and instant gratification – the role of patience in the process The myths of potty training Gender and potty training The role of social learning and praise Potty location and using the tool for the task The influence of Dr. Spock and the history of potty training Developmental milestones – should they be child-led? The myth of “readiness” - potty training as a skill that needs to be attended to rather than something that happens naturally in time without intervention The “magic window” of potty training – prior to individuation Potty training as a power struggle “Fear of release” – how to overcome it Managing expectations around developmental milestones and the danger of comparison How potty training challenges vary based on the age of the child Performance anxiety and potty training The best potty and ergonomic angle for potty training specifically for encouraging poop How to modify your potty or reposition your child to improve poop likelihood Rewards and consequences – their role in potty training Potty training power struggles as relationship challenges Potty training regressions – change in routines, the honeymoon period Using blocks of learning to solve regressions “Baby love” as a tool to help kids adjust to new siblings Location specific potty training challenges – how to unpack them Night time training strategies Developmental phases of bladder development Resources: Squatty potty unicorn ice cream video Is Night Training Really Necessary – blog post Oh Crap Potty Training Book Oh Crap Potty Training video conferences Where to find Jamie: Website Twitter Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoic
Thu, March 16, 2017
March World Changer: Tamara Azar and Momentum Education
Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: So totally honored to have my friend and mentor, Tamara Azar, trainer and coach from Momentum Education on to talk about the important work that Momentum is doing to change the world. Listen in to the very end to hear about the incredibly generous offer to all the Joyful Courage Tribe! Find out more about Momentum Education, including upcoming trainings in Seattle, LA, Washington DC and NYC, by visiting www.momentumeducation.com . ::::: March GIVEAWAY! The last few months I have been encouraging you all to share the shows by holding giveaways - everything from mantra bracelets to coaching has gone out to members of the community who have been willing to join in the work of #impact1millionkids - this month is no exception!! Simply by posting a podcast link, and tagging me (Casey O'Roarty) or Joyful Courage, you are entered to win!! This month I am giving away a spot in the Living Joyful Courage Membership program - WOOHOO!! AND, you can enter as many times as you WANT! Yes! ::::: Weekly FB Lives are happening!! Join me every Tuesday at 10am pst on the Joyful Courage FB page to hear about a new Positive Discipline tool that you can begin using ASAP. Even if you are well versed in parenting with PD, you will take a way a renewed commitment and perhaps a deeper understanding of the tool. ::::: Living Joyful Courage Membership Program Join the LIVING JOYFUL COURAGE information list TODAY and enjoy freebies and reminders for when it is time to REGISTER for the membership program!! ::::: Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 14, 2017
Finding our Inner Abundant Mama with Shawn Fink
Today’s guest is Shawn Fink, also known as Abundant Mama. She is a mom of eleven-year-old twin girls. We are discussing living a life of abundance in our parenting. Join us! “For me, being awake is being engaged, being thoughtful, being very purposeful, living my values but also being present.” “Mistakes are opportunities to learn.” “Abundance is looking at your life and being grateful that you have enough, that you are enough and you do enough – but it’s much more than that. It’s become a lifestyle.” “There is enough happiness, joy and love in the world for everybody.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Moving from scarcity to abundance mindsets – from jealousy to gratitude Abundance as a way to mother yourself, be authentic and be aware of what’s around and within you Being awesomely awake: paying attention to your life, being mindful and living intentionally Self-care vs Soul-care – what’s the difference and how can it change your life and the way you see it? Being present and discomfort – learning to navigate it vs as being a way to eliminate it How to exercise self-compassion when you haven’t showed up in the way that you’ve hoped to Modelling asking for forgiveness for your kids The joys and challenges of raising tweens Motherhood as self-invention Learning to connect with your children as they grow – navigating relationship change The value in letting kids fail when they need to – leaving room for life lessons and learning how to handle discomfort The power of injecting playfulness into your routine and how it can be productive Finding joy in obligation Building habits for effectiveness in your parenting life What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Joyful Courage is the joyful ability to completely show up as yourself and be you, as a mom, it’s really hard because we are trying so hard to keep everyone else happy. There is nothing better for our kids than for them to see us being fully ourselves. Resources: Insight timer The Playful Family E-book The Abundant Mama online program 10 Habits of Highly Effective Mamas Where to find Shawn: Facebook Instagram Twitter Pinterest Website Learn more about your ad choices.
Tue, March 07, 2017
A Conversation about Parenting in the Age of Smart Phones (ugh) with Kim Muench
Today’s guest is Kim Muench, a mother of five, parenting writer, a certified parenting coach and lover of parents of adolescents. We are discussing navigating decisions around technology with our kids. Join us! “Instead of looking at it as a tool of potential destruction, we are looking at it as a vehicle for us to build a circle of trust and communicate even better.” “Conscious parenting: being mindful and walking the tight rope between giving them autonomy and knowing when to step in and help them see the potential consequences of choices” What you’ll hear in this episode: Balancing your need for control and desire to protect your kids with providing access to benefits of smart phones Building trust, letting go of our own experiences and not projecting our own mischief (which can lead to friction) Navigating the tightrope: being honest, open and self-aware as you work through technology use with your kids Negotiating smart phone boundaries within your family Scaffolding social media communication – building progressively Adolescent boundary pushing as learning Falling off the tight rope – learning as a practice and getting back up Creating an agreement around technology usage – a collaborative approach subject to revision as needed initiated by either party Limits as helping Why you need open conversation about social media including topics such as safeguards and kindness Technology as distraction and disconnection Reassessing agreements on technology without blame and shame The value of eye contact and being fully present in resolving conflict How to address reigning in technology use under the umbrella of conscious parenting – identifying the source Working collaboratively vs exerting control – what are the outcomes of these approaches? What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Joyful Courage is embracing your authentic self with enthusiasm and being brave enough to share that with the world – it is an every day practice. Resources: Screenagers documentary Where to find Kim: Website Twitter Facebook LinkedIn Facebook Group Real Life Parenting Community Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 28, 2017
Making room for empathy with Melissa Benaroya
Today's guest is Melissa Benaroya. Melissa is a licensed clinical social worker with 20 years of experience working with children and families. Melissa has a Masters degree in Social Work, is a Credentialed School Counselor and is trained in Positive Discipline. She is also a Certified Gottman Educator offering the Bringing Baby Home Program for families with young children and workshops on Emotion Coaching. Melissa practices as a parenting consultant, coach and speaker to groups and individuals by blending her clinical training with her knowledge of child development and discipline. In 2011 she co-authored the book The Childproof Parent. Melissa lives in Seattle with her husband and two children and keeps her sanity with an active lifestyle of running and Crossfit! “Empathy is the ability to feel and understand what another person may be feeling but ultimately … it means connection … and feeling understood.” What you’ll hear in this episode: · Learning to use empathy as a first response and a parenting tool · Empathy as reflecting your child’s feeling back to them versus owning their feelings or relating our own personal experiences · How using personal experiences in place of empathy can escalate conflict · How to use empathy to help your child build emotional resilience · Using empathy effectively to help your child feel heard · Empathy as a practice and a gradual learning process · Childhood developmental milestones in empathy · How to model empathy for your kids · Using the “Fake It Til You Become It” approach to empathy in your parenting · Being mindful of your physical self in how you demonstrate and model empathy · Parenting from the couch as a barrier to empathy · Echoing, mirroring and repetition as empathy · The power of validation in feeling heard – when looking on the bright side gets in the way · Empathy as a transferrable skill. What does Joyful Courage mean to you? It takes courage to take risks and try new things and that’s where joy exists. It’s what parenting requires of us – taking risks and trying new things. Empathy might be taking a risk because it doesn’t feel natural and we are going to have to take lots of risks and try new things throughout our parenting journey. It not only makes us a better parent but it also helps us to grow as an individual and that’s where the joy exists. Resources: The Child-proof Parent Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges Where to find Melissa: Website Child-proof Parenting website <a href
Tue, February 21, 2017
Rachel Macy Stafford encourages us to choose Only Love Today
Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves... ::::: Today’s guest is Rachel Macy Stafford, founder of Handsfree Mama, best selling author and special education teacher. We are discussing letting go of distractions so you can focus on what really matters. Join us! “There is no space for perfection in parenting and living boldly. I want to live bravely, boldly, flawed and full of hope.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Parenting and opportunities to choose to be mindful Avoiding getting caught up in the moment as a practice Making a “presence” pledge to yourself Surrendering and learning to let go of control and expectations of mastery or of a certain outcome Raising future adults and allowing space for practice Self-care and the importance of “do nothing” moments The value of physical self-care Resources: Only Love Today – pre-order until March 7 Where to find Rachel: Website l Facebook l Twitter :::::::::: FEED 3,000 LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!! I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!! Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!! So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!! Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event Link Click her to go donate to the Feeding America page . :::::::::: Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves... :::::::::: Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, February 17, 2017
Mindfulness Mini Summit 2017: Part Three with Molly Knight Forde
Welcome to DAY THREE of the Mindfulness Mini Summit brought to you by Joyful Courage! I am thrilled to be talking today with Molly Knight Forde ( Episode 7 ) meditation teacher and guide at the Awareness School . Listen in to learn: What is a meditation practice ? How to create a practice that works for you? And enjoy a 10 minute guided meditation guided by Molly. Happy Meditating!! Click here to check out the newest online offer from Molly! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 16, 2017
Mini Mindfulness Summit 2017: Part Two with Sara Harvey Yao
Welcome to DAY TWO of the Mindfulness Mini Summit brought to you by Joyful Courage! I am thrilled to be talking today with Sara Harvey Yao ( Episode 68 ) author of Drop In: Lead With Deeper Presence and Influence . Listen in to learn: Who is meditation for? What are the benefits of meditation? And enjoy a 10 minute guided meditation guided by Sara. Happy Meditating!! Join me tomorrow as I finish up the mini-summit with a conversation with Molly Knight Forde about creating a lasting meditation practice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 15, 2017
Mini Mindfulness Summit 2017: Part One with Jiovann Carrasco
Welcome to DAY ONE of the Mindfulness Mini Summit brought to you by Joyful Courage! I am thrilled to be talking today with Jiovann Carrasco ( Episode 43 ) from the Austin Mindfulness Center. Listen in to learn: What is meditation? What isn't meditation? And enjoy a 10 minute guided meditation Jiovann designed just for parents like YOU! Happy Meditating!! Join me tomorrow as I talk with Sara Harvey Yao about the benefits and possibilities of meditation for parents. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 14, 2017
Mary Jo Lorei Helps us Bring Back the Romance
Today’s guest is Mary Jo, a coach who focuses on relationships and connections. We are discussing love, romance and intimacy after becoming parents. Join us! “It’s less about the action you take. We look for the action. There’s so many different actions you can take, it doesn’t really matter. The experience is about the connection to your heart. It’s about being connected to what really matters. The actions won’t sustain you or your relationship. Listen to your heart and let that inspire you.” What you’ll hear in this episode: • Finding time for intimacy • The importance of intimacy – finding your why • Intimacy as parenting: part of role modeling healthy relationships • Creating an invitation to intimacy: first steps • Masculine and feminine energy – what’s the difference and why they are both in all of us • Balancing energy to promote your child’s autonomy • Vulnerability, touch and exploring connection • Vulnerability as strength • Relationships take two people, but relating takes one. • Putting up a screen to filter inputs vs putting up a shield • Distinguishing sex and intimacy – moving beyond euphemism • Connecting to “adjust the volume” vs “turning from off to on” – making smooth transitions to intimacy through ongoing mindfulness and connection • Reminding our partner and ourselves of what we appreciate about each other • Resolving disconnection through self-celebration and self-care • How to be curious about identifying and problem solving barriers to intimacy • Engaging universal parenting skills that we practice with our kids • The power of “I’ve Missed You” and remembering the intention • Improving the likelihood of successful connection through celebration and reverence vs. complaint • Letting go of expectations to leave space for what comes naturally What does Joyful Courage mean to you? The fun in being courageous is getting on that super big rollercoaster. It’s not just about death defying acts of meeting demons. It’s really fun to be courageous because it brings amazing results. Connecting those two words is so important because it takes courage to be joyful and how amazing is courage when it has joy in it. It means to be inspired. Where to find MaryJo: Maryjolorei.com Boldly embody life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 09, 2017
Love Note: What is your parenting vision?
Surprise! I am excited to be popping in to encourage, inspire and INFORM you about the how and the why to creating a PARENTING VISION. Listen to this short solo show and then move into action! Our parenting vision is our COMPASS and what keeps us moving in our desired direction within our relationships with our children. Click here for the Parenting Vision Guide. Have a beautiful day! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 07, 2017
Jasen Frelot and I get real about race and racism
Today’s guest is Jason Frelot. Jasen is a community organizer, father, early childhood educator and social justice advocate based in Seattle, WA. Along with directing Columbia City Preschool of Arts and Culture, he is the co-founder of Kids and Race Seattle, which has been featured in Parent Map Magazine and on NPRs Seattle Affiliate KUOW ; the program has served over 500 people to date and rising every month. His various actions around race and social justice have made front page news in Seattle and have been featured on local news numerous times. He has 15 years of working with children in various capacities. “What we are going for here is real change. What we are going for here is a real conversation that is messy. That means diving deeper into that discomfort.” What you’ll hear in this episode: • Racial identity and the inherent problems with color blindness • How we are teaching white children to be racist and brown/black children they don’t have value (even though we don’t mean to) • How to respond to uncomfortable questions about race and social order • Silence and it’s role in reinforcing the status quo • The role of parenting in promoting diversity • Equality vs equity – what’s the difference? • Treating everyone the same and how it perpetuates inequity • Acknowledging the reality of now: the problem with discussing racism as history and other’s people’s problem • Achievement gaps vs opportunity gaps • Fear of being labeled racist and how it detracts from race focused conversation. • Acknowledging racism as a problem in order to address it • Understanding white privilege – situational power, structural power and individual power. • The relationship between privilege and struggle – how they can both be present • Race as an ongoing conversation • Impacts of opting out of race-focused conversations due to the magnitude of the issue and the responsibility to persevere • Recognizing your role in the problem and in how to fix it • The role of media in how our children view the world and the value of other people - what kids see and what they hear: which impacts children more in the conclusions they draw about the world • Analogy and allegory vs. representation and conversation in media • Role modeling respect in our relationships • Consciously exposing children to diversity • Equipping our teachers to have conversations about race • How to be the squeaky wheel about promoting diversity • Silence as violence: choosing to be uncomfortable and vocal to incite change • Handling pushback and using criticism as an access point to empathy as an ally Resources: <a href="https://www.amazon.ca/Culturally-Responsive-Teaching-Brain-Linguistically
Tue, January 31, 2017
Carrie Anne Killeen talks about parenting for our soul
Carrie Anne Killeen is a Conscious Parent coach who specializes in assisting parents in increasing peace, love, joy, grace and ease in the home. After living 20 years with a very critical view of herself and those around her, she realized how much love had been missing from her own childhood. Using her children as her biggest teachers, she learned how to heal her own childhood wounds with love, compassion, forgiveness and inner truth. She is deeply dedicated to creating a more peaceful world for children and parents. Carrie Anne inspires parents to see beyond their children’s behaviors to see the hidden truth and wisdom that lies inside their heart and soul. Carrie Anne is a peaceful, single mom of three amazing and highly soulful daughters. She is currently living her heart’s dream in Massachusetts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, January 27, 2017
January World Changers: Natalie Christensen and Nathan M McTague, Creators of Feeleez
Full-time parents Natalie Christensen and Nathan M McTague are the founders of the Center for Emotional Education , with the mission to neurally empower individuals and families through emotional and strategic support. They offer a comprehensive line-up of courses, one-to-one coaching support, and Feeleez - a full set of emotional education tools. Natalie and Nathan have been working for over a decade helping families and individuals feel better, do better, and become the best possible versions of themselves. Their next mini-course – Forget Everything Else: The 5 Do-or-Die Parenting Concepts , starts February 13th. websites: Center for Emotional Education.com Nathan M McTague.com FB pages: Your Self-Fulfilling Life Parenting on the Same Team The Father Factor FB groups: Teaching Children Empathy The Empathy Hotline :::::::::: Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 24, 2017
Patty Wipfler, founder of Hand in Hand Parenting, teaches us how to listen
Patty Wipfler is the Hand in Hand Parenting Founder and Program Director. Her 40 years of work with parents and children has given rise to Parenting by Connection , a simple but powerful parenting approach that nurtures the parent-child connection. Her Hand in Hand team trains parent leaders in the US and 10 other countries, and offers accessible support for the vital work of parenting. With co-author Tosha Schore, she has written the book, Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges. And Her Listening to Children booklets have sold over 800,000 copies in English, Spanish, and 10 other languages. She is the mother of two sons, and grandmother to three. What you’ll hear in this episode: • Active listening and how it helps people notice how they feel about their own experiences • How being listened to and being able to sort through feelings can help activate problem solving. • The impact of our own childhood experiences on how we perceive challenges in our children’s lives • Parenting by connection and its relationship with positive discipline. • Influencing and using presence, setting limits to encourage better behavior. • How to hold space for your child who is emotionally elevated and let them deal with big feelings • Letting your child feel the feelings and its impact on the healing process • The size of the trigger relative to the depth of hurt – helping your child navigate big feelings • Emotional upset as efficiently releasing tension • Listening partnerships and how they can alleviate parenting stress and facilitate better parenting • Emotional projects: ongoing parenting challenges and how to address them What does Joyful Courage mean to you? Joyful Courage is a human being’s birthright to be joyfully courageous. Joyful courage means to me what a one year old will sometimes do to pull themselves up so they can stand up next to a table or as a toddler is trying to walk across the room it’s like they don’t care what happens, they are just going to try it and they are proud of themselves as they do it. I think it’s the attitude towards life that we are born with, that we get to keep if we aren’t hurt too badly. Sometimes you have to work on hurt to get your birthright back. Resources: Listen: 5 simple tools for meeting your every day parenting challenges Where to find Patty: Hand in Hand Parenting i Instagram l Facebook l Twitter l <a href="https://www.youtube.com/u
Tue, January 17, 2017
Marcilie Smith Boyle Shares Research and Brain Science Behind Positive Discipline
Today’s guest is Marcilie Smith Boyle, a certified positive discipline trainer and certified life and leadership coach who teaches positive discipline courses live and online, coaches individuals and groups on transitions and parenting, as well as life coaching and executive leadership coaching. We are discussing the science and research of positive discipline. Join us! “ The tip of the iceberg is what you can see – that’s your child’s behavior, but underneath the surface so much more is going on.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Emerging neuroscientific research about social psychology informed by function MRIs and PET scans. Principles of positive discipline – looking underneath behavior to build skills for long term better behavior. • Adlerian theory, the foundation of positive discipline The connection between behavior and a sense of belonging How mutual respect informs better behavior The right to dignity and the value of solutions relative to rewards and punishments Intrinsic motivation, what it is and why it matters long term. The social nature of humans and how that relates to theories of the hierarchy of needs The link between physical and social pain and the connection between learning and belonging The impact of fight or flight on empathy, learning and problem solving skills Relatedness, competence and autonomy and the way they influence behavior and feed intrinsic motivation The positive outcomes of met psychological needs in relation to health, creativity, persistence, flexibility, adjustment, well-being, enjoyment, cooperation, engagement and interest. Why rewards and praise sometimes backfire: the relationship between contingent rewards, autonomy and behavior Baby steps to deepen your positive parenting practice The difference made when we get eye to eye with our kids For more show notes, visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 12, 2017
Ask Casey January Episode - Diminishing Defiance
Thank you to everyone who chimed in for this month's Ask Casey episode! I chose this particular submission because I believe it is something that MANY of us are challenged by. Enjoy! From Mama Kay: Defiance. My six year old has recently started saying straight out No's to anything I ask. ANYTHING! I've tried explaining why I ask her to do things and even explain how it benefits her. But it's just no. It's many times in a disrespectful and rude way. I think she is just finding her boundaries and her self confidence but I do not know how to interact with her. I don't want to bulldoze over her feelings or bully her into obedience. But I also don't want her to be disrespectful or be an example of disrespect to her younger siblings. Along with the no is an ability to find something negative about everything. I've had to ask her to go to another room many times because she was affecting her siblings attitude too. I am praying this is a stage but I don't want to break or break her through the process. Tune in to hear my response! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 10, 2017
Talking to Melissa Brown About Blended Families
Today’s guest is Melissa Brown, a blended family podcaster who works with stepfamilies. We are going to talk about blended families and the challenges they face. Join us! “Raising children is the biggest rollercoaster ride of your life.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The biggest challenge facing blended families today Dealing with drama while protecting kids from triangulation The value of a child-centered approach when navigating difficult relationships with exes The importance of self-awareness, love and patience in creating a positive environment for kids. How to use problem solving tools you use with your kids with your exes to improve relationships Learning to identify what you can’t control and how to deal with that The mixed blessing and additional pressure of sibling rivalry on blended families and how to handle it How to empower your kids for conflict resolution in blended families and learning to stay out of it, resisting the temptation to “fix” things Protecting your relationship from blended family drama Bonding with step kids – particularly teenagers – keeping an open mind. Finding an entry point for building connection Flexibility and scheduling in blended families Routines and rituals – creating a sense of belonging Consistency between houses, managing energy and big feelings. Leveraging patterns in your blended family – approaching problems with curiosity Dealing with (and expecting) setbacks and recovering when things don’t go as planned What does Joyful Courage mean to you? It takes a lot of courage to blend a family – it’s not always an easy journey. Joyful courage to me means understanding the importance of finding joy even through the pain in life. Our biggest growth and our biggest lessons always come from hard times. Where to find Melissa: Blended family podcast l Facebook l Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 03, 2017
Dr. Ross Greene Schools us in Effective Problem Solving
Today’s guest is Ross Greene, an acclaimed author and parenting educator who works with kids with behavioral challenges. We are discussing how collaborative, proactive problem solving can reduce parenting challenges. Join us! “Kids have information we badly need. If we don’t get that information we are at risk of plunging forward with uninformed solutions based on what we think is going on. Our theories and assumptions are often wrong. If you get what’s the matter wrong, your solution won’t work. The least fallible source of information is the kid.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The role of problem solving in managing challenging behaviors Why sticker charts and rationing of privileges doesn’t work for this demographic Making collaborative and proactive solutions work for your family Changing your mission: finding out what is getting in your kid’s way The benefit of a skills based approach – coaching skills improvement through problem solving The difference between control and influence Parenting and education as partnering and helping Collaborative vs unilateral problem solving Prioritizing unmet expectations to plan proactive problem solving Getting out of the heat of the moment in your parenting Three steps to proactive problem solving The need for realistic, mutually satisfying solutions The danger of too many solutions Differentiating between a failure and a solution that wasn’t mutually beneficial, realistic or incomplete The messy but crucial nature of problem solving Perfection vs improvement over time – being realistic about goals Focusing on the right thing: learning to focus on the root cause of behavior vs the behavior itself. What does Joyful Courage mean to you? There is courage that comes along with being a parent, a teacher and a staff member and doing something different because what you are finding is that what you are doing now isn’t working. I’m delighted to say that there are many many parents, educators and facilities who have had that courage and they have been remarkably helpful to their children, their students and the children in their care and that should bring them a great deal of joy as well. It takes courage to take a look at what you are doing, think about it, and try to do something differently. Resources: The explosive child Lost at School Lost and Found Raising Human Beings The Drilling Cheat Sheet The B Team – Facebook Group <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/Ele
Tue, December 20, 2016
December World Changer: Lauren Gamble shares her organization, Bibs for Kids
Today’s guest is Lauren Gamble of Bibs for Kids. She helps kids struggling with illness, impoverishment and prematurity by selling bibs and donating 10% of proceeds to causes. Her son was born premature and she was inspired to help others after spending time in the NICU with her new baby. Join us in learning about how to give back to kids in need this holiday season (and every day)! What you’ll hear in this episode: • Life in the NICU – the challenges of prematurity with even a healthy baby, infant health challenges, bonding with other parents facing the same circumstances and 12 long days where time seemed to stand still • Causes Bibs For Kids supports: premature birth, pediatric HIV, pediatric cerebral palsy, childhood hunger, childhood cancer, and autism • Prematurity awareness – the selection of this cause was influenced by her own experiences with her son (who is now 4 months old) and the ongoing relationships she’s had with fellow NICU families from their stay • Pediatric cerebral palsy – the family connection to this challenging disease and how her relationship with her cousin and aunt led her to want to give back in this way • Pediatric HIV – the family Lauren knows who adopted an HIV positive child and how their life experiences impacted her decision to support this important cause • Autism – Awareness of early detection and the need for education and intervention are so key to positive outcomes for children living with Autism • Childhood cancer – 720 kids diagnosed every day in America – why research and awareness is so important • Childhood hunger – a cause that’s closer to home than we think and not just an overseas problem • Customer response to Bibs for Kids, donations and partnerships • The holiday season: thankfulness for good health and a reason to give • Ways to help when you don’t have kids who wear bibs or don’t have babies in your life– donate $5 and have a bib sent to a child in need Where to find Lauren: Facebook I Website I Instagram I Twitter I Pinterest ** Check out the Bibs for Kids KICKSTARTER campaign and make a DIRECT IMPACT on this important work!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 13, 2016
Denise LaRosa shares her children's book, her podcast, building community, and OPRAH!
DENISE LAROSA is the founder, host and CEO of Mom Talk with Denise LaRosa, LLC, a multimedia platform designed to motivate, inspire and inform mothers along their journey in motherhood. Denise utilizes her parenting experiences and background as an elementary educator to bring mothers invaluable information and resources on parenting through her podcast, blog and workshops. A devoted wife and mother of two precious girls, Denise is also an elementary school teacher. She earned her Bachelor of Arts degree in dance (Magna cum Laude) from Radford University in 2003 and graduated from Carlow University in 2008 with a Master of Education degree in elementary education. Empty Shoes is Denise's first children's book. She plans to write many more for you to enjoy. USE PROMO CODE JOYFULCOURAGE for 20% discount on Denise's book! http://www.momtalkdenise.com/book/ Find Denise: http://www.momtalkdenise.com/ Facebook Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 06, 2016
Rosalind Wiseman is on talking about friendship roles and teaching dignity for all
Today’s guest is Rosalind Wiseman, a mom of boys and political scientist who works with teenagers in a professional capacity through an organization called Cultures of Dignity. We are going to talk about the social lives of teenagers. Join us! “Look for your champion moment and step in.” What you’ll hear in this episode: • The struggle to balance maintaining friendships and handle power imbalances and how that flows into abusive romantic relationships later on • Media depictions of relationships and how they impact teenage perceptions of acceptable and normal behaviors • Impacts of the election cycle on teenage behavior and normalization of racism and bad behavior and the resulting need for parents to promote inclusion • How to promote diversity and equal dignity for all by helping your children recognize the difference between healthy curiosity and put-downs • The importance of coaching your child on how to participate in respectful dialogue and redirecting conversations without reinforcing stigma • How to support teachers in a changing political climate while they deal with teens struggling with uncertainty • The role of education in supporting problem solving and critical thinking • Common roles in teen social groups and the associated challenges of raising: queen bees, side kicks, banker, mastermind, associate, bouncer, entertainer, conscience, champion, victim/target, pleaser, the messenger • Helping your kids practice for their champion moment • Backstabbing and the role of the messenger • How to teach your kids that a disagreement isn’t the end of the relationship • How to use and coach the SEAL formula – how to speak when you are angry • The similarities between conflict in teen relationships and video games battles • The difference between bullying and lack of relationship skills • Giving space and listening to boys during puberty • Relationship repair following insights acquired during parenting education Resources Queen Bees and Wannabes Masterminds and Wingmen Owning Up Where to find Rosalind: Her Website Facebook Twitter Instagram LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/ad
Mon, November 28, 2016
Luna Leverett Helps Us get Real About the Holidays
“Your job as a mom is to build a protective hedge around your family and not let them get stressed out and over-stimulated by all the ten thousand things” • Being the magic makers: doing all the things • Creating happy memories not just of the holidays and of parents for your kids • Christmas cards – do you really need to send them? • Managing expectations – fantasy vs reality • Avoiding resentment • How to design the holiday you want to have – focus on the 3 Ms • What is YOUR mission? Separating that from expectations of others • Minutae –picking activities and details that support your mission • Move it – assess which activities that you can enjoy at another time of the year to focus on your mission • Elf on a Shelf – effectiveness as a behavior modification tool, another thing on your to do list • Giving yourself permission not to do the same things as everyone else – peer pressure • Focusing on the things that bring you joy • Taking the “shoulds” out of the season What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Courage to me is head down, get it done, life is going to be hard at times and you might doubt yourself or feel other people doubting you and you’re just going to have to go out and do it regardless. But joyful courage to me is a picture of having chin up, smile on your face, and for me, parenting. It takes a lot of courage to take on the responsibility of raising what needs to grow up to be responsible adults and those little lives are in your hands for such a young age. But you can do it scared, or you can do it with joy even in the arguments and even in the hard times, that there’s always joy to be found. If it’s just the sweet relationship you have with each of these people in your family that gives you what you need to go out and do the courageous job of parenting with your chin up, with a smile on your face.” Where to find Luna: Website Facebook Podcast: Confessions Behind the Minivan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 22, 2016
Laurie Prusso Hatch Helps us Understand Hurtful Behavior in Young Kids
Today’s guest is Laurie Hatch, a “radical grandma” with strong ideas and opinions about how children who can be raised. She has eleven kids, 44 grandkids and has worked in education, now consulting and training. We are going to talk about kids... “If I could teach parents one thing it would be: never expect kids to share. Kids do not share until the ages of 4 and 5 when it becomes important to them to have a playmate who stays with them and collaborates” “Sharing is one of the most inappropriate expectations we have in childhood and a huge trigger. We were taught to be nice and share and that if you don’t share you aren’t nice.” “About the time we start to figure out parenting, we are done” What you’ll hear in this episode: • Exploring the language we use to describe behaviors our kids engage in • How separating ourselves from our children’s behavior changes how we describe and perceive it • Sibling rivalry and how we help create it • The role of supervision in mitigating sibling conflict • What is scaffolding and how does it relate to correcting behavior? • Setting reasonable expectations around kid’s ability to self-regulate: improvement vs. mastery • Child development and how that impacts how sibling conflict plays out • Resolving conflict through curiosity • Naturalist observational report: talking to kids about what happened absent of judgment and assumption • Sharing expectations: why and when developmentally kids share and how expecting it can create challenges • Biting and tantrums in context: how language and maturity impact these phases • Backtalk versus advocacy: reframing sassy behavior • Repetitive behaviors: chances to try different approaches to resolve conflict • Nurturing in the heat of conflict: why it helps and how to do it even when it’s hard. • Solutions vs punishments. Focusing on the goal and expected behavior and being permissive aren’t the same thing, resolution doesn’t need to be punitive • Relationship repair and how to recover fromparenting missteps • Spanking – where does it come from and what else can you do in the moment • Post-conflict recaps: encouraging perspective taking and problem solving • The role of family meetings: connecting rather than blaming • Parenting education helps learn about parenting process • Triggers: why do we have them and what they can teach us about ourselves? • Self-care and parenting – how journaling can help • Problem solving without fault What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Joy is the essence of being centered in truth. Courage is heart. I try to live so my life and heart are centered on the things I know are true. I have limited knowledge so I’m continually looking for that. I draw on my courage so that I can speak
Tue, November 15, 2016
Dropping into Ourselves with Sara Harvey Yao
Today’s guest is Sara Yao, a leadership coach who transitioned to self-employment on the birth of her child. While her book doesn’t focus on parenting specifically, the principles are incredibly relevant to parenting. Join us! “It’s about how often you can be present, not how often you can be perfect.” What you’ll hear in this episode: What is a leader and how does it relate to parenting? The value of presence, stability and connectedness relative to skills competency Impacts of going on autopilot on parenting and family relationships The practice of pausing to break autopilot Reactive tendencies (complying, detaching, and controlling) - what they are and how they develop The way presence and mindfulness create choice in parenting Modeling - how we pass on our reactive tendencies to our kids How to take a “presence first” approach to parenting to overcome our own reactive tendencies Cultivating presence – how to become more mindful “Survival fear,” sleep deprivation and hormones and the impact of an adrenalized state on our parenting How to start small to create more awareness more often to build a habit of mindfulness. Mindfulness, perfectionism and self-compassion: recognizing increased presence shouldn’t create an expectation of perfection Tuning into body sensation to be present and noticing Breathing techniques – “box breathing” to calm you down when your nervous system is riled up What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “I have such deep respect for myself and for others when they are just willing to examine and question – when they do, the liberation that comes from moving out of a pattern or coming to and waking up, that to me is the epitome of joyful courage. Have the courage to look, feel free and at choice again.” Resources: Her book, “Drop in: Leading with deeper presence and courage” Her book, Get Present Where to find Sara: Facebook l Twitter l Her website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, November 10, 2016
Ask Casey: Talking about emos with reluctant kids
This month's Ask Casey episode digs into how to engage our children in conversations about behavior and emotions when they are reluctant to meet us in the conversation... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 08, 2016
Nicole Schwarz and I puzzle out sibling conflict questions from the community
Today’s guest is Nicole Schwarz, from Imperfect Families. She’s a mom of 3 girls, a parenting coach and child and family therapist who focuses on helping parents use positive, respectful strategies with their kids. Today we are talking about sibling conflict. The questions we are discussing come straight from the community - join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: • How to keep sibling conflict to a dull roar with a relationship focus in your parenting • Balancing the desire to step in with giving space for them to work it out for themselves • “Say what you see” approach to conflict resolution by describing it • Role of modeling and coaching for creative solutions • Deescalating techniques to resolve conflict • Understanding the role of neurological development on decision making in conflict • Having empathy for a sense of injustice and encouraging empathy in your kids • Teaching kids that “people get what they need” and how that might be different and lead to perceived inequity • Understanding impulse control limitations and flooding and how it leads to physical acting out • Using proactive practice and play based knowledge to avoid future conflict • How to focus on what led to acting out to avoid shaming while encouraging learning • Exercising compassion around evolving nature of self-regulation • Understanding jealous and resentment around new babies and the needs of other siblings • Introducing the concept of mixed feelings to kids who are too young to have that insight for themselves • Coaching around sharing toys and how to place limits on it – sharing power, soliciting and implementing solutions from your kids • Improving connection to reduce rivalry – using one-on-one time to address your child’s jealousy • The value of shifting focus from our kid’s behavior to our own behavior – recognizing it’s the only thing we can control • Contextualizing power struggles as kids trying to navigate their world • Reframing “bossy” behavior in a positive way and channeling it for good • Changing how we see tattling • The value of redo’s and self care Resources: Brain in the Palm for Kids video Siblings without Rivalry by Adele Faber Peaceful Parents Happy Siblings: How To Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends For Life by Dr. Laura Markham Where to find Nicole: Facebook l Twitter I Her website Learn more
Tue, November 01, 2016
Sheri Gazitt Shares her Wisdom Around Raising Adolescent Girls
Today’s guest is Sheri Gazitt, founder of a company called “Teen Wise” which focuses on teen issues like bullying, perfectionism, stress and friendship issues. She’s a mom of 3 girls in their teens. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Navigating your teen’s confusion and search for identity The “trying on” process teens go through as they evaluate the pieces that form their identity and how to support it The impact of stress, peer pressure and expectations on families Definitions of success and challenges when they don’t align How to support your daughters through their exploration of true self The evolving nature of the “true self” Moving our coaching from “Be yourself” to “Figure out who yourself is” and why it’s necessary Role modeling values but recognizing your teen may not share your values. How not to take your teen’s behavior personally The importance of healthy adult relationships How to maintain a relationship when your teen is pulling away What girls say they need from parents Navigating conversations when your child’s confidences reveal a need for outside interventions The value of leaving space for teens to have emotions Wardrobe and helping our teens navigate a sexualized climate How to keep your parenting goals in sight when navigating challenging behaviors The power of forgiveness What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “It gives me very positive vibes. It means we are happy with ourselves about what challenges we take on and parenting is definitely one of those challenges. It means to be happy and joyful even if we make mistakes, if we fail at something horribly, just to be joyful about the fact that we have that challenge in front of us and we are willing to take it on and give it our all." Resources: Reviving Ophelia Where to find Sheri: Her website l Facebook l Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 27, 2016
October Bonus Eps: Sproutable Founders talk about supporting parents from birth to five
So happy to have the founders of Sproutable.com on the show today!! Alanna Beebe and Julietta Skoog are on a MISSION to be super helpful and supportive of parents raising kids under five. They are on the show to share their offer and what inspires them to work with families. Enjoy! Resources: www.besproutable.com Facebook l Twitter l Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 25, 2016
Raising Boys with Tosha Schore
Today’s guest is Tosha Schore, known online as “Your Partner in Parenting Boys” and a mom of 3 boys. She partners with parents to help their boys thrive – teaching parents to practice self care, connect with their boys deeply to encourage open communication, coaching them to set limits in a loving way and to use play strategically in their parenting. Join us! “My mission is to make a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time.” “Parenting is difficult because to do it well you must look inside yourself; you need to know what makes you sore and what really pushes your buttons. Looking at oneself, really looking inside is a challenge, the thing is, the consequence of not looking at oneself is even worse.” “If we want to guide our children well, we have to first look at our own stories.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The value of getting ourselves into “good parenting shape” and listening to each other non-judgmentally to ease frustration The importance of boys being able to feel their feelings and avoid the “boiling pot” – embracing the body’s natural way to heal from our hurts What keeps parents from feeling like it’s ok for their boys to feel their feelings? Learning to be unattached to your child’s reactions to limits The impact of isolation on the parenting experience Stereotypes of masculinity and how they impact emotional intimacy How to transition your boys from exhibiting aggressive behaviors to being more calm and increasing accountability by reducing fear The importance of not losing sight of your boy’s goodness despite poor behavior Working towards discipline from a place of connection The value of being curious about what’s underneath anger How to parenting in a way that honors the developing brain Addressing off-track behaviors through connection and taking a proactive approach Helping kids handle the pressure to save face Techniques to address separation anxiety How to set healthy limits in a loving way while creating safe spaces for exploration Supporting boys through loudness and recognizing it for what it is What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Working in this life for what you feel is important – being you. Courage means being me and supporting my children and the people I know to be them fully. There’s nothing more joyful than being real and full and who you are and the gift you have to give.” Resources: Positive Discipline – Jane Nelsen Listen – 5 simple tools to meet your everyday parenting challenges – Tosha Schore & Patty Wipfler Where to find Tosha:
Tue, October 18, 2016
Eric D. Green - 1 Awesome Dad Holding Space for the Peaceful Parenting Conversation
Today’s guest is Eric Greene, a father, husband and children’s rights activist. His work through his website, his Facebook group and private consultations focuses on peaceful parenting. As a father of one, his son has inspired him to explore parenting approaches that honor his desire to be the best parent he can be. His goal is to help improve the lives of children by helping parents learn better ways of raising children. Join us! “Peaceful parenting is not permissive, it’s setting limits and boundaries in a peaceful way.” What you’ll hear in this episode: What is peaceful parenting? How applicable is peaceful parenting to parents of more than one child? What does “Growing the pause” mean and how do you do it? Peaceful parenting as a practice and the need for repetition Recognizing peaceful parenting doesn’t change that kids are still kids The role of mindfulness in peaceful parenting How to be firm and still parent peacefully Building resiliency in your kids Mindset shifts in peaceful parenting – moving from trying to control your kids’ behavior to trying to control what’s going on within yourself The difference between peaceful and permissive parenting Practicing no buts” empathy Peaceful “parenting practices The value of “hugging it out” to find a solution Looking for opportunities to share power Common struggles among parents trying to parent peacefully Traditional gender roles and peaceful parenting Supporting your co-parent to parent peacefully The importance of self-care and self-compassion in peaceful parenting How to take baby steps to positive parenting What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “The courage to be joyful. Brene Brown talked about how the most vulnerable state you can be in is joy.That takes courage. It takes courage to be joyful.” Resources: The Intentional Parent Project Positive Discipline – Jane Nelsen Where to find Eric: His website Facebook Twitter Peaceful Parenting Community Facebook group Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 11, 2016
Dr. Joanne Foster and I Explore the Ups and Downs of Extra Curricular Activities
Today’s guest is Joanne Foster, an educational consultant and author of several parenting and educational books. Her work focuses on supporting and encouraging children’s well-being, intelligence, creativity, self-confidence, and productivity. As a mother of two and grandmother of three, she has over 30 years’ experience working with gifted children. She recently wrote an article about the lure of extracurricular activities . It’s a topic that every family has to face and deal with in their own way. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Why extracurricular activities should complement what they’re learning in school Opportunities and demand How much choice should you give your children? The perceived pressure that parents feel regarding extracurricular activities Too much vs. too little Should you ever let a child QUIT an activity? Helping a child pick and choose activities Examples of extracurricular options that DON’T have to be stressful Advice for parents about setting boundaries Why kids need help in developing accountability for decisions What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “For me, it means using my intelligence, drawing on past experiences, acquiring supports when needed, harnessing my creativity, and having faith in my ability to confront changes and challenges.” Resources: www.beyondintelligence.net . Being Smart about Gifted Education by Dona Matthews and Joanne Foster Beyond Intelligence by Dona Matthews and Joanne Foster Not Now, Maybe Later: Helping Kids Overcome Procrastination by Joanne Foster And an article that Joanne was inspired to write after our interview: Too Invested in Your Child's Activities and Performance Where to find Joanne: Her website Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, October 07, 2016
Ask Casey: Thoughts on Potty Training
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Tue, October 04, 2016
Conscious Parenting with Lori Petro
Welcome! My guest today is Lori Petro, an advocate for children and families. Lori is a conscious parent educator and a mom to a young daughter. Our discussion today is around raising caring and sensitive children. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Why a “conscious” parent educator? 13 Principles of Conscious Parenting (from Alfie Kohn) Behavior and Motives: Look UNDER the surface How we make kids be reactive The connection with our child is THE most important thing Children with unusual sensitivities Three areas to understand sensitive children: relationships, stress, and skills Explosive behavior and self-regulation Peace and mindfulness Noisy environments can be overwhelming Skill building Fixing stuff in my life Looking for signals What are they trying to tell me? Be who you are right now Resources: www.teachthroughlove.com TEACH through Love Facebook Page The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 27, 2016
Amy McCready Helps us Teach our Kids Money Sense
Welcome to an amazing show with Amy McCready, back again for another conversation! Amy is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions , which provides online training for parents of toddlers to teens. She was with us in Episode 10 when we discussed the Me, Me, Me Epidemic. Amy is the mother of two college-aged kids and is the author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time and The Me, Me, Me Epidemic. We’re talking about money, and how to encourage and empower kids in their sense of money. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Most of us don’t have much training in money management! Four systems of money management and the problems with each: Money as needed Money as reward Money as payment No strings attached allowance The benefits to the “no strings attached” allowance Suggestions for allowances and kids’ finances Realistic budgeting for kids’ expenditures Tools to use to get kids to contribute around the house The difference in a chore and a contribution “When-Then” statements Family meetings: brainstorming solutions Loans and credit scores---for kids! Resources: www.positiveparentingsolutions.com Find Amy on Facebook , too! If I Have to Tell You One More Time by Amy McCready The Me, Me, Me Epidemic by Amy McCready Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 22, 2016
SEPTEMBER WORLD CHANGER: Grant Gibbs Shares About Hippo Roller Water Project
What an honor to get to share the conversation I had with Grant Gibbs, the executive director of The Hippo Roller Water Project. From the website: "Designed in Africa for tough rural conditions, the durable Hippo Roller makes it extremely easy to collect up to 5x more water than a single bucket, by simply rolling it along the ground." Listen to the conversation, click the links below and find out how YOU can be a supporter of this important work. Where to find Hippo Roller: www.hipporoller.org l Facebook l Twitter Join the cause! Joyful Courage is joining the Hippo Roller team in their effort towards bringing 200 Hippo Rollers to Haiti. You can help too!! Head over to www.hipporoller.org/haiti Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 20, 2016
Sandy Blackard Helps With the WHINING
Welcome! I’m excited to introduce you to my guest today! Sandy Blackard is an award-winning author and parenting coach. As the mother of two grown daughters, Sandy reached a frantic point in her own parenting challenges that led to the passion she has for helping parents acquire tools and tips that bring SUCCESS! She’s here to share her wisdom with us, so join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: How “play therapy” set Sandy on her course What does “Say what you see” really mean? Listening, interacting, and retraining how you see the world Name that strength Acknowledgement vs. Praise The transformation of a rule-breaker Powerlessness vs. perceived helplessness A child’s three basic needs: experience, connection, and power How to negotiate power struggles How to handle whining Downstairs and Upstairs Brain Modeling authenticity Aligning the child in their greatness What does “joyful courage” mean to you? “Courage comes when I’m facing a challenge. It’s a reminder of what’s waiting on the other side of the challenge.” Resources: www.languageoflistening.com Say What You See by Sandy Blackard Find Sandy on Facebook and Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 13, 2016
Back to School With Nicole Schwarz from Imperfect Families
Welcome! My guest today is Nicole Schwarz, who joined me for Episode 39 about helping kids deal with negative self-talk. She is a parent coach, child and family therapist, and the founder of Imperfect Families. All of us parents are in some phase of that back-to-school transition time, so let’s hear Nicole’s thoughts on this subject! What you’ll hear in this episode: The nighttime routine: getting in the mindset of an earlier bedtime Essential family routines for back-to-school The power of shifting from “but” to “and” Urgency is contagious The importance of daily jobs for kids Why kids NEED to make their own lunch Homework: how parents can be supportive and available How to support rather than shame “The bad-kid cycle” How to stick with your kids through emotional blow-ups Why you can’t assume the problem OR the solution Resources: www.imperfectfamilies.com Find Nicole on Facebook (Imperfect Families), on Pinterest (Nicole Schwarz), and on Twitter (NicoleForFamilies) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 08, 2016
Ask Casey: Why Intentional Parenting?
This week I am going a bit rouge and spending time talking about this whole "Intentional Parenting" thing I am throwing around all over town... I share thoughts and feedback from parents who dug deep in the #JoyfulCourage10 program and speak into the very human need for connection and meaning. Intentional parenting is about us, friends. It is about us managing our own baggage to show up better for our kids. Listen in and let me know if you have any questions! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 06, 2016
Creating Special Time with Kelly Pfeiffer
Welcome! My guest for today’s show is a friend of mine and a fellow Positive Discipline parent educator. Kelly Pfeiffer lives in South Carolina and has raised four kids in a blended family situation. After a divorce, she remarried a man with two children, which blended their family with kids of ages 15, 15, 13, and 12. Those children are now young adults, and Kelly has been a parent educator for the last 16 years. Today’s topics include positive discipline parenting tools, focusing on our discussion of “special time,” a way to guarantee one-on-one time with each child to maintain the vital parent-child connection. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: How Kelly was introduced to Positive Discipline: “Why do parents not know this?” Why having tools and a formula doesn’t guarantee an easy parenting road Variables in blending families The Special Time tool: how to present it to parents A magical connection between parent and child Kelly’s advice for Special Time: Plan it and put it on the calendar As much as possible, let it be child-led Incorporate non-competitive games Use bike rides, picnics, and other outdoor activities Limit distractions (Put away your cell phone!) Use bedtime routines Take advantage of time with a younger child when an older one has an activity Take advantage of time with an older child when a younger one needs to nap Have an older child help with dinner preparation How connection helps diffuse power struggles Tools to repair and recover from hurts Why parents need to say “I’m sorry” Don’t give up when a teen is resistant Ideas for saving Special Time money What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Being courageous, feeling the fear, and doing it anyway---with JOY!” Resources: www.thinkitthroughparenting.com Find Kelly on Facebook and Twitter (@posdisparenting) Become a Positive Discipline Parent Educator at Kelly’s 2-day workshop in Greenville, SC, in October Email newsletter: Find out more and sign up for these parenting tools on Kelly’s website! Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson, Ed.D. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, August 30, 2016
Sharon Ballantine Talks Teens and Their Need to Pull Away
Today’s guest is Sharon Ballantine! With 3 children to parent, she turned to books for help with parenting, but she never had the time to read and process the information in the books. So, with no other options available to her, she decided to rely on her own intuition and her own Internal Guidance System for parenting. She began using this technique and the law of attraction to manifest exactly what she wanted as a parent. In this episode, Sharon shares exactly how she made it all happen! Join us! Sharon Ballantine is a Parenting and Life Coach and Founder of the Ballantine Parenting Institute. Her book, The Art of Blissful Parenting, guides parents with practical as well as spiritual advice in raising their children. It also guides parents on how to get into alignment, discover and use their own IGS before they can teach their children. In this episode Sharon also discusses: How to find answers within yourself You have an internal guidance system that begins with your feelings Why leaving the room can help you get “in alignment” to parent Physical movement can be a tool to help bring you into a centered place of alignment Changing the subject that is causing stress and bad energy can cause a shift in energy The teenage years are the years of “personal discovery” Parents spend the teen years in fear mode and resort to using control Whoever a teenager is today is not their final destination. Be patient; they will change. Why we want to avoid making our children feel bad at all costs Staying centered will give you the coping skills to deal with any kind of crazy you have to deal with “This too shall pass” - it is true especially for teens Ways to deal with teen behavior that is harmful Focusing on the future and consequences of actions can allow a teen to take responsibility and look at the big picture How to support your child’s development of their Internal Guidance System Ways her failures as a parent contributed to finding her Internal Guidance System What joyful courage means to her and how it contributes to bliss Resources Mentioned on the Show: The Secret - Rhonda Byrne The Art of Blissful Parenting - Sharon Ballantine Connect with Sharon: Website - sharonballantine.com Facebook/sharonballantine Twitter/LifeCoachSB Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, August 23, 2016
Beth Caldwell on Raising Kids While Living with Cancer
Welcome to an inspiring episode with my friend, Beth Caldwell. Beth is a mom of two, a former civil rights lawyer, and a blogger who lives in Seattle. In 2014, at age 37, Beth found a lump during a breast self-exam, which turned out to be metastatic cancer already in her bones. You’ll appreciate Beth’s genuine honesty about our topic today: as parents of young children, how do we deal with illness, trauma, death, and loss? What do we tell them? How much is TOO MUCH for them to handle? You don’t want to miss this conversation, so join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Beth’s cancer journey from finding the lump until now The feedback from Beth’s frank and open blog: 99% positive Currently, her cancer is in her brain, right arm, and liver New breakthroughs with new drugs The worst part of chemo? Fatigue How to talk to kids with age appropriate language about cancer Don’t hide the truth: share what’s important for them to know Her son’s recent speech about advocacy for better research How to be open and create a safe space for their questions Be mindful: don’t live in fear and trauma Why Beth insists on “planning ahead” How cancer affects your spouse What does “joyful courage” mean to Beth? “Courage is not an absence of fear; it’s being afraid and doing it anyway.” Resources: www.cultofperfectmotherhood.com "The Cat is Out of the Bag" Beth's son finds out she will die of her cancer www.metup.org The Cancer that Wouldn’t Go Away by Hadassa Field I Still Just Want to Pee Alone (series by Jen Mann and others, including Beth!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, August 09, 2016
Jo Langford Talks Porn, Sexting and Social Media
Jo Langford is a therapist and sex educator from Seattle, WA. Our conversation today will cover porn, social media ediquette, and sexting (yikes!). In a culture that is becoming ever more sexualized, how do we keep our kids safe and smart about what is out there? Joe and I have a very candid conversation about conversations to have with our children, while still maintaining relationship and family values. Highlights: Jo has two kids, a middle schooler and an almost middle schooler. He is living his work! He’s been changing the world and making it better since high school. Joe trains parents, teachers and staff of organizations such as the YMCA and the Boys and Girls Club. Harder for kids to NOT see porn, than it is to be ABLE to see it. Families are getting in touch with Joe because their 10-16 year old is looking at a lot of porn parents talk about it and child continues to engage in it. What conversations you can have with your kids when they are noticing all of the opportunities to see/look at porn. When you see porn you can never “un-see” it. Instead of “how do I keep my child from being exposed to porn?” today, we need to be asking, “how do I handle it when my child sees porn?” – this is the reality based on statistic Open conversations are key… Keep them talking, by practicing your neutral face and manage your own stuff when they come to you to have tough conversations. The message becomes “I can handle what you bring me, no matter what. ” What happens in the brain? Kicks up the pleasure centers, big hit of dopamine… If they continue to watch, the brain gets desensitized and wants to get to the next level. Talk to kids about building boundaries around tech. Encourage them to have real relationships, how to unplug, how to manage friends/people who sext. Rules/guidelines around where the phone/screen lives at night… Don’t wait until you NEED the guidelines – put them into place now. “Monitoring” software that Joe recommends – builds muscles of restraint and self control when kids have some access while also knowing that parents will see where they go – “we are trying to raise good grown ups” Qustidio – controlled through wifi – put the browser on kids devices. Controls, time limits, helpful. Disney’s Circle – easy to use, hooks up to wifi, all devices get put into categories (grown ups, teens, kids) and put time limits on use, also over 3G. AWESOME! Best strategy is to put most of the ownership and responsibility on the kids. “Not about me trusting you, it’s about you showing that you are trust worthy .” Making agreements together is key to our kids follow through. The internet is forever! You leave a trail…. <
Tue, August 02, 2016
Deborah Reber from TILT Parenting Talks About Supporting Differently Wired Kids
Welcome! My guest today is Debbie Reber, the founder of TiLT Parenting, an online destination and podcast. The website was the result of parenting a “differently-wired” child with neurological differences. She found it hard to find information and support for the challenges that parents face when ADHD, autism, and dyslexia are the diagnoses. Her family moved from Seattle to Amsterdam three years ago, where she homeschools Asher today. Debbie’s desire was to create a community and a podcast to give parental support and to help kids feel accepted, understood, and heard. Let’s learn more together! What you’ll hear in this episode: Preschool experiences: disruptive behavior and meltdowns Year-by- year education plan Assumptions that others make about ADHD & ODD Challenges of living in Amsterdam The Tilt Parenting Manifesto, based on true acceptance Atypical kids are everywhere—at least 20% of the population Why we don’t need the Shroud of Secrecy Ten Tilts to Shift the Game Amazing response from other parents The Vision? Shifting the whole parenting paradigm When options are limited for “normal” activities, like camp When normal strategies don’t work The benchmark mentality—usually by age 6 Using resources Become fluent in your child’s language The problem-solving approach, and tweaking and tweaking and tweaking Joy in the growth of the child Self-care for parents is important! Asher joins in on the podcast for special episodes! What does “joyful courage” mean to you? “Having peace and joy is something I want parents to have in their experience. It takes a lot of courage to show up and be vulnerable in your relationship with your child and to lean into it. Embrace what is and notice the little things that bring peace and happiness.” Resources: www.tiltparenting.com Connect on Debbie’s Facebook group also! The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, July 26, 2016
Rebecca Michi Breaks Down Sleep
My guest today is Rebecca Michi, a children’s sleep consultant and mother of two daughters. In her work with families over the years, Rebecca found that sleep issues were a common problem. This realization led her to specialize on the subject and offer coaching help to many parents. I’m thrilled to get her insights into this issue—and( let’s be truthful),haven’t we all had some pull-our-hair-out moments? Whether you’re a brand new parent or the parent of teens, Rebecca has great tips to share. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Temperaments and sleep patterns are unique to each person. Rebecca’s average client is 8 months old! Most children need help falling asleep and STAYING asleep. Her philosophy? Support parents in their parenting style Unique family dynamics Sleep: Why it’s a very basic need Sleeping “through the night” is usually defined as 5 consecutive hours AFTER midnight. “Good sleeper” or “bad sleeper” At bedtime, focus on relaxation and physically slowing down. Other bedtime routines can be singing songs, reading books, and quiet play. Negotiables and non-negotiables about bedtime Giving children SOME choices gives them healthy empowerment. Teens’ sleep patterns change (but they STILL need 8-9 hours!) Limit evening electronics and bright lights (use incandescent bulbs) Rebecca shares the guidelines for number of sleep hours needed, from ages 0-3 months to 13 years. It’s normal to wake 2-6 times each night. The goal for your child? The ability to get themselves back to sleep when waking Don’t make sleep or the bedroom a means of punishment! What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “It means going forward on your parenting journey, even when it’s unknown, and trying to enjoy it! Look at it in a positive way.” For more information visit our website here . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, July 22, 2016
JULY BONUS EPS: Krista Petty Raimer joins me to talk about adolescent girls and GLAM CAMP 2016
I am THRILLED to have my friend, mentor and CO-CONSPIRATOR on the show today to talk about being women, mamas, and our middle school girl's workshop, GLAM CAMP 2016! Krista Petty Raimer is the founder of Boldly Embody Life and a beacon of lite and transformation to all who have the pleasure of crossing paths with her. Take a little time to listen in and hear what we are up to and consider what it means to be a caretaker of the daughter you have... :) Check out GLAM CAMP here !! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, July 19, 2016
Sarah MacLaughlin and I talk Race, Privilege and Parenting for a Better World
Welcome! My guest today is Sarah MacLaughlin, a compassion coach, child behavior decoder, parent educator, author, speaker, and warrior for kindness. Sounds like a busy woman, doesn’t she? There is more! She is also the mother of an eight-year-old and is a licensed social worker in Maine. Sarah was a guest for Episode 30, when she discussed Setting Limits. I’m so excited to have her back to help us make sense out of some of the troubling current events in our country. How do we raise our kids to treat ALL people with dignity and respect in the midst of a predominantly white culture? How are we raising our kids to make a better world? Join us for this important and timely conversation. What you’ll hear in this episode: The responsibility of parents today Stop talking and LISTEN! Making it all make sense to kids Implicit bias: What is it? Being rich vs. being wealthy Why we fear discomfort Our hierarchal society (it exists) Finding opportunities for diversity What’s NORMAL? The anti-bias classroom Why we can’t ignore US history Why being “colorblind” is NOT the answer Kids—they are ALWAYS watching! How to confront others and express your discomfort Is your home “whitewashed”? Resources: www.sarahmaclaughlin.com Use Sarah’s name to find her on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and Instagram. Love First: Parenting to Reduce Racism, Sexism, Homophobia and Other Forms of Hate , by Sarah MacLaughlin Laying the Groundwork for Acceptance and Inclusion, by Sarah MacLaughlin Talking to my White Child About Race, by Sarah MacLaughlin 40 Ways to Raise a Nonracist Child , by Barbara Mathias EDITORIAL: What I Said When My White Friend Asked For My black Opinion on White Privilege , by Lori Lakin Hutcherson Thoughts From A Middle Class White Mama , by Casey O'Roarty White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack by Peggy McIntosh <a href="ht
Tue, July 12, 2016
Tracy Cutchlow Discusses Fostering the Growth Mindset Early
Welcome! My guest for today’s show is Tracy Cutchlow, the author of Zero to Five: 70 Essential Parenting Tips Based on Science (and What I’ve Learned So Far). The book fulfills Tracy’s passion to help new parents with information and support as they embark on the parenthood journey. Tracy also writes a blog and articles for the Washington Post and Huffington Post. Tracy and her husband, Luke, live in Seattle, where they enjoy life with their four-year- old daughter, Geneva. Unbelievably, Tracy wrote her book during the first 18 months of Geneva’s life! We’ll talk about the tools and wisdom in her book and the topic of helping our youngest children develop a growth mindset. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: The unusual format in her book that makes it helpful for busy, new parents Development challenges of very young children “How many times do I have to tell you?” Why children follow their desires (even when they don’t follow OUR desires) Our expectations vs. normal development Why parenting education should be included in well-child visits to the pediatrician Behaviors: Why they meet the child’s innate needs of experience, power, and connection Why children seek connection, but will settle for attention Look at their behavior through the lens of their needs. Growth mindset: What is it? Acknowledgement vs. praise: What’s the difference? How empathy fits naturally into the growth mindset What it takes is small tweaks in our language Why our kids NEED to make mistakes The power of teaching kids about their brains What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “It means taking action, but having a lightness and a playfulness—looking for the good instead of the bad.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, July 07, 2016
Ask Casey: Making Sense of Sibling Rivalry
Excited to dig into sibling rivalry today on the Ask Casey episode!! A listener wrote in: My kids - particularly my 8 and 9 yo - feel like they have to compete with each other all the time. Every time one does something/gets something different from the other, they tend to mention to the other almost like a taunt. I think on one hand they want their sibling to be happy for them (like mom or dad would be), and on the other hand, I think they want to show how much more special they are. Even if it is innocent, the other kid will still take it as a put down as if it's expected and react with shock, become grudgingly upset, and whining. It is so annoying and constant. It even goes so far as every question I ask has to be directed at one individual bc they will get upset over who answers first. They will even just smile in a nonverbal taunting sort of way to get the other one upset. This happens anytime of day from when they first get up to evening. It happens at home, in the car, in the store. They don't usually do it if there are other kids their age or a little older around - I think bc they get embarrassed. I've seen them snap out of it instantly. It seems to happen less at bedtime maybe because of routine and parent led family time? When it happens my physical response is to get tense in my face and jaw, my breath gets short, and then I feel tension in my shoulders. Emotionally, I start to feel exasperated. Yes, this is all probably normal on some level and we are working deliberately to include special/individual child led time with each kid. Bugs and wishes has helped bc they feel like others hear them and respect them more. Just looking for the next step to take it to the next level. We don't want to foster competition in our family we value working together and supporting one another. I want them to be able to be happy for their sibling without feeling less. I feel like just writing this out is helping form some ideas to try, but I would love to hear yours as I'm sure mine are not the only kids who tend to do this. (I was fiercely and painfully competitive with my sister growing up). Resources for parenting siblings: Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen Siblings Without Rivalry by Faber and Mazlish Peaceful Parent, Happy Sibling by Dr. Laura Markham Eps 37: Dr. Laura Markham on holding space for siblings to get along :::::::::: Listeners!!! Chime in!! What are your tips/thoughts/experiences around sibling rivalry?? Join the conversation on the live and love with joy
Tue, July 05, 2016
Kate Orsen, Hand In Hand Parenting Expert Talks about Listening for Cooperation
Kate Orson is on the podcast today, and I absolutely love where our conversation went!! Kate's bio from her website: KAte is a Hand in Hand parenting instructor, and author of Tears Heal: How To Listen To Children . Originally from the UK she now live in Basel, Switzerland, with her husband, author Toni Davidson, and our four year old daughter Ruby. Kate has written articles for a number of different parenting magazines including The Green Parent, Juno and Smallish. Kate offer parenting workshops, consultations, both online via skype or in person. I reached out to Kate to talk about getting children's cooperation around chores. In talking to her, and learning more about the Hand In Hand parenting approach, our conversation lead us down the road to understanding how intentional listening and presence with children can invite the very cooperation we are looking for. Kate wrote an article titled 25 Tips for Having Fun While Cleaning Up Here is the Montessori list of age appropriate chores ((super helpful!)) Things to remember when we are hoping for cooperation: set limits lightness play show faith and trust your child's ability listen practice special time More about "stay listening" :::::::::: Where to find Kate: website i facebook i twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, June 28, 2016
Talking Point from the Stanford Sexual Assault Case and the Orlando Shooting With Amy Lang and Jen O'Ryan
Welcome! Today’s episode features TWO guests, Amy Lang and Dr. Jen O’Ryan. Amy is a sexuality educator who helps parents have conversations with kids about healthy sexuality; she previously joined us for Episodes 8 and 33. Jen holds a PhD in human behavior and specifically works with children and adolescents in gender minorities, especially LGBTQ kids. She joined us for Episode 35. These conversations were prompted by the important talking points which emerged from two recent news stories: the Stanford rape case and the Orlando nightclub shooting. Join us for these important conversations! What you’ll hear in this episode: From Amy: The Stanford case boils down to consent: How do we help our kids be smarter than that? Bad decisions and entitlement: a dangerous mix Teach kids about consent: Use the words permission, asking and giving, and agreement. When everyone is “out of their heads,” there is NO CONSENT! Yes means YES. No means NO. Stop means STOP! With young kids, respect their right to say no to unwanted hugs/kisses; as adults, ASK for a hug/kiss. How to use transition phrases to awkward moments “Tricky people” Be explicit with kids about family rules. Plant seeds about sexuality conversations. Teach them NOT to expect entitlement. Amy’s book about dating, to help kids figure out their dating values (See Resources below) Why we need to model conflict resolution for our kids “Yes” girls and red flags in dating—Are you ready for sex? Be open, available, and neutral for your kids. From Jen: With news of any tragedy, it’s better to give kids small pieces of information that they can process rather than overwhelm them with ALL the details. How to “check in” with your LGBTQ kids Jen’s experience in London this week with a drag queen show paying tribute to the Orlando victims Adults have communities and support systems in place, but most kids don’t. The human element of these victims: brother, sisters, sons, daughters, mothers, fathers, etc. Social change is a product of humanization. The verbage to use? LGBTQ, queer, etc. Remember that kids process information at different speeds than adults. Have conversations with kids about safety, dangers, reassurance, and empowerment. The best response is always unity and solidarity. With 5-7 year olds: listen and watch how they play, and make space for them to express feelings. With older kids: create safe spaces for them to talk, and check for signs of depression or social withdrawal. It’s OK to talk about it! Resources: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Dating-Smarts-Every-Needs-Relate/dp/1502439646/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1466997253&sr=8-1
Thu, June 23, 2016
BONUS EPS: Maria Dismondy, Award Winning Author
So happy to welcome Maria Dismondy to the show for my June BONUS episode!! Maria is an award winning author and has written many books for children that engage and inspire them to consider the skills needed to be a good friend and problem solver. She spent time in the classroom before having her own children, and uses her time in schools to inform what she writes about in her books. :::::::::: Maria's books: The Littlest Linebacker - A Story of Determination Chocolate Milk Por Favor - Celebrating Diversity with Empathy Spoonful of Sweetness - and Other Delicious Manners Pink Tiara Cookies for Three Spaghetti in a Hot Dog Bun - Having the Courage to be Who You Are The Juice Box Bully - Empowering Kids to Stand Up for Others The Potato Chip Champ - Discovering Why Kindness Counts :::::::::: Find Maria on You Tube Follow her on Instagram Check out her website Conversation starters from Pinterest Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, June 21, 2016
Taming the Toddlers and Haters with Julietta Skoog
Welcome! My guest today is a dear friend, Julietta Skoog, who is a positive discipline trainer. She joined us as a guest on Episode 4 about Family Meetings . It’s hard to believe that we’re here at Episode 48 now! I’m so thrilled to have Julietta back again so that we can all benefit from her wealth of parenting knowledge. She teaches many classes and workshops for parents, in addition to being a school counselor and psychologist in Seattle, where she works with hundreds of students. Her most important parenting work, however, is at home with her children, ages 4 and 7. Today’s topic is all about Toddlers—raising them and dealing with those around us who might not agree with our parenting methods. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Toddlers are biologically driven to explore the world through visual learning and touch. We need to find a way to bridge between our world and their world. They need to know that you hear them and understand them. Connect with them, see them, and hear them. With 2-3 year olds, redirection and distraction can be effective tools to move them on to what they need to do next. What it means to “get them to the second location” With older toddlers, use curiosity questions and give them a wait time. With younger toddlers, limit their choices to ones that you’re ok with. Mutual respect is essential—even with toddlers! Help them get excited about the next step with PLAY. Use deep firmness and structure. How should we handle destructive behaviors? Speak consistently Model connection and firmness Supervise! Model and help them learn empathy Transitions cause anxiety for kids, so do your prevention work! In dealing with others’ opinions, remember that we’re all challenged as parents; we’re all doing the best we can with the tools we have. Resources: www.besproutable.com (Julietta has video examples and other parenting resources.) Julietta's website l Facebook Join the Joyful Courage Facebook group: Live and Love with Courage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, June 14, 2016
Honoring our Inner Voice with Kris Prochaska
Welcome! My guest today is Kris Prochaska, a former therapist who uses her intuition, diagnostic skills, and ability to read people’s energy. Her desire is to coach women in how to embody sacred leadership at home and at work to listen and live according to their inner voice. Kris was a 2015 TEDxBend speaker and is the author of Life Well Spoken: Free Your Inner Voice and Prosper. She is a busy mom to Anja, 7, and Eli, 11, and is happily married to—and still in love with—her hubby, Mike. What you’ll hear in this episode: Kris began her career journey as a therapist, but tired of focusing on what’s “wrong.” She wanted to discover what’s “right”! Kris approaches her coaching sessions under the premise that the client really does know best. Kris discusses her TED talk experience and the responses she received to her topic: Why don’t we see our kids as equals? Kris shares the irony in her TED talk in that she was not in alignment with her natural energy and truth. The goal in parenting is NOT to control our kids, but to teach them to use their tools to become their very best. Our kids are equally deserving of dignity and respect, but that doesn’t mean there are no limits or boundaries. The parenting attitude should be, “What’s in the highest and best good for our family in the long term?” We should listen to the voice of our kids and let them be a part of decision-making. We’re afraid if we teach them to listen to themselves that they will run rampant. The “little voices,”—do YOU hear them? They seek to make you look good, stay safe, and fit in-- -no matter what. How do you tell the difference between your “little voices” and your intuition? The “little voices” will make you feel small, constricted, and pressured. Your true inner voice is expansive, calm, and peaceful. Your energy shift can affect those around you. What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “When we have the courage to step into that inner voice place and what we know, it takes courage to do that over and over again. The returns are infinite. That’s the blessing we give to the world.” Resources: www.krisprochaska.com Find her on Facebook and Instagram: MessyMysticMama. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, June 09, 2016
Ask Casey: Back Talk
Here is what I got from a listener: Hey lady! As I said in my post, Sheane (my teacher ;)) is really volatile right now, and so much of what she's saying is full of disrespect and sass. Oh, and often high volume. It's driving me nuts. I suspect it's because summer is upon us, and she is worried about the transition, having to say goodbye to her teacher, etc., as she's so sensitive so it's freaking her out. If I say, "Please sit down and finish your breakfast" (she gets up several times during mealtimes, mostly to cartwheel), she'll yell, "MOM! Stop telling me that! I was going to!!!" Or, she's started to respond, "I don't care!" or "I don't have to!" Shaun and I have really been working on our tone with each other and the kids, so I feel like we're really modeling ways to disagree, ask questions, etc., without being disrespectful. And, we've been working on our connection with her, each of us committing to ensuring that she is feeling that sense of belonging and significance. So, I'm somewhat stumped now as to where to go with this. Often she's outright saying, "NO!" or is moaning and groaning about every situation, even when choice and inviting language is used. I did just take the "is your child sensitive" quiz that was posted on the FB page, and she scores off the charts. Thoughts? This child is teaching the hell out of me. So grateful for parents who reach out for support!! Enjoy this episode of Ask Casey as I do my best to share advice and feedback on this behavior that drives us ALL mad!! Back talk video Article on consent – good man project “Our kids are doing the best they can with the skills they have.” What/How questions Connect before correct Get curious about your child’s experience too Offer the opportunity for a redo They need to have the space for you to say “that wasn’t the best way to handle this situation, let’s try it again.” Practice being non-attached (don’t take it personally) “Tell me about that…” and then LISTEN DEEPLY The goal is to help our kids build skills to navigate disappointment in a way that isn’t hurtful to others, themselves or the environment around them. Soothing basket PDF Hold space for them to be uncomfortable and trust them to get to the other side :::::::::: Listeners!!! Chime in with your thoughts!! What are your tips/thoughts/experiences around setting limits for screen time?? Join the conversation on the live and love with joyful courage page If you have questions for an Ask Casey episode, fill out
Tue, June 07, 2016
Dr. Michele Borba and Why Empathy is the Antidote to the Selfie Culture
Welcome! My guest today is Dr. Michele Borba, a globally-recognized educational psychologist and parenting, bullying, and character expert. Her aim is to strengthen children’s empathy and resilience to break the cycle of youth violence. She has delivered keynotes and workshops to over 1 million participants on 5 continents and authored 24 books translated into 14 languages. Her latest book is out on June 7, and is titled Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World . Parents and educators will benefit greatly from Dr. Borba’s wisdom and insights. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Michele has experience as a special education teacher and working on school shooting prevention and bullying prevention programs. Much of the world’s violence narrows down to the primary need of empathy. What is empathy? The ability to “feel” with someone, to step in and understand where another person is coming from. Empathy has emotional and cognitive components. In researching her book, Michele learned from Holocaust rescuers that empathy was modeled for them by their parents, so it was natural for them to care about helping others. In the last 30 years, empathy in children has dropped by 40%, while narcissism has increased by 58%. Michele explains “The Selfie Syndrome” and how it kills empathy. Michele shares the following about learning empathy: It’s a “womb-to-tomb” scenario, so you can start learning at any age. Children are hard-wired for empathy at birth. Infants go through the first step of empathy when they attach to their mothers. Around age 1, emotional literacy begins when a child understands another’s clues to sadness or hurt. The problem today is that children are learning to tune in to digital devices and not to each other. #1 Tip: Teach your child to look at the color of the eyes of the person speaking to learn to “tune in.” Michele’s book teaches activities to cultivate empathy, to listen better, and to stand up to a bully. How to teach children the A, B, C’s of recognizing stress The “empathy gap” of overwhelmed kids Many “self-regulation” techniques are recommended in the book. Why we MUST teach coping strategies to our kids! How to teach them to take care of someone else’s heart Why saying “I’m sorry” is NOT the best option Michele gives some baby steps that parents can take as a starting point to increase empathy in their kids. “Think Big, Start Small”---choose ONE thing to do Michele has “Bully Buster” techniques and skills in the book. What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Joyful Courage is the most wond
Tue, May 31, 2016
Deborah MacNamara helps us Make More Sense of our Kids
Dr. Deborah MacNamara is a brilliant voice in parent education and if was so fun to get to know her on the podcast! Dr. Deborah MacNamara is on Faculty at the Neufeld Institute and author of Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (or anyone who acts like one) She presents, teaches, and writes on all facets of child and adolescent development based on the relational-developmental approach of Gordon Neufeld. She is also in private practice where she offers counselling services to parents and professionals in making sense of learning, behavioural, and developmental issues in kids. Deborah is a dynamic teacher and experienced counsellor who makes developmental science come to life in the everyday context of home and classroom. She was an amazing guest and I KNOW you will be left is awe of all you have learned while listening to our conversation!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, May 26, 2016
Aromatherapy Lessons from Victoria Sexton of Natural Goodness Skincare
In this bonus episode, I talk with my friend, Victoria Sexton all about how to use aromatherapy for wellness. She breaks down what essential oils are, how to use a diffuser, and how to handle it when theres loads of snot and a cough (thats when I typically cross over to the over the counter stuff). I know you will find value in this show and walk away feeling super excited about using aromatherapy in your home. My diffusers been ordered. From Victoria - Antibacterial Essential oils: Orange Eucalyptus Rosemary Frankincense Lavender Peppermint Note: Do not apply essential oils to infants. Use a diffuser instead. For kids years 2 and above use a dilution of 1% of essential oils (6 drops per ounce). How to follow Victoria: www.natural goodnessskincare.com Facebook Pinterest THANK YOU FOR LISTENING!!! I am so honored to have you out there, appreciating the conversations happening here. Please reach out, check in, let me know what you love about the podcast. Let me know your questions. I am here for you!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 24, 2016
Rebecca Eanes talks about Parenting the Sensitive Child and her Journey to Positive Parenting
I am so honored to have Rebecca Eanes on the podcast this week!! Rebecca Eanes is a best selling author, the founder of positive-parents.org, creator of Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond , and a contributing editor to Creative Child Magazine where she does most of her writing currently. Her books are The Newbie's Guide to Positive Parenting which has been a #1 best seller in it's category on Amazon, and a co-authored book, Positive Parenting in Action: The How-To Guide to Putting Positive Parenting Principles in Action in Early Childhood , which has also been an Amazon best seller internationally. Her new book, Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide , will be released on June 7, 2016. You can preorder it now at Amazon. Blog posts and articles by Rebecca mentioned during the podcast: Parenting the Highly Sensitive Boy Disciplining the Sensitive Child Create A Calm Down Area Does Time-In Reward Children? Books mentioned on the podcast: The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine Aron The Strong Sensitive Boy by Ted Zeff Parenting Without Power Struggles by Susan Stiffleman Pre - Order Rebeccas new book - Positive Parenting: The Essential Guide NOW With your preorder you will receive exclusive access to her F
Tue, May 17, 2016
Jiovann Carrasco Talks Mindfulness and Parenting
Welcome! My guest today is Jiovann Carrasco, a psychotherapist in Austin, TX. Jiovann is the owner of the Austin Mindfulness Center , a meditator, and the author of an online mindfulness program called Follow your Breath. He is an engaged and connected father to two young kids and worked as a stay-at-home dad for two years! Let’s jump into this topic of mindfulness with Jiovann! What you’ll hear in this episode: How Jiovann began practicing meditation in 2008, as a result of the anxiety and panic attacks from his stressful job as a therapist at a group home How Zen meditation changed Jiovann and allowed him to connect with himself like never before How does Jiovann define mindfulness? “Attending to whatever arises in the present moment without trying to change it or judge it.” Jiovann explains the benefits to mindfulness in parenting. Why Jiovann took a popular course on Positive Discipline and became a certified parent educator Jiovann explains how to bring mindfulness to even the everyday mundane tasks required in parenting. How Jiovann structures his early morning meditation practice and time with his kids How kids already know how to be mindful and present WAY more than adults Fearful thoughts and worries are what our minds naturally focus on; mindfulness finds ways to shine the spotlight on anything else in the present moment. Jiovann recommends two books: Planting Seeds by Thich Nhat Hanh and Sitting Still Like A Frog by Eline Snel. Jiovann explains the basics of his 6-week, on-demand, online course. See details below! What does joyful courage mean to Jiovann? “Mindfulness is one of the most courageous things to do. It’s intentionally moving toward the fears, and joy and happiness are natural by-products.” Connect with Jiovann: www.austinmindfulness.org (Find information on the course, Follow Your Breath, including meditation audio, downloadables, journals, practice logs, videos, and access to the Facebook group. The normal price is $299, but through the end of 2016, the course is available for 50% off. But wait, it gets better! FOLLOW YOUR BREATHE MINDFULNESS COURSE: For JCP listeners, take an additional 35% off, which brings the price UNDER $100!) --- CLICK HERE FOR THE DISCOUNT! Facebook l <a href="https:/
Thu, May 12, 2016
Ask Casey: Setting Screen Time Limits
A question from Maria… My 6yo loves his ipad and tv, like I'm sure they all do. I don't allow him to play non-stop and he's generally ok with boundaries. My issue is he's always asking. ALWAYS. I'm forever saying no, or later, or ok for half an hour, or after you do this or that. I'm the bad guy when he really wants to and I'd rather he do something more constructive. I'd like to put the power in his hands, instead of mine, but how. I thought about giving him a weekly limit and letting him go free, when his limit is met, no more screens. But how, he's 6 and doesn't really get time management. Plus, school days vs weekends (and now summer) are different. Right now he doesn't have homework, but when he does, screens should be very limited (I'd imagine) and I don't want to break a habit when that starts. On the weekends, in the morning, he gets to play/watch until dad and I get up and make breakfast. Than maybe more later, but it depends on what we're doing. Ugh this is only going to get worse when he gets older. I'd like to set some limits he can follow on his own, so I'm not the dictator. One that won't allow him to be on it for hours. His attitude is awful if he's been playing a long time, shoot that happens to me too! I am not an expert on screen time – we are first generation of parents parenting kids with crazy access to screens, also we are the first parents to ALSO have this access. We are the models Time on the screens is time not connecting with other human beings in our life Root of the problem is disconnection No perfect answer No screens Vs No Limits Lots of room in the middle for skill development, self regulation practice, time management exploration Have a conversation about what you are noticing and invite him to speak into his experience Look at the week and the days – then decide what could work for you, what he would like, whiddle it down to a place where you are both satisfied Blog posts: Earning Privileges Earning Privileges, Revisited No magic number of miutes Comes down to provide an opportunity for your six year old to be a part of the problem solving process We must give them experience for practicing negotiating, offer/counter offer Notice rigidity Showing up with your plan in mind will not be helpful Go into the conversation to deeply listen and be open minded Use visuals so that he knows when screen time is Give opportunities to be autonomous Try the solution for a week and revisit – tweak if necessary Our children are ful
Tue, May 10, 2016
Sarah Remmer helps us revamp mealtime
Welcome! My guest today is Sarah Remmer, a registered dietitian and pediatric nutrition expert. She blogs at Stork to Fork, sharing ideas, advice, and easy recipes for real parents who want their kids to grow into healthy relationships with food. Let’s jump right into this topic with Sarah! What you’ll hear in this episode: Sarah is the mother of three young kids, so she knows the struggle! In her client work, Sarah noticed that the common denominator was the way they were raised in dysfunctional relationships with food. She rebranded and turned her specialty to helping parents raise kids with healthy habits and positive, functional relationships with food for life. Her practice has been thriving, as she is now recognized as a top pediatric nutritionist. Sarah discusses the biggest challenges in feeding kids; if you’re a parent, then you’ve experienced one or more of these! How a recent blog post by Sarah focuses on the “role reversal” that takes place between parents and kids at mealtimes Why kids should NOT stick exclusively with their favorite snacks, like yogurt or bananas Boundaries are important and help create structure. Sarah advises NO short order cooking, NO special meals, and NO snacking after meals. Desserts are tricky! Why you should NOT require “3 more bites of broccoli” before dessert! Why kids are naturally drawn to energy-rich foods like sweets and carbs Eating a wide variety of foods as a toddler will broaden your child’s palate! Ask your child, “How can I make this food yummier for you?” Bad habits CAN be changed! How to involve kids in meals and meal planning Sometimes, kids are truly NOT hungry! Sarah explains your “long-term feeding lens” vs. the short term. What does “joyful courage” mean to you? “Having the courage to start fresh. Forgive yourself for unhealthy habits. Be kind and end mealtime power struggles. Connect with Sarah: www.sarahremmer.com Facebook Twitter Follow Sarah on the Yummy Mummy Club site! The Super Healthy Kids Blog Feeding Kids: How Parents and Kids Often Have Their Roles Mixed Up (and how to fix it) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 03, 2016
Megan Barella Talks about Navigating Parenting as a Trauma Survivor
Megan Barella loves to help parents unlock their parenting powerthrough her classes and coaching programs. As a Certified PositiveDiscipline Parent Educator, she brings a holistic approach to helppeople live and parent in connection with their highest selves."The Getting to Gold Project" is the program Megan is developingfor parents who are trauma survivors. Megan loves to cook, dance,do art projects, and spend time in the woods with her 7 year oldson in the Portland, OR area. Highlights from the conversation: - The stress response systemtakes over- Through awareness we can bring what ishappening internally into the open- Parenting is incredible,courageous work- Dan Siegel, Parenting From the Inside Out - We want our kids tothrive!- BeckyBailey of Conscious Discipline – “Awareness is the first agentof positive change”- Be a gentle observer –awareness + self compassion (( you tubevideo ))- Hand over Heart- Mistakes are opportunities tolearn- Power of Repair- Showing up the best we canwith the tools we have- Our mistakes are notus!! Our patterns are what we have taken on to survive…- Narrative therapy- “I am not defined by mymistakes”- Our body reads stress ASfear- The power of our positiveintent Join the Parenting for the Next Generation community at https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingfortheNextGeneration/ And follow Megan at: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ParentingForTheNextGeneration Pinterest: https://uk .pinterest.com/MamaMegan1/Instagram: @mama_meganTwitter: @MamaMeganBlog Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 28, 2016
BONUS EPISODE: Raffi Talks About Music and the Center for Child Honouring
Raffi Cavoukian is well known for the music he makes for young children... Many parents today were brought up with that music and are now sharing it with their kids. I spent many a day in the car singing Baaaaaaby Baluuuuuga to my littles and am so completely THRILLED to have the chance to talk to him on this podcast!! It was so much fun getting to know Raffi! He candidly shares his story of singing folk music to adults, to sharing songs with children - learn more about him by clicking here . He talks about the deep respect he has for young people, and the fun he has when he gets to entertain them. Raffi is a social activist, and shares about the Center For Child Honouring he founded near his home on Salt Springs Island. The mission of the centers invites people to "be a part of the global movement that views honouring children as the best way to create sustainable, peacemaking societies." And of course, we talk about some of my favorite songs! I am so grateful he took the time to talk to me. Resources mentioned on the show: Center for Child Honouring PDF of the Child Honouring Covenant and Principles FREE download of Take A Breath - a song about self regulation You can find and follow Raffi on his website l facebook l twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 26, 2016
Ryan Hamilton Talks About The Life Of Dad
Welcome! Today’s guest is Ryan Hamilton, one of the co-founders of the “Life of Dad,” a social media network for dads. He is changing how dads are represented in the parenting arena and is helping moms be more effective at sharing parenting tools and tips with their male partners. Let’s jump into conversation with Ryan! What you’ll hear in this episode: Ryan has been a computer geek/tech guy all of his life; he now sees his son following in his footsteps in those interests. Ryan works full-time in the advertising industry, but runs his business on the sides for dads. Ryan shares how “Life of Dad” evolved from a heart-wrenching personal story of one of the co-founders. The purpose of “Life of Dad” is to enable a father to share his story via social media. Ryan became involved in the endeavor during a tumultuous time in his life, when he was going through a divorce, job loss, financial collapse, and depression. Ryan began blogging about the darker side of parenting. Ryan discusses how trends and parental role expectations have shifted as dads have pushed for change. Many new resources and dad communities are making change and allowing dads to have a voice. Co-parenting has changed in today’s culture of divorce; Ryan shares how he and his ex-wife make it work for them. Ryan decided to make the journey to veganism about two years ago, when he was depressed and suicidal. He began with being vegetarian, but then transitioned on to veganism. The “cleaning up” of his diet branched out to affect all other areas of his life. Ryan’s advice to other dads is to stay in touch, never feel alone, and reach out to your peer groups. Check out the resources below! :::::::::: Resources: Life of Dad - Website I Twitter I Facebook I IG I You Tube Ryan E. Hamilton - Twitter I Facebook Dad 2.0 Summit National At Home Dad Network City Dads Group Dad Bloggers on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, April 22, 2016
Casey answers questions from listeners
I am so excited to offer a monthly podcast episode that is dedicated to answering questions from the community. Today, I speak about situations that were shared by April and Sarah, both members of the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook Community... From April: My 7 year old is the youngest of three girls. She gets plenty of attention but seems to constantly be begging for more. What is a healthy amount of attention and how I do I limit it? She constantly interrupts her dad and I whenever we are talking to her other sisters. It's as if she can't handle them getting any attention. I don't know how to phrase a question. She is the youngest child who has gotten spoiled with attention because she was the only one home with me while the other girls were at school. Now she expects all the attention all the time and it isn't fun for anyone. From Sarah: Ok, here is a hot topic at our house! How can I help my kids get along (or many how can I help my son deal with jealousy)? I have an almost 8 yo son who is much more introverted and independent and a 5 yo daughter who is a bubbly, outgoing people person. She gets lots more attention from people in general just because she is outgoing and comfortable talking to people. But my son is also in school all day and she is not yet so we are having some struggles with jealousy (being purposefully mean to his sis) and defiance. It will still be one more year before she is in school all day like he is. I give him 1-1 time but there just aren't enough hours in the day to give him the same amount of time. I have a feeling that their stories, their challenges will resonate with the whole community. Please listen in and let me know what you think!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 19, 2016
How to Shift Our Children's Negative Self Talk
Welcome! Today’s guest is Nicole Schwarz, who wrote an article recently that caught my attention. Her blog is www.imperfectfamilies.com , and the article was about Helping Kids Deal with Negative Self-Talk. Nicole is the mother of three daughters, and is a parent coach with a license in family therapy. She now devotes her work to online coaching and writing her blog. She loves working with families on positive, respectful parenting techniques. What you’ll hear in this episode: The two things in kids’ lives that bring the most negative self-doubt How two kids can be doing the same thing, but one will have negative self-doubt and one will be fine How you may think you are supporting your kids in their negative self-doubt, but you may be doing THREE KEY THINGS wrong! All parents face the question of how much to push them and how much to support them. Nicole has tips to help you connect with your kids in moments of frustration; the key is to find ways to connect with them. As a parent, you have opportunities to help your kids through their negative self-doubt; the key is to help them with important life skills. Links and Resources: Connect with Nicole: Website | Facebook | Twitter The blog post that started it all... How to Respond to Your Child's Negative Self Talk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 13, 2016
Breaking Down Encouragement
Dina Emser is on the podcast today digging into what encouragement is really all about… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, April 05, 2016
Holding space for siblings to get along
I am so so excited to share this conversation with listeners!! Dr. Laura Markham is one of the leading voices in the parenting arena and full of easy to digest tips and tools for parents with kids of all ages! I was beyond honored when she agreed to come on my show... Listen in as we talk all about how to create space for our kids to get along, explore what keeps kids from connecting, and dig into how one on one time with each of our kids actually helps the sibling bond grow. Dr. Laura's bio from her website: Dr. Laura Markham trained as a Clinical Psychologist, earning her PhD from Columbia University. But she's also a mom, so she translates proven science into the practical solutions you need for the family life you want. The founding editor of AhaParenting.com , Dr. Laura also serves as a parenting expert for Mothering.com, Psychology Today, The Natural Parent Magazine, Pregnancy.org, Girlie Girl Army, SheKnows.com, and several other websites. She makes frequent TV and radio appearances and has been interviewed for hundreds of articles by publications as diverse as The Wall Street Journal, Real Simple, Newsday, Men's Health, Redbook and Parents Magazine. Dr. Laura's relationship-based parenting model has helped thousands of families across the U.S. and Canada find compassionate, common-sense solutions to everything from separation anxiety and sleep problems to sass talk and cell phones. She lives in Brooklyn, New York, with her husband and two terrific kids -- now 20 and 24! Resources mentioned: Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids Peaceful Parents, Happy Siblings John Gottman's work with couples and marriage Where to find/follow Dr. Laura's work: www.ahaparenting.com Facebook Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 29, 2016
Looking at ADHD in a New Light
I am so excited to have Margit Crane on the podcast today! She is fun and hopeful and full of really helpful information for ADD/ADHD children and the grown ups who love and work with them. From Margit's bio: Confused and frustrated, people are drawn to Margit’s bright-eyed optimism, her natural communication style, and her no-nonsense, real-world solutions. They fall in love with her humor and compassion, realizing that she is their strongest advocate and biggest fan. Clients feel heard and understood, and they trust her to support each of them, together as a family and, separately, as individuals. She blends an uncanny and authentic understanding of children and teens with adult wisdom and experience, and a long career as a trailblazer in the field of Attention Deficit Disorder, school success, and child-parent dynamics. Margit and I spend time discussion what ADD/ADHD is and what it isn't, when to consider if our child is a ADD/ADHD, and what the steps are to connect and hold space for these special kids. Resources mentioned: Getting Schooled - a free ebook from Margit that helps parents navigate their child's school experience www.wrightslaw.com - articles, legal resources. support How to find and follow Margit: http://margitcrane.com/ Facebook - Gifted with ADD Twitter - BrilliantADHD Pinterest - Gifted with ADD Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 22, 2016
How to support our LGBTQ youth
So excited to share today's show with you! Dr. Jen O’Ryan provides guidance for parents to help them navigate their child’s coming out process, as well as questions about sexuality and gender. She completed her doctorate in Human Behavior with a focus on environmental factors during childhood and adolescence for sexual minorities. Dr. Jen also works closely with other caring adults on developing more inclusive, safe spaces for LGBTQ individuals in the workplace and community. Through years of research and advocacy, Jen brings an extensive background on factors contributing to healthy development during childhood and adolescence for LGBTQ youth. Jen and I talk about the experience kids are having as they come to understand gender and sexual orientation. We discuss the biggest challenges for the kids and their parents, and how we can all be a part in supporting all kids, in celebration of differences, being advocates and allies. Resources mentioned: Jen's website My Kid Came Out Jen's local workshop So your kids came out, now what? - listeners will get $5 off with promo code "joyful" Recent posts on sexuality and supporting LGBTQ youth PFLAG - Parents, Families and Allies of LGBTQ Where to find Jen: Her website - www.mykidcameout.com Twitter - @pagingdrjen Facebook - Paging Dr. Jen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, March 18, 2016
The New Family
I am super excited about this BONUS episode!! I have the privilege of being in conversation with Brandie Weikle from thenewfamily.com and host of The New Family Podcast. Part of my mission for creating this podcast is to expose listeners to parenting resources that I find inspirational and valuable, and Brandie is in total alignment with that mission. We spend time today talking about The New Family, the 1,000 Family Project, and Brandie's experience with podcasting. Mentioned: The New Family Website The 1,000 Families Project The New Family Podcast Positive CoParenting After Divorce Facebook GroupMentioned New Family Podcast Episodes: Eps 50: The Ex Next Door Eps 20: Seizing the Day With Your Family Eps9: Conscious Uncoupling with Katherine Woodward Thomas Eps 3: Parenting a Transgendered Child Where to find Brandie and The New Family: www.thenewfamily.com Twitter Facebook Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 15, 2016
Building Relationship in the Kitchen
Amy Knobler is on the podcast! Amy is a personal chef, mama and Positive Discipline Parent Educator from Pasadena, California. In candid conversation, she shares her passion for bringing kids into the kitchen… Do you love dinner preparation? Are you like me, feeling annoyed and resentful each day when it comes time to create a meal for your family? Listen in as Amy spins a new perspective around meal prep and how it can be a relationship builder AND a time for life skill development. From young kids to our teens, the kitchen can be a place for connection… A place where we can all increase our sense of belonging and significance. :::::::::: Resources: Click here to get your own pack of Positive Discipline Parenting Toolcards Seven Easy Ways to Include Your Kids in the Kitchen by Sarah RemmerCheck out the PDF from Amy with concepts and a yummy kid friendly recipe on the Joyful Courage website ! Where to find and follow Amy: www.cooktoconnect.neta my@cooktoconnect.net Cook to Connect Facebook Group :::::::::: Also - be sure to check out the Calm and Connected Parenting Program through Mazlo. Click here for more information! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 08, 2016
Navigating Two Parenting Styles in One Family
So grateful to have Kelly Bos on the show today! Kelly is a psychotherapist focusing on individual, marriage, and family relationships. She helps people find meaning and joy in their relationships - with themselves and others. Today we are talking about navigating parenting styles in our family. As I say on a regular basis, parenting is a journey, right? Have you started to notice that when we say "yes! I want to be with you forever!" we are also saying yes to the journey of relationship ??? And it's not always easy. We show up with baggage - we show up with our own lens that has been developed through the experiences of our life... AND we sometimes forget that we aren't all looking through the same lens... Listen in as I talk with Kelly about how to be more proactive and forwarding in our conversations with our partners, and build stronger connections with them in the process!! Where to find Kelly: Her website: http://www.kellybos.com/ And on Facebook Articles for further reading: What to do When Your Parenting Styles Don't Mesh by Kelly Bos When Parents Disagree on Discipline by Amy McCreedy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 01, 2016
Social Media and Kids
I love Emily Roberts!! There is a good reason she is called "Guidance Girl" - this woman has so many gifts and wisdom to share... She knows tweens and teens - she has an inside perspective and sharing it on the show. Listen in and broaden your perspective around the online social life of your children. Emily and I have a candid conversation about what parents should be thinking about and how we can be building relationship through navigating this online social world with our kids.... This is a looooooong podcast because I just can't stop talking to Emily!! Resources mentioned: American Girls: How Social Media is Disrupting the Lives of Teenagers Express Yourself: A Teen Girls Guide to Speaking up and Being Who You Are Other articles and interview with Emily: An interview about social media addiction What Every Parent Needs to Know about Cyberbullying Follow Emily's work: One her website On Facebook On Twitter On Pinterest On Instagram On YouTube Let me know what you are thinking!! Join the conversation on the Live and Love with Joyful Courage Facebook group - a crowd of like minded parents do the best they can to be their best on the parenting journey! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 23, 2016
Setting Limits
Sarah is a social worker, a compassion coach, a play promoter and warrior for kindness... How can an interview with her be anything BUT amazing??? We discuss limit setting, brain development and how to navigate our kids emotional outbursts in a way that is helpful and not hurtful. Resources mentioned: Dan Siegel: - Whole Brain Child - Brian in the Palm of the Hand video Where to find Sarah: - www.sarahmaclaughlin.com - Facebook - Twitter - Pinterest - Instagram Helpful articles by Sarah: Easing the Stress of Power Struggle Why I Praised My Son for Threatening to Throw a Bowl at Me How to Set Limits with Kids Without Harshness, Fear or Shame Thank you for listening!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 22, 2016
Exploring Parenting Styles
I find it so empowering to explore parenting styles with moms and dads. It seems as though once we become more aware of our style, our pattern, we become ever more able to move in the direction of who we WANT to be. Listen in as Sarina Behar Natkin, from GROW Parenting , digs into the different styles, their history, and how to maintain a more balanced, connected approach to parenting. It was a fun and informative conversation that listeners are sure to relate to!! Find out more about Sarina and her offers: www.growparenting.com www.facebook.com/GrowParenting https://twitter.com/GrowParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, February 19, 2016
LIVE COACHING: Ending Bedtime Battles
So grateful and honored to have Leisha on the podcast today to puzzle out the rub she is feeling around bedtime with her two young daughters. Do you ever feel like things spin out of control at the end of the day? Do you feel like you swing between too kind to too firm and back again? You aren't alone! Listen in to this live parent coaching and notice where the conversation is resonating with you... We are on a collective journey - lets learn from the learning of others!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 16, 2016
How we help our kids by not helping them
Cathy Kawakami is on the show today and we are talking all about the ways we can encourage our youngest kids to explore their capabilities. Sorry folks, the bad news in a lot of the reason our kids don't believe they can do things is because we spend so much time and effort telling them that - and t hey're getting the message !! Then we get frustrated that our kids are uncooperative or don't want to contribute - it's crazytown!! Cathy and Casey offer a bunch of ideas around how to set up an environment that is designed for kids to grow and thrive, to gain life skills and the belief that they can have healthy control over their life. You can find Cathy at:her website www.middlegroundparenting.com And on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/MiddleGroundParenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 11, 2016
Parenting in the Digital Age Telesummit
Oh friends - this is a good one!! My new friend (and someone we should all have on speed dial), Susan Stiffelman is on the show today talking about the Parenting in the Digital Age Telesummit. THIS IS AN INCREDIBLE OPPORTUNITY for all of us to learn from some of the most AMAZING speakers and thinkers of our time. Dr. Dan Siegel, author of Whole Brain Child and creator of Brain in th ePalm of Your Hand Byron Katie, developer of The Work Rachel Macy Stafford, author and blogger behind the Hands Free Revolution (she has been on the show and is super fabulous) Glennon Doyle Melton. author and founder of online community Momastery Roasalind Weisman, author of Queen Bees and Wanna Bees and amazing human And there are MOREand they are ALL amazing humans - and ALL amazing humans with SO MUCH WISDOM TO SHARE!!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 09, 2016
Middle School "Dating" (YIKES)
Amy Lang of birdsandbeesandkids.com is back on this show and THIS time we are going next level.... We are talking about dating and middle school. You all know that as a mother of a 13 year old, this topic is near and dear to my heart... Amy breaks it down for us, offers insights to contemplate, and may make a few of you a wee bit uncomfortable with her no-nonsense talk about what it developmentally appropriate at this age. The result is a fun, informative and candid conversation that may take you back to your own middle school dating years.... ---------------- 1985..... Awkward boy, "Uh, do you want to go with me?" Me, "Sure." My mom, "Where are you gonna GO???" ----------------- Bwahahahaaaa --- listen in!! Enjoy!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 28, 2016
Carry the Future
I am so EXCITED to share this BONUS podcast with you all!! I had the honor of talking to Alison Soracchi from Carry the Future about the incredible work they are doing, providing baby carriers to refugees in Greece. This conversation is an emotional one, and really highlights how meaningful a small gesture from one human being to another can be... Alison shares stories about the work volunteers are engaged in here in the states, and paints a picture of how the volunteers on the ground in Greece are living the vision. Just listen. No doubt you will be inspired :) You can find out more about Carry the Future at www.carrythefuture.org You can find out more about Operation Refugee Child at https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/operation-refugee-child-carry-the-future-mission#/ Find Carry the Future on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/carrythefuture On twitter at https://twitter.com/carry_thefuture Joyful Courage will be teaming with Grow With Me Boutiqueto run a baby carrier drive in February Locals can drop off new or gently used carriers to Grow with Me Boutique here in Monroe any time during the hours of operation. OR listeners can send carriers or supplies for Operation Refugee Child to the drop off center through Carry the Future ( click here for details on where to send - and click "donate") Be sure to write a little note that you are participating in the Joyful Courage Baby Carrier Drive so we can keep track of the impact of our community!! Thank you for listening!!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 26, 2016
Raising Attached Babies with Ariadne Brill
Ahhhh, babies. We spend so much time preparing for their arrival and then BAM - they totally turn our world upside down and we can't remember WHY we ever though parenthood was a good idea. Hahaha, well, maybe that wasn't exactly your experience. Ariadne Brill, parent educator, writer and the force behind the insanely helpful and popular website, Positive Parenting Connection, has returned to the podcast this week to dig into raising babies with a healthy attachment. This conversation is so useful for parents who are living and loving the smallest and newest among us... Listen in for tips on connecting and creating the very beginnings of a foundation for empathy and compassion. If you have friends or family that are expecting a new baby, or have recently been blessed with one, pass this show on to them - they will thank you!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, January 22, 2016
Parent Talk
It was so fun to have the chance to speak one on one with a listener about the challenges she is facing with your your son. Listen in and notice how universal some of the feelings and thoughts are that you hear Stephanie speak into... The parenting journey is a collective experience. You are not alone! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 19, 2016
Navigating Power Struggles
Who doesn't get into power struggles with their kids??? Listen in as Debbie Zeichner, LCSW and parent coach, and I discuss the triggers for power struggles and how to navigate them in a way that leaves your kids with MORE skills and MORE likely to cooperate. Sound good? Check out Debbie's website : www.debbiezeichnerlcsw.com And like her facebook page: www.facebook.com/debbiezeichnerlcsw Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, January 11, 2016
Moving past our story to be a more conscious parent
This podcast interview is a long one, because the conversation was just that good. Listen in as I talk with Denise Dryden, integrative coach, about how we can shed the stories and emotional baggage we show up to parent with so that we can be conscious and available to the child we find in front of us. One of my favorite quotes from the conversation is Denise encouraging parents to think about in regards to their children, "what do I see that is unique and different, and how do I let them lead me into the future?" She is a wise woman and it is my honor to know her! Here are some links mentioned in the podcast: Brandy Carlile - The Eye Denise's website - www.denisedrydencoaching.com Denise's Ecourse - Parenting the New Earth's Children Follow Denise on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 29, 2015
Decide to Rise in 2016 SHORT SOLO SHOW
I love you people!!! Thank you so much for all you have given me in 2015. This show is short and sweet today, as I know you have things to do and people to see (as do I). I announce the winners of the Subscribe-A-Thon Giveaway (finally)!! I share a poem from Danielle LaPorte's Desire Map. I invite you to let go of what brought you down in 2015 and invite in what you want for 2016. Enjoy!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, December 24, 2015
Christmas Eve Solo Show
Hellooooooo Friends!!! Merry, merry, happy, happy... Hoping this podcast finds you well and joyful. Listen in to hear some exciting news about the year to come, details about how to be a part of the giveaway, and inquiry about how YOU will make e2016 the BEST YEAR for YOU! Big huge love to all of you.... Honored you are out there listening and supporting and celebrating all we can do to make the world better!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 15, 2015
How to stay sane and ENJOY the holidays!
Amanda Rue, the force behind the popular blog, Dirt and Boogers, is on the podcast today. She has created a FABULOUS resource for parents around how to bring more calm and connection to the holiday season. I don't know about you, but this came at the perfect time for me! Resources mentioned: Check out Amanda's Ebook, Take the Chaos out of Christmas , by clicking here. Mama's Anger Management cCourse The Stop Yelling Challenge on Facebook Where to follow Amanda: Her blog/website www.dirtandboogers.com Dirt and Boogers on Facebook Dirt and Boogers on Instagram Dirt and Boogers on Pinterest Dirt and Boogers on Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 08, 2015
Autonomy-Supportive Parenting and how to empower our kids by letting them fail
Such a great conversation! Jessica Lahey is smart and funny and real when it comes to talking straight up about how we rob our kids of their future when we protect the from failure... It doesn't matter if they are in the sandbox or a high school classroom, our kids only learn the tools for relationship, empathy and resiliency when we (parents) allow them the gift of discomfort, making mistakes and yes, failure. Listen in to this candid conversation and consider where you could pull back a bit, where you could allow your kids a little bit more room to learn from their missteps, to own when they've hurt someone, to problem solve it when they've left their homework or lunch at home (again!)... We all love our kids, we want them to grow into the fullest, best versions of themselves, sometimes that requires us to back off and let them figure some things out... You may be surprised by just how capable they are! Mentions: The book: The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey The article in the Atlantic that started it all: Why Parents Need to Let Their Children Fail Why Back to School Night Made Me Feel Like a Bad Mom Glennon Doyle Melton on momastry.com How to Raise and Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims The Price of Priviledge by Madeline Levine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 01, 2015
The Duck With No Legs
OMG. I can't believe how great it is to be a podcaster!! For today's show, I interviewed one of my oldest friends!! How lucky am I??? This conversation, with Jessica Prentice, is all about her book The Duck With No Legs and all of the underlying themes and messages that show up in the sweet, heart warming story. We get into all sorts of discussions in this show - from spirituality, to overcome perceived disabilities, to living with the discomfort of not being the child we think our parents want us to be (not to mention parenting a child who marches to the beat of his own drum)... You are going to love this show! I do say "asshole" one time, so I marked the episode as explicit - sorry about that. :) Mentions/Resources: I bring up Nick Vujicic - a parapalegic motivational speaker who has an incredible spirit and message for the world. You can find him at www.lifewithoutlimbs.org or watch his youtube video about Never giving up by clicking here. Click here to get a copy of The Duck with No Legs from Amazon . Check out Jessica's graphic design work at www.sillybird.com Find Jessica on Instagram @sillybird Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, November 26, 2015
THANKSGIVING SUBSCRIBE-A-THON
Hey hey!!! Thank you so much for playing and being willing to subscribe to the show - I value you and am honored that you find value in what I put out into the world!! Here are the deets of the giveaway: I have super cute Joyful Courage SWAG to give away!! I can't figure out how to post pics here, but I will put them up on the Live and Love with Joyful Courage facebook group page. I have FOUR shirts and FOUR hats to giveaway - The shirt is baseball style with red arms and the Joyful Courage logo on the front. The hat is a trucker style green hat with a white front and the JC logo. I have TWO Center Parenting Ecourses to giveaway - This is an online course that you receive over the course of five weeks. Included each week are videos, audio meditation and workbooks that teach the positive Discipline concepts and guide you towards finding your most centered, authentic self while on the parenting journey. It's awesome! Learn more here . And finally, I am giving away a 3 month coaching package - This is the GRAND PRIZE and I am super excited to offer it up to one lucky winner! The 3 month coaching package is two hours of coaching a month, which can either be broken up into 2 monthly one hour sessions, or four monthly half hour sessions. You will have access to me via text and email between sessions as well... This offer is a POWERFUL way to really deepen your practices and accountability towards being the parent and the human you want to be. Learn more here . To qualify for ALL of the offers, please head on over to itunes and write a review for the podcast. This link will help you figure out how to do it from your iphone or ipad: http://www.imore.com/how-rate-or-review-podcast-your-iphone-or-ipad If you use an android device, you will need to access itunes through your computer and directions for doing that can be found here: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/joyful-courage-parenting-podcast/id996079418?mt=2 To qualify for the swag (shirts and hats) and the ecourse, please leave a FIVE STAR RATING on iTunes. Use the link above to do this, the difference being that you don't write a review - just leave the stars :) To qualify simply for the swag, shoot me an email at casey@joyfulcourage.com and let me know what your favorite episode of the podcast is and why OR why you LOVE the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast!! Oh man, hopefully that isn't too complicated --- let me know if you have any troubles and I will be happy
Tue, November 24, 2015
How to talk about the violence in the world with our kids
There are a few things that are tough to talk about with our kids. One of the toughest, I think, is talking about the violent things that happen in the world... My guest today on the podcast is Dr. Monica Holliday Sherman. Monica is a psychotherapist in private practice in Chicago, and she completed her doctorate in clinical psychology at The Adler School of Professional Psychology, with a concentration in childhood and adolescence. She is a Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, and she regularly facilitates parenting classes in the Chicago community. You can find her on Psychology Today here. She is also my friend, and someone I trust to speak to this topic from a very thoughtful, experienced place... As tough as this conversation is, it is important for parents to be talking to their kids about the state of the world. AND, as a community of parents, it is equally as important to get support from each other about how to best support our kids. My hope is that this show does just that. Resources mentioned in the interview: Video of father reassuring his young son that France is their home. Purple Wagon - "A site for people interested in parents and children, and their explorations and discussions around war, terrorism and peacemaking." Loads of resources for parents here. Helping Children Feel Safe in an Unsafe World by Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD Other resources: Talking With Children About Disaster also by Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD Talking with Children About Tragic News Stories by Ariadne Brill of Positive Parenting Connection Terrorism and children:Tough Conversations that Matter by Marilyn Price-Mitchell, PhD or Roots of Action Explaining Terror to Kids is a NY Times article that covers a French newspaper for kids and how they are engaging in real conversations with kids about the attacks And more suggestions from Monica: Books are my go-to when I'm wanting to extend any of these "big" topics into ongoing conversations with my kids. Here are a few to read WITH your kids, relevant to what's going on in
Tue, November 17, 2015
How to make SLEEP happen
This conversation landed close to my heart... While my kids are now sleeping in their OWN beds, in their OWN rooms, ALL NIGHT LONG , that was not always the case. And while my nighttime parenting choices weren't always the same as everyone else, they didn't follow the mainstream advice, I did the best I could for my babies... The thing I really love about Alanna and her approach to supporting parents with sleep, is her willingness to meet parents where they're at. She really believes in the idea that there is a right approach for each family, and that it is going to be related to what works in each family... As any parent knows, there is no one size fits all here... AND it is possible to help your child, and yourself, get better sleep. Listen in! Where to find Alanna - www.goodnightsleepsite.com www.facebook.com/goodnightsleepsite www.twitter.com/GNSleepSite http://pinterest.com/gnsleepsite Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 10, 2015
Connective Parenting
What a great time I had talking to Bonnie Harris of Connective Parenting! She is so full of wisdom and insight... Which wasn't surprising AT ALL to me :) I have been following Bonnie's work for years - drawn to her gentle, logical style and advice. I subscribed to her newsletter list and read her books and often am known to quote her in my parenting classes. This lady is for real. AND I am honored to share our conversation with you!! Click on the links below to follow Bonnie: www.bonnieharris.com www.connectiveparenting.com facebook.com/connectiveparenting twitter.com/harrisparenting Big love to you all and happy parenting!!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 03, 2015
The voices in my head...
This solo show is my own download around how resistance has been showing up in my life and what I am learning from it. We all have those voices, right? The one that says to us, "who cares, do what you want..." and the other that speaks from our soul and reminds us of who we really are.... Yeah, I dig into that. I talk about my friend, Molly Knight Forde who is BRILLIANT and my guest on Episode Seven ... I mention the book, Seven Thousand Ways to Listen by Mark Nepo (its super fabulous). It's the world according to me, and I invite you to come on in and stay awhile. Let me know what you think, and if you are enjoying these solo rambles or not (I hope you are, because they are really fun to record). Big huge love to you all!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 27, 2015
Self Care Challenge
How much do I love this week's guest???? TRUCK LOADS! She is my friend and teacher, she inspires and coaches people all over the planet, AND she has taken time to sit down and puzzle out the self care challenges that SO MANY parents face. I know you know what I'm talking about because you share it with me all the time - there is no time to take care of myself... I feel guilty... time for me is at the bottom of the list.... I am telling you - not only have I HEARD it all, I have also EXPERIENCED all of these limiting thoughts and beliefs and allowed them to keep me from engaging in what is one of the most important pieces of parenting - SELF CARE. You will love the conversation I had with Krista. Listen in and let me know what you think!!! You won't be able to get enough of her!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 20, 2015
SOLO SHOW: Recognizing our patterns and thinking tree
Inspired by the mamas currently enrolled in the Raising Siblings Ecourse - this is a deep dive into why I always begin my work with parents by inviting them to pay more attention to how they respond physically and emotionally to their kids behavior. Once we recognize the way our body responds, we can begin to do the work of teaching it a new way of being. Listen in! ** This is marked explicit because I say "pissed" and "bullshit" - so heads up for that! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 13, 2015
Teen Assertiveness
I was introduced to Emily Roberts on a Facebook group for parent educators that I belong to... I knew right away that I wanted to know more about her when she introduced herself and shared about her work with tween and teen girls... I bought her book, Express Yourself , and quickly realized that this woman is LEGIT! This book, which I am currently reading out loud to me seventh grade daughter is PACKED with so many nuggets of wisdom for our girls... Not only that, I am finding that I am learning so much from the tips and advice that Emily shares... In this podcast interview, Emily and I discuss her book, plus the importance of supporting our girls in growing their assertive muscles... We touch on friend drama, social media dos and don'ts, as well as why knowing the outcome you want is the first step to actually getting there. Emily is a dream. I think you will enjoy the conversation as much as I did! Follow Emily: On her website at theguidancegirl.com On Facebook at Guidance Girl On Twitter at @GuidanceGirlEm On Instagram at @GuidanceGirlEm On Pinterest at Guidance Girl On You Tube at The Guidance Girl Channel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 06, 2015
Finding Grace in New York
I had an amazing experience with 49 other women at a workshop in New York... When I shared about it on social media, the request was made that I share more on the podcast. So here you go. I am so grateful for the journey I am on... So grateful to be alert and alive and awake to all the possibilities that exist in my life. So grateful for the teachers and the opportunities that have come my way.... Thank you for listening in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 29, 2015
Parenting to your child's temperament
It was such a pleasure to have Katie Hurley on the show! I have been sharing her work on the Joyful Courage Facebook page for a long time and speaking to her about her new book confirmed what I had come to believe as a reader of her writing; she is a thoughtful, brilliant voice in the parent education community. Katie's new book, The Happy Kid Handbook is an amazing tool for parents to learn how to meet their kids where they are at, temperamentally. Her work reminds us that the need to get to know our kids is vital in creating an environment where they can excel, both socially and emotionally. Being an extrovert raising kids that fall across the extrovert/introvert spectrum, I was excited to dig into this with Katie. I know that you are going to love listening in to the conversation too!! Visit her website: www.practicalkatie.com Follow Katie: Instagram: @katiefhurleyFacebook: Practical Parenting by KatieTwitter: @katiefhurley Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 15, 2015
STOP YELLING
I am really excited to have Andy Smithson, of TRU Parenting , back on the podcast! He was my very first guest and a parent educator that I have been following for a while now. There are a lot of things I like about Andy, I think it is so refreshing to have a Dad's voice speaking into the parenting experience. His blog posts and articles are always so helpful and full of tips and tools that can be put into action right away. He has lots of kids so I KNOW he is in the practice of walking his talk, and that always scores a lot of points with me... Today we are talking about yelling. Ugh. Yelling is the worst - it makes our kids feel bad and it leaves US feeling bad and so unskilled. Andy has an ecourse that is starting the beginning of October... I have so much faith in this program that I am an affiliate of the program (meaning: I get a kickback when you sign up through me). So listen up and soak in the zen vibes of Andy Smithson. Here are some links to the resources mentioned on the show: Boundaries by Henry Cloud Andys Quick Calm Technique - FREE DOWNLOAD Super Better by Jane McGonigal 21 Day Stop Yelling Coaching Course - Sign up now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, September 01, 2015
Living the Hands Free Life
“I am an ordinary person living in the same distracted culture that everyone else is living in…” And that is exactly what is so inspiring about Rachel Macy Stafford. She is an ordinary person whose work is making an extraordinary impact on parents from around the world. Most of us found her through her blog, www.handsfreemama.com - her writing drew us in and touched our soul. We also joined her Hands Free Revolution on Facebook , to be even more connected to her and the community space she has created. Because there is something really special about this ordinary person. I am thrilled to be interviewing her on the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast. Honored that she was willing to take the time to talk to me and share her journey, her vulnerability and her wisdom. Her new book, Hands Free Life: 9 habits for overcoming distraction, living better & loving more is full of nuggets that will bring you to your knees. So, so good. Listen in… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, August 28, 2015
SOLO PROMO: Learn about the TRU Parenting Stop Yelling in 21 Days Coaching Course
Andy's the man!! He has helped so many parents find their calm and move forward in solid relatinship with their family. This "solo promo" is designed to get the word out about his latest offer for parents. Click on this link to go straight to the sales page for more INFO and to REGISTER :) bit.ly/stopyelling21daysjc Knowledge is power, people!! Empower your parenting!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, August 17, 2015
Ending Entitlement
August 11th Amy's latest book cam out, The Me Me Me Epoidemic: A Step by Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over Entitled World Amy McCready is a Parent Education MACHINE! She has an amazingly popular Facebook community, and offers so many Inspired by the work of Alfred Adler… “The biggest difference comes when we change ourselves.” Certified in Positive Discipline Shout out to the recovering yellers!! “...I love working with parenting and helping them bring out the best in themselves.” Adlerian theory- strategies are based on respect, respect for the child and respect for the parent… All human being have a hardwired need for belonging and significance. We need to feel connected – to family, classroom, community. I need to make a difference, feel like I matter… Behavior is goal directed – always take it back to the child’s sense of belonging and/or significance.. Getting to the bottom of this is what lasts long term. Get below the surface! Connection without Entitlement?? It’s messy…. The book begins with Mind, Body, Soul Time… Spending one on one time and attention with your kids, where you are fully present, mind, body and soul. You are fully present. Can be 10 or 15 minutes – this contributes “buckets” to belonging and significance to our kids. Powerful opportunity for connection. Create an environment that allows kids to learn that their actions and choices have outcomes - some positive, some negative. Entitled kids aren’t connected to outcomes. Focus on - What went wrong? What can we do different next time? Natural Vs Logical Consequences… “Solutions are always consequences, consequences are not always solutions.” - Jody McVittie They’re not helpless!! Take a step back – what are you currently doing for your kids that they are perfectly capable about doing for themselves? There is a balance between helping each other out and when you are consistently doing things for them that they could be doing themselves… Back off, little by little. Biggest mistake that is feeding into the entitlement epidemic? Smoothing their way --- smoothing out all their potential obstacles to keep out kids from experiencing discomfort. Does not give them the opportunity to develop resiliency. What is a baby step for creating change for parents who recognize their have been contributing to the entitlement of their kids? Shift responsibility for one or two things…. Thank you Amy!! Find Amy and her offers online: www.amymccready.com ww
Thu, August 06, 2015
Whose problem is it? Joint problem solving with kids
Such a great conversation with Marcille Smith Boyle !! Solving problems with our kids is no joke and such an important way to teach life skills. Marcille breaks down the task in a way that gets parents excited to practice!! She is full of information and real life stories that I know will be inspiring and helpful to you – Enjoy! Marcille studied the work of Ross Green – Lost at School The Explosive Child He writes and teaches about Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) – involving kids in solving their own behavior challenges Parents tend to think it’s our job to solve our children’s behavior challenges… Truth is, our kids can be awesome problem solvers – yay! The brain likes it’s own ideas best!! David Rock – Neuro Leadership Group CPS has 3 main steps – - Empathize gather info from child – from their point of view- Define the problem- Brainstorm solutions together with your child. Most powerful part --- not necessarily the process, but how we shift perspective about how we look and think and feel about behavior challenges…. Recognizing that behavior is a sign of something deeper that is going on. “Most helpful when we can focus that deeper thing, rather than just the behavior itself.” Your child’s behavior is not the problem – What’s the problem, THE PROBLEM! (I love that) The problem is always underneath the surface… “Kids do well if they can.” – Ross Green Example: Child won’t turn in his homework. What’s the problem? Lacking organization skills and some auditory challenges… The solution is brainstormed with child and addresses these problems and the homework situation shifts (solutions are helpful ) Consequences don't necessarily teach skills… What are the lacking skills behind the behavior? P.E.S.O.S. (Marcille's Problem Solving Recipe) Combines principles of Ross Green’s work, with Positive Discipline and How to Talk so Kids will Listen and How to Listen so Kids will Talk Prerequisite: You and your child must be level headed - calm, in a good place emotionally When intensity is high, communication and problem-solving skills
Mon, July 20, 2015
Talking Birds and Bees and Kids
What a GIFT to have the opportunity to interview Amy Lang of Birds+Bees+Kids! We had a great time discussing what to be talking about with our kdis when it comes to bodies and sex and staying safe... Nothing is off limits here - from where babies come from to blow jobs to birth control --- listen in and get informed and then TALK TO YOUR KIDS! Like Amy says, being INFORMED is being EMPOWERED to make smart choices! LISTEN IN NOW!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 06, 2015
Meditative Parenting
Listen in on this great conversation that I had with Molly Knight Forde about the journey to meditation and how it can change everything when it comes to the parenting journey... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 08, 2015
The Safety Talk
Podcast with Kim Estes Intro – music feedback? Mention speakpipe Kim Into with Family – two daughters, middle/high schoolers Savvy Parents Safe Kids www.savvyparentssafekids.com Patty Fitzgerald - Safely Ever After Lots of strategies… not just “this is what you do in the moment” Being home alone… 2 tips: Don't open the door, acknowledge the door – In a strong voice: “Who is it?” followed by, “I can’t help you…” and walk away. Know what to do if there is a fire – Get out of the house and use a neighbors phone to call 911 Practice!! Talking about having an “out” for sticky situations… Teach your kids language to use and practice the language… Free range in the world is safer than free range online. The internet is a place, not a thing…. Safety radar isn’t quite as tuned in…. PDF of Super 10 Rules For Safety Don’t scare them, it's not helpful “Family” safety rule Check in – make it a family thing Lead by example Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 05, 2015
Talking Tweens
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Thu, April 09, 2015
Family Meetings
This was such a fun conversation with my dear friend and colleague, Julietta Skoog. She is such a powerful model for what it looks like to parent small children with Positive Discipline - I love watching her in action! PLUS, she has been doing Family Meetings with her girls since the youngest was in a highchair!!! Listen in and let me know what you think! You can find more information on Julietta at www.juliettaskoog.com You can find more about the Family Meeting Ecourse I mention at the end of the course by clicking here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 09, 2015
Solo Show
This is a solo show, meaning, it's just me. Listen in as I share what my purpose is and how I want to make a difference in YOUR world! Get an inside look at why I am passionate about this work and what fuels me to keep sharing it with you.... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 08, 2015
Making Agreements
What a gift it was to spend time talking to Ariadne Brill of Positive Parenting Connection ! We dug into how making agreements with our kids helps them to develop a sense of trust and capability - while strengthening our relationship with them along the way. Ariadne has some great ideas around how to bring more ease to mealtimes and shares some resources for parents for teaching and modeling self regulation. Resources for listeners: Check out Ariadne's book on Amazon - Twelve alternatives to time out From Positive Parenting Connection - A post about creating a Chill-Out Corner with your child The latest Joyful Courage post around making agreements - What was our agreement? Find Positive Parenting Connection on Facebook , Pinterest , and Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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