Feminist Survival Project
A podcast for feminists who feel overwhelmed and exhausted by everything they need to do, and still worry that we're not doing enough - hosted by Emily and Amelia Nagoski, authors of BURNOUT: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle.
S2 E16 · Tue, April 22, 2025
Understanding Disability Etiquette
Amelia leads this week, reflecting on what it’s like to be disabled in public. They’ve got some really helpful rules for everyone who wants to help. tl;dr When it comes to helping, ask first. And listen to what they need. There’s a bit of Disney, too.
S2 E15 · Thu, April 03, 2025
The Art and Science of Disney Adulting
Your Something Larger can be anything. Even Captain Phasma. And especially Chewbacca. Time for a little escapism this week. Not a Disney fan? It’s OK. It all maps out to ventral spaces, Polyvagal Theory and accessibility, too. Content warning for a tragic but not graphic story of an accident at the resort from about 53 - 56 min. Links: Latchkey kid FSP Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101 Insights from Disney’s 30-Foot Trash Can Rule Disney’s Polynesian Village resort music loop (Youtube) (If you can’t relax to this, I don’t know what to tell you.) Meeting Mary Poppins on Paige's Make A Wish Trip (Youtube) (You will cry. In a good way.) The Dapper Dans - If You're Happy and You Know It (Youtube) Go Away Green Happily Ever After fireworks show (Also, apologies to Emily but the original illumations show at epcot was better even though she had to trick me into sitting still for it -editor) Season 2, Episode 2: We're Stronger Than the Fire Emily’s pleasure book is Come Together WDW Chronicles: History of the Hoop-Dee-Doo Musical Revue Wintering: The power of rest and retreat in difficult times
S2 E14 · Thu, March 20, 2025
Introduction to Food and Body Awareness
tl;dr The one rule you really need to follow when you eat food is: Listen to your body. There you go. Hope you’ll still listen to the episode. PS: Amelia is still going live on Youtube on Fridays @4pm eastern: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject Links: FutureCanoe (Youtube) BlackForager (Youtube) Internet Shaquille (Youtube) What Cooking is Like for Someone Who Doesn't Cook (Youtube) Tasting History
S2 E13 · Wed, March 12, 2025
Goals 101: Why Amelia Failed No Buy Low Buy
Let’s talk about what makes a good goal. Amelia kind of biffed on No Buy Low Buy, but in the service of owning enough clothing to leave the house without looking like a hobo. Maybe it’s OK to not be a minimalist in all things? Definitely stick around to the VERY end. PS: Amelia is still going live on Youtube on Fridays @4pm eastern: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean Dawn the Minimal Mom Indyx app Are you Ready Dot Gov? Nicholas Boulton on Cameo Maria Bamford on Cameo
S2 E12 · Thu, March 06, 2025
The Problem With Hope
If hope is your reason to do nothing, that’s delusion. But what is hope? Do you need it? The second half of the episode gets a little dark, but hopefully it’ll be helpful to hear. Help is available right away. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, 1-800-273-TALK - website Trans Lifeline: 1-877-565-8860 - website Links: FSP 2025: We're Stronger Than the Fire Is This a Coup? An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing (Emily on Youtube) Monty Python - Dead Parrot (Youtube) FSP 2020 episode 8: The Monitor No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, PHD (book) Rae McDaniel
S2 E11 · Fri, February 28, 2025
Decluttering Momentum and the Doom Box
Do you have a box of stuff you've carried between moves and never dealt with? Yeah, I totally don't have 100 of those. This week, Amelia declutters a Dreaded Doom Box. And then Emily and Amelia go a little deeper on decluttering. Today! Amelia is going live on Youtube on Fridays starting, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject **** Links: Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean https://www.aslobcomesclean.com This Is Your Brain on Music: THE SCIENCE OF A HUMAN OBSESSION By Daniel J. Levitin Take Your House Back Course Kay Patterson - The Organized Soprano
S2 E10 · Fri, February 14, 2025
No Buy Low Buy
Emily and Amelia are both doing some variation on low-buy/no-buy this year. There are many good reasons to do so, and many good ways to make it work for you. All that and bonus toaster oven and kitchen counter commiseration! Amelia is going live on Youtube starting next Friday, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here. Links: Project for Awesome Wax Oil Wick
S2 E9 · Wed, February 05, 2025
Elon Musk Does Not Have Asperger's and Neither Do We
Amelia takes the lead this week with a history of Autism and how it’s intertwined with Fascism. It gets dark, but not explicit. Links: Asperger's Children: The Origins of Autism in Nazi Vienna FSP 2020 Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome This American Life: 81 words Hannah Gadsby: Douglas Emily’s NYT profile
S2 E8 · Thu, January 30, 2025
Introduction to Decluttering and Cozy Spaces
You probably have too much stuff. Most of us have too much stuff. And that’s not even taking into account the emotions we feel about having too much stuff. Luckily, Emily has done the research. Let’s make your space more ventral. Links: Saturn Ion (Wikipedia) FSP 2025 Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101 Freshwave (the stuff in the buckets) Dana K. White Cas Aarssen (Youtube) Kay Patterson (Youtube) Goodbye, Things (the silent to do list) KonMari method FSP 2020 Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex
S2 E7 · Thu, January 09, 2025
Mask Off
Everyone masks to make it easier to live in the world. Emily and Amelia discuss theirs, and have some insights about times when things were particularly difficult. Content warning, there are some dark thoughts and mentions of suicidal ideation in the form of a Zombie Leprechaun around the 50 minute mark. No one was harmed. Please take care. Editor’s note: There is some extremely cathartic laughter at the end. Amelia’s video from the beginning of this episode Follow Amelia's Youtube channel here Autistic masking Cat-Q Scale Charles Entertainment Cheese FSP 2020 Episode 04: The Abyss The Come As You Are podcast Apple Podcasts • Spotify
S2 E6 · Thu, January 02, 2025
Take Your Time
Who in your life gives you the permission and support to take the time that you need? If you can’t think of anyone else, let it be us. Links: Cynthia Erivo sings I'm Here - The Color Purple (The pose is at about 4:40) Cynthia Erivo sings "I'm Here" for the final time on Broadway Emily’s TED talk - The truth about unwanted arousal Confidence and joy are the keys to a great sex life | Emily Nagoski | TEDxUniversityofNevada The Burnout workbook (Did you know there's a workbook??) The Burnout workbook audiobook (and an audiobook of the workbook ??) Dana K. White - How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind FSP 2020 Episode 33: Because: Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt - ten seconds at a time Shrinking (apple tv+) Laura Vanderkam - Off the Clock: Feel Less Busy While Getting More Done FSP 2020 Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger?
S2 E5 · Mon, December 23, 2024
Enough tho
You are enough. Because all you can be is 100% of who you are. But you’re also filled with tiny organisms that fart. Links: Burnout (our book) Starling murmuration 2020 (youtube video) High Conflict by Amanda Ripley My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem Coca-Cola's 'Hilltop' Ad ("I'd Like to Teach the World to Sing") (youtube) Brandon Sanderson's "The Stormlight Archive" series (Amelia's excerpt is from book 5.) The Bubble of Love (FSP2020 episode 11)
S2 E4 · Fri, December 13, 2024
Polyvagal 101
Dorsal. Sympathetic. Ventral. It’s all about your nervous system’s sense of safety. Links: Vagus Nerve Exteroception Interoception Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us by Stephen W. Porges and Seth Porges Deb Dana's website - includes definitions of Polyvagal Theory terms Glimmers Borders Books and Music (RIP) FSP2020 episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (of four) website : podcast feed FSP2020 episode 49: How to Dreams website : podcast feed
S2 E3 · Fri, December 06, 2024
Gender: It Begins
Turns out you can be identical twins and experience gender really differently from one another. Emily and Amelia discuss. Content warning: There’s some talk about fascism and Mussolini’s sex life. Links: Come Together - The Gender Mirage (chapter 10) Kakistocracy Sari van Anders Anne Fausto-Sterling ALOK Will and Harper (Netflix show)
S2 E2 · Wed, November 27, 2024
We're Stronger Than the Fire
Let it burn. Links: Paradise Square (musical) Joaquina Kalukango – "Let It Burn" (75th Tony Awards Performance) on Youtube (This is the performance we talk about in the episode.) New York City draft riots The "This is Fine" dog by KC Green , who is a real person who actually created the cartoon. KC sells official "This is Fine" dog stuff on Topatoco Coleman Barks Rumi translations
S2 E1 · Wed, November 20, 2024
FSP: Zombie Apocalypse Edition
Emily and Amelia are back. Maybe this will help you like it helps them. Links: Finding steady ground Nothing Much Happens podcast: Softly Softly Sleep Sound with Richard Armitage (Audible) Words to Win By podcast The New Jim Crow (book) A Force More Powerful Bringing Down a Dictator In 2017, “Joy Policing” Can Go Fuck Itself by Emily BURNOUT: Do You Feel Half Alive? We Can Do Hard Things - Apple Podcasts
S1 E64 · Wed, November 13, 2024
An Alternative to Hope (From Emily)
An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing I was inspired to make this video obviously because of John Green’s June 25th video, where he talks about taking a break from making videos because: depression, and he concludes with his familiar assurance that despair is a lie, hopelessness is a lie, that life is meaningful, and your life matters. He says he’s going to spend the month of July reminding himself that Emily Dickinson was right, “that hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without the words and never stops at all.” Emily’s Youtube (The source for this episode) John's video Amelia's response to my response Read this post on my newsletter here Sonya Renee Taylor "A Prayer for the Collective" (google doc) On the “Metaverse”: Rich White Men Looking to Escape the World They Created "How We Hope" by Adrienne Martin (excellent book)
Bonus · Wed, November 16, 2022
The Come As You Are podcast
The Come As You Are podcast was a 8-episode miniseries. It's over now, but maybe you haven't heard it yet? Subscribe here: Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon And everywhere else you get podcasts!
S1 E63 · Mon, July 26, 2021
63: How to Listen to Your Body (Addendum)
Is Emily Amelia's Loki Variant or is Amelia *Emily's* Loki Variant?? Sometimes your body lies to you, so it’s very on theme that it turns out we lied about this series ending last week. Mild spoilers for Loki, if you are planning to watch it. ********** LINKS: Loki Neuroplastic pain Polyvagal Theory The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Amelia’s Youtube channel Come As You Are (signed by Emily) Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com
S1 E62 · Mon, July 12, 2021
62: How to Listen to Your Body: Part Five
The epic conclusion! It’s about using your imagination to listen to your body. Emily and Amelia bring it all home. ********** LINKS: Episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (guest starring Allegra) Emily and Amelia on Brené Brown’s “Unlocking Us” Rumi’s “A Story is Like Water” Come As You Are (signed by Emily) What I Talk About When I Talk About Running Self-Therapy No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model An Actor Prepares (Paperback) Zen in the Art of Archery Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com
S1 E61 · Mon, June 28, 2021
61: How to Listen to Your Body: Part Four
Emily and Amelia start by talking about your body’s sense of proprioception, but wind up taking a journey into imagination. ************ LINKS: Proprioception YOKE: MY YOGA OF SELF ACCEPTANCE (book) Underbelly Yoga Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster FSP episode 36: Embrace Tiger Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com
S1 E60 · Sun, June 20, 2021
60: How to Listen to Your Body, Part Three
You’re aware of how the external world affects your internal experience. What’s next? Nonjudgment is a big part of it. Emily and Amelia discuss interoception. ************ LINKS: Interoception Underbelly Yoga Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com
S1 E59 · Mon, June 14, 2021
59: How to Listen to Your Body, Part Two
It took Amelia years to realize feelings were real and to listen to her own body. This week, she and Emily explain the way to get started to Amelia’s 17-year-old self.) ********** LINKS: “Until you spread your wings, you'll have no idea how far you can walk.” Observational Distance Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com
S1 E58 · Mon, June 07, 2021
58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One
Part one in a series where Amelia discusses how she’s learned to listen to her body. Spoiler warning: She used to be terrible at it. Allegra Martin joins the show this week. (Emily is back next week.) ********** LINKS: Episode 29: Allegra Alexithymia Alexithymia questionnaire Jonathan Haidt: The Elephant and the Rider Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com
Bonus · Mon, February 22, 2021
Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (3 of 3)
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gmail.com A transcript of this episode is available on the FSP website . DORRIE LANE'S WONDROUS VULVA PUPPET Shop
Bonus · Fri, February 19, 2021
Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (2 of 3)
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gmail.com A transcript of this episode is available on the FSP website.
Bonus · Wed, February 17, 2021
Bonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (1 of 3)
Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gmail.com A transcript of this episode is available on the FSP website.
S1 E57 · Mon, January 18, 2021
57: 2020 [BETA]
Let’s make some New Year’s Resolutions. Or not! Do whatever you need to get through this mess. Amelia is still dealing with long Covid and Emily gets really excited about Bridgerton. ********* LINKS: Episode 46: What Even Is Hope Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 29: Allegra Your New Year’s Resolution in 2021 Should Be To Stay Alive | A Serious Message From a Comedy Writer Shantira Jackson on Instagram Kate Bornstein get out of hell card Episode 51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid Burnout: THE SECRET TO UNLOCKING THE STRESS CYCLE Defying Hitler: A Memoir You'll Never Believe What Happened to Lacey: Crazy Stories about Racism by Amber Ruffin and Lacey Lamar feminist survival project instagram
S1 E56 · Tue, November 17, 2020
56: Amelia’s Something Larger is a Turkey
It’s a special holiday episode where we ask you not to attend holiday gatherings. It’s about turkey, but it’s not really about turkey. Bonus: Amelia’s secret stuffing recipe. ***** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by If the Boot Fits, A Smart & Sexy Cinderella Story by Rebekah Weatherspoon LINKS: Fomite NY Times: For Home Cooks, Burnout Is a Reality This Holiday Season Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Hygge Vestibular Migraine Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome Bell’s Poultry Seasoning
S1 E55 · Mon, November 02, 2020
55: One Important Thing
It’s the final episode of the season! Emily and Amelia discuss what all of you learned from the show. And if your name is Brené Brown, there’s a special gratitude song just for you. ****** Taco Emoji 🌮 Don’t Bring Facts to a Feelings Fight Underbelly Yoga Nap Ministry A Slob Comes Clean Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon
S1 E54 · Mon, October 26, 2020
54: Music For Stress Management
Everybody’s been asking about the class Amelia teaches on the book Burnout, so she’s gonna lay it all out for us. And, ohh… did you know we spoke to Brené Brown? That actually happened. ***** Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Episode 18: The New Hotness Episode 04: The Abyss Episode 13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma? Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 36: Embrace Tiger Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far! feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com Instagram Twitter
S1 E53 · Mon, October 19, 2020
53: How to Attachment
What’s your attachment style? Which Broadway musical number does it correspond to? Emily and Amelia discuss… and sing. ***** Episode 52: Trust Attachment theory Reaper Incandescent Sisal Light Up Halloween Decor Candide - Make Our Garden Grow Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle How to Be an Adult: A Handbook for Psychological and Spiritual Integration Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far! feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com Instagram Twitter
S1 E52 · Mon, October 12, 2020
52: Trust
How do you know when to trust other people? How do you know when to share your cupcakes to make the world better for everyone? Emily and Amelia discuss and end with a song. ******* Books by Dr. Sue Johnson Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women Gas Light by Patrick Hamilton Episode 08: The Monitor Come as You Are chapter 4 covers attachment theory Brandon Sanderson’s “Reckoners” series
S1 E51 · Mon, October 05, 2020
51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid
Update on Amelia’s long Covid situation and Emily’s new dad, Mandy Patinkin. ******* “I’m a Black Feminist. I Think Call-Out Culture Is Toxic.” by Loretta Ross lorettaross.com Schadenfreude Mandy Patinkin’s twitter Mandy Patinkin’s love song
S1 E50 · Mon, September 28, 2020
50: Number Fifty
Fifty episodes! Let’s review the toolkit we’ve built during this year of podcasts. Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability (TED talk) Episode 31: Social Support Episode 01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor Episode 08: The Monitor Episode 28: Foop Episode 32: The Owl and the Cheese Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 11: The Bubble of Love Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Episode 34: The Madwoman Episode 35: Too Much Connection Episode 18: The New Hotness Episode 36: Embrace Tiger Episode 49: How to Dreams Episode 47: Pause For Pleasure Episode 20: How to Numbing Episode 27: How to Unfamiliarity
S1 E49 · Mon, September 21, 2020
49: How to Dreams
Are your dreams purely biochemical processes or are they Jungian-scented mind candles your subconscious teaches you lessons with? Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Jonathan Haidt: "The Elephant and the Rider" The Happiness Hypothesis Encyclopedia Of Occult Sciences (archive.org) Episode 34: The Madwoman Episode 21: Your Body Will Tell You Multiple trace theory
S1 E48 · Mon, September 14, 2020
48: You’re Allowed to Like the Thing
Do the views of authors and actors affect your ability to enjoy things? Can you consume problematic media in good conscience? Amelia and Emily discuss. J. K. Rowling is not invited. ************* WTAF, RWA: Courtney Milan Banned, Suspended From RWA I Asked My Friend WHY She Had a Plantation Wedding Episode 29: Allegra Zaris-Angel performs 'Naughty' at West End Live 2016 Splash Mountain to Be Rethemed to The Princess and the Frog Auliʻi Cravalho Hattie McDaniel The Wind Can GTFO [A Gone With the Wind Breakdown] Episode 43: How to Bystander Episode 07: Your Racist Uncle, Your Apathetic Aunt, and Your Misogynist Cousin: How To
S1 E47 · Mon, September 07, 2020
47: Pause For Pleasure
Can focusing on pleasure help your brain counteract depression? Is it worth taking a moment to enjoy every donut even if it doesn’t? Emily and Amelia discuss. ********* SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Siren and the Deep Blue Sea,” the latest book in the Embraced by Magic Series by Kerrelyn Sparks. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781496730060/the-siren-and-the-deep-blue-sea/ ********* Entenmann’s donuts: https://www.entenmanns.com/en/products/8-crumb-donuts?category=8 Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-03-human-giver-syndrome Iggy Pop, King Biscuit Flower Hour: https://www.allmusic.com/album/king-biscuit-flower-hour-mw0000029108 How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/manage-home-without-losing-mind/ Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-41-bikini-industrial-complex Episode 10: Rest IS the Revolution: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-10-rest-is-revolution Disney's Polynesian Resort Music Loop (Full 3 Hour Edition): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QrAkWFQpi0w A Social History of Background Music: http://passport2dreams.blogspot.com/2017/10/a-social-history-of-background-music.html
S1 E46 · Mon, August 31, 2020
46: What Even Is Hope
What is the nature of hope? Amelia’s off this week, so Emily discusses with her mysterious Marital Euphemism. ****** How We Hope: A Moral Psychology by Adrienne Martin: https://www.amazon.com/How-We-Hope-Moral-Psychology/dp/0691171394 Irascible Appetites: https://aquinasonline.com/sense-appetites-passions/ Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor Oregon Trail Generation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xennials Marital Euphemism: https://twitter.com/rstevens
S1 E45 · Mon, August 24, 2020
45: Emily’s Epiphany
Emily’s worried about the future of democracy, but the good news is It turns out the nature of the problem doesn’t necessarily dictate the nature of the solution. (This one’s a little dark.) ******* Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CD4C_56AbP7/?igshid=jrczl9b8x7ay https://www.instagram.com/tv/CECUAjsADLF/?igshid=1ecl04ohd5a1h Surviving Autocracy by Masha Gessen: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50695164-surviving-autocracy How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40265832-how-to-be-an-antiracist Defying Hitler by Sebastian Haffner: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/65458.Defying_Hitler Early warning signs of fascism: https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/holocaust-museum-warning-signs-fascism/ The Cake in the Rain Song (not to be confused with The Pina Colada Song) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sD-zTwi3_GU How Fascism Works: The Politics of Us and Them by Jason Stanley https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/38255329-how-fascism-works Episode 44: How to Shadow Work: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-44-shadow-work Episode 04: The Abyss: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-04-the-abyss
S1 E44 · Mon, August 17, 2020
44: How to Shadow Work
Why do certain things really make you angry? Could it be that they remind you of things you dislike in yourself? Emily and Amelia discuss. Spoilers for Rise of Skywalker, The Mandalorian, Hamilton, Moana and The Accursed Year 2020. *** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Rebellious Rancher,” the latest book in the The Millers of Morgan Valley Series by Kate Pearce https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420148251/the-rebellious-rancher/ Jungian archetypes: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jungian_archetypes Audre Lorde: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Audre_Lorde Episode 34: The Madwoman: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-34-madwoman Metta loving-kindness meditation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maitrī
S1 E43 · Mon, August 10, 2020
43: How to Bystander
So you’ve noticed something Not Okay is happening. What do you do next? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Green Dot Bystander Intervention: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green_Dot_Bystander_Intervention Rage Fridge (From Thanksgiving episode): https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-07-thanksgiving Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-41-bikini-industrial-complex Episode 18: The New Hotness: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-18-new-hotness Erika Moen: https://www.ohjoysextoy.com
S1 E42 · Mon, August 03, 2020
42: Stages of Change
Amelia’s COVID Chronicles, Chapter One Million. Emily helps her turn towards her fatigue with m******** ing kindness and m ********ing compassion. ******** Transtheoretical model: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transtheoretical_model That Calvin Coolidge quote which neither of us endorse: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/2749-nothing-in-this-world-can-take-the-place-of-persistence Episode 31: Social Support: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support Self-Therapy: https://selftherapyjourney.com Emily’s romance novels: https://www.amazon.com/How-Fall-Belhaven-Emily-Foster/dp/1496704185/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
S1 E41 · Mon, July 27, 2020
41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex
The Bikini-Industrial Complex We have been lied to all our lives about the relationship between health and weight. It’s both liberating and infuriating. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Emily’s blog post on BMI and weight stigma: https://www.thedirtynormal.com/post/2016/08/07/bmi-mortality-weight-stigma-science-sigh/ Health at Every Size: https://haescommunity.com Episode 11: The Bubble of Love: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-11-bubble-of-love Episode 40: Food: It's Complicated: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-40-food-its-complicated Episode 36: Embrace Tiger: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-36-embrace-tiger Sonya Renee Taylor - The Body is Not an Apology: https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/the-body-is-not-an-apology Anti-Diet by Christy Harrison: https://christyharrison.com/book-anti-diet-intuitive-eating-christy-harrison
S1 E40 · Mon, July 20, 2020
40: Food: It's Complicated
Do you live to eat or eat to live? If you answered, "it's complicated," you are correct. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Mermaid, the Witch, and the Sea,” Maggie Tokuda-Hall’s sweeping fantasy debut from Candlewick press: https://www.candlewick.com/cat.asp?mode=book&isbn=1536204315&browse=Title Episode 18: The New Hotness https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-18-new-hotness
S1 E39 · Mon, July 13, 2020
39: Covid Follow Up
Spoiler alert: COVID is serious. Amelia is past the worst and quarantined like a boss, but it really took a toll. Contains some coughing and mild coffee snobbery. ******** Amelia’s covid prep list: https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2 Hario V60 pour over coffee: https://www.baristainstitute.com/brewguides-2/hario-v60 Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor
S1 E38 · Mon, July 06, 2020
38: Amelia has the COVID
As careful as she was, Amelia caught the virus. (She's OK.) Let's learn from her experience and get a Corona Plan together in case you need to quarantine. Bonus: Emily and Amelia discuss toilet paper. SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by Crushing It, a new romantic comedy by Lorelei Parker from Kensington Books. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/pages/landing-page/crushingit/ Amelia’s covid prep list: https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2
S1 E37 · Mon, June 29, 2020
37: Ode to Ode to Joy
Ode to Ode to Joy Classical music should be for everyone because we all deserve access to joy. You may have more in common with these dead composers than you thought. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Was Beethoven Black? Probably Not, but These Unsung Composers Were: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/was-beethoven-black-and-why-might-be-wrong-question-ask-180975159/ Joy playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0RmAELBeFBBItZnfTV4yX7?si=EsR-Yi_GRbyjw4IUk6lhvw Schubert: Symphony No.9 "The Great" / Bernstein Bayerischen Rundfunks: https://youtu.be/hCuC8--m-98?t=2453 Mahler: Symphony No. 2: Mov. 5 - Part 4 of 4: https://youtu.be/tf5fM1i3MGQ?t=234 Rachmaninoff plays Traditional/Rachmaninov "Powder and Paint" with Nadejda Plevitskaya: https://youtu.be/2mcnNDZPvgI Beethoven in Baltimore: https://www.bsomusic.org/GMLoungeLive Burnout playlist, art music by women composers in a mood of quiet strength: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2F3axNgma4ropXUTvbKYXf?si=_df9yYjuSVC5GEXo3-NZFg
S1 E36 · Mon, June 22, 2020
36: Embrace Tiger
This week, Amelia discusses tai chi and nonjudgment in the hope that it can help Emily. (and you) Spoiler warning: The moral of the story is Universe Juice. ******** Embrace Tiger, Return to Mountain: The Essence of Tai Ji https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/252447.Embrace_Tiger_Return_to_Mountain Everything Is Everything (Lauryn Hill song) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Everything_Is_Everything_(Lauryn_Hill_song) Kung Fu Panda https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kung_Fu_Panda_(franchise) Chickpea To Cook, By Rumi: https://catmeffan.com/poem-chickpea-to-cook-rumi/
S1 E35 · Mon, June 15, 2020
35: Too Much Connection
Connection is a drive, like hunger and sleep. But what do you do when you’ve had too much connection? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Born in Quarantine (Facebook ad) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OW4AFbzjGk Social Distance podcast: https://www.theatlantic.com/podcasts/socialdistance/ Episode 31: Social Support: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support The Noonday Demon: http://andrewsolomon.com/books/the-noonday-demon/ Raising Your Spirited Child, Third Edition: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Your-Spirited-Child-Third/dp/0062403060
S1 E34 · Mon, June 08, 2020
34: The Madwoman
Emily and Amelia discuss the concept of The Madwoman, and how you can turn toward yours with kindness and compassion. Spoiler warning for those who don't yet know the stories of Jane Eyre or Moana. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by Never Conspire With a Sinful Baron, the latest book in Renee Ann Miller’s Infamous Lords Series. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420150032/never-conspire-with-a-sinful-baron/ Jane Eyre https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jane_Eyre Bertha Mason (The Madwoman in the Attic) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bertha_Mason Buffy’s Madwoman© https://medium.com/@amelianp/buffys-madwoman-a925672d7689 Episode 04: The Abyss https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/ episode-04-the-abyss Episode 11: The Bubble of Love https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-11-bubble-of-love Episode 02: Complete the Stress Response Cycle https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-02-complete-the-stress-response-cycle
S1 E33 · Mon, June 01, 2020
33: Because: Unbreakable
Did you watch the interactive Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt? How does making good choices for Kimmy apply to real life? Emily and Amelia discuss. (Tons of spoilers for Kimmy Vs. The Reverend) ******** Kimmy Vs. The Reverend: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10324166/ EMDR Therapy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing Emily’s romance novels: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27208942-how-not-to-fall https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25985351-how-not-to-let-go Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-03-human-giver-syndrome
S1 E32 · Mon, May 25, 2020
32: The Owl and the Cheese
What do owls and cheese have to do with surviving the hellscape of 2020? How can we work to run toward the things that make it worth surviving. Emily and Amelia discuss. ****** Episode 5: What's Your Something Larger? https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-05-something-larger Pacific Overtures "Someone in a Tree" - Ann Harada, Austin Ku, Kelvin Moon Loh & Thom Sesma: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-PNX9PPCEls&feature=emb_title Love Illuminated (part 1): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F8I4zFUxU9g&list=PLY864P3qWCN7iwXSXbQ8ZFA7J1YeYM8 Sadie the Dog: https://www.instagram.com/burnoutbookgroup/
S1 E31 · Mon, May 18, 2020
31: Social Support
It turns out feelings are real and (spoiler warning) emotional support is really important! Emily and Amelia discuss. There's science to support it. Emily and Amelia discuss. This episode is brought to you by Kensington’s newest title from Lindsay McKenna, Wind River Undercover. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/book.aspx/39281 ****** Gourmet Makes: https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes Shrinkchicks (Season 1, Episode 20) https://open.spotify.com/episode/61wmkKTydqaWbZ4pgorSKX Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges https://www.stephenporges.com/
S1 E30 · Mon, May 11, 2020
30: Voting While Feminist
“Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others” is attributed to Winston Churchill, who wasn't too great himself. And this year it might feel like the Democratic presidential candidate is the worst one on the ballot except for the other one. What’s a feminist to do?Emily, Amelia, and Amelia's colleague Mark discuss. (Content warning: this episode includes discussion of sexual violence ) ****** what to do when someone tells you they were sexually assaulted: https://medium.com/@enagoski/what-to-do-when-someone-tells-you-they-were-sexually-assaulted-794d41e58c05
S1 E29 · Mon, May 04, 2020
29: Allegra
Amelia’s friend and fellow musician Allegra joins us this week and shares her perspective on social distancing and burnout. ****** Wozzeck Trailer (The Royal Opera): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YzU31UrXceo Predictably Irrational: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Predictably_Irrational The Ballad of the Brown King: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ballad_of_the_Brown_King The Concert Choir of Georgetown University - Millennium Stage: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPDZ2iwSMXA Vegetarian JapChae recipe: http://aeriskitchen.com/2017/03/vegetarian-japchae/
S1 E28 · Mon, April 27, 2020
28: Foop
You know that crazy feeling of oscillating between frustrated rage and helpless despair? That’s Foop. Emily and Amelia discuss. ********** The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor
S1 E27 · Mon, April 20, 2020
27: How to Unfamiliarity
We're all in uncharted territory these days. Amelia has a music metaphor to help cope with these times of social distancing. Emily helps break it down. Special appearance by Beethoven. (not the dog)
S1 E26 · Mon, April 13, 2020
26: Masks and How to Wear Them
We're all wearing masks now. But why are we wearing them and how can we do so most effectively. Emily and Amelia get into it, cowboy outlaw-style.
S1 E25 · Mon, April 06, 2020
25: Even More Social Distancing
Emily (from her bed) and Amelia (from her kitchen) discuss the importance of social distancing, as well as why it's so hard. And Amelia tops it off with a classic 90s Bette Midler jam. ****** Episode 20: How to Numbing https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-20-numbing SOCIAL DISTANCE - A Randy Rainbow Song Parody https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WimbyL_25Nw Colin Firth Swimming https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hasKmDr1yrA
S1 E24 · Mon, March 30, 2020
24: The Sex Episode
Emily and Amelia’s first ever guest! They talk with the amazing Peggy Kleinplatz, one of the authors of the new book, Magnificent Sex. ****** Magnificent Sex Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers, 1st Edition By Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Dana Ménard https://www.routledge.com/Magnificent-Sex-Lessons-from-Extraordinary-Lovers-1st-Edition/Kleinplatz-Menard/p/book/9780367181376
S1 E23 · Mon, March 23, 2020
23: Social Distance Duet
Emily and Amelia discuss social distancing while social distancing. Plus: Bonus word games and ukulele music. ****** Mickey Mouse - Ku'u Lei Melody | Song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8FasCHHsPk
S1 E22 · Mon, March 16, 2020
22: Time Affluence
Time is the only completely limited resource. What matters more to you, time or stuff? Are you willing to compromise to fit the expectations of others? Emily and Amelia discuss.
S1 E21 · Mon, March 09, 2020
21: Your Body Will Tell You
How do you listen to your body? It’s easy for some people and a completely alien concept for others. Emily and Amelia discuss. ****** The Communication of Emotion by Ross Buck https://www.amazon.com/Communication-Emotion-Ross-Buck/dp/0898621100 Interoception https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interoception Proprioception https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proprioception Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster https://www.classicalvocalrep.com/products/Singing-Redefined-by-Walter-C-Foster-369633.html Peggy Kleinplatz https://www.aasect.org/member-spotlight-peggy-kleinplatz
Bonus · Tue, March 03, 2020
Mini-Episode: How to Coronavirus
Worried about the Coronavirus? Luckily, Emily has a background in public health and can explain it. This is an episode for people who aren’t at high risk, to talk about why and how they can help make the world safer for people who are at risk. Spoiler warning: Wash your hands. PS: Edited to add when Emily listened to this mini-episode, she realized they didn’t make it crystal clear that it’s not just age but also health issues that make people vulnerable. People of any age can have respiratory issues, diabetes or cardiovascular disease, all three of which are known to increase severity of symptoms if a person gets COVID-19. ****** By Emily: how to survive a long-haul flight — 2020/coronovirus update Emily loves Mrs. Meyer's Acorn Spice Liquid Hand Soap
S1 E28 · Mon, March 02, 2020
20: How to Numbing
Numbing. Emotional ibuprofen. Maladaptive coping strategies. They’re short-term solutions, but sometimes reducing the pain is the only way you can rest enough to heal. FSP2020 joins the Frolic network: https://frolic.media Gourmet Makes with Claire Saffitz: https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes Explain Pain Super Charged: https://www.amazon.com/Explain-Charged-Butler-Lorimer-Moseley/dp/0648022706
S1 E19 · Mon, February 24, 2020
19: How to Entertainment
What's the difference between art and entertainment? How can you engage with both in a healthy way? PS: Emily really, really loves Schitt's Creek. ****** How Horror Helps With Processing Grief and Trauma: Laura Kinsale
S1 E18 · Mon, February 17, 2020
18: The New Hotness
The Bikini-Industrial Complex. What is it and how can you escape it? Also- The secret identity of The New Hotness (Spoiler warning: It's you.) ****** Health at Every Size
S1 E17 · Mon, February 10, 2020
17: How to Gratitude
Gratitude is important. But just because we’ve come a long way, it doesn’t mean we’re close to where we need to be. Emily and Amelia discuss. FSP2020 episode 5: What's your something larger? Nichole’s Gratitude on Medium . Amelia is a huge Brandon Sanderson fan.
S1 E16 · Mon, February 03, 2020
16: How to Be a White Lady Who Tries
We're white ladies. We know we're not going to say anything that people of color don't already know. We're going to make mistakes. But we're going to try our best. Show notes: Me and White Supremacy workbook by Layla Saad The Nap Bishop Leesa Renee Hall Tressie McMillan Cottom's THICK Brittany Cooper’s Eloquent Rage A History of White People
S1 E15 · Mon, January 27, 2020
15: How to Primaries
It's the inevitable politics episode. Amelia is an idealist. Emily's a pragmatist. But guess what? They both want to do the right thing.
S1 E14 · Mon, January 20, 2020
14: How to Art
Amelia takes the lead on this one. How does creative self-expression help you complete the stress response cycle? (Hint: It has to do with recognizing that emotions are real.)
S1 E13 · Mon, January 13, 2020
13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma?
Burnout and trauma are not the same thing. Emily and Amelia discuss the difference and some ways to help. (Apologies for the audio quality on this one. We had some microphone difficulties.)
S1 E12 · Mon, January 06, 2020
12: How to Sleeping
How much sleep do you need? What's the "right" way to sleep? Emily and Amelia talk about sleep debt, sleep personalities, and a just a touch of Jane Eyre.
S1 E11 · Mon, December 30, 2019
11: The Bubble of Love
What makes a relationship safe and renewing? Emily and Amelia explain using Cupcake Economics.
S1 E10 · Mon, December 16, 2019
10: Rest IS the Revolution
Rest is important. You're probably not getting enough. Let's talk about it with Emily, Amelia, and a special secret guest cameo appearance from Rachel Maddow. We're huge fans of The Nap Ministry, who you should follow on Instagram.
S1 E9 · Mon, December 09, 2019
09: How to Rage
Rage. It's a maligned and misunderstood emotion. What's your relationship with your rage? What's your rage's relationship with... poop?
S1 E8 · Mon, December 02, 2019
08: The Monitor
Frustration. Everybody feels it. Emily and Amelia discuss the science of how frustration works, and strategies for managing it. Worksheets from their book Burnout are here: https://www.burnoutbook.net/downloads
S1 E7 · Mon, November 25, 2019
07: Your Racist Uncle, Your Apathetic Aunt, and Your Misogynist Cousin: How To
It's almost Thanksgiving here in these United States. Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies for dealing with people you disagree with during the holidays. In the words of Luke Skywalker, "This is not going to go the way you think."
S1 E1 · Mon, November 18, 2019
06: How to News
Impeachment has begun. What's your relationship with the news right now? Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies. Spoiler alert: It's OK to dial it back and take care of yourself.
S1 E5 · Mon, November 11, 2019
05: What's Your Something Larger?
There's a lot of research that says meaning and purpose is good for your mental health. But how do we define that? Emily, Amelia, and Moana are here to figure that out.
S1 E4 · Sun, November 03, 2019
04: The Abyss
Today... we’re gonna look squarely into the abyss. We’ve all got one. Let’s talk about it.
S1 E3 · Sun, November 03, 2019
03: Human Giver Syndrome
In this episode, the question is: What’s the biggest cultural barrier between feminists and their ability to complete the stress response cycles?
S1 E2 · Sun, November 03, 2019
02: Complete the Stress Response Cycle
So if solving actual stressors isn’t enough to deal with the stress in your body, what does deal with it? How do we complete the stress response cycle? This episode is a catalog of a dozen concrete, specific, evidence-based strategies for doing just that.
S1 E1 · Sun, November 03, 2019
01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor
Wellness is a state of action. The cure for burnout isn’t self-care, it’s all of us caring for each other. And when we embrace those things, we’re not taking a break from fixing the world, we are already fixing the world.
Trailer · Mon, October 28, 2019
Introduction
What is the Feminist Survival Project 2020? Emily and Amelia Nagoski explain the project and how you can help.
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