NOIRPOISED Podcast
Tune into the unscripted, unfiltered journey of a millennial couple redefining life's playbook.The NOIRPOISED podcast is where private conversations between hosts, Ruth & Sam, become public wisdom, and intimate conversations meet universal experiences. Join us as we peel back the layers of life and relationships. It’s like eavesdropping on a private chat, but these are the conversations the world needs to hear.In each episode, we delve into the topics that touch us all – from the echoes of our childhood to the difficulties of relationships. We're not just talking; we're challenging norms, unlearning the outdated, and re-learning truth. This is m...
S2 E53 · Thu, March 27, 2025
The Torch or the Tension: What Did Your Father Really Pass Down?
Ever feel like your dad was more competitor than coach? Or like your parents raised you with love—but also a load of pressure? In this episode, we get real about the quiet tension that builds between parents and sons as boys grow into men. From tough love that cut too deep, to fathers who saw challenge instead of change, we’re unpacking the real roots behind the drama. Is it generational? Cultural? Or just emotional stuff no one talked about? Whether you’re raising kids now or still working through how you were raised, this one's for you. Let’s break the cycle—without losing our cool. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E52 · Thu, March 20, 2025
Parenting Your Parents: When the Roles Flip
Ever feel like you're parenting your parents? You're not alone. Turns out, millennials are officially the sandwich generation —caught between raising kids and raising... well, their own parents. So why is it that the very people who told us not to stay out late, not to spend recklessly, and not to ignore our health are now breaking their own rules? And more importantly—how do we handle it without losing our sanity? In this episode, we unpack the reality of parenting your parents , how birth order and culture play a role in this weird reversal, and the unexpected emotional toll it takes. So... when did you first realize the roles had flipped? Let’s talk about it. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E51 · Thu, March 13, 2025
The Parent Trap: Does Upbringing Really Affect Sibling Relationships?
Sibling dynamics: why do some siblings stay close while others drift apart? We're taking a deep dive into the role that family, culture, and even gender play in shaping how siblings relate to each other. Have you ever wondered why your sibling relationship isn’t what you expected? What role does your upbringing play in it? Listen now and see if you’re guilty of the same sibling missteps or if you're nurturing a bond built to last. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E50 · Thu, March 06, 2025
Why Men Aren't Chasing Women Anymore
Why aren’t men pursuing women like they used to? In this episode, we dive into the shift in dating dynamics—why some men feel it’s just not worth the effort anymore. Are women setting too many “hoops” to jump through? Or have men simply grown tired of the chase? Tune in—and ask yourself: Are we making it too hard to connect with each other? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E49 · Thu, February 27, 2025
Did 50/50 Kill Romance?
We’re breaking down how cultural shifts are redefining relationships. Is the 50/50 mindset killing romance? Can modern men really handle traditional women or is it a fantasy until reality kicks in? Can women truly balance being a boss outside and submissive at home? Let’s talk about it. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E48 · Thu, February 20, 2025
From “I Do” to “I’m Done”: Why Are Marriages Failing by Year 7?
Studies show that year seven is the breaking point for many couples—but why? In this episode, we dive into the stats, the psychology behind the “seven-year itch,” and the biggest reasons marriages fail (hint: it’s not just about love). What’s pulling couples apart? And most importantly—how can you beat the odds and make your relationship thrive long-term? Whether you're married, engaged, or just thinking about the future, this is one conversation you don’t want to miss. References/credits: 1. Divorce Statistics: Over 115 Studies, Facts and Rates for 2024 2. Atomic Habits by James Clear Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E47 · Thu, February 13, 2025
Love Won’t Pay the Bills—But Marriage Might
Does marriage actually affect wealth? We hear it all the time—marriage is just about love, right? But what if we told you it has way more to do with financial stability and long-term success than you think? In this episode, we’re discussing potential reasons why Black marriages are on the decline. 🎧 Tap in. You don’t want to miss this one! Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E46 · Thu, February 06, 2025
Modern Parenting: The Village Isn't Free Anymore
Millennial parents, let’s talk. Remember when we thought we’d have a village helping us raise our kids? Turns out, that village is looking real different (or nonexistent). Why does it feel like past generations had more support? Is it because we moved away, set more boundaries, or are we just expecting too much? And let’s be real—at what point do you stop hoping and just buy your village instead? In this episode, we’re discussing the realities of raising kids without the village we thought we’d have. If you’ve ever felt alone in this journey, you’re not—let’s talk about it. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E45 · Thu, January 30, 2025
What Do Women Want?
What do women really want? If you’ve ever asked this question (or been too afraid to), this episode is for you. Are women truly as complicated as they seem or are men actually over-complicating things by looking for a “final answer”? We’re breaking down some of the misconceptions about what women desire. And here’s the real question—do women even know what they want? Or are they figuring it out as they go? Whether you're trying to understand your partner or just avoid another “you should know by now” moment—don’t miss this one. Tune in now! Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E44 · Thu, January 23, 2025
'Happy Wife, Happy Life'?
Can men ever truly afford to chase happiness when leading a family—or is it a distraction from their real purpose? In this episode, we’re tackling the saying: ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’. Are men responsible for creating happiness for their family or does this mindset entirely miss the mark? Tune in. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E43 · Thu, January 16, 2025
Millennials Are Dope!
Millennials: the most criticized, misunderstood, and, dare we say, resilient generation. In this episode, we unpack why Millennials are seen as lazy, entitled, and overly sensitive—but is that the full story? From navigating crushing student debt to juggling multiple jobs while breaking generational cycles, Millennials are doing more than just surviving—they’re redefining what it means to live. Is the world really tougher for Millennials, or are we finally brave enough to challenge the status quo? And what’s the legacy we’re leaving for the next generation? It’s time to set the record straight. See links below to watch the video and article mentioned in this episode: https://www.tiktok.com/discover/boomers-vs-millennials-cost-of-living-breakdown https://www.consumeraffairs.com/finance/comparing-the-costs-of-generations.html Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E42 · Thu, January 09, 2025
Feminism vs. Reality: What Went Wrong?
Is modern feminism missing the point? In this episode, we’re diving into feminism—past and present. Is the term still about empowering women and advocating for equality, or has it shifted into something more divisive? From understanding the original goals of feminism to grappling with its modern interpretation, we explore how the term has evolved—and whether it’s now doing more harm than good. Are we losing the balance between celebrating women’s independence and respecting traditional roles? And why does modern feminism often feel like it pits women against men—or even against each other? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E41 · Thu, January 02, 2025
Is Masculinity Under Attack?
In this episode, we dive deep into the controversial term "toxic masculinity" and unpack what it really means. Are we redefining masculinity in ways that suppress natural traits of men like strength and competitiveness? We reflect on societal shifts, the blurred lines between aggression and confidence, and why men today might feel hesitant to embrace their manhood. Is it okay for men to be unapologetically themselves? Join us as we challenge stereotypes, question societal norms, and explore whether masculinity, as we’ve known it, still has a place in today’s world. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E40 · Thu, December 26, 2024
New Year, Same Me? Why Success Starts With Daily Wins
New year, same goals? We’re talking about the hype of New Year's resolutions and why they often don’t work for most of us. Are we setting ourselves up for failure with unrealistic timelines and overwhelming expectations? Or is it the lack of a clear, tangible plan that trips us up? Whichever it is, you are not alone! Did you know that 80% of people tend to give up on their resolutions by February? Is it time to ditch the resolutions and focus on daily progress instead? Tune in to find out how we make real, lasting changes. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E39 · Thu, December 19, 2024
Holiday Cheer Turned Fear: Handling Family Gatherings
The holidays are here, and so is the joy—and maybe stress—of family gatherings. Ever felt like every conversation is a minefield of unsolicited advice, judgment, or endless questions about your life choices? Whether it’s, ‘When are you getting married?’ or 'Why haven’t you had a kid yet?’, family functions can sometimes feel more overwhelming than festive. In this episode, we unpack the pressure of navigating family dynamics during the holidays. How do you stay sane, set boundaries, and protect your peace when faced with nosy relatives or outdated expectations? Let’s talk about it. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E38 · Thu, December 12, 2024
Who’s Calling the Shots in Your Relationship? Maybe Lead is Misleading
What does it truly mean to lead in a marriage? Is leadership about making decisions, setting the tone, or something deeper? Can you recognize the ways you lead in your relationship—or the ways you let your partner lead? Does it involve understanding, respect, and partnership or simply whoever is in “charge” calls the shots? First full episode available on video! Watch now on YouTube or continue to listen on your favorite podcast platform. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E37 · Thu, December 05, 2024
Why Boys Don't Cry: The Real Impact of Tough Love
Are we harder on boys than girls, even as toddlers? Is it necessary for boys to face tough love from an early age, or are we unintentionally creating emotional scars under the guise of strength? In this episode, we tackle the fine line between discipline and emotional neglect. From the differing ways parents handle crying boys versus girls to the long-term impact of societal expectations, we ask: Are we preparing boys for the real world—or holding them back from emotional growth? Is tough love the only way to raise strong men? Tune in and challenge how you may view parenting, gender norms, and the lessons this generation is teaching our children—intentionally or not. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E36 · Thu, November 28, 2024
Who's Controlling Your Thoughts? The Hidden Power of Media
How much of what you believe is truly your own thought? We’re discussing the power of media influence and how it may shape our beliefs, decisions, and even self-perceptions. Do you question what you're told—or are you caught in the web of "programming"? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E35 · Thu, November 21, 2024
Gender Wars: Why Do We Keep Calling Each Other Trash?
Why has it become so easy to label the opposite gender as “trash” or “toxic”, and are these labels just a shield for our own insecurities? In this episode, we have a raw and eye-opening conversation on the modern battle between men and women. Unpacking the blame game on social media, exploring how the past hurts fuel today’s stereotypes, and asking the real question: can we truly thrive without each other? From independence to respect, we’re exploring what it takes to break down barriers and restore unity. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E34 · Thu, November 14, 2024
Do Traditional Men Still Exist?
Are traditional men becoming a thing of the past? We continue the conversation on dynamics between modern and traditional roles, but specifically for the man. From emotional vulnerability to old-school gender expectations, we explore what it means to be a man (or woman) in today’s world. Is there room for traditional values, or are we better off moving forward? Is balance possible or are we just stuck chasing ideals that no longer exist? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E33 · Thu, November 07, 2024
Do Women Really Want Traditional Men?
In this episode, we dive into the tug-of-war between traditional and modern roles in relationships. Are modern men too emotional, or are they finally in tune with their feelings? Do modern women secretly crave the structure of tradition, or are they evolving into something even better? We explore the challenges of balancing roles and managing expectations. If both partners are now breadwinners and caregivers, is tradition still relevant? And how do we maintain harmony when everyone plays both roles? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E32 · Thu, October 31, 2024
What's Toxic, Anyway?
What does toxic really mean, and have you ever wondered if you’ve been toxic without even realizing it? In this episode, we dive into how toxic environments affect us—whether it’s at home, with friends, or in everyday relationships. We explore how some situations push us to grow, while others slowly tear us down. How do you know when it’s time to walk away or when staying could lead to growth? And here’s the real question: Are toxic behaviors subjective, or is toxicity something deeper that we often overlook? Tune in for a raw conversation that’ll have you reflecting on your own boundaries and the relationships in your life. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E31 · Thu, October 24, 2024
Upgrades or Control? Balancing Space & Togetherness
What does it really mean to maintain your individuality in a relationship? Can two people truly stay true to themselves while building a life together? In this episode, we dive into the balance between love and independence, exploring why men fear losing freedom and why women struggle to keep a sense of self. Are relationships about compromise, or evolution? Let’s explore how to keep you alive while building a we . Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E30 · Thu, October 17, 2024
God Isn't Your Genie: Apply the Work
What happens when you stop sitting still while waiting for a miracle and start creating your own opportunities? There’s a shift that occurs when you come to realize that faith isn’t a shortcut. Tune in for a fresh perspective that might just change how you approach your goals, dreams, and prayers. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E29 · Thu, October 10, 2024
There's Been a Cycle: Is It Me?
Have you ever found yourself wondering, Why does this keep happening to me? Whether it’s in relationships, work, or life in general, sometimes the common denominator is… you . We dive deep into how taking responsibility for the patterns in our life can lead to real change, growth, and healthier outcomes. But the real question is: Are you willing to shift how you move in the world to stop repeating the same cycles? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E28 · Thu, October 03, 2024
Sunday Service vs. Monday Struggle: Where's the Disconnect?
Is church attendance really declining, or is there a deeper shift happening in how people connect with faith? In this episode, we dive into the surprising statistics showing that nearly half of millennials and Gen Z are skipping out on church. But what does that mean for our spiritual lives? Are we finding God in new places, or are we losing touch with something vital? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E27 · Thu, September 26, 2024
Authenticity vs. Approval
How do you know if you're making choices for yourself or just trying to keep the peace? In a world that often pushes us to conform, we explore being authentic even when it disappoints others or makes you stand out. Is it worth the loneliness it sometimes brings? Are you living for you or for everyone else? Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E26 · Thu, September 19, 2024
Fate or Choice?
Life is a series of cause and effect, where every decision—big or small—leads to consequences that shape our lives. From the breakfast we choose to eat, to life-altering moments that come from a seemingly insignificant decision, we dive deep into the ripple effect of our choices. But here’s the question: Are you creating the life you want, or are you letting life happen to you? Join us as we challenge the notion of fate and take control of our destinies. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E25 · Thu, September 12, 2024
Finding You Beyond Your Roles
Are you living your truth, or just going with the flow? Have you ever felt drained trying to fit into different roles or personas? We’re diving into discovering our identity beyond the labels society gives us—beyond being a parent, friend, or professional. Who are you, really? Let’s find out! Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S2 E24 · Thu, September 05, 2024
Do Black People Support Each Other Enough?
We’re back! And we’re going right into the hard questions… Ever heard the statement or had the thought: “black communities don’t support one another?” Well, we have and in this episode, we’re diving into the idea of community and what "support" means. Is it just about buying from Black-owned businesses, or is there more to it? We challenge the narrative that Black communities don’t support their own and explore whether our expectations of support are realistic—or even fair. Can we redefine what support looks like, not just for today, but for the future? Join us as we unpack the complexities of community, culture, and the sacrifices it takes to build something lasting. How are you supporting your community? Tune in and chime in. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
Trailer · Thu, August 29, 2024
Season 2 starts Thursday, SEPT 5th!
We're back! Season 2 premieres Thursday, Sept 5th and we're running every Thursday until June. This time, we'll also have short video content during the first half of the season THEN mid-season, we'll start posting FULL EPISODES on video via YouTube! If you know us, you know that going visual is a big deal. But we're committed to those of you that have been following the journey and making the request. We've heard and we're delivering. New deeper conversations but the same motto. If you're new here, welcome to the journey! Catch up with season 1 episodes in the meantime. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E23 · Thu, May 30, 2024
Relationship Maintenance (Season Finale)
🎙️It’s the last episode of the first season and whew, did it fly by! In this last episode, we explore the art of "maintenance" for the relationships that enrich our lives. Ever wondered how to keep the spark alive in all your relationships, from friendships to love? Think of your conversations as maintenance check-ups—simple yet profound acts that can transform your connections. What does relationship maintenance look like for you? Is it a quick text to a friend or a deep conversation with a loved one? Tune in and discover how small gestures can lead to significant shifts in how we love and connect. We’ll be back for season two at the end of summer with more conversations for you! Follow us on Instagram and YouTube for updates and more insight. Feel free to shoot us questions and/or topics you’d like to hear us discuss on the next season! Until then, rewind and catch on the episodes you may have missed! Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E22 · Thu, May 23, 2024
The Blame Game: Why It's Better To Own Up
Ever wonder how owning up to your mistakes could lead to liberation and growth? We’re diving into the power of accountability. Discover why taking responsibility for both your actions and inactions can lead you towards personal development and deeper connections. We unravel how accountability isn't just about admitting wrongs but embracing the opportunity to respond and improve. Tune in to find out if accountability is the missing piece in your journey to better relationships and self-awareness. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E21 · Thu, May 16, 2024
Is Too Much Advice Harming Your Relationship?
Are you keeping your relationship talks in the right circles? Have you ever felt torn between sharing a problem with a friend or keeping it within your partnership? In this episode, we dive into the complexities of advice, trust, and privacy. We’re asking questions like: When is it right to seek advice outside of a relationship, and when should it stay between the two of you? Join us as we explore the difficulties in balancing between seeking guidance and maintaining privacy in your relationship. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E20 · Thu, May 09, 2024
Emotionally In-Tune or Overly Sensitive?
We’re diving deep into the nuances of sensitivity, asking, "Is being sensitive a strength or a weakness?" We explore how sensitivity impacts our relationships and self-perception, challenging societal norms that often equate sensitivity with weakness. Join us as we explore why understanding and embracing sensitivity could be a game-changer in how we interact with the world. Tune in and join the conversation. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E19 · Thu, May 02, 2024
You've Changed, Now What?
Ever wonder how relationships withstand the test of time and change? Tune into our latest podcast episode where we dive deep into the dynamics of evolving relationships. From navigating the ups and downs of marriage to maintaining connection amidst personal growth, we discuss the thoughts everyone has when it comes to evolving together without growing apart. Do you think people can truly change for the better together? Join us for a candid discussion on love, unavoidable change, and growth. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E18 · Thu, April 25, 2024
I'm Becoming My Parent: Rewriting My Behavioral Script
Are you becoming your parents? We’ve been discussing breaking cycles and healing our inner child in previous episodes. But in this revealing episode, we dive into the uncanny ways we inherit traits from our parents, often catching ourselves mirroring their habits and quirks. We're not just exploring the often humorous, sometimes alarming reality of how deeply our parents influence us but we’re focusing on ways to rewrite the negative behaviors we may have unconsciously picked up from them. Join us as we unpack the potential of becoming the very people we grew up with. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E17 · Thu, April 18, 2024
Clash of Priorities: Aligning Life Goals
Ever agreed on something important with your partner, only to find out they had a change of heart? How do you navigate the chills of compromise without losing your warmth? We're tackling the tough questions: How early should you discuss your non-negotiables with a significant other? What do you do when your plans don't align? We’re discussing clashing priorities within relationships. Join us for a candid conversation about finding common ground, or realizing when it's time to let go. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E16 · Thu, April 11, 2024
Healing Your Inner Child
Do you think your childhood left marks you need to heal from? Dive into an enlightening discussion about the invisible threads that tie our present to our past. We're peeling back layers to reveal how our inner child's needs, joys, and pains subtly shape our adult lives, urging us to explore and heal areas we often overlook. Could embracing your inner child be the key to lasting happiness and fulfillment? Let's discover how to honor and heal our inner selves, reshaping our future by confronting our past. Tune in for a transformative exploration of self-love, healing, and personal growth. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E15 · Thu, April 04, 2024
The Cycle Stops Here
Are you ready to challenge the cycles shaping your destiny? In this episode, we dive into the heart of familial cycles, exploring the parallels between our choices and those who came before us. Ever questioned the power of inherited habits or the notion of "coincidences" in your life? We're discussing generational patterns, shedding light on the moments of realization that connect us to our roots in ways we never anticipated. Whether it's finances, traditions, or emotional responses, join us as we uncover the cycles that bind us and the powerful steps we can take towards breaking free. Tune in and embark on a conversation encouraging self-discovery and hopefully, transformation. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E14 · Thu, March 28, 2024
Love's Reality Check: Why 80% Could Be Your Perfect Match
Ever ponder if the quest for a perfect partner is blinding us to the joys of the almost-perfect ones? 🤔 Let’s discuss some dating dilemmas! In this episode, we're unpacking the age-old debate: Are men really simpler in love, or are we all chasing fairy tales? Discover why 80% might just be your new 100% in the love equation. Is your checklist for love guiding you to happiness, or is it a recipe for perpetual singlehood? Join us, as we explore the fine line between high standards and unrealistic expectations. Whether you're single, taken, or somewhere in between, this episode might just reshape your view on dating, love, and everything in between. Are you focusing on the qualities that truly matter? Tune in to find out! Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E13 · Thu, March 21, 2024
Express Yourself!
How do you share your true self without drowning out the voice of your partner, or vice versa? Dive into a candid exploration of self-expression with us on today’s episode. It’s not just about letting your own light shine, but also about navigating through the other person’s boundaries when expressing yourself. Discover the fine line between expressing your needs and respecting those of the ones you love. Tune in, and let’s find the balance together. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E12 · Thu, March 14, 2024
Decoding Communication
Today, we're unwrapping the layers of communication in relationships, decoding the unsaid, and exploring the power behind the words we choose. Do you think there's a magic formula for conveying your thoughts perfectly? Discover your communication style, learn to read between the lines, and maybe, just maybe, find the key to unlocking a deeper connection with those you cherish. What we thought was effective was actually problematic, and that may be the same for you. Are you ready to become more aware and potentially improve the way you communicate with others? Tune in to hear our personal journey with communication. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E11 · Thu, March 07, 2024
Love Unnoticed
In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of love. Have you ever pondered the true essence of love or how it differs from simple care or admiration? Join us as we unravel these mysteries through personal stories, revealing moments of clarity, and an honest exploration of our own experiences with illustrating and receiving love. Discover the nuanced interpretations of love, the impact of societal views, and how personal upbringing shapes our understanding of affection. Whether love has always been a fairy-tale for you or something you've struggled to grasp, this episode discusses insights that may challenge your perceptions and perhaps, teach you new ways to perceive and receive love. Don't miss out because understanding love's true form might just change how you view all relationships forever. What does love look like to you? Tune in, reflect, and maybe even redefine what love means in your life. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E10 · Thu, February 29, 2024
Regrets: Unavoidable & Necessary
Have you ever found yourself trapped in the swirling thoughts of "What if?" and "If only I had..."? You're not alone. In this episode, we're diving into the deep, often murky waters of regret. We're discussing the types of regrets that haunt us—from missed opportunities, to the longing for deeper connections and moral dilemmas. But here's the kicker: What if we told you that regret doesn't have to be your enemy? Through this candid conversation and personal revelations, we explore how distinguishing between guilt and regret can illuminate the path to self-forgiveness and growth. Do you let regret define you, or do you learn from it to sculpt a more purposeful life? Regret doesn’t have to be a negative experience. Tune in as we navigate the complexities of living with regret, the pursuit of satisfaction, and the ultimate quest for redefining regret & seeking poise in the face of life's what-ifs. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E9 · Thu, February 22, 2024
Throwing Grace, Not Stones
This week, we dive into the heart of grace and understanding, essential ingredients for nurturing relationships. Ever wondered why some conversations turn into confrontations while others pave the way to understanding? Have you ever been in a situation where your initial reaction would have made things worse, but choosing grace changed the outcome? We've been there and we’re exploring those fine lines. We’re sharing personal experiences and how these moments have shaped our approach to disagreements and misunderstandings, which have helped us avoid arguments and deepen our connections. From the misconceptions about grace to the challenges of offering it, especially when it's least expected, we uncover the layers of being gracious in both our words and silence. We invite you to hear the transformative power of grace in relationships. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E8 · Thu, February 15, 2024
Women Need Safe Spaces, TWO
This week we delve further into the essential conversation about creating safe spaces for women, continuing from where our last discussion ended. Have you ever pondered what it genuinely means for a woman to feel safe and understood? We unravel the complexities of emotional expression, the societal pressures women endure, and the roles men can assume to nurture a supportive environment. We explore how societal expectations and "programming" from a young age can shape our views on what women should be, do, and feel. The discussion reveals the subtle ways in which women, especially black women, are taught to prioritize everyone else's needs above their own. But what does it look like when a woman starts pulling away from vulnerability? We discuss the red flags men should watch out for. It's a call to men to be more attentive and present to women’s emotional needs in order for them to open up to their partners. Join us as we continue to explore and unlearn, striving to understand the nuanced dynamicsof support, communication, and love in relationships. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E7 · Thu, February 08, 2024
Women Need Safe Spaces, Too
In this episode, we found ourselves delving into an unexpectedly deep conversation about what women crave in safe spaces. With many moments of raw honesty, this openness paved the way for us to explore the significance of validation and emotional security from a woman's viewpoint. We faced the question: What does emotional security look like in practical terms? Through our personal experiences and thoughtful discussions, we began to unravel the layers of emotional labor and societal expectations placed on women, especially black women. We ventured into the historical contexts that have shaped certain stereotypes, pondering how these perceptions influence women's ability to express vulnerability and seek support. This episode was a journey into understanding the complexities of gender dynamics and emotional well-being. With a commitment to continue this vital conversation in our next episode, we left our listeners with reflections to ponder: "Are we truly listening and providing the emotional security our partners need?" We're eager to further this enlightening exploration of validation, security, and the process of unlearning to relearn. How do we engage in these conversations in our own lives? And how can we better support the women around us to feel heard, validated, and secure? Stay tuned for next week’s episode, where we continue the conversation on creating safe spaces for women. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E6 · Thu, February 01, 2024
Creating Safe Spaces (Part 2)
Last week, we started scratching the surface on the topic of safe spaces. If you missed out, rewind to catch up, because today, we're going even deeper. Ever wonder why men often retreat into silence rather than share their feelings? How do past behaviors influence the way men communicate and express themselves? What boundaries should never be crossed and why? We're exploring these questions and more! Join us as we discuss the risks and rewards of emotional openness. We expose how societal expectations and negative reactions can prompt men to close off, impacting their self-esteem and roles within their relationships. We navigate through the delicate interplay of respect and expression, scrutinizing how both partners’ behaviors affect the emotional ecosystem and the importance of ongoing dialogue for a thriving bond. And stay tuned - next week, we're shifting the focus to the challenges that women encounter when carving out their own safe spaces, making this a truly comprehensive exploration that will encourage both parties to support one another in the most appropriate ways. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E5 · Thu, January 25, 2024
Creating Safe Spaces
This week, we delve into the intricate world of 'safe spaces'. What are they? Do we need others to create them, or can we forge them alone? We're exploring the essence of belonging and peace of mind in environments free from judgment and criticism. It's a candid discussion about the challenges of finding and offering safe spaces, especially in our relationships and communities. Get ready for a deeper dive into questioning societal norms about vulnerability and strength. If you listened to episode one (Learning to Be Vulnerable), then you know that there is an unfortunate misconception with the term vulnerability relating to men. We continue to break down the barriers, discussing how to foster growth and understanding in our most intimate relationships, and how this can extend to our wider communities. We redefine safe spaces - not just as physical locations, but as emotional sanctuaries. It's a continuous journey of learning, unlearning, and relearning; a pursuit to live life with authentic poise. Don't miss out on this enlightening discussion that promises to challenge your perspectives and inspire personal growth. Tune in, connect, and let's grow together! Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E4 · Thu, January 18, 2024
Detoxing From Unhealthy Beliefs of Ourselves
In this candid conversation, we continue the topic of expectations by visiting the question of what unhealthy beliefs we have of ourselves . We explore the fine line between ambition and unrealistic demands. We also confront the common trap of timing success. Learn why it's essential to understand and accept that success isn't time-bound, but a journey that's unique to each individual. Dive deep with us into personal reflections on societal pressures, the pitfalls of comparison, and the journey to self-understanding. Through our dialogue, we aim to shift the narrative around expectations, encouraging listeners to adopt a mentality of gratitude, build confidence, and replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E3 · Thu, January 11, 2024
Expectation of Others Redefined
Ever found yourself quietly seething because someone didn't live up to your expectations, even when they had no idea what those were? We've all been there, and that's exactly why we're tackling the intricate dance of expectations in our lives. In this episode, we pull back the curtain to reveal how the beliefs we hold about the future can either set us free or tie us down. We discuss the liberating power of healthy expectations, rooted in faith and potential, compared to the entrapment of unhealthy expectations, which often stem from unvoiced demands. Through our lens and personal stories, you'll gain insights into steering clear of the pitfalls of expectancy in your own relationships. Think expressing every little expectation sounds excessive? Think again. It turns out that clear communication is not just a buzzword; it's the lifeblood of trust and relationship success. We share our thoughts on the crucial nature of articulating expectations. So, if you're ready for some candid conversation on ensuring your unspoken expectations don't become unmet ones, you're in the right place. Wrapping up, we turn the spotlight onto the broader stage of societal expectations—where traditional roles and norms can obscure our true desires. With an honest exchange about gender roles, financial responsibilities, and the little things that make or break a relationship, we encourage you to take the driver's seat in the conversation. And as you step into the driver's seat, we're right there with you, inviting you to join our community on Instagram to share your journey of navigating life's myriad expectations. Let's keep the dialogue going and help each other stay composed in a world brimming with anticipation. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E2 · Thu, January 11, 2024
Navigating External Expectations and Pressure
Have you ever felt the weight of the world on your shoulders, not from your own dreams, but from the expectations of everyone around you? This episode peels back the layers of obligation and reveals the personal cost of shouldering them. Navigating the minefield of relationships often means confronting the silent contracts we never signed up for. In heartfelt conversations, we delve into the complexities of societal norms. This episode isn't about assigning blame but about understanding the origins of expectations, their impact on our autonomy, and the power of saying 'no'. Through a mix of reflection and revelation, we dissect the signs of unhealthy demands in relationships and the liberating realization that not every call for our attention must be answered. In this heart-to-heart, we not only dissect the problem but also chart a course toward self-preservation and balance. You'll join us as we journey from people pleasers to boundary setters, unearthing the tools that helped us prioritize our well-being and realign our lives with our true selves. Discover the importance of transparent communication, and how it can lead to more genuine connections and a more authentic existence. By the end, you'll be better equipped to navigate the expectations of others and a renewed appreciation for the art of self-care, empowering you to support those you love without losing yourself. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
S1 E1 · Thu, January 11, 2024
Learning to Be Vulnerable
Have you ever considered the strength that lies in your most private moments of openness? We're tackling the often misunderstood concept of vulnerability and its surprising role in shaping genuine leadership and deeper human connections. From the quiet introspection of the introverted mind to the societal masks that men are urged to wear, we unravel the fabric of emotional intelligence and its essential place in our personal growth. This episode isn't just about the tender emotions we shield from the world; it's about discovering the paradoxical power that comes from our willingness to be seen in our authentic state. We're sharing our own stories, opening the floor for a candid dialogue on how being emotionally exposed can forge stronger bonds and invite a deeper level of intimacy in our relationships. It's a conversation that challenges us to redefine strength and to support each other through the cultural shifts necessary for emotional expression to flourish. Finally, we cast our gaze on the communities we cultivate around us. We discuss the magnetic pull of the energy we exude and the importance of being surrounded by individuals who push us to grow and reflect our core values. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
Bonus · Tue, January 02, 2024
Welcome: Meet the Voices Behind the Mic
Embarking on a journey of growth and evolution isn't for the faint of heart, but it's a path we've chosen together. We, your devoted hosts, believe that sharing insights and stories from our lives can help kindle a flame of understanding and camaraderie. In our heartfelt inaugural episode, we pull back the curtain on the genesis of NoirPoised, our venture into the world of podcasting that is fueled by our passion for candid conversations and a desire to connect on a deeper level with our community. We're not just talking about the world around us; we're revealing our innermost transformations and inviting you to grow with us. In this welcome, we share the profound impact that open dialogues have had on our marriage and why we believe it's essential for enriching the lives within our community. As we recount our tentative first steps and the leap of faith into this project, we hope our story resonates with you, sparking reflection, conversation, and perhaps a bit of courage to step out of your own comfort zone. Join us, Ruth and Sam, as we strive to navigate life with grace, poise, and a touch of boldness. Send us your questions and/or topic suggestions here Like, share, follow and rate the podcast! Follow the journey: Instagram: @noirpoisedpodcast Youtube: @noirpoisedpodcast
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