In this raw, unfiltered episode of Mental Matters, host Asekho sits down with a trauma survivor and psychotherapist whose childhood was shattered by a father’s rage, a mother’s silence, and ashes spilled in milk—a metaphor for irreversible fractures. Together, they dismantle the myth of “one-and-done” therapy, exposing how modern psychology’s spiritual bypassing sells false promises of instant healing.

The guest unravels Carl Jung’s concept of the shadow—the exiled parts of ourselves born from rejection—and shares how decades of hypnotherapy, dream-tending, and recovering “tsunami nightmares” unearthed buried trauma. From a spanked six-year-old cowgirl to a near-fatal addiction, they reveal why healing isn’t about “fixing” pain but reclaiming disowned selves.

The conversation challenges popular narratives: Is all addiction rooted in trauma? Can you ever drink “normally” after recovery? And why do we cling to “comfortable pain” instead of confronting our shadows? With references to their poetic memoir Ashes in the Milk, the guest reframes trauma as poison turned to medicine—a lifelong alchemy of courage, not cure.

For anyone exhausted by superficial self-help, this episode is a compass for embracing the messy, non-linear path to wholeness. Because sometimes, the hurricane is the way home.

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