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Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

Join Andrea Owen, life coach and author, as she serves up self help in a easy-to-digest way that is also practical and implementable. Andrea brings you guests as well as solo episodes on topics such as perfectionism, the inner-critic, courage, and more.

Wed, April 30, 2025
Episode 673: Big Yes Energy, Comebacks, and Coming Home with Susan Hyatt
Friend of the show Susan Hyatt returns, and we’re getting into it, from the fears that keep us quiet to the fire it takes to reclaim what we want. Susan is a Master Certified Life Coach, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker who helps women turn up the volume on their lives, whether that means speaking up, starting over, or finally saying yes to themselves. In this conversation, we unpack what it means to come home to yourself in midlife, how to navigate the overwhelm of today’s political and social landscape, and why movement isn’t just about fitness—it’s emotional fuel. Plus, Susan shares her Comeback Compass for bouncing back after setbacks and the real talk we need around menopause, the orgasm gap, and women’s health in 2025. What You’ll Hear: How to reframe the fear of “who do I think I am?” (6:28) The role of physical movement in personal growth (8:52) Why creating before consuming is key to staying grounded (18:33) Susan’s Comeback Compass framework for handling setbacks and building resilience (21:28) What Big Yes Energy actually looks like (and how to tap into it) (25:46) The emerging conversations in women’s empowerment that deserve more airtime (29:27) Resources: Join the How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-Day Challenge 🎉 How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 8-Week Experience Susan’s website Big YES Morning Susan on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/673 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 23, 2025
Episode 672: Midlife, Menopause, and Taking Charge with Tamsen Fadal
Hot flashes, brain fog, mood swings… sound familiar? If you’ve ever felt like menopause hijacked your body and left you wondering what the hell just happened (or concerned that it may in the years to come), you’re not alone. But as this week’s episode assures you, you’re definitely not powerless. I’m talking with Tamsen Fadal, author of How to Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life, and Feel Even Better Than Before . Tamsen’s on a mission to flip the script on how we talk about menopause, less quiet suffering and more hope and empowerment. You’ll hear us talk about what your doctor probably isn’t telling you, how to advocate for yourself in midlife, and why menopause isn’t the end, it’s a damn evolution. In fact, for me, it was the path to coming home to myself. What You’ll Hear What surprised Tamsen most about women’s experiences once she started speaking up about menopause (5:17) A crash course on when to get tested for menopause symptoms (hint: you don’t have to wait until you’re miserable) (6:45) The truth about hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and the myth that it causes breast cancer (10:24) How we can finally change the narrative around menopause (15:48) How partners and family members can step up or how to bring them into the conversation so they actually get it (19:22) The unexpected gifts that come with perimenopause and menopause (yes, there are some!) (22:09) Could hormones be the reason you suddenly don’t give a shit anymore in midlife? Plus, why that shift can actually be the start of real freedom (23:24) The connection between menopause and big life changes, relationships, careers, identity shifts, and how to know if it’s your hormones or your partner that’s the problem (29:09) Resources: Join the How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-Day Challenge - We begin on April 28th! 🎉 Tamsen’s book, “How To Menopause” Tamsen on Instagram @ tamsenfadal The M Factor: Shredding the Silence on Menopause The Men’s Guide to Understanding Menopause The Menopause Society Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy read
Wed, April 16, 2025
Episode 671: Life Lesson 10 on Growth Isn’t Linear, And That’s the Whole Damn Point
Before we jump in… if you’re feeling stuck in people-pleasing, perfectionism, or self-sabotage—this is your sign. I’m hosting a free How To Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-day challenge to help you stop abandoning yourself and start showing up like the confident, grounded woman you’re meant to be. One small (but mighty) shift each day. Five days. Big energy. Real momentum. Join us HERE . ********** We’ve reached the final lesson in my 10-part series on Coming Home To Yourself, and this one brings it all together. If you’ve ever thought, “I should be further along by now,” you’re not alone, and you’re not failing. Growth is layered, not linear. It’s messy, spirally, and sometimes uncomfortable, but that’s not a problem, it’s the process. In this episode, I’m exploring what real healing and fulfillment look like. You’ll hear why chasing big, sexy goals can be a form of self-abandonment, how tiny experiments can shift everything, and why self-compassion is one of the most powerful tools we have. Most of all, I’ll remind you that the important thing isn’t the pace, it’s that you keep showing up. Because coming home to yourself is the success story. What you’ll hear about in this episode: Growth is Cyclical, Not a Checklist: It’s not about fixing the same thing over and over, but meeting familiar patterns with more awareness, strength, and self-compassion each time. The Myth of the Big, Sexy Goal: It’s not about achieving X to finally feel worthy—it’s about noticing when chasing the goal is really just abandoning yourself in disguise. Tiny Experiments over Giant Goals: It’s not about massive overhauls, it’s about trying small, time-bound shifts like “do this for 7 days” and letting curiosity lead. Your brain thrives on it, and showing up is the success. Self-Compassion & Forgiveness Are the Real Flex: You’re not behind, late, or broken. Growth means making space for grief, rage, shame, and fear, and forgiving the past you who was doing their best. Let Go to Move Forward: It’s not quitting, it’s trusting. Letting go makes space for aligned goals, deeper love, and the unshakable truth that no matter what, you’ve got you. Download the worksheet and review the summaries for all ten lessons at http://andreaowen.com/671 Resources from this episode: Find me on Instagram ! @heyandreaown How to Stop Feeling Like Shit 5-Day Challenge
Wed, April 09, 2025
Episode 670: Lesson 9 on Radical Self-Acceptance: How To Stop Fixing Yourself And Come Home To Who You Are
Today's lesson is radical self-acceptance, how to stop fixing yourself, and finally come home to who you are. Why did I choose this as one of the 10 topics? In my nearly 20 years of coaching women, self-acceptance comes up again and again. It’s a pattern I see so often. If you're in a transformational period, doing deep work, chasing self-improvement, and still not feeling like you’re enough... you're not alone. That push to grow while still feeling unworthy? That’s exactly why this topic matters. If you're someone who keeps chasing the next thing, thinking that will finally fix you or make you feel complete, and it’s still not landing, this is the episode I really want you to hear. To make this easy to follow and offer some reflection, I'm breaking the episode into five powerful parts, including the truth about why this is so hard and why it’s something we tend to circle back to again and again in our personal growth journey. Of course there is a worksheet for this episode! Download it at http://andreaowen.com/670 What you’ll hear about in this episode: What the Hell Is Radical Self-Acceptance? It’s not about loving everything, but seeing yourself fully, without judgment or sugarcoating. Why It’s So Damn Hard: Cultural and generational messaging to be smaller and quieter, internalized shame from decades of shape-shifting, and the fear that self-acceptance means becoming stagnant. The Wisdom of Your Inner Child: How unmet needs and childhood wounds shape perfectionism and people-pleasing, and why re-parenting in small, present ways leads to true healing Embodied Wisdom—Learning to Trust Your Body's Intelligence: Relearning how to trust your body’s intelligence, notice somatic cues, and practice self-acceptance through breathwork, rest, and nervous system care How to Actually Practice Radical Self-Acceptance: Shift your inner dialogue, build safety through compassion, and give yourself permission to be messy, soft, and worthy. Resources from this episode: How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching Program Coming Home to Yourself Private Coaching Write Your Way Through It Group Coaching Getting Damn Good At Life Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Lesson 1: Self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Lesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: Ho
Fri, April 04, 2025
Minisode 669: Don't Give Up 5 Minutes Before the Miracle Happens
Have you ever gotten to that place in your life where you're carrying so much…plates are spinning in the air and at the same time, somehow you seem to be juggling all of them. And then, one of them falls. Maybe you get an annoying email, maybe you have a minor inconvenience, or maybe someone cuts you off in traffic. Whatever it is, big or small, it's the quintessential “straw that breaks the camel's back”. Then you fall apart. Perhaps a mental and emotional meltdown ensues. I found myself there last night, and wanted to jump on the podcast to record a short minisode to tell you if you're there, or it's recently happened, or even if you've ever been there in the past, I see you. Being in that place reminded me of the quote, “Don't give up 5 minutes before the miracle happens”. It's not easy to do life, especially right now. There's so much stress and pressure upon us as humans, as women. Listen to this short episode as I talk more about this, and offer a couple of small strategies to help you walk through this type of fire when it happens. I see you, I understand you, and I love you. xoxo, Andrea Resources from this episode: How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching Program Coming Home to Yourself Private Coaching Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Lesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/669 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 02, 2025
Episode 668: Lesson 8 on Leaving People Behind to Find Yourself
Leaving people behind can be painful, but it’s often necessary when you’ve chosen growth, healing, and self-trust. There will be moments when you realize that not everyone will walk the path you’re on, and that’s okay. Even though it can feel like it, letting go doesn’t mean you’re too much; it simply means you’re stepping into deeper spaces that some people haven’t reached yet. Also, the depth of connection is not just about what you bring. For a long time, I thought what I brought would be enough because I could make up for what the other person lacked, but it’s also about how deeply the other person has explored their own heart and soul. Ending relationships while you're on a journey of finding yourself is one of the hardest things you'll ever do. It’s gut-wrenching, messy, and often feels like the universe is testing you. But it’s also a powerful lesson in choosing yourself, even when it feels impossible. In this episode, I’ll explore how to navigate the grief of leaving people behind, adjust to relationships, or saying goodbye with grace, all while honoring your own healing. Download the worksheet to dig deeper into this process at http://andreaowen.com/668 What you’ll hear about in this episode: Understanding the Pull to Let Go of Certain Relationships: Healing and aligning with your values leads to craving depth in relationships, revealing gaps; surrendering to the truth, not the fantasy; avoiding self-abandonment, and trusting yourself to let go when hope keeps you stuck. The Grief of Actually Letting Go: The grief of holding out hope that someone will change can feel easier than the grief of accepting them as they are. Creating Boundaries, Making Adjustments, and Saying Goodbye: How to adjust relationships, set boundaries, and say goodbye with love and clarity, while honoring your healing and not self-abandoning for someone else's comfort. Resources from this episode: How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching Program Coming Home to Yourself Private Coaching Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Lesson 1: Self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Lesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power Lesson 3: The Magic of Surrender Lesson 4: Life Purpose: Coming Home to Yourself Lesson 5: What’s Impor
Wed, March 26, 2025
Episode 667: Lesson 7 on The Three Things We’re All Searching For - Freedom, Feeling Alive, and Wholeness
When it comes to life, we’re all looking for various things that will ultimately lead to our fulfillment. But what I’ve come to realize is that at the end of the day, for most of us, it comes down to three things we’re all searching for: freedom, feeling alive, and wholeness. And here's the truth: they’re not “out there.” These experiences come from within, and often, they require us to do the work. Whether it’s emotional freedom, reigniting your passion, or embracing your whole self, it’s a journey. By the way, this episode is part of a special series. There are six others you can check out (linked below) where I share the most impactful life lessons I’ve learned and lived, leading up to my 50th birthday. You don’t need to cannonball into exploring what it means to be free, alive or whole. Start small. Try a moment of honesty, do something you love, or simply journal about it. These are inner shifts, daily choices that matter. As you listen to this episode or afterward, ask yourself these questions: Where do you feel most free, alive, and whole? Where do you need more of that? You’re allowed to claim it now, not later. Download this episode’s worksheet at http://andreaowen.com/667 What you’ll hear about in this episode: What Freedom Really Means : Emotional freedom, freedom of choice, and freedom in relationships, what blocks it (like people-pleasing and perfectionism), and how to reclaim it through self-trust, surrender, and questioning your conditioning. What It Really Means to Feel Alive: I’m talking beyond just happiness, including passion, purpose, play, and intuition, what shuts it down, and how to reignite your aliveness through curiosity, embodiment, and saying yes to what lights you up. How to Embrace The True Meaning of Wholeness : Accept all parts of yourself without needing to be “fixed,” the ways we resist it through shame, regret, and perfectionism, and how to cultivate it through self-compassion, shadow work, and honoring your journey. Resources from this episode: 🎉 Don’t forget! I’m giving away a copy of one of my books every Wednesday on Instagram ! 🎉 How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching Program Private Coaching with Me! Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Lesson 1: Self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Lesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power <p
Fri, March 21, 2025
Episode 666: 365 Happy Bedtime Mantras with Shannon Kaiser
I’m hitting pause on our Coming Home to Yourself series for a special conversation with a true kindred spirit and friend of the podcast, Shannon Kaiser. Shannon is back to talk about her newest book, 365 Happy Bedtime Mantras , and let’s be real, who doesn’t need better sleep these days? If you’ve ever struggled with winding down at night whether it be due to stress, anxiety or something in between, having a tangible tool on your nightstand can be a game-changer. Shannon’s book is exactly that, a beautiful, accessible tool to help release stress and anxiety so you can finally get the rest you deserve. As Shannon reminds us, "Sleep is a necessary focus of our overall health." What you’ll hear in this episode: The difference between releasing stress vs. just managing it (and why that distinction matters) (6:52) How stress and anxiety are the biggest culprits keeping you up at night (8:04) Why a bedtime ritual is key to signaling safety to your nervous system (12:05) The hidden anxiety high-achievers often don’t recognize, and how to start healing it (14:23) The underestimated role of sleep in emotional and physical healing (18:38) Shannon’s journey with ketamine therapy and how it’s supported her mental health (32:50) Resources from this episode: 🎉 Don’t forget! I’m giving away a copy of one of my books every Wednesday on Instagram ! 🎉 How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching Program - Coming Soon! Private Coaching with Me! Shannon on Instagram @ShannonkaiserWrites Shannon’s websites: PlayWithTheWorld.com and RadicalBodyLovewithShannon.com Shannon’s new book, 365 Happy Bedtime Mantras Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/666 Learn more about your ad
Wed, March 19, 2025
Episode 665: Lesson 6 on Healing My Relationship with Love: From Heartbreak and Fear to Acceptance and Trust
I’m breaking down how I spent years approaching love from a place of fear, blaming past partners, blaming myself, and clinging to a story that had already been written. Even when I thought I’d moved on, parts of me were still holding on. Finding acceptance and trust wasn’t perfect or linear, but it changed everything. I’m sharing my full-circle journey, the power of radical acceptance, and how Ketamine therapy helped me finally, what I call, “land the plane”. Love is risky because it’s vulnerable—but trusting ourselves is the key. When fear creeps in and I find myself getting squirrely, it’s curiosity that is my go-to tool. If you’ve ever felt stuck in old love stories, let’s talk about what it really takes to move forward. Download this episode’s worksheet at http://andreaowen.com/665 What you’ll hear about in this episode: The Realization: Fear Came from the Story, Not the Unknown: I thought my hesitation around love was about heartbreak, but it went deeper Why I Couldn’t Let Go: I wasn’t stuck on or hurt from past relationships, I was stuck searching for an alternative ending. Healing showed me how deeply I carried this in my body, affecting all forms of love, including my own My “Landing the Plane” Moment: Accepting that the past played out exactly as it needed to The Power of Radical Acceptance : Shifting from fear and anger to gratitude for the love I’ve experienced An Invitation for You: What love stories are you still holding onto? Where do you need to trust yourself more? Resources from this episode: 🎉 Don’t forget! I’m giving away a copy of one of my books every Wednesday on Instagram ! 🎉 How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching Program - Coming Soon! Private Coaching with Me! Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Lesson 1: Self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Lesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power Lesson 3: The Magic of Surrender Lesson 4: Life Purpose: Coming Home to Yourself Lesson 5: What’s Important for a Long-Term Relationship Subscribe for free to my Ketamine Therapy Journey podcast series Book recommendations: I love a good personal dev
Wed, March 12, 2025
Episode 664: Lesson 5 on What’s Important for a Long-Term Relationship
I’m back with Lesson 5 in my Coming Home to Yourself series, sharing what I’ve found to be the seven essential foundations for building a healthy, lasting, and loving relationship. I also talk about how some of these foundations have helped shape my relationship with my new partner, Dr. Fox (not his real name…more on that later)! As I get ready to celebrate my 50th birthday in April, I’ve been reflecting on the biggest life lessons I’ve learned about love, partnership, and personal growth. The health of our relationships has a huge impact on our overall well-being, which is why choosing the right partner, whether you decide to get married or not, is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. A thriving relationship isn’t just about chemistry; it takes emotional maturity, communication, self-trust, resilience, and daily effort. In fact, love isn’t just about finding the right person, it’s about being the right person. Download this episode’s worksheet at http://andreaowen.com/664 What you’ll hear about in this episode: Emotional Maturity and How to Own Your Sh*t : Self-awareness, self-regulation, and recognizing when you're projecting past wounds. Radical Honesty and Authentic Communication : Honesty fuels connection, even when it’s hard or messy. Self-Trust & Independence : Keep your passions, friendships, and personal growth alive. Conflict Resilience: You Two vs. The Problem : Ditch shame, defensiveness, and the need to “win.” Letting Go of Control and Holding Boundaries : Trust your partner while standing firm in your needs. Deep Respect and Mutual Appreciation : Love is a daily choice, not just a feeling. Shared Vision and Growth : Use the “Relationship Check-In” to assess what’s working, what’s not, and what you both need. Resources from this episode: 🎉 Don’t forget! I’m giving away a copy of one of my books every Wednesday on Instagram ! 🎉 How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Group Coaching Program - Coming Soon! Private Coaching with Me! Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Lesson 1: Self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Lesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power Lesson 3: The Magic of Surrender Lesson 4: Life Purpose: Coming Home to Yourself Book recommendations: I love
Fri, March 07, 2025
Minisode 663: On Life-Coaching and How Kathryn Found Her Spark
If you’ve ever wondered what life coaching really looks like, this minisode is a little glimpse into the process. Kathryn, a former client (and mental health therapist), suggested she come on to share her experience, because coaching is different for everyone. She opens up about navigating what was next for her, breaking free from people-pleasing, and finally giving herself permission to take big, bold steps, including a move to another state and launching a jewelry business. Plus, she shares the simple morning ritual that reignited her spark that she co-created in her work with Andrea. Sometimes, all it takes is saying your dreams out loud, like Kathryn did. Because, the universe might just be waiting for you to take that first step. Resources from this episode: Coaching with me! Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 05, 2025
Episode 662: Lesson 4 on Life Purpose: Coming Home to Yourself
Welcome to Lesson 4, where we explore the deeper meaning behind Coming Home to Yourself and challenge the idea that purpose, like love, success, and happiness, comes from outside of us . At (almost) 50, I've come to realize that our real purpose isn't about what we do, it's about who we become. In this episode, I’ll explore how culture and society shape our need to seek purpose and external validation—and whether that truly serves us. I'll also break down what it means to truly come home to yourself and how to shift from seeking to simply being. Lastly, I’ll share practical ways to start this journey. Coming home to yourself isn’t a one-time event; it’s a lifelong practice. It’s about unlearning the belief that you must be more to be enough. Download this episode’s worksheet at http://andreaowen.com/662! What you’ll hear in this episode: The Search for Purpose: How culture conditions us to seek love, worth, and belonging through achievements, people-pleasing, and validation, yet never truly feel fulfilled. What It Means to Come Home to Yourself: Shifting from seeking to being, reclaiming yourself over self-abandonment, and realizing you are already whole. How to Start Coming Home to Yourself: It starts with unlearning external validation, reclaiming your truth, building self-trust, embracing stillness, rediscovering lost parts of yourself, and choosing wholeness over perfection. Resources from this episode: 🎉 Also, “Hi!,” I’m giving away a copy of one of my books each week on Instagram ! 🎉 Private Coaching with Me! Write Your Way Through It Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Lesson 1: Self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Lesson 2: The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power Lesson 3: The Magic of Surrender Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: and
Wed, February 26, 2025
Episode 661: Lesson 3 on The Magic of Surrender
Surrender isn’t about giving up— it’s about letting go . In Lesson 3, we’re exploring the magic of surrender. What does it mean to surrender and what does it look like in personal growth as well as in relationships? Surrender is the deep trust in the unfolding of your path. Surrender in relationships isn’t about rolling over or giving up your needs—it’s about loosening your grip on control, allowing love to evolve naturally, and trusting the process of connection. Surrender is not a weakness, passivity, or resignation. Learning to surrender is a process and it doesn’t have to be a massive life shift. You can practice in small ways. These life lessons are often learned the hard way and they become our greatest teachers. My hope is that by sharing my experiences in my special 10-week “Coming Home to Yourself” podcast series, you’ll recognize these universal truths in your own journey and move through them with a little more ease.. Download this episode’s worksheet at http://andreaowen.com/661 What you’ll hear in this episode: The Role of Surrender in Healing and Personal Growth: How surrender is deeply tied to self-trust (which connects to your work around self-abandonment) Surrender in Relationships : what it looks like, for example, letting go of rigid expectations and softening into trust; and why it matters. How to Practice Surrender: how to surrender to your emotions instead of suppressing them. Resources from this episode: 🎉 Don’t forget that I’m giving away a copy of one of my books each week on Instagram ! 🎉 Write Your Way Through It Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Lesson 1: Self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Lesson 2 - The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/661 <p
Fri, February 21, 2025
Minisode 660: Staying grounded amidst difficult changes
Before we jump into today’s podcast episode, I want to remind you that Write Your Way Through It is currently open for registration! Join us now and take advantage of the early bird price. We start at the end of this month! This week's minisode comes from a direct message I received from a podcast listener. She sent me a message saying that she related to something I was going through and admires me for the way I seem to handle it. [Visit AndreaOwen.com/660 to see the direct message] I'll be honest with you, this one made me very emotional. Partly, because I always love receiving messages like these from listeners, partly because it always feels amazing to be validated for your own growth, and partly because I knew I wanted to come on the podcast and be honest with you about what that particular journey has really looked like. Do I always move through challenges like these with steadiness? Not at all. Tune into the podcast where I open up about this, talking specifically about values work, self trust, and the support we seek and hopefully find in our friendships. Resources from this episode: Write Your Way Through It Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Episode 658: Lesson 1 on self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/660 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 19, 2025
Episode 659: Lesson 2 on The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power
“Emotional fluency is your path to power.” Welcome to Lesson 2, where I explore what I call the four holy emotions—grief, terror, rage, and shame—and how they can unlock your power. But like any personal growth journey, we need to lay the groundwork first. I’ll share why we resist these emotions, explore how to stop resisting them, and finally, see them as sacred messengers rather than obstacles. If you’re new to my special 10-week “Coming Home to Yourself” podcast series leading up to my 50th birthday, welcome! Every Wednesday, I’m sharing a life lesson that has shaped my personal growth over the last 50 years. I put a lot of thought into what has truly propelled me forward. And because birthdays (and personal growth) deserve to be celebrated, don’t forget that I’m giving away a copy of one of my books each week on Instagram ! 🎉 Each of the emotions I discuss in this episode has an unmet need, a truth, or a deep intelligence beneath it. When we meet them with curiosity instead of avoidance, they become portals to freedom, clarity, and self-trust. One more thing - grab this episode’s worksheet below! ⬇ What you’ll hear in this episode: Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame: How each one, when met with curiosity instead of fear, leads us closer to personal power. How We Typically Resist the Four Holy Emotions: The coping strategies we develop: numbing, perfectionism, people-pleasing, workaholism, addiction, dissociation How to Work WITH These Emotions Instead of Against Them: Leaving you with the question, ”What if we started honoring these emotions instead of fearing them?" Resources from this episode: Write Your Way Through It Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Find me on Instagram @heyandreaowen Lesson 1: Self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: <a href="htt
Wed, February 12, 2025
Episode 658: Lesson 1 on Self-abandonment, Codependency, and Self-trust
I am kicking off a special 10-week podcast series leading up to my 50th birthday! Every Wednesday, I’m diving into a different life lesson which includes reflections on personal growth, resilience, and what it truly means to come home to yourself. Because birthdays (and personal growth) should be celebrated, I am also giving away a copy of one of my books each week on Instagram ! 🎉 This first episode is all about self-abandonment, codependency, and self-trust—big topics that have shaped my own journey. I’m breaking down what self-abandonment actually looks like, why so many of us fall into that pattern, and most importantly, how to shift towards self-trust. If this resonates with you, stick around for the whole series—there’s so much more to come. What you’ll hear in this episode: The Dance of Self-Abandonment : How it shows up in your life and relationships, the weight of shame and the inner critic, and how all the “shoulds” silence your truth in favor of the “safer, more reasonable” path. Meeting Your Inner Compass : Tuning into your body’s wisdom, laying the foundation for self-trust, and granting yourself the freedom to be messy and imperfect as you find your way back to yourself. The Courage to Stay : Choosing yourself changes everything—navigating the discomfort, embracing small acts of self-trust, and witnessing the powerful and often uncomfortable ripple effects in your relationships. As we move through this series together, my hope is that these episodes help you reflect on your own journey and what it means to come home to yourself. Building self-trust isn’t about getting it perfect—it’s about being your own safety net, moment by moment, with curiosity and compassion. Resources from this episode: Write Your Way Through It Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Find me on Instagram @heyandreaowen Minisode 657: Where do we go from here? Minisode 637: The anatomy of self-trust Episode 623: Gene Keys, Personal Discovery, and Purpose with Tracie Cornell Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find al
Fri, February 07, 2025
Minisode 657: Where do we go from here?
If you’re living in the United States (and even if you don’t), the last few weeks have been a doozy. Between the fires in Los Angeles, and the changes that are happening that our government has been pushing forward, current events have been enough to not only make our heads spin, but cause peak levels of anxiety. And boy do I feel you. I recorded a short minisode sharing with you two things I’ve found online that have been enormously helpful. There’s no shortage of information out there about what’s happening (whether that information is reliable or not), and I wanted to bring you something about where we go from here. Last, starting on Wednesday, you’ll see something new land in your inbox and in the podcast feed: Ten weekly life lessons I’ll be creating episodes about, as I approach my 50th birthday in April! I’ll be giving a book away every week, so stay tuned for details on how to win 🎉 Resources from this episode: Write Your Way Through It Email from Bernie Sanders Facebook post on the tactic of overwhelm Sign up to make sure you don’t miss any of my birthday episodes! Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/657 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 05, 2025
Episode 656: The Mental Load, Boundaries, and Self-Compassion with Dr. Kat Kaeni
“You just need to ask for help!” Sure, sounds easy—until you actually try to do it. This week, we’re tackling the real reasons setting boundaries is hard and why the mental load still falls disproportionately on women. My guest, Dr. Kat Kaeni, is a perinatal mental health-certified psychologist and host of the podcast Mom & Mind . She’s here to break down how our conditioning keeps us stuck in burnout mode and what we can do to shift out of it. We talk about the mental weight of keeping everything running and why self-compassion and boundaries aren’t just fluffy concepts—they’re essential for protecting your peace and wellbeing. What you’ll hear: The truth about boundaries and why they’re so hard to keep (5:55) How shame and self-compassion affect mental health (20:38) Strategies to help you improve your overall mental well-being, today (30:25) Why the mental load tends to fall on women and what to do about it (33:08) Resources: Sign up for my email list Dr. Kat Kaeni’s website Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/656 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 29, 2025
Episode 655: Coaching Session with Lisa on self-abandonment
“A lot of days it feels like standing in a pile of rubble and trying to figure it all out.” In this coaching session, I sit down with Lisa, a listener who’s grappling with self-abandonment and the exhaustion that comes from always putting others first. In fact, during this session you’ll hear me talk about how Lisa has “mastered the art of walking away from herself to shield from walking away from others”. Together, we unpack her struggles and explore how small, intentional steps can help her rebuild a stronger connection to herself. If you’ve ever felt stuck, resentful, or unsure how to set boundaries, this conversation will resonate. I’m sharing practical tools and insight to help you shift your mindset, examine your relationship with resentment and anger; and take meaningful steps toward the life you deserve. What You’ll Hear The emotional weight of prioritizing everyone else and losing yourself in the process Why anger often masks deeper feelings like resentment and hurt—and how to unpack them Doing the personal development work and the power of small steps in rewiring your brain Journaling as a tool for clarity and connecting with your emotions Resources: Private Coaching Sign up for my email list My book, Make Some Noise Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/655 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 22, 2025
Episode 654: Inner Wisdom, Ancestral Wisdom, and Healing with Asha Frost
I’m thrilled to welcome Asha Frost, an indigenous medicine woman, bestselling author of You Are the Medicine , and creator of the newly released Animal Elders Oracle Deck . Asha and I dive into the transformative power of reconnecting with our roots, embracing the wisdom of the seasons, and learning to trust the medicine within ourselves. We talk about the beauty of slowing down, connecting with nature, and the magic of awe and wonder. As you listen, I hope you’ll be inspired to embrace your own cycles of growth and healing with compassion and curiosity What you’ll hear: How vulnerability can become a powerful tool for healing and supporting others (3:55) Reclaiming your inner medicine (“medicine sparks”) and reconnecting with Self (5:26) Rediscovering and honoring your ancestral roots and healing generational trauma (12:04) Ways to align your evolution with the natural rhythms and cycles of the earth (30:21) Resources: Join me for free group coaching calls in January! Sign up for my email list Asha’s website Asha’s Animal Elders Oracle Deck Asha on Instagram @asha.frost Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/654 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, January 17, 2025
Minisode 653: Celebrating small victories and why it matters
As the new year kicks off, it can be helpful to spend some time reflecting, intention-setting, and embracing fresh opportunities for growth. In this minisode, we explore why celebrating small wins matters more than ever and how they can create a ripple effect of positivity and progress, even in challenging times. What you’ll hear in this episode: The Psychology of Small Wins: Learn how celebrating even the tiniest accomplishments activates your brain's reward system and fosters motivation. Momentum Over Perfection: Small victories build momentum and help combat the all-or-nothing mindset that often hinders your progress. Practical Ways to Celebrate : From journaling to a little dance, discover how to make celebrating small wins a meaningful (and fun!) habit. The Ripple Effect: Understand how small wins accumulate to create lasting change and success in the bigger picture. What it looks like: Explore examples of what small wins in personal growth can look like. As we navigate the early days of this year, let’s commit to honoring our progress—step by step, win by win. Whether it’s finishing a challenging task, finding time to rest, or showing kindness in a tough moment, every victory is worth celebrating. Thank you for tuning in, and may this episode inspire you to embrace the joy in your journey. P.S. Our hearts go out to everyone in Los Angeles affected by the recent fires. These moments of hardship remind us of the importance of resilience, hope, and finding light in even the smallest victories. Resources from this episode: Sign up for our free group coaching calls coming up in January Sign up for my email list Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/653 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 15, 2025
Episode 652: Trauma, Surviving, and Living Well with Jessica Graham
I’m thrilled to welcome back Jessica Graham, an incredible author, trauma expert, and meditation teacher, to talk about their brand-new book, Being (Sick) Enough: Thoughts on Invisible Illness, Childhood Trauma, and Living Well When Surviving is Hard . If you’ve ever felt the weight of trauma, chronic illness, or just navigating life in a challenging world, Jessica’s wisdom will resonate deeply. In this conversation, we explore the complexities of healing, mindfulness, and finding balance in a world that often feels overwhelming. After listening, my hope is that you’ll walk away with not only a better understanding of the connection between trauma and physical health but also actionable insights for living well—even when surviving feels hard. What you’ll hear: What sparked Jessica’s new book and how it supports those navigating trauma and chronic illness (17:52) Why we often need science to trust ourselves and what that reveals about healing (21:29) The science of “limbic resonance” and how rewiring our attachment systems can transform relationships and choices (26:48) How mindfulness isn’t a one-size-fits-all practice (31:59) Jessica’s journey of coming out as nonbinary and finding healing through alignment (37:27) Strategies for living well in a world full of political, environmental, and societal challenges (48:55) Plus, a coaching episode update on Christina about getting out of her comfort zone! (58:11) Resources: Join me for free group coaching calls on January 21st and January 23rd! Private Coaching with Andrea Jessica’s website Episode 643: Sexuality and Spiritual Awakening Jessica Graham Episode 623: Gene Keys, Personal Discovery, and Purpose with Tracie Cornell Andrea’s psychedelic therapy private podcast feed Episode 648: Coaching session w/ Christina on getting out of her comfort zone Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: <a href="http://andreao
Wed, January 08, 2025
Episode 651: Intention, Self-Awareness, and Self-Trust with Heather Chauvin
Heather Chauvin is back, and we’re exploring what it really means to step into your power—especially when life feels overwhelming. As a leadership coach, Heather helps ‘successful’ women live, work, and parent with courage and authenticity, on their own terms. Through her podcast, Emotionally Uncomfortable , and her work, she offers practical tools and fresh perspectives on what it takes to not just survive, but truly thrive. We talk about what happens when you stop running from life’s storms and start facing them instead. Heather shares how tuning into your body’s signals can transform your relationship with fear, anxiety, and overwhelm—and help you create a life that feels grounded, even when the world around you feels chaotic. What you’ll hear: Why running toward challenges (like a buffalo) can help you move through them faster (9:44) How to recognize the difference between inner wisdom and external noise (15:16) Simple prompts to guide self-trust and decision-making (17:01) What your body might be trying to tell you through stress, fatigue, or other symptoms (38:14) Everyday practices to embody the kind of person your younger self needed (46:39) Resources: Heather’s website 647 Minisode: Simple New Year ritual 649: Coaching session w/ Jenna on being on the “right path” Sign up for my email list Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/651 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, January 03, 2025
Minisode 650: Letting Go & Learning the Practice of Detachment
In this minisode, we’re diving into a topic that hits close to home for so many of us (me too!): letting go of control and surrendering outcomes. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in the cycle of overthinking, micromanaging, or gripping too tightly to people or situations, this episode is for you. Together, we’ll explore why control can feel so comforting, yet so exhausting, and how we can begin to release it in ways that empower, rather than paralyze, us. Because this is an enormous topic for me in my own healing and growth, I got the word “surrender” tattooed on my arm in my own handwriting in 2016. How much energy do you spend trying to control situations, people, or outcomes that are simply out of your hands? This episode is an invitation to rethink the way we approach control and surrender. We’ll walk through the telltale signs of over-control, the fears that drive it, and tangible steps to cultivate detachment without giving up on what matters most. What you’ll hear: We often try to control out of fear, a need for certainty, or an ego-driven desire to get things “right” or “better.” Signs of over-control include exhaustion, strained relationships, and difficulty asking for help. Recognizing where control is sneaking in is the first step to release it. Reflection prompts such as Where are you gripping too tightly—work, relationships, parenting, or personal goals? (plus more examples) Control is often an illusion—we can influence outcomes but not guarantee them. Surrender is not giving up—it’s trusting the process while staying committed to what matters. What detachment is and isn’t. FIVE tangible practices for you to use starting now. Surrendering frees up energy for what you can control—your actions, mindset, and attitude—while creating space for unexpected beauty in life. “The most beautiful things often come when we release the grip and allow space for the unexpected to come to life.” Resources from this episode: Sign up for our free group coaching calls coming up in January Sign up for my email list Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/650
Wed, January 01, 2025
Episode 649: Coaching session with Jenna on being on the “right path”
I have another coaching podcast episode for you based on chapter two in 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life —all about taking responsibility for your life! This episode asks the big question, “Am I on the right path?” Jenna joined me to discuss her journey and the challenges of staying committed to a path when self-doubt and competing ideas creep in. We’ve all felt that uncertainty about whether we’re heading in the right direction or second-guessed decisions we’ve made. Jenna’s experience is a reminder that growth and direction come when we embrace the process—even when it feels messy. What You’ll Hear Jenna’s struggle with staying the course when doubts creep in How to stay patient with yourself during life’s highs and lows The challenge of committing to a path when other options seem tempting Encouragement for trusting your journey Resources: 🎉 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life Re-release Celebration – Free PDF and Zoom Coaching Calls! Episode 648: Coaching session with Christina on getting out of her comfort zone Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/649 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 25, 2024
Episode 648: Coaching session with Christina on getting out of her comfort zone
I have a coaching podcast episode for you—based on chapter three in 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life – all on stepping out of your comfort zone. In this episode, Christina shares her journey of launching her business and the challenges she faces when it comes to putting herself out there. You might not struggle with the same thing as Christina, but pay attention and look for the universal parts of her story. We all get stuck in our heads, worrying about a problem that isn't the problem. Christina’s experience is a reminder that, no matter where we are in our journey, it's easy to distract ourselves from what matters most. What You’ll Hear Christina’s struggle with the fear of visibility and taking bold steps forward How distractions often take priority over the things that matter most The internal battle between knowing what to do and avoiding it The emotional journey of building a business and confronting the discomfort of being seen Resources: 🎉 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life Re-release Celebration – Free PDF and Zoom Coaching Calls! Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/648 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, December 20, 2024
Minisode 647: A simple new year ritual
Happy New Year 🥳 With the new year comes endless options for NEW YEAR, NEW YOU, am I right? It can feel a bit overwhelming, and then sometimes we might grab onto one particular ritual, get excited and then it falls apart. Things like setting new year's resolutions, starting a new fitness program, or if you’re like me, deciding you’re going to learn how to shuffle dance, realize it takes more work than you thought, then quit. For this last minisode of 2024, I thought I’d walk you through a simple ritual I do for Winter Solstice, and it’s something you can do any time of the year! Listen in to follow along and do your own new year's ritual! Here’s to your BEST YEAR YET! Resources: Free Chapters from 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life and access to free group coaching Retreat with me! Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/647 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 18, 2024
Episode 646: Confidence, Style, and Strength with Heidi Clements
Radical self-love and self-acceptance take center stage as writer and social media creator Heidi Clements shares her inspiring journey of reinvention in her 60s. Heidi uses her TikTok and Instagram platforms to connect with women of all ages, sharing stories, style, and the wisdom she's gained through her unique experiences. An advocate for more stories about women in their 50s, she challenges societal norms and celebrates the pursuit of happiness on your own terms. In this episode, Heidi opens up about her experiences in Hollywood and how they shaped her views on self-acceptance, aging, and beauty. We discuss the journey of cultivating self-love and radical self-acceptance, embracing every part of yourself—the good, the bad, and the messy. Plus, we explore the empowering connection between dressing for yourself and building unshakable confidence. What you’ll hear in this episode: Why Heidi started TikTok and Instagram to share her style and life stories. (4:50) How Hollywood shaped Heidi’s views on aging, beauty, and self-acceptance. (15:48) Heidi’s journey to letting go of opinions and embracing confidence. (18:18) The connection between personal style and self-confidence. (23:58) Resources: 🎉 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life Re-release Celebration – Free PDF and Zoom Coaching Calls! Heidi on Instagram @welcometoheidi Midlife Monologues on Instagram @midlifemonologues Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/646 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 11, 2024
Episode 645: High-Functioning Codependency and Boundaries with Terri Cole
Terri Cole is back for her 7th appearance—yes, 7th—to dive into high-functioning codependency and boundaries. Her latest book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency , is a game-changer and I am thrilled to welcome Terri back to the show! Together we unpack the myth of what codependency is—especially for high-achieving women—and give us a clear picture of high-functioning codependency (HFC). We’re talking about things like auto advice-giving and running everyone else’s life at the expense of your sanity. Terri and I also break down tools such as resentment inventory and the art of detachment (she explains what these are - don’t worry!). And we also talk about boundaries, of course! Specifically how healthy boundaries aren’t about shutting people out; they’re about letting yourself breathe. What you’ll hear in this episode: What is high-functioning codependency and how does it show up? (6:11) Where it all begins: understanding root causes and the need for control (17:38) Mastering the art of detachment without losing the connection (23:58) The secret to setting boundaries that actually work (27:49) Resentment inventory: your tool for spotting burnout and over-giving (33:30) Resources: 🎉 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life Re-release Celebration – Free PDF and Zoom Coaching Calls! Terri’s website Terri’s book Terri’s HFC Toolkit Episode 385: How to Be a Boundary Boss with Terri Cole Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/645 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, December 06, 2024
Minisode 644: 10 ways we take things personally, when we shouldn't (Part 2)
I’m so glad you’re here for this second part of our mini-series on not taking things personally. A couple of weeks ago, in Episode 640 , we explored how taking things personally shows up in our lives—whether in work settings, relationships, or daily interactions. Today, we’re continuing the conversation with actionable strategies to help you shift your perspective and build emotional resilience. Think of these as tools for setting boundaries, reclaiming your narrative, and staying grounded when life feels a little too personal. Let’s dive in! What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Recognizing Your Personal Stories: Learn how to identify and reframe the assumptions and beliefs that might be causing unnecessary emotional reactions. Building Emotional Space: Discover simple breathing and visualization techniques to create mental distance and regain control over your reactions. Strengthening Self-Worth: Find out how tools like mantras, affirmations, and reflective practices can help you fortify your sense of self Shifting Perspective: Explore creative ways to step outside of your immediate emotions and see situations from a neutral or detached point of view. Celebrating Your Growth: See why reflecting on small wins can create big shifts in how you respond to challenging situations over time. Taking things less personally isn’t about suppressing your emotions or excusing poor behavior—it’s about choosing how you want to respond. By consistently practicing these tools, you’ll build stronger emotional resilience and reclaim the narrative around your experiences. If this resonates with you, be sure to check out Part 1 (Episode 640) for more insights and context. And if you’re ready to go deeper into this kind of work, let’s connect! My next Daring Way Retreat is open for registration at andreaowen.com/retreat . Resources from this episode: Minisode on Not Taking Things Personally, Part 1 Daring Way retreat (book a call with me!) Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: <a href
Wed, December 04, 2024
Episode 643: Sexuality and Spiritual Awakening Jessica Graham
I’m bringing back an amazing conversation with Jessica Graham, a spiritual and sexual activist, author, meditation teacher, and sex and intimacy guide. Jessica isn’t just a guest—I had the privilege of working with her as my coach during a deeply transformative chapter in my personal growth and healing. This episode highlights her dedication to helping others explore and heal their relationship with sexuality. In this episode, we talked about shame, the messaging we received as children about sex and sexuality, and what that all means. We also spoke about the common struggle women face when it comes to their feelings about sex. Plus, Jessica shared how the combination of affirmation and mindfulness can help with sex and intimacy. I hope our conversation will encourage you to explore inner work around your sexuality and spiritual awakening. In this episode you’ll hear: How Jessica is a sex coach who is more than a sex coach (14:35) Sexuality inventory: what it is and what’s the purpose (25:11) The most common struggle women face around sexuality (31:27) Why self-compassion is so important to any kind of personal development work (48:04) Resources mentioned in this episode: 🎉 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life Re-release Celebration - Free PDF and Zoom Calls! Jessica’s website Jessica’s book, Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/643 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 27, 2024
Episode 642: Intimacy, Tantra, and Honoring Your Needs with Magda Kay
We’re diving into the art of creating deeper intimacy with guest Magda Kay! Magda is an intimacy expert, Tantra teacher, and conscious relating coach dedicated to helping people connect with their deepest desires and experience transformative intimacy. “Sex and intimacy are not the same,” Magda shares. For her, intimacy is about the depth of human experience—how fully you engage with yourself and the world around you. In this episode, we explore ways to connect with your inner self, honor your needs, and cultivate intimacy in your relationships. Plus, we unpack the practice of Tantra and how embracing your full sensuality can transform your life. What you’ll hear in this episode: Are sex and intimacy the same? Sex is something you do - intimacy is how you do it. (4:42) Access your deepest desires and be more intimate - but, where do you even start? (8:24) Magda explains what she calls power centers and how they help you connect to your inner self and honor your needs (10:32) The most common mistakes people make when losing relationships or experiencing their end (16:11) Tantra: what it actually is and how sex is just a small part of the practice (23:22) How to embrace your sensuality and intimacy fully (39:36) Resources: ✨ Early Bird Registration for the Daring Way Retreat opens on Friday, November 29th! Magda’s website Magda on Instagram No Bad Parts (book) Episode 327: Harnessing the Power of Womanly Arts with Mama Gena Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/642 Learn m
Wed, November 20, 2024
Episode 641: Your Inner Critic, Self-Compassion, and Self-Trust with Joanna Kleinman
Are the conversations you have with yourself empowering or defeating? We’re diving back into one of my favorite topics - the inner critic - with guest Joanna Kleinman. Joanna is a psychotherapist, leadership coach, and best-selling author who has dedicated her career to helping people unhook from the negative self-talk holding them back. Through her M.I.N.D Method™, she offers a clear path to recognize, dethrone, and ultimately transform your inner critic’s influence. Together, we explore how self-compassion, personal growth, and trusting your inner wisdom can help you break free from the mental loops that keep you stuck. You’ll hear: Why you can never really break free from your inner critic, you can recognize it and dethrone it (5:05) Some of the biggest misconceptions people have about what it takes to cultivate true self-compassion (14:14) The idea that “our pain is our greatest teacher” and what it means for your growth (14:46) Practical ways to unhook from your inner critic with the M.I.N.D Method™ (17:32) What happens when you learn to trust your inner wisdom and embrace the natural flow of life (29:37) Resources: Coaching with Andrea Joanna’s website Joanna’s book When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times, Pema Chodron Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/641 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, November 15, 2024
Minisode 640: 10 ways we take things personally, when we shouldn't (Part 1)
Another minisode for you! This week, I’m diving into the habit of taking things personally—something I’ve covered in my book How to Stop Feeling Like Shit . This is part one of a two-part series, where I focus on how we tend to internalize feedback, silence, rejection, and even others’ successes as reflections of our own worth. Taking things personally can chip away at our self-worth and confidence over time and lead us down a path of shame. So in this episode, I talk about why awareness is the first step in breaking these patterns. I also discuss why the advice to "just stop taking things personally" often doesn’t help. It’s so much more nuanced than that, and this work is unique to each person. So today, I’m identifying 10 specific ways we commonly make things personal—even when they aren’t. What you’ll hear in this minisode: Why self-awareness is key to understanding personal triggers How we assume criticism means "I’m not good enough" Taking silence or short responses as signs of rejection Overinterpreting others’ moods as something about us Comparing ourselves to others’ praise or successes Feeling rejected when others set boundaries The impact of social media comparisons I hope this episode brings some clarity on ways you might be personalizing situations that don’t actually reflect on you. Next time, I’ll be diving into practical solutions for letting go of this habit. Thanks for listening, and remember—our life's journey is to make ourselves better humans, and our responsibility is to make the world a better place. See you in part two! Resources from this episode: Daring Way Retreat is opening SOON! How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/640 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 13, 2024
Episode 639: Building Shame Resilience
We’re flipping the script this week! Past guest Hunter Clarke-Fields interviews me on how to develop shame resilience and break free from the shame-driven cycles we often pass on to our kids. Originally aired on The Mindful Parenting Podcast, this conversation dives into the work of handling shame, building self-compassion, and modeling emotional resilience for our children. We also touch on ways to create boundaries, make peace with people-pleasing, and teach kids to navigate their emotions with empathy. I hope you enjoy this special crossover episode, where Hunter’s thoughtful questions bring out new perspectives. You’ll hear: Shame resilience—why it’s essential in parenting and personal growth (4:36) How to recognize and shift out of people-pleasing patterns (25:12) Defining healthy boundaries and why they matter (27:34) Teaching emotional resilience and empathy to kids without shame (35:37) Why 'giving zero Fs' is harming us (41:43) Resources: Early bird registration for the Daring Way Retreat opens soon - sign up for the interest list for more information! Episode 604: Reparenting and Mindful Parenting with Hunter Clarke-Fields Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/639 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 06, 2024
Episode 638: Being More Productive and Combatting Overwhelm with Charlie Gilkey
We're re-airing an episode with one of my favorite guests - Charlie Gilkey! Charlie offers valuable insights that apply to anyone looking to get more done, whether you're a business owner or simply navigating the demands of everyday life. Who doesn’t want to be more productive? Am I right? As a sought-after advisor and speaker, Charlie shares his wisdom on overcoming overwhelm and overload, why we tend to neglect self-care, and practical time-blocking strategies to boost productivity. Listen in as we revisit our conversation on the behaviors that sabotage productivity, how to handle those “WTF” moments, and the importance of staying present. You’ll hear: Combatting overwhelm by looking at your ‘overload’ (5:04) Time blocking and how it can be used to help us be more productive (6:02) Illuminating “invisible tasks”, such as turning off the lights or cleaning up after your family (9:05) Why self-care is typically last on our to-do list and the first to get pushed off (12:55) Courage, boundaries, and discipline; how they relate to each other (21:59) Resources: ✨ Get coached on the podcast for free – apply here! Charlie’s website Time Blocking Resources and Scheduler Andrea on Charlie’s Podcast, Productive Flourishing Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/638 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, November 01, 2024
Minisode 637: The anatomy of self-trust
Building self-trust can feel like a monumental task, especially if you’ve been second-guessing yourself or holding back from taking real action. In today’s episode, I’m sharing a simple, no-fluff process to strengthen your trust in yourself and create a foundation you can rely on. It’s about moving from self-doubt to solid self-belief, step by step. We’ll walk through five powerful practices to help you connect to your inner confidence and self-trust. I’m also breaking down the BRAVING acronym to give you a framework for building trust with yourself as you navigate life’s challenges. Whether you’re feeling uncertain, overwhelmed, or just unsure of your next move, these steps will help you get grounded and reconnect with your own inner guidance. Key Takeaways from this minisode: Embracing Self-Reflection : I share the importance of checking in with ourselves regularly to understand how our inner dialogue might be affecting our confidence. The Role of Boundaries in Self-Trust : Establishing boundaries—especially in areas where we tend to people-please—plays a huge part in reinforcing our trust in ourselves. Commitment to Small Steps : Building self-trust doesn’t require a major life overhaul; it’s about committing to small, daily actions that remind us of our capability. Recognizing Self-Doubt Patterns : I discuss common patterns that sabotage self-trust, like overthinking and perfectionism, and how to start letting them go. Reinforcing Self-Trust Through Accountability : Sharing our intentions with others can be a powerful motivator and builds trust in ourselves to follow through. Building self-trust doesn’t have to be overwhelming. It’s often the result of small, steady actions that add up over time. Using the BRAVING acronym is a powerful tool to remind yourself of how to nurture that trust, even when things feel uncertain. Remember, this journey is about honoring your own worth—keep choosing yourself, one step at a time. Resources from this episode: Get coached on the podcast – apply here! Brené’s episode on trust Braving acronym PDF Getting Damn Good at Life Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading
Wed, October 30, 2024
Episode 636: Letting Go of What’s Holding You Back with Shannon Kaiser
I have another re-broadcast episode for you. It is one of my most listened-to episodes. Shannon Kaiser is the wisest, compassionate human - so I am not surprised! Sharon is the bestselling author of five books on the psychology of happiness and fulfillment, including the #1 bestseller, The Self-Love Experiment and Adventures for Your Soul . Her book, Joy Seeker: Let Go of What's Holding You Back So You Can Live the Life You Were Made For, is available this week! It is always a pleasure to talk to this amazing lady. Today we talk about joy, spirituality, and authentic living. As you will hear, the underlying message to our conversation is, permitting yourself to do the things you’ve always wanted to do. We talk about how women can work to trust and believe in themselves, how to live more authentically, and how to speak your truth. As Shannon said so perfectly during our time together, “It all comes back to living your life from a place of integrity, a place of truth, and a place of honesty; that is the true joy.” You’ll hear: What led Shannon to write Joy Seeker and how her experiences appear throughout it (5:01) Ask yourself, “What have you always wanted to do but have not given yourself permission to do?” (6:57) How women can work to trust and believe in themselves and how we can follow our hearts and our dreams; plus ask yourself, “What dream keeps coming back to you?” (9:04) Being in gratitude and exploring gratitude practices (28:53) How losing what you love most can help you find what you need and honoring your grief (31:35) Letting go of who you think you're supposed to be so you can be who you’re meant to be (36:05) Resources: ✨ Get coached on the podcast for free - apply here! Shannon’s website Shannon’s new book Episode 165: The Self-Love Experiment with Shannon Kaiser Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/636 Learn more a
Wed, October 23, 2024
Episode 635: Big Energy, Resilience, and Emotional Awareness with Erin King
Ready to tap into your Big Energy and find out why it's the most important edge you have? Erin King, a motivational speaker, bestselling author, and expert in personal energy management, is back with actionable strategies to help you manage your energy and show up as your best self. With Erin's guidance, you'll learn how to power through less and power up more. “Energy never lies—it’s the last truth-teller we can trust.” In this episode, Erin shows us that Big Energy isn’t about being the loudest or the one with the most hustle—it’s about finding your strength, owning it, and showing up at your best. She walks us through how to find your energy type and then tap into it. She also shares why it’s not about making big life changes, but instead tuning into your intuition, and making small, manageable changes that stick. You’ll hear: Unlocking Your Big Energy with Erin's tips on creating those "at your best" moments instead of waiting for them (4:43) Discovering the five key energy types and how to find yours (11:53) How to balance being bold and confident without coming off as “too much” (14:54) Big Energy is not about how loud you are, how bossy, or how much you hustle (24:15) Becoming a Big Energy Being by focusing on what you can control and letting go of the rest (26:32) Exploring the emotional side of Big Energy and how your feelings fuel your vibe (31:34) Resources: Sign up for early notification for the next Daring Way™ retreat Erin’s website The Energy Exam Erin on Instagram @mrs.erin.king Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/635 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, October 18, 2024
Minisode 634: Re-wire your brain to get what you want
This week’s *Make Some Noise* minisode (#634) is a deep dive into rewiring our brains to help break free from negative self-talk. If you're ready to change how you see yourself and step into a more compassionate mindset, this episode is for you! Let’s take a look at the key takeaways: 🧠 Rewiring Your Brain to Get What You Want I start by breaking down how you can reshape your thought patterns and create new neural pathways to overcome self-doubt and self-criticism. 🚩 The Power of Self-Awareness Noticing the moments when negative self-talk happens is crucial. I explain how developing awareness is the first step to making meaningful changes. 💡 Pattern Interrupt: Stop Negative Thinking in Its Tracks Learn about using visual or mental "pattern interrupters" (think stop signs or neutral thoughts) to break the cycle of self-defeating thoughts. 🔄 Course Correction: Shifting to Empowering Thoughts Once you’ve interrupted your negative thought pattern, I explain how to course correct and reframe your thoughts to build self-compassion and resilience. Rewiring your brain takes practice, patience, and grace—especially when you’re hard on yourself (as most of us are!). In this minisode I also talk about how self-compassion has transformed my life and how it can do the same for you. If you want to dive deeper into this work with me, check out my 1:1 coaching or upcoming retreats here . Resources Sign up for early notification for The Daring Way Retreat Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/634 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 16, 2024
Episode 633: Gaslighting, Trust, and Resilience with Robin Stern, Ph.D.
Ever wonder if you’re being gaslit by a partner, friend, or even a politician? Dr. Robin Stern is here to explain how to recognize the signs of gaslighting and take back control of your reality. Robin Stern, Ph.D. is the co-founder and senior advisor to the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. With 30 years of experience as a licensed psychoanalyst, Robin is the leading expert on gaslighting. She’s also the author of The Gaslight Effect and The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide . In this episode, Robin helps us unpack the complexities of gaslighting and its stages, explains political gaslighting, and offers some steps toward reclaiming your power. You’ll hear: The three stages of gaslighting: disbelief, defense, and depression (5:55) How gaslighters use precise manipulation to control their targets (12:44) The five key signs that a politician is using gaslighting tactics (19:34) How to reclaim your power when you feel like you’re being gaslit (22:50) The overuse of words like "trauma" and "gaslighting" is diluting their impact (30:13) Advice on staying gaslight-free by trusting your instincts and setting clear boundaries (34:44) Resources: Sign up for early notification for the next Daring Way™ retreat Robin’s website Misuse of therapy words Political Gaslighting Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/633 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 09, 2024
Episode 632: How to Unf*ck Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil
Today, we’re rebroadcasting one of our most popular episodes featuring the amazing Kara Loewentheil! Kara is a Master Certified Coach who transitioned from a legal career to life coaching, using her expertise in feminist theory to help women break free from the patriarchy’s mental grip. She’s also the host of the podcast Unf* ck Your Brain and an all-around powerhouse. In this episode, we dive into the social messaging women receive and how it fuels our self-critical thoughts. Kara shares the transformative work she does to help women reshape their thinking and reclaim their self-perception. I’m excited to reintroduce you to Kara—enjoy the conversation! You’ll hear: How women’s inner critic and feelings of inadequacy stem directly from the patriarchy (5:03) Why you can’t simply “be nicer” to yourself to quiet the inner critic (11:31) Kara’s approach to thought work, especially for those who’ve experienced trauma, and why it's such a personal process (15:26) The idea of “believing harder” to boost self-confidence and tackle insecurity (20:35) The disconnect between women’s actions toward their goals and what’s holding them back (25:29) Kara’s take on beauty standards, diet culture, and the impact they have on women (31:50) Resources: Sign up for early notification for the next Daring Way™ retreat Kara’s Website Unf*ck Your Brain Podcast Kara on Instagram Episode 259: Challenging Cultural Beauty and Wellness Standards with Melissa Toler Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/632 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, October 04, 2024
Minisode 631: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
This week, I’m rebroadcasting a minisode where I explore a powerful concept from relationship experts John and Julie Gottman. The Gottmans introduced the idea of The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse , and it has helped me personally in my relationships a great deal. In this minisode, I break down each Horseman, share real-life examples, and provide a resource to help you apply the antidotes to these common behaviors. It's simple but deeply impactful. Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Article on the four horsemen The four horsemen antidotes Article on physiological flooding Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/631 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 02, 2024
Episode 630: Dreams, Magic, and Breathwork with Michelle Tea
We’re getting witchy and magical in today’s episode. I have no doubt you are going to love my guest, Michelle Tea! Michelle is the author of numerous books including the popular Modern Tarot and its follow-up, the new Modern Magic . She is a witch, a mom and the founder of Drag Queen Story Hour. In this episode, Michelle walks us through modern witchcraft and its power for personal growth. We explore how modern magic blends feminism with cultural traditions. She also shares the role of breathwork and meditation, how dreams connect to the subconscious, and her journey to sobriety. This episode offers a thoughtful mix of spirituality, personal transformation, and deep self-awareness. You’ll hear: The role of modern magic and how it allows you to craft your own path to power and self-growth (4:37) Why Michelle says “witchcraft is feminist” (8:09) Breathwork isn’t meditation; it offers clarity and transforms how you connect with yourself (20:00) Struggling to manifest? Michelle offers advice for when nothing seems to happen (27:46) Dreams and their connection to our subconscious - the more you can do to connect with your subconscious, the better your spiritual practice will become (29:35) Resources: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Michelle’s website Michelle’s book, Modern Magic Michelle on Instagram @michelleteaz Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/630 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 25, 2024
Episode 629: Generational Wounds, Breathwork, and Somatic Techniques with Alyse Bacine
What if your deepest wounds aren’t just yours, but passed down through generations? Alyse Bacine, a trauma expert and breathwork facilitator, joins me for a conversation on how healing emotional trauma—especially from childhood or ancestral sources—can strengthen your self-trust and resilience. We dive into the ripple effects of emotionally unavailable parents as well as the ways abandonment wounds shape our lives. We also unpack how breathwork can help heal trauma and process suppressed emotions. I love bringing on guests who dive into somatic healing and its transformative power - I hope you enjoy my conversation with Alyse! You’ll hear: Alyse walks us through the question, “What if your parents were emotionally available and made space for feelings?” (3:46) Abandonment wounds (and what they are): how they show up in relationships in surprising, hidden ways (12:17) How your ancestral trauma and familial programming are creating your current glass ceiling (25:24) The life-changing and powerful transformation of breathwork (42:37) Resources: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Alyse’s website Alyse on Instagram @Alyse_breathes Reclaiming Consciousness Episode 143: Breathing for Freedom with Kathleen Booker Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/629 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, September 20, 2024
Minisode 628: Suicide Prevention Month: My experiences
Earlier this week I posted on both Instagram and TikTok for suicide prevention month. Because I only get 90 seconds there, I wanted to come here on the podcast and talk more at length about it. What you’ll hear in this minisode are the stories of three different occasions where I thought about taking my own life. The last time it happened, in the summer of 2023, which is where I spend the most time, especially those acute moments…when you don’t have anything to distract you and you’re alone with your thoughts. I hope your takeaways can be one of two things. One, that you feel less alone if this is you or you have been here, or help you understand what happens to people when they enter this place. If you need help, please call or text 988. Resources from this episode: The Daring Way retreat info and early notification list Getting Damn Good at Life audio program Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/628 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 18, 2024
Episode 627: Boundaries, Healing, and Letting Go with Nakeia Homer
Ready to stop settling, set boundaries, and reclaim your personal power? Nakeia Homer’s wisdom in this episode will help guide you. Nakeia is a well-being educator, author, and the founder of Heal & Grow Daily —a community dedicated to helping people sustain their well-being and live in their brilliance. Nakeia’s mission? Empowering others to show up as the best versions of themselves, both in their lives and work. We dive into how to navigate healing and operate from a place of peace. You’ll hear why healing isn’t linear, how boundaries can be a proactive step toward connection, and how self-care ties into our sense of worthiness. We also explore the habit of letting go to create space for the new. While some topics may be familiar, I always love having guests bring fresh perspectives on the themes you care about most. You’ll hear: Why Nakeia’s book, Habits for Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power , is broken into three key parts and how each of these pillars supports your healing journey (5:05) How to stop taking things so personally (8:06) Why setting boundaries is a proactive act and how it heals our relationship with connection: “The reason people struggle with boundaries is that by the time they set them, they’re already pissed” (13:36) The concept of “protecting your energy” and how to apply it in your life (17:45) Why we settle, whether it’s ever okay to settle, and how to avoid it when it’s not (22:00) The habit of letting go and why it’s not a failure to let go (25:50) How meeting your own needs is the key to no longer living in deficit, and how self-care heals our relationship with worthiness (28:16) Resources: Sign up for early notification for the next Daring Way™ retreat Nakeia’s website Nakeia’s books The Four Agreements (book) Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the spe
Wed, September 11, 2024
Episode 626: Healing From Anxiety and Finding Lasting Peace with Corinne Zupko
Corinne Zupko is the author of the best-selling book, From Anxiety to Love: A Radical New Approach For Letting Go of Fear and Finding Lasting Peace. Today we are revisiting our conversation about anxiety. Anxiety-focused episodes are the most popular episodes of the podcast. So, I know it’s what many of you want to hear about! We discussed Corinne’s book and her inspiration to write it on this topic. She shared openly about her personal experiences with anxiety, panic attacks, and phobias; and how her introduction to a particular kind of spirituality helped her recover from her anxiety and panic disorder. You’ll hear: Corinne’s inspiration to write a book on anxiety Corinne’s take on spirituality and her work with anxiety and healing Distinguishing between the inner therapist voice (intuition) and the ego voice (inner critic) A three-step recipe for healing Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Corinne’s website Corinne’s book Episode 153: Listener Q & A on anxiety and what to do about it Corinne’s podcast episode with John Mark Straud: Episode 8: “How to ‘hear’ guidance” Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/626 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, September 06, 2024
Minisode 625: The importance of taking small action
You’ve probably tuned into countless podcasts, read dozens of books, and done a ton of self-work based on everything you've learned. But, in this rebroadcast, I’m asking you to go a little further. Sometimes we look at the metaview of how we want our life to change and it seems too daunting. Sometimes we look at other people’s lives and wonder how we will ever get to the place where we’re like them (well, the story we make up that is their life). Sometimes we feel like there are so many moving parts to personal development, where one thing leads to another and so on and so forth and where is the end to all this growth? (Hint: there isn’t an end.) So, I compiled a short list of small actions you can do today or this week or sometime soon that will make a difference. As you’ve heard me say over and over again, courage (even in the face of fear) brings confidence– the knowledge that we can do hard things and even if we do the hard thing and fall on our face, we then realize we’ll live through it. In no particular order… Having a hard conversation . Who is the person you need to talk to? What is the thing you are afraid to say? What can you do this week to take a step in that direction? Controlled emoting. You may remember me talking about this in How To Stop Feeling Like Shit about controlled emoting. That thing you’ve been stuffing down? Feel it. Writing a letter you’ll never send. It can be to anyone or anything. It can be angry, sad, full of rage, I hate you, anything and everything you’re feeling about something happening. Write it to your mom, your president, your ex, your fear, the patriarchy, anything that brings up the uncomfortable feelings you’re trying not to feel. Researching starting your own business. Whether you want it to be a complete career change, a hobby, or a side hustle, so many people want to do this and never start. Research is the first step. Go to that poetry reading. Or open mic comedy night. Or political meeting. That place you’ve been thinking about that makes you uncomfortable but is the source of the fire in your belly. Throw out all the stuff from your ex that you’ve been meaning to throw away. Whatever you need to do to cleanse old energy. Maybe it’s just cleaning out your closet or your garage. Out with the old. Start that creative project you’ve been thinking about for forever. Too many times we put off creativity as a luxury, or being unproductive. If you wait until it doesn’t feel like that, you’ll wait forever. Just carve out 30 minutes and do it. Resources Sign up for early notification for The Daring Way Retreat Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve
Wed, September 04, 2024
Episode 624: Radical Self-Love and Body Empowerment with Sonya Renee Taylor
We’re rebroadcasting one of our standout episodes this week featuring the incredible Sonya Renee Taylor. We dive into the transformative power of radical self-love and body empowerment, and how these principles can drive global change. Sonya is an author, poet, spoken word artist, speaker, humanitarian, social justice activist, educator, and the founder of The Body is Not An Apology. While self-love can sometimes seem like a simple, feel-good concept in the personal development world, Sonya reminds us that "Nothing grows without discomfort." Radical self-love challenges our beliefs and systems, pushing us toward real transformation. This episode is a powerful exploration of how embracing radical self-love can reshape our perspectives and impact the world. I’m thrilled to bring back this enlightening conversation with Sonya Renee Taylor. Enjoy the episode! You’ll hear: Sonya’s journey and how she became a recognized change agent (6:06) The role of radical self-love and body empowerment in social justice and global transformation (8:11) Insights into body shaming, overcoming it, and spreading body empowerment (15:40) The body positivity movement: where it started, why Sonya thinks it’s a “nice white lady,” and ways in which it can be harmful (24:25) Resources: Episode 623: Gene Keys, Personal Discovery, and Purpose with Tracie Cornell Sonya’s website Celebrate Your Body (And Its Changes Too) Sonya on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/624 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 28, 2024
Episode 623: Gene Keys, Personal Discovery, and Purpose with Tracie Cornell
I’m chatting with Tracie Cornell about gene key profiles and how they help uncover what is holding you back and help you move forward. Tracie is a former corporate leadership coach who took the plunge into entrepreneurship and hasn’t looked back. After spending over two decades leading teams at a global bank, Tracie realized she wasn’t truly living her purpose. It wasn’t until she explored Human Design and Gene Keys that the lightbulb finally went off. In this conversation, Tracie breaks down what a Gene Key profile is, why self-awareness is key to making life changes, and how understanding your public role can completely shift how you show up in the world. If you’re curious about what all this means for you, head over to The She Experience and schedule a free call with Tracie. Trust me, you’re going to want to dig into this. It’s truly fascinating work and information to have about yourself! You’ll hear: How a Gene Key profile reveals your unique gifts and aligns you with your life’s purpose and life’s work (7:12) Human Design and Gene Keys are lifelong journeys of self-discovery—not quick fixes (9:43) How self-study helps you bridge the gap between knowing and taking action (20:11) Learn what Gene Keys are and what insights a profile might uncover (24:57) How doubt surfaces during life changes and what it reveals in your Gene Key profile (36:39) Explore your public role and how it shapes the way others experience you (42:05) Resources: Schedule a free call with Tracie! Andrea’s Gene Keys Profile PDF! <
Wed, August 21, 2024
Episode 622: Discovering Your Personal Style with Michelle Thomas
Are you struggling to discover your personal style? This week’s episode is just for you! Michelle Thomas, a renowned celebrity fashion stylist, custom tailor, and designer, joins me on the show! Michelle’s unique designs have graced the red carpets, iconic events, and top fashion magazines around the world. In this episode, we explore the essentials of building a wardrobe that’s uniquely yours and simple DIY tips to tailor your style. Michelle also shares her creative process when designing standout pieces, discusses how to incorporate eco-friendly practices into your fashion choices, and gives pointers on transitioning into bolder styles with confidence. You’ll hear: How to create a personalized wardrobe (5:03) Why you should know your measurements and what to look for when buying clothes for your body (8:04) Michelle walks us through her creative process when designing a piece that must both stand out and stay true to a client's personality (13:01) Incorporating eco-friendly practices into the fashion design and production process + how to make clothes shopping more efficient (15:34) Resources: Sign up for early notification for the next Daring Way™ retreat Michelle’s website Michelle on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/622 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, August 16, 2024
Minisode 621: Tolerations, what are you saying yes to that needs to change?
One of the common things clients bring to me for coaching is overwhelm and work/life balance. They feel like they’re doing too much, for too many people, and the resentments are starting to set in, not to mention the exhaustion. We get down to business and the end result is them saying no more often, and setting some boundaries and having hard, but necessary conversations. In this minisode I’ll help you DIY this by taking inventory of unhealthy or unnecessary tolerations, and committing to making changes there, as well as noticing what you say YES to when you take that action. Resources from this episode: Sign up for early notification for the next Daring Way™ retreat Cait Donovan on burnout recovery Cait Donovan on work/life balance Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/621 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 14, 2024
Episode 620: Organization, Time Management, and Reclaiming Your Home with Lisa Woodruff
We're diving into the world of organization with guest Lisa Woodruff, the Founder and CEO of Organize 365. Whether it's dealing with the clutter or managing the mental load, Lisa’s insights are a game-changer. In this episode and through her work; she shines a light on the unique challenges women face when it comes to keeping our lives and homes in order. As you listen you’ll hear how organization isn’t an innate quality - it’s a learned skill. More importantly, organization isn't one-size-fits-all- that’s okay. If you're ready to stop feeling overwhelmed and start feeling empowered, listen to my conversation with Lisa. You’ll hear: Why all work isn’t created equal and how understanding this can change how you organize your life (3:47) The idea that “organized” is subjective and tips on setting your own goals (6:55) The connection between time management, planning, organization, and executive functions (13:53) Simple weekly routines that can help reduce anxiety and let you be fully present (16:14) Practical steps to reclaim your home—one cabinet and drawer at a time (28:43) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Lisa’s website Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/620 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 07, 2024
Episode 619: Light Work, Shadow Work, and Personal Growth with Jessica Zweig
We’re diving into the transformative magic of Light Work, as a launching pad to reclaim our power and shed past versions of ourselves. My guest, Jessica Zweig, breaks down what it means to embody our full light identity, exploring our inner light, outer light, and future light (and, yes, she’s got the scoop on what that actually means). Jessica also takes us through the importance of shadow work, healing, and facing the darker parts of ourselves with courage instead of avoidance. Whether you're just learning about Light Work or you're a seasoned spiritual seeker, Jessica's real and relatable approach is bound to resonate and empower you. You’ll hear: Light Work: what it is and how it can help us light up our world (4:11) Inner Light, Outer Light, and Future Light: stepping into your full light identity (10:56) Exploring Self and your shadows: healing and embracing by going in, not around (15:24) Thanking and releasing past versions of ourselves (23:17) "Part of the path of personal growth requires a lot of grace." (33:49) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Jessica’s book, Reclaim Your Feminine Power, Live Your Cosmic Truth and Illuminate The World Jessica’s website Nikita Gill poem ( I’m so sorry y’all I can’t find it! ) Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode Link: http://andreaowen.com/619 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, August 02, 2024
Minisode 618: On making hard decisions
About a week or so ago, I posted this instagram reel: I had just arrived home from my divorce attorney’s office, having signed my separation agreement. On my way home, I listened to one of my favorite songs, which is what prompted me to make the Instagram reel and record this minisode for you. This podcast episode is for anyone who’s been faced with having to make one of the hardest decisions of their life. Resources from this episode: Links to coaching with me Shake It Out by Florence and The Machine on YouTube On Spotify Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/618 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 31, 2024
Episode 617: Healing, Psychedelics, and Inner Peace with Austin Mao
You probably know by now that I love the field of psychedelics. The healing power of them is just one of the many topics of conversation with guest Austin Mao. Austin is a serial entrepreneur, author, poet, community builder, and keynote speaker renowned for his expertise at the intersection of science and spirituality, psychology, and shamanism. Together we explore the integration of psychedelics into modern mental health practices, the pillars of consciousness, and bust some of the common myths about psychedelic retreats and therapy. Austin’s work as co-founder of Ceremonia, a legal and non-profit spiritual sanctuary, reflects his profound commitment to integrating ancient shamanic practices with modern psychological insights to foster personal and collective healing - this conversation is proof of that! You’ll hear: Austin opens up about restoring his relationship with his father [after his father’s passing in 2016] during a psychedelic retreat experience (4:34) The three pillars of consciousness: awakening, healing, and manifesting (12:54) How psychedelics integrate into modern mental health practices (30:50) Common misconceptions about psychedelic therapy (41:50) Austin explains how Ceremonia ensures the safety and effectiveness of its retreats (45:36) Resources: The Daring Way™ Retreat Information + Early Notification List Austin’s website Austin on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/617 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 24, 2024
Episode 616: Embodying Wildness, Erotic Liberation and Self-Pleasure with Luci Lampe
You are going to be absolutely blown away by this week’s podcast guest, Luci Lampe! Luci is here to dive deep into embodying wildness, erotic liberation, and shedding cultural expectations. She's not just a powerhouse mom of four, but also a trauma-informed sex and relationship coach, award-winning singer and songwriter, commercial actress, print model, and a 3-time author. Luci’s expertise is unmatched—drawing from her extensive studies and certifications in neuro-linguistic programming, somatic experiencing™️, cognitive behavioral therapy, hypnotherapy, reiki, counseling, EFT tapping, and her degree in Exercise Science. She crafts transformative programs that are as unique as they are powerful for her clients and members. You’ll hear: What it truly means to embody our wildness (4:09) Luci’s take on “eros is the juice” and why it’s vital (6:41) Practical steps to start embracing your wildness and breaking free from “good girl programming” (12:21) How to release the cultural pressure to prioritize others’ comfort over our own (15:04) The magic of cutting energetic cords: what it is and how to do it (24:19) The liberating practice of self-pleasure and overcoming shame (29:21) Resources: The Writing Experience Luci’s website Luci on Instagram @lucilampe A Return to Eros (book) Episode 312: Sexuality and Spiritual Awakening Jessica Graham Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/616 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, July 19, 2024
Minisode 615: 10 signs you might have a problem with alcohol
As you might know, I got sober from alcohol in 2011. Every once in a while, I like to pop in with some podcast episodes that might help people who are considering sobriety or even just thinking about their own drinking patterns. I’ve compiled a list of 10 signs you might have a problem with alcohol. Tune into this minisode as I dive a little deeper in each one. You’re hiding booze and/or lying about how much you’re drinking You’re spending a lot of energy covering up how much you drink. You’re fighting a gut feeling about it. You feel guilty, ashamed and/or embarrassed about your drinking. You notice other people’s drinking habits. “Normal drinkers” tend to not notice how much You think about drinking a lot. The thought of living your life without alcohol scares you and you just can’t imagine it. Every day feels like groundhogs day. Get up, feel like shit from drinking too much. Whether it’s a dull hangover or just the guilt or shame from drinking as much as you did. You commit to not drinking that day. That lasts until around dinner time, where you find a reason to have just one drink, and before you know it, you’re back to where you started the day before. And it starts over again the next morning. You very much look forward to occasions where you can drink a lot. Like Superbowl parties, your birthday, Thanksgiving and Christmas Day, etc. For me, any day that it was socially acceptable to start drinking around lunchtime and get drunk by dinner time was dreamy. You get irritated and/or angry if there’s a social event without alcohol. Like a dry wedding, what? Or a restaurant with no liquor license. Or a kids birthday party that just has water and soda. The bottom line of it is that our lives begin to revolve around alcohol and the feelings around it. If we’re not thinking about drinking, we’re feeling guilty or ashamed about it. We’re wondering if we drink too much. Wondering if our loved ones are noticing. Swearing we’ll only drink beer and wine from now on. Committing to drinking more water in between drinks. Saving calories or points to be able to drink more. The thought of sobriety and recovery seems weird and uncomfortable-- not to mention the shame of identifying as an “alcoholic”. Resources: Recovery Series The Writing Experience Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We
Wed, July 17, 2024
Episode 614: Redefining “Having It All” with Cherylanne Skolnicki
***Before we jump into today’s episode, check out this no-cost webinar I’m hosting, TODAY, with my colleague Amy Ahlers on getting your writing project done and out the door! *** Cherylanne Skolnicki is on a mission to redefine what it means to have it all. She has taught thousands of brilliant women around the world how to design their lives so they can play big at work and home while protecting time for themselves. In this episode, Cherylanne joins me to explore how she helps women navigate societal expectations, guilt, FOMO, and the opinions of others to take personal agency over their choices. As the Founder and Chief Executive Officer of Brilliant Balance, she also hosts the top-rated Brilliant Balance podcast, where she empowers women to understand and name their emotions, normalizes falling off track, and guides them on how to get back on it. “Having it all is about what life feels like while we’re living it.” You’ll hear: The origin story of Brilliant Balance and what it means to Cherylanne today. (3:58) Redefining what it means to “have it all,” plus the weight of societal expectations and the power of taking personal agency over the choices we have in certain circumstances. (5:18) What gets in the way of women when it comes to exercising the choices we have but are afraid to make them (12:55) What pulls us off our "progress curve” and how to get back on track (16:48) Resources: Cherylanne’s website Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters (book) Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/614 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 10, 2024
Episode 613: Your Inner Child, Personal Mastery, and Anger Release with Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler, a Master coach, spiritual psychologist, facilitator, and speaker with 20 years of experience, joins me (again!) to explore how to identify patterns that hold you back, address conflicts, set boundaries, release anger, and foster personal growth to attract your ideal partner. We also explore the concept of personal mastery: what it is, why it matters, and how it can radically transform your life through self-awareness and acceptance. Christine is the best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change your Present and Get What You Really Want, and is the host of the top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It” where she coaches people live on the show. She is also the co-founder of Elementum Coaching Institute, a premier coaching certification program. You’ll hear: The essence of personal mastery + how radical self-awareness and acceptance are the cornerstones of this journey (9:10) How to identify the patterns and behaviors that hold you back (16:46) Baby steps for setting boundaries and having difficult conversations. Christine emphasizes the significance of resolving inner child needs to navigate these challenges effectively (23:16) Healthy ways to release anger and why this is crucial for personal growth and emotional well-being (33:18) How personal growth work can help you attract your ideal partner and build healthier relationships (39:58) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Christine’s website ChristineHassler.com/anger-release Christine’s Calling in Your Partner Replay Andrea on Over It and On With It with Christine Hassler Episode 113: How to Honor Yourself, with Christine Hassler Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode Link: http://andreaowen.com/613 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a hr
Fri, July 05, 2024
Minisode 612: On establishing self-trust and getting your needs met
Coming off the heels of Wednesday’s podcast episode with Mara Glatzel , it was so packed full of information that I knew would be helpful to y’all, I wanted to make a follow-up minisode about it. In this episode, I talk about the following topics and ask thought provoking questions. So, get out your journal or favorite note-taking app and dive in. We’ll work on: Self trust Listening to your intuition Knowing your resilience Listening to your own needs and working to get them met Questions like: What is your relationship with the word “needy” or being perceived as needy? Where do you struggle to get your needs met? (Being heard? Speaking them in the first place? Knowing what they are? Boundaries and hard conversations? Deciphering your intuition? Listening to it? What action can you take to dig deeper here? If you hesitate to take that action, why do you think that is? And so much more :) Resources from this episode: Needy with Mara Glatzel Episode 611: Being Needy, Self-Care, and Self-Trust with Mara Glatzel Sign up to be notified when I open registration for The Daring Way program Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/612 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 03, 2024
Episode 611: Being Needy, Self-Care, and Self-Trust with Mara Glatzel
We're diving into the world of neediness this week with Mara Glatzel! Let’s face it: the word “needy” often gets a bad rap, conjuring up feelings of discomfort. But guess what? Everyone has needs! Mara is here to encourage us to embrace our neediness in a compassionate environment. As a coach, podcast host, and the author of Needy: How to Advocate for Your Needs and Claim Your Sovereignty , she brings a wealth of knowledge to the table. In this episode, you'll discover why many women feel uneasy about their neediness and how self-care isn’t just a spa day. Mara shares her personal journey from being a “control freak” and perfectionist to reclaiming her space and sovereignty. Plus, she answers the pivotal question: “What has been your journey to taking up space in your life?” Get ready for a conversation that’s as enlightening as it is empowering! You’ll hear: Why women may feel uncomfortable with their neediness (9:09) The difference between the self-care we are sold and the self-care we need (13:59) Self-trust: how to know if you trust yourself and how to practice self-trust daily (17:47) Mara shares her journey as a recovery control freak and perfectionist and what it means to her (24:30) Mara answers, “What has been your journey to taking up space in your life?” (34:21) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Mara’s website Mara’s book, Needy What Do You Need Right Now? Quiz Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/611 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 26, 2024
Episode 610: Rewilding with Sabrina Lynn
We are diving into the concept of rewilding with spiritual teacher and founder of Rewilding for Women, Sabrina Lynn. Sabrina shares her incredible journey of living in the woods, a transformative experience that influences her work today. We also explore the journey of shedding societal conditioning and practical steps to start your rewilding journey. Sabria has led over 70,000 people around the world through her groundbreaking, direct-line approach to personal evolution. She felt like a true soul sister to me, especially as we discussed the transformative power of shadow work, anger, and sacred rage. This episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to tap into their true potential and mind-body connection. You’ll hear: Sabrina’s wild story of living in the woods and how it shapes her work today (3:26) The 1, 2, 3’s of re-wilding (7:13) Deciphering between fear, trauma, or intuition (12:01) Practical steps for women starting their re-wilding journey (15:38) Discovering hidden potentials or emotions through shadow work (18:40) Understanding embodiment and its importance (24:31) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea 6 Faces of the Feminine Masterclass Sabrina’s website Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode Link: http://andreaowen.com/610 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, June 21, 2024
Minisode 609: On how I manifested the home I moved into
This episode is a continuation of minisode 606 from a few weeks ago, where I talked about doing the bare minimum when you’re feeling overwhelmed with life circumstances. Since then, I’ve moved in and am slowly settling into a new place after leaving my marital home. Over the last several months I’ve been journaling– part of that is writing down the same five things every day that I’ve been focusing on as my goals. One of those goals was finding a house as I embark on this new chapter of my life. Tune in as I tell you how I did it. This minisode also has a mantra/affirmation that I heard on social media a few weeks ago and have been saying over and over to myself. It’s an easy one for you to use too! I hope you love these minisodes as much as I love making them for you, and if you’d like private support from me, don’t hesitate to check out 1:1 coaching! Resources from this episode Minisode 606 Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/609 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 19, 2024
Episode 608:The Power of 15 Minutes with Sam Bennett
Fifteen minutes, really? Sam Bennett joins me to talk about how focusing on just fifteen minutes daily on something you enjoy can make a huge difference in your day. Sam is a writer, speaker, creativity/productivity specialist, and the author of the bestselling "Get It Done: From Procrastination to Creative Genius in 15 Minutes a Day." Her latest book, "The 15-Minute Method: The Surprisingly Simple Art of Getting It Done," comes out this month! We also discuss useful tips on staying focused, understanding the difference between multitasking and task switching, and dealing with mental and physical clutter. Tune in to hear Sam share solid advice on beating overwhelm and carving out time for what really counts. You’ll hear: The power of dedicating just 15 minutes a day to something that truly matters to you (4:23) How to tactfully decline extra work and maintain your boundaries, even when put on the spot (9:56) Insights from Sam on navigating mental and physical clutter (12:17) How to actually carve out 15 minutes each day to focus on something meaningful (17:13) Everyone is creative and learn how to tap into your unique zone of genius (26:06) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Sam’s book The Fifteen Minute Method Sam’s website Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/608 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 12, 2024
Episode 607: Career Transitions and Meaningful Work with Laura Simms
We’re talking today about work and navigating career transitions. A career is on top of mind for almost everyone at some point in life. My guest is Laura Simms, an expert in meaningful work who challenges conventional wisdom by asking people to ditch their passions and start with purpose. She’s the creator of Your Career Homecoming, a celebrated career change program that helps people discover the meaningful work right for them. This episode also explores some aspects holding women from advocating for themselves and creating change. If you are ready to take up rightful space in your life and career, tune into my conversation with Laura! You’ll hear: Laura provides some thoughts and advice to those who are in a job where they love the lifestyle and money it provides but are miserable. “That’s not as good as it gets.” (3:44) Examining questions like, “What will be fulfilling for me?” (12:27) Laura’s thoughts on the idea/notion “Do what you love, and you won’t work a day in your life.” (15:09) Meaningful work: Is it selfish or a luxury? (19:47) Advice for individuals who wish to make the shift from employee to entrepreneur (21:45) Worthiness and personal resilience in negotiating salary (29:25) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Episode 352: What Holds Women Back in the Workplace with Sara Laschever Your Career Homecoming website Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/607 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, June 07, 2024
Minisode 606: On prioritizing when life gets "too much"
I’ve often talked to you about doing the bare minimum or “bare mins” when life gets a little or a lot overwhelming. As I move into my new place after separating, I’m in that place. I’ve recorded a minisode for you today on how to navigate when life is upside down, you have too many big things happening, and you’re feeling overwhelmed. Listen in to this short episode where I reveal three things that I hope will help when you find yourself in a similar situation. Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/606 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 05, 2024
Episode 605: Coaching Sydney on Reframing Emotions and Come Home to Self
This week I have a coaching session episode for you! Sydney, a life coach, joins me as we explore her feelings of being stuck about what she wants in the bigger picture of her life and how she is motivated to build towards something meaningful but isn't quite sure what that looks like yet. One key theme we uncover is the concept of coming home to yourself. At one point during our session, I suggested a possible reframe: “Coming home to yourself, it’s about those pivotal moments where we fully accept every part of who we are—peace, trust, stability, anger, rage—recognizing that every facet is breathtakingly beautiful.” We also explore understanding that, maybe, we can be our own anchor in the storms of life. You’ll hear us talk about: Craving clarity and the desire for connection, seeking an anchor in life. (8:17) Processing emotions: What if being oversensitive isn't a flaw but a human experience? (24:33) Reframing how we look at our emotions, especially Sydney's journey with anger and the inner work involved in understanding and working through it. (31:59) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Subscribe for free to my Therapy Journey podcast series Minisode 561: Off-loading emotions Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/605 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 29, 2024
Episode 604: Reparenting and Mindful Parenting with Hunter Clarke-Fields
Hunter Clarke-Fields, a mindful parenting expert, joins me to explore the nuanced journey of parenting, mindfulness, and self-care. Hunter hosts the Mindful Parenting Podcast and is a global speaker and bestselling author of "Raising Good Humans" and "Raising Good Humans Every Day." Together, we talk about her personal experiences and insights on integrating mindfulness practices into daily life. In this episode, we also discuss strategies for parents struggling with overwhelm and the broader applications of reparenting and mindfulness for all adults. Whether you are a parent or not, this episode promises to be insightful and transformative. You’ll hear: How Hunter began integrating mindfulness practices into her life. (8:00) Ways to practice self-awareness and mindfulness. (10:36) Hunter’s take on whether we focus on our children too much or overparent. (18:27) How exploring our history and upbringing can help us understand and reparent ourselves. (28:25) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Subscribe for free to my Therapy Journey podcast series Hunter’s website Hunter on Instagram @mindfulmamamentor Mindful Parenting Podcast Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/604 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 22, 2024
Episode 603: Kerra and Andrea on Anxious Attachment Styles
This week, we're diving into attachment styles and how they impact our lives professionally and personally. Kerra Bolten joins me for this conversation about shit that matters . For those new to this type of episode, it’s a conversation I have with friends or associates who aren’t necessarily experts on the topic but wish to share thoughts and insights. Kerra and I connected on LinkedIn and bonded over the topic of anxious attachment styles after I shared a post about it. Now you get to enjoy the conversation that culminated from our connection! In this episode, we dive into the complexities of anxious attachment styles and share our personal stories, the dynamics of anxious versus avoidant attachment, and how cultural and familial influences shape our relationship patterns. We also discuss the journey of self-awareness, personal growth beyond codependency, and strategies for fostering healthier relationships. You’ll hear: Anxious Attachment - what is it anyway? (5:22) We both share some of our experiences being someone who’s “anxiously attached.” (7:34) Relationships and attachment styles - what kind of partner do you tend to be attracted to? (17:10) We explore some personal strategies or solutions for overcoming attachment styles that might be outside of what you actually want. (51:22) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Subscribe for free to my Therapy Journey podcast series The Science Behind Unhealthy Attraction (medium article Kerra mentioned) Episode 418: Transforming fear and pain into purpose with Kerra Bolton Attached, Amir Levine, Rachel Heller Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, Harville Hendrix Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you d
Fri, May 17, 2024
Minisode 602: On how to let go of limiting beliefs
A friend and I recently were having a back and forth about love and relationships and our quest to learn and grow from them. I said to him, “All the men I’ve loved and cared about in my life have disappointed me and left me in some way or another. Family members included. Every one.” My friend pushed back and said, “You may not like what I’m about to say, but I think that’s a limiting belief.” Ugh. And recently, I stumbled upon a listener question…Colleen M. asks, “How do we actually get rid of limiting beliefs? I know you have covered this before but dig deeper to not just recognize them but banishing them.” In this short minisode, you’ll hear my reaction to my friend's opinion of my own limiting belief and my answer to Colleen’s question. Resources from this episode: My psychedelic therapy journey Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/602 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 15, 2024
Episode 601: Behavior Change, Brain Science, and Fear with Dr. Kyra Bobinet
This week, we are exploring the fascinating realm of brain science and behavior patterns with our special guest, Kyra Bobinet, MD, MPH. Dr. Bobinet has dedicated a significant portion of her career to studying the intricacies of the human brain and how it influences our behavior. At the heart of our discussion lies the habenula, a crucial brain region implicated in fear, motivation, and behavior control. Dr. Bobinet sheds light on how tapping into the power of the habenula can help us neutralize failure and unleash our inner wisdom and strength. You’ll hear: The habenula (a part of the brain) and its connection to fear, motivation, and the most powerful behavior controller that we face. (6:10) The solution to chronic anxiety of failing and negativity bias (16:08) How standard methods like tracking, dieting, and goal-setting often backfire by triggering the habenula’s “failure detection” (28:22) Iteration is the solution. “Everything is performative; we need to make it iteration.” (32:16) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Subscribe for free to my Therapy Journey podcast series Dr. Kyra Bodinet’s website Unstoppable Brain: The New Neuroscience That Frees Us from Failure, Eases Our Stress, and Creates Lasting Change Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/601 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 08, 2024
Episode 600: Advice and Insights About Ketamine Therapy with Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, Kristin Arden
Before we get into today’s episode, I have a private podcast feed for anyone interested in my journey through psychedelic therapy. I’m starting with Ketamine therapy and then moving into Psilocybin. It’s free and just like the regular podcast, but you do need to sign up to be notified. Is Ketamine Therapy right for you? And what does it actually feel like during a session? Joining me to discuss its workings, sensations, and post-session integration is Kristin Arden, Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, and Lead Clinician at Mindbloom. Previously on the podcast, we heard from my friend Brendan Fitzgibbons about his Ketamine Therapy experience. This time, I'm thrilled to introduce you to Kristin, a healthcare professional working directly in the field of Ketamine Therapy. Kristin addresses key questions like when to consider this therapy, detailing what a session entails and its effects. You’ll hear: What is ketamine therapy, and how it works (7:27) Kristin answers, “Is ketamine therapy for everyone? When should one consider it?” (14:11) What a typical session looks like and what it feels like (18:48) The integration and therapy after a ketamine therapy session; it’s not a passive process (22:31) Dispelling misconceptions or myths about ketamine therapy (30:03) Advice for someone considering ketamine therapy as part of their mental health or personal growth treatment plan (38:40) Resources: Subscribe for free to my Therapy Journey podcast series Mindbloom.com/andrea0100 Episode 595: The Psychedelic Therapy Experience with Brendan Fitzgibbons Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/600 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, May 03, 2024
Minisode 599: On the grief of breaking up
It’s been a long time since I got divorced the first time in 2006. It was also a much different situation and we didn’t have kids. Kids throw a whole different level of complication and sadness to it. In this minisode, I talk about the process of getting separated and then divorced, and the things that are taking me OUT while doing so. Things like packing up…looking at my bathroom drawers empty. Finding old pictures and cards while packing up of the years passed. And more. I end the episode talking about how multiple feelings and experiences can be true…you can feel grief and sadness for what’s ending to the nth degree, and also hope, excitement and optimism for what’s to come. That, we’re at choice about. Resources from this episode: Write Your Way Through It is open for registration Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/599 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 01, 2024
Episode 598: Fighting for our Friendships with Danielle Jackson
Female friendships are meaningful, yet we still tend to put them on the back burner. That is why I invited guest Danielle Jackson back to the show. Previously, we talked about how to make friends, and in this episode, we talk about how to make deeper connections with women in friendship. Danielle Bayard Jackson is a certified friendship coach and national speaker dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain meaningful female friendships. We can never have enough episodes about female friendships; I really hope you enjoy this episode! You’ll hear: The three "affinities" that bring women together (and tear them apart) (6:39) What’s the deal around gossip? Is it good or not? (8:24) The nine most challenging "friend types" (11:25) How to have hard conversations with a friend (13:46) The way female friendships are depicted in today’s media, specifically on reality tv (18:53) How to know if a friendship is worth saving (27:55) Resources: Write Your Way Through It Registration is Open! Subscribe for free to my Therapy Journey podcast series Danielle’s website, Better Female Friendships Maintaining Meaningful Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/598 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 24, 2024
Episode 597: Mental Health, Anxiety, and Our Sons with Dr. John Duffy
This week, we have a repeat guest as Dr. John Duffy returns to the show! We explore mental health and the difference between young men and women. Dr. Duffy also shares insights from his work and book Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys (A Psychologist's Roadmap) . But wait - this episode is not just for parents. For non-parent listeners, we also talk about the effects of anxiety and how to manage it as well as what to say (and not say) when it comes to grief and interacting with those who are grieving. Dr. John Duffy is a Chicago-based clinical psychologist, best-selling author, keynote speaker, and national media expert. He has been in vigorous private practice for 25 years, specializing in work with adolescents, young adults, and their parents. You’ll hear: Exploring the nuances of therapy sessions between young women and young men, plus factors contributing to these disparities (5:19) What Dr. Duffy means when he says we are experiencing a "crisis of disaffected boys" (13:35) Talking about, with anyone, the complexities of grief (26:20) How anxiety manifests and how to manage it when it does (33:06) Resources: Write Your Way Through It Registration is Open! Dr. John Duffy’s website Episode 246: An Important Conversation about Depression with Dr. John Duffy Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys (A Psychologist's Roadmap) Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: Raising Happy, Healthy Humans Ages 8 to 24 Dr. John Duffy is a Chicago-based clinical psychologist, best-selling author, keynote speaker and national media expert. He has been in vigorous private practice for 25 years, specializing in work with adolescents, young adults and their parents. He has consistently provided the tools young people need to thrive through his empathy, knowledge, experience and practice. He has written three books intended to provide parents with the tools to help their teens and young adults thrive in this persistent age of anxiety. For more than a decade, Dr. Duffy has also spoken to thousands of parents internationally through PTA’s, Fortune 500 corporate programs, and other parenting networks. On radio, Dr. Duffy is a regularly appearing expert on WGN, WLS and NPR. He has appeared as an expert guest on countless podcasts and has been the host of two popul
Fri, April 19, 2024
Minisode 596: My journey with Ketamine Therapy
You’ve probably heard me mention here and there on various podcast episodes about psychedelic therapy. I’ve had a few experts who talk about its benefits (episodes 551 with Dr. Ellen Vora and 560 with Dr. Tanmeet Sethi). It’s been an incredibly interesting topic to me, but as someone in long-term recovery, I assumed it wasn’t for me. However, after doing extensive research and finding out that a) There is a community of people in recovery who support each other in their journey towards using psychedelics for addiction and recovery , b) the research shows psychedelics are not addictive, and 3) psychedelics when used properly have been shown to help people who struggle with anxiety, addiction, depression, ADHD and other mental health challenges, I decided to take the plunge. If you’d like to follow along in my journey, I’m making a private podcast feed to chronicle it all. I’ll go more in depth as to why I’ve chosen to do this, talk about the different options, tell you how my experience was with each one, and how it’s helped me in terms of my mental health. If you decide to sign up, please keep in mind, this is just my experience, psychedelics are not for everyone, and this type of therapy is subjective. That being said, tune into this week’s minisode where I talk about the above, why this is an extra-personal endeavor for me, which psychedelic therapy I chose to start with and why. Resources from this episode: Follow along on my psychedelic therapy journey Episode 551 with Dr. Ellen Vora Episode 560 with Dr. Tanmeet Sethi Mindbloom (make sure to use code andreao100 to get $100 off your treatment!) Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/596 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 17, 2024
Episode 595: The Psychedelic Therapy Experience with Brendan Fitzgibbons
Brendan Fitzgibbons returns to the podcast this week as we explore his transformative experience with psychedelic therapy. Brendan shares his personal journey as to why he chose to take the psychedelic therapy route and how it has profoundly impacted him. Brendan is the host of the popular podcast, “Spiritual Asshole,” writer, and actor. If you are a frequent listener, you are familiar with my endless curiosity about psychedelic therapy. My conversation with Brendan was truly enlightening. Tune in as we chat about psychedelics and their potential as a catalyst for healing and personal growth. And you’ll hear about my decision to start this myself and take you on my journey! You’ll hear: Why Brendan chose to take the psychedelic therapy route (7:30) The importance of experiencing psychedelic therapy in a safe and supportive environment (16:00) How has Mushrooms, and Ketamine Therapy helped Brendan with rumination and worry? What has integration looked like? (30:19) Resources: Write Your Way Through It Follow me on her Therapy Journey and subscribe to the private podcast feed! Brendan on Instagram Episode 551 with Dr. Ellen Vora Episode 560 with Dr. Tanmeet Sethi MushyGirls Mindbloom Brendan Fitzgibbons is a Los Angeles writer, actor and podcast host. He's written for Comedy Central, ComedyCentral.com, and the Onion. He's been on Full Frontal with Samantha Bee, MTV, and Comedy Central. His acting work has also been featured in South by Southwest and the Tribeca Film Festival. In 2021, he was the voice of the Samsung Galaxy phone and his podcast, "Spiritual Asshole" was named "Top Indie Podcast" by Stitcher in 2020 and 2021. He just recorded an album at the Ice House with Comedy Dynamics that will be out Feb 2024. Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/595 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcastchoices.com/adchoice
Wed, April 10, 2024
Episode 594: Self-Care, Life Balance, and Joy with Vanessa Cornell
Vanessa Cornell joins me for a conversation about the complexities women face in balancing personal identity, ambition, and self-care. Through her work, Vanessa has become a curious observer of the human condition and a leading voice in parenting empowerment, helping moms to overcome the constant guilt, shame, and pressures that plague modern motherhood to live a fully actualized life free from mom-guilt and mom-burnout. Our conversation is not just for moms but all women trying to find the balance between work, life, and self-care. In this episode, Vanessa shares her journey and insights on redefining success, the cultural pressures women navigate, and the importance of self-awareness and setting boundaries. We also explore societal expectations of women, the challenge of 'having it all,' and advice for cultivating joy. You’ll hear: How do you “do it all” and not lose your relationship with yourself? (6:03) The crisis of loneliness (18:25) What self-care looks like for women in 2024 (19:22) Living a life that feels alive, full, easeful, and joyful (24:12) Resources: Write Your Way Through It Follow me along on her Therapy Journey and subscribe to the private podcast feed! Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters Vanessa Cornell is the owner of Cornell Vineyards and the founder of NUSHU, a women’s community grounded in wellness and empowerment. Vanessa graduated from Harvard and went on to work at Goldman Sachs. She then dedicated ten years to growing, birthing and raising her five children. After a lifetime of overachieving and overgiving, Vanessa felt depleted and deeply disconnected from herself and experienced a breaking apart of everything she had known. Since her personal awakening, Vanessa found her passion giving women the tools and confidence to step into their power and lead lives of joy and purpose. Through this work, Vanessa has become a curious observer of the human condition and a leading voice in parenting empowerment, helping moms to overcome the constant guilt, shame, and pressures that plague modern motherhood in order to live a fully actualized life free from mom-guilt and mom-burnout. Vanessa’s three loves in life are herself, her work, and her
Fri, April 05, 2024
Minisode 593: 3 questions to ask to integrate "the work"
If you’ve listened to the podcast for any length of time, you know I’m a fan of journaling. My relationship with journaling has ebbed and flowed over the years, but one thing always remains the same: When I do it, it’s always helpful to me. Creating art this way makes meaning of what’s happening in your life. The things you’re struggling with, the things that confuse you, feelings and emotions, and really anything. I’ve compiled a list of questions for you to journal on, no matter where you are in your life. I’ve also made a handy-dandy PDF for you to print out (or use online) to dig even deeper (the PDF has 5 follow-up questions for you to answer for each question). Visit http://andreaowen.com/593 to download the PDF! What am I hiding from? Where do I want to be headed? What kind of person do I want to be? Resources for this episode: Write Your Way Through It is open for registration! Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/593 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 03, 2024
Episode 592: Coaching Michelle on Shame, Emotions, and Self-Compassion
Coaching episodes are back! This week, I coached Michelle about shame resilience, the distinction between feeling and thinking about emotions, and how to practice self-compassion. I walk Michelle through these crucial aspects of personal growth, offering insights and strategies to navigate the challenges of self-discovery. At the end, you'll also hear an update from me about Michelle's openness to taking action toward her desired outcome. In this episode, we explore The feeling of being less than or unworthy (7:46) A crash course on shame resilience (11:57) Figuring out and naming your values (33:36) What feeling your emotions looks like versus thinking about them (35:00) How to practice self-compassion and give yourself grace while doing the work (37:48) Resources: Write Your Way Through It Registration is Open! Apply to be coached on the podcast How to Stop Feeling Like Shit Kristen Neff Burnout , Emily Nagoski PhD, Amelia Nagoski DMA Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/592 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 27, 2024
Episode 591: The Benefits of Yoga and Breathing with Brett Larkin
Brett Larkin joins me for a conversation about yoga. If you’ve followed me for some time then you know all about my push-pull relationship with yoga. What I love about Brett is that she talks about and teaches yoga from a practical standpoint. Brett is the founder of Uplifted Yoga® and the author of Yoga Life: Habits, Poses, and Breathwork to Channel Joy Amidst the Chaos . Her book, Yoga Life , explores finding the ritual, poses, and breathing that works for you—as opposed to subscribing to a specific yoga modality or practice, which we also discussed throughout our conversation. In this episode, you’ll hear: Brett’s definition of yoga. TLDR: it’s not about poses; it’s about awareness. (5:18) Fun yoga habits anyone can practice without getting on a mat, like: “Forget the poses. Focus on your breathing.” (10:00) Belly breathing, how to do it, and the benefits of breathing (16:35) Brett answers, “What is the Chakra System?” (22:30) The benefit of designing your own yoga ritual rather than following along with an online video or app (25:28) Resources: Sign up to get notified about the coaching program, Write Your Way Through It Brett’s book Brett’s website Brett on YouTube Brett on Instagram @larkinyogaytv Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/591 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 20, 2024
Episode 590: Centering Relationships and Regulating Emotions with Casey O’Roarty
This week, I am excited to introduce you to Casey O’Roarty as she joins me for a conversation about parenting and the complexities of adolescence, strategies for emotional regulation, and how to shift behaviors for personal growth. Whether you’re a parent of teens or not, this episode is definitely worth a listen. While we do discuss some of the obstacles and life lessons we face as parents, we also explore how to recognize behavior patterns we wish to change and how to strengthen the variety of relationships in our lives. Casey is a facilitator of personal growth and development whose work encourages parents of teens to discover the purpose of their journey while also providing them with tools and a shift of mindset that allows them to deepen their relationships with themselves and their families. In this episode, you’ll hear: Centering the relationship you have with your teens: what this means and what it looks like (5:06) Adolescence presents a challenging phase - it's not a reflection of your parenting abilities but rather a complex and difficult period to navigate (11:24) Exploring the practice of emotional regulation and self-awareness, particularly in navigating triggers and trauma responses (24:36) Shifting patterns of behavior and beliefs for personal growth (27:44) Resources: Sign up to get notified about the coaching program, Write Your Way Through It Casey’s website Casey on Instagram Andrea on Casey’s podcast, Joyful Courage Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/590 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, March 15, 2024
Minisode 589: What it looks like to navigate a break-up, Part 2
As you probably have heard by now, I’m going through a major life change (if you missed that minisode in July, check out episode 540 HERE .) A few weeks ago I released a minisode (episode 586 HERE ) about how I’m getting through it, and today’s episode is part two where I’m taking you with me around more of the how . In this minisode, I’m revealing what I’m doing to get myself to where I want to go. I’m hoping it can be helpful for you to see what the work looks like in real time. First up, is getting really clear on what I want. I’ve broken my life into parts, and every day I do some journaling focusing on those parts: My kids My home My income My health My love life As well as what I’m grateful for. I also talk about how in this part of my life, for the first time, I’m betting on myself. I’m leaning into all parts of myself, which includes all of my emotions. I’m feeling my feelings full out. The joy, the sadness, the anger and sometimes rage, the hope, the fear too. I’m learning to really, truly trust myself. For once. And lastly, I’m looking for ways to do my own somatic work (besides dancing, which I’ve been leaning on for a while now) that will help get me into my body– I’m toying around with the idea of starting erotic dance, or a physical challenge like straddle to handstand. Check out the short minisode to hear more about it! Resources: Sign up for my new group coaching program, Write Your Way Through It Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/589 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 13, 2024
Episode 588: Embracing Your Story and Navigating Change with Courtney Meyers
Courtney Meyers joins me on the podcast for a conversation about owning your story, expressing yourself through journaling, and navigating change. Courtney is an Emmy Nominated Writer and Producer, best-selling ghostwriter, and host of the Intentional Living with Courtney Meyers breakout podcast. Tune in to this episode as we discuss embracing change, self-expression, and the transformative power of storytelling. In this episode, you’ll hear: The power of sharing your story and its role in fostering connections (4:06) Are you hesitant to write a memoir because of how it might involve or impact others? Courtney offers advice on dealing with sensitive topics in storytelling (12:35) Navigating change: We’re constantly navigating it and have to embrace it. For complex changes, you must give time to mourn and grieve what was and is becoming. (15:19) The benefits of journaling and how it can assist with self-discovery and growth. (20:00) Manifesting and being aware of the opportunities in front of us (24:39) Spirituality and the ways to cultivate a deeper connection with your inner self (25:33) Resources: Join the Live Stream every Wednesday at 12 pm ET! Connect with @heyandreaowen on your favorite social media platform to watch and follow. Private Coaching with Andrea Courtney Meyers’ website Courtney on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/588 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 06, 2024
Episode 587: Manifestation, Self-Trust, and Genius with Anna Tsui
I welcome guest Anna Tsui, and together, we discuss concepts around manifesting, self-trust, and tapping into our genius. Anna, a seasoned leadership coach and international speaker, shares her profound insights into the natural manifestation of our existence and the pivotal role self-trust plays in believing in ourselves. Throughout our conversation, Anna draws from her experience as an entrepreneur and author to empower others to be their true selves. We explore the transformative power of self-trust and embracing one's unique genius, challenging conventional views and offering invaluable wisdom for those seeking self-discovery in the face of life's challenges. In this episode, you’ll hear: About manifestation as a natural outcome of our existence (3:28) The act of self-trust and believing in yourself (9:16) Anna explains her belief that the patriarchy has co-opted the word genius. (13:38) How to tap into your genius and the link between genius and authenticity (14:52) Shadow patterns and how they show up in our lives and keep us stuck (26:45) Resources: Live Streams begin on March 6th at 12 pm ET! Connect with @heyandreaowen on your favorite social media platform to watch and follow. Private Coaching with Andrea Anna’s website Anna on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/587 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, March 01, 2024
Minisode 586: On what's next
“Maybe you can’t see it yet, but you can feel it. You can sense it. Somewhere deep within, you know—something is happening that you can’t quite see. Energy that is working in your favor. Tiny synchronicities aligning in perfect timing. A shift happening in the universe that you can feel deep down in your bones. 🤯 And your thinking mind may still have doubts, but your beating heart knows—this is real. What’s meant for you is coming. You are seen, and you are being taken care of in ways you can’t even imagine. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. And right now, your only job is to keep making space. 🦋 Keep letting go of what no longer serves you–the limiting beliefs, the old stories, the heavy baggage you’ve been carrying that isn’t meant to come with you into this next chapter. Make space for what’s meant for you. Make space for what’s coming. 🌌 Soon, you’ll understand how everything that has happened has led you to this moment. Soon, you’ll see. This whole universe is about to open up for you.” — Zanna Keithley *********************** If you tune in to this week's episode you’ll hear me tell you why this post resonated so much with me. I summarize what the last three years have been like for me, while giving a small update on the ending of my marriage. I also share that my business experienced the biggest hit and setback in its lifetime starting in 2020 and I’m just now trying to climb my way out. I was too sick and too emotionally distracted to put my mind and heart into it. I’m ready now. It’s a short episode (under 20 min) and the next minisode will be part two, where I talk about how I’m putting Zanna’s message above to work in my life, and how I’m intentionally moving into the next new phase of my life. Resources: Zanna Keithly on IG 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Subscribe to the newsletter list to be notified when Andrea’s weekly live streams begin in March! Private Coaching with Andrea Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: htt
Wed, February 28, 2024
Episode 585: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People with Dr. Ramani Durvasula
I'm thrilled to welcome Dr. Ramani Durvasula as we explore healing from narcissistic relationships. It’s been a minute since we covered this topic and my guest today has a plethora of insight. Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles and the author of her upcoming book, “It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People.” She brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to our conversation. "Narcissistic" has become a prevalent buzzword in today's social media landscape. In this episode, Dr. Ramani discusses common harmful behaviors in relationships, regardless of narcissistic traits. She explains trauma bonding and its distinct nature. Additionally, she offers insights into post-narcissistic relationship dynamics and addresses the role of codependence in healing. In this episode, you’ll hear: The behaviors Dr. Ramani sees most often that are harmful in relationships – whether the person perpetuating them is a narcissist or not. (4:09) Trauma bonding and how someone knows they’re experiencing it: “Trauma bonding is not a relationship between two people who have had trauma.” (19:35) When someone walks away from a narcissistic partner - what can they expect, and what might be helpful for healing (29:00) Dr. Ramani answers, “How does codependence play a role in all this?” (35:05) Resources: Subscribe to the newsletter list to be notified when Andrea’s weekly live streams begin! Private Coaching with Andrea Dr. Ramani’s website Dr. Ramani’s book, It’s Not You Dr. Ramani on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/585 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 21, 2024
Episode 584: CASTMWUP, Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables on Family Drama
I have a guest duo episode for you this week! Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables, hosts of the acclaimed podcast What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood, join me for a conversation about navigating family drama. In this episode, Amy and Margaret unravel the complexities of relationships and setting boundaries in a world filled with chaos makers. Tune in as we explore strategies for identifying and dealing with these challenging individuals, discuss the nuances of conflict resolution, and delve into the delicate art of establishing boundaries. Join us for an insightful conversation with wisdom, laughter, and practical advice! In this episode, you’ll hear: Identifying and dealing with the “crazymakers” in your life (4:27) Conflict avoidant? Hear what we think about the term and how we handle conflict that comes up in our lives (13:23) Boundaries and having hard conversations (23:05) When is it time to go no contact with someone who creates chaos in your life? (37:56) Resources: Subscribe to my newsletter list to be notified when live streams begin! Make Some Noise Community Survey What Fresh Hell Podcast Facebook Group Adalyst Media Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/584 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, February 16, 2024
Minisode 583: My daily journaling routine
With so much advice out there on journaling, and with so many options, I thought it might be helpful to talk about my daily journaling routine. In this short episode, you’ll hear me riff on how I’ve been inconsistent with my own journaling practice, and how grace is the key to keep getting back into it when you need it. My current journaling practice takes me less than 5 minutes a day (and tbh, I don’t do it every day), but based on my history, can certainly make a huge impact in both my personal and professional life. Last, you’ll hear me make a special announcement 😉 Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/583 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 14, 2024
Episode 582: Kink, Vanilla Sex, and Ethical Non-Monogamy with Stefani Goerlich
I am excited to welcome guest Stefani Goerlich to the podcast this week! We discuss the intricate nuances of kink, vanilla, and everything in between. Stefani is a seasoned sex therapist and master social worker renowned for her expertise in gender, sexuality, and relationships. Stefani explores the evolving landscape of sexual expression, challenging conventional norms and offering profound insights into the diverse spectrum of human desire. Throughout the episode, Stefani eloquently unpacks the multifaceted world of kink, debunking myths and misconceptions. With candor and compassion, she addresses the apprehensions surrounding discussions of kink, offering practical strategies for introducing alternative sexual practices within relationships and dismantling stigmas associated with BDSM and ethical non-monogamy. In this episode, you’ll hear: Stefani defines kink as anything unusual for a specific place or time. She explains how the definition of kinky often evolves and varies across cultures (4:23) Highlighting the awesomeness of vanilla sex and dispelling insults associated with the term. (7:22) Some individuals find discussing kinks intimidating, we explore why this might be so. (11:13) The motivations behind people's kinky desires (16:44) Stefani outlines the three primary aspects of BDSM (21:40) Strategies for introducing kink into relationships (28:00) The challenges individuals encounter when exploring ethical non-monogamy (32:57) Resources: Subscribe to my newsletter list to be notified when Group Coaching registration begins! Make Some Noise Community Survey Stefani’s private practice website Stefani’s author website Securing Sexuality Ethical Slut, Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: <a href="http
Wed, February 07, 2024
Episode 581: Disordered Eating with Megan Hadley
I have another listener request episode for you! Megan Hadley returns to tackle the sensitive topic of disordered eating, including some of the common symptoms high-achieving women experience and tools about how to get help. Megan provides practical advice on recognizing when to seek help, offering hope for those navigating the complexities of their relationship with food and body image. Whether grappling with disordered eating or seeking to deepen your understanding, this conversation offers invaluable insights and a roadmap toward healing. In this episode, you’ll hear: The most common Eating Disorder in high-achieving women (6:13) Megan answers, “When should someone seek help, and what might that look like?” (9:28) If you know you have a problem, Megan provides insight on the best route for getting help (17:28) What the “other side” of eating disorder recovery looks like (28:08) Body image and what we should be striving for (40:16) The Health At Every Size Movement (44:11) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Megan’s websites: Simple Nutrition Counseling and MegHadley.com Binge Eating Disorder book Dr. Hillary McBride on We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle Life Without Ed, Jenni Schaefer Project HEAL Episode 444: How We Heal Ourselves: Recovering from Diet Culture with Megan Hadley Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/581 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, February 02, 2024
Minisode 580: Taking up space
We have another listener request minisode! She asked for a theme on taking up space and everything that comes along with it. Since this is one of my favorite topics and I just happened to write a book– Make Some Noise – that contains a chapter with this topic, I thought I’d read a few excerpts from it, and riff on those niche topics. First up, I get into what taking up space really looks like, and how it shows up in our lives. Then is why we don’t take up space and what it’s costing us. Like, why does it matter? And finally, I spend some time talking about the how. How do we take up space and what does it look like to do the work to get us there! Thanks so much for tuning in, and please look for two things coming up– group programs to be released, and our podcast listener/community survey! Resources from this episode: Make Some Noise Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/580 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 31, 2024
Episode 579: Anxiety, Hormones, and Health with Dr. Ellen Vora
Dr. Ellen Vora returns to the podcast! You may remember her from our previous episode about anxiety, insomnia, and depression. You can think of this as part two of the conversation, where we talk a little bit more about anxiety and also dig deeper into hormone health and autoimmune disease. Ellen Vora, MD, is a board-certified psychiatrist, acupuncturist, yoga teacher, and author of The Anatomy of Anxiety. She takes a functional medicine approach to mental health—considering the whole person and addressing imbalance at the root. Listen to gain practical strategies for your holistic health and well-being. In this episode, you’ll hear about: The landscape for healing your gut can be overwhelming - Dr. Ellen explains some steps to get started(12:23) Advice for taking action on causes that matter and balancing the anxiety that usually comes with it (17:35) Some ways to gently nudge yourself back toward better hormone balance (15:16) Dr. Ellen provides an overview of some of the endocrine disrupters we should stay away from - including some of the clothes we are wearing (25:45) Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Dr. Ellen’s website Dr. Ellen’s book Episode 478: Self-care series: Anxiety, Insomnia, and Depression with Dr. Ellen Vora Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/579 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 24, 2024
Episode 578: Overcoming Self-Sabotage and Modes for Healing with Crystle A. Lampitt
This week, we are diving into therapeutic modalities with Crystle A. Lampitt, a licensed therapist, speaker, and trauma specialist. Crystle's journey from self-sabotage, burnout, and dysfunctional relationships to becoming an advocate for alignment and self-trust is truly inspiring. In this episode, discover the power of NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model), a therapeutic approach that blends somatic and cognitive theories to guide individuals through trauma processing and integration. Plus, Crystle sheds light on the intricacies of self-sabotage, unraveling its origins and impact on our lives. Tune in to this episode for a deep dive into healing, understanding self-sabotage, and embracing the path to self-trust. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Crystle introduces us to the therapeutic modality NARM, which incorporates both somatic (body-informed) and cognitive theories to help us process and integrate trauma. (5:10) Self-sabotage: what is it, and how can we stop? (24:00) Our adaptive survival strategies can sometimes look like self-sabotage (25:17) The first step towards overcoming self-sabotage is naming and being aware of the pattern. (31:50) Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Crystle’s website Crystle on Instagram @crystlelampitt Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/578 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, January 19, 2024
Minisode 577: How to overcome insecurities to achieve BIG goals
Today’s minisode comes from another listener request! She wanted to know more about how to overcome insecurities to achieve BIG goals. Below you’ll find some of the exercises and questions I talk about in this minisode, but make sure you listen in to get the whole enchilada. Big goals are a long game, so let’s first talk logistics. First, break down what you want to do into smaller chunks, and then from there, even smaller. Sometimes it can help to look at the reality of what you’re trying to accomplish, and then remind yourself that you’re one human, and it’s going to take time, perseverance, and grace. Next, I’m going to give you some questions and exercises to do that will help you break them down so you can work through them and hopefully overcome them. Let’s start with why is this goal important to you? Does it honor your values? How do you anticipate it’ll make you feel when you reach it? Is this goal solely important to you, or is it important to you that you reach this goal so others will perceive you a certain way (this isn’t always bad!) If this goal is successful, are you afraid something will happen then? For example, sustainability, what people will think, outgrowing certain people. Thinking about the specific insecurities you have around this, when was the first time you remember feeling those insecurities? Can you narrow down when it became an insecurity? It’s okay if you can’t, instead, think about other areas in your life you feel that specific kind of insecurity. What if the goal doesn’t work out as you want it to, think that through. How will you recover? What do you need to say no to in order to keep taking action? And when you do that, what are you saying yes to? Also, know that you’ll likely have insecurities forever. You’ll get past some and get new ones. Or some you’ll overcome and they’ll come back later when you make bigger or different goals. It’s normal, especially in our culture that constantly makes us feel we’re not enough. Resources from this episode: Make Some Noise book Get a personalized, signed copy of any of my books Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Ep
Wed, January 17, 2024
Episode 576:Betrayal in Romantic Relationships with Michelle Mays
This week’s episode is based on a listener's request about how to recover from the betrayal of infidelity. Michelle Mays joins me to discuss cheating, the betrayal bind, and solutions for healing. Michelle is a Licensed Professional Counselor and expert in treating sexual betrayal and trauma. She is the author of the new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst, and she is the founder of the Center for Relational Recovery in Northern Virginia outside of DC. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Cheating and what makes sexual betrayal so devastating and problematic? (3:37) The betrayal bind is what happens when we experience betrayal at the hands of our most significant other. (8:08) Every betrayed partner goes through three specific injuries. (16:08) The role of gaslighting when a partner is cheating (19:54) Michelle answers, “Can you actually heal from betrayal and cheating?” (28:08) “Your relationship may not be salvageable, but you can absolutely heal from betrayal and move into the rest of your life and thrive and flourish afterward.” AND “If you are trying to heal your relationship, that is possible. The deciding factor is whether you are both in it 100%.” (29:50) Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Michelle’s website Michelle on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/576 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 10, 2024
Episode 575: Infertility, Grief, and Moving Forward with Rebecca Robbins
This week, a former client turned podcast guest, Rebecca, bravely opens up about her journey through infertility. Rebecca shares the highs, lows, and everything in between, providing a genuine and vulnerable perspective on her challenges. This episode goes beyond the struggles of infertility, delving into the experience of coming out on the other side without the expected prize. Rebecca sheds light on the often-overlooked aspect of finding joy in a childless existence, walking through grief, and looking for support. Whether you've personally faced infertility, know someone who has, or are just curious about the realities of the journey, this conversation provides a compassionate glimpse into a story that resonates with many. Rebecca's openness and courage in sharing her narrative offer solace and understanding to listeners who may find comfort and connection in her words. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Rebecca opens up and shares her fertility story (4:28) Reconciling the grief that comes with infertility (23:53) Some of the unhelpful things people do or say (30:48) How Rebecca moved forward after the heartache (37:53) Focusing on the joy of a childless existence (39:45) Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Psychology Today World Childless Week website Gateway // Jody Day Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode Link: http://andreaowen.com/575 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, January 05, 2024
Minisode 574: On leaving a long-term relationship
A few weeks ago, a long-time client of mine was wrapping up one of her sessions. I typically ask my clients at the end of a session, just like I ask my podcast guests “Anything you need to say or ask before we wrap up to make sure you feel complete?” It invites them to say anything at all, but when it comes to clients, many times they say outloud the thing that they’ve been afraid to say. “Got any advice on how to leave a long-term relationship?” She asked me. “Oh, yes. I do.” I replied. Listen in to this minisode where I talk about what I told her, which includes advice on listening to your gut instead of your trauma, the “messy middle”, and how you may always have feelings for your former partner. Resources: Private coaching with Andrea Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/574 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 03, 2024
Episode 573: Imposter Complex with Dr. Valerie Young
We're revisiting a topic that affects many — Impostor Syndrome. Who better to guide us through this complex pattern of self-doubt than renowned expert Dr. Valerie Young? It's been a decade since we last explored Impostor Syndrome on the podcast! Dr. Young, co-founder of the Impostor Syndrome Institute, joins us to shed light on the latest insights and information surrounding Imposter Syndrome. In this conversation, Dr. Young takes a moment to articulate what Impostor Syndrome is and how it subtly infiltrates various aspects of our lives. She leaves us with a powerful mantra: "The only way to stop feeling like an impostor is to stop thinking like an impostor." In this episode, you’ll hear about: Dr. Young takes a few moments to describe imposter syndrome and how it shows up in our lives (4:43) Imposter Syndrome coping and protecting mechanisms such as overwork and overprepare or procrastination (9:06) What research shows about the competence of women in the workplace (15:44) Rethinking risk-taking and cultivating “chutzpah” (16:20) Dr. Young answers, “Some people say impostor syndrome is a good thing -- do you agree?” (22:13) Impostor syndrome demands immediate, usable solutions; the goal is not to “fix” anyone. (26:31) Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Dr. Valerie Young on Imposter Syndrome Imposter Syndrome Coping Mechanisms Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/573 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 27, 2023
Episode 572: Relationships, Divorce, and Mental Health with Kate Anthony
Happy holidays! This week, we are talking about relationships on the show. Whether you are single or in a relationship, my guest and I cover many topics applicable to all listeners. I’m thrilled to welcome back a familiar face, the dynamic Kate Anthony. If you've been following the show, you know Kate as a multi-time guest, bringing her wisdom to various discussions about shit that matters with unqualified people, which is a series I do here on the show. But this time around, Kate is donning the hat of a qualified expert ready to tackle topics ranging from the role of porn in relationships to the challenges posed by addiction, mental illness, and emotional abuse. Kate also shares how to tell a partner you want a divorce in a clear, kind, and absolute way. As the author of the new book "The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage," Kate brings a wealth of knowledge to the conversation. She is also the acclaimed host of "The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast," a New York Times recommended show. Beyond podcasting, Kate is the visionary behind the groundbreaking online group coaching program, "Should I Stay or Should I Go." This program empowers women to navigate life's most challenging decisions through coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and profound self-work. In this episode, you’ll hear about: The first thing women need to look at when trying to decide to end a relationship (6:55) Kate provides insights into the prevalence of narcissism in contemporary society, addressing the question: "Do you believe there are as many narcissists as people seem to think these days?" (11:47) Emotional abuse and what it looks like in a relationship, including the two crucial facets of emotional abuse (17:02) Shedding light on sexual abuse in marriage (35:42) Insights on effectively initiating and navigating the divorce conversation with a spouse, ensuring that it resonates and has a lasting impact. (43:52) Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Kate’s website Kate’s book Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/572 </p
Wed, December 20, 2023
Episode 571: Habits, Resolutions, and Dry January with Casey McGuire Davidson
Are you hoping to start a new habit or even quit drinking in the coming year? This episode explores the transformative power of habits and the sober-curious lifestyle, featuring Casey McGuire Davidson, a Life & Sobriety Coach and the host of The Hello Someday Podcast for Sober Curious Women. Casey, with her background in helping high-achieving women break free from alcohol's hold, shares insights applicable to any habit or behavior change. We discuss resolutions to positively impact health and explore best practices for sustaining motivation when that initial drive fades. Dry January takes center stage in our conversation, with Casey emphasizing that the act of abstaining from alcohol goes beyond a temporary trend – it's a gateway to understanding the difference one can feel. Listen to hear ideas that can be a catalyst for positive change in various aspects of your life. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Some resolutions that can improve your health (4:39) Best practices that can keep people going after the initial motivation fades (9:05) Dry January - it’s not just about quitting drinking. (15:07) Casey answers, “Why is quitting drinking a change more and more people are interested in making?” (21:54) “Once you stop drinking for a period of time, you can’t unknow the difference you feel.” (30:58) Casey McGuire Davidson is a Life & Sobriety Coach and the host of the Top 100 Mental Health Podcast, The Hello Someday Podcast for Sober Curious Women. As an ex-red wine girl who spent 20 years climbing the corporate ladder while holding on tightly to her love of wine, Casey’s passionate about helping busy women stop drinking and create lives they love without alcohol. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, NBC News and over 70 sobriety, motherhood, mental health and wellness podcasts and publications. Resources from this episode: 1:1 Coaching with Andrea Daring Way™ Coaching with Andrea Casey’s website Casey on Instagram Atomic Habits, James Clear Dopamine Nation, Dr. Anna Lembke Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy readin
Fri, December 15, 2023
Minisode 570: On being the "bigger person"
Before we get into it, I have ONE coaching spot open for the new year! Is it you? You can read more about it HERE . Have you ever seen or heard the quote, “How you do one thing is how you do everything”? Well, I’m here to tell you that, no, it’s not. In this minisode, I’m riffing on the notion that when someone is faced with a conflict, that it’s then you find out who they “really are”, their “true colors”, or their “true character”. It’s easy to jump to deciding that someone is terrible based on how someone acts and treats you during conflict. When we see someone acting out of character, we want a reason for it. It’s unusual, and we want to make sense of it. And maybe you’ve been that person! When I was going through a terrible divorce in 2006, I was not my best self. At times I was vindictive, mean, and I lashed out. Does that make me a mean, vindictive person? No, it makes me a normally kind human being who’d just been traumatized, didn’t have the coping skills to deal with what she was going through, was in a tremendous amount of pain and fear and often was acting from that place. That will happen to all of us. I also get into the topic of compassion, both for yourself when you’re in this place, and for other people. This is NOT to say you can let people treat you badly, but you can see where they’re coming from and set boundaries. Resources from this episode: Coaching with Andrea Re-parenting and inner-child work with Cybele Botran Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/570 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 13, 2023
Episode 569:Family Constellations and Ancestral Healing with Liza Miron
I'm thrilled to have you join us today as we dive into the fascinating world of Family Constellation Therapy. I've got an incredible expert with me, the insightful Liza Miron. With Family Constellations and Ancestral Healing, Liza helps you heal the hidden or limiting issues from your Family System that keep you blocked and repeating negative patterns so you can live your life with love, joy, abundance, health, and success. Liza sheds light on the profound healing potential of Family Constellations, a therapeutic approach that might not involve stars but unveils a galaxy of insights into our lives. Don't miss out on this transformative conversation that might be the key to unlocking your path to healing and happiness. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Family Constellations: Liza explains what family constellations are. They have nothing to do with the stars; they are a healing method. (3:42) How Family System entanglements impact our relationships (7:36) How to heal entanglements and the trauma we unconsciously carry from the Family System (22:10) Liza answers, “Can someone do this mode of healing if they are adopted and don’t know anybody from their biological family?” (30:03) Resources from this episode: Get Coached by Andrea on the Podcast Buy a Signed Copy of Andrea’s book! Liza’s website Episode 81: Family constellation therapy with Natalie Berthold Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/569 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 06, 2023
Episode 568: Work-Life Balance and Burnout Recovery with Cait Donovan
Cait Donovon returns to the podcast this week! Previously, she joined me for a conversation about burnout recovery and boundaries. In this episode we talk a little bit more about burnout, but mostly about what it means to achieve work-life balance. For those of you new to Cait, she is the host of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast, a Keynote speaker, author of the book "The Bounce-back-ability Factor" and a burnout aficionado. Cait helps us explore the evolving landscape of work-life balance, unraveling cultural shifts and emphasizing the importance of creating boundaries in a world where the lines between work and personal life have blurred. Whether you've experienced burnout or are seeking clarity on work-life equilibrium, this episode provides a roadmap to navigate burnout culture and reclaim a more harmonious life. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Burnout culture: what it is and how it shows up. (5:14) Work-life balance: the cultural shift from the natural segmentation we had between life and work and how we must now make an effort to create boundaries between work and life. (14:40) “We're trying to get more life, but we don't have the energy to do it. We think we don't have the time to do it, but that's probably not true because most of us spend an hour a day on Instagram.” (19:15) Cait answers, “What does it mean to find work-life balance?” (29:01) Burnout recovery can be a long process for some, and Cait explains why. (35:56) Resources from this episode: Get Coached by Andrea on the Podcast Community Survey Cait’s website Episode 528:Burnout Recovery, Boundaries, and Better Communication with Cait Donovan Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, Emily Nagoski PhD and Amelia Nagoski DMA Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/568 Learn more about
Fri, December 01, 2023
Minisode 567: On taking accountability
I don’t watch a lot of reality TV, but I’m hooked on Selling Sunset and Selling the OC on Netflix. Of course I get drawn into the drama (and the real estate and clothes too!) but I’m very interested in how they handle conflict. Lots of throwing daggers back and forth, jockeying for who has it harder/been through worse heartache, and shaming each other. Rarely, if ever, does someone apologize. I know these shows are edited, and I think the producers might choose parts of conversations to make people out to be “characters” of themselves without showing the ore normal and even kinder sides of them. But I don’t think their behavior is that far off from reality. In this minisode I talk about some specific scenes, as well as what it might look like to circle back and clean up a “mess” that was made. If you’re ever in a similar situation– because let’s face it, we all make mistakes and behave poorly sometimes– this minisode will help. Or, if you want to hear me riff on these reality shows, tune in! Resources from this podcast: Take my quick, 2-question survey Apply to be coached on the show Any links you might need P.S. I’ve included the transcripts, click here to read them… Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/567/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 29, 2023
Episode 566: Andrea and Brendan on Comedy, Self-Help, and Unexpected Growth
This week I have for you a conversation about shit that matters with unqualified people. Yes, this special series is back! This episode features writer, actor, and podcast host of Spiritual Asshole, Brendan Fitzgibbons. Our conversation covers a range of personal experiences, humorous anecdotes, and reflections on the complexities of self-help and therapy. We also share some of our most awkward and unforgettable dating stories. If you are new to this series, these episodes are less of an interview with a guest about their expertise and more about personal experiences about a given topic. However, as you’ll hear in this episode, Brendan pushes back on the notion that he is unqualified and makes a strong case debunking the title. As it were, the episode is full of funny, endearing, and insightful back-and-forth about self-help and dating. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Brendan offers his unique perspective on the unexpected turns in the journey of personal growth. (7:17) Brendan answers the question, “Is it true that comedians tend to be the most fucked up people?” (22:31) We share the weirdest first dates we’ve been on - including Brendan’s experience on a reality TV dating show! (26:00) Tips for finding good coaches and healers that fit your needs and vibe (44:54) Resources from this episode: Get Coached by Andrea on the Podcast Community Survey Andrea on Brendan’s podcast, Spiritual Asshole Brendan’s website Brendan on Instagram Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/566/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 22, 2023
Episode 565: Reinvention, Boredom, and Self-Mothering with Jeannine Yoder
Jeannine Yoder is back on the show! Previously, she joined me for a conversation on healing parental wounds. This time, she joins me to explore themes of reinvention, the power of boredom, and self-mothering. For those new to Jeannine, she is a New York Times Featured Feminine Leadership & Business Coach, Healer, Mom, Broadway Artist, and Founder/CEO of Mentor Masterclass , an all-in-life coach training school for women. In this conversation, Jeannine candidly shares her transformative journey of "burning it all down" and the catalyst to her self-transformation. We also explore the intricacies of marriage, sex, and pleasure and the significance of bodywork. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Jeannine opens about how and why she “burned it all down” last year. She describes the catalyst and shares about what she is doing now. (3:33) Writing a memoir isn’t just about putting your life in story, it’s about finding the common thread (11:37) Navigating grief and how Jeannine’s relationship has changed with her mother, since her mother’s passing (42:07) Jeannine answers, “What does it mean to self-mother?” (47:29) Resources from this episode: Get Coached by Andrea on the Podcast Community Survey Episode 229: Healing From Parental Wounds, Making Peace and Moving Forward with Jeannine Yoder Jeannine’s website Jeannine on Instagram Signs, Laura Lynne Jackson The Light Between Us, Laura Lynne Jackson Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/565 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, November 17, 2023
Minisode 564: On just being a normal human
Sometimes I record minisodes that I need to hear for my own personal or professional life, and this is definitely one of them! I know a lot of you who listen to the podcast probably consume a decent amount of personal growth podcasts, books, etc. and that’s a great thing! However, the thing to watch out for is perfectionism and/or high achievement in personal growth because that can be detrimental. Some questions to ask yourself to see if this might be you: Are you consuming so much self help that you forget that it’s okay to be human? That life hurts and is hard sometimes? Do you compare where you are to others, and feel bad that you’re not where you think you’re supposed to be? Do you forget sometimes that it’s completely normal to feel like shit at times, to go through incredibly challenging seasons and not have ways to get out of it? Please remember that we don’t always have to be in a state of perpetual forward movement. Sometimes we move back, and sometimes we are still. It’s never linear. In addition, there will be times in your life where you have some or even a lot of negative self-talk. I close this minisode out with reading an excerpt from Make Some Noise about his topic, as well as a little pep talk at the end. Resources from this episode: Make Some Noise by Andrea Owen Getting Damn Good at Life by Andrea Owen (inner-critic audio program) Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/564 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 15, 2023
Episode 563: Radical JOY and Well-being with Erica Lasan
This week, we are diving into the transformative world of RADICAL JOY with Erica Lasan, a multi-passionate entrepreneur, dedicated wife, and mother. Erica shares her personal JOYrney, unveiling pivotal moments that led her to understand the significance of navigating such a path in life, motherhood, and business. Erica shares her empowering three-step framework, the JOYrney™ Process, guiding individuals to Rediscover, Reconnect, and Recommit to Purpose and JOY in every facet of their lives. We also explore the distinction between the pursuit of happiness and the cultivation of enduring JOY. Finally, as the holiday season approaches, Erica imparts invaluable tips for managing stress, ensuring a season filled with fleeting happiness and enduring JOY. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Erica talks about what brought her to an understanding of a JOYrney and the need to have one in life, motherhood, and business. (3:29) Purpose does not need to be defined - “You don’t have to find what hasn’t been lost.” (13:44) How to find JOY and where to start: Erica’s three-step framework to help you Rediscover, Reconnect, and Recommit to Purpose and JOY in your life (23:49) The difference between happiness and JOY (28:02) Tips for managing stress during the holiday season (38:47) Resources from this episode: Join Andrea LIVE on TikTok TONIGHT, November 15th at 3pm PST / 6 pm EST @heyandreaowen Erica Lasan’s website The JOYGem Quiz Cassandra Speaks, Elizabeth Lesser Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show link: http://andreaowen.com/563 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 08, 2023
Episode 562: Oppression's Influence on Mental Health Dr. Raquel Martin
This week, I am joined by Dr. Raquel Martin, a seasoned clinical psychologist. She helps examine the implications of oppression on mental health and sheds light on the myriad ways it manifests in our lives - for both adults and children. Dr. Martin is an experienced licensed clinical psychologist, devoted professor, acclaimed researcher, and scientist who believes deeply in the power of Black mental wealth. In this episode, Dr. Martin introduces the intriguing concept of "no capes" and redefines our understanding of societal expectations. She also offers insight on the crucial subject of "culturally incompetent care," providing invaluable insights for professionals in the field. In this episode, you’ll hear about: The deep-seated links between oppression and mental health (6:52) Navigating the verbal minefield: the role of words in mental health conversations (28:12) The #burnthecape movement: redefining self-care with "no capes." (36:14) Empowering professionals for culturally sensitive support: understanding "culturally incompetent care." (46:15) Resources from this episode: Private coaching with Andrea Dr. Raquel Martin’s website Dr. Martin on TikTok and Instagram Dr. Martin’s TEDxTalk Dr. Martin on YouTube Join Andrea LIVE on TikTok on November 15th at 3pm PST / 6 pm EST @heyandreaowen Submit your questions for this fun AMA-type TikTok live - email support (at) andreaowen.com with your questions. Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show notes link: http://andreaowen.com/562 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, November 03, 2023
Minisode 561: Off-loading emotions
Today’s topic is one that’s near and dear to my heart and probably yours– emotions. As someone who’s had quite a journey in this arena, I’m always looking for ways to better understand them, as well as allow emotions to run their course naturally. I’m talking more specifically about “off loading” emotions, a subject I learned more about in my Daring Way™ training. It comes specifically from Brené Brown’s book, Rising Strong , and in this episode, I’m breaking down all of the ways we avoid dealing with our emotions. At the end of the episode, I’ll also go over some ways to process emotions as well. Happy emoting! Resources from this episode: Follow Andrea on TikTok Rising Strong book The Body Keeps the Score When the Body Says No Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show notes link: http://andreaowen.com/561/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 01, 2023
Episode 560: The Joy-Healing Connection with Tanmeet Sethi
This week we are exploring the distinction between joy and happiness and why joy is a critical practice, especially in the face of suffering. Tanmeet Sethi is my special guest, who is the author of “Joy is My Justice.” She is also a board-certified Integrative Family Medicine physician and Clinical Associate Professor at the University of Washington School of Medicine. The podcast explores the intriguing concepts from Tanmeet’s book, delves into joy as a path towards healing and even contributes to healing our ancestral wounds. Tanmeet spent the past 25 years working on the frontlines of the most marginalized communities, as well as globally with victims of school shootings, survivors of hurricanes, citizens impacted by police violence, and psychologists in Ukraine under attack. Tune in to this enriching discussion as we navigate the intersection of joy, healing, and social justice with guidance from Tanmeet. In this episode, you’ll hear: The difference between joy and happiness (5:29) Why joy is a critical practice when someone is suffering and why it’s critical for marginalized communities as a path to healing from oppression (11:11) The tools in “Joy is My Justice” activate the vagus nerve of the nervous system and help cultivate Joy (21:57) Healing our trauma and finding our Joy affects our genes and heals our ancestry (26:36) Psychedelics as a way to harness inner wisdom and inner healing; it is a potent way to catalyze joy (30:35) Tanmeet answers the question, “What is “embodied micro-resistance?” (40:11) Resources from this episode: Private coaching with Andrea Tanmeet’s website Tanmeet’s book Tanmeet’s TEDxTalk Join Andrea LIVE on TikTok on November 15th at 3pm PST / 6 pm EST @heyandreaowen Submit your questions for this fun AMA-type TikTok live - email support (at) andreaowen.com with your questions. Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here . Happy reading! MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Show notes link: http://andreaowen.com/560 Learn more about your ad choices
Wed, October 25, 2023
Episode 559: Mental Health Struggles with Dr. Nicole Washington
Trigger Warning: This episode contains conversations about severe mental health and suicide. If you are sensitive to these topics, please take care. I'm joined by the compassionate and highly experienced Dr. Nicole Washington, a mental health advocate who aims to reduce the stigma surrounding psychiatric illness. In this episode, we discuss how to recognize the need for mental health help, explore some thoughts and ideas around solutions for mental health struggles, and address some of the stigmas around mental wellness. Dr. Nicole Washington has dedicated her career to caring for underserved communities, individuals with severe mental illness, and high-performing professionals who don't typically seek mental health services. She tirelessly educates the public on mental health topics through her private practice, podcast, speaking engagements, and written work. Tune in to gain valuable insights into the complexities of mental health and the power of seeking help when needed. In this episode, you’ll hear: Dr. Nicole works with people who are not typically consumers of mental health services, namely underserved communities, those with severe mental illness, and high-performing professionals. She shares about why she ended up in that demographic. (3:09) What “mental breakdown” or “nervous breakdown” means - it means different things to different people. (8:37) Debunking myths associated with suicide (11:41) How to know when it is time to make an appointment with a psychiatrist or get inpatient treatment (16:52) Dr. Nicole answers the question, “Do you see a pattern in what could be the solution to mental health struggles?” (22:40) What someone can do if they’ve experienced having their vulnerabilities or mental health used against them (30:54) Companies and other kinds of workplaces are waking up to the importance of mental health. Dr. Nicole shares what people can do to make positive changes in their workplace, like instituting mental health days, etc. (34:26) Resources from this episode: Private coaching with Andrea Dr. Washington’s podcast episode on suicide Dr. Washington’s website National Alliance for Mental Illness http://andreaowen.com/559 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, October 20, 2023
Minisode 558: Lying to yourself
Today’s minisode comes from our listener survey from earlier this year. The listener wanted me to riff on the damage lying to yourself causes. Oof, am I right? You’ll hear a theme in this episode about self-compassion. When we’re trying to move away from lying to ourselves, we need to always try and come from a place of self-kindness and compassion. In this minisode I’ll pose a very important question for you to answer, as well as suggest an exercise that you can do at home to dig deeper around this particular behavior. Get out a piece of paper, your journal, or your notes app and get to work! I also talk about self-abandonment and how it relates to this. 👀 This was such a juicy topic, thank you so much to the listener who wrote in and recommended it! http://andreaowen.com/podcast/558 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 18, 2023
Episode 557: Reparenting and inner child work with Cybele Botran
Today, I am joined by the wonderful Cybele Botran for a truly enlightening conversation that delves into reparenting and inner child work. Cybele is a SHE RECOVERS® and Holistic Recovery Coach, dedicated to empowering sober or sober-curious women. Cybele’s mission is to guide women in shedding the heavy burdens of people-pleasing and perfectionism, and instead, foster the growth of resilient boundaries while rediscovering the pure essence of their inner child. This episode is a captivating exploration of inner healing, reparenting, and the rekindling of your inner child. Don't miss this opportunity to learn, grow, and rediscover. You’ll hear: Inner Child Energy vs. Inner Teen Energy and the distinctions between the energy of your inner child and the more adolescent inner teen (8:50) Cybele introduces us to the concept of reparenting. This journey is about becoming your very own nurturing parent, guiding yourself with compassion and understanding. (11:43) R.E.P.A.R.E.N.T - an acronym for healing: Cybele walks us through each letter of her powerful acronym, R.E.P.A.R.E.N.T. This acronym is a roadmap, designed to help women establish a profound connection with their most tender selves. (14:31) We discuss the intricate process of grief-work. This is a vital aspect of healing and reuniting with your inner child (30:54) Resources from this episode: Private coaching with Andrea Cybele’s website https://andreaowen.com/podcast/557/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 11, 2023
Episode 556: Obsessive love and love addiction with Britt Frank
One of my favorite people, Britt Frank, returns to the podcast this week! We are exploring a topic suggested by a listener - obsessive love and love addiction. When I received this suggestion, I knew Britt was the perfect person to help me address things like what is obsessive love versus healthy love. Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." She works to empower people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change. In this episode you’ll hear: Britt starts out by defining “love addiction” and then explains the difference between love addiction and someone who has an anxious attachment style (5:03) What is actually happening when someone feels like they have obsessive love (14:47) We explore a list by SLAA about twelve characteristics of love and sex addiction (17:01) “Awareness without shame creates change.” (23:02) How to heal from love addiction: the first step is detox and withdrawal (26:46) “The solution to love addiction is self-parenting.” (37:22) Resources from this episode: Private coaching with Andrea Britt’s website Britt’s book Episode 356: What is love addiction? with Dr. Alexandra Katehakis Episode 358: Healing from Narcissistic and Traumatic Relationships with Britt Frank Episode 397: Narcissistic Abuse, Trauma, and Healing with Britt Frank Episode 436: How We Heal Ourselves: A New Perspective on Mental Health with Britt Frank Episode 456: Relationship series: Healing from Traumatic Romantic Relationships with Britt Frank Characteristics of Sex and Love Addiction by S.L.A.A. Self Parenting: The Complete Guide to Your Inner Conversations https://andreaowen.com/podcast/556/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, October 06, 2023
Minisode 555: What coaching work looks like (+ a video!)
Recently a colleague I was catching up with asked me if I still love 1:1 coaching as much as I used to and I immediately said YES, and launched into an excited monologue of why I love it so much. There was such enthusiasm in my “speech”, that I turned on the mic and camera, and made both a podcast episode and video for you. This is especially for anyone who’s been interested in working with me. You have the option to check this on video, so if you’ve ever wondered what I look like when I record a podcast episode, check it out (hint: it’s not glamorous!) You’ll hear me talk about in this minisode/video: The thing that happens when I know I’m not a good fit for someone . And I used to be this person! What’s absolutely REQUIRED in order to see changes when you hire me as your coach. What one of my most recent clients said about the ending of our coaching together. What “the work” actually entails in terms of you, the client. Some of the many things you get from working with me so we don’t need to work together forever. When you think about hiring a coach like me, what needs to happen first within you . Resources: Read more about coaching with me Quick application page https://andreaowen.com/podcast/555/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 04, 2023
Episode 554: The effect of emotional labor on relationships, gender, and race with Rose Hackman
Rose Hackman is on the show this week! Rose is a journalist whose work on gender, race, labor, policing, housing, and the environment―published in The Guardian―has brought international attention to overlooked American policy issues, historically entrenched injustices, and complicated social mores. Rose’s book, Emotional Labor , is a journalistic deep dive in which she shares the stories of hundreds of women, tracing the history of emotional labor, exposing common manifestations of the phenomenon, and empowering us to forge pathways for evolution, justice, and change. Throughout our conversation, we often discussed emotional labor from the female perspective and explored its effect on race, class, relationships, and the workplace. If, after listening to our conversation, you’re intrigued and want to learn more, I encourage you to check out Rose’s book! In this episode, you’ll hear: Emotional labor: Rose describes what it is and looks like in different scenarios (4:18) How race, gender, and class unequally shape the load we carry (6:28) Rose answers, “Do you think women going through “the great divorce” is indirectly related to emotional labor?” (15:27) Our conversation moves to solutions, and we discuss some strategies for leveling the imbalances that contaminate our relationships, social circles, and households (30:47) Rose shares tools or rebuttals for when someone makes you feel as though the work you are doing is not real work (38:08) Resources: Private coaching with Andrea Rose's book is here Rose on Instagram Rose on TikTok Laura Danger’s episode on the division of labor https://andreaowen.com/podcast/554/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 27, 2023
Episode 553: How to Make Relationships Work with Carole Cullen
This is the second of two archived episodes that I’ve pulled from last year, because, well, this one was one of my favorites! I hand picked Carole Cullen to come on and talk about what it means to be a Certified Gottman Method therapist and she delivered! Next week we’ll be back with all new interviews! We’re wrapping up the relationship theme this week with guest Carole Cullen. I specifically wanted to include a guest in this series who was trained from The Gottman Institute and Carole fit the bill and y’all— she is amazing! In this episode, we talk about the seven principles for making relationships work. I took lots of notes while I was interviewing her and I’m sure you’ll get a lot out of this too Carole Cullen is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, AAMFT Clinical Supervisor and public speaker. She is a Certified Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapist specializing in working with couples in crisis. She has a group practice in Wake Forest, NC where she helps couples learn practical tools to reconnect with their partner and create a lasting love. We talked about: Carole shares, in detail, the seven principles that make relationships work (4:24) Emotionally focused therapy for couples in crisis (32:42) Creating a secure attachment with your partner (and realizing your partner is not responsible for healing your childhood wounds) (35:23) Resources: Coaching with Andrea Carole’s website The Gottman Institute The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Getting the Love You Want https://andreaowen.com/podcast/553/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 20, 2023
Minisode 552: Big Prize Energy
Last week I interviewed a journalist named Rose Hackman, who wrote a book called Emotional Labor: The Invisible Work Shaping Our Lives and How to Claim Our Power, and it got me thinking about a few things. So much so that I turned on the mic right after I got off Zoom with her, and recorded this minisode for you. First, I muse on what emotional labor looks like at work, but more specifically, as I personally reflect on my past relationships, what it looks like in romantic partnerships. I know my experience isn’t uncommon, so you may see yourself in my story. We all have patterns in our lives, and most of us have had them for decades. It’s a HUGE ask to expect yourself to see the patterns you don’t like, and just change them. There’s a lot of “messy middle”. This minisode is about identifying those patterns and hopefully coming to a decision about what you’ll accept… and for the things that have become unacceptable, or what I call in the episode “too expensive”, deciding what you plan to do about it. Resources: Buy a personalized, signed copy of Andrea’s book (or books!) Rose Hackman’s book, Emotional Labor Make Some Noise on Amazon https://andreaowen.com/podcast/552/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 13, 2023
Episode 551: Anxiety, Insomnia, and Depression with Dr. Ellen Vora
This week I’m bringing you an archived episode…Dr. Ellen Vora was one of my favorite guests and since I know so many of y’all struggle with anxiety, I knew exactly the episode I wanted to re-air! Enjoy her again and the very important message she shares. Dr. Ellen Vora is on the show this week to share several holistic approaches to the treatment of anxiety. Ellen is a holistic psychiatrist, acupuncturist, and yoga teacher. She takes a functional medicine approach to mental health—considering the whole person and addressing imbalance at the root. In this episode, we talk about whether or not we are experiencing an anxiety epidemic, strategies for addressing anxiety, the difference between “false” and “true” anxiety, and so much more. I am beyond excited to introduce you to her. She is so smart, has a wealth of information, and I had so many questions for her. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did! Some other topics we explore: The cause of the anxiety epidemic (5:54) Ellen talks about her approach to defining anxiety, “false anxiety” and some strategies for addressing it (8:50) The connection between hormones, birth control, and mood regulation (13:20) The role of psychedelics in treating anxiety and the mystical experience hypothesis (18:34) Ellen shares her controversial views on sunshine, why our bodies benefit from the sun, and some healthy ways to get sun exposure (24:24) Ellen’s nuanced view on body positivity and binge eating (27:03) How we can realistically improve our sleep and why is scrolling on our phones at night relevant to anxiety (36:34) Ellen’s hot-take on the effects of nutrient dense diets on post-partum depression and anxiety (45:50) Resources: Private coaching with Andrea Ellen’s website Ellen’s book, The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming The Body’s Fear Response The Mood Cure, Julia Ross Deconstruction episode https://andreaowen.com/podcast/551/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 06, 2023
Episode 550: Using food to cope and what we really need
Dr. Adrienne Youdim is on the show today and has a very interesting story in her journey as a medical weight loss doctor. I’ll let you listen in as she talks about this journey in the first few minutes of the show, but in a nutshell, she wrote a book based on what she’s seen over and over again with her patients and in her own life. Which led her to write a book teaching women to reach a place of self-acceptance, purpose, and meaning. Dr. Adrienne’s mission is to transform our relationship with food, our weight and our bodies to one that is informed and empowered, inspiring people to live more physically and emotionally fulfilling lives. Her book talks about the many, many ways women are hungry and although we only have time to talk about a handful of them, I’m sure you’ll resonate with the ones we do touch on, and if you want to know the rest, you’ll have to grab her book! In this episode you’ll hear: What brought Dr. Adrienne to write a book that isn’t really about weight loss, even though she was a doctor who helped people lose weight. (4:42) Andrea reads an excerpt from Dr. Adrienne’s book that talks about the universal hungers that we all have and feel. (7:05) We talk about how detrimental fat-shaming is, what is Body dysmorphic disorder, as well as what happens when we use food to cope (7:37) I ask since Dr. Adrienne’s book Hungry for More focuses on the many things women are actually hungry for, what have been the chapters that resonate the most with readers? (12:16) What, in terms of mental and emotional health, does she see in her practice? (24:14) We discuss dopamine…is that one of the hungers? (35:06) I ask about ritual, why is having ritual in our life one of our hungers and why is it important? (40:18) Resources: Dr Adrienne’s TEDx Talk Dr. Adrienne’s book, Hungry For More Dr. Adrienne on Instagram Dr. Adrienne’s website https://andreaowen.com/podcast/550/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, September 01, 2023
Minisode 549: Grieving Changes
The topic of today’s minisode comes from one of our Make Some Noise listeners! Earlier this year, we sent out a survey, and y’all showed up (THANK YOU!). One listener asked if I could riff on the following topic: Grieving changes, like kids aging, and experiences you thought you'd have by a certain age. I have a feeling you all have struggled with at least one of those she mentioned, so I put together a list of steps to think about if you are. Listen into the minisode to get an in-depth look at these, especially number three! Acknowledging the grief— don’t dismiss it. Feel whatever you feel, don’t make yourself wrong for it. And know those emotions may circle back around over and over again. Work on letting go, in other words, work on detachment. Many times we feel like if we have this or that, it would make us happier, more fulfilled, or more successful. Journal and talk to people who make you feel seen and heard on this topic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 30, 2023
Episode 548: Resilience, Career Growth, and Burnout with Danielle Cobo
Today we are talking about how to cultivate grit and resilience with Danielle Cobo. Fittingly, Danielle is a career coach who works with organizations to develop the grit, resilience, and courage to thrive in a rapidly changing market. In this episode we also talk about proactively preventing burnout, how to accelerate your career, and how to turn life challenges into purpose and growth. Danielle is just delightful and I hope you love this conversation as much as I did. Featured topics: How to identify stress triggers and take proactive steps to prevent burnout (5:39) Danielle answers, “Are you born with grit? If not, how can you cultivate it?” (9:03) Fixed mindset vs growth mindset: what it is and how it plays out in our lives(13:03) What is your X Factor? What excites you? How can you redefine success on your own terms? (23:03) Advice for women who want to accelerate their careers (23:54) An exercise to help cultivate resilience (32:33) “The person you are today is because of what you’ve overcome.” (35:38) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 23, 2023
Episode 547: Perspective and Reinvention with Wendy Valentine
This week we are talking about shifting perspective, embracing change, and midlife reinvention. Wendy Valentine, writer, motivational speaker, master coach, and host of The Midlife Makeover Show, is a champion for midlifers. She’s my guest this week! Since Wendy’s own midlife revolution, she’s been helping people all over the world navigate challenges to create their best second half of life. In this episode, Wendy and I talk about the idea that there is more than one purpose to find or fulfill, amplifying the voice of your inner cheerleader (and quieting your inner critic), why midlife awakening is about perspective not a crisis, and Wendy’s seven steps to finding F.R.E.E.D.O.M. Featured topics: How Wendy turned a midlife crisis into a midlife awakening (5:49) Amplifying your inner cheerleader and quieting down your inner critic (17:00) Why Wendy leaves her completed journals in airports (20:05) Getting unstuck from a mundane or manic midlife and discovering your next courageous step towards a better future (26:07) The seven steps to finding F.R.E.E.D.O.M. and reinventing your life (36:24) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, August 18, 2023
Minisode 546: Showing up in relationships
I got a lot of messages after I released episode 540, all kinds– either sending me love and support, saying you relate and have been through what I’m going through, and some of you in a spot where you’re not sure if you should stay or go. And of course we all know how the social media algorithms work, and there’s some videos that have come across my feed in the last month or so that spoke to me and that topic and I wanted to share them with you. For legal reasons, these are hypothetical, and I may or may not be able to relate to these in my own life. I’ve included the links to each video and transcribed below. Listen in to the episode for my commentary on each one. 👀 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 16, 2023
Episode 545: Money Mindset, Goals, and Economy with Tara McMullin
We’re shifting gears a little bit on the podcast this week! Tara McMullin joins me for a conversation about goal setting, money and finances, and the economy (because, let’s face it, sometimes it’s confusing). I’ve known Tara for over a decade, she is so incredibly smart, and I am excited to introduce her to you finally! For those new to Tara, here is a little more about her. Tara is a writer, podcaster, and producer. For over 13 years, she’s studied small business owners—how they live, how they work, what influences them, and what they hope for the future. She's the author of What Works: A Comprehensive Framework To Change The Way We Approach Goal Setting. Featured topics: The different types of goal setting and the overlap between goals and finances (5:31) The expectation of unrelenting growth is unrealistic and at the root of many things wrong in our financial system (13:05) How culture impacts the way we view money and growth (14:07) Our economy: breaking down business and economic understanding. (19:15) The passion paradigm and why is it important to understand it (23:26) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 09, 2023
Episode 544: Huge Pussy Energy with Jacqueline Buckingham
Today’s episode is about changing definitions, taking up space, and prioritizing women's health. We can't make social and cultural changes until we can talk about the thing that we're trying to change - and in this case, it’s the way our culture currently perceives and uses the word pussy. My guest is Jacqueline Buckingham, an actress, activist, and advocate for women's health. She says, “I believe that embracing the word pussy, not just as women, as a culture, is the start of shifting the huge imbalance we have in our world.” Jacqueline is an impassioned voice for body positivity and mental health. We are so in alignment with the work that we both do in the world. I knew I had to have her on when the time was right. It is time for you to be introduced to this woman and her amazing work. Featured Topics: Huge pussy is a movement to redefine the word pussy - an otherworldly, orgasmic, resilient, flexible, life-giving humanity vessel (4:26) What sparked Jacqueline to create a movement to change the association of the female body from shame to celebration and prioritize women's physical, mental, and sexual health (12:52) Jacqueline’s film The Pussy Papers (13:06) Jacqueline explains what she means when she says, “I want women to live huge pussy lives and have huge pussy energy.” (39:45) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, August 04, 2023
Minisode 543: Death and life cycles
Scrolling through Instagram the other day, I came across a reel from my friend and colleague, Christine Gutierrez. The message she gave in this short video (you'll hear the clip in the episode) gave me pause, and I watched it several times. I loved it so much I wanted to not only share it with you, as well as record my own thoughts as it pertains to my life and expand on how this could apply to you as well. I muse on… what might need to die, what needs to rest, what needs to be in stillness so that you can move to the next season that your life is calling you to be in. Perhaps it’s old identities, relationships, or how we look at certain relationships. Listen in as I expand on this amazing bit of wisdom and break it down around how it might apply to YOUR life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 02, 2023
Episode 542: Spiritual Practices and Movement for Healing with KC Baker
KC Baker is someone I have known for over a decade in the online spaces, and I have always admired her work. So I am thrilled to introduce you to her and her wisdom in this week’s episode! Together we discuss how to cultivate the internal safety and freedom to speak up authentically in your personal and professional lives. KC also shares several spiritual practices to help get connected (or re-connected) with oneself and the world in which we live. KC Baker is the founder of WomenSpeak and has been a pioneer for the last 14 years in bringing a feminine approach to public speaking and leadership training with her unique embodiment and nervous system rewiring practices. Featured Topics: KC’s TED Talk Voice: A Love Story and how she came to do the work she does today (4:30) Tantra practices: what they are and how KC uses them in her work with women speakers. “Tantra it really is about exploring through living fully and fully being alive in the body.” (11:24) What it means for women to connect with their Divine Love (14:47) Ecstatic dance and sensual movement for healing (17:19) The feminine Qi Gong practice (28:29) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 26, 2023
Episode 541: Creating Connection and Feeling Seen with Dr. Jody Carrington
“We are wired for connection, but kindness, empathy, and connection is a skill we must learn,” says guest Dr. Jody Carrington. Dr. Jody is a renowned psychologist sought after for her expertise, energy, and approach to helping people solve their most complex human-centered challenges. Dr. Jody joins me for a conversation about connection, understanding the purpose and power in acknowledgment and feeling seen, and how to find our way back to self and each other. I believe in Dr. Jody’s work and hope you enjoy our conversation! In fact, I will leave you with another powerful statement from Dr. Jody, “We are wired to do the hard things, but we were never meant to do any of this alone.” Featured Topics: Why connection and reconnection are so important in the world right now (5:16) Acknowledgment and feeling seen is the answer to everything (16:37) Emotions will not kill you, but not talking about them might (24:44) How to reconnect and find our way back to each other (33:32) Creating an emotional language with the people (38:36) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, July 21, 2023
Minisode 540: The end of my marriage
This was a hard episode to record. As you probably know, I’ve been married to my second husband, Jason, for a long time, since 2008. And after ten months of committed therapy, in January of this year, we decided to end our nearly fifteen-year marriage. Out of respect to him and our children, I won’t disclose the details of the reasons we split, but will speak in vague ways and talk about my part… the things I acknowledge that contributed to the end. Listen in to this minisode as I share what I can, and share a message I have for any of you who are in a place where you’re wondering if you should stay or go in your own relationship. I share as much as I can, and I wish I could share more details with you. North Carolina divorce laws are weird, and at least for now I need to keep some things private. But, soon I’ll be able to tell you what the last seven or so months have brought me. There are already enormous learning lessons that I hope will be helpful for many of you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 19, 2023
Episode 539: Understanding Conflict, Self-Healing, and Partnerships with Lena Morgan
This week I am bringing you a guest whose work I find to be simply fascinating. Lena Morgan’s passion is to reunite people with their most powerful selves while healing old stories along the way. A midwife for over a decade, Lena shares insights on healing our life’s stories, unpacks six fight languages that keep us in conflict, and explains the importance of sacred partnerships. We also talk about intuition, including the difference between your intuitive voice and inherited voice (aka inner critic), and how to learn to trust your intuition. This episode is packed with new and interesting ways to understand yourself, make meaningful decisions, and, most importantly, heal. Lena has created a new path to better understanding ourselves and our partners. Her goal, as always, is to help you heal the stories and change your world. Feature topics: Lena shares how her experiences as a midwife led her to create The Storyteller Collection and help others heal the stories that kept them in a specific version of themselves (3:37) The six different Fight Languages, how they keep you in conflict, and why depending on your wounds, they all have the potential to create incredible damage (6:24) Sacred Partnerships give you an opportunity to stretch and grow. An ideal sacred partnership is one where the other person is a safe space to have vulnerability with and try to show up in new ways and bring healing to old parts of you (28:21) Discerning between your intuitive voice versus your inherited voice (36:12) Lena shares the most common thing women struggle with, doubting themselves and trusting their intuition, and offers one way to help overcome this struggle (40:11) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 12, 2023
Episode 538: Overcome Anxiety and Cultivate Inner Strength with Chris Cirak
This week’s episode is for anyone who struggles with anxiety, fear, and self-limiting beliefs (like, all of us?). If you're like me, you like to live in your head a lot and have a little bit of an anxious brain. If so, you're in good company with me! You’re also going to love today's guest, Chris Cirak. Chris Cirak is an author, speaker, and mediator passionate about making sophisticated topics accessible, meaningful, and inspiring experiences. With an extensive background and design, psychology, and tech, he breaks down traditional teachings to make ancient wisdom accessible and discoverable by modern audiences. Featured topics: Techniques to help quiet an overactive mind and reduce the exhaustion caused by it (3:29) How to overcome living in a place of anxiety and fear (15:55) Ever wanted to try yoga or meditation but struggled with starting? Chris offers some thoughts and advice for those who find either practice too hard or boring (26:28) Strategies to connect with your authentic self and step into your power to live a life of love, peace, and abundance (30:33) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, July 07, 2023
Minisode 537: Things Happy Women Do, Part 2
Welcome to part two of 11 Things Happy Women Do, UPDATED! In 2014, I wrote an article that went viral. When I was brainstorming topics for minisodes I remembered this article and thought I Would just go through these 11 things and be done with it. However, when I read it, I shook my head, thinking how differently I would write this now, how I’ve changed, the challenges I’ve seen myself go through with some of these things, and if nothing else, the immense nuance that comes with each one. If you missed it, check out part one HERE . Please listen to the episode a I go into detail about each one, and include what I wrote in 2014 and how I would change that. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 05, 2023
Episode 536: Loss, Change, and Transformation with Cyndie Spiegel
This week, we are talking about the intersection between loss and transformation. Whether you experience transformation in your career, or due to loss, or trauma - it has a profound effect. In fact, my guest, Cyndie Spiegel, talks about how loss can shift who we are and therefore, we must learn to understand our relationship to the world as the person we are today. In this episode, we also explore the concept of micro joys and positivity versus toxic positivity. Cyndie Spiegel is a born storyteller–turned–writer; she’s an aspirational voice and an igniter of powerful conversation around self-acceptance, integrity, and joy. She is the founder of Dear Grown Ass Women, an inclusive and highly relatable social community for women 35+, and she is also the author of A Year of Positive Thinking . Featured topics: Cyndie shares openly about compound grief and loss she experienced in 2020 and how it changed how she approaches her work and life (3:39) "Micro Joys," and how are they useful (11:33) Advice for women on the precipice of a big change (14:44) The line between helpful positivity and toxic positivity (28:09) "Dear Grown Ass Woman" for women 35+. (32:28) “You deserve to touch joy even when you are struggling.” (37:49) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 28, 2023
Episode 535: Power, Purpose, and Money with Kelli Thompson
This week’s episode explores power, purpose, and money, yessss! Especially how women can close the gender pay and wealth gap, learn to trust themselves, and ask for what they are worth. My guest is Kelli Thompson, author of Closing The Confidence Gap: Boost Your Peace, Your Potential & Your Paycheck . One question Kelli leaves us with at the end of the conversation and would be helpful to ask as you move through your personal development journey is this, “Is the next right step in alignment with the life you are trying to create?” Kelli is a women’s leadership coach and speaker who helps women advance to the rooms where decisions are made. She has coached and trained hundreds of women to trust themselves, lead with more confidence, and create a career they love. Featured topics: How to define your power and purpose (3:52) What keeps women from not having what they want in their careers (10:20) The five money conversations every woman needs to have to close the gender pay gap AND the wealth gap (20:09) Negotiation tips! How to research salaries, prep your ask, and what you can do to eliminate systemic wage issues at work (30:20) How to learn to trust yourself with confidence and courage (37:02) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 21, 2023
Episode 534:Mental Fitness and Sustainable Happiness with Tara Renze
Tara Renze joins me for a conversation about creating long-lasting happiness and fulfillment! We also explore what it means to be mentally fit, what holds women back, as well as emotional intelligence. This is such a full conversation, I know you’ll enjoy it! For those new to Tara, here is a little about her: Tara Renze is an author, keynote speaker, emotional intelligence and positive intelligence practitioner, podcaster, thought-leader, wife and mother. She is redefining how we unleash purpose, level up our success and create sustainable happiness and fulfillment in all aspects of our lives. Featured topics: What it means for people to become “mentally fit” (3:32) Some patterns that causes women to be unhappy and how to break them (13:16) What holds women back in making an impact at work and what they can do to change that that doesn’t add more to their plate (21:02) Six key emotional intelligence traits and characteristics that allow you to listen up, speak up, show up, and get what you want. (35:08) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, June 16, 2023
Minisode 533: Things Happy Women Do, Part 1
In 2014, I wrote an article that went viral. When I was brainstorming topics for minisodes I remembered this article and thought I Would just go through these 11 things and be done with it. However, when I read it, I shook my head, thinking how differently I would write this now, how I’ve changed, the challenges I’ve seen myself go through with some of these things, and if nothing else, the immense nuance that comes with each one. In two weeks I’ll release part two, but for now, here’s the start. Please listen to the episode a I go into detail about each one, and include what I wrote in 2014 and how I would change that. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 14, 2023
Episode 532: Coaching Session with Amy: Goal Planning, Working Through Fear and Getting Unstuck
Exciting news…I’m bringing back coaching episodes to the podcast! In this episode I’m coaching a former client of mine, Amy. Amy is in her late 40’s, climbed the corporate ladder fairly quickly throughout her 20’s, and now finds herself wanting something different…but she’s not sure what. She mentions fear getting in her way of making a decision. I ask her questions that she says, “flip her brain” and you’ll hear me pull sentences from the questionnaire she filled out before our session (you know how I’ve said even applying for 1:1 coaching and answering those questions can give you insights?). After we dig into what excites her regarding this new leap of faith, I ask her, “What’s next?” That’s where the real juice happens! I think you’ll see some of your own life in this conversation with Amy. The circumstances might be different, but perhaps you’ve been in the place she is now. Or, sometime in the future you’ll be in the place where you’re given a fantastic opportunity and you’re scared to do it! You'll hear about halfway through our conversation, Amy says “I'm so glad I got the chance to talk this out because It opens my brain to realize that I get so stuck in my head. And it's really not that big of a deal.” My invitation to YOU is to think about things in your life where you might be doing the same thing– spinning, ruminating, overthinking things that might need to just be coached through. You’ll hear the nitty gritty about her situation, and I left all this in the recording so you can see how granular we can get in a coaching session in order to support the client and the topic. Make sure you stay until the very end where I read an update from Amy! Did she get everything she wanted? Tune in to find out ;) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 07, 2023
Episode 531: Navigating Triggers and Calming the Nervous System with Maria-Victoria Albina
“Trust that you can feel any feeling and not perish,” says Maria-Victoria Albina. Yes, we are talking about big emotions in this week’s episode. Maria-Victoria joins me for a conversation about calming the nervous system and expanding emotional capacity. We also explore how small acts of self-love help you build self-trust and feel emotionally safe. María-Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women realize that they are their own best healers by reconnecting with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy. Featured topics: Emotional outsourcing and what it has to do with co-dependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinking (4:28) Signs and symptoms that let you know when you are being triggered and how to feel safe when our nervous system is activated (6:43) Bottling up big emotions impacts our bodies, and how we can expand our capacity to feel our big feelings (22:34) Collective healing: what it looks like and how can we shift our thinking away from the patriarchal model of individual healing (38:37) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, June 02, 2023
Minisode 530: Doing the work
This morning I had a client session where she talked about being in transition in her life setting the intention of this next phase being about her. Not putting everyone else before her, not being utterly selfless, but choosing herself first. So we made plans that honored her values and she was excited. But, before I let her go, I asked her a particular question that was directly related to “The Work”, but so often neglected. You’ll have to listen to this short episode to find out what it is ;) When it comes to personal development, we want to check off the boxes first, feeling better that we did the thing, and fingers crossed it changes our life, right? And many times, we over think things– including our own personal growth– wanting to put things in categories, wanting to make sense of it all, wanting answers to our uncomfortable questions. But often we can’t do that and racing through things or overthinking them keeps us stuck. I’ve certainly been there, and in an effort to work through that, I’ve recorded this minisode for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 31, 2023
Episode 529: Embracing Your Authentic Self with Rae McDaniel
Rae McDaniel returns to the show to discuss topics covered in their new book, “Gender Magic: Live Shamelessly, Reclaim Your Joy, & Step into Your Most Authentic Self.” In this episode, Rae and I talk about how to move from anxiety and self-doubt to a proactive state of mind, the keys to developing self-love, and how to design relationships that light you up. For those of you new to Rae McDaniel, let me tell you a little about them. Rae is a non-binary gender and sex therapist-turned-coach who works with transgender/non-binary/questioning folks feeling lost while transitioning their gender identity. Even if you are someone who is not non-binary, transgender, or questioning their identity - Rae and I talk about several topics that are relative to everyone. Definitely tune into this episode, I think you will enjoy it! Featured topics: How to move from anxiety, self-doubt, and fear to a confident, proactive state of mind (4:41) Navigating discomfort and celebrating your inherent worth (14:05) How to design relationships that light you up (21:36) Creating a sex life that lights you up whether you are partnered or not (26:00) Body respect versus body love (27:15) Practical tools to align your gender identity and expression with your most authentic self through play, pleasure, and possibility (36:47) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 24, 2023
Episode 528:Burnout Recovery, Boundaries, and Better Communication with Cait Donovan
Cait Donovan is here to talk all about the B word - burnout! Burnout can affect anyone and everyone - in fact, as Cait shares, “Stats show that burnout happens at a rate between 38.1%-89%.” Cait’s mission is to end burnout culture in organizations and individuals for better morale, health, and profitability. In this episode, we discuss the symptoms of burnout and what it is, Cait’s creative burnout recovery solutions, and why resentment is the burnout recovery tool we all need. While we spend a lot of time on the topic of burnout, we also explore how to have better communication in your personal and professional life. Cait is host of FRIED. The Burnout Podcast, a Keynote speaker, and author of the book "The Bounce-back-ability Factor" and a burnout aficionado. Featured topics: Burnout: what it is, its symptoms, and how someone knows they’re experiencing it (4:17) Some of the professions/industries that experience burnout the most (8:52) Why resentment is the burnout recovery tool we all need (14:57) Boundaries and when “No,” isn’t a complete sentence (16:25) What psychological safety is and how to create it (25:48) How to address passive aggressiveness at work (40:24) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, May 19, 2023
Minisode 527: Unattached to the outcome
Today’s minisode is about the difference between being attached and unattached to the outcome. Easy, right? This is NEVER easy and always a work in progress. It will probably also ebb and flow throughout your personal development journey. This is still very hard for me, and I mention in this episode that I need this advice just as much as the next person. I’ll walk you through two steps around how to work on this in your life, including examples around plants, jobs, relationships, and money. You’ll also hear me walk briefly down memory lane about late night radio DJ’s on love song stations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 17, 2023
Episode 526: Being the Leader of Your Life with Koren Motekaitis
Koren Motekaitis joins me for a conversation about what it means to be the leader of your life, creating meaningful work, and how to build a support network, even when it’s extremely scary and vulnerable. Koren is a Master Certified Life and Leadership coach who is passionate about helping you create the life you truly desire. In this episode (and in Koren’s work), we explore what it means to be in connected relationships and enjoy this one precious life we all get to live NOW. Featured topics: Koren shares some key learnings from hosting her podcast, How She Really Does It , for over 16 years and having guests such as Kristin Neff, Brené Brown, and Gay Hendricks (4:53) Koren answers, “Is meaningful work even possible?” (8:59) What it means to be the leader of your life (12:00) Owning your voice: how to overcome the obstacle of silencing oneself and speaking your truth (18:05) Advice for building the support you need (21:00) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 10, 2023
Episode 525:Holistic Wealth and Financial Freedom with Keisha Blair
This week, we are discussing one of my favorite topics ever - money. For most people, money is emotional; it’s not just about the money. We cannot hear enough from professionals about this topic, so I invited Keisha Blair to share her expertise on holistic wealth, including what it is and how to achieve it. Keisha Blair is the award-winning, international bestselling author of Holistic Wealth Expanded and Updated: 36 Life Lessons To Help You Recover From Disruption, Find Your Life Purpose and Achieve Financial Freedom . She is regarded as the “Mother of Holistic Wealth” and the Founder of the Holistic Wealth Movement. Featured topics: Holistic Wealth: what it is, why it is so important in today's world, and how it goes beyond money. (3:44) How having a life purpose can help someone who struggles with financial health (6:10) Keisha describes her Personal Financial Identity Framework (8:47) Advice for women who ignore or avoid financial issues (16:00) The impact of intergenerational trauma on our money stories (19:40) Choosing a financial advisor that is right for you (28:10) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, May 05, 2023
Minisode 524: What to do when you're handed a shit sandwich
Today’s episode is all about shit sandwiches. Of course, not literal shit sandwiches, but metaphorically when life gets hard. Save this podcast for when life hands you that type of sandwich, or send it to a friend going through a particularly tough time, or you may need these tips right now. In this episode, you’ll hear me riff about the following: The importance of acknowledging your feelings. Practicing the basics of self-care activities. Breaking down the problem into smaller, manageable steps. Making a plan and set achievable goals. Seeking help or support from friends, family, or professionals if needed. Focusing on the positive aspects of your life and gratitude. (this one has a caveat!) Keeping a growth mindset and learning from your challenges. Taking time for yourself to recharge and rejuvenate– whatever that is for YOU. Staying positive and maintaining a hopeful outlook for the future. Remembering that challenges are a part of life, and it's how you deal with them that matters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 03, 2023
Episode 523: How to Be Alone with Nicole Antoinette
“What do we find when we push ourselves further than we ever thought we could go?” That is just one question Nicole Antoinette explores in her new book, How to be Alone: An 800 Mile Hike on the AZ Trail. This week, Nicole returns to the show to talk about her book and the lessons she learned from her loooong hiking journey. Together we have an insightful conversation about the privilege of choosing your own suffering and the process of becoming a better friend to yourself along the way. Nicole Antoinette is a writer, long-distance hiker, and former indoor kid who never imagined she’d wind up spending months of each year pooping in the woods. She is the author of two adventure memoirs, How To Be Alone and What We Owe To Ourselves (coming September 5, 2023), and she writes a weekly newsletter on Substack called Wild Letters. Featured topics: Why Nicole set out to hike the 800-mile Arizona Trail alone (5:13) How Nicole kept going even when it felt really hard (11:10) Being able to quit things publicly and out loud (16:33) The privilege of choosing your own suffering (16:53) Intentionally choosing to practice trusting your intuition (23:31) Being a solo female hiker: identifying fears and working through them (29:18) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 26, 2023
Episode 522: Permission to Offend with Rachel Luna
This week, Rachel Luna returns to the show! Rachel joins me to talk about some of the topics featured in her upcoming book, Permission to Offend: The Compassionate Guide for Living Unfiltered and Unafraid . This book is so much in alignment with the work that I do and what you often hear about on this podcast. I am excited to share our conversation with you. We talk about what it means to have permission to offend and how it affects the many different roles in our lives. Rachel is a highly sought-after international speaker & Certified Master Neuroscience Coach to 6 and 7-figure earning entrepreneurs. Named by Forbes as one of The 11 Most Inspiring Female Entrepreneurs To Follow On Instagram, this former US Marine has a reputation for inspiring confident action and helping her clients double, triple, and quadruple their income. Her clients often referred to her as their “secret weapon.” Featured topics: Why Rachel is giving people "Permission to Offend" and what she means by this phrase (5:41) The four Offender Identities: what are they and why they are important (9:15) A thoughtful and heated conversation that stems from the question, “Should the Kanye West’s of the world have permission to offend?” (28:59) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, April 21, 2023
Minisode 521: How far you've come
I’ve been thinking about confidence and I turned on the mic today to give you a reminder about it. Confidence can be that thing we think will come along if we wish it into existence, but it does take actual steps to make it grow in our lives. I wrote a whole chapter on it in Make Some Noise but thing I’m focusing on today in this minisode, is how far you’ve come. And you might be thinking, “How far I’ve come! I should be farther along than I am!” and if you’re thinking that, this episode is especially for you. When we only see that we “don’t have our shit together” or that we’re moving too slow, or whatever else is in the realm of NOT being where we think we should be, we’ll keep looking for evidence of that and subsequently feel like shit. But, if you look for even the slightest of progress you’ve made, the risks you’ve taken to step out of your comfort zone even when it doesn't work out as planned, THAT is progress, THAT is evidence that you are moving forward and that all adds up to your growth. Listen in for a little pep talk! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 19, 2023
Episode 520: Work/life Balance and Motivation with Amanda Walker
We are talking about work/life balance, motivational strategies, and how to stop self-sabotaging. My guest this week is the amazing Amanda Walker. Amanda is a Certified Master Performance Coach who helps service-based entrepreneurs, primarily women, reach their full potential! We also explore how women can heal, coach themselves, and become their best damn coach. But wait, before you dive in, I wanted to let you know I am doing a giveaway! 🎉 Enter to win a CD copy of my new audio workshop, Getting Damn Good At Life ! Be sure to listen to this episode to find out how to enter! Featured topics: Owning your ability to be your best damn coach and problem solver (6:09) What it means to create a motivational strategy (15:42) Some common struggles with work-life balance (24:45) How to get out of your own way and stop self-sabotaging (29:05) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 12, 2023
Episode 519: Money Mindset, Investing, and Building a Financial Legacy with Chelsea Brennan
“There’s no one right way to do money,” says Chelsea Brennan. That’s right, this week we are talking about how to improve your money mindset with the founder of Smart Money Mamas, Chelsea Brennan. Money is a topic many find challenging, and it’s a topic we’ve explored a few times on the show already. As you know, I love uncovering the various ways we can approach personal development, and this week it’s all about how we manage, think about, and invest our money. An ex-hedge fund manager turned financial educator, Chelsea is dedicated to changing the way we talk about money, helping moms connect with all aspects of their money in a way that lets them overcome emotional blocks, identify what they most want, and create healthy money habits that help them achieve their biggest goals. We’ll be discussing several of those topics and more in this week’s episode. Featured topics: What is money or abundance mindset and why it matters (4:19) Building a financial legacy, investments, and long-term equity: “You have all the skills and resources to earn all the money you will ever need.” (18:48) Advice for SAHMs who don’t work outside the home and their partners typically take care of the finances (39:46) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, April 07, 2023
Minisode 518: Where did your wildness go?
Today I’m bringing you an archived podcast episode from January, 2019. This particular episode was one of the sparks I had that ended up developing into the creative project that is now my third book, Make Some Noise. I had listened to a podcast series that got me thinking about the conditioning we as girls and women are handed and grow up in.Those beliefs and conditioning then shape the beliefs we have about how to act and how to feel about what it means to be a woman. There are some questions I take you through as I talk about this, and a free worksheet you can download (see below). ********************************* A few weeks ago I was listening to Scene on Radio, an excellent podcast. It was episode 10, in season 3 where it was a man telling a story about his son going to 6th grade and the changes that took place-- I’ll let you listen to it (it’s REALLY good, please go listen to both season 2 and 3). There was a particular part where Terry Real, psychologist was talking and said something in particular that stopped me, and I had to pause the podcast, and cry. He talks about how children are made to “halve” themselves, to cut off certain parts of themselves (generally speaking for boys, it’s emotions). He talks about a certain age when “the patriarchy hits kids, lands on them, the psychic results can be severe”. He goes on to say, “Now if you read the literature on girls and girls development, that trauma-- and I use that word on purpose-- is traumatic to excise, to cut off half of your humanity, that trauma lands on girls about 11, 12, 13-- the edge of adolescence. That’s when they learn what Carol Gilligan calls ‘the tyranny of the nice and kind’. They learn to over accommodate and resent it. That’s the traditional set up. Fifty years of the women’s movement has changed that for a lot of girls and women, but it’s still part of the culture.” So, in essence, as we enter puberty, (and btw, he goes on in this episode to talk about how it hits even younger for boys), we learn about how to be. We learn to be nice and kind and accommodating. We learn to put others’ feelings, wants and needs before ours. Join me in this podcast episode as I explore this more, and ask a series of questions for you to answer about your own life to get the parts of you back that you were conditioned to let go of. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 05, 2023
Episode 517: Process Addictions and Recovery with Jean McCarthy
Jean McCarthy returns to the show to talk about her book, “Take Good Care” which is a collection of encouragement, reflections, and inspiration for sober living. Jean is an award-winning author, blogger, and podcaster who is best known as a voice of recovery advocacy. In this episode, we talk about the pros and cons of recovering out loud, as well as, Jean’s decision to end The Bubble Hour podcast and how in doing so, she created a special documentary and book that catalogs her ten-year journey as a podcaster and recovery advocate. PLUS, we are doing a BOOK GIVEAWAY! Win a copy of Jean’s book, “Take Good Care!” Be sure to listen to this episode to find out how. Featured Topics: Getting grounded in her highest and authentic self is how Jean describes her recovery (6:46) We talk about Jean’s decision to end the Bubble Hour podcast after ten years and how her book, Take Good Care , was released in tandem with the show's final season (12:35) Recovering out loud: The pros and cons of being open about recovery and recovery advocacy in today’s world (33:28) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 29, 2023
Episode 516: Boundaries, Sobriety, and Breaking Stigmas with Michelle Smith
Michelle Smith joins me for a conversation about breaking the stigma of sobriety and recovery. Michelle is a best-selling author, keynote speaker, and the founder of Recovery is the New Black, a digital community for women living or exploring an alcohol-free life. In this episode, we highlight the importance of seeking help and support and how practicing self-awareness and setting boundaries can go a long way in the journey toward sobriety. This episode marks the end of the theme of recovery. Thank you so much for tuning into all of the themed episodes we’ve explored over the last year. Next week we return to episodes featuring guest interviews covering various areas of personal development. Stay tuned! Featured topics: Some alcohol truths that no one talks about such as alcohol does not discriminate – alcohol dependency can affect anyone (4:28) The first steps someone can take towards sobriety such as practicing awareness and curiosity about why you are drinking, as well as taking a look at your social circle (8:12) Mother-drinking culture as “self-care”: If we are not addressing “why the grief, why the stress, why, the pain, why the overwhelm?” women are going to keep drinking (16:11) Why are boundaries so important in sobriety (33:39) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 29, 2023
Boundaries, Sobriety, and Breaking Stigmas with Michelle Smith
Michelle Smith joins me for a conversation about breaking the stigma of sobriety and recovery. Michelle is a best-selling author, keynote speaker, and the founder of Recovery is the New Black, a digital community for women living or exploring an alcohol-free life. In this episode, we highlight the importance of seeking help and support and how practicing self-awareness and setting boundaries can go a long way in the journey toward sobriety. This episode marks the end of the theme of recovery. Thank you so much for tuning into all of the themed episodes we’ve explored over the last year. Next week we return to episodes featuring guest interviews covering various areas of personal development. Stay tuned! Featured topics: Some alcohol truths that no one talks about such as alcohol does not discriminate - alcohol dependency can affect anyone (4:28) The first steps someone can take towards sobriety such as practicing awareness and curiosity about why you are drinking, as well as taking a look at your social circle (8:12) Mother-drinking culture as “self-care”: If we are not addressing “why the grief, why the stress, why, the pain, why the overwhelm?” women are going to keep drinking (16:11) Why are boundaries so important in sobriety (33:39) http://andreaowen.com/516
Wed, March 22, 2023
Episode 515: Rethinking Your Relationship with Alcohol with Annie Grace
As I draw closer to the end of the theme on recovery, author Annie Grace joins me on the show! Annie is the author of “This Naked Mind: Control Alcohol, Find Freedom, Discover Happiness & Change Your Life” and “The Alcohol Experiment: A 30-day, Alcohol-Free Challenge to Interrupt Your Habits and Help You Take Control.” Her work has made a significant impact on the way many approaches living an alcohol-free life. In this episode, we cover a range of topics, including why willpower isn't effective when trying to stop drinking, the backstory behind her work, “This Naked Mind,” and how Annie's approach to changing the role of alcohol in her life differs from traditional recovery programs. We also delve into the ways alcohol increases anxiety and the societal trend of “mommy wine drinking.” This is a must-listen episode for anyone interested in rethinking their relationship with alcohol or supporting loved ones who are navigating their own recovery journey. Featured topics: Why willpower does not work if you want to stop drinking (11:51) The origin story of “This Naked Mind” (12:51) How does changing the role of alcohol in Annie’s life differ from other recovery programs (15:32) Some of the ways that alcohol increases anxiety (24:55) The culture of mommy wine-drinking (35:43) Misconceptions and stigma about non-drinkers (42:48) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 22, 2023
Rethinking Your Relationship with Alcohol with Annie Grace
As I draw closer to the end of the theme on recovery, author Annie Grace joins me on the show! Annie is the author of "This Naked Mind: Control Alcohol, Find Freedom, Discover Happiness & Change Your Life" and "The Alcohol Experiment: A 30-day, Alcohol-Free Challenge to Interrupt Your Habits and Help You Take Control." Her work has made a significant impact on the way many approaches living an alcohol-free life. In this episode, we cover a range of topics, including why willpower isn't effective when trying to stop drinking, the backstory behind her work, "This Naked Mind," and how Annie's approach to changing the role of alcohol in her life differs from traditional recovery programs. We also delve into the ways alcohol increases anxiety and the societal trend of "mommy wine drinking." This is a must-listen episode for anyone interested in rethinking their relationship with alcohol or supporting loved ones who are navigating their own recovery journey. Featured topics: Why willpower does not work if you want to stop drinking (11:51) The origin story of “This Naked Mind” (12:51) How does changing the role of alcohol in Annie’s life differ from other recovery programs (15:32) Some of the ways that alcohol increases anxiety (24:55) The culture of mommy wine-drinking (35:43) Misconceptions and stigma about non-drinkers (42:48) http://andreaowen.com/515
Fri, March 17, 2023
Minisode 514: How to Cultivate Confidence
In today’s minisode episode, I’m bringing you the summary of a coaching session I had with a woman named Lisa (not her real name). She came to the session wanting coaching around confidence– it was something she wanted more of, especially around her career. Listen in to this short episode as I walk you through the questions I asked her, that hopefully you will ask yourself to be able to work on your own level of confidence. Spoiler…confidence is the end goal, and the path to get there needs to be intentional and specific. I’m sure you’ll see bits of yourself in this minisode, and find some guidance in the questions and tools I give here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, March 17, 2023
Minisode on how to cultivate confidence
In today’s minisode episode, I’m bringing you the summary of a coaching session I had with a woman named Lisa (not her real name). She came to the session wanting coaching around confidence– it was something she wanted more of, especially around her career. Listen in to this short episode as I walk you through the questions I asked her, that hopefully you will ask yourself to be able to work on your own level of confidence. Spoiler…confidence is the end goal, and the path to get there needs to be intentional and specific. I’m sure you’ll see bits of yourself in this minisode, and find some guidance in the questions and tools I give here. http://andreaowen.com/514
Wed, March 15, 2023
Grit, Shame, and Quitting Alcohol with Amberly Lago
Ambery Lago, all around badass lady, is on the podcast this week! In this episode, she shares her incredible story of how she got into a terrible accident, went through unimaginable physical pain, and decided to get sober. We also explore the importance of asking for help and not feeling ashamed of one's struggles, as well as the need to confront shame and practice radical acceptance in order to heal. For those new to Amberly and her work, she is a Peak Performance Coach, TEDx Speaker, Podcaster, and a leading expert in the field of resilience and transformation. Some of the topics we discussed include: Amberly shares her story of how she started drinking wine to cope with pain which led to her alcohol addiction (4:35) Confronting shame and embracing radical acceptance (17:47) The difference between grit and resilience (29:55) What it means to live life from a place of ease and flow (36:36) http://andreaowen.com/513
Wed, March 15, 2023
Episode 513: Grit, Shame, and Quitting Alcohol with Amberly Lago
Amberly Lago, all around badass lady, is on the podcast this week! In this episode, she shares her incredible story of how she got into a terrible accident, went through unimaginable physical pain, and decided to get sober. We also explore the importance of asking for help and not feeling ashamed of one's struggles, as well as the need to confront shame and practice radical acceptance in order to heal. For those new to Amberly and her work, she is a Peak Performance Coach, TEDx Speaker, Podcaster, and a leading expert in the field of resilience and transformation. Some of the topics we discussed include: Amberly shares her story of how she started drinking wine to cope with pain which led to her alcohol addiction (4:35) Confronting shame and embracing radical acceptance (17:47) The difference between grit and resilience (29:55) What it means to live life from a place of ease and flow (36:36) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 08, 2023
Episode 512: Anxiety, Healthy Coping Mechanisms, and Recovery with Brad Jensen
The Sober Body Builder Brad Jensen is on the show this week! Brad is a former client of mine who has a tremendous redemption story. He is the founder of Key Nutrition where he works with his clients to help them live healthy lives and understand how food and fitness can change your life for the better. In this episode Brad shares his journey of overcoming addiction and finding wellness through fitness, nutrition, and personal development. Some of the topics we discussed include: Brad shares his downward spiral into addiction and later recovery, which spanned six treatment centers between 2005 and 2012 and 17 bookings in the county jail (5:37) “The gift of desperation often offers a moment of clarity. The gift is to be desperate enough to do something different.” (31”08) How Brad handles triggers today and employs better coping mechanisms following his recovery (34:57) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 08, 2023
Anxiety, Healthy Coping Mechanisms, and Recovery with Brad Jensen
The Sober Body Builder Brad Jensen is on the show this week! Brad is a former client of mine who has a tremendous redemption story. He is the founder of Key Nutrition, where he works with his clients to help them live healthy lives and understand how food and fitness can change your life for the better. In this episode, Brad shares his journey of overcoming addiction and finding wellness through fitness, nutrition, and personal development. Some of the topics we discussed include: Brad shares his downward spiral into addiction and later recovery, which spanned six treatment centers between 2005 and 2012 and 17 bookings in the county jail (5:37) “The gift of desperation often offers a moment of clarity. The gift is to be desperate enough to do something different.” (31”08) How Brad handles triggers today and employs better coping mechanisms following his recovery (34:57) http://andreaowen.com/512
Fri, March 03, 2023
Minisode on Women's mental health and the Lindsay Clancy story
Warning, this episode contains talk of attempted suicide and harm to children. The Lindsay Clancy story may not have made national news, but you’ve probably seen it if you live in the eastern U.S. Lindsay was a mother of three, who allegedly killed her three young children while suffering from postpartum psychosis. This is an absolutely unimaginable and tragic case, and one that opens up a bigger conversation about women’s mental health. As well as a personal one for me, as I struggled greatly with postpartum anxiety and some psychosis after the birth of my son in 2007. Lindsay was being treated for her mental illness, and allegedly was on several medications. A recent article quotes an OB/GYN nurse and perinatal mental health advocate by the name of Melissa Anne DuBois, where she explains, “The rhetoric coming from the prosecution and other people in authority hazardously distort the medical complexity of this disorder. When they paint Lindsay as a monster who carried out an elaborate, premeditated murder, instead of as someone suffering from a serious mental illness that wasn’t properly treated and who subsequently had a psychotic break, it sends a message to all the struggling parents out there [that] nothing can help me.” This episode shares Linday’s tragic story, my own personal journey here, touches on how privilege is operating here, as well as what we can do. http://andreaowen.com/511
Fri, March 03, 2023
Episode 511: Women’s mental health and the Lindsay Clancy story
Warning, this episode contains talk of attempted suicide and harm to children. The Lindsay Clancy story may not have made national news, but you’ve probably seen it if you live in the eastern U.S. Lindsay was a mother of three, who allegedly killed her three young children while suffering from postpartum psychosis. This is an absolutely unimaginable and tragic case, and one that opens up a bigger conversation about women’s mental health. As well as a personal one for me, as I struggled greatly with postpartum anxiety and some psychosis after the birth of my son in 2007. Lindsay was being treated for her mental illness, and allegedly was on several medications. A recent article quotes an OB/GYN nurse and perinatal mental health advocate by the name of Melissa Anne DuBois, where she explains, “The rhetoric coming from the prosecution and other people in authority hazardously distort the medical complexity of this disorder. When they paint Lindsay as a monster who carried out an elaborate, premeditated murder, instead of as someone suffering from a serious mental illness that wasn’t properly treated and who subsequently had a psychotic break, it sends a message to all the struggling parents out there [that] nothing can help me.” This episode shares Linday’s tragic story, my own personal journey here, touches on how privilege is operating here, as well as what we can do. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 01, 2023
Episode 510: A Life in Hiding with Laura Cathcart Robbins
Laura Cathcart Robbins returns to the podcast to share her story of addiction and recovery from prescription pills. Her forthcoming Atria/Simon & Schuster memoir, STASH, comes out next month, and I am thrilled to have her back to talk about her journey. The episode continues our current podcast theme on recovery, which features guests who have struggled with addiction in different areas of their lives. Even if you don't identify as an addict, Laura’s journey (and memoir) is a great story. I hope you tune in! In this episode, you’ll hear: Laura recounts her addiction to prescription pills and how it impacted her life (7:20) What Laura means when she says addiction is a disease of “not enough” (7:56) The effects of hiding your addiction from loved ones (13:33) Laura’s experience with “doctor shopping” as a means to satisfy her addiction to benzos (28:02) The point of no return; what happened when the pills ran out (43:28) Some of the hard truths of recovery, including the fact that “You can’t take everyone with you.”(51:08) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 01, 2023
A Life in Hiding with Laura Cathcart Robbins
Laura Cathcart Robbins returns to the podcast to share her story of addiction and recovery from prescription pills. Her forthcoming Atria/Simon & Schuster memoir, STASH, comes out next month, and I am thrilled to have her back to talk about her journey. The episode continues our current podcast theme on recovery, which features guests who have struggled with addiction in different areas of their lives. Even if you don't identify as an addict, Laura’s journey (and memoir) is a great story. I hope you tune in! In this episode, you’ll hear: Laura recounts her addiction to prescription pills and how it impacted her life (7:20) What Laura means when she says addiction is a disease of “not enough” (7:56) The effects of hiding your addiction from loved ones (13:33) Laura’s experience with “doctor shopping” as a means to satisfy her addiction to benzos (28:02) The point of no return; what happened when the pills ran out (43:28) Some of the hard truths of recovery, including the fact that “You can’t take everyone with you.”(51:08) http://andreaowen.com/510
Wed, February 22, 2023
Honesty, Healing, and Recovery with Laura McKowen
Laura McKowen returns to the show! Laura opens up about the turning point that led her to sobriety and the underlying issues she had to confront. She also shares some insights and teachings from her latest book, Push Off From Here: Nine Essential Truths to Get You Through Sobriety (and Everything Else). She is also the Founder of The Luckiest Club, an international sobriety support community. We also discuss how drinking is often just one symptom of deeper issues and the importance of honesty and vulnerability in the healing journey. Whether you or someone you know is struggling with addiction, this episode offers insight and hope for anyone seeking a life in recovery and offers a compassionate perspective for understanding and overcoming these challenges. Some of the topics we discussed include: Laura's sobriety and the turning point that made her realize she had to get sober (5:24) How alcohol can be a red flag for underlying issues (7:03) Substance addictions are only a tiny part of a more significant issue of addiction that is almost always rooted in trauma (21:16) Honesty is the foundation for developing healthier coping mechanisms and relationships (23:51) http://andreaowen.com/509
Wed, February 22, 2023
Episode 509: Honesty, Healing, and Recovery with Laura McKowen
Laura McKowen returns to the show! Laura opens up about the turning point that led her to sobriety and the underlying issues she had to confront. She also shares some insights and teachings from her latest book, Push Off From Here: Nine Essential Truths to Get You Through Sobriety (and Everything Else) . She is also the Founder of The Luckiest Club, an international sobriety support community. We also discuss how drinking is often just one symptom of deeper issues and the importance of honesty and vulnerability in the healing journey. Whether you or someone you know is struggling with addiction, this episode offers insight and hope for anyone seeking a life in recovery and offers a compassionate perspective for understanding and overcoming these challenges. Some of the topics we discussed include: Laura's sobriety and the turning point that made her realize she had to get sober (5:24) How alcohol can be a red flag for underlying issues (7:03) Substance addictions are only a small part of a bigger issue of addiction that is almost always rooted in trauma (21:16) Honesty as the foundation for developing healthier coping mechanisms and relationships (23:51) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, February 17, 2023
Minisode 508: On the Point of No Return
I’ve talked about what I refer to as “the point of no return” many times in my books and on the podcast, and I’m talking about it again today. This is a point in our lives that we reach many different times, and everyone does to varying degrees. Today I’m referring to when you’re in transition. You decided you’re done with your ultra-stressful job and you have to quit– but you’re not sure what’s next. You can’t go back to feeling like you can just trudge through, but you’re not ready yet to take the next step. Or maybe that’s happened in a relationship. You leave a partner (or make the decision to leave) and you can’t go back, but are nervous for what’s next. This is such an important time in our lives and one that doesn’t get talked about enough. So, I'm talking about it today! Even if this isn't where you are right now, make sure you save this episode in case you need to listen to it again, or share it with someone who you know who's going through a transition in their life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, February 17, 2023
Minisode on The Point of No Return
I’ve talked about what I refer to as “the point of no return” many times in my books and on the podcast, and I’m talking about it again today. This is a point in our lives that we reach many different times, and everyone does to varying degrees. Today I’m referring to when you’re in transition. You decided you’re done with your ultra-stressful job and you have to quit– but you’re not sure what’s next. You can’t go back to feeling like you can just trudge through, but you’re not ready yet to take the next step. Or maybe that’s happened in a relationship. You leave a partner (or make the decision to leave) and you can’t go back, but are nervous for what’s next. This is such an important time in our lives and one that doesn’t get talked about enough. So, I'm talking about it today! Even if this isn't where you are right now, make sure you save this episode in case you need to listen to it again, or share it with someone who you know who's going through a transition in their life. http://andreaowen.com/508
Wed, February 15, 2023
Episode 507: Benzos Addiction and Recovery with Melissa Bond
We have another thrilling and exciting interview for you today around recovery. Melissa Bond joins me to discuss her story of addiction and recovery from benzodiazepines, more specifically, Ativan. Melissa is a narrative journalist and poet. In the years of her dependence on benzodiazepines, she has blogged and become a regular contributor for Mad in America. She is also the author of the memoir Blood Orange Night where she writes about becoming dependent upon and then withdrawing from benzodiazepines. Some of the topics we discussed include: Melissa shares her story of addiction to benzodiazepines and how it affected her life with her family (5:53) “Benzos are the thieves that take everything.” (21:29) How Melissa decided to withdraw from benzos and took it upon herself to do it (24:19) Identifying as an addict and why as a culture we must ask, “What is addiction?” (38:12) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 15, 2023
Episode 507: Benzos Addiction and Recovery with Melissa Bond
We have another thrilling and exciting interview for you today around recovery. Melissa Bond joins me to discuss her story of addiction and recovery from benzodiazepines, more specifically, Ativan. Melissa is a narrative journalist and poet. In the years of her dependence on benzodiazepines, she has blogged and become a regular contributor for Mad in America. She is also the author of the memoir Blood Orange Night where she writes about becoming dependent upon and then withdrawing from benzodiazepines. Some of the topics we discussed include: Melissa shares her story of addiction to benzodiazepines and how it affected her life with her family (5:53) “Benzos are the thieves that take everything.” (21:29) How Melissa decided to withdraw from benzos and took it upon herself to do it (24:19) Identifying as an addict and why as a culture we must ask, “What is addiction?” (38:12) http://andreaowen.com/507
Wed, February 08, 2023
Episode 506: Overdrinking, Controlled Drinking, and Recovery with Sherry B. Price
This week, we explore how to stop overdrinking with special guest Sherry Price. Sherry helps women moderate their drinking and as someone who identifies as an addict, I was a bit skeptical of her work. However, after our conversation, I have new insight into her expertise and her thoughts on alcohol and addiction. We also discussed the stigma around addiction, different paths to recovery, and the importance of having the right support network during your journey. Sherry is a certified life coach, pharmacist, and creator of the Drink Less Lifestyle podcast and EpicYOU program. Using empowerment-based tools, she helps women to stop overdrinking, lose weight, improve relationships, and live as their most epic self. Some of the topics we discussed include: Drinking for the experience versus self-medication (12:09) The joy of saying, “No.” (14:28) Overdrinking: what it is and some reasons women may do it (18:24) We explore the question, “Is alcoholism a disease or not?” (29:01) Why “you can’t punish addiction out of somebody.” (32:49) The importance of figuring out the “why” for your overdrinking or addiction (34:40) http://andreaowen.com/506 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, February 03, 2023
Minisode on following your dreams
I’m going back to my roots today and giving you a pep talk of sorts around following your dreams. I know, I know, follow my dreams? In this economy!? Stay with me… So, a dear friend of mine is turning 50 at the end of this year, and she posted on Facebook about bucket list items she wants to do before she turns 50. She wants to have 50 things to do and needed more ideas to fill her list. As I was reading through all her comments, things like skydiving, volunteering at a shelter, and traveling to Europe, it got me thinking about all of you. Listen to this episode as I give you some coaching questions to ask yourself as you think about your own bucket list, small action steps to take, obstacles to look for, as well as giving you a good old fashioned motivational speech about going after your dreams. You may want to listen to this one more than once and send it to your friends! http://andreaowen.com/505 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 01, 2023
Substance Addiction and Love Addiction with Betsy Byler
This episode marks the introduction to the recovery theme of the podcast. Betsy Byler, LPC-SAS, ICS, LPCC, joins me to talk about substance addiction, love addiction, and the difference between the two. We also discuss addiction from the perspective of brain science and how the brain actually changes the addicted person. It’s a fascinating and insightful conversation. Before you turn the episode off or think this theme might not be applicable to you - there's a saying in recovery, “Everyone's recovering from something.” So even if you don’t have a dysfunctional relationship with alcohol or another substance, throughout this series we'll be talking about recovery in general. If you are interested in personal development, I really do think that you will walk away with some nuggets of wisdom. If nothing else, you will understand what it's like to be a person in recovery. I hope you do tune in. For those of you new to Betsy, she is a mental health therapist, substance abuse counselor, clinical supervisor, and host of the All Things Substance podcast. Some of the topics we discussed include: The signs that substance use is moving from recreational to problematic and what it means to be an addict (6:16) Why addicts do the things they do based on how the brain changes the addicted person (14:24) Trauma is highly correlated with substance (32:01) How love addiction is biologically different than substance addiction (37:48) http://andreaowen.com/504 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 25, 2023
Mental Wellbeing, Fatigue, and Health Autonomy with Dr. Teralyn
This week, Dr. Teralyn joins me to discuss what she believes is the missing link for improving mental health. Together we also explore brain health and talk about topics related to health autonomy, including taking a functional medicine approach to your health and more. Dr. Teralyn has been practicing as a therapist for almost 2 decades. It wasn't until she went into private practice that she noticed clients (primarily women) were getting sicker and sicker despite therapy and medication. Listen as she helps us to think about our health in a broader way and encourages us to uncover the root of the issues to help us feel better. Some of the topics we discussed include: Some of the things women have been told about their health when they try to seek help (5:50) What is stress? What is emotional stress versus physiological stress? (9:49) Staggering statistics about women's prescriptions for depression/anxiety and even menopause that we may not know about (10:46) What is brain health and how we can maintain it (29:40) Four of the most helpful things a person can do to take charge of their mental well-being: eat, sleep, move, and meditate (40:19) http://andreaowen.com/503 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, January 20, 2023
Minisode on breaking generational curses
Several days ago I came across THIS TikTok video by creator The Black Shea. She was commenting on the docuseries Harry and Meghan, saying that in her opinion, Harry is trying to do for Meghan what he could not do for his mother, Princess Diana. I agree with this opinion, and not only that, but it got me thinking about people trying to heal generational “curses” in their families and lives. While I don’t love the term “generational curse”-- maybe we can call it “generational dysfunction” – I do think many of you are doing this type of work, whether you know it or not. Seeing patterns in your families and trying to heal them by digging into your own personal work and stopping those patterns. This minisode talks about a few things you can do while you’re on that journey. http://andreaowen.com/502 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 18, 2023
Urinary Tract Infections and Reproducitve Health with Dr. P
This week I have another conversation about women’s health, specifically about topics or issues we don’t always think to discuss with our healthcare providers. Dr. Kerry-Anne Perkins (Dr. P), a board-certified and dynamic Obstetrician and Gynecologist joins me for a conversation about what women need to know about urinary tract infections (UTIs), the seven supplements women should take for reproductive health, and tips for having a healthy vagina. Dr. Perkins has extensive expertise in global maternal health needs, problems of the female reproductive tract, contraceptive care, and minimally invasive surgery. She also has a burning passion and commitment to fitness and a holistic approach to a healthy mind, body, and spirit. Some of the topics we explore include: UTIs: how and why women get them, as well as, how can we prevent getting them (3:52) The symptoms of PCOS or Uterine Fibroids (10:15) Five signs of fertility or that you are in your fertile window (21:26) Supplements and nutrients for better health, aging bodies, as well as a healthy reproductive system. Necessary supplements Dr. P suggests include: B-complex, Vitamin D, Vitamin E, Vitamin K, Calcium, Iron, and Folic Acid (28:24) Dr. P’s tips for having a ‘healthy vagina’ (38:38) http://andreaowen.com/501 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 11, 2023
Somatic Experiences, Sexological Bodywork, And Motherhood With Kimberly Johnson
We’ve made it to Episode 500! This week I welcome Kimberly Johnson for a conversation about somatic experiences for healing, the practice of sexological bodywork, and the fourth trimester of motherhood. We also discuss discerning between being proactive versus reactive in life and activating what Kimberly refers to, in her work, as the “Inner Jaguar.”. Kimberly is a Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Experiencing trauma resolution practitioner, postpartum advocate, birth doula, author, and single mom. Some of the topics we explore include: Somatic Experiencing: what it is, how to find a practitioner, and some tools women can use to heal (4:18) Activating your “Inner Jaguar” is not about being an Alpha female, it’s about being comfortable in your own skin, helping you to go after what you want or don’t want, and letting go rather than burnout (10:18) What is sexological bodywork? The fourth trimester of motherhood and why is it important for women/mothers to shift their experience of being and mothering (17:09) “What you need post-partum is also what this culture needs to move in a direction that actually honors life.” (38:00) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, January 06, 2023
Minisode: Simple New Year ritual
Happy New Year 🥳 With the new year comes endless options for NEW YEAR, NEW YOU, am I right? It can feel a bit overwhelming, and then sometimes we might grab onto one particular ritual, get excited, and then it falls apart. Things like setting new year's resolutions, starting a new fitness program, or if you’re like me, deciding you’re going to learn how to shuffle dance, realize it takes more work than you thought, then quit. For this first minisode of 2023, I thought I’d walk you through a simple ritual I did a few weeks ago for Winter Solstice, and it’s something you can do any time of the year! Listen in to follow along and do your own new year's ritual! Here’s to your BEST YEAR YET! http://andreaowen.com/499 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 04, 2023
Functional Nutrition and Autoimmunity with Andrea Nakayama
Welcome, 2023! As we start the new year, we are continuing the Women's Health theme with a conversation about functional nutrition and the impact of a healthy diet on the body, autoimmunity, and Epigenetics. My guest is podcast host and functional nutrition counselor, Andrea Nakayama. Andrea is the host of the 15-Minute Matrix podcast and the founder of the Functional Nutrition Alliance. Her aim is to offer better solutions to the growing chronic illness epidemic by highlighting the importance of systems biology, root cause methodology, and therapeutic partnerships. She also helps historically underserved individuals reclaim ownership of their health. Some of the topics we explore include: Medical gaslighting and why so many women navigating symptoms of chronic illness struggle to get an accurate diagnosis or receive sufficient care (6:36) The circle of influence and how it relates to healing our body (16:06) What is Functional Nutrition and how a functional nutrition counselor helps fill the gaps between what the doctor knows and what the patient knows (36:59) The non-negotiable anchors that are universal for all of us (49:59) http://andreaowen.com/498 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 28, 2022
Ask Me Anything!
The new and updated version of How to Stop Feeling Like Shit is officially OUT NOW! Get your copy (make sure you look for the YELLOW cover) and all your bonuses HERE! 🎉 We had our first ever, in the history of almost 500 episodes and 9 years of podcasting, a live AMA call recording! Emily, who’s been on team Your Kick-Ass Life/Andrea Owen for TEN YEARS, co-hosted with me, and we answered some listener questions and they did not disappoint! Cathryn asks about how to overcome the fear of success, Renee asks about any upcoming writing classes, and Kaleelah asks about friendships, just to name a few of the questions asked! I also reveal in this episode one of my biggest fears or “neuroses” as my therapist calls them, and l invite you to listen in to see if it's one of your fears too. ;) At the end, Emily chose Danelle as the winner of the new edition of How To Stop Feeling Like Shit, congratulations, Danelle! http://andreaowen.com/497 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 21, 2022
The Path to Wellness and Finding the Root Cause with Dr. Efrat LaMandre
What can you do when you feel unwell, but all of your medical tests come back normal? According to Dr. Efrat LaMandre (known as Dr. E), if you are healthy from a conventional medicine perspective - great. However, your feeling of unwellness still means something and needs to be addressed. Dr. E is a Family Nurse Practitioner (FNP) with a Ph.D. in Integrative Medicine who helps people optimize their health, prevent illness, reduce medication, and feel great. Dr. E joins me on the show this week to talk about finding your personal path to wellness whether you are dealing with gut issues, joint pain, fatigue and more. Some of the topics we explore include: The difference between functional medicine and conventional medicine (13:24) It is important to dig deeper and find the root cause (17:29) Why Dr. E says, “Fibromyalgia is not an acceptable diagnosis.” (22:37) Lactose intolerance: what is it, and do you have it or not? (26:21) Why people get worked up over hormonal replacement therapy? (39:23) http://andreaowen.com/496 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, December 16, 2022
Minisode 495: On stepping outside of your comfort zone
A couple of weeks ago, I was coaching a client. She said she had dove back into my first book. 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life and had been thinking about the first chapter, which is called, “Cannonball Out of Your Comfort Zone”. (Before I continue, the truth is, the chapter titles are meant to be dramatic and catchy. You don’t have to CANNONBALL out of your comfort zone…even dipping a toe into it is great.) We had a great session where we talked about what it meant for her to take action that scared her, how the pandemic has impacted her comfort zone, action she could take, and any obstacles that might get in the way. It was such a great session and I felt like what she was feeling was relatable to so many of you. As soon as she and I got off the phone, I turned the mic on and recorded this minisode for you! Enjoy! http://andreaowen.com/495 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 14, 2022
Hormones and Alternative Medicine with Margaret Romero
**Before we jump in, I wanted to remind you that you’re invited to join me for a special Ask Me Anything Episode recording. It’s happening tomorrow, December 15th at 1pm ET (10 am PT)! All you have to do is go to http://andreaowen.com/ama . You can submit your questions beforehand by emailing support(at)andreaowen.com or come live to ask. Hope to see you there! Margaret Romero returns to the podcast! She is a Columbia- trained board certified nurse practitioner. She utilizes functional medicine to treat chronic illness, hormone imbalances, and autoimmune conditions. In this episode, we explore some of the things women should know about hormones and hormone imbalances and the difference between conventional medicine and functional medicine. We also touch on the topic of misogyny in medicine. Some of the topics we also discuss include: Is it normal for women in their 40s, 50s, or even 60s to have low libido? (17:06) Why masculine energy is creating havoc in women’s bodies (21:31) Can you talk about the connection between what we eat and how we feel? (IE: if we eat this often, we’ll feel like that) (30:29) http://andreaowen.com/494 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 07, 2022
Sex Education, Culture, and Women’s Sexuality with Danielle Kramer
Before we jump in, you’re invited to join me for a special Ask Me Anything Episode recording on December 15th at 1pm ET (10 am PT)! All you have to do is go to http://andreaowen.com/ama . You can submit your questions beforehand by emailing support(at)andreaowen.com or come live to ask. Hope to see you there! This week, we’re continuing the conversation on women’s health and sexuality. Joining me to discuss that, plus today’s culture and reclaiming your sexual agency is sex therapist and clinical sexologist Danielle Kramer. Danielle’s specialties include sexual concerns of women and AFAB folks, religious trauma and purity culture recovery, nontraditional relationship orientations, and those questioning their sexuality. In this episode you’ll hear us talk about: How our culture harms women's sexuality and leads to both relationship and health problems (6:05) Purity culture: what it is and how it harms women's health, sexuality, and sex in relationships (6:48) We explore the topics of talking about sex and sex positivity with our children (19:56) FRIES is a framework everyone should use for consent (32:15) What is healthy sex, anyway? (36:04) Unpacking how misogyny shows up in our lives (51:30) The updated and revised edition of my book How to Stop Feeling Like Shit comes out later this month. Woohoo! 🎉 We have some amazing bonuses and giveaways planned, so head over HERE to pre-order and grab those! http://andreaowen.com/493 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, December 02, 2022
Minisode on becoming the person you needed
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about having goals in personal development– such as kicking an addiction, digging into why we keep making the same mistakes in relationships, or healing from childhood trauma. And on social media, I’ve seen the topic come up around becoming the person you wish you’d had to lean on in your past, and/or becoming the person you wish you could have been when something hard happened in your life. In this minisode, I explore that more and hope that it helps you move the needle in your own journey! Also, ICYMI, How to Stop Feeling Like Shit has been updated and is being RE-RELEASED this month! 🎉🎉🎉We have some amazing bonuses and giveaways planned, so head over HERE to pre-order and grab those! I’d be honored if you were one of the FIRST to purchase this new updated version, which will ship on or around December 27th. http://andreaowen.com/492 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 30, 2022
Intimacy, Sex, and Relationships with Whitni Miller
Sex educator and pleasure coach Whitni Miller joins me for a conversation about intimacy, relationships, and sex. When I decided to create a theme around women’s health, Whitni was one of the several guests I was hoping would say yes to being a guest. And, she did! Whitni focuses on maximizing female pleasure through self-work and relational communication, which you’ll hear about in this episode. We also discuss: The biggest reason heterosexual couples stop having sex (5:33) Where to start if you and your partner know you’re having intimacy issues (10:17) Top 3 reasons why women lose their sexual desire and what women can do to increase their sex drive (14:55) How arousal works and can it really be turned on and off like a light switch? (27:42) Some ways couples can make sex more playful (32:43) Breath work and its impact on sexual pleasure (35:18) If you missed the announcement, an updated and revised edition of my book How to Stop Feeling Like Shit is coming in December! 🎉 We have some amazing bonuses and giveaways planned, so head over HERE to pre-order and grab those! http://andreaowen.com/491 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 23, 2022
Periods, PMS, and Women’s Health with Dr. Saru Bala
This week we are talking about periods and women’s health! Dr. Saru Bala joins me to talk about what’s normal when it comes to period pain, what we are supposed to track (and why), what causes PMS, and more! Dr. Bala is a licensed naturopathic doctor specializing in women's hormonal health. As I mentioned in a previous episode, I believe that if we don’t have our physical health together, it is really hard to focus on our mental health. I hope you enjoy this episode and my conversation with Dr. Bala!!Oh and in case you missed it, an updated and revised edition of my book How to Stop Feeling Like Shit is coming in December! 🎉 We have some amazing bonuses and giveaways planned, so head over HERE to pre-order and grab those! Some of the topics Dr. Bala and I discuss in this episode include: What is normal in terms of period pain, cramps, and bloating (4:01) The causes of PMS and why women have it worse than others (14:48) The main things that women should track for their period (20:41) Some of the effects of birth control on women’s health and bodies and why Dr. Bala doesn’t like the idea of using birth control for the treatment of hormonal or health issues (22:41) http://andreaowen.com/490 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, November 18, 2022
Minisode with a Huge Announcement!
Hi! So, I’ve been keeping a huge secret. And that secret is that How to Stop Feeling Like Shit has been updated and is being RE-RELEASED next month! 🎉🎉🎉 The original version came out in 2018 and a lot has happened since then, am I right? The civil unrest of 2020, COVID-19, and a bigger conversation around toxic positivity left me itching to update our beloved HTSFLS, so when I asked the publisher…they said YES! Every chapter has updates and I can’t wait for you to read them (or listen, if you prefer audiobook, which yes, those updates will be in the audiobook too)! We have some amazing bonuses and giveaways planned, so head over HERE to pre-order and grab those! I’d be honored if you were one of the FIRST to purchase this new updated version, which will ship on or around December 27th. In this minisode, I talk about the origins of the book, the journey this book has been on over the last half-decade, and what you can expect in this new version. Oh, and I tell you all about the BONUSES! Thank you so much for listening and supporting HTSFLS! http://andreaowen.com/489 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 16, 2022
Reduce Stress and Build Your Support Squad with Jadah Sellner
This week I am talking with author and business coach Jadah Sellner about detoxing from hustle culture, building and creating friendships, and reducing stress in the form of self-care. Jadah is a bestselling author, business coach, international keynote speaker, TEDx presenter, poet, and host of the Lead with Love® podcast. She's also the author of SHE BUILDS: The Anti-Hustle Guide to Grow Your Business and Nourish Your Life. Book Giveaway 📖 I am also doing a book giveaway! I am giving away one copy of Jadah’s latest book, She Builds ! Head over to my Instagram account (@heyandreaown) to find the post about this episode and join the giveaway conversation. Other topics in this episode include: What prompted Jadah to write about hustle culture and she shares her thoughts on detoxing from it (3:38) Your support squad: how to build consistency around maintaining friends and friendships (11:43) Tools and strategies to help you feel less stressed or exhausted. Plus, rethinking the way we view self-care (39:23) 10-seconds of bravery: what is that one uncomfortable thing you need to do to get closer to the thing you want? (48:12) http://andreaowen.com/488 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 09, 2022
Pelvic Floor Health with Kim Vopni
Kim Vopni, The Vagina Coach, joins me to talk about women’s pelvic health. Kim is a self-professed kegel maven and a certified fitness professional who became passionate about spreading information on pelvic health after the birth of her first child. So, you may be wondering why we’re talking about things like vaginas and pelvic floors on a personal development podcast. Well, it is my belief that if your physical health is suffering, you won’t be able to appropriately focus on doing the hard work of personal development. But, if this isn’t your jam, don’t worry, we’ll be back to good old-fashioned self-help very soon! We explore ways to overcome pelvic floor dysfunction, and vaginal dryness, and why we must normalize the conversation around talking about pelvic health. Some of the other topics in this episode include: Kim answers, “Is it an overactive bladder or something else?” (8:56) Pelvic organ prolapse: what it is, its symptoms, and healing (15:00) Is it true that as we age we lose elastin in our vaginal walls? (20:38) What causes vaginal dryness and how we can keep things moisturized (31:55) Why doing Kegels are important and when women should start doing them (38:59) http://andreaowen.com/487 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, November 04, 2022
Minisode on aging and the place in-between
I’ve been open and fully transparent about my journey with aging. It– like most things in personal growth– has not been linear, but a roller coaster of emotions, thoughts, behaviors, and beliefs. I love that some women feel so empowered and embrace it, and it’s not that I’m fighting it…but why is no one talking about the in-between place? The bridge we walk along as we walk towards that empowerment place? In this sixteen-minute minisode, you’ll hear me talk about this; it’s what I brought to my therapist last week. You’ll also hear a conclusion I came to that goes right along with some advice I gave my middle school daughter. http://andreaowen.com/486 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 02, 2022
Trauma Healing, Somatics, and Your Body with Liz Tenuto
The women’s health theme continues this week with guest Liz Tenuto who specializes in somatic healing for women. She's helped many women recover from trauma and injury for the last fourteen years. In this episode, we talk about how trauma is stored in the body and its effects physiologically, what you should never do when healing trauma, and some signs that you actually are healing. I loved this conversation and hope you do too! Some of the topics we explore: How trauma manifests in the body and its effects physiologically (8:52) Targeting the root cause or area of your body in order to release the trauma (14:23) The three things that you should never do while healing from trauma (17:50) Physical signs that you are actually healing (32:16) How somatics help when healing from trauma (40:16) http://andreaowen.com/485 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 26, 2022
Episode 484: Menopause, Aging, and Your Health with Dana LaVoie
Dana LaVoie joins me this week for a conversation on menopause, aging, and your health. Which is fitting since this episode marks the start of our women’s health theme! Woo hoo! In this episode, we discuss how to treat peri-menopause symptoms, manage your hormones, and Dana shares some of the secrets to healthy aging. Dana is an Herbalist and Acupuncturist who has spent her career helping women balance their hormones naturally. She wants more women to know how to keep menopause and aging from interfering with their careers, home life, and dreams. Some of the topics we explore: Dana answers the question, “How do we know when we are in peri-menopause?” (5:57) The biggest mistake women make in caring for their hormones (15:53) The connection between resilience, burnout, and aging - and why are they all so directly connected to hormones (25:39) Getting on a good plan for managing your hormones helps with stress, anxiety, and brain function (36:57) Hormone "leaks" - what they are and how to address them (38:00) http://andreaowen.com/484 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, October 21, 2022
Minisode on the difference between not eating meat and addiction
Last week I received a DM on Instagram from someone I’d never communicated with before. This person compared not eating meat with addiction. I was perplexed, confused, and angry by this message. So, I replied. Check out this week’s minisode to hear what I said in response, what I think we can all learn from this person’s DM to me, and why this message rubbed me the wrong way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 19, 2022
Gratitude as a form of Self-care with Gina Hamadey
Is there somebody in your life who has really made an impact and you have not expressed that to them? If so, Gina Hamadey joins me to discuss her interesting take on expressing gratitude in a meaningful, yet easy way-- by writing thank you notes! Writing thank you notes to others can be an aspect of taking care of yourself as well as your relationships. Gina is the author of the book I Want to Thank You which depicts her year writing 365 thank-you notes to friends, neighbors, family members, mentors, and more (much more!) Gratitude isn’t a new topic or conversation, but the way Gina talks about it, is unique and one I really wanted to share with you. Some other topics we explore: What sparked Gina to write thank you cards every day of the year (9:12) Some small ways you can begin to write thank you notes or go on a gratitude journey of your own (20:48) There are mental blocks and excuses when you attempt to express gratitude, Gina shares ways she overcomes some of them (25:25) It’s never too late to express gratitude (25:52) We are built for connection and expressing gratitude is so important in today's world (35:01) http://andreaowen.com/482 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 12, 2022
Self-Healing and Boundaries with Yasmine Cheyenne
Yasmine Cheyenne joins me for a conversation about self-healing, self-boundaries, and friendships. She is a self-healing educator, author, speaker, and mental wellness advocate who helps people learn how to cultivate daily practices to build healthy, joyful lives. In this episode we also talk about the magic of community when it comes to self-care, the benefits of social media for the purpose of self-healing, and acknowledging that healing doesn’t make life perfect, it supplies us with what we need to have ease, peace, and joy even when it feels like the world is falling apart. Some other topics we explore: Why self-healing is an important part of self-care (6:31) Strategies to start your self-healing journey (10:57) How creating boundaries can help you heal (11:23) Self-healing is not something you have to do on your own, you can do self-healing with a therapist, coach, or safe confidant (25:24) What to do when a friendship is not reciprocated (35:11) http://andreaowen.com/481 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, October 07, 2022
Minisode On Rest
There is a great deal of studies that show the importance of rest. In Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, the authors say we should try to spend about 42 percent of our time at rest. They continue, “We’re not saying you should take 42 percent of your time to rest; we’re saying if you don’t take the 42 percent, the 42 percent will take you. It will grab you by the face, shove you to the ground, put its foot on your chest, and declare itself the victor.” In this minisode, I talk about the problem– that we tend to not get enough rest; but also ask you two questions that will hopefully help you unpack the reasons you don’t prioritize rest. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 05, 2022
Self-care series: Self-love, Feminine Energy, and Rituals with Angela Jia Kim
Angela Jia Kim is my guest this week! We are talking about radical self-love, the power that can be found in feminine energy, and self-care rituals. Angela is a former concert pianist and founder of Savor Beauty + Spa, a Manhattan-based skincare and spa brand inspired by Korean beauty rituals. She’s also the author of Radical Radiance: 12 Weeks of Self-Love Rituals to Manifest Abundance, Beauty, and Joy . I really think you are going to love her work, and this conversation, as much as I did! Some other topics we explore: Awakening and connecting with your feminine energy (5:22) How divorce helped Angela deepen her self-love and embrace a healthy dating mindset in her 40s (13:25) Self-love starts with one small change like taking five minutes at night to wash your face (17:20) Tips for planning self-care sabbaticals, self-love adventures, and inspiration getaways that restore your skin and your soul (30:03) Angela discusses how she went from a solo concert pianist to founding Savor Beauty + Spa (38:16) http://andreaowen.com/479 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 28, 2022
Self-care series: Anxiety, Insomnia, and Depression with Dr. Ellen Vora
Dr. Ellen Vora is on the show this week to share several holistic approaches to the treatment of anxiety. Ellen is a holistic psychiatrist, acupuncturist, and yoga teacher. She takes a functional medicine approach to mental health—considering the whole person and addressing imbalance at the root. In this episode, we talk about whether or not we are experiencing an anxiety epidemic, strategies for addressing anxiety, the difference between “false” and “true” anxiety, and so much more. I am beyond excited to introduce you to her. She is so smart and has a wealth of information. I had so many questions for her. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did! Some other topics we explore: The cause of the anxiety epidemic (10:15) Ellen talks about her approach to defining anxiety, “false anxiety” and some strategies for addressing it (13:43) The connection between hormones, birth control, and mood regulation (18:06) The role of psychedelics in treating anxiety and the mystical experience hypothesis (23:14) Ellen shares her controversial views on sunshine, why our bodies benefit from the sun, and some healthy ways to get sun exposure (31:00) How we can realistically improve our sleep and why is scrolling on our phones at night relevant to anxiety (42:42) Ellen’s hot-take on the effects of nutrient-dense diets on post-partum depression and anxiety (51:50) http://andreaowen.com/478 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 21, 2022
Self-care series: The Rapid Rewire Method and Self-Love with Stephanie Kwong
You know how I love exploring different modalities for self-care and healing, right? This week, Stephanie Kwong joins me to talk about the Rapid Rewire Method. Stephanie has worked as a Subconscious Rewiring coach, Hypnotherapist, Breathwork Facilitator, and teacher of Self-Love, and now she’s serving her divine calling as the Co-Founder of the Rapid Rewire Method (RRM). Rapid Rewire is a method that helps you clear the issue you are facing, as opposed to simply learning how to cope with it. It answers the question, “How can we be more efficient with our healing process?” Stephanie and I also discuss the importance of self-love and how loving yourself can make a difference in your life. We talk about: We take a deep dive into the Rapid Re-Wire Method, including what it is and what makes it different from healing modalities (7:48) Why self-love is important and how loving yourself can make such a difference in your life (39:50) What self-love actually looks like. Plus, Stephanie shares the pillars of self-love (40:29) http://andreaowen.com/477 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, September 16, 2022
Minisode On Aging
Today’s short minisode is about the thoughts I’ve had over the last couple of weeks as my salt and pepper hair continues to grow out. I know, it might sound trite and boring, but I do spend a decent amount of time thinking about the journey of aging in a culture that is obsessed with youth and beauty. In this minisode, I pose a question of curiosity for you. Not to tell you how you should age (dye your hair? Get botox?), but more importantly, getting clear on WHY you’re making the decisions you are. Enjoy! http://andreaowen.com/476 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 14, 2022
Self-care series: Feminism, Witchcraft, and Intuition with Carmen Spagnola
So far this year we’ve explored podcast themes on mental health, spirituality and creativity, and recently self-care. This week’s guest, Carmen Spagnola can speak on all three topics. She joins me for an enlightening conversation about spirituality, witchcraft, and developing intuition as forms of self-care. Carmen Spagnola is a Le Cordon Bleu-trained chef turned trauma recovery practitioner, clinical hypnotherapist, and kitchen witch. She is the author of The Spirited Kitchen: Recipes & Rituals for the Wheel of the Year , host of The Numinous Podcast, and founder of The Numinous Network. We cover: The collective consciousness of witchcraft, being an animist, and what it means to be a feminist witch (7:55) Folk magic: how it is incorporated and ‘woven into everyday life’ (13:28) Nature-based spirituality, wilderness quests, and rites of passage (25:50) How to develop intuition from a trauma-informed attachment perspective (36:36) http://andreaowen.com/475 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 07, 2022
Self-care series: Sustainable self-care and sobriety with Christy Tending
Moving on to this week’s show! We are continuing with our self-care theme and welcome guest Christy Tending. Together we talk about sustainable self-care (including what it is and how to practice it) and the decision to live a life of sobriety. Christy shares openly about her decision to stop drinking alcohol, its effects on her life, and the lessons she has learned (even about self-care) from the experience. Christy is an activist, educator, and writer. She teaches online courses about sustainable self-care to students all over the world, and hosts the podcast Tending Your Life. Her specialty is helping people dissolve overwhelm, heal burnout, and advocate for themselves. We cover: The art and practice of sustainable self-care, plus Christy shares her definition of personal self-care (5:27) Slowing down enough to actually hear your real needs (8:08) Christy shares about her activist journey and how it informs her work today (14:03) The difference between self-care and self-advocacy (23:25) How and why Christy decided abstinence from alcohol was better than moderating her drinking (30:43) http://andreaowen.com/474 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, September 02, 2022
Minisode 473: On Self-Care
🎉BOOK GIVEAWAY 🎉It’s my Book Baby’s birthday! Head on over to my Instagram to enter to win one of three personalized, signed copies of Make Some Noise, which came out ONE YEAR AGO! Since we’re on the theme of self-care, I thought it might be helpful to start with the basics. How is self-care defined? What does it actually mean and look like? I looked to the World Health Organization to help define it. After that, I talk about barriers to self-care; some of which pertain specifically to women. Lastly, I talk about how to get some support here, as well as where to start with your self-care. Yours in awkward sign-offs, Andrea http://andreaowen.com/473 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 31, 2022
Self-care series: Self-defense and the art of badassery with Jennifer Cassetta
This week we are for the very first time exploring the intersection between self-defense and personal development where Jennifer Cassetta joins me on the podcast! Right when I saw her on social media I was immediately drawn to her work, have since saved all of her videos on self-defense, and watch them periodically, on repeat. Jenn is the author of The Art of Badassery: Unleash Your Mojo With Wisdom of the Dojo (love the title!), where she talks about the lessons learned in martial arts and applies them to level up your mind, body and spirit. In her book and during our conversation, she teaches how to turn your setbacks into secret weapons. She is also a nationally recognized speaker, empowerment coach, and self-defense expert. Equipped with her 3rd-degree black belt in HapKiDo, Master’s degree in Nutrition, and health coaching certification, she develops programming that helps people feel strong, safe, and powerful from the streets to the boardroom. We cover: Whether or not the popularity of true crime has helped or hurt us in terms of safety in our lives (7:09) Walking with power and purpose is one of the most important features of safety (8:45) What women should look for when they sign up for a self-defense class (13:54) Jennifer walks us through the chapters of her latest book including learning how to embrace the suck, bounce back, and find your roar (17:37) http://andreaowen.com/472 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 24, 2022
Self-care series: Joy in the Messy Middle with Paula Jenkins
We are switching gears on the podcast and entering our next theme all around self-care. This particular group of interviews is a mix of the many different ways to take care of someone very important in your life: YOU! Paula Jenkins returns to the show to kick off the series with a conversation about how to bring more joy into our lives. Fittingly, Paula is on a mission to spread more joy in the world. She is a podcast producer and certified life coach, and the author of Jump Start Your Joy: Heart-Centered Ways to Find Joy in the Messy Middle. We cover: What Paula means when she talks about, "finding joy in the messy middle." (7:15) How following joy changed Paula’s life completely, after getting a diagnosis of post partum PTSD (12:28) What it looks like when someone chooses joy (20:29) Paula describes what it’s like being a trained labyrinth facilitator (what?!) (35:23) The different types of joy, including "Bed in a Bag" versions of joy and what they have to teach us (25:30) http://andreaowen.com/471 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, August 19, 2022
Minisode 470: Thinking critically when it comes to our beliefs
Hello friend! As we round out the theme of spirituality and creativity, I’ve recorded a quick minisode on what it means to think critically about our spiritual beliefs. When you were young, were you given the opportunity to think critically about your beliefs? If you were handed beliefs (i.e., “this is just how things are around here, there are no other options”), do you feel grounded, safe, and solid in them? I round out the short episode with a website where you can take a quiz on what you believe in terms of “the spirit world”, and it will give you what religion you most closely align with. It’s fun :) Lastly, today, August 19th is the LAST DAY to join us for The Daring Way Retreat! Hop on over to the info page and/or message us to book a call with me to see if this is the right retreat and curriculum for you. http://andreaowen.com/470 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 17, 2022
Spirituality and Creativity series: How to Live a Spiritual AF Life with Roxan McDonald
Roxan McDonald joins me to share how spirituality can help with creative writing and how to live what she calls, “Spiritual AF” life. Roxan is another amazing human I found on TikTok and I am happy to share her work with you today! For those new to Roxan, she is a writer, workshop facilitator, podcaster, and coach who has dedicated herself to helping people find their voice both on the page and in their lives. She currently leads writing groups and personal development retreats, and co-teaches with Ellen Bass at Esalen Institute and 1440 Multiversity. We cover: Roxan’s meaning of spirituality is aligning self with thoughts, actions, beliefs, and values (7:25) Writing as a spiritual practice and how it can help your creativity as a writer (14:25) The transformative and therapeutic nature of writing (25:13) What is at the core of the spiritual creative overlap (33:40) Roxann has a playlist of videos on TikTok about not being nice. She shares her thoughts about women being nice and what she means when she says “Polite protects predators.” (38:12) http://andreaowen.com/469 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 10, 2022
Spirituality and Creativity series: Self-care and the Enneagram with Sarajane Case
*Before we jump into today’s episode, I want to remind you that we have a few spots left for The Daring Way retreat and that registration closes August 19th!* Sarajane Case is on the show this week to talk about the enneagram and self-care. If you’ve heard people talk about enneagram or reference their enneagram type and were curious what it all means - this episode breaks it all down. We also explore how the enneagram encourages growth, discuss productivity, as well as, define some ways to honor your strengths. Sarajane is an author, podcaster, and speaker who uses the enneagram to help people find a creative balance between self-care and productivity. We cover: Enneagram: what it is, the nine types, and why it is important to know your type (4:43) How the enneagram encourages growth through curiosity and compassion vs. discipline and restriction (11:20) Rest: The true purpose of productivity is the path to rest not the opportunity to produce more (23:20) Why it’s important to have a loving, tender, and intimate relationship with yourself (27:37) Sarajane talks about “The honest method,” which helps you honor your strengths, explore your contribution to relationships, and so much more (30:38) http://andreaowen.com/468 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, August 05, 2022
Minisode: Your creativity can be like hygiene
As we continue the podcast themed around spirituality and creativity, and I found myself moving furniture around in my living room, it made me think about my own creativity. Was I taking the time to be creative just for fun; outside of work? The answer was…not really! So, I recorded this minisode to chat about it with you, read a little bit of The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown, and challenge you to prioritize creativity this week. http://andreaowen.com/467 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 03, 2022
Spirituality and Creativity series: Deconstruction, Dogma, and Spiritual Beliefs with David Hayward
*Before we jump into today’s episode, I want to remind you that we have a few spots left for The Daring Way retreat and that registration closes August 19th!* This week we are exploring deconstruction, creative expression, and spirituality with guest David Hayward. This is the first time we are covering topics like deconstruction and dogma on the show and I hope you find this episode informative and perhaps even a bit healing. After 30 years as a pastor, David left his ministry to focus on his work as the Naked Pastor (he’s not literally naked, well, you’ll see). He believes that questions are the answer to authentic growth. It’s why he uses words and images to challenge the status quo, deconstruct dogma, and offer hope for those who suffer under it. We cover: Deconstruction: what it means, how it feels, and how you can have deconstruction in many areas of your life (5:54) What spiritual abuse looks like (11:38) The importance of accepting the fact that we are free and autonomous (18:46) Advice for those who are questioning their spiritual beliefs and/or living with dogmatic fear (31:30) David talks about using creative expression as a form of healing (36:00) http://andreaowen.com/466 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 27, 2022
Spirituality and creativity series: Bodywork, mental health, and healing with Shontae Cone
This week our previous series on mental health intersects with our current theme on spirituality. Shontae Cone, a mental health counselor, energy worker, and psychic, joins me to talk about bodywork, mental health, and healing. Some of Shontae’s specializations include women empowerment, biracial and multi-racial peoples, and highly sensitive people, or empaths. The spirituality theme we’ve been exploring has been so much fun for me because this is not my typical area of expertise. I hope you have been enjoying this series as well and equally enjoy this episode! We cover: The importance of learning to feel our feelings (5:49) How to know the healing work you are doing is effective (13:31) Bodywork: what it is and why it matters (26:09) Shontae answers the question “What do you think about thought work?” (32:10) http://andreaowen.com/465 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 20, 2022
Spirituality and Creativity series: Psychedelic Experiences with Ana Verzone
Ana Verzone was on the show years ago and she is now back this week to talk about psychedelics and spirituality. We explore the differences between recreational use versus spiritual purposes, the science behind their use, and the benefits of gaining spiritual insight. Ana Verzone is a Master Life Coach, Altered States Guide, and host of the Rebel Buddhist™ podcast. She is devoted to helping yogis and wanna-be Buddhas create an {unconventional} life of true freedom – inside and out. We cover: Why people seek psychedelics for spiritual or mental health (11:33) The difference between recreational use and intentional use (12:17) What qualifies someone to guide someone on psychedelic experiences (15:23) Integration is important following a psychedelic spiritual experience (19:57) Who psychedelics is appropriate for and some reasons that support their use (33:04) Ana answers, “Do you have to do the “hard work” to really get the benefit or spiritual insight?” (32:41) http://andreaowen.com/464 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, July 15, 2022
Minisode: How to take care of yourself when things are scary
I think like several events that happen throughout our lifetimes, the morning of June 24th, 2022 will be a day you remember where you were when you heard the news that the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade. I was getting into a Lyft in Boulder, CO, headed to the airport when the breaking news notification popped up on my phone. I stared at it for several seconds as the Lyft driver tried to make small talk with me, my stomach roiling with the two cups of coffee I had just consumed. I recorded a minisode where I talk about how to walk through something like this when you might be feeling fear, rage, hopelessness, and uncertainty; plus seeing people online who seem like they're handling it so much better. Plus, I talk a little about WHY the topic of safe and legal abortion is so integral to women’s empowerment. http://andreaowen.com/463 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 13, 2022
Spirituality and Creativity series: The Five Primal Wounds with Anna Stromquist and Kristina Wiltsee
This week Anna Stromquist and Kristina Wiltsee from This Spiritual Fix join me on the show. What caught my attention about their work, on TikTok, of course, is that they talk about primal wounds: abandonment, rejection, injustice and betrayal, and humiliation. I mean, who doesn’t struggle with those, right? I love their work and I am happy to share our conversation with you today. In case you are new to Anna and Kristina, they are the hosts of the podcast This Spiritual Fix which within just four months of launching hit #2 on the Apple Podcasts Spiritual charts in the USA, and has hit #1 in a handful of countries and top #100 in over fifty countries. Some of the topics we discussed include: What spirituality mean to Anna and Kristina (7:26) We dive deep into the primal wounds: what they are and how to start and heal them: Abandonment, rejection, injustice, betrayal, and humiliation (11:13) http://andreaowen.com/462 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 06, 2022
Spirituality and Creativity series: Voice, Visibility, and Sacred Archetypes with Christina Dunbar
We are kicking off the spirituality and creativity theme of the podcast, whoop! Our first guest is Christina Dunbar, a storyteller, poet, producer, and a doula for women's voices. For the past decade, she's worked as a transformational catalyst, helping women heal voice and visibility wounds through storytelling, writing, and soul work. In this episode, we have a conversation about sacred archetypes and how they manifest in the lives of women, the fear and vulnerability we feel when using our voice or displaying our creative endeavors, and owning the power of being a woman. Christina is one of my favorite people, especially to see her speak on stage. I really hope you enjoy our conversation. Some of the topics we discuss include: The sacred prostitute archetype and how that archetype work in the life of a woman (7:58) Some of the sub archetypes of the good girl and how they come up in terms of visibility and vulnerability with our voice + art (19:23) Fear around visibility vs. being witnessed (31:05) Shame that comes up for women around their body and sexuality and how that affects their voice and visibility (33:52) http://andreaowen.com/461 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, July 01, 2022
Minisode on Friendships
Since we’re rounding out the theme of relationships, I’m hopping on a minisode talking about friendships! In this episode, I go over three common friendship scenarios/challenges as well as give you possible solutions. In this episode you’ll hear: A simple (but sometimes vulnerable!) thing to do to make sure your friendships stay healthy. What to do if you have a friend who doesn’t seem to open up as much as you do What to do if you have a friend that you’ve lost touch with If you haven’t already, make sure you check out the two episodes I recently aired with friendship experts Danielle Bayard Jackson and Shasta Nelson. As I mentioned before, our friendships with women are incredibly important, sometimes we have challenges in those relationships (which is normal!), and I always want to make sure you have some solutions. http://andreaowen.com/460 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 29, 2022
Relationship series: How to Make Relationships Work with Carole Cullen
We’re wrapping up the relationship theme this week with guest Carole Cullen. I specifically wanted to include a guest in this series who was trained from The Gottman Institute and Carole fit the bill and y’all— she is amazing! In this episode, we talk about the seven principles for making relationships work. I took lots of notes while I was interviewing her and I’m sure you’ll get a lot out of this too Carole Cullen is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, AAMFT Clinical Supervisor and public speaker. She is a Certified Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapist specializing in working with couples in crisis. She has a group practice in Wake Forest, NC where she helps couples learn practical tools to reconnect with their partner and create a lasting love. We talked about: Carole shares, in detail, the seven principles that make relationships work (4:24) Emotionally focused therapy for couples in crisis (32:42) Creating a secure attachment with your partner (and realizing your partner is not responsible for healing your childhood wounds) (35:23) http://andreaowen.com/459 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 22, 2022
Breakups, Emotions, and Healing with Dr. Elizabeth Cohen
Dr. Elizabeth Cohen is on the podcast this week! She’s a therapist who helps women maneuver through life’s toughest transitions. Most of us have been through something life-changing, either a breakup or a loss of a job. These changes can kick up complex emotions, and Dr. Cohen joins me to discuss the array of feelings that surface, and how to process them, and eventually heal. Dr. Cohen received her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Boston University. As part of her graduate training, she treated clients at the world-renowned Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders in Boston, MA. We talk about: Some ways a woman can process her anger following something life-changing like divorce, loss of job, etc (6:58) What it means to live by design versus living by default (21:25) Dr. Cohen answers, “What is the long-term impact of divorce?” (30:45) How to believe in your ability to heal (39:52) Letting go of resentment in a broken relationship (40:30) http://andreaowen.com/458 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, June 17, 2022
Minisode: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
John and Julie Gottman are relationship experts that I often refer to. The Gottman's are famous for a term called The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and it's something that has helped me personally in my relationships a great deal. In this minisode I break down The Four Horsemen, give examples, as well as point to a resource that will help you and possibly your partner learn the antidotes for these common relationship behaviors. It’s simple, yet profound. http://andreaowen.com/457 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 15, 2022
Relationship series: Healing from Traumatic Romantic Relationships with Britt Frank
As we round up the relationships theme here on the show, I wanted to re-air one of my most downloaded episodes of all time. It’s an interview with my friend and colleague, Britt Frank, on healing from traumatic romantic relationships. Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." Her work empowers people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change. In this episode you’ll hear: What is a narcissist and how does someone know they may be in a relationship with someone who is a narcissist? (7:16) Britt’s goal is “dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK”. She shares what she means by that. (14:17) Dealing with trauma: Some signs or patterns which signal someone should deal with their trauma. (14:45) Why someone may get physically addicted to their narcissist and experience withdrawals. (23:10) How someone can begin to heal from a narcissistic relationship. (27:45) Mother wounds and grieving our childhoods (the things we didn’t get) or other parts of our lives. (33:06) How COVID has affected Britt’s work, including the collective processing of COVID trauma. (40:11) http://andreaowen.com/456 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 08, 2022
Relationship series: Maintaining Meaningful Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson
We’re talking about friendships on the show this week! We often focus on partners or familial relationships, so I knew I had to dedicate more than one episode in this series on friendships. Danielle Bayard Jackson joins me to talk about how women can create and maintain meaningful female friendships. Danielle is a certified friendship coach and national speaker dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain meaningful female friendships. She has been featured on NBC News for her expertise, and her advice has been quoted in several other media outlets including Psychology Today, Well + Good, The Tampa Bay Times, and Insider. “Making friends refers to cultivating something meaningful with another person.” Danielle Bayard Jackson We talk about: Some ways a woman can create (and maintain) friendships (7:18) How to approach a friendship that feels one-sided when it comes to being vulnerable or trust (14:17) Advice for women who have been hurt before in past female friendships (24:11) How long does it take to make friends? (31:28) What Danielle would say in response to someone saying, “Women are so catty…” (38:27) http://andreaowen.com/455 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, June 03, 2022
Minisode: Walking through a broken heart
In March of 2009 I wrote a blog post that over the years has popped up in people’s Google searches a lot. Apparently, many people are searching for ways to get over their ex and how to heal their broken hearts. While I’ve changed a lot since the spring of 2009, (I hadn’t had my second baby yet, hadn’t officially launched my business, and sobriety was still two years away!) I do think what I wrote was helpful, but I would give that advice differently than I did back then. This mini-sode is a short and sweet one. Basically, I talk about two things that are imperative to know as you’re navigating a broken heart, whether your experience was last week or a decade ago (or more). Also, early-bird pricing goes up on June 10th for the Daring Way™ Retreat! Click here to learn more about it and to sign up. http://andreaowen.com/454 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 01, 2022
Relationship series: Self-compassion, Agency, and Your Dating Life with Lily Womble
We are deep in our theme of relationships and I didn’t want to forget about those of you who are single or dating. Lily Womble joins me to talk about relationship with self, your love life, and practicing self-compassion whether you are a single or partnered individual. She also shares how to tap into your own freedom and agency. Lily Womble is the founder of Date Brazen where she’s helped hundreds of women around the world build badass dating lives that lead to extraordinary relationships through unconventional coaching and transformative community. We talk about: How women play small in their dating and love lives (7:47) What high-achieving women struggle with the most in their love lives (16:19) Why Lily believes dating can be an act of self-care (27:28) Advice for people who regularly deal with dating anxiety (33:22) How self-compassion impacts your love life (33:37) http://andreaowen.com/453 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 25, 2022
Relationships series: Healthy Friendships and Connection with Shasta Nelson
When we talk about relationships, we sometimes tend to leave out friendships. But friends are such an important aspect of our lives. Shasta Nelson is back on the show to talk about how to deepen friendships, get to the heart of why friendships are important, and some ways to build meaningful connections. Shasta Nelson is a keynote speaker, author, and leading expert on friendship and healthy relationships at work. She is constantly teaching all of us how to create healthier and more fulfilling relationships in our lives. We talk about: Why friendship is important in women’s lives (5:00) There are three requirements for a healthy relationship: positive emotions, consistency, and vulnerability (13:07) How to be vulnerable within your friendships (14:16) 49% of you feel even more distant from friends and family now than a year ago, due to the pandemic. Shasta shares how you can begin to foster and build connection with others (25:19) How to repair a friendship that has drifted apart (37:29) http://andreaowen.com/452 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, May 20, 2022
Minisode: How to NOT communicate like a Kardashian
Love them or not, the Kardashians and their show are an impactful part of pop culture. You probably know they aren’t the most healthy family in terms of their communication. You don’t necessarily think of them when you think of families that talk about their feelings in a way you’d probably want to emulate. That’s why in today’s minisode, I’m pulling two examples from the same episode on how NOT to communicate. This episode is for all the people out there who struggle with how to talk to their family, co-workers, friends, and many others. In it, you’ll hear: First up, a comment from yours truly on the leaked document from SCOTUS about Roe v. Wade. Both Kourtney and Rob hurt Kris’s (their mom) feelings, and what they do in response to hearing about it from her. WHY we typically fall short when someone tells us we’ve hurt their feelings. Examples on how to “clean up your mess” (aka apologize). Lastly, if you’re interested in signing up for The Daring Way™ Retreat that's coming up in September but have some questions that aren't answered on the info page you can book a quick call with me to get your questions answered. Simply scroll down to the FAQ’s after reading THIS PAGE and book your call. http://andreaowen.com/451 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 18, 2022
Relationship series: Relationships, Divorce, and the Patriarchy with Kate Anthony
Kate Anthony returns to the show this week! She joins me in a conversation on how women can best maneuver relationships in today’s world. We also discuss making the difficult decision to stay in or leave your marriage. Kate’s passion is to empower women to find their strength and confidence even in the most disempowering of circumstances, and our conversation is a perfect example of her mission in action. Kate Anthony is the host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? We talk about: How the patriarchy has affected women’s ability to find happiness and fulfillment in their long term relationships (9:39) Narcissistic abuse vs. narcissism and relationships (15:30) Why you shouldn’t stay in a relationship for your kids’ sake (21:09) You can’t do the healing work or heal from trauma while you are still experiencing it (32:02) Kate answers, “Should you be best friends with your ex?” (38:54) How to co-parent within a high conflict divorce (43:30) http://andreaowen.com/450 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Bonus · Fri, May 13, 2022
You Turn Podcast Host Ashley Stahl Talks With Andrea About How To Maximize Your Confidence
Today I have a special bonus episode to share! Ashley Stahl has been a guest on the podcast and she was here we talked about how to get unstuck and uncover your career direction. As host of You Turn Podcast (spelled Y O U ), Ashley helps you elevate your confidence, both in work and love. She speaks often on how to get clarity and fulfillment on what path will truly light you up in your career. I am delighted to share my You Turn Podcast interview where we talked about money, power, and how to maximize your confidence. You’ll hear: How to have a healthy relationship with money How your childhood experiences shape your perspective with money and risk-taking Some tools to connect with your intuition http://andreaowen.com/449 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 11, 2022
Relationship series: Difficult Conversations, Intimacy, and Healing with Dr. Akua Boateng
In week two of our relationship theme, Dr. Akua Boateng joins me for a conversation about healing from breakups, overcoming co-dependency, and creating intimacy with a partner, beyond the bedroom. She also gives a 3-minute masterclass on navigating difficult conversations with a partner. When I say our conversation was enlightening, that’s an understatement. Dr. Akua K. Boateng is a sought-after mental health and relationship expert. With over 14 years of experience in clinical practice and education, she specializes in an integrative approach to treating anxiety, trauma, relationship issues and other emotional concerns. We talk about: Dr. Boateng offers her advice for having open and hard conversations with a partner (4:19) On and off again relationships: why do people stay in them? (12:29) The best way to navigate healing from a breakup (23:51) Overcoming and healing from codependency (27:40) The different ways to create intimacy in relationships (31:35) Reparenting: what it looks like and how to get started (36:23) http://andreaowen.com/448 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 04, 2022
Relationship series: The Division of Labor in Relationships with Laura Danger
We are moving into our relationship theme on the podcast, yahoo! In this series, we’ll be talking about romantic relationships, friendships - all kinds of relationships. To kick things off, Laura Danger joins me for a conversation about the division of labor and invisible labor in relationships. I first learned of Laura on TikTok, of course. She is an educator and an advocate and unapologetically champions for equitable division of labor at home and in the workplace. She raises awareness of the insidious undervaluing of care and empowers domestic engineers to fight back. Whether you are in a relationship or are single, don’t turn off this episode. Laura’s advice is helpful to everyone! We talk about: The Fair Play method: what is it and how can it help couples or even people at work (5:09) If you are uneasy about opening a discussion about fairness in domestic relationships or workplace responsibilities - Laura offers advice on a good place to start (17:25) Everyone deserves rest, space, and time for their own fulfillment (24:19) How to respond to or set boundaries with someone who makes a comment about the division of labor in your relationship (37:02) How to address domestic labor and division of labor conversations when in a new relationship (46:15) “You have 24-hours in a day. How much of that are you going to give away and for how long?” http://andreaowen.com/447 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, April 29, 2022
A medley of minisode topics
Today is a bit of a random minisode– I ended up sick on my birthday (not Covid, but it still sucked), and on a positive note, we got a new puppy! More on that introduction later (and after I start to get more sleep 😫) but today I wanted to share how Brené Brown’s work is impacting me both personally and professionally. Also, if you live in or near Orlando, Florida, you definitely want to listen to this episode! I’m giving away TWO FREE TICKETS to the Think Better Live Better event that I’ll be speaking at in May. In this episode you’ll hear: Some behind the scenes! I share with you information I got as a Daring Way™ facilitator of some changes based on Brené’s research A podcast I’ve been bingeing lately that you might like A giveaway! I’m giving away two tickets to an event I’m speaking at in Orlando next month! http://andreaowen.com/446 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 27, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: Leveraging Emotional Intelligence Dr. Shyamala Kiru
We’ve come to the final episode in the series all about how we heal ourselves, next week we’ll begin a series on relationships, woohoo! But first, Dr. Shyamala Kiru is here to talk about emotional intelligence and communication skills. Together we talk about how to leverage your emotional intelligence and master every area of your life. Dr . Shyamala is an ex-therapist turned relationship and leadership expert with 20 years of experience. The EQ Code, her global coaching company, trains professional women to master their emotions, communicate fearlessly, and lead with confidence so they can execute their whole mission at a whole new level. We talk about: What emotional intelligence actually looks like (4:52) Dr. Shyamala explains the connection between our emotional intelligence and our capacity for success, both personally and professionally (6:58) The four pillars of the EQ code and how each pillar helps women master every area of their life (12:55) Can your communication skills make or break success? (13:45) Some ways a woman can leverage emotional intelligence in their life (43:50) http://andreaowen.com/445 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 20, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: Recovering from Diet Culture with Megan Hadley
I am so pumped for you to listen to my conversation with registered dietician Megan Hadley! We are talking all about how to recover from diet culture. Megan is a nutrition therapist and owner of Simple Nutrition, a nutrition counseling practice in Greensboro, NC and founder of Fork the Food Rules, a membership for people who have decided not to diet. Together we discuss Megan’s belief that all bodies are good bodies and that from cake to kale, all foods are good foods. We explore how to shift and transform your thoughts about food, how to determine what healthy means for you, and some ways to step towards a healthy relationship with your body and food. We talk about: The most common pitfalls of failed healthy habits with high-achieving women (3:53) When you feel shame about the food you put into your body, it affects the way you show up in the world (6:21) Helping women determine what is healthy for them (11:07) Strategies to manage the guilt and shame that some women feel about not achieving health goals (13:47) Intuitive eating and how it differs from the most popular eating plans (26:30) http://andreaowen.com/444 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, April 15, 2022
Words of wisdom on my birthday
It’s my birthday! And I have some words of wisdom. I racked my brain with what to share on this week’s minisode, and decided to bring you what’s on my mind as I take another trip around the sun. In this minisode you’ll hear: What I keep telling myself when I find that I’m judging others, or even myself. My thoughts on aging in general. An update on the process of growing out my grey hair (did I change my mind?!) http://andreaowen.com/443 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 13, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: Emotional Regulation and Boundaries with Eliah Prichard
This week I am talking about emotional regulation with Eliah Prichard. This was such an insightful conversation around boundary setting and more. Eliah is an educator, coach, and founder of The Rebound Way. We also talk about emotional empowerment, how to speak your truth, and regulate emotions rather than mirror those around you. Eliah helps people who are ready to feel epic in their bodies and confident in expressing their unique identity. Her hope is to equip people with the tools they need to adapt effectively to change in their lives. We talk about: Self-abandonment as a behavior: how it manifests and what it looks like (5:44) The best place to start with boundary setting is learning how to regulate your emotions (12:33) Eliah shares an experience from childhood where embarrassment trumped physical pain (19:10) Using feelings an indicator for growth and change (22:31) What to do if you break down or get emotional during a boundary-setting conversation (16:01) “When you learn to be with your own emotions and have self-compassion for yourself, you are so much better being there for other people.” -Andrea (43:05) “All you have control over is showing up. You can create the safety you crave and bring that to your relationships.” Eliah Prichard http://andreaowen.com/442 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 06, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: Top-down and Bottom-Up Trauma Therapy with Christine Gibson
This week’s guest, Christine Gibson caught my attention on TikTok. In several of her videos, she talks about two types of therapy, top-down and bottom-up therapy. In this episode, she joins me to talk about therapeutic modalities, like EFT, for healing trauma. We also explore the powerful ways our body responds in connection with our nervous system to trauma. Christine is a family doctor and trauma therapist in Calgary, Canada. She has studied systems thinking, the use of storytelling towards healing, and created a residency training program in health equity. We talk about: Christine shares how the EFT modality can help with healing trauma. (5:59) The 2 types of trauma therapy: top-down (talk-based work) and bottom-up (body-based work). (9:00) Christine explains the Polyvagal Theory and how the different parts of the nervous system respond to stress . (18:31) We explore just how deeply the body and the brain are connected. (31:54) If someone is certain they have experienced trauma, Christine offers some thoughts on how to start healing. (39:21) Feeling heard and being seen is one of the goals of therapy. Validation of your feelings is what helps you heal. (51:48) http://andreaowen.com/441 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, April 01, 2022
Episode 440: How do you know when it's time to quit?
Recently I received an email from a woman, let’s call her Jennifer, who’d read How To Stop Feeling Like Shit and had a question; specifically about how to know when it’s your inner-critic speaking about a new endeavor, or when it’s actually factual. Here’s her question: So, how do you know if it’s just you berating yourself or the possibility that you’re just not good enough? I mean, in reality, we have things that we are not meant to do no matter how much effort we put in. So how do we know? When will we know? I am originally from the theatre industry. The pandemic gave me the chance to try out new things besides acting. So now, I’m in the marketing field, totally different from what I usually do, and trying my best to work my way up. There are doubts and failures along the way. So how do I know that they are just doubts and negative thoughts or that I’m just not fit for the job? How do I know when to give up? When to accept the fact that this isn’t for me? How do I know that something is just a fact and not a negative thought? This is such a great question, one that I’ve struggled with myself and I’m sure many of you have as well. In this minisode, I’ll cover: Seth Godin’s book, The Dip: A little book that teaches you when to quit (and when to stick) . Seth has a great metaphor of a Dip and a cul-de-sac and explains what each is and how that can help you decide when to quit or stick it out. A plethora of questions to ask yourself to get curious about your situation to hopefully get yourself to an answer. The one question I ask myself whenever I want something big, and am not sure if I want to stick it out or not (it’s the question that led me to not continuing my college education to go to medical school). http://andreaowen.com/440 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 30, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: Narrative Exposure Therapy And Help For Victims Of Crime
We have talked about EMDR on the show previously as a treatment for trauma. This week, Vanessa Pezo joins me to discuss how EMDR can be used for the treatment of other types of distress like performance anxiety or even common fears, like the fear of flying. We also discuss narrative exposure therapy, creativity as a tool for healing, and the complexity of trauma therapy for crime victims. Vanessa Pezo, LCSW (she/her) is a licensed therapist and trauma specialist based in Long Beach, CA. In her private practice, Vanessa specializes in serving diverse survivors of complex trauma using EMDR, cognitive behavioral therapy, narrative exposure therapy, and somatic techniques to help survivors of trauma find healing and recovery. We talk about: How EMDR can help with the treatment of other types of distress. (5:59) Narrative exposure therapy (NET): what it is and how it helps. (15:25) NET often uses writing as a way to reflect on past experiences. Vanessa speaks about using creativity as a tool for healing. (19:31) On Vanessa’s website she writes “After a trauma, we can sometimes fall into unhelpful patterns of thinking that change the way we view ourselves, others, and the world.” She explains what she means by that. (25:01) One modality isn’t going to work for everyone. (31:47) Trauma therapy for crime victims: navigating trauma while also navigating the criminal justice system can be a complex and long journey. (32:53) http://andreaowen.com/439 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 23, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: Healing the Mother Wound with Bethany Webster
This week I am talking to Bethany Webster about the mother wound. Bethany says, “When we are children and our mothers harm us, they are to blame. They are adults and are responsible for us. But as we grow up and turn into adults, it then becomes our responsibility to do the healing within ourselves. If you can walk the path of healing the mother wound and inner mothering, the rewards are so rich.” Bethany is a writer, international speaker, and transformational coach. She started blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced worldwide demand for her work. Through blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. If you have a great relationship with your mother, don’t turn this episode off! Even if you have or had a good relationship with her, we can still struggle with some mother-wounding. Tune into this episode to hear about what the mother wound is and how to begin to heal from it. We talk about: Bethany explains what the mother wound is and where it comes from. (5:06) Healing the four layers of the mother wound. (7:25) The cost of avoiding the mother wound and what prevents women from healing it. (13:47) How to heal the mother wound without mother-blaming. (20:14) What to do if/when your mother responds with “Oh, so it’s always my fault?” (36:53) Bethany’s experience with estrangement from her mother. (39:24) http://andreaowen.com/438 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, March 18, 2022
Minisode on Codependency
Today’s minisode revolves around codependency. Many years ago, when I was in my 20s and in a difficult relationship, my therapist told me I was codependent. I read Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More and saw so much of myself in it. I highlighted all the symptoms and to be honest, at the time, I wasn’t totally clear on what I had to do to solve the problem. In this minisode, I’ll talk about: Some common symptoms of codependency, as well as how it looked in my life when I was deep in it. A quote from my friend and therapist Britt Frank about why she’s not a fan of the current narrative that surrounds codependency What I wish I would have learned early on that would have helped me get better help Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 16, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: A New Perspective on Mental Health with Britt Frank
Britt Frank is back on the show! Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." She is one of my favorite therapists who offers another perspective on personal development. In this episode we discuss what Britt believes to be some of the inaccurate information the mental health and wellness world teaches us and how that information impacts our personal development journey. Britt’s goal is to educate, empower, and equip people to transform even their most persistent and long-standing patterns of thinking and doing. You’re going to love this conversation, I have no doubt. You’ll hear: The parts of us that people typically hate are the parts that are trying to protect us. (7:17) Why Britt says, “Depression is debilitating but it is NOT a chemical imbalance.” (11:38) Why addiction is NOT a disease. (15:35) We need to understand behavior function in order to get to behavior change. (19:29) If we could change our inner monologue to an inner dialogue we can calm the nervous system down. (23:19) Anxiety is as necessary to your health as the check-engine light is to your car. (29:49) If a medication or modality isn’t working for you, you’re not broken. Healing is complex. (39:27) Therapy is not about blaming your parents, it’s about becoming a parent to yourself. (43:21) Trauma is not always about the things that happened to you. It is also about the things that didn’t happen to you, but should have. (44:20) http://andreaowen.com/436 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 09, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: Trauma therapy and Internal Family Systems with Simone Saunders
I love learning about different trauma therapies and giving you options to find specialists who can help you heal. TikTok is rife with mental health professionals giving sound advice. I first came to know this week’s guest, Simone Saunders, when I saw her Tiktok video about a symptom of trauma: a sense of a foreshortened future. Simone is a mental health and wellness-based content creator and licensed therapist. She is known for creating content that breaks down psychoeducational topics into digestible pieces, normalizing mental health issues, and giving an inside look at the therapy process. Together, Simone and I have a conversation about Accelerated Resolution Therapy, understanding internal family systems, and unpacking the various symptoms of trauma and failed attachment in childhood. You’ll hear: Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) and how it helps reprogram the way in which traumatic memories and images are stored in the brain so that they no longer trigger strong physical and emotional reactions. (6:04) How Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help individuals to heal. Simone shares some of the common categories of parts firefighters, managers, and exiles, as well. (10:00) A symptom of trauma that is not talked about enough is a sense of a foreshortened future. Simone explains what it is and how it shows up. (23:30) Hyper-Independence and its relation to attachment. (25:30) How to talk to your family about your mental health journey and experience with therapy. (31:15) Simone answers, “Is therapy a life-long journey and should you take therapy breaks?” (40:38) http://andreaowen.com/435 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, March 04, 2022
When you lose a very good dog
Giselle Owen, mascot of the podcast, lover of her Dirty Baby and popcorn, my right-hand girl, my soul dog passed away peacefully in my arms on Wednesday, February 16th. Part of this episode is a tribute to her. I open the podcast with a little follow up to episode 432– the episode on humiliation with Amy Smith. I had the biggest vulnerability hangover after airing that show, I couldn’t believe I released an episode that had me break down in tears for y’all to hear. However, that was my fear talking, saying I should pull the episode, and I could see that pretty quickly. In this minisode I give you my thoughts on that. Lastly, I talk about dogs, a quick history on how we got Giselle, and the epiphany I had the day after she died about one of the reasons people love dogs so much. Thank you for listening, and thank you to those of you who have watched Giselle over the years on my Instagram stories and who even knew her toys names! She was such a good dog, and I am in the throes of grief without her. If you would have met her, she would have LOVED you. She loved people, a lot more than she cared about other dogs. And to anyone who’s lost a pet they loved dearly, I see you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 02, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: Healing with Group Therapy with Christie Tate
I first met this week’s guest, Christie Tate, at a book festival last year. I quickly realized that since we are on the theme of therapy and healing ourselves, she would be an interesting addition to the series. Christie is a lawyer who wrote about her experience in group therapy and her debut memoir about her adventures in life transformation through group therapy is called Group--How One Therapist and a Circle of Strangers Saved My Life . On paper, Christie explains that her life was great. But inward, she was depressed, lonely, and isolated. She eventually agreed to go to therapy. In this episode, she shares her experience with getting psychologically and emotionally naked in a room of six complete strangers—a psychotherapy group—and how in turn she found human connection, and ultimately, herself. You’ll hear: Christie shares what led her to therapy in the first place and shares her journey to group therapy. (6:23) Group therapy: what it’s really like. (8:41) The highs and lows of group therapy. Christie shares one of highs, sharing a food secret with the group and one of her lows which have to do with jealousy about who is getting attention. (17:40) Shining a light on the issue is where the healing begins. (36:00) Insight and advice for those reluctant to go to group therapy. (40:55) http://andreaowen.com/433 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 23, 2022
Andrea and Amy on profound humiliation and its impact
This week I have a conversation about shit that matters with unqualified people to share with you. My bestie, Amy Green Smith, helps me unpack the emotional damage humiliation has caused me for so many years and let it be seen for what it is. I had been told by a well-meaning friend that humiliation wasn’t something I should feel. After all, the things that happened to me (my ex-husband cheating on me) weren't my fault. Together Amy and I unpack the weight of humiliation, shame, and self-worth. By the end of this episode, I finally settled into the notion that healing is truly a one-day at a time journey. We explore: How earth-shattering it is to actually feel seen. If it is painful to you, it is valid. My inner teenager is pissed. We are all navigating trauma, personally and generationally. Unpacking trauma is labor ! There is a tremendous weight of being the one in the family to carry the emotional load. And finally, from Amy, “We all have our shit and we are never done doing the work. There is an element in grief in this knowledge. The work won’t be void of hardship. We can just engage it in a more powerful way.” http://andreaowen.com/432 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, February 18, 2022
Breaking down the scar tissue
Around 2013, I had a shoulder injury that turned into something called “Frozen Shoulder”, and later had to have surgery. I wanted to use this story as a metaphor for our emotional wounds and healing. In this minisode, I tell the story and you’ll also hear: What I had to do before surgery for months, that we all do in different ways when it comes to our emotional lives. How we all build up scar tissue and what we can do about it. What we do afterward; when it comes to both surgery for an injury and healing our internal emotional wounds. If you’re wanting to learn some amazing coping mechanisms, consider joining me and other like-minded women for one of my upcoming retreats. We’re gathering in May for a non-recovery retreat , and again in September, for a recovery-focused retreat. http://andreaowen.com/431 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 16, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: ADHD Diagnoses, Transmagnetic Stimulation, and Genetic Testing with Dr. Sasha Hamdani
If you’ve ever been interested in learning about Transmagnetic Stimulation (TMS), genetic screening, and being diagnosed with ADHD - then you are in the right place! This week, Dr. Sasha Hamdani joins me to talk about all of those topics and more. Like several of the past guests in the series on healing, I found Dr. Hamdani on TikTok. Y’all, Mental Health is a big topic over there! Dr. Hamdani is a Board Certified psychiatrist and ADHD specialist. In addition to her private practice, she has a robust social media following across multiple platforms where she provides accessible and accurate information about ADHD. I am excited to introduce you to her and the work she does in the area of mental health and healing. You’ll hear: Dr. Hamdani and I both share our ADHD diagnosis stories and then discuss whether or not someone can someone have symptoms of ADHD but not have ADHD. (9:18) Transmagnetic Stimulation (TMS): what it is, who it can help, and how it helps. (16:44) How you can prepare for your first meeting with a mental health medical professional. (34:21) The benefits of genetic screening, what kind of data you can get from the testing, and who should use it. (39:42) How the stigma of having ADHD is different for women. (49:28) http://andreaowen.com/430 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 09, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: How To Process Challenging Emotions With Sherianna Boyle
We are continuing down our path answering the question, how do we heal. My friend, Sherianna Boyle is back on the show, this time to talk about emotions. We can’t have a theme around healing without talking specifically about our emotions, because they are so important to the healing process. Sherianna is the author of ten books including her latest Emotional Detox Now: 135 Self-Guided Practices to Renew Your Mind, Heart & Spirit . In this episode, we discuss the power of cleansing our emotions in order to get to a place of healing. Sherianna also offers her insight on the benefits of cleansing practices and how they can transform your attitude, focus, and energy. You’ll hear: What it means to cleanse challenging feelings and emotions. (5:48) The difference between a feeling and a reaction to a feeling. (8:07) The seven-step practice of emotional detox using the acronym CLEANSE. (18:51) The benefits of a cleansing practice. (20:27) How emotions can support a great life right now. (31:47) Tell-tale signs you may be numbing out or avoiding your feelings. (33:51) http://andreaowen.com/429 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, February 04, 2022
Do we ever truly heal?
Over the last few weeks, we’ve been hearing from some amazing therapists and experts in the field of inner work. We’ve heard about attachment styles, epigenetics, family roles, and more. And over this time I’ve been heavily pondering the question, Do we ever truly heal? In this minisode, you’ll hear: My opinion on healing– in other words, what does that actually mean? The one question you need to ask yourself and bring that answer to your therapist The steps necessary to take before you begin your healing journey Don’t forget, if you’d like transcripts to this episode (and any episode!), simply go to the episode page. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 02, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: EMDR and Moving from Rigid to Secure Attachment Styles with Melissa Parks
We continue our conversation about healing ourselves with guest Melissa Parks! Melissa is a licensed therapist who specializes in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and trauma therapy. I learned about her work through TikTok when she kept appearing on my For You Page. I have since come to learn just how insightful she is around the topic of attachment styles and the modalities she uses in her practice. In this episode, we explore some of the modalities, such as EMDR and Somatic therapy. Melissa also describes the four different attachment styles, anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure; and how they may manifest in our lives. She also explains how we can move through rigidity (avoidant or anxious, for example), to a place of security and healing. You’ll hear: EMDR: what it is and what symptoms it can help treat. Plus, it is not just a modality for treating trauma, it can be used for treating anxiety, depression or even lack of motivation. (6:47) Melissa explains how attachment styles are like strategies, shares the four different kinds and explains how the goal is moving from rigidity to consistency. (18:55) How someone can move into a secure attachment style. (27:39) Examples of when unhealthy attachment styles can cause conflict in a relationship. (33:22) Somatic tools and skills: what they are and when someone would use them. (40:32) http://andreaowen.com/427 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 26, 2022
Episode 426: How We Heal Ourselves: Epigenetics and Attachment Styles with Sarah Peyton
Healing ourselves from past trauma can be done through different avenues and modalities. As we continue the theme of healing, author and neuroscience educator, Sarah Peyton, joins me for a conversation about epigenetics, disorganized attachment styles, and self-expression. Sarah uses resonant language to heal trauma with exquisite and warm gentleness. In this episode, she helps us understand the effects of generational trauma and offers insight on how we can heal ourselves. And, y’all, her voice is so soothing and comforting. I know you are going to enjoy this episode. You’ll hear: Sarah’s time-travel empathy process and how it may help with the healing of generational trauma. (7:13) Epigenetics, including what it is, and how it reveals itself in our lives. (11:59) Attachment styles: disorganized, avoidant, etc. (25:50) What stops us from easy self-expression. (29:52) The unconscious contracts we make with ourselves. (33:19) http://andreaowen.com/426 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, January 21, 2022
Trauma Informed Versus Able to Treat
Welcome to my first podcast minisode! I’ll be dropping these short episodes on the first and third Fridays of the month (in addition to the regular episodes every Wednesday). They’ll be about ten minutes long, ad-free, and it could be anything from a book I’m reading that I think you might like, or my hot take on something happening in pop culture. Since the theme we’re talking about over the next few months is all about healing; more specifically around trauma and different healing modalities, I wanted to take a moment to talk about something important, and that’s how we talk about trauma publicly. I wanted to give my opinion, as someone in the personal empowerment field. The good news is that trauma is talked about now more than it ever has been. Previously, the only “appropriate” time to talk about it would have been in a psychiatrist's office. If you spend any time in the self-help spaces on social media, you’ll see that the topic of trauma is having its time in the spotlight. Which is great, but does come with a drawback. In this minisode, I talk about: The difference between trauma-informed and trauma-responsive Why that should matter to you What to look for in a practitioner/coach and what’s okay and not okay in terms of treating trauma Don't forget– if you’re interested in learning more and possibly signing up for my next Daring Way™ Retreat (the first one in almost three years!) hop on over to THIS page, read the details and sign up to be notified when we open registration. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 19, 2022
How We Heal Ourselves: Complex PTSD and Familial Roles with Elizabeth Kupferman
This show marks the kick-off of themed episodes, where we’re looking at the question, “How do we heal ourselves?” In the episodes coming up over the next couple of months I'm going to be talking to therapists, psychiatrists, psychologists, and others who have a different perspective or expertise around the topic of healing. To begin, I’ll be talking to experts who are sharing their wisdom about family roles, trauma responses, epigenetics, attachment styles, and even healing ancestral wounds. You know how much I love talking about the deeper stuff and the things that we talk about in counseling, therapy or even in the company of trusted friends. I'm kicking off this theme with Elizabeth Kupferman. She is a woman that I met on TikTok. (Yes, the app is not just for kids!) Elizabeth is a Licensed Professional Counselor and is the author of The Irreverent Grief Guide and the Irreverent Trust Guide: How to Trust Again After Trauma F*cked You Up. In this episode, Elizabeth and I discuss Complex PTSD, the impact of familial roles on our lives, and explore the trauma responses and the importance of replacing the responses with personal development tools to help heal. In this episode you’ll hear: How trauma work helped Elizabeth heal her eating disorder and how it led her to the work she is doing today. (9:14) The different “roles” children are put into in a family system, The Hero, Golden Child, Scapegoat, The Lost Child and Mascot; and how these roles impact us later in life. (11:49) The four trauma responses: flight, fight, freeze, and fawn and the importance of learning to replace the trauma responses with tools. (22:43) What Elizabeth means when she says, “Complex PTSD is the autoimmune disease of the psyche.” (40:37) http://andreaowen.com/424 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 12, 2022
From Heartbreak to Wholeness with Kristine Carlson
“Change is one of the most creative forces in our life.” This week, Kristine Carlson joins me to talk about moving through change and how it allows for expansion and growth. We also discuss grief, including her journey through grief after the sudden passing of her husband. Finally, we discuss how to make empowered choices during times of hardship.For those new to Kristine Carlson and her work, she is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and leader in the field of transformation. After collaborating with her late husband Dr. Richard Carlson created a publishing industry phenomenon with the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff series —selling more than 25 million copies worldwide—today, Kris is emerging as a profound teacher in the areas that matter most to the human heart: how to heal and how to love. Join us for this powerful and enjoyable conversation. In this episode you’ll hear: Kristine shares her journey through grief and describes her star mantra, “Surrender, trust, accept, release and receive.” (12:31) The willingness to give and receive support from others during the grieving process. (22:15) During times of stress or hardship, how can we make empowered choices? (27:21) Why we resist change and some ways we can embrace it. (31:27) Out of all of her books, Kristine shares her favorite one to write and why. (37:38) Action steps you can take to live with intention. (42:33) http://andreaowen.com/423 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 05, 2022
Starting Over, Being ‘Right on Time,’ and Practicing Resilience with Amber McCue
This week we are talking about adventure, starting new things, and how to be the CEO of your own life. Amber McCue joins me for this lively conversation! Amber is a business coach, podcast host, and founder of Right on Time Living. In our conversation, she shares her “right on time,” mantra, being aligned with your values, and building resilience. From being a single mom at the age of 18 to owning two companies that allow her to work from anywhere. Today Amber runs her businesses anywhere around the world from Chicago to Africa. Through her books, speaking, and in her coaching programs, Amber partners with business owners around the world who want to get more done, realize their dreams and get freedom for themselves. Amber moved 15 times in one year. She explains how she did it and some strategies she used to deal with change so often in a one-year timespan. (6:42) The ‘right on time,’ mantra. (7:02) The way that we act or speak reveals our values. Sometimes it is very clear when we are or not in line with them. (13:38) A fresh start doesn’t always mean committing to a drastic new course of action. Amber shares ways you can start and move forward from your new beginning. “A small step can have a big impact.” (18:12) Amber’s photography business shut down and grew during COVID, she explains how that was possible. (27:20) The three habits of a Modern CEO to implement into your life. (42:03) http://andreaowen.com/422 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 29, 2021
Confidence, Happiness, and Being Fabulous with Kyle Elliott
This episode is for anyone who struggles with finding their strengths. With help from my guest, Kyle Elliott, we help you answer the question, “What am I great at?” We also explore the topic of job change and figuring out what is your specialty in order to advance yourself in your career. For those new to Kyle, he is the founder and career coach behind CaffeinatedKyle.com. As a result of working with Kyle, senior managers and executives have landed jobs at Facebook, LinkedIn, Amazon, Google, Microsoft, and nearly every other Fortune 100/500 company you can think of. Tune in to find out how to identify and own what makes you fabulous! Kyle shares how he became known at Caffeine Kyle and his journey to career coaching. The biggest barrier people face when it comes to achieving happiness in their careers/lives. If a lack of confidence is an issue for you - Kyle offers some strategies to boost confidence. How to identify what makes you fabulous. Owning your fabulousness once you pinpoint what it is. LinkedIn Profile strategies for individuals looking for a career change. http://andreaowen.com/421 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 22, 2021
Using Improv to Move Through Fear and Build Confidence with Judi Holler
Fear is one powerful emotion. This week’s episode focuses on how fear shows up in our lives (hello, there…imposter complex) and what we can do to move through it in order to open new doors. Joining me on the show is Judi Holler. Judi Holler is a keynote speaker, thought leader, podcaster, improviser, and author of the book, “Fear is My Homeboy.” Judi’s energy is contagious. I believe her work will resonate with you. Together, we explore the everyday things that happen to us and the blocks that get in our way. Judi walks us through some improv exercises to help open new doors and keep you moving forward. And as Judi likes to say, “Old keys don’t open new doors.” In this episode you’ll hear: Judi’s view of the imposter complex and some ways she teaches people to combat it. The improv mindset and how it can help build confidence. How to turn obstacles into opportunities and tools to help navigate even the worst of life’s storms. The fear-setting roadmap and how to keep your emotions in check in stressful situations. Judi takes me through an improv exercise to showcase the true magic of the word, “and.” http://andreaowen.com/420 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 15, 2021
Personal Development and Practical Enlightenment with Kimberly Snyder
This week we are exploring the spiritual side of personal development. Kimberly Snyder joins me to talk about the various practices and teachings she shares in her upcoming book, You Are More Than You Think You Are: Practical Enlightenment for Everyday Life. We discuss the benefits of working with your energy to enlighten your whole life, creativity, confidence, and more. Kimberly also shares her story of religious deconstruction and her spiritual awakening, learning universal principles, and working with a deeper connection. In this episode you’ll hear: Kimberly’s turning point inspired her spiritual awakening and subsequent writing of her books. What True Self is and tapping into your True Self potential. How to tune into the source and your intuition. Yogananda and why is he important to people today. Why practices and techniques are important to helping us move into our highest potential. http://andreaowen.com/419 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 08, 2021
Transforming fear and pain into purpose with Kerra Bolton
This week, Kerra Bolton joins me to discuss her intriguing story to learn to swim, dive, and map sunken slave ships and overcome her fear of swimming in open water. As she shares her story, you’ll hear her explain the process of working through her fears and learning to respect the water and trust herself. We also dive into the layers and history of epigenetics and mtDNA and how our past can help us to understand our current state of being. Kerra is a writer, filmmaker, and CEO of Woodbine Films. She specializes in first-person, personal narratives that excavate joy from trauma. Currently, she is directing her first feature documentary, Return of the Black Madonna , and writing a book, Water in My Bones , about her epic quest. In this episode you’ll hear: Kerra shares her experience of learning to swim, dive, and map sunken slave ships; as someone who is fearful of water and swimming. (9:14) Kerra’s passion with diving for sunken slave ships. (15:31) Restorative practices: what they are and how they can help strengthen relationships within communities. Plus, how Kerra became a filmmaker in her 40s and the challenges of bringing stories to screen (31:50) http://andreaowen.com/418 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 01, 2021
Wonder, Creativity, and Connection with Andrea Scher
The word “wonder,” gets used a lot around the holiday season. But have you ever stopped to think about how wonder shows up in your everyday life? Andrea Scher joins me this week for a conversation about how to live a more vibrant life full of wonder, presence, and connection. Andrea is an artist, author, and life coach whose work is driven by her belief in the transformative power of creativity. She is also the author of Wonder Seeker: 52 Ways to Wake up Your Creativity and Find Your Joy . After having this conversation with Andrea, I am looking at the world a little bit differently. In this episode you’ll hear: Andrea defines wonder and how it shapes her work and her life. (5:26) We explore some of the memories of wonder that are potent in our lives. (7:08) How wonder can be an antidote to anxiety. (14:22) The difference between wonder and joy. (26:26) The wonder of connection with others. (27:52) What it means to be a wonder seeker and how we can grow our sense of wonder in our everyday life. (32:03) Wonder is not about stepping over what is hard, it is being present with what is in front of you with compassion. (37:17) http://andreaowen.com/417 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 24, 2021
Mind, Body, and Soul Alignment with Laura Gevanter
This week I am exploring a new modality for personal development with guest Laura Gevanter. Laura is a PSYCH-K® Facilitator, an Intuitive Alignment Coach, Pendulum Healing Practitioner and Home Space/Energy Clearer. In this episode, she explains what PSYCH-K is and how it can be used to energetically align your mind, body, and soul into a version you’ve always desired. Laura has been studying brain science, quantum physics, spirituality, and the law of attraction for most of her life. She is innately curious about people, nature, life and how it's all connected.I love learning about different modalities for personal development (and I’m sure you do too!) and the work that Laura does is fascinating. In this episode you’ll hear: PSYCH-K: what it is and how it works. (5:49) Why PSYCH-K is unique and how is it different from other transformational modalities. (10:04) Benefits to health issues and healing. (27:15) How PSYCH-K helps with worthiness and money issues. (30:19) It takes courage to decide to make changes in your life. (32:26) Home-space clearing and energy alignment: what it is and why it matters. (35:54) http://andreaowen.com/416 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 17, 2021
Make Some Noise Listeners’ Stories: Boundaries and Breaking Family Patterns
Today I am sharing the final two Make Some Noise listener stories, from Gail and Nancy. Their stories offer lessons around resilience, setting boundaries (and enforcing them), and breaking family patterns that no longer serve us. Gail shares her story of reinventing herself after 20 years of motherhood. Her story is one of resilience. Of falling down and getting back up, over and over again. Gail summed up her experience profoundly, “I found myself again. I do have worth, compassion, and knowledge that I thought I had lost forever.” Yes, Gail, yes! Nancy then shares her story of setting boundaries, having hard conversations, and breaking family patterns. Y’all, boundaries are hard enough, but when we have to set boundaries with our family - that is Ph.D. level work. And, Nancy is doing the work . Her story is a testament that we can do hard things and move past familial patterns that have been so ingrained in our lives since we were children. Thank you to Nancy and Gail, and all of the women who shared stories of how they are making noise in their lives! I’ll be doing this again in the new year - so keep an eye (and ear) out on how you can share your story in a future episode. http://andreaowen.com/415 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 10, 2021
The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life with Laura McKowen
Laura McKowen returns to the show! Laura says, “Much of recovery is about accepting the good and the bad, as well as accepting the contradictions.” She joins me to talk about her sobriety story, how she processed the emotions of sobriety, and how she works with people now to inspire them to say yes to a bigger life. Laura is the author of the bestselling memoir, We Are The Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life , and the Founder and CEO of The Luckiest Club, a global sobriety support program. In this episode you’ll hear: Laura shares her sobriety story and how she went from working in advertising and drinking to sober, teacher, coach, and speaker. (3:58) What inspired Laura to write her book, We Are The Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life. (15:08)Sober Curiosity: We all have something that shatters the concept of self as we know it. (18:31) Some ways in which a newly sober person can learn to hear and speak their truth, and renew their sense of meaning and purpose. (36:38) http://andreaowen.com/414 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 03, 2021
Make Some Noise Listeners' Stories: Your worth and writing to heal
Raise your hand if you’ve ever been in a situation where you decided to make noise in your life; you speak up, you have a hard conversation, or you ask for a raise, and... it backfires . Inevitably, chances are, that is going to happen. Alright, now raise your hand if you’ve had a time in your life where you hit rock bottom and really needed help. Yet, reaching out for help felt like the hardest thing in the world. Today Emily and Erin, Make Some Noise Podcast Listeners, share their experiences on worthiness, asking for help, and healing. Emily shares how she confidently asked for a raise only for it to backfire; and how that led to her evaluating and understanding her worth. She is now making much more than she did at her previous job and is happy about how things turned out. Next, Erin opens up about her struggle with thoughts of suicidal ideation and how she found support from her best friend. It was through that support Erin was able to utilize writing as a creative outlet for healing. Erin said,” It took hitting close to rock bottom in order for me to realize my voice needed to be heard.” And yes, Erin’s voice, Emily’s voice, and all women’s voices need to be heard. They deserve to be heard. The world needs more women’s stories. I am so grateful Erin and Emily shared their stories with us this week. http://andreaowen.com/413 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 27, 2021
Body Image Resilience with Dr. Lexie Kite and Dr. Lindsay Kite
This week, twin sisters Dr. Lexie Kite and Dr. Lindsay Kite join me for a discussion on body image resilience. As women, we've been conditioned to care about how we look and as such, become fixated on our beauty and body. And for many women, only when we feel we have conformed, do we feel confident. In addition to informing us how to step into body image resilience and away from body shame, Lexie and Lindsay offer their insight about topics such as self-objectification, body shame, and how internalized misogyny is central to our self-perceptions. “Body image resilience provides the opportunity to see the trigger as a stepping stone instead of a burden you carry around the rest of your life and cope in the same ways you’ve always had.” Dr. Lexie Kite Lexie and Lindsay received their PhDs from the University of Utah. Their academic research on media studies and body image inspired them to establish the non-profit Beauty Redefined in 2009 (while concluding their co-written master’s thesis and beginning their doctoral research) to help women recognize and reject harmful messages about their bodies, worth, and potential, and redefine the meaning and value of beauty in their lives. In this episode you’ll hear: Lexie and Lindsay’s book , More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament , takes on the topics of body image positivity and a reclamation of a woman's body. They share what inspired them to write this book. (6:30) Body image resilience: what it is and why it is important for women to work to raise theirs. (8:35) Why it is important to normalize the diversity of all bodies. (28:25) Many of us are disordered eaters and we don’t know it because it has been normalized in our culture. (36:12) We can prove the worst fears about ourselves are wrong. (39:44) The first step towards body image resilience includes taking inventory of your environment. (51:41) http://andreaowen.com/412 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 20, 2021
Make Some Noise Listeners’ Stories: Grief, Sobriety, and Recovery
It’s listener storytime! A few months ago I put out a call to share a personal story about making noise in your life. Several listeners answered the call; I am so excited that the time has come to share their experiences with you! This episode focuses on the topic of drinking and sobriety, coping with loss, and upholding boundaries. Making noise is not necessarily about shouting from rooftops. It’s about pushing up against conditioning and social programming that tells you, you should not do something. You’ll hear how both Jill and Amy are making noise in their lives. Jill shares how a 90-day sobriety challenge turned into two years of sobriety (and still going). Following her sobriety, her life saw many major shifts and has allowed her to make and uphold boundaries in her life. Later, Amy bravely opens up about using alcohol to cope with a stroke she suffered in 2019. Making noise is also about speaking courageously and vulnerably in order to make a change in your life, much like Amy does here. Her story is one that also brings up the question, “How can you keep rising when you have evidence that sometimes things don’t work out?” I share some of my thoughts and lessons from Dr. Bren é Brown’s Rising Strong curriculum to help Amy work through some of the reasons for her coping mechanisms. http://andreaowen.com/411 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 13, 2021
Betting on Yourself with Kacia Fitzgerald
Kacia Fitzgerald, host of the popular EmpowerHER podcast, joins me this week for a discussion about betting on yourself and going after whatever it is you want in life. Kacia is the Founder & CEO of She Goes company which is designed to empower women with the tools and community so they never have to GO alone. In this episode, we also talk about trusting yourself, why it is important to show up for the, “why,” as opposed to getting caught up in the, “how,” and so much more. I love Kacia’s energy and know you will too. “When you trust yourself enough, then you can hear other people’s feedback but still do what feels aligned.” Kacia Fitzgerald In this episode you’ll hear: The story behind Kacia’s Instagram post that said, “Worrying is literally betting against yourself.” (6:14) Why it’s important to not confuse inexperience with inability. (9:12) Some routines and rituals Kacia turns to in her daily life, which helps her to manage anxiety, reconnect, and decompress. (12:36) Kacia wants women to write their own damn permission slip. (21:49) Instead of getting stuck on the” how,”, show up for the, “why.”(39:26) http://andreaowen.com/410 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 06, 2021
My 10-Year Soberversary Story
I recorded this episode on September 27th, 2021. That day is of significance because it was my 10-year anniversary of sobriety. There’s a part of me that thinks, “I can't believe I've survived this long without drinking.” And another part of me that says, “Well, yes, it does feel like 10 years.” 10 years of clarity. 10 years of wisdom. 10 years of groundedness and feeling anchored in who I am. So, I wanted to take this opportunity to share my recovery and sobriety story with you. While I’ve shared my story before, it’s now many years out; therefore, I'll probably tell it a little bit differently than I did when I was a year out, which was the first time I talked about it publicly. If you don't have a problem with alcohol maybe you have a loved one who does or maybe you are struggling with something else. I believe we all are recovering from something. Recovery is a lifelong journey. I hope you find some insight, clarity, support, or wisdom from this episode. http://andreaowen.com/409 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 29, 2021
Owning Your Power and Your Voice with Angela Chee
Today’s episode closes out the eight-episode series where I speak with women making noise in their lives. My final guest is Angela Chee, who joined me to talk about stepping into your power, owning your voice, and breaking through personal and professional barriers. Angela is media/communication coach, keynote speaker/emcee, creator of YOU, Amplified!®, and host of “The Power Of The Only" podcast. A former TV news anchor and reporter with more than 20 years of media experience, she now works with visionary leaders, executives, and entrepreneurs who are ready to own their power and their voice and amplify their message and mission through speaking, video, and media. Remember - all eight episodes are available in both audio and video format. To watch today’s interview and/or the previously aired episodes, you can find them on YouTube. I really hope you enjoyed this series as much as I did create it for you! In this episode you’ll hear: What power means to Angela as a woman “Power is about owning all parts of you.” (9:32) The biggest obstacle women face when they are stepping into their power. (11:19) Angela shares her experience in the power of being the only and the barriers she broke through in her career. (23:16) The importance of owning your voice. (30:00) How to speak up at work: Ask, “What value can I provide at this moment?” Then let the words come out. (36:04) Money is an expression of owning your voice and power. We talk about money and negotiating pay or raising rates. (43:34) http://andreaowen.com/408 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 22, 2021
Resilience, Self-Compassion, and Imposter Complex with Rachel Luna
Returning to the show this week is Rachel Luna. We are talking all about what it means to have resilience, practicing self-compassion, and managing imposter syndrome. I asked Rachel to be a part of the Make Some Noise series because she is simply one of the best hype women I have in my corner and is an equally amazing life coach. Rachel is a highly sought-after international speaker, Certified Master Neuroscience & Life Coach to 7 + 8-figure earning entrepreneurs, and host of the popular podcast, Permission to Offend which has listeners in over 90 countries around the world. In this episode you’ll hear: Rachel shares her perspective on what it means when a woman is taking up space. (6:51) Find out what Rachel thinks about confidence; plus why confidence always leads back to identity, and staying in integrity. (9:14) Self-confidence vs. confidence, and the biggest mistake people make when they are working on self-confidence. (10:59) Navigating imposter syndrome, “None of us are immune from imposter syndrome, it’s just something we learn to manage over time.” (16:27) Rachel shares her experience with breast cancer and how that led her to practice self-compassion. (24:39) Resilience: knowing and believing that you can get back up. “You can start over any second of the day.” (43:33) “Allowing oneself to make some noise helps us to get to the next level of understanding and growth with one another.” (55:37) http://andreaowen.com/407 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 15, 2021
Mental Health, Shadow Work, and Self-Care with Sekeithia
This week’s guest is Sekeithia, and she is the epitome of “making noise.” I came to know her through TikTok and was immediately drawn to her way of being herself on social media and encouraging others to do the same. She often shares openly about her mental health journey, sobriety, self-care, and is a motivator to her community of followers. Making noise is about a lot of different things, and it is often about looking at life’s challenges as invitations to show up in your life. In this episode we discuss shining bright when others are trying to dim your light, mental health and self-care, and learning to trust yourself. Be sure to follow Sekeithia over on TikTok. And remember, this episode (and all of the others in this series) are on video. Head over to YouTube to watch ! In this episode you’ll hear: Sekeithia shares about her mental health journey with bipolar disorder, suicide attempts, and drug abuse. “Mental health was not a conversation we had around the dinner table.” (4:20) What her mental health self-care looks like today. (10:21) Sekeithia shares about a time she ignored her intuition and had to learn a hard lesson, and how that changed going forward. “Intuition is about trusting yourself.” (14:30) How the question, “Why do you always feel the need to be the brightest in the room?,” dimmed her light and how she began to shine again. (24:35) How Sekeithia defines self-confidence. (29:10) We dive into shadow work: what it is and how it helps. (32:40) http://andreaowen.com/406 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 08, 2021
Social Anxiety, Communication, and Being Relatable with Rachel DeAlto
Rachel DeAlto returns to the show this week, as part of the 8-episode special series, to talk about communicating, even if it scares you. I’m convinced that life is a series of awkward conversations and situations after another. However, armed with strategies and knowledge, it can be a little bit less scary. Rachel DeAlto is a relationship expert, coach, media personality, and speaker. She is the author of “relatable: How to Connect with Anyone Anywhere (Even if It Scares You).” Rachel has also been featured on a multitude of media outlets including The TODAY Show, Access Hollywood Live, and Fox News. She has also given three TEDx talks including Being Authentic in a Filtered World which is featured on TED.com. In this episode you’ll hear: Rachel describes the difference between nervousness and social anxiety. [7:34] She shares some of what is wrong with the way we are communicating. [12:01] How you can begin to feel less socially awkward. [19:49] Some ways to approach building self-confidence. [21:46] Rachel shares how she sees women making themselves small (figuratively, not literally). [28:16] http://andreaowen.com/405 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 01, 2021
Talking About Confidence, Self-Trust, and Intuition with Sara Dean
We’re halfway through the Make Some Noise special series! I’m speaking with some amazing women about how they make noise in their life. Sara Dean joins me this week to discuss our definitions of self-confidence, the importance of self-trust, and the role intuition plays in decision-making. Sara is a friend and colleague; and I admire her self-confidence, tenacity, and resilience. Her biggest passion is helping women own their space. She is the creator and host of the Shameless Mom Academy Podcast, which has been featured in 5 categories of iTunes New & Noteworthy for almost 2 years now and is rapidly approaching one million downloads. In this episode you’ll hear: Sara talks about confidence, how she defines it, and how she might instill confidence in another woman. (6:30) Self-trust is a big part of self-confidence. Sara shares how she determined self-trust was important to focus on. (24:15) The role intuition plays when making big decisions. (35:12) I talk about mindset in Make Some Noise, more specifically about creating stories in our minds that serve us instead of narratives that bring us down. Sara shares the type of mindset work that has helped her. [44:04] Using life's challenges as invitations to show up. [48:44] http://andreaowen.com/404 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Bonus · Tue, August 31, 2021
Happy Birthday to Make Some Noise!
I have a very special bonus episode for you today because today is the publication day (aka birthday) of my third book, Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength . 🎉 As my book is released to the world, I've been thinking a lot about legacy. As an author and with this book in particular, the dedication is to my daughter, Sydney and my mother and to her mother and her mother and her mother. I dedicated it to them because they are the most important women in my life and part of my legacy. And I’ve been thinking about what I am going to leave behind when I’m no longer earthside. The biggest, most important thing that we put meaning on is our own life. What's it all for? I think that the reason that we are here and the biggest part of our legacy is the relationships that we have with the people in our life. I've told you all the story about when my life completely fell apart in 2006. And it was the first time I had so much clarity amidst all the drama. And I thought, how did I get here? And then a realization that this was not where I was meant to be. That was the moment I decided to change my life. It was not linear. It was not perfect. It was 15 years ago and there's been a lot of ups and downs. There's been a lot of hard conversations with myself and with other people. And I can tell you most definitely that I've truly never been more grateful for anything in my life because it takes intention and total consciousness to make changes. It is things like speaking your mind, owning your strength, making noise, speaking up for yourself. It’s giving an opinion and learning how to set boundaries. Making noise is understanding what your values are and acting on them. It’s getting help for any addictions that you have. It’s going to therapy and getting really honest with yourself and your therapist. Making noise is doing any kind of trauma therapy that you might need digging into your family of origin, looking at the habits and behaviors that you have, and getting really curious about them, instead of beating yourself up about them. I mostly talk to women and write books for them, so all of that is an act of making noise. Women's empowerment is an act of rebellion because we are pushing up against the cultural norms, standards, programming, and socialization that we've all received. Learning, growing, and the relationships we create along the way are part of the legacy we leave. I am so excited to share the release of Make Some Noise with this wonderful community. It’s time to make some noise, speak your mind, and own your strength. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 25, 2021
Asking for What You Want, Pleasure, and Resilience with Jess King
When I decided to create a special series to celebrate my third book, Make Some Noise, I knew Jess King needed to be a part of it. And, y’all I had so many questions to ask Jess, based around topics in my book. Her answers did not disappoint! So yes, this week, Jess King, joins me to talk about asking for what you want, making pleasure a priority, and resilience. Jess is a charismatic Peloton instructor with boundless energy and a passion for movement. With a background in dance, performance and fitness, Jess grew up down South and moved to NYC to commit to a career in wellness. Jess’s self-proclaimed sassy and spicy personality make her Bike and Tread classes uplifting and full of exciting surprises. Jess is committed to helping people heal from the inside out, and she believes that this community is the perfect place to start that journey. Her focus is to partner with motivated individuals looking to transform their lives — and together, they burn. ✨ By the way, you can watch this episode on YouTube. Head over here to check it out! Or if audio is your preference, listen on this page or on your favorite podcast listening app. I’d love to hear what you think about this series so far - let me know over on Instagram @heyandreaowen. In this episode you’ll hear: Asking for what you want as a woman, and Jess’s take on the topic. How Jess makes pleasure a priority in her life. (8:15) Self-confidence and the knowledge that you are not going to get what you want by being a “Yes,” person. (26:46) Jess shares her experience with being shamed by men in her life for her free and expressive behavior as a teenager in the South. (28:47) An exercise that will help women take up space physically. (41:38) http://andreaowen.com/403 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 18, 2021
Reclaiming Your Power and Self-Confidence with Kat Kim
Kat Kim joins me this week to talk about personal power and divine confidence, how to discover your secret desires, and how to reclaim your self-confidence. I am thrilled to have her as part of the Make Some Noise celebratory series! Kat is a Spiritual Teacher, Leadership Coach, and founder of The School of Divine Confidence, an online school that offers spiritual training and confidence coaching to rising women leaders and change-makers across the world.By the way, all eight episodes in this special series are on video too! Head on over to YouTube to watch my interview with Kat. Subscribe to my YouTube channel to be notified when the next interview airs. In this episode you’ll hear: Kat shares her journey from a crack addict, convicted drug offender to spiritual teacher and leadership coach. Why Kat defines personal power as divine confidence. Advice for women who are struggling with self-confidence and spiritual work. Internalized patriarchal myths about what it means to be a “good woman” and how Kat worked to untangle them like “I have to be thin to be accepted.” How Kat helps women find their secret, burning desires. Shame can help you find self-confidence. http://andreaowen.com/402 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 11, 2021
Power, Money, and Women’s Empowerment with Susan Hyatt
Welcome to the first episode in a special Make Some Noise series where I speak with eight, handpicked women who are making noise in their lives, taking up space, and shining brightly. I created this series as a way to celebrate the release of my third book, Make Some Noise (coming out August 31st...BUT you can pre-order now !), and a celebration of women. I am ready to share these conversations with you to help empower you to make some noise in your life. Susan Hyatt helps me kick off the series with a conversation about women’s empowerment through economic means, owning your power, and asking for what you want. Susan Hyatt is a Master Certified Life & Business Coach, best-selling author, TEDx speaker, and the queen of helping women create what they crave in life. In this episode you’ll hear: Susan answers the question, “Was there a time in your life where you realized you weren’t asking for what you wanted, and if so, how did you change that?” (9:54) What happens when women start to push back on the invisible workload. (15:09) We talk about money and power, including Susan’s definition of power, and how women can help themselves be more comfortable with their own power. (18:57) How women hold themselves back from making more money. (23:59) Susan has dealt with a lot of mean girls since she put herself out there so much, and we know this is due to women’s insecurities and internalized misogyny. Susan shares her thoughts on her experience and talks about what we can do to disrupt our own internalized sexism and misogyny. (33:49) Last, but certainly not least, we talk about pleasure, specifically what stands in the way the most for women to embrace their pleasure more. (42:53) http://andreaowen.com/401 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 04, 2021
Cosmic Health: Unlock Your Healing Magic with Jennifer Racioppi
I have a fun and fascinating topic this week: Cosmic Health. Jennifer Racioppi joins me to share her knowledge on this topic and share how the celestial cycles impact your ever-changing sense of self. Jennifer is a certified Duke Integrative Medicine Health Coach, a holistic health counselor, a Positive Psychology coach, and an astrologer. She is also the author of the book, aptly titled: Cosmic Health: Unlock Your Healing Magic with Astrology, Positive Psychology, and Integrative Wellness. In this episode you’ll hear: Jennifer’s personal health and wellness journey; which began with an endometrial cancer diagnosis at the age of nineteen and onset of parachute menopause shortly thereafter. (7:50) Being in sync with circadian, monthly, and annual rhythms is important for well-being. (23:57) Why rituals are an important part of cosmic health. (30:32) http://andreaowen.com/400 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 28, 2021
Get Unstuck and Uncover Your Career Direction with Ashley Stahl
This week I am talking about career transition and direction with Ashley Stahl. Ashley is a counter-terrorism professional turned career coach and author of the bestselling book, You Turn: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, Design Your Dream Career , and she's on a mission to help you step into a career you’re excited about and aligned with. We cover a wide range of topics relating to career, including why people get stuck or feel stuck in their jobs, the top ten career skill sets, and why you should do what you are, instead of what you love. Ashley ends our conversation with a mic drop quote, one of which we could all be reminded of, “Who you are, always wins.” In this episode you’ll hear: Why people get so stuck in their career and commonplace directive of “follow your passion” (8:59) What Ashley means when she says, “Don’t do what you love, do what you are.” (11:58) The importance of being adaptable in today’s workforce. The top 10 core skill sets and why you need to know which one you possess. (14:09) How to figure out your core values and why these values matter for your career. (16:14) Advice for people who are in careers they love, but the organization’s leadership is less than desirable. (27:58) Ashley shares her thoughts about the 9-5 work schedule seen in the U.S. and how it may not be in service for everyone. (34:02) The myths people buy into in their careers. (36:43) http://andreaowen.com/399 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 21, 2021
Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett
Marc Brackett is on the show this week. I heard him on Brené Brown’s podcast, then devoured his work, and knew I needed to have him on the show. He is the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor in the Child Study Center at Yale University. His research focuses on the role of emotions and emotional intelligence in learning, decision making, creativity, relationships, health, and both academic and workplace performance. You are going to love this conversation and learn so much. In this episode you’ll hear: Why it’s essential to focus on feelings. (7:02) The role emotions play in learning, decision making, and workplace performance. (9:46) What we should be teaching children about emotional intelligence. (15:29) The difference between emotional regulation and emotional intelligence. (23:05) The Mood Meter App: what it is and how it can be used. (28:32) http://andreaowen.com/398 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 14, 2021
Narcissistic Abuse, Trauma, and Healing with Britt Frank
Britt Frank is back! I received so much positive feedback from her first appearance on the show about healing from narcissistic and traumatic relationships, I knew we needed to continue the conversation. For those new to Britt, she is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the “Science of Stuck.” Britt's work empowers people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. I still had so many questions for Britt, so in this episode, we dive deeper into our conversation about narcissistic relationships, what trauma is and is not, and how to break free from narcissistic abuse or trauma. In this episode you’ll hear: The difference between narcissism and a narcissist. Once someone has identified they are in a relationship with a narcissist - Britt breaks down how to decide whether they should stay or go. Narcissism is an attachment disorder and stems from childhood - the best way to prevent children from becoming narcissists is to pay attention to them. Trauma is brain indigestion. Britt Frank’s opinion on forgiveness. “Anytime we jump to forgiveness at the expense of our own truth, we gaslight ourselves.” Once you are aware of what is happening, Britt offers some ways to cope and break free from narcissistic abuse or trauma. ✨By the way, pre-orders for my next book, Make Some Noise, are open! Grab Your Free Bonuses - including a free webinar on self-confidence coming up on August 5th. Get all the details at AndreaOwen.com/noise ✨ http://andreaowen.com/397 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 07, 2021
Habits of Happy, Successful People with Marc and Angel Chernoff
This week Marc and Angel Chernoff join me on the podcast. They are professional coaches, full-time students of life, and admirers of the human spirit, and have been recognized by Forbes as having "one of the most popular personal development blogs." Marc and Angel are also the authors of two books that share over 1000 things people can do to live a happy and successful life. One of the things I love about their books (and our conversation) is that they take some really big topics and simplify them into practical and implementable things we can do in order to be better humans and make the world a better place. In this episode you’ll hear: The inspiration behind Marc and Angel’s book, 1000+ Little Things Happy, Successful People Do . Why Marc and Angel say their route into personal development was out of necessity. What made them decide to write a book about relationships. Marc and Angel answer the question, “What do I do to get my partner to be interested in personal development as much as I am?” Advice for someone who feels hopeless or helpless due to life’s circumstances. Why their book, 1000+ Little Habits of Happy, Successful Relationships , is great for single people too. Some strategies you can employ when you are feeling burnt out. Practical ways you can get back to happy and simplify your life. PS: We’re looking for your stories about how you’ve made noise in your life. It can be tangible stories like how you transitioned from one job to another or internal work - such as how your self-confidence grew over a number of years. Listeners, you are such a major part of this show and I want to honor your voices and stories. We need to hear more women’s stories. Head over to AndreaOwen.com/Talk to share yours with us. http://andreaowen.com/396 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 30, 2021
Transgender and Non-binary Allyship with Rae McDaniel
Rae McDaniel is on the show and I’m really excited for you to listen to my conversation with them. We talked about how to be a better ally to the transgender and non-binary community. Plus, Rae has the most fascinating upbringing story which they shared during our time together. Rae McDaniel is a non-binary gender and sex therapist-turned-coach who works with transgender/non-binary/questioning folks feeling lost while transitioning their gender identity. Our conversation was interesting and informative. In this episode you’ll hear: Rae’s upbringing by parents who were Christian-missionary puppeteers (I had so many questions!). (4:17) Their experience coming out as queer in an unsupportive environment. (7:34) How the narrative that gender transition has to include suffering and anxiety is damaging to transgender and cisgender folks alike. (12:19) Rae’s perspective about anti-transgender and anti-nonbinary laws being pushed in legislation today. (16:54) What it means to be a good ally to the transgender and nonbinary community, plus trans-affirming language and the gender spectrum. (25:00) What to do (and not do) when someone comes out to you. (34:10) Advice for parents who suspect their child might be trans or nonbinary or their child has come out to them, and their feeling a bit lost. (36:15) http://andreaowen.com/395 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 23, 2021
Make Some Noise Coaching Session on Motivation and Burnout
This week I’m coaching Hannah, a twenty-five year-old who recently transitioned from working in a non-profit to Corporate America. She came to me for some coaching and insight around issues of wrestling with perfectionism and her battles with negative self-talk. We talked through different scenarios and by the end of our time together, Hannah said our conversation was a “self-awareness wake up call”. In this episode you’ll hear: Hannah describes her feeling of being stuck and lack of motivation. We discuss the idea that the lack of motivation she may be feeling is due to burnout. The importance of female friendships and how they can be a huge part of a path towards self-care. Recognizing there are seasons of your life where you simply aren’t motivated and that’s okay. Encouragement to get curious when something is pushing you in a certain direction or belief. http://andreaowen.com/394 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 16, 2021
Love, Trauma, & Recovery with Riana Milne
This week, I am exploring childhood trauma and how it is at the root of many of the issues that plague us in our adult lives. Riana Milne joins us; she’s a therapist who’s been helping individuals attract and keep emotionally healthy love for over 21 years. Riana shares the top ten traumas we experience in childhood and how those traumas impact us. This episode is not about blaming or shaming-- instead, it’s about understanding why we’ve adopted certain coping behaviors and offer strategies towards healing. In this episode you’ll hear: Riana walks us through her Childhood Trauma Checklist - identifying 10 traumas experienced in our young lives. (5:17) How childhood trauma shows up in love relationships. (29:54) The typical timeline for getting trauma out of the brain and body. (37:57) Mindset for success - a two-part healing process. (37:59) Five things in an emotionally healthy, evolved, and conscientiously aware relationship. (42:05) I know you’ll find this episode enlightening and perhaps see some of yourself. If you want to dig further, Raina has a free ebook called Attract Healthy Love Now (also great if you’re already in a relationship!). http://andreaowen.com/393 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 09, 2021
Harnessing Your Big Deal Energy with Erin King
Erin King is here, y’all! Erin is a best-selling author, 3x entrepreneur, and the CEO of the Socialite Agency. She’s helped clients ranging from The Academy Awards in Hollywood to The United States Navy at the Pentagon communicate more compellingly using her award-winning PUB method. If you gravitate towards my energy and the things I teach about (thank you, by the way) - you are going to love Erin! In this episode we talk about her new book, You're Kind of a Big Deal: Level Up By Unlocking Your Audacity , and how to take bold action. We also talk about the role patriarchy plays in oppressing women’s confidence and how, instead, we can harness Big Deal Energy (the feminine version of Big ‘D’ Energy) to live an audacious life. In this episode you’ll hear: Erin shared her experience pitching her then company, PMS (a tampon delivery service) to a room full of men. (6:30) Leveling up in your personal and professional life takes much more than just confidence and courage… it takes something bigger, bolder and grittier: AUDACITY. (23:55) Some ways you can begin to activate your audacity to level up. (31:45) Big ‘D’ energy aka Big Deal Energy: knowing you have what it takes. (35:59) http://andreaowen.com/392 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 02, 2021
Relieving Anxiety Through EFT and Meditation with Gabrielle Bernstein
Gabrielle Bernstein is on the show this week. For over fifteen years, Gabrielle has been transforming lives—including her own. She is a #1 New York Times bestselling author, having penned eight books including The Universe Has Your Back, Super Attractor and the latest, her first Audible Original, You Are the Guru. She joined me to discuss some of the tools and practices she uses to relieve anxiety and restore energy, including EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and cord-cutting meditation. I love it when conversations organically move in their own direction and this one did not disappoint. In this episode you’ll hear: Cord-cutting meditation - what it is and how it can be used to help someone get some closure. (6:10) Gabby walks people through the steps of judgment detox using a technique called Emotional Freedom Technique. (11:04) Methods or tools for relieving anxiety. (17:07) Postpartum depression, time and place for psychiatric support, and why you can’t spiritually override it. Get medicated support to get back to safeline and feel safe enough to live. (20:07) Manifesting is not about getting things, it is about feeling good. (22:55) http://andreaowen.com/391 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 26, 2021
The Magic of Surrender with Kute Blackson
Kute Blackson is back on the show this week. He joins me for a conversation about surrender, and as many of you may know, surrender is a favorite topic of mine. That is why when I learned about his new book, The Magic of Surrender , I knew I needed to have him back. Kute shares how to unravel human tendencies to control the outcome and instead, be willing to be open to life’s possibilities. He is author of the national bestselling book You.Are.The.One. and is widely considered the next generation leader in the field of personal development. I hope you enjoy our conversation. “The path of surrender, rather than trying to figure out life at every step, is to allow ourselves to be guided by life.” Kute Blackson In this episode you’ll hear: Why Kute wrote The Magic of Surrender and what he learned about surrendering through watching his mother battle and succumb to cancer. (6:38) Stay open and curious when things don’t work out - that is the beauty of surrender. (14:57) How can one be an activist, act from a place of freedom, and still practice surrendering. (20:49) Giving up the need to know everything and embrace the unknown. (30:18) How you can begin to practice surrender. (34:01) Part of surrendering is showing up and believing that something bigger is possible for you. (43:06) http://andreaowen.com/390 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 19, 2021
Introducing: Make Some Noise (my next book!)
I am on cloud 9 this week because I am revealing the title of my third book, set to be released on August 31st, 2021. And while the book comes out in late August - the celebration starts now. 🎉 In this episode, I share some BTS (behind the scenes) about the title, as well as, read some excerpts from the book. I also share how you can claim book bonuses if you pre-order ( yes, you can pre-order now !), be a part of my upcoming book club (led by me), and win a signed copy of my previous books. I cannot wait to officially “birth” my next book baby into the world. Of course, they say not to personify your work because you end up holding it too close to your heart. But it's really hard not to do when it is a labor of love. I can't wait for you to read it and I’m grateful to be able to guide you on your path to making noise in your life. P.S. I would LOVE, love, love it if shared about my upcoming book! The easiest way is to re-share my social media posts. Thank you! http://andreaowen.com/389 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 12, 2021
Make Some Noise Coaching Session with Kylie
This week I have another coaching session episode. Kylie, a Canadian living in the Netherlands, joins me to explore procrastination around decision making, embracing your sense of adventure even when it’s scary, and where to turn for accountability and support. My goal for these coaching episodes is that you, along with Kylie, will leave the session with lots of tools in your toolbox to grow, flourish, and be your best self; be proud of the woman you are and take that leap. In this episode you’ll hear: Kylie opened up about her difficulty making decisions and sticking to them. (7:46) What would happen if you embraced the ‘throw caution to the wind’ side of you and lived in the moment? (12:01) Tapping into Kylie’s younger self and her perspective on risk-taking. (17:00) Some ways to get the creative ideas out, accountability, and support. (29:02) We explore what happens when we create standards that feel unattainable. Andrea says, “Never wait for perfection or confidence to fall into your lap…” (42:07) An action-taking update from Kylie. (50:38) http://andreaowen.com/388 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 05, 2021
Diet Culture and Reframing Your Body Image with Summer Innanen
This week I explore the topics of diet culture, body image, and intersectional feminism with guest, Summer Innanen. Summer is a professionally trained coach specializing in body image, self-worth, and confidence. She is the best-selling author of Body Image Remix and creator of You, On Fire – the online group coaching program dedicated to helping people get free from body shame and live life on their own terms. She is also the host of Eat The Rules, a podcast dedicated to anti-dieting, body image, and intersectional feminism. Personally, I succumbed to diet culture for decades and have been going through a process of unlearning all of the internalized messages that never served me. Extricating oneself from diet culture is a unique journey for every woman. To echo Summer’s words, “Acceptance is not a destination, it’s an ongoing practice of meeting yourself where you are at and where you need to be.” In this episode you’ll hear: A brief definition of diet culture and what it revolves around (various layers of oppression). (8:24) For women, worrying about body image is a universal condition and is rooted in internalized misogyny. (12:10) Summer talks about how the way to feel better in your body isn’t about “liking the way you look” and how this can make it harder for us to accept ourselves. (14:14) The importance of knowing the truth about weight science. (23:04) Summer’s response to the assumption that if you accept your body, you're "giving up" and not going to "take care of yourself". (25:27) We can reject diet culture and go on to do amazing things. (32:40) "Tools of avoidance," dieting and fixating on our bodies. (36:00) How diet culture is related to patriarchy and white supremacy. (48:09) http://andreaowen.com/387 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 28, 2021
Sacred Leadership and Embracing Your Shadow Side with Julie Parker
Julie Parker is back on the show! We jump right into the deep end and talk about embracing the parts of yourself you don’t necessarily like, aka your shadow side, and why anyone would want to love their fears. Julie Parker is the Founder of The Beautiful You Coaching Academy where she passionately trains heart-centered people to become life coaches. I had a list of questions prepared for Julie and we covered a few. However, when we recorded this conversation, it was in the midst of the Rachel Hollis debacle . So we veered off into a conversation about what it means to be a sacred leader and the role leadership plays within women empowerment and personal development. In this episode you’ll hear: Julie talks about “embracing your shadows,” the parts of us that we don’t necessarily like and holding us back and looking at these parts compassionately and learning from them. (9:22) The importance of keeping a level of curiosity and tapping into it. (13:51) How to love your fears and why someone would want to love them. (20:53) Julie’s experience with people-pleasing and how she came to an understanding about it. (21:18) You can’t talk or think out of the way the stories you make up. (28:52) Julie’s book Priestess and the topic of sacred leadership. (33:58) What it means to be a sacred leader and the role sacred leadership plays within women's empowerment and personal development. (36:31) http://andreaowen.com/386 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 21, 2021
How to Be a Boundary Boss with Terri Cole
Terri Cole is back on the show! Terri is a licensed psychotherapist and global leading expert in female empowerment. And, has experience in many topics, including codependency and boundaries. In this episode, she joins me to talk about boundaries and her new book, Boundary Boss: The Essential to Talk True, And (Finally) Live Free . Terri busts common myths about boundaries, as well as the beliefs bestowed on us of what a woman should be and how it plays into having disordered boundaries: “It is more important to be perceived as nice, then perceived as authentic.” According to Terri, that is a setup for a boundary disaster. In this episode you’ll hear: “You teach what you need to learn.” Why Terri decided to write a book about boundaries. (6:58) The art of drawing boundaries with ease and grace does not mean creating conflict. (9:50) Having a unique “Boundary Blueprint,” and common themes Terri sees in her work. (10:49) The biggest myths around setting and enforcing good boundaries. (15:09) How good boundaries can help enhance relationships. (19:09) How boundaries have been tested for people over the last year and how can we use this time to recalibrate. (35:00) A step you can take to stand in your boundary when someone is extremely unhappy with it. (42:30) http://yourkickasslife.com/385 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, April 15, 2021
Introducing MAKE SOME NOISE PODCAST w/ Andrea Owen
People evolve and change, right? Well, guess what...this podcast is evolving and changing too! Your Kick-Ass Life has been my baby since 2010, and the name of this podcast since 2013. Because a lot has transpired since that time, I felt it was time to make a change. In this episode, I wanted to share a little bit about what the new name, Make Some Noise , means and why I decided to make the shift. Making noise is about speaking up, shining bright, and asking for what you want. It’s about disrupting the narrative about the “box” of conformity we were all taught to fit into. It’s about taking action BEFORE you’re ready in order to build your confidence muscle. All of this and women’s empowerment is an act of rebellion; an act of making noise. Now for those of you a bit uncomfortable with change - things will mostly remain the same around here. I’ll continue to bring you interviews, coaching sessions, conversations about shit that matters with unqualified people, and occasional solo episodes. And here is a sneak peek of what is to come: 🎉 The title and cover reveal of my new book is coming in May. 🎉 A new special podcast series that is all about motivating you wherever you are in your life is coming in June. 🎉 And finally, beginning August 11th I’m doing a special series with a select group of women who come on the show to talk specifically about what it means to make some noise and how to do more of it. I want to leave you with a question to think about, today: How are you making noise in your life? Are you going after your goals and dreams? Are you looking at areas of your life you want to change? Are you setting boundaries? Choosing radical self-care? Disrupting systems of oppression? Interrupting things like misogyny and sexism? Using your voice by voting? The way you make noise in your life is yours, it’s unique to you, and I’m so happy to guide you in empowering yourself. Ready? Let’s go. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 14, 2021
Vulnerability and the Will to Change with Andrea J. Lee
This week I have one of the OG’s of the coaching industry on the show, Andrea J. Lee. Andrea joins me to discuss verbal abuse from the perspective of the abuser and being vulnerable enough to sit in that intensity in order to make a change. We also explore how to be bold and kind in a world full of injustice and misgivings. I am excited to share our conversation with you. Plus, after 8 years and almost 400 episodes, the podcast is getting a new name! The unveiling is coming tomorrow. So keep an eye on the podcast feed for the official announcement. 🎉 In this episode you’ll hear: Andrea J. Lee explains what she means when she describes herself as a futurist with her finger on the pulse of the human spirit. She also explains her experience as “A Canadian-born Taiwanese, cis-gender woman (she/her) who has been brought up with white privilege inside the model minority myth.” (6:06) Andrea J. Lee offers a different perspective on emotional abuse through her digital newsletter - how do you not become the thing you suffered and not become an oppressor yourself. (10:15) How Andrea J. Lee realized she was being verbally abusive to her husband and why she decided to share publically about her experience. (17:35) Being vulnerable and why vulnerability might be held against someone. (19:57) If we are not willing to fully experience the pain we are going through, if we can’t sit in that intensity, we are not going to make a change. (28:53) “It’s possible to be fierce, outraged, bold, and go for your goals while also being kind.” Andrea J. Lee shares some ways to do this when you see injustices happening that anger you. (35:35) http://yourkickasslife.com/383 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, April 09, 2021
Bonus Episode 382.5: My thoughts on Rachel Hollis and women’s empowerment
You may or may not have seen the latest incident on social media from mega influencer, Rachel Hollis. I made a video talking about my thoughts; mostly because this is an important piece of the women’s empowerment industry. If you’re unaware of what happened, there are links below, and I highly encourage you to watch the links posted, as there are women who’ve broken down why her actions are so harmful. You can either watch the video or listen to the podcast episode. *Please note that in the podcast episode, I do give a few minutes of my additional thoughts. Watch the video here: https://yourkickasslife.com/empowering-women/my-thoughts-on-rachel-hollis-and-womens-empowerment/ Important links: The video I’m referencing Trudi Lebron on RH, Leadership, and What We’re Really Doing: live podcast Jam Gamble on Instagram Austin Channing Brown on the problem with white feminism Weeze Doran on Instagram Hood Feminism by Mikki Kendall Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 07, 2021
Asking for What You Want and Betting on Yourself with Melissa
Coaching sessions are back! This week I am coaching Melissa, a production company owner from Southern California, about boundaries within her personal and professional life, as well as, knowing clearly what she wants and asking for it. If you are new to the coaching episode format, my style is a mix between traditional coaching and intuitive consulting. And yes, more coaching session episodes will be coming. Also, keep an eye out for some changes on the podcast too. Don’t worry, I am not going anywhere! But, the show is getting a new name and some other fun adjustments. Announcements will be coming next week! In this episode you’ll hear: Clearly knowing what you want and asking for it. (6:48) Establishing boundaries at work and at home, and enforcing them. (8:35) Betting on yourself and not waiting for confidence to move forward. (24:15) Determining what you will or won’t tolerate in relationships. (31:36) A kick-ass update from Melissa, plus some of her biggest takeaways from our coaching session. (43:16) http://yourkickasslife.com/382 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 31, 2021
CASTMWUP: Andrea Owen and Amy E. Smith talk about Mental Health, Getting Support, and Friendship
Joining me to discuss mental health, as well as, my journey through somatic therapy is my dearest friend, Amy Smith. This isn’t an expert-on-expert episode; instead, it’s two friends talking about a topic from a place of curiosity. Here’s some background as to why I wanted to bring you this episode: Last week, Mia Hemstad joined me on the podcast (episode 380). She vulnerably shared the story of her suicidal ideation and major depressive disorder. And, I shared a little bit about my journey too. I wanted to share more of my story, so I decided, this week, to bring you a Conversation About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People. In this episode you’ll hear: My breaking point - what led me to a point of complete anxiety and terror. (7:16) About my FaceTime call to Amy, where I opened up about thoughts of suicide ideation. (7:31) How having a friend there to listen, comforted me. (17:03) Amy’s experience being on the other end of that phone call and how she was able to compartmentalize what was happening. (18:23) My somatic therapy journey and how it helped me work through trauma. (26:24) Some thoughts about being supportive to a friend going through a mental crisis. (49:14) http://yourkickasslife.com/381 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 24, 2021
The intersection between mental health and social justice with Mia Hemstad
This week Mia Hemstad, mental health advocate and social justice activist, joins me for a discussion about major depressive disorder, the intersection between mental health and politics, and how women can make themselves a priority by doing one small thing a day. Mia and I had recorded this episode several months ago. I was waiting to release it for various reasons (which I share in this episode). Like many, I saw the recent interview with Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, where Meghan shared her story of suicide ideation. During my conversation with Mia, she shared her own story of suicide ideation, as did I. Therefore, I felt it was important to share this episode now. It’s relevant and after the year we’ve experienced, an important one to discuss. I hope this episode is helpful to you. How Mia became a mental health advocate and social justice activist out of necessity. “Mental health and politics are connected.” (6:34) How women can make themselves a priority by doing one small thing a day to nourish themselves. And, a reminder from Mia that, “Healing is not a checklist.” (15:56) Mia’s major depressive disorder and suicidal ideation story.(26:48) How to handle overwhelming emotions. (46:32) http://yourkickasslife.com/380 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 17, 2021
The Power of Legacy with Chelsea Stevenson
What do henna, legacy, and living unapologetically all have in common? They are just some of the facets that make up Chelsea Stevenson’s work. Chelsea joins me this week for a conversation about the power in legacy. Chelsea is a professional henna artist, business strategist, and homeschooling mother of three. During our time together, we discussed a variety of topics including her motivation for building a table rather than taking a seat at an existing one, and honoring your values. She offered poignant takeaways, including this one, “The decisions we make, the actions we take, and the words we say are powerful. And, we have to own how they impact the world around us.” In this episode you’ll hear: A brief history of henna and its use as a medium to create art. (4:47) Why Chelsea’s motivation is to build her own table instead of taking a seat at a table that already exists. (7:26) The power in the legacy we leave and why it is important. (8:23) Living unapologetically and honoring your values. (21:58) How Chelsea went from a social worker to a Hennapreneur. (26:56) Struggling with negative self-talk and negativity bias. (33:05) Steps to stand in your authority and position yourself as the artist/entrepreneur/changemaker you want to be in this world. (36:55) http://yourkickasslife.com/379 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 10, 2021
Imposter Complex and Taking Bold Action with Amy Ahlers
🎉✍ Join Amy Ahlers and I live on Wednesday, March 16th, for a free writing workshop: Top 10 Kick-Ass Tips to Get Your Writing Project Started and Complete . If you want to write a book, self-publish one, go the traditional route of publishing, or are simply curious about what it takes to launch your next writing project, join us. For all the details and to register, go here . We hope to see you on the 16th! ✍ 🎉 Speaking of Amy Ahlers, she returns to the show this week to talk about the imposter complex and the inner-critic. Plus, we share some of the ways our inner-mean girl shows up during the creation of our writing projects and some of the strategies we employ to calm her down. Amy is a Master Women’s Leadership and Life Coach, keynote speaker, and best-selling author. She is on a mission to stop women from self-bullying and being hard on themselves so they can make their greatest possible contribution. Enjoy our conversation! In this episode you’ll hear: How imposter complex shows up for women who want to start something new or complete a big project. (3:56) Some ways in which we handle our own imposter complex, including how we change the narrative. (6:39) Experiencing upper limit problems and how we deal. (10:13) Amy answers the question, “Is writing a book for everyone?” (23:30) What we love and do not love about writing. (27:33) http://yourkickasslife.com/378 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 03, 2021
Worthiness, Guilt, and Emotional Regulation with Heather Chauvin
Heather Chauvin is back on the show! Our conversation answers the question, “What is worth your time and energy?” Heather is a leadership coach who helps ambitious, overwhelmed women conquer their fears and become leaders at work and home. She is also the author of the book, Dying to Be a Good Mother . We examine what is truly worthy of your time, discuss emotional regulation and Heather’s Red/Yellow/Green zone methodology. Finally, we explore the topic of managing your energy and surrendering to guilt. “You’ve got to feel the discomfort in order to feel the good stuff.” ~ Heather Chauvin In this episode you’ll hear: How Heather’s grandmother inspired her ‘shit or get off the pot’ moment, and led her to write her first book, Dying to Be a Good Mother. (9:52) Heather shares her Stage-4 Cancer diagnosis journey. (10:27) The “million-dollar minute” concept. “If every sixty seconds of your life is worth one million dollars - are you satisfied with your investment?” (22:23) The Red, Yellow, and Green Zones and how they can be used in your life and at work. (28:30) Energetic time management is reverse engineering of how you want to feel. (33:31) A conversation about guilt: “Who benefits from you feeling guilty?” (36:04) http://yourkickasslife.com/377 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 24, 2021
Disappointments, Transformation, and Productivity with Sam Bennett
I have one of my favorite people back on the show, Samantha Bennett! Sam is an artist, writer, poet, actress, and creativity/productivity, specialist. She is also a dear friend. She re-joins me to talk about a variety of personal development topics, including friendships, the concept of re-parenting yourself, and how to handle disappointment. Sam is the creator of The Organized Artist Company, dedicated to helping tens of thousands of creative people get unstuck, helping them to focus and move forward on their goals. This episode is very much a ‘greatest hits’ compilation between Sam and me. We hope you enjoy it! In this episode you’ll hear: Handling life’s disappointments and giving yourself grace. “Disappointment is taking score too soon.” (10:40) Some helpful strategies for re-parenting yourself. (15:59) Sam helps us to think about productivity in a different way. (19:13) Nothing is more important than your transformation. (31:46) The one thing that determines the quality of your life. (35:44) http://yourkickasslife.com/376 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 17, 2021
The Accidental Alpha Woman with Karen Wright
Have you ever been in a situation where you had to be something you didn’t intend to be? Maybe it was taking care of aging parents, or you were thrust into single-motherhood. That is what this week’s guest refers to as an Accidental Alpha Woman . Author and Master Certified Coach, Karen Wright, joins me to talk about being the accidental alpha woman, how to reconnect with the real you, and create a life that has more ease. We also discuss what it means to be strong as a woman, dealing with judgment, and not making yourself small at the expense of others' comfort. I hope you enjoy our conversation. In this episode you’ll hear: How Karen’s personal experience inspired her to write, “The Accidental Alpha Woman,” plus she explains what an Accidental Alpha Woman is. (4:16) The importance of identifying your values and how that can help define what is important to you in a relationship. (11:00) The reason women feel the need to “carry the world on their shoulders” and be strong. (12:09) How to reconnect with the real “you” and create a life that has greater community, ease, and fun using the R.E.C.E.I.V.E framework. (25:22) Why it’s important for women to find their voice. (28:33) Internalized misogyny and the alpha woman. (33:52) Book Giveaway! We are giving away two copies of Karen Wright’s book, Accidental Alpha Woman . Listen to this episode for all the details! http://yourkickasslife.com/375 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 10, 2021
Burnout and Asking for Help with Joanna Denton
I’ve talked about burnout many times on this podcast and I’m no stranger to it. In fact, in 2020, I took an 8-month break from Instagram partly due to burnout. So I wanted to have an expert on to talk specifically about this topic. Joining me to explore this widespread issue is two-time TEDx speaker, Joanna Denton. In 2014, after two burnouts in five years, Joanna decided to leave the tax world behind and change her life completely. Today, she's a speaking and executive coach for thought leaders, business executives, and entrepreneurs. Burnout is something many women struggle with - no matter their life’s circumstances and is more prevalent than we actually think. Together, Joanna and I discuss the different phases of burnout, the lessons Joanna learned from her journey back from it, and how to ask for help when you are feeling mentally or physically burnt out. Why it is so difficult for leaders to talk about burnout, and what can we do to make it easier. (6:20) The difference between depression and burnout. (8:00) Joanna’s burnout journey and how her life improved as a result of her burnouts. (12:18) The biggest lessons Joanna learned during her journey back from burnout. (17:22) Joanna’s book “The Different Truth", what the title means and how it encourages readers to start a conversation about choices and step into a new truth. (37:08) Asking for help and being vulnerable. (45:47) http://yourkickasslife.com/374 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 03, 2021
How to Embrace Your “Too Muchness” with Leslie Lyons
Why are women perceived (or misunderstood) as angry? And, what can we do about it? That's just one of the many topics covered during my conversation with Leslie Lyons. Leslie is Founder of Bombshell Movement Studio in Chicago (a sensual movement studio), host of the Beyond the Pole: Tales from the CEO podcast, and a sales and leadership coach for female entrepreneurs. Together we also discuss embracing your “too muchness,” using your quiet strength to speak up, and exploring women’s empowerment in some nontraditional ways. We also have a very candid conversation about Christianity. “The work of feminism, at the heart of it is liberation, and liberation starts with using your voice.” Leslie Lyons In this episode you’ll hear: Leslie’s personal story of how she came to her work as a leadership coach and owner of a sensual movement studio in Chicago. Anger’s purpose and why women are perceived (and misunderstood) as angry and what we can do about it. How a woman can embrace her ‘too-muchness’ “You weren’t put on this Earth to blend into the background.” Unshakeable leadership - what it is and some ways women can harness it. We discuss Christianity, self-awareness, and how our spirituality evolved over time. http://yourkickasslife.com/373 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 27, 2021
How to Be Resilient In Tough Times with Fawn Germer
Hard conversations, resilience, and boundaries are some of the cornerstones of personal development. And , they happen to be some of the topics covered during this week’s show. Joining me to discuss all things personal development is my guest (and dear friend), Fawn Germer. Fawn is the best-selling author of nine books, including an Oprah Book. She is one of America's top women's leadership speakers and is the top-ranked woman on the prestigious Global Guru's List of best leadership and motivational speakers worldwide. Together we discuss enduring great loss, coping with grief, and why boundaries are essential. When I think of one word to sum up our conversation, it is resilience. As Fawn so perfectly stated, “Every shitstorm ends.” And as her mother once told her, “It doesn’t matter what happens to you, it matters what you do with it.” 🚨 Book Giveaway! 🚨 Tune in to hear how you can win a free copy of Fawn’s latest book, Coming Back! How to Win the Job You Want When You've Lost the Job You Need. In this episode you’ll hear: How a Google search which included the words, “Life Coach + Bullshit,” led to our long-lasting friendship. (4:32) Why Fawn dislikes motivational speakers, even though she is one! Plus, her journey to becoming a motivational speaker and author. (7:00) How Fawn endured a year of extreme loss - and why she says, “Every shitstorm ends.” (23:14) The fastest way to stop a downward spiral. (28:01) Uncomfortable conversations and how to make peace with them. (33:04) http://yourkickasslife.com/372 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 20, 2021
The Interconnection Between Race and Women’s Empowerment with Laura Cathcart Robbins
Laura Cathcart Robbins is back on the show this week! She joins me for an essential conversation about racism, how the lack of conversations about race can be scarring for children, and the pain and trauma of race relations between black and white women. Laura is a freelance culture writer and host of the popular podcast, The Only One In The Room . I am thrilled to have her back on the show! And just to be clear: If we are going to make the world a better place and make ourselves better humans, we must continue to have conversations about race and do the work. Because when we are talking about women’s empowerment, we’re talking about feminism, and when we’re talking about feminism, we’re talking about patriarchy; and when we’re talking about patriarchy, we’re talking about white supremacy. It’s all connected. In this episode you’ll hear: What white parents should be teaching their children about racism. (5:06) Why black women find it hard to trust white women. “Some of us are dealing with unprecedented grief. We are broken with pain and unvalidated anger.”(20:12) Laura offers an intimate glimpse into her interracial relationship and how the murders of George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, and Ahmaud Arbery affected it. (36:10) http://yourkickasslife.com/371 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 13, 2021
Perfectionism, Courage, and Personal Power with Martina Barnes
Happy Wednesday! It’s been a full week since we watched or listened in horror as rioters breached the U.S. Capitol. In this episode, I have a quick chat (before our interview) with Jessica Sharp, my personal friend, and DEI consultant . As I’ve conveyed before, personal development and social justice work are directly connected, so Jessica and I discuss our thoughts on, “This isn’t who we are” (referring to the U.S.) and more. Switching gears, when it comes to personal development and behaviors like perfectionism, people-pleasing, and over-achieving - the goal isn’t eradicating them. Instead, it’s recognizing when these behaviors jump into the driver’s seat and learning to draw on tools to help maneuver the road ahead. This week, Martina Barnes joins me to talk about these behaviors, how to recognize when they are taking over our “life bus,” and how to harness your reliable personal power. Martina G. Barnes is an experienced psychotherapist, life fulfillment coach, and master intuitive who helps high-achieving women transform the areas in their lives where they lack reliable personal power. She teaches women practical ways to shift how they show up for themselves and express Reliable Personal Power in every area of their lives. In this episode you’ll hear: Recognizing that personal development work and social justice work are interwoven. (5:16) Common default behaviors women struggle with such as perfectionism, control, and people-pleasing and how Martina applies those behaviors to what she calls the “Life Bus” analogy. (20:00) What blocks high-achieving women from having Reliable Personal Power. (25:20) Not wanting to be perceived a certain way (ie: a bitch or aggressive, when standing up for yourself). (27:25) Opening ourselves to deeper intimacy and friendships - courage brings so many beautiful rewards. (34:10) How trauma impacts connection to your intuition. (42:16) http://yourkickasslife.com/370 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 06, 2021
Self-Help, Goals, and Productivity with Charlie Gilkey
Last year was a year where many had a lot to carry. As we enter 2021, all of that heaviness won’t magically go away. But, as the new year approached I got to thinking about the new year and goals. I wanted to talk about it, but not in the usual ‘’ Let's talk about goals, yahoo! ” kind of way. So, Charlie Gilkey is back on the show! He offers a unique perspective on self-help, goals, and productivity. Charlie helps people start finishing the stuff that matters. He's the founder of Productive Flourishing, author of the book Start Finishing (2019) and The Small Business Lifecycle (2012) , and host of the Productive Flourishing podcast. In this episode you’ll hear: As we step into a new year, Charlie offers some ways you can be more present in your life. (7:35) How and why you should identify your genius when it comes to tackling goals. Plus, why you should pay attention to the linguistics you use around your goals. (13:18) How supporters, a support system, or a success pack can help you move forward with intention. (17:39) Three strategies for tackling your plans and goals in order to finish strong. (40:48) http://yourkickasslife.com/369 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 23, 2020
Discipline, Confidence, and Mental Toughness with Dre Baldwin
There are many facets of personal development that can stand to adopt a level of discipline, similar to the discipline required by professional athletes. My guest, Dre Baldwin, is a former professional basketball player who built a publishing empire and authored an impressive 27 books. He has an interesting perspective on discipline, which is the focal point of this week’s episode. As someone who mildly recoils at the word discipline, I was fascinated and eager for my conversation with Dre. When I think about a goal I want to achieve (whether it’s personal or professional), I make a mental list of all the things I need to do in order to complete the goal. And sometimes, y’all, just the idea of the discipline needed to succeed, it’s exhausting.Dre and I explore many areas of discipline, from how it affects success, how it helps to create confidence and builds mental toughness for everyday life. In this episode you’ll hear: The four pillars of Dre’s "Work On Your Game" philosophy and how you can use it in your everyday life. (9:13) Why discipline is an important aspect of success. (11:02) How discipline creates confidence. (18:34) Creating mental toughness for business and life. (24:46) Taking personal initiative for your career and business: information is great, but you need to take initiative and do something with it. (34:05) The energy you put out is the energy you get back. (37:02) http://yourkickasslife.com/368 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 16, 2020
The Only One In The Room with Laura Cathcart Robbins
It’s no secret we are living in complicated times. Sometimes going back to the basics to focus on the present can be incredibly helpful. This week, Laura Cathcart Robbins, speaker, and host of the podcast, The Only One In The Room, joins me to talk about turning shitty situations into amazing opportunities. Laura went viral when she wrote an article about being the only Black woman in the room at an Elizabeth Gilbert and Cheryl Strayed writing event. She has been active for many years as a speaker and school trustee and is credited for creating The Buckley School’s nationally recognized committee on Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion. Together we discussed her experience being ‘othered’, as well as, how sharing that experience encouraged people from all ethnicities, races, genders, and abilities to speak out and feel connected with one another. She also offered a transparent look into her life as a mother and addict, going into treatment, wrestling with shame, and how she is coping today. She is a true wordsmith in both her writing and in her speaking. I hope you enjoy our conversation. In this episode you’ll hear: Laura shares her experience as the only one in the room at a retreat hosted by Liz Gilbert and Cheryl Strayed. (5:00) How the retreats changed after Laura’s article went viral and some of the lessons she learned from the entire experience. (11:25) Laura talks openly about being a mom in recovery from addiction. (22:08) Words of encouragement for living in these trying times. (42:25) http://yourkickasslife.com/367 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 09, 2020
Understanding Grief with Christina Rasmussen
We’ve all experienced some form of grief over the last several months; grieving our life before COVID, people we’ve lost and more. Joining me for a deep and transformative conversation about grief is acclaimed grief educator, Christina Rasmussen. Christina is also the author of Second Firsts and Where Did You Go? and host of The Dear Life Podcast. In this episode you’ll hear: Christina describes grief as a catalyst for redefining entry. She shares about her philosophy on grief and the process of reentry or returning to life. (5:13) Invisible losses: any experience that broke your heart and how they dictate the narrative of your life. (10:39) Grief, COVID-19, and being triggered by invisible losses. (20:43) How to know when you are ready to do life reentry work. (24:48) Does reentry or returning to life mean you won’t experience waves of grief? (26:58) The phases of reentry or returning to life. (36:47) http://yourkickasslife.com/366 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 02, 2020
Hypnotherapy and Your Subconscious Mind with Amy E. Smith
Over the last few months, I’ve been exploring various personal development modalities with my guests. Another area that has been of interest to me is hypnotherapy. To explore this topic and discuss how we can utilize hypnotherapy to transform our subconscious mind is my bestie, Amy E. Smith. Amy is a certified and credentialed confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. She is also a certified hypnotherapist who aids hundreds of women in stepping into their authentic power and craft the lives they desire. Together we discuss various methods that can help you analyze and address the state of your subconscious mind, including emotional freedom technique (EFT), dreams and what they mean, as well as what your handwriting can tell you. In this episode you’ll hear: From a lay person’s perspective, Amy describes hypnotherapy. (12:38) How the conscious and subconscious work and what it has to do with the inner critic. (19:35) EFT: what it is and how it can help. (26:03) Handwriting analysis and what it has to do with the subconscious. Plus, how Amy uses this modality in her work. (27:59) How analyzing your dreams can help you solve problems. (37:58) http://yourkickasslife.com/365 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 25, 2020
Internal Family Systems with Rebecca Ching
There are multiple ways to heal, and you know I love to give you many avenues. This week we are exploring the topic of internal family systems and how this modality can be a powerful lens of healing. Rebecca Ching, our unofficial resident therapist returns to the show to help us understand more about this type of healing. Rebecca is a psychotherapist, trauma-informed leadership coach, and host of the Unburdened Leader podcast. She helps established leaders, entrepreneurs and business owners navigate the curveballs of life + leadership without sacrificing their health, important relationships, and their business bottom line. In this episode you’ll hear: Rebecca shared an in-depth explanation of internal family systems (IFS). (4:47) There are many ways to heal and staying curious about the various methods.(19:04) With IFS all parts are welcome. No judgment. (27:00) Trusting your practitioner and how to break away from a clinician you no longer trust. (30:31) How someone might resolve a common conflict using IFS. (38:40) This is a lifelong practice, it’s not one and done. (47:56) http://yourkickasslife.com/364 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 18, 2020
A Deep Dive Into Human Design with Erin Claire Jones
How can you have more tools to become the best version of yourself? Well, today we are going to find out how Human Design can help you get there. Erin Claire Jones is a guide, coach, and speaker who uses Human Design to help thousands of individuals and companies step into their work and their lives as their truest selves and to their highest potential. Human Design was a new topic to me and I had so many questions for Erin! Together, we explored the different Human Design types, ways of making decisions, strategies, and more. Erin even read my Human Design chart and shared some specific insight into my true self. She provided practical tools and suggestions so you can integrate them into your own life too, plus how you can learn about your own Human Design. In this episode you’ll hear: Erin describes Human Design and how understanding your design gives you permission to be who you are. (4:12) Human Design can help you in your day-to-day life, Erin explains how. (8:33) The five different types of Human Design. (11:07) The different ways of making decisions using your inner authority. (21:58) Using Human Design as a tool for high performance and understanding what aspects of your design are getting you off track. (26:53) Some strategies to help overcome dark spots or shadows in your life. (28:43) How women can use Human Design to make full-bodied choices. (37:30) http://yourkickasslife.com/363 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 11, 2020
How Energy Work Can Help You Heal from Trauma with Lara Riggio
Are you a woman who has trouble listening to their intuition and has unresolved trauma? This week, Lara Riggio joins me to discuss using energy work to heal from trauma. She says that moving these emotions through the body is key and explains how energy healing versus talk therapy can help. Lara is an Energy Intuitive. Her videos, classes, and sessions have helped tens of thousands discover and heal the mind/body, ancestral, and past life blocks that sabotage health and happiness. Enjoy our conversation. In this episode, you’ll hear: I start the episode off by sharing the strategies I use to combat anxiety thought-spirals. (2:39) How Lara helps clients create a safe space to work through unresolved trauma. (10:38) Using energy healing to address trauma and how it helps you to retrain your reaction to it. (13:29) Some tell-tale signs someone needs to seek out a trauma therapist. (19:45) Reprogramming your response to triggers. Being present to the feelings you are feeling and teaching yourself to keep yourself safe. (34:16) What is happening biologically when you are triggered. (29:40) Making decisions with greater clarity during times of anxiety. (37:59) http://yourkickasslife.com/362 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 04, 2020
Ancestral Healing with Ash Johns
Ancestors and ancestral healing is a topic I’ve been really curious about lately. And with many topics that pique my interest, I found an expert to bring onto the show to discuss it further. This week, Ash Johns, an international spiritual life coach, and ancestral healer, joins me to discuss ancestral healing, an interesting aspect of personal development. Ash Johns is also a conscious business strategist, speaker, and creator of Creating Queendoms ™, a holistic healing and business development program for visionary femm-preneurs and healers ready to create (or nurture) empires in alignment with their soul's purpose, contribute to healing the world and cultivate generational wealth through their deepest dreams and desires. Ash starts off with an intention setting practice and then explains how she came to be a spiritual life coach and ancestral healer. (10:02) Ancestral healing and why is it important to our lives. (20:00) The role of a Psychosynthesis Coach and how Ash approaches the work she does. (23:56) The intersection between courage and compassion with your ancestry. (35:00) Some considerations before choosing a spiritual life coach or healer. (37:40) Small steps a woman can take towards their own ancestral healing. (43:52) Energy channeling and clearing - what is it and how it helps. (46:20) Ash’s thoughts on the spirituality of witchcraft. (50:00) http://yourkickasslife.com/361 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 28, 2020
Finding Joy and Clarity Through Life’s Transitions with Liza Harper
Finding joy when a difficult relationship ends is possible. This week, Liza Harper, a life redesigner, joins me to talk about finding joy and clarity through relationships and life’s transitions. She’s a life and divorce coach who seeks to empower women to unleash their desires. We discuss some ways you can infuse joy into your life. Liza opens up about the personal development work she did for herself and how it led her to do the work she does today. Plus, we explored fear, shame, and stigma surrounding failing relationships. In this episode you’ll hear: How Liza helps her clients find joy in the next chapter of their lives. (5:02) Why it always works out when you bet on yourself. (14:42) Ignoring your intuition during a difficult past relationship. (26:02) Fear and shame women may experience following a relationship with a narcissist. (35:04) http://yourkickasslife.com/360 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 21, 2020
Tough Conversations 101 with Alexandra Jamieson
It’s no secret that this year has been challenging and many have been put into situations where they need to have tough conversations. In fact, many problems can be solved when two people can have a thoughtful, mature, and healthy conversation. Yet, having tough conversations or simple communication was never taught to most of us in school; we don’t know how to do it. This week, Alexandra Jamieson returns to the podcast to discuss how to have game-changing conversations. Alexandra is the co-author of Radical Alignment , a book about how to have tough conversations at work and at home. In this episode, Alex helps us learn the steps needed to show up as your best self, regardless of how the conversation turns out. How a communication workshop for couples inspired Alex and her husband, Bob, to write their book, Radical Alignment. (22:00) How we fall into traps of bad communication. (10:00) Why the common culprit in miscommunication is the missing conversation. (18:16) You can create team psychological safety with equal speaking time. (25:00) The 4 steps in the All-In Method, including declaring the topic of conversation. (24:27) How to invite someone to an emotional or high-stakes conversation. (40:00) http://yourkickasslife.com/359 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 14, 2020
Healing from Narcissistic and Traumatic Relationships with Britt Frank
“Narcissism” seems to be a buzzword these days and I wanted to have an expert on who can give us the low-down. According to trauma therapist, Britt Frank, everyone has shades of narcissism. She goes on to say that high-level narcissism is an addiction to self-protection by any means necessary. And for those who have experienced a relationship with a narcissist, it is a traumatic experience. In this week’s episode, Britt joins me to discuss how to heal from traumatic relationships, including those in which narcissistic abuse is present. Britt is also a teacher and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." In this episode you’ll hear: What is a narcissist and how does someone know they may be in a relationship with someone who is a narcissist? (6:33) Britt’s goal is “dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK”. She shares what she means by that. (13:34) Dealing with trauma: Some signs or patterns which signal someone should deal with their trauma. (16:07) Why someone may get physically addicted to their narcissist and experience withdrawals. (22:27) How someone can begin to heal from a narcissistic relationship. (27:03) Mother wounds and grieving our childhoods (the things we didn’t get) or other parts of our lives. (31:04) How COVID has affected Britt’s work, including the collective processing of COVID trauma. (38:13) http://yourkickasslife.com/358 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 07, 2020
Rebecca Ching Interviews Andrea Owen About Grief, Addiction, and Recovery
I am doing something I have never done in any podcast episode. For the first time, I am bringing you an interview I did on another podcast, where someone interviewed me. My dear friend Rebecca Ching has a podcast called The Unburdened Leader. It was such a fantastic conversation and I am so grateful that she said, “Yes,” when I asked her if I could air it for my listeners. We talked about a lot of hard things, including grief and addiction. On 9/27, I celebrated nine years of sobriety and recovery from alcoholism. It is something we talked about in this particular episode. I share how commitment to my values helped me maintain my continued healing and sobriety and how grief nearly brought me out of recovery. In this episode you’ll hear: My addiction to alcohol and what it symbolized. Why I needed to understand and heal my traumas in order to fully unburden the last of my addictions. Perfection, control, and overachieving worked until it didn’t. Drinking worked for a while until it didn’t. The role community plays in my sobriety. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 30, 2020
Episode 356: What is Love Addiction? With Dr. Alexandra Katehakis
Dr. Alexandra Katehakis is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Founder of Center for Healthy Sex and she joins me to discuss the topic of healing from love addiction. While love addiction may not be something affecting your life where you need to seek treatment, it could be something to look at in terms of some unhealthy coping mechanisms affecting your life. We discuss what love addiction is, the root cause (which stems from father abandonment), and what the steps to healing look like. Dr. Alex offers amazing insight and advice about what it means to be a love addict and how to step into recovery. I hope this episode is helpful to you, in some way. In this episode you’ll hear: What is love addiction? And how it differs between men and women. (5:59) Women struggle with a concept called ‘mother hunger’ and therefore it is crucial for women to find support from other women in order to heal from sex or love addiction. (12:33) The root cause of love addiction. (14:45) There comes a point when we realize we are hurting ourselves, plus why going into the pain (withdrawal) is how we can heal. (18:22) What sobriety looks like for love addicts and some of the first steps someone can take to heal. (22:03) How to assert healthy boundaries for more equal relationships. (35:11) http://yourkickasslife.com/356 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 23, 2020
CASTMWUP with Andrea and Liz on Aging and Mental Health
This September is the 10th year anniversary of Your Kick-Ass Life! Over the years, the YKAL team has evolved and grown. In this episode, Liz Applegate, our lead coach here at YKAL, joins me for a conversation about shit that matters. We are talking about aging, perimenopause, and depression. One of the reasons I wanted to have a conversation about these topics was to shine a light on some of the ways they can show up in one’s life, especially in 2020, and the curveball we’ve been thrown this year. In this episode you’ll hear: Liz shares her history with depression and antidepressants and how she gave herself permission to seek mental health help. (8:30) I share my experience of how a discussion with my therapist about burnout turned into one about high functioning depression. (19:33) Our thoughts and feelings (and struggle) on being middle-aged. (22:08) What we think about navigating perimenopause. (34:25) http://yourkickasslife.com/355 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 16, 2020
Episode 354: Happiness Habits with Kim Strobel
Happiness . It’s 2020 and I have a feeling that many of us could use a dose of that. Right ? Well, you’re in luck because Kim Strobel, happiness coach, joins me to talk about how to be happier. Happiness isn’t always born from unicorns and rainbows. In fact, you’ll hear how Kim’s happiness coaching was born out of her own trauma, darkness, and suffering. Together we discuss toxic positivity, why turning off negative feelings isn’t helpful, and the importance of putting your happiness first. Kim also shares some of the happiness habits we can practice in order to increase happiness levels. Finally, we also explore the Arena of Bigness, what it means, and how to step into the Arena with courage and do really hard things. In this episode you’ll hear: Kim opens up about her struggle with mental illness and what that looks like in her life now. (5:20) Why today’s culture of positivity and the conventional formula for happiness is wrong. (21:30) Putting your happiness and wellbeing at the forefront is of the utmost importance. (23:54) We all have a set baseline happiness default. Kim talks about how we can work to retrain the brain to feel happy even when struggling through tough times. (26:47) How somebody who feels as though they are living a small life can step out of that and into the Arena of Bigness. (42:08) http://yourkickasslife.com/354 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 09, 2020
How to Be Resilient in Times of Uncertainty with Dr. Andrea Pennington
This week on the YKAL podcast we’re talking about resilience and intuition. To help me unpack this topic is my guest, Dr. Andrea Pennington. She is an integrative physician, acupuncturist, meditation teacher, #1 international bestselling author, and TEDx speaker. Together Dr. Andrea and I discuss what it means to be resilient, how tolerating stress is not the same thing as being resilient, and how self-care plays a key role in resilience. Plus, she shares what it means to learn who you really are, how to share your personal story, and listening to your intuition. In this episode you’ll hear: Dr. Andrea shares her story of debilitating imposter syndrome and how it led her to do the work she is doing today. (9:18) What it means to be resilient and some traits of resilient people. (11:30) Tolerating stress is not the same as being resilient. (14:20) In order to embrace who you are, you must first need to learn who you are. (17:49) Dr. Andrea shares about her own struggle with depression and how music has been such an influence and help. (24:09) The power in sharing your personal story and how you can start sharing yours. (36:01) http://yourkickasslife.com/353 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 02, 2020
What Holds Women Back in the Workplace with Sara Laschever
Are you a woman who struggles with asking for what you want at work? This week we are talking about some of the things that hold women back in the workplace with guest, Sara Laschever! Sara is an authority on the challenges that shape women’s lives at work. She is the co-author, with Linda Babcock, of Women Don’t Ask , the groundbreaking study that first focused public attention on the forces preventing women from negotiating on their own behalf. I stumbled upon Sara’s work while doing research for my third book and I was fascinated. I am thrilled to have her on the show! In this episode you’ll hear: Some common obstacles women confront in the workplace and some ways in which they can overcome them. (5:35) The impact of subconscious biases on women in the workplace. (13:07) Direct or controlling behavior in men at work will often go unremarked, yet with women, we tend to mark it. (18:12) Some ways in which women can go through the process of evaluating their talents and target what will make their personal and professional lives more fulfilling. (19:31) Why most women find it hard to negotiate their salaries or ask for the things they want. Plus, some small steps they can take towards asking for what they really want.(22:22) Has the culture of work changed? I asked Sara if the struggle with negotiations is more of a Baby Boomer, Gen X, Millennial, or Gen Z generation problem? Listen in to hear her answer. (30:59) http://yourkickasslife.com/352 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 26, 2020
A Journey to Healing Deep with Christine Gutierrez
When it comes to personal development, positivity and cheering people on is great. And …if we really want to support and love women, we have to also make room for the difficult stuff, for the traumas and the “shadow side”. That is where this week’s guest, Christine Gutierrez’s work really comes in. Christine returns to the YKAL podcast and together we discuss honoring your pain, going to the darkness in order to get to the light and living in a world where your light side and dark side can co-exist. Christine is a Latina licensed psychotherapist, life coach and expert in love addiction, trauma, abuse, and self- esteem. She is the author of the upcoming book, I am Diosa: A Journey to Healing Deep, Loving Yourself, and Coming Back to Your Soul. I hope you enjoy our conversation. Who is Diosa and what being Diosa is all about. (4:06) Christine’s book is broken up into three parts: The darkness, the light and the integration. She explains why she chose to write it in this way. (9:34) Why it is important to explore your emotional triggers. (14:26) How to know if you’ve experienced trauma. (16:03) Repairing your intuition after trauma and how to heal. (20:00) Why Christine walks people through a meditation journey to help them visualize their first memories of anger or sadness. (27:38) http://yourkickasslife.com/351 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 19, 2020
Emotional Cleansing with Sherianna Boyle
This week on the show we are talking about emotions, which my guest, Sherianna Boyle, has a specific methodology to work through them. I was “emotionally illiterate” for a really long time, which led to lots of numbing out, so I love learning different tools to process them! Sherianna Boyle is an international Emotional Detox Coach®, author of eight books, including her most recent Emotional Detox and Emotional Detox for Anxiety. Emotions are so much to carry sometimes. But as Sherianna said during our time together, “Emotions are not the problem, it’s our reaction to them.” She helps us understand emotions, how to process them, and honor them. In this episode you’ll hear: How emotions support a kick-ass life. (3:26) Sherianna shares how she was drawn to work as an Emotional Detox Coach®. (6:32) Emotional detox for anxiety and what it means. (7:35) All emotions are good when you process them. There is no negative emotion. (11:25) The Emotional Detox philosophy and how it applies to triggering experiences. (15:00) How Sherianna works with people who are disconnected from their feelings. (24:39) What to do if you carry core beliefs that you are the holder of others emotions. (30:00) We discuss surrendering and how it differs from letting go. (38:33) http://yourkickasslife.com/350 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 12, 2020
Episode 349: Friendships at Work with Shasta Nelson
Work is the number one place we make friendships as adults, according to Shasta Nelson. So why not focus on friendships where we are most of the time? Well, Shasta is back on the podcast this week to talk about this topic, one she is an expert in, friendships. Her newest book is all about friendships at work. And, this is definitely an interesting time for workplace friendships, with many working from home or working in the office but with socially distant restrictions. We can all use a little help with our relationships whether they are our personal relationships or friendships at work. I am happy to share our conversation with you. In this episode you’ll hear: The three things needed in a healthy relationship: consistency, vulnerability, and positivity. (5:43) Why having a best friend at work improves employee experience and organizational success. (9:31) How to handle the coworker friend who sucks the energy out of you and how to reduce the impact of their toxicity. (12:04) #RelationshipGoals at work - do you have to be friends with everyone? (13:42) Workplace boundaries and your responsibility around them. (18:17) What to do or say when you are working with someone who indulges in office gossip. (21:33) Leveraging your former professional friendships to help you during a job search. (27:47) http://yourkickasslife.com/349 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 05, 2020
Defining Your Future with Leah Campbell Badertscher
This week on the YKAL podcast, my guest is Leah Campbell Badertscher. She is a former attorney turned artist and Master Life coach for world-class performers and leaders in the arts, business, and movements in positive change for the social good. During our conversation, Leah asks simply, “What are you giving up if you don’t go for it?” And that is the question she pondered after graduating law school. In this episode, she shares openly her battle with her inner-critic and how she pushed forward to pursue an artistic career. Her story of wanting to follow a specific path, but experiencing push back from self-talk is common. My hope is that if you see some of yourself in Leah’s story, you will be inspired to take action in your life. In this episode you’ll hear: Leah shares her journey from law career to artist. (4:14) Why it is important to not dismiss your intuition and instead listen to what you really want. (11:13) Leah talks about the battle with her inner critic and how she kept going. (24:58) How Leah learned to lean into self-trust. (35:30) Some of the pros and cons of the creative process. (41:26) http://yourkickasslife.com/348 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 29, 2020
CASTMWUP: Andrea and Jessica Talk About Diversity and Inclusion
Today I have a Conversation About Shit That Matters With Unqualified People (CASTMWUP as we call it over here). But, this time my guest/friend is qualified to talk about today’s topic on diversity and inclusion. CASTMWUP episodes are less interviews and more conversations between friends. I assume people who listen to my podcast are those willing to engage in this conversation about race. I am not a race educator, but Jessica Sharp is. She has a Master’s of Public Affairs from the University of Missouri and is currently a student at William James College where she is obtaining a Doctorate in Leadership Psychology. Her work experience includes work in the non-profit sector and work in diversity & inclusion. My hope is that white women listen to Black voices who are race-educators, especially Black women. Because none of us are free until we’re all free. http://yourkickasslife.com/347 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 22, 2020
Self-Reflection and Unpacking Unconscious Biases with Leesa Renee Hall
Leesa Renee Hall has helped over 33,000 leaders explore their unconscious biases using her signature process called Explore Biases Now. Author of ten books, Leesa was known as a technology pioneer before turning her attention to disrupting the misinformation hardcoded deep in the mind. I am thrilled to be able to share our important conversation with you this week! Today Leesa and I discuss reflective writing and self-reflection as an investment in your own life and your own healing. We explore the topic of stumbling bravely through understanding and processing our humanity. And, finally, we discuss how to stay in the work of unpacking your unconscious biases so you stand with and not for, black, indigenous, and people of color. In this episode you’ll hear: Leesa shares how she transitioned from working in tech to questioning her legacy and then moving to help others explore and unpack their unconscious biases. (3:33) By developing a habit around self-reflection, you begin to accept the nuances and complexities within yourself. (11:00) Why there is a disconnect between what we believe versus how we behave. (19:00) Leesa’s work with introverted, highly-sensitive people. (23:07) What happens to your nervous system when unpacking unconscious biases. (27:11) How to begin unpacking your unconscious biases, some first steps you can take. (43:00) Why perfectionism is a tool of white supremacy. (46:53) http://yourkickasslife.com/346 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 15, 2020
YKAL Coaching Sessions: Coping with Perfectionism and Unwanted Identities with Katie
Today, I bring you a YKAL Coaching session. Katie is a proud introvert and physical therapist in Nevada. She came to me because she has a desire to reduce her work capacity so she can focus on following her passions and interests. Together we discuss what she’s been struggling with and why she has been having such a difficult time changing the trajectory of her job. We also uncover some of Katie’s fears such as being seen as imperfect or non-knowledgeable in her field. I encourage you to listen to the entire episode because Katie’s update was really interesting. As we say in coaching, a lot of the healing happens in between sessions. And as you will hear, such was the case for Katie. http://yourkickasslife.com/345 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 08, 2020
Whole Body Healing with Emily A. Francis
When I met this week’s guest, I knew I needed to have her on the show, just based on her enthusiasm alone. Emily Francis is the host of the radio show All About Healing and author of the new book, Whole Body Healing: Create Your Own Path to Physical, Emotional, Energetic, and Spiritual Wellness . One of the reasons I’m pumped to introduce you to her is because I’ve never had a guest on the show who does the kind of work that Emily does. Today we discuss how body memory leads us to carry pain, releasing your body of emotions, and leaning into joy and gratitude. I learned so much from our time together and I hope you do too! In this episode, you’ll hear: About muscle memory and why we carry pain where we do. Muscle memory is very much like mental memory. Our bodies remember. (11:01) Some ways the body communicates its emotions - aka the body’s somatic languages. (22:00) The importance of working with the body for the release of emotions, like grief or anxiety. (29:00) How we can use tissue memory for healing. (31:00) Listening to your own body - aka the body scan. (43:36) http://yourkickasslife.com/344 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 01, 2020
The Enneagram and Personal Development with Jessica Denise Dickson
How does the enneagram relate to personal development? Well, today we find out. Jessica Denise Dickson is a life empowerment Enneagram coach (and Black mermaid) who believes that when Black women heal, the world heals. She joins me to talk about the enneagram as a transformative tool for personal development. I can’t tell you how excited I am about this topic and guest-- as I’ve wanted to have someone on for eons. Today, we discuss what the enneagram is, how it can help you become more self-aware, and help you address your blind spots. We also discuss what the enneagram has to offer during this time of global pandemic and global reckoning with systems of oppression. In this episode you’ll hear: There are a lot of ideas about the enneagram - Jessica breaks down what it is and what it is not. (3:59) How the enneagram can help with self-awareness and empathy. (10:38) Learning your type can be a personal and private experience, as well as, one of validation. (14:20) For systems to change, it comes from doing the work. Jessica shares some information about her course for people who identify as white. (29:31) Enneagram and relationships - there are no rules for making it work between different enneagram types. (37:27) Conflict resolution through the lens of the enneagram. (42:58) http://yourkickasslife.com/343 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 24, 2020
Are we all in this together? With Mike Robbins
This week I am sharing my conversation with Mike Robbins. Mike Robbins is a speaker and author of five books, including, Bring Your Whole Self to Work and We're All in This Together. I had a bunch of questions ready to ask Mike about his newest book. But our conversation went in an entirely different direction. And for that, I am grateful.In this episode, Mike and I discussed the value and importance of talking about race, white privilege, and why being vulnerable is so important, now more than ever. Being vulnerable forces us to ask of others and of ourselves, “Can I trust you with my time, my space, and my voice?” The world is divided - vulnerability is just one way we can begin to open up to talk about and take action for social justice, equality, and civil change. In this episode you’ll hear: Mike’s idea and journey for his book, We’re All In This Together. When he realized we are not all in this together. Mike’s experience with understanding what white privilege means. Acknowledging how our conversation is an example of centering whiteness. One entry point to anti-racism can be helpful is if white people call forward other white people. The importance of being vulnerable. http://yourkickasslife.com/342 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 17, 2020
The Human Condition and Liberation with Makenna Held
This week I have an episode featuring Makenna Held. Makenna is someone who is wise beyond her years. She is a writer, educator, and serial entrepreneur. While she's most known for being ‘the woman who bought Julia Child’s house’, that is one of the least interesting things about her. Her business, personal, and leadership coaching is committed to exploring paradigms of the human condition including liberation, human potential, obliterating capitalism's hold on our souls, and the essence of suffering. Today, Makenna and I discuss the inheritance of whiteness by white people and why it is our job, (as white people), to unpack and dismantle it. We also discuss putting the focus on the value you provide to people rather than putting the focus on the value of money, how to begin to dismantle the patriarchy, and sitting with the uncomfortable in with personal growth. This episode is a perfect reminder that it’s never too late to make a change. In this episode you’ll hear: What Makenna means by “Whiteness is a sickness white people carry.” (5:00) Obliterating capitalism's hold on our souls and putting the focus on the value you provide, instead. (12:30) Where to start: dismantling the patriarchy or patriarchal structures. (18:03) Human design and why it is so important for women to trust their intuition. (32:12) How the concepts of cooking tie into personal development. (38:00) http://yourkickasslife.com/341 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 10, 2020
Episode 340: Self-help and social activism
Before we jump into this week's episode, I want to direct your attention to what I mention in the first few minutes of the show. If you've followed me for some time, you know that I have a firm belief that as a white person, it's not okay to teach personal development and wellness without addressing and breaking down your own unconscious biases, as well as speaking up about it. No one is free until we are all free and we must use our privilege for good. I want to make it clear what I believe in both personally and professionally, where I'm at right now, and what's in store here at YKAL. The email I mention that's coming has already been written and you can find it HERE . Have you ever considered the deeper meaning behind personal development and the self-help industry as a whole? This episode with guest Andréa Ranae is guaranteed to get you thinking (and talking), and what she talks about affects everyone, not just coaches or someone in the self-help industry. Andréa is a coach herself who wrote a blog post last summer titled, Why the Self-Help Industry Isn’t Changing The World , which went viral and has been shared thousands of times since. She believes there is a disconnect between our own industry and the work of social justice, and even offers a Coaching As Activism Program to her clients. In this episode you’ll hear: Why did her post really strike a nerve with coaches and healers alike? (5 minutes and 15 seconds) The reasons why the work of changing the world doesn’t stop at an individual (8:15) Why the lessons of the Law of Attraction are laden with privilege - if you are not systematically oppressed (8:51) Why focus on your identity but not how we have been impacted by dehumanizing messages about women? (16:39) How limiting beliefs are instilled in you and why you have to “name it to tame it!” (19:46) As Andréa shares, “do-gooders” of the world often don’t want to bring “politics” and the stuff that’s happening around us into their work, but it’s something we can hide from. Her opinion is that self-love and self-care will not change the world, and I’m interested to hear from you about your thoughts on our conversation! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 27, 2020
Living Healthy Doesn’t Have to Suck with Talia Pollock
Talia Pollock is on the show this week! Talia Pollock is the author of Party In Your Plants, speaker, storyteller, plant-based chef, TV personality, and health and empowerment coach. I was a guest on Talia’s podcast, Party in My Plants, last year. She has a fantastic sense of humor, and we hit off well. Talia has a unique and refreshing approach when it comes to being healthy. Today, Talia offers ways to take the hell out of being healthy. In Talia’s words, the world doesn’t need more recipes. Instead, she believes we need more courage, confidence, and boldness to take action and make the right choices for our health. In this episode you’ll hear: Healthy eating, yeah, it kind of sucks. Talia offers some ways to take the hell out of being healthy. (7:36) Why energy is the main benefit of eating plants. (15:48) How Talia’s work is intended to help, people thrive outside the kitchen. (17:57) Confidence is the missing piece for executing our healthy lifestyle. (23:49) What surprises Talia the most about the women she works when she takes them through this journey. (29:05) http://yourkickasslife.com/339 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 20, 2020
Overcoming Overwhelm with Dr. Samantha Brody
Dr. Samantha Brody, author of Overcoming Overwhelm: Dismantle Your Stress From the Inside Out , is on the show this week. And y’all, who doesn’t deal with overwhelm, right? When she reached out to be on the podcast and told me the title of her book, I thought, “Hell yes, when can we speak?!” Samantha is a licensed naturopathic physician and acupuncturist, and the founder of Evergreen Natural Health Center. Together we discuss what it means to be overwhelmed, how our values can help reduce overwhelm, and how our subconscious beliefs might be undercutting our goals. Finally, Dr. Samantha shares what food and our food choices have to do with feeling overwhelmed. In this episode you’ll hear: What women do to try to combat overwhelm that isn’t working. (7:51) How your values affect overwhelm, how they help you vet your choices, and reduce overwhelm. (9:38) Subconscious beliefs and how they might be derailing your goals. (16:52) The “overwhelm inventory,” what it is and how it helps. (26:21) What food has to do with overwhelm. (31:01) http://yourkickasslife.com/338 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 13, 2020
Your Power, Your Voice with Alexia Vernon
Alexia Vernon is on the YKAL podcast this week! Alexia is a sought-after speaking and leadership coach to female (and male) executives, entrepreneurs, media personalities, and change makers who want to spread their ideas, positively impact people’s lives, grow their businesses, and advance their thought leadership. Alexia and I have an amazing conversation about visibility and using your voice. I am super pumped to bring you our conversation. Together we discuss how most problems can be solved with hard conversations. Alexia shares some of her thoughts and advice on how to have tough conversations, what to do when a conversation goes wrong, and how to turn toxic conversations around. In this episode you’ll hear: Using communication to move you to take action (7:04) How to find their voice in high-stake situations when there is a lot of fear (11:12) What to do if communication goes wrong (17:54) Alexia’s experience with online bullying during a Facebook ad campaign (25:00) How to turn toxic conversations around with compassion and empathy (41:26) http://yourkickasslife.com/337 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 06, 2020
The Girl on Fire Manifesto with Cara Alwill Leyba
This week I have Cara Alwill Leyba on the show! Cara is a long overdue guest, and I am thrilled to introduce you to her. She is a New York City-based creative entrepreneur who encourages women to live their most effervescent lives, celebrates themselves every day, and make their happiness a priority. I love having other guest experts on my show with similar messaging who can offer their unique spin. There's always a new perspective, tool, or strategy to learn. In this episode, Cara and I discuss some of the ways women can show up for themselves, how to learn from past experiences, and how to give yourself time to daydream. She also reminds us to ask, “What is the best-case scenario?” instead of, “What if I fail?” Last, she shares her perspective on failure: specifically, that failure is a possibility, but why you should do it anyway. In this episode you’ll hear: Why choosing yourself is so important (9:00) How Cara actually got to the point of ‘choosing herself’ (10:00) Why women have the capacity to give themselves a permission slip and don’t need to seek approval from others (14:00) Spending as much time with yourself is the best way to get the answer you need (18:00) Viewing rejection as redirection - it’s an opportunity to look at yourself and ask, “How am I going to handle this?” (20:00) Speak kindly to yourself and think optimistically about your dreams (29:25) Cara Alwill Leyba is a New York City-based creative entrepreneur who encourages women to live their most effervescent lives, celebrate themselves every day, and make their happiness a priority. She is a best selling personal development author, mentor to women entrepreneurs, and creator of The Champagne Diet blog. Over 6 million listeners worldwide tune in to Cara’s podcast Style Your Mind each week for powerful conversations and a mega-dose of inspiration. Cara is the author of 9 best selling books, including the worldwide sensation Girl Code, that have inspired women around the world to step into their power and fulfill their potential. Cara’s books have been translated into multiple languages like Russian, Chinese, Portuguese, Mongolian, and Vietnamese. Her message continues to transcend cultures and break barriers for women across the globe. Cara’s stylish and edgy approach to personal development has attracted thousands of women to attend her workshops and events. She has been featured in Forbes, Glamour, Shape, Entrepreneur, Success, Cosmo, Marie Claire, and many others. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, May 01, 2020
Bonus Episode for Coaches
I don’t very often write about or talk on the podcast specifically to coaches. Personal development is my game, BUT, I know there is a decent amount of you that listen to the podcast as well as those of you who are interested in pursuing this profession. First, the world needs more great coaches. This pandemic has whispered in all of our ears how precious and fragile life is, that no one gets out of here alive, and the time to live our lives is NOW. Second, many newer coaches might be worried their business isn’t viable right now. You may believe that life coaching is a luxury afforded to few. But, just like there are many ways to coach, there are many ways to offer value and help your clients and audience. And before I jump in, we do offer consulting here (both with me and my team), click here if you’re interested . Here are ten things I highly recommend doing if you are in the beginning stages of your coaching business, and many of those hold true even if you’re a seasoned coach. Get training. Since the coaching industry is currently unregulated, anyone can call themselves a coach, hang a shingle outside and be open for business. And I know some good coaches who have no training, only years of experience. However, coaching requires specific skills that matter for your clients. Plus, clients tend to bring emotional and heavy topics to sessions, and an untrained coach can end up causing more harm than good. So, please, get trained. Get support. Building a coaching business is like building any business, you can’t do it with zero dollars and zero support. I’ve talked to people who’ve got their training and think it’s like moving from one job to another. You just quit your other job and start life coaching, right? No. Coaching is not a business, it’s a skill. You still need to build your practice. You are going to have overhead and need time to build, so have savings, a business loan, or a partner with income that can help (and is clear on the fact that they are supporting your business). Make goals but be flexible. Like anything, make goals. You don’t necessarily need a traditional “business plan”, but you need something in terms of goals and not just fly by the seat of your pants. How many clients do you want or need? Do you want to build your audience to offer group coaching? Speaking? Write it down like you would any other goals. And if you find out you don’t like or aren't good at one aspect, pivot and try other things. Once you make goals and plans you don’t have to marry them. Read the remaining 7 tips HERE. If you’re a coach and you feel like you need support-- we offer consulting, as well as coaching packages. We can help you with nailing down your messaging, figuring out what’s the best way for you to market yourself, and even if you want to write a book
Wed, April 29, 2020
unHidden: An Episode for Men and Those Confused By Them with Robert Kandell
Today I have an interesting episode for you. When Robert Kandell approached me to be on my podcast, I was like, “Wait, whaatttt, who is this guy?” I started looking into his work and he also sent me a copy of his book; I knew I had to have him on the show. He is known as “The Modern Mantor,” is an interpersonal communications and relationship expert, speaker, and podcaster. He is also the author of the book, unHidden: Book for Men and Those Confused By Them . Most of the listeners of this podcast are women...but obviously you have men in your lives - whether it be father, brothers, friends, or spouses. And sometimes it can be complicated. Robert and I discuss the different ways in which we can be better communicators with each other, how practicing telling the truth can build stronger relationships, and where and why men tend to hide from their own truths. In this episode you will hear: Where men tend to hide and why they hide, plus Robert shares some brain science and explains some of the reasons why men (and women) don’t do the work. (5:18) How Burning Man and an orgy led Robert to a new path in life and relationships. (10:32) The effects of withholding your truth from your intimate partners. (14:58) We are trained to be mediocre communicators, Robert shares one way men and women can have better communication. (19:31) The #MeToo movement was a huge wakeup call to society that the toxic habits of men and women supporting those men can no longer hold up and how the movement has affected men. (25:18) The imbalance of personal development between women and their male companions (whether it be partner, brother, etc). (29:21) http://yourkickasslife.com/334 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 22, 2020
The Desire and Curiosity for What’s Next with Jennifer Louden
Jennifer Louden is a pioneer in the life coaching industry and author of the upcoming book, Why Bother? . I don’t know about you, but I think the title and topic of her book are incredibly timely. As we watch world events unfold, many are probably thinking things like, “Why bother to do that project right now?” Or “Why bother speaking up about the things I believe in?” Why bother? Together, Jennifer and I discuss her new book and all of the implications of asking the question, “Why bother?” We talk about why it is essential to sit in the grey area of inquiry and curiosity, even when it’s incredibly uncomfortable. And, we explore the idea of desire and the importance of letting desire flow without knowing how it’s going to turn out. In this episode you’ll hear: How the writing of a failed memoir led Jennifer to write Why Bother? (10:00) One of the ways “Why bother?” comes visiting (18:18) As we face an unprecedented climate crisis, how asking, “why bother?” helps us address that (19:00) Jennifer shares her six-step process for turning to the bright side of “why bother?” (24:03) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 15, 2020
Your Inner Mean Girl During Times of Crisis with Amy Ahlers
Amy Ahlers returns to the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! She has been a life coach for many, many years and is a dear friend of mine. She is a master women’s leadership and life coach, keynote speaker, and the bestselling author of Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves and Reform Your Inner Mean Girl . Amy is on a mission to STOP women from self-bullying and being so darn hard on themselves so they can make their greatest possible contribution. Today we talk about managing your inner mean girl during times of crisis, such as what we’re all going through right now. Together we discuss the idea of leaning into the depth of what is really important to you currently— which could be napping or jumping into a passion project. What is your soul’s message? We also chat about writing and how it can be a powerful tool for healing. In this episode you’ll hear: Reform Your Inner Mean Girl : why Amy decided to co-author the book (5:00) Don’t let your inner mean girl beat you up about what you are doing or not during this time of crisis (7:00) The stress response and the antidote to the stress response; the relaxation response (9:00) Common lies women tell themselves like, “It’s too late for me.” (12:00) The many different ways to journal and how Amy’s practice of writing a letter to her inner wisdom (30:00) Don’t forget to sign up for our free community call, Top 10 Kick-Ass tips to Get Your Project Started, Done or Out the door which will be held on April 22nd at 3 pm Eastern time. You’ll walk away with concrete tools so that you can create new awareness, heal some old stuff that’s been hanging around, and/or finish that novel or blog you’ve been putting off for years. http://yourkickasslife.com/332 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 08, 2020
Breaking the “Good Girl Rules” with Liz Applegate
This week’s guest is a certified life coach, Liz Applegate. I’ve been wanting to introduce you to Liz because she is my lead coach here at Your Kick-Ass Life! (I so rarely use exclamation marks, so please know, this is very exciting! ) She was hand-selected to assist me with my private coaching clients and I could not be more thrilled to have someone as fantastic as a coach as she is on my team. She is a certified Courageous Living Coach and has been called an inner-critic whisperer by many of her clients. One of the reasons I wanted to bring Liz onto the show was to speak on the topic of breaking the good girl rules, which is one of her areas of expertise. She explains that these rules are those in which keep grown women playing small. In this episode, we talk about what it actually means to play small, why we move through life unaware of our tolerations, and how we can work to let our innate gifts shine. We also talk about one of Liz’s deepest passions, creating connections with other women. I am super pumped to bring this episode to you today. I hope you enjoy it! In this episode you’ll hear: Liz’s introduction into the world of coaching, first through being life coached and then transitioning to becoming a life coach herself, in 2015. (6:00) What Liz means when she says, ‘breaking the good girl rules’ How Liz helps women get to the place of being their biggest/best self Breaking limiting beliefs: what they are and how to break them Creating connections with other women (29:00) http://yourkickasslife.com/331 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 06, 2020
Your Best Work Happens in the Dark
This episode is a mixed bag of topics! First, I talk about how exhausted you might be, and not understand why. Most of us are emotionally and mentally exhausted, so if you need a nap, this is why. Next, I move on to values. Values are still important, even though you’re probably not living your life like you were the last time you did values work.I give an assignment in this section of the episode and talk about how the real work happens in the dark. I then move into some advice for other life coaches (I know there are a lot of you who listen!). About halfway through the episode, I speak to other life coaches, wellness people, and those of you that run online businesses. I’ve seen some people comment that life coaches and healers should stop promoting their services during this crisis, and I’ve got some things to say about this. In a nutshell, if you’re a coach or healer, don’t stop promoting your business because that would essentially be shutting down your business and that won’t help the economy. At the same time (and this is for everyone)-- be present as to what’s happening right now. Communicate about it. Be of service as best you can and know your limits and capacity. http://yourkickasslife.com/330 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 01, 2020
Procrastination and Overwhelm: Small Changes Can Make a Difference with Sam Bennett
I’ve known Sam Bennet for many years now. She’s a writer, speaker, actor, and creativity-productivity specialist as well as the author of the best-selling books, Get It Done and Start Right Where You Are. Sam is the creator of the Organized Artist Company where she helps creative individuals get unstuck and move forward with their goals. She is such a joy and she gives the best advice when I need to hear it. In this episode, Sam and I discuss procrastination and overwhelm. She reminds us that other people can’t make us feel overwhelmed, it’s a feeling we put onto ourselves. And, she shares some ways to reclaim our power. As Sam said, “When you are doing something you like, in the way you like to do it, it’s not so hard to get stuff done.” In this episode you’ll hear: What if you let this thing (whatever that thing is for you) be as big as it wants to be? (8:22) Overwhelm and procrastination are BIG words and used to describe many things (10:39) Setting worthy goals and how one can achieve them; plus the ‘groan’ zone (14:56) Some action steps to use your imagination for good (20:50) The eye-opening thing Sam does when she sees people doing things in which she disapproves (30:10) A 5-minute art exercise you can do to help you work through your feelings (32:19) The difference between being creative and being artistic (39:33) http://yourkickasslife.com/329 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sat, March 28, 2020
What do you want your behavior to be?
I want to start this episode by telling you about two resources you may or may not know about. The United Way Emergency Relief Fund is there to help, click here to check it out and apply locally if you are in need. And if you have extra, you can help by donating here . Glennon Doyle, along with her sister, run Together Rising, a non-profit that helps people in need. If you can donate, click here , if you need help, contact contact@togetherrising.org. You may or may not know Brandon Stanton of Humans of New York. He posted something on Instagram last week that made me pause and think. What I want to focus on is the part where he’s talking about our behavior. Of course, our first instinct is to protect ourselves, our children, and our families. That’s normal, human behavior and if we didn’t have this instinct, we wouldn't all be here now. So if you’re beating yourself up for panic buying, or for not having reached out to anyone yet, try to practice self-compassion and let’s move on. I’m hoping by the time this episode reaches you, the dust has mostly settled. And by “dust mostly settled”, I mean the shock has worn off, you’ve figured out what your situation is right now, you understand we all need to take this day by day, and if you’re not there yet, you’re working towards a place of surrender. And if that’s the case, may we all be able to think about our behavior. Listen in to this episode as I break this down more for you and talk about how to be your best self during this time. I also get into GRIEF, as this might be something you’re dismissing without knowing how important it is. Lastly, on April 7th, I’m hosting a free Book CLub Q & A. If you’ve read 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life and/or How to Stop Feeling Like Shit, you don’t want to miss this! Bring your questions if you have them, and even if you don’t, I can guarantee you’ll learn something from the other women who bring their questions. Click HERE to sign up . http://yourkickasslife.com/328 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 25, 2020
Harnessing the Power of Womanly Arts with Mama Gena
Last week I sent out two episodes to help you cope through these uncertain times. You can find them here and here . I’ll be airing another one later this week. But, today, I wanted to put out a regular interview. While we are overwhelmed with heightened anxiety and unsure of what will come next, many may be looking for a reprieve; just 45 minutes to focus on something else. Anything else . I hope this episode is that for you. I recorded this particular interview several months ago, with guest Regena Thomashauer (a.k.a. “Mama Gena”). I am such a fan of her work and of her, as a person! She is a teacher, mother, founder, and CEO of the School of Womanly Arts. She has authored four popular books, including her newest New York Times Bestseller, Pussy: A Reclamation . In this episode, we discuss why women should reclaim the use of the word pussy , developing sex appeal and exploring pleasure, and the importance of allowing yourself to feel a full range of emotions. In this episode you’ll hear: Why women should use the word “pussy”, and why many women don’t want to (5:12) A woman who owns her pussy owns her life (18:00) Some ways women can begin to develop their own sex appeal and how to take it back (19:00) How women can start to experience a full range of emotions (33:00) http://yourkickasslife.com/327 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sat, March 21, 2020
How to Cope in Uncertain Times, Part 2
Well, first and foremost, I hope you are well, taking care of yourself, and taking care of your loved ones and community if you can. During these uncertain times, that’s the main thing we all need to focus on. Before I get into what’s on this extra-bonus episode this week, I wanted to urge you to take social distancing very seriously. If you haven’t played the Social Distancing Game, I urge you to go to this website and play around with the numbers. This is great to do with kids too. It shows you the math on what happens (in other words, how many people will die) if we wait to do social distancing, or if we just have a few friends over who aren’t sick, etc. Yes, people still need to work in order to make money. And yes, it breaks my heart that so many people in the service industry and other industries will take a huge hit during this time. If we work together in our communities, we can help those people recover, and if we practice social distancing we can collectively hit the brakes on this virus and less people will die. On Wednesday I sent out a podcast episode where I talked about knowing your boundaries in terms of news and other media. By no means is this the time for spiritual bypassing, but being glued to the news is likely not helpful either. Consume what you need to, take appropriate action, and take breaks. I also gave a few more ideas on how to cope, and today I’m back with more. In this episode I’m talking about your physical health (exercise can be your best medicine right now!), your spiritual, and now that I think about it, your mental and emotional health too. All of this is being tested for us, so it’s incredibly important to do your best to stay on top of it. In this episode, I also talk about trying to find something to ground you-- a symbol you might see on a fairly regular basis that you can use as a reminder to practice gratitude and/or to remind you to focus on what you CAN control right now. I close out the show talking about how eventually, maybe not right now, but eventually this will teach us all something. If you’re in a place to look and listen for that, that’s great. If you’re just barely trying to keep it together, your lessons will come later. Lastly, I’m putting together a playlist on Spotify of songs to help get us through this time. Please send me your song suggestions! Once we have a good playlist I’ll send the link out. You can reply to this email or DM me on Instagram. Please tell me the song AND artist. http://yourkickasslife.com/326 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 18, 2020
How to Cope in Uncertain Times
Originally I had an interview set to go out to you today, but since the world had other plans, we’ve adjusted. I want to start out by saying the health and safety of you and your family is what’s MOST important right now. In this podcast episode, I’m going to be talking about how coronavirus is potentially impacting your life, so I just want to make sure you know in case you’re at your limit with what you can take in. Of course, my spin is always positive as I try to inspire you and give you tools to cope, and at the same time, our reality is what it is. In this show, I offer a handful of tools to take care of yourself during this time. You know I’m mildly obsessed with coping mechanisms, and right now our coping mechanisms are being put to the test. Also, I plan to do two podcast episodes a week at least for a few weeks to help you manage your life while we all try to navigate this new reality. Xoxo, Andrea http://yourkickasslife.com/325 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 11, 2020
YKAL Coaching Sessions: Fear and Self-Doubt with Rebecca
This week we dive into another coaching episode, this time with a woman named Rebecca. She is a speech pathologist living in the NYC area. She has been through The Mentorship Masterclass with me and continues to do the work; because the work never stops. In this episode, Rebecca opens up about her struggles with self-doubt. She shares her experiences with procrastinating on some tasks that are very meaningful to a big project in her life. You’ll hear us talk through some of her issues and decide upon some exercises she can use to work through them. In this episode you’ll hear: Rebecca shares her challenges and fears around starting her own business (4:55) Her struggles with feeling like she is ‘not doing enough’ (6:45) The fear of being judged and unwanted identities (6:56) Self-sabotage, comfort zones, and the fear of outshining (16:06) A kick-ass update from Rebecca (45:36) If you’re a regular podcast listener and resonate with what I tell you there and are wanting something a little more...maybe you want more than just the information and you want to actually implement the things I tell you here and in my books, The Mentorship is for you . You’ll walk away with science-based tools to have more confidence, more self-trust, better relationships, better communication (did someone say boundaries!?), so much more self-awareness and you don’t have to travel! Applications close soon, so check it out here . http://yourkickasslife.com/324 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 04, 2020
Real Experiences from Women Who Have Done the Work
This week on the show we’re hearing from podcast listeners! I know you like to hear stories from women in the YKAL community once in awhile, so I’ve brought you a few of them. You might hear some of yourself in their stories! All of these women share their journey from being a podcast listener and self-help book reader, to diving in deeper. Dana, Kelly, and Millie have gone through my signature program, The Mentorship Masterclass , and I hope you’re inspired when you hear what they’ve gained in their lives. First you’ll hear from Dana, who came into The Mentorship from all the way in Australia. She opens by telling us how she was feeling stuck, without a purpose, and having a bit of an identity crisis. You’ll hear her mention how the values work has shaped her and how she still relies on self-compassion that was emphasized in the program. Then we hear from Kelly, who had reached mid-life and just didn’t know where to start, but knew she needed to start somewhere. She also mentions how the values work has helped her over the last almost year since The Mentorship ended, and something I LOVED to hear her say, that the tools have stuck with her and she still uses them. Lastly, we hear from Millie, who heard a podcast just like this one where she related so much to what they women I had on shared. Mostly around the topic of shame and she knew it was “the next frontier” she needed to work on. She mentions she remembers me saying, “If you only remember ONE thing I have taught you in this program, please have it be the steps of shame resilience!” Then proceeds to name them which you’ll hear makes me DELIGHTED! One thing you’ll notice is that ALL three women talk about the shared humanity among the participants and how much the group dynamic alone was a big part of the process in a positive way. We’re currently accepting applications for the next round of The Mentorship Masterclass, you can read all about it here and apply. We’d love to chat to see if it’s a fit for you. http://yourkickasslife.com/323 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 26, 2020
Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People: Life Lessons from Challenging Times with Andrea and Nicole
I have another Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People for you. This week my friend, Nicole Whiting, joins me to talk about some of the life lessons we’ve learned from challenging times (including divorce, suicide, and love addiction). By the way, Nicole is my lead facilitator for the next iteration of Mentorship Masterclass ! I met Nicole last year and we became fast friends. During a road trip together, we opened up about some of our deepest, darkest secrets. Yeah, just your usual road trip conversational fare, right? 👀 After that conversation with Nicole, I realized just how much she has been through and what an incredible human she is, now on the other side of it. So I thought she would be the perfect person to join me for a conversation about shit that matters, in this case, about the complexities of life. In this episode you’ll hear: Andrea shares her personal story of heartbreak, infidelity, and divorce and how she got through it (4:49) The traumatic event that changed the entire trajectory of Nicole’s life, and how she thought she had healed until she actually started doing the work (12:17) When Andrea’s self-work started, following her massive love addiction and finding her worth in relationships (21:02) Nicole’s experience with people-pleasing behaviors and finally deciding to take a stand and heal (26:07) Shit still happens to life coaches, so it is important to commit to grievances, practice resilience, and use the tools you have; all things we cover in The Mentorship (39:59) http://yourkickasslife.com/322 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 19, 2020
The Fear of Shining Too Bright
This week on the podcast I turned the mic on after a moment of feeling inspired and riffed for about 30 minutes or so about the fear of shining too bright. Every once in a while I feel like there’s a podcast episode I REALLY want you to hear, and this is one of them. Because I honest to goodness think we all struggle here. Our culture tells us not to shine too bright. Don’t draw too much attention to yourself, don’t brag, don’t take credit or praise or compliments, don’t take up too much space, don’t shine too much because you’ll make others uncomfortable and you’ll just look bad. Even if we don’t consciously think these things, these core beliefs can be embedded in our DNA. Our mothers and our mother’s mothers were taught this too. So, I break it down in the episode, plus give you some strategies to help you unlearn this and start shining. BECAUSE WE NEED MORE OF YOUR SHININESS. 🌟🔥🌟 P.S. If this episode speaks to you, I invite you to check out The Mentorship . Our fear of outshining comes from deep-rooted shame, more specifically our desire to avoid shame. The Mentorship teaches you the steps of shame resilience, among many other tools to implement in your life to be the best version of yourself you can be. P. P. S. Podcast art this week is one of my favorite pictures of my daughter and me trying on hats. There she is in all her shiny glory. Multicolored skirt, striped leggings, and Hello Kitty cowboy boots. http://yourkickasslife.com/321 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 12, 2020
You Are Not Too Much with Jeanette LeBlanc
Jeanette LeBlanc is back on the YKAL podcast! She is the author of You Are Not Too Much: Love Notes of Heartache, Redemption, and Reclamation . Through her work, her writing, and today’s conversation, she offers a different take on how to reclaim your wants, needs, and desires. (We’re doing a GIVEAWAY of Jeanette’s book, so make sure you listen to know how to win a copy!) Women often will put up with suffering or bullshit before deciding to walk away from a crappy situation. It takes a wild amount of courage to step into a life transition. Jeanette believes, “Sometimes our stories are the only things that can save us.” In this episode, we talk about acknowledging (and honoring) our deep revelations and having the willingness to step into them with radical honesty. Of course, there may be circumstances where you can’t step into your truth and Jeanette shares how her work gives voice to those who are unable to speak out. In this episode, you’ll hear: Jeanette’s desire to be in a place of truth and transparency and her journey to get there (5:00) Sharing your truth for the first time is the first and most important step (14:03) Why it is important to acknowledge there is risk to speak your truth and why Jeanette sees her work as the voice for those who can’t (21:00) Jeanette shares an alter ego exercise to help you step into your truest self (31:16) http://yourkickasslife.com/320 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 05, 2020
YKAL Coaching Sessions: Money Mindset with Erica
This week I have another coaching episode for you, on the topic of money. A few months ago Melanie joined me for a two-part coaching session on money and self-worth. But, the topic of money varies widely, from person to person. In fact, the topic of money is always nuanced and deeply personal. In this episode, Erica, who was in my signature program, Mentorship Masterclass , joins me to talk about her beliefs about money. I have a feeling many will relate to what she has to say about how she feels about money and how she wants to change her mindset about it. In this episode you’ll hear: Erica shares her issues with limiting beliefs around money, as well as her shopping and spending habits (7:00) Redirecting your thoughts and feelings about money (10:00) Some of the stories we make up about people whose finances appear to be in tip-top shape (13:20) We explore the question, “What if having the urge to spend is actually okay?” (19:00) Accepting the process, understanding behaviors and realizing that personal development work is almost never linear (27:00) A kick-ass update from Erica about shifting her beliefs around money, complete with a photo of her money crown project (see below)! (43:35) http://yourkickasslife.com/319 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 29, 2020
Healing from Patriarchy Stress Disorder with Dr. Valerie Rein
This week I welcome Dr. Valerie Rein to the YKAL podcast. Dr. Valerie discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the collective, inherited trauma of oppression. She is also the author of Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment . I met Dr. Valerie at an event late last year. I serendipitously sat at her table and as she was talking about her work and her book, I was enamored. In fact, I invited her onto the podcast on the spot. Her work is important, interesting, and backed by science. When it comes to the patriarchy, as women, there is a deeper issue going on then the blame game. We are not going to heal by pointing fingers. My conversation with Dr. Valerie is just one step of many that will help move women towards healing from the patriarchy. In this episode you’ll hear: How Dr. Valerie discovered PSD and how her search began with asking the question, “What is wrong with me?” (5:00) Oppression is traumatic and it is deep in our DNA (10:04) Patriarchy does not equal men and men do not equal patriarchy, patriarchy is a system that has been oppressive and disempowering to women (14:00) PSD is the invisible inner barrier to women's happiness and fulfillment and trauma defenses: mind, body, and action (15:00) Some of the symptoms or circumstances of PSD (and yes, we all have it) (19:00) Dr. Valerie’s message to men and how to bring them into the conversation and still take care of ourselves (32:06) http://yourkickasslife.com/318 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 22, 2020
Decade in Review
At the end of 2019, Facebook memories told me I posted this 10 years ago... I found it so interesting that I’d posted this (I don’t at all remember what was going on that day), as the decade that was approaching did end up being a decade of tremendous change for me. Seeing this prompted me to think about the entire decade and do a “decade in review”. I thought I would share it with you in hopes that you see some of yourself in this and gain some insight from some of my own life lessons. In the episode, I start with January 2010, when I had a 2-year-old and a 4-month-old, was finishing up my life coaching certification hours, and blogging under liveyourideallife.com. There were two moves across the United States, two book deals, sobriety, discovering our son had special needs, playing roller derby, my dad dying, and more. You’ll hear about the thing that truly threw me for a loop, and prompted a withdrawal and what that looked like for me. Ending the decade with an offer I couldn’t refuse. I close the episode with some life lessons I’ve learned on being a working mom, aging, and what it means to be happy. I hope you tune in and do your own decade in review! Lastly, applications are opening in February for the Mentorship Masterclass, my signature program. Head over to get on the list to be the first to be notified . http://yourkickasslife.com/317 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 15, 2020
Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People: Andrea and Kate on Anxiety and Depression
It’s been a minute since I brought you an episode of Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People. If you’ve been hanging on to the edge of your seat waiting for the next one to appear in your podcast feed, well, today is your lucky day. Conversations About Shit That Matters is back! If you are new to this series, it features candid conversations with my real-life friends about stuff that happens in everyday life. This is not an episode that offers expert advice, tools or tips. Instead, my friends (who may be experts in other fields) and I come on to talk, explore, and share about specific topics affecting our lives and the world in which we live. This week, returning guest Kate Anthony joins me to talk about anxiety and depression. We’ve both struggled with anxiety, and Kate with depression. In this episode, we share our experiences and how we navigate these challenges in our own lives. We do also share some of the strategies we employ in our own self-care regimens. But please note, we are not licensed professionals around this topic. I really hope you enjoy this conversation! In this episode you’ll hear: Our experiences with anxiety in childhood and our teen years (7:16) Kate shares her experience with depression and about when her depression and anxiety began to manifest (23:00) My story about how I was diagnosed with severe generalized anxiety disorder and how I felt so betrayed by my own body (25:00) Anxiety and depression medication that helped us and some of the side effects we had (27:00) Our self-care practices and strategies for navigating anxiety and depression (36:01) http://yourkickasslife.com/316 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 08, 2020
Happy Birthday To HTSFLS
Last week I sent out an email telling you all that January 2nd was the second birthday for How to Stop Feeling Like Shit . Over 170,000 copies sold and more than half of those are the audiobook version. It fills my heart with immense gratitude knowing that so many of you have read or listened to HTSFLS. In this podcast episode, I go over what shame has to do with all of the 14 habits I write about in the book. From Isolating and numbing out, to perfectionism and overachieving, it all has to do with shame. I go on to talk more specifically about some in regards to all the habits. In talking about this book for the last two years, I heard which behaviors resonated the most with all of you. Tune in to the episode to see which ones! The thing is, the real work happens when we take action. Reading books and listening to podcasts is fantastic, and the thing that’s going to allow you to have the most momentum and see the biggest results is when you take what you read or listen to and integrate it into your life. As I mention in the episode, as a gift you, you can download the PDF version of all the “hard questions” from the chapters in HTSFLS below. Resources mentioned in this episode: How To Stop Feeling Like Shit Episode 312: Sexuality and Spiritual Awakening with Jessica Graham Listen and Subscribe to Not Another Self-Help Podcast http://yourkickasslife.com/315 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 01, 2020
Goal Setting with Keith McArthur
This week on the podcast, I am re-broadcasting my conversation with Keith McArthur because NEW YEAR NEW YOU, right? Keith is the author of the book, “Winning Resolutions: Achieve Your Biggest Goals and Wildest Dreams Once and For All.” He’s also the creator of My Instruction Manual , a website, podcast and book series providing high-quality personal development and content. I’ve been on Keith’s podcast twice and know him to be an amazing interviewer. So, about a year ago, I released an episode called, “New Year New You” (ep 262), in which I said, loud and clear, that you do not need a morning routine or for that matter, any routine that doesn’t fit your lifestyle. But yet, I also realize that the new year can be overwhelming for many. That’s why I invited Keith to the show to talk about ways to calm the New Year overwhelm, help shift our mindset around goal setting, and share what he knows about our environment and how it can affect goal achieving. Plus, he shares what values, shame and commitment have to do with it all. In this episode you’ll hear: Why we put so much pressure on ourselves at the start of a new year and how shame comes into play (11:49) Keith’s take on the “New Year, New You” mentality (13:27) The biggest mistake people make when creating a goal or resolution. Plus, some science-based strategies for achieving your biggest, baddest goals (16:19) How an accountability partner can help you with goals and the science behind finding the right accountability partner (25:03) Some ways to get back on track if you lose sight or abandon a goal, hint: think ahead! (27:43) Taking control of your environment and some ways to structure your environment for goal success (40:34) Lastly, my new creative project with Amy Smith, Not Another Self-Help Podcast drops THIS FRIDAY, January 3rd! Please go take a listen, subscribe, and tell us what you think! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 25, 2019
Episode 313: Looking Ahead to 2020
Announcement! Not Another Self-Help Podcast is coming! Amy and I need your personal development questions so hit us up here . Also, we’d be honored if you listened to our first two episodes which drop Friday, January 3rd! Two weeks ago was all about looking back on not just 2019, but the entire decade that’s ending. If you haven’t listened to that one, check out episode 309, plus there’s a free journaling PDF. Let’s start with the basics: values and the way you speak to yourself. Some people love to have a word of the year, and values work could be married together with that. I talk about values at length in How To Stop Feeling Like Shit , and I’ll give you a crash course here. This will be an important refresher for those of you who’ve done values work before. Think about a time in your life where you were proud of yourself. Maybe you took action on something you were afraid to do. Maybe you left a relationship, set a boundary with someone, told someone how you felt or went to a party where you didn’t know anyone. Think of that time. What was the value you were honoring then? It might have been courage for being brave enough to do something scary. Or, authenticity for showing up as your best self. Or honesty and integrity for speaking up about something that was important to you. Or, trust for trusting yourself enough to walk away from a situation you know wasn’t good for you. It might be ALL of those things, but what are the values that stand out to you the most? I’m thinking of the many clients I’ve had over the last decade and the brave things they’ve done. I had a client who had a strained relationship with her mother, who sat down, planned out everything she wanted to say to her mother and had the talk. Years of resentment, frustration, and hurt came together in a conversation she was proud of. She honored courage, honesty, and authenticity. I’ve had a few clients start new businesses and quit their jobs. Honoring meaningful work, creativity, and determination. I’m thinking of a client I had who had a difficult year-- the most difficult year of her life. So much loss and struggle...that time in her life she honored perseverance, self-trust, and optimism. So again, what values have you honored over the last decade? Sure, you’ve probably wanted to honor more of them, and maybe didn’t. Don’t dwell on those. Your mind may want to point out all the aspired values you have and didn’t do. That you wanted to be more courageous, that you wanted to focus more on your growth or have more balance in your life. For the sake of this exercise, let that go for now. The reason I want you to think of these values, to think about the behaviors you’ve done in the past that have made you proud of who you are, is because those are a key to looking ahead. If you’re proud of the courageous thing you did
Wed, December 18, 2019
Sexuality and Spiritual Awakening Jessica Graham
As soon as I met this week’s guest, I knew I had to have her on the podcast. That is why I am thrilled to introduce you to Jessica Graham. She is a spiritual and sexual activist, author of the book, Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out , meditation teacher, and sex and intimacy guide. I first met Jessica when we had a chance meeting, in a cab, in Holland. I am so glad that the universe aligned and put us into each other’s orbit. At the time of our meeting, I had been feeling the pull to do some inner work around the areas of sex and sexuality. I knew I needed someone to help guide me. Jessica’s message resonated with me, we shared a lot of things in common, and to make a long story short, we’ve been working together since the Spring. She’s my sexuality doula and she’s been enormously helpful. Today we talk about shame, the messaging we receive as a children about sex and sexuality, and what that all means. We also talk about the common struggle women face when it comes to their feelings around sex. Plus, Jessica shares how the combination of affirmation and mindfulness can help with sex and intimacy. My hope is that our conversation will encourage you to explore inner work around your own sexuality and spiritual awakening. In this episode you’ll hear: About Jessica and her work, and how she is a sex coach who is more than a sex coach (13:00) The struggles and shame around the topic of sex and sexuality (15:36) What brought Jessica to her work as a sexuality, relationship, and self-love guide (19:52) Sexuality inventory: what it is and what’s the purpose (23:00) The most common struggle women face around sexuality and how Jessica helps with the desired outcome (30:00) Why self-compassion is so important to any kind of personal development work (47:00) Oh and by the way, to celebrate the launch of the new Your Kick-Ass Life website, we’re running a giveaway! It costs zero dollars to enter, we’ve made it ridiculously easy to enter ( and you can enter more than once), and all you have to do is click HERE . http://yourkickasslife.com/312 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 11, 2019
Self-care + I got nothin’
When life hands you a bunch of BIG things all at once, they tend to take up a lot of energy, time and capacity in your life. And that’s what I’ve been dealing with lately. I even contemplated taking a break from the podcast this week, but then decided to just turn on the mic and talk about everything that is going on. I believe by sharing some of my experiences and how I am working through them is helpful (not only for me), but for you as well. Tune in to the episode as I talk about three big things that are happening in my personal and professional life, what I'm doing about self-care, plus the feelings that surround it (read: guilt) and what you can do for YOUR life if you can relate. In this episode you’ll hear: My heartbreaking experience with bringing a rescue dog home Some book proposal news and waiting on a book deal Reflecting on how can you slow down in your life and take a break, guilt-free http://yourkickasslife.com/311 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 04, 2019
Turn Pain Into Power with Sydney Williams
This week Sydney Williams joins me on the show! Sydney is a former collegiate athlete and competitive skydiver (and it was news to me this is a competitive sport!) who unexpectedly found herself on the receiving end of a Type 2 diabetes diagnosis while grappling with unresolved trauma from a decades-old sexual assault. So what did she do? She set out on a mission to turn her pain into power. Two hikes across Catalina Island and 80 miles later, she founded Hiking My Feelings to help others tap into the mind-body connection and healing power of nature that helped kick her self-limiting beliefs and disease into remission. In this episode, Sydney and I had a conversation about enduring hardships, the choices we make in the wake of them, and how we cope and make peace with our pain. We also talked about how Sydney’s hiking trips led her to appreciate her body, as well as, accepting and reversing her Type 2 Diabetes diagnosis. Her story is an incredible one. Our conversation was a beautiful one. I hope you’ll listen. In this episode, you’ll hear: What led Sydney to hike the Trans-Catalina Trail, completely unprepared, armed only with delusional self-confidence (5:21) Some of the moments and lessons from her first backpacking trip (12:57) Embracing her body just the way it is and taking deliberate action to make her social media feed a place to find positivity and inspiration (13:50) Her Type 2 Diabetes diagnosis, how she handled it and what she did to reverse it (18:22) What it means to unpack your trauma and how Sydney began to unpack her own following a sexual assault (29:03) One step survivors of trauma can take to start the healing process (40:44) http://yourkickasslife.com/310 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 27, 2019
Looking Back
Where were you in November 2009? This time ten years ago I had a two-year-old, a newborn, was finishing up my coach training certification and was in the planning stages of launching Your Kick-Ass Life into the Universe. At that time writing books seemed like a far-away dream as I felt I had enough plates spinning (and was dropping more than a few). As I look back on the last ten years, it’s clear that a lot can happen in a decade. Yes, I’ve had a lot of success and I’m incredibly grateful for that. But, to be honest, the thing I’m the most grateful for and proud of is the internal growth I’ve done. The mental and emotional growth I’ve intentionally moved through. I couldn’t have had the other successes like writing and publishing books and business growth without doing my own work. And I see you. I see you, the woman who listens loyally every week to this podcast, and other personal development podcasts every week. The woman who goes to therapy, who maybe goes to trauma therapy even though she’s had a good week and really doesn’t want to go. Who has that hard conversation with her partner even though she’s afraid. The woman who’s taking a closer look at her drinking, or who’s decided to get sober, or stay sober. Who’s kept on going on this personal development journey even though her family teases her about it because they just don’t get it. The woman who’s separated or going through a divorce and it’s been the hardest year of her life. And she keeps just putting one foot in front of the other. Who’s struggled with her health or infertility, we see you, we see all of you. The woman who’s lost a parent, or a friend, or her beloved pet. And no matter what you’re going through, no matter what your year has looked like, I know if you’re listening to this, you ARE on your way, you’re still on your journey to your best life. So, this is the last month of the D E C A D E. Let’s take a look back on it. Tune into this episode as I ask you powerful questions about where you’ve been, what you’ve learned, and what you want to take with you into the next decade. There is a special journaling worksheet to accompany this episode too. Be sure to grab yours at the link below! http://yourkickasslife.com/309 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 20, 2019
YKAL Coaching Sessions: Answering Your Soul’s Calling with Tracie
I am pumped to share today’s episode with you! Partly because it is a coaching session episode, partly because Tracie, the lovely lady I am coaching, is a longtime coaching client of mine, and partly because I was (and still am) fired up about the topic Tracie brought to our session! Oh and I also am doing something I haven’t done in a loooonnng time. All the details are in this episode, so you will have to listen in. 😉 We’re staring down the barrel at the end of the decade. So what are you declaring for the next decade? Well, for this week’s coaching client, Tracie, she’s grappling with following her heart and soul’s deepest passion - starting a business of her own. And as she inches closer to turning 50-years old this year, she came to me, looking for some help and some answers, to move closer to her goal. Wanting to follow your heart and your passion, but not taking action, is a topic many can relate. In fact, I see this all the time in my work. There may be something you are yearning to do but are unsure how to get there. Maybe your values are misaligned, your inner critic is holding you back or it’s something else entirely. In this episode, we explore the things keeping Tracie from moving forward, we discuss the concept of, ‘Sometimes being selfish is okay,’ and we walk through some actions steps Tracie can take to reach her ultimate goal - freedom from a job that she feels is holding her back. Know that you CAN be selfish, selfless, give back, and answer the calling of your soul. Keep that fire lit under your ass and in your heart, ass-kickers. And never, ever forget your why . I hope this episode inspires and motivates you to take the next step in your life. In this episode you’ll hear: Tracie’s feeling of being stuck in her job and not making any progress towards what she really wants to do (7:00) Not being aligned with what you want to be doing versus what you are doing (8:00) Tracie’s value around freedom and how she is craving it in her life right now (12:47) Feelings of selfishness and the whole concept of ‘what is selfish was okay?’ (16:00) I give Tracie some assignments so she can start going after what she wants in her career (23:17) Tracie’s kick-ass audio update (36:41) Resources mentioned in this episode: You Are a Badass At Making Money, Jen Sincero Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 13, 2019
Showing Up and Living Life Unapologetically with Nicole Whiting
This week I welcome Nicole Whiting to the podcast. She is a “life pacer” who turned to running during a time of tremendous hardship. Instead of retreating and playing the victim, Nicole picked something extraordinary, ultra-running, to help her process and move the difficulties through her body. Now an ultra-runner and life coach, Nicole meets women “where they are” and gets them across the finish line. I’ve been looking forward to having Nicole on my show for a long time! I met her in January through a Mastermind group and y’all, she’s kinda stolen my heart. In this episode, Nicole and I talk about being out of your league, but still committing to being all in, and Nicole’s experience of moving from survival mode to thriving mode. I love Nicole’s story so much because so many people have experienced some kind of life altering event and struggle to move past it. Nicole says, “The race starts, when it starts to hurt.” And some might say, the real work (when it comes to personal development) starts when things start to feel hard. Our conversation truly talks to that idea and and how physical movement might be the key to help get you through life’s toughest transitions. In this episode, you’ll hear: How and why Nicole got into running and became an ultra-marathoner, plus what ultra-running is (9:51) Nicole’s experience with training and participating in an Iron Man race (12:00) How showing up, even in the face of the unknown, could be a gamechanger and what living life unapologetically means (18:00) The trauma Nicole faced when she was 13 and how it shaped her(21:00) Processing emotion through body movement (25:33) Nicole’s emotional and grueling experience running a 100 mile race, and what she learned from it (26:13) http://yourkickasslife.com/307 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 06, 2019
Taking a Break
Solo episode for you this week! Today I’m talking about taking breaks, introversion, and becoming comfortable with the uncomfortable. Recently a friend of mine asked me how she could overcome her introversion. And I was like, “Wait, hold up !” Introversion is a character trait, not something to overcome. It is what makes you, you . Overcoming unwanted behaviors like the kind I talk about in my book, How to Stop Feeling Like Shit , yes absolutely. Being an introvert, being tall, or having long fingers - those are things you should embrace and never shun away. I go into this further, in this episode. I also talk about being comfortable with the uncomfortable. To sum it up here, life is a series of uncomfortable and awkward events and conversations. Stop waiting for comfortable. Humans are ever-evolving (now I’m not trying to act like we’re better than everyone else, but I’m just sayin’ if you listen to my podcast you’re out there doing hard work and probably evolving at a faster rate than those who don’t. I mean… 🤷). And if I know you, I know you love to read personal development books, listen to podcasts, and know you’re taking action on bettering your life. YAY YOU! And sometimes you need a break. In this episode you’ll hear me talk about a big break I’ve been taking, what a psychic told me a few weeks ago about this break, and how I feel about taking lots of action and seeing results, and not taking any action at all. (Hint: you’re always exactly where you need to be). In this episode you’ll hear: Someone asked me, “How can I overcome my introversion?” and I share my answer You don’t have to always be ‘moving’ to feel like a productive member of society Why I am such a fan of taking a break and making myself a priority Trust your inner wisdom because she knows what is best for you My meeting with a psychic and how she called me out http://yourkickasslife.com/306 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 30, 2019
Letting Go of What’s Holding You Back with Shannon Kaiser
Returning guest, Shannon Kaiser joins me this week on the YKAL podcast. She is the bestselling author of five books on the psychology of happiness and fulfillment, including the #1 bestseller, The Self-Love Experiment and Adventures for Your Soul . Her new book, Joy Seeker: Let Go of What's Holding You Back So You Can Live the Life You Were Made For, is available this week! It is always a pleasure to talk to this amazing lady. Today we talk about joy, spirituality, and authentic living. As you will hear, the underlying message to our conversation is, giving yourself permission to do the things you’ve always wanted to do. We talk about how women can work to trust and believe in themselves, how to live more authentically and how to speak your truth. As Shannon said so perfectly during our time together, “It all comes back to living your life from a place of integrity, a place of truth, and a place of honesty; that is the true joy.” In this episode you’ll hear: What led Shannon to write Joy Seeker and how her experiences appear throughout it (8:00) Ask yourself, “What have you always wanted to do but have not given yourself permission to do?” (9:00) How women can work to trust and believe in themselves and how we can follow our hearts and our dreams; plus ask yourself, “What dream keeps coming back to you?” (11:00) Being in gratitude and exploring gratitude practices (30:00) How losing what you love most can help you find what you need and honoring your grief (34:00) Letting go of who you think you're supposed to be so you can be who you’re meant to be (39:00) http://yourkickasslife.com/305 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 23, 2019
YKAL Coaching Sessions Priorities and Asking for Help with Corrina
This week on the podcast I have another coaching episode for you. Long-time YKAL community member and Patron, Corrina joins me. She is a working mom from Toronto who needed help with prioritizing time for her own self-care. Here is what I love about this episode, not only is Corrina a loyal listener of the show, our conversation starts out on one topic and ends up going in a different direction. If you’ve listened to some of my past coaching sessions, you’ve come to learn that’s typically how my sessions go. And I love it. 🙌🙌🙌 Our conversation went from what seemed like a “simple” struggle (and I use the word simple loosely because nothing is ever simple in self-help) and turned to having (or in this case not having) support or help around the household. We discussed partnerships, having hard conversations and how to ask for what you need from your partner, with compassion and gratitude. The health of any relationship rests on the reciprocity of love, trust, and the work it takes to create a household. Corrina and I explore this topic together and come up with a possible solution to her current struggles. As you will hear, Corrina learns that prioritizing means reaching out for help so she can make more, “Yes” decisions for her own wellbeing. In this episode you’ll hear: Corrina’s struggle with prioritizing and making time for self-care (6:01) Working through her feeling of shame when it comes to taking care of the home (ie: home not in order or clean) (9:00) Realizing that you can’t do all the things , all the time without feeling resentful (9:21) Communicating the severity of the lack of support around the household and having hard conversations with a partner (18:37) Finding the line between realistic and unrealistic expectations and not trusting your own voice (22:06) Acknowledging and leaning into each other’s love languages (33:21) Telling your partner what you want and need from your relationship with compassion and gratitude (36:00) http://yourkickasslife.com/304 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 16, 2019
Creating Inspired Action Through Movement with Erin Stutland
💥 Special announcement, ass kickers! Amy Smith and I are starting a new podcast that will focus on hilarious stories, PLUS answering your burning questions! You’ll hear more about it in the intro to this episode, and you can ask your questions HERE. 💥 This week I welcome back returning guest, Erin Stutland! Erin is a renowned author and mind-body wellness expert and the host and life-style coach of Z Living’s cable series, Altar’d. I reference her work often and I am thrilled to have her back to talk about her book, Mantras in Motion . We live in a culture where we spend a lot of time in our own heads. And while it’s comfortable there, it can hold us back. Today Erin describes how movement in our bodies can lead to inspired action and movement in our lives. We talk about how her work and her book help clear out beliefs holding you back and what it means to move well. We also explore the topic of our “own brands of existence,” (aka: the inner critic), and some ways to move away from them. While the whole concept of getting into our bodies, out of our heads, and moving can seem foreign, Erin introduces us to it in such a way that it makes sense and is easy to implement. It’s time to move. 💃 In this episode you’ll hear: The catalyst for writing her book, Mantras in Motion , and what readers can expect from it (9:00) The purpose for combining movement with mantras and helping people reconnect to their bodies; and what the movement might actually look like (11:27) Some ways we can get out of our head and get connected with our bodies (18:00) How movement in your body can create movement in your life (24:16) What Erin means when she uses the word resistance and some ways to move forward from it (25:13) http://yourkickasslife.com/303 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 09, 2019
Mental Health, Spirituality, and Moving Forward with Chase Chewning
This week I welcome Chase Chewning to the YKAL podcast. Chase is the creator of the platform Ever Forward and host of the podcast Ever Forward Radio . I’ve been on his podcast twice and y’all, he is an amazing host who is doing phenomenal things in the wellness industry (and wait until you hear his radio voice. Just wait). Today we take on big topics such as mental health, the revolution in masculinity and moving ever forward no matter the circumstance. Chase shares openly with me the physical, emotional, and spiritual trauma he experienced following a serious hip injury, which led to being medically discharged from the military and having to learn to walk again. And like many of the conversations I have with my guests, ours shifted to topics I did not expect but am so glad they did. We discussed the stories men (and women) sometimes make up about what it means to be a man (as in hiding one’s emotions) and how a revolution in masculinity is flipping those stories on their heads. As Chase so eloquently stated, “Every area of your life will be significantly better once you get honest, look inside, and allow yourself to feel.” Yes, we got a bit deep, philosophical, and real in this episode. But as you’ll hear at the top of the show, it’s important to be the person you were meant to be. This episode is a perfect example of Chase and I, doing just that. In this episode you’ll hear: The physical, emotional, and spiritual trauma Chase experienced following medical discharge from the military due to a hip injury and having to learn to walk again (11:00) Internal and external healing: who and what was most helpful to Chase (emotionally and physically) during his journey (19:00) Chase on the revolution in masculinity and the importance of women being present with a man while he shares his deepest and darkest fears (27:00) Coming to our own conclusions about religion and spirituality (35:00) Chase’s mantra, Ever Forward: what it means and why it matters so much to him (47:09) http://yourkickasslife.com/302 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 02, 2019
Radical Self-Love and Body Empowerment with Sonya Renee Taylor
I have such a great episode for you this week with my guest Sonya Renee Taylor. Sonya is an author, poet, spoken word artist, speaker, humanitarian, social justice activist, educator, and founder of The Body is Not An Apology . Today, we are talking all about radical self-love, body empowerment and how both can be a foundational tool for global transformation. When it comes to self-love, especially in the personal development space, it can be made to look easy, light, and fluffy. But as you’ll hear in this episode, Sonya believes, “Nothing grows without discomfort.” 100%, yes! Radical self-love requires us to challenge our deeply held beliefs which are keeping us locked in systems of status quo and latency. True radical self-love can help you see the world in a different way and help you shift it too. We also talk about body shaming, meta-shame and even a unique and affirming way to spread body empowerment among friends; which can move mountains y’all! I know I say this often, but I truly am excited to share with you my conversation with Sonya Renee Taylor. In this episode you’ll hear: Sonya’s journey and the path that led her to be recognized as a change agent (6:28) How radical self-love and body empowerment are foundational tools for social justice and global transformation (9:16) Sonya’s definition of radical self-love and why we need it (11:27) Body shaming, what it is, who does it and some ways to overcome it; plus one unique and affirming way to spread body empowerment among friends (17:00) The body positivity movement: where it started, why Sonya thinks it’s a “nice white lady,” and ways in which it can be harmful (26:00: Bad Picture Monday - what it is and how to find it on Instagram (32:00) http://yourkickasslife.com/301 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 25, 2019
Dear Fear
As you may have heard (since I’ve been talking about it almost non-stop here), I’m still writing my book proposal for my third book. Book proposals are a slightly complicated, gigantic document that contains the summary of your book, who the book is for, and what magic fairies you’re going to conjure to help you sell the book. It contains other things too, but my point is, the way I describe writing book proposals is it’s like that school project you have that is enormously time-consuming, super boring, a metric shit-ton of work, and 99% of your grade is riding on it. Oh, and the class it’s for is the Big Enchilada Important Class. No big deal. As I’ve also mentioned before, this book will be slightly different than my first two. Still self-helpy, but it will have an edge. More opinionated. More in tune with what’s going on culturally and politically. And all of this is scary for me, as this entire year has been about healing, moving through all sorts of old shit, and leveling up. One of the things I’ve done to help myself is writing a letter to fear. Elizabeth Gilbert talks about this and I decided if it’s good enough for Liz, it’s good enough for me! In this week’s episode you’ll hear a few other things I’ve done to move through this time in my professional (and personal) life, and here is my letter to fear… Dear Fear, I’m not sure why I’m addressing you as “dear”, as you’re hardly dear to me in the least. Let me start with some compassion since you don’t necessarily deserve to be yelled at, berated, or chastised. So, I get it. I get why you’re doing what you’re doing. You know, or at least are very certain, that if I write a BIG book, (and by “BIG”, I mean with lots of opinions, and “with lots of opinions” I mean opinions that millions of women and men also have the same opinions. Oh, the irony) there is a HUGE risk involved. What if people disagree and write mean things about me on the internet? What if I don’t know enough about the topics and I’m criticized for that? But, I think the thing that scares you the most, is not bad reviews or haters...but the success of this book. With HTSFLS doing so well, this book has big shoes to fill. And by big shoes, I mean 100,000 copies in 16 months. A big book advance to PROVE how worthy my creativity is. Numbers have weight and there are so many numbers to contend with. To you, Fear, big numbers equal everything good and right in my life.... Read the rest of the letter HERE http://yourkickasslife.com/300 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 18, 2019
Episode 299: How to Start Finishing with Charlie Gilkey
Charlie Gilkey is back on the YKAL podcast this week, this time to talk about productivity with a twist. So many listeners offered such great feedback when he joined me on the podcast the first time around, that I knew I had to bring him back. For those of you new to Charlie, he is the founder of Productive Flourishing and the author of the new book, Start Finishing: How to Go From Idea to Done . Charlie helps people finish the stuff that matters. I mean, come on, we all could use a little bit of that in our lives, am I right? In this latest book, Charlie walks readers through some different perspectives around getting shit done, which we talk about in this episode. We touch on topics such as perfectionism and how it’s holding you back from reaching your goals, what to do when the naysayers or derailers don’t believe in your projects, and how to get motivated for a task you are dreading. Plus we talk understanding that you have moments of choice and how changing the way you talk to yourself (and about yourself) can change your life. This is a no-holds-barred conversation on productivity because quite honestly, it’s time to start finishing . In this episode you’ll hear: Why Start Finishing is different from other books on productivity (7:06) What to do when others don’t believe in your projects or ideas (20:00) How to get motivated to do the work you are dreading and what “confetti time” is (30:00) Fixing the load you are carrying so you can fix the overwhelm (35:04) Understanding you have moments of choice, changing your language and why it matters (39:00) http://yourkickasslife.com/299 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 11, 2019
YKAL Coaching Sessions: Values, Triggers, and How to Have Hard Conversations with Marisa
We like the idea of hiring a life coach, the idea of listening to all the podcasts, the idea of reading all the books and then, many times we don’t actually do the personal development work. Yes, doing this kind of what I call “passive learning” does matter. You are getting it in between your ears (better than your inner-critic!). But, there does come a time when action needs to happen. This week I have another YKAL Coaching episode for you. And Marisa, whom I coach in this episode, is a perfect example of someone doing the work . Let’s get into this week’s coaching session. Meet Marisa, a new entrepreneur and recruiting agency employee from North Carolina. She came to me because she wanted to learn how to slow down, which we talk about in this episode. But like many coaching sessions, our conversation took a turn. We turned to the topic of values, including the difference between perfectionism and striving for excellence, as well as, Marisa’s values around integrity and patience. And then the conversation zig-zagged to the topic of triggers around feedback and how her mother, starting from a young age, has been the source of that trigger. This is big stuff, y’all and I am so honored that Marisa opened up and was vulnerable in this way. In this episode you’ll hear: Being okay with slowing down and getting into the mindset that when you are building a business, it’s okay to pause (6:10) Wanting a better perspective and clarity around why she launched her business and keeping the entrepreneur fire lit (7:58) Exploring Marisa’s value around patience and the realization that she isn’t giving herself the same love she gives others in that arena (10:00) There’s a difference between perfectionism and striving for excellence (12:45) Self-fulfillment and living a life that honors her true, ‘why’. (19:00) How to have a hard and honest conversation with a loved one, and how the health of personal relationships is bigger than we realize (24:00) A super kick-ass update from Marisa and how she’s been doing the work (46:30) http://yourkickasslife.com/298 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 04, 2019
How to Unf*ck Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil
This week’s guest is going to knock your socks off, y’all. Kara Loewentheil is Master Certified Coach who has pivoted her law career into a life coaching business, using her background in feminism theory to help women get the patriarchy out of their brains. Kara is also the host of the podcast, Unf*ck Your Brain and simply a stunning individual. In today’s episode we talk all about the social messaging we receive as women and how this messaging plays into our own self-critical thoughts. Kara also talks about the work she does with women to undo the process and help them to think about themselves the way they want to. I’ve been looking forward to introducing you to Kara and I hope you enjoy our conversation. In this episode you’ll hear: The reason women’s inner critic or not feeling good is a direct result of the patriarchy (6:00) You can’t suddenly be nicer to yourself (aka inner critic work) (10:30) How Kara addresses thought work and those who have experienced trauma and why thought work is so personal (14:56) “Believing harder” when it comes to self-confidence and overcoming insecurity (19:50) There’s a disconnect between women taking action to get the things they really want and what is keeping them stuck (25:10) Beauty standards, diet culture and Kara’s commentary about it all (31:19) http://yourkickasslife.com/297 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 28, 2019
Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People - Andrea and Amy on Money
I am delighted for this week’s episode; for two reasons. First, we are back with an episode of Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People . And second, the unqualified person joining me is none other than my bestie, Amy E. Smith. If this your first time hearing her, I know you will love her. And if this isn’t the first time hearing Amy, well, welcome back! This week, we’re talking all about money. Everyone’s experience is different when it comes to money. Our stories vary, our circumstances might be different, but so many of us struggle in the same areas when it comes to money and our emotions. Amy has been on her own money journey for some time now and she even influenced me, gave me pause and helped me realize that I had a lot of money issues I needed to work on too. In this conversation, we share some of our own experiences with money, as well as some tips and tools with doing the work around money. We hope our conversation is hugely eye-opening and helpful. Let’s get on with it! In this episode you’ll hear: Why we think women have a unique perspective around money hang-ups (6:06) Unpacking our money stories and our relationships with it (8:01) Doing the work and shifting our perspective about money (18:00) Comparing money and income to others and trying to make others comfortable with your circumstances, plus some other money hangups we are still working on today (35:00) We also share some of our most elaborate money dreams (45:00) http://yourkickasslife.com/296 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 21, 2019
YKAL Coaching Sessions: Saying “No” and Putting Yourself First with Colleen
Raise your hand if you said yes to something you really didn’t want to do. And in doing so, you are saying no to something you actually WANT to do. It’s another exciting day here over YKAL headquarters, because it’s another coaching session episode. 🎉I really enjoy sharing these episodes and I hope you enjoy them too! This week I speak with Colleen, a professional dog walker, who wants to work through saying ‘No’ and putting herself first. I’m sure you’ll be able to relate to what Colleen is struggling with. Sometimes in your life you do have sacrifice in order to survive, which was Colleen’s case. But once you make it, it’s time to enjoy and make sure you are putting yourself first. When you are learning to say ‘No’, realize you are unlearning decades of conditioning. And this can be hard y’all. But at the end of the day, your life, your health matters. So, the hard work matters too. And that’s what Colleen and I dig into this YKAL coaching session. In this episode you’ll hear: Colleen’s struggle with tremendous guilt when saying ‘No’ to her customers (4:58) Anytime we are saying ‘No’ to something, we are saying ‘Yes’ to something else (7:46) Colleen’s lists of core beliefs when it comes to saying ‘No’ and then challenging them (10:58) What core beliefs are and where they stem from (17:46) Negativity bias, shifting your focus and finding positive examples of people who set boundaries (19:42) A kick-ass update from Colleen following our coaching session (46:19) http://yourkickasslife.com/295 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 14, 2019
The Courage Habit with Kate Courageous
To finish up the summer archived episodes run, I bring to you my conversation with Kate Courageous. This episode originally aired in May of last year - but the content is very much still applicable today! If you already heard it, it is worth listening to again. Kate is a dear friend of mine, as well, and I am thrilled that I can share this episode with you again, as it includes her thoughts on fear, courage, and the inner-critic. Kate is also the author of The Courage Habit: How to Accept Your Fears, Release the Past, and Live Your Courageous Life. I am so happy her book is available! Today, we cover the brain science behind courage habits, and identifying and then dealing with habits that are holding you back. In this episode you’ll hear: Four fear patterns that get people stuck Some ways we try to deal with fear The more you go into the things you fear, the wider your comfort zone becomes Reaching out and creating a community, courage-based values, and being vulnerable Fear is a wound and needs understanding and how to strike a balance with fear http://yourkickasslife.com/294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 07, 2019
Managing Your Inner Mean Girl with Amy Ahlers
We are back this week with another archived episode that is from a long time ago . In it, my friend and associate Amy Ahlers, author of, Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves and Reform Your Inner Mean Girl, talks about all things inner mean girl (aka inner critic)! Since the original airing of this episode, I have really gotten to know Amy. She has so much experience and tenure in the personal development industry, this woman knows her stuff , so I am happy to re-share this episode with you. We all love formulas and processes, right? Well, Amy has come up with a 3-step process for transforming your inner mean girl, which she talks about in the episode. In this episode, you’ll also hear: What exactly is inner-wisdom and what to do if we don’t know where to start when it comes to listening to it. I ask Amy what is the most common big fat lie women tell themselves. (The answer doesn’t surprise me at all!) Amy tells us what her biggest trigger is and what are the steps she actually takes to manage her own inner mean girl. I ask Amy about a blog post she wrote, “Is Your Need to Belong Sabotaging You?” and what do we do when we find ourselves changing who we are just to fit in and belong I love that Amy and I have so much of a similar philosophy about the inner-critic and I hope this episode is helpful to you! http://yourkickasslife.com/293 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 31, 2019
Managing the Motherload with Rebekah Borucki
Hey Ass Kickers! I hope you are having a happy summer. This week on the podcast, Rebekah “Bex” Borucki is back! For those of you who are new to Rebekah, she is a mother of five, TV host, a meditation and yoga guide, and, a birth Doula. She is also the author of two books, You Have 4 Minutes to Change Your Life and her newest book, Managing the Motherload . Rebekah’s mission is to make mental health support and stress management tools accessible to all, especially black and indigenous people of Color, LGBTQ plus folks and other marginalized communities. And I am super pumped to bring my conversation with Rebekah to you today. We discuss her new book, including some of the lessons she’s learned over the years from being a mother. But let’s be clear, before you check out of this episode, Rebekah states both in her book and in this episode, Managing the Motherload is not a parenting book. So if you aren’t a parent, today’s episode still applies to you. We discuss topics related to being a parent, but the same topics can be applied to supporting, caring and understanding anyone in your life. For instance, we discuss being a parent of a child that comes out as transgender and unrelated, why bragging can be important for your self-esteem. Be sure to tune in until the end to hear how you can enter to win a copy of Rebekah’s book! In this episode, you’ll hear: The whole idea behind her Rebekah, Managing the Motherload (8:14) How Rebekah has changed as a mother over the years (12:10) Understanding what really matters and what doesn’t (14:46) We talk about what Rebekah means when she says, “She was a mother before being a woman.” (14:58) The story of Rebekah’s son coming out as a transgender male and some advice from Rebekah for supporting your child who comes out (20:06) Bragging: why it’s important to do so and the best way to brag (31:35) http://yourkickasslife.com/292 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 24, 2019
Shame Shields and Making a Scene, with Susan Hyatt
This week I am sharing an archived episode, because ALL of us, including me, need to take a break every now and again. And I vowed to do just that this July. Today, I welcome you to listen to an oldie but goodie, my conversation with long-time friend, master certified life coach and as of this year, my coach, Susan Hyatt! Susan has been coaching for well over a decade and has thousands of fans, including Dr. Martha Beck and Maria Shriver! One of the things that has won her many fans is the fact that this woman walks her talk. She’s used coaching techniques to drop 35 pounds, revitalize her marriage and uplevel her career. We discuss a mishmash of topics including why body issues are holding women back from leading big lives, what we can do right now to make peace with our bodies, and why it’s so important to take big risks! In this episode, you’ll also hear: Pay gap, not thigh gap: why body concerns are distracting us from our real work. Why you’ll only reap big rewards if you risk something. What's the #1 way to be successful in career and relationships? What does Susan mean when she says “make a scene”? What are the three shame shields? What is the antidote to shame? What's the one thing comes up over and over that stops us from playing big? If you want the best worthiness workshop what should you do? Susan and I also touch on the necessity of feeling your feelings, even when it’s vulnerable and painful to do so and how to make a scene in your life. The subjects are deep, powerful and real but you’ll laugh along with us too. Enjoy! http://yourkickasslife.com/291 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 17, 2019
YKAL Coaching Sessions: Self-Worth and Money Issues, Part 2 with Melanie
This week we are back with part two of my coaching session around money with Melanie. The last time we left Melanie, she was going to be diving into some big work around money stories, core beliefs and self-worth. Today we are jumping right back into some big topics around money such as resentment, healing from the patriarchy, and getting to the bottom of unwanted identities. If you missed the first part of our conversation, you definitely want to listen to before checking out today’s episode. In this session, Melanie shares how she has been doing with some of the personal development homework assignments I gave her, including what has been working and what she has been resisting (and why). Oh and hey, I would love to know if you are liking these coaching episodes. It’s important for me to know which kind of episodes you love (or don’t), so I can continue to bring you the content you enjoy most! Thank you for joining us for this conclusion of Melanie’s coaching session on self-worth and money issues. In this episode, you’ll hear: Melanie shares how the personal development homework went including some resistance she was experiencing (5:06) Dispelling what journaling actually needs to be (5:59) Recognizing comparison issues with others when it comes to money (7:54) Shame as it relates to economic class, plus getting to the bottom of unwanted identities (14:02) Breaking down the belief that women need to be saved when it comes to money (14:46) There’s no such thing as consistency and that’s okay (22:28) Melanie’s hope for the future when it comes to working through issues around self-worth and money (32:10) http://yourkickasslife.com/290 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 10, 2019
YKAL Coaching Sessions: Self-Worth and Money Issues with Melanie
Hi Ass Kickers! We have another YKAL Coaching session episode this week. We received a lot of great feedback last month when I coached Rachel on the show. I am excited to be back again, this time with a two-part coaching episode featuring Melanie. If you can walk away from this culture without having any hangups around money, sex, or body image, you’re a-okay. But that’s the trifecta of women’s issues and most of us are feeling “meh”, or at least trying to do the work to resolve these issues. Such is the case with this week’s client, Melanie; a dog mom, working in the dental industry in Colorado. During today’s session, she opens up about some issues she has been having around money, including managing money, self-worth, and her core beliefs about what it means to be wealthy. I am so appreciative of women like Melanie for coming on the podcast and sharing their lives with us. At the end of the day, we are having conversations around the big topics that are hard for all of us. So, thank you, Melanie, for sharing and thank you, ass kickers, for listening. In this episode, you’ll hear: Uncovering Melanie’s issues around money (4:40) The role gender plays for Melanie when it comes to money (5:59) How and why self-worth is so tied up with our beliefs about money (6:41) The stories we make up about money and an exercise to help identify when you are making up a story (10:24) http://yourkickasslife.com/289 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 03, 2019
This Messy and Beautiful Life with Danny-J
This week on the podcast I welcome, Danny-J, an award-winning entrepreneur, keynote speaker, podcast host and storyteller. Danny-J's work can be heard in her weekly show, The Best Life Podcast and can be followed in real time on all the social media platforms. She uses her real "Jerry Springer Life" stories to engage with her audience, teach life lessons and inspire others to rewrite their stories. And y’all, just wait until you hear some of her stories in this episode! Danny-J shares her story of teen pregnancy and the decision to place her daughter for adoption, plus she details how she learned she had a biological father and met him many years later as an adult. It is so refreshing to hear honest and open stories of those in the personal development field. Danny-J shares how she processed everything and made it through to the other side. Plus, we talk about core beliefs and letting go of the ones that no longer serve you, changing negative self-talk and affirmations (are they actually bullshit or not?). Danny-J is totally, “my people” and I am excited to share our conversation with you today. In this episode, you’ll hear: Danny-J’s teen pregnancy, the decision to place her child for adoption and reuniting with her many years later (7:13) Knowing when it’s time to rewrite your story and some steps to take to get there (20:04) Affirmations: are they really bullshit and how you may be able to use them, but don’t work by themselves (24:56) Finding the tools that work for you when life gets really messy (31:07) Danny-J’s story of finding out she had biological father, meeting him years later and how it has affected her life, her identity piece and the world around her (38:14) http://yourkickasslife.com/288 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 26, 2019
How to change other people (hint: you can’t)
Today’s podcast episode comes from a podcast listener. She asks: I am wondering if you have any strategies for how to help move people to a place of readiness to change? I have been doing a lot of work on myself over the past two years and am feeling so much better in my life and I notice myself wanting to spread this joy to others and show them they too can feel better! There is one person in particular in my life who I am very close to who is raising two daughters who I am even closer to. I find it very hard to sit back and watch her suffer due to her lack of skills with dealing with difficult emotions, social anxiety, and control issues. I know she is definitely not ready to change from previous conversations. She immediately shuts down any time someone tries to hold her accountable for her part in problems, uses silent treatment with them, takes no ownership for her actions and shows no awareness that all signs point to her having significant social anxiety. My heart SO wants to help this person. It is more difficult watching the pattern begin to repeat itself in her daughters. I know logically that there is nothing I can do because people have to be ready to change. And I have to let go of the attachment that I can "change someone". But I guess I am hopeful there are ways to support someone in moving towards being ready to change. How does one gently increase a person’s awareness? Raise your hand if you’ve ever been in a situation where you KNOW you can help someone or at least point them in the direction of helping them out. 🙋🙋🙋 I have much to say about this-- the do’s and don’t’s and everything in between. Listen in as I also tell you HOW to say what can be helpful for your friend or loved one, as well as how to take care of yourself. http://yourkickasslife.com/287 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 19, 2019
YKAL Coaching Sessions: Upper Limit Problems with Rachel
I am especially pumped for today's episode because it is the first time I am coaching someone on the podcast. I am so excited ! But, before I dive into the content of today’s episode, I wanted to give a crash course in life coaching (for anyone new to the concept) and share how I actually coach my clients. Traditionally, life coaches act as a guide when working with clients. They ask the right questions or offer clients different perspectives. One important item to note: life coaches don't give advice nor do they give their opinion. The way I work with clients is a mix between life coaching and consulting or advising. Because I've been doing this work for so long and with the same type of woman, I see patterns over and over and over again, which helps me better help those I work with. I also get really curious. You will hear this as you listen to my session with Rachel. Speaking of Rachel, she is one of my past group coaching participants and kindly agreed to do this special podcast coaching session episode. During the session, we discussed her fear of advancing in her career, which we identified as an upper limit problem (which I KNOW is a common struggle!). We also uncovered a quiet, yet powerful inner voice that says, “Yes, you can do this.” The session is thought-provoking, empowering and engaging. I have been thinking about doing this kind of podcast episode for so long. The day has finally arrived and I hope you enjoy it! In this episode, you’ll also hear: Uncovering Rachel’s upper limit problem and discussing aspired values (20:04) Explanation of an upper limit problem, what it is and how to address it (24:26) An exercise in talking through the worst case scenario when it comes perceptions by people in the workplace (30:54) Uncovering a quiet yet powerful inner voice or what Rachel refers to as a vibration or wave (42:46) A kick-ass update from Rachel (1:04:04) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 12, 2019
What We Should Know About Social Justice with Dr. Tee Williams
This week’s episode has been a long time coming. It all started back in 2016, following the presidential election. At the time, I realized I needed to take a step back and unlearn a lot of the things that I had learned as a young adult. I needed to look at many important things through a new lens and figure out what I could do with my platform that's helpful to those that follow me. The thing is, if you’re “doing” personal development (whether you’re a student, teacher, or both), the topic of social justice matters. The end. I spent a decent amount of time conversing with people, reading, and listening to podcasts about societal justice, the patriarchy, and race relations, all in an attempt to understand, at a deeper level, the world that surrounds me. One of the people I’ve been learning from is Dr. Tee Williams. Dr. Tee is an educator, consultant, and writer residing in Los Angeles. His passion is helping people and organizations transform themselves so that together we can collectively transform the world. The online world of social justice can be very confusing and overwhelming, am I right ? What can we do? Who do we learn from? Where do we start? What does social justice mean? And, what does liberation mean? These words and phrases get thrown around so much . And the reality is, a lot of us don't know what they actually mean or look like. Dr. Tee is here this week to help us sort it out and make sense of it all. And y’all, he teaches with such grace and a great sense of humor. He is a great pleasure, I am sure you will agree! In this episode you’ll hear: What we can do and why should we do it when it comes to standing up for social justice (6:57) The importance of using your brilliance and critical thinking in the evaluation and the incorporation of information being shared in media, online and in the world around you (10:30) What liberation means, the critical liberation theory, and liberation as a framework and philosophy (15:09) The difference between calling in versus calling out (46:45) Doing the work to come back from saying or doing homophobic, heterosexist or racist comments or acts (47:16) Unpacking feelings of hurt, oppression and injustice so you can learn and move forward (51:26) http://yourkickasslife.com/285 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 05, 2019
Episode 284: Let’s Talk About LOVE with Kira Sabin
Hey ass kickers! I'm happy to bring you today’s podcast episode with guest, Kira Sabin. Kira is a positive psychology practitioner and a certified life coach. She is obsessed with having bigger conversations around love and relationships; annnnd , Kira is a real life friend of mine, which means I am EXTRA excited to share this episode with you. This week we are talking about relationships, Kira’s area of expertise. But wait, even if you aren’t partnered, stick with us. The conversation we're having today doesn't matter if you are partnered or if you are single. This episode is for everyone because all humans are in some kind of relationship and are deserving of love. In this episode we discussed love and what it actually is (or can be), the knowledge that love is for everyone and how to overcome feelings of unworthiness. In this episode you’ll hear: What nobody teaches us about love and why Kira doesn’t believe in love at first sight (7:28) The knowledge that love is for everyone, why many don’t feel worthy of love and how to shift that thinking (14:07) How attached people can be wonderful for their single friends (20:05) Life lessons from Kira: one of Kira’s biggest regrets and the best piece of advice she’s didn’t take and had to learn the hard way (23:56) Family of origin and being taught how you learned to love (32:59) Why the missing piece to relationships is vulnerability (40:02) http://yourkickasslife.com/284 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 29, 2019
Episode 283: How to stop comparing your personal development journey to others
Hi ass kickers! This solo episode comes from something one of my clients told me about, and it was something I’ve heard from many women in the YKAL community. My client went to a live event-- a personal development sort of conference/retreat. She went alone, and this particular client is, like many people, massively uncomfortable with vulnerability, but really wants to change and grow, so she did the vulnerable thing by going alone to this event. The event was all women, and a few hundred there. As the days went on, my client kept noticing people talking about their “a-ha” moments, their breakthroughs, and how their felt their lives shifting. And my client was feeling...well, not that. It’s not that she didn’t enjoy herself and have many takeaways from the event. But, she fell into comparisonitis. Listen to the episode as I talk more about what to do if you find yourself comparing your personal development journey to someone else’s. http://yourkickasslife.com/podcast/283/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 22, 2019
Episode 282: The Science of Happiness with Dr. Sasha Heinz
This week Dr. Sasha Heinz is hanging out with me on the podcast. And as usual, I am super excited! I can’t help it, y’all-- I get excited when I get to talk to someone who I know in real life mostly because I CAN’T WAIT to introduce them to YOU. Sasha is my friend, is very, very smart and talks about all of the things we love to talk about over here at the YKAL headquarters, like negative self-talk and perfectionism. She is a Developmental Psychologist and Life Coach, is an expert in Positive Psychology, lasting behavioral change, and the science of getting unstuck. In today’s episode we talk about being deliberate with our thinking and how doing so has an effect on our emotions. We also talk about negative emotions and how we can have either gratuitous negative emotions or instructive negative emotions (and what that all means, plus what I call them instead of “negative” emotions). And we also tackle the million dollar question, “How can someone get to a place of worthiness, of feeling worthy?” In this episode you’ll hear: What positive psychology means and how it got started (5:22) Being deliberate about your thinking so that your emotions are moving you toward the life you want to be living and who you want to be (15:03) Worthiness and feeling like you are not enough and some steps to help get to a place of worthiness (16:10) The science of happiness and how your circumstances really don't dictate your happiness (30:06) Social media and emotions - why we would all be much happier by deleting our social media feeds (38:40) http://yourkickasslife.com/282 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 15, 2019
Taking Up Space with Kelly Covert
I am super excited to bring you this episode for three reasons! First, I have a fun confession at the top of the show. Second, I make an announcement about a new addition to the podcast format and let me tell you, I am soooo excited about it. And last, but certainly not least, I am thrilled to share my conversation with Kelly Covert! Kelly is the creator of In Her Voice , a podcast for women who are called to do more. Yes, Kelly, yes! She is also an inner voice coach with a passion for helping women believe and achieve their big vision. I simply love this woman and I have no doubt you will too. In today’s episode, you’ll hear Kelly and I talk about inner voice coaching and what it is. Plus, we talk about the importance of taking up space in the world as a woman, which in a nutshell means deciding you are worthy of sharing your story, your thoughts, and your feelings without fear or regret. Finally, we close out our conversation on the topic of inspired potential and how tapping into it is not about having to live up to something, but instead it is about something that you live into . Kelly offers so much wisdom and insight into connecting with your inner voice. I loved our conversation and I hope you do too! In this episode you’ll hear: What inner voice coaching is and how someone can become more connected to their own voice of truth (6:08) How to start a practice of quieting your negative self talk and tune into your inner voice (7:49) Taking up space in the world and some small steps that people can take towards doing so (18:38) Inspired potential, what it is and why it’s so important (37:36) http://yourkickasslife.com/281 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 08, 2019
Unleash Your Story with Jeanette LeBlanc
It’s May y’all, I just come alive in the springtime! I am equally excited to bring you my conversation with Jeanette LeBlanc, writer and author of the book, “You Are Not Too Much.” I have followed her work for a while and think she's a brilliant writer. And yes, in this episode we're going to be talking about writing. Specifically, we talk about writing rituals, how to create one and use it to connect with your story. Plus, we talk about how writing can be transformative and even therapeutic. If you don't consider yourself a writer, don’t skip this episode. Why? Well, because we also touch on that topic too. I believe that we are all writers in our own right and we all have a story to share. Whether you plan on sharing your story with one person, nobody or millions, writing can be an amazing outlet for creativity and meditation. In this episode you’ll hear: Why “I’m not a writer, so nevermind,” doesn’t fly with Jeanette and why helping people that think that way is her passion (5 minutes and 25 seconds) Jeanette shares her journey as a writer including how she wrote herself out of one life and into another (6:06) Free writing, what it is and do people really have a hard time doing it? (11:47) How the act of writing can transform you and change how you show up in the world (27:57) Writing rituals, what they are, what people think they are and how someone can begin a writing ritual to connect with their story (29:16) http://yourkickasslife.com/280 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 01, 2019
44 things I’ve learned in 44 years, Part 3
Hi ass kicker! Happy birthday to Your Kick-Ass Life Podcast! She is SIX YEARS OLD! 🎉🎉🎉To celebrate, over the last few weeks I’ve been taking you through 44 Things I’ve Learned in 44 Years. If you missed the previous episodes of this list, you can see and listen to part 1 HERE and part 2 HERE . Today’s episode, part 3, will take you through numbers 29-44. Also, there’s still time to enter the giveaway for a chance to win one of many prizes! You can do that HERE. So, without further ado, here are 44 Things I’ve Learned in 44 Years: Cleaning up my own messes is the best way to sleep at night. This means apologizing when I’ve been an asshole and just generally doing my best to fix things I’ve made a mess of. Taking radical responsibility for my life is the only option. No one else is responsible for my happiness. No one. My children don’t define me. I used to think becoming a mother would be my ultimate life purpose. It isn’t. I used to have a lot of guilt and shame about that. But, I don’t anymore. No relationship will complete me. Not a single one. “Taking the edge off” really needed to be examined . For me, I was taking off all the edges. And sometimes edges just need to be dealt with. Many times exercise really is the best medicine. The voice in my head that tells me I’m not enough is a liar. Progress, not perfection. If I listen, my body is usually trying to tell me something. I only apologize when I really, truly can stand behind it. There will always be people that don’t like me and it’s not my job to change their minds. (I admit this one is still tough. It’s a one-day-at-a-time lesson.) My parents did the best they could, with what they had at that time. And as parents, that’s all we can do. Forgiveness is more about me, and not them. Time really doesn’t heal all wounds—I’m in charge of that. Time helps, but being proactive is the catalyst . All wisdom is created from healed pain Trying to control everything is my one-way ticket on the crazy train. Sometimes I forget this and get on board. The comparison trap is basically made-up stories of what I think someone else’s life is like We’re all scared . We all have fear. The people that say they are fearless are just pretending. Read the rest of the list HERE http://yourkickasslife.com/279 Learn more
Wed, April 24, 2019
44 things I’ve learned in 44 years, Part 2
Hey ass kickers! Continuing from last week I’ve written 44 Things I’ve Learned in 44 Years and am breaking it up into 3 parts! Part 1 was last week and today is Part 2! In Part 3 which will air on May 1st, you’ll get the list in its entirety. And if you haven’t heard, last week was MY BIRTHDAY! 🎉🎉🎉Not only that, but coming up on May 1st, Your Kick-Ass Life Podcast is turning SIX YEARS OLD! To celebrate BOTH birthdays, we’re giving away some prizes. A coaching session with me, gift cards, books, and more! Click HERE to see the prizes and enter to win. Here’s part 2, and if you missed it, please listen to part 1 . All wisdom is created from healed pain Trying to control everything is my one-way ticket on the crazy train. Sometimes I forget this and get on board. The comparison trap is basically made-up stories of what I think someone else’s life is like We’re all scared . We all have fear. The people that say they are fearless are just pretending. None of us get out of this alive. And in the end, I want to be proud how I lived it. At your funeral, no one will talk about your failures. So, keep failing until you get it right. Uncomfortable conversations are always hard. However, that elephant in the room isn’t going anywhere (and takes up a lot of space)—so you might as well call it out. Most people really are too busy thinking about themselves to be obsessing about you like you think they are. That person that treats you like shit is a giant invitation to not be around that person, ever. If you spend time nosing in other people’s business, there’s probably something important in your life you’re purposely avoiding dealing with . Having an open mind can many times blow your mind. None of us are broken or need fixing. Improvement, yes. Whatever you think you are, will be your truth. And you are completely in charge of that, babe. The moment in an argument that you realize you’re either being unreasonable, that the other person has a point, or that you’re just wrong, is the exact moment it’s time to admit it and apologize. This is just the beginning! Stay tuned for next week when you’ll hear Part 3 which is the podcast’s birthday! 🎊🎊🎊 http://yourkickasslife.com/278 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 15, 2019
44 things I’ve learned in 44 years, Part 1
Hey ass kickers! Guess what? It’s MY BIRTHDAY! 🎉🎉🎉 In celebration, you’re getting the podcast episode a couple days early AND we’re doing a GIVEAWAY! Not only is it my birthday today, but coming up on May 1st, Your Kick-Ass Life Podcast is turning SIX YEARS OLD! To celebrate BOTH birthdays, we’re giving away some prizes. A coaching session with me, gift cards, books, and more! Click HERE to see the prizes and enter to win. I’ve written 44 Things I’ve Learned in 44 Years and will be breaking it up into 3 parts, because obviously I want to talk to about all the 44 things! In Part 3 which will air on May 1st, you’ll get the list in its entirety. Cleaning up my own messes is the best way to sleep at night. This means apologizing when I’ve been an asshole and just generally doing my best to fix things I’ve made a mess of. Taking radical responsibility for my life is the only option. No one else is responsible for my happiness. No one. My children don’t define me. I used to think becoming a mother would be my ultimate life purpose. It isn’t. I used to have a lot of guilt and shame about that. But, I don’t anymore. No relationship will complete me. Not a single one. “Taking the edge off” really needed to be examined . For me, I was taking off all the edges. And sometimes edges just need to be dealt with. Many times exercise really is the best medicine. The voice in my head that tells me I’m not enough is a liar. Progress, not perfection. If I listen, my body is usually trying to tell me something. I only apologize when I really, truly can stand behind it. There will always be people that don’t like me and it’s not my job to change their minds. (I admit this one is still tough. It’s a one-day-at-a-time lesson.) My parents did the best they could, with what they had at that time. And as parents, that’s all we can do. Forgiveness is more about me, and not them. Time really doesn’t heal all wounds—I’m in charge of that. Time helps, but being proactive is the catalyst . This is just the beginning! Stay tuned for next week when you’ll hear Part 2, and then on May 1st (the podcasts birthday!) you’ll get part 3! http://yourkickasslife.com/277 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 10, 2019
Be impractical
Well, hello there, ass kickers! I’m ESPECIALLY excited about today’s episode because it’s an episode that truly came from the fire in my heart. After a client session, I sat down, turned on the mic, and birthed a talk I think you’ll love. Special thanks to Kelly, who was open enough for me to use her session topic for this episode. In this episode you’ll hear: Kelly’s struggle with building self-trust and putting yourself out there Why there is no step-by-step process for building self-trust - whomp, whomp! But there is a way to gain self-trust (and its sister, self-confidence) What the ONE JOB is of your inner-critic Listening to your intuition vs. your inner-critic and stepping out of your comfort zone The importance of pursuing what makes you happy even if it seems impractical And if you loved this episode, you may want to check out working with me 1:1. There are three ways to do so: My longer, deeper work that focuses on curriculum stemmed from all of my training, including The Daring Way™ (methodology from Brené Brown’s research) click HERE . A shorter package that packs a punch-- these sessions are all open. In other words, no curriculum. YOU pick your primary focus and we dive in). Click HERE for that. Last, you can book a VIP Day, where I can come to you, or we can meet at an agreed upon destination. Click HERE to hang out with me during a VIP Day. http://yourkickasslife.com/276 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 03, 2019
Sometimes you have to just ride it out
You might be going through a really tough season in your life. You might be in that near desperate or full-on desperate place of wanting your situation to change. Maybe you’re going through a really hard break up. Or you hate your job. Or someone at work is a nightmare. Or your partner’s ex is making life hell for you. Many times, there’s no ANSWER or SOLUTION that will change how you feel or the situation you are in. You may know the tools, you may have the support, maybe you’ve done therapy and your year has just SUCKED. It’s continuing to suck and it feels like there’s no end in sight. The answer, the solution is that you have to just persevere . I have so much more to say on this, so if this is you or you know someone who is in this place (or you suspect you might be in this spot one day), this is for you. Also, I have two spots for 1:1 coaching right now, if you want to read about my longer package, you can click here , or a VIP Day is here. http://yourkickasslife.com/275 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 27, 2019
How to Be Resilient in the Face of Adversity Cornell Thomas
Okay y'all, this week’s guest, Cornell Thomas, is my new best friend. Seriously. He is also the perfect example of turning a loss into a win. One week before accomplishing his dream of playing professional basketball, he suffered a career ending injury. And rather than stay in, “Why me?” mode, he turned his attention to, “What now?,” instead. Today Cornell is a global speaker, multiple title author, mindset coach, corporate trainer, and social entrepreneur. And you know what else he is? He is funny, endearing and passionate about fostering a positive mindset to overcome adversity. I absolutely adore him and I know you will too. In this episode Cornell shares so poignantly his story of adversity and how he overcame it. He also provides some insight and advice to those who may be facing their own internal or external battles. Midway through the episode, Cornell and I both get fired up about writing and putting your story to paper. Just do it! We go on to talk about being resilient and how to actually practice resilience when a storm comes and knocks you on your ass. Finally, Cornell reminds us why gratitude is always the answer. Yes life is hard, but this episode is a reminder that you can be resilient and move past adversity with gratitude and grace. In this episode you’ll hear: Cornell’s story of adversity and how he turned “Why me?” into “What now?” (9:30) If you have story inside of you, get it out on paper! (24:08) Saying, “No,” to things you like to, in order to do the things you love (28:42) Some ways to practice resilience in the face of adversity and the importance of weathering life’s “storms” (31:40) Fatigue mindset: what it is, how to overcome it and finding your finish line (35:36) http://yourkickasslife.com/274 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 20, 2019
Living Your Own Truth with L’Erin Alta
The first inkling of Spring is in the air and it’s got me pumped! You know what else has me pumped? Starting in April I’ll be rolling out something new over here at YKAL headquarters. If you like the podcast, then I think you will like what I am cooking up. I’m going to start sending short, to the point, “lift your day up” emails. They’ll be informative and kick-ass (obviously). They’ll go out to YKAL subscribers about 2-3 times a month. So, if you want in, you can click HERE to sign up. Alright, alright, alright, now onto this week’s episode! I welcome the ever lovely, L’Erin Alta. L’Erin is a personal growth facilitator for women. She teaches women how to stand in the brilliance of their own light. CAN I GET A HELL YES!? I followed her online for a long time and I am currently in a year-long program she is teaching. She is so wise and exudes so much peace. I just can’t get enough of her. I know you’ll love her just as much as I do! In this episode L’Erin and I talk about living your own truth and stepping into your sovereignty (plus what that all means). We also have an insightful conversation about getting comfortable with people being disappointed in you when you break out of your “good girl” shell. Plus, we talk about creating internal boundaries and why they are essential. Our conversation is one about growth, self-acceptance and expanding your curiosity; all without compromising who you were always meant to be. In this episode you’ll hear: What is a sovereign woman and how you can move towards becoming one (6:52) Why we fall into the trap of self-doubt and self-trust (8:14) Shatter points, what are they and what are some turtle steps to take when walking through them (14:16) Some ways to let the “good girl” die and set the world on fire and being comfortable with disappointing people (18:08) Creating healthy internal boundaries are essential, plus some examples (24:14) L’Erin’s routine and rituals that help keep her grounded (30:23) http://yourkickasslife.com/273 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 13, 2019
Conversations About Shit That Matters With Unqualified People: Andrea and Ella on Aging
This week I bring to you another conversation about shit that matters with unqualified people. My good friend Ella returns to the podcast to join me in a candid talk about the aging process. Ella is an Inspirational Speaker, a Personal Development Coach and the host of the popular On Air with Ella – a podcast about living better, starting now. She’s also an “IRL” friend, who lives locally to me. Ella and I are in this awkward and uncomfortable mid-life time in our lives. We know we’re just beginning into this “tipping point” into the aging process (I mean, the part where you see marked changes). This topic is something that comes up in our discussions every once in a while and, I thought it would be good to bring to the YKAL community. Take note, this is not a conversation between two women complaining about aging. I promise. These episodes are all about the real conversations I have with the women in my life. And serve as a reminder that like you, I don’t have everything figured out either. These episodes are here to help us all think a little bit more critically about life and look at things with a little bit of humor too. In this episode you’ll hear: Why conversations about aging are really about acceptance “Aging gracefully” and what we really think of the phrase In the weeds of the aging process and getting to a place of contentment Grappling with the idea of getting Botox or other aesthetics aging treatments The patriarchy, aging and becoming “unfuckable” The gray hair debate and going gray Not throwing in the towel: showing up as vital regardless of age http://yourkickasslife.com/272 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 06, 2019
Expand and Energize Your Life with Susan Hyatt
This week on the YKAL podcast, I am especially excited to introduce you to my guest, Susan Hyatt. Susan is a Master Certified Life Coach, weight loss expert and creator of the Bare™ process. And if you ever wondered who coaches me to be my absolute best professionally and even personally - it’s Mrs. Susan Hyatt! She holds a special place in my heart, plus we go waaaay back. This week Susan joins me to discuss her new book, BARE , and the seven-step process she outlines to help transform your body, get more energy, feel amazing and become the bravest version of yourself. Yes, Susan, YES! I wholeheartedly agree with everything she has to say in her latest book and cannot wait for you to hear our conversation. But wait, there’s more! You’ll hear, in this episode, how you can win a free copy of Susan’s book, BARE , plus another bonus giveaway. In this episode Susan and I talk about diet culture in today’s society and the need for appreciating your body. We also touch on the importance of eating with attentiveness, a new approach to exercise and how to look at clothing in a whole new way. Finally we talk about practicing self-love with bravery and grace and the power to embody who you are without fear or regret - own it ! In this episode you’ll hear: About the diet culture that exists today and the need to appreciate the body you’re in (3:54) Susan’s experience with a coach and the question that changed things for her life (7:51) Power foods and pleasure foods and the importance of eating with attentiveness (14:17) The benefits of exercise and a new approach to exercise (21:47) How to take a new look at your closet and the effect your clothing has on you (26:19) How to detox your mind and talk to yourself with love (29:03) Why it’s hard to stay consistent with healthy habits (36:09) The importance of reshaping your mind and your life and harnessing your energy for things that impact your life (39:01) http://yourkickasslife.com/271 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 27, 2019
Episode 270: My inner critic and how I manage it
If you've read my books, you know I write about the inner critic a lot. In fact, you can't escape me talking about the inner critic in most of my work. And guess what, this week’s podcast episode is all about the inner critic too. Because the way you speak to yourself, the thoughts that run through your mind and even how you speak about yourself to other people, matters. It matters significantly. Managing your inner critic was one of the first real tools I learned in my coach training. It blew my mind that you can actually learn how to manage this voice in your head. And, I’ve come a long way, y’all. A long way . I do want to be clear, managing your inner critic is not about completely eradicating your negative self talk. That’s never going to happen. Sorry, not sorry. Sometimes when we listen to people on podcasts or we read their self-help books, we can think, ”Well, I'm sure they have it all together. They don’t have these problems anymore. They're so evolved and have kicked their inner critic to the curb.” I'm here to tell you I still have bouts of anxiety. I still have inner critic spirals. I still have compare and despair issues, at times. In this episode I share some stories from my own life about where my inner critic shows up and the tools I use to manage. While on the surface it can look like someone has it all together, we’re all doing the work, one day at a time. The good news is this: you can create new neural pathways in your brain, to where you can you catch your inner critic very quickly. Then you don’t have to go down those seemingly never ending spirals of negative self talk, again and again. Got it? Good. In this episode you’ll hear: About the time I found myself in an inner critic spiral at a red light Some ways I manage my inner critic About the Inner critic and how it can show up in relationships The importance of recognizing your triggers Last thing, if you haven’t applied to be a part of The Mentorship Masterclass , there’s still time and a handful of spots open? If you’re a woman who’s ready to implement all the tools you hear about on this podcast, have accountability, be guided by me and surrounded by other amazing, kick-ass woman, you need to get your booty over the info page, and if you’re heart is like YES, PLEASE, fill out an application. http://yourkickasslife.com/270 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 20, 2019
Episode 269: Are you winning at goal setting? with Keith McArthur
This week on the podcast, I am super pumped to share with you my conversation with Keith McArthur. Keith is the creator of My Instruction Manual , a website, podcast and book series providing high-quality personal development and content. He is also the author of the new book, “Winning Resolutions: Achieve Your Biggest Goals and Wildest Dreams Once and For All.” I’ve been on Keith’s podcast twice and know him to be an amazing interviewer. This week, y’all, the tables have turned and Keith is my guest! So back in January, I released an episode called, “New Year New You”, in which I said, loud and clear, that you do not need a morning routine or for that matter, any routine that doesn’t fit your lifestyle. But yet, I also realize that the new year can be overwhelming for many. That’s why I invited Keith to the show to talk about ways to calm the New Year overwhelm, help shift our mindset around goal setting, and share what he knows about our environment and how it can affect goal achieving. Plus, he shares what values, shame and commitment have to do with it all. In this episode you’ll hear: Why we put so much pressure on ourselves at the start of a new year and how shame comes into play (11:49) Keith’s take on the “New Year, New You” mentality (13:27) The biggest mistake people make when creating a goal or resolution. Plus, some science-based strategies for achieving your biggest, baddest goals (16:19) How an accountability partner can help you with goals and the science behind finding the right accountability partner (25:03) Some ways to get back on track if you lose sight or abandon a goal, hint: think ahead! (27:43) Taking control of your environment and some ways to structure your environment for goal success (40:34) Lastly, ummm...why haven’t you applied to be a part of The Mentorship Masterclass ? I know many of you have, but if you’re a woman who’s ready to implement all the tools you know and love (well, maybe like), have accountability, be guided by me and surrounded by other amazing, kick-ass woman, you need to get your booty over the info page, and if you’re heart is like YES, PLEASE, fill out an application. http://yourkickasslife.com/269 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 13, 2019
Episode 268: Real Experiences from Women Who Have Done the Work
This week on the podcast I have something a little different. I know you like to hear stories from women in the YKAL community once in awhile, so I’ve brought you two of them. You might hear some of yourself in their stories! Both of these women have gone through my signature program, The Mentorship Masterclass , and I hope you’re inspired when you hear what they’ve gained in their lives. First we hear from Courtney. Courtney has struggled with shame, not even realizing it was such a driving force in her life. Courtney says when she would start to feel good in her life, her mind would automatically wander and take inventory of all the “bad things” she’d done (in psychology this is called “confirmation bias”-- the way we tend to search for or recall information that confirms our core beliefs. And often these core beliefs are negative.) You’ll hear what happened when Courtney was taught the steps of shame resilience and the tools to implement them on the regular. Honestly, this woman’s transformation brings tears to my eyes. I’ve had the honor to work with her most of 2018, seen the ups and downs of her journey, and her unwavering commitment to her growth-- albeit massively uncomfortable at times. I hope her story gives you hope for your own life as well. Then we hear from Karissa. Karissa is the type who stays “all up in her head”-- convinced she can think her way through things. Karissa says she was struggling with how to get from point A to point B when it came to personal development. Self-help to her, for a long time, was done through reading all the books and listening to all the podcasts. And as a perfectionist, she was really struggling with where to go next in her journey. Some of Karissa’s work focused on emotions, more specifically learning tools to walk through and process them, and trusting herself that she would be okay if she just let them ride. Both of these women share their journey from being a podcast listener and self-help book reader, to diving in deeper. We’re currently accepting applications for the next round of The Mentorship Masterclass, you can read all about it here and apply. I’d love to chat with you to see if it’s for you. http://yourkickasslife.com/268 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 06, 2019
Episode 267: Consent, Emotional Intelligence and More with Karen B.K. Chan
This week on the podcast we are talking about consent and some other extremely vulnerable topics with guest, Karen B.K. Chan. Karen is an award-winning sex and emotional literacy educator in Toronto, Canada, with over 20 years of experience. She is trained in creative facilitation, productive thinking and nonviolent communication. I have had Karen on my podcast guest wishlist for such a long time. I was so enthralled with her website. I read ALL.THE.THINGS. she has created, watched her YouTube channel and more. She is an amazing Emotional Intelligence educator and I'm excited for you to hear our conversation. In this episode Karen and I talk a lot about emotions, so much emotions y’all. But not only do we talk about emotions, Karen provides insightful advice and information on how to actually deal with emotions, how to feel our feelings and do the work . We also dive into sexual consent; how to navigate it, how to overcome emotional and social barriers relating to consent and letting go of guilt for creating boundaries around sexual intimacy. In this episode you’ll hear: Some ways to better deal with our emotions (8:42) How learning to navigate your feelings can lead to an outlet of creative expression, especially writing (11:24) How to deal with emotions when you are stressed or burnt out (16:01) Being innovative in your personal relationships as it relates to empathy, emotion, human connection and clarity (18:58) Working to decrease unconscious biases in our lives (28:37) Social and emotional barriers to sexual consent and how we can overcome them (37:14) How to let go of guilt for creating boundaries around sexual intimacy or sexual encounters (46:21) http://yourkickasslife.com/267 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 30, 2019
Episode 266: Where did your wildness go?
Hey there, ass kickers! Solo pod episode today, WHOOP! I start today’s show with a question from one of the amazing supporters over on Patreon (btw, the show is now listener supported! Check it out here. ) Erica asks, “How can we celebrate our small wins on our self-development journey? Could there be a podcast on different ways we can encourage ourselves to look at how far we have come instead of focusing on our shortcomings?” Such a great question! I go into 5 or 6 different ways you can do this. Then, it’s off to the main content! A few weeks ago I was listening to Scene on Radio, an excellent podcast. It was episode 10, in season 3 where it was a man telling a story about his son going to 6th grade and the changes that took place-- I’ll let you listen to it (it’s REALLY good, please go listen to both season 2 and 3). There was a particular part where Terry Real, psychologist was talking and said something in particular that stopped me, and I had to pause the podcast, and cry. He talks about how children are made to “halve” themselves, to cut off certain parts of themselves (generally speaking for boys, it’s emotions). He talks about a certain age when “the patriarchy hits kids, lands on them, the psychic results can be severe”. He goes on to say, “Now if you read the literature on girls and girls development, that trauma-- and I use that word on purpose-- is traumatic to excise, to cut off half of your humanity, that trauma lands on girls about 11, 12, 13-- the edge of adolescence. That’s when they learn what Carol Gilligan calls ‘the tyranny of the nice and kind’. They learn to over accommodate and resent it. That’s the traditional set up. Fifty years of the women’s movement has changed that for a lot of girls and women, but it’s still part of the culture.” So, in essence, as we enter puberty, (and btw, he goes on in this episode to talk about how it hits even younger for boys), we learn about how to be. We learn to be nice and kind and accommodating. We learn to put others’ feelings, wants and needs before ours. Join me in this podcast episode as I explore this more, and ask a series of questions for you to answer about your own life to get the parts of you back that you were conditioned to let go of. Download the worksheet that accompanies this episode: http://yourkickasslife.com/266 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 23, 2019
Episode 265: Creating An Intimate Relationship with Yourself with Allana Pratt
This week Allana Pratt, relationship intimacy expert, joins me on the podcast. She inspires open-hearted, unapologetic living. Allana and I go waaay back. She embodies such an amazing energy and has a true intimacy with herself, both of which I truly admire. She is divine. In this episode Allana and I talk about being vulnerable in relationships, cultivating rich, intimate relationships with ourselves, as well as, listening to our intuition. We also talk about the aging process and some ways we can embrace it with grace and humor. Plus, we talk about how to better harness our anger and the importance of releasing it in healthy ways. In this episode you’ll hear: Cultivating intimate relationships with ourselves and “In To Me I See” (11:00) Lack of trust and vulnerability in relationships: what you can do (12:52) What intimacy looks like for Allana and how she went from “victim to goddess” (19:32) Allana shares some ways to embrace and find humor in the aging process (27:07) Valuing your own self-worth and knowing you are enough (36:28) How to better harness your anger and/or rage (41:50) http://yourkickasslife.com/265 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 16, 2019
Episode 264: How to Give and Receive Love with Nicole Moore
I have another great conversation this week, this time with love coach, Nicole Moore. Nicole helps powerful, amazing women find their ideal partner using her signature Love Works Method . Before you dismiss this episode, hang on! This episode is not just for singles. We talk about love in general. There’s a bunch of wisdom in this episode for singles and those partnered up. I hope you stick around and listen to this amazing conversation with Nicole. In this episode Nicole and I talk about rewriting your childhood love story and overcoming love trauma, shifting your awareness around love, and how you can let love in by looking at your mind-body connection. Plus, we dive into an important conversation about self-trust and your emotions, how to know if you’ve settled in a relationship, what “being love” means and the number one thing anyone can do to feel more confident. In this episode you’ll hear: Nicole’s story of being born into a world of lack of love, healing her own love wounds and what brought Nicole to her work as a love coach (7 minutes and 32 seconds) Looking for “the one” and being stuck in a story that there is something inherently wrong with you, plus how to rewrite your story (10:29) Standing in an inferno of emotions with self-trust and worthiness (16:02) What stops most people from finding the right romantic partner (18:34) How to know if you settled in a relationship (21:36) What “being love” means and what it has to do with making a relationship work (25:39) Complaints and disagreements with partners: some advice on giving voice to your fears (29:39) http://yourkickasslife.com/264 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 09, 2019
Episode 263: Healing the Worthiness Wound with Thais Sky
Welcome back, ass kickers! This is the first interview episode of 2019 and I am super pumped to share my conversation with Thais Sky. Thais is a truthspeaker, healer, women’s coach and feminist on a heart-led mission to support the seekers, the edge-dwellers, and the "why the heck do I feel so broken” of the world reclaim their sense of belonging by learning how to explore, trust and express themselves unapologetically. Thais is so expressive and downright poetic, as you’ll hear. I loved my conversation with her and I hope you do too. This week, Thais and I talk about the worthiness wound, what contributes to it, some critical steps to take to reclaim your worth and how healing the worthiness wound is a radical act. We also talk about personal development and how we often hope someone will save us, but it really comes down to doing the work. We also touch on holding the human experience and being capable of navigating through triggers, thoughts and feelings. Lastly, we talk about whiteness, patriarchy, becoming radicalized and acknowledging that one can be both the oppressor and the oppressed (and how that doesn’t mean you are a bad person). In this episode you’ll hear: What reclaiming our sense of worthiness truly means How to begin reclaiming your worth (and how it’s different from cultivating confidence) Taking on the responsibility of others and hoping someone will save us Healing the “little girl” within (aka inner child work) What contributes to the worthiness wound, and why we can’t talk about the worthiness wound without talking about whiteness Acknowledging ableism and fat phobia 💥💥JOIN ME THIS SPRING! 💥💥 If you’re ready to stop relying on your default coping mechanisms that end up making you feel like shit (isolating, numbing out, perfectionism, comparison, self-sabotage), then check out my signature program, Your Kick-Ass Life Mentorship . If it all resonates, there’s a link to fill out an application (application goes straight to me). Learn new, better coping mechanisms that make you feel proud, confident, and courageous. http://yourkickasslife.com/263 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 02, 2019
Episode 262: New Year New You (and you don't need no stinkin' morning routine)
I’m about to say something that goes against what you might be hearing from other self-help/motivational speakers/cheerleaders/thought leaders. You don’t need a morning routine if you don’t want one. Confession: I haven’t had a regular morning routine in about...well, never. I know there are self-help books specifically written about this. That scientists with glasses and white lab coats with clipboards have painstakingly studied the human effects of morning routines and found that it helps people Live Their Best Life. I know there are self-help people out there who have cute names for their lists of things they do in the morning, and keep telling you to get up an hour earlier than your early-rising children or dog, so that you can Live Your Best Life. I know you might feel like you’re doing it all wrong if you stumble out of bed and reach for your phone and coffee first thing. I know that the new year is full of NEW YEAR NEW YOU and that your morning routine feels like this *one thing* that you can change that will make 2019 your Best Year Ever. I know that you have probably made morning commitments in the past like: Meditating Working out Setting intentions Doing a coffee enerma so you can shit like a beast Pulling an angel card so you can conjure your spirits and guides to be able to Live Your Best Year and Best Life Ever. Or maybe it’s just me. I also know that in the past, I have regularly set my intentions of the day and that worked for a while. And now it looks different. And that I have told you about my morning routines and maybe you felt like if you did it too, you’d be Living Your Best Life. Here’s the thing: If you get up early and do whatever it is you need to do to set yourself up for the day, and you feel rested enough to do so and aren’t doing it because you think you have to-- if you do these things because it does in fact help you Live Your Best Life, then HELL YES, SISTER! Or, if you’ve tried a morning routine, and it’s made no significant positive changes in your life, then HELL YES, SISTER. You tried, and meh, it’s not for you. Or, If just the thought of all that makes you want to go back to bed, then HELL YES, SISTER. It might not be for you either. What I’m saying is watch out for the NEW YEAR NEW YOU trap that can make you feel like you’re doing it wrong. That can make you feel like you’re missing out, or that you’re not like everybody else. If you’d rather sleep the extra hour or 10 minutes, then sleep. If you follow someone on social media and you’re comparing your life to theirs, and it kind of seems like their life is too good to be true (it probably is), and it’s all making you feel shitty, then unfollow them. If they new year makes you feel motivated and inspired, then you do that. If the new year just feels like a new month and you’re just trying to kee
Wed, December 26, 2018
Episode 261: The Evangelist of Love with Kute Blackson
My guest this week is AH-mazing. During our conversation, I even referred to him as an evangelist for love. An evangelist. for. love, y’all. Yes, I’m excited to introduce you to Kute Blackson. Kute is a charismatic visionary and transformational teacher who offers a fresh, bold look at spiritual awareness for a whole new generation. Oh, and did I mention, he’s also very intense. I love intense people. Kute joins me to talk about love; including self-love, living your own truth and what it means to live a fulfilled life. Plus, we talk about allowing yourself to feel pain, coping mechanisms and conditioning, questioning who you truly are and what Kute means when he says, “we are born-free.” As Kute so eloquently stated, love is the most important thing on the planet and the most important thing to experience while we are alive. And lastly, “Real healing happens in the space of love.” Hell-to-the-yes. In this episode you’ll hear: Kute’s deep calling to serve humanity, following his own truth and integrity and how he began on a path to helping other people find themselves (8:15) What stops us from being fulfilled and free (13:23) How to reconnect with your heart and body to get to your own truth, plus 3 questions to ask yourself to help you get there (14:38) The layers that cover up your true self, coping mechanisms and shifting your conditioning (18:31) Creating your own opportunities, and add value to others lives (43:05) http://yourkickasslife.com/261 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 19, 2018
Episode 260: Let's Talk About Happiness with Rob Mack
I am ecstatic to introduce you to this week’s guest, Rob Mack. Rob is an ivy-league-educated Celebrity Happiness Coach, Positive Psychology Expert, Published Author, and TV Host/Personality. He just exudes peacefulness and while it looks like it comes naturally to him, he works hard at it. Rob joins me to talk about prioritizing peace, happiness, love and joy and how to focus on feeling better. We also talk about negativity bias, being comfortable with our uncomfortableness, being stuck in an identity story and some ways to let it go. Rob is such a delight. And, y’all, he is a very snappy dresser too! In this episode you’ll hear: Rob shares his story of suffering with depression and attempting suicide (11 minutes and 35 seconds) Micro-meditations (for super, busy women) (17:15) Some ways to build optimism, resilience, and real confidence (24:40) Negativity bias and why we tolerate being unhappy (26:45) Being stuck in an identity story and how to reframe it and let it go (31:04) A few simple actions you can take today to get on a path to happiness (39:58) http://yourkickasslife.com/260 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 12, 2018
Episode 259: Challenging Cultural Beauty and Wellness Standards with Melissa Toller
We are in the last stretch of the year and it’s business as usual over here at Team YKAL with a brand new episode!. This week on the podcast, speaker, writer, and educator Melissa Toler joins me. Her work encourages people to make the connection between our culture's oppressive beauty standards and our personal struggle with self-acceptance. I’ve been following Melissa and her work online and social media for a while now. I love her message and I was so excited for the chance to speak with her. Today, we talk about challenging the cultural standards of wellness and beauty, plus diet culture and it’s messaging. We also talk about how we all have internalized thoughts around certain body types, including black bodies, brown bodies, or even trans bodies and how it perpetuates harm. Melissa reminds us the work of unpacking and unlearning our internal body biases is lifelong work. In this episode you’ll hear: Melissa’s pivot away from the wellness industry and why she became disillusioned with it (7 minutes and 24 seconds) How Melissa challenges the cultural standards of beauty and wellness (13:10) Questioning the messages we receive about body image, health and fitness (17:04) How health and wellness professionals can shift their education and start to question their current practices and philosophies (24:28) Fatphobia and unpacking internal biases (26:22) Melissa shares her story of her own weight loss obsession and how she overcame it (34:09) http://yourkickasslife.com/259 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 05, 2018
Episode 258: Self-Love and Self-Care with Nitika Chopra
Happy December! It’s podcast day, y’all. And this week, I am excited to introduce you to my guest, Nitika Chopra. She has been a leader in the wellness industry since 2010, is known for her straightforward tone and intense vulnerability, and recently created a conversation about self-love in the chronic illness community. The energy she exudes is just so magnetic. She is someone I wanted to have on the podcast for a while and I’m thrilled to share our conversation with you. Nitika and I talk in-depth about self-love, specifically her journey to finding self-love after suffering debilitating psoriasis for many years and her thoughts and philosophy about self care. Plus, Nitika shares openly and honestly about how she repaired the hatred she had over her body for so many years. In this episode you’ll hear: Nitika’s humbling and eye-opening journey to self-love (9 minutes and 11 seconds) Why Nitika thinks self-help can sometimes be more harmful than helpful (15:22) Self-care was Nitika’s saving grace; she explains why, as well as, shares some of her own self- care practices and describes where she thinks self-care really starts (22:08) Nitika’s letter to her body and why she was driven to write it (28:49) Some ways you can begin to love yourself more, today (32:12) Also, I have ONE spot open for 1:1 coaching. Two options there: I take women privately through The Daring Way™ work , as well as do traditional life coaching where we basically get down to what you want, I help you get there (with a little hand holding and a lot of holding your feet to the fire) and VOILA! You have Your Kick-Ass Life. http://yourkickasslife.com/258 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 28, 2018
Episode 257: Comfort Zones: A Rant
Not long ago, I got inspired, turned on the mic, and riffed about comfort zones. I think I started sweating even a little, not because I was nervous, but because I get FIRED UP about this stuff. I go over what it is that keeps us stuck. Is it fear of failure? A habit? Fear of success? Is it our feelings and emotions that keep us from the person we want to be? I go over all of this. Alas, I don’t have this episode in written format, but you don’t want to miss this. Also, I have ONE spot open for 1:1 coaching. Two options there: I take women privately through The Daring Way™ work , as well as do traditional life coaching where we basically get down to what you want, I help you get there (with a little hand holding and a lot of holding your feet to the fire) and VIOLA! You have Your Kick-Ass Life. Simply reply to this email and we’ll get you started with an application and a call with me to see if it’s a good fit. Okay? Okay. http://yourkickasslife.com/257 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 21, 2018
Episode 256: Holiday Gifts
The holidays are upon us! If you’re like me, you love to get your shopping done early AND you love to get just the right gift for that special someone in your life (and even if they’re not that special to you, I mean sometimes we have the obligatory gift to buy, am I right?) Here’s a few of my favorite gift ideas as well as some nifty stuff we found on the internet to I like/love so you have a plethora of things to choose from! Happy shopping! Pet stuff Personalized pet socks. Y’all. YOU CAN GET YOUR ACTUAL PET ON A PAIR OF SOCKS. I mean, not the actual pet but their picture. You understand. Is this already a thing and I’m just learning of it? Whether it is or isn’t, it’s amazing. If you follow me on Instagram and watch my IG stories, you know Dirty Baby. If you don’t, then this won’t be funny at all (but seriously, get in on the joke, go to my Instagram profile in the “highlights” and click on “#dirtybaby”. You’re welcome). So, for your dog (or cat?) they CAN HAVE THEIR OWN DIRTY BABY and we can be gross pet toy friends. Barkbox is for those people who really, and I mean really love their dogs. They used to sponsor the podcast, so if you use this link you can get a free month . My dog LOST HER SHIT over their toys and treats. But, then again she eats rabbit poop in the backyard so she may not be a good judge of delicious things. Food stuff Chocolate covered pretzels GALORE. I’m just sayin’ that if someone wants to buy me these I will NOT be mad. At all. Fruitcake from Harry and David . For that person in your life who has everything and is also 137 years old, yes, fruitcake. My stepdad LOVES THIS STUFF and he’s only 76. But seriously, seniors love fruitcake and Harry and David know how to do it up. I can’t say I’ve personally tasted it, but we frequently buy it for Gene, the love of my mom’s life and he raves about it. Plus, super affordable. Also, their other food is delish. Read the rest of the list HERE http://yourkickasslife.com/256 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 14, 2018
Episode 255: Personal Integrity and The Epidemic of Lying with Lauren Handel Zander
This week I welcome Lauren Handel Zander to the YKAL podcast. Lauren is the author of, Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life . She is also a life coach, university lecturer and co-founder of Handel Group. She joins me to talk about the everyday shit that we do that takes us farther away from the person we want to be and the person we were meant to be. We had an amazing conversation about her journey to becoming a life coach, what personal integrity means to her and her work, qualifying yes versus no, and the epidemic of lying. In this episode you’ll hear: Lauren’s path to becoming a life coach (7 minutes and 30 seconds) What is personal integrity and how she uses it to help people achieve their goals (13:51) One trick to keep you accountable when it comes to doing the work (20:17) Boundaries: Why people say, “Yes,” when they mean, “No,” and how to empower ourselves to say, “No”, when we really mean it (26:35) How to develop the awareness to stop the cycle of numbing out and isolating (35:12) The seven ways we lie, cleaning up your lies and telling the truth and how doing so can truly jumpstart your happiness (38:17) 💥 REGISTRATION IS OPEN FOR THE NEW AND IMPROVED DARING WAY™ PROGRAM AND RETREAT! (Shouty caps on purpose!). LET’S CHAT ABOUT IT! Head on over here to check it out! 💥 http://yourkickasslife.com/255 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 07, 2018
Episode 254: Conversations About Shit That Matters With Unqualified People: Andrea and Kate on Rape Culture
This week my dear friend Kate Anthony is back on the podcast. If you are new to the show, I’ve started a new series where I’ve been talking with close friends about shit that matters. During these candid conversations, we take a big topic where we are not experts and unpack our own stuff around it and begin to make sense of it all. In this episode, Kate and I continue our conversation on rape culture and sexual assault. I highly encourage you to listen to part one of our conversation , if you haven’t done so already. The reason I wanted to create two episodes on this topic is to shed light on stories of non-consensual sex, rape, and assault. If you feel your story is not important enough, something I believed of my own story for a long time, know that your story is important. All of our stories are important and everybody’s story matters. That’s my why. And, trigger warning: Kate and I share our own experiences with non-consensual sex in this episode. In this episode you’ll also hear: The moment Kate realized her sexual assault was rape (10 minutes and 1 second) Saying yes out of fear and coerced consent (19:03) I retell the story of when, at 17, my boyfriend videotaped us without my knowledge and I lost my shit (24:28) And then, I share my own story of date rape (27:53) The untrue stories we make up about the kind of men that assault women, like, “Only scary looking men or strangers in an alley assault women.” (45:50) Kate shares a story about a man asking for consent (46:31) 💥🎉FREE LIVE TRAINING! 💥🎉 Okay, y’all-- there are two topics I’ve seen come up over the last few months during my retreats and programs. One is trusting women-- why do we have such a hard time with this and how do we overcome it? The other is the concept of feeling “good enough”. Do we just decide this and wait for it? Is it a mindset issue? Or something else? Join me on Friday, November 9th at 12:30 eastern time where I’ll break down these two topics and give you some tangible steps to take to make this happen in your life. As you know from my book HTSFLS, both of these topics are IMPERATIVE for you to stop feeling like shit and start living your kick-ass life. See you there! (And yes, a replay will be available) No need to sign up for anything, just mark your calendar, and put THIS LINK in there. Then, on 11/9 at 12:30 eastern, click the link and join us! 😘😘😘 http://yourkickasslife.com/254 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 31, 2018
Episode 253: Conversations About Shit That Matters With Unqualified People: Andrea and Kate on Rape Culture
Hey ass kickers! I am bringing you another episode of Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People. My “unqualified person” this week is my friend Kate Anthony , who helped me kick off this series several months ago. For newcomers, here’s a brief introduction to Kate: Kate Anthony is a certified life coach who specializes in helping moms decide whether they should stay in or leave their marriages. This week, Kate and I are talking about rape culture. Kate is truly kick-ass, one of my dearest friends, and someone I feel totally comfortable with unpacking this sensitive topic. And, rape culture is a lot to unpack. As a reminder, before we get started, this is not an episode where I am teaching about rape culture. It’s an honest conversation between two unqualified people, emphasis on unqualified, about a very important and hard topic. We cover a lot, including what rape culture looks like, how we all participate in it, and some ways to start conversations with people about it. In this episode you’ll hear: Identifying rape culture and Kate’s experience with being slut-shamed in high school Defining toxic masculinity Our thoughts on Brett Kavanaugh and what he could have done to make the situation different Rape culture, protecting the internal patriarchy, and denial of sexual assault How to start to have deeper conversations with others and take steps towards change Bringing men into the conversation about rape culture and toxic masculinity Kate’s experience with today’s dating scene and why she has decided to take a step back from it 💥🎉FREE LIVE TRAINING! 💥🎉 Okay, y’all-- there are two topics I’ve seen come up over the last few months during my retreats and programs. One is trusting women-- why do we have such a hard time with this and how do we overcome it? The other is the concept of feeling “good enough”. Do we just decide this and wait for it? Is it a mindset issue? Or something else? Join me on Friday, November 9th at 12:30 eastern time where I’ll break down these two topics and give you some tangible steps to take to make this happen in your life. As you know from my book HTSFLS, both of these topics are IMPERATIVE for you to stop feeling like shit and start living your kick-ass life. See you there! (And yes, a replay will be available) No need to sign up for anything, just mark your calendar, and put THIS LINK in there. Then, on 11/9 at 12:30 eastern, click the link and join us! 😘😘😘 http://yourkickasslife.com/253 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 24, 2018
Episode 252: Processing and Healing from Sexual Trauma with Rebecca Bass-Ching
With recent events that are happening in the news in the U.S. surrounding the U.S. Supreme court nomination of Brent Kavanaugh and Dr. Christine Blasey Ford coming forward with her story of sexual assault, I knew I needed to have a podcast on the topic of sexual trauma. While I do plan on having an episode where I speak with a friend on the topic of sexual assault, I knew how very important it was to have an expert on to discuss this topic, as well. Because, y’all, I am not an expert in this area, but as many of you know, finding an expert in a given field is something I take very seriously. And that is why I am honored and grateful to be welcoming back to the show, Licensed Marriage and Family and Therapist, Rebecca Bass-Ching. Rebecca is also a Certified EMDR Therapist+Consultant, Trauma Therapist and a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator. Today you’ll hear us speak on the topic of sexual trauma, including: feeling triggered by sexual assault stories in the news, navigating the differencing of opinions to sexual assault, healing and processing from sexual trauma and the all important fact that there is no time limit on healing. Trigger warning : while we go into mostly surface level conversation related to sexual trauma and assault, it’s still a very tender topic. In fact, I let Rebecca really take the reigns in this episode because, as you’ll hear, I am still unpacking and navigating my own feelings too. In this episode you’ll hear: Some reasons why we may be feeling triggered, angered or on edge related to current events about sexual trauma or assault (8 minutes and 29 seconds) How to navigate feedback from people who have different opinions or reactions to sexual assault (14:02) Handling the question and red herring argument, “What if your son was falsely accused of sexual assault?” (21:21) Your memory network and trauma: remembering portions of trauma so very clearly (32:30) Healing from trauma is very inconvenient, plus we touch on residual trauma (34:35) The deep connection between sexism and racism (38:47) http://yourkickasslife.com/252 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 17, 2018
Episode 251: Creating Huge Leaps of Self Awareness with Shanna Lee
This week on the podcast Shanna Lee joins me. She is founder of the platform The Soul Frequency and author of the book of the same name. And, guess what? I’m holding a contest this week over on Patreon. One winner will receive a copy of Shanna’s book, Soul Frequency: Your Healthy, Awakened and Authentic Life . If you haven’t joined the Patreon Party yet, which is in full swing, you still can. Head over to Patreon to participate in this contest or to become a Patron, here . I know of Shanna because I was a guest on her podcast several months ago. Her message is very similar to the one I share with you here at YKAL. Once I learned she was about to release a book, I knew I wanted to have her on my show. Today, we talk about some of the concepts she covers in her book, including how to align yourself with the life you want to be living. Plus, we talk about suppressed anger as a woman and how to open the door to it, being open to bad experiences and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. In this episode you’ll hear: What The Soul Frequency actually means (9 minutes and 42 seconds) Shanna’s journey, and her own lesson of just showing up and being fully present (12:41) Walking your path, getting back into alignment with what feels good (15:48) Shanna’s anatomy of transformation and its four pillars: truth, release, experience, and align (19:02) Women’s anger and rage: your relationship around anger, how it's socially unacceptable, and ways to open the door to anger. (26:27) Being open to the bad that may be happening around you instead of shutting the door on it. (37:36) http://yourkickasslife.com/251 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 10, 2018
Episode 250: Creating an Awareness Around Emotional Eating with Andrea Owen
I have a rich and amazing conversation with Rachel Foy for you this week on the YKAL Podcast. Rachel is an author, motivational teacher and the founder of the Soul Fed Woman. Rachel helps women overcome things like emotional eating, binge eating, and weight obsession. She helps them wake up and reclaim their lives so they are no longer missing from it. I am excited to bring you this topic today. But first, one quick note before we get started. At the start of this episode, I briefly share that I am gathering my thoughts on sexual assault all while trying to hold back my rage. I plan to talk about this tender topic in a future episode of Conversations About Shit that Matters with Unqualified People . Current events in our country, the #whyIdidntreport movement and the trauma many women have had to face, again, either due to reliving their own experiences or empathizing with that of another woman, is just too much. More on this topic will be coming soon. Okay, now back to today’s episode. Today, Rachel and I talk about emotional eating and bringing awareness to your coping mechanisms. We also touch on the topics of body acceptance and fat-phobia. Plus, we talk about numbing out, making empowering choices, and some ways to overcome many issues women experience around food, diet culture and emotions. In this episode you’ll hear: What to do when you start feeding your feelings with food (8 minutes and 50 seconds) Rachel’s own difficult journey with food obsession, eating disorders and dieting (10:32) Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD): what it is and how it can show up (15:15) Fat-phobic culture, preconceived perceptions, and breaking away from diet culture: stripping down fat-phobia (20:00) How to be emotionally fed and become a soulfed women (21:45) What to do if food is your only source of pleasure (26:17) Why we choose to numb out and some ways how to overcome it (34:05) http://yourkickasslife.com/250 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 03, 2018
Episode 249: Healing from Codependency and Love Addiction with Christine Gutierrez
Joining me on the podcast this week is leading Latina psychotherapist, Christine Gutierrez, LHMC. Christine is the founder of Christineg.tv, an online hub that features psychologically-savvy and soulful advice. Christine also specializes in love addiction which happens to be the topic of today’s episode. In this episode, we talked about healing from love addiction, Christine’s own experience with it and how she now helps clients move through the healing process. We also touched on codependency and love addiction red flags. It’s clear through my conversation with Christine that she has worked hard and tirelessly on learning how to trust in herself and lean into her biggest self. I’m happy to share our conversation with you. In this episode you’ll hear: What love addiction is, how Christine’s early childhood experiences ultimately led to love addiction, and how she got on the path to healing (1 minute 47 seconds) The distinction between healthy, falling in love and love addiction (5:46) Some tips and tools for women struggling with love addiction (11:21) Christine’s journey to helping other women heal, the merging of the mundane and divine and what the word diosa means to her (17:43) How to experience more fierce love in your life (and what fierce love is, exactly) (25:32) http://yourkickasslife.com/249 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 26, 2018
Episode 248: Inner Critic vs. Intuition
Today I have an episode for you that was a suggested topic from one of our awesome listeners on Patreon. Patron members can suggest show topics, as well as get their personal questions answered on Listener Q & A episodes, and so many more perks! Head on over HERE to read more about how you can become a member. Corrina asks: I would love to hear about how to tell the difference between the internal voice that is authentic and courageous versus the voice that is fearful and holding you back or is reactionary. For example, are you leaving a situation because it's good for you or are you in flight mode? I also wrote a blog post about this AGES ago (2011 omg) so I’ve dug it up, updated it and am putting it back out there. First and foremost, this is one tricky mother. To be honest, it’s still something I sometimes am challenged by in my own life, and when I am, I talk it out with a trusted friend. Sometimes processing externally can be helpful for you to be able to decipher. Journaling can also be helpful to process more internally. Second, I do believe there are going to be times where you just don’t know for sure if it’s your intuition speaking or your inner-critic/fear. In those instances, you’ll need to just make a decision and see what happens. I can say that the more you intentionally work on paying attention to your intuition (practices like meditation, stillness, being in nature, journaling, yoga) the more in tune you’ll be with it, and the more clear it will become. In no particular order, here are some ways to decipher if it’s your inner-critic/fear/gremlin or your intuition/soul voice speaking to you: Your inner-critic doesn’t like change; but if it’s good for you, your intuition will encourage it. Gremlins like to keep you exactly where you are, even if you’re not in a great place. For instance, if you hate your job it seems like a no-brainer that you would want to leave, right? So, you daydream about your dream job, doing that thing you’ve always wanted. Your gremlin pops up and says, “There’s no way. What if it doesn’t work? It’s too risky anyway.” You listen to your inner-critic and the days drag on in the grips of this sucky job. Your intuition is the voice and vision that is steering your daydreams. Your intuition is the voice of your soul and that voice wants you to be happy or else it wouldn’t give you all these dreams! Trusting your dreams is trusting your intuition. Practice adding on to these daydreams visions of you actually bridging the gap between where you are now and where you want to be. What steps are necessary for you to leave that sucky job and get your dream job? Scary, yes, your gremlin will tell you so. Notice it, keep dreaming, and taking action. Your gremlin voices come from your head, but your intuitional voice come from your heart. In my opinion, most of us live 99% of the time in our heads (especially if yo
Wed, September 19, 2018
Episode 247: Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People: On White Supremacy and Unconscious Biases
This episode officially kicks off a series I’m calling Conversations About Shit That Matters with Unqualified People . Today, my friend Elizabeth DiAlto and I are talking about doing the work in terms of racism, white supremacy, and more. You might wonder what this has to do with personal development? Well, the deeper I get into my own personal development work and even trainings, the more I can see that the root of the problems many of us face (feeling not good enough, lack of confidence, etc.) is rooted in white supremacy and patriarchy. And trust me when I tell you there was a time many years ago when I would have disagreed with that. However, back then I hadn’t done enough work, nor (although largely unconscious at the time) had I wanted to admit that a system that I largely benefitted from could be the problem. One of the heavy topics I am passionate about dismantling is rape culture. The system that normalizes and trivializes the sexual assault and harassment of women. The idea that women’s bodies are disposable and that sexual violence is normal. A couple of years ago I realized that there is a direct connection from rape culture to both patriarchy and white supremacy, and so began my work over here on my own, so I can better educate. This episode is the very beginning of that. Also, as I mention in this episode, I have two solo episodes coming up in the next few months about core beliefs and inner critic that were suggested by Patreon members . I’ve decided to let go of advertising and sponsorships on the podcast, but in order to still be able to support the costs of the show, I’ve introduced ways for listeners to do that. When you become a Patron, there are perks! Including being able to suggest show topics, getting your personal development questions answered on Listener Q & A episodes, monthly Ask Me Anything calls, book giveaways and more (Last AMA call I answered a question from one of our patrons who had a question about an uncomfortable situation with her friends that she wanted my advice about. The month before that, someone asked about starting her own coaching business. I’ll answer virtually ANY question you have on those particular calls)! Head on over HERE to check out the different tiers and I thank you for supporting the show! Back to today’s episode! Although this isn’t a teaching/expert interview episode, Elizabeth and I explore some important topics, including: To be a true ally, you must perform acts of solidarity (15 minutes and 48 seconds) Unpacking white supremacy and white privilege: the power of group. community, safe processing buddies, and collective intelligence (24:04) Shaming and tone policing in social media (25:54) An important distinction between shaming and holding people accountable; and fragility (30:27) Being of mixed race, whitewashing c
Wed, September 12, 2018
Episode 246: An Important Conversation About Depression
This week I have the pleasure of introducing you all to the brilliant and kind, Dr. John Duffy. Dr. Duffy is the author of the number-one best-selling book, The Available Parent . He is a nationally-recognized expert in self-awareness, relationships, and parenting. He is also the host of the podcast, Undue Anxiety . I met Dr. Duffy while on my book tour for, How To Stop Feeling Like Shit . Following our conversation (I was a guest on his podcast), I knew I wanted to have Dr. John on my show to talk about the very tender topic of depression, because it’s his speciality. Whether you are battling depression or you know someone who is, today’s topic is one that touches so many lives. Today we talk all about depression, how it shows up, why it’s not your job to fix a loved one’s depression and some ways you can support them. Plus, we touch on boundaries as it relates to depression and what to do if you are a parent of a child who may be struggling with some form of mental illness or depression. In this episode you’ll hear: How depression might show up in people’s lives and what it may look like Some ways you can support someone who is struggling with depression Therapies, tools, medications, and treatments for depression, today, as opposed to 25 years ago, really do work The U.S. is seeing an increase in suicide rates more than other countries: Dr. Duffy shares why he thinks this may be and why excessive stimuli could be part of the reason Changing gender dynamics, gender biases, and marketing: how they play into an increase in alcohol consumption and addiction by women What to do when you suspect your child is struggling with depression or another form of mental illness http://yourkickasslife.com/246 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 05, 2018
Episode 245: When your family doesn't get your personal development journey
We’re back with another Listener Q & A episode! I plan to do these every quarter, and if you’re a member of Patreon , you can submit your questions for me and one of my expert friends to answer on an episode. Today I have my BFF and fellow life coach, Amy Smith of The Joy Junkie joining us to answer a listener question about her family. We get a little off track talking about poop, but it’s one of those things that happens to everyone! 🙈 The Listener’s questions are: How do you navigate family/friends when it comes to your self help journey? Whether it be your spouse/partner who is trying to help, but may be too pushy or you feel like you're disappointing him when you are not reaching your goals quickly. Or maybe your family who may be trying to protect you. They don't exactly discourage you, but are not exactly supportive of your big goals. Or your friends/family who will not let you forget your past mistakes? Constantly bringing up embarrassing situations or failures. Sometimes I feel like I am responsible for everyone's goals. And sometimes that makes me not want to try at all. It is a lot and I do not know where to begin. I have a large family and sometimes it feels like I am the only one who wants a better life. It is very overwhelming and discouraging. I feel like I have to make enough money to ensure my parents/brothers/sisters are financially set for life. Makes me not want to try harder because then more will be expected of me. Sometimes I wish I could be happy in mediocrity. Listen in as Amy and I give her advice on what to do and say in these tricky situations. Family can be the hardest to navigate, and virtually no one is immune to this! Thank you to our courageous listener for not only asking the questions, but taking initiate to change a situation in her life that she’s not happy about! http://yourkickasslife.com/245 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 29, 2018
Episode 244: Breaking the Patterns: Diet Culture & Body Acceptance with Ali Shapiro
Diet culture and weight loss is really complicated. Following my episodes a few months ago on body image and diet culture with my good friend Kate Anthony, I was genuinely curious about what I may not know as it relates to diet culture, holistic nutrition and even the body positivity movement. I knew I had to ask an expert - all.the.things . And so, joining me this week is integrated health coach, host of the podcast Insatiable , and founder of Truce with Food®, Ali Shapiro. Today, Ali shares candidly her journey to body acceptance in her twenties, many years following her battle with childhood cancer, weight issues (she had her first Weight Watchers weigh-in at age 11) and emotional eating. We also talk in-depth about the many layers of diet culture, self-sabotage, and the difference between being self-aware rather than self-critical. In this episode you’ll hear: Ali’s journey to body acceptance and how she got to where she is today Ali’s view on diet culture and how she describes it as a product of patriarchy, white-supremacy, and capitalism Three patterns of conflict styles, self-sabotage and your inner-protector Vulnerability, belonging and how it relates to food/body struggles Listening to your body in a more methodical way The one question we need to ask when our mental food/body doubts creep in This episode is so rich with information, you may have to listen to it more than once. http://yourkickasslife.com/244 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 22, 2018
Episode 243: This is what you have control over
I recently came across a video created by a young woman named Claire Wineman. Terminally ill with Cystic Fibrosis, she says that even though she’s going to die sooner than most and that no one can control the fact that their going to die someday, what can can control is if we’re living a life we’re proud of. I LOVED this message because that’s also my mission. The mission of YKAL is two-fold. I help women feel less alone and help them create and live a life they are proud of. So, how do we do this? What’s the path? Of course I don’t have all the answers, to all the things, but in my decade of experience helping women create lives their proud of and from walking through my own fire, creating a life I’m proud of, I think I have a handle on it. Here’s some questions I compiled to help you do this: Do you know what your values are and what they look like? Do you know what it means and looks like to have compassion for yourself? And do you practice it? Do you know what it means to have compassion for others? (Because when we don’t, check what kind of expectations you have. The expectations you have of others are often directly correlated to the expectations you have of yourself.) Do you know where you need to set boundaries? Do you know how to do that? Do you show up for the few people in your life that need you? Like really show up? Want a print out of all these questions and space foryou to journal on them? Of course you do! Do you ALLOW people to show up for you? And when they do, do you show them ALL of you, not just “the facts”? Do you take care of your physical body? Do you feel your feelings or do you stuff them and numb them away? Do you take care of your spirit? Do you take care of your financial house? Is there anything else you feel in your soul that you need to change that will make you proud of who you are? http://yourkickasslife.com/243 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 15, 2018
Episode 242: Healing From Anxiety and Finding Lasting Peace with Corinne Zupko
Corinne Zupko is my guest this week on the podcast. She is the author of the best-selling book, From Anxiety to Love: A Radical New Approach For Letting Go of Fear and Finding Lasing Peace. And yes, today we are talking all about anxiety. In fact, anxiety focused episodes are the most popular episodes of the podcast. So, I know it’s what many of you want to hear about! In today’s episode, we talk about Corrine’s book and her inspiration to write it on this topic. She shares openly about her personal experiences with anxiety, panic attacks and phobias; and how her introduction to a particular kind of spirituality helped her recover from her anxiety and panic disorder. Plus, I share some of my own experiences with panic attacks and anxiety. And, later, Corrinne shares her thoughts on meditation and a three-step recipe for healing. Even if you don’t struggle with clinical anxiety, this episode touches on topics and information that is helpful to all. In this episode you’ll hear: Corinne’s inspiration to write a book on anxiety (5 minutes and 12 seconds) Corinne’s take on spirituality and her work with anxiety and healing (13:19) Distinguishing between the inner therapist voice (intuition) and the ego voice (inner critic) (19:30) A three-step recipe for healing (34:05) Resources from this episode Corinne’s website Corinne’s book Episode 153: Listener Q & A on anxiety and what to do about it Corinne’s podcast episode with John Mark Straud: Episode 8: “How to ‘hear’ guidance” ---- There are FOUR spots left for The Mentorship , which is a group program that incorporates The Daring Way™ and so much more. This is for women who are ready to take their personal development to the next level. I’ve decided to hop on a video call on August 28th at 3pm Eastern time (noon Pacific). No need to sign up for anything, just put this link in your calendar and join me at that date and time! Plus, it costs ZERO dollars! I’ll be covering: The four main topics to study in your life that will help you IMMENSELY with your confidence, relationships with others, and your general well-being. What the process of shame resilience actually is. The BIG surprise I had in 2011 which made me change the course of my coaching practice and go in the direction I’ve stayed in all these years. Plus, any questions you have about The Mentorship! I love doing these live videos with you (and yes, there will be a replay if you can’t be there live!) and sharing this work with you! Even if you don’t think The Mentorship is for you right now, you don’t w
Wed, August 08, 2018
Episode 241: The Good, The Messy, and Magnificent with Geneen Roth
I am excited, on so many levels, to have Geneen Roth on the show with me this week. She is the author of ten books, including the just released This Messy Magnificent Life. I was first introduced to Geneen and her writing, when I read her book, Women Food and God. It was one of the first books I read about how what we eat is connected to our core beliefs. I have since consumed many of her books and one of the reasons why I am happy she was my guest. In this episode, Geneen and I talk about her newest book, the evolution of her relationship with food and some of our meditation failures. Plus, we talk all about the inner critic, which Geneen calls, “the crazy aunt in the attic,” and Geneen offers some ways to manage her. In this episode you’ll hear: Wanting something more and deeper (7 minutes and 4 seconds) How Geneen’s relationship with food evolved over time and how the journey is depicted through her books (9:05) Our failures at meditation and insightful advice for those that are about to get started (15:49) All about the crazy aunt in the attic and how Geneen teaches people to deal with her (20:52) How to catch the background noise of the inner critic (28:10) http://www.yourkickasslife.com/241 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 01, 2018
Episode 240: Choosing Wonder Over Worry and Going All In with Amber Rae
This week on the podcast, my guest is Amber Rae, author of the book Choose Wonder Over Worry: Move Beyond Fear and Doubt to Unlock Your Full Potential . And, y’all, you know I get really excited when I have a guest on the show to talk about their new book. I cannot wait to introduce Amber to you. Amber is also an artist and speaker whose work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Today, Amber and I talk about playing small, how to move beyond fear and instead go all in. Plus, Amber shares her unique way of classifying wonder and worry, listening to your inner guide and how to turn life’s messy moments into something beautiful. In this episode you’ll hear: How to distinguish when choosing small projects, how to say no, and to claim the life you really want (18:24) Classifying wonder & worry in distinct ways (21:44) Some ways we can be more in tune with our inner guide (27:37) How to turn something messy and fearful into something beautiful (32:52) The fear of rejection and what others think of you (38:24) http://www.yourkickasslife.com/240 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 25, 2018
Episode 239: The importance of taking small action
You’ve probably listened to hundreds of podcasts, read or listened to dozens of books, and have probably done a lot of work on yourself just from the awareness you’ve gained from those efforts. And I’m going to ask you to do more. Because sometimes we look at the metaview of how we want our life to change and it seems too daunting. Sometimes we look at other people’s lives and wonder how we will ever get to the place where we’re like them (well, the story we make up that is their life). Sometimes we feel like there are so many moving parts to personal development, where one thing leads to another and so on and so forth and where is the end to all this growth? (Hint: there isn’t an end.) So, I compiled a short list (not an exhaustive one, just a start) of small actions you can do today or this week or sometime soon that will make a difference. As you’ve heard me say over and over again, courage (even in the face of fear) brings confidence-- the knowledge that we can do hard things and even if we do the hard thing and fall on our face, we then realize we’ll live through it. In no particular order... Having a hard conversation . Who is the person you need to talk to? What is the thing you are afraid to say? What can you do this week to take a step in that direction? Controlled emoting. You may remember me talking about this in How To Stop Feeling Like Shit about controlled emoting. That thing you’ve been stuffing down? Feel it. Writing a letter you’ll never send. It can be to anyone or anything. It can be angry, sad, full of rage, I hate you, anything and everything you’re feeling about something happening. Write it to your mom, your president, your ex, your fear, the patriarchy, anything that brings up the uncomfortable feelings you’re trying not to feel. Researching starting your own business. Whether you want it to be a complete career change, a hobby, or a side hustle, so many people want to do this and never start. Research is the first step. Go to that poetry reading. Or open mic comedy night. Or political meeting. That place you’ve been thinking about that makes you uncomfortable but is the source of the fire in your belly. Throw out all the stuff from your ex that you’ve been meaning to throw away. Whatever you need to do to cleanse old energy. Maybe it’s just cleaning out your closet or your garage. Out with the old. Start that creative project you’ve been thinking about for forever. Too many times we put off creativity as a luxury, or being unproductive. If you wait until it doesn’t feel like that, you’ll wait forever. Just carve out 30 minutes and do it. (Remember, in the corresponding podcast episode , I go into more detail
Wed, July 18, 2018
Episode 238: Being More Productive and Combating Overwhelm with Charlie Gilkey
Charlie Gilkey joins me on the podcast today. Charlie is known for his knowledge around the topic of productivity and who doesn’t want to be more productive? Am I right? Charlie is a sought-out after advisor and speaker on all things business and productivity. But have no fear, whether you are a business owner or not - his teachings can be applied to all facets of your life. In this episode Charlie and I talk about overwhelm versus overload, why we don’t make time for self-care, and the various ways to block time in order to be more productive. Plus, we discuss the behaviors and actions that get in the way of productivity, “wtf” moments and being in the moment. In this episode you’ll hear: Combating overwhelm by looking at your ‘overload’ (4 minutes and 40 seconds) Time blocking and how it can be used to help us be more productive (6:22) Illuminating “invisible tasks”, such as turning off the lights or cleaning up after family (9:26) Why self-care is typically last on our to-do list and the first to get pushed off (13:28) Charlie’s Random Wednesday Self-Care Challenge (15:26) Courage, boundaries and discipline; how they relate to each other (22:42) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 11, 2018
Episode 237: What triathlon has taught me about life
Today’s episode comes in two parts. First, I’m joined by my friend Ella, who participated in a sprint triathlon with me last month. You’ll hear how she SMOKED me and what I thought of that! Then, I’m sharing with you what I’ve learned from triathlons, both the training and the race itself. Sports can always be great metaphors for life, and triathlon is no different (You might remember an episode I did on what roller derby can teach you about life ). Obviously, the audio podcast goes into much more, but here are seven ways triathlon is just like life: Consistency matters. I’ve done a total of about 15 races in my life, ranging from sprint triathlons to a half marathon. I’ve trained well and I’ve trained not well. I’m stating the obvious here, but when you train consistent, you’ll see better results. Yes, you might miss a workout here and there, but if the majority of your training is consistent, you’ll do well. And when you join a training group and/or hire a coach, you’ll see even bigger strides. This is the same with personal development. When you use your tools consistently, you’ll see better results. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve worked with people on negative self-talk, they use one tool once, and they get exasperated that they still have negative self-talk. That’s like working out once in your life, competing in a triathlon and expecting to win the whole thing. It’s not going to happen like that, you need consistency. Persistency matters. Directly related to what I just stated, you must keep going despite difficulty. In triathlon training, your muscles will get tired. You’ll not want to do that brick workout. You’ll get tired of the chlorine hair. You’ll realize how slow you are and feel like it’s not worth it. But, there’s nothing like the feeling of carrying on when it’s gets hard. The feeling of strength and courage is what builds confidence. In self-help, sometimes it’s discouraging when none of your friends are into (btw, you can look for more friends), or when you feel like you’re not growing at the rate you want to or think you should. Or maybe you’re digging into a topic with your therapist that is bringing up trauma for you and you’re ready to quit it all, wishing you could go back to just living on the “surface” of your life. But, persistency is key. You must keep going because it matters and you matter. If you fall off the habit, just get back on. Maybe you get sick or injured, maybe you just get lazy and don’t train for a week. And then you think all your training was for nothing. So, might as well quit, right? NO! Like Dori says, just keep swimming (and running and cycling)! In personal development, you will have setbacks. It’s not a matter of if, it’s a matter of when. And many times when that happens, you might feel like throwing in the towel. You’ll feel like you already worked on this and you have to start over, whi
Wed, July 04, 2018
Episode 236: Living a Bigger and Bolder Life with Sara Dean
lives. Plus, we talk all about the power in motherhood. This episode, is NOT just for moms! I know even if you don’t have kids, you’ll get a lot out of this interview! In this episode you’ll hear: Sara’s pivot out of the fitness industry and into the launch of Shameless Mom Academy (7 minutes and 15 seconds) Performing well in fear; plus walking into fear and upleveling your life (20:41) Where women are limiting themselves and the action steps to take to live bigger lives (23:55) The power in motherhood and what many are missing (36:08) Living reactive versus proactive and its significance for growth and power (44:04) The YKAL Patreon party is in full swing! If you haven’t heard, the podcast is becoming listener supported, and by doing so I’m creating a community of YKAL podcast listeners who will be able to suggest guests, get their personal questions answered on Listener Q & A episodes, have opportunities to be gifted the books from guests I have on the show and SO MUCH MORE! Head on over to check out and become a patron! http://yourkickasslife.com/236 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 27, 2018
Episode 235: Resolving Fear, Claiming Your Power, and Witchcraft Talk with Alionka Polanco
This week on the podcast Alionka Polanco joins me. She is an NYU-certified life and success coach, she is the founder The Big Vision Mastermind and author of "Beyond Profit: The Successful Woman's Guide to a Meaningful Life." Alionka and I have had a kindred friendship from afar for quite some time, including following each other and chatting on social media, and we even tried to meet up in real life (which sadly did not work out). That is why I am so excited to have her on the show. And, I am equally excited to share her amazing energy with you! In this episode we talk about living a fuller life, resolving fear, and getting clear on what you want. Plus, we talk all about our witch lineage, claiming the power of magic, and how the growth process can be a scary thing. In this episode you’ll hear: When Alionka realized she no longer needed to fit into a mold and how it made her feel (7 minutes and 58 seconds) Having the courage to get rid of what you don’t want and releasing what doesn’t serve you (12:10) One turtle step to help you get clear on what you truly do want (15:32) Waking up to spirituality, spirit guides, and our witchy maternal lineage (19:54) The fear of power, plus your definition of power (33:09) The Four Agreements and how to not take things personally (43:48) Also, these are the final few days to grab your extra bonuses over on Patreon! The podcast is becoming listener supported, and by doing so I’m creating a community of YKAL podcast listeners who will be able to suggest guests, get their personal questions answered on Listener Q & A episodes, have opportunities to be gifted the books from guests I have on the show and SO MUCH MORE! Head on over to check out and become a patron! http://yourkickasslife.com/235 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 20, 2018
Episode 234: A Different Perspective on the Inner Critic with Laura Powers
Today is a great day because Laura Powers is back on the podcast! Laura is a celebrity psychic who has been featured by Buzzfeed, NBC, ABC, CBS, FOX, and many other media outlets. Not too long ago, Laura and I began talking about the inner-critic. And she happens to have a slightly different perspective on the inner-critic than I do. I love it when guests can come on to share their unique view on managing negative self-talk so you have even more tools to learn and grow. In this episode we begin with a conversation about the inner critic, of course. We then move on to talking about Mercury in Retrograde, the healing power of sleep and empathetic energy. This was such an interesting conversation. So much so, I may even have Laura (whom I’ve dubbed our ‘in-house psychic’) back on the podcast again! In this episode: Laura’s unique view about our thoughts, things we are receiving externally, and the inner critic (8:10) Mercury in Retrograde; what it means and how can it affect the world around us (20:27) The healing power of sleep (28:32) Empathetic energy, it’s possible your feelings are actually not yours (40:00) http://yourkickasslife.com/234 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 13, 2018
Episode 233: What I've learned from 10 years of blogging
On June 12th, 2008, I published my first blog post. I had no idea I would go on to create the YKAL community I’ve since created, I just knew I loved personal development and wanted to share it with the world, or at least 5 or 6 people who might read my little blog. A decade later, I’ve switched from “Live Your Ideal Life” to what you know now as “Your Kick-Ass Life”, wrote and published 2 books (the second being translated into 15 languages, wait, what!?), nearly 250 podcast episodes, helped thousands of women in their lives and I’ve learned a lot. Here’s some things I’ve learned just about writing alone... Writing makes you a better writer. One of the simplest pieces of advice I ever got and absolutely the truest. To be a better swimmer, you swim. To be a better kung fu fighter, you kung fu fight. Writing is the same, it’s getting your butt in the seat (unless you have a standing desk, if so, yay you!) and write. If you’re really committed, try to write every day. Write like no one is reading. This might be easy if you journal and lock it up in your safe that has 17 lock combinations on it and you’re sure no one will read it, but sometimes we are bloggers, freelance writers, and Facebook status updaters. We know people are reading and that knowing can change the way we write and express ourselves.When we do this, a little or a lot of bullshit can creep in. We start to worry about what people will think, we might skew our opinion to not seem “too much” of something, and things can go sideways, fast.If you want to write with your whole heart, if you want to tap into the innermost parts of yourself that are raw and real and uncensored, you must write like no one is reading. But also write like people are reading. I know I just gave you a heartfelt sermon on writing like no one is reading, but you have to know your audience once you create a community of readers. This lesson doesn’t apply if you’re writing with no goal in mind except to write (ie you’re not trying to build a business now or even eventually). If you want to grow your writing community, whatever that looks like, you must get to know who your best followers are. Follow your intuition, and listen to your audience at the same time. You will get criticism, even if it’s just about your grammar. A wise woman once said, “You haven’t made it until you get a hater” and “hater” being anyone from a troll to someone who criticizes your work. There’s thoughtful criticism which is basically just feedback that argues your points, opinions, or work in general, and then there’s people who are just dicks.The thing is, if you keep writing or putting your art out there, you will eventually get criticism. You’re not for everyone, and that’s okay. Read the rest of this article HERE <a
Wed, June 06, 2018
Episode 232: Big Love, Forgiveness and Compassion with Scott Stabile
This week I welcome Scott Stabile to the podcast. He is the author of the book, Big Love . I’ve been watching him from afar for a while now. I heard him on another podcast, began following him on social media, and then read his book. Scott has such an amazing and heart-wrenching story, but it is one of resilience and strength. And, I knew I just had to introduce him to you! In this episode we talk a lot about love and forgiveness. We touch on Scott’s story, including how he evolved into being a teacher on the topic of love. Plus, we explore the topics of compassion and empathy, how small things matter, and how to show up for yourself. In this episode you’ll hear: Making the commitment to live our lives from love Does our life purpose really matter? The path to forgiveness is empathy Empathy, compassion and boundaries Scott explains how the writing process can be a powerful tool http://yourkickasslife.com/232 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 30, 2018
Episode 231: Living a More Courageous Life with Kate Courageous
Kate Courageous is back on the YKAL podcast, y’all! She was one of my first podcast guests, way back in 2013. She is a dear friend of mine, as well, and I am thrilled she is back, this time to share her thoughts on fear, courage, and the inner-critic. Kate is also the author of The Courage Habit: How to Accept Your Fears, Release the Past, and Live Your Courageous Life. I am so happy her book is available! Today, we talk all about her new book and living more courageous lives. Plus, we cover the brain science behind courage habits, and identifying and then dealing with habits that are holding you back. In this episode you’ll hear: Four fear patterns that get people stuck (4 minutes and 36 seconds) Some ways we try to deal with fear (10:25) The more you go into the things you fear, the wider your comfort zone becomes (17:07) Reaching out and creating a community, courage-based values, and being vulnerable (22:17) Fear is a wound and needs understanding and how to strike a balance with fear (34:39) Also, did you know I’m back to doing weekly Facebook and Instagram Live videos? Join me on Thursday’s at noon Eastern time (9am Pacific) on either Instagram or Facebook as I talk about a personal development lesson (~ 10 minutes).(If you miss it, you can see archived videos on Facebook or my YouTube channel). http://yourkickasslife.com/231 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 23, 2018
Episode 230: Favorite things I use everyday
Hey ass kickers! Well, after nearly 10 years of blogging, 5 years and 228 podcast episodes, I’m FINALLY doing a favorite things episode! I tried to record both as a regular podcast episode AND video, but alas, I had an technology FAIL on the video side, so these images will have to do! So, without further ado, here are some of my favorite things… Misc. Golden Girls coasters . I don’t even think I need to sell you on this one. Hair and beauty: Nume Curling Wand - When I do actually do my hair, I use this curling wand. I’ve had a few different ones, and this one by far is my favorite. I often get comments on my hair and on one occasion was chased down in Target by a breathless woman asking me how I got my curls. Lush’s Sea Salt Spray -- I’ve tried several Sea Salt sprays, even a big brand name that will go unnamed, but they’ve all been a huge waste of money, until I tried Lush’s brand. The smell is amazing, it’s not sticky, and works great. MAC Cosmetics Studio Fix -- I use the powder (BTW, that link will take you to my shade, NC30, but you probably want to go somewhere where they sell it so someone can match your skin tone). Super easy to put on (I use a brush) and I use to even out my skin tone. Add a little blush, eyebrow pencil, and mascara and I’m done. The bralette- Two of my favorites are here and here . Great for the small to medium breasted women who don’t need a whole lot of support. Gold bond hand cream - I feel like such a grandma with this, but… I have really dry skin and can’t stand it when my hands feel dry. I’ve tried approximately 17,000 different hand creams and this one BY FAR is my favorite. It’s not greasy (unless you use way too much), and it works, even through a hand washing. I keep the small tubes in different drawers all over my house, in my purse, and in the car. I don’t consider myself a super techie person, but these are the apps I can’t live without AND they’re all easy to use. Check out the rest of this recommendations HERE http://yourkickasslife.com/230 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 16, 2018
Episode 229: Healing From Parental Wounds, Making Peace and Moving Forward with Jeannine Yoder
This week on the YKAL podcast I am joined by Jeannine Yoder, a New York Times Featured Business & Feminine Leadership Coach For Coaches, Broadway Starlet and the Founder of Mentor Masterclass. Jeannine has such an incredible story of resilience and redemption. And you know how I love a good redemption story! In this episode Jeannine shares how she overcame a really difficult childhood, one surrounded by drug addicted parents, chaos and trauma. She talks openly about her path to healing, which spanned many years. Plus, she goes on to share how she ‘rose from the ashes’ and became a broadway star. Finally, she offers some of her own advice for healing the parental wound and making peace with it all. In this episode you’ll hear: Jeannine share in detail her childhood story and what she learned the most from her experiences (5 minutes and 58 seconds) Not being a victim of circumstances, plus listening to your inner voice to empower and guide you through life decisions (11:07) How to love your life with your whole being and still be healing and lessons learned from attending AA meetings with her father (16:00) Becoming a broadway star; the lifestyle of an artist (19:17) Jeannine’s tools and strategies for healing the mother wound (26:56) The greatest way to healing your story is by telling your story (38:10) Also, did you know I’m back to doing weekly Facebook and Instagram Live videos? Join me on Thursday’s at noon Eastern time (9am Pacific) on either Instagram or Facebook as I talk about a personal development lesson (~ 10 minutes).(If you miss it, you can see archived videos on Facebook or my YouTube channel). http://yourkickasslife.com/229 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 09, 2018
Episode 228: Getting Real About Life, Motherhood and Sobriety with Janelle Hanchett
I devoured Janelle Hanchett’s memoir, I’m Just Happy to Be Here , while I was in New York on my book tour. I could not put it down. Janelle is also the creator of the website, Renegade Mothering, and she is this week’s guest on the YKAL podcast. In this episode Janelle and I discuss her new book and her blog which are both devoted to her take on maneuvering through life, motherhood and sobriety. We also touch on her addiction and sobriety story. But first, I share some of my recent experiences with triathlon training. Let’s just say, it’s been more challenging than I had anticipated. I also talk about my fear of drains and how that relates to why I decided to sign up for a sprint triathlon (yes, I’m seriously afraid of drains). Which leads me to the main reason for mentioning all of this: what is one thing you are afraid of and what can you do to push yourself through it? In this episode you’ll hear: The “why” behind creating the Renegade Mothering blog (10 minutes and 48 seconds) Meeting up with other moms at the park, playing the “one-upping” game and really just wanting to get real, instead (17:07) In the midst of writing her book, Janelle shares an event that rocked her to the core and how that event ultimately affected how she wrote the rest of the memoir (23:12) How Janelle managed sobriety through grief and how she manages it daily with a busy lifestyle (28:31) Also, did you know I’m back to doing weekly Facebook and Instagram Live videos? Join me on Thursday’s at noon Eastern time (9am Pacific) on either Instagram or Facebook as I talk about a personal development lesson (~ 10 minutes). This week is self-forgiveness! (If you miss it, you can see archived videos on Facebook or my YouTube channel). http://yourkickasslife.com/228 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 02, 2018
Episode 227: Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child with Debbie Reber
My personal friend and colleague Debbie Reber joins me on the YKAL podcast this week. She is a mother of a differently wired child and is the podcast host of TILT Parenting . Her book, Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World , comes out in spring 2018, which we talk about in this episode. As some of you may know my son was diagnosed with high-functioning autism, sensory processing disorder, and anxiety disorder, at the age of 5. In this episode Debbie and I share some of our own experiences as parents of atypical children. Plus, we also talk about how having an exceptional child can bring up some of our own complicated and messy feelings and how we worked through them. Whether you are a parent of an exceptional child or a parent of a neurotypical child; the topics we cover are meant to offer support and understanding for everyone, even if you don’t have children. In this episode you’ll hear: Why we tend to isolate when faced with the situation of having an exceptional child (3 minutes and 59 seconds) Letting go of what others think about your child (atypical or not) when they go against social norms (8:39) The complexities of mourning your child’s diagnosis, dealing with the loss of the vision you had for them, and giving yourself time to mourn by politely telling people to f*ck off (12:05) Dealing with the expectations of parenting, with ourselves and with our children (13:31) Creating space where your child can feel secure (22:47) As more and more resources become available and exceptional children are being accepted in today’s society, hear Debbie’s vision and hope for the future of differently wired children (28:20) Also, join me on Thursdays at noon eastern time (9 Pacific) LIVE on Facebook or Instagram as I share a personal growth lesson. Tomorrow’s lesson is all about complaining! Lastly, both retreats for this year are sold out, but if you want to get on the waitlist/interest list, please sign up here . http://yourkickasslife.com/227 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 25, 2018
Episode 226: How to Build Your Tribe with Lori Harder
This week on the YKAL podcast, I welcome back Lori Harder for the third time. One of the things I love about Lori is that she is at a top-tier level in her business and she is simply one of the kindest people I know. Lori has a new book coming out next week called, A Tribe Called Bliss , which I just loved and we talked about in this episode. We also talked about building your community, creating stronger connections and how to handle friendships that have changed over time (and may no longer serve you). Plus, we touch on gossip, why it’s so important to talk about and how malicious gossip is just a cheap way to build connections. In this episode you’ll hear How Lori created a tribe of her own and some ways you can too (6 minutes and 47 seconds) Collecting people can help you build connections and friends, including building your supporting cast and what that truly means (12:58) Good gossip and finding a safe space with a friend to talk things through (22:18) Having a conversation with a friend when the friendship has changed or may be coming to an end (26:36) Creating agreements with a friend and building deeper connections (33:52) Lori’s seven sacred agreements (34:46) http://yourkickasslife.com/226 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 18, 2018
Episode 225: Owning Your Sexual Energy and Healing with Christina Dunbar
Christina Dunbar on the YKAL podcast again. I am so happy to bring her back on the podcast, because she just oozes creativity and has really dedicated her life to healing from a creative place. You can hear our first conversation about using the power of voice, here . Christina is a performing artist, poet, producer and mentor to creative women. She is also the playwright and star of Dirty Me Divine ; a one-woman show about sexuality and soul, directed by husband Chaim Dunbar. In today’s episode Christina and I explore owning your feminine sexual energy, as well as, learning how to heal shame through creative expression. Plus, we answer the question, can you truly be shameless? Before I began my conversation with Christina, in the intro of this episode, I do my own work by sharing my own experience with surrendering and making room for success of my latest book, How To Stop Feeling Like Shit . In this episode you’ll hear: Why is it important to own and trust your sexual energy (12 minutes and 47 seconds) The wounded female artist, defining an artist and dealing with art scars (15:20) Healing shame through art, storytelling and creative expression (23:17) How to flex the muscle of the healing our inner artist (33:36) Christina’s surprising revelations in herself and her in work (44:43) Can we really be truly shameless? (47:22) http://yourkickasslife.com/225 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 11, 2018
Episode 224: Personal Connection: Why It’s So Important with Lisa Daron Grossman
This week on the YKAL podcast, I am waaaay too excited to have my very dear friend, Lisa Daron Grossman join me. She is a phenomenal life coach (I know because she was my coach!), amazing human being, and creator of the Connection Cure Project. In this episode we discuss the Connection Cure, which is a cross country project that utilizes face to face connection as a catalyst for healing and wellness. Lisa shares how it was “born” out of chronic illness and isolation. Plus, we discuss why it is so important that we are connected to one another now more than ever, answer whether or not some people need more connection than others and we chat about how engaging with strangers can be a good thing. In this episode you’ll hear: A human engagement project born out of chronic illness and isolation (3:27) Healing the body through micro moments of connection (9:26) How people whom have friendships and partners can still feel massive sense of loneliness (12:15) Why more than ever does it matter how we are connected? (15:47) Do some of us need more connection than others? (25:38) How a no judgment speakeasy in the Everglades enabled human connection (37:00) http://yourkickasslife.com/224 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 04, 2018
Episode 223: An Honest Conversation About Body Image, Part Deux with Kate Anthony
My dear friend, Kate Anthony is back on the YKAL podcast this week to continue our conversation about body image. Just like in Part 1 of this episode, Part 2 follows the conversation between two women on their body image journeys, and the roads traveled so far. Full disclosure and for clarity: We are not body image experts and want to be very clear about that. Today, we further explore this topic and respond to some of the feedback we received from Part 1 of our conversation. We also discuss diet culture, in-depth. Join us as we awkwardly make our way through the second part of our conversation about body image. In this episode you’ll hear: Owning thin privilege and naming it (23 minutes and 10 seconds) What is diet culture, exactly? (27:33) “The lie about diet culture is that it’s healthy.” (35:28) Exercise is NOT bad. Rejecting diet culture was an act of revolution and act of self-love (40:50) Reflecting on our earliest memories of dieting, our mothers’ way of handling body image and how those experiences scoped our own views about our bodies and diet culture (47:23) If not dieting, then what? Kate’s choice to reject dieting and how she is learning to walk through this new part of her journey (59:19) Kate Anthony is a certified life coach who helps women decide if they should stay in or leave their marriages and then guides them through the divorce process should they choose to leave. Kate empowers women to find their strength, passion, and confidence even in the most disempowering of circumstances and helps them move forward with concrete plans, putting their children at the center (not in the middle) of all decisions. In addition to her certification, Kate has also trained as a relationship coach and is an expert in communication, co-parenting, and emotional intelligence. http://yourkickasslife.com/223 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 28, 2018
Episode 222: Being Boss: Living Life On Your Terms with Kathleen Shannon
Hey there ass-kickers! This week on the podcast, Kathleen Shannon, co-host of Being Boss Podcast and founder of Braid Creative and Consulting, joins me to discuss her new book, Being Boss: Take Control of Your Work and Live Life on Your Own Terms . In this episode, we talk about what it means to be “boss” and how to cultivate a boss mindset. Plus, we discuss defining values and setting boundaries that align with those values (as you know, this is one of my favorite topics!). We also touch on several topics that will put you on the path to being boss and living life on your own terms. In this episode you’ll hear: Core values and how the value of decisiveness can help you move forward (6:25) Self trust, how is this cultivated? (10:38) Defining your values, what resonates with you and your story (12:27) How do we reevaluate our relationship with money? (13:24) Inner critic, internal freak-outs and surrounding yourself with your post-it note people (21:42) Thinking from your heart and how is this different than thinking from your brain (25:36) Kathleen Shannon is the founder of Braid Creative and Consulting, a boutique branding agency and consultancy she co-owns with her sister. She also does creative coaching and is regularly invited to speak on personal branding at design conferences and retreats. She lives in Oklahoma City with her husband and son. http://yourkickasslife.com/222 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 21, 2018
Episode 221: An Honest Conversation About Body Image with Kate Anthony
My dear friend Kate Anthony joins me on the podcast this week. Kate is a certified life coach who helps women decide if they should stay in or leave their marriages and then guides them through the divorce process should they choose to leave. She is amazing at what she does! Prior to our podcast recording, we had planned on talking about a very specific topic. And then what unfolded was more akin to an open and honest conversation between two women, two friends, in their 40s talking about body image (trigger warning - we touch on eating disorders). We also discuss how our body image has changed and evolved over the years, the pitfalls we’ve experienced and more. This is not your typical episode which gets wrapped up with a pretty bow at the end. But neither does life, the journey is always evolving and changing. In this episode you’ll hear: Two friends plan to dance like nobody's watching, while in workout clothes (11 minutes and 23 seconds) Body comparison, cellulite, and managing your inner-critic (21:06) Views on exercising, including some reasons why we push it away, plus body shaming in the self-help industry (27:33) Being deliberate with rejecting diet culture (30:01) Hitting rock bottom, Kate’s experience with an eating disorder and working through it (39:21) Being intentional with body image beliefs and behaviors in order to be a better role model for our children, body shaming and cultural taboos (46:07) http://yourkickasslife.com/221 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 14, 2018
Episode 220: Money and Relationships: It’s Not Always About The Money with Bari Tessler
Hi ass-kickers! Following February’s month-long daily diary episodes, we are back with guest interviews and our regularly scheduled programming. Today, I have an amazing guest with me, Bari Tessler. Bari is a financial therapist and mentor coach. She is also the founder of The Art of Money: a global, year-long money school, which integrates Money Healing, Money Practices and Money Maps. No matter what economic class you were born into or what class you are in now, money-shaming exists. Bari talks about how money shaming affects our ability to reach our goals. Plus, we touch on money stories, your relationship with money and how money can affect your relationship with your partner or spouse (and what to do about it). In this episode you’ll hear: Bari’s relationship to money and her own money story (5 minutes and 20 seconds) The origins of our money stories and savers versus spenders (9:43) Bari’s body check-in tip to help you build a better relationship with money, she calls it the anecdote to money shame (22:08) How to connect with your partner on a deeper level, starting with “money dates” (29:35) When one partner makes more money, how that affects control, personal value and worth (42:03) Bari Tessler Linden, MA, is a Financial Therapist, Mentor Coach and Mama-preneur. Bari’s gentle, body-centered approach weaves together personal, couple, and creative entrepreneurial money teachings into one complete tapestry. She is the founder of The Art of Money: a global, year-long money school, which integrates Money Healing, Money Practices and Money Maps. Her work has been featured on Oprah.com, Inc.com, and the Huffington Post and in US News & World Report, Reuters Money, The Fiscal Times, REDBOOK Magazine, Experience Life Magazine, Yogi Times, Best Self Magazine and Emerging Women. Bari is also the author of The Art of Money: A Life-Changing Guide to Financial Happiness, published by Parallax Press. http://yourkickasslife.com/220 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, March 02, 2018
Episode 219: Free worksheet from this week’s lessons!
Phew! We made it! Thank you so much for coming along with me for these daily dairies. It’s been so fun to put these together and thank you so much for your positive feedback (ask them for rating/review). I have a worksheet for you this week! As you know, personal development is about doing the work, not just consuming it. This week has been a mish-mosh of stories, all with their own lessons. Monday I told you the story of a dear friendship I had that had fallen apart and recently come back together. Tuesday was about my daughter and her baby bunny videos, and how they made her absolutely weep. And how amazing it was to watch her and how grateful I was that she allowed me to do it with her. Wednesday was about the ladybug infestation in my home office and how I’ve been watching what seems like their instincts to get outside, even though it’s not working for them. I have some questions for you if you might be doing this in your own life. Then on Thursday, I told you a story about ego, failing, and perspective. All in wrapped up in one short story. So many lessons! When you download the worksheet, feel free to answer all the questions, or pick the ones that are feeling very present in your life. Don’t feel like you have to do them all just to check off the boxes ;) These worksheets are for gaining awareness so you can see what you might need to work on. Click here to download the worksheet *************************** P.S. I have something exciting I’ve been cooking up. I know many of you are familiar with the work of Brené Brown and know I’m a certified Daring Way™ Facilitator since 2014. I’m thinking of doing a Daring Way weekend retreat in August. If you think it might be something you’d like to do, go to this link and sign up to be notified when I open applications. There is NO obligation to sign up by doing this, I just first want to get a feel for how much interest is out there! Thank you! 💜 http://yourkickasslife.com/219 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, March 01, 2018
Episode 218: Sometimes we jump and the net doesn’t appear
This is a story about ego, feeling like a failure for 2 hot seconds, doing the work, and about perspective. Portland Oregon was the 4th of 5 cities on my book tour. My friend, Bari Tessler had recommended this book store, Annie Bloom’s, telling me how awesome it was and that when she had her book signing there, she had 50 people in attendance. Bari and I have about the same size audience so I thought this was completely feasible and we booked the event there. I was really excited about this one because one of my long-time clients was driving down from Seattle and a colleague I’ve known forever online was coming too. Plus, three additional colleagues had RSVP’ed and I was all around excited. The Facebook event told me 17 people had said YES and 74 were interested. I was expecting a great crowd! The bookstore had set up about 25 chairs and as the time got closer, there were 8 amazing people in attendance. Two of them were the lady I was renting an Airbnb from and her friend. Those 3 additional colleagues I mentioned weren’t there. Obviously it wasn’t a total failure. If I went down the rabbit-hole of compare and despair to Bari’s event, well, yes, but I did my best not to go there. The people in attendance were AMAZING and I know this is part of putting yourself out there. Sometimes it doesn’t go as we planned. Sometimes we jump and the net doesn’t appear and we have to deal with all the feelings around it. When the event was over, I was chatting with my friend Amy Pearson. I was telling her how awesome it was to get to meet people in person and also that I was a bit disappointed to see so many empty seats. And Amy said, “Really?! I thought this was a great turnout. I’m totally impressed.” Well, how do you like that for perspective? Sometimes we let our egos get in the way and that’s okay. Just notice. And sometimes we feel like a failure. That’s okay too, just don’t stay there. Realize it’s just a story your brain/inner-critic made up. Lastly, sometimes it’s all about perspective. What may not be great to you, may be great to someone else. It’s good sometimes to take that into consideration. ********************************** I have something exciting I’ve been cooking up. I know many of you are familiar with the work of Brené Brown and know I’m a certified Daring Way Facilitator since 2014. I’m thinking of doing a Daring Way weekend retreat in August. Go to this link to sign up to be notified when I open applications soon. There’s no obligation, but I’d love to get a feel for how much interest is out there! Thank you! http://yourkickasslife.com/218 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 28, 2018
Episode 217: Saving the ladybugs
Since we bought our house in North Carolina, every winter I have a minor ladybug infestation in my home office. They gather on the inside of my window and crawl around, trying to get out. Now, I don’t know hardly anything about ladybugs (except they are the only bug I feel comfortable holding, I know, so weird and judgy against other bugs), but I wonder if they instinctively know what to do as they try to get outside and free themselves. And they try and try, but are trapped. So, every year around this time I do my best to gather them up. Because if I don’t, they die trying to get outside, and then there are dead ladybug carcasses under my desk and that’s just not good for morale around here. (Even though my only co-worker is my dog). And mostly, I succeed in this. I get my empty coffee mug, or sometimes just my bare hands and gather up about a half-dozen at a time and take them outside. LADYBUGS, BE FREE! I shout. It’s kind of exciting. And the weird thing is some of them don’t want to be saved. Or rather, they aren’t convinced my way is the way out. If I don’t cover them up one or two will jump out of the cup and fly back on the window, even though they’ve been crawling around there for hours, sometimes more than a day and it’s NOT WORKING. So, do you do this? What is it that YOU instinctively know what to do? Is there something you know you need to do, maybe even someone is trying to help you, but you keep going back to trying the thing that isn’t working? If so, I invite you to get honest with yourself. Journal about it. Or, even just admit it out loud to yourself or to someone you trust. You, just like the ladybugs, deserve to be free from whatever is trapping you. ************************ If you’re someone who feels like she keeps crawling around the window and nothing is changing, just like the ladybugs in my office, you may want to check out the private work I do with women. I facilitate The Daring Way™, based on the work and research of Dr. Brené Brown and it is absolutely life changing. Click here to read about it and apply . http://yourkickasslife.com/217 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 27, 2018
Episode 216: baby bunnies and what they have to do with you.
A couple months ago my daughter walked into my office holding the iPad and crying. My first thought was a bit of panic-- what had she stumbled upon that had so clearly upset her? I opened my arms and asked her what was wrong. She climbed into my lap and showed me the iPad. On it was a video of a baby bunny. “Oh noooo” I thought. “She watched an animal cruelty video” and I braced myself for it. But, that wasn't it. As I watched the video with her, it was a person holding a baby bunny in their hand. Then, they pet the tiny bunny. Then, another bunny. Then, a group a little bunnies. And all the while we watched this, my daughter didn’t just cry, she wept. “Honey, why are you crying?” I asked her. “They’re just so cute, mama. They’re so cute and I love them so much.” Weeping. Just weeping. And I let her weep. I held her and we watched more baby bunny videos, then some newborn puppy videos, where she wept some more. And it got me thinking, how often to we let it all in like that? How often to we let all the feelings in, let all the cute baby bunnies in and just feel it? And if we do, how often to we invite other people in to be with us in that? My hope is that my daughter, only eight years old, will continue to come to me in her joys, her sorrows, and everything in between to not only tell me about it, but to allow me to witness her feelings-- as uncomfortable as it may be for me sometimes. It’s an honor for me and for anyone who let’s me in on their experience. And my hope is that you do too. That you find the courage within you to let all those cute baby bunny feelings in, feel it, and that you can find the courage to let someone witness it. http://yourkickasslife.com/216 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, February 26, 2018
Episode 215: I felt like I had dug up a dead body
In episode 203 I mentioned a friend of mine where she had broken up with me in 2007 when I had all that drama in my life. I’m circling back in this episode to tell you what happened. Here’s a quick timeline: 2007: She told me she needed a break from me, as her mom was ill and I had too much drama. She was right, but it was still devastating. 2008: My life was back on track, her mom was well again, and we were friends again. 2011: We moved and we lost touch somewhat. 2012: I wrote her a three-page letter making amends to her for what I had known and remembered I had done wrong in our friendship. I also told her how much I missed her and that I would love to have her friendship again. She emailed me, acknowledging my letter and accepting my apology. She asked if we could catch up via email first. She told me a bit about what was going on in her life, I replied and did the same. Then, nothing. I followed up with another email, and nothing. I was devastated. I wrote about this in my book, how I never knew what happened. I agonized over what I said in the email, thinking I had said something wrong. I did a lot of work on letting it all go. October 2017: I never, ever check my “other” messages on Facebook. It’s usually creepy marriage proposals, but for some reason, I felt compelled to check. Lo and behold, there’s a message from my friend. She said hello, said she’s been thinking of me, asked how I was, and said she hoped me, the kids and Jason are well. I felt like someone had punched me in the face. It felt like a long-lost boyfriend whom I was in love with that had dumped me and then was circling back with a casual, hi! How are you? I had done all this work to forgive myself, to forgive her, to let her go and here she was again. Like digging up a dead body. Read the rest HERE http://www.yourkickasslife.com/215 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, February 23, 2018
Episode 214: Your manifesto
This week I talked about some pretty heavy stuff. At least it was heavy for me. Monday I talked about tolerations and shared with you some experiences that a couple of my past clients had had, as well as myself. Tolerating relationships that aren’t working for us and our decisions that followed. Tuesday was about apologizing. Or, rather what I call “roundabout apologizing”-- prefacing requests or hard conversations with the message of, “please don’t think badly of me for asking you to do this”. Then on Wednesday was the story about the Over the Line tournament, and me being humiliated by a stranger in front of people. And how that humiliation turned to anger, which turned to rage, what I did with it then and what I do with it now. Yesterday I read you a poem . True confession, after I read that poem I had planned to do a Facebook live, but I needed a break. My whole body was saying no, and I felt like I just needed to be still, burn some sage, and honor what I needed. That was a doozy for me and like I was talking about in the first week of the daily diaries, upleveling. Over the last couple of weeks I’ve created worksheets for you to be able to do the work in your own life. And this week I’ve decided to do something different. First and foremost, I’m inviting you to join me in Raise Hell. If you’ve been reading these emails (listening to these episodes) and they resonate with you, Raise Hell is probably the perfect next step for you to help you get ot the next level of your growth and your life. Everything I’ve been talking about over the last 3 weeks points to what we’ll be learning, discussing and claiming in Raise Hell. Second, I invite you to create a personal manifesto. A manifesto is a written statement declaring your intentions, motives, or views. It can be as long or as short as you want it to be. I’ve created some prompts for you below. You don’t have to answer all of them, but use these as a guide. I believe… I stand for… I am most passionate about… I am on this planet to… I was born in this time and space so that I can … I will love myself by… I have the courage to… I will take action on… The status quo I want to disrupt is… What matters to me right now is… What I know for sure is… I’d love for you to tag me on Instagram (@yourkickasslife) and post your manifesto! I can’t wait to see what you come up with! RAISE HELL IS OPEN! This 4-month online program is part course, part support group, part accountability group, and all around adventure that will take you from autopilot in your
Thu, February 22, 2018
Episode 213: My resignation.
Dear World, I’m resigning today. Resigning from the job I was given to make you happy and comfortable. I don’t remember even applying for this job, but nonetheless, it was handed to me. Somehow, somewhere, a story was bestowed on me and my fellow females. That we have a job that is an ever so important one. That job has many rules and responsibilities. A short list of the musts: We must smile. We must be pretty. We must be thin. We must be compliant. And the must nots: We must not get angry. We must not age disgracefully (whatever that means) We must not use foul language. We must not show too much cleavage. We must not share our opinions too forcefully and if we do dare share them, they should not offend anyone nor be disagreeable. And if we MUST say no, we must explain ourselves, apologize, and do whatever deems necessary to make the other person feel as comfortable as possible with our no. As I turn in my resignation, I have three words for your rules. Fuck. That. Shit. Because I’m done. These rules have been for you. These rules have morphed me into an unrecognizable rag doll that serves no purpose except to make you comfortable. These are not my rules . World, do you know what abiding by these rules has done? Let me paint you a picture. When I was 16 I was pinned down on a beach, sand in my hair, While a boy I was on a date with forced open my pants, Shoving his hand down my underwear. When I told him no and to get off of me, He said he thought that’s what I wanted because I had let him kiss me. I liked him and with his obvious frustration I felt guilty and wrong for my decision to say no. He took me home and on Monday at school, I heard the boys laughing and “prick tease!”-- Yelled through the hallways at me while people stopped and stared and whispered. I learned that day if I didn’t follow the rules, if I dared say no, there would be consequences. When I was 17 my boyfriend shoved my head down to his crotch as I suppose-- An unspoken invitation to give him a blow job. I wanted to say no. I didn’t. I hated him while I did it. But, I didn’t want him to be mad at me. I knew how it went if I said no. When I was 20, I found myself laying under a guy I barely knew, Saying the word “no” over and over again as he continued to undress me. I could have pushed him off me, I could have said no more forcefully, But having known the rules, I worried he would get angry, Call me names, or worse, fight back. So, I relented to his advances and had sex with him even though every being in my body screamed no. Even though I acted like I enjoyed it, hoping that would help move things along. Even though I hated myself while it happened. <
Wed, February 21, 2018
Episode 212: That time I was humiliated in public by a stranger
It was the mid-90’s. A small group of friends and I went to the annual Over The Line tournament in San Diego, one of the city’s oldest traditions. OTL is known for its drunkenness, topless women, and just all-around debauchery. Some call it “Mardi Gras on the beach”. Hundreds, maybe thousands of people come out for this yearly event every summer and even though it was my first time going, I wasn’t afraid at all of the craziness we were walking into. My friends and I walked around, watched some of the teams play, and as the games wound down for the day, started to make our way towards the wide road which would take us to the main parking lot. Along that road were peoples’ Van’s and RV’s. Many of the RV’s had people hanging out around them and on top of them. As we continued to walk, I heard a man shout from about 30 feet away. “Hey you in the white shirt!” I looked up to the top of the RV and a good-looking guy about 25 or 30 was pointing at me. We made eye contact. He said, “You have a nice smile!” I smiled at him. He continued, “I’d like to cum all over it.” Laughter erupted. Time stood still for me. “What a dick!” one of my friends yelled. We kept walking. No one spoke of it again. I sometimes wonder what happened to him. The guy at the over the line tournament. The guy that used me to make himself look cool. The guy that I assume never thought twice of what he shouted to me and probably so many other women. I wonder if now, twenty plus years later he is the father of daughters. I wonder if he looks back on his youth and regrets some things he did and said. I wonder if he gives a shit. Because for me, my humiliation turned into anger and then turned into rage. Rage for my humiliation. Rage for the discomfort it caused all the people that saw and heard it. Rage for all the women who saw it who wanted to say something but couldn’t. Rage for all the women who saw it who didn’t care. Rage for the part of me who stayed silent. Rage for the fact that if I did say anything, it wouldn’t have really mattered. Rage for the fact that I knew this. Rage for all the times I had in fact shouted something back in retaliation only to met with something worse. Rage for the notion that “that’s what you get when you go to the Over The Line tournament”. Rage for living in a world where “that’s just how it is.” My rage wasn’t expressed that day. I stuffed it away with all the other emotions I didn’t know what to do with. I lashed out at my then-boyfriend. I gave the middle finger to any and all cat-calls I received. I was aggressive and was quick to be mean. And it wasn’t just him. It was years of sexual harassment, having my ass grabbed uninvited more times than I can possibly count, being cornered at parties and being afraid while I looked for an exit or a friend, being followed to my car, and being met with “that’s just how it is.” What does one do with that much rage? I look back on my behaviors that
Tue, February 20, 2018
Episode 211: Do you do this too?
This week has a bit of a theme, and that’s about Raising Hell. What I mean by that, is that culturally, we, as women, have been taught to act and behave a certain way, a way that is acceptable and a way that will have us be more well-liked. And not necessarily outwardly taught to be a certain way by our parents and mentors, but taught by what we see on a daily basis. This is messaging we’ve received our whole lives. And one of those things is apologizing. For instance, a few months ago I had to email someone who's not following through on their commitments and making my job harder. This person would fall off in the middle of an email conversation, and not answer questions I had. But, then start a new email telling me something or asking me questions. I even asked this person if there is another way we can do things to make our communication work better. They said no and things continue to fall through the cracks. I knew this was going to be an uncomfortable conversation, but I called on my courage and started an email where I was going to tell this person how I felt and be clear that I needed a solution. In drafting the email I found myself typing, "I'm not trying to be a diva about this..." and I stopped myself. I’m sure we’ve all either said this or emailed this. It might also look like, "I'm sorry to seem like a pain-in-the-ass..." or "Forgive me if this sounds overbearing..." This is what I call "roundabout apologizing". Raise your hand if you have done this? I've less and less said "Sorry", when I don’t need to be, but still the "I'm not trying to be blah blah..." In other words: PLEASE DON'T THINK I'M AGGRESSIVE, A BITCH, HARD TO WORK WITH, DEMANDING, ETC. The risk is more than just someone having this opinion-- the risk is that I could get a reputation for being this way. I edited my email to be kind, but still clear that I feel this person is not doing their job. Some people might think I'm a diva, or demanding, or whatever. But, I'm at the point where it hurts worse to apologize for something I don't need to apologize for than to risk being seen as whatever they make up I am. My challenge for you is to think about where you do this too. Just get curious and watch for it. I understand that in some situations, your job depends on you keeping the peace. And, maybe just having what I’ve talked about in this post run through your head will help you think about speaking up more in meetings, in your partnerships, and friendships. Whether you have an idea about something, you need something to change, or anything at all where the words need to move out of your mouth, or even in an email. I hope you consider having a throwdown with the old messaging we’ve come so used to having. Or even if you just get curious about it. Either way, it’s an act of raising hell. Raise Hell, the 4-month online program is open for registration . J
Mon, February 19, 2018
Episode 210: What are you tolerating?
Last year I had a few clients who were dealing with some “man problems”. In a nutshell, dating men who were unavailable to them. One was having a relationship with a married man, the other was on again-off again dating someone who had made it clear to her he didn’t want to commit. Both were in a pickle. This is what they were used to, it was their pattern. Whether the men were physically unavailable for the long term (married), or emotionally unavailable, these women just kept picking the wrong partners. Much science has gone into why we pick certain people. My favorite book on this is “Getting the Love You Want” by Harv Hendrix. Other interesting ones are “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment” and really there are just too many good books on this topic to mention. But, what I want to focus on today is not just who they were picking-- which I think for many of us is an unconscious thing that happens-- but more specifically, what they were tolerating when they were already IN the relationship and knew their partner wasn’t good for them. Because so many of us have been there, right? Personally, I can vividly remember sitting in my therapist's office with my ex-husband who at that time was still my boyfriend. We were in our mid-twenties and he was not ready to settle down. He would regularly stay out all night, roll home drunk at 6 am when I never knew if he was off screwing someone else or dead in a ditch somewhere (turns out he was screwing someone else throughout the majority of our relationship. Many, many someone else's). After years of this and other disrespectful behavior towards me and many months of therapy, my therapist said to me, “Andrea, I don’t think he’s ready to change. You can either learn to tolerate it or leave.” He was sitting right there and he didn’t argue with her. We all knew it was the truth. Read the rest HERE http://yourkickasslife.com/210 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, February 16, 2018
Episode 209: When I was told to “stop pussyfooting around”
On Monday, episode 205 I talked about making peace with unfinished business. The old parts of ourselves that may still need something like healing, processing, something to help us move on. On Tuesday , it was about when I went to visit my boyfriend in rehab and his fake cancer, and him cheating on me with Debbie and mostly that episode was about finding your motivation. Your catalyst for change. That post and episode was quite a doozy! Wednesday was all about the stories we make up about other people that we think “have their shit together”. People we put on a pedestal, people we think are better than we are. Thursday, episode 208 was about trying to figure out what it meant by “my life had become unmanageable”. (Spoiler alert if you haven’t listened: it’s about boundaries, emotions and communication.) Just like last week, I have a worksheet for that pertains to all the posts from this week, but first a bonus lesson! And it comes in the form of a story... Last November I sat on a video conference call with my Mastermind ladies. It’s a peer group of other coaches that support one another. Every month we meet and bring a topic we’d love support on. That cold November day I started with, “Okay, I’m about to introduce a new course to my audience, I really feel like it’s been in the making for ten years and is the baby of Your Kick-Ass Life-- the course that I was meant to teach. And I’m so scared.” Truth be told: I was afraid of teaching something that veered away from some of the deeper things I’ve been teaching over the last three years. Afraid to go back to basics. I was expressing my fear that my audience wouldn’t care enough about the topics. And when something means a lot to me, the acceptance of it matters. In other words, I felt like it was a huge risk. The thing about this program is that I had a download about it. It felt like the idea was dropped in my lap and there have only been a handful of things I’ve been this excited about since the birth of YKAL in 2010. But, I kept thinking... What if people read the info page and say…meh. What if people say no? What if it tanks? What if my download was wrong? Now, I’ve gotten past a lot of fear in my life. I’ve looked at fear, laughed at fear, studied fear...I feel like I have a pretty good idea of what it looks like in my life and can deal with it. But, what I know for sure, is the more passionate we are about things, the more we believe in them, the more we LOVE something, the more vulnerable we feel. So, as I ranted about this new course to my colleagues, Samantha asked me, “What does your audience love the most about you, Andrea?” And I said without hesitation, “They love that I tell the truth.” To which she
Thu, February 15, 2018
Episode 208: My life had become unmanageable
I know many of you who listen to this podcast are sober in recovery, some of you are thinking about it, and many of you are normal drinkers or even non drinkers who don’t have a problem with alcohol. What I’m about to talk about is based on a saying from the “rooms of recovery”, but does not mean it only applies to us alcoholics. I believe it can apply to everyone. I want to talk about the term “my life had become unmanageable” and it comes from the first of twelve steps of Alcoholics Anonymous: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable. And to be honest, I always had a problem with the whole “life had become unmanageable” part because mine hadn’t. I had a great job I loved, a good marriage, two great kids, friends, and life was pretty good. Someone explained to me that it was my spirituality that had become unmanageable and that didn’t seem right either. I mean, sure, I had moved away from spirituality when I was drinking, but still. It was also explained to me that it was that my “insides” had become unmanageable, not my “outsides”. And since I had had the emotional shit kicked out of me in 2006, I for sure knew what it felt like to have my “insides” unmanageable. I felt like I had healed a good deal from that time in my life and didn’t feel as “unmanageable” when I got sober five years later as I had back then. In terms of being in recovery, not being able to “fit” into that, made me feel like my bottom wasn’t low enough and maybe I DID need to wait until my life was unmanageable to get sober-- my insides AND my outsides. (And that’s not a good place to be in terms of our thinking when we are newly sober!) I continued to ask people about this, people tried to explain it to me in their own way, and it never seemed to feel like it applied to my life. Until… I had a few years of sobriety and I realized how shit my boundaries were. And in the first couple years I realized how emotionally illiterate I was and that I had a lot to learn in terms of communication. “Ohhh, so it’s my relationships, emotions and boundaries that had become unmanageable.” I realized. I finally understood what it meant in my life. And again, you don’t have to be alcoholic, or a love addict, or an anything addict to have all that feel unmanageable. Feelings and emotions are crazy-tough sometimes and numbing out becomes easier. Boundaries seem impossible so people-pleasing and blaming become your go-to. Communication? No one taught us, so we don’t fight fair, we don’t own our stuff, and tend to be passive aggressive. Read the rest HERE http://yourkickasslife.com/208 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 14, 2018
Episode 207: Which one of these have you shared?
If you follow me online (listen to this podcast), you probably also read a good amount of self-help books. Maybe books like: Wild , by Cheryl Strayed Love Warrior , by Glennon Doyle Daring Greatly, by Brené Brown Big Magic, by Elizabeth Gilbert You Are a Badass , by Jen Sincero And I’m assuming over the last couple of years you’ve read and recommended one or more of these books to a friend. All of these books I have read and recommend wholeheartedly. All these female authors I hold in high regard. And all of these women I know have pain and struggle just like you and me. But, maybe you think they don’t have as much as you. Maybe you hold them in high regard AND make up a story that they have their shit together much more than you do. Hell, maybe you think that most women have their shit together more than you do. Well, I’m here to tell you: “Having your shit together” is subjective. No one even knows what that means. Society and you have made up a story about that. So, check your expectations. And more importantly... Life is a path that we’re all traveling on . It’s long and winding, with ruts and obstacles along the way. As we move along it, we gain more insight and wisdom, and in my humble opinion, the more ruts and obstacles we run into, the more we get the emotional shit kicked out of us, the more insight and wisdom we gather. We’re all on this same path. The people who don’t give a shit about personal development and think you’re weird for it, typically don’t make it past the first couple of steps. That’s okay, that’s their thing in this lifetime. It’s not your job to force them farther along on the path. All those authors and personal development leaders are on your same path, they might just be farther along on it than you are. Some people move up quickly like in Monopoly when you get the card that tells you to jump ahead to one of the railroads and collect $200. And sometimes we take a few steps back. You don’t need to catch up, it’s not a race. You just need to do the work. On Friday, Feb 15th I invite you to join me for Raise Hell, which is a program that encompasses foundational tools to “get your shit together” (whatever that means), action, and accountability. It’s about declaring the woman you want to be and HOW to get there. It’s not easy to do this all alone. I’ll be there to guide you, plus an extraordinary group of women who are all on the same path rooting for you. We open doors on Friday. http://yourkickasslife.com/207 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 13, 2018
Episode 206: The week I went to that famous rehab place
If you read my book you know that in the the opening paragraphs I talk about how I had an all-time low in 2007 when I found out I’d been conned by my boyfriend. He had lied about having cancer to cover up his opioid addiction and I was pregnant with his child. This, coming off the heels of my first husband having an affair with our neighbor and getting her pregnant was not great news for me. But, it got even worse. December, 2006: I confronted my then-boyfriend about his drug addiction. He admitted it and said he would quit. He did for a few weeks, which coincidentally is when I became pregnant. January, 2007: He was using again. We had just found out I was pregnant, and in sheer desperation, I called his family and told them everything. They asked me to get him home and they would have an intervention. The intervention took place and he agreed to go. I really hoped he would get clean and sober, then we could have our baby and live happily ever after. You know where this is going, right? He went to The Meadows in Arizona-- famous for housing celebrities like Selena Gomez, Whitney Houston, and Kate Moss and more recently, Harvey Weinstein and Kevin Spacey. After my boyfriend had been there a few weeks, I was invited for family week. I participated in group therapy with strangers and their families. It was uncomfortable but to be honest, I was finally getting real with myself and looking at my own issues. I shared my shame stories, cried in front of everyone and was generally the most vulnerable I had ever been in front of a group of people. As I left, my boyfriend was acting weird. When I got home, I hacked into his email and found email after email from a woman named Debbie. Apparently, they were in love. Debbie was another patient at The Meadows. Debbie was in our group while I was there crying my eyes out. Debbie had sent one email to my boyfriend-- she had sent many, but this one was the kicker-- the one that lowered me to a heap on the floor…it said, “Is it bad that I think it’s funny that your girlfriend is in our group? I mean, what were the chances that we would all be grouped together!?” This woman was essentially laughing about the fact that we were together in a small group while we all talked about our deepest, darkest secrets. Needless to say the phone calls that followed were not pretty. That was my final straw with him. Not the opioid addiction, not the lying about cancer, not the conning me, but Debbie. Part of my motivation to change was her. I was was so determined to be better than her, to actually DO the work, knowing she had spent thousands of dollars on a fancy rehab and was not in fact doing the work. That, coupled with the fact that I was pregnant I knew I needed to get better. I needed to change. WHAT IS YOUR MOTIVATION? Did you or do you have a Debbie in your life? Many people say, “don’t ever do it for anyone else but yo
Mon, February 12, 2018
Episode 205: Making peace with unfinished business
I called San Diego home for 36 years. 36 years of memories-- joyful, painful, and everything in between. And in the six years I’ve been gone, every time I go home, I’m hit with agony. And for a long time I didn’t know why. Nostalgia is a tricky thing. This one was such a mix of feelings and emotions, I didn’t know what they meant, if anything. Did I want to move back home? Was I angry that we left? I couldn’t make heads or tails of it all, but I knew something was happening. During the summer of 2014, we went home for a vacation and rented a house on the beach. This area, Mission Beach, held many, many memories for me. I went for a run one day and as I turned my head to look down the boardwalk at other runners, skateboarders, and early morning beachgoers, I thought to myself: Everything has changed, but it’s all the same. I had changed . I had evolved and grown dramatically. But, it all looks the same. And for some reason, when I step foot into this city, there’s a part of my heart that remembers. Remembers it all. And maybe...maybe that’s what I was trying to get away from when we left. When we left San Diego I was at the end of my drinking career. I had just admitted to myself, my husband, and a dear, trusted friend that I had a problem. I quit about three weeks after we left. So, when I go back home, I feel like there’s a part of me that still exists. An old ghost of myself that’s still confused, suffering, and lost. Looking for answers. Looking for a solution. Looking for peace. How do we make peace with our former selves? The parts of us that are still tormented, still brokenhearted? I think it starts by not running away from the pain, struggle and problems anymore. Looking at it all square in the face. Getting curious about it instead of shoving it down to the sub-basement of our soul. Being okay with the fact that peace might need to be made. Sort of easing into it like settling into your favorite chair. Letting go of thoughts like, “This is stupid, I should be so much better than this by now. It’s been years.” Because time doesn’t heal all wounds. Moving doesn’t heal them either. And I’m sure as shit that pushing it all away doesn’t heal us, it just puts it away for it to catapult back up when we least expect it. When we can dance with all of that, then the question becomes: Who do we want to be? What do we want our story to be? When we’re so used to the story of pain and struggle, when we make peace with all of that and sometimes walk away from it, what’s next? I know for me it’s been simply having more compassion with myself. Accepting that life is my teacher and I’m the forever student. That my path is my purpose . I want to be a woman who tells the truth not only to others but to herself. Because yes, everything changes and it’s all the same. <a href="http://yourkickasslife.
Fri, February 09, 2018
Episode 204: Where it all comes together for you
In episode 200 I talked about noticing I had an upper limit problem. The following day, episode 201 I talked about even when you have success, there are still pitfalls of feeling not good enough. Episode 202 I talked about facing something big and important that challenged one of my old, negative core beliefs and put that all to the test. The pushed me out of my comfort zone. And then in episode 203 I talked about doing something big that not only pushed me out of my comfort zone, but carried a lot of emotional weight. So, I’ve created a handy-dandy worksheet for YOU that you can download and do yourself so you can DO THE WORK. I always talk to you about the importance of not just consuming the book, or the podcast, or the article, but to do the actual work. Now is your chance! This is where the real work happens! Click here to download your worksheet Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 08, 2018
Episode 203: A tale of two feelings...or something like that
Throughout the entire book launch (which technically is still going on and started back in the middle of last year) I have vacillated between being so overwhelmed with all the things to do, all the feelings of “not good enough”, all the pressure of having this be successful, the pressure of the spotlight, and the massive gratitude of doing this work. Maybe this is what they really mean by “having it all”. ALL the feelings. The fear, the anxiety, doing it anyway and also having love and gratitude and joy. As many of you know and many of you can relate to, I struggle with black or white thinking. It’s either all or nothing. And that’s how it’s been with feelings too. Given that I am someone who really only started to consider herself “emotionally literate” and then have any “emotional intelligence” in 2011 when I got sober, the last six years have been a learning experience when it comes to feelings. One of those things is being able to hold more than one feeling at a time, sometimes many feelings. For instance: San Diego. That city has always held a lot of weight for me. It’s where I left my broken heart and more specifically, I knew walking into this book tour it would be hard because my dad wouldn’t be there like he would the last time. A little background, I was born and raised in San Diego, spent the first 36 years of my life there and it’s where my dad died about 16 months ago. I hadn’t been back since his death. I knew I would need a lot of moral support, so I invited my two sisters and brother who live in the area. I invited all my friends AND THEN, if you’ve read my book, you might remember a story I told about a friend of mine who had broken up with me when I was going through my life-falling-apart year, then we were friends again, then she kind of ghosted me? Well, she randomly messaged me last October and I invited her to meet up with me on that trip. I knew I was walking into a hard conversation with her. More on that story at the end of this month! So, needless to say, this trip was going to be an emotional one. To be honest, I really wasn’t worried about the book event. When I had it for my first book, a lot of people showed up, and the manager even told me I sold more books than most author events that they do. So, I thought this one was in the bag. However. One of my siblings which shall go unnamed, never texted me back when I group texted them about the event. I texted this sibling privately a couple days before, and nothing. I asked one of my other siblings about it, and they said “Oh, that sibling is really busy with their thing, don’t take it personally.” And I’m like, DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY? OUR DAD DIED AND I NEED YOU ALL AND I MIGHT DIE IF THIS PERSON DOESN’T SHOW UP. So, anyway. As I started my talk, I’m looking around and noticing there were key players there that were missing. Like, the other two siblings that I just had dinner with across the parking lot. They were lat
Wed, February 07, 2018
Episode 202: This is one of my core beliefs
In December 2013 my first book, 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life came out. That same month I headed to San Diego, my home town of 36 years (we had moved 2 years prior) to do a book signing. It was the only book event I did (unless you count the coffee shop book event in the city I was living with at the time where I only invited 4 people. No exaggeration, 4 people). I know a lot of people in San Diego. Most of my family is there. I knew people would show up and also, I knew the people that would show up. It was safe. Certain. No real risk. Fast forward to 2017 when my second book, How To Stop Feeling Like Shit was about to come out and I was faced with a choice: do I only do a book event in San Diego, or do I push myself with a book tour? Do I risk it? Do I face the uncertainty of this next level? One of my old core beliefs-- one that was born from men mistreating me-- is that I don’t really matter all that much. I’ve intentionally worked on this over the years and come a long, long way. And what I’ve noticed is that when I’m faced with an opportunity to prove that core belief wrong, it makes me extremely uncomfortable. It’s as if my brain has become more comfortable being in situations where it’s proved that I really don’t matter. So, if figured, if I go on a book tour and people actually DO show up, it proves that I DO matter. I’d have to face it and believe it. And the reality of it was that some people would show up to these events. No, I don’t sell out packed arenas, but there are some amazing women who I knew would come. So, I accepted the challenge. Another thing that came up during this upper limit/challenging my old core beliefs extravaganza was the concept of letting people love me. Now, if you know my story you know I got the emotional shit kicked out of me in 2006 and 2007 and I walked away with some major trust issues. I had concluded people were not to be trusted and it was safer to keep them at a very long arms distance. At the end of 2017 I wondered, What if I let people love me? I have a few people in my life that I’ve let in, a few people I trust with my stories and struggle (it’s a very short list), but what if I stretched beyond that? What if I really opened my arms and my heart and let people love me? What if I accepted all the praise and compliments and love and leaned in... hard ? In my history when I’ve done this, it gets snatched away, so my brain says, NO DON’T DO IT! But, here I am, 10 years out of my trauma and what if I let go? So, that’s what I’ve been doing. The book tour-- 6 events in 6 cities. An additional city with a dinner with colleagues. 7 total cities of letting people love me. Leaning into all the comments of people telling me how much they love the book. I knew it would be hard. I knew it would be exhausting. And I knew it had to be done. I had no idea how it would tur
Tue, February 06, 2018
Episode 201: The meeting that made me feel like a failure
In late October I sat on a conference call with the marketing team from my publisher and my literary agent. It was to be a discussion on how we (I) were going to sell the book. Many things were discussed in that hour + long meeting, but only one thing stood out to me. The person in charge said to me, “Pre-orders not where we would like them to be.” My first thought and what came out of my mouth was, “Well, of course not. I’ve barely mentioned to my community that it’s available because it’s so far out. Our plans for the big push were mid-November through January.” My next immediate thought was: “They’re disappointed in me. I’m failing at this. I’m not big enough, popular enough, or good enough. They bet on me as an author and I’m losing.” I felt the wash of shame. The marketing team was simply doing their job. Selling books matters to them and their bottom line. I want to make it clear that I was the one making up stories about what they thought of me and who I was. I got off the phone and cried. I called my friends and told them dramatically that my publisher was disappointed in me (keep in mind-- they NEVER used that word, I did) and wondered if it was too late to quit. Then, I went on my book tour. First stop was New Your City. There was an odd cold snap that came up the entire east coast, and people started cancelling for my book event and a dinner I had put together. I got an email from my publicist that the bookstore in Chicago for the following week was worried about their January events because of the cold. I immediately thought, “I’m not worth the cold”. I was in the Lyft thinking we should just cancel both events in NYC and Chicago. I was actually thinking about cancelling it all. Here’s what was happening: I was looking for any excuse not to show up. Looking for any small inkling of evidence that it was too hard, that people didn’t like me, that I wasn’t good enough, and that I should just quit. Yesterday I talked about the Upper Limit Problem and this is a classic example. Things were rising for me. The ante had been upped. It was risky and vulnerable and scary and my inner-critic was totally and completely freaking out. I didn’t want to fail, I didn’t want to disappoint people and not measure up. It was all so incredibly uncomfortable. No matter how successful we get-- whether it’s in our jobs or our relationships, or are even in top physical health, I think we’ll always have moments of feeling not enough. I am no exception. Stick around for Friday’s episode where this all comes together, I’ll tell you what ended up happening at those NYC and Chicago events and what to do when you find yourself wanting to just quit aka SABOTAGE your life when you’re upleveling and things get uncomfortable. There’s even an assignment for you! http://yourkickasslife.com/201 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a
Mon, February 05, 2018
Episode 200: My deepest, darkest fears.
Today starts a new thing over here-- daily emails and podcast episodes (weekdays only) I’m calling them the DAILY DIARIES! I’ve kept them short, sweet, to the point, with lots of content to hopefully help you! Enjoy... It all started with a damn upper limit problem. Let me backup. If it’s one thing we all want-- it’s to be seen and heard. We want those loving connections with the people who matter to us. To know our struggles, our stories, and our celebrations matter. To know that we matter. And for some of us, our path includes being seen and heard by lots and lots of people. In 2013 my first book came out and I was catapulted into the spotlight. I’m not talking Beyoncé type spotlight, but a spotlight nonetheless in my industry. No one can really prepare you for this and it was one of the most exciting and terrifying things that had ever happened to me. More people watching, judging, criticizing and loving me (which can also be scary). Over the last few years I’ve been unpacking this and getting curious about why this scares me, what it stops me from doing, and how to move past it. Fast forward to 2017. I knew my second book was coming out and I was more prepared for the epic explosion that was about to take place (that’s dramatic, but that’s what it felt like). I also knew I wanted to talk more about this to my YKAL community (you!) because I know most of us deal with this on some level. The fear of shining too bright. The fear of shining at all. The fear of not shining at all. The fear of getting it wrong. The fear of what people expect of us. The fear that we can’t measure up to what we expect of ourselves. The fear of failure. The fear of success. The fear of moving too far forward in our lives and leaving people behind. The fear of what people will think. Basically, the fear of raising hell in our lives, causing any attention to ourselves that might cause us to not have it all under control. So, going back to the “upper limit problem” that I mentioned before. You might be wondering, what is an upper limit problem ? The “ULP” term comes from the book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks and in a nutshell, the theory is this: We all have a certain set point of success, happiness, health, and love. How much of it we can take. A “comfort zone” of all those things. When we get more, say a promotion, a new amazing relationship, a fantastic opportunity, finally lose that extra 15 pounds we’ve been carrying around, we get extremely uncomfortable for having it and therefore sabotage it. I wrote a whole chapter on self-sabotage in my last book so you probably are familiar with it. When I write books I can’t control whether people like my writing or not. I can’t control whether they like me or not. I can’t control that I’ll alw
Wed, January 31, 2018
Episode 199: Taking Small Steps To Become Unstuck with Erin Stutland
For the month of February, I will be producing daily podcast episodes. You read that correctly ass-kickers - daily episodes are coming! The episodes will be shorter than the typical podcast format you are used to hearing. Emails with short lessons will accompany them. If you want to be notified each time a daily episode is released in the month of February, sign up here . Okay, now let’s jump into this week’s episode! I am so excited because my friend, Erin Stutland, joins me on the podcast this week. Erin and I have known each other online “for-eva”! She is a mind, body, wellness and fitness expert and the host and coach of the new weight-loss transformation television show Altar’d on Z Living. We talked about getting unstuck, over-analyzing, how to stop being comfortable with feeling crappy, self-care practices and more. In this episode you’ll hear: Erin provide tips to help get unstuck, shift your perspective and become motivated (4 minutes and 10 seconds) The “morning pages” concept, what it is and how to use it (6:13) Biggest obstacles that prevent you from making your exercise routine a reality, plus advice for how to move past these challenges (11:18) How to be more loving and kind to yourself (and what Peanut M&Ms has to do with it) (13:47) The starting and stopping pattern with exercise routines (15:56) Erin’s Soul Stroll Program, how to make the most of your daily walks by rewiring your thoughts (22:34) Recommendations and tools to help quiet your inner critic and how acknowledging all parts of oneself will help with the process (27:49) http://www.yourkickasslife.com/199 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 30, 2018
Episode 198: Recovery Series Season Finale With Andrea Owen
This week, I am rounding out the recovery series with one final episode. I have been so blessed to have nine amazing conversations with women in recovery. You can catch up on all of the episodes here . In this episode, I read two blog posts I wrote on the 2nd and 3rd anniversaries of my sobriety. Plus, I include some new insights along the way. From my 2 year sober anniversary on September 27th, 2013 . I want to start this post by telling a story that is really hard for me to tell– and I tell it in hopes that it helps someone else. In May of 2011 I made my first attempt at sobriety. I made until September 26th of that year. I was active in my recovery, but in hindsight, a few things happened that were slowly chipping away at me. I kept hearing the voice that “I wasn’t that bad”…that I wasn’t like “those people”. Those alcoholics that told their stories, that had been arrested, had DUI’s, etc. The voice whispered that since that wasn’t me, surely I could moderate and drink like a normal person. On September 26th, 2011 I got into an argument with my husband. We don’t argue often, so when we do, I can tend to slip quickly into this-is-it-it’s-over-he’s-going-to-leave-me land. It’s one of those really vulnerable places for me where I feel I’ve lost control over a situation– a situation that is very important to me. In that late afternoon, he left the house to go for a drive. I sat at home alone and desperately wanted to drink. I called a friend in recovery. She talked me through it. I sat again alone in my glass case of emotions. I didn’t want to drink because I didn’t want to break my sobriety and have to start over. Plus the shame of relapse was too much to bear. But, I remembered hearing that if you drank enough NyQuil, you could get a buzz. And since it’s not technically “drinking”, it’s like a loophole, right? 10 seconds later I was in the bathroom chugging a bottle of cherry NyQuil. A few minutes later the buzz hadn’t reached me yet. I then remembered hearing that Vanilla Extract could do the same thing. I went to the pantry and took a drink of putrid tasting Vanilla Extract. I looked closely at the bottle to see that not only had murky sediment gathered all along the bottom, but it had expired in 2005. And to think I was trying to convince myself that I wasn’t an alcoholic. As I type this, I’m embarrassed to admit this. But, now I understand just how cunning, baffling, and powerful alcohol is to an alcoholic. I didn’t think clearly and rationally at that time. I remember thinking, “Okay, I’m an educated person. I’ve done YEARS of my own personal development. I’m in the helping profession for pete’s sake” . And the reality is that none of that matters at all if you are truly an alcoholic. You don’t get extra
Wed, January 24, 2018
Episode 197: What Does Raising Hell Actually Look Like?
You may have followed my work for a bit now and know that I talk about courage and confidence. And maybe you think “Well, I get it, and this whole ‘courage and confidence’ thing sounds good in theory, but how will my life be different if I learn to be courageous and confident and will it even work for me!?” Let me tell you what I was like in my 20’s. I was actually a really happy girl. I had great friends, a family that loved me, worked at good jobs, and was in a long-term relationship. Outside, everything seemed great and on a surface level I was happy. But, underneath I was struggling. I was unfulfilled with my life. In my relationship there was no trust and no real connection, and my friendships were good, but nothing deep and intimate. I struggled fiercely with perfectionism, comparison, and control. I NEEDED to control. I thought if everyone would just act like I thought they should act, my life would be so much better. When shit hit the fan for me in 2006 , I isolated to the point of not checking my email for weeks. I screened all my calls, and barely even talked to my parents. I hardly saw my friends and once had lunch with one of my long-term friends and she said to me, “Well, with the divorce statistics, it was bound to happen to one of us.” That’s not to blame my friend...none of us knew what to say to each other. None of us knew how to truly connect. I was lonely when I was alone, and I was lonely when I was around people. During that time of struggle I made decisions that 100 percent went against my values as a human being. I said yes to men when I really didn’t want to. Just because I thought I should or to try for one shred of connection. I would meet new people and either unload my whole story (what Brené Brown calls trying to “hotwire a connection”) or completely shut people out. What I came to realize was that once I hit adulthood, my soul became unconscious. Fast forward to now. Anyone that knows me well will tell you I’ve always been an assertive person. I’m an Aries, ENFJ, Type 8 on the Enneagram. But, all this personality stuff does not automatically mean that I was born with courage. I had to learn it, and still do every day. What it looks like in my life is this: Reaching out to the right people when I need help Making peace with the fact that most things are messy and imperfect Standing up for what I believe in— such as giving an opinion Setting healthy boundaries and saying no even though it’s not easy Letting go of control and trusting myself and my faith enough to know that I can handle anything These are just a few things of what practicing courage looks like. All of the things above still sometimes make me really uncomfortable and/or are scary. I’ve accepted that and it’s necessary. And that’s what I want for y
Tue, January 23, 2018
Episode 196: Interview with Amy Pearson
Welcome back to another episode of the recovery series! If you are new to the series, I’ve been speaking with women about their addiction and who are in recovery. We cover topics such as alcohol addiction, codependency, and even food addiction. You can find all of the episodes here . This week I welcome back my friend and colleague, Amy Pearson. You may have heard Amy and I talk about being addicted to approval and feeling like a fraud back in Episode 118 . This time we talk in-depth about her addiction to alcohol, her obsession with seeking approval and using blame as a crutch. Amy is a master certified life coach, a coach mentor, and founder of LiveBrazen.com. She is currently writing her first book, a memoir called, “Forgiving Amy,” where she shares her experiences with self-forgiveness. Amy has been sober for four years. Today, she shares how grieving the loss of her mother and feeling shame around not being the person she thought she should be led to her downward spiral into ”self-medicating” with alcohol. And, then later, she shares a poignant story of what made her turn everything around and led her onto the path of recovery. In this episode you’ll hear: How two life-changing events underlined her path to addiction (9 minutes and 12 seconds) Amy discusses how alcoholism is progressive and the fact that she was very self-aware of her addiction (13:03) Amy shares the story of putting her children at risk because of her addiction and how it ultimately led her on the path to recovery. Plus, she shares a promise she made to herself. (16:43) How recovery can lead you to uncover and accept parts of you that you didn’t know even existed; including the good, the bad and the dark. (21:18) Why Amy thinks alcohol and drinking is the lazier choice (24:27) Telling the truth and finding a supportive community helped Amy get sober, and how it all was a very humbling process (26:05) Saying no is hard, but it’s so important to put into practice when maintaining sobriety (28:39) We discuss triggers (both big and small) and two tools Amy uses for overcoming them (32:28) http://yourkickasslife.com/196 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 17, 2018
Episode 195: 6 Ways Roller Derby Can Teach You About Life
As promised in the podcast episode, a quick (1 min) video explaining how roller derby is played is here. Also, the Whip It trailer because I love it when Bliss says, I am IN LOVE with this.” (which btw, many of the hits in that movie are highly illegal to the game, but I think they captured the culture of derby really well.) At the end of 2012 and early 2013, I played roller derby for the Junction City Roller Dolls in Ogden, Utah, skating under the derby name, Veronica Vain. A shoulder injury took me out and I retired from the game. There I am, on the right with hair flying like Medusa. Lately, I’ve been thinking about going back here in North Carolina (more on that later), and it got me thinking a lot about the game and it’s similarities with life. Derby taught me a lot about fear, and other things, and in no particular order, here’s 6 ways roller derby can teach you about life. There is no room for paralyzing fear. You’ll get eaten alive if you stay there. Derby can be scary. Whether you’re showing up for tryouts, gearing up for your first bout, or going up against a player you know is bigger and stronger than you are, for every player at least once somewhere there is an element of fear. Which is actually perfectly normal in any sport and in life. I remember the first time I realized I was getting better as a player. During a practice scrimmage, I realized I was the smallest and least experienced player out there. For a second, I was scared. Then out of nowhere I pushed that voice aside and tried my damndest to knock another player that had at least 6 inches and 50 pounds of an advantage on me. I can’t even remember if I succeeded or not (I probably didn’t), but that was the shift I needed. Just trying. Just feeling the fear and doing it in spite of it. In life, there’s a lot of fear. We all have it, no one is immune. The difference between people that go after the badass life they have, is that they went up against their fear. They were scared when they went after that awesome job, or broke up with that person that they just weren’t happy with, or went back to school after 15 years of being out. You’re not unique in your fear. Just do it anyway. When you fall down, hurry and get the fuck up. In roller derby, when you fall or get knocked down in a jam, it’s part of the rules that you only have just a few seconds to get back up. No taking your sweet ass time. Plus, you can’t fall down and quit just because you fell down. Well, I suppose you could, but your team would be pretty pissed at you. And think about this-- falling happens a lot in derby. A lot. If everyone quit derby the first time they fell down, no one would be playing derby. How many times do we fall down in our everyday
Tue, January 16, 2018
Episode 194: Interview with Lara Frazier
Welcome to another recovery series episode, and as we near the end of this season for these shows, our guest today, Lara Frazier, is sharing about her addiction to alcohol, pills, and love. Lara explains how her own addiction issues came from trauma in her life that she didn’t know she had, and how she found that she could just distract herself by falling in love. She explains that ultimately, this wasn’t the best for her, and how she really came to understand what romantic love and intimacy was (and wasn’t). http://yourkickasslife.com/194 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 10, 2018
Episode 193: High functioning codependency: What is it and how to heal with Terri Cole
Ok, I don’t even have a word to describe how much I’m looking forward to having you hear this episode. Terri Cole is a returning guest who appeared on the show way back on Episode 76 , and this time I wanted to make sure we talked about codependency. Why codependency? If you’re a listener of this podcast, you’ll know codependency is something that I’ve struggled with and talk about often. In this episode we look at what it really is and how to deal with realizing that it may be part of your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 09, 2018
Episode 192: Interview with Carly Benson
There’s still time to sign up for the free book club! We start January 22nd, giving you enough time to read my new book, How To Stop Feeling Like Shit . Click this link to purchase the book and sign up -- if you already have your copy (Audiobook or e-reader counts too!) click “claim bonus” to sign up for the book club. This show is another recovery series episode, and as always, I’m so grateful to have these amazing conversations with women in recovery. Today is no exception, as I’m talking to Carly Benson. Carly has been sober from alcohol and cocaine since August 17th, 2008, and in this she shares her own path to addiction, and eventually her recovery. A big part of what she talks about is the need to truly open up and be willing to do things differently, but first you’ll need to be honest with how you are feeling inside. This will allow you to process the things that are happening, but you’ll hear how we all wear addiction differently and it’s up to each one us to learn how to live an intentional life. http://yourkickasslife.com/192 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 03, 2018
Episode 191: The Key To Confidence
MY BOOK IS OUT! To celebrate, I’m giving $10 to Best Buddies International for every Amazon review from now until January 9th. (Scroll down for instructions on how to do this). Best Buddies is a nonprofit dedicated to helping people with intellectual and developmental disabilities. If you haven’t purchased the book yet, it’s in bookstores NOW (front tables at Barnes & Noble!) or you can purchase online . Once you’ve done that, don’t forget to join us for the free book study I’m hosting starting on January 22nd (click “claim bonuses’). ***************************************************** If confidence were easy, it would have been bottled a long time ago by Big Pharma and somebody would have more money than God right now. However, gaining confidence is not that easy. Years ago when I saw women with confidence, I thought a few things that turned out to NOT be true. I thought they were born with it. I thought confidence was in their genes. And clearly, I wasn’t born with it. I thought maybe I could fake it by acting like I was the shit when I really did NOT think I was the shit. All this did was make me feel like shit and a big ol’ phony. I thought I could just wait until I was old to finally get it. Because we all know how much confidence Blanche Deveraux had. However, I didn’t want to wait until I was a Golden Girl. Confidence is not something you’re born with, or something you get just by faking it, or something you automatically gain when you turn 45. It’s something that’s built piece by piece over time. It’s something you try, mess up, try again and again until you see progress, and then keep practicing for the rest of your life. The way to gain confidence is by practicing courage. And courage can look like many different things. They don’t have to be big, sweeping events that shake you to your core with fear. Even practicing small acts of courage will likely evoke fear in you, but all of them add up to a courageous, confident YOU. I’ve broken it down into some steps for you… Step 1. Decide. And I don’t mean just decide you’re confident. You can certainly do that, but I think your brain will spike the bullshit alert and the whole “fake it til you make it” thing is tough with this one. When I say “decide” I mean decide you will start practicing courage. Decide you’re ready to step out of your comfortable ways of being and try something else, little by little. Step 2. Really dig into what practicing courage means to you. Start by thinking of the behaviors you currently do that are making you unhappy. I’ll bet some of them are: isolating, people pleasing, perfecting, believing your inner-critic, numbing out, comparison,
Tue, January 02, 2018
Episode 190: Interview with Arlina Allen
Happy New Year Ass-Kickers! Before we jump into today’s episode, a quick announcement: From today until January 9th, I’ll be giving $10 for every Amazon review about my new book, How To Stop Feeling Like Shit , to Best Buddies International, which is a charity close to my heart. Best Buddies helps people with intellectual and developmental disabilities. You can hear more about it and why it’s important to me in the episode. So, if you’ve read my book, please help me help them by leaving a review . Thank you in advance! Today is another recovery episode with guest Arlina Allen. Today she shares how her career aspirations eventually led to issues with alcohol, how everything came to a head for her at age 25 and then how she was introduced to a 12-step program paving the way for her recovery. Arlina has been clean and sober for 23 years and in her own journey, she was able to see the patterns that were holding her back. Along the way she’s discovered she wasn’t a victim and did indeed have the power to make the decisions that were best for her. Arlina now helps others as a host of her own podcast, The ODAAT Chat, and in this talk she reveals how she’s now able to pay it forward to help others battling addiction. Like the other episodes in this series, even if you’re not struggling with addiction or in recovery, you probably know someone who is. That’s what these stories are for; it’s about shining the light on addiction and recovery and telling our stories. You’ll find out why quitting drinking is just a small part of the equation though, and that sobriety and recovery are two very different things. http://yourkickasslife.com/190 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 27, 2017
Episode 189: Change the World, Create the Movement
As always, I’m very excited about today’s guest, partly because she’s awesome and partly because we’re talking about a topic I wrote about in my book-- a topic Tanya Geisler is an expert on! Tanya has dedicated her life to helping women conquer the imposter complex, (we went into even more detail on the topic when Tanya previously appeared on the podcast). In this most recent episode we also look at everything from leadership to fear of success to cultural messaging. When reaching a certain level of success people feel they are going to be alone, that there will be a disconnect between themselves and others, but it really doesn’t have to be this way and Tanya will help show us how. http://yourkickasslife.com/189 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 26, 2017
Episode 188: Interview with Tiffany Han
If you’re a new podcast listener, you’ve found another recovery episode, where I have amazing conversations with women in recovery. Today’s guest is no exception! Tiffany Han is a writer, speaker, teacher and coach (as well as a fellow podcast host), and she has an interesting story of recovery. You’ll see that not all problems are problems with a capital “P”, and listen to how Tiffany knew she needed to make changes before her drinking became a big problem.It’s not just about quitting drinking, because you have to deal with your “shit” along with it. Sobriety and recovery are two very different things, and you are always learning about yourself. http://yourkickasslife.com/188 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 20, 2017
Episode 187: The magic of awkward conversations
This is a topic I talk at length about in my book, How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness . Most people struggle with having hard conversations, as well as setting boundaries. These can be some hard lessons! Enjoy... Let’s talk about something that doesn’t always kick ass: Tough, awkward conversations. And I’ll start with a truth: most of us don’t have enough of them. I was just talking to a friend recently who had just moved in with her cousin and was feeling like she had no say in the space. That her cousin/roommate was messy and had her stuff everywhere. So my friend was upset and complaining at length about it. And I asked, “So what do you plan on doing about it?” And my friend laughed and said she planned on doing nothing. Basically, just continue to complain about it. That having the conversation would be awkward and uncomfortable. And I wonder– how many of us do this every damn day? How many of us avoid awkward conversations so often that it’s affecting our lives way more negatively that we even know? You may think I’m nuts- but I think it’s all of us. I’ll bet you reading this can think of at least one awkward conversation you need to have. Your mom does ____, it bugs the shit out you and you wish she’d stop. Your partner keeps joking with you about ____ and you actually don’t think it’s funny, it hurts your feelings. Your boss is ______ and you really wish she wouldn’t do that. Your best friend is always late and you need to ask her to try harder to be prompt to respect your time. Almost every single one of my private clients over the last 8 years has had some kind of conversation that’s needed to take place that they’re avoiding. Why? Because it’s uncomfortable. Because they aren’t sure what the outcome will be. What if they other person gets mad? Says no? Gets their feelings hurt? Breaks up with them? Or (insert whatever worst-case scenario you can think of). Now I’m not going to sit here with my pom-poms cheering you on and just telling you to go out and do it. If that’s all you needed you would have done it by now. What you need are some hard truths and a plan: Read the rest of the article HERE http://www.yourkickasslife.com/187 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 19, 2017
Episode 186: Interview with Sasha Tozzi
Welcome back for the fourth episode in this recovery series (in addition to the 10 recovery episodes we aired last year)! My guest today is writer, life & recovery coach and speaker Sasha Tozzi. Love addiction was a big realization to Sasha after she got sober and today she makes a conscious decision not to put people above her sitting on a pedestal. She also shares that learning how to trust herself and others again was a challenge for her (and so much more). It’s important to understand that the addictions we are talking about today are isolating addictions, and it is important to have support as we go forward. http://yourkickasslife.com/186 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 13, 2017
Episode 185: Get Excited About Failing
For this episode I’m bringing back a repeat guest: the amazing Lori Harder! The first time Lori was here I really connected with her, and I felt like we had some unfinished conversation, which is why I’m so excited to do this today. Lori uses the approach of mixing and matching both fitness and personal development, and she shares how failure and negativity will undoubtedly be a big part of your growth (and success). You’ll hear how we all have personal fears that we’re working through, but it’s in his fear that opportunities can be revealed. Surrounding yourself with the like-minded people is key, and can you give the fresh perspective that you need. http://yourkickasslife.com/185 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, December 12, 2017
Episode 184: Interview with Aidan Donnelly Rowley
Welcome to another recovery episode of the podcast, where today my guest is Aidan Donnelley Rowley. Aidan is a very special human and I’m glad to share her story with you today! In this episode she goes in detail about her personal journey with drinking, and as you’ll hear, it’s a different story than most. With the help of a therapist, her husband and her immense love for writing, Aidan was able to identify her issues with her drinking and how they were impacting her professional and personal life. Whether you’re in recovery, or thinking about it, the wisdom Aidan shares today is sure to help you in your own journey. http://yourkickasslife.com/182 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 06, 2017
Episode 183: You are magnificent and how to stop feeling like shit
Ass kickers! Today I’m bringing you two things: I wrote you a poem and I perform it for you with sweaty palms on this podcast episode. It was VERY SCARY for me to do. I hope you like it. You can also read it below. Also in this episode I’m talking about WHY I wrote this book, what it’s about, how it will change your life, what it all has to do with shame, and where you can come and see me this January so I can give you a giant hug and we’ll take a selfie. First, here is the poem I wrote you. (There’s a lot more context in the podcast episode, so even if you don’t regularly listen, you may want to tune in for this one…) You are magnificent. You, woman with listening to these words, stop what you are doing and let that sink in. No matter what your inner-voice tells you. No matter what the magazines say. No matter what our cultures twists us to believe... you are magnificent. When a woman finally realizes this it’s like seeing two lovers embracing each other at an airport. It being too unbearably long that they have converged. Your unembraced magnificence is waiting patiently for you. It will wait as long as it needs to, whispering quiet invitations to your life. Will you stop and listen? If you pause long enough you can hear it calling you. Breathless storms of light beckoning you home. Home being that place of magnificence. Your magnificence. You, dear woman, hold more power than you know. Maybe you’ve caught glimpses of it and it scared you. Maybe you’ve let it out and someone else squashed it in their own fear. Maybe you can feel it but deny it. Maybe you’ve destroyed it before it could even rise up. Please, I beg you. Walk towards it. It won’t hurt you. It IS you. You are magnificent. (#raisehelliscoming) -------------------- Second, I talk a lot about what’s in How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness including the two main solutions. I mention a lot of links in this episode, so here you go: Link to pre-order the book, as well as the place to claim your bonuses (use that same link if you’ve already pre-ordered but haven’t claimed your bonuses yet or signed up for the free book club!) Share the book trailer here on Facebook . If you know of a podcast you think I should be interviewed on, tell us here. NYC book signing will be on January 6th. We don’t have a bookstore yet (coming soon!), but please sign up here to be notified about where and what time.</
Tue, December 05, 2017
Episode 182: Interview with Kristi Coulter
Today I have another recovery episode for you, with my guest Kristi Coulter. I first learned about Kristi when an essay that she had written went viral, and if you haven’t read it yet, I encourage you to do so. Even if you’re not in recovery, the messages she shares are so powerful. In this episode we discuss a lot of Kristi’s writings, including an essay she wrote about how to not drink at Thanksgiving, and she shares with us her story about her relationship with alcohol (and the road to recovery). Kristi is an incredible writer and woman in recovery, and I’m so honored to have been able to speak with her and share this important conversation. http://yourkickasslife.com/182 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 29, 2017
Episode 181: Overwhelm, being in control, and more
I’m so excited to bring you this interview today with my friend Heather Chauvin. With a professional background in mental health, Heather is now a leader in the space of parenting and women’s issues, and she brings her insight (and great energy!) to the show today. A big part of what Heather does is inspiring others to take back control of how they want to lead, work, play and parent. Where does this all start? Heather shows us how you need to begin by taking action in order to create your own reality and take back control from the overwhelm of life. http://yourkickasslife.com/181 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 28, 2017
Episode 180: Interview with Anna David
I’m so excited today to be kicking off 10 extra podcast episodes of The Recovery Series! For newer listeners of the podcast, I am a person in long-term recovery from alcohol addiction, and before that faced other addictions like co-dependency. You would not believe how many people have emailed me to tell me how this series helped them get (and stay!) sober, which is why it means so much to be that I can bring these episodes to you. The first guest this year of The Recovery Series is Anna David, a New York Times bestselling author of books about addiction, recovery and relationships. Anna is amazing in the recovery world and even wrote a book called Party Girl: A Novel , where she talks openly about her days while still drinking. http://yourkickasslife.com/180 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 22, 2017
Episode 179: Start With Yourself
Today’s guest is a real life friend of mine – and actually one of the first friends I made when we moved to North Carolina. “Ella” is actually her initials and the name she goes by online, not her real first name (think Beyoncé or Madonna)! She’s so fancy 😉 In this episode Ella shares about that place where wellness and personal development meet. We look at how you can make the decision to not beat yourself up with shame (and find a balance) and so much more! http://yourkickasslife.com/179 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 15, 2017
Episode 178: Where to start in personal development
Hi ass kickers! Today I’m answering a common questions, and that’s Where do I start in personal development? There’s so many topics-- from surrender to self-love to forgiveness? Where in the world do we begin? Well, I’ve broken it down into 5 places to look at, as well as created a handy-dandy worksheet for you to follow along and get your own insight into where might be a good place for you to start. In the episode, I break down these 5 areas: Addictions Therapy (link to therapy episode) Core beliefs Negative self talk Communication Hopefully, this episode will give you clear insight to where you can look that will set you up on a path to healing and betterment, as well as let you know you are NOT alone if you’re feeling overwhelmed in not knowing where to start. http://yourkickasslife.com/178 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 08, 2017
Episode 177: all about forgiveness
In this episode we’re talking all about forgiveness, and today’s guest literally wrote the book on this topic! Emily Hooks is the author of The Power of Forgiveness, and as you’ll hear from this conversation, this subject can be complex. At the root of it, forgiveness isn’t about the other person; it is about healing yourself. If life isn’t showing up how you want it to that’s a sign that it’s trying to show us what to heal, forgive or learn. This is what makes it so important that we explore the relationships in our lives, with both ourselves and other people. Ultimately, you will decide if there is a need for forgiveness based on the impact of what happened. Rewriting your own story is possible and can lead you to start the healing process now. Best of all, you can use what has happened to you for good, no matter how traumatic the experience. http://yourkickasslife.com/177 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 01, 2017
Episode 176: What the work actually looks like
Many months ago I sent out a survey looking for what you wanted to hear more of on the podcast, and the results are in! A handful of you wanted to hear more stories from “regular” women (and not experts in personal development), so today I am bringing you a conversation I had with a coaching client of mine. Janessa Nickell is a client I’ve worked with for many months over this past year, and in this episode she talks about her struggles and what she was facing when she decided to work with me privately. She reveals that through the work that was done, she now has the confidence to be able to do this work on herself, but it wasn’t without becoming extremely vulnerable first. Like everyone, not only does Janessa have a story to tell but now she is going out in the world and sharing it! The heart of what I do is around vulnerability, shame resilience, and courage. It’s sometimes hard for me to explain what this looks like and it’s easier to hear it coming out of the mouth of someone who’s experienced it. As you’ll hear, it takes a decision and a commitment to the work. http://yourkickasslife.com/176 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 25, 2017
Episode 175: Hungry for happiness
Did you know it’s ok to not love your body? Well you can, and then start taking steps forward and become in tune with it. Here to share her insight on body image (and all things related) is Samantha Skelly, an emotional eating expert who’s revolutionizing the weight loss industry by uncovering the underlying causes of eating disorders. Shame kept Samantha stuck, but as you’ll hear pain is a divine teacher. She reveals why we need to feel in order to heal, and how it’s not about being a certain weight but really how you feel about yourself. http://yourkickasslife.com/175 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 18, 2017
Episode 174: Listener Q & A on should I stay or go? And learning to say no
Hi ass kickers! Welcome to another Listener Q & A episode! I have my friend Kate on again as we tackle two questions from the YKAL community. Here is question 1: Hi Andrea, I found your recovery series compelling and now I know why. I am involved in a long-term relationship with an alcoholic (or at least I think so). My question is this: I do not know whether I should stay or go. I try to do research on a book to read and to get more information and it is pretty confusing. My therapist agrees that I should leave him. I see book reviews on books that say I should love and understand him and then he and I (codependent) can both heal. I do not know what book to read. I do not know what to do. I just know that my brain is big ball of string when I try to untangle this, and my heart is broken in pieces. -Kathryn Kate and I are both in agreement that Kathryn should start by taking care of herself, and give her a couple of resources to do that. We discuss the very important thing Kathryn should be clear about before she decides to leave (if she ever decides that) that anyone can contemplate before leaving a committed relationship. ************************************************** Question 2 is: Curveballs. I'm not even talking about major curveballs. On Monday I had a goal that I was going to clamp down on for my business. Today was the day. Then the landlady knocks on the door to say that today is the day the guy is coming to paint, and sorry she didn't tell me earlier, she didn't want to bother me yesterday. Then I decide to make a plan with a friend of mine to go to her house, so that I don't end up sleeping in paint fumes all day and trying to work in chaos. It works out so perfectly because she happens to be in my area at that very moment and she is able to pick up. The point is, that day ended up being more of a tagging along doing my friend's errands (one of which has been a huge blessing - saving me a bit of money). But, I couldn't help feeling like I "should" be clamping down on the original goal. I'll be honest and say that some of my anxiety was due to the fear of lack of focus when I was not in my own home, and I am still learning about how to put up boundaries when I'm with other people and say "hey, I'm kinda working, could you leave me alone?" I am still learning how not to always be the accommodating rather than a decision maker. I just am tired of that and wanna grow up. So, how does an empowered woman, not go down that spiral and instead recognise what's happening when there is a curveball and use it efficiently? -Niki Kate and I answer what seems like two questions from Niki: how to say “no” in a polite, yet firm way, and how to surrender to life when things don’t go as planned. We both have different viewpoints about productivity, share our personal exp
Wed, October 11, 2017
Episode 173: Angels, guides, and you
I’m excited for you to hear this episode, because it’s the first time I've had a witch on the podcast! Just kidding (sort of) --today my guest is psychic medium Laura Powers, and she’s showing us how each of us can access our own intuition to learn about our true selves. As Laura shares, we can actually be proactive and take different approaches to reach out to our angels (or guides, as she calls them). We can also learn to recognize when they are trying to reach out to us, and then open ourselves up to this communication. I think you’ll be fascinated what she has to say, as this episode of the podcast is a real eye opener! http://yourkickasslife.com/173 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 04, 2017
Episode 172: End the stigma. Open the conversation.
There’s a chance that anyone listening to this podcast has dealt with feelings of anxiety and depression. Our guest today is Quentin Vennie, and he’s openly battled and survived not only these afflictions, but he’s also overcome addiction and now encourages others to be proactive in caring for their mental health. In this episode, Quentin talks openly about his struggles growing up being a male in the community he was raised in and the expectations that society had on him as being a man. He shares how this contributed to his anxiety and depression disorders, but by listening you’ll hear how he was able to use different modalities and paths to process and for healing himself. http://yourkickasslife.com/172 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 27, 2017
Episode 171: How to change your mind from fear to love
I’m so excited to bring you today’s show with guest Maria Felipe. Marie is an author who’s achieved success as a model and actress, and used to be a WWF hostess! She has so much energy that it’s infectious, and you’re going to absolutely love listening to her story! As you’ll hear, Maria’s own journey started with her trying to find happiness inside her, and she started doing the deep work to heal herself. She recognized that we’ve been run by a society that is ego driven, and this makes us feel that fear and sadness is normal. Maria is trying to change this thinking though through her work, and to show people that happiness and feeling at peace is actually normal. http://yourkickasslife.com/171 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 20, 2017
Episode 170: Maybe you don't need no stinkin' purpose
My friend Beth Grant posted something on Facebook recently that caught my attention. She said, “Purpose is a need of the ego, to make it feel important. I'm much more interested in self-expression. I would much more focus on PATH than purpose. I would want you to do that, too. To find your true path and live it. Every path has a purpose, after all ... life is a learning experience and your path is a means of self-expression. I've said it a thousand times ... your purpose in life is to be yourself. That's it. It's not more complicated than that.” I’ve written about purpose before . I’ve always felt it was this thing in personal development that some gurus treat as a kind of secret. That once we find our purpose in life we’ll FINALLY feel like we have all our shit together, we’ll feel like we’re “fixed”, and we can join their secret club and wait for the others to join in. And I think that’s bullshit. I do feel like I’m lucky and not lucky that I feel I’ve found my purpose, but lucky that I don’t feel the need to find IT. The One Thing. The ultimate portion of my life that will make me feel fulfilled. To be clear, I actually DO feel like I’ve found my purpose. It’s not life coaching, or mothering my children, or even speaking out about things I’m passionate about. My purpose, like Beth mentions above, is my path. It’s my life. And I do think that when one does dive into personal development, this becomes a trap. Just another topic to entice people with like the dangling carrot. I totally understand where this comes from on a deep level. We want to know that our lives matter. We want to feel that we matter. That we’re not just taking up space in this crowded, noisy world. And I wish I could snap my fingers and just tell you, “Let it go, sister! Your purpose is your path. Just accept it.” and all is well and you can skip along your life feeling relieved. Maybe it is this easy, but what if it’s not? Quite honestly, I don’t think it’s my job to convince you. What I can tell you is one of the things that is paramount in working on is surrender and self-trust. Surrendering means that you give up the notion that there is this one true destiny for you. That you give up that you have to know The Answer and that if you can just figure it out, you’ll be happier, and that’s your solution. Surrendering doesn’t have to mean you pray over your crystals or mediate to the archangel/goddess/priestess of the day to show you the way. I think those are all fine things to do but that’s not how I do it. Read the rest of the article HERE Resources from this post: What if you haven’t found your “thing” yet? http://yourkickas
Sat, September 16, 2017
Episode 169: Here's what's coming
http://yourkickasslife.com/169 Since many of you are new to the YKAL community (if you are, Haiiii !) I thought it would be helpful to record a quick episode and post about what’s coming for the rest of the year as well as what you can expect in 2018. All I can say is: GET READY TO KICK SOME ASS. First, my free workshop on my 3 Most Effective Ways to Manage Your Inner-Critic is coming up on September 21st. Go here to sign up for that or text the word GREMLIN to 444999. The class: Kick Your Gremlin’s Ass is coming next week too . This is the LAST TIME I will run this live. If you feel your life is being run by negative self-talk, this class is for you! (If you sign up for the workshop above, there’s special bonuses and a price break.) MY NEW BOOK HOW TO STOP FEELING LIKE SHIT COMES OUT ON JANUARY 2nd! ( Pre-order here, y’all ) There will be a study group for the book led by yours truly. Registration opens late January, and we’ll start sometime in February. Go here to be the first to know about that . I’ll also be doing a book tour and hitting cities for book signings, meet-ups and small, exclusive workshops. When I sent out a survey a few months ago many of you said instead of doing multi-day retreats, you’d love to be able to come to a half-day workshop, so that’s what I’m doing! If you want to know if I’m coming to a city near you, click here and sign up to be notified! RAISE HELL is coming in April . OMG, y’all. I’m so excited for this class I can barely stand it. Raise Hell is about you taking back your life. It’s about figuring out what you want, what you need, asking for it, and going after it with support from me and your group of soul sisters. It’s about accountability and feeling fear and walking through it. It’s about you. THE MENTORSHIP is coming next fall. We’re diving deeper into things like core beliefs, vulnerability, negative self-talk, shame resilience, and whatever primary focus you bring. There will also be a weekend retreat and 1:1 sessions with me included in this group. For a small group of women by application only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 13, 2017
Episode 168: Are you in alignment with your soul?
http://yourkickasslife.com/168 Hey Ass-Kickers! This is an episode that’s a little more “woo-woo” than normal, but I’ve just been really attracted to these types of topics lately – and y’all get to come along with me! Lisa Fabrega is a truth-telling coach, writer and innovator in the realm of leadership, and today we’re talking all about our souls and how they will constantly need to be re-aligned due to the societal pressures we face. She also shares with us how we can start to listen to our souls, and a whole lot more interesting information that is sure to get you assessing your own situation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 06, 2017
Episode 167: Life Lessons from Cha Cha DiGregorio
http://yourkickasslife.com/167 “They call me Cha Cha...because I’ m the best dancer at St. Bernadette’s” Everyone has their favorite character from the movie Grease . Maybe you relate to Sandy and her quest for true love, or goofball Frenchie. For me, my absolute love affair has always been with the character Cha Cha DiGregorio. Of course she’s a fictional character, played in the movie version by the late Annette Charles, but even as a child I’ve loved her. She played a smaller role in the movie, but it didn’t matter to me. Everything she was about, I loved. However, the attributes of her character that I adored about her, are also the things we, as women, are not particularly celebrated for. In other words, even in the movie, Cha Cha was not well liked. First, we are introduced to Cha Cha by Kenickie, where she says, “They call me Cha Cha...because I’m the best dancer at St. Bernadette’s” This woman actually does what we are told not to do: brags about herself. She knows she’s the best damn dancer and she tells people SHE JUST MET. HELL YES. And holy crap, she IS a great dancer. Then, she sees Danny on the dance floor, grabs him and they start dancing, Sandy storms off in a huff. Sandy could have stood up to Cha Cha, she could have said, “Hey Danny, WTF, you came to the dance with me so why are you dancing her her?” But noooo, since we all love Sandy so much, we all feel sorry for her and hate Cha Cha for being such a bitch. Here she is leaving all “WAHHH, someone stole my date and I won’t fight to get him back.” But, the way I looked at it was WOW. Cha Cha sees what she wants and goes after it. And no, I don’t condone snatching other people’s dates, but if we look at this strictly as symbolism, Cha Cha is a woman who doesn’t give a shit if she hurts someone’s feelings. She’s not concerned about “playing nice” So, she and Danny and killing it on the dance floor, and then this happens Holy shit. Read the rest of the article HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 30, 2017
Episode 166: Changing the diet mentality
http://yourkickasslife.com/166 Today we have Isabel Foxen Duke joining me again on the podcast, this time to talk about how women are experiencing the diet culture. I love having Isabel as a guest and I’m excited because she is an absolute expert on this topic! In today’s world, women are getting so many messages from the media and the body image issues that arise can lead us into multiple behaviors. I open up in this episode about my own past relationships with food and eating, and it’s something that I haven’t shared like this in any of the past episodes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 23, 2017
Episode 165: The Self-Love Experiment with Shannon Kaiser
http://yourkickasslife.com/165 Hey Ass Kickers! I’m joined today by best selling author (and so much more!), Shannon Kaiser. Shannon’s new book is called The Self-Love Experiment: Fifteen Principles for Becoming More Kind, Compassionate, and Accepting of Yourself, which goes along so well with what we talk about here on the Your Kick-Ass Life Podcast. Through her work, Shannon shows others how to fall in love with their lives and fearlessly live their full potential. But do we really know what self-love is, and how to love the parts of us that we think are unlovable? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 16, 2017
Episode 164: Changing The Way We Change with John Kim
Hi. So, the way it works over here is that the weekly emails and podcast episodes get ready several days in advance. Saves everyone on the YKAL team some stress and what can I say— I like to be prepared. And then the events in Charlottesville, Virginia happened on Saturday. I’ve been sitting here at home with my kids sick over it, spending long moments staring off into space feeling worried, helpless, hopeless, angry, and afraid. (Which I know this is my privilege to do so). Wondering if I should halt all podcast episodes and other events I have going on. Seems ludicrous to talk about anything but that. The thing is, racism is all around us. It’s in our faces. And it can only be dismantled if we talk about it, get uncomfortable confronting and admitting our own biases, rinse and repeat. There is more, but as I have mentioned— I am not the expert here. If you missed some episodes where we dive more into this, you can check them out here and here . Yes, we can choose kindness and love and all those wonderful things, but we cannot sit by and do nothing. Reading and listening is a great first step. Some great pieces of writing I’ve read lately are Most Women You Know Are Angry— And That’s All Right , by Laurie Penny, and Dear White Women: This Is Definitely Us , by Janelle Hanchett (which, btw, Janelle is coming on the recovery series podcast in December. Get ready). And at the end of the day, the beat still goes on. We can do both— work on our own personal development, live our lives, and love our people and at the same time try to dismantle the racism all around us. xo, Andrea For full post visit: http://yourkickasslife.com/164 Hey Ass Kickers! In this episode I’m bringing on a guest that has a similar story as mine, in that he too had a painful divorce that became the catalyst for his better life. John Kim created the blog The Angry Therapist, and although he has a background in clinical therapy, he’s now unconventional and shaking up this model and actually forming a movement. You’ll hear us talk a lot about the differences between therapy (as most people know it) and life coaching – particularly the style that John uses to bring out the best in each and every client he works with. Like John, I’ve always felt that the clinical therapy route is somewhat outdated, with the therapist often being put up on a pedestal with the client thinking he or she has a “perfect life”. You’ll find that he’s as real as they come though; he’s raw and transparent, and openly admits that he himself is a work in progress. I think this is why his message resonates with so many people…</p
Wed, August 09, 2017
Episode 163: Pulp (Non) Fiction with Kira and Amy
http://yourkickasslife.com/163 Hey Ass Kickers! I can absolutely guarantee that this episode of the podcast is unlike any that you’ve listened to (as if you couldn’t tell by the title)? I wanted to do something a bit different, so I’m bringing on two good friends, and pasts guests: Amy Smith of The Joy Junkie and Kira Sabin of The League of Adventurous Singles . Both Amy and Kira will be co-hosting Tanning, Tacos and Transformation with me, and I thought this episode would be a great way for me to introduce you to them - if you don’t already know who they are! I promise you are going to hear some personal development and topics we talk about a lot of the podcast: worthiness, confidence, boundaries, relationships and more. Most of this chat though is us asking each other some ridiculous questions, for which we have some even more ridiculous answers. I do want to warn you that there is a lot of foul language in this one, and it contains probably the most bad words I’ve ever had in an episode (needless to say, today’s conversation isn’t for children)! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 02, 2017
Episode 162: Can kindness change the world?
http://yourkickasslife.com/162 Hey Ass Kickers! Today’s guest is Orly Wahba, the CEO of Life Vest Inside. She’s here to talk all about how kindness is the greatest tool we have for empowering ourselves – and as Director of Kindness Boomerang, CEO of Kindness USA, and the author of Kindness Boomerang, Orly is a great person to share her insights on the subject. As you’ll hear from Orly, who you are means a lot more than what you do, and we need to recognize that we all have the power to resolve the issues that our society is facing today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 26, 2017
Episode 161: Listener Q & A on Dreams, Goals, and Family
http://www.yourkickasslife.com/160 Hi ass kicker! I’m so excited to have returning guest (two weeks in a row!) Elizabeth DiAlto on the show today for another Q & A episode. So many of you-- on your quest to live YOUR kick-ass life, have dreams, goals, and ambitions, But, what happens when not everyone is onboard or in our cheering section? The two questions today are from women in the YKAL community who are asking just that. We're talking about some really juicy topics, so let’s dive in… The first question comes from Jennifer. She asks: How do you stay committed to your dream when your spouse or significant other is not on board? How do you continue to speak your truth and not just bite your tongue and abandon your dream to keep the peace? Elizabeth and I talk about what to do in that situation-- do you keep trying to get your partner on board, or do something else? We have advice! Then, Rachel asks a similar question: What do you do when you feel like your dreams and ambitions are surpassing those of your family members, and they don't know how to handle it? I've grown a lot over the last couple years, but some of my older siblings haven't. I feel like I'm "showing off" around them now, or like I have to act less-developed or hold back. These are people I still want in my life. I almost feel guilty for growing ? I don't, by any means, feel like I'm better than them, at all. I'm just in a different stage of my personal development journey than they are, and it feels uncomfortable. For Rachel, is this a boundaries issue? Should she “quiet herself down”? We’ve got answers to these Q’s and my guest Elizabeth was the perfect person to have on to help sort things out! And hey-- if you liked this episode you would LOVE the free workshop we are hosting tomorrow! Well, ELizabeth is going to do most of the talking and I'll be more of her sidekick. I love these kind of live workshops because we get to interact with you and I will be giving away a signed copy of my book during the workshop! Plus, we have a private, “pop-up” Facebook group that you’re invited too (also free) where we can further the conversation. The workshop is titled Four Things You Can Do To Clear Out The BS In Your Life and Be More Receptive To What You Actually Want and you can head over to yourkickasslife.com/elizabeth to sign up for free, or click the image below. See you there! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 19, 2017
Episode 160: Trust, Surrender, Compassion and more
http://yourkickasslife.com/160 Hey Ass Kickers! Today I’m joined by my friend, and another past guest of the podcast, Elizabeth DiAlto! Elizabeth is a teacher, leader, speaker and coach (as well an author and podcast host) and she is known for her raw, honest and grounded approach to self-help and spirituality. In this episode you’re going to hear all about the workshop Elizabeth and I are presenting this month, specifically for the Your Kick-Ass Life audience, surrounding practical tools for women to be more receptive to what they want in life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 12, 2017
Episode 159: Listener Q & A on a plethora of different topics
http://yourkickasslife.com/159 Hi ass kickers! It’s a listener Q & A day! Today I bring on my long-time friend, Courtney Webster, to help me answer three questions from some awesome ladies in the YKAL community. Here they are and what we cover in today’s episode: I don't know how to phrase it...you finally decided to make a radical change or take a huge risk toward something big. How to overcome the resulting fear and doubt and keep the momentum. - Karen Courtney and I pull out some of our finest coaching tools to answer this questions-- everything from the WHY to values to permission to make mistakes. We ask some further challenging questions for Karen to ask herself to help create more momentum. The second listener question is similar to Karen’s, but so important to help creating the life you want. How do you not to go into "avoidance or stall mode" when your inner-critic starts in on your big change plan resulting in you not proceeding with your plan! - Diane Courtney and I talk about: What the inner-critic’s main job is and how it stops you, and how to make the small steps to bypass it. The most important question your coach should ask you about accountability. Questions to ask yourself if you’re on your own and don’t have a coach, but still want to kick some ass. Our last question is one I thought SO many of you could relate to… How do you stop yourself from obsessing or overanalyzing something that someone said to you? Or replaying situations or conversations in your mind? As the Frozen girls would say, how do you "let it go" when it is something not worth asking the other person about or clarifying with them? I feel like in today's world, especially with texting, it is so easy to assume someone is mad when at you when they just text back an emoji thumbs up, or worse, the letter 'k." How do you stop turning something into a big deal in your head when most likely they were just tired, stressed, or too busy to think of a better response? - Stefanie For this question we discuss: The brain science of what’s happening here, so hopefully the awareness around that will help. The magic of being able to assign a different assumption to what we receive instead of assuming the worst. What’s your responsibility and what’s theirs. Also, If you’d like to get twice a month updates on free workshops and if I have a new class open for registration, simply text the word UPDATES to 444999. Enjoy the episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 05, 2017
Episode 158: How to be a badass at making money
http://yourkickasslife.com/158 Hey Ass Kickers! In this episode, Jen Sincero returns as a guest of the Your Kick-Ass Life Podcast. Jen is a #1 NY Times Bestselling Author with her book, You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life and she’s helped countless people transform their personal and professional lives. Last time Jen was on the show , she shared all about the power of surrender, why creativity isn’t limited to just art, and powerful exercises to get clear on who you are and why you’re here. Today, we’re talking about something we all face: how to uplevel your mindset around money, identifying the fears you’re carrying and how to overcome them so you can live your best life possible. Jen reveals today what you’ll learn from her latest book, You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth. With a title like that, you know this is an episode that you need to tune into! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 28, 2017
Episode 157: How to find a great therapist and how to get the most out of it
http://yourkickasslife.com/157 Hi ass kickers! Today I’m talking about therapy. More specifically, how to choose a therapist that’s right for you as well as how to get the most out of therapy. First, why therapy? If you keep repeating the same patterns, if you’re blaming a lot (you are tolerating bullshit or not taking responsibility for your own shit, or both) then therapy is for you. If you have Family of Origin issues (who doesn’t?), then therapy is for you. Not a place to blame and shame your family, but to see what core beliefs were developed as a result of the wounds that happened as you grew up. If you need a safe place to talk to someone, therapy is for you. First, how do you find a therapist that’s best for us? Google? Just get a referral from someone? A therapist whose website says they have a specialty you need? Well, with my own years of experience of therapists, having great ones and not so great ones, here’s my advice and the advice of the smartest people I know: My Facebook friends. In this episode you’ll hear some highlights (keep in mind, I go into more detail on the podcast that what you’ll read below): First, how to find one: Stacy says, “Research their areas of concentration. Have an initial meeting, chemistry is important. Honesty is important, it is hard to be vulnerable, but the best therapist in the world cannot help if you keep things from them.” Patty says, “You are about to spend A LOT of time with this person so have an initial call or session to determine if you click. Plan to interview at least 3 but possibly 10 therapists to find a good one. It used to be that a therapist approach (cognitive, behavioral etc) was important but almost every therapist says they are "eclectic" now so ask them what they believe creates change for someone. See if their answer resonates with you. Most of all trust your gut.” Jennifer says, “Listen to your intuition in terms of how you feel interacting with them, ensure they have a specialization and/or experience in your presenting issues (it's hard to be truly skilled at everything).” Read the rest of the article HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 21, 2017
Episode 156: Self-help and social activism
http://yourkickasslife.com/156 Hey Ass Kickers! Have you ever considered the deeper meaning behind personal development, and the self-help industry as a whole? This episode today with guest Andrea Ranae is guaranteed to get you thinking (and talking), and what she talks about affects everyone, not just coaches or someone in the self-help industry. Andrea is a coach herself who wrote a blog post last summer titled, Why the Self-Help Industry Isn’t Changing The World, which went viral and has been shared thousands of times since. She believes there is a disconnect between our own industry and the work of social justice, and even offers a Coaching As Activism Program to her clients. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 14, 2017
Episode 155: On Love, Grief, and Lessons Learned
http://yourkickasslife.com/155 Today’s episode is a bit different than my usual. I’ve brought on Amy Smith (my best friend and The Joy Junkie ) as I tell the story of my father’s terminal illness and death, what it’s been like, and what I’ve learned in the seven months since it’s happened. Amy shares the story of her father’s death too. Amy prompts me to answer the questions of: How has it been doing all of this sober? What has this taught you? I thank you all for listening to this episode-- it was not easy to record, but I’m thankful for Amy for helping me and for all of you for being there. I hope this helps any of you who’ve also loved someone you love, have been through any grief of your own, or to help anyone that will someday walk this same path. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 07, 2017
Episode 154: Love and relationships with Tatiana Jerome
http://yourkickasslife.com/154 Hey Ass-Kickers! On today’s episode I welcome Tatiana Jerome to the show to give it to us straight – as a woman who doesn’t sugarcoat the truth! Her personal experiences led her to not just a successful online presence but also a career counseling women and a public speaking. Tatiana teaches how to focus on loving and taking care of ourselves first. As she shares, by prioritizing your relationship with yourself, you won’t get lost in relationships with others - and she shares fascinating insights around this topic today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 31, 2017
Episode 153: Listener Q & A on anxiety and what to do about it
http://yourkickasslife.com/153 Hi ass kickers, Today is a Listener Q & A day! Thank you so much to those of you who’ve submitted questions for the podcast. We have two today, so let’s get started: The first Q is from Stacey: Hi Andrea, I absolutely love your book and your podcast. As a 25 year old with loads of anxiety, I have gained a ton of knowledge and also a great sense of support with your community. I've been seeing a therapist for a year, and I definitely have found myself obsessing over emotions and feelings when my sessions begin and end. Have you ever stopped therapy to take a break? It sometimes makes me feel like I put so much focus on feelings that I obsess over them and lose the rational side of myself. The answer I give covers, anxiety and what to do about that, self-trust and much more. Listen in to hear my answer/experience/advice! For the second Q, I bring my one of my dearest friends, Kate Anthony, (you may remember her from another listener Q & A on divorce and heartbreak ). This question comes from a listener named Amy: I would love a podcast about what it really means and looks like to be with your feelings. I alternate between numbing and anxiety that can go into full blown panic attacks. It’s causing problems at work and more importantly my marriage. I'm not as patient with my kids and really just don't want to deal with anything at all. Why can't there be a 12-step to dealing with depression and anxiety? What do I do next? I'm working on yoga and meditation, and exercise a least 4x a week. To the outside world I'm strong, calm and have the ideal life. I have lost two people very close to me. My sister two years ago and not even a year ago my stepdad passed away who I considered my father. I really don't want to take medication. I have always been a worrier and people pleaser. In addressing this question, Kate and I talk about: Why just yoga, meditation, and exercise are probably not working for Amy. Medication-- should she take it or not? What happens when you don’t feel your feelings, like grief? HOW to actually feel your feelings? We give two tools to start with. My immense thanks to these two podcast listeners for submitting their questions. Your courage is inspiring and helps others. If you’d like to submit a question to the podcast, you can shoot an email to support@yourkickasslife.com with “question for the podcast” in the subject line. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 24, 2017
Episode 152: Food, desire, and you
http://yourkickasslife.com/152 Hey Ass-Kickers! In this episode I’m joined by Alexandra Jamieson, who is on a mission to start a happiness pandemic in the USA. How you ask? Alex aims to inspire women to fall in love with their bodies and play life by her own rules! You may recognize Alex from her co-starring role in the massively popular 2004 documentary, Super Size Me . She’s here today to share her experiences and knowledge about the different types of cravings we get as women, and to educate us on why listening to our bodies is absolutely necessary. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 17, 2017
Episode 151: How to Make Your Dreams Come True
https://andreaowen.com/coaching/dreams-come-true/ Today’s post/episode could have been titled simply, “Tips to Live a Better Life” -- it simply is tips on how to make your life better, more peaceful, and yes, how to make your dreams come true. So, here they are, in no particular order... Be okay with where you are right now. You may feel like you’re faaaar away from where you want to be. Instead of focusing on how much X, Y, and Z sucks, try focusing on what you want, how you’re going to change where you are, and how grateful you are for what you DO have. Total, complete change of focus. You’ll be amazed at how things change just by shifting your mindset while you work on changing your circumstances. Hold steadfast to what you want and WHY you want it. Why do you want to own your own business? Why do you want to take a trip to Europe? Why do you want to finish your Masters? What will you get out of doing these things? Figure out the whys and then look for how you can fulfill those feelings now in your life. For example, if it’s freedom that you want out of your goals, think about ways you can feel free now. De-clutter your house? Running through fields of flowers with your arms outstretched? It may be on a much smaller scale, but you’re fulfilling a core feeling that’s truly important to your soul. Feed it! Surround yourself with awesomeness. Your physical environment is imperative to your dream life. Like I always say , surround yourself with assholes and you’re in for a shitty life ( Tweet that! ). This goes for people and your surroundings. Do you love your bedroom? Is the inside of your car a wreck and you hate it? Do you loathe all of your clothes? Well then for the love of Pete change it! It’s a lot easier to feel good about yourself when you’re surrounded with what and who you love. Clean up your messes. Basically, say you’re sorry if you’ve been a shit. I apologize to my kids about once a week. About the same to my husband. This may seem unrelated to making your dreams come true but this one is about peace. When you clean up your messes you have peace. And when you have peace you open up doors for what you want to enter. Forgive those that have hurt you. Holding grudges and not forgiving those that have hurt you really is like setting yourself on fire and hoping the other person chokes on your smoke. You are the one that is suffering, not them. Forgiving someone else (even when they don’t ask for it and may never know that you did) is all about you loving yourself enough to know that you can’t change the past. That’s it. Deal with your shit. We ALL have issues, so get help for it. Even those people you think are perfect that sprinkle glitter smiles all over the place— somewhere in their life they have issues with parents, trauma, relationships, somethi
Wed, May 10, 2017
Episode 150: The importance of Dream Plus Do
http://yourkickasslife.com/150 Hey Ass Kickers! Today’s guest on the podcast is Lisa Steadman, a long-time friend of mine and all-around awesome lady. Her energy is infectious and I’m sure you’ll love her! In this episode we’re talking all about happiness, and embracing the spot that you’re currently in. Lisa shows us that you can be happy with where you are in life, but still that doesn’t mean that you’re finished growing or changing either. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 03, 2017
Episode 149: 5 Signs you need to make a change
http://yourkickasslife.com/149 I believe people change for two reasons: Pleasure and/or pain. They see something they want or want more of, and they go after it. And sometimes, they get to a place where they cannot stand for one more day being where they are, so they move out of the situation. Sometimes it looks like taking action, sometimes it’s inner-work, many times it’s a combo of the two. And there are the type of people who are feeling anywhere from uncomfortable to downright shitty in their life, and maybe they don’t know why. So, I’ve compiled a list of signs that are huge red flags that it’s time to make a change. Check off as needed… 1. You’re ridiculously envious of other people lives. You think everyone has it better and easier than you do. You want a marriage like your neighbor. You want to love your job like your sister does. You want a more fun life like that one lady on Facebook. You want to dance like the Solid Gold dancers of 1979. Whatever it is you’re envying, it means you want something more in your life. That you admire something about that other person. So, why can’t you have it? If you think you can’t, I call bullshit. Your commitment to “can’t” is simply a story you’re tied to. Divorce that story and marry a new one. Seriously, you guys, it’s ALL about the story you tell yourself. 2. You’re feeling resentful. I.e. pissed. Frustrated. Irritated. Resentments are a sure sign that a few different things might be happening in your life. There’s a failure to communicate somewhere. Solution: You have the power to show up and say your truth. Has that happened? Guess whose responsibility that is? Boundaries may be crossed. Solution: First- have they been established previously? If not, that’s on you. Tied into the other two, you’re tolerating something that very well may have the ability to be changed. Solution: Either change it, or change your story around it. 3. You’re numbing out. We all want to feel relief fast. Sometimes that relief comes in spending money, drinking booze, or losing ourselves playing Candy Crush Saga. But, what are you avoiding when you’re numbing out on a regular basis? Is it your marriage? Your fears? Your insecurities? For me, I used to numb out when I was overwhelmed. Perfectionism and control ruled me and since neither were ever something I could attain, I felt worse about myself. So, I drank, shopped, and dieted in an attempt to gain perfection and control and to numb the feelings of failure and fear. And then I felt worse and the cycle started all over again. I was avoiding my real feelings (surrender, acceptance, and vulnerability scared the holy shit out of me) rather than facing and feeling them. But clearly, it was time for a change. Read the rest of the article
Wed, April 26, 2017
Episode 148: The modern day priestess
http://yourkickasslife.com/148 Hey Ass Kickers! On today’s podcast I’m joined by Julie Parker, CEO and Founder of The Beautiful You Coaching Academy (with 200 trained life coaches from around the world and growing by the hundreds every year)! As you’ll see, Julie has a fascinating journey and insights on self-love. She’s is a modern day Priestess and she’s going to share what this is all about, along with how it ties into the divine female that we’ve been repressing for so long. Even if you’re new (like me) to what the whole “Priestess” thing is-- I think you’ll like this episode :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 19, 2017
Episode 147: Are you half-assing your personal development
http://www.yourkickasslife.com/147 Today’s episode is about your personal development journey and what it looks like. More specifically, for people who maybe like to “hoard” or collect personal development tools, but not use them. Or people who join personal development classes, read books, and listen to podcasts, but take no action. And the reasons are plenty-- you’re just not ready. Maybe you’re scared it won’t work for you, scared of the uncomfortableness of the work or not committed enough to change. To be fair-- most people spend some time in that place of collecting personal growth ideas and tools and doing nothing with them. But...are you living there? This episode will help you see if you’re doing this, let you know you’re normal, as well as what personal development actually looks like. Because it’s one thing to say, “I want a kick-ass life!” But...what does that really mean? And of course, wherever you are is perfect for you! It’s the awareness that’s the win! I hope you enjoyed this week’s episode as much as I enjoyed recording it for you ;) Oh, and P.S...there’s an extra bit in the beginning about facing my birthday while grieving my father's death. I always try to give you a bit of real life. If you’re ready to JUMP IN to your personal development, I invite you to join us one last time as I guide you through The 30-Day Experience . We’ll look at your core belief system (the beliefs that are fueling your negative self-talk), your habits that are making you feel like shit (the perfectionism, people pleasing, numbing out, isolating, you know...good ol’ self-sabotage). Learn how to be kind to yourself, have more self-confidence and have better relationships with the people you care about. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 12, 2017
Episode 146: shedding light on the feminine conditioning
http://yourkickasslife.com/146 Today I welcome back a recurring guest of the podcast, my dear friend Jo Casey. Jo joined us in a previous episode of Your Kick-Ass Life to talk about the business of life coaching, but today, we’re looking at something different: How women are conditioned by our culture to be “acceptable women.” Jo’s going to shed some light on what she calls “feminine conditioning.” Why are women so afraid to be different, and what role has society played in vilifying us? Is there a box that we’re supposed to fit into, and if so, how is being in it holding us back? If these are things you’ve often wondered about, then you’re going to be enlightened by Jo and the powerful message she shares with us today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 05, 2017
Episode 145: Characteristics of People That Play Big
http://yourkickasslife.com/145 The term “Play Big” gets thrown around like crazy lately. And you might wonder—what does that even mean or look like? How do you know if you’re playing small? I know this firsthand because I played small for most of my life. It wasn’t until I fell flat on my face and rebuilt my life did I see what was happening and how to change it (and the best part was that *I* was totally in charge). I thought about the foundation to what it is to actually live a big life. So, here’s a list of in my experience, what it looks like to Play Big: People that play big don’t give a shit what other people think of their dreams and goals. They may listen and take it in , but at the end of the day they do what they feel in their hearts is what they want. People that play big are in touch with what they want on the OTHER side of their goals. In other words, they tap into the feeling they really want from what it is they’re after. You want a promotion? Think about what that will bring you, what you’ll feel like when you get it. Accomplishment, validation, recognition, achievement, power. Any of those you want? (And btw- it’s totally fine to want things like power.) These are your values and when you honor them, you’re playing big. People that play big don’t apologize for what they want. Ever. ( Tweet that ) People that play big strive to be the best and biggest version of themselves. They get help with their issues. They take responsibility for their lives. They focus on self improvement as if their life depends on it. Because it does. People that play big are of service to others. They’re mentors, they’re philanthropists, they’re generous with their knowledge. No one really gets anywhere for long by being a selfish asshole. People that play big take action like crazy . They don’t sit around and blow smoke out their asses about it, or wait until it’s perfect, or need to get everyone’s opinion/approval on it. They just go for it . And if it fails they pick up the pieces and move on. People that play big are fully aware that it’s more about mindset than it is action. Yes, taking action important and great, but in order to get there you must get your head in the game first. They don’t believe they are different or less-than the people they admire. They see the people they want to emulate and know deep down they can do that too. There is no guarantee things will work out the way you envision when you do get out there and play big but you must understand that if you
Fri, March 31, 2017
Episode 144: Think you have a “life balance” problem?
http://yourkickasslife.com/144 Mini-sode 144 is all about negative self-talk. Because you don’t have a “life balance” problem. You don’t have a “not promoted enough” problem. You don’t have an “I don’t work out enough” problem. You have a problem with the way you speak to yourself. In this episode I tell you about my experience learning how to manage my own negative self-talk, and how I came to find out about it just as my life fell apart in 2007. Join us on April 3rd as I host the wildly popular FREE 7-Day Courage Challenge! Hundreds of women just like you. 10 minutes a day. Learn how to change your life. Click here to join us. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 29, 2017
Episode 143: Breathing for freedom with Kathleen Booker
http://yourkickasslife.com/143 Hey there Ass Kickers! I’m so excited for you to meet my guest today, Kathleen Booker. I met Kathleen over a year ago and I’m excited to finally have her on the podcast to introduce you to her as well. She’s an inspirational coach whose energy has been described as “infectious” (and you’ll know why after hearing her speak today)! Kathleen is passionate about something that many of us might not even give a second thought to during the day: our breathing. She knows first-hand the energy, peace and joy that something so simple can create in our lives, and she’s going to share her knowledge on this topic with us today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 22, 2017
Episode 142: Is Escapism ever okay?
http://yourkickasslife.com/142 If you've been over in these parts of town for any length of time, you know I talk a lot about numbing out and how it can be harmful for us. I’ve talked about my own sobriety and even have a recovery series on my podcast. The truth is: we like to escape. We typically don't like to feel our feelings. Life is hard and sometimes agonizing. Not many of us are equipped to handle life's struggles, so we find things to escape from it. And the message we might be getting is that we shouldn’t ever do this. We shouldn't ever numb out. We need to be with our feelings, be present to our life no matter how difficult it is. So, is escapism ever okay? Honestly, my short answer is yes. I don’t by any means expect people to fully let go of all of their numbing mechanisms. I just don’t believe there’s any way we can let go of them and go through life with all the pain and agony there is to experience. Some of the most evolved humans I know still sometimes choose numbing over facing their problems and feelings around it. Even Brené Brown talks about a time where she read a bunch of mean comments about herself on the Internet and promptly “grabbed a jar of peanut butter, a blanket and watched ten hours of Downton Abbey.” So, the question becomes what is healthy escapism and what isn't? I think the first question to ask yourself, is is your escapism chronic? In other words, are you eating too much cake every day? Or are you shopping online and putting yourself in debt? Drinking an entire bottle of wine every night? Not tending to your kids’ needs because you’re playing Candy Crush like it’s your job? Most of the time, you know when it’s too much. Denial is a powerful thing, but there comes a time when the pain of staying in your numbing mechanism outweighs the pain of facing the real problem underneath it all. And sometimes, we-- as high achieving, smart women-- can tend to let the pendulum swing completely the other way. We get “permission” to numb out sometimes and get what I call “a case of the fuck-its.” We know we’re doing it-- we know we’re numbing out, and we at that moment, don’t care. We eat All The Cake. Drink All The Wine. And maybe that’s part of your process to do that a few times. And if it is, when you’re done, check in to see how you feel. How is your self-talk when that happens? Usually, not so good. I’d bet you’re beating yourself up for eating All The Cake, or drinking All The Wine. And you beat yourself up internally, then you feel like shit...and how do we stop feeling like shit? More cake and more wine. OH THE INSANITY. This topic comes up a lot with my clients, and I always ask the same questions: Read the rest of the article HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href=
Wed, March 15, 2017
Episode 141: Hormones, digestion, and emotions with Melissa Ramos
http://yourkickasslife.com/141 Hey Ass Kickers! Today you’re in for a treat, as our guest is an expert who is going to help us be our sexiest self! Melissa Ramos has a goal of adding a little sass to healthy living for women, and she looks at things from a slightly different perspective than most of us – starting from the inside out. On this episode, Melissa shows us how hormones or digestive issues could actually be holding us back from being as sexy as we could be, and why the answer to your health is in your poop! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 08, 2017
Episode 140: THE PARTY AS WE KNOW IT, IS OVER (a calling in and a call to arms)
http://yourkickasslife.com/140 Two weeks ago I wrote about how YKAL is evolving, maturing, and what this means for you and for me. If you haven’t read it or listened, you can find it here . As I mentioned in that post, we are currently in a time where the U.S. (and other parts of the world) is extremely politically polarized. Social media was noisy enough before and now it’s been taken to a whole new level. And what I’m experiencing over here as an online business owner with a platform-- a community of people who listen to what I have to say via my podcast, blog, and social media-- is that I have a choice whether to talk about about this or not. I can continue to just go on “business as usual,” or I can implement my voice on these matters. There’s different ways this can look, but the choice is pretty black or white: Either I talk about it or I don’t. Several months ago, a colleague of mine, Racahel Maddox , posted on Facebook about this. This was before the election, even before the real messiness of it all. She was calling us out-- us being privileged people with online platforms. She was specifically calling out life coaches and those in the wellness industry with online platforms who were choosing to stay quiet about social justice issues. Who the hell does she think she is telling me what to do and how to run my business? I thought to myself. My belief was that no one can tell me how I speak out. No one can tell me what is right and what is wrong. No one can tell me I am a bad person because I choose to take my sweet ass time to decide what to do about this (that’s not what she said, but what I made up she said). In other words, I was personally offended and taken aback. After my ego left the room (it took a couple of weeks), I thought about why I reacted that way. And the conclusion I came up with was this: I was embarrassed because she called our asses out. I was scared because deep down I knew she was right-- I knew it was my responsibility to talk publicly about these social issue, but I didn’t know how. I felt guilty because I hadn’t spoken out sooner. I was worried how this would affect my reputation and my business, both I’ve worked hard on building over the last 10 years. All valid (and common) feelings, but feelings that are a) laden with privilege and white lady tears and b) don’t change the world. Then, the election happened, then the inauguration, then the whole country got flipped upside down and set on fire. And I thought about what Rachael had said. She was right. What I had to admit and knew in my heart all along, what I know now deep in my bones is this: Read the rest of the article HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://podcas
Wed, March 01, 2017
Episode 139: You have 4 minutes to change your life with Rebekah Borucki
http://yourkickasslife.com/139 Today I’m joined by a repeat guest of the Your Kick-Ass Life Podcast: Rebekah “Bex” Borucki. She’s the founder of BEXLIFE®, a TV host, meditation guide, and fitness and yoga instructor (and so much more)! Rebekah is also now a published author, and her first book, You Have 4 Minutes to Change Your Life, was released by Hay House in February 2017. How did she get to where she is today? Rebekah discovered mediation when she was 15 years old and she uses it as a tool to cope with life noise and regular daily events. She shares the grief she’s experienced in her life, and how she was able to deal with her parents deaths, as well as giving her thoughts on what the real purpose of life is truly about. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 22, 2017
Episode 138: YKAL grow and evolves
http://yourkickasslife.com/138 There’s a conversation that’s been happening in these parts of town, aka my life coach friends, healers, those in the wellness industry who run online businesses. And the conversation is: Should we bring politics into our business? Should we talk about this to our audiences? Show of hands... who’s excited about talking about this more? Who’s excited about hearing about politics more? Probably not many of you. You come here for personal development. You come here to learn how to be a better woman, learn new tools, and hopefully for my good humor and charm. ;) What I’ve always wanted— what YKAL is— is a place where women can feel good about themselves. Where they can build confidence and courage and be proud of who they are. Proud of how they’re showing up in the world, proud of what they’ve created in their lives, proud of the hard conversations they have with themselves and with others. And at the end of the day-- me, Andrea Owen, creator of YKAL has to be that woman too. Proud of how I’m showing up in the world, proud of what I’ve created, proud of the conversations I have to have. And there has been no time in the last ten years of this work I do, where I have been asked more to walk that talk, than now What’s been happening over the last six months or so it I’ve been listening, watching, and processing. And my listening, watching and processing is my privilege showing. The fact that I have time to do so. Let me give you a little backstory. I was a proud Republican for a long time. I voted for George W. Bush in ‘04 and for John McCain in 2008. In Spring of 2009, while pregnant with my daughter, I took a women’s studies class called “Men and Masculinity.” It sounded interesting, it worked with my school schedule, and I needed it for credits to finish my bachelor's degree. Never in my life before had I been that interested in Women’s Studies. Maybe the Universe was conspiring to change my life. On the first day of class, we were asked to introduce ourselves to the person next to us. The young woman next to me told me her name and that she was a feminist. I said-- trying to be kind of funny, “Oh. Well, then I can tell you now you probably won’t like me.” She asked why and I said, “Because I don’t consider myself a feminist. And I’m a Republican.” At that point in time, I was 33 years old, and I didn’t know what feminism was, or patriarchy, or privilege (I thought people who had that were the Paris Hilton’s of the world), or even misogyny. That was the first time in a class, I did a lot more listening than contributing to the conversation. In essence, everything changed for me that semester. One of the things that changed was I realized what I had been so angry about for so long. That the anger and sometimes rage I had-- for not being taken seriously because of my gender, for being sexually harassed and assau
Wed, February 15, 2017
Episode 137: Money and more with Amanda Steinberg
http://yourkickasslife.com/137 Hey Ass Kickers! On today’s show, we’re talking money and retirement, and who better to help us dig deeper on these subjects than Amanda Steinberg. Amanda is the founder & CEO of Worth FM, a new digital financial advisor for women, and DailyWorth, the leading digital financial media company for women (with over 1 million subscribers to its daily e-newsletter)! In my talk with Amanda, we look at why women are so afraid to engage with money she helps us debunk the stories we’ve told ourselves when it comes to our finances. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 08, 2017
Episode 136: Listener Q&A on Affairs, Intimacy and More
http://yourkickasslife.com/136 Hi ass kickers! Today I have a listener question I’m answering with my partner in crime/bestie/colleague/peanut butter to my jelly: Amy Smith. This episode is all about intimacy, vulnerability, and more. Even if you’re not partnered up, or have never had an affair, I’m 100% sure there will be nuggets in this episode to help you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, February 03, 2017
Episode 135.5: Self-Love
Want to learn more about how to love yourself? Of course you do. Click here to join my free workshop on Self-Love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 01, 2017
Episode 135: Mastering your mean girl with Melissa Ambrosini
http://yourkickasslife.com/135 On today’s show I’m joined by the Melissa Ambrosini: best selling author, keynote speaker, and self-love teacher. Melissa didn’t always practice what she preaches and after living what she calls a “superficial and outwardly focused life,” she came face-to-face with a major health scare that required hospitalization in 2010. Now she teaches others the importance of understanding self-worth and she shares the tips and tools around this subject that can change your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 31, 2017
R10: How I Stayed Sober Through Grief
http://yourkickasslife.com/R10 Hi ass kickers! This is the last episode in this round of the recovery series (season 2 will be out sometime in 2017. If you don’t want to miss it, make sure you’re signed up for updates here). Last fall, as I was about halfway through the interviews for this series, my father passed away. We learned he had a terminal illness, and about 3 weeks later he died. As a person in long-term recovery, this was the first time I’d faced something big while sober. For some, losing a loved one becomes too much, and they relapse. I can completely understand why this happens. In this episode, I talk about the following: My family story and how I was first introduced to what a functional alcoholic was. What the worst moments were when I came home from dealing with his death. What I thought the “rules of grief” were. What surrender has been like for me over the past few months. I answer the question: Did I want to drink again? What I did when I found myself sobbing on my kitchen floor. What I did to get through the multitude of feelings. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 25, 2017
Episode 134: The vulnerability hangover and worthiness
http://yourkickasslife.com/134 Hello Ass kickers! I’m super excited for y’all to hear this episode with my friend and colleague Laura Probasco. Laura is a mega ass-kicker and she brings it on today’s show. Her background is in social work and play therapy and she’s well-schooled in Brené Brown’s teachings which is how we first connected. Laura is the founder of Probasco and Associates as well as the co-founder of The Art of Play, a play therapy training program for individuals, schools and organizations. She has taken her work around the globe interacting with people from all walks of life. On this episode we dive into topics like vulnerability hangovers, hotwiring emotional connections, and the link between isolation and perfectionism. We also talk about: Why it’s normal to have vulnerability hangovers. Marble people: what are they and why do they matter? What does the term “breautiful” mean? Why you can’t have courage and comfort at the same time. The best tool Laura has used in her own personal growth journey. And much more! When it comes to vulnerability hangovers and “hot wiring” emotional connections, Laura shares a personal story from her own life (something many of us will relate to!). There are many lessons to take away from that story, including why we have vulnerability hangovers. A vulnerability hangover is when you’ve shared deeply personal experiences with someone, and you later worry about what you’ve said, how you said and how the person on the receiving end was left. The “hot wiring” is when we share this information with someone we don’t know very well, like a nearby passenger on an airplane in Laura’s case. I mean, who hasn’t spilled their guts to a stranger before!? During this show we talk about what to do if you’ve ever had a “hot wiring connection” or a vulnerability hangover, how to handle both and why they aren’t always bad experiences to have. Continuing on that theme, Laura shares how our need for intimacy combined with our need for perfection leads us into isolation. She offers great suggestions on how to cope when we begin to isolate ourselves, including how to reach out to those friends we know we can turn to when we’re in the darkness. We even give you a word for word script to use with these friends so you can ask for what you need. (Because I know you all love scripts!) There’s so much in this episode with Laura. She shares how she broke up with herself and why, the process and journey to worthiness and how to surrender control without losing your mind! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 24, 2017
Episode R9: Interview with Megan Peters
http://yourkickasslife.com/R9 Hi ass kickers! This week on the recovery series I’m talking to Megan Peters. Megan is a blogger, photographer, mom and recovery warrior. She struggled with perfectionism and people pleasing growing up, which she says fueled her drinking problem. In this hour you’ll hear: Megan tells us her story about what her relationship with alcohol was like and when she knew it was time to quit. From an article Megan wrote: “I felt like I was constantly running, with no finish line in sight. No matter how hard I worked or how much I loved my family, I felt like I could never get my head above water. I was drowning.” She explains more about this. We talk about the shame and stigma that come with being a mother and an alcoholic and what to do about that. Megan tells us how she quietly got sober (she didn’t even tell her husband) and how her recovery changed over time into what she needed. We both talk about what’s it’s like to “just have one drink.” I ask Megan what advice she has for someone who’s struggling to stay sober-- for someone who stays sober a few days or weeks and then convinces herself she can have “just one” and then keeps finding herself in the same place over and over. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 18, 2017
Episode 133: Confidence, consistency, and getting what you want, with Rachel Luna
http://yourkickasslife.com/133 Hey Ass kickers! Today we’ve got a special episode of the podcast as I bring on someone I’ve been friends with for a long time. Rachel Luna is a Best Selling Author, Speaker, Confidence and Mindset Coach, and she not only shares the tremendous story of her life, but how went from considering herself “damaged goods” to the place she’s now at and how she’s helping others be the best they can be as well. After listening to this one, I’m sure you’ll agree that when you show up and do the work, you’re going to see huge changes in your life too! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 17, 2017
Episode R8: Interview with Danielle Gilmore
http://yourkickasslife.com/R8 Hi ass kickers! Today on the recovery series we have Danielle Gilmore, who considers herself a compulsive overeater, love and sex addict. Danielle found herself at 380 pounds at 25 years old and decided it was time to get help. I’m excited to have you hear her story because of a couple reasons: 1) I know people can replace addictions when they get sober from alcohol and food and other substances are what they often turn to and 2) I wanted to get a variety of stories because addiction isn’t just alcohol. I know many of you might struggle in different areas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 11, 2017
Episode 132: How to look at your shit while not beating yourself up for it
http://yourkickasslife.com/132 I talk a lot about taking responsibility for your life. I often tell the story from my own life about finding myself on the other side of two back-to-back really bad relationships, blaming everyone else in my life for how shitty I was feeling and deciding I’d had enough of all that. After picking myself up off the floor one day I decided to take responsibility for what I’d tolerated, what I’d attracted, what I didn’t know in terms of what a healthy relationship looked like, and what I wanted out of life. I started to do the hard work and everything changed. What I also talk a lot about it managing your negative self-talk. The inner-voice we all have that tells us we aren’t good enough. If you’ve ever been in that place I mentioned above, the place where you take radical responsibility for your life, you might encounter a side-effect: Massively harsh self-talk. It might sound like this: I can’t believe I allowed that kind of relationship. I was so stupid to behave like that. Only an idiot would do that. I’m so ashamed of myself. And on and on. Right? So, you’re trying to better yourself and by doing so, it’s necessary to shine the light on all the bullshit and messes you might have made. And at the same time I’m over here telling you all day and all night to do it with self-compassion. And you might be thinking, how the fuck do I do that?!? Never fear, I have some answers, ass kicker. First things first, it’s going to happen. It’s normal once you really start taking inventory of what’s up and what you want to change for you to look at your life with the stink-eye. If you look at your life or your former life and think, “Hmm...it’s really not that bad!” then either you’re still in denial and aren’t ready for self-help or it really isn’t that bad and you don’t need self-help. So, you’re just like the rest of us if you see it all and gasp. It’s going to be okay, I promise! Second, this happens to everyone and everyone feels the same way. Embarrassed, full or regret, guilty, ashamed, judgmental, disappointed, all the hard emotions in one big ‘ol pile of shit. Again, it’s part of the process. Third, practicing self-compassion is a learned process, don’t expect to get it right on the first day. Some people ask me, “but when I talk to myself kindly it feels weird and not genuine.” When you had your first two weeks in Spanish class learning “Me llamo Estacia y me gusta los tocadiscos” did you feel fluent? Did you feel like you could fly down to Guadalajara, Mexico and blend into the natives? I didn’t think so. Learning to speak in a self-compassionate manner is the same. It takes time and practice and more time and more practice to not only do it consistently with less effort, but to make it feel more genuine. You have to start somewhere.
Tue, January 10, 2017
Episode R7: Interview with Nicole Antoinette
http://yourkickasslife.com/R7 Today on the recovery series I interview Nicole Antoinette. Nicole doesn’t identify with being an “alcoholic”, but very much had a problem with her drinking and has been sober for 5+ years. A self-professed “party girl” she went through years of struggling with insomnia which inadvertently led to her sobriety. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 04, 2017
Episode 131: 3 Steps to Let It Go
http://yourkickasslife.com/131 I’ve noticed something interesting over the last several years. As a blogger and online business owner, one of the things I do is look at my Google Analytics to see how people are finding my website and which posts are getting the most hits. And year after year, it’s the posts I write about relationships, more specifically posts about my breakups and the heartbreak they ensued. I’ve written about how to get over your ex, which has been shared more than 120,000 times (it’s probably much more, we installed the share tracking about a year after I wrote it). I’ve also had to turn off comments because of all the spam, people selling their love potions (not kidding. People selling poor heartbroken people love potions. There is a place in hell for those spammers). What’s obvious about the popularity of that topic is simply this: Most people in the world have had their heart broken by someone else and they have a really hard time healing. I don’t pretend to be the absolute expert at this, as I am still navigating it every day in my own life. But, I’m compelled to write about it today because I’ve been turning over and over the question in my head: Are we ever truly healed from heartbreak? And either way-- what does that even look like? At my ripe old age of 41 (which btw, I still consider myself young with A LOT to learn about life and love) I’m starting to think the answer to that question sometimes is no. And that’s okay. Let me explain. Here’s where I think the problem starts: I think we make up that we need to get over the people that have hurt us. And I’m not just talking about intimate relationships, I’m talking about parents, friends, anyone we’re close to that we’ve trusted and felt at some point or another has “broken our hearts”. We make up that we as humans, must get to a place in our hearts where we’re not hurt anymore. We don’t think about what happened, and if we do, we hold no sadness, anger, or hurt about it. I don’t know about you, but that seems awfully robotic and ….impossible. The problem worsens when we make up what it means when we’re not “over it”. We make up that we’re weak or broken, that we’re doing something wrong, that there’s something innately wrong with us, and we might keep obsessing on that person that hurt us. As humans, I think we want a definitive answer. Are we through it or not? Are we healed-- emphasis on the past tense? And my honest answer is I don’t know. I think we look for this place outside of us-- this place “over there” where we will be absent from all the difficult feelings around it. It’s completely subjective what this looks like but I think so many people spend the better part of their lives searching for this. Read the rest HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href=
Tue, January 03, 2017
Episode R6: Interview with Jean McCarthy
http://yourkickasslife.com/R6 Ass kickers! Welcome BACK to the recovery series! Thank you for your patience as I had to put the project on hold for a couple of months, but I am so excited to share episode six with you. Jean McCarthy of the Unpickled Blog is with us. Jean McCarthy thought she had it all figured out: go 100 miles an hour all day as a mom and business owner, then drink wine before bed to quickly de-stress and fall asleep. She had no idea that this perfect equilrium would evolve into addiction over the course of a decade. Now five years sober, Jean writes about her experiences as a person in recovery at unpickledblog.com and holds space for others to share their stories on The Bubble Hour podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 14, 2016
Episode 130: Finding Trauma Resolution, with Rachael Maddox
http://yourkickasslife.com/130 Welcome to episode 130 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Trauma and trauma resolution are two issues we’ve touched on before but today we spend an entire show on it. Our guest, Rachael Maddox, is an expert on both. Rachael is a trauma resolution educator, coach and guide who helps women heal and understand sexual traumas they’ve experienced so they can move through the world with joy and success. Rachael’s coaching certification was earned from The Coaches Training Institute, and she is certified in trauma resolution through The Alchemical Alignment. On this show, we dive into her very personal, firsthand experiences with trauma, how somatic therapy helped her heal when nothing else worked, and how that therapy ultimately led to what she does today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 07, 2016
Episode 129: Common self-love myths and pitfalls with Amy Smith
http://yourkickasslife.com/129 Hey Ass kickers! Welcome to episode 129 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! I’m thrilled to bring you this archived episode with life coach, master communicator and my very best friend, Amy E. Smith. Amy hosts a podcast called The Joy Junkie with her hubs, Mr. Smith. On the podcast and in her business Amy helps people find their voice, and stand up for themselves (without being a dick). I brought her on the show to talk about self-love: what it is and how to practice it no matter who you are or where you are in your life. We get into the common misconceptions and pitfalls about self-love, why loving yourself actually helps you change your life and why choosing self-love is a daily practice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 30, 2016
Episode 128: Abandonment Recovery, with Susan Anderson
www.yourkickasslife.com/128 Welcome to episode 128 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today I’ve got another amazing guest for you, Susan Anderson. Susan is considered the founder of the Abandonment Recovery movement, and is a dedicated psychotherapist who has spent over 30 years helping those who struggle with abandonment trauma, grief, and loss. Naturally on this episode we discuss abandonment, and also how she came to write the book The Abandonment Recovery Workbook. She shares the neuroscience behind the deep wounds abandonment imprints on us, and we both share our personal abandonment experiences. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 23, 2016
Episode 127: Pivoting with Grace and Ease, with Jenny Blake
http://yourkickasslife.com/127 Welcome to episode 127 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today I’ve got yet another special guest to share with you, Jenny Blake. Jenny is an internationally-known author, speaker and career and business strategist. She’s also a fellow podcaster and has been my friend for nearly a decade. On this episode, Jenny and I are talking about her latest book Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One, what pivots are and are not, and how she has learned so much from navigating pivot points in her own life. You’ll Also Hear: ● What inspired her to write this book? ● What are the four stages of a pivot? ● The three things to test when you are in pilot mode. ● Does your life contain the clues you need to discover your next pivot? ● Does all change involve loss? ● How to trust your emotional process when pivoting. ● What has she learned from meditation? ● Why she calls 2013 her apocalypse year, and what it taught her. ● Why Jenny believes our challenges are chosen for us. ● And much more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 16, 2016
Episode 126: 38 things I’ve learned in 38 years
http://yourkickasslife.com/126 As the year comes to an end, I love thinking about not only my accomplishments, but what I’ve learned. And this year I’ve made a list of the lessons I know to be true off the top of my head, 38 to be exact. There are loads more , but here’s a start: Cleaning up my own messes is the best way to sleep at night. This means apologizing when I’ve been an asshole and just generally doing my best to fix things I’ve made a mess of. Taking radical responsibility for my life is the only option. No one else is responsible for my happiness. No one. My children don’t define me. I used to think becoming a mother would be my ultimate life purpose. It isn’t. I used to have a lot of guilt and shame about that. But, I don’t anymore. No relationship will complete me. Not a single one. My vagina looks the way it does, and I’m okay with that, I even love it. That also goes for my boobs, tummy, and every other body part I used to hate. I’m done listening to people that tell me I need to look different. “Taking the edge off” really needed to be examined . For me, I was taking off all the edges. And sometimes edges just need to be dealt with. Exercise really is the best medicine. The voice in my head that tells me I’m not enough is a liar. Progress, not perfection. “Let it go” is 99% of the time, the best way to solve a problem. “No” is a complete sentence. If I listen, my body is usually trying to tell me something. I only apologize when I really, truly can stand behind it. There will always be people that don’t like me and it’s not my job to change their minds. (I admit this one is still tough. It’s a one-day-at-a-time lesson.) My parents did the best they could, with what they had at that time. And as parents, that’s all we can do. Forgiveness is more about me, and not them. Time really doesn’t heal all wounds—I’m in charge of that. Time helps, but being proactive is the catalyst . All wisdom is created from healed pain. Trying to control everything is my one-way ticket on the crazy train. Sometimes I forget this and get on board. The comparison trap is basically made-up stories of what I think someone else’s life is like. We’re all scared . We all have fear. The people that say they are fearless are just pretending. None of us get out of this alive. And in the end, I want to be proud how I lived it. If we all worked on our ins
Wed, November 09, 2016
Episode 125: Life purpose, not apologizing for who you are, plus more…with Sally Hope
http://yourkickasslife.com/125 This is a re-broadcast with Sally Hope, one of my favorite podcast guests. As many of you know my father passed away last month and I’m taking a break for a few weeks and re-airing archived episodes. I thank you for your patience during this time. Next week is a brand new episode! Another amazing edition of the YKAL podcast is upon us! I’m here with Sally Hope, founder of The Wildheart Revolution. I love Sally’s take on life and I’m sure you will too. In this episode we talk about several different important topics... In a recent blog post Sally talks about trying to please everyone and how to stop doing this. We discuss the gist of her post, how we’ve both learned to do our best of NOT caring so much if other people like us. Next we talk about LIFE PURPOSE and how to actually take the pressure off ourselves in our quest to finding it. (Because in actuality that pressure is keeping you from finding it!) Sally’s message screams to not apologize for who you are.We discuss that being your biggest self might mean having to leave some people behind and how to go about dealing with that. One of Sally’s big things is going on adventures! I ask her where would someone start that doesn’t have a ton of time or money? This conversation segues into talking about friends (aka your tribe) and how to create that in your life. Sally has NEW ideas for you! I’m just certain you’ll love Sally Hope as much as I do! She’s such a great inspiration full of love and authenticity. And get ready for next week for an all new episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 02, 2016
Episode 124: How Nice People Set Boundaries, with Randi Buckley
http://yourkickasslife.com/124 Hey Ass kickers! Welcome to another episode of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! My friend Randi joins us to talk about the all-important topic of boundaries and how nice people set ‘em. Randi is THE expert of experts! She’s a life coach, hard truth-talker and creative producer of products that encourage women to step into their truth, and transform their inner and interpersonal struggles. Trust me, I KNOW boundaries are difficult and we ALL struggle with them-- whether it’s family members, co-workers, or our neighbors, we could all use some help in this area, right? On today’s show she shares with us how creating our own container of what we want in our lives sets our boundaries, what gardens have to do with boundaries and ultimately why we struggle with boundaries so much. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 26, 2016
Episode 123: The Power of Your Voice, with Christina Dunbar
http://yourkickasslife.com/123 Hi Ass kickers, As you’ll hear in this week's podcast episodes, my father died on last Sunday. Over the next several weeks, you’ll get some re-broadcasts of my favorite episodes. I’ve also decided to put the recovery series on hold until January. Thank you for your patience and understanding during this time. ******************************************************************** I’m so glad you’re here for another episode of Your Kick-Ass Life. Today we’ve got the fabulous Christina Dunbar. Christina is an actress, poet, activist and women’s leader. She offers programs for artists, entrepreneurs and wild women helping them take the stage and share their own soul story. She’s also the inspiration and creator behind her one-woman show, Dirty Me Divine. On this episode we dive into that experience fully as well as what it means to take a stand, and why that is often difficult for women, and what steps we can take to express our unique voices. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 25, 2016
Episode R5: : Interview with Dawn Nickel
http://yourkickasslife.com/R5 Welcome to the 5th episode in the recovery series with our guest Dawn Nickel of She Recovers . This is the last episode in this series until January when it will pick back up. In this episode you’ll hear: Dawn has been drug and alcohol free since 1989, and then relapsed in 2000. She tells us her story. I ask Dawn what advice do she has for someone who isn’t quite 100 percent sure they need to quit. She tells us her advice for someone in their first few months of sobriety. And last, I ask her to tell us one thing she’s proud of right now and one thing she’s struggling with. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 19, 2016
Episode 122: Getting Gutsy with Jenny Fenig
http://yourkickasslife.com/122 Another YKAL podcast episode is here and as always, I’m excited you’re here to meet our guest. Jenny Fenig is a coach, yogi, mom of 3, and all around amazing woman whose message to women is get gutsy in order to find your soul’s true calling. In this episode you’ll hear: How has the tragic loss of her sister and two friends played a role in her finding and living her calling. Her journey from corporate leader to yogi to business owner. What was her moment that made her decide to release alcohol from her life. What to say in social situations when people ask why you’re not drinking. What are “pivot point moments” and how they can helpful for women trying to discover their soul’s calling. And more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 18, 2016
Episode R4: Interview with Holly Whitaker
http://yourkickasslife.com/R4 Episode 4 in the special recovery series is an interview with Holly Whitaker. Holly is the founder of Hip Sobriety, which aims to provide a modern, holistic, accessible and desirable path to sobriety, and to remove the stigma associated with addiction (and sobriety). In this episode you’ll hear: ● Holly shares about her relationship with alcohol and when she decided it was time to quit. ● She tells us her feelings about Alcoholics Anonymous. ● What is devolution and how does it happen in addiction. ● Holly shares advice for someone new in sobriety. ● And she tells us some of the things she does to to stay sober. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 12, 2016
Episode 121: 5 questions women need to ask themselves
http://yourkickasslife.com/121 As a coach, it’s my job to ask women questions. Lots of them. Over the years, I’ve seen patterns of the women that come to me and what questions to ask to get down to the nitty-gritty of their lives. In no particular order, here are five questions I’d love for you to answer about yourself… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 11, 2016
Episode R3: Interview with Laura McKowen
http://yourkickasslife.com/R3 Episode 3 in the special recovery series is an interview with Laura McKowan. Laura is a mom, writer, and recovery warrior. In this episode you’ll hear: ● Laura’s progressive story of her relationship with alcohol and when she decided it was time to quit. ● We both share stories of when we felt immense shame as mothers around our drinking and the moment we both knew it was affecting our children. ● I ask Laura if she ever has that voice that tells her it might be possible to moderate. ● Laura tells us what she does to stay sober— what she’s tried that’s worked and what hasn’t worked. Ass kickers, I hope you’re enjoying listening to these episodes as much as I enjoyed recording them with these magnificent women! If you have any specific questions you’d like me to ask the guests, please contact us to let us know! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 05, 2016
Episode 120: The Imposter Complex, with Tanya Geisler
http://yourkickasslife.com/120 Hello ass kickers! Today I’m bring you and oldie, but goodie— a re-airing of a podcast from many moons ago— an episode with my friend Tanya Geisler. She’s talking with us about the Imposter Complex, a syndrome that many of us have experience with. If you’re not sure what that is— just listen to the first few minutes and you’ll be sure to say to yourself, “Oh, wait, that’s me too!” Tanya is Leadership Coach who’s coached hundreds of people who were ready to step into the starring roles of their lives. She’s an in-demand TEDx speaker who talks with great passion about the Impostor Complex, personal leadership, on all things joy, meaning and purpose (just try to stop her). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 04, 2016
Episode R2: What to do if you think you have a problem with drinking
http://yourkickasslife.com/R2 Ass kickers! I’m so excited to bring you the first interview in the special recovery series. Courtney Webster is here with us today and Courtney is not only someone who has over a decade of strong recovery from alcohol, drugs, and an eating disorder, but she’s one of my closest friends. Before I jump in, if you’re just hearing about this, in addition to the regular episodes of the YKAL podcast, I’m going a 10-part bonus series for anyone who thinks they might be struggling with alcohol, anyone who knows they are struggling with alcohol, or even if you know someone who is and want to better understand them (or forward these episodes to them!). Courtney and I met at coach training in 2008 and in 2011 when I got honest with myself and was thinking about trying sobriety, Courtney was the first person I called. I was so afraid to tell her I was struggling-- afraid she would judge me. Well, she didn’t. She let me talk about it and told me if I wasn’t 100% sure I had a problem with drinking, then I could quit for 30 days and see what happened. Let’s just say it was very telling! Listen to the ep to see what happened… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 28, 2016
Episode 119: 4 Signs You're On the Self-Help "Hamster Wheel" (and what to do about it)
https://andreaowen.com/empowering-women/4-signs-youre-self-help-hamster-wheel/ Hey, in case you missed it yesterday– a BONUS post/pod episode came out yesterday on the topic of recovery and sobriety! Click here if you missed it and I would be honored if you shared it with people you think might be helped from it. *************************************************** Self help. What many jokes are made of and maybe some of us still feel a little embarrassed standing in that aisle in the bookstore. God forbid anyone will know that we struggle, don’t have all of our shit together , and want to change things in our life that are making us binge eat/ drink entire bottles of wine in one sitting/try to control everyone and everything (er, not that I know what any of that is like). And I’m fascinated why some people change and then others stay the same. What really fascinates me and what this post is about, is why some people want to change and know their lives would be better if they did that, but they don’t. There is much psychology behind the reasons, but what I’m talking about today are signs that it’s time for you to take a look at WHY you’re stuck in self-help-dom so you can hopefully make some changes in the right direction. So, I’ve compiled a list of signs you might be on the “self help hamster wheel” and what to do about it. Buying self-help books without reading them. I think we have ALL done this one. Someone recommends it, or we see it at the bookstore, or the title seemed to scream, “THIS BOOK WILL FIX YOU!” so we buy it. And it sits on our bookshelf unopened for years. And then we feel like shit about that. But really, sometimes I think we’re just not ready to read it. I know that sounds crazy, but I believe it. In some weird, serendipitous way, The Universe will know when it’s time and it will somehow make its way into your hands and into your heart. Signing up for self improvement classes, feeling relieved… and then not doing the work. Getting your credit card out before hitting “buy now” is not a magic wand that will fix you and ease your pain. The actual WORK will. There is a direct correlation between people that see growth and empowerment in their lives and doing the actual work it takes to get there. This includes worksheets, journaling, quality introspective thinking, doing what you commit to doing, listening to your intuition instead of your fear and more. Getting really good at telling your story about how screwed up you are and where your issues stem from. Don’t I know this one all too well. Here’s a typical scenario for the type of woman that is into self help: Step 1: She comes to a point in her life where she wants to feel better and/or she has a pretty heartbreaking turn of events and deci
Tue, September 27, 2016
Episode R1: Confession
http://yourkickasslife.com/R1 Original post from September 27th, 2012. This is the first in a ten-part series I’ll be hosting on alcoholism and recovery. If you don’t want to miss the rest of the episodes, make sure you sign up here to be notified when a new one comes out. And stick around until the end where I’ll share a clip from next week’s recovery post! My stomach lurches as I begin this post. I considered not going public with this, but that damn intuition of mine had other ideas. There’s a part of me that wants to make this post bright and cheery somehow, but I’d be lying to you and me if I did that. I’d like to preface my story with this: I know there are so many more women like me. So, I chose to go public with my story because of that. There is a part of me that has massive amounts of shame around this, but coming clean helps heal. And if only one woman gets sober on account of reading my story, then all the shame is worth it. ***************************************** Hi, my name is Andrea and I’m an alcoholic. Yep. Me. If you’re anything like me, when you hear the word “alcoholic”, you get that vision of the homeless man in the gutter, drinking from a paper bag, or maybe the leathery skinned, worn-out woman at the bar, falling off the barstool, or any other pathetic image you conjure up. Not often do you picture a successful life coach, living a great life in the suburbs. And that story is a big part of what kept me drinking. I’ll start by backing up. My battle started in my late teens with love addiction. When I was 25 my struggle grew into an eating disorder, and thankfully I got help and healed from those when I was 31. It wasn’t until years later that I realized and admitted the eating disorder was bad enough that it could have killed me. To add fuel to the fire, when I was 26 I was diagnosed with severe anxiety and panic disorder, which at that time, was being helped with medication prescribed by my doctor. Throughout my 20’s, in terms of drinking alcohol, I was a “normal” girl . I drank socially just like all my friends, but could always put down the bottle without a fight. Sure, there were episodes where I made bad decisions (does anyone make good decisions drinking?) and had some embarrassing moments, but nothing so humiliating to write about. Looking back, I believe I didn’t need to rely on drinking then to cope, because I had my eating disorder to fall back on, as well as an addictive relationship with my ex-husband. Those behaviors fed the addict me and I didn’t yet need alcohol to numb me. Upon recovering from the eating disorder and love addiction, I skipped along into my new life with new tools and thoughts to cope without turning to a relationship, a man, or my eating disorder. Wh
Wed, September 21, 2016
Episode 118: Why You Feel Like a Fraud, with Amy Pearson
http://yourkickasslife.com/118 Welcome to episode 118 of Your Kick-Ass Life! Today I’m thrilled to share with you my dear friend, colleague and repeat guest Ms. Amy Pearson. If you haven’t heard Amy before you are in for a treat! She is the founder of Live Brazen, as well as a Master-certified Martha Beck Life Coach. She’s also a coach mentor and an instructor for Martha Beck’s life coach training. Plus she’s a writer, a teacher and a speaker who is on a mission to help the heart-centered entrepreneurs of the world! On today’s show, we talk about what it means to be addicted to approval - something she is intimately familiar with! She explains the different forms approval addiction can show up as, and how to know if you fit into any of them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, September 15, 2016
Episode 117: Tips on Creating a Successful Coaching Business, with Tara Gentile
http://yourkickasslife.com/117 Today I have a bonus episode for you! The regularly scheduled episode came out yesterday-- 6 reasons you’re afraid and what to do about it -- and today I wanted to bring you a special guest today for a specific reason. As you know, I’m a life coach. The term “life coach” has taken on many meanings over the last couple of decades. It’s a relatively new profession, and even more new as an online business. I get many, many people who ask me questions like, “How did you become a life coach? Can you actually make a living at it? What school did you go to? What does one need to do to be successful at it? How do I build an online business?” and while I do take a handful of private clients for consulting on this topic, I wanted to have someone on whom I trust implicitly-- someone I’ve hired to help me in my business and who knows all there is to know about building an online business, Tara Gentile. Tara is the founder of Quiet Power Strategy, a company that provides hands-on business training for idea-driven entrepreneurs. She’s also the author of three books: Art of Earning , Quiet Power Strategy and The Observation Engine . She’s been featured in Fast Company, Forbes, and Chris Guillebeau’s New York Times best-seller The $100 Start-Up . As if that wasn’t enough, she also hosts a podcast called Profit Power Pursuit! It’s a show dedicated to highlighting the real truth about the logistics of running a successful business. Today we continue that truth-talking about the life coaching business, including who this industry is for and who it isn’t. She explains why most life coaches are missing the answer to this very important question, and why the answer is so critical. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 14, 2016
Episode 116: 6 Reasons You're Afraid
https://andreaowen.com/coaching/6-reasons-youre-afraid-and-what-to-do-about-it/ Everyone has fear. I don’t care if you’ve led a charmed life or had the emotional shit kicked out of you time and time again. Whether you have self-confidence, whether you’re Miss America or a college student. We all have it. Let me break down the most common things people are afraid of (I’ve left out things like spiders, zombies, the dark, etc. because this is the mostly about the “being” part. Zombies are a completely valid thing to be afraid of, though.) Here we go: Fear of failure. Fear of not making the team. Not getting that promotion. Your marriage falling apart and divorcing. Being rejected when you ask someone out. Instead, we just don’t try at all. We sit on the sidelines and watch everyone else do things we want to do, and convince ourselves they must have some kind of secret sauce or some immunity to hurt, or perhaps they’re just fearless like everyone is talking about on Pinterest. Fear of success. Fear of being in the limelight. Having to sustain our success and keep moving forward. Shining too bright and making others uncomfortable. Showing off. So, we play small to avoid any of that. Fear of other people’s judgments, opinions, criticism, words, opposition, breathing. We DO care what other people think of us. I truly believe NO ONE out there really gives “zero fucks.” But, the real fear is of the haters. Our parents might think we’re crazy for leaving our crap marriage. Or friends might tell us starting our own business might be too hard. And then those anonymous people on the Internet can be really, really mean, so let’s play it safe and not risk criticism from them. Read the rest HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 07, 2016
Episode 115: The leader within every woman, with Nisha Moodley
http://yourkickasslife.com/115 Welcome to episode 115 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today’s show is guaranteed to fire you up - I’m joined by the fabulous Nisha Moodley to talk about women as leaders and the impact we can all have when following our greatest passions. Nisha is a women’s leadership coach and the creator of Fierce Fabulous Free, The Freedom Mastermind & The Freedom Sisterhood. She is also a featured expert on DailyWorth, and has been featured on CNN, Huffington Post and The Daily Love. On this episode, you’ll also hear about the truth and beauty in sisterhood, why we don’t need to perfect but simply walk our talk, the connection between freedom and sisterhood, and how women and their voices will free the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 31, 2016
Episode 114: On burnout, a book update, and more
http://yourkickasslife.com/114 Burnout. So, I’m in a burn out phase. It happens. I used to beat myself up for getting to a place of burn out, feeling like I must have done something wrong along the way, that I must have not balanced right, must have not delegated enough, didn’t lean in at the right angle. But, nine years into raising babies, a business, and participating in a marriage, for me-- burn out is part of the game. And some self-help experts might gasp and tell me I’m doing it wrong, and that it doesn’t have to be that way, and my response is that I’m doing the best I can, I’m totally confident of that-- and this is what works for me. I kind of look at my life and have found it possible and necessary to have self-compassion because when you do what I do-- when you hold space for people emotionally (sometimes a lot of people at once) it’s thrilling and beautiful and amazing and all of those things, and it can also be exhausting. Coupled with other factors-- a child with special needs, new big projects and it’s the perfect storm. Luckily, now, I see burnout coming like when the train tracks start to vibrate before you can see the train, instead of how it used to be-- not seeing it and letting the train hit me. So, now when I see it coming, I back out and figure out what I need to do in terms of self-care. What that looks like is that I’ve decided to NOT teach any more classes for the rest of the year. The Masterclass will open for registration either in December or January, (get on the waitlist if you don’t want to miss early registration which has a price break!) and we’ll start in the new year. I’ve also decided to put off some projects that I was gung-ho on earlier this year. They’ll wait until January. Read the rest HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 24, 2016
Episode 113: How to honor yourself, with Christine Hassler
http://yourkickasslife.com/113 Welcome to episode 113 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! I’m delighted to bring you yet another terrific guest, my friend and yours, Christine Hassler. You may remember Christine from her first visit to the show on episode 58 (it’s linked in the resources section below). To refresh your memory, Christine is a former Hollywood agent who left that life at the age of 25 to pursue a life she could be passionate about. In the 10+ years since then, she has become a life coach, a speaker, an author and a retreat leader. She helps women and men around the world uncover self-acceptance, find their passions and make an impact in the world. In addition to her latest best-selling book, Christine has appeared on The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, PBS and regularly contributes to The Huffington Post and Cosmo. On this episode, we talk about topics like what her divorce taught her about honoring herself and her own path, and what proactively surrendering means to her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 17, 2016
Episode 112: On Race, Privilege, and What We Can Do, with Kelly Diels
http://yourkickasslife.com/podcast/112 Today I’m going to talk about something I’ve never talked about before: racism. So, why this topic? I'm passionate about a lot of different important matters-- media literacy, the oversexualization of girls and women, recovery, sex trafficking, Autism awareness, LGBTQ rights, but the reason I'm talking about this now is because I think there's a lot of people who might relate to my experience and learn from this conversation. Also, what dawned on me is that if I’m passionate about female equality, if I want things like equal pay and the same rights for women as we have for me….isn’t this the same thing? Equality for all people, not just equality for women. So, maybe, selfishly, I’m here talking about this as a way of apologizing for my own ignorance. Maybe it’s a way for me to process the feelings around it. And for the record, I know that equal rights for people of color matter more than white people's feelings. I know that. But, I think for people who may be just “waking up” here, I needed to at least mention it. At any rate, I thought it would be helpful to do it all out loud and basically, I have some intentions for this episode: 1. To talk about my journey as a white person in America and how for me...coming to terms with my own racism, how I've unknowingly contributed and what I'm doing, feeling and thinking now. 2. Walk my talk in that to create change, we need to have these tough, uncomfortable conversations. I'm open to talk about a lot of hard topics, but this one has been probably the most uncomfortable yet. 3. To encourage you to get honest with yourself. I promise I'll be 100% honest in this episode and can 100% guarantee I'll want to throw up. Because at the end of the day, this podcast is about living your kick-ass life, it’s about you gaining the skills to have conversations about tough things that no one wants to talk about. Typically, no one wants to talk about vulnerability, shame, and fear and I ask you regularly to talk about those. I teach classes on how to do this. And this is what this podcast episode is about. Me having one of those hard conversations and inviting you to do the same. I don't expect you to go out and join a black lives matter chapter, or speak out publicly about this if you're scared (but if you want to, GO DO IT). Today is about talking about something that needs to be talked about. Again, I am really uncomfortable having this conversation. I’m afraid. Afraid of saying the wrong things. As someone who’s so new to this conversation, there’s a good chance I’ll get it wrong. I’m afraid people will say, “Please don’t. Please go back to just regular personal development stuff and save this topic for ‘real activists’” However...I feel called to do this. I was never called to appease the critics. I was never called to make everyone comfortable. I was called to create space and permission to talk about things that matter. To talk about the stuff no one w
Wed, August 10, 2016
Episode 111: Why your fear story is so important
I’m terrified of zombies. I’m extra mad that they’ve become trendy lately and I have to see their dead asses all over the place like it’s funny or something. Well, let me tell you: it’s not. Just typing these words has made the hair stand up on the back of my neck, they effing scare the shit out of me. http://yourkickasslife.com/111 But, that’s not the type of fear I’m talking about today. I just thought you should be aware how much I hate zombies. Moving on… The kind of fear I’m talking about is the kind of fear that stops you from living your own kick-ass life, more specifically stepping out of your comfort zone. Going after your dream job, moving out of your home town, setting boundaries, having uncomfortable (but necessary) conversations, dating, leaving your spouse, whatever the thing is that you want badly to do, but don’t do it. You procrastinate, self sabotage , convince yourself it’s better to stay where you are, and buy into your bullshit excuses. And I used to do it too. I used to think that courage and confidence was for “the lucky ones”. They were born that way, they had some kind of special DNA or superpower that I didn’t have. So, I played small. And then my life fell apart and for the first time ever in my life I said, “Fuck. This. Shit”. My life falling apart created an entry point for me to start something. All my fears were brought to the surface like one big giant zombie attack. Some of my worst fears had actually come true. And it was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. Because I was still standing (barely, but I was). Read the rest HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 03, 2016
Episode 110: Making peace with our mothers, with Karen Anderson
http://yourkickasslife.com/podcast/110 Welcome to episode 110 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today’s topic is one we can all relate to: mothers. Our guest, Karen Anderson, is an author and mentor who helps women who struggle with or are estranged from their mothers. Through her coaching, mentorship and Emotional Freedom Technique practice, she helps them overcome dysfunctional generational patterns and go on to live truly, happy, fulfilled lives. Karen is a master-certified life coach through The Life Coach School and is the also the author of The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide to Separating From a Difficult Mother. On this episode, Karen shares her personal journey with her mother, and how that led her on a courageous inner personal journey from victimhood to conscious awareness and healing. She explains how you can talk about your own story without becoming a victim, and why it’s important to take ownership of your thoughts and beliefs around any experience in your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 27, 2016
Episode 109: Letting It Go and Being Vulnerable Through Journaling, with Katie Dalebout
http://yourkickasslife.com/109 Welcome to episode 109 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! As always I’m so glad you are here and so excited to bring you today’s guest of honor: Ms. Katie Dalebout. Katie creates videos, workshops, coaching programs and other offerings to inspire women’s wisdom. She does so because she believes every woman deserves happiness and to find their unique version of a holistic wonderland. As the host of her podcast, Wellness Wonderland Radio, she has interviewed people like Joe Cross, Gabrielle Bernstein and Tara Stiles. She’s also been featured in Teen Vogue, Yahoo! Health, and The Daily Mail and contributes to Refinery 29 and Mindbodygreen. Today we talk about the creation of her first book titled Let It Out. Katie spent an entire summer being outside and journaling while battling an eating disorder. Despite being surrounded by support and loved ones, she found her journal to be the most validating place where she could be seen and be vulnerable, while also being unfiltered. It was a powerful tool for her to reclaim her own intuition as well as acceptance and love for herself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 20, 2016
Episode 108: 7 Reasons Why Your Relationships Might Be Failing
This episode has a worksheet! Once you grab it, you’ll also see a special video from me where I walk you through the worksheet and give you extra resources. This can be a tough, multi-layered topic for many of you and I wanted to create as much support as possible. See you there! http://yourkickasslife.com/108 I would like to preface this post by saying that I have fallen into every single one of these. It wasn’t until I fell on my face for the last time , drew a line in the sand and said, “No more!” was I able to see my patterns, learn to love myself before I entered a relationship, and I was able to experience a loving, healthy relationship. So, in no particular order, here they are: 1. You’re so desperate for love, you’ll take it any way it’s served up. All of us want the same thing: to love and to be loved. And for some people there comes a point when we are not feeling loved enough so we’ll take any relationship over being single. Whether it’s tolerating abuse, infidelity, disrespect, or boundary violations. Perhaps in your gut you know it’s wrong to stay, but in your mind the pain of leaving is worse. “The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving.” -Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love This one could be its own post, but I will say this: If you know in your gut the relationship is not well, there is your answer. Period. And maybe it’s not time for you to walk away, but if nothing else, it’s a time for you to have a conversation with your partner that things need to change. And if they won’t work on it, there’s your answer. And P.S….love yourself first. Staying in an unhealthy relationship for the sake of feeling loved will always end in massive disappointment. Read the rest HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 13, 2016
Episode 107: Creating True Frientimacy, with Shasta Nelson
http://yourkickasslife.com/podcast/107 Welcome to episode 107 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! The conversation you’ll hear on today’s show is so important; it’s about friendships, and how to develop the intimacy and BFFs you really want. And there is no one better qualified to speak to this than Shasta Nelson. Shasta is the founder of GirlfriendsCircle.com, a woman's friendship matching site for women across the US and Canada. She also has authored two books on the subject of friendship, Friendships Don’t Just Happen and Frientimacy . Plus she writes regularly for The Huffington Post and has appeared on Katie Couric and The Today Show . Today we talk about the importance friendship plays in enriching our lives, changing us and keeping us healthy. Shasta also explains how to develop intimacy and when to know a friendship is ready to develop deeper intimacy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 06, 2016
106: What if you haven't found "your thing" yet?
http://yourkickasslife.com/106 Recently this topic has come across my radar. I’ve been thinking a lot about “your thing” and not the “thing” that refers to a man’s penis (although that would be a funnier post than this), but “your thing” in reference to your life purpose, your greatest passion, that thing you were put on this earth to do. (Let me just start by saying- fucking fantastic. Let’s add another enormous pressure to the never-ending list for women.) Sarcasm aside, let’s look at this for a moment. I’ve always thought it was crazy to ask 16 or 17 year-old kids to pick a college major. To actually pick something they want to do as a career. Forever. When I was 17, all I wanted to do was pick the right body suit to wear (remember those, early 90’s?), let alone what I wanted to study for 4 years, then do as a career. I envied my peers that did know and felt bad about myself that I did not. Clearly there was something wrong with me and I was a flake. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 29, 2016
Episode 105: Live More with Sarah Jenks
http://yourkickasslife.com/podcast/105 Welcome to episode 105 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! This week I’ve got another fabulous guest to bring to you - Ms. Sarah Jenks. Sarah is the creator and founder of Live More Weigh Less, a movement born from her personal experiences and struggles with weight loss and body image. As a full-figured woman who had struggled with her weight for years, Sarah one day realized she was waiting on the weight before pursuing a life she loved. So she let go of her weight loss fixation and instead went after the great job, the great wardrobe or the amazing relationship. On today’s show Sarah explains how doing so helped her lose weight without dieting, led her to quit her advertising job, go to nutrition school and start Live More Weigh Less. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 22, 2016
Episode 104: you aren't doing life wrong
A few weeks ago I hosted the 7-Day Courage Challenge, where hundreds of women come together. I open up a Facebook group and these brave women come in and share their answers to daily challenges and questions I send them. One challenger posted this in the group, and I felt inclined to write about it... “The thing that I beat myself up over is the fact that I can't seem to get any of it right! I feel dumb saying that, I live a relatively nice life it's not like I'm alone and destitute or anything. I just feel like I've always been capable of so much more and somehow am too defective to make it work. I screwed up college so bad I never graduated. I've had opportunities pass me by because I either 1) start and never finish or 2) don't bother because I know I'll f*** it up. Now here I am staring 40 in the face and what am I? Like, shouldn't I know by now? I get in my head and make great plans and goals and dreams and I just can't get out of my own way to make it work. I don't think I'm doing life right.” -Sara First of all-- define “doing life right”. When I hear this term, it’s a big giant fucking red flag that screams one word: Perfect. Personally, I don’t know anyone who’s perfect (and I know a lot of really, really awesome people), and I don’t want to know anyone who’s perfect. I wouldn’t trust that person for shit. On the other side of that same coin, if I had to guess, I’d bet you have super high expectations of yourself. You thought you would be at x, y, and z when you turned 40 and you’re not there. Or, you’re comparing yourself to other people that are your age, or even strangers you make up have better lives than you do. My friend Christine calls this an expectation hangover , when we expect things will be a certain way, and they turn out different. So, check yourself. What is “so much more” that you speak of? Write it out. I’m all for you having goals to achieve your version of “success”, but watch out if that version of success is for you, or if it’s expectations that you think matter to make you “worthy” and loved more by others, or if it’s the expectations others have put on you. Read the rest HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, June 16, 2016
Episode 103.5: Action steps to take regarding recent tragedies
Just an FYI- along with reading, you can listen to this post as well. Simply click the “play” button. In 2008 I had a mentor tell me, “When your blog starts to grow in popularity, stay away from topics revolving around politics, religion, and race. It’s too risky, and one wrong move can ruin your reputation.” She was trying to protect me. Helping me “stay on course” and only talk about personal development. However. For me to go on pretending like nothing is happening, to say nothing at all is unacceptable. How can I tell you to stand up for what you believe in, practice courage, and follow your intuition if I’m not practicing it myself whenever possible? So, here we go... Two major things have happened recently. Let me start with the most recent. Although I highly doubt you haven’t heard, but just in case-- this past Saturday a man shot and killed 49 people and injured at least 53 in a popular gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida. This is heartbreaking. And infuriating. And scary. If you’re like me, you’ve been thinking about the victim’s families. And like me, you probably can’t help but think about your own family. I think about my children, how I worry about them going to school, and when they get older going to the movies, out dancing, and to places where they normally should feel safe and be safe. Many of us no longer feel safe anymore. Read the rest HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 15, 2016
Episode 103: Stop Holding Yourself Back with Jen Louden
Welcome to episode 103 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! As always I am delighted to bring you today’s guest, Jen Louden. Jen has been a consultant and a teacher for over two decades, and one of the areas she focuses on is helping women to not hold back. When I asked what she means by that she explains not holding back means life is living us. Typically we are the ones who get in our own way and she helps women to stop doing that, and to stop holding back. Jen and I also talk about the role creativity plays in keeping us alive and “juicy”! Jen says we are all creators, whether it’s a meal we make, flowers we arrange, or the lives we build. And because of that we must remind ourselves over and over again we are the ones who can and do make things happen. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 08, 2016
Episode 102: Q&A on divorce
Hi ass kickers! Today I combine a solo episode and a listener question, plus some input from my good friend and colleague Kate Anthony. Here’s the question I received from Nikki, a member of the YKAL community: I would really like for Andrea to talk about life after divorce on the podcast. I know it is a really heavy topic, but Andrea is literally a picture to me of where I want to end up. I love that she is able to laugh with such joy, and I love that she managed to build a family and a beautiful business afterwards, so I think if she could help us dip our toes into what one should do at the different stages post divorce, in terms of your self talk and ownership etc. Andrea touches on all these topics, but I would love a pod specifically addressing divorce. Also a related topic, forgiveness, (whether or not it relates to divorce). Forgiveness, what it means and what it doesn't mean. Niki Evangelia Elizabeth __________________________________________________________ I got this question and thought it would be great to answer on the podcast because most-- if not all of us-- have been broken hearted. And it’s easy for me to quickly tell my story and tell you all that I’m so much better now, but you’re missing a big part of it-- HOW I did and continue to do so today. In this episode I talk about how I’ve come to the conclusion that sometimes we’re never fully “over it” or “healed”. And once we accept that, is when we can start to feel better, forgive, trust again, and move on. And to be really honest, I feel like I have scar tissue on my heart. Like I’m about 90 percent healed. And that feels like a lot and and it feels like enough. But, getting remarried didn’t heal me. Moving out of the city I used to live in didn’t heal me. Having children didn’t heal me. Having a successful business didn’t heal me. Time didn’t heal me. What healed me is surrendering to the process of grief, loss, longing, nostalgia, disappointment, and accepting the fact that the dream I had was dead. And honoring it. Listen to the episode where I go into much more detail about that. About halfway through the episode, I bring my friend Kate on. When my husband and I divorced, we had no children together, so I didn’t have to see him anymore. I didn’t have the agony of co-parenting, or anxiety of him getting remarried and having a stepparent in the picture. So, I asked Kate a few questions on how she has coped with her divorce, having had a child with her ex-husband. After Kate briefly tells her story, I ask her: What have you done to heal? How did you feel when he got remarried? Are you still heartbroken? If so, how do you deal with it? How have you dealt with forgiveness and what does it look like to you? I hope you give it a listen! Even if you’ve never been married, or you’re long divorced, I’m sure you’ll find some take-aways you
Wed, June 01, 2016
Episode 101: How to Own Your Gifts as a Woman with Cherie Healey
Welcome to episode 101 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today’s guest is an old friend of mine, a truly insightful, wise and amazing woman named Cherie Healey. As a board-certified coach she works with women to help them get what they want so they can change the world. She is also the founder of Tapped In Leader, One Woman Effect and the Bring It Group. Cherie calls herself a possibilitarian and on this episode she explains what that is exactly! Also on this episode we talk about how she became the leader she is today, why teaching your knowledge is the final stage of learning and why that teaching stage is so critical to your overall development and fulfillment in life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 25, 2016
Episode 100: "What If I See My Inner-Critic As My Motivator?"
As you may know, a foundational piece of the work I do with women is working on managing their inner-critics. Creating a new way of speaking to themselves that is kind and compassionate instead of beating themselves up. And every once in a while, I get this question “What if I see my inner-critic as my motivator? The voice that pushes me to be better in all aspects in my life?” And your thoughts might look like this: “Oh, Janice lost 30 pounds recently. If she can do it I can lose 40.” “I really was an idiot and screwed up that work project. I’ll stay late and come in early for the next month, and do a WAAAY better job next time” "You know your husband is an ass-man. Amp up the squats, Ms. Flat Ass" Basically, your inner-critic is comparing you to others-- saying you can do better, pushing you to do better based on you falling short or failing, and really just using any “shortcomings” to try and make you a better person. (You know where this is going, right?) People, let’s just be honest here. Your inner-critic is being an asshole by doing this. Does this ever feel good? Unless you’re a masochist (which, to each his own. Seriously.) this isn’t good for you. You know what always works and wins? Love. Kindness. Compassion. Courage. Giving yourself the internal beat-down might change your behavior on a dime, but I can assure you it’s for the short-term, ends up making you feel like shit, and diminishes self-confidence. So, no. The answer is no to “can my inner-critic be my motivator”. Your inner-critic is the voice that is sending messages from beliefs you have about yourself. Beliefs that we ALL have that don’t serve us. Beliefs like: I’m not good enough Everyone else has it figured out but me I’m a fraud and soon everyone will know I don’t deserve a healthy relationship And on and on. It’s like our inner-critic’s job to remind us of those beliefs on a regular basis as well as point out evidence that it’s true. See? You screwed up at work again. Looooser. See? Another fight. You’re doomed to be alone. See? Those pants are tight. You’re enormous. Y’all. It doesn’t have to be this way. No one beats themselves up into happiness, success, being in shape, or a kick-ass life. The solution is to start small. First, recognize the bastard. Hear it and see it. This isn’t a fun exercise, but awareness is half the battle. If you don’t know what is there and when it happens, you’ll just go on listening and believing all the bullshit. Second, slowly work on changing your thoughts and beliefs. Over and over again. Or, believe the a-hole and feel like shit. Your choice. I’m being really forthright here because I’ve seen this one thing change people’s mother-loving lives. Mine included. And if you want free and amazing support h
Wed, May 18, 2016
Episode 99: How to Live a Succulent, Wild Life with SARK
Welcome to episode 99 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! You are in for a very special treat - Susan Ariel Rainbow Kennedy (or SARK-- isn’t that the best name EVER!? ) is here with us. She’s like the big sister you always wished you would’ve had and she’s bringing her big sister wisdom and guidance to this episode! SARK has known since she was a little girl that her purpose is to transform and uplift others and she does that with her books, her products, programs, her art and through speaking. She is a best-selling author who has been acknowledged and celebrated by such notable thought leaders as Dr. Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson and Maya Angelou.You know...no big deal. On this episode, SARK and I talk about how to feel multiple feelings at the same time and how to navigate them all, how to care for your feelings (including a 5 second technique to doing so) and the role curiosity can play in helping us solve many of our issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 11, 2016
Episode 98: 3 Steps to Take When You Have a "Gremlin Attack"
Let’s get one thing out of the way: I talk about the inner-critic a lot. I do it because I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this beast— the voice in your head that keeps you small— has the capacity to be the ONE thing that prevents you from living your most kick-ass life. And when it’s uncovered, managed, and transformed...everything changes. This post is about a real-life situation that happened to me a few years ago, and how I’m dealt with my own inner-critic. I'll also weave in a couple of examples that might happen in your life... A couple of years ago I wrote a book. I got a book deal, the book went out to the world and in its first 14 months of publication sold over 10,000 copies. And I totally freaked out. It wasn’t an “OMG-this-is-so-amazing!” kind of freak out. It was a “I’m-so-incredibly-uncomfortable-with-all-this-success-and-attention-I-can’t-be-a-functioning-human-being-ever-again” kind of freak out. I soldiered on through the book promotion and hid out for about 4 months when it was over. Then I went head first into working on my own shit because what happened during that time was a HUGE indicator that work needed to be done. Then about a year ago the call came from my literary agent. He and my publisher are ready for me to write a second book. He asked for an outline and I told him I would have it emailed over by the end of May. May 30th came and went and I hadn't started. I procrastinated like it was my JOB. I’m was ready to write the book except OMG THAT’S SCARY! Why so scary, you ask? Because here’s what my inner-critic says to me the minute my agent tells me they are ready for book #2 and they want an outline: "What, I think I’m an author now?" "This one needs to be better than the first" "My new idea isn't good enough" "They're going to pass on it or make me change it" And when I dig really deep and ask myself what I’m really afraid of-- it’s failure a little bit, yes. But what scares me the most…is success. It’s the big message of “Who do you think you are?” I’m no stranger to this question. I’ve been hearing it and working on it (over and over) since I started my business nearly six years ago. Well, to be honest, most of my adult life. And as I’ve been going through it again and working through it, I knew I needed to tell you— my dear ass-kickers—what the steps are exactly to make my way through it and carry on. So, here they are: Before I jump in-- this doesn't have to be directly related to doing and accomplishing big goals. Maybe you want to speak up in a meeting, ask someone out, initiate sex with your par
Wed, May 04, 2016
Episode 97: How to do life when you're a sensitive person with Hannah Marcotti
Welcome to episode 97 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Thank you for being here and for listening to my chat with the lovely and talented Hannah Marcotti. Hannah is a coach for highly sensitive people (are you one too?); she herself is also a highly sensitive person. On this episode Hannah talks about some of the telltale signs that you or a loved one are highly sensitive, such as only being able to wear certain clothes because they feel right and nothing else does or not being able to tolerate loud, crowded places, etc. She also shares why it's so helpful to know this about yourself and appreciate the gift that high sensitivity offers you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 27, 2016
Episode 96: On failing and why Rob Bell now thinks I'm crazy
Usually when I record a solo podcast episode, you get to read the whole thing here in a handy-dandy blog post. However, this lesson/episode has a story attached that is so...I don’t even know how to describe it...painful/excruciating/funny/embarrassing, to type it up won’t do it justice. You’ll just have to listen. In it, I’m sharing with you times I’ve done something vulnerable and fallen on my face. Stories where it didn’t work out. And how I got back up again and moved on. I start with the story of me going to see Rob Bell speak last week in Durham and I made a complete asshat of myself, not once, not twice, but three times in one day. The second one wasn’t quite that bad, but the third one was so bad if you’re that person who has trouble watching excruciating moments during reality shows, (like me) this will make you uncomfortable. This picture of me with crazy eyes and Rob Bell was taken about 10 minutes before that third thing happened… I actually had a different episode planned for today, but this thing happened and I decided to share it for three reasons: When it happened, I swore to myself I would NOT share it with listeners b/c it was so humiliating. When I think something like that, I know it’s hit an edge with me and it’s something for me to think about, work through, and then share with you. Everyone has these moments. I teach courage and kickassery-- if I can’t tell you my failures and how I get back up, what good is it? I told the story to Amy (my BFF) and she laughed to hard she had tears streaming down her face. So, hopefully you can both cringe and laugh with me. Trust me when I tell you I wasn’t laughing when it happened, but I laughed when I told her later. Read the rest HERE Resources mentioned in this podcast: How to Handle Your Inner-Mean Girl blog post and podcast episode Dr. Martha Atkins podcast episode on death, dying, and grie f Rob Bell’s website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 20, 2016
Episode 95: On Death, Dying, and Grief with Dr. Martha Atkins
Welcome to episode 95 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast. This episode is a first for the show: we are talking about death, dying and grief. You might be thinking, “Yeah, no thanks!” And yes, these are things we’ve never covered before but a topic that is incredibly powerful and necessary. Seriously, ass kickers, this was one of my favorite conversations on the YKAL podcast! Dr. Martha Atkins joins us to share her wisdom on this topic. Dr. Martha is the CEO of her own company, holds a PhD in counseling education and is also a published author on the topic of grief, death and dying. Even if you’ve never lost a close friend or family member you’ve still been touched by loss. When a relationship ends, a friendship changes or a job doesn’t pan out the way you had hoped, there is loss and with loss comes grief. On this episode Dr. Martha shares her personal stories of loss and grief, and what led her to do this work. Episode 95 is a powerful conversation guaranteed to touch you and provide insights on the grief cycle; the insights you hear today will help you the next time you’re faced with any kind of loss. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 13, 2016
Episode 94: Listener Q&A
Hi ass kickers! Welcome to our first edition of Listener Q & A. You sent me your questions, and I’ve answered them on the podcast. If you’re not familiar with the podcast, simply click the pink player button above to listen, or you can find the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast on iTunes (Apple devices) or Stitcher (Android). I answered three questions on everything from relationships, to the inner-critic, to setting boundaries. And more! I hope you enjoy listening! At minute 3:51... My question is, how do I deal with in-laws that I don't trust? My in-laws live several hundred miles away, so I only see them 3-4 times a year. But, whenever I have to see or talk to them, I feel very anxious, tense and guarded. My experience with them has shown that whatever I say or do is closely scrutinized. I have to defend everything I say or do when I'm with them. As a result, I reveal as little of myself as I can. I feel like I'm hiding behind a shield of fabricated blandness. It feels gross and exhausting. I don't trust that they love me unconditionally and I don't trust they have my back. How do I maintain this relationship without all the anxiety and in-authentic posturing? I don't feel safe to let my guard down, but I hate the way this relationship feels and the stress it causes me. -Sara I have three juicy questions for Sara to think about, hopefully that will help her think some about the situation from new perspectives. I let her know she may have unrealistic expectations of this relationship and direct her also to another podcast I did with Christine Hassler , author or Expectation Hangover. If anyone has had disappointing relationships, give that episode a listen! Even if you don’t have the same situation with in-laws that Sara does, you probably have that person in your life where you have the choice to have a conversation with them about something that is unsaid. ___________________________________________________________________ Read the rest HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 06, 2016
Episode 93: How to Have Healthy Relationships with Rachel DeAlto
Welcome to episode 93 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast. Today my new friend from Soul Camp is here to talk about love and relationships. Rachel DeAlto is a certified coach from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching (IPEC) certified coach and a certified hypnotherapist from the International Association Of Counselors & Therapists (IACT). She’s been featured on The Today Show, Good Morning America, CNN/HLN, The Steve Harvey Show, Fox News, Cosmopolitan, and Glamour, among others. If that wasn’t enough she’s also given two TEDx talks: one on the Power of Kindness and another on Killing Fear! On this episode Rachel shares her perspective on what makes a healthy relationship, what self-love means and how she practices it, plus how to heal a broken heart no matter what stage of grief you are in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 30, 2016
Episode 92: How to handle your inner mean girl
Why do I talk about the inner-critic so much? This is the thing that gets in the way of us showing up fully, of having those tough conversations that allow us to get what we want and to stand up for ourselves. This is the voice that asks us “What will people think” that drives us to perfectionism, people pleasing, and trying to control everything. This is the voice that makes us feel like shit so that we lash out and blame. And a lot of times this is the voice of shame. Old childhood stuff that sticks with us and haunts us. So when we don’t know this is happening, it rules our life and nothing changes. That’s why I’m hellbent on teaching you all to manage that voice. Truth: I still have an inner-mean girl. It’s the voice in my head that tells me I’m not good enough, I’m not doing it right, I am most definitely falling short, and asks, “Who do you think you are?” when I go after what I want. Over the years I’ve worked and worked on her. I’ve embraced the little girl in her that is hurting and afriad. I’ve hated her, I’ve had compassion for her (btw- having compassion for her feels waaay better) . I’ve listened to her, I’ve pushed her aside. And I’ve noticed over the years she gets bent out of shape for different things, depending on what season of life I’m in. And of course, over the last few years, she’s been all up in my face about a very important role in my life:MOTHERHOOD. And maybe your inner mean girl gets chatty around your body, your work, your relationships, your role as a daughter, friend, whatever. But, for the sake of this post, I’ll be giving you the example of motherhood. read the rest HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 23, 2016
Episode 91: Turning your inner-critic into your inner-coach with Patricia Moreno
Welcome to episode 91 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast. Even if you’ve listened to this show only a few times you know affirmations are not my thing. But a class I took at Soul Camp showed me affirmations can be incredibly powerful when combined with physical movement (who knew?!). Our guest for today’s show, Patricia Moreno, was the teacher of that class. Patricia has found a way to combine affirmations with yoga, martial arts, and dance: it’s called the IntenSati method. After being with her at Soul Camp and simply falling in love with her I had to have her on the show. In addition to teaching at Soul Camp, Patricia and the IntenSati method have also been featured on The Today Show , The New York Times , Oprah Magazine and The Wall Street Journal , among other places. She is an award-winning fitness expert, a mindset specialist and a New Age thought leader. On this episode we talk about what IntenSati is, how her upbringing led her to create it and how she’s fulfilling her mission to help others live the life they love in a body they love by spreading the IntenSati method worldwide. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 16, 2016
Episode 90: What no one tells you about life
Originally I had titled this post, ‘What no one tells you about getting sober”, but really it’s what no one tells you about life. In early 2011 I knew I needed to get sober. It’s a longer story, one you can read about here , but a couple months into my recovery, I realized I was going to have to face something that I had never done before: Face my feelings sober. And it’s no shock that many people that get sober from drugs and/or alcohol, turn to another “drug”: shopping, relationships, exercise, food, over-achieving, busyness, Internet, you-name-it. Whatever they can get their hands on to numb out with. Why? My guess is that they get sober and feelings come up. They don’t drink anymore, so they have to turn to something else to cope and numb. We live in a culture that doesn’t teach us how to feel our feelings. There’s no class in school for it, and many families don’t talk openly about it. And even if we kind of know what to do with our feelings, rarely are we encouraged to do so. The generations before us were mostly emotionally illiterate– meaning vulnerability (which is what encouraging the expression of feelings is) is simply not fostered. Personally, I grew up in a house with a metric shit-ton of love, but when it came to vulnerability– Nope. So in 2011 when I found myself sober, the irony was almost funny: When drinking I had my days feeling like I would crawl out of my skin if I didn’t have a drink (or 5), and then when I got sober, I felt like I had crawled out of my skin– like I was this raw person walking around bumping into everything. Emily McCombs says so eloquently about this stage: “Snorting coke is not hardcore. Walking around feeling whatever fucked-up shit you feel, without escape, 24/7, is fucking hardcore.” And yes, it’s fucking hardcore. Read the rest HERE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 09, 2016
Episode 89: Choosing Self-Love, with Christine Arylo
Welcome to episode 89 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast. I am always excited to share our guest with you and today is no exception. The powerhouse woman joining us is an inspirational catalyst, best-selling author and is widely known as the Queen of Self-Love: Ms. Christine Arylo. Christine is here to talk about her passionate mission to create a new reality for women and girls: one of self-love and true feminine power. Her teachings have been shared far and wide through such mediums as ABC, FOX, CBS, WGN, Huffington Post and more (including TedX!). On this episode we explore exactly what self-love is and what it’s not, why and how she began this journey in the first place, and also how to embrace the choice and the practice of self-love in your daily life. We also talk about cheese. Seriously. But, just for a minute. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 02, 2016
Episode 88: Newsflash: Life isn't perfect
If you’ve been on the Internet at all the past few years, you’ve surely seen a rise in personal empowerment. Which makes someone like me ecstatic, because I love that more and more people are working on themselves, not to mention this is how I make my living. However, like many trends out there, I see an unintended downside. Here’s what it looks like: People start reading self-help, attend a workshop, or hire a 1:1 coach to help them live their best life. And they walk into these endeavors with the end goal that sounds like this: “I want to wake up every morning, jump out of bed and love the shit out of my life. I won’t let anything or anyone get me down. Good vibes only!” #blessed When I see leaders in the industry making these promises for people, I cringe. Surely people understand this isn’t an everyday thing, right? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 24, 2016
Episode 87: Finding work/life balance with Dr. Jaime Kaluga
Welcome to episode 87 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast. I’m super happy you’re here for this show because today’s guest is an expert on a topic I get asked about all the time: work-life balance! Dr. Jaime Kaluga is a licensed mental health counselor and a certified professional coach. She is an author whose work has appeared in issues of Glamour , Self and many other nationally-recognized publications. She is also an inspirational speaker and a woman on a mission! She has dedicated her life to helping women find balance and fulfillment in their lives. During our conversation we talk about what work-life balance actually means, how perfectionism stops us from achieving that balance, and how emotions throw us off balance and what to do about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 17, 2016
Episode 86: The grass isn't greener, you just need to deal with your shit
Preface: for the sake of this post and my point, I’m going to be very generalized here. I understand not all people and relationships are like this. I understand you may be the exception, but please bear with me... I, in no way, shape, or form consider myself a relationship expert. That’s not specifically what I help women with, so I don’t typically write or talk about it. I do have lots of experience in relationships-- both failed and successful ones (okay, one successful relationship). And having lots of failed relationships and then a successful one, I can tell you the key to making that shift: Looking at my own shit, dealing with it, healing it, and repeating that process over and over. What I see many women do (my former self included) is this: You’re in a relationship and you’re not happy. It doesn’t matter what the specific problem is. You break up with or divorce your partner. You find a new partner, everything is great for a few months. Then things go to shit. You can’t figure out what’s wrong with the guys you pick. It’s the “same shit, different guy” syndrome. The common denominator in all the failed relationships is you. Along with your beautiful self, you’re bringing all the unresolved issues from your childhood and past relationships. All your insecurities and pain. We all have it, none of us are exempt. But also, we all have the opportunity to look at it, own what’s ours and not our partners, work on healing it so we can be better humans to the people we care about. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 10, 2016
Episode 85: Stand up for yourself without being a dick, with Amy E. Smith
Hey Ass-kickers! Welcome to episode 85 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast. Returning veteran of the show, my best friend and yours, Amy E. Smith is here to talk about the all-important art of standing up for yourself without being a dick! If you haven’t heard Amy before or have forgotten her background she is a certified confidence coach, podcaster, renowned speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Through all of her endeavors she helps people find their voice using her particular brand of wit, wisdom and irreverence. On today’s episode we delve into how to listen to the stories being told by your inner critic (or as Amy calls it, your inner sh*t talker), what unwanted identities are, why all of us have them and what to do about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 03, 2016
Episode 84: No one is coming to save you
I’ve heard many times as a helping professional, “How many sessions do I need with you?” or “How long will it take me to get better?” To be honest, that’s always a red-flag. When I hear these questions I know the well-meaning potential client wants me to fix them. Wants me to do some voodoo magic where I take away their pain so they can skip into the sunset and feel immune to the pain of the world. And the obvious truth is: I can’t. No one can. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 27, 2016
Episode 83: How to overcome isolation
The women that come to me for help are always very similar. They’re smart, high-achieving and if you met her, you’d think she has a great life. She’s busy and being pulled in many different directions. She feels like she blinked and turned 30...then 40...and maybe closing in on 50. She’s looked around and realized how hard she’s worked for everything she’s got, but deep down feels Lonely. Anxious. Afraid. Maybe you are her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 20, 2016
Episode 82: How to dare greatly
Hey Ass-kickers! Welcome to episode 82 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast. As always I’m thrilled you are here and honored to bring you another show. Today is something we’ve never done before: one of my clients talks about her experience completing Brenè Brown’s The Daring Way program. I wanted Jen on because for you to hear from “the average Jane”-- a woman just like you who is doing The Work and for you to be inspired from a woman who’s changed her life. Jen is woman like many of you: a working mom and a self-motivated go-getter who sets and achieves goals for herself. But she felt like something was missing; she was caught in a comparison trap and realized she had to do something about it. She sought coaching and after an initial consultation she opted to work with me. On today’s episode Jen shares the power available using The Daring Way methods and what doing so has meant for her relationship with herself and in her life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 13, 2016
Episode 81: Family constellation therapy, with Natalie Berthold
Hey Ass-kickers! Welcome to episode 81 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast. Happy new year and thank you for being here. As always I’m ecstatic to bring you this show! I don’t bring you too much woo-woo here at YKAL, but today we’re veering off into a woo-woo topic called family constellation therapy. I met our guest, Natalie Berthold, at Soul Camp last year and after being powerfully moved by her session I had to have her on the show and to share her with you! Natalie joins us to explain what family constellation therapy is and what its origins are, how she became a believer and a practitioner and how healing our relationship with our mother with this therapy can give us freedom in every other area of our lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, January 06, 2016
Episode 80: Can you handle all the joy?
I have a client, we’ll call her Stacy, who got a really difficult assignment from me recently. I asked her to sit with joy. You may be wondering why that’s so difficult. I mean, isn’t that what we all want? Isn’t that why people hire life coaches in the first place? To find and feel joy? Let me explain. The women that come to me for help are serious go-getters. They are extremely good at doing things for everyone else, but putting themselves last. They do one project and are on to the next. They set enormously high expectations of themselves which they can rarely reach (and if they do reach them, it’s at a huge cost and mostly because it matters what others think of them) if they ever reach the expectations at all. They struggle with perfectionism, people pleasing, isolating, and the need for certainty and control. And why do they act that way? They act that way because the other way of being— standing up for themselves, being imperfect, saying no, letting go of outcomes— all require being vulnerable. And being vulnerable has an unstable outcome, and possibly a painful one (like failure), so they just don’t. They do what they know to stay safe. In their minds they protect themselves. Vulnerability is just not a way of being for them. So, what does this have to do with joy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 30, 2015
Episode 79: Playing big, with Tara Mohr
Hey Ass-kickers! Welcome to episode 79 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Thank you so much for being here and joining our guest for today’s show, Tara Mohr. Tara is an expert on women’s leadership and well-being. She is the author of Playing Big and is the creator of the leadership program for women of the same name. Tara holds an MBA from Stanford and an undergraduate degree from Yale; she is a Coaches Training Institute-certified coach who helps women play bigger and share their voices in work and in life. She’s been featured in The New York Times , on the Today Show and in the Harvard Business Review . Her fans include Jillian Michael, Maria Shriver and Elizabeth Gilbert! On today’s show we talk about dealing with your inner critic, some of her 10 rules for brilliant women and how to decipher the stories we make up versus what actually happened in our lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 23, 2015
Episode 78: Radical self care, with Jamie Mendell
Welcome to episode 78 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! As always I’m excited you are here and so happy to bring you our guest: Ms. Jamie Mendell. Jamie is a health and lifestyle coach who helps women master their lives by diving deep into self-care healing, with a particular focus on food and body issues. She’s a regular contributor to Women’s Health and Huffington Post . On today’s show Jamie shares with us her decade-long struggle with food, dieting/bingeing and her weight, and how she finally made a lasting change. She talks about what self-care actually means (it’s not just manis and pedis!), the healing power of self-care, and how she got real and got vulnerable with the people in her life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 16, 2015
Episode 77: You are enough, with Megan Hale
Hey Ass-kickers! Welcome to episode 77 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today I’ve brought you yet another amazing guest, Megan Hale. Megan is a retired psychotherapist, enoughness coach and women’s leadership mentor. She advocates courageous, authentic living and helps her clients break free from limiting personal beliefs to live brave, whole lives. Megan joins us to discuss her courageous and powerful journey to being who she is today and what she’s doing, the concept of worthiness, and her 5 steps to having enough and staying enough! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 09, 2015
Episode 76: Learning to let go and healing your past
Hey Ass-kickers! Welcome to episode 76 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! I’m excited - as always - to bring you today’s guest, Terri Cole, whom I met and bunked with at Soul Camp. Terri joins us to talk about getting her PhD in fear via two life-changing experiences, and how she found freedom from that fear for herself and is sharing it with the world today. Terri is a licensed therapist, transformation coach and de facto expert on turning fear into freedom. For nearly two decades she’s worked to help celebrities, athletes and everyday people redesign their limiting beliefs to create extraordinary lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 02, 2015
Episode 75: How to surrender and relax without being a slacker, with Bex Boruki
Hey Ass-kickers! Welcome to episode 75 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today we have yet another amazing guest: Rebekah Borucki, or Bex as she likes to be called. Bex is the founder of Bex’s Life and The Blissed-In Movement; she’s also the mother of 5 kids (!), a popular YouTuber, TV host, yoga and meditation expert, Hay House author, and birth doula. This powerhouse woman is here to talk about using meditation for exploration and for self-care, how to find the joy in everything we do (even the things we dread doing) and why living authentically is such a powerful example to set for everyone in our lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 25, 2015
Episode 74: Personal responsibility vs. self-blame
Two weeks ago I posted a personal story of mine that walked you through the decade of my 20’s. What I want to talk about specifically in this post is the topic of personal responsibility. I mentioned it in that post and also wrote a more specific post about that a few weeks prior. There's a common misconception around personal responsibility and that is that taking responsibility for one's actions and mistakes equals self-blame. That in order to take responsibility, we must blame ourselves for the behaviors and actions we have taken that we're not proud of and subsequently feel like shit. Bottom line: this is not true. It doesn’t have to be black or white. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 18, 2015
Episode 73: Real relationship talk, with Dr. Eris
Hey Ass kickers! Welcome to episode 73 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! My friend, fellow life coach and therapist Dr. Eris is here with us today. Some of you may recognize her, she’s been featured with Dr. Drew, Nancy Grace, NPR, Entertainment Tonight, and she’s also a star of Bravo's LA Shrinks television show. She’s also the author of Emergency Break-up. On this edition of the show we talk about real sh*t that matters! Dr. Eris gets real about what her relationships were like before her marriage, why rock bottom is a great place to start, and how to keep the sexy in your marriage even with young kids around. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 10, 2015
Episode 72: Not wanting to deal: My story of running away and hiding
Preface: I got this email awhile back from an ass kicker: “The first podcast I heard from you, you seemed like a perky, outgoing blonde – and these are all great things, but I must admit, when looking at you, we might think “oh, she’s never been through anything. Yeah, she has great things to say, but does she know what this is like?” ….and then upon listening further, I learned your earlier life actually very much mirrors my own. It was not only comforting but also a lesson learned about first impressions.” -YKAL blog reader ************************* I’ve been sitting on this blog post/podcast episode for months now, unpublished. It’s a huge part of my story, what went on in my 20′s emotionally that led me to my big breakdown/breakthrough in 2006. I’ve hesitated to take the leap and publish it because it’s long, it’s probably the most imperfect piece of writing I’ve ever written, but mostly because every time I take a giant leap into vulnerability I still hear the voice of “OMG what will people think of you?” But, the truth is (and I know this from experience…and science) is that we all have a painful story. And the more we abandon it and keep it locked up the more painful it is and it helps no one. And really, that’s just shitty. What I know for sure is that we can’t bury our stories alive and expect them to die. They don’t. Trust me, I’ve tried. I feel lucky to get to share my stories here. Sometimes scared, but still lucky. Thank you for allowing me to do so. ********************* Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 04, 2015
Episode 71: How to be a bad-ass, with Jen Sincero
Hey Ass kickers! Welcome to episode 71 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Our amazing guest for this show is Jen Sincero, a New York Times best-selling author, renowned speaker and success coach. From helping people find their soulmate to negotiating million dollar deals to writing best-selling books of their own, she’s helped people around the world transform their personal and professional lives. On today’s edition we talk about the power of surrender, why creativity isn’t limited to just art, and powerful exercises to get clear on who you are and why you’re here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 28, 2015
Episode 70: To those of you who don’t think you have any shame (and those who do)
Shame seems to be a buzzword these days, isn’t it? And it’s a good thing-- people talking more about the things that hold them back and keep them unhappy. But, what I see over and over again are women saying, “I get and love when you talk about the inner-critic, perfectionism, and even not feeling good enough...but I don’t get the whole ‘shame’ thing and I don’t think I actually have any”. And I get it. I think we might think of people walking around with shame that have done unthinkable things. Caught embezzling money from their church and the whole congregation knows. Caught having an affair with their psychiatrist and people are whispering around town about it. Or the kid whose mom is an alcoholic and comes drunk to the school play, things like that. But, what I’ve come to know, is that shame is much more common than we think and most of the time, shame happens in much smaller scenarios. And I hate to break it to those of you that think you’re the exception to shame, but ALL of us have it. And if we’re not facing and claiming that we have shame, processing it, and learning how to move through it, then shame is owning us and we’re in a constant state of running from it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 21, 2015
Episode 69: Making a scene, with Susan Hyatt
Hey Ass kickers! Welcome to episode 69 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today’s show has already become one of my personal favorites, I’m so excited to bring it to you. My long-time friend and master certified life coach Susan Hyatt is here with us! Susan has been coaching for a decade and has thousands of fans, including Dr. Martha Beck and Maria Shriver! And one of the things that has won her so many fans is the fact that she walks her talk. She’s used coaching techniques to drop 35 pounds, revitalize her marriage and uplevel her career. On today’s show we discuss a mishmash of topics including why body issues are holding women back from leading big lives, what we can do right now to make peace with our bodies and why it’s so important to take big risks! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 14, 2015
Episode 68: The freedom in personal responsibility
I was having a conversation with my friend Kate-- I’m not even sure what we were discussing and I started telling her about about how amazing it felt to finally take responsibility for my life. Let me back up… I hit my own rock bottom in early 2007. About a year prior to that my husband had left me for another woman, and I immediately got into a new relationship. This new boyfriend ended up being a drug addict and faked cancer to cover up his addiction . Our break-up was horrible. I found myself on the floor of my apartment, crying my eyes and begging The Universe to help me. Not to spoil the story-- but the Universe did show up to help me, however there was something really important I had to do first. See, the reason I found myself in two back-to-back messed up situations was because I made two very big mistakes in my life: 1) I looked to other people to make me happy and 2) when it didn’t work out I blamed them. For everything. My addiction to control was so strong I had unknowingly convinced myself that if only I could make other people change, I would be happy. If they would just do and be what I said, everything would be fine. Throw in some perfectionism and avoiding feeling my feelings and I was a serious mess. But, that day when I picked myself up off the floor, I knew one thing: The only thing these situations had in common was me. My ex husband and ex boyfriend were not solely responsible for my feelings and future. Sure, what they did was lame, but I had to take total responsibility for myself. For once. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 07, 2015
Episode 67: How to find clarity and change in an instant, with Dr. Amy Johnson
Hey Ass kickers! Welcome to episode 67 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! On today’s show we’re talking with the one and only Dr. Amy Johnson. Amy is a social psychologist and master certified coach who helps people see their true default nature is wellness and clarity, even when they don’t see it themselves! Amy is also an accomplished speaker; she has been a regular guest expert on The Steve Harvey Show , and has been published often in The Wall Street Journal , SELF magazine and Oprah.com . During our talk today, Amy and I dialogue about all things brain-related! We discuss the remarkably simple way our brains work, why understanding that simplicity and following it leads to an easier life and the important role curiosity and suspicion play in examining our own stories and opening up to new ways of being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, October 01, 2015
Episode 66: Loving yourself is the new black
You know that person everyone falls in love with the second he or she walks into a room? He or she doesn’t necessarily have to be gorgeous, or start throwing cash around the room. No, this person just has “something” that draws others in. And you’d give your right arm to know what it is that is so super awesome about that person. She isn’t necessarily even charming or charismatic; she just seems to radiate something that is magnetic. I’ll save you the endless nights awake trying to figure out what it is. Truth: That person loves herself. The end. Confidence is about believing in yourself. Self-esteem is about believing in your worth. Self-love is both of those wrapped up into one, plus more. It’s like the perfect feast for your soul. And at the same time, self-love can be this mysterious, elusive thing. Ask a woman what her menstrual cycle is like or how she takes her coffee and she can tell you in great detail. But ask her about self-love and you’ll probably get a blank stare. If you’re not sure whether you love yourself, here’s a quick quiz: Do you think you’re awesome? Do you love yourself unconditionally? (In other words, do you put conditions on your self-love such as your weight, salary, relationship status, etc.?) Do you go after your goals while deep down knowing you are worthy of attaining them? If you answered “no” to any or all of these questions, we’ve got some work to do, sister! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 23, 2015
Episode 65: Healing through creativity: Why you need it, with Rachael Rice
Hey Ass kickers! Welcome to episode 65 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today we’ve got a topic I’m super excited to dive into and share with you: healing through creativity. And we have a very special guest to share her wisdom on this subject: Rachael Rice. Rachael is an artist, writer, teacher, and speaker who travels the world performing and creating non-stop like a BOSS. She believes and teaches others to express themselves, and embrace the healing that happens in the process. On today’s show we talk about why it’s so hard for us to be still (eek!), why humans are meaning-making machines (and how to deal with it) and how to redefine and understand yourself as a creative being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 16, 2015
25 Acts of Self-Love
I do my best to listen when I hear the universe speaking to me. For one, I know I was put on this earth to teach and inspire. One of those things is to teach people how to love themselves. And I’ll be honest- when I went into business for myself and followed my intuition that told me to teach about self-love, I had this belief that self-love is a hard sell. In the beginning I had this made up notion that people only wanted solutions to 3 things: How to be thin. How to find their soul mates. How to have more money. The end. Self love didn’t fit anywhere into that equation for people looking for what made them happy. Unless I was selling those three things, I was doomed as an entrepreneur. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 09, 2015
Episode 63: Common self-love myths and pitfalls, with Amy E. Smith
Welcome to episode 63 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! I’m thrilled to bring you this episode with life coach, master communicator and my very best friend, Amy E. Smith. Amy hosts a podcast called The Joy Junkie with her hubs, Mr. Smith. On the podcast and in her business Amy helps people find their voice, and stand up for themselves (without being a dick). I brought her on the show to talk about self-love: what it is and how to practice it no matter who you are or where you are in your life. We get into the common misconceptions and pitfalls about self-love, why loving yourself actually helps you change your life and why choosing self-love is a daily practice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 02, 2015
Episode 62: Why I Think “Don’t take things personally” is kinda bullshit
I may very well be pissing off the personal development Gods today, but bear with me. If you dabble in self-help at all, you’ve probably heard the advice of not taking things personally. If you’re new to this advice or need some clarification, what the message is saying is: If you take the words and actions of others personally, it’s easy to fall into the victim role, spend your life chasing approval from others, and just generally making everything about you when it isn’t. I totally get that and agree. But, here’s what I don’t like and what I take issue with. People hear this advice and look at it as being very black or white. Either we don’t take things personally at all and feel good about ourselves, or we do take things personally and live in this hellfire and brimstone world of damnation where we are victims and prey to others. Yes, that was dramatic, but sometimes self-help can be make people feel like YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 26, 2015
Episode 61: Dealing with shame even when you think you don’t have any, with Rebecca Bass-Ching
Hey Ass kickers! Welcome to episode 61 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today we’re revisiting two familiar and favorite topics: perfectionism and shame. And joining us is one of my favorite people ever - Rebecca Bass-Ching. Rebecca is a certified Daring Way™ facilitator and consultant. She’s also a licensed marriage and family therapist with her own multi-therapist practice. I had the honor of working with her as a client while also becoming certified in The Daring Way™ and I’m thrilled she’s here for this episode. On today’s show we dive right into the thick of it. We define what shaming is, draw the connection between perfectionism, vulnerability and shaming, and discuss how to develop and practice courage in our everyday lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 19, 2015
Episode 60: Why We Self Sabotage and How To Stop
Self sabotage. You know what that is, right? When you want to change really bad. And you know what needs to get done in order to change. But, instead of doing what needs to get done, you do the opposite. Or nothing at all. Here’s an example: You find out there’s a position open at work that you’re qualified for and it would be a promotion. You need to reach out to your boss to tell her you want to be considered for this.You figure...you’ll do it tomorrow. Tomorrow comes and you’ll maybe send her an email at the end of the day. Next thing you know you’ve procrastinated all week and now it’s Friday, the last day to submit your interest. So, why, why, why do we do this? I can’t tell you how many clients I’ve worked with that have had a homework assignment (that THEY have assigned to themself) and when I ask them about it later they sheepishly tell me they didn’t do it. When they had all the time and resources in the world to get it done. WHY? Temporary insanity? Time stopped? Kidnapped by aliens? Nope. It’s simply self sabotage. And maybe I shouldn’t say “simply”. Because sometimes it’s far from simple. The bottom line is that self-sabotage is that it’s a way to feel safe. It happens A LOT when people realize where they are and they don’t like it, then they see what they could have if they change. Even though they want to change, the thought of going through the action of changing is too damn scary. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 12, 2015
Episode 59: What Perfectionism and a Shit Sandwich Have In Common
In the last 5 years of YKAL, I’ve received many emails from women asking me questions...the proverbial “what is wrong with me??” (short answer- nothing.) But, they just want to stop feeling like they're feeling and start feeling better, happier, and more comfortable. We all want that, right? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 05, 2015
Episode 58: Expectation Hangover with Christine Hassler
Hey ass kickers! Ready for another episode of the YKAL podcast? I’m chatting with Christine Hassler, author of 3 books, including her latest: Expectation Hangover. Christine speaks our language, y’all! Just a bit about her background-- she graduated from college, moved to LA, got the swanky job in Hollywood rubbing elbows with a-listers (like George Clooney- hellllooo!) and she was miserable-- even to the point of trying to talk herself into liking her job. She left, and ever since has been helping people get out of their own way to make meaningful impacts in their lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 29, 2015
Episode 57: So You Say You Have No Time
Earlier this year I was having a conversation with someone about The Daring Way program which is an intense, 5 month 1:1 coaching program. During our conversation she’d said she wanted to go deep. She told me all the dreams she had for her life. She said she was ready to dive in. Then she emailed me to ask about a shorter program and that she didn’t have time for the intensive work. Then I felt my head explode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 15, 2015
Episode 56: Managing Your Inner Mean Girl in Three Steps with Amy Ahlers
Hello there ass kicker! Today’s guest on the YKAL podcast is waaaay overdue. Amy Ahlers, author of Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves is here to talk to us about all things inner mean girl! We all love formulas and processes and Amy has come up with a 3-step process for transforming your inner mean girl, which she talks about in the episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, July 01, 2015
Episode 55: Find Your Purpose and Your People with Alison and Michelle of SoulCamp
Welcome to another episode of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast. Today I’ve got my first duo: Alison and Michelle of Soul Camp! Alison is a body confidence coach with a background in communication design, nutrition and Reiki. She’s also an expert logo and brand designer for soul-centered businesses; she’s been making all the new images for this show. Michelle grew up on a nature preserve, where her mother created and ran a spiritual retreat community. She’s long been committed to living a conscious, healthy, awakened life. She and Alison have combined their talents and passions to create Soul Camp, a multi-day and multi-night event that’s like a woo-woo sleepaway camp for grown-ups! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, June 18, 2015
Episode 54: What it really takes to be a life coach in 2015, with Jo Casey
I’m very excited for a SPECIAL episode of the podcast today. I’m taking a *tiny* break from talking about all things personal development and today I’m diving in to something that so many people ask me about: The business of life coaching. My guest today is my friend Jo Casey who has a legit British accent for starters and is just amazing. Jo has been coaching for like 150 years so she really knows her stuff! Even if you’ve for one hot second thought about becoming a life coach, this episode is for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, June 03, 2015
Episode 53 - Why self-acceptance before self-improvement, with Liz DiAlto
Welcome to today’s episode of Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! We’ve got another amazing woman joining us today: Liz DiAlto of Wild Soul Movement. Liz is an author, speaker and coach; she’s been called the love child of Danielle LaPorte, Mae West and Shakira. Her mission is to get women out of their heads and back into their bodies to connect with their powerful energy and trust their intuition. I love this episode because I find it challenging to get “into my body”. And I think most of us don’t even know what that’s like! She brings her raw, feisty truth to the show today. We dive into what it means to get into our bodies, her five keys to accepting ourselves before improving ourselves and the art of receiving. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, May 13, 2015
Episode 52: How Nice People Set Boundaries, with Randi Buckley
Welcome to another episode of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! My friend Randi joins us to talk about the all-important topic of boundaries and how nice people set ‘em. Randi is THE expert of experts! She’s a life coach, hard truth-talker and creative producer of products that encourage women to step into their truth, and transform their inner and interpersonal struggles. Trust me, I KNOW boundaries are difficult and we ALL struggle with them-- whether it’s family members, co-workers, or our neighbors, we could all use some help in this area, right? On today’s show she shares with us how creating our own container of what we want in our lives sets our boundaries, what gardens have to do with boundaries and ultimately why we struggle with boundaries so much. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 29, 2015
Episode 51 - Stepping into Your Bigness, with Fabeku Fatunmise
Hey Ass kickers! Welcome to another episode of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! Today we’ve got the amazing, super-powered Fabeku Fatunmise. Fabeku is a one-of-a-kind coach who helps creative supernovas and forces of nature folks crank up their businesses and find their super powers. On today’s episode we talk about the differences when we’re being big versus when we’re being small and how to shift into big, the misconception of fearlessness (ew!) and also how to find your super power. Fabeku is like many of us: he’s dealt with perfectionism and the belief that if he wasn’t perfect, he was worthless. He says buying into this belief limits not just what we do in life, but what we believe is possible. He would know, he spent nearly three decades living as though this belief were true. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 08, 2015
Episode 49 - How to Get Rejected 100 Times and Like It, with Tiffany Han
Welcome to another episode of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast! I’m so excited for you to meet our guest for today’s show, Tiffany Han. Tiffany is a business coach who helps creative women, like bloggers, graphic designers and cubicle jailbirds, take bold and inspired action. She helps her clients say YES to big things they’ve always wanted to start and to say YES to themselves! YES YES YES! Phew…got a little excited there. On today’s episode we talk about her 100 rejection letters program, the kind of rejection you should expect when you sign up for the program, and how to set guidelines when you’re choosing an accountability partner in your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 25, 2015
Episode 48 - Leading a French-Kissed Life, with Tonya Leigh
Today we’ve got the talented and savvy Tonya Leigh. Tonya is a master-certified life coach who has spoken to global audiences. As the CEO of French Kiss Life, her company, she is on a mission to inspire women to cultivate lives of joie de vivre. After you hear my very bad attempt at French, we talk about the origins of French Kiss Life; it was born out of Tonya’s experience in Paris ten years ago. She was in the Luxembourg Gardens and noticed lovers kissing (I didn’t ask if there was lots of slobbery tongue), people were strolling about and generally enjoying their lives; all of which was in direct contrast to how she felt: overwhelmed, stressed and overwrought by everything that was wrong in her life. In that moment Tonya knew she too wanted to enjoy every day of her own life. She wanted to go after what she wanted without struggle and discomfort, instead with ease and grace and enjoyment. She came home with the mission to seek quality and make every day as beautiful as possible, and to make the journey to the dream as beautiful as the dream itself! YAHOOOO! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, March 11, 2015
Episode 47 - The Power of Your Voice, with Christina Dunbar
I’m so glad you’re here for another episode of Your Kick-Ass Life. Today we’ve got the fabulous Christina Dunbar. Christina is an actress, poet, activist and women’s leader. She offers programs for artists, entrepreneurs and wild women helping them take the stage and share their own soul story. She’s also the inspiration and creator behind her one-woman show, Dirty Me Divine. Recently Christina boldly and courageously created a Kickstarter campaign to fund her show. She says it was the most vulnerable and scary thing she’s ever done! On this episode we dive into that experience fully as well as what it means to take a stand, and why that is often difficult for women, and what steps we can take to express our unique voices. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 25, 2015
Episode 46 - Every Woman Is a Superhero
Today we’ve got another great guest and awesome show for you. She is a self-described “sensitive bad ass” who has made friends with fear and shares that friendship with you on her web site, Who is Ch!ck?. She is the one and only Kai Soremaken. Kai and I have similar stories and experiences: we were both in awful relationships, and yet we both turned our lives around. For Kai the turning point was when her ex (whom she refers to as MF, I’ll let you figure out what that stands for!) held her at knifepoint for an entire evening. With the help of a friend and Kai’s brother, she was able to get away and give herself enough space and time to rebuild her shattered self-esteem. Her MF did come back, but she had healed enough that she could say no way, and she did. But that was just the beginning of her journey. She felt incredibly angry for the next year at her ex until she had an epiphany while at the gym. Her ah-ha moment was understanding she was responsible for her life, including being in that relationship. That was it, she was done blaming him and she took the reigns of her own well-being, healing and happiness. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/046 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, February 11, 2015
Episode 45 - Knowing Your Worthiness, with Laura Probasco
Hello Ass kickers! I’m super excited for y’all to hear this episode with my friend and colleague Laura Probasco. Laura is a mega ass-kicker and she brings it on today’s show. Her background is in social work and play therapy and she’s well-schooled in Brené Brown’s teachings which is how we first connected. Laura is the founder of Probasco and Associates as well as the co-founder of The Art of Play, a play therapy training program for individuals, schools and organizations. She has taken her work around the globe interacting with people from all walks of life. On this episode we dive into topics like vulnerability hangovers, hotwiring emotional connections, and the link between isolation and perfectionism. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/045 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, January 27, 2015
Episode 44 - How to Live a Courageous Life, with Kate Courageous
Today we’ve got another great episode for you with my long-time friend and super awesome all-around woman, Kate Courageous. Kate is a coach, writer and speaker who teaches people about working with fear, how to practice with courage in the face of fear. I brought Kate on because this topic is ever-present for most of us and something I continue to be committed to working on in my own life, and sharing that journey with all of you. Too often we think we’re being courageous by doing everything on our own and “handling” our problems by ourselves because we don’t want to bother or burden others. This is you, right? Thought so! Although Kate now teaches that these are just voices in our heads, and we must do what’s contrary to them in order to grow. Kate teaches, and I concur, that it’s when we ask for others’ support that we are most courageous. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/044 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 08, 2015
Episode 43 - Sexpot With Stretch Marks (+ Book Giveaway!)
Today I’ve got a truly kick ass and awesome show for you with my feisty friend Jenny Perry, author of Sexpot with Stretch Marks . Not only is she an amazing writer, she’s also a vivacious mother of 5 on the Jersey shore. On episode 43 we talk about what it means to be fulfilled versus happy, the power of your attention and why you should become your own BFF. On the topic of fulfillment versus happiness, Jenny and I both agree they are two different states. Happiness is a fleeting emotion, often based on something external (looks, income, achievements, etc) or some sort of criteria we’ve created for ourselves. But fulfillment is a state of mind, something you feel deep in your soul and a space you can be in no matter what is happening around you. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/043 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 22, 2014
Episode 42 - The Secret Sauce to Being a Boss
Thank you for joining us for episode 42. Today Matt Cooke chats with us about his secret sauce to being a boss! And that happens by unleashing the unconscious mind through meditation, failure and external environment (I thought it might be lots of mic dropping, but no). One of the things I love most about Matt is that he is very “woo” without being woo; he’s practical and gives us tips we can use today to be even better ass-kicking versions of ourselves. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/42 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, December 10, 2014
Episode 41 - Perfectionism and the Black Tank Top
Welcome to episode 41 of the Your Kick-Ass Life podcast. I’m so glad you’re here, today’s guest is awesome and you’re going to love her. She is The Imperfectionista, Ms. Katie Thies. Katie is a life coach who runs online and in-person creative, hands-on workshops. Her specialty clients are the perfectionists and the co-dependents of the world. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/41 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, November 25, 2014
Episode 40 - Negativity + Thriving Through the Holidays
Let’s talk about your negativity cleanse. Cleanse your thoughts, friends, space, and entertainment. Let’s first talk about entertainment. What are the things you see people doing in terms of entertainment that hold them back from being the best they can be? http://andreaowen.com/podcast/40 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, November 12, 2014
Episode 39 - Vulnerability + Intimacy in Your Relationships. It doesn’t have to be scary.
Ass kickers! Very happy to have Amy Smith back on the podcast to talk about something she is BRILLIANT at: Relationships. Even if you’re single, this podcast is full of great information to make small but significant changes in your relationships. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/39 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, October 27, 2014
Episode 38 - Thinking on Purpose to Change Your Life
Hey ass kickers! Meet Sas (isn’t that an awesome name!?), my friend from Down Under. She’s a coach who’s mastered the art of “thinking on purpose” and my inner-science nerd LOVES that she’s getting her PhD where her research is “a mash-up of psychology, philosophy and cognitive processing.” I get the goods on why it’s important to think on purpose, plus we discuss something ominous….BOUNDARIES! http://andreaowen.com/podcast/38 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 15, 2014
Episode 37 - Hormones...what?
Hello ass kickers! In this podcast episode, I’m taking with Ana Verzone who has been a women’s health care provider for over 14 years. She has a special interest in women’s hormones. These days, it seems like girls are starting to get their periods younger and women are getting cancer at an earlier age. (Ana has survived cancer twice!) http://andreaowen.com/podcast/37 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, September 26, 2014
Episode 36 - The Imposter Complex
Tanya Geisler is on the podcast talking about the Imposter Complex, a syndrome that many of us have experience with. She's also sharing how you can step into your starring role in your life. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/036 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 17, 2014
Episode 35 - Let’s Talk About Emotional Eating
Hi ass kickers! Isabel Foxen Duke is on the podcast for the second time talking about emotional eating, a topic so many of us have experience with. She and I have similar past stories which I’m sure many of you can relate to. And, I’m very excited because Isabel has a FREE video series to help you with this! (And I got a sneak peak...it’s awesome!). http://andreaowen.com/podcast/036 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, August 07, 2014
Episode 34 - Amy Pearson
Amy tells us her background and how she calls herself a “gold star chaser” and how she used to have fantasies of people looking at her, admiring her and asking how she does it all. Basically, she was an approval addict! It was after the sudden death of her mother made her take a look at her own life and make important changes. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/34 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, August 06, 2014
Episode 33 - Got a soul-sucking job?
Ass kickers! Have you ever felt like you’re in a soul-sucking job and really want to get out? Or maybe you feel like your job is just kind of “meh”? Either way, you may have an inkling of something else you want to do as a career, but think it’s impossible? If you’re totally and blissfully in love with your job, skip this podcast :) Michelle Ward, The When I Grow Up Coach is here to talk to YOU! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, July 14, 2014
Episode 32 - The Evolved Relationship (and what the hell that even means)
Kira Sabin is back again on the YKAL podcast! I brought her back to talk about “The Evolved Relationship”. So...what the hell is that? Basically, Kira talks about what we grew up with as our models of relationships and marriage, and how that’s shaped us, AND what to do with it now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, July 01, 2014
Episode 31 - Fitness and nutrition for busy women
Hello ass kickers! This podcast is specifically for busy women-- and what woman isn’t busy these days? Whether you’re a stay at home mom with little ones, or a career woman, I know you’re busy! And most of us have a value around being healthy...but for many it’s that thing that falls off our plate. I wanted to have you on to talk about HOW (and simply) to make changes in our lives that can be lasting. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, June 16, 2014
Episode 30 - Life purpose, not apologizing for who you are, plus more...
Another amazing edition of the YKAL podcast is upon us! I’m here with Sally Hope, founder of The Wildheart Revolution. I love Sally’s take on life and I’m sure you will too. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, May 27, 2014
Episode 29 - Heal yourself with flowers! (Sounds crazy, but yes, you can)
Ass kickers, get ready because this is one topic I’ve not only never heard of until recently, but not one that I would think would be so awesome. Joanne Amaya Cohen is my guest and she is an expert on balancing your hormones and flower essences. What are flower essences you say? Well, you’re about to find out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, May 12, 2014
Episode 28: Letting Go of What Other People Think w/ Brooke Castillo
Brooke Castillo is on the podcast today! I can’t believe it’s taken me 28 episodes to get her on here. Listen in and you’ll hear why I’m so happy to share her wisdom with y’all today. She’s an expert on changing your thoughts to create the life you want to live and you’ll LOVE her no-holds-barred way of thinking and sharing her gems of insight! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, April 28, 2014
Episode 27: How to be an amazing friend + how to manifest your tribe
Ass kickers! Truth: Up until the last few years, I didn’t really know what it took to be a really good friend. Looking back, there were many times when I acted selfishly and I just didn’t know from a practical standpoint how to nurture meaningful friendships. In my 20’s it was mostly about partying and just having a good time, but when I reached my 30’s things shifted and I realized I wanted to work on being a really good friend. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/027 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 16, 2014
Episode 26: Let’s Talk About Money (+ bonus gift!)
Many of you probably hear me mention Jeanna Gabellini, my former coach, the one who taught me how to leverage the law of attraction in my life and business. I’m thrilled to have her on the YKAL podcast talking about the LOA and MONEY. Who doesn’t want to manifest more money in their life, right? And Jeanna has graciously gifted us her new book in digital format for FREE! In this podcast you’ll hear: http://andreaowen.com/podcast/026 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, April 02, 2014
Episode 25: Trusting the Universe w/ Lori Fields
Ass kickers! Lori Fields joins the podcast today talkin’ bout all things WORTHINESS! Lori is a dear friend of mine and I’m ecstatic for you to meet her. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/025 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, March 18, 2014
Episode 24: When weight loss doesn’t make you happy w/ Jenny Perry
I’m PUMPED (I don’t use that word enough. I should use it more) to bring you my new friend Jenny G Perry today as we talk about self love, the myth of “thin = happy”, and jumping into spirituality. I just LOVE Jenny and I’m sure you will too! http://andreaowen.com/podcast/024 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, February 18, 2014
Episode 23: How to Get Past Self Sabotage
Ass kickers! Another content packed podcast is here for you. I’ve chosen Dr. Danielle Dowling as my sidekick today and we’re talking self-sabotage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, February 06, 2014
Episode 22: Let's Talk About Disordered Eating
What’s up, ass kickers!! I have done it again…I have found another soul sister, Trish Blackwell. Trish and I have a very common story so I knew I wanted to get the scoop on how she went from high-achieving junkie/disordered eating/perfectionistic control freak, to the awesome woman and coach she is today. I asked her how she healed and much more. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/022 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Fri, January 17, 2014
Episode 21: Bullshit Love Advice w/ Kira Sabin
I suppose love is in the air this January, because here is yet another episode talking about it! My friend and colleague Kira Sabin is a coach for (adventurous) singles, and today we’re dishing about common, age-old love advice that just simply sucks and isn’t true. Kira is even more irreverent than me, so you’re in for a special treat! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, January 09, 2014
Episode 20: Marriage: What works and what doesn’t
Hi ass kickers! In this new episode I talk about something I’ve never discussed before in detail: Marriage. More specifically, what works and what doesn’t. My guest is the fun-loving and whip-smart Josh Becker of i simply am. http://andreaowen.com/podcast/020 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Mon, December 09, 2013
Episode 19 - Everything you need to know to start working out NOW
The other day I was talking to my friend Molly, and she mentioned “Nicole from ‘A Life Less Bullshit’” and my first thought was “How do I not know this Nicole person!?” So quickly I found her, emailed her and thought she was so awesome I had to have her on my podcast. Nicole is passionate about fitness and with the new year coming up, I thought it would be perfect to talk about fitness. So, let’s get physical, ass kickers! - See more at: http://andreaowen.com/podcast/019 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Thu, November 21, 2013
Episode 18 - How to handle fears when things are going great
This episode is two-fold: An update on those of you following the whole book publishing journey and help people with BIG fear. This book has been one the most fearful goals I have ever embarked on and has brought up a whole new array of fears. In this podcast I talk candidly about it and how I’m getting through it. - See more at: http://andreaowen.com/podcast/018 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 30, 2013
Episode 17 - Being stuck and what to do about it
Brand new podcast! I had a woman write in looking for help in her life. Here’s what she said: “At 42, I feel I’m on the verge of good things, finally discovering the true me, ditching the people pleasing and following the herd, but may be stuck or blocked in some ways and have fears and comfort zones that keep me in the same spot.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 22, 2013
Episode 16: For coaches: A truthful conversation about the coaching business
I’m so excited to have a podcast especially dedicated to coaches! My first guest on this topic is Becca Tracey of The Uncaged Life. Becca and I spend nearly an hour having an honest conversation about the coaching business. Mistakes we made, the things that worked, and just great content that will surely help your coaching business. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Tue, October 15, 2013
Episode 15: People Pleasing, friendships, and saying “no”
Rounding out my fourth and final podcast with Mike Hrostoski, we discuss some common issues I see frequently with women. Mike and I discuss: People pleasing and saying no. This is such a common topic with the women I work with (I dedicate an entire chapter of it in my book ). Getting rid of relationships that aren’t serving you. I confess about a friendship where someone dumped me and times when I’ve had to exit friendships. Manifesting friendships and relationships. People ask me about this often! Mike and I talk about ways to focus on the friendships and relationships that we WANT. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, October 02, 2013
Episode 14: Authenticity + Spirituality: Interview with Lauryn Ballesteros
Lauryn Ballesteros is my guest today and I’m honored to now call her my friend. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Wed, September 11, 2013
Episode 13: On Courage and Fear w/ Kate Courageous
Kate Courageous joins the YKAL podcast! I’ve watched Kate from afar for a while now…like when you’re in high school it’s one of those, look at that really pretty, smart, kind girl that knows everyone. So, I did some internet stalking (as we all do) and was SO hoping she wasn’t going to talk about how to get rid of fear. Please, please, please! And what I found was that she is AWESOME and no, doesn’t talk about kicking fears ass, but instead talks about understanding fear and having a better relationship with it. From Kate’s website: “ Your Courageous Life sounds the call for you to revolutionize your life from within through practicing courage. Kate defines courage as: feeling afraid, diving in anyway, and transforming. ” So, I knew I HAD to speak to this woman. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Episode 673: Big Yes Energy, Comebacks, and Coming Home with Susan Hyatt

Episode 672: Midlife, Menopause, and Taking Charge with Tamsen Fadal

Episode 671: Life Lesson 10 on Growth Isn’t Linear, And That’s the Whole Damn Point

Episode 670: Lesson 9 on Radical Self-Acceptance: How To Stop Fixing Yourself And Come Home To Who You Are

Minisode 669: Don't Give Up 5 Minutes Before the Miracle Happens

Episode 668: Lesson 8 on Leaving People Behind to Find Yourself

Episode 667: Lesson 7 on The Three Things We’re All Searching For - Freedom, Feeling Alive, and Wholeness

Episode 666: 365 Happy Bedtime Mantras with Shannon Kaiser

Episode 665: Lesson 6 on Healing My Relationship with Love: From Heartbreak and Fear to Acceptance and Trust

Episode 664: Lesson 5 on What’s Important for a Long-Term Relationship

Minisode 663: On Life-Coaching and How Kathryn Found Her Spark

Episode 662: Lesson 4 on Life Purpose: Coming Home to Yourself

Episode 661: Lesson 3 on The Magic of Surrender

Minisode 660: Staying grounded amidst difficult changes

Episode 659: Lesson 2 on The Four Holy Emotions: How Grief, Terror, Rage, and Shame Unlock Your Power

Episode 658: Lesson 1 on Self-abandonment, Codependency, and Self-trust

Minisode 657: Where do we go from here?

Episode 656: The Mental Load, Boundaries, and Self-Compassion with Dr. Kat Kaeni

Episode 655: Coaching Session with Lisa on self-abandonment

Episode 654: Inner Wisdom, Ancestral Wisdom, and Healing with Asha Frost

Minisode 653: Celebrating small victories and why it matters

Episode 652: Trauma, Surviving, and Living Well with Jessica Graham

Episode 651: Intention, Self-Awareness, and Self-Trust with Heather Chauvin

Minisode 650: Letting Go & Learning the Practice of Detachment

Episode 649: Coaching session with Jenna on being on the “right path”

Episode 648: Coaching session with Christina on getting out of her comfort zone

Minisode 647: A simple new year ritual

Episode 646: Confidence, Style, and Strength with Heidi Clements

Episode 645: High-Functioning Codependency and Boundaries with Terri Cole

Minisode 644: 10 ways we take things personally, when we shouldn't (Part 2)

Episode 643: Sexuality and Spiritual Awakening Jessica Graham

Episode 642: Intimacy, Tantra, and Honoring Your Needs with Magda Kay

Episode 641: Your Inner Critic, Self-Compassion, and Self-Trust with Joanna Kleinman

Minisode 640: 10 ways we take things personally, when we shouldn't (Part 1)

Episode 639: Building Shame Resilience

Episode 638: Being More Productive and Combatting Overwhelm with Charlie Gilkey

Minisode 637: The anatomy of self-trust

Episode 636: Letting Go of What’s Holding You Back with Shannon Kaiser

Episode 635: Big Energy, Resilience, and Emotional Awareness with Erin King

Minisode 634: Re-wire your brain to get what you want

Episode 633: Gaslighting, Trust, and Resilience with Robin Stern, Ph.D.

Episode 632: How to Unf*ck Your Brain with Kara Loewentheil

Minisode 631: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

Episode 630: Dreams, Magic, and Breathwork with Michelle Tea

Episode 629: Generational Wounds, Breathwork, and Somatic Techniques with Alyse Bacine

Minisode 628: Suicide Prevention Month: My experiences

Episode 627: Boundaries, Healing, and Letting Go with Nakeia Homer

Episode 626: Healing From Anxiety and Finding Lasting Peace with Corinne Zupko

Minisode 625: The importance of taking small action

Episode 624: Radical Self-Love and Body Empowerment with Sonya Renee Taylor

Episode 623: Gene Keys, Personal Discovery, and Purpose with Tracie Cornell

Episode 622: Discovering Your Personal Style with Michelle Thomas

Minisode 621: Tolerations, what are you saying yes to that needs to change?

Episode 620: Organization, Time Management, and Reclaiming Your Home with Lisa Woodruff

Episode 619: Light Work, Shadow Work, and Personal Growth with Jessica Zweig

Minisode 618: On making hard decisions

Episode 617: Healing, Psychedelics, and Inner Peace with Austin Mao

Episode 616: Embodying Wildness, Erotic Liberation and Self-Pleasure with Luci Lampe

Minisode 615: 10 signs you might have a problem with alcohol

Episode 614: Redefining “Having It All” with Cherylanne Skolnicki

Episode 613: Your Inner Child, Personal Mastery, and Anger Release with Christine Hassler

Minisode 612: On establishing self-trust and getting your needs met

Episode 611: Being Needy, Self-Care, and Self-Trust with Mara Glatzel

Episode 610: Rewilding with Sabrina Lynn

Minisode 609: On how I manifested the home I moved into

Episode 608:The Power of 15 Minutes with Sam Bennett

Episode 607: Career Transitions and Meaningful Work with Laura Simms

Minisode 606: On prioritizing when life gets "too much"

Episode 605: Coaching Sydney on Reframing Emotions and Come Home to Self

Episode 604: Reparenting and Mindful Parenting with Hunter Clarke-Fields

Episode 603: Kerra and Andrea on Anxious Attachment Styles

Minisode 602: On how to let go of limiting beliefs

Episode 601: Behavior Change, Brain Science, and Fear with Dr. Kyra Bobinet

Episode 600: Advice and Insights About Ketamine Therapy with Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, Kristin Arden

Minisode 599: On the grief of breaking up

Episode 598: Fighting for our Friendships with Danielle Jackson

Episode 597: Mental Health, Anxiety, and Our Sons with Dr. John Duffy

Minisode 596: My journey with Ketamine Therapy

Episode 595: The Psychedelic Therapy Experience with Brendan Fitzgibbons