Thu, April 24, 2025

459 | Storm Myer | "Looking for Comfort in What You Know”

On this episode: Aaron and Nate return from Florida separately. Aaron asks if girls or guys are better.Also, Updates on the walking retreat for 2025 as well as many other retreats. Sign-up now!This week, Nate and Aaron have a discussion with our very own pirate monk: Storm Myers. Storm isn’t an author or pedaling his wares. He’s a guy with a story inviting others to join with him to share their stories too. Storm discusses his journey of affairs, drugs, over working, seeking relationships to avoid his feelings, and many other topics. Listen along! May 4-7, 2025 Sarah Society Annual Retreat June 6-8, 2025 Samson Canadian Retreat Sept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat Sponsor: Life Works Counseling If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to  piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com . Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a  contribution to Samson House .   Samson House Store Samson Canadian Retreat — Samson House Store Join us at the Wesley Acres Retreat Centre & Campground from June 6-8, 2025 , for a weekend of growth, reflection, and community. This retreat is designed for men looking to strengthen their faith and recovery journey and connect with like-minded individuals in a beautiful natural setting.     Samson House Store Samson European Retreat: RAV 47 — Samson House Store 38 hours + 5 meals + 3 Samson meetings + 1 mountain ascent = 47 lives changed forever.     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as fully as God

Thu, April 17, 2025

458 | Mike Novotny | Confess First, for Safety

On this episode: Aaron is in Texas or Mississippi, maybe, networking. Nate is solo and talks about “the great unplugging”. This week, Nate interviews Mike Novotny. Mike is an author, pastor, husband, and father. Mike serves from Appleton, WI, one of the top ten drunkest towns in the United States, where he is known for having sermon series’s that discuss the difficult things. Topics include, but are not limited to porn and its damages, transgender, confession, and masturbation. Mike talks about how Prodigals and Pharisees see the 10 commands differently. He also shares that the best way to move honesty from the basement to the sanctuary is through leaders confessing first, to show its a safe space.Links: Time of Grace Show The Core Church Books: Taboo: Topics Christians Should Be Talking about but Don’t Lonely Less: 6 Steps to a Less Lonely Life May 4-7, 2025 Sarah Society Annual Retreat June 6-8, 2025 Samson Canadian Retreat Sept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat Sponsor: Life Works Counseling If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to  piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com . Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a  contrib

Wed, April 09, 2025

457 | Ryan George | Healing From Abuse

On this episode: Nate provides tough support to extended family. Aaron asks how Jesus would show up. They also discuss an adventure Samson weekend and want your feedback .This week, Nate and Aaron talk to adrenaline junkie Ryan George. Ryan is the oldest of six siblings, a preacher's kid, a home school kid, traveler, wing walker, author, speaker, husband, and father, and is experienced in "cloisteration". He shares how his search for Jesus has taken him to over 30 countries. The guys discuss Ryan’s experiences of emotional, physical, sexual and spiritual abuse in the church, and how it lead him on a healing journey which includes writing his newest book. He also talks about the challenges of “doing it for the likes” on social media.Links: Books by Ryan Ryan on Facebook Ryan on Instagram Ryan on Linkedin Book: Hurt and healed by the Church: Redemption and Reconstruction after Spiritual Abuse May 4-7, 2025 Sarah Society Annual Retreat June 6-8, 2025 Samson Canadian Retreat Sept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat Sponsor: Life Works Counseling If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com . Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a  contribution to Samson House .   facebook.com Log in or sign up to view See posts, photos and more on Facebook.   linkedin.com Ryan George - Biplane Productions | LinkedIn I help auctioneers make bigger commissions and look like

Thu, April 03, 2025

456 | Charlie Peacock | There is No Such Thing as a Solo Artist

On this episode: Aaron sees two sets of footprints in the sand and has weird thoughts about transitions. Nate thinks about going back in time.This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Charlie Peacock. Charlie was married at eighteen, has been a performing musician since 14, is an author, song writer, producer, and has played most types of music. Charlie talks about his northern California music influences that led him from blues, raw country, funk, soul, rhythm and blues, and many other genres. He shares his story of generational trauma filled with anger. He also shares how he has wrestled with faith and finding answers. He lets us know that no answer is an answer, and that’s ok.. He talks about measuring himself by likes and followers. He encourages us with the thought that your best work may still be ahead of you, regardless of your age.Links: Charlie Peacock Book: Roots and Rhythm: A Life in Music May 4-7, 2025 Sarah Society Annual Retreat June 6-8, 2025 Samson Canadian Retreat Sept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat Sponsor: Life Works Counseling If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to  piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com . Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a  contribution to Samson House .   charliepeacock charlie peacock - nashville producer, jazz artist, singer-songwriter The official website of Grammy Award-winning record producer and recording artist Charlie Peacock (4 MB) https://www.charliepeacock.com/     Samson House Store <a href='https://samson

Thu, March 20, 2025

455 | Joel Burns | Question Everything with Joel Burns

On this episode: Aaron is missing someone to feed him grapes. Nate is home in Mount pleasant.This week, Nate and Aaron interview Joel Burns. Joel is a blogger and musician who is not a minister or college educated. He writes about and questions the journey of Christian manhood. Joel is a self professed skeptic and critic who helps ask why and leads others to question “church culture” and compare it to what the Bible actually says. Joel talks about lots of “myths” in the church that are dispensed as biblical or from God and are simply best wishes or preferences of someone. He encourages us ask questions and lead with “I think” instead of “this is what you have to do”. The guys also discuss and embracing humility in talking to others, especially when there are differing opinions. And Aaron finishes higher than he started.LInk: Warrior Priest May 4-7, 2025 Sarah Society Annual Retreat June 6-8, 2025 Samson Canadian Retreat Sept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat Sponsor: Life Works Counseling If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to  piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com . Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a  contribution to Samson House .   Samson House Store Samson Canadian Retreat — Samson House Store Join us at the Wesley Acres Retreat Centre & Campground from June 6-8, 2025 , for a weekend of growth, reflection, and community. This retreat is designed for men looking to strengthen their faith and recovery journey and connect with like-minded individuals in a beautiful natural environment.     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore your story, deepen your relationships, and live out your story as ful

Mon, March 10, 2025

454 | Carl Lehenbauer | The Song of Songs with Carl Lehenbauer

On this episode: Aaron is late and compromised, and Nate forgot. They discuss crisis management and cold fish.This week, Nate and Aaron interview Carl Lehenbauer. Carl is an author and pastor in Wisconsin. He shares that churches are often prudish and avoid the book of the Song of Songs, so he studied and wrote about it. Carl guides us on the model we should use in pursuing one another in a relationship. The book teaches that we should eat, drink, and be drunk with the wife of your youth. He talks about having sex with God in the room. Using the book for council and how to maintain realistic sexual expectations. It is also a tool used continually throughout marriage, not just courting as youth, helping us in conflict and tension. Also sharing the evidence that both parties in a relationship need their own community support.Book: Fire and Song: God’s Love Song. Your Love Story, by Carl Lehenbauer May 4-7, 2025 Sarah Society Annual Retreat June 6-8, 2025 Samson Canadian Retreat Sept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat Sponsor: Life Works Counseling If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to  piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com . Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a  contribution to Samson House .

Thu, February 27, 2025

453 | David Kerwin | Addiction Fueled by Underlying Trauma w/David Kerwin

On this episode: Nate is disjointed for southern migration. Aaron loves appetizers and dips. Both discuss limiting outrage porn and news. This week, Nate and Aaron interview David Kerwin. David is a registered nurse who became a certified health addiction counselor and uses internal family systems in his practice. He shares his background of multigenerational addiction, depression, and suicidality. His personal experiences include alcoholism from childhood and being caretaker for his dad, and father to his little brother. He shares a phenomena of being sober from alcohol for 10 years before remembering sexual abuse. David defines and helps understand the “acceptable” topic of process addiction, and how it’s just another escape and way to medicate. He also talks about the 9 C’s of self energy and how they help us in our healing journey. Links: David Kerwin Path 2 Recovery Books Mentioned: No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the IFS Model Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men to Authentic Brotherhood May 4-7, 2025 Sarah Society Annual Retreat June 6-8, 2025 Samson Canadian Retreat Sept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat Sponsor: Life Works Counseling If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to  piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com . The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information

Thu, February 20, 2025

452 | Ron Williams & Rob Schettler | Iron Sharpening Iron

Nate enjoys a closed road. Aaron likes snow days and rocks his underwear. This week, Nate and Aaron interview returning guest Ron Williams and first timer Rob Schettler. Ron refreshes us on his story of over 20 years as a minister, prison time, and becoming an addiction recovery coach. He shared in more detail on episode 372. Rob shares about his journey as a Chaplain in pastoral care. They discuss how they assist others in healing from early childhood abuse through shepherding and story work. Ron reveals the science behind increased addiction and higher divorce rates for those who have experienced abuse, and offers hope. Ron and Rob talk about the journey starting Fe ministry to help forge men through Christ’s Compassion and Grace. Links: Fe Ministry May 4-7, 2025 Sarah Society Annual Retreat June 6-8, 2025 Samson Canadian Retreat Sept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat Sponsor: Life Works Counseling If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to  piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com . Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a  contribution to Samson House .   Feministry WHO WE ARE | Feministry Meet our team! This is who we are at FE Ministry!   Samson House Store Samson Canadian Retreat — Samson House Store Join us at the Wesley Acres Retreat Centre & Campground from June 6-8, 2025 , for a weekend of growth, reflection, and community. This retreat is designed for men looking to strengthen their faith and recovery journey and connect with like-minded individuals in a beautiful natural setting.     Samson House Store 2025 Samson Summit — Samson House Store Join us for an unforgettable weekend to explore

Thu, February 06, 2025

451 | Dr Jim Wilder | Neuro-Theology

On this fresh and Crunchy episode, Aaron likes soggy cereal. Nate gives instruction on the right way to approach cereal.This week, Nate and Aaron interview Dr Jim Wilder. Dr Wilder prefers to be called Jim. Jim is a neuro-theologian. Jim has studied the science of character change and given us the findings in his book,  Renovated . He helps understand why thinking differently won’t change us, but connection will. Some of the other topics include: sugar is a distraction from the relational circuit, malfunction may be modern language for sin, joy is relational, and teens showing Alzheimer like symptoms from screen time.Links: Life Model Works Books: Renovated: God, Dallas Willard, and the Church that Transforms, by: Jim Wilder May 4-7, 2025 Sarah Society Annual Retreat June 6-8, 2025 Samson Canadian Retreat Sept. 12-14, 2025 Austrian Retreat Nov 7-9, 2025 Santa Fe, NM Samson Summit Nov 7-9, 2025 The Wild & Sacred Journey, Womens Retreat Sponsor: Life Works Counseling If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to <a href='mailto:piratemonkpodcast@gmail.

Thu, January 30, 2025

450 | Art Blanchford | Transformation

Title: Transformation w/ Art Blanchford   Aaron talks about the awkwardness of candy crushing your penis. Nate is Live. The guys discuss goals, resolutions, perfectionism, gamifying recovery, and increased success with community, support and feedback.This week, Nate interviews Art Blanchford. Art is a recovering workaholic, Tennessee local, and host of the Life in Transition Podcast. He is also a business consultant, coach, and leads midlife transformational retreats. They discuss the depth, growth, and development of Christian relationship in recovery. Also talking about the topic that service or ministry doesn’t have to be free, and the value of an investment. Art shares his experiences getting away and disconnecting from phones and tv and the refreshment that brings.Links: MidLife Transition Art Blanchford Art’s Email Art on Linkedin Books: Purposeful Living: Wisdom for Coming of Age in Complex Times, by Art Blanchford Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad ones, by: James Clear Super Better: A Revolutionary Approach to Getting Stronger, Happier, Braver, and More Resilient - Powered by the Science of Games, by Jane McGonigal Renovated: God, Dallas Willard, and the Church

Fri, January 24, 2025

449 |  Juliane Taylor Shore | The Brain Wears History Colored Glasses

 The Brain Wears History Colored Glasses w/ Juliane Taylor Shore Aaron recaps the 2024 Samson Summit. He shares his takeaways on vulnerability, storytelling and five senses activities. Then he has bad internet. Nate discusses the first ever Canadian retreat June 6-8, eh. This week, Nate interviews Juliane Taylor Shore. Juliane is an author, speaker, teacher, therapist, and leads online and in-person intensives and workshops. She nerds out (in a good way) on neuroscience as she shares ways with us on understanding and creating new internal practices for health and safety. Juliane shares a quote that the “brain is your body’s captive audience” in learning to hear and understand ourselves. The thinking brain is good at some stuff, the feeling brain is good at other stuff, and faster. She walks us through an exercise on setting psychological boundaries and explains the process of creating new neural networks engaging the heart and belly. Links: Juliane Taylor Shore Books: Setting Boundaries That Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered Descarte’s Error: Emotional, Reason, and the Human Brain, by: Antonio Damasio Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, January 16, 2025

448 | Zack Brittle | Poetic and Mad Science Therapy

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about experiences at the 2024 Italian Samson Retreat with nuns. Our Guest: Zach Brittle, who is the only Gottman and RLT trained couples therapist in the world. He is also a cohost of Marriage Therapy Radio, a husband, father, teacher, and four years sober, recovering alcoholic. Zach discusses getting married at 23 and being happily married for 24 of the 27 years. He works for the Gottman Institute and tells us the origins of the Gottman method and why it's so effective in therapy. Zach encourages us to be curious about the possibilities for our relationship beyond repairing the issue that brought us to therapy. Also, being curious about what’s not being said, and the origins of addiction and shame. He shares the science behind successful marriage repair. He leaves us with many hopeful and positive resources as well. Links:   Zach Brittle Books: Marriage Therapy Journal By: Zach Brittle The Relationship Alphabet: A Practical Guide to Better connection for Couples: By Zach Brittle Reconnect: A Marriage Counseling Workbook: Guided Conversations and Exercises for Long-Lasting Relationship By: Zach Brittle and Laura Heck Other Books Mentioned: I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression By: Terrence Real <a href='https://www.amazon.com/Us-Getting-Build-Loving-Relationship/dp/B09BBN9LGW/ref=sr_1_2?cr

Thu, January 09, 2025

447 | Alexandra Repke | Father Forgive Them…

On this episode: Nate and Aaron are live and in color. Aaron says interesting things and swallows spit. Nate escapes the bitter cold of Tennessee, because he is old. Exciting News: Pure Desire, 7-Pillars is moving from Portland to the Nashville area, and there will be an Austria Samson retreat in 2025! Our Guest: Dr. Alexandra Repke has a background in criminology, correction, forensics, and personality disorders as they relate to addiction and recovery. She discusses her understanding of why psychology has yet to catch up with biblical truths. Alexandra also shares the four deep keys and considerations to forgiveness from real world experiences. She drops the bomb that the lack of forgiveness fuels addiction. Perk up for a great show this week, folks. Links:   Repke Psychological Services 2025 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, January 02, 2025

446 | Mark and Michelle Hollingsworth | From Knowledge to Experience

On this episode: Aaron interviews Mark and Michelle Hollingsworth. Our Guests: Mark and Michelle are trauma trained at the Allender Center and Art of Living Counseling Center in narrative focused healing as marriage counselors. They come from experience, navigating and recovering from an affair. They discuss offloading the burdens of trauma and secrets. Mark and Michelle talk about shame in the ministry, lack of Christian and church support, and navigating people that don’t know what to do with the pain. We learn how to bless the process of healing, and that everyone’s process is different. They also talk about when and how to share with children. Links:   Soul Reserve 2025 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, December 26, 2024

445 | Tom Bellamy | Limerence

On this episode: Nate and Aaron end 2024 with hope. Aaron feels it in his chest. Nate revisits old recovery. Nate predicts the best national retreat ever, and Aaron may hula. Our Guest: Dr. Tom Bellamy is from the UK and an expert on the topic of limerence. He explains that limerence has properties similar to drugs and expires fairly quickly. He discusses the history and how to recognize the limerence type of love. Dr. Tom also gives help on how to end it, and even how to prevent it in the future.  Links:   Book: Smitten: Romantic Obsession the Neuroscience of Limerence, and how to Make Love Last Book: Living with Limerence: A Guide for the Smitten Living With Limerence Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, December 19, 2024

444 | Kimberly Panganiban | The Sex “Need”

On this episode: This week, it's Friday to Aaron. Our Guest: Kimberly Panganiban is a Gottman-trained LMFT with a Filipino last name. She tells her story of being curious about people and her parent's divorce that led her to the therapy field. Kimberly shares that many sexual problems in marriage are simply misalignments and are repairable with the help of an outsider. She discusses the importance of sexual communication, so that a couple is connecting, not merely having a mechanical event. How pressure, rejection, and one-sided pursuit all kill libido and cause resentment. Kimberly tells us that it is important to discuss uncommunicated expectations explicitly. She also encourages everyone to shop around for therapists or counselors -- you are not obligated to the first one. Links:   Kimberly Panganiban Therapy Coach at Gottman Institute Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, December 12, 2024

443 | Christine Baker | Learning to Fight a Bear, Run Away from a Bear, or Drop Dead

On this episode: Aaron is excited. Our Guest: Christine Baker is a PHD, CSAT, LPC, SEP, and a sex addiction therapist. She shares her journey from working at the Baptist Children’s home and attending a lecture that led her to pursue sex addiction therapy for women. Christine later transitioned into sex addiction therapy for men and women, stating the value and importance of helping men heal and relate to women in a healthy and appropriate way. She talks about why it's easier for males to get into sexual recovery than females. They discuss the trend of women having a higher growth rate as sex addicts than men. She explains “stuck” responses and give tips on how to get “unstuck” to be able to move forward to grow and heal. Christine gives some practical tips on how to begin a habit of thinking rationally in our routines. Links:   Wayfare Counseling Christine Baker on Instagram Sensation Slide Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, December 05, 2024

442 | Sam Jolman | Bless the Arousal

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about different seasons of life. They share how important it is to balance parts of life, including: work, friends, play, and scheduling. Our Guest: Sam Jolman shares how he asked his brother to clarify sexual questions for him. They discuss how many people are sexually awakened and then immediately shamed. Sam shows us how to welcome one's sexuality, learning to respond with awe instead of lust. He talks about the different experiences of coming to sexual intimacy regulated and unregulated. And Aaron discusses how he raises his Ebenezer. Links:   Sam Jolman Book: The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, November 28, 2024

441 | Shane Ramer | Sober Recreation

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about healthy play. Nate shares what it's like to attend 3 intensives in 2 months. He shares the joy and relief in attending intensives instead of leading them. Our Guest: Shane Ramer is an old school skater, recovery coach, and podcaster. They discuss recreation and fun in sobriety and fighting the boredom. Shane shares why community is important, even when we may have found it in the wrong places at times. How giving back and volunteering helps to heal and grow along the healing path. Also, when to surrender and ask for help. Links:   That Sober Guy Podcast That Sober Guy Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, November 21, 2024

440 | Carrie Cole | Re-Marriage

On this episode: Nate and Aaron are back for another episode of the podcast a few people will enjoy. This podcast took a year off of Aarons Life. Planning for the Italy and Germany retreats are discussed, as well as Octoberfest. Our Guest: Dr. Carrie Cole is director of research, training, and runs the “Love Lab” at the Gottman Institute. She performs analysis of relationships. Carrie shares through research that men are more emotional than women and stay that way longer. Discussion includes reasons for jumping into a new relationship too soon (rebound), even if by accident, having sex or being physical too soon, and the desire to be cared for. Aaron discusses his @$$hole theory of dating. Other topics include helping all couples grow and understand the perpetual problems in a relationship. Carrie also offers a tool to help couples repair after an argument. Links:   Gottman Institute Carrie’s Contact Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, November 14, 2024

439 | Vicky Easa | Time-Outs and Connection

On this episode: Nate and Aaron bring the podcast back. Aaron wears pants and a hat on Thursday. Nate is still swimming and reads Lonely All the Time. And Aaron goes to jail. Our Guest: Vickey Easa is a therapist and podcaster in Boston Mass via SoCal. She discusses the cultural challenges of how sarcasm is avoiding vulnerability and also blocks intimacy. Understanding how males use insults to show love, especially in the show Friends. Vickey helps couples work through why we keep reacting and not connecting. Seeing each other’s pasts and stories, and how it has shaped their present messages. Vickey shares the downsides of how the brain reacts in self-preservation when there is a desire to connect. She offers simple steps for couples in the form of time-outs to help rebuild after arguments. Links:   Unmess Your Mind Book: Lonely All the Time: Recognizing, Understanding, and Overcoming Sex Addiction, for Addicts and Co-Dependents Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, November 07, 2024

438 | Andrea Ashley | Continued Growth

On this episode: Aaron interviews returning guest Andrea Ashley. Andrea is the host of the Adult Child podcast. She’s the only child from an alcoholic household who became sober at 19 years old. She shares her story of learning and implementing boundaries with her parents and others. Andrea shares how she has learned to see her inner child and stopped trying to correct it. She talks about how her friendships have grown over time as she has gotten healthier. They discuss the isolation of going deeper when others aren’t there. They consider importance of endings and that they aren’t all your fault. Andrea also discusses how suffering and pain cause positive healthy growth. Links:   Adult Child Podcast Instagram: Adult Child Podcast Youtube: Adult Child Podcast TikTok: Adult Child Podcast Events: 2024 Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, October 31, 2024

437 | Nathaan Demers | Hope in Times of Need

On this episode: Rob eats turtles and recommends the MickeyD’s app. Pablito eats fair foods and illustrates safety in vulnerable discussions. Our Guest: Nate talks to Nathaan Demers. Nathaan is a psychologist and has a passion for getting quality mental health to the underserved. He has come up with a unique way to help men that engages through humor. Nathaan talks about the many free resources as well as the ability to connect to a real person for help in under 60 seconds. Links:   Man Therapy Operation Veterans Strong Grit Digital Health Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, October 24, 2024

436 | Tim Timmons | In the Valley Where Joy Grows

Our Guest: Aaron dives right into the interview with Tim Timmons, musical guest for the 2024 Summit, pastor's kid, musician, worship leader, Tennessean by way of California, sporting a magnificent beard. He talks about growing up with the "husky" label, a home life that blew up as a young teenager, and his mother's intentionally taking the arrows to protect his relationship with his dad. Tim had a crisis of faith as a young adult, navigated with the help of incredible men who gave him permission to doubt well. It is the journey of doubt that forms us, not the answer to the question. Tim then was given a cancer diagnosis with five years to live.  That was 23 years ago. Hanging out with prostitutes and a rethinking of church.   Links:   Tim Timmons Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, October 17, 2024

435 | Sam Louie | Ethnic Immigrant Shame

On this episode: Aaron gets out of bed to podcast and shares his “chesticles up” perspective. Jason shares what he looks forward to at the retreat and favorites from past retreats. Mark has some kind of ailment that Aaron can't pronounce and shares his experiences with Andrew Bauman. Our Guest: Nate talks with Sam Louie. Sam shares about the religion of work and his journey to becoming a counselor. Sam is a first-generation Chinese immigrant to the United States from Hong Kong. He shares his inadequacy about ethnicity, career, body, and masculinity. Sam says the shame he feels can be felt by eight generations. He shares the fantasies and escapes he developed trying to cope with his insecurities. He encourages us to embrace the shame and look for the positive intention behind the addiction. Links:   Passport to Shame: From Asian Immigrant to American Addict Prodigals International Sam Louie Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, October 10, 2024

434 | Tim Fletcher | Canadian Recovery

On this episode: Join Aaron as he talks to our guest Tim Fletcher. Tim’s journey includes pastorship, being on disability, and becoming a temporary counselor that has turned into a passion and career. Aaron and Tim discuss the history of trauma and therapy in Canada, the past, and even in the Bible. Tim shares that adapting to trauma (addiction), helps us survive childhood but messes up adult life. He also helps us understand and see less obvious addictions and escapes, such as: over-working, over-volunteering, and control. Links:   Tim Fletcher Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, October 03, 2024

433 | Chris Bruno | Transitions and Transformation

On this episode: Aaron talks to returning guest Chris Bruno. Chris leads story work counseling at Re-story Counseling, and guides groups of men at the Restoration Project. Aaron and Chris discuss the history of “rites of passage,” women raising boys, and consequences of boys going to approximations of manhood. Chris has written a new book called: Man Maker Project. This book helps guide males (and females), even without kids, in fatherhood, brotherhood, and sonship. Join along as they offer hope and love on this part of the journey. Links:   ReStory Counseling Restoration Project Man Maker Project: A Father’s Guide to Initiating His Son Into Manhood Sage: A Man’s Guide Into His Second Passage Brotherhood Primer: A Man’s Guide To Turning Buddies into Brothers Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a <a href='https://samsonsociet

Thu, September 26, 2024

432 | Ian and Tamara Dowling | Scholarships in the Healing Journey

On this episode: Aaron, Mark, and Jason start the show at 9:05pm Tennessee time. Mark talks about sharing his story in a co-ed setting. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron talk with Ian and Tamara Dowling. Ian gets excited and talks fast. He shares about how his childhood abuse and introduction to pornography shaped his view of relationships. They discuss the importance of seeking healing for yourself and not to save a relationship. Ian and Tamara share how their marriage has healed and grown as they have experienced healing in therapy and intensives. They also discuss the financial hardships and how it led them to begin Lit Path Ministries to give scholarships and help others on their healing journeys. Links:   Lit Path Ministries Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, September 19, 2024

431 | Matt Wade | Relational Healing in Being Known

Our Guest: This week, Aaron interviews Matt Wade. Matt’s life started as a small boy. He’s now a couples counselor specializing in EFT therapy. Matt discusses his journey of not being supported in becoming a pastor and how he had more of a passion for ministry than a passion for Jesus. He shares how his childhood abuse led to promiscuity to find acceptance and love. Matt encourages us with the healing that occurs in relationships once there is empathy for one another. Intimacy is established where there is no secrecy. Matt leads us to engage our spouse in curiosity, not judgement. Links:   Unstuck Therapy Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, September 12, 2024

430 | Trent Dollyhigh | Raising Up Leaders and Healers

Our Guest: Aaron has a talk with Trent Dollyhigh. Trent is from Mayberry. Yes, that Mayberry. He grew up with whistling, fishing, violence and pornography. Trent was also youth pastor to Andrew Bauman. He shares that Andrew was a student of his and now he is a student of Andrew. Trent discusses how unresolved trauma is usually repeated, and the value of understanding an abuser's history. In his ministry, Trent “helps men die a good death so they can live a good life.” Finally, he addresses why having intelligence is not enough to heal. Links:   Be Vulnerable Mentoring Christian Counseling Center Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, September 05, 2024

429 | Joel Roberts | Serving - From the Military to Therapy

On this episode: Pablito is not Nate, and Rob is back from retirement. Together, they compare improv to recovery. Our Guest: Aaron and Tim Ice interview Joel Roberts. Joel shares his transition from military career to becoming a therapist. He discusses how our culture and church are not characteristically raising men to be husbands and fathers, and how important it is to pursue growth in those areas. Understanding why it is important of share your story from the perspective of villain, victim, and hero. Links:   Deeper Stories Counseling Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, August 29, 2024

428 | Daniel Weiss and Josh Glaser | Parents Equipping Parents

On this episode: This week Aaron goes solo. Our Guests: Daniel Weiss and Josh Glaser. Josh is executive director at Regeneration Ministries where he works with parents, equipping them in the digital age with kids. Daniel comes from Focus on the Family, where he specialized in healthy sexuality for families and now, he equips leaders to promote Gospel-centered sexuality in the church. Together, these gentlemen co-authored a book to parents from parents titled: Treading Boldly Through a Pornographic World: A field Guide for Parents . The book helps parents get involved in discussions about the body and sex with their children. It also helps the parents address their own sexual stories. Finally, it helps parents understand why this is important, addressing what is the good in all of this. Links:   Josh Glaser, Regeneration Ministries Daniel Weiss, Sexual Integrity Leaders, Inc. Book:  Treading Boldly Through a Pornographic World: A field Guide for Parents . Events: 2024 Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, August 22, 2024

427 | Five Guys Talk about Andrew Bauman

On this episode: Nate and Aaron made it back from England. Aaron gets up at 2am. Our Guest: Aaron and Nate have a discussion with Justin, Jason, and Mark. Nate is anxious about going to a group intensive lead by Andrew Bauman and wants the guys to give him the lowdown. Justin, Jason, and Mark share what they experienced as they recently went through the retreat together. They share how recovery is more than an intellectual fix or sobriety. The group discusses why it's important to have multiple avenues in the process of recovery. How recovery is an adventure and not a death march. Links:   Andrew Bauman 4-Day Retreats Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, August 15, 2024

426 | Joel Muddamalle | Humility for the Arrogant Masses

On this episode: Nate is travelling. Aaron hosts solo and has many sub points. Our Guest: Dr. Joel Muddamalle. Joel resides in North Carolina via Chicago. He co-hosts a podcast with Lysa TerKeurst and Jim Cress called Therapy and Theology . Joel shares his journey of trauma to arrogance then humility. He guides us to see how safe curiosity brings us to humility and back to our own humanity. Joel also shows us that we can have peace and rest via codependency on God. He gives some practical exercises on sharing with others to help us see ourselves in truth to overcome the lies of our past. Links:   Joel Muddamalle Therapy and Theology Podcast Books:  The Hidden Peace: Finding True Security, Strength, and Confidence Through Humility Weakness is the Way: Life with Christ Our Strength by: J.I. Packer Events: 2024 Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, August 08, 2024

425 | Michael Johnson | You Are Worthy of Love

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about Father's Day in England and time zone challenges. Aaron smokes everything, even asparagus. Our Guest: Returning guest Michael Johnson became a marriage expert as a single person and felt led to start a marriage ministry after 10 years in his own marriage. The discussion includes seeing beyond the obvious by supplementing feelings with facts. How to reprogram your sex drive by keeping dating out in the open. Michael shares why its so easy to fall for the wrong person. Fun facts include stats about arranged marriages and love marriages being basically equal in happiness and success, and that your sex drive is good. Links:   Future Marriage University Book:  Date Like You Know What You Are Doing Book:  Fit To Be Tied Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, August 01, 2024

424 | Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith | Hodge Podge of Recovery

On this episode: Aaron gets socks, and Nate just got back from recovery church. Our Guest: Matthew & Joanna Raabsmith are founders of Renewing Us Recovery, where they help couples renew and repair relationships affected by sexual addiction, infidelity, and betrayal. Matthew shares his journey from youth pastor back to seminary where he and Joanna learned of the connection between therapy, psychology, and faith. He also talks about his road to recovery from sexual addiction through the 12-step process, and later to helping other couples in the healing process. Matthew & Joanna share the importance of having community -- males, females, and couples -- to go deep together. Links:   Renewing Us Recovery Free stuff from Matthew & Joanna Book:  Building True Intimacy Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, July 25, 2024

423 | Fausto Estrada | Recovery Ambassador

On this episode: Aaron has been writing. He turns one book into several books. Nate and Aaron also discuss the gospel, recovery, and dealing with the internal parts. Our Guest: Fausto Estrada shares how his story of addiction took him from Honduras to a place of healing in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. He shares that reading more books, getting married and having kids did not cure his addiction. He became involved in Prodigals International. After much success, he translated the material to take to those in need in Spanish speaking cultures. Links:   Prodigals International - en Español Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, July 18, 2024

422 | Leslie Vernick | Healthy Sinners

On this episode: Nate changed religions to pescatarian and Aaron talks about when he was vegan. They also discuss the podcast break and England long-walk. Our Guest: Leslie Vernick - host of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered podcast. They discuss the reality that new curtains don’t fix the termites in the basement of our relationships. Leslie explains the truth that we want people in our lives, but some people use each other as objects. She gives examples of many types of abuse that can happen in a relationship. There is hope for change. We have to own what we do and do what it takes to get better. There is a difference between healthy and unhealthy sinners. She gives many pointers to husbands and wives for intimacy, restoration and amends. Links:   Leslie Vernick Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Podcast Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, June 06, 2024

Announcement - Pirate Monk Podcast is taking a short break

The Pirate Monk Podcast will be taking a break for the next several weeks to give our volunteers a much-needed rest.  We plan to resume posting new episodes again in July.  If you can't live without your PMpod fix in the meantime, please take advantage of the 400+ episodes in our back catalogue to listen to some that you may have skipped or would like to revisit!

Thu, May 30, 2024

421 | Aundi Kolber | Honoring and Knowing Self

On this episode: Aaron is tired and cleans the fridge. Nate talks about the dragon of our age. Our Guest: Aundi Kolber - licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, wife, and mom. She shares her journey of being raised in the Catholic church and complex trauma. She encourages us to be present, loving, honoring, and respecting ourselves along the journey as she discusses her books Strong Like Water and Try Softer. Links:   Aundi’s Website Aundi’s Instagram Psychology Today Aundi’s Books: Try Softer Try Softer Guided Journey Strong Like Water Strong Like Water Guided Journey Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, May 23, 2024

420 | Michael Ayala-White | Recovery Paths

On this episode: Aaron rides an exercise bike and figures out how to get paid to exercise. Nate reconsiders his gym membership. Our Guest: Michael Ayala-White, a Buffalo NY native, is a Trauma Informed Certified Coach who is located in Buffalo, NY, but his certification is global and does remote coaching with clients all over the country. He specializes in addiction recovery, inner child work, and trauma informed coaching. He talks about the differences between toxic shame and everyday shame and how to work on them in healthy ways. Michael discusses his disconnects between reading the Bible, memorizing verses, and his inability to stop his addiction. Helping us see that recovery and healing involves ALL of you and can take many paths. Links:   Wayward Coaching Michael’s Email Boulder Recovery Tin Man Ministries Voice of the Heart by: Chip Dodd Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by: Jay Stringer Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. <

Thu, May 16, 2024

419 | Kim Evenson | Male Friendship

On this episode: Nate observes people starting to walk on sidewalks. Aaron shares his crush on Anne of Green Gables. Our Guest: Kim Evenson comes to us from Oslo Norway by way of Australia. He discusses the desire and need for close male relationships. Kim shares the foundation of friendship being love, and including compassion, vulnerability, comfort, hugs, and seeing each other face to face. He started Brothers first out of selfish need, along with the desire to help others. We also consider friendship as we look at the relationships modeled by God and Jesus. Links:   Brothers Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, May 09, 2024

418 | Rachel Allen | Female Sexuality

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss ADHD, convergent and divergent thinking. How someone with ADHD isn’t broken. Our Guest: Rachel Allen has lived in Alabama and Tennessee, and now calls Utah her home. She is a CSAT who works with a lot of women and couples. She shares her fascination with human behavior and how she started explaining sexuality to women in college. Rachel urges women not to Google Women’s Sexuality, especially in considering rape and purity culture, women’s masturbation, and sexual addiction. She educates on sexual anorexia, shame, body hate, control, and dopamine hits. Rachel also disputes society's incorrect message that women are responsible for men's thoughts. Links:   Healing Paths Recovery Rachel Allen’s Email Books: Come As You Are by: Emily Nagoski Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape by: Peggy Orenstein Organizing Solutions for People with ADHD by: Susan Pinsky Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to <a href='mailto:piratemonkpodcast@gmail.c

Thu, May 02, 2024

400 | Andrew Bauman | Deep Work with Nate and Aaron

On this episode: Aaron and Nate each allow Dr. Andrew J. Bauman to lead them in some therapy work. This episode is subdivided into two parts: first with Aaron and then with Nate, where Dr. Bauman walks them through exercises to connect their mind, feelings, body, and spirit for healing. Andrew will be the lead speaker at the 2024 Samson Summit, sharing how we can be closer to God through engaging our secrets and shame.  Links:   Andrew J. Bauman Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, April 25, 2024

417 | Tamara Rosier | Focusing with ADHD

Our Guest: Aaron interviews our guest, Dr. Tamara Rosier. Dr. Tamara is an ADHD coach, and the founder of the ADHD Center in West Michigan. She shares her knowledge and history of ADHD going back to the 1800’s. Ways to cope with the thing that gives you reoccurring anxiety, including emotionally engineering your day. The fact that ADHD people are more susceptible to addiction, because dopamine makes them feel more “normal.” Other topics include ADHD in marriage, supporting kids with ADHD, Convergent and Divergent Thinking, and flight, flight, freeze, and appease. Links:  d Dr. Tamara Rosier Books: Your Brain’s Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, April 18, 2024

416 | Layton and Chelsea Boeve | Couples on a Journey, Healing Together

On this episode: Nate and Aaron debate one day for p@rn. Nate updates us on his speaking engagements. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guests, Chelsea and Layton Boeve. Chelsea and Layton host the Liberator podcast. The Michiganders share their journey that brought them to their passion for strong and healthy relationships. Layton grew up without TV and became a voracious reader which started his journey into fantasy and later porn. Chelsea brings us to an understanding of how trust is broken with image consumption. The couple shares how healing in a relationship happens as fast as the weaker person heals. Links:   Liberator Podcast Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, April 11, 2024

415 | Joshua and Charlene Lewis | Support in Recovery

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss 13 foot, 5 inch Oscar. Nate builds a screened-in treehouse. Our Guest: Natives of Miami, Josh and Charlene share their real-life experiences with alcoholism and substance abuse. Josh also talks about sex and work addiction and trading one addiction for another as part of his recovery in 12-step. Charlene’s journey in recovery includes becoming a certified addiction professional and an IITAP certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT). Josh’s journey includes becoming a sponsor and recovery coach. Together they have created an online intensive program for outpatient recovery treatment. Links:   Intimacy E-HAB Books: Comfort Crisis  By: Michael Easter Scarcity Brain  By: Michael Easter Addict America  By: Dr. Carol Clark Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a <a href='https://samsonsoci

Thu, April 04, 2024

414 | Jeremy Morris | The F-Word and Jesus

On this episode: Pablito and Rob didn’t get fired. Rob feels different ages when he dances. Is dancing a metaphor for life? Our Guest: Nate and Aaron welcome Jeremy Morris. Jeremy is from Western Idaho and brings a majestic beard and loads of life experience. He engages the lie that if others really knew us, they wouldn’t love us. Talking about your story in the present, sharing where the battle IS. Discussing the differences of transparency and vulnerability. Rejoicing with those who rejoice, and mourning with those who mourn. Honoring each other with our time, holding the tension, not correction. The safety in avoiding discussing work or career in recovery settings. Links:   Wild Courage Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, March 28, 2024

413 | Ashley Chesnut | Sit, Listen, & Engage - Helping Women Get Free from P0rn

On this episode: Pablito and Rob are impulsive. Rob shares how he engages his stories with the gospel. Our Guest: Nate welcomes this week’s guest, Ashley Chesnut. Ashley is an author, young adult minister, and PHD student in Birmingham, AL. She discusses her book: It's Not Just You , and how that helps women engage their stories and experience freedom from p0rn and m@sturbation. Ashley shares how the world of women’s recovery is developing and gaining more traction and resources. She also discusses the shortcomings of the church's discussion about the body, sex, and double standards. Other topics include the links between rising technology use and depression and anxiety, and the motivation to stay on the journey of recovery. Links:   Ashley's Email instagram:  @aechesnut Book: It's Not Just You: Freeing Women To Talk about Sexual Sin and Fight It Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, March 21, 2024

412 | Roy Smith | The Human Condition

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss how macho and competitive Valentines Day can be. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guest, Dr. Roy Smith. Roy is a speaker, psychologist and author. He discusses his books, Inside Fatherhood  for men, and  The Campfire Gang Series  for youth. Roy shares how his difficult and traumatic growing up years shaped his path to becoming a psychologist. A discussion around thanking your abuser. The balance of work and family. And a shift from saving others to serving other. Links:   Live Up Resources Servant Oasis Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, March 14, 2024

411 | Tullian Tchividjian | Success is More Toxic than Failure

On this episode: Nate is rucking things up. Aaron doesn’t understand why the rucking ruckers would ruck their @sses off. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron welcome back Tullian Tchividjian to the podcast for the third time. Tullian shares the value of crashing and burning in his just released book: Carnage and Grace . Topics include giving ourselves grace for not knowing what we don’t know and the human propensity to fück things up. The guys also discuss earning your Pharisee certificate. The importance of sitting with others in their pain and asking before giving advice rather than fixing. Links:   Tullian Fallen & Free 2024 Videos Book: Carnage & Grace: Confessions of an Adulterous Heart Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, March 07, 2024

410 | David Murrow | Submission is Manly

On this episode: We catch up on sports ball roulette with Nate and Aaron. Aaron reveals that he looks sh!t in spandex. Also, updates on the Harbor House are sailing in. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guest, David Murrow. David is a preacher, coach, speaker and author. On this episode, we discuss David’s book: Why Men Hate Going to Church  and how to overcome this challenge. David guides us down a path of healing and growth using another book,  The Map: The Way of All Great Men . Understanding that the journey of submission, strengthen, and sacrifice are not about losing your voice, but refining it. David walks us through the examples of Moses, King David, Samson, and other Biblical icons. Links:  Three Journeys David Murrow ManTime Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, February 29, 2024

409 | Ray Ortlund | Starve the Beast

On this episode: Pablito and Rob host. Pablito shares man cave woes. Swifties and important sports snacks are also discussed. Our Guest: Aaron interviews our guest, Ray Ortlund. Ray is a husband of over 50 years, father, grandfather, author, and minister. Discussing “Death of P0rn” and how it's like a modern-day fight against slavery. Ray encourages us to use strong words when describing p0rn usage, encouraged that Jesus is big enough to cover our sins. The importance of confessing sin one-to-another and then praying that we may be healed. Also the question: As we say "no" to one thing, what are we saying "yes" to? Links:   Renewal Ministries Book: Death of P0rn: Men of Integrity Building a World of Nobility Events: Samson Society Recovery Marathon 2024 Samson Path Walk in England 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, February 22, 2024

408 | Sheri Keffer | Intimate Deception

On this episode: Samson celebrates the 20th Anniversary of its first meeting! Nate, Aaron, and Erin host and interview this week. Erin updates us on the pillow fights at the Sarah Society (no really, its a therapeutic technique). She also discusses the meetings, members, summits and webinars of the Sarah Society.  Our Guest: This week we get to know  Dr. Sheri Keffer . Dr. Sheri is an author, speaker, talk-show host, and therapist with over 20 years experience. She provides personal and professional expertise in helping the betrayed, betrayer, and the couple in relationship. As a CSAT, Dr. Sheri, understands and shares the impacts of p0rn0gr@phy on the individual, the spouse, the relationship, and others around. She also recommends the “ Bravery After Betrayal Retreat ” (held March 21-24, 2024) to women seeking healing. Links:   Dr Sheri Keffer Bravery After Betrayal Retreat Book: Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal Events: 2024 Samson Summit Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, February 15, 2024

407 | Greg Oliver | Sober Is More Than Behavior

On this episode: Nate and Aaron are back. Aaron drives 75 hours and has technology challenges. Nate and Aaron discuss anxiety and panic attacks. Our Guest: Aaron interviews Greg Oliver after a 9-year break. Greg is executive director at Awaken, a 12-step recovery group in Birmingham Alabama. He shares his background and story of what brought him into his personal recovery and the need for recovery groups in his area. Greg and Aaron discuss disappointment in someone and disappointment for someone. We are encouraged to look into “what we really want” when we are seeking to escape, and will the escape satisfy that desire. Greg discusses trauma and how we all have it. He also shares how changing our beliefs changes behavior and not the other way around.  Links:   Awaken Book: Deeper: Real Change for Real Sinners by Dane C. Ortlund Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Retreat Links: 2024 Samson Summit If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, February 08, 2024

406 | Brant Hansen | Healing the World

On this episode: Pablito and Rob host. Pablito has a birthday and experiences connection. Our Guest: Aaron interviews our guest, Brant Hansen. Brant is an emcee, radio show host, author, hero, and philanthropist. He encourages removing the makeup from Jesus. Brant shares many stories of blessings, cures, love, and miracles. Debating the gift and blessings of time and financial contributions as he works with Cure to heal and equip the world. Links:   Cure Brant Hansen Book: Brant on Amazon Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, February 01, 2024

405 | Chuck Degroat | Understanding Narcissism

On this episode: Pablito and Rob bumper. Nate and Aaron may be striking or joining SAG. Pablito considers mug shots. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guest, Chuck Degroat. His experience includes: Professor of pastoral care and Christian Spirituality and Executive Director of the Clinical Mental Health Counseling Program at Western Theological Seminary in Holland Michigan, author, pastor, therapist, spiritual director, husband, and father. Narcissism expert Chuck teaches us about the differences between narcissist behavior and narcissistic personality disorder. He explains the nine faces of narcissism. Understanding how narcissism can be a way of coping with pain. Chuck also briefs us on the history of narcissism in the church and ways to heal and recover. Links:   Chuck Degroat Book: When Narcissism Comes to Church: Healing Your Community From Emotional and Spiritual Abuse Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, January 25, 2024

404 | George Wehby | Misguided Children Seeking Approval

On this episode: Pablito (Paul) and Rob share holiday memories, hope, and gratitude. Our Guest: Aaron Interviews our guest, George Wehby. Alabama born and raised, George has an impressive resume: Marine, police officer, air marshal, Brazilian jiu-jitsu black belt, business owner, tv show host, and tactical firearms instructor. He was basically a guy trying to find himself in stereotypical masculinity and earn his dad’s approval. George discusses the Man on Purpose Blueprint, a course that is designed both for those who are and who are not stereotypically “manly.” The course that helps you find purpose in personal, relational, and territorial parts of life. Links:   Man on Purpose Brother Bryan Mission Books: Shogun  by James Clavell Wild at Heart  by John Eldredge Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, January 18, 2024

403 | Roy Wooten | Honesty, Healing, and Community in the Present

On this episode: Nate goes to a s#xy place. Nate and Aaron talk about the purity culture, damaged goods and integrity in the journey. Our Guest: Roy Wooten is the executive director of The Crucible Project, pastor, minister, coach, and counselor. He shares how his adolescence and family mental health challenges have shaped his desire to help others in his career and ministry. Roy discusses athletics and his connection to the movie “Friday Night Lights.” His journey of wholeness and healing with the Crucible Project Christians retreat and how he leads and serves other men on their journeys through the same retreat. Roy invites us on our journey of authenticity, confession, healing, community, growth, and honesty in the present. Links:   The Crucible Project Dr. Juli Slattery: Authentic Intimacy Sponsor: Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, January 11, 2024

402 | Hilarie Cash | Understanding Technology Influences

On this episode: Nate and Aaron keep you a-bosom of Harbor House renovations. Our Guest: Dr. Hilarie Cash. Her experience includes: co-founder and chief clinical officer at ReStart Life, CSAT, author, internet rehab therapist, educator, and mother. Discussions include how the internet has changed over time to become more addictive, augmented reality and virtual reality, and the right vs. privilege of use. How screens override our natural tendencies of hunger and the need for restroom breaks. Dr. Hillarie also shares with us the down sides to internet/smartphone/computer usage too early in a child’s life. Resources to prevent or reverse the effects of internet related addictions and begin healthy interaction. Links:   Net Addiction Recovery reSTART Life Books: Facing Internet Technology & Gaming Addiction: A Gentle Path to Beginning Recovery from Internet and Video Game Addiction Video Games & Your Kids: How Parents Stay in Control iGen: The 10 Trends Shaping Today’s Young People - and the Nation Reset Your Child’s Brain Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, January 04, 2024

401 | Mark Mayfield | The Connection Between Mind, Body, and Spirit

IMPORTANT: In the original version of this episode, when our guest was discussing his suicide attempt, he stated that someone couldn't die from an overdose of Tylenol.  This is inaccurate, so we removed this statement.  If you are struggling with suicidal thoughts, please reach out to the National Suicide Hotline by dialing 988.   On this episode: hosted by Aaron and Tom (T.C.) Ryan. Aaron gets a heater, and Tom feels useful. Tom also discusses Living Integrated , which includes free resources and a 14-day intensive. Our Guest: Dr. Mark Mayfield. Mark is a leadership coach, counselor, professor, author, and speaker. In this episode, we get a deeper understanding of the meanings and differences between emotions and feelings. Discussing the difficult topic of suicide. The connection between mind, body, and spirit as a reflection of the Trinity. The fascinating connection between the brain and illness. Tips on working through anxiety. Consider what you are feeling instead of what you are thinking in difficult situations. Links:   Dr. Mark Mayfield Books: The Path to Wholeness: Managing Emotions, Finding Healing, & Becoming Our Best Selves The Path Out of Loneliness: Finding and Fostering Connection to God, & One Another Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, December 28, 2023

399 | Sam Serio | Putting People Above Beliefs and Ideology

On this episode: Pablito and Rob discuss burritos, other California food, and real estate. Our Guest: Nate Interviews our guest Sam Serio. Sam is a preacher, counselor, author, and speaker. In this episode, Sam discusses his book: Sensitive Preaching to the Sexual Hurting. He shares how he learned from his own failures. He teaches how to be invitational instead of condemnational. Sam advocates ministering to people instead of talking about topics. Links:   Healing Sexual Hurt Sam’s email Book: Sensitive Preaching to the Sexual Hurting Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, December 21, 2023

398 | Drew Boa | Making Sense of Triggers

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss the cocktail approach to recovery and provide some details of the Long Walk in England in June 2024. Our Guest: Drew Boa - podcaster, YouTuber, founder of Husband Material, and coach. Defining triggers, how they work, the temptations, and the flight/fight/freeze reactions. Listening to the story the trigger is telling, befriending the little boy in the story. How to address what I’m feeling without projecting it onto others. Surfing the urge; triggers have a lifespan; ride the wave. Understanding the dopamine path and how it can be rewritten in healthy ways. Understanding relapse with hope and love. Links:   Husband Material The Porn Free Man Conference 7-Pillars/Pure Desire Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, December 14, 2023

397 | Blaine Eldredge | Research, Struggle, and Pain

Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guest, Blaine Eldredge. Blaine, the middle son of a mix between Elijah the prophet and Willy Wonka. He tells us about how he accidentally wrote a book on his path to understand God. Blaine shares his journey of not being “enough” and learning his identity and security. Discussing the value of being an outsider vs. and insider, and how everyone is an outsider. Identifying yourself by where you belong, not where you don’t belong. Links:   Blaine Eldredge Books: The Paradise King Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, December 07, 2023

396 | Jonathan Daugherty | Invitation to the Recovery Lifestyle

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss the ups and downs of the holidays and encourage us to lean into community during these seasons. Our Guest: Jonathan Daugherty, founder and president of Be Broken Ministries, podcaster, and recovering addict. Be Broken Ministries includes help for men, women, and families. Jonathan shares his journey and need to start the ministry. The Story of how his wife left him and their marriage was able to be reconciled. Recovery is a process and journey, not a check box or destination. Encouragement that our stories are not to be solved, but to be shared. The challenge of mistaking abstinence for freedom. Reminders that this addiction and recovery is part of our entire life. Links:   Pure Life Academy Be Broken Ministries Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, November 30, 2023

395 | Victor Marx | Setting Captives Free

On this episode: Guest hosts Rob and Pablito reflect on the Samson Summit. They also debate the important issue of In-N-Out Burger vs. Whataburger. Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guest, Victor Marx. Victor is a survivor, veteran, husband, father, minister, and CEO of All Things Possible Ministries . He shares his stories of trauma and harm and how it has been turned around and used to help rescue over 45,000 people. His journey from “neutral emotions” to recovery including over 120 visits to trauma specialists in nine months. Addressing post-traumatic stress and PTSD. Asking yourself: am I healthy right now? Committing to actions because it is the right thing to do, not out of anger or hatred. Suggestions on how to keep kids safe. Discussing demonic strong holds. Sharing insights into the reality of the porn industry. Links:   Victor Marx Movies and Books: Triggered Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Sat, November 18, 2023

394 | Tod Bolsinger | The Leader is the Person Taking Responsibility

On this episode: Nate expresses gratitude and shares the role his wife played in starting the Samson Society. Aaron reflects on the Samson Summit and requests listeners to send in questions, experiences, and thoughts. Our Guest: Tod Bolsinger: former pastor, associate professor of leadership at De Pree Center, and author. Tod discusses what happens when old best practices no longer work, adaptive leadership. The differences between adaptive and technical leadership, learning in real time. The three hardest words in the English language: I don’t know. The fallacy of “fake it till you make it.” Encouraging people to be themselves and bring their strengths into leadership. Links:   AE Sloan Leadership Book: Canoeing the Mountains: Christian Leadership in Uncharted Territory Tempered Resilience: How Leaders are Formed in the Crucible of Change Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, November 16, 2023

393 | Sheila Paige Harkins | The Therapy of Art

On this episode: Nate and Aaron give Halloween updates. Our Guest: Sheila Paige Harkins is a missionary kid, missionary, artist, and author. She shares her story of missions, marriage, adoption and how life happened in those events. She cautions about giving more energy to her husband's healing than he was giving. The damages of “trickle disclosure” and why it happens. Sheila took to the therapy of painting to heal, release, and understand her relationship with God.  She helps answer another Question from Albuquerque about women with porn addiction and is masturbation okay. Links: Sheila’s website Email:  sheilaharkins.place@gmail.com Book: Healing, One Brushstroke at a Time Insta: a.painting.sojourner  Donation link:  www.worldoutreach.org/943   Other Books Mentioned: Love Sense by Sue Johnson How to Stay Married by Harrison Scott Key Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, November 09, 2023

392 | Jenna Riemersma | IFS: Compassion, Not Control

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss how to deal with relapse including gentleness and curiosity. Our Guest: Jenna Riemersma is an IFS therapist and author of Altogether You. She explains how Internal Family System therapy practices work to help their clients. Jenna leads us though a very powerful exercise to examine, understand, and grow related to our escaping behavior. Understanding authentic-self-led power versus manager-led power. Links:   Jenna Riemersma's Website Altogether You Book Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, November 02, 2023

391 | Carver Brown | Making Amends

On this episode: Nate, Aaron and guest host Elijah Lloyd Jones cure all that ails you, explaining how to cast your burdens on Christ. Also, be careful “shoulding” on yourself. Our Guest: Carver Brown is a recovery coach, recovery coach trainer, structured family recovery counselor, love first interventionists, and Life Works coach. He comes to us with over 20 years of sober experience. Carver reminds us that recovery is messy, we will mess up, but we are getting better. He walks us through the four types of amends and how to do them, as well as some mistakes and limitations. Carver also shares about leading groups of people through the 12-steps in a day. Links:   AA Back to Basics Carver Brown Email Carver Brown at Life Works Carver Brown Journey Through The 12 Steps Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, October 26, 2023

390 | Bruce Hebel | Forgiveness: Applying the What of Jesus

On this episode: Nate and Aaron skip the intro and get right to the interview. Our Guest: Dr. Bruce Hebel is an author, pastor, pastor's kid, and speaker. He brings the freedom of the gospel through forgiveness, revolutionary transformative change. Bruce discusses why it's important to forgive, citing that it can help relieve depression, anxiety, paranoia, and addiction. The choice we have to forgive or hold grudges. Bruce discusses the 7-step process of forgiveness and healing. He shares stories of change and hope. Reminding us that forgiveness is not reconciliation or trust but can lead to both. Links:   Bruce Hebel Book: Forgive Forward Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, October 19, 2023

389 | Andy Gullahorn | It’s About the Journey, Not the Destination

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss delight in walking alongside others and seeing their growth and first-time experiences. Our Guest: Andy Gullahorn, singer/songwriter, musician, and musical guest at the 2023 Samson Summit in Van TX. Andy is also nearly an O.G. Samson brother! Discussing the benefits of sobriety, including creativity, being in your own body physically and emotionally, vulnerability, and the value of the recovery experience. Andy guides us to honor the experiences of what actually happened. Also discussed are sarcasm and the song writing process. Links:   Andy Gullahorn Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, October 12, 2023

388 | Rebekah Vickery | I Feel...But the Bible…

On this episode: Nate and Aaron answer questions about patience in recovery, and speculate about Paul maybe wanting to wack off. Our Guest: Rebekah Vickery: Therapist, Allender Center trained, and Trauma Specialist. Rebekah shares her work concerning church and sexual trauma. Discussing the fault of spiritual bypass: ignoring the situation, feelings, what’s wrong, and focusing on religion. Sharing the importance of connecting to others to repair shame. Repairing “purity culture”: learning to (re)connect to your body, hunger, and feelings. The importance of Trader Joe's tissues. Links:   Heart Root Rebekah’s email Sponsor: Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, October 05, 2023

387 | Phil Dvorak | Connecting the Gospel to the Addict

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discussing grieving and wailing, one step at time. Q from A: Why is it important to have separate men's and women’s sex addiction recovery groups? Our Guest: Phil Dvorak: pastor, therapist, clinical director and church planter. Considering “Night of Joy” vs. “MTV Spring Break.” Phil discusses his journey to and from alcoholism. The importance of community, coming clean, and mentorship. The story of how recovery and Christ were integrated to start Recovery Church about 12 years ago. Links:   Recovery Church Movement Phil Dvorak Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, September 28, 2023

386 | Adam Young | What If There’s Nothing Wrong with You?

On this episode: Nate and Aaron are in the ionosphere speculating. Q from A:   How much detail is appropriate to disclose to your spouse? Our Guest: Adam Young: author, therapist, speaker and podcaster. Adam talks about writing his upcoming book: Your Life Makes Sense. When we are not connected emotionally, interpersonally, and emotionally, we isolate, our brain fragments, and we tend to do whatever it takes to get peace in our bodies, frequently in addiction. Discussing attunement, and parents who don’t respond to their child’s emotions, orphaning them. Healing (recovery) includes grieving and feeling unfelt feelings, in the safety of another person. The human heart cannot heal with a cup of coffee, Bible, Journal, and a good view out the window. Links: Adam Young Sponsor: Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity Annual Retreat (featuring Adam Young): 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, September 21, 2023

385 | Jason Mathew | A New Type of Accountability App

On this episode: Aaron is back with updates. Aaron introduces his new jingle. Questions from Albuquerque:  I'm lying in bed and can't sleep and I know that acting out will "fix" the problem.  What do I do? Our Guest: Jason Mathew: founder of Lead Me Not accountability software. Jason shares his story of porn, fantasy, and dating apps and his need for digital-wellness. The app tracks trends, sends alerts, syncs with calendars, promotes reflection, and introspection. It focuses on high levels of security for the user and partners while helping to maintain boundaries on Androids and ChromeBooks. Links:   jason@leadmenot.org Lead Me Not Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, September 14, 2023

384 | Laura Connell | You Are On Your Side

On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman talk about kids leaving the house and becoming P.O.R.K. Our Guest: Laura Connell: author and trauma informed coach. Laura discusses how adverse childhood experiences (A.C.E. test) affect life expectancy and how to get those years back. She talks about how self-sabotage relates to childhood trauma. How willpower is not enough to stop self-sabotage from trauma. Other topics include reparenting and self-parenting, not being the victim while acknowledging the players in your story, and how to discover your identity while in healing and recovery. Links:  Laura Connell Books: Its Not Your Fault: The Subconscious Reasons We Self-Sabotage and How to Stop Guest Host: Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity , We Got Balls , The Mirror Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, September 07, 2023

383 | Mari Lee | There Is No Addiction Without Trauma

On this episode: Nate and guest host Tom Moucka discuss the difference between a therapist, coach, and Silas. Our Guest: Mari Lee: author, speaker, therapist, CSAT, trained in Gottman, betrayal trauma, complex trauma, sexual addiction and recovery, EMDR, and mindfulness based therapy. Mari discusses how her pain became her passion. We don’t have to live in the past, but the past lives in us. She explains the importance of disclosure in creating trust when working with couples and individuals. For some, the clinical relationship may be the first relationship where there is healthy attachment in an individual's life. Discussing that divorce is OK. Other topics include: shame, polyamory, LGBTQI, and throwing onion dip. Links:   Growth Counseling Services The Counselors Coach Books: Facing Heartbreak Workbook In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Maté Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, August 31, 2023

382 | Michael Barta | Deprivation Trauma & Intimacy Disorder

On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman discuss the awesomeness of Rob Chenoweth, retreats and new podcasts. Our Guest: Dr. Michael Barta: author, psychologist, therapist, CSAT, and 12-stepper. Michael discusses how to treat “what’s causing the rash” -- going deeper beyond the symptoms. Digging into the intimacy disorder, learning to co-regulate in community. The lack of stability, emotional security and mental safety that leads to the inability to regulate. An environment where mistakes are ok and not punished creates authenticity. Michael also discusses how the external trauma becomes about us. Links:   Dr. Michael Barta Books: TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction Guest Host: Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity , We Got Balls , The Mirror Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, August 24, 2023

381 | Michelle Mays | Recovery is a Rodeo

On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman update everyone on Aaron and Erin Our Guest: Michelle Mays: author, counselor and innovator. Michelle guides couples through healing and recovery from betrayal. Helping couples understand betrayal through attachment. She reminds us of the four attachment styles and how they affect both partners before and during recovery. Michelle also defines the three core injuries that happen to the betrayed partner. Contact and Book: Michelle Mays Guest Host: Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity , We Got Balls , The Mirror Upcoming events: Pure Desire Conference 2023 Samson Annual Retreat Sponsor: Life Works Counseling   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, August 17, 2023

380 | Nate Geyer | When Being a Good Boy Doesn’t Work

On this episode: Aaron and guest-host/guest Nate Geyer discuss everything from Birkenstocks to stocks. Our Guest: Nate Geyer works for Begin Again Institute as an LPC and CSATC. He comes from a background of education as well as lots of personal experience. Nate shares his journey of therapy and story work to find healing and recovery. He discusses how he started at four years old and felt like just scenery in his own house. Sharing feelings of guilt while having done nothing wrong. Also sharing his successes as he finds healing in connection and intimacy. Links:   Begin Again Institute Boulder Recovery Institute Nate’s Email Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, August 10, 2023

379 | Kervins Clement | The Importance of YOUR Story in Recovery and Growth

On this episode: Aaron and guest host Rob discuss Soul Architecture and how it works. Nate is still on a cruise. Our Guest: Kervins Clement: therapist CSAT, PHD candidate, husband, former sex addict. Kervins shares how growing up as a black Haitian immigrant impacted his addiction and recovery. Embracing ADHD and dyslexia, athletics, Young Life, community, crime, and sharing secrets. Identifying your struggle to learn to fight like hell. The importance of understanding your family and sharing your story with your kids. Kervins stresses the importance of community and letting others into your story as part of healing and growth. Links:   Lewisville Family Counseling kervinsclement@yahoo.com Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, August 03, 2023

378 | Jonathan Merritt | How to Let Your Heart Grow

On this episode: Aaron and guest host Rob discuss breaking down walls and curiosity about others’ stories. Nate is on a cruise. Our Guest: Jonathan Merritt is an author, journalist, coach, and speaker. Learning to understand how news and opinion differ and how they change the reader. Embracing and investigating fear. Not allowing fear to tear us apart, especially when considering fear and faith. Are you covering fear with joy? Learning to investigate the stories of fear in your life as you grow. Jonathan guides us through engaging in healthy discussion and debate. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Links:   Jonathan Merritt Books: Learning to Speak God From Scratch Learning to Walk in the Dark Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, July 27, 2023

377 | Mary Archibeque | Intimacy vs Intensity

On this episode: Aaron with an A and Erin with an E host while Nate is in Alaska. Our Guest: Mary Archibeque - addiction therapist and CSAT. Recovered drug addict turned drug addiction therapist, then gambling addiction therapist, and finally sex addiction therapist. Connecting to others through vulnerability and authenticity; no one cares what you know if they don’t know you care. You can’t care or work harder than the person you are helping. Intensity is a version of false intimacy or trauma bonding. Intimacy should be peaceful. Ask questions to determine if you replaced an addiction with a “healthier” addiction or if you are living healthy. Doing what’s healthy vs. what’s familiar. Links:   Mary at Psychology Today Mary at the Center for Relationship and Healthy Sexuality Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, July 20, 2023

376 | Stephen McWhirter | Every Story Has a Purpose

On this episode: Nate fixes wiring. Aaron is stranded at home. They discuss emotions in the church and the shortcomings of online friends. Our Guest: Stephen McWhirter - musician, minister, husband, and father. Stephen shares his story of being a preacher's kid and recovered drug addict. Your story [of healing] matters. Jesus didn’t heal people the same way twice. Jesus is real, despite your experiences. Stories of redemption. Everyone has emotions. Everything is trying to emotionally manipulate you. What are you going to tune into? Links: Stephen McWhirter Books: The Case for Christ Sponsor: Life Works Counseling Annual Retreat: 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, July 13, 2023

375 | Zachary Wagner | New Testament Masculinity

On this episode: Nate and Aaron don’t have time for buffoonery. Our Guest: Zachary Wagner, an American in England, writer, researcher, and ordained minister. We look at how was Jesus’ masculinity shaped the narratives of the church. Understanding myths about the need for sex. Replacing the purity paradigm with learning. Turning immature image of sex into mature understanding. Discussing sexual abuse crisis in culture and the church. Reflecting on how Jesus had intimate, nonsexual, relationships with both males and females. Links: Book:  Non-Toxic Masculinity , Contact:  Zachary Wagner Sponsor: Lifeworks Counseling and Coaching Events: 48 Hours of Frankness - Colorado Samson Summit   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, July 06, 2023

374 | Cathy Loerzel | Transitions in Life

On this episode: Nate and Aaron are back from England. Aaron has realizations and understands his feet. And a mysterious guest host is on the show. Our Guest: Cathy Loerzel:, author, coach, speaker, wife, and mother. Cathy, Co-founder of the Allender Center, talks about her next steps in life. Discussing loyalty and false loyalty: staying due to fear of being alone. Francis Weller’s premise of grief: “everything you love will die”. Growing when there wasn’t a plan B, while honoring and grieving your past. God calls us to spiritual and emotional maturity. Finding community with other survivors. Links: Contact, Coaching, Speaking, etc. Books: The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred work of Grief Sponsor: Lifeworks Counseling and Coaching Events: 48 Hours of Frankness - Colorado Samson Summit   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, June 29, 2023

373 | Craig Cashwell | Spiritual Bypass

On this episode: Aaron has end of high school anxiety. Nate is old enough to have a grandchild graduating college. Our Guest: Dr. Craig Cashwell is a professor at William and Mary College and trauma counselor. Competent and ethical integration of spirituality into the counseling process. Understanding spiritual bypass. What you resist, persists. Discussing “need shame” and toxic positivity. Underneath anger is fear. Undoing gender stereotypes. You can’t be real with a partner if you aren’t real with self. “We are all on the hot mess express!” Once you are real, you can’t be ugly except to those people that don’t understand. The courage to be vulnerable. Links: Bio and contact The Harbor 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, June 22, 2023

372 | Ron Williams | A Pirate Monk’s Story

On this episode: Aaron paints a challenging image of himself. Nate engineers again. Both discuss medicating with work. Our Guest: Ron Williams: a pirate monk and coach shares his story that landed him in prison; the healing and hope that resulted; how his experiences have helped himself and other men grow; helping churches with their internal policies related to sex offenders. Links: Ron's coaching site,   Ron's email 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, June 15, 2023

371 | Blaine Hogan | Re-Integrating

On this episode: Aaron unfriends on facebook. Nate listens to a new book. Our Guest: Blaine Hogan: actor, director, author, husband, and father. You know you have succeeded as a parent, if your kids go to therapy for different reasons than you did. You can’t understand where you are going, if you don’t know where you have been. Free people free people! Composing your future is much like composing a song. Understanding your past, future, and present using narrative therapy. Renewing of the mind, seeing through a new filter. Your stains becoming your greatest strengths. Your stories are epic. Links: Blaine Hogan Book: Exiting the Cave Book: No More Mr. Nice Guy 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Wed, June 07, 2023

370 | Sam Black | The Healing Church

On this episode: Aaron markets the virtues of living in a sauna and learns about FOMO. Nate reads 6 books on an Alaskan cruise. Our Guest: Sam Black: a pirate monk, meeting host, author, journalist, and reporter. Sam educates pastors and church leaders on understanding pornography addiction, how it happens, early exposure, trauma and drama, and the volume of males and females consuming. How sharing your story opens the door to others opening up and sharing their stories. Explaining how Covenant Eyes uses AI to increase effectiveness and accountability reporting. Links: churchsupport@covenanteyes.com Covenant Eyes Books:  Healing Church,   The Porn Circuit Victory App:  Apple ,  Android 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, June 01, 2023

369 | Pascale Wright | Remember Your Story

On this episode: Nate and Aaron have a boring intro. Discussing cutting the grass and weather. Our Guest: Pascale Wright: facilitator, clinical and pastoral counselor. Giving an event a safe space. Where was God? Communing over shared suffering, we must have community to heal. It is important to go back and address “stuckness,” even if there is no major traumatic event. Forgive yourself first, to forgive others more deeply. Links: marriage intensives and contact info 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, May 25, 2023

368 | John Eldredge | Pursuing Whole-Heartedness

On this episode: Aaron is excited and gets to shop. Nate will pop in. Our Guest: John Eldredge: author, counselor, minister, husband, and father. Be cautious of the cascade effects of trauma. How to practice benevolent detachment and release. You can have freedom or control, control kills. Anxiety and depression rise in direct correlation to the use of social media and news. Be intentional! Links: Wild at Heart, Books, podcast, App 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, May 18, 2023

367 | Russ Johnson | Rethinking Church

On this episode: Nate and Aaron provide updates and ask for help on “the redneck frat house” (The Harbor). Our Guest: Russ Johnson: former pastor, consultant, podcaster, author, husband, and father. Sharing the good news. If it can be quantified, it can be faked. “You are held by a love that will never let you go!” Allowing those you minister to determine the direction they need to go. The problem is never in the mirror, it's the “thems”. Links: Contact, Podcast, Call, etc. 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, May 11, 2023

366 | Paula Jauch | Cross-Addicted: Breaking Free from Trauma and Addiction

On this episode: Nate - McCreary’s Pub is stalking him. Aaron - own your own share. Our Guest: Paula Jauch, speaker, podcaster, trauma overcomer, survivor, author, wife, and mom. Overcoming with 2 addicted parents, eating disorder, addiction, gangs, and more. “Trauma is the greatest mission field of the 21st century, but the most misunderstood.” “Water seeks its own level."  "Your picker is broken.”  Links:   Website, Contact, Podcast,  Book 2023 Samson Annual Retreat   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, May 04, 2023

365 | Cathy Loerzel | Trusting in Marriage and Story Work

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss the first ever event at the Harbor House. Our Guest: Cathy Loerzel: Co-founder of the Allender Center, author, urban farmer, coach, speaker, wife, mother. “Every single person causes harm, every single person causes delight.” Continue learning despite what degree you do or don’t have. Moving from danger to beauty. Links:  Contact, Coaching, Speaking, etc. Books: Redeeming Heartache , Brain Talk   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, April 27, 2023

364 | John Pulley | Understanding and Preventing Human Trafficking

On this episode:  Nate and Aaron reach into their sack and pull something out, answering mail. Our Guest: John Pulley, consultant. Vengeance is easier than grace. “I touched my wiener, so God can no longer love me.” The church has an honesty problem. “How’s your heart doing?” Learning to open up in a safe and healthy environment. There are consequences for your actions, even under grace. Links:  John Pulley   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, April 20, 2023

363 | Jarrett Samuels | Developing Friendships

On this episode: Nate continues to have low quality internet. Aaron discourages WEeing on each other. Our Guest: Jarrett Samuels, minister, podcaster, husband, father, friend. What is a man? All men are insecure and emotional. Becoming who God created us to be. Your presence matters. Taking Responsibility. Community not innovation. Links:   Contact, Podcast, Events, Tribe, Etc.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, April 13, 2023

362 | Mo Isom Aiken | Helping Women Realize They Aren’t Alone

On this episode: Nate enjoys Amelia Island with his grandkids. Aaron has an indefinite future. Our Guest: Mo Isom is an athlete, author, speaker, home coming queen, and LSU grad. She discusses growing up in a home with a sex addict. Childhood exposure to p*rn that started a 10 year addiction. How much can I get away with and not go to hell?. Healthy Sexual Conversation for Women and Families. Links:  Books, contact, speaking, other resources   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, April 06, 2023

361 | Jason George | Learning Good, Healthy Pleasure & Replacement in Community

On this episode: Nate inquires about Aaron’s home repair updates. Aaron preaches about fake fruit. Our Guest: Jason George: minister, podcaster, life coach, husband, and dad. Jason shares his story of growing up in a broken family including abuse, being raised by siblings, early p*rn exposure and addiction. He also discusses being kinda Christian. Even believers can fall back into sin. Healing takes community. Learning good healthy pleasure and replacement. It's important to replace, not just stop doing an unhealthy thing. I’m one step away from stupid. Links: The Griz Podcast ,  Narrow Trail   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, March 30, 2023

360 | Joe Ryan | Having Compassion for Yourself

On this episode: Nate confesses his love for WhataBurger, and Aaron fills his jugs at his neighbors house. Our Guest: Joe Ryan. Podcaster, coach, Italian and Irish, New Yorker, former bartender and comedian. Sober from drugs and alcohol. Joe hosts a podcast: Its Not You, Its Your Trauma. Owning your actions and apologizing. Having Compassion for yourself. Links: Joe Ryan:  Podcast, Youtube, Instagram, Contact, Coachin g Book:  The Body Keeps the Score   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, March 23, 2023

359 | Brody Holloway | Shared Experiences Strengthen Relationships

On this episode: Aaron is getting his home repaired. Nate holds Aaron accountable for going to England on The Path Retreat . Nate invites you to go on the Path Retreat too (deadline for signup Mar 31, 2023). Our Guest: Brody Holloway, co-founder and lead pastor of Snowbird Wilderness Outfitters in Andrews, NC. Adrenaline and fear break down walls. Shared experiences are critical for leading and investing in others. Sin management versus holiness. To live in Jesus is to live in the purity effect. Links:  Snowbird Outfitters Book:  Life Together by: Dietrich Bonhoeffer   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, March 16, 2023

358 | Wendell Moss | Working Through Racial Trauma

On this episode: Nate is home, energized, and has internet. Aaron announces all the announcements. Our Guest: Wendell Moss: therapist, minister, educator, and speaker. There is not always a side to take - just listen. Sometimes the response to abuse is more abusive than the abuse itself. My feast will never fulfill you. Upcoming Events: 48 hours of Frankness (Illinois) , Walking The Path in England (June 11-17, 2023) Links: Wendell at the Seattle School of Theology & Psychology ,  Wendell at the Allender Center   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, March 09, 2023

357 | Robby Angle | Growing in Relationships, as God Designed Us

On this episode: Aaron and Justin answer a listener's letter and offer support. Nate has junk internet in Florida. ***Silas training April 15, 2023. Look for more info soon.*** Our Guest: Robert Bruce Angle III, president & CEO, counselor, minister, achiever, striver, @$$hole, type A and enneagram 8. Former director and expert of small groups. We commonly experience love to the degree we can trust. Love: giving and receiving of needs being met. What love does: sees, soothes, is safe, is secure. Protecting weaknesses and supporting strengths. Relationship with God is not about doing. I am not useful to God, but I am delightful. God has designed us to grow through the context of relationships. Three steps in building relationships. Ask the next question, and the one behind that one too. Links: Contact, books, and other resources Our guest this week was booked via The Expert Bookers www.expertbookers.com . If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, March 02, 2023

356 | Duane Osterlind | Healing Doesn’t Happen in Isolation

On this episode: Aaron tells an embarrassing story of his maturity. Justin takes his kids to the park. Our Guest: Duane Osterlind, therapist, podcaster, and husband. Duane brings many years of personal and professional experience to the addiction recovery community. When listening to others, the reply is never: “its worse for someone else”. Compassion for the human. We heal through the eyes of others; we need others to see us and lets us know its ok. You can be confused and have hope. The world needs the compassionate and the @$$holes. Links: Contact and podcast   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, February 23, 2023

355 | Sathiya Sam | Prevention, Community, and Daily Recovery

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss the truths behind the 1985 book:  Amusing Ourselves to Death . Our guest: Sathiya Sam, coach, author, podcaster, preacher’s kid. “If you are unaware, you cannot repair.” There’s no faith without unbelief. Knowledge is potential; knowledge with action is where real power comes from. He who is most vulnerable, heals the quickest. Learning to articulate your inner life. Prevention: confess a temptation before needing to confess a mistake. Community doesn’t bring change, it sustains it. Links: The Last Relapse Book Unleash The Man Within Podcast:  Podbean ,  Apple   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, February 16, 2023

354 | Jean Masukevich | Guided Meditation

On this episode: Our THREE hosts: Erin, Nate, and Aaron. Erin takes a break from a road trip. Nate has a prophecy. Aaron gets butt dials. Our guest: Jean Masukevich, mom, yogi, spiritual director, trauma informed. Topics: Enjoy a guided relaxation exercise and meditation. Learning to connect the body to the mind. Listening to your body and responding with love. “What are you running from, and what are you running toward?” Links: Sow That ,  email   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, February 09, 2023

353 | Michael Basta | Using Science to Grow Relationships

On this episode:  Nate and Aaron discuss God’s will. Our Guest: Michael Basta, clinical social worker, certified Gottman method couples' therapist. Michael conveys hope for relationships, using science. History can predict the future of the relationship, but it is not set in stone. We can change the future, despite past wounds and trauma. The Four Horseman of the apocalypse, and the nine factors of relationship success. Forming a culture of appreciation. Links: Michael Basta The Gottman Institute Books: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work What Makes Love Last?   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, February 02, 2023

352 | Quincee Gideon | Working Through Religious Trauma

On this episode: McCreary’s follows Nate around. Aaron watches Hallmark movies. Our guest: Dr. Quincee Gideon, clinical psychologist. Topics discussed: Loading the language: creating language inside a group that separates and excludes. Being safe within yourself. Religious trauma, denial of human experience. Stepping into a larger life that isn’t filtered, or second guessed, is grander, is at peace, and is safer. Feeling generally safe within your body, relationships, and environment. Sharing specifics with the correct audience. Contact info:  https://www.quinceegideon.com/ ,  tiktok ,  instagram   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, January 26, 2023

351 | Marnie Ferree | Hope for All Parties in Recovery

On this episode: Nate prepared for the greatest thanksgiving dinner of his life. Aaron loses 12 pounds. Our Guest: Marnie C. Ferree, recovering addict, director of Bethesda Workshop, therapist (CSAT, IITAP). Topics include: Reframing hope. Expertise, in helping others, from experience. It's never a bad thing to re-up with God. “Despite all the pain, anger, grief, I’m living my best life.” The importance of support systems. Women in sexual recovery (too). Bethesda Workshops, resources, and contact: Marnie C. Ferree   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, January 19, 2023

350 | Dr. Juli Slattery | Equipping Husbands and Wives to bring out the Strengths of their Spouse

On this episode:   Nate has a full house.  Aaron shares expertise on Autobots and Decepticons. Our Guest: Dr. Juli Slattery, clinical psychologist, mom, wife, author, follower of Christ.  God puts the resources in place when we follow His calling. God has given husbands and wives unique areas of power, and they are based on needs and desires. None of this is control, it is power; Influence, not control. The zone of power is understanding your spouse's needs. Hardness of heart will kill marriage and relationship with the Lord. The 4 pillars of a healthy marriage: faithfulness, intimate knowing, sacrificial giving, passionate celebration. There is always hope; God loves to breathe life into dead things. Books, resources, and contact: Dr. Juli Slattery Other Resources:  Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas Rosenau   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, January 12, 2023

349 | Alex Avila | How to Have Intimate Conversations

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about their favorite kitchen gadgets and go-to meals. Our Guest:  Author, Relationship Counselor, Speaker, Teacher Topics include: Listening is loving, hearing vs. listening, Emotional safety, evaluating trust. Listening: creating intimacy in a relationship. Learning what emotional intimacy looks like. What does it feel like to be connected? Intimacy specifics for males and females. Reflecting on what you are saying no to when you say yes to something else. Books: Emotional Safety: Honoring Yourself While Creating Trust and Presence to Experience Meaningful Relationships 40 Forms of Intimacy: Integrating Daily Connection Into Your Couple Relationship Three Thoughts Couple Devotional: Engaging the Power of Our Minds and Hearts to Cultivate a Lifestyle of Intimacy If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, January 05, 2023

348 | Andrew Susskind | Not Just Putting the Plug in the Jug

On this episode: Nate cleans before the house cleaner arrives. Aaron knew a fella. Our Guest: Andrew Susskind, clinical social worker, therapist, author, podcaster, and blogger. Discussion includes: not just sobriety, finding life. Reclaiming childhood longings. “Social media is basically lite porn,” or other ways we escape. Sexual blueprint, sexual health and sexual discussion. More connection and less shame. The masculinity of yearning. Book: Its Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Addiction Andrew Susskind’s:  contact, podcast, blog, practice .   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Tue, December 27, 2022

347 | Tullian Tchividjian | The Gospel Is For Christians Too

On this episode: Nate is concerned about getting his @ss kicked. Aaron draws conclusions with Disney’s Pocahontas. Encouraged by the relapses of the saints. When and what qualifies you in ministry with returning guest Tullian Tchividjian. “If we aren’t attracting the same people as Jesus attracted, we aren’t preaching the same message Jesus preached.” The Sanctuary Church, Jupiter, FL Fallen and Free Conference Feb. 17-19, 2023   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Sat, December 17, 2022

346 | Andrew Bauman | Becoming a Kung-Fu Master

On this episode: Aaron interrogates Nate. Nate sings a very heartfelt song. The guys talk to guest Andrew Bauman, speaker, therapist, writer, and author. “The owning of your *ssholeness doesn’t lead to toxic shame. It leads to humility not humiliation.” How to define narcissism. Addressing couples work AFTER a lengthy period of sobriety. Andrew J. Bauman Book:  How Not to Be an *ss: Essays on Becoming a Good & Safe Man Film:  A Brave Lament Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Wed, December 07, 2022

345 | George Bitar | Creating Patterns that Align with a Couple’s Goals

On this episode: Nate feels gratitude. Aaron remembers a super cool smoking trick learned during Shakespearean acting classes. The guys have a deep discussion with George Bitar about healthy couples' communication despite traumatic backgrounds. Learning to discuss disconnection cues and trigger moments in emotionally focused couples therapy work. How to repair and reconnect. Feeling delight and joy in the relationship. Tapping into emotions to point to our needs and values. Providing hope for healing and growth emotionally. https://connectcouplestherapy.com/ Books: Hold Me Tight The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Other Resources: https://www.thisamericanlife.org/261/the-sanctity-of-marriage/act-one-1 https://connectcouplestherapy.com/are-you-a-pursuer-withdrawer-or-a-bit-of-both/ http://carolinaeft.com/pdf/Where_Does_Love_Go_Wrong.pdf <a href='https://nam04.safelinks.protection.outlook.com/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.gottman.com%2Fblog%2Fwhat-is-the-sound-relationship-house%2F&data=05%7C01%7Csdparks%40liberty.edu%7C76f

Sun, November 27, 2022

344 | Chris Bruno | Becoming the Sage

On this episode: Aaron caps that. Nate shops Amazon. The guys interview Chris Bruno, counselor and author of Sage: A Man's Guide into His Second Passage  and  Man Maker Project: Boys are Born. Men are Made.  Nate shares his experiences from the Italian Samson retreat. “The task of the second passage, is to find the boy within the man, and bring him home.” “When we are hijacked in this phallic state, we are not looking for sex, we are looking for connection.” “The more we dissociate, the more it’s a flight from the goodness of God.” "It's not because the sage knows all the answers to all of the things. The sage is not a sage because he has good advice."     If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, November 17, 2022

343 | Nate & Aaron | Live from the Samson Retreat

Q&A How did Jason Gray get chosen as the musical guest? Any worries about losing the mission of the Samson Society with the scope of ministry expanding? Can we have some focus for single guys at the next retreat? What alternate format meetings have you seen that have been successful? How do you handle a situation where someone abuses your trust or vulnerability within Samson? How can I cast a vision for a Samson group for guys who are not necessarily dealing with sexual brokenness? Is there a place or need for a "group conscience meeting" in the context of Samson? How can I discern when it's time to make a change in my recovery plan? Is there a place for women who need something like Samson Society? Are there materials available for how to be a Silas? Where can fathers whose children also deal with addiction connect to share and encourage each other? How can we better incorporate Marco Polo in our community? If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Mon, November 07, 2022

Episode 342 * Opening Eyes and Freeing Lives w/ Ian Henderson

"Porn is like the junk food of healthy sex and relationships." Aaron and Rob interview Ian Henderson, founder of the Naked Truth Project . about how he got involved in this work of opening eyes and freeing lives from the damages of porn. While Naked Truth is based in Manchester, UK, they work with people all over the world.  The "open eyes" aspect focuses on education to combat the normalization of porn by presenting in schools and elsewhere to raise awareness of the dangers of porn.  The "freeing lives" portion focuses on those who have already been trapped in addiction, and also help for their partners.  The work goes well beyond just stopping the behavior, moving individuals to healthy growth and reclaiming what was lost.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Thu, October 27, 2022

Episode 341 * The Disease of Family Dysfunction w/ Andrea Ashley

Nate and Aaron interview Andrea Ashley, host of the Adult Child podcast , about the trauma of growing up in a dysfunctional alcoholic family, the maladaptive coping mechanisms she chose, such as alcohol and unhealthy dating relationships, and her path to recovery.    If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Mon, October 17, 2022

Episode 340 * Happy, Joyous and Free w/ Juris S

Nate and Aaron interview Juris S, author of Happy, Joyous and Free: One Man's Journey and Guide to Ultimate Spiritual Health .  Topics include: bullying, alcoholism, and integration of faith and recovery.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Fri, October 07, 2022

Episode 339 * Couple-Centered Recovery w/ Jake Porter

"I want to empower my partner to show up freely, not disempower her by withholding data that might affect the choices she makes and how she shows up." "If you don't have a shared understanding of the past, you cannot have a shared trajectory for the future." "The human brain is wired so that even a perceived threat to a primary attachment relationship registers as a survival issue." We welcome Jake Porter of Daring Ventures to the show.  Topics include: secondary addictions, couple-centered recovery, the importance of attachment, and power imbalance in the relationship. ( jake@daringventures.com )   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Wed, September 28, 2022

Episode 338 * Addiction and Attachment w/ Michael Cusick

We welcome back a great friend of the show, Michael Cusick to talk about trauma, whether addiction exists, and attachment in all areas of life.  You can also check out more about Michael's Restoring The Soul Weekend Intensive .   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Sat, September 17, 2022

Episode 337 * Growing Up in Recovery w/ Roe Hunter

"You cannot become masculine until it's given to you." Aaron and Justin have a fun conversation with Roe Hunter, therapist and son of previous guest, Roane Hunter ( Episode 330 ).  We get to hear the other side of the story as they discuss topics like forgiveness and repair, family recovery, the critical nature of brotherhood, and the transition to manhood.  (Note: the episode that Aaron referenced with Scott Dente is actually Episode 115 .) For more on Roe's practice, visit https://lifeworks.ms/roe-hunter-lpc-csat To sign up for the Virtual Samson Retreat on Dec 8-9, 2022, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-virtual-retreat-dec-2022 .   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com . The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House .

Sat, September 03, 2022

Episode 336 * The Skill of Attuned Listening w/ Adam Young

Nate and Aaron have a fascinating conversation on topics of Story, Attachment, and Attunement with Adam Young , therapist and host of "The Place We Find Ourselves" podcast.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Tue, August 23, 2022

Episode 335 * Bringing Light to the Darkness in our Story w/ Tony Ingrassia

"We have this work to do with God around our stories, around our hurt and our pain...Every person is in the pain management business whether they know it or not...If I don't have a relationship and walk with God where I can process that hurt and pain in a healthy way - an appropriate, truthful, redemptive, kingdom way - then I process my pain in unhealthy ways...We learned to use sex as a primary pain management tool of our life...using sex to seek emotional equilibrium." Nate and Aaron drop some big news about a couple of exciting happenings within the Samson House community that you won't want to miss. Then they welcome guest Tony Ingrassia of The Power of Purity ministry, who shares his story of the practical importance of the gospel in community.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Sat, August 13, 2022

Episode 334 * The Resolution Movement w/ Ben Bennett

"We want to Re-Solution people with Biblically-based, research-informed answers to their  hurts and struggles." The guys open the show with a great discussion about the importance of knowing and sharing our stories in community. Then guest Ben Bennett shares his story of faith, multiple addictions and the solutions that he has found.  You can learn more about Ben and his ministry at resolutionmovement.org .   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Wed, July 27, 2022

Episode 333 * Sobriety is Not the Goal w/ Eli Machen

"We're shoving more knowledge into our heads and we're becoming more and more stupid. There's just no inner wisdom." Nate, Chris and Aaron have a great visit with guest Eli Machen, one of the pioneers in sex addiction recovery, as they discuss sobriety and its role in recovery, understanding the truths we already know, and how to rebuild trust in relationship. You can access Eli's videos on the Show Up 365 channel on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Showup365 .   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Mon, July 18, 2022

Episode 332 * The Prisonhouse of Shame w/ Scotty Smith

"I don't know of a more discombobulating, imprisoning power on the earth than shame. To me, shame is personalized demonization." "Here's the good news: When you really get the proper diagnosis, Grace becomes all the sweeter. You're never going to shock the Father. You may know 4% of your sin - He's taken on the other 96% as well." We've got another Pirate Monk roundtable with Nate, Chris, Rob and Justin on the topic of emotional triggers, followed by an interview with a man who played a key role in the founding of the Samson Society - Scotty Smith.  Nate and Scotty have a great conversation about Shame, Grace, and Healing. You can connect with Scotty at https://twitter.com/scottywardsmith and https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/scotty-smith/ .   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Fri, July 08, 2022

Episode 331 * Healing Our Language w/ Jason Gray

We start the episode with a Pirate Monk roundtable with Nate, Chris, Rob and Justin going deep quickly using a couple of probing questions. Then Nate interviews singer/songwriter Jason Gray about his story of vulnerability through his speech handicap, divorce, and the importance of our language.  Stay tuned at the end as Jason shares a couple of challenging songs with us.  Jason joined us in person at the Annual Retreat in Eva TN in November 2022.  You can share in that experience by attending the Virtual Samson Retreat. To sign up for the Virtual Samson Retreat on Dec 8-9, 2022, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-virtual-retreat-dec-2022 .   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Thu, June 23, 2022

Episode 330 * Treating ”Distress Reduction Behavior” w/ Roane Hunter

"The antidote for shame is chronic exposure to love and acceptance."  "I get under emotional distress and I want to go back to the maladaptive coping behavior that I learned early on that works for me. And it's the emotional distress and the emotional dysregulation that we've got to begin to work with." - Roane Hunter Nate and Aaron speak with Roane Hunter, CSAT and co-author of Sex, God & the Chaos of Betrayal about a range of topics, including Roane's preferred term for addiction: "distress reduction behavior".  Roane, along with his wife Eva and son Roe, who are also both CSATs, will be the featured speakers at our Annual Retreat in Eva TN on November 5-7, 2022.  For more on the Hunter's practice, visit https://lifeworks.ms/roane-eva-hunter To sign up for the Virtual Samson Retreat on Dec 8-9, 2022, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-virtual-retreat-dec-2022 .   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Mon, June 13, 2022

Episode 329 * Becoming a Grown-Ass Adult w/ Kaka Ray

"You can say, 'I look at porn 20 times a day', but that is inconsequential to me...The big question is 'Why?'" "You better damn well trust that therapist that you're sitting across from...You've got to feel safe to investigate shame." "In the context of relationships, we're all responsible to get our own needs met. That doesn't mean we go meet our own needs - we've seen how destructive that can be - but we do have to learn how to ask for those needs to be met." Kaka Ray returns to the podcast to discuss the importance of growing up your brain - it doesn't just happen but must be intentional. You can find out more about Kaka's practice at tnnfb.com .   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Tue, May 24, 2022

Episode 328 * Music, Faith, and the Sound of Silence w/ Steven Delopoulos

Nate is away, so Aaron spends an hour with Burlap to Cashmere's Steven Delopoulos talking about his story growing up in NY and NJ in a very Greek family, the nature of God, songwriting, storytelling, and his latest passion project related to Simon & Garfunkel.  For more about Steven, visit his website . If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Sat, May 14, 2022

Episode 327 * Overcoming Relational Blind Spots w/ Eddie Capparucci

In today's episode, Eddie Capparucci returns to talk with Nate about his most recent book, Why Men Struggle to Love . They discuss some of the relational blindspots that many men have in making connection. For more on Dr. Capparucci, please visit Abundant Life Counseling-Coaching . If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Thu, May 05, 2022

Episode 326 * Conscious Masculinity w/ Dan Griffin

“Open men's hearts, heal the pain, and change the world.” In a world filled with talk of toxic masculinity, author and speaker Dan Griffin ( dangriffin.com ) talks to the guys today about what he calls "Conscious Masculinity" - where men make enlightened choices to pursue what it means to truly connect with the full spectrum of what it means to be a man. If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to  piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Mon, April 25, 2022

Episode 325 * The Importance of Story w/ Chris Inman

"There aren't a lot of safe places in our world.  There aren't a lot of places where people can come and say whatever they want to say and be loved." - Chris Inman In this episode, Aaron catches up with recovery coach Chris Inman to explore the benefits of doing the work to discover our own story and share it with safe people.  Chris shares how he has experienced the importance of uncovering his own story and is now committed to helping others discover it for themselves. If you'd like to talk with Chris further, you can reach him at  chris@np-recovery.com .  To sign up for Chris's Story Retreat July 27-30, 2023, please go to Blue Ridge Samson Society Retreat. If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to  piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Thu, April 14, 2022

Episode 324 * Samson Society Italia w/ Daniel Wiens

Today, we talk with Daniel Wiens, who has been the key person driving the growth of Samson Society in Italy about his story before getting into details of the International Samson Retreat October 7-9, 2022 in central Italy.    If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to  piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Mon, April 04, 2022

Episode 323 * re:generation recovery w/ John Elmore

"When you confess your sin, you're not going to get stoned to death." Building on our recent discussions with churches that really get recovery, today we talk with John Elmore about the re:generation recovery ministry which began at Watermark Community Church in Dallas TX.   If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Thu, March 24, 2022

Episode 322 * The Return of Dobberino w/ Matt Dobshuetz

The statute of limitations has finally expired, so it's time for another crossover episode of Pirate Monk/Porn Free Radio!  Trying to write a summary of this discussion is an exercise in futility as the guys traverse lots of trails, including book writing, Matt's new book ( Porn Free, Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look at Porn ) and skateboard life.  For more info on Matt, please visit recoveredman.com .   If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Fri, March 11, 2022

Episode 321 * Encountering the Person of God w/ Dudley Hall

" I love you right where you are...and I don't expect anything. I love you, and I won't quit." "You'll know you've heard the Gospel if one of your first responses is: 'That's too good to be true and I can't believe it yet.'" - Dudley Hall "It was easier for me to believe it for my son than to believe it for myself." - Nate Larkin "If...I open the Bible and find condemnation, then I'm still filtering Scripture through the branches of the bush I'm hiding behind in Eden, avoiding what I believe will be the wrath of God in my own shame." - Aaron Porter   In this episode Nate and Aaron have a gospelicious conversation with Dudley Hall about the Good News of the Fatherhood of God.  For more on Dudley's ministry, please visit kerygmaventures.com .     If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to  piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Tue, March 01, 2022

Episode 320 * Living a Confessional Life w/ Timo Strawbridge

"My story isn't my story without the brokenness of who I am." "It is only in their knowledge of the depth of my need of Jesus that gives them the confidence that I could be a help to them in describing a Jesus that could save them." - Timo Strawbridge In Episode 315, Nate spoke about a man that he had yet to meet - Timo Strawbridge.  If you haven't listened to that episode yet, you might want to give it a listen first.  In this episode, Nate and Aaron finally get to connect with Timo and his daughter Kristin about grace, vulnerability, the Rascal Roundup, and the first women's Samson group. If you are intrigued by the thought of a women's Samson group, you can reach out to theresa@trinitylakeland.org  for more information.   If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to  piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Wed, February 23, 2022

Event Announcement - Sat Feb 26 - Augusta GA

Nate will be speaking at First Presbyterian in Augusta GA this Saturday.  You can hear Nate and enjoy a Wild Game Dinner for the low, low price of $7.50.  Register at the following link. Register Here

Sat, February 19, 2022

Episode 319 * They Lied to Us w/ Victoria Robinson

Our guest today has turned her own story of personal brokenness into her passion for ministry.  Victoria Robinson chose abortion many years ago and today leads others -- both men and women -- toward post-abortive healing.  If you or someone you know is carrying this burden, more information is available at reassemblelife.com .     If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .     The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.   For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Wed, February 09, 2022

Episode 318 * A Hospital Church w/James Reeves

"We set out to create a safe church -- not just pockets of safety within the church." - James Reeves This conversation makes me want to move to DFW so that I can attend this church!  Nate and Aaron talk with Pastor James Reeves about his church, City on a Hill in Fort Worth TX, and how it was intentionally created as a safe place for Christians to be real - kind of like Samson Society!  He also discusses the Fearless Series for Women , a 5-session video series designed to be a tool for Christian women to get the conversation started about sexual abuse.  They are also working on a version for men which will hopefully be coming later this year.   If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .     The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.   For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Sat, January 29, 2022

Episode 317 * The Harbinger of Revolution w/ Chandler Rogers

Nate and Aaron have a chat with Chandler Rogers, a man young in years but with insights far beyond his age.  He understands the importance of connection, so he and some friends have developed Relay, an app that helps people stay connected and accountable along the road to recovery. It makes it easy to find and maintain tight-knit support in a team-based environment. Visit https://joinrelay.app  to download the app or email chandler@joinrelay.app to reach out and learn more.      If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .     The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.   For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Tue, January 11, 2022

Episode 316 * The Recovery Paradox w/ T.C. Ryan

Registration for this weekend's virtual retreat (January 14-15, 2022) is available at https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-virtual-retreat-2022 Our guest for this episode is long-time friend of the program T.C. (Tom) Ryan.  For more information about Tom and his ministry, please visit https://www.livingintegrated.org/    Tom's book, Ashamed No More , is available here . You can find out more about the 14-day intensive program that Tom mentioned at https://boulderrecovery.com/ If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .  

Sat, December 04, 2021

Episode 315 * Don‘t Decide to Become a Better Person w/ Nate Larkin

Today, we share Nate's closing chapel message from the 2021 National Samson Retreat.  This is a  challenging must-hear for everyone in recovery.   If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Thu, November 11, 2021

Episode 314 * Live from the Samson Retreat w/ Jim Cress

To wrap-up the 2021 Annual Samson Retreat in Eva TN, Aaron sits down with our keynote speaker, Jim Cress, and takes questions from the audience of attendees.  Find out more about Jim at jimcress.com . The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Sun, October 17, 2021

Episode 313 * Refocusing in the Dark Times w/ Michael Feighan

Today we interview Michael Feighan , formerly of Whitecross to talk about his formative years in music, the adoption of his daughter, working through depression and anxiety, and how all of these things contributed to his newly-released solo album, Someone Prayed . Michael graciously provided the music on this episode. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Tue, October 12, 2021

Episode 312 * Exploring Narcissism w/ Jeromy Deibler

In this episode, the guys discuss the subject of Narcissism, especially as it relates to groups, with Jeromy Deibler .  Jeromy is a musician, certified Enneagram and life coach, and pastor. His goal is to help people build connections with others and with God and to show others what God is like.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at  sarahsociety.com .

Tue, September 14, 2021

Episode 311 * Reversing the Curse w/ Drew Boa

"While I don't want to advocate for indulging the urges, I want to champion the deeper desires and the longings and the aches that are behind those urges.  With whatever type of porn you might find attractive or arousing, or whatever has been your particular version of it, underneath that is a good and holy beauty and strength that comes from God, and if we can tap into that, then we can bless it and we can express it in healthy ways and we can actually get what we were created for this whole time." Nate interviews Drew Boa ( HusbandMaterial.com ) about the importance of our story and the process of outgrowing porn. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com .

Fri, September 03, 2021

Episode 310 * Beyond the Battle w/ Noah Filipiak

"It is so much better to have sex with your wife for who she is -- having sex because you love her, not having sex because you love sex." Nate and Aaron interview friend and returning guest, Noah Filipiak , about the release of his new book - Beyond the Battle: A man’s guide to his identity in Christ in an over-sexualized world . The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .   

Thu, August 26, 2021

Episode 309 * Remembering a Samson Brother - Fr. Thomas McKenzie

In this special episode, Nate and Aaron remember Father Thomas McKenzie,  an early member of the Samson Society in the Nashville area, who was killed along with his older daughter in a car accident a few days ago (Aug 23, 2021).  They share some of their memories of Thomas, and then we hear from Fr. McKenzie himself in two homilies - first, his final message from this past Sunday, and then a 2014 message on grieving.  

Wed, August 11, 2021

Episode 308 * Support for Spouses w/ Lyschel Burket and the Sarah Society

"He was never put on this earth to heal me -- the only one who was put on this earth to heal me is Jesus." Nate speaks with Lyschel Burket of hoperedefined.org ., a ministry supporting women impacted by sexual betrayal through coaching, groups, intensive retreats and safe online community.  Her contact email is support@hoperedefined.org . Then, a group of ladies from the Sarah Society join Nate to discuss what they gleaned from the interview.  We hear from Erin, Heather, Brandy, Linda and Julie.  For more information about the Sarah Society, please visit sarahsociety.com . The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Tue, August 03, 2021

Episode 307 * The 5 Essentials to Change Your World w/ Jim Ramos

Aaron is back - and this time, he's pissed!  OK, not really, but it's great to have the compadres back together again for a discussion of the journey into manhood.  Nate interviews Aaron's buddy, Jim Ramos, author of Strong Men, Dangerous Times and host of the Men in the Arena podcast ( meninthearena.org ).  They break down the Five Essentials Every Man Must Possess to Change His World. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Tue, July 13, 2021

Episode 306 * Hope Out of Brokenness w/ Jasper Hall

Mini-meeting on the topic of "Surrender". Nate interviews Jasper Hall, president of Pure Hope about equipping believers to serve out of their brokenness in a sexually broken world and leading their families and communities to flourish.  You can find more information at purehope.net .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Fri, July 02, 2021

Episode 305 * Soul Shepherding w/ Bill and Kristi Gaultiere

Mini-meeting on the topic of "Habits". Nate interviews psychologist and therapist Bill and Kristi Gaultiere about the six phases of spiritual growth and development.  You can find more information at soulshepherding.org and journeyofthesoul.org .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Mon, June 14, 2021

Episode 304 * My Prison Became a Palace w/ John Alarid

Aaron has a fascinating conversation with John Alarid ( johnalarid.com ), a heroin addict who became a missionary, then imprisoned for attempted murder, and now a pastor ministering in Springfield MO at Freedom City Church ( freedomcitychurch.org ).  To hear more of John's story, you can get his ebook (currently free) at myprisonbecameapalace.com . The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Sat, June 05, 2021

Episode 303 * The Intersection of Church and Recovery w/ Teresa McBean

"Dignity believes, and respect believes, and unconditional positive regard believes that being fully human is a beautiful thing, and that the essence of a person agrees with all of the things that God says about them that's true." The Mini-Meeting returns on the topic of Abandonment. Then Aaron interviews Teresa McBean, who pastors Northstar Community, which blends recovery and faith in Richmond VA.  Northstar was founded in 1999 to provide faith-based recovery and now offers adult education classes, support groups, individual and group counseling experiences, Enneagram training and coaching, and individual and group coaching to family members who have loved ones in recovery. northstarcommunity.com The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  

Thu, May 27, 2021

Episode 302 * Childhood Sexual Abuse w/ Tim Rountree

"I honestly cannot tell you which decade was worse...Brokenness doesn't just end the second [the abuse] stops...The ramifications of that act ripple into decades later." Nate sits down to speak with Tim Rountree - a child abuse detective, a pastor, and a victim himself of childhood sexual abuse.  He explores how hope emerges even in the wake of unspeakable evil.  ( outcryconcepts.com ) Resources for online safety: bark.us covenanteyes.com x3watch.com leadmenot.org   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Wed, May 19, 2021

Episode 301 * Running Toward the Roar w/ Gary Wilkerson

Nate interviews Gary Wilkerson of World Challenge (an outgrowth of Teen Challenge), a ministry dedicated to helping the needy of the world in many different ways, including those caught in addiction and poverty. Topics include the pitfalls of performance-based religion, family history, parenting, and the importance of community.  https://worldchallenge.org/ https://teenchallengeusa.org/ https://www.globaltc.org/   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Fri, April 30, 2021

EPISODE 300 CELEBRATION!!! Listener Questions for Nate & Aaron w/Tom Ryan

To celebrate 300 episodes, we get to know Nate and Aaron a little bit better.  The host for this special episode is our good friend, Tom Ryan (known to some of you as T. C. Ryan) author of Ashamed No More: A Pastor's Journey Through Sex Addiction .    Tom has just released two free recovery resource packages on his website:  livingintegrated.org . Both packages have pdf content and homework with a companion video.   The first package, "Four Tasks for Getting Your Life Back", is for folks who are beginning to realize they may have a problem with sex or porn and don't know what to do. Six pdfs and companion videos.   The second package, "Fifteen Practices For Living The Life You Want", is for those who need to do something more to really get going in recovery. It's also a good re-starter if we've plateaued in recovery. Seventeen pdfs and companion videos.   Additionally, Tom is working with the leadership of "Boulder Recovery" which we covered in-depth in episode 299.  More information can be found at boulderrecovery.com .     Just for Travis, here are the links to Aaron's books and music: https://www.pastemagazine.com/noisetrade/books/porter https://soundcloud.com/aaron-porter-778791650   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .  

Sat, April 24, 2021

Episode 299 * Trauma and Christ in Sexual Addiction Recovery w/ Matt Wenger

"I don't think that God's goal in the universe is to lessen the amount of sin.  I think His primary goal is to increase the amount of connection between Him and His people." Today's guest is therapist Matt Wenger, who works with guys dealing with porn and sex addiction.  In the course of that work, he recognized that Christian men have unique challenges in their journey to healing from this addiction.  The result of that was the development of Boulder Recovery, which offers a new 14-Day Men's Intensive for Christian guys struggling with porn and sex addiction.  Dr. Michael Barta's Trauma-Induced Sex Addiction (TINSA) Model of therapy is integrated with healthy spiritual teaching and practices to promote genuine healing from the attachment wounds and intimacy disorders that drive sexual addiction. The first intensive will be June 19-July 3, 2021. Information can be found at  boulderrecovery.com . The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Fri, April 02, 2021

Episode 298 * Loving Someone with Mental Health Issues w/ Steve Zehr

Nate gives Aaron a PSA about severe weather before they are joined by Nate's long-time friend, Steve Zehr, who shares how he was shaped by his 35-year marriage to Susan, who struggled with mental illness. Steve's book is titled In Sickness and in Health and he can be reached at sd.zehr@gmail.com .    The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .      

Fri, March 26, 2021

Episode 297 * Rewiring the Brain w/ Dan Larkin

Nate has an inspiring conversation with his brother, Dan.  After a series of strokes, Dan was left unable to speak and was told by doctors that he would never speak again.  But Dan didn't accept that prognosis.  Through hard work and sheer determination, he discovered his own path for healing, proving the incredible resilience of the human brain.  The parallels with the recovery journey are evident.    The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Bonus · Mon, March 22, 2021

300 is almost here!

With our 300th episode right around the corner, the guys are requesting submission of questions (especially personal and embarrassing ones!), comments, memories and reflections of how the podcast has impacted you. Send your thoughts to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com  and the fellas will share them on the show. You can also record a short message at https://www.speakpipe.com/piratemonk  that we might use on the show.

Fri, March 19, 2021

Episode 296 * Healthy Intimacy and Betrayal w/ Bonny Burns

First, a discussion of Nate's blog about Ravi Zacharias ( https://natelarkin.net/ravi-and-me/ ) and some feedback he has received.  Then, an interview with Bonny Burns - podcaster, coach and member of the leadership team for the Sarah Society - the sister organization which has grown out of a group of women impacted by the choices of Samson Society guys.  Topics include healthy sexual intimacy, Bonny's experience as a betrayed spouse going through D-Day, the continuing quest toward community and intimacy, building trust and empathy. "Sex is neither the cause of this addiction or the cure." "Sexual intimacy is for me too and I have just as much voice in the bedroom as he does." "Boundaries are to keep me safe, not to punish him." To connect with Bonny: bonny@strongwives.com www.strongwives.com (coaching support/resources) www.forchristianwives.com (Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast) www.oysterbed7.com (blog)   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Fri, March 12, 2021

Episode 295 * A Journey Through Pain w/ Seth Haines

How do we deal with the inevitable pain that comes into our life?  Nate gives an update on recent struggles with Allie's health before having a discussion with Seth Haines, who shares his own season of severe anxiety related to the health of his infant son, the even deeper pain of a seemingly absent God, and his subsequent slide into alcoholism in an attempt to numb the pain.  The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Fri, March 05, 2021

Episode 294 * Recovering All of What God Wants for Me w/ Morgan Snyder

The guys respond to a couple of notes from the mailbag before having a great discussion with Morgan Snyder ( becomegoodsoil.com ) about discovering the heart of Father as we discover our true sonship. Can we answer the questions - Where do I feel uncomfortable in the realm of masculinity? How do I recover ALL of what God wants for me?  The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Mon, February 08, 2021

Episode 293 * The God of Our Understanding w/ Brad Jersak

This is a refreshing discussion with theologian, author and professor  Brad Jersak that spans a myriad of subjects - from interactions with people of diverse viewpoints, love addiction vs. sex addiction, the purpose of confession and repentance, and what "the God of our understanding" and "progress not perfection" really mean. www.bradjersak.com   Featured song: "If Old is Grey" by Chad Land; used by permission ( https://soundcloud.com/chad-land )  Other music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Mon, February 01, 2021

Episode 292 * The Brain Science of Self-Discipline w/ Drew Dyck

Have you ever made a promise to yourself to create a new habit but gave it up after only a few weeks?  How are those new year's resolutions holding up after a month?  Drew Dyck noticed this pattern in his own life and decided to do some study into both the scientific and biblical principles related to self-control.  Nate and Aaron have a great discussion with Drew about partnering with God and your community even in the small areas of our life.  You can find even more details in his book, Your Future Self Will Thank You.   ( drewdyck.com ) Also, Nate opens the mailbag and shares a few recent notes.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Sat, January 16, 2021

Episode 291 * Surviving Domestic Abuse w/ "Becky"

In part two of our series on domestic abuse, we talk with "Becky", an abuse survivor.  Her story is one of pain, fear and redemption, but does point out how the Christian community can sometimes fall into the trap of excusing abusive behavior in the name of avoiding divorce.    Can every marriage be saved?  Should every marriage be saved?  Abuse should never be tolerated in the name of statistics.  The guys tackle this tough subject in light of the gospel in compassion, grace and love.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Fri, January 08, 2021

Episode 290 * Control through Power in Relationship w/ Chris Moles

Before you immediately dismiss your need to listen to this episode, we'd challenge you to have an open mind. When we hear the words "domestic abuse", we often think of videos of athletes in elevators, but can we recognize more subtle forms of abuse? Use of Power to Control others through Fear or Intimidation is Abusive even if there are never any bruises or broken bones. Join us as we begin a two-part series on this important topic.  We talk today with Chris Moles ( chrismoles.org ), a pastor and Biblical counselor who helps churches and families confront the evil of domestic violence. If this discussion sparked any questions in you, check out Chris's article - Am I Abusive?   We also get to hear a couple of songs from Aaron's new album, The End of the Fall.  You can listen and download the entire album at https://soundcloud.com/aaron-porter-778791650/sets/the-end-of-the-fall .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Tue, December 22, 2020

Episode 289 * Teaching Intimacy Skills to the Intimacy Ignorant w/ Randy Turner

Nate and Aaron speak with Randy Turner, author of  Rescuing the Rogue, about mentoring, learning intimacy the hard way, what intimacy truly is and how to root out the false beliefs we have about intimacy. If you'd like to explore this topic further, you can reach Randy at rturner@transformingfamilies.org .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Tue, December 15, 2020

Episode 288 * A Pastor Talking Openly About Porn w/ Noah Filipiak

Nate interviews Noah Filipiak, author of Beyond the Battle .  Noah is a pastor who talks openly about his struggle with porn, the journey from entitlement to contentment through recognizing the true needs beneath the behavior, and the real definition of love.  Noah also facilitates Beyond the Battle online 7-week zoom groups which focus on your identity in Christ in an oversexualized world.  For more information, visit beyondthebattle.net or noahfilipiak.com .   Nate and Aaron also discuss the importance of Gratitude for our overall physical and mental health.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Tue, December 08, 2020

Episode 287 * From Manipulation to Connection to Resurrection w/ Clinton and Charity Munoz

Clinton and Charity Munoz of the Restored 2 More podcast share their winding path of addiction, discovery, missteps in finding help, and finally to the true redemptive help that they needed. They are now helping couples move from infidelity to intimacy.  Learn more at  restored2more.com .   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and also features the new song When You're Lying by Kristin Larkin.  You can find her music at kristinlarkin.bandcamp.com .  For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .

Tue, December 01, 2020

Episode 286 * Addictions, Convictions, and Curiosity w/ Brian Tholstrup

In this follow-up to episode 280, Nate and Aaron talk with Brian Tholstrup, a fellow pirate monk whose primary drug of choice was alcohol.  The guys discuss how recovery is not "one-size-fits-all" and how each of us has to assess what is helpful in our own journey while avoiding the lure of the "easier, softer way".   Nate and Aaron also discuss how easy it is to get distracted by seemingly harmless pursuits, such as gaming.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit  samsonsociety.com .    

Fri, November 27, 2020

Episode 285 * Sharing the Gift of Recovery with Others w/ Chad and Angela Anderson

Today Nate interviews Chad and Angela Anderson as they share the story of Chad's pornography addiction, D-Day and their continuing redemption. Chad is now a certified recovery coach sharing what he has learned with other men.  Chad's contact info is:  727integratedlife.com ; phone 615-405-6152; email chad@727integratedlife.com Angela can be reached at angela@727integratedlife.com   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com .

Wed, November 18, 2020

Episode 284 * Combatting Loneliness w/Jack Eason

Our guest today is Jack Eason, author of  The Loneliness Connection , which explores the power of community and togetherness, finding similarities instead of differences in the midst of a divisive world.  Find out more about Jack and his work at https://www.jackeason.org/     Music on the podcast   Little Jam by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial  (3.0) license.  http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/61299  Ft: Javolenus   Chronically Deranged (Autopsy Mix) by Whitewolf (c) copyright 2019 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution Noncommercial Share-Alike  (3.0) license.  http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/Whitewolf225/60658  Ft: bangcorrupt   The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.  http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628  Ft: Apoxode

Tue, November 10, 2020

Episode 283 * Tullian Tchividjian

Tullian shares his history as both the prodigal and the older brother, and now as someone who simply recognizes his desperate need for Jesus!  To learn more about Tullian's work, please visit: www.tullian.net Music on this podcast: That Kind of Love , PFR Sirens , ATTALUS 78 Eatonwood Green , Rich Mullins

Wed, October 21, 2020

Episode 282 * Jay & Lori Pyatt

Today the guys talk with certified mentors Jay and Lori Pyatt who get raw and vulnerable in sharing their redemptive story about God pulling them back from the brink of divorce, the impact of shame and deflection in marital communication, their ongoing recovery walk, and how their journey led them to helping others avoid the pitfalls along these rocky paths. Resources mentioned on the podcast: Bonds that Make Us Free, C. Terry Warner   To learn more about Jay and Lori's work, please visit: https://thecouplecure.com/     Music on this podcast: Scars , I Am They Sirens , The Gray Havens Burden , Foy Vance

Fri, October 09, 2020

Episode 281 * Kaka Ray

Nate and Aaron again welcome one of our favorite guests, trauma specialist Kaka Ray, to discuss COVID fatigue, monopolizing conversations, and balance in recovery.  Kaka will also be returning as a workshop speaker at the upcoming Fall retreat - both the in-person and the virtual versions.  To learn more about her work, visit: http://www.kakaray.com/

Mon, September 21, 2020

Episode 280 * Brainwashing, the Good Kind (maybe)

Nate and Aaron sit down to chat about a book that sent Nate on some interesting journeys and ongoing self-discovery, Allen Carr's  Easy Way to Stop Drinking Alcohol.  You might not get any answers, but we sure hope today's episode raises a couple of questions.

Mon, September 14, 2020

Episode 279 * Carolyn Weyel

Today, Nate and Aaron talk with Carolyn Weyel about introversion.  What does it mean?  How does shame get attached to it?  And how do those pesky extroverts make everything worse!!!  Whether you are an introvert or just happen to be living on the planet earth, there is something in this conversation for you.

Wed, September 02, 2020

Episode 278 * Michael Brody-Waite

Sit back and get ready for a conversation with Michael Brody-Waite, author of  Great Leaders Live Like Drug Addicts , as he unpacks some of the most important information you might hear about masks during these strange times.  No...not those masks.  To learn more about Michael and stay posted on what he's up to, log on to: https://michaelbrodywaite.com/

Thu, August 20, 2020

Episode 277 * John Lynch

Get ready for a gospelicious conversation with John Lynch.  To hear more of John, head on over to his website and get encouraged. https://www.johnlynchspeaks.com/

Mon, August 03, 2020

Episode 276 * Michele and Tom Weaver

Nate and Aaron enjoy a great conversation with Michele and Tom Weaver as they explore their experience with "friends" who weren't helpful, betrayal, and hope.  Don't miss this inspiring journey of hope and healing and coming to the table.    

Tue, July 21, 2020

Episode 275 * Ray Cannata

Ever wondered what creole cooking, Presbyterians, and Elvis have in common?  Find out today as Nate and Aaron chat with Pastor Ray Cannata of Redeemer Presbyterian Church in New Orleans.

Thu, May 21, 2020

Episode 274 * Curt Thompson

Today Nate sits down with Dr. Curt Thompson, author of books such as  The Anatomy of the Soul , and  The Soul of Shame , and talks about the profound connection between our spiritual formation and amazing neurological creation.  It's all tied together and the answer to every question you've ever had, including this week's winning lottery numbers, will be revealed on today's episode of, the Pirate Monk Podcast. To check out what Curt is up to or to learn more about his practice, head on over to... https://curtthompsonmd.com/

Thu, April 30, 2020

Episode 273 * Michael Card

Today Nate and Aaron sit down and chat with author, musician, theologian, Michael Card as he discusses his new book,  Inexpressible: Hesed and the Mystery of God's Lovingkindness .  Nate and Aaron also discuss how you can serve other men as a temporary Silas as they plug into the online Samson community.  To get more information on that process, head over to... https://samsonsociety.com/what-is-a-silas/ and click "Register as an available temporary Silas."      

Mon, April 20, 2020

Episode 272 * Tom Jackson & Dave Bunker

Get out your pen and paper, Aaron is chatting with a couple of Samson OGs who are deep in the world of music and are passionate about art and how it feeds the soul.  You'll get their recommendations on listening choices and taking some purposeful time to let your heart be filled through the miracle of music.  All that and more on today's episode of the Pirate Monk Podcast.

Fri, April 17, 2020

Episode 271 * Karen Ellison

It's deep, it's heavy, it's important.  Today the boys chat with Karen Ellison about the heart wounds that occur after an abortion for both women and men.  Karen works with the ministry Deeper Still and provides resources and free retreats to help people with tools to find healing for a pain that is often forced underground by our Christian culture.  To check out more information on Deeper Still, go to: www.godeeperstill.org

Wed, April 01, 2020

Episode 270 * Christine Dente

Feeling fear during this strange time?  Checking the news for reassurance and only experiencing further fear?  Today Nate and Arron sit down with Christine Dente to try to unpack some solutions to engage information with better choices and more wisdom. Check out Christine's website  Finding Life in the Bigger Story  at  https://christinedenteoutofthegrey.com   Some of the proposed ideas to consider were: 1. Consider the message: does the headline incite fear? Does the information smell like clickbait?    2. Consider the purpose: Is it grim entertainment? Grisly voyeurism?  Why is it written and why do you want to read it?   3. Consider your filters: are you willing to open your mind, humble yourself, ditch confirmation bias and deal with the cognitive dissonance?    4. Consider your interests: choose a specialty then dive deep. Can you become an expert on one issue?  Can you become such an expert without judging others for not having the same interests?   5. Consider the dosage: How many hours are you spending imbibing information and attitudes that can saturate the soul. Is meditating on these ideas helpful or beneficial to your soul?  Do they increase your love and compassion, or do they make you afraid and angry?   6. Consider the agenda:  Follow the money. What is the underlying ideology? Is it hidden or obvious? Is the bias showing?   7. Consider the alternatives: Podcasts and other long-form, unedited conversations offer a format for engaging issues on a deeper level. Can you hang?   8. Consider the times: be selective with the time of day and amount of intake. Can you control your information exposure in a healthy way?     9. Consider the sensation: Wait 48 hours before believing the worst. Often, the sensational news is refuted within 48 hours.    10. Consider the source: Read the original documents or watch the original video footage instead of someone’s interpretation.     11. Consider the angles: Read and listen to people on all sides of an issue. This gives a balanced perspective and a clearer picture of what’s going on. Is the truth closer to the middle?     OUTRAGE PORN Check two three Baby take a tip from me There is a storm headed here And if you want to live in fear Then tune on in Every tear shed earns a grin Check three four Baby, better lock your doors Cause if you want to get caught All you gotta do is stop And then you die Something will kill you if you try Check five six Gonna show you some new tricks I search the world for a fear Sell you outrage and a beer And watch you hide Take all your toys and go inside JUST TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT YOU NEED DEAR I DON’T MEAN YOU HARM HERE CLOSE YOUR EYES TAKE MY HAND LISTEN, I’VE GOT NEWS TO TAKE YOU TO EXTREMES AND PASSION YOUR REAL LIFE NEVER CAN Stand, Kneel, Crawl I’ve got outrage porn

Tue, March 17, 2020

Episode 269 * Brian Kay

The doctor is in.  Our Samson friend from the Bay area is checking in for a conversation about dealing with fear during this strange time in our world, as well as taking responsibility for our healing process from past hurts.  

Tue, March 10, 2020

Episode 268 * Todd Wermers

Pull up a chair and have a listen to Todd Wermers' inspiring story of hope, redemptions, and how God loves to show his glory through people in process.  To check out what's happening in Todd's ministry check him out at... tinmanministries.org Or email him at... todd@tinman.life

Thu, March 05, 2020

Episode 267 * Steve Taylor & Scott Dente

On today's episode of the Pirate Monk Podcast, Nate and Aaron recruit OG Pirate Scott Dente to have a scintillating conversation with Christian Music Pioneer, Steve Taylor.  This one will make you think.  We'd love to hear your feedback on the episode, as well as your vote on the dance-off question found at the end of the show.  Write to us at, piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com Here too are the lyrics that were discussed on the show from Steve's song, I Want to be a Clone. I'd gone through so much other stuff that walking down the aisle was tough but now I know it's not enough I want to be a clone I asked the Lord into my heart they said that was the way to start but now you've got to play the part I want to be a clone Be a clone and kiss conviction goodnight cloneliness is next to Godliness, right? I'm grateful that they show the way 'cause I could never know the way to serve him on my own I want to be a clone They told me that I'd fall away unless I followed what they say who needs the Bible anyway? I want to be a clone Their language it was new to me but Christianese got through to me now I can speak it fluently I want to be a clone Be a clone and kiss conviction goodnight cloneliness is next to Godliness, right? I'm grateful that they show the way 'cause I could never know the way to serve him on my own I want to be a clone Send in the clones Ah, I kind of wanted to tell my friends and people about it, you know What? You're still a babe you have to grow give it twenty years or so 'cause if you want to be one of his got to act like one of us Be a clone and kiss conviction goodnight cloneliness is next to Godliness, right? I'm grateful that they show the way 'cause I could never know the way to serve him on my own I want to be a clone So now I see the whole design my church is an assembly line the parts are there I'm feeling fine I want to be a clone I've learned enough to stay afloat but not so much I rock the boat I'm glad they shoved it down my throat I want to be a clone Everybody must get cloned

Tue, February 25, 2020

Episode 266 * Mo Leverett

Today Nate and Aaron get to have a chat with long-time buddy Mo Leverett as he talks about life post-Hurricane Katrina, his passion for a fine cigar, and his upcoming album Autumn Years.  Plus...just for you the faithful listeners, you'll get a sneak peek at two songs that will be on his new project.  It's all here, it's all now, only on the Pirate Monk Podcast.

Tue, February 18, 2020

Episode 265 * Eddie Capparucci

On this episode, Nate and Aaron chat with Eddie Capparucci about how our past experiences shape our coping mechanisms and how to find hope and freedom through asking the "why" instead of just the "what."  All that and more, today on the Pirate Monk Podcast. To check out what Eddie and his wife are up to, head on over to... https://abundantlifecounselingga.com/

Mon, February 17, 2020

Episode 264 * Vern Tompke

Today Nate has a chat with Pastor Vern Tompke about the dangers of isolation in the ministry and how true vulnerable community can serve both the pastors and the congregation.  Everyone is included in this conversation on the Pirate Monk Podcast.  If you want to check out Vern's podcast, Pastors on Porn, head on over to: https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/pastors-on-porn-vern-tompke-AuMWGqJ_x1I/

Tue, January 07, 2020

Episode 263 * Jason Martinkus

Empathy.  Who gives a crap...  Today Nate has a conversation with Jason Martinkus about why we should, and how we can up our empathy IQs in our marriage.  Jason is also teaching an online master class if you want to jump in the deep end of this topic and learn some vital skills.  If you want to check it out take a mouse journey and click on - www.redemptiveliving.com/empathy

Thu, January 02, 2020

Episode 262 * Christmas Conversation

Today Nate and Aaron prepare for the holidays, talk about exponential relational growth when trust is demanded, and explore the idea of expectations.

Wed, December 25, 2019

Episode 261 * Jeff and Beth McCord

Today Nate talks about what being present means and Aaron sits down to have a chat with Jeff and Beth McCord, authors of Becoming Us.  Ever thought your spouse made no sense at all?  There's probably a reason, and Jeff and Beth are going to give you some options today.  To check out more of their ministry and resources, head on over to: https://www.yourenneagramcoach.com/

Sun, December 08, 2019

Episode 260 * Samuel Maurice Porter

Today, Nate and Aaron hang out, answer a listener question with the help of Christine Leahy, and then chat with Aaron's son Samuel about what it was like to be on the kid side of the equation, growing up and navigating a world saturated with sex. To check out the Braveful Summit Christine was talking about, head over to: https://www.bravefulsummit.com/?ac=jl68jqHR

Wed, November 27, 2019

Episode 259 * Barbara Steffens, PhD

Ever heard of codependency?  Today Dr. Barbara Stephes shed some new light on the subject as she explores the topic with Nate and Aaron.  Also, Aaron apologizes to the city of Tustin.  As a more specific aspect of his apology, here are some words from a fellow Pirate Monk on the Subject. And thanks to Josh Manifold for picking some of the tunes the today's broadcast. "On the Nov 8 edition of the PM podcast, you made some pretty strong statements about the beautiful town of Tustin, CA (as it relates to the planned SoCal Winter 2020 mini-retreat). I quote you from the episode: "Tustin is nowhere" "Tustin is in the middle of ugly LA" "Tustin is not cool" I believe you may have Tustin confused with a more sketchy burg here in the greater LA area.  So, as to not scare potential SoCal Pirate Monks away from potentially attending the mini-retreat out here in February 2020, allow me to correct some of your misguided Tustin comments: "Tustin is nowhere"  Located just 11 miles up the 55 Freeway from Newport Beach, CA, neighboring the populous cities of Irvine and Costa Mesa, and situated in the heart of Orange County (population 3.1 million), we'd hardly agree that it's a "nowhere" town.... "Tustin is in the middle of ugly LA" It's in Orange County, not in LA.  There's a difference.  Also see point 1 above, and final point which is: "Tustin is not cool" Besides being 15 mins from Newport Beach, 9 miles from Disneyland, and having countless dining and entertainment options....the city was chosen in 2009 by Forbes as one of the top 25 towns to live well in America.  Would you call that "not cool"?  I think not. Apologies to the good city and people of Tustin indeed are in order!   OK, I apologize!  I do love the areas mentioned that surround the beautiful city of Tustin.  I repent!

Mon, November 18, 2019

Episode 258 * Ben Sweeney

Today Nate and Aaron get Mondo back in the room, have a mini-meeting, and talk to Mondo's friend Ben about his journey into addiction and the path he found back to freedom.

Fri, November 08, 2019

Episode 257 * Integrating the Gospel

Today Nate and Aaron are taking a slice of the weekend from Eva Tennessee to explore how we can integrate the Gospel into our lives and recovery, specifically and powerfully.  Nate opens up a vulnerable door so that the men can journey with him towards the love of his Abba.  All that is happening today, on the Pirate Monk Podcast.

Tue, October 29, 2019

Episode 256 * Nick Stumbo

Today Nate & Aaron chat with Nick Stumbo of Pure Desire ministries about Nick's story and how to understand the difference between arrival mentality and journey mentality in recovery, as we search for deeper maturity and more honest...honesty. Check out the happenings at Pure Desire Ministries by clicking: https://puredesire.org/

Wed, October 23, 2019

Episode 255 * Matt Dobschuetz

Pull up a chair, start up your lawnmower, or rev up your engine and take a ride with Nate and Aaron as they have a chat with Matt Dobber Dobschuetz, host of Porn Free Radio, on this episode of the Pirate Monk Podcast. Check out more of what Matt is up to by clicking on: https://recoveredman.com/ Music on Today's Podcast: Randy Dandy-O; Radio Nowhere (Bruce Springsteen); White City (Pogues); When I'm Gone (Anna Kendrick)

Tue, October 15, 2019

Episode 254 * The Spectrum of Trauma

Today Nate and Aaron talk virtual meetings and follow up on some listener responses to last week's episode.  You get that and a MINI MEETING, and it all happens today, on the Pirate Monk Podcast.   Today's Music: Dive - Steven Curtis Chapman; Another Day - Steven Delopoulos; Said the Son to the Shine - Earth Suit; Blue Train - John Coltrane  

Mon, October 07, 2019

Episode 253 * Kaka Ray

Today, Nate and Aaron sit down with trauma specialist Kaka Ray to learn about how trauma affects addiction and what we can do about it.  Kaka will be a workshop teacher at the upcoming retreat.  To learn more about what she's up to, check out, http://www.kakaray.com/

Tue, September 17, 2019

Episode 252 * Michael Leahy

Today, we've got it all! Unsolicited book reviews, witty banter, a mini-meeting, and the pièce de résistance, a conversation with BraveHearts Michael Leahy.  He'll be chatting about his exciting new thoughts on how to use technology to put connection, recovery and growth on a steroid regimen that won't get you a 30 game suspension.  We're talking about hacking the system today, on the Pirate Monk Podcast. https://www.bravehearts.org/michael-leahy    

Tue, September 10, 2019

Episode 251 * Michael Johnson

We've got a mini-meeting, we've got updates, and we've got our old friend Michael Johnson talking about dating with a bigger picture in mind and guarding your heart in the process.  You might not be dating, but if you've got little kids, trust me, you'll want to think through this stuff.  Log on, stay tuned, plug in, the pirates are on the air.  To connect with Michael and his work, head on over to: http://f-m-u.com/  

Mon, August 26, 2019

Episode 250 * DIY Retreat Time

The boys are back in the same state and in the same room catching up...mini-meetings are rolling...and some lads from Texas describe how you can have an amazing retreat with your brothers without any permission from your mommies! It's all happening today, on the Pirate Monk Podcast.

Mon, July 29, 2019

Episode 249 * Pure Hope and Noel Bouche (with an accent over the "e")

This week Nate and Aaron discuss a blog about Game of Thrones, and read a question from a listener that needs your input.  After that, Nate chats with Noel Bouche of Pure Hope.  To find out more about Pure Hope or to check out Noel's podcast, head on over to: https://purehope.net/  

Tue, July 02, 2019

Episode 248 * Troubadour Andrew Osenga

Sit back, put up your feet, or start your lawn mower (Tom), and enjoy a chat with Andrew Osenga of the Normals and Caedmon's Call.  He'll be talking through some of Nate's favorite songs and their stories off his newest album.  If you would like to keep tabs on what Andrew is up to, check him out at  http://www.andrewosenga.com/   At the beginning of the episode, the boys listen to a modern adaptation of the poem The Hound of Heaven written by Francis Thompson produced by Emblem Media LLC. The book was written by Brian and Sally Oxley, Sonja Oxley Peterson with Dr. Devin Brown. Illustrations by Tim Ladwig.  Here is the link if you want to check it out in its full glory. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RXlgz4aBKt8&t=724s

Thu, June 27, 2019

Episode 247 * Ladies Can Be Pirates Too

Today Nate & Aaron get answers to one of their most asked questions.  "What about the women?" "How can my wife get this kind of community?"  To answer that question they've enlisted a bevy of lady travelers to talk about their journies.  To find out more about getting involved, contact Erin at:  women.to.women2717@gmail.com The administration would like to apologize for the audio during the first segment and makes all promises necessary to ensure that listeners believe audio problems will NEVER happen at ANY time EVER in the future.  

Tue, June 11, 2019

Episode 246 * The Scotland Recap

Nate and Aaron chat about the Scotland retreat and play some audio clips from the experiences of its participants.  

Wed, May 29, 2019

Episode 245 * Dina Alexander

Today the boys chat with Dina Alexander MS, about how to talk with kids about technology and sex.  Dina is the author of some great books that will help educate parents and get the conversations started.  Check out her resources at: https://educateempowerkids.org/  

Mon, May 20, 2019

Episode 243 * Disclosure

Nate is out of town, so Aaron conscripted one of our favorite buddies Tom Ryan ( Ashamed No More ) to hang with Kathy Reynolds for part two of the conversation on the practical side of disclosure.  Kathy and Tom give some real-world advice and real-life experience on the good, the bad and the ugly...and the beautiful, of disclosure.   Check out the ministry Kathy serves with at:   http://www.daringventures.com/ Check out Tom's book  Ashamed No More  at:    https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0830837930/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_taft_p1_i0 The music between segments was our friend Andy Gullahorn singing his song "Any Other Way"   Check it out!

Tue, May 14, 2019

Episode 242 * Kathy Reynolds

Today is part one of two conversations with coach Kathy Reynolds, who talks about her own journey of disclosure, loss, and redemption in her marriage.  Stay tuned for part two when we get into the nitty gritty of what to do and not to do in the dangerous waters of full disclosure.  As promised...a bit late, below is the poem Singing Warriors by Paige that was read a couple shows back. Singing Warriors By Paige The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in His love He will no longer rebuke you, But will rejoice over you with singing. Zephaniah 3:17   We serve a God who is a Warrior who sings. And, He enables us to be singing warriors.   Just as he fights for us, he has invited us to join Him in the battle. And, the enemy is not our husbands.   The enemy is the one who has ensnared our husbands. The one who has deceived them and blinded them. The one who is out to steal, kill, and destroy. The one who uses darkness and hiddenness. Who tempts and then, when the deed is done, Heaps on shame so that returning to God (and to us) feels unbearable.   So, we find ourselves here in this place. In this battle that we didn’t see coming. That we didn’t sign up for. That has knocked us to the ground. And often leaves us as a puddle on the floor.   But, again and again we rise up, Slowly, hesitantly. Inch by inch rising to take our place as warriors. To fight against the enemy. To fight for truth. To fight for health.   We fight for our husbands. And, as we do so, we are fighting for our marriages. For our children. For future generations.   But, even if the marriage is not restored. We choose to pray. We want to see every Christian man (and woman) Walk free of sexual brokenness. Welk free of hiddenness. Walk free of broken vows. Walk free of regrets.   God also invites us to sing. To worship Him even as the all-too-familiar tears Find their paths down our faces once again. He invites us to cling to His goodness even in the midst of the storm.   He invites us to join Him in the song He sings over our husbands. The song of redemption. The song of forgiveness. The song of resurrection.   The song that calls out the spark that God put inside our men— That image of God that is there. That always has the potential to choose… Redemption, Hatred of sin, Recovery, Restoration, Empathy Coming out of isolation and Walking in community.   We join this song because of love. Because even though we have been hurt more than we ever dreamed

Tue, April 30, 2019

Episode 241 * Joshua Mast

Today EMT and firefighter Joshua Mast talks with the lads about brotherhood in the firehouse and how that translates to deeper community for us all.  Every man is in a battle, but do we know how to support a brother in the fire?

Tue, April 23, 2019

Episode 240 * Randall Thomas

Ever get frustrated with the younger generation and feel like you can't relate?  How about you younger folks who think older guys have little or nothing to offer and just want to change you?  Well, today's episode is for you.  Nate and Aaron sit down and chat with Randall Thomas to get some understanding and hopefully practical tools that will help communities of men find love and authenticity across generational divides.

Tue, April 16, 2019

Episode 239 * David Cassidy

Today Nate and Aaron Chat with David Cassidy, Pastor of Christ Community Church in Franklin Tennessee, to chat about his book Indispensable: The Basics of Christian Belief.  They discuss the invitation to the common table that binds all Christians of every denomination together. 

Wed, April 10, 2019

Episode 238 * Tony Kriz

The boys sit down with author, speaker, and Jesus pursuer Tony Kriz to look for some clarity about finding truth in a world bombarding us with truth tailored to suit our own desires.  They also dip into the mailbag and answer a letter about relapses and slips.  

Tue, April 02, 2019

Episode 237 * Tales From Both Sides

Today Nate & Aaron sit down to hear Bill Garner and Jeff Howard tell their stories from both sides of the addiction journey.  Bill and Jeff work to help those struggling with addiction at Harvest Church in Germantown Memphis Tennessee.  

Tue, March 19, 2019

Episode 236 * We All Need a Coach

Live and in person, Nate and Aaron sit down with Jeremy Slayden to talk about his experiences as a professional baseball player, and how his need for coaching in his athletic career helped him to dive into seeking coaching in recovery.

Mon, February 11, 2019

Episode 235 * Reconnecting

Aaron and Nate reconnect after Aaron's big move across the country to Nate's neck of the woods, and Nate leads a mini-meeting with Pirates around the world.

Wed, November 21, 2018

Episode 234 * Jim Cress

Welcome to today's amazing episode where Pirate Monks from around the world participate in a mini-meeting and Nate and Aaron converse with counselor and certified sex addiction therapist Jim Cress. To find out more about what Jim is into and up to head on over to jimcress.com

Sat, November 17, 2018

Episode 233 • Live at the Samson Society 2018 Retreat

Mondo joins Nate, Aaron, and a bunch of pirate monks for a special episode of the podcast recorded on Sunday morning at the 2018 "Another 48 Hours" fall retreat.

Fri, October 26, 2018

Episode 232 * Russ Taff

Today Nate & Aaron answer some mail and then run a conversation Nate and David Hampton had with CCM artist Russ Taff on his journey out of addiction and into forgiveness and healing.

Wed, October 10, 2018

Episode 231 * Jay Stringer

Today, Jay Stringer, author of  Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing,  unpacks a story of great hope for those in the battle for victory.  Check out Jay's website to learn more at: http://jay-stringer.com/

Wed, October 03, 2018

Episode 230 * Straight Privilege

Today the three-part series on privilege wraps up with a conversation about things heterosexual people may not consider in their day-to-day lives. Nate & Aaron hope that these conversations have been useful and informative, but more than that encouraged you to engage in conversations that help you to understand and love the people around you better.

Sat, September 29, 2018

Episode 229 * Curtis Zackery

Do you ever feel your soul needs rest, but you feel the push to do more for Jesus?  Curtis Zackery might have something to say to you on today's conversation with the boys. Check it out. Listen. Learn. Enjoy...

Mon, September 24, 2018

Episode 228 * Male Privilege

Today the series on privilege continues as Nate and Aaron chat with a few experts on being women... and so the conversation continues.  What do other people mean when the word privilege is used. 

Wed, September 12, 2018

Episode 227 * White Privilege

Today Nate and Aaron begin a three-part series on privilege, a word that has taken on important and controversial new weight over the past few years.  In this first installment, the boys speak with Pastor Kujanga Jackson and their old buddy Mondo to learn about what aspects of white privilege they have never considered before.  

Mon, September 03, 2018

Episode 226 * Hangin' With Da' Boys

Tune in and hang out with some of the pirates leading virtual meetings. They might just answer a question you had running around in your mind.

Wed, August 29, 2018

Episode 225 * Michael John Cusick

Most Christians are caught in a belief that there are two poles in dealing with our flesh, master it, or indulge it.  In this episode, Nate and Aaron chat with Michael about a third way to work through our flesh desires. Here is an Amazon link to the Lewis book on love that Aaron talked about.  Included on the link is the audio version that was referred to.  https://www.amazon.com/The-Four-Loves/dp/B0007OB5QM Free versions of the Four Loves are available on Youtube here: Storge.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m4hI638mskQ Philia  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3hM4izbColg Eros  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WReLIE08Dnc Agape  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dTYqrjmDJgE

Wed, August 22, 2018

Episode 224 * Jonathan Merritt

On this episode, Nate and Aaron sit down with columnist and author Jonathan Merritt, to talk about his newest book  Learning to Speak God from Scratch:  Why Sacred Words Are Vanishing -- and How We Can Revive Them .  Strap in and put your helmets on, because this will be a wild ride.  

Thu, July 26, 2018

Episode 223 • Daddy Issues

Aaron talks with Nate and his daughter Kristin about their recent father/daughter trip to Ireland and England.

Thu, July 12, 2018

Episode 222 * Caleb Davison

Nate and Aaron hear about a cool new ministry Caleb and Larry have been working on, which will bring leadership and pastoral mentorship to folks around the world who do not have access to traditional schools and tools.  To find out more, head on over to:  leading-well.com   This Episode's Music: The Quilty Hornpipe - Skip Henderson Everyday People - Sly & The Family Stone Peace of God - Insyderz Don’t Tell Them Jesus Loves Them - Steve Camp Plush - Stone Temple Pilots

Wed, July 04, 2018

Episode 221 * Kirk Giles

Nate and Aaron touch base with Kirk Giles, president of Promise Keepers Canada and answer follow-up questions from a past podcast.

Mon, June 11, 2018

Episode 220 * David Bunker

Hang out with OP (original pirate) David Bunker as he explores the strange tension we experience in corporate worship and how to discover an authentic emotional experience with our Abba.

Wed, May 30, 2018

Episode 219 * Chad Bird

Ever wondered what a truckin' man thinks about during all that alone time in the cab of his rig? Find out today as Nate and Aaron talk with Chad Bird, author of  Night Driving, Notes From a Prodigal Soul . To find more of Chad's resources, head over to: chadbird.com  

Wed, May 23, 2018

Episode 218 * Virginia's Story

Today, Nate and Aaron sit down with Virginia and talk about her life and experiences as an exotic dancer and re-discovering the love of God. 

Wed, May 16, 2018

Episode 217 * Bryan Craig

The extra piratey Nate and Aaron open the mail bag today to talk through listener questions (and piratey suggestions), and then sit down to chat with Bryan Craig of Influencers Global Ministries.  (Yes, they were standing for the first segment.) The Influencers have created a process by which men and women all over the world are experiencing deeper walks as disciples of Jesus Christ. Tune in, get inspired, and head out into the great adventure. For more information on the Influencers' ministry, check out: http://www.influencers.org/  

Wed, May 09, 2018

Episode 216 * Lynn Cherry

Today Lynn Cherry, the wife of a recovering sex addict, talks about her own process of recovery from denial and anger. Lynn is the author of "Keep Walking:  40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal,"  a very helpful resource for anyone on a similar journey. Check out her website: https://lynnmariecherry.com/  

Fri, May 04, 2018

Episode 215 * David Hampton

Today Nate and Aaron, who is sitting next to a river on his phone, get a check in from Michael Cusick about his upcoming Surfing For God Intensive, and have a conversation with David Hampton about his book,  After the Miracle.  To grab a copy of David's book head over to: https://www.amazon.com/After-Miracle-Illusions-Along-Restoration/dp/1683505778/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1525477794&sr=1-2&refinements=p_27%3ADavid+Hampton And to find out more about Michael's intensive click: https://restoringthesoul.com/weekend/  

Wed, April 18, 2018

Episode 215 * Lisa Eldred

Today the boys sit down with Lisa Eldred, a staff writer with Covenant Eyes, to chat about her new book Hobbies and Habits . Lisa is passionate about helping folks find joy and life during the walk towards sobriety. If you've felt like your struggle against the flesh has been one big dark hole, this week's episode is for you.  You can download Lisa's book for free at: https://learn.covenanteyes.com/hobbies-and-habits/ and there are many more books available from covenant eyes, including Lisa's book  More Than Single at: http://www.covenanteyes.com/e-books/

Wed, April 11, 2018

Episode 214 - Lance Ford

Catch up with the boys as they hang with Mondo, yes he's back, and then have a great conversation with author and all around smart guy Lance Ford. The discussion revolves around the dangers and development of hierarchical business model leadership structures in the western church, and how those models might not be the best way to foster community and the development of the gifts God gave His people. If you are happy sitting on the sidelines and accepting that pastors are the ones who should be in the game, make sure to not listen to this one. Tune in next week for, "I'm ok, You're ok." 

Mon, March 26, 2018

Episode 213 - Robbyn Abedi

Today Pastor Robbyn Abedi, a coach with Tin Man Ministries, talks with the boys about his story of hope in shame and gives some great insight into learning to be present instead of hiding in life's performance. You might even learn some practical things about masturbation that you were too afraid to ask...not practical "how to's"...but practical...whatever, just listen to the podcast.

Thu, March 22, 2018

Episode 212 - Robert Beeson

Today, the lads sit down with Robert Beeson to talk about single parenting and his new book  Going Solo.  Robert has created a new format for creating support and community for single parents in your local church. Learn more at soloparentsociety.com .

Wed, February 14, 2018

Episode 211 * Ben & Ann Wilson

Today the boys talk with Ben and Ann Wilson who share their inspirational story of hope in betrayal and God's love that fills in all the gaps of shame and guilt. Grab their book on Kindle for a special limited time price: https://www.amazon.com/Betrayed-Betrayer-Rescuing-Marriage-Affair/dp/0692414053

Wed, February 07, 2018

Episode 210 * Needy Men

Today, Nate & Aaron answer some listener questions and chat about the manly act of being needy.

Fri, January 12, 2018

Episode 209 * Dr. Joe Beam

Join us for a facinating conversation with sexologist and marriage expert Joe Beam, with a special guest answering listerner mail.

Wed, December 27, 2017

Episode 208 * Learning to Let Go as a Parent

Merry Christmas to all aboard the good ship Pirate Monk. Today Nate & Aaron chat about the holidays, have a mini meeting and discuss the stages of their parenting adventures, learning to surrender along the road.

Thu, December 07, 2017

Episode 207 * Matt Mikalatos

Today Nate & Aaron have a great conversation with author, speaker, missionary, husband and dad Matt Mikalatos. Matt shares his thoughts on the ideas surrounding the "Alpha Male" and tells the touching story behind his latest book,  Sky Lantern . Spoiler Alert: His wife was right. If you want to check out what's happening in the world of Matt Mikalatos or grab a book, check out these links below.   www.mikalatos.com Twitter:  twitter.com/mattmikalatos FB:  facebook.com/mikalatosbooks Sky Lantern post: http://www.norvillerogers.com/an-open-letter-to-steph-who-sent-a-sky-lantern-to-her-father-which-landed-in-my-driveway/ The StoryMen podcast:  http://www.norvillerogers.com/podcast/storymen/

Tue, November 28, 2017

Episode 206 * Michael Leahy

Pull up a beanbag chair and enjoy a post thanksgiving conversation with Nate and Michael Leahy as they discuss some new technology that is going to help educate folks on breaking the chains of porn addiction.

Wed, November 15, 2017

Episode 205 * This Episode Was Performed Before a Live Studio Audience Pt 2

Check out the rest of the boys' live conversatiion with some Pirate Monks at the Samson Recharge Weekend in Tennessee. 

Thu, November 02, 2017

Episode 204 * This Episode Was Performed Before a Live Studio Audience pt. 1

Join us and 60 of our fellow pirates for a live conversation during the Samson Recharge weekend. Nate, Aaron and Mondo field questions from the crew of the good ship "We Have No Idea What's Going On."

Wed, November 01, 2017

Episode 203 * Ted "Million Dollar Man" DiBiase

Today Nate and Aaron sit down and have a conversation with WWE hall of fame wrestler Ted DiBiase about his journey back to his family and faith after he discovered the true price of fame. A documentary on his life and faith journey will be shown November 7th. To find out what theater near you will be showing "The Price of Fame," go to: https://www.fathomevents.com/events/the-price-of-fame?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=the+price+of+fame&utm_term=87am&utm_content=textad&gclid=Cj0KCQjw4eXPBRCtARIsADvOjY0KxblqBOCHLGr4JCMmIBN7GooPMkyrAk6qKqOEInVjPIV14ZBzgJMaAso4EALw_wcB and enter your zip code.

Wed, September 27, 2017

Episode 202 * Chris Simning

Today national speaker Chris Simning shares about lessons he's learned about community through living with a physical dissability and the common threads that holds with every persons soul disabilities. Don't miss this exciting, tantalizing episode of the pirate monk podcast.

Tue, September 19, 2017

Episode 201 * Shane Claiborne

The boys tread in deep waters as they talk about social justice and capital punishment with Shane Claiborne. If this sounds too scary for you...don't listen. But we think you should!

Thu, September 14, 2017

Episode 200 * "Science" Mike McHargue

Mike talks with the boys about some of the neurological and social reasons we get entrenched in a way of thinking and can't / won't amend our views. This is also summarized as, "why I am a bad listener and only want you to change your mind." All that and more on today's episode of the pirate monk podcast.

Wed, September 13, 2017

Episode 199 - The Language of Emotion

Today Jeff Schulte of Tin Man Ministries unpacks some of what he will be teaching on at the Samson Recharge weekend coming up in October, the importance and role of emotions in a man's life.  If you haven't signed up for the weekend, check it out at: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/pirate-monk-recharge-weekend-2017-tickets-36758342191 Nate has also published a new ebook on accountability which can be downloaded for free at: http://www.2lin.cc/beyondaccountability

Wed, August 23, 2017

Episode 198 - The Heart of Man

Pull up a chair, switch on that listening device and get into the back story of the new Movie, The Heart of Man, opening September 14th.  Producer and Writer Jason Pamer tells us a little of what into this movie that searches for the heart of our Abba in the midst of personal struggles and pitfalls. To find out what city The Heart of Man will be playing in, go to:    http://heartofmanmovie.com/ To watch the theatrical tralor, click:    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3qJHd17RQeg  

Thu, August 17, 2017

Episode 197 - Road Trip Episode

Nate and Dr. Tom Moucka call in from their Samson road trip visiting brothers down south. This stop, Don Waller's group in Jackson Mississippi.

Wed, July 26, 2017

Episode 196 - Binge Living

Today the boys talk with Tony Kriz about the miraculous gift of story, and the discipline of slowing down enough to engage the one God has put us in.   MUSIC FROM TODAY'S EPISODE Song 1: Ben Folds - Zak & Sara Song 2: Five Iron Frenzy - Solidarity Song 3:   Ibrahim Ferrer- Compositor Confundido Song 4: Kyle Matthews - The Way We Go About it Matters Song 5: Chagall Guevara - It All Comes True

Wed, July 19, 2017

Episode 195 - Coming Home

Today Nate & Aaron chat with old friend and Samson OG Scott Phillips about his journey away from home, through the unexpected wilderness and the deep discovery of a Father who loves us.  You can find Scott's music with his band Good Little Giants at: goodlittlegiants.com The three songs played in the middle breaks of today's episode are from his album, "Arrows."

Wed, July 12, 2017

Episode 194 * A Journey to Manhood

Today Chad Robichaux, recon marine, mixed martial artist, husband & father, talks about his journey through battle, competition, ptsd and finding how much strength it takes to be a man of God. If you are in the mood for someone boring...skip this episode. To read more about Chad's program for soldiers, or to order his book, click the link below. http://www.mightyoaksprograms.org/

Wed, June 21, 2017

Episode 193 * The Good 'Ol Days

Today Nate & Aaron sit down and chat with CCM artist Matthew Ward and talk about the communal aspects of the Church in the late 60's and 70's when Matthew was singing with his two sisters in the band 2nd Chapter of Acts. They discuss some of the positive and negative aspects of a Church taking seriously the notion of living together as one body, a true community. 

Sat, June 17, 2017

Episode 192 * Technical trouble - episode will be re-uploaded

Sat, June 17, 2017

Episode 192 * Living Water

Today Aaron and guest co-host Brian Kay talk with Gary Weyel of Life Water and discuss the greatest killer on the planet. Stay tuned and get informed. If you want to learn more about Life Water, click the link below. https://lifewater.org/ Brian and Aaron also discussed his new album that was released on noisetrade this week. If you'd like to download a free copy, click: http://noisetrade.com/aaronporter/waiting-to-see

Wed, June 07, 2017

191 * Inviting Jesus to the Meal

Today Nate & Aaron sit down with their old friend Ken Chester to talk about Ken's "Rez Meals," a purposeful time for believers to meet over the body and blood of Christ and bring their authentic selves. 

Wed, May 24, 2017

190 * Bravehearts & Mentoring

Today Nate & Aaron talk to Michael Leahy about his story and the Bravehearts ministry that mentors men from sexual addiction to powerful walks with Jesus. They also dip into the mail bag to answer some of your questions. To check out Michael's ministry, go to bravehearts.org

Wed, May 17, 2017

189 • Encouraging the Spouse of an Addict

Catherine Etherington is an empathetic and articulate mother-of-two from England who has helped hundreds of women come to terms with the news that they have been sleeping with a sex addict. Here's a taste of her wisdom: Nate: Some Christian women are told that their responsibility towards a repentant spouse (or even an unrepentant one) is to forgive and forget. Is that true? Is it even possible? Are there healthier alternatives that produce healing?   Cat: That is such an important issue and one that we in the church don’t really talk about enough. This whole forgiveness thing puts women under a lot of pressure in the midst of their trauma and confusion and in my opinion it creates a lot of unnecessary guilt on their part.   Music Used on this Episode: Discover Sam Levine on Spotify   Resources Recommended on this Episode: Find out more about being coached by Cat here . A great organization to contact: APSATS, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists Your Sexually-Addicted Spouse by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means Beyond Betrayal: How God is Healing Women (and Couples) from Infidelity by Lisa Taylor Cat's blog on Huffington Post . The Naked Truth Project (UK only) Note: We apologize for the long delay in the posting of this episode.

Wed, April 12, 2017

188 • Behind '13 Reasons Why' with Jay Asher

Jay Asher is the author behind the bestselling book 13 Reasons Why which is now an original Netflix series. Subscribers have gone wild for the young adult mystery series about a girl who commits suicide and sends audio cassettes explaining why. Jay Asher wrote 13 Reasons Why after penning a number of other books. Aaron invited him into his studio for episode 51, which was posted on February 8, 2011, to talk about his life, background, and why he thinks the subject resonates. Nate, Aaron, and Mondo dive into the deep end of the pool as well to discuss despair, checking in with other men, and hope. For more information about Jay's books , blog , and Netflix series by clicking on the links.   Mark is within 10 days of the cutoff for donations for his race. Click here to give $9 (or any amount) to help his family reach their goal of providing a full year's tuition for a student in need.   Mark pushing Zoë across the finish line of the Race Judicata 10K in training for the St. Jude Rock 'n' Roll Nashville Half-Marathon on April 29, 2017 as part of a fundraising team for New Hope Academy. Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast Please tell us what you think by leaving a comment below, scrolling to the bottom and leaving us a voice mail via Speakpipe , or call (615) 807-0476.

Tue, March 28, 2017

187 • Facing Failure featuring Dr. Brian Kay

How do you handle failure? Counselor and Pastor Brian Kay joins us to talk about stand up comedy and so much more. Bring your resentment list to talk about with the guys and enjoy a super-sized edition of the Pirate Monk Podcast. Brian has his own podcast. Check out Shot Put .   Music Used on this Episode Get Back Up by TobyMac Miracle of the Moment by Steven Curtis Chapman Blessed Be Your Name by Tree63   Find out more about Mark's upcoming race or make a donation  here : Watch the video .

Thu, January 26, 2017

186 • Understanding Yourself with Ian Cron

One of our favorite guests, Ian Cron, drops in for a swerving conversation about his latest book, The Road Back to You. It's his take on the enneagram so you know Aaron has a lot to say.   His book His podcast His free assessment   Mark's April Race:  Please watch this video and join his effort.    Music Used on the Episode:   "Who am I" by Margaret Becker   "Who am I" by Casting Crowns     Please pray for Nate's wife Allie who is fighting pneumonia.

Thu, December 15, 2016

185 • A Royal Ruckus Christmas

If listening in your browser, scoll to the bottom of the notes to find the player controls. The Pirate Ship is decorated for Christmas today and full of suggestions for your Christmas Music pleasure. Nate gives an update on Allie and her challenges. Then we welcome an old friend and fellow Monk to the microphone: Jamey "Chunjay" Bennett, one half of the hip hop duo, Royal Ruckus. Royal Ruckus Click here to stream or download the 3-song Christmas EP, " Lonely Christmas ". Also, find other Christmas music on this compilation from Invisible Library . Click here to get on the front end of the new double album " Summer of the Cicadas " Music Recommended on this Episode   Please tell us what you think by leaving a comment below, scrolling to the bottom and leaving us a voice mail via Speakpipe , or call (615) 807-0476.  

Fri, November 18, 2016

184 • Treating Depression and Addiction with Dr. Paul Corona

Aaron follows up on his promise from the last episode and invites Dr. Paul Corona to discuss treating depression and addiction with medicine. Have you been struggling for years with addiction, depression symptoms, physical pain, anxiety, or other related issues? For many, there has been no treatment, pill, or treatment plan able to solve the problem. Dr. Corona’s approach is different. He understands there’s only one solution per person, and that solution depends on a number of factors—your genetic makeup, your hormonal status, your body’s chemistry, your upbringing, and even your current lifestyle and stresses. Read more about Dr. Corona or schedule an appointment by visiting his website . Purchase his books here or on Amazon . Music Used on this Episode " Welcome to the Road " from the soundtrack to The Fabulous Baker Boys by Dave Grusin Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast Please tell us what you think by leaving a comment below, scrolling to the bottom and leaving us a voice mail via Speakpipe , or call (615) 807-0476.  

Wed, November 09, 2016

183 • Willingness

Nate, Aaron, and Mark dive right into the topic: willingness in recovery.   The Article on Willingness Discussed Today   Scripture Used in this Edition "Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.” Jesus speaking in Matthew 26:41 The Pool of Siloam, John 9     Great Quotes from this Episode   "An expectation is a premeditated resentment." "Expectation does not equal hope."   Music Used on this Episode " Answers Don't Come Easy " by Leslie Phillips Please tell us what you think by leaving a comment below, scrolling to the bottom and leaving us a voice mail via Speakpipe , or call (615) 807-0476.  

Tue, September 27, 2016

182 • Five Things Addicts Should and Shouldn't Say to Partners

Nate, Aaron, and Mark check in briefly. The guys discussed this article on this edition outlining the Five Things Addicts Should (and Should Not) Say to Partners.   Do say, "I understand why you don't trust me."   Do say, "What can I do to repair what I've done?"   Do Lead with Agreement   Don't say, "I've told you everything."   Don't ask (or expect) your partner to congratulate you on your sobriety or recovery activities Books Mentioned on this Edition: Moving Beyond Betrayal by Vicki Tidwell Palmer The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions ( Download PDF at no cost here )   Bible Passages on this Edition: 1 John 1:9 (Confession ( homolgio - say the same thing as) 1 Peter 5   Music on This Edition: "I'm Not Who I Was"

Tue, September 20, 2016

181 • Legislating Morality

Australia is taking a governmental approach to protecting their citizens from pornography. But does legislating morality actually work? How about on a personal level? On this edition of the podcast, Aaron, Newton, and Mark talk about their opinions and observations. We kick off this edition with a look at pastors' resignations like these .   Music on this Episode Aaron shares one of his original songs, "A Pastor's Thoughts on Pedestals". Enjoy exclusively on this podcast.   Our listener survey is still open. We'd love to have your comments. If you haven't left us your opinion yet, please do so. Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast Please tell us what you think by leaving a comment below, scrolling to the bottom and leaving us a voice mail via Speakpipe , or call (615) 807-0476.  

Thu, September 01, 2016

180 • The Afterglow of After the Miracle

The guys gather to discuss the outcome of "After the Miracle", the first National Samson Society retreat. Then we answer a question from a brother pirate who is concerned about how to keep your group safe for all members and how to squelch rumors. Music Used on this Episode: " Mountain Cathedrals " by Bob Bennett " Honesty " by Billy Joel

Thu, July 14, 2016

179 • The Love of Christ and the Hope for Your Marriage

If listening on your web browser, scroll to the bottom for the player controls. REGISTRATION OPEN until July 31: "After the Miracle: Building a Life of Positive Sobriety", the Samson Society National Retreat, is scheduled for August 19–21, 2016. Click here for more details and to register. As of 7/13/16, only 21 spaces remain. Only 18 days remain to register. This edition of the podcast was recorded on May 18, 2016 and first published on July 13, 2016 To keep you informed, you must know what a bunganut is before you have a great burger and play a game of pool at The Bunganut Pig . And, oh by the way, Mark got married! Today we answer a Pirate Monk's question: "Guys, I'd love some help understanding how to live and love a wife with mental illness." Don't tune out if that's not your story because whether you wife has mental illness, physical illness, or is just affected by the fall, the conversation will encourage you and prompt you to think about God's role and your role in marriage. The guys discuss the nature of the love of God, the love of a man for his wife, and the nature of hope. Music on this Episode: " Tell Your Heart to Beat Again " by Danny Gokey (if you haven't heard the story behind the song, make sure to watch this video.) " Holding Out Hope to You " by Michael English. Our listener survey is still open. We'd love to have your comments. If you haven't left us your opinion yet, please do so. Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast Please tell us what you think by leaving a comment below, scrolling to the bottom and leaving us a voice mail via Speakpipe , or call (615) 807-0476.  

Thu, July 07, 2016

178 • Handing a Scalpel to a Fellow Pirate

To listen in your web browser, scroll to the bottom of the notes and press play. REGISTRATION OPEN until July 31: "After the Miracle: Building a Life of Positive Sobriety", the Samson Society National Retreat, is scheduled for August 19–21, 2016. Click here for more details and to register. As of 7/6/16, only 33 spaces remain. We launch this podcast with an emotions check-in with Nate, Newton, and Mark. The heart of the episode circles around a recent experience Mark encountered. At a recent meeting, two men discussed their dissatisfaction with their Samson Society journey. Upon further discussion, everyone in the circle agreed that sometimes every Pirate Monk can get stuck early on The Path. We go to (some) meetings, we choose a Silas that we call (rarely), but steps three through seven elude us. How does a willing man face his journey and make progress. Nate talks about a book he's reading: Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday . We discussed a tried and true way to undergo a fearless (or courageous) moral inventory: Take a look at the four horsemen:   Resentment   Fear   Anger (or Shame)   Lust Music on this Episode: "Shoulder to Shoulder" by The Allies Our listener survey is still open. We'd love to have your comments. If you haven't left us your opinion yet, please do so.

Wed, June 22, 2016

177 • Who are the Samson Society? Is Everyone a Sex Addict?

If you are listening on your computer, please scroll to the bottom of the notes to find the player. REGISTRATION NOW OPEN: "After the Miracle: Building a Life of Positive Sobriety", the Samson Society National Retreat, is scheduled for August 19–21, 2016.  Click here for more  details and to register. As of 6/22/16, only 44 spaces remain. You've been there when a new man walked in the door for a first-time meeting. We get to know Lee Marcus who hesitated a little before sitting in our circle… and then God got to work. If you've ever been asked, "Who goes to Samson Society", this episode will help you answer with grace and the Gospel. Lee Marcus is an eight-year veteran of Samson Society and came because of co-dependency, rage, and marital problems. Lee spent a long and decorated career in radio and now meets new people every day as a guide to owning new Acura vehicles. (If you're interested, you can email Lee here for more information.) We launch the podcast with a mini-meeting about "regret." We'd love you to join in. Scroll to the bottom of this post and leave a comment with your thoughts on regret. If you want a more personal connection, email us here or leave us a voicemail. The link is below. . We then talk about why men come to—and stay plugged in to—Samson Society. If you're unfamiliar with our meeting format, click here to read our charter . Music on this Episode "Straight Ahead" by Amy Grant "He Ain't Heavy, He's My Brother" by Glen Campbell Our listener survey is still open. We'd love to have your comments. If you haven't left us your opinion yet, please do so. Please tell us what you think by leaving a voice mail via Speakpipe , or call (615) 807-0476.

Wed, June 15, 2016

176 • You Are There featuring Robert Campbell

REGISTRATION NOW OPEN: "After the Miracle: Building a Life of Positive Sobriety", the Samson Society National Retreat, is scheduled for August 19–21, 2016.  Click here  for more details and to register. As of 6/11/16, only 48 spaces remain. Nate, Aaron, and Mark welcome a pastor, Robert Campbell, to the microphones for a conversation about building community, creation care, and shepherding Christians towards discipleship that is all the way down to the dirt.   What is the fruit of a redemptive life?   How do Jesus's life, death, and resurrection make a substantial difference in your own backyard?   How is community built differently in a large city than a small town? Find out more or purchase a copy of Robert's book here . Music on this Edition of the Podcast: " King of the Road " by Roger Miller " Space in Between Us " by Building 429 Our listener survey is still open. We'd love to have your comments. If you haven't left us your opinion yet, please do so. Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast Please tell us what you think by leaving a comment below, scrolling to the bottom and leaving us a voice mail via Speakpipe , or call (615) 807-0476.  

Tue, June 07, 2016

175 • Questions About Porn

To listen to this episode online, please scroll to the bottom of the notes to see the player. REGISTRATION NOW OPEN: "After the Miracle: Building a Life of Positive Sobriety", the Samson Society National Retreat, is scheduled for August 19–21, 2016. Click here for more details and to register . We open our conversation with a mini-meeting about "Disappointment." We'd love to hear your observations. Use the tools at the bottom of this post to leave us your thoughts and feelings about "Disappointment." Our first question: Is there a common source for pain for men that drives us to pornography? How do we find healing from the source? Our second question: Maybe this is so unique to each individual, but what is real sobriety like? Can it be defined qualitatively or quantitatively? What are the intangible aspects that you have wlaked through? The Music on This Edition of the Podcast: " Short Attention Span " " American Tune " by Paul Simon Our listener survey is still open. We'd love to have your comments. If you haven't left us your opinion yet, please do so. Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast Please tell us what you think by leaving a comment below, scrolling to the bottom and leaving us a voice mail via Speakpipe , or call (615) 807-0476.  

Thu, May 12, 2016

174 • A Couple of Regular Guys

If listening online, please scroll to the bottom of this entry for the player. You asked for it. We delivered. One of the most commonly asked for additions to the podcast line up is: "Can we hear from other Pirate Monks?" Today on the podcast, we sit down with two Samson brothers who have never met Nate. Paul Maxwell (@paulcmaxwell) is a PhD student at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School, and philosophy professor at Moody Bible Institute. He writes more at his blog , and pretends to like coffee. Paul wrote the article " Seven Things to Do After Watching Pornography " for Desiring God and included a shout out to Samson Society. He was first invited to Samson Society by his friend Ryan Gibson. Ryan started his professional life in ministry as a youth minister. He received an undergrad in theology and pursued an MDiv at Westminster Seminary where he met Paul Maxwell. He didn't complete his MDiv, instead pursuing a new career in web development and has been doing that for the past five years. He has done a lot of traveling since then, starting or joining Samson Society groups in each new location. He's currently living in Fishers, Ind. with his wife and two kids. He is currently meeting with other brothers in the local Fishers Samson Society group which meets at Christ's Community Church on the corner of 131st and Allisonville Rd. Most importantly, though, is that he's a diehard Cubs fan and doesn't miss a game. We'd love to hear from you. Please take a few minutes and answer questions on our listener survey . You'll be entered for a drawing for a free, autographed copy of Nate Larkin's book, Samson and the Pirate Monks . Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast Please tell us what you think by leaving a comment below, scrolling to the bottom and leaving us a voice mail via Speakpipe , or call (615) 807-0476. [box type="info"] ANNOUNCING: Nate Larkin is hosting a national Samson Society weekend intensive focused on positive sobriety. Interested? Click here to provide your email address. You'll be the first to know all of the details when price and schedule are announced. All of the podcast Buccaneers will be there. Send me information about "After the Miracle: A Positive Sobriety Retreat" August 19-21 Bear Trap Ranch, Colorado. * indicates required Email Address * First Name

Sat, March 26, 2016

Episode 173 • Soul Architecture featuring Aaron Porter

Our own Renaissance Man, Aaron Porter, takes us on a guided tour of one of his life's great passions—applying the Gospel to the great why questions of our lives. Every week, Aaron coaches several Christ followers on the path to greater understanding of their selves and Abba God using the material in his latest book, Soul Architecture: Building Your Story on a Gospel Foundation . Using the ancient enneagram as a tool and the Scriptures as the roadmap, Aaron helps us understand:   we need more than just a personality inventory that examines behavior which part of the Body of Christ we function in what "planet" we are on—how we process our surroundings and interact with others   Our Guest Aaron Porter makes coffee mixed with Red Bull look lazy. When he's not being a husband and father, he helps lead Vintage Community , a fellowship of Christ followers in central (San Luis Obispo/Templeton) California. Somehow he finds time to write and perform music locally [ download ], write books , coach others in Soul Architecture , write engineering reports, and co-host our podcast. Aaron—despite what you might hear on the podcast—is smart, wise, intuitive, and lives with a driving passion for others to fully understand the power of the gospel in their lives. Aaron's Books The Fallen Series, a trilogy of novels A strange boy in the Arabian desert and the political turmoil of the Parthian empire collide as a group of magi seek to find the balance between a world of power and truth. Download here . Receive more information about Aaron Porter's book, Soul Architecture     * indicates required Email Address *                 // (function($) {window.fnames = new Array(); window.ftypes = new Array();fnames[0]='EMAIL';ftypes[0]='email';fnames[1]='FNAME';ftypes[1]='text';fnames[2]='LNAME';ftypes[2]='text';}(jQuery));var $mcj = jQuery.noConflict(true);   Music Used Since our edition is published on Good Friday of 2016, Mark offers up two of his favorite Resurrection Sunday songs. World-class guitarist and songwriter, Chris Rodriguez (Michael W. Smith, Keith Urban, Kenny Loggins, Shania Twain) penned this plaintive song about Mary Magdalene.   Purchase the music from Amazon or iTunes . Matt Maher performs his contemporary classic "Christ is Risen".   Buy the music from iTunes Scripture Used Romans 6 Zephaniah 3:17 Romans 7:17

Fri, March 18, 2016

Episode 172 • Embarassment, Guilt, and Shame

ANNOUNCING: Nate Larkin is hosting a national Samson Society weekend intensive focused on positive sobriety. Interested? Click here to provide your email address. You'll be the first to know all of the details when price and schedule are announced. All of the podcast Buccaneers will be there. Click here to sign up for information.   Certified marriage & family therapist and author Ramon Presson takes us into the darkest days of his life and helps us all look out the window at God's answer for guilt and shame. Our Guest Ramon Presson is a clinically certified marriage and family therapist for over 20 years and the founder of LifeChange Counseling and the Marriage Center of Franklin. From 1989 to 2004 Presson also served as an ordained minister and assistant pastor in churches in North Carolina South Carolina, Florida, and Tennessee. A native of North Carolina, a teenage Ramon first met Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, at Chapman's Winston-Salem church. After graduating from Wake Forest University with a degree in psychology and later from Florida State University with a Master’s in Counseling, Presson returned to serve on the staff in the church’s counseling center and there renewed his relationship with Dr. Chapman. Many years later, in 2002, they would collaborate on the Love Talks trilogy of books for couples and families. “I thank Dr. Chapman and I credit the co-authorship of those books for opening many of the subsequent doors of writing and publishing opportunity I’ve enjoyed. I’m quite honored that Gary agreed to write the foreword for When Will My Life Not Suck.” Ramon lives with his wife, Dorrie, and teenage sons, Trevor and Cameron, in Thompson Station, Tennessee, a pleasant drive into the country south of Nashville. Follow him on Facebook for the laughs and the insights. Ramon's Books When Will My Life Not Suck?: Authentic Hope for the Disillusioned Is this as good as it gets? Personal crises and disappointments have led many to the pessimistic conclusion that "my life sucks." Underneath the contemporary slang are universal and timeless questions about the human condition. People of every age, in every kind of circumstance have wondered to themselves and others: Will my life ever be better than this? Is this as good as it gets? This book is an honest and compassionate look at the real struggles we face in a broken world where bad things do happen. Dr. Ramon Presson, a licensed marriage & family therapist for 30 years, describes his own significant personal struggles, including hospitalization for depression. Using the letter that Paul wrote to the Philippians from prison, Presson shares that hope and joy are possible even when life disappoints. Full of

Thu, March 10, 2016

Episode 171 • After the Miracle

ANNOUNCING: Nate Larkin is hosting a national Samson Society weekend intensive focused on positive sobriety. Interested? Click here to provide your email address. You'll be the first to know all of the details when price and schedule are announced. All of the podcast Buccaneers will be there. Click  to receive more information.   Nate Larkin's own Silas, worship pastor and author David Hampton , climbs up into the treehouse for episode 171. They guys talk about what happens AFTER the pink cloud of early sobriety disappears. How do you maintain passion for recovery? How do you deal with those around you who either aren't used to the new you or keep expecting you to revert to the old you? Our Guest Though the first bullet point on his resume would include almost two decades as a worship director at a prominent Nashville mega church, the greatest impact of David Hampton’s career and narrative isn’t summed up so neatly. David’s life story is certainly highlighted by his prodigy-like talent at the piano, his awards for songwriting and musicianship, the songs and hymns he has published and recorded, and traveling with a host of well-known music artists. However, David found the theme that emerged as he became more successful was one that he would never have chosen or written into one of his melodies—and one that ultimately would offer life, hope and healing. The twists of his wife’s suffering with a progressive and eventually debilitating disease and his own subsequent spiral into alcoholism began derailing what, at first, seemed like a storybook life. David recounts his days as a “professional Christian” trying to spin the plates of a very public ministry life and a serious addiction to alcohol with candor. David’s journey into recovery brought more than just a means by which he learned to live without alcohol. He became keenly aware of his spiritual bankruptcy and all the unaddressed questions of his faith and lack of it. His story includes how he entered recovery, incorporated spiritual guides from ministers to monks, the sensory overload of fresh sobriety, and determining what parts of his old belief system would make it into the renewed version of himself that was emerging.   Music Used David Hampton's latest project is Fuel Music Group's "Split the Sky." Listen to the full song here : Purchase the music from Amazon or iTunes . We'd love to hear from you. Please take a few minutes and answer questions on our listener survey . You'll be entered for a drawing for a free, autographed copy of Nate Larkin's book, Samson and the Pirate Monks . Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast <p style="text-ali

Thu, February 25, 2016

Episode 170 • Can Men Be Friends with Women? | Recovery Men's Ministry Samson Society 12-Step

In Episode 170, Nate, Newton, and Mark welcome Englishman Joshua Jones to the microphone. He discusses how we can build genuine relationships with the opposite sex that DON'T threaten marriage. Is it possible? Is it wise? The Book Forbidden Friendships: Retaking the Biblical Gift of Male-Female Friendship Forbidden Friendships presents the case for why Christian men and women not only can but need to engage one another in deep friendship and how to do so. In the name of integrity, walls are being raised that keep us from meaningful brother-sister friendship in Christ. While personal boundaries can be healthy, these generalised divisions are not Biblical nor these rules in line with Church History at its best. Contrary to their promises, we are not safer from sexual immorality by adhering to them - we are more at risk.     Movie Referenced Music Used The Official Motion Picture Soundtrack, When Harry Met Sally We'd love to hear from you. Please take a few minutes and answer questions on our listener survey . You'll be entered for a drawing for a free, autographed copy of Nate Larkin's book, Samson and the Pirate Monks . Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast Please tell us what you think by leaving a comment below, scrolling to the bottom and leaving us a voice mail via Speakpipe , or call (615) 807-0476.

Fri, February 12, 2016

Episode 169 • Questions from Listeners

In Episode 0169, Nate, Aaron, and Mark attend a mini-meeting then answer some questions from our listener survey . (1) Is there such a thing as casual porn use, like casual drinking? (2) How do I handle going to the beach? Watching TV? Mini-Meeting If you're looking for resources to start a Samson Society meeting in your area, check out these resources . Feel free to comment or leave a voicemail with any questions you have. Chess Aaron told a great story about his son, Elijah. Check out this picture. Super Samson Nate and Aaron mentioned a funny video of things that can go right... and oh so wrong... at a Samson Society meeting. When this video resurfaces, we'll post it here. Changing Lanes Nate mentioned this movie in his checkin during our mini-meeting. Stream or download here. [ iTunes ] [ Amazon ] Watch the clip mentioned  here . Music Used "In the Light of the Common Day" by Phil Keaggy   We'd love to hear from you. Please take a few minutes and answer questions on our listener survey . You'll be entered for a drawing for a free, autographed copy of Nate Larkin's book, Samson and the Pirate Monks . Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast Please tell us what you think by leaving a comment below, scrolling to the bottom and leaving us a voice mail via Speakpipe , or call (615) 807-0476.

Mon, February 01, 2016

Episode 168 • Confession and Healing

Do we have your feedback yet? Please take a few minutes and answer just a few questions in our listener survey . On episode 168 of The Pirate Monk Podcast, the guys welcome author, speaking agent, and fellow struggler on the path, Wes Yoder , Our conversation may meander, but we will touch on confession, sorrow, lament, healing, fathers, and Elvis. Show Notes Bond of Brothers  by Wes Yoder   Wes Yoder is the founder and President of The Ambassador Agency in Franklin, Tenn. He is also the local representative for The New Canaan Society which has groups across the nation. Click here to find a group meeting near you.  Quotes Used Wes referred to The Great Divorce by C.S. Lewis. In this novel, Lewis paints broad pictures about our entry and existence in heaven. It's worth the read. A third-party summary of the section on heaven is:In The Great Divorce Lewis paints a picture in which the closer we get to God, the more real everything gets. Hell (the farthest place from God) would only be the size of a pebble on earth, earth the size of a pebble in heaven. When souls first arrive in heaven, their appearance is as ghosts. Their forms have been expanded, like blowing up a balloon, so that they match the size of things in heaven, but they are like empty air. A body is outlined but they are transparent and so weightless that they cannot bend the grass beneath their feet (it feels like needles to walk on), nor sink in water, nor pick up a heavenly apple from the ground. Those residents of heaven who come to greet the ghosts have been filled with the fullness of God’s Divine Being. As God is more solid than anything on earth, in Lewis’s vision, so these people are more solid, more real, and now more fully human than any human being in our world.[ Order ]

Wed, January 27, 2016

Episode 167 • Step 1

We long for your feedback. Please take a few minutes and answer just a few questions in our listener survey .   On episode 167 of The Pirate Monk Podcast, Nate and Mark go for a virtual walk with microphones on to discuss the first step of the 12 Steps.   Show Notes Nate brought up three books worth having in your library. The Big Book: Alcoholics Anonymous [ Free ] [ iPhone App ] [ Amazon ] The Twelve Steps and the Twelve Traditions [ Free ] [ iPhone App ] [ Amazon ] Find Samson meetings here . Find AA meetings here . The Good Book and the Big Book [ Amazon ]   Quotes Used Nate quote Martin Luther from his writing called " Two Kinds of Righteousness ." The full quote is as follows:There are two kinds of Christian righteousness, just as man’s sin is of two kinds. The first is alien righteousness, that is the righteousness of another, instilled from without. This is the righteousness of Christ by which he justifies though faith, as it is written in I Cor. 1:30: “whom God made our wisdom, our righteousness and sanctification and redemption.” In John 11:25-26, Christ himself states: “I am the resurrection and the life; he who believes in me.....shall never die.” Later he adds in John 14:6, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life.” This righteousness, then, is given to men in baptism and whenever they are truly repentant. Therefore a man can with confidence boast in Christ and say: “Mine are Christ’s living, doing, and speaking, his suffering and dying, mine as much as if I had lived, done, spoken, suffered, and died as he did.”Scripture UsedTruly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit. John 12:24 ESV "You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell." Matthew 5:27–30 ESV<

Tue, January 19, 2016

Episode 166 • Cycles

On episode 166 of The Pirate Monk Podcast, Nate shares a personal challenge and we take two phone calls from listeners like you.   Show Notes Aaron shared a quote by his co-pastor at Vintage Community Church. Nate also said, "Don't go toward isolation to get out of a cycle." If you feel stuck in a cycle, Nate offers these four ideas: Tracking your sobriety and serenity. Some groups use chips. Some individuals use a Sobriety Counter app [ iOS ] [ Android ] to track their "one day at a time." Keeping a Gratitude List. Write down everything—big and small—you're thankful to God for. Service in Obscurity. Nate told the story of a man who picked up trash in the Walmart parking lot as a way to serve without anyone patting him on the back. Get your butt to a meeting. Find Samson meetings here . Find AA meetings here .  Scripture Used Romans 1:21   Music Used "California Dreamin'" by The Mamas and the Papas "The Pirates Who Don't Do Anything" by Relient K Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast Click here to take the listener survey. You will be entered for a random drawing of a free copy of Samson and the Pirate Monks .

Sun, January 10, 2016

0165 Gospelicious (aka Gospel Grace)

Nate Larkin and the guys welcome Erik Guzman , Vice President of Communications from Key Life, to discuss transformation by the gospel even in the midst of recovery. Show Notes Read more about Erik Read Erik's article series on addiction Drunk Believers Pain is Your Friend Beauty from Brutality The Gift of Addiction Order Erik's new novel, The Seek: A True Myth   Resources Discussed TED Talk : Everything You Think You Know about Addiction is WrongJohann Hari Delighting in the Trinity by Michael Reeves Key Life Network Steve Brown 's Daily Thoughts: You Think About That

Fri, January 01, 2016

Ep164 • Best of 2015

Listen back to clips from the top three listened to podcast episodes of 2015. The number three most popular episode of 2015 was #161, "Cross Road" featuring Ken Snyder. Click here to listen to the entire episode #161 "Cross Road." Find out more or order Ken Snyder's book, Cross Road. In this clip, Ken addresses the spiritual benefits of recovery and how he brings the Gospel into the process. Nate, Aaron, and Newton talk about community and the standards in their recovery program. The number two most popular episode of 2015 was #153, "The River of Denial" featuring Nate Larkin. Click here to listen to the entire episode #153 "The River of Denial" Subscribe to the Walking Lessons podcast by Nate Larkin. In this clip, Nate addresses ten strategies we employ to deny our problems and addictions. Ten Strategies for Denial Minimizing Comparison Create a Diversion Distraction Blaming Working Pick Another Area in which to Succeed Fantasy False Repentance Absolute Denial The most popular episode of 2015 was #159 "Where Do I Go from Here" featuring Greg Oliver and Adam Calvert of Route 1520 . Click here to listen to the entire episode #159, "Where Do I Go from Here?" In this clip, Greg and Adam discuss the first steps of safety for a man struggling with sex addiction in one of its many forms. Take the self-inventory discussed in this clip. Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast <a href='https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/pirate-mon

Thu, December 17, 2015

Ep 163 • Dating God

Show Notes:In this episode, a look at Stage 4 of The Path as expressed in the charter of The Samson Society. (Download the Charter  here .) Encouraged by my Silas and others, I develop the daily disciplines of prayer, study, and self-examination. I abandon self-help, asking God instead to do for me what I cannot do for myself. Nate shared an article by Tim Challies. Read the article  here . Download Psalm 23 in several translations  here . Special Request:The guys are taking a break for Christmas and New Year’s, so we want YOU to be the guest on the next podcast. Will you please call us and tell us: What did you see God do through Samson Society or your recovery this year? and/or What was the best tip or quote about recovery you heard this year? Call (615) 807-0476 and leave a voice mail. We'll choose as many as we can to feature on the next podcast. Note for Men Living in Tennessee:The Samson Society Spring Retreat is scheduled for April 15–17. Let us know your thoughts to help us plan. Click  here  to take a short survey and give us your email address so you can be notified as plans come together.

Fri, December 11, 2015

Episode 162 • The Mailbag, Positive Sobriety, and To Drink or Not to Drink

Nate, Aaron, and Mondo are back after a too-long hiatus and welcome a new member of the team, Mark. On this Episode:1. What happened to Aaron in the hot tub?2. How can a man make sure he is fully known?3. What does Positive Sobriety look like?4. Should we go to the pub for the "meeting after the meeting?" Show Notes:Nate quoted this passage from the Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book. We began practicing a positive sobriety, taking the actions of love to improve our relations with others. We were learning how to give; and the measure we gave was the measure we got back. We were finding what none of the substitutes had ever supplied. We were making the real connection. We were home. Related to Positive Sobriety, Nate mentioned these resources:Book:  The Cure  by by Bill Thrall, Bruce McNichol, and John LynchWorkbook:  The Cure Workbook Video:  The Two Roads Bible Passages Discussed: Philippians 2:12–13 Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, so now, not only as in my presence but much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure. Romans 14

Tue, October 20, 2015

Episode 161• Cross Road

A conversation with author Ken Snyder.

Tue, October 20, 2015

Episode 160 • Fight Club!

An inspiring conversation with Kurt Graves of Warehouse 242.

Wed, May 06, 2015

Episode 159 * Where do I go from here...

Greg Oliver of Route 1520 and Adam Calvert, a certified sex addiction therapist call in to chat about the nuts and bolts of addiction, what diagnosis looks like, and what some first steps towards healing could be.