The Gaslight Effect Podcast
Gaslight (/ˈɡaslīt/). Verb. Manipulating someone by psychological means into questioning their own reality. The Gaslight Effect podcast is hosted by Dr. Robin Stern, co-founder of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of the best-selling book, The Gaslight Effect. On her podcast, Robin helps listeners identify gaslighting, to escape the destructive dynamic and reclaim their reality.
Tue, April 08, 2025
068 - Stuck In A Role: Diana Feldman on Drama, Trauma, and Reclaiming Personal Agency
In this compelling episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast , host Dr. Robin Stern welcomes Diana Feldman , a trailblazer in the field of drama therapy and the founder of a groundbreaking non-profit organization that served over 200,000 students in New York City schools for 25 years. Diana shares her journey of developing the ENACT Drama Therapy Method —an evidence-based approach recognized by the American Group Psychotherapy Association as the Best Creative Group Counseling Method. She discusses how drama therapy helps individuals process trauma, reclaim their narratives, and build emotional resilience. With insights from her upcoming book, Stuck in a Role: Releasing Trauma in Teens (Routledge Press, Spring 2025), Diana delves into the transformative power of role-playing, storytelling, and creative expression in educational and therapeutic settings. This episode explores how drama therapy helps break the cycle of gaslighting and emotional abuse, the impact of role-playing in healing trauma, especially in teens, and tools for therapists and educators to create lasting change. Diana also emphasizes the importance of reclaiming personal agency through creative expression. Her contributions to the field have earned her multiple awards, including a five-year research grant from the Ford Foundation and recognition from the NYC Council and State Education organizations. She continues to train therapists and educators, ensuring that drama therapy remains a vital tool for healing. Join us for this enlightening conversation on how creativity can be a powerful force for emotional recovery. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - <a href= "https://
Tue, March 25, 2025
067 - Lifting Each Other Up: How Women’s Mentorship Is Empowering The Next Generation
On this special Women’s History Month episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast , Dr. Robin Stern welcomes Jessica Hoffman , director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence’s high school initiatives, RULER for High Schools and inspirED . As a leading expert in social-emotional learning (SEL), Jessica’s work helps students develop emotional awareness, build healthier relationships, and create positive school climates. Dr. Stern and Jessica explore the critical role of women mentoring women , discussing how mentorship can foster confidence, resilience, and leadership—especially in environments where gaslighting and self-doubt can take root. They examine the power of emotional intelligence in recognizing manipulation, setting boundaries, and supporting one another in personal and professional spaces. With research focusing on SEL’s impact on school climate, creative problem-solving, and emotion regulation, Jessica shares valuable insights on how emotional intelligence can shape the next generation of female leaders. This inspiring conversation highlights the importance of uplifting and empowering women through mentorship, emotional awareness, and community. Tune in for an insightful and timely discussion on the power of mentorship, emotional resilience, and the lasting impact of women supporting women. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com
Tue, March 11, 2025
066 - Why Women Doubt Themselves: Elise Loehnen on Self-Gaslighting & The Stories That Hold Us Back
On this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast , Dr. Robin Stern talks with Elise Loehnen —New York Times bestselling author, former chief content officer of goop , and host of Pulling the Thread —to explore how cultural conditioning and internalized gaslighting keep us trapped in cycles of self-doubt and self-denial. Elise shares insights from her book On Our Best Behavior , revealing how societal expectations—rooted in the so-called "seven deadly sins"—subtly manipulate us into suppressing our desires, ambition, and authenticity. We discuss how gaslighting doesn’t just come from others—it can also come from within, as we internalize harmful beliefs that tell us we’re too much, not enough, or unworthy of success and happiness. If you’ve ever second-guessed yourself, felt guilty for setting boundaries, or struggled with the weight of perfectionism, this conversation will help you break free. Join us for a powerful discussion on reclaiming your inner voice, recognizing manipulative narratives, and stepping into your truth. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Dr. Robin Stern's Books: The Gaslight Effect The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide Emotional Intelligence for School Leaders Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of th
Tue, February 25, 2025
065 - Why We Keep Choosing What Hurts Us: Eli Harwood on Attachment Wounds & Healing Your Inner Child
Gaslighting can leave you questioning your reality, self-worth, and even your own memories. In this powerful episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast , Dr. Robin Stern talks with Eli Harwood —therapist, educator, and author of Raising Securely Attached Kids and Securely Attached —to explore the deep impact of gaslighting, attachment wounds, and the path to healing. Eli opens up about her own struggles with attachment issues as a child and how those early experiences shaped her understanding of relationships, ultimately leading her to dedicate her life to helping others break free from toxic cycles. She explains how unresolved attachment wounds can make us more vulnerable to gaslighting and manipulation—and how healing from emotional abuse can help us become better, more present parents. We also dive into key takeaways from Raising Securely Attached Kids , an essential, evidence-based guide that provides hopeful and inspiring advice to help parents raise compassionate, thriving adults—no matter their background or challenges. Whether you're navigating a toxic relationship, healing from past manipulation, or striving to break generational patterns and raise emotionally secure children, this episode offers invaluable knowledge and practical tools for reclaiming your truth and building a brighter future. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Dr. Robin Stern's Books: The Gaslight Effect <a href= "https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/dr-robin-
Tue, February 11, 2025
064 - Dr. Ingrid Clayton on Fawning: How People-Pleasing Became Survival & How to Break Free
In this powerful episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast , Dr. Robin Stern sits down with Dr. Ingrid Clayton , a clinical psychologist, author, and expert on narcissistic abuse and complex trauma. With a Master’s in transpersonal psychology and a PhD in clinical psychology, Dr. Clayton takes a holistic approach to psychotherapy, incorporating trauma-informed modalities like Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, and other experiential methods for working with the nervous system. Dr. Clayton shares insights from her groundbreaking book Believing Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma , shedding light on how gaslighting erodes self-trust, the profound impact of narcissistic abuse, and why traditional therapy often falls short for survivors. She discusses her relational approach to therapy—built on the belief that a therapist can’t take clients further than she’s willing to go herself—bringing her whole self into the work through personal experience, intuition, and education. She also offers a preview of her upcoming book Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves—and How to Find Our Way Back , set for release in 2025. In this new work, Dr. Clayton explores the fawning trauma response—how people-pleasing develops as a survival mechanism in abusive relationships, why it keeps survivors trapped in toxic cycles, and how to break free to reclaim a true sense of self. Together, they explore: The difference between narcissistic abuse and other forms of trauma How gaslighting rewires the nervous system and disrupts identity The importance of experiential healing modalities like Somatic Experiencing and EMDR How self-validation and relational healing empower survivors to reclaim their lives What fawning is, how it develops, and steps to overcome it This deep and validating conversation offers both understanding and practical tools for anyone looking to heal from toxic relationships and step into their truth. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/Robi
Tue, January 28, 2025
063 - Breaking Free from Gaslighting: Andrea Owen’s Guide to Reclaiming Your Power
Breaking free from toxic patterns and emotional manipulation isn’t just a challenge—it’s a journey toward reclaiming your power and rediscovering your true self. In this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast , Dr. Robin Stern is thrilled to welcome Andrea Owen , a globally recognized life coach, dynamic speaker, and the best-selling author of How to Stop Feeling Like Sh t* and Make Some Noise . Andrea brings her wealth of knowledge and real-world experience to this heartfelt conversation, diving into the complex emotional toll that gaslighting and manipulation can take on your mental health and sense of self. Together, we unpack how to identify gaslighting in relationships, why it’s so insidious, and how it can lead to self-doubt and emotional erosion. But this episode isn’t just about recognizing the problem—it’s about finding solutions and regaining your power. Andrea shares practical strategies for silencing your inner critic, setting firm boundaries, and building the confidence needed to step into your authentic self. With her compassionate and no-nonsense approach, Andrea inspires listeners to let go of shame, embrace self-compassion, and take actionable steps toward healing. Whether you’re a survivor of emotional abuse, navigating challenging relationships, or simply looking to strengthen your emotional resilience, this episode offers powerful tools and transformative insights to empower your journey. Get ready for an engaging and inspiring conversation filled with wisdom, hope, and actionable advice to help you rebuild, redefine, and thrive. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Dr. Robin Stern's Books: The Gaslight Effect The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide Emotional Intelligence for School Leaders
Tue, January 14, 2025
062 - America Unfiltered: Emotional Intelligence and the Power of Seeing Beyond Divides
Today’s episode offers a compelling exploration of truth, resilience, and the power of storytelling in a divided world. At the height of the pandemic, two immigrant filmmakers, cinematographer Horacio Marquínez and film editor Kirill Myltsev , journeyed across the United States to uncover an unfiltered, unflinching portrait of America. In an era dominated by mindless scrolling and stylized selfies, their documentary America Unfiltered reveals raw, intimate conversations and searing black-and-white portraits that strip away artifice and distraction to expose the vulnerable truth of the human experience, and exploring the central theme of the documentary - "What does it mean to be an American?" Through stark, unvarnished imagery, Horacio’s compositions lay bare the essential character of each person he photographed — inviting us to see beyond divisions and connect with one another on a deeper level. The film asks: What if we could better relate to one another and heal our nation’s divides by recognizing the shared humanity beneath the surface? Robin is thrilled to be joined by her good friends Horacio Marquínez, the visionary cinematographer behind America Unfiltered , and Dr. Marc Brackett, who served as a producer on the film in addition to his role as founder and director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of Permission to Feel . Together, they discuss how media manipulation, emotional gaslighting, and truth distortion shape our collective consciousness — and how emotional intelligence and storytelling can help us build empathy and foster hope for America’s next chapter. It’s a conversation you won’t want to miss. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Dr. Robin Stern's Books: <a href= "https://robinst
Tue, December 31, 2024
061 - From Mess to Mastery: Scott Jeffrey Miller on Leadership, Mentorship, and Personal Power
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern’s guest is someone who has spent decades guiding individuals and organizations toward clarity, integrity, and transformational leadership. Scott Jeffrey Miller capped a remarkable 25-year career as Chief Marketing Officer and Executive Vice President at FranklinCovey, and he now serves as an advisor on their thought leadership strategy. Scott is also the voice behind two groundbreaking podcasts: On Leadership with Scott Miller , the world’s largest weekly leadership podcast featuring nearly 400 interviews with some of the greatest minds of our time, and C-Suite Conversations with Scott Miller , where he connects with top global executives. Scott is a prolific author whose works include the Master Mentors series, distilling wisdom from visionaries like Seth Godin, Susan Cain, and General Stanley McChrystal. His latest releases, The Ultimate Guide to Great Mentorship and Career on Course: 10 Strategies to Take Your Career from Accidental to Intentional , continue to empower leaders, mentors, and professionals worldwide. Scott fundamentally believes we learn more from our messes than our successes. He uses his messes to not just teach himself, but also to inspire leaders from a variety of backgrounds all around the world. Robin and Scott explore insights on leadership, mentorship, and how these principles can help us navigate toxic dynamics, establish healthy boundaries, and build lives of intention and purpose. Whether you’re leading a team, mentoring a colleague, or reclaiming your personal power, this episode will leave you inspired and equipped with actionable strategies. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Dr. Robin Stern's Books: The Gas
Tue, December 17, 2024
060 - Gaslit By Doctors: Former CIA Officer Marc Polymeropoulos On Overcoming Medical Gaslighting and Finding Clarity In Crisis
On today's episode, Dr. Robin Stern welcomes Marc Polymeropoulos , a distinguished leader whose experiences offer profound insights into thriving under pressure and navigating the complexities of manipulation—including his own battles with the effects of gaslighting in high-stakes environments. Marc retired from the Senior Intelligence Service ranks in 2019 after an extraordinary 26-year career in the Intelligence Community, where he served in operational field and leadership assignments. As one of the most highly decorated field officers in the Intelligence Community, Marc is an expert in counterterrorism, covert action, and human intelligence collection. In addition to his professional accomplishments, Marc has faced significant personal challenges, including a mysterious health condition that emerged after his service and was compounded by medical gaslighting. Despite being dismissed and misdiagnosed by numerous medical professionals, Marc refused to accept incomplete answers. His determination to advocate for himself and uncover the truth about his condition is a testament to his resilience and unwavering pursuit of clarity. Through persistence, he ultimately found the support and care he needed, turning this personal struggle into a powerful example of overcoming manipulation and advocating for one’s well-being In his book, Clarity in Crisis: Leadership Lessons from the CIA , published by HarperCollins in 2021, Marc shares lessons from his extraordinary career to help others find strength amidst chaos. His mission is to bring his unique experiences from the world’s hot spots into the sports and business arenas, helping leaders recognize and overcome manipulation, including gaslighting, while fostering resilience and clarity. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.
Tue, December 03, 2024
059 - The Global Beauty Trap: A Conversation with Elise Hu on K-Beauty, Culture and Perfectionism
In this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast , Dr. Robin Stern is joined by award-winning journalist, author, and NPR correspondent, Elise Hu , to discuss the intricate and often overwhelming world of beauty standards. Drawing from her book, Flawless: Lessons in Looks and Culture from the K-Beauty Capital , Elise combines international reporting, cultural commentary, and personal memoir to explore the global rise of K-Beauty culture and the power of appearance standards around the world. Robin and Elise dive into the pressures of keeping up with beauty norms, using South Korea's intense appearance expectations as a starting point to examine how technological advancements are likely to heighten the pressure to look "better"—for those who can afford it. Elise shares her insights on the “gaslighting” effect of beauty culture in a hyperconnected world, where digital and social platforms amplify unrealistic ideals and make self-worth seem tied to how well we meet them. Join Robin and Elise for a compelling conversation on how beauty standards are shaping our identities, the impact of technology on appearance expectations, and what it means to find authenticity in a world that often tells us we’re never enough. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Dr. Robin Stern's Books: The Gaslight Effect The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide Emotional Intelligence for School Leaders Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, November 19, 2024
058 - Why Do We Stay? Stephanie Quayle on Gaslighting, Self-Worth, and Finding Freedom Through Music
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern has a truly special guest: Stephanie Quayle . A Nashville recording artist and a world-touring musician, Stephanie is also an entrepreneur, running her own record label, Big Sky Music Group. Rolling Stone Country has called her “an artist you need to know,” and she’s been highlighted by CMT as part of their “Next Women of Country” franchise. She’s no stranger to the national spotlight, with appearances on shows like The Kelly Clarkson Show and The Ellen DeGeneres Show . As an indie artist, she’s charted two Billboard singles—“Selfish” and “Whatcha Drinkin ’Bout”—and she’s graced iconic stages, including CMA Fest and the Grand Ole Opry. But Stephanie’s story is more than just her musical success. The Montana native has also become a voice of resilience and empowerment, using her platform to inspire others to recognize their own worth. Her latest album, On the Edge , is a deeply personal exploration of her journey through a toxic relationship, offering a raw and honest look at the pain and the healing process that followed. Robin talks to Stephanie not only about her music but also about her upcoming debut book, Why Do We Stay? , which hits shelves on April 30, 2024, and is available for preorder now. The book, a continuation of the story she first shared through her album, dives deeper into the dynamics of toxic relationships, with the help of insights from psychologist W. Keith Campbell, PhD. Together, they explore how to recognize a toxic relationship, how to break free, and how to heal. In today’s conversation, Robin and Stephanie discuss the reality of gaslighting, Stephanie’s personal experience, and how she’s using her platform to empower others to take back their power and rewrite their story. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Dr. Robin Stern's Books: Th
Tue, November 05, 2024
057 -Emotional Intelligence and the Power to Heal from Gaslighting: Insights from Dr. Richard Boyatzis
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern is joined by Dr. Richard Boyatzis , a world-renowned expert in emotional intelligence, leadership, and the science of lasting change. Dr. Boyatzis is a frequent speaker on the international circuit, with engagements on all seven continents and over 35 countries, where he’s shared his insights with Fortune 500 companies, government agencies, and organizations across the globe. In his latest book, The Science of Change , Dr. Boyatzis brings together 50 years of groundbreaking research on behavior change and introduces his Intentional Change Theory—a framework that helps us understand and achieve sustainable transformation at every level, from individuals to entire communities. As a Coursera educator, Dr. Boyatzis has reached over 1.35 million learners through his popular course, Inspiring Leadership Through Emotional Intelligence , and his influence continues to resonate worldwide. Today, we’ll discuss how the principles of his Intentional Change Theory can be applied to confront and heal from manipulation tactics like gaslighting, restore self-confidence, and rebuild one’s sense of self. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - <a href= "https://twitter.com/RobinSStern"
Tue, October 22, 2024
056 - Narcissistic Abuse: Recognizing the Signs and Running Toward Freedom with Vanessa Reiser
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Vanessa Reiser. Vanessa is a licensed clinical social worker, an expert on narcissistic abuse, the author of Narcissistic Abuse , and the founder of a teletherapy and life coaching practice that’s changing lives by helping people heal from the trauma of narcissistic relationships. Vanessa’s personal journey is one of resilience and empowerment. After growing up in a household filled with instability and facing trauma from a young age, Vanessa found herself in a relationship filled with gaslighting, manipulation, and isolation—classic tactics of a narcissist designed to distort reality and erode the victim’s sense of self. She broke free from this toxic cycle, and today, she dedicates her life to helping others do the same. She brought attention to narcissistic dometic abuse by running across NY State in a wedding dress. In her book, Narcissistic Abuse , Vanessa breaks down the full range of tactics narcissists use, from gaslighting to love bombing, hoovering, and triangulating. She shows how these behaviors, which are often difficult to recognize, are part of a broader pattern of emotional abuse. Narcissistic abuse, as Vanessa emphasizes, is a form of domestic violence—one that leaves lasting psychological scars. Her book provides strategies for identifying, escaping, and healing from these toxic relationships, empowering victims to reclaim their lives. Vanessa also operates a teletherapy and life coaching practice, where she guides survivors of narcissistic abuse toward healing and self-discovery. She helps clients recognize the gaslighting and manipulation they've endured, clarify their goals, and overcome the obstacles holding them back. Vanessa’s unique approach combines her clinical expertise with tailored life coaching techniques, helping people rebuild their confidence and manifest the life they deserve. Today, we’ll explore Vanessa’s story, her expertise on gaslighting and narcissistic abuse, and how her coaching practice helps survivors reclaim their power. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - <a href= "https://www.instagram.com/dr.
Tue, October 08, 2024
055 - Gaslighting in the Twin Flames Universe: Jessi Hersey's Story of Escape, Resilience and Truth
On this episode of The Gaslight Effect podcast, Dr. Robin Stern explores the shadows of manipulation and the journey toward reclaiming our truth with a guest who knows this struggle all too well: Jessi Hersey . Jessi is a queer neurodivergent author and a Pencraft Award winner, featured in Netflix's Escaping Twin Flames docu-series, where she shares her harrowing experience of escaping the Twin Flames Universe cult, a journey marked by intense gaslighting that threatened her identity and sense of self. Jessi's collection of poetry, Lit Soul: My Journey Back to Faith , takes readers on an honest exploration of love, loss, and the search for belonging. Written in four heartfelt sections, this book reflects on her life from age six to the present, highlighting the journey of rediscovering faith and the strength that comes with it. Beyond her own story, Jessi is the host of Jessistories , a dynamic interview-style channel that provides a platform for cult survivors to speak out about their experiences with manipulation and emotional abuse. This inclusive space embraces queer authors, influencers, and creators, emphasizing that every story matters in the fight against gaslighting. Robin and Jessi delve into Jessi’s incredible journey of resilience, the tactics of gaslighting she faced, and the importance of sharing our truths. Whether you’re navigating your own challenges or seeking to understand this complex issue better, you won’t want to miss this conversation. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Dr. Robin Stern's Books: <a href= "https://robinstern.com/about-robin-stern/
Tue, September 24, 2024
054 - Rethinking Grief: Marceia Cork on Gaslighting and Supporting Each Other Through Change
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Marceia Cork , also known as The Change Coach® . Marceia is SHRM, HRCI, PROSCI®, and Grief Recovery Method® certified, with expertise in restorative communication. She specializes in helping people navigate the difficult journey of change by addressing a core issue that many of us overlook—grief. Through her multimedia brand The Change Coach Presents ™, Marceia has developed non-clinical frameworks like The Good Grieve , empowering individuals to heal from unconscious grief, emotional manipulation, and the toxic effects of relationships. Marceia is the author of The Good Grieve: A Guide for Exploring What Life Can Look Like After Loss, Trauma, and Hardship for adults, and My Good Grieve: A Youth's Guide to Navigating Loss, Trauma, and Hardship... the Good Way for younger audiences. Both workbooks offer her proprietary, non-clinical approach to grief recovery, giving people tools to rebuild after trauma. Marceia’s unique approach to change and transformation has been featured in The Boston Globe , ESSENCE , Forbes , and FOX. On her top 100 podcast, Oooh, Those Effin’ C-Words , she dives deep into trauma and healing, bringing clarity to how unresolved grief can be manipulated by gaslighters. On this episode, Marceia shares her insights on identifying gaslighting in relationships, addressing the grief that it causes, and reclaiming your sense of self. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Dr. Robin Stern's Books: The Gaslight Effect The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide </
Tue, September 10, 2024
053 - Are We All Being Gaslighted? Steven Hassan on Mind Control And The Cult of Trump
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern is joined by returning guest Dr. Steven Hassan , one of the world's leading experts on cults and undue influence. Steven is a mental health professional, former member of the Unification Church (familiarly known as "The Moonies") led by Sun Myung Moon , and the author of several bestselling books, including Combatting Cult Mind Control , Freedom of Mind , and The Cult of Trump . In The Cult of Trump , Steven delves into how gaslighting and mind control techniques are used not only in cults but in political movements to distort reality and create confusion. Drawing on his personal experience as a former member of a high-control group, he developed the BITE Model, which explains how behavior, information, thought, and emotional control are used to manipulate individuals. On today's episode, Robin and Steven explore the role of gaslighting in authoritarian movements, cults, and abusive relationships. Steven will share his insights on how these tactics manipulate our thoughts and beliefs, and how we can arm ourselves with the tools to resist, recover, and regain our sense of reality. You won't want to miss this eye-opening conversation with Steven Hassan, as we uncover the psychology behind gaslighting and how to protect yourself from its damaging effects. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Dr. Robin Stern's Books: The Gaslight Effect The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide Emotional Intelligence for School Leaders <
Tue, August 27, 2024
052 - Navigating Gaslighting in Educational Leadership: Lessons from SEL Expert Dr. Janet Patti
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with her good friend and colleague, Dr. Janet Patti, Ed.D . Dr. Patti is the Co-Founder and CEO of Star Factor Coaching , a leadership development organization specializing in the science of emotional intelligence. She is also a distinguished Professor of Administration and Supervision at Hunter College, CUNY. With over 25 years of experience in education and leadership, Janet has become a renowned figure in social and emotional learning (SEL) and educational leadership development. In addition to her extensive work in the field, Janet is the co-author of the profoundly insightful book Emotional Intelligence for School Leaders , written with Dr. Robin Stern. This essential work advocates for the integration of social-emotional learning as a fundamental skill set for K-12 school leaders. Drawing upon modern research from psychology and education, along with their combined 40 years of experience, Dr. Patti and Dr. Stern provide practical coaching and guidance on how emotional intelligence can enhance leadership practices. They illuminate the myriad benefits of SEL-focused professional development for superintendents, principals, and aspiring school leaders. In today's episode, we'll be exploring the concept of gaslighting, particularly how it can manifest in educational and organizational settings. Dr. Patti will share her expertise on how gaslighting can undermine leadership, erode trust, and impact decision-making processes. She will also offer strategies for recognizing and countering gaslighting, drawing from her experience and the powerful insights from her book. Whether you're a school leader, educator, or simply interested in understanding more about emotional intelligence and the effects of gaslighting, this episode is for you. Stay tuned as we dive deep into these critical topics with Dr. Janet Patti. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - <a href= "https://www.linkedi
Tue, August 13, 2024
051 - 'Framed' by Injustice? Dr. Christine Cocchiola on Surviving Family Court Gaslighting
In this compelling episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast , Dr. Robin Stern is joined by Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola , DSW, LCSW, a Coercive Control Educator, Researcher, Survivor, and the host of the Perfect Pray Podcast . With a career dedicated to protecting children from abuse, Christine has been an advocate since the age of 19. Despite her deep expertise, she shares how even she missed the signs of coercive control in her own relationship. Christine offers her unique insights into the devastating impact of gaslighting—a psychological tactic that manipulative partners use to make victims question their reality. We delve into her eye-opening book, Frame , which serves as a five-alarm warning to women about the gender-biased underworld of family courts, where many face unimaginable challenges during divorce or custody battles. This episode also explores how protective parents can support their children who have been harmed by coercive controllers, often narcissistic abusers. Christine provides a framework for guiding these parents in showing their children a path to freedom and healing. This is essential listening for anyone looking to understand the dangers of gaslighting and coercive control, and how to navigate these challenges to protect yourself and your loved ones. Don’t miss this vital conversation with one of the foremost voices in the fight against domestic abuse. Make sure to share a copy of Frame with the women you care about—it could be the warning they need. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, July 30, 2024
050 - Outsmarting Gaslighters: Proven Techniques To Navigate Gaslighting
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern delves into the intricacies of mental health, personal growth, and relationships, with her guest, Dr. Judith Logue . With over 50 years of experience in the field, Dr. Logue is a renowned psychotherapist and psychoanalyst who has dedicated her career to helping individuals and couples navigate the complexities of their emotional and mental well-being. Dr. Logue's extensive background includes a Bachelor's Degree in Government from Wheaton College, a Master's Degree in Social Work from Rutgers University, and a Ph.D. in Social Work with a focus on psychology from Rutgers Graduate School of Arts and Sciences. She is also certified in psychoanalysis by the New York Center for Psychoanalytic Training and holds multiple board certifications in forensic medicine and psychological specialties. Throughout her illustrious career, Dr. Logue has practiced in various locations, including California, New York City, Princeton, NJ, and currently in Port Saint Lucie, Florida. Her professional roles have spanned clinical social work, psychotherapy, clinical faculty positions at Rutgers Medical School, and teaching roles at several prestigious psychoanalytic institutes. Dr. Logue joins Robin to shed light on a particularly insidious form of psychological manipulation: gaslighting - a type of emotional abuse where the abuser manipulates the victim into doubting their own perceptions, memories, and sanity. With her vast experience and expertise, Dr. Logue will help us understand the mechanics of gaslighting, its impact on mental health, and strategies for recognizing and combating this form of abuse. So, whether you're seeking to better understand this phenomenon or looking for ways to support someone who might be experiencing it, stay tuned for an insightful and empowering discussion with Dr. Judith Logue. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided
Tue, July 16, 2024
049 - Surviving Emotional Abuse: Dr. Laura Artusio on Gaslighting and Recovery
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Dr. Laura Artusio , where they explore the intricacies of emotional manipulation, mental health, and the journey to reclaiming one's sense of self. Dr. Artusio's expertise in emotional intelligence and psychology provide critical insights into the mechanisms and impacts of gaslighting. Dr. Laura Artusio, a psychologist and research fellow at the University of Florence, directs the Laboratory of Psychology, Emotions & Research (PERLAB) and has been a key collaborator with the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence since 2009. As the coordinator of the RULER approach in Italy, she focuses on integrating Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) into educational systems and addressing emotional well-being in various professional settings. Dr. Artusio's work delves into the core of how emotions influence our behavior and interactions. She has trained thousands of individuals on emotional intelligence, helping them understand and manage emotional abuse, such as gaslighting, in both personal and professional contexts. Her research includes studies on the effects of emotional intelligence in high-stress environments, like aviation, supported by the U.S. Air Force. Dr. Artusio shares her insights on recognizing the subtle signs of gaslighting, strategies for maintaining emotional resilience, and the importance of emotional intelligence in overcoming manipulation. Her expertise provides a powerful lens through which we can better understand and counteract the damaging effects of gaslighting. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, July 02, 2024
048 - Behind the Curtain: Chris Shelton Unveils Scientology's Gaslighting Techniques
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern delves into the insidious tactics of manipulation and control that leave victims questioning their reality, with guest Chris Shelton . Chris is a former Scientologist and Sea Org member who spent 25 years within the Church of Scientology , enduring relentless physical and psychological abuse. Since his escape, Chris has devoted his life to shedding light on the dangers of destructive cults and their gaslighting techniques. Chris is a writer, consultant, podcaster, and YouTuber, and he hosts the Speaking of Cults podcast . Chris is also the author of "Scientology: A to Xenu – An Insider’s Guide to What Scientology is Really All About." Chris has appeared on numerous podcasts and television shows, including Leah Remini’s Scientology and the Aftermath on A&E. Robin and Chris explore his profound insights and personal experiences with gaslighting within cults, and offer advice on how to recognize and combat these manipulative tactics. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Dr. Kerry McAvoy Podcast - Breaking Free From Narcissistic Abuse - https://www. breakingfreenarcissisticabuse. com/ Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of th
Tue, June 18, 2024
047 - Dr. Ramani Durvasula's 'It's Not You': Healing from Narcissism and Gaslighting
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern welcomes Dr. Ramani Durvasula . Dr. Ramani is a renowned clinical psychologist, best-selling author, and a leading expert in the field of narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. With her extensive research and deep insights into the dynamics of toxic relationships, she has become a beacon of hope for many navigating the treacherous waters of narcissistic abuse. Dr. Ramani is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice and a distinguished professor of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles. With a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from UCLA, she brings a wealth of academic rigor and practical experience to her work. Her contributions to the field extend beyond the classroom and therapy room; she is a prolific author of several best-selling books, including " Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist" and "Don't You Know Who I Am?: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility ." Dr. Ramani's work has shed light on the pervasive and often insidious nature of gaslighting, helping countless individuals recognize and break free from the manipulative tactics that erode their self-esteem and well-being. Her extensive media presence, including television appearances, podcasts, and her highly informative YouTube channel , has made her insights accessible to a global audience. Robin and Dr. Ramani delve into the intricate patterns of gaslighting, explaining how narcissists use this tool to control and confuse their victims. They offer practical advice on identifying gaslighting in your own life and discuss strategies to reclaim your power and rebuild your sense of self. Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic partner, family member, or colleague, this episode is packed with invaluable insights and actionable tips to help you navigate and overcome the effects of gaslighting. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://
Tue, June 04, 2024
046 - Healing from Gaslighting and Betrayal Trauma with Anne Blythe
Welcome to another episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, with Dr. Robin Stern. Today, Robin has a very special guest, Anne Blythe , the Producer and Host of the acclaimed BTR.ORG Podcast and author of the powerful book "Trauma Mama Husband Drama." Anne is not just a voice of experience; she's a beacon of hope and guidance for countless women navigating the turbulent waters of emotional and psychological abuse. Anne has dedicated her life to helping women find safety and peace after betrayal. Through her transformative workshops— The BTR.ORG Meditation, Living Free, and Message Workshops —Anne provides practical tools and heartfelt support to those seeking to reclaim their lives from the shadows of gaslighting, abuse and coercion. In today's episode, Anne will share her personal journey of overcoming her husband's gaslighting, pornography use and anger issues, and how she turned her focus to establishing emotional and psychological safety for herself and her three children. Her real-time learning and insights have empowered many women to safely separate from abusive relationships and create harmonious homes. Join Robin and Anne as they delve into her story, offering invaluable advice and inspiration to help you recognize, confront, and heal from gaslighting and betrayal trauma. This is an episode you won't want to miss! To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, May 21, 2024
045 - From Cult Survivor to Cult Expert: Dr. Janja Lalich on Cult Deconstruction and Building a Legacy at the Lalich Center
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Dr. Janja Lalich . Janja is a distinguished sociologist, a leading expert on cults and coercive control, and a guiding light for those navigating the dark waters of psychological manipulation. Drawing from her own years as a cult member of the Democratic Workers Party in California, she brings a deeply personal perspective to her research. Her groundbreaking work has helped countless individuals understand and recover from the effects of toxic relationships and environments. She is the author of pivotal books such as "Take Back Your Life: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships," "Bounded Choice: True Believers and Charismatic Cults," and "Cults in Our Midst." She is also the founder and director of the Lalich Center for the Study of Groups and Coercion , where she continues to support and educate those affected by manipulative groups and relationships. On today’s episode, we’re diving into the intricacies of gaslighting—what it is, how it operates, and the profound impact it can have on our lives. Dr. Stern and Dr. Lalich explore how this form of psychological abuse unfolds in both personal relationships and within larger groups, and most importantly, how to recognize and break free from it. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, May 07, 2024
044 - Sarah McCammon's Exvangelical Journey: Is Gaslighting Influencing Faith, Politics, and Society?
On this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, Dr. Robin Stern unravels the complexities of belief, identity, and society with political correspondent and author Sarah McCammon . Sarah McCammon is not just a seasoned journalist; she's also a voice of insight and understanding in the midst of today's tumultuous political landscape. But what sets her apart is her personal journey—a journey that intersects faith, culture, and the very fabric of American society. Growing up in the heartland of Kansas City, Missouri, Sarah was immersed in an evangelical Christian community that taught her to fear God and never question her faith. But her worldview shifted when she ventured beyond the confines of her upbringing. It was during her time in the Senate Page Program, living in Washington, D.C., that she began to confront the complexities of belief and identity head-on. Now, as a national political correspondent for NPR, Sarah brings a unique perspective to her reporting, drawing from her own experiences to shed light on the intersections of religion and politics in America. Her latest endeavor, the groundbreaking book "The Exvangelicals: Loving, Living, and Leaving the White Evangelical Church," delves into the stories of those who, like herself, have grappled with their faith and ultimately forged a new path forward. Join us as we explore Sarah McCammon's journey from evangelicalism to advocacy, uncovering the gaslighting tactics that have shaped our political discourse and the resilience of those who dare to challenge the status quo. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, April 23, 2024
043 - Surviving The Cult of NXIVM: Sarah Edmondson and Anthony Ames' Resilience in the Face of Manipulation
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern is honored to be joined by two extraordinary individuals whose resilience and courage have transformed their experiences into beacons of hope. Sarah Edmondson , a Canadian actress known for her roles in CBS's "Salvation" and numerous Hallmark Channel and Lifetime films, embarked on a journey of self-discovery when she encountered NXIVM , a personal development company led by Keith Raniere , promising the keys to unlocking human potential. Alongside her husband and former college athlete, Anthony "Nippy" Ames , Sarah delved deep into NXIVM's teachings. Rising through the ranks, they both became integral figures within the organization, with Anthony drawn to its goals program and Sarah operating her own center in Vancouver. However, their seemingly idyllic journey took a dark turn when they uncovered the truth behind NXIVM's facade. With courage and determination, Sarah blew the whistle on the organization's gaslighting and abusive practices, while Anthony wasted no time in helping burn its carefully constructed public image to the ground. In 2019, Sarah published Scarred: The True Story of How I Escaped NXIVM, the Cult that Bound My Life, with Kristine Gasbarre. In this tell-all memoir, she shares her story from the moment she takes her first seminar to her harrowing fight to get out. Sarah and Anthony's full story as whistleblowers is featured in The Vow , the critically acclaimed HBO documentary series on NXIVM. Also be sure to check out Sarah's powerful TED Talk about How To Spot A Cult . Now, as hosts of the enlightening podcast "A Little Bit Culty," Sarah and Anthony continue to shine a light on the healing process, engaging with experts and fellow survivors to navigate the complexities of recovery and resilience. Join Robin as she delves into the depths of gaslighting and coercion with Sarah Edmondson and Anthony "Nippy" Ames, and explores how they emerged with newfound understanding and empowerment. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - <a href= "https
Tue, April 09, 2024
042 - Finding Her Voice: Jessica Willis Fisher's Triumph Over Abuse and Gaslighting
A QUICK WARNING: This episode contains discussions of traumatic events, violence, child abuse, sexual abuse, suicidal thoughts, anxiety, depression, and graphic language. Listener discretion is advised. On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern dives into the extraordinary journey of Jessica Willis Fisher —a tale of survival, resilience, and the relentless pursuit of truth. Jessica's story unfolds with the haunting echoes of a tumultuous childhood, where the enigmatic philosophies of her controlling father cast a long shadow over her early years. From dreams of being surrounded by books to fantasies of becoming an author, Jessica's aspirations were stifled by the suffocating grip of manipulation and gaslighting. In her gripping memoir, "Unspeakable: Surviving My Childhood and Finding My Voice," Jessica offers a searing account of a life shaped by silence, secrecy, and the insidious tactics of gaslighting. Through the chaos of her upbringing, she grappled with doubts about her own reality—wondering if other girls faced the same forbidden truths, if other mothers feared their husbands, if other daddies invaded their daughters' bedrooms at night. Despite the darkness that threatened to consume her, Jessica found solace in music—a refuge where her voice could break free from the chains of manipulation and reclaim its truth. As she resurfaced with her debut solo album, "Brand New Day," Jessica embraced her voice with a newfound sense of purpose and passion. Each note became a declaration of independence, each melody a testament to the strength found in vulnerability. Join us as we delve deeper into Jessica's story, exploring the themes of survival, empowerment, the transformative power of art, the impact of gaslighting on her journey and the resilience that led her to reclaim her voice. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcas
Tue, March 26, 2024
041 - Facing The Past: How Lucas Mack Reclaimed His Power After Childhood Trauma
A QUICK WARNING: This episode contains discussions of traumatic events, violence, child abuse, sexual abuse, suicidal thoughts and suicide attempts, anxiety, depression, and graphic language. Listener discretion is advised. Welcome to the Gaslight Effect Podcast, where we explore stories of courage, healing, and transformation. On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern has the privilege of speaking with Lucas Mack , a visionary leader who guides men on a pilgrimage of self-discovery and healing. Lucas Mack's retreats offer a sacred space for men to embark on a journey inward—a journey to slay the pain of their past and reclaim their freedom. Surrounded by fellow seekers, participants confront their inner dragons, speak their truth, and embark on a path of healing that transcends the confines of their past traumas. And now, Lucas has released his latest eBook, "Healing Our Soul to Find Our Light," a profound guide for those seeking to break free from the shadows of their past and step into the light of their true selves. Lucas Mack's work is deeply rooted in his own journey of overcoming gaslighting and reclaiming his truth. Once a million-dollar business owner with a painful secret, Lucas is now liberated and changing lives as a coach, speaker, and healing catalyst. If you met Lucas, you'd never know that he's a survivor of pretty horrific childhood abuse and trauma. On the outside, he appeared to have it all—a supportive wife, adorable children, a successful track record, an outgoing personality, the dream house, the big smile. But beneath the surface of that perfect picture, Lucas was severely depressed, anxious, and, at one point, suicidal. It wasn’t until 2016 that Lucas understood why. A conversation with his abuser triggered a flood of traumatic memories from his childhood, forcing him to confront his past and seek healing. Through therapy, medication, and ultimately, an emotional intelligence seminar where he bravely shared his deepest truth with others, Lucas found the courage to confront his demons head-on. Join Robin as she delves into Lucas Mack's remarkable journey of transformation and resilience, shedding light on the insidious nature of gaslighting and the power of reclaiming one's truth. Lucas's story is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of courage, compassion, and confronting gaslighting. To read the full transcript of this episode, head over to robinstern.com . Don't forget to subscribe to The Gaslight Effect Podcast on your favorite podcast platform, and be sure to leave us a review to let us know what you think. Until next time, remember: healing is a journey, and you don't have to walk it alone. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - <a h
Tue, March 12, 2024
040 - Over the Influence: Empowering Women in the Social Media Era with Dr. Kara Alaimo
IS social media toxic for women and girls? On this episode, Dr. Kara Alaimo , author of "Over the Influence: Why Social Media is Toxic for Women and Girls - And How We Can Take It Back," hashes it out with Dr. Robin Stern. Kara is a communication professor at Fairleigh Dickinson, where she created the university’s programs in social media, and has been writing for CNN Opinion about the social impact of social media and issues affecting women and girls since 2016. Kara's latest release, "Over the Influence: Why Social Media is Toxic for Women and Girls - And How We Can Take It Back," is a timely and essential exploration of the impact of social media on women and girls, and highlights the need for meanigful conversations about gaslighting's pervasive influence in the digital age. In exploring her new book release, Robin and Kara delve deep into the multifaceted ways social media shapes women's lives, from relationships and parenting to mental well-being. Dr. Alaimo illuminates how these platforms often perpetuate sexism and misogyny, targeting women with disparities in followership, fake news, and harmful content. Despite these challenges, Kara empowers women with practical strategies to navigate the digital landscape. From managing daughters' social media usage to leveraging platforms for career advancement, Kara equips us with tools to reclaim control and protect ourselves from online threats. "Over the Influence" serves as a rallying cry for women to challenge sexism, advocate for change, and foster inclusivity in the digital sphere. Join us as we embark on a transformative journey with Kara Alaimo, unraveling the complexities of social media and reclaiming our power in the digital age. You can read the full transcript of this episode and listen to other episodes, at robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast! Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinio
Tue, February 27, 2024
039 - Sobriety, Sisterhood, and Self-Discovery after Multilevel Marketing: A Conversation with Emily Paulson
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern dives into the transformative journey of Emily Paulson - a beacon of courage, resilience, and authenticity in the realm of wellness and empowerment. Emily Paulson's remarkable journey, chronicled in her books "Highlight Real: Finding Honesty & Recovery Beyond the Filtered Life" and "Hey, Hun: Sales, Sisterhood, Supremacy, and the Other Lies Behind Multilevel Marketing," offers profound insights into the complexities of addiction recovery, motherhood, and the insidious nature of gaslighting. In discussing her book "Highlight Real" with Robin, Emily talks about fearlessly confronting the shadows of addiction and gaslighting, sharing her personal odyssey of overcoming alcohol addiction and embracing sobriety. Through raw honesty and vulnerability, she shines a light on the manipulative tactics that seek to distort our reality and erode our sense of self-worth. But Emily's exploration extends beyond addiction recovery. She also discusses with Robin her reason for writing her book "Hey, Hun," in which she exposes the hidden truths behind the glossy facade of multilevel marketing schemes, unraveling the gaslighting tactics that prey on vulnerability and perpetuate harmful ideologies. Her incisive analysis challenges conventional narratives, prompting readers and listeners to question the pervasive 'Hey, Hun' messages flooding our inboxes. Moreover, Emily is the driving force behind the "Sober Mom Squad" - a sanctuary where motherhood intersects with sobriety, and connections flourish. This Squad, comprised of moms navigating the delicate balance of motherhood and sobriety, provides a lifeline of understanding and support. Through shared stories and unwavering solidarity, the Sober Mom Squad creates pockets of community in the midst of solitude. Join Robin and Emily as they explore the transformative power of vulnerability, resilience, and connection. Through her courageous journey, Emily invites us to reclaim our truth, embrace our imperfections, and walk boldly along the path to self-discovery and empowerment. You can read the full transcript of this episode and listen to other episodes, at robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast! Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - <
Tue, February 13, 2024
038 - Leading With Emotional Intelligence: Wisdom From Dr. Craig Dowden
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern has a conversation with Dr. Craig Dowden , a renowned psychologist, executive coach, and author who specializes in unraveling the complexities of gaslighting and its impact on individuals and organizations. For over 25 years, Craig has been fascinated by the links between positive psychology and the practice of leadership excellence, so much so that he pursued his PhD in Psychology and Business. His personal mission is to bridge the gap between what science knows and what leaders do. Craig is passionate about teaching and coaching. Previously, he was a Professor at Carleton University in Ottawa, Canada where he was twice nominated for the Capital Educators Award. Today, he serves as an executive coach to leaders in the private, public, and not-for-profit sectors while supporting EMBA and AMBA students at the Richard Ivey School of Business. Dr. Craig Dowden brings a wealth of expertise to our conversation, drawing from his extensive research and clinical experience in psychology and leadership development. As the author of insightful books like "Do Good to Lead Well: The Science and Practice of Positive Leadership" and "A Time To Lead", Craig sheds light on the intersection of leadership, emotional intelligence, and organizational effectiveness. Join us as we dive deep into the nuances of gaslighting, unpacking its psychological mechanisms and offering empowering insights for reclaiming personal agency and fostering healthier relationships. Link to Craig's Podcast - Do Good To Lead Well Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, January 30, 2024
037 - Healing the Healers: Addressing Gaslighting in Healthcare
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern engages in a candid conversation with Tracey O'Connell MD , integrative health coach and seasoned medical professional, as they unravel the complexities of gaslighting within the healthcare industry. Having spent decades navigating the intricate web of medical practice, Tracey opens up about the often unspoken reality of gaslighting experienced by health professionals themselves. From subtle dismissals by peers to the pressure from superiors to prioritize profitability over patient well-being, she shines a light on the pervasive nature of gaslighting within the medical community. Drawing from her diverse background in conventional medicine and holistic health practices, Tracey shares personal anecdotes and meaningful insights into the detrimental effects of gaslighting on healthcare practitioners. She explores the underlying power dynamics and systemic pressures that contribute to a culture of silence and conformity within medical institutions. But amidst the challenges, Tracey offers hope. She provides practical strategies and tools for healthcare professionals to reclaim their voice, and integrity in their practice. Tracey invites us to envision a future where empathy, transparency, and mutual respect reign supreme. It's a call to action for all stakeholders to come together and co-create a healthcare environment that nurtures the well-being of both patients and providers alike. Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, January 16, 2024
036 - Unlocking Emotional Intelligence: A Conversation with Daniel Goleman on Gaslighting
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern dives into the world of emotional intelligence and gaslighting with psychologist and acclaimed author, Daniel Goleman . Daniel Goleman has left an indelible mark in psychology with his groundbreaking work on emotional intelligence. As an accomplished author, his insights have not only enriched our understanding of the human psyche. Daniel's work has also paved the way for transformative conversations that are foundational for transforming lives - from personal to professional. Many may know Daniel as the Father of Emotional Intelligence, as his 1995 book Emotional Intelligence served to launch the field. Daniel's new book, Optimal reveals practical methods for using our inner resources to more readily enter an optimal state of high performance and satisfaction while avoiding burnout. During their conversation, Robin and Daniel focus on the pressing topic of gaslighting, a subtle form of psychological manipulation. They unravel the layers of gaslighting, delving into its tactics, consequences, and the pivotal role emotional intelligence plays in recognizing and countering this destructive behavior. As an author who has explored the depths of human emotions, Daniel Goleman brings a unique perspective to the discussion that goes beyond the surface, exploring the nuances of gaslighting and its impact on our well-being. You can read the full transcript of this episode and listen to other episodes, at robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast! Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, January 09, 2024
035 - Behind The Screen: The Impact Of Gaslighting and Social Media Influencers On Teens
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern interviews Hannah Husain, an eighteen year old student researching gaslighting interactions in relationships - particularly in teenagers. Hannah's first encounter with gaslighting occured when her friend had wanted to go to a concert, and was unintentionally gaslighted by her mom into not going. Robin and Hannah discuss how, even if parents are not intentionally meaning to gaslight, the effect on their children can be long lasting. Robin points out how in some cases wanting someone to feel better by having them believe your reality rather than their own, perpetuates a feeling that others know better than them, thus undermining that person's confidence. Hannah and Robin talk about how social media can influence decisions like what you should eat, and how you should exercise. It is important to have relationships and sources of information offline to keep you grounded. They also examine the role of influencers on social media and the importance of the words these influencers use on their social media posts - and how these words can lead to unintentional (or not) gaslighting. Developing strong friendships and family relationships will help affirm that you can trust your own thoughts and feelings, and validate your reality. To read the full transcript of this episode and to hear other episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and be sure to leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast! Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, January 02, 2024
034 - From ICU to Advocacy: Dr. Arghavan Salles on Pandemic Realities and Gaslighting Challenges
On this episode Dr. Robin Stern shares a conversation with Dr. Arghavan Salles that is both crucial and empowering. Dr. Salles wears many hats—she's a skilled surgeon, a passionate advocate for diversity and inclusion, and an expert in confronting gaslighting in medicine. Dr. Arghavan Salles gained global attention not just for her expertise but for her remarkable courage and resilience during the spring of 2020. As the COVID-19 pandemic wreaked havoc in New York City, Dr. Salles, based in California, felt the call to action. Using her vacation time, she traveled to the epicenter of the crisis, joining the frontlines in the intensive care unit. That experience was transformative. Dr. Salles found herself facing a relentless adversary, treating patients in conditions she had never encountered before. The challenges were unprecedented—overwhelmed healthcare systems, scarce personal protective equipment, and healthcare professionals redeployed to specialties outside their expertise. Yet, even in the midst of this crisis, Dr. Salles chose to speak up, sharing her experiences on social media, in national outlets, and on television. Robin and Arghavan also discuss the often-overlooked issue of gaslighting in the medical profession. Dr. Salles brings her expertise to the forefront as they explore the personal impact gaslighting has had on Dr. Salles' own career as well as other individuals within the medical field and explores strategies to recognize and combat this pervasive issue. Join us as we delve into a conversation that not only exposes the challenges faced by healthcare professionals on the frontlines of a global pandemic but also addresses the importance of fostering a culture of inclusivity, respect, and open communication within the medical community. You can read the full transcript of this episode and listen to other episodes, at robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast! Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club,
Tue, December 19, 2023
033 - Gaslighting Inside the Oath Keepers' Founder's Family with Dakota Adams
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Dakota Adams , son of Stewart Rhodes , the founder and leader of the Oath Keepers organization. Dakota opens up about a life that was not only entangled with the controversial Oath Keepers but also shadowed by the dark clouds of gaslighting and abuse. Gaslighting, a form of psychological manipulation that seeks to make victims doubt their reality, is a theme woven into the fabric of Dakota's narrative. He recounts the harrowing escape from an environment marked by violence and chaos, where he and his siblings' perceptions were constantly manipulated. Dakota reveals the intricate layers of his father's personality, from the early days of criticism against political figures to a surprising evolution that ultimately led to Stewart Rhodes' involvement in the infamous events at the U.S. Capitol on January 6, 2021 . But it's not just a story of political activism; it's a story of survival. Dakota shares the devastating effects of gaslighting on a family, detailing the struggles of breaking free from a cycle of manipulation, fear, and isolation. Join Robin and Dakota as they unravel the complexities of Dakota's life, a life shaped by an organization founded on principles that devolved into chaos. This episode will take you beyond the headlines, providing a closer look at the impact of gaslighting on individuals, families, and communities. You can read the full transcript of this episode and listen to other episodes over at robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast! Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, December 05, 2023
032 - Breaking Chains: Dr. Kerry McAvoy's Triumph Over Marital Gaslighting and Narcissism
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern guides us through the captivating and deeply personal journey of Dr. Kerry McAvoy - a story marked by heartbreak, betrayal, and the insidious effects of gaslighting. As a devoted mother, wife, and psychologist, Kerry's life took an unexpected turn after the loss of her first husband. Her second marriage seemed perfect until an unknown woman's text shattered the illusion. The words, "I’ve been dating your husband," plunged Kerry into a world of shock, entrapment, and conflicting emotions. Kerry is the author of Love You More , a gripping account of surviving sophisticated psychological manipulation, a tale both deeply personal and incredibly practical, offering hope, guidance, and encouragement to those battling emotional abuse, inspiring you to break free and reclaim your life. Join Robin as she unravels the layers of Kerry's story, focusing on the pervasive influence of gaslighting. Despite the turmoil, Kerry didn't immediately walk away. Instead, she found herself in a two-year struggle, attempting to salvage a relationship marred by manipulation and deceit. The insidious nature of gaslighting, the constant questioning of one's reality, and the emotional turmoil are the threads woven into Kerry's narrative. Dr. Robin Stern and Dr. Kerry McAvoy navigate this exploration, shedding light on the complexities of gaslighting and its profound impact on relationships. This episode is an examination of resilience, self-discovery, and the journey to reclaim one's truth. You can read the full transcript of this episode and listen to other episodes over at robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast! Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, November 21, 2023
031 - Understanding Gaslighting Through the Lens of Emotional Intelligence: A Conversation with Dr. Marc Brackett
On this episode, the intricate realms of gaslighting, human behavior and emotional intelligence intersect, as Dr. Robin Stern talks with her colleague and good friend, Dr. Marc Brackett . Dr. Brackett is the Director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence , and author of " Permission to Feel ." On this episode, Dr. Stern and Dr. Brackett unravel the subtle dynamics of gaslighting, a pervasive issue affecting relationships, workplaces, and self-perception. Dr. Brackett, with a wealth of expertise, illuminates the profound connection between emotional intelligence and gaslighting. Gaslighting, fundamentally rooted in the manipulation of emotions, finds itself at the intersection of emotional intelligence. Dr. Brackett's insights go beyond defining gaslighting; they explore the pivotal role emotional intelligence plays in both perpetuating and countering this intricate form of manipulation. Robin and Marc discuss insights into the significance of recognizing and validating emotions, which is one of the foundational aspects of emotional intelligence. Dr. Brackett shares strategic approaches for harnessing emotional intelligence to fortify against gaslighting tactics and nurture resilient, healthier relationships. This episode promises to be an invaluable compass for navigating the nuanced waters of emotions and relationships. To read the full transcript of this episode and to listen to other episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and please be sure to leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast! Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, November 07, 2023
030 - Before "I Do": Dr. Robin Stern Explores Gaslighting and Prenups, with Attorney Evan Schein
On this episode Dr. Robin Stern talks with attorney Evan D. Schein , a seasoned attorney and partner at Berkman Bottger Newman & Schein LLP. Evan brings a wealth of experience in family law to the conversation. If you're curious about the legal nuances of relationships and the complexities of prenuptial agreements, this is the episode for you. As a divorce lawyer in New York City, Evan has been lucky to meet fascinating people and work with top experts in fields like finance, trust and estates, real estate, sports, entertainment, psychology, and more. He has helped clients find post-divorce happiness and build successful financial lives, advocated to protect children and fought for the rights of victims of domestic violence. He has learned more than a few things about family, money, and the law, things that every spouse or parent in America should know. Robin and Evan explore the fascinating intersection of gaslighting and prenuptial agreements. Evan's extensive expertise helps guide listeners through the delicate balance of law and psychology, shedding light on how gaslighting dynamics can influence the creation and understanding of prenups. Whether you're contemplating a prenuptial agreement, navigating the challenges of a relationship, or just intrigued by the legal side of love, this episode promises to be both eye-opening and thought-provoking. To read the full transcript of this episode and to listen to other episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast! Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, October 24, 2023
029 - Manipulation & Justice: Amanda Knox's Gaslighting Odyssey
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Amanda Knox - a woman who, at a young age, found herself entangled in the complexities of the Italian legal system, her name echoed around the globe. Robin and Amanda illuminate the darker corners of her story, focusing on the glaring presence of gaslighting. Amanda Knox is an exoneree, journalist, public speaker, and author of the New York Times best-selling memoir, Waiting to Be Heard . Between 2007 and 2015, she spent nearly four years in an Italian prison and eight years on trial for a murder she didn’t commit. She has since become an advocate for criminal justice reform and media ethics. She sits on the board of the Frederick Douglass Project for Justice , and serves as an Innocence Network Ambassador. Amanda's journey began when she was studying abroad in Perugia, Italy. The unimaginable happened when her roommate, Meredith Kercher, was tragically murdered. What followed was a legal saga that painted Amanda as a suspect in the eyes of the media and the public. Amanda recounts the relentless gaslighting she endured - from the distorted narratives in the media to the courtroom theatrics. She describes how doubt was meticulously planted, manipulating perceptions and leaving a lasting impact on Amanda's life. This episode isn't just about one woman's struggle; it's a mirror reflecting the broader implications of gaslighting on individuals facing high-stakes situations. Amanda Knox brings a unique lens to this conversation, having lived through the crucible of a relentless media storm. We hope you enjoy this unfiltered conversation, as Amanda and Robin navigate the chilling realities of gaslighting, the quest for justice, and the toll it takes on those thrust into the spotlight. For the full transcript of this episode and to listen to other episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast! Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion
Tue, October 10, 2023
028 - Legal Compassion: Tackling Medical Gaslighting with Brian Dretke and Dr. Debra Rosenzweig
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Brian Dretke and Dr. Debra Rosenzweig . Brian Dretke is a legal professional with a rich history of service and dedication. Hailing from a background in law enforcement, Brian's journey took a turn into the legal arena, where he became a stalwart advocate for those who have experienced medical malpractice. His insights into the legal intricacies of medical negligence bring a unique perspective to this episode's conversation. Joining Brian is Dr. Debra Rosenzweig , a psychotherapist whose dedication to mindfulness and psychology has illuminated the path toward healing for many. Dr. Rosenzweig brings to our conversation a wealth of experience in working with clients who have faced the challenges of medical gaslighting—a subtle yet profound form of manipulation within the healthcare system. Today, we dive into the heart of the matter—Brian's legal expertise in the realm of medical malpractice and Dr. Rosenzweig's nuanced understanding of the psychological impact of medical gaslighting. Together, they unravel the complexities, signs, and consequences of these issues that affect countless lives. Brian sheds light on the legal aspects, discussing the hurdles faced by those seeking justice in cases of medical malpractice. Dr. Rosenzweig shares her experiences in supporting individuals who have felt dismissed or invalidated in their healthcare journey, exploring the psychological toll of medical gaslighting. To read the full transcript of this episode and to listen to ther episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and be sure to leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast! Dr. Robin Stern's Social Media Links: Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drrobinstern/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dr.robinstern/ Twitter (X) - https://twitter.com/RobinSStern LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a Diclaimer: The views and opinions expressed on The Gaslight Effect Podcast do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the podcast. Any content provided by our guests, bloggers, sponsors or authors are of their opinion and are not intended to malign any religion, group, club, organization, business individual, anyone or anything.
Tue, September 26, 2023
027 - Gaslighted by a Murderer: Collier Landry's Unforgettable Story
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern delves into a story that unearths the chilling depths of gaslighting, the indomitable strength of the human spirit, and the power of inspiration. Robin's guest, Collier Landry , has navigated a path marked by the most unthinkable circumstances. Collier's story is a harrowing tale of a murder that rocked his world and the insidious web of gaslighting that ensnared him. Collier is the central figure in the documentary "A Murder In Mansfield," produced by Collier and directed by Barbara Kopple . The film centers around the murder of Noreen Boyle, Collier Landry's mother, which took place in Mansfield Ohio in 1989. At the time Collier was a young boy who had been a witness to his mother's murder, and his testimony played a crucial role in the trial of his father, Dr. John Boyle, who was accused and ultimately convicted of the crime. Robin and Collier unravel the layers of his story, his unwavering courage in the face of manipulation, and the profound inspiration he offers to all who have faced the darkness of gaslighting. His resilience is a testament to the human capacity for healing and growth, even in the wake of the most haunting challenges. Be prepared to be both moved and empowered by this transformative episode with Collier Landry. His story shines a light on the courage it takes to confront the demons of manipulation and emerge as an inspiration to others. To read the full transcript of this episode and to listen to other episodes of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, head over to robinstern.com , and please remember to leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast! Links: https://www.tiktok.com/@collierlandry https://www.instagram.com/collierlandry/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYIJGxnTPGxaKRZc-Gq63iA https://www.facebook.com/collierlandry
Mon, September 11, 2023
026 - Resilience Beyond Tragedy: Dr. George Bonanno on Grief and 9/11
On this special 9/11 episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Dr. George Bonanno . Dr. Bonanno is a Professor of Clinical Psychology at Columbia University's Teachers College and internationally recognized for his pioneering research on human resilience in the face of loss and potential trauma. He is recognized by the Web of Science as among the top one percent most cited scientists in the world, and has been honored with lifetime achievement awards by both the Association for Psychological Science and the International Positive Psychology Association. He has devoted his career to understanding how people cope with loss, trauma, and adversity. In addition to the books, The End of Trauma and The Other Side of Sadness , Dr. Bonanno has published hundreds of peer-reviewed scientific articles, many appearing in leading journals such as Nature, JAMA, American Psychologist, and the Annual Review of Psychology. Dr. Robin Stern also wrote a book titled Project Rebirth: Survival and The Strength of The Human Spirit From 9/11 Survivors . Her book follows people dedicated to rebuilding, both physically and emotionally. Spirituality, resilience, and hope are at the center of their stories. On this episode, Robin and Dr. Bonanno delve into a pivotal moment in modern history—the tragic events of September 11th, 2001. It's a day etched into the collective memory of our nation and the world. Dr. Bonanno's research has shed light on how individuals and communities coped with the immense grief and trauma that followed that fateful day. Dr. Stern and Dr. Bonanno explore the human capacity for resilience, the intricate process of grief, and the profound lessons learned from the aftermath of 9/11. Dr. Bonanno's work challenges conventional wisdom about grief and offers hope and understanding to those who have experienced loss, both on that day and in other difficult circumstances. Join Robin as she discusses this journey of discovery, compassion, and healing with Dr. George Bonanno. Let's explore the resilience of the human spirit in the face of unimaginable loss. To read the full transcript of this episo
Tue, August 29, 2023
025 - Empowerment Through Awareness: Understanding The Psychological Manipulation In Gaslighting
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Dr. Grant Brenner . Dr. Brenner is the principal and co-founder of Neighborhood Psychiatry , an NYC-based group practice. He is the author and co-editor of Creating Spiritual and Psychological Resilience as well as co-author of Irrelationship: How We Use Dysfunctional Relationships to Hide from Intimacy , Relationship Sanity: Creating and Maintaining Healthy Relationships and Making Your Crazy Work For You: From Trauma and Isolation to Self-Acceptance and Love . Dr Grant Brenner is a board certified physician-psychiatrist, an entrepreneur, author, teacher, speaker and not-for-profit board member. He has been featured on a variety of top ranked psychology resources and media as a thought leader and contributor. Dr. Brenner and Dr. Stern shine a light on the shadowy corners of gaslighting—a psychological manipulation tactic that distorts reality and undermines our sense of self. Dr. Brenner's unique perspective reveals the psychological mechanisms at play, helping us recognize and navigate these subtle and damaging dynamics. </
Tue, August 15, 2023
024 - She Is Not Your 'Perfect Mexican Daughter': How Erika Sánchez Stepped into Her Power
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Erika Sánchez . From Erika's website: "Erika L. Sánchez is the daughter of Mexican immigrants. Her debut poetry collection, Lessons on Expulsion , was published by Graywolf in July 2017, and was a finalist for the PEN America Open Book Award. Her debut young adult novel, I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter , published in October 2017 by Knopf Books for Young Readers, was a New York Times bestseller, a National Book Awards finalist, and Tomás Rivera Award winner. Time has recognized it as one of the best YA novels of all time. It is now is being made into a film directed by America Ferrera. I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter has also been adapted to the theater at Steppenwolf Theater in Chicago and Seattle Rep Theater. Most recently Sánchez published a critically acclaimed memoir-in-essays titled Crying in the Bathroom with Viking Books. It won the Chicago Review of Books Nonfiction award in 2022. Sánchez was a Fulbright Scholar, a 2015 Ruth Lilly and Dorothy Sargent fellow from the Poetry Foundation, a 2017-2019 Princeton Arts Fellow, a 2018 recipient of the 21st Century Award from the Chicago Public Library Foundation, and a 2019 recipient of the National Endowment for the Arts Fellowship." Known for her powerful writing and courageous voice, Erika, along with Robin, sheds light on the signs, effects, and strategies to combat gaslighting, drawing from her own experiences and observations. Robin and Erika discuss the struggles Erika went through to realize her dream of becoming a writer. Erika is proud to be a role model for other women of color, through her determination to achieve her goal of becoming a full-time writer as well using the platform she has gained through the awards and notoriety she has received. Erika points out that gaslighting is often used as a tactic against women of color, and they must fight against being told a narrative that they know in their hearts is untrue. Erika Sánchez's candid wisdom and unwavering dedication to shedding light on important issues promise to make this episode an empowering and transformative experience. To read the full transcript of this episode and to listen to other episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and please be sure to leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast. Thank you! <div class= "absolute bottom-0 left-0 w-full border-t md:border-t-0 dark:border-white/20 md:border-
Tue, August 01, 2023
023 - Overcoming Gaslighting In Your Marriage and Work
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Phil Franks , co-founder, along with his wife Krista, of Owl & Key , a transformational lifestyle design company. Phil and Krista created Owl & Key - in their own words - to be "Intentionally working toward a new reality where our most valuable resource (time) was spent where and how it mattered most to us. We wanted to be present with our children and loved ones. We wanted to invest in travel, new experiences and growth. We craved meaningful work that was aligned with how we wanted to feel, while having positive impact in the world. Most importantly, we desired more freedom and flexibility. That journey took us through A LOT of changes. Slowly untangling from culture’s definition of “success,” (which we were really crushing, by the way!) . We left behind “successful” careers. We left life-changing financial opportunities. We left our unhealthy relationships. We left homes. We left our attachment to material possessions. We left business ventures (that we created) . We left behind old versions of ourselves (and continue to do so as we grow) . Those changes transformed our lives." Robin and Phil discuss how this decision to step away from corporate success and chart a new path of personal transformation wasn't without it's difficulties. As Phil describes, one of the challenges was overcoming his innate default of being a "harmonizer" which Phil says goes back to his early childhood years. Phil also explains how he and his wife Krista's personalities are very different. He is more of a big idea thinker who likes to explore lots of big picture goals and ideas, while Krista's personality is more rooted and internal. This difference has led to times in the past where Phil feels he has been a gaslighter in his marriage. Robin's book and her teachings have helped Phil to not only give language to his behavior, but also have allowed him to identify and change his behavior to be better aligned with Krista both personally and within their business. We hope you enjoy this open, honest and transformative conversation. To read the full transcript and to hear other episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast!
Tue, July 18, 2023
022 - The Oath Keeper Wife - Beyond the January 6th Riot
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern interviews Tasha Adams , the former wife of Oath Keepers founder Stewart Rhodes . In November 2022, Rhodes was convicted of seditious conspiracy and evidence tampering related to his participation in the January 6th riot at the United States Capital. On May 23, 2023 he was sentenced to 18 years in prison. Tasha describes her childhood and how she met Stewart when she was only 18 years old, and ultimately married him in 1994. Robin and Tasha discuss how gaslighting started very early in Tasha's relationship with Stewart, and continued to escalate as their marriage progressed and they had their 6 children. Tasha describes the difficulty she had keeping her children as well as herself safe as Stewart's behavior continued to escalate and become very dangerous. The family endured both psychological and physical abuse at the hands of Rhodes and he kept Tasha and their children increasingly more isolted as time went on. Thankfully, Tasha's divorce from Rhodes became official just prior to his sentencing. Robin and Tasha discuss life after escaping from Rhodes and how her children are remaining strong and supportive of one another in the aftermath of their very long ordeal. Tasha is in the process of writing a book about her experience, titled The Oath Keeper Wife . To read the full transcript of this episode and to hear other episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast!
Tue, July 04, 2023
021 - Freedom and Forgiveness After Gaslighting: How to Cultivate Compassion and Move On
On this episode Dr. Robin Stern talks with author, teacher, and meditation guru Sharon Salzberg . Born in New York City in 1952, Sharon Salzberg experienced a childhood involving considerable loss and turmoil. An early realization of the power of meditation to overcome personal suffering determined her life direction. Her teaching and writing now communicates that power to a worldwide audience of practitioners. She offers non-sectarian retreat and study opportunities for participants from widely diverse backgrounds. Sharon has also emerged as a featured speaker and teacher at a wide variety of events. The written word is central to Sharon Salzberg’s teaching and studies. She is the author of eleven books including Lovingkindness , the NY Times best seller Real Happiness , and her 2017 work, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection and her newest book, Real Change: Mindfulness To Heal Ourselves and the World . Sharon’s writing can be found on Medium, On Being, the Maria Shriver blog, and Huffington Post and she was a contributing editor of Oprah’s O Magazine for several years. She has appeared in Time Magazine, Yoga Journal, msnbc.com, Tricycle, Real Simple, Body & Soul, Mirabella, Good Housekeeping, Self, Buddhadharma, More and Shambhala Sun , as well as on a variety of radio programs. Sharon is the host of her own podcast, The Metta Hour , featuring 100+ interviews with the top leaders and voices in the meditation and mindfulness movement. On this episode, Robin and Sharon discuss: The role of forgiveness in gaslighting. The importance of understanding that forgiveness does not mean amnesia. How people who are being gaslighted give over their power to someone else. Achieving a balance between someone else and ourselves. Understanding that self compassion is not laziness. To read the full transcript of this episode and to listen to other episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast!
Tue, June 20, 2023
020 - Surviving and Thriving Beyond The Sarah Lawrence Cult
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern interviews writer and producer, Daniel Levin . Daniel Levin holds an MFA in poetry from the University of California, Irvine, where he taught creative writing and rhetoric, and a bachelor’s degree from Sarah Lawrence College. He is the winner of the Stanley and Evelyn Lipkin Prize for Poetry, the Lynn Garnier Memorial Award and is the recipient of fellowships from The Frost Place, Tent, The Sarah Lawrence Summer Seminar for Writers, and The Community of Writers at Squaw Valley. His writing has appeared in Provincetown Arts, Bat City Review, The Sarah Lawrence Review, The Westchester Review, The Offbeat, The Fourth River, and The Bennington Review . He lives in Los Angeles. Daniel is the author of Slonim Woods 9: A Memoir , which recounts Daniel's involvement, and subsequent escape from the college cult that rocked the nation in 2019. Daniel is also an Executive Producer of Stolen Youth: Inside the Cult at Sarah Lawrence , a three-part series airing on Hulu, that documents "A group of bright Sarah Lawrence College students" that "fall under the dark influence of a friend’s father, Larry Ray. With unprecedented access to the survivors who lived with Ray, the film follows the cult from its origins through its still-unfolding aftermath." Daniel and Robin discuss the path that led Daniel into this cult, the bizarre and often terrifying experiences he had, and ultimately his escape from the grip of Larry Ray. Daniel not only survived the ordeal, but is now thriving as an author and teacher. To read the full transcript of this episode and to hear other episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast!
Tue, June 06, 2023
019 - The Epidemic of Teen Gaslighting
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Dr. Lisa Damour . Dr. Damour is the author of three New York Times best sellers: Untangled , Under Pressure , and The Emotional Lives of Teenagers . She co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast , works in collaboration with UNICEF, and is recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association. Dr. Damour is also a regular contributor to The New York Times and CBS News . Dr. Damour serves as a Senior Advisor to the Schubert Center for Child Studies at Case Western Reserve University and has written numerous academic papers, chapters, and books related to education and child development. She maintains a clinical practice and also speaks to schools, professional organizations, and corporate groups around the world on the topics of child and adolescent development, family mental health, and adult well-being. Dr. Damour graduated with honors from Yale University and worked for the Yale Child Study Center before earning her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at the University of Michigan. She has been a fellow at Yale’s Edward Zigler Center in Child Development and Social Policy and the University of Michigan’s Power Foundation. Dr. Stern and Dr. Damour discuss: A pragmatic approach to "toxic masculinity" when girls are being harassed and gaslighted by boys. Dealing with controlling relationships. How things that "feel really good" can be problematic in their own right. The importance of looking for these good feelings in a healthier context. The complexity of the social media universe. How what is happening on social media mirrors what is happening in a teen's real life. How adults can help young people deal with social media. How teenagers are more vulnerable to norms than kids are. How these norms can impact and alter a teen's sense of reality. To read the full transcript of this episode and to hear other episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast!
Tue, May 23, 2023
018 - Cults, Mind Control, and How it Can Happen to You
On this episode Dr. Robin Stern interviews her friend and colleague Dr. Steven Hassan . Dr. Hassan is a leading expert on cults and has dedicated his life to preventative education and helping people recover from their own experiences. Dr. Hassan is the author of four books: Combating Cult Mind Control ; Releasing The Bonds ; Freedom Of Mind ; and his most recent book, The Cult Of Trump . Dr. Hassan describes in great detail how he became part of a cult in college, the techniques that were used on him (and ultimately by him) to exert mind control, and the steps he took to get out. Dr. Hassan describes mind control as a three step process: Unfreezing the person's identity Indoctrination Refreezing the person's new identity Robin and Steven discuss the influence of cell phones on the masses and the flood of information from sometimes radical sources. Dr. Stern and Dr. Hassan also explain that human beings are emotionally driven, rationalize a lot, and are incredibly adaptive to people in their environment as well as to leaders that they think are legitimate. Dr. Hassan identifies the signs to look for if you think someone you know may be in a cult, and the importance of showing love toward that person to help them break free. As Dr. Hassan says, "Love is stronger than mind control." To see the full transcript of this episode and to listen to other episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and pelase be sure to leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast!
Tue, May 09, 2023
017 - When Cultural Gaslighting Turns Deadly
WARNING! This episode includes discussions about sensitive topics including rape and violence and is intended for mature audiences. On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Leslee Udwin . Leslee is an actor, producer, director and now an education sytem change activist. She directed and produced the documentary film India's Daughter . Robin and Leslee discuss the process Leslee went through to make this incredibly moving documentary about the brutal rape and death of a woman in India. Leslee conducted 31 hours of interviews with the perpetrators, and what she learned during this process led Leslee to create Think Equal , a non-profit organization dedicated to creating "the world's first holistic comprehensive Social and Emotional learning program." Leslee also shares her deeply personal account of she herself being raped at the age of 18. Robin points out that gaslighting often unfolds as part of an unequal social context, and Leslee discovered during the making of the film that her original thought that the rapists actions were the result of lack of education was not accurate. She realized that society had taught these people through social norms. Robin states that people are not born gaslighters. They learn by observation and social learning, and hate is part of social learning. Leslee feels that we must learn to be human together and we have to teach children to love before the age of six. The problem is bigger than each of us and we must band together against the "globalization of indifference." To read the full transcript and to hear other episodes, head over to robinstern.com and please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast!
Tue, April 25, 2023
016 - Teens And Gaslighting - Is It a Thing?
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern interviews Hannah Husain, a seventeen year old student studying abroad this semester, researching gaslighting interactions in relationships - particularly in teenagers. Hannah's first encounter with gaslighting occured when her friend had wanted to go to a concert, and was unintentionally gaslighted by her mom into not going. Robin and Hannah discuss how, with social media causing insecurities to skyrocket, even if you're not intentionally meaning to gaslight, that can be the effect of comments made to friends. Robin points out how in some cases wanting someone to feel better by having them believe your reality rather than their own, perpetuates a feeling that others know better than them, thus undermining that person's confidence. Hannah and Robin talk about how social media can influence decisions like what you should eat, and how you should exercise. It is important to have relationships and sources of information offline to keep you grounded. Developing strong friendships and family relationships will help affirm that you can trust your own thoughts and feelings, and validate your reality. To read the full transcript of this episode and to hear other episodes, head over to robinstern.com , and be sure to leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast!
Tue, April 11, 2023
015 - Am I Crazy? Or Am I Being Gaslighted?
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talked with her close friend and colleague, Alice Forrester , the CEO of Clifford Beers Community Health Partners. Alice discussed how growing up as a teenager in the 1970s, she was aware of the culture shift that was occuring at that time in our country, and how her father struggled with this changing dynamic. Alice recalled often being told she was wrong by her father, about certain opinions she was formulating at that time, and how that did not leave her unscathed. Alice and Robin unpacked Alice's feelings of being "wrong" and how that has impacted her adult life. Alice shared a deeply personal account of when her nephew recently passed away at a young age from COVID and how she felt she couldn't say the right words to comfort her sister in her grief, and how this stirred up deeply emotional feelings of not being good enough. Alice also shared that at the same time, her marriage was going through a difficult time, and how she was being gaslighted by her partner regarding their relationship. Robin and Alice worked through the the idea that these multiple experiences of gaslighting can cause you to think that maybe you are wrong, and to second guess your own reasoning. Often, giving yourself space allows you to gain a better understanding of what is happening and spurs you to change or get out of the gaslighting situation. Alice shared how understanding what gaslighting means and what to look for, has helped her in raising her daughters in these unsettled times during the pandemic and post pandemic, when we often are told to believe things that are constantly changing and things that we know are not accurate. To read the full transcript of this episode and to listen to other episodes, please head over to robinstern.com . And don't forget to leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast!
Tue, March 28, 2023
014 - The Horror of Gaslighting
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Ian Nichols, co-host of It's Only A Podcast - a horror movie review show. Robin has been a guest on several of Ian's podcast episodes that explore gaslighting in horror movies. Ian shares his personal experience with gaslighting, both within a romantic relationship as well as with his parents. Ian describes himself as an empath and a very emotional person who often cries during emotional moments in his life. As a child, Ian's parents instilled the thought in himself that he "cried too much." His childhood was marred by abuse, an alcoholic mother, an often distant father, and parents who continually told him he was too sensitive. Growing up, Ian felt he had to hide the emotional side of himself in friendships and relationships, and he often used humor to deflect away from getting "too emotional." This ultimately led to Ian falling into a deep depression. Ian also shares about a relationship in which his partner was from a different culture that didn't value feminity and vulnerablity. This again made Ian feel that something was wrong with him. Thankfully, Ian was able to work through these issues with a therapist and discovered that he was involved in gaslighting situations with both his parents and in his relationship. Robin and Ian discuss the importance of having a strong support network to help you process painful interactions with gaslighters...and the value of "healthy emotion snacks!" To read the full transcript of this episode and to hear other episodes, head over to robinstern.com . And please leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast!
Tue, March 14, 2023
013 - When Family Gaslighting Hits Close To Home
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with real-life sisters, psychotherapist Abby Rodman and former beauty executive now life coach Julie Howard , co-hosts of the popular podcast Sisters Cracking Up . From their podcast website: "...we've been through a few things. If nothing else, life has a way of teaching us about balance -- and we've both had our share of blessings and challenges. We've laughed and cried our way through parenting, empty nests, managing adult children, aging and body image concerns, aging parents, and menopause. We've struggled through divorce and second marriage (Abby), career transition and reinvention (Julie), depression, anxiety, and the frustrations and heartbreak of dealing with family members with mental health and addiction issues. But, through it all, we've laughed until we've cried many more times than we can count and have held each other up when everything else seemed to be falling down around us. We feel extraordinarily lucky to have one another. That's why we created Sisters Cracking Up . We believe everyone needs a sister (biological or otherwise) to share in our joys and successes -- and to help right our ships (or, frankly, our shit) when storms hit. Our podcast is a labor of love, sisterhood, and curiosity. In it, we look for answers to the questions and issues we face in midlife and know you do too. We interview really smart, engaging, and often funny people and we offer our decades of expertise in psychology, relationships, beauty, and well-being to the mix as well. With every episode, our goal is to listen, learn, share, laugh, and connect without judgment or expectation -- as any good sister would." Abby and Julie open up about a devastating gaslighting incident that occured in their family as young girls and continued over many years. A stunning secret about their father threatend to tear their family apart and forever changed not only their relationship with their father, but also impacted the lives of their other family members as well. The willingness of Abby and Julie to be vulnerable with Robin about this gaslighting event, and Robin's sensitivity and understanding in handling this very sensitve conversation is a wonderful example of how important it is to find someone to share life's difiicult moments with. This is an episode you won't want to miss! To read the full transcript of this episode and to hear other episodes, head over to robinstern.com . And be sure to leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast!
Tue, February 28, 2023
012 - The Hidden Culture of Female Bullying
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Rachel Simmons , author of Odd Girl Out , a national bestseller that "ignited a long-overdue conversation about the hidden culture of female bullying." Rachel is also the author of Odd Girl Speaks Out , The Curse of the Good Girl , and Enough As She Is. Rachel is a "master facilitator and executive coach, she works for the world’s most innovative companies to design and deliver programs for women’s leadership development and gender equity. She is renowned for translating social science research into accessible strategies with authenticity and humor, while creating a safe space to explore uncomfortable topics. Rachel serves on the faculty of the Google School for Leaders and is an associate with the firm Cultivating Leadership. After co-founding the national nonprofit Girls Leadership, she led the Phoebe Lewis Leadership Program at Smith College. Her writing has appeared in the The New York Times and Harvard Business Review , among many other publications. An ABC News Contributor for Good Morning America , Rachel is a recognized thought leader in the national media. She is a proud gay parent and lives in Western Massachusetts with her daughter and two rescue dogs." Rachel and Robin discuss the inherrent gaslighting that occurs in bullying situations, in particular with girls ensnared in a dysfunctional friendship in which they are the target of a perpetrator who drags them along in the realtionship by gaslighting them, telling them that "everything is fine," while continuing to bully them. Rachel also touches on the changing role of women in the workplace, and the institutional and organizational bias that many women continue to face, that often manifests as gaslighting. Often, organizations want to protect the norms while at the same time protecting their reputations as a "meritocratic" workplace. Rachel and Robin discuss the dynamic of how gaslighters often continue to gaslight becasue it works to control the gaslightee, and the gaslightee can often break free once they are able to objectively look at the situation and trust their own thoughts and actions. Rachel more recently has begun working with men within organizations to help them identify the hidden biases that affect how they interact with women in the workplace. As Rachel says, "most men want to do the right thing, they just don't know how to do it." To read the full transcript of this episode and to hear other episodes, head over to <a href= "h
Tue, February 14, 2023
011 - Gaslighting In A Social Media World
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with recording artist TUCKER about his career, his family, and the relationship that led him to write his hit song 'Can't Help Myself,' (with a cameo speaking performance by Robin Stern!) that explains the emotions involved in a relationship in which he felt he might be gaslighting himself. As TUCKER says during the interview, "music is the unversal language," and music can bring people from different backgrounds together through connection. TUCKER explains that effective pop music can put so much emotion into a catchy tune and can help communicate something that we're feeling. TUCKER describes the relationship that caused him to write 'Can't Help Myself' as a "situationship" in which one person isn't sure what the other person wants and what they say is often not what they do. In this type of relationship, a person might start thinking that it might be their fault. It becomes a choice between trusting words and trusting actions. TUCKER understands firsthand the importance of transferring pain and vulnerability to music and art. His mission is: "How do we take these experiences and reflect them back in a musical world of 2 minute songs to go a little deeper." Robin and TUCKER discuss the importance of owning where you are, especially in this social media world of perfect images, and the pressure of being a musician in a streaming world where numbers are the driving metric of "success." To read the full transcript and to access other episodes, head over to robinstern.com . And don't forget to leave a rating and review wherever you listen to this podcast!
Tue, January 31, 2023
010 - Gaslighting In Your Marriage
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Annabelle Stone (real name changed to protect her identity) about an all too common occurence - gaslighting in marriage. Annabelle shares her story in the hopes that listeners can learn the signs of gaslighting in marriage and relationships. Annabelle was introduced to her husband by a trusted common friend, and she felt very confident in her attraction to him. He was a very successful surgeon with a wonderful reputation. All seemed perfect - until it wasn't. As the marriage evolved, Annabelle began to see his "mask fall off." Her husband became very controlling as the marriage continued, and began to tell common friends unkind things behind her back. Robin and Annabelle discuss the red flags that anyone in a gaslighting relationship can be on the lookout for - and the importance of not ignoring them! To read the full transcript of this episode and to hear other episodes, head over to robinstern.com .
Tue, January 17, 2023
009 - Being A Diagnosis Detective
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Tami Burdick about her journey of self-advocacy in which she worked closely with her doctors to diagnose and cure a rare inflammatory breast disease. Tami's book, Diagnosis Detective: Curing Granulomatous Mastitus is a: "memoir is about how one woman was cured of a chronic inflammatory breast disease known as Granulomatous Mastitis, by her own advocacy, independent extensive research, due diligence, and discovering a pathology test which finally led to a cause to her disease. The author shares her private details of her own year-and-a-half journey and obstacles she endured to finally reach remission by curing her disease. Other women also share their unique experiences with battling the various types of the same traumatic disease." Tami and Robin also discuss Tami's very personal experience of medical gaslighting within her immediate family, and the current struggle to get comprehensive care within the medical industry. While Tami's experience with the medical community required her to provided self-advocacy and ultimately led to her being directly involved in her own disease diagnosis, her specific situation most likely did not rise to the level of gaslighting. But her experience showcases the need for patients to do their own research, and be their own advocate, especially when facing difficult diagnoses. If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a rating and review! To read the full transcript of this episode and to listen to other episodes, head over to robinstern.com !
Tue, January 03, 2023
008 - Exploring The Trauma of Gaslighting
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern talks with Dr. George Bonanno , Professor of Clinical Psychology at Columbia University. Dr. Bonanno is the author of two amazing books - The End of Trauma and The Other Side of Sadne ss . From Dr. Bonanno's website : "He is recognized by the Web of Science as among the top one percent most cited scientists in the world, and has been honored with lifetime achievement awards by both the Association for Psychological Science and the International Positive Psychology Association. In addition to the books, The End of Trauma and The Other Side of Sadness , George has published hundreds of peer-reviewed scientific articles, many appearing in leading journals such as Nature, JAMA, American Psychologist, and the Annual Review of Psychology. He is also an avid painter (when he has time), reads widely, and loves mus ic." Robin and Dr. Bonanno explore how human trauma plays a role in gaslighting and some tools of resilience that can help in dealing with and healingl the trauma of gaslighting. Robin points out that gaslighters are not born. Gaslighting is the result of social learning. A gaslighter tries something and it works, and they need to be in control of a moment, so they continue to use this tactic. Dr. Bonanno talks about the flexibility mindset and using this to determine ways to not allow the gaslighter to control you. Robin and Dr. Bonanno also look into the grief and sadness that can accompany the ending of a gaslighting relationship. Even though the gaslightee can be happy and relieved, they are also susceptible to being sad at the loss of a relationship that they may have had for a very long time. To read the complete transcript of this episode and to hear other episodes of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, head over to robinstern.com . And please leave a rating and review if you enjo
Tue, December 20, 2022
007 - Breaking The Cycle of Generational Gaslighting
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern interviews Alyssa Haray about generational gaslighting and how Alyssa was able to identify the gaslighting in her family and break the cycle. Alyssa discusses how interacting with the mother of her boyfriend, and watching him interact with his mother, showed her what a normal parent/child relationship should be, and how this experience changed how she interacted with her own mother and grandmother to break the cycle of gaslighting in her life. Robin outlines the typical stages of gaslighting - 1) Don't believe 2) Defending 3) Depressed. Typically as a child you are exposed to all three of these feelings and often bounce between them, causing trust in yourself to be undermined. Robin and Alyssa also talk about the importance of setting boundaries with a gaslighting parent, and having others in your life to support you outside of family relationships. Alyssa very eloquently talks about how she understands that her mother is the product of her own upbringing and isn't in a place where she can recognize the gaslighting. Also, Alyssa and Robin discuss the emotional struggle that Alyssa has gone through to get to a place where she would feel comfortable having children of her own, and her fear of not being able to break the cycle of gaslighting. This is an insightful and emotional episode that is a must listen for anyone who has experienced generational gaslighting. For the full transcript of this episode as well as to hear other episodes and subscribe, please head over to robinstern.com !
Tue, December 06, 2022
006 - Burnout At Work? Gaslighting Plays A Part!
On this episode, Dr. Robin Stern interviews Michelle McQuaid , founder of The Wellbeing Lab , "a benefit-led organization...passionate about energizing and equipping people to care for their wellbeing even when they’re struggling so we can help you to build thriving teams, workplaces, schools, and communities." Michelle explains that harassment is the #3 reason people burn out at work, and gaslighting plays a part in that! As a way to battle this burnout, Michelle discusses the importance of the 4 Factors For Leaders - Compassion with boundaries; Appreciation; Responsibility; and Emotional Wisdom. She also recommends periodic safety checks within any organization by asking: What's working well? Where are our people struggling? What are we learning from the first two questions? And what do we want to do about that? Michelle and Robin dive deep into the ways in which organizations of any size can tackle harassment and gaslighting by "asking instead of mind reading," and not getting stuck on the "hump of politeness" (in other words - not "biting your tongue".) Michelle also recommends "no groaning and moaning." Rather "dare and share!" And no pointing of fingers. Judgement is bad. Curiosity is good. If you're looking for amazing insight into how organizations can thrive in any environment, then this epiosde is a must listen! To see the full transcript of this episode and to check out other episodes, head over to robinstern.com .
Tue, November 29, 2022
005 - Gaslighting - The Unavoidable Epidemic?
On this episode Dr. Robin Stern talks with Dr. Paige Sweet , a Sociologist at The University of Michigan, doing work on gender and sexuality, with a specialty in studying domestic violence. In her research and the interviews she conducted for her book, The Politics of Surviving: How Women Navigate Domestic Violence and its Aftermath (2021) Dr. Sweet noticed an almost universal reporting of gaslighting within the dysfunctional relationships. This led her to write the article, The Sociology of Gaslighting in The American Sociological Review. Robin and Paige discuss gaslighting from both the psychological and sociological perspective, and how those two areas of study overlap and complement one another. Dr. Sweet points out that gaslighting as a sociological phenomenon, often includes gender inequality as well as other social inequalities, such as race and domestic abuse. To read the full transcript of this episode and to hear other episodes, head over to robinstern.com !
Tue, November 15, 2022
004 - Has The Pandemic Increased Gaslighting In The Workplace?
Has the remote working phenomenon spurred by the pandemic caused an increase in gaslighting in the workplace? On this episode, Robin talks with Dr. Heidi Brooks , Senior Lecturer in Organizational Behavior at Yale University, about this intersting phenomenon. Many workplaces instituted a work-from-home policy during the recent COVID-19 pandemic. Now that more offices are opening back up, many employees are still eager to work from home. While the work environment continues to undergo change, there may be an increase in incidences of gaslighting due to the way that we now work together. Robin and Heidi explore how someone in the workplace can "regain their reality" while navigating a work-from-home world, and how employers can create transparency and psychologically safe workplaces, so that emplyees will not be subject to gaslighting. How can organizations become gaslight free zones? Check out the episode to find out! For the full transcript of this episode and to hear other episodes, head over to robinstern.com .
Tue, November 01, 2022
003 - When A Craving For Love Leads To Gaslighting
Are you involved in a gaslighting situation and feel like you're all alone? Are you having trouble breaking away from your gaslighter? Robin's guest on this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, Lucy Rose, found herself in exactly this situation. Robin discusses with Lucy how, looking back, Lucy was experiencing signs of gaslighting as early as the very first date with her then boyfriend. Struggling with insecurity, and existing family issues, Lucy found herself very vulnerable to gaslighting. It took many years of being in a controlling relationship with a partner who was verbally abusive and dictated almost every decision she made, before Lucy was able to find the inner strength to break away. On this episode, Robin works through the underlying feelings that caused Lucy to be a victim of gaslighting, the signs of gaslighting that kept building up within her relationship, and ultimately the insight to recognize what was happening and the strength to take control of her life back from her gaslighter. Lucy's story will inspire listeners to know that they are not alone, and they can stand up for their reality. For more information and to see the full transcript of this episode, please visit www.robinstern.com
Mon, October 31, 2022
002 -The Fine Line Between “Good Parenting” and Gaslighting
Does unintentional gaslighting exist? Are people born gaslighters? How do parents gaslight their children without either one of them knowing it? We’ll dig deeper in this episode. In this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, Robin talks with Psychology Today’s Hara Marano . Hara is the Editor at Large of Psychology Today and writes the magazine's advice column, Unconventional Wisdom. Her newest book, A Nation of Wimps: The High Cost of Invasive Parenting, examines the contemporary culture of parenting. It grew out the groundbreaking Psychology Today article A Nation of Wimps, which focuses on the rise of psychological distress among America's youth. Through her work and research with Psychology Today, Hara has been able to understand the pulse of the American public with relation to the gaslighting phenomenon. During this episode Robin and Hara discuss concepts of inadvertent or accidental gaslighting versus intentional gaslighting as well as red flags related to the two different versions. Robin and Hara also share examples of gaslighting scenarios between parents and children and how seemingly innocent conversations can walk the fine line between “good parenting” and gaslighting. For more information and to see the full transcript of this episode, please visit www.robinstern.com
Sun, October 30, 2022
001 - From "I Do" to "I Don't." How Gaslighting Can Lead to Divorce
On this episode of The Gaslight Effect Podcast, Robin talks with New York based divorce and family law attorney Evan Schein . Evan is the Head of Litigation at Berkam Bottger Newman & Schein LLP . As stated on Evan's website - "Evan has helped clients find post-divorce happiness and build successful financial lives, advocated to protect children and fought for the rights of victims of domestic violence. He has learned more than a few things about family, money, and the law, things that every spouse or parent in America should know. As a divorce lawyer in America's unofficial capital city, Evan's been lucky to meet fascinating people and work with top experts in fields like finance, trust and estates, real estate, sports, entertainment, psychology, and more." Robin and Evan discuss the role gaslighting plays in divorce cases and Evan's first hand experience over the past 15 years of witnessing the impact of gaslighting on marital relationships. Delving into how gaslighting can have a negative impact on a marriage and ultimately become a significant factor in an individual seeking a divorce, Evan and Robin explore the empathy and compassion necessary to effectively support and protect a client during a divorce proceeding - especially one that involves gaslighting. For more information and to see the full transcript of this episode, please visit robinstern.com
Tue, September 20, 2022
000 - The Gaslight Effect Podcast
Gaslight (/ˈɡaslīt/). Verb. Manipulating someone by psychological means into questioning their own reality. The Gaslight Effect podcast is hosted by Dr. Robin Stern, co-founder of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of the best-selling book, The Gaslight Effect. On her podcast, Robin helps listeners identify gaslighting, to escape the destructive dynamic and reclaim their reality. On this episode, join Dr. Robin Stern as she explains what the term Gaslighting means, why she decided to create The Gaslight Effect podcast, and what listeners can expect on future episodes.
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